WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:01.000 Welcome back. 2 00:00:01.000 --> 00:00:07.640 I just want to pick up right where we left off, we were talking about identity. 3 00:00:07.640 --> 00:00:10.920 I want to talk about your most important identity. 4 00:00:10.920 --> 00:00:15.320 You know, I always refer to that 18 inch journey from head to heart. 5 00:00:15.320 --> 00:00:19.680 And when I met Jesus, when I was 22 years old, I had a very counterfeit identity. 6 00:00:19.680 --> 00:00:20.760 I had been through a lot of stuff. 7 00:00:20.760 --> 00:00:23.600 I had a lot of bad information in my heart. 8 00:00:23.600 --> 00:00:27.800 And so you probably have had a lot of bad information in your heart as well. 9 00:00:27.800 --> 00:00:32.680 And whatever experiences that we've had, you know, spiritual experiences, that doesn't 10 00:00:32.680 --> 00:00:34.280 really get rid of that. 11 00:00:34.280 --> 00:00:38.360 We do people a disservice by saying, Hey, you know, you've met Jesus, everything's different 12 00:00:38.360 --> 00:00:39.360 now. 13 00:00:39.360 --> 00:00:42.840 It's not because your heart still believes the old stuff and we can't erase, we have 14 00:00:42.840 --> 00:00:43.840 to replace. 15 00:00:43.840 --> 00:00:47.440 And so if we want to believe in our eating and sleeping and standing up and sitting down 16 00:00:47.440 --> 00:00:52.720 in everyday life, that God loves us, that he is on our side, that he is for us, then 17 00:00:52.720 --> 00:00:57.680 we're going to have to begin to deposit some good stuff. 18 00:00:57.680 --> 00:01:00.880 Remember, God is the identity giver. 19 00:01:00.880 --> 00:01:04.000 We call him father because of that reason. 20 00:01:04.000 --> 00:01:08.520 He's not a man, he's a spirit, a spirit that's actually both masculine and feminine. 21 00:01:08.520 --> 00:01:11.800 That might mess with your theology a little bit, but it's true. 22 00:01:11.800 --> 00:01:16.320 And so what that means is that your relationship with your earthly mom and dad really affects 23 00:01:16.320 --> 00:01:18.300 how you see God. 24 00:01:18.300 --> 00:01:19.880 And my dad left. 25 00:01:19.880 --> 00:01:23.480 My dad left when I was six months old and he did some really unworthy things because 26 00:01:23.480 --> 00:01:25.120 he didn't know any better. 27 00:01:25.120 --> 00:01:29.720 My mom also had a lot of deficits and I believe that she did the best she could as well. 28 00:01:29.720 --> 00:01:34.440 And it was a real game changer for me to forgive them because I came out of agreement that 29 00:01:34.440 --> 00:01:36.440 that's what father looks like. 30 00:01:36.440 --> 00:01:40.640 I came out of the agreement with the idea that I was abused and that nothing good was 31 00:01:40.640 --> 00:01:45.520 ever going to happen to me and all of the layers of identity that came from my origin 32 00:01:45.520 --> 00:01:46.520 family. 33 00:01:46.960 --> 00:01:48.760 I believe they did the best they could. 34 00:01:48.760 --> 00:01:50.480 And you might think, well, how is that possible? 35 00:01:50.480 --> 00:01:51.480 What they did was terrible. 36 00:01:51.480 --> 00:01:55.160 Well, they didn't know any better and your people didn't know any better either. 37 00:01:55.160 --> 00:01:57.620 They were only doing what they experienced. 38 00:01:57.620 --> 00:01:59.560 That's what we call inherited trauma. 39 00:01:59.560 --> 00:02:03.360 And the cycle is just going to lather, rinse, repeat on and on and on until someone breaks 40 00:02:03.360 --> 00:02:04.360 it. 41 00:02:04.360 --> 00:02:07.040 And I believe that you're the person that's going to break it in your family. 42 00:02:07.040 --> 00:02:10.199 Your children and your children's children, they're not going to experience the type of 43 00:02:10.199 --> 00:02:12.600 pain and suffering that you've experienced. 44 00:02:12.600 --> 00:02:16.240 Maybe not even at the hands of your family, but at the hands of something. 45 00:02:16.240 --> 00:02:20.520 When we forgive those people that have hurt us, who no matter who they are, we cut that 46 00:02:20.520 --> 00:02:24.520 off from getting perpetuated into our future generation. 47 00:02:24.520 --> 00:02:29.160 Now God's going to continue to highlight who you need to forgive and who you need to release. 48 00:02:29.160 --> 00:02:30.320 And you're going to do that. 49 00:02:30.320 --> 00:02:33.980 You are not because you feel like it, but because you know that it's the right thing 50 00:02:33.980 --> 00:02:35.460 to do. 51 00:02:35.460 --> 00:02:39.560 And you want a different relationship with God and with humans. 52 00:02:39.560 --> 00:02:44.520 A lot of times, unforgiveness is what's holding us back from having vibrant relationships. 53 00:02:44.520 --> 00:02:47.200 It's blocking us from being able to receive the love of God. 54 00:02:47.200 --> 00:02:51.480 And if we can't receive his love, then it can't come through us to others. 55 00:02:51.480 --> 00:02:54.240 Whoever he is to us, he will be through us. 56 00:02:54.240 --> 00:02:57.880 You know that scripture that talks about how our roots need to go deep, deep, deep down 57 00:02:57.880 --> 00:02:59.440 into the love of God. 58 00:02:59.440 --> 00:03:03.520 How far do you think your roots can go down before they hit some kind of rock or weed 59 00:03:03.520 --> 00:03:06.840 or thistle or thorn or something if we don't do our heart work? 60 00:03:06.840 --> 00:03:09.000 And so we have to forgive people. 61 00:03:09.000 --> 00:03:10.700 We want to release them. 62 00:03:10.700 --> 00:03:13.720 If they're still alive on this earth, the people that have hurt you and they're your 63 00:03:13.720 --> 00:03:16.600 family, they're your parents, we even want to be good to them. 64 00:03:16.600 --> 00:03:20.360 Yeah, they don't deserve it, but we don't deserve the love of God either. 65 00:03:20.360 --> 00:03:23.440 We don't deserve any of the good things that we've been given. 66 00:03:23.440 --> 00:03:27.240 And so we want to honor them because scripture tells us to do that so that our life will 67 00:03:27.240 --> 00:03:28.640 be long. 68 00:03:28.640 --> 00:03:31.840 And so send them that Mother's Day card, that Father's Day card. 69 00:03:31.840 --> 00:03:35.480 I know you're like, oh, but the card says stuff that I don't believe and that they didn't 70 00:03:35.480 --> 00:03:36.480 do for me. 71 00:03:36.480 --> 00:03:39.600 We'll find one that just says, hey, I hope you're having a good day. 72 00:03:39.600 --> 00:03:40.800 Bless you. 73 00:03:40.800 --> 00:03:41.840 You know, I love you. 74 00:03:41.840 --> 00:03:42.840 You can say that. 75 00:03:42.960 --> 00:03:43.960 You can love people. 76 00:03:43.960 --> 00:03:48.840 You can love people with the love of God and put that card in the mail, put it in the mail. 77 00:03:48.840 --> 00:03:52.000 Now we might have people in our lives that we can't be around because they're not safe 78 00:03:52.000 --> 00:03:55.400 and they're still dangerous, but putting a card in the mail is not dangerous. 79 00:03:55.400 --> 00:04:02.240 And that card may say, you know, uh, I hope that, that, uh, you have a great birthday 80 00:04:02.240 --> 00:04:03.440 or you have a great Mother's Day. 81 00:04:03.440 --> 00:04:06.560 It doesn't have to say, I'm proud to be your daughter or your son. 82 00:04:06.560 --> 00:04:09.960 It can just say something really beautiful and amazing. 83 00:04:09.960 --> 00:04:12.220 So go ahead and call them up into that identity. 84 00:04:12.220 --> 00:04:16.980 If you want to, you can even pick a card that says something that's not true to you, 85 00:04:16.980 --> 00:04:20.420 to the thing that you've been through with them, because you want to call them up into 86 00:04:20.420 --> 00:04:21.420 that higher identity. 87 00:04:21.420 --> 00:04:25.900 You know, when we forgive people, um, it calls them up into a higher identity. 88 00:04:25.900 --> 00:04:31.680 And so when we bless people and we honor people, um, it also shows them who they could be. 89 00:04:31.680 --> 00:04:33.440 And that's really important. 90 00:04:33.440 --> 00:04:38.440 And so, uh, my eyes have been opened in such amazing ways because of the levels of forgiveness 91 00:04:38.440 --> 00:04:41.860 that God has allowed me to operate in by his grace. 92 00:04:41.860 --> 00:04:44.300 He's graced me to operate in those levels. 93 00:04:44.300 --> 00:04:48.180 You can't do this on your own, but if you lean into him and you desire to do the right 94 00:04:48.180 --> 00:04:53.420 thing, your intention is to forgive and to love regardless of whether or not that person 95 00:04:53.420 --> 00:04:55.380 deserves it or is worthy of it. 96 00:04:55.380 --> 00:04:59.100 God will love them through you and you will begin to see breakthrough in ways that you've 97 00:04:59.100 --> 00:04:59.100 98 00:05:00.000 --> 00:05:04.720 for. I remember a time in my life when I just needed to see the goodness of God. I believed 99 00:05:04.720 --> 00:05:10.480 what his word said, but my life was not reflecting that goodness. I didn't see it anywhere. I had tons 100 00:05:10.480 --> 00:05:16.320 of problems, issues, very little abundance in my life. And I just said to God, I need to see your 101 00:05:16.320 --> 00:05:20.400 goodness. I didn't give him an ultimatum. I didn't tell him how I needed to see his goodness. 102 00:05:21.280 --> 00:05:24.320 I just told him that I needed to see it. Please show me your goodness. 103 00:05:24.320 --> 00:05:27.520 Show me that you care for me. Show me that you're a good daddy. Remember, 104 00:05:27.520 --> 00:05:31.920 I didn't have that father figure in my life. Show me that you're taking care of me. 105 00:05:31.920 --> 00:05:39.040 Show me that you love me. I was in debt. I had a car that wasn't working correctly. 106 00:05:39.040 --> 00:05:42.960 I was just waiting every day for that car to just give up the ghost and just break down. 107 00:05:43.600 --> 00:05:50.640 And one day I was on a trip and that's exactly what happened. That car just broke down and 108 00:05:51.360 --> 00:05:55.840 I didn't know what to do. I didn't know what to do. I was kind of relieved. You know how you 109 00:05:55.840 --> 00:06:00.320 have this problem and it's pressing and pressing and pressing. And then all of a sudden, it's not 110 00:06:00.320 --> 00:06:05.840 a problem anymore because the worst case scenario happens. I was driving my car and it broke down 111 00:06:05.840 --> 00:06:10.960 and now I'm broke down on the side of the road. And thankfully my husband was with me. That's good. 112 00:06:10.960 --> 00:06:14.560 That's another blessing of the Lord because normally he would not have been, but he happened 113 00:06:14.560 --> 00:06:19.440 to be there. And I was only a mile away from the venue that I was headed to. I was headed to a work 114 00:06:19.440 --> 00:06:27.760 to a job, to a work event. And I just felt like relieved. I felt like, uh, you know, it's went 115 00:06:27.760 --> 00:06:33.600 ahead and happened. And oh, well, my engine blew up. You can tell by the sound that the car made 116 00:06:33.600 --> 00:06:37.680 when it, when it stopped working, that it probably was never going to work again. 117 00:06:38.240 --> 00:06:41.840 So my husband and I got out of the car and we started walking the mile to the venue and neither 118 00:06:41.840 --> 00:06:46.000 one of us were speaking. I hadn't told him that I asked God to show me his goodness. 119 00:06:46.960 --> 00:06:52.000 You know, things had gone from bad to worse, but like I said, once the car blew up, I felt like a 120 00:06:52.000 --> 00:06:56.720 weight was lifted off of me. Sometimes the things that you've been worrying about and worrying about 121 00:06:56.720 --> 00:07:00.880 and worry about, it's just finally good when it just blows up because now you don't have to worry 122 00:07:00.880 --> 00:07:07.200 about it anymore, no more. And so I didn't have to worry about that anymore. And I just went ahead 123 00:07:07.200 --> 00:07:11.200 and walked to that venue. It was a nice spring day. I was just enjoying the birds chirping and 124 00:07:11.200 --> 00:07:15.360 the sun shining. And I just didn't have a care in the world because my car broke down and that was 125 00:07:15.440 --> 00:07:23.120 my care and that was gone. And so when I got to the venue, God showed me his goodness. People 126 00:07:23.120 --> 00:07:29.920 came all out of the woodwork all day long. Hey, I heard your car broke down. I wasn't making a 127 00:07:29.920 --> 00:07:33.920 spectacle of it. I wasn't asking anyone for help. I wasn't spreading news. I wasn't trying to get 128 00:07:33.920 --> 00:07:39.280 people to feel sorry for me or trying to make people help me. I don't even know who told people 129 00:07:39.280 --> 00:07:43.360 that this happened because I only told two people and I told them because I needed to, because I 130 00:07:43.360 --> 00:07:47.680 need to figure out how I was going to get three hours back to where I lived when the event was 131 00:07:47.680 --> 00:07:52.640 over. So I told my boss and I told another person and somehow it got all over the place that my car 132 00:07:52.640 --> 00:07:57.360 broke down. And some person stepped out of nowhere and said, Hey, my cousin owns a towing company. 133 00:07:57.360 --> 00:08:03.280 I'm going to have it towed for you. Another person was like, you know, my, um, my manager 134 00:08:03.280 --> 00:08:08.640 is, uh, friends with the manager of the GMC dealership. And we'll have the car towed there 135 00:08:08.640 --> 00:08:13.360 and they can look at it on Monday. I was like, wow. I was like, all right. And then another 136 00:08:13.360 --> 00:08:17.280 person was like, Hey, let me take you to lunch. Let me take you and your husband to lunch and 137 00:08:17.280 --> 00:08:21.600 pay for it. Let me treat you. And so just wonderful things were happening. And then another woman came 138 00:08:21.600 --> 00:08:26.080 forward that I actually knew. And she said, Hey, I'm headed your way after the event. Let me give 139 00:08:26.080 --> 00:08:32.000 you a ride home. I'll take you back home after the event's over. And I just felt God's goodness. 140 00:08:32.000 --> 00:08:37.200 I felt his intention towards me. I felt his love for me, but it gets better because at the end of 141 00:08:37.200 --> 00:08:41.840 the day, at the end of the event, when it was over, a man approached me, a stranger, and he 142 00:08:41.840 --> 00:08:46.320 said, Hey, I heard your car broke down. And I said, oh, well, everybody heard. And he said, I'd like 143 00:08:46.320 --> 00:08:51.040 to loan you a car. And I said, what? I said, you don't have to do that. And he said, I'd like to, 144 00:08:51.040 --> 00:08:56.560 because God told me to, he told me that you needed to see what it looks like to be fathered. And now 145 00:08:56.560 --> 00:09:01.120 this man was old enough to be my father. And he gave me the keys to one of his cars and told me I 146 00:09:01.120 --> 00:09:05.600 could drive it as long as I needed to. I kept protesting. I kept telling him, no, I live hours 147 00:09:05.600 --> 00:09:09.360 from here. He said, I know where you live. I'm not worried about you stealing my car. You can 148 00:09:09.360 --> 00:09:14.240 keep it as long as you need to. I know you'll take care of it. And I'll go work with that dealership 149 00:09:14.240 --> 00:09:19.680 in town where your car has been towed and I'll find out what it needs and how to fix it. And he 150 00:09:19.680 --> 00:09:23.440 said, please just take this blessing from me because God wants you to know what it feels like 151 00:09:23.440 --> 00:09:28.320 to be taken care of. And I want to release that over you right now. Not only did that man, let 152 00:09:28.320 --> 00:09:33.760 me drive that car for four months, but that car was a brand new Mercedes Benz C300. It only had 153 00:09:33.840 --> 00:09:39.760 8,000 miles on it. Leather seats, tinted windows, nice rims, tricked out. I had never ridden in a 154 00:09:39.760 --> 00:09:44.960 car that nice in my whole life, let alone drove it. That man also went to that dealership and 155 00:09:44.960 --> 00:09:50.320 paid $2,500 to them to have a new engine put in my car. And four months later, he brought it to 156 00:09:50.320 --> 00:09:54.880 me and got his car back. He showed me what it's like to be fathered. And God wants to do that 157 00:09:54.880 --> 00:09:59.920 same thing for you. He says, taste and see that I'm good. He cares about you. 158 00:10:00.000 --> 00:10:02.500 Remember how we learned about those Jesus Cares Board? 159 00:10:02.500 --> 00:10:04.040 You need to really use those. 160 00:10:04.040 --> 00:10:05.940 God wants to intervene in your life in ways 161 00:10:05.940 --> 00:10:09.180 that you cannot even imagine if you will simply let him. 162 00:10:09.180 --> 00:10:10.940 There's blessings for you on the horizon 163 00:10:10.940 --> 00:10:15.080 that you don't even understand the goodness of God 164 00:10:15.080 --> 00:10:17.380 that he wants to bring into your life. 165 00:10:17.380 --> 00:10:19.220 He wants you to see what it's like to be loved 166 00:10:19.220 --> 00:10:21.260 like you have never been loved before. 167 00:10:21.260 --> 00:10:24.020 And those rocks and those weeds and those thistles 168 00:10:24.020 --> 00:10:26.960 and all those roots in there, in your heart 169 00:10:26.960 --> 00:10:29.700 that are in the way of that love going deep, deep down 170 00:10:30.500 --> 00:10:33.460 every time you see that confirmation of God's goodness 171 00:10:33.460 --> 00:10:34.600 and his love for you, 172 00:10:34.600 --> 00:10:37.100 those things get moved out of the way. 173 00:10:37.100 --> 00:10:38.380 Every time you understand 174 00:10:38.380 --> 00:10:40.580 that God's emotionally involved with you 175 00:10:40.580 --> 00:10:42.340 and that he's caring for you 176 00:10:42.340 --> 00:10:45.020 and that somehow things are gonna turn out to my good, 177 00:10:45.020 --> 00:10:47.940 that stuff gets plowed out of the way. 178 00:10:47.940 --> 00:10:50.960 And this is how we can't erase, but we have to replace. 179 00:10:50.960 --> 00:10:54.420 We replace by inviting God to show us, 180 00:10:54.420 --> 00:10:56.720 to show us that all the experiences that we've had 181 00:10:56.720 --> 00:10:59.720 and all the lies that we believe because of it, 182 00:10:59.720 --> 00:11:01.180 they're not true. 183 00:11:01.180 --> 00:11:03.160 They may be facts that that stuff happened to you, 184 00:11:03.160 --> 00:11:05.480 but the greater truth is that God is going to work it 185 00:11:05.480 --> 00:11:06.320 to your good. 186 00:11:06.320 --> 00:11:07.900 And so now I know him as my father. 187 00:11:07.900 --> 00:11:09.400 I know him as my friend. 188 00:11:09.400 --> 00:11:12.160 I know what it's like to live in his goodness 189 00:11:12.160 --> 00:11:13.320 every day of my life. 190 00:11:13.320 --> 00:11:14.540 And I wanna speak that over you 191 00:11:14.540 --> 00:11:17.940 that your greatest gift and joy will be to hear his voice, 192 00:11:17.940 --> 00:11:20.600 to know his love, to feel like you're a child 193 00:11:20.600 --> 00:11:22.200 and not a servant, not an employee. 194 00:11:22.200 --> 00:11:24.000 You're not punching a time clock. 195 00:11:24.000 --> 00:11:26.180 For those of you that are into ministry 196 00:11:26.640 --> 00:11:29.740 or think that God only loves you when you're performing, 197 00:11:29.740 --> 00:11:32.500 God doesn't only love you when you're performing. 198 00:11:32.500 --> 00:11:35.340 When you're suffering, he's suffering with you. 199 00:11:35.340 --> 00:11:37.220 He cares about you like that. 200 00:11:37.220 --> 00:11:40.780 Compassion means to enter into the suffering of another. 201 00:11:40.780 --> 00:11:42.660 He cares about you when you're broke 202 00:11:42.660 --> 00:11:45.660 or when you have an issue or something is not working out 203 00:11:45.660 --> 00:11:47.480 the way that it needs to. 204 00:11:47.480 --> 00:11:51.100 He's right there with you in all of those situations. 205 00:11:51.100 --> 00:11:53.940 So we have to come back into reconciliation with this truth 206 00:11:53.940 --> 00:11:56.220 that we are sons and daughters, 207 00:11:56.220 --> 00:11:57.980 that we're not just some experiment 208 00:11:57.980 --> 00:12:00.340 that God has on the earth, 209 00:12:00.340 --> 00:12:03.100 that he's not disconnected from us, 210 00:12:03.100 --> 00:12:05.140 but that he's emotionally involved with us 211 00:12:05.140 --> 00:12:07.360 and that he loves us so very much. 212 00:12:07.360 --> 00:12:09.280 In fact, that's what his word says. 213 00:12:09.280 --> 00:12:11.620 It says that God so loved the world, 214 00:12:11.620 --> 00:12:13.820 remember John 3, 16, that he what? 215 00:12:13.820 --> 00:12:16.980 That he gave, that he gives to us 216 00:12:16.980 --> 00:12:18.700 because he loves us so much, 217 00:12:18.700 --> 00:12:22.260 that he gives us precious and amazing inheritance. 218 00:12:22.260 --> 00:12:23.540 And you've gotta get ahold of that. 219 00:12:23.540 --> 00:12:25.020 You've gotta get ahold of who you really are 220 00:12:25.020 --> 00:12:25.940 and whose you really are, 221 00:12:25.940 --> 00:12:27.780 because if you do, it'll change your life forever 222 00:12:27.780 --> 00:12:29.540 because it's supernatural. 223 00:12:29.540 --> 00:12:31.380 You can't do this life on your own. 224 00:12:31.380 --> 00:12:33.480 And Father God doesn't want you to. 225 00:12:33.480 --> 00:12:37.620 He wants each and every one of you to become Abba's child. 226 00:12:37.620 --> 00:12:40.860 From this moment forward, you're gonna crawl into his lap. 227 00:12:40.860 --> 00:12:43.300 You're gonna lean your head on his chest. 228 00:12:43.300 --> 00:12:46.260 You're gonna feel his love that he has for you. 229 00:12:46.260 --> 00:12:49.620 You're gonna believe that he has the answers 230 00:12:49.620 --> 00:12:52.100 and he has the solutions to all the problems 231 00:12:52.100 --> 00:12:53.900 that you've been running away from. 232 00:12:53.900 --> 00:12:56.900 Every single thing, every broken toy 233 00:12:56.900 --> 00:12:58.500 you're gonna bring to daddy, 234 00:12:58.500 --> 00:13:00.380 everything that doesn't go right, 235 00:13:00.380 --> 00:13:03.820 everything that makes you confused or makes you afraid, 236 00:13:03.820 --> 00:13:05.580 with every fear, you're gonna run to him 237 00:13:05.580 --> 00:13:06.420 and you're gonna know 238 00:13:06.420 --> 00:13:08.860 that he's gonna take care of everything. 239 00:13:08.860 --> 00:13:11.700 He's gonna provide for you from where? 240 00:13:11.700 --> 00:13:14.380 From his riches in glory. 241 00:13:14.380 --> 00:13:15.500 And I just speak that over you. 242 00:13:15.500 --> 00:13:16.920 I release that over you. 243 00:13:16.920 --> 00:13:18.900 I believe something supernatural is happening 244 00:13:18.900 --> 00:13:19.740 right now in your heart. 245 00:13:19.740 --> 00:13:21.940 And you're gonna be able to receive that identity 246 00:13:22.780 --> 00:13:25.100 of son or daughter like never, ever before. 247 00:13:25.100 --> 00:13:27.420 And I cannot wait to see the fruit of it. 248 00:13:27.420 --> 00:13:28.340 I'll see you soon.