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All right, so welcome everyone to your heart check-in.

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Obviously there's another heart check-in tonight at 8 p.m.

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and Bethany will be with you for that one.

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Wanted to kind of show my face in here.

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Raise your hand if you're newer

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and you've never done a heart check-in with me before.

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Okay, awesome.

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So last time you saw me was at the challenge, right?

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And now you're in heart work,

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you're in phase one and you're doing good.

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And so I wanted to make sure that I showed up

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and did a heart check-in for this group of ladies

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before we have all of our new ladies

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that will be joining us here in the next week or so.

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So a couple, just a couple little bits,

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little tidbits of housekeeping here at the beginning.

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Welcome to anyone who's new.

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How many of you, this is your very first heart check-in,

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you've never been to a heart check-in before?

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Anybody?

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Jen and Amberly, awesome.

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Well, welcome.

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And so you guys can come every Monday

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when you're in phase one.

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There's a 1 p.m. Eastern, as you are, as you know,

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because you're there right now.

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And there's also an 8 p.m. Eastern.

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And they're different, obviously.

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They might cover some of the same content,

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but they're going to be different

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because different people are going to be there,

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different questions are going to be asked.

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And so we usually only record one session per week,

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whether it's the one or the eight that gets recorded

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and put in the archives for you to view later.

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Today, we're going to record both

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because there's two different teachers,

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two different coaches.

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I'm going to coach,

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and then Bethany's going to coach tonight.

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So welcome to all of y'all.

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And then all of you that have been going,

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go ahead and put up in the chat for me real quick,

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what week of the content are you in for your first phase?

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One week, one, two, three, four, five, where are you?

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Let me see.

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Got a lot of week twos, some week threes.

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We got someone starting the forgiveness week,

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which is week four.

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Two people starting that week.

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Starting week three, but still processing week two.

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And you guys, hard work doesn't end.

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You're going to do hard work for the rest of your life.

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This is a tool belt full of tools

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that you'll be able to use

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to get those breakthroughs quicker

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as you go forward in life.

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Lots of people in week three,

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which is that confession,

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that repentance and confession week.

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Very important week.

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You guys, us owning our own stuff

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sets us up for week four,

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where we forgive others and ourselves.

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So repentance and confession

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of where we've dropped the ball

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or where we allowed or enabled abuse in our lives,

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that's a big thing.

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Don't ever want to victim shame people,

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but at the same time,

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it's important for us to own

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where we have enabled abuse.

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We have enabled abusers in our lives, right?

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Where we haven't had good boundaries,

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where we've continued to choose the same old,

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same old over and over again.

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And then when we're broken and lying on the floor,

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we just want to curse them, curse God.

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We want to be so upset.

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How could this happen to me?

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What is my life?

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But then we don't own how we chose those scenarios

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and relationships and situations, right?

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And so week three is so important of what's repentance.

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Repentance is just a fancy terminology.

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In a lot of people's minds,

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it's a very religious terminology for changing direction.

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That's all it is.

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All of us have been taught one thing or another

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about how to be successful in life.

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And a lot of us have believed

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that if you want something right,

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you have to do it yourself.

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If you want something done,

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you got to do it for yourself

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because there's no one else to do it,

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especially when you're single.

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Those are kind of lies that we internalize.

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And so what happens is we become very hyper-independent.

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And hyper-independence is a trauma response.

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God did not create you to be independent.

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And I know this is going to hurt

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at least one person's feelings.

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I don't know who,

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but someone either live or in replay.

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You're not actually supposed to be independent at all.

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Independence is a counterfeit identity.

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You're like, Jackie, never, never, never.

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Now, does that mean that you just lay in bed

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and wait for someone to come and pick you up

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and dress you and put food in your mouth?

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That's not independence.

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That's taking responsibility and accountability

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for your responsibilities.

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But a lot of, especially single women,

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but just women in general,

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because of the lack of trust for men and just others,

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anyone in authority, anyone that could help us in our lives

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because of bad experiences, because of trauma,

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because of origin family trauma with our moms and our dads,

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we have learned to do everything for ourselves.

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We have learned to be responsible for ourselves.

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We have learned to do everything for ourselves.

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Some of you were doing things for yourself

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far sooner than you ever should have.

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You were dressing yourself before you should have.

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You are making your own food before you should have.

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And while it's great that you learn those life skills.

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so you could survive. You've been in survivor mode ever since.

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You guys, I saw this horrible, horrible show.

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And I don't think I ever really saw a full episode of it,

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but it is a show and I don't know if it's still in production or not,

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but it's basically about an Asian culture that sends their toddlers

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out into the world to go run errands for the family.

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You guys, we're talking two and three-year-old children

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out running errands for the family.

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Barely can walk and talk and yet they are tasked with,

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you know, busy city streets and, you know,

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lists that are pinned to them for the grocer or whoever

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and bringing back things for the family.

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You guys, that's whack.

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That's crazy town, right?

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But apparently it's a cultural thing or maybe not.

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The show wants you to believe it's a cultural thing

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in wherever these people live.

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But the problem with that is that there is hyper-independence

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being taught from a very young age.

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And not only do we want you to grow up fast

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and become a productive member of this family,

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we expect you to work for this family too.

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I got my first job, like job job, when I was 12.

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And before that I had already babysat for years.

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I had already done odd jobs like shoveling people's, you know,

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snow and all different types of things to make money.

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Who else feels like they had a job since they were really young?

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And I don't know about y'all, put in the chat,

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but the reason why I had a job from the time I was really young

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was because I had a single mom that was never around

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and I also didn't have any money to buy anything that I needed.

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And so it was almost like if you need it,

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then you better go get it for yourself.

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There was a point in time when my mom married

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and she married wealthier, a wealthier person,

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but she still continued to have us live in a poverty mindset

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where if you want it, you need to go work and get it for yourself.

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Okay, look at there.

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Cleaning houses at 10 years old.

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Single mom, same, same.

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Okay, so you guys, we have taught,

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we've been taught by our experiences and by just necessity

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to figure out our lives.

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And in this process, you're going to have to let go of some of that.

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Not all of it because you still got to get out of bed and go to your job.

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You still have to get up and take a shower and get dressed

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But there are a lot of things that God would love

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to send someone to help you with and not just a romantic person.

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Okay, he is the source, but he's the head of the human resource department.

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Right?

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So all good things come down from the father of lights,

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but those good things oftentimes show up in the form of people.

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And if you're not able to ask for help and you're not able to allow help

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and when people say, hey, how can I help you say I'm fine,

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then that's a problem.

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I ran into a girl at church yesterday.

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She is a member of this community.

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She's not in this phase anymore.

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She's in the third phase, but you guys, her engine blew up

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while she was driving it.

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Something happened to her car just stopped, right?

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And she's not a mechanic and just because she's a woman doesn't mean

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she doesn't know anything about cars, but she happens to be a woman

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who doesn't know anything about cars.

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And so she didn't know what to do and she's so independent

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because she was basically raised by wolves like me.

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And so she's so independent because she didn't know what to do.

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She simply didn't do anything at all because she doesn't know

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how to ask for help.

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She doesn't know how to get help because she's not used to getting

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help.

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And so I ran into her church yesterday and I just said, hey,

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how are you doing?

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She goes, oh, well, I don't have a car and I go, oh, what happened?

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She said, I don't know.

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And I said, well, you need to find out what happened.

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And she goes, ah, she's like, I just, you know, I'm just, I'm just

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working from home and I'm just like taking Uber.

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I said, you need to get your car fixed.

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And I said, you know, how much do you owe on this car?

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She goes, I owe $16,000.

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I said, you can eat.

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I said, how much is your car payment?

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She said $547 a month.

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You got to get your car fixed.

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You can't just, oh, well.

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I don't know.

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But sometimes we get paralyzed, right?

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Who who's ever felt paralyzed?

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Because you're so used to depending on yourself and whatever's

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happening is way beyond your pay grade.

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And because you can't depend on yourself in it, you have no idea

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what to do.

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Anybody else?

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Come on, y'all.

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We're going to get free today.

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It's going to be great.

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So for all of you that raised your hands, for all of you that have

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admitted to hyper independence, that is a counterfeit identity that

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God wants to shift you out of.

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and it is going to take you to take,

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it's going to take you taking action.

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And what does that look like?

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That means you're going to have to feign helplessness

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a little bit.

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I know you're very, very competent and capable,

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but you're going to have to invite and allow

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and even ask others to assist you

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in this season of your life.

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Even with stuff that we know you could do on your own.

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Right?

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Now God did not break that girl's car down,

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but he will absolutely use this opportunity

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to change her if she will allow it.

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Do you know how many men we have in our church

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that probably know something about cars?

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And so that requires her to, to what?

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That requires her to ask for help, right?

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To go up to a brother in the Lord

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or a father in the Lord or someone and ask them,

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hey, do you know anything?

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Can you come take a look at my car?

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Do you know anyone else who knows anything about cars

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that can come and take a look at my car?

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Yes.

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So before anything goes wrong in your life

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that requires you to ask a man or ask somebody,

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some of y'all, who in here is a single mom?

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Amberly, do you have school-aged children?

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I bet there's lots of things

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that you could use an extra hand with sometimes, right?

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And so if you don't have those people in your life

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and you're not already asking them to help,

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and this is for anyone who's watching and replay as well.

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She has kids ages, five kids, ages 12 and under.

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Oh my God.

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So you could use, not just,

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you could use a whole bunch of extra hands.

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So you could use, not just,

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you could use a whole bunch of extra hands,

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but asking other people to do things for you

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instead of breaking your neck,

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trying to do them all yourself.

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It's time for us to come out of independence.

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You know why?

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Because marriage-minded men are looking for a wife

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that they can benefit.

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He wants to be a blessing to you.

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I know that we all joke around

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that all men's love language is touch,

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and it definitely is, right?

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We're like, all men want is one thing.

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No, they want a lot more than one thing.

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They do want that one thing, most of them,

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but they're willing to wait for it in the right context

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and make sure that you pick a man like that.

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But men also have a huge acts of service love language.

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They do.

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Most men want to serve,

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and divinely masculine men really do want to serve.

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They want to serve their families.

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They want to serve their wife.

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And so a man like that, who's divinely masculine,

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who's got a healthier heart,

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not a fully healthy heart, but a healthier heart,

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isn't going to be attracted to little Miss Independent.

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In fact, a lot of men tell me

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that they see independent women through the lens of,

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she's going to be difficult.

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She's not going to let me love her.

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She's going to be difficult.

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She's going to be argumentative.

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And it's not like they want some sort of toxic submission,

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but they want to know that you're going to allow them

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to partner with you.

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Healthier hearted men do not want hard women.

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Now, what came first, the chicken or the egg?

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Hard women are absolutely a product of bad men.

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Aren't they?

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For the most part?

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Men that are takers and not givers, right?

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Men that are abusive, men that are narcissistic,

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men that are selfish, men that are all those things.

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Men that are oppressive, men that are predatory.

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Over the generations.

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Some of you may never even experienced a man like that

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in your own life, but your mother did,

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or your grandmother did,

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or she's been passed down through your generations

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to have a natural inclination not to fully trust men.

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And so what do women do?

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We come out of our,

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and you're going to hear about this in phase two,

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when you guys get to the dating and love story accelerator

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about the divine feminine.

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But it's important in this confession week,

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which the majority of you guys are in,

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where you confess where you have not been divinely feminine.

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Yeah, it might've been for a good reason,

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but at the same time, you have to confess it

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because the word of God tells us

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what we confess will be healed of, right?

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Good.

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So we want to repent.

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We want to turn away from our past.

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away from whatever way life has caused us to have to go and we want to turn towards

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God's way.

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Some of you, at least one of you, I see Kelly in here is a widow.

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So your person was taken and then you become independent, right?

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When someone passes away, correct?

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Isn't that your story, Kelly?

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I'm sure.

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Is it?

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Did you, are you a widow or is, Oh, some other kind of loss?

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Which

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Yeah.

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I didn't know which Kelly you were talking to.

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All the Kellys.

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Okay.

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No.

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Okay.

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So, so law.

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So anyone in here, a widow, anyone's husband pass, pass, pass, pass anybody.

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Okay.

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Well, we also have a replay.

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So there'll be lots of people may be watching a replay as well.

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And I noticed that my name says David Dorman, which is not who I am obviously.

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But that also can thrust us into a place of independence where maybe we were doing good

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and we were soft and we were living the feminine life with a nice, strong, masculine man in

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our lives.

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And then they were taken away.

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And then we found ourselves in a place where we didn't know where the money was.

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Maybe we didn't know what assets we had.

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Maybe some things weren't in our name because we were over here like a little passenger

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princess, just letting him drive the car.

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And then what, and then a lot of times our pendulum might swing the other way where we're

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just like, Oh, I got to make sure that I'm in control because I don't ever want this

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to happen again.

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Not only did, was my man, you know, is my man gone and been taken to heaven.

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I also have been left in the lurch because I let him be in charge of too many things.

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Okay.

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So I feel like that's a word for someone.

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So if you're not here, then when you're watching and replay, just know that God is speaking

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to you.

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All right.

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So those are some good things.

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I think I covered the housekeeping stuff.

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Some of you have experienced attacks while you're entering the heart work and you're

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wondering, Hey, you know, before the heart work, I was fine.

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And now all of a sudden I'm experiencing what someone might call warfare.

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And I'm wondering why?

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Well, I mean, it's pretty obvious, right?

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You're making an attempt to move forward in your life.

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Raise your hand.

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If you believe in the opposing forces, raise your hand.

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If you have rock solid evidence that the opposing forces exist because of something that's happened

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in your life.

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Okay.

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So it looks like most of us believe in that.

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So obviously one plus one equals two.

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You are, you are making a concerted effort.

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Okay.

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God's grace, his highlight is upon you to gain momentum in your life, in your relationships,

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in the finished work of the cross.

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And of course the opposing forces, the enemy, Satan, Lucifer, whatever you want to call

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it, doesn't want that to happen because you don't just represent yourself.

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You represent an entire lineage and legacy that will be following after you.

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And everyone's lineage and legacy has a place in the timeline where something either went

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wrong or went right.

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And I propose to you that you are going to be that place in the timeline where something

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went really right.

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So you have the, you have the opportunity to be like what I call a kinsman redeemer

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for your family.

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And so this isn't just about your little marriage.

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Okay.

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This is about you getting massive breakthrough and everyone else behind you being able to

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follow in that path that you are forging out, right?

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Awesome.

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Okay.

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All right.

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So those are the things that, um, we're on the list.

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You guys are super quiet.

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That's fine.

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Attacks.

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Question.

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Why do I struggle to hear from Holy Spirit in general, but also to know the truth to

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replace the lies?

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Why do I struggle to hear from the, from Holy Spirit in general, but also to know the truth

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to replace the lies?

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You know, knowing someone's voice is about knowing them.

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You guys hear my voice right now.

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You guys took my challenge.

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All of you did.

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You're here.

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You're hearing my coaching.

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Now if I put you in a room full of voices, would you be able to pick out my voice?

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If you're in a room full of voices, would you be able to pick out my voice in all the

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voices?

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You know, because here's the thing.

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The thing is, is that I've been at the shopping mall, the grocery more than once where I've

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heard the word mom called.

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And I thought that they were talking to me, anybody else?

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Because even though it wasn't my child saying mom, it sounded like my child, right?

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It did.

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And it's important for us to understand that the more

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and more and more and more that we hear a voice,

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the more that we can discern that voice.

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That's what's important for us to understand.

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And so for those of you that are having trouble

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discerning the voice of Holy Spirit,

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spend more time with him.

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You know, practice hearing his voice.

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You're like, what does that look like?

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Okay, it's gonna be uncomfortable,

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but if you wanna practice hearing his voice,

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put a little bit of stakes on it.

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It's easy kind of just to sit around

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and just be like, you know,

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God speak to me through your spirit

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and then just begin to kind of journal out

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what you think you're hearing.

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And a lot of that has our own desires mixed in with it,

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right?

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And you can go to classes to learn how to hear

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and you can, you know, all the things.

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But where the rubber meets the road

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is you could go somewhere

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and you could say, you know,

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hey, Holy Spirit, you know,

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give me a word for someone here, right?

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And you could even pinpoint a specific person.

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You could even try it with someone that you know at church,

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but you know, God, give me a word for my friend Sally here.

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And then whatever it is that you hear

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or whatever it is that you feel

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or whether it is that is impressed upon you,

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I'm a big impression person.

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So when I say that Holy Spirit said to me,

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I don't mean like I heard it audibly

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or even that it was words in my mind.

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I had an impression that someone didn't feel good

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or someone was struggling with, you know,

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sadness or fear or, you know,

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someone had anxiety about a specific thing.

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It was like an impression.

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Does everyone know what an impression is?

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So a lot of times I perceive something.

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I'm a perceiver.

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I feel impressed about something, all right?

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So practice it.

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And you know what?

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You're gonna get it wrong 80% of the time at first,

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but you're also going to be learning, aren't you?

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And sometimes you're gonna get it partly right

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and partly wrong.

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That's okay.

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And just so you know that as you go further in our program,

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because I believe in ministering

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to the whole person holistically,

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this isn't just about your love life

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because your love life is gonna be attached

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to your financial life.

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And your physical life and your relationship

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with other people, including God life.

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And so it's not just about trying to take out

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this one little piece of your life and minister to it

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and prime the pump on it.

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It's about the whole you.

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Whole in Christ, complete in assignment for marriage,

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healed in family.

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And that's what we do here.

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And so we have an entire module on how to hear from God.

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And so you definitely will be learning more

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about how God is speaking to you.

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Holy Spirit is the God agent in the earth

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who was able to come to Supernatural Saturday last week

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and last night to Sunday night activation.

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Raise your hand if you came to either of those.

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Cause you're in luck.

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It was all about Holy Spirit.

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And only three of you here took advantage of that.

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Who here has never listened to a Supernatural Saturday

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or a Sunday night activation?

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Just raise it loud and proud.

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Let's see your hands.

519
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Brooke said she's never been to one.

520
00:23:27.200 --> 00:23:29.200
I guess let's do the opposite question.

521
00:23:29.200 --> 00:23:30.640
Raise your hand if you're off camera,

522
00:23:30.640 --> 00:23:32.600
raise your avatar hand if you have been

523
00:23:32.600 --> 00:23:34.000
to a Supernatural Saturday.

524
00:23:36.440 --> 00:23:37.280
Okay.

525
00:23:38.200 --> 00:23:39.960
Right, this last one was about speaking

526
00:23:39.960 --> 00:23:42.120
the language of heaven and then obviously hearing

527
00:23:42.120 --> 00:23:44.080
the language of heaven in order to speak it.

528
00:23:44.080 --> 00:23:45.720
So if you didn't get to hear last Saturday,

529
00:23:45.720 --> 00:23:48.000
Supernatural Saturday, make sure that you listen to it

530
00:23:48.000 --> 00:23:50.120
and then make sure that you go to,

531
00:23:50.880 --> 00:23:52.160
let me check one thing real quick.

532
00:23:57.200 --> 00:23:58.760
Okay, last night was recorded.

533
00:23:58.760 --> 00:24:01.880
So make sure that you go and you watch last night's.

534
00:24:01.880 --> 00:24:03.760
We don't always record Sunday night activation

535
00:24:03.760 --> 00:24:04.880
cause we have breakout rooms

536
00:24:04.880 --> 00:24:06.680
and all different types of things happening.

537
00:24:06.680 --> 00:24:09.800
But last night, because it's so important of a subject,

538
00:24:09.800 --> 00:24:13.440
it was recorded and it's all about that very question

539
00:24:13.440 --> 00:24:16.360
of how to hear,

540
00:24:17.360 --> 00:24:21.120
how to cultivate that relationship,

541
00:24:21.120 --> 00:24:23.600
that spiritual relationship, all right?

542
00:24:23.600 --> 00:24:26.200
Okay, time for questions, we're about 30 minutes in.

543
00:24:26.200 --> 00:24:29.760
So any questions that you have about any portion

544
00:24:29.760 --> 00:24:31.720
of the heart work that you're in,

545
00:24:31.720 --> 00:24:33.520
or really just any questions that you have,

546
00:24:33.520 --> 00:24:35.200
we'll go ahead and take those now.

547
00:24:36.560 --> 00:24:38.640
You can unmute yourself and ask,

548
00:24:38.640 --> 00:24:40.880
or you can put it up in the chat, either way.

549
00:24:47.080 --> 00:24:48.600
I have a question, Jackie.

550
00:24:50.040 --> 00:24:53.360
I was watching the stuff on soul ties and everything.

551
00:24:53.360 --> 00:24:57.120
And I feel I've done a lot of that work before.

552
00:24:57.120 --> 00:24:58.720
So I just am curious.

553
00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:05.000
Trying to filter through where to start with it.

554
00:25:08.840 --> 00:25:12.240
Part of me was feeling like I need to redo any or all

555
00:25:12.240 --> 00:25:13.320
or any that come to mind,

556
00:25:13.320 --> 00:25:16.360
but I know I've done that work in the past.

557
00:25:16.360 --> 00:25:18.560
So I was kind of confused.

558
00:25:18.560 --> 00:25:21.320
I definitely wouldn't go digging around.

559
00:25:21.320 --> 00:25:23.860
That's kind of one of our rules is no digging.

560
00:25:23.860 --> 00:25:28.120
So I wouldn't go digging around trying to find anything

561
00:25:28.120 --> 00:25:31.560
that's undone and also not just,

562
00:25:31.560 --> 00:25:34.720
oh, for the heck of it, just redoing any of them.

563
00:25:34.720 --> 00:25:36.680
It's more about a revealing for healing.

564
00:25:36.680 --> 00:25:41.680
So whatever's coming up as you're watching the material.

565
00:25:41.920 --> 00:25:44.180
Soul Ties is one of our longer sessions.

566
00:25:44.180 --> 00:25:45.080
It's pretty old.

567
00:25:45.080 --> 00:25:46.520
I'll have to probably replace it soon,

568
00:25:46.520 --> 00:25:49.000
but it was so good that we let it stand.

569
00:25:49.000 --> 00:25:54.000
But it talks about Soul Ties being not just relational.

570
00:25:55.000 --> 00:25:56.680
And that's really important for a lot of people

571
00:25:56.680 --> 00:25:58.640
because people, a lot of times they believe,

572
00:25:58.640 --> 00:26:01.440
if they have ever even heard of a Soul Tie,

573
00:26:01.440 --> 00:26:03.760
they believe that it's sexual in nature.

574
00:26:03.760 --> 00:26:04.760
A lot of people do.

575
00:26:05.600 --> 00:26:08.440
Raise your hand if you used to think Soul Ties were sexual.

576
00:26:09.440 --> 00:26:11.160
Lots of hands, see?

577
00:26:11.160 --> 00:26:12.000
All right.

578
00:26:12.000 --> 00:26:14.680
And then of course, a lot of people think

579
00:26:14.680 --> 00:26:16.600
that they're just romantic, even if they're not sexual,

580
00:26:16.600 --> 00:26:20.720
it's romantically in nature or it's even human in nature,

581
00:26:20.720 --> 00:26:22.720
but a Soul Tie is a human being.

582
00:26:23.480 --> 00:26:25.400
But a Soul Tie, sorry guys,

583
00:26:25.400 --> 00:26:27.480
I got like some little piece of thing in my throat,

584
00:26:27.480 --> 00:26:29.000
can also be to an idea,

585
00:26:29.000 --> 00:26:30.480
can be to a dream that you have

586
00:26:30.480 --> 00:26:32.400
that you just won't let die, right?

587
00:26:32.400 --> 00:26:35.360
Because you want it and you believe that,

588
00:26:35.360 --> 00:26:37.400
if you just keep trying to get it, you're gonna get it,

589
00:26:37.400 --> 00:26:39.480
but it's only just caused you a lot of harm.

590
00:26:39.480 --> 00:26:41.920
To a teaching maybe that you've received

591
00:26:41.920 --> 00:26:42.880
over the course of your life,

592
00:26:42.880 --> 00:26:46.840
to a person, a place, a thing.

593
00:26:46.840 --> 00:26:48.080
We can be Soul Tied.

594
00:26:48.080 --> 00:26:49.960
Cause you guys have to understand, you're a spirit.

595
00:26:49.960 --> 00:26:51.880
You are a spirit, everyone.

596
00:26:53.000 --> 00:26:54.080
Okay?

597
00:26:54.080 --> 00:26:56.400
What you see in the mirror is not who you are.

598
00:26:56.400 --> 00:26:59.200
You are a spirit.

599
00:26:59.200 --> 00:27:01.240
And someday you're gonna have a whole different vehicle

600
00:27:01.240 --> 00:27:03.280
to ride in besides this one.

601
00:27:03.280 --> 00:27:04.320
So you're a spirit.

602
00:27:04.320 --> 00:27:06.880
And right now you're living in this body.

603
00:27:06.880 --> 00:27:08.800
This is the only earthly body you're ever gonna have.

604
00:27:08.800 --> 00:27:10.080
So we need to take good care of it.

605
00:27:10.080 --> 00:27:11.320
I know a lot of people are just like,

606
00:27:11.320 --> 00:27:13.840
oh, well, you know, it's a temporary situation.

607
00:27:13.840 --> 00:27:17.320
Well, it's not temporary for this entire timeline on earth.

608
00:27:18.360 --> 00:27:19.720
So body is important.

609
00:27:19.720 --> 00:27:23.240
Cause your promises that you have from God,

610
00:27:23.240 --> 00:27:26.760
you can't go there if this body can't take you there.

611
00:27:26.760 --> 00:27:27.600
Right?

612
00:27:27.600 --> 00:27:30.120
So you're a spirit that lives in a body

613
00:27:30.120 --> 00:27:33.160
that possesses a soul.

614
00:27:34.200 --> 00:27:35.800
Your soul is a thing.

615
00:27:35.800 --> 00:27:36.640
Okay?

616
00:27:36.640 --> 00:27:38.280
It's part of who you are.

617
00:27:38.280 --> 00:27:39.760
The best way to describe it is the way

618
00:27:39.760 --> 00:27:42.120
that I've simply described it in the heart work protocol.

619
00:27:42.120 --> 00:27:44.520
And that is that it's the epicenter of your mind

620
00:27:44.520 --> 00:27:46.600
and your will and your emotions.

621
00:27:46.600 --> 00:27:50.920
Within scripture, the word mind and will and heart

622
00:27:50.920 --> 00:27:55.040
and soul are all often interchanged.

623
00:27:55.040 --> 00:27:55.920
Okay?

624
00:27:55.920 --> 00:27:56.760
So that's what it is.

625
00:27:56.760 --> 00:27:57.760
It's your heart part.

626
00:27:59.760 --> 00:28:04.480
Out of the quality of the heart or soul

627
00:28:04.480 --> 00:28:06.160
comes the quality of your life.

628
00:28:07.560 --> 00:28:08.720
This is an important place

629
00:28:08.720 --> 00:28:11.000
because this is where all the information is being kept.

630
00:28:11.000 --> 00:28:13.120
Whether it's bad information,

631
00:28:13.120 --> 00:28:14.800
whether it's good information,

632
00:28:14.800 --> 00:28:17.400
whether it's right information or wrong information,

633
00:28:17.400 --> 00:28:20.560
all the experiences, all the memories,

634
00:28:20.560 --> 00:28:22.320
everything is being kept here.

635
00:28:22.320 --> 00:28:24.200
It's not being kept here in your mind.

636
00:28:24.200 --> 00:28:29.200
It's being kept here in your soul, in your heart.

637
00:28:29.360 --> 00:28:30.480
Okay?

638
00:28:30.480 --> 00:28:31.840
In master control.

639
00:28:31.840 --> 00:28:36.840
And so this place in us gets tied to things,

640
00:28:38.320 --> 00:28:42.360
especially to wrong thinking, ideologies.

641
00:28:43.240 --> 00:28:44.080
Right?

642
00:28:44.080 --> 00:28:47.520
It's tied to some sort of dogma or religion.

643
00:28:47.520 --> 00:28:50.200
You can be soul tied to a lot of things

644
00:28:50.200 --> 00:28:53.000
where that is actually tethering you

645
00:28:53.000 --> 00:28:57.320
to something other than what Jesus died to give you.

646
00:28:57.320 --> 00:29:02.320
And so we want to cut those ties.

647
00:29:02.320 --> 00:29:04.960
We want to open ourselves up to new information.

648
00:29:04.960 --> 00:29:09.000
And so it's important for us to address those things

649
00:29:09.000 --> 00:29:11.120
and to come out of agreement with those things.

650
00:29:11.120 --> 00:29:12.720
And that's really what breaking soul ties is,

651
00:29:12.720 --> 00:29:15.080
just coming out of agreement with those things.

652
00:29:15.080 --> 00:29:16.160
All right?

653
00:29:16.160 --> 00:29:18.760
I'll have to revisit some of the language in that teaching

654
00:29:18.760 --> 00:29:21.720
because I haven't seen it in a really long time,

655
00:29:21.720 --> 00:29:25.600
but we definitely want to make sure that we understand

656
00:29:25.600 --> 00:29:30.120
that we can be held back by a lot of things.

657
00:29:31.400 --> 00:29:34.440
You can be soul tied to your family in a negative way.

658
00:29:36.160 --> 00:29:38.520
Maybe you have the best parents in the world

659
00:29:38.520 --> 00:29:40.840
and they're still alive, they're not passed away,

660
00:29:40.880 --> 00:29:45.880
and you have a unhealthy soul tie to them.

661
00:29:48.800 --> 00:29:51.240
And maybe it manifests as an unhealthy boundary.

662
00:29:53.480 --> 00:29:55.960
You care so much about what they believe

663
00:29:55.960 --> 00:29:58.360
and what they think that it's actually keeping you

664
00:29:58.360 --> 00:30:00.360
from making decisions for your own life.

665
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:03.680
life. I just had it happen the other day, I had a student show

666
00:30:03.680 --> 00:30:08.560
up and you know, in a group setting and say, you know, I

667
00:30:08.560 --> 00:30:12.600
really I really want to do this. But my this and this woman is

668
00:30:12.600 --> 00:30:15.960
like, older, you know, she's at least in her 40s, maybe even

669
00:30:15.960 --> 00:30:21.480
closing on 50. But my dad doesn't approve. My parents

670
00:30:21.480 --> 00:30:26.480
don't want me to. It's like, okay, so how do we navigate the

671
00:30:26.480 --> 00:30:33.000
line of respect and control? Right? And so that's an

672
00:30:33.000 --> 00:30:38.560
unhealthy tether happening there between someone who is of her

673
00:30:38.600 --> 00:30:48.080
age, and her parents. Now, here's the good news. You don't

674
00:30:48.080 --> 00:30:52.680
only cut soul ties with people that you want to, you know, not

675
00:30:52.680 --> 00:30:56.040
be like, like your husband, you know, your your, you know, your

676
00:30:56.040 --> 00:30:59.520
former husband or someone who you were in some sort of abuses,

677
00:30:59.560 --> 00:31:03.400
abusive or toxic situation with maybe a crazy community that

678
00:31:03.400 --> 00:31:05.760
you were part of that you finally realize, oh, this is

679
00:31:05.760 --> 00:31:08.400
super unhealthy, and I need to get away. Maybe you love your

680
00:31:08.400 --> 00:31:11.120
family, or you love your best friend, you've been best friends

681
00:31:11.120 --> 00:31:15.280
for 40 years, you guys saw the cutest little old couple in the

682
00:31:15.280 --> 00:31:18.240
waiting room of a doctor's office the other day, two ladies

683
00:31:18.480 --> 00:31:22.120
that had been best friends, as they told me for 60 years,

684
00:31:22.400 --> 00:31:24.640
they've literally witnessed each other's lives. They've been

685
00:31:24.640 --> 00:31:28.880
friends since they were like, 10 years old. Now, has to be

686
00:31:28.880 --> 00:31:32.280
more than that. Because the one lady said, I'm 86 years old to

687
00:31:32.280 --> 00:31:34.040
me. And I said, Oh, you're looking good. And the other one

688
00:31:34.040 --> 00:31:37.280
said, I'm 85 and a half. And I said, you're looking good, too.

689
00:31:38.160 --> 00:31:41.000
And then the one lady was just like, now when we get in there,

690
00:31:41.000 --> 00:31:43.320
let me do the talking. She's like, I didn't even ask you to

691
00:31:43.320 --> 00:31:45.480
come with me. Like, they're just like bickering, like little

692
00:31:45.480 --> 00:31:48.880
sisters, you know, but they're best friends, right? I guarantee

693
00:31:48.880 --> 00:31:54.120
you, there's some unhealthy soul tie going on there. Right? Where

694
00:31:54.120 --> 00:31:56.640
they resent each other, but they love each other. So we want

695
00:31:56.640 --> 00:31:59.840
to kind of have a healthy relationship with someone,

696
00:31:59.840 --> 00:32:03.760
especially long term like that, then we have to, you know, get

697
00:32:03.760 --> 00:32:07.480
rid of some of the things between us that are keeping us

698
00:32:07.480 --> 00:32:10.640
in some bad patterns. And that's what soul ties can look like. So

699
00:32:10.640 --> 00:32:12.840
you can keep your parents that your parents that you love so

700
00:32:12.840 --> 00:32:15.320
much, and they're probably not going to like it when you stop

701
00:32:15.320 --> 00:32:18.000
giving them so much control in your life when you're 45 years

702
00:32:18.000 --> 00:32:20.760
old. And there's probably going to be some pushback and maybe

703
00:32:20.760 --> 00:32:28.560
even some backlash, not just pushback, but backlash, but it

704
00:32:28.560 --> 00:32:31.960
has to be done. If that relationship is going to be

705
00:32:32.560 --> 00:32:35.160
healthy, it has to be done. Kelly here is saying I had a

706
00:32:35.160 --> 00:32:38.720
soul tie to a doctor who caused nerve damage to my body. I was

707
00:32:38.720 --> 00:32:42.040
released and freed from that pain. And she had that happen

708
00:32:42.040 --> 00:32:44.640
here in this program. Kelly is one of our peer coaches and

709
00:32:44.640 --> 00:32:50.280
she's shadowing today. So yeah. Alright, so Kelly, does that

710
00:32:50.280 --> 00:32:50.800
help you?

711
00:32:53.920 --> 00:32:58.440
Yes, and no, I'll just pray and see what what's the no Holy

712
00:32:58.440 --> 00:33:04.200
Spirit brings up? Well, yeah. I mean, that's a good explanation

713
00:33:04.200 --> 00:33:07.320
of soul ties. It doesn't tell me where to start. But clearly, I

714
00:33:07.320 --> 00:33:11.760
need to I need to ask Holy Spirit and see what comes up in

715
00:33:11.760 --> 00:33:14.280
terms of what to break and whatever else.

716
00:33:15.520 --> 00:33:19.040
Well, and it and what I'm trying to say is, and of course,

717
00:33:19.080 --> 00:33:23.640
teaching on the greater purpose of soul ties, and breaking them

718
00:33:23.640 --> 00:33:26.480
for everyone based on your question, you might not have

719
00:33:26.480 --> 00:33:30.320
anything. Just because it exists in the material doesn't mean

720
00:33:30.320 --> 00:33:33.560
that you have it, you guys just want to let you know, it might

721
00:33:33.560 --> 00:33:36.440
be some work that you've already done. I will tell you that we

722
00:33:36.440 --> 00:33:39.680
have never had anyone not one person come through this

723
00:33:39.680 --> 00:33:44.320
program that didn't get massive breakthrough in this first phase

724
00:33:44.320 --> 00:33:47.280
and something no matter how much teaching or training or

725
00:33:47.280 --> 00:33:50.000
coaching, or maybe they were a coach, or it doesn't even matter.

726
00:33:50.160 --> 00:33:53.000
So that might not be the area where you still need any work.

727
00:33:53.760 --> 00:33:59.080
And so don't try to force yourself into that, right. But a

728
00:33:59.080 --> 00:34:01.640
lot of times also, let me just put this out there, you might

729
00:34:01.640 --> 00:34:04.880
have a soul tie to an idea, like, for instance, because

730
00:34:04.880 --> 00:34:08.760
we're all in here, because we want, you know, a partner, a

731
00:34:08.760 --> 00:34:12.239
kingdom partner to do life with, you might have a soul tie to a

732
00:34:12.239 --> 00:34:21.480
type of man. Okay. And if you find that you have a type, it's

733
00:34:21.480 --> 00:34:24.040
possible that you have a soul tie to that type, because you

734
00:34:24.040 --> 00:34:26.800
don't have a spirit tie to it. And your body's only doing what

735
00:34:26.800 --> 00:34:30.600
your soul tells it to do. So if you're always attracted to the

736
00:34:30.600 --> 00:34:33.679
wrong men, then we got to look at that because that's all die.

737
00:34:34.520 --> 00:34:37.560
Right? Because your body is going to respond to what your

738
00:34:37.560 --> 00:34:42.400
soul wants. Does everyone understand that? And why does

739
00:34:42.400 --> 00:34:46.360
your soul want that? That's the question. And so that's

740
00:34:46.360 --> 00:34:49.040
something to pray into that just came up, you know, I feel like

741
00:34:49.040 --> 00:34:52.920
that's a word knowledge for somebody. So these are very kind

742
00:34:52.920 --> 00:34:57.280
of untraditional thinking about what a soul tie is, but you can

743
00:34:57.280 --> 00:34:58.640
be tied to an idea.

744
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:08.080
can. I saw one precious man. I love him so much. He's a great guy, but he was the general manager

745
00:35:08.080 --> 00:35:14.480
of a radio station. And because of some politics and Christian radio, um, there was some jockeying

746
00:35:14.480 --> 00:35:20.160
for position. And then he got fired and he believed that he had a word from the Lord

747
00:35:20.160 --> 00:35:26.960
that he was going to get that position back for that radio station. And I personally

748
00:35:27.920 --> 00:35:34.880
watched him for over 15 years, wait for that to come true, putting his life on hold. Now I

749
00:35:34.880 --> 00:35:40.160
have moved away. And the thing is, is he was, by the time I met him, he had already been waiting

750
00:35:40.160 --> 00:35:45.120
for probably a decade. And then I watched him wait for 15 years of my acquaintance with him.

751
00:35:45.120 --> 00:35:49.760
And now I haven't lived near him for about seven, eight years. So I have no idea if he's still

752
00:35:49.760 --> 00:35:57.760
waiting, but y'all that's a soul tie. Okay. That's not contending for a promise of the Lord.

753
00:35:57.760 --> 00:36:01.760
There were no confirmations that this was going to take place. And I just want to let you know,

754
00:36:01.760 --> 00:36:07.120
the promises of God don't have those types of timelines. They don't have those types of

755
00:36:07.120 --> 00:36:13.440
timelines. Okay. If God has promised you to see salvation in your family, you know, something

756
00:36:13.440 --> 00:36:19.840
that is a long-term situation. This man has a short, brief amount of time to work on the earth

757
00:36:19.840 --> 00:36:26.400
as far as vocation is concerned, right? You may receive intergenerational promises, promises that

758
00:36:26.400 --> 00:36:30.320
are not just to you, but they're to your children and your children's children about your family

759
00:36:30.320 --> 00:36:34.400
line and about lineage and legacy and different things like that. And that's awesome. And you

760
00:36:34.400 --> 00:36:39.840
might just like King David only be carrying a small portion of that. Right. And your kids might

761
00:36:39.840 --> 00:36:43.920
be carrying something in your, in your grandkids might be carrying something that fulfills that

762
00:36:43.920 --> 00:36:50.960
promise of God. This man's promise was about him. And it was about his working years. And when I

763
00:36:50.960 --> 00:36:59.360
met him, he was already 50 years old or 49, 48 years old. So you see that there's, you know,

764
00:36:59.360 --> 00:37:08.400
we've got a problem, Houston, something's wrong here, but he was so soul tied to that idea that he

765
00:37:09.840 --> 00:37:16.240
couldn't get away from it. And so what do we do when we break a soul tie, especially if it's

766
00:37:16.240 --> 00:37:22.720
tied to an idea, you know, some of you, you may have, you know, just this coming up in my spirit

767
00:37:22.720 --> 00:37:30.000
right now, you may have this promise, what you believe is a promise from the Lord that an old

768
00:37:30.000 --> 00:37:38.000
relationship is going to return to you. And you're patiently doing what you can to try to make that

769
00:37:38.000 --> 00:37:44.800
happen. You're even here, possibly trying to, you know, be obedient to do what you can do so that

770
00:37:44.800 --> 00:37:49.600
this can happen, but there's no evidence of this happening. In fact, this person has moved on.

771
00:37:49.600 --> 00:37:54.240
In fact, I'm feeling like this person's even married to someone else. You got to let that go.

772
00:37:55.760 --> 00:37:58.880
You got to break that soul tie. God has something better for you,

773
00:37:59.520 --> 00:38:04.800
but you can't have the better thing as long as you are tied and tethered to this other thing.

774
00:38:05.280 --> 00:38:08.640
And the reason why you can't have it is because you're tied and tethered, not because you're not

775
00:38:08.640 --> 00:38:13.840
allowed to have it, not because God doesn't want it for you, because you won't let go of something

776
00:38:13.840 --> 00:38:18.880
else. And so it's not a punishment that you can't have the new thing. You just simply don't have

777
00:38:18.880 --> 00:38:23.840
your hands open for it. You're not looking for it. You're looking for this and you're digging

778
00:38:23.840 --> 00:38:30.400
ditches where it's not going to rain. This is not going to happen. Okay. And you got to let it go.

779
00:38:30.480 --> 00:38:37.040
And you got to let it go. And all of you probably have something in your life that is intangible

780
00:38:37.040 --> 00:38:44.080
like this that you should let go of. So pray into that, Kelly, you as well, everyone pray into,

781
00:38:44.080 --> 00:38:49.200
Hey, am I holding on to something, you know, um, that I just really should let go of.

782
00:38:50.880 --> 00:38:53.920
And then go ahead and go through the steps of breaking a soul tie for that thing.

783
00:38:54.880 --> 00:38:58.240
All right. And making room for the better, the more,

784
00:39:01.520 --> 00:39:06.240
and here's why you don't have to be scared of that. If it actually is something that, you know,

785
00:39:06.240 --> 00:39:10.960
is going to come to pass literally the way that you think it is going to come to pass,

786
00:39:10.960 --> 00:39:14.960
you letting go of it and giving it back to God, isn't going to stop that from happening,

787
00:39:15.680 --> 00:39:20.880
but it is going to stop you from pining away and waiting in a waiting room.

788
00:39:21.120 --> 00:39:27.840
Instead of moving forward in the kingdom. Cool. All right. Alexa was just about to ask that. So

789
00:39:27.840 --> 00:39:34.480
lots of words of knowledge happening here. So that's great. Cool. So Kelly, great question.

790
00:39:34.480 --> 00:39:40.560
You see how great questions, even if you think it's like, should I even ask it lead to help for

791
00:39:41.280 --> 00:39:46.080
other people in different areas? So anybody else?

792
00:39:50.320 --> 00:39:51.600
I have a question, Jackie.

793
00:39:53.680 --> 00:39:54.640
Just take turns. Go ahead.

794
00:39:56.080 --> 00:39:59.840
Um, I'm watching the, the hope I was watching.

795
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:02.520
Watching the hope replay of the,

796
00:40:02.520 --> 00:40:05.000
like after doing the hope worksheet

797
00:40:05.000 --> 00:40:09.160
and just wondered if you had any,

798
00:40:09.160 --> 00:40:10.540
I feel very,

799
00:40:15.200 --> 00:40:18.240
not nervous, but nervous to,

800
00:40:18.240 --> 00:40:20.480
I'm trying to want what like God wants

801
00:40:20.480 --> 00:40:21.400
and I really appreciate,

802
00:40:21.400 --> 00:40:24.880
I've read your books and I like how direct you are

803
00:40:24.880 --> 00:40:28.500
in terms of saying, like if it's a desire of your heart,

804
00:40:30.080 --> 00:40:31.720
God put it there and,

805
00:40:31.720 --> 00:40:34.560
because I'm trying to talk myself out of that.

806
00:40:34.560 --> 00:40:38.000
And so as I'm doing this heart work,

807
00:40:38.000 --> 00:40:40.320
there are days where I feel like

808
00:40:40.320 --> 00:40:42.040
I don't wanna be married at all.

809
00:40:43.080 --> 00:40:45.760
And I know that that might just be a fear response,

810
00:40:47.200 --> 00:40:48.680
but I'm just trying to,

811
00:40:48.680 --> 00:40:50.800
I'm getting a lot of mixed messages

812
00:40:50.800 --> 00:40:52.120
in my own heart and mind.

813
00:40:52.120 --> 00:40:53.900
And I'm just wondering, A, if that's normal

814
00:40:53.900 --> 00:40:55.560
and B, how you process that,

815
00:40:55.560 --> 00:40:59.800
because I'm trying to be content with where I'm at

816
00:41:00.600 --> 00:41:03.920
and also move forward in this work.

817
00:41:05.240 --> 00:41:08.480
And then just get, it's getting a little bit confusing

818
00:41:08.480 --> 00:41:10.680
and I'm not just not sure if that's normal.

819
00:41:13.320 --> 00:41:15.200
Yeah, okay, so two things,

820
00:41:15.200 --> 00:41:18.760
two things that come to my heart when you're talking

821
00:41:18.760 --> 00:41:23.760
and that is, it is 100% okay to love your single life

822
00:41:24.960 --> 00:41:28.000
and also hold space for partnership.

823
00:41:29.000 --> 00:41:30.480
And you should.

824
00:41:30.480 --> 00:41:32.400
And that's what last year's single is all about.

825
00:41:32.400 --> 00:41:34.240
We want you to love your single life.

826
00:41:34.240 --> 00:41:35.760
That's why we have last trip single,

827
00:41:35.760 --> 00:41:37.480
go on vacations together,

828
00:41:37.480 --> 00:41:40.640
do all the things that you've always wanted to do.

829
00:41:40.640 --> 00:41:43.120
You're not waiting for your life to begin, friends.

830
00:41:43.120 --> 00:41:43.960
You're not.

831
00:41:43.960 --> 00:41:46.720
The man is not the magic bullet of happiness.

832
00:41:46.720 --> 00:41:49.880
Hopefully you're not soul tied to that idea

833
00:41:49.880 --> 00:41:51.720
because you watched too much Disney,

834
00:41:51.720 --> 00:41:53.920
because it's not true.

835
00:41:53.920 --> 00:41:57.480
And we can be soul tied to an over romantic idea

836
00:41:57.480 --> 00:42:01.720
of what relationship and marriage looks like

837
00:42:01.720 --> 00:42:03.440
and we'll be very disappointed

838
00:42:03.440 --> 00:42:05.440
and very disillusioned if we do that.

839
00:42:05.440 --> 00:42:06.520
And so that's important.

840
00:42:06.520 --> 00:42:09.760
Let that, let that go, okay?

841
00:42:09.760 --> 00:42:12.240
And so number one, it's great

842
00:42:12.240 --> 00:42:14.240
that you're wanting to be content where you are,

843
00:42:14.240 --> 00:42:16.160
but not satisfied, right?

844
00:42:16.160 --> 00:42:19.960
You want more, you want to feel full, but not satisfied.

845
00:42:19.960 --> 00:42:22.440
And that's obviously a very supernatural thing

846
00:42:22.440 --> 00:42:24.920
that we have to hold with both of those things.

847
00:42:24.920 --> 00:42:27.120
And then secondly, Stephanie,

848
00:42:27.120 --> 00:42:32.120
you are actually in a very large group of women

849
00:42:32.240 --> 00:42:33.840
that have come through this program

850
00:42:33.840 --> 00:42:35.240
that are like, yeah, I'm here.

851
00:42:35.240 --> 00:42:37.200
I felt like God had me come here,

852
00:42:37.200 --> 00:42:38.920
but the more that I do this work,

853
00:42:38.920 --> 00:42:40.560
the more that I'm just really not sure

854
00:42:40.560 --> 00:42:42.560
if I even want this anymore.

855
00:42:42.560 --> 00:42:47.560
And it usually is tied to, are you divorced?

856
00:42:49.600 --> 00:42:53.960
Okay, so it's usually tied to the idea,

857
00:42:53.960 --> 00:42:57.120
not soul tied, but it's usually tied to the idea

858
00:42:57.120 --> 00:43:02.120
that we don't ever want to live like that again, right?

859
00:43:05.120 --> 00:43:07.720
And so obviously whatever marriage you had

860
00:43:07.720 --> 00:43:09.880
is not God's best for you.

861
00:43:11.040 --> 00:43:13.720
And what's going to happen with you now

862
00:43:13.720 --> 00:43:16.680
in this healing process is just letting go

863
00:43:16.680 --> 00:43:21.680
of that and marriage being together with that.

864
00:43:22.680 --> 00:43:27.080
Like you call that marriage, right?

865
00:43:27.080 --> 00:43:29.840
But obviously it wasn't God's idea of marriage, was it?

866
00:43:31.560 --> 00:43:33.200
No, and that was 12 years ago.

867
00:43:33.200 --> 00:43:35.920
And I had never heard of you before very recently.

868
00:43:35.920 --> 00:43:40.280
And after being in a relationship that I thought

869
00:43:40.280 --> 00:43:44.200
was actually, it's because I've been single for 12 years

870
00:43:44.200 --> 00:43:46.200
and I've had to do a lot of work.

871
00:43:46.200 --> 00:43:50.560
And our stories are very identical in many ways.

872
00:43:51.920 --> 00:43:54.160
I moved out when I was 16, blah, blah, blah.

873
00:43:54.160 --> 00:43:59.160
And I have a point, I promise.

874
00:44:03.880 --> 00:44:05.720
That relationship ended

875
00:44:05.720 --> 00:44:10.720
and it brought the spiritual warfare part of things.

876
00:44:11.120 --> 00:44:13.000
And I've just been caught off guard a lot.

877
00:44:13.000 --> 00:44:14.680
And so I feel very nervous

878
00:44:14.680 --> 00:44:16.800
about what God is gonna ask of me in the future.

879
00:44:16.800 --> 00:44:19.520
And I don't feel particularly hopeful.

880
00:44:19.520 --> 00:44:21.520
I'm trying to live in reality,

881
00:44:22.360 --> 00:44:23.360
which you talk about a lot.

882
00:44:23.360 --> 00:44:28.040
And so I'm in between this, people keep saying,

883
00:44:28.040 --> 00:44:30.280
oh, if it's not good yet, God's not done yet.

884
00:44:30.280 --> 00:44:32.600
And I'm like, no, okay.

885
00:44:32.600 --> 00:44:34.120
So I know that there's this,

886
00:44:34.120 --> 00:44:38.400
I know that there's a trepidation there and a cynicism.

887
00:44:38.400 --> 00:44:40.800
And I love your explanation of soul ties.

888
00:44:40.800 --> 00:44:43.000
And I really appreciate that Kelly asked that question

889
00:44:43.000 --> 00:44:45.760
because I think that you offered a different perspective

890
00:44:45.760 --> 00:44:48.960
that I've never heard before around really being attached

891
00:44:48.960 --> 00:44:50.200
to certain ideas and outcomes,

892
00:44:50.200 --> 00:44:51.840
even if that's my own cynicism

893
00:44:51.840 --> 00:44:53.480
or trying to talk me out of something I want

894
00:44:53.480 --> 00:44:54.560
because I think I'm not gonna get it

895
00:44:54.560 --> 00:44:57.000
or that I'm not capable of having it,

896
00:44:57.000 --> 00:44:58.320
which is one of my fears.

897
00:44:58.320 --> 00:44:59.760
I think currently.

898
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:08.320
I am afraid and I also asked God about eight weeks ago or so,

899
00:45:08.320 --> 00:45:11.200
like I need help to navigate this.

900
00:45:11.200 --> 00:45:13.720
I've never been where I am currently.

901
00:45:13.720 --> 00:45:16.880
When you've read all the books and done all the things and you're still kind of

902
00:45:16.880 --> 00:45:20.440
stuck in your own cycle of thinking,

903
00:45:20.440 --> 00:45:24.880
you're very different than anyone I've really

904
00:45:24.880 --> 00:45:32.000
encountered so far in the work that I've done around your perspective.

905
00:45:32.000 --> 00:45:33.960
And it's helpful for me.

906
00:45:33.960 --> 00:45:38.560
It's just it's just also bringing a lot up for me of what the religious people

907
00:45:38.560 --> 00:45:44.040
have kind of said and the people in my community have said around just be content.

908
00:45:44.040 --> 00:45:45.920
God will bring it when you're not looking.

909
00:45:45.920 --> 00:45:50.040
There's a lot of basically you're saying a lot of things that I have never heard

910
00:45:50.040 --> 00:45:54.200
before as a person raised in a really religious community for a long time.

911
00:45:54.200 --> 00:45:55.520
I live in Redding, California.

912
00:45:55.520 --> 00:45:59.800
So if that gives you any kind of a grid, I think, you know, where,

913
00:45:59.800 --> 00:46:02.200
who and that will make sense to you.

914
00:46:02.200 --> 00:46:06.720
I'm probably not making a lot of sense, but I I appreciate you.

915
00:46:06.720 --> 00:46:11.240
I think I just feel a little overwhelmed and a little lost.

916
00:46:11.240 --> 00:46:16.080
But I also don't want to be for crying.

917
00:46:16.080 --> 00:46:22.640
I don't want to keep like walking down this road if this is not what God has.

918
00:46:22.680 --> 00:46:25.400
And I just feel really leveled.

919
00:46:25.400 --> 00:46:29.600
But I'm here like I'm showing up and I'm like, don't make excuses.

920
00:46:29.600 --> 00:46:30.520
Don't be a victim.

921
00:46:30.520 --> 00:46:31.840
Like suck it up.

922
00:46:31.840 --> 00:46:33.560
I'm trying like really hard.

923
00:46:36.480 --> 00:46:40.240
But I'm just having a hard time, so I don't I don't even know if I'm

924
00:46:40.240 --> 00:46:41.440
going to make it through the hard work.

925
00:46:41.440 --> 00:46:45.200
And I know there's not maybe like a time frame, but I'm just like,

926
00:46:45.200 --> 00:46:49.920
I don't think I'm going to be on the 30 the 30 days mark.

927
00:46:49.920 --> 00:46:52.920
So I'll stop talking, but.

928
00:46:52.920 --> 00:46:54.560
Yeah, oh, yeah, thank you.

929
00:46:54.560 --> 00:46:57.880
Thank you for being so vulnerable, Stephanie, and I'm so sorry that,

930
00:46:57.880 --> 00:47:01.120
you know, that this is painful for you, but, you know,

931
00:47:01.280 --> 00:47:04.960
I also know that it's pain with a purpose, so I'm not that sorry

932
00:47:05.480 --> 00:47:07.760
because I know that you're going to have breakthrough.

933
00:47:07.760 --> 00:47:12.000
But you guys raise your hand if you come from some sort of prophetic culture,

934
00:47:12.560 --> 00:47:14.800
like revival stream kind of culture.

935
00:47:15.120 --> 00:47:18.680
OK, so and that's kind of what Stephanie,

936
00:47:18.680 --> 00:47:21.920
when I'm listening to her, I'm listening to, you know,

937
00:47:21.920 --> 00:47:26.960
what the heart of the father is saying and prophetic culture is exhausting.

938
00:47:28.640 --> 00:47:31.920
It can be super exhausting.

939
00:47:32.000 --> 00:47:34.920
You know, especially when at any given time,

940
00:47:34.920 --> 00:47:38.200
you know, there's a million different things that God's going to do

941
00:47:39.480 --> 00:47:42.040
and not any of them are really happening.

942
00:47:42.240 --> 00:47:45.840
Right. And so it's it's hard and it's a lot.

943
00:47:46.000 --> 00:47:50.920
And I will tell you, OK, that not being raised in the church

944
00:47:50.920 --> 00:47:54.000
and really just being a complete heathen. All right.

945
00:47:54.760 --> 00:47:59.160
I think I bring a lot of different perspective because when I met Jesus

946
00:47:59.160 --> 00:48:01.720
and this is the reason why the heartwork exists in the first place,

947
00:48:01.960 --> 00:48:04.120
that protocol came to save my life.

948
00:48:05.000 --> 00:48:07.240
God gave it to me for me.

949
00:48:07.240 --> 00:48:09.760
And for a long time, it was just for me.

950
00:48:09.760 --> 00:48:14.440
And then I was invited to help others with it

951
00:48:14.560 --> 00:48:18.320
and let it become, you know, the proprietary protocol

952
00:48:18.320 --> 00:48:23.480
in which we help people to, you know, step into kingdom partnerships. OK.

953
00:48:25.040 --> 00:48:28.360
But discipleship didn't work for me.

954
00:48:28.360 --> 00:48:32.880
I was in a very spirit driven discipleship community when I was

955
00:48:32.880 --> 00:48:36.280
when I first met Jesus and I wasn't getting free.

956
00:48:36.280 --> 00:48:37.440
I heard a lot of great things.

957
00:48:37.440 --> 00:48:39.520
I had a lot of emotions about what I was hearing.

958
00:48:40.080 --> 00:48:40.960
I was really excited.

959
00:48:40.960 --> 00:48:44.440
You know, Holy Spirit was definitely in the mix as far as,

960
00:48:44.440 --> 00:48:46.600
you know, the gifts of the spirit.

961
00:48:46.600 --> 00:48:48.600
But I wasn't seeing breakthrough.

962
00:48:48.600 --> 00:48:52.000
I had lots of life controlling issues, specifically mental illness.

963
00:48:52.000 --> 00:48:53.600
I had obsessive compulsive disorder.

964
00:48:53.600 --> 00:48:54.840
I have panic disorder.

965
00:48:54.840 --> 00:48:58.040
I could have up to 10, 15 panic attacks a day.

966
00:48:58.400 --> 00:49:01.240
Right. Because of that, I had a complete adrenal failure.

967
00:49:01.240 --> 00:49:02.320
I had Epstein Barr.

968
00:49:02.320 --> 00:49:03.720
I had everything you could think of.

969
00:49:03.720 --> 00:49:05.680
You guys, I couldn't even walk across the room.

970
00:49:06.360 --> 00:49:08.800
I didn't even have the strength to walk across the room

971
00:49:09.600 --> 00:49:11.240
without stopping and resting.

972
00:49:11.240 --> 00:49:15.280
And so I was and this is as a Christian, this as a believer

973
00:49:15.280 --> 00:49:19.480
and a Christ follower, even a leader, dare say I,

974
00:49:19.480 --> 00:49:23.640
because if you are gifted, which I was coming right out of the box

975
00:49:23.640 --> 00:49:26.280
when I met Holy Spirit, I was very gifted in the spirit.

976
00:49:26.920 --> 00:49:29.000
I was made a leader because that's what a lot of,

977
00:49:29.000 --> 00:49:30.200
you know, Christian communities do.

978
00:49:30.200 --> 00:49:31.400
They're like, oh, you have gifts.

979
00:49:31.400 --> 00:49:32.800
We're going to make you a leader.

980
00:49:32.800 --> 00:49:35.840
But I had all of those very, very serious problems.

981
00:49:35.880 --> 00:49:39.840
And I was just like one day, hey, God, you know what?

982
00:49:40.920 --> 00:49:43.760
I believe your word, but it doesn't work for me.

983
00:49:44.240 --> 00:49:45.840
It's not working for me.

984
00:49:45.840 --> 00:49:49.560
You know, all the things that I'm hearing, they're not happening and call me crazy.

985
00:49:49.800 --> 00:49:53.000
But I have to believe that if it's real, it's real.

986
00:49:53.280 --> 00:49:55.000
If it's true, it's true.

987
00:49:55.000 --> 00:49:57.320
And and I need to know what I'm missing.

988
00:49:57.320 --> 00:49:59.480
And so that's when the heart work was born.

989
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:02.240
God began to show me that, you know,

990
00:50:02.240 --> 00:50:04.640
I wasn't able to activate a lot of things in my life

991
00:50:04.640 --> 00:50:07.320
because of the things that were already in my heart.

992
00:50:07.320 --> 00:50:08.680
And here's the thing that I wanna say

993
00:50:08.680 --> 00:50:10.120
to Stephanie and all of you.

994
00:50:10.120 --> 00:50:13.840
A lot of the things that were in my heart were religious.

995
00:50:14.920 --> 00:50:15.760
Okay?

996
00:50:16.720 --> 00:50:18.640
Jesus and I were doing good together

997
00:50:18.640 --> 00:50:21.000
until I started getting discipled by religion.

998
00:50:22.200 --> 00:50:26.360
That third person in the mix wasn't that great, right?

999
00:50:26.360 --> 00:50:29.840
And so all the things that I was intuitively understanding

1000
00:50:29.840 --> 00:50:31.200
when it was just me and Jesus,

1001
00:50:31.200 --> 00:50:34.880
cause I was converted radically, just me and Christ.

1002
00:50:34.880 --> 00:50:37.440
And when that happened, you know, of course,

1003
00:50:37.440 --> 00:50:40.480
well-meaning people start to add their two cents to things

1004
00:50:40.480 --> 00:50:45.200
and well-meaning, and it started to muddy the water.

1005
00:50:45.200 --> 00:50:46.040
Okay?

1006
00:50:46.040 --> 00:50:49.240
And so for all of you that have really,

1007
00:50:49.240 --> 00:50:51.320
you've been to a lot of training programs,

1008
00:50:51.320 --> 00:50:53.120
you have a lot of ministry experience,

1009
00:50:53.120 --> 00:50:54.600
you've been to a lot of different churches,

1010
00:50:54.600 --> 00:50:56.960
you've heard a lot of different sermons and messages.

1011
00:50:56.960 --> 00:50:58.640
I'm gonna challenge you

1012
00:50:58.640 --> 00:51:01.640
during at least this portion of the program

1013
00:51:01.640 --> 00:51:04.760
to tune out all of those voices.

1014
00:51:04.760 --> 00:51:05.720
Cause here's the thing,

1015
00:51:05.720 --> 00:51:07.400
they might be giving chapter and verse

1016
00:51:07.400 --> 00:51:08.360
for what they're saying,

1017
00:51:08.360 --> 00:51:11.160
but it might not be what God wants you to hear right now.

1018
00:51:12.120 --> 00:51:13.680
And a lot of times we zig and we zag,

1019
00:51:13.680 --> 00:51:15.800
we go left instead of right, we're all over the place

1020
00:51:15.800 --> 00:51:17.640
because now we live in this digital age

1021
00:51:17.640 --> 00:51:18.920
where at any given time,

1022
00:51:18.920 --> 00:51:21.760
you can find a million different messages.

1023
00:51:23.760 --> 00:51:26.040
And they're all kind of contradicting each other, right?

1024
00:51:26.040 --> 00:51:28.920
It's like, God wants you to sit still.

1025
00:51:28.920 --> 00:51:30.200
No, God wants you to take action.

1026
00:51:30.200 --> 00:51:31.240
No, God wants you to lay down.

1027
00:51:31.240 --> 00:51:32.160
God wants you to worship.

1028
00:51:32.160 --> 00:51:33.120
No, God wants you to pray.

1029
00:51:33.120 --> 00:51:34.120
No, God wants you to intercede.

1030
00:51:34.120 --> 00:51:35.200
No, God wants you to fast.

1031
00:51:35.200 --> 00:51:37.240
This is like, ah, it's crazy.

1032
00:51:38.800 --> 00:51:40.680
You know what God wants you to do?

1033
00:51:40.680 --> 00:51:45.680
God wants you to love your life.

1034
00:51:45.880 --> 00:51:47.520
That's what he wants you to do.

1035
00:51:47.520 --> 00:51:49.920
And you know how that is part of the great commission?

1036
00:51:49.920 --> 00:51:52.160
Because if you don't love your life,

1037
00:51:52.160 --> 00:51:53.960
nobody else is gonna want your life.

1038
00:51:54.920 --> 00:51:55.760
Nobody.

1039
00:51:56.680 --> 00:52:00.240
So you have full permission to do what is for you

1040
00:52:00.240 --> 00:52:01.440
in this season.

1041
00:52:01.440 --> 00:52:02.840
And if that is rest,

1042
00:52:02.840 --> 00:52:05.400
whatever intuitively comes to you, Stephanie,

1043
00:52:05.400 --> 00:52:08.880
if that is to take a break from this, to rest,

1044
00:52:08.880 --> 00:52:13.880
to hold out whatever it is that you're even here for,

1045
00:52:14.400 --> 00:52:18.120
because you can be here for a whole bunch of reasons,

1046
00:52:18.120 --> 00:52:20.480
not just obviously,

1047
00:52:20.480 --> 00:52:21.600
it's kind of sell them what they want,

1048
00:52:21.600 --> 00:52:22.560
give them what they need.

1049
00:52:22.840 --> 00:52:24.880
Yeah, we have very supernatural results

1050
00:52:24.880 --> 00:52:26.280
with people getting married,

1051
00:52:26.280 --> 00:52:29.160
but that's not all that happens here.

1052
00:52:29.160 --> 00:52:30.880
People get massive breakthrough

1053
00:52:30.880 --> 00:52:32.800
in all different types of things,

1054
00:52:32.800 --> 00:52:36.360
including direction and clarity

1055
00:52:36.360 --> 00:52:38.600
for what they're even here on earth for.

1056
00:52:38.600 --> 00:52:40.640
And you said something and I heard you say it,

1057
00:52:40.640 --> 00:52:42.680
and I wanna address it.

1058
00:52:42.680 --> 00:52:46.600
She said, I'm scared of what God might ask me to do.

1059
00:52:48.240 --> 00:52:49.360
Okay.

1060
00:52:49.360 --> 00:52:53.360
You guys, that is a very religious idea.

1061
00:52:54.480 --> 00:52:59.040
And this is why in the Bible, Jesus calls religion leaven.

1062
00:52:59.040 --> 00:53:00.200
If you've ever made bread,

1063
00:53:00.200 --> 00:53:01.400
you know that a little bit of yeast

1064
00:53:01.400 --> 00:53:03.840
goes a whole long way, right?

1065
00:53:03.840 --> 00:53:05.560
Just a little tiny bit of it.

1066
00:53:05.560 --> 00:53:10.360
I'm always finding leaven of the Pharisees in my life

1067
00:53:10.360 --> 00:53:11.840
because I was discipled by them.

1068
00:53:11.840 --> 00:53:13.400
And they didn't mean to be Pharisees,

1069
00:53:13.400 --> 00:53:15.360
they just were, right?

1070
00:53:15.360 --> 00:53:17.680
Because what happens anytime anyone has an idea

1071
00:53:17.680 --> 00:53:20.240
or a revelation from God is it's like,

1072
00:53:20.240 --> 00:53:24.880
oh, it's so good, let's make it into a formula, right?

1073
00:53:26.160 --> 00:53:28.960
Let's package it and sell it, all right?

1074
00:53:28.960 --> 00:53:30.800
So that other people can have it.

1075
00:53:30.800 --> 00:53:32.920
I have no doubt in my heart and mind

1076
00:53:32.920 --> 00:53:36.760
that at one point in time, God told someone to sow a seed.

1077
00:53:36.760 --> 00:53:40.760
Someone was told to put their money where their mouth was,

1078
00:53:40.760 --> 00:53:42.320
but now it's a thing.

1079
00:53:42.320 --> 00:53:44.160
Now it's become this thing.

1080
00:53:44.160 --> 00:53:46.600
And it's like this formula and how to get breakthrough.

1081
00:53:46.600 --> 00:53:49.000
No, all of you are gonna get breakthrough

1082
00:53:49.000 --> 00:53:50.560
in a different way.

1083
00:53:50.560 --> 00:53:52.080
And all the hard work is,

1084
00:53:52.080 --> 00:53:54.840
is just a vehicle for God to speak to you

1085
00:53:54.840 --> 00:53:56.520
about what that way is.

1086
00:53:56.520 --> 00:53:57.960
And so what I wanna say to you, Stephanie,

1087
00:53:57.960 --> 00:54:00.840
is that God doesn't tell us to do things,

1088
00:54:00.840 --> 00:54:03.560
He invites us to do things.

1089
00:54:03.560 --> 00:54:05.960
And we also can decline that invitation.

1090
00:54:07.600 --> 00:54:10.440
It will not be the end of invitations.

1091
00:54:10.440 --> 00:54:13.080
We might simply not be ready to do that thing.

1092
00:54:13.080 --> 00:54:14.640
And it's no harm, no foul.

1093
00:54:14.640 --> 00:54:17.600
I do not believe that delayed obedience is disobedience.

1094
00:54:17.600 --> 00:54:20.440
I do not believe that that is biblical.

1095
00:54:20.440 --> 00:54:23.560
And some of my best friends actually preach that.

1096
00:54:25.080 --> 00:54:27.240
I don't, because here's the thing.

1097
00:54:27.240 --> 00:54:30.360
I think that God asks us to do something.

1098
00:54:30.360 --> 00:54:33.080
He invites us to do something,

1099
00:54:33.080 --> 00:54:36.320
knowing full well that we're not ready to do it.

1100
00:54:36.320 --> 00:54:37.160
But what is He doing?

1101
00:54:37.160 --> 00:54:40.280
He's priming the pump for a future invitation.

1102
00:54:41.280 --> 00:54:45.000
God knows what you have capacity for.

1103
00:54:45.000 --> 00:54:47.440
And that's why the word of God tells us

1104
00:54:47.440 --> 00:54:49.920
over and over and over and over again

1105
00:54:49.920 --> 00:54:51.480
that it's all about the heart.

1106
00:54:53.080 --> 00:54:54.320
It's all about our heart.

1107
00:54:56.440 --> 00:54:57.920
It's just all about our heart.

1108
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:03.880
You know, most people are not blatantly stiff-arming God,

1109
00:55:03.880 --> 00:55:06.360
unless they're in a place of severe brokenness

1110
00:55:06.360 --> 00:55:09.840
where they don't trust him, they're angry at him, you know.

1111
00:55:09.840 --> 00:55:13.240
Most people just do not feel ready for things

1112
00:55:13.240 --> 00:55:14.500
sometimes when they show up.

1113
00:55:14.500 --> 00:55:17.160
And that's what we're doing here, we're just getting ready.

1114
00:55:17.160 --> 00:55:19.180
There's gonna be lots of invitations.

1115
00:55:19.180 --> 00:55:22.260
Jeremiah 29, 11 is a banner verse over my life.

1116
00:55:23.980 --> 00:55:26.660
And a lot of you, when you quote it,

1117
00:55:26.660 --> 00:55:29.000
you need to make sure that you're paying special attention

1118
00:55:29.000 --> 00:55:30.940
to the plurality of it.

1119
00:55:30.940 --> 00:55:35.240
I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord.

1120
00:55:36.540 --> 00:55:39.620
God has many plans for you.

1121
00:55:39.620 --> 00:55:42.520
And when you turn down an invitation to one,

1122
00:55:42.520 --> 00:55:43.940
there will be another one.

1123
00:55:44.840 --> 00:55:48.220
And in the meantime, you'll be being prepared for that.

1124
00:55:48.220 --> 00:55:49.520
Because I guarantee you one thing,

1125
00:55:49.520 --> 00:55:50.940
if you don't feel ready for something

1126
00:55:50.940 --> 00:55:54.220
and you kind of, you pass on it,

1127
00:55:54.220 --> 00:55:55.740
you will continue to think about it.

1128
00:55:55.740 --> 00:55:56.920
And if you don't think about it

1129
00:55:56.920 --> 00:56:00.600
from a place of legalism or condemnation,

1130
00:56:00.600 --> 00:56:02.980
because there's therefore now no condemnation

1131
00:56:02.980 --> 00:56:04.900
to those in Christ Jesus,

1132
00:56:04.900 --> 00:56:08.520
then you will understand that, you know,

1133
00:56:08.520 --> 00:56:11.020
that your heart warms up to the idea, Stephanie.

1134
00:56:12.100 --> 00:56:13.320
And that's what's happening here.

1135
00:56:13.320 --> 00:56:17.220
God invited you here, you did say yes, you're here,

1136
00:56:17.220 --> 00:56:20.020
but your heart's not warmed up to this idea yet.

1137
00:56:20.020 --> 00:56:21.280
And I wanna tell you guys something else

1138
00:56:21.280 --> 00:56:22.700
that's important for all of you that struggle

1139
00:56:22.700 --> 00:56:24.240
with the idea of being in marriage

1140
00:56:24.240 --> 00:56:25.720
because of a bad experience

1141
00:56:25.720 --> 00:56:28.240
or even someone else's bad experience.

1142
00:56:28.240 --> 00:56:31.480
Not only will your heart continue to warm up to the idea

1143
00:56:31.480 --> 00:56:33.720
before the next invitation comes,

1144
00:56:33.720 --> 00:56:38.400
but the man that God has for you to partner with,

1145
00:56:38.400 --> 00:56:40.720
which in all seasons could be a different person.

1146
00:56:40.720 --> 00:56:43.120
I don't believe in the concept of the one.

1147
00:56:43.120 --> 00:56:46.480
Whoever that person is, will be part of that healing

1148
00:56:46.480 --> 00:56:49.960
and will be part of the yes of that invitation.

1149
00:56:49.960 --> 00:56:52.120
When I tell you that my husband is so good to me,

1150
00:56:52.120 --> 00:56:54.160
I am not lying.

1151
00:56:54.960 --> 00:56:59.520
When I tell you that he is God's proof

1152
00:56:59.520 --> 00:57:03.000
that I am loved by heaven, I am not kidding.

1153
00:57:03.000 --> 00:57:03.840
Now, is he perfect?

1154
00:57:03.840 --> 00:57:05.240
No, he's not perfect.

1155
00:57:05.240 --> 00:57:09.800
And he definitely has some sort of sleep apnea

1156
00:57:09.800 --> 00:57:11.200
and he's snoring and waking me up

1157
00:57:11.200 --> 00:57:12.960
and I'm gonna about to sleep divorce him

1158
00:57:12.960 --> 00:57:15.680
and just go live in the other room at nighttime.

1159
00:57:15.680 --> 00:57:18.120
But it's really good.

1160
00:57:19.880 --> 00:57:20.720
All right.

1161
00:57:20.720 --> 00:57:22.680
And a lot of you, you don't know that yet.

1162
00:57:22.680 --> 00:57:25.960
And I'm excited for you because I know what it's like

1163
00:57:25.960 --> 00:57:30.960
to meet someone who shows you what God is like.

1164
00:57:33.280 --> 00:57:34.400
And you're gonna have that.

1165
00:57:34.400 --> 00:57:36.600
And we're not gonna settle for anything less than that.

1166
00:57:36.600 --> 00:57:37.440
We're not.

1167
00:57:38.320 --> 00:57:39.560
We don't need them to be perfect,

1168
00:57:39.560 --> 00:57:42.960
but we definitely need them to be perfect for us.

1169
00:57:42.960 --> 00:57:43.800
Really important.

1170
00:57:43.800 --> 00:57:45.800
So Stephanie, you're in a good place.

1171
00:57:45.800 --> 00:57:47.880
You're willing to be made willing.

1172
00:57:47.880 --> 00:57:50.160
You've said yes to one invitation

1173
00:57:50.160 --> 00:57:52.320
and you're not sure you wanna say yes to the next one,

1174
00:57:53.000 --> 00:57:53.840
which would be marriage and it's good

1175
00:57:53.840 --> 00:57:55.040
because that invitation is not being offered

1176
00:57:55.040 --> 00:57:55.920
to you yet, honey.

1177
00:57:57.200 --> 00:57:59.400
You got plenty of time for your heart to be warmed up

1178
00:57:59.400 --> 00:58:01.280
to that idea in the process.

1179
00:58:02.920 --> 00:58:03.760
All right.

1180
00:58:03.760 --> 00:58:05.280
So yes.

1181
00:58:05.280 --> 00:58:07.360
And thank you for showing up in a vulnerable place

1182
00:58:07.360 --> 00:58:10.000
because your vulnerability gives permission

1183
00:58:10.000 --> 00:58:11.480
to other people to be vulnerable.

1184
00:58:11.480 --> 00:58:13.160
And I know we had one more question

1185
00:58:13.160 --> 00:58:16.640
of someone who was like, y'all cut each other off.

1186
00:58:16.640 --> 00:58:19.160
So whoever that next person is, let's go.

1187
00:58:22.640 --> 00:58:23.880
Yeah, that was me.

1188
00:58:24.840 --> 00:58:25.680
Sorry.

1189
00:58:25.680 --> 00:58:27.280
I don't sound very good.

1190
00:58:27.280 --> 00:58:29.040
Pretty sick right now.

1191
00:58:29.040 --> 00:58:30.680
Yeah, you do look like you don't feel good.

1192
00:58:30.680 --> 00:58:32.400
Be healed, girlfriend.

1193
00:58:32.400 --> 00:58:34.520
I was like, I wondered if you were not feeling good.

1194
00:58:34.520 --> 00:58:35.440
Okay.

1195
00:58:35.440 --> 00:58:36.280
Yeah.

1196
00:58:36.280 --> 00:58:37.120
So part of that,

1197
00:58:38.200 --> 00:58:40.920
I guess I just want your opinion on a couple of things.

1198
00:58:40.920 --> 00:58:41.760
Okay.

1199
00:58:41.760 --> 00:58:45.400
So I'm like finishing week three of the program right now.

1200
00:58:45.400 --> 00:58:47.120
And week one and two,

1201
00:58:47.120 --> 00:58:49.680
I was kind of where Kelly said kind of she was like,

1202
00:58:49.680 --> 00:58:52.000
I've done a lot of this work before and it's really good.

1203
00:58:52.680 --> 00:58:53.600
And had benefit of it,

1204
00:58:53.600 --> 00:58:55.680
but I was still really in the mindset

1205
00:58:55.680 --> 00:58:56.960
I'm still gonna go through it

1206
00:58:56.960 --> 00:59:00.040
and checking in with Jesus about some things.

1207
00:59:00.040 --> 00:59:01.720
And I know in week two,

1208
00:59:01.720 --> 00:59:03.400
there was a couple of things that I was praying about.

1209
00:59:03.400 --> 00:59:05.000
He's like, I've already healed you of that.

1210
00:59:05.000 --> 00:59:06.120
We don't need to go back there.

1211
00:59:06.120 --> 00:59:07.160
Just keep going forward.

1212
00:59:07.160 --> 00:59:08.400
Just keep going forward.

1213
00:59:09.440 --> 00:59:13.320
And then in week three, we're talking about like vows,

1214
00:59:13.320 --> 00:59:17.080
which actually led to a bunch of lies that I believe

1215
00:59:17.080 --> 00:59:20.160
because I went through the vows with Jesus

1216
00:59:20.160 --> 00:59:21.840
and they were more boundaries, right?

1217
00:59:21.840 --> 00:59:23.640
If like, I don't wanna be with an alcoholic.

1218
00:59:23.640 --> 00:59:25.800
I don't wanna be with somebody who's passive aggressive.

1219
00:59:25.800 --> 00:59:27.800
These are boundaries that I have now

1220
00:59:27.800 --> 00:59:29.240
from past relationships,

1221
00:59:29.240 --> 00:59:31.880
but they're the healthy ones, not the limiting ones.

1222
00:59:33.640 --> 00:59:38.280
And what opened up more was I was asking him some questions

1223
00:59:38.280 --> 00:59:40.920
with the lies that I believed with them.

1224
00:59:40.920 --> 00:59:42.320
And I posted about this in the group.

1225
00:59:42.320 --> 00:59:45.320
So maybe some people have read this about some sexual stuff.

1226
00:59:46.280 --> 00:59:50.120
I mean, sex has always been like where I've gone to

1227
00:59:50.120 --> 00:59:55.120
to feel accepted and I guess safe, which is weird,

1228
00:59:55.480 --> 00:59:59.600
but like just going where that has come from.

1229
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:04.080
And a lot of therapists and different things in my life have always said,

1230
01:00:04.720 --> 01:00:07.360
you know, we think that you've been sexually abused as a child,

1231
01:00:07.360 --> 01:00:10.840
but you've repressed this memory so much that you have no recollection of it.

1232
01:00:11.400 --> 01:00:15.280
And literally like pastors, counselors, psychologists,

1233
01:00:15.280 --> 01:00:17.560
psychiatrists have all said this to me throughout my life.

1234
01:00:17.560 --> 01:00:20.640
So on Friday, I was kind of sitting with Jesus. I'm like, okay,

1235
01:00:20.920 --> 01:00:23.720
if this is the truth, I'm ready to deal with it.

1236
01:00:24.920 --> 01:00:29.440
Like bring that forward. And he said, that's not the truth. And I said, okay,

1237
01:00:29.880 --> 01:00:32.160
where is this from? Because this whole month,

1238
01:00:32.920 --> 01:00:36.720
I've been celibate now for about four, four and a half years.

1239
01:00:37.960 --> 01:00:38.800
And this whole month,

1240
01:00:38.800 --> 01:00:43.280
like people have circled in my life that I've been with before. Like, I, I,

1241
01:00:43.520 --> 01:00:46.880
it's gross, but I will open up my phone and just have dick pics everywhere.

1242
01:00:46.880 --> 01:00:49.360
And I just don't know where they're coming from. And it just like,

1243
01:00:49.360 --> 01:00:52.520
I feel like Satan's just throwing sex at me. Like,

1244
01:00:52.520 --> 01:00:55.960
it's so easy to get like here you want it again. And it's,

1245
01:00:56.360 --> 01:01:00.760
it's just like overwhelmingly I've never had that easy. It's, it's crazy.

1246
01:01:00.760 --> 01:01:04.600
It's stupid. I hate it. And so I, you know, what, geez, I'm like,

1247
01:01:04.600 --> 01:01:06.520
where is this coming from? Like, what is the root of this?

1248
01:01:06.520 --> 01:01:11.280
And he brought up this root of like I was actually being bullied in junior

1249
01:01:11.280 --> 01:01:14.840
high. And there's a whole story behind this one thing. And he's like,

1250
01:01:14.840 --> 01:01:16.400
this is where this all comes from.

1251
01:01:16.640 --> 01:01:19.920
And I actually think that's why I'm sick is that my body's processing this

1252
01:01:19.920 --> 01:01:22.320
trauma for the first time properly.

1253
01:01:23.200 --> 01:01:24.040
Um,

1254
01:01:24.560 --> 01:01:28.800
but I don't know how to like open up and let him heal that.

1255
01:01:28.800 --> 01:01:31.160
So that's kind of like the first part of what I want to ask you.

1256
01:01:31.640 --> 01:01:36.040
The other part is you talk about, you know, the man that's right for you. Um,

1257
01:01:36.160 --> 01:01:40.760
last summer I met a man and he's still in my life as a friend.

1258
01:01:42.080 --> 01:01:42.920
Um,

1259
01:01:42.960 --> 01:01:47.720
we've had like conversations about relationships and he's always just,

1260
01:01:47.800 --> 01:01:50.000
he doesn't say he doesn't want to be in a relationship with me.

1261
01:01:50.000 --> 01:01:53.920
He just says I'm too busy. And like, he's literally everything that I want.

1262
01:01:53.960 --> 01:01:58.720
Like I'm a very type a personality. I'm highly dominant.

1263
01:01:58.720 --> 01:02:01.280
He is more dominant than I am. He is louder than I am.

1264
01:02:01.280 --> 01:02:05.280
He has a stronger personality than I am. It's like when I'm with,

1265
01:02:05.320 --> 01:02:07.640
like he's doing a bunch of work on my house.

1266
01:02:07.680 --> 01:02:10.520
And when he was ripping out my front yard, he's like, I need you to get home.

1267
01:02:10.520 --> 01:02:13.200
I was like, okay, I'll come home. And we were talking about something.

1268
01:02:13.200 --> 01:02:16.800
He's like, okay, well get in the truck. I was like, okay. And like,

1269
01:02:16.800 --> 01:02:18.080
I didn't even have to think we, you know,

1270
01:02:18.080 --> 01:02:21.520
we just took loads of dirt places and I'm like, I don't know where we're going.

1271
01:02:21.520 --> 01:02:22.360
I don't know what we're doing,

1272
01:02:22.520 --> 01:02:27.200
but I trust him and I can just turn my mind off and be with him. And you know,

1273
01:02:27.200 --> 01:02:29.520
I'll be doing something in my house and he'll be here. And he's like,

1274
01:02:29.520 --> 01:02:31.840
what are you doing? I'm like, well, okay. I'm trying to hang this thing.

1275
01:02:31.840 --> 01:02:33.400
He's like, well, you're doing it wrong. I'm like, well,

1276
01:02:33.400 --> 01:02:36.640
I'm just doing it how I know what, leave me alone. Right. And he's like, no.

1277
01:02:36.640 --> 01:02:39.480
And then he'll just take over and do it for me. I'm like, oh, it's so nice.

1278
01:02:40.560 --> 01:02:44.520
I know that sounds dumb, but it's like that masculine all the time.

1279
01:02:44.520 --> 01:02:45.960
And with him, I can be feminine.

1280
01:02:46.600 --> 01:02:48.600
And my friends have met him and they're like,

1281
01:02:48.680 --> 01:02:52.280
you're so different when he's around. I'm like, yeah,

1282
01:02:52.760 --> 01:02:57.400
but he's not a Christian, which is a big thing. And, um,

1283
01:02:59.640 --> 01:03:03.320
he's now created this new level that anybody else has to meet.

1284
01:03:04.600 --> 01:03:06.120
And I don't know what to do with that. Like,

1285
01:03:06.120 --> 01:03:10.840
do I just get rid of him out of my life or I don't know what to do with him.

1286
01:03:11.800 --> 01:03:14.600
And he's comforting my heart. He's working on your house.

1287
01:03:15.400 --> 01:03:18.040
Yeah. He's literally doing all my bathroom rentals now.

1288
01:03:19.000 --> 01:03:23.080
Well, what I hear, what I hear from God is that he's working on your house

1289
01:03:23.080 --> 01:03:26.120
and God's working on your house. You know, in dreams,

1290
01:03:26.120 --> 01:03:30.600
houses are usually indicative of our hearts. So you're having your heart worked on.

1291
01:03:31.240 --> 01:03:35.480
Right. Because what you're doing is you're experiencing what it's like to,

1292
01:03:35.480 --> 01:03:40.440
you know, be less dominating and independent, you know?

1293
01:03:40.520 --> 01:03:41.960
And so it doesn't really matter. You guys,

1294
01:03:41.960 --> 01:03:44.280
and all of you need to hear this is that, you know,

1295
01:03:44.920 --> 01:03:47.880
because people come in our lives for reasons, right?

1296
01:03:47.880 --> 01:03:52.760
They come in our lives for reasons and they show us what it's like to be

1297
01:03:52.760 --> 01:03:53.800
treated a certain way.

1298
01:03:53.800 --> 01:03:56.200
It doesn't mean that they're the person that we're going to marry and partner

1299
01:03:56.200 --> 01:03:58.440
with. It just means that we're going to learn something.

1300
01:03:58.440 --> 01:04:02.840
They might even be a woman, you know, doesn't matter what that, what the,

1301
01:04:02.840 --> 01:04:05.000
what that situation is.

1302
01:04:05.400 --> 01:04:09.400
It's teaching us something and it's showing us a version of ourselves that we

1303
01:04:09.400 --> 01:04:13.960
like. You like this version of yourself, Jen, you know? And so, um,

1304
01:04:13.960 --> 01:04:18.280
he does have some aspects of him that you obviously know are not a spirit mate,

1305
01:04:18.840 --> 01:04:21.880
right? He's not, he's not a Christ bar. He's not a believer.

1306
01:04:21.880 --> 01:04:25.560
And it sounds like you're spiritually mature enough to know that that would not

1307
01:04:25.560 --> 01:04:28.280
be a good partnership. And, um,

1308
01:04:28.280 --> 01:04:33.320
and so you're not deceived into thinking that this is who God has sent you,

1309
01:04:33.320 --> 01:04:38.280
but he is someone who the human resource department has sent

1310
01:04:38.280 --> 01:04:43.000
because it's positive what's happening inside of you because of it.

1311
01:04:43.000 --> 01:04:47.240
Now your part to play in this is not to put it in the wrong bucket.

1312
01:04:48.280 --> 01:04:51.800
And all of us, you guys, my kids, I have three grown adult children.

1313
01:04:51.800 --> 01:04:54.120
Um, my son is about to be 29 this year.

1314
01:04:54.120 --> 01:04:58.680
My daughter is 26 and she's married and has twin grand, my twin grandbabies.

1315
01:04:58.680 --> 01:04:59.880
Um, and of course.

1316
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:02.480
First, I got to show them off because I love them so much.

1317
01:05:02.480 --> 01:05:03.440
Do you, do you, do you?

1318
01:05:03.440 --> 01:05:06.040
And then my youngest daughter is going to get married

1319
01:05:06.040 --> 01:05:07.760
in August and her and her boyfriend

1320
01:05:07.760 --> 01:05:08.920
have been together for three years.

1321
01:05:08.920 --> 01:05:11.420
And so all my kids are, besides my son,

1322
01:05:11.420 --> 01:05:13.600
are all going to be married.

1323
01:05:13.600 --> 01:05:15.400
But when they were younger, of course,

1324
01:05:15.400 --> 01:05:17.400
they would bring home all different myriad

1325
01:05:17.400 --> 01:05:19.540
of the opposite sex, right?

1326
01:05:19.540 --> 01:05:21.680
Friends from school and different things.

1327
01:05:21.680 --> 01:05:24.640
And a lot of times that person would be attached

1328
01:05:24.640 --> 01:05:25.620
to them in some way.

1329
01:05:25.620 --> 01:05:27.320
And I told my kids, I sat my kids down,

1330
01:05:27.320 --> 01:05:29.720
I had a word from God and I just said, listen.

1331
01:05:29.720 --> 01:05:33.000
I said, God has revealed to me that all of you

1332
01:05:33.000 --> 01:05:36.400
are going to be attracting people

1333
01:05:36.400 --> 01:05:38.800
for the purpose of what our family carries.

1334
01:05:38.800 --> 01:05:42.560
Our family is carrying, you know, marriage and family,

1335
01:05:42.560 --> 01:05:43.380
right?

1336
01:05:43.380 --> 01:05:44.220
We're carrying marriage and family.

1337
01:05:44.220 --> 01:05:47.500
We're carrying, you know, healthy romantic relationships.

1338
01:05:47.500 --> 01:05:48.840
You know, we're carrying Holy Spirit

1339
01:05:48.840 --> 01:05:50.640
in a different way than other people.

1340
01:05:50.640 --> 01:05:53.200
And so I don't want you to get it twisted

1341
01:05:53.200 --> 01:05:54.780
that when someone starts paying attention to you,

1342
01:05:54.780 --> 01:05:56.320
maybe even flirting with you,

1343
01:05:56.320 --> 01:05:58.100
that it's because they're meant to be

1344
01:05:58.100 --> 01:06:00.300
a romantic partner for you.

1345
01:06:00.300 --> 01:06:02.620
It's possible that they're just even drawn to you.

1346
01:06:02.620 --> 01:06:04.280
And this is how they're expressing it

1347
01:06:04.280 --> 01:06:07.520
because of what your family and you carry.

1348
01:06:07.520 --> 01:06:09.220
Does that make sense to everyone?

1349
01:06:09.220 --> 01:06:11.620
So he obviously is drawn to you.

1350
01:06:11.620 --> 01:06:13.780
You're obviously carrying a lot of really great things,

1351
01:06:13.780 --> 01:06:14.620
right?

1352
01:06:14.620 --> 01:06:18.460
But right now he doesn't carry the qualities

1353
01:06:18.460 --> 01:06:21.500
of a husband, partner, or spirit mate.

1354
01:06:21.500 --> 01:06:23.620
And so all of you are going to draw people in

1355
01:06:23.620 --> 01:06:25.020
whether they're male or female,

1356
01:06:25.020 --> 01:06:27.800
because they're going to be drawn to the God inside of you

1357
01:06:28.560 --> 01:06:29.920
and specifically the giftings that you carry

1358
01:06:29.920 --> 01:06:32.600
and what you bring, the breakthrough that you bring.

1359
01:06:32.600 --> 01:06:34.520
It's up to you not to put that

1360
01:06:34.520 --> 01:06:36.800
into the wrong context or bucket.

1361
01:06:36.800 --> 01:06:38.340
It's up to you to do that.

1362
01:06:38.340 --> 01:06:39.800
God can't do that for you.

1363
01:06:39.800 --> 01:06:41.320
It's up to you to do that.

1364
01:06:41.320 --> 01:06:42.420
You're attractive.

1365
01:06:43.360 --> 01:06:46.080
All of you are attractive in the spirit.

1366
01:06:46.080 --> 01:06:47.120
You're attractive in the natural,

1367
01:06:47.120 --> 01:06:48.880
but you're also attractive in the supernatural.

1368
01:06:48.880 --> 01:06:51.760
So it's important for you to make a very,

1369
01:06:53.500 --> 01:06:57.160
you know, strong commitment

1370
01:06:57.160 --> 01:06:59.260
to what it is that you want in a partner

1371
01:06:59.260 --> 01:07:01.480
and not to settle for anything less than that.

1372
01:07:01.480 --> 01:07:03.040
Of course, we're going to help you unpack some of that,

1373
01:07:03.040 --> 01:07:05.120
because some of you have unrealistic expectations

1374
01:07:05.120 --> 01:07:06.320
of what that looks like.

1375
01:07:06.320 --> 01:07:09.600
And we'll unpack that when we get into phase two.

1376
01:07:09.600 --> 01:07:13.920
But as far as them being, you know, awakened spiritually

1377
01:07:13.920 --> 01:07:16.720
and, you know, have, you know, are following Christ.

1378
01:07:16.720 --> 01:07:18.200
Now I will say this.

1379
01:07:18.200 --> 01:07:22.880
I do believe in this wave

1380
01:07:22.880 --> 01:07:24.760
of people that are coming to know Christ.

1381
01:07:24.760 --> 01:07:27.400
You guys, what's his face?

1382
01:07:28.820 --> 01:07:30.120
Russell Brand.

1383
01:07:30.120 --> 01:07:32.760
Yes, just got baptized, right?

1384
01:07:33.760 --> 01:07:34.600
Right?

1385
01:07:34.600 --> 01:07:35.420
Well, that's what I was going to say too.

1386
01:07:35.420 --> 01:07:36.680
Like, what if he's attracted to me?

1387
01:07:36.680 --> 01:07:37.840
Like, what if there's,

1388
01:07:37.840 --> 01:07:40.520
there was one day where he was doing stuff

1389
01:07:40.520 --> 01:07:43.520
and I was like, I've got to go to church in the morning.

1390
01:07:43.520 --> 01:07:44.360
And he was like, okay.

1391
01:07:44.360 --> 01:07:46.320
And then he was sleeping on my couch

1392
01:07:46.320 --> 01:07:48.540
because it was just long hours.

1393
01:07:48.540 --> 01:07:50.720
I got up the next day and I had kind of said in my head,

1394
01:07:50.720 --> 01:07:52.480
like, well, I don't really want to leave him here alone.

1395
01:07:52.480 --> 01:07:53.820
So I'm just not going to go to church.

1396
01:07:53.860 --> 01:07:56.260
And I came out and he was like, aren't we going to church?

1397
01:07:56.260 --> 01:07:58.180
And I was like, it's too late now.

1398
01:07:58.180 --> 01:08:00.780
My friends all said, you made the biggest mistake ever.

1399
01:08:00.780 --> 01:08:02.500
You should have brought him to church.

1400
01:08:02.500 --> 01:08:03.820
So like, I don't know,

1401
01:08:03.820 --> 01:08:05.900
maybe there's that aspect of it too though, right?

1402
01:08:05.900 --> 01:08:07.060
Like, is that a thing?

1403
01:08:07.060 --> 01:08:08.900
Or do you want somebody that's been a Christian a long time

1404
01:08:08.900 --> 01:08:10.540
if you've been a Christian a long time?

1405
01:08:10.540 --> 01:08:11.740
You definitely, no.

1406
01:08:11.740 --> 01:08:12.840
And that's what I was about to say.

1407
01:08:12.840 --> 01:08:15.140
So there is a wave and, you know,

1408
01:08:15.140 --> 01:08:18.340
I actually had a word about this and I released it

1409
01:08:18.340 --> 01:08:19.899
at a couple of different Christian communities,

1410
01:08:19.899 --> 01:08:21.380
churches, if you will,

1411
01:08:21.420 --> 01:08:24.779
that the nets that's being thrown out now,

1412
01:08:24.779 --> 01:08:27.220
kind of the evangelistic net that's being thrown out now,

1413
01:08:27.220 --> 01:08:31.859
it's going to bring in a lot of conversions

1414
01:08:31.859 --> 01:08:35.380
that are the single sons and daughters that,

1415
01:08:35.380 --> 01:08:36.720
those are your spouses.

1416
01:08:36.720 --> 01:08:38.380
Those are your partners that are going to be coming in

1417
01:08:38.380 --> 01:08:39.340
in those nets.

1418
01:08:39.340 --> 01:08:41.100
But the difference will be this, you guys,

1419
01:08:41.100 --> 01:08:43.660
and I think that all of you can probably attest to this

1420
01:08:43.660 --> 01:08:44.819
in one way or another.

1421
01:08:44.819 --> 01:08:48.260
When I was converted, I met Jesus, okay?

1422
01:08:48.260 --> 01:08:49.899
I didn't meet a church.

1423
01:08:49.899 --> 01:08:51.279
In fact, I got discipled later.

1424
01:08:52.180 --> 01:08:53.020
I met Jesus.

1425
01:08:53.020 --> 01:08:55.439
I asked God if he was real and I passed out.

1426
01:08:55.439 --> 01:08:57.000
I woke up, I was, you know,

1427
01:08:57.000 --> 01:09:00.240
I got the baptism of the spirit in my living room,

1428
01:09:00.240 --> 01:09:02.399
you know, crazy things happen, right?

1429
01:09:02.399 --> 01:09:04.000
I was converted.

1430
01:09:04.000 --> 01:09:07.620
And when you are converted, not saved,

1431
01:09:07.620 --> 01:09:10.859
when you're converted, you don't turn back around.

1432
01:09:12.640 --> 01:09:14.760
I have been following Jesus for 28 years.

1433
01:09:14.760 --> 01:09:15.920
It's not always been easy.

1434
01:09:15.920 --> 01:09:18.279
There's been ups and downs and there's been times when,

1435
01:09:18.279 --> 01:09:20.960
you know, it's like smite me almighty smiter,

1436
01:09:21.640 --> 01:09:24.200
upset, mad, crazy stuff,

1437
01:09:24.200 --> 01:09:26.180
want to turn around, want to turn away.

1438
01:09:26.180 --> 01:09:28.840
But just like the disciples in the Bible, where would we go?

1439
01:09:28.840 --> 01:09:31.340
You alone have the words of life, right?

1440
01:09:31.340 --> 01:09:33.960
And so that's a true conversion, you guys.

1441
01:09:33.960 --> 01:09:36.100
That's a conversion, okay?

1442
01:09:36.100 --> 01:09:39.319
That person is going to continue to grow spiritually.

1443
01:09:39.319 --> 01:09:41.319
Then there are other people that because of fear

1444
01:09:41.319 --> 01:09:44.240
or religion, they try to make a decision for Christ

1445
01:09:44.240 --> 01:09:46.240
or whatever they get into a church service,

1446
01:09:46.240 --> 01:09:48.279
or, you know, they're bullied into it

1447
01:09:48.279 --> 01:09:51.080
by some sort of dogma or rhetoric, religious.

1448
01:09:51.080 --> 01:09:53.439
That's not a conversion, you guys.

1449
01:09:53.439 --> 01:09:55.960
It's not, okay?

1450
01:09:55.960 --> 01:09:59.960
So these converted folks, Jen, they are going to be.

1451
01:10:00.000 --> 01:10:03.520
some of the partners of, you know,

1452
01:10:03.520 --> 01:10:05.800
the faithful single sons and daughters

1453
01:10:05.800 --> 01:10:06.760
that have been waiting around

1454
01:10:06.760 --> 01:10:08.440
for the promises of their partners.

1455
01:10:08.440 --> 01:10:12.080
And you gotta be okay with marrying a new convert, you guys.

1456
01:10:12.080 --> 01:10:15.980
Not a new Christian, okay?

1457
01:10:15.980 --> 01:10:19.680
A new Christ follower, a new convert, that's different.

1458
01:10:19.680 --> 01:10:21.720
That's different, that hits differently, doesn't it?

1459
01:10:21.720 --> 01:10:24.560
That hits differently, that's different.

1460
01:10:24.560 --> 01:10:29.560
And so Jen, he can't pick you before he picks Jesus.

1461
01:10:30.360 --> 01:10:33.040
Okay, and you can't pick him before that.

1462
01:10:33.040 --> 01:10:36.000
So if a conversion happens to him,

1463
01:10:36.000 --> 01:10:38.520
and once again, you guys, this takes out of the equation,

1464
01:10:38.520 --> 01:10:42.080
people, you know, getting religion to get us.

1465
01:10:42.080 --> 01:10:43.380
This is about conversion.

1466
01:10:45.760 --> 01:10:47.920
And so I'm glad that, you know,

1467
01:10:47.920 --> 01:10:50.080
you have a representation of what it's like

1468
01:10:50.080 --> 01:10:53.560
to be, to have a masculine man around

1469
01:10:53.560 --> 01:10:54.960
who's willing to take care of things,

1470
01:10:54.960 --> 01:10:57.400
but we need him to be divinely masculine,

1471
01:10:57.400 --> 01:11:00.360
which means, you know, we need him to be a son of God.

1472
01:11:00.360 --> 01:11:04.480
And so stay off the slippery slope.

1473
01:11:06.000 --> 01:11:08.600
Okay, because if he's on your couch,

1474
01:11:08.600 --> 01:11:12.080
you got dick pics in your phone, you know,

1475
01:11:12.080 --> 01:11:12.920
and there's-

1476
01:11:12.920 --> 01:11:14.440
None of that was at the same time.

1477
01:11:14.440 --> 01:11:16.480
I know, but there's a penis in the living room.

1478
01:11:16.480 --> 01:11:18.120
So the bottom line is,

1479
01:11:18.120 --> 01:11:20.160
and it's attached to a real live man

1480
01:11:20.160 --> 01:11:22.400
that seems pretty sexy,

1481
01:11:22.400 --> 01:11:25.320
because I think it's sexy when people fix things

1482
01:11:25.320 --> 01:11:26.160
and do things, I'm like,

1483
01:11:26.160 --> 01:11:28.120
oh, baby, that's hot.

1484
01:11:28.120 --> 01:11:30.960
So just make sure that you keep your head on straight

1485
01:11:30.960 --> 01:11:34.280
and understand that he definitely is attracted to something

1486
01:11:34.280 --> 01:11:37.040
but don't let what God meant for good

1487
01:11:37.040 --> 01:11:39.720
be turned into something else, okay?

1488
01:11:39.720 --> 01:11:43.040
Because you're not putting it in the right context.

1489
01:11:43.040 --> 01:11:44.440
Keep it in the right context.

1490
01:11:44.440 --> 01:11:46.280
And definitely I wouldn't let him spend the night

1491
01:11:46.280 --> 01:11:47.880
at your house, you know,

1492
01:11:47.880 --> 01:11:51.240
especially with all the situation ship

1493
01:11:51.240 --> 01:11:52.560
that's going on right now.

1494
01:11:53.400 --> 01:11:56.440
Just so you keep yourself out of any kind of

1495
01:11:56.440 --> 01:11:58.520
further confusion with that.

1496
01:11:59.880 --> 01:12:02.760
And your other thing about the God said,

1497
01:12:02.760 --> 01:12:06.120
okay, God said no about,

1498
01:12:06.120 --> 01:12:08.400
hey, there's this secret abuse in your past

1499
01:12:08.400 --> 01:12:09.640
that you don't know about, you know,

1500
01:12:09.640 --> 01:12:11.400
God said, that's not true.

1501
01:12:11.400 --> 01:12:14.040
I can't tell you how many people come into this program

1502
01:12:14.040 --> 01:12:15.040
and they're like,

1503
01:12:15.040 --> 01:12:17.520
I think that maybe I was abused as a child

1504
01:12:17.520 --> 01:12:18.720
and I've just blocked it out.

1505
01:12:18.720 --> 01:12:21.360
And that idea came to them

1506
01:12:21.360 --> 01:12:23.480
through some kind of counseling,

1507
01:12:23.480 --> 01:12:25.800
some kind of sozo, some kind of whatever.

1508
01:12:25.800 --> 01:12:29.080
Y'all, let a word be established, okay?

1509
01:12:29.080 --> 01:12:31.040
But at the same time,

1510
01:12:31.040 --> 01:12:33.560
if you don't resonate with it, which you haven't,

1511
01:12:35.200 --> 01:12:37.200
why do these birds always fly into my window?

1512
01:12:37.200 --> 01:12:39.200
What in the world is happening?

1513
01:12:39.200 --> 01:12:41.000
That scared me to death.

1514
01:12:43.880 --> 01:12:46.400
You know, if there's a witness in your spirit

1515
01:12:46.400 --> 01:12:48.160
to something that someone's telling you

1516
01:12:48.160 --> 01:12:50.560
that they're sensing in the spirit or whatever,

1517
01:12:50.920 --> 01:12:54.000
and stuff, then you just put a pin in it, which you have,

1518
01:12:54.000 --> 01:12:57.200
and then you've allowed it beautifully

1519
01:12:57.200 --> 01:13:01.360
to come to a fullness of transparency.

1520
01:13:01.360 --> 01:13:03.800
And that is, God's telling you, it's not true.

1521
01:13:05.000 --> 01:13:05.880
It's not true.

1522
01:13:05.880 --> 01:13:09.640
But this behavior pattern of wanting to be accepted

1523
01:13:09.640 --> 01:13:11.600
and not wanting to be rejected and all this stuff

1524
01:13:11.600 --> 01:13:13.520
comes from some other trauma in your life

1525
01:13:13.520 --> 01:13:15.920
from this bullying situation

1526
01:13:15.920 --> 01:13:17.920
when you were in middle school, okay?

1527
01:13:17.920 --> 01:13:19.920
You guys, this will happen so often in the heart work

1528
01:13:19.920 --> 01:13:21.560
where you'll know that you have some sort of

1529
01:13:21.560 --> 01:13:24.280
behavior pattern that you don't like,

1530
01:13:24.280 --> 01:13:26.480
but you don't know where it comes from.

1531
01:13:27.880 --> 01:13:29.440
Or you're not even real,

1532
01:13:29.440 --> 01:13:30.960
you don't even realize how toxic

1533
01:13:30.960 --> 01:13:32.760
this behavior pattern really is

1534
01:13:32.760 --> 01:13:36.200
until God kind of helps you unpack it and shows you where,

1535
01:13:36.200 --> 01:13:37.720
and it's usually rooted in something

1536
01:13:37.720 --> 01:13:39.800
that you're not expecting.

1537
01:13:39.800 --> 01:13:41.480
A lot of times, it's rooted in something

1538
01:13:41.480 --> 01:13:43.400
that you maybe even forgot about, Jen.

1539
01:13:43.400 --> 01:13:45.400
You're like, you didn't even, you know,

1540
01:13:45.400 --> 01:13:49.440
it's like, okay, yeah, that's, do what?

1541
01:13:49.960 --> 01:13:51.440
I was pretty shocked when he brought it up.

1542
01:13:51.440 --> 01:13:53.720
Yeah, you're like, okay, that happens to everyone,

1543
01:13:53.720 --> 01:13:55.000
who cares, I got bullied in school,

1544
01:13:55.000 --> 01:13:56.920
whatever, I moved on with my life.

1545
01:13:56.920 --> 01:13:58.680
Raise your hand if you were bullied

1546
01:13:59.720 --> 01:14:01.120
and not even just in school,

1547
01:14:01.120 --> 01:14:03.720
but maybe bullied at a job, bullied by a sibling,

1548
01:14:03.720 --> 01:14:04.640
bullied by a parent.

1549
01:14:04.640 --> 01:14:08.000
You guys, we can get bullied by our parents too, you know?

1550
01:14:10.800 --> 01:14:13.520
Yeah, lots of people being bullied here, see?

1551
01:14:13.520 --> 01:14:16.160
So that can definitely cause people pleasing.

1552
01:14:16.160 --> 01:14:17.560
It also can cause the opposite.

1553
01:14:17.600 --> 01:14:21.320
It can cause us to be a hard ass, really, it can.

1554
01:14:21.320 --> 01:14:23.120
Tough, always looking for a fight,

1555
01:14:23.120 --> 01:14:24.680
always expecting to be rejected,

1556
01:14:24.680 --> 01:14:26.920
and so then we always get rejected.

1557
01:14:26.920 --> 01:14:28.440
So this is good stuff today.

1558
01:14:28.440 --> 01:14:29.440
Did anyone get anything?

1559
01:14:29.440 --> 01:14:31.320
There's lots and lots of tidbits today.

1560
01:14:31.320 --> 01:14:33.160
Hopefully everyone caught something really great.

1561
01:14:33.160 --> 01:14:35.160
Jen, thank you for being so transparent.

1562
01:14:35.160 --> 01:14:37.880
Stephanie as well, Kelly as well,

1563
01:14:37.880 --> 01:14:41.480
everyone who shared and did anything in the chat as well.

1564
01:14:41.480 --> 01:14:43.400
Thank you guys so much.

1565
01:14:43.400 --> 01:14:45.880
Father God, we thank you for what is going on here

1566
01:14:45.880 --> 01:14:47.400
in this group of women in their hearts.

1567
01:14:48.200 --> 01:14:51.000
You've brought them here for a very special time

1568
01:14:51.000 --> 01:14:54.920
in their lives where you are writing wrongs

1569
01:14:54.920 --> 01:14:57.200
and you are taking them out of the wrong thinking

1570
01:14:57.200 --> 01:14:59.680
and putting them into places of abundance.

1571
01:15:00.000 --> 01:15:01.680
out of places of scarcity,

1572
01:15:01.680 --> 01:15:03.680
out of places of narrow-mindedness,

1573
01:15:03.680 --> 01:15:06.280
out of places of religious mindsets,

1574
01:15:06.280 --> 01:15:08.840
out of places where they are living in

1575
01:15:08.840 --> 01:15:11.760
constant sin, shame, condemnation cycles,

1576
01:15:11.760 --> 01:15:15.040
and you are setting their feet off the path of pain

1577
01:15:15.040 --> 01:15:16.880
and leading them back to you,

1578
01:15:16.880 --> 01:15:19.880
to your wonderful Father's heart,

1579
01:15:19.880 --> 01:15:23.280
full of unconditional grace and mercy, love,

1580
01:15:23.280 --> 01:15:26.320
showing them that it's not about what they can do,

1581
01:15:26.320 --> 01:15:28.680
but it's about what you can do together

1582
01:15:28.920 --> 01:15:31.640
in the right timing and in the right context.

1583
01:15:31.640 --> 01:15:33.280
In Jesus' name, amen.

1584
01:15:34.560 --> 01:15:36.960
All right, lots of more opportunities for all of you.

1585
01:15:36.960 --> 01:15:39.460
So please don't ever feel like, you know,

1586
01:15:39.460 --> 01:15:42.000
you don't have a bright and beautiful future ahead

1587
01:15:42.000 --> 01:15:43.080
because you really do.

1588
01:15:43.080 --> 01:15:44.760
That's the truth, all right?

1589
01:15:44.760 --> 01:15:47.240
So go with Jesus and I will see you soon.

1590
01:15:47.240 --> 01:15:50.240
And there's an eight o'clock tonight, totally different.

1591
01:15:50.240 --> 01:15:51.080
I guarantee it.

1592
01:15:51.080 --> 01:15:53.640
So if you want to double dose, come to that.

1593
01:15:53.640 --> 01:15:55.760
And then we have for this group,

1594
01:15:56.720 --> 01:15:57.880
guys, we are moving to the app.

1595
01:15:57.880 --> 01:16:00.160
We're moving our first batch of people to the app.

1596
01:16:00.160 --> 01:16:01.760
So you guys are in phase one.

1597
01:16:01.760 --> 01:16:04.240
So probably sometime before you get into phase two

1598
01:16:04.240 --> 01:16:07.400
or phase two, you'll be invited over to the app.

1599
01:16:07.400 --> 01:16:09.960
And I'm super excited about how efficient

1600
01:16:09.960 --> 01:16:12.240
and organized that is going to be for everyone.

1601
01:16:12.240 --> 01:16:13.600
All right, so that's it.

1602
01:16:13.600 --> 01:16:14.840
I'll see you on Saturday.