All right, everyone. Welcome to our all community path session. If this is your first path session
with us, this is where we go over all different types of things that we think are going to
help you in this journey towards love. So your relationship with God, your relationship
with yourself, your relationship with others. We have all different types of offerings that
we do on these path sessions. There will be a time when there's three different choices
of three different paths, but recently we've been just having all community path. And that
is because we've been talking about things that we think are really important for everyone.
So last month we talked about attachment styles and who loved that, who thought that was a
great time, who learned something right. That is definitely going to activate your love
story for sure. So many people are in their own way with the, um, the way that they communicate
and attach to other people in relationship. So that's all super important. So before we
start tonight, I was just talking to one of our guys just recently, and I know that it's
very difficult to track people when we're on these zooms together, right? There's so
many people. So go ahead and change your name, um, on your little zoom window to your name.
All right. So don't let it say, you know, lilac forest, let it say your name there. Okay.
Don't let it say, um, the name of your fur baby and that you're their mom. So like, you
know, Walter's mom, let's go ahead and put our name on there and then where you're from
as well. So put your first name, put where you're from guys. I have really great news.
Me and the team, we went over with our developer. One of our developers, we have a dating app
that's in development as well, but our actual last year, single app is so close to being
done. We just had a walkthrough. Our team did a couple of days ago. We are so excited.
You guys, you can't be as excited as we are. We are so excited for those of you that follow
me on social media, like Instagram. Um, there was, there was a like live that I was supposed
to do that got postponed. Um, I want to let you know something, anything that I announced
to the public, you already know. Okay. So don't get like, Oh, where Jackie go. They
were supposed to be alive with her on Instagram. If I'm announcing it publicly on Instagram
or Facebook, if I'm going live on one of those platforms, you're already in the know.
Okay. I'm not going to ever announce anything to the public that this community doesn't
already have access to and already have first dibs on. Okay. Everything that we do, this
community will have first dibs guys. I'm proud to announce to you that we have a whole new
branch of last year, single, and it is called last trip single. It is our retreat vacation
event branch of this business tree. And we are launching it with our very first, um,
private retreat. You guys, you're going to get emails about all the different things
that we have on the app. When it's finished, there's going to be a place that is just last
trip single. So you can go in there and you can see what's going on. You can see what
trips are going on on the calendar. You can, you know, hit a link, go to the trip, register
for the trip. If you're going to go on the trip right now, the trips that we have in
the pipeline is a higher ticket, like personal private retreat that includes a yacht trip
to the Rosario islands in Columbia. There's only spots for 12 women. That's an all female
trip. And that's going to be the first thing that comes out in your, um, in your emails,
that trip is in may it's at the end of may, then we have a singles cruise and you guys,
this is just a basic singles cruise. It cruises out of Galveston, Texas. It's just going to
go to Mexico to cause ML. Um, it's going to be fun. It's going to be great. It's very
low, low, low ticket, meaning you can make payments on it and you know, it's not going
to be very expensive. And, um, that is going to be at the end of July. I'm, I want to tell
you that I'm actually going to Paris next month to scout out a retreat for those of
you that would want to go to Paris. I'm going to go there next month. I'm going to meet
with some leaders there. We're going to come up with a conference and an event for all
of you that are in Europe, get excited because we're going to have some European conferences
and events for those of you that would want to travel from the States to Paris. We're
going to try, you guys were working with a travel consortium. She's actually one of you.
She's part of our tribe and we're working with her and we are going to put together
some really amazing, amazing events, trips, retreats, conferences, also things just within
the United States. We're going to have a little single city tour this year that we're putting
together. Um, there's another cruise for those of you that want to pay a hundred dollars,
a hundred dollars, a hundred dollars a month. So you can get to cruise with us in January
of 2025, that cruise will come out of Florida and it will be a little bit longer, a seven
day cruise. And it's going to go to a lot of different Eastern Caribbean, um, places.
And that's going to be amazing, right? It's going to be so fun.
So many things planned for you.
Why are we doing that?
Because so many people have said to me,
I really have always wanted to travel,
but I never thought I could
because I didn't have anyone to go with
and have anywhere to go.
Too scared to travel on my own.
Everyone I know is married and they don't want to go,
or I just never was able to go because of finances.
This way you can make payments on your trip
before you actually get to your trip.
And you can travel with trusted people
where you know you're going to be safe
and you can also have a really, really good time.
All right, we'd love to hear your suggestions
for places that we can travel to in 2024 and 25,
but I just wanted to let you guys know
we have so many crazy, amazing things coming.
And just so you know,
anything that is available to you
will be at a discounted rate,
which means when we finally open it up to the public,
if the spots aren't filled for our vacations,
our trips, our encounters, our retreats, our conferences,
you get first dibs at a discounted rate.
When we open it up to the public,
it will be more expensive
and it will be just a different offer.
So there are perks,
there are benefits to membership in this community.
Okay, that app is going to be free to you.
You know, you're going to be able to get on there.
Guys, it's going to be so much easier for all of you
that are like, I don't know where the link is
and I don't understand where the replay is.
Guess what?
It's all going to be there.
Just a touch of your fingertip.
In fact, our team, you guys, I don't even know.
I don't, I don't know.
But we were excited about it.
But after we did the walkthrough, we were like, oh my God,
this is, this is so exciting
because as frustrated as you guys have been with technology
and all the different pieces part, and even Facebook,
you guys, Facebook went down the other day, right?
It's interesting.
It went down on Super Tuesday.
I don't know, but maybe, maybe it's not a conspiracy,
but all I know is this, is that it did go down
and we don't have to worry about that
when we have our own app on our own server
and we don't have to worry about
any of those things anymore.
So if you were thinking about cutting and running,
it's too soon to leave
because things are just starting to get good.
You guys, we've been dreaming about some of this stuff
for probably at least two years
and now it is, it's becoming a reality.
And so it's going to be so exciting.
All right.
So those are all the announcements,
all the housekeeping that I have for you.
And it's just 707 on March 7th,
707 on March 7th here in Austin, Texas.
And I'm ready to dig in.
And we are going to learn how to what?
We're going to learn how to flirt.
Raise your hand if you've been accused of being a flirt.
I want to see all the flirty people.
People have said to you, oh, you're a flirt.
Oh, come on.
Let's see the hands.
Look at all those people that have been told
that they are a flirt.
That is going to work in your benefit.
All right.
Put your hands down.
All of you flirties, men and women.
I see all different types of people on there.
Now, I want you to put your hands up
if you couldn't flirt, if your life depended on it.
You have no idea.
You are the most awkward person in the world
and you just don't know.
You not only don't know how to flirt,
you don't know when someone's flirting with you.
You're like, are they flirting?
Do they like me?
I don't know.
I'm not sure.
Okay.
Yes, yes, yes.
All right.
Lots of people on both ends, both sides of the coin,
which is what I love and I'm excited about tonight.
All right, so we have Bethany's with us tonight,
Renee's with us, and then of course all of you,
because we want to hear from all of you guys.
This is going to be a collective effort tonight.
Okay, because we're going to talk about pickup lines.
We're going to talk about all different types of things
where you get to weigh in.
And we're going to go ahead
and start the night off with prayer.
So Father God, we just thank you for tonight.
We thank you that we don't have to seduce,
we don't have to manipulate, we don't have to deceive,
that you have made us shiny, that you've made us shiny,
that you've made us to be noticed.
Matthew 5 says that we are a city that's on a hill
that cannot be hid because you meant us to be shiny,
to be the light of the earth.
And Lord, that means to be noticed and to be highlighted.
And so Lord, we're asking tonight that you would help us
to see how that transfers over to our love life,
that we don't have to take a page
out of the playbook of culture
with seduction and manipulation tactics,
but that we can learn how to honor people and love on people
and how we can make our intentions known to people
without fear of rejection or the fear of man.
And Lord, we just thank you that tonight,
if anyone has the fear of rejection,
if anyone has the fear of man is what we call it,
that that has broken off of them in Jesus name,
and they feel like they can be themselves,
they're not gonna take things too seriously,
they're gonna put themselves out there,
and whatever comes back is what's meant to come back.
Lord, we thank you that you're highlighting us,
that you're teaching us how to treat other people
in Jesus name, amen.
All right.
All right, so like I said, during that prayer,
we're not gonna take a playbook,
we're not gonna take a page out of the playbook of culture.
Okay, oftentimes that tells us,
anybody ever see those articles that said 10 text message
to send to him or her to get them to fall in love with you?
Anyone see those things?
Yeah. Right?
That's kind of like borderline,
like kind of a little witchcraft,
little witchcraft there.
It's like, what exactly can I say
to get this person hooked on me, right?
As if, you know, you're some kind of methamphetamine.
We don't want that.
What we wanna do is we want to be free to express ourselves
and to be fun.
Ladies remember, the divine feminine is fun.
So we wanna be fun.
Gentlemen, we're gonna teach you guys
about making the first move
because we're willing to make the first move.
We're gonna talk about that tonight,
about dropping the hanky, making the first move.
But gentlemen, we would love it if you made the first move.
And I understand this is a very confusing culture.
It's like, does she want me to?
Does she not want me to?
Is she gonna say, oh yes,
I'm so glad that you made the first move.
Let's go on a date.
Or is she gonna like, you know, cry harassment?
Like what's gonna happen here?
What's gonna happen, right?
And ladies, let's just face it.
You know, if a guy comes and flirts with us
and we think he's cute and we're attracted to him,
we're like, oh, how you doing?
But if he's not what we're looking for,
then we could be like, creep, creeper, right?
We can't be like this.
If a guy is willing to shoot his shot
and he's being respectful, that's key.
He's being respectful, then we should applaud him for that.
He should be rewarded for that.
Even if, you know, he's not the person
that we would be romantically interested in.
We want to encourage, not discourage men,
especially if they're stepping to us
in an honorable, respectful, gentlemanly way, correct?
Correct?
So that means I'm not gonna hear any tales
in this community of a guy shooting his shot with you,
being respectful and honorable and gentlemanly,
and you being a jerk, you being a biatch back to him.
I'm not gonna hear any tales of that, right?
All I'm gonna hear of is, oh yeah, hey, you know,
Joanne wasn't interested in me, but you know what?
She was really cool about it.
Yeah, we didn't go on a date, but you know,
she said she really liked the thing that I sent her.
She really liked my pickup line.
She really liked, that's what we're gonna do.
We're going to encourage each other
and we're gonna leave them, like Marilyn says here,
better than we found them, correct?
That's what we're gonna do, amen?
Okay, and if you weren't planning on coming
to Super Snatchers Saturday Live this week,
please do, because we are gonna talk about
the harvest of singles.
We're gonna talk about some really amazing,
very supernatural things on Saturday,
and then we're gonna have a prophetic night on Sunday night.
If you haven't been to one of our prophetic nights,
I know that we have prophetic activation every Sunday night,
but this is when all of our prayer team comes together
and we begin to prophesy over you
and you begin to prophesy over each other,
and it's a really good time, okay?
And so I want y'all to be there live if you can be, okay?
So I think we're ready to get started.
I think that's all being said.
So we're not taking a page from the playbook of culture.
We're gonna lean into Holy Spirit, because guess what?
I believe that Holy Spirit is fun,
and I believe he can teach you how to be fun,
and I believe he can teach you how to be liked
by the people that you need to be liked by.
I want you guys to all say over each other right now
that if you're a guy, you'll say woman,
and if you're a woman, you'll say man,
and I'm a woman, so I'm gonna say man.
I don't need all men to fall in love with me,
just the right one.
And gentlemen, you would say the opposite.
I don't need all women to fall in love with me,
just the right one.
Because I think sometimes,
especially if we're an attention-seeking kind of personality,
we wanna make everybody fall in love with us, right?
And then we get upset when someone rejects us
because we don't like rejection.
We wanna be liked by everyone,
but here's the thing.
You're never gonna be liked by everyone.
You're not ever gonna be everyone's cup of tea
or a cup of coffee or a cup of vodka and soda.
You're never gonna be everyone's anything, ever,
because that would mean that you have to be fake.
In order to make everyone like you,
then you would have to not be yourself.
True?
True.
And we're gonna talk about the woo,
and some people get the woo mistaken for being fake
and flattering people and people-pleasing
and trying to win people over that way.
By the way, you guys,
the woo stands for winning others over, W-O-O, all right?
But you're never gonna win everybody over.
You shouldn't want to important. Okay. All right.
Now that we did that activation,
let's go ahead and start with how to make a great first impression.
You guys, if you make a bad first impression, that's okay.
Remember I walked out in my front yard and I yelled at the man.
Who's now my husband. That was my first impression.
That was the first impression that I made on David. I yelled at him in the front
yard. And while that sounds very funny,
it was not funny at the time, but I got another chance.
And sometimes you're going to get another chance and sometimes you're not going
to get a second date and you're not going to get another chance. Okay.
So let's make a good first impression with everyone we meet,
not just romantic people. You guys,
sometimes you're having a bad day and sometimes there's a one-off and I don't
believe that you can miss out on your spirit mate when you're surrendered to God
and you're willing to be teachable and have an open heart.
I really don't believe you can. And so if they don't give you a second chance,
then guess what? They weren't your person and that's okay. Right?
Don't you think your person's going to have grace for you?
Like David did me, but at the same time, let's make a first grade impression.
All right. So that's where you're going to get involved. Ready?
And Bethany and Renee, feel free to chime in any at any time.
So we're all going to talk about now what we notice when we first meet
people.
I did a poll with all the men in my group and I said, Hey,
what's the first thing that you notice about women?
And a lot of them said her smile, her eyes,
the way she carries herself. So this is what we want to do right now.
As a group,
we're going to help each other by sharing what you first notice
about someone. What makes an impression on you?
Clean nails when they're sitting across from you that their nails don't have
dirt underneath them. Right?
I know that I like to see clean hands.
That's important to me. Okay. Clean teeth are important to me.
You don't have to, you guys, you don't have to have perfectly straight teeth.
That's not something that you can fix, right? I mean, you can fix it,
but it's not something you can fix before that date. Um,
but they need to be clean. If you drink coffee and your teeth are all stained,
go get a zoom whitening treatment. They're like a hundred bucks. Go get it done.
It's worth it. You guys, it's a game changer.
Whitening your teeth is a game changer teeth.
They don't have to be perfectly straight, but they can't be looking crusty.
I want everyone to admit if
teeth are a turnoff for you, if they're looking crusty,
why? Because we want to kiss you someday and your teeth are scaring us.
That's why. And remember, they don't have to be straight,
but they do have to be clean.
And for those of you that have tetracycline stains or something that you just
can't help, guess what?
There's all different types of things that can happen.
And you still are worthy of love. Even if you can't, you know,
even if you can't get them white, white, white, they don't have to be white.
They just have to look clean. You've got to brush them.
You got to floss them. Dental health matters.
If you're not confident about your teeth, Laura,
then you have to find out how you're going to become confident. Okay.
Cause remember it's about clean teeth. It's not about not being crooked.
In fact, crooked teeth can be super cute. Anyone agree that can add character.
Now, if it's something that's become a health problem for you,
then you want to probably figure out how you can invest in getting that fixed.
Okay. Cherie said, oil pooling, you guys feel free to unmute yourself and just
give some,
give some things that you notice about people when you first meet them that
make an impression on you. I want to hear from you. Come on.
How they dress. If they're a sharp dresser.
And what is a sharp dresser to you? Help them, help them out.
Oh, somebody that's cognizant of style.
That's cognizant of style that there's that they have,
um, stylish clothing. It's well-fitting it's clean.
It's pressed that their shoes are.
Don't look like you just rolled out of the hamper gentlemen.
Don't look like you just rolled out of the hamper and came to the date.
So many women have said to me, Oh my God, he didn't put any effort in.
We want to know that you put effort in guys. You don't have to, you know,
be the snazziest dresser in the world, but you put an effort.
Your clothes are clean. Your clothes are pressed.
Cause a woman's mind is always going to be like, you know, Oh,
I can dress him. I can dress him. Right. I can, I can dress him.
So, but guys,
I will tell you if you go to the store and you find a female sales associate
and you ask her to help you pick out an outfit for a date,
they will and make sure that that woman.
is an attractive woman, okay?
Don't pick, you know, a woman who doesn't look like
she knows what's going on, all right?
Pick an attractive woman and, you know,
a well-dressed woman that works at the store
and ask her to suggest clothing for you,
you know, that might look good on you.
And also, gentlemen, I will tell you,
a good fitting pair of jeans goes a long way.
Jeans that look good on you, the style, the cut,
the color, that's, you know, on trend,
like maybe a classic kind of trend,
not like a trendy trend, but a classic kind of trend,
that goes a long way.
All right, thank you for that, style, style.
Gentlemen, let's hear from a guy.
Guys, tell us what makes a good first impression on you
when you're meeting a woman.
Her face.
What about her face?
Make it smile.
And, of course, the hairstyle will really draw my eye.
Okay.
Is there a specific hairstyle that you like?
Long, short, ponytail?
Ponytail can sound more appealing
despite looking old school, but yeah,
long hair can be appealing,
not that I'm trying to tell you to go get it,
but for some people who have curly hair,
poofy, having it puffed out really will draw me.
Okay, Hunter likes a poofy ponytail.
You guys, everyone has preferences for sure,
but ladies, men have told me that
what they love about your hair is that it's clean, right?
Don't be coming with five, you know,
five-day dry shampoo hair.
Wash your hair before you come.
Comb it.
Don't be having all knots,
looking like you just got off a motorcycle,
unless you just got off a motorcycle,
and then that's sexy in its own way, right?
Okay.
Another thing, another thing, yeah, with makeup,
don't put, don't overdo it too much
where I would take my finger down,
I scrape it down, and I have something coming out of it.
Yeah, that's really-
All right, Hunter, just to clarify,
you're not allowed to scrape anyone's faces on your date,
okay?
But yes, ladies, makeup is supposed to be an enhancer,
not a camouflager, right?
And trust me, I have rosacea, so I understand.
And those of you that saw my little makeup tutorial,
you know, you know what's up.
And so I get it.
I understand we can't all have porcelain, perfect skin,
but don't cake it on because that's not helping.
It's not hiding anything.
It's not, all right?
Okay, Nicole, you seem like you're unmuted.
Do you want to share something?
Yeah, when I, the guy, how he treats others,
like respectful, kind, that's a big turn on.
Yes.
So gentlemen, women like to see you being kind
and considerate, not just to us, but to others on a date.
That makes a great first impression.
So if you're impatient, you lose your temper
at the waiter or the waitress, the server, no bueno.
Okay, and that goes for you too, ladies, for sure.
Okay, who else wants to tell us good first impressions?
I like a well-groomed mustache and beard.
I'm attracted to facial hair.
So she likes facial hair,
but she wants it to be manscaped, okay?
She doesn't want you to look like, you know,
you just rolled out of the bayou
and you've been out there living off the land.
She doesn't want you to look like Tom Hanks
in, you know, that volleyball movie.
What was that called?
Wilson.
Castaway.
Yes, castaway.
You're not allowed to look like a caveman.
Now, if you have a beard, trim it.
We don't want anything to be hiding in there.
We don't want to be looking at your beard thinking,
oh, what's in there?
What's in there?
Ladies, I want to see the hands of the ladies
that like facial hair.
Let's see you.
Oh, that's a lot.
Gentlemen, gentlemen that have facial hair, take a look.
All right.
You guys, put your hands down.
Let's talk about something.
Now that we, you know, you guys,
we're a new generation that understands everything
about toxicity and chemicals.
So let's answer the question.
Cologne and perfume or no cologne and perfume?
Like, how do we feel about that nowadays?
No smell.
Don't bathe in it.
Yeah, don't bathe in it.
We don't, listen, if you get off the elevator
and your smell is on.
that elevator for the rest of the night, that's,
I can't stand it when I get in an elevator
and I'm like choking because of whoever was on there before.
It's nice when you like lean in and you smell
just a little bit of a nice cologne and fresh breath.
Huge, that's a big thing.
That's a good one, Gwen.
Fresh breath, you guys, fresh breath.
Let me tell you some tips about halitosis, all right?
Floss your teeth, okay, it's not just brushing,
floss your teeth, that will keep you from having bad breath.
If you have dental issues, you know,
you have a tooth that's not doing too well,
it's not healthy, you gotta get that taken care of
because that will cause, you know,
just chronic bad breath and halitosis for sure.
Guys, don't eat, it's okay to eat it on your date
if your date's eating it as well,
like garlic and onions and different things.
I love that type of food.
And if the other person's eating it as well,
that's cool because, you know,
no one's gonna smell anything because everyone's eating it.
But don't eat that before you come to the date, all right?
Don't be eating some, you know,
crazy anchovy sandwich or something
before you come to your date, all right?
And then you're just like, like breathing fire,
like a dragon, don't do that.
And definitely brush your teeth.
Guys, I don't, this is a pet peeve of mine
and you guys can agree to disagree, it's fine.
I can't stand seeing people and hearing people chew gum.
It grosses me out, I think it's disgusting, I do.
It just reminds me of a cow just chewing, chewing,
you know, I just don't like it, I think it's uncouth.
I think that it's like low brow.
Once again, you can agree to disagree.
I will still love you if you chew gum,
if you're a chronic gum chewer,
but people don't realize what they look like
when they're chewing gum.
They're not like mentally aware
and it almost always comes across like bad manners.
So let me see your hands.
If you do not, listen,
chew the gum before you get to the date
and then take it out, let it freshen your breath.
But then when you're in public, don't be chewing it.
Raise your hand if you are like me and Oprah,
I heard Oprah is like this too,
and you can't stand gum chewing.
People popping their gum
and just acting like they're five years old with that gum.
Bubba, bubba, bubbalicious.
Okay, lots of people are like, I'm not into the gum.
Okay, so chew a mint, chew a piece of gum,
but don't still have it in your mouth
when you get to the date.
Don't still have it in there.
Take it out, get rid of it.
Get rid of it.
Someone said oil pooling.
Oil pooling is huge to get rid of bad breath.
If you've never looked into that, Google it,
figure out how to do it.
There's a lot of great products you can use to oil pool.
Don't overdo it.
Obviously everything in moderation,
but that also will help whiten your teeth
and give you better breath.
Anyone else have any dental,
any dental hygienists or anyone
who wanna give us a tip on this?
Dentists, dental hygienists,
holistic health people, anyone?
I'm not a dentist or hygienist,
but I did some, I found out about the mouth taping.
So we're actually created to breathe through our nose
because of the filters that we have in our nose.
And mouth breathing causes so many health issues
and dry mouth, which gives you gum disease
and causes all kinds of oral issues.
So I started taping my mouth shut
probably like five months ago.
And I went to the dentist and at this point,
I totally forgot about the mouth taping.
And she was like, are you flossing more?
Are you, what are you brushing with?
And she just kept asking me and I was like,
I think maybe I'm flossing more.
At the moment I forgot about the mouth taping
and then realized,
cause then she was like,
your gums even look so much better.
And she's going into the diagram and look in.
So I know it sounds crazy,
but nose breathing,
we were actually created to nose breathe.
And most people like hang their mouth open at night
and it can cause so much dental issues.
So anyway, that's what I'm doing.
Okay guys, so if you want to try mouth taping,
I'm sure you can find articles about it online
and how to do it.
And wow, that sounds very interesting.
My husband snores
and I think that I might tape his whole head.
That actually will heal it.
It heals sleep apnea.
It helps heart things and organs and all this stuff.
It's crazy.
Okay, all right.
And you guys, I just thought of another one too.
For people who just go long periods of time without eating,
that actually gives you bad breath.
I don't know if you knew that or not,
but so like if you're an intermittent faster
and you go like, you know,
you only eat during a certain window
or you just are so busy and you don't eat a lot,
you probably have pretty rotten breath
and you don't know it.
Because when you're not eating and your stomach acids,
you know, they're coming up.
You don't know that this is happening.
But if you're not giving those stomach acids
in that bile something.
to do a lot of times it will give you bad breath.
Okay, guys ever been around someone who's fasting
and their breath literally smells
like something died in there.
Okay, and so be aware of that.
Okay, so other things, let's go on from the bad breath.
Thank you, Gwen, for bringing that up.
You guys definitely wanna have good oral hygiene.
You wanna have good smell and breath.
We'll take like two more things
that are good first impressions.
For me, it's eye contact.
Honestly, somebody not only makes eye contact
but is able to maintain it while we're talking,
that's huge to me.
Okay, and you guys eye contact?
Yes, very like gentle, not focused, right?
Just, all right.
So if you're not an eye contactor,
maybe go slow with that one.
Maybe kind of ease into that one
so you don't like look like you're hypnotized
with the person, but yes, ease into the eye contact.
Who else?
It's not really a deal breaker for me,
but I would say long eyelashes are a pretty big no for me.
Like the real long fake eyelashes, I don't care.
You're talking about fake, fake ones.
Yeah.
Okay, fake ones.
He doesn't want you to show up like this, ladies.
Thinks that's a deal breaker there.
Jackie, confidence.
Okay, I like it.
Can you explain to us what that looks like?
How does that transfer?
How do you carry yourself, right?
Are yours posture?
Do you carry the weight of the world on you
and you're slumping on this thing?
Your dress, the way you carry yourself,
the way you speak, a good handshake
is definitely a very good indicator
of your confidence level.
Obviously you don't wanna break somebody's hand
or squash somebody's hand,
but just like your aura, your personality,
how you talk, how do you carry yourself,
just shows confidence.
And one thing, be yourself, totally be yourself,
be comfortable who you are in your skin.
I think that's all I can say.
Good, and gentlemen, we don't like a weak handshake,
like a limp, dead fish handshake.
I have not in a romantic scenario,
but I have shook men's hands that are like that.
And it's just like, I'm like, what is happening?
Like, I'm so confused about what's happening here.
So if you're gonna shake a woman's hand,
which I'm a hugger, I prefer a hug.
If I'm actually going on a date with you,
I wouldn't want you to shake my hand.
I'd give like a nice, like very casual,
like hug greeting, like a little,
you know, not the dreaded side hug at church
because nobody's private parts can touch, okay?
But like, just like, you know,
like pretend you're Italian, pretend you're Italian, okay?
And let's just get over the prudeness of all the weirdness.
Okay, be a gentleman says Clara,
but we need to know what that means to you.
That means something different to anyone.
So you go ahead and unmute yourself and tell us.
Hello.
How can I help you with this?
I'm being a gentleman, like have manners.
It's the way you talk, how that man carries himself.
Can you hear me?
Yeah.
So I would say, yeah, like when you're a gentleman,
you're taking care of the details.
Like, I don't know.
It's just, yeah.
You like a man,
your preference is for a man to take charge.
Yes.
Okay.
She, see, she likes that.
She likes a man to take charge.
And then another person here said, be a gentleman, Serene.
Serene, tell us what be a gentleman means to you.
Oh, I'm sorry.
Same thing as Clara.
I like for men to take charge simply
because I'm always in charge and I don't like it.
You want a little rest.
You want to be a passenger princess.
I get you.
Yes.
Okay.
So gentlemen, we got two ladies that like,
take, take, take charge.
Take the initiative.
Yeah.
Take the initiative.
I heard a, I heard a, okay,
we're gonna get to the next one.
We're gonna get to the woo here.
Okay, let's go ahead and switch.
You guys, if there's any good ones that got missed,
go ahead and put them in the chat.
Let's go down to the woo.
Once again, Bethany, Rizzo, jump in.
Woo.
Remember that's winning others over.
Woo.
Like wooing people, right?
That's what we want.
And the power of winning others over
or just the art of winning others over.
I have the woo.
Anyone ever taken the Strength Finder
and actually that is one of the strengths
on the Strength Finder and you got the woo.
Like you test it as having the woo.
Anyone have the woo on the strength finder personality test.
We've got a couple of people that have the woo.
And really what it's like is you can, you can make friends easily.
People feel safe and comfortable with you.
People feel liked by you.
Here's something that I need to let you know about people.
And this is really what works for me with people is that people
like to talk about themselves.
And the number one thing that I hear about people who don't want to go on a
second date, whether it's a man or a woman, is they say, they didn't ask me
anything about myself.
All right.
So if you want to win someone over, there's a fine line between, you know,
interrogation level questions that you should never be asking someone because
that's uncomfortable and, and disrespectful and, you know, rude.
Really, honestly, you guys, it's rude to ask a stranger personal questions.
It's rude.
All right.
Teach your mama and daddy, not teach you nothing.
Okay.
It's rude.
And I think as Christians, we give ourselves a pass.
Cause we're like, well, I just need to know because I can't be hanging out with
someone who doesn't have my values or hanging out with someone or going on a
date with someone who doesn't want what I want, or isn't who God is sending to me.
Don't use that stuff as an excuse to be rude.
You don't ask someone personal questions when you don't know them, period.
Okay.
But people do like to talk about themselves.
So go ahead and be armed at that date.
Not in like a contrived way where you pull out your notebook and you have a list of
questions that you're asking them, but be ready to get that person to talk about
themselves in a way that people like to talk about themselves.
All right.
Give some examples of that.
How can we get people to talk about themselves?
How can we get someone talking about themselves in a good way?
That's going to make them happy.
Ask them about their family.
Okay.
For some people that's a trigger, but not all true.
That could be too personal for some people, but yes, it could be.
It could be, you know, if you know, they have children, you could, you know,
people do like to talk about their kids.
What else we got?
Um, go ahead.
Occupation.
I'm sorry.
I didn't hear it.
Occupation.
Oh, talk about your job.
Talk about like, what do you do?
You know, fun question.
Like, Hey, you know, if money wasn't an option, if money wasn't a thing, you know,
if it wasn't an issue, what would you do?
What would you do if you could do anything?
You know, people like to talk about that.
My husband told me when I first asked him that when we first met that he would be a
rock star.
And he wasn't kidding.
And then he went on and talk all this stuff about music.
Cause he loves music.
Keep going.
What do we got?
Ask him what gives them joy and what are their hobbies?
Yeah.
Hobbies, joy, music preferences.
That's nice and safe.
Sarah like that.
What'd you want to be when you were a kid?
Yeah.
People like to talk about this stuff.
You guys, if you're in a group photo and someone shows you, Hey, I took this group
photo at the, at the, you know, the office party and you know, you're in the photo.
The very first thing you're going to do is not look at that photo and say, Oh,
that's a nice photo.
You're going to look for yourself.
Aren't you?
Where am I in the photo?
Where am I?
Why am I?
Why?
Because people want to see themselves.
They want to talk about themselves.
You know, we're pretty self-absorbed.
It's just true.
All right.
And so getting someone else to talk about themselves is something that you really
can do to win someone over for sure.
Okay.
Um, ladies, part of the woo that you can do with a guy that after you've gotten to
know him, maybe in a couple of dates in, if you're doing an activity date of some
sort, ask him to teach you something, ask him to teach you something, right.
Ask him if you're holding, you know, the bat, right.
At the batting cage or the golf club, right.
At the driving range, or, you know, ask him to give you some strategy on how to
get that strike at the bowling alley.
He might not know, but guess what?
He's going to love trying to figure it out with you.
I see.
Who is that over there, Mike?
I see you nodding your head.
You agree with that?
Thumbs up.
Okay.
Guys like to fix things.
And if you're asking them to fix something, that's like, wow, it's amazing.
So yeah.
Yeah.
So that's a, that's a, that's a way to win, win a man over.
I once heard this guy talking.
Um, I figured he was a podcaster and he said that you can tell who's married and
who's single in a restaurant by, you know, if the man is listening or the
man is talking, but the man is listening.
It's a date.
If the man is talking, they're married.
Another thing I forgot to mention where you can ask somebody, I usually go with
this at the beginning where you're from anyway.
Okay, where are you from?
Tell me about where you grew up.
Tell me about, you know, things that, you know, things you love.
Those are things.
Okay.
So guys, let's talk about other ways to win people over.
All right.
Remember, we're not trying to manipulate them.
We're not trying to seduce them or deceive them.
We're not trying to be someone that we're not.
We're just trying to find ways to make connections.
So let's talk about some ways that we can make connection with someone.
Let's go ahead and put those in the chat and a couple of you unmute yourselves and
give us some ideas.
And Renee and Bethany, if you have anything, please add it.
Yeah.
I mean, we already talked about smiling, but to me that is across the board.
Men really think that when women smile at them or they're, you know, laughing a little
bit at something funny that they say they're engaging or maybe even leaning, not all the
way into it, but like leaning a little bit towards them when they're talking.
Those are, are kind of on the top of the list from, from like things I remember learning
with you and things you were teaching us about.
But also just when I was doing research, like those top, those were the top three things
a lot.
Yes.
Lean in, definitely smile, definitely laugh appropriately.
Don't laugh inappropriately.
If it's not funny, it's not funny.
You know, you can even be a little sarcastic.
Men have a tendency to like a sassy girl.
So if he gives it, if he tells you a dad joke and it's not funny, then you can like do a
fake laugh and just be like, wow, you know, that was incredible.
You know also touching them lightly, touching them lightly.
If you're sitting across, you know, touching them, well, you know, when you get up to leave,
like touching them lightly on the arm while you're talking to them, you know, standing
up, you're leaving, you know, resting your arm on their arm while you're talking to them.
Those definitely are all ways of letting a man know, Hey, you know, I like you.
I like you gentlemen.
The way that you can let a woman know that you like her, you know, is not the touching.
Remember we're touching you.
You're not touching us.
We're touching you.
You're not touching us.
Okay.
So if we're touching you, then maybe later you're touching us, but not right at first.
Right.
Okay.
But the way that a man can tell, you know, let a woman know that he's interested, it's
really different depending on the scenario, but like, say we go to church together or
say that we work together or we're in some other kind of like group setting a lot together.
If you seek us out, we know you like us.
Okay.
If you make time to come and talk to us and you know, you're always hanging around where
we are.
We know that you like us.
If you come into proximity to us on purpose, does that make sense?
Okay.
So seek her out.
If you seek her out, she knows that you like her.
If you, if you initiate in any way, a call, a text message, a date, we know that you're
interested in us.
Remember there's this thing called pursuit and women believe we're hardwired to believe
that if a man wants us, he is going to come looking for us because we all know we've all
been taught that men go after what they want.
Right.
And so some of the ways that you can win women over in a romantic sense is by being kind.
Okay.
We want you to be masculine.
That's a given.
And what does masculinity look like though?
Because in America we have this toxic alpha masculinity, right?
And anything that's not like that, like I was talking to a private client the other
day and he said that, you know, he has a tendency to want to make emotional connection
and kind of go deep quickly because he has a high emotional IQ and he likes to talk about
deep, you know, like meaningful things.
Now we don't think of that kind of as a man sort of trait, do we?
And so him and I were joking around about how a lot of women probably thought he was
gay when they met him because of that way that he carries himself.
Right.
But, you know, many moat, they're allowed to have emotions are allowed to want to talk
about deep and meaningful things for sure.
But one of the ways that you can let a woman know, uh, or woo a woman is by showing her
that you're meek.
And what does that mean?
That means you're powerful, but you have your power under control.
You're kind, you're considerate, you could be wild if you want it to be, but you've chosen
not to be your restraint.
You're restraining yourself, um, to be a gentleman.
Does that make sense?
Gentlemen weigh in.
Yes, Jackie.
I think that's very important, right?
A man can be strong, assertive, but a man can be very kind, especially the tone of the
voice, the way he is approaching.
coaching, plan a date, pay for the date,
initiate the conversation.
If it is difficult, I generally gauge the body language,
then try to crack a joke, like sincere joke,
make the person laugh, pick up a surrounding
where it's easy to talk with not blaring music
in a restaurant, something like easygoing,
because I believe as the man leads on the first date,
if the man is comfortable and peace,
it will give the permission to the woman
to be at ease as well.
And the more you are at ease, the more you are yourself.
Absolutely, absolutely.
And one thing that you can do guys,
if it's a date and you're meeting at a coffee shop,
you're meeting at a restaurant of some sort,
I know it's great to go in and get a table
so you could get there early, you can go put your name in,
if it's a restaurant and there's gonna be a wait,
but if it's not a restaurant, there's not gonna be a wait,
you can wait for her in the parking lot,
you can wait in your car,
you can wait for her in the parking lot,
you can let her, tell her, let me know when you're here,
you can be watching for her, when you see her pull in,
when you see her get out of her car,
you get out of your car too, why?
So that you can walk in with her
and you can open the door for her,
you can walk in with her, right?
She's not walking in nervous, like looking around,
trying to see where you are, okay?
Or like, she's getting there earlier than you
and she's getting the table,
a lot of times if it's coffee,
whoever gets there first, gonna go sit at the table,
maybe got their coffee, that's another thing,
wait for them, ladies, you as well,
don't get your coffee and be a little misindependent,
get there early, get your own coffee,
so there's no strings attached
and sit down and wait for him
so that he doesn't have to buy your coffee, no.
You wait, if you got there first and you went inside,
okay, fine, but when they come in,
you get up and you go over to them,
you greet them, you give the hug, you give whatever, right?
This is how we are amicable,
this is how, this is flirtatious,
you know, you go over there and then you wait,
you let him, you know, do the thing,
you let him do the thing,
you let him order his coffee
and then he'll say, what do you like?
And then you order your coffee, right?
He may say, hey, you order first,
whatever, doesn't matter,
ladies should probably always go first,
except there are, there's some mismanners out there
that say that men should go first in certain scenarios,
like for instance,
a man should go through a revolving door first,
you know, I'm not up on all that stuff, y'all,
I don't know, but I know this,
I know that I've had several ladies say to me,
he asked me for coffee,
but when I got there, he was already there,
he was already seated at a table with his coffee
and then I was forced to just go up
and order my own and buy it, no, no, no, no,
that is not gentlemanly and it's not flirtatious
and remember, we already said that women want a gentleman
and so we don't do that.
Okay, Kim waited in her car, let her walk him in,
yes, ladies, if you wanna be flirtatious with a man,
be a lady, chivalry is not dead,
it just went wherever ladylikeness went, right?
So show up and not be, don't be a diva, right?
There's a line between being ladylike and being a diva,
expecting this man to serve you,
that's not the mentality, that's not the attitude at all,
what the attitude is, is that you're showing up
and you're saying to him, even on this date
and this is very flirtatious because this is very feminine,
you're saying, hey, I'm willing to let you lead,
I'm showing up and I'm willing to let you lead, all right?
All right.
Hey Jackie, one thing men really notice is,
does the woman on the first or the second date respect him?
If your actions reflect otherwise,
it's a huge turnoff for men,
because men like respect as-
Okay, Nitin, respect is such a trigger word for women
because women were oppressed for generations
and tomorrow is National Women's Day, ladies,
so hurrah, high five, high five.
Okay, so Nitin, explain to us what you mean
by the word respect,
because it means something different to everyone,
so you tell us what that means for you.
If I'm having a conversation and if I'm talking,
interrupting me, I think that shows me
that you are not really interested.
Let me finish, right?
Weigh in, I think we guys,
I like when a woman can weigh in on a matter.
Another thing is allow me to pay for the first date, right?
What-
Can we put a pin in there?
I don't mean to interrupt you.
Let's put a pin in there because I want to talk about those.
Those are all good.
So you guys, part of the woo, winning others over,
getting them to talk about themselves,
getting them to-
you know, feel comfortable making someone comfortable.
That's great.
But Nitin just said something.
And it's not just about respecting men.
It's about respecting people.
And that is let people, let them talk.
Don't interrupt them.
Don't ask them a question.
And then halfway through their response, interrupt them.
I know you get excited.
I know you want to talk to you.
Trust me, I get it.
I'm a talker.
But yeah, interrupting,
I've been taught that interruptions are rude period,
right?
It's rude.
People are slow talkers and they're slow processors.
And they just like take a while to answer.
And it might really be tempting for you to just cut them off
because you're like, oh my God,
this is watching like watching an iceberg move.
Right?
It's hard.
But interruptions are definitely rude.
So part of the woo is letting people express themselves
without cutting them off.
All right.
So Nitin said, letting me pay.
A man thinks it's disrespectful.
Gentlemen, can we get a consensus?
All the guys here, please raise your hand.
If you think it's disrespectful,
if a woman insists on paying for herself,
or if she argues with you or tries to force paying.
Let me see the hands of men that think that's a turnoff.
That's, they don't like it.
Right.
I wouldn't say it's disrespectful,
but it's not a letting me leave.
You know?
Yeah.
Ladies, it kind of,
without you saying anything about yourself,
it says something about you.
It says that you're prideful, basically, right?
Let him pay.
It's okay.
He can.
You're like, but I make more money than him.
Well, so what?
It's not about who makes more money.
It's about being treated like a lady.
It's good.
Okay.
And if you really don't like it,
get to the root of why,
like, why does that bother you?
What kind of,
why does that make you feel uncomfortable?
Get to the root of that,
because that will be helpful.
Okay.
So we're still on the woo.
Go ahead.
I think it's also,
it wouldn't be rude.
It's just, if a woman pays when I'm supposed to pay,
then I tell everyone,
tell friends and folks,
and they'll just think I'll get a negative response
from them thinking,
oh, Hunter, you're not doing a good job
as a man dating a woman.
So it's like, oh, I better pay then.
All right.
So Hunter doesn't want to get in trouble
with his friends and family.
So don't get Hunter in trouble.
Let him pay.
Okay.
All right.
I've offered to pay for the second dinner
and he looked at me,
asked me to arm wrestle,
which was a joke.
He was paying.
Very funny.
Funny, funny.
Okay.
Yeah.
Very funny.
Also with Jackie,
if women recognize what the core values are for a man,
allow him to do that.
So any man that is not a reprobate
is designed by God to want to protect
and provide for his woman.
So allow that.
Brett, can you tell the ladies,
according to you, okay,
what is the core values of a man?
And gentlemen, please weigh in.
Brett, we'll let you start.
And then guys, you can weigh in on that too.
The core values of a man,
the way God has designed us
is to provide for and protect our woman,
unless he is not worthy of the skin that God gave him.
But-
Whoa, he's coming on hard.
He's coming out, coming out hard.
Okay.
All right.
It's what it is.
Take that skin off.
You're not worthy of that skin you're wearing.
I'm sorry, go ahead.
Okay.
You're not worthy of the air on the planet then.
Whatever.
You are a reprobate if your core is not
to do those two things.
And if there's any Christian man on here
that can disagree with me, go ahead.
I dare you.
And ladies, we have a part to play in that.
Men can't protect us
if we won't allow ourselves to be protected.
Right?
Okay.
I remember I had a student who's, you know, fiance.
She met, you know, she had success in this program.
You know, he went to put his arm out
because she was about to walk into the traffic.
You know, they were at a concert or a game or something.
And, you know, he saw the car coming.
She didn't.
He put his hand out to kind of like block her
from walking into the street.
She got super upset about it.
I don't need you to protect me.
She like got all up, you know, she got all up in it.
And so ladies, we can't be,
men can't protect us
if we won't allow ourselves to be protected.
My husband makes me walk on the inside of.
The road, when we're walking on a near road, like he walks on the outside, I walk on the
inside.
And at first I have to be honest, it was kind of annoying.
I'm like, you're not my dad.
Right.
Um, I'm a big girl, you know, like, but then after a while, after some heart healing, I
was just like, okay, I've never.
And for those of you that have never had a man want to protect you, this is going to
be a huge shift for you because you've never had a man want to protect you.
And so it's going to, you're going to have to get used to that for sure.
Okay.
But yes, I like that.
Any other core values of men, men, any other core values?
Um, I guess Jackie listening and, and participating, um, if I'm sharing something with you, um,
that may be a little personal, uh, I'm opening up to you because I, I'm feeling comfortable
with you, ask me some leading questions, show interest so that I'm not speaking to
a wall and, and be genuine, right?
If you don't understand something, ask me to clarify because guys love to share.
And one of the ways I see a woman is interested in how she responds, please don't react, respond.
Like if, uh, I may have shared something, something might've happened.
I had a bad day.
Give me the grace.
I think one of the core values that men look for is grace on how you can help.
Grace is very important to us because we are imperfect like you, and we're going to make
mistakes.
So how does a lady show me grace?
Can she forgive me?
Those are, those are my values, core values and understanding.
Is she taking the time to understand me?
Is she genuinely interested in me?
Because I can sense how she engages me.
Yes, it's all good.
Those are really good points.
You guys, everyone wants to be listened to.
So put away your phone.
We're all bad about this.
Put away your phone.
We're having a conversation, make eye contact, you know, uh, engage in listening, but gentlemen,
I want to let you guys notice this and ladies, you two gentlemen seem to be bigger offenders
of this than men than women.
So I'm going to go ahead and address the guys, but ladies, if the shoe fits, tie it
up and wear it.
Okay.
Don't talk at us.
Talk to us.
Don't talk at us.
Talk to us.
All right.
It's not a monologue.
You're not on a stage somewhere.
It's a conversation.
It means it's two-sided, which means that you don't do all the talking and then we do
all the listening, right?
All the complaints that I've ever had about that is always about the man doing it.
He didn't ask me any questions.
All I did was talk about himself all night.
All he did was talk and talk and talk and expect me to listen.
Talked at me.
Didn't talk to me.
Didn't pause for my reaction or my response.
You guys, if you're doing that, you're not getting a second date, right?
If you're doing that, that's not wooing.
That's not winning anyone over.
Okay.
For sure.
And so, like I said, the only complaints and I get them a lot, women say that men do this
a lot.
I understand that you guys only have like 8,000 words a day.
And if you're going to use them all with us on the date, make sure that you take a breath
and let us respond and talk to us and not at us.
Okay.
All right.
Cause I know that women get a bad rap of being the talkers.
But in these situations, that's usually not the case.
All right.
So core values for men.
I like hearing this.
We love hearing from you guys.
So this listening, listening to me, responding, not reacting, ladies do not get your, don't
get your, do not get a stick up your butt.
Okay.
If a man says something that you don't really like or agree with, you don't got to get all
offended.
You don't got to act like sister, you know, sister of the driven white snow.
Okay.
Seriously.
If he, if he says a cuss word or something, you know, maybe he's not your person.
Maybe, you know, you're not going to go on a second date with him, but you also don't
have to act like you just got off the Puritan Mayflower.
Okay.
You've heard, you've heard that curse word before.
I guarantee it.
And so you don't have to give him, you don't have to become his mom.
Don't become his mom and tell him why he shouldn't cuss and why you're so offended by this cuss
word.
And we all know that you watch CSI where they be cussing up a storm and all your other like,
you know, true life, you know, true crime drama shows.
So don't do it.
Be polite.
Yes.
That's good.
Okay.
In fact, you don't have to correct them at all.
You can just not go out with them again.
If they're not your thing.
It's all good.
Okay.
Can I add something else?
So one of the things that is awesome that your husband honored you by taking the street
and protecting you.
You know, it took not every woman is a lot of ladies have a problem with you opening
their door.
They're like, I can open my door.
You know, but it really is a matter of cherishing and honoring, and, you know,
and guys are, um, wired to cherish, honor, and lead.
So, but it really is just, it's, it's as an honor, not as a, you can't do it yourself.
It's so true.
We, we know we can open the door ladies.
You might even be able to put the suitcase up on the airplane,
but if a man offers to do it, you guys, this is just your rule of thumb from now
on, it doesn't matter who the man is.
All right.
Unless he's dangerous or unsafe for some reason.
If he offers to help you, you say yes.
All right.
Because you need to, you need that practice for sure.
Let the door get opened, all the things.
Yes.
You got to chill for sure.
Okay.
Guys, we got to move on.
Um, we're going to talk about men.
We're going to talk about how to flirt and ladies, you're
going to help the men right now.
How do you like to be flirted with?
Like, for instance, if someone approaches you in a public place
that you don't know, they're a stranger.
You know, they find you attractive.
Maybe you find them attractive.
Maybe you guys have been stealing glances at each other
across the produce section.
Um, if they approach you, how would you want someone to
approach you in, in public?
You know, and flirt with you.
Um, how do you want that?
You guys, just so you know, looking at someone and I'm not talking
about staring at them, like you're some stalker who needs a restraining order.
But I am saying that glancing at someone and holding eye contact with
them for a few seconds, looking away.
And then, you know, when they look back up, you know, you look back
up and look at them again.
That's very flirtatious.
If you're making eye contact with someone more than once, you know,
that person is going to think that you are flirting with them and
that you are interested in them.
They are agreed.
Who would think that if someone kept catching your eye?
So that is, and you guys, and so when they, when you catch their eye,
maybe that second time, just smile, just a little smile and ladies, one
of the best ways that you can flirt during that time is you can look, you
know, at the second time when you catch their eye, you can smile and
then you can kind of look down.
If you smile and kind of look down, that is a very, you know,
we use the word coquettish.
That's very like a demure move.
That's definitely like, I notice you noticing me and I like it.
That is what that says.
That's what that body language says.
Okay, cool.
And when you do that, he's either going to approach you or he's not going to.
But if you just look again and you look away, you know, he may, he may not get
the cue, he may not get the flag, the green flag, but if you smile a little
bit and you look down, trust me, he will get that you're like, you know,
you're a little embarrassed.
You know, you, he was looking at you.
You're looking at him and now you're, you know, demurely kind
of smiling and looking down.
Now he has the green light to come and say hi to you.
Talk to you, do something.
Gentlemen, if a woman does that.
And, and you were purposely looking at her several times, go talk to her.
She's giving you the open door.
If she gives you the stink face and looks away, that's a closed door.
All right.
Um, men flirting, dating apps, gentlemen, we don't want to hear, hey, how was your
Hey, how was your day?
Hey, how are you doing?
Hey, hi.
How are you doing?
How was your day?
You know, how is your week going over and over and over and over and over again?
So we're here to help you get some pickup lines.
Ladies put the best pickup lines that you've ever heard in your life in the chat.
Gentlemen, if you have some good ones to share with each other, let's see them.
Let's see them.
I will tell you one.
That's not a good pickup line.
Even though I'm a married woman, I still do get hit on every once in a blue moon.
I was at sprouts.
I had an entire cart full of food for my cleanse that I was doing.
And this guy walked up to my cart.
He looked down at my cart.
He looked up at me and he said, that's a lot of fiber.
And I was like, yeah, it is.
And he's like, that's going to make you poop.
And then he walked away, but I knew that he was kind of like flirting with me.
Right.
And I was just like, wow, that was just really weird.
And so I went down the other aisles and then I ran into him again, much to my
dismay, and he was there.
And then he looked me right in the face and he said, Hey, he goes, I just want to
let you know that, you know, you look like someone who can take a good poop.
He looked like someone who's regular, that poops regularly or something like that.
And I was just like, you guys, I was like, that's not a great line, but it's also hilarious.
And so I just kind of like laughed and looked down.
I didn't tell him I was a matchmaker.
I didn't tell him what I did, but I just said, well, I said, that's not the best line.
I said, that's not the best line for you kind of thing.
And I just kept going, uh, you know, in my life.
So you guys poops are funny, but definitely not a good pickup line.
Okay.
So best pickup lines.
Let's go ahead and have a contest and the poster girl for Metamucil.
Yeah.
Just, I don't know.
You look like someone who's, who's healthy and regular.
Thanks dude.
I appreciate that.
Want to see a dead body, Nora, what's explain.
So I was on a date.
Well, okay.
I was, it was a guy I'd already met with, but I matched him on like, okay, Cupid, but
I just forgot to like, ask him what he did for a living.
I just like, didn't really, I don't think that's that interesting of a question sometimes,
but maybe I should have asked.
So yeah, we met up for ice cream and he came in this like really oversized suit and I was
like, Oh, where'd you come from?
He's like, Oh, I'm from work.
And so it turned out he was a funeral director.
I was like, Oh, that's interesting.
Like I don't really know that much about the industry.
And he was like, Oh yeah.
Well, do you want to come by?
Like, do you want to see a dead body?
And I was like, no, no, I don't.
So that was the first and last date with him.
Oh my gosh.
So disrespectful that sound like that he would be even willing to show you some person's
body.
Yeah.
There was a lot to unpack there.
Yeah.
That was so, Oh my gosh.
That's a lot to unpack.
Okay.
So you guys, do you want to see a dead body?
It's not a good one.
It's not a good one at all.
All right.
Um, I was reading the book of numbers and I realized I didn't have yours, Maggie.
So corny, but funny because ladies raise your hand.
If you like a funny guy, if you like a guy who can crack a joke, that's, you know, not
off color.
That's funny.
Corny.
Yeah.
Look at all that.
We like the, we like it.
Funny gentlemen.
We like it.
Okay.
Um, good.
Good.
Go ahead.
So the guy I was talking to said, you know, would look really good on you.
And I said, what?
And he said himself, and I'm like, they're all too forward.
Yeah.
You guys, there's a line and that was crossed.
That was crossed.
Right.
Okay.
All right.
I would throw him a bone.
That's funny.
Okay.
Probably would be disappointed, but when the grocery cart, okay.
Um, okay.
We need those pickup lines and gentlemen, you're allowed to, you're allowed to, um,
first of all, ladies, let's talk about being complimented.
A lot of you get really upset if someone says, you know, like, Oh, you're beautiful or whatever,
you know?
And I understand that scammers and spammers do that on dating apps, but how would you
feel about someone saying that in person?
Is that too forward to say, Oh, Hey, you know, if someone shows up, if you show up
to a data coffee date and someone says, Oh, you look really pretty, you know, or they
show up to a dinner date with someone and they say, Oh, you know, you look beautiful
tonight.
I would like that.
You know, even if I'm not sure if this is my person, I feel very flattered by that.
And ladies, you need to know that men like compliments to sincere compliments, not just
flattery, but sincere compliments.
You know, if a man has, you know, pretty eyes, tell him that he has, you know, beautiful
eyes.
Make sure he's not married.
Don't go up to someone in the grocery store and say, Oh, you have the most beautiful blue
eyes.
And then, you know, put your wedding ring on, bro.
This is a true story, obviously that I'm sharing right now, but men do like to be complimented
too.
They do that shirt looks great on you.
You know, that, that kind of meant that goes far with men.
They, they like, they like compliments.
It's not just a female thing.
Right.
Let's see if we can find some good, you look Brazilian with that butt of yours.
Okay.
You guys, I I'm talking about good pickup lines, geez.
A guy wants to ask me if we could take a selfie together.
Okay.
That's a nice breaker.
Did he say why Linda?
Yeah, he just loved my smile and the guy was half my age.
And so I was kind of tickled pink.
I thought, man, you're young and you think I'm beautiful.
I yeah, you're going to be floating around on that.
Yeah, I did.
I floated and I took advantage of, and I said, yes, and I loved it.
I like it.
It's good.
Tall glass of water. Okay. You guys still,
we don't want to start out with pickup lines that are better overtly or
covertly sexual. Don't start out with that at all.
All right. That is not appropriate. That's not being a gentleman.
Cause we've got to get some, we've got to get some pickup lines.
Kate has a bunch of weird ones. I'd slay two Goliaths for you.
I'd part the red sea for you. You've been chair.
You've been definitely hanging out with some churchy dudes.
I literally just Google search Christian pickup line. So I don't know.
Okay. I'm like, what the heck's happening here? Okay.
All right. So
don't use the word pretty Mike, go ahead. You can,
you can expound on that.
Sorry. Sorry. I just switched my phone. Well,
like it's really not a masculine term. So we're pretty like, you know it just,
I don't know what, whatever I hear the word us saying us saying that your eyes
are pretty. Yeah. It's like, Oh no. Yeah.
But, but I mean, I,
I feel like we can tell you that your eyes are beautiful because
that works, but the pretty thing just, yeah. Right. No, for sure. Yeah. Yes.
Yes. I stopped myself and changed it to beautiful when I realized what I said,
for sure. But, you know, we're not going to say, Oh, you have handsome eyes.
No, you know, you have beautiful eyes and yeah.
That that shirt, that shirt makes your eyes look so blue or so green, or,
you know, you have the most, you know,
beautiful brown eyes or whatever men do like compliments.
Okay. You guys are putting up some goofy pickup lines.
I don't see anything here that I,
Oh my gosh. Are these real pickup lines? I mean, you guys,
I want you to share the ones that people have used with you that even if you
didn't like them, you just thought it was, you thought it was fun and cute.
I have one. It's a little bit long though. Okay.
I just copied him because I didn't remember it. Um, I,
I had to copy and paste this long, but anyway,
he reached out to me and said, this is a bit of an awkward hello,
but you know, sometimes all you need is 20 seconds of insane courage,
just literally 20 seconds of just embarrassing bravery.
And I promise you something great will come of it. Can you name that movie?
It was awesome.
Yeah, no, that's good. Nice icebreaker.
You guys pick up lines don't always have to be something, you know, romantic,
you know, it's just, it's an icebreaker. It's a way to get your foot in the door.
It's a way, it's a way to start a conversation, right?
It's a way to start a conversation for sure.
You know, gentlemen, you know, if you, if you like, if you,
if you see a woman in public, did ladies, did you say whether or not, okay,
so let's weigh in on if the man is a stranger to you.
And because we're trying to bring back some old fashioned ideas of meeting
people. And a lot of times you see someone as a single person, you see someone,
you don't see a ring and you're in a public place at the grocery store or
wherever gas station,
and you see them and maybe you guys do the little I thing.
And you want to say something to her. What ladies,
what would you feel comfortable with?
I had a guy tonight,
approach me in a restaurant and he basically just said,
are you new? Are you, no, he said, are you from here?
Are you from around here? And I said, no. And then he said,
what are you going to get? So that's how he started off. And,
you know, I will post the rest of this story in the group,
but it was a great night. So just simple things like that.
Okay. You know, personally, I like cheeky people.
So like if I was standing in a restaurant, maybe I have the menu I'm looking at,
you know, what I want to order. Maybe I'm taking takeout or something. And,
you know, I'm just looking at it. And, uh, you know,
a guy comes over and says something like something funny, like don't get the
duck, you know, like just, you know, just something like just breaks the ice.
Like, Oh, don't get the calamari. Totally. Don't get it.
Trust me. You know, just something funny, you know,
something that's just like cheeky, funny. And, uh, that's,
that's what I definitely, I like that. So gentlemen, anytime you can,
you know, say something funny and cheeky and,
um, little sassy ladies, ladies, we like that. And ladies, gentlemen,
like women to be a little sassy to show that you have a little fire inside of
you without being.
you know, inappropriate and without, you know, um,
don't let the sassy be aggressive.
There's a difference between aggression and sassiness. I like cheesy.
I think cheesy is funny too. My husband's like the king of dad jokes,
and they're just so dumb. They're funny. They're so dumb that they're funny.
Oh, that's cute. So if you're at the grocery store, Elaine said,
I must've lost my invite, but it looks like you're making a good dinner.
You like stuff like that. You know,
remember if you haven't already made eye contact with her and she hasn't already
giving you the green flag to come over,
try to do that first before you just go over and drop the pickup line,
try to get the, you know, the permission to approach.
Cool. And listen,
if you're at the grocery store and you see each other in more than one aisle,
you know,
you can also kind of try to make that happen without being too obvious and too
weird and too creepy about it. But if that happens, you know,
you can say something like, wow,
we got to stop running into each other like this, you know, or, you know, um,
you, you, you took the, you took the last, you took, you know,
I came looking for you because you took the last, last bag of Oreos. You know,
I really need those for a recipe I'm making tonight. You know, you just be funny.
And if you don't know how to be funny, Google it. Google will tell you,
let AI tell you how to be funny. AI will get you there. Okay. Um,
I'm looking for, I'm sorry. Go ahead. No talk.
I was at the grocery store and I couldn't reach, you know,
something high and there was a guy and I asked him if he would get that for me.
And he did. And I smiled at him and I, I thanked him, but I said,
you're my hero. And he just loved it. He just glowed.
Okay.
Men love a compliment inside.
Every man is a little boy who wants to know that he has done good and that he
is pleased. You men are that men very much want to please women.
They really do want to write within reason, but yes,
I love that. That's so good.
Um,
you guys, if you have a cute neighbor, that's not married,
I got advice for you.
I got advice for you. Okay. This, this actually goes for, and remember,
it's not manipulative. Okay. Because you're doing your intentions of your heart
are not to manipulate or to deceive. They're just to, you know,
be noticed. And so if you,
if there's a guy that you have a little bit of a crush on gentlemen,
you could do this as well. But ladies, I think we do this a little bit better.
Um, just be available. Meaning like David lived next door to me.
I kind of caught on that. I thought he was a little bit interested in me.
And so guess what? I knew his routine. We were next door neighbors.
We carpooled each other's kids. And so I would just, I, back then I,
I was a jogger. I used to jog. And back then, um,
when I knew he was coming home from work,
like I would wait to do my jog when he'd be pulling into the complex,
I would be jogging out of it. Cause I thought maybe he'd like to see me,
you know, in my little jogging outfit, because I was cute
staying on his radar, making sure that he knows that I'm still alive,
even though maybe he doesn't see me every day,
even though we live next door to each other.
And then when we got a little bit more cheeky with each other,
I would send him text messages. Like he'd be inside his house.
I may, may have not seen him the entire day. And I would send him a message.
And I would say, um, what you doing in there?
I wouldn't say anything else. I wouldn't say, hi, how are you?
I wouldn't say who it was texting. I would just say, what you doing in there.
And he told me, I mean, after we started being together,
he told me that he just thought that I was so cute and funny and just the right
appropriate amount of flirty. Right. Just, he was just like, oh, she likes me.
Like what you doing in there? What's going on in there. Okay.
So these are things you can do. It is cute.
These are things that you can do, right?
You got a cute guy in your neighborhood. You can go outside. You guys,
it's not sexualized. I'm not telling you to put a bikini on,
but you could go out and old school, wash your car,
wash your car in the driveway.
Remember how we used to do with the bucket and the suds Rizzo remember with the
sponges and the hose, you can go outside in the summertime, you know,
and like I said, I'm not telling you to put a bikini on. I'm just saying,
be available, be seen,
be outside, weed your garden,
do something so that when they're driving by, they see you. There you are.
Hi.
All right, what about your chiropractor?
Oh, wow.
You have a crush on your chiropractor, Dana?
Do you?
Are they married?
Make sure they're not married.
I don't think so, but I do,
and we've been flirting a little bit, so it's interesting.
Okay, well, explain to us, okay, here's a case study.
Dana's willing to be a case study, volunteering his tribute.
You've been flirting with each other.
Let us be the judge of that.
Tell us what's happened.
So the first time I went there, he gave me his number, and-
That's not flirting, that's beyond flirting.
That's like, okay, did he say why?
Well, he wants to get into some animal chiropractic work,
and so I'm a veterinarian, and so I told him
that I could find out some information for him,
and yeah, so it was pretty interesting.
Okay, so he gave you his number,
but he also wants some kind of connection,
so it could be flirting, it might not be flirting.
What other evidence do you got?
So when I texted him, I said,
oh, I found some information.
My horse's chiropractor's coming out,
and he said, oh, I'd love to come, I'd love to be there,
and so we've kind of been going back and forth with this,
but it's a little awkward because he's my chiropractor,
and I don't want to be disrespectful for him,
but also letting him know I'm interested, so.
Okay, and so, okay, so let's talk about how to flirt
with someone where they might be flirting,
they might not be flirting.
We're not really sure if they are or not.
They definitely like our presence.
They like being with us.
Maybe we're together for a certain specific reason,
like what she's talking about.
He's a chiropractor, she's a veterinarian.
He wants to get into animal chiropractic care.
Okay, so the way that you kind of like
put out the fishing line to see is, you know,
you say something like, you know,
if he's coming to something that has to do with animals,
then you say, yeah, and then, you know, afterwards,
you know, maybe we can grab dinner,
and then you guys, a wink emoji,
or some kind of emoji that's flirty, you put it there.
That way it's not just a business dinner,
it's not to talk about business.
If you want to smoke someone out and see whether or not
they're interested in you besides just platonically
and whatever the scenario is, then you can use that emoji.
You can use not just that emoji,
you can use lots of emojis.
Don't use the peach or the eggplant emoji ever
for any reason, okay?
Those don't mean what you think.
Just say, hey, do you want to go and pick peaches?
Peach emoji?
No.
No peach emoji, all right?
Want to come over for dinner,
and then you're making ratatouille,
so you use the eggplant emoji?
No.
And if you don't understand why, go ask a Gen Z,
they'll tell you.
All right, so I'm making a peach eggplant pie, Nora.
Oh, all right.
You guys, so inappropriate.
All right.
Emojis, how can we-
I just had a man sort of flirt with me, I think.
Jackie, do you want to hear about it?
Yes, but how can we take regular messages to people,
and how can we make it clear that we're interested in,
you know, that we're flirting, that we're flirting?
We can use emojis, y'all.
Emojis say things that maybe your message,
your text is not saying.
They're not getting it.
Use the emoji, all right?
And we'll give some examples of that in a second.
Go ahead and put some examples up.
Whoever just said that, go.
Example of a person-
Okay, so I just started a new job.
I'm a swim coach,
and after I was done teaching some lessons,
the little boy that was very difficult,
this man who had been kind of doing that,
looking at me, not looking at me,
saying the whole 30 minutes I was teaching this child,
he gets up and walks towards me and says,
wow, you have the patience of a saint.
And I said, oh, thank you.
And then two more times walked by,
again, said the same exact thing.
And I just smiled.
I said, yeah, that was really a hard lesson.
And then he goes and changes his children,
and he comes back.
I'm sitting outside now at a table.
He comes straight up to me and just smiling
and starts talking to me, asking me if I'm new,
introduces his voice to me, asks the boys to shake my hand,
asks if I can do anything for, you know,
do you need any help with anything? If you need any help, let your boss know she has my phone
number. He says that twice. And then I'm like, oh gosh, well, should I say something? So I did.
I said, well, I'm not sure what kind of help you could help me with. He says, well, here,
let me give you my number. And so he got my phone number, texted me, and then texted me a few
different websites, like his kid's school and the gym. And he's also a funeral director, which is
odd, owns a few funeral homes. So yeah, so it was kind of interesting. It made me happy, but I was
a little nervous at the same time. So all this was the context of you being new to town?
Yes, new to town and also new to the facility that he brings his kids to swim.
OK, great. Well, I mean, that's obvious that, you know, I mean, to me, that's obvious that he's
interested because no one's going to be that friendly and that like, I mean, what is he like
the designated tour guide of the, of the area? Um, so, but that is a good way to flirt with someone.
If you find out that they just moved there, you can offer to show them around you guys,
that it's a really good way to flirt with someone. That's a way to get in the door of
hanging out with them, offer, show them around. I know lots of people that have met their significant
other because through casual conversation somewhere, and this is another thing, get used
to talking to people. Like when you're waiting in line somewhere, you know, being funny or, you know,
saying something, you know, I used to back when I was single, there was this daycare that not
daycare, there's preschool dad. And we'd have to wait in a long hallway to pick up our kids
from their classrooms. Right. And we'd all be waiting in the hallway together every single
Tuesday and Thursday. And I, you know, I was a divorced mom. He's a divorced dad. We're in the,
you know, we're in the hallway and I would notice him sometimes looking at me, you know,
and stuff. And remember, I'm very bold and not all of you are going to be able to do what I did
and what I do. But, you know, finally I could tell he was really shy and, but I could also tell
that he liked me. I could tell that he liked me or thought I was pretty. And also that he was,
you know, more kind of introverted or shy. And so I helped him out. I dropped him the hanky.
I said, Hey, I said, um, some of us are getting together for my birthday. We're going to lunch.
You know, do you want to go? And he was like, yeah, absolutely. And I said, okay, great.
It'll just be me and you. And it's not my birthday.
And there you go. We're going to lunch. It's not my birthday and nobody else is coming,
but me and you. Right. Because I'm funny and goofy. So yeah, ladies, let's talk about dropping
the hanky and gentlemen, please weigh in about how you feel about a woman. Like if you're interested
in a woman, do you take the initiative all the time? Even if you don't know, she's interested
in her or in you, or would you prefer if she kind of waved the green flag at you saying, come on,
you know, you know, ask me out. I want to go out with you gentlemen. Tell us what you think.
Jackie. I'm totally fine. Open to that. If a woman tells her I'm interested, that's great.
Okay. Please wave, wave, please wave, wave the flag. Oh, wave the flag. Yeah.
I thought you just meant wave. I'm like wave. Okay. Wave the flag. Yes. Brett wants you guys
want, they want the sign. They want you to give them the sign that it's safe to approach.
Jason's like wave the flag, please wave it. Okay. All right. So see ladies, it's okay.
If you have any reason to believe that, you know, he wants to ask you out or would like to get to
know you better, but he hasn't asked you can go ahead and do what I did. Maybe not as,
maybe not as bold as me, but I was born that way. I have no excuses.
But, you know, a lot of times too, when people are too flirty there, there's a, there's a line,
you can be too flirty. And then people think you're not serious, right? They think you're
just like that with everyone. They don't feel special. One thing you definitely don't want
to do. If you're a flirty personality, you definitely don't want to flirt with other
people when you're, and a lot of people don't even know they're doing it. You don't mean
anything romantic or sexual by it. You're just a flirty, friendly person.
But if you're on a date with someone, whether you're a man or a woman, I've seen this happen.
Don't pay an inordinate amount of attention to the opposite sex around you, whether it's the
server, whether it's, you know, you're on a double date, the other person's date, that's
the opposite side. So don't do that. I know you're friendly. I know you're gregarious,
maybe even like attending, but don't pay an inordinate amount of attention to the opposite
if you're being honest with yourself, but at the same time, that's a huge turnoff.
Big, big, big turnoff, right? So use your power of woo with the person that you're with,
not with everybody else. Flag them in, flag them in. Okay. We have some other things on here. Okay.
So things not to say we, I think we kind of went over that. Don't go sexual with your compliments
at any, at any juncture, save that for when you're in level three and four, you know,
preferably level four, you're getting married. You want to say something that's a little risque
to your fiance, you know, y'all are going to be having sex before long.
You can do that there. Don't do that before that. That's a huge turnoff. You guys, I had a couple
that was dating solidly. They were doing really, really well. Um, they were even talking about,
um, a future together, but he went a little too far in a text message that he sent,
even though, like I said, they were exclusive and they were talking about a future together.
And it was a huge turnoff for her. It actually triggered her and they broke up.
So he thought that he had the green light to kind of joke around with her like that.
Um, but he didn't have the green light to do it because it wasn't,
they weren't far enough in commitment for her to feel safe with that kind of,
you know, that kind of message or conversation. Okay. Um,
um,
how to take flirting lightly and not get bent out of shape or feel rejected.
If you're flirting goes on returned, you guys, when flirting is done, right? It's really just
being friendly, right? And if someone doesn't reciprocate, if you're out gentlemen, and you
kind of shoot your shot, you flirt with a woman and she doesn't reciprocate, you know, or she
looks annoyed or she's just like, whatever, you know, kind of thing. It's not a big deal.
Right. At least you tried. At least you tried right. Ladies, same thing. If you know that guy
that you see, you know, that comes into and delivers packages at your work every Thursday,
and you think he's cute, you know, and you want to, you know, you want to try to drop the Hanky
and he doesn't pick it up. It's okay. It's giving you practice and who knows, maybe they just feel
awkward right in that moment, but maybe if they, you see them every Thursday, now that they know
that you're interested, if you did it, right, they know you're interested. Who knows what might
happen as you continue with that. All right. Mike is saying, I have a hard time recognizing
ladies. Hopefully you see that you, I know that we think that men are just disinterested or they're
aloof, but they don't know that you like them. Nine times out of 10. They don't know. Right.
Unless you're like me, then they definitely know. They definitely know that you like them because
you're not, you're not splitting any hairs for sure. Okay. All right. I'm just trying to catch
up with your stuff. Okay. So I think that we talked about some good things. You guys went
about 90 minutes. I hope this was fun for you. I would like to, for you to try this in the wild.
Now I feel like for you to try this in real life. So I want you to pick something off of what we
talked about tonight. And I want you to give it a shot, right? You're like, well, you know, I have
to find someone that I'm interested in before I can flirt with them. Contrary more frayer. That's
not true. You can just practice flirting, practice flirting, you know, who knows it might end up
in a date of some sort if you're doing it right. Practice ladies, practice giving men compliments,
sincere compliments, not just idle, you know, vain flattery, but complimenting. Okay.
Practice making eye contact, practice smiling. You know, it's okay to, you know, you know,
practice letting men do chivalrous things for you. I want you to practice all of that. Okay. Mike's
leaving, uh, gentlemen, I want you to practice approaching women and, you know, and talking to
them, uh, striking up conversations with them. If you think she's pretty in public and you don't
see a ring, I want you to go ahead and practice your flirting skills. What you, you heard what
your sister said, someone who is half her age asked to take a selfie with her. And she was,
you know, walking on cloud nine for the rest of the day, even if it doesn't.
doesn't turn into a date because maybe you're not truly interested and maybe
she isn't either. Guess what?
You're going to leave that person better than you found them. They're going to,
they're going to feel really good about themselves and you're going to feel
really good about making them feel good about themselves. Is that true?
It's true.
So we have to practice connecting with other people.
And this is one of the ways that we do that is by,
um, is by talking to people. It's by, you know,
making jokes with people and being, you know, um, open ladies.
One of the things that you can do is you can have open body language.
You can pay attention to your face and make sure that when you're out in public
or you're doing things,
or you're talking to someone on a FaceTime cause you met them on a dating app.
Make sure that, you know, you don't look mad or angry. Make sure that,
you know, you have a song in your heart and your face is reflecting that. Okay.
When you're out in public, I'm a super friendly person.
So when I'm out in public, I seem like I'm having a good day,
unless I'm really not having a good day.
And then I'm making eye contact with people. People hate eye contact.
People are scared of eye contact, but I make an eye contact.
I'm the person that's going to talk to you in the elevator.
I'm going to ask you how your day's going in the bathroom while we're washing
our hands about to leave the bathroom. I'm that person. I won't be that person.
All right. If you're not that person, that's fine,
but try to be more of that person. This is how you meet people.
This is how you meet people. And even if it's another woman, gentlemen,
even if it's another man that you're meeting, you don't know who they know.
They might be like, man, you know, follow me on Instagram.
You're the nicest and friendliest person I ever met.
And then they tell their single son, daughter, grandson, granddaughter,
somebody, their best friend. I met the most friendly person today.
You should meet them too. Lots of matches get made this way.
Okay. Cool. So we're going to be friendly. We're going to go out there.
We're going to smile. We're going to flirt.
And we're going to come back and report ladies.
You're going to go ahead and put that man out of his misery and drop the hanky.
If he doesn't pick it up, he doesn't pick it up, move on with your life.
But he may have just been waiting to see whether or not you're actually giving
him a permission to approach.
Okay. Let's do it. Cool. Open posture. Yes.
Don't sit around like this all the time with your arms folded, right?
With a big old F U written on your forehead. Don't do that.
Don't do that. I was going to show you a clip tonight, you guys,
but I couldn't get it together.
Go Google hitch with Will Smith and Google the bar scene where he first meets
where he first meets Eva Long. He, uh, what's her name?
He first meets Eva Mendez and she's sitting in the bar. She's, you know,
got, and he comments on it cause he's a matchmaker. So he comments on,
you know, how's this guy hitting on you? You know, you got your arms cross,
you got the thing written on your forehead. You're like, yeah.
So go take a look at that clip bar scene in the movie hitch,
very funny.
And that will tell you a lot of what you need to know about closed off body
language. Cool. Cool. All right.
I know that there's a lot of good tidbits today about first impressions,
the woo respect, honor, you know, um,
general politeness to other people, not interrupting them.
Also how to flirt. There's a lot of things. So please watch the replay.
We don't want to go much longer cause we don't want it to be too long.
And we will see you guys supernatural Saturday and we're having our prophetic
night this Sunday night. So if you want to come to that,
please come to that and we'll see you soon. Bye everyone.