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All right, we have Gwen and Carla and Chantel, Ruth, Emily,

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awesome little crew here this morning, this afternoon.

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All right, so welcome to the first heart check-in

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for this week.

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I'm gonna be with you this week and next week

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as Bethany is on vacation

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and we want her to have that vacation,

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so that's fun, right?

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That's a good time.

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Actually, I'm the OG of this anyway

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because I used to be the only person doing heart check-ins

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before we got a great team working with us and for us

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and so you are going to get to coach

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with the person who created the heart work

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and so if you have any questions at all about heart work,

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about what you're experiencing, anything, everything,

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I am here to answer those questions

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for you guys this week, all right?

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So I have your check-ins.

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If you, a little housekeeping, every single week on Sunday,

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there is a post that goes up whatever phase you're in.

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If you're in phase one, it's there.

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If you're in phase two, phase three,

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as you move forward in the program,

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there will always be a post that goes up on Sundays

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that just says, hey, how you doing?

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We call it our roll call post.

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How are you doing?

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What are you working on?

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Where are you stuck?

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And you wanna make sure that you look for that post

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every week and that you participate in that post

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and the reason is this,

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because based on what you put in that post,

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that is how we format our coaching sessions for that week.

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What are people struggling with?

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Where are they stuck?

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What kind of wins are they getting?

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What kind of wins do we want to see them getting?

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And that is how we structure what we're gonna talk about

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and then of course, if you're here live

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and then you get to ask questions

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that maybe you didn't put in the roll call post

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but for all of you that have to watch and replay

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because you're just not available

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at the times of the live coachings,

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you wanna definitely make sure

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that you are posting in that roll call, right?

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Awesome.

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So we're just thankful God to be here together today

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and Holy Spirit, we ask that you would lead us

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into the biggest revelations and breakthroughs

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in Jesus name.

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All right, so I'm looking through the phase one

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roll call posts right now

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and it looks like a lot of people

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are in the forgiveness stage

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and maybe have been there for a minute

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because that is where they kind of ran out of steam.

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And there is a reason why we allow that

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to have its own week forgiveness just in general

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and that's because a lot of people have a lot of things

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that they need to unpack in that area.

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Forgiving God, we don't think about that one.

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Forgiving God, forgiving ourselves, forgiving others,

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forgiving our own scenarios and situations

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and memories that are attached to trauma

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that as we unpack it, we realize that there's a lot

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of forgiveness that has to happen there.

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A releasing of people from their bad behaviors

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and even their sin against us

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and maybe our sin against other people.

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Forgiving that, stepping into that finished work

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of the cross and yesterday was Easter.

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And so yesterday was our celebration of the remembrance

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that Jesus died for us and as us

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so that we don't have to live in our mess.

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We don't have to live in the bed that we made.

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We don't have to live in the bed

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that other people made for us to sleep in.

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We don't have to sleep in any of those beds.

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We can sleep in the bed that Jesus made for us on the cross

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and that is a bed of righteousness, right standing with God.

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That is a bed of being heirs and joint heirs of Christ.

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That is a bed of vindication.

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That is a bed of purification and sanctification.

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That is a bed of justification.

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That is a bed of being fully vindicated

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of any and all things that you have done

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and that has been done to you.

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If we wanna live that way, we can.

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Okay, last night, my son who is 28,

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we were traveling back from a family birthday party

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in Florida and my son who's 28 gonna be 29 this year

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said, mom, let me ask you a question.

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He said, if you do something that you know is wrong

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and you just decide to do it anyway,

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he said, what does that say about you as a person?

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And my son is a beautiful faith-filled Jesus follower

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but remember you guys, we all have areas where we trip.

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We all have areas where we struggle.

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We all have areas where we have temptations.

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The word of God tells us that he makes a way of escape

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in those areas where we have weakness

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and we feel tempted to do something

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that is not worthy of us.

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And so simply the answer that I gave my son is that.

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First of all, you have to understand that all sin and I don't know why I'm having this conversation with you guys, except that someone here needs to hear this and possibly replay people are the people that need to hear it as well.

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When it comes to sin, I want you to reframe sin, your sin and other people's sin against you. I want you to reframe it by giving it a new kind of definition.

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The definition of sin, this is what God taught me, is anything and everything that we do to try to fulfill a God-given need in our own strength.

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That's what sin is.

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Okay.

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So it will cause us to go do unworthy things trying to get something that only can be given to us by God.

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Think about it. We have a God-given need for intimacy, right? For emotional and even physical intimacy.

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That sex drive that you have is a gift from God.

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But a lot of people will try to fulfill it in ways that cause a sin-shame cycle.

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Instead of just bringing it to God and saying, hey, I didn't ask for this, but you gave it to me.

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And so I know you must also have a plan to satisfy it.

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And so I need to get in that plan.

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And you need to show me what that plan looks like.

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Because right now, this gift is destroying me.

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As I try to feed it.

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Right? So there's just one example.

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We all have, we all need community.

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We all have the God-given need for others.

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And a lot of us will beg, borrow and steal to have people in our lives.

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We won't be ourselves.

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We'll let people, you know, we'll enable behaviors that are sinful towards us.

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And us towards them.

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All different types of things just to have people in our lives.

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That's not God's design to fulfill that need.

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That God-shaped hole that we have for people.

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That God-shaped, you have lots of God-shaped holes.

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That God-shaped hole for, to not be alone, isn't just filled by him.

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That's where we've got it all messed up.

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Yes, we're whole in Christ.

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Because we're healed in the area of identity.

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But we still need to be completed in relationship.

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And a lot of us in marriage, that's why we're here.

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And then healed in family.

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And so, you know, it's important that we understand that we can't fill that God-given need for people with God.

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He is not a people.

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And if all we needed was God, then Adam could have just been so low in the garden.

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So these are all places, and of course finances, you know, people will, I was at the airport yesterday, it was packed.

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I was coming back from a family party in Easter with my mom's husband that she was married to when she passed away.

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And their son, who is my brother.

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And just giving them family, giving them community.

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Because since she's passed away, they're all by themselves.

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And they're raising my niece and nephew, who are now just turning 18 on Friday.

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And so going over there to be with them.

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And the airports were packed with people.

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Show me the recession.

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I mean, packed with people.

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But the problem is, is that a lot of those people are probably there on borrowed money.

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Meaning that they ran up their credit card to do whatever it is that they were doing for spring break, right?

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And you guys, that's a bad habit to get into.

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Because when we get into that habit, it's never satisfied, is it?

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You have to pay Peter, you have to rob Peter to pay Paul, so to speak.

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And that creates a cycle in our lives that can become really sinful.

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And so it's important that we understand it can become really orphan-tendencied.

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And so we don't want that.

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We also do know that we want to have those experiences.

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And I believe God wants us to have those experiences.

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Those experiences of rest.

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Those experiences of reset.

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But we need to come to him and say, hey, what is the righteous way of obtaining this?

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Because the job that I have barely meets my everyday basic needs.

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And so there's no room for extra here.

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And I believe that that's when God will invite us.

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And that's what this hard work process is about.

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And some of you, raise your hand if you're in week five.

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I have several that are about to graduate into phase two.

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You're in week five.

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And that's the real you phase.

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That's where desires and dreams need to start coming alive of what you could do with your life.

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one and only life that's more than what you're doing now.

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And how that will make provision,

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and I believe legacy wealth for you and your family, right?

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Are you gonna be a multimillionaire?

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No, I'm not saying that,

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but what I'm saying is have legacy wealth for your family,

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being able to do what it is that you desire to do

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when you want to do it.

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That's really a life of freedom, right?

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Being able to serve others in whatever vocation

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and profession that you're called to,

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that you also love and enjoy.

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And then that's what you get in exchange for that,

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being enough for you to have those times of rest

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and recreation with your family.

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If you get invited to something and you really wanna go,

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that was my only prayer.

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Back in that super broke days, my only prayer was,

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hey God, when I get invited to do something,

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whether it was minister somewhere,

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it didn't matter what it was,

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I said, I wanna be able to say yes.

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If there's a yes in my heart,

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I wanna be able to say yes without having to worry about

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how am I gonna make that happen?

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How am I gonna make that happen?

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And so that was my main prayer.

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My main prayer was I wanna be able to do the things

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that I need to do without going into a tailspin

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trying to figure out how to financially afford it.

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And God's been true to that prayer.

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If you want to steal that prayer, go ahead.

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It's yours, I give it to you.

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Because a lot of times we pray for things

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that aren't the right prayer.

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And then we get really confused

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and we get overwhelmed with those prayers.

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Instead of just being like, hey, you know what God,

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I just wanna be able to go and do what it is

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that I need to go and do without having to kill myself

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trying to make it happen financially, whatever that is.

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There are times and seasons in life, friends,

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where we learn how to trust God in the very lean times

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where you get a flat tire

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and you're just gonna have to believe in faith

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that God's gonna take care of it.

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There are definitely seasons of that.

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And I lived many decades of that.

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But then there comes a time

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when I believe you mature out of that.

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And yeah, you've trusted God in those times.

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And so when he could trust you with little

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and what you could only receive by faith,

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now what does the Bible say?

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It says that he makes you a steward over more, right?

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And so a lot of us need to graduate from that place

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where we're living by faith to that place

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where we now have matured to a place

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where God can trust us with more

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so that we can be blessed to be a blessing.

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Who would wanna graduate into that space?

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And so that's going to come with favor.

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That's how it's gonna happen.

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It's gonna come with ideas.

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It's gonna come with risk.

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You're gonna have to step out

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and maybe do some things

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that you didn't think about doing before.

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But God's gonna, it's gonna come with an invitation.

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God's gonna invite you.

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Into some new spaces, new places,

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with new people, doing new things.

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And it's gonna feel uncomfortable at first,

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kind of like new clothes.

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but it's a little scratchy.

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It's a little itchy.

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Maybe it doesn't fit all that great.

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you're like, it's gonna fit great

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when I lose that extra 10 pounds.

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That's horrible.

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Why do we do that to ourselves?

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It's so wrong.

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I can honestly say that I have very little things,

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very little clothes that just fit my right now body.

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They're all for my future body.

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I'm a very future focused person.

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I always have been since I was a kid.

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future to present, which is a gift.

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And it's a good thing.

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It caused me to be a visionary.

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it's not always great for my wardrobe.

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Sometimes it feels like I might be punishing myself

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until I'm to some sort of future state of perfection.

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make sure that you're not doing that to yourself.

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You should always have something

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that you feel good in right now.

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Right, especially all of you that are headed into phase two

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and into your dating season, right?

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Where you're gonna be going out and meeting new people

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and looking cute and doing your thing, right?

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So it sounds like a lot of you are in the forgiveness.

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According to this, a lot of you also have things coming up

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from the past, traumas that you weren't expecting,

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traumas that you're like, wow, I thought I was over this.

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Where did this come from?

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And that happens a lot because healing comes in layers.

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It doesn't mean that you're still under it. You could be over it, but there's a higher level of

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over it. And you're getting there and you're getting there. So something comes up like that,

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like some of you are mentioning in your comments, go ahead and just put it before the Lord and say,

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Hey, you know, I forgave myself. I forgave others. Maybe you even had to forgive God

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because you're mad at him because he didn't do what you thought he was going to do.

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He didn't come through the way that you thought he was going to come through

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what you thought was going to happen. If you believed and prayed on, it didn't happen,

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whatever that looks like. But then you're bringing that to him and saying,

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but when I think about this thing, when it still comes up, there's still pain there.

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There's still a fence there, right? I still feel, I still feel negative emotions. That's

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how you can tell that there's a heart wound. That's not fully healed. Cause when you think

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of that scenario, that situation, that memory, there's still some sort of negativity

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in your heart attached to it. I will tell you guys, I have been through a lot of fires with

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gasoline underwear on. I have a lot of mugs and a lot of trauma t-shirts. Okay. A lot, a lot,

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a lot. But I will tell you that a lot of those things, most of those things, when for some

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reason they come up, like maybe I'm coaching and then I'm reminded, Oh, Hey, yeah, that happened

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to me too. Um, it almost seems like it happened to someone else. And it's not because I've

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disassociated is because there is no guile in me anymore in that situation. Nothing.

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I'm not attached to it in that way. And in fact, if I'm ministering about it and I begin to weep

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over it, I'm weeping over the broken hearts that can relate to it. It doesn't really have anything

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to do with me anymore. And you can get to that place as well. I don't care what it is. I mean,

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I've been through some heinous stuff and so have you. And so you might think I might, I'm never

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going to feel that way about X, Y, Z. Yeah, you will. If you allow healing and I, what I call

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grace, truth, and time to have its way in your life. Okay. So if you're not there yet, that's

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fine. You will get there. One of the places where I'm not there yet is the death of my mother.

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I still, when those, when those memories of being in the ICU and that stuff is comes up,

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it's not as bad as it was four years ago. I'm definitely healing, but there's definitely still

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some things attached to that, that caused me a lot of pain in my heart still. All right.

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Got some praise reports here, praise reports of forgiveness,

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praise reports of breakthrough, some wins, definitely.

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People leaning into Holy spirit more than they ever have people trusting God more than they

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ever have. Consistency is coming. That is the key to success. Friends is consistency,

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continuing to show up. Today's the first day of April, and we have a whole brand new,

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beautiful month in front of us where we can ask God to help us to show up consistently.

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Cause what happens is a lot of us, we get going and we're getting at a good pace and then some

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crosswind will just blow us off track. You know, whether we got a cold or something happened at

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work or something massively got triggered. And then we were flat on our back for two,

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three weeks. And then we're trying to get back into the groove of things.

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I want to encourage you that no matter what it is that you have to do, do not stop. You might

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only be able to take one little tiny baby step forward, but don't stop. Okay. Don't disappear.

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Don't ghost your program. Make sure that you're continuing to attach, continuing to engage

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because distraction and, you know, us getting, you know, blown off course to where we're not

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consistent, that is what stops the momentum. And so we don't want to do that for sure. All right.

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So those are the things that we had on there. So we can go ahead and take questions. Now,

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anybody who's here live, not just questions, but anything that you want to share that you

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want feedback on, let's go ahead and do that now.

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Okay.

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You can forgive someone who's not alive.

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You can. And even though you never got to say the things that you felt like you needed to say

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to them when they were on this earth and they met, that might feel like a big space and a void

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in your heart that you can never fully get past. I want to tell you that they can hear you.

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All right.

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We are not separated by death.

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Somebody needs to hear that.

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We are not separated by death.

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Remember the story that we celebrated yesterday, the resurrection of Jesus.

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Jesus didn't stay dead.

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He rose again.

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He is alive.

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And when he resurrected, he took the keys of death and hell.

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And that is forever been abolished, right?

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Now the only people that are going to experience that kind of second death are people that

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choose that.

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Everybody else, you know, we have, we all have eternal life, but we're not going to

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have to experience the effects of sin and hell unless of course we choose that.

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We choose to oppose the finished work of the cross, which is none of us.

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And so I want to encourage you and I want you to know that because of that, we are still

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connected to the people that have left their bodies.

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And so you can receive forgiveness or give it, you can, you can, you can get closure

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because closure is just that fancy word for forgiveness.

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Not talking about necromancy.

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I'm not talking about going to a psychic and have them conjure up your dead aunt or whoever

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it is.

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I'm talking about the fact that we are all in God.

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We are all in the spirit of God and we are all encompassed about by a great cloud of

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witnesses.

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I have experienced my mother who has passed now for four years being with me still in

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this life.

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I'm talking about how God has made it very clear to me that he is with me and that they

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all are with me and, um, and cheering us on.

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And so lots of peace in that, in understanding you have to remember those people are perfected.

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Those that died in Christ, they no longer have any of the heart wounds or traumas or

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hangups or blocks or, you know, anything that would keep them from being able to really

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truly love, right?

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Because God doesn't just have love.

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He is love, right?

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And they are with God in a way that we have not yet experienced.

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And yet, um, so it's important that someone knows that I don't know who that's for, but

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you have some things that you need to get off your chest.

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You have some things that you want to say.

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You feel like that time has passed.

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You feel like it's too late.

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You feel like, you know, it can't, nothing can be done.

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All is lost.

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And it's not true.

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It isn't.

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And I look down here and I saw this book right here.

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Imagine heaven near death experiences, God's promises and the exhilarating future that

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awaits you by John Burke.

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This is a pastor here in my city in Austin, Texas.

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I actually know him.

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His son spoke at one of the, um, art festivals that I produced back in the day.

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His son, Justin, and then John came as well.

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And then later on, he wrote this book later on.

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My mom passed away and later on, he wrote this book.

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It's a New York times bestseller.

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All the whole book is just him interviewing people that had near death experiences, meaning

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that they died, they physically died, but they were able to be resuscitated or brought

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back after a certain amount of time.

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But during that time that they were clinically dead, they went to heaven and they experienced

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all kinds of things.

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And a lot of them experienced very similar things, which I thought was really interesting.

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But one of the things that they all experienced was that they, um, they saw their families.

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They saw the people that they knew on earth, the people that they loved and the people

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that loved them.

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uh, lots of amazing, amazing things.

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And so I just want to let you know that the person that you're grieving and you're grieving

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the relationship that you were never able to have with them on earth because of their

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brokenness or your brokenness, there's still time.

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You have all of eternity to get to know them better in that way.

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And to have the relationship that you have dreamed of having, and to even experience

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the things that you wish you could have experienced with them on earth.

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There's still time.

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They're not in your past.

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They are in your future.

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And I hope that comforts somebody today, death of children, parents, siblings, significant

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others.

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Others, all the things, those stories are not over.

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I feel like Holy Spirit's releasing us from that topic.

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So for whoever that was for, that whole segue,

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there we are.

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And who has some questions?

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Carla.

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Well, finishing week four was very impactful

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on the forgiveness and in your book,

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you had us like write down why we need to forgive

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and do the prayer, which was very powerful.

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So the question that I have is like,

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I went to the prayer, it's very emotional.

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I don't feel like I got the answer from Holy Spirit

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on each of the people that I needed to forgive.

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And I feel a release, but I still feel like

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there's still some work in my heart

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that needs to be completely done on that forgiveness.

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Like, I don't know, I'm just like trying to find out,

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is there like, what do I need to continue to pray this

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until all the forgiveness?

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Sometimes the only answer that we get when we ask,

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you know, at the end of that prayer for, you know,

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that closure is peace.

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That's what we feel.

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We just feel like you said, a release, you know,

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we don't, sometimes we'll get some information

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about the why behind the what,

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helps us to understand that situation better

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and even that person better and their behavior better,

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but we don't always get that.

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Sometimes we just have peace.

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Sometimes we just have a release.

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Sometimes we just feel, you know,

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that kind of closure, right?

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But I will tell you this, Carla,

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and that's why we say healed in family,

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you know, hurt in relationship, healed in relationship,

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hurt in marriage, healed in marriage,

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hurt in family, healed in family.

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There are some levels of that forgiveness cycle

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for people that we won't get to

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until we're experiencing the same scenarios

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in relationships that we're in.

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And so, I think that's a big part of it.

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I'm not talking about the same scenarios

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in relationships with new people.

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I'm not talking about the same trauma scenarios,

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but just the same scenarios, like healing scenarios, right?

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Then we'll begin to see, hey, you know,

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this other person, they couldn't meet me here.

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This person, this new person can because they're healthy

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and they can meet me here, you know,

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but this other person couldn't.

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And then what it does is it breeds compassion

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for that situation.

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Even the most nefarious situations

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where the people definitely are operating, you know,

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in unworthy behavior, sinful behavior, abusive behavior,

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we begin to see the why behind the what.

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Because remember friends,

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and I know this really offends a lot of people,

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but our enemies are never human, right?

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If it has a face, you know, if you can hug it, look at it,

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it's not your enemy.

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So it's important that you understand that

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because, you know, even the people

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that have greatly misused and abused us

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are victims in that situation as well, right?

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00:28:20.760 --> 00:28:24.160
So they are people who are being held hostage

489
00:28:24.160 --> 00:28:27.880
by some sort of oppression or sometimes possession,

490
00:28:27.880 --> 00:28:29.920
depending on what we're talking about.

491
00:28:29.920 --> 00:28:33.160
And so we need to remember that and understand that.

492
00:28:33.160 --> 00:28:37.120
That's why Jesus said to pray for those, right?

493
00:28:39.400 --> 00:28:43.200
Pray for those that hate us and despitefully use us.

494
00:28:43.200 --> 00:28:45.720
Not just forgive them, but to actually pray for them,

495
00:28:45.720 --> 00:28:47.320
which is a tall order.

496
00:28:49.840 --> 00:28:51.880
It's a very tall order.

497
00:28:51.880 --> 00:28:54.240
And you guys, I don't know if you've caught onto this,

498
00:28:54.240 --> 00:28:57.360
but the reason why Jesus taught the way he taught

499
00:28:57.360 --> 00:29:02.360
was because all of the movements up until Christ

500
00:29:02.560 --> 00:29:05.440
were all based on violence and taking your enemies

501
00:29:05.440 --> 00:29:10.440
and making them pay for being your enemy, basically,

502
00:29:10.520 --> 00:29:11.920
for their opposition.

503
00:29:11.920 --> 00:29:13.800
They were killed, you know,

504
00:29:13.800 --> 00:29:18.800
genocides and all huge, crazy things until Jesus.

505
00:29:19.560 --> 00:29:21.600
Jesus was the only leader that taught

506
00:29:21.600 --> 00:29:24.880
to turn the other cheek, to bless those that curse us.

507
00:29:24.880 --> 00:29:26.560
He taught something different.

508
00:29:26.560 --> 00:29:27.440
And why is that?

509
00:29:27.440 --> 00:29:31.160
Because with any leader, look all through time,

510
00:29:31.720 --> 00:29:34.320
with any leader, any prophet,

511
00:29:34.320 --> 00:29:37.840
any person who started a movement,

512
00:29:37.840 --> 00:29:40.240
it doesn't matter what it is that they stood for,

513
00:29:40.240 --> 00:29:44.120
their followers, after that person's dead and gone,

514
00:29:44.120 --> 00:29:47.800
will go on to commit horrible acts

515
00:29:47.800 --> 00:29:50.600
in the name of that person, right?

516
00:29:50.600 --> 00:29:52.800
Because all of those movements were based on,

517
00:29:52.800 --> 00:29:56.680
you know, vengeance and violence and exclusivity.

518
00:29:56.680 --> 00:29:59.160
And, you know, if you're not with us,

519
00:29:59.160 --> 00:30:00.600
then you're against us.

520
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:06.440
us. And that's not what Jesus preached. So it's important that

521
00:30:06.440 --> 00:30:10.280
we understand that. And that's why so much out there that is

522
00:30:10.280 --> 00:30:14.520
like, modern Christianity is not, it's not Christianity at

523
00:30:14.520 --> 00:30:20.880
all. It's not Jesus at all. Anytime you guys anything is

524
00:30:20.880 --> 00:30:24.280
laced with hatred towards others, because of even because

525
00:30:24.280 --> 00:30:28.880
of their sin. That's not Jesus. That's not anything that Jesus

526
00:30:28.880 --> 00:30:32.920
preached. That is legalism. That's religion. And religion

527
00:30:32.920 --> 00:30:37.840
is dangerous. Religion is dangerous. Right now in this

528
00:30:37.840 --> 00:30:40.920
earth, there are millions of people that are being killed in

529
00:30:40.920 --> 00:30:47.560
the name of religion. Some religion, everything, everything

530
00:30:47.560 --> 00:30:50.280
that's going on everywhere, you guys is in the name of religion.

531
00:30:50.320 --> 00:30:54.400
And so it's important that we understand that religion. It

532
00:30:54.400 --> 00:30:59.360
ain't holy. It's bad. And so we want to be Christ followers. And

533
00:30:59.360 --> 00:31:05.760
we want to follow in the ways of our Jesus, our Messiah. And if

534
00:31:05.760 --> 00:31:08.120
you do, if you forgot what that is, just go to the New

535
00:31:08.160 --> 00:31:11.560
Testament, go to the Gospels, and just read the letters in red

536
00:31:11.560 --> 00:31:14.360
and just stay there for as long as you need to until you really

537
00:31:14.360 --> 00:31:17.640
get and ask Holy Spirit to not only help you to understand the

538
00:31:17.640 --> 00:31:21.960
words of Jesus, but also the heart of Jesus. It's really

539
00:31:21.960 --> 00:31:26.840
important that we do that. So Carla, you will continue to

540
00:31:26.880 --> 00:31:30.680
heal as you go forward. You don't have to, it doesn't have

541
00:31:30.680 --> 00:31:32.880
to be one and done and friends, it's not going to be one and

542
00:31:32.880 --> 00:31:35.400
done. But the reason why it's important to do those forgiveness

543
00:31:35.400 --> 00:31:38.120
templates in week four is because those are your receipts.

544
00:31:39.720 --> 00:31:44.480
Those are your receipts. When that spirit of condemnation

545
00:31:44.480 --> 00:31:47.280
comes, and it will, because you're always not always going

546
00:31:47.280 --> 00:31:50.160
to feel the right way towards people that have done you wrong.

547
00:31:50.880 --> 00:31:52.760
And if you're there still in your life, they're going to

548
00:31:52.760 --> 00:31:56.000
continue to annoy you if they're still broken and operating in

549
00:31:56.000 --> 00:32:02.120
all of their crap, right. And so you're going to feel like you

550
00:32:02.120 --> 00:32:05.720
didn't forgive them when they continue to irritate you, or

551
00:32:05.720 --> 00:32:08.120
that spirit that's working through them continues to

552
00:32:08.120 --> 00:32:11.280
irritate you. And that's why it's important that you have

553
00:32:11.280 --> 00:32:12.960
that because you can just go back to that and say, Hey,

554
00:32:12.960 --> 00:32:16.520
remember, forgiveness is not a feeling. It doesn't matter how I

555
00:32:16.520 --> 00:32:21.040
feel right now. I know that the divine exchange of heaven, I

556
00:32:21.040 --> 00:32:23.560
release this person from the debts that they owe me and I can

557
00:32:23.560 --> 00:32:24.080
move forward.

558
00:32:29.520 --> 00:32:30.120
Who else?

559
00:32:40.920 --> 00:32:42.040
I have a question.

560
00:32:42.040 --> 00:32:46.200
Can you hear me? Yeah, Karen. Hi. Okay. Sorry. Hi. Yeah, I

561
00:32:46.200 --> 00:32:50.200
have a quick question. After I'm done with Lesson Two, and I'm

562
00:32:50.680 --> 00:32:55.080
moving on to three. And I've been attending a long time Bible

563
00:32:55.080 --> 00:32:59.280
study with a couple of women were real close and suddenly, at

564
00:32:59.280 --> 00:33:04.920
the last Bible study, things, things got uncomfortable. They

565
00:33:04.960 --> 00:33:09.080
were reacting to something that I said, that made them

566
00:33:09.080 --> 00:33:11.400
uncomfortable, I guess. And there was a lot of aminosity.

567
00:33:11.400 --> 00:33:14.560
And I asked the Lord to unpack it when I got home, because I

568
00:33:14.560 --> 00:33:17.160
wanted his perspective. And he basically said, it's time to

569
00:33:17.160 --> 00:33:20.920
move on from that Bible study. And so I'm at peace with that.

570
00:33:21.600 --> 00:33:24.280
Could you share with us what you said that triggered them so

571
00:33:24.280 --> 00:33:25.560
much? Do you know what it was?

572
00:33:25.880 --> 00:33:30.560
Oh, yeah. So I had read a book called the unseen realm. And I

573
00:33:30.560 --> 00:33:34.240
we were going through Ezra, and I was just talking, I was just

574
00:33:34.280 --> 00:33:36.840
inputting some of the information I read in the book.

575
00:33:37.440 --> 00:33:44.080
And they said, they didn't care for the input, because it wasn't

576
00:33:44.120 --> 00:33:47.160
in the Bible, it was they said it was a commentary or someone's

577
00:33:47.160 --> 00:33:52.360
opinion. And so they're uncomfortable with it. And they

578
00:33:52.360 --> 00:33:58.200
became kind of upset about it. And so I was reading the book,

579
00:33:58.200 --> 00:34:01.960
and I was kind of upset about it. And so, so that's what

580
00:34:01.960 --> 00:34:02.600
happened.

581
00:34:02.920 --> 00:34:06.640
Do you got it? You got a little too woo woo for them? Is that

582
00:34:06.640 --> 00:34:07.400
what we're saying?

583
00:34:07.640 --> 00:34:09.639
I I'm not sure. They're just

584
00:34:09.719 --> 00:34:13.000
spiritual kind of things. The unseen realm. I'm assuming

585
00:34:13.000 --> 00:34:14.960
you're talking about the spiritual realm.

586
00:34:15.280 --> 00:34:17.760
Correct. Yeah, yeah. Correct. Yeah.

587
00:34:18.800 --> 00:34:22.239
So they felt more comfortable with what they can read in the

588
00:34:22.239 --> 00:34:26.760
Bible and what it explains. And we're talking about something

589
00:34:26.760 --> 00:34:33.679
maybe a little bit more, you know, not necessarily written in

590
00:34:33.679 --> 00:34:35.600
the Bible, but maybe implied.

591
00:34:36.880 --> 00:34:40.639
Yeah, so the book was written with the intent to explain the

592
00:34:40.639 --> 00:34:43.760
Bible from a Jewish perspective and how they would read the

593
00:34:43.760 --> 00:34:48.120
Bible when it was written. And so we read it, we read it

594
00:34:48.120 --> 00:34:50.480
differently, because we don't have that perspective. So

595
00:34:50.480 --> 00:34:52.040
anyway, that that's all of us.

596
00:34:52.080 --> 00:34:54.960
Let's talk about what Karen is experiencing right now, because

597
00:34:54.960 --> 00:34:58.200
this is a natural part of growth. Okay, so let's talk

598
00:34:58.200 --> 00:35:00.080
about it. And I think it's important. So

599
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:01.200
and thank you for your question.

600
00:35:01.200 --> 00:35:03.560
So now we can talk about this.

601
00:35:03.560 --> 00:35:07.000
So we can't stay anywhere forever, right?

602
00:35:07.000 --> 00:35:08.360
We're not gonna stay anywhere forever

603
00:35:08.360 --> 00:35:10.640
because we want to continue to grow.

604
00:35:10.640 --> 00:35:13.560
That being said, there are people that try to cut

605
00:35:13.560 --> 00:35:15.200
and run before growth happens.

606
00:35:15.200 --> 00:35:18.240
Karen, I'm not implying that this is you,

607
00:35:18.240 --> 00:35:20.000
but I wanna cover all the bases of this

608
00:35:20.000 --> 00:35:22.440
because I feel like this is a really good teaching moment.

609
00:35:22.440 --> 00:35:26.540
So there are people that will come into community,

610
00:35:26.540 --> 00:35:29.320
come into family, come into some sort of place

611
00:35:29.380 --> 00:35:31.940
where God is putting them because he places a solitary

612
00:35:31.940 --> 00:35:33.720
in community and family.

613
00:35:33.720 --> 00:35:35.500
And then there are things to learn there.

614
00:35:35.500 --> 00:35:38.380
There's a stretching that is supposed to happen there.

615
00:35:38.380 --> 00:35:39.440
It shouldn't be hard.

616
00:35:39.440 --> 00:35:41.000
We shouldn't have to work at like a job

617
00:35:41.000 --> 00:35:42.520
with everyone in that community,

618
00:35:42.520 --> 00:35:44.680
but there might be a few hard relationships

619
00:35:44.680 --> 00:35:46.220
within that community.

620
00:35:46.220 --> 00:35:48.680
A lot of people give themselves permission to cut and run

621
00:35:48.680 --> 00:35:51.960
because they don't wanna deal with one or two people

622
00:35:51.960 --> 00:35:53.960
in that situation, right?

623
00:35:53.960 --> 00:35:56.580
Or maybe one of the senior leaders

624
00:35:56.580 --> 00:35:58.120
at their spiritual community is someone

625
00:35:58.120 --> 00:35:59.560
who gets on their nerves or someone

626
00:35:59.560 --> 00:36:00.960
that they don't think likes them.

627
00:36:00.960 --> 00:36:04.360
Or a lot of times we'll start writing stories in our mind,

628
00:36:04.360 --> 00:36:09.360
like creating cases, like legal cases against someone, right?

629
00:36:12.120 --> 00:36:16.740
And then collecting evidence that what we believe

630
00:36:16.740 --> 00:36:18.920
about that person is true.

631
00:36:18.920 --> 00:36:20.280
That will happen.

632
00:36:20.280 --> 00:36:22.500
And when that happens, I want you to take a closer look

633
00:36:22.500 --> 00:36:26.840
at that because a lot of times there's an upgrade available

634
00:36:26.840 --> 00:36:29.000
in that community and the enemy is trying

635
00:36:29.000 --> 00:36:33.600
to drive you out of there so that you don't get it, right?

636
00:36:33.600 --> 00:36:36.560
And then you're back to being a lone ranger

637
00:36:36.560 --> 00:36:39.200
until you try to come into another community.

638
00:36:39.200 --> 00:36:42.200
And then that same scenario is gonna play itself out.

639
00:36:42.200 --> 00:36:44.640
So if you feel like you have a pattern like that,

640
00:36:44.640 --> 00:36:47.040
where you go someplace, you start to get embedded

641
00:36:47.040 --> 00:36:49.000
and you get offended and you leave,

642
00:36:49.000 --> 00:36:50.080
we gotta take a look at that

643
00:36:50.080 --> 00:36:51.840
because you're missing the upgrade.

644
00:36:52.920 --> 00:36:54.640
You gotta stay.

645
00:36:54.640 --> 00:36:56.480
You gotta allow that offense to point

646
00:36:56.480 --> 00:36:58.920
to the broken place of your heart where it's coming from

647
00:36:58.920 --> 00:37:00.600
so that we can do some hard work.

648
00:37:00.600 --> 00:37:02.400
That's super important.

649
00:37:02.400 --> 00:37:05.320
And then there's another part of maturity

650
00:37:05.320 --> 00:37:07.840
where we've just been someplace for a really long time

651
00:37:07.840 --> 00:37:11.760
and we've gotten everything that there can be for us

652
00:37:11.760 --> 00:37:13.960
to get in that season from that place.

653
00:37:13.960 --> 00:37:15.360
Not that we're consumers.

654
00:37:15.360 --> 00:37:17.640
Hopefully you have reciprocal relationships

655
00:37:17.640 --> 00:37:19.120
with people that you're in community with

656
00:37:19.120 --> 00:37:21.080
where you're giving and they're taking

657
00:37:21.080 --> 00:37:23.200
and they're giving and you're taking.

658
00:37:23.200 --> 00:37:25.360
That's really important, all right?

659
00:37:25.360 --> 00:37:28.320
But there will be times when it's time to move on

660
00:37:28.320 --> 00:37:29.920
where God shows us, hey, you know,

661
00:37:29.920 --> 00:37:33.040
in order for you to go where I wanna take you next,

662
00:37:33.040 --> 00:37:34.440
you're gonna need new teachers.

663
00:37:34.440 --> 00:37:36.440
You're gonna need new input.

664
00:37:36.440 --> 00:37:38.400
A lot of people that come into our community,

665
00:37:38.400 --> 00:37:40.560
this is very new stuff for them.

666
00:37:40.560 --> 00:37:42.160
God has brought them here

667
00:37:42.160 --> 00:37:44.960
alongside whatever in-person community they have

668
00:37:44.960 --> 00:37:46.920
so that they can get that upgrade.

669
00:37:46.920 --> 00:37:50.800
Now, I will tell you that because we're all Christians,

670
00:37:50.800 --> 00:37:53.920
you will go into places where you will go head to head

671
00:37:53.920 --> 00:37:55.240
with a religious spirit.

672
00:37:56.560 --> 00:38:00.560
You know, we're not religious here at Last Year's Single.

673
00:38:00.560 --> 00:38:04.440
And so we definitely do push a lot of envelopes.

674
00:38:04.440 --> 00:38:07.880
We are more kingdom-minded than church-minded for sure.

675
00:38:07.880 --> 00:38:10.200
And as people grow and learn here,

676
00:38:10.200 --> 00:38:12.520
sometimes the things that they grow and learn

677
00:38:12.520 --> 00:38:16.040
will begin to rub the people that they're in personal,

678
00:38:16.040 --> 00:38:19.440
physical, in-person community with the wrong way

679
00:38:19.440 --> 00:38:22.160
because those people are not here getting the upgrade.

680
00:38:22.160 --> 00:38:23.240
Does that make sense?

681
00:38:24.320 --> 00:38:25.960
And so they think you're off on some other.

682
00:38:25.960 --> 00:38:28.000
They think you joined a cult.

683
00:38:28.000 --> 00:38:31.240
They think you've gone crazy, you know?

684
00:38:31.240 --> 00:38:34.080
And that's usually a good sign most of the time,

685
00:38:34.080 --> 00:38:36.280
unless your leader is telling you to all get together

686
00:38:36.280 --> 00:38:40.120
in a circle and drink some Kool-Aid and then not so much.

687
00:38:40.120 --> 00:38:43.960
But anything that's drawing you closer to Jesus,

688
00:38:43.960 --> 00:38:47.160
anything that's helping you to see, you know,

689
00:38:47.200 --> 00:38:51.840
who you are and to forgive others and to love others,

690
00:38:51.840 --> 00:38:54.080
you know, that's always a good thing.

691
00:38:54.080 --> 00:38:56.240
And so I just want to go ahead and tell you guys

692
00:38:56.240 --> 00:38:59.240
that there will be times when it's time for you to move on.

693
00:39:00.120 --> 00:39:03.120
So Karen, this is what I wanna say to you.

694
00:39:03.120 --> 00:39:04.400
When it is time to move on,

695
00:39:04.400 --> 00:39:06.240
and all of you will have these times in your life,

696
00:39:06.240 --> 00:39:09.080
you guys, it might be a job that it's time to move on from.

697
00:39:09.080 --> 00:39:11.160
You've gotten everything you can in your career

698
00:39:11.160 --> 00:39:12.320
from that job.

699
00:39:12.320 --> 00:39:14.480
You know, you've been faithful, you've been consistent,

700
00:39:14.480 --> 00:39:16.200
you've learned a lot, you've given a lot,

701
00:39:16.200 --> 00:39:17.400
and you've received a lot.

702
00:39:17.400 --> 00:39:20.880
And now there's nothing left to give and receive there.

703
00:39:20.880 --> 00:39:22.560
In order for you to further your career,

704
00:39:22.560 --> 00:39:23.840
you're going to have to go somewhere

705
00:39:23.840 --> 00:39:25.240
where you're more challenged.

706
00:39:26.800 --> 00:39:28.800
And people don't like when people leave.

707
00:39:30.960 --> 00:39:32.240
So whether it's a relationship

708
00:39:32.240 --> 00:39:33.560
that you needed to move on from,

709
00:39:33.560 --> 00:39:35.760
maybe a best friendship, and you know,

710
00:39:35.760 --> 00:39:37.960
they, you know, you're moving on,

711
00:39:37.960 --> 00:39:41.120
they wanna stay stuck, they're not learning anything,

712
00:39:41.120 --> 00:39:42.560
and you are besties,

713
00:39:42.560 --> 00:39:45.360
but now there's starting to be friction

714
00:39:45.360 --> 00:39:46.840
between the two of you,

715
00:39:46.840 --> 00:39:48.960
because you're trying to move forward,

716
00:39:48.960 --> 00:39:51.280
and at every single turn,

717
00:39:51.280 --> 00:39:52.680
they're trying to pull you backward

718
00:39:52.680 --> 00:39:55.920
because they feel like they're losing you,

719
00:39:55.920 --> 00:39:58.680
and they're scared, right?

720
00:39:58.680 --> 00:40:00.240
And fear a lot of times comes.

721
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:05.360
out as anger. Remember, anger is hurt and fears bodyguard. And so it's important for us to understand

722
00:40:05.360 --> 00:40:09.040
that. So if you're dealing with that, with an interpersonal relationship, maybe a family

723
00:40:09.040 --> 00:40:15.520
relationship, a work relationship or a job, a community, how do we leave things better than we

724
00:40:15.520 --> 00:40:20.800
found them? Let's talk about that for a second. So Karen, it wouldn't be appropriate after this

725
00:40:20.800 --> 00:40:26.800
one argument for you to cut and run. Okay. Especially since you said you've been in this

726
00:40:26.800 --> 00:40:31.040
group for a long time and everything's been amicable and everything's been great. And you've

727
00:40:31.040 --> 00:40:37.120
had a sisterhood just because we're leaving, just because we're moving on, just because we're

728
00:40:37.120 --> 00:40:43.680
growing beyond what we can receive in those places. Doesn't mean we throw the baby out of

729
00:40:43.680 --> 00:40:52.080
the bathwater. We want to bless what has instructed us and helped us and been important in our lives.

730
00:40:52.640 --> 00:40:58.880
And we want to also move on respectfully, leaving things better than we found them.

731
00:40:58.880 --> 00:41:04.080
All right. So pray to God, what that's going to look like for that. I think that where there's

732
00:41:04.080 --> 00:41:07.920
offense, there always needs to be apologies, whether you meant it or not, it doesn't matter.

733
00:41:10.880 --> 00:41:16.640
You need to understand that you're reading into things, this book, that they're not

734
00:41:17.280 --> 00:41:24.240
comfortable pursuing. It makes them uncomfortable. And so they lashed out at you because they're

735
00:41:24.240 --> 00:41:34.480
afraid. They're afraid of deception. They're afraid of, you know, heresy and they love you.

736
00:41:36.080 --> 00:41:42.960
And now they think that you're off in cuckoo birdville. And they're probably afraid for you

737
00:41:43.760 --> 00:41:49.600
at some level. Right. And you guys fear often looks like control. When people get afraid for

738
00:41:49.600 --> 00:41:54.400
us, like genuinely afraid for us because they think that, you know, we're off on some other,

739
00:41:54.400 --> 00:41:59.440
they will try to pull us back with control. They will try to pull us back with condemnation.

740
00:41:59.440 --> 00:42:08.320
They will try to pull us back with fear. Oftentimes anybody, Oh, you better watch out.

741
00:42:08.320 --> 00:42:13.520
Oh, that sounds, Hmm. That's not right. The Bible doesn't say that, you know, Oh,

742
00:42:13.520 --> 00:42:16.880
you know what? I don't, you're getting yourself into something. You're getting in over your head.

743
00:42:16.880 --> 00:42:20.720
They'll say things like that. Won't they? It was a job. They'll say, Hey, there's a recession.

744
00:42:20.720 --> 00:42:28.320
This isn't the right time to leave. This isn't the right time to leave guys. I had a bride

745
00:42:29.760 --> 00:42:35.360
that met a guy. I introduced her to a guy long distance. He was here in Austin. She was

746
00:42:35.360 --> 00:42:43.280
in the Midwest and it was during COVID and they met up a few times and really liked each other

747
00:42:43.280 --> 00:42:48.880
and started dating. And he was like, look, if this is going to be exclusive, you know,

748
00:42:48.880 --> 00:42:56.240
you're going to have to move here. And she wanted to do that, but she was a teacher

749
00:42:56.880 --> 00:43:01.120
and she had been a teacher for years and she started not liking being a teacher during COVID.

750
00:43:01.120 --> 00:43:04.240
She really didn't want to do that for a living. She wanted to look into some other things,

751
00:43:04.800 --> 00:43:10.000
but she went to her principal and she said, Hey, and she was almost 40 years old at this time.

752
00:43:10.000 --> 00:43:13.600
She said, Hey, I've met, you know, I've never been married, never had any children. I met a

753
00:43:13.600 --> 00:43:22.480
really great guy and I want to move to Austin and really see where this can go. And her principal

754
00:43:22.480 --> 00:43:29.920
was like, okay, if you do that then I'm going to make sure that your teaching license gets revoked.

755
00:43:30.880 --> 00:43:38.000
I'm not kidding y'all. She threatened her teaching license. And you know why? Because this

756
00:43:38.000 --> 00:43:40.960
woman that I'm talking about was teacher of the year in that school system.

757
00:43:42.080 --> 00:43:47.360
She led right to read week. She was the person that this principal leaned on for every single

758
00:43:47.360 --> 00:43:52.320
thing at that award-winning school, because she's a phenomenal person and an incredible teacher.

759
00:43:52.320 --> 00:43:57.120
And she didn't want to lose her. So instead of blessing her life and being happy for her,

760
00:43:57.120 --> 00:44:03.200
she controlled her with fear. And guess what? She didn't leave. She broke up with him

761
00:44:04.240 --> 00:44:08.880
out of fear of losing her license and all the things that was just BS, honestly.

762
00:44:08.880 --> 00:44:12.560
And, um, and that guy moved on and is engaged in marrying somebody else.

763
00:44:17.120 --> 00:44:22.560
We can't allow fear no matter what form it comes in. And no matter who it comes from

764
00:44:22.560 --> 00:44:31.920
to hold us back, we can't. The enemy can threaten us all he wants to through other people.

765
00:44:33.440 --> 00:44:38.400
But when God has given us permission to do something and he's invited us into a new season,

766
00:44:38.400 --> 00:44:44.240
a new level and upgrade, then yes, it's going to stretch us. Yes. It's going to challenge us. Yes.

767
00:44:44.240 --> 00:44:48.560
It's going to be uncomfortable. Yes. We want to bless people and love them and leave them,

768
00:44:49.520 --> 00:44:53.520
you know, better than we found them, but we are not going to let them hold us back. Amen.

769
00:44:57.760 --> 00:44:59.760
Amen. So if you leave a job, make sure

770
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:01.480
that you train up your successor.

771
00:45:02.520 --> 00:45:06.200
And if your company won't fund hiring someone to replace you,

772
00:45:06.360 --> 00:45:07.400
then that's their problem.

773
00:45:07.800 --> 00:45:09.160
I work for a company like that.

774
00:45:10.560 --> 00:45:12.760
And one of the girls that our work was phenomenal.

775
00:45:12.760 --> 00:45:15.040
She was, uh, you know, a jack of all trades.

776
00:45:15.040 --> 00:45:16.040
She could do everything.

777
00:45:16.040 --> 00:45:17.200
She kept that place together.

778
00:45:17.200 --> 00:45:18.160
She was the glue.

779
00:45:18.720 --> 00:45:23.560
And when she put in her notice, she gave them a three month notice, y'all.

780
00:45:23.560 --> 00:45:26.960
She gave him a 12 week notice saying that she'd be willing to train her

781
00:45:26.960 --> 00:45:29.680
replacement because I'm telling you, she was not expendable.

782
00:45:30.720 --> 00:45:35.640
And they were so upset that she was leaving that they called her bluff.

783
00:45:36.000 --> 00:45:37.000
They didn't hire anyone.

784
00:45:37.000 --> 00:45:37.960
Didn't hire anyone.

785
00:45:37.960 --> 00:45:38.800
Didn't hire anyone.

786
00:45:38.800 --> 00:45:39.760
Didn't hire anyone.

787
00:45:40.000 --> 00:45:41.920
Hoping that she would change her mind.

788
00:45:44.120 --> 00:45:47.720
When the last day of her employment came, I was there, I was in the office.

789
00:45:47.720 --> 00:45:49.240
I did something completely different than her.

790
00:45:49.920 --> 00:45:52.640
And she's like, Hey, she's like, today's my last day.

791
00:45:52.640 --> 00:45:53.760
I'm like, are you kidding me?

792
00:45:54.120 --> 00:45:55.800
And she's like, no, she's like, this is it.

793
00:45:55.800 --> 00:45:56.920
This is the last day.

794
00:45:57.360 --> 00:45:59.480
She said they haven't hired anyone to replace me.

795
00:45:59.480 --> 00:46:02.560
She's like, I don't know what they think I'm going to do to stay out of loyalty.

796
00:46:02.560 --> 00:46:03.960
So that I don't leave them an alert.

797
00:46:03.960 --> 00:46:05.000
She said, but I'm leaving.

798
00:46:05.480 --> 00:46:14.680
And she left guys after all of that beautiful, you know, work that she did

799
00:46:14.680 --> 00:46:16.280
for that company for so many years.

800
00:46:16.280 --> 00:46:19.120
Not only did they call her bluff, but they did not send her out.

801
00:46:19.120 --> 00:46:20.000
They did not bless her.

802
00:46:20.000 --> 00:46:21.440
They didn't give her a going away party.

803
00:46:21.440 --> 00:46:24.960
They didn't honor her in any way because they were hoping that by

804
00:46:24.960 --> 00:46:28.880
playing victim of we can't live without you, she would stay.

805
00:46:30.480 --> 00:46:31.640
That's just a mess, right?

806
00:46:33.960 --> 00:46:35.800
Don't let people bully you into staying.

807
00:46:37.000 --> 00:46:37.840
Have a boundary.

808
00:46:39.120 --> 00:46:40.440
I am leaving.

809
00:46:40.920 --> 00:46:42.320
This is when I'm leaving.

810
00:46:42.360 --> 00:46:46.440
This is what I'm willing to do in order to leave you better than I found you.

811
00:46:46.520 --> 00:46:51.120
Like if it's your job, if they're not willing to do that, that's their problem.

812
00:46:53.320 --> 00:46:54.320
That's their problem.

813
00:46:58.560 --> 00:46:59.040
Right?

814
00:46:59.480 --> 00:47:10.760
So that's good.

815
00:47:11.880 --> 00:47:15.200
I feel like that's going to be pertinent to a lot of people.

816
00:47:15.440 --> 00:47:20.040
If it's a friendship and you've been friends since kindergarten guys, I know

817
00:47:20.040 --> 00:47:23.880
that sounds really noble and loyal and amazing, but some of you actually

818
00:47:23.880 --> 00:47:28.840
have a gift of loyalty that is overextended and it's become a weakness.

819
00:47:30.480 --> 00:47:35.080
Being a loyal person is amazing, but misplaced loyalty will destroy your life.

820
00:47:38.000 --> 00:47:40.720
Make sure that you're using that gift in the right places with the

821
00:47:40.720 --> 00:47:42.040
right people in the right timing.

822
00:47:44.240 --> 00:47:46.680
I know people that have stayed at the same spiritual community all their

823
00:47:46.680 --> 00:47:49.600
life is just like, well, this is where I got saved and you know, this is,

824
00:47:49.600 --> 00:47:51.440
you know, my family and I owe it to them.

825
00:47:51.720 --> 00:47:53.120
You owe it to yourself to grow.

826
00:47:53.560 --> 00:47:56.920
And if you're in a place where you can't grow or you're stagnant and you're not,

827
00:47:57.360 --> 00:48:00.240
you're not growing all the stuff you're reading about in the Bible.

828
00:48:00.240 --> 00:48:03.600
You're not experiencing that stuff year after year after year.

829
00:48:03.600 --> 00:48:05.160
And nobody else is around you.

830
00:48:05.560 --> 00:48:07.280
That is not a place you want to be.

831
00:48:08.760 --> 00:48:10.560
Just because other people want to be spiritually dead.

832
00:48:10.560 --> 00:48:12.000
Doesn't mean you need to be dead with them.

833
00:48:15.400 --> 00:48:24.080
And I know this is going to sting, but many times in those situations, people

834
00:48:24.080 --> 00:48:25.720
will never be happy to see you go.

835
00:48:25.720 --> 00:48:29.200
They will never bless you and they will always hold it against you.

836
00:48:29.840 --> 00:48:32.240
You know, maybe even ostracizing you.

837
00:48:32.240 --> 00:48:36.600
I know it's really sad, but even, you know, and especially controlling

838
00:48:36.600 --> 00:48:39.840
spiritual communities, maybe even acting like, you know, you've done

839
00:48:39.840 --> 00:48:42.200
something wrong and sinned by leaving.

840
00:48:46.400 --> 00:48:49.000
And the other people in that congregation will even be

841
00:48:49.000 --> 00:48:51.040
encouraged to steer clear of you.

842
00:48:51.160 --> 00:48:57.400
Anyone else ever experienced that or some version of that where you moving

843
00:48:57.400 --> 00:49:03.120
forward and growing and maturing is now being weaponized against you as if

844
00:49:03.120 --> 00:49:17.920
you're some sort of bad person, Michelle question, it's not really a question.

845
00:49:18.520 --> 00:49:22.000
It's not really a question more about a bit of a praise report somewhat.

846
00:49:22.720 --> 00:49:24.280
Oh, we'd love to hear a praise report.

847
00:49:24.440 --> 00:49:24.960
Go for it.

848
00:49:25.560 --> 00:49:25.960
Right.

849
00:49:25.960 --> 00:49:28.720
So I know the last time I spoke to you and said that, you know, I should go

850
00:49:28.720 --> 00:49:31.520
out and scream somewhere, does this something out of the ordinary because

851
00:49:31.520 --> 00:49:39.000
I'm more quiet, it's, it's, it's, it's different and new for me to have done

852
00:49:39.000 --> 00:49:43.480
something like that, but it does feel freeing to be able to do something

853
00:49:43.480 --> 00:49:45.720
that I have not done before.

854
00:49:45.760 --> 00:49:46.680
So that was great.

855
00:49:46.760 --> 00:49:48.440
So you went out and you screamed where'd you scream?

856
00:49:48.520 --> 00:49:48.840
Yeah.

857
00:49:49.720 --> 00:49:53.000
Um, well, I didn't see my car because I don't really have anywhere,

858
00:49:56.120 --> 00:49:57.600
great, awesome.

859
00:49:57.600 --> 00:50:14.040
Yeah, it is really good to learn how to interact with yourself be more

860
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:06.360
releasing. Right? Yes. Feels good. I love it. And also, you

861
00:50:06.360 --> 00:50:09.800
know, when you were talking about being distracted from

862
00:50:09.800 --> 00:50:14.320
moving on, I was kind of stuck at week two. I got distracted

863
00:50:14.320 --> 00:50:16.880
and I got sick. So I wasn't able to move on to week three. But I

864
00:50:16.880 --> 00:50:19.760
realized that there was a lot of stuff that was coming up. And I

865
00:50:19.760 --> 00:50:21.840
was thinking, you know, I thought that I've worked on a

866
00:50:21.840 --> 00:50:25.160
lot of stuff before, but it seemed like there was more. But

867
00:50:25.160 --> 00:50:28.160
then last week, Friday, when I went to church, and you know, I

868
00:50:28.160 --> 00:50:30.320
was sitting in church and thinking about all that I went

869
00:50:30.320 --> 00:50:34.200
through before in my past, and how it affected me emotionally.

870
00:50:34.760 --> 00:50:37.880
And then I even started thinking, you know, what if all

871
00:50:37.880 --> 00:50:40.160
this hope that I'm getting from this program, you know, about

872
00:50:40.160 --> 00:50:43.560
getting married, it's not going to happen, you know, and how is

873
00:50:43.560 --> 00:50:46.560
that going to feel? But it's so funny that as I was leaving the

874
00:50:46.560 --> 00:50:49.160
church, two ladies called me and said, I need to pray for you.

875
00:50:49.880 --> 00:50:52.760
And what they prayed for me was that, you know, the season of

876
00:50:52.760 --> 00:50:56.120
what was past, she said it was like Noah, instead of sea, God

877
00:50:56.120 --> 00:50:58.400
was saying the season what was past will never happen again.

878
00:50:58.440 --> 00:51:00.600
And it's time to move forward. And it's opened up something

879
00:51:00.600 --> 00:51:04.880
new. And they told me that, you know, just like Joshua, when God

880
00:51:04.880 --> 00:51:07.240
was telling him to take the land, to move the land, he told

881
00:51:07.240 --> 00:51:10.080
him to be courageous. And she said that what God, God said to

882
00:51:10.080 --> 00:51:13.000
her to tell him was to be courageous and trusting him to

883
00:51:13.000 --> 00:51:18.040
move forward. And so yes, I thought I was interested in what

884
00:51:18.040 --> 00:51:20.480
I thought about that was what I got from them that was telling

885
00:51:20.480 --> 00:51:22.440
me to be courageous and trusting.

886
00:51:23.320 --> 00:51:24.560
And I love that.

887
00:51:26.200 --> 00:51:29.920
That is so that is so good. I want to show you something I'm

888
00:51:29.920 --> 00:51:31.240
trying to bring it up real quick.

889
00:51:38.200 --> 00:51:42.120
Some things that you said just now reminded me of one of my

890
00:51:42.120 --> 00:51:47.320
past students that had success in this program, some very

891
00:51:47.320 --> 00:51:49.840
similar things she was going through and experiencing and I

892
00:51:49.840 --> 00:51:51.440
just want to show you her wedding picture.

893
00:51:53.280 --> 00:51:53.920
That's nice.

894
00:51:58.360 --> 00:52:03.400
All right, such a beautiful bride. Um, all right, love it.

895
00:52:05.160 --> 00:52:11.680
Very similar, very similar situation. Especially with, you

896
00:52:11.680 --> 00:52:14.320
know, when I met when I met her, her name's Dolores, when I met

897
00:52:14.320 --> 00:52:20.160
her, she was living as a tenant in a building where there was a

898
00:52:20.160 --> 00:52:26.120
leak in her apartment. And also the heat in New York, the heat

899
00:52:26.360 --> 00:52:30.040
heater, the register didn't work. And she was afraid to say

900
00:52:30.040 --> 00:52:33.200
something about it because she was just couldn't speak up for

901
00:52:33.200 --> 00:52:38.520
herself. And so it started with that started with us helping her

902
00:52:38.520 --> 00:52:42.960
to, you know, put up boundaries to use her voice, all of those

903
00:52:42.960 --> 00:52:46.200
things. And pretty soon, you know, that landlord had fixed

904
00:52:46.200 --> 00:52:50.120
those things. And then next, we tackled the next thing. And then

905
00:52:50.120 --> 00:52:53.360
the next thing. And so even before she ended up, you know,

906
00:52:53.360 --> 00:52:56.920
meeting her now husband and getting married, which, by the

907
00:52:56.920 --> 00:53:00.400
way, she just didn't think that was going to happen at all. Like

908
00:53:00.400 --> 00:53:04.760
she just she came in the program to do heart healing. And so she

909
00:53:04.760 --> 00:53:08.360
had had so many other personal victories. She had a situation

910
00:53:08.360 --> 00:53:11.160
at work where everyone was giving their work to her and she

911
00:53:11.160 --> 00:53:14.200
couldn't speak up and speak up for herself. And she was always

912
00:53:14.200 --> 00:53:17.320
doing everybody else's stuff. I mean, she grew and she grew and

913
00:53:17.320 --> 00:53:20.880
she grew and she grew and she grew, grew, grew, grew until she

914
00:53:20.880 --> 00:53:25.600
is now this woman who's happily married. But more than that,

915
00:53:25.760 --> 00:53:28.520
she's happy in her profession. She's happy in her living

916
00:53:28.520 --> 00:53:33.440
situation. She's happy. You know, she's able to speak up and

917
00:53:33.480 --> 00:53:36.960
to do the things that she needs to do. And that's a huge

918
00:53:36.960 --> 00:53:44.040
victory. So Abby, and then Janice.

919
00:53:45.040 --> 00:53:48.680
Yeah, I think it's so interesting that you're talking

920
00:53:48.720 --> 00:53:51.440
like the two people before me are talking about the same

921
00:53:51.440 --> 00:53:56.240
thing, similar stuff. But some for my situation, I feel like

922
00:53:56.240 --> 00:54:02.880
God tell me to move on from a lot of stuff like church, my

923
00:54:02.920 --> 00:54:07.360
my current job, because I'm doing some ministry stuff. So I

924
00:54:07.720 --> 00:54:14.480
don't know what's next. And then this, I think God promised me to

925
00:54:14.480 --> 00:54:18.440
get married this year. That's why I joined this program. So

926
00:54:18.600 --> 00:54:22.000
but basically, a lot of things I used to, you know, I'm staying

927
00:54:22.000 --> 00:54:25.720
in one place for 10 years already. So a lot of things

928
00:54:25.720 --> 00:54:30.160
that start to change. But I experienced some depression

929
00:54:30.200 --> 00:54:34.160
recently, because I don't fit. I don't feel like I fit in

930
00:54:34.200 --> 00:54:37.800
anywhere. But because I'm doing hard working, I'm being through

931
00:54:37.800 --> 00:54:42.560
healing a long time. And this is hard, hard work is great. I

932
00:54:42.560 --> 00:54:45.760
feel like I'll start to uncover a lot of interpersonal

933
00:54:46.080 --> 00:54:51.120
relationship issues to to me. But sometimes I'm, I can get

934
00:54:51.120 --> 00:54:55.080
very confused, you know, whether I don't feel fitting here is

935
00:54:55.080 --> 00:54:59.640
that because God is removing me to a new place, or

936
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:05.600
because I have problems, you know, attachment issues, then that's why I don't feel fit in,

937
00:55:06.160 --> 00:55:13.200
then it's very confusing and discouraging sometimes. And because God, I don't feel like

938
00:55:13.200 --> 00:55:21.040
the new is that clear yet. Or a lot of aspect of so now my back and forth and back force.

939
00:55:21.040 --> 00:55:27.520
Is that my problem? Or is that because God wants to move me on? Or it can be both? I don't know.

940
00:55:28.160 --> 00:55:33.040
So this is the reason why Abby that we don't want anyone to make any big decisions during their

941
00:55:33.040 --> 00:55:38.080
heartwork part or the heartwork phase of the program. Because so many people feel like you,

942
00:55:38.080 --> 00:55:42.240
where there's all kinds of things coming to the surface. And when they come to the surface,

943
00:55:42.240 --> 00:55:46.320
we're trying to figure out, hey, does this mean that, you know, it's time for me to relocate.

944
00:55:46.320 --> 00:55:51.440
And a lot of people will relocate, you know, because that is part of their love story. It

945
00:55:51.440 --> 00:55:57.600
is part of what God has for them. But the good news is that as you head into phase two and phase

946
00:55:57.600 --> 00:56:03.840
three, you know, part of the program is to help you to deal with your attachment issues to help

947
00:56:03.840 --> 00:56:09.840
you to learn how to be in relationship and community with others from within this community

948
00:56:09.840 --> 00:56:15.120
as well. And so this is just the beginning is basically what I want to tell you. Nobody should

949
00:56:15.120 --> 00:56:22.400
be making any huge life changing decisions during this phase of the program. Okay. You're going to

950
00:56:22.400 --> 00:56:29.920
learn more, lots more about yourself and about how you can have better and healthier relationships.

951
00:56:30.800 --> 00:56:40.080
Okay. Thank you. Yes. Yes. It's going to be great. Ladies, we're almost well, we're just

952
00:56:40.080 --> 00:56:45.760
waiting on approval from Apple for our app. So sometimes it takes, you know, it can take a long

953
00:56:45.760 --> 00:56:51.280
time, I guess is what I've heard. And so we're waiting on approval. So just keep praying that

954
00:56:51.280 --> 00:56:55.040
that comes this week. I would really love to move us all over to the app. That means that when you

955
00:56:55.040 --> 00:56:59.600
guys transition into phase two, you would be able to transition right to the app and come off of

956
00:56:59.600 --> 00:57:03.760
Facebook, which would be incredible. Right. And I would love for that to happen. We'll have all the

957
00:57:03.760 --> 00:57:08.000
same community elements that you have in your Facebook group on the app. So you won't miss out

958
00:57:08.000 --> 00:57:14.160
on anything like that. But just still really waiting on that to be approved by Apple. They,

959
00:57:14.160 --> 00:57:18.080
they don't like it if you don't give them a bunch of money in your app and we don't have in-app

960
00:57:18.080 --> 00:57:24.160
purchases. So they're suspicious of us already. And we're trying to navigate that. If you have

961
00:57:24.160 --> 00:57:30.640
an Android, don't worry. The Apple, the Apple still has to approve the app, but, you know,

962
00:57:30.640 --> 00:57:36.880
when you download it from the app store, you know, there's Android and, and iPhone, you don't have to

963
00:57:36.880 --> 00:57:47.600
just use an iPhone. Okay. Janice, you're up. Janice, Janice.

964
00:58:00.720 --> 00:58:04.880
All right. Anybody else? I don't think maybe she can't hear maybe her hands up for something else.

965
00:58:06.880 --> 00:58:25.600
Anybody else have any questions? Oh, you can't unmute here. Let me try to unmute you.

966
00:58:36.880 --> 00:58:53.680
Hmm. All right. It's not working on my side either. All right. So I think the main theme

967
00:58:53.680 --> 00:59:01.760
for this first session today, we have a session tonight at 8 p.m. Eastern is God really talking

968
00:59:01.760 --> 00:59:08.720
to us about the proper way to transition, right? And how to, you know, yes, there will be times

969
00:59:08.720 --> 00:59:16.080
when we need to leave places and even people behind. And while that does seem disloyal to

970
00:59:16.080 --> 00:59:22.960
those of you that have that overextended sense of loyalty, it's going to be necessary. It really is.

971
00:59:24.080 --> 00:59:28.560
I know people that have opted out of a lot of blessings in their lives and even love stories

972
00:59:28.560 --> 00:59:33.040
because they refuse to leave their families. You know, they are very codependent with their

973
00:59:33.040 --> 00:59:39.120
families, very unhealthy relationships with their families being held back and being kept from a

974
00:59:39.120 --> 00:59:46.240
lot of progress by those relationships. And yet they just felt so guilty that they just really

975
00:59:46.240 --> 00:59:51.520
couldn't move forward. And we don't want that to be the case with any of you. And whether that be

976
00:59:51.520 --> 00:59:58.400
spiritual communities or friendships or place of employment or whatever, we want to continue

977
00:59:58.400 --> 00:59:59.840
to move forward.

978
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:02.000
The kingdom is a moving model.

979
01:00:02.000 --> 01:00:04.000
Did you guys know that?

980
01:00:04.000 --> 01:00:08.000
It's always advancing and taking territory, isn't it?

981
01:00:08.000 --> 01:00:11.000
And so we need to be a people that's mobile.

982
01:00:11.000 --> 01:00:13.000
We need to be a mobile people.

983
01:00:13.000 --> 01:00:17.000
That being said, we also don't want to miss the lessons of maturity

984
01:00:17.000 --> 01:00:22.000
that come from being with people that rub our rough edges off.

985
01:00:22.000 --> 01:00:24.000
So there's a balance there.

986
01:00:24.000 --> 01:00:26.000
There's a balance.

987
01:00:26.000 --> 01:00:27.000
And so it's good.

988
01:00:27.000 --> 01:00:32.000
So Karen is going to, and here's the other thing that we,

989
01:00:32.000 --> 01:00:35.000
here's one more thing that's jumping into my mind.

990
01:00:35.000 --> 01:00:39.000
When we have been given a revelation from the Lord,

991
01:00:39.000 --> 01:00:42.000
when he's invited us into that upgrade, think of it as your phone.

992
01:00:42.000 --> 01:00:43.000
Every once in a while,

993
01:00:43.000 --> 01:00:46.000
my iPhone will say that there's a new operating system available.

994
01:00:46.000 --> 01:00:48.000
Look at my little grand babies.

995
01:00:48.000 --> 01:00:50.000
A new operating system available.

996
01:00:50.000 --> 01:00:53.000
And then I have the opportunity to download it.

997
01:00:53.000 --> 01:00:56.000
And then I'm operating at that, at that level of that system.

998
01:00:56.000 --> 01:00:59.000
Now my husband may still have the old operating system.

999
01:00:59.000 --> 01:01:02.000
My friends may still have the old operating system because they haven't

1000
01:01:02.000 --> 01:01:04.000
gotten the upgrade on their phone yet. Right.

1001
01:01:04.000 --> 01:01:08.000
And so when we get the upgrade, we don't need to be arrogant that, Oh,

1002
01:01:08.000 --> 01:01:11.000
I got new emojis that you don't have. I can, I can do this. I know that.

1003
01:01:11.000 --> 01:01:15.000
We don't need to be arrogant with our revelation. Right.

1004
01:01:15.000 --> 01:01:18.000
And so if we're learning new things about the kingdom,

1005
01:01:18.000 --> 01:01:20.000
if we're learning new things about the spirit realm,

1006
01:01:20.000 --> 01:01:23.000
if we're learning new things about God's love and our identity,

1007
01:01:23.000 --> 01:01:24.000
even heartwork,

1008
01:01:24.000 --> 01:01:27.000
you don't want to shove heartwork down someone else's throat. Okay.

1009
01:01:27.000 --> 01:01:32.000
If God's given you a grace in this season to upgrade into a higher

1010
01:01:32.000 --> 01:01:36.000
understanding and knowledge of his love and your identity, that's amazing,

1011
01:01:36.000 --> 01:01:38.000
but we don't look down on people that don't have it.

1012
01:01:39.000 --> 01:01:42.000
We want to make sure that we're humble in this place of upgrade.

1013
01:01:44.000 --> 01:01:45.000
And how do we do that?

1014
01:01:46.000 --> 01:01:51.000
By when a conversation comes up and we can see that that person's not

1015
01:01:51.000 --> 01:01:55.000
ready for that upgrade, you know, they don't have grace for that revelation.

1016
01:01:55.000 --> 01:01:59.000
We don't push it. We don't prob. We don't say, well, this is the truth too bad.

1017
01:01:59.000 --> 01:02:01.000
If you can't receive it, we're not arrogant,

1018
01:02:02.000 --> 01:02:07.000
prideful with that revelation. We just say, Oh,

1019
01:02:08.000 --> 01:02:10.000
I'm sorry. I didn't mean to offend you. You know,

1020
01:02:10.000 --> 01:02:14.000
I was just really interested in this book that I was reading or, you know,

1021
01:02:14.000 --> 01:02:17.000
we bow out gracefully.

1022
01:02:18.000 --> 01:02:21.000
And then you might say a prayer for that person that they would come to a

1023
01:02:21.000 --> 01:02:25.000
place where they're able to receive a new revelation,

1024
01:02:25.000 --> 01:02:29.000
especially in an area where they need an upgrade. Right.

1025
01:02:31.000 --> 01:02:34.000
It's important. You know, my mom's husband, you know,

1026
01:02:34.000 --> 01:02:35.000
I don't want to call him my stepdad.

1027
01:02:35.000 --> 01:02:38.000
And I also don't really feel comfortable calling him my dad.

1028
01:02:38.000 --> 01:02:40.000
Cause he really hasn't been that to me. Anybody else?

1029
01:02:41.000 --> 01:02:43.000
Like I'm not going to call him my stepdad.

1030
01:02:43.000 --> 01:02:45.000
Cause I feel like those are words of disconnection.

1031
01:02:45.000 --> 01:02:47.000
So I'm not going to call him that, but when I,

1032
01:02:47.000 --> 01:02:49.000
every time I try to call him my dad,

1033
01:02:49.000 --> 01:02:54.000
it just doesn't flow off my tongue because he really wasn't there for me.

1034
01:02:54.000 --> 01:02:57.000
Wasn't a father to me, like didn't raise me, but we do have.

1035
01:02:59.000 --> 01:03:01.000
A brother, like his son is my brother, you know,

1036
01:03:01.000 --> 01:03:05.000
and he was married to my mom for many years. And now that she's passed,

1037
01:03:05.000 --> 01:03:07.000
it's like all of us are together because, you know,

1038
01:03:07.000 --> 01:03:10.000
we stay together to remember her and, you know,

1039
01:03:10.000 --> 01:03:13.000
like we all have shared memories, so to speak of things.

1040
01:03:15.000 --> 01:03:20.000
Anyway, when my mom was alive, I had a very tumultuous and tumultuous and

1041
01:03:20.000 --> 01:03:22.000
complicated, you know, relationship with her.

1042
01:03:23.000 --> 01:03:26.000
But when I would call to talk to her, if he would answer the phone,

1043
01:03:27.000 --> 01:03:28.000
he would just hand her the phone.

1044
01:03:29.000 --> 01:03:31.000
Like he wasn't even trying to have relationship with me and I don't have a

1045
01:03:31.000 --> 01:03:34.000
dad. So I would have loved to like, Hey, you know,

1046
01:03:34.000 --> 01:03:37.000
have relationship with me. You're the father to my little brother.

1047
01:03:37.000 --> 01:03:39.000
You know, don't you want to be anything to me?

1048
01:03:39.000 --> 01:03:41.000
And I'm just getting really upset about it.

1049
01:03:41.000 --> 01:03:43.000
And I would try to like talk about different things.

1050
01:03:43.000 --> 01:03:45.000
Every time he'd get on the phone or answer the phone,

1051
01:03:45.000 --> 01:03:48.000
I'd try to talk to him, you know, and stuff. And he would just,

1052
01:03:48.000 --> 01:03:50.000
and even when I would be in person with him,

1053
01:03:50.000 --> 01:03:52.000
I'd be trying to talk to my mom about heartwork or something.

1054
01:03:52.000 --> 01:03:53.000
Cause you know,

1055
01:03:53.000 --> 01:03:57.000
God gave me the revelation of heartwork and I'd be trying to talk to my mom

1056
01:03:57.000 --> 01:04:01.000
and he would just kind of walk away or whatever. And one day specifically,

1057
01:04:01.000 --> 01:04:06.000
I was really offended by him really offended by his lack of desire for

1058
01:04:06.000 --> 01:04:10.000
relationship and lack of desire for growth and just anything good.

1059
01:04:10.000 --> 01:04:15.000
And I was in my little self-righteous britches and I was walking around my

1060
01:04:15.000 --> 01:04:18.000
neighborhood and I was just kind of talking to God and having a, you know,

1061
01:04:18.000 --> 01:04:20.000
a little, a little tantrum.

1062
01:04:22.000 --> 01:04:25.000
And God said,

1063
01:04:25.000 --> 01:04:28.000
how would you feel if you went to school and a teacher gave you a test,

1064
01:04:28.000 --> 01:04:32.000
a very important test that was going to make up a large percentage of your

1065
01:04:32.000 --> 01:04:35.000
grade. And yet when you went to take the test,

1066
01:04:35.000 --> 01:04:37.000
you didn't know any of the information on the test.

1067
01:04:37.000 --> 01:04:38.000
It was all foreign to you.

1068
01:04:39.000 --> 01:04:44.000
You hadn't been taught any of the things that she was testing you over.

1069
01:04:44.000 --> 01:04:48.000
And I said, I be mad about it. I would think it was unfair and unjust.

1070
01:04:48.000 --> 01:04:51.000
I would probably demand justice and probably go to the principal.

1071
01:04:51.000 --> 01:04:53.000
I'd probably report her. You know,

1072
01:04:53.000 --> 01:04:56.000
I was saying all the things that I would probably do if that was the case.

1073
01:04:56.000 --> 01:05:00.000
And he said, this is how Mike, his name's Mike. This is how Mike feels.

1074
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:01.560
feels when he talks to you."

1075
01:05:01.560 --> 01:05:03.120
And I was like, what do you mean?

1076
01:05:03.120 --> 01:05:05.800
He said, you continue, whether you know it or not,

1077
01:05:05.800 --> 01:05:09.440
to test him and give him tests over information

1078
01:05:09.440 --> 01:05:10.920
that he's never learned.

1079
01:05:10.920 --> 01:05:12.700
You continue to try to talk to him

1080
01:05:12.700 --> 01:05:15.360
from a revelation that he doesn't have.

1081
01:05:15.360 --> 01:05:16.840
And he feels very frustrated.

1082
01:05:16.840 --> 01:05:18.760
He feels very offended.

1083
01:05:18.760 --> 01:05:21.280
He feels, you know, put upon.

1084
01:05:21.280 --> 01:05:24.200
He said, and it's not loving of you.

1085
01:05:27.200 --> 01:05:28.920
And I was doing that.

1086
01:05:28.920 --> 01:05:31.000
And I didn't realize I was doing it.

1087
01:05:31.000 --> 01:05:32.680
Okay, I was just being myself.

1088
01:05:32.680 --> 01:05:37.080
And so it was important for me to understand

1089
01:05:37.080 --> 01:05:40.480
that I was giving him tests and then failing him.

1090
01:05:41.320 --> 01:05:42.960
And he felt my disappointment in him.

1091
01:05:42.960 --> 01:05:45.080
He could feel me failing him

1092
01:05:45.080 --> 01:05:46.440
because he didn't have the right answers

1093
01:05:46.440 --> 01:05:48.860
or didn't know or wasn't interested.

1094
01:05:48.860 --> 01:05:50.680
And you guys, we have to be careful

1095
01:05:50.680 --> 01:05:52.360
with people that are in our lives

1096
01:05:52.360 --> 01:05:54.640
that are gonna be in our lives.

1097
01:05:54.640 --> 01:05:57.160
There's no way we're getting rid of these people.

1098
01:05:57.160 --> 01:06:00.120
Okay, there are baby daddies, all right.

1099
01:06:00.120 --> 01:06:04.160
And there are, you know, relatives, grandparents, parents,

1100
01:06:04.160 --> 01:06:06.480
children, could even have kids like this,

1101
01:06:06.480 --> 01:06:09.640
grown adult kids or kids that are becoming adults.

1102
01:06:09.640 --> 01:06:11.600
They're just people that, you know,

1103
01:06:11.600 --> 01:06:14.920
they're gonna be in your life for the foreseeable future.

1104
01:06:14.920 --> 01:06:18.440
And you have to be careful that you're not doing this

1105
01:06:18.440 --> 01:06:20.400
because all it's doing is it's causing them

1106
01:06:20.400 --> 01:06:23.760
to not want to learn the material.

1107
01:06:28.160 --> 01:06:32.040
It's causing them not to want to learn the material.

1108
01:06:32.040 --> 01:06:32.880
So let's be careful.

1109
01:06:32.880 --> 01:06:33.800
Let's pray into that.

1110
01:06:33.800 --> 01:06:37.400
God, am I giving anyone tests over information

1111
01:06:37.400 --> 01:06:39.200
and revelation that they don't have?

1112
01:06:40.360 --> 01:06:43.840
Am I acting in a way that's self-righteous?

1113
01:06:43.840 --> 01:06:45.840
You know, am I doing any of those things?

1114
01:06:45.840 --> 01:06:49.440
Because we wanna make sure that we're not doing those things

1115
01:06:49.440 --> 01:06:53.140
that we're in grace, keep it simple, sweetheart.

1116
01:06:53.140 --> 01:06:54.800
The gospel is simple.

1117
01:06:54.800 --> 01:06:56.280
You know, I love the verse.

1118
01:06:56.280 --> 01:06:59.280
I love the quote that says, you know,

1119
01:06:59.280 --> 01:07:02.480
preach the gospel and if necessary, use words,

1120
01:07:02.480 --> 01:07:04.760
meaning that our life should tell a story.

1121
01:07:04.760 --> 01:07:08.160
The way we treat each other with kindness and compassion,

1122
01:07:08.160 --> 01:07:12.800
empathy, all of the things that should tell the story

1123
01:07:12.800 --> 01:07:16.040
and that it is that we wanna tell, all right?

1124
01:07:16.040 --> 01:07:17.760
So I might see some of you guys tonight at eight.

1125
01:07:17.760 --> 01:07:19.400
If you show up there, you don't have to.

1126
01:07:19.400 --> 01:07:21.000
It'll be a whole different bag though,

1127
01:07:21.000 --> 01:07:23.200
because Holy Spirit will take us a different direction

1128
01:07:23.200 --> 01:07:24.640
with whatever it is that we talk about.

1129
01:07:24.640 --> 01:07:26.880
This will be available in replay.

1130
01:07:26.880 --> 01:07:28.880
We do have Supernational Saturday.

1131
01:07:28.880 --> 01:07:30.920
How many of you are gonna be transferring

1132
01:07:30.920 --> 01:07:33.920
before we meet again into phase two?

1133
01:07:33.920 --> 01:07:36.200
Raise your hand if you're gonna be going to phase two

1134
01:07:36.200 --> 01:07:37.600
before next week's coaching.

1135
01:07:38.480 --> 01:07:41.080
Okay, don't forget to remove yourself from phase one

1136
01:07:41.080 --> 01:07:44.060
after you are approved for phase two.

1137
01:07:45.680 --> 01:07:48.240
Join phase two first, request it,

1138
01:07:48.240 --> 01:07:50.080
and when you're approved and you're in there,

1139
01:07:50.080 --> 01:07:53.980
then come back to phase one and leave the group, okay?

1140
01:07:53.980 --> 01:07:55.420
So make sure you do it that way.

1141
01:07:55.420 --> 01:07:58.260
I really hope that by the time that that happens,

1142
01:07:58.260 --> 01:08:00.540
we'll be giving you an email that's teaching you

1143
01:08:00.540 --> 01:08:02.100
how to download the app and get over there.

1144
01:08:02.100 --> 01:08:03.300
That would be wonderful.

1145
01:08:03.300 --> 01:08:04.660
So keep that in prayer.

1146
01:08:04.660 --> 01:08:07.180
Also, there was one more thing

1147
01:08:11.400 --> 01:08:13.460
that I was gonna make all community.

1148
01:08:13.460 --> 01:08:14.580
I'm gonna post it in the group.

1149
01:08:14.580 --> 01:08:16.180
I think there's one more session that we're gonna make

1150
01:08:16.180 --> 01:08:19.160
for all the communities on phase one, two, and three,

1151
01:08:19.160 --> 01:08:20.500
because we want everyone to be there.

1152
01:08:20.500 --> 01:08:23.979
So Supernatural Saturday, Sunday Night Activate.

1153
01:08:23.979 --> 01:08:25.660
Supernatural Saturday is going to be

1154
01:08:25.660 --> 01:08:28.180
about consistency and discipline.

1155
01:08:29.380 --> 01:08:31.220
It is gonna be a really important one.

1156
01:08:31.220 --> 01:08:33.439
So if you wanna show up for that,

1157
01:08:34.620 --> 01:08:36.340
that's gonna be great, all right?

1158
01:08:36.340 --> 01:08:37.779
Okay, see you guys soon.

1159
01:08:37.779 --> 01:08:38.700
Love y'all, bye.