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Hi, ladies.
Good evening.
Just working out some technical stuff here.
I know that we have two times available.
We have a 1 p.m. Eastern and we also have an 8 p.m. Eastern.
And you never kind of know who you're going to get, right?
So let me just respond here.
All right.
Awesome.
How many of you have actually gotten through all the materials up until this point?
You're caught up?
Okay.
You are, you're, you're caught up.
So you're ready to go into week three.
And it's okay if you're not.
Just honor system, just go ahead and tell us where you are.
If you're all caught up, you've gone through all the materials.
That includes watching the two bonus sessions that have already been
available to you.
One of those bonus sessions,
I believe was dream interpretation. And then the other one was,
you know,
I'm not sure if that's the right way to say it.
But you know,
I'm not sure if that's the right way to say it.
And then of course,
all of the videos and the materials and the reading.
All right. Lots of you guys have done all that.
Let me lower all the hands.
All right. So now a new question.
Raise your hand. If you actually watched the hope bonus session,
you did the worksheet, the hope scale, and then you walk,
and then you watch the session.
All right. No spoiler. Okay. No spoiler.
For those of you that haven't done that,
you're going to want to make sure that you do the hope scale worksheet
first.
want to watch the session.
Do not watch the session and then do the worksheet.
Make sure that you do the worksheet
and then you watch my teaching on it, okay?
In that order, very important that you do it that way.
All right.
Anybody get deliverance from that session?
Start really feel like hope's increasing,
start understanding that if you don't have hope,
it's not because God took it away from you.
It's because we defer it, we postpone it
until we think that it's safe to get our hopes up again.
Who wants to go ahead and get your hopes up?
It is safe to get your hopes up.
It's always safe to live with hope.
Living without hope is a horrible life
that will actually cause you
to go looking for self-medicators.
If you defer your hope, it will make your heart sick
and you will go looking for medication, friends.
You will.
And so we don't want to live a life full of vice,
full of medicators.
We do not want to do that.
And one of the antidotes to depression is hope.
And so hope is an eternal thing.
Hope is an eternal thing.
The three things that remain are faith, hope, and love.
And so it's an eternal thing.
There's always an endless supply available
from heaven for you of hope.
And so we want to make sure that we're living in hope.
And yes, I know our circumstances don't always line up
to positive things.
I get it.
But truth is greater than fact.
God wants us to live according to,
hey, we're up or we're getting up.
It's either it's good, but it's getting better.
It's always good because God is with us and he is good,
but it's getting better.
And then of course, we go into circumstances
that we don't like,
but those things are not permanent and they're not forever.
And God is going to continue to allow us to level up
and upgrade and get to places of overcoming all adversity,
everything that has come against us
because Romans 8, 28 is real.
I often tell people about my life and my history
and the things that I've been through
and people don't believe it.
They don't believe it.
They're like, Jackie, you do not seem like
the kind of person who has been through
that type of childhood or that type of marriage
or the things that I've been through.
And that's because Jesus is real.
Jesus is real.
Now we do people a disservice when we say,
oh, hey, you met Jesus.
Everything is better right now in this moment.
No, but it's better and it's getting better
because if we continue in his truth, in his words,
we will know the truth and it will make us free.
It is a process, but that process does work.
It really does.
So we are gonna dig into our heart check-in for part two.
That's what we're gonna do right now.
And so let's see, here's a few housekeeping things
that we wanna remind you of.
First of all, if you haven't done the hope thing yet,
the hope bonus session, make sure that you do the worksheet
before you watch the video.
So that's one reminder.
The second reminder is that you want to do the videos
and the book reading together in each part.
So all of that, hopefully that makes sense,
that the homework posts in each section of your program
should tell you exactly what you should be doing that week.
You're gonna read certain pages.
You're gonna journal the answers to certain questions.
You're gonna watch certain videos.
And so you wanna make sure
that you're doing that all together.
All right.
The hope scale worksheet will be in that block
of materials and downloads.
And then of course you want to do that
before you watch the video.
Also, some of you didn't subscribe to our emails
and that's why you don't get any correspondence from us.
And so please make sure that you have subscribed
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And you're gonna wanna email us at admin at JackieDorman.com
and let us check to make sure that you're subscribed
because we want to make sure that you're getting emails
because we send you important emails
as you go through the phases of your program.
Right now you're in phase one.
You're gonna be in phase two very soon and then phase three.
And so we wanna make sure
that you're getting those instructions via email.
All right.
All right, so let's start with prayer.
Father God, we're so thankful
that you've brought us here together again.
And I'm thankful that these daughters you have highlighted,
you're doing incredible work in their hearts.
You're shifting them.
You're putting them in alignment with heaven
in every area of their lives,
but especially their love lives,
especially their relationships, Lord.
And I just thank you, God,
that you are helping them to understand their heart
right now in this season and where it's broken
and where it's closed off and where it's not allowing them
to see the abundant life that you have waiting for them
in several areas of their lives.
Those blind spots, those filters,
they're being revealed to be here.
healed, those layers are beginning to fall off and they're beginning to understand that
you've always had a better life for them than one that they've even ever imagined for themselves.
And so as they go forward in this process, I pray that you would continue to just speed
up that revealing for healing Lord, let it accelerate.
Let them have aha moments every day, every week, Lord, as they go through this process,
let them be open to it.
God, give them a teachable heart, a soft heart to receive your truth, to receive your goodness
in Jesus name.
Amen.
All right.
Okay.
So we're going to jump into our heart check in for part two, I'm going to put you in some
breakout sessions here in a few minutes.
So you might meet some new sisters that you haven't met yet.
That's good.
There's about 95 of you on, so we will not have groups of two.
We'll have some odd numbered groups because we have an odd number of people in here right
now and that's fine.
All right.
So I think we're going to do two to three breakout groups tonight.
Okay.
And we're going to cover the questions, the main questions that were part of your heart
to homework or your heart to assignment, to journal, we're going to cover those in breakouts.
And then when we come back in here together in the main group, we'll take a few brave
souls as volunteers to talk about what their answers were to that.
So let's talk about masks a little bit, shall we?
Let's talk about masks.
Really fun.
You guys know that I do matchmaking.
In fact, I was just over playing the Indian matchmaker.
I was doing some Indian matchmaking.
Yes, I'm not Indian, but I do have Indian clients that want to marry someone within
their own culture.
And so I was having fun looking through some prospects to do that.
But I do have a guy.
So what I'm thinking about masks, I do have a guy, I have a lot of guys, but I do have
a guy that he's super, super, super friendly.
He's really nice.
In fact, no one would ever meet this guy and not have the same feedback of, Hey, yeah,
you know, he's super nice.
He's, he's very kind.
He seems very generous, you know, all really positive things.
Right.
But have you ever met someone that's really kind and they're nice and they're generous
and they're all those things, but you feel like you're almost, you're almost talking.
Does anyone see that movie with Jim Carrey and at the Truman show, anyone ever see that
movie where he's like living in like a fake world?
Like he's in a TV show and he doesn't realize it.
And it's always like, Hey, hi, how are you doing?
How's your day going?
Oh, my day's going good.
You know, kind of thing.
And it's kind of like that.
So all the dates that I would send this guy on, the women would give me the same feedback.
They'd be like, yeah, he's really, he's cute.
He's nice.
He's successful.
He has a very professional job, very successful job.
But I just feel like, you know, like it's surface, you know, and yeah, on the first
date, how deep can you get, but it's really not about getting deep on the first date.
It's about portraying a, like you're a real person, right?
There's a certain amount of vulnerability that we need to be able to express while we're
just living life, right?
We need to be able to do that.
But a lot of us, we, we go one or two ways in this category.
We're very guarded.
Okay.
So we're not, we're not seeming real friendly.
We're seeming kind of suspicious, right?
We're real guarded.
And it's just like, you know, watching you, you know, people that are quiet, they're just
kind of observing.
They're not really friendly.
They might say, hi, you know, there's that polar.
And then we have the opposite polar where you sit down with this purpose and person
for five minutes.
And you know, everything about their life that you should not know things that are completely
inappropriate for them to have told you, right?
So those are the two polars.
But then within those polars, there's a whole spectrum of different, different types of
representation of oneself.
All right.
I want you to, you don't have to raise your hand, but I want you to put in the chat right
now, adjectives that people have used to describe you that may indicate that you are
guarded.
They may have seen, they may have said shy.
They may have said introverted.
They may have said reserved.
I want to see those adjectives in the chat.
All right.
We got standoffish.
We got quiet.
That's a good one.
Introverted.
Fake.
All right.
To know you, you've been described as hard to get to know.
Unapproachable.
All right.
Quiet.
Introverted.
Reserve.
Cold hearted.
Hard to resist.
Inapproachable.
All right.
Read, Ice Queen, Ice Queen, all right, Jennifer.
Quiet.
Introverted.
Reserve.
Cold hearted.
We do not want that title.
Hard to resist.
Inapproachable.
All right.
Stuck up, there's one, stuck up.
Quiet.
My husband, people used to tell him a lot
when he was younger that he seemed like he was conceited
or stuck up or too good, too cool for school.
Intimidating, all right.
All right, now I wanna see the other polar opposite.
I wanna see all the adjectives that have described you
for being too open.
What have people said when they're trying to say
that you're a main character?
Like you suck all the oxygen out of the room
because you're always talking about yourself
or you're always too loud or too big
or not guarded enough in the way that you're sharing,
you're oversharing possibly.
Loud, crazy, messy.
Okay, crazy, messy.
Some people might've even called you a psycho.
Like, oh, she's kind of psycho.
She's a little psycho.
All right, talkative, too open, too much,
laugh too loud, insecure and extra.
Come on, y'all, we're getting honest tonight.
It's good stuff.
Manic, peppy, open, high energy,
know it all, roller coaster.
Someone called you a roller coaster ride.
Bipolar, oh, that's so not fair, right?
Because that's actually a thing.
And it's not funny to put that label on people.
All right, dramatic, too flirty.
Okay, good.
You see this, you guys?
Hopefully you guys are seeing this
and you're feeling like connected to each other
that this isn't something that just happens
to one or two people, you know?
And let's see all of the other adjectives
in the other parts of the spectrum.
We did the two polar parts of the spectrum,
you know, closed off and two open, all right?
So the other parts of the spectrum,
anything that you feel like people have said to you
about the impression that you are making on them
that you didn't like.
Well, we'll talk about the positive ones later,
but let's just talk about the ones that we didn't like,
hurt our feelings, made us feel like closing off
and running away and maybe never talking
to anyone ever again.
Dumb blonde, sheltered, serious, okay.
Too picky, always with the blonde jokes, okay,
which is so dumb, right?
Because very few natural blondes in the world anymore.
Lots of people are blonde, but they weren't born that way.
One thing as a dark haired girl that I have learned
is that blondes have a lot of fun
and they might even have more fun,
but orange haired girls do not.
And anytime I've ever tried dyeing my hair blonde,
that's what color it turns out, orange.
Definitely don't want that.
Taking things too personally, weird, independent, weird.
Okay, people calling you weird.
That you're angry at the world, okay.
Anybody ever gotten, because I know a lot of you
are professing abstinence or celibacy,
anybody ever been told like a goody-goody or a prude,
anything like that?
We got any of those kind of, yeah, goody, prude.
Lucky there.
Goody-two-shoes, yeah, yeah.
Self-righteous, uptight.
There's one, there's a good one.
All right, look at all these, you guys.
These are so good.
So we're coming out of agreement with all of these,
aren't we?
We're gonna come out of agreement with all of them.
We are gonna learn through this program
how to have secure attachment, okay?
We're not gonna have anxious attachment.
We're not gonna have avoidant attachment, okay?
We're not gonna have fearful attachment,
which is a part of anxious attachment.
We're not gonna have any of those things.
We're not gonna have,
all of those are parts and pieces of insecure attachment.
And friends, that's learned very early on in childhood, okay?
And so we are going to learn how to have secure attachment,
which means that we're allowed to hold back parts
of ourselves until we feel it's appropriate
to share those things.
But we're gonna present ourselves in such a way
that it's never gonna feel like we're holding out
on someone.
And we're gonna begin to see very quickly
the people who want too much too soon
for the wrong reasons, right?
This is how we can avoid going a hundred miles an hour
down a dead end road in relationship.
Anybody else?
With the love bombers, with the people that want to,
you know, act like you've known each other all your life
after only a two hour conversation.
Those very rarely, if ever, turn into any kind
of healthy relationships.
relationship. Okay. I want you guys to get real honest. Now. I want you to raise your
hand. If you are that person that likes to make very quick bonding with people, whether
it doesn't have to just be men, it can be women as well. Like you're the kind of person
who you leave the party and you are best friends with someone that you just met your besties.
Now, now you're besties. Okay. You're going to get bracelets. You're going to braid each
other's hair later, your besties, you know, way too much about each other's lives. Okay.
You've let them all the way in the vault because you felt comfortable with them. They felt
so familiar to you. Okay. All right. Now, for those that are being honest and saying
yes to that, I want to see a thumbs up for those of you that that relationship eventually
turned bad. That relationship eventually turned what we call toxic. There was a falling out.
You got hurt. They got hurt something. It just wasn't, it wasn't good. They betrayed
you or they just disappeared. You know, they ghosted you. It didn't end up being the relationship
that you thought it was kind of thing. All right. So that is pretty much what happens
usually in that. One of the things that I want us to really understand is that we are
worth getting to know. I want you to say that to yourself right now. I am worth getting
to know. Come on. Let's say it. I am worth getting to know I am I'm worth getting to
know. And then I want you to add this to that over time. I am worth getting to know over
time. Okay. Here's another declaration that we're going to say, ladies, I want to see
your mouths moving because I can't say this for you and death and life are in the power
of your tongue, not mine. I mean, for me, mine, and then of course, over you mine, but
you have to say this over yourself. I am worth getting to know over time. I am worth getting
to know over time. Right. And here's the next thing I want you to say, this is not a flash
sale. This is not a flash sale. I am not a flash sale, right? I don't have a limited
amount of time to try to sell this person into wanting me or liking me. This is not
a flash sale. And whether that's for the job, whether that's for the friendship, whether
that's for the romantic, um, you know, potential, it's not a flash sale. And it isn't. And the
reason why we do this so badly is because we have all different types of belief systems
attached to our value to other people, right? Our value to other people, what we have to
offer them. Some of us feel like we have to show what we have to offer really fast. Otherwise
there's so many choices. People are just going to move on. This is why some of you get sexual
with people really quick. Do you want to make sure you leave an impression? It's not the
right impression, friends. You don't have to prove your worth that quickly. You don't
have to do that. All right. So let's dig down into the, for those of you that that's true
of like, you feel like you gotta, you gotta make that deep connection quick, whether it's
with a friendship or whether it's at the interview or whether it's with someone that you're meeting
online. I want you to dig into what's underneath that. You have middle child syndrome. Have
you always been surrounded by other people who you feel like they're the ones that get
the role, they get the job, they get the boy, you know, you're trying to, you know, elbow
your way in there and get a shot. Right. Do you feel like you have to immediately show
someone what you can do for them so that they will want you in their life? I want you to
be honest right now. Holy spirit's just leading the course here. Cause I don't, I don't even
know what we're going to talk about necessarily tonight, but I want you to be honest. How
many of you would say, I have offered someone that I hardly know something that I shouldn't
have offered them to watch their kids or your discount that you work because you work at a
store or some kind of connection to get them something that they were talking about that
they want. You offered someone something that you barely know. And a lot of times we're like,
Oh, I'm just being polite. I'm just being helpful. I'm just being friendly. No, we're trying.
whether we know it or not, to show people that we're valuable. Right?
We're trying to show people that we're valuable. Look at all those yeses.
Oh, you, you know, you want to, you know, you want to connect to me because I'm valuable. Like
I'm going to do stuff for you. I'm going to help you. The problem with this is, is that when you
start out any relationship like that, what usually happens is you create a giver taker
relationship where you're the giver and they're the taker. And it usually does not become reciprocal.
Right? I don't know about you, but I mean, unless it's some kind of emergency,
emergency situation, and someone offers me assistance, that's a stranger.
If someone who I'm just meeting is offering to do something for me, that should come within
the context of deeper relationship. That makes me feel uncomfortable. And I'm going to say no.
And it's not because I don't know how to receive it's because I have boundaries.
So usually the answer to that is, Oh, that's so kind of you. Thank you so much. You know,
I'm going to pass. Thank you so much. That's so kind. But then you don't, you don't do it.
Right? Why is that? Because you don't know that person.
You don't know that person. And the only time there's an exception to that is maybe when you've
really been, really been praying for a solution to something. And then the solution just kind of
comes out of nowhere and out of someone that you don't know, maybe, but you've been praying and
you've really been asking God to help you to get, you know, whatever that is done. And so of course,
God is the source, but he's the head of the human resource department and he will send
human resources to help us. But you know, and I know when there's strings attached to something,
even if the strings that are attached to something, is that person feeling like you like them now
feeling like now how they get to be your friend. And the thing is, it's not,
it doesn't mean that you wouldn't even be friends with them. It just means it doesn't
have to come like that. I hope this is helping someone because God wants you to be loved for you
and not for what you do for other people. It's beautiful. If you have a, if you have a helper
gift, if you are a helper, that's a beautiful gift, but that gift is the one that gets overextended
the most in this world. People that have been called with the gift of helps. They're the ones
that get overextended the most in this world, because usually they are givers that attract
takers. And that's a true story, right? So we want to, we want to let Holy spirit speak to all of us
in different ways right now, all of us have different relationship with the things that
are being released right now. And so you don't, don't take it, take it the way that it's hitting
you. All right. Cause we all need different things right now. So let's get down into the
first breakout session. Who do you pretend to be? Are you pretending to be the person that
nothing ever bothers your pen, pretending to be the person that has it all together,
that has all the answers. It doesn't need any help. Or are you also pretending to be the basket
case? That's right. You're not the basket case. God, it's not your real identity. And so if you're
the person that is the perpetual victim, that also is a mask. That's also a mask to get attention,
to get help, to, you know, to, um, have people feel sorry for you, you know, whatever it is,
who are you pretending to be? What mask do you have on in different areas of your life?
I'm going to put you in breakout sessions and I want you to go ahead and, you know,
don't give the, don't give the answer that you wrote down on your, on your homework. And don't,
don't even give the answer that you might be like, Oh yeah, well, that makes sense. I want you to
really ask Holy spirit. When you get into these breakouts, just take, just take, you know, 60
seconds for everyone to just be quiet, close your eyes and really ask Holy spirit, you know, what
masks do I wear? And then let's share those. Okay. All right. Because they might be counterintuitive.
They might be masks that you're like, you know, I didn't even think that was a mask, Jackie,
you know, I wouldn't have even thought about that as a mask. So let's give that a shot.
I'm going to take it over here. Let's see what kind of breakouts we're going to have. All right.
Make sure that everyone shares and you guys don't try to fix each other. If someone says,
you know, my mask is, and it's something that's just like shocking, you know, don't try to fix
them. You know, they're confessing this. That is good for them. The Bible says confession brings
healing. And so we want to do.
That and then we'll come back and we'll have a few brave souls share okay looks like there's two to three participants per group there's 50 groups.
All right, let me make sure.
47 groups all right here we go.
I tried to just laugh it off and act like it doesn't hurt so I try to be stronger, I guess.
Is she married.
Yes, she actually got married.
She's been married for over 20 years and they have a bad marriage but
she turned 40 in May and got married in June.
Okay all right and are you 40 yet?
I'm 54.
Oh well all right girl you're looking good.
Thanks, I appreciate it.
All right, ladies welcome back.
Thank you ladies that were here with me and didn't make it to a breakout room.
Sometimes technology doesn't work and that's okay so we got a time we had a chance to share here.
So we're going to take a couple more we'll take like maybe let's see what time is it.
Yeah we'll take about two or three people that want to share their masks.
Some of the masks that my group shared while you guys were out was that that they feel like
they always have to present that they're happy that they're okay that everything's okay right.
And then another one is they have to the mask that they wear is I have to do it all by myself.
So really independent the independent mask I don't need anyone I don't need any help I don't
want to ask for help and then the last one was the same thing is that you know that I'm okay
specifically being single is the mask that Becky shared.
You know I'm okay being single like I'm all right you know and so those are some good ones.
All right so let's see what we got.
Let's put your hand up if you want to share.
Okay Meg go for it.
So I told my group I actually listened earlier today and I was kind of laughing
internally at you saying don't use what you wrote down because I kind of used the examples
this morning when we were doing it.
I was using the examples that were kind of given but something you said before you sent
us to break out really kind of triggered with me about the kind of the chaotic person
and it really kind of triggered that I think I come off like I have a very dramatic or very
drama-filled life but I really am not like a drama-filled person or have this very dramatic
life like I live a pretty low-key life.
But I think I put out there maybe more that looks like I do have this a lot of drama a
lot of stuff going on when I really don't.
The other one I shared though is that I feel like I'm in the career field that gives me
meaning and purpose but not the job but I still just tell everybody oh yeah the job's
great I love it you know and so that's a hard one too.
Yeah okay so why do you think that you you try to give off or you're realizing you maybe
you're not trying but you are giving off more of a chaotic type of vibe?
I don't know I think I think I a lot of times I think what I share is about my kids and
sometimes they have like some weird things going on like various doctor visits and stuff
I think I tend to share those more probably than I share the happy things so like the
just mundane kind of things especially it's so easy on social media because I know my
group on social media is really just the friends and the family like that I know personally
I keep it very small and so it's it kind of it's just feels like a safe place to share
maybe some of the negative things that go on but I really don't always take the time
to share the happy mundane positive things.
So then when I look back it looks like it's just like drama all the time but it's really
not it's just kind of and this are you saying this is on social media?
It's social media but I think I do it with my like with people that I know in person
too like I'm more likely to share like what's been going on like oh yeah Maddie went to
this doctor appointment or that or this yeah everybody wants my drama and so it's easier
to share that than always.
it's just the mundane or be like, Oh yeah, no, nothing's really going on.
Do you think that it's possible that you share the struggles, um, more because it is an
unconscious, um, ask for support? Sure. Absolutely. Support validation. Single
momming is very hard. Um, and in the validation. Yeah, absolutely.
So it's important, um, ladies that here's the thing, you know, we want to make sure that we
are sharing our struggles with others. And, you know, you guys are going to do an entire,
you know, week on confession, repentance, two weeks on confession, repentance, and forgiveness.
And so it's important that we are sharing our struggles appropriately. We don't ever want to,
um, show up with the smiles all the time. And especially if we're in a season where
life is just kind of hard, um, you know, single moms, you know, kids that have issues,
behavior problems, different things, health problems, um, just single momming in general,
um, other things that you might be going through. And so please don't ever feel like,
you know, you're showing up as the squeaky wheel because sometimes, you know, we really,
we really just need, um, someone to support us and tell us that we're doing a good job and affirm
us and different things like that. So that's all super important. And we definitely want to make
sure, um, that, that we're allowing people, um, to, to give us that feedback and give us that
support by telling people that we're hurting or that we need help. All right. So that's good.
All right. So thanks for sharing. And then we have, we're only going to take two more shares
on this one. So maybe some of you could volunteer next time. The next person that had their hand up
was, is it Viddy? Do I say VD Viddy? I know I've met you in person. I think, um, at one of the
single city events in Reading, right? Are you here?
V I D I. How do we say it? Sorry about that. I just turned on my, my mic. Yes. It's VD.
VD. VD. Say it again. VD. Got it. Yeah. Nice to see you too. What is your, what's your answer?
What kind of mass girl you got on? Ooh, little miss independent. Um, I was just talking to my
person that I was in the room with, and I guess we're pretty much in the same boat. I don't know
what it is. I don't know if it's because I'm an only child, if that has anything to play with it,
but I've just always, um, just put on a front of, um, I I've got it all together,
even though I'm falling apart on the inside. Like I just did three years of ministry school
and pretty much up until the very end, I decided to fully surrender and like get delivered of some
things, but it, I just, I don't know, I couldn't be open and vulnerable in front of people. So I
know that that wasn't wisdom. Well, it's also a horrible, horrible, horrible trait for ministry
because the whole, you know, the whole, the whole point in ministering is being able to be
vulnerable. So I feel like little miss independent comes out of a couple of different things.
Um, so let me ask you about the only child part of it. Um, were you the only child of parents
that had expectations for you to do it yourself? Um, were you pushed into like perfectionism at
all? I don't think I was pushed into perfectionism. I think that it just kind of naturally evolved
because you are born to achieve her parents. Um, yes, culturally. Okay. Okay. And so you're a girl
and you're born to achieve her parents. And so it was just expected for you to maybe grow up a
little quicker, have things together a little faster. Yes, ma'am. Okay. Right. Well, you are
allowed to be messy. Okay. You're allowed to not have it all figured out. Um, you're allowed to not
have the answers and not be, you know, you're allowed to come into rooms where you're not
expected to, you know, take control, take charge, be the leader. You're allowed to just sit back and
let other people do, you know, so you need to start giving yourself some permissions here.
Um, I think it was Becky that said, um, was it Becky? One of the women that were with me when
all of you were in the breakout said that she does it all by herself. And so the antidote to this,
I really want you guys to hear this, the antidote to whatever mass that you guys are admitting to,
like what VD just said is the opposite. So whoever said that they, um, they do it all
by themselves because they don't want to be let down anymore. The antidote to coming out of that
false counterfeit identity, that pretender identity is that you are going to have to
get super uncomfortable and ask people for help. Even if you don't need it,
even if you don't need.
it. I will tell you marriage minded men, marriage minded men that truly want to be husbands.
They are not looking for self-sufficient women. They're not looking for basket cases.
All right. They're not looking for women who, you know, have all kinds of vices and living in sin
and can't get it together, but they're also not looking for women who don't need them.
And I know we live in a modern culture that says, oh, we don't need men meant. We don't need each
other. We're not supposed to need each other really. Cause that's not what my Bible says.
My Bible says that God looked at Adam and says he needs, that's the word,
a suitable helper. He needs a help mate. He needs a complimentary opposite. He needs,
he didn't say he wants, he didn't say, oh, look at poor Adam. I don't think he's happy. I think
he wants something more than what I've provided in creation. No, he looked at it and said,
it's not good. It's not complete. He needs a suitable helper. It's important that we
understand that because we need to come out of agreement with culture right now,
because ever since second wave feminism, I'll tell you the reason why women don't want to need men,
because there's been a lot of oppression in our history. There was a point in time,
believe it or not, just about a hundred years ago where women couldn't own property.
They couldn't sign their own signatures on the dotted line.
They were kind of property and of themselves to marriages. Marriages were more financial
agreements than anything else. And a woman needed to get married if she wasn't going to live in
poverty. And guess what? Women didn't really like that. And the reason why they didn't like it is
because a lot of them were forced to be in loveless marriages. That, like I said, were more
business transactions than anything else, where they were existing for the purpose of taking care
of and taking care of house and taking care of some man and having his children and all those
things where there wasn't love and there wasn't affection. And there wasn't even maybe sometimes
safe. All right. But those days are over. Maybe out with a bath water. We can come back around
to God's original did for marriage. And how do that means that I need a husband. I need my
complimentary opposite. I need my partner. I need my helpmate. I need my man. And the sooner that
you can admit that self that to yourself, the better. All right. We're not called to be
codependent. This is not a situation where we're going to be sucking each other. It's life energy
and depleting each other. It's an interdependent relationship. Okay. A threefold cord with God at
the center. Right. Important stuff. I want to take one more in this category. And the next person was
Samantha. So Samantha, tell us what mask you wear and the rest of you can put your masks up in the
comments. Yeah. So I just said, like, I try to be like show everybody that I'm strong all the time.
And I think generally speaking, I am a strong person, but I don't really want to wear that
mask anymore. Like, cause I, there's times where I kind of put on that massive, Hey,
I'm strong on the inside. I'm like, I am not strong at all. So that's mine.
And you know what, you know what the dangerous of always presenting strength is that it's so
exhausting. Oh my gosh. It's so exhausting to have to always be strong. Isn't it? Y'all
raise your hand. If you would admit that you would love to be a passenger princess and just
get in the passenger seat and let someone else figure it out for a while, raise your hand.
If you just like to just let someone else, mainly a man, I'm talking about a man, a good man,
a man, who's wise and a man who listens to the Lord, just let him figure it out for a little
while. You know, when my mom passed away and I had been in that ICU for a month watching her pass
and all the crazy years of her, you know, basically getting sicker and sicker and dying
before that month in the ICU. When I came out of that y'all, I didn't want to make any decisions.
I didn't want to make a decision about what was for breakfast. I didn't want to do anything.
All I wanted to do was let my husband take the wheel. That's it. And there were some really
huge things that happened right on the heels of my mom's passing. And guess what? My husband,
I was just like, I just, I don't, I can't think about it. They were really serious decisions
that had to be made that involved my health, that involved all kinds of things. And I was
able to lean into my husband because you've ever been in a place where you just feel like you can't
hear from God. You have a good relationship with him, but you're so overwhelmed and you're so
tired out that you just do not know what's going on. It is so good to be able to be in covenant
relationship with someone who has your best interest at heart and can hear God for you in
those moments. But in order to do that,
Ladies, you gotta trust that person.
You gotta trust them.
And trust is not something that is given right away,
little bits and pieces of it are,
but over the course of time.
And I wanna say something about insecure
versus secure attachment.
Insecure attachment,
secure attachment in a relationship does not come overnight.
And it doesn't mean that you're,
have an anxious attachment style
or an avoidant attachment style.
It just means that that person has not gotten
to that clearance level of trust yet.
And it doesn't make you closed off
and it doesn't make you wrong.
I mean, I've been married,
we're gonna be celebrating our 16th anniversary
this coming weekend.
And there are things that I trust my husband with
without even thinking about it
that maybe I didn't even trust him with five years ago.
And it wasn't because he was untrustworthy,
it's because trust is something
that grows and grows and grows, right?
It's important for us to understand
that secure attachment with someone
is not something that you're gonna have
right from the very beginning of relationship.
It's something that's gonna grow over time.
All right, so Samantha, thank you for sharing that.
That's good.
That's a good one.
Did the rest of you guys put it in there?
Okay, distraction, the distracted person.
Come on, y'all, we gotta get,
we're gonna start uncovering these layers for later.
We gotta uncover these layers for later.
I don't know if I said this in the teaching videos,
the ones that you watched that were prerecorded,
but when I first married my husband,
he's an only child, by the way, you guys,
and definitely kind of a perfectionist.
When I first married him, every once in a while,
I would hear him kind of getting loud in the other room,
like working on something, just getting loud,
getting exasperated, getting frustrated.
And every time I would hear him doing that,
he'd be like, come on, Dave, what's wrong with you, Dave?
Come on, get it together, Dave.
And I'd be like, what's going on?
So I'd come in there and I'd be like,
I'd just kind of peek around the corner and be like,
hey, who's Dave?
Because first of all, his name's David, right?
And I don't call him Dave.
And I was just like, what's happening here?
And he'd be like, man, I just can't,
you know, I can't figure this out.
And I'm just, he be,
that was what he called himself when he got frustrated.
Like this counterfeit version,
like this imposter version of my husband is this,
this loser idiot who can't do things right named Dave.
And I'm not calling him a loser idiot.
He's calling him a loser idiot.
And most of y'all have like an alternate ego like that,
you know, a part of yourself where you're just like,
come on, right?
Don't we all, we might not have another name for them.
Might not have be that, that far evolved in that situation.
But you know, the more that my husband has come into healing
of accepting that, you know, that he's messy sometimes
and he doesn't have it all together
and he's not supposed to have it all together
and leaning into sonship.
That's what that Jesus Cares Board is all about.
I had a student the other day say, man, you know,
my Jesus Cares Board is bumming me out.
And I'm like, what, why?
Because like every day I look at it
and I see all the problems that I have.
And, you know, I'm trying to figure out how to fix them.
And I see all the problems that I have
and I'm praying over them.
And I feel like all I do is just focus on my problems
now that I have this Jesus Cares Board.
And I'm like, that's cause you're doing it wrong.
The whole purpose of the Jesus Cares Board
is to take all the things that you can't fix
that you don't know the solutions to, right?
You can't change those things.
And instead of worrying about them
and instead of letting yourself be burdened with them,
you put them on Jesus.
You release them to the Jesus Cares Board.
And then unless he lets you know
that there's something that you need to do
in the solution of that problem,
you just leave it there knowing
that it is very securely in his care, right?
And then you walk on.
So we're allowed to be messy.
We're allowed to lean in for strength, right?
One of you, Samantha just said
that strong is her counterfeit identity.
But the truth is, is that that's also your superpower.
It's just a different type of strong, okay?
What's the Bible say about it?
It says that our strength is made,
his strength, I'm sorry, is made perfect in our what?
His strength is made perfect in our what?
Weakness.
Right, so when we're messy,
that's when God can show up strong through us, right?
Paul even said, because of my messiness,
your power rests upon me.
Of course, that's my paraphrase.
Because of my infirmities, my weaknesses,
my frailties in this flesh, your power.
rests upon me. And so we have to understand that, um, when we allow ourselves to be vulnerable,
when we allow ourselves to lean in, um, to that, that is when we will receive that strength.
That's when you'll feel that strength. Yes. Love the permission. You guys love the permission to
like Elizabeth to be messy and imperfect, but don't take that as your counterfeit identity
either. See, some people will take that. I'm not saying Elizabeth is, but don't take that
all the way to the pendulum swing where you just show up messy all the time, right? You're the
person that never has it together. You're the person that, you know, is always in a crisis.
You know, we don't want to be professional victims either. Do we you're like, well,
Jackie, where's the balance? The balance is the heart healing. Okay. You're going to know when
to show up vulnerable. And you're also going to know when to show up in his strength.
You're going to show up in faith. You're going to show up in, um, in partnership
with Holy spirit. All right. So this all really, really good stuff.
Okay. Hopefully you guys are getting something out of this tonight. All right.
All right. So breakout question number two. And for those of you that are watching the time,
cause you need, you know, to be somewhere at a certain time, we're going to be here for probably
another 35 minutes. Okay. So breakout question two, have you lost hope in any area of your life?
Right. Um, this obviously goes with that hope scale worksheet. It goes with that hope teaching
for those of you that didn't get a chance to do that. Um, you're going to definitely want to do
that for sure, but we'll go ahead and go into another breakout where you can share with each
other and just be honest with each other. If you, you know, I've already done the hope scale
worksheet. This is where you're going to be honest about those, those areas where there was a one or
two. Okay. Where you had a one or two as the answer on those questions. And if you didn't
do that worksheet yet, then you can just go ahead and share, um, a place in your life where you feel
like you have definitely lost some hope. Okay. You're struggling in the hope department in that
area of your life. All right. So let's go ahead and open the rooms.
All right. So we're back from that breakout and we're going to talk about the areas where our hope
is, um, low. You know, some of us may feel like we have no hope at all, but that isn't true,
right? Because if that was true, then we wouldn't, um, be trying at all in those areas. And so all
the areas that you're mentioning, there are areas where you're still putting forth some effort.
And so there's definitely some hope that's living there. It may not be a lot of hope,
um, but hope is something because it's eternal, that it's actually hard to completely distinguish
extinguish. Okay. It's hard to completely extinguish it. Can't put it out all the way,
right. It can be very low and it's very hard to live with low hope because when you live with low
hope, like I said, you, you look for medication because it's painful. Hope is the thing that gets
you up in the morning and gets you going. It's the thing that gets you excited. It's the thing that,
you know, makes life worth living in that area, right? That hope that the thing that you're
hoping for is going to happen. I remember in my twenties, um, I was severely ill my entire
decade of my twenties into my thirties, actually, until I was about 33 years old.
So I had severe mental health issues. I had severe physical health issues. Um, all of them were
things that were not treatable, um, at least not treatable with any true success. And, um, there
were big portions of that decade of my life where I was in extreme pain and, uh, you know, not able
to leave the home, not able to leave the house also, you know, in a very traumatic and unhealthy
and unsafe marriage at that time too. And I can tell you that there were lots of times, um, in
that decade, that 12 years where I didn't know if things were ever going to change.
I didn't know if this was just going to be the rest of my life. Is this what my rest of my life
looks like? Is this what it looks like? And unfortunately, friends, there are voices that
show up that I know that they're trying to be helpful when they say things like, Oh, well, you
know, God's.
grace is sufficient for you, or he'll never put more on you than you can bear.
Just like very religious things that make you kind of feel like God's a jerk.
Okay.
And then, but you still have no trust.
You have no choice, but just to love him because like, he's still a God, right?
Well, it's like, well, he's a jerk, but I'm going to love him anyway.
You know, a lot of people like to quote that scripture from Job.
You know, he, you know, even though he slays me, I'll still praise him.
Well, that's a horrible quote.
And yeah, there's some sucky things that happen in life for sure.
No doubt.
You know, I understand that I've been there, but God's not doing that stuff to us.
God's not ever holding out on you.
And if you learn nothing in this first phase of the program the thing that I
want you to learn most of all, is that you have a father in heaven that adores
you, that loves you so very much and is on your side, he is for you and life is for
you.
Yeah.
You might have had some bad experiences and you might have had some hard knocks.
We all have for sure.
Everyone suffers.
Jesus made it very clear to us that everyone was going to have suffering in
this life because we live in a fallen world.
And I'm just going to tell you the darkness of this culture.
I don't know that things have ever been as dark as they are now, just overall.
And so one thing that I want you to really do as you go forward is regardless of
whether you have this much hope, or you have this much hope, because I believe
your hope's going to increase.
First of all, I cared the supernatural gift of hope now.
And I just released that over you.
I believe that your hope is going to increase, but regardless of how much you
have, I want you to start to start to protect it.
You might say, Jackie, you know, like what the heck does that mean?
This is what it means.
Stop looking at stuff that steals your hope.
And while we're at it, stop looking at stuff that steals your joy.
Stop listening to stuff that steals your hope.
Stop hanging around people.
One of our ladies that was in here with me for the last breakout, not this one
said that she had a cousin that continued to say stuff to her, like, well, you know,
if you're not married by 40, you ain't going to get married.
Well, the problem is that she's already over 40.
And so how is that supposed to help anybody here?
Right.
And so, you know what we do when we have people like that in our lives, we say
things like, oh, you know what?
I love you, but I'm not going to listen to that.
That's right.
Sometimes you just gotta love people from a distance because, you know, they're
trying to steal stuff from you.
They're trying to steal stuff from you.
Pay attention to what ends up missing in your heart and in your life.
After you hang out with certain people, take a little assessment.
Right.
We used to, I used to do a lot of youth ministry with a lot of, you know, young
people that were in trouble with the law and different things.
And when I would have them over my house, after they left, I would take an
assessment of what was still in my home and what was missing because they stole
things.
Okay.
Yes, that's right.
I've done every kind of ministry.
You can think of, um, they stole things like they wrote themselves checks on a
checkbook that they found and then cashed them and did all kinds of stuff.
So when you hang out with people, whether it's church people, you know,
community, whether it's people at work, whether it's people that are supposed to
be your best friends, when you leave and you go home, I want you to take a, you
know, a spiritual and mental and emotional assessment of, do you feel full
or do you feel empty?
What is missing?
What has come up missing?
Do you feel hopeless?
Do you feel worn out?
Do you feel exhausted?
Do you feel like your joy has come up missing?
You hang around the wrong people.
They will steal your joy.
They will steal your hope.
You know, for those few moments, you will feel like you are exhausted.
Why is that?
Because I will tell you why.
If you are around people that have a stronger negative outlook on life, then
you have a positive outlook on life.
Then you do the math of what's going to happen next.
You hang out with, listen, ladies, please listen to this.
If all of the people that are closest to you think that there's no good men left
on the earth and all they want to do, forgive my language is bitch and
complain about men.
You ain't getting married.
Because if you think that that does not spread like wildfire in your spirit,
you're wrong.
If you think that that does not create blind spots and filters, you are wrong.
You got to get around people that want to cheer for your love story.
Not think that every single man that you meet is like some human trafficker.
Seriously, we've had everything you can think of.
I just can't even, you know, I don't want to talk about it.
In my first group of people, like one woman would post about her date and another woman would say,
you better be careful. Sounds like he's a human trafficker. Really? How did it escalate there?
Really? Why, why, why? You know, of course he wasn't, but some people are just that jaded on
men. And you want to ask them like, you know, what are you doing in a, in a marriage, you know,
help me get married group. But there are people in your life that they're not trying to get married.
And the thing is, is that they may, and you're like, okay, well, I don't have any single friends
like that, but you actually might have married friends like that, that are trying to sour you
on marriage because they are not happily married. And they kind of envy you because you're free
and they're not. And so please ladies start taking an assessment of what comes up missing
when you talk to certain people, how you feel afterwards. Do you feel full of hope for these
areas of your life? Put right now in the chat, the area of your life where you feel that you're
feeling hopeless. And it's for, for all of you, it's not marriage. Some of you, it's your job.
It's your money. It's all different types of things. And then I want you to ask God to give you
not only your hope in this area, but also to give you people that are believe that believe that you
can be successful in this area that really do. They believe that you can be successful.
They believe that God has good things in store for you,
that they're going to be the voice of hope. They're going to be a hope dealer for you
in this area. And the people that are trying to steal the little shred of hope that you have left
with their negative comments and their realism and their statistics, forget that
we serve a God to whom nothing is impossible.
We got to come into agreement with that. We have to come into agreement with that.
All right. Let's look at that. And for all of you ladies that, you know, you're, you know, maybe
past 40 years old and you're really still wanting to have babies, you know, biologically,
I believe God can do that for you. Even those of you that are in perimenopause,
maybe even knocking up against menopause door. I'm 48 years old and I'm going to be 49 here in
a couple months. And I was eight months without my period. And I was like, this is it. I got three
more months to go and I'm done. This is, I mean, wasn't excited about it. Cause you're just like,
er, that's scary. Um, but you guys, it came back, it came back. It was like, Hey, remember me,
I'm here. And so you never know what can happen for all of you. And there's this really great
thought leader that I follow that said that, you know, even one year without your menstrual cycle
does not mean menopause that sometimes it comes back two to three years later.
And it doesn't mean disease. It just means, you know, women live in a lot of stress. Nowadays,
our adrenals are weak. Our thyroid is sometimes over overextended, and then that will screw up
your cycles and make them miss a lot. So I believe that God can do anything even without a period.
I believe that you could get pregnant. I believe that God told us that our movement would be marked
by geriatric pregnancies. So advanced maternal age pregnancies, we would be marked by that,
but I want to say something else and all that. All right. I want to say something else.
There are so many children that need mothers and fathers in this earth that God can fulfill
your desire to be a mother, any which way he wants. And I know I've asked you to surrender
the pen to God in the area of your spirit mate and marriage, but I'm asking you to surrender
the pen in the area of children as well. All right. It is completely ego that we would need
to have a biological child. It's just our ego, right? We just want it to come from us. We want
it to have our DNA. I'm telling you as a bonus mother of two children that were nine and 11,
when I married their father, my daughter flipped her car two days ago. Okay. She was nine years old
when my heart gave birth to her. And I married her daughter, her dad,
she was nine and now she's 26. And she's the mother of my two twin grandbabies.
And she flipped her car two days ago. And I thought that I died for a minute.
Why is that? Because she's okay. I'm not going to leave you guys hanging on that. She's okay.
Actually, she came out with just a little scratch. She didn't even have her seatbelt on you guys,
because she was rushing to go do something while the babies were asleep with dad at the house.
And she just was just, and why is that? Because she is my child. She is my child. I love her.
Same as I love my biological child
that is just three years younger than her, okay?
She is part of my lineage.
My bonus kids, my kids that I didn't give birth to,
my heart, my heart womb babies,
not my uterus womb babies.
People tell them more often than not
that they are like me
than they do my actual biological daughter.
Oh, you remind me of your mom.
You know, you look just like your mom,
even though we're not biologically related to each other.
If we can be grafted into a bloodline
that we did not come from,
if we can take on the bloodline of Christ,
if we can do all that,
then we can do that as well in marriage
with adopted children, with fostered children,
with blended family children.
And so I really wanna encourage all of you
to surrender the pen to God.
I know you want to have a child.
I know you do.
You know why?
Because God hardwired you to want to do that.
But there's a lot of ways to fulfill the need to mother
and the desire to mother.
And I want you to trust God with that desire.
If you are meant to have a biological child on this earth,
if you are meant to have one,
regardless of what your age is, you will have one.
You need to come into agreement with that.
If there is a child
that is going to come into this earth through your womb,
because you know that they already exist, right?
God knew us from the foundation of the earth.
So they already exist.
And if they're gonna be knit,
if their body that they're gonna walk around on this earth,
that their spirit,
the vehicle that they're gonna walk around on this earth in
is gonna be knit together in your physical womb,
then it's gonna happen.
And you need to come into agreement with that.
It's gonna happen.
But there may be other children
that God wants to bring into your heart,
bring in through your heart womb.
And it's important that we're open to that.
And I'm talking to myself too.
You know, all my kids are adults,
but if God wants me to mother more children,
I will do it.
I will do that for sure.
I mean, if that is what the Lord is wanting me to do.
And you know how he lets us know
that's what he wants us to do,
is that we surrender the pen.
And then all of a sudden we start having a desire for it.
We start having a desire for it.
The same with your spirit mate.
If you really give God the pen,
that list that you had of all the things
that he has to be like, it starts to change.
You start to be open to things
and it's not because you're settling, God forbid.
You're not settling y'all.
Your taste buds are changing.
Your little love buds are changing.
Why is that?
God's making you willing to be made willing
in his day of power.
Don't forget friends,
I've had the front row seat
to over 500 love stories so far.
And those are just the ones
that have gotten engaged and married.
That doesn't include all the ones
that are in my marriage funnel of dating.
And I have seen everything that you can think of.
And I have not seen one person show up and say,
oh, you know, I wish I would have kept my list.
No, everyone's excited and everyone's in love.
And everyone is thinking that God chooses better for us
than we would ever have chose for ourselves, okay?
So I really, really wanna encourage you
to really let go.
And the quicker that you do it,
the quicker that we can get this show on the road.
And some of you may need to do it every single day.
You're gonna do it every day
because you're that much of a control freak
and you just don't know it about yourself yet.
And that's okay.
My kids bought me a, not a bungee jumping, God forbid.
They bought me a zipline package for Mother's Day.
They bought me like a ziplining tour.
And I was like, are y'all crazy?
Why would you buy me this for Mother's Day?
I am scared of heights.
I do not wanna do this.
They're like, come on, mom.
You know, first of all,
adult children are way worse than toddlers.
I'm telling you right now.
They will just turn you out.
And so I'm on this tiny little platform
way, way, way up in the air, y'all.
Way up in the air in Hill Country, Texas,
about to zipline over the treetops
and over the lakes and all this stuff.
And I'm all belted into some kid
that I know was just smoking pot
probably right before he showed up at work today.
All right, cause he's all like, yeah, right on, man.
And so he's the one that's harnessed me in.
And as I'm standing there about to literally,
they don't push you off.
You like have to, you have to, of your own free will,
you have to let go of the solid ground and step off, right?
And as I'm up there and I'm looking.
down and it's so high. I realized you guys, I had a revelation at this moment and my revelation
was this, I'm not scared of heights. I'm not. I looked down, I was like, that doesn't bother
me at all. I'm a total control freak. It had nothing to do with heights. It had to do with
not being in control. Right? And so I had to, I had to deal with that. And how did I
have to deal with that? I had to deal with it by literally losing control and I didn't
just step off. I ran off because I ain't going to live like that. I'm not going to live like
that. And you're not going to live like that either. That's a small life friends. It's
a small life. We are God defended. My daughter was driving in a neighborhood yesterday and
I don't know how fast she was going, but I've ridden with her and she drives fast and she
hit a parked car y'all and flipped her car. She had no seatbelt on. She's laying on the
roof of her car in the middle of a suburban neighborhood and people are like, Hey, is
anyone alive in there? You know? And she's just sitting there cause she's fine. And she's
just like, yeah, I'm in here. The airbags, I'm trapped. I'm in here. I'm fine. You know,
because she is God defended. And so for all of you that, you know, you haven't been dating
cause you're worried about your kids and you haven't been doing this. You haven't been doing
that. You're trying to control everything. You're trying to hold everything together.
Let go. Just let go. Let go and see what happens. Just let go. You're like, but Jackie,
if I let go, everything will fall apart. Let it, let it fall apart.
Let it fall apart because if it truly does fall apart,
it's only falling apart so that something better can fall together.
Cause I'm just going to tell you right now, there is nothing on this earth worth having that you
have to be the glue to hold together. There is nothing on this earth worth having. If you have
to be in control of it 24 seven, working it like a job, making sure that it doesn't fall apart.
Amen. Amen. So let it fall apart. You're probably keeping yourself from something better
by trying to resuscitate this thing that should have been buried a long time ago.
I think I say it in my heart work book. I don't remember what book I say it in,
but take the dead bodies out of your trunk and bury them. Y'all
sign the do not resuscitate order. Let that thing go. Let it go. Most of you that were married.
If I asked you a poll, I'm going to go ahead and pull you right now. Yes. I'm the DNR do not
resuscitate. I want you to put it up in the chat if you were married. Okay. And now you're divorced,
whether it's your first sex, second marriage, I don't care. Okay. Third, fourth. I was just
telling someone that I had a, I had a student that was married four times when she came here
and she felt very disqualified to ever be married again. And guess what? She is happily married.
She is happily married this time. She's married to a good man. This time, five times here it is.
All right. And God did not disqualify her. Um, she is here. So for those of you that this applies
to, I want you to, and for those of you that were in a long-term relationship, maybe you don't even,
weren't even married, but you know, you finally got out of it and goodbye, Earl. Okay. If you
guys don't know, if you know, you know what goodbye Earl means. All right. All right. So
here's the question. How many of you would admit that you would have left that marriage a lot
sooner if you would have stopped trying to hold it together? Like you were the glue,
you were the duct tape holding that together for a long time after it was dead.
You tried everything to fix it. You tried everything you could.
There was marriage counseling, but you were the only one there because he didn't go.
You bought all the books on how to fix your marriage and how to be a better wife.
You know what? It didn't work because he wasn't reading the other book on how to be a husband.
That's what happened. And I'm glad that you held on for as long as you did for some of you,
because now, you know, that, you know, that, you know, that you did everything you could,
and you needed that. You needed that. You were, you needed to be able to walk on and know that,
you know what? I did try y'all. I held on to a marriage that should have ended the first year
for 12 more years. And every year I was like, Oh,
I think I'm gonna have to, I think I'm gonna have to let go.
But there was always some religious cheerleader
that came along and said, God's gonna fix it.
Well, that's great.
And I believe that God can do all things if we let him,
but that was not the case.
If only we could have the spiritual cheerleaders that came
and actually cheerleaded us in the right ways, right?
Because we need that hope infusion in the right things.
We definitely do.
All right, so I see all that.
21 years, I know people that, whew, all the things, y'all.
I've heard every story you can think of.
All right.
So it's time to let some things go.
It's time to let some things go.
It's time to let some things go ahead and die.
New beginnings require endings.
That's a true story.
I'm just looking through your stuff.
All right, y'all.
Okay, we have about three more minutes here.
Good session.
You guys are gonna be going forward into your part three.
Part three is supposed to be two parts.
It's supposed to be part three
and then part three B or part four.
So what I want you to do,
cause I don't think that they split that up.
So what I would like for you to do is,
I would like for you to do the repentance.
So I'm gonna see if we can really quickly split that up.
But if we can't split that up,
I want you to only, in the reading,
I want you to only read through the repentance
and confession.
I want you guys to leave forgiveness for next week.
So when you get to the forgiveness videos
or you get to the forgiveness part of the reading,
just know that that's gonna be for next week.
And I want you to focus on the forgiveness
and I want you to focus on repentance and confession.
It is way more than enough for this week, all right?
For us to do together, all right?
So father, I just thank you for your daughters
and I thank you that you are teaching us
that we do not have to be anything
other than what you've made us.
That we don't have to show up with masks on,
that we don't have to show up as people pleasers,
that we are worthy to get to know,
that we are worthy of love,
that we've been created from love and for love
and so Lord, we just thank you for all of these truths
that you are releasing over us.
We thank you God that you are helping us to have hope.
I just release supernatural hope
over each and every one of your daughters
in the area where their hope is dwindling,
where that flame is burning out God, we just blow.
We just blow on the flame of hope in those areas Lord,
that it begins to come alive Lord,
that it begins to spark up God.
We just thank you God for it.
We thank you that it begins to burn bright Lord
in these areas where your promises live
but they haven't been fulfilled yet Lord.
We thank you that you are not a liar
and that everything that you've promised,
you are here and ready to partner with us to accomplish.
And so Lord, we are going to partner with you.
We are no longer gonna wait in waiting rooms,
we are going to be actively preparing
and partnering with you in these areas of our promises Lord
and so we declare that now.
And so Lord, last but not least,
God help us to let go of things that are robbing us of hope,
things that should have been long dead and buried God,
things that we are trying to control,
things that we're trying to keep together
but we really need to just let them go
and let them fall apart.
It's time for new things.
You say in your word, I am doing a new thing.
Can you perceive it?
Lord, help us to perceive it.
I just release heaven's perception
over each and every one of us tonight Lord,
that we begin to perceive God.
We begin to see Lord and understand and sense God
what it is that you're doing new in our lives.
We begin to dream with you Lord.
Psalm 126, we're coming out of captivity God
and we're beginning to dream.
We're beginning to sing songs of joy Lord,
we're beginning to believe that even though
we've gone forth for so many years,
weeping, bearing precious seed,
it's our time to come out rejoicing,
carrying our harvest with us.
Now is our time Lord.
And so help us to be willing to be made willing
in your day of power to let go of things
that we need to let go of,
to let you prune and purge God,
to let you remove and make space Lord,
to surrender the pen to you God
in all the areas of our wildest dreams
and the purest whispers of our hearts
so that you can fulfill them your way.
And in this time, in Jesus name, let it be so.
Amen.
All right.
Love y'all, bless you all.
Go forward into part three.
Show up for each other.
Bruce, show up for each other.
Please do that.
You guys will not regret showing up for each other
and really supporting one another
and cheering one another on
because that is what makes things so special here
in our movement.
All right.
Love y'all.
See you soon.
Bye everyone.
Bye.