Hey, welcome back.
Now, in this video, we're going to talk more about unpacking our heart boxes, weeding our
heart gardens, getting all those rocks of offense, those thistles and weeds out of the
way of this beautiful story that God has for us.
God has an amazing life for you.
He doesn't write sad, boring stories, and the story that he wrote about your life is
epic.
It's an adventure of love and excitement and anticipation and all types of victory.
Yes, there's always valleys, but there's also more mountaintops than valleys.
And if you haven't had a lot of wins, it's time, time to step out of the story of shame
and hurt and trauma and step into the story that God has always wanted for you.
I know a lot of people that have had a lot of hard things happen in their lives.
They don't think that God cares about them or has anything good for them.
They're just like, this is just how it is for me.
Other people are blessed.
Yes, other people are abundant.
And they'll even use that quote that says that God will never give more to me than I
can handle.
That's kind of depressing, right?
It's basically saying that I've been created for struggle, but you haven't, you've been
created for love.
You might think, I wish God didn't trust me so much with all this shame and hurt and pain.
Well, that stuff didn't come from God.
Those things didn't come from heaven.
God is a good daddy and he's the giver of good and perfect gifts, right?
Isn't that what his word says?
All that stuff that came into your life, all that trauma, that didn't come from God.
Hurting people hurt people and broken people break people, but guess what?
Healed people heal people.
And that's why you're here.
You're here because God wants you to step out of that story and step into his story,
which is full of victory and amazing things that you haven't even unpacked yet.
So I want you to get your hopes all the way up.
You have all these unpacked, all this packed, I should say, goodness that needs to be unpacked.
It's like you're sitting in this room full of presence that you haven't even began to
open and you might be looking around and seeing everyone else opening their presence.
Maybe people on social media, people in your family or your friend groups, and you want
to be excited for those people and their victories and their happiness, their engagements, their
marriages, maybe their job promotions.
You want to be excited for them, but you feel like God's blessing everybody else, but
you're not being blessed.
But the truth is you're sitting here with all these wrapped presents around you.
You're watching everyone else unwrap their gifts, but you have all these gifts that you
haven't unwrapped yet.
And you're never going to see them sitting there because we don't see from here.
We see from here.
We do.
This is where the eyes of our life are.
And so if you're only seeing struggle and you're only seeing trauma, then we really
need to clean that lens.
And that's why we unpack these boxes.
We want to clean that lens, but we can't do it from here.
We have to do it from here.
And so that's why we're inviting Holy Spirit to do this plowing.
And maybe as you're plowing, you're beginning to run into lies.
You're beginning to see those lies as they tumble out of your heart box.
So what do we do?
We apply truth to them.
You have an amazing worksheet.
It's already in your worksheets.
It's called God's truth versus my truth.
So many times we take the facts of our life and we try to escalate them into truth.
Maybe the fact is that you're broke.
Maybe the fact is that you're lonely.
There's no prospects on the horizon for a romantic relationship.
That might be a fact right now, but it's not the truth.
There's a higher truth in God's word.
And if we come into agreement with that higher truth, even before it's manifested, even before
it happens, it has to first be believed to be received.
And if you'll believe it, you can receive it.
Not here, but here.
So we're making space for this new stuff to get planted.
Remember, we can't erase.
We have to replace.
And so this new stuff is going to be planted by repetition.
Those lies were planted by repetition.
And so we're going to be have to begin to believe the truth by repetition as well.
So we're inviting Holy Spirit to help plow these hard spots, these hopeless spots, these
problem areas of our lives so that the seed of the truth can get in there.
But first that soil has to be softened.
Those hard parts in our hearts have to be softened.
And we're doing that through repentance, confession, and forgiveness.
That's going to be the game changer.
Those three things are going to be the supernatural plow that shovels things out of the way and
makes room for that beautiful truth to be planted and become an amazing blessing for
you.
So let's start with repentance and confession too.
In this video, I think we're going to go ahead and do both of those.
And we'll do forgiveness in the next video because it needs a video all of its own, right?
And so as we're doing this hard work, and as we're dealing with these things that are
coming up, we have to allow Holy Spirit to help us process, like to come alongside of
us and do the heavy lifting.
Now there's no.
I don't want you rushing, I don't want you trying to plow through this material yourself.
Let Holy Spirit be the plow.
Watch these videos, watch them more than once if you need to because every time you listen
your mind and your heart is going to zone into something, it's going to zone into something,
something that I'm saying.
It's going to hit the target, there's going to be a spot that's highlighted more than
it was before.
So repentance is one of those things that has a lot of religion attached to it.
It means feel terrible about yourself, you're dirty, rotten, scoundrel, you should just
cut yourself and cry and, you know, that's kind of what they did in the Bible, right?
When they were in repentance, they sat in ashes and they cut themselves, no, sorry.
That is not what we want to do here.
What we want to do here is realize that our behavior is unworthy of us.
What we're experiencing in the natural oftentimes is consequences of us doing it our own way.
And that is what repentance means.
Repentance means it's time to do it God's way, to turn away from our behavior and turn
towards God's behavior.
Repentance is about having a change of heart, having a change of mind.
Behavior follows identity.
You can't fake it till you make it.
You can't be good to get God to do things for you because whatever it is that you really
believe about yourself, your behavior is going to follow that.
So we have to receive a new identity.
And the way that we receive a new identity is through repentance.
We come to God and we admit, Hey, you know what?
My way is not working out.
It's not the things that I've been doing.
It's the things that I've been thinking, it's the things that I've been believing.
And then that's turned into the things that I'm doing.
It doesn't look like your word.
You know, that's what I did.
I said, God, I see what your word says, but I'm really fed up.
I'm fed up with what I hear preached because it's not working out in my life.
Nothing in your word is happening to me.
What's wrong?
You know, you know that I'm broken.
You know, I messed up, but do you not want to bless me?
I was willing to ask the hard questions to God, not in disrespectful manner, but I was
frustrated.
I was hurt.
I was angry.
I felt like the redheaded stepchild.
I'm the one that nobody wanted.
I was abandoned.
I was collateral damage.
I was insignificant.
I felt that way, but that wasn't the truth.
That was the truth of my experience, but that wasn't the truth.
That was my heart wounds talking.
Those were the lies that I was believing that we're talking and God showed me that when
I came to him in repentance and I was willing to do things, not my way anymore, but his
way that I've been believing a lot of lies and I've been in agreement with a lot of lies.
And so repentance means coming out of agreement, having that change of heart, having that change
of mind, having a super natural change of heart, not just a temporary change of heart.
So I needed a real change in my heart and I couldn't change it and neither can you.
So I asked God to search me and know me.
Show me where I'm lying to myself.
Show me where I'm pretending.
Show me where I'm confused.
Show me where I'm partnering with religion.
Show me where my heart is a puzzle that's leading me astray and I can't figure it out.
Reveal and heal me.
That's what real repentance is.
It is.
That's what it is.
It's asking God to take control and not one of those things where, you know, take the
wheel.
No, take it back.
Take it back.
And I really want to encourage you to be using those Jesus cares boards because that's how
we let go of control and give control to God.
That's how we do it.
We're saying, I can't do this in my own power.
I surrender to you.
I'm submitting my free will to yours.
And that's repentance.
You know, the only thing that you'll ever be asked to do in your own power is surrender.
Everything else will be done by empowerment.
Everything will be done by grace.
And grace just means the enabling power of heaven to do what you could never do on your
own.
You'll be empowered by the spirit.
And so grace is just leaning into that.
It's leaning into the spirit.
It's admitting that you can't do this on yourself, on your own.
You can't do this yourself.
It's inviting God to pull back all the layers of those false identities and to show you
who you really are.
You know, my kids used to always sing that song by Carrie Underwood, Jesus take the wheel.
They sing it off key for sure.
But when we're in a crisis, we're fine with giving God control.
We are.
We don't want to live in the consequences of those decisions.
But as soon as we're not in a crisis anymore, we want to give it back.
Give the wheel back.
I don't need you to drive anymore.
I got it from here.
But a lifestyle of repentance, a lifestyle of surrender, it means that you never, ever
feel like you have it all together without him.
You always need him.
You need his input all the time.
That heavenly wisdom that can show you what's really going on because we see, we don't see
things.
We see through filters no matter what.
Even when we do the heart work, our heart wounds, we're always seeing through filters,
always seeing through something that's just not quite right.
And so we want his perspective.
We have to have his perspective in everything.
And so this is where the buck stops, it stops here.
We're gonna start surrendering,
we're gonna stop putting the blame
on everyone else that's hurt us.
That's why my life stinks.
No, we make choices.
If you're an adult person, you've made choices.
You have, yes, you might have been through abuse.
People may have hurt you,
but now you have an opportunity to make the next choice.
And so it's about confession too, not just repentance.
We have to confess.
A lot of times it's difficult to confess,
and that's part of repentance.
It is, it's confessing that I've gone the wrong way.
I've done all these things,
now I need to turn away from those things.
Now, James 5.16 says, confess your faults and be healed.
There's a promise connected to this scripture.
That's great, isn't it?
Confess your faults to who?
To God?
No, it says confess your faults to one another and be healed.
And so that's the beauty of this community.
And I really wanna encourage you to show up
to your peer coaching sessions,
to your community, to the Facebook community.
And you might think, ah, people are gonna judge me.
They really are.
No, they're not gonna judge you.
They're not gonna hurt you.
This is a no judgment zone.
But you know what's gonna hurt you?
That sin inside of you, that blame and guilt inside of you.
It's gonna eat you alive.
It's gonna isolate you.
That's what the enemy wants.
He wants to back you in a corner
and make you feel like you're the only one
who's ever done this.
You're the only one who's ever believed this.
You know, there's this thing in this human court system
called double jeopardy, you know,
in the American court system.
And it just means that if you're acquitted,
you can never be tried for the same crime.
You can't.
But you can be tried for a different crime.
And so when you're going through this confession part
of this workshop, I wanna encourage you to make sure
that you're confessing to the full crime,
not just part of the sin,
but the full unworthiness of whatever it is that's done.
Okay, a lot of times we'll just be like,
ah, say a little tidbit of it.
And you definitely don't wanna do that
because the enemy, the prosecutor,
the Bible calls him the accuser of the brethren.
He's gonna continue to accuse you and put you on trial
and barrage with a barrage of questions
and blame and tactics
because he has the authority to do that.
Why?
Because you've not confessed to the whole thing.
So you're living in constant guilt and shame,
but like double jeopardy,
if you confess to the whole thing,
you're always gonna be acquitted.
Jesus died on the cross for you to be declared innocent.
But if you don't confess to the whole thing,
then the enemy is gonna continue.
And he has the right and authority to continue
to accuse you and prosecute you for all the pieces
that you haven't confessed to.
So go ahead and confess to the full crime
and let God put the gavel down that you're innocent,
that you're vindicated.
He can't heal you if you won't admit that it even happened,
that you even did it.
He can't heal you of something that you won't admit hurt you.
So he wants to forgive you and he cannot forgive you
unless you really admit that you need to be forgiven.
So as that part of the homework that you have in part three,
show up in that Facebook community,
show up with your peers and just do a video,
be willing to admit to the unworthy things
that you've done in your life.
Like I said, it's a private group
and it's a safe space.
And it really is gonna be a huge part of your healing
if you allow yourself to be seen, known,
and loved and vindicated there, all right?
I'm gonna see you in the next video
and we're gonna talk about forgiveness.
Until then, ciao for now.