WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:06.200 Welcome to part two. 2 00:00:06.200 --> 00:00:10.340 Now, before we can go any further, we have to talk about this heart. 3 00:00:10.340 --> 00:00:11.340 What is the heart? 4 00:00:11.340 --> 00:00:16.600 And before we can talk about what the heart is, we have to talk about what we are. 5 00:00:16.600 --> 00:00:17.920 What are we? 6 00:00:17.920 --> 00:00:18.920 What are we? 7 00:00:18.920 --> 00:00:19.920 What are you? 8 00:00:19.920 --> 00:00:20.920 Are you that thing that you see in the mirror? 9 00:00:20.920 --> 00:00:21.920 No, you're not. 10 00:00:21.920 --> 00:00:22.920 Thank goodness, right? 11 00:00:22.920 --> 00:00:25.080 On some days we're like, whew, thank goodness. 12 00:00:25.080 --> 00:00:26.560 There's more to me than this. 13 00:00:26.560 --> 00:00:27.560 There is. 14 00:00:27.560 --> 00:00:28.940 You're actually a spirit. 15 00:00:28.940 --> 00:00:29.940 You are. 16 00:00:29.960 --> 00:00:32.720 You are a spirit that lives in a body. 17 00:00:32.720 --> 00:00:33.720 This body is your vehicle. 18 00:00:33.720 --> 00:00:38.520 This is the car that you're riding in during this temporary earthly journey that you got 19 00:00:38.520 --> 00:00:39.520 going on here. 20 00:00:39.520 --> 00:00:44.380 You're a spirit that lives in a body that possesses a soul. 21 00:00:44.380 --> 00:00:45.720 You possess a soul. 22 00:00:45.720 --> 00:00:49.280 And that soul part is the heart part that we're talking about. 23 00:00:49.280 --> 00:00:50.880 So you're eternal. 24 00:00:50.880 --> 00:00:51.880 You're eternal. 25 00:00:51.880 --> 00:00:52.880 You've always existed. 26 00:00:52.880 --> 00:00:54.600 You're always going to exist. 27 00:00:54.600 --> 00:00:58.960 Before you got this body and you came on the earth, you existed in the imagination of God. 28 00:00:58.980 --> 00:01:02.060 So you always have been and you always will be, right? 29 00:01:02.060 --> 00:01:04.220 Good news is that we get an upgrade. 30 00:01:04.220 --> 00:01:05.700 This body's kind of falling apart. 31 00:01:05.700 --> 00:01:09.260 This car, going to ride it till the wheels fall off, literally, and then we're going 32 00:01:09.260 --> 00:01:13.740 to get an upgrade, which that's exciting because a lot of us are like, whew, can I get that 33 00:01:13.740 --> 00:01:14.740 upgrade now? 34 00:01:14.740 --> 00:01:18.260 I mean, like right now, like on earth, like here, like get an upgrade. 35 00:01:18.260 --> 00:01:23.100 I keep waiting for science to catch up where we just would step into like a tanning bed 36 00:01:23.100 --> 00:01:28.460 or something, like close the door and then come out and everything is upgraded. 37 00:01:28.960 --> 00:01:33.720 But because that's not happening, we got to take good care of this car that we're living 38 00:01:33.720 --> 00:01:36.800 inside of, this vehicle that we're riding in. 39 00:01:36.800 --> 00:01:42.320 So your eternal spirit is having a temporary experience in this body and it possesses this 40 00:01:42.320 --> 00:01:46.640 thing called the soul, which is also the heart, right? 41 00:01:46.640 --> 00:01:48.520 And the heart is the epicenter. 42 00:01:48.520 --> 00:01:50.160 It's the epicenter of your life. 43 00:01:50.160 --> 00:01:52.800 I want you to think of it as master control. 44 00:01:52.800 --> 00:01:56.280 It's the place of your mind, your will, your emotions. 45 00:01:56.280 --> 00:02:00.220 It's where all the amazing and important information is being kept. 46 00:02:00.220 --> 00:02:02.460 And that's a really important place in our lives. 47 00:02:02.460 --> 00:02:07.820 So what happens if this important place gets ransacked, if it gets vandalized, if it gets 48 00:02:07.820 --> 00:02:11.060 messed up, if it gets broken, what happens? 49 00:02:11.060 --> 00:02:12.060 What happens then? 50 00:02:12.060 --> 00:02:13.060 I'll tell you what happens. 51 00:02:13.060 --> 00:02:16.360 Jeremiah 17 happens, and I'm going to read this right now. 52 00:02:16.360 --> 00:02:22.500 This is describing the broken heart, that vandalized, wrecked up, messed up heart. 53 00:02:22.500 --> 00:02:29.160 The heart, that heart, is hopelessly dark and deceitful, a puzzle that no one can figure 54 00:02:29.160 --> 00:02:30.160 out. 55 00:02:30.160 --> 00:02:34.040 But I, God, search the heart and examine the mind. 56 00:02:34.040 --> 00:02:36.000 I get to the heart of the human. 57 00:02:36.000 --> 00:02:38.080 I get to the root of things. 58 00:02:38.080 --> 00:02:43.460 I treat them as they really are, not as they pretend to be. 59 00:02:43.460 --> 00:02:44.960 So let's go over this real quick. 60 00:02:44.960 --> 00:02:49.080 Let's go over what Jeremiah 17 is telling us about our broken hearts. 61 00:02:49.080 --> 00:02:54.820 It's saying that they're liars, they're puzzles, and they're pretenders. 62 00:02:54.820 --> 00:02:59.660 Those are three very important characteristics and attributes of the broken heart. 63 00:02:59.660 --> 00:03:00.660 Who are they lying to? 64 00:03:00.660 --> 00:03:02.540 They're liars, but who are they lying to? 65 00:03:02.540 --> 00:03:05.540 Well, they're lying to everybody, but they're mostly lying to you. 66 00:03:05.540 --> 00:03:06.540 How? 67 00:03:06.540 --> 00:03:09.900 They're telling you that you want things that you don't want, that you need things that 68 00:03:09.900 --> 00:03:11.240 you don't need. 69 00:03:11.240 --> 00:03:16.200 My broken, messed up heart had me running 100 miles an hour down a dead end road so 70 00:03:16.200 --> 00:03:21.820 many times, including down an altar, down, down to an altar to get married when I was 71 00:03:21.820 --> 00:03:23.580 only 20 years old. 72 00:03:23.580 --> 00:03:24.580 Wasn't a good idea. 73 00:03:24.580 --> 00:03:29.700 I had a lot of bad information, bad information from my childhood that was packed away in 74 00:03:29.700 --> 00:03:31.380 these heart boxes. 75 00:03:31.380 --> 00:03:35.040 And I was lying to myself, telling myself that this is what I needed. 76 00:03:35.040 --> 00:03:39.260 There was more red flags in the Daytona 500, but I wasn't paying attention because my heart 77 00:03:39.260 --> 00:03:41.140 wanted what it wanted. 78 00:03:41.140 --> 00:03:44.820 A lot of times you'll see those bumper stickers on the back of cars that say, follow your 79 00:03:44.820 --> 00:03:45.820 hearts. 80 00:03:46.440 --> 00:03:50.120 Only if you want to end up in a ditch or off the side of a cliff, because a broken heart 81 00:03:50.120 --> 00:03:52.600 will only lead you into trouble. 82 00:03:52.600 --> 00:03:53.600 And why is that? 83 00:03:53.600 --> 00:03:54.600 Because it's a puzzle. 84 00:03:54.600 --> 00:03:55.600 That's the second characteristic. 85 00:03:55.600 --> 00:03:57.440 It's a puzzle. 86 00:03:57.440 --> 00:03:58.440 Can't figure it out. 87 00:03:58.440 --> 00:04:02.680 As soon as you give it what it says it wants, it doesn't want that anymore. 88 00:04:02.680 --> 00:04:08.600 It will keep you chasing shadows and living a counterfeit life for the rest of your life. 89 00:04:08.600 --> 00:04:11.880 And just so you know, this broken, messed up heart is the one that's getting up every 90 00:04:11.880 --> 00:04:14.440 morning, is eating your breakfast, is driving your car. 91 00:04:14.440 --> 00:04:18.860 It's the one that picked that job that you don't like, that you're going to every day, 92 00:04:18.860 --> 00:04:22.620 with wasting your one and only life doing something that you don't like. 93 00:04:22.620 --> 00:04:27.100 It's the one that's swiping right on that dating app, picking all those dates out for 94 00:04:27.100 --> 00:04:28.100 you. 95 00:04:28.100 --> 00:04:31.520 Look, we do not want that heart choosing anything for us anymore. 96 00:04:31.520 --> 00:04:36.860 And that is why we are here, because that heart operates on bad information. 97 00:04:36.860 --> 00:04:40.460 It's operating on the lies from trauma, which we're going to get to in a minute. 98 00:04:40.480 --> 00:04:46.720 It's operating on all kinds of vows and mantras and different things that you don't want your 99 00:04:46.720 --> 00:04:49.840 life being led by that any longer. 100 00:04:49.840 --> 00:04:53.080 And you can't figure it out, because every time you try to fix it, remember the New Year, 101 00:04:53.080 --> 00:04:57.440 the New Year magic, oh, I'm going to fix my life, I'm going to go to the gym, I'm going 102 00:04:57.440 --> 00:05:00.040 to start taking care of myself, I'm going to eat. 103 00:05:00.000 --> 00:05:04.880 right? I'm going to get a different job. All the things that we try to do on the outside to fix it, 104 00:05:04.880 --> 00:05:10.080 they don't work because we're not stuck on the outside. We're stuck on the inside and we don't 105 00:05:10.080 --> 00:05:14.480 know it. So as soon as you give it what it says it wants, it doesn't want it anymore. It's like 106 00:05:14.480 --> 00:05:19.440 a cranky toddler. They're pointing, you know, they want something, they're crying, they're 107 00:05:19.440 --> 00:05:23.440 throwing a tantrum and then you give them whatever that thing is. And two seconds later, they throw 108 00:05:23.440 --> 00:05:28.080 that on the ground and they're pointing and wanting something else. That's what these broken, 109 00:05:28.480 --> 00:05:33.840 immature hearts are like. And then the last attribute is that it's a pretender 110 00:05:34.640 --> 00:05:39.840 and it's pretending. It's fooling you and everyone else, but guess who it isn't fooling? 111 00:05:39.840 --> 00:05:45.520 That scripture says that it isn't fooling God. You know why? Because God knows the real you. 112 00:05:45.520 --> 00:05:51.040 You might not have ever even met the real you. You have so many layers of false and counterfeit 113 00:05:51.040 --> 00:05:54.960 personalities because your heart's been so broken and we're going to talk about how that whole 114 00:05:54.960 --> 00:06:02.320 process works in just a few minutes, but he knows the real you. And this is why a lot of times 115 00:06:02.320 --> 00:06:06.640 that he won't answer the prayers, at least not the way you want them answered, that you pray 116 00:06:06.640 --> 00:06:11.280 from that broken heart, because he knows that you wouldn't be asking for that if you knew who you 117 00:06:11.280 --> 00:06:15.680 really were. And you certainly wouldn't be asking that when it comes to romance, you wouldn't be 118 00:06:15.680 --> 00:06:21.120 asking for that person if you knew who they really were, or you knew the real situation 119 00:06:21.120 --> 00:06:24.800 behind what you can't see. There's so many things that we can't see. 120 00:06:24.800 --> 00:06:29.680 And that's why it's so important that we be God defended because he sees all things. 121 00:06:29.680 --> 00:06:35.680 In fact, the word of God says that he searches the heart. He doesn't pay a lot of attention to 122 00:06:35.680 --> 00:06:42.080 the outside. Us humans, we just pay so much attention to the outside, right? If it's talking 123 00:06:42.080 --> 00:06:47.920 a good game, if it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, then it must be a duck. But God sees 124 00:06:47.920 --> 00:06:53.520 the heart and he understands the intentions of someone's life. He understands who they really 125 00:06:53.520 --> 00:06:59.120 are. He understands what they really want. He doesn't just look at the what, the what that we 126 00:06:59.120 --> 00:07:05.200 do. He looks at the why that we did it. And that's important because that brings mercy and grace. 127 00:07:05.200 --> 00:07:10.000 God's not just looking at the what you did or the what that they did. He's also looking at the why 128 00:07:10.000 --> 00:07:15.200 behind it. And that is what he wants to get down to. He says, I get down to the root of things. 129 00:07:15.200 --> 00:07:20.560 That's what that scripture says. And so we're going to talk about fruit versus root here in 130 00:07:20.560 --> 00:07:25.840 just a few minutes, but let's talk about these broken hearts and how they got broken in the 131 00:07:25.840 --> 00:07:30.400 first place. First of all, the thing that you need to know is that our hearts are highly 132 00:07:30.400 --> 00:07:36.400 impressionable. Think of it as a garden or a womb. Whatever gets into it reproduces, 133 00:07:36.400 --> 00:07:43.120 and then it produces the quality of your life. That's what it says in Proverbs. Proverbs says 134 00:07:43.120 --> 00:07:51.280 in chapter four, verse 23, guard your heart because out of your heart flows the quality 135 00:07:51.280 --> 00:07:56.240 of your life. And so whatever gets in your heart, whatever information gets into this epicenter 136 00:07:56.240 --> 00:08:00.720 of your mind, will, and emotions, this really important place where all the important information 137 00:08:00.720 --> 00:08:05.200 is being kept. I didn't say that it was good information, and I didn't say it was correct 138 00:08:05.200 --> 00:08:10.480 information. I just said it was information. And when it gets in there, it stays in there. 139 00:08:10.480 --> 00:08:16.560 It gets in there, and then it reproduces. It doesn't just stay by itself. It starts to mature. 140 00:08:16.560 --> 00:08:22.480 It starts to expand, and it reproduces, and then it produces the quality of your life, 141 00:08:22.480 --> 00:08:26.640 according to Proverbs 4.23. And so if you don't like the quality of your life, 142 00:08:26.640 --> 00:08:31.680 then you probably haven't been taught to guard your heart. And of course you haven't. Most of 143 00:08:31.680 --> 00:08:35.600 us come from families where that's the first place that our heart got broken in the first place. 144 00:08:36.559 --> 00:08:42.080 I know that you're here because you want to be married. And what's so beautiful about that is 145 00:08:42.080 --> 00:08:46.320 that'll just be the cherry on top, that beautiful romance that you're wanting. You're going to get 146 00:08:46.320 --> 00:08:51.520 so much more out of doing the heartwork course than that, because there's all kinds of areas 147 00:08:51.520 --> 00:08:55.680 of your life where God wants to bless you and upgrade you. But a lot of us are here because 148 00:08:55.680 --> 00:09:02.080 we want the romance. We want the marriage. And our hearts are broken, but our hearts weren't 149 00:09:02.080 --> 00:09:06.560 broken the first time in a romance. They were broken the first time in our families. 150 00:09:07.120 --> 00:09:11.200 That's where they were broken. We weren't taught how valuable we were. We weren't taught to guard 151 00:09:11.200 --> 00:09:14.720 our hearts. We wore our hearts on our sleeves. You know, we have passwords for everything in 152 00:09:14.720 --> 00:09:20.720 our lives. We have locks on everything. We have passwords on our phone, and we have locks on our 153 00:09:20.720 --> 00:09:26.320 doors and on our cars and all different types of things that we consider valuable. But our hearts, 154 00:09:26.320 --> 00:09:30.880 a lot of times, just get thrown around. They get stomped. They get worn on our sleeve. We just 155 00:09:30.880 --> 00:09:35.760 allow anyone and everyone to just come on in and wipe their feet on our heart. And one of the 156 00:09:35.760 --> 00:09:39.360 things that you're going to learn during this course is how to have really good boundaries 157 00:09:39.360 --> 00:09:44.800 because you value yourself. And when you value something, you protect it. You protect it, 158 00:09:44.800 --> 00:09:50.720 and you allow it to be protected. So that's that beautiful exchange of being God-defended. 159 00:09:51.600 --> 00:09:57.280 So sometimes it's a family tradition for us to have a broken heart. I know it wasn't my family. 160 00:09:57.280 --> 00:10:00.080 I came into this world, I told you running for my 161 00:10:00.000 --> 00:10:07.360 life. I feel like my childhood was an episode or a documentary on National Geographic of the babies 162 00:10:07.360 --> 00:10:14.080 being born, the baby giraffe or the baby elephant, and all the predators are lurking in the grass, 163 00:10:14.080 --> 00:10:19.840 just waiting to pounce on that squishy little newborn. And so that baby has to run for its life 164 00:10:19.840 --> 00:10:24.240 as soon as it comes out of the womb. You see that mother animal kicking it, come on little baby, 165 00:10:24.240 --> 00:10:29.600 you got to get up, you got to run for your life. And I feel like that is my story, my childhood 166 00:10:29.600 --> 00:10:35.040 story. I came out of the womb running for my life. Danger everywhere, everywhere there was 167 00:10:35.040 --> 00:10:39.360 something that was just trying to take me out. I was surrounded by broken people, broken lives, 168 00:10:39.360 --> 00:10:46.080 broken marriages, and broken hearts. In fact, until I was much older and I met Jesus in my 20s, 169 00:10:46.080 --> 00:10:50.640 I didn't know that there was anything else besides a broken heart. So if you're like me, 170 00:10:50.640 --> 00:10:55.680 and it's a family tradition to have a broken heart, then the good news is, is that whatever's 171 00:10:55.680 --> 00:10:59.920 running your family, this is where it gets to run out. It gets to run out with you. This is where 172 00:10:59.920 --> 00:11:03.840 it stops. You're going to have a healed, healthy, and whole heart. And you're going to be able to 173 00:11:03.840 --> 00:11:09.280 step into a lot of beautiful and amazing things that the people that came before you didn't have 174 00:11:09.280 --> 00:11:13.280 access to. And if you're sitting here and you're saying, man, I just came from a really great 175 00:11:13.280 --> 00:11:18.080 family. And that's not what happened to me. I just want to encourage you that I'm not leaving 176 00:11:18.080 --> 00:11:23.520 you out right now because everybody suffers. Everybody gets their heart broken by something 177 00:11:23.520 --> 00:11:28.080 in this world, because this world is just so broken. There's brokenness all around us. And I 178 00:11:28.080 --> 00:11:33.200 can tell you story after story of people, students of mine, clients of mine that have come from 179 00:11:33.200 --> 00:11:38.800 amazing families that have just had, you know, they've experienced just such trauma in other 180 00:11:38.800 --> 00:11:44.080 areas where something has happened that's very unfortunate, you know, bad things happen to good 181 00:11:44.080 --> 00:11:50.720 people kind of thing. And when that trauma comes, and it's not if it comes, it's when it comes, 182 00:11:50.720 --> 00:11:56.880 it doesn't just hurt us. It creates different versions of us. Okay, different versions of us 183 00:11:56.880 --> 00:12:02.160 are created so that we can survive whatever that trauma is. And those different versions are based 184 00:12:02.160 --> 00:12:08.640 on lies. So the trauma that you went through, it's over now, right? Hopefully, if it's not, 185 00:12:08.640 --> 00:12:13.280 hang on, hang on, we're going to be with you. And you're going to push right on through whatever 186 00:12:13.280 --> 00:12:18.080 you're going through. But most likely that trauma that you went through is over now, 187 00:12:18.080 --> 00:12:22.080 it might be ancient history, it may have happened 20 years ago, or 30 years ago. 188 00:12:22.880 --> 00:12:27.760 However long ago it happened, it didn't just hurt you, it created different versions of you. And 189 00:12:27.760 --> 00:12:32.720 those versions believe lies. And it's not the trauma that happened that's going to stop you 190 00:12:32.720 --> 00:12:38.080 from living an amazing life. It's those lies that you believe because of it, that's going to stop 191 00:12:38.080 --> 00:12:44.400 you. And oftentimes, those lies are disguised as our promise. I'm sorry, as our problem areas, 192 00:12:44.400 --> 00:12:51.600 not our promise areas, as our problem areas. And those problem areas are areas where we've 193 00:12:51.600 --> 00:12:56.080 lost hope, we don't believe anything can be different, because it's just been so bad for 194 00:12:56.080 --> 00:13:02.560 so long. And you can have functional areas in your life. And you can have dysfunctional areas 195 00:13:02.560 --> 00:13:06.320 in your life. I think people often think, well, if my heart's broken, then my whole life is going 196 00:13:06.320 --> 00:13:12.000 to be tore up from the floor up. Well, that's just not true. Wherever area that trauma was in, 197 00:13:12.000 --> 00:13:15.600 in your life, in relationship, maybe it was in your health, maybe it was in your family, 198 00:13:15.600 --> 00:13:21.120 maybe it was in community, friendship, whatever area that trauma happened in, 199 00:13:21.120 --> 00:13:25.440 that will be the area where you believe your biggest lie. And that will be the source of 200 00:13:25.440 --> 00:13:30.000 your biggest problem. So as you can see, our problem is really not our problem. It's just 201 00:13:30.000 --> 00:13:35.760 a byproduct of some past trauma in our lives. So you can have really functional areas. Maybe you 202 00:13:35.760 --> 00:13:40.240 have your money on lockdown, you're really good with your finances, you're not in debt, you're 203 00:13:40.240 --> 00:13:45.440 really responsible in that area, but perhaps relationships are a struggle area for you. 204 00:13:45.440 --> 00:13:49.520 That's the area where you're riding the struggle bus, and you just can't figure it out. It's a 205 00:13:49.520 --> 00:13:54.640 puzzle. You just don't know. You just keep making bad decision after bad decision. And you just 206 00:13:54.640 --> 00:13:58.880 really don't have hope that anything's ever going to be any different. So you can have those areas 207 00:13:58.880 --> 00:14:03.600 where you have it kind of together, and then other areas where you're just a hot mess, you're riding 208 00:14:03.600 --> 00:14:08.720 the hot mess express. And so whatever area you have your biggest mess in, that is where you're 209 00:14:08.720 --> 00:14:13.840 going to find your biggest lie. You can also locate your biggest lie by asking yourself as 210 00:14:13.840 --> 00:14:18.880 you do that worksheet, what do you really have hope for in your future? If there's some areas 211 00:14:18.880 --> 00:14:23.600 where you've lost hope that you're ever going to have anything really good, then those are also 212 00:14:23.600 --> 00:14:30.320 areas where we have to look for those lies. And oftentimes we treat the symptoms of those 213 00:14:30.320 --> 00:14:35.440 problem areas. So the symptom of that area might be disease, disconnection, distrust, 214 00:14:35.440 --> 00:14:41.360 disappointment, perversion, addiction, mental illness, anxiety, some sexual dysfunction. That 215 00:14:41.360 --> 00:14:46.720 might be your problem area, self-pity. Maybe you have a victim mentality, poor me, nothing good's 216 00:14:46.720 --> 00:14:55.120 ever going to happen to me. Despair, obesity, bad health, not taking care of ourselves, anger, envy, 217 00:14:55.120 --> 00:14:59.920 gossip, poverty, fear. All of those are just fruits. Remember that script. 218 00:15:00.000 --> 00:15:03.740 in Jeremiah 17 says that God doesn't mess with the fruit. 219 00:15:03.740 --> 00:15:06.340 He wants to get down to the root. 220 00:15:06.340 --> 00:15:08.740 So you see that our problem's not our problem. 221 00:15:08.740 --> 00:15:12.120 Whatever the problem's manifesting in your life 222 00:15:12.120 --> 00:15:14.180 as an area of problem, 223 00:15:14.180 --> 00:15:17.260 there's always something deeper that it's connected to. 224 00:15:17.260 --> 00:15:19.660 And those are those lies that we're believing. 225 00:15:19.660 --> 00:15:22.260 And so we're here to have that revealing for healing. 226 00:15:22.260 --> 00:15:24.820 We're here to get down to the roots 227 00:15:24.820 --> 00:15:27.660 of where these lies live and how they got there. 228 00:15:27.820 --> 00:15:30.100 And so in our next video, we're gonna take a look 229 00:15:30.100 --> 00:15:32.760 at how these lies infiltrated our hearts in the first place. 230 00:15:32.760 --> 00:15:35.300 We know that they came as a result of trauma, 231 00:15:35.300 --> 00:15:38.100 but how did they mature over time and grow 232 00:15:38.100 --> 00:15:40.640 and keep us stuck the way that they have? 233 00:15:40.640 --> 00:15:42.600 That's what we're gonna look into in our next video. 234 00:15:42.600 --> 00:15:43.700 So I'll see you there.