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Okay, everybody, I'm so excited that you're all here,

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whether you are here live or watching this in playback,

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as I was just saying.

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Jackie's in Redding, California,

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helping her kid get started at Bethel School.

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And we were gonna do single spotlight tonight,

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but it will require her crossing over all the platforms

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and going live.

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I feel like it's he said, she said on steroids,

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like really matchmaking, really, really highlighting people.

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She's super excited for it.

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Unfortunately, it will not happen tonight,

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but we are gonna have fun anyway tonight.

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And it will be rescheduled.

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Her and I were looking at a couple different dates

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and because we're just trying to make sure

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all the players are gonna be available.

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She did not wanna nail down the exact date,

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but be on the lookout for us to announce

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what single spotlight is gonna look like.

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So there's gonna be times where it's,

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he said, she said,

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very similar to what we've done in the past.

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And other times it's gonna be single spotlight

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across all the platforms.

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And I believe even live on her Instagram page.

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So very, very exciting.

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And we're happy to have you all here.

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So tonight, because we're not spotlighting

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any one particular person,

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we're gonna try around Robin

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and I guess she trusts me enough to kind of do this.

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So I was trying to think of a way

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to ask some really fun questions

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for the community to get to know each other

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for the front half.

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And so I came up with like six questions.

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They're a little bit deeper than some of the ones

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that I've used for he said, she said.

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So hopefully you guys won't mind playing along.

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I'm not gonna put anybody on the spot.

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So what I'm gonna do is I'm gonna ask a question.

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If you think you wanna answer it,

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you're gonna raise your avatar hand

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and I'm gonna randomly call on people.

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I will say this.

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I'm gonna try to call on as many people as possible.

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So if you answer the first question,

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I probably am not gonna call on you again

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for the very next question,

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just to give everybody a chance.

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My preference will be to pick people

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who have their camera on.

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So if we're all trying to get to know each other

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in this community, I wanna see faces.

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And so if you were not camera ready

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and you're like, ah, you go get camera ready right now.

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Like, so put your camera down and go put some makeup on,

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brush your hair, put a cute pair of earrings on,

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do whatever it is that you need to do to feel like,

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and I'm gonna call on you.

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Cheryl, if Cheryl is not on right now,

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I know Cheryl will be getting on.

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And so she's also gonna collect questions from the audience.

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So if there's a burning question,

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so like I'm gonna ask a few questions,

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but if there's a burning question,

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you wanna pitch to the community

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and maybe it's just like,

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hey, you guys, what do you think about this?

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We're not giving advice tonight.

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So if someone's gonna give an answer,

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it's just their answer like we always do on he said,

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Okay, so is everybody ready to play group?

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He said, she said, awesome.

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I am.

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All right, I love it, Hunter.

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Okay, so we are going to, it's getting dark.

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I've got to turn a light on.

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So it's starting to get dark in my condo.

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Okay, so, all right.

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So my first question,

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and so again, think about the answer.

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If you think you want,

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and answers need to stay under 60 seconds.

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So I want them to be thoughtful,

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but I will cut you off if it starts to turn into a monologue.

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So I do have access to the mute button

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and I'm not afraid to use it.

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Okay, so the first question is,

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what is something that has been one of your biggest takeaways

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in this program?

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Whether it's actually doing the heart work,

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being a part of this community, even on the prayer calls,

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what is a takeaway of you're like, gosh,

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even if I just learned this one thing,

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it's all been worth it.

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So my dog really needs to go OUT,

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but we're gonna make sure that we can keep her busy

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for 59 more minutes.

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So the question is, what is a takeaway?

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Cause maybe your takeaway is different than somebody else's.

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They're like, well, I need to grab a hold of that.

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So is anyone willing to share a takeaway

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from this community or this program

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that has just really stood out for them

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and has just been such a beautiful thing?

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And you guys don't need to be deep, you know,

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it could be, hey, just by going to prayer classes,

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I've learned to pray out loud.

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Sherry, you raised your hand first,

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so you get to be in the hot.

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Let's see first, tell us what your biggest takeaway is.

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I think one of the biggest ones for me has been learning

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there's more than just red flags.

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When I learned that there were green flags

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and yellow flags, that has been so helpful

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and given me a much more positive attitude.

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I love it, I love that.

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That is such a good reminder, because you're right.

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I always just thought it was red.

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I mean, I always knew about red flags, right?

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And I was really good at ignoring red flags,

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but that's super good.

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All right, Patricia, you are up.

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For me, it's been having the phases identified

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and so that that phase two is just low stakes,

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just that putting that idea in my head

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and then going on the date and not having my 50 questions

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that I wanted to get answers to on the first date

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so I could not waste my time on a second date

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and instead show up and just have fun

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and be with this person and look at this person

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and see who this person is and like,

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not be thinking about, am I gonna marry this guy?

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You know, or do I wanna kiss this guy?

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You know, just let all that has gone out the window

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and I'm just going on dates and having fun

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and I'm really enjoying the process now,

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which I never have done in all the years

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I've been out on dates.

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So that's been huge.

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That is such a good reminder for those of you who,

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I don't know where you're at in this process

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and you're like, what phases is she's talking about?

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Remember, Jackie talks about phase one is just community,

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what we are right now.

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Phase two is low stake discovery dating

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and it's just getting to know somebody in the present.

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It's not unpacking and becoming their therapist of the past

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and it's not planning the weddings.

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Phase or level three is when you start to say,

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okay, we're gonna be in a committed relationship

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where it's just us two.

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Obviously at the beginning part of that, it's just us two

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and as you get closer along, further along,

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you find out more deep and intimate parts of yourself

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and that's when you start to consider engagement,

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covenant marriage, and then of course engagement

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and then marriage are the next phases.

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But Patricia, that's been huge for me

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and I was the queen interrogator.

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Like, man, I would get it.

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I mean, I'm now embarrassed about some of those dates.

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I know, I am too.

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I roll my eyes at how I used to be.

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No, I am very different.

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It's okay, that's why we're where we are.

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Jeannie, Jeannie, go ahead, Jeannie MacArthur.

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I got so many things, but I think besides

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just learning to relax and go with

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I think realizing that my desire,

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cause for a long time I've been praying

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that God would just take the desire away,

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but I know it's his intention for me

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to be in a covenant relationship

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and I am really embracing and like really believing it now.

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I mean, I knew that, but I wanted to just say,

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well, you know, it hasn't happened,

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so this must just not be God's will for me,

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you know, that kind of dismissal.

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just the support of everybody in that,

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that we're all in the same place

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and we're all here for a reason

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and God's gonna show up and do something amazing

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for all of us, I know it.

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So that's my-

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I love it, I love it, that's so good.

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Okay, so we just had three ladies share.

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Could we get a couple guys to share one thing

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that they have really had a strong takeaway with this?

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I know we've got some men, there may be less of you,

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so I may need to hear from you more.

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Jay, awesome, what's a big takeaway?

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Well, Renee, I think for me,

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it's been some fantastic fellowship and worship.

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Learning that there are so many incredible,

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God-fearing Proverbs 31 women and men as well, you know,

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and that, you know, sometimes you get lost in a community.

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I've been going to a smaller church,

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so it's hard for me to experience that

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in a personal level, in a community level.

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However, on the internet level,

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which is a community level of itself, you know,

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It's been a big revelation to me.

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And it's been uplifting, rewarding,

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emotionally, spiritually rewarding.

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And I think the other thing,

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and I've done it twice, is heart work.

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I made a reference to it in text.

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What I've come away with is,

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it's hard to explain in words,

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of all the boxes I've had to open,

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I've had to deal with, I've had to confront,

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and confess, and ask for forgiveness,

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and confronting others that I've needed to confront,

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and ask for apologies.

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And so it's been a giant revelation for me,

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holistically speaking.

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I love it, I love it, that's so good.

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All right, we're gonna take one more of this question.

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Hunter, you had your hand raised.

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Do you have one takeaway of something positive

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that you've gotten from this community or this program?

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Yes, so you see, I have a developmental disability,

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and I live independently in my own apartment.

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It's two bedroom, and I'm blessed.

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And that was from the programs in New York,

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and the state benefits for people with disabilities.

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Singles Nation has been good,

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because I've been struggling with social interactions,

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and I wasn't very bright with dating and relationships.

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I wasn't very bright like a lot of people.

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However, I refused to give up,

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because I wanted to work for the same opportunities

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like everyone, I don't want to hand out.

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I don't want some woman handed to me,

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I want to really lead.

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So I figured, you know what,

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I'm gonna come to this Singles Nation,

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because this is where I can get some hard work help.

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And who knows, maybe I'll meet someone or not.

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I'm just glad nobody's, I just hope,

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I'm just thankful there's no judgmental women,

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like on dating apps,

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who just identify them as Christian,

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but only use that term just to show I'm morally okay,

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rather than just have a heart change.

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That is so awesome, Hunter.

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Thank you so much.

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I love it.

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You know, plenty of us come into this community

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with our own disabilities,

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which may not look as obvious as yours,

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our own addictions, our own recovery.

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So you are not alone.

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We are all perfectly imperfect in this community.

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And I love that some of you are just plopping your answers

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into the chat box.

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So if you're not the person that wants to come off mute,

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or your camera is off because you're in between gigs,

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feel free to share your answer with the community.

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This is a community event tonight.

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So we're here to encourage and support

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and get to know one another.

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All right, you guys, those were so good.

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And so go ahead, Hunter,

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I'm moving on to the next question, sweetie.

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Okay, so my next question is,

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I know we are all looking forward

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to marrying our spirit mate.

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So besides that,

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what is something that you are looking forward to doing

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before the end of this year?

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So this program was switched from married in 12 months

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to last year single,

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because it was this idea about what do we wanna get done

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before we get married?

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Like we're gonna make the most of our singlehood.

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So what is something you are excited to finish

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before the end of this year,

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that's not marry your spirit mate?

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Susan, your hand is up.

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Hi, it's been so long since I've made a peep.

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Let me lower.

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I'm really excited to retire my business.

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I've been a private chef for this many years, a long time.

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And I've just really been working hard at some things.

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And I am excited to transition into my next gig

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as an alternative health concierge.

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So yeah, I'm super stoked about that.

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I love that.

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Susan, we still have to catch up, so.

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I know, I know.

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Hey girl, message me.

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I got you, girl.

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You look beautiful though.

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Your makeup is on point.

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Y'all, I just had a video date right beforehand.

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So, I look extra good.

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Okay, somebody else.

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What is something that they are trying to accomplish

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that they're excited about finishing

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before the rest of the year?

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I wanna get at least five or six answers to each question.

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So be brave, be bold.

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No, Hunter, we're taking turns.

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So don't hop on.

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And I'm trying to get different people to answer.

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So there's-

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Forgive me, I thought I was on mute.

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I was on mute.

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You're good, you're good.

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Stacey, awesome.

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You are up.

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So a couple of things I wanna finish

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before the end of the year.

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First of all, I am going to be training

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some small group leaders.

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years for a women's ministry nonprofit that I volunteer for.

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So I've got the notes together.

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I'm not sure when that date will be, and it'll probably be video

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style, but I've got the ideas.

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Um, the second thing is that I'm still looking for one more roommate.

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And so I'm praying and believing that that roommate is going to come a

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female roommate before I go to Wisconsin in October to see my family.

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The other thing is that, um, I have, uh, I am talking to someone right now.

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Well, yeah, we're we're yeah.

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Anyway.

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And, um, he's very much a leader and he's actually sparked my interest in having

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more of a vision for my career and my role where I work, and so I want to get

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that together as a presentation and allow the Holy spirit to give me the

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moment to be able to present that to the powers that be get it girl.

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I love it.

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So not only did Stacy bring up some things that she's already started,

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but she's putting some things out there into the universe that doesn't exist yet.

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And so that could be you too.

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I think that there's something, you know, Jackie always talks about activation.

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So that's one of my takeaways is that Jackie has spurred my desire to clear

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things more into the present, whether it's on my Jesus care board,

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don't declare them out loud.

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You start claiming things.

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And I think the phrase that Bethany always uses, Oh, I'm going to grab a hold of that.

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That's for me too.

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I'm grabbing a hold of that.

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I'd never heard that phrase before.

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So if you hear somebody saying something, you're like, yeah, I'm grabbing a hold of

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that too, feel free to do that.

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Um, somebody else.

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Um, I definitely want to hear from at least two new guys, something that you have

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every intention of getting done before the end of the year, just raise your avatar

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hand and I will call on you because we do, um, Michelle.

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Okay, go ahead, Michelle.

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Hello.

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Um, I've noticed that I've met a lot of singles, um, this year that aren't

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necessarily, um, they're like pre-believers.

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And so what I've kind of been feeling in my just exploring meeting new people is

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that I'm attracting a lot of different kinds of people.

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And I'm in my community.

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I feel like we're plugging them into things with like golfing together

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and doing different things together.

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And I think, I feel like God's leading me to start a small group.

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Um, and maybe like an alpha discipleship to bring in these pre-believers

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and see what the Lord might do.

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So I'm kind of feeling led to do that before the end of the year.

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Ah, I love that, Michelle.

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That is awesome.

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Yay.

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Thank you, Jesus.

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That's so good.

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All right.

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Couple guys, let's get some brave men.

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You are on here.

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I know you've got dreams that you're dreaming.

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So let's nail it down.

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I can see you men on my screen.

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So don't make me call on you.

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Someone be brave.

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Kenny's looking at me.

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She's like, yeah, you know, Renee will call on you.

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So who is a guy is on here.

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David, David, man, your center screen.

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I have to call on you.

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So you knew I was going to happen.

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You can just feel my eyes penetrating.

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So tell me what you're going to get done before the end of the year.

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I'm currently enrolled in a, in a one year kind of theology training

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school called school of kingdom.

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So it's, um, so that's something that I'm hoping to finish by November.

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So that's something that's been eyeopening life changing up

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and really enjoying that.

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So that's, uh, one of the more major things that I've been, um, involved

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with, um, as well as with a group called prophetic heart healing.

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So that's another thing.

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I have a commitment to serve in tech support that, um, that is going through

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the end of the year with that as well.

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So I'm enjoying both of those groups that I'm part of.

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That is awesome.

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That is awesome.

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I wonder if it's the one that shung up on my Facebook feed

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with prophetic heart healing.

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Probably.

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That's awesome.

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That's so that's super cool.

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I love that there are so many complimentary ministries out there.

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You guys, it's so important for us to not feel like there's a competition.

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Sometimes I can feel like the Lord is multiplying the ways

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that we can serve one another.

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So that's super cool.

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Okay.

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Al must have said something in the chat box because Julia just said it was a May.

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Oh, alpha is amazing.

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Oh, alpha the class.

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That's what you meant by alpha.

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Isn't it?

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I actually used to lead in the alpha class.

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It's so funny.

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I thought you just met like alpha male.

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Michelle, when you were talking about it, I didn't even realize you

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were talking about the alpha course.

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Alpha course is a great pre believer course to teach.

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I highly, highly recommend it.

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Okay.

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Um, I'm going to go on unless there's another guy that wants to jump in.

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I am gonna go on to the next question.

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Okay, Doki, all right.

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So this is a looking back question.

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Looking back, what is something that you didn't think

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that you could do ever?

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You're like, I'm never gonna be able to do that.

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But you finally did it and you loved it.

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Now it could be something as serious as go to college.

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It could be jumping out of a plane, parasailing.

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So it could be a fun thing.

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It could be a serious thing.

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It could be whatever you want.

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So looking back, what is something that you thought

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you would never be able to do and you finally did it

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and you felt great doing it?

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I'll go first.

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Like for me, I thought I'm scared to pieces to fly,

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although I do it almost every single month.

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And so the fact that I flew to Italy for the first time,

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I never thought I could be on a plane for 10 hours

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without jumping out of my skin and I did and I loved it.

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So that is something that I did.

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I didn't love the plane ride, but I loved getting to Italy.

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So it was totally worth it.

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So raise your hand and good night Tim, go ahead.

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I always wanted to play drums.

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So I just got the nerve to go and get them lessons.

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And this was years ago.

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And then I became a part of the worship band at my church

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and I played drums with them for almost three, four years.

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And it was good.

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I love that.

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I would have never pictured you in the drums.

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So I'm so glad you told us that, that is so cool.

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Okay, who else wants to share something that they've done?

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Okay, I see applause.

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Yes, yes, applause, applause, applause.

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Okay, you guys gotta get brave tonight

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cause like I'm not gonna do all the talking.

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Who else wants to share a little something

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they learned how to do?

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Patricia, I'll let you go again

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since we're not getting flooded with hands raising.

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I fulfilled a dream to sing a few years back.

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I left my corporate job to take a break

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and I had a little one woman show

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and I went around to the nursing and retirement homes

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and sang for an hour doing a little jazz standards,

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which they loved, you know, cause it was their era.

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So I did that for a couple of years and it was a blast

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and that fulfilled my dream to sing.

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So a lot of fun, I'm glad I did it.

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I love that, I love that.

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By the way, if me asking these questions

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is spurring on a great question,

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please put it in the chat box.

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Cheryl's gonna collect them all.

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And in about 20 minutes, I'm gonna switch over

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and pick your questions.

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So feel free to be thinking up good questions like this.

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Okay, Carol, go ahead.

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I know one, okay.

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Oh, there I am.

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Yes, no, I didn't do anything scuba diving or skydiving,

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but this year I saw a recipe in one of the books

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and it was to make English muffins now and I made them

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and it turned out so good.

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And it turned out so good that the second time

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I'll know how to do it better and more proper

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to make it taste even better.

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And they turned out really good.

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They're not exactly like the commercial brands,

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but I think I did a pretty good job

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and I just enjoyed it so much.

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It was just so much fun and I love working with the dough.

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Carol, thank you for sharing that.

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There's no accomplishment too little, too silly to share.

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So I love that.

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Cheryl, what do you wanna share with the group?

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You are muted.

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Hello?

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Yes, now we got you.

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Good evening.

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So this was a while ago.

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I lived in Oregon, the state of Oregon,

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and I was asked to be part of a triathlon, like a relay,

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and I was the swimmer of the team.

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So I had to like swim around the lake and yeah,

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it was good.

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It was a challenge, but it was really fun to do, so.

518
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I love that, Cheryl.

519
00:24:31.840 --> 00:24:33.000
Thank you.

520
00:24:33.000 --> 00:24:34.840
Okay, we're gonna get two guys.

521
00:24:34.840 --> 00:24:36.360
Hunter, I'll let you go

522
00:24:36.360 --> 00:24:38.100
because I'm not seeing a lot of guys raise your hand,

523
00:24:38.100 --> 00:24:39.080
but be super quick.

524
00:24:39.080 --> 00:24:39.920
So go ahead.

525
00:24:41.480 --> 00:24:44.320
You have to, you're muted though, sweetie.

526
00:24:44.320 --> 00:24:45.400
Oh, I'm sorry.

527
00:24:45.400 --> 00:24:47.480
I just turned 35 Tuesday.

528
00:24:47.480 --> 00:24:50.400
And so you all don't know that I try to get on Singles Nation

529
00:24:50.400 --> 00:24:52.920
and I try to make my life as fruitful and productive

530
00:24:52.920 --> 00:24:55.200
and embrace any opportunity I can.

531
00:24:55.200 --> 00:24:58.000
And one of those is this last spring in March,

532
00:24:58.000 --> 00:24:59.320
I went to Israel,

533
00:24:59.320 --> 00:25:00.160
Pop Scott's first.

534
00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:03.600
first time abroad, first time farthest from home I've ever been.

535
00:25:03.600 --> 00:25:05.480
I saved up a lot of money.

536
00:25:05.480 --> 00:25:09.400
Even when COVID sent me back, I managed to, I didn't let it get off my mind.

537
00:25:09.400 --> 00:25:14.080
I was determined to get over there with the church group who was doing a 10-day tour of

538
00:25:14.080 --> 00:25:16.120
the Holy Land.

539
00:25:16.120 --> 00:25:17.880
That is awesome, Hunter.

540
00:25:17.880 --> 00:25:18.880
Congratulations.

541
00:25:18.880 --> 00:25:19.880
It is a lot of money.

542
00:25:19.880 --> 00:25:21.520
I've been to Israel.

543
00:25:21.520 --> 00:25:22.920
It is a lot of money to get there.

544
00:25:22.920 --> 00:25:24.400
It's oh so worth it.

545
00:25:24.400 --> 00:25:28.320
You guys, I'm loving seeing some of the answers in the chat box too.

546
00:25:28.320 --> 00:25:31.520
All right there, get it.

547
00:25:31.520 --> 00:25:35.760
If you are not watching this live, you're missing on some really cool answers in the

548
00:25:35.760 --> 00:25:39.160
chat box of things that folks are not saying out loud.

549
00:25:39.160 --> 00:25:42.760
We've got some really incredible, talented people.

550
00:25:42.760 --> 00:25:43.760
Tracy.

551
00:25:43.760 --> 00:25:46.280
I'll do that too.

552
00:25:46.280 --> 00:25:47.280
Okay.

553
00:25:47.280 --> 00:25:53.400
Well, this was actually last year, but it's going over into this year.

554
00:25:53.400 --> 00:25:58.400
I took classes on voiceover.

555
00:25:58.400 --> 00:26:06.800
Voiceover is like when you would go through the bus station, you'll hear your bus on track

556
00:26:06.800 --> 00:26:08.800
five.

557
00:26:08.800 --> 00:26:16.280
That's the type of voiceover type stuff that, excuse me, that I was taking classes for.

558
00:26:16.280 --> 00:26:23.160
I haven't found a job yet for it, but I have been doing ... I've got my studio

559
00:26:23.920 --> 00:26:32.760
set up in my closet, and I've been doing little ... It's called ... I'm in Illinois, and it's

560
00:26:32.760 --> 00:26:36.600
called Illinois Radio Reader for the Blind.

561
00:26:36.600 --> 00:26:42.240
I've been doing reading ads every week for the blind over the radio.

562
00:26:42.240 --> 00:26:49.080
If you have a radio, you can listen to me speaking the ads on Wednesday.

563
00:26:49.080 --> 00:26:51.320
Tracy, I'm not surprised.

564
00:26:51.320 --> 00:26:52.560
You've got a really good voice.

565
00:26:52.960 --> 00:26:55.120
I could just tell you've got that radio for you.

566
00:26:55.120 --> 00:26:56.120
Thank you.

567
00:26:56.120 --> 00:26:57.120
Thank you.

568
00:26:57.120 --> 00:26:58.120
I do not.

569
00:26:58.120 --> 00:27:01.000
When I listen to my voice, I'm like, ugh, I'm so much better in person.

570
00:27:01.000 --> 00:27:02.000
All right.

571
00:27:02.000 --> 00:27:03.000
You guys, those were great.

572
00:27:03.000 --> 00:27:04.000
Okay.

573
00:27:04.000 --> 00:27:10.960
Here's a fun one, and this is kind of a dating question since, of course, we would like to

574
00:27:10.960 --> 00:27:13.160
go out on some dates.

575
00:27:13.160 --> 00:27:18.280
I don't know if you guys have seen that movie Miss Congeniality, and they ask her, what's

576
00:27:18.280 --> 00:27:20.160
an ideal date for you?

577
00:27:20.160 --> 00:27:26.200
She says April 23rd or 28th because it's not too hot and it's not too warm.

578
00:27:26.200 --> 00:27:33.480
What the question really is, what's a cool date idea that you would like to go on?

579
00:27:33.480 --> 00:27:38.760
Raise your hand, especially if you've not gone yet, raise your hand and tell us what

580
00:27:38.760 --> 00:27:45.360
would be a fun date that you would like to plan or go on, something that would be fun

581
00:27:45.360 --> 00:27:46.360
for you.

582
00:27:46.360 --> 00:27:48.600
Shanna, did you want to share?

583
00:27:48.600 --> 00:27:49.600
You thumbs up.

584
00:27:49.600 --> 00:27:50.600
All right.

585
00:27:50.600 --> 00:27:51.600
You go for it.

586
00:27:51.600 --> 00:27:54.840
Give us your answer.

587
00:27:54.840 --> 00:27:55.840
Can you all hear me?

588
00:27:55.840 --> 00:27:56.840
I can.

589
00:27:56.840 --> 00:27:57.840
Sorry.

590
00:27:57.840 --> 00:27:58.840
I'm on my phone.

591
00:27:58.840 --> 00:28:01.840
I think that go-karting would be fun.

592
00:28:01.840 --> 00:28:02.840
Oh, I love that.

593
00:28:02.840 --> 00:28:03.840
Tell us more about...

594
00:28:03.840 --> 00:28:04.840
I'm sorry.

595
00:28:04.840 --> 00:28:05.840
I'm grabbing something.

596
00:28:05.840 --> 00:28:06.840
Tell us more about that.

597
00:28:06.840 --> 00:28:17.640
Is there like an adult version of go-karting?

598
00:28:17.680 --> 00:28:26.640
Where I live, there's a place called Andretti go-karting, so I think that would be fun.

599
00:28:26.640 --> 00:28:34.120
Something interactive and fun like Topgolf or go-karting or something a little competitive.

600
00:28:34.120 --> 00:28:35.120
Yep.

601
00:28:35.120 --> 00:28:36.120
I love it.

602
00:28:36.120 --> 00:28:37.120
Okay.

603
00:28:37.120 --> 00:28:38.120
So you guys, these are some good day ideas.

604
00:28:38.120 --> 00:28:45.200
Who else has a good day idea that doesn't include coffee or food, just dinner out?

605
00:28:45.200 --> 00:28:49.520
What else would you guys like to do on a date?

606
00:28:49.520 --> 00:28:53.280
Around here, the big thing around here now is ax throwing.

607
00:28:53.280 --> 00:28:56.480
So I'm totally game for an ax throwing trip.

608
00:28:56.480 --> 00:28:58.560
I would be terrible at it.

609
00:28:58.560 --> 00:29:00.080
Jay, go ahead.

610
00:29:00.080 --> 00:29:05.080
I used to do a lot of horseback riding as well.

611
00:29:05.080 --> 00:29:10.200
And I think I got pretty accomplished at it too, English and Western.

612
00:29:10.200 --> 00:29:13.120
So I'd love to take somebody out horseback riding.

613
00:29:13.120 --> 00:29:16.560
And at the end of it, have a small picnic.

614
00:29:16.560 --> 00:29:17.560
I love it.

615
00:29:17.560 --> 00:29:18.560
I love it.

616
00:29:18.560 --> 00:29:22.640
I want to try to give as many people as possible a chance to go who have not gone yet.

617
00:29:22.640 --> 00:29:23.640
Caroline.

618
00:29:23.640 --> 00:29:26.240
For me, it's anything outdoors.

619
00:29:26.240 --> 00:29:30.640
I like to take people on fun hikes or on the paddle board.

620
00:29:30.640 --> 00:29:32.000
All right.

621
00:29:32.000 --> 00:29:33.640
I love to paddle board.

622
00:29:33.640 --> 00:29:34.640
I love to paddle board.

623
00:29:34.640 --> 00:29:35.640
That's awesome.

624
00:29:35.640 --> 00:29:36.640
Woo-hoo.

625
00:29:36.640 --> 00:29:37.640
Miriam.

626
00:29:37.640 --> 00:29:45.840
For me, it's something really simple.

627
00:29:45.840 --> 00:29:51.880
Just walking on the beach, especially when it's nice and warm, and then eating ice cream.

628
00:29:51.880 --> 00:29:52.880
Awesome.

629
00:29:52.880 --> 00:29:53.880
Okay.

630
00:29:53.880 --> 00:29:57.920
Do you live near the beach that you can use that as a nap?

631
00:29:57.920 --> 00:29:58.920
Lakes.

632
00:29:58.920 --> 00:29:59.920
Okay.

633
00:29:59.920 --> 00:29:59.920


634
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:08.480
beautiful lakes yes but it's already fall so it's a little cold are you like in michigan

635
00:30:08.480 --> 00:30:14.560
like near the great lakes no i'm in edmonton alberta okay okay yeah so they have big lakes

636
00:30:14.560 --> 00:30:20.240
too i forget there are actually lakes that you can walk around we're a few hours from

637
00:30:20.240 --> 00:30:29.680
bamf and jasper so oh i love it joan or is it joanne oh it's joanne oh i'm sorry

638
00:30:30.080 --> 00:30:36.880
cool that's okay um i think it'd be great to go scuba diving all right girlfriend all right

639
00:30:37.440 --> 00:30:41.040
we actually did that one time the divers take joanne on a date

640
00:30:43.680 --> 00:30:47.280
monterey you get to go down and then you have lots to talk about afterwards

641
00:30:47.280 --> 00:30:52.960
i love it i think it's great i love it that's awesome al how about you good day ideas

642
00:30:54.080 --> 00:30:57.920
uh for me i've been to a place like uh david buster i don't know if you guys have those in

643
00:30:57.920 --> 00:31:03.280
the u.s uh stuff to do with a lot of activities have fun there's food everything's there it's

644
00:31:03.280 --> 00:31:08.000
kind of fun you know it's something interactive and and if the weather isn't bad it's indoors

645
00:31:08.000 --> 00:31:14.000
right so i always like stuff like that that's a great idea there is one of those in nashville

646
00:31:14.000 --> 00:31:19.600
and i always forget like those places that you think that are just for kids are sometimes a great

647
00:31:19.600 --> 00:31:25.200
place as an adult to go because it brings out the kid in you it's competitive but not serious

648
00:31:25.200 --> 00:31:30.640
competitive james how about you what would you like to share as a good day idea

649
00:31:33.440 --> 00:31:38.560
i think uh i would like to go hiking uh through like mountain hiking

650
00:31:39.840 --> 00:31:47.680
picnic it gives you an opportunity to you know a lot of communication um and have a nice video

651
00:31:47.680 --> 00:31:54.160
and up top you could have a picnic oh love it love it you guys i'm doing a picnic we're going

652
00:31:54.160 --> 00:32:00.800
to do waterfall walking on saturday followed by a picnic so i'm i'm channeling everyone's ideas

653
00:32:00.800 --> 00:32:06.880
this is awesome okay any other date ideas that you want to share and maybe it's one that you've

654
00:32:06.880 --> 00:32:12.640
been on you're like gosh that was so memorable it was such a great cool date um and i would

655
00:32:12.640 --> 00:32:19.440
love to do that again with somebody i went zip lining on a first date with a guy um that was

656
00:32:19.440 --> 00:32:26.640
super cool i lost my baseball hat in the ravine but um i kind of accomplished that fear oh good

657
00:32:26.640 --> 00:32:34.880
cheryl date idea so actually one of my the ones i one of them that i remember was we did a

658
00:32:34.880 --> 00:32:39.680
progressive dinner so we started at one restaurant on this one area and we walked and had different

659
00:32:39.680 --> 00:32:45.600
courses at different restaurants so that was a lot of fun oh that's a great idea like i've done

660
00:32:45.600 --> 00:32:49.920
progressive parties with some folks but i've never thought of doing that on a date that's

661
00:32:49.920 --> 00:33:01.040
awesome patricia did you have a good date idea um i played nine holes of golf okay girlfriend

662
00:33:01.040 --> 00:33:07.920
that was just the right amount of time you get to know them you have a good time you get outside

663
00:33:07.920 --> 00:33:14.240
you're active talking about 18 would be just too many if it's not a good date exactly yeah

664
00:33:16.800 --> 00:33:22.240
i love it i i was just talking about that with this guy and i'm like man i can do nine holes

665
00:33:22.240 --> 00:33:28.560
but i'm ready for a nap for 18 holes it's just too much for me that's in phase three

666
00:33:29.360 --> 00:33:38.560
and get for sure for sure elizabeth and then nightin um going to a gun range and shooting

667
00:33:38.560 --> 00:33:44.640
was on my bucket list and so a guy um who was in the military took or took me on a first date to

668
00:33:44.640 --> 00:33:51.440
the gun range and taught me how to shoot so much fun oh i like that and you know tennessee man

669
00:33:51.440 --> 00:33:57.520
we're all about the right to bear arms in this state so people would be all over that here that's

670
00:33:57.520 --> 00:34:05.600
awesome um nightin day idea i'm going like a friday night like a dance to a dance studio

671
00:34:05.600 --> 00:34:12.800
like just relax yeah you have some lessons and then they have a dance sessions afterwards so

672
00:34:12.800 --> 00:34:18.560
that's just like a fun thing to do and i love dancing so it's always good to have a good dance

673
00:34:18.560 --> 00:34:24.560
partner and it's fun it's just key low key you hang out you can have a good conversation and

674
00:34:24.560 --> 00:34:33.360
chill i love it i love it the laser tag somebody said that niagara falls shooting a couple games

675
00:34:33.360 --> 00:34:39.920
of pool putt putt golf is always fun for sure if there's an area to do it mountain biking

676
00:34:40.960 --> 00:34:46.400
um these are some really pickleball you guys i really wanted pickleball is really big here i'm

677
00:34:46.400 --> 00:34:52.080
sure it's big everywhere um what happened to just ping pong i just want to know it's like a ping

678
00:34:52.080 --> 00:34:57.840
pong paddle but you gotta run walking tour of historic homes that's a really cool idea i'm

679
00:34:57.840 --> 00:34:59.920
reading some of these out loud because if people

680
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:01.560
for watching this and playback.

681
00:35:01.560 --> 00:35:03.660
They're missing some really cool ideas.

682
00:35:03.660 --> 00:35:08.240
Kayaking, surfing, biking, hiking, walking on the beach.

683
00:35:08.240 --> 00:35:10.240
Yeah, watching a concert at the lake

684
00:35:10.240 --> 00:35:12.100
and then taking a walk afterwards.

685
00:35:12.100 --> 00:35:13.700
I would say like a live, like, you know,

686
00:35:13.700 --> 00:35:14.940
in the summertime or in the fall,

687
00:35:14.940 --> 00:35:17.140
they always have some good like fall festivals

688
00:35:17.140 --> 00:35:19.300
and local places that play music.

689
00:35:19.300 --> 00:35:21.460
That's always a great idea.

690
00:35:21.460 --> 00:35:24.100
Bowling is great, even if you stink at it.

691
00:35:24.100 --> 00:35:26.140
A trip to the zoo, I love that idea.

692
00:35:26.140 --> 00:35:28.460
A trip to the zoo is a really cool idea.

693
00:35:28.960 --> 00:35:32.200
Let's see, yeah, I think the golfing,

694
00:35:32.200 --> 00:35:34.360
I mean, the shooting range is really kind of cool.

695
00:35:34.360 --> 00:35:36.000
You guys are like archery.

696
00:35:36.000 --> 00:35:39.160
Wouldn't that be cool to go do archery again?

697
00:35:39.160 --> 00:35:43.000
It's like, it's kind of like very Hunger Games-esque.

698
00:35:43.000 --> 00:35:45.720
All right, any other dating ideas?

699
00:35:45.720 --> 00:35:48.160
Paul, do you have your hand up for a dating idea?

700
00:35:50.160 --> 00:35:51.000
I do.

701
00:35:51.000 --> 00:35:53.000
I just thought of, I've wanted to do this

702
00:35:53.000 --> 00:35:55.860
before the like cooking together

703
00:35:55.860 --> 00:35:58.000
and they have like classes you cook together

704
00:35:58.540 --> 00:36:01.860
and then you eat and I think they have some around here,

705
00:36:01.860 --> 00:36:05.600
like hit box, I wanna say, but something like that.

706
00:36:05.600 --> 00:36:06.440
It sounds cool.

707
00:36:06.440 --> 00:36:07.260
I love it.

708
00:36:07.260 --> 00:36:09.000
I love it, yes, cooking together,

709
00:36:09.000 --> 00:36:10.360
like taking a cooking class.

710
00:36:10.360 --> 00:36:12.040
That's awesome, great idea.

711
00:36:12.040 --> 00:36:14.500
Miriam and James, are your hands up from before

712
00:36:14.500 --> 00:36:16.260
or do you guys have a new idea?

713
00:36:21.060 --> 00:36:24.640
Sorry, that was just, it was just hands from before.

714
00:36:24.640 --> 00:36:25.640
No, no, no, you're good.

715
00:36:25.640 --> 00:36:29.380
Okay, I'm gonna go to my last question.

716
00:36:29.380 --> 00:36:32.700
So it's at the 36 hour.

717
00:36:32.700 --> 00:36:35.900
So I wanna see how creative you guys can be with questions.

718
00:36:35.900 --> 00:36:38.300
So feel free to put questions in the chat box.

719
00:36:38.300 --> 00:36:40.280
Cheryl's gonna get them to me.

720
00:36:40.280 --> 00:36:42.380
So this is it, this is your time.

721
00:36:42.380 --> 00:36:47.380
Okay, something that you want to try

722
00:36:47.400 --> 00:36:50.040
with your spirit mate one day.

723
00:36:50.040 --> 00:36:54.440
It could be learn how to do a dance together,

724
00:36:54.480 --> 00:36:58.080
jump off a cliff together, learn a new language,

725
00:36:58.080 --> 00:37:00.240
visit a certain country,

726
00:37:00.240 --> 00:37:03.980
but just something that you would like to learn how to do

727
00:37:03.980 --> 00:37:07.040
or try to do with your spirit mate one day.

728
00:37:07.040 --> 00:37:10.600
Now it's possible you're already great at it.

729
00:37:10.600 --> 00:37:12.880
And so you might want your partner

730
00:37:12.880 --> 00:37:16.100
to at least try it once with you.

731
00:37:17.400 --> 00:37:20.780
So who would like to do something like something like,

732
00:37:20.780 --> 00:37:23.800
gosh, I really wanna share this.

733
00:37:23.940 --> 00:37:26.160
So maybe you are the scuba diver and you're like,

734
00:37:26.160 --> 00:37:29.400
I wanna share this gift with somebody else.

735
00:37:29.400 --> 00:37:33.400
Or I'm a pilot and I wanna take them on a solo ride

736
00:37:33.400 --> 00:37:36.100
or I wanna go hang gliding with somebody.

737
00:37:36.100 --> 00:37:38.740
Like I know for me, I've talked for 30 years

738
00:37:38.740 --> 00:37:40.940
about jumping out of a plane

739
00:37:40.940 --> 00:37:44.340
and I'm pretty sure I will chicken out of it.

740
00:37:44.340 --> 00:37:45.760
So it's probably gonna have to take

741
00:37:45.760 --> 00:37:48.100
my strong spirit mate boyfriend

742
00:37:48.100 --> 00:37:50.200
to drag me up onto that plane

743
00:37:50.200 --> 00:37:52.740
and push me out with the instructor

744
00:37:52.740 --> 00:37:55.140
that I'm going tandem with.

745
00:37:55.140 --> 00:37:56.800
Because that's probably what it's gonna take.

746
00:37:56.800 --> 00:38:00.380
So is there anybody that wants to do something really special

747
00:38:00.380 --> 00:38:03.980
or really cool with their spirit mate one day?

748
00:38:03.980 --> 00:38:06.580
And again, it could be a simple thing.

749
00:38:06.580 --> 00:38:08.640
It could be plant a garden.

750
00:38:08.640 --> 00:38:11.700
It could be learn how to make homemade wine.

751
00:38:13.200 --> 00:38:14.040
Nadine.

752
00:38:17.200 --> 00:38:18.640
Doing air balloons.

753
00:38:19.640 --> 00:38:23.540
Ooh, like an air balloon ride?

754
00:38:23.540 --> 00:38:24.740
Yes.

755
00:38:24.740 --> 00:38:25.580
Oh, I love that.

756
00:38:25.580 --> 00:38:27.700
A hot air balloon, all right.

757
00:38:27.700 --> 00:38:31.300
Maybe he'll actually know how to do it for you.

758
00:38:31.300 --> 00:38:34.540
Who else is like, I really wanna learn how to do this

759
00:38:34.540 --> 00:38:36.700
or I wanna share this with somebody.

760
00:38:36.700 --> 00:38:38.380
Jay, is your hand up to go?

761
00:38:39.840 --> 00:38:40.900
Yes, it is.

762
00:38:40.900 --> 00:38:41.740
Okay.

763
00:38:41.740 --> 00:38:42.980
I'm a very active individual

764
00:38:42.980 --> 00:38:44.480
as you probably have known by now,

765
00:38:44.480 --> 00:38:46.240
by some of my colleagues.

766
00:38:46.240 --> 00:38:47.180
I'd love to go back.

767
00:38:47.840 --> 00:38:51.020
I used to canoeing when I was younger, long canoe trips.

768
00:38:51.020 --> 00:38:53.420
I'd love to do that with a spirit mate.

769
00:38:53.420 --> 00:38:55.440
Ooh, that's a great idea.

770
00:38:55.440 --> 00:38:58.680
Go on to some sort of as a group

771
00:38:58.680 --> 00:39:01.780
with an experienced canoeer.

772
00:39:01.780 --> 00:39:03.320
So I think that would be a great thing to do

773
00:39:03.320 --> 00:39:05.580
and do a little bit of camping for a few nights.

774
00:39:05.580 --> 00:39:07.520
So that's my idea.

775
00:39:07.520 --> 00:39:08.340
I love it.

776
00:39:08.340 --> 00:39:09.180
That's a great idea.

777
00:39:09.180 --> 00:39:11.480
Hunter, do you have something you wanna do

778
00:39:11.480 --> 00:39:14.320
with your spirit mate in the future?

779
00:39:14.320 --> 00:39:15.340
Yes, I would.

780
00:39:15.380 --> 00:39:18.280
I would like her to visit Ohio

781
00:39:18.280 --> 00:39:20.200
and see, because I was born and raised in Ohio,

782
00:39:20.200 --> 00:39:22.300
but I lived in upstate New York for 10 years.

783
00:39:22.300 --> 00:39:23.680
She'd come with me to New York

784
00:39:23.680 --> 00:39:26.540
and then see family, extended family,

785
00:39:26.540 --> 00:39:29.900
spend time, enjoy every birthday, celebrate the holidays,

786
00:39:29.900 --> 00:39:33.240
and then go to Cedar Point near Toledo,

787
00:39:33.240 --> 00:39:35.180
watch Cedar Point and Lake Erie.

788
00:39:35.180 --> 00:39:36.180
That'd be a good one.

789
00:39:36.180 --> 00:39:37.000
Hopefully she'll...

790
00:39:37.000 --> 00:39:38.340
I used to hate upside downs,

791
00:39:38.340 --> 00:39:40.600
but then the last time I went on an upside down run

792
00:39:40.600 --> 00:39:42.680
at Road Coast, I had a change of heart.

793
00:39:43.540 --> 00:39:46.720
And now I love to go on upside down roller coasters.

794
00:39:46.720 --> 00:39:48.520
And hope, yeah, go to the amusement park

795
00:39:48.520 --> 00:39:51.480
and then go to Columbus, see my old friends.

796
00:39:51.480 --> 00:39:52.320
Love it.

797
00:39:52.320 --> 00:39:53.820
Those are all great ideas, Hunter.

798
00:39:53.820 --> 00:39:55.080
That is so precious.

799
00:39:55.080 --> 00:39:55.920
I love it.

800
00:39:55.920 --> 00:39:57.080
Jonathan, your hand is up.

801
00:39:57.080 --> 00:39:58.720
Glad you are here tonight.

802
00:39:58.720 --> 00:40:00.020
What you gonna do?

803
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:01.000
All right.

804
00:40:01.000 --> 00:40:06.660
I always thought it would be cool to study a language with my wife for a few years and

805
00:40:06.660 --> 00:40:12.500
then travel to their country and spend like a month there, a good little getaway and just

806
00:40:12.500 --> 00:40:14.160
speak their language.

807
00:40:14.160 --> 00:40:18.160
Plus over a lifetime, I might be able to learn how to say I love you in multiple different

808
00:40:18.160 --> 00:40:19.160
languages.

809
00:40:19.160 --> 00:40:20.160
So.

810
00:40:20.160 --> 00:40:21.160
I love that.

811
00:40:21.160 --> 00:40:22.720
That's such a cool idea.

812
00:40:22.720 --> 00:40:23.720
I love it.

813
00:40:23.720 --> 00:40:25.600
Keddie, what would you like to do?

814
00:40:25.600 --> 00:40:29.520
Jonathan just kind of took the story.

815
00:40:29.520 --> 00:40:31.400
I would like to.

816
00:40:31.400 --> 00:40:37.440
I want to go back to because I was born and partly raised in London.

817
00:40:37.440 --> 00:40:43.920
And I want to go back with my spirit mate just to go and just to go over my hometown

818
00:40:43.920 --> 00:40:50.480
and because I haven't been back there for a while or many years since I've left.

819
00:40:50.480 --> 00:40:52.600
And I would like just to go experience.

820
00:40:52.600 --> 00:40:54.000
I would be like a tourist also.

821
00:40:54.000 --> 00:40:56.920
So we can both tour this place together.

822
00:40:56.920 --> 00:40:58.040
Okay.

823
00:40:58.040 --> 00:41:02.760
How many of us would go if Keddie is not with her spirit mate in the next 12 months?

824
00:41:02.760 --> 00:41:06.560
How many of us would go with her to London?

825
00:41:06.560 --> 00:41:07.880
I know I would go.

826
00:41:07.880 --> 00:41:11.120
I know I could get a direct flight from where I am.

827
00:41:11.120 --> 00:41:12.120
Okay.

828
00:41:12.120 --> 00:41:13.120
Keddie, just see this.

829
00:41:13.120 --> 00:41:19.040
And so if you want to get back to London, it could be with maybe all of us can take

830
00:41:19.040 --> 00:41:24.680
a London trip with our spirit mate and Keddie could be our tour guide.

831
00:41:24.680 --> 00:41:25.680
Love it.

832
00:41:25.680 --> 00:41:26.680
Love it.

833
00:41:26.680 --> 00:41:27.680
Okay.

834
00:41:27.680 --> 00:41:33.520
We're going to all lower our hands so that I can see the next person that's got an idea

835
00:41:33.520 --> 00:41:38.120
of something they want to enjoy or do with their spirit mate.

836
00:41:38.120 --> 00:41:42.200
Anybody else want to share like, Hey, I really want to learn how to do this.

837
00:41:42.200 --> 00:41:47.240
I want to share this experience with my spirit mate.

838
00:41:47.240 --> 00:41:49.360
Hmm.

839
00:41:49.360 --> 00:41:53.280
Susan.

840
00:41:53.280 --> 00:42:00.720
So I would love to do one of these traveling stages through Italy where you work on local

841
00:42:00.720 --> 00:42:02.880
farms.

842
00:42:02.880 --> 00:42:09.160
You reap the produce, you make wine, you do local cooking classes, you sleep there, you

843
00:42:09.160 --> 00:42:16.000
kind of like a kibbutz type thing, but in Italy, it's actually a thing.

844
00:42:16.000 --> 00:42:21.240
And then I'd also love to go to Reykjavik, which is on my bucket list and like kind of

845
00:42:21.240 --> 00:42:22.600
do some volcanic cooking.

846
00:42:22.600 --> 00:42:30.120
A lot of things revolve around cooking, I suppose, but it just sounds super fun.

847
00:42:30.120 --> 00:42:31.440
That sounds awesome, girl.

848
00:42:31.440 --> 00:42:32.520
I love you guys.

849
00:42:32.520 --> 00:42:38.560
And again, because folks can't see this in the replay, I'm night in the safari in Africa.

850
00:42:38.560 --> 00:42:41.960
I, Oh, I totally want to do a safari, an African safari.

851
00:42:41.960 --> 00:42:48.280
Like I want to go on an Alaskan cruise and I want to go on an African safari mission

852
00:42:48.280 --> 00:42:49.280
trip.

853
00:42:49.280 --> 00:42:54.560
Somebody suggested travel to Italy and Greece, cliff dive into the ocean together.

854
00:42:54.560 --> 00:42:55.560
Sandra.

855
00:42:55.560 --> 00:42:56.560
Okay.

856
00:42:56.560 --> 00:42:58.320
Girlfriend cliff diving.

857
00:42:58.320 --> 00:43:00.560
Oh my goodness.

858
00:43:00.560 --> 00:43:06.000
Cliff diving mission trips, go to Italy, Greece, and Spain ballroom or a line dancing.

859
00:43:06.000 --> 00:43:07.000
I love it.

860
00:43:07.000 --> 00:43:09.520
Go to Israel and float on the dead sea.

861
00:43:09.520 --> 00:43:12.280
Those are awesome ballroom dances.

862
00:43:12.280 --> 00:43:13.280
Okay.

863
00:43:13.280 --> 00:43:16.080
I'm loving seeing these.

864
00:43:16.080 --> 00:43:18.880
Okay, Mary.

865
00:43:18.880 --> 00:43:22.800
You've got to explain this Bachata Kazombi dancing.

866
00:43:22.800 --> 00:43:23.800
All right.

867
00:43:23.800 --> 00:43:24.800
I'm making you get out.

868
00:43:24.800 --> 00:43:26.580
I'm making you share about this.

869
00:43:26.580 --> 00:43:28.160
What the heck kind of dancing is that?

870
00:43:28.160 --> 00:43:29.160
Okay.

871
00:43:29.160 --> 00:43:36.360
So Bachata is, um, it's just a form of Latin dance that's, uh, that it can be a, um, it's

872
00:43:36.360 --> 00:43:37.360
like a four count.

873
00:43:37.360 --> 00:43:38.800
I don't know how to explain it.

874
00:43:38.800 --> 00:43:44.680
It's also like an eight count and then Bachata is more of like a four count, it's way simpler

875
00:43:44.680 --> 00:43:45.680
than salsa.

876
00:43:45.680 --> 00:43:48.040
And then Kazomba is extremely close.

877
00:43:48.040 --> 00:43:50.600
Like your bodies are almost pressed completely together.

878
00:43:50.600 --> 00:43:53.120
So that's definitely something that I would want to do.

879
00:43:53.120 --> 00:43:54.120
Yeah, exactly.

880
00:43:54.120 --> 00:43:55.120
Yeah.

881
00:43:55.120 --> 00:43:58.520
So there's sensual Bachata and there's certain kinds of dancing.

882
00:43:58.520 --> 00:44:03.320
I probably wouldn't want to be doing with somebody that I wasn't married to.

883
00:44:03.320 --> 00:44:04.320
I love it.

884
00:44:04.320 --> 00:44:06.600
So that's what that's to answer your question.

885
00:44:06.600 --> 00:44:07.920
A little dirty dancing.

886
00:44:07.920 --> 00:44:09.680
I'm all, I'm all for it.

887
00:44:09.680 --> 00:44:13.040
If it's your spirit mate, amen, amen, amen.

888
00:44:13.040 --> 00:44:16.280
Nitin, did you want to share your answer out loud?

889
00:44:16.280 --> 00:44:17.520
Yes.

890
00:44:17.520 --> 00:44:23.720
Go to Norway for a couple of weeks and, uh, I think, uh, almost close to the Arctic circle.

891
00:44:23.720 --> 00:44:29.440
They have this huge, um, not like a small, um, glass shaped houses.

892
00:44:29.440 --> 00:44:32.600
You can stay and you can watch the Northern lights.

893
00:44:32.600 --> 00:44:34.520
That's a, that's the coolest experience.

894
00:44:34.520 --> 00:44:35.520
That's fun.

895
00:44:35.520 --> 00:44:37.960
That, that, that's what I would like to do.

896
00:44:37.960 --> 00:44:38.960
I love that.

897
00:44:38.960 --> 00:44:39.960
Okay.

898
00:44:39.960 --> 00:44:41.480
So I have a friend that went on the mission trip.

899
00:44:41.480 --> 00:44:46.720
Well, one of the women on the mission trip, her, her and her husband are retiring to Michigan

900
00:44:46.720 --> 00:44:51.200
and he just sent photos from Northern Michigan where they were seeing the Northern lights

901
00:44:51.200 --> 00:44:52.200
this week.

902
00:44:52.600 --> 00:44:58.120
It is unusual, but evidently it can happen in Northern Michigan.

903
00:44:58.120 --> 00:45:00.000
So I think.

904
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:04.000
at the Grand Canyon, all the seven wonders of the world.

905
00:45:04.000 --> 00:45:05.480
Very cool.

906
00:45:05.480 --> 00:45:07.120
River cruise in Europe.

907
00:45:07.120 --> 00:45:09.440
I mean, awesome.

908
00:45:09.440 --> 00:45:11.780
I will say this y'all, at some point,

909
00:45:11.780 --> 00:45:14.680
if the marriage doesn't happen soon enough,

910
00:45:14.680 --> 00:45:16.360
everyone's gotta get to Israel.

911
00:45:16.360 --> 00:45:17.840
It's amazing.

912
00:45:17.840 --> 00:45:19.200
Helicopter rides.

913
00:45:19.200 --> 00:45:20.280
These are some really, y'all,

914
00:45:20.280 --> 00:45:23.200
I wanna go travel with all of you folks, for sure.

915
00:45:23.200 --> 00:45:28.200
Okay, it is at the 45 of the hour.

916
00:45:28.440 --> 00:45:33.000
And I'm gonna restate all of the questions I've done.

917
00:45:33.000 --> 00:45:35.080
So if you didn't get to jump in before

918
00:45:35.080 --> 00:45:36.820
and you wanna jump back in now,

919
00:45:36.820 --> 00:45:38.080
because now you're feeling like,

920
00:45:38.080 --> 00:45:40.760
hey, I have made sure I look good

921
00:45:40.760 --> 00:45:42.200
and I'm liking all these answers

922
00:45:42.200 --> 00:45:44.280
and I wanna get on the party.

923
00:45:44.280 --> 00:45:47.240
I'm waiting for Cheryl to message me any questions

924
00:45:47.240 --> 00:45:50.840
that you guys asked in the chat box for me to ask.

925
00:45:50.840 --> 00:45:53.940
But until then, so we asked the front end,

926
00:45:53.940 --> 00:45:56.960
a takeaway that you got from the program.

927
00:45:57.240 --> 00:45:59.520
It could either be from this community,

928
00:45:59.520 --> 00:46:03.920
from the prayer, from the classes, from the heart work.

929
00:46:03.920 --> 00:46:06.720
Anything that has really stood out to you in the program,

930
00:46:06.720 --> 00:46:08.920
that was one of the questions.

931
00:46:08.920 --> 00:46:10.680
The second question was something

932
00:46:10.680 --> 00:46:13.880
that you are most looking forward to doing by yourself

933
00:46:13.880 --> 00:46:17.080
before you get married,

934
00:46:17.080 --> 00:46:19.720
that you're trying to get done before the end of the year.

935
00:46:19.720 --> 00:46:21.700
Looking back, something that you felt

936
00:46:21.700 --> 00:46:24.000
like you were super excited.

937
00:46:24.000 --> 00:46:25.700
I mean, it's something that you thought you would never do,

938
00:46:25.740 --> 00:46:26.900
but you learned how to do

939
00:46:26.900 --> 00:46:29.700
and you were super pumped about that.

940
00:46:29.700 --> 00:46:32.100
A fun day idea or something you wanna try

941
00:46:32.100 --> 00:46:33.460
with your spirit mate.

942
00:46:33.460 --> 00:46:36.500
So those are the questions that we asked.

943
00:46:36.500 --> 00:46:40.800
If you did not get to answer any of those questions

944
00:46:40.800 --> 00:46:44.100
and you wanna answer one of those questions,

945
00:46:44.100 --> 00:46:45.860
you know, we've got about 12 more minutes.

946
00:46:45.860 --> 00:46:49.660
So about six or seven of you can share the answer

947
00:46:49.660 --> 00:46:53.380
to one of those questions.

948
00:46:53.380 --> 00:46:57.580
So who are gonna be my last six or seven brave people

949
00:46:57.580 --> 00:46:58.780
who are gonna take their answer?

950
00:46:58.780 --> 00:47:01.380
Awesome, Katie, what you got for us?

951
00:47:02.300 --> 00:47:04.940
So the question about the community,

952
00:47:04.940 --> 00:47:09.260
definitely accountability and really great friends.

953
00:47:11.860 --> 00:47:14.740
And also it is just pointing me to Jesus

954
00:47:14.740 --> 00:47:17.220
and making me stay in the word.

955
00:47:17.220 --> 00:47:18.360
So I just love it.

956
00:47:19.740 --> 00:47:20.940
That is awesome, Katie.

957
00:47:21.820 --> 00:47:23.620
I really appreciate you saying that.

958
00:47:23.620 --> 00:47:26.420
This community definitely has been great for accountability.

959
00:47:26.420 --> 00:47:30.820
I think I would have like stopped trying sometimes

960
00:47:30.820 --> 00:47:34.100
like, you know, or stopped doing something,

961
00:47:34.100 --> 00:47:36.940
but just knowing that I was a part of this community

962
00:47:36.940 --> 00:47:39.340
has made me press in a little bit more.

963
00:47:39.340 --> 00:47:40.180
Miriam.

964
00:47:43.900 --> 00:47:47.020
It's the last question that you asked

965
00:47:47.020 --> 00:47:50.060
about what I wanna do with my spirit mate.

966
00:47:50.060 --> 00:47:52.860
And I love the beach so much.

967
00:47:53.780 --> 00:47:56.820
So I would love to go to the Maldives

968
00:47:57.820 --> 00:48:02.340
or somewhere, the Bahamas, yeah.

969
00:48:02.340 --> 00:48:07.100
So Maldives for sure is like the top on the list, yeah.

970
00:48:07.100 --> 00:48:08.580
Nice, very nice.

971
00:48:08.580 --> 00:48:09.620
Shanna.

972
00:48:14.580 --> 00:48:16.220
Shanna Johnson, yeah.

973
00:48:16.220 --> 00:48:17.060
Hello.

974
00:48:18.540 --> 00:48:20.780
It's like the first one,

975
00:48:21.820 --> 00:48:26.820
I would say the negativity fast is super important.

976
00:48:29.180 --> 00:48:34.180
I didn't realize how negative my thought process was

977
00:48:34.380 --> 00:48:37.340
or can be, and that's really important

978
00:48:37.340 --> 00:48:42.340
and how important it is to like really embrace your identity

979
00:48:42.860 --> 00:48:45.340
and who you are in Christ.

980
00:48:45.340 --> 00:48:50.100
So that's probably the biggest thing for me.

981
00:48:51.340 --> 00:48:52.180
I love that.

982
00:48:52.180 --> 00:48:54.180
That's such a good reminder, Shanna,

983
00:48:54.180 --> 00:48:55.420
cause here's what's important.

984
00:48:55.420 --> 00:48:58.980
I think so much of us who have been good people

985
00:48:58.980 --> 00:49:00.420
think that we're not negative

986
00:49:00.420 --> 00:49:03.220
because the most negative things that we say

987
00:49:03.220 --> 00:49:05.140
are in between our ears.

988
00:49:05.140 --> 00:49:07.420
And it's the stuff that nobody says,

989
00:49:07.420 --> 00:49:10.660
like I can be really negative.

990
00:49:10.660 --> 00:49:12.980
You guys, I paid a lot of money

991
00:49:12.980 --> 00:49:15.900
and went through the energy of global entry.

992
00:49:15.900 --> 00:49:17.460
And I got through the first part,

993
00:49:17.460 --> 00:49:19.980
like I was all cocky, like, whew.

994
00:49:19.980 --> 00:49:22.260
And then I got to the second section,

995
00:49:22.260 --> 00:49:25.620
once you pick up your luggage, you're back with everybody.

996
00:49:25.620 --> 00:49:28.060
And you guys, I have family in wheelchairs

997
00:49:28.060 --> 00:49:31.340
and they let every wheelchair person in in front of me.

998
00:49:31.340 --> 00:49:34.340
I was getting really, like the negativity

999
00:49:34.340 --> 00:49:36.900
in between my ears was just wretched.

1000
00:49:36.900 --> 00:49:40.100
And I was like, Jesus was like, girl.

1001
00:49:40.100 --> 00:49:41.500
And so I appreciate that, Shanna,

1002
00:49:41.500 --> 00:49:43.020
cause sometimes our negativity

1003
00:49:43.020 --> 00:49:44.500
isn't what's coming out of our mouth,

1004
00:49:44.500 --> 00:49:45.900
but it's the stuff that we're thinking

1005
00:49:45.900 --> 00:49:48.220
either about ourselves or about other people.

1006
00:49:48.220 --> 00:49:49.060
Cheryl.

1007
00:49:51.500 --> 00:49:54.300
Yeah, there's been so many things about this community

1008
00:49:54.300 --> 00:49:55.500
that's impacted me.

1009
00:49:55.500 --> 00:49:58.740
But one thing that's really been amazing

1010
00:49:58.740 --> 00:50:00.340
is just praying together.

1011
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:04.760
together. Um, and I've never been in a group before where we pray for our

1012
00:50:04.760 --> 00:50:09.280
spirit mates and we're praying for men. And I'm sure the men are praying for us

1013
00:50:09.280 --> 00:50:15.560
ladies too. Um, but it's just been so awesome to be in a group where we're

1014
00:50:15.560 --> 00:50:20.880
praying like that together. And it's also just kept me encouraged to, to just

1015
00:50:20.880 --> 00:50:22.160
keep being filled with hope.

1016
00:50:23.040 --> 00:50:29.200
I love that. And Cheryl, I have loved having you on our prayer calls. Um, I

1017
00:50:29.200 --> 00:50:33.920
feel like you're more recent in my, or we're, I'm just paying attention to you.

1018
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Like God, just either you're one of our newer folks or God just highlighting

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you to me, but you always have such a good word for us when you pray. And I

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love that you pray scripture. Like you're not just praying your thoughts,

1021
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but you always bring the word of God into your prayer. So since you mentioned

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it, I thought I would just say, um, it's just very evident when you're on the

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call with us. So thank you. Um, anybody else? We have nine more minutes. And so

1024
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anybody else, one of those questions, either something they took, they've

1025
00:51:04.800 --> 00:51:08.400
taken away from this program, something in the past they never thought they

1026
00:51:08.400 --> 00:51:11.520
would accomplish that they have something that they want to get

1027
00:51:11.520 --> 00:51:15.040
accomplished before the end of the year without their spirit mate and something

1028
00:51:15.040 --> 00:51:18.000
that they're looking forward to do. Megan. Awesome. Megan, we haven't heard

1029
00:51:18.000 --> 00:51:19.920
from you tonight. What you got to share.

1030
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So my biggest takeaways from this community have probably been hope for a

1031
00:51:27.280 --> 00:51:37.040
brighter future. And, um, my second one is I had, oh, and learning to lean into

1032
00:51:37.040 --> 00:51:44.400
the Holy spirit a lot more. It's really been great. Love it. Love it. Okay. I'm

1033
00:51:44.400 --> 00:51:50.480
going to see who the Lord highlights to me of who I think has a word for us.

1034
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Justin Walsall. I think you have a word for us.

1035
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First time back in quite a while. I didn't mean to do that, buddy, but when

1036
00:52:03.880 --> 00:52:11.880
Holy spirit does it, I have to abide. Okay. Well, it's, it's really great to be

1037
00:52:11.880 --> 00:52:17.160
back after quite a while away and, um, had some life situations with family

1038
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and I'm still here helping my dad, um, work through some healthy grieving and

1039
00:52:22.080 --> 00:52:32.400
stuff. Um, I think, uh, you know, um, there's, there's a lot of when we're on

1040
00:52:32.400 --> 00:52:38.480
our healing journey, um, and, and restoration and also growing in ways

1041
00:52:38.480 --> 00:52:42.680
that we didn't even know was possible, certain areas of our heart being touched

1042
00:52:42.680 --> 00:52:48.000
and awakened that we didn't know was there or that had been, uh, neglected or

1043
00:52:48.000 --> 00:52:52.440
abused or exploited or other things like that through past situations, either

1044
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things we opened the door to, or things that happen over control or a little bit

1045
00:52:55.880 --> 00:53:02.880
of both. Um, um, you know, as we're growing and as we're not just, you know,

1046
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going through, um, you know, the, the, the, the surgery of the master physician

1047
00:53:09.040 --> 00:53:14.600
on that altar or, um, going through rehab and, and, uh, therapy and then

1048
00:53:14.600 --> 00:53:18.880
growing for the past to a place of healing and then really building back up

1049
00:53:18.880 --> 00:53:26.120
and building further than, you know, um, I, I just want to encourage anyone who

1050
00:53:26.120 --> 00:53:32.200
may need it, that there's still sometimes going to be different, um, things that

1051
00:53:32.200 --> 00:53:34.520
we still have to process through again.

1052
00:53:34.920 --> 00:53:38.720
And sometimes it feels like a backstep or it feels like, Oh, wait a second,

1053
00:53:38.720 --> 00:53:44.840
you know, and that's normal, you know, God doesn't put us through everything

1054
00:53:44.880 --> 00:53:49.760
all at once, you know, the, the deeper, the womb or the deeper, the deficit or

1055
00:53:49.760 --> 00:53:54.520
the brokenness or the, whatever, you know, just like in the physical body,

1056
00:53:54.520 --> 00:53:58.880
there are some things that take multiple surgeries and sometimes those surgeries

1057
00:53:58.880 --> 00:54:04.200
may be spaced far apart from each other and span even years if necessary.

1058
00:54:04.560 --> 00:54:09.080
And, and then even that there's still follow-up, you know, so, um, so just

1059
00:54:09.080 --> 00:54:13.040
be encouraged that, you know, you could be feeling like you have to work

1060
00:54:13.040 --> 00:54:16.080
through something that you thought was dead and old and gone or whatever.

1061
00:54:16.360 --> 00:54:19.760
And there's just sometimes just, you know, the, the human heart and soul

1062
00:54:19.760 --> 00:54:24.880
is so layered and so deep and broad, far beyond just our physical being that,

1063
00:54:25.280 --> 00:54:30.880
you know, God knows when we're ready for things to continue to process up and out.

1064
00:54:30.880 --> 00:54:32.760
And, and, you know, the heart is a garden.

1065
00:54:32.800 --> 00:54:34.160
It's not a storage shed.

1066
00:54:34.160 --> 00:54:35.160
It's not a closet.

1067
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And so there are areas and depths of the soil of our heart that that's, that's

1068
00:54:39.680 --> 00:54:43.840
what we're responsible for is tending the soil of our heart, um, healthy

1069
00:54:43.840 --> 00:54:48.800
boundaries and filters, keep it protected, keep it fenced in, um, getting

1070
00:54:48.800 --> 00:54:52.480
in there, weeding, um, nourishing, watering, uh, fertilizing.

1071
00:54:52.880 --> 00:54:56.960
And when, when we just watch over the soul of our heart, God will give the

1072
00:54:56.960 --> 00:55:00.000
increase when we're planting the right seed in it, um, but.

1073
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The other thing is that there's going to be those areas of our

1074
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of our heart of our garden that are more prone to weeds are more

1075
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prone to not as good as soil as others that need more attention,

1076
00:55:11.800 --> 00:55:15.640
more daily attention. And that's completely normal. We all have

1077
00:55:15.840 --> 00:55:19.880
those areas that we're not either not as good at or not as

1078
00:55:19.880 --> 00:55:23.840
naturally bent towards or wired towards. And, and again, the

1079
00:55:23.880 --> 00:55:28.080
that garden is a much deeper than just some top soil. And so

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God knows, when things have to be just mined out and dug out.

1081
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And, and over time, there may be a deep root that was still kind

1082
00:55:35.680 --> 00:55:38.600
of lingering when most of it was uprooted, or whatever, that just

1083
00:55:38.600 --> 00:55:41.960
has to be continually worked through. And so just, you know,

1084
00:55:42.000 --> 00:55:46.800
embrace the fact, for me, one of the things that was hardest for

1085
00:55:46.800 --> 00:55:50.960
me to do was, was to love process and love today and quit

1086
00:55:50.960 --> 00:55:54.720
looking only to end points that I was hoping for, and being

1087
00:55:54.720 --> 00:55:58.240
thankful and maximizing what I have right now, including just

1088
00:55:58.240 --> 00:56:03.080
the process of working through surrender and, and availability

1089
00:56:03.080 --> 00:56:06.080
and just falling in love with God all over again every

1090
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morning. And ideally, that's that's with a healthy companion

1091
00:56:10.200 --> 00:56:13.960
and spouse. That's how we keep our the garden of our marriage

1092
00:56:14.080 --> 00:56:17.400
fresh to as we fall in love all over again with each other every

1093
00:56:17.400 --> 00:56:20.880
morning brand new. And we we roll up our sleeves and say,

1094
00:56:20.920 --> 00:56:23.200
let's let's tend our garden again today together.

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Well, on free.

1096
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Many of us are glad the Holy Spirit told me to call on

1097
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Justin. And that was risky for me to do. Because Justin's

1098
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right. I've not seen him present. I didn't know what

1099
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state of mind he was in. And it sounds like it's been a lot. But

1100
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he had a message and a word for all of us that I would believe

1101
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was anointed. So many of us who have been in this program

1102
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probably longer than a year, we have lost a spouse. I mean, we

1103
00:57:00.520 --> 00:57:04.200
have lost a parent, we have lost a child, we've lost a dog, we've

1104
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lost a job. And we've had to go back to the heart work. So so

1105
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many of us, you know, I've had to face some really hard stuff

1106
00:57:12.960 --> 00:57:16.520
or reface some really hard stuff. And the phrase that Jackie

1107
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always says hurt in relationship healed in

1108
00:57:19.360 --> 00:57:24.200
relationship. And so here's what's really cool. If we've

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00:57:24.200 --> 00:57:27.360
been hurt in community, this community is a place for us to

1110
00:57:27.360 --> 00:57:30.600
get healing. So that whole hurt in relationship healed in

1111
00:57:30.600 --> 00:57:34.760
relationship doesn't just have to happen with our spirit mate,

1112
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it can happen right here in this community, like we can all

1113
00:57:39.360 --> 00:57:43.200
receive healing in a way that was not possible for us in the

1114
00:57:43.200 --> 00:57:46.320
past. So that was such a beautiful word. And so good

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that I'm just going to have us come to a close on that Cheryl.

1116
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Cheryl, would you be willing to? Cheryl, my my note taker,

1117
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Cheryl? Would you? Yes, thank you. I'm going to pronounce your

1118
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last name wrong. Guillaume. Did I say it right? Okay. Can you

1119
00:58:03.480 --> 00:58:05.640
close this out in prayer? That'd be great.

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Sir.

1121
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My father, just thank you. Thank you for this community. Thank

1122
00:58:11.520 --> 00:58:14.680
you for our time together. And that, Lord God, we can just

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00:58:14.760 --> 00:58:17.640
continue to journey with one another towards a spirit mate.

1124
00:58:18.120 --> 00:58:21.800
Thank you that we can just be able to just love one another

1125
00:58:21.800 --> 00:58:27.760
and grow and just be and just more into the intimacy of you

1126
00:58:27.920 --> 00:58:31.800
with one another. But then to our God, we get to celebrate,

1127
00:58:31.840 --> 00:58:35.720
celebrate with one another. So thank you for tonight. And until

1128
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we meet again, Jesus name. Amen.

1129
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Amen. Thank you. Thank you.

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Thank you.