All right, so welcome to last year's single orientation.
I'm gonna go over some things with you guys,
and then you're gonna get to ask questions.
No question is stupid.
Please ask all of your questions
because someone watching in replay
may have the same question as you,
and they didn't have a chance to ask it
because they weren't live, right?
And so you're gonna help answer their question for them.
Sound good?
So no stupid questions.
So let's go ahead and get started.
Father God, thank you for all of your daughters
that are here tonight
that are headed into this last year's single journey.
Lord, I pray that you would be with them,
you're for them,
that you would just chart the course ahead of them.
I pray that you would help them to see
what they need to see, Lord,
and get out of their own way,
get out of your way so that they can step into the love story
that I believe you've written for them.
Anything and everything that they need for that process
will be given to them.
Nothing will be withheld from them in Jesus' name, amen.
All right, so we're gonna go over all the questions.
I'm gonna tell you some things that you might experience.
Remember that book,
for those of you that have had a baby back in the day,
there was a book,
because the internet was not a thing yet,
and it was called,
What You Expect When You're Expecting.
Anyone remember that book?
Did you see a friend had that book,
even if you've never had a child?
That was like the manifesto of pregnancy.
It had everything to expect.
It's like, oh, you had this body odor, it means this.
You see like this little sign in your body, it means this.
You feel this feeling, it means that, right?
And so that's what we're gonna kind of do tonight.
We're going to,
what you expect when you are going through
this phase one of the process, right?
I'm mainly gonna just focus on phase one of the program.
I'll touch a little bit on phase two and phase three,
but you're gonna be,
all of you are gonna be in phase one
for at least the next five weeks.
Some of you are gonna be in phase one longer than that,
because it's just gonna take you longer.
And I want you to make sure,
here's number one, if you wanna write it down,
do not rush through this first part.
Don't rush through it,
trying to get to the second part of the third part,
trying to get out on dates,
trying to get to a place where,
you know, you think you're going to be able to go meet
your spirit mate, that's all great, but write this down.
It's not about being in the right time at the right place.
That's great.
But a lot of you have already been in the right place
the right time,
but you didn't have the third part of the trifecta,
the right heart.
So right time, right place, right heart
is the trifecta of success when it comes to your love story.
And the right heart is what we do in this phase one.
So I wanna make sure that you are really doing the work.
That's why it's called hard work.
If I would have called it hard work,
it still would have been true,
but it's hard work.
It's not hard work, but the hard work can be hard work.
Why?
Because we got a lot of stuff going on in there.
A lot of stuff that we're not even really
that consciously aware of.
Once again, therapy's wonderful and counseling is wonderful.
I definitely think that that should be a part
of every believer's journey,
but make sure that your therapist
and your counselor has Jesus.
You can have Jesus in the therapist,
but you have to make sure that your therapist has Jesus too.
I've seen lots of people get led astray by counselors
and by therapy.
They've gotten off on some other stuff.
That's not meant to scare you.
It is just a cautionary tale
that there's a lot of humanism out there.
There's a lot of transcendentalism.
There's a lot of just what I call psychology culture,
and none of that is going to ever really transform you.
It's just not.
You know why?
Because it's based on head knowledge.
I had plenty of counseling and therapy,
and I was still tore up from the floor up.
And the reason why is because it's all stuck here.
It doesn't ever get here.
And the Bible tells us very specifically
that life is a heart game.
It's not a head game.
It's a heart game.
And the problem with the heart part of you,
which is what this whole first part is all about,
the phase one is all about the heart part,
the soul part, the mind, will, and emotions part.
The problem with that is a lot of people
are even deceiving themselves.
You're gonna see really quickly in week one of phase one
that your heart, when it's broken,
when it's still operating on brokenness,
it is a deceiver, it's a pretender, and it's a puzzle.
And it will have you zigging and zagging
and going left instead of right
and jumping up and jumping down
and trying to give it all the things that it wants,
where none of those things are the things
that the authentic you really needs or wants.
And here's the good news.
God knows who you are, and he knows where you are,
and he knows what you need,
and he knows how to get it to you.
But you have to stop.
Surrender the pen.
And so week one of phase one,
which is what you're in right now,
you're about to head into week one,
is called supernatural surrender for a reason.
We're gonna revisit that permission slip
that you saw during the challenge,
but you're really gonna dig into that.
Surrender is going to be your new favorite word.
Everything's gonna be surrendered.
You're gonna make a Jesus cares board.
You're like, what is that?
You'll see as you go through week one,
and you're gonna stop taking ownership
of everything in your life.
And you're gonna start letting God do his part.
A lot of you are very responsible,
and that is just a fancy word for fear.
That is an orphan mentality.
It is a poverty mentality.
A lot of times it's a religious mindset.
And so it's not about what we can do.
It's about what God can do through us, right?
That is what it's about.
And so you're gonna get in alignment with that
during the first part of this program.
So don't mail it in.
Don't try to rush through it.
If we see you getting there faster than five weeks,
we're gonna wanna know why.
Because it should take all of five weeks and even more
to process through this material.
So don't be like, oh, I've heard this before.
Well, first of all, you definitely haven't
because I've never taken any inner healing courses.
I haven't.
I've never read any of the inner healing gurus books
like the Danny Silk books and the Henry Clout.
Like whatever it is, I don't know it.
So this is a direct download from God.
And it's been around actually longer
than some of those books.
This teaching has been around for 20-ish years.
And so the bottom line is,
is that you're going to learn something supernatural here.
You're gonna go into a supernatural process
if you allow yourself
and you don't let your ego get in the way
because sometimes transformation is simple.
And so if this seems like Mickey Mouse stuff
compared to all the deep sozo work you've done,
then good, because it does not have to be hard
to be transformative, right?
But then you're like, Jackie, but you said it was hard work.
The hard work is not being distracted.
The hard work is staying focused
in this very crazy distractible world that we live in.
You came here for a reason.
God sent you here for a reason.
And we've never had anyone who's done the hard work
not come out on the other side
with lots of great, amazing breakthrough in transformation.
Okay, not one person.
And so please do yourself a favor, don't rush it.
Okay, so what might you experience?
What can you expect?
Well, first of all, you can expect to feel all the feels.
Around here, we say you have to feel the feels
to heal the feels, right?
I know that's beautiful and it rhymes.
And I've been saying that for probably 15 years.
You have to feel the feels to heal the feels.
A lot of us want healing,
but we don't want to really experience the trauma
where the brokenness is rooted.
And that's just not possible.
Now, the good news is this,
that this is not a situation we're gonna come in here
and we're going to force you to like,
look at all your trauma.
You're only going to look at
what Holy Spirit brings to the surface.
It's a very supernatural process.
So the second thing is no digging.
We don't want you to get a shovel and dig around
where all the dead bones are buried in your family history
and try to dig out all the generational curses.
You guys, we don't do that here.
We're not doing that here.
What we're gonna do is we're gonna allow
the revealing for healing to happen is what we call it.
And trust me, there's gonna be plenty of things.
And the reason why it's important for you
not to go sifting around, okay, in your family's graveyard,
the reason why that's important
is because there's some things
that you just don't need to deal with right now.
Yeah, you might be aware that they happened
and you might think,
maybe I need some more healing in that area,
but unless it is brought to the surface
during this revealing for healing process,
then you're just gonna let sleeping dogs lie.
Why?
Because as you go forward into phase two and phase three,
and you're able to try out your newly healed heart
in real life, real time scenarios with people,
including potential suitors,
that stuff will come up on its own.
Let it come up when it needs to come up.
We're gonna diffuse all the ticking time bombs that we can,
that we know about,
but we're not going to go
and try to force healing in an area
or maybe it's just not time yet for that, okay?
And what will happen if you try to force something
is that you might have a little bit of a breakdown.
And this is not a phase
where you're gonna have a nervous breakdown.
You have a scheduled breakthrough.
That is what's happening here,
but only if you follow directions, okay?
So we're gonna feel the feels when they come,
we're not gonna go.
I'm gonna try to feel them.
We're gonna feel the feels to heal the feels.
You might expect to feel a little emotional, okay?
For those of you that have a fight or flight response
that's really sensitive,
you might feel a little panicky at times,
might feel a little bit of anxiety.
It's okay, just move through it.
Okay, move through it, show up to your coachings,
show up in your group and post.
Pro tip for phase one is post as much as possible
in your group.
Now we're hoping to get you guys all moved onto the app
and you'll have your group over there as well.
But right now you're still posting in that Facebook group.
The only people that are in there
are people that are in phase one.
They're all going through the same process as you.
They might be a little ahead of you.
They might be a little behind you in the five weeks,
but they're all going to be in the same process.
Go ahead and be seen, known and loved in there, right?
Because you're seen, known and loved in heaven
and we want to be on earth as we already are in heaven
and this is a safe space.
And you will get more and more and more breakthrough
as you allow people to come into this process with you.
That being said, we don't need any of you
to become therapists or counselors or coaches
for each other.
We have people on our staff
that are there in the group with you
that will see your post, that will comment on your post.
The only job that you have with your sisters here
that you're starting this process with
and the others that are a little ahead of you
in the process is to just cheer each other on,
encourage each other, love each other, pray for each other.
That's all we want you to do.
If we see you with your little counselor, your coach hat,
your therapist, maybe that's what you do for a living.
Wonderful.
You get to take that hat off
and leave it at the door in this program.
And if we see you wearing it too often,
we're probably going to take you aside
and we're going to ask you to take it off, okay?
Why is that?
Because this is all about you, boo.
That's why.
You get to rest in here.
It's not because we don't think you're wise and amazing.
It's because you get to rest in here.
In fact, that's some of y'all's problems.
You're already focused.
You're always focused on someone else's problem
and their healing and you've neglected your own heart.
And what you do is you medicate by helping others.
We don't want that anymore.
We want you to deal with you, right?
And so keep those hats off.
And that continues into phase two.
We have dating coaches.
We have relationship coaches, including myself.
We don't need you to do anything
but support and cheer each other on.
You're allowed to, you know, you can chime in
as long as you're not coaching or advising,
you can chime in and say,
hey, you know, that sounds kind of fishy to me.
Maybe you should check that out.
You can say stuff like that.
And you'll learn more as you go along in the second place.
I don't want any of you to be afraid
to actually talk to each other,
but especially in this phase one heart work part,
we want you to make sure that you are not being a helper
as much as you are being a student, okay?
Really important.
And so you might feel a lot of emotions.
You might feel angry or weepy, irritable.
You might feel like you're on a hair trigger.
You might feel like you have a little chronic PMS,
a little fight or flight response, a little anxious.
You might feel a little down, a little heavy.
You might feel a lot of other emotions too,
some positive emotions.
There might be some drama that kind of tries
to get stirred up while you're in this first phase.
What is that?
That's a distraction.
That's what I like to call the border bullies.
They're showing up to try to keep you from going forward.
Because remember your whole lineage and legacy,
I believe, is depending on you.
Whatever's been running in your family
that shouldn't be running in your family,
I believe it runs out with you.
I believe that's why you're here.
You're spotlighted and highlighted
to be a kinsman redeemer in your family.
Has anyone ever received a word like that?
Like you're gonna be a person in your family
that's gonna shift things and change things,
that you're a forerunner or pioneer,
that your marriage, your future marriage
is going to shift your whole family.
If you haven't received those words,
then I'm telling you those words right now
and releasing them over you,
because I believe those are the people
that get called to this program.
There's eight plus billion people in the world,
and the small group of people,
the thousands that get called into this program,
I believe that they've been highlighted by heaven
to be that for their family line.
I do.
And one thing that I truly believe
is that more important than the family that you come from
is the family that you create with your future spirit mate.
So if you came like me,
you came out of your mom's womb running for your life
and you were raised by wolves
on the plains of the Serengeti,
then there's good news.
And the good news is that more important
and more powerful than the family you've come from
is the family that you're gonna build together
with your spirit mate.
Cool?
Great.
All right.
So a little drama might try to break out.
Just check no on that invitation.
You're not gonna come to that pity party.
You're not gonna come to that fight.
If your husband, the man who was your husband
and now he's your husband,
tries to pick a fight with you over custody or the kids,
or the kids started to pick a fight with you
or your in-laws.
to your outlaws or friends or your boss or whoever,
just don't say yes to that.
Because all that's trying to do is get you to fall off.
Guys, there's a reason why this is part of the orientation
because it happens just that much.
Don't get into a fight with your car.
Your car starts acting up.
You just tell the Lord,
I'm putting this on my Jesus cares board.
I can't be distracted.
I'm not allowed to get distracted by this.
So if all hell starts trying to break loose in your life,
that's good because we want hell to break off of us
and be gone.
Okay, so distractions, they will try to come.
For those of you that are single moms,
a lot of times the kids,
the opposing forces will show up through the kids.
All of a sudden, they don't know how to use the microwave.
They don't know how to tie their shoes
when they've been self-sufficient for a long time.
Don't give into it, all right?
Put your foot down and stand your ground
and keep going forward.
Dreaming is something that happens.
Please keep a pen and a dream journal,
whatever you want that to look like,
a pad of paper at your bedside.
When I tell you that you will not remember your dream,
you'll wake up, you'll remember it,
and then you'll go back to sleep and you wake up again,
you will not remember it.
You won't.
I can't tell you how many times I'm like,
I could never forget that, it was so poignant.
Go back to sleep, you wake up like you have amnesia.
You don't remember it at all.
It's like, how, how, how is it gone?
Because I don't know what happens, but it happens.
And so make sure that you have that little pad of paper,
even those of you that it would be like, I never dream.
Me neither, but guess what?
You might start.
And so just in case, keep it there and write it down.
There'll be opportunity for you to post that in phase one
and get some feedback from our coaches, from myself.
I scroll through there.
I do have the gift to interpret dreams.
I will scroll through there and take a look,
see every once in a while.
We have other people on our team that also can give you
insight into your dreams as well.
Now don't be writing us a 15 page dream,
because you're one of the dreamer people
that dream all the time.
So you're like, oh, what about this dream
I had six months ago?
I'm going to put it in here and it's 18 paragraphs.
No, short, brief, powerful.
Give us the highlights of it.
Let us weigh in.
All right.
And only the important ones,
because you need to learn how to know
what your own dream means.
God gave it to you.
And so don't be posting it before you really pray into it,
ask Holy Spirit to give you the interpretation
of what it means as well.
That's super important.
Some of you will not night dream.
Does that mean you're broken and messed up?
Does that mean the heart work's not working?
No.
It just means that that's not how God's talking to you
in this season, but you might daydream.
You might start seeing patterns and numbers
and things that just seem significant,
but you don't know why.
Write it down.
If you feel like you start seeing stuff
over and over again, and you're like,
what in the world does that mean?
Why do I keep seeing this red bird?
Write it down.
Okay, keep a heart work journal.
You're going to want to do this.
If you just find yourself zoning off
and daydreaming about something and doing something
and you see yourself in some future state, write it down.
What is happening?
Your heart is coming alive.
You might have some heightened senses.
For those of you that were pregnant,
you remember you had heightened senses.
You had like a supersonic hearing and sense of smell.
You might start having something like that
during this as well,
where everything seems like it's in live and living color,
unlike before.
Some of you may have what I call deja vu.
It may start happening like,
hey, something's weird about this.
I feel like I've said this before.
I feel like I've been here before.
Deja vu is just a kind of French name for convergence.
When you start having deja vu,
it's most likely because you're beginning
to come into alignment with where God is taking you.
So write down the elements of your deja vu.
Who were you with?
What were you doing?
What were you talking about
when you all of a sudden had the deja vu?
Write all that stuff down because all of that is clues.
The most important thing that I want to tell you
is during this first phase,
you're going to feel like God is talking to you
more than ever before.
You're going to feel like you're getting
a lot of what I call God wings.
Heaven is listening.
God is always talking.
He really is.
And for some of you,
you haven't really been aware
of how God's been talking to you,
and you're going to start becoming more and more aware.
So if you haven't really been that close to God,
you feel like he's a bazillion, million miles away,
he's going to start feeling a lot closer.
Things are going to start feeling significant.
might read a verse of scripture
and you feel like God's talking directly to you.
You might scroll on the internet
and it feels like a video jumps out at you about something.
And I really want to encourage you
to be careful about your scrolling during phase one.
I'm not telling you to fast media,
but I am telling you that you want to stay
as focused as possible, okay?
Stay as focused as possible if you can.
Now, we're gonna ask you to do two things during phase one.
We're gonna ask you to go on a dating sabbatical
unless you're in a level, what we call level three,
exclusive marriage-minded courtship.
If you're just kind of talking to people,
even if you've been on a few dates with them,
but nothing serious, nothing exclusive,
we're gonna ask you to put a pin in that,
put it on pause, hit the pause button,
tell them, say, hey, listen, I'm going through a workshop.
I'm gonna be in it for five weeks
and they've asked me to really focus on this
and not to be dating.
And, you know, I'll see you on the flip side.
Trust me, you can't miss out on your spirit mate.
If that's your spirit mate and you're doing the heart work,
it's only gonna grow stronger
when you flip around after five weeks.
But that could be a massive distraction for you
if you do not follow those instructions.
And then the second thing we're gonna ask you not to do
is make huge personality or lifestyle changes
during phase one of this program.
Why is that?
Because your heart's gonna start coming alive.
Week one is supernatural surrender.
Week two is unpacking the heart boxes.
Week three is confession and repentance.
Week four is forgiveness.
Week five is the real authentic you.
And somewhere in this process,
you're gonna start wanting things
that you might not have wanted before,
or maybe you wanted them a long time ago
and now all of a sudden you're gonna want them again.
Your day job may start looking like crap
and maybe it already does,
but you can't go in and tell your boss to shove it.
You ain't working here no more during phase one.
Don't do it.
Please don't do it, okay?
Just wait,
because your little pendulum is gonna start swinging
and we wanna wait till it kind of gets right here
before we make those crazy decisions
like dyeing your hair purple and tattooing your face.
Don't do those things during phase one.
Don't pack up the truck and move to Beverly.
Don't do any of that stuff until after phase one is over.
You think I'm kidding,
but there's a reason why these are the rules,
because this is what people do.
When I first did my heart work,
I dyed my hair purple and pierced my nose.
That was just a big old, you know what,
to the people that tried to keep me
just under their little Pentecostal thumb my whole life.
Cut all my hair off.
It's an act of rebellion.
Those of you that have been around Pentecostals,
you know why.
And then I was just like, I'll do what I want.
But thank goodness all these years later,
my pendulum has kind of come to the middle, right?
Very important.
So depending on how oppressed you have been by other people
and their opinions of who you should be
and who you shouldn't be,
you might get a little wild and that's okay.
But let's make sure that we save
some of that wildness for later.
Let's not be doing it here.
So no quitting your jobs, no moving.
Now, the exception to that is if you were already
transitioning your job,
if you were already in the middle of a transition
and you're moving, you sold your house,
you're moving whatever your lease is up, that's different.
But don't do it all of a sudden
in the middle of phase one of this program, okay?
And then lastly, divine appointments.
There's gonna be so many divine appointments.
Make sure you keep a journal of how God's talking to you,
what he's saying, what kind of exciting anticipation
is starting to come alive in your heart
because you are going to come alive.
You are.
And good things, amazing things are on the horizon for you.
We have had people lose huge amounts of weight
in this program as a result of this first phase.
We've had people completely relocate to other countries,
to other careers, zip codes, communities.
We've had people move in with each other
that they met here, like as housemates,
as they go through their single journey together.
Some of the people meet their best, closest friends
in this group.
In fact, I just saw this picture in one of my OG groups.
One of my students just had her bridal shower.
So there she is in her little bridal shower dress,
but then here's a picture of her
with another one of my success stories,
who's married and has a baby now.
And then here's a picture of her
with another one of my success stories.
And they're all in this wedding together.
So you're gonna meet your bridesmaids,
your maids of honor in this group probably.
All different types of amazing things
are gonna happen here.
You're going to travel maybe for the first.
of your life, you're going to stop putting the pause button on all these beautiful, amazing
things that God has for you. And you're going to start moving forward. And so I hope you're
excited about that because all of that is what's going to happen here. My God, Lorraine Woods is
in the house. You finally made it over into the program. Look at you, girl. I'm so proud of you.
I've seen her in my challenge many, many times and here she is. All right. Okay. So I'm very
excited for all of you. How many of you did the challenge more than once before you actually joined
the program? Put your little avatar hand up so I can see it. Your little, it'll say on your Zoom,
raise your hand. Just put that up so I can see how many of you did the challenge more than once
before you finally pulled the trigger on it. All right. Not that many. So this was all of
you's like first time through. Okay. Except for like four of you. That's awesome. All right. Well,
we're going to go ahead and you can put your hands down. We're going to go ahead and take some
questions now. Logistically phase one has their coaching calls live on Mondays at 1 PM Eastern
and 8 PM Eastern. Your calendar is in your Facebook group. There's a guide section there.
The replays are going to live over on your Jackie Dorman portal. So you can look at all the replays
at least every Monday, at least one of those sessions, the 1 PM or the 8 PM is recorded.
So you can go back and listen to it and watch it. It is a grab bag of coaching from all five weeks.
It's not just week one coaching or week two coaching week three coaching. It's a grab bag.
And where do we get that grab bag from every Sunday night in your group? There is a post
that's put up called roll call. Where are you? What are you working on? What's going on? What
are your breakthroughs? Where are you stuck at? You need to make sure that you post in the comments
of that post, because that is where our coaches gather all the information that they want to coach
on in the weekly coaching session. And then of course you can show up live if you can,
and then ask your questions there as well. So if you, you can post in the comments,
but if you're able to be live, you can also ask your questions live. Okay.
Also weekly prayer, 10 AM Eastern, every single day, Monday through Friday, we have weekly prayer.
The links are all in your group. They're all in that guide section of your group in the important
links guide, which I think is guide to, and then you can also, and I think they also live in your
Jackie Dorman portal as well. So you can find them there. And thankfully we're going to be on
the app. We're onboarding people. Now don't go download it. We will tell you when it's your turn
to onboard, but all the links will be there to just touch them and hit them and go straight to
where you need to go, which is going to be such an amazing thing. Um, Saturdays also at 10 PM
Eastern in the morning time, um, that is supernatural Saturday. That is current prophetic realities.
It is a powerful time together in the spirit. If you can be there live, be there live, but it is
available in replay morning prayer is not because it happens every single day of the week. So that'd
be way too many recordings. So Monday through Friday, 10 AM Eastern, not available in replay
Saturdays. Yes. Available in replay Sunday nights. Sometimes we have activated 8 PM Eastern on Sunday
nights. It's mainly breakout rooms. So it's not always available in replay, but once a month,
we have a prophetic night. Everyone gathers together, all of our prayer leaders, all of
our prophetic teachers. And we all just, we have people get prophesied over all kinds of amazing
things happen that does get recorded. And that does happen once a month. Okay. All right. Um,
when you get to phase two, your coaching calls, same thing, one and eight, but it's going to be
on Tuesdays. Same thing. One of those sessions available in replay, where are you going to find
the replays in your portal. Okay. And then phase three, their live sessions kind of run the gamut,
but they're usually on Tuesdays or Thursdays only once, only one a week. And they are on all
different types of things. We have path sessions that strengthen your relationship with God,
yourself and others like this week's path session is on your expectations of each phase of
relationship. We have five phases of relationship that we work with in this program, community,
low stakes, dating, exclusive dating, engagement in marriage. What should you be expecting from
someone in all of those phases of relationship? What should it look like? What should they be
doing? You know, do you have missed expectations? Do you have, you know, unrealistic expectations?
Do you have, you counted the cost of what you're going to have to do to make room and space for
relationship as it grows? We're going to talk about that. Our last path session was about sex,
no holds barred everything in anything that you've ever wanted to ask or know about sex.
We had that last time. That was a non co-ed session.
So sometimes our path sessions are co-ed sometimes or not in phase three, we have love seats,
which is dating coaching.
We have asked Jackie, which is dating coaching.
We have single spotlights, which is a fun matchmaking time that we have.
So all different types of things happen in phase three.
Once again, it's usually on Tuesdays or Thursdays, not both one.
And then the calendar is laid out a couple of months in advance.
So you can see what is there and plan your life accordingly.
All right.
Everyone excited.
We have a lot of questions.
Let me go ahead and hear them.
Jackie, would you repeat the levels of relationship again, please?
And listen, you don't have to remember any of this because you're going to get taught
this in phase two, the divine feminine, dating 101, all that, but I will tell you community
low stakes dating.
It's kind of like the talking stage of things, exclusive dating, engagement, and marriage.
And in phase two, everything in anything about dating is going to happen.
Also things about divine feminine boundaries.
That's all phase two classes.
I have a question.
So I am committed to stopping dating apps, a hundred percent.
No problem.
I have a date in progress.
So I live in Washington state and I have a date scheduled for Tamita fella a week from
Friday in North Dakota.
Do I cancel it?
Like the odds of it being a distraction for five weeks are like so slim.
You're traveling to, you're traveling all the way to North Dakota.
I'm seeing my kids in North Dakota and he happened to live there.
Yeah.
I mean, if you've already promised them, you guys, we don't want you to break promises.
If you've already made plans and you told someone that you would do something, go ahead
and follow through knowing that if it is the best date of your entire life, you're going
to put it on pause.
Perfect.
Okay.
Thank you.
Yep.
Who's next?
Go ahead.
You, if you have your hands up, just go ahead and unmute yourself and take turns.
Oh, I don't know who else is waiting, but I'll just go ahead.
So I'm also sort of wrestling.
I've been doing low stakes dating, talking to multiple people.
I've got three guys kind of in my funnel.
One of them's in Florida.
I think he would totally understand.
I can put him on pause.
I think he's somebody that I know will be there in five weeks and would give me space
and he actually may need some space too because it's one of those, we've been talking for
three to four months and it's like, this long distance thing isn't going to work unless
one of us is able to fly to meet one another.
So that's, I'm going to leave that in God's hands.
Another two are local and I'm struggling with like how, I've gone on like four or five dates
with them, but I've only been talking to each of them for about a month.
So it's like, I'm struggling with how to communicate.
One of them, I think I can just let go.
I don't think that we're necessarily compatible.
I just have to figure out the language about how to let him go.
The other one, I'm like more hesitant to let go of.
So I'm just around how to ask for this.
You've been on four to five dates and it's not exclusive.
And I just want to let you know, you're not going to miss out on your spirit mate.
You know, what comes to my mind is that, you know, especially not when you're being obedient
to God.
But what comes to my mind is one of my guys, one of my guy students, he kind of met his
dream girl.
He wanted, he lives in Florida.
He wanted to move to Colorado.
He met this really cool girl in Colorado and started, you know, you know, talking to her
and, you know, then he started his heartwork phase and he's like, Oh, do I really need
to do this?
I think that it's possible that, you know, she could just, you know, slip through my
fingers.
And I said, you know, you need to do what you need to do, but you know, that's part
of the process that you've signed up for.
So he did it and she understood, put a pin in it, put it on pause and did his heartwork.
And right when his heartwork was finished, I said to him, I said, Hey, are you going
to reach out to Colorado girl?
And he goes, I am going to, but first I'm going on a ski trip.
He's a skier I'm up in Vermont.
So he was going on a ski trip to Vermont.
And right when he got back from that, he was going to, you know, reach out to Colorado
girl.
So he went to Vermont and he ran into a girl from Florida that someone tried to introduce
him to two years earlier.
And he said, no, I don't want to meet her.
I'm not interested because of his avoidant attachment and she wasn't his type.
And he didn't like her picture, met her in person at the ski resort and they're getting
married now.
So Colorado girl, wasn't it?
And he definitely didn't miss out on that.
Nothing. And so, um, I'm going to leave that ball in your court.
I'm going to tell you that story and I'm gonna leave that ball in your court
because we're not going to police you.
We're not going to police you or I'm going to ask you. Now I will tell you,
if you show up in phase one and you're posting about like dates that you're
going on and different things and you know, Oh, you know,
this heartwork thing's coming up. Cause I went out with this guy.
We go on cards. You want it. Okay. Because you're,
because you're not supposed to be dating in phase one.
And so we want to keep everyone honest in this group.
So if you're going to do some,
if you're going to and you feel like God's giving you the green light to just do
what you want and not do what we're suggesting, that's all of you. Cool.
Because once again, there is no control in love,
but don't post about it in phase one.
Wait till you get to phase two and there'll be lots of dating posting going on
over there. Okay.
Okay. Gotcha. I tend to show up as like a perfectionist rules girl.
And there's a part of me that like is also wanting to challenge myself to hear
from the Lord on it as well.
So that I'm not just like following the rules for the sake of rules,
like in that religious spirit sort of sense. And so, um, I,
I, I love the, the ask and I'm,
I think I'm probably going to put them all on pause,
but it's just one of those things. I'm,
I'm trying to like gauge my like hearing from the Lord well as well.
So thank you for that. I appreciate it.
I will tell you guys that heart work takes a lot of space. It really does.
If you're going to do it right, you're going to really focus on yourself. I mean,
this is your time, you know, so don't let anything steal it from you.
Don't let anything steal it from you.
This is your time.
And I believe that God has drawn you here to have some real special breakthrough
with him. Okay. And so I want you to have that for sure. Let's see, Pam,
you have your hand up.
Yeah. Hi. How are you Jackie? And everybody I'm good.
I'm good. Uh, glad to be here. I went to your challenge this weekend and, um,
I'm, I'm excited. I'm ready, but I'm just having logistical challenges.
I don't know if anybody else's or not. I'm not really a big social media person.
So I did, you know, your challenge on Facebook and everything.
And then of course I registered. And then, um, so I,
managed to get to my profile setting and then it's offering me the phase
one, the two different blocks of phase one. So I, I,
I'm just thinking like, I guess I'm not seeing all these things you're saying.
I'm going to see until I click on that button that says like,
do the work the first part of it, or am I supposed to be doing something else?
So when you, when you're in phase one,
which all of you are on your Jackie Dorman.com portal, because once again,
we have not completely migrated over to the app yet.
We are going to have all of that available in the app,
just with a click of a button. It'd be really great and wonderful,
but we have not migrated everyone.
So right now you're still in the Jackie Dorman.com portal.
So you make your login, right?
If you are not getting our emails and we had to come and hunt you down,
then we need you to opt into email.
So make sure that you are reaching out to us at admin at Jackie Dorman.com.
So we can communicate with you because a lot of you didn't get into the
Facebook challenge class. I'm sorry,
the Facebook classroom for phase one,
because you didn't opt into the email. So you never got the link.
And so we want to make sure that you do that. So if you're here,
but you didn't get into the Facebook group for phase one, raise your hand.
Okay. Tammy's got her hand up. Okay. We need you to get in there.
And so it's possible that you're not getting our emails because we sent out all
those links as soon as you purchased your program.
So please email us at admin at Jackie Dorman.com say, Hey,
I don't have access to my Facebook classroom and we'll get you in. Okay.
It's important that you get in there because that's where you're going to
process with your community. All of your materials are on Jackie Dorman.com,
but you're going to process with your community there.
And as soon as we migrate everyone to the app, all of it will be in one place,
the curriculum, the coursework and the community. And I cannot wait for that.
I'm so excited. It's going to be great. So to answer your question, Pam,
you're going to see, because you're in phase one,
y'all aren't going to have access to everyone, everything.
You're only going to see in Jackie Dorman.
You're just going to see phase one, the heartwork is week one, two, three,
four, five, right? As you open those materials,
the next one's going to become available.
The next one's going to become available.
Make sure that you do everything in the first week in a week,
meaning that your first coaching call is next Monday.
All of you should take this entire week to do week one's materials.
It should take you the entire week. Why?
Because there's questions to process. There's worksheets to do.
There's all kinds of different things to do, to dig in deeper and deeper,
and then show up to one of those live coaching calls next Monday,
or watch one in replay before heading into week two.
Makes sense to everyone.
Try to come to prayer if you can.
Definitely come to Supernatural Saturday if you can.
Sunday night activate if you can.
All of those things are going to be important in helping you to supernaturally process the curriculum.
Okay?
So Pam, you shouldn't see anything else except for that.
That's all you should see.
Right?
Are you in the Facebook group?
Not the challenge group.
Are you in the Facebook classroom for phase one?
You guys, I really suggest that you leave the Facebook challenge group.
Just leave it.
But do not leave it until you're safely into the phase one challenge group.
Because if you do, then we won't be able to find you at all.
If we don't have your email and you're also not in the challenge group, we can't search your name.
We can't find you.
We can't communicate with you.
And that's going to be a mess.
So once you're safely in the phase one Facebook group, okay, last year single phase one is what it's called.
When you're in there, then you can remove yourself from last year's single challenge.
And that way you're not posting homework over there, you're not confused about it.
Once again, being on the app is going to solve all of these problems for us.
And there's just a couple little bugs that we're working out with the developer, but that should be very soon.
Thank you.
Thorough explanation, right?
Understand?
Good?
Okay.
Clear as mud.
Are you so confused?
No, I think I understand.
I wasn't sure about the Facebook part.
So I'll figure that out.
If I need help, I'll send a thing to you.
Pam Taylor, I can look in two seconds, Pam, to see if you're there.
Oh, good.
Thank you.
Let me just look and see.
This is what it looks like.
It has like a little green phase one.
This is last year's single phase one.
Let me look in here.
Miss Pam.
You are not in the group.
Okay.
So I need to get it.
I need to get in the group.
Why did I just feel like Maury Povich?
You are not the father.
Is that what my tone was like?
I was like, you are not.
Okay.
Listen.
All right, you guys, if you know what I'm talking about, then you were watching some ratchet television back in the day.
And so was I.
Okay.
All right.
So Pam, yes, you need to get in there.
Have you been getting our emails, Miss Pam?
Where'd you go?
Where'd she go?
I'm still here.
Yeah.
I got the email.
I got the thank you, the receipt and all of that.
And I went in.
There should be another email that came and it was telling you about this orientation and join the group.
If you haven't joined it and had a link to join the Facebook group, did you get that email?
Jackie, I just got my notification on the phase one, like maybe 10 minutes ago.
Okay.
And you joined?
Yeah.
What's your name?
Deborah Seaford.
I mean, I've got it up.
I'm here.
But I mean, I just got the notification maybe 10 minutes ago.
So maybe things are just running a little bit slow.
Well, and also, Deborah, didn't you win the prize?
I did.
Thank you.
That may be also why yours came late because you just were part of a different registration process.
So I don't want to use you as a litmus test just in case that just is why that happened for you.
Did everyone get the email?
Raise your hand if you got an email to join your classroom and you're safely in the classroom.
You know you are.
You're in there.
You've introduced yourself.
Make sure you introduce yourself when you get in there.
Okay.
So all your sisters that are in the program can see who you are.
A lot of people matchmake each other, but eventually that's what happens.
Okay.
Now, everyone put your hands down.
Raise your hands if you are not in the Facebook group.
You don't even know where it is.
You don't even know.
What's Facebook?
Let me see your hands.
Pam's not in there.
Okay.
I only see I think Tammy has her hand up.
Okay.
I only see like four.
Four hands are up right now.
Okay.
Please email us at admin at Jackie doorman.com as soon as this is over tonight, so we can
get you immediately connected with that.
Okay.
We want to get you in there right away.
Everyone.
Okay.
With her Jackie Dorman portal.
Everyone have their login.
Everyone being able to access their materials.
Anyone not anyone stuck and don't have a login.
Don't know how to access their materials.
Becca, are you saying yes to that?
Okay.
All right.
Can I jump in?
Yeah.
So, hi, my name is Marissa and I did get on the Facebook, but only because I went and
found the Facebook and I was like, hey, I'd be to this and I got approved.
I never got an email.
email about it, and I never got an email for the link to the zoom.
Um, somebody else had, what is your, what is your, can you tell me what your
name is, because you're just coming up as a phone number, sorry, Marissa,
Marissa, what's your last name?
Nah, I'm sorry.
What is it now?
K N a P P.
Okay.
Right.
It's possible that you did not opt into our emails.
It's kind of tricky to see on the buy page.
Um, some people just scroll right past it and they don't pay attention.
We've made it as bold of letters as we can, and people still scroll past it.
Um, so we're trying to make it so people can't buy if they don't check the box.
Um, but for some reason it's not letting us do that.
So, um, we, we need to make sure that you're opted in, uh, please email us,
but I will give your name also to the admin team when I get off here.
Okay.
Thank you.
Yep.
Anybody else?
Anything else?
I would like to ask a question.
Just indulge me a bit.
Um, so I joined them in the group, in the Jackie Dorman, um, page, and I
downloaded, uh, um, some PDF documents.
Is that what you're calling the classroom?
I'm trying to understand what is the classroom?
Am I in the classroom?
Okay.
The, the community.
So there's, there's jackiedorman.com portal where all of your materials are.
So all of your videos and your teaching and your worksheets, and then you're
going to process that material with your sisterhood, okay, your sister
squad in the phase one Facebook group.
Once again, when our app is finished and migrated, when you guys are
migrated onto it, those two things will be in the same place right
now they're in separate spaces.
Okay.
All your materials on jackiedorman.com and your community, unfortunately,
is still on a Facebook page, not the challenge page, but a page
called last year, single phase one.
Are you in that group?
Yes, I am.
Okay.
So you're in the right place then.
Yep.
Thank you.
And you guys, when we're ready to migrate you guys onto the app where
everything lives together and prayerfully that will happen way before you ever get
to phase two, um, we will let you know in the Facebook group, we'll, we'll post
in there, we'll post the link to it, to download the app, to do all the things.
We'll walk you through that way.
Okay.
So don't worry.
You're not going to miss out on it.
Don't be like, did you send an email?
I didn't get it.
No, we're going to let you know via your Facebook classroom.
All right.
Who else has a question?
Um, my quick question is I'm Tracy.
Um, can we, if we can, if we have time on a Monday, can we jump
on both of those coaching calls?
You can, you can go to as many things as you want.
Guys, you can put in as much time as you want.
And I recommend that you do.
You do that.
You set aside this time for you and take it seriously.
Okay, great.
Thank you so much.
I will tell you the people that I've seen have the quickest success are people who
really just believe that God sent them here and that they're going to, you know,
just be all in, be all in.
All right.
And that's the people that I see have the quickest breakthroughs,
which I think is great.
Anybody else questions?
Okay.
Go ahead.
How long are the sessions?
Are they like an hour long or two hours long?
Most of the coaching sessions are 60 to 75 minutes long.
Okay.
Like the, the, the coaching and phase one and phase two.
Now the, the get togethers, the gatherings and phase three, those
can go up to 90 minutes long.
So those are anywhere from 60 to 90 minutes long.
Perfect.
Who else?
Any other questions?
Concerned
in the, in the week one videos, there's a, there's a video on the
supernatural surrender heart check-in.
Is that an example of what we will be experiencing each week?
Like, is that an example of an ideal coaching call?
Yeah, that is, yeah, that's, that's a, that's a heart check-in.
And it's, it's kind of an example.
It's just, it's a static check-in for people who maybe can't come to one.
Um, so each of those phases has a check-in replay.
And so that's why it's there.
Okay.
And that I, I consider that to be a, um, authentically week one check-in.
Remember these coaching calls that you guys have on Mondays are going to
be a grab bag of week one through five.
And so that would be like a very, you know, week one supernatural surrender
focused check-in.
You guys, the surrender part is so important.
Do not sleep on it.
It really is very important.
If you have to read that permission slip over yourself every day, do it every day.
So many of us do not have what God has for us simply because we only have what
we get for ourselves.
We do not know how to live a life that is very spirit led.
We don't, we are in our own little, I'll get it done myself energy.
Ever since we're little girls, I do it myself, right?
I remember my daughter saying that to me.
It's like, let me help you.
You know, I do it myself.
Okay.
I know our children need to learn how to do things themselves, but that gets into
us and we never grow out of it where we think if I'm going to have anything, I
can only have what I can get for myself.
And I'm going to tell you right now, that's a whole lot of nothing, nothing
that you can get in your own power is really worth having.
It's not.
So we need to get back into that supernatural process of allowing God to
provide for us without going and sitting in some waiting room and, and, and
advocating our own authority.
There's a balance there.
You see what I'm saying?
There's a balance of God doing his part and us doing ours.
And it's not a 50, 50 situation.
It's not a 50, 50 balance, right?
It's us submitting to God's will submitting our will to God's will
supernaturally surrendering, and then God come in the rest of the way.
So that is what that looks like.
And I will tell you this, when you are submitted, God will have you do
things that are very counterintuitive.
Uh, I'd say about 80% of my success stories.
This is the same, the thing that people had in common that they said out loud to
me in 80% of my success stories is I would have never picked this person on my own.
I don't think that's a coincidence to you.
Now, some of you immediately process that as, Oh, he ugly.
That's not true.
That is not what I'm saying.
Okay.
Or he's short or he's old or he's broke or whatever.
No, that is not what I'm saying.
What I'm saying is, is that God knows what we need.
He knows who we need.
And it's usually not your type, because I think we can all agree that
your type's not working out for you.
And so that's why this part is really, really, really important.
It is some of you guys have been waiting on your spirit mate for a really long time.
And so I'm excited that your weight is going to be over in this program.
And once again, you're going to end up married to someone that 10 years ago,
you would have never thought possible.
You're like, I did not see this coming.
And that is a supernatural love story.
Hey, Jackie, I just wanted to acknowledge and thank you
for the work that you're doing.
I can tell you that the challenge videos fired me all the way up that I was like,
I cannot on this.
Like, I was like, Holy Spirit tears.
Like, it's just really good.
And I just wanted to thank you for making this accessible and for giving
your yes to God in doing this.
I feel encouraged for the first time in a long time that my spirit mate is not
only out there, but that like God has him tailor made for me and I just
have to submit to the process.
So I know that it's going to be challenging and like my brain is bucking
up against it, but I also know that submitting to God and to obey is
better than sacrifice.
So, um, thank you for doing this.
I just wanted to acknowledge everything that you're doing.
I appreciate it.
Even in the beginning.
Yeah, Sarah, thank you.
I appreciate that.
I really do.
Um, and I, it is definitely challenging at times.
Anything that is on the front lines of revival of marriage and family is going
to have a lot of warfare attached to it.
So we've experienced a lot of warfare, you know, in our, in our
lives in the last four years.
Um, but God has definitely been with us and, um, and it is, it's my honor.
It is my pleasure to help this process for people.
So I love it.
Every time I get a wedding invitation, every time I get a success story,
it makes it all worthwhile.
You guys, I was traveling a couple months ago and I had to go to three
different airports because I had a layover and in every airport that I
went to all three airports, someone came up to me and said, you're
the reason why I'm married.
They recognize me.
and approached me at an airport.
And I was like, whoa.
And so because I'm not famous,
that means God wanted to supernaturally encourage me.
He allowed me to be in the same place in the same time
as people that have had success in this program
and recognize me and see me there and come up to me.
So very exciting stuff.
So thank you, Sarah.
I appreciate that.
And Gail and Brittany and all of you
that amend Sarah's sentiments.
All right.
So does anyone have any other questions
before we go ahead and let you go on?
Remember, you're gonna start into that first week.
Take it slow.
Let it marinate inside of you.
You should get to your coaching call next Monday
with some great ahas, with some daydreams,
with some things where God's speaking to you.
Something should be happening.
Signing that permission slip.
I have so many supernatural testimonies.
If you can print it out and sign it, great.
If you can't, just sign it verbally.
Let God know you're giving him your yes.
And when you do that, stuff starts happening.
And we wanna know about that stuff.
And you can show up to your coaching call and share.
You guys, Friday is, prayer is called Faith Friday,
or we call it Brag on Jesus Day.
And so if you are able to show up live,
then you can also talk about your ahas on that coaching,
that prayer call as well.
Okay.
All right.
Thank you guys for joining me.
I know it's really late for some of you,
so I'm gonna go ahead and let you guys go.
If you don't have any other questions,
go on into your first week and we'll see you soon.
Bye.