Welcome to part two.
Now, before we can go any further, we have to talk about this heart.
What is the heart?
And before we can talk about what the heart is, we have to talk about what we are.
What are we?
What are you?
Are you that thing that you see in the mirror?
No, you're not.
Thank goodness, right?
On some days we're like, whew, thank goodness.
There's more to me than this.
There is.
You're actually a spirit.
You are.
You are a spirit that lives in a body.
This body is your vehicle.
This is the car that you're riding in during this temporary earthly journey that you got
going on here.
You're a spirit that lives in a body that possesses a soul.
You possess a soul.
And that soul part is the heart part that we're talking about.
So you're eternal.
You're eternal.
You've always existed.
You're always going to exist.
Before you got this body and you came on the earth, you existed in the imagination of God.
So you always have been and you always will be, right?
Good news is that we get an upgrade.
This body's kind of falling apart.
This car, going to ride it till the wheels fall off, literally, and then we're going
to get an upgrade, which that's exciting because a lot of us are like, whew, can I get that
upgrade now?
I mean, like right now, like on earth, like here, like get an upgrade.
I keep waiting for science to catch up where we just would step into like a tanning bed
or something, like close the door and then come out and everything is upgraded.
But because that's not happening, we got to take good care of this car that we're living
inside of, this vehicle that we're riding in.
So your eternal spirit is having a temporary experience in this body and it possesses this
thing called the soul, which is also the heart, right?
And the heart is the epicenter.
It's the epicenter of your life.
I want you to think of it as master control.
It's the place of your mind, your will, your emotions.
It's where all the amazing and important information is being kept.
And that's a really important place in our lives.
So what happens if this important place gets ransacked, if it gets vandalized, if it gets
messed up, if it gets broken, what happens?
What happens then?
I'll tell you what happens.
Jeremiah 17 happens, and I'm going to read this right now.
This is describing the broken heart, that vandalized, wrecked up, messed up heart.
The heart, that heart, is hopelessly dark and deceitful, a puzzle that no one can figure
out.
But I, God, search the heart and examine the mind.
I get to the heart of the human.
I get to the root of things.
I treat them as they really are, not as they pretend to be.
So let's go over this real quick.
Let's go over what Jeremiah 17 is telling us about our broken hearts.
It's saying that they're liars, they're puzzles, and they're pretenders.
Those are three very important characteristics and attributes of the broken heart.
Who are they lying to?
They're liars, but who are they lying to?
Well, they're lying to everybody, but they're mostly lying to you.
How?
They're telling you that you want things that you don't want, that you need things that
you don't need.
My broken, messed up heart had me running 100 miles an hour down a dead end road so
many times, including down an altar, down, down to an altar to get married when I was
only 20 years old.
Wasn't a good idea.
I had a lot of bad information, bad information from my childhood that was packed away in
these heart boxes.
And I was lying to myself, telling myself that this is what I needed.
There was more red flags in the Daytona 500, but I wasn't paying attention because my heart
wanted what it wanted.
A lot of times you'll see those bumper stickers on the back of cars that say, follow your
hearts.
Only if you want to end up in a ditch or off the side of a cliff, because a broken heart
will only lead you into trouble.
And why is that?
Because it's a puzzle.
That's the second characteristic.
It's a puzzle.
Can't figure it out.
As soon as you give it what it says it wants, it doesn't want that anymore.
It will keep you chasing shadows and living a counterfeit life for the rest of your life.
And just so you know, this broken, messed up heart is the one that's getting up every
morning, is eating your breakfast, is driving your car.
It's the one that picked that job that you don't like, that you're going to every day,
with wasting your one and only life doing something that you don't like.
It's the one that's swiping right on that dating app, picking all those dates out for
you.
Look, we do not want that heart choosing anything for us anymore.
And that is why we are here, because that heart operates on bad information.
It's operating on the lies from trauma, which we're going to get to in a minute.
It's operating on all kinds of vows and mantras and different things that you don't want your
life being led by that any longer.
And you can't figure it out, because every time you try to fix it, remember the New Year,
the New Year magic, oh, I'm going to fix my life, I'm going to go to the gym, I'm going
to start taking care of myself, I'm going to eat.
right? I'm going to get a different job. All the things that we try to do on the outside to fix it,
they don't work because we're not stuck on the outside. We're stuck on the inside and we don't
know it. So as soon as you give it what it says it wants, it doesn't want it anymore. It's like
a cranky toddler. They're pointing, you know, they want something, they're crying, they're
throwing a tantrum and then you give them whatever that thing is. And two seconds later, they throw
that on the ground and they're pointing and wanting something else. That's what these broken,
immature hearts are like. And then the last attribute is that it's a pretender
and it's pretending. It's fooling you and everyone else, but guess who it isn't fooling?
That scripture says that it isn't fooling God. You know why? Because God knows the real you.
You might not have ever even met the real you. You have so many layers of false and counterfeit
personalities because your heart's been so broken and we're going to talk about how that whole
process works in just a few minutes, but he knows the real you. And this is why a lot of times
that he won't answer the prayers, at least not the way you want them answered, that you pray
from that broken heart, because he knows that you wouldn't be asking for that if you knew who you
really were. And you certainly wouldn't be asking that when it comes to romance, you wouldn't be
asking for that person if you knew who they really were, or you knew the real situation
behind what you can't see. There's so many things that we can't see.
And that's why it's so important that we be God defended because he sees all things.
In fact, the word of God says that he searches the heart. He doesn't pay a lot of attention to
the outside. Us humans, we just pay so much attention to the outside, right? If it's talking
a good game, if it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, then it must be a duck. But God sees
the heart and he understands the intentions of someone's life. He understands who they really
are. He understands what they really want. He doesn't just look at the what, the what that we
do. He looks at the why that we did it. And that's important because that brings mercy and grace.
God's not just looking at the what you did or the what that they did. He's also looking at the why
behind it. And that is what he wants to get down to. He says, I get down to the root of things.
That's what that scripture says. And so we're going to talk about fruit versus root here in
just a few minutes, but let's talk about these broken hearts and how they got broken in the
first place. First of all, the thing that you need to know is that our hearts are highly
impressionable. Think of it as a garden or a womb. Whatever gets into it reproduces,
and then it produces the quality of your life. That's what it says in Proverbs. Proverbs says
in chapter four, verse 23, guard your heart because out of your heart flows the quality
of your life. And so whatever gets in your heart, whatever information gets into this epicenter
of your mind, will, and emotions, this really important place where all the important information
is being kept. I didn't say that it was good information, and I didn't say it was correct
information. I just said it was information. And when it gets in there, it stays in there.
It gets in there, and then it reproduces. It doesn't just stay by itself. It starts to mature.
It starts to expand, and it reproduces, and then it produces the quality of your life,
according to Proverbs 4.23. And so if you don't like the quality of your life,
then you probably haven't been taught to guard your heart. And of course you haven't. Most of
us come from families where that's the first place that our heart got broken in the first place.
I know that you're here because you want to be married. And what's so beautiful about that is
that'll just be the cherry on top, that beautiful romance that you're wanting. You're going to get
so much more out of doing the heartwork course than that, because there's all kinds of areas
of your life where God wants to bless you and upgrade you. But a lot of us are here because
we want the romance. We want the marriage. And our hearts are broken, but our hearts weren't
broken the first time in a romance. They were broken the first time in our families.
That's where they were broken. We weren't taught how valuable we were. We weren't taught to guard
our hearts. We wore our hearts on our sleeves. You know, we have passwords for everything in
our lives. We have locks on everything. We have passwords on our phone, and we have locks on our
doors and on our cars and all different types of things that we consider valuable. But our hearts,
a lot of times, just get thrown around. They get stomped. They get worn on our sleeve. We just
allow anyone and everyone to just come on in and wipe their feet on our heart. And one of the
things that you're going to learn during this course is how to have really good boundaries
because you value yourself. And when you value something, you protect it. You protect it,
and you allow it to be protected. So that's that beautiful exchange of being God-defended.
So sometimes it's a family tradition for us to have a broken heart. I know it wasn't my family.
I came into this world, I told you running for my
life. I feel like my childhood was an episode or a documentary on National Geographic of the babies
being born, the baby giraffe or the baby elephant, and all the predators are lurking in the grass,
just waiting to pounce on that squishy little newborn. And so that baby has to run for its life
as soon as it comes out of the womb. You see that mother animal kicking it, come on little baby,
you got to get up, you got to run for your life. And I feel like that is my story, my childhood
story. I came out of the womb running for my life. Danger everywhere, everywhere there was
something that was just trying to take me out. I was surrounded by broken people, broken lives,
broken marriages, and broken hearts. In fact, until I was much older and I met Jesus in my 20s,
I didn't know that there was anything else besides a broken heart. So if you're like me,
and it's a family tradition to have a broken heart, then the good news is, is that whatever's
running your family, this is where it gets to run out. It gets to run out with you. This is where
it stops. You're going to have a healed, healthy, and whole heart. And you're going to be able to
step into a lot of beautiful and amazing things that the people that came before you didn't have
access to. And if you're sitting here and you're saying, man, I just came from a really great
family. And that's not what happened to me. I just want to encourage you that I'm not leaving
you out right now because everybody suffers. Everybody gets their heart broken by something
in this world, because this world is just so broken. There's brokenness all around us. And I
can tell you story after story of people, students of mine, clients of mine that have come from
amazing families that have just had, you know, they've experienced just such trauma in other
areas where something has happened that's very unfortunate, you know, bad things happen to good
people kind of thing. And when that trauma comes, and it's not if it comes, it's when it comes,
it doesn't just hurt us. It creates different versions of us. Okay, different versions of us
are created so that we can survive whatever that trauma is. And those different versions are based
on lies. So the trauma that you went through, it's over now, right? Hopefully, if it's not,
hang on, hang on, we're going to be with you. And you're going to push right on through whatever
you're going through. But most likely that trauma that you went through is over now,
it might be ancient history, it may have happened 20 years ago, or 30 years ago.
However long ago it happened, it didn't just hurt you, it created different versions of you. And
those versions believe lies. And it's not the trauma that happened that's going to stop you
from living an amazing life. It's those lies that you believe because of it, that's going to stop
you. And oftentimes, those lies are disguised as our promise. I'm sorry, as our problem areas,
not our promise areas, as our problem areas. And those problem areas are areas where we've
lost hope, we don't believe anything can be different, because it's just been so bad for
so long. And you can have functional areas in your life. And you can have dysfunctional areas
in your life. I think people often think, well, if my heart's broken, then my whole life is going
to be tore up from the floor up. Well, that's just not true. Wherever area that trauma was in,
in your life, in relationship, maybe it was in your health, maybe it was in your family,
maybe it was in community, friendship, whatever area that trauma happened in,
that will be the area where you believe your biggest lie. And that will be the source of
your biggest problem. So as you can see, our problem is really not our problem. It's just
a byproduct of some past trauma in our lives. So you can have really functional areas. Maybe you
have your money on lockdown, you're really good with your finances, you're not in debt, you're
really responsible in that area, but perhaps relationships are a struggle area for you.
That's the area where you're riding the struggle bus, and you just can't figure it out. It's a
puzzle. You just don't know. You just keep making bad decision after bad decision. And you just
really don't have hope that anything's ever going to be any different. So you can have those areas
where you have it kind of together, and then other areas where you're just a hot mess, you're riding
the hot mess express. And so whatever area you have your biggest mess in, that is where you're
going to find your biggest lie. You can also locate your biggest lie by asking yourself as
you do that worksheet, what do you really have hope for in your future? If there's some areas
where you've lost hope that you're ever going to have anything really good, then those are also
areas where we have to look for those lies. And oftentimes we treat the symptoms of those
problem areas. So the symptom of that area might be disease, disconnection, distrust,
disappointment, perversion, addiction, mental illness, anxiety, some sexual dysfunction. That
might be your problem area, self-pity. Maybe you have a victim mentality, poor me, nothing good's
ever going to happen to me. Despair, obesity, bad health, not taking care of ourselves, anger, envy,
gossip, poverty, fear. All of those are just fruits. Remember that script.
in Jeremiah 17 says that God doesn't mess with the fruit.
He wants to get down to the root.
So you see that our problem's not our problem.
Whatever the problem's manifesting in your life
as an area of problem,
there's always something deeper that it's connected to.
And those are those lies that we're believing.
And so we're here to have that revealing for healing.
We're here to get down to the roots
of where these lies live and how they got there.
And so in our next video, we're gonna take a look
at how these lies infiltrated our hearts in the first place.
We know that they came as a result of trauma,
but how did they mature over time and grow
and keep us stuck the way that they have?
That's what we're gonna look into in our next video.
So I'll see you there.