That stinks.
All right.
So, Lord, we just thank you for even mistakes, as I'm talking about mistakes.
That does stink when we make mistakes, right?
But God, I thank you in your grace and your goodness.
You can help us kind of really figure those things out.
And I thank you, Lord, that even in the midst of our mistakes, you make a masterpiece.
And I just thank you, God, that you're working in and on our behalf in every moment.
So, Lord, we just ask you to continue to anoint this session and just remove any distraction.
Even right there, just how the enemy can try to distract from moving forward and having
things and, you know, this level of perfection, Lord, we thank you that you bridge every gap.
Yes, Lord, I thank you that you would help every one of these ladies.
I think what I started praying is just to experience your love in just a fresh way tonight,
that you would help them to come out of agreement with lies that they've been believing.
Lord, I thank you that you would help them to begin to partner tonight more and more
and more with your truth, with your life, with your hope, God, with your redemption.
I thank you, Lord, that you would transform them by the renewing of their minds, Lord,
that everything old would pass away and behold, everything new would become new in you.
It's all becoming new in you day by day by day, but Lord, a lot of that newness comes
when we're transformed, not just in our minds, but it also takes root in our hearts.
So, Lord, we thank you for the truth of your redemption and your salvation and the work
that you're doing right now, even while the ladies are talking and sharing, God, that
you would help them to invite your searching gaze into their hearts, that you would examine
them through and through, and that you would find out anything and everything that might
be hidden within them, that you would put to the test and sift through all of their
anxious cares and see if there's any path of pain that they are walking on and lead
them back to your glorious ways, the path that brings them back to you.
Lord, we just thank you for continuing to bring just your healing, redemption, and life
and hope.
We thank you, God, for amazing grace.
How sweet the sound that saved a wretch like us, God, I thank you that you sent your son
Jesus to die on the cross, to shed his blood, and that Jesus, you came and you chose, you
chose us.
And I thank you that you allowed that to happen also so that we could have a way to be in
relationship with you, just as you are in a relationship with the Father, that we can
be one with you as you are one with the Father.
And I thank you that you created us for family and you made that possible through your sacrifices.
And through the hardships that you went through so that we could be close to you.
And I'm just so grateful.
I thank you, Lord, God, that you're continuing to heal all wounds.
God, we thank you that you would just go to the source of the trauma and pain that feeds
the negative thoughts that we have, like, Lord, just come in tonight and do our miraculous
work where you just start to create separation in our hearts, our minds, our bodies, our
spirits, and our souls, where we've held on to negative self-talk and really self-hatred
and self-loathing for some of us.
And we would come out of alignment with those things and come into alignment with your truth.
And I just thank you, Lord, God, that your word declares in John 8, 31 and 32, and this
is Jesus's words, if you continue in my word, you shall know the truth and the truth shall
make you free.
Praise be to the Lord that we can be free and we can come into more truth every day.
Cassandra says, something negative I'm letting go of is, sorry, I should hold this up a little
bit easier.
I'm so old.
Okay.
Man, you don't look old.
I hope that makes you smile, but that's so true.
You do not look old, but she's hearing thoughts like I'm too old.
I'm so old.
I have been saying this.
She says here, I've been saying this more in panic lately, as I would like to be married
and have kids soon, but God just showed me.
I have been saying this to myself since I was 24.
Wow.
Cassandra, this is huge.
She also says here, not sure where it comes from that I started that at such a young age,
but I'm ready to come out of alignment with that.
Yeah.
So I would be curious, like, as you pray into that, Cassandra, just start, you might not
know right away it's tonight, but like just start asking God, where did that come from?
Did your mom say that a lot over herself and you grew up hearing that?
Did people say stuff to you about, you better hurry up and get your guy or whatever?
You know, people say all kinds of stuff to us and they make statements about like us
waiting too long or we'll miss out.
And that can kind of feed into that fear of we're too old.
older, we're going to miss out. And I'll just tell you, y'all, I'm 45 and I just married my spirit
mate a year and a half ago. So, and we have ladies that are in our community. Seriously,
one of the ladies, I think she was in her seventies that just got married recently.
We are never too old. It's never too late. And we are never too far gone. God is the redeeming
God. He is the God of restoration and he opens doors like you would never believe.
Okay. So looking at Cassandra, what you shared is helping Jacqueline. She said,
that was mine from this morning. I'm so old and guys, my age are going for younger girls. Okay.
So here's the trick, Jacqueline, you got to come out of alignment with that for sure. Yes. Are
there some guys that are doing that 100%? There's some ladies that are doing that. We got some
cougars that go after the young guys, but here's the thing. Not all guys do that and not all ladies
do that. Right. So we can ask God to show us where did that come from? Even that we think
every guy, our age is going for the younger girls. Yes. Again, you might see that happening with some,
but if you keep telling yourself that story, that's what you're going to keep seeing. It's
kind of like, I don't know if that was last week where I was talking about, you know, when you go
to buy a new car and you start seeing that car everywhere, Jackie talks about what we focus on
increases. And that is so true. You all. So even with the story that I was saying earlier about
the lady that struggles with the negativity, because she keeps focusing on what she's not
getting on what she's not getting, that is becoming the bigger story that she is telling
right now, but she could tell a different story. She could, and you could, so we need to switch
myself included. I'll share a little bit later. Some of the stories I'm starting to switch
things that I've been telling myself for a while. Okay. Lydia says this is so encouraging because
I felt exactly the same way. Yes. See, this is what happens. This is why it's so important for
you guys to, to share in this community, because what you share might help others get breakthrough.
So Cassandra way to go. You're helping other people get breakthrough tonight. This is so awesome.
Awesome. Um, Don says I'm feeling a lot of negative feelings and like I lost out and guilty for having
my ex-boyfriend break up with me seven months ago. So this week is very difficult because we were
very happy and in love. So that's, that can be tough. And I understand. Um, but God wants you
to move forward while that can be very difficult because sometimes what we can do you all is just
get stuck in the story of what was. I talked this morning about Lot's wife,
Lot wasn't willing, his wife wasn't willing to move forward. And she kept looking back
and that actually cost her, her destiny. And there's no shame Don, I'm not trying to shame
you. I just want you to see a story that you can kind of gain some insight and, and, and, um,
wisdom from, but just a lot of negative feelings and guilt. So I would encourage you to ask the
Lord, why do you feel at fault for that breakup? Cause it sounds like you're taking a lot of
responsibility on yourself. So we want to get to the root of that. And we want the Lord to
reveal any areas where you're telling yourself a negative storyline because of that. And here's
the thing. Guess what? God is the great God and redeeming the time. You all Jackie's talked about
God is a time bender. He's also a deemer of our timelines. So no matter what you all have been
through, no matter how much time you think you lost in different areas. Um, I just want you to
know, Oh, I'm trying to mute somebody here. There we go. All right. If y'all can mute yourself until
you share that will help me a lot. Cause we'll get, we'll start getting a lot of feedback. We
have a lot of people in here tonight. Sorry. Let me, I don't know if it will. All right. Go
ahead and mute yourselves. If you're not muted already, please. There we go. Let's see. I can
do this real quick, I think. And then you can unmute when we go to share. All right, cool.
Um, I don't remember what I was saying, so I'm going to move forward, which is totally fine.
Welcome back. It's great to see y'all. We had some good conversation while you all were in there.
Um, so if you want to check that out, Cassandra was sharing some of her negative feelings. Don
shared some people are getting breakthrough. It's awesome. I hope you guys were experiencing
that together in your breakout sessions as well. Who would like to share who is willing to share,
uh, tonight on what you shared in your private breakout group, Melissa. Awesome. Go ahead.
Um, I just want to say today, tonight is the step of faith for me. I never hop on
these calls without makeup.
my hair done. So this is like horrible for me, but thank you for loving me despite.
Um, no, I, so I wasn't able to articulate the exact vows. Um, a lot of what you said, Bethany
resonated for sure. Um, but one thing that I feel like the Lord was highlighting to me as you were
talking about different kinds of vows was just this notion in relation to competition or comparison
and how we talked about actually, um, our group talked about how we related in that when we were
young at a very young age, two of us actually started competing with someone in like, you know,
kindergarten, first grade and how I like, I don't think my parents encouraged it per se,
but I always had to beat this one girl. And I just feel like that's carried over into so much
of my life. Um, for sure in my job where it feels like performance matters, but in everything else,
like I need for my house to be decorated better than someone else, or I need to,
I don't even know. I need to be better with my budget than someone else. Like I'm sure
like it is probably permeating way more of my life than I realize. And I, so I don't know
exactly what the vow is, if it's just like, I'm going to be the best. Um, but I definitely want
to press into the Holy spirit about what that is for sure. Yeah. And I think you're onto something
there. Uh, the vow could be, I have to be the best at everything, you know, where, you know,
there was a level of somewhere probably along the lines of, if I'm not the best,
something negative happens, or I feel a negative emotion. You know, it doesn't mean somebody had
to do something wrong to us all y'all sometimes, even as kids, we interpret the world in all kinds
of ways. It could have even been in a classroom where the teacher was really kind of, you know,
there was some star student that they kept kind of like really emphasizing and the other students
just started feeling like, well, I want to be that star student. I want to get that attention,
especially if we weren't getting that attention at home. Do you see how like, there's all these
layers to this stuff. And so, yeah, I would definitely encourage you just to ask the Lord
at any point. Did I start telling myself that I had to be the best and why?
Yeah. Such a good share. And Hey, I'm so glad y'all maybe one of these nights I need to come
on without all my makeup. Maybe I'll do that. I always get nervous because this recording goes
out all over. So that's why I come on with my makeup on, but you know, show up and just be you
and, and you guys are going to love yourself so much more. The more you do that, whether you have
makeup on or not, you show up and, and turn your cameras on with your sisters here. And you guys
really let yourself see each other. It literally, you'll be surprised at how many walls that will
break down in your life genuinely. And then it's going to help you engage, you know, with the
dating phase so much differently because you show up here and engage. And obviously if you have work
or whatever, some people can't sometimes, but what I'm saying is when you're here that you just,
you just let yourself be seen, just practice being seen and being noticed and heard. Okay. It's really
powerful. All right. Awesome. Such a good share. Let's see here. Tanya, go ahead. A couple of
negative things that I share with the group is that when I do something like a big mess up,
I will say, oh, idiot. And I was like, oh, don't say that. Don't say that. Or,
or that was stupid. And one of my biggest things that the Lord pointed out to me about two years
ago is that I would always say, oy vey. My grandmother who lived to be 101, she was Jewish.
She, she was Jewish. Gave her life to the Lord later in life, but she would always say, oy vey.
And oy vey means woe is me. And so the Lord pointed that out that I was really speaking.
It's like a curse. Woe is me. Oh, I'm so doomed. Woe is me. And I would say that used to say that
constantly. And so the vow, another vow just came up. I shared one vow, but the vow that I said in
my heart, that is I'm not good enough. No man would ever want me because you're often sick.
So why are you even doing this program? Because even if your heart is healed,
no man is still not going to want you. So for me to share that is big.
It is big. So, Hey, here's the thing you all, some of you guys have battled physically for a
really long time, and it has something to do with the trauma you've been carrying.
And some of you guys are going to start to experience some healing. I really believe
that. We've seen it over and over and over people healing from the inside out where,
you know, even if they still
We have one, one lady right now in the other group, she still does struggle
physically, but she's literally getting better every day and she's learning how
to like, Be stronger in her emotions.
And the more that she's healing in that area and healing from the trauma, it is
impacting her physical health as well.
So just want to encourage you in that.
Okay.
But also ladies, how many of you, um, don't, you don't have to raise your
digital hand, but I'm just curious.
Does anyone else struggle believing that because you're sick, no, nobody's ever
going to choose you or love you or anyone else in here, you can put it in
the chat if I can't see you right now.
I just want to, I want to ask you guys to kind of come out of agreement
with those kind of lies and thoughts.
Um, and we talked about something different earlier and I'll touch on it
briefly, but we touched on in the first session, wait, and I feel like this is
kind of like an, uh, another really important big thing.
Like when people are sick, they're afraid they're never going to meet their spirit
mate, but when God brings us together with our spirit mate, they will love us.
Holy, no matter what they will.
All right.
So it's, it's leaning into, okay, where did the you idiot start?
Okay.
Let's coach back on a couple of these things.
Lord, show me when, when is the first time I heard someone say the word idiot.
And when is the first time I started saying that to myself, did someone else
say it to me, or did I just start saying that to myself, like you just, you know,
again, you all, this is all so simplified sometimes, but this is really how I
unpack things.
This is how Jackie impacts things.
This is how the Lord is teaching us to lead you all to do this, asking God really
good questions so that you can hear it from him and be set free because his voice
and his truth is what sets you all free.
Okay.
We can be the vessel that it comes through, but he is the one ultimately
speaking into your spirit.
Uh, that was so stupid.
Okay.
So again, did someone ever put something down that you were doing and say, that's
so stupid.
Why are you doing that?
You know, where you're kind of unpacking all of those things and asking God to
show you, I love that you got revelation on the way they thing.
I think that's huge and coming out of alignment and agreement with that.
Um, that's just going to be powerful in and of itself.
Like what was you and coming out of agreement?
No, no, not what was you blessed as you blessed as you highly favored of the
Lord.
Yes.
Those are the things we align ourselves with ladies.
That is word of like, it's from scripture.
So let's start aligning with those.
You guys might want to even do some search on like scriptures about how the
word says that you're highly favored, that you're blessed, that the goodness
of the Lord can be experienced in the land of the living.
Those are the scriptures we want to cling to.
Okay.
All right.
Awesome.
Such a good share.
All right.
I still don't know how to say your name.
I said, I was going to practice it this week and I did not, that's fine.
You know, I'm talking to you.
I want to hear your lovely voice.
Okay.
I'm just going to turn on my camera.
I don't have makeup on and my wig is off.
So I'm just with my cap and my hats.
Oh, it's even bent to the side, but okay.
You look great.
Okay.
My wig is off.
Um, I shared, I shared in my, um, breakout group, um, that I really don't
have like negative word that I say to myself, um, I believe, um, I've been
able to tame my tongue to, um, say the right words and positive words to
myself and, but I also shared that, um, one of the, um, silent vows that I
have made to myself is I didn't know that before until, until, until today.
And when you were speaking, it just like came up was I was in, I would say a
situation ship, the last situation ship I was in.
And I think I was really hot when, um, we departed and I, while crying on my
bed, I'd said that, God, I'm just done with Nigerians never again, how am I
going to date a Nigerian, be with a Nigerian or marry a Nigerian?
And I'm just like, that's it.
Like, this is the last of the straw.
Like there is nothing else.
So afterwards I realized that my friends, uh, my friends, us band, we
tried to like hook me up with like a friend of theirs, successful, good.
I'm like, Nope, I'm not interested.
Is Nigerian, I'm not interested.
I, I wasn't dating size and a Nigerian.
to match with me, like, oh, I see a fellow Nigerian, I'm like, nope, it ain't happening.
There is no way I'm doing that again when God revealed that to me, because sometimes
I complain to my friends, I'm like, why is it that I hardly find Nigerians these days?
And God just said, well, you said you were done with Nigerians, so there you go. And
yeah, so that God brought that up to me. And another thing I also realized was somebody
was sharing in the group and talking about how they are a perfectionist in some things,
and I realized that I resonated with that as well. I mean, the area of me not sharing
my emotions, I shared with them that only one of my friends, like, only one have I ever
cried to, and it was even over the phone. It was a Thanksgiving, I'd newly moved to
Texas that year from Pennsylvania, and I was by myself, and it was the Thanksgiving of
COVID, so loneliness and all that. And I said, you know what, I got this, I could go, I would
go to the restaurant myself, eat, have fun, be merry. But as soon as I got there, and
I ordered my food, and they brought the appetizer, and I just wanted to take a spoon, I just
busted into tears. I just busted into tears, and I'm like, oh my God, this is happening,
I'm lonely. And I just paid, I just got my check paid, didn't take the food, and just
went into my car, and I just called my friend, and I just wept bitterly, and I was like,
I'm lonely, I thought I could do this. And that's the only time, only time. I feel like
the last time I had a heartbreak, my friends were with me, and they just noticed that my
countenance changed. I never cried until they left. That was when I cried. I never get to
cry in front of people. I'm always like the party mom. I don't drink, so even when I hang
out with my friends, I'm the party mom, making sure that they get home safe, and all that.
They get heartbroken, I'm the one who provides the ice cream and the cake, you know. I'm
the one who is the shoulder for them to cry on, and I never get to express my vulnerability,
my emotions, and all that. So yeah, that's pretty much what I shared.
So good. Okay, I'm just going to say, I think you are absolutely lovely, and I hope you
know that, like truly, truly. And I love that you turned your camera on and let us see you,
and yeah, you're just brilliant. A couple things here, and I'm going to try to like
move through this quick, because I want to make sure we still get to our other content,
and I see our lovely Melanie also waiting. But yes, this is so huge, you all. Somebody
shared something very similar in our session this afternoon. It wasn't with Nigerians,
but Ukrainians, maybe. Maybe. Yes, I see. Okay, Amber, yeah, it was you, or someone
on our session. Sorry, yeah. But anyways, this is so important. And so maybe you didn't
say it with a certain like nationality. Maybe you said it with, you know, a certain type
of guy, or a guy with a certain name. I almost forgot, I wanted to mention this. You all,
I said I would never date someone with the name Brian. Do you want to know why? Brian
is my oldest brother who sexually abused me. I was never, ever, ever going to date
someone or marry someone with the name Brian. Guess who God sent me? He sent me a Brian.
Now am I saying that's going to happen to all of you? No, I'm not. So don't panic. Don't
panic. But what I am saying is that it did cause me to, like, I did actually ask the
Lord, like, I don't know if I can do this, like, you know, with the name thing. And God
just just gently spoke to me and he said, I want to redeem this name for you. I want
to redeem this name for you, Bethany. Because see, God never intended that to happen with
my brother. He didn't. And God wants to continue to heal that and everything associated and
connected with it. And so yes, he sent me a Brian that is amazing and one of the most
loving and just incredibly giving men I could have ever met in my entire life who protects
me and looks out for me and is everything opposite than what I experienced before. So
not only did my, I choose to break that, like, come out of alignment with that vow so that
I can move forward. I chose to align myself with the truth of the blessing that could
come from what God whispered to me and saying he wanted to redeem that name. So maybe y'all
need some names redeemed. Some of y'all need some, like, some towns redeemed, some locations
redeemed because
You used to go somewhere.
And so you've made a vow with yourself.
I did not talk about this earlier today.
So I feel like this is the Lord.
Some of you guys have literally said, I will never go to this restaurant ever again.
I will never go to this town ever again, because it's associated with someone.
And I want to encourage you to ask the Lord if, or when, not that this is everyone.
Some of you guys will never go to those areas and that's fine, but some of you
all need to go and take that land back.
If you know what I mean, you need to take that territory back.
You need to take that part of your life back because we all go through hard
things and the enemy would love for us to just shut people out, shut things
out and stop going places.
He would love for us to just be isolated in our home every single
day and never go out and talk to anybody.
That's what the enemy would love.
But God is calling family into communities, calling people into community.
He's calling us to take land back.
Okay.
So circling back to what you shared, um, I really want to encourage you to
not take care of everyone all the time.
When you said, and it's a beautiful thing that you're the party mom
and you look out for everybody, but I think it's a really big thing for you
to be able to express your emotions, which I think you're getting to do here,
which is awesome, but also that, you know, it's okay if you do cry in front of
people, that you start to learn, like that you're fully loved, fully accepted.
If you allow some tears to come out.
And here's why I'm saying this.
One of the other things that I went through is I used to be told
when I was younger to stop crying.
You all.
And so I made a vow that I wasn't going to cry in front of people.
You know, I'm super sensitive.
I can cry in a commercial.
I literally can, if it's a sappy commercial, I can cry.
Do I make myself know?
Like it just happens.
And I can laugh about it now, but man, I used to get scolded for just being me.
And so I started telling myself I wasn't going to be me.
And so I got into even this relationship with Brian and at times would struggle.
Like even when movies would, you know, like be sad in the areas.
Um, and I didn't want him to see me cry, but y'all here we are, we've
been married a year and a half.
And both of us are criers when it's a really touching movie and we'll both
look at each other and we just like, yeah, we're both crying, you know, like
this, I'm trying to give you guys the, the, the love and the blessing that can
come when we let go of these vows.
Right.
That's what I'm trying to show you these parallels tonight a little bit.
It's, it's a blessing when I can just be fully me, like it's okay.
If I cry at a movie, my husband isn't making fun of me.
If, if anything, it actually creates this place of connection for us.
Now that is my husband.
Maybe your person will be a little different, but you want to be with
someone who you can be yourself with.
Okay.
All right.
Um, let's see here, Melanie, go ahead.
Um, so what I shared was that for me, it's not, um, it's not so
much words, it's feelings.
Um, I get very, um, one of the words I came up when we were talking
is like anxiety and fear.
It's like, I, it just like overtakes me.
It's almost like I, I get, I'm paralyzed for a moment.
Um, when I do something like that, um, even last week, like I made it,
I, uh, forgot to give someone something.
I mean, that was important.
It was an important document.
And, um, like I reached out to my boss right away, like freaked out.
I was trying to figure out, I was like saying, maybe I should go drop it off.
Maybe I like all these things started running through my head.
And then.
Um, I just like, I don't, I don't know.
It was like this anxiety just comes over me.
Um, and even today, um, today was a little bit different.
I, you know, somebody said, Oh, you know, this is the wrong, um, document.
And it's like, again, it was like this feeling of like failing
that just like consume me.
Um, I, I don't know.
I have this like a tendency to feel like I need to be perfect.
Like I have to execute perfectly.
Um, when I'm doing things.
Yeah.
So here, here's the thing on that one again, I think there's something
underlying here because God doesn't put anxiety and panic in us.
Right.
So when was the first time, and again, you don't have to answer tonight, but
just asking the Lord, when is the first time that I made a mistake and was
schooled it in a very strong way?
Or, you know, sometimes y'all, this is the thing.
It, it could not even be you all.
It could be something in your family line that has been passed down.
And so even when you guys are asking the Lord if you're not if nothing's coming to the surface that you have personally been through
I would encourage you all to ask the Lord. Is there anyone in my family line that experienced this?
That I am now it's because sometimes it's so strong you all when it's when it's super strong like that
It's either from a trauma we experienced or a passed down trauma that can actually it grows each time
It's passed down. Does that make sense?
The Bible actually talks about this when if you guys read up on anything in the Bible scripturally on generational curses, you know
When it's passed down to the next generation to the next generation, it actually grows
Okay, we don't have to be afraid of that stuff because we're under the blood
So even if that is what you're experiencing, you know
God's bringing some illumination to that and you can be set free for sure. That does not have to be your forever
But I really do think it's important that you brought that up because it's not always a thought you guys are gonna have
It's sometimes your body is and this came up even earlier today
Like sometimes your body is gonna feel some stuff and if you lean into that like what what's causing this?
Where's this coming from? You know, you can really gain some insight from the Lord on those things
I see Robin that you raised your hand. I need to get us into our next breakout session
So I will circle back to you if we have time
I hate to do that. But like we really got it. We got to start to move towards our next content. Um
Okay, so we've been talking about all these vows all the negative things and I did that first
Because I wanted to prepare you guys get some of that stuff cleaned out because I want to talk about the real you
who is the real you and
For the ladies on Facebook, I will respond to some of you. I see so many great responses in there
I'll come in and respond more in a little bit as well
I got to use my phone to see my notes, so I won't be able to see Facebook for a little bit
um
Okay, so new things anytime we start getting something new new shoes new life new whatever
It doesn't always feel great at first. There are a lot of times sometimes when you get a new job
I don't know if you guys have ever felt this way, but sometimes a new job like it's stretching you
It's growing you sometimes you start to think oh my gosh, can I actually do this job?
I don't know if you guys have ever felt like that, but I've absolutely felt that way
Sometimes they don't feel great at first. Sometimes they're gonna stretch us
They're gonna grow us and it can feel tough
The reminder that I want to give you guys tonight is that that's that prayer that Jackie put that's so pivotal in this whole heart
Book teach me show me heal me grow me
Like in everything that we do that prayer that simple prayer that is profound if you think about it
That you can remember to pray at any moment God teach me through this
Show me something new through this heal me and grow me so if you get offended y'all
What what Lord what do you want to teach me through this? Okay? What do you want to show me?
How do you want to heal me through this?
How do you want to grow me?
Romans 8 37 through 39 says yet in all these things
We are more than conquerors and gain an overwhelming victory through him who loved us for I'm convinced that neither
Neither death nor life nor angels nor principalities nor things present and threatening nor things to come
Nor powers nor height nor depth nor any other created thing will be able to separate us from
What the unlimited love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord
God is for you. So who can be against you?
No one no thing can have victory you all the end of the story is we win
I know some of you you're not feeling like you're winning in the romantic phase an area of your life
But the reality and the truth is is that you win?
You're just learning and growing and stepping every day closer to that win if you believe that is true
Okay
We don't strive we princesses of the King of Kings inherit
What are some things you've been striving for that God is saying in this season that you are now going to inherit
Striving is like you're you're scraping for that you're working so hard and you're you know
You're just like wearing yourself out trying to get that thing
Some of you all need to ask the Lord to help you actually let go of all the things you're trying to do and
rest
Those who have an internal state of peace and rest man that emanates like everywhere they go
You can just feel that kind of coming from them because they're just they have this way about them
That draws you in
Y'all that's where we want to be. Okay, we want to have this literal understanding of who we are
in God, who we are in Christ, what our identity is, who are we in him, in such a way that
it literally, everything exuding from us is the glory and the presence and the peace and
the rest of the Father, as well as the love and the joy and all of the fruits of the Spirit.
Okay, so here's the thing, tonight I want to encourage you all to start asking the Lord
to awaken you to true love's kiss, and I'm not talking right now about your Prince Charming,
that will come too, that will. What I'm talking about right now is the kiss of heaven, like God,
and I'm not talking about us kissing God or kissing Jesus, I always feel like it's important
to say these things because, you know, some people can hear something and be like, what is she saying?
What I'm saying is that in the story of Snow White, I think I'm getting it right, or Sleeping
Beauty, Sleeping Beauty, yep, the true love's kiss, when he comes and awakens her,
is this, we are being awakened to heaven tonight. Some of you guys are being awakened in this season
to things that you haven't even known or understood about yourself,
so what are we being awakened to? Here are three things, identity, so your identity in Christ,
knowing more and more who you are in Christ, you're being awakened to restoration, what is the
restorative work of Christ, what does it do in you, how is it working on your behalf all the time,
and you're also being awakened to your big, bold future. Yes, I said big, bold future,
some of y'all need to like, even just like big, bold, happy future, put it in there,
I'm gonna be happy, I believe God wants me to be happy, and just start aligning yourself with that,
and like, I am leaving negativity behind, I am leaving the old garbage self-talk behind,
and I, I am going after the good stuff, and cling to that. Isaiah 60 verse 1 says,
Arise, shine, for your light has come, and the glory of the Lord rises upon you.
So, you know, in the beginning, some of you guys are just in week one, which that's totally fine,
we're talking about some stuff that's in week five tonight, a little bit, but either way,
whether you're in week one, or you're in week five, at that point, you're learning in week one
to surrender the pen, you're learning to surrender supernaturally to the Lord and His process.
Tonight, I'm asking you to re-surrender your inner identity to the Lord. Some of you guys are like,
I already know who I am in Christ. Well, do you? Because some of you are struggling to the point
that you're, you're kind of going around the same mountain over and over and over,
and you're asking yourself, why am I not moving forward? And it really leads back to identity,
most of the time. Healing that's needed in identity struggles. Do you know that when we are insecure,
those come out of identity issues and struggles? And I think most women, if we're really being
honest, we struggle with insecurity. Do you know why women catfight and fight over things? It's
because somebody, like, there's insecurity there, there's fear there, and the enemy breed, like, man,
he, he like breeds on fear, and he wants you to be afraid, and he wants you to panic, and he wants
you to think that nothing is ever going to happen that God has promised you. But we can choose to
re-surrender that inner identity to the Lord and let God give us a new identity. You know, in the
Bible, they often got new names when they encountered Christ, when God gave them a new name
in the Old Testament as well. There's something to that, you all. Maybe you won't have a physical
name change, but maybe God wants to give you a new name tonight. What is your new name?
What is your new identity? We can't erase the lies, we have to replace them with the truth.
So we want to look at unbelief. Where does it come from? How does it form? So here's where it starts.
When we have not been able to see the fruit of the promise, so some of you all, you know God's
promised you certain things, but you haven't seen the fruit of that in your life. And so when that
happens, it causes uncertainty. That's where unbelief comes in, okay? Doubt is uncertainty
that causes inaction, okay? So some of you all start shutting down the thoughts like,
I'm never going to meet anybody because I'm sick, like it just it takes us into this hopeless place.
And so then we stop moving forward. So we want to come out of alignment with that. We don't
want to be hospitable to doubts. We want to kick the doubts to the curb, just like we kicked
all those squatters to the curb a couple weeks ago. If you are new tonight and you didn't hear
that session, we'll talk about it.
it again at some point here in the next few weeks, but it's time to kick those things out.
You have to choose to believe for yourself to come into full agreement and partner with the truth.
All right. You guys kind of, it's interesting. Some of you guys already went here tonight,
but I'm going to put you in to breakout. It's okay. If we don't have a lot of coaching time
left at the end, it's super important for you all to get in a group and talk to each other
more than it is even the coaching. We did a lot of coaching already. So that's good.
In this next breakout group, I want you to talk about comparison traps.
Where do you need to come out of a comparison trap? And what I mean by that is ways that the
enemy challenges the real you. So he tries to get you to think you got to compete with other people,
that you've got to like imitate something. You got to be someone that you're not.
What does that look like in your life? Okay. I'm going to put you in a breakout.
For all our ladies on Facebook, I'm going to come back and try to look at your comments.
All right. All right. Here you go.
Then click to join.
I have a couple of people. Sorry, y'all. I got to get a couple of y'all in a room here.
There we go. Okay. Charlotte, I think I just sent one to you. Angela, I just sent one to you.
Awesome. Okay. I think we got everybody. We'll make sure nobody is alone.
Bridget's by herself. We don't want her by herself.
Okay. Cool. All right. So let me go see what y'all are saying over here.
Sorry, I got to get all the way back in there, y'all. Okay. Let's see here. Let me look at the,
I'm going to start from the bottom up. Yes, insecurity is big time. It cripples me in
different areas, Dawn says. Yeah. So let's keep asking the Lord, where do those insecurities
come from? Because you're becoming a new woman, Dawn. Literally, God is going to set you free
from this stuff. I'm so excited for you to see what's going to happen in the days ahead.
All right. Let's see. Ashley said, oh, wow, that's me. I don't like to cry. I suppressed
that part of myself because I was yelled at for always crying. Yeah, man, that's so tough because
those are true emotions, right? God made us that way. Ever since that happened, I suppressed my
emotions. I find myself being a little more emotional as an adult. I love that. That's God
healing you. And I hope and pray that God continues to heal you and help you really be
okay with your emotions and okay with the way God created you. And he'll help you balance those out
because sometimes too, when we have, we we've suppressed them for so long, sometimes we'll have
like an overcorrect, right? So we might feel like we cry a lot and then it'll start to balance,
balance out. I cried a lot when I was in part work and your timing might be different for that, but
it did balance itself out. No, I mean, I kind of already said, like when I say I cry in commercials,
I don't like sob cry, but like there's, you know, those different kinds of cries that we need to
have. Don said, I can't stay in my hometown, but God is making me move back there for school. I
left, ran away. I don't like my hometown. Okay. So you say God is making you move back there. Let's
maybe talk about that in the group. I'm kind of curious to coach through that with you
because God doesn't make us, he invites us. But I want, I want to unpack that more with you
because there's probably a reason you feel that way. And I don't know that I can do it justice
here in this quick time. Um, so I just want to make sure I don't, you know, misspeak and
hurt you in any way. Um, cause I want to care for that really well. Okay. So Cassandra said,
Oh, that's how I felt for so long about my hometown. Okay. So we got a couple people,
there's a hometown theme here. So I would encourage you guys. And again, doesn't mean
you actually have to go back there, but that God would heal your heart regarding whatever's
connected to that hometown stuff so that you can, um, be free even in that area so that you're not,
um, fearing going into a place, right? We want to, we want to have good, peaceful thoughts about
all things inside of us to the best of our ability. Uh, Charlotte says negative talk.
I'm never going to be attracted to someone who has attracted to me
or everyone I'm attracted to won't be attracted.
to me. Also I'll never change. Okay. So just be really sure to come out of agreement with those
things. Um, it's really important for you all to not believe the lie that you're not going to be
attracted to someone that's attracted to you. I will tell you though on that. And this is something
my husband knows. Um, the first night I met him, I was not physically attracted to him. I wasn't,
um, but I really loved his personality. I loved the way I felt around him. I had so much peace
in his presence that it was just undeniable for me. Um, and so I went back out with him again.
I still wasn't sure if I was attracted, wasn't attractive, but I just, again, like I loved
everything about him, uh, and the way he presented himself, the way he was like, you know, in a, a
gentlemanly way pursuing my heart and, and wanting to get to know me and being intentional.
And, uh, the more time I spent with him, man, he just became more and more attractive to me
every single time. And I'm so grateful that I didn't allow my old kind of thought patterns
of what is attractive and what, you know, I needed. Cause I grew up, um, you know,
I learned really early on that things were super physical in an unhealthy way. And so, um,
you know, the enemy used to try to lead me to people through like a lustful,
I didn't understand it at the time, a lustful attraction. And I'm not saying Charlotte,
that's the case for you, but I'm just saying there are times where people will get connected
to other people out of a very like visceral, physical, lustful attraction. And those are
the kinds that we don't want. If that's, if that's something we experienced, we want to
lean away from that and ask the Lord to reveal kind of any areas that might need healing.
Um, so that we don't get drawn into unhealthy relationships in that way.
Uh, Don said interval of mine possibly messed up my relationship. It's, I will never allow
myself to have a man hurt me again. So I will always be in control so I won't get hurt. Okay.
So Lord, we just thank you for Don. We thank you God that you're continuing to heal all the broken
areas, any, any areas where she has been hurt and wounded in the past by men. And we just thank you
for healing all of those areas, God. And I thank you that you would lead her into a place where
she feels safe and secure in you. And she trusts you more than any person. Um, we know that man,
we make mistakes. We all do. And Lord, I just thank you that in the midst of mistakes that
she can find her security and her trust in you. And, uh, that when man fails us, God, you never
will, you never will. Your word declares that you'll never leave us. You'll never forsake us
that you will always be working on our behalf. And so, Lord, I thank you that you'll help us
to hear that and know that truth and to really lean into that. Angela says my inner vows that
no one understands me and I'm always the bad guy with my kids. Okay. So Angela, I'm in, I would
love to see you create a post in the group. When did this start for you? No one understands you.
So did this start as a kid where you, you know, you were told a story or someone was saying they
couldn't understand things that you were saying, or, you know, speak up, speak more clearly,
you know, or things like that, or was it something else? And then when did you start
believing the lie that you're always the bad guy with your kids? Um, you, I think you sharing about
that will be really big. You can do it in the, in the comments here, or you can create a new
post, which will make it a little easier for me to see, um, which would be really good, um, for
myself and the other heartwork coaches to see kind of where that's kind of stemming from. And we can
coach you through that. Let's see here, Dawn, I see your new one. They're about to come back
from their breakout rooms, but I'll come back and circle back to what you just shared here. Okay.
All right. They're about to come back in 60 seconds. Y'all this night has flown by.
It's flown by.
Hello. Welcome back. Y'all I cannot, I was just saying to the ladies on Facebook,
this night has flown by. I've been having too much fun. I've been having a lot of fun. Robin,
I'm so sorry. I didn't get to hear your thing. Will you create a post and share so I can hear
what you were going to share? Maybe that would, I would love that if you're willing to do that.
All right. I never want to like not be able to give people a space to share. So I always feel
bad when I have to do that. I don't like it.
it. All right, we almost have everybody back. Welcome back.
Paula, I just have to say, man, your room is like, so like,
lovely, the brightness, the flowers, I just my eye, like all
night, my eye just keeps going to your photo because your room
it's so like, vigorous invigorating, like a lot of
liveliness in that. All right. Okay. Oh, I'm sorry. I didn't
see your thing, Melissa, I would have done that. Okay, so y'all
were at 630 or 930. If you're in Eastern time zone. So I have to
close us up here in just a minute. I really want to share a
couple more things with you. And I do want to hear from you guys,
but we are we are at the time. But really important why I led
you guys through this tonight is to lead you to a place where
you're starting to awaken to some new things. Just like any
other thing that we teach you, we have to get out with the old
and in with the new. Some of you guys, I would encourage you to
start asking the Lord, do you have physical things that you
need to start getting rid of to make room for your spirit mate
one day. Some of you all like one of the things God led me I
didn't even think I had anything when Jackie said this the first
time when I was you know, my group years ago. And you all I
started cleaning and preparing because I was getting ready to
move. And I came across this box that I still had. Y'all I
couldn't even believe it when I opened it. It was the notes that
when my boyfriend in high school, literally we used to
like every day give each other notes. I had all of those notes
and love letters and teddy bear and all this stuff from this guy
in high school. And not that that's like the worst thing in
the world. But like, you all don't realize how much when we
we leave that stuff kind of around. It's taking up other
space for things that you know, you want to have something new
come into. So God led me to get rid of all that stuff. And I
also went through my phone. And I just feel glad to share this
before I start about the awakening part. I had a lot of
evidence is what I'll call it. When the guy that I was in
relationship with for a long time kept cheating on me. Like I
would always be looking for what he was doing, because I
knew he was up to something. And then when I would see the bad
stuff or women he was following on Instagram, or whatever it
was, or the stuff that I actually found that was legit
stuff he was doing, I would take screenshots of it. And I had
that still in my phone, two years after I wasn't with him
anymore. And y'all multiple times, I would look at that
stuff and want to delete it and like feel like I need to like, I
think I might need to hold on to this just in case. Why? Why
would I need to hold on to that? And so I'm sharing this for
somebody, somebody in this group, whether you're live, or
you're catching the replay, you need to let go of the evidence
unless you're in a court. I'm not talking about that. I'm
talking about totally outside, you don't have any court cases
going on. But some of y'all are still holding on to that
evidence of what somebody did or said to you might be a friend
might be someone you dated, and God is saying, I want you to let
that go. I want you to let that go and get rid of that stuff.
You some of y'all need to delete photos of you and your old
boyfriends. Yes, you do. You need to let go of that stuff.
Because here's what happens. And even with this guy, I, you know,
I had even photos I kept, you know, more because of the girls,
my spiritual daughters, that's their dad, and I had photos, I
really wanted to keep them with him. And but every time I would
go through my phone and see him, I'd be like, like, I'm not
trying to be mean, but it just gave me this automatic negative
like, oh, like every single time, it just didn't feel good.
And so I'm like, Why am I keeping this? It's they'll get
their own photos one day, like I just had to come to that place.
And, you know, again, I'm just sharing this because I feel like
somebody you just got to let go of that stuff. So that God can
bring you a new person at some point, and you can take some new
photos. Okay. All right, dreams awakening. Lord, we ask you to
awaken us and help us come alive again in these areas. Okay,
these are the two that we want you guys to really be praying
into childhood dreams coming back alive, which is partially
why we're encouraging you to kind of connect with your little
girl inside of yourself and have fun, but also new dreams
entering in. Some of you are going to have a lot of new
dreams of things like and I'm not just talking about night
dreams right now I'm talking about ideas of things you want
to do. Some of you guys might want to go back to school, some
of you guys might want to try a cooking class, you know, it
doesn't matter what it is, but do those things, pursue those
dreams, let that stuff be cultivated.
and grow. So anything that starts bubbling to the surface,
I encourage you to write that stuff down. Don't dismiss it.
Don't tell yourself that's a stupid idea. See, those are the
things, remember, we're getting rid of that stuff. Like, oh,
man, that's a fun idea. I think I might do that. Yeah, I like to
be silly, but like literally talk to yourself that way. It
will really change how you show up about something. It will. You
guys will remember me one day, I'll be in your head and you'll
be like, oh, yeah, oh, I like that. I'm gonna try that.
Hopefully, you'll get that deep down in your spirit. And it'll
feel really good when you think of it. Okay, so you're a
supernova, every single one of you are a supernova, God has
placed you here, and you are carrying something that will
change the world. Literally, every single one of you has
something inside of you that God put there to change the world.
Do you believe that? Do you believe that you carry
something that can change the world? Some of you, you're going
to change the world one person at a time. And that is so
important. Some of you are going to go and you're going to change
groups of people. Either way, both are so valuable to the
kingdom of heaven and what God is trying to do on the earth in
this time. It's time to begin unwrapping the gifts God has for
you. Your former years, which means now and every day forward
can be greater than your latter years. You all I, I'm
experiencing it now. I always remember that scripture, I
prayed that scripture over myself, I clung to that
scripture, when life is hard and bad, I mean, I held to that
scripture. And now I get to experience that. And I can tell
you that it really can happen. Your latter years can be greater
than your former, former. As we start to close tonight, I'm
going to read something over you. And it is from the book,
you guys can read this over yourself, I encourage you to
find it in the book and print it out, put it up, read it over
yourself often, it's a declaration. And this is where
again, we come against all those negative things, how we not only
say things out loud that are true, but we replace it with,
you know, those lies with the truth, and we get it in us, we
meditate on it, we think about it, we pray about it, that's
one of the ways that we overcome. So God bless you
tonight. I'm so glad you've been here. I hope it's been a
blessing for you. And this is how we're going to close
tonight. And this is about you, every single one of you. I am a
world changer, an atmosphere shifter, a light bearer, a truth
teller and a hope dealer. My heart is awakening. It's time to
be made whole. I contain the beauty of all creation, the
mysteries of the entire universe reside in me. I am the image of
the Almighty God, the offspring of the great I am. I am a
beloved daughter of God. My original heart is one of love,
joy, peace, hope and innocence. Yes, innocence is being restored
to some of you. I was created for community. I'm accepted in
the family of God. I have been created to prosper. I will not
be anyone besides who love God, the Father love has made me to
be. From this moment forward. Every day when I look in the
mirror, I am going to see more and more of what God sees.
Every day ladies, when you look in the mirror, you're going to
see more and more of what God sees. Father, thank you so much
for this truth. Thank you for these amazing, incredible, life
changing women. Thank you for bringing them on this journey.
Thank you for leading them here for such a time as this. God, we
ask you to continue to reveal any areas where the enemy is
trying to get them stuck in negativity, negative self talk,
inner vows, Lord, anything that needs that's in darkness, Lord,
bring it to the light so that they can be healed and restored
and set free in Jesus name. Where the Spirit of the Lord is
there is freedom. So Holy Spirit, we ask you to come and
fill them afresh with your with your power with your presence
with your love with your grace. And God, we ask you to transform
them from the inside out. We thank you in advance for it. God
help them to step further into the real you the real them that
you created them to be help them to see that help them to
experience it help them to come alive. Awake, awake. Oh sleeper.
Yes, Lord, the daughters of Zion, let them arise and let
them see your glory be manifested in their lives in
Jesus name. Amen. God bless you all. I'll see you guys in the
group and I can't wait to hear about the fun about the
breakthroughs about anything else that God leads you to share
God bless you