All right, so welcome to your last year single orientation.
I am so excited for you because I know what comes next.
I know what comes next.
I've been doing this for a long time
and I know that whatever it is that you signed up for,
whatever reason made you push the button,
make the decision, there's so much more
that God has for you than just that thing,
whatever that thing was.
And you go ahead and throw that thing up in the chat.
What was the tipping point for you?
What is it that you were like,
yes, I have to do this because I want this.
And of course we all know that you all wanna be married,
but what else?
I want to blank.
And if it is just the man,
then you can put that there, be honest.
Because that's one thing that you're going to have
to learn how to do very quickly in this program.
And that is be honest, be vulnerable, be authentic.
And we're gonna help you to show up like that
in this very safe community.
And guess what?
As you start showing up more and more and more
as your real self, not your counterfeit self
in this safe community through the first phase of heartwork,
through the second phase of your love story accelerator,
it'll give you permission.
And also it'll give you courage
to show up like that out there in the real world, right?
You'll start seeing that your persona here
with your sisters and with your coaches
will start bleeding over into your work life,
into your home life, into your community life.
I can't tell you how many students tell me
other people are noticing a change in me.
People are mentioning to me,
hey, there's something different about you
and it's not your hair.
There's something different about you.
I don't know what it is, but you seem happier.
You seem to have joy.
You seem less stressed out.
You seem less angry.
Your countenance changes.
People are like, you're glowing, right?
We call it that pregnancy glow here in heartwork
because what are you gestating?
You're gestating your love story.
And when you first get pregnant,
for those of you that have children,
nobody knows that you're pregnant
because you're not showing in any way.
It isn't until you've been pregnant for a while
during those later months of gestation
that you start to show and or you start to glow.
Nobody's glow in that first trimester.
You're looking like crap.
You're throwing up.
You're not happy.
You're feeling terrible.
And for a lot of you,
phase one is gonna be a little like that.
Whatever's out, whatever's in has to come out.
Whatever's in has to come out.
And some of you aren't worried about that
and you should never be worried
because this is a grace covered experience.
It's a grace covered experience,
meaning that God will give you the strength
to deal with whatever you gotta deal with in phase one.
And I'm gonna talk about that in this orientation.
I'm gonna tell you everything that you can expect
in this orientation.
So God's giving you the grace
to do what you're doing right now,
but it doesn't mean that it's not gonna hurt.
And some of you aren't concerned about phase one
because you've done so much therapy.
You've done so much counseling.
You've done so much inner healing ministry,
sozo, whatever it is.
That don't mean nothing here, okay?
There are things, if you will,
that are deep in those heart boxes
that are fully related to marriage and family
and romance and sex and all the things that we do here
that you probably have not even gotten to the surface of
that will surface during this
if you give God permission to bring it to the surface, okay?
And I'm gonna talk about the good protocols
and the bad protocols of how to go about this.
And it is really truly gonna be life changing.
So the material during phase one comes from this book.
It's the first book that I ever wrote.
It's called The Heart Work.
It's really not a book.
It is a protocol.
It's an inner healing protocol that God gave me
when I was in my 20s and first came to Jesus
and church wasn't working for me.
Some of you heard me talk about that on the challenge.
It wasn't working for me.
I'm not against church,
but the way that they disciple people in modern Christianity
back then in the 90s did not work
for a broken little foster care girl
who never had anyone love her,
never had been any place where any type of authority
was good authority, okay?
Never had a father.
So people standing around talking about Father God,
that's a turn off right away for me back then.
So there were a lot of things
that I just could not get ahold of.
And I'm the kind of person, don't tell me, show me.
I've heard a lot of words all of my life
from a lot of people.
And a lot of those things were lies
and I'm sure that sometimes they were things
people wanted to actually follow through on,
but lots of broken promises, lots of broken relationships,
lots of broken.
parts. And so don't tell me show me. And so people preach right
from a pulpit and they tell you a whole lot of stuff about God,
but I don't want to just hear it. I want to see it. And it's
not like I'm seeking after a sign, but I am seeking after the
truth. And for me, the truth looks like something. Don't tell
me that something's true if you can't demonstrate it. And so
that's where I was coming from y'all. And so God knew that I
needed to have a tangible, you know, representation of the
kingdom in my life. And so he took me and he began to disciple
me. Holy spirit began to disciple me. And that's what
this is. Okay? Because not only did I need that back then, but a
lot of people need that. A lot of people don't just want to
come with all their brokenness and have someone slap a duct
tape scripture on you and tell you that everything's better
now. The word of God is alive and it is true and is constantly
moving in the earth to accomplish the will of heaven.
But there is a partition. There's a part, there's a
participatory part that we play in that, that a lot of people
leave out. Okay. That good information was getting here,
but it was not getting here because I had a lot of junk in
here and I can't erase that stuff. I couldn't erase the
stuff that happened to me in my life that now my belief systems
were connected to can erase that, but I can replace it. And
so this is about not erasing, but replacing, replacing this
isn't as this is about revealing for healing. It's not about
exposing. God will never expose you here. You're not going to be
exposed. You're going to be covered with his love. Um, it's
going to be a beautiful process of heart surgery, like you've
never experienced before. And so I want you to get ready for
that. So I'm gonna talk about some of the things that you can
expect as you have said yes to this in phase one. Now we are
asking you to go on a dating sabbatical for phase one, unless
you are in a, what we call level three relationship. What is a
level three relationship? A level three relationship as
defined in this program. And you'll see, as you go forward,
and this will help all of you understand how you should be
connecting to people as you're getting to know them. A lot of
times, Christian women want to go right from, Hey, to level
five. No, girl, this is how you end up married, married to
wolves and sheep's clothing. All right. We're not going to go
from, Hi, go to coffee. I think you're my husband, my wife to
engagements or betrothal. You know, I've had people back in
the day, this used to be called married in 12 months or less,
but I had to change that because people thought that it was
actually called married in two weeks or less. And then that was
a problem. All right, because that is what they, as soon as
they got out of their heartwork phase, they were like, let me
add them. And then the next thing, you know, they're
engaged or announcing their engagement on Facebook with
someone that they've only known for, you know, six weeks. We
don't want you to do that. We can't stop you from doing that.
We do have a stop gap there of a premarital course called Simba
save your marriage before it starts that you're invited to
when you get to level three and level four relationship. Okay.
So unless you're in a level three relationship, which means
that you are exclusive with someone you've been dating, you
think that, you know, you think that it's a marriage minded
relationship and or it already is a marriage minded
relationship. There's an engagement, which is level four.
If you're a level three or four relationship, and you've come
here to kind of try to figure out if they're the one, you're
not in the wrong place. We will help you. I'm a matchmaker and
also a matchbreaker. We will help you figure out if they're
the one for you. Okay. We'll also help you for those of you
that never get to level three, because you have massive
relationship anxiety, because you're so worried you're going
to marry the wrong one. You're so scared that what if this is
not the one and then you start talking to yourself and you tell
yourself that it's God telling you no, but it's really you
telling you no, because you're scared. We're gonna help you
folks too. Okay, promise you we're gonna help you. We're gonna
start unpacking the hard boxes here when you get to the
accelerator love story accelerator, we're gonna unpack
boundaries, we're gonna unpack relationship anxiety and
attachment styles and all that fun stuff. Is there anybody here
in this group that is in a level three or four relationship and
you've just come here to see whether or not you need to
actually go forward with this person, raise your little avatar
hand. If there's anyone that's in a relationship like that.
Anybody? Okay, doesn't I don't see any hands. Rizzo, do you see
any hands?
One of your one of your coaches is on this call with me Renee
Rizzo, we call her Rizzo around these parts and she will see her
primarily in your phase two, but you may see her a little bit in
phase one as well. Okay. All right, I don't see any hands. So
that means all of you.
All of you are going to surrender the pen of your love story
to God during these first five weeks
and you're gonna work on you.
That's what that permission slip was all about.
You're gonna work on you.
That means you're not gonna have to worry about
where he is, who he is, how you meet him.
You're gonna fully focus on yourself.
You're gonna do this work.
I can't tell you how frustrating it is for me
because I know that this is the secret sauce
for people to race through and get to try to get to level
to phase two and phase three,
phase three being that community phase.
And then I go back
and they're having all kinds of problems over there.
They are meeting people, they are single
and they're mingling and they're doing the things
but they're showing up in all kinds of garbage.
They're showing up with all kinds of lies attached
and all kinds of stuff.
And then I go back to their portal
and I look to see how much of phase one they did
and they only unlocked 2%.
They only unlocked 2% of the materials, 20%.
I go back into their phase one and I searched their name
to see how they showed up in the group.
How vulnerable were they?
What did they share?
What did they invite other people to give them feedback on?
Zero, nilch, nada.
You guys, you can't trick God.
And you really can't trick me either, all right?
Because I come from the South side of the kingdom.
I know what's up.
If you show up super broken in my phase three,
I know that you mailed it in in phase one.
And so let's make sure that we take this phase seriously.
Remember, clarity before momentum.
You guys are gonna get momentum.
Let's get some clarity first, some clarity of heart.
I think I saw someone just say,
hey, what if someone asks us out?
Tell them that you will revisit that in a few weeks,
especially if they are someone
that you want to revisit that with.
And they'll either be waiting or they'll have fallen off
because they're not your person.
Because one thing that I know for sure
is that you cannot miss your spirit mate
by being obedient to the Lord.
You can't.
And if you're anxious,
then you might have a scarcity issue in your heart.
If you're like, oh, what if they go away?
What if they're not there?
What if they still don't like me when I do my heart work?
Then they weren't for you.
Don't have a scarcity issue, ladies.
No men have left the earth, the living men.
No living men have left the earth.
And there's 49% of eight plus billion of them here.
Now, some of them are babies, it's true, all right?
Some of them are little toddlers and still in school.
Some of them are jail bait.
Some of them are, that's not a good thing for you.
But the adult ones, there's a lot of them.
There's a lot of them.
And so we're gonna deal with those scarcity mentalities
during this phase and phase two.
The things that keep you dating the guys
that you don't want, but you're dating them
because you're afraid that there's nothing else left.
Okay, right now, y'all, I have a broken,
I have frozen pipes and I have a dead animal in the wall
that's stinking up part of my house
because it's 25 degrees in Austin, Texas
and Texans don't know how to do cold.
My husband tried to go to the grocery store last night
to get something and it literally looked
like a COVID fever dream, okay?
There was nothing left on the shelves.
And some of you really believe that about your love life.
There's nothing, there's nothing left.
There's no good men left.
They're gone, like all the toilet paper
and all the soup is gone at HEB down the street.
That's not true, it's a lie.
And here's the first replace.
We haven't even started heart work yet,
but here's the first replace.
You only need one.
You only need one good man that's gonna love you.
You only need one good man
that's gonna partner with you, just one.
Just one.
You only need one good man to be attracted to you.
You're like, you know what, Jackie, all my life,
men aren't attracted to me.
Well, you don't need men, you need man.
You need man.
If you're not the girl that walks down the street
that turns all the men's heads, guess what?
You're not gonna go through your life sexually harassed.
So good on you.
You only need one man to wanna partner with you,
to wanna be faithful to you,
to wanna seek God with you and create a family with you.
One.
So we're not going to make the mistake
of picking whoever is there and whoever wants us.
because the people that seek us out in our brokenness are usually not top shelf.
And so we want to be whole and healthy because marriage-minded men, good men, you're going
to learn about the three Ms here.
Masculine, mature and marriage-minded men are looking for healthy hearted women to partner
with.
We sing that song with our guys group.
If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, find a healthy hearted woman and make
her your wife.
That's what we do around here because that's sexy to a man who wants a wife.
All right.
So your next 30 days, you guys, I know you're living in a busy world.
I understand that, but the materials, like I said, they come from this very anointed
little Oracle from heaven.
And if you like a book in your hand and you don't like the ebook, you like a book in your
hand, you can order this on Amazon, right?
It'll be shipped to you in just a couple of days.
You can get it.
You can order it on Amazon.
If you want to mark it up and highlight it up and do all the things, it does have the
exact same material as the materials in your portal.
If you want to read it from here, instead of from there, what I don't want you to do,
and here's best practices.
We can't police you.
We can't keep you from doing whatever it is your little heart desires you to do, but remember
your little broken heart wants to race your little booty off the cliff.
And so we're here to heal that heart.
And one of the things that we ask you not to do is try to go ahead.
If you get the book and then you read it all in one sitting and you say, Oh, I'm done.
And then you try to do the work you guys go as we have laid out for you to go.
We didn't lay that out because it made sense to lay it out that way.
We laid it out that way because we know the kind of revealing for healing that's going
to happen in all five parts of your heart work.
And we want you to have time to do what I say all through this book.
Let's process that.
We want you to have time to process that with yourself.
Okay.
With Holy Spirit and with the group and with your coaches, right?
For those of you that are therapists, counselors, even other coaches, maybe like life coaches,
psychologists, psychiatrists, I want you to take that hat off and lay it aside for your
time in this program.
We don't need you to show up like that.
In fact, we're giving you permission right now at orientation to not be a helper, okay?
Be an encourager, be a supporter, be a cheerleader for each other.
But we have coaches that are trained in this protocol.
We have coaches that are trained in our dating protocol that gets people success where they've
never had success before.
We don't, we don't need you to show up like that.
This is for you.
This is your me time.
This is your self care.
And if you have a real, real hard time doing that, then that will show you one of the places
where you have some stuff in your heart.
If you feel like you can't show up unless you're being useful to other people, if you
feel like you can't show up without giving, giving, giving, y'all, this is your time to
receive.
That being said, this is something that we actually don't just suggest.
We actually insist on.
So if we catch you showing up as a coach or a therapist, you know, giving people tools
and trying to get them to go do this or read this book or do that and stuff, not only will
those posts not be approved, but you will be warned.
Okay.
Not because we don't love you, but because once again, this is you time.
We want you to show up and we know that there's all kinds of other books and tools and resources
out there.
Okay.
But the resources that we use in here are anointed for this purpose, right?
And they may seem a lot simpler than the tools that maybe you have had access to other places.
And you're like, I don't even know how this can work because this seems really kindergarten
compared to my PhD because y'all, God chooses the foolish things to confound the wise.
That's why.
So to show up with us in this little child space, because some of you need to learn how
to be children again, because your childhood was stolen from you.
Your innocence was stolen from you.
You've been, you came out of your mama's womb, an adult, a full grown woman, just like me
running for your life, having to make your own decisions about life or death every day
of your life, having to raise your siblings.
You know how many women there are out there that don't have kids now because they had
to raise their brothers and sisters.
And they're so burnt out on the trauma from their childhood of having to raise babies
that they were not given birth to.
All that's going to get healed here.
If you want it to.
And some of you came in here saying, I'll never have a child.
I don't want any kids.
I know we think all women want children and that's really not true.
If you're still, you know, in that phase and you know, but God has a different plan for
you.
I was one of those people.
I didn't want any kids.
I'm just going to be honest with you.
I've forgiven my mom.
She's in heaven now.
But I was so.
Oh, unconsciously scared that I was gonna be a monster
like my mom.
My mom was a monster during my childhood.
And some of you have that experience.
Whether it was a mom or a dad or some other caregiver,
somebody made your childhood a living hell.
That's gonna get healed here,
because guess what?
If it doesn't get healed, doesn't get revealed and healed,
then you're gonna continue to lather, rinse, repeat it
through the generations.
Even if you're like, oh no, I'm nothing like them.
You might not be like them in that way,
but there's something that that brokenness is causing
that's counterfeit in your life, that's getting passed on.
It might not look the same as what they did,
but it's still something very unhealthy.
And so I promise you, that's what's gonna happen here.
So that's what the revealing for healing
is going to happen in the heart work.
We want you to take it one week at a time.
It's laid out in your portal.
When you finish one material, the next one unlocks,
that's how it goes.
And then you keep going.
And then every week on Mondays at 1 p.m. Eastern
and 8 p.m. Eastern, there is some sort of heart check-in.
If you can't be there live for either of those times,
then the 8 p.m. is recorded,
and it will be in your portal
with all the rest of your materials by the end of the day.
It'll be posted there and you can watch it.
Guys, starting with your group,
we have a whole bonus session section.
There's a hope section, supernatural hope.
If you've lost hope,
you will get massive hope from that session.
There's a divorce and remarriage one.
There's an interpretation of dreams one.
There's a bunch of stuff.
That will, some of that's gonna be live this month
for y'all.
It's actually not gonna just be the prerecorded session.
I'm gonna teach the hope session live, okay?
And I actually might teach the divorce
and remarriage session live.
For those of you that you're divorced
or you might marry someone who's divorced,
even if you're not divorced,
and you're thinking about remarriage,
what does the Bible say about that?
And what does God really think about divorce?
And what does he think about remarriage?
I break it down right from scripture.
I take you all the way back in Bible history
of what Jesus was talking about
when he was talking to the Pharisees that day
when they asked him about divorce.
A lot of people misunderstand those scriptures
because they do not understand the rabbi theology
from back in the day.
You have to remember, you know, Jesus was a Jew
and he was speaking to Jews,
scholars, rabbis, Pharisees, the men of the law.
And so he was talking from a place of law
and you have to understand the law
if you're gonna understand what Jesus was saying
to the lawyers, okay?
And so it's important that we understand those things.
And those are bonus sessions
and you're not gonna unlock those Lydia
until you get to the section that they live in.
They all live, they live,
the bonus sessions live throughout the curriculum
and we've placed them
where we think it would benefit you most to watch it.
But this month, I'm gonna show up live
for some of those bonus sessions.
You're gonna see that on your calendar.
So that's the other thing.
You have a calendar in your portal
and it will also be in your Facebook group phase one.
Remember, there are people in your Facebook group
that are all different phases of phase one
because they've come in at different times than you.
You all are coming in together.
You're starting at the beginning with each other.
So you're kind of a little sister squad.
This is your bridal party.
These are the ladies
that you're probably gonna become the closest to
until you get into the main community in phase three
and then you'll probably start meeting a lot of people.
We do have single cities available to y'all.
We do have prayer available.
Guys, every day of the week, there's prayer at 10 a.m.
including Saturdays, Eastern.
Saturdays and Sundays,
Sundays to Sunday night, they go together.
Supernatural Saturday is taught by me Saturday morning.
Sunday night activation is where you show up
and you activate with our activation coach, Sarah.
What you learned on Supernatural Saturday.
You guys, those are powerful times
for your relationship with God.
During this program, your relationship with God
is going to grow by leaps and bounds.
Your relationship with yourself
is gonna grow by leaps and bounds
and your relationship with others, including men,
is gonna grow by leaps and bounds.
Okay, so we have all kinds of materials
for those components, okay?
That's because they're not open to you yet.
Those links are not open.
We will release those.
And what are those?
Those are just links to people that live in your area
or live somewhere around you that are in our membership
that you might be able to meet in person
or get together in person.
There are far more women in those groups than men
because we created them for women.
Women are like, hey, we wanna meet the women
in the program that live near us.
And so we created the single cities for y'all, okay?
We do have co-ed events and stuff that happen
in those cities because all those cities have moderators.
All those cities have facilitators that live
in those cities that create events
and invite people to local events and do things.
And then this summer, y'all, we're going on.
tour of the single cities and we're going to have some great singles retreats and events and
conferences and stuff starting in March actually starting in February. I'm going to be in single
city New York. I'm going to be up at Life Center New York City doing some stuff and we're going to
have a singles event up there and you guys will find out all about that where in your phase one
Facebook group. We will make announcements in there. You'll receive emails if necessary.
Okay the featured tab on that Facebook group is really important. The guide section in that
Facebook group is really important. If you go in there you'll see any kind of welcome stuff we want
for you and then your portal that log in your account over at that JackieDorman.com is where
there's going to be replays and schedules and different things as well. So you see that some
things are in more than one place just in case you missed it. There's there's things that are
more than one place calendars in your Facebook group also in your portal. All right we're
communicating with you guys all the time. Anything that we tag in your Facebook at the top of the page
and that featured section of that Facebook group is important. Remember it might not always be for
you. It might be for someone who's further along like if you see a post that says hey
it's time for you to switch to phase two. Is that talking to you?
It's not talking to you because you just joined right? So let's have a little bit of common sense.
If it doesn't make sense that it would be about you because you didn't get to that thing yet
then understand that it's not about you. All right and we'll try to be as clear as we can.
We don't want to have any misunderstandings. All right so you guys are starting. You have access
already to the uh the welcome video. You have access to the beginning of your materials in the
heart work and it's important that you go ahead and you start that because next Monday y'all have
a heart check-in at one or eight. Once again doesn't matter which one you go to but the eight
one is going to be recorded for those of you that can't come. What happens at heart check-ins? You
dig in deeper into the tools, into the materials. You're able to you know talk about someplace that
you're stuck. Every week on Mondays you will see a roll call post in your Facebook group that just
says where are you? What are you working on? What's going on? And all of you need to post in that post.
Tell the coaches where you are. What are you working on? Where are you in the heart work?
Are you in week two, week three, week four? Are you stuck in the forgiveness place? Are you stuck here
or there? What's going on? What's coming up? What are your victories? What are your wins for the week?
Your breakthrough creates breakthrough for other people. So the more that you show up and share
some of you what you're going to get free from in phase one is invisibility because you're not
invisible but you are hiding. You don't trust women. You don't trust women. I'm going to say
it three times. You don't trust women. Guys in my history of doing this I think we've only had one
one group two women you know one little issue between two of the women in our group
ever because you're going to have a camaraderie that's supernatural here. You can trust each
other. You guys are a private group. What happens here stays here.
Right? It's cool. It's good. You can share and by the time that you get to week three
you will be sharing because it's your confession week.
And so you will be sharing by then. All right so we're gonna we're gonna dig in to all the things.
So do your do your homework. Make sure that you're not mailing in those questions at the
end of each chapter of your reading. Those questions are supernatural. They're designed to
prime the pump of healing in your heart and get things to come out that wouldn't normally come out.
All right? Remember pain is your friend. Pain is your friend. Pain is is what shows us that
something's out of alignment and it's really going to help you in order to get free is for
you to feel and heal that pain. Around here we say we feel the feels in order to heal the feels.
Right? That is something God told me many years ago and now I see that floating around the internet
all the time. I was like I came up with that phrase and now it's viral y'all. Holy Spirit
always rhymes for me. Always. We feel the feels to heal the feels. Okay now I'm gonna tell you
real quick a few things that you might experience during phase one. You might experience one of
these. You might experience all of these. You might experience none of these. But you might
experience something different that's similar to this. I just tell you this so that when it happens
you don't think it's crazy. You don't think that you've done lost your ever-loving mind. Okay?
You might experience, once again,
we feel the feels to heal the feels.
You might experience feelings that you haven't had before,
because you've been numb in that part of your heart.
You might start feeling some kind of way
that you haven't felt before.
You might start feeling something
about something that happened a long time ago
that you thought you were over.
Guys, I thought that.
My grandfather molested me from the time
that I was two or three years old to the time I was 10.
And as an adult, that was like,
it's almost like it happened to somebody else,
but not in a good way, like in a repressed way.
And so if it ever did come up for some reason,
I would say to myself, whatever,
that's when I was a little kid, I'm over that.
Let's all just laugh at that, right?
I'm just over that, just over it.
It was affecting every single moment of my life,
the way that I interacted with everyone,
the way that I believed about everyone,
including God, everything.
I mean, it was affecting everything.
Guys, time does not heal wounds.
It doesn't, but heart work does.
All right, so you might start feeling stuff.
You might feel a lot more negative than normal.
If you're like a really upbeat personality like me,
you might feel a little weepy,
like almost like chronic PMS.
Irritable, you might feel more angry than normal,
because anger is hurt and fear is bodyguard.
And so if you got some hurt, you got some fear,
you got some deep rooted stuff that starts surfacing,
remember you're not alone.
This is surfacing in a controlled environment
where you're safe, you have coaches, you have sisters.
The people in your life outside of here
may not understand what's going on with you.
They're like, man, you're in a bad mood, okay?
But that's okay, because you can show up in group
and say, hey, ladies, I'm struggling today.
This is what's coming up in my heart.
And we want you to do that.
And we especially want you to do that
on that roll call post every Monday,
because that is what we're gonna coach you on,
on the calls, okay?
So you might start feeling afraid, threatened,
you might start feeling more vulnerable, okay?
That fight or flight or fawn response
might start coming out more.
You might even have a little bit of anxiety,
might feel a little bit of what you used to call depression.
You guys, all that stuff is,
is just trauma trapped in the body.
And it's gotta come out in order to get healed.
The roots of it, not the fruits of it, right?
You might experience some drama in your life.
You guys, if you don't believe in the opposing forces,
they believe in you.
And we don't put a lot of emphasis on the enemy here.
So if you're one of those devil chasing women,
we're gonna teach you that greater is he that is in you
than he that is in the world, okay?
The enemy is defeated, he's under your feet.
But that being said,
definitely doesn't want you to be fully free.
And so if you do start experiencing some pushback,
all right, little drama breaking out in your life,
other people that have not surrendered their hearts to God,
maybe start acting a little crazy,
trying to derail you and distract you
and detour you from what you're doing,
don't give into that.
Don't give into distractions and detours and delays.
And you guys, do the math.
If that starts happening all of a sudden
while you're trying to do this,
what do you think's going on?
It's trying to shipwreck you, right?
You're not gonna let it happen.
You're not gonna answer your phone
at three o'clock in the morning.
For the person that just wants to complain to you
and get your advice and yet never take your advice.
You don't have time for that right now anymore.
You don't.
Some of you may even have to not answer the phone
for your grown children that can't get their lives right.
You're gonna have to let them go to God.
Because here's something that you need to know.
This is a heartwork bonus for this group
because I feel Holy Spirit saying it.
Because you're the thing
that is in the way of their breakthrough.
It's you.
You gotta let them go ahead and hit bottom.
You gotta let them go ahead and reach to the source
because it's not you, all right?
So all hell breaking loose, distraction.
Here's some good things that's gonna happen.
Night dreaming and day dreaming.
If you've not been a dreamer
and you haven't remembered dreams,
I want you to go ahead
and put a little dream journal by your bed
in anticipation of thoughts that you might have,
little tidbits of things you might remember
when you wake up,
full-blown dreams that you might remember
when you wake up during the day as well.
Carry that little journal around with you
because things might stick out to you.
You might start seeing patterns.
Like, God, are you talking about me?
I'm not talking about you.
I'm talking about you.
You might start seeing patterns.
Like, God, are you talking to me?
Yes, he is.
He's talking to you.
And if you need help figuring out what he's saying
by those numbers that you keep seeing.
over and over again on license plates and clocks
and on the receipts of the groceries that you bought,
will help you with that, okay?
If you start seeing the same type of bird
over and over again or just anything,
pay attention to all patterns, all patterns of things.
If you start experiencing what people call deja vu,
I want you to, in the moment, take inventory.
Where am I?
Who am I talking to?
What are we talking about?
You know, it's not just about having a deja vu moment.
For those of you that don't know what that is,
it's like, you feel like you've been here before.
It's like almost like a little out of body experience,
surreal, where you're like, wait a minute,
this seems so familiar.
It's like, I've done this and said this before.
Pay attention in those moments
and write down where you are and who else is involved.
Are you, where are you?
What are you doing?
What are you saying that you feel like you've said before
and you feel like you said it to this person?
Pay attention to those.
Those are clues, but I will tell you,
deja vu as a whole happens a lot more
because you're coming into convergence.
You're starting to step into the story
that God wrote about you.
It has to do with healing things
that have happened in the past.
There's a whole lot that happens.
Deja vu is not just a random occurrence, friends.
It means something and will help you figure out
what those things mean.
Heightened senses.
For those of you that did have babies and you were pregnant,
you know that your senses get really heightened
during that time, right?
Especially the sense of smell.
Right now, during this healing time,
you might feel like you're noticing things
way more than ever.
Your senses.
You're smelling things, hearing things, seeing things.
Write that stuff down.
Pay attention to that stuff.
Because before you've been looking through
a dirty pair of glasses
and now your glasses are getting cleaned
and you're starting to see things
more clear than you ever have before.
Vibrant, more colorful, more detail.
Personality and lifestyle changes.
This is something else we need to watch for.
Especially during phase one.
You're going to start coming alive.
The real you is going to start coming to the surface.
The counterfeit is going to start moving out of the way.
That means that some things that you've been doing, okay?
Some things that you liked and didn't like,
and maybe even the way you wear hair and your clothes
and a lot of things may start becoming dissatisfied.
You might be becoming dissatisfied
with a lot of things and want change.
Do not make any huge life changes during phase one.
You might want to quit your job,
be like, take this job and shove it.
You might really want to do that during phase one
because you realize this job is not worthy
of my one and only life.
That's great.
Don't do it during phase one
because your little pendulum is going to swing
all the way over here.
And then it's going to swing over here
and we want it to come back to the middle
and we want to make wise decisions, okay?
We don't just want to go off half-cocked.
And so it's important that we wait
till the end of heart work.
When I first did my heart work,
I dyed my hair purple and I pierced my nose,
like immediately.
Now, you guys notice I don't have
either of those things now.
What was happening?
I had a knee-jerk reaction to freedom.
You know, I was around all these religious people
that were keeping me in this tiny little box
and I was like, I broke out of the box
and I cut my hair off and I dyed it purple
and I pierced my nose.
Thank God I didn't get that tattoo on my face.
Just kidding, I was not going to do that.
I wasn't.
But I definitely did have a major pendulum swing.
That's okay.
It's good.
We want that.
Just don't do anything permanent or really anything.
Don't do anything like quitting your job
and packing your stuff and moving
or, you know, don't do any of that.
Now, that being said,
if you're already in the middle of a move,
if you're already in the middle of, you know,
looking for a new job or switching jobs,
you were already doing that before you came here,
carry on.
I believe that you'll have a lot more clarity
in this process.
So thank goodness you're here.
We're not going to stop you.
We're not going to tell you to stop that process,
but don't start any processes
until you're out of this first five weeks, okay?
Exciting.
It's so exciting.
All right.
So those are the things that I want to tell you.
I think I went over the logistics
of the two different groups.
You have your portal, JackieDorman.com.
Then you also have the Facebook page.
All right.
You know, guys, really soon,
everything is going to be on an app, everything.
And guess what?
You're going to be the first group of people
that's going to probably be able to beta
a dating portion of that app here in phase three.
It might be done by the time y'all get to phase three.
And if it's not, it'll be done very soon after that
is what we're hoping,
because we've been dreaming about this for a while now.
And we're finally putting those dreams into action.
And I want to help you put your dreams into action as well.
And not just the man dream.
There's a lot of other dreams
that God's going to start bringing to the surface.
Oh, that brings me to one more thing.
Do not dig during the heart work.
Don't dig around.
Let Holy Spirit reveal in here.
I know that a lot of you are mentally aware of trauma that you have and you might just try to focus on that trauma
Don't do that God knows
what needs healed and
Revealed and healed more than you do
And so during this process just do the materials as they're laid out and let Holy Spirit bring up to your mind
The things that need to be brought from the unconscious to the conscious from the hidden to the scene
Don't get out of shovel and start digging
Because you might miss some really important parts of healing that you have never thought of you
Didn't know that that traumatized you the way that it did you did you don't know that lies were rooted in that situation
Because it wasn't a level 10 situation
Okay, so really important that you let that revealing for healing do its own thing and take its own course
All right
Okay, I'll take questions now
You
Got 15 minutes here to take questions. So who's got questions?
Let's see. I'm gonna open the chat to see if you guys are saying those in there
The the the dating portion of our program is not going to be like any app that you've ever seen before when it's completed
It's gonna be more of it like a community-based matchmaking app
Okay, like a community of people like think about the people that use uber the people that use Airbnb is a better example
I only stay at Airbnbs
I don't stay at hotels unless I'm forced to and Airbnb is a community of people
They're the people that have their properties on there
but they're also the people that use Airbnb and a lot of times the people that have their properties on there are also people that
Use Airbnb and so it's like a community of people with the same kind of focus in mind
Right and they review each other and they help make each other better and all kinds of different things, you know
I believe in community-based matchmaking and so it's gonna be a very different type of dating app kind of experience
And you've ever had before is what we're working on. And so to answer your question
The men that are involved in that community
That's a dating community for us just like now because we do already have you know, a co-ed part of our community
They will be men that are working on themselves. Yes
Men, they're doing heart work guys. My men's group has the same curriculum as y'all do
Someone said I keep being pregnant my dream that I can't have any more children. Well, you know
Spiritual pregnancy. I mean pregnancy and dreams can mean a lot of things what it means
Basically in a nutshell is that you're gestating something. There's something that is incubating inside of you that it's going to be birthed
I
'm not gonna answer any more questions about
I'm not gonna answer any more questions about that the
future
community based matchmaking portion of our group I
Want to stay a focused on the heart work and this is where I want you to stay focused ladies
So I know y'all want to meet someone and you're excited to have opportunities to meet someone and you know
But we need to focus on ourselves right now for these first five weeks
So who has any questions about anything logistical anything about the heart work?
anything about
What this orientation is about?
Yes, you should shut down your dating apps go ahead and pause them don't go on any pre-planned dates I wouldn't I
Definitely would go ahead and get the horse before the cart so to speak, right?
that's what you're here to do and
Just just do a hypothetical with me. You have a pre-planned date with someone. Okay?
He might not be Prince charming he might be Prince alarming
you don't know you don't know him yet and you go ahead and you go on that date and
even though you're supposed to be focused on this and then what if
You have a really great time with him
and then you end up like going down the rabbit hole with him for three months until he ends up being a
Narcissist and then your whole class has graduated without you
right
Because here's the thing five weeks from now if he's your spirit mate, he'll still be willing to go on a date
So go ahead and tell him. Hey, I got to put pause on this
I'm actually and remember you only want to marry believers. So go ahead and be truthful with him
I'm in an inner
I'm going into like an inner healing fast right now of dating and I'll be done with this portion of it in five weeks and
if you're interested in going out in five weeks, then
I'll see you then
Guys, I've actually had I had a guy client of mine to that
He met this girl that he was really interested in right before he started his heart work and he was so excited about her
She even lived in the city that he wanted to move to and he was just like, yeah
And I was like and so he showed up to me his name's Caleb and he said what do I do?
And I was like you tell her that you you've already made a commitment to this
I said if she if she's a good woman, then she'll like a man
that's made a commitment, someone who's being honest,
someone who wants to work on himself.
Because you have some people are like,
oh, it's not you, it's me,
and I got to go work on myself.
It's not like that, okay?
And so he just told her,
hey, I just joined this program for the first five weeks.
I'm not allowed to date because I need to focus on this.
You know, not allowed to,
but it is recommended that I don't.
And she said, okay, cool, yeah, thumbs up, right?
So he did his heart work.
And can I tell you at the end of his heart work,
he went on a family ski trip
and he met a girl on that ski trip
that was from where he lived currently.
He lives in Florida.
He was skiing in the mountains
and this girl that lives right down the road from him
in Florida that someone tried to set him up with
a year previously and he said, nah, I'm not interested.
He met her on the mountain.
She's like, you look familiar.
And he's like, oh, hey, aren't you so-and-so's friend?
She's like, yeah.
They didn't mention the whole thing about, you know,
someone tried to set us up,
but you didn't want to go out with me.
And they started talking and now y'all are getting married.
It's a good thing that he didn't waste his time
with Colorado girl,
because if he would have wasted his time
with Colorado girl, he wouldn't have done his heart work.
And he has massive relationship anxiety.
He would have never gotten to where he is.
So you guys trust the process.
Trust that God has brought you here
in order to do what you need to do
in the order that you need to do it, right?
Okay.
You guys, I have so many supernatural stories.
God has a supernatural story for you too.
And that's one of the things that you're going to learn
in this heart work.
A lot of you have been trying to make so many things
in your life happen, not just your romance,
but all kinds of stuff.
God can do in a moment what you could never do
in a lifetime of hard work.
But God can do it in a moment of heart work if you let him.
That's what I learned throughout my life.
And here we are.
Right?
All right.
Is there any more questions?
So many beautiful women in our groups, man.
And if anything else, coming into these groups,
you're like, whoa,
look at all these beautiful women with me.
I don't feel so alone.
They're single.
I'm single.
We're all single.
And you guys, the reason is,
is because there has been a warfare
on God's children over the earth, keeping them single.
And this is part of how we break through that.
A lot of you just think you're single because,
oh, I just wasn't in the right place at the right time
and blah, blah, blah, blah.
No, that's not what happened.
There's absolute warfare against marriage and family.
And we're on the front lines of that.
And we are seeing massive breakthrough in that.
What else we got?
No one has any questions?
I know y'all are going to show up in our emails
with all kinds of questions.
Ask them now.
Okay.
I'm at the let's process this page.
Do I keep going or wait for next week?
Y'all, you just jumped right in.
I mean, that's up to you.
I mean, it's not going to hurt you to go over week one again
and kind of really digested,
especially with all this information.
So you tell yourself,
I will tell you that if you get to week three
and you haven't had a lot of aha moments,
you haven't had a lot of breakthrough
where God's speaking to you and things are happening,
we usually tell you to go back to week one
because you're rushing through it.
You're just trying to get it done.
You guys, it's not a race.
Taking time to really pray through those questions,
to really let God speak those answers to your heart.
If you don't know how to hear from God,
He talks to you.
It sounds a whole lot like you inside,
your inside voice, right?
And when you start asking yourself questions,
answers will start coming to the surface.
And you know that you're not having a conversation
with yourself necessarily, right?
You'll start thinking of things
that you never thought of before.
You're just like, oh, well, that's gotta be God
because I would have never thought that.
I don't even think like that.
Another thing is, is that we would love for you
to remove yourself from the challenge page
if you've already been accepted
into the phase one Facebook page.
Please be accepted into that page first
so we know where you're coming from
because it tells us you're coming from the challenge page
and that helps us to get you in quicker
and then go back to the challenge page
and just remove yourself from it.
Why?
Because you probably will start posting
in the challenge page thinking that it's your phase one page
posting in the challenge page
thinking that it's your phase one page.
People get really confused.
They look really similar.
So move over.
Move over, bacon.
Now there's something meatier.
Anyone remember that commercial?
I have no idea why that came into my mind.
The lean.
Yes, thank you.
You guys, tomorrow is my birthday and I will be 49 years old
the last year of my forties.
You guys are gonna step into an early Jubilee with me
because I believe that this year is gonna be crazy
in a good way.
A lot of you have had crazy in a bad way.
Let's get ready for crazy in a good way.
Right?
Yes.
Okay.
Thank you so much.
Thank you for all the happy birthdays.
All right.
Renee, is there anything that I've missed
that you think needs to be addressed?
Somebody asked about one-on-one coaching,
whether it's necessary.
How do you know when it's necessary?
Okay.
If you guys are showing up on those roll call check-ins
and you're putting like kind of where you are,
those coaching calls every week
are gonna address those subjects.
So if after you get out of phase one
and you still feel like there's some things
that you really are undealt with
that you really still want to really talk
to someone one-on-one with
after you've done the heartworm stuff
and you've participated in the coaching and stuff,
we do have a la carte one-on-one coaching.
It's not included in your $37 a month.
So you do pay extra.
It's a lot cheaper than even like one counseling session
with a counselor.
Remember, it's not a counselor, it's not a therapist.
It's a heartworm coach and it's our master coach.
And or, you know, if you would do dating coaching
or anything like that, we have one-on-ones available
in those categories as well.
As you go further, it was just a situation
where you just really need to talk it out
with someone one-on-one.
We do have that available, okay?
Most people are able to work through the stuff
into this phase because once again,
we have all these things available to you.
There's peer coaches in your group with you.
You'll start noticing who they are
because they'll be giving feedback a lot
on everyone's posts and different things.
You'll meet Bethany who's your master heartworm coach
for your first phase.
She'll be doing a lot of those heart check-ins on Mondays.
I will be doing some of them as well.
And you're just gonna get a lot of breakthrough.
So if you end up needing more breakthrough
in a specific area or something that you really
just want a private one-on-one about,
then yes, we do have that available.
Remember ladies, this is not our first rodeo.
We know what the majority of the people need
and we go there.
We go there with our heart check-ins.
We go there with all the curriculum
because we know what a majority of people are going to need
in order to get freedom here.
Corey, Corey, Corey.
Corey, I see what you're saying about what you mean,
but I didn't see your original question.
So, oh, do we join tonight's live?
You can join tonight's.
I wouldn't go to the heart check-ins yet, ladies,
especially for those of you that haven't done anything.
Now, the woman that said,
hey, I'm already done with week one.
If you wanna join,
if you wanna jump into the heart check-in this evening
at 7 p.m. Central, 8 p.m. Eastern,
I guess you can if you feel like you don't need to stay
with your group and you wanna just rush ahead and do that.
We're not gonna stop you from doing that
because there is a heart check-in tonight.
The orientation tonight, that's gonna be recorded
and then people can watch it that couldn't come
to either of the times today.
For all of you that are just starting,
it's gonna be very similar to this.
It's gonna be me again.
It's gonna be very similar to this.
So, it's up to you whether or not you wanna double dip
and watch that again.
But if you do decide to come back and watch the orientation
because you wanted to hear what I said
about something specific,
the one tonight is going to be the one
that lives in replay, not this one.
All right, hopefully that's very clear.
All right, so our phase one group is a culmination
of several different groups, all phase one,
but typically within first five weeks.
Yes, as soon as someone graduates, great question, see?
Thank you for asking questions
because it helps us to answer things
that people are gonna have questions about later.
After you get to the end of your phase one,
say the lady that just said she's already at,
let's process this.
Say she goes ahead and she goes to heart check-in
because she's like, I'm good.
I feel like I did good in week one and I'm good.
And so, she's a week ahead of y'all
that are starting right now,
even though she started with you.
That means she's gonna get to the fifth week sooner,
but the curriculum is based on her progress,
not on your group's progress,
meaning that when she gets to the end,
it's gonna automatically generate her an email,
provided y'all gave us permission to send you emails.
Some of you didn't, so make sure you're getting the emails.
And if you're not getting emails,
now you shouldn't have gotten any emails.
We're not sending you anything today,
but you should have got an email that told you
how to join your Facebook group.
As long as you got those emails,
then you're on our email list, okay?
So don't worry about it.
If you've gotten emails from us,
especially the email on.
how to join your Facebook group,
then you're getting emails from us, okay?
But she'll get an email when she unlocks
that last material in phase one
that invites her to join phase two.
And once again, it gives her the link for the other group.
And then she joins that group.
And then after she joins that group,
she removes herself from your Facebook group
that all of you are in phase one.
So to answer that lady's question,
yes, there is a mixed bag of people
at different weeks of phase one
in your Facebook group together, okay?
But everyone graduates at different times,
depending on when they started and when they finished.
If you're one of those people that you're about to,
you joined because you didn't want to not join
because you felt God pulling your heart
to join this program,
but you're about to go on vacation
for two weeks on a cruise.
I noticed a lot of people are on cruises right now.
Did you guys notice that?
A lot of people are like in Cabo, they're on cruises,
and you're not gonna be able to do this.
So you're gonna be two weeks behind this group,
but when you come back, it's still gonna be waiting for you.
Say something else happens.
Say you have a scheduled surgery,
you have a knee surgery or something,
and you know that you're not gonna be able to do this
during that time.
You're not gonna get behind.
You're just gonna be right on time for yourself, right?
Okay.
You can stay in phase one.
And listen, maybe you get to the end
and you're like, I need to do it again.
I don't wanna go to phase two yet.
I'm not ready to hear about relationships and dating.
I'm not ready to have my love story accelerated.
I wanna work on some more stuff in here.
You can stay.
You can stay in phase one if you need to.
Now, we're gonna get you to a place
where you're confident to move on
because we want you to move on, right?
But we're not gonna make you move on before you feel ready.
No, Corey, that's not right.
You do graduate based on the work that you do in the portal
because you can't get to the next piece of work
in the portal until you do the one before it, okay?
It does not open for you
until you complete the thing before it, okay?
So when you go to your portal, ladies, take a look at it.
Too bad, I'll share my screen tonight, maybe.
You start.
Here's the welcome video.
You watch the video.
When you're done watching the entire video,
the next thing unlocks, the next portion unlocks,
then the next portion unlocks,
then the next portion unlocks.
There's a little homework guide
that tells you what to do in week one,
what pages to read in the book, what worksheet to do.
All the things that happen are there.
You also get emails sometimes, maybe not in week one,
but in week two, you might get emails
when you unlock things that say,
hey, good job, you just completed such and such a thing.
What did you learn?
Show up in group, tell us about it, that kind of stuff.
So it's not based on just five weeks in a time
where, oh, I bought my stuff on the 20,
I bought my stuff on the 13th.
So five weeks from the 13th,
I automatically are in phase two.
No, you got to get there by doing the work.
And you guys, we can tell whether you did the work or not.
So if you just go through and just boom, unlock,
boom, unlock, boom, unlock, and you're not watching it,
you're not doing it,
and you end up requesting phase two in like a week,
when we know what you did,
and we know you didn't do your hard work,
and we're not going to stop you from going into phase two,
but we're also not going to put you
on Jackie's matchmaking list,
because you ain't got a healthy heart.
And just so you know, I'm watching,
and I'm putting stuff on.
I'm not Santa Claus, all right?
But I do make internal matches all the time with people
based on who got highlights for me.
And if you are trying to fool me,
you probably might be able to, maybe,
but you can't fool God.
God knows if you're ready to meet someone,
so why are you trying to fool him?
You got to do hard work.
You got to do your hard work.
And you're like, why are you saying this so much, Jackie?
Because you would be amazed at how many people
actually try to do that.
This is not literally trying to like graduate high school
by looking at someone else's algebra test and cheating.
You can't cheat your own inner healing.
You get that, right?
Raise your little hand if you get it.
You cannot cheat your own inner healing.
You can't.
I just had a girl the other day come,
and she's like, well, why haven't you done?
I don't know, she just messaged me on Instagram
or something, and she's like, da, da, da, da, da.
And I went, and I was like, who is this girl?
And I went and looked at her portal.
She did 2% of phase one.
And she over here like, you know,
I saw some guy you were talking about,
you know, I want him, you know.
Kim did talk to me and I went and saw she did 2% of her heart
work. I was like, Oh, no, girl. No. You guys, that is just a
one off that doesn't normally happen. Like with me, like
people like coming and talking to me and trying to get me to
whatever, but I just think it's a good example of please be
here for the right reasons. All right. It's not about just being
in the right place at the right time for a man. It's about being
the right place at the right time with the right heart.
Please, please. I'm lucky that I'm married. I really am. I'm
blessed. The reason why is because I did not have my heart
work done when I walked out of my front yard and yelled at my
husband. Obviously, I was living in a total fear response. And
the first two years of our marriage were bad. Y'all bad. I
don't tell that part of the story enough. And it's part of
the reason why I do what I do here because I definitely could
have ended up second time divorced and not because he
wasn't a good man, but because I had too much trauma. I could not
trust him. I could not let him in. He wanted to be let in.
Thank goodness that he didn't give up on me because I was a
hot mess express. I was seriously a complete dumpster
fire. I was triggered all the time. I always thought he was
doing something he wasn't. Guys, I'm just gonna be real
with you because someone needs to hear this for the first like
my I had a six year old daughter when we got married. Okay, and
now she's 23. And she's getting married and her daddy David,
which is my husband is her like, they're like peas in a pod.
They're like best friends. Okay. And he had two children to nine
and 11. But for the first like, maybe year of being married to
him, I wouldn't leave her in the same room with him alone.
And if she ended up in the same room with him, I come in, I'd
be real suspicious, like what's going on in here? Because I was
afraid he was gonna molest my daughter. Now you might ask, why
is that Jackie? Did he give you any signs that he was going to
be a molester? Did he you know, was he sexual? You know, with
her? Did he have weird sexual fetish? No, no to all the above.
I had trauma. Somewhere deep, deep in a heart box. I believed
that all men sexually abuse. Because that's all that I've
ever seen. They abuse porn, they abuse women, they abuse children,
they abuse somebody. I had to get through that I had to get
through that you guys. So that I wasn't keeping my daughter from
having an amazing relationship with a father, which she has
now. Because I did my heartwork. So you guys, I have done the
heartwork. And I have written it all out. And I'm going to help
you do it so that you don't sabotage your love story. Okay.
And it doesn't take you two years after meeting your spirit
mate to actually let them love you. And I'm gonna teach you the
difference between those two things, too. Because sometimes
people say, won't you just let somebody love you because there's
some man sitting there that's saying that he wants to make a
commitment to you, but he ain't good. And so you're like, you
hear people saying that you're just like, Okay, yeah, you're
right. And you start ignoring all the truly red flags in your
spirit. I'm going to teach you how to know which ones are real
and which ones are just connected to trauma. Because you
got to know the difference. I just had a woman call me
yesterday, who's going through a divorce. She was part of this
program. And she showed up four months into a relationship with
someone who lived long distance and said, Hey, you know, I want
you to bless this, we're going to get married. And I said, I'm
not going to bless it. And she said, I said, but you don't need
my blessing. I'm not uncontrollable, y'all. And I'm
not your pastor. But I will tell you this. She had shared
enough with me about the relationship that I knew that
this man was bad news bears. And guess what, I didn't see her for
two years. And she showed up, asked me for a phone call
yesterday. And we talked on the phone. And she said, I'm so
sorry. She said, Please forgive me. She's like, I feel so bad. I
feel so humbled right now. And I was like, tell me what happened.
She said, she knew in her nowhere, after doing hard work
and being in our program for like almost a year before
meeting this guy, that she shouldn't marry him. But some
counselor of hers said to her, why don't you just put down your
walls and let somebody love you and stop, you know, trying to
find something wrong with this man and just marry him. And so
she ignored
the coaches in her life that God put in to self-defense to defend her that have
a grace in this area. Guys, you know how many people come to me that were in some
abusive marriage that said that their pastor signed off on it or someone? Guys,
those people are good people, but your primary doctor that you've had
since you're five years old, you don't go to for your gynecology situations or for
some specialist situations. Sometimes God sends specialists in certain areas of
your life that have more knowledge maybe in that area than someone you've known
all your life like your pastor or your Sunday school teacher from when you were
little. Those people are great. I'm sure they love you, but one thing that I have
really seen when it comes to matchmaking, and I'm really careful with this myself,
is that the people that you know the most, a lot of times the people that you
know the best, you actually are a really bad sounding board for their love lives
because you know their weaknesses. See, this counselor had been with her for a
long time and had known all of her suspicions and different things and so
the counselor got a blind spot too in the area and gave her bad advice. I have
a best friend who's single. Guess who doesn't give her advice on her love life?
Me, because I know her too well. So some of you guys have been showing up with
your besties and with some, you know, some spiritual mother or father in your life
and they've been giving you bad advice about your love life for many, many years
because they know you too well and they know your blind spots and your filters
and now they have them too because they always think that you're overdoing it or
you're picking someone bad because they've seen you pick bad people in the
past so no one's ever gonna be good enough for you or everyone's gonna be
good enough for you because you're the kind of person who's never been in a
relationship and they just think that secretly they think that you're just too
picky because, you know, you know you got all these walls up and stuff but they
don't know the truth because this is just not their lane. This is not their
lane to be driving in. And so you guys, this is a community where you will get
sound theology about your love life and you will get really, really good God
defend, God defended advice, okay? If you show up. Now if you run off and you
secretly get married in three weeks and you're like, whoa, it worked Jackie! I'm
like, okay. If you don't allow the input then we can't give it to you. We can't
give it to you, right? But I do believe that God has given us, the coaches here
including myself, he has given us the ability to see, you know, things for what
they are in this area of your life and we're gonna give you really good sound
advice if you let us, okay? And the good news for that lady is that she was able
to get out of that relationship very quickly even though it was a marriage.
She was able to get out very quickly before she got too abused. It sounded
like she went through a lot of crazy stuff before she was able to get out in
those few months. And you know what? God is full of grace. He's a good, good, good,
good, good, good daddy. All right? All right. So Father God, I thank you for your
daughters. I thank you for the special time in their lives that you have set
aside for their healing. God, I pray that you would allow them to feel the weight
of that. They feel the importance of that, Lord, that they would press in, that
you wouldn't allow anything to distract them or disrupt them from this time in
their life, that you are going to heal their heart, Lord, that you are going to
show them things about themselves, about you, about men, about marriage, about
family that they have never seen before so that they can be free, free to be
themselves, Lord, free to be the people that you've created them to be and live
out the beautiful stories that you've written about their lives. In Jesus name,
amen. All right. Okay, I'm excited to see y'all soon. Go ahead. Go forth into week
one. And we'll see y'all. Bye.