Welcome to last year single challenge day one.
What's a challenge?
It is an intensive.
It's a time where you come in here and you hear a lot of amazing things that are going to shift you.
They're going to shift your spirit.
They're going to shift your heart.
They're going to shift your thinking.
They're going to completely shift you to a different place than when you started.
So this is a supernatural opportunity.
And so I want to encourage you don't just come to day one or day two or day three,
come to all of them because we're going to go somewhere.
We're going to build on something very important to not just your love life,
but to your life in general.
I always like to say that the man's just the cherry on top.
God brought you here.
It's kind of like sell them what they want and give them what they need.
He brought you here because you have a deep desire to partner.
And guess what?
He wants that more for you than you even want it for yourself.
And I'm going to prove that to you during this challenge.
Okay.
But then at the same time,
there's all kinds of other breakthrough that heaven has been trying to get to your front door.
And so you're going to receive so much even in just this three days.
And so please don't mail it in.
Don't fall off.
Make sure that you show up.
It's important.
So this morning as I was getting ready for this challenge,
because you guys,
every time I deliver this challenge live,
something different happens because it's a different set of people here.
And God knows that.
So via Holy Spirit,
I'm able to kind of get into,
um,
get into alignment,
get into agreement with what heaven's wanting to say to you specifically,
right?
This group of people,
not the group of people before you or the group of people before them,
but you guys.
And so this old 80s song kept going through my mind as I was getting ready this
morning.
And it's just,
it just says,
I'm the king of wishful thinking.
And I really heard the Lord saying that some of you are the queens of wishful
thinking.
You're always wishing and hoping for something that's not happening in your
life,
but you're not taking action.
Okay.
You got a lot of wishbone,
but you don't got a lot of,
you know,
backbone.
You're not going forward in those things.
You don't have a lot of confidence that that stuff's really going to happen for
you.
So it's out here in daydream world all the time.
You sit around and you want things that you don't have,
but you don't take action to get them.
And I really want to shift that in you.
Um,
in during these three,
this three day challenge,
I want to see you have the confidence to take action because when we really
believe that something's going to happen,
the proof of belief is action.
In fact,
one of my favorite all time quotes,
I say it all the time.
I should have it embroidered on a pillow or something for myself.
It is by a man named Nelson Mandela.
And it just says this,
you will never prepare for what you secretly believe is not going to
happen.
You won't prepare,
you won't get ready for,
you won't take action for something while secretly believing that it's not
possible,
that it's not really going to happen.
And so I want to challenge you in that in these three days,
you know,
all these things that you say that you want in life,
but you're not taking action towards because we want to turn wish into
action.
Okay.
We want to turn hope into action,
right?
That's what we want to do.
And we're going to do that during this specific three day challenge.
And that's not something that we necessarily do all the time.
So I just want to invite Holy spirit.
If you're new,
maybe you're not a believer in Jesus.
You're not a Christ follower.
I will tell you,
I am and everything that I've ever been able to get in my hot little hands
that I've hoped for has been because of the finished work of the cross.
And so you're going to hear a lot about that.
You're not going to hear a lot of religion here because I don't roll like
that.
You are going to hear a lot of grace.
You're going to hear a lot of mercy.
You're going to hear a lot of faith.
And so if you're one of those people that has been wounded by what we call
church organized religion,
you're still in the right place because I believe that what hurts you,
God will also use to heal you.
So if you've been hurt by so-called spiritual community,
then you're also going to find healing in spiritual community.
And I really hope that this is the beginning of that.
That is my prayer for you.
So I want to invite Holy spirit just to speak to me and speak through me
right now.
And I also want to just declare that your hearts and your minds are open to
receive what God has for you individually.
Why did he bring you here? And so Holy spirit,
we just ask that every heart and mind would be open,
that all of us come into agreement together with heaven over this time
together.
And that you would speak clearly to the hearts of those that have gathered in
Jesus name. Amen. All right.
So we're about 42, 44 months in,
and we've had hundreds and hundreds and hundreds and hundreds and hundreds and
hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of engagements and met and marriages,
weddings in that timeframe.
And that doesn't include the thousands of people that are in marriage minded
courtships because of what we do here.
And so if that's really the only reason that you've come,
because you want to meet that masculine,
mature and marriage minded man,
then you are definitely in the right place. All right.
Because this is a divine appointment for you. Right?
So story after story, after story, after story,
during my 28 ministry, 28 year ministry career,
career from women that would come to me and say, Jackie,
I don't understand why I'm single. Okay. I don't understand.
Why is God holding out on me? Why hasn't this happened for me? You know,
I started to wonder why there were so many people that the thing that they were
believing for, the thing that they were contending for was their love life.
And I started questioning God about that because I've always been the matchmaker
in my friend group. I'm known as the matchmaker.
I helped 15 of my friends get married and I helped countless others of my
friends stay married.
So I've always been the person that carries a grace for specifically marriage
partnership.
And it seems kind of strange that I would carry that because you're going to
hear some of my backstory and you'd be like, Whoa, you know,
how did you get that Jackie? Well, God doesn't call the qualified.
He qualifies the called. Right. And I've always been available.
I've always loved love. And so I'm your wing woman.
I'm going to be the head cheerleader of your love story starting right now.
And I believe that God has given me a supernatural grace to help people step
into kingdom marriage and partnership. All right.
So if you're new to me, welcome me. I'm Jackie D Jackie Dorman.
And last year single is my brand. It is my program.
It has been alive since the end of 2020. God took me aside. He said, Hey,
I want my single sons and daughters married. He said, you have a burden for this.
He said, you love playing matchmaker. He said, I've given you a gift for this.
Will you take this and will you marry it with your heart healing,
proprietary protocol, the heartwork.
And you're going to hear about that a little bit in day two.
And will you put those things together and help me to bring revival to marriage
and family? And you guys, I simply gave him my yes.
I'm definitely God's shotgun girl. If God is doing something new,
I want to be involved,
especially in an area where I've always loved to metal,
right? I've always loved a metal in that.
And so I pushed past all the objections that I had as to why it might not be a
good idea to do this.
And you obviously have pushed past all your objections. Why do I say that?
Because if you came here because of an ad,
there's no doubt that in the comments of that ad, you saw some crazy stuff.
Well, Paul said that we should be single and blah, blah, blah, and this and that.
And you saw all kinds of things that you had to kind of ignore.
He had to put the blinders on and you had to push past those things,
past those trolls, past all the objections in your own heart,
past some of your own bad experiences with maybe online things,
but then also just men in general and get here. And so once again,
we're all here and I think we can expect a very supernatural time together.
So that pandemic that we were living in, in the, in the 2020s, right?
When we were living in that pandemic, it gave birth to a marriage boom.
It did.
And we've been forerunners of that revival of marriage and family for the last
four years, almost four years. And it's just been incredible. You guys,
over 750 plus engagements and weddings.
And I want to tell you,
I get engagement and wedding invitations every single
week from my students, from my clients. It's crazy. I call it the marriage funnel.
All right. So who is Jackie? I'm an online coach, teacher, mentor. Um,
I used to be on the radio reaching millions of people, um,
every single day about love, the love guru on the radio,
350 Christian and country radio stations.
I'm a bestselling author of several books. In fact,
I have a new dating book coming out that is going to, um,
I think it's gonna probably rock a few boats.
I'm going to say some things in that book that people are not probably expecting
and maybe have not heard before.
And I hope to do that during this challenge for you as well to say things that
maybe you have heard in your own heart,
but no one's ever given you language to say that or permission to even believe
it. And then also things that, wow, you're like, that really makes sense.
But I've never heard anyone say that before. Um,
I do carry that kind of revelatory gift.
And so I'm going to use that gift for you today. And I'm also a spirit,
make a spirit mate matchmaker. I'm a spirit mate matchmaker.
You'll hear more the difference between spirit mates and soulmates later on in
this challenge. And also the difference between spirit mates,
soulmates and flesh mates. So many of us,
we've been letting our body drive the drive, the van. Okay.
So many of us have been letting our body make a decision in our attractions on
who it is that we're going to choose.
And that's not working out too well for us, is it?
So we don't want to do that anymore and we're not gonna. All right.
So you guys ready to get started? Let me tell you day one today,
I'm going to talk to you about how God is playing matchmaker,
what I've had a front row seat to see and what I've participated in helping him
play matchmaker. Why this time is different.
Why the time that we're living in right now is different.
So many of you have yearned for a kingdom marriage for years,
maybe even decades.
Why is the era that we're living in different than 10 years ago or 20 years
ago? Some of you guys have been in the waiting room literally that long,
and I'm going to help you get out of that waiting room and get into the kingdom
partnership that God has for you. I'm going to help you get your hopes back up.
Carrying that supernatural gift of hope that I'm going to be releasing over you guys today.
I want you to really leave here today understanding that heaven is listening,
that you've not been forgotten, that you've not been left behind or left out,
that heaven's been listening, and that sometimes our promises just have a time stamp on them
because it's a certain thing that God's doing in the whole earth.
It's not just about our life, it's about what God's doing in the lives of his children,
just corporately, and that is what's happening right now.
God wants you married, he wants you partnered.
Why does he want you partnered? The desire that you have to be partnered came from him,
and he wants to fulfill it with him, with his person, with his choice for you, right?
God's heart for making us male and female, we're going to hear about that in just a few minutes.
Why did God make us male and female in the first place?
If he wasn't going to put us together.
And talking about how the battle of the sexes started in the garden,
and I'm going to help you get rid of any kind of guilt that you might have,
any kind of religious idea that you might have about wanting to be partnered.
So many people feel like they're cheating on Jesus because they want something with skin on it.
I'm going to say that again.
So many people feel like they're cheating on Jesus because they want something with skin on it.
I'm going to show you why that's a ridiculous idea,
why God created you to want something with skin on it from the very beginning,
why he's the one that said that he's not enough for you,
and I'm going to explain that statement for you that are like,
whoa, whoa, whoa, God's enough.
I understand what you're saying,
but you're about to understand what I'm saying here in day one of the challenge.
And you're going to see how it's biblically the truth.
And it's going to help you come out of that guilt of wanting a person in your life
and not just having this relationship with the invisible God.
Right? And so I'm going to prove that to you as well,
that you weren't created to be single.
You weren't, there is a gift of singleness.
And I'm going to unpack Paul's teachings today in day one too.
And then last but not least, all the ideas of that wishful thinking,
all of you that are dealing with, Oh yeah, I really would love to believe this is true,
but Jackie, if it was going to happen for me, wouldn't it have already happened?
So I'm going to help you to embrace the power of yet, right?
It hasn't happened yet, but it is going to happen.
And that's why you're here.
I believe you've been drawn here, highlighted, handpicked to come here.
There's billions of people in the world.
And yet this small group of a couple hundred women here.
Why? Because I believe that you're a kinsman,
redeemer in your family line and I,
it's going to be my joy and pleasure to help you step into that love story.
Okay. Day two tomorrow, we're going to peek into those heart boxes.
What's holding us back. If our problem isn't our problem,
then where are we stuck? We're not ever stuck on the outside y'all.
We're always stuck on the inside. Okay?
So what lies are we believing that are keeping us, you know, in that waiting room?
I'm going to show you why the waiting room is not a real thing and that God
never puts us in the waiting room. In fact,
it's not biblical to wait upon the Lord.
And I'm going to show you why through scripture on day two and then day three,
we're going to fully just get out of our own way, get out of God's way,
and we're going to get ready to be the bride. So are you ready?
Go ahead and get anything you want it to take notes.
For those of you that are watching and replay, don't, don't,
don't check out here. All right. All the goodness is coming.
So make sure that you stay engaged.
Are you ready to hear about how God is playing matchmaker?
Why this time is different than ever before and why it's obvious that God wants
this more than you even want it. And that's why he led you here right now.
All right, let's do this. Okay. So you guys, everywhere that I go,
I'm asked all kinds of questions, as you can imagine, right?
Do lots of singles conferences, lots of singles panels.
Some of the singles panels I do are with the top matchmakers in the world.
People that charge 50,000 to $300,000 a person to make matches.
Wow. That's crazy, right? Crazy.
I I'm invited on those matchmaker panels and a lot of times I'm deferred to,
Hey Jackie, what do you think? Why? Because I'm carrying the wisdom of heaven.
And so a lot of times people will ask me questions that specifically have to do
with the why behind the what. And so I want to give you a chance to guess,
what do you think is the number one why behind the what question that people ask
me when I'm out and about speaking places?
What do you think the number one question,
even the number one question that people DM my team, what do you think it is?
The number one question that I get asked is why are so many Christians single?
Why are so many of God's sons and daughters single? Right?
Especially the ones that want to be married because not everyone wants to be
married. I know that that might be amazing to you. You're like, Oh, but,
and it's not because they have trauma. Some of them, it's the reason why,
but for a lot of people that don't want to be married,
they're just content where they are.
They're in either a season of singleness or they have that proverbial gift of
singleness. And I'm going to unpack that. Okay. At the end of today's challenge,
I'm going to get into the teachings of Paul and Corinthians that talk about that.
But for whatever reason, they're just not in a place where they want that, right?
But for the people that want it,
for the people that have been wanting it and been praying over it and been
praying for their future husband or wife or doing all the things and jumping
through all the hoops, so to speak, why are they single?
That's the number one question that I get asked.
And I'm going to cover that in today's challenge. Someone's saying,
I don't have the gift of singleness. Yeah, you don't. And you know why?
I know because you wouldn't be here. If you did,
for those of you that really need proof and evidence that you don't have this
gift that you don't want.
And you're hoping that God's not going to give it to you because you don't want
it. And if you do get it,
you're going to re gift it to someone else because you really don't want it.
I just want to let you know that you don't have it.
The people that have that gift, they don't desire marriage and family.
They're not white knuckling it through celibacy, abstinence. Okay.
And singleness just hoping that God will give them the grace to make it to the
end of their life. You know, solitarily. That's not how that works.
The people that have the actual gift of singleness,
they're usually in some kind of full-time ministry vocation like Paul,
like mother Teresa, like Corrie ten Boom. We can go on and on and on. Okay.
Even though there's not a lot of evidence of those people,
the monks and the nuns and the priests,
and we all know that some of those people should have gotten married and that's
not really what they should have chosen for their vocation, right?
Because they had a sex drive that just wouldn't quit.
And then they started having the wrong outlets for that.
But I'm just going to let you know right now and right here that all the evidence
that you need,
that God has a love story for you is that your heart aches for marriage and
family.
I believe that God put that desire in your heart and he wants it fulfilled.
So the reason why you're single is something that I'm going to share at the end
of today's teaching. Okay. Right. So everyone asking me,
why are so many people single? And the easy answer is this y'all, the curse.
The easy answer to why there's so many people unpartnered, single,
not in relationship, marriage covenant is because of the curse.
And so let me unpack that for you for a minute here.
So all this debacle that we've been in, in fact, every ill,
societal ill that we're dealing with all goes back to this, right? And you guys,
it all goes back to the deterioration of marriage and family.
Go ahead and just pick anything, pick any society issue right now in your mind,
go ahead and pick it or go ahead and put it in the chat.
It all goes back to the breakdown of family.
It all goes back to fatherlessness. It all goes back to motherlessness.
It all goes back to the breakdown of marriages.
So you see how important and vital marriages to society. Do you see it?
Marriage is the cornerstone of society. Okay.
And men and women are obviously the cornerstone of marriage guys.
It's so important.
And the reason why we have so much trouble going on in the earth right now is
because of the breakdown of marriage and family.
God wants to restore it and he wants to restore it through you.
I got goosebumps right now.
You guys got to get a hold of the idea that you're being called as missionaries
to marriage and family is dying. You guys is dying.
I'm going to give you some statistics today. They're going to blow your mind.
God is looking for people that are willing to lay down their selfish desires and
sign up for kingdom marriage and family.
And we're going to talk more about what that looks like.
So let's talk about the curse. Talk about Adam and Eve screwing up,
being disobedient in the garden, that what they did,
the disobedience that happened there in the book of Genesis,
if you don't know this story, um,
is we got separated from a lot of things and not just separated from God.
A lot of people focus on that. Oh, we were separated from God. Yeah, we were,
but we were also separated from ourselves, our identities. Okay.
We've been lost and confused about what our identities are.
You see a whole generation that's completely confused about identity.
That's part of the curse. So we're separated from God.
We're separated from ourselves, the masculine divinely,
the divine feminine, just from who we are as children of God.
And then the third separation was we were separated from each other,
men and women separated from each other because of the curse,
separated from God, separated from self and separated from each other.
So the sin curse didn't just separate us from God.
It separated us from all of these things that are vital to what God created his
family for in the first place.
So also you've been separated from original design.
I want you to write that down. The OGU, the garden you,
you've been separated from that by the curse,
the divine design that God created all of us for guys.
There's, there's divine design. There's original design.
We're going to go into that here at the beginning. All right.
So let's revisit divine design.
Let's revisit God's master plan when he was putting everything in motion.
So we have the seven days of creation guys know all about that made the sun and
the moon and the earth.
and the firmaments. I remember as a kid I was like, what's a firmament? I went to my grandma's
church. I didn't meet Jesus until I was in my 20s, but I visited my grandma one summer. She took me
to church and I heard about the firmaments and I was like, what the heck is that? So he made all
the beautiful creation that we stand in awe of. We stand in front of the mountains and the ocean
and we're like, whoa, this is incredible, right? But when we get down to the sixth day, we see
God's full purpose in all of it. It was to make a family. You guys, all God ever wanted
was a family. Write that down. If you're taking notes, all God ever wanted was a family.
All of this in the end is only going to be about family. It's only going to be about love.
You were made by love, for love, to love. That is what you were created for. And all God ever
wanted was a family. I don't care what else you do. You can have a big, beautiful career.
You can make a lot of money. You can have a lot of things. You can go on a lot of trips,
but it's not about those things. It's about who did you do those things for? And who did
you do those things with? Your entire life is always going to be about relationship
and people and family, all of it, always. So he shapes the first family member out of the dust.
He breathed a breath of life into him. I want you to see how intentional God is right there
with his family. Everything else, the mountain, the sea, the beautiful, majestic seven wonders
of the world. God spoke those things into existence, but he was so intentional with his
family. He molded and shaped Adam from the dust of the earth. He breathed his own breath into him.
Same with Eve. When it was her turn, he took a rib from Adam and he shaped and molded it into
her divine feminine design, right? That's what happened. And the same intention that he took
with those first two family members, the word of God tells us that he takes with you. He knits all
of us together in our mother's womb. Maybe you would have been preferred to be knit together in
a different woman's womb because you got some mommy and daddy issues. And I want to address
those things. I would love to get you to a place of healing in those areas. But the word says that
he knit you together. You've been fearfully and wonderfully made just like the first family
members. And so Adam, and that's not all. He also planted a garden for Adam. Okay? He didn't speak
a garden into existence. He planted it. I want you to really get into agreement with the intentionality
that God has with his kids. All right. With what he has for us and the same intention that he took
there, he wants to have in your life. God is emotionally involved with you. I don't care what
religion has said. It doesn't matter what past experiences with all kinds of legalism or all
kinds of disappointment has brought into your life. God is intentionally involved with you.
And that's part of the reason why you're here. Heaven's been listening to the cries of your heart
and so now we're here, right? All right. So what did he do next? He brought his animal friends.
He brought Adam, all the animal friends for all of you that love your fur babies. He brought all
the animal friends around Adam and he watched Adam. What is this son going to do? How is he going to
take care of and steward creation? What's going to happen? And as he was watching him on the sixth day,
the divine community of heaven, y'all father, son, and Holy spirit, the divine community of heaven
said, you know, we may, we want to make, we want to make him in our image man in our image, right?
But something's missing. And for the first time in six days of creation, God said, this is not
good. After every day of creation, he said, this is good. This is good. This is good. And the Hebrew
word for good is finished. It's finished. It's complete. But on the sixth day, this is not
complete. This is not finished. There's something missing. And the Holy community of heaven decided
that what was missing is that Adam could not exist solitarily. He couldn't be alone, not alone.
The way we think y'all and so much is lost in translation from the Hebrew to the English.
He's not alone. He has relationship with the Holy family of heaven. Like none of us have ever
experienced. God walked with him and talked with him in the garden. You guys, he wasn't lonely.
He was solitary. He needed a helper. He needed his own kind in order for God's family to exist
and be in the image of the Holy family of heaven that are three in one, right? The Holy family of
heaven, we had to exist in community as well, not just solitarily. And so the feminine was removed
from the masculine given its own vessel. And now the two can come back together in community and
be one. This was God's idea. Y'all let's make man in our image, male and female. Will we make them
for what reason for them to come together as one? All right. And then of course we see the third,
we see the third being added with family, with children. So man, woman, children, right? That's
what we see. So it's not good for me to be alone. We didn't miss anything. He wasn't alone. He wasn't
in the garden alone. He had communion with the community of heaven. So the word alone there
means solitary or.
singular. That's what it means.
And so God was saying,
it's not good for our family to exist without being with their own kind,
being with their own kind. Right?
So this debunks all of those religious voices that you hear in church and at
conferences that say that God should be enough for you.
God should be enough for you. From the very beginning, God said, no,
I'm not enough for you. You need your own kind.
And for all the people that are like, okay, well that's old Testament, Jackie,
but it's new Testament. Now,
Holy Spirit has come and he's our helper. He's our help me. Y'all,
that's not biblical at all because Holy Spirit was in this mix.
Holy Spirit was in the conference that decided that man needed his own kind.
Holy Spirit was in that conference. He was on that conference call.
Father, son, and Holy Spirit said, we want to make man in our image.
All right. Male and female. Do we want to make them? Come on y'all.
A lot of times we make up theology to try to explain away our pain.
And I understand how that sounds good. Okay, well now we have Holy Spirit.
We have our helper. We have our comforter. Yeah.
We have it for what reason to finish the great commission.
Holy Spirit is the God agent on the earth right now,
but Jesus ascended to heaven, right?
To prepare a place for us and he sent a helper to help us finish what to finish
what he started on earth as his disciples.
That's what we're here to finish with the help of Holy Spirit.
So God wanted a family. He wanted you to have community.
He exists in community. He wants you to have community of your own kind.
Psalm 68, 6, tell us that God places the solitary in community.
God takes the solitary and places them in family. That's what it says.
So we were never meant, if you're taking notes, put it down.
We were never meant to be alive and alone.
We were never meant to be alive and alone. We're not. All right.
So God says this man needs a co-laborer, a suitable partner,
a helper that is like him,
meaning made from the dust of the earth. And remember this is before the curse,
like him made in our image, but like him, he needs that helper.
He needs his own kind. So he removes the feminine from the Adam, from Adam.
And you guys are so much typology of where, you know,
Eve has been removed from, right? The rib, which signifies partnership, right?
That's equality right there. That's partnership. It also,
underneath the arm, it signifies covering the masculine.
It has been created, the divine masculine to be a protector, to be a covering,
um, significance, the heart of God, emotional IQ.
There's so many different things that that signifies.
So he takes this beautiful feminine spirit because God is a spirit and we've
God is a spirit and we've been created in his image. We are spirit.
That thing you see in the mirror, that's not you, right?
You're a spirit that lives in a body, a feminine body that possesses a soul.
But I'm telling you something right now, in case no one's ever told you this,
your spirit is also feminine. Okay. You are the feminine of God.
You were chosen to be the feminine of God. You are the feminine of God.
Your body is not what makes you feminine.
It's your spirit that makes you feminine.
So all of the people that are out here trying to change their bodies so that
they can be something that they weren't born to be right.
They're trying to do something that cannot be done. Your spirit is feminine.
God is both masculine and feminine. He is both mother and father. All right.
And what has happened is,
is he's created a family that shows the fullness of God,
man and woman, right. In separate vessels.
And so you are going to be the feminine of God throughout eternity.
And so it's time to make peace with what that looks like.
A lot of us have a lot of really kooky ideas of what the feminine looks like
because of culture, because of our family history, because of abuse,
because of all different types of things.
And I don't have time to unpack all of the divine feminine during this
challenge,
but it's very freeing for you to understand that being a femme being feminine is
amazing. It's incredible to be the feminine of God.
And I want you to be able to make peace with that.
If you've been at war with your own design. Okay. All right.
So he takes this feminine spirit and he makes it into its own form and own
design, taking that same intentionality as he did with Adam. Ah,
beautiful. And then the great reveal happens. This is dun, dun, dun, dun.
This is where they meet, right? He, it's like, remember the Pac-Man game?
I'm probably dating myself right now, but I was, you know,
a kid in the eighties and a teenager in the nineties and Mrs.
Pac-Man specifically on the third screen.
That's what her and Pac-Man meet. And it's just like,
this is what's about to happen. Adam has been solitary in the garden.
He's been stewarding creation.
And then all of a sudden he's going to get a helper that's like him.
And out of all the beauty that you can imagine that that garden had, right?
He's like, Whoa.
This beautiful Genesis 2.22, 2.23 moment when God presents Eve to Adam and he's like,
Ooh, man, woman, right? He was so excited to see her, wasn't he? He was.
He was like, finally, finally, what I've been waiting for.
And then he goes into this big speech, bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh.
What was happening here, you guys? He was recognizing her.
And Proverbs tells us that your spirit mate's going to do the same thing.
When a man sees, discovers, knows that a woman is his wife.
When he finds a wife, that word find means that, sees, discovers.
This is not a regular woman. This is my wife.
It's because he understands that he's obtained favor from the Lord to get his good thing.
Remember when God said in Genesis, it's not good for a man to be alone.
He's going to get his good thing.
In Proverbs, man is going to, your man is going to go through that same process of Adam.
Like, woo, bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh.
You are the thing that's been missing all my life. And here you are.
Y'all, I know that the world and psychology culture wants to tell us that that's codependency.
No, y'all, that's original design. That's original design.
We are better together. That's original design.
Let go of all this psycho babble stuff. Let go of all these things.
Part of this is what's keeping us single.
Oh, we want each other, but we don't need each other.
That's not true. Go back to original design.
God said, man needs a helper.
What? He doesn't say he wants one. He needs one.
He needs one. And guess what? You need to be that helpmate.
And that doesn't make you a subservient person.
It doesn't make you someone who's submitted and walked on and someone who's taken advantage of
and someone who's just an accessory to a man's life.
That's all religion, y'all.
Remember, we're co-equals in Christ.
We have very different assignments, but when we come together, we can do amazing things.
Amazing things.
And so being the feminine of God does not look like what culture and society,
and especially religion, has told you that it looks like.
All right, so get this big speech, bone of my bone, flesh of my flesh.
Basically, how you doing? That's what was going on there.
He recognized her as part of himself.
She shall be called woman. And when I hear woman, I always think of the womb of God, right?
Of mankind, a co-creator, a birther, a mother.
And for those of you that have not birthed natural children, that's not what that means.
It means that you have a spiritual womb as a woman that can really manifest things
from heaven into the earth like nobody's business.
You are carrying that.
And I believe we're all carrying the nurturing gifts to be able to help other people grow into their best selves.
Right? That mothering, nurturing thing.
A lot of you have been really sad because you don't have natural children.
But I just want to let you know, if you want natural children, this can be part of the promise.
You can have them. All right?
You can have them. And when I say natural, I don't mean necessarily biological.
I shouldn't even use the word natural.
If you want to be a mother, you can be a mother.
The ship has not sailed on that.
So then the narrator, the author of Genesis, Moses, chimes in in Genesis 2.24 and says,
For this reason, what reason?
That we're better together.
That we've been created for each other.
For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be reunited or united to his wife,
and the two will become one flesh.
For what reason?
Because this is God's plan.
But what happens? What do you mean his mother and father?
Adam and Eve are the only one in the garden.
He was foreshadowing a separation that was coming.
That's why he's saying they shall be brought back together and the two shall be one.
Because there's a separation coming, and that separation was the curse.
That sin, that disobedience that separated us from God, ourselves, and each other,
separated us from the idea that each other were gifts,
started that battle of the sexes in the garden.
You see it right after they disobeyed.
God had a little meeting with Adam and Eve, and he said,
Because you've done this, man, you're going to want to dominate and rule over, conquer and possess,
use and abuse instead of protect and cover a woman.
And woman, you're going to want to control as well, but through the dark arts, right?
The dark feminine, through manipulation, control, seduction, deception.
Women are not usually as brawny and as strong as men,
so we don't control men through brute force the way a lot of times men control women.
We control men through seduction and deception and manipulation.
That's in the cursed masculine and feminine.
But no matter how much we hurt each other in these cursed identities,
you see that we're continually drawn to each other.
Why? Because we're created for each other.
Love-hate things going on in a lot of people's love lives.
You feel like you're sleeping with the enemy because of that battle of the sexes that started in the garden.
You want each other, you're drawn to each other, but you don't trust each other.
And we have to end that. That has to end here.
I just want to let you know that you cannot have relationship with anyone,
anyone outside the finished work of the cross.
You cannot have a good relationship with anyone outside.
healthy connection outside the reconciliation of the cross, right?
So here we are, these opposites that attract, but we can't cohabitate in the
curse. We don't get along in the curse. We don't. So the sin curse brought us the
D-I-S, the dis. Disconnection, distrust, disease, dis-ease,
disappointment, dishonor, disgust, disinheritance, distraction, disruption.
That's what it brought us.
The cross brought the ministry of reconciliation or the ministry of re,
R-E. Reconciliation, restoration, regeneration, repentance,
reunion, revival, relationship.
So the curse separated, but the cross reunited. Woo!
So that ministry of reconciliation is first foremost us to God,
to our identities in Christ, right? We're whole in Christ,
but then us to ourselves, right?
The divine masculine and feminine, better together.
So complete in marriage and then us to each other,
everyone, not just your spirit mate. So we're healed in family, whole in Christ,
completed an assignment in marriage and healed in family.
So you can't have truly intimate and healthy relationships with anyone outside
of the reconciliation that Jesus came to bring us.
But we do keep trying though, don't we?
We keep lathering repeating,
trying to have relationship with people and it not ending well.
All right. We are better together,
but a lot of people don't believe that.
And you might be one of those people because of what?
Because of your experience,
your experience has not shown you that you are better with a man. In fact,
a lot of you have a lot of horror stories of what has happened in your past.
And that's because you've been trying outside the reconciliation of Christ.
You've been getting with people that are not truly Christ followers, right?
You've been making contracts with people.
That's what those marriages were that ended and failed.
They weren't covenants.
They were contracts and they were built on deceit and manipulation.
They were built on control. They were built on everything,
lust things that were not loved. Those are flesh mates.
Those are not spirit mates. And that's why this has happened.
And a lot of people have just given up on marriage and love and family.
This is why we're seeing this drought of marriage and family in the earth
because people have either had their own horrible experiences or they've heard
too many horrible experiences from other people, including their family,
their moms, their grandmas, their great grandmas. And they're like, okay,
I'm going to pass on that. I'm going to pass on that.
I'm going to go ahead and dodge that bullet.
So as we watch people out there trying to connect with broken hearts and bad
information, it's like the hunger games out there.
And we're not going to volunteer as tribute. We're not, we're like, I'm out.
I'm not going to be part of that. Right. And remember, I told you,
that's my story,
which is why it's so funny that God has chosen me to be a forerunner in the
revival of marriage and family.
Because my mom was married three times before I was 10 years old,
all two abusive men, three times before I was even 10.
By the time I was 14 years old,
I lived in a girl's home and then went on to live the rest of my teenage years in
foster care situations, ran off with a guy at 17,
got married to another guy at 20 years old.
I took all that bad information all of my life about what this area of people's
lives look like. And I applied it to a marriage at 20 years old.
Until I, until I met Jesus at 22, two years into that broken marriage,
I was already separated, getting divorced. I met Jesus.
I had a radical, beautiful love conversion. It was incredible.
I haven't turned back since. All right.
But what happened there was I realized that there was more than just broken
hearts. Before that, I didn't know.
The only thing that I was used to and had ever seen in my entire life was broken
people, broken promises and broken hearts. And so of course,
it wasn't that I didn't see the red flags with the guy that I married at 20
years old. I liked red flags. I was attracted to red flags.
Red flags were exciting for me. You know, I love the smooth talking men,
you know, love bomb me. Tell me I'm beautiful.
Tell me I'm amazing and wonderful because I'd been so verbally abused as a
child. I'd experienced every kind of abuse possible, sexual, physical,
a mental, emotional, spiritual, every in every which way.
And so all I was really used to was abuse.
And so of course I'm going to keep signing up for that. I'm going to keep,
you know, renewing that, resubscribing to that.
And a lot of you have been doing that as well.
So I got married at 20 years old with all that inherited trauma.
And I raced down that altar past more red flags than did 10 to 500 because I was
like, woo, it's a circus. Let's go. And what do you think happened?
Chaos, confusion,
that God shaped hole that I had that I was trying to shove a man in because all
the women that had all the women that had come before me,
that's all I'd ever seen them do. Lather, rinse, repeat, man after man,
after man, after man. So I was beginning my experience with this.
And I probably would have been married several more times had I not met Jesus
when I was 22 years old. And I realized then that it was a God shaped hole.
And I also realized that I was
It's in a whole world of trouble being in this marriage, right?
And so I met Jesus and I think that we do people a disservice when we say, Oh,
well you met Jesus. Everything's better now. But it wasn't.
And oftentimes it's not. And it got worse and worse. My marriage did.
It got worse and worse and worse.
But I held on because now I have all these religious voices around me.
People that are trying to disciple me because I met Jesus saying, Hey,
you can't get divorced. Got to stay divorced. You got to stick in there.
You got to trust God. You got to do this. You got to do that. You know,
you got to make yourself prettier. You got to, you know,
create an environment in your home. You know, you got to submit more.
You got to have more sex with him. You got to do this and that. Y'all,
none of that stopped the emotional, mental, and verbal abuse of that situation.
What I had done is I had chosen the same thing that I was used to in childhood,
except now it had a religious twist on it,
which made it even worse because now it feels like you're being abused by God,
right?
Because you're being abused by scriptures and the wrong interpretation of
scriptures. But y'all, I held in there for 12 years. I was going to, you know,
I was going to, I was going to not get divorced or I was going to die trying.
And that almost happened.
I almost lost my life several times during that marriage.
And finally, because my motto was, I'm going to say, if it kills me, God's like,
no, you're not. After 12 years, I had no choice.
It was a rescue mission. And so many of your divorces, that's what they were.
They were rescue missions.
And I want you to go ahead and just let all the guilt and condemnation fall off
of you right now.
It was a rescue mission because you know what God hates more than divorce.
He hates the reasons for divorce. In fact, that's what the scripture means.
God hates divorce. No, God hates abuse.
God hates lies and deception. God hates infidelity. God hates promise breakers.
God hates, you know, the reasons why people get divorced.
He doesn't hate divorce or divorce people.
He hates the reasons why divorce becomes necessary. God loves you,
his daughter more than he loves his rules.
And so it's important that you understand that. Okay.
So it's time for us to start laying in the bed that Jesus made at the finished
work of the cross and stop laying in the bed that our bad decisions made, right?
We don't want to lay in those beds anymore and we want to come out of
condemnation. So I surrendered the pen to God after that.
I never expected to be remarried. In fact,
a lot of people told me I wasn't even allowed to be remarried because I got
divorced. There's a lot of, you know, religious mumbo jumbo out there.
That's using scripture and twisting it and making it mean things that doesn't
mean, by the way, I have amazing teachers on teaching in my program on divorce
and remarriage that will set you free from all of that.
And before the ink was even dry on those divorce papers,
I walked out of my front yard and I met the man who's now my husband.
There's a hilarious story of what happened when we met.
I thought that he was someone besides who he was.
I got an email that morning that said that a sex offender had moved into my
neighborhood.
And this poor man was the only person that I could see that moved in.
And I had a five year old daughter at the time. I was a single mom, right?
I had mama bear energy going on and I yelled at him. I was like, Hey bro,
I know who you are. I know who you are. So stay away from me and my family.
I promise you this happened. And then of course, thankfully someone else,
another neighbor saw this exchange and was just like, what,
what's wrong with you? Like I knew her,
we'd lived next to each other for several years.
And I told her what I thought about him,
about him being the email guy. And she was like, that's not who that is.
She goes, I spent a couple hours talking to this guy a week ago when he first
moved in. He's a great guy. He's a teacher down the street. You know,
he's a worship pastor, worship leader at a big church, you know,
all these things. And of course my assumptions made an ass out of me.
And so I went and I apologized to him. Then we started being friends four months
into that friendship. He made it clear that, you know,
he had found his good thing and we dated for four months and we were married.
So from the time that I yelled at him in my front yard to the time I said I do
with the altar was eight months and we've been married for 17 years.
So there's two types of marriages that happen fast. The crazy, toxic,
terrible ones, fleshmates,
and also the undeniably supernatural ones like my story.
And I want to help you be able to discern which is which,
because some of y'all have been running off half cocked with people that you
shouldn't have even had your second date with, let alone got married to. All
right. So that was 18. That was almost 18 years ago, 17 years ago. And you know,
we're one of the good ones.
So we have proven together as we've raised this blended family and you guys,
I didn't expect my, my love story. First of all,
I wasn't looking for a love story at all. Okay.
I didn't even expect that God was even going to give me a do over.
And a lot of you were there. You're like, does God even have this for me?
Maybe God doesn't even want this for me. I was definitely in that boat.
I definitely did not think about my Prince Charming, you know,
my handsome Prince coming in a box set. He came in a box set y'all.
I'm like, isn't the Prince sold separately? You know,
can't get I get hit, get them sold separately, not in a box set with two children.
So it was a box set.
It was a blended family set and I had a five year old,
he had a nine and 11 year old. And so when we came together,
I had all of that to deal with.
And I wasn't expecting that to ever be part of my quote unquote love story.
A lot of you are in your own way because you think
that you know what it looks like.
I want you to close your eyes right now
and I want you to picture for me a red car.
Everyone close your eyes, picture a red car for me.
Picture a red car.
What does it look like?
What color are the seats inside?
Picture it.
All right, now, for those of you that are watching live,
post in the chat.
For those of you that are watching on replay,
go ahead and write down what you pictured.
I guarantee all of you have pictured something different.
The make and model of that car is different.
Some of you pictured Lambo, some of you pictured
some sort of van, minivan.
Some of you pictured a truck, F-150.
Go ahead and put in the comments
if you're watching live what you pictured.
If you're watching in replay,
go ahead and write down what you pictured
because what is that?
That is the way our mind works.
When we hear something, like God saying,
hey, I have a love story for you,
we begin to decorate it in our mind.
We begin to picture something specific.
The chances of your love story coming into agreement
with whatever it is that you have pictured in your mind
is slim to none.
God gives us the best thing
that we never knew we even wanted.
That's what he does.
And so that's what's in a lot of people's way
is that what God has for you
and what you think he has for you, they don't look alike.
And so you're digging ditches where it's not gonna rain.
You're not.
And you're turning down things that could be amazing for you
because it's not like what you pictured, okay?
And some of you are saying, I can't even picture it at all.
So you're really shut down
in your ability to dream with God.
So we have proven, my husband and I,
that whatever has run in our family can run out with us.
My dad, my biological father has been married five times.
He ran out on my mom when I was six months old
and never saw him again until I was in my late teen years,
okay, never had a relationship with him.
Didn't have relationship
with any of her other husbands either really
until just recently my mom passed
and I've gotten kind of close to her last husband.
And then my husband that I married,
even though he was raised in the church,
his mom was divorced, his dad was divorced.
Everyone in his life has been divorced,
all his aunts and uncles, even his grandparents,
everyone divorced.
And so we have proven that what has run in our family
can run out with us, right?
But a lot of people don't wanna put themselves
out there again.
They don't wanna try again.
They're scared.
They're scared of disappointment.
They're scared of getting their hopes up.
And they're also scared of failure.
But failure doesn't rob us of potential.
You guys, it robs us of confidence.
You still have all the same potential.
So I wanna go down to the first banner scripture
for this movement and also for this challenge.
And it's Jeremiah 6, 16.
And basically this scripture just says
the ancient of ways, God, the ancient of days,
I'm sorry God, has ancient ways.
And if we ask him to show us
to come off this path of pain,
show us the good path to take from his ancient ways,
then we can take it and our shalom, our peace, can increase.
So I'll put all that together.
The ancient of days has ancient ways.
And if we ask him for the good path, the good way to go,
he will show it to us so that our life
can get rid of the chaos and confusion
and shalom, peace can come.
That word peace in that scripture
actually means devouring chaos and confusion.
And a lot of you, your family life, okay,
your love life has had a lot of chaos
and confusion attached to it.
So we wanna do this.
We wanna get on that good path.
We do.
And what is that good path?
I believe it's marriage and family.
And I believe it's specifically community-based matchmaking,
which is what we do here at Last Year Single.
We don't just date rando people.
We get the information that we need
and we get the community we need, okay,
that one degree of separation from our spirit mate.
Because I believe that somebody knows somebody
who knows somebody who knows your spirit mate.
And so we leverage that in the way
of meeting our partners, right?
So I just wanna unpack really quickly Paul's teachings
because that's what keeps a lot of people stuck.
They're like, but Paul said, but Paul said, but Paul said.
Okay, so let's talk about what Paul said right now.
Let's talk about Paul.
All right, so Paul says in 1 Corinthians 7, 7,
he goes, hey, I wish all of you had the same gift as I do.
To be single, then you wouldn't be arguing with each other.
Why were they arguing?
Because a whole bunch of people have been converted
to Christianity because of Paul's preaching.
And now they were no longer sleeping with their spouses.
They weren't having sex
with their unbelieving spouses anymore.
And why is that?
Because they want it to be holy.
And so right now I feel like there's a couple of messages
here in this scripture.
Not having sex does not make you holy.
For all of you, they're like, I've been abstaining.
I'm celibate, you know, it doesn't make you holy.
And for those of you that have never had sex,
I'm proud of you.
I'm so proud that you've been able to not complicate
your life and mess up your life with all kinds of soul ties
and all kinds of crazy stuff by saving that for covenant.
someday, but that does not, that's not what's making you worthy.
Your value is not in your virginity.
Your value to your future husband is not in your virginity.
You're going to be able to come into marriage without a bunch of sexual
baggage, provided that you didn't get it elsewhere.
Just because we haven't had intercourse doesn't mean we haven't watched porn.
Doesn't mean that we haven't read all the, you know, the mommy porn, you know,
spicy books and all. I mean,
you could have sexual baggage without ever having intercourse, just so you know,
especially if you've been abused or molested or raped or not raped, but you know,
all kinds of other things. And you're still, yeah, your hymen is still intact,
but maybe your heart's not still intact.
And I feel like that's a message for someone because I've never actually said
that on a challenge before. All right.
So your value is not in your virginity. And ladies,
for all of you that have made a lot of bad sexual choices,
your value is not in your virginity and your value is not in your vagina. Okay.
The feminine has so much more to bring to the table and then just our sexuality.
So Paul's saying, Hey, you know what?
I wish that you had the same gift as me because if you didn't have this sex
drive and you didn't have this marriage,
then you would not be in chaos and confusion right now.
You wouldn't be arguing with each other. And he's basically saying,
with all the problems I have, I'm glad a woman ain't one.
That's what he's saying with all the problems that I have already.
I'm glad a woman ain't one. And so he said,
I wish that all of you could stay celibate like me.
So you don't have this brand of problem. But then he went on to say,
but you might not have the same gift as me. I wish you had this gift,
but maybe you have a different gift. You guys,
the word gift in that original Greek writing is the word charisma.
And that word means empowerment from heaven. He's saying,
I wish you were empowered by heaven to stay celibate,
single, not solitary. Cause Paul had a lot of community,
but single, not in domestic partnership, right?
But you have your own gift. And Jesus talks about that gift in Matthew.
Matthew 19 talks about his, his disciples are like,
we don't want to get married. It's too hard. Moses said, it's hard.
Look at all the things that make it hard. And Jesus said, okay, stop, listen,
your father in heaven created you to partner,
but not everyone's going to partner.
And here are the reasons why they're not going to.
And all the reasons are really human reasons, you guys.
And basically it's about immaturity. He said,
but if you're mature enough to enter into marriage, you should do it.
And right there, he says the same word that Paul said, if you have the charisma,
if you have the empowerment from heaven to enter into the maturity and the
weightiness of partnership,
then you should do it because your father in heaven has created them from the
beginning, male and female, right?
So Jesus is talking about this other gifts.
You guys either have a gift to be single.
And sometimes you just have that gift or that empowerment from heaven for a
certain season of your life. Maybe you got out a bad relationship, a divorce,
and you have the ability to be content in not being partnered during a season of
your life. Not a lot of people have that gift or that empowerment,
that charisma for their whole lives. Not a lot of people have it.
There are people that do have it and they're all on assignment from heaven.
They're all vocationally assigned to be celibate.
Do you understand that? So you can have that for some, some portion of your life.
Hopefully when you're a child,
you're not always in some committed relationship and you're learning who you
are. I hate when we sexualize children and be like, is that your boyfriend?
Is that your girlfriend? Have you kissed them yet?
Let kids be kids and let them have that time to really get anchored in their own
identity before throwing them into this kind of stuff. That's weighty.
Jesus said in that scripture, marriage is weighty. Relationship is weighty.
It is.
And so I believe that marriage and family is God's maturity plan for mankind.
God gives us the charisma to be able to enter into it.
And then we continue to get refined and matured by it. All right.
So first Corinthians seven, seven, Paul's talking about this. Um, you guys,
the sex drive that he talks about in that you guys don't have sex outside of
covenant. Sex is an acronym, sacred energy exchange.
Please save it for covenant because otherwise it's going to mess you up.
Everyone who comes to me, who's been in a really, you know,
a relationship that looks like it's going in the right direction and it looks
really exciting, you know, and it looks positive.
They come to me and then all of a sudden they've broken up and they're like,
it just came out of nowhere. It's like a sucker punch.
They broke up with me or we broke up and I just didn't see it coming.
I always ask this question to my clients. Did you have sex?
And a hundred percent of the time they say yes, y'all,
something can have potential. And then you throw that in there,
you throw that in there like a hand grenade and just blows the relationship up.
Save that for when you have the bandwidth in the, in the relationship,
the relationship is mature enough and committed enough because it's a covenant
relationship and you've made a covenant to handle that part,
that physical part. All right.
So Paul says he wishes that we all had it because he acknowledges that everyone
doesn't have it,
but he wishes they did because he thinks that this domestic
Disruption and distraction is just too much, right?
But let's look at Paul.
Let's look at Paul's maturity plan because he doesn't say he doesn't have one.
He just doesn't have the marriage and family plan, right? Paul's maturity plan,
his gift, his calling came with a different maturity plan. Let's look at it.
Snake bites, shipwrecks, beatings, imprisonments,
this mystery thorn in the flesh that Paul had going on.
He had a different type of refining, right? And when I saw that, I was like,
no, thank you. All right. I'm like,
Oh, Hey, yeah, God, uh, I'm going to take that marriage plan.
I saw what I needed to see and I'm going to take it. In fact, you know,
I'd like to, uh, wait, uh, wait, Boaz, the Boaz plan.
Do you got the Boaz plan still? Oh, all right. Yeah. Dang.
It's always on a waiting list. All right.
Well can I add in the sex drive until I die? Can you add that on? All right.
I'll take it. Thanks. Y'all it's going to cost you.
Marriage is going to cost you. It's going to refine you.
It's going to change you. It's supposed to.
Relationships not supposed to be easy,
especially not in 2024 with all the broken hearts out there,
but it is going to be worth it. Not easy, but it's going to be worth it.
And for all you ladies that want Boaz, no, you don't. Boaz was an old ass.
He was old. All right. He was twice Ruth's age.
And that was a lineage and legacy kinsmen redeemer type of situation.
I can't even get my 60 plus year old clients married.
No one wants to touch them with a 10 foot pole. Even the 60 year old women.
Oh, I want someone younger. I want someone more active.
I'm worried that I'm going to be a caretaker someday.
So you guys stop asking for Boaz. All right.
Because we know that you do not, he was a rich ass, but he was also an old ass.
So if you want to marry someone twice as old as you,
then come see me because I got you. All right. It's true. It's true.
It's true. So marriage will change you, mature you, all the things.
It's not the gift of singleness.
I think I've proven to you right here,
biblically unpacking those scriptures the right way that it's not
singleness or the gift of singleness. That's keeping God's kids unmarried.
What is keeping them unmarried pain from the past? That's unhealed.
All kinds of missed expectations, all kinds of crazy stuff.
The coldness of our hearts. The Bible says at the end of the age,
which we've been living in the end of the age for a long time,
that there was going to be a hardness that came to our hearts.
The love of many people was going to get cold. Right?
And you see that all around. People are suspicious. They're not trusting.
They're guarded. There's too many distractions.
That's number two reason why so many people are single.
We have so many options for temporary fulfillment.
We're showing up full to a buffet all the time, right?
That's why our relationship with God is suffered so much because we have so much
distraction, so much, right?
And people are so selfish and trying to keep themselves safe all the time.
You're so self defended. You don't give a chance to be God defended.
And you need to be able to step into being God defended in order to really let
people get into your, get into your life. As long as you're self defended,
you're going to see red flags, even when there aren't any.
And so I want to help you step into what I call God defended. And then of course,
we've gotten to a lot of bad habits of isolation, right?
And unhealthy stuff happens in isolation. It does. We need community.
We need accountability. We need all of those things. All right.
So here's the declarations for your homework tonight.
Here are the declarations from this teaching for your homework tonight.
Say them with me, repeat after me, and then say them yourself.
I'm going to post them in the challenge group. Marriage is God's idea.
Say it. Marriage is God's idea.
God wants me married even more than I want to be married.
Marriage and family is God's maturity plan for
mankind. God will do his part,
but I have to be willing to do mine.
If I had the charisma, the gift to be single,
I wouldn't yearn for a husband and partnership.
If all I needed was God,
then man could have stayed alone in the garden.
I hope you enjoyed challenge day one.
I hope that you come right back here tomorrow for challenge day two.
It's going to be even better. I'll see you soon.