Okay, everybody, I'm so excited that you're all here,
whether you are here live or watching this in playback,
as I was just saying.
Jackie's in Redding, California,
helping her kid get started at Bethel School.
And we were gonna do single spotlight tonight,
but it will require her crossing over all the platforms
and going live.
I feel like it's he said, she said on steroids,
like really matchmaking, really, really highlighting people.
She's super excited for it.
Unfortunately, it will not happen tonight,
but we are gonna have fun anyway tonight.
And it will be rescheduled.
Her and I were looking at a couple different dates
and because we're just trying to make sure
all the players are gonna be available.
She did not wanna nail down the exact date,
but be on the lookout for us to announce
what single spotlight is gonna look like.
So there's gonna be times where it's,
he said, she said,
very similar to what we've done in the past.
And other times it's gonna be single spotlight
across all the platforms.
And I believe even live on her Instagram page.
So very, very exciting.
And we're happy to have you all here.
So tonight, because we're not spotlighting
any one particular person,
we're gonna try around Robin
and I guess she trusts me enough to kind of do this.
So I was trying to think of a way
to ask some really fun questions
for the community to get to know each other
for the front half.
And so I came up with like six questions.
They're a little bit deeper than some of the ones
that I've used for he said, she said.
So hopefully you guys won't mind playing along.
I'm not gonna put anybody on the spot.
So what I'm gonna do is I'm gonna ask a question.
If you think you wanna answer it,
you're gonna raise your avatar hand
and I'm gonna randomly call on people.
I will say this.
I'm gonna try to call on as many people as possible.
So if you answer the first question,
I probably am not gonna call on you again
for the very next question,
just to give everybody a chance.
My preference will be to pick people
who have their camera on.
So if we're all trying to get to know each other
in this community, I wanna see faces.
And so if you were not camera ready
and you're like, ah, you go get camera ready right now.
Like, so put your camera down and go put some makeup on,
brush your hair, put a cute pair of earrings on,
do whatever it is that you need to do to feel like,
and I'm gonna call on you.
Cheryl, if Cheryl is not on right now,
I know Cheryl will be getting on.
And so she's also gonna collect questions from the audience.
So if there's a burning question,
so like I'm gonna ask a few questions,
but if there's a burning question,
you wanna pitch to the community
and maybe it's just like,
hey, you guys, what do you think about this?
We're not giving advice tonight.
So if someone's gonna give an answer,
it's just their answer like we always do on he said,
she said.
Okay, so is everybody ready to play group?
He said, she said, awesome.
I am.
All right, I love it, Hunter.
Okay, so we are going to, it's getting dark.
I've got to turn a light on.
So it's starting to get dark in my condo.
Okay, so, all right.
So my first question,
and so again, think about the answer.
If you think you want,
and answers need to stay under 60 seconds.
So I want them to be thoughtful,
but I will cut you off if it starts to turn into a monologue.
So I do have access to the mute button
and I'm not afraid to use it.
Okay, so the first question is,
what is something that has been one of your biggest takeaways
in this program?
Whether it's actually doing the heart work,
being a part of this community, even on the prayer calls,
what is a takeaway of you're like, gosh,
even if I just learned this one thing,
it's all been worth it.
So my dog really needs to go OUT,
but we're gonna make sure that we can keep her busy
for 59 more minutes.
So the question is, what is a takeaway?
Cause maybe your takeaway is different than somebody else's.
They're like, well, I need to grab a hold of that.
So is anyone willing to share a takeaway
from this community or this program
that has just really stood out for them
and has just been such a beautiful thing?
And you guys don't need to be deep, you know,
it could be, hey, just by going to prayer classes,
I've learned to pray out loud.
Sherry, you raised your hand first,
so you get to be in the hot.
Let's see first, tell us what your biggest takeaway is.
I think one of the biggest ones for me has been learning
there's more than just red flags.
When I learned that there were green flags
and yellow flags, that has been so helpful
and given me a much more positive attitude.
I love it, I love that.
That is such a good reminder, because you're right.
I always just thought it was red.
I mean, I always knew about red flags, right?
And I was really good at ignoring red flags,
but that's super good.
All right, Patricia, you are up.
For me, it's been having the phases identified
and so that that phase two is just low stakes,
just that putting that idea in my head
and then going on the date and not having my 50 questions
that I wanted to get answers to on the first date
so I could not waste my time on a second date
and instead show up and just have fun
and be with this person and look at this person
and see who this person is and like,
not be thinking about, am I gonna marry this guy?
You know, or do I wanna kiss this guy?
You know, just let all that has gone out the window
and I'm just going on dates and having fun
and I'm really enjoying the process now,
which I never have done in all the years
I've been out on dates.
So that's been huge.
That is such a good reminder for those of you who,
I don't know where you're at in this process
and you're like, what phases is she's talking about?
Remember, Jackie talks about phase one is just community,
what we are right now.
Phase two is low stake discovery dating
and it's just getting to know somebody in the present.
It's not unpacking and becoming their therapist of the past
and it's not planning the weddings.
Phase or level three is when you start to say,
okay, we're gonna be in a committed relationship
where it's just us two.
Obviously at the beginning part of that, it's just us two
and as you get closer along, further along,
you find out more deep and intimate parts of yourself
and that's when you start to consider engagement,
covenant marriage, and then of course engagement
and then marriage are the next phases.
But Patricia, that's been huge for me
and I was the queen interrogator.
Like, man, I would get it.
I mean, I'm now embarrassed about some of those dates.
I know, I am too.
I roll my eyes at how I used to be.
No, I am very different.
It's okay, that's why we're where we are.
Jeannie, Jeannie, go ahead, Jeannie MacArthur.
I got so many things, but I think besides
just learning to relax and go with
and enjoy myself in the process,
I think realizing that my desire,
cause for a long time I've been praying
that God would just take the desire away,
but I know it's his intention for me
to be in a covenant relationship
and I am really embracing and like really believing it now.
I mean, I knew that, but I wanted to just say,
well, you know, it hasn't happened,
so this must just not be God's will for me,
you know, that kind of dismissal.
And I think really, I feel so much
just the support of everybody in that,
that we're all in the same place
and we're all here for a reason
and God's gonna show up and do something amazing
for all of us, I know it.
So that's my-
I love it, I love it, that's so good.
Okay, so we just had three ladies share.
Could we get a couple guys to share one thing
that they have really had a strong takeaway with this?
I know we've got some men, there may be less of you,
so I may need to hear from you more.
Jay, awesome, what's a big takeaway?
Well, Renee, I think for me,
it's been some fantastic fellowship and worship.
Learning that there are so many incredible,
God-fearing Proverbs 31 women and men as well, you know,
and that, you know, sometimes you get lost in a community.
I've been going to a smaller church,
so it's hard for me to experience that
in a personal level, in a community level.
However, on the internet level,
which is a community level of itself, you know,
It's been a big revelation to me.
And it's been uplifting, rewarding,
emotionally, spiritually rewarding.
And I think the other thing,
and I've done it twice, is heart work.
I made a reference to it in text.
What I've come away with is,
it's hard to explain in words,
of all the boxes I've had to open,
I've had to deal with, I've had to confront,
and confess, and ask for forgiveness,
and confronting others that I've needed to confront,
and ask for apologies.
And so it's been a giant revelation for me,
holistically speaking.
I love it, I love it, that's so good.
All right, we're gonna take one more of this question.
Hunter, you had your hand raised.
Do you have one takeaway of something positive
that you've gotten from this community or this program?
Yes, so you see, I have a developmental disability,
and I live independently in my own apartment.
It's two bedroom, and I'm blessed.
And that was from the programs in New York,
and the state benefits for people with disabilities.
Singles Nation has been good,
because I've been struggling with social interactions,
and I wasn't very bright with dating and relationships.
I wasn't very bright like a lot of people.
However, I refused to give up,
because I wanted to work for the same opportunities
like everyone, I don't want to hand out.
I don't want some woman handed to me,
I want to really lead.
So I figured, you know what,
I'm gonna come to this Singles Nation,
because this is where I can get some hard work help.
And who knows, maybe I'll meet someone or not.
I'm just glad nobody's, I just hope,
I'm just thankful there's no judgmental women,
like on dating apps,
who just identify them as Christian,
but only use that term just to show I'm morally okay,
rather than just have a heart change.
That is so awesome, Hunter.
Thank you so much.
I love it.
You know, plenty of us come into this community
with our own disabilities,
which may not look as obvious as yours,
our own addictions, our own recovery.
So you are not alone.
We are all perfectly imperfect in this community.
And I love that some of you are just plopping your answers
into the chat box.
So if you're not the person that wants to come off mute,
or your camera is off because you're in between gigs,
feel free to share your answer with the community.
This is a community event tonight.
So we're here to encourage and support
and get to know one another.
All right, you guys, those were so good.
And so go ahead, Hunter,
I'm moving on to the next question, sweetie.
Okay, so my next question is,
I know we are all looking forward
to marrying our spirit mate.
So besides that,
what is something that you are looking forward to doing
before the end of this year?
So this program was switched from married in 12 months
to last year single,
because it was this idea about what do we wanna get done
before we get married?
Like we're gonna make the most of our singlehood.
So what is something you are excited to finish
before the end of this year,
that's not marry your spirit mate?
Susan, your hand is up.
Hi, it's been so long since I've made a peep.
Let me lower.
I'm really excited to retire my business.
I've been a private chef for this many years, a long time.
And I've just really been working hard at some things.
And I am excited to transition into my next gig
as an alternative health concierge.
So yeah, I'm super stoked about that.
I love that.
Susan, we still have to catch up, so.
I know, I know.
Hey girl, message me.
I got you, girl.
You look beautiful though.
Your makeup is on point.
Y'all, I just had a video date right beforehand.
So, I look extra good.
Okay, somebody else.
What is something that they are trying to accomplish
that they're excited about finishing
before the rest of the year?
I wanna get at least five or six answers to each question.
So be brave, be bold.
No, Hunter, we're taking turns.
So don't hop on.
And I'm trying to get different people to answer.
So there's-
Forgive me, I thought I was on mute.
I was on mute.
You're good, you're good.
Stacey, awesome.
You are up.
So a couple of things I wanna finish
before the end of the year.
First of all, I am going to be training
some small group leaders.
years for a women's ministry nonprofit that I volunteer for.
So I've got the notes together.
I'm not sure when that date will be, and it'll probably be video
style, but I've got the ideas.
Um, the second thing is that I'm still looking for one more roommate.
And so I'm praying and believing that that roommate is going to come a
female roommate before I go to Wisconsin in October to see my family.
The other thing is that, um, I have, uh, I am talking to someone right now.
Well, yeah, we're we're yeah.
Anyway.
And, um, he's very much a leader and he's actually sparked my interest in having
more of a vision for my career and my role where I work, and so I want to get
that together as a presentation and allow the Holy spirit to give me the
moment to be able to present that to the powers that be get it girl.
I love it.
So not only did Stacy bring up some things that she's already started,
but she's putting some things out there into the universe that doesn't exist yet.
And so that could be you too.
I think that there's something, you know, Jackie always talks about activation.
So that's one of my takeaways is that Jackie has spurred my desire to clear
things more into the present, whether it's on my Jesus care board,
don't declare them out loud.
You start claiming things.
And I think the phrase that Bethany always uses, Oh, I'm going to grab a hold of that.
That's for me too.
I'm grabbing a hold of that.
I'd never heard that phrase before.
So if you hear somebody saying something, you're like, yeah, I'm grabbing a hold of
that too, feel free to do that.
Um, somebody else.
Um, I definitely want to hear from at least two new guys, something that you have
every intention of getting done before the end of the year, just raise your avatar
hand and I will call on you because we do, um, Michelle.
Okay, go ahead, Michelle.
Hello.
Um, I've noticed that I've met a lot of singles, um, this year that aren't
necessarily, um, they're like pre-believers.
And so what I've kind of been feeling in my just exploring meeting new people is
that I'm attracting a lot of different kinds of people.
And I'm in my community.
I feel like we're plugging them into things with like golfing together
and doing different things together.
And I think, I feel like God's leading me to start a small group.
Um, and maybe like an alpha discipleship to bring in these pre-believers
and see what the Lord might do.
So I'm kind of feeling led to do that before the end of the year.
Ah, I love that, Michelle.
That is awesome.
Yay.
Thank you, Jesus.
That's so good.
All right.
Couple guys, let's get some brave men.
You are on here.
I know you've got dreams that you're dreaming.
So let's nail it down.
I can see you men on my screen.
So don't make me call on you.
Someone be brave.
Kenny's looking at me.
She's like, yeah, you know, Renee will call on you.
So who is a guy is on here.
David, David, man, your center screen.
I have to call on you.
So you knew I was going to happen.
You can just feel my eyes penetrating.
So tell me what you're going to get done before the end of the year.
I'm currently enrolled in a, in a one year kind of theology training
school called school of kingdom.
So it's, um, so that's something that I'm hoping to finish by November.
So that's something that's been eyeopening life changing up
and really enjoying that.
So that's, uh, one of the more major things that I've been, um, involved
with, um, as well as with a group called prophetic heart healing.
So that's another thing.
I have a commitment to serve in tech support that, um, that is going through
the end of the year with that as well.
So I'm enjoying both of those groups that I'm part of.
That is awesome.
I wonder if it's the one that shung up on my Facebook feed
with prophetic heart healing.
Probably.
That's awesome.
That's so that's super cool.
I love that there are so many complimentary ministries out there.
You guys, it's so important for us to not feel like there's a competition.
Sometimes I can feel like the Lord is multiplying the ways
that we can serve one another.
So that's super cool.
Okay.
Al must have said something in the chat box because Julia just said it was a May.
Oh, alpha is amazing.
Oh, alpha the class.
That's what you meant by alpha.
Isn't it?
I actually used to lead in the alpha class.
It's so funny.
I thought you just met like alpha male.
Michelle, when you were talking about it, I didn't even realize you
were talking about the alpha course.
Alpha course is a great pre believer course to teach.
I highly, highly recommend it.
Okay.
Um, I'm going to go on unless there's another guy that wants to jump in.
I am gonna go on to the next question.
Okay, Doki, all right.
So this is a looking back question.
Looking back, what is something that you didn't think
that you could do ever?
You're like, I'm never gonna be able to do that.
But you finally did it and you loved it.
Now it could be something as serious as go to college.
It could be jumping out of a plane, parasailing.
So it could be a fun thing.
It could be a serious thing.
It could be whatever you want.
So looking back, what is something that you thought
you would never be able to do and you finally did it
and you felt great doing it?
I'll go first.
Like for me, I thought I'm scared to pieces to fly,
although I do it almost every single month.
And so the fact that I flew to Italy for the first time,
I never thought I could be on a plane for 10 hours
without jumping out of my skin and I did and I loved it.
So that is something that I did.
I didn't love the plane ride, but I loved getting to Italy.
So it was totally worth it.
So raise your hand and good night Tim, go ahead.
I always wanted to play drums.
So I just got the nerve to go and get them lessons.
And this was years ago.
And then I became a part of the worship band at my church
and I played drums with them for almost three, four years.
And it was good.
I love that.
I would have never pictured you in the drums.
So I'm so glad you told us that, that is so cool.
Okay, who else wants to share something that they've done?
Okay, I see applause.
Yes, yes, applause, applause, applause.
Okay, you guys gotta get brave tonight
cause like I'm not gonna do all the talking.
Who else wants to share a little something
they learned how to do?
Patricia, I'll let you go again
since we're not getting flooded with hands raising.
I fulfilled a dream to sing a few years back.
I left my corporate job to take a break
and I had a little one woman show
and I went around to the nursing and retirement homes
and sang for an hour doing a little jazz standards,
which they loved, you know, cause it was their era.
So I did that for a couple of years and it was a blast
and that fulfilled my dream to sing.
So a lot of fun, I'm glad I did it.
I love that, I love that.
By the way, if me asking these questions
is spurring on a great question,
please put it in the chat box.
Cheryl's gonna collect them all.
And in about 20 minutes, I'm gonna switch over
and pick your questions.
So feel free to be thinking up good questions like this.
Okay, Carol, go ahead.
I know one, okay.
Oh, there I am.
Yes, no, I didn't do anything scuba diving or skydiving,
but this year I saw a recipe in one of the books
and it was to make English muffins now and I made them
and it turned out so good.
And it turned out so good that the second time
I'll know how to do it better and more proper
to make it taste even better.
And they turned out really good.
They're not exactly like the commercial brands,
but I think I did a pretty good job
and I just enjoyed it so much.
It was just so much fun and I love working with the dough.
Carol, thank you for sharing that.
There's no accomplishment too little, too silly to share.
So I love that.
Cheryl, what do you wanna share with the group?
You are muted.
Hello?
Yes, now we got you.
Good evening.
So this was a while ago.
I lived in Oregon, the state of Oregon,
and I was asked to be part of a triathlon, like a relay,
and I was the swimmer of the team.
So I had to like swim around the lake and yeah,
it was good.
It was a challenge, but it was really fun to do, so.
I love that, Cheryl.
Thank you.
Okay, we're gonna get two guys.
Hunter, I'll let you go
because I'm not seeing a lot of guys raise your hand,
but be super quick.
So go ahead.
You have to, you're muted though, sweetie.
Oh, I'm sorry.
I just turned 35 Tuesday.
And so you all don't know that I try to get on Singles Nation
and I try to make my life as fruitful and productive
and embrace any opportunity I can.
And one of those is this last spring in March,
I went to Israel,
Pop Scott's first.
first time abroad, first time farthest from home I've ever been.
I saved up a lot of money.
Even when COVID sent me back, I managed to, I didn't let it get off my mind.
I was determined to get over there with the church group who was doing a 10-day tour of
the Holy Land.
That is awesome, Hunter.
Congratulations.
It is a lot of money.
I've been to Israel.
It is a lot of money to get there.
It's oh so worth it.
You guys, I'm loving seeing some of the answers in the chat box too.
All right there, get it.
If you are not watching this live, you're missing on some really cool answers in the
chat box of things that folks are not saying out loud.
We've got some really incredible, talented people.
Tracy.
I'll do that too.
Okay.
Well, this was actually last year, but it's going over into this year.
I took classes on voiceover.
Voiceover is like when you would go through the bus station, you'll hear your bus on track
five.
That's the type of voiceover type stuff that, excuse me, that I was taking classes for.
I haven't found a job yet for it, but I have been doing ... I've got my studio
set up in my closet, and I've been doing little ... It's called ... I'm in Illinois, and it's
called Illinois Radio Reader for the Blind.
I've been doing reading ads every week for the blind over the radio.
If you have a radio, you can listen to me speaking the ads on Wednesday.
Tracy, I'm not surprised.
You've got a really good voice.
I could just tell you've got that radio for you.
Thank you.
I do not.
When I listen to my voice, I'm like, ugh, I'm so much better in person.
All right.
You guys, those were great.
Okay.
Here's a fun one, and this is kind of a dating question since, of course, we would like to
go out on some dates.
I don't know if you guys have seen that movie Miss Congeniality, and they ask her, what's
an ideal date for you?
She says April 23rd or 28th because it's not too hot and it's not too warm.
What the question really is, what's a cool date idea that you would like to go on?
Raise your hand, especially if you've not gone yet, raise your hand and tell us what
would be a fun date that you would like to plan or go on, something that would be fun
for you.
Shanna, did you want to share?
You thumbs up.
All right.
You go for it.
Give us your answer.
Can you all hear me?
I can.
Sorry.
I'm on my phone.
I think that go-karting would be fun.
Oh, I love that.
Tell us more about...
I'm sorry.
I'm grabbing something.
Tell us more about that.
Is there like an adult version of go-karting?
Where I live, there's a place called Andretti go-karting, so I think that would be fun.
Something interactive and fun like Topgolf or go-karting or something a little competitive.
Yep.
I love it.
Okay.
So you guys, these are some good day ideas.
Who else has a good day idea that doesn't include coffee or food, just dinner out?
What else would you guys like to do on a date?
Around here, the big thing around here now is ax throwing.
So I'm totally game for an ax throwing trip.
I would be terrible at it.
Jay, go ahead.
I used to do a lot of horseback riding as well.
And I think I got pretty accomplished at it too, English and Western.
So I'd love to take somebody out horseback riding.
And at the end of it, have a small picnic.
I love it.
I want to try to give as many people as possible a chance to go who have not gone yet.
Caroline.
For me, it's anything outdoors.
I like to take people on fun hikes or on the paddle board.
All right.
I love to paddle board.
That's awesome.
Woo-hoo.
Miriam.
For me, it's something really simple.
Just walking on the beach, especially when it's nice and warm, and then eating ice cream.
Awesome.
Okay.
Do you live near the beach that you can use that as a nap?
Lakes.
Okay.
beautiful lakes yes but it's already fall so it's a little cold are you like in michigan
like near the great lakes no i'm in edmonton alberta okay okay yeah so they have big lakes
too i forget there are actually lakes that you can walk around we're a few hours from
bamf and jasper so oh i love it joan or is it joanne oh it's joanne oh i'm sorry
cool that's okay um i think it'd be great to go scuba diving all right girlfriend all right
we actually did that one time the divers take joanne on a date
monterey you get to go down and then you have lots to talk about afterwards
i love it i think it's great i love it that's awesome al how about you good day ideas
uh for me i've been to a place like uh david buster i don't know if you guys have those in
the u.s uh stuff to do with a lot of activities have fun there's food everything's there it's
kind of fun you know it's something interactive and and if the weather isn't bad it's indoors
right so i always like stuff like that that's a great idea there is one of those in nashville
and i always forget like those places that you think that are just for kids are sometimes a great
place as an adult to go because it brings out the kid in you it's competitive but not serious
competitive james how about you what would you like to share as a good day idea
i think uh i would like to go hiking uh through like mountain hiking
picnic it gives you an opportunity to you know a lot of communication um and have a nice video
and up top you could have a picnic oh love it love it you guys i'm doing a picnic we're going
to do waterfall walking on saturday followed by a picnic so i'm i'm channeling everyone's ideas
this is awesome okay any other date ideas that you want to share and maybe it's one that you've
been on you're like gosh that was so memorable it was such a great cool date um and i would
love to do that again with somebody i went zip lining on a first date with a guy um that was
super cool i lost my baseball hat in the ravine but um i kind of accomplished that fear oh good
cheryl date idea so actually one of my the ones i one of them that i remember was we did a
progressive dinner so we started at one restaurant on this one area and we walked and had different
courses at different restaurants so that was a lot of fun oh that's a great idea like i've done
progressive parties with some folks but i've never thought of doing that on a date that's
awesome patricia did you have a good date idea um i played nine holes of golf okay girlfriend
that was just the right amount of time you get to know them you have a good time you get outside
you're active talking about 18 would be just too many if it's not a good date exactly yeah
i love it i i was just talking about that with this guy and i'm like man i can do nine holes
but i'm ready for a nap for 18 holes it's just too much for me that's in phase three
and get for sure for sure elizabeth and then nightin um going to a gun range and shooting
was on my bucket list and so a guy um who was in the military took or took me on a first date to
the gun range and taught me how to shoot so much fun oh i like that and you know tennessee man
we're all about the right to bear arms in this state so people would be all over that here that's
awesome um nightin day idea i'm going like a friday night like a dance to a dance studio
like just relax yeah you have some lessons and then they have a dance sessions afterwards so
that's just like a fun thing to do and i love dancing so it's always good to have a good dance
partner and it's fun it's just key low key you hang out you can have a good conversation and
chill i love it i love it the laser tag somebody said that niagara falls shooting a couple games
of pool putt putt golf is always fun for sure if there's an area to do it mountain biking
um these are some really pickleball you guys i really wanted pickleball is really big here i'm
sure it's big everywhere um what happened to just ping pong i just want to know it's like a ping
pong paddle but you gotta run walking tour of historic homes that's a really cool idea i'm
reading some of these out loud because if people
for watching this and playback.
They're missing some really cool ideas.
Kayaking, surfing, biking, hiking, walking on the beach.
Yeah, watching a concert at the lake
and then taking a walk afterwards.
I would say like a live, like, you know,
in the summertime or in the fall,
they always have some good like fall festivals
and local places that play music.
That's always a great idea.
Bowling is great, even if you stink at it.
A trip to the zoo, I love that idea.
A trip to the zoo is a really cool idea.
Let's see, yeah, I think the golfing,
I mean, the shooting range is really kind of cool.
You guys are like archery.
Wouldn't that be cool to go do archery again?
It's like, it's kind of like very Hunger Games-esque.
All right, any other dating ideas?
Paul, do you have your hand up for a dating idea?
I do.
I just thought of, I've wanted to do this
before the like cooking together
and they have like classes you cook together
and then you eat and I think they have some around here,
like hit box, I wanna say, but something like that.
It sounds cool.
I love it.
I love it, yes, cooking together,
like taking a cooking class.
That's awesome, great idea.
Miriam and James, are your hands up from before
or do you guys have a new idea?
Sorry, that was just, it was just hands from before.
No, no, no, you're good.
Okay, I'm gonna go to my last question.
So it's at the 36 hour.
So I wanna see how creative you guys can be with questions.
So feel free to put questions in the chat box.
Cheryl's gonna get them to me.
So this is it, this is your time.
Okay, something that you want to try
with your spirit mate one day.
It could be learn how to do a dance together,
jump off a cliff together, learn a new language,
visit a certain country,
but just something that you would like to learn how to do
or try to do with your spirit mate one day.
Now it's possible you're already great at it.
And so you might want your partner
to at least try it once with you.
So who would like to do something like something like,
gosh, I really wanna share this.
So maybe you are the scuba diver and you're like,
I wanna share this gift with somebody else.
Or I'm a pilot and I wanna take them on a solo ride
or I wanna go hang gliding with somebody.
Like I know for me, I've talked for 30 years
about jumping out of a plane
and I'm pretty sure I will chicken out of it.
So it's probably gonna have to take
my strong spirit mate boyfriend
to drag me up onto that plane
and push me out with the instructor
that I'm going tandem with.
Because that's probably what it's gonna take.
So is there anybody that wants to do something really special
or really cool with their spirit mate one day?
And again, it could be a simple thing.
It could be plant a garden.
It could be learn how to make homemade wine.
Nadine.
Doing air balloons.
Ooh, like an air balloon ride?
Yes.
Oh, I love that.
A hot air balloon, all right.
Maybe he'll actually know how to do it for you.
Who else is like, I really wanna learn how to do this
or I wanna share this with somebody.
Jay, is your hand up to go?
Yes, it is.
Okay.
I'm a very active individual
as you probably have known by now,
by some of my colleagues.
I'd love to go back.
I used to canoeing when I was younger, long canoe trips.
I'd love to do that with a spirit mate.
Ooh, that's a great idea.
Go on to some sort of as a group
with an experienced canoeer.
So I think that would be a great thing to do
and do a little bit of camping for a few nights.
So that's my idea.
I love it.
That's a great idea.
Hunter, do you have something you wanna do
with your spirit mate in the future?
Yes, I would.
I would like her to visit Ohio
and see, because I was born and raised in Ohio,
but I lived in upstate New York for 10 years.
She'd come with me to New York
and then see family, extended family,
spend time, enjoy every birthday, celebrate the holidays,
and then go to Cedar Point near Toledo,
watch Cedar Point and Lake Erie.
That'd be a good one.
Hopefully she'll...
I used to hate upside downs,
but then the last time I went on an upside down run
at Road Coast, I had a change of heart.
And now I love to go on upside down roller coasters.
And hope, yeah, go to the amusement park
and then go to Columbus, see my old friends.
Love it.
Those are all great ideas, Hunter.
That is so precious.
I love it.
Jonathan, your hand is up.
Glad you are here tonight.
What you gonna do?
All right.
I always thought it would be cool to study a language with my wife for a few years and
then travel to their country and spend like a month there, a good little getaway and just
speak their language.
Plus over a lifetime, I might be able to learn how to say I love you in multiple different
languages.
So.
I love that.
That's such a cool idea.
I love it.
Keddie, what would you like to do?
Jonathan just kind of took the story.
I would like to.
I want to go back to because I was born and partly raised in London.
And I want to go back with my spirit mate just to go and just to go over my hometown
and because I haven't been back there for a while or many years since I've left.
And I would like just to go experience.
I would be like a tourist also.
So we can both tour this place together.
Okay.
How many of us would go if Keddie is not with her spirit mate in the next 12 months?
How many of us would go with her to London?
I know I would go.
I know I could get a direct flight from where I am.
Okay.
Keddie, just see this.
And so if you want to get back to London, it could be with maybe all of us can take
a London trip with our spirit mate and Keddie could be our tour guide.
Love it.
Okay.
We're going to all lower our hands so that I can see the next person that's got an idea
of something they want to enjoy or do with their spirit mate.
Anybody else want to share like, Hey, I really want to learn how to do this.
I want to share this experience with my spirit mate.
Hmm.
Susan.
So I would love to do one of these traveling stages through Italy where you work on local
farms.
You reap the produce, you make wine, you do local cooking classes, you sleep there, you
kind of like a kibbutz type thing, but in Italy, it's actually a thing.
And then I'd also love to go to Reykjavik, which is on my bucket list and like kind of
do some volcanic cooking.
A lot of things revolve around cooking, I suppose, but it just sounds super fun.
That sounds awesome, girl.
I love you guys.
And again, because folks can't see this in the replay, I'm night in the safari in Africa.
I, Oh, I totally want to do a safari, an African safari.
Like I want to go on an Alaskan cruise and I want to go on an African safari mission
trip.
Somebody suggested travel to Italy and Greece, cliff dive into the ocean together.
Sandra.
Okay.
Girlfriend cliff diving.
Oh my goodness.
Cliff diving mission trips, go to Italy, Greece, and Spain ballroom or a line dancing.
I love it.
Go to Israel and float on the dead sea.
Those are awesome ballroom dances.
Okay.
I'm loving seeing these.
Okay, Mary.
You've got to explain this Bachata Kazombi dancing.
All right.
I'm making you get out.
I'm making you share about this.
What the heck kind of dancing is that?
Okay.
So Bachata is, um, it's just a form of Latin dance that's, uh, that it can be a, um, it's
like a four count.
I don't know how to explain it.
It's also like an eight count and then Bachata is more of like a four count, it's way simpler
than salsa.
And then Kazomba is extremely close.
Like your bodies are almost pressed completely together.
So that's definitely something that I would want to do.
Yeah, exactly.
Yeah.
So there's sensual Bachata and there's certain kinds of dancing.
I probably wouldn't want to be doing with somebody that I wasn't married to.
I love it.
So that's what that's to answer your question.
A little dirty dancing.
I'm all, I'm all for it.
If it's your spirit mate, amen, amen, amen.
Nitin, did you want to share your answer out loud?
Yes.
Go to Norway for a couple of weeks and, uh, I think, uh, almost close to the Arctic circle.
They have this huge, um, not like a small, um, glass shaped houses.
You can stay and you can watch the Northern lights.
That's a, that's the coolest experience.
That's fun.
That, that, that's what I would like to do.
I love that.
Okay.
So I have a friend that went on the mission trip.
Well, one of the women on the mission trip, her, her and her husband are retiring to Michigan
and he just sent photos from Northern Michigan where they were seeing the Northern lights
this week.
It is unusual, but evidently it can happen in Northern Michigan.
So I think.
at the Grand Canyon, all the seven wonders of the world.
Very cool.
River cruise in Europe.
I mean, awesome.
I will say this y'all, at some point,
if the marriage doesn't happen soon enough,
everyone's gotta get to Israel.
It's amazing.
Helicopter rides.
These are some really, y'all,
I wanna go travel with all of you folks, for sure.
Okay, it is at the 45 of the hour.
And I'm gonna restate all of the questions I've done.
So if you didn't get to jump in before
and you wanna jump back in now,
because now you're feeling like,
hey, I have made sure I look good
and I'm liking all these answers
and I wanna get on the party.
I'm waiting for Cheryl to message me any questions
that you guys asked in the chat box for me to ask.
But until then, so we asked the front end,
a takeaway that you got from the program.
It could either be from this community,
from the prayer, from the classes, from the heart work.
Anything that has really stood out to you in the program,
that was one of the questions.
The second question was something
that you are most looking forward to doing by yourself
before you get married,
that you're trying to get done before the end of the year.
Looking back, something that you felt
like you were super excited.
I mean, it's something that you thought you would never do,
but you learned how to do
and you were super pumped about that.
A fun day idea or something you wanna try
with your spirit mate.
So those are the questions that we asked.
If you did not get to answer any of those questions
and you wanna answer one of those questions,
you know, we've got about 12 more minutes.
So about six or seven of you can share the answer
to one of those questions.
So who are gonna be my last six or seven brave people
who are gonna take their answer?
Awesome, Katie, what you got for us?
So the question about the community,
definitely accountability and really great friends.
And also it is just pointing me to Jesus
and making me stay in the word.
So I just love it.
That is awesome, Katie.
I really appreciate you saying that.
This community definitely has been great for accountability.
I think I would have like stopped trying sometimes
like, you know, or stopped doing something,
but just knowing that I was a part of this community
has made me press in a little bit more.
Miriam.
It's the last question that you asked
about what I wanna do with my spirit mate.
And I love the beach so much.
So I would love to go to the Maldives
or somewhere, the Bahamas, yeah.
So Maldives for sure is like the top on the list, yeah.
Nice, very nice.
Shanna.
Shanna Johnson, yeah.
Hello.
It's like the first one,
I would say the negativity fast is super important.
I didn't realize how negative my thought process was
or can be, and that's really important
and how important it is to like really embrace your identity
and who you are in Christ.
So that's probably the biggest thing for me.
I love that.
That's such a good reminder, Shanna,
cause here's what's important.
I think so much of us who have been good people
think that we're not negative
because the most negative things that we say
are in between our ears.
And it's the stuff that nobody says,
like I can be really negative.
You guys, I paid a lot of money
and went through the energy of global entry.
And I got through the first part,
like I was all cocky, like, whew.
And then I got to the second section,
once you pick up your luggage, you're back with everybody.
And you guys, I have family in wheelchairs
and they let every wheelchair person in in front of me.
I was getting really, like the negativity
in between my ears was just wretched.
And I was like, Jesus was like, girl.
And so I appreciate that, Shanna,
cause sometimes our negativity
isn't what's coming out of our mouth,
but it's the stuff that we're thinking
either about ourselves or about other people.
Cheryl.
Yeah, there's been so many things about this community
that's impacted me.
But one thing that's really been amazing
is just praying together.
together. Um, and I've never been in a group before where we pray for our
spirit mates and we're praying for men. And I'm sure the men are praying for us
ladies too. Um, but it's just been so awesome to be in a group where we're
praying like that together. And it's also just kept me encouraged to, to just
keep being filled with hope.
I love that. And Cheryl, I have loved having you on our prayer calls. Um, I
feel like you're more recent in my, or we're, I'm just paying attention to you.
Like God, just either you're one of our newer folks or God just highlighting
you to me, but you always have such a good word for us when you pray. And I
love that you pray scripture. Like you're not just praying your thoughts,
but you always bring the word of God into your prayer. So since you mentioned
it, I thought I would just say, um, it's just very evident when you're on the
call with us. So thank you. Um, anybody else? We have nine more minutes. And so
anybody else, one of those questions, either something they took, they've
taken away from this program, something in the past they never thought they
would accomplish that they have something that they want to get
accomplished before the end of the year without their spirit mate and something
that they're looking forward to do. Megan. Awesome. Megan, we haven't heard
from you tonight. What you got to share.
So my biggest takeaways from this community have probably been hope for a
brighter future. And, um, my second one is I had, oh, and learning to lean into
the Holy spirit a lot more. It's really been great. Love it. Love it. Okay. I'm
going to see who the Lord highlights to me of who I think has a word for us.
Justin Walsall. I think you have a word for us.
First time back in quite a while. I didn't mean to do that, buddy, but when
Holy spirit does it, I have to abide. Okay. Well, it's, it's really great to be
back after quite a while away and, um, had some life situations with family
and I'm still here helping my dad, um, work through some healthy grieving and
stuff. Um, I think, uh, you know, um, there's, there's a lot of when we're on
our healing journey, um, and, and restoration and also growing in ways
that we didn't even know was possible, certain areas of our heart being touched
and awakened that we didn't know was there or that had been, uh, neglected or
abused or exploited or other things like that through past situations, either
things we opened the door to, or things that happen over control or a little bit
of both. Um, um, you know, as we're growing and as we're not just, you know,
going through, um, you know, the, the, the, the surgery of the master physician
on that altar or, um, going through rehab and, and, uh, therapy and then
growing for the past to a place of healing and then really building back up
and building further than, you know, um, I, I just want to encourage anyone who
may need it, that there's still sometimes going to be different, um, things that
we still have to process through again.
And sometimes it feels like a backstep or it feels like, Oh, wait a second,
you know, and that's normal, you know, God doesn't put us through everything
all at once, you know, the, the deeper, the womb or the deeper, the deficit or
the brokenness or the, whatever, you know, just like in the physical body,
there are some things that take multiple surgeries and sometimes those surgeries
may be spaced far apart from each other and span even years if necessary.
And, and then even that there's still follow-up, you know, so, um, so just
be encouraged that, you know, you could be feeling like you have to work
through something that you thought was dead and old and gone or whatever.
And there's just sometimes just, you know, the, the human heart and soul
is so layered and so deep and broad, far beyond just our physical being that,
you know, God knows when we're ready for things to continue to process up and out.
And, and, you know, the heart is a garden.
It's not a storage shed.
It's not a closet.
And so there are areas and depths of the soil of our heart that that's, that's
what we're responsible for is tending the soil of our heart, um, healthy
boundaries and filters, keep it protected, keep it fenced in, um, getting
in there, weeding, um, nourishing, watering, uh, fertilizing.
And when, when we just watch over the soul of our heart, God will give the
increase when we're planting the right seed in it, um, but.
The other thing is that there's going to be those areas of our
of our heart of our garden that are more prone to weeds are more
prone to not as good as soil as others that need more attention,
more daily attention. And that's completely normal. We all have
those areas that we're not either not as good at or not as
naturally bent towards or wired towards. And, and again, the
that garden is a much deeper than just some top soil. And so
God knows, when things have to be just mined out and dug out.
And, and over time, there may be a deep root that was still kind
of lingering when most of it was uprooted, or whatever, that just
has to be continually worked through. And so just, you know,
embrace the fact, for me, one of the things that was hardest for
me to do was, was to love process and love today and quit
looking only to end points that I was hoping for, and being
thankful and maximizing what I have right now, including just
the process of working through surrender and, and availability
and just falling in love with God all over again every
morning. And ideally, that's that's with a healthy companion
and spouse. That's how we keep our the garden of our marriage
fresh to as we fall in love all over again with each other every
morning brand new. And we we roll up our sleeves and say,
let's let's tend our garden again today together.
Well, on free.
Many of us are glad the Holy Spirit told me to call on
Justin. And that was risky for me to do. Because Justin's
right. I've not seen him present. I didn't know what
state of mind he was in. And it sounds like it's been a lot. But
he had a message and a word for all of us that I would believe
was anointed. So many of us who have been in this program
probably longer than a year, we have lost a spouse. I mean, we
have lost a parent, we have lost a child, we've lost a dog, we've
lost a job. And we've had to go back to the heart work. So so
many of us, you know, I've had to face some really hard stuff
or reface some really hard stuff. And the phrase that Jackie
always says hurt in relationship healed in
relationship. And so here's what's really cool. If we've
been hurt in community, this community is a place for us to
get healing. So that whole hurt in relationship healed in
relationship doesn't just have to happen with our spirit mate,
it can happen right here in this community, like we can all
receive healing in a way that was not possible for us in the
past. So that was such a beautiful word. And so good
that I'm just going to have us come to a close on that Cheryl.
Cheryl, would you be willing to? Cheryl, my my note taker,
Cheryl? Would you? Yes, thank you. I'm going to pronounce your
last name wrong. Guillaume. Did I say it right? Okay. Can you
close this out in prayer? That'd be great.
Sir.
My father, just thank you. Thank you for this community. Thank
you for our time together. And that, Lord God, we can just
continue to journey with one another towards a spirit mate.
Thank you that we can just be able to just love one another
and grow and just be and just more into the intimacy of you
with one another. But then to our God, we get to celebrate,
celebrate with one another. So thank you for tonight. And until
we meet again, Jesus name. Amen.
Amen. Thank you. Thank you.
Thank you.