And good morning, each and every one of you, welcome, welcome to the Thursday morning office
hours.
Of course, this, this I created, the purpose of creating this was to make myself and other
Prosper coaches available on a weekly basis, where you could ask your questions.
And so I've taken some questions before I started this recording to get a sense, and
a chance for me to share with you things that are coming up during the week from other clients
that may or may not be on this call so that you can glean the benefits of that.
And so this is a benefit of being a Prosper leader member.
And I love connecting with you here every Thursday morning.
So welcome, welcome, welcome to all of you around the world that are joining right now.
I'm going to start with prayer.
And then I'm going to share some thoughts of what I believe is really going on.
That's, that's really coming up in conversations with clients.
And when something comes up more than once, I want to, I want to turn it into something
a little bit more timeless for all of you to be able to benefit from.
So let's start with prayer.
Let's just settle in to see what the Holy Spirit's going to do.
And let's dive deep into some of these areas.
All right.
Oh, so Father, I give thanks, I give thanks, I give thanks for the privilege of being in
business, the privilege of serving one another in love, the privilege of taking the gifts
and talents that you've placed in us and using them, taking our blessings to be a blessing.
So I ask that everything that is covered in this call will honor and glorify you.
Bless every single person listening both live and later.
May the words of my mouth and the meditations of my heart be pleasing in your sight.
Let your spirit just infuse every single part of this call.
And we give thanks in Jesus' name.
Amen.
All right.
I'm going to open with a couple thoughts.
I believe, I think three decades and more in business, I would say I have a strong sense,
I could almost say I know that we are about to enter into some very interesting times
in business over the next six months, over the next year.
And it's going to require that we elevate, that we up-level, that we shift.
And of course, those of you that know what I consider the success equation, which is
mindset plus skillset plus right action equals results, I believe we're going to need to
elevate, we're going to need to up-level, we're going to really just up our game in
our mindset, in our perspective, how we look at our business, how we look at our clients,
how we look at this time in history.
We're going to have to shift our mindset and we're going to have to up-level our skillset
and we're going to have to 10x, 100x the level of right action that we take.
I have been fortunate, or I'm old enough, maybe some of you are old enough to have gone
through a lot of transitions in business.
And so I want to put some things in perspective as well that maybe will make the mind shift
such that will really move you forward in your business.
So I'm going to start, first of all, I'm going to share, I always do a review after a call.
And it asks a few questions, what was the biggest takeaway from our call, going forward,
what are you excited about, et cetera.
And I've had some calls this week where the person got on the call one way, this happens
often, but they got on the call one way, one mindset.
It's one way of looking at things and then it all shifted.
And of course, for me, that's my joy of being a coach.
And so one of the things that I saw in a particular call,
in a particular client, was this idea.
And I felt, I picked up intuitively,
that there was some fear behind it.
But it is a kind of a justifying playing small,
or justifying not doing something,
or saying why my business is different.
And in her particular case, she was saying,
because I had taught her a system of how
to use social media to grow her visibility.
But the idea is, you've got to take people from social media
onto your email list, because you do not
own the social media.
You do not own the platform.
You can get shadow banned.
You can get shut down.
The platform can disappear.
I mean, look what's happening in the thoughts around TikTok,
and where that's going, and people
that have built their livelihood.
I've watched algorithms change.
I've been on Facebook, I think, 15 years.
I've watched algorithms change, and entire business
get taken down, right?
And so we can't count on it.
You don't own that audience.
You don't own that platform.
And so we must be very consistent
when I say one of the things we must do in this season
is to grow your list, and nurture your list, OK?
And I want you to have a perspective on what
that list really means, OK?
It's not just a list of names.
It's human beings that have struggles, have desires,
and who have trusted you enough to give you
their name and their email.
Now, that might have been because they joined a call.
Hopefully, it is.
It might have been because they opted in.
Hopefully, you're using an opt-in to grow your list,
or multiple opt-ins to grow your list.
So this client has said, I don't really
want to have an email list.
I don't think I need an email list.
I just want to go by referrals, and that's enough.
And so when I began to shift what that list really
represented, and what the opportunity not just
to grow that list, but to nurture that list meant,
it just everything shifted for her.
So she wrote me this review.
She said, I always leave our calls feeling energized.
Well, that makes me happy.
She said, the biggest takeaway was that I get to do this.
I was stuck in a lack and comparing mindset,
and I needed to shift.
Thank you.
You reminded me that what I have to offer is valuable.
I'm so excited to get in and, through spirit,
create an amazing masterclass.
I'm ready to create and have some fun.
Let's talk about what that shift.
There's two posts.
If you're following me on LinkedIn or on Facebook,
there's two shifts that I want to talk about.
And then I want to talk about where we are
and where we need to go.
And I'm going to weave in answers
to some of the questions that you asked before we started
the call.
One post that I did yesterday, you'll find this on my LinkedIn,
Prosper in All Things, Facebook, my personal page,
Brenda Byers M, or Prosper in All Things LinkedIn.
And I said, I've witnessed and lived
two distinct ways of being and doing throughout my life.
As a driven overachiever and perfectionist,
I excelled at the grind.
Keep in mind, the grind.
Working tirelessly and driving myself without mercy
until I discovered a better way.
And the better way, of course, that I go into in this
is the way of grace.
So that's one of the contrasts I want to,
when we're talking about mindset.
I want to get into the contrast between grind and grace because this is going to, why does
this matter?
First of all, you're going to be coming from a totally different place and so you're going
to write, talk, reflect a completely different energy, vibe, way of being and people pick
up on that.
Secondly, life is going to feel better, business is going to feel better for you so that you're
going to have more joy, more stamina, more persistence, more stick-to-itiveness and the
things going on around you are not going to take you down as easily.
So let's break down the grind and the grace.
So the grind is, first of all, fear-based.
When you're in the grind, it's usually fear-based.
It's this constant fear that something's going to happen or something's not going to happen
and this just drives you relentlessly, right?
It's fear-based.
And these two go together.
Second is it's lack-based, right?
So this feeling of not-enoughness, right?
Whether I'm not enough or I don't have enough.
It could be money, it could be skills, it could be time.
It drives you to continuously strive for more and more and more and more and the end result
of the grind is it's exhausting.
You put out these bursts of activity that drive you and then it depletes your energy
and you crash and burn and then sometimes you muster up the strength to do it again
and it's this cycle of that, right?
And so you get a lot of start and stops, you get a lot of discouragement and I don't know
how many of you might be relating to this, right?
It's this idea of sacrifice.
Sacrifice your sleep, sacrifice your health, sacrifice your relationships and that often
not only leads to health and your spiritual life becoming dry but it leads to a sense
of resentment where you start to resent your job, your business and this really creates
this incredible dichotomy that we get ourselves into.
It's like this feeling of I have to do this, right?
And this is where she had the shift from I have to to I get to but when we're in that
have to, there's this sense of resentment and so you've got bad feelings towards your
own business.
You resent it because you know it's taking from your spiritual life, it's taking from
your family life, it's taking from your health and resentment doesn't get us anywhere, right?
That's not the energy or the foundation you want to build this on and it becomes unsustainable,
right?
It's usually this all from fear and lack and it's driven from a core wound and that
core wound of trying to prove that I really am good enough or the core wound that drives
us relentlessly, right?
So I want to talk as we go into this new season that is going to require more effort.
I want to talk about emotionally, mentally, spiritually.
How do you give more, produce more, create more, rise?
How do you grow your capacity?
How do you become more without the grind?
My prayer, the bottom of my heart for everybody involved here in Prosper in All Things, in
the Prosper Leader membership, right?
My prayer is to see you expand into the absolute fullness of what God has for you that you
are prospering physically, emotionally, relationally, spiritually, you're prospering, right?
But you're doing it with total soul prosperity.
In other words, you're not sacrificing parts of yourself to get there.
So it requires shifting from an old way of thinking, which is the grind, which most of
us were programmed into, into grace, right?
And this is first and foremost, an internal shift and then an external shift in how we
do it, okay?
So grace looks like, first of all, recognizing that there's only one source, one source,
the creator, the maker of heaven and earth, the one who owns the cattle on a thousand
hills.
There's only one source, everything else is a resource.
Now, why do I say that?
Because the minute you shift and make something other than the source, and you take a resource
and make it your source.
You make your job, your source, your business, your source, your clients, your source, your,
you know, anything, your spouse, your government, your check, whatever, anything else that you
make a source, right?
Number one, it becomes idolatry.
It will crumble.
But number two, it's going to drive you into the grind.
Because then if that drains or that shifts, okay?
And so answering one of the questions that I got in the beginning about the shift that
you experienced in, you saw that you got a contract into being a corporate wellness and
business coach, right?
That when you got into the corporation, they had a different perspective than you did.
You looked at that, and I'm not saying it's right or wrong.
I'm just saying this is what happened.
And then we attach the meaning to something, right?
And this is important as well.
What are you attaching meaning to?
So you went in thinking, ah, this will be a source of my consistent income.
A source, right?
And they had a different idea of how they wanted you to serve.
And it can get disappointing, it can get frustrating, and it throws you off because now your source
that you were looking for, like any source, the economy contracts.
It was my source.
Now it's not there.
The checks I was getting, my job ends, my retirement, you know, diminishes, right?
What we're looking at is the source shifts, and it throws us off our game, okay?
But when we understand there's one source, and that source never fails, then we become,
right, like David in the Psalms, the Lord is my shepherd, I shall not lack, right?
I shall not want.
Want means extreme lack, right?
So we've begun to have a different perspective.
Because he's my shepherd, I shall not want.
No, he will lead me to green pastures.
He will make me to drink from the stream.
He will prepare a banqueting table in the middle, in the midst of my enemies.
A banqueting table, when you got haters all around you.
A banqueting table.
He will make my cup to overflow.
And we want to talk about working from the overflow.
So the first shift comes, where am I making something my source?
When that doesn't become your source, then you can come into a situation like you shared,
Connie, from a place of possibility.
You can come in and go, huh, what's possible here?
What's God doing?
How's this going to open up?
What can I create here?
And you're coming from a place of openness, not fear, not lack, right?
And so grace looks like recognizing there's one source.
Grace looks like having an inner confidence, a trust that I'm infinitely loved, I'm infinitely
supported.
All my needs will be met.
Grace looks like surrender.
I take my gifts, I take my talents, I take my very life, and I use it in the service
for the good of others.
I use it for the service of love, right?
And grace looks like unlimited, unlimited potential, unlimited possibilities, because
I'm tapping into the boundless rivers of living water that flow out, right?
That within me, I'm the temple of the Holy Spirit, that spirit that's in me, that mind
of Christ that's in me, Christ in me, the hope of glory, I'm tapping into that which
is timeless and never ending and never depleting, and I'm learning to give from the overflow.
It's the water that Jesus talked about, I can drink without thirsting.
And so now we move into being very, very fulfilling.
So go into those comments if you could, and like, comment, give me your feedback on that.
The one I shared today also ties in, and then we're going to get into actually applying
it into this season.
Today I talked about the one word.
that changed everything about how I viewed business and life.
And some of you that have been in my Partner with God in Business,
or my Elevate, or my Total Soul Prosperity series,
you've heard me talk about this.
It's one word that changed everything.
And that word is Avodah.
Avodah. Okay?
A-V-O-D-A-H.
It's a Hebrew word.
And before I understood the concept behind the word,
which is God's concept of work, God's concept of business,
before I encountered that ancient term,
my view of life and work was very fragmented.
And maybe that's true for you today.
Work was one thing, and I did a lot of it.
I was relentless when it came, you know, running businesses.
I mean, I worked seven days a week, 24-7.
I was relentless in the way that I built.
And it was fragmented from, you know, my spiritual life and worship,
and it was fragmented from my family life.
It was like I looked at my life in a series of compartments, right?
And so work was like a means to an end, something that I just, you know,
it was a curse, right?
It was the curse in the garden, right?
And it was something I had to just get through,
whereas worship was reserved for Sunday morning, you know?
Totally different realms.
And so Avodah changed that because that single word really represents a
holistic perspective that unites what we consider the mundane or the
secular with the sacred, okay?
And maybe if you have not yet reached this integration, this will be a shift.
This will be a shift that will energize you.
This will be a shift that will make your business.
You won't resent it.
It'll bring a holiness, a sacredness.
It'll move from I have to to I get to, right?
Because the word Avodah means work, it means worship,
and it means serve or service, right?
So Exodus 34, 21 says six days you will work, Avodah.
And Exodus 8, 1 says this is what the Lord says,
let my people go that they may worship, Avodah, right?
Joshua 24 says, but as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord,
Avodah, right?
And so the old way of thinking,
I was taught that spiritual life and work are separate,
that our religious or spiritual life should be a private thing,
that church is a spiritual, sacred work is secular,
that if you're spiritual, it's a big one, you shouldn't charge,
you shouldn't make a profit, right?
And the underlying current, the business is less spiritual than ministry.
So you never feel integrated.
In other words,
I was taught to keep my spiritual life separate from my work life to
compartmentalize my faith and my profession and Avodah shattered that.
And so I began to see my business as a form of worship,
a way of bringing God's healing, God's love, God's solution.
And it became a way for me to express my creativity and create a legacy of
love of healing of financial blessings and financial prosperity became a
natural outcome as I embrace my role as a conduit of blessings.
And so we shift from, I have to, to I get to.
Okay.
So Connie, in answer to your earlier question,
we shift God is my source.
Everything will be provided.
And now you come from this place of possibility, a place of curiosity.
Huh?
I wonder what's possible.
And if God's in this, guess what?
It's going to be bigger than you imagined.
You have a set like amount that you'll make.
Right.
And you had a, a set.
Way things should go, because this is what we do in life.
We're always trying to make life adjust to be the way we think it can be.
So we can feel better about ourselves and about our finances,
about our life, but God always goes, no, no, no.
I'm going to kind of, those of you that are old enough to understand this,
I'm going to scratch that record. Right.
Some of you may know that newer people without metaphors say what scratch
what, but anyway, scratch that record. Right.
It's a new way.
So I would say go to this place from a place of openness and possibility and serve and watch that maybe bigger things than you ever imagined are are opening up.
Okay.
Um, so, uh, what do I feel is happening right now, and what's going to become more and more important.
We're going to enter in, I really believe, um, I really believe that we're going to possibly go through some really really tough times, leading up now to the election.
Business is going to get a bit challenging. And so I believe it's absolutely critical that you come into business in this season, not coming from a place of lack or a place of fear which is going to be stimulated like crazy.
Okay. There's going to be clients that say they can't afford you anymore, there's going to be, you know, it's costing 75%, 50% more to run a business to, to, you know, live and so the finances can feel tight.
And your, your first and biggest if I was going to give one advice your first and biggest is to continuously, continuously start your day with prayer, meditation, continuously make the shift that you are showing up.
No matter what your circumstances look like, you are showing up from a place of fullness of generosity of love, and not from fear or lack which means tap back into the vision.
Why are you doing what you do and I pray it's not just for money, money is a byproduct of serving. Okay, but tap back in to the vision that compels you so change number one, holistic approach that I just shared Avida.
Change number two, shift from I have to which creates resentment to I get to, and I'm going to put a little perspective to that and then we're going to open to conversation.
When I look at where we are in business.
I've been in business more than three decades.
When I look at where we are in business.
What a glorious place we are. What a glorious amazing privileged place, we are.
I come back from the day that if you wanted to reach clients you had one thing, a landline a telephone it wasn't even a cell phone that went with you everywhere.
I came from a place in business that I built the first business with something called TELUS summits TELUS seminars any of you old enough that you used to attend TELUS, it's like our zoom launches now yeah any of you remember the TELUS summits the TELUS seminars you're not old enough you don't know okay, I'm going to tell you, yeah you didn't get to see each other's face.
And you didn't go really all over the world so well I mean I would plug in a speaker to my speaker phone to my Bible study and connect to maybe the Philippines so a little bit I was going global but like today.
No, no, no. And when you wanted to have a client or meet a client, you got dressed up, and you got in the car and you drove however far and they may not even show up right and you did what you did and then you have to drive to the next appointment and you were all over right.
And it was before the internet.
We were pretty scared when the internet came out it felt like the world was going to end when the internet came out right. And some jumped in I was an early adapter and I jumped in and used it but it was before the internet.
And it was certainly, you know, when you wanted to gather a group of people.
You had to rent a hotel, which you had to reserve it often like six months in advance, and you had to put out the cash and it was big cash for catering you had to guarantee the meals and you had to figure out the attendance and pay in advance right.
And then you had to promote by phone right and and starting.
to buy email and get them there but mostly you had to just be on the phone calling to fill that
room and I'll tell you what if you got 50 people in a room or a hundred people in a room or a
couple hundred people in the room 500 people in the room you were like in your glory a thousand
people in your room you filled up I remember when we'd fill up you know ballrooms three ballrooms
and you get 750 or a thousand like wow that's an exciting meeting right and you had to just hustle
like crazy the cost and the energy and the setup and the takedown and now you can jump on a zoom
call and you can connect with people all over the world for free and you're gonna say I have to
do a zoom call I'm gonna pray from this moment how you look at visibility and how you look at
showing up completely transforms from I have to to I get to
I have to to I get to we are so privileged that we cannot even have to leave our house
we can get dressed from the top
in the bottom ladies I'm wearing yoga pants right now and socks that don't match
and I've got my feet on my little roller massaging like little thing here as I get to talk to you all
over the world right now I've got Canadians on the call I've got UK on the call often I've got
often I've got people from Africa on the call like really we're gonna complain
we're gonna complain to our ancestors that had to go work in the fields or the factories
with bad conditions and no lighting and no food and low pay and we're gonna complain
that we have to show up in front of a computer for a little while
so I'm gonna challenge you first and foremost to shift your mindset I have to grow an email list
no no no you're privileged to grow an email list that's a sacred a sacred community
just like this the prosper I look at you prosper women the prosper leader membership I look like
I look like a sacred community that I'm privileged to get to serve you
privileged that we get to come together and learn from each other okay so the shift is going to be
moving from I have to to I get to the shift is going to be you're going to have to become far
more visible you get to become far more visible you get to show up more and more and more let me
tell you now trust has been eroded in the market trust has been eroded in the coaching industry
so we're going to serve at a different level prosper women we're going to show up more often
we're going to show up with higher quality materials and we're going to look at it as an
absolute privilege I have talked to you at length about the miracle hour making sure after you have
your golden hour you're using your prosper daily plan after you've had your golden hour you're
overflowing into your miracle hour and this is your opportunity to pour out your creativity
your know-how the lessons you've gleaned the stories and experiences that can inspire that
can motivate you don't know what the women or the men on the other side of the screen are going
through they're hanging on by a thread you get to share your faith you get to share your tools
you get to share your wins you get to share hope you get to share conviction and you don't know
which one of those posts which one of those lives which one of those times you show up that
you're saving a life or saving a business or saving a family or saving a marriage
we get to do this and I'm going to call on you prosper leaders to rise up to grow your capacity
to step into your identity to show up in this new season like you've never shown up
for give lavishly not from your root not from your root you've got to be rooted and grounded
in love you've got to be rooted and grounded in identity who you are as a daughter of the
most high god you're not giving from the root you're giving from the overflow scripture says
rivers of living water will flow out of your belly we're called to give from the overflow
not grind not sacrifice but give from the overflow okay i'm going to continue this conversation
in future ones right now i'm going to stop um so that i can get your feedback and really spend
some time with you um before the call is over but i pray that this has just inspired you it's kind of
part a of what needs to shift in this new season so now i'd love to hear from you i'm gonna stop
the recording