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We are live. So tonight we normally have love story. This is usually our love story broadcast but I decided I wanted to do something different.
I really believe that we're entering into a very significant season God has been speaking to me for probably at least six months about 2022.
Raise your hand if you've been hearing me say for months that 2022 is the year of the bride.
Yes, so I've been saying it, and guess what, there's prophetic voices that are starting to echo it. What does the word say about that it says through the mouth of two or three witnesses let a word be established.
And I posted on my public Facebook page about it being the year of the bride in 2022 I had not done that yet I've just been saying it privately to you guys in groups.
And immediately, someone who I'm not really sure who they are but someone posted on that and said, Yeah, I heard that through this other prophetic voice and they posted a video of someone who was saying that verbatim.
2022 is the year the bride, and then it came out that another prophetic voice out there was saying 2022 is the year the bride you guys we can't make this stuff up.
Right.
And that's really exciting because I will tell you as a prophetic voice as someone who moves in the prophetic and operates in the, in that role of a prophet and I've been operating in that ever since I met Holy Spirit 26 years ago, I will tell you that sometimes
you say stuff and you really hope it's true.
Okay, I really believe I'm hearing from God, but when you hear someone you know especially something very obscure like that. When you hear that beginning to become echoed through all of these voices and people that you've never heard of before and then you
start to, you know, you receive that reciprocation and that validation and as the Word of God says that confirmation then we just can't ignore that.
So before we even get started on soul ties tonight, I want us to really go over a little overview of what does the Word of God say that you do with a word, a prophetic word when you receive it.
Regardless of where it comes from, of course I was releasing that over the summer over the corporate body of Christ I was releasing it over all my matchmaking groups.
2022 is the year of the bride, get excited. 2022 is the year of partnership, it's the year of agreement, it's the year of marriage, it's the year of the bride.
Genesis 222 is the moment when God takes the rib, because he already has established that it's not good for man to dwell outside of his own community his own kind that he it's not good it's not complete it's not finished for him to be alone, that the masculine
and feminine need to be separated into two instead of being in one and Adam so that the two can come back together and community and exist in divine community just like Father Son and Holy Spirit the heavenly family exists in divine community.
Genesis 222 is that verse where he, he goes ahead and executes his plan of taking that rib part that part that's underneath the arm, signifying partnership signifying covering of the masculine and the feminine being covered and protected by the masculine
signifying equal that their co equals inequality, you know, masculine and feminine not lording over each other but submitting to one another and love both carrying very very different strengths I always liken it to my left and right hand.
I am dominant in my right hand, so I write and I throw and I do all that kind of stuff with my right hand, but without my left hand there's so much that I can't do.
Oftentimes you're stronger hand is not your most dexterous hand is not your most fine motor skill hand. Right. And so together when they come together I can do, you know, pretty much anything with both of my hands in play.
And so it's not good for me to be known it's not complete for us to dwell in one vessel, but dwelling separately as masculine and feminine and coming together in what in marriage so Genesis 222 is that verse where God takes the rib he fashions it into
a woman and then he presents that woman that feminine counterpart to man that is that verse and so we need to get really excited about this very supernatural season that we get to be part of.
And we also have seen all throughout history that anytime there is a global tragedy. There's a global crisis, whether it is a pandemic like what we all just lived through whether it is a war, no matter what it is, it will always the response
will always be an acceleration of family and marriage. After World War Two there was a baby boom that's why we call them the baby boomers right because what happened.
People realized within that crisis that it's not good for me to be alone.
It's not good for me to exist out of family.
Whatever it was that they were medicating themselves and numbing themselves with,
they realized that's not enough.
I need that divine plan that God always had for my life.
So, you know, there was a huge marriage boom before the World Wars.
Men didn't want to go away, you know,
and possibly give their lives and sacrifice their lives for their countries
without having that connection or that tether,
that tie to home through that marriage connection.
They wanted to make sure that they married that girl of their dreams.
They went ahead and pulled the trigger on that before they went.
And after every single thing, there has been a boom of marriage and family.
This pandemic that we just lived through in 2020, that was a forced sabbatical.
The world stopped spinning. The world never stopped spinning.
When my mom was dying in the ICU, when she was about to transition to heaven,
I was in that small, quiet little ICU room with all the machines buzzing
and worrying, and I was in there.
But as soon as she took her last breath and they turned that ventilator off,
I stepped out into the hustle and bustle of the world.
Everywhere, the world didn't stop just because my world stopped.
Because I was experiencing a tragedy.
I was experiencing a dark night of the soul.
The world didn't stop spinning.
As soon as I opened that door, that soundproof door into the bigger ICU,
and then out into the waiting room, people were eating and talking and laughing
and carrying on with their own lives and going tear and fro
and doing all of their things because the world didn't stop just because my world stopped.
But in 2020, we all experienced something that I don't know that we've ever experienced.
I know in my 46 years of life, I haven't, and that is that the world stopped.
Everything stopped.
It grind to a halt, okay, except for Tiger King.
Everything else just stopped, right?
There was nowhere to go.
There was no one to go there with because we couldn't see anyone.
Nothing was open.
It didn't matter if you wanted to go.
There was nothing open.
And then when there was something open, you couldn't talk to anyone.
Everyone was afraid of everyone.
Everyone had masks on.
Everyone was six feet apart.
We experienced, you know, an epic season of loneliness like people have never experienced before.
And people realized because the world stopped spinning that they realized how empty their hearts were.
And so what has happened is that that intimacy of 2020,
just like the intimacy that the man had with his wife after and before,
really before World War II when they were going off to service and maybe not coming back,
that intimacy that was created by that crisis, it created, you know, all of that new life.
And that's what's happening now.
All that heart work that we've been doing, guys, ladies,
and I know the guys are about to step into an even deeper level of heart work with me after the first of the year here,
that heart work that we did, that searching of our souls that we did in 2020 and 2021,
is going to turn into that intimacy, is going to turn into the fruition of it,
is going to be divine romantic relationship.
God's been getting our hearts ready for it.
You might have thought you were ready for it before.
In fact, some of you have been like, I've been ready for it for 20 years.
Well, maybe not.
Because the proof of desire is pursuit.
And oftentimes we're pursuing the wrong things.
I always talk about digging ditches where it's not going to rain.
That's what God said to me one time.
He said, people are digging ditches where it's not going to rain.
He's like, I'm over here doing this, and they're over here doing this.
They're zigging when they should be zagging.
And the truth is, is that oftentimes when we're doing that, we have no clue.
We don't.
We have no clue at all.
And so I am very excited about the supernatural season.
You guys, as far as I can tell, I'm not home with my relationship board,
I'm not home with my family.
I'm not home with my kids.
So these numbers might be kind of off,
but I think we have 79 engagements and 47 weddings that we're ending
2021 with.
We have two more weddings on January 1st.
And another wedding on January 22nd.
On the books.
And so very excited for those. In fact,
it looks like I'm officiating the one on January 22nd. So.
Pray for them.
I'm going to have to go on and get on with it and I'm gonna be talking a
lot.
So they're going to probably be annoyed at me.
I can't even say my name in 30 minutes.
So we're going to have to figure that one out.
I'm going to have to get those vows down pat.
But also those, those weddings on the first,
very excited for both of those couples. You guys, you know, we had,
I believe it happened yesterday or the day before.
I announced a new engagement today.
Very special to my heart, that couple.
God is restoring.
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I guess you have to put that official after it because otherwise people will hack you
and steal you and ask people for money and say that it's you.
That's not a good idea.
So anyway, that's why it's official.
But if you follow me on social media at all, you'll see that I put out two words.
I put out that 2022 is the year of the bride, but I also put out that when I woke up this
morning, God said to me, 2022 is also a year of restitution.
Now he could have said anything.
We use the word restoration a lot, don't we?
We use the word restoration a lot, but you know, restitution is something completely
different than restoration.
And I looked it up and God knows I'm going to, he knows that I love to search him out.
I want to encourage you guys to search him out between now and the new year.
Just really search him out.
If he's been saying something to you, really search out what he's saying.
It's important that you really know what that means.
And restitution means that someone in authority, some powers that be, are able to return to
you something that has been lost and stolen.
It's being paid back.
And what does the word of God say?
It says that who is the one that rest, that restores what has been lost or stolen?
Who pays restitution?
God says, I am the one.
He said, you know what?
You can forgive people that have stolen from you, that have caused you harm and trauma
because I, vengeance is mine, saith the Lord.
I will repay.
And I know a lot of times we read that scripture and we're like, God's going to get you.
God's going to repay you for what you've done.
No, he's going to repay you for what they've done.
God is not a God of wrath.
He's not going to go out there and, you know, turn your enemy into a black spot on the earth.
Okay.
There's not gonna be lightning bolts from his eyes and just fry them.
I know it's always, it's really, really disturbing when you read the story of the old time prophets,
when they called the bears out of the woods to eat the children that made fun of them.
What the heck?
Um, the old Testament is very confusing in a lot of ways, but I want to tell you that
God is not, you know, when God says, vengeance is mine, I will repay.
He means he's going to repay you.
He's going to repay you for what other people have taken from you in the name of the opposing
forces.
People are never your enemy.
If it has a face, if it has human flesh, it is not your enemy.
Now, is it being used as a, uh, you know, as a puppet for those opposing forces?
Is that person, um, being used as an accessory to the crime?
Yes, for sure.
There are a lot of people that are broken and they're not awake.
And guess what people that are asleep hurt themselves and they hurt others.
That's what happens when you're in the dark.
You do not know what you can't see clearly what you're doing.
Can you?
And so that's going to be a big part of what happens tonight because a lot of people don't
realize that you are tied to the past because of your unforgiveness.
Unforgiveness is forgiveness is a big part of breaking soul ties, right?
If you want to be free from the past, then you're going to have to forget.
And we'll talk about that in a minute after we pray.
And so tonight we are going to really do some pruning.
We're going to do some purging.
We're going to let go.
Holy spirit's going to reveal and heal.
He's going to show you things that maybe you didn't know you were still harboring.
There's layers to forgiveness and there's layers to tethers.
Sometimes there's tethers that maybe you broke the physical tether, but you didn't break
the emotional tether.
I want you to raise your hand and be honest right now.
If you know you're, you're not, you're not sleeping around anymore.
Okay.
You're not having sex outside of marriage, but the last sexual relationship that you
had, the last romantic sexual relationship you had, while maybe you don't talk to that
person anymore and you're certainly not sleeping with that person anymore.
Every single time your song comes on or when you're really lonely, you sit around and reminisce
of maybe they were the one that got away.
You know, you reminisce about some person in your life that you had a romantic connection
to wondering if you missed it, wondering if, you know, they'll come back around wondering
if they, this is so innocent and so simple, just, you don't even want to be back with
them.
You're just wondering if they still think about you.
You're sitting there thinking about them.
because you heard a song or you saw something
or you're just super lonely that day.
And you're wondering if they're thinking about you
and it actually brings you pleasure
or it makes you feel happy to think
that they might not be over you either.
They might be thinking about you too.
Yeah, there's a lot of hands up.
That's a soul tie.
And you know what, the reason why you're like,
oh, isn't that harmless, Jackie?
I mean, it's just like a little daydream.
The reason why it's not harmless
is because when you get into
your divine covenant relationship,
I know this is gonna be shocking for a lot of you.
It's not always gonna be fun.
You're not always gonna like that person.
You might love them, but you're not gonna always like them.
They're gonna annoy the heck out of you sometimes.
And you know what?
If you don't sever this little daydream,
this little romanticizing with rose colored glasses,
the encounters that you've had
with people in your past,
you know what you might do to self-medicate
when you're not getting along with your spouse?
You might start reminiscent about that person
and what it might've been like to be with them
instead of this jerk that just hurt my feelings.
This drama queen, gentlemen,
that lets her emotions control her
and she's just the hot mess express.
Man, that woman that I dated in the past,
she was a lot more normal than this girl that I married.
She had her emotions under control a lot better.
And you kind of start reminiscing about something that,
what does that do?
It begins to erode intimacy.
We don't want that, do we?
We don't, I'm gonna pray in a second.
So we're clearing out, we're making room,
but here's the other thing, very important.
You can't fall in love.
You can't give someone your heart
if you're not in possession of it.
The Bible says above all things that you possess,
is it telling us that we possess our hearts?
Does God possess our hearts or do we possess our hearts?
We possess our hearts.
The Bible says above all the things that you own,
that you possess, that belong to you,
the most important one,
the one that can make or break you is your heart.
And so above all things that you possess, guard the heart
because out of it flows the quality of your life,
the quality of your relationships, the quality of your life,
the quality of everything that you see, hear, do, say
is gonna come out of this heart part,
also known as the soul part.
So when we talk about soul ties,
we're also in a lot of ways talking about heart ties.
We're talking about heart tethers and heart strings.
You know how someone might say to you,
well, I would like a relationship with no strings attached.
You know, I want, you know, this situation,
hey, you know, there's no strings attached.
Well, that's not true, there's always strings attached.
There's always strings attached.
So Father God, we thank you.
We come to you tonight.
We come to you in unity of mind and spirit.
We come to you, Lord,
asking that you would show us what we cannot see,
that you would teach us what we do not know.
Teach us, show us, heal us, grow us tonight.
We ask for a revealing, for a healing,
anything and everything that we need to see
that might be holding us back.
It didn't just hold us back in 2021,
but it's been holding us back maybe for years,
maybe for decades,
maybe even in our family for generations.
It's time for us to be free from those things.
And this is the time when we're gonna be,
we're gonna feel more free than we ever have
to be able to possess the promises that you have given us.
So Lord, we thank you for this process.
Holy Spirit, we ask you to take charge
of this time together.
I ask you to speak to me and speak through me tonight.
In Jesus name, amen.
Amen.
All right, I'm gonna give you permission just so you know,
if you need to turn your camera off, you can.
We're gonna get into some deep things.
If you feel like it's making you emotional,
if you wanna turn your camera off, feel free to do that.
If you feel like it's even easier to focus
with your camera off, I will,
usually on these group sessions,
we all want our cameras on,
but for tonight, if you need to do that
at any point in time, please feel free to do that, okay?
Also, don't worry about taking notes.
Okay?
I will provide you the notes.
Some of the notes that I'm gonna use tonight,
especially when we get down to the actual prayers
that I'm gonna be using,
they've been compiled from a lot of different resources.
We've used a lot, a lot, a lot of different resources
over the years when we teach this.
I have some notes here that Holy Spirit gave me
specifically for this time together,
but I will make all of this available to you.
Also, you can watch the replay.
So I want you to be present in the moment right now,
present with me, present with each other,
and present with Holy Spirit
so that you can really hear what God's saying to you.
And then you can always go back and watch the replay,
and then I'll make those prayers
that we're gonna pray tonight
and some of these resources that we've compiled,
I'll make those available.
available in your groups. Okay, I will, I'll add it as a file in
your groups later for you to look at. Good deal. All right,
let's get started. All right, so we just found out that, you
know, we can't give away what we don't possess. We don't and a
lot of times this is what's happened to you where you get
into a relationship with someone and you just really don't feel
available. When we're not emotionally available. It's
because we're, we're emotionally tied to something else in the
past. You know, I have a student, I have a student whose
brother passed away in a tragic accident when they were kids. He
was driving a tractor. Okay, his family lived on a farm and it
was his turn to to do some some plowing and some seeding and his
little brother who was the closest in birth order to him
and who was his best friend, wanted to come with him. And
even though he wasn't old enough to do the job that my student
was doing, he was came along for the ride, right? And when
you're raised on a farm, you know, you're used to that kind
of stuff. And, you know, it doesn't seem dangerous or
unsafe. And so they were able to plow and seed the entire field
that they needed to and they had some seed left over. And so when
they went back to just kind of get rid of that extra seed and
just make one more pass, the the tractor jumped because of
something that was in the ground, and it and it and when
it jumped, the younger brother fell off and was crushed by the
tractor. And so my student who's an incredible guy, he was
only 14 years old, he he immediately jumped off the
tractor and he scooped up his brother's lifeless body and ran
carrying him to the house. Now, this is a 14 year old and 11
year old. So you know, that was a lot of adrenaline. And it
probably was the supernatural grace of God for him to be able
to have that type of strength to be able to run his brother into
the house, and no one was home. Mom was in town doing that kids
were homeschooled, they had gone with her dad was at his was at
work at the business that they owned as a family. And so he
called dad and dad made it back. And, of course, you know, there
was no resuscitating, you know, the the paramedics came and, and
all of those things. Now, this is what happens to us
oftentimes, need to hear this really important. Okay. What
happens to us when we have a childhood trauma, we don't have
the skills to unpack that. We don't have the language to talk
about how we feel. We don't know how we feel. What happens
oftentimes is we'll shut down in that area. And it's almost
divinely that will shut down because we don't have the tools,
we don't have the language. And a lot of times, depending on
what family you're in, we don't have the support. And that's
what happened in this situation. This, this man comes
from a really amazing family, I just told you, like their
homesteaders, they farmers, you know, just salt of the earth
kind of people, but guess what, they didn't have the emotional
bandwidth, or understanding in order to help themselves heal or
him. And so that trauma had to be packed away, for some later
date, when as an adult man, he is now unpacking that, but what
does that cause? What does that cause when we have a trauma that
we, we're not able to really deal with or process in real
time, when it happens, it causes us to become what, you know, a
lot of society and psychologists call emotionally unavailable.
You know why we're emotionally unavailable? Because that place
where that trauma occurred in our heart is now shut down. And
that's the same place where we would need to get the emotions
to become available to the current relationship or the
current situation. But because that place is blocked off, you
know, kind of do not disturb, maybe even like in a medically
induced coma, if you want to think of it like that, what we
put, we put people in a medically induced coma when
they've been so traumatized that they will die of their
injuries, unless they're in that coma until, you know, we can get
them the kind of assistance that they need, right? That's what
doctors do to people. And so God, I feel like we have this,
this ability gives us the grace to shut down in certain areas
until help arrives, until there's information until
there's support until there's tools. Does that make sense to
everyone? The problem is, is that if we stay shut down for too
long in those areas, we won't be able to attach, we won't be
able to have, you know, the healthy relationships and the
vibrant intimacy that God has created us for. So we're going
to get into that tonight. Okay, so first of all, I just want to
tell you some of the things you can be tied to, I think a lot of
I want you to raise your hand if you thought soul ties were
always sexual. If you just have that understanding, none of my
students should think that because we've got
on over this over and over and over again.
And for those of you that have done soul ties
as part of bootcamp and as part of my program,
we are gonna do some of those prayers from that.
But I feel like this is really, really important
going into 2022.
And I really felt like God put it on my heart
that we needed to revisit this tonight.
Okay, because like I said, layers, layers, layers, friends.
So you can be tied to all types of platonic things.
They don't have to be romantic.
Okay, tethers, heart tethers can be tied to people,
both platonic and romantic.
Did you know that you can have a soul tie
or a heart tie to an event?
Like my student that I'm talking about,
he was soul tied or heart tied to this trauma,
to this tragedy.
And a lot of times if someone has wronged you,
if you're tied to some type of abuse in childhood
or in a former relationship,
whether it was a platonic or romantic relationship,
some type of abuse or hurt, trauma,
there'll be unforgiveness that is tying you to that.
Okay, you don't have to write this down.
Remember, you can write it down later.
But God told me years ago when I was doing my own heartwork,
you know, decade or more ago.
Okay, he said to me, he said, Jackie, he said,
you can no longer see people as the pain
that they've caused you.
That's a soul tie.
When we will change someone else's identity
to fit our narrative of trauma and pain,
like for instance, let me give you an example.
They lied to you, now they're the liar.
That's how you think of them.
That's their identity, they're the liar.
They cheated on you, they're the cheater.
Okay, they're the, you know, cheater, loser, abuser,
whatever it is that they've done,
they become that identity.
That is a soul tie.
That is unforgiveness that's causing you
to be tethered to that trauma.
Because as long as they stay that counterfeit,
you will stay the counterfeit of the abuse,
the cheated on, the lied to.
Does that make sense to everyone?
In order for you to get free from that trauma
and untied from it so that you can go on
to become everything that God has called you to be
and really release that person to become,
if they choose to, because they have free will,
to receive forgiveness and become everything
God has created them to be.
Forgiveness is necessary to become untethered and untied
and for that to be broken between you
and that person and that event.
It could have been a car accident.
It could have been, I feel this in the spirit right now,
I don't have this in my notes, but malpractice.
Someone here or someone in replay,
you're tied to something that a doctor did to you.
They messed you up.
My husband went in to have some earwax removed
and guess what?
They perforated his eardrum
and he was trying to get that wax out.
They made a hole in his eardrum and now he has tinnitus.
He's had ringing in his ears for years
because of what that person did.
And he went in to try to get it fixed
and the process to getting it fixed
is almost as bad as what he's living with now.
And so it's easy to be angry at a doctor
or someone you trusted because they're human
and they made a mistake.
When my mom was in the hospital, in the ICU,
they moved her too quickly and they broke her arm.
I could be angry at them and not forgive them
because they broke my mom's arm.
When she was already in the ICU, they broke her arm.
And guess what?
They had to take her back into a long surgery
to put a rod in her arm when she already was so sick
that she couldn't even possibly survive.
So to put her through more and more trauma and tragedy
because a nurse wasn't paying attention
and moved her the wrong way
because they just were in a hurry.
And so I really feel that in my spirit,
you are tethered to something that has happened in your life
that has to do with your medical history
or someone that you love.
Medical history.
Okay.
Because you don't realize that event
has been a long time ago,
so you're not feeling the pain of it.
So you think you've forgiven,
but you've never really just spoken forgiveness
over that situation.
You've never really realized
that doctor, that nurse, that institution, whatever it is.
And so we can be tied to events like that.
Maybe you were wrongfully accused of something.
Maybe you were fired wrongfully
because someone said that you weren't doing your job
or your numbers weren't right,
or someone lied about you.
It doesn't matter what it is.
You can be tied to that a negative event in your life.
You can be tied to it.
Not just the people, but the actual event itself.
Maybe it was a mistake that you made.
You're tied to your past.
Maybe it was a mistake that you made.
You're tied to your past mistakes.
You're the cheater.
You're the one that won't forgive yourself.
So you continue to be tied
to that negative counterfeit personality
or identity of cheater or liar.
liar, abuser, user, adulterer, whatever it is,
you're tied to that, the regrets.
You can, here's another one, really important.
You know what?
You can be soul tied and heart tied to an idea,
a dream, a prophetic word that has long since expired
that you need to let go of.
You are seeing everything that's coming into your life
through the lens of that prophetic word.
Let me give you an example.
I had a student and she desperately wanted to be married.
She'd been sitting in the waiting room for 20 years
waiting for her promise to come.
What was her promise?
God told her years and years and years ago
that when she was in prayer,
she believed that God told her
that her husband's name was Chris
and that she should wait for him,
that God was sending him and that that was his name,
that she was gonna marry Chris.
Well, guess what?
She went to a kind of a small church and there was no Chris
and over the years,
she was young when she received that word,
she was perfectly willing to walk that out and wait for it.
But here, two years went by, three years, five years,
seven years, 10 years went by.
And then guess what?
A new guy showed up to the church.
Guess what his name was?
Anyone wanna guess what his name was?
Chris.
Chris showed up.
So of course, as soon as Chris walks through the door
at this smaller assembly of believers,
she's like, oh my God, right?
Unfortunately, guess what?
Chris dated her roommate, married him, her.
Well, that sucks, right?
And so who thinks it's time to let go of that prophetic word?
But she didn't, she ended up waiting,
she ended up staying and waiting for years more
until she realized that whatever she heard back when,
it was not established, it did not come to fruition,
it's time to throw it out, okay?
It's time to flush it.
You're like, but it was the word of the Lord.
You know what?
We receive words of the Lord for reasons and for seasons.
There isn't any word of the Lord
that doesn't have an expiration date on it
or it doesn't want to be replaced if you allow it
with something more current
and more valid to where you are right now.
If you received a dream from the Lord
that you were gonna be a prima ballerina
and you're now 47 years old, guess what?
Flush it, that's expired.
You're not gonna be, but you're like,
God, I can do anything, Jackie.
Sure, but why?
Why?
Don't you wanna take those same gifts and skills and dreams
and talents and desires
and funnel them into something maybe similar?
Maybe you wanna be a choreographer.
Maybe you want to run a dance company.
Let's allow the new to come by releasing the old.
We gotta release the old.
And at the same time, when a new word comes,
it's been established, like what?
Like 2022 is the year of the bride.
It's been spoken, it's been established
through the mouth of two or three witnesses.
Now we have to act on it.
You guys, in the fear of the Lord, we have to act on it.
And when I say fear, I mean, in the awe of God,
in the awe of his promises, we have to act on it.
That's the correct response to a word from the Lord
is action once it's been established.
Okay, so you can be tied to an old prophetic word.
And I see some people say,
you are really speaking to me right now.
It's time to release the old
so you can make room for the new, friends.
So you're gonna cut your soul ties
with those old prophetic words tonight
and make room for new prophetic words
and new dreams and new visions, new ideals.
Some of you had an ideal of what you wanted.
You had a list of what you wanted in a spouse.
And guess what?
That ship has sailed now.
You're a different person.
You're 15 years older.
You need something different
than what you needed 15 years ago.
It's time to let go of that old idea
of what you thought was coming.
Everyone's so serious right now.
They're like, I'm gonna take that list to the grave.
Well, yes, yes, you will.
Is that what you want?
I don't think so.
All right, you can also be tied to,
you can also, you guys, this is really weird,
but I'm gonna add it
because I think that some people have this problem.
You can also be tied to an obsession
with someone you don't even know.
I had a student, you guys tired of hearing my examples?
I think they're helpful though.
If they're helpful, raise your hand, these examples.
Okay, so I had a student that came to me
and she believed that this celebrity preacher
was her husband, was her future husband.
So she went to all of his conferences.
She went to all of his stuff.
You know, can you guys see me
or do I need to highlight myself?
Do I need to highlight myself?
Is it hard to follow me?
Because like a Rubik's cube, like a-
It was cube everything keeps shifting for me, I was down here now i'm up here, and is that Okay, or do I need to highlight.
Now I can see you.
I can see yourself.
People are wanting me to highlight, so let me highlight and i'll put it back on gallery view hold on.
And there I am with my nice spray tan.
All right.
Okay, all right, so you know she thought this you know she believed in her heart, she was tethered to the idea.
Of this person that she did not know she did not know this person, but she was she was obsessed I hate to say it, but she was obsessed with the celebrity preacher and she had convinced herself that this person was.
was her husband, and so she like I said went to all the conferences went to anytime this person traveled anywhere there she was.
And that is a very unhealthy situation and some people get they get really fixated on that it could be someone in your church it doesn't have to be a celebrity but you're obsessed with them.
You think that they're your husband or wife and it has gone month after month, year after year and they haven't noticed you and you're still waiting for them to notice you it's time for you to let that go.
It is and if you're and if you're obsessed with like a celebrity like you watch all their movies, and you know you need that's a soul tie.
You watch all their you're like I just like them know they become an ideal for you and that could really get in the way of you falling in love with a regular human person, especially if it's the opposite sex type of situation.
You know when people say who's your crush you know who's your celebrity crush nobody.
Nobody is my celebrity crush you're like but that Jackie aren't you kind of being like a little bit legalistic or religious no i'm being spiritual stop tying your soul and your heart to fictitious characters in movies.
And if you can't watch movies without doing that and then expecting that your husband or your wife is going to look like that or act like that.
Then don't watch movies anymore, until you can get to a healthy hearted place where you can do it.
Because you're messing your own self up.
Guys i'm talking to you you're not going to marry Kate Beckinsale and you know what if you follow her on instagram you shouldn't even want to that sister got some issues that's you know Lord Jesus deliver her but you know.
The people that people play in movies are not who they really are you know that right.
Okay, so no matter who that celebrity crushes that that rock star crushes it's time for us to let go of those and we can go ahead and repents of that tonight, which means turning away from that.
And turning towards what God has for us so that when we see our spirit mate we're not comparing them to some kind of unrealistic.
crazy expectation.
You can be soul tied to expectation all right, this is for everyone, male and female you can be soul tied heart tied to pornography.
you're having an emotional experience with those actors they're not acting because they're actually that's that's real life, you know that's that's not like smoking mirrors and cameras those people are having sex.
For your pleasure and not for their pleasure, because a lot of them are being human traffic they're addicted to drugs there's all different types and you're soul tying yourself to that.
you're soul tying yourself to that when you watch that you're having an emotional experience with that person, it says, if you're having sex with them as well.
Okay, and remember what Jesus said Jesus says you don't commit anything you don't commit just a sin in action anymore you commit that sin in your heart now right under the new covenant.
If you even look on a woman or a man to lust after them you've committed adultery in your heart is what he said right.
And so, when we're when we're caught up in that sexual act with those people on the screen, even you know, even having orgasms with them that that causes a tie a soul tie a heart tether to that situation very, very, very important that you understand that it's not harmless.
It's like Oh, you know yeah I did that and it's and I don't do it anymore, and you know okay it's over it's all under the blood of Jesus, you can be so tied to it and God wants you to get free.
want you to be free okay so let's see I think that I covered everything there so um alright so let's talk about what these heart ties the soul ties are.
So, when our hearts are broken okay this this cursed heart this fragmented heart this soulless heart when it's broken what's Jeremiah 17 verses nine and 10 say about it it's wickedly deceitful that no one can know it so it's a liar, it says it's a puzzle that nobody can figure out so it's confusing right these broken fragmented hearts are very confusing and they're very confused.
So, when our hearts are broken okay this cursed heart this fragmented heart this soulless heart when it's broken what's Jeremiah 17 verses nine and 10 say about it it's wickedly deceitful that no one can know it so it's a liar, it says it's a puzzle that nobody can figure out so it's confusing right these broken fragmented hearts are very confusing and they're very confused.
And then it's a pretender.
So it's just going through the motions a lot.
It's emulating culture and society.
It really doesn't know who to be or where to be
or why to be.
And that is why soul ties and heart ties are formed.
Okay, we're looking to fit something
in the God-shaped hole.
And this is how this happens.
It's a broken heart.
It has a hole.
It's a God-shaped hole.
It's not a man-shaped hole.
It's not a woman-shaped hole.
It's not a job-shaped hole.
It's not an experience for all of you that love to travel.
It's not experience-shaped hole.
You know, your broken heart will have you running
after all kinds of things all the time,
thinking that that's what you need
and tying your destiny to those things
and becoming emotionally involved with those things.
And it never fills it, does it?
It never really quite fills that hole in our heart
because God alone is source.
His relationship is the main love story in your life.
When Jesus came to seek and save that which was lost,
that was the love story between you and God.
That was the relationship and identity
as being a child of God,
a son of God and the bride of Christ.
All of you, sons of God, all of you, bride of Christ,
of being the children of God and being the bride of Christ.
Be truth to Christ, okay?
And so he sought and he saved through his death
and the finished work of Calvary this relationship,
which sought and saved this relationship
and then this relationship.
You will never have healthy,
interdependent relationship with other human beings
if you do not first know who you are to God
and who you are to yourself.
And so we talk about that in our boundaries course,
which we will be doing in January.
Who's excited to do some boundaries work?
We're gonna have to come right out of the gate, you guys.
If we really want 2022 to be the year of the bride,
we're gonna have to come right out of the gate
with some pruning, some purging, some identity work,
some fasting, and I don't just mean food.
I mean, coming away from all this stuff
that we've been shoving in this hole
and just really allow God to fill it with himself
so that we can have clear vision here and here, okay?
So that broken heart is looking for all kinds of stuff.
And so that broken heart runs out and it makes attachments.
It does.
It shoves all kinds of stuff in there
trying to see if it will fit.
It makes attachments.
What kind of attachments does it make?
It makes emotional attachments, mental attachments,
physical attachments, spiritual attachments,
sexual attachments, it even makes financial attachments.
All of those things.
Because here you go, you were created for attachment.
People are like, oh, I'm just gonna cut all these soul ties
because attachment is bad.
No, you were created for attachment.
You were created for relationship.
You were created for connection.
And relationship requires reliance.
For people that are always thinking
everything is codependent,
we're gonna have to let go of that.
I will tell you, I'm very happily married for 15 years
and we a little bit codependent, all right?
We are, we're working on it.
Why are we working on it?
Because we're human beings, that's why.
If you think that you are gonna get to a state
of complete interdependence
without a very long journey
of just continuing to do heartwork, you're not.
The trick is, the beauty is,
is that as you do your heartwork,
you will recognize when a good godly relationship
is getting out of balance and you'll pull it back.
It's about doing your heartwork.
It's about being self-aware.
It's about realizing when you're making someone
your source when they're not
and you're having unrealistic expectations
in a relationship.
So David and I, it's a constant tug of war
in our relationship where we realize that sometimes
because this person's right in front of you
and they have skin, unlike God,
you put a little bit more expectation
and reliance on them than you should.
But you were created and relationship requires reliance
to a certain extent.
It requires trust at a certain extent.
And guess what?
It requires attachment, okay?
So unhealthy attachments, we don't want those.
We don't want unhealthy attachments,
but we do want godly and healthy attachments, okay?
All right.
And it's important that you understand that right now
because otherwise this type of teaching
will keep you independent.
You'll just process it wrong
and you'll run out there trying to be independent.
Raise your hand if you know
that you've become emotionally unavailable
because of trauma and you're very independent.
You don't try to rely on anyone for anything ever
because interdependence requires reliance
and that we've been created for interdependence.
Wow, look at all of those hands, wowsers.
You guys, I don't see any guy hands up though.
Oh, one, two, mostly female hands.
Ty's like, wait, don't forget about me.
I saw you, bud.
All right.
So we were not created for independence.
You are not supposed to be alive and alone.
If you are alive, which you appear all to be alive right now,
you are not created to be alone or to go it alone or to do it alone.
Okay.
So moving on.
So we already, we already found out that those broken hearts,
they run out and they make those emotional, physical, mental,
spiritual, sexual, financial deals, covenants, tethers, ties.
Attachments, bad attachment is bad.
It's unhealthy and good attachment is good.
All right. So let's go over the attributes of some good attachments.
What are the attributes of good attachment?
How can we tell if it's good or bad? Good attachments are godly.
Okay. God is the center. He's the source.
He's the source.
They're godly. They're interdependent. That's a mature attachment.
They're interdependent.
Okay.
Good attachments. Listen up.
Good attachments, healthy attachments are dependent.
When you are a child.
This is why a lot of you struggle because you,
you weren't able to depend on the people in your life.
When you were a child, you became very independent as a survivor.
You became very independent as a survivor.
You became very independent as a survivor is a survival instinct.
Because you came into a broken home when you were a child.
And so you haven't been able to break out of that. So guess what?
Your soul tied to an event in your life.
A troubled childhood that has caused you to not be able to be
appropriately interdependent as an adult.
You can repent of that. You can let go of that.
You can let go of that.
And then you can have a healthy relationship with the people in your
life.
Because they are the ones who are going to be taking care of you.
When you were a child so that you can move on and have healthy
relationship, not just with them.
Hopefully with them.
But also with other people in your life.
Okay.
Good attachments have boundaries.
A lot of people have, we're going to teach boundaries in January,
but a lot of people do not understand boundaries at all.
They think boundaries are walls.
Okay.
They're not a method to, to, to disattach.
To a, to a.
To disconnect.
They are a, a tool in which to connect in a healthy way.
Mature boundaries include people. Okay. Even broken people.
Okay.
Even broken people.
Which is every person.
Guys need to know this.
Every person has yellow flags, every single person, every person.
Every single person has yellow flags, including you.
Okay.
So boundaries help you to be with broken people without their brokenness,
breaking you,
especially if they're family members and people you just cannot get away
with.
Okay.
So good attachments.
Cut people off.
Can I tell you that that divine love or mature love?
What does it do? What does the Bible say? It does.
Mature and divine love.
Cast out fear.
Immature love casts out people.
That's what it does.
Okay.
You're just going to be throwing people off the ship,
burning bridges all the time.
Okay.
So.
Okay.
So people are healthy.
Right.
They have realistic expectations.
Healthy.
Attachment has free will.
And choice.
You guys, it's always an unhealthy attachment.
If you no longer have free will and choice,
God gave it to you.
No human relationship should take it away from you.
Right.
When you're a child and you're dependent, you don't really have free will.
You're going to be abused in those.
You know, very toxic childhood relationships.
But also healthy, healthy boundary. I'm sorry,
healthy attachments strengthen your relationship with God.
They do.
They don't draw you to them.
They draw you back to God.
It's an interdependent relationship.
And remember what I said about me and David, that's a process.
You're going to have to go back to God.
And continue to go back to God instead of really having
expectations with your spouse.
Okay.
We need to mute someone, but I don't see who they are.
Oh, they got muted.
That's going to help you in your future marriage right now is to get,
is to really get a revelation of that.
Because otherwise you're going to have really on it.
or a mate relationship,
but as you get into deeper and deeper intimacy,
It's a healthy marriage. It's a beautiful marriage.
you might start putting unrealistic expectations
on this human being to do something for you
that only God can do.
And so that's gonna be something
that you need to be aware of.
All right, here we go.
Gonna go through this list so we can get to our
soul tie breaking heart, heart reclaiming prayers,
soul tie and heart tie severing,
soul and heart reclaiming prayers.
Unhealthy bad attachments,
here's some characteristics of them,
pretty much the opposite of everything I just said
about the others.
They're ungodly.
What does that mean?
I'm gonna use a real religious word
that's really misunderstood.
They're idolatrous, okay?
We idolize these people.
We don't realize it,
but we're putting them as a source in our lives.
They're on a pedestal.
A lot of people do this with pastors and spiritual leaders.
Okay, you have an unhealthy soul tie to that pastor.
You would do anything for them.
Did you do anything they say
without even making sure it's from the Bible?
As someone whose pastor went to prison
and got 80 years in prison because they're a human being
and they made a lot of bad mistakes,
I'm gonna tell you, don't do that.
People are people.
It's great to learn from people.
It's great to respect and honor people
that are doing the work of the kingdom,
but don't idolize them, okay?
They're human beings.
That includes me.
Don't idolize me because I'm gonna disappoint you.
In fact, let me just try to disappoint you right now
so you don't do it.
I'm just kidding.
All right, so codependent, codependent,
they're codependent, all right?
And sometimes they're dependent.
There are people that can't,
that you have an attachment with someone
where you can't do anything without their permission.
You can't.
This goes, let me go back to the spiritual leader thing.
I have known so many people over the years
that sit forever on a pew
and they never get their little butt up
and go out and do something amazing and change the world
because they're waiting for their pastor
on the platform to give them permission
to use the gifts and talents that God's given them
for ministry or something else.
You need the permission of the church.
No, friend, you're pre-qualified by the gift and talent.
When God gave you that gift,
he pre-qualified you to use it.
And it's time for you to break that soul tie tonight
so that you can go out and do what God's called you to do.
All right?
So you can't be dependent.
You're a grown person.
Every one of you are adults.
Your dependent relationship is over.
The only dependent relationship you can have going forward
is between you and God.
You can be as dependent as a squishy little newborn baby
on Papa God and he will do his part
and he will show you what your part is.
He wants you to be his child.
He absolutely adores it
when you come to him for help first
before you go anywhere else.
All right?
Cast it on Jesus because he cares for you.
All right.
Unhealthy, bad attachments.
That person is your source.
I just said that.
Fear of displeasing them.
These are controlling attachments sometimes.
There's really unrealistic expectations.
There's no free will.
There's no choice.
It leads you away from God.
Some of you have these relationships with your parents.
You do.
You're a grown person,
but you still do whatever mom and dad tell you to do.
You're so afraid of displeasing them.
You're like, well, but the Bible says to honor your parents.
That's not what that means.
Okay?
That is not what that means.
It's important that you understand
that you need to do what God,
you need to be a God pleaser and not a people pleaser.
Okay?
And then finally, those unhealthy, bad attachments,
they weaken your connection with God.
They lead you away from God.
You know, they have you, you know,
they lead you to sin.
A lot of times, soul ties will lead you to sin.
You'll meet someone.
You're like, oh, I've been single for such a long time.
And then before you know it, you're sleeping with them.
You're living with them.
You're not married.
Your relationship with God is growing dimmer and dimmer
because now you're ashamed, right?
Because you know it's wrong.
And now you're living in a state of, you know,
that you shouldn't be living in and you're shutting down
and it's leading you farther away from God.
Okay?
So once again, these soul ties, these heart ties,
these tethers, they can be to communities.
They can be to a community.
God told you to leave years ago,
but you're so afraid of what other people would say
that you haven't quit the job.
You haven't left that church.
You haven't done whatever.
Your soul tied, your heart tied to it.
Okay?
It's more important to you that those people
think well of you for then you to be obedient to the Lord.
That's a soul tie.
Friendships.
It can be a friendship.
Friendship ain't done you good for years and years
and years.
In fact, it's just dragging you down,
but you refuse to let it go
because you've just been friends
since you were five years old.
It's a job.
It doesn't pay the bills.
It never has, but you can't leave it
because you're tethered to the unrealistic expectation
that is going to be your magic bullet of happiness.
It's going to be your source.
You know, it's, you know,
it's where you're getting your money from.
No, you're getting your money from God.
Did you know that?
If you're a child of God,
then God is your source forever.
thing, including money, which means what that means that jobs, not your source, which means
that if you go ahead and leave it, then you can have another source for finances because God is
your source. The jobs are your resource and God will give you another resource if you're obedient
to him. So we got to get unsold tied to that stuff. Then of course, romantic relationships,
sexual relationships, family ties. They're the ties that bind. A lot of you are doing unhealthy
things. You're not moving forward with your life because you're just so worried about what your
family is going to think and say. Okay. Right. So we're going to operate in a divine exchange
right now, 2021 and everything that came before it, we're going to exchange it for 2022 and
everything that comes after it. Right. We want to walk into the season fresh and clean with a blank
slate with our hearts clear and able to receive everything that God has for us. All right. So
we're going to go ahead and do some of those prayers now. All right. So I'm going to talk
specifically about people right now. And like I said, this, this information, all these resources
have been compiled from all different types of sources. Um, and I will share these notes with
you in your group. So here's seven signs that you have an un, an unhealthy soul tie with another
person. Remember it could be platonic or romantic. It could be a community. It could be, um, you know,
any, any, anyone, a person. All right. So here they are. I really want you to close your eyes
and really listen to Holy spirit, let Holy spirit bring up anybody into your mind and heart that
this might apply to in your life. Number one, you are, you are in a physically and or emotionally
and or spiritually abusive relationship, but you feel so attached to them that you refuse to cut
off the connection and set boundaries with them. This is also known as trauma bonding.
This person's dragging you down with them. It's not a healthy relationship. It's, it's not, it's
all the things that I just said about unhealthy connection, but either you think you need to
save them or they're trying to save you or for whatever reason, you just cannot cut the connection
every time you try to, you feel guilty. You feel sad. You end up right back in the situation. Number
two. And if you guys, if you want to, if you want to come clean, James five 16, confess your faults
and be healed. You can go ahead and put in the comments, you know, what you're experiencing
right now, what God's telling you. Number two, you have left a relationship. Maybe even a long
time ago could have even been a marriage and now you're divorced, but you think about them obsessively.
You cannot get them out of your mind. You think about them maybe even only in seasons of time,
maybe around the time of the breakup or their birthday or the new year. I had an old boyfriend.
I only thought about him around this time, Christmas and new years, because that's when we met at a
party. And it was so exciting. And, you know, and I always thought about him obsessively at this time
of year. And so I broke that soul tie with him three, whenever you do anything, make a decision,
have a conversation with someone, you feel like this person is with you or watching you.
That could be a parent. It could be an authority source, you know, someone in your life, anyone
you just feel like you make this decision, but you always have them in your mind of like,
you know, would they approve of this? Or you just feel like they're with you and watching you.
Number four, when you have sex with someone else, hopefully your husband and wife. Okay.
You can hardly keep yourself from visualizing the person you have a soul tie with. I know
none of you are having sex. At least you're hopefully you're not having sex right now,
but this has happened to you in the past where you're visualizing you guys, this could be
pornography and actor, actress in, in a porn film, some scenario from a, from, from a movie
where people were emulating having sex. We need to break that soul tie. You take on the negative
traits. This is five of the person that your soul is tied to and you carry offenses, whether or not
you actually agree with them or not. So this could be romantic or platonic, but you're tied
to this person in negative ways. You take on their negative moods. If they're mad at someone,
then you're mad at them as well. This happens in families or not. Everyone's not talking to
aunt Becky. All right. I'm mad at aunt Becky. And so everyone's mad at aunt Becky. Now,
six, you defend your right to stay in the relationship with the person that your soul
is tied to, even though it is negatively affecting or even destroying your life
or your relationships or your health and your future.
You will defend that relationship to the death.
If someone tries to get you to leave that person behind,
you'll make every excuse.
You will justify, you will get in a fear response so fast.
It's not funny.
Of all the reasons why, you don't have to let them go.
All right, number seven.
You have simultaneous experiences and or moods
as the person your soul is tied to.
This can include sickness, accidents, addictions, et cetera.
I need to tell you something.
You don't have to really even like the person
that you're soul tied with.
My mom and I didn't have a good relationship
my entire life.
You know, I left home as a young teenager
and lived in like foster situations and girls' homes,
but I was so soul tied to her
that I always knew when she was upset or hurt,
I was so connected to her negative emotions.
Even when she got sick with cancer the last few years,
I would wake up in the middle of the night
and I would know immediately that she fell
or that they rushed her to the hospital.
Like I had, I was tied to her
before I was able to release her.
I felt, and this is part of the reason why,
listen up guys, in her womb, even before I was born,
my mom was in a bad state.
My dad had left her already.
She was young.
She was only 20 years old when she was pregnant with me.
And I came out of the womb, not only running for my life,
but also feeling like I had to protect my mother
and take care of her.
She was my mother child.
Anyone else have a mother child or a father child
that even though you were the child,
you just felt like such a huge responsibility
for their wellbeing and trying to protect them
and help them because they made such bad decisions.
Okay.
And so even though I was estranged from her
for so many years, I always was worried about her
and was always trying to, you know, I'd send her things,
mom, do your heart work.
And I was always trying to fix her and help her.
And, you know, up until the time that she passed away,
it's only been in the last two years
that I've gotten some real deliverance
from that soul tie, you guys.
And also important.
You can be soul tied to someone who's not even alive.
Okay.
They're not even on the earth anymore,
but you think about them obsessively.
Okay.
You're always, you have so much regret.
You know, I wish that I could have helped them
or I wish I could have saved them
or I wish they were still here.
And you're always thinking about them.
You're always, now listen,
if you had good relationships
and healthy relationship with parents and they passed on
and you think about them sometimes
and you wish they were here.
I'm not talking about that.
That's a healthy attachment.
I'm talking about obsessively being sad about them going,
you know, not being here.
And you can't stop thinking about the way that they died
or you wish that you could have saved them.
And, you know, you just constantly feel negatively
about those things.
It's time for you to get some healing from that.
Okay.
All right.
We got a lot of people chiming in here.
Yes.
Joshua, when you know that they're going to call,
I had a former boyfriend
and we broke up,
but even though it wasn't a good relationship,
it wasn't unhealthy.
It just wasn't right for me.
He was a nice guy, but guess what?
We dated for years.
It was a sexual relationship
because it was before I knew Jesus.
I didn't, you guys didn't meet Jesus until I was 22.
All right.
I didn't have my conversion until I was 22 years old.
But anyway, this connection,
I would think about it over the years,
especially at this time of year,
New Year's and I would reminisce and I'd be like, man,
is he the one that got away?
And one of the reasons why I would think
he was the one that got away
is because I was so soul tied to him
that I knew when I was going to run into him,
I would just be driving down the street
and I would know that I was going to see this person.
It might've been three years before I,
since I've seen them.
And I knew I was going to see them.
I knew that I was going to run into them that day.
I knew that I was going to hear from them out of the blue,
get an email, you know, get a text message, whatever.
It was so bizarre.
And you guys, you know what?
Really, even into being a leader
and being even married to my current husband
for the last 15 years, I still had that soul tie.
I didn't know it was a soul tie
because I wasn't fantasizing about them sexually
or anything like that.
I just knew that I was going to see them.
I knew that I was, you know,
I knew they were going to call
or they were going to reach out and see how I was doing.
But I will tell you a mutual friend of both of us,
I ran into that person.
I talked to this mutual friend and they said,
hey, you know, so-and-so's obsessed with you, right?
And I was like, what?
And they're like, yeah, this person,
my, this former boyfriend is a soldier.
And they told me that he was carrying a picture of me
in his helmet when he was at, you know,
in Afghanistan, in Iraq.
The problem is, is that he has a wife and family nowadays
and he's carrying my picture in his helmet
with their pictures.
Can you imagine if he got killed on the battlefield,
having his personal effects sent home
and my picture being among those pictures?
When I found that out, I sought the Lord immediately.
I was like, God, this is not just like a.
Oh, Hey, you know, we're, you know, we're somehow connected like telepathically,
like, I didn't know what it was.
Okay.
I didn't have the kind of security clearance in the spirit as I do now.
And so years ago, God showed me that it was a soul tie and that I needed to break it.
And you know what?
I don't think about that person anymore at all.
And I don't think that person thinks about me.
Cause you know what, when I broke the soul tie, it set them free too.
Does that make sense?
I'm the spiritual authority in the relationship.
I don't even know if they know Jesus.
I broke the soul tie and it's severed.
And when it's severed, they get to go free too.
They don't have to sit around thinking about someone that's not their wife or
their children either, because that's not healthy for anybody.
All right.
Good stuff.
Everyone feeling good about doing these prayers now.
And then, like I said, if you need to, if you need to turn off your camera, you
can, I want you to really listen to what Holy spirit is saying to you when you.
Pray these prayers.
Okay.
So we're going to start with a non-sexual soul tie prayer.
This is for anything, anything that's non-sexual.
Let's go ahead and pray this prayer.
You can pray it with me and I will also put it in your groups so that
you can pray it yourself later.
All right.
In Jesus name.
In Jesus name, we break all connection.
You break all connection to, and then you're just going to put that person,
that place, that thing, that community, whatever Holy spirit's been
bringing up in the spirit to you.
In Jesus name, I break any connection of mine to that in the soul
spirit realm, that's not of God.
I sever it right now by the blood of Jesus Christ, by the sword of the
spirit, which is the word of God.
And by the power of Holy spirit, I command all parts of their soul that's
been attached to mine to be released, to be released back to them, cleansed
in the blood of Jesus and free from any demonic interference, I command
any spirits that are not the Holy spirit that are attached to me or came
to me through this bond to go to Jesus, to his footstool and never to return to me.
I asked God for a wall of fire around my soul, my spirit and my body.
So nothing from that trauma, that situation, that event, that person
continues to be attached to my life or to my soul or to my heart.
I call back all parts of my heart and my soul.
That's been linked to these people in these situations.
Cleanse in the blood of Jesus and free from all demonic activity and interference.
They are free and I am free in Jesus name.
All right, let's do that breaking of sexual soul ties.
Now, once again, I will be sharing these prayers with you guys.
You guys can do this in the privacy of your own homes, just
with Holy spirit as your guide.
God, thank you that you created us to connect with others.
I do not desire any unhealthy connection or ties in the name of Jesus Christ.
I confess my sexual sin of blank with blank.
You can fill in anything here of watching pornography of a certain fantasy that you
have of a certain person that you had sex with out of covenant, maybe even a
certain kind of sexual shame that you have, that you did in covenant.
A lot of married people have some freaky sex and it's caused you a lot of shame.
And that's not of God.
Okay.
The marriage bed being undefiled does not mean that.
Okay.
Intimacy is a connection of mind, body, and spirit.
And a lot of times people take all that pornography stuff into the marriage bed
with them and they call it good sex.
Um, so you can confess the sexual sin of blank with blank.
Blank, whatever it is that Holy Spirit's bringing up
that's causing you shame, it's holding you back.
You still think about it
anytime you're in any kind of sexual situation
that comes into your mind.
Please forgive me for blank.
I forgive myself and blank for being involved.
I accept your forgiveness of my sin
and your complete restoration
to my sexual identity in Jesus name.
Yes.
All right.
For those of you that have been sexually violated,
ladies, rape, incest, any of those things, gentlemen,
any of you, any of you that had a very traumatic
first experience, first sexual experience
when you lost what we call our virginity,
any of you that had that kind of traumatic experience
or if it was just not in covenant,
it wasn't, you know, it wasn't,
it was a bad traumatic experience.
You know, oftentimes in that first sexual experience,
whether it's the man or the woman,
the woman bleeds, right?
Why is that?
Because that's a blood covenant that's being created.
A lot of people don't think of it that way.
A lot of people lost their virginity
in the back of a Subaru, amen?
With someone that they're not even
in relationship with anymore.
I'm raising my hand
because I lost my virginity in the back of a Subaru.
You know how small Subarus are?
Not a good thing, all right?
There was nothing covenant about that experience,
but a blood covenant was created because, you know,
I was a virgin and that person also happened to be a virgin.
And so the bottom line is,
is that there was a blood covenant created
because most women when they have intercourse
the first time they do bleed and that is a blood covenant.
So let's break that memory of that situation
and also that covenant that was created.
Because a lot of times you guys,
you know how people say you can never forget your first love
which usually means your first sex act.
The first cut is the deepest kind of thing.
A lot of times you can't forget them
because you formed a blood covenant with them, okay?
You're attached to them in this blood covenant situation.
It wasn't even a great relationship.
It was never a great relationship.
For some people it was a one night stand.
It was someone you don't even know
and you're sitting fantasizing about, you know,
attached to them, wishing that they loved you back
or wishing that something could have happened there
simply because you formed this covenant.
So let's break that together.
In the name of Jesus Christ and by the power of his blood,
we break the blood covenant with blank.
This covenant no longer has any hold on me.
All right.
I wasn't gonna do this one.
It's gonna be in your notes, but I'm gonna do it
because I feel Holy Spirit really prompting me to do it.
So here's an add-on.
If the sexual covenant that you had, the sexual soul tie,
I should say it was not a covenant, okay?
The sexual soul tie that you had
with someone was actually adulterous as well.
You were sleeping with someone else's husband or wife
or you were married and someone was sleeping with you.
That wasn't your spouse.
Because of the bitterness and the jealousy
that happens as a result of those types of things,
especially if you went on to marry that person
and now there's a blended family situation,
everyone hates each other, right?
Because of the bitterness and jealousy that entered in
because of that adulterous situation,
I want us to break that
because I'm feeling prompted to go here.
I know we're going a little long.
If you have to leave, no problem, okay?
You can watch it and replay.
All right, here we go.
In Jesus, in the name of Jesus
and by the power of his blood,
we break the curse of bitterness or jealousy
that has entered into our lives
because of the adulterous relationship with blank.
This curse no longer has a hold upon me,
my children or my children's children.
I am forgiven and I release forgiveness for blank.
for whoever that other person was okay even if you were the one that was cheated on i really
want to encourage you to pray that prayer in jesus name and by the power of his blood i break the
curse of bitterness or jealousy that has entered me because of the adulterous situation with blank
this curse no longer has a hold upon me or my children or my children's children i am forgiven
and i forgive blank
you guys you know if you break those those unhealthy soul ties you forgive through
forgiveness with your family just like me you can see your family be completely restored
a lot of times your parents are tied to those old counterfeit personalities of
being an addict or being an abuser and because you haven't released them and haven't forgiven
them and haven't broken that tie to that trauma you know they're stuck there and you're stuck
there and when you release it and you forgive even if you never even say it to them like in
real life you know maybe you don't even say it to them they have like a new release that
they didn't have before and things start happening oh monica that's good good i'm
glad someone needed that because i knew that i was supposed to say that one okay
kim's like oh lord a subaru yeah
oh thank you for jesus where are these accusers of yours oh love it okay awesome all right and
last but not least and like i said there's more on here there's one kind of for every occasion and so
i will share these notes you guys don't be don't be stalking me for these notes i will get them up
as soon as i can all right here's the divine exchange so we're letting go of everything from
2021 and in the past and we want that divine exchange in order for us to receive what god
has for us we have to make room for it and we also have to let go so that we can grab a hold
we got to let go so we can grab a hold very very important so we're going to do this divine
exchange right now all right so right now i want you to take a minute close your eyes i want you
to ask holy spirit to show you what you need to give up from 2021 and before what in the past you
need to give up and you can do this prayer yourself in the privacy of your home and he can
even tell you more things but right now so we can do it together as a as a group i want you to pray
and ask holy spirit what what do i need to give up in this exchange tonight for so i can get
something better what is it is it a person is it a job is it a community is it an accident or
event or a trauma that happened that you need to finally let go of is it someone you've been trying
to save and help maybe it's a parent or a child a grown child that you've been trying to continue
to be the hero of the story for you need to finally just put them on your jesus cares board
and release them to the lord go ahead and get that right now in your heart
all right now we're going to pray this prayer jesus i give to you blank
i put them it whatever it is i put it in your hands
and then i want you to literally just lift it up to him right now i put it in your hands
you're giving it to him just do a prophetic activation i'm giving it to you right now
and then when you feel like you really have released it to him you can put your hands down
and then say jesus what will you give me in exchange for this
you just gave something that you've been carrying holding on to
trying to fix trying to help something that's been taking up space in your heart
jesus i give this to you i give this person i give this dream this prophetic word that never
came to pass that i need to just surrender right now so i can get a new one whatever it is i give
it to you and then what will you give me in exchange going into 2022 what can i have in
exchange if you guys want to share what you gave or what you got in exchange please put that in the
chat that's always really eye-opening for a lot of people
yes yes yes yes love it love it
yes yes justin that's good that's making room it's making
space. God has good things for you. Yes. May. Awesome. Lots of people giving up their formers,
their was bins and was wives letting them go. Finally, even though you've been divorced for
a long time, just letting go, letting it go. Letting go of the idea that they ruined your
life and they robbed you the best years of your life. Let go of that. That's a lie.
The best is always yet to come. You're a kingdom citizen. There's always more.
There's always more. You got to make room for it. Yes, Sandy. Yes, Sandy. Yes. Yes. Love it.
Love, love, love, love. All right. So we can forgive, but we can't forget, right?
But God can forget. Can't he? The way that he forgives us, he forgets. The Bible says that he
casts our sin as far as from the East to the West in the sea of forgetfulness, it even says.
So I'm going to pray a prayer over you that I believe we can supernaturally not be haunted.
When are we going to stop letting what hurt us haunt us? We can't be haunted by these memories
forever and ever. The Bible says when your heart condemns you, he is greater than your heart.
God doesn't want us to live with a heart of condemnation that even though we've forgiven,
even though we've done this work, we continue to bring it back up to ourselves,
continue to remember the memory or the feeling that we went through in those situations.
So I believe that we can, we can, um, forget here's some scriptures for, I will demonstrate
my mercy to them and we'll forgive their evil deeds and never remember again, their sins,
Hebrews eight 12. So God, if God can forget, we can forget as well because we've been created in
his image. And so here's a prayer that we are going to pray and you can put whatever painful
situation that continues to haunt you, whatever continues to condemn you and convict you,
whatever the enemy tries to use against you, whether it was something someone did to you or
something that you've done to others, put it in this blank tonight. I command all remembrance
of blank to be gone from my memory in the name of Jesus and by the blood of Jesus Christ.
Thank you, Jesus, for forgiving and forgetting my sins.
And thank you for giving me the ability to forget and forgive my own sins and the sins of others.
Remove all memories of this situation from the cellular level of my body in Jesus name.
Thank you, Jesus, for healing my memories and giving me rest in my soul, my mind, my will,
and my emotions and in my spirit in Jesus name.
I really feel in my heart that some of you are going to stop having bad dreams after you pray
that prayer. You have nightmares every once in a while, and you're still in that situation that
happened. You dream about it. You dream about what could have happened differently, or you just have
a straight up nightmare that you're still stuck in that thing that is still happening in real time,
even though it's not. All right, thank you, Jesus. Father, we thank you for this time together.
We pray that everything that is of you, everything that is birthed of heaven, that's authentic,
that's in alignment with your word and your spirit, that it be sealed into our spirits in
Jesus name. We thank you for this time together. We thank you for the love that you have for us.
We thank you that the best is yet to come and that you have so much more for us.
You want to do better things for us and with us than we would ever, ever imagine to do for
ourselves. Lord, we thank you, God, that you had a dream, and it's us, and we thank you, God, that the
best is always yet to come. Help us to walk into 2022 with a clear heart and a clear conscience,
knowing that you have forgiven us of all of our debts, and we can freely forgive those that owe us.
And with a heart that is expecting restitution, that you will restore what has been stolen and
what has been lost, and that you will give us back even better than what has been taken,
and that you will do it speedily. Let your word be done in Jesus name. Amen.
All right, guys, thanks for coming. I know we're a little bit over. If you have any questions,
you can put them in the comments of this video stream when it gets posted in your group.
Just put any questions that you have about anything that we talked about tonight in the
comments of the video, and me or one of the peer coaches will answer those questions.
I believe that you should have a heart that is free, free, free, free after this session. And
like I said, I'll give you the notes so that you can do some more of that work
in the privacy of your home with the Holy Spirit. All right? All right, happy new year. We're going
to be going live on New Year's Eve from the event that we're going to be at in Baltimore,
and so we'll see you then, and that's just in a couple days. Also, there's rumors that for those
of you that have nothing to do on New Year's, that we might have a game night. So if you're
interested in that...
Um, just stay tuned because we'll be giving you more information about that as well.
All right.
Love you all.
Bless you.
Good night.
Bye-bye.