Hello everyone, so good to see you.
All right, so I'm gonna do a few things here.
Give me one second.
All right, I'm having trouble doing what I need to do.
Bethany, if you could make me the host, that would be great.
All right, now you can take that back.
You can take that host permissions back because when I leave, then you'll need to be the host.
All right, so that's awesome.
So we're gonna get started right on time here.
So let's just go ahead.
Five minutes late.
That's right on time for most of us.
That works out.
All right, so welcome to all community past sessions.
I just want to do a little housekeeping here at the beginning about our app.
Who's excited about the app?
Who's excited about having one place, one stop shop for all things curriculum, for all
things community?
Very exciting.
And I'm excited that we're going to have that opportunity.
So what's happening this week is all of our team, and that includes all of our amazing
volunteers that we love so much that help moderate their peer coaches in the groups,
they run our single cities, all of those folks are going to get an opportunity to go onto
the app first.
Why?
Because we need to try it out in real time with real people.
Okay.
So those 50 so people are going to get to go over this week and they're going to get
to poke around and break things if necessary.
You know, click on stuff, double click on stuff, do all the things so that we can see
that it's working the way that we want it to.
And then what will happen next is our phase three community and our men's community will
be the next people that get to get migrated over to the app.
Now, it is my desire that you would love the app so much and you guys, this is not this
is a custom app.
This is an app for our community.
This is an app unlike anybody else's app.
Okay.
Meaning that we have taken everything that we do in this community in account when creating
this app with the developers of what is that we need, what we would love to see happen
for our community.
And so everything that you need is there for those of you that always get lost and you're
like, where's the link?
Guess what?
We got you.
So regardless of what part of the app you're in, you're going to be able to see very clearly
at the top of your phase, the chat, the conversation that's going, which would be your newsfeed
on your Facebook groups.
You can see the curriculum.
You want to go and revisit something that you missed.
You'll see a tab that says replays like where the replays.
It's right here.
Very easy.
A little index at the top, little index tab.
So everyone remember those file folders, the little tabs, really easy to open the tab and
just look at what's in that folder, so to speak.
And then of course, there will be the today tab, y'all.
It will tell you what's happening today in the last year single, you'll be able to click
on that tab.
You'll never miss a session because you'll know what's happening today in real time.
It'll also tell you the time that it's happening at and even the length that it's happening
at.
And then there'll be an events tab for all the future events.
But guess what?
When the future event gets to today, it'll be in the today tab.
And so you can look and kind of, for all of you that are planners, let me see all the
planner hands.
You're like, I need to know 50 years in advance, Jackie, of what you've got going on.
Well, we got you.
We can't give you 50 years in advance, but we can give you several weeks to a month,
maybe even more in advance, and you'll be able to plan your schedule accordingly.
All of you that are in phase three are going to have a regular coaching call, just like
phase one and two does every single time that this day rolls around.
And you notice that I'm purposely not telling you what day it is because we haven't decided
that yet.
Every time that day rolls around, you're going to have a 1 p.m. session available to you
and an 8 p.m. session available to you.
And the good news is, is that 8 p.m. session will always be an all-community session.
It'll be a past session.
It'll be a single spotlight session where we're letting you see single guys or single
girls depending on what you're interested in, right?
And of course, we know what you're interested in based on your gender because we actually
do gender around here.
Gender is not fluid here.
Gender is not relative here.
Gender is whatever it is.
Whatever you were born with, that's what you are, y'all.
And so we're gonna help you out in that area.
And what else can happen on that day?
A little love seat fun, a little love story fun.
And so you'll see just that there's an all community event
for phase three every single time that, you know,
on that day.
So there'll be a one o'clock session
with Q&A and Ask Jackie stuff.
And then there'll be that evening session as well.
And we do that 1 p.m. Eastern session for all of you
that can't come to nighttime sessions
and or are international and living in different time zones
where it is nighttime when you're coming to that session.
And so we want to expand internationally.
And so that brings me to our next thing.
So the app is coming, it's coming to all of you.
We're gonna get the phase three people on there.
And then the phase one and two people
who are not in this group right now.
So it doesn't matter if I say this or not,
cause they're not gonna hear it.
They're going to enter into the app
when they leave those phases and they come into phase three.
So that's when they will be on the app.
And then everyone will be able to partake of the app
as give us a week or two when you're on there
cause we're working out kinks,
we're making sure everything works good.
But we are hoping that everything will be worked out
before y'all get on there and say, what's wrong with this?
Because we've really been working,
our team has been really working on making sure
that it's a smooth transition for everyone.
That being said, last trip single.
We sold out our first Cartagena retreat.
I know that it was a little bit out
of a lot of people's budget, but that's how much it cost.
We're not making money on that trip.
Just so you guys know, that's how much it costs
to go to an all-inclusive type of place like that.
It was low hanging fruit for us for our first trip
because we have a Colombian national
that's helping us with that,
planning travel for us and doing things.
And so that is really important
that we just went ahead and broke the seal
on last trip single.
That being said, there is one spot open for that trip still.
We thought we filled it,
but we actually didn't communicate
to the people that were interested in it.
So I will go through the emails,
first come first serve for that one spot.
For the rest of you, there is a 2025 cruise
that goes on sale today.
All right, you're going to only have like three or four days
to make your down payment.
I think your down payment's like 200 bucks
or something like that, $250, whatever it is.
And guess what?
You have until January of 2025 to pay for your cruise.
And I think most of the state rooms,
because they're double occupancy,
so if you can come with a roommate,
sign up together and there's a place on the form
to tell us who you want to room with.
You can't room with the opposite sex,
so don't even try it, okay?
Unless you're married, then you can.
But if you're not, you can't.
That will be a co-ed,
meaning that registration will be open for men and women.
And we need at least eight state rooms to sell
by the due date, which I think is the 25th,
and then we can open up more.
So if at least 16 people sign up for that
right out of the gate and pay their deposit,
then we can open up more and more state rooms
all the way to, I think, 40,
which would be a total of 80 people on that cruise with us.
And that cruise is out of Florida, Cape Canaveral,
to the Western Caribbean.
Going to be a really, really, really fun time.
And guess what?
We're gonna be making payments on it
all the way till January.
So for those of you that are on a fixed income,
I think that she's gotten it.
Our travel consortium, travel agent,
has gotten it to where you can pay like 100 bucks
here and there and everywhere
until you get to paying off your cruise, right?
So that's gonna be exciting.
Other trips.
I am going to London and Paris in April
to scout out a retreat for you all.
So if you are in Europe already and you're like,
when is last year's single coming to Europe?
It's coming in April.
So I'm gonna go there.
I'm gonna scout that out.
I'm gonna talk to leaders in that region.
Trying to get what?
Two things.
Trying to get trips opened up for y'all,
not but not just that.
Trying to get community opened up for you all
so we can make some international matches.
I believe that God has said that relocation,
relocation, relocation is the name of the game
from 2020 to 2025.
And I believe that a lot of you
have international love stories
and I wanna help you to connect
with those international folks.
And so we are gonna do that.
And that might mean them moving to the States as well, right?
Not just you moving to Europe,
but them moving to the States.
And so I'm gonna go scout that out
and I'm willing to meet up with anyone in Europe
that's there, any of our community.
And then in September,
we are going to have a Paris retreat.
Okay, so for those of you that are like,
man, I really wanna go to Paris,
but I don't have anyone to go with,
then go ahead and put that in the back of your mind
because we're gonna be announcing stuff about that soon.
We're gonna have a lot of domestic stuff as well.
We are going to have a South Florida conference.
We're going to have an Austin.
conference for those of you that are like, when is Austin?
It is going to be right after Austin City Limits.
So it's going to be in October.
As soon as the music festival moves on out of Austin,
that is when we're going to have our Austin retreat.
For those of you that have heard how amazing it was
when we had it before, it is really that amazing.
And we are going to be having that at the end of October.
All right.
And so there's lots of fun things happening
with the single cities and in-person one day events.
I'm going to be in Dallas tomorrow.
If you are in the Dallas Fort Worth area, please come.
I'm going to post it on my Instagram.
Go over and look.
I'm going to be speaking on a panel
for a singles community that is located in Dallas.
So come meet some other singles in your area
that are not attached to this movement.
There'll be some that are there
when y'all come and see me,
but then there'll be others that are just part
of a different singles group.
Come and meet them.
We would love to see you out there.
Remember, go to my Instagram, Jackie Dorman Official.
I will be posting information about tomorrow.
All right.
That being said, let's get started.
So tonight you guys were talking about momentum.
We're talking about momentum,
and we are going to have both of our master coaches
on this panel with me.
So that is Renee and Bethany.
And we're going to dig into momentum in a couple areas.
Momentum in your relationship with God,
your spiritual life, momentum in your purpose on earth,
you know, and that would include your finances
because we don't chase money.
Money chases us when we get into the sweet, sweet spot
of what we've been created to do.
And what you're created to do changes
in every season, you guys.
And every season, not meaning, you know,
winter, spring, summer, fall,
but every season of your life,
you have to be open to a pivot.
Got to be open to scaling, open to change.
And if you feel like you're living in lack and scarcity,
it's because you probably didn't pivot.
And maybe you didn't know how to pivot,
or maybe you were too scared to pivot,
or maybe you didn't have support to pivot.
But we're going to talk about
what builds momentum in your purpose.
Remember, your purpose is to show this world
what it looks like to be a son and daughter of God.
But all of you are going to do that differently
through your vocation.
So there's a difference between vision and mission.
Okay, your mission on this earth is to show this world
what it looks like to be a son or daughter of God.
And the way that you walk that out
in these different seasons of your life
is going to look different for everyone.
And it's going to be about your passions and your giftings.
And your talents and your desire, all of those things.
And even what pisses you off, that comes into play as well.
Because I believe that whatever makes you the angriest
about the world around you is probably a problem
that you have been called to,
not just be part of the solution for,
but also to make some kingdom,
make some kingdom dent in that issue, okay?
So solutionaries for those problems
is what we're called to be.
And then last but not least,
what does it look like to gain momentum
or scale our love lives?
Go ahead, if you want to write something down,
you want a one-liner from Jackie, I say this a lot.
God is going to scale your heart
before he scales anything else.
He's going to make room here.
We're never stuck on the outside,
we're always stuck on the inside.
So he is going to scale your heart
in the area of relationship
before he gives you the relationship
that you've been praying for, right?
He's going to give you capacity to receive it.
He's going to scale your heart
before he scales your business,
before he scales whatever it is
that you've been praying for,
that you want to scale, that you want to grow,
and that you want to enlarge,
and that you want to gain more territory.
And God is going to first make that capacity
inside of your heart.
That being said, if you're a procrastinator,
let's see your hands, get them up, get them up fast.
You're someone who takes two steps forward
and 18 steps back because you wait too long
and you sit around and you're a dreamer,
but you're not a taken actioner.
Okay, you like to think about it,
but you don't actually do anything with it.
That's connected to a lie.
Procrastination is connected to heart wounds.
It's connected to trauma.
Even clinicians, even secular psychologists
and psychiatrists will tell you that procrastination,
especially the kind where you're stuck
and you're not moving forward,
is always connected to PTSD.
It's connected to some sort of post trauma behavior pattern.
Okay, do you believe it?
So in order for us to talk about momentum tonight,
you're going to have to be willing through this conversation
to look at where you're really stuck
because you're not stuck out here.
You're only stuck in here.
And so what is the trauma-based lie that you're believing
that's causing you to not take the steps forward?
Okay, God is going to help you as you help yourself.
And I know that that is not a popular thing to say.
It's like, oh, no, faith without action, that's you.
to helping yourself without works.
Faith without action is dead religion.
Write it down.
You can have dead religion all day long, you guys,
but it's dead.
It's dead.
Meaning nothing is gonna grow from it.
No life is gonna come from it.
And so it's important that we get to the roots of this
while we're talking tonight.
We might get into some hard work stuff.
I don't know.
We'll see where we go.
All right, so let's go ahead.
And since Bethany, you're a host now,
if you could spotlight me and Renee and yourself,
and then we will go ahead and go after this.
I do have to leave early
and then it will just be Renee and Bethany
finishing the job tonight.
And I know that it will be great.
So I couldn't claim host back.
Renee, can you pin us?
Okay, wait a second.
I'll give you host back.
Let me do it.
Awesome, thanks.
Mm-hmm.
All right, done.
And if I seem a little hyper, you guys,
because I drank matcha today.
It's the gift that keeps on giving.
And also I went to a wedding today.
Guys, I went to a beautiful wedding
of a widow from our community.
She came in here like a lot of you saying,
you know, I don't need to do any work.
I've done a lot of inner healing.
I'm so healthy.
But the truth is that, you know,
everybody has hard work to do.
And God brought her here to prepare her
and to get her ready to receive the love
that he already had coming for her.
And the fun part of that story is,
is that she was match made
by another member of this community.
And the funner part of that story
is that that same woman tried to introduce her
to her now husband, as of right now, she's married,
to her now husband two years ago.
And she wasn't ready, wasn't interested,
didn't want to go there.
And then guess what?
She did some more healing, came into this program,
surrendered to God, surrendered the pen to God.
And then that introduction circled back around,
and she's now married to that guy.
Woo!
Fun stuff.
You guys, I've been getting a lot of testimonies too
of people, you guys remember in phase two
when I told you, tell everyone you know
that you wanna get married.
Put it on your Facebook if you're brave.
Put it out there.
I've been getting testimonies from people
who have been in here for about a year
that they did that when they first came in, crickets.
Nothing happened.
Everyone was like, yay, cool, that's great.
Okay, I'll keep you in mind.
But now they're getting introductions
from the people that they said that to.
Took a minute.
Guess what?
There is a timing in this.
It's not a waiting room type of timing,
but it's a, hey, you can move
at the pace of your heart work.
So if you really wanna focus in
and let God show you where you're gonna sabotage it
later on, then we can get this thing moving
a little quicker, all right?
So I believe that.
And remember, it's not just about your readiness.
It's about your children's readiness.
For those of you that had kids,
it's not just about your readiness.
It's about their readiness.
And I know you would love for them to be ready
because you've been divorced for 14 years,
but just because they haven't been with dad
doesn't mean that they're ready for you
to bring them a new man into their lives, okay?
So it's about their readiness.
And so doing heart work with your kids is really important.
Don't just be doing this for yourself.
Take what you're learning here and do it with your children.
And we're gonna give you more opportunities for that.
And then also it's about the other person
that is gonna partner with you.
It's about their readiness.
So that's why it's important that we show up to prayer,
that we're praying over men.
We're praying over the revival of marriage and family
because God puts people in people's lives
to get them ready.
And that is an important part as well.
My father-in-law gave me this beautiful ruby ring
that he had in the Air Force, and I put it on today.
Guys, family restoration is happening.
One more thing, one more thing.
Sorry, this is the matcha talking right now.
This is the thing, and that is this Saturday
on Supernatural Saturday,
we are going to be celebrating springtime and Purim.
And for those of you that don't know what that is,
that is the Feast of Esther.
And we are going to be celebrating that together
because it starts at sundown on Saturday,
but we're gonna be talking about the prophetic word
that God gave me today,
and that is spring season of this year, 2024,
is about divine reversals.
So if you need a reversal in your life,
you need a do-over,
you need whatever didn't work out before
to be reversed in the circumstances
to go the different direction,
if you need that,
you're gonna wanna be on Supernatural Saturday
and Sunday night activation.
All right, we're ready to go.
So Bethany, let's start talking about how to scale
and how to gain momentum in our spiritual lives.
Let's start there.
So you want me just to riff kind of some of the notes I have?
Is that what you're wanting me to do?
Yeah, and then you guys can chime in and Rizzo
and Bethany and I will answer some questions
as you guys tell us.
your feedback.
Yeah, so one of the things I was thinking about
as far as like when I gained momentum spiritually
in my own life is I started spending time with people
who were further along than me, not just in person,
but like books and absorbing content and absorbing wisdom
from other people that had giftings that I not just desired,
but I wanted to step into in order to take territory
for the kingdom, but also the in-person
and not just what I could get from them,
but how could I be a blessing to them as well?
So there's this mutual exchange
that I would even consider a divine exchange
that happens that I wouldn't just go to them
asking for something from them,
but I would go to be a blessing to them
and in that that I would receive something through them
that the Lord had for me.
And so years ago, I made a list of people
that I wanted to meet and to come into contact with.
Some of those people are big name people,
but I still believe God is working in those.
So that's one of the things I felt like
was a big shifter for me spiritually.
Okay, let's stop right there.
Let's unpack that for a second.
Who has a list of people that you would wanna meet,
that you would want to ask a question to
or have so into your life?
Who has a list like that?
It looks like like one person or three people.
All right, so I want you to put in the comments right now
who would be on your list?
And I won't be offended if I'm not on that list.
Oh, shoot.
You guys get a heavy dose of me all the time.
Who's on that list?
Have you ever thought about it?
And you're like, well, we're not supposed to idolize people.
That's not idolizing people.
That's respecting the success and the anointing
and the gift that someone is to either the body of Christ
or just the world and wanting to honor them or meet them
or believing that they have something to impart to you.
There's a strong precedent of impartation
in the word of God.
All right, let's see.
Who we got?
Rizzo, Bethany, who are they saying?
Yeah, so I see John and Lisa Bevere.
I mean, I saw a lot of Jackie.
Us as the team, Amanda Grace.
I see Donna De Silva.
Let's see, Real Talk Kim, Bill Johnson,
Brene Brown, Kevin Young.
I see another Bill Johnson, Randy Clark,
Dano Arthur.
I'm not sure if I think,
and then it says Dano, Arthur Burke, Randy Clark.
So I'm just not sure if that's, I think that's two people.
Brandon Lake, Jennison Franklin, Annie Downs,
Michael Dalton, Chris Vallotton.
Do you want me to keep going?
Yeah, you know what's so fun about this list
is that I have had the privilege
to have some of these people so into my life.
Dano McCullum, I spent holidays at his house, y'all.
I spent Thanksgiving and Christmas time
with Dano and Regina, good friends of mine.
Chris Vallotton also has become a friend of mine
and just saw him the other day
and has become a father to me.
And so very much, very much appreciate that.
Someone put, I saw someone put Michael Dalton on here.
I was just hanging out with Michael the other day.
In fact, I prophesied over Michael.
I gave, you know, hanging out, eating with Michael,
friend of mine and, you know, prophesied over him.
So the reason why I say that is to say this,
is that these people that you're holding in high esteem,
they could actually become your friends.
They could actually be people that you don't know right now,
but you end up doing community with later, right?
Being in community, being in family with them.
And so it's important for us to the people
that are ahead of us, so to speak,
in areas where we really want breakthrough
to be praying over them.
So that is the next key to momentum.
Bethany just shared some really great nuggets.
Now I wanna share one.
If you really respect and admire
something that someone else is carrying
and you resonate with it because you believe
that you're carrying something similar, pray for them.
Pray for them.
Pray that God would bless them.
Pray that God would increase them.
Pray that God would cover them and protect them.
Pray for them, okay?
Because you have no idea what they have to do or sacrifice
to get to that level of success in that area, right?
And it's important that we're doing that
because I believe that if you really respect someone
and you really believe
that they're carrying something important,
then it's important for us to pray for them,
especially if there's someone that you always listen to.
You always watch their videos.
You always read their words.
A lot of us love Lana Bowser, right?
Have you ever donated any money to her ministry?
If you love what she's saying, sow a seed on it.
I know that's so religious to a lot of people
and a lot of people.
You have been abused by paying tithes.
You've been abused by the whole sow a seed kind of idea.
Trust me, I got the mug and t-shirt on all that.
I get it.
But you know what I've learned?
I've learned that money is the least thing in the kingdom.
Meaning if God can't trust you with it,
he can't trust you with anything else.
Money is the smallest thing in the kingdom.
And so for those of us that are praying for anointing,
we're praying for influence,
we're praying for all of those things,
but we won't use our money to invest in our betterment
or invest in the furthering of something else
that's kingdom, then guess what?
That means we're pretty immature still in that area.
And I had to learn that, you guys,
because I was discipled by a church
that used money to abuse people.
Pay your tithes and if you don't,
God's gonna curse you and take your house.
Your house is gonna burn down.
Or your car is gonna blow up
and you're not gonna have a car anymore
because you didn't pay your tithes.
Well, I think it's more important to pay your light bill
than pay your tithes.
And if you're really that broke that you definitely,
God doesn't need your money, but he does need your heart.
And so it's important that we understand
that if it's a heart issue, it's a heart issue, right?
But if someone really blesses you
and they're carrying something really authentic,
then sow into it, whether it's money,
whether it's your time, whether it's your talent.
My mom used to volunteer at Joyce Meyers conferences.
She would sign up to volunteer.
What was she doing?
She was sowing into that ministry.
She was investing her time and her talent
with caring for people and helping people find out
where they need to go and where they need to sit.
My mom has a hospitality gift.
She did when she was on this earth,
she was using that to sow into it.
So Bethany and Rizzo, that's another way we can get momentum
is by blessing the people that bless us
and sowing into the people that are sowing into us.
I believe in that divine exchange.
I do.
I believe that that seed, if it's in good soil,
will take root and bear fruit and quickly a lot of times.
And guess what?
You're good soil too.
I want you to say that over yourself.
I'm good soil.
I am good soil.
I've done my hard work and guess what?
I'm good soil.
So as I sow into others,
God is going to bring people to sow into me.
All right, so Rizzo, you're up.
You're up to bat on this one.
What do you got?
Yeah, so this is a new one
that I've done recently in the last year,
especially you guys, when I left my full-time job.
And to Jackie's point,
like when I wasn't able to tie my church like I used to,
I've been volunteering my time,
but I'm doing it differently.
It's been so easy for me to gravitate
towards the things at church that I already know how to do.
And so I've been delving out into ministries
that I never thought I would do.
Like two years ago,
I helped put together the set
for our Easter play in service.
And I worked alongside somebody who is a florist
and owns like a home and garden thing.
And she taught me about flower arranging.
And since then, at two of my nieces' weddings,
I'm now becoming the flower arranger
for all the centerpieces.
Like I don't know how to grow a flower to save my life,
but I can now arrange bouquets like no one's business.
And I'm also helping with the landscaping team.
I helped paint the murals at our new building.
And so it's exposing me to new people
in the church community,
finding out about new talents I didn't know that I had.
And it's kind of stretching me and growing me.
Like it would be so easy for me to volunteer
in prayer and women's ministry,
because that's what I know how to do it.
But it's been so fun helping, you know,
the men with the landscaping and behind the scenes here
and planting the flowers over here.
So if you feel like your spiritual life
is kind of stuck and in a rut, go try something different.
And the fact that you're like, oh my gosh,
but I would be terrible at it,
that's actually why I want you to do it.
Because I think if it stretches you
to learn something new in the church,
in hopefully a safe environment,
you're gonna learn something new about yourself.
Because a lot of what Bethany and I and Jack
are asking you to do in this community is new stuff.
We're asking you to try things differently
or see it from a different perspective.
And if you could see your church through a different lens,
you might start to see the men and women in your life
through a different lens,
and you might show up differently.
So that has really stretched me and grown me
in the last couple of years.
So spiritually, that's one of the things
I've been trying to do.
That was so good, Renee.
I was sitting here thinking too,
I wrote down on my paper, something similar.
I wrote down go into,
no, don't take this the wrong way you all,
but go into spiritual environments
that are outside what you're used to.
Just from my perspective,
I've been able to go into spiritual environments
and I've been able to learn a lot through it.
of going into different denominations to understand them.
And I've learned a lot through it.
You know, there's things like Koinonia, Maus walks,
And I've learned a lot through it.
where you're intermingling with people
And I've learned a lot through it.
that are from different denominations
and you're coming together as the body of Christ.
But also in the sense that, you know,
like kind of what Renee's saying,
like go into something and minister,
even in a nonprofit that's outside the church.
I remember years ago when I started going and volunteering
and just going to an inner city school and reading to kids.
Like doing that still, I think about that all the time.
Like the impact that I was having on those kids,
just by going and reading a book to them,
a lot of them didn't have parents
that would do that kind of stuff.
So getting outside of your comfort zone,
investing on other people, investing in the community,
and letting God show up through that is pretty huge.
Yeah.
Hi.
Okay.
So I agree.
Sorry, I was eating and listening and it was so good.
But you guys noticed that we sort of have married now,
relationship with God and our purpose.
So while we said, we're gonna talk about
these three distinct areas of momentum,
you see how two of them are already doing what?
They're merging, right?
They're converging.
Why is that?
Because it's very difficult to remove your who from your do.
Okay?
It's very difficult.
And I know that we had all this talk for a long time.
It's like, oh, pay attention to your who and not your do.
Well, the Bible says that faith without action or works,
your do is dead religion.
So these two things are interlocked.
Why is that?
Because the proof of belief is action.
If you believe that you're a son or daughter of God,
if you believe that Jesus died for you,
if you believe in the finished work of the cross,
if you believe in John 10, 10,
if you believe in any of those things,
which is this vertical relationship, right?
This vertical identity,
then it's gonna look like something.
It's gonna look like something.
It's gonna be looking like you becoming passionate
and impassioned with whatever is hurting
the people of this world, right?
At the end of the day, all that's gonna matter is people.
At the end of the day,
all that's gonna matter is eternal things.
And that's people.
The only thing that's gonna last for eternity
is faith, hope, and love and people.
Those are the things.
And so everything that we do with our lives
needs to lead back to that.
Now, a lot of us try to have this kind of relationship.
We try to get it right.
We try to cross every T and dot every I
and pray for a certain amount of time
or read the Bible or do the things.
And we feel guilty and ashamed if we don't do that.
But what we don't realize is that there's actually
a greater way to experience the relationship with God
than just you sitting and trying to do a list of works,
like spiritual works.
And that is called serving people.
Why do I say this?
Because when you serve people,
if we wanna really gain momentum in this area,
when you serve people,
it actually shows you what God looks like.
Because you know, we can't see him, right?
But we can see him through what?
Through people.
And guess what?
People get to see him through us.
There is nothing better in this life
than knowing that you made an eternal impact on someone.
And it could have been the simplest thing that you did,
but it made an eternal impact
because you showed them what God looks like.
You showed them his kindness or his goodness.
You showed them his forgiveness.
You showed them his provision.
And it draws you closer to God
because every time you get to show someone
what God looks like or what Jesus looks like, essentially,
because he was the physical vision of God, right?
If you've seen me, you've seen the father.
Every time you do that,
you get to see what he looks like more clearly as well.
Isn't that amazing?
And what does that do?
That fuels the relationship
of where you want to get to know him more.
You want to read the word.
You want to listen to,
and I agree with what Bethany said at the beginning
about, hey, read the books, do that.
But please be careful with that
because there's a lot of voices out there
that are saying something very authentic
and very biblically based.
It's from the Bible.
It's right, but it's not for you.
And I know you're like, what, what?
Yes, because we live in a digital age,
you at your fingertips have access to a bazillion sermons,
so many scriptures,
and so many podcasts that are talking about scriptures
and so much, you know, someone's commentary on scriptures.
And what's the problem with that?
All of you have access to a bazillion sermons.
How many of us are on here right now?
145 of us, all of you right now,
at any given moment in your life,
God is doing something in your life, okay?
You have a season that you're in.
You have a path that you're on.
And the problem is, is that just like the dating apps,
there's this illusion of all of these things.
And a lot of them are diametrically opposed
to each other, right?
Yeah, they all come from the word of God,
but it's like, oh, you want a breakthrough?
Okay, sit up.
No, the other one says, lay down, sit down, stand up,
do a jig, dance a jig, get quiet, get loud,
speak it out loud, meditate in your heart.
It's just schizophrenic, y'all.
It is.
And it's gonna have you all over the place.
Just because it's from God, doesn't mean it's for you.
Write that down.
Just because it's from God, doesn't mean it's for you.
So one of the main things that you need to do
in order to scale your relationship with God
or just your spirituality in general,
is you need to discern where you are.
Where am I?
What am I working on?
What keeps coming up that I'm working on right now?
And then only focus on things that God brings to you
that will help you to continue in that vein.
You guys, I stopped reading books for a decade.
I know they're like, leaders are readers.
Cool.
But I was devouring so many books in my early discipleship
that I was all over the place,
like what I'm saying right now,
and it was actually causing me to what?
Lose momentum.
I want you to think about a river.
Close your eyes and picture the mightiest, craziest,
rough, white-capped, greatest river in the world
for whitewater rafting,
except it might be too dangerous.
Hippos are popping out of it everywhere
and they're chasing your boat.
Like, I want you to picture this river.
It's crazy.
All right?
And then I want you to picture that at like every,
like, let's say 30, 40 feet,
there's a tributary running off it.
There's a smaller river running off of that river.
All these little tributary rivers running off that river.
Answer me this.
How long do you think that river
is going to be a rushing, mighty river
with all of those leaks?
There's so many leaks, right?
How full do you think that your cistern,
your vase, your whatever, your vessel is
if there's all of these holes in it?
We're all kinds of stuff leaking out.
And that is what happens
when we are going a million different directions.
We lose momentum.
That river loses momentum.
And so it's important for us to know where we are
and what we're working on,
and then to only look at stuff
that is going to help us in that.
And that includes people.
You can have all kinds of friends.
It's great to have friends.
Friends are wonderful.
But if your friends are creating stagnation in you
because they're not going the same direction as you
in this season,
and every time you get together and you have coffee
and you talk about something that you're doing,
and then they kind of pour water on that fire
because that's not where they are,
maybe they're in their silent season
of just waiting on the Lord.
But you're in this action-oriented season.
What's going to happen
if you're hanging out with that person?
You're going to start kind of second-guessing yourself,
aren't you?
Like, oh, what they're doing seems so much holier
than what I'm doing, you know?
And then, you know,
someone's going to quote scriptures at you.
They that wait upon the Lord will renew their strength.
Great.
Do you get it?
I'm not going to say who,
but I had a friend who's actually famous now, okay?
But before he was famous,
he wouldn't self-promote.
He had an amazing gift to give the world.
And I would say to him all the time,
hey, we need to get this out there.
We need to market it.
Because remember, I used to be a media consultant.
We need to do this.
We need to do that.
Oh, no, no, no, no, no, not going to do it.
Not going to self-promote.
Self-promotion's wrong.
Not going to get a social media channel.
Not going to run ads.
Not going to do the things.
Okay?
Why?
Why is this amazing gift
keeping all the
this gatekeeping all this amazing information
and not putting it out to the world
because someone he admired, Bill Johnson, who I love.
Bill's amazing, he's incredible.
He's one of the most humble men
I've ever met in my entire life.
But he was preaching against self-promotion.
And the thing is, is that he was talking about it
in a specific vein for a specific situation.
But my friend took that personally,
grabbed a hold of that little thing
and made it his new mantra in life.
You see how that can be a problem?
So you gotta stay in your season.
You gotta make sure that you're not just, you know,
going to the buffet of the internet
and just sampling all the little words out there.
Because not only will it keep you full
and yet not satisfied,
it will cause you to stagnate and lose momentum.
I promise you it will.
Hey, can I just jump in real quick?
You guys, I'm just gonna say this and be really blunt.
I know it's really easy to hear everything that we're saying
and give me a reason why it's not gonna work
or give Jackie a reason why it's not gonna work
or give Bethany a reason why it's not gonna work.
I'm gonna encourage us, especially in the chat tonight,
but as we kind of go through the rest of this,
at least through Easter,
I want us to hold space to not type
or say out loud words that you know
don't come from the Lord.
Let's not give the enemy a foothold into our heart
that says, well, I've tried that, it's just not gonna work.
Or I don't have enough money to do this
or I don't have enough money to do that.
We promise you life is not easy, we get that.
We get that it's hard,
but all three of us know the dark night of the soul.
All three of us have been hurt and harmed
and we have pressed in and pressed on.
So we're not giving any of this input
because we've had some Pollyanna easy life.
Like we've all had trauma.
And so I get it, life is hard,
but I'm gonna ask you to press in anyway.
And one of the best ways that you can do that
is watch what you give power to out of your mouth
and out of your fingertips.
And just say, yeah,
I think Bethany always says that a lot, yet.
You haven't done that yet.
You've not received that yet, yet, yet.
So I'm just gonna encourage you guys
and hold each other accountable.
Like hold each other accountable.
So like, it's not just me, Bethany and Jackie
saying that if you see your sister or brother
starting to speak, never to just say that.
I just rebuke that in the name of Jesus, boom.
Because those lies are not coming from God.
God does not want you to live anything but an abundant life.
So I just needed to jump in there
because it's so easy to think
that we got it all figured out.
We don't.
And we are saying all of this.
We're trying to speak the truth in love
because we want abundance for you.
So I'll get off my soap box now.
It's true.
What she's saying is true.
So if you think that you have all the trauma trophies,
you're wrong.
So, and you can polish those trophies
in your little trophy case.
And that's what you can do with your life
is say, hey, I have more trauma trophies than anybody else.
But guess what?
That will not get you anywhere.
That will not get you anywhere, nowhere at all, okay?
Until you've been homeless,
until you've eaten a week old bean burrito from Taco Bell
that was under your car seat
because you were just that hungry,
then you don't even get to roll with me, baby girl.
All right, so it's time for you to understand
that no matter what has happened in your life,
you can still live abundantly, okay?
And so that means what?
That means that we can't live from past to present.
This is another momentum killer.
You keep looking at your past and where you've come from
and what has happened.
You keep disqualifying yourself
because of whatever you see back there, all right?
And whatever you see back there
is still hanging on in the present, right?
It's still affecting you with these orphan mentalities
and these poverty mentalities, I get it.
And that's why you have to come in here
and you have to really press into your heart work
and live future present.
So you can't live past present,
you have to live future present.
You have to allow God to give you a vision of yourself
in the future.
And then instead of living from your past
to where you are now,
you live from your future to where you are now.
You show up there and then you walk backwards to here.
Does that make sense?
Do you understand?
That's what you have to do.
That's what I did, okay?
When I couldn't leave my house and I had agoraphobia
and I had panic disorder, I had obsessive compulsive disorder
and I was mentally ill and my former husband
was trying to get me institutionalized, okay?
Weighed 126 pounds at 5'10", wore a double zero
and was literally dying right in front of everyone's eyes.
What happened next?
God gave me a word.
He gave me a vision.
He gave me a dream.
And I could have, like everyone else, said,
oh yeah, that's great, but I can't get there.
I don't know how to get there.
I don't know what to do.
And it wasn't that I didn't have days like that,
but the days that I just got up and went after it,
even though I didn't know what to do,
outnumbered the days when I sat down
and felt sorry for myself and played the victim.
I got up way more than I fell down.
And that's what the Bible says.
The Bible says, rejoice not over me, my enemy,
because when I fall down, I will get back up.
And God gave me the grace to keep getting up
and keep getting up and keep getting up.
Why?
Because I believed in that girl.
I believed that she was the real me and I was the real her,
not this other girl that had been abandoned by her family
and lived in girls' home in foster care
that was sexually abused by a pedophile grandfather
that sat at my dinner table every single night
because he bought off my parents with money.
That wasn't the real me.
That was what the enemy set up in my life
to try to keep me from ever becoming who I truly was.
And guess what?
It didn't work.
And it only didn't work, you guys,
because once again, like Rizzo just said,
I refused to come into complete agreement with it.
We all have bad days.
We all have bad moments.
You might have a bad week.
You could even have a bad month,
but you can't let it continue.
That's a momentum stealer.
I don't care how you feel.
Doesn't matter how you feel.
And that's the number one reason
why I'm sitting in front of you today
because no matter how I felt,
and I'm just gonna get real with you because you need it.
Guys, I couldn't even drink a glass of water
because I felt like someone poisoned it.
That's how messed up my mind was.
I had a mental illness.
Are you listening to me?
I was paranoid and obsessed with danger.
If I left my drink at my own home,
I could not drink it.
Even though rationally you would say that's crazy, Jackie.
Yeah, that's the point of this story.
That's how far gone I was in so many ways, you guys.
But there came a moment
when I could not trust my feelings anymore and I knew it.
And so regardless of how I felt,
I made a commitment to God.
Doesn't matter what I think is true or what I feel is true.
I'm still gonna just do what you've showed me
that I know is true.
And you guys, I had to live against my own feelings
and against my own thoughts.
I had to work it like a job every day
until it got easier and easier,
until the truth started winning out.
And that's why I write in that book,
you cannot erase, you have to replace.
And so for all of you that are showing up in the chat
and giving us a list of reasons why it's not possible,
you're right, all those reasons are true,
but there is a greater truth.
And if you won't come into alignment with it,
then you won't succeed.
But if you're willing to come into alignment with it,
nothing can stop you.
Nothing can stop you.
Not even your own feelings can stop you.
Not even your own messed up thoughts can stop you
if you won't listen to them anymore
and you will only listen to God.
And if that means you have to look at yourself in the mirror
like I did many, many, many, many, many, many times
and tell yourself to stop it.
I have done that so many times.
I've looked at myself right in the eyes in the mirror
and I've said, that's not true, Jackie.
That's a lie.
No one's poisoned you.
You're not gonna die right now.
You don't need to call the squad.
You don't need to call the ambulance.
You don't need to go to the emergency room.
What you believe right now is not true.
It's a lie.
Fear is a lie.
Anxiety is a lie.
And I had to get to the place y'all
where I was just like, you know what?
If I'm wrong, then I'm just gonna keel over and die.
But that's okay.
Cause I'd rather live in God's truth
and continue to follow after him
than live like this torment and this fear
and try to keep myself safe.
I just had to make a decision.
If I'm wrong.
I guess I'm going to die.
And you guys have worked.
It worked.
And you're like, Jackie, that's, that's really out there, babe.
You had some serious issues.
I'm not like you.
Yeah, you're not, but you're just a stuck.
You're just a stuck because you think that the number in your bank
account is why you can't succeed.
And you don't know how to make it grow bigger.
You think the number of divorces you've had is why you can't succeed.
And you don't know how to get past that, the weight on the scale, the number here,
the number there, whatever it is, you're a bad childhood.
You believe it.
And you believe it more than you believe what God has said about you or the visions
that God has given you about yourself.
You believe it more.
And as long as you believe it more, you will never gain momentum.
You'll have a couple of good days where you're like, I'm going to do it.
And then guess what?
You fall right back off because you don't really believe it.
Because the Bible says out of the abundance of the heart, what happens?
What happens?
The mouth speaks, the mouth speaks.
And in this case, the mouth types.
Right.
Amen.
Every single one of you can have momentum in your life that leads to abundance.
Every one of you.
Put up the area that you're sabotaging yourself.
What area do you just not, you're not able to get any momentum at all.
What area is it?
Let's see it.
There's a lot of duplicates there, huh?
There's a lot of duplicates there.
What does that mean?
That means not only is the devil a liar, he's a really bad liar.
He's telling us all the same lie.
Don't you notice that?
And we're onto it.
All right.
So Rizzo, we're going to, uh, Bethany, why don't we take some of these and talk
about what could be at the root of that?
That we need to not just erase, but replace so we can gain some momentum.
I would love to take the weight loss one since I've been on a diet my whole
life and I just dropped almost 30 pounds.
And so here's what I can say.
You guys, you cannot starve your way into weight loss.
You cannot hate your body enough into weight loss.
You cannot overexercise enough into weight loss.
So you have to, first of all, get right with your, your body in its current
shape and get to know it, get to know the foods that your body receives well.
And the foods that your body does not receive.
Well, you need to pay attention to your nutrition.
You can't work out enough hours, like 90% of your health starts in the kitchen.
It just does.
So if you're saying that you're not, you know, having trouble with weight loss,
you have to decide what am I buying?
First of all, what are you buying?
What food are you buying?
Whether it's out to eat or, you know, where you shop, like you should be
shopping the perimeter of the store.
90% of what you eat should be whole single source foods.
And I understand not everyone can do gluten-free, not everyone can do organic,
but you can at least start with single source foods.
Um, you know, apples, oranges, meat, vegetables, like things that are grown
single source that are not in a box.
And so you have control over what you eat, right?
You guys buy your own grocery.
So you have control and you go to Aldi's, find a way to buy in bulk.
So.
That it can be cost effective. That's the first thing. And you guys have to budget moving on my calendar. I'm just going to share my screen for just a second. So you can see what my calendar looks like.
Can y'all see my calendar. It is color coded. Now y'all may not want to be as crazy as me, but my workouts.
My grocery shopping, my work, my schoolwork, all of it's here. So I can say I want to lose weight. But if I don't budget time in my calendar to shop, to meal prep, to work out, then I don't take it seriously. None of us are going to be able to take a pill and suddenly lose weight. You're not going to suddenly get a job.
So if you are not budgeting in your calendar to do something, whether it's exercise, whether it's go get healthy, whether it's go get another job, work a second job.
Some of you guys have talked about finances. You know, for years out of college, I had a second job.
You know, I worked nights in the bra room at Victoria's Secret. Like you can now do Uber delivery if you don't want to do Uber because you don't like people in your car. So if it's not going in your calendar, if you're not budgeting time to do it, especially weight loss, it is never going to happen. You can't pray away the weight loss.
But it should start with maybe going to your doctor or nutritionist and taking a blood DNA just to find out. But you guys can do some kind of different elimination diet. So I just wanted to take that one. And you guys, I now have a love of all food. There's no such thing as a bad food. I used to think there were good food, bad food. Now, if I want the cookie, it just fits into my macros. Like I eat a certain number of calories, fiber and protein a day. Everything else I get to fit in.
So if I want a cookie or a piece of cake, it's going in my macros and I'm going to work around it. So we have to stop thinking of food like it's evil or it's bad or it's a sin. It's like now some foods metabolize differently for all of you and others.
So I'm not saying that some of you may have allergies and you have to be careful of that. But I've moved away from that. I've also moved away from worrying about what a piece of metal says I should look like or how I should feel.
I'm taking photographs, inches. And so I'm looking at my body and my body is fitting into clothes that I couldn't that I was barely fitting into three years ago when I was 15 pounds lighter because I'm changing my body composition.
So I no longer let that piece of metal determine my value, how well I'm sleeping, how well I'm breathing, how well I'm moving, how good I feel, the energy I have.
That's what determines if my fitness and my nutrition are in order. So I'll get off the soapbox, Bethany. I know you've had to tackle this too, or you might want to take one of those other topics.
Yeah, I actually, I mean, they're all really good, but there were two that really stood out to me. So I feel like God's highlighting them. I saw, I just can't do it, whatever it is.
And, um, what I heard the Holy spirit say actually was, um, I think this is rooted from when you were in childhood, I saw almost like you were asking someone, someone for help with something.
Um, you were struggling to do something and you didn't get the help that you felt like you needed. And so you agreed with a lie back then when you were a child that you couldn't do it.
And so now you're still struggling with that same lie. I just can't do it. Anytime something feels beyond where you're at. And I say this with a lot of love, but we got to go into the heartwork for these things, because there's a reason why the enemy keeps limiting us and holding us back.
It's actually because we have a lot of potential. And so he came in and lied against your identity and your potential of what you can accomplish. Um, and this is for anybody, even if you didn't write that.
I mean, the reality is, is we can do way more than we know we can. There's a quote I used to keep up, you know, a lot of times we're actually intimidated by who we can become.
And so some of us stay stagnant because that feels more comfortable, but inside we have this inner angst. And so what I would say for anyone that feels like you can't do it.
Sometimes this also happens when the it feels way too big. I remember the first time someone gave me a word about my calling and what God was going to do in me and through me. I mean, it was so awesome, but it was so overwhelming.
And so over the years, that's something I prayed into a lot. And God just started talking to me about just do what I show you next. Like, don't worry about like, that's awesome. I have a goal. I have goals I move towards. I set those goals.
But overall, every day, my goal is to take one more step towards whatever it is that God is asking me to do that day. And y'all that's created momentum and really putting ourselves out there.
So how do we shift? Cause that's the other thing we got. We're talking about these, these topics, but how do you.
shift out of that. So I would start saying over myself, I am able to do whatever it is.
So for me recently, interestingly enough, the weight loss was a thing and God started
talking to me. I needed to start saying, God, thank you that I'm going to, I'm going to
lose weight. Thank you, God, that you're going to help my body to release this weight and
let it go. So things like, you know, book that I'm working on and the enemy's always
trying to tell me like all the reasons why I should enter a clinic because everybody
else has written the book. Well, that's not truth. So I have a word, I have a message
and God wants me to release it. And so I have to lean into that. I have something inside
of me that God wants me to release into the world to help set even one person free and
that matters. And so it goes back to, to when, um, interestingly when Jackie said, I don't
know where it's at, but like you are good soil, man, I felt power on that. Like so many
people don't even, we don't think we're good soil. So if you don't think you're good soil,
man, I would start there. I would start there because all these other lists are really important.
But if you don't think you're good soil, you're not going to think you're worth a guy or a
woman investing in you for a relationship. So maybe the relationship that's not, you
know, that you're wanting and it's not coming and it's not coming. Well, maybe it's because
you actually don't think you're worth them pursuing you or that you're worth them having
you as a husband or a wife. So go to the identity, go to the worth and things like
that. The other one, um, was the decluttering. And interestingly enough, this is something
I feel like the Lord is talking to me about tackling. So I thought it was funny that he
highlighted that maybe that's why, but what came to my spirit was, um, you know, we just
had a woman in phase two, that's been getting massive breakthrough y'all. She started cleaning
out this garage that was an overwhelming task for her. And she decided to start taking
bites, which is what I kind of said, you start somewhere. And as she started cleaning out
this garage, y'all, she started getting like breakthrough emotionally, mentally, spiritually,
like so much healing has been happening because she's cleaning out her garage. So sometimes
I think we resist cleaning out because there's things that are connected. There's emotions,
there's memories, there's pain. And sometimes also, um, just from my experience, when you
have a lot of loss growing up, maybe you get attached to things. Okay. So what does the
Lord want you to let go of first? Just start with one thing. And then the next day, get
rid of maybe something else and start to gain some momentum in that way.
And I think there's also something else to that. You guys, sorry, I can't be on camera
right now. But, um, with that, um, that if there's anything, okay. And I want you to
do an inventory right now, shut your eyes while I say these words and see if anything
comes up, everyone shut your eyes. If there's anything that you keep feeling like you need
to do, whether it's clean out a garage or a closet, or whether it's something else,
like go, you know, change your, change your passport back to your maiden name. It doesn't
matter what it is. It's something that you keep feeling like you need to do. It always
comes back up and you keep putting it off. There's breakthrough attached to that activity.
The enemy that if there's an area, specific area of procrastination in your life that
you just cannot, it comes up frequently, but you just can't go there and actually do it.
Then there is definitely something attached to that. That's going to cause breakthrough.
And I would love to see what those things are. If you guys could just put those in the
chat. I'm driving, so I can't read. So if someone could read them to me, that'd be great.
Yeah, that's what I was just wondering. So we've got a lot in here. So one is learning,
relearning Spanish, someone taking CPA exam, cleaning out closet, changing their last name,
getting a hair trim, clean out their office, do a business plan, complete video work for
a friend, get back into shape, pack their house for remodel, finished book, daily walks,
need to schedule a deliverance session, meet with the financial planner,
a lot of cleaning out, cleaning out closets, rooms, all that kind of stuff.
So this goes to, okay, so some of those are not like one bite, right? Cause like losing weight
or whatever. But you can do two.
day well, meaning that for those of you that it's a one and done, like go to the DMV and
change your name.
Do it.
There's breakthrough attached to it.
Meet with a financial planner.
Do it.
There's breakthrough attached to it.
For people that had more of like a, you know, it's more of like a series of things that
you need to do in that area.
Take the first step.
Do today well.
You know, part of the reason why we get overwhelmed and I used to really be like this is because
I'm a big picture thinker and some of you are like that too.
You're a visionary thinker.
You don't think in small details, okay?
You're not someone who can look at the minutiae.
You're someone who sees the forest, not necessarily the trees.
Okay?
And when you have that gift and it gets overextended by trauma, what happens is that you get overwhelmed.
You get massively overwhelmed.
Now, those of you that see the details, you see the trees and not the forest, you guys
get overwhelmed too, right, in a different way.
And so the problem with that is, is that when you're a big picture, when you're a futuristic
thinker, you get a tendency to get caught in daydreams, okay, instead of caught in right
now what you can do today.
And then you don't do it because you see all the pieces that you would need to actually
be successful and because you don't have those pieces yet, you don't do what you could do
today, right?
This is for everyone.
So God started talking to me and he'd say, Jackie, just do today well.
I'm like, what does that mean?
He means, he says, what can you do today towards this thing, right?
I want it to be in television, right?
You guys all know that.
God gave me this dream.
He gave me this vision.
He gave me this word that I was going to do this TV work and I had no education in that,
no qualifications, no experience, none of it, okay?
And so I started getting overwhelmed.
Do I need to go to broadcasting school?
Do you go back to college and go to, do I need to go to, you know, do I need to move
to New York and go to NYU and like, what do I need to do?
And God's like, you need to do today well, instead of worrying about what you don't have
in order to accomplish whatever it is that you just listed, what do you have?
It's like the woman with the cruise of oil.
She's like, I don't have anything.
The prophet's like, that's not true.
You got this oil right here.
Okay.
What can you do today?
What cow can you do today?
Well, maybe it's what Rizzo said.
You can only eat real food.
You can stop eating fake food that comes in boxes that is not food at all.
Today, you're like, oh, I got a craving.
I, you know, I, it's so hard for me to do.
Don't worry about tomorrow.
Just do it today.
Just today.
And then guess what?
Tomorrow will be today.
You're going to do another day well and another day well.
Can I just be honest with you?
This is how I quit smoking.
I used to smoke when I was a teenager.
I know, shocking.
But once again, didn't know Jesus.
And I smoked other things besides just cigarettes.
But that's a whole different story.
But the thing is, is that when it came time to quit smoking, I didn't know Jesus.
You guys, I actually quit smoking before I became a believer.
I only smoked for a couple years.
But I was hopelessly addicted to it because of trauma, right?
And stimulants are proven.
People have trauma.
They want to be stimulized or they want to be depressed.
Like they want the alcohol or they want the stimulant.
And so what I did was is every day I didn't focus on whether I was going to smoke tomorrow.
I only focused on getting through today, doing it today.
Does that make sense to everybody?
And for some of you, I feel this really strongly in my spirit.
You can't even do today well.
You just need to do this hour well.
You just need to do this minute well, okay?
And what does that well word mean?
It means do your best and then rest.
Like Rizzo said, she said, no, it was Bethany that said, she's like, God, I need you to
help me lose weight.
Here's the other key to momentum that none of us have said yet, but all of us were probably
thinking.
He said that his strength is made perfect in our weakness.
His strength is made perfect in our weakness.
And I'm going to tell you, when you start to gain some momentum, like just take me quitting
smoking.
Let's just take that as an example.
There came a point, you guys, in the success of that, that yeah, I could have smoked.
And so some of you, you're going to reward yourself with some weight loss with a Twinkie,
right?
You could eat that Twinkie and maybe someday you will eat the Twinkie.
But when it came to smoking, and I don't know why I'm saying this, I feel like someone here
is addicted to smoking.
And so you need to hear this.
We are not going to ask you to tell us, but I will tell you that, you know, I know Christian
people are like smoking, oh my God, you know, maybe it's drinking, maybe it's some other
kind of addiction.
Maybe it's smoking weed.
Who knows what it is?
But I will tell you this.
There comes a point in your deliverance.
There comes a point in your success.
from being up under whatever that is,
negative thinking, smoking, whatever it is,
that you've just gone so far
because you've done today well
over and over and over again,
that just the thought of doing it again,
then you realize you got to start back at the beginning,
you just don't want to do it.
Then you got to go through all the withdrawal again,
you got to, and you just, it's not,
it's not worth it to you.
What is that called?
That's called momentum.
When you start gaining momentum
and you start picking up speed,
you're just not willing to lose that momentum
for one moment of some fleeting self-medication
in whatever area it is.
Do you feel me?
You're not willing.
When you, listen, ladies, gentlemen,
when you finally get free from having sex
with people that you're not married to,
and you've gained some momentum
because you're doing every date well,
you're not just doing today well,
you're doing every date well,
you don't end up slipping and falling into someone's bed
with their private parts inside of yours.
Woo-hoo, you did it!
All right!
But here's the good news to that.
The good news is that once you get a streak like that going,
the moment that the few fleeting moments
of connection that you were feeling
and that anxiety medicator
that that sexual experience was doing for you,
whatever it was,
you're not willing to give up how you feel now
for that again.
Does that make sense?
You got what?
You got momentum!
All right, someone speak to this.
This is good.
Yeah, it is really good.
And I mean, just from, I mean, I lived that out personally
when I started putting myself and my value before my flesh
and what my flesh was telling me it thought it wanted.
I absolutely started gaining momentum
and it wasn't just in my relational life.
Like I started gaining momentum in my career,
in my, like my finances,
like everything started gaining momentum
when I really leaned into my value
and chose holiness and chose to be set apart
and chose to fight for legacy.
Okay, so stop there, Bethany,
and let them process that.
Did you hear what she said?
Did you hear her?
She said, momentum gives birth to momentum.
Yeah.
You guys, that's how that woman cleaning out her garage,
which makes no sense whatsoever
of how that would be connected
to any other type of breakthrough
besides just a clean garage.
That is how it caused momentum in other areas
because momentum creates momentum.
For some of you, really focusing on your health journey
will create momentum in your love life,
in your financial life, in your spiritual life.
My husband is one of those people,
I wish he was here and he could testify to you guys,
but when I married him,
he was already about 45, 50 pounds overweight.
He was pretty fluffy and he said to me,
I'm gonna be in the best shape of my life at 40 years old.
He was 36 at the time.
Guess what?
He's 52, still resembling a shape
that's not the best shape.
It's a round shape, but it's not the best shape.
It is a shape to be fair.
It is, but it's not the shape he was going for.
And guess what?
He got a word and the word said,
if you will take control of this area of your life,
you will have breakthrough in all areas of your life.
And guess what had happened?
My husband started, he joined a CrossFit gym.
You guys, I have never seen my husband work out
in my whole 17 years of marriage
beyond like maybe a few times.
He has been going consistently.
No one's forcing him.
I'm not nagging him into it.
He's doing it.
And guess what?
He is getting breakthrough in every area
of his life right now.
And I wish he was here to talk to you about it.
So I wanna put this out there.
Laura just asked a great question.
She said, so which area do you start in?
What area is getting highlighted to you?
What area keeps coming up?
Look, my husband needed breakthrough
and I'm not singling him out
because we all need breakthrough, including me.
But he really needed breakthrough
in a lot of areas of his life.
But this area, okay, because it was his main medicator.
Food was his main medicator.
When he surrendered this area to God
and he was willing to start doing the work
and let God give him the momentum,
it caused a domino effect in all the other areas.
So maybe take a look at the area
that you use as the self-medicator the most.
Maybe look at the area that God has highlighted
to you the most.
And even, Bethany, that's being highlighted to them right now under the sound of our voices
teaching these subjects.
What is coming up?
What is being highlighted to you?
And I'm going to encourage you right now to don't pick the one that's bringing you the
most shame.
That may not be like in financial piece, David Ramsey always actually has you start, he does
the snowball effect.
So you pay off your smallest credit card first, and then you build the momentum for the next
biggest credit card or the next biggest credit card.
So Renee, that is so good, because just today I posted on my Instagram, everybody needs
some wins.
So speak to that.
What you're saying right now is get a win under your belt.
Yeah, it's really about getting a win.
And so it's like, if losing 25 pounds or writing that book or paying off your debt is too big,
like start to list all of the things and start like, what is the one that you can get done
in the next 10 days, or the next three weeks, and do that one.
And then that one's going to give you the excitement and the momentum, as Bethany said,
to do the very next one.
And the very next one, it kind of gives you like excitement.
And even if it's lose weight or something, and your goal is 30 pounds, you might say,
I want to be able to walk 100 steps without sitting down.
I want to get to 1000 steps.
I want to be able to, you know, do a sit up.
I mean, like, do one push up, like give yourself these smaller wins.
And again, don't pick the one that you think the world has beat you down with, like the
one that's your nemesis.
You know, like, if you feel motivated, and the Holy Spirit is convicting you to go tackle
it, and it's done in love, yes, then God will do it.
Like my dad was able to quit smoking cold turkey at the age of 65, I think, and he'd
been smoking since he was 13 years old.
And we begged him for years.
And because there was so much pressure for him to do it, he just couldn't do it until
he was finally not feeling shame about it.
And the Holy Spirit was like, all right, now it's time.
And then he did it for the right reason for the right purpose.
And he was just able to cut it off.
You guys, after 50 years, I finally was able to stop biting my nails.
There was so much shame around nail biting that I couldn't even tackle that one first
because the enemy just had such a field day in my ear.
And you guys, this is why you have to just do today well.
And remember, if it's just this hour well, fine.
In whatever area it is that, you know, you really need that breakthrough.
You need to do that.
Because like Renee is saying, you know, you can't, you can't, you eat an elephant one
bite at a time.
You do.
All right.
Not that any of us are eating elephants, but it's a saying, and it's a saying for a reason.
You think about how big elephants are.
You couldn't eat it in one sitting.
You would have to eat it one bite at a time.
And for a lot of us, in fact, all of us, different areas of our lives, they're connected
like dominoes.
They're connected.
And so you might think, oh, you know, what difference is this little thing going to make?
Like what?
Like cleaning out your garage.
It makes a big difference.
It creates a momentum.
You guys know what momentum means, right?
It means gaining speed, right?
Until you get to a place where you're unstoppable.
It doesn't mean that you go zero to a hundred miles an hour in five seconds, right?
You're not a Lamborghini.
You are going to gain speed by increments, by successes, by wins.
For me, it was, my former husband told me that I couldn't take my daughter on vacation.
By the way, y'all, that was, I just celebrated the seventh anniversary of that.
Renee and Bethany, I forgot to tell you this.
When I was in San Francisco, you guys, speaking on that panel a couple of days ago, in my
Facebook memory, it popped up that I was in San Francisco on the very same day, seven
years ago.
You know what I was doing there?
I had my 16-year-old daughter and I took her to California for her 16th birthday because
that's what she wanted for her birthday.
You guys, I had never taken any of my family on a vacation in my entire life, all right?
I was, what, 42 years old, had never, ever gone on a vacation, had never been able to
afford a vacation where I'm the person taking someone on vacation.
And my former husband said, don't disappoint her by telling her you're going to take her.
We all know that you can't afford it and then, and you know, and that it's not true.
You're not going to be able to take her.
And you guys, that just made me mad enough that I went to the Lord and I was like, he's
right.
and it's not okay with me anymore that he's right.
Someone needs to get mad tonight
and you need to go to the Lord and say,
this thing that I'm believing about myself,
it's been true up until today, the facts point to it.
But your truth is greater than that
and I'm no longer okay with the facts.
I'm no longer okay to stay here.
And you know what?
God began to give me favor.
I got my little butt out and the only thing I had,
my little cruise of oil was my car.
And I signed up and I started delivering food and people
and guess what?
God allowed my fares to be people that tip me big.
In fact, I started driving this, this is a true story.
I started driving, not that all my stories are not true,
they are, but I know this is gonna be kind of fantastical.
I picked up this guy from a bar driving Uber
that was three sheets to the wind, all right?
Drunk as a skunk, for those of you that don't know
what that three sheets to the wind means.
And he liked me so much, thought I was so funny.
He was a local business owner and guess what?
An alcoholic, a raging alcoholic that he asked me
if I would pick him up from these bars regularly
and take him home.
You guys, he would tip me a hundred bucks every time.
I started picking up this drunk skunk from bars
and taking him home.
You guys were like, that sounds crazy, Jackie.
Yeah, so his name was Judd and he was super kind.
He was just not kind to himself.
And one night as I was taking him home
and this was right before I went on this vacation,
this was right before I had enough money
and every day I would come home with hundreds of dollars
towards this vacation and then I would buy
the plane tickets and then I would come home
and then I would rent the Airbnb
because I'd have enough money then.
And then I would do this and do that until what?
Until I had everything that I needed for that.
But one night as I was taking him home
and it was one of the last times that I ever saw him,
he was passed out drunk in the backseat of my car
and I started singing this song by the Helzers
called No Longer Slaves.
You guys know the song?
I was just driving my car with a passed out drunk man
in my backseat singing the song No Longer Slaves.
And I'm sure you guys know the song, right?
I'm no longer a slave to fear, I am a child of God.
And guess what?
He started rousing in his sleep
and he started singing it with me.
He started singing along like,
I don't know what this is but I like this song.
Yeah, you have a beautiful voice, keep singing.
And we kept singing and we were singing together
and then he's really singing like it's an Irish pub song
and he's singing it and he's getting more and more sober.
And before he got out of my car that night,
I talked to him about Jesus.
I talked to him about his liver.
I talked to him about his one and only life on this earth
and I was able to pray for him.
That's a true story.
And what happened in that story?
I got breakthrough and I wanna tell you guys something.
That was my first real win and I've never turned back since.
I've had win after win after win.
So Father God has prayed for all your sons and daughters
right now that are on this call.
You have wins for each and every one of them
and maybe they don't look the way they expected them
to look, maybe it's something that they're not even thinking
about being powerful in their life
to change their lives forever.
But I know that one taste of victory
because you've created them to be victors.
You've created them to be lenders and not borrowers.
One moment, God, where they have victory,
they will be addicted to it in a righteous way
and they will know that that is their true identity.
Victors is their true identity.
Overcomers is their true identity.
Father, we just thank you for it, God.
Right now, Lord, in each and every one of them, God,
we pray that you would stoke the fires,
stoke the fires of the overcoming spirit
that you've placed inside of them.
Stoke the fires of their identity,
their royal identity as daughters and sons.
You've created them to succeed, Lord.
And so Lord, we're asking that you would highlight
to them one thing, one thing that they can do,
that they could even do before we meet together again
on Saturday, where they can get that initial win
and then that win from heaven will be at their back,
pushing them forward into more and more and more
and more breakthrough in Jesus' name.
Let it be so, amen.
Amen, so good.
So good, it's been a blessing to be with you all tonight.
We hope to see you on Supernatural Saturday at 10 a.m.
on Eastern time this Saturday.
Have a great night, everyone.