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So, um, we are going to talk about the divine feminine tonight.

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This is one of my favorite sessions, and I feel like this is one of the most

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freeing sessions for a lot of people.

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And it also has the ability to really catapult you in your love life.

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Okay.

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Because how many of you understand that the divine masculine is

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looking for the divine feminine.

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And that a husband is looking for a wife.

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He's not looking for a woman.

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He's looking for a wife.

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Proverbs 18, 22 tells us that a man, when a man finds, discovers,

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sees a wife, not a woman.

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There's plenty of women everywhere.

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We make up 51% of the population.

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So anytime a man looks anywhere, he's going to see a woman.

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You can't throw a rock and not hit a woman.

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Let's not throw rocks and hit women.

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But you know what I mean?

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I'm probably gonna drink a lot of water so that I can keep

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this situation from lisping.

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I don't want to lisp up here.

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All right.

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So, um, the divine feminine looks like something, and we're going

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to get into all of that tonight.

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We're going to get into what it looks like.

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And here's the thing.

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It looks like something, but on each and every one of you, it

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looks like something different.

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Right.

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But there are going to be some general characteristics that each and every one

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of us are going to be having, or we're going to be displaying if we are

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leaning into the original design that God created us to be when Adam

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and Eve were disobedient in the garden.

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Well, really when Adam was disobedient in the garden, you guys

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realized that Eve was deceived.

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Right.

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Who understands that Eve was deceived.

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That kind of even rhymes, right?

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Eve deceive Eve deceive Eve was deceived.

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And I will tell you, because Eve was deceived.

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There are a lot of religious men, especially the four fathers of the

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faith that we all enjoy as Christians that thought women were pretty

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untrustworthy and that you really shouldn't be around women because

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women were going to lead you astray.

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They were, they were going to lead you astray.

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They were going to seduce you into bad situations and bad habits

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and all the different things.

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And they were like, Hey, in fact, one of the four fathers of our

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faith that before I read this quote, I was always like, yeah,

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man, he says such amazing things.

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I mean, he's long since been dead.

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But one of his, one of his quotes was this a woman is a beautiful

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sepulcher built over a sewer.

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So yeah, she looks beautiful on the outside, but be aware

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underneath all of that is death.

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Underneath all of that is some scary stuff, some bad stuff.

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And a lot of men have adopted that view of woman because they're still looking

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at woman or the feminine through the curse.

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That's what they're looking at.

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They're looking at it through the curse.

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And I want to kind of walk us through that a little bit.

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As we talk about the divine feminine and what it looks like on the other

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side of the finished work of the cross.

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Right.

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Adam and Eve, when they were in the garden, that looked like something

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that looked like them being created in God's image, male and female.

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Did he create them in his image?

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And then he brought them together because they were better together.

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And so in our original state, we are the feminine of God.

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And we'll talk about those divine characteristics of being that part of

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father, son, and Holy spirit in flesh.

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And I want you also to know in case you didn't know this, that your

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feminine, your femininity is eternal.

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God is both masculine and feminine, and you are the feminine of God.

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When you leave this body and you get your new body, you go to heaven.

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You transition from this life, from this earthly realm into the spiritual

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realm fully, because what we see through a glass darkly right in

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the spiritual realm right now.

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How many of you have had spiritual encounters?

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You just have, you have unexplainable encounters where God has visited you.

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You've had dreams, all kinds of different things where you knew that you are

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partaking of something that was otherworldly anyone, can I see all the

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hands of people that have experienced those types of things?

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So that is a little taste.

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That's the foretaste.

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And we get that because of Holy spirit.

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We're able to kind of peek behind the curtain a little

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bit and see what's going on.

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The Bible says we see through a glass darkly, meaning that you can see you

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look through something that was dark, like even like a tinted window.

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If you're trying to look into the tinted window of a car, not when you're

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inside, when you're outside, you can kind of make out what's going on in

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there a little bit, but you can't see it clearly, right?

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And so that's what it looks like to look through a glass darkly.

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You're looking through a tinted window of a car from the outside.

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You can kind of make out that maybe there's a person in there.

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Maybe there's some stuff left on the seat.

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You can kind of see the shadows and types of what's going on in there,

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but you can't see it clearly.

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So the Bible says we look through a glass darkly.

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And it also says that, um, we know in part and we prophesy in part, there's

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some things that we know, and there are some things that we prophesy.

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You know, Holy Spirit through us is foretelling of a day to come.

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That's exciting stuff, right? There's always something to look forward to. The best is

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always yet to come. I don't know about you, but I like that. But in heaven, in eternity,

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you will still be the feminine of God. Who is that news to? Raise your hand if you're like,

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whoa, I never thought of that. I never really thought about that before.

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So that's why it's important that we make peace with ourselves. These physical bodies that we're

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living in right now, while yes, the finished work of the cross is finished, these bodies are still

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under the curse and they're decaying and they're dying, right? And so these bodies are not going

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with us into that next scene of the movie. They're not going with us into that next chapter when we

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transition, we'll have a new body and will it have breasts and a vagina? That's yet to be seen.

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I have no idea if it will have those things since we'll probably not be giving birth in that eternal

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realm. Maybe not because our vaginas and our breasts are pretty much for the purpose of babies,

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right? And sexual intercourse. And in the word of God, there's a lot of typology that tells us that

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that isn't going to be part of our eternity. And when I first read that, I'm like, Oh, boo hoo,

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that's horrible. Sex is amazing when it's amazing. And when it's bad, it's bad. Yes. I get that in

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the curse state of mind, it's bad, but in a more redeemed state of mind, it's great. And I think

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that there are things, uh, there are other aspects of intimacy that we enjoy with, we enjoy for

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eternity that are just as good as that, you know, just as good as the things that we have been

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having. Remember we're having a taste of eternity. The marriage is a taste of eternity.

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Your sexual intimacy with your spirit mate is going to be a taste of eternity, which means

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it's just a little taste of something that's even better. So whatever's going to happen here is

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going to be even better than that. And a lot of you are like, thank God. Amen. Because my experiences

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with this have not been great, but you are going to have great experiences with this. That's why

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you're here because you are going to this your last year single, and you're going to be stepping

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into a spirit mate redeemed and supernatural love story. And that's going to include the sexual part

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of your life. We're going to have to work on that though. You're going to bring a lot of that old

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sexual baggage with you into these relationships. And we're gonna have to unpack that together

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so that we can have that sweet, a foretaste of what God had in mind when he first created sex,

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because I believe that sex was part of the plan from the beginning.

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Why? Because he told Adam and Eve to be fruitful and multiply, didn't he?

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How you think that was going to happen?

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So everything that we have tried to get on our own in this life, God has a plan for it.

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A lot of people are like, well, God was holding out on them. You know, the tree. Yeah. That was

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the lie. The enemy told the woman, God's holding out on you. He doesn't want you to have good

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things. This is why we can't have good things because God's holding out on you. Right. And

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she believed it. She was deceived. And so she took the fruit and she ate it, uh, that of the tree of

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knowledge guys, God was never holding out on them and he's not holding out on us. He had every

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intention. Uh, as part of his original plan to teach them all the things that they knew in an

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instant after eating that fruit, he was going to teach them. He was going to tell them about

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Lucifer falling from heaven. And he was going to talk to them about, you know, good and evil.

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That was the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. He was going to teach them. He's going to

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walk with them and talk with them. He's going to have a relationship with them. And he was going

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to teach them the things that they needed to know, but she jumped ahead and she grabbed something

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that she wasn't ready for. The reason why God told them not to do it is because he knew what

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was going to happen. If their eyes were opened out of context, if you all of a sudden have all

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kinds of knowledge and you don't have context, then you're going to start believing a whole

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bunch of lies, aren't you? And that's exactly what happened. And so we'll get into a little

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bit more of that because it's important for us to look at that. When we look at what happened

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to the divine masculine and the divine feminine feminine after the curse, right? So I have my

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chat open. I have all of the, you guys open here, your participants. So if you raise your hand,

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I'll see you. So father God, I thank you for tonight. I thank you for your daughters. I thank

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you for this session. Thank you for this time together. I thank you for all the wisdom and

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revelation and knowledge that you're going to impart to us, just like you plan on imparting

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it to Adam and Eve at a specific time and place. And in a specific way, you've called all of us

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here to be able to glean from heaven, to be able to be in alignment with heaven. And so we are

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asking you.

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teach us and show us and heal us and grow us tonight in Jesus name. Amen.

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If you're late to the party, I have a list because I have a retainer going on right now,

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which is not fun. So please excuse my lisping until I get used to that. All right.

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So we all know that ever since the garden, men and women have looked at each other differently.

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They've looked at each other very differently since the garden. What Genesis 2 22 tells us

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is that Adam was very excited to see Eve. He was, his great speech was like, Oh, finally,

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yeah, baby, here she is. This is what I've been waiting for. Bone of my bone and flesh of my

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flesh. She shall be called woman, right? Cause Adam was a prophet. He named everything in the

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garden. He was stewarding the garden and he was prophetically naming all the things that were in

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the garden because those things God had given under his stewardship. And then he's like, you

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know what? It's not good for Adam. It's not complete. It's not finished for Adam to steward

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creation alone. He needs to exist in community the way that we father, son, and Holy spirit

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existing community. He needs one of his own kind, not just us. And hopefully all of you are getting

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completely removed from the idea that you only need God in this life.

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Because if that was true, Adam would have stayed alone in the garden,

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but Adam removed the feminine from the masculine. It's very important for you to understand that

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the feminine masculine both resided inside of Adam. Man is the glory of God says the Bible,

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but woman is the glory of man because she was created for man. Some of you really have a hard

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time with that because you've really been hurt a lot by that cursed masculine in the earth.

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I want you to raise your hand. If you've been molested, if you've been raped, if you've been

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cheated on cheaters, beaters, users, abusers, raise your hand. If you've experienced that in

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the form of the masculine, not the feminine, I don't want to see mommy wounds right now.

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We'll talk about that later. Let's see daddy wounds. Let's see husband wounds, brother wounds.

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Let's see complete strangers in a dark alley wounds. Let's see boyfriend wounds. All of you

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that have been hurt by the curse, corrupt, unhealthy masculine. I would be surprised

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if not everyone's hand was up in any way, shape or form. It doesn't have to be sexual.

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And so it's very difficult for us. It makes us feel like second-class citizens, especially if

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we've been raised in the church where a lot of times religion actually makes us a second-class

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citizen. Doesn't it? It makes us believe that that's kind of how God thinks about us. Like

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God made man. And then he's like, okay, I'll make women too. No masculine and feminine resided in

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the same vessel. And God said, it's not good for it to be in one. It needs to be separate.

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Adam needs to be in community of his own light kind. So he put him to sleep and he removed the

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feminine from his side. Very significant of the purpose of the feminine. We are to be side by

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side. We're not to be behind. We're not to be in front. If you're going to write something down,

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you need to write it down. We're not to be behind and we're not to be in front.

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Some cultures have women walking behind. And in some cultures like America, women are way out in

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front. And we think that we're the shiz now, right? It's us. We're it. Where did we get that

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idea? We got that idea from the pendulum swing from the feminist movements where we were sick

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and tired of being sick and tired. We didn't want to be oppressed. We didn't want to be anyone's

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possession anymore. We didn't want to be oppressed. We were ready to what? We were ready to be

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independent. We were ready to do the things that we wanted to do. And so that's caused a lot of

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problems. Yeah. There were problems before and they're all there's problems after. And unfortunately,

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the mass singleness that we're seeing in the earth has to do with feminism.

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Now that hurts everyone's feelings because we're like, well, we were just trying to get free from

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oppression. Yeah, I get it. And there were a lot of good things that happened from the feminist

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movement, but there's a lot of backlash and bad things that happened from that as well.

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Very much so. So we're not supposed to be way out front like American women.

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And we're not supposed to be really far behind like some other countries, like, you know,

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different, different cultures, different countries, different religions, women are by hind.

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And that happens in America too. Anyone, anyone been raised in any kind of religion where the

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men sit here over here, the women sit over here, the men and women have different Bible studies,

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the men and women, when they go out to eat after church, the men all sit together and the women

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all sit together because the men don't want to hear anything. The women have to say,

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want to talk to each other. You know, we see a lot of misogyny everywhere, of course. And we

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They have a, a, we have a world that has a lot of misogyny in it.

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And the reason why is we see that back with Adam and Eve.

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So bone of my bone, flesh of my flesh, she shall be called woman.

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God took her out of the side so she could partner.

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They can be better together.

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They can partner together.

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She, he took her out of the side so that she could be a help mate.

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So she could be, um, they could, they could, uh, she's an easter.

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So they could fight side by side, right?

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But also they could, he could, they, she could be covered.

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She could be protected.

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The side is also indicative of what the feminine of God looks like.

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It's the heart of God because you don't ever have to, if you are operating

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in your divine feminine, please write this down.

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If you are operating in your divine feminine, you do not

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have to become beautiful.

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You are beauty itself.

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The feminine is the beauty of God.

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Yeah, men, they're looking good.

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The male form can be really good.

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I was just in Italy where there was a lot of naked statues of men.

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And I was like, I've never seen a naked man that looks this good, but I do

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appreciate that I'm sure there are some on the earth, all you have to do is watch

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magic Mike and no, I'm not telling you to watch magic Mike.

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I'm not, I had no don't, but I've seen the trailer.

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I've seen the previews and those dudes have been working on their bodies and they

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look like those statues in Italy.

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Um, so the masculine form is very, is very pleasing to the eye as well.

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Um, but the feminine of God and not just the way we look, but what we are is beauty

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itself, and that's why we need to tap into it because a lot of you have been really

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down on yourselves for a long time that you know what, even at my best, even at my

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thinnest, even at my youngest, I'm still just not that beautiful of a woman.

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Compared to culture, what culture is looking for, as far as beauty is

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concerned, you know, I'm not, you know, my face isn't symmetrical.

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I don't have really nice hair.

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I don't have really nice features or this or that, or my genetics are working

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against me in whatever way, shape, or form.

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It's not about this.

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It's about this.

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The divine feminine is looking for the divine masculine.

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I know that we just, we assume that that Adam and Eve were just like specimens

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that they were gorgeous, amazingly beautiful people.

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divinely made and part of God's original plan.

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I have to believe that they were pretty flawless, but not in the way that

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our culture thinks of flawlessness.

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I mean, we really honestly have no idea what they look like because all

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we've ever seen is cursed humanity.

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Do we, we have no idea.

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They could have been covered with hair.

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I don't know what they look like.

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Maybe that's why they didn't know they were naked until God opened their eyes

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because they had on big hair coats.

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I don't know.

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Who knows what they look like?

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I don't know.

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And we're not going to know right now.

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And we don't need to know, but what we need to know is that what turned from bone

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of my bone and flesh of my flesh, this is what I'm waiting for.

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This is what I want.

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After their eyes were opened and God said, what have you done?

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Adam immediately throws his wife under the bus, this woman that you gave me,

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she went from woman and I will call her woman to this woman that you gave me.

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And you guys, we've been living in that since then we've been living in that

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trying to live down the reputation of being the deceiver of being the one

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deceived of being the manipulator and the seducer.

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You realize that, right?

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That all happened in the garden.

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The battle of the sexes started in the garden.

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So God continues to say to them, Hey, you're not going to see each other

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because of what you've done, you've done.

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There's all kinds of things that are going to happen.

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sexes is going to start in the garden.

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You know, Adam, you're not going to want to protect and cover

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anymore or provide for you.

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You're going to want to dominate and control.

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You're going to want to oppress.

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You're going to want to Lord over and woman.

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You're going to want to do the same thing, but you're not going to

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do it the same way that he does it.

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You're going to do it because of your smaller stature, your weaker vessel.

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You're going to do it through manipulation.

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You're going to control through seduction and deception.

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That's what the curse feminine looks like.

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You guys, the dark feminine is a very, is the very thing.

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It's a, it's a thing.

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Now, raise your hand.

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I had you raise your hand before for something else.

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Raise your hand.

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If you've been hurt by a woman that was operating in the corrupt, messed up

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feminine, lying about you, manipulating you, deceiving you verbally, abusing you,

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hurting you.

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Jealous of you.

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And I wonder that not all the hands are up for that either.

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I mean, there's people in here that you're going to honestly say you have never been

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hurt by someone who was in a broken feminine form.

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That's a miracle of God.

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So for those of us that have our hands up, I would kind of almost rather be hurt by the

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broken masculine because they'll shoot you in the face, but a woman will stab you in

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the back.

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And so, you know, we've all had some really crazy run-ins I'm sure with all the people

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whose hands are up, whether it was with a, you know, hurtful mother or sister or aunt

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or friend, or, you know, doesn't matter someone's former wife, you know, your former best friend,

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maybe it could be all different types of things, a boss.

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A lot of times women that are in power positions can have a tendency to be extremely toxic.

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There's all different types of things going on there.

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So back to the speech that God gave, you guys are not going to remember sin didn't just

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separate us from God.

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It separated us from our own identities.

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And then it separated us essentially from each other, right?

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And that's what happened under that curse or the disc, the disconnection that happened

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with their disobedience.

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But then Jesus came and brought the ministry of reconciliation or the ministry of re reconnection,

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revival, right relationship.

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And that's where we want to live, but we don't just go there just because Jesus died on the

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cross.

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And we don't just get to go there because we've exceed, we've received him as our savior.

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The Bible says that we will be transformed by the renewing of our minds, the renewing

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there's the ministry of re again.

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And so that's what we're here to do tonight.

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We're here to renew our minds about what does the feminine look like?

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What's it look like to be truly feminine, the way that God designed us to be feminine.

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I believe you can step into that.

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Now you don't have to wait till you're out of this skin suit.

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You can step into that now, but because of the age group that all of us are, we have

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a lot of bad information because we are living in the aftereffects of second wave feminism.

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Second wave feminism was not to empower women.

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It was to empower a certain kind of woman.

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Please hear me.

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I'm a student of feminism.

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I plan on doing something with a righteous feminist movement someday in my life.

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I feel like that's part of what we're doing here.

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We are peeling back the layers of what the unrighteous feminist movement that happened

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in the seventies did to our culture.

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It gave us a lot of things, divorce on demand, gave us abortion on demand, all in the name

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of women having rights.

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And I understand that there were women back in the turn of the century, back in the 1900s

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that were oppressed.

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They couldn't own property.

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They couldn't take out credit.

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They couldn't get gainful employment.

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It wasn't until the world wars that women were really thrust into the marketplace to

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work because men went off to war.

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But before that women weren't hired for jobs, you couldn't get a job except as like a teacher

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or a nursemaid or something like that, or in a factory making below minimum wage.

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Even in the seventies, women were making a lot less money than men did for the very same

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jobs.

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And you know why?

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I want to tell you in case you think it's like, oh, well, they're women.

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No, they're doing the same jobs as men.

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The reason why they weren't paid the same wage is because employers had the mindset

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that women were only there to supplement their husband's income.

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Please listen.

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They didn't have the mindset that women were full-time employees or women were going to

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be, you know, long-term employees.

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If they had a woman on their staff, their minds were, oh, she's only here to supplement

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her husband's income because they need supplementation, but she's going to be gone.

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She's going to go have babies.

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She's going to go do, you know, woman stuff.

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She's not going to be here long-term and I'm not going to pay her the same amount as I

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pay a man because, you know, she's kind of like a, not just a temporary employee, but

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also just here to add to what I already pay men.

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Now her husband might not be on my staff, but he's on somebody's staff.

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And so, you know, I'm paying her the wage I'm paying her because she's going to put

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it together with what her husband's already getting paid and supplement their income.

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That's cray cray town, right?

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But that's what people used to think because women weren't thought of as people coming

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into the workforce.

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Women were thought of as people that were creating home and creating, you know, raising

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family, raising children.

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That's what they're, that's what they were.

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That's what they were considered and think and thought of.

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And you guys, that's not untrue.

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I don't, I don't think any of us, you know, I have dreams outside the home of course.

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And I do that stuff now, but I was pretty much a stay at home mom.

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Um, and not because I wanted to be, I didn't have that model for me.

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It was because God wanted me to be, God wanted me to be, he wanted me to be with my, with

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my, with my kids, with my bonus kids and my daughter.

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And I had the ability to do that because I married a man who was able to bring home a

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very sparse paycheck.

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It was never enough money.

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We had to make a lot of sacrifices.

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I think a lot of people think, Oh, I can only stay at home and really be the woman of the

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house.

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If my husband's rich now, you may actually have to make big sacrifices to stay at home.

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We did.

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We didn't ever have any extra money when the kids were growing up.

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I would get a part-time job at Christmastime at the mall, working at nighttime just for

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those couple contingent months of holidays so that I could buy the kids what they wanted

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for Christmas.

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That's what life looked like.

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And you know what?

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It was a good life.

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It was a good life of, you know, family time and family nights and doing things that didn't

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necessarily cost money and just all kinds of stuff.

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I didn't take my family on a vacation until my kids were all adults.

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And so it's important.

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Then I know that some of you are single moms.

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You don't have the luxury of that.

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I was raised by a single mom, so I get it.

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I understand until I was 14 and I was sent to live in a girl's home.

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So I understand what it's like to be with a single mom or a married mom that is in a

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bad marriage and getting divorced and different things.

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I went through all of that in my family, but we have to understand that someone has to

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raise the kids.

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Someone has to nurture the family.

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And these are some of the aspects of the divine feminine.

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You can write these down.

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She's a nurturer.

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She's a counselor.

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She's intuitive.

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The divine feminine is very intuitive.

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That's why we call it women's intuition.

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And that's not just believers.

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That's feminine, just period.

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She's a comforter.

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The divine feminine is vulnerable.

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It's soft.

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It's receptive.

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It's embracing.

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Proverbs calls the feminine wise.

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Wisdom is described as feminine.

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It's compassionate.

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That's a short list.

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That's not an exhaustive list.

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That's a short list.

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So going back to the garden, we see that, you know, what the woman was, was compromised

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by what she wasn't.

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She was easily deceived.

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So the serpent was able to deceive the woman.

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He was able to tell her that God didn't have her best interest at heart.

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She did not have, she did not have the ability to overcome that deception.

453
00:27:47.340 --> 00:27:50.060
You know who did have the ability to overcome that deception?

454
00:27:50.060 --> 00:27:54.380
The masculine.

455
00:27:54.380 --> 00:27:58.860
The masculine did, but the feminine ate from the fruit.

456
00:27:58.860 --> 00:28:02.300
And I want you to really take a look at that story really closely.

457
00:28:02.300 --> 00:28:05.420
The feminine, the woman Eve, she ate the fruit.

458
00:28:05.420 --> 00:28:09.620
It says the servant, the serpent gave her the fruit and she ate it.

459
00:28:09.620 --> 00:28:10.620
She believed it.

460
00:28:10.620 --> 00:28:11.860
She bought into it.

461
00:28:11.860 --> 00:28:13.340
God's holding out on me.

462
00:28:13.340 --> 00:28:15.620
He doesn't have my best interest at heart.

463
00:28:15.620 --> 00:28:19.540
I'm going to, I'm going to get what it is that I need.

464
00:28:19.540 --> 00:28:21.140
So she ate it.

465
00:28:21.140 --> 00:28:25.060
And then it says the serpent gave her the fruit and she ate, and then she went and gave

466
00:28:25.060 --> 00:28:30.460
the fruit to her husband and he ate.

467
00:28:30.460 --> 00:28:34.620
So guess who wasn't standing there when the woman was being deceived?

468
00:28:34.620 --> 00:28:38.540
The masculine.

469
00:28:38.540 --> 00:28:45.780
But the feminine came and she gave it to the masculine and the masculine ate the man, Adam.

470
00:28:45.780 --> 00:28:47.180
He ate of the fruit.

471
00:28:47.220 --> 00:28:54.420
And then it says their eyes were opened and they knew that they were naked.

472
00:28:54.420 --> 00:28:56.100
Shame came upon them.

473
00:28:56.100 --> 00:29:02.820
The curse came upon them when the man ate the fruit because he disobeyed.

474
00:29:02.820 --> 00:29:04.740
The woman was deceived.

475
00:29:04.740 --> 00:29:05.740
She fell into sin.

476
00:29:05.740 --> 00:29:09.580
She was deceived, but the masculine is the one that disobeyed.

477
00:29:09.580 --> 00:29:10.780
And here's my hypothesis.

478
00:29:10.780 --> 00:29:15.460
I don't have any proof of this, but I'm going to go ahead and say it anyway.

479
00:29:15.460 --> 00:29:18.540
If the masculine wouldn't have eaten of the fruit, I believe he could have covered the

480
00:29:18.540 --> 00:29:19.540
feminine.

481
00:29:19.540 --> 00:29:25.220
If you want to knock the fruit out of her hand and said, Oh, Hey, no, we're not doing

482
00:29:25.220 --> 00:29:26.220
that.

483
00:29:26.220 --> 00:29:27.220
We're not doing that.

484
00:29:27.220 --> 00:29:29.280
You know, we're trusting God.

485
00:29:29.280 --> 00:29:30.580
God said for us not to do that.

486
00:29:30.580 --> 00:29:31.860
We're not doing that.

487
00:29:31.860 --> 00:29:36.260
I believe that the curse wouldn't have come upon them fully, but I will tell you, this

488
00:29:36.260 --> 00:29:38.420
is what I believe from reading that story.

489
00:29:38.420 --> 00:29:45.780
I believe that when the woman ate of the fruit, she became instead of bone of my bone

490
00:29:45.780 --> 00:29:50.360
and flesh of my flesh, she became the dark feminine.

491
00:29:50.360 --> 00:29:54.980
And I feel like that's the reason why when she brought the fruit to Adam, he knew it

492
00:29:54.980 --> 00:29:58.660
was wrong, but he did it anyway.

493
00:29:58.660 --> 00:29:59.940
And I think that you need to.

494
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:08.700
the control or the influence the feminine has on the masculine.

495
00:30:08.700 --> 00:30:14.800
We can have good influence on the masculine and we can have bad influence on the masculine.

496
00:30:14.800 --> 00:30:22.600
A lot of men do things because a woman convinces them to do it.

497
00:30:22.600 --> 00:30:27.480
Another thing you can add to your list of divine feminine qualities and really curse

498
00:30:27.480 --> 00:30:33.080
feminine qualities too is we are influential.

499
00:30:33.080 --> 00:30:35.920
Look at how Delilah was able to influence you guys.

500
00:30:35.920 --> 00:30:41.160
When we read that story, Samson looks like an idiot, doesn't he?

501
00:30:41.160 --> 00:30:45.360
We're like, like Samson, can you not see what she's doing?

502
00:30:45.360 --> 00:30:47.680
Do you not understand what's going on?

503
00:30:47.680 --> 00:30:48.680
What in the world?

504
00:30:48.680 --> 00:30:52.320
Why are you so block headed, bro?

505
00:30:52.320 --> 00:30:57.080
Because do not underestimate seduction.

506
00:30:57.080 --> 00:31:03.160
Do not underestimate the power of deception and seduction and manipulation when you are

507
00:31:03.160 --> 00:31:09.040
operating in your cursed feminine and each and every one of you have operated in it.

508
00:31:09.040 --> 00:31:12.200
You might not have convinced some dude to cut his hair, but each and every one of you

509
00:31:12.200 --> 00:31:18.840
have switched over into a manipulative type of flow to get something that you want.

510
00:31:28.080 --> 00:31:31.960
Someone asked, isn't being deceived disobedience?

511
00:31:31.960 --> 00:31:32.960
No, I don't believe it is.

512
00:31:32.960 --> 00:31:34.600
I feel, I believe that there are sins.

513
00:31:34.600 --> 00:31:36.200
It's not that it's not sin.

514
00:31:36.200 --> 00:31:37.840
It's not disobedience.

515
00:31:37.840 --> 00:31:41.120
There are sins of omission and sins of commission.

516
00:31:41.120 --> 00:31:43.640
Adam committed a sin of commission.

517
00:31:43.640 --> 00:31:48.040
He knew it was wrong and he did it anyway.

518
00:31:48.040 --> 00:31:51.600
Eve committed a sin of omission.

519
00:31:51.600 --> 00:31:53.160
She was deceived.

520
00:31:53.160 --> 00:31:56.440
She didn't do it knowing that it was wrong.

521
00:31:56.800 --> 00:31:59.320
She was deceived in thinking that it was right.

522
00:31:59.320 --> 00:32:02.520
And if you look at the original speech that God gave about the trees in the garden, he

523
00:32:02.520 --> 00:32:04.560
gave that speech to Adam, not Eve.

524
00:32:04.560 --> 00:32:08.320
Eve was not separated from Adam at that moment either yet.

525
00:32:08.320 --> 00:32:11.840
So there's a lot going on in that story when we don't have time to dig into all of it because

526
00:32:11.840 --> 00:32:17.880
it's really, honestly, it makes, it makes a lot of sense of what happens now in our,

527
00:32:17.880 --> 00:32:18.880
in our world.

528
00:32:18.880 --> 00:32:19.880
Okay.

529
00:32:19.880 --> 00:32:24.360
So we don't want to, ladies, we're going to come out of agreement with the cursed feminine

530
00:32:24.360 --> 00:32:25.640
tonight.

531
00:32:25.640 --> 00:32:29.920
We're going to ask Holy Spirit to show us when we're operating in the cursed feminine.

532
00:32:29.920 --> 00:32:32.000
We're not going to operate in manipulation.

533
00:32:32.000 --> 00:32:33.840
We're not going to operate in seduction.

534
00:32:33.840 --> 00:32:35.960
We're not going to operate in deception.

535
00:32:35.960 --> 00:32:38.320
We're not going to.

536
00:32:38.320 --> 00:32:40.560
God's going to show us when we're doing it as well.

537
00:32:40.560 --> 00:32:47.120
Some people have become so good at manipulation that they don't even know that they're manipulating.

538
00:32:47.120 --> 00:32:48.320
Okay.

539
00:32:48.320 --> 00:32:52.080
They think that they're really just convincing people and persuasive people.

540
00:32:52.080 --> 00:32:55.000
They think they're people that just know how to woo others.

541
00:32:55.360 --> 00:32:58.320
The woo, W-O-O, it means winning others over.

542
00:32:58.320 --> 00:32:59.400
They're full of flattery.

543
00:32:59.400 --> 00:33:01.160
They're full of, you know, everybody likes them.

544
00:33:01.160 --> 00:33:02.160
They'll, they're people pleasers.

545
00:33:02.160 --> 00:33:05.240
You guys, I'm going to tell you something that's going to hurt your feelings, but if

546
00:33:05.240 --> 00:33:08.240
you're a people pleaser, you're a manipulator.

547
00:33:08.240 --> 00:33:12.320
You're like, wait, I'm just trying to be nice.

548
00:33:12.320 --> 00:33:16.600
No, you're trying to make everyone like you through doing what they want you to do.

549
00:33:16.600 --> 00:33:20.880
And that's called manipulation.

550
00:33:20.880 --> 00:33:24.200
God wants to set you free from that.

551
00:33:24.200 --> 00:33:27.640
The reason why it's destroying your life being a people pleaser is because it's the

552
00:33:27.640 --> 00:33:32.120
dark feminine.

553
00:33:32.120 --> 00:33:37.640
God hasn't created you to please anyone, but one, and that's him.

554
00:33:37.640 --> 00:33:38.640
And guess what?

555
00:33:38.640 --> 00:33:44.480
If he's pleased with you, then everyone who matters will be pleased with you as well.

556
00:33:44.480 --> 00:33:47.840
If you're in alignment with what God wants you to say and do in your life, if you're

557
00:33:47.840 --> 00:33:53.080
in alignment with your identity in Christ, then whatever you do, whoever doesn't like

558
00:33:53.120 --> 00:33:56.000
it, isn't meant to be on your boat.

559
00:33:56.000 --> 00:33:57.000
Got to rock the boat.

560
00:33:57.000 --> 00:33:58.680
Let them fall out.

561
00:33:58.680 --> 00:34:03.280
That has to happen.

562
00:34:03.280 --> 00:34:06.800
I will tell you, one of the biggest things that ends marriages is women who don't know

563
00:34:06.800 --> 00:34:09.040
how to say no women who don't have boundaries.

564
00:34:09.040 --> 00:34:10.840
And I'm not talking about with their spouse.

565
00:34:10.840 --> 00:34:17.199
I'm talking about with other people can tell you how many marriages, um, you know, I have

566
00:34:17.199 --> 00:34:21.560
coached or counseled or been, you know, some kind of, in some kind of relationship with

567
00:34:21.560 --> 00:34:26.080
that have ended because the woman can't stop giving to her adult kids that are taking advantage

568
00:34:26.080 --> 00:34:27.080
of her.

569
00:34:27.080 --> 00:34:28.080
She can't stop doing this or doing that.

570
00:34:28.080 --> 00:34:33.840
She's always running around doing ministry or helping other people when her own family

571
00:34:33.840 --> 00:34:36.880
is the one that needs the help, but she doesn't get significance from that.

572
00:34:36.880 --> 00:34:42.080
She gets significance from helping other people so that they think that she's great now so

573
00:34:42.080 --> 00:34:44.760
that she, she gets applauded or praised.

574
00:34:44.760 --> 00:34:50.760
The Bible says in Proverbs 31, that the, that the woman who's of great value is the one

575
00:34:50.760 --> 00:34:53.199
that's praised by her family.

576
00:34:53.199 --> 00:34:54.960
Doesn't matter what anybody else says about you.

577
00:34:54.960 --> 00:34:59.720
If your own family is like, nah, she's not around that much.

578
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:10.940
You know, yeah, it might be tight, but it'll be right y'all tonight because we need this.

579
00:35:10.940 --> 00:35:12.380
We have to have this.

580
00:35:12.380 --> 00:35:13.380
All right.

581
00:35:13.380 --> 00:35:17.300
So let's just go over the short list of the divine masculine really quickly.

582
00:35:17.300 --> 00:35:22.040
Divine masculine is an order keeper, bring structure to things and order to things.

583
00:35:22.040 --> 00:35:28.180
And when I mean order, I mean divine order, like supernatural order and natural order.

584
00:35:28.180 --> 00:35:32.860
Identity giver, the masculine is the identity, the identity giver.

585
00:35:32.860 --> 00:35:36.380
You notice that it's the chromosome that comes from the man.

586
00:35:36.380 --> 00:35:41.380
That's going to decide whether or not the baby's a boy or a girl.

587
00:35:41.380 --> 00:35:45.940
You guys, I want to propose to you in this private forum, please don't repeat this because

588
00:35:45.940 --> 00:35:51.100
I'm talking to you privately on purpose because this isn't my lane in public.

589
00:35:51.100 --> 00:35:53.380
I stay in my lane and this isn't my lane.

590
00:35:53.380 --> 00:35:55.700
God hasn't given me a voice to speak into this yet.

591
00:35:55.700 --> 00:36:02.500
Maybe he will someday, but it is my hypothesis that all the transgender stuff that's happening

592
00:36:02.500 --> 00:36:10.780
in the earth right now is a direct result of fatherlessness because it is the man who

593
00:36:10.780 --> 00:36:15.300
sperm decides that other chromosome.

594
00:36:15.300 --> 00:36:17.660
Okay.

595
00:36:17.660 --> 00:36:20.380
And I don't care who you are.

596
00:36:20.380 --> 00:36:26.660
If you've been to biology one-on-one, you ain't getting sperm from anything but a man.

597
00:36:26.660 --> 00:36:28.140
That's what it's coming from.

598
00:36:28.140 --> 00:36:30.260
And you guys, some of you only want a man's sperm.

599
00:36:30.260 --> 00:36:32.140
You really honestly don't want to be married.

600
00:36:32.140 --> 00:36:33.140
You just want babies.

601
00:36:33.140 --> 00:36:34.900
And I'm going to deal with all you later.

602
00:36:34.900 --> 00:36:35.900
Okay.

603
00:36:35.900 --> 00:36:38.060
If you're rowing that boat, okay.

604
00:36:38.060 --> 00:36:40.660
You're like, your eggs are like, give me sperm.

605
00:36:40.660 --> 00:36:45.460
Um, yes, but you have to actually have the, the man that's connected to the sperm too.

606
00:36:45.460 --> 00:36:47.380
And you got to have a relationship with him.

607
00:36:47.380 --> 00:36:48.740
You got to be married.

608
00:36:48.740 --> 00:36:49.740
You got to have a husband.

609
00:36:50.100 --> 00:36:52.500
People are like, I want babies, but not a husband.

610
00:36:52.500 --> 00:36:53.500
Okay.

611
00:36:53.500 --> 00:36:54.500
So we'll deal with that.

612
00:36:54.500 --> 00:36:55.500
All right.

613
00:36:55.500 --> 00:37:01.700
Um, so protector, identity, giver, protector, provider.

614
00:37:01.700 --> 00:37:03.220
And that doesn't just mean financially.

615
00:37:03.220 --> 00:37:04.860
And sometimes it doesn't mean financially.

616
00:37:04.860 --> 00:37:15.900
We'll talk about that covering defender, loyal, the divine masculine is very loyal builder

617
00:37:15.900 --> 00:37:17.820
dispenser of justice.

618
00:37:17.900 --> 00:37:20.100
So that's just a very short list.

619
00:37:20.100 --> 00:37:21.100
Okay.

620
00:37:21.100 --> 00:37:29.300
So we know the battle of sex has started in the garden and we've never seen each other

621
00:37:29.300 --> 00:37:31.380
the same since then.

622
00:37:31.380 --> 00:37:32.380
Okay.

623
00:37:32.380 --> 00:37:33.380
Yes.

624
00:37:33.380 --> 00:37:35.820
On the, on the finish, on the other side of the finished work of the cross, we can have

625
00:37:35.820 --> 00:37:40.260
relationship, healthy relationship with each other, but you're not just going to fall into

626
00:37:40.260 --> 00:37:48.420
it because each and every one of you have an entire system, entire schema of lies that

627
00:37:48.420 --> 00:37:54.780
you believe about the feminine and the masculine, about women, about men, about marriage, about

628
00:37:54.780 --> 00:37:56.700
God, about all the things.

629
00:37:56.700 --> 00:37:59.500
And then a lot of times you don't even know what they are because they've been handed

630
00:37:59.500 --> 00:38:02.660
down to you through your families, through experiences.

631
00:38:02.660 --> 00:38:05.700
They've been handed down to you from church and religion, religious mindsets.

632
00:38:05.700 --> 00:38:10.740
I just told you a father of the faith, a father of our founding faith.

633
00:38:10.740 --> 00:38:16.540
If I, you know, you go look it up yourself, St. Augustine, you know, who we love said

634
00:38:16.540 --> 00:38:19.140
that a woman is a sepulcher built over a sewer.

635
00:38:19.140 --> 00:38:23.680
And I will tell you each and every of the, of the, of the original voices of Christianity

636
00:38:23.680 --> 00:38:28.180
in America all had pretty detrimental things to say about women and how men should guard

637
00:38:28.180 --> 00:38:36.460
themselves against them because women can really lead you astray and destroy your life.

638
00:38:36.460 --> 00:38:38.780
And here's the thing.

639
00:38:38.780 --> 00:38:41.980
I understand that there are women out there operating in the dark feminine, operating

640
00:38:41.980 --> 00:38:43.140
in the broken feminine.

641
00:38:43.140 --> 00:38:48.100
I get it, all those things, but it's just like money or sex.

642
00:38:48.100 --> 00:38:52.060
God created that he created resources.

643
00:38:52.060 --> 00:39:01.180
He created sex, but religion will make it bad, bad, bad, bad, bad, bad, bad until it's good.

644
00:39:01.180 --> 00:39:06.220
And I feel like the idea that men have about women because of religion is the same thing.

645
00:39:06.220 --> 00:39:14.780
They're bad, bad, bad, bad, bad, bad, bad until you find one that's good.

646
00:39:14.780 --> 00:39:22.020
Just inherently our nature that we're manipulators and seducers and you better watch out for us.

647
00:39:22.020 --> 00:39:29.460
You know, because of some unfortunate old Testament Bible stories, and it's not true,

648
00:39:29.460 --> 00:39:35.540
but God did tell the woman after, after the fall, you are going to want to control your

649
00:39:35.540 --> 00:39:39.020
husband and because you won't be able to control him by brute force.

650
00:39:39.020 --> 00:39:47.060
You will want, you'll, you will use, you will use the other arts to control him.

651
00:39:47.060 --> 00:39:48.940
And so we've been in this battle ever since.

652
00:39:48.940 --> 00:39:52.940
And so we have to, on the other, other side of the cross, we have to begin to peel back

653
00:39:52.940 --> 00:39:53.940
our layers.

654
00:39:53.940 --> 00:39:54.940
My layers are not the same as yours.

655
00:39:54.940 --> 00:39:58.620
We might have some similar layers because we're all kind of similar age group.

656
00:39:58.620 --> 00:40:00.020
We've grown up in a similar country.

657
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:02.680
bringing a similar teachings about men and women

658
00:40:02.680 --> 00:40:05.400
and the media messages that we've gotten through movies

659
00:40:05.400 --> 00:40:06.240
and different things.

660
00:40:06.240 --> 00:40:07.880
So we might have some similar layers,

661
00:40:07.880 --> 00:40:10.400
but all of us have different layers based on,

662
00:40:10.400 --> 00:40:12.440
you know, our upbringing, our family.

663
00:40:12.440 --> 00:40:15.420
My mom was married three times before I was 10 years old.

664
00:40:17.800 --> 00:40:22.280
And my mom knew how to operate in the dark feminine.

665
00:40:23.440 --> 00:40:26.680
She was very, very, very feminine,

666
00:40:26.680 --> 00:40:29.480
you know, very beguiling, very feminine.

667
00:40:29.480 --> 00:40:32.840
You know, she was, my mom was definitely a pretty woman,

668
00:40:32.840 --> 00:40:36.400
but she wasn't a knockout gorgeous,

669
00:40:36.400 --> 00:40:38.640
you know, model or something.

670
00:40:38.640 --> 00:40:43.500
But men loved her because she knew how to,

671
00:40:43.500 --> 00:40:44.720
my mom was very modest.

672
00:40:44.720 --> 00:40:46.880
You never saw her dress scandalously,

673
00:40:46.880 --> 00:40:50.040
you know, no cleavage, no anything like that.

674
00:40:50.040 --> 00:40:53.360
But there was something very, very ethereal about her

675
00:40:53.360 --> 00:40:56.960
that really just drew men in, especially rich men.

676
00:40:56.960 --> 00:40:59.440
So my mom was married three times before I was 10

677
00:40:59.440 --> 00:41:00.280
to rich men.

678
00:41:01.560 --> 00:41:06.560
And all of them were bad and abusive and broken and stuff.

679
00:41:06.960 --> 00:41:09.200
And it was not a good life.

680
00:41:09.200 --> 00:41:10.700
But I watched my mom.

681
00:41:11.560 --> 00:41:13.200
I saw how she did that.

682
00:41:14.480 --> 00:41:15.920
I saw that those things,

683
00:41:15.920 --> 00:41:17.660
and I picked up some of those traits

684
00:41:17.660 --> 00:41:18.760
without even understanding it.

685
00:41:18.760 --> 00:41:21.360
So some of you guys have those traits,

686
00:41:21.360 --> 00:41:25.320
different traits of the broken feminine,

687
00:41:25.320 --> 00:41:26.840
and maybe it's not a seduction trait,

688
00:41:27.720 --> 00:41:29.120
maybe it's, you know, we don't trust men,

689
00:41:29.120 --> 00:41:30.840
so we don't let men control us.

690
00:41:30.840 --> 00:41:32.880
And, you know, if we're with men, we're with weak men

691
00:41:32.880 --> 00:41:34.640
and men that do what we say,

692
00:41:34.640 --> 00:41:37.920
and you choose passive men because of that,

693
00:41:39.000 --> 00:41:41.680
passive weak men so that you can be the one

694
00:41:41.680 --> 00:41:42.880
wearing the pants in the family.

695
00:41:42.880 --> 00:41:44.120
Maybe that's what you learned.

696
00:41:44.120 --> 00:41:46.880
We all have different things that we have learned.

697
00:41:46.880 --> 00:41:48.920
So let's go ahead and put some of those things up right now

698
00:41:48.920 --> 00:41:50.360
as Holy Spirit reveals those to you.

699
00:41:50.360 --> 00:41:54.000
What are some layers that are being revealed right now

700
00:41:54.040 --> 00:41:56.120
about the broken feminine

701
00:41:56.120 --> 00:41:59.040
and what you may have seen in your life,

702
00:41:59.040 --> 00:42:01.280
in your family, and even in yourself?

703
00:42:01.280 --> 00:42:02.120
Okay.

704
00:42:22.400 --> 00:42:23.240
Okay.

705
00:42:23.240 --> 00:42:27.480
So the toxic masculine of being controlling

706
00:42:27.520 --> 00:42:30.960
and, you know, hard to please

707
00:42:30.960 --> 00:42:32.440
and all different types of that,

708
00:42:32.440 --> 00:42:35.280
that's definitely something too.

709
00:42:35.280 --> 00:42:36.280
So we'll look at that.

710
00:42:36.280 --> 00:42:38.760
Manipulative, flattery, flirty, seductive.

711
00:42:38.760 --> 00:42:41.000
You guys, there's nothing wrong with flirting, right?

712
00:42:41.000 --> 00:42:44.320
But if we're flirting with the purpose of seducing,

713
00:42:44.320 --> 00:42:46.000
of trying to win someone over,

714
00:42:46.000 --> 00:42:48.200
of trying to get them to like us,

715
00:42:48.200 --> 00:42:50.480
you know, flirting just because we find someone attractive

716
00:42:50.480 --> 00:42:52.920
and we just, you know, we just want to let them know,

717
00:42:52.920 --> 00:42:54.120
hey, I find you attractive.

718
00:42:54.120 --> 00:42:55.600
There's nothing wrong with that.

719
00:42:55.600 --> 00:42:58.960
But if we're flirting because we're trying to get someone

720
00:42:58.960 --> 00:43:02.840
to sexually be interested in us, you know,

721
00:43:02.840 --> 00:43:06.280
to use our sexuality, not just to get them in bed,

722
00:43:06.280 --> 00:43:07.680
it doesn't have to be to get them in bed.

723
00:43:07.680 --> 00:43:10.360
It has to be to get them to, you know,

724
00:43:12.120 --> 00:43:16.080
be sexually, not just interested,

725
00:43:16.080 --> 00:43:18.480
but pursuing us because, you know,

726
00:43:18.480 --> 00:43:21.920
they're so excited by us basically is what I want to say.

727
00:43:26.560 --> 00:43:30.280
Okay, trying to do everything myself, not allowing help.

728
00:43:30.280 --> 00:43:32.840
Okay, so hyper-independence.

729
00:43:32.840 --> 00:43:35.360
You guys, here, let me give you a list

730
00:43:35.360 --> 00:43:38.480
of some more toxic feminine traits to help you guys out.

731
00:43:38.480 --> 00:43:43.480
Toxic, the toxic feminine or the cursed feminine

732
00:43:43.520 --> 00:43:47.400
also can look very much like the toxic masculine.

733
00:43:47.400 --> 00:43:49.160
Because remember, that's not the divine masculine

734
00:43:49.160 --> 00:43:51.320
that we see going around in the earth, okay?

735
00:43:51.320 --> 00:43:53.240
That's the toxic masculine as well.

736
00:43:53.240 --> 00:43:54.720
So here's some traits.

737
00:43:54.720 --> 00:43:58.960
Hard, hardened, don't cry, hard, you know,

738
00:43:58.960 --> 00:44:01.120
I can do it, I'm tough.

739
00:44:01.120 --> 00:44:04.040
No sense of humor, no fun, rigid, frigid,

740
00:44:04.040 --> 00:44:08.520
controlling, inflexible, boring, okay?

741
00:44:08.520 --> 00:44:13.520
Suspicious, we have intuition, but intuitive is,

742
00:44:13.520 --> 00:44:16.160
you know, intuition is not suspicion, okay?

743
00:44:16.160 --> 00:44:19.960
Suspicious, overextended, really busy, busy, busy, busy.

744
00:44:19.960 --> 00:44:22.640
That's the toxic feminine, busy, busy, busy.

745
00:44:22.640 --> 00:44:25.560
You know, my significance is my doing, doing, doing, doing,

746
00:44:25.560 --> 00:44:26.400
not being.

747
00:44:28.000 --> 00:44:30.520
Self-sufficient, nobody can help me, I don't need your help,

748
00:44:30.520 --> 00:44:31.880
I don't ask for help.

749
00:44:31.880 --> 00:44:34.880
Hyper-independent, same thing.

750
00:44:34.880 --> 00:44:37.280
Self-defended, not God-defended.

751
00:44:37.280 --> 00:44:38.440
So there's some more.

752
00:44:38.440 --> 00:44:40.920
So for those of you that can grab a hold of this.

753
00:44:45.840 --> 00:44:47.920
Yeah, Patricia says, no man's gonna take care of you,

754
00:44:47.920 --> 00:44:49.320
so you better take care of yourself.

755
00:44:49.320 --> 00:44:51.800
These are all things from the 70s, the feminist movement.

756
00:44:51.840 --> 00:44:54.560
We need men like we need a, that a fish needs a bicycle.

757
00:44:54.560 --> 00:44:56.840
We need men like a fish needs a bicycle.

758
00:44:56.840 --> 00:44:58.960
I ended up growing up and marrying the man,

759
00:44:58.960 --> 00:45:00.560
you know, marrying the man that.

760
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:02.200
that my mother wanted me to marry,

761
00:45:02.200 --> 00:45:04.920
or, you know, my mother wanted me to marry a doctor

762
00:45:04.920 --> 00:45:06.320
and I told my mother, you know,

763
00:45:06.320 --> 00:45:09.020
mother, I am a doctor that you wanted me to marry.

764
00:45:09.020 --> 00:45:11.440
Like, I have become the doctor that you wanted me to marry.

765
00:45:11.440 --> 00:45:12.800
Like that kind of thing.

766
00:45:12.800 --> 00:45:14.720
Like women can do anything that men can do,

767
00:45:14.720 --> 00:45:16.320
but we can do it better.

768
00:45:16.320 --> 00:45:19.720
You know, that kind of attitude.

769
00:45:19.720 --> 00:45:22.920
And the thing is, is that it's not about we can't do it.

770
00:45:22.920 --> 00:45:25.560
It's about, should we do it?

771
00:45:26.560 --> 00:45:30.520
It's not about gender roles in the earth.

772
00:45:30.520 --> 00:45:33.160
It's about, if we're doing all the things

773
00:45:33.160 --> 00:45:36.080
that men are actually uniquely gifted to do,

774
00:45:36.080 --> 00:45:38.220
and just because we can do them,

775
00:45:38.220 --> 00:45:40.820
who's doing what we're uniquely gifted to do?

776
00:45:42.200 --> 00:45:43.040
Because I'm going to tell you,

777
00:45:43.040 --> 00:45:45.000
there's very few men that are uniquely gifted

778
00:45:45.000 --> 00:45:46.840
to nurture a baby.

779
00:45:48.680 --> 00:45:50.000
Now they might be thrust into that

780
00:45:50.000 --> 00:45:53.440
because their wife passed away, you know,

781
00:45:53.440 --> 00:45:56.480
but just case in point, once again, you guys,

782
00:45:56.480 --> 00:45:58.240
these are kitchen table conversations.

783
00:45:58.240 --> 00:46:00.280
This is not for public consumption.

784
00:46:00.280 --> 00:46:02.840
It would be taken out of context in the public

785
00:46:02.840 --> 00:46:05.240
and people would think that I don't care

786
00:46:05.240 --> 00:46:06.280
about certain issues.

787
00:46:06.280 --> 00:46:08.360
And I do, I do very much care,

788
00:46:08.360 --> 00:46:12.920
but I have seen a homosexual couples, men.

789
00:46:12.920 --> 00:46:16.000
I've seen them out in public with babies

790
00:46:16.000 --> 00:46:16.960
that they've adopted

791
00:46:16.960 --> 00:46:19.120
or that they've had birth through surrogate.

792
00:46:19.120 --> 00:46:20.640
And they are about the most awkward,

793
00:46:20.640 --> 00:46:23.360
clumsy things with those babies I've ever seen.

794
00:46:24.160 --> 00:46:25.320
And I always feel really sorry for the baby.

795
00:46:25.320 --> 00:46:28.180
You guys, my husband, we were out with,

796
00:46:28.180 --> 00:46:30.640
we were out just in dining and there was this,

797
00:46:30.640 --> 00:46:33.400
this man, this two men, this male couple,

798
00:46:33.400 --> 00:46:34.560
I'm assuming that they were married.

799
00:46:34.560 --> 00:46:37.380
They had wedding rings on and they had a little infant.

800
00:46:37.380 --> 00:46:39.120
You guys, a fresh little baby,

801
00:46:39.120 --> 00:46:41.060
just came out of its mother womb, little baby.

802
00:46:41.060 --> 00:46:43.720
Couldn't have been more than six weeks old, little baby.

803
00:46:43.720 --> 00:46:44.900
Okay.

804
00:46:44.900 --> 00:46:48.040
And my husband went to the bathroom

805
00:46:48.040 --> 00:46:49.920
at this place that we were at.

806
00:46:49.920 --> 00:46:52.200
And one of the men were in there with that little baby,

807
00:46:52.240 --> 00:46:53.680
his little girl baby.

808
00:46:53.680 --> 00:46:55.720
And they were changing her diaper.

809
00:46:55.720 --> 00:46:58.760
Do you want to know where they were changing her diaper?

810
00:46:58.760 --> 00:47:02.040
On the fricking bathroom floor, y'all.

811
00:47:02.040 --> 00:47:03.880
They had her laid on the bathroom floor,

812
00:47:03.880 --> 00:47:08.880
on the nasty bathroom floor where the urinals are,

813
00:47:08.920 --> 00:47:11.880
where men have peed all over the fricking place.

814
00:47:12.920 --> 00:47:16.040
Because was he a bad man for doing that?

815
00:47:16.040 --> 00:47:20.800
No, he's just a man who doesn't understand

816
00:47:21.560 --> 00:47:26.000
that you don't lay a baby, a fresh little newborn baby

817
00:47:26.000 --> 00:47:28.040
on a public bathroom floor.

818
00:47:29.840 --> 00:47:31.960
And you guys, these were high-scale people.

819
00:47:31.960 --> 00:47:33.000
These were rich men.

820
00:47:33.000 --> 00:47:35.520
These weren't like, you know,

821
00:47:35.520 --> 00:47:37.040
the kind of men that can afford a surrogate.

822
00:47:37.040 --> 00:47:39.240
I mean, you guys, that stuff's not cheap.

823
00:47:39.240 --> 00:47:42.240
And so I'm just telling you, it's not natural.

824
00:47:42.240 --> 00:47:45.920
And sometimes we're thrust into unnatural situations

825
00:47:45.920 --> 00:47:47.600
where because your spouse passed away

826
00:47:47.600 --> 00:47:49.320
or because someone else in your family passed away,

827
00:47:49.320 --> 00:47:50.360
and now you're, you know,

828
00:47:50.360 --> 00:47:53.800
now you're the sole caretaker for a child.

829
00:47:53.800 --> 00:47:55.800
Men were not created to be

830
00:47:55.800 --> 00:47:57.880
the sole caretakers of children.

831
00:48:00.320 --> 00:48:01.160
They're not.

832
00:48:04.280 --> 00:48:05.840
And so it's one of those things that if women

833
00:48:05.840 --> 00:48:07.760
are running around doing everything that a man can do,

834
00:48:07.760 --> 00:48:09.360
who's doing what a woman can do?

835
00:48:12.560 --> 00:48:15.400
The hand that rocks the cradle still does rule the world.

836
00:48:16.920 --> 00:48:18.520
And it's not just about raising children.

837
00:48:18.520 --> 00:48:20.000
It's about nurturing people.

838
00:48:20.880 --> 00:48:22.320
Who's nurturing the people?

839
00:48:24.760 --> 00:48:25.960
Okay, who's doing that?

840
00:48:27.800 --> 00:48:31.720
And so there are just so, so, so many things

841
00:48:31.720 --> 00:48:35.880
that have been lost through all of this anger

842
00:48:35.880 --> 00:48:38.960
that's happened because of the curse, masculine and feminine.

843
00:48:38.960 --> 00:48:41.160
Women were oppressed for generations.

844
00:48:41.160 --> 00:48:42.920
I will not deny that.

845
00:48:42.920 --> 00:48:46.280
But then when we got a little bit of freedom from that,

846
00:48:46.280 --> 00:48:48.440
the pendulum swang a little too far.

847
00:48:49.280 --> 00:48:51.600
And so now we have all kinds of issues.

848
00:48:51.600 --> 00:48:54.040
We have all kinds of issues where, you know,

849
00:48:54.040 --> 00:48:57.640
children are growing up with no mom or no dad in the house.

850
00:48:59.120 --> 00:49:01.520
And those kids are going out into society

851
00:49:01.520 --> 00:49:03.800
with huge father and mother wounds,

852
00:49:03.800 --> 00:49:06.520
and they're marrying and they're, you know,

853
00:49:06.520 --> 00:49:08.200
handing that down to the next generation

854
00:49:08.200 --> 00:49:10.120
and the next generation and the next generation.

855
00:49:10.120 --> 00:49:11.040
And that's what's happening.

856
00:49:11.040 --> 00:49:14.480
And I believe that we're the antidote to that poison.

857
00:49:14.520 --> 00:49:18.240
And so for those of you that are still in the family years,

858
00:49:19.800 --> 00:49:20.720
meaning that, you know,

859
00:49:20.720 --> 00:49:22.800
you still wanna have children from your own womb.

860
00:49:22.800 --> 00:49:25.320
And for those of you that even maybe wanna adopt children,

861
00:49:25.320 --> 00:49:27.480
I wanna encourage you that if you do bring children

862
00:49:27.480 --> 00:49:30.440
into this earth or you begin to raise children

863
00:49:30.440 --> 00:49:34.520
from some other womb that needs you to be their mother,

864
00:49:34.520 --> 00:49:38.560
you know, make a decision that you are really gonna be

865
00:49:38.560 --> 00:49:40.000
a present parent.

866
00:49:41.000 --> 00:49:43.760
That you are going to trust God,

867
00:49:43.760 --> 00:49:47.880
even if you can't have the American dream of two cars

868
00:49:47.880 --> 00:49:51.080
and, you know, vacations every summer and the big house.

869
00:49:51.080 --> 00:49:53.760
If you can't have that during the years,

870
00:49:53.760 --> 00:49:56.360
the formative years of that child's life,

871
00:49:56.360 --> 00:49:59.360
that you will still make those sacrifices.

872
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:02.400
so that child can have what's most important

873
00:50:02.400 --> 00:50:05.580
during childhood and that's a mother and a father.

874
00:50:06.920 --> 00:50:09.760
Okay, so that's my little soap box for today.

875
00:50:09.760 --> 00:50:12.600
Okay, so moving on,

876
00:50:12.600 --> 00:50:15.140
we wanna come out of agreement with the fake feminism,

877
00:50:15.140 --> 00:50:18.200
the fake feminist, the fake feminine, sorry.

878
00:50:19.440 --> 00:50:20.800
We wanna come out of agreement

879
00:50:20.800 --> 00:50:24.680
with any of those sneaky little things that sound good

880
00:50:24.680 --> 00:50:28.120
from that anger movement called feminism.

881
00:50:28.120 --> 00:50:33.120
You guys, it's not, listen, I consider myself a feminist.

882
00:50:33.220 --> 00:50:35.160
That means the empowerment of women

883
00:50:35.160 --> 00:50:38.040
or the empowerment of the feminine in the earth.

884
00:50:38.040 --> 00:50:41.720
I'm here empowering you like any good feminist would be,

885
00:50:41.720 --> 00:50:43.940
but I'm empowering you with the right tools

886
00:50:43.940 --> 00:50:46.520
and the right resources and I'm also empowering you

887
00:50:46.520 --> 00:50:49.320
to be whoever God's called you to be.

888
00:50:49.320 --> 00:50:52.160
Okay, feminism is only empowering women

889
00:50:52.160 --> 00:50:56.500
to be whoever that feminist movement thinks women should be

890
00:50:56.500 --> 00:51:00.280
and that apparently is like business owners and CEOs

891
00:51:00.280 --> 00:51:02.980
and women that destroy their offspring

892
00:51:02.980 --> 00:51:07.980
and don't stay at home and don't do things.

893
00:51:08.060 --> 00:51:09.740
For instance, the new Snow White movie

894
00:51:09.740 --> 00:51:11.540
is coming out right now

895
00:51:11.540 --> 00:51:14.700
and you guys, Snow White just as a fairy tale is very dark.

896
00:51:14.700 --> 00:51:16.780
I don't know if you guys saw it when you were kids,

897
00:51:16.780 --> 00:51:20.660
but it's a kind of a dark fairy tale.

898
00:51:20.660 --> 00:51:23.320
Most fairy tales are, Disney's try to make them happier,

899
00:51:23.320 --> 00:51:25.660
but if you ever read the real versions

900
00:51:25.700 --> 00:51:28.660
of like the grim fairy tales, they're grim.

901
00:51:28.660 --> 00:51:30.180
They're grim, they're scary.

902
00:51:30.180 --> 00:51:32.180
They're like, they're not fairy tales,

903
00:51:32.180 --> 00:51:34.060
they're horror tales really.

904
00:51:34.060 --> 00:51:35.940
And so Snow White, that story,

905
00:51:35.940 --> 00:51:38.340
that first cartoon is from like the 1930s.

906
00:51:38.340 --> 00:51:42.180
It's not a happy cartoon in my opinion,

907
00:51:42.180 --> 00:51:45.100
but they're remaking it like real life characters

908
00:51:45.100 --> 00:51:48.900
and actors and I saw the actress from Snow White

909
00:51:48.900 --> 00:51:50.200
and she said, hey, you know,

910
00:51:50.200 --> 00:51:53.180
this is not gonna be Snow White from the 1930s.

911
00:51:53.180 --> 00:51:55.400
Snow White is all about leadership.

912
00:51:56.140 --> 00:51:57.440
She's not about, you know, the prince.

913
00:51:57.440 --> 00:51:59.120
She's not about romance or love.

914
00:51:59.120 --> 00:52:02.440
This isn't a love story and it's not about being rescued

915
00:52:02.440 --> 00:52:05.080
and just all this stuff and I'm like, well,

916
00:52:05.080 --> 00:52:10.080
then it's not Snow White, it's something else.

917
00:52:10.080 --> 00:52:11.480
You know, you can go ahead and make another movie

918
00:52:11.480 --> 00:52:14.960
if you want to, but don't take a storyline

919
00:52:14.960 --> 00:52:17.440
and then change everything about it

920
00:52:17.440 --> 00:52:20.480
and call it the same name because that's not what it is.

921
00:52:20.480 --> 00:52:23.600
But that mentality of that young actress is like,

922
00:52:23.600 --> 00:52:25.760
we don't need to be rescued.

923
00:52:25.760 --> 00:52:27.120
We don't need the prince.

924
00:52:27.120 --> 00:52:28.280
We're not looking for love.

925
00:52:28.280 --> 00:52:29.900
We're not looking for romance.

926
00:52:32.000 --> 00:52:33.600
And I understand that that's coming from pain.

927
00:52:33.600 --> 00:52:34.440
It's coming from hurt.

928
00:52:34.440 --> 00:52:38.520
It's coming from, you know, generations of oppression

929
00:52:38.520 --> 00:52:42.160
that's been handed down or the tales of oppression

930
00:52:42.160 --> 00:52:43.600
because these girls are young.

931
00:52:43.600 --> 00:52:45.960
They haven't been oppressed as far as not being able

932
00:52:45.960 --> 00:52:47.600
to go to college or not being able,

933
00:52:47.600 --> 00:52:50.400
like the women that came before them, right?

934
00:52:50.400 --> 00:52:52.720
But they are adopting a fight

935
00:52:52.720 --> 00:52:56.600
that doesn't belong to them with bad information.

936
00:52:57.760 --> 00:53:00.720
And so it shows you right there that the mindset

937
00:53:00.720 --> 00:53:04.640
behind modern feminism is not to empower you

938
00:53:04.640 --> 00:53:07.360
to be whoever God created you to be.

939
00:53:07.360 --> 00:53:09.040
And if God created you to be a CEO,

940
00:53:09.040 --> 00:53:11.680
go CEO your heart out, sister.

941
00:53:11.680 --> 00:53:14.920
If God created you to have some kind of vocation

942
00:53:14.920 --> 00:53:18.160
that requires you to have 18 letters after your name,

943
00:53:18.160 --> 00:53:19.560
you go do you, boo.

944
00:53:19.560 --> 00:53:22.200
But if God has also called you to be a wife and mother,

945
00:53:22.720 --> 00:53:24.800
then that shouldn't be frowned upon.

946
00:53:24.800 --> 00:53:27.000
If God has called you to raise up the next generation,

947
00:53:27.000 --> 00:53:28.880
if God's called you to be a teacher or a nurse,

948
00:53:28.880 --> 00:53:30.560
that shouldn't be frowned upon.

949
00:53:30.560 --> 00:53:33.560
Not everyone wants to be in a power position.

950
00:53:33.560 --> 00:53:35.800
Not everyone wants to be in a power position in public,

951
00:53:35.800 --> 00:53:38.160
I should say, because the most powerful position

952
00:53:38.160 --> 00:53:42.440
that you can be as a woman is partnered with a powerful man

953
00:53:42.440 --> 00:53:44.360
and raising a powerful family,

954
00:53:44.360 --> 00:53:46.880
whatever that looks like with your daily schedule,

955
00:53:47.960 --> 00:53:49.160
whatever that looks like,

956
00:53:49.160 --> 00:53:50.320
whether you work outside the home,

957
00:53:50.360 --> 00:53:52.680
whether you work inside the home, whatever you do,

958
00:53:52.680 --> 00:53:55.080
that's the most powerful position that a woman can be in,

959
00:53:55.080 --> 00:53:59.040
is next to, like God placed us,

960
00:53:59.040 --> 00:54:01.480
next to our male counterpart,

961
00:54:01.480 --> 00:54:04.200
better together, changing the world, right?

962
00:54:04.200 --> 00:54:05.040
Amen.

963
00:54:05.040 --> 00:54:07.360
And so all of your marriages will look different.

964
00:54:07.360 --> 00:54:10.480
They'll all be based on different types of assignments,

965
00:54:10.480 --> 00:54:14.840
but do not be afraid to take on old fashioned gender roles

966
00:54:14.840 --> 00:54:17.880
in your marriage if that's what God's called you to.

967
00:54:17.880 --> 00:54:20.680
I think you can all agree that I'm not a weak woman.

968
00:54:20.680 --> 00:54:21.960
There's nothing weak about me.

969
00:54:21.960 --> 00:54:24.000
I carry a lot of authority,

970
00:54:24.000 --> 00:54:26.440
but I also was a stay-at-home mom.

971
00:54:26.440 --> 00:54:29.800
I also was preparing for when I would do the kinds

972
00:54:29.800 --> 00:54:31.760
of ministry that I do now,

973
00:54:31.760 --> 00:54:34.080
you know, with speaking and writing books

974
00:54:34.080 --> 00:54:36.360
and all the different things that I've done,

975
00:54:36.360 --> 00:54:38.840
but you can have it all, but you don't,

976
00:54:38.840 --> 00:54:41.640
you can't have it all at the same time, right?

977
00:54:41.640 --> 00:54:43.840
So you have to choose what season you're in

978
00:54:43.840 --> 00:54:45.720
and what you're gonna do and when you're gonna do it.

979
00:54:45.720 --> 00:54:47.040
That's important stuff.

980
00:54:47.040 --> 00:54:49.440
All right, let me tell you a few little stories.

981
00:54:50.520 --> 00:54:53.240
So whether we like it or not,

982
00:54:53.240 --> 00:54:55.640
man is God's protection plan for woman.

983
00:54:58.520 --> 00:55:00.120
He's an extension of God.

984
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:20.000
As a protector for woman, specifically in the family is what I'm talking about, not just any man, but the family the husband.

985
00:55:20.000 --> 00:55:23.000
Yes.

986
00:55:23.000 --> 00:55:32.000
You guys read each other's comments too because there's some really good comments in the chat.

987
00:55:32.000 --> 00:55:38.000
You guys I want to tell you a complaint of the Christian guys that I talked to.

988
00:55:38.000 --> 00:55:42.000
They say on dating apps they don't always identify themselves as Christians.

989
00:55:42.000 --> 00:55:48.000
And I said well why would you do that, that's one of the biggest complaints women have is that they can't tell whether or not you're a Christian on these apps.

990
00:55:48.000 --> 00:55:53.000
And they're like, well, because my experience, this is more than one man, you guys, it's not just one man saying this.

991
00:55:53.000 --> 00:56:08.000
Because my experience with Christian women on dating apps is they're only scrolling through to try to find a husband, and they're only scrolling through because their baby clock is ticking, and they want to go from I just met you to let's get married and have children within a couple weeks.

992
00:56:08.000 --> 00:56:13.000
And for some of y'all that's not a lie.

993
00:56:13.000 --> 00:56:18.000
So I'm sizing them up to see whether or not they can be your baby daddy.

994
00:56:18.000 --> 00:56:32.000
Like I said before, especially girls that are in their late 20s and the whole spectrum of 30s and early 40s, when that, you know, when we're, we got you know we call it the dirty 30s for a reason when we're ovulating really high and our body wants to reproduce

995
00:56:32.000 --> 00:56:41.000
reproduce reproduce and women feel like they're running out of time, that proverbial clock is ticking ticking ticking ticking ticking.

996
00:56:41.000 --> 00:56:44.000
But here's what I want you to release tonight.

997
00:56:44.000 --> 00:56:58.000
If God has assigned you to raise children on this earth. I want you to release what that looks like and trust him to give you children.

998
00:56:59.000 --> 00:57:11.000
I'm being superstitious I'm being I'm being I'm exaggerating with a couple weeks but you understand, rushing into serious relationship for the purpose of getting married for the purpose of having children.

999
00:57:11.000 --> 00:57:14.000
I want you to release that tonight.

1000
00:57:14.000 --> 00:57:20.000
God knows your forum he made you feminine he knows that you have a mother's heart, he knows you want a mother.

1001
00:57:20.000 --> 00:57:30.000
He knows you want to carry a child. Okay, he gave you eggs, so that you could partner with a man and procreate for those of you that that's a possibility for.

1002
00:57:30.000 --> 00:57:38.000
Okay, I do believe that we are going to be marked by geriatric pregnancies you guys we've had over 20 babies born in this movement already.

1003
00:57:38.000 --> 00:57:55.000
And, you know, and some of them to older women over 40 years old so I want you to just relax and understand that you can release that it's in your heart for a reason, and God will fulfill it just like that tree of knowledge he had every intention

1004
00:57:55.000 --> 00:58:09.000
of, of giving all that knowledge to Adam and Eve, but they tried to get it themselves, or they got, you know, got preoccupied with something that they didn't get to need to get preoccupied with.

1005
00:58:09.000 --> 00:58:12.000
Okay.

1006
00:58:12.000 --> 00:58:25.000
I have two children I didn't give birth to I raised them since they were nine and 11 and they are, there's just as much my children as my sick my, my daughter who's 22 that was six years old when I married their dad.

1007
00:58:25.000 --> 00:58:29.000
I gave I have one womb baby I have one baby in heaven.

1008
00:58:30.000 --> 00:58:40.000
And then I have a daughter I gave birth to on earth. You know who's 22, and then I have a 27 year old son and a 25 year old daughter that came from another woman's womb.

1009
00:58:40.000 --> 00:58:53.000
My, my current husband's former wife, and we have co parented all those children we have raised them I have twin grand babies now from the daughter that didn't come from my womb, and I'm blessed.

1010
00:58:54.000 --> 00:59:06.000
I love children that don't come from your womb. If that's God's plan for you so I want you to, I want you to go ahead and surrender the pen to him, because you're making yourself sick right now is what you're doing.

1011
00:59:06.000 --> 00:59:08.000
Stop it.

1012
00:59:08.000 --> 00:59:14.000
God does not want you to hurt. Can I tell you that you're suffering needlessly.

1013
00:59:14.000 --> 00:59:17.000
You're suffering needlessly.

1014
00:59:17.000 --> 00:59:22.000
Because God's going to fulfill your desire to mother.

1015
00:59:23.000 --> 00:59:30.000
And as someone who's has a biological child and non biological children, there is no difference.

1016
00:59:30.000 --> 00:59:34.000
There's literally no difference.

1017
00:59:34.000 --> 00:59:42.000
In fact, more often than not, people tell my non biological children that they look just like me.

1018
00:59:42.000 --> 00:59:51.000
More often, and my biological daughter gets upset all the time because she's like mom no one ever tells me that I look like you.

1019
00:59:51.000 --> 00:59:56.000
And I'm like that's because you got your daddy's big head.

1020
00:59:56.000 --> 00:59:58.000
It's just a joke between me and her.

1021
00:59:58.000 --> 01:00:01.000
I know it sounds mean but I promise you it's not.

1022
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:07.200
She actually does look a lot like me, but people just don't see it.

1023
01:00:07.200 --> 01:00:08.200
She's got blonder.

1024
01:00:08.200 --> 01:00:09.200
She got blonde hair.

1025
01:00:09.200 --> 01:00:12.460
So, um, yeah, just a lot of things.

1026
01:00:12.460 --> 01:00:15.440
So I just release you from that.

1027
01:00:15.440 --> 01:00:17.460
I release you from suffering in that area.

1028
01:00:17.460 --> 01:00:23.920
I release you with every tick on the calendar with every birthday, just breaking down because

1029
01:00:23.920 --> 01:00:26.840
you want babies so desperately.

1030
01:00:26.840 --> 01:00:28.080
Okay.

1031
01:00:28.080 --> 01:00:31.640
If children are slotted to come from your womb, they're going to come from your womb.

1032
01:00:31.640 --> 01:00:34.720
And if they don't come from your womb, they're going to come from your heart womb and it's

1033
01:00:34.720 --> 01:00:38.160
going to be the same.

1034
01:00:38.160 --> 01:00:41.480
Because the Bible says you knit me together in my mother's womb.

1035
01:00:41.480 --> 01:00:47.320
That means that God puts babies there and he knows them before they get there.

1036
01:00:47.320 --> 01:00:51.720
Because he said, I knew you from the foundation of the earth.

1037
01:00:51.720 --> 01:00:57.160
So if your womb is going to carry a spirit that's already alive, already here, been here

1038
01:00:57.240 --> 01:01:00.960
from the, from the foundation of the earth, but it's going to come and baby form through

1039
01:01:00.960 --> 01:01:03.840
you and be part of your family.

1040
01:01:03.840 --> 01:01:06.240
That that's going to happen.

1041
01:01:06.240 --> 01:01:07.280
You can rest in it.

1042
01:01:07.280 --> 01:01:08.840
You don't got to worry about it.

1043
01:01:08.840 --> 01:01:12.080
If you got a promise from God that you're going to carry a child in your body, then

1044
01:01:12.080 --> 01:01:14.280
go ahead and just trust him.

1045
01:01:14.280 --> 01:01:20.080
And if you just have a mother's heart that you want to fulfill that need, because that,

1046
01:01:20.080 --> 01:01:23.520
that want that desire to be a mother, God's going to fulfill it for you.

1047
01:01:23.520 --> 01:01:24.520
All right.

1048
01:01:24.520 --> 01:01:25.520
He is.

1049
01:01:25.880 --> 01:01:27.880
And you can release it.

1050
01:01:27.880 --> 01:01:34.720
And you can look at men objectively and not through a baby colored lens, trying to get

1051
01:01:34.720 --> 01:01:38.080
the show on the road.

1052
01:01:38.080 --> 01:01:39.680
I want to, I want to tell you something else.

1053
01:01:39.680 --> 01:01:40.680
God's up to something.

1054
01:01:40.680 --> 01:01:44.880
I have so many men right now that I have that are part of matches that I'm involved with

1055
01:01:44.880 --> 01:01:51.080
that are reversing the sectomies guys, you know, how much trouble that is and how expensive

1056
01:01:51.080 --> 01:01:52.520
it is.

1057
01:01:52.520 --> 01:01:53.840
They are, they're doing it.

1058
01:01:53.840 --> 01:01:55.320
They're reversing bisectomies.

1059
01:01:56.120 --> 01:01:58.200
That is happening within our movement right now.

1060
01:01:58.200 --> 01:01:59.680
I think that's kind of a phenomenon.

1061
01:01:59.680 --> 01:02:06.840
If you ask me, men don't want anything near their wieners and if they already had a vasectomy,

1062
01:02:06.840 --> 01:02:10.880
they certainly don't want to have someone go in there and reverse it, but they are doing

1063
01:02:10.880 --> 01:02:11.880
it.

1064
01:02:11.880 --> 01:02:15.880
They are doing it because God is like, I want kingdom family.

1065
01:02:15.880 --> 01:02:19.960
God wants kingdom family more than you want it.

1066
01:02:19.960 --> 01:02:21.760
He does.

1067
01:02:21.760 --> 01:02:22.760
He does.

1068
01:02:22.760 --> 01:02:23.760
Okay.

1069
01:02:23.760 --> 01:02:33.600
All right, so let's talk about the feminine and what it looks like and what it doesn't

1070
01:02:33.600 --> 01:02:34.600
look like.

1071
01:02:34.600 --> 01:02:35.600
It's not helpless.

1072
01:02:35.600 --> 01:02:38.680
Do I strike you as helpless?

1073
01:02:38.680 --> 01:02:40.280
It's not helpless.

1074
01:02:40.280 --> 01:02:41.960
Okay.

1075
01:02:41.960 --> 01:02:43.880
But it's also not tough.

1076
01:02:43.880 --> 01:02:45.360
Doesn't have this hard exterior.

1077
01:02:45.360 --> 01:02:49.360
It's not like fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.

1078
01:02:49.360 --> 01:02:51.080
You got to let that go.

1079
01:02:51.080 --> 01:02:55.600
A marriage minded man is not looking for a hard woman.

1080
01:02:55.600 --> 01:02:56.880
He's looking for a soft woman.

1081
01:02:56.880 --> 01:03:01.320
He's looking for a soft place to land, not a people pleaser, not a manipulator, not someone

1082
01:03:01.320 --> 01:03:05.320
who's going to tell him what he wants to hear, but someone when she needs to tell him something

1083
01:03:05.320 --> 01:03:12.680
that he doesn't want to hear, she actually does it through love and through relationship.

1084
01:03:12.680 --> 01:03:14.320
That's what that looks like to be feminine.

1085
01:03:14.320 --> 01:03:20.840
Remember we're teachers by nature, but when you don't know a man and you're on the dating

1086
01:03:21.600 --> 01:03:22.760
apps, you're just getting to know someone.

1087
01:03:22.760 --> 01:03:25.640
Men don't want you to show up in that gift.

1088
01:03:25.640 --> 01:03:30.940
You need to show up in the gift of just being a woman with a man.

1089
01:03:30.940 --> 01:03:32.880
Don't show up in your coaching gift.

1090
01:03:32.880 --> 01:03:34.200
Don't show up in your teaching gift.

1091
01:03:34.200 --> 01:03:36.440
Don't show up in your counseling gift.

1092
01:03:36.440 --> 01:03:41.680
Please don't show up in your mother gift.

1093
01:03:41.680 --> 01:03:45.840
Don't do that because one or two things are going to happen.

1094
01:03:45.840 --> 01:03:52.360
He's going to really like it and you're going to end up with an imbecile for a husband.

1095
01:03:52.360 --> 01:03:56.680
Don't tell me that doesn't happen because it does and or he's going to hate it and he

1096
01:03:56.680 --> 01:04:01.640
was a good guy and a healthy guy and you don't get a second date or a third date or whatever

1097
01:04:01.640 --> 01:04:05.000
because he's not looking for a mother.

1098
01:04:05.000 --> 01:04:08.000
He's looking for a lover.

1099
01:04:08.000 --> 01:04:14.080
You can show up in your soft lover ness without being seductive or sexual.

1100
01:04:14.080 --> 01:04:16.640
Did you know that?

1101
01:04:16.640 --> 01:04:21.480
You can have a man sitting across the table from you wondering what your hair smells like

1102
01:04:21.480 --> 01:04:24.760
without having a shirt on that's cut down to your belly button.

1103
01:04:24.760 --> 01:04:30.760
In fact, I'm just going to tell you right now, that's not feminine.

1104
01:04:30.760 --> 01:04:33.240
Just showing your goodies is not feminine.

1105
01:04:33.240 --> 01:04:38.020
I mean, yeah, our, our, our breasts make us, they're part of what the feminine form looks

1106
01:04:38.020 --> 01:04:43.600
like and some of us are more endowed in those areas than others, but that's not what the

1107
01:04:43.600 --> 01:04:44.600
feminine looks like.

1108
01:04:44.600 --> 01:04:50.040
And I will tell you men are very visual, but they're not visual the way you think they

1109
01:04:50.040 --> 01:04:51.800
are.

1110
01:04:51.800 --> 01:04:56.800
They're fantastically visual, which means they like to fantasize.

1111
01:04:56.800 --> 01:04:58.000
They like to fantasize.

1112
01:04:58.000 --> 01:05:00.000
That's why porn has been so detrimental.

1113
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:04.540
to the masculine because it takes all fantasy away from it.

1114
01:05:04.540 --> 01:05:06.260
These people are naked, you know,

1115
01:05:06.260 --> 01:05:09.740
they have grotesquely altered bodies, you know,

1116
01:05:09.740 --> 01:05:13.100
yes, it's sexual, but it isn't creative.

1117
01:05:13.100 --> 01:05:14.320
Does that make sense?

1118
01:05:16.420 --> 01:05:18.700
It's not excitingly creative.

1119
01:05:18.700 --> 01:05:22.300
And so what it does is it dumbs a man down.

1120
01:05:24.100 --> 01:05:26.780
It dumbs down his creativity.

1121
01:05:26.780 --> 01:05:29.020
It dumbs down his, cause you know, we've been born,

1122
01:05:29.020 --> 01:05:31.600
we've been created in the image of the creator.

1123
01:05:33.420 --> 01:05:36.340
It dumbs down his desire and his affection.

1124
01:05:36.340 --> 01:05:37.260
It just dumbs it down.

1125
01:05:37.260 --> 01:05:39.640
It makes it very base, very animalistic.

1126
01:05:40.700 --> 01:05:42.260
And we don't want that for our,

1127
01:05:42.260 --> 01:05:44.100
we don't want that for men or women.

1128
01:05:44.100 --> 01:05:47.260
So a good man, a man who's healthy, right?

1129
01:05:47.260 --> 01:05:51.500
He wants to be able to, you know,

1130
01:05:51.500 --> 01:05:54.900
see how pretty you are, how clean you are, you know,

1131
01:05:54.900 --> 01:05:56.860
and just how good you smell.

1132
01:05:56.860 --> 01:06:00.580
And he wants to not imagine, you know, you in, you know,

1133
01:06:00.580 --> 01:06:02.100
sexual positions.

1134
01:06:02.100 --> 01:06:05.260
He wants to imagine what it would be like to, you know,

1135
01:06:05.260 --> 01:06:10.260
touch your hair or kiss your lips or hold your hand.

1136
01:06:11.620 --> 01:06:13.180
Cause that's not old fashioned.

1137
01:06:13.180 --> 01:06:15.200
That's actually the divine masculine.

1138
01:06:17.860 --> 01:06:21.660
He doesn't want everybody else in the place,

1139
01:06:21.660 --> 01:06:24.980
imagining what it would be like to have sex with you

1140
01:06:24.980 --> 01:06:26.680
because of the way you're dressed.

1141
01:06:27.860 --> 01:06:31.140
If you want a man to be imagining what your hair smells like

1142
01:06:31.140 --> 01:06:33.020
and what it would be like to hold your hand,

1143
01:06:33.020 --> 01:06:35.900
don't sit down and present to him what it would be like

1144
01:06:35.900 --> 01:06:37.340
to have intercourse with you.

1145
01:06:39.900 --> 01:06:40.980
There's a difference.

1146
01:06:41.900 --> 01:06:43.220
There's a big difference.

1147
01:06:43.220 --> 01:06:44.060
Okay.

1148
01:06:44.060 --> 01:06:46.460
And there are some men who their egos are really, really,

1149
01:06:46.460 --> 01:06:48.820
really, really, really, really big.

1150
01:06:48.820 --> 01:06:51.180
That love it to have some woman on their arm

1151
01:06:51.180 --> 01:06:53.220
that all the other men in the room are lusting after,

1152
01:06:53.220 --> 01:06:55.300
but that wouldn't be a good man, would it?

1153
01:06:56.300 --> 01:06:58.060
We don't want men like that.

1154
01:07:01.740 --> 01:07:05.540
We want men who, you know, want to treat us, you know,

1155
01:07:05.540 --> 01:07:08.460
the way that we present ourselves.

1156
01:07:08.460 --> 01:07:09.540
Chivalry isn't dead.

1157
01:07:09.540 --> 01:07:11.580
It just went wherever lady likeness went.

1158
01:07:13.460 --> 01:07:14.980
So presenting ourselves as a lady,

1159
01:07:14.980 --> 01:07:15.900
and that doesn't mean, you know,

1160
01:07:15.900 --> 01:07:18.060
wearing like pedophores or something,

1161
01:07:18.060 --> 01:07:19.820
but you guys, men are really attracted

1162
01:07:19.820 --> 01:07:21.980
to women that wear dresses.

1163
01:07:21.980 --> 01:07:23.540
I will tell you that.

1164
01:07:23.540 --> 01:07:26.460
Men like dresses and not just the clingy short ones.

1165
01:07:26.460 --> 01:07:27.780
You know, like I said,

1166
01:07:27.780 --> 01:07:29.300
if you want to make him think about sex,

1167
01:07:29.300 --> 01:07:32.300
then don't be surprised if he acts sexual towards you

1168
01:07:34.220 --> 01:07:35.500
because you're giving him the signal

1169
01:07:35.500 --> 01:07:37.460
that you're okay with that,

1170
01:07:37.460 --> 01:07:39.940
by the way that you're presenting yourself.

1171
01:07:39.940 --> 01:07:41.820
You're presenting yourself sexually.

1172
01:07:41.820 --> 01:07:44.580
I don't agree with this feminist idea of, you know,

1173
01:07:44.580 --> 01:07:46.460
we can dress however we want

1174
01:07:46.460 --> 01:07:48.620
and men aren't allowed to respond to us.

1175
01:07:50.100 --> 01:07:50.940
What?

1176
01:07:51.940 --> 01:07:53.900
We can dress however we want

1177
01:07:53.900 --> 01:07:56.780
and men are supposed to still, you know,

1178
01:07:58.100 --> 01:08:00.060
not be misogynistic?

1179
01:08:00.060 --> 01:08:00.940
No.

1180
01:08:00.940 --> 01:08:03.620
I mean, if you walk outside half naked,

1181
01:08:03.620 --> 01:08:06.660
there's going to be men that didn't have good home training

1182
01:08:06.660 --> 01:08:10.540
that are going to, you know, approach you sexually.

1183
01:08:12.060 --> 01:08:14.540
Now, my son, he sees half naked women all the time,

1184
01:08:14.540 --> 01:08:16.939
but he was raised in a house where his mama

1185
01:08:16.939 --> 01:08:18.180
taught him to respect women,

1186
01:08:18.180 --> 01:08:20.140
even if women don't respect themselves.

1187
01:08:20.140 --> 01:08:21.620
But not all men are like that.

1188
01:08:23.859 --> 01:08:25.819
So if you want a marriage-minded man,

1189
01:08:27.180 --> 01:08:29.380
what's attractive to him is once again,

1190
01:08:29.380 --> 01:08:31.700
going back to the beauty of the feminine,

1191
01:08:31.700 --> 01:08:33.740
the beautiful essence of the feminine,

1192
01:08:33.740 --> 01:08:36.580
a healed, healthy, and whole heart of the feminine.

1193
01:08:36.580 --> 01:08:38.620
If you have disqualified yourself

1194
01:08:38.620 --> 01:08:42.819
from attracting a good looking, healthy hearted man,

1195
01:08:42.819 --> 01:08:44.939
because you feel like you're not that great looking

1196
01:08:44.939 --> 01:08:47.500
on the outside, it's time for you to understand

1197
01:08:47.500 --> 01:08:49.899
that you have more value than your vagina

1198
01:08:50.660 --> 01:08:52.779
or your sexuality, all right?

1199
01:08:52.779 --> 01:08:54.859
You have more to offer.

1200
01:08:54.859 --> 01:08:56.859
Now, if the way that you look on the outside

1201
01:08:56.859 --> 01:09:00.020
is a direct result of you not taking care of yourself,

1202
01:09:00.020 --> 01:09:01.020
that's a problem.

1203
01:09:03.819 --> 01:09:07.939
The divine feminine, she values herself.

1204
01:09:07.939 --> 01:09:09.420
Write that down.

1205
01:09:09.420 --> 01:09:11.500
She values herself.

1206
01:09:11.500 --> 01:09:14.660
She values the gift that she is to humanity.

1207
01:09:16.620 --> 01:09:18.899
The feminine is a gift.

1208
01:09:18.899 --> 01:09:20.740
The masculine is a gift.

1209
01:09:20.740 --> 01:09:22.700
We're God's family, we're God's creation,

1210
01:09:22.700 --> 01:09:24.979
and she values herself that way.

1211
01:09:24.979 --> 01:09:26.300
Some of you guys want to be married,

1212
01:09:26.300 --> 01:09:28.020
but the way you're treating your body,

1213
01:09:28.020 --> 01:09:30.380
you're not expecting your body to need to last

1214
01:09:30.380 --> 01:09:32.300
for another five years.

1215
01:09:32.300 --> 01:09:34.660
You're driving it like a car with no oil in it.

1216
01:09:37.140 --> 01:09:38.899
You're not taking care of yourself.

1217
01:09:42.300 --> 01:09:44.580
You can't have this long, beautiful marriage

1218
01:09:44.580 --> 01:09:47.500
if you can't live long enough to have it.

1219
01:09:49.899 --> 01:09:51.300
If you have health problems

1220
01:09:51.300 --> 01:09:54.140
that are not a direct result of you

1221
01:09:54.140 --> 01:09:56.500
allowing yourself to get worn down,

1222
01:09:56.500 --> 01:10:01.500
and you guys, people play a big part in this.

1223
01:10:00.000 --> 01:10:02.080
Pleasers, I want to go back to that.

1224
01:10:02.080 --> 01:10:03.840
They have a lot of health problems.

1225
01:10:05.480 --> 01:10:08.480
There's a lot of stress that goes into doing something

1226
01:10:08.480 --> 01:10:10.720
for everybody all the time

1227
01:10:10.720 --> 01:10:12.600
and putting yourself last on the list.

1228
01:10:12.600 --> 01:10:14.200
That is not divinely feminine.

1229
01:10:16.640 --> 01:10:18.400
There's a reason why they tell you on the plane

1230
01:10:18.400 --> 01:10:20.360
to put on your own oxygen mask first.

1231
01:10:22.640 --> 01:10:24.600
It's not because they want you to live

1232
01:10:24.600 --> 01:10:26.480
and they're just trying to tell you that.

1233
01:10:26.480 --> 01:10:29.500
No, they're telling you that because they actually know.

1234
01:10:29.540 --> 01:10:31.100
First of all, I'm just going to tell you

1235
01:10:31.100 --> 01:10:33.220
that was added to the planes,

1236
01:10:33.220 --> 01:10:37.340
to like to their spiel that they give us for women.

1237
01:10:37.340 --> 01:10:38.900
It wasn't added for anybody else.

1238
01:10:38.900 --> 01:10:40.460
It was added for women

1239
01:10:40.460 --> 01:10:42.620
because we are the caretaker personalities.

1240
01:10:43.500 --> 01:10:46.780
And they want to make sure that you can help others

1241
01:10:46.780 --> 01:10:48.300
and you can't help others

1242
01:10:48.300 --> 01:10:51.620
if you're passed out from lack of oxygen.

1243
01:10:51.620 --> 01:10:53.740
And so they want you to take a couple minutes

1244
01:10:53.740 --> 01:10:55.560
to put your own oxygen mask on

1245
01:10:55.560 --> 01:10:58.280
so that you can help the children that are with you

1246
01:10:58.280 --> 01:11:01.880
so that you can help the people that are around you

1247
01:11:01.880 --> 01:11:03.760
because they know you're going to

1248
01:11:03.760 --> 01:11:06.520
if you have what you need first.

1249
01:11:07.800 --> 01:11:09.760
That's a whole word for somebody

1250
01:11:09.760 --> 01:11:11.920
and for more than one somebody.

1251
01:11:11.920 --> 01:11:13.560
You can actually help more people

1252
01:11:13.560 --> 01:11:16.600
and you'll actually be able to help them more efficiently

1253
01:11:16.600 --> 01:11:21.040
if you stop helping them out of your reserves

1254
01:11:21.040 --> 01:11:23.440
and you start helping them out of your overflow.

1255
01:11:25.400 --> 01:11:26.720
That's a word for me even.

1256
01:11:29.040 --> 01:11:32.720
You guys busy only became in vogue

1257
01:11:32.720 --> 01:11:34.080
with the feminist movement.

1258
01:11:35.640 --> 01:11:39.040
I can bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan

1259
01:11:39.040 --> 01:11:43.120
and never let you forget I'm a woman, right?

1260
01:11:43.120 --> 01:11:46.520
No, I don't want to bring home the bacon and cook it.

1261
01:11:46.520 --> 01:11:47.640
What are we doing?

1262
01:11:47.640 --> 01:11:48.840
I don't want to do that.

1263
01:11:48.840 --> 01:11:50.240
I don't want to earn the money.

1264
01:11:50.240 --> 01:11:51.920
I don't want to go to the grocery too.

1265
01:11:51.920 --> 01:11:54.160
I don't want to cook the food too.

1266
01:11:54.160 --> 01:11:56.160
It became this glamorous thing

1267
01:11:56.160 --> 01:11:57.720
for women to be overextended.

1268
01:11:58.080 --> 01:12:00.680
You guys busy is not a status symbol.

1269
01:12:00.680 --> 01:12:02.520
Burnout is not a status symbol.

1270
01:12:03.400 --> 01:12:04.680
It isn't.

1271
01:12:04.680 --> 01:12:05.920
I've heard woman after woman.

1272
01:12:05.920 --> 01:12:07.600
I never hear men do this.

1273
01:12:07.600 --> 01:12:10.920
Only women will brag about how packed their schedule is

1274
01:12:10.920 --> 01:12:12.000
and how busy they are.

1275
01:12:13.600 --> 01:12:16.440
Only women will brag about how they've been up since 4 a.m.

1276
01:12:16.440 --> 01:12:17.600
and they've already been to the gym

1277
01:12:17.600 --> 01:12:19.400
and they packed the lunches and they did the things

1278
01:12:19.400 --> 01:12:21.160
and all the blah, blah, blah.

1279
01:12:21.160 --> 01:12:23.080
Only women do that.

1280
01:12:23.080 --> 01:12:26.000
When did we start getting our identity and our worth

1281
01:12:26.000 --> 01:12:29.600
from how many things we could cram into a 18 hour period?

1282
01:12:31.440 --> 01:12:32.560
16 hour period.

1283
01:12:33.400 --> 01:12:34.240
How?

1284
01:12:34.240 --> 01:12:35.080
When?

1285
01:12:39.440 --> 01:12:43.000
You never ever hear someone admiring you

1286
01:12:43.000 --> 01:12:44.480
for how well you rest.

1287
01:12:45.600 --> 01:12:48.920
Oh girl, I'm just so impressed with your resting.

1288
01:12:48.920 --> 01:12:50.040
Oh my gosh.

1289
01:12:50.040 --> 01:12:53.080
You rest better than anybody I've ever seen rest.

1290
01:12:53.080 --> 01:12:54.400
No.

1291
01:12:54.400 --> 01:12:56.680
We admire each other's grind.

1292
01:12:56.680 --> 01:12:59.680
Grind, grind, grind, grind, grind, grind.

1293
01:12:59.680 --> 01:13:00.600
Right?

1294
01:13:00.600 --> 01:13:02.840
That's not feminine, you guys.

1295
01:13:02.840 --> 01:13:03.760
It's not.

1296
01:13:05.720 --> 01:13:07.000
It isn't.

1297
01:13:07.000 --> 01:13:10.240
We have to get into the rhythms of grace.

1298
01:13:10.240 --> 01:13:15.240
So many marriages end because women are overextended.

1299
01:13:16.560 --> 01:13:17.760
And when you get overextended,

1300
01:13:17.760 --> 01:13:19.000
you're gonna get really resentful.

1301
01:13:19.000 --> 01:13:20.600
That's what's gonna happen in a marriage.

1302
01:13:20.600 --> 01:13:24.080
And resentment kills marriages faster than anything else.

1303
01:13:24.760 --> 01:13:25.600
Because you know what we do?

1304
01:13:25.600 --> 01:13:27.280
We, like Martha in the Bible,

1305
01:13:27.280 --> 01:13:28.640
we start doing all this stuff

1306
01:13:28.640 --> 01:13:30.240
and then we start resenting other people

1307
01:13:30.240 --> 01:13:31.800
that aren't moving at our pace.

1308
01:13:34.720 --> 01:13:36.440
Look, my husband would not move fast

1309
01:13:36.440 --> 01:13:39.480
if you lit his butt on fire.

1310
01:13:41.280 --> 01:13:42.720
He wouldn't.

1311
01:13:42.720 --> 01:13:43.920
I'm a fast mover.

1312
01:13:45.880 --> 01:13:47.440
I like to move fast.

1313
01:13:47.440 --> 01:13:50.200
And so it has been a huge learning curve

1314
01:13:50.200 --> 01:13:53.400
for me to be in a relationship, a marriage relationship,

1315
01:13:53.720 --> 01:13:58.720
a covenant with someone who does not value fast.

1316
01:14:01.080 --> 01:14:02.760
He does value accurate.

1317
01:14:04.960 --> 01:14:05.800
Right?

1318
01:14:05.800 --> 01:14:07.120
He does value planning.

1319
01:14:07.120 --> 01:14:08.520
He does value other things.

1320
01:14:08.520 --> 01:14:09.840
He doesn't value fast.

1321
01:14:09.840 --> 01:14:13.200
And so we have really refined each other in a good way.

1322
01:14:13.200 --> 01:14:14.760
And so let's move on to that.

1323
01:14:16.240 --> 01:14:18.360
Okay, so let's talk about dating just a little bit.

1324
01:14:18.360 --> 01:14:19.840
And you guys start putting your questions up

1325
01:14:19.840 --> 01:14:20.680
so we can get them.

1326
01:14:20.680 --> 01:14:22.280
We have about 15 minutes left here.

1327
01:14:23.400 --> 01:14:24.240
So,

1328
01:14:28.440 --> 01:14:30.000
so what does it look like to just walk

1329
01:14:30.000 --> 01:14:31.280
in the divine feminine skin?

1330
01:14:31.280 --> 01:14:33.000
First of all, you have to lean into Holy Spirit

1331
01:14:33.000 --> 01:14:35.000
of what it's gonna look like on you.

1332
01:14:35.000 --> 01:14:36.640
Okay, what's it gonna look like on you?

1333
01:14:36.640 --> 01:14:38.800
I want you all to really grab a hold of that word

1334
01:14:38.800 --> 01:14:40.720
of taking care of yourself.

1335
01:14:40.720 --> 01:14:42.840
You gotta take care of yourself.

1336
01:14:42.840 --> 01:14:44.760
You can't expect someone else to fall in love with you

1337
01:14:44.760 --> 01:14:46.360
until you fall in love with you.

1338
01:14:47.240 --> 01:14:49.040
You're like, oh, that sounds egotistical, Jackie.

1339
01:14:49.040 --> 01:14:49.880
It sounds prideful.

1340
01:14:49.880 --> 01:14:50.720
It sounds vain.

1341
01:14:50.720 --> 01:14:51.960
No.

1342
01:14:52.760 --> 01:14:54.240
Listen, God is not threatened

1343
01:14:54.240 --> 01:14:55.760
by you knowing how amazing you are.

1344
01:14:55.760 --> 01:14:57.200
He already knows how amazing you are.

1345
01:14:57.200 --> 01:14:59.640
You're the one that needs convincing.

1346
01:14:59.640 --> 01:15:00.480
And you don't.

1347
01:15:00.000 --> 01:15:01.260
how you're gonna convince me

1348
01:15:01.260 --> 01:15:02.720
that you really believe you're amazing

1349
01:15:02.720 --> 01:15:04.760
about how you take care of yourself.

1350
01:15:06.260 --> 01:15:07.880
We take care of the things that we value.

1351
01:15:07.880 --> 01:15:10.440
We have passwords, we have locks,

1352
01:15:10.440 --> 01:15:14.480
we have safety deposit boxes at banks.

1353
01:15:14.480 --> 01:15:15.840
That's where we put the real valuables.

1354
01:15:15.840 --> 01:15:19.160
We have SAFEs, we have boundaries

1355
01:15:19.160 --> 01:15:21.240
around the things that we think are valuable.

1356
01:15:21.240 --> 01:15:23.560
And so if you are not living with boundaries,

1357
01:15:23.560 --> 01:15:27.000
then you do not think that what you are,

1358
01:15:27.000 --> 01:15:29.200
which is the divine feminine, is valuable.

1359
01:15:30.040 --> 01:15:31.960
If you're just allowing people to use it and abuse it

1360
01:15:31.960 --> 01:15:33.800
and take advantage of it and overextend it,

1361
01:15:33.800 --> 01:15:36.600
and you are helping them do that by saying yes,

1362
01:15:36.600 --> 01:15:38.840
or you are helping other people do that

1363
01:15:38.840 --> 01:15:40.880
by not knowing your limitations.

1364
01:15:40.880 --> 01:15:41.920
You guys, it's not about time.

1365
01:15:41.920 --> 01:15:44.440
I know that there's 24 hours in a day.

1366
01:15:44.440 --> 01:15:45.480
And a lot of people will be like,

1367
01:15:45.480 --> 01:15:46.320
hey, you know what?

1368
01:15:46.320 --> 01:15:47.540
People do what they wanna do.

1369
01:15:47.540 --> 01:15:49.120
They get it done because there's 24 hours

1370
01:15:49.120 --> 01:15:51.220
and everyone has 24 hours in their day.

1371
01:15:51.220 --> 01:15:52.420
No, it's about capacity.

1372
01:15:52.420 --> 01:15:53.580
It's not about time.

1373
01:15:54.880 --> 01:15:56.760
We don't all have the same capacity.

1374
01:15:58.000 --> 01:15:59.440
And in different seasons of your life,

1375
01:15:59.800 --> 01:16:00.640
you have different capacity.

1376
01:16:00.640 --> 01:16:03.080
And so you have to do capacity management well.

1377
01:16:03.080 --> 01:16:04.240
And I want you to pray into this.

1378
01:16:04.240 --> 01:16:06.120
This is your homework for group.

1379
01:16:06.120 --> 01:16:09.440
I wanna know, what are you gonna change?

1380
01:16:09.440 --> 01:16:11.960
How are you gonna start valuing yourselves?

1381
01:16:11.960 --> 01:16:14.280
How are you gonna carve out time for yourself?

1382
01:16:14.280 --> 01:16:15.840
How are you gonna start saying no to others

1383
01:16:15.840 --> 01:16:19.080
so you can say yes to God and to yourself?

1384
01:16:19.080 --> 01:16:20.160
You know, these are important things.

1385
01:16:20.160 --> 01:16:21.000
Some of you are single

1386
01:16:21.000 --> 01:16:23.280
because you're not saying yes to God and yourself.

1387
01:16:23.280 --> 01:16:25.320
You're saying yes to all kinds of other things

1388
01:16:25.320 --> 01:16:27.840
that you've been filling the void of not having a spouse.

1389
01:16:27.840 --> 01:16:30.720
Do you see how that's one big, ugly, crazy catch-22?

1390
01:16:31.640 --> 01:16:35.080
God is asking you to give up, to prune, to let go of

1391
01:16:36.160 --> 01:16:38.000
so you can say yes to him and to yourself

1392
01:16:38.000 --> 01:16:39.960
so you can take better care of yourself

1393
01:16:39.960 --> 01:16:42.160
and get into the rhythms of grace.

1394
01:16:42.160 --> 01:16:45.280
But because you don't like the feeling of empty,

1395
01:16:45.280 --> 01:16:46.640
even though empty is an invitation

1396
01:16:46.640 --> 01:16:48.080
to bigger and better things,

1397
01:16:48.080 --> 01:16:52.020
you continue to shove things in those spaces,

1398
01:16:52.020 --> 01:16:56.900
ignoring pruning, ignoring making room and making space.

1399
01:16:56.900 --> 01:16:59.540
And so you don't get the spouse,

1400
01:16:59.540 --> 01:17:01.260
you don't get the man, right?

1401
01:17:01.260 --> 01:17:02.860
Not because God's withholding it from you,

1402
01:17:02.860 --> 01:17:05.500
because there's simply no room for him to come.

1403
01:17:07.980 --> 01:17:09.340
There isn't.

1404
01:17:09.340 --> 01:17:11.180
I can't tell you how many people joined this course

1405
01:17:11.180 --> 01:17:13.660
because God led them here divinely and they know he did.

1406
01:17:13.660 --> 01:17:15.240
They have all kinds of crazy stories,

1407
01:17:15.240 --> 01:17:17.260
how they found out about me,

1408
01:17:17.260 --> 01:17:20.200
crazy mystical matchmaking Nanny McPhee over here.

1409
01:17:20.200 --> 01:17:22.140
And they don't do the course.

1410
01:17:22.140 --> 01:17:23.500
They don't show up.

1411
01:17:24.580 --> 01:17:25.420
They don't show up.

1412
01:17:25.420 --> 01:17:26.260
Go ahead and just go ahead

1413
01:17:26.260 --> 01:17:28.380
and give yourself a hand for showing up.

1414
01:17:28.380 --> 01:17:31.140
You're here, you're showing up, you're making space.

1415
01:17:32.320 --> 01:17:33.740
You're letting God speak to you.

1416
01:17:33.740 --> 01:17:35.400
And yeah, it's not, it's uncomfortable

1417
01:17:35.400 --> 01:17:37.180
because we're still in the pruning

1418
01:17:37.180 --> 01:17:39.820
and still in the stretching part of what we're doing.

1419
01:17:40.740 --> 01:17:42.340
Because we're single for a reason.

1420
01:17:42.340 --> 01:17:45.340
It's not because there are no good men left in the earth.

1421
01:17:45.340 --> 01:17:47.140
We have hundreds and hundreds and hundreds and hundreds

1422
01:17:47.140 --> 01:17:49.340
of success stories to prove that differently, okay?

1423
01:17:49.340 --> 01:17:51.020
And you're gonna be one of them.

1424
01:17:51.020 --> 01:17:52.880
And it's gonna look different for all of you.

1425
01:17:52.880 --> 01:17:54.100
So let me tell you a little story.

1426
01:17:54.140 --> 01:17:56.940
When I first started matchmaking officially professionally,

1427
01:17:56.940 --> 01:17:59.700
because I've always been doing it unprofessionally.

1428
01:17:59.700 --> 01:18:00.820
And I don't mean unprofessionally,

1429
01:18:00.820 --> 01:18:03.980
I just mean informally in my life and my friend group,

1430
01:18:03.980 --> 01:18:05.140
you know, with all my friends.

1431
01:18:05.140 --> 01:18:07.580
In fact, I counted, I always say 15,

1432
01:18:07.580 --> 01:18:08.860
but I counted a couple more.

1433
01:18:08.860 --> 01:18:11.460
Like, I think that's more like 17 of my friends

1434
01:18:11.460 --> 01:18:12.340
I helped get married.

1435
01:18:12.340 --> 01:18:14.300
Okay, you forget.

1436
01:18:14.300 --> 01:18:16.260
I do it so often that I'm just like, whatever.

1437
01:18:16.260 --> 01:18:21.180
So when I first started doing this formally back in 2020,

1438
01:18:21.380 --> 01:18:24.820
I had this guy and he's just getting married right now.

1439
01:18:24.820 --> 01:18:28.180
He's getting married in a couple of weeks.

1440
01:18:28.180 --> 01:18:31.620
But anyway, I introduced him to two girls.

1441
01:18:31.620 --> 01:18:33.560
Because remember, I really believe in low stakes.

1442
01:18:33.560 --> 01:18:35.540
I believe in getting to know people,

1443
01:18:35.540 --> 01:18:37.580
you know, getting to know yourself, all the things.

1444
01:18:37.580 --> 01:18:39.820
So I introduced him to two different girls.

1445
01:18:39.820 --> 01:18:42.500
They're both in my mind equally attractive.

1446
01:18:43.500 --> 01:18:45.060
But one of the girls, get this,

1447
01:18:45.060 --> 01:18:49.460
was a girl that he saw on a dating app years before.

1448
01:18:49.460 --> 01:18:50.900
And when he went to talk to her,

1449
01:18:51.620 --> 01:18:52.460
she disappeared.

1450
01:18:53.500 --> 01:18:54.460
And he couldn't find her.

1451
01:18:54.460 --> 01:18:55.740
And he was really interested.

1452
01:18:55.740 --> 01:18:56.860
Like he loved her bio.

1453
01:18:56.860 --> 01:18:58.740
Like he was really interested.

1454
01:18:58.740 --> 01:19:00.740
It was a kind of like a community-based dating app

1455
01:19:00.740 --> 01:19:02.580
from some ministry that he had been part of.

1456
01:19:02.580 --> 01:19:04.340
And he couldn't, he didn't know what her name was.

1457
01:19:04.340 --> 01:19:05.620
He didn't remember.

1458
01:19:05.620 --> 01:19:07.300
And so when he became my client,

1459
01:19:07.300 --> 01:19:08.860
I presented him with two options

1460
01:19:08.860 --> 01:19:10.540
of two different girls to get to know.

1461
01:19:10.540 --> 01:19:13.980
And the girl, the mystery girl that he lost track of

1462
01:19:13.980 --> 01:19:16.180
a couple of years earlier was one of the girls.

1463
01:19:16.180 --> 01:19:18.900
What are the odds of that y'all, right?

1464
01:19:18.900 --> 01:19:21.100
Come on, crazy.

1465
01:19:21.100 --> 01:19:22.340
And so I immediately,

1466
01:19:22.340 --> 01:19:23.740
cause I knew both of them,

1467
01:19:23.740 --> 01:19:25.140
I immediately was like, yeah,

1468
01:19:25.140 --> 01:19:26.220
he's really gonna be into her.

1469
01:19:26.220 --> 01:19:27.420
This could really be a match.

1470
01:19:27.420 --> 01:19:29.180
This could be a God thing.

1471
01:19:29.180 --> 01:19:31.900
So he started getting to know both of the girls

1472
01:19:31.900 --> 01:19:33.540
and he's a very,

1473
01:19:33.540 --> 01:19:37.220
he's a man who's very, has a lot of integrity.

1474
01:19:37.220 --> 01:19:39.380
And after just maybe two or three conversations

1475
01:19:39.380 --> 01:19:41.580
because both of them were long distance girls,

1476
01:19:41.580 --> 01:19:44.620
he informed me that he only wanted to talk to,

1477
01:19:44.620 --> 01:19:47.780
he wanted to go ahead and focus all of his attention

1478
01:19:47.780 --> 01:19:48.620
in his visiting.

1479
01:19:48.620 --> 01:19:50.740
Cause he was about to go and fly and visit

1480
01:19:50.740 --> 01:19:53.060
the one girl that was not the mystery girl.

1481
01:19:54.100 --> 01:19:58.380
And I was so like, whoa, excuse me.

1482
01:19:58.380 --> 01:19:59.620
I was like,

1483
01:19:59.620 --> 01:20:00.460
I couldn't.

1484
01:20:00.000 --> 01:20:05.020
believe it. And so I was like, why? I said, this is a girl that

1485
01:20:05.020 --> 01:20:07.940
you were looking for. You have so much in common with her. I

1486
01:20:07.940 --> 01:20:10.780
know that you really enjoy the couple conversations you've had

1487
01:20:10.780 --> 01:20:15.180
with her. He goes, Oh, I did. He goes, she's terrific. He's like,

1488
01:20:15.180 --> 01:20:17.940
she's everything that I thought she would be in more. I said,

1489
01:20:17.940 --> 01:20:23.400
so why are you choosing to put all of your eggs in this

1490
01:20:23.400 --> 01:20:27.260
basket? Why are you choosing to, you know, fly and meet this girl

1491
01:20:27.260 --> 01:20:32.440
instead? He said, because this girl is showing me that she's

1492
01:20:32.440 --> 01:20:37.700
really open and she's ready. And she likes me and this girl's

1493
01:20:37.700 --> 01:20:40.320
not. And I'm said, okay, so explain to me what that looks

1494
01:20:40.320 --> 01:20:45.980
like. He said, this girl is only, is only talking to me when

1495
01:20:45.980 --> 01:20:49.620
I talk to her is only answering my questions. She's not asking

1496
01:20:49.620 --> 01:20:53.960
any of her own. It's like, she's waiting there for me to

1497
01:20:54.000 --> 01:20:58.280
initiate everything. She's not reciprocating. I'm at the same

1498
01:20:58.280 --> 01:21:03.680
level. And she's also not initiating anything. This girl

1499
01:21:03.840 --> 01:21:08.600
is happy to see me. This girl is making it very obvious that she

1500
01:21:08.640 --> 01:21:13.080
is liking getting to know me. This girl is even initiating

1501
01:21:13.080 --> 01:21:17.400
sometimes and texting me before I text her. And I was like, so

1502
01:21:17.440 --> 01:21:22.000
this girl likes me. I like this girl. She would be more my type,

1503
01:21:22.320 --> 01:21:24.760
but I think I'm going to like the person that likes me

1504
01:21:24.800 --> 01:21:31.840
instead. And so I talked to this girl after he told her that he

1505
01:21:31.840 --> 01:21:34.480
was going to fully focus on another relationship. And she

1506
01:21:34.480 --> 01:21:39.940
was devastated. She was so upset. And I was like, why are

1507
01:21:39.940 --> 01:21:42.880
you upset about this? He said that you didn't act like you

1508
01:21:42.880 --> 01:21:46.400
liked him. And she said, whole bunch of religious rhetoric,

1509
01:21:46.400 --> 01:21:48.920
y'all. And I need you to break out of that right now. Well, I

1510
01:21:48.920 --> 01:21:51.720
was just letting him lead. I was just letting him initiate men

1511
01:21:51.720 --> 01:21:53.920
are supposed to be the ones that do this and that and all

1512
01:21:53.920 --> 01:21:59.000
these stuff, just let it go. That is not true. It is not

1513
01:21:59.000 --> 01:22:01.980
true. You never want to chase a man, you never want to try to

1514
01:22:01.980 --> 01:22:04.440
manipulate or seduce a man that's not that into you. You

1515
01:22:04.440 --> 01:22:08.320
don't want to try to convince him to like you. Okay, but if

1516
01:22:08.320 --> 01:22:11.560
there is, you know, mutual attraction with someone you need

1517
01:22:11.560 --> 01:22:14.160
to initiate to if you want to, if you want to talk to someone,

1518
01:22:14.160 --> 01:22:16.600
don't wait for them to talk to you first. If you're already in

1519
01:22:16.600 --> 01:22:20.280
a talking relationship, you talk to them. You know, the divine

1520
01:22:20.280 --> 01:22:22.560
feminine doesn't look like she's sitting around waiting to

1521
01:22:22.560 --> 01:22:26.600
be fed bonbons by some man. Another story, case in point of

1522
01:22:26.600 --> 01:22:29.280
what the divine feminine does not look like. I have another

1523
01:22:29.280 --> 01:22:34.160
student who several men told me this, not just one, but when

1524
01:22:34.160 --> 01:22:39.280
they went on dates with her, she would stand on her side of the

1525
01:22:39.280 --> 01:22:43.080
car and just stand there until they came over and opened her

1526
01:22:43.080 --> 01:22:46.560
door. So they had already gotten in the car and we're sitting

1527
01:22:46.560 --> 01:22:49.760
down because not all men open doors. Y'all not all men have

1528
01:22:49.760 --> 01:22:52.840
been raised that way. They don't think that way. It'd be nice if

1529
01:22:52.840 --> 01:22:55.320
they did that. I'll just be honest. I don't like my door

1530
01:22:55.320 --> 01:22:58.240
open for me because I like things done fast. My husband's

1531
01:22:58.240 --> 01:23:01.320
super slow and I just want to get in the stinking car. Okay.

1532
01:23:01.320 --> 01:23:04.320
It's hot in Texas. I'm not trying to wait for him to open

1533
01:23:04.320 --> 01:23:07.280
my door. I get it. I understand why it's a thing from a bygone

1534
01:23:07.280 --> 01:23:10.920
era, but she would just stand there and they, you know, they,

1535
01:23:10.960 --> 01:23:13.600
they're like, Oh, well I unlocked her door, you know, and

1536
01:23:13.600 --> 01:23:16.640
I kind of opened it so she could get in. She would not get in the

1537
01:23:16.640 --> 01:23:20.960
car until they got out of the car and came around and let her

1538
01:23:20.960 --> 01:23:26.960
in the car. Y'all that's just too much. Come on. What? No,

1539
01:23:27.200 --> 01:23:29.880
it's one thing. If someone else is in the same type of old

1540
01:23:29.880 --> 01:23:32.560
fashioned mindset as you have opening your car and pulling out

1541
01:23:32.560 --> 01:23:35.840
your chair. I even know a guy who will stand up at the table.

1542
01:23:35.960 --> 01:23:38.600
If a woman gets up to leave the table for any reason, he will

1543
01:23:38.600 --> 01:23:44.440
stand up. That's great. It's not necessary. I don't personally

1544
01:23:44.480 --> 01:23:48.400
need it. And if you need it, then you better let someone know

1545
01:23:48.400 --> 01:23:50.800
that when you first meet them, Hey, I'm really old fashioned. I

1546
01:23:50.800 --> 01:23:55.280
like my doors open, put it in your dating profile. If you have

1547
01:23:55.280 --> 01:23:57.480
to have it and you don't think that you're being treated like a

1548
01:23:57.480 --> 01:24:01.160
lady, if you don't have it, most men nowadays will think that

1549
01:24:01.160 --> 01:24:04.960
you're pretty high maintenance. Okay. And high maintenance is

1550
01:24:04.960 --> 01:24:08.600
not the divine feminine. Low maintenance is also not the

1551
01:24:08.600 --> 01:24:12.680
divine feminine. And women that tell me, Oh, I'm really low

1552
01:24:12.680 --> 01:24:15.200
maintenance. You know, I don't, you know, I don't get manicures

1553
01:24:15.200 --> 01:24:18.320
or pedicures or, you know, I, you know, I don't put any

1554
01:24:18.320 --> 01:24:21.080
investment into my hair. I was wearing a ponytail or I do this

1555
01:24:21.080 --> 01:24:23.560
or I do that, or in relationship, I don't need much

1556
01:24:23.560 --> 01:24:26.040
from a guy, you know, I don't, you know, I don't need him to

1557
01:24:26.040 --> 01:24:28.280
pay the bill or I don't need him to do this. Low maintenance is

1558
01:24:28.280 --> 01:24:33.160
another way of saying that you don't value yourself. And so you

1559
01:24:33.160 --> 01:24:36.680
don't expect anyone else to value you either. Right? It's

1560
01:24:36.680 --> 01:24:39.960
okay to be a tomboy. It's okay to not want to have on fake

1561
01:24:39.960 --> 01:24:43.960
fingernails and, you know, hair extensions or whatever it is

1562
01:24:43.960 --> 01:24:46.120
that you think is high maintenance, but you have to

1563
01:24:46.120 --> 01:24:51.520
show up in a way that makes that man know that you are here to be

1564
01:24:51.520 --> 01:24:56.040
respected and that he should respect you. All right. So if

1565
01:24:56.040 --> 01:24:58.640
you're old fashioned and you really believe that men should

1566
01:24:58.640 --> 01:24:59.960
do all the things.

1567
01:25:00.000 --> 01:25:05.000
at least reciprocate attention at the same level

1568
01:25:05.360 --> 01:25:07.520
that you're getting it, okay?

1569
01:25:07.520 --> 01:25:10.280
If you're not willing to initiate anything at all,

1570
01:25:10.280 --> 01:25:12.240
then at least reciprocate at the same level

1571
01:25:12.240 --> 01:25:14.280
or the same pace, or you could find yourself

1572
01:25:14.280 --> 01:25:17.240
in that girl's situation where he picked the other girl

1573
01:25:17.240 --> 01:25:18.880
because he really just didn't believe

1574
01:25:18.880 --> 01:25:21.960
that she was that interested, all right?

1575
01:25:21.960 --> 01:25:25.200
So we wanna be careful with that, right?

1576
01:25:25.280 --> 01:25:29.920
Do we have any questions?

1577
01:25:32.720 --> 01:25:35.280
And ladies, trauma will make us all this list

1578
01:25:35.280 --> 01:25:39.440
that I gave us, hard, no fun, no sense of humor,

1579
01:25:39.440 --> 01:25:41.520
rigid, frigid, controlling.

1580
01:25:41.520 --> 01:25:44.160
You guys, my husband sometimes makes very,

1581
01:25:45.240 --> 01:25:46.720
I don't wanna say they're inappropriate,

1582
01:25:46.720 --> 01:25:48.920
but kind of sophomore humor jokes.

1583
01:25:48.920 --> 01:25:50.060
He has since I met him.

1584
01:25:50.060 --> 01:25:51.840
He's an amazing, great guy.

1585
01:25:51.840 --> 01:25:53.660
Men have a tendency to have a little boy

1586
01:25:53.660 --> 01:25:56.580
that lives inside of them that thinks things

1587
01:25:56.580 --> 01:25:58.060
that are not funny are funny.

1588
01:25:58.060 --> 01:25:59.620
And if you like sophomoric humor,

1589
01:25:59.620 --> 01:26:02.540
you like bathroom humor, you like that kind of stuff,

1590
01:26:02.540 --> 01:26:04.100
then that's good, good on you.

1591
01:26:04.100 --> 01:26:05.460
I'm not grossed out by it,

1592
01:26:05.460 --> 01:26:07.460
but I also don't think it's that funny.

1593
01:26:07.460 --> 01:26:10.700
But if you always get offended when someone,

1594
01:26:12.620 --> 01:26:15.900
women have a tendency of getting really easily offended

1595
01:26:15.900 --> 01:26:20.620
when a man is being like a little immature

1596
01:26:20.660 --> 01:26:25.660
sophomoric with his humor or with whatever, don't do that.

1597
01:26:25.940 --> 01:26:27.500
You can not find something funny

1598
01:26:27.500 --> 01:26:31.280
and still not be rigid, right?

1599
01:26:32.380 --> 01:26:37.380
My MO is I usually am like, ew, I'm like, ew.

1600
01:26:39.820 --> 01:26:44.380
Yeah, ha ha, funny, just whatever.

1601
01:26:44.380 --> 01:26:46.780
Now, if it's racist, if it's bigoted,

1602
01:26:46.780 --> 01:26:48.960
if it's something that's completely off color,

1603
01:26:49.040 --> 01:26:51.640
then you see that that's yellow flag.

1604
01:26:51.640 --> 01:26:54.160
They might not understand that that's inappropriate

1605
01:26:54.160 --> 01:26:56.640
and wrong for them to be repeating

1606
01:26:56.640 --> 01:26:57.840
or saying whatever they're saying,

1607
01:26:57.840 --> 01:26:59.600
and that's like a whole different story.

1608
01:26:59.600 --> 01:27:04.420
But men are men, they're not women,

1609
01:27:04.420 --> 01:27:06.440
and we don't want them to be women.

1610
01:27:06.440 --> 01:27:09.660
And they think different things

1611
01:27:09.660 --> 01:27:11.400
about different things than we do,

1612
01:27:11.400 --> 01:27:13.760
but we don't have to be stuck up, right?

1613
01:27:13.760 --> 01:27:16.180
We don't have to have a stick up our butts.

1614
01:27:16.180 --> 01:27:18.800
Men do not like rigid women.

1615
01:27:19.640 --> 01:27:22.920
Rigidity is not the divine feminine, just so you know.

1616
01:27:22.920 --> 01:27:25.320
It's not, it's not the divine feminine.

1617
01:27:25.320 --> 01:27:27.000
So, and a lot of times women,

1618
01:27:27.000 --> 01:27:30.160
especially religious women will be extremely rigid

1619
01:27:30.160 --> 01:27:31.560
and don't know how to have fun,

1620
01:27:31.560 --> 01:27:33.040
don't know how to laugh at themselves,

1621
01:27:33.040 --> 01:27:35.600
don't know how to laugh at others, okay?

1622
01:27:35.600 --> 01:27:38.880
Also, ladies, controlling, inflexible.

1623
01:27:38.880 --> 01:27:40.800
One of my bestest friends in the world,

1624
01:27:40.800 --> 01:27:44.440
I hate traveling with her because if anything goes

1625
01:27:44.440 --> 01:27:47.340
not according to her plan, she just can't handle it.

1626
01:27:49.440 --> 01:27:52.040
Once we had to wait for two hours at the car dealership

1627
01:27:52.040 --> 01:27:53.640
because they didn't, not the car dealership,

1628
01:27:53.640 --> 01:27:55.440
the car rental place or whatever,

1629
01:27:55.440 --> 01:27:59.880
like she couldn't handle the timeline being thrown off.

1630
01:27:59.880 --> 01:28:00.880
You know, she has a plan.

1631
01:28:00.880 --> 01:28:03.400
She wants the plan to be the way that it is, you know?

1632
01:28:03.400 --> 01:28:05.880
One time, you know, I'm a really spontaneous person.

1633
01:28:05.880 --> 01:28:08.280
So I'm like, hey, you know, let's go here

1634
01:28:08.280 --> 01:28:09.280
and then we'll just figure out

1635
01:28:09.280 --> 01:28:10.960
where we're going to stay when we get there.

1636
01:28:10.960 --> 01:28:12.080
It's only a two hour drive.

1637
01:28:12.080 --> 01:28:13.440
It's only two hours away from where we live.

1638
01:28:13.440 --> 01:28:14.600
She didn't want to do that.

1639
01:28:14.600 --> 01:28:16.080
She wanted to know where we were going to stay

1640
01:28:16.080 --> 01:28:17.240
before we got there.

1641
01:28:17.240 --> 01:28:19.640
She didn't want to find a hotel once we got there.

1642
01:28:19.640 --> 01:28:23.160
Guys, you have to be able to be spontaneous in life.

1643
01:28:23.160 --> 01:28:25.360
You don't have to always be spontaneous,

1644
01:28:25.360 --> 01:28:27.600
but if you're not flexible, if you're rigid,

1645
01:28:27.600 --> 01:28:31.000
if you can't recover, if things don't go your way,

1646
01:28:31.000 --> 01:28:32.380
then that's control.

1647
01:28:40.080 --> 01:28:42.400
You don't want to be controlling.

1648
01:28:42.400 --> 01:28:43.920
There's people, people are posting.

1649
01:28:43.920 --> 01:28:46.420
So if you guys want to read each other's comments.

1650
01:28:47.480 --> 01:28:48.320
Boring.

1651
01:28:50.000 --> 01:28:52.240
A lot of times women come across as really boring

1652
01:28:52.240 --> 01:28:53.680
and we're about to end right now.

1653
01:28:53.680 --> 01:28:55.560
So put up any questions that you have.

1654
01:28:55.560 --> 01:28:57.480
A lot of women come across as boring

1655
01:28:57.480 --> 01:28:59.240
because all they've been doing is waiting

1656
01:28:59.240 --> 01:29:00.960
to like meet a man and get married

1657
01:29:00.960 --> 01:29:03.040
and they don't have any interests of their own.

1658
01:29:03.040 --> 01:29:05.440
They don't have anything going on of their own.

1659
01:29:05.440 --> 01:29:07.440
They don't think of anything.

1660
01:29:07.440 --> 01:29:08.920
They don't know anything.

1661
01:29:08.920 --> 01:29:11.880
They haven't read anything or gone anywhere.

1662
01:29:11.880 --> 01:29:13.280
Don't be one of those women.

1663
01:29:14.280 --> 01:29:17.600
My goal for you is that you would love your single life

1664
01:29:17.600 --> 01:29:20.280
and desire someone to share it with.

1665
01:29:21.560 --> 01:29:22.520
Your life is right now.

1666
01:29:22.520 --> 01:29:25.240
It's not when you get married, it's right now.

1667
01:29:25.240 --> 01:29:28.000
And so it's time for you to discover who you are,

1668
01:29:28.000 --> 01:29:29.360
what you want, what you don't want,

1669
01:29:29.360 --> 01:29:31.320
where you're going, where you're not.

1670
01:29:31.320 --> 01:29:33.200
It's time for you to discover that.

1671
01:29:33.200 --> 01:29:35.280
That way you'd be very interesting

1672
01:29:35.280 --> 01:29:37.120
to a possible spirit mate.

1673
01:29:37.120 --> 01:29:38.120
Don't be boring.

1674
01:29:39.680 --> 01:29:41.880
Suspicious, it's not cool.

1675
01:29:41.880 --> 01:29:42.800
Don't be suspicious.

1676
01:29:43.320 --> 01:29:44.960
Use your intuition, use it with Holy Spirit.

1677
01:29:44.960 --> 01:29:46.480
Don't, no gift to suspicion.

1678
01:29:46.480 --> 01:29:48.040
There's not such a thing.

1679
01:29:48.040 --> 01:29:50.880
So if your intuition has now turned to suspicion,

1680
01:29:50.880 --> 01:29:52.720
it's because you're got some trauma,

1681
01:29:52.720 --> 01:29:54.280
you got some hurt, got some brokenness.

1682
01:29:54.280 --> 01:29:55.560
Let's deal with that.

1683
01:29:55.560 --> 01:29:56.840
Don't be overextended.

1684
01:29:56.840 --> 01:29:59.160
Please manage your capacity.

1685
01:29:59.160 --> 01:30:00.400
Don't be self-sufficient.

1686
01:30:00.000 --> 01:30:01.000
Don't be hyper-independent.

1687
01:30:01.000 --> 01:30:06.360
You guys, I fly a lot and I promise you women, these little women get on these planes and

1688
01:30:06.360 --> 01:30:09.560
they cannot put these suitcases in the overhead bin.

1689
01:30:09.560 --> 01:30:15.080
And I have yet to see a woman who is thankful for the men that helped them do it.

1690
01:30:15.080 --> 01:30:20.560
You know, some random man, man just is like, Oh, little woman can't put it up, you know,

1691
01:30:20.560 --> 01:30:21.560
put it up.

1692
01:30:21.560 --> 01:30:23.640
And she couldn't, she's like trying forever to get it up there.

1693
01:30:23.640 --> 01:30:28.240
Cause she's like all of five, two with a heavy suitcase.

1694
01:30:28.240 --> 01:30:30.360
And it's almost like they just look at them, they just glare at them.

1695
01:30:30.360 --> 01:30:35.600
Like, you know, like nobody asked for your help.

1696
01:30:35.600 --> 01:30:36.740
Nobody needed to ask for help.

1697
01:30:36.740 --> 01:30:38.840
It's okay to ask for help though.

1698
01:30:38.840 --> 01:30:40.000
It's okay for you to ask for help.

1699
01:30:40.000 --> 01:30:42.580
It's okay for you not to be able to do things yourself.

1700
01:30:42.580 --> 01:30:46.360
And so part of the homework besides showing up and letting me know what you're coming

1701
01:30:46.360 --> 01:30:50.200
out of agreement with, you know, what are the, what are some of the ways that you feel

1702
01:30:50.200 --> 01:30:53.520
like you've been operating in the broken or curse feminine?

1703
01:30:53.520 --> 01:30:54.520
What's that look like?

1704
01:30:54.520 --> 01:30:55.520
Let's get honest.

1705
01:30:55.520 --> 01:30:56.520
Let's confess.

1706
01:30:56.520 --> 01:31:01.880
Let's get on, you know, all of those things.

1707
01:31:01.880 --> 01:31:08.880
Besides that, I want you to be willing to ask for help specifically from a man.

1708
01:31:08.880 --> 01:31:09.880
Can you reach that for me?

1709
01:31:09.880 --> 01:31:15.000
You're at the grocery store, random man's walking by, Hey, can you get that for me?

1710
01:31:15.000 --> 01:31:16.440
You're checking out the grocery store.

1711
01:31:16.440 --> 01:31:21.120
Hey, you know, could you, you know, could you double bag that for me?

1712
01:31:21.120 --> 01:31:26.480
Or could you, you know, whatever it is, ask a man to do something for you.

1713
01:31:26.480 --> 01:31:31.040
Extra than whatever they would normally do.

1714
01:31:31.040 --> 01:31:32.040
Do it.

1715
01:31:32.040 --> 01:31:33.040
It feels good.

1716
01:31:33.040 --> 01:31:34.560
You're going to like it.

1717
01:31:34.560 --> 01:31:35.560
You need it.

1718
01:31:35.560 --> 01:31:37.880
You need to let men start helping you.

1719
01:31:37.880 --> 01:31:38.880
You need to, you know what else you can do?

1720
01:31:38.880 --> 01:31:40.960
You can ask a man for his opinion.

1721
01:31:40.960 --> 01:31:42.680
You can ask a man for advice.

1722
01:31:42.680 --> 01:31:43.800
Men love that.

1723
01:31:43.800 --> 01:31:44.800
You know why?

1724
01:31:44.800 --> 01:31:47.880
Because they want to protect and provide and cover.

1725
01:31:47.880 --> 01:31:51.480
They want to, it's intrinsically in them to do that inside.

1726
01:31:51.480 --> 01:31:56.400
Every man is a little boy that wants to please a woman and essentially wants to please mom

1727
01:31:57.320 --> 01:32:00.680
So depending on what that relationship looked like, the other thing that I want to tell

1728
01:32:00.680 --> 01:32:04.360
you is that let's go just real quickly to gender roles.

1729
01:32:04.360 --> 01:32:06.200
A lot of you, I want you to raise your hand.

1730
01:32:06.200 --> 01:32:09.000
If you are expecting, please just be honest right this minute, because this is going to

1731
01:32:09.000 --> 01:32:11.780
be a very telling moment for you and a healing moment.

1732
01:32:11.780 --> 01:32:15.120
If you'll allow it to be, I want you to raise your hand.

1733
01:32:15.120 --> 01:32:21.320
If you're expecting to marry a man who can financially provide for you, like that's what

1734
01:32:21.320 --> 01:32:23.280
you want him to financially provide.

1735
01:32:23.280 --> 01:32:25.240
You want him to be the bigger paycheck.

1736
01:32:25.240 --> 01:32:29.480
You want him to financially be able to, like if you didn't want to work or you wanted to

1737
01:32:29.480 --> 01:32:33.640
stay home with babies or whatever it is that you wanted to do, even if you're past that

1738
01:32:33.640 --> 01:32:35.040
age, you're not staying home with babies.

1739
01:32:35.040 --> 01:32:42.680
You still want him to have finances in order to, you know, not just finances, but finances

1740
01:32:42.680 --> 01:32:50.640
more than you, better than you, all the things and, and, and keep your hands up, but raise

1741
01:32:50.640 --> 01:32:51.960
your hand ladies.

1742
01:32:51.960 --> 01:32:58.400
If you think that's the masculine's responsibility, like they're the provider and that's how you

1743
01:32:58.400 --> 01:32:59.880
have interpreted that.

1744
01:32:59.880 --> 01:33:02.080
You think that that's what that means.

1745
01:33:02.080 --> 01:33:03.080
Okay.

1746
01:33:03.080 --> 01:33:07.920
That's when I married my husband, he was in full-time ministry at a megachurch and he

1747
01:33:07.920 --> 01:33:10.480
only made like $42,000 a year.

1748
01:33:10.480 --> 01:33:13.900
Two months after I married him, he lost his job.

1749
01:33:13.900 --> 01:33:17.840
They had some huge scandal and lawsuit at that ministry and they were fined like over

1750
01:33:17.840 --> 01:33:18.840
a million dollars.

1751
01:33:18.840 --> 01:33:21.600
They started cutting people, all kinds of things happened.

1752
01:33:21.600 --> 01:33:23.240
He had worked there for 15 years.

1753
01:33:23.240 --> 01:33:28.840
He had, he was very, very much a part of the core team at that church.

1754
01:33:28.840 --> 01:33:31.240
He was let go of his job.

1755
01:33:31.240 --> 01:33:35.760
And I spent the, I had a job too at that time.

1756
01:33:35.760 --> 01:33:39.400
And I spent the next couple of years being very resentful because I was like, you, you

1757
01:33:39.400 --> 01:33:40.880
know, this is your job.

1758
01:33:40.880 --> 01:33:42.160
This is what you're supposed to do.

1759
01:33:42.160 --> 01:33:44.040
This is what men do.

1760
01:33:44.040 --> 01:33:45.520
And the Lord really checked me.

1761
01:33:45.520 --> 01:33:47.340
And he said, it's not true.

1762
01:33:47.340 --> 01:33:49.020
He said, he's not your provider.

1763
01:33:49.020 --> 01:33:50.540
I'm your provider.

1764
01:33:50.540 --> 01:33:51.540
He's not your source.

1765
01:33:51.540 --> 01:33:54.500
I'm your source.

1766
01:33:54.500 --> 01:33:56.420
He's an extension.

1767
01:33:56.420 --> 01:33:59.300
He's a resource, but he's not your source.

1768
01:33:59.300 --> 01:34:01.440
I'm your source.

1769
01:34:01.440 --> 01:34:04.900
And I just want to release that all of, for overall of you, I don't mean that you should

1770
01:34:04.900 --> 01:34:07.860
be with someone who's lazy and doesn't want to, you know, doesn't want to do something

1771
01:34:07.860 --> 01:34:08.860
with their life.

1772
01:34:08.860 --> 01:34:12.580
Who's, you know, immature, irresponsible, but everyone has yellow flags.

1773
01:34:12.580 --> 01:34:14.860
Everyone has areas where they're working on things.

1774
01:34:14.860 --> 01:34:18.060
Some men that you're going to meet, they might not be at the top of their game with

1775
01:34:18.060 --> 01:34:19.060
their finances.

1776
01:34:19.060 --> 01:34:21.540
Maybe they were in the past, but we're in a recession.

1777
01:34:21.540 --> 01:34:22.940
Maybe they lost their job in COVID.

1778
01:34:22.940 --> 01:34:25.700
They've never been able to get back in a flow of things.

1779
01:34:25.700 --> 01:34:27.380
There's all kinds of reasons.

1780
01:34:27.380 --> 01:34:31.500
Don't check someone off the list just because they're not going to provide some cushy life

1781
01:34:31.500 --> 01:34:36.380
for you so that you can do whatever you want or that they're not what you expected them

1782
01:34:36.380 --> 01:34:38.420
to be in the money department.

1783
01:34:38.420 --> 01:34:39.420
Okay.

1784
01:34:39.420 --> 01:34:41.620
Cause I'm very glad that I didn't do that.

1785
01:34:41.620 --> 01:34:43.780
My husband and I own a media company together.

1786
01:34:43.780 --> 01:34:49.860
Now I'm a very visionary personality and he is a very, very refining into implement our

1787
01:34:49.860 --> 01:34:57.300
personality and together we are unstoppable effective team.

1788
01:34:57.300 --> 01:34:59.580
And I will tell you one thing about money that you need to know.

1789
01:35:00.000 --> 01:35:02.680
When you do something with the gifts and talents

1790
01:35:02.680 --> 01:35:04.640
that God has given you and you surround yourself

1791
01:35:04.640 --> 01:35:06.800
with people that have the other pieces of that puzzle

1792
01:35:06.800 --> 01:35:09.020
that you don't have, money will chase you.

1793
01:35:09.020 --> 01:35:11.120
You don't have to chase money.

1794
01:35:11.120 --> 01:35:13.680
Okay, God has not created us to do that, right?

1795
01:35:13.680 --> 01:35:15.920
I've had lots of lean times in my life,

1796
01:35:15.920 --> 01:35:17.440
lots and lots of them.

1797
01:35:17.440 --> 01:35:19.760
And I also, you know, know what it's like

1798
01:35:19.760 --> 01:35:22.720
to be in the sweet spot of my gift set

1799
01:35:22.720 --> 01:35:26.960
and doing things with a team with me that are successful,

1800
01:35:26.960 --> 01:35:28.840
both supernaturally and naturally.

1801
01:35:28.840 --> 01:35:30.680
So I just wanted to tell you guys that too.

1802
01:35:30.680 --> 01:35:32.240
A man changed my battery this weekend.

1803
01:35:32.240 --> 01:35:33.840
God put me in a position to ask

1804
01:35:33.840 --> 01:35:35.400
and I think he really felt good about it.

1805
01:35:35.400 --> 01:35:38.480
Yes, Laura, yay, yes.

1806
01:35:38.480 --> 01:35:39.880
I don't know what it is,

1807
01:35:39.880 --> 01:35:43.840
but gentlemen will offer to help you a lot more

1808
01:35:43.840 --> 01:35:45.600
if you have a dress on.

1809
01:35:45.600 --> 01:35:49.120
So I don't love to wear dresses,

1810
01:35:49.120 --> 01:35:51.800
but it's hot in Texas, so it's perfect to wear dresses.

1811
01:35:51.800 --> 01:35:54.160
And I will tell you, I get treated very differently

1812
01:35:54.160 --> 01:35:55.780
by men when I put a dress on.

1813
01:35:56.780 --> 01:35:59.020
It's like, I'm reminding them that I'm a woman.

1814
01:35:59.020 --> 01:36:03.700
I'm reminding them, right, that I am the feminine.

1815
01:36:04.900 --> 01:36:06.140
I'm reminding them of that.

1816
01:36:06.140 --> 01:36:08.500
And it brings out something inside of them.

1817
01:36:08.500 --> 01:36:09.540
You know, even if they're married,

1818
01:36:09.540 --> 01:36:10.860
even if it's not, like I said,

1819
01:36:10.860 --> 01:36:13.660
it's not necessarily a romantic or sexual situation.

1820
01:36:13.660 --> 01:36:15.460
I'm a happily married woman,

1821
01:36:15.460 --> 01:36:18.460
but men open doors for me when I have dresses or skirts on,

1822
01:36:19.660 --> 01:36:22.580
like, you know, doors to the store.

1823
01:36:23.700 --> 01:36:25.260
I had a man not that long ago,

1824
01:36:25.780 --> 01:36:27.140
he came out way before I,

1825
01:36:27.140 --> 01:36:31.420
I was walking up to the restaurant and he came out,

1826
01:36:31.420 --> 01:36:33.340
he was coming out way before I was anywhere

1827
01:36:33.340 --> 01:36:34.300
near the front door.

1828
01:36:34.300 --> 01:36:37.060
And he stood there with the door held open

1829
01:36:37.060 --> 01:36:38.140
until I got there.

1830
01:36:40.220 --> 01:36:41.740
Just a nice older man.

1831
01:36:41.740 --> 01:36:42.900
And I said, thank you so much.

1832
01:36:42.900 --> 01:36:44.940
And he's like, of course you're welcome.

1833
01:36:44.940 --> 01:36:46.220
And then just parted ways.

1834
01:36:46.220 --> 01:36:47.860
He didn't have any ulterior motives.

1835
01:36:47.860 --> 01:36:49.540
Some of y'all have an issue with men

1836
01:36:49.540 --> 01:36:52.700
because you think they always have ulterior motives.

1837
01:36:52.700 --> 01:36:54.620
Can't take a compliment.

1838
01:36:54.660 --> 01:36:57.820
If a man tells you that you're beautiful

1839
01:36:57.820 --> 01:37:00.940
or tells you that you look pretty or that you look nice,

1840
01:37:00.940 --> 01:37:02.940
do you know how to receive a compliment?

1841
01:37:03.980 --> 01:37:05.580
Or do you immediately think, oh, you know,

1842
01:37:05.580 --> 01:37:07.540
he wants in my pants, he wants in my bed,

1843
01:37:07.540 --> 01:37:10.780
he's got ulterior motives, he's up to something.

1844
01:37:10.780 --> 01:37:13.500
Maybe, but also maybe not.

1845
01:37:17.820 --> 01:37:21.180
Do we know how to look men in the eye?

1846
01:37:21.180 --> 01:37:22.500
Do we know how to smile at men?

1847
01:37:22.500 --> 01:37:23.460
Do we know how to laugh?

1848
01:37:23.460 --> 01:37:25.380
Do we know how to let down our guard

1849
01:37:25.380 --> 01:37:27.500
and be God defended and just have fun?

1850
01:37:27.500 --> 01:37:28.980
All of that is very feminine.

1851
01:37:31.540 --> 01:37:33.140
Even though I'm a happily married woman,

1852
01:37:33.140 --> 01:37:35.140
men enjoy my company.

1853
01:37:35.140 --> 01:37:37.060
We have all kinds of friends,

1854
01:37:37.060 --> 01:37:38.620
married people, single people.

1855
01:37:38.620 --> 01:37:40.220
You guys know that I coach men.

1856
01:37:40.220 --> 01:37:42.420
So I have all kinds of single men around me.

1857
01:37:42.420 --> 01:37:43.940
None of them disrespect me.

1858
01:37:43.940 --> 01:37:46.020
Not even one of them has ever hit on me

1859
01:37:46.020 --> 01:37:48.940
or said anything untoward or inappropriate to me,

1860
01:37:48.940 --> 01:37:51.100
but they all really enjoy my company.

1861
01:37:51.100 --> 01:37:52.740
When I show up for Ask Jackie,

1862
01:37:52.740 --> 01:37:54.100
those guys are waiting

1863
01:37:54.100 --> 01:37:55.860
because they know that I'm going to be funny.

1864
01:37:55.860 --> 01:37:58.540
They know that I care about them,

1865
01:37:58.540 --> 01:38:00.020
that I want them to succeed.

1866
01:38:00.020 --> 01:38:02.420
Guys, men will fall in love with you

1867
01:38:02.420 --> 01:38:04.860
if they believe that you're for them.

1868
01:38:04.860 --> 01:38:06.700
If they believe that you're just sitting there,

1869
01:38:06.700 --> 01:38:09.940
waiting for them to prove that they're worthy

1870
01:38:09.940 --> 01:38:14.940
of your anything, that's not good.

1871
01:38:15.380 --> 01:38:17.020
But if you show up to every date,

1872
01:38:17.020 --> 01:38:19.100
every encounter with every man,

1873
01:38:19.100 --> 01:38:21.940
whether it's not a romantic possibility

1874
01:38:21.940 --> 01:38:23.740
or a romantic possibility,

1875
01:38:23.740 --> 01:38:25.300
with a heart that's for men,

1876
01:38:25.300 --> 01:38:26.740
that wants to see men succeed,

1877
01:38:26.740 --> 01:38:28.660
that wants to see men become the men they can

1878
01:38:28.660 --> 01:38:29.740
in the earth without coaching them

1879
01:38:29.740 --> 01:38:31.900
or teaching them or mothering them,

1880
01:38:31.900 --> 01:38:34.100
but just by believing in them,

1881
01:38:34.100 --> 01:38:37.460
just by showing up and being kind to them

1882
01:38:37.460 --> 01:38:39.020
and not just not nice.

1883
01:38:39.020 --> 01:38:40.220
Let's throw the word nice out.

1884
01:38:40.220 --> 01:38:41.180
I hate that word.

1885
01:38:41.180 --> 01:38:42.860
Nice women usually get themselves

1886
01:38:42.860 --> 01:38:44.340
in really a lot of trouble.

1887
01:38:44.340 --> 01:38:48.260
Politeness and niceness are not in the Bible, okay?

1888
01:38:48.260 --> 01:38:49.940
We're not going to be nice or polite,

1889
01:38:49.940 --> 01:38:51.180
especially when we shouldn't be

1890
01:38:51.220 --> 01:38:55.660
because someone is being on their worst behavior, okay?

1891
01:38:55.660 --> 01:38:56.700
So we don't want that.

1892
01:38:56.700 --> 01:38:58.100
We want to be kind.

1893
01:38:58.100 --> 01:38:59.580
We do.

1894
01:38:59.580 --> 01:39:02.180
And I will tell you a very famous prophet.

1895
01:39:02.180 --> 01:39:03.700
You guys know who Leif Hetland is?

1896
01:39:03.700 --> 01:39:04.980
Anyone know who Leif is?

1897
01:39:06.700 --> 01:39:09.540
Well, I used to work for a really another famous preacher

1898
01:39:09.540 --> 01:39:11.900
and Leif was speaking at this conference

1899
01:39:11.900 --> 01:39:12.740
that I was speaking at,

1900
01:39:12.740 --> 01:39:15.860
that I was at as well because of my job.

1901
01:39:15.860 --> 01:39:18.460
And so we were traveling on the same plane.

1902
01:39:18.460 --> 01:39:20.620
And after the conference was over

1903
01:39:21.020 --> 01:39:23.180
and I had gotten to know him because he was a speaker

1904
01:39:23.180 --> 01:39:25.420
and I worked for the person that threw the conference.

1905
01:39:25.420 --> 01:39:27.180
And so I got to know Leif.

1906
01:39:28.420 --> 01:39:30.780
Wait, was I working for them yet?

1907
01:39:30.780 --> 01:39:32.700
No, anyway, for whatever reason,

1908
01:39:32.700 --> 01:39:35.460
on the way back from the conference,

1909
01:39:35.460 --> 01:39:36.940
we were on the same plane again.

1910
01:39:36.940 --> 01:39:38.140
And now that we know each other,

1911
01:39:38.140 --> 01:39:39.620
we're talking at the airport,

1912
01:39:39.620 --> 01:39:41.860
him and myself and my husband.

1913
01:39:41.860 --> 01:39:44.620
And I was talking to him about,

1914
01:39:46.020 --> 01:39:47.380
there was something going on.

1915
01:39:47.380 --> 01:39:49.500
He's the apostle of love to the Middle East.

1916
01:39:49.540 --> 01:39:50.940
And so he goes to the Middle East a lot,

1917
01:39:50.940 --> 01:39:53.860
goes to things like Pakistan, Afghanistan, places like that.

1918
01:39:53.860 --> 01:39:54.700
And they don't kill him,

1919
01:39:54.700 --> 01:39:56.860
even though he's a blue eyed, blonde haired Swede,

1920
01:39:56.860 --> 01:39:58.100
who's a Christian.

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And he has crusades over there and people get.

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Healed and delivered, you know, in the middle of Islam, right?

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You know what he said to me?

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He said, Jackie, don't ever go to the Middle East.

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And I said, what?

1926
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I said, first of all, I wasn't planning on it, but second of all, why?

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And he said, because they will sense your hatred for them and they will kill you.

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He straight up said that to me, you guys, and he's the kindest, sweetest man

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that you would ever meet full of Jesus.

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Because back in those days, I had a really, I had a real huge heart wound for

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father and I disliked men.

1932
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I know that's hard to believe, but it's true.

1933
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I didn't dislike my husband.

1934
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I didn't dislike certain men, but I had a bad taste in my mouth for men in general.

1935
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And men were always guilty until proven innocent.

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And I was up in arms about, you know, he was talking about his travels in the

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Middle East and I was up in arms about how women are treated over there and the

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Sharia law and all the things that I was talking about that with him.

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And that's when he told me that I should never go there because they will know

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that I hate them and they will kill me.

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He said, the reason why they don't kill me is because he knows that I like,

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because they can sense that I love them.

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So I just want to put that out there.

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I feel like that's a Holy spirit moment.

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I didn't have that in my notes.

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And that story came to my mind.

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You know, a lot of times we repel men, no matter how pretty we are on the

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outside, no matter how nice or polite we seem.

1949
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But remember we have a spirit realm that's going on all around us.

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We're not just bodies.

1951
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We're spirits.

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We're souls that heart part of us, that epicenter of our mind, will, and emotions.

1953
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And just because someone's not consciously aware of something doesn't mean that

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they're not unconsciously aware that you don't like men doesn't mean that

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you're not giving off a vibe.

1956
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I know we don't like to use the word energy because we think it's new agey,

1957
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but you guys are spirits, our energy, and we're giving off.

1958
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A currency, a current of distaste for men in general.

1959
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And it comes across in our body language and some of the words that we choose.

1960
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And we really, really, really have to let God heal that.

1961
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Ask God to help you to love men, to be the biggest cheerleader of

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01:42:08.800 --> 01:42:09.920
the masculine in the earth.

1963
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Cause I already told you so many of the ills that we're experiencing right now

1964
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are because of fatherlessness.

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Show up on our prayer calls for that first 15 minutes and pray for men.

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Let God, remember the Bible says, pray for your enemies and

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those that despitefully use you.

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Come and pray for men so that your heart can be softened.

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Because I promise you, if you do that, you'll be like me.

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I'm now a huge cheerleader of the masculine.

1971
01:42:32.880 --> 01:42:36.520
Of course, I'm not going to support or try to help men that are doing

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bad things or acting unworthily.

1973
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I'm going to pray for them.

1974
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I'm going to bless them and block them sometimes if that's necessary.

1975
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Sometimes you got to bless them and block them ladies, right?

1976
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Penis pick, bless and block.

1977
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All right.

1978
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Inappropriate sexual talk on the first date of, well, my wife

1979
01:42:52.240 --> 01:42:53.480
didn't want to ever have sex.

1980
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So I want to make sure that you like to have sex, bless and block.

1981
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That's inappropriate.

1982
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First date conversation.

1983
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That just happened to one of my students.

1984
01:43:02.680 --> 01:43:04.960
It happens all the time, you know, bless and block.

1985
01:43:05.000 --> 01:43:05.520
Oh, sir.

1986
01:43:05.520 --> 01:43:08.760
I'm so sorry that you're afraid of your future sex life, but that's not a

1987
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conversation for you to have with me because guess what?

1988
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I won't be there.

1989
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Bye bye now.

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All right.

1991
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So you can have those conversations with people that are immature and inappropriate,

1992
01:43:17.960 --> 01:43:21.560
you know, and you can bless them and block them if you need to, but just a

1993
01:43:21.560 --> 01:43:26.800
mankind as a whole, we want to be for man because God's for me.

1994
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God loves his sons, not just his daughters.

1995
01:43:30.920 --> 01:43:34.640
And ever since second wave feminine in the seventies, men have been disempowered

1996
01:43:34.680 --> 01:43:41.840
while women have been, uh, ironically counterfeitly empowered, empowered to

1997
01:43:41.840 --> 01:43:45.400
do a lot of heinous things that we never should have been empowered to do.

1998
01:43:45.960 --> 01:43:49.680
There were a few good things that came from second wave feminism as far as

1999
01:43:50.040 --> 01:43:53.000
parody and pay gap and stuff like that.

2000
01:43:53.120 --> 01:43:58.400
But at what cost y'all at what cost, at the cost of children and the family

2001
01:43:58.400 --> 01:44:03.160
at the cost of, you know, literally a genocide of abortion on demand.

2002
01:44:03.320 --> 01:44:06.320
I'm a firm believer that I don't care what it is.

2003
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If you have to think about it for a certain amount of time and you can't just

2004
01:44:11.160 --> 01:44:15.280
do it on the spur of the moment, you will make a better decision.

2005
01:44:17.520 --> 01:44:18.840
Let's just prove my point.

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If there was no fast food, do you think that you would eat healthier?

2007
01:44:23.640 --> 01:44:26.480
If you had to cook all your food, you couldn't just drive through a drive

2008
01:44:26.480 --> 01:44:30.680
through and order a bunch of MSG and saturated fat to clog your arteries.

2009
01:44:30.680 --> 01:44:34.760
If you couldn't do it, if you had to go get your stuff at the grocery store and

2010
01:44:34.760 --> 01:44:38.280
you had to take it home and cook it, do you think that you would eat healthier?

2011
01:44:38.280 --> 01:44:39.600
Please tell me, unmute yourselves.

2012
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Talk to me.

2013
01:44:40.280 --> 01:44:40.760
Would you.

2014
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If you had to wait till Thursday night at eight o'clock for prime

2015
01:44:49.560 --> 01:44:51.280
time to watch your favorite show.

2016
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Do you think that you would make a better use of your time in general?

2017
01:44:56.240 --> 01:44:58.520
Do you think that you would make a better decision about whether or

2018
01:44:58.520 --> 01:45:00.000
not you could watch that?

2019
01:45:00.000 --> 01:45:03.360
that show and you think that you'd make a better use of the time that you had in

2020
01:45:03.360 --> 01:45:08.220
between that show and your whole week instead of sitting down and for hours and

2021
01:45:08.220 --> 01:45:09.680
hours and hours and hours and hours,

2022
01:45:09.680 --> 01:45:13.460
binging things instead of doing other things that you should be doing with your

2023
01:45:13.460 --> 01:45:14.300
life.

2024
01:45:16.640 --> 01:45:18.120
If you found yourself in a crisis,

2025
01:45:18.120 --> 01:45:22.360
pregnancy found yourself pregnant by someone you didn't love or someone who's

2026
01:45:22.360 --> 01:45:25.760
abusive or by someone you didn't know because of a one night stand or God

2027
01:45:25.760 --> 01:45:29.040
forbid by a family member because of an incestuous situation,

2028
01:45:30.840 --> 01:45:35.840
if you had to wait and you couldn't just make an important appointment to go and

2029
01:45:36.200 --> 01:45:41.200
get this freak out situation that you're in taking care of,

2030
01:45:43.640 --> 01:45:44.760
taking care of,

2031
01:45:46.440 --> 01:45:51.440
but you had access to resources and education.

2032
01:45:51.480 --> 01:45:54.280
Do you think that there'd be a lot less abortions on the earth if we didn't have

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01:45:54.280 --> 01:45:58.640
them on demand? So I submit to y'all that on demand,

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01:45:58.760 --> 01:46:03.600
everything and anything has not benefited us as a society.

2035
01:46:03.920 --> 01:46:06.360
And that's where we got it from. We got it from the feminist movement.

2036
01:46:06.520 --> 01:46:08.040
Also divorce on demand.

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01:46:10.720 --> 01:46:13.920
I understand that we don't want to be stuck in marriages with people that are

2038
01:46:13.920 --> 01:46:17.400
abusive to us and all those different things. And that's great. Um,

2039
01:46:17.400 --> 01:46:22.160
but divorce on demand for any reason has not benefited society.

2040
01:46:23.160 --> 01:46:27.880
It hasn't. All right. So I leave you with that. I really want you guys.

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01:46:27.880 --> 01:46:29.280
Did anyone learn anything tonight?

2042
01:46:30.800 --> 01:46:33.280
I feel like you guys have not talked back to me very much.

2043
01:46:34.120 --> 01:46:36.440
I know it's heavy guys. It's tight, but it's right.

2044
01:46:36.720 --> 01:46:39.440
God wants us to step into our divine feminine.

2045
01:46:39.440 --> 01:46:41.240
And can I tell you what the feminine does?

2046
01:46:41.480 --> 01:46:45.960
The feminine lifts up the entire family.

2047
01:46:46.960 --> 01:46:50.000
The feminine lifts up the entire family. Remember she's the easer.

2048
01:46:50.680 --> 01:46:52.760
That word is used 21 times in the Bible,

2049
01:46:53.160 --> 01:46:57.040
19 times for God as our rescuer and twice for women.

2050
01:46:57.280 --> 01:47:00.040
That doesn't mean that you are the rescuer of mankind,

2051
01:47:00.200 --> 01:47:03.160
but it does mean that we are warriors. We are.

2052
01:47:03.600 --> 01:47:07.920
And when you empower a righteous feminine woman,

2053
01:47:07.920 --> 01:47:10.240
when you empower a healed, healthy, and whole woman,

2054
01:47:10.440 --> 01:47:14.560
what she will do is she will lift up the whole community, the whole family.

2055
01:47:14.680 --> 01:47:18.320
She will lift up mankind and womankind. She will,

2056
01:47:18.360 --> 01:47:22.600
that's what she will do because the feminine is amazing. We really are.

2057
01:47:22.600 --> 01:47:25.040
We're amazing. So let's step into our rightful inheritance.

2058
01:47:25.040 --> 01:47:28.840
Is that start showing up for those first 15 minutes of praying for men on those

2059
01:47:28.840 --> 01:47:29.680
prayer calls.

2060
01:47:29.840 --> 01:47:33.640
We've seen lots of shift in the men in our communities because of it.

2061
01:47:33.880 --> 01:47:35.440
And we're continuing to see that.

2062
01:47:35.760 --> 01:47:40.360
And I believe it's a direct result of the powerful prayers of the feminine for

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01:47:40.360 --> 01:47:44.200
the masculine. All right. See you guys later. This is available in replay,

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and I'll see you soon. Bye everyone.