So, um, we are going to talk about the divine feminine tonight.
This is one of my favorite sessions, and I feel like this is one of the most
freeing sessions for a lot of people.
And it also has the ability to really catapult you in your love life.
Okay.
Because how many of you understand that the divine masculine is
looking for the divine feminine.
And that a husband is looking for a wife.
He's not looking for a woman.
He's looking for a wife.
Proverbs 18, 22 tells us that a man, when a man finds, discovers,
sees a wife, not a woman.
There's plenty of women everywhere.
We make up 51% of the population.
So anytime a man looks anywhere, he's going to see a woman.
You can't throw a rock and not hit a woman.
Let's not throw rocks and hit women.
But you know what I mean?
I'm probably gonna drink a lot of water so that I can keep
this situation from lisping.
I don't want to lisp up here.
All right.
So, um, the divine feminine looks like something, and we're going
to get into all of that tonight.
We're going to get into what it looks like.
And here's the thing.
It looks like something, but on each and every one of you, it
looks like something different.
Right.
But there are going to be some general characteristics that each and every one
of us are going to be having, or we're going to be displaying if we are
leaning into the original design that God created us to be when Adam
and Eve were disobedient in the garden.
Well, really when Adam was disobedient in the garden, you guys
realized that Eve was deceived.
Right.
Who understands that Eve was deceived.
That kind of even rhymes, right?
Eve deceive Eve deceive Eve was deceived.
And I will tell you, because Eve was deceived.
There are a lot of religious men, especially the four fathers of the
faith that we all enjoy as Christians that thought women were pretty
untrustworthy and that you really shouldn't be around women because
women were going to lead you astray.
They were, they were going to lead you astray.
They were going to seduce you into bad situations and bad habits
and all the different things.
And they were like, Hey, in fact, one of the four fathers of our
faith that before I read this quote, I was always like, yeah,
man, he says such amazing things.
I mean, he's long since been dead.
But one of his, one of his quotes was this a woman is a beautiful
sepulcher built over a sewer.
So yeah, she looks beautiful on the outside, but be aware
underneath all of that is death.
Underneath all of that is some scary stuff, some bad stuff.
And a lot of men have adopted that view of woman because they're still looking
at woman or the feminine through the curse.
That's what they're looking at.
They're looking at it through the curse.
And I want to kind of walk us through that a little bit.
As we talk about the divine feminine and what it looks like on the other
side of the finished work of the cross.
Right.
Adam and Eve, when they were in the garden, that looked like something
that looked like them being created in God's image, male and female.
Did he create them in his image?
And then he brought them together because they were better together.
And so in our original state, we are the feminine of God.
And we'll talk about those divine characteristics of being that part of
father, son, and Holy spirit in flesh.
And I want you also to know in case you didn't know this, that your
feminine, your femininity is eternal.
God is both masculine and feminine, and you are the feminine of God.
When you leave this body and you get your new body, you go to heaven.
You transition from this life, from this earthly realm into the spiritual
realm fully, because what we see through a glass darkly right in
the spiritual realm right now.
How many of you have had spiritual encounters?
You just have, you have unexplainable encounters where God has visited you.
You've had dreams, all kinds of different things where you knew that you are
partaking of something that was otherworldly anyone, can I see all the
hands of people that have experienced those types of things?
Okay.
So that is a little taste.
That's the foretaste.
And we get that because of Holy spirit.
We're able to kind of peek behind the curtain a little
bit and see what's going on.
The Bible says we see through a glass darkly, meaning that you can see you
look through something that was dark, like even like a tinted window.
If you're trying to look into the tinted window of a car, not when you're
inside, when you're outside, you can kind of make out what's going on in
there a little bit, but you can't see it clearly, right?
And so that's what it looks like to look through a glass darkly.
You're looking through a tinted window of a car from the outside.
You can kind of make out that maybe there's a person in there.
Maybe there's some stuff left on the seat.
You can kind of see the shadows and types of what's going on in there,
but you can't see it clearly.
So the Bible says we look through a glass darkly.
And it also says that, um, we know in part and we prophesy in part, there's
some things that we know, and there are some things that we prophesy.
You know, Holy Spirit through us is foretelling of a day to come.
That's exciting stuff, right? There's always something to look forward to. The best is
always yet to come. I don't know about you, but I like that. But in heaven, in eternity,
you will still be the feminine of God. Who is that news to? Raise your hand if you're like,
whoa, I never thought of that. I never really thought about that before.
So that's why it's important that we make peace with ourselves. These physical bodies that we're
living in right now, while yes, the finished work of the cross is finished, these bodies are still
under the curse and they're decaying and they're dying, right? And so these bodies are not going
with us into that next scene of the movie. They're not going with us into that next chapter when we
transition, we'll have a new body and will it have breasts and a vagina? That's yet to be seen.
I have no idea if it will have those things since we'll probably not be giving birth in that eternal
realm. Maybe not because our vaginas and our breasts are pretty much for the purpose of babies,
right? And sexual intercourse. And in the word of God, there's a lot of typology that tells us that
that isn't going to be part of our eternity. And when I first read that, I'm like, Oh, boo hoo,
that's horrible. Sex is amazing when it's amazing. And when it's bad, it's bad. Yes. I get that in
the curse state of mind, it's bad, but in a more redeemed state of mind, it's great. And I think
that there are things, uh, there are other aspects of intimacy that we enjoy with, we enjoy for
eternity that are just as good as that, you know, just as good as the things that we have been
having. Remember we're having a taste of eternity. The marriage is a taste of eternity.
Your sexual intimacy with your spirit mate is going to be a taste of eternity, which means
it's just a little taste of something that's even better. So whatever's going to happen here is
going to be even better than that. And a lot of you are like, thank God. Amen. Because my experiences
with this have not been great, but you are going to have great experiences with this. That's why
you're here because you are going to this your last year single, and you're going to be stepping
into a spirit mate redeemed and supernatural love story. And that's going to include the sexual part
of your life. We're going to have to work on that though. You're going to bring a lot of that old
sexual baggage with you into these relationships. And we're gonna have to unpack that together
so that we can have that sweet, a foretaste of what God had in mind when he first created sex,
because I believe that sex was part of the plan from the beginning.
Why? Because he told Adam and Eve to be fruitful and multiply, didn't he?
How you think that was going to happen?
So everything that we have tried to get on our own in this life, God has a plan for it.
A lot of people are like, well, God was holding out on them. You know, the tree. Yeah. That was
the lie. The enemy told the woman, God's holding out on you. He doesn't want you to have good
things. This is why we can't have good things because God's holding out on you. Right. And
she believed it. She was deceived. And so she took the fruit and she ate it, uh, that of the tree of
knowledge guys, God was never holding out on them and he's not holding out on us. He had every
intention. Uh, as part of his original plan to teach them all the things that they knew in an
instant after eating that fruit, he was going to teach them. He was going to tell them about
Lucifer falling from heaven. And he was going to talk to them about, you know, good and evil.
That was the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. He was going to teach them. He's going to
walk with them and talk with them. He's going to have a relationship with them. And he was going
to teach them the things that they needed to know, but she jumped ahead and she grabbed something
that she wasn't ready for. The reason why God told them not to do it is because he knew what
was going to happen. If their eyes were opened out of context, if you all of a sudden have all
kinds of knowledge and you don't have context, then you're going to start believing a whole
bunch of lies, aren't you? And that's exactly what happened. And so we'll get into a little
bit more of that because it's important for us to look at that. When we look at what happened
to the divine masculine and the divine feminine feminine after the curse, right? So I have my
chat open. I have all of the, you guys open here, your participants. So if you raise your hand,
I'll see you. So father God, I thank you for tonight. I thank you for your daughters. I thank
you for this session. Thank you for this time together. I thank you for all the wisdom and
revelation and knowledge that you're going to impart to us, just like you plan on imparting
it to Adam and Eve at a specific time and place. And in a specific way, you've called all of us
here to be able to glean from heaven, to be able to be in alignment with heaven. And so we are
asking you.
teach us and show us and heal us and grow us tonight in Jesus name. Amen.
If you're late to the party, I have a list because I have a retainer going on right now,
which is not fun. So please excuse my lisping until I get used to that. All right.
So we all know that ever since the garden, men and women have looked at each other differently.
They've looked at each other very differently since the garden. What Genesis 2 22 tells us
is that Adam was very excited to see Eve. He was, his great speech was like, Oh, finally,
yeah, baby, here she is. This is what I've been waiting for. Bone of my bone and flesh of my
flesh. She shall be called woman, right? Cause Adam was a prophet. He named everything in the
garden. He was stewarding the garden and he was prophetically naming all the things that were in
the garden because those things God had given under his stewardship. And then he's like, you
know what? It's not good for Adam. It's not complete. It's not finished for Adam to steward
creation alone. He needs to exist in community the way that we father, son, and Holy spirit
existing community. He needs one of his own kind, not just us. And hopefully all of you are getting
completely removed from the idea that you only need God in this life.
Because if that was true, Adam would have stayed alone in the garden,
but Adam removed the feminine from the masculine. It's very important for you to understand that
the feminine masculine both resided inside of Adam. Man is the glory of God says the Bible,
but woman is the glory of man because she was created for man. Some of you really have a hard
time with that because you've really been hurt a lot by that cursed masculine in the earth.
I want you to raise your hand. If you've been molested, if you've been raped, if you've been
cheated on cheaters, beaters, users, abusers, raise your hand. If you've experienced that in
the form of the masculine, not the feminine, I don't want to see mommy wounds right now.
We'll talk about that later. Let's see daddy wounds. Let's see husband wounds, brother wounds.
Let's see complete strangers in a dark alley wounds. Let's see boyfriend wounds. All of you
that have been hurt by the curse, corrupt, unhealthy masculine. I would be surprised
if not everyone's hand was up in any way, shape or form. It doesn't have to be sexual.
And so it's very difficult for us. It makes us feel like second-class citizens, especially if
we've been raised in the church where a lot of times religion actually makes us a second-class
citizen. Doesn't it? It makes us believe that that's kind of how God thinks about us. Like
God made man. And then he's like, okay, I'll make women too. No masculine and feminine resided in
the same vessel. And God said, it's not good for it to be in one. It needs to be separate.
Adam needs to be in community of his own light kind. So he put him to sleep and he removed the
feminine from his side. Very significant of the purpose of the feminine. We are to be side by
side. We're not to be behind. We're not to be in front. If you're going to write something down,
you need to write it down. We're not to be behind and we're not to be in front.
Some cultures have women walking behind. And in some cultures like America, women are way out in
front. And we think that we're the shiz now, right? It's us. We're it. Where did we get that
idea? We got that idea from the pendulum swing from the feminist movements where we were sick
and tired of being sick and tired. We didn't want to be oppressed. We didn't want to be anyone's
possession anymore. We didn't want to be oppressed. We were ready to what? We were ready to be
independent. We were ready to do the things that we wanted to do. And so that's caused a lot of
problems. Yeah. There were problems before and they're all there's problems after. And unfortunately,
the mass singleness that we're seeing in the earth has to do with feminism.
Now that hurts everyone's feelings because we're like, well, we were just trying to get free from
oppression. Yeah, I get it. And there were a lot of good things that happened from the feminist
movement, but there's a lot of backlash and bad things that happened from that as well.
Very much so. So we're not supposed to be way out front like American women.
And we're not supposed to be really far behind like some other countries, like, you know,
different, different cultures, different countries, different religions, women are by hind.
And that happens in America too. Anyone, anyone been raised in any kind of religion where the
men sit here over here, the women sit over here, the men and women have different Bible studies,
the men and women, when they go out to eat after church, the men all sit together and the women
all sit together because the men don't want to hear anything. The women have to say,
want to talk to each other. You know, we see a lot of misogyny everywhere, of course. And we
They have a, a, we have a world that has a lot of misogyny in it.
And the reason why is we see that back with Adam and Eve.
So bone of my bone, flesh of my flesh, she shall be called woman.
God took her out of the side so she could partner.
They can be better together.
They can partner together.
She, he took her out of the side so that she could be a help mate.
So she could be, um, they could, they could, uh, she's an easter.
So they could fight side by side, right?
But also they could, he could, they, she could be covered.
She could be protected.
The side is also indicative of what the feminine of God looks like.
It's the heart of God because you don't ever have to, if you are operating
in your divine feminine, please write this down.
If you are operating in your divine feminine, you do not
have to become beautiful.
You are beauty itself.
The feminine is the beauty of God.
Yeah, men, they're looking good.
I agree.
The male form can be really good.
I was just in Italy where there was a lot of naked statues of men.
And I was like, I've never seen a naked man that looks this good, but I do
appreciate that I'm sure there are some on the earth, all you have to do is watch
magic Mike and no, I'm not telling you to watch magic Mike.
I'm not, I had no don't, but I've seen the trailer.
I've seen the previews and those dudes have been working on their bodies and they
look like those statues in Italy.
All right.
Um, so the masculine form is very, is very pleasing to the eye as well.
Um, but the feminine of God and not just the way we look, but what we are is beauty
itself, and that's why we need to tap into it because a lot of you have been really
down on yourselves for a long time that you know what, even at my best, even at my
thinnest, even at my youngest, I'm still just not that beautiful of a woman.
Compared to culture, what culture is looking for, as far as beauty is
concerned, you know, I'm not, you know, my face isn't symmetrical.
I don't have really nice hair.
I don't have really nice features or this or that, or my genetics are working
against me in whatever way, shape, or form.
It's not about this.
It's about this.
The divine feminine is looking for the divine masculine.
I know that we just, we assume that that Adam and Eve were just like specimens
that they were gorgeous, amazingly beautiful people.
And because they were without corruption and they weren't cursed, they were
divinely made and part of God's original plan.
I have to believe that they were pretty flawless, but not in the way that
our culture thinks of flawlessness.
I mean, we really honestly have no idea what they look like because all
we've ever seen is cursed humanity.
So we don't know.
Do we, we have no idea.
They could have been covered with hair.
I don't know what they look like.
Maybe that's why they didn't know they were naked until God opened their eyes
because they had on big hair coats.
I don't know.
Who knows what they look like?
I don't know.
And we're not going to know right now.
And we don't need to know, but what we need to know is that what turned from bone
of my bone and flesh of my flesh, this is what I'm waiting for.
This is what I want.
After their eyes were opened and God said, what have you done?
Adam immediately throws his wife under the bus, this woman that you gave me,
she went from woman and I will call her woman to this woman that you gave me.
Right.
And you guys, we've been living in that since then we've been living in that
trying to live down the reputation of being the deceiver of being the one
deceived of being the manipulator and the seducer.
You realize that, right?
That all happened in the garden.
The battle of the sexes started in the garden.
So God continues to say to them, Hey, you're not going to see each other
because of what you've done, you've done.
There's all kinds of things that are going to happen.
And one of the things that's going to happen is basically the battle of the
sexes is going to start in the garden.
You know, Adam, you're not going to want to protect and cover
anymore or provide for you.
You're going to want to dominate and control.
You're going to want to oppress.
You're going to want to Lord over and woman.
You're going to want to do the same thing, but you're not going to
do it the same way that he does it.
You're going to do it because of your smaller stature, your weaker vessel.
You're going to do it through manipulation.
You're going to control through seduction and deception.
That's what the curse feminine looks like.
You guys, the dark feminine is a very, is the very thing.
It's a, it's a thing.
Now, raise your hand.
I had you raise your hand before for something else.
Raise your hand.
If you've been hurt by a woman that was operating in the corrupt, messed up
feminine, lying about you, manipulating you, deceiving you verbally, abusing you,
hurting you.
Jealous of you.
And I wonder that not all the hands are up for that either.
I mean, there's people in here that you're going to honestly say you have never been
hurt by someone who was in a broken feminine form.
That's a miracle of God.
So for those of us that have our hands up, I would kind of almost rather be hurt by the
broken masculine because they'll shoot you in the face, but a woman will stab you in
the back.
And so, you know, we've all had some really crazy run-ins I'm sure with all the people
whose hands are up, whether it was with a, you know, hurtful mother or sister or aunt
or friend, or, you know, doesn't matter someone's former wife, you know, your former best friend,
maybe it could be all different types of things, a boss.
A lot of times women that are in power positions can have a tendency to be extremely toxic.
There's all different types of things going on there.
Okay.
So back to the speech that God gave, you guys are not going to remember sin didn't just
separate us from God.
It separated us from our own identities.
And then it separated us essentially from each other, right?
And that's what happened under that curse or the disc, the disconnection that happened
with their disobedience.
But then Jesus came and brought the ministry of reconciliation or the ministry of re reconnection,
revival, right relationship.
And that's where we want to live, but we don't just go there just because Jesus died on the
cross.
And we don't just get to go there because we've exceed, we've received him as our savior.
The Bible says that we will be transformed by the renewing of our minds, the renewing
there's the ministry of re again.
And so that's what we're here to do tonight.
We're here to renew our minds about what does the feminine look like?
What's it look like to be truly feminine, the way that God designed us to be feminine.
I believe you can step into that.
Now you don't have to wait till you're out of this skin suit.
You can step into that now, but because of the age group that all of us are, we have
a lot of bad information because we are living in the aftereffects of second wave feminism.
Second wave feminism was not to empower women.
It was to empower a certain kind of woman.
Please hear me.
I'm a student of feminism.
I plan on doing something with a righteous feminist movement someday in my life.
I feel like that's part of what we're doing here.
We are peeling back the layers of what the unrighteous feminist movement that happened
in the seventies did to our culture.
It gave us a lot of things, divorce on demand, gave us abortion on demand, all in the name
of women having rights.
And I understand that there were women back in the turn of the century, back in the 1900s
that were oppressed.
They couldn't own property.
They couldn't take out credit.
They couldn't get gainful employment.
It wasn't until the world wars that women were really thrust into the marketplace to
work because men went off to war.
But before that women weren't hired for jobs, you couldn't get a job except as like a teacher
or a nursemaid or something like that, or in a factory making below minimum wage.
Even in the seventies, women were making a lot less money than men did for the very same
jobs.
And you know why?
I want to tell you in case you think it's like, oh, well, they're women.
No, they're doing the same jobs as men.
The reason why they weren't paid the same wage is because employers had the mindset
that women were only there to supplement their husband's income.
Please listen.
They didn't have the mindset that women were full-time employees or women were going to
be, you know, long-term employees.
If they had a woman on their staff, their minds were, oh, she's only here to supplement
her husband's income because they need supplementation, but she's going to be gone.
She's going to go have babies.
She's going to go do, you know, woman stuff.
She's not going to be here long-term and I'm not going to pay her the same amount as I
pay a man because, you know, she's kind of like a, not just a temporary employee, but
also just here to add to what I already pay men.
Now her husband might not be on my staff, but he's on somebody's staff.
And so, you know, I'm paying her the wage I'm paying her because she's going to put
it together with what her husband's already getting paid and supplement their income.
That's cray cray town, right?
But that's what people used to think because women weren't thought of as people coming
into the workforce.
Women were thought of as people that were creating home and creating, you know, raising
family, raising children.
That's what they're, that's what they were.
That's what they were considered and think and thought of.
And you guys, that's not untrue.
I don't, I don't think any of us, you know, I have dreams outside the home of course.
And I do that stuff now, but I was pretty much a stay at home mom.
Okay.
Um, and not because I wanted to be, I didn't have that model for me.
It was because God wanted me to be, God wanted me to be, he wanted me to be with my, with
my, with my kids, with my bonus kids and my daughter.
And I had the ability to do that because I married a man who was able to bring home a
very sparse paycheck.
It was never enough money.
We had to make a lot of sacrifices.
I think a lot of people think, Oh, I can only stay at home and really be the woman of the
house.
If my husband's rich now, you may actually have to make big sacrifices to stay at home.
We did.
We didn't ever have any extra money when the kids were growing up.
I would get a part-time job at Christmastime at the mall, working at nighttime just for
those couple contingent months of holidays so that I could buy the kids what they wanted
for Christmas.
That's what life looked like.
And you know what?
It was a good life.
It was a good life of, you know, family time and family nights and doing things that didn't
necessarily cost money and just all kinds of stuff.
I didn't take my family on a vacation until my kids were all adults.
And so it's important.
Then I know that some of you are single moms.
You don't have the luxury of that.
I was raised by a single mom, so I get it.
I understand until I was 14 and I was sent to live in a girl's home.
So I understand what it's like to be with a single mom or a married mom that is in a
bad marriage and getting divorced and different things.
I went through all of that in my family, but we have to understand that someone has to
raise the kids.
Someone has to nurture the family.
And these are some of the aspects of the divine feminine.
You can write these down.
She's a nurturer.
She's a counselor.
She's intuitive.
The divine feminine is very intuitive.
That's why we call it women's intuition.
And that's not just believers.
That's feminine, just period.
She's a comforter.
The divine feminine is vulnerable.
It's soft.
It's receptive.
It's embracing.
Proverbs calls the feminine wise.
Wisdom is described as feminine.
It's compassionate.
That's a short list.
That's not an exhaustive list.
That's a short list.
So going back to the garden, we see that, you know, what the woman was, was compromised
by what she wasn't.
She was easily deceived.
So the serpent was able to deceive the woman.
He was able to tell her that God didn't have her best interest at heart.
She did not have, she did not have the ability to overcome that deception.
You know who did have the ability to overcome that deception?
The masculine.
The masculine did, but the feminine ate from the fruit.
And I want you to really take a look at that story really closely.
The feminine, the woman Eve, she ate the fruit.
It says the servant, the serpent gave her the fruit and she ate it.
She believed it.
She bought into it.
God's holding out on me.
He doesn't have my best interest at heart.
I'm going to, I'm going to get what it is that I need.
So she ate it.
And then it says the serpent gave her the fruit and she ate, and then she went and gave
the fruit to her husband and he ate.
So guess who wasn't standing there when the woman was being deceived?
The masculine.
But the feminine came and she gave it to the masculine and the masculine ate the man, Adam.
He ate of the fruit.
And then it says their eyes were opened and they knew that they were naked.
Shame came upon them.
The curse came upon them when the man ate the fruit because he disobeyed.
The woman was deceived.
She fell into sin.
She was deceived, but the masculine is the one that disobeyed.
And here's my hypothesis.
I don't have any proof of this, but I'm going to go ahead and say it anyway.
If the masculine wouldn't have eaten of the fruit, I believe he could have covered the
feminine.
If you want to knock the fruit out of her hand and said, Oh, Hey, no, we're not doing
that.
We're not doing that.
You know, we're trusting God.
God said for us not to do that.
We're not doing that.
I believe that the curse wouldn't have come upon them fully, but I will tell you, this
is what I believe from reading that story.
I believe that when the woman ate of the fruit, she became instead of bone of my bone
and flesh of my flesh, she became the dark feminine.
And I feel like that's the reason why when she brought the fruit to Adam, he knew it
was wrong, but he did it anyway.
And I think that you need to.
the control or the influence the feminine has on the masculine.
We can have good influence on the masculine and we can have bad influence on the masculine.
A lot of men do things because a woman convinces them to do it.
Another thing you can add to your list of divine feminine qualities and really curse
feminine qualities too is we are influential.
Look at how Delilah was able to influence you guys.
When we read that story, Samson looks like an idiot, doesn't he?
We're like, like Samson, can you not see what she's doing?
Do you not understand what's going on?
What in the world?
Why are you so block headed, bro?
Because do not underestimate seduction.
Do not underestimate the power of deception and seduction and manipulation when you are
operating in your cursed feminine and each and every one of you have operated in it.
You might not have convinced some dude to cut his hair, but each and every one of you
have switched over into a manipulative type of flow to get something that you want.
Someone asked, isn't being deceived disobedience?
No, I don't believe it is.
I feel, I believe that there are sins.
It's not that it's not sin.
It's not disobedience.
There are sins of omission and sins of commission.
Adam committed a sin of commission.
He knew it was wrong and he did it anyway.
Eve committed a sin of omission.
She was deceived.
She didn't do it knowing that it was wrong.
She was deceived in thinking that it was right.
And if you look at the original speech that God gave about the trees in the garden, he
gave that speech to Adam, not Eve.
Eve was not separated from Adam at that moment either yet.
So there's a lot going on in that story when we don't have time to dig into all of it because
it's really, honestly, it makes, it makes a lot of sense of what happens now in our,
in our world.
Okay.
So we don't want to, ladies, we're going to come out of agreement with the cursed feminine
tonight.
We're going to ask Holy Spirit to show us when we're operating in the cursed feminine.
We're not going to operate in manipulation.
We're not going to operate in seduction.
We're not going to operate in deception.
We're not going to.
God's going to show us when we're doing it as well.
Some people have become so good at manipulation that they don't even know that they're manipulating.
Okay.
They think that they're really just convincing people and persuasive people.
They think they're people that just know how to woo others.
The woo, W-O-O, it means winning others over.
They're full of flattery.
They're full of, you know, everybody likes them.
They'll, they're people pleasers.
You guys, I'm going to tell you something that's going to hurt your feelings, but if
you're a people pleaser, you're a manipulator.
You're like, wait, I'm just trying to be nice.
No, you're trying to make everyone like you through doing what they want you to do.
And that's called manipulation.
God wants to set you free from that.
The reason why it's destroying your life being a people pleaser is because it's the
dark feminine.
God hasn't created you to please anyone, but one, and that's him.
And guess what?
If he's pleased with you, then everyone who matters will be pleased with you as well.
If you're in alignment with what God wants you to say and do in your life, if you're
in alignment with your identity in Christ, then whatever you do, whoever doesn't like
it, isn't meant to be on your boat.
Got to rock the boat.
Let them fall out.
That has to happen.
I will tell you, one of the biggest things that ends marriages is women who don't know
how to say no women who don't have boundaries.
And I'm not talking about with their spouse.
I'm talking about with other people can tell you how many marriages, um, you know, I have
coached or counseled or been, you know, some kind of, in some kind of relationship with
that have ended because the woman can't stop giving to her adult kids that are taking advantage
of her.
She can't stop doing this or doing that.
She's always running around doing ministry or helping other people when her own family
is the one that needs the help, but she doesn't get significance from that.
She gets significance from helping other people so that they think that she's great now so
that she, she gets applauded or praised.
The Bible says in Proverbs 31, that the, that the woman who's of great value is the one
that's praised by her family.
Doesn't matter what anybody else says about you.
If your own family is like, nah, she's not around that much.
You know, yeah, it might be tight, but it'll be right y'all tonight because we need this.
We have to have this.
All right.
So let's just go over the short list of the divine masculine really quickly.
Divine masculine is an order keeper, bring structure to things and order to things.
And when I mean order, I mean divine order, like supernatural order and natural order.
Identity giver, the masculine is the identity, the identity giver.
You notice that it's the chromosome that comes from the man.
That's going to decide whether or not the baby's a boy or a girl.
You guys, I want to propose to you in this private forum, please don't repeat this because
I'm talking to you privately on purpose because this isn't my lane in public.
I stay in my lane and this isn't my lane.
God hasn't given me a voice to speak into this yet.
Maybe he will someday, but it is my hypothesis that all the transgender stuff that's happening
in the earth right now is a direct result of fatherlessness because it is the man who
sperm decides that other chromosome.
Okay.
And I don't care who you are.
If you've been to biology one-on-one, you ain't getting sperm from anything but a man.
That's what it's coming from.
And you guys, some of you only want a man's sperm.
You really honestly don't want to be married.
You just want babies.
And I'm going to deal with all you later.
Okay.
If you're rowing that boat, okay.
You're like, your eggs are like, give me sperm.
Um, yes, but you have to actually have the, the man that's connected to the sperm too.
And you got to have a relationship with him.
You got to be married.
You got to have a husband.
People are like, I want babies, but not a husband.
Okay.
So we'll deal with that.
All right.
Um, so protector, identity, giver, protector, provider.
And that doesn't just mean financially.
And sometimes it doesn't mean financially.
We'll talk about that covering defender, loyal, the divine masculine is very loyal builder
dispenser of justice.
So that's just a very short list.
Okay.
So we know the battle of sex has started in the garden and we've never seen each other
the same since then.
Okay.
Yes.
On the, on the finish, on the other side of the finished work of the cross, we can have
relationship, healthy relationship with each other, but you're not just going to fall into
it because each and every one of you have an entire system, entire schema of lies that
you believe about the feminine and the masculine, about women, about men, about marriage, about
God, about all the things.
And then a lot of times you don't even know what they are because they've been handed
down to you through your families, through experiences.
They've been handed down to you from church and religion, religious mindsets.
I just told you a father of the faith, a father of our founding faith.
If I, you know, you go look it up yourself, St. Augustine, you know, who we love said
that a woman is a sepulcher built over a sewer.
And I will tell you each and every of the, of the, of the original voices of Christianity
in America all had pretty detrimental things to say about women and how men should guard
themselves against them because women can really lead you astray and destroy your life.
And here's the thing.
I understand that there are women out there operating in the dark feminine, operating
in the broken feminine.
I get it, all those things, but it's just like money or sex.
God created that he created resources.
He created sex, but religion will make it bad, bad, bad, bad, bad, bad, bad until it's good.
And I feel like the idea that men have about women because of religion is the same thing.
They're bad, bad, bad, bad, bad, bad, bad until you find one that's good.
Just inherently our nature that we're manipulators and seducers and you better watch out for us.
You know, because of some unfortunate old Testament Bible stories, and it's not true,
but God did tell the woman after, after the fall, you are going to want to control your
husband and because you won't be able to control him by brute force.
You will want, you'll, you will use, you will use the other arts to control him.
And so we've been in this battle ever since.
And so we have to, on the other, other side of the cross, we have to begin to peel back
our layers.
My layers are not the same as yours.
We might have some similar layers because we're all kind of similar age group.
We've grown up in a similar country.
bringing a similar teachings about men and women
and the media messages that we've gotten through movies
and different things.
So we might have some similar layers,
but all of us have different layers based on,
you know, our upbringing, our family.
My mom was married three times before I was 10 years old.
And my mom knew how to operate in the dark feminine.
She was very, very, very feminine,
you know, very beguiling, very feminine.
You know, she was, my mom was definitely a pretty woman,
but she wasn't a knockout gorgeous,
you know, model or something.
But men loved her because she knew how to,
my mom was very modest.
You never saw her dress scandalously,
you know, no cleavage, no anything like that.
But there was something very, very ethereal about her
that really just drew men in, especially rich men.
So my mom was married three times before I was 10
to rich men.
And all of them were bad and abusive and broken and stuff.
And it was not a good life.
But I watched my mom.
I saw how she did that.
I saw that those things,
and I picked up some of those traits
without even understanding it.
So some of you guys have those traits,
different traits of the broken feminine,
and maybe it's not a seduction trait,
maybe it's, you know, we don't trust men,
so we don't let men control us.
And, you know, if we're with men, we're with weak men
and men that do what we say,
and you choose passive men because of that,
passive weak men so that you can be the one
wearing the pants in the family.
Maybe that's what you learned.
We all have different things that we have learned.
So let's go ahead and put some of those things up right now
as Holy Spirit reveals those to you.
What are some layers that are being revealed right now
about the broken feminine
and what you may have seen in your life,
in your family, and even in yourself?
Okay.
So the toxic masculine of being controlling
and, you know, hard to please
and all different types of that,
that's definitely something too.
So we'll look at that.
Manipulative, flattery, flirty, seductive.
You guys, there's nothing wrong with flirting, right?
But if we're flirting with the purpose of seducing,
of trying to win someone over,
of trying to get them to like us,
you know, flirting just because we find someone attractive
and we just, you know, we just want to let them know,
hey, I find you attractive.
There's nothing wrong with that.
But if we're flirting because we're trying to get someone
to sexually be interested in us, you know,
to use our sexuality, not just to get them in bed,
it doesn't have to be to get them in bed.
It has to be to get them to, you know,
be sexually, not just interested,
but pursuing us because, you know,
they're so excited by us basically is what I want to say.
Okay, trying to do everything myself, not allowing help.
Okay, so hyper-independence.
You guys, here, let me give you a list
of some more toxic feminine traits to help you guys out.
Toxic, the toxic feminine or the cursed feminine
also can look very much like the toxic masculine.
Because remember, that's not the divine masculine
that we see going around in the earth, okay?
That's the toxic masculine as well.
So here's some traits.
Hard, hardened, don't cry, hard, you know,
I can do it, I'm tough.
No sense of humor, no fun, rigid, frigid,
controlling, inflexible, boring, okay?
Suspicious, we have intuition, but intuitive is,
you know, intuition is not suspicion, okay?
Suspicious, overextended, really busy, busy, busy, busy.
That's the toxic feminine, busy, busy, busy.
You know, my significance is my doing, doing, doing, doing,
not being.
Self-sufficient, nobody can help me, I don't need your help,
I don't ask for help.
Hyper-independent, same thing.
Self-defended, not God-defended.
So there's some more.
So for those of you that can grab a hold of this.
Yeah, Patricia says, no man's gonna take care of you,
so you better take care of yourself.
These are all things from the 70s, the feminist movement.
We need men like we need a, that a fish needs a bicycle.
We need men like a fish needs a bicycle.
I ended up growing up and marrying the man,
you know, marrying the man that.
that my mother wanted me to marry,
or, you know, my mother wanted me to marry a doctor
and I told my mother, you know,
mother, I am a doctor that you wanted me to marry.
Like, I have become the doctor that you wanted me to marry.
Like that kind of thing.
Like women can do anything that men can do,
but we can do it better.
You know, that kind of attitude.
And the thing is, is that it's not about we can't do it.
It's about, should we do it?
It's not about gender roles in the earth.
It's about, if we're doing all the things
that men are actually uniquely gifted to do,
and just because we can do them,
who's doing what we're uniquely gifted to do?
Because I'm going to tell you,
there's very few men that are uniquely gifted
to nurture a baby.
Now they might be thrust into that
because their wife passed away, you know,
but just case in point, once again, you guys,
these are kitchen table conversations.
This is not for public consumption.
It would be taken out of context in the public
and people would think that I don't care
about certain issues.
And I do, I do very much care,
but I have seen a homosexual couples, men.
I've seen them out in public with babies
that they've adopted
or that they've had birth through surrogate.
And they are about the most awkward,
clumsy things with those babies I've ever seen.
And I always feel really sorry for the baby.
You guys, my husband, we were out with,
we were out just in dining and there was this,
this man, this two men, this male couple,
I'm assuming that they were married.
They had wedding rings on and they had a little infant.
You guys, a fresh little baby,
just came out of its mother womb, little baby.
Couldn't have been more than six weeks old, little baby.
Okay.
And my husband went to the bathroom
at this place that we were at.
And one of the men were in there with that little baby,
his little girl baby.
And they were changing her diaper.
Do you want to know where they were changing her diaper?
On the fricking bathroom floor, y'all.
They had her laid on the bathroom floor,
on the nasty bathroom floor where the urinals are,
where men have peed all over the fricking place.
Because was he a bad man for doing that?
No, he's just a man who doesn't understand
that you don't lay a baby, a fresh little newborn baby
on a public bathroom floor.
And you guys, these were high-scale people.
These were rich men.
These weren't like, you know,
the kind of men that can afford a surrogate.
I mean, you guys, that stuff's not cheap.
And so I'm just telling you, it's not natural.
And sometimes we're thrust into unnatural situations
where because your spouse passed away
or because someone else in your family passed away,
and now you're, you know,
now you're the sole caretaker for a child.
Men were not created to be
the sole caretakers of children.
They're not.
And so it's one of those things that if women
are running around doing everything that a man can do,
who's doing what a woman can do?
The hand that rocks the cradle still does rule the world.
And it's not just about raising children.
It's about nurturing people.
Who's nurturing the people?
Okay, who's doing that?
And so there are just so, so, so many things
that have been lost through all of this anger
that's happened because of the curse, masculine and feminine.
Women were oppressed for generations.
I will not deny that.
But then when we got a little bit of freedom from that,
the pendulum swang a little too far.
And so now we have all kinds of issues.
We have all kinds of issues where, you know,
children are growing up with no mom or no dad in the house.
And those kids are going out into society
with huge father and mother wounds,
and they're marrying and they're, you know,
handing that down to the next generation
and the next generation and the next generation.
And that's what's happening.
And I believe that we're the antidote to that poison.
And so for those of you that are still in the family years,
meaning that, you know,
you still wanna have children from your own womb.
And for those of you that even maybe wanna adopt children,
I wanna encourage you that if you do bring children
into this earth or you begin to raise children
from some other womb that needs you to be their mother,
you know, make a decision that you are really gonna be
a present parent.
That you are going to trust God,
even if you can't have the American dream of two cars
and, you know, vacations every summer and the big house.
If you can't have that during the years,
the formative years of that child's life,
that you will still make those sacrifices.
so that child can have what's most important
during childhood and that's a mother and a father.
Okay, so that's my little soap box for today.
Okay, so moving on,
we wanna come out of agreement with the fake feminism,
the fake feminist, the fake feminine, sorry.
We wanna come out of agreement
with any of those sneaky little things that sound good
from that anger movement called feminism.
You guys, it's not, listen, I consider myself a feminist.
That means the empowerment of women
or the empowerment of the feminine in the earth.
I'm here empowering you like any good feminist would be,
but I'm empowering you with the right tools
and the right resources and I'm also empowering you
to be whoever God's called you to be.
Okay, feminism is only empowering women
to be whoever that feminist movement thinks women should be
and that apparently is like business owners and CEOs
and women that destroy their offspring
and don't stay at home and don't do things.
For instance, the new Snow White movie
is coming out right now
and you guys, Snow White just as a fairy tale is very dark.
I don't know if you guys saw it when you were kids,
but it's a kind of a dark fairy tale.
Most fairy tales are, Disney's try to make them happier,
but if you ever read the real versions
of like the grim fairy tales, they're grim.
They're grim, they're scary.
They're like, they're not fairy tales,
they're horror tales really.
And so Snow White, that story,
that first cartoon is from like the 1930s.
It's not a happy cartoon in my opinion,
but they're remaking it like real life characters
and actors and I saw the actress from Snow White
and she said, hey, you know,
this is not gonna be Snow White from the 1930s.
Snow White is all about leadership.
She's not about, you know, the prince.
She's not about romance or love.
This isn't a love story and it's not about being rescued
and just all this stuff and I'm like, well,
then it's not Snow White, it's something else.
You know, you can go ahead and make another movie
if you want to, but don't take a storyline
and then change everything about it
and call it the same name because that's not what it is.
But that mentality of that young actress is like,
we don't need to be rescued.
We don't need the prince.
We're not looking for love.
We're not looking for romance.
And I understand that that's coming from pain.
It's coming from hurt.
It's coming from, you know, generations of oppression
that's been handed down or the tales of oppression
because these girls are young.
They haven't been oppressed as far as not being able
to go to college or not being able,
like the women that came before them, right?
But they are adopting a fight
that doesn't belong to them with bad information.
And so it shows you right there that the mindset
behind modern feminism is not to empower you
to be whoever God created you to be.
And if God created you to be a CEO,
go CEO your heart out, sister.
If God created you to have some kind of vocation
that requires you to have 18 letters after your name,
you go do you, boo.
But if God has also called you to be a wife and mother,
then that shouldn't be frowned upon.
If God has called you to raise up the next generation,
if God's called you to be a teacher or a nurse,
that shouldn't be frowned upon.
Not everyone wants to be in a power position.
Not everyone wants to be in a power position in public,
I should say, because the most powerful position
that you can be as a woman is partnered with a powerful man
and raising a powerful family,
whatever that looks like with your daily schedule,
whatever that looks like,
whether you work outside the home,
whether you work inside the home, whatever you do,
that's the most powerful position that a woman can be in,
is next to, like God placed us,
next to our male counterpart,
better together, changing the world, right?
Amen.
And so all of your marriages will look different.
They'll all be based on different types of assignments,
but do not be afraid to take on old fashioned gender roles
in your marriage if that's what God's called you to.
I think you can all agree that I'm not a weak woman.
There's nothing weak about me.
I carry a lot of authority,
but I also was a stay-at-home mom.
I also was preparing for when I would do the kinds
of ministry that I do now,
you know, with speaking and writing books
and all the different things that I've done,
but you can have it all, but you don't,
you can't have it all at the same time, right?
So you have to choose what season you're in
and what you're gonna do and when you're gonna do it.
That's important stuff.
All right, let me tell you a few little stories.
So whether we like it or not,
man is God's protection plan for woman.
He's an extension of God.
As a protector for woman, specifically in the family is what I'm talking about, not just any man, but the family the husband.
Yes.
You guys read each other's comments too because there's some really good comments in the chat.
You guys I want to tell you a complaint of the Christian guys that I talked to.
They say on dating apps they don't always identify themselves as Christians.
And I said well why would you do that, that's one of the biggest complaints women have is that they can't tell whether or not you're a Christian on these apps.
And they're like, well, because my experience, this is more than one man, you guys, it's not just one man saying this.
Because my experience with Christian women on dating apps is they're only scrolling through to try to find a husband, and they're only scrolling through because their baby clock is ticking, and they want to go from I just met you to let's get married and have children within a couple weeks.
And for some of y'all that's not a lie.
So I'm sizing them up to see whether or not they can be your baby daddy.
Like I said before, especially girls that are in their late 20s and the whole spectrum of 30s and early 40s, when that, you know, when we're, we got you know we call it the dirty 30s for a reason when we're ovulating really high and our body wants to reproduce
reproduce reproduce and women feel like they're running out of time, that proverbial clock is ticking ticking ticking ticking ticking.
But here's what I want you to release tonight.
If God has assigned you to raise children on this earth. I want you to release what that looks like and trust him to give you children.
I'm being superstitious I'm being I'm being I'm exaggerating with a couple weeks but you understand, rushing into serious relationship for the purpose of getting married for the purpose of having children.
I want you to release that tonight.
God knows your forum he made you feminine he knows that you have a mother's heart, he knows you want a mother.
He knows you want to carry a child. Okay, he gave you eggs, so that you could partner with a man and procreate for those of you that that's a possibility for.
Okay, I do believe that we are going to be marked by geriatric pregnancies you guys we've had over 20 babies born in this movement already.
And, you know, and some of them to older women over 40 years old so I want you to just relax and understand that you can release that it's in your heart for a reason, and God will fulfill it just like that tree of knowledge he had every intention
of, of giving all that knowledge to Adam and Eve, but they tried to get it themselves, or they got, you know, got preoccupied with something that they didn't get to need to get preoccupied with.
Okay.
I have two children I didn't give birth to I raised them since they were nine and 11 and they are, there's just as much my children as my sick my, my daughter who's 22 that was six years old when I married their dad.
I gave I have one womb baby I have one baby in heaven.
And then I have a daughter I gave birth to on earth. You know who's 22, and then I have a 27 year old son and a 25 year old daughter that came from another woman's womb.
My, my current husband's former wife, and we have co parented all those children we have raised them I have twin grand babies now from the daughter that didn't come from my womb, and I'm blessed.
I love children that don't come from your womb. If that's God's plan for you so I want you to, I want you to go ahead and surrender the pen to him, because you're making yourself sick right now is what you're doing.
Stop it.
God does not want you to hurt. Can I tell you that you're suffering needlessly.
You're suffering needlessly.
Because God's going to fulfill your desire to mother.
And as someone who's has a biological child and non biological children, there is no difference.
There's literally no difference.
In fact, more often than not, people tell my non biological children that they look just like me.
More often, and my biological daughter gets upset all the time because she's like mom no one ever tells me that I look like you.
And I'm like that's because you got your daddy's big head.
It's just a joke between me and her.
I know it sounds mean but I promise you it's not.
She actually does look a lot like me, but people just don't see it.
She's got blonder.
She got blonde hair.
So, um, yeah, just a lot of things.
So I just release you from that.
I release you from suffering in that area.
I release you with every tick on the calendar with every birthday, just breaking down because
you want babies so desperately.
Okay.
If children are slotted to come from your womb, they're going to come from your womb.
And if they don't come from your womb, they're going to come from your heart womb and it's
going to be the same.
Because the Bible says you knit me together in my mother's womb.
That means that God puts babies there and he knows them before they get there.
Because he said, I knew you from the foundation of the earth.
So if your womb is going to carry a spirit that's already alive, already here, been here
from the, from the foundation of the earth, but it's going to come and baby form through
you and be part of your family.
That that's going to happen.
You can rest in it.
You don't got to worry about it.
If you got a promise from God that you're going to carry a child in your body, then
go ahead and just trust him.
And if you just have a mother's heart that you want to fulfill that need, because that,
that want that desire to be a mother, God's going to fulfill it for you.
All right.
He is.
And you can release it.
And you can look at men objectively and not through a baby colored lens, trying to get
the show on the road.
I want to, I want to tell you something else.
God's up to something.
I have so many men right now that I have that are part of matches that I'm involved with
that are reversing the sectomies guys, you know, how much trouble that is and how expensive
it is.
They are, they're doing it.
They're reversing bisectomies.
That is happening within our movement right now.
I think that's kind of a phenomenon.
If you ask me, men don't want anything near their wieners and if they already had a vasectomy,
they certainly don't want to have someone go in there and reverse it, but they are doing
it.
They are doing it because God is like, I want kingdom family.
God wants kingdom family more than you want it.
He does.
Okay.
All right, so let's talk about the feminine and what it looks like and what it doesn't
look like.
It's not helpless.
Do I strike you as helpless?
It's not helpless.
Okay.
But it's also not tough.
Doesn't have this hard exterior.
It's not like fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.
You got to let that go.
A marriage minded man is not looking for a hard woman.
He's looking for a soft woman.
He's looking for a soft place to land, not a people pleaser, not a manipulator, not someone
who's going to tell him what he wants to hear, but someone when she needs to tell him something
that he doesn't want to hear, she actually does it through love and through relationship.
That's what that looks like to be feminine.
Remember we're teachers by nature, but when you don't know a man and you're on the dating
apps, you're just getting to know someone.
Men don't want you to show up in that gift.
You need to show up in the gift of just being a woman with a man.
Don't show up in your coaching gift.
Don't show up in your teaching gift.
Don't show up in your counseling gift.
Please don't show up in your mother gift.
Don't do that because one or two things are going to happen.
He's going to really like it and you're going to end up with an imbecile for a husband.
Don't tell me that doesn't happen because it does and or he's going to hate it and he
was a good guy and a healthy guy and you don't get a second date or a third date or whatever
because he's not looking for a mother.
He's looking for a lover.
You can show up in your soft lover ness without being seductive or sexual.
Did you know that?
You can have a man sitting across the table from you wondering what your hair smells like
without having a shirt on that's cut down to your belly button.
In fact, I'm just going to tell you right now, that's not feminine.
Just showing your goodies is not feminine.
I mean, yeah, our, our, our breasts make us, they're part of what the feminine form looks
like and some of us are more endowed in those areas than others, but that's not what the
feminine looks like.
And I will tell you men are very visual, but they're not visual the way you think they
are.
They're fantastically visual, which means they like to fantasize.
They like to fantasize.
That's why porn has been so detrimental.
to the masculine because it takes all fantasy away from it.
These people are naked, you know,
they have grotesquely altered bodies, you know,
yes, it's sexual, but it isn't creative.
Does that make sense?
It's not excitingly creative.
And so what it does is it dumbs a man down.
It dumbs down his creativity.
It dumbs down his, cause you know, we've been born,
we've been created in the image of the creator.
It dumbs down his desire and his affection.
It just dumbs it down.
It makes it very base, very animalistic.
And we don't want that for our,
we don't want that for men or women.
So a good man, a man who's healthy, right?
He wants to be able to, you know,
see how pretty you are, how clean you are, you know,
and just how good you smell.
And he wants to not imagine, you know, you in, you know,
sexual positions.
He wants to imagine what it would be like to, you know,
touch your hair or kiss your lips or hold your hand.
Cause that's not old fashioned.
That's actually the divine masculine.
He doesn't want everybody else in the place,
imagining what it would be like to have sex with you
because of the way you're dressed.
If you want a man to be imagining what your hair smells like
and what it would be like to hold your hand,
don't sit down and present to him what it would be like
to have intercourse with you.
There's a difference.
There's a big difference.
Okay.
And there are some men who their egos are really, really,
really, really, really, really big.
That love it to have some woman on their arm
that all the other men in the room are lusting after,
but that wouldn't be a good man, would it?
We don't want men like that.
We want men who, you know, want to treat us, you know,
the way that we present ourselves.
Chivalry isn't dead.
It just went wherever lady likeness went.
So presenting ourselves as a lady,
and that doesn't mean, you know,
wearing like pedophores or something,
but you guys, men are really attracted
to women that wear dresses.
I will tell you that.
Men like dresses and not just the clingy short ones.
You know, like I said,
if you want to make him think about sex,
then don't be surprised if he acts sexual towards you
because you're giving him the signal
that you're okay with that,
by the way that you're presenting yourself.
You're presenting yourself sexually.
I don't agree with this feminist idea of, you know,
we can dress however we want
and men aren't allowed to respond to us.
What?
We can dress however we want
and men are supposed to still, you know,
not be misogynistic?
No.
I mean, if you walk outside half naked,
there's going to be men that didn't have good home training
that are going to, you know, approach you sexually.
Now, my son, he sees half naked women all the time,
but he was raised in a house where his mama
taught him to respect women,
even if women don't respect themselves.
But not all men are like that.
So if you want a marriage-minded man,
what's attractive to him is once again,
going back to the beauty of the feminine,
the beautiful essence of the feminine,
a healed, healthy, and whole heart of the feminine.
If you have disqualified yourself
from attracting a good looking, healthy hearted man,
because you feel like you're not that great looking
on the outside, it's time for you to understand
that you have more value than your vagina
or your sexuality, all right?
You have more to offer.
Now, if the way that you look on the outside
is a direct result of you not taking care of yourself,
that's a problem.
The divine feminine, she values herself.
Write that down.
She values herself.
She values the gift that she is to humanity.
The feminine is a gift.
The masculine is a gift.
We're God's family, we're God's creation,
and she values herself that way.
Some of you guys want to be married,
but the way you're treating your body,
you're not expecting your body to need to last
for another five years.
You're driving it like a car with no oil in it.
You're not taking care of yourself.
You can't have this long, beautiful marriage
if you can't live long enough to have it.
If you have health problems
that are not a direct result of you
allowing yourself to get worn down,
and you guys, people play a big part in this.
Pleasers, I want to go back to that.
They have a lot of health problems.
There's a lot of stress that goes into doing something
for everybody all the time
and putting yourself last on the list.
That is not divinely feminine.
There's a reason why they tell you on the plane
to put on your own oxygen mask first.
It's not because they want you to live
and they're just trying to tell you that.
No, they're telling you that because they actually know.
First of all, I'm just going to tell you
that was added to the planes,
to like to their spiel that they give us for women.
It wasn't added for anybody else.
It was added for women
because we are the caretaker personalities.
And they want to make sure that you can help others
and you can't help others
if you're passed out from lack of oxygen.
And so they want you to take a couple minutes
to put your own oxygen mask on
so that you can help the children that are with you
so that you can help the people that are around you
because they know you're going to
if you have what you need first.
That's a whole word for somebody
and for more than one somebody.
You can actually help more people
and you'll actually be able to help them more efficiently
if you stop helping them out of your reserves
and you start helping them out of your overflow.
That's a word for me even.
You guys busy only became in vogue
with the feminist movement.
I can bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan
and never let you forget I'm a woman, right?
No, I don't want to bring home the bacon and cook it.
What are we doing?
I don't want to do that.
I don't want to earn the money.
I don't want to go to the grocery too.
I don't want to cook the food too.
It became this glamorous thing
for women to be overextended.
You guys busy is not a status symbol.
Burnout is not a status symbol.
It isn't.
I've heard woman after woman.
I never hear men do this.
Only women will brag about how packed their schedule is
and how busy they are.
Only women will brag about how they've been up since 4 a.m.
and they've already been to the gym
and they packed the lunches and they did the things
and all the blah, blah, blah.
Only women do that.
When did we start getting our identity and our worth
from how many things we could cram into a 18 hour period?
16 hour period.
How?
When?
You never ever hear someone admiring you
for how well you rest.
Oh girl, I'm just so impressed with your resting.
Oh my gosh.
You rest better than anybody I've ever seen rest.
No.
We admire each other's grind.
Grind, grind, grind, grind, grind, grind.
Right?
That's not feminine, you guys.
It's not.
It isn't.
We have to get into the rhythms of grace.
So many marriages end because women are overextended.
And when you get overextended,
you're gonna get really resentful.
That's what's gonna happen in a marriage.
And resentment kills marriages faster than anything else.
Because you know what we do?
We, like Martha in the Bible,
we start doing all this stuff
and then we start resenting other people
that aren't moving at our pace.
Look, my husband would not move fast
if you lit his butt on fire.
He wouldn't.
I'm a fast mover.
I like to move fast.
And so it has been a huge learning curve
for me to be in a relationship, a marriage relationship,
a covenant with someone who does not value fast.
He does value accurate.
Right?
He does value planning.
He does value other things.
He doesn't value fast.
And so we have really refined each other in a good way.
And so let's move on to that.
Okay, so let's talk about dating just a little bit.
And you guys start putting your questions up
so we can get them.
We have about 15 minutes left here.
So,
so what does it look like to just walk
in the divine feminine skin?
First of all, you have to lean into Holy Spirit
of what it's gonna look like on you.
Okay, what's it gonna look like on you?
I want you all to really grab a hold of that word
of taking care of yourself.
You gotta take care of yourself.
You can't expect someone else to fall in love with you
until you fall in love with you.
You're like, oh, that sounds egotistical, Jackie.
It sounds prideful.
It sounds vain.
No.
Listen, God is not threatened
by you knowing how amazing you are.
He already knows how amazing you are.
You're the one that needs convincing.
And you don't.
how you're gonna convince me
that you really believe you're amazing
about how you take care of yourself.
We take care of the things that we value.
We have passwords, we have locks,
we have safety deposit boxes at banks.
That's where we put the real valuables.
We have SAFEs, we have boundaries
around the things that we think are valuable.
And so if you are not living with boundaries,
then you do not think that what you are,
which is the divine feminine, is valuable.
If you're just allowing people to use it and abuse it
and take advantage of it and overextend it,
and you are helping them do that by saying yes,
or you are helping other people do that
by not knowing your limitations.
You guys, it's not about time.
I know that there's 24 hours in a day.
And a lot of people will be like,
hey, you know what?
People do what they wanna do.
They get it done because there's 24 hours
and everyone has 24 hours in their day.
No, it's about capacity.
It's not about time.
We don't all have the same capacity.
And in different seasons of your life,
you have different capacity.
And so you have to do capacity management well.
And I want you to pray into this.
This is your homework for group.
I wanna know, what are you gonna change?
How are you gonna start valuing yourselves?
How are you gonna carve out time for yourself?
How are you gonna start saying no to others
so you can say yes to God and to yourself?
You know, these are important things.
Some of you are single
because you're not saying yes to God and yourself.
You're saying yes to all kinds of other things
that you've been filling the void of not having a spouse.
Do you see how that's one big, ugly, crazy catch-22?
God is asking you to give up, to prune, to let go of
so you can say yes to him and to yourself
so you can take better care of yourself
and get into the rhythms of grace.
But because you don't like the feeling of empty,
even though empty is an invitation
to bigger and better things,
you continue to shove things in those spaces,
ignoring pruning, ignoring making room and making space.
And so you don't get the spouse,
you don't get the man, right?
Not because God's withholding it from you,
because there's simply no room for him to come.
There isn't.
I can't tell you how many people joined this course
because God led them here divinely and they know he did.
They have all kinds of crazy stories,
how they found out about me,
crazy mystical matchmaking Nanny McPhee over here.
And they don't do the course.
They don't show up.
Go ahead and just go ahead
and give yourself a hand for showing up.
You're here, you're showing up, you're making space.
You're letting God speak to you.
And yeah, it's not, it's uncomfortable
because we're still in the pruning
and still in the stretching part of what we're doing.
Because we're single for a reason.
It's not because there are no good men left in the earth.
We have hundreds and hundreds and hundreds and hundreds
of success stories to prove that differently, okay?
And you're gonna be one of them.
And it's gonna look different for all of you.
So let me tell you a little story.
When I first started matchmaking officially professionally,
because I've always been doing it unprofessionally.
And I don't mean unprofessionally,
I just mean informally in my life and my friend group,
you know, with all my friends.
In fact, I counted, I always say 15,
but I counted a couple more.
Like, I think that's more like 17 of my friends
I helped get married.
Okay, you forget.
I do it so often that I'm just like, whatever.
So when I first started doing this formally back in 2020,
I had this guy and he's just getting married right now.
He's getting married in a couple of weeks.
But anyway, I introduced him to two girls.
Because remember, I really believe in low stakes.
I believe in getting to know people,
you know, getting to know yourself, all the things.
So I introduced him to two different girls.
They're both in my mind equally attractive.
But one of the girls, get this,
was a girl that he saw on a dating app years before.
And when he went to talk to her,
she disappeared.
And he couldn't find her.
And he was really interested.
Like he loved her bio.
Like he was really interested.
It was a kind of like a community-based dating app
from some ministry that he had been part of.
And he couldn't, he didn't know what her name was.
He didn't remember.
And so when he became my client,
I presented him with two options
of two different girls to get to know.
And the girl, the mystery girl that he lost track of
a couple of years earlier was one of the girls.
What are the odds of that y'all, right?
Come on, crazy.
And so I immediately,
cause I knew both of them,
I immediately was like, yeah,
he's really gonna be into her.
This could really be a match.
This could be a God thing.
So he started getting to know both of the girls
and he's a very,
he's a man who's very, has a lot of integrity.
And after just maybe two or three conversations
because both of them were long distance girls,
he informed me that he only wanted to talk to,
he wanted to go ahead and focus all of his attention
in his visiting.
Cause he was about to go and fly and visit
the one girl that was not the mystery girl.
And I was so like, whoa, excuse me.
I was like,
I couldn't.
believe it. And so I was like, why? I said, this is a girl that
you were looking for. You have so much in common with her. I
know that you really enjoy the couple conversations you've had
with her. He goes, Oh, I did. He goes, she's terrific. He's like,
she's everything that I thought she would be in more. I said,
so why are you choosing to put all of your eggs in this
basket? Why are you choosing to, you know, fly and meet this girl
instead? He said, because this girl is showing me that she's
really open and she's ready. And she likes me and this girl's
not. And I'm said, okay, so explain to me what that looks
like. He said, this girl is only, is only talking to me when
I talk to her is only answering my questions. She's not asking
any of her own. It's like, she's waiting there for me to
initiate everything. She's not reciprocating. I'm at the same
level. And she's also not initiating anything. This girl
is happy to see me. This girl is making it very obvious that she
is liking getting to know me. This girl is even initiating
sometimes and texting me before I text her. And I was like, so
this girl likes me. I like this girl. She would be more my type,
but I think I'm going to like the person that likes me
instead. And so I talked to this girl after he told her that he
was going to fully focus on another relationship. And she
was devastated. She was so upset. And I was like, why are
you upset about this? He said that you didn't act like you
liked him. And she said, whole bunch of religious rhetoric,
y'all. And I need you to break out of that right now. Well, I
was just letting him lead. I was just letting him initiate men
are supposed to be the ones that do this and that and all
these stuff, just let it go. That is not true. It is not
true. You never want to chase a man, you never want to try to
manipulate or seduce a man that's not that into you. You
don't want to try to convince him to like you. Okay, but if
there is, you know, mutual attraction with someone you need
to initiate to if you want to, if you want to talk to someone,
don't wait for them to talk to you first. If you're already in
a talking relationship, you talk to them. You know, the divine
feminine doesn't look like she's sitting around waiting to
be fed bonbons by some man. Another story, case in point of
what the divine feminine does not look like. I have another
student who several men told me this, not just one, but when
they went on dates with her, she would stand on her side of the
car and just stand there until they came over and opened her
door. So they had already gotten in the car and we're sitting
down because not all men open doors. Y'all not all men have
been raised that way. They don't think that way. It'd be nice if
they did that. I'll just be honest. I don't like my door
open for me because I like things done fast. My husband's
super slow and I just want to get in the stinking car. Okay.
It's hot in Texas. I'm not trying to wait for him to open
my door. I get it. I understand why it's a thing from a bygone
era, but she would just stand there and they, you know, they,
they're like, Oh, well I unlocked her door, you know, and
I kind of opened it so she could get in. She would not get in the
car until they got out of the car and came around and let her
in the car. Y'all that's just too much. Come on. What? No,
it's one thing. If someone else is in the same type of old
fashioned mindset as you have opening your car and pulling out
your chair. I even know a guy who will stand up at the table.
If a woman gets up to leave the table for any reason, he will
stand up. That's great. It's not necessary. I don't personally
need it. And if you need it, then you better let someone know
that when you first meet them, Hey, I'm really old fashioned. I
like my doors open, put it in your dating profile. If you have
to have it and you don't think that you're being treated like a
lady, if you don't have it, most men nowadays will think that
you're pretty high maintenance. Okay. And high maintenance is
not the divine feminine. Low maintenance is also not the
divine feminine. And women that tell me, Oh, I'm really low
maintenance. You know, I don't, you know, I don't get manicures
or pedicures or, you know, I, you know, I don't put any
investment into my hair. I was wearing a ponytail or I do this
or I do that, or in relationship, I don't need much
from a guy, you know, I don't, you know, I don't need him to
pay the bill or I don't need him to do this. Low maintenance is
another way of saying that you don't value yourself. And so you
don't expect anyone else to value you either. Right? It's
okay to be a tomboy. It's okay to not want to have on fake
fingernails and, you know, hair extensions or whatever it is
that you think is high maintenance, but you have to
show up in a way that makes that man know that you are here to be
respected and that he should respect you. All right. So if
you're old fashioned and you really believe that men should
do all the things.
at least reciprocate attention at the same level
that you're getting it, okay?
If you're not willing to initiate anything at all,
then at least reciprocate at the same level
or the same pace, or you could find yourself
in that girl's situation where he picked the other girl
because he really just didn't believe
that she was that interested, all right?
So we wanna be careful with that, right?
Do we have any questions?
And ladies, trauma will make us all this list
that I gave us, hard, no fun, no sense of humor,
rigid, frigid, controlling.
You guys, my husband sometimes makes very,
I don't wanna say they're inappropriate,
but kind of sophomore humor jokes.
He has since I met him.
He's an amazing, great guy.
Men have a tendency to have a little boy
that lives inside of them that thinks things
that are not funny are funny.
And if you like sophomoric humor,
you like bathroom humor, you like that kind of stuff,
then that's good, good on you.
I'm not grossed out by it,
but I also don't think it's that funny.
But if you always get offended when someone,
women have a tendency of getting really easily offended
when a man is being like a little immature
sophomoric with his humor or with whatever, don't do that.
You can not find something funny
and still not be rigid, right?
My MO is I usually am like, ew, I'm like, ew.
Yeah, ha ha, funny, just whatever.
Now, if it's racist, if it's bigoted,
if it's something that's completely off color,
then you see that that's yellow flag.
They might not understand that that's inappropriate
and wrong for them to be repeating
or saying whatever they're saying,
and that's like a whole different story.
But men are men, they're not women,
and we don't want them to be women.
And they think different things
about different things than we do,
but we don't have to be stuck up, right?
We don't have to have a stick up our butts.
Men do not like rigid women.
Rigidity is not the divine feminine, just so you know.
It's not, it's not the divine feminine.
So, and a lot of times women,
especially religious women will be extremely rigid
and don't know how to have fun,
don't know how to laugh at themselves,
don't know how to laugh at others, okay?
Also, ladies, controlling, inflexible.
One of my bestest friends in the world,
I hate traveling with her because if anything goes
not according to her plan, she just can't handle it.
Once we had to wait for two hours at the car dealership
because they didn't, not the car dealership,
the car rental place or whatever,
like she couldn't handle the timeline being thrown off.
You know, she has a plan.
She wants the plan to be the way that it is, you know?
One time, you know, I'm a really spontaneous person.
So I'm like, hey, you know, let's go here
and then we'll just figure out
where we're going to stay when we get there.
It's only a two hour drive.
It's only two hours away from where we live.
She didn't want to do that.
She wanted to know where we were going to stay
before we got there.
She didn't want to find a hotel once we got there.
Guys, you have to be able to be spontaneous in life.
You don't have to always be spontaneous,
but if you're not flexible, if you're rigid,
if you can't recover, if things don't go your way,
then that's control.
You don't want to be controlling.
There's people, people are posting.
So if you guys want to read each other's comments.
Boring.
A lot of times women come across as really boring
and we're about to end right now.
So put up any questions that you have.
A lot of women come across as boring
because all they've been doing is waiting
to like meet a man and get married
and they don't have any interests of their own.
They don't have anything going on of their own.
They don't think of anything.
They don't know anything.
They haven't read anything or gone anywhere.
Don't be one of those women.
My goal for you is that you would love your single life
and desire someone to share it with.
Your life is right now.
It's not when you get married, it's right now.
And so it's time for you to discover who you are,
what you want, what you don't want,
where you're going, where you're not.
It's time for you to discover that.
That way you'd be very interesting
to a possible spirit mate.
Don't be boring.
Suspicious, it's not cool.
Don't be suspicious.
Use your intuition, use it with Holy Spirit.
Don't, no gift to suspicion.
There's not such a thing.
So if your intuition has now turned to suspicion,
it's because you're got some trauma,
you got some hurt, got some brokenness.
Let's deal with that.
Don't be overextended.
Please manage your capacity.
Don't be self-sufficient.
Don't be hyper-independent.
You guys, I fly a lot and I promise you women, these little women get on these planes and
they cannot put these suitcases in the overhead bin.
And I have yet to see a woman who is thankful for the men that helped them do it.
You know, some random man, man just is like, Oh, little woman can't put it up, you know,
put it up.
And she couldn't, she's like trying forever to get it up there.
Cause she's like all of five, two with a heavy suitcase.
And it's almost like they just look at them, they just glare at them.
Like, you know, like nobody asked for your help.
Nobody needed to ask for help.
It's okay to ask for help though.
It's okay for you to ask for help.
It's okay for you not to be able to do things yourself.
And so part of the homework besides showing up and letting me know what you're coming
out of agreement with, you know, what are the, what are some of the ways that you feel
like you've been operating in the broken or curse feminine?
What's that look like?
Let's get honest.
Let's confess.
Let's get on, you know, all of those things.
Besides that, I want you to be willing to ask for help specifically from a man.
Can you reach that for me?
You're at the grocery store, random man's walking by, Hey, can you get that for me?
You're checking out the grocery store.
Hey, you know, could you, you know, could you double bag that for me?
Or could you, you know, whatever it is, ask a man to do something for you.
Extra than whatever they would normally do.
Do it.
It feels good.
You're going to like it.
You need it.
You need to let men start helping you.
You need to, you know what else you can do?
You can ask a man for his opinion.
You can ask a man for advice.
Men love that.
You know why?
Because they want to protect and provide and cover.
They want to, it's intrinsically in them to do that inside.
Every man is a little boy that wants to please a woman and essentially wants to please mom
So depending on what that relationship looked like, the other thing that I want to tell
you is that let's go just real quickly to gender roles.
A lot of you, I want you to raise your hand.
If you are expecting, please just be honest right this minute, because this is going to
be a very telling moment for you and a healing moment.
If you'll allow it to be, I want you to raise your hand.
If you're expecting to marry a man who can financially provide for you, like that's what
you want him to financially provide.
You want him to be the bigger paycheck.
You want him to financially be able to, like if you didn't want to work or you wanted to
stay home with babies or whatever it is that you wanted to do, even if you're past that
age, you're not staying home with babies.
You still want him to have finances in order to, you know, not just finances, but finances
more than you, better than you, all the things and, and, and keep your hands up, but raise
your hand ladies.
If you think that's the masculine's responsibility, like they're the provider and that's how you
have interpreted that.
You think that that's what that means.
Okay.
That's when I married my husband, he was in full-time ministry at a megachurch and he
only made like $42,000 a year.
Two months after I married him, he lost his job.
They had some huge scandal and lawsuit at that ministry and they were fined like over
a million dollars.
They started cutting people, all kinds of things happened.
He had worked there for 15 years.
He had, he was very, very much a part of the core team at that church.
He was let go of his job.
And I spent the, I had a job too at that time.
And I spent the next couple of years being very resentful because I was like, you, you
know, this is your job.
This is what you're supposed to do.
This is what men do.
And the Lord really checked me.
And he said, it's not true.
He said, he's not your provider.
I'm your provider.
He's not your source.
I'm your source.
He's an extension.
He's a resource, but he's not your source.
I'm your source.
And I just want to release that all of, for overall of you, I don't mean that you should
be with someone who's lazy and doesn't want to, you know, doesn't want to do something
with their life.
Who's, you know, immature, irresponsible, but everyone has yellow flags.
Everyone has areas where they're working on things.
Some men that you're going to meet, they might not be at the top of their game with
their finances.
Maybe they were in the past, but we're in a recession.
Maybe they lost their job in COVID.
They've never been able to get back in a flow of things.
There's all kinds of reasons.
Don't check someone off the list just because they're not going to provide some cushy life
for you so that you can do whatever you want or that they're not what you expected them
to be in the money department.
Okay.
Cause I'm very glad that I didn't do that.
My husband and I own a media company together.
Now I'm a very visionary personality and he is a very, very refining into implement our
personality and together we are unstoppable effective team.
And I will tell you one thing about money that you need to know.
When you do something with the gifts and talents
that God has given you and you surround yourself
with people that have the other pieces of that puzzle
that you don't have, money will chase you.
You don't have to chase money.
Okay, God has not created us to do that, right?
I've had lots of lean times in my life,
lots and lots of them.
And I also, you know, know what it's like
to be in the sweet spot of my gift set
and doing things with a team with me that are successful,
both supernaturally and naturally.
So I just wanted to tell you guys that too.
A man changed my battery this weekend.
God put me in a position to ask
and I think he really felt good about it.
Yes, Laura, yay, yes.
I don't know what it is,
but gentlemen will offer to help you a lot more
if you have a dress on.
So I don't love to wear dresses,
but it's hot in Texas, so it's perfect to wear dresses.
And I will tell you, I get treated very differently
by men when I put a dress on.
It's like, I'm reminding them that I'm a woman.
I'm reminding them, right, that I am the feminine.
I'm reminding them of that.
And it brings out something inside of them.
You know, even if they're married,
even if it's not, like I said,
it's not necessarily a romantic or sexual situation.
I'm a happily married woman,
but men open doors for me when I have dresses or skirts on,
like, you know, doors to the store.
I had a man not that long ago,
he came out way before I,
I was walking up to the restaurant and he came out,
he was coming out way before I was anywhere
near the front door.
And he stood there with the door held open
until I got there.
Just a nice older man.
And I said, thank you so much.
And he's like, of course you're welcome.
And then just parted ways.
He didn't have any ulterior motives.
Some of y'all have an issue with men
because you think they always have ulterior motives.
Can't take a compliment.
If a man tells you that you're beautiful
or tells you that you look pretty or that you look nice,
do you know how to receive a compliment?
Or do you immediately think, oh, you know,
he wants in my pants, he wants in my bed,
he's got ulterior motives, he's up to something.
Maybe, but also maybe not.
Do we know how to look men in the eye?
Do we know how to smile at men?
Do we know how to laugh?
Do we know how to let down our guard
and be God defended and just have fun?
All of that is very feminine.
Even though I'm a happily married woman,
men enjoy my company.
We have all kinds of friends,
married people, single people.
You guys know that I coach men.
So I have all kinds of single men around me.
None of them disrespect me.
Not even one of them has ever hit on me
or said anything untoward or inappropriate to me,
but they all really enjoy my company.
When I show up for Ask Jackie,
those guys are waiting
because they know that I'm going to be funny.
They know that I care about them,
that I want them to succeed.
Guys, men will fall in love with you
if they believe that you're for them.
If they believe that you're just sitting there,
waiting for them to prove that they're worthy
of your anything, that's not good.
But if you show up to every date,
every encounter with every man,
whether it's not a romantic possibility
or a romantic possibility,
with a heart that's for men,
that wants to see men succeed,
that wants to see men become the men they can
in the earth without coaching them
or teaching them or mothering them,
but just by believing in them,
just by showing up and being kind to them
and not just not nice.
Let's throw the word nice out.
I hate that word.
Nice women usually get themselves
in really a lot of trouble.
Politeness and niceness are not in the Bible, okay?
We're not going to be nice or polite,
especially when we shouldn't be
because someone is being on their worst behavior, okay?
So we don't want that.
We want to be kind.
We do.
And I will tell you a very famous prophet.
You guys know who Leif Hetland is?
Anyone know who Leif is?
Well, I used to work for a really another famous preacher
and Leif was speaking at this conference
that I was speaking at,
that I was at as well because of my job.
And so we were traveling on the same plane.
And after the conference was over
and I had gotten to know him because he was a speaker
and I worked for the person that threw the conference.
And so I got to know Leif.
Wait, was I working for them yet?
No, anyway, for whatever reason,
on the way back from the conference,
we were on the same plane again.
And now that we know each other,
we're talking at the airport,
him and myself and my husband.
And I was talking to him about,
there was something going on.
He's the apostle of love to the Middle East.
And so he goes to the Middle East a lot,
goes to things like Pakistan, Afghanistan, places like that.
And they don't kill him,
even though he's a blue eyed, blonde haired Swede,
who's a Christian.
And he has crusades over there and people get.
Healed and delivered, you know, in the middle of Islam, right?
You know what he said to me?
He said, Jackie, don't ever go to the Middle East.
And I said, what?
I said, first of all, I wasn't planning on it, but second of all, why?
And he said, because they will sense your hatred for them and they will kill you.
He straight up said that to me, you guys, and he's the kindest, sweetest man
that you would ever meet full of Jesus.
Because back in those days, I had a really, I had a real huge heart wound for
father and I disliked men.
I know that's hard to believe, but it's true.
I didn't dislike my husband.
I didn't dislike certain men, but I had a bad taste in my mouth for men in general.
And men were always guilty until proven innocent.
And I was up in arms about, you know, he was talking about his travels in the
Middle East and I was up in arms about how women are treated over there and the
Sharia law and all the things that I was talking about that with him.
And that's when he told me that I should never go there because they will know
that I hate them and they will kill me.
He said, the reason why they don't kill me is because he knows that I like,
because they can sense that I love them.
So I just want to put that out there.
I feel like that's a Holy spirit moment.
I didn't have that in my notes.
And that story came to my mind.
You know, a lot of times we repel men, no matter how pretty we are on the
outside, no matter how nice or polite we seem.
But remember we have a spirit realm that's going on all around us.
We're not just bodies.
We're spirits.
We're souls that heart part of us, that epicenter of our mind, will, and emotions.
And just because someone's not consciously aware of something doesn't mean that
they're not unconsciously aware that you don't like men doesn't mean that
you're not giving off a vibe.
I know we don't like to use the word energy because we think it's new agey,
but you guys are spirits, our energy, and we're giving off.
A currency, a current of distaste for men in general.
And it comes across in our body language and some of the words that we choose.
And we really, really, really have to let God heal that.
Ask God to help you to love men, to be the biggest cheerleader of
the masculine in the earth.
Cause I already told you so many of the ills that we're experiencing right now
are because of fatherlessness.
Show up on our prayer calls for that first 15 minutes and pray for men.
Let God, remember the Bible says, pray for your enemies and
those that despitefully use you.
Come and pray for men so that your heart can be softened.
Because I promise you, if you do that, you'll be like me.
I'm now a huge cheerleader of the masculine.
Of course, I'm not going to support or try to help men that are doing
bad things or acting unworthily.
I'm going to pray for them.
I'm going to bless them and block them sometimes if that's necessary.
Sometimes you got to bless them and block them ladies, right?
Penis pick, bless and block.
All right.
Inappropriate sexual talk on the first date of, well, my wife
didn't want to ever have sex.
So I want to make sure that you like to have sex, bless and block.
That's inappropriate.
First date conversation.
That just happened to one of my students.
It happens all the time, you know, bless and block.
Oh, sir.
I'm so sorry that you're afraid of your future sex life, but that's not a
conversation for you to have with me because guess what?
I won't be there.
Bye bye now.
All right.
So you can have those conversations with people that are immature and inappropriate,
you know, and you can bless them and block them if you need to, but just a
mankind as a whole, we want to be for man because God's for me.
God loves his sons, not just his daughters.
And ever since second wave feminine in the seventies, men have been disempowered
while women have been, uh, ironically counterfeitly empowered, empowered to
do a lot of heinous things that we never should have been empowered to do.
There were a few good things that came from second wave feminism as far as
parody and pay gap and stuff like that.
But at what cost y'all at what cost, at the cost of children and the family
at the cost of, you know, literally a genocide of abortion on demand.
I'm a firm believer that I don't care what it is.
If you have to think about it for a certain amount of time and you can't just
do it on the spur of the moment, you will make a better decision.
Let's just prove my point.
If there was no fast food, do you think that you would eat healthier?
If you had to cook all your food, you couldn't just drive through a drive
through and order a bunch of MSG and saturated fat to clog your arteries.
If you couldn't do it, if you had to go get your stuff at the grocery store and
you had to take it home and cook it, do you think that you would eat healthier?
Please tell me, unmute yourselves.
Talk to me.
Would you.
If you had to wait till Thursday night at eight o'clock for prime
time to watch your favorite show.
Do you think that you would make a better use of your time in general?
Do you think that you would make a better decision about whether or
not you could watch that?
that show and you think that you'd make a better use of the time that you had in
between that show and your whole week instead of sitting down and for hours and
hours and hours and hours and hours,
binging things instead of doing other things that you should be doing with your
life.
If you found yourself in a crisis,
pregnancy found yourself pregnant by someone you didn't love or someone who's
abusive or by someone you didn't know because of a one night stand or God
forbid by a family member because of an incestuous situation,
if you had to wait and you couldn't just make an important appointment to go and
get this freak out situation that you're in taking care of,
taking care of,
but you had access to resources and education.
Do you think that there'd be a lot less abortions on the earth if we didn't have
them on demand? So I submit to y'all that on demand,
everything and anything has not benefited us as a society.
And that's where we got it from. We got it from the feminist movement.
Also divorce on demand.
I understand that we don't want to be stuck in marriages with people that are
abusive to us and all those different things. And that's great. Um,
but divorce on demand for any reason has not benefited society.
It hasn't. All right. So I leave you with that. I really want you guys.
Did anyone learn anything tonight?
I feel like you guys have not talked back to me very much.
I know it's heavy guys. It's tight, but it's right.
God wants us to step into our divine feminine.
And can I tell you what the feminine does?
The feminine lifts up the entire family.
The feminine lifts up the entire family. Remember she's the easer.
That word is used 21 times in the Bible,
19 times for God as our rescuer and twice for women.
That doesn't mean that you are the rescuer of mankind,
but it does mean that we are warriors. We are.
And when you empower a righteous feminine woman,
when you empower a healed, healthy, and whole woman,
what she will do is she will lift up the whole community, the whole family.
She will lift up mankind and womankind. She will,
that's what she will do because the feminine is amazing. We really are.
We're amazing. So let's step into our rightful inheritance.
Is that start showing up for those first 15 minutes of praying for men on those
prayer calls.
We've seen lots of shift in the men in our communities because of it.
And we're continuing to see that.
And I believe it's a direct result of the powerful prayers of the feminine for
the masculine. All right. See you guys later. This is available in replay,
and I'll see you soon. Bye everyone.