All right, so good to see you guys. I had to do a quick turnaround. I didn't get in until
four o'clock in the morning last night. I had a delayed flight, three-hour delay at
a terrible airport. And so I am here. You are here. It's going to be great. I have a lot of
housekeeping items for you guys, and I'm going to share those with you real quickly. Don't forget,
we have a sneak preview of phase three again tonight. It is attachment styles, and I will
be teaching that, and we will be doing some fun. I don't want to say games because we don't want
to play games with relationships, but we will be playing some relationship games.
And so take that as you will, but it will be fun. It will be a co-ed session. Typically,
men that are in our programs do not come to any live sessions. They watch them in replay. Why do
men do this? I don't know. I don't know. Do they have a fear of being live on online type of things
with women? Yeah, I think they do. And I really don't know how to overcome that for them.
So a couple other announcements. We will be having several retreats, vacations, destination vacations,
and a singles cruise this year. The singles cruise will be happening in July. We'll be partnering
with other singles groups for that cruise, and the registration for that will be available at
the beginning of March. It is well-priced. We are working with a travel company to
get all of these opportunities, and it's also domestic. We're keeping our retreats and our
destinations pretty much domestic this year because it's already 2024. So in order to plan
to do something in Europe, although I can't say that there is not a Paris trip in the works,
I don't think that will be for 2024. I have to wait and see what's happening with that,
but most likely it will be spring 2025 for that one. So everything this year, more domestic,
even the cruise. It's out of Texas. It's just to the Caribbean. It's not like some, you know,
very far away situation. And then the retreats are also based on our single cities in America
and Canada. All right, so that's a little bit of housekeeping. Don't forget we have that
attachment-style session. That's your sneak peek of phase three tonight at 8 p.m. Eastern.
Guys, I want to remind you that we have an app coming out at the beginning of March.
Let's all just really get excited about that. I know I'm excited about that.
That app is going to allow you to take part in everything. Everything will be in one place. You
can download the app from the app store for free. If you have an Android, you're good. If you have
an iPhone, you're good. All right, you can download it and then you'll sign in. And then when you sign
in, and if you don't want to do it on your phone, you can do it. It's a web-based app, so you can
do it on your laptop, on your iPad, wherever you want to be. And then you can sign in and you can
look at whatever you have access to. Like, for instance, y'all are in phase two, so you would
have access to phase one and phase two in the app. And then pretty soon you'll have access to phase
three. And pretty soon after you're in phase three, when you get to a certain point of phase
three, then you would have access to the first iteration of our dating app. We are actually going
to be trying out some things on our app, on our curriculum app for the dating app. But the dating
app is in development separately right now, and that is a community-based dating app. And it will
be done sometime late spring, early summer for beta testing in our community. But we'll already
kind of be testing it out on our curriculum app. Does that make sense to everyone? Testing out
some of the features that we want to put into the dating app, like singles that are near you,
direct messaging, different Jackie's pics and different things for us over there.
All right. So guys, I want to tell you something, and I'm going to repeat this tonight. If you guys
come tonight, I'm going to repeat this to the community. I was just traveling to California
for a surprise engagement. That's where I was. And the surprise engagement happened to be my
own child. So my daughter got engaged over the weekend, over last weekend, which was great.
Amazing. But I want to tell you this. In order to get there, I had to go to several airports.
At every stop that I was at, besides one, so I had four stops there and back,
a couple came up to me at the airport and said that they were married or getting married because
of me. Y'all at airports. Now, if that ain't crazy town, I don't know what is. In fact, one of them,
I wasn't even on
I wasn't even at the airport, I was on the plane.
And you know how you're sitting down
and the people are coming by you on the plane?
This couple is coming by me on the plane
and she keeps making eye contact with me
and like smiling and turning around and saying,
that's her, that's her.
And I'm like, what is even going on?
And so then she stops at my seat
and holds up the whole line and says,
I just want you to know that, you know,
me and my husband, we just got married a couple months ago
because of you.
I was in your July course, blah, blah, blah.
And then there was another guy behind them from Germany
that they had just started talking up at the airport.
She was like, you need to talk to her.
See, this is her.
I told you it was her.
I thought it was her.
And so now I have a new German guy
that wants to be match made.
And then her brother, this bride's brother
is the one that told her about me.
And so we took a picture together at the airport
after we got off the plane, we took a picture together
and we DMed it to him on Instagram and said,
hey, you know, it's your turn.
And so now I have a discovery call with him on Thursday.
Y'all can't make this kind of stuff up, all right?
This is what's happening here.
And then at a different airport
on the first leg of the trip at baggage plane,
a guy came up to me and told me
that he was married because of me.
It was a guy, because he had been in my course
and I recognized him.
I'm like, oh my gosh, you know?
And so we took a picture together
and I'm going to post all those pictures.
You guys, don't get mad that I have the same outfit on
and all these pictures.
It's not the same day.
That's just my travel clothes.
It's just my travel clothes.
You guys have them, right?
You have a travel outfit?
That's my travel outfit for this trip, okay?
And then before I even left for the trip
when I was at Austin airport,
we used to, we have this retreat
that has this say yes to the dress element.
We're going to do that again,
where I take all of you to a beautiful bridal boutique,
not a chain store, a bridal boutique.
And you get to try on dresses and drink mimosas
and eat charcuterie and look at each other in dresses.
Even if you don't have a boyfriend,
I want to tell you that everyone that came to that event,
all the women that bought dresses,
they bought dresses that day.
That was not part of the plan, but they did it.
All of them, except maybe one of them, maybe two,
no one are married now.
I don't know what happens, but that happens.
Anyway, the girl that owns that bridal boutique,
who number one was not a believer
before we started interacting with her.
And then she started being around me more
and I invited her to a few other things
that I was doing in the city in Austin,
cause she lives here.
And she started wanting to ask Jesus into her heart.
She came up to the altar at one of these things
that I was at and got prayed for and different things.
And she had a wrecked up relationship history, you guys.
When I tell you that this girl was a total loser addict,
she was just addicted to like terrible guys.
And then she came into my Simbis class.
She took my course.
She came into my Simbis class with this guy
that she was gonna marry.
And I was like, oh no girl, uh-uh, this is bad news bears.
And remember matchmaker, matchbreaker.
So we tried our best to break that up.
It did get broken up.
That was over a year ago, I think.
I just ran into her at the airport
and she's about to get married.
And the guy is really great.
He was there too.
And I got to meet him and look,
look at what a difference a year can make, right?
Amen.
I hope that encourages you.
I just wanna tell you all of those things
because it's encouraging to me.
If I tell you that every single week
I don't wanna quit doing this, I would be lying.
I can still do something else with my life
that would have much less warfare and much less drama.
But every week the Lord sends me engagement announcements
and stuff like this happens
because God's like, keep going.
And I'm like, okay, here we go.
All right, so we're gonna keep going.
Are we gonna keep going?
I'm gonna keep going.
Are you gonna keep going?
All right, we're gonna keep going
because we believe that God is in this, right?
He is, he's in it.
Woo, we're gonna keep going y'all.
Try to come and pray her.
I get to, that's why I do that Supernatural Saturday.
That's just, it's for me and you.
It's not just for you, it's for me and you.
So I wanna address a few very important things
leading up to Attachment Style tonight.
But I also wanna cover your questions that you guys have.
So why don't we start with, I talked about the dating app.
I told you about my divine encounters on this trip.
Why don't we go ahead and start with the questions
that you guys have about where you are.
It can be a hard work question.
It can be anything, anything about phase one or phase two.
And then I will kind of cover my agenda
of the things I wanna release over y'all.
All right, so who wants to jump in the dating seat today?
Just start talking or raise your hand.
Oh, Jackie, go ahead.
Okay, so I wrote.
it in my, my thing on the catch up yesterday. And I was just
saying, like, I, I feel like I'm so I'm in phase two, I'm just
entering in week two. I've been digging deep into that
attachment stuff. I loved your teaching. I got the someone had
recommended the book attached millions of times, so many
people have recommended it. And I was just like, I don't really
need it. And so after that, I was like, I got it read it in
two days, because I was like, Yeah, okay, I'm totally anxious.
And I was married to an avoided. And yes, that totally makes
sense. And all the people I dated, the terrible combination.
Yeah, all the data people I dated before this program were
all avoidance. So it just totally makes sense. Um, but my
thing is, I've been getting a little attacked. I think I feel
like I can't move forward with dating. I haven't jumped on any
apps or anything. Because my garage is still full of boxes
from my moving. I moved three times in a year and a half from
my married my home when I was married, June a year and a half
ago, and then to a farm. And then from a farm to the house
I'm in now. I just moved in July.
Let's just let's just put a pin right there. Because I want to I
want to kind of do this in bite sized pieces. Okay. So, ladies,
how many of you have a project boxes that are not unpacked that
you haven't finished something that really I mean, it's not
something that you just want to do. It's something that
absolutely has to be done in order for you to move forward
in life. I want to see the hands of the people that that applies
to. Okay, so that is where is she Oh, Jackie kind of
disappeared from my screen. Okay, there you are. Um, that is
a sure sign of unhealed trauma. Okay. Okay. Because first of
all, I know that we're busy, but we all have time to do what we
want to do. Right? We all have time to do what needs to be
done. Anytime there's like a massive procrastination in
something that is actually going to clutter up our mind and our
heart and keep us stuck. There's trauma connected to it. Right.
So the very first thing that I'd love for you to do Jackie is not
just unpack them to put them away. I'd actually love for you
to get rid of a lot of stuff that you don't need to be taking
into your new life with you. Okay, clothes, knickknacks,
memorabilia, pictures, it doesn't matter what it is. It
doesn't need to move into your house, it needs to go ahead and
get unpacked in the garage and thrown out. All right. And I see
you know, emotional emotion on your face, because that is going
to be super important. All right, because it's holding you
back. Because I know that we don't think I'm gonna cry too.
We're all gonna cry. I know that we don't think stuff has energy
that we're not energetically connected to stuff. And I know
that sounds really new agey. But here's something you're going to
have to just go ahead and make peace with. You are energy, you
are a spirit, you are not a body. Okay? God is a spirit. He
is not a body. And so we have to understand that there is negative
and positive, you know, stuff connected to stuff. Everything
that you see has been created by creation. Everything. Okay,
whether you created it or another person created, they
were created by creation, all of it is created by creation, which
means what means means that it can really stop up the flow of
you moving forward in life. If it's carrying a lot of negative
stuff with it, we got to get rid of it. Getting on block simply a
lot of times is a change of geographic location. It's
getting out of one house and getting into another but not
taking all the garbage from that house with you. Right? It can be
changing a job, it can be changing a friend group, it can
be changing all kinds of different things. All kinds of
different things that are very practical, I guess is what I
want to say. Spiritual stuff can be very practical stuff. Do you
believe that? Okay. All right. So Jackie, you are going to do
you have any friends where you are?
I have a lot, but I kind of feel like I, I wanted some of the
boxes we I lived in England for 10 years before movie like with
my my ex husband, my husband and been and some of the boxes are
from that time that have even been opened from that move that
international move. 10 plus years ago. Yeah. And I've just
been carrying the boxes around with
Yeah, and this is and this is what your heart looks like. Your
heart looks like that. Okay. So I know it's really practical.
And I know a lot of us are like, how could that really like
cause me to be able to move forward spiritually, physically, emotionally, relationally, it can,
and it does. Okay. And so go ahead, if you know, you know, peek in those boxes, if you need to go
ahead and get some closure with what's in those boxes. But it sounds like the stuff from that,
unless there's like some sort of heirlooms or something that you had in your home,
and that you want to keep from your family and from before the marriage,
that you're just going to go ahead and donate that stuff. Just get rid of it.
You know, my husband always says to me, she remember you guys, we were neighbors, right?
We're next door neighbors. And I moved into his house when we got married. And he's, I didn't
bring any of my stuff. And, uh, and I actually implored, I employed my friends to come and take
what they wanted from my house, like a bed or this or that, or whatever kitchenware, whatever
they wanted to take, and then help gut it out and clean it and put it by the curb. If they
weren't going to take it, I employed my friends to do that with me. And for me, why didn't I bring
any of the stuff from my former marriage into my new marriage? Cause I don't want that shit. Okay.
That's why, because that is holding you back. That's why I don't want to look at the set of
dishes that someone gave me for my first marriage and use it for my second marriage. Okay. I don't
want to look at the clothes that I wore in my first marriage and remember where I wore those
things to with my former husband, because if you don't think that even if you're not conscious of
it, that that's not happening, it is happening. Okay. I don't want that stuff. I don't need that
stuff. The only thing that I kept from that marriage is pictures. My, my former husband
and I knew each other since we were 12. So those former pictures and, you know, a bus with our
little baby daughter, when she was born, I kept all that stuff and I gave it to my daughter so
she could have a lineage. So she could have history. So she can know that her parents were
in love when they got married. They were also just very damaged people that ended up really
hurting each other. Right. But I wanted her to have, you know, I wanted her to have a legacy
of her family, of her history. I don't need it. I wanted it for her. I kept that stuff for her.
And so that that's the exception to what I'm saying. Anything that, you know, you feel like
your kids might want to have and should have. So Jackie, you got some work to do and the healing
will come as you're doing it. Just know that the dread that you have, even if it's unconscious of
doing this, it will lift when you start doing it. And so that's your assignment, spring pruning and
cleaning ladies, all of you, it's springtime, at least in Texas it is. And it's time to start
pruning practical stuff. Thank you. I feel like you just answered my, yeah, thank you.
That'd be good. It's going to be good. Y'all got to get rid of that stuff. You don't need it. You
guys stuff. First of all, stuff, we just have too much stuff. Anyway, we have too much stuff.
And, you know, John Mark Homer, if you never listened to his podcast, if you've never read
his book, the ruthless elimination of hurry, it will change your life. I will disclaim it.
You can't unread it. If you read it, you can't unread it and it will mess you up in a good way.
Okay. It will cause you to stop buying fast fashion from China. You know, that has a ripple
effect of human trafficking. It will cause you to understand that everything that you do doesn't
just affect you. It affects others. It will help you keep a Sabbath. If you don't have a Sabbath
and I'm talking to myself because it's so hard to keep one, then you are missing out.
You are missing out. And ladies, I want to really encourage you to start employing some of this
before you're in a serious relationship so you can bring it into the relationship and it can
be a non-negotiable. This stuff needs to be a non-negotiable. That we don't live in clutter,
that we don't live in chaos, that we don't have more than we need, that we don't live above our
means, that we don't live in debt, that we have a Sabbath, that we recognize rest. Right? This is
important stuff. And I guarantee you that if you begin to work on this, then you'll start to attract
other people that are working on this, or at least they're willing to work on this.
So I saw Meshonda kind of look at me. The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry, if you need
me to repeat that. John Mark Homer. He does have a podcast too. If you don't like to read,
he goes over all of these ideas on the podcast too. Once again, some of it's super extreme and
you have to take baby steps. You're not going to implement that stuff overnight. Neither did he.
He didn't either. But I say that to say this, we have no idea how much energy
is being drained out of our lives because we're surrounded by too many things.
in our home. Your closet has way too many clothes. You don't wear half of them.
You haven't wore half of them in years. You're keeping them because they're your skinny clothes
and you think that you won't get your booty in them someday again. But here's the thing. Why?
Why? Someone else could be using those clothes right now. Someone else is already skinny
and they can already use those clothes. So why are you letting it energetically drain you?
Give it away. Give it away. Give it away. Let someone else utilize it and enjoy it. And guess
what? When and if necessary, your body changes and you need a different size of clothing, then
the clothes will come. They will come. What you make room for comes back, right? That's really
true. That is a biblical law of sowing and reaping. So we need to remember these things.
And I'm talking to myself too because the closet, the closet, so many things in there
that don't get worn. I want you to raise your hand right now. Holy Spirit, I have no idea how we went
this way because we're talking about dating, but this is making room for love in your life. Raise
your hand. Keep your hands up, those of you that have questions already. But raise your hand if
you have at least one article of clothing in your closet that still has a tag on it, still has a tag,
price tag, you know, or it's still in a bag because you were going to return it and you
never did. And then you forgot about it. And so it's sitting in a bag in your closet or somewhere.
All right. Some of you. All right. Those clothes are tags. Why? Why is that connected to a bigger
heart issue of you not liking your body and always waiting for some future stage of perfection in
order to clothe it? Some people purposely buy their clothes smaller to punish themselves.
That's whack, y'all. Do not do that. Okay. Do not do that. I'm going to tell you one
thing that I know as someone who has been very thin and now is to a place where the
doctors are concerned about me. I'm pre-diabetic. I have all kinds of stuff. Y'all, it's called
menopause. And so I've run the spectrum of knowing what it's like to be super thin and
just everything fits right, looks good. And then all the way over here where nothing fits right,
and you have a freaking mental and physical and emotional breakdown in the dressing room at
clothing stores. Okay. I know what that's all about, but I do know this one thing to be true.
Your body will never change by you bullying it. It's not going to change. If you love it and you
embrace it and you treat it right and you feed it right, that is where the change will come.
That is where the change will come. And weight loss will just be a symptom of that change.
Weight loss will just be a part of that change. It will not be the goal.
The goal will be loving yourself and treating it right and feeding it right. Okay.
Because trauma, a lot of times for women turns into killing ourselves with the fork.
Seriously, the main medication of choice for women is scientifically proven is food.
Not that men don't do it too, but women do it more.
So if you have unhealed trauma, abuse of some sort, especially sexual abuse,
you're more likely to be obese. Did you know that? And then of course we have hormones
just stacking the cards against us too. But you guys, there's a lot of really good information
out there now about how we can age with grace and ease through those transition times. So we're
going to have some experts come on and talk to us in phase three about that coming up this spring as
well. All right. So Tina, you're up. Hi, Tanya. Oh, I'm sorry. It's okay. It's okay. Well, but
there is a Tina that has a question too, but you go ahead, Tanya. Oh, I'm so sorry. Oh, it's okay.
Go ahead, Tina. Go, go, go, go. Sorry. I'm sorry. I just finished the heart work a week ago.
And I tell you, I feel like Lazarus, like Jesus called him out by his real name and, and he came
forth leaping. And then he said, you loose him and let him go. I feel like the program has been
loosing layers off of me. So I just want to say thank you, Jackie, for that. I really do. So now
I'm in phase two. I took longer to go through phase one because of the heart work. It's not
a rush. You know, I know you said that and I followed that through, but Mike, I have, I think
I have two questions. This is my first time and I know it may sound crazy.
see, I'm 61 years old. Um, this is my first time dating in over
25 years. I know that's right, girl. Maybe some people are not
even 25. I don't know. But, um, religious reasons, whatever. Um,
how do two things concern me with that? I'm a little nervous.
I'm a I'm very nervous. But how I also go through a lot of
sicknesses. I don't want to get into it. It's not because of
unhealed things, certain things have happened to me. And so, and
also, I am a minister with my with a ministry. How do you?
When and how do you present that to someone? I know you don't
just come in. Hey, I'm a minister with a ministry and I
go to sit. How do that scares me some like, I guess it's
something of still have a rejection I may feel that I
haven't even dated. And those thoughts are coming through my
mind. Like once they find out that you still suffer from
certain things, illnesses, or that you are up front with
ministry internationally, that will be a turnoff for them. I
don't know if this question sounds strange, but
no, it's not.
I do have a couple of clarifying questions so that I can give
some wisdom here. The sicknesses, are you saying that
that's attached to warfare from ministry? Is that what you're
saying? Or you're just no, I'm not suffer with some from with
some physical?
Well, some of it is some of it is like I've ministered in India
and I've been dealing with some warfare since 2017 sicknesses
attached to that. But I'm not saying it's because of Indian
people. I'm talking about spiritual warfare. Right? Right.
Yeah. And I wanted to clarify that.
Well, make sure that you also get checked for parasites because
India is dirty. All right. Yes, I have. I have a lot of friends
that have ministered in India and all of them have come back
sick. Every one of them. Wow. The very unsanitary country.
Very unsanitary country. It's actually the most polluted
country in the world.
Yes, it is. Thank you for telling me that. I do that. I've
never
easy to get you guys I know sounds gross, but it's easy to
get a stool test. It's not even that expensive. And you know,
you can test for parasites. Thank you so much. But there
was something else that happened. Sure. Sure. Sure.
Okay, that has nothing to do. I don't want to. But yeah, I got
I got you. So listen, first of all, ladies, everyone who's
dealing with any kind of physical stuff, okay? You maybe
you have, you know, a thyroid issue or you have something else
because we've had lots of people in this community that have had
some sort of cancer while they're in this community, and
thankfully, you know, healed and different things happening. You
know, I believe that this is a place of life and life giving
stuff up. Look, there's my husband. And then, but I will
say that none of that just qualifies you from a love story.
You don't have to be perfect. You don't have to be perfectly
healthy. None of it qualifies you for a love story. Obviously
want to be the best that we can be as it pertains to us as far
as it's in our control, right? Not everything's in our control.
And so I don't want anyone to feel disqualified. If you have
some mental health concerns, physical health concerns, that
does not have to keep you from a love story. And then the second
part of Tonya's question I want to say is this, is that the
things that you're saying they may be a deal breaker for some
people, and that's not your person that okay, it's not your
person. And when it comes to telling people about your life
or what you do, especially when it has anything to do with
ministry, let it just be natural. Let it be a natural
unfolding of how anybody would find out more about you. We
don't have to sit down at a table with someone and, you
know, put it all on the table, lay all the cards on the table
to see if there's anything there that could possibly cause them
to not want to see us anymore. What's natural is that when you
meet someone, whether it's a love interest, or whether it's a
business associate, or whether it's a potential friend, even of
the same sex, what they find out about you, they find out about
you slowly, don't they? Yes, they don't find it out in big,
huge bites, they find it out in smaller bites. And that's very
important. And if you find yourself constantly trying to
give people too much information about yourself right from the
jump, it's usually anxious attachment. It's usually because
you're so afraid that you're gonna like this person, and
they're not gonna like you, and they're gonna cut and run,
because they're gonna find something out about you that
they don't like. Because everybody has something about
them that you're not gonna like. But it's about finding out about
the things you do like about that person, so that by the time
you find out about the thing you don't like, there's more
positive than negative. Does that make sense? Yes. Okay, look
at it as a bank account. This is really important subject, Tanya.
So we're going to go there for one second. Right? All of you
have opened a checking account, right?
put a deposit in there and then you have the ability to back in the day write checks that
debit that account now you just use a little debit card and debit that account or you go to
the ATM and withdraw money however you're making the withdrawal from that account you cannot
withdraw more than you've deposited or you will overdraw the account it'll be in the negative
it'll be in the red and you'll get a letter you'll get a fine something bad will happen right
same with these new relationships you have to make enough of a deposit before you make a
withdrawal lead with your strengths lead with the positive things about you show yourself in
the most positive light that's not deceptive that's normal it's normal for you to let someone
get to know the good things about you before you say oh yeah my baby daddy crazy you're not allowed
to say that on the first couple dates why would you even think about saying that all right a man
would have to really care about you and love you in order to put up with your psycho former husband
let them fall in love before they know about that or at least let them get on the road to it okay
cool if you have a sexually transmitted disease that is not a that is a need to know
and they don't need to know that when do they need to know that when it's a possibility that
they might have sex with you someday that's when they need to know that that's pretty far
into the acquaintance isn't it not just everyone needs to know that you guys i have seen it all
people show up to first dates second dates and they try to air all their dirty laundry try to
scare this person away i did it myself with that man that just walked in and out of this room
on our first date first date we were neighbors for months we were friends he knew me thank god
because on our first date i as soon as it turned romantic i started getting scared and i started
wanting to tell him all this negative stuff about myself that's not visible on the outside
raise your hand if you have something physically wrong with you that other people would never know
by looking at you you have a physical situation autoimmune disorder something that nobody would
know by just looking at you all right well that's what i try to do i try to tell them about all the
things mentally emotionally and physically that he wouldn't be able to see just by looking at me
to see if he wanted to go ahead and run forest run right you're not allowed to give people
lots of information about yourself you have to give it out in little bite-sized pieces
lead with the good stuff write it down lead with the good stuff lead with the good stuff
think about all the situations in your life that you took the opportunity because it looks so great
and great and fun and it was and there were so many good things about it but as you got into it
you you there were things about it that you didn't like had that person called you up on the phone had
that employer sat across the the table from you and told you all the negative things wish you
have taken that job think about that when you're on these dates oh hey one you know just so you know
this or that this or that you know or this might happen or this is an option this could be a
possibility no that's not how we sell something to someone and you need to understand that on these
dates johanna you are selling yourself you are selling yourself lynette how good are you at
selling yourself leticia leticia i don't you guys i can't sound things out so i'm sorry
i'm sorry i'm phonetically disabled i'm not kidding melissa how good are you selling yourself
that sweater is selling you to me i don't know that blue looks great on you all right so please
remember that that when you're getting to know these guys whether it's on an app whether it's
on a phone call whether it's through text message or an in-person you want to paint yourself in the
best possible light leave the other stuff for after they already are attracted to you
all right thank you jackie don't make any withdrawals tina you're up hello hello okay so
last week you said get on a paid um site and just be on one so i signed up for christian mingle so
i think i have i tested my pictures bethany commented so i think i've got good pictures
a good profile okay so it's only been a couple days so not a whole lot let me ask you tina can
i ask you a question how old are you 54 okay and how old were you when you went gray uh 53
oh just recently yeah yeah but it is
It's all grown out, so I don't have like roots or anything.
Okay, so here's the thing for you gray girlies.
If you wanna rock the gray, like I'm almost 50,
I'm gonna be 50 in 10 months.
Yeah. I'm not gonna go gray.
Okay, I do have, I mean, it's not grown in,
but if I let it grow in, I have a lot of gray.
I would go, and it would take a long time,
obviously, to go gray.
I make that choice.
I don't wanna go gray.
I'm not gonna go gray right now.
I think gray looks stunning on people.
Just so you know, I'm not saying that it doesn't,
but you cannot do gray and no makeup
because then you're a granny, you're a grandma.
You're immediately someone's great grandma
if you have gray hair and no makeup.
And so, you know, unless you're like super crunchy,
granola, hippie kind of person,
who's gonna marry someone who's like that,
then in order to offset the washout that gray does to us,
we have to make sure that we're wearing makeup.
All right, I just wanna say that.
Go ahead.
Yeah, I'll wear makeup for dates, I promise.
All right.
Make sure it's like a nice, bright lipstick blush.
Make sure you got it going on.
Yeah, yeah.
Okay, so it's been a long time for me dating, right, Tanya?
So it's been 15, 20 years.
So trying to have a conversation,
there is one guy that he liked me.
He reached out first, sent me a message.
And now it's like pulling teeth
to try and like continue a conversation
because I'll ask a question and then he'll answer it.
But he's not like asking me questions.
He's not- Is he local?
He lives in Dayton, says he's moving to Blue Ash,
which is not too far from me.
How far?
40 minutes.
Like my sister lives over there,
so it's not a big deal for me.
You guys, these, so she's on Christian Mingle,
for those of you that kind of spaced out, didn't hear that.
And these are not talking apps.
They're dating apps.
So we either get to a date or thank you next.
Okay?
Yeah.
Get to a date or thank you next.
Go ahead and drop a hanky.
Let's get together in person.
You know, you can even say,
hey, you know, talking like this is hard.
I'm sure it's hard on you.
It's hard to keep up with.
You know, why don't we just get together in person?
If they don't want to get together in person,
then they're not here to date.
Goodbye.
Okay.
Okay, cool.
So I was actually born in Dayton and I told him that.
So in my mind, I'm thinking,
man, I've been wanting to go to the Dayton Art Institute.
So should I do that?
Should I drop the hanky and just say,
hey, I've been wanting to go to the Dayton Art Institute
and then see if he picks that up.
And if not, move on.
Well, you're not going to see if he picks it up.
You're going to blatantly say,
I've been wanting to do this.
Would you like to go with me?
And then he's going to either be forced to say yes or no.
Ladies, it doesn't matter.
It does not matter who initiates the first face-to-face.
Yeah.
All that matters is that we get there.
And after we get there,
if the man does not show initiation,
if he does not show, you know, intention towards you,
then he's just not interested in you
or he's just not interested in a relationship at all.
Right.
And so once again,
we're not going to waste our time, are we?
Right.
We don't waste our time.
Okay.
So keep us posted on that, Tina.
All right.
Thank you.
Is it Joe, Anna, Johanna?
I don't know.
What's, how do you say it?
It's Johanna.
All right.
Hey.
Great.
So I have two questions.
One question has to do with,
as I've gotten,
so I'm in my second week of phase two.
And as I've gotten into,
as I've started to,
well, I'm waiting till March 1st
to really like get on a paid app,
but I decided to get on Facebook dating
for the first time last weekend.
The good one.
And yeah, you think so?
It's been really slow for me so far.
You know, you guys,
it goes through spurts.
You guys have to remember a lot of places,
the weather is kind of warming up.
People are not on social media as much.
You're enjoying the first, you know,
bouts of sunshine after long winter months.
So it goes through spurts.
You can't just,
don't judge it on just your first,
you know, a couple weeks on there,
but Facebook dating I like
because the algorithm keeps scam accounts out a lot.
It does.
It will remove scam accounts pretty quickly.
And the other thing is,
is that it shows you the people
that know the people that you know,
but it doesn't show you the people that you know.
So it's not embarrassing or awkward
because it doesn't show anyone
you're friends with on Facebook.
It will not show you their account
on the dating part of it,
but it will show you all of their friends.
So it's almost like community-based matchmaking.
Yeah, so I, um, I figured it would be a good place to start since it was free.
And then second of all, because I do have, even though I'm not on Facebook except really
for this phase two or for the, for the last year single program I have, because I used
to use Facebook, I have like a lot of friends.
So I thought, well, that'd be cool to try it was.
So anyway, I've been, I went on a, I ended up zooming with this guy last night and I
was really bored, really bored.
And usually, usually, um, I probably wouldn't have even gone to zoom with him.
Um, but I did want to give it a try.
And so if you're, if I'm feeling, let me ask you a question.
Did you like anything about him?
I thought he was kind of quirky, you know, I liked his quirkiness.
He's a scientist, he's a geologist.
So intellectually there was something kind of like quirky, um, and he was very, he was
real.
Um, but I didn't like it.
Did he express any interest to talk to you again?
He, he wasn't very good socially.
So I said, you know, I'm so glad we connected tonight.
And he was like, yeah, yeah, yeah, you know, he wasn't like, he, he didn't have really
like a social finesse because you just said that he was, which is okay.
I understand.
Yeah.
A lot of times scientists and geologists don't actually have a lot of social finesse.
So, um, it might just be a possibility that that type of personality is not the right
match for you.
I see that big green, I don't really see you hanging out with intellectual egghead, gee,
you know, you geologists maybe, right.
Cause the rock, but, um, you know, my husband, my husband's family are all scientists and
you guys, they're tree scientists.
If that doesn't sound like a snooze fest, I don't know what does.
And the dormant men are the most boring people that I've ever met in my life.
And then there's one random David who I'm married to, who's like the life of the party.
And so you never know.
Yeah.
So, I mean, like I'm totally open.
I like very intellectual types, however, and I've dated you and a geologist before, but
he was, he was a different personality.
So I just, I guess, how do I, if I'm feeling bored on a video chat, should I give it another
try?
That's what I'm like.
My first question is, here's the thing, if he asks you out again in person, I would go,
I would go.
And here's why ladies, because a lot of people are way more awkward in this format.
Okay.
This format is intimidating for some people, even like work, like when they have to zoom
for work or whatever, it's intimidating.
They feel like anxious about it.
A little bit of stage fright almost with being on video, you guys know, the number one the
number one fear that people have besides death is, is public speaking.
And people have a tendency to feel like this is like public speaking because it's not in
person.
It's not natural.
It's like, it's like you're on a video.
Right.
And a lot of men are not good at number one, talking on the phone, zooming or texting.
So do not judge them at that, but see if there's any kind of conversational chemistry in person
only if he wants to get in person with you.
Okay.
If he does not, if he seeks you out and says, Hey, let's do it again.
If he says, let's do it again, um, offer in person.
Okay.
Sounds good.
And so my second question is, is as I've gotten, as I've moved forward into this Facebook dating,
um, this is where I'm a little disheartened right now because I have done so much work
with moving on from my ex, but I had a dream two nights ago that caused me to really start
thinking about him yesterday.
And so I'm, I'm disheartened because I feel like I, I'm never gonna get clear.
I feel like I'm clear and then something else will come up.
So that's normal.
And the reason why it's normal is because you're actually venturing out into dating
again.
Okay.
So one of the things that I tell all my students and clients that you guys have to understand
is that you can think that you did all the therapy and all the counseling and all the
coaching and all the coursework, right?
You guys came out of phase one, heartwork and all that, but you're not going to really,
really see, um, what else needs to be dealt with until you start to face some.
scenarios, putting yourself out there, asking someone to choose you or love you or pick
you.
You understand what I'm saying?
And so it's normal for you to start having some memories come up, just use your hard
work tools to unpack them, you know, confess, forgive, release, just, and then just move
on.
Okay.
That's helpful.
It's not always going to be, it's not always going to be this way.
So I'm like, oh my gosh, no.
You're like, what?
When does it end?
And you're like, no, no, go back down.
No, come out.
Better out than in.
Okay.
So come out and let's, you know, let's unpack you and move on.
All right.
Thank you so much.
But I do have to say, I am feeling so like whole in certain places of my person that
I have not, have not felt whole on my entire life.
And so I know that it's because of this last six weeks of hard work, because I, we, I went
into places that I did not let God into before.
And so thank you for, for the coaching, really grateful.
I love that so much.
That makes me so happy.
You guys, you know, it's just, it's so simple, but it's so supernatural and, um, and it's
going to be a runway for your love story to take off.
It really is.
It's going to cause acceleration.
Uh, Carol, what do you got?
I also want to say thank you because breakthroughs, um, in the heartwork breakthroughs and soul
ties breaking to like all of that was crucial for me to be clear and free.
And it was, um, it was really a catalyst for me being able to find somebody and just
all the tips around not being, um, just kind of looking at not the fruits of the spirit,
but the, what was it that you called it?
Um, the gifts that they have, you know,
Give them specter, be a fruit inspector.
Yeah, exactly.
Yeah.
So it's all been really, really good.
I'm in a, um, right now, I don't know if you know, I'm okay.
So I've had a long distance relationship, Minnesota, Florida, it's going awesome.
We had the four video dates we've been talking, chatting, and then I went out to Florida.
I just got back.
I was there last week.
It was amazing.
Um, we're really clicking on every level, spiritual, you know, everything.
I'm just like, thank you, God.
I mean, he's, he's definitely in this.
Um, my question is we're approaching level three and I just wanted some tips so that
I'm not missing anything or not doing it wrong, but just missing anything, um, or what to,
you know, kind of keep my antenna up for anything that I should share or learn about him that
I haven't already.
So when you say level three of relationship, to me, that means exclusivity, or you're going
to be boyfriend and girlfriend, and it's going to be like a marriage minded courtship, right?
Yes.
Okay.
All right.
So this is where people start to kind of trip over their own attachment style, right?
This is where we can start to focus on what we don't like about someone and forget all
the stuff that we do like, and I'm trying not to do that.
Right, right.
Everyone has yellow flags, especially as men get older.
Everyone has things that you're not going to really love about them, even on these dates.
Okay.
So she's been on the four video chats.
She went in person is long distance, and that's got to accelerate quicker because it
really does.
Cause you got to know whether we want to put the investment in, but for those of you that
are just going on local dates, after you leave the date, I want you to sit down and make
a list of the things that you liked about the person.
Not that you didn't like that you liked about the person.
You know, when we get into this place where, um, you know, we've overblown this idea of
our love story and our mind and what it's got to be like and what it has to be like
if God's in it and it's the person that God has for us and all those things, we can really
start looking for flaws almost immediately when we're meeting people.
Don't do that.
Do not do that.
Start looking for things that are connections, start looking for things that you do like
about the person.
All right.
And then decide on that list of what you do like, whether or not you want to let it be
a yes until it's a no.
And remember the no has to be a hard pass.
It's not a yes until it's a no, no hard pass.
There needs to be a reason for a hard pass, right?
They're moving to London next week and you're not moving to London.
Hard pass.
Okay.
They can't relocate.
Neither can you.
Hard pass.
You find out something about their past that like they're in recovery and your husband
was an, you know, an addict and you were trauma bonded for 25 years.
Hard pass.
Okay, not everyone's gonna hard pass on people
that are in recovery, but a lot of people
that were married to addicts will hard pass on that.
They're just not ready to deal with that.
So Carol, I want you to begin to notice any areas
where you feel like you're being picky,
where you're being protective.
I want you to make sure that you're putting that
before the Lord on your Jesus Cares Board.
Ladies, if you get into a level three relationship,
my rule is you're not allowed to end it
unless there are several confirmations of that
from people outside of yourself
that you have allowed into the process with you,
like your coaches, okay?
Because it's very possible that you're just getting
what I call religious relationship anxiety.
There's a lot of pressure-
What did you mean by protected?
Sorry.
When you become protective of yourself,
like you just start to,
you start to get easily offended by things.
And you know, you're just, you're self-protecting,
you're building a wall, you're starting to pull back,
you're starting withdrawal.
Or you start telling yourself stories
that are hurting your own feelings about the other person.
Like, oh, they were much more communicative yesterday
than they are today.
I think they're breaking up with me.
You know, you start telling yourself stories
that hurt your own feelings,
and we got to talk about that, okay?
So start looking, start looking for,
you're like, it's great right now.
If it starts becoming not great,
then let's find out why before we just assume
that it means a no.
Okay.
That's the best thing to do now.
And the other thing, you're long distance,
don't over-communicate.
Don't be talking two or three hours a day on the phone.
All right?
Here's the healthy balance.
You talk, you might text a couple times a day,
like, hey, how are you?
And you plan a time to talk during the week,
but don't talk every single day for hours.
Okay?
No, not for hours.
Okay.
No, you don't even need to talk
every single day on the phone.
You don't.
Okay.
Don't over-talk before you have more in-persons.
Because what can happen is,
is you can fall in love with someone that this person isn't.
Right.
And we spent four days together, so like-
Yeah.
We got to know each other.
So still, we shouldn't talk.
You got to know each other
as much as you can know someone in four days.
Yeah, I know.
I know.
Okay.
So, when's the plan for him to come visit you?
In two and a half weeks to three weeks.
Okay.
So, get a nice healthy pace going up until there.
Okay?
Okay.
You want to do a little check-in every day?
Fine, but don't be sitting around,
like, listening to each other breathe for hours a day.
Okay.
Because you have to understand, listen,
the emotional, the in-person emotional connection
and physical connection has to be able to,
has to be able to be conducive or support
the not-in-person emotional connection.
Does that make sense to everyone?
What does that mean?
It means you would get really close to someone
over technology, and it's not sustainable in person.
Yeah.
Like, the in-person chemistry and vibe is not the same.
Right.
So, don't do that to yourself.
Okay.
Right?
Keep a good pace until there's lots of in-person
that can support how you're feeling about each other
when you're not in person.
Okay.
Great.
Thank you.
Long distance people usually do one of two things.
When they're not together,
they romanticize the relationship.
And then when they get together, like,
oh, I don't know.
But then when they're not together,
they romanticize it again.
Or the opposite.
Or some hybrid of both of these,
where they're like really avoidant
when they're not together,
but when they are together,
they're like, this is great.
This is wonderful.
I really, really like this person.
But then when they're not with the person,
they start talking themselves out of it.
They're like, oh, it's too hard,
or I'm not really sure I like them.
They see them again.
They really like them.
So, they usually do one of two of those, right?
They either do one or the other,
or a hybrid of both.
Get it?
So, watch for that.
Watch for yourself doing that,
or watch for him doing that.
And there's a lot of really great
long distance relationship information out there.
Go find it.
Of like things you can do.
Online dates you guys can go on.
Different ways you can hang out.
Have a date night every week.
Make sure you stay connected.
Okay, good.
Thank you.
Gosh.
I was gonna say something.
You reminded me of something just now,
but now I don't remember what it is.
All right.
Ms. Shonda.
Hi, Jackie.
Hi.
I feel like I came in a little.
A little late. Well, I did come in late, but at the right time about the purge conversation. And then you mentioned something about purging friends and
The Lord has definitely been sharing that with me, but I have a list of things that I wrote down and I'm just going to go
I think as a result of this class. So this is more of a testimony today when I finished my swim and I was
Drying my hair so it wouldn't be so wet coming outside
I was like, you know, I love my body. Like I'm a fuller figure model. I've gone through some different changes
And stopped modeling in the last year and a half just due to some family loss and dynamic changes and it was really
just refreshing
You reminding us to stay active and to get active and to keep moving
So much so I was looking really rough after the swim because I don't go to the swimming pool looking great, right?
because I'm going to swim and
A man followed me around Whole Foods today. I spoke I did everything, you know that you guys said
I mean, I wasn't really that interested in him
Like he wasn't my type, but I was like, let me be friendly and he didn't say anything
But followed me around the store and I thought it was great because then another guy kept looking at me and staring at me
And it was like well, okay
Well, obviously they think I'm you know, beautiful, but they don't know what to say and I'm speaking
But I'm not that interested to keep going anyway
Love is blind is on and I know a lot of people might be watching lovers blind
but I thought it's been really helpful in seeing the blind questions that people have been asking and it's been
identifying some of the attachment styles that you've talked about and how people are
Bonding whether it's brick through trauma bonding and all that good stuff and not that it's good to
use more of a secular show to
See what you are what you shouldn't be doing
I'm using it as to what I shouldn't be doing in dating
But I thought it's been very helpful and identifying some of the same things that you've been saying
So with that said I'm also on Facebook dating like I believe I
don't know if it was Jackie or
Johanna Johanna, yes, Johanna Joe Joe anna stated and
guys are eliminating themselves based off of like not responding and
I got some coaching with Renee about two weeks ago, and I finally talked to this guy who
Hopped about of the blue. We went out on a date about a year ago and
They came he came back in and I was like, well, why is all of a sudden he's sending me this text message. I
Admit, I can be very to the point in direct like what's the point of this because it wasn't a good experience
But after a few days and I had some time to talk I reengaged with him. It was like, hey
I just wanted to know X Y & Z and so we talked but I realized what he was doing is wanting to fill a void and
He was like I missed your company, but the company I was like we only have like a couple of weeks
I was like we only had one day and I was like, where did you get this from?
He saw me in Facebook dating and I couldn't get past Facebook dating because I wasn't sure I wanted to connect with him again
because he
Didn't do right the first time so anyway long story short
Um, I got asked me to go out on a Friday night
I don't really enjoy going out with men on Friday nights, especially if I don't know them for the first date
Is that okay to just let them know I will prefer to meet them during the day and just hold true to my boundaries I
Mean
There's a lot of questions in there, okay, so first of all
When someone goes out with you and then they don't show any interest in you and they kind of move on and then they come
Across you on a dating app and they you know, kind of try to reconnect with you
It's not always this but most the times that person has an avoidant attachment style
Okay, they want what they can't have they they have a lot of FOMO
They feel like they're missing out on something right until they see it up close and then they realize they don't want it again
Right, so we're not going to continue to cycle rinse repeat with those people. So that's
FOMO is fear of missing out Stacey
So they have some fear of missing out
And
That's why you guys that's why anxious and avoidance. We'll talk about that tonight. That's why it's such a bad match
Because anxious people a lot of times play games
they'll play like the I look hot don't you miss me game and
avoidance always bite on that hook
Because they're afraid they're missing something good right until they have you again. So they'll like they'll come and get you again
I don't know who sings that song Charlie Puth who sings that song of like, you know, I see you you're out
You know, you're gonna dance with me and flirt with me, but you're not coming home with me tonight that song
You know, that is classic anxious avoidance
attachment right there like you know I want you you know I do so you're going
to you know you're gonna be with me because you like the game but then at
the end of the day it's not gonna turn into a relationship okay so we have to
make sure we're not doing that to the other part of her question because there
were a lot of just like statements in in what you said I feel like that we're
just showing hard work and understanding that we give off something beyond our
clothes or our hair being done or our makeup being on we give off a very
feminine energy that men like they're very attracted to that when we do our
heart work marriage minded men are looking for feminine hearted women and
so and they're not looking for us but they're looking for us and they will be
attracted to you regardless of jeans or t-shirt ball cap no makeup whatever if
you're giving that off okay so that's important to understand Friday night I
know a lot of people think that just Friday night's date night it's just kind
of a thing right Friday night is date night and so if you're going to suggest
a different time I would not sow the seed of distrust I wouldn't be like no
it's my policy not to meet on a Friday night because men do not like
distrustful women I know that we think that men will be attracted to our good
boundaries and we're being true to ourselves and this is our policy most
men will just hear she's high maintenance okay most men are just gonna
immediately say oh you know this woman is you know she's afraid of men you know
she thinks that men have ulterior motives or they're up to no good or
whatever and then I'm gonna have to overcome that in order to get to know
her better and most men nowadays don't want to do that they just don't and so
if you're going to re-suggest I would keep your policy to yourself and just
say hey you know I can't and you know why you can't can you know how about
Saturday afternoon thank you for that and the second question I have is with
guys who want to have meet you before they have like a video call I can't
remember the protocol on that so can you just share if there is a protocol or is
it just by our choice and how we feel I mean not all people are gonna have a
video call I mean I I always suggest a video call just so you can see if like
you know you're clicking and and it makes it less awkward to meet you in
person after you've talked on the video or even on a phone call even if it's not
a video call but not everyone's gonna do that and it's not a hard fast rule okay
thank you not everyone's gonna do that it's not hard fast rule okay ladies the
divine feminine is easygoing by nature and the reason why is because it didn't
have to self-protect against men with malicious intention divinely right we
were created for man right man is the glory of God woman is the glory of man
we were created from this part indicative of covering and protection and you know
the heart of God and just all different types of things so in order to get back
to our divinity of femininity it's important that we understand that when
we are when we come across a suspicious or guarded or over boundaried in you
know in that for the wrong reasons that's not attractive to masculine men
okay I know that we live in a world where men do have to prove that they're
not like all the others and I think that somewhere men do realize that but they
also don't sign up for that a lot of times okay so this is what I want to say
whoever hurt you that's on them but your healing is on you right whoever hurt you
whether it was your dad or your uncle or another man or someone or former or
whatever or just in general not being chosen whatever hurt you whatever
rejection you've experienced from men or abuse that you've experienced for men or
anything in the spectrum in between those things that's on them but your
healing is on you it's not on another man it's on you okay it's not up to them
to heal you although relationship with a good man will be part of that healing
it's on you to do enough healing to be able to connect and let love in okay and
so we got to do that work
We have to do that work.
I know that a lot of women have it real twisted
with why does have high standards?
No, you have high walls.
We got to know the difference, ladies.
We have to.
Because we're sabotaging our own love story.
We're not letting someone get to know how great we are.
Because they can't climb the wall.
Because remember the book of Proverbs says,
build a wall, attract a thief.
So the only men that are going to see you as a challenge
when you have all that kind of energy on
are the men you don't want.
You do not want them.
Okay, I've seen this play out time and time and time again.
Guys, if you follow me on Instagram,
you'll see that I've been getting a little sassy lately
because I just got to play those cards, all right?
Because I'm tired of the religious spirit
keeping people single.
There is a spirit of religion that's keeping people single.
And we have got to come after it.
We have to.
I know that we think that it's only the curse.
But remember, religion is a byproduct of the curse.
I said it, it is.
Religion is a byproduct of the curse.
Religion was only instituted, the law of Moses,
all that stuff was instituted because of what?
The curse.
But there's a new law
that came at the finished work of the cross.
And we got to live in that.
We got to live on the other side of the cross.
We cannot live with all this suspicion
and all this control.
You guys, God's not a controller.
God's not controlling your love life.
He's not sitting up there and saying,
no, no, they're not the one.
No, don't date them.
No, what he is doing is he's inviting you
into a greater revelation of his love
so that you can recognize it in other people.
They're not gonna be perfect people, right?
But all these ideas of, oh, we don't have the same calling
and they can't handle my assignments.
So there are no, you guys, this is all just crazy talk.
Okay?
Anyone that is going to partner with you,
they only really have to have one criteria
when it comes to their spirituality,
and that's that they're teachable.
They wanna grow, they wanna progress,
they wanna continue to follow after God.
And then guess what?
He can lead y'all anywhere together.
If both of you have that in common, can't he?
Now, I hope this doesn't happen,
but if God showed up and said tomorrow,
hey, I want you two to go to Timbuktu,
me and my husband, we both would say yes.
We wouldn't maybe be excited about that
until we got excited about it.
You know, we moved to Texas the very same way.
God simultaneously told both of us
that we were gonna move to Texas.
He prepared our hearts for it.
We came and visited, he opened the doors,
we got excited, we got the desire to move,
and then we moved.
But we were both open to it, all right?
My first husband was not like that.
My first husband had a very religious idea of God,
and he was not open to change.
Everything that he knew about God, he already knew.
He wasn't gonna learn anything new about God,
and he had already decided what God had called him to do
and told him to do, and it's like, that's it.
God tells you one time in your life,
and then you just do it for the rest of your life.
That was what I was dealing with.
So there was no walking in the spirit
or following after the spirit.
You understand what I'm saying?
And so that was just one of the reasons
why we were a massively bad mix, okay?
Because when you're hearing the Lord in one way,
and this person is staunchly set on their religious ideas,
that can cause a lot of abuse to start happening, right?
Let's just say the word Jezebel was mentioned
more than once, and all of us are like,
dang, not the J word, and that's not Jesus.
Okay, so, all right, guys, religion is ugly.
We gotta come after it, all right?
We're gonna come after it together.
So who's coming tonight to Attachment?
Are we gonna watch it in replay?
Oh, good, lots and lots and lots of people.
All right, well, I hope that you guys
got some breakthrough today.
I feel like we covered a lot of great topics,
and this will be available in replay,
and you'll find it in your portal.
Don't forget, we have that app coming,
and all of your curriculum, all of your community,
everything's gonna be on there.
If you wanna go off Facebook, you can.
It's gonna be so great.
Whatever you wanna do, it's gonna be all there.
Easy to use, not clunky like a lot of apps,
and it's gonna be the precursor in the dating portion of it
to the app that's coming out
at the end of the spring, early summer, all right?
So, all right, I'm showing up.
You guys show up.
I'll see you tonight.
Bye, everyone.