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And so I'm going to give you some challenges tonight.

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I'm going to challenge you in a few ways as we kick off this next phase of the,

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what we call the accelerator.

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So we're going to help you accelerate the heartwork. Now,

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the reason why we call it your last year single,

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because if you do your heartwork, if you get that foundational piece, right,

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then the rest of it doesn't have to really take forever.

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A lot of times people have been walking in circles for years and years and years

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and not really knowing what was wrong or what was holding them back or had them

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stuck. And that's why we do that piece first.

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You should have been getting some real revelation in different areas of your

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life about, you know, understanding your heart,

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understanding where your behaviors and patterns come from.

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Identity is where behavior comes from.

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So behavior follows identity. It's not the other way around.

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We would love it if identity would follow behavior.

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If we could just make a list of all the things we want to change about ourselves

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and we could just take our little type a selves for those of you that are

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getter done girls and just go out and do those things.

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And then just change our lives. That would be amazing. Right?

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And that's why the saying doesn't say change your behavior, change your life.

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It says, change your thoughts and change your life. Right?

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And thoughts don't come from here. They come from here.

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And that's why positive mental attitude and just

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affirmations and confessions and declarations. That's why they don't work.

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They may make you feel good for a minute and you might feel a little bit

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activated when you're saying them,

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but if they're don't have their foundation here,

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if they're not really coming from your heart space,

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that soul space, if they are coming just from an intellectual, more of a,

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you know, a thinking space,

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then that is going to not really be sustainable long-term. Right.

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And we've all done it. I want you to raise your hand.

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If you have had New Year's resolutions,

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right. And we just want to thank Bethany.

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Bethany has been y'all's coach, uh,

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mostly through the heart work portion of your, of your last year single.

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And she will, you will see her again. You will see her very soon. Um,

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but thanks Bethany for getting us started. And if you need to,

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if you need to go, you can, you can stay if you want to,

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but you can definitely, um,

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go and do whatever you had planned on this nice Tuesday night.

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So raise your hand if you ever made a New Year's resolution.

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Raise your hand.

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If you ever made a list of things that you want to change about yourself,

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and then you, you know,

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read a book or went to a seminar and made a decision that this is it.

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This is the time I'm going to change.

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And then a lot of times we might change for a few minutes,

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but it's not a sustainable thing, right?

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We go back to those old behavior patterns pretty soon.

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You change your eating, you go back to the same way of eating.

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As soon as you get off the diet, you get go, you go right back. Right.

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Because as soon as they're over, and usually they are over that is when we go

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back to whatever unhealthy patterns we had in that area of our lives.

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And so the change has to come from here.

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The Bible says, and you read about this in your heart work,

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that out of the quality of your heart comes the quality of your life.

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And also in Proverbs,

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this is where we get the biblical law of attraction from that I always talk

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about what you believe where here in your head, no, in your heart,

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you're going to get the quality of your life.

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Where here in your head, no, in your heart,

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what you believe you will eventually become what you believe about yourself.

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You will actualize that you will manifest that whatever words you love,

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you know, you, you will, you will, you will begin to live out of that place.

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So what you believe you will become, and then whatever you become,

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you will attract back to yourself.

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So whether you attract the opposite,

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the polar opposite that back to yourself or something similar back to yourself,

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you will attract back to yourself.

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And so oftentimes you'll hear dating coaches and people say, you know,

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don't look for the right person become the right person, right.

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Or they'll say things like, don't look for someone, you know, that,

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that fits your list, you become your list.

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And then the person that you're looking for will be attracted to you kind of

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ideas. And I don't disagree with that. On a,

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on a high level, like on a surface level,

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I think that that's true to a certain extent,

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but I believe that life is an inner game.

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And I think that we're always doing the inner game.

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I don't think that we ever get done doing the hard work,

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but the tools that you learn in the first five weeks of this program,

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you can now carry in your tool belt and you can be self-aware self-awareness is

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power. Ladies.

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It's going to change your life when you realize not just what you're doing,

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but why you're doing it to a higher level than you've ever realized before.

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And I believe that that's part of the supernatural sauce that helps the people

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that we have had success with get married, get married. By the way,

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I had two engagements this week. I have one wedding tomorrow.

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I had another wedding

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last week.

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So just constantly, you guys constantly.

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success stories coming in of people getting engaged, people getting married.

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And so you are in good company.

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You are a place where if no one out there is cheering for your love story,

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we're cheering for your love story. We believe in your love story.

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I even got a tattoo. Was it yesterday or the day before?

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It just says hope on it.

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And then a heart on my marriage on my ring finger there and hope for,

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you know, revival in marriage and family. And so, um,

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because that is how I, that's, that's how all in I am to year,

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to your success story and to what God has called me to do,

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which is to be a prophet to the single nation.

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And I believe that you guys all are here because God has called you to be part

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of that revival and your spirit mates are looking for you.

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So let's help them find you, right? It's the man's job to find the wife,

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Proverbs 18 22. And that's what our men's group is called.

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It's called the 18 22 challenge and the 18 22 men's mentorship group or the 18

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22 last year single. Um, that's what our guys group is, is called.

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And you guess what the guys are doing their heartwork right now.

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We have guys in a heartwork module right now.

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There's other guys that have already done their heartwork that are just in our

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community.

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There's guys that haven't done their heartwork yet that have come into

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community. Um, but men do their heartwork too.

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It's a little different than you guys, the same material,

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different spin on it in some places, which it makes more sense to men,

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but it is the man's job. It is his assignment.

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Let's put it that way to seek out his wife.

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That word fine means to seed and discover. All right.

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Or for it to be revealed to him that this is not just some ordinary woman in

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front of him. Because remember it says when a man finds a wife,

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it doesn't say woman. It doesn't say when a man finds a woman,

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he finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.

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It doesn't say when a husband finds a wife,

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he finds favor, obtains favor, finds a good thing and obtains favor from Lord.

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No, it says when a man, just an ordinary old man finds a wife,

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that is when he has obtained favor from the Lord to be able to see,

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discover for it to be revealed to him that this is not just a regular woman.

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This is a helpmate. This is an easer. This is a spirit mate. This is a wife.

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And so my assignment is to help you become that before you're ever married.

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Cause that scripture tells us very specifically that you can become the wife

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without before you have the husband, doesn't it? And then you're like, well,

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well, wait, he's a man marrying a wife. Where, when do I get the husband,

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the wife, the easer, the helpmate actually brings the husband out of the man.

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And so when he takes you as his wife,

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you will actually begin to bring out of him husband qualities.

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You'll see some of those qualities in the courtship,

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because you'll already started bringing out of him.

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As soon as he starts pursuing you,

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as soon as you start courting towards marriage and he's intentional,

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he's falling in love with you. You'll start seeing him sacrificing.

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These are the three M's. If you want to write these down,

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because this is your onboarding into our next phase,

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what you want to look for in a man is, is he, is he masculine?

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Is he mature? And is he marriage minded?

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Those are the three M's of a husband. He's masculine. He's mature.

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And he's marriage minded.

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And as he begins to get to know you more and more and gets more and more

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excited about the relationship, he's going to want to be a better man for you.

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You're not fixing him. He's not a project,

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but just because you are showing up in your easer,

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you are showing up in your warrior bride. That's what that word means.

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It's used 21 times in the Bible is used 19 times for God

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as our rescue or as our help,

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as our warrior and then twice for wife, for a woman,

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woman as wife. You're like, wow. Yeah. The feminine is not weak.

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Y'all it's just different than the masculine it's strong in a different way.

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And so it's important that we understand that let's let men be men in the way

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that God's divinely designed them to be.

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And we want to be women in the way that God's divinely designed us to be.

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And there's going to be a whole module during this portion of your program,

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where we're going to talk about the divine feminine.

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We're going to lean into what does that look like to be divinely feminine?

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Cause a lot of us are operating in a lot of counterfeit energy,

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a lot of counterfeit masculine energy,

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because we've been single and we can do it ourself and we don't need any help.

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And you know, yeah, you might want to be married,

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but you don't think you really need a man.

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And I'm going to change your mind about that.

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Because I do believe that you need a man.

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I believe that we need each other because we're better together.

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And if we are really together in the ways that God has created us to be

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together, that culture that we're in might call it codependency.

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And I want you to get rid of those ideas.

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It's actually interdependency, but you have to understand we live in a,

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a very toxically feminine or feminist culture.

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And we live in a culture where we don't want to be dependent on each other.

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which tells women that if we need a man for anything,

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then we have to basically give up our W card.

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We can't be women anymore.

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You know, we're ashamed of our sex.

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If you need a man, you know, you might want a man

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because you might like to, just like men have sex,

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like casual sex.

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You might want a man because, you know,

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you like whatever he brings to the table for you

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in the moment, but you don't really need a man.

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Well, that's not what we're taught in the origin story,

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in the original design story of our lives.

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It says that he made them,

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both male and female did he make them,

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and he made them for each other

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because they were better together.

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In fact, when there was only one of them, the masculine,

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and if you didn't know this,

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the feminine was existing inside the masculine at that time,

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but there was just one vessel, one component.

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God said it wasn't good.

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It wasn't finished.

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It wasn't complete until he allowed mankind,

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humankind to dwell separately and then come back together.

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And so if that was the original design,

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if that was, you know, God's original plan,

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then it must be the best one, right?

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We have things that we can bring to each other,

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but only when we're operating in our original design.

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And that's going to look different for all of you.

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There's no cookie cutter called feminine.

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And then each and every one of us have to be that thing,

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fit that mold.

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And that's where past generations have gone wrong.

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And women have, you know, bucked up against that.

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And that's where we've gotten some of the trouble

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that we have now.

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Because women are like, hey, wait, you know,

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I don't want to be barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen,

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baking cookies and raising kids.

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You know, God's called me to do something different

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than that.

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You know, I have a different drum that I hear beating.

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You know, maybe I want to, you know,

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I want to be an engineer.

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I want to do that.

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I don't think that women have to choose

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between career and family,

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but I do think that you can have it all,

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but not at the same time.

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I think sometimes you have to put some things over here

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and allow them to simmer a little bit,

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allow them to marinate a little bit.

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Like for me, for instance, my kids are all grown.

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They're all grown and I'm doing amazing things.

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And I did parts of these amazing things

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while they were growing up,

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but I never sacrificed my family on the altar of my career.

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I never ran off after significance

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without understanding that my greatest significance

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and my greatest assignment

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was to be the matriarch and mother of my family.

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I was able to pour into my children

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and simultaneously show them

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that I was still a daughter of God and a woman

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and also a mother.

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So I feel like we do one or the other.

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We just give our entire lives.

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We sacrifice ourselves as tribute to our families.

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We give up all of our dreams, all of our callings.

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We're no longer a woman, we're a mom.

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Okay, I get that.

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We're no longer a daughter with dreams and desires.

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We're a mom.

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I get why people think that that is like

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the noble thing to do.

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But so often those women,

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they're unhappy in just that role alone.

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They're not allowing themselves to dream.

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They're not allowing themselves

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to put in a little bit of preparation here and there

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for when those children grow up and go, and they will.

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And if they don't, then you failed

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because you want them to grow up and go

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unless they have some sort of special needs

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that would not allow them to.

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You don't want them to live in your basement

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playing Atari and eating cheese puffs.

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You want them to grow up and go and be healthy enough

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to be able to go after their dreams

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and eventually, hopefully get married

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and have families of their own, right?

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Because grandbabies are great, y'all.

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I love them.

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I'm so glad that I have them.

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If it's possible to love them more than your kids.

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No, I'm just kidding.

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I do love them though.

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They're so squishy and they're my favorite.

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Okay, so I showed my children by the grace of God

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because I didn't know.

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I do know that I read something

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that some actress said one time,

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and even though I'm sure she's not a believer,

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what she said, I heard it through the Holy Spirit.

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So whatever she meant by it and whatever it is that,

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you know, she was doing with her life, it didn't matter.

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Have you ever read something from someone,

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you know, they're not a believer,

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but God still speaks to you through it, right?

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Because of the pure, all things are pure, right?

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So when we have our eyes focused on Jesus, you know,

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we can watch a movie and we can walk away

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with a massive spiritual message from that movie

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that was not created probably to give you

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a spiritual message, but it doesn't matter.

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And so anyway, this actress,

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and I don't even remember who she is now,

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but someone was questioning,

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she had children, small children,

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and they were questioning, you know, just her schedule

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and how does she do it all and all the things.

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And she said something that really resonated with me.

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And she said this, she said,

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the greatest gift that I can give my children

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is for them to have a front row seat.

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to watch me go after the dreams of my heart, right?

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Because we're modeling for them

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what they're going to do as well.

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And as long as we're not sacrificing them

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on a sacrificing them as logs on the fire of our passion,

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then they are going to learn something from that.

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If we show them, as long as we're not burning ourselves out

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and burning the candle at both sides,

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and I usually don't go this much into this kind of topic,

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but apparently someone here needs to hear what I'm saying,

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whether you're here in person or you're going to be watching

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it's not either or, it can be both and

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if you learn how to balance that.

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And Holy Spirit is a great balancer.

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He helps us to bring balance to our lives, okay?

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I'm not into extremes and guess who isn't,

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who else isn't into extremes?

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God.

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And so anytime you feel like God's talking to you

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and it's in some sort of extremity,

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some sort of extreme language,

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it's not God talking to you, okay?

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It's some sort of religious paradigm, religious voice,

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where you have filtered, you know, the voice of the Lord,

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because God does not drive us, he draws us, okay?

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He doesn't pressure us.

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He doesn't pressure us.

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A lot of times I would feel an urgency for something

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and I don't mean like an urgency to pray or to,

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I would feel an urgency, like I would feel pressured

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and I would feel driven.

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Anyone else feel like that?

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And you feel like, you know, God's pressuring you,

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something spiritual is pressuring you and driving you

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and trying to get you to, you know, do, do, do, do, do.

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That's not God.

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It isn't.

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God woos us and he draws us.

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That's what he does.

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He woos us and he draws us.

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I heard a, I don't remember who said it,

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but I heard a quote that said basically,

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delayed obedience is disobedience.

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And I don't agree with that.

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I don't.

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I believe that God is so kind and he's so good

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that he tells us things oftentimes in advance

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because he knows how long it's going to take us

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to understand what it is that he wants us to do.

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You know, and has anyone else ever experienced

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where you felt like a tinge of something

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that you felt like maybe God was leading you

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and drawing you to do,

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but you didn't really necessarily know how to do it

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or when to do it or who to do it with.

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And, you know, you didn't sit on it,

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you didn't let go of it,

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but it continued to kind of marinate inside of you.

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And at times you could have made yourself feel ashamed

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for not doing it yet,

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but at the same time, you really didn't know how to do it.

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And then pretty soon down the line,

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you just did something towards it

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and it ended up being perfect timing.

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Anyone else ever experienced that?

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Yeah, me too.

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And it was just so great, right?

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And that's when I realized that, hey, you know what?

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God just really knows me.

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He knows how long it's going to take me to kind of,

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you know, it's a whole different thing.

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Disobedience looks like this, ladies.

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It looks like, no, you sit on your hands.

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No, I'm not going to do it.

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I refuse to do it.

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I don't want to do it.

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That's not God.

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I don't believe it.

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You know, just completely, you know, deciding,

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and even worse, doing something completely opposite of it.

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Totally opposite.

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It's just like, no, I'm not going to do that.

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I'm going to do this.

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I'm going to do this.

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I remember once, before I met my husband,

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before he moved in next door to me and became my neighbor,

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and then eventually became, you know,

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became my friend and became my husband.

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Before that, there was another guy, y'all.

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Isn't there always another guy?

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There was another guy.

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And I was just, I was beaten up and bruised

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from my first marriage, you guys.

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I had no business even entertaining the idea

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of being with nobody, okay?

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Because I definitely had not done the hard work.

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And so this guy was a preschool dad.

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My daughter was in preschool

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and he was a preschool dad, right?

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That sounds super sexy, doesn't it?

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No, he's a preschool dad.

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So in the line, I would have to,

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this preschool was in a church, not my church,

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just some church.

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And I would go to pick my daughter up

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and all the parents would line up in the hallway

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because you have to go in the classroom

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and, you know, get your child

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because your child's a toddler, they're little.

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And so we're all lined up in the hallway,

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waiting for class to get over

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so that we can go in the classrooms and get our kids.

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And my daughter's classroom's over here

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with her preschool teacher

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and his son's classroom was over here.

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Our kids were the exact same age.

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And so every day, or at least three days a week,

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Monday, Wednesday, and Friday,

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him and I would be in this hallway on opposite sides,

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kind of like facing each other,

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just kind of lined up, waiting to go get our kids.

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And, you know, I was like, you know, he wasn't a player.

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He was very kind.

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He was a very sweet, generous man,

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very chivalrous, handsome.

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You know, he wasn't like, you know, like, you know,

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what are you?

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doing kind of thing. That wasn't it. It wasn't him. Um, and so I really,

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I was starving for that. And a lot of you can relate to this.

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I was starving for that because I had only been around the other type of men,

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the kind of men that they chase you hard. They love bomb you. You know,

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they try to seduce you and get you romantically interested in them when the

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whole time, you know, it's for their own pleasure,

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their own nefarious purposes. And so this man was not like that. He was,

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he was gentle. He was kind. He was respectful. He was honorable.

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He was something I ain't never seen before.

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And so I started thinking some kind of way about him. Anybody else?

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Started having a little crush on him in the hallway of the preschool.

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And then pretty soon, you know, we had a few play dates together. Come on,

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y'all little play date action. And I was entertaining this idea of,

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you know, Oh, this could, maybe this is my person. You know,

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maybe this is my redemption story, you know,

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just kind of entertaining those ideas.

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And then my car was in the shop and I needed a ride to go get it.

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And he took me, you guys, he volunteered, Hey, you know,

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did you need a ride to go pick up your car? I would love to take you.

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I would love to help you. It's like a man helping me. What is this?

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And so I went with him and you guys in the car, I'm just being honest in the car,

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you could cut the sexual tension with a knife. All right.

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Like my hand is just resting right here. And like,

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and I can imagine him just his hand is coming and I've known him for months at

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this time, like coming over and did a little shoot and just holding my hand.

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That's what I mean by sexual tension, like romantic excitement,

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like kind of thing. And he did, he held my hand, you guys.

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And I was like, Oh, cause I knew he liked me. And now I really know.

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And so I'm like, this is good.

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And so I'm like coasting on the beautiful wind of this,

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maybe romance that's budding and beginning. And then God speaks to me.

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And I know my Papa's voice pretty well. And he says, he's not the one.

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It wasn't harsh. It wasn't mean, it wasn't rude.

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He didn't say you better break up with him right now, you know, or blah, blah,

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blah. It was just like, he's not the one. And then he said to me,

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basically along the lines of something like, if you let him go,

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you're going to find something so much better suited to where you're going in

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the future. And y'all, I don't know what my future is.

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I don't think I even have a future.

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And so it took me a good month or maybe more to stop talking to this guy.

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And little by little, as I let God invade my heart, I started to, you know,

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feel more and more and more that this just was not the person that I was going

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to date. Not because there was anything wrong with him. That's the hard part.

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There was nothing wrong with this person.

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At the same time,

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I did not feel a peace about continuing in relationship with him.

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I felt the tugging of Holy spirit.

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I felt the tugging and the wooing and the drawing away of Holy spirit.

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And I eventually just said, Hey, you know,

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I'm not going to be able to date you. I don't, you know,

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I don't think this is going to go anywhere. You know,

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one thing I needed to do was heal, right? For sure.

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But that isn't why God told me that because I didn't heal.

488
00:23:25.400 --> 00:23:28.000
Just a few months later, my husband moved in next door to me.

489
00:23:29.640 --> 00:23:34.120
And just a few months later for I was dating him.

490
00:23:34.880 --> 00:23:38.320
And a month later I was engaged. And a couple of months later I was married.

491
00:23:39.400 --> 00:23:42.560
And 16 years later, I can tell you the other guy, his name was Greg.

492
00:23:42.840 --> 00:23:46.080
We wouldn't have been a match. We wouldn't have been a longterm match.

493
00:23:46.080 --> 00:23:47.880
We definitely were a short-term match.

494
00:23:48.120 --> 00:23:51.680
We both had gone through some similar things with divorce and had children the

495
00:23:51.680 --> 00:23:55.320
same age. And he was very kind and Christian and good and all the things.

496
00:23:55.680 --> 00:23:56.760
But you know what?

497
00:23:56.760 --> 00:24:00.760
I'm pretty feisty and I don't think he could have handled me. I am.

498
00:24:00.800 --> 00:24:05.160
I'm a feisty woman and my husband can handle me.

499
00:24:06.800 --> 00:24:10.600
All right. My husband is a really, really, really good string on my kite.

500
00:24:12.240 --> 00:24:15.880
And so God knows us better when we, than we know ourselves. And so, um,

501
00:24:15.880 --> 00:24:20.840
for those of you that have been feeling driven or pressured by what you think is

502
00:24:20.840 --> 00:24:22.360
God, I want you to let go of that.

503
00:24:22.400 --> 00:24:25.680
And so when I talk to you tonight about what I want you to do,

504
00:24:26.080 --> 00:24:30.040
as we go into this next phase, if you feel pressured or driven,

505
00:24:30.400 --> 00:24:33.200
then just go ahead and just soak in the heartwork.

506
00:24:33.600 --> 00:24:36.480
You don't have to do what I'm asking you to do. If you're not ready to do it,

507
00:24:36.880 --> 00:24:38.480
God knows when you will be ready.

508
00:24:38.480 --> 00:24:43.680
And he's having me ask you in advance for when you will be. Amen. All right.

509
00:24:44.600 --> 00:24:49.520
If you need a good swift kick in the butt though, I'm your girl. All right.

510
00:24:49.720 --> 00:24:51.200
I'm definitely your girl for that.

511
00:24:51.560 --> 00:24:56.040
So here's what we're going to do going forward. We have,

512
00:24:56.040 --> 00:24:59.440
let's look at our schedule real quick tonight. The kickoff and then.

513
00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:03.120
Then on 8, 10, next Thursday, we have dating 101.

514
00:25:03.120 --> 00:25:07.260
We're going to talk more about the masculine, mature, marriage minded,

515
00:25:07.260 --> 00:25:08.160
what to look for.

516
00:25:08.160 --> 00:25:12.200
We're going to talk about all things, dating a lot of stuff you may have

517
00:25:12.200 --> 00:25:15.840
heard in a different way before through some other book you read or something.

518
00:25:16.160 --> 00:25:18.680
Um, but a lot of things you probably have never heard before.

519
00:25:18.840 --> 00:25:21.160
And I'll go over the different, the five levels.

520
00:25:21.840 --> 00:25:22.320
Okay.

521
00:25:22.320 --> 00:25:26.160
Of dating in our community, because we do have a coed community and you will start

522
00:25:26.160 --> 00:25:30.080
to little by little by little, be exposed to the men in our community.

523
00:25:30.320 --> 00:25:32.560
And so what are the five levels of relationship?

524
00:25:32.640 --> 00:25:36.120
And you can use this for any community that you're in, whether it's your work,

525
00:25:36.120 --> 00:25:39.400
your job, a church community, some kind of recreational community that you're

526
00:25:39.400 --> 00:25:41.640
part of, and that will really be helpful to you.

527
00:25:41.640 --> 00:25:43.760
So we'll cover all of that in dating 101.

528
00:25:44.120 --> 00:25:47.360
Then for those of you that want to venture out to swimming with the

529
00:25:47.360 --> 00:25:50.040
sharks into online dating, all right.

530
00:25:50.320 --> 00:25:53.240
Because I I'm going to tell you right now, if you have a healed, healthy

531
00:25:53.240 --> 00:25:57.640
and whole heart, you can find an amazing man anywhere, even on a dating app.

532
00:25:58.080 --> 00:26:01.400
And so online dating, uh, we will have an entire.

533
00:26:02.080 --> 00:26:07.000
So a segment of that specifically how to stay safe on online dating, what to look

534
00:26:07.000 --> 00:26:12.920
for, what to avoid, you know, how to navigate what you're doing there, you

535
00:26:12.920 --> 00:26:16.760
know, with the conversations, how do you get to first in-person dates?

536
00:26:16.760 --> 00:26:17.920
What does that all look like?

537
00:26:18.240 --> 00:26:21.040
Anything and everything you ever wanted to know, including what to put on your

538
00:26:22.040 --> 00:26:25.760
what, what dating apps to use, depending on what you're looking for and how old

539
00:26:25.760 --> 00:26:30.720
you are and where you live all in that online dating portion on the 15th.

540
00:26:31.000 --> 00:26:34.200
And then on the 24th, we're going to talk about boundaries, talk about

541
00:26:34.200 --> 00:26:38.480
boundaries with God, with ourselves, with others, with family boundaries and dating.

542
00:26:38.480 --> 00:26:40.640
We're going to talk about a whole bunch of different things

543
00:26:40.640 --> 00:26:41.800
that have to do with boundaries.

544
00:26:42.160 --> 00:26:44.880
That's going to be what we do here in the month of August.

545
00:26:45.480 --> 00:26:51.280
But tonight as the kickoff of this part of your program, I'm going to put you

546
00:26:51.280 --> 00:26:53.720
into a couple different challenges.

547
00:26:54.480 --> 00:26:56.880
So you've been on a dating sabbatical and if you haven't finished the

548
00:26:56.880 --> 00:26:58.200
heartwork, go ahead and finish.

549
00:26:58.800 --> 00:27:02.280
If you're in week two, go ahead and finish week three, finish week four,

550
00:27:02.280 --> 00:27:06.960
finish five, finish before you start on these challenges, right?

551
00:27:06.960 --> 00:27:08.320
Don't get the cart before the horse.

552
00:27:08.320 --> 00:27:11.920
I promise you, this is not a race and God can help make happen for you in a

553
00:27:11.920 --> 00:27:15.120
moment, what you could never do for yourself in a whole lifetime of trying.

554
00:27:15.840 --> 00:27:17.160
So I really want to encourage you.

555
00:27:17.640 --> 00:27:19.400
Let the main thing be the main thing.

556
00:27:20.760 --> 00:27:21.200
Okay.

557
00:27:21.480 --> 00:27:25.640
But if you, and, and, and for those of you that would be the opposite, you're

558
00:27:25.640 --> 00:27:27.960
the kind of person who feels like you're never, ever done with the

559
00:27:27.960 --> 00:27:29.400
heartwork you're never, ever done.

560
00:27:29.680 --> 00:27:32.960
I want you to understand that the next layer of your healing

561
00:27:32.960 --> 00:27:34.960
will happen within relationship.

562
00:27:35.920 --> 00:27:39.240
I tell my ladies all the time, if you think that you're fully healed,

563
00:27:39.560 --> 00:27:41.440
dating will show you differently.

564
00:27:42.120 --> 00:27:45.160
It will bring out stuff that you didn't even know that was there.

565
00:27:45.160 --> 00:27:47.600
And so that's why it's important that we get you going in that

566
00:27:47.600 --> 00:27:49.240
direction of meeting people.

567
00:27:49.480 --> 00:27:53.520
So you can see things about yourself that you've never seen before and get

568
00:27:53.520 --> 00:27:56.640
you to a place where if you've been hurt in relationship, you can be healed in

569
00:27:56.640 --> 00:27:59.760
relationship, hurting family, healed in family, hurt in marriage, healed in

570
00:27:59.760 --> 00:28:03.800
marriage, hurting community, healing community, the whole, the whole nine yards.

571
00:28:04.440 --> 00:28:08.200
So starting tonight, we're going to go into a seven date challenge.

572
00:28:08.840 --> 00:28:11.800
You're like, how long do I have Jackie to get the seven dates?

573
00:28:11.800 --> 00:28:12.680
Well, good question.

574
00:28:13.080 --> 00:28:14.880
You have until the fall.

575
00:28:16.440 --> 00:28:16.960
Okay.

576
00:28:17.000 --> 00:28:23.240
You have until October 31st to get the seven dates.

577
00:28:23.480 --> 00:28:29.200
So that's all of August, all of September, all of October to get the seven dates.

578
00:28:29.440 --> 00:28:29.960
Okay.

579
00:28:30.960 --> 00:28:31.720
That shouldn't be hard.

580
00:28:31.720 --> 00:28:32.240
Right.

581
00:28:32.440 --> 00:28:37.040
And a lot of you are going to what's the first day of fall.

582
00:28:37.040 --> 00:28:38.080
What's the first day of fall.

583
00:28:42.920 --> 00:28:44.960
September 23rd is when fall starts.

584
00:28:45.000 --> 00:28:45.500
Okay.

585
00:28:45.560 --> 00:28:49.560
So yes, October 31st.

586
00:28:49.920 --> 00:28:50.420
Okay.

587
00:28:50.760 --> 00:28:58.160
So you have that time and here's what qualifies as a date, a zoom, a FaceTime

588
00:29:00.280 --> 00:29:03.840
and an in-person, because some of you might have a date with someone long

589
00:29:03.840 --> 00:29:05.240
distance, so you might be on zoom.

590
00:29:05.240 --> 00:29:06.280
You might be on a FaceTime.

591
00:29:06.600 --> 00:29:07.440
All of that counts.

592
00:29:07.440 --> 00:29:12.000
You might ask Jackie, can I go on more than one date with the same guy and do

593
00:29:12.000 --> 00:29:14.080
those count as more than one date?

594
00:29:14.080 --> 00:29:14.580
Yes.

595
00:29:15.080 --> 00:29:18.040
So if you meet, you know, Henry and you like him and you go on three

596
00:29:18.040 --> 00:29:21.960
dates with Henry, then you made three, three, three of your quota you got.

597
00:29:22.440 --> 00:29:23.560
And why am I doing seven?

598
00:29:23.560 --> 00:29:25.280
Because seven is God's perfect number.

599
00:29:25.280 --> 00:29:26.480
It's a number of completion.

600
00:29:26.680 --> 00:29:30.560
I think for a lot of people, it's enough to challenge them.

601
00:29:30.640 --> 00:29:35.480
And for some people, it's, it's really, it's for people that have no problem

602
00:29:35.480 --> 00:29:36.960
getting dates, it's enough of a challenge.

603
00:29:36.960 --> 00:29:41.440
And for people that have never been on a date, they're not used to dating.

604
00:29:41.680 --> 00:29:43.560
It seems like a lot, but it's not.

605
00:29:43.560 --> 00:29:47.240
And you'll see, once you start applying some of the things that we're going to

606
00:29:47.240 --> 00:29:52.000
teach you, you'll start being able to get to that, to that quota.

607
00:29:52.080 --> 00:29:52.580
Okay.

608
00:29:53.000 --> 00:29:54.440
Now I don't want you to turn and burn them.

609
00:29:54.720 --> 00:29:56.520
Don't turn them and burn them ladies.

610
00:29:56.960 --> 00:30:00.000
And in the dating one-on-one, we're going to talk about, you know,

611
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:02.880
Oh, should you go out with someone that you're not attracted to?

612
00:30:03.240 --> 00:30:05.960
Should you even go on a first date with someone that you saw their picture?

613
00:30:05.960 --> 00:30:09.280
They asked you out. You're just like, I don't want to talk about all that in

614
00:30:09.280 --> 00:30:11.760
dating one-on-one. So if you have questions about that,

615
00:30:12.160 --> 00:30:16.080
then you can ask all of those questions. Okay.

616
00:30:16.120 --> 00:30:20.760
You can start your seven date challenge today. If you finish your heartwork,

617
00:30:21.040 --> 00:30:24.920
if not the rest of you guys have this whole week up until next Thursday for our

618
00:30:24.920 --> 00:30:29.200
dating one-on-one to catch up on your stuff. Okay. Important. Okay.

619
00:30:29.400 --> 00:30:33.360
So zoom FaceTime in person, all counts. Another thing that I, okay.

620
00:30:33.360 --> 00:30:34.880
So that's the first part of the challenge.

621
00:30:34.880 --> 00:30:36.360
Here's the second part of the challenge.

622
00:30:36.600 --> 00:30:38.880
You're going to come out of hiding starting today.

623
00:30:40.440 --> 00:30:42.360
I'm going to give you two different versions of this.

624
00:30:42.840 --> 00:30:46.120
The first version is tell all of your friends and family,

625
00:30:46.160 --> 00:30:49.040
all the people that you trust, that you think are healthy,

626
00:30:49.040 --> 00:30:52.280
that you know care about you, that you want to be married.

627
00:30:52.720 --> 00:30:55.920
I want you to confess that you want to be married.

628
00:30:56.400 --> 00:30:58.200
It doesn't matter how young you are, how old you are,

629
00:30:58.200 --> 00:31:01.680
how many times you've been married before. I want you to admit to this.

630
00:31:02.040 --> 00:31:06.600
God isn't going to give us what we won't even admit out loud or confess that we

631
00:31:06.600 --> 00:31:09.080
even want. So it's important that we confess.

632
00:31:09.080 --> 00:31:12.440
We want to partner with heaven believing that this is our time.

633
00:31:12.920 --> 00:31:15.400
And so for those of you that want to be really brave,

634
00:31:16.200 --> 00:31:18.240
you can even post that on your Facebook page.

635
00:31:18.560 --> 00:31:21.800
You can post that on your social media. Hey, friends and family out there.

636
00:31:21.800 --> 00:31:23.800
I want to let you know that, you know,

637
00:31:23.960 --> 00:31:26.280
my single girl era is coming to an end.

638
00:31:26.920 --> 00:31:30.320
And I can give you a little template of what you can say that other students have

639
00:31:30.320 --> 00:31:32.680
written before you. I didn't write this for you.

640
00:31:32.680 --> 00:31:36.160
This is what other people have put out on their Facebook and they have all

641
00:31:36.200 --> 00:31:38.760
gotten. They've all gotten amazing feedback.

642
00:31:39.040 --> 00:31:41.360
They've all been celebrated by their friends and family.

643
00:31:41.560 --> 00:31:45.200
They've gotten set up on dates and some people have gotten married from that

644
00:31:45.200 --> 00:31:48.440
post. And so if you're brave enough to do it,

645
00:31:49.480 --> 00:31:52.960
then you can do it. All right. Just letting them know, Hey,

646
00:31:52.960 --> 00:31:56.520
I'm open to meeting people that you might want to introduce me to just going to

647
00:31:56.520 --> 00:32:00.120
let you know, you can set me up. All right.

648
00:32:01.400 --> 00:32:05.480
Okay. So that's kind of a, that's the,

649
00:32:05.640 --> 00:32:10.040
the basic thing is I want you to put yourself out there to people

650
00:32:10.040 --> 00:32:13.720
privately, let people know, send a mass text, do whatever you want.

651
00:32:14.080 --> 00:32:19.160
And the more advanced level of coming out of hiding would be for you to blast

652
00:32:19.160 --> 00:32:22.480
that on your social media and let everyone know, Hey,

653
00:32:22.720 --> 00:32:25.520
this is what, you know, I'm working with a dating coach.

654
00:32:25.760 --> 00:32:29.000
She challenged me to do this. I really want to be married.

655
00:32:29.000 --> 00:32:31.800
I believe God has a spouse for me. Do you, you know,

656
00:32:31.800 --> 00:32:34.600
if you know anyone that you think, you know, I would, you know,

657
00:32:35.000 --> 00:32:38.280
that I would mesh with there's there's a post I'll go get it from the other

658
00:32:38.280 --> 00:32:40.960
group and I'll post it in your group. I don't remember what she said,

659
00:32:40.960 --> 00:32:43.720
but whatever she said was great. And I think you guys will like it.

660
00:32:43.960 --> 00:32:46.720
And then you can make it your own, however you want to. All right.

661
00:32:46.840 --> 00:32:49.680
And then the third challenge and you guys, part of that challenge,

662
00:32:49.680 --> 00:32:53.080
some of y'all you're not even out of hiding on your social media.

663
00:32:53.120 --> 00:32:57.800
Your avatar on social media is like a cat. It's like a palm tree.

664
00:32:58.120 --> 00:32:59.680
It's like a, you know,

665
00:32:59.680 --> 00:33:03.560
some weird cartoon character or some AI version of yourself.

666
00:33:03.880 --> 00:33:08.600
Put your picture on there. What are you afraid of?

667
00:33:08.680 --> 00:33:11.240
Ain't no one stalking you unless they are. And if they are,

668
00:33:11.240 --> 00:33:13.240
then we understand. But if they're not,

669
00:33:13.280 --> 00:33:18.080
then you have no excuse to not have a picture of yourself on your

670
00:33:18.120 --> 00:33:21.080
Facebook. Yeah. Your dog's cute,

671
00:33:21.960 --> 00:33:25.600
but no one wants to marry your dog. Okay. So let's put it up.

672
00:33:26.120 --> 00:33:29.920
How's your husband supposed to find you if you're hiding, stop it. All right.

673
00:33:29.920 --> 00:33:34.320
And then the last part of this challenge is what I call the water walking real

674
00:33:34.320 --> 00:33:35.360
food challenge.

675
00:33:35.840 --> 00:33:39.240
So many women disqualify themselves from a spirit mate,

676
00:33:39.240 --> 00:33:44.040
from a love story because they do not like what they look like in the mirror.

677
00:33:44.840 --> 00:33:47.600
They don't, they feel like they're too heavy.

678
00:33:48.760 --> 00:33:52.120
Mainly that's the main complaint that I get. You know, I know that I'm fat.

679
00:33:52.120 --> 00:33:55.000
I know that no man's going to want me. And here's the thing.

680
00:33:55.960 --> 00:33:59.320
It isn't that no man's going to want you because you're, you know,

681
00:33:59.400 --> 00:34:02.440
overweight for your height. Okay.

682
00:34:02.440 --> 00:34:06.000
You weigh more than you should for however tall you are and whatever your bone

683
00:34:06.000 --> 00:34:08.960
mass is. Um, but if you don't love yourself,

684
00:34:09.040 --> 00:34:11.440
I don't know how we expect other people to love us.

685
00:34:11.960 --> 00:34:15.239
If we want to attract healthy people, then we need to be healthy too.

686
00:34:15.679 --> 00:34:18.120
And the easiest way that I have ever found you guys,

687
00:34:18.120 --> 00:34:19.600
and I've worked with trainers. I've,

688
00:34:19.600 --> 00:34:22.520
I've had gym memberships that I never use just like all you,

689
00:34:23.120 --> 00:34:24.159
I have all that stuff.

690
00:34:24.360 --> 00:34:29.199
But then thing that I have found that works the most is to simply drink

691
00:34:29.199 --> 00:34:33.080
water, walk and eat real food.

692
00:34:35.480 --> 00:34:38.159
Walking is something for all of you that have auto-immune stuff.

693
00:34:39.159 --> 00:34:43.440
Walking is not going to flare you. A lot of people are like, well, Jackie,

694
00:34:43.440 --> 00:34:45.880
you know, I can't exercise at the gym because you know,

695
00:34:45.880 --> 00:34:48.440
I have fibromyalgia or I have this and it's, you know,

696
00:34:48.440 --> 00:34:52.000
then I spend three weeks in bed after just one workout. I get it, girl.

697
00:34:52.520 --> 00:34:56.800
I understand. And that's why walking is your best exercise.

698
00:34:57.280 --> 00:34:59.760
It is. And so if you go to the gym, set that.

699
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:04.640
mill and walk for at least two to four miles a day. Try to get that 10,000 steps in. If you can,

700
00:35:04.640 --> 00:35:09.200
if you can't try to get at least half of it, try to get half. And I'm not talking about, well,

701
00:35:09.200 --> 00:35:14.400
I set my watch today and I was busy at work and I was doing all the things. And it said that I took

702
00:35:14.400 --> 00:35:20.800
10,000 steps. So I mean, intentional you time, put your little headphones on, listen to some worship,

703
00:35:20.800 --> 00:35:25.600
listen to some, some, some podcasts, learn something new, do something as long as it's

704
00:35:25.600 --> 00:35:30.960
positive stuff. As long as it's positive stuff. Okay. You want to make sure that you're building

705
00:35:30.960 --> 00:35:35.600
yourself up, not tearing yourself down. The only number that I care about when it comes to your

706
00:35:35.600 --> 00:35:41.520
weight is your BMI and not the one that you get by doing the little calculator on the internet,

707
00:35:41.520 --> 00:35:46.320
because that doesn't know what your bones are like. But all of you, if you have a doctor,

708
00:35:46.320 --> 00:35:52.320
you have an alternative nutritionist or healthcare place you can go to, or even some gyms have them

709
00:35:52.320 --> 00:35:56.400
find out what your BMI is, get on the little thing. And then it scans your body and it does

710
00:35:56.400 --> 00:36:01.040
all the stuff, find out what your BMI is and let that be your goal to have a healthy BMI.

711
00:36:01.040 --> 00:36:05.600
Cause that's where the, that's what it's about when it's about disease, you know, diabetes,

712
00:36:06.160 --> 00:36:10.560
you know, high blood pressure, heart disease, all the things try to go after a healthy BMI.

713
00:36:10.560 --> 00:36:17.280
You deserve that. You deserve to be able to walk out this love story. You're not going to be able

714
00:36:17.280 --> 00:36:23.520
to get any promise from God that your body cannot sustain. You know that, right? Your body has to be

715
00:36:23.520 --> 00:36:28.480
able to go there. This is the only vehicle that you ride in. And so if you're not taking care of

716
00:36:28.480 --> 00:36:35.440
it, yeah, you might get married, but you also might die prematurely. Let's let's walk it all

717
00:36:35.440 --> 00:36:39.120
the way out. There's some things that we can't control, but there's some things that we can

718
00:36:39.120 --> 00:36:43.920
control by what we're talking about. Now, when it comes to water, a lot of people say different

719
00:36:43.920 --> 00:36:48.880
things, but I think 75 ounces for most people is going to be great. If you're taller, like me,

720
00:36:48.880 --> 00:36:53.520
I'm five 10. Um, you could probably drink a little bit more, but you guys, it's not just about

721
00:36:53.520 --> 00:37:00.080
drinking water. It's about hydration. So get some of those hydration powders and tablets, put them

722
00:37:00.080 --> 00:37:04.880
in your water so that your body actually uses the hydration and you don't just pee it out.

723
00:37:05.600 --> 00:37:09.680
If you're drinking water and you're going to the bathroom, like 50 times a day, then your body's

724
00:37:09.680 --> 00:37:13.440
just whoosh. It's just going out. You're not getting hydrated, right? We want to make sure

725
00:37:13.440 --> 00:37:17.840
that we're hydrating. And there's just so many things that you can do out there right at the

726
00:37:17.840 --> 00:37:22.960
grocery store, buy an organic one, buy one with no fillers, no colors, all the things and put it

727
00:37:22.960 --> 00:37:31.680
in your water. All right. So hydrate walk and eat real food. What does that mean? During this

728
00:37:31.680 --> 00:37:37.760
four weeks, I want you to eat food that doesn't have more than five ingredients on it.

729
00:37:39.680 --> 00:37:44.320
If you want to follow a plan like the whole 30 or the maker's diet by Jordan Rubin, if you want

730
00:37:44.320 --> 00:37:50.000
to follow a plan like that, that causes you to have to eat real food and not packaged and processed

731
00:37:50.000 --> 00:37:55.920
and fast food, um, then that's great. But this is not about going on a diet. This is about fueling

732
00:37:55.920 --> 00:38:03.040
your body, taking care of yourself. And if you do what I'm talking about, you actually a by-product

733
00:38:03.040 --> 00:38:07.680
of it will be that you lose weight. You definitely will lose weight. You'll lose inches, but the most

734
00:38:07.680 --> 00:38:13.520
important by-product is you will feel dang good about yourself. You will feel so accomplished.

735
00:38:13.520 --> 00:38:20.080
You're like Jackie. I'm so busy. I have kids, have your kids walk with you, take them with you.

736
00:38:20.720 --> 00:38:27.600
They're little, put them in a stroller. You guys, we can make progress or excuses. Trust me. I know

737
00:38:27.600 --> 00:38:31.680
as soon as I get off this, guess what I'm going to do? I'm going to go walk. I didn't get my walking

738
00:38:31.680 --> 00:38:37.520
in today. I'm going to go do it. You could do it at the gym. You could do it outside. It's like

739
00:38:38.400 --> 00:38:42.080
the devil's armpit where I live, but I'm still going to do it. I'm going to go.

740
00:38:43.360 --> 00:38:48.560
You guys, I have a little thermometer, like a little thermostat. And, uh, if you look at it

741
00:38:48.560 --> 00:38:54.160
one way, it's the indoor temperature. And then if you flip it around, it's the outdoor temperature.

742
00:38:54.160 --> 00:38:58.320
And then I was looking at the indoor temperature. It was like 77 degrees in my house. I'm like,

743
00:38:58.320 --> 00:39:04.080
Oh, it's really hot. Then I flipped it over and it literally spelled out hell H E L L for the

744
00:39:04.080 --> 00:39:08.400
outdoor temperature. And I live in Austin, Texas, where it's triple digits for the next two months.

745
00:39:08.400 --> 00:39:14.560
And I'm telling you, I was like, that's pretty accurate. Okay. So if I can do it, you can do it.

746
00:39:15.200 --> 00:39:21.040
We can all do it. We can all do it. We're adding, we're adding years to our life when we do it.

747
00:39:21.040 --> 00:39:26.240
Did you guys know that that sitting on your butt all day being sedentary is the new smoking.

748
00:39:28.560 --> 00:39:33.120
It's the new smoking y'all. And here's the thing. It's not too late for any of us.

749
00:39:33.120 --> 00:39:37.200
We can go after this. We can do it. And when you start loving yourself,

750
00:39:37.200 --> 00:39:41.760
when you put on your clothes and you want to do a little dance, make a little love,

751
00:39:41.760 --> 00:39:46.240
get down tonight, then that is going to be transferred out to the men that you're meeting.

752
00:39:46.240 --> 00:39:52.480
They're gonna be like, this woman is feeling herself. She likes herself. That makes me like

753
00:39:52.480 --> 00:39:59.040
her too. Cause the only men that are attracted to us when we don't love ourselves are men that

754
00:39:59.040 --> 00:39:59.840
are also not going to.

755
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:05.840
love us or men that want to fix us. And actually we don't want either one of those. So we want

756
00:40:05.840 --> 00:40:10.640
to love ourselves. So seven day challenge. You can put that on pause. If you're not done

757
00:40:10.640 --> 00:40:14.160
with your heart work materials yet, because I want you to do that for sure. If you're

758
00:40:14.160 --> 00:40:19.480
not ready, if you feel pressured and you feel frightened and scared, you don't have to start

759
00:40:19.480 --> 00:40:22.820
that right now. You can wait till we do the dating one-on-one because I'm probably going

760
00:40:22.820 --> 00:40:26.960
to make you feel a whole lot better when we do that session next week. All right. But

761
00:40:26.960 --> 00:40:32.000
for those of you that are ready, you're ready, set, go, go ahead. Remember zoom, FaceTime

762
00:40:32.000 --> 00:40:36.880
in person, all count. Um, and you're not competing against each other at all. This is just an

763
00:40:36.880 --> 00:40:41.400
incentive to kind of get you going and get you excited. Come out of hiding. Let everyone

764
00:40:41.400 --> 00:40:47.520
in your life that's healthy, that's healthy, that loves you know that you indeed want to

765
00:40:47.520 --> 00:40:51.320
be married and that not only that, that you're working towards that and that you're in a

766
00:40:51.320 --> 00:40:55.280
program where you're learning to, you know, that you're doing the stuff that we're doing

767
00:40:55.600 --> 00:41:02.760
and that you, um, are open to people introducing you to healthy people. And then of course,

768
00:41:02.760 --> 00:41:09.440
last but not least Walker water walking in real food. That's it. It's simple. And you

769
00:41:09.440 --> 00:41:13.480
guys, you know why it's simple because that should be the rest of your life for your lifestyle.

770
00:41:13.480 --> 00:41:18.240
Yeah. It's 90, 10. You're going to eat the cookie by the shoes. Sometimes you're definitely

771
00:41:18.240 --> 00:41:22.080
going to do that. But if you do this for the majority of your life, you just move your

772
00:41:22.080 --> 00:41:28.080
body, you hydrate it and you feed it real food. You are going to look whatever you were

773
00:41:28.080 --> 00:41:33.800
created to look like, whatever your body is supposed to look like, it's going to, it's

774
00:41:33.800 --> 00:41:37.720
going to look like that. No matter if you have diabetes, no matter if you have fibromyalgia,

775
00:41:37.720 --> 00:41:44.440
no matter if you have thyroid condition, your body can lose the excess weight that does

776
00:41:44.440 --> 00:41:45.440
not belong there.

777
00:41:45.440 --> 00:41:49.840
If you live this kind of lifestyle, do not believe the hype. Well, I have a thyroid condition

778
00:41:49.840 --> 00:41:58.480
and I can't lose weight lies, lies. I've seen too many women do it before you by keep

779
00:41:58.480 --> 00:42:03.880
it simple, sweetheart, just what I'm talking about. Nothing more, nothing less. A lot of

780
00:42:03.880 --> 00:42:07.680
people don't realize it, but when you start looking at the food that you're eating, you're

781
00:42:07.680 --> 00:42:11.480
going to start realizing that there's all kinds of crazy stuff in it. That's keeping

782
00:42:11.480 --> 00:42:15.560
you heavy and messing up your endocrine system. When you look at the food that you're eating,

783
00:42:15.560 --> 00:42:19.440
you're going to realize you're eating lots of sugar, lots and lots and lots of it. Even

784
00:42:20.040 --> 00:42:23.760
in that natural stuff. Yeah. Fruit is good, but keep it to the berries. Keep it to the

785
00:42:23.760 --> 00:42:28.720
berry family. If it has the word berry in it, you can eat it. Strawberry, blueberry,

786
00:42:28.720 --> 00:42:35.500
raspberry, boysenberry, blackberry. Say it with me. Berries. Those are very low in sugar.

787
00:42:35.500 --> 00:42:43.720
You can eat those. If you're eating the melons, if you're eating the, the, um, the, uh, mangoes

788
00:42:43.720 --> 00:42:49.060
and the, and the bananas and all that stuff, then yeah, that's not so good. That is nature's

789
00:42:49.680 --> 00:42:55.540
candy for sure. And so we're not going to get into a whole food thing here, but if you

790
00:42:55.540 --> 00:42:59.540
begin to just do this simple thing, you'll begin to see results. And when you begin to

791
00:42:59.540 --> 00:43:04.260
see results, you'll want more results. That will be exactly what happens. You guys, I

792
00:43:04.260 --> 00:43:11.540
went to Italy, uh, and I was there for two weeks, Italy and Portugal, and I lost weight

793
00:43:11.540 --> 00:43:18.100
there, eating all the pasta, eating all the things. And you know why? Because their food's

794
00:43:18.100 --> 00:43:22.700
not full of crap, not full of preservatives. They have like a lot of really strict rules

795
00:43:22.700 --> 00:43:30.060
around their food. Their food is fresh and walking, walking and eating real food, even

796
00:43:30.060 --> 00:43:34.340
if it was pasta. And that's, I mean, they feed, they feed, I feel like they feed you

797
00:43:34.340 --> 00:43:40.660
pasta for every single meal, breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Um, and I lost weight there. It's

798
00:43:40.660 --> 00:43:46.660
crazy, right? That just goes to show you that it's about eating fresh food, real food. You

799
00:43:46.660 --> 00:43:50.580
guys eat your food in season. If it doesn't grow in the season that you're buying it,

800
00:43:50.580 --> 00:43:53.460
don't get it because it probably came from far, far, far away. And it probably has a

801
00:43:53.460 --> 00:43:59.140
bunch of chemicals on it. Just use common sense. Use common sense. Say, Hey, you know,

802
00:43:59.140 --> 00:44:03.140
summertime I'm going to eat summer food. And in the winter time I'm eat winter food. That's

803
00:44:03.140 --> 00:44:07.660
what I'm going to do. Pasta sounds so good right now. All right, y'all. Okay. Does anyone

804
00:44:07.660 --> 00:44:19.580
have any questions? It's seven 47 here in Austin. Are you guys excited? Yes, but really

805
00:44:19.580 --> 00:44:32.500
I think have some anxiety about not dating, but I think it's the process because, um,

806
00:44:33.220 --> 00:44:39.540
I feel like I have some PTSD from past online dating. Well, that's why we want to continue

807
00:44:39.540 --> 00:44:44.100
to do the hard work. If you're not ready to get out there and do this yet, then wait until you

808
00:44:44.100 --> 00:44:48.100
are some of the teaching that we're going to do this month. That's going to help you to lessen

809
00:44:48.100 --> 00:44:54.900
that anxiety because ladies dating is not a romantic proposition. It's a discovery. It's

810
00:44:54.900 --> 00:44:59.860
a discovery of yourself and others. And I'm going to teach you how to date that way. Okay. How to

811
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:07.120
new people and how to not, you know, not make it high stakes, low stakes, low anxiety. All right.

812
00:45:07.120 --> 00:45:11.360
It's going to be great. It's going to be great. It's going to be exciting. And you're going to

813
00:45:11.360 --> 00:45:15.280
have your sisters around you and they're going to be doing it too. That's the other thing you're

814
00:45:15.280 --> 00:45:22.080
here and you're surrounded by people who are going to be cheering for you and helping you

815
00:45:22.080 --> 00:45:28.720
and each other's stories. This is your sister squad. I just had a, um, a student get married.

816
00:45:28.720 --> 00:45:32.880
She met her guy in our community. Um, and he was, you know, he was part of community too,

817
00:45:32.880 --> 00:45:36.960
and they got married and so many people from our community don't want to not just at their

818
00:45:36.960 --> 00:45:42.880
wedding, but in their wedding. So fun. So fun. And you're going to meet your sister squad here too.

819
00:45:42.880 --> 00:45:47.040
Yes, you can do this. Find out where each other are. Now you're going to eventually,

820
00:45:47.040 --> 00:45:50.400
after this portion of your last year, single program, you're going to be in the greater

821
00:45:50.400 --> 00:45:54.160
population. We're going to keep you separate for this next four weeks. But after that,

822
00:45:54.160 --> 00:45:58.080
you'll be in the greater population where everybody is. You'll see them on prayer calls

823
00:45:58.080 --> 00:46:03.040
and stuff, but you'll be with them eventually. But this group, okay. The 50 or so of you that

824
00:46:03.040 --> 00:46:08.640
are in this group, get to know each other, find out who lives by who get together, hang out together,

825
00:46:08.640 --> 00:46:13.040
be each other's wing women, you know, get together at each other's houses on the, on the thing.

826
00:46:13.040 --> 00:46:17.760
And if you decide to do online dating after we teach you how, unless you already know how

827
00:46:17.760 --> 00:46:21.360
you can get on each other's apps and you can just hand the phone to your friend and let your friend

828
00:46:21.360 --> 00:46:26.960
swipe for you. Wouldn't that be fun? Let your sister in here swipe. Cause she knows what we're

829
00:46:26.960 --> 00:46:30.720
looking for. Cause she's being taught the same thing. And she might swipe on someone that you

830
00:46:30.720 --> 00:46:35.520
wouldn't normally swipe on. And you might get a love connection that way, right? We got to get

831
00:46:35.520 --> 00:46:39.360
out of our own way. And the way we get out of our own way is to allow other people who don't have

832
00:46:39.360 --> 00:46:44.160
the same blind spots and filters as us help us. And that's why I'm here. And that's why the other

833
00:46:44.160 --> 00:46:47.920
coaches are here because we're going to help you get out of God's way, get out of your own way.

834
00:46:47.920 --> 00:46:54.400
And you are going to be successful. Yes, Michelle, we can do this. It's right. All right. Any other

835
00:46:54.400 --> 00:47:00.400
questions? I have a question. Um, what do you say? Like, I feel like I could be like an eager

836
00:47:00.400 --> 00:47:06.560
beaver and I get excited, but like asking people out versus like for the seven day challenge,

837
00:47:06.560 --> 00:47:10.000
or do we need to just wait for them to ask us out and just kind of show interest?

838
00:47:11.440 --> 00:47:16.160
So I'm going to get really deep into that and dating one-on-one. Can women ask men out?

839
00:47:16.160 --> 00:47:21.920
You guys, it's unnatural to meet strangers on dating apps. And so the rules do not apply that

840
00:47:21.920 --> 00:47:26.640
you would, that would apply to you, like being in school with someone or being in church with

841
00:47:26.640 --> 00:47:32.640
someone that knows you in community. All right. I believe in dropping hankies. I believe it doesn't

842
00:47:32.640 --> 00:47:39.840
matter who initiates the get together. What matters is that after there is a get together,

843
00:47:39.840 --> 00:47:46.320
whether it's a face-to-face date or a zoom or a FaceTime date, once you have a face-to-face

844
00:47:47.120 --> 00:47:51.920
one-on-one date, what happens after that needs to be initiated by him.

845
00:47:53.520 --> 00:48:00.880
Because if he likes you, you'll know it. All right. So doesn't matter how the first,

846
00:48:00.880 --> 00:48:05.120
the first time together happens. You can drop that hanky. You can hint, you can say, Hey,

847
00:48:05.120 --> 00:48:09.120
let's get together. Would you like to get together? Hey, I'm going here. Would you like to go with me?

848
00:48:09.120 --> 00:48:12.960
Or do you want to get coffee sometime? I don't, I'll tell you the kind of first dates that I like.

849
00:48:12.960 --> 00:48:17.200
That's not my favorite first date. Cause there's nothing else to do besides sit there and just

850
00:48:17.200 --> 00:48:20.720
stare at each other and be caffeinated and actually end up talking about a whole bunch of

851
00:48:20.720 --> 00:48:25.360
stuff that you should have never told the stranger that you don't know. And so it's better to do

852
00:48:25.360 --> 00:48:29.280
something different than that. And so I'll give you some hints on first dates, not hints. I'll

853
00:48:29.280 --> 00:48:32.720
give you a whole list of first dates. I'll give you some hints on how to make them fun though.

854
00:48:33.520 --> 00:48:38.800
But until then, since Hannah wants to be just right out of the gate, smart little race horse,

855
00:48:38.800 --> 00:48:45.520
she wants to go. Yes, you can initiate unless God challenges you personally, not to initiate

856
00:48:45.520 --> 00:48:49.200
because you're someone who always initiates. And then you have to, you know, you've been dragging

857
00:48:50.320 --> 00:48:55.360
and driving guys that you've been with all your life. And you want to know what it's like to feel

858
00:48:56.080 --> 00:49:01.040
pursued or for someone to come and initiate with you. If you're one of those people,

859
00:49:01.040 --> 00:49:07.680
then go ahead and just let it happen. Just let it happen, babe. But if you want to initiate,

860
00:49:07.680 --> 00:49:12.640
because as my husband says, men are clueless. If you want to initiate and let this guy know that

861
00:49:12.640 --> 00:49:18.640
you would be open to hanging out with him in a low stakes kind of way, then go ahead and do that.

862
00:49:18.640 --> 00:49:25.520
Let him know you can drop that hanky. But after that time together, you cannot drop any more

863
00:49:25.520 --> 00:49:30.400
hankies. And I will tell you exactly how to end that date. If you had a good time, what to say,

864
00:49:30.400 --> 00:49:34.880
what not to say, what to text him after you get home that night. And then if he does not

865
00:49:34.880 --> 00:49:40.720
reciprocate after that, if he's not pursuing, if he's not the one driving it forward, then it's

866
00:49:40.720 --> 00:49:45.520
boy, bye. And you're onto something else. All right. I will teach you all of that in dating

867
00:49:45.520 --> 00:49:49.840
one Oh one. And I will be in Redding, California when I teach that. So if you're in Redding,

868
00:49:49.840 --> 00:49:59.760
California, we're having a singles gathering on Friday, August 11th. And that will be put up.

869
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:04.760
Ladies, you can, in this portion of your program,

870
00:50:04.760 --> 00:50:07.880
join a single city near you,

871
00:50:07.880 --> 00:50:09.800
because mostly what's in those are women.

872
00:50:09.800 --> 00:50:12.200
And so even though we're in the dating thing,

873
00:50:12.200 --> 00:50:14.000
actually you can join now,

874
00:50:14.000 --> 00:50:15.680
single nation, single nation millennials,

875
00:50:15.680 --> 00:50:16.880
little bit on a wait list.

876
00:50:16.880 --> 00:50:18.920
Like we don't let everyone in at one time

877
00:50:18.920 --> 00:50:20.900
because we want to try to keep it male and female

878
00:50:20.900 --> 00:50:23.640
in those groups, but you can join your single cities.

879
00:50:23.640 --> 00:50:27.320
And if Amber has not put your single city links,

880
00:50:27.320 --> 00:50:28.360
let me see.

881
00:50:28.360 --> 00:50:30.200
Here's your group, let me look.

882
00:50:30.200 --> 00:50:31.360
Is your single, okay.

883
00:50:31.360 --> 00:50:35.900
Your single city links are not in,

884
00:50:37.400 --> 00:50:40.440
they're not in your guides yet.

885
00:50:40.440 --> 00:50:42.960
All right, I'll have her put those in tomorrow.

886
00:50:42.960 --> 00:50:45.680
We have 19 single cities and Reading is one of them.

887
00:50:45.680 --> 00:50:47.640
Sacramento, Reading, San Francisco,

888
00:50:47.640 --> 00:50:49.840
that whole area is one of them.

889
00:50:49.840 --> 00:50:51.160
And you can join that.

890
00:50:51.160 --> 00:50:52.780
And that's where that event will live

891
00:50:52.780 --> 00:50:53.920
if you're in that area.

892
00:50:53.920 --> 00:50:55.320
So you can come see me in person.

893
00:50:55.320 --> 00:50:56.640
I'd love to meet you.

894
00:50:56.640 --> 00:50:57.460
All right.

895
00:50:57.460 --> 00:50:58.900
Otherwise, that's it.

896
00:50:58.900 --> 00:51:00.020
Any other questions?

897
00:51:06.180 --> 00:51:07.960
All right, go team.

898
00:51:08.720 --> 00:51:12.340
Ladies post as much as you like in this group

899
00:51:12.340 --> 00:51:17.340
about your dates, weigh in on each other's situations.

900
00:51:17.460 --> 00:51:19.740
Try not to give each other bad advice.

901
00:51:19.740 --> 00:51:21.860
All right, because then we'll have to come after you

902
00:51:21.860 --> 00:51:24.200
and say, oh, I don't really agree with that.

903
00:51:24.200 --> 00:51:26.140
So if you don't really know

904
00:51:26.140 --> 00:51:28.180
and you feel like you're talking out of a broken place,

905
00:51:28.180 --> 00:51:30.420
then maybe just cheer each other on

906
00:51:30.420 --> 00:51:34.140
without giving any advice that might be a little crazy.

907
00:51:34.140 --> 00:51:36.040
We once had this girl post and say,

908
00:51:37.300 --> 00:51:39.620
I went out with this guy and it went really great.

909
00:51:39.620 --> 00:51:41.580
And then after the date, he texted me and said,

910
00:51:41.580 --> 00:51:44.060
I had a really good time and I was super excited.

911
00:51:44.060 --> 00:51:45.340
And then about 30 minutes later,

912
00:51:45.340 --> 00:51:46.980
I got another text from him

913
00:51:46.980 --> 00:51:50.280
where he was saying something completely random.

914
00:51:50.280 --> 00:51:53.780
And I was like, did you mean to text this to me?

915
00:51:53.820 --> 00:51:56.340
And he was like, oh no, I didn't mean to text it to you.

916
00:51:56.340 --> 00:51:58.260
And she's like, so what do I do?

917
00:51:58.260 --> 00:52:00.180
And everyone was like, oh, you know,

918
00:52:00.180 --> 00:52:03.460
he has a girlfriend or this or that or, you know,

919
00:52:03.460 --> 00:52:04.300
blah, blah, blah.

920
00:52:04.300 --> 00:52:05.940
And one person, I promise you,

921
00:52:05.940 --> 00:52:07.780
they chimed in and said,

922
00:52:07.780 --> 00:52:09.900
I think he's trying to human traffic you.

923
00:52:09.900 --> 00:52:11.100
He's a human trafficker.

924
00:52:11.100 --> 00:52:14.260
And I was like, what?

925
00:52:16.020 --> 00:52:19.700
That escalated quickly, you know?

926
00:52:19.700 --> 00:52:21.300
What in the world?

927
00:52:21.300 --> 00:52:26.300
So let's not bring all of our paranoia here

928
00:52:28.340 --> 00:52:29.980
and put it on each other.

929
00:52:29.980 --> 00:52:33.260
Let's just, let's let the coaches,

930
00:52:33.260 --> 00:52:35.480
we have coaches in this group, let them weigh in,

931
00:52:35.480 --> 00:52:37.060
but definitely support each other,

932
00:52:37.060 --> 00:52:39.720
definitely cheer each other on, please do that.

933
00:52:40.700 --> 00:52:41.920
Just off the top of my head,

934
00:52:41.920 --> 00:52:43.260
I'm gonna miss some single cities,

935
00:52:43.260 --> 00:52:44.180
but because you're asking,

936
00:52:44.180 --> 00:52:46.100
we do have one in the Nashville area.

937
00:52:46.100 --> 00:52:48.260
We do have one in the Raleigh, Charlotte area.

938
00:52:48.260 --> 00:52:52.900
We do have one in the Ohio, Pennsylvania area.

939
00:52:52.900 --> 00:52:54.300
We have one in the New York,

940
00:52:55.860 --> 00:52:58.460
that whole area up there in the East.

941
00:52:58.460 --> 00:53:02.740
We have one in Colorado.

942
00:53:02.740 --> 00:53:04.360
Yes, do we?

943
00:53:04.360 --> 00:53:05.200
I think so.

944
00:53:05.200 --> 00:53:06.100
We have one in Florida.

945
00:53:06.100 --> 00:53:07.340
We have two in Florida.

946
00:53:07.340 --> 00:53:08.500
We have two in Texas.

947
00:53:08.500 --> 00:53:09.780
I think we have three in Texas.

948
00:53:09.780 --> 00:53:10.980
Texas is a big place.

949
00:53:10.980 --> 00:53:14.380
We have Southern California.

950
00:53:15.380 --> 00:53:18.020
Mm, mm, mm, mm, mm.

951
00:53:18.020 --> 00:53:20.700
We have Vancouver.

952
00:53:22.340 --> 00:53:23.180
Trying to think.

953
00:53:25.340 --> 00:53:26.180
What am I missing?

954
00:53:26.180 --> 00:53:27.220
What am I leaving out?

955
00:53:27.220 --> 00:53:28.180
Atlanta.

956
00:53:32.380 --> 00:53:33.900
And some others.

957
00:53:33.900 --> 00:53:34.980
I'm trying to think of what they are,

958
00:53:34.980 --> 00:53:36.220
but I'm not thinking of it right now.

959
00:53:36.220 --> 00:53:38.300
So that, oh, Pacific Northwest.

960
00:53:38.300 --> 00:53:39.860
We have some in the Pacific Northwest,

961
00:53:39.860 --> 00:53:44.180
Seattle, Portland, all that stuff.

962
00:53:44.860 --> 00:53:49.780
So yes, we have one in BC.

963
00:53:51.020 --> 00:53:52.300
We do.

964
00:53:52.300 --> 00:53:53.860
We have one in that area.

965
00:53:53.860 --> 00:53:55.500
All right, cool.

966
00:53:55.500 --> 00:53:58.660
And DC would probably just be the New York City one.

967
00:53:58.660 --> 00:54:00.100
I know it's not that close,

968
00:54:00.100 --> 00:54:03.580
but there's people spread out all in that kind of region.

969
00:54:04.620 --> 00:54:06.100
Cool, excited.

970
00:54:06.100 --> 00:54:07.180
I'm excited.

971
00:54:07.180 --> 00:54:09.060
I'm excited for you guys.

972
00:54:09.060 --> 00:54:10.300
All right, so the next four weeks,

973
00:54:10.300 --> 00:54:11.980
you guys are gonna be by yourself.

974
00:54:11.980 --> 00:54:13.820
You're gonna have our full attention,

975
00:54:14.500 --> 00:54:15.500
and then you're gonna be in the greater population

976
00:54:15.500 --> 00:54:17.100
where there's a lot of really fun, crazy,

977
00:54:17.100 --> 00:54:18.940
amazing things that happen over there

978
00:54:18.940 --> 00:54:21.860
as you go forward in this last year single.

979
00:54:21.860 --> 00:54:23.260
It is your last year single.

980
00:54:23.260 --> 00:54:25.780
You guys, I am starting a social experiment.

981
00:54:27.260 --> 00:54:29.300
One second, because I forgot to bring it.

982
00:54:44.820 --> 00:54:46.180
Okay, I'm back.

983
00:54:46.180 --> 00:54:50.180
So I had these blue bracelets created.

984
00:54:50.180 --> 00:54:51.940
Blue is the color of fidelity.

985
00:54:51.940 --> 00:54:53.740
It's the color of partnership.

986
00:54:53.740 --> 00:54:54.860
It's the color of honesty.

987
00:54:54.860 --> 00:54:57.100
It's the color of trust.

988
00:54:57.100 --> 00:55:00.820
And it's the color of self-esteem.

989
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:05.520
um, covenant. And so it also, you know, something borrowed, something new, something, wait,

990
00:55:00.820 --> 00:55:03.500
And it's the color of love.

991
00:55:03.500 --> 00:55:05.780
And it's the color of commitment.

992
00:55:05.520 --> 00:55:09.760
something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue. Right. And it just says it's

993
00:55:05.780 --> 00:55:07.540
And it's the color of strength.

994
00:55:07.540 --> 00:55:10.300
And it's the color of love.

995
00:55:09.760 --> 00:55:13.680
etched in it. So unless you look really up close, you'll never see it. It just says last year,

996
00:55:13.680 --> 00:55:20.320
single. And then inside it says, Jeremiah six 16, which is our community-based matchmaking banner

997
00:55:20.320 --> 00:55:24.240
over what God's doing here, calling us as missionaries into marriage and family.

998
00:55:24.240 --> 00:55:29.440
And they also glow in the dark. So I'm going to be passing these out at really big churches

999
00:55:29.440 --> 00:55:36.320
so that if you wear this, it's signaling to other people that you are in not only just this

1000
00:55:36.320 --> 00:55:43.520
movement, but also that you are single Pringle ready to mingle, right? If you put it on,

1001
00:55:43.520 --> 00:55:48.560
then that's what you're signaling to all the guys that see it. And the guys will be wearing them

1002
00:55:48.560 --> 00:55:52.400
too. And so I'm going to start this in Reading. I'm going to be in Reading for an event. So I'm

1003
00:55:52.400 --> 00:55:58.960
going to start this at Bethel, um, this, this week, I'm excited about it. And, um, and, and

1004
00:55:58.960 --> 00:56:03.920
because, you know, worship services are so dark, they glow in the dark, y'all these glow in the

1005
00:56:03.920 --> 00:56:10.080
dark. So you can see them when the lights are out and, um, it's going to be super cool. So I'm

1006
00:56:10.080 --> 00:56:16.560
excited. And then if it catches on, then I will invest even more money into, um, making even

1007
00:56:16.560 --> 00:56:21.520
cooler versions of these right now, it's just kind of a prototype to see, Hey, can we get this to

1008
00:56:21.520 --> 00:56:27.360
catch on what will happen? It also, in my mind is a prophetic activation because of the scripture.

1009
00:56:27.360 --> 00:56:33.440
I'm going to pray over these y'all. And because of the scripture that is inside of this, um,

1010
00:56:33.440 --> 00:56:38.560
I just believe that it's like a, it's like a spotlight on you, right? It's like a honing

1011
00:56:38.560 --> 00:56:43.280
beacon, um, and a conversation starter. Cause if someone's close enough to you to see that

1012
00:56:43.280 --> 00:56:47.360
etched in this band, it says last year, single, they're going to ask you what the heck that means.

1013
00:56:47.360 --> 00:56:52.320
And, you know, you'll have an opportunity to either help them join the movement guys. I just

1014
00:56:52.320 --> 00:56:57.600
put up a, I just put up an engagement announcement where the girls engaged because another sister in

1015
00:56:57.600 --> 00:57:03.280
this group introduced her to her spirit mate. That's been happening. We've had that happen

1016
00:57:03.280 --> 00:57:08.320
several times now. It's super exciting and it's just catching on, you know? And so I just released

1017
00:57:08.320 --> 00:57:14.880
that matchmaking gift that God has given me over you to help each other find your spirit mates.

1018
00:57:14.880 --> 00:57:21.520
Because if we all work together, um, then we really can have massive major success and 450

1019
00:57:21.520 --> 00:57:27.520
plus engagements and marriages in 33 months tells us that supernatural things are happening here.

1020
00:57:27.520 --> 00:57:34.880
Right. And it can happen for you as well. So I will, I'll be getting these out there and I'm

1021
00:57:34.880 --> 00:57:41.200
going to, going to take them and, and, and give them to bigger, bigger places. And then if you

1022
00:57:41.200 --> 00:57:46.960
want to grab one and, um, I'll figure out how we get them all to you. We'll figure out that soon,

1023
00:57:46.960 --> 00:57:51.520
but this is what we're going to do. Right. Cool. All right. I think that's it.

1024
00:57:52.720 --> 00:57:57.120
All right. Have an amazing night, Tuesday night, and I will see you soon. Bye everyone.