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welcome everyone.
If you are seeing us on Facebook, you can watch us there if that's what's working best for you tonight.
For those of you that might be joining us for the first time, my name is Bethany Cooper, and I'm one of the heart work coaches and I'll be leading the session this evening.
And just a couple housekeeping things some of you have been asking what's next for those of you that have been in heart work since October 15 and you're about to finish your final week.
So, I'm going to give you a couple minutes to think about the real you this week.
And then we'll get started.
So, praise the Lord you guys made it.
It's exciting.
If that's you, you will.
I want you guys to kind of just finish out your material.
Take some time to think about the real you this week.
You know, we have Thanksgiving ahead.
Early next week you guys will get an email with kind of the next steps of your love story accelerator.
And we're kind of getting caught up in the dating and stuff because we want them to be able to focus on their heart work.
So, just know that will be coming to your email.
And we're excited to see what God is going to continue to do in your lives in the days ahead.
If you are, you know, maybe you've been in the group a couple weeks.
Maybe you just joined.
The way that we're doing this, we don't want you to feel if you just joined, you don't have to feel like you have to catch up to everybody else.
I know it can be a little confusing.
But we're shifting the way we do some things.
And so, that's why everyone's kind of getting put in together.
And so, just continue at your pace.
And sorry, guys.
One second.
And you will just do and be where God needs you to be in that time.
We do encourage you to not rush through this process.
And really, you want to either whether you're in Love Story Accelerator, same thing applies to heart work.
You want to watch all the videos.
For heart work people, you have the book to read.
And then the questions to answer, worksheets to work on.
Love Story Accelerator, you won't have a book to read.
Just so you know.
You're going to have videos to watch.
And we'll give you some activations and some things to work on.
So, that will be a little different in the days ahead.
No, Lily, you're not in Love Story Accelerator yet.
We're doing the final session of heart work tonight for those that had started back in October.
So, we're doing the Real You live session tonight.
That's what we're talking about.
So, for those of you that are joining us live, again, welcome.
If you're brand new, we want to encourage you to also ask God good questions.
For those that are still in it for several weeks, keep asking God really great questions, even as you shift to Love Story Accelerator.
For those that are shifting,
into Love Story Accelerator,
I'm gonna issue your first challenge to you.
This week, I want, there's a couple categories here.
I want you guys to really think
about your Facebook profile pictures.
If you don't even have a picture of yourself up on Facebook,
you need to have a picture of yourself.
Not your dog, not your cat,
not some random picture like you.
You need to show up in the world as you.
And I wanna also encourage you,
if you have a picture from when you were like 30
and you're 50, yeah, we need a recent picture.
You gotta have a recent picture.
You know, guys don't wanna be fooled.
They wanna know who they're looking at.
Show up as yourself and let God do the rest.
Okay, on that note, I'm gonna pray
and we're gonna start our content tonight.
Joanne or Joe Johnson, sorry,
you are gonna click the Zoom link to join the Zoom.
So it's in the Facebook comments.
It's also in the guides.
So make sure you click that.
She's watching us on Facebook and can't find us.
All right, so Father, thank you so much for this night.
God, thank you for everything you're doing.
God, we thank you for bringing us out of hiding,
no matter where we're at.
If we're in heartwork, if we're finishing heartwork,
if we're stepping next weekend to Love Story Accelerated,
God, I thank you that you meet us right where we are.
You know, every area that maybe even some of us,
it was when we were a kid
and we started hiding all the way back then.
God, maybe it was when we went through a horrible marriage
and the person we were with abused us,
whether verbally, physically, you know,
whatever it looks like, God, whatever our story has been,
God, I pray that you would awaken us tonight
to the real us in a fresh way.
Help us to know who you originally created us to be
and to step further into the fullness of your plans
and your promises for us.
God, we ask you to cleanse the way we look at ourselves.
Help us to see ourselves the way that you see us.
Help us to hear what your spirit is saying about us.
And I thank you, God,
that you'll help us to cling to the truth of your word,
the character of who you are.
God, that we would lean into that more and more and more
in the days ahead,
that we would hear your heart whispers for us.
Lord, I thank you that any woman that struggles
with anxiety, fear, panic, worry, or dread disorders,
that's a part of this group of this community.
God, we just ask you to wash over them
with peace tonight, God.
That perfect peace that passes all understanding,
God, that that is what guards our hearts
and our minds through Christ Jesus.
And the reality is, is you are the prince of peace.
You are that perfect peace.
So help us to rest in you.
And we just thank you for sending your Holy Spirit
to be here with us tonight.
Help us to hear everything you need us to hear.
Bring those things that are in darkness to the light
and let there be freedom and liberty in Jesus name, amen.
All right, so tonight, the real you.
Some of the things we want you to remember,
as you guys, even in the heartwork process,
some of you guys have already been experiencing it.
You've been talking about it in your posts.
You're starting to wake up and you're experiencing like,
some of you, you're crying
when you haven't cried for a long time.
Some of you are feeling joy.
Some of you are getting breakthroughs
and you're seeing like, that you have peace in a situation.
I loved, I can't remember, maybe it was Rachel.
I think she posted about how the interaction
with her ex coming over to visit her kids,
the whole feeling for her was different.
Wow, you all, this is huge stuff.
So praise the Lord.
But when new things come,
one of the other things we have to understand
is they don't always feel great, right?
Have you ever bought a new pair of shoes
and they look amazing?
You're like, you can't wait to put those new shoes on
and wear them to the party or the dance or whatever.
And man, an hour or two into the wearing those things,
you've got blisters, your toes are hurting.
Has anyone ever done that?
I did that on my wedding day.
I couldn't even hardly walk.
I was weird taking pictures.
I'm like, I can't stand anymore.
I gotta go, I gotta sit.
Y'all, sometimes it's a transition, okay?
So sometimes we've got to stretch those shoes out.
We got to stretch into who we're being called to be.
So we got to let go of the old and receive the new.
And again, just allow yourself kind of,
the word that's coming up in my spirit
is like a recalibration period, okay?
So even as you step into this love story accelerator
for those that are there,
even those that are in heartwork process,
your whole inner self is being recalibrated.
You're gonna start hearing things
that you haven't heard in a long time.
You're gonna start having memories surface,
all kinds of stuff.
But in the midst of all that,
God is teaching you showing you healing you and growing you and he's doing that to lead you as I prayed into your true
Identity a lot of us think we know our identity
But so often I can't tell you guys how many times even myself included. I feel like every day
I'm learning something new about my identity in Christ
And I want to encourage you guys don't ever get to the point that you feel like you've arrived and you've got nothing to learn
Because that's a dangerous place to be. Okay, we want to always have a heart to like Lord show me something new
Help me to see something new about myself
Is there an area where I'm still walking in insecurity and fear versus the kingdom?
principles that you gave you died you sent Jesus to die on the cross for our freedom for our liberty for our
Healing for our redemption and all these amazing things if there's any part of myself that is not living in those places
Help me to shift into that and that comes through the transforming of our minds. It comes through that
Replacing you all that just started heart work. You're gonna learn a lot about
Replacing the lies with truth. Yes, we recognize and we have revelation of the truth, but we can't stop there
We have to ask God for the other half
What's the truth to replace the lies and then we start living into the truth and and you guys will
A lot of the ladies that have been here for weeks. They know what activation is now
But if you're first starting out, you're like, what's an activation? What do you even mean?
We're just saying put it into practice take action on these things put it into your life and and start doing it
as
The book talked about you each one of you every single one of you are super Nova
You're carrying something that can change the world in some way
And so God wants to show you more and more what that looks like
What does it look like for you to understand that you have something that's placed inside of you?
That's special that can change
someone else's life
Whether it's your local people whether it's bigger cities and towns and states or it's global
some of you all are called to global impact and want to encourage you if that resonates in your spirit if that causes like
Butterflies or that leap in your spirit. That's probably you okay?
If God is for you
Who can be against you?
So if God is on your side, and he's the one that created you to be the supernova who can be against you
No one that's what the Bible says. Nothing can stand against you
So I'm gonna read to you Romans 8 37 through 39
No in all these things
We are more than conquerors through him who loved us for I am convinced that neither life nor death
Nor angels nor demons nor the present nor the future nor any powers neither height nor depth nor anything else in all of creation
Will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord
So if we lean into that and even as I was saying like all these heavenly things
The the promises of heaven if we lean into those things one of the biggest things you guys need to walk away from tonight
This is key
We don't strive
We inherit
We don't strive we inherit what does it mean to inherit do you believe you're a princess
Do you believe that God and I might I can't remember if I said this on a session with you guys already or not
But like God is is setting this banquet table
he walks in royalty walks in majesty and power in love and grace and he said a
Seat at the table for us to sit in
But so often we're underneath the table and we're begging for crumbs
So tonight I'm
Inviting you the father is inviting you to come and sit at the table
To come and sit in that chair that you have always
been called to sit in
And some of you even now you're not gonna feel that shift in your spirit quite yet because you're still kind of on your way
There like what does it look like?
To sit with the father
The creator of heaven and earth. What does it look like to sit and have a conversation with him?
Wow
Y'all the real you is gonna start birthing and flourishing and coming forth if you just even spend a little bit of time
thinking about that and thinking about all the things there's a feast there and
He wants you to be able to eat from it
so tonight
Your goal is to allow the princess inside of you to be awakened
God wants to awaken your princess your inner princess and some
you might be like, I have never been into girly, girly stuff. I climb trees. That's great. That's
okay. You don't have to shift who you are. I'm just saying the inside of you being a princess
is a mindset. It's an internal mindset about the way we look at life and the way that we walk and
hold ourselves. Have you ever seen somebody walking and they're just like all slumped over
and you can just tell me and they're broken, they're depressed and they're beaten down in
some way. But then you see another person and they're, they got their shoulders back. They're
happy. They're bubbly. They're alive. And it's not fake. It's not a facade they're putting on.
It's just really on the inside. That is who they are. And that's what's coming forth.
They are living in to their princess aspects of who God created them to be.
So tonight, as we say that, what does it mean to be awake and a princess awakened and who awakens
us? Y'all remember snow white and the story? Well, there had to be a prince, right? And yes. Okay.
We're praying and believing for your spirit mate, but we're talking about an even better printer.
And I'm not talking about, okay. Don't hear what I'm not saying. I'm not saying God's going to
come down and physically kiss you. Cause that doesn't even happen. Y'all. Okay. But we're
talking about a kiss from heaven, like the father sending his love and it literally flowing over
you like choice oil and changing everything about your being from the inside out.
That you would emanate that true inner love story that you would be awakened to your,
your true identity as we're talking about that you would be awakened to restoration
and reconciliation and your life within yourself. Some of you guys need some
reconciliation with yourself. Like, what does it mean to like yourself? Not just love yourself
because the church tells you to love yourself and the Bible tells you to, but like you like you
and you actually like your presence and your presence is enough to fill a room.
Not because you're telling yourself you have to feel that way, but you really feel that way.
So many times we don't even slow down to recognize there's a difference between
liking yourself and loving yourself and they're both needed.
So how do you shift into that? The father's going to help you. The third thing to awaken to is that
big, bold, beautiful future. God's going to awaken dreams inside of you guys. And there's two
categories here. Childhood dreams that are going to start coming back to life.
How many of you all had a dream when you're a child? Anyone? Dreams of what you were going to
do, dreams of things you wanted to have fun doing, you know, create things, whatever, dancing,
all these fun things. We, we dreamed when we were kids. Well, why do we stop doing that when we
become adults? Because somewhere along the way, someone told us stop that dream in, or, you know,
stop being like over there when you need to go do that. All these things the world tells us,
but God's saying it's time for those things to awaken. Some of you all,
God's going to help you start walking those dreams out in your today. The next part is
new dreams. Some of you guys are going to start to have some really bold, beautiful dreams that
you have not had before. And I'm not, I'm talking about nighttime dreams, daytime dreams,
but I'm also talking about like ideas and creativity flowing into you. And like,
Oh my gosh, I think I want to go try a dance class, or, Oh my gosh, I think I want to
go do a cooking class, or, Hey, I think I might want to go back to school, whatever it is.
Don't just shove those things off. Ask the Lord about them. Those are coming up for a reason.
Okay. So our first breakout session tonight we're doing, we're doing our first one quick
because I'm going to have a couple for you. Yes. See, I love when God does this. I wasn't
planning on even saying that earlier, Lisandra. She's looking at a dance class. See, God's already
doing it. Love this. All right. Your first breakout session is what dreams are even
bubbling up in you. Even as I'm talking to you about this tonight, what are what's coming to
your mind? Were there dreams that you had as a kid that you would really love to see fulfilled?
You know, maybe some of those dreams because of like physical life and circumstances, maybe they
won't come to pass the way you thought they would, but maybe, you know, sometimes, yeah,
I think we've got to say, okay, yeah, maybe I can't do that. You know, but I also think there
are times where we can say, okay, God, my life looks a little different than I thought it would,
but do you still want me to have this dream? And if so, show me how I can carry it out.
Okay. All right. So you're going to talk about what dreams are bubbling to the surface tonight.
Are they dreams from when you were a kid? What are they? Are they new dreams?
that God has given you even right now.
Okay, I'm gonna get you set up here in your breakout.
Almost there, guys.
All right, there you go.
Seven minutes, y'all, in a little bit,
I'll be praying for you on this side of things.
Keep going.
So good.
Hi, Jennifer.
All right, Sarah, and then iPhone.
Okay, iPhone, are you able to click to join?
Are you working tonight and you have to stay here?
It's okay, either way.
Just let me know so I know if you are having trouble
getting into the breakout room.
Oh, and Kimberly Smith.
Yeah, share with us.
You used to want to be a writer.
I love it.
Let me see who else is talking to me
here on Facebook tonight.
Gina, we wish we could see you live here too,
but we understand.
All right, hi, hi.
Did you not have anybody in your room?
Okay, let me put you in a different one.
Okay, go ahead and click to join.
It might've been just somebody was stuck here.
We had one lady that was stuck.
See, Sandra, I just sent you one.
Corinne, let me find you.
Or is it Corinne?
I'm sorry if I said that wrong.
Sorry, I just have a lot of these to scroll through.
We'll get you in there.
Okay, so she's gonna, I see you.
She's gonna need a different group too.
Someone was in your room.
That's weird.
I wonder if it kicked you out or something.
All right, I'm just gonna bump you into that room.
Okay, do you see it there?
Okay, have fun.
All right.
Hi, Jennifer, I heard you kind of unmute.
Good to see you.
Okay, so I wanna respond to Kimberly Smith.
She's asking, not sure where the writing dream went.
It just kind of got brushed to the side.
So just ask the Lord.
Ask the Lord if something happened
to cause you to brush that to the side.
Is it that, you know, is there fear
that's holding you back from doing that?
Was it for a season that it needed to develop more?
Or was there something else?
He will show you.
And Michelle, hi, Michelle, shout out to you.
It's okay, yeah, glad you're here listening in.
God will meet you and give you what you need as well.
All right.
Father, thank you so much for this amazing night.
God, thank you for all the ways that you awaken us
and you're doing an amazing work.
We just thank you so much for loving us so well
that you, through your loving kindness,
draw us into repentance,
but you also draw us into new life and awakening.
And I just wanted to read this declaration from the book.
Even if you guys have read it,
I feel like it's always impactful
for people to hear it read over them.
So I'm reading this over everybody
that's in the breakouts right now,
everybody that's gonna watch the replays.
This is the God's word over you.
I am a world changer.
So you need to say these things over yourself as well.
I am an atmosphere shifter.
I'm a light bearer.
I'm a truth teller.
And I am a hope dealer.
My heart is awakening.
It's my time to be made whole.
I contain the beauty of all creation.
The mysteries of the entire universe reside in me.
Hi, Cassie, I see you too.
Glad you're here with us as well.
I am the image of the almighty God,
the offspring of the great I am.
I am a beloved daughter of God.
My original heart is one of love and joy and peace,
hope and innocence.
Wow, yes.
Thank you, Lord, for innocence.
Coming back to so many of these ladies
where the enemy could try to come in and steal
and kill and destroy that at a young age,
teenagers, adult women, where their innocence was taken.
We just thank you, God, for restitution in those areas.
We thank you for giving that back to them in Jesus name.
I was created for community.
I'm accepted in the family of God.
I've been created to prosper.
I will not be anyone.
on besides who love has made me to be from this moment forward every day when I look
in the mirror, I'm going to see more and more of what God sees. Yes, yes, yes. Okay. So
sorry, Jennifer, I saw your, your camera come on there. I missed you. Um, I want to ask
you, do you want to share, um, and I'm kind of putting you on the spot, so it's okay if
you don't have anything coming to mind, but just even share with the ladies, like, what
did it feel like for you having already gone through this process a while back, like to
have dreams awaken in you? Like, I would love for them to hear from you for a little bit.
Totally. Um, yeah. Like just talking about childhood dreams, it just, I feel like I've
like reconnected with my youth again. I feel like I've just really been able to just have
freedom in that area. Like I can think about the things I used to like to do. And like
you mentioned just dancing, I just went dancing. Um, you know, I'm reminded to do things that
I used to enjoy and get back to like who God created me to be and who I was. And yeah,
that's just been awesome. Just, I mean, the hard work is amazing. It's really, it's okay.
Yeah. It's okay. If we see her. Hi there. Yes. We love our kids in our, in our community.
Hi, Hope. So where we just, I feel like that's even a symbol for so many ladies that are
watching live and watching the replay, just the fact that Hope popped in with just that
childlike in a sense, and just curiosity. And, and God is saying to you tonight, like
be curious, be curious about his dreams for you. I feel the Holy spirit on that. Be curious
and ask him like, God, what is it that I need to do to shift, to receive your truth, to
receive your love, to step into the plans and promises you have for me. Hi JH. Uh, they're
about to come back. So I'm just going to leave you here with us for a minute. And just that
you would lean into, um, that amazing, um, call to sweetness of a childlike faith. Y'all,
um, Sunday night they, they did an activation. I just want to kind of put this out there
for you. They, they encouraged everyone to pray with childlike faith. Like what does
it look like to pray like a child? Their, their prayers are so pure. And, and, and when
I say simple, I don't mean that they're not powerful, but like, they just pray what's
in their mind and the way they perceive the world. Right. And so I want to encourage you
all, even in that, that you would, um, allow the Lord to help you begin to pray in a new
way that as he increases faith, as he renews your mind, as he kind of restores the awe
and wonder of the world. You know, so often when we go through trauma and hardships and,
you know, we start to look at the world through this dark lens, like everything, you know,
doesn't taste the same. Things don't look the same, but when God starts awakening you,
I'm serious, y'all you're, you're going to start tasting food in a new way. You're going
to start seeing life in a new way. You're going to start seeing that people enjoy being
around you more because you're coming alive more. You're going to, you'll start to have
people commenting, no joke on your countenance. Like, so something's going on with you. Like
I'm noticing something different. Like what is what's going on? You know? And people are
curious, like, what is God doing in your life? So I can tell something's different. If that
hasn't already happened for you, I think a lot of you will begin to experience that more
and more in the days ahead. Hello. Welcome back. I think we almost have everybody. I
used the Lord. We were just talking about awakening, um, and seeing, um, God's glory
on people. Um, Oh, Cassandra. That's okay. I'm sorry about that. Yeah. Sometimes internet
can be spotty and it does that. All right. So who is willing to share with the whole
group what you shared in your private now? Okay. Let me, let me preface this. I can take
about five people at the most, depending on how long the shares are, because I have two
more breakout sessions for us tonight. Okay. All right. Who wants to share or who's willing?
Okay, awesome. Go ahead, Katie.
All right. So, um, what I was talking about my group, so I am a single mom. So the whole
like custody, uh, shared custody thing. Um, my big dream is to live abroad and do like
international missions. And I don't know how that works with having to, you know, share
a daughter, but, um, like that's so deep in my heart. Um, yeah, it's kind of one of those
Yeah. It's kind of one of those things where, all right, God, whatever, whatever you have,
I just submit that to you. And in the time being, I'm just going to do short mission strips,
um, and see where it goes. That's so powerful. Yeah.
Yes, Lord, we just thank you for that dream.
And Katie, we ask you to give her the wisdom and the discernment and the joy
in that to know where you're leading and what that looks like in this season, as
well as many seasons to come in Jesus name.
Thank you for sharing that with us.
Okay.
Emily, go ahead.
Sorry, I had to unmute.
Um, so for me, I had, I shared, um, with Michelle that I had a dream probably
when I was old enough to really start thinking about like owning my own
business and that sort of thing.
Um, but for most of my, I would say young adult and adult life to own a creative
space, a place where, um, Christians or non-Christians could come and express
themselves, um, creatively in the arts.
Um, I'm a super creative, anything, photography, dance, music,
um, drawing, anything.
I love it all.
So, um, that's definitely something that that's been on the back burner
for quite a few years now, but it's definitely something that's still there.
I mean, I've drawn the plans for it and everything.
So, um, I don't know if that's still what God's calling me to, um, but it's
definitely a dream that's there.
But recently, um, I'm also feeling called to go back to school in January.
So I'm praying about that, whether that's something, um, that God's wanting me to
do, um, for a licensed massage therapist.
So, um, yeah, just really seeking God, um, because I just don't know, but I
know that, that he does, so that's all that matters.
That's so good.
The Lord told me to tell you, why not you?
Why not now?
So I want you to, I want you to like receive that.
Why not you?
Why not now?
You know, and sometimes I know like that can sound so easy.
It's a big, big dream, but like one of the things I always encourage you guys,
even in heartwork is like, just do the next best thing.
And you know why I say that, man, I used to be terrified because God told me early
on when I got saved, that I was going to be used in this really big way to impact
the kingdom and I'm like, okay, awesome.
But what do I do with that?
Right.
And so God just taught me over the years that I didn't have to have it all
figured out.
I just needed to do the next best thing.
So all of you just, just do the next best thing that God shows you do the next
best thing with heart healing, do the next best thing to invest in yourself,
to grow yourself, all those things.
Bless you, Emily.
Thank you for sharing.
So good.
All right, Katie driver.
How about you?
Um, yeah, so I just talked about, I, when I was growing up, I always said that I
wanted to be a teacher and be a mom.
And like, when people asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up, that was
always my answer.
Like, I want to be a teacher and a mom.
Um, and I am 33, but I have been a teacher for about four years with a
teaching license.
I did a non-traditional program to obtain my license.
Um, so I was just talking in my group about how, like, I've seen the Lord bring
that dream to pass and it's not the way that I thought that it was going to be,
but it's still like really, really good.
Um, and so like, that can be true of my desire to be a mom too.
And I, and as a little girl, I, I didn't understand that you couldn't be a mom
without being a wife.
So like my four year old brain, that was just like a no, a no brainer, literally
just as a child, like I wanted to be a wife and a mom.
Um, so yeah, just kind of coming to recognize that like the Lord has brought
some dreams to pass and, and not in the way that I like really was anticipating
or hoping, um, and you know, it wasn't my dream to still be single and to not
have kids when I'm 33, but that the Lord can still bring like those dreams into
fruition in a really beautiful way, even though it's not like the way that I
had planned it or hoped for.
Yeah.
And I'm just going to say this, I'm sorry to be so kind of like slangy, but girl,
you got a lot of time left.
I know that doesn't feel good to hear that, but you're 33, honey, you got
time to make some babies.
Okay.
I want to encourage you in that y'all.
I didn't, I thought I would have kids when I was married the first time too
quick and, you know, honestly, praise God that I didn't in that marriage.
Cause it was a really bad situation.
Um, and it's weird to even say that out loud, but I've got, I've got
stepkids, spiritual daughters.
Now I've got two other stepdaughters.
Like who knew, who knew I'd have five kids right now?
Okay.
Do I like, we don't always get to see some of the, his daughters, but his one
daughter's here for this, for the next few days from California.
I mean, it's a blessing, you know, but we're about to try to start
having our own family between us.
And, you know, God's doing a lot and I'm 45.
I totally thought it was going to look different than this.
Okay.
So, you know, everybody feels different about pursuing that.
And I'm not saying it always has to be, I've already told the Lord if.
We don't end up getting pregnant.
We're, you know, we already know we're adopting, we've already made that
decision, but we're going to give it our best shot.
So I want to just encourage you guys.
Don't, don't just write it off that you're too old.
Cause that's just the enemy telling you that.
All right.
Now they're obviously for not having periods, that's totally different.
All right.
Awesome.
Katie, thanks for sharing.
I can't wait to see what God does in your life in the days ahead.
It's exciting to see Maria.
How about you?
Hi.
Um, so this is so interesting that you, you brought this up today because
I've been super focused on this so much so that I'm not like really doing this
stuff for, for heart work, because I think about 10 days before I signed up for
this, um, I realized, uh, that I could still become a flight attendant.
I'm, I'm 55 years old.
I had always thought I was too old to do it.
And then I found out that people my age and older are getting hired.
And so I started the process to apply for Delta and it's a four step process.
And last week I completed my.
Uh, on demand video interview, and I'm waiting to hear back.
And if I pass that, I'm going to be going to Atlanta for a face to face interview.
So, um, so I'm super excited.
Um, um, people have been praying over me for this and, um, you know, and, and
it's funny that it's like, I'm like, so focused on this, I'm not even
worried about meeting somebody.
So, and I, I don't know if that's like a bad thing or a good thing, but
I've been very, very focused on this.
Sometimes they are puzzle pieces that lead us to our spirit mate y'all.
So don't put yourself on the shelf.
Just keep walking it out and see what God does in the mix.
But some of us, you know, we have, we need, I shouldn't say we have to, but
we, we really need to step into these things that bring this inner confidence
because I'm serious, we will walk around in life will show up so differently.
Um, so I'm just seeing, yeah, I'm trying to read that too.
Sorry, but, um, yeah, just really lean into what God is doing.
It sounds like he's opening a door wide open for you at this point so far.
So yeah, just keep walking that out and see, and it's okay to have
just this balanced perspective.
Ladies like we've taught you guys from the beginning, you come in, the Lord
uses the spirit mate to draw y'all in here.
You don't even know what's about to happen, but he's drawing you through
that because he wants you to be set free.
He wants you to be alive.
He wants you to experience life better than you've ever experienced
it and get the spirit mate.
That's the cherry on top.
Seriously.
I mean, even friendships I've built, I'm just so grateful for what God
has done through, through being a part of this community.
Like I literally couldn't have dreamt it myself years ago.
I couldn't have.
Yeah.
So, so good.
So good.
Keep dreaming on that.
Okay.
So Jenny, um, and then Alicia, and then we're going to start
shifting into the next part.
Hi.
Yeah.
So, um, I shared about just wanting to write, write a book when I was
little, um, I would write a lot and I said I wanted to be a writer.
Um, and you know, things just fall to the wayside as an adult.
So, um, it's just something that's been like bubbling up a little bit, but I am
kind of like, I don't know how to start and I don't know what that looks like.
And I'm just praying about it.
So.
That's so good.
So I want you to really ask yourself too, what is your book going to be about?
What audience do you want to reach?
Really, really allow God to bring that thing to life in you.
Like when do you want to do it by, you know, and it's okay if you don't end
up getting it done by then, seriously, but like putting some kind of like
thing that motivates you to move towards it, that's, that's so, so important.
Okay.
Alicia, go ahead.
Thanks for sharing.
Jenny.
Jenny, that's amazing because that's my exact same share as well.
And I was like debating whether I should put my hand up or not.
So that's really cool.
Um, it's on my Jesus cares board as well.
I am a writer.
I write as part of my career.
I work in like PR and communications.
Um, but I've been, I've believed like a lot of lies about how, you know,
published authors and writers don't make enough money to have a good living.
And I really shelved that dream of going after it like
wholeheartedly because of that.
So, um, I, I don't know that I have like fully restored hope yet, but I feel a
little bit of it coming back in.
And like I said, I put it on my board, so I'm really, I'm hopeful for it.
Yes.
So good.
And yes, of course you should share that.
That's an amazing, beautiful.
And God put it inside of you clearly.
So keep leaning into that ladies, whatever your thing is.
Some of you, again, I said last week, if you feel yourself kind of like,
I don't know if I should share this.
I don't know if anybody would even care, like what I have to say.
Definitely do not listen to that.
Come in the group and share, you know,
because it's really going to be a part of you guys getting set free in ways
that you don't even comprehend or understand right now.
Sincerely. All right.
We're going to start to shift into the next part of tonight. So praise God.
Everything you guys shared was awesome.
I hope to hear more of your dreams and from,
from all of you as you feel led to share them.
So we want to start talking about like, okay,
so we talked about supernatural surrender.
Wait for those that have been in for the full time.
And for those of you just starting, you'll be in that,
that part of supernatural surrender.
But now we want to also encourage you to surrender, surrender, excuse me,
your inner identity. So what does that look like?
That looks like leaning into God as your identity giver.
So what is it that he speaks over you? And,
and the other thing here that we have to look at is if we don't know the
character of God,
we're going to interpret what he's saying incorrectly because we're going to
hear it through a lens and a filter of what we have known in this world or
the way that we have perceived this world because of lies we've believed.
So for example, you know,
if you don't believe that God is good,
then you're going to struggle to walk in an inner identity of peace and
confidence because underlying you're always waiting for the other shoe to drop
or, you know, is God really good? You know, all the,
the opposite of those things.
So just understand that first leaning into God is your identity giver.
So go to him as the source for the, you know, a lot of you guys, um,
I've kind of said, Hey,
ask the Lord to tell you what he has to say about this situation or ask the
Lord what he wants to tell you about yourself. And if write those down,
if you hear something negative, write it down, but cross it out.
And then ask the Lord to give you the truth instead. And that process alone,
if you guys will put that in practice, when you hear something negative,
write it down, cross it out. God, what's the truth?
Like it will make it so tangible for you to say, no,
I do not receive that lie father. What's the truth about me.
Okay. And then we can't erase. We have to replace,
which we talked about a little bit earlier.
The next thing we want to talk about is unbelief.
Y'all everybody has unbelief. Even,
even the ones that are the most faith filled, even myself,
I still at times have unbelief.
The Bible talks in the one story about the father, you know,
he was asking Jesus to heal his daughter. And he says, I believe help my unbelief.
What he's asking Jesus to heal his daughter.
And he's telling Jesus that he believes him, but he still has doubt.
He has unbelief. And you know what Jesus did?
He healed his daughter. Y'all get ahold of that a little bit.
You're not going to get cast out because you struggle to have unbelief at
times, but it's owning it. It's owning it,
but also understanding where does it come from?
Why do we have unbelief? This is something we need to look at.
We haven't been able to see the fruit of the promise.
So it causes uncertainty. So for some of you, you haven't seen,
excuse me, seen the fruit of the promise.
You believe God was telling you that he wanted a good marriage for you.
He wanted you to have kids or whatever that dream was.
And you haven't seen the fruit of that thing.
And so you've started to have uncertainty,
which then develops unbelief. Okay.
The next part is uncertainty that causes inaction is what creates the doubt.
So if you're feeling uncertain about something,
what I want to encourage you guys to do is go back and ask the Lord,
what's the fear that's causing inaction.
That's then causing the doubt and uncertainty to be in my life.
Do y'all catch that? I can say it again. So you want to unpack it.
It's kind of like working backwards instead of just living with this stuff.
Why do we just keep living with this stuff on the inside of us?
And we, we show up in life and we show up in the day to day,
and we're just carrying this stuff around.
So, yeah, yeah. I can say it again there, Margaret.
So let's see if I remember it. You all the way I said it.
So if you have any kind of fear, so you have a fear that's causing you to stop doing anything,
so inaction, so you stop moving, you know, even some of you guys, these dreams that we had,
something at some point causes us to not act on those things. So when we acknowledge what
those things are and the fears that are feeding that inaction, then we can start to understand
what's feeding the uncertainty and creating that atmosphere of doubt. Because then we can invite
the Holy Spirit to come into that place, and we can be honest with ourselves and honest with Him
and say, Father, forgive me. I believe, help my unbelief. I want to have faith. Y'all, we can ask
for a fresh and filling of faith. Did you know, like seriously, the Bible says that faith is a
gift. Yes. Sometimes we have it because we cultivate it because we read the word and
we get to know the Lord, but it's also a gift given from heaven. So we can ask for more faith.
We can ask for him to fill us in a fresh way to believe he's not going to be upset with us.
He's not going to punish us. He never, he never corrected that man for saying that
he just healed the daughter. Okay. So someone that's that someone really needs to get a hold
of that tonight. Like he, he literally didn't, he didn't reprimand him. He didn't question him.
He didn't yell at him. He just turned and like the daughter was healed. That was it.
I mean, powerful, powerful stuff. So are you guys being hospitable to doubts?
So what I mean by that is, you know, if you think about hospitality,
you get your house ready. Some of you guys like me, you're getting ready for guests to come over
to your house for Thanksgiving. You're getting it cleaned. You're getting food ready and you're
getting all the things put together. You're being hospitable, preparing your home to invite the
people in. Some of us do that with our doubts and our fears, but it's time to kick them out.
Okay. It's time to get rid of that stuff and stop being hospitable to it. So you want to start to
believe for yourself. So what I mean by that is come into full agreement and partner with it.
The promises like you want to, okay, Lord, what is your promise to me? And if you don't know what
his promises are to you, you know, again, if you don't hear God audibly or that still quiet,
small voice inside y'all, his word has promises, promises, so many promises for us
that you can read and you can start to partner with those. You know, one of them that, you know,
a couple of years ago when I was in my process that really spoke to me, and I've probably said
it on our sessions before, but that I would see the goodness of God in the land of the living.
That is a promise for me. I love the Lord and I live according to his ways to the best of my
ability. And it says when we do that, that we will see the goodness of God in the land of the
living. I don't think I have to wait just to have, when I get to heaven to experience that
he promised me that I could have that. So I claim that myself and I, I do my best to partner with
that. I want that. I want it. I want to experience. I remember the first time, I mean, I'm,
I'm a pretty happy person for the most part, but there, there was this time where I remember just
like, you know, the Bible talks about joy, uh, unspeakable and full of glory. Well, I imagine
that that feels different than just kind of coaxing ourselves to be joyful. Like it's a bubbling up
out of us. Like it, it just, we just can't contain it because it just comes up out of us. Well, I
want that. And I remember I started praying like, Lord, I want joy, unspeakable and full of glory.
I want joy, please, Lord, give me joy and speak. And I'm not saying I always have it, but y'all
I'm serious. There are times where I like, even tonight before I jumped on, we're playing a game.
I'm just cracking up laughing. Like I just, there's this new found joy that he's given. And,
and it's not, yes, having an amazing spirit may and having life be good is amazing. And that's
a part of it. But y'all, this started happening before I found my spirit main where this,
this laughter in this new life started birthing out of me. And I would have people say, like,
I feel like God's going to flourish this area. And they just like, people would, didn't even know
that I was in this heartwork stuff. So just know that stuff's going to happen to you too.
All right. So we all have to choose what to believe. So what are you, who's reporter you
want you going to believe? You know, the Bible talks about that. There's a song about an old
school song. Here's a report. Will you believe? I don't remember what the other, but that's just
what's coming. It's an old school. Y'all might know it, but like we can, we can believe the
report of the enemy, or we can believe the report of the Lord. Which one do we want?
Sorry, I'm seeing that I'm not sure on that, Christine. I'm sorry. I don't even know if
I remember what that was about. I'll have to look back at that later. Um, all right.
So you want to ask God to increase your faith and the next breakout we're going to go into.
I want you guys to think about this a little bit. How many of you struggle with comparison
traps? And what I mean by that is the enemy often tries to get you to compare yourself
to other women, to compete with other people, to try to imitate other people because you
just don't feel good enough on your own. Anybody else ever like see another woman and you automatically
feel jealous or like angry or mad or like weird stuff that you don't even know why you
think it and feel it. Yeah. That's the enemy trying to get you to be like in comparison,
like you're not good enough. Y'all we can, we can walk around with this stuff or we can
get rid of this stuff. One, one of the stories I I've kind of told that I feel like is super
important is years ago, um, God told me I would minister to women. And I remember like
just feeling the weight in a good way of that. Um, but like before that opportunity opened
up, I used to, I remember, um, so vividly I was driving home and I had, there was a
lot of traffic where I used to live in, in Lexington, Kentucky. And, um, it like literally
never failed. There would be these really gorgeous women running with these perfect
bodies. And I would just like, not even mean to, but I would just like think bad things
like whatever, why are you running around like that? Like just weird stuff. Like, Oh,
of course she's got the perfect boobs. You know, like just I'm being real. You all like,
okay, somebody put this in the chat in the group too. And it made me just think of it,
you know, the body shaming stuff. My brothers used to make fun of me because I didn't have
big boobs when I was little. Well, they were my abusers. And so you want to know the thing,
one of the things the enemy used to always make me super jealous about other women having
big boobs. I didn't ever want to feel that way, but the enemy, like there was so much
brokenness about my own body that the enemy was trying to come in through those broken areas and
torment me and get me to hate on, like, not, I shouldn't say hate on, but like not think good
things about women. And I remember like, it happened a couple of times. And then I would
like realize what I was thinking about and be like, why was I thinking that? Like, Oh my God,
like, and I would feel so bad. And it was like this guilt thing. Then eventually one day I
realized, you know what, I'm going to stop this at the, at the door when it happens this time.
And I remember seeing something similar and just, you know, the enemy came real quick and I was
like, not, no, not today. And I started praying for that woman and I started blessing her and
thanking God for making whatever part of her body that I thought was more perfect than mine.
Cause that's how he does it y'all. But, you know, like owning that and being honest with myself
about that gave me the ability to pray for them and break out of that. And then literally I just,
I just, all, all women, I would start to compliment them. And I was gen, I mean,
serious, genuine. I wasn't doing it to be fake. I was being genuine. So, okay, Lily, this is okay.
You might not get, she makes a good point. You might not get jealous. You might feel sad.
You might have all different kinds of emotions, but when we lean away from that and we start
blessing them and thanking God for them and, you know, oh my gosh, that, you know, shirt looks so
beautiful on you. I mean, even I, okay, I'm going to point out someone cause Audrey Mills, you keep
standing out to me tonight. Like you're glowing, sweetie. You're glowing. God, you like, God is
doing something really great in you. I can see it. And so I just want you to know God sees you
and I could call out anybody on here, but I, for whatever reason, I just felt led that I needed to
do that. You know, so we start owning it and we do the opposite. So not much longer after that,
God opened the first door for me to start leading one group of women that turned into two that
turned into three of the two before I knew it, it was a group and it was not in this community,
but it was a group of almost 300 women. I had 25 to 30 leaders under my care.
I don't, I don't know that that would have happened if I hadn't gotten ahold of that thing.
Do you understand? Like, yes, I think God in his goodness would have still made a way,
but like I had to be willing to crucify my flesh and crucify those old thoughts
and get rid of that stuff. So some of you all yours might look totally different. Okay.
might happen differently, you know, but it's there and it's real. And even, okay, thank
you, Lord. I'm going to say this to the panic mode. As soon as you, some of you all start
trying to date or try to like step into that new, the panic mode of like, you got to like
make it happen. And you know, if somebody else happens to meet the same guy, like, no,
don't have to do that. God is going to lead you to your spirit mate. He, he will lead
you to them and he'll lead them to you and God will help you on that path. So you can
lean into peace and you can choose to stay in peace and live that up instead. All right.
So you're going to share in your breakout group. What is the way that you, you fall
into comparison traps? Like what, what is the thing? Maybe it's not your body for you.
Maybe it's, you know, someone else is smarter than you. They have a degree and you don't
and you think you're not as qualified or whatever. I'm just trying to give you guys some ideas
and why don't you share about that and your breakout with each other. In what ways does
the enemy challenge the real you with this comparison? So is there any part of yourself
that you don't show up as the real you, because you're always comparing yourself to someone
else? That can be something you talk about too. All right. All righty. Oh, wait on. Shoot.
I did not mean to do that. Sorry. Sorry. I'll hold on. I pushed the wrong button. All right.
I'm going to recreate these, mix you up tonight a little bit. All right, here you go.
All right, ladies, keep clicking to join. So Sarah and Tabitha that still need to join
in. Andrea, are you guys having trouble? Okay. All right. Father, thank you so much
for these ladies. God, thank you for those watching on Facebook. You can still chime
in. I'll come and see comments here. I see you, Cassie. I see you saying it's good. Yes.
Smarter than trap. So ladies that are watching on Facebook, if you want, you can put in here
what your comparison trap is. All right. Hopefully I'm saying it right. If it's Casey or Cassie,
I'm sorry if I'm saying it wrong. It's one of those. I'm blessing both. All right. She says
her comparison trap is everyone around her being married or having a family. And then I compare
myself and go into what's wrong with me. Yeah, that's so common. I want you to know that you're
not alone in that. A lot of ladies struggle with that. A lot of men struggle with that. They just
struggle with it in different ways. It might sound different when they express it. So Father,
we just thank you. Excuse me. We just ask you to bless every one of these ladies with the truth
that they are enough. That even if life looks different than their friends' lives or other
people that they know, God, that they can lean into who you've created them to be. God, that
they don't have to compare themselves. They don't have to feel like they have to keep up with the
other people, God, because you're writing a special story just for them. God, I thank you that you
would help them to lean into the truth that you have for them. That you would, you know, discard
their hearts and their minds through Christ Jesus and help them to take an active role in that.
God, we thank you that you would help them to hear what your spirit is saying about them in
all situations. I also see Kimberly, smarter than trap. I'm in marketing. I compare myself
constantly to the sales team. They are very smart and educated. I really feel, I feel really less
than around them. Interesting, Kimberly, I used to work in sales and marketing. So I know how
tough that can be too. And so Lord, we just ask you to bless Kimberly's perspective of her mind
and her ability. God, we ask you just to come against any lies of the enemy that will cause
her to compare herself to those on the sales team or any person that she would feel is
very smart and educated and where she feels less than around them. But Lord, not only that, but I
ask you to reveal any core areas inside of herself that might lead her to this less than.
and posture in her heart, in her mind, in her spirit.
God, reveal any lies that the enemy's feeding her
and also reveal where they began.
Like, where did that start for her
that she felt less than in a situation?
And then that grew into what she's currently experiencing
in her today's, where we just ask you to bring healing
to those places.
We thank you, God, that even now you'll just begin
to like remove that off of her.
Like, even as I snapped, that that would just fall
off of her and when she starts to be around the sales team,
she's gonna start to hear your voice inside of her
and in her ear and speaking truth and hope and life to her
that she would lean into that more and more and more
in the days ahead.
Christina says, a comparison trap I had
was I would see a beautiful woman and then think,
oh, I'm sure she has men wanting her, but no one wants me.
I used to believe that lie.
Thank you for sharing, Christina and Cassie and Kimberly.
Yes, Christina, we just encourage you just to see yourself
as the beautiful woman that you are through God's eyes
that you wouldn't compare yourself to other beautiful women.
And actually that reminds me of something
that I wanted to say.
And I'll say it again when they come on live,
but do you know that someone else's beauty
does not take away from our own beauty?
God created us all beautiful.
He created us all fearfully and wonderfully made.
And it's like, when we start leaning into that,
like someone else can be beautiful
and we can be just as beautiful.
It's whether or not we believe that on the inside
and we don't allow the enemy to torment us.
And so asking the father to reveal,
what is in the core of you that causes you to think
you're not as beautiful as someone else?
And again, I think it's okay for us to look at women
and think, oh, that's a beautiful woman.
But when we are in a posture of like,
she's beautiful in abundance and not a deficit,
I think that's key.
So when we show up in life and we're around other women,
we're around situations, when we show up with that deficit,
that's when we can really,
the enemy really comes in and messes with us.
And so Lord, we just ask you to,
I'm sorry, y'all, my voice is going in and out
a little bit.
We just ask you to bless Christina.
And we ask you just so Lord to,
right now, but even as she sleeps tonight,
God, I pray that you would give her a dream,
a dream of how beautiful she really is.
Lord, help her to begin to see that
even in the daytime hours.
God, that she would start to look at herself
through a new lens.
So yes, Lord, I'm even hearing Christina,
just what came up in my spirit is like,
you know, when people go in for a cataract surgery,
they actually have that cataract removed from their eye
and that cataract blurs their vision.
And just in the spirit realm that you have,
you don't have cataracts in the physical,
but in the spirit realm,
you've had kind of like this film of your eyes
that causes you to see yourself like in a wrong way
because you emanate beauty and you are fearfully
and beautifully and wonderfully made.
And God is going to start to help you
like see that differently, see yourself differently.
He's gonna remove those spiritual cataracts, if you will.
And so we just thank you for that in advance.
And we just bless Christina.
And thank you for sharing ladies.
That's huge.
I love seeing these takeaways and the ladies sharing
in the Facebook comments,
in addition to the people that are chatting
in the breakouts.
This is how we make community happen.
Even when we can't be here on the lives,
you guys can still get massive breakthrough.
If you're watching this on the replay,
just know, like lean into this, you know,
come back and even share in the comments of these videos
and let us hear what is God speaking to you in these areas.
And we will comment and engage with you
and believe with you as well.
Welcome back ladies.
Yes, Lord.
All right.
Welcome back.
Almost have everybody.
Gotta wait just a little bit.
Okay, Debbie, that's okay.
Yeah, I think some people are having internet issues tonight.
It's okay if you guys start to be really spotty
and it makes it hard for you to be in here.
You guys can definitely watch on the Facebook.
It's always okay for y'all to watch on the Facebook.
It's just, you can't join the breakouts
if you're on Facebook, that's all.
All right, let's see.
Do we have everyone back?
We're still waiting for some people, I think.
Here they come.
All right, all right.
Welcome back.
Doesn't even.
and feel good, more free.
You guys just getting this stuff out
and talking to each other.
I hope it does.
I feel good talking to you all about it.
So I hope you all feel good releasing this stuff
and letting God work in you.
Who is willing to share?
Oh, one thing I want to share before you start to share.
I promise I won't share long.
This came up on someone's comment on the Facebook.
It made me think about it.
I wanted to say before you all went in.
This is the reality.
Someone else's beauty does not diminish our own beauty.
If we believe that it does,
there's some kind of deficit inside of us.
And what I mean by that,
there's something that needs healed in us.
So we're looking at ourselves through a lens of deficit
versus abundance and overflow.
And so anytime we show up in anywhere,
we're looking at ourselves through the lens of,
I'm not as good as someone else.
Or if someone else is beautiful, I'm not.
And that is not truth.
Can you all just kind of soak in that for a minute?
Like each one of you are beautiful.
Like God didn't mess up.
Yeah, I feel Holy Spirit on that.
He didn't mess up.
He didn't say, let me form my beautiful daughter, Deborah.
And then, oops, I made a mistake.
Nope, he did not.
He said, I made her fearfully and wonderfully made.
Oh, Deborah, I'm so excited
about these amazing gifts I put in her.
I can't wait to see her live these things out.
Like he's excited about the way he created you.
He's excited to see you live into the fullness
of like your splendor.
Proverbs 31, you know, the church misuses that
even though it's an amazing chapter, it is.
But the church lords that over people too.
Yes, your worth is far above Ruby's.
And that is the truth of what God said.
But you don't have to lean into striving.
Yes, do the next best thing, but like your beauty is there.
Lean into it.
All right.
Okay, awesome.
All right.
Yes, when you shine, it changes your features.
It surely does.
Crystal, go ahead.
I would love to hear what you have to say.
Don't mind, I will make clicks if someone else can share.
But as soon as you said that last line before we broke out,
it made me realize I compare myself to my sister.
She is 10 years older than me and I love her to death,
but she gets special treatment in my family.
And I hate to say that, but it's very true.
So often it hinders me from like going home
unless she's going to go home
because the welcome committee is the same
when I go home and visit is when she does.
And I very much compare my presence in my family
to her presence in my family,
which is hurtful because she is my best friend
and I love her so very much and I'm so grateful for her.
But I, yeah, that's my comparison trap right there.
So I'm so glad that you shared.
This is huge, you all.
Okay, how many can relate to Crystal
that you compare yourself to a sister or a sibling
and maybe you feel like that sibling gets special treatment?
Anybody else?
Let me see you.
All right, a couple of you here.
Awesome.
All right, you all can put your hands back down.
So I want to speak into that for a moment
because this is really important.
I'm not saying it's not true and it does happen.
Unfortunately, it does happen in a lot of families,
but the thing is, is like the enemy is creating that fissure
and he's trying to, you know, when a fissure starts,
like, let's just imagine this.
It's kind of like this, okay?
And they all look different,
but I'm just, for tonight's purposes.
And then when something else happens,
it cracks it more and it cracks it more.
Every time the enemy comes in
and he's attacking that same area and is attacking,
he's trying to just literally create this divide
that it's gonna feel like so hard to get back to this.
But I can tell you that God can supernaturally
take something where there's all this division,
even in a family where another sibling is favored
and he can start to create this.
I'm not saying it's possible in every family
and some of us will not experience that
in this side of heaven,
but we can absolutely do our best to show up
and believe for that on this side of heaven, right?
And if you have a toxic family,
again, anytime we do these lives, ladies,
I'm not telling you that you have to go and be around toxic people.
Boundaries are there and needed for a reason.
I'm talking about if God is bringing reconciliation, healing,
and he's leading you to do things that go in that direction,
then that's the things that we should invest in.
But yeah, so many times.
So I would encourage you or anyone else that struggles with comparison
is to ask the Lord to reveal the first time that happened.
Because again, it's just like any other heartwork session.
Like we have to go back to the root.
Like, and again, we don't dig.
We ask the Lord to reveal it for healing.
And maybe the first memory that's revealed, I'm just making this up,
is at 15.
And then you process that with your revealing for healing cycle.
If you're not that far in the course yet, you'll get there.
But that revealing for healing cycle and you process that with the Lord
and then if you're still struggling with that same thing, ask the Lord,
is there any other memory that I don't remember that I need to remember?
And he might reveal something earlier on.
It takes time, ladies, and process, but it will be worth it.
Thank you, Crystal, for sharing that.
Jamie, go ahead.
Hi.
I shared that I think my comparison comes when I feel like I should be
farther along for my age.
Like there are some things that I have gotten to do,
but I feel like earlier in my life I was striving and moving and things
were going and then now I feel like I've kind of hit this standstill where
the things that I wanted to see happen, I can't seem to get to.
So when I see people around me that have reached those things,
I keep that's where my, oh, I can't wait till I get to that point
or have that thing or whatever the case may be.
Yeah, that's so good.
Let's see if I can tell if I remember if I muted myself.
I think here, too, I said this on another session,
but I'm going to say it again tonight because it's making me think of it.
We shouldn't should on anybody, including ourselves.
I know that I think it's so funny.
But like, seriously, you know, I,
and I understand it because I've done it to myself too.
Like it's this, I needed to be at this place at this time in my life to feel
successful.
Y'all I mean, seriously,
all my friends have kids and they're grown up and they're graduating and I
haven't had a baby yet for sure.
I've, I've dealt with that,
like I'm just in this place now that I'm just like, well, Lord,
I think you'll bring new friends into my life that are having babies and I'll
have a new tribe to raise my babies with, you know, it's, it's,
and I'm not saying I don't, I haven't had to deal with that stuff,
but I just try to like get a new perspective.
Like the new, it might,
my story might not have all worked out the way I wanted it to.
And it had a lot of bumps in it. But now when I look back, seriously,
like, like being with Brian, like, I, I, I'm so grateful.
I'm so grateful that I'm where I'm at.
And then I get to share my life with the person I'm sharing it with.
And so I couldn't see that five, 10 years ago, whatever,
but I see it now.
And I know in part and see in part in the future.
And so if we'll let go of the,
I should be farther along and say, Lord,
thank you for where I am.
And thank you that you're not finished with me yet.
Thank you that you have really incredible ways to,
like basically he gets back time for us.
Like so many times we feel like, man, a lot like that one relationship.
I was in with like my spiritual daughter's dad. I felt, man,
I lost six years of my life on that guy. What the heck was I thinking?
And yes, that was not a good choice.
And I did, I stayed for six years. I still, sometimes I'm like, Oh,
can't believe I did that. But man,
I learned so much that I can now share with you all.
I'm not saying that was God wanted me to go through that pain.
I chose,
but God is using it and working it all together for good.
And you know what? I,
I feel like God is giving me time back like a lot lately.
Like it's just this accelerated process right now that's happening.
And so just know,
like God has so many ways to get that
stuff back. And again, it might not look exactly the way we thought,
but that doesn't mean it's not going to be great when we enjoy it. Okay.
Is that good? Everyone understand, but it's like, again, it's like, okay,
what we're inside of myself. Do I still believe I'm not measuring?
bring up in some way? And what lies are feeding that? Yes, God
is so good. God is so good, y'all. Italia, is that how you
say it? Okay, awesome. Go ahead.
I think I compare myself and lately, I haven't compared
myself as much because I've been off of social medias, except
Facebook, of course. But I think I compare myself the most when
in areas that I feel flawed. So let's say like when I'm like
feeling like I'm overweight, I start to look at people that
like can eat anything and not gain a pound and say like, wow.
Or like, like something I've struggled with this year is like
acne. So like there's people out there, you know, I'm like using
a new product every three weeks. There's people out there that
literally uses soap and water and I'm like, just like really?
So I think that's when I compare myself and start to feel that,
you know, maybe like jealousy or something that comes to the
surface.
So good, y'all. I love all these different shares the complexity
each person is bringing here. How many I kind of chuckled when
you were sharing not because I'm laughing at you because I've
been doing some of the stuff you were saying. Even tonight, I'm
like, whoa, I'm like looking a little greasy on this thing
here. And I'm sweating in this room. That's why but I'm kind of
being silly right now a little bit too. But when you said the
thing about when you're gaining weight, and you're looking at
people and they're eating all kinds of food, and they're like
staying skinny, and you're like, what, you know, so I think we
can all relate to some degree there, like the comparisons in
the way the enemy, again, if you think about this, ladies, how
many times like, does the enemy get us so focused in a negative
way on ourself? And then it literally it leads into that
inaction that leads to uncertainty that leads to
doubt. And so we want to shift out of that. Like, Lord, thank
you for my skin. And I know it's again, okay, I'm going to kind
of bring this full circle. Y'all I remember the one day when God
started telling me like when I was struggling about the whole
boob thing. And I know this resonates with some people
because like, everybody's got like, my one spiritual daughter
is very busty, and she is embarrassed and hides them and
all this stuff. And then, you know, I struggled my whole life
with having not very many and feeling like, well, this isn't
fun. You know, all these things. But I remember when when the
Lord led me to start like, just God, thank you for the way you
made me. And I'll just lay hands on myself. I'm not I'm not
kidding, y'all. Thank you for my boobs. Thank you for the way you
made me thank you that I am. I'm the way you wanted me to be. And
I know that's might sound so silly. But like sometimes y'all
we just that's what we just need to slow down and thank him.
That we're alive that we, you know, are, we have skin and, and
we have arms and we have legs and we, we, you know, have the
ability to try to lose weight, sometimes we maybe that's
exercise, or we have enough food to eat, you know, whatever, you
know, that whole shifting into gratitude, y'all, when we
shifted into gratitude and Thanksgiving, guess what can't
stay there. Doubt and insecurity and unbelief and all
the negative things, they will start to just dissipate. They
will they will start to leave, and you'll have more space and
peace. And so if the enemy is attacking you about your
appearance a lot, you know, maybe like maybe you are like me
and you gain gain weight a lot on your legs or your butt or
whatever. Like seriously, Lord, thank you so much for my legs.
Thank you, God that they get me around. I'm serious. Y'all I'm
speaking to myself. I'm about to teach on body shame tomorrow
night. So I'm practicing I'm getting some practice in
tonight. But like for real, these are things we need to do.
These are the ways that we can overcome these insecurities and
the way that we really shame our ourselves and shame who we are.
So, Beth, go ahead. And then I'm going to shift you guys into the
last breakout before we close tonight.
Okay, so real quick, just another perspective. Although
yes, I do often compare myself appearance wise with other
women. I'm having three kids and I don't look the way that I did
when I was 120 pounds in high school. I just I just don't
anymore. And, you know, I kind of try and do the same thing,
which is like, okay, yeah, like I have, you know, I carry more
weight in certain areas of my body, but that's because I've
grown humans, three of them, you know, I've grown them from
nothing, basically. And, and that kind of thing. But one of
the things that I shared in the breakout was that I feel like as
I've gotten older, I compare myself more to how other people,
I guess,
present themselves as having it all together, and I do not.
So, you know, one of the things I said was,
I see a lot of times other moms that I compare myself to
that their kids are all, you know, on time for school
and their hair is always brushed
and they've got these healthy lunches
and my kids are like rolling in a minute
after the bell rings and my middle one
hasn't let me brush her hair for like three days
and it looks kind of crazy.
And they've got Cheez-Its and fruit roll-ups
and all kinds of other stuff in their lunch
that like isn't super healthy.
But, you know, like, and I told the person
that I was in the breakout room with was like,
I am consciously trying to remind myself now,
like, yeah, my kids don't have like these super healthy foods
and they don't always have cut vegetables,
but they have food.
And, you know, like my kid's hair is kind of crazy today
and maybe she's wearing the same clothes as yesterday,
but she has clothes and they don't all have holes in them.
And I've got piles of laundry, but at least it's clean
and we have laundry to fold and I have a means to wash it.
And, you know, my house is messy,
but that's because I've got kids that live here
that have toys and things and we do crafts
and I've got dogs.
And when I was in the breakout room,
my youngest one was fussing in the back of the car.
And I said, you know, like, even when my kid is fussing,
I know several friends that can't have kids.
And so trying to turn everything that I feel
is like a burden to me or a stressor for me
that I use to compare with other people into a blessing
instead of viewing it as a negative thing.
Yes, so good.
And just so you know, ladies are saying
they can relate to you.
You sound like a fun mom, you're being awesome.
You know, so I just wanted you to hear, you know,
that God is supporting you through your sisters tonight
so keep it up, y'all.
I mean, this is good stuff.
Thank you so much for sharing that.
You know, the other thing in this,
what she said is other people have it all together.
That's what the enemy torments her with.
And this can show up in a lot of different ways too.
I love that you shared from the parenting perspective
because I think that's so important.
Let's just breathe, ladies.
Let's just be where we are.
You are becoming, we are all becoming
who we're gonna be tomorrow.
So maybe tonight you need to give yourself
some grace in an area.
Maybe tonight you need to give some grace.
Okay, I gotta hustle and get this last breakout in.
We're gonna shift you for this last breakout
from victim into victor, okay?
You wanna shift from waving the banner
of victim, victim, victim, I'm the victim,
to waving your banner of victory.
Some of you guys really need to step into victory tonight.
You know, and if you're not quite there,
I'm gonna encourage you to ask the Lord
to help you to get there.
We don't need to convince people of our value.
We don't need to over-exaggerate our value.
We can just like, kind of like what Beth was saying,
just show up as who you are.
You are so valuable.
You're like, just your worth is incredible to the Lord.
So step out of the old story and step into the new story.
Yes, you all, and I'm not minimizing it, you know,
we've all been through some crap,
but like, are you gonna stay in victim mode
and let the crap define you?
Or are you gonna step into victory tonight
and start waving that banner over your life?
It's up to you.
We all have a choice, okay?
And there's no shame.
I'm not shaming you.
I'm just speaking truth.
I had to do it.
And so I get to come and tell you
and encourage you all to do it, okay?
So tonight, where do you need to come out of being a victim
and step into victory?
That's your breakout session.
All right, create these.
There you go.
All right, go ahead and click to join, make sure.
All right, Kate, did you get one?
And Janice, do you guys have one coming your way?
You should have one there.
All right, go ahead and click to join.
Janice, I'm gonna send you to a different one
if you're not seeing that one.
Go ahead and click to join that.
And then let's see, Kate.
Okay, it's frozen.
All right, Jennifer, not to put you on the spot, if you can't come online, that's okay.
Oh, Janice, did it kick you back out?
I don't know.
Yeah, it kicked me out.
I wonder if your internet's spotty where you're at.
Very possible.
Okay, let me try another one.
Okay, do you see it?
Yeah, there's a delay tonight.
But, Jennifer, if you want to come on, or you don't even have to come on screen if you just want to talk, but no pressure.
You can always put in the chat if you're not able to.
But would love to ask you a question about any areas where maybe you came out of victim and had to start stepping into victory.
If there's anything that you feel like to share tonight.
Yeah, I'm thinking, of course there's areas.
I mean, I think what I'm still working on because I can't think of one thing that I am that I've overcome I that right to my mind but I think I'm very much relate to the food and the looking at other people.
And it's just kind of going back and reminding myself that the fear and that those thoughts are not.
They're not God.
And it's just like every time I get that I just can reassure myself by remembering that God is for me, he's not against me, and that it's so important that you know he wants me to have victory in this area like this is not who he created me to be and
I have had days where I'm not looking the way I want and I have, you know, weeks when I'm not looking the way I want but I can overcome that. And I will overcome that and I just have to believe and it is, you know, some of it's in my power so yeah, I'll keep thinking.
No, that's so good. I appreciate what you shared. I'm Kimberly Smith put in the Facebook comments sometimes I feel like a victim of my poor background upbringing, Kimberly I can I can relate or resonate with what you said I used to feel the same way.
Having grown up and having gone through not only sexual abuse but physical abuse was in our home.
My dad was a drug addict alcoholic. I mean I could my, my family was hit by a drunk driver like one thing after another after another after another in my life.
And I absolutely grew up feeling like a victim, I felt like, oh my gosh is anything ever going to get better. And I really had to choose to take my life back and obviously by the grace and mercy of the Lord and accepting Jesus into my heart and life was a huge
part of that and him walking with me and leading me, whether it was besides still waters or into the battle, you know, so to speak, and God, God just started telling me very early on how important it was for me to watch the things that I said.
And I just mentioned that book because it really did transform the way I lived my life. And I realized that I couldn't say the negative things anymore and expect a different outcome I had to change.
And so like I just encourage any of you watching this live that are in the breakouts when if you come back and watch this part of it or if you're watching us on Facebook or in the replay later.
You know, is there an area where you're saying a lot of negative stuff still about yourself or thinking a lot of negative stuff about yourself. And that's an area where you need to come out of victim and step into victory tonight.
You know, every spirit is a gentleman, Jesus Christ, God, the father, they're all a gentleman, they're not going to force their way on you, you have to choose, like we all have to choose the better way.
And, you know, the Bible talks about you know there will be all these paths off offered us but there's one path that is the right way. And it's not like we can't ever make a mistake because God by his grace and mercy will help us get back on that pathway.
But we want to try to do our best to stay on the path that he has laid out before us the word declares that, you know, as we honor him as we live our lives for him that he will be the voice behind us telling us the way to go.
And that he will be a lamp unto our feet and a light on to our path like he will show us the path to go and that's what I leaned into a lot and would Kimberly encourage you.
You know, in that area as well. And it's okay yeah sometimes we might not feel like we're struggling with anything but it's like.
all of a sudden, just God is bringing more revelation. And so he's just trying to continue
to set us free from any ways that we are not living again into the fullness of who God
originally created us to be, to come up into that higher life and heart posture that God
originally intended for us. And I think someone was asking in the chat earlier, like, what do I
mean by that? Or, you know, and I would say like, you know, with the materials that you have in the
heart work, just, you know, continuing to lean into those, go back and revisit those videos,
go back and read that book again. Y'all, I read the heart work and I'm not saying this as a brag,
but I think it's important to mention. I read the heart work book probably three times at least.
And then now just to plan for sessions, I go back and read parts again. But I'm just saying that to
say, like, I knew that I needed breakthrough and I was willing to do whatever it took. And I felt
like every time I read it, I was getting something new. The same thing with the videos, the soul ties
video I watched several times for sure. And so I just want to encourage you guys, like, don't give
up on yourself. Just keep leaning in to the content, the material, and God is going to keep enabling
you to break free and more and more and more ways. This is a proven process. It works. We have
so many people, their lives have been completely transformed and changed by walking this out. So
we would just encourage you all to do the same. Welcome back ladies. All right.
Welcome back. Welcome back. We'll wait for everybody else to come back. I know we're like
on our, we went the full hour and a half tonight, y'all. I hope it was good. I hope it's been a
blessing to you, but I am not going to keep you late. So I want to encourage you all. I'm normally,
I would have you share every time you come back, but because we are at the time we're at,
I am going to pray us out and close us down for the night, but want to encourage you. If there's
something you really feel like burning on your heart to share, like about coming out of victim,
I would encourage you to create a post about that and share it. And if there's something else
that was really like a big breakthrough for you, whether it's tonight or in the days ahead, that
you'll come back and share those things. Remember to keep showing up for yourself. Like you, you
matter. And the way that you show up in this process matters. You know, what we put into it
is what we're going to get out of it. And again, not for those of you that are getting ready to
shift into phase two, you know, have this week, take this week to really think about what did God
do in your life in the last five weeks, just really sitting in and pondering and, and asking
God to show you more about the real you. What does he want you to in this next, you know, we still
have a month in a week left of 2023. Like how can God transform your life in the next five weeks,
ladies, whether you're just starting out in heartwork or you're getting ready to step into
love story accelerator, we, we are here cheering you on. We're excited to see what God is going to
continue to do. And I'm going to pray for you all and bless you and send you on your way to my
father. Thank you so much. God, so many amazing women here, God, we love them. We ask you to
bless them. And we thank you God, that you would help them to feel your love in a new way tonight.
God, I pray that you would help them to come out of victim and step into victory, God, and show
them what that looks like. Show them how to activate that in their lives. Like maybe coming
out of victim and stepping into victory is they stop looking at the, the, the evidence they have
on the person that betrayed them or treated them wrong God. And they release that stuff and they
decide to move forward. God, whatever it is, God, I thank you for revealing it for healing. God,
help them to step into the fullness of who you have called them to be. God, nothing missing,
nothing lacking, nothing broken. We thank you, God, that you would just bring peace that passes
all understanding to wash over them in a fresh way. God, I ask you even while they sleep tonight,
God, give them, give them beautiful dreams, help them to hear what your spirit is saying to them,
God, and that you would wash over them with Selah, peace and rest. God, that you would help
them to yes, pause and reflect on all that you've done in their lives and all that you are going to
do. And we just believe it tonight in Jesus name, ladies, we love you. We will be back again next
Monday for those that are still in heartwork. We'll still be back for heartwork live sessions
at 1 PM Eastern and 8 PM Eastern time. Again, for those that are going into love story accelerator,
be watching for your email. Please don't message us a ton about it. Just, just know it's going to
be on its way and we will get it to you early next week. You guys will, you'll, you'll know where to
So everything will be communicated and just because it takes us more time to try to answer everybody when people are all anxious about it, and that takes away from us being able to get that out to you and get that done.
Okay. All right. Be blessed. See you guys later. Bye.
Thank you.