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So, welcome to last year's single challenge day two, and if you have not signed up for

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our emails, maybe a friend added you to this Facebook community, but you did not go through

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the website www.jackiedorman.com, you're going to want to go over there and register.

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You're already here in the place where we're watching the challenge, so that's fine, you're

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going to get an email that's going to invite you to come here, you're already here, so

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that's cool, but that will put you on our list, and you can opt out of our list any

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time you want to if you don't want to hear from me anymore, but you're not going to want

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to because I send all kinds of amazing bonus content, I tell you love stories, I encourage

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your heart, I give you all kinds of opportunities to do all sorts of fun things for singles

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community, including Last Trip Single, that is my new brand, if you want a vacation with

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other like-minded singles, maybe even meet a significant other on a retreat or a cruise,

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then I got news for you.

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We have a new brand called Last Trip Single, and you'll hear about that if you join that

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email list, and so make sure that you do that, okay?

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Alright, also invite a friend, invite a friend to come here, I believe that what we help

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make happen for others, God makes happen for us.

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If we have a poverty mentality, if we have a scarcity mentality like, oh, you know, I

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got a gatekeep, I got a gatekeep, I got to make sure that no other woman comes into this

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group because that means there's less men to go around.

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You guys, no men have left the earth except for the ones that have obviously gone on to

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heaven so they're not eligible bachelors anymore, but there is at least 49% of the 8 plus billion

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population is men.

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Now some of them are definitely too young for us, right?

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They're just born, they just were born, and they're just growing up.

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But men in your age range, there are more than enough for marriage-minded women, and

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why is that?

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Because marriage is not really something that's popular right now in this day and age.

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It's not.

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And so if you're a marriage-minded person, the chances of you being able to meet another

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marriage-minded person, that's, we call them the three M's, masculine, mature, and marriage-minded,

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obviously Jesus following guy, because this is a Christian group, right?

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Then there are more than enough to go around.

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So don't gatekeep.

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Go ahead and invite your other Christian single female friends and invite your male friends

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as well.

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And you're still going to send them to www.jackiedorman.com and the guys are going to sign up for their

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challenge group and then the ladies are going to end up here with us, all right?

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Don't worry.

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After you graduate from this challenge place in our program, there's opportunity to go

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into our actual last year single program where the first two phases are definitely

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women only, men only, but then there is a third community level that everyone gets funneled

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into together.

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And so that's a great time.

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We've had so many people get married from the phase three of our program with each other.

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We've had so many marriages that have happened from within this community.

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And so that is, I love that.

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I love that.

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And so many, so many marriages supernaturally happen from just the work that you do here,

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period.

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Just period.

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But when one of my male students marries one of my female students, that for me is like,

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Ooh, that's my favorite.

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That's my favorite.

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So I quoted a few lyrics to a song yesterday because before I hopped on, I felt Holy Spirit

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was putting this song in my heart.

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I hadn't heard it anywhere and it's a really old love song, kind of from the 80s, kind

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of broken heart love song.

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But it came back to me today and I believe that once again, the challenge is different

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every time I teach it because it's a different group of people.

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And I'm a prophetic teacher, meaning I'm going to tune into heaven for what you need to hear.

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Not necessarily just some, you know, list or some, you know, template that I want to

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get out there to you.

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I want to, it's going to be customized to your heart.

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And so the lyrics to this song are, I'll get over you.

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I know I will.

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I'll pretend my ship's not sinking.

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That word pretend there.

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I'll tell myself I'm over you because I'm the king of wishful thinking.

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And in this case, the queen of wishful thinking, this is someone who's hurting someone who's

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going to put on a good face when they go out in public, but they're broken hearted.

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They're disappointed in love.

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I think there's a lot of people in here that are trying to get over someone.

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Maybe it's a situation ship.

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Maybe it's a divorce.

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Maybe it's someone that you really thought was going to be the one and now they've ghosted

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you or they've broken up with you.

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They've broken your heart in some way.

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I feel like there's lots of people in this community that are going through a broken

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hearted place where you're still raw.

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You're still trying to heal.

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It's not water under the bridge.

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It's not far in the past.

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It's something that you're really dealing with current day.

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And the Bible tells us that the broken heart is three things.

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It's a pretender.

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And this song says, I'm going to pretend my ship's not sinking.

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It's a pretender.

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It's also a deceiver.

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It's a liar.

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to you. It's going to tell you that you want things that you don't want and that you need

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things that you don't need. Those are two main characteristics of our broken heart.

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Okay. That it's wickedly deceitful. Okay. And it's pretending. And so it's important

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that we understand that it's going to have us running in circles and circles and circles.

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If we don't allow Holy Spirit to come and to show us the areas that need to be healed

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so that they can be healed. And so that's what we're doing here. We're going to do

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some of that work today. We're going to kind of see where some of those cracks

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are in the foundation. We're going to see that today as we go forward into day two,

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but I want to do a little tiny recap of day one. Can I do that? I think that it's important to

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hear things more than one time, especially key points so that you can start getting it embedded

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in your heart. Okay. Want to do that. So we talked at the end of day one, if you haven't watched it,

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make sure you go watch the replay. Where does the replay live? It lives in the featured section

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of this Facebook group. That's where it lives. Okay. So that's where you're going to find it.

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That's where we're going to find today's replay as well in tomorrow's replay. It's always going

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to be tagged in the featured section of this group. I think we're also tagging it in the guide

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section of this group. You'll also be receiving emails with a link to go right to it in this group.

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So you can't miss it unless you're trying to. And so if you're not going to go all the way,

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don't go at all. So it's important that you watch all three days because we're building

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and going somewhere. And there's a lots of healing for your heart, even just right now

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in this three-day challenge. Okay. So marriage is for the mature, right? God wants to get us

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to a place where we can handle the weightiness of marriage. We unpacked that yesterday. We talked

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about how marriage will change you. It will mature you. It's God's maturity plan for mankind.

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It's not supposed to be easy. It's just supposed to be worth it. Especially not in the year 2024.

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Guys, marriage or any kind of commitment or covenant that you would make is not going to be

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Why is that? Because the Bible tells us at the end of the age, which you've been living in for

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a long time, that people would be promise breakers, right? That people would be selfish.

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And that is one of the reasons that I've given you for why there are so many single people,

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including single Christians, right? All of that brokenness has found its way into our lives as

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well. And some of you, just like me, you have your backstory is that, you know, you were born out on

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the plains of the Serengeti. You were raised by wolves. I like to say that I came out of my

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mother's womb running for my life and mother's day is coming up this weekend. And a lot of you

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have serious mommy wounds still. And even though that's not a man woman relationship, it's a woman

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woman relationship. It is blocking you from being able to trust because that primary relationship

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where you should have been loved unconditionally. Instead of that, there was a lot of competition.

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There was a lot of jealousy. There was a lot of abuse, verbal abuse, mental abuse, emotional abuse,

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maybe even physical or sexual abuse. And that is keeping you from being able to move forward.

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And then a lot of us of course have father wounds as well. And we'll get into some of what that,

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what that looks like in our current day life and those unconscious things that are happening as a

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result of those traumas. Trauma doesn't just hurt us. It creates different versions of us.

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And we are living out of those counterfeit versions of us. Remember those broken hearts

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are pretenders and they're liars. And it's important that we understand that unless we

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get down to the root of that, we're going to continue to have a life that is far below what

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God had for us, including our love lives. Okay. So if it's not this gift of singleness that Paul

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was talking about in first Corinthians, that's keeping us single, what is keeping us single?

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And I gave you three areas that are based on the curse because just in a nutshell, the curse is

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what's keeping us single. And when we still live in those cursed identities, you know, and all of us

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are, every one of us are still living out of a cursed identity or a trauma based identity in

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some area of our lives. And it's really easy to find those areas. Those are the areas where you're

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on the struggle bus. Those are the areas where your life is tore up from the floor up. That is

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the area where you're still believing lies. And we're going to kind of unmask some of those lies

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today in our second banner verse over this movement. God gave me two banner verses over

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this movement. I shared one of them yesterday. I'm going to share the other one today. And I'll

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give you a little recap of the first one I shared in a second. So many have misused different

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theology, like the gift of singleness, or God should be enough for you to explain why people

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are single now. And that sounds good, right? It sounds like, oh, that makes sense. All right. Not

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everyone's going to get married because, you know, there's not enough good people or good men or

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godly men to go around. And this is the way it works. And God doesn't want us married. He wants

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us to himself. Look, Jesus loves you. And he wants to have a relationship with you. But even Jesus is

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like, I think it's time that you see other people. Jesus wants you to see other people, too. All

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right. Why? Because the more that you grow in human relationship, the more that you understand

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the goodness of God. You've been created not just for divine relationship. You've also been created

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for human relationship. All right. So we have a tendency to create all this crazy false theology

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that's not biblical to explain away our pain.

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to make it okay. Well, okay, this is the way it is. I'm just going to go ahead and

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accept this. No, don't accept it. Do you accept sickness as just the way it is?

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Do you accept poverty as just the way it is? God hasn't created you to live in

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these effects of the curse. Jesus died to reconcile you back to your royal

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identity, your heavenly identity, and to give you back what was lost from your

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original design. Guess what? Marriage is one of those things. It didn't happen

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after the curse. It happened before the curse. It's part of original design, and

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God wants you to not only believe in it, but to want it. Not just to say,

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maybe it will happen, and if it does, great, that would be great, wonderful. No.

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He wants you to admit that you want it, and not just want it, but you need a

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partner. You just don't want a partner. You need a partner. You don't just want a

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man. You need a man. Why? Because you've been created to partner with a man, and

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we're better together. If you had the gift of singleness like Paul, you

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wouldn't be here. You wouldn't be desiring and yearning for a husband and

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family. You would be content in your singleness because you would be focused

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on vocational ministry. People that have the gift of singleness are people that

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are missionaries. They're people that are monks and priests. These are the people

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that have the gift of celibacy. Now, once again, you can have that gift for a

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season of your life where you're just not really interested in romantic

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relationship because you're working on you, and a lot of you, that's why you're

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here, because you skipped that season. You've been constantly out there trying

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to shove a man in a God-shaped hole, and we got to get the what? The horse before

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the cart. It's time for you to have like a little sabbatical from dating or

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mating, and trying to shove people into a space that only God can make you whole

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in, whole in Christ. But then, once that happens, most of us are created to

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partner, and we're going to partner. So if it's not the gift of singleness

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keeping us single, then what is it? Pain, disappointment in our own past, just in

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the culture that we live in. We see so many people failing, and so many crazy

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things happening, and we're like, hey, if they can't make it work, then nobody can

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make it work. Our hearts are hardened from that disappointment. The Word of God

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tells us that people would have hard hearts at the end of the age, right? Their

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love would what? Wax cold is what it says. So desensitize, fear of intimacy, fear of

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trusting people, suspicious, guarded, all that stuff, and religion. Religion is

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giving people a void and attachment. It's actually keeping people single, and

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keeping people in this proverbial waiting room. I promised to tell you

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about the word wait. Well, it's not in the Bible. So much is lost in translation, and

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I know that so many of us English speakers think that we're the only ones

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on earth, and everything's English. Well, guess what? The Holy Scriptures were not

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originally written in the English language. They were written in old

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language, ancient language, specifically Hebrew and Greek, and when we translate

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those words into English, sometimes us English speakers, we think it means

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something that it doesn't mean, and the word wait is one of those words. Let's

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take a popular scripture that has the word wait in it. They that wait upon the

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Lord will renew their strength. The word wait there means to expectantly prepare.

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Remember that Nelson Mandela quote that I gave you yesterday? If you didn't watch

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yesterday, you're going to want to go back and watch it. What did he say? He said,

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you will never prepare for what you secretly believe is not going to happen.

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So the proof of belief is action. The proof of belief is preparation. So if I

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go and sit in a waiting room somewhere, what does that tell you about me? It

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tells you that I don't believe that it's my time. It tells you that I don't really

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believe that this is going to happen. A lot of people will say, well, if God wants

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it for me, then he's going to do it for me. If God wants me to have a man, then

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he's going to deliver me a man. I'll just wait here until God brings him to me.

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That's not the way it works. The way it works is that you put your faith on

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something, you get your hopes up, and that turns into faith. And you put your

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faith on something. And then faith, the proof of faith is action. Faith without

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action is what? It's dead religion, isn't it? Faith without action is dead

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religion. And so don't tell me what you believe. Show me what you believe. And so

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the word wait there means I'm going to expectantly prepare for what I already

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believe is going to show up. I don't know when it's going to show up, and I don't

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know how it's going to show up. That's God's part. But my part is to get ready

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for it. I have one earthly child, and I have one child in heaven. I was pregnant

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with my earthly child, and I gave birth to her. She came all the way into the

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earth realm through this body. God knit her together in my womb. And when I found

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out that she was in there, I already knew. I instinctively knew, hey, I'm carrying a

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child. And when I found out she was in there, the doctor confirmed to me, yes,

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you are pregnant with promise. You are pregnant with promise. And then what

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happens? With every promise, there's a process. When God gives us a promise, He

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invites us into a process. Same with a human gestation promise. When the doctor

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told me, hey, you know, you're pregnant. You're gestating a child.

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I didn't just go sit in his waiting room after the appointment.

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I didn't just go out there and sit in his waiting room and rock back and forth

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and wait for my promise to come.

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The nurses would have come out and been like, Hey, we're closing up.

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What are you doing here? Oh, the doctor said I was pregnant. Yeah.

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Well, I'm waiting for the baby. That's ridiculous, right?

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We would never do that.

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But a lot of times that's what we do when we believe we had a promise from God.

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We just go sit in his waiting room. Well, God'll do it, I guess. You know,

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when he wants it, it'll happen. If God wants it, if it's his will,

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it will come to pass. No,

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I left that doctor's office and I went and I put action behind my

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belief. I began to prepare for that child.

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I began to buy little clothes and decorate a nursery and do all kinds of things

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because I believed it wasn't about if it was only about when.

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And so many of you have bought into this religious idea of waiting instead of

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expectantly preparing. And I want to shift that for you,

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not just during this challenge,

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but I'd love for you to come into my program because we have,

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we help people get wins so many people in so many areas of their lives.

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They've been waiting for so long.

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And if you wait for too long and you're not actually taking action on the

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promises of God, what will happen is, is you'll stop believing in them.

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You'll start losing hope. You'll start getting disgruntled.

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but you start getting mad at God.

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You start believing that there really isn't anything to this and that it's not

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true. That's what happens. Okay.

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That's where the scripture comes in that says that that faith, that,

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that hope deferred makes the heart sick, right? That's what that is.

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But hope is supposed to take action. So don't defer your hope.

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Don't postpone your hope until you have evidence that it's true.

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The word postpone means to suspend something until it's proven.

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Don't defer. You're the one that defers.

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God's not deferring and it is going to make you heart sick.

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It's going to break your heart. And guess what? Broken hearts look for medication.

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You're going to start sitting around. You're going to start complaining.

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You're going to start doing all kinds of stuff because now you have a broken

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heart that's looking for medication.

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God's not going to bring him,

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then you're going to go get them yourself in the wrong way.

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And so all kinds of stuff happens when we let this thing start beginning of us

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waiting around instead of us taking action. God said it. Do you believe it?

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Prove it. Take action. That's what needs to happen.

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And so the second reason that people are single is because there's too many

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distractions. Once again, all this self-medicating is part of that distractions.

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We get really distracted when we're disappointed because we start just trying to

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shove everything into that place of the promise to try to make us forget how

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upset and hurting that we are, right? It's not good.

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And then the third, we've gotten into bad habits of isolation.

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We really don't let people in. We don't let people into our lives.

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We're really isolated, suspicious, controlling in a lot of ways,

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especially women.

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All of my women clients are in some sort of independent energy.

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Want to help you step out of that.

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Want to step into a place where you can partner.

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Men are attracted to women that are open to partnership and that's not something

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you can fake. You can't fake it till you make it.

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It's kind of like a homing signal.

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It's like a beacon that you're sending out of the divine feminine. You guys,

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those are not new age words.

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Those are biblical words that the new agers have hijacked from us.

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And they're out here working it and manifesting good things in their lives.

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And we're sitting here in waiting rooms,

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waiting for God to do something that he already did on the finished work of the

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cross. And so we've got to, we've got to get into a kingdom mindset, y'all.

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We have to get into a kingdom mindset. All right.

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So we're not letting people around us.

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We have alligator moats built around our hearts. It's like, I dare you.

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I double dog dare you to try to come and approach me.

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And the good guys are not climbing walls. Ladies. If you build walls,

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good guys are not going to be attracted to that. If you're walled off, right?

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If you're suspicious, if you're controlling the good men, the mature men,

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the masculine men, they're going to steer clear of you, right?

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Because Proverbs tells us something very clearly. Proverbs 17, 19.

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If you build a wall, you actually attract a thief.

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So the very men that you're trying to keep out with those walls are the very men

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that are coming. Remember Olivia Pope and scandal.

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I know I shouldn't have been watching that show. All right,

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but don't judge me because I didn't know how bad it was until I was hooked.

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And this is another way that we medicate ourselves.

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We start watching all kinds of stuff we shouldn't watch.

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And it starts creating crap inside of our hearts that shouldn't be there.

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But anyway, for those of you that saw scandal back in the day,

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she said to a very married president, by the way, y'all,

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if he's married, he's not your spirit mate. He's not your promise.

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You're not the solution to his problems. I don't care how upset he is.

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I don't care how miserable he is in his marriage.

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You need to go take your hands off something that belongs to someone else.

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So God can give you something that belongs to you.

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So to a very married president, the character,

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Olivia Pope says to him, if you want me, then you got to earn.

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or me, right? She's this protagonist that's all walled off and she's the ice queen and

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it's like, you know, so sexy and the men are drawn to it because they want to conquer her.

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Only the bad men, only the bad men want to conquer you. Only the bad men want to scale

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your walls up to your bedroom window. The thieves, Proverbs 17, 19 is very clear. The

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thieves like the walls, the good men don't. So we got to take the walls down. We got to

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build a bridge where the good men can come over and they can knock on the door, right?

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And we can open the door to our heart to them. So it's time to let down the walls. It's time

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to let them down. All right, so here is day two. I'm going to do a little recap of day

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one, that banner verse. I promised you two banner verses over this movement. This is

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what God spoke to me in 2020, Jeremiah 6, 16, the ancient of days, God, he has ancient

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ways. You guys, all of our lives, it's going to be about getting into a place where we're

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doing things God way, God's way. So we can have abundance in every area of your life.

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I can't tell you how good the kingdom life is. Do I still have problems? Sure. There's

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there's still warfare that comes against me a hundred percent, but you guys, the kingdom

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life is the best life and doing things according to God's ways and not my own and not the church

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ways because they ain't been, they ain't been working for nobody. All right. Religion ain't

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been working for nobody. That's why Jesus came. John 10, 10 is about setting you free

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from religion. Just so you know, the thief to come to steal and kill and destroy is not

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the devil. Read the entire chapter. It's the shepherds, the bad shepherds that want to

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keep people in bondage and control them with the law of religion. Jesus said, me, I'm the

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way, the truth and the life, right? All you that are heavy laden, weary, come to me and

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I will give you rest. What are they heavy laden and weary with? The law, religion, read

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your Bible. Don't just read your Bible. All right. So we want to do things the kingdom

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way. We want to do things, the finished work of the cross way, including our love lives.

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So the ancient of days has ancient ways. And for a lot of us, modern ways of dating has

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not worked out for us. And I don't have time to get into the history of dating or where

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it even came from, but it's not biblical as you all know. And that's why it is hard because

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it just wasn't our divine design. It wasn't, but we got to make best. We've got to make

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the best of it because God matched us with the year 2024. We could have been born in

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any other timeline, but we're not, we're born right now. And so we've got to take what modern,

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the modern age is trying to give us, and we've got to apply God's ancient ways to it. And

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that's what we do in last year single program. We help you to date in an ancient way using

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modern tools and so successful for so many people. So a lot of us are longing for simpler

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times, especially in the area of love. And remember this verse goes on to say, I will

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show you the good path. And if you take it, your peace, your Shalom will increase. And

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that is a word that just means the devouring of chaos and confusion. So we need that chaos

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and confusion to get out of our lives. And the way that we're going to do that is to

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do God's better way. God has a better way. He does. And we implement something in our

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community called the six degrees of separation, which just means that every single person

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in the world is only six people away from you, which means that somebody knows somebody

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that knows somebody that knows your spirit mate. And so your love story is going to be

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supernatural. It is your love story is going to have a supernatural element. You're going

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to play a part in it, but God's going to play a part in it. And it's not a 50 50 split.

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It's about you being obedient. It's about you turning away from what doesn't work, turning

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away from cultural ways and modern ways and broken ways and turning towards God's way.

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And you partnering with a supernatural platform like ours. And if there's another one, then

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that one. But the bottom line is, is that coming into agreement with what God's doing

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your life, because he's drawing you into this marriage season. And so you're partnering

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with that. You're giving God permission to do what only he can do when you do what only

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you can do. So let's start getting ready for those divine appointments. Let's start

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getting ready for those community matchmaking community-based matchmaking moments. Let's

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start getting ready for those with our second banner verse of the movement, which is from

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song of songs chapter two. So if you want to turn there, you can get there. Um, I've

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heard this scripture, this passage of scripture all the time at women's conferences and here

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and there and everywhere when it has to do with women, right? This is kind of like the

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women's Anthem chapter of song of songs, but I actually put a portion of this on my

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bouquets at my own wedding for all the single women. Instead of throwing one bouquet, I

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gave out bouquets to all the single women with a portion of this scripture on it. So

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I'm going to read, we'll read a little bit of it here to you. So song of songs, chapter

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two, verse starting at verse 13. If you want to get there, who's learning something great

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today, who's feeling Holy Spirit speaking to me and through me to you.

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Your heart today. Who's feeling that? Yes, yes, yes, yes.

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I know you are. Cause I'm feeling it. Okay. Can you not discern?

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I love it when God asks us questions, right? That's,

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that's how I learned so much from the Lord.

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I'll just be going about my business, doing my thing. And God's like, Hey,

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what do you think about this? Don't you think this is weird? And I'm like,

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yeah, that's weird. What's up with that? He asked me a question.

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And then I started asking him questions about what he asked me.

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He gets me critically thinking, right? Not just with my head,

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but with my spirit, with my heart. And that's what's happening here.

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Can you not discern this new day of destiny that's breaking forth all around

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you? Do you know what time it is, girl? Do you know what time it is?

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That's what that's saying.

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The early signs of my purposes and plans are bursting forth.

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I want you just to picture this, this,

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this picture in your mind of what's happening here.

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The budding vines of new life are now blooming everywhere.

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The fragrance of their flowers is whispering.

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There is change in the air. Woo. What's happening.

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Springtime has hit your heart.

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All the barren wasteland of the past and your experiences that is giving way to

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a budding vine full of potential, full of blooming. What is that?

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That's a super bloom.

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You've been dead and desolate in your heart for a long time.

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And now there's signs of life poking up out of the ground in these areas where

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nothing has grown in a really long time.

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The fragrance of their flowers is whispering. There's change in the air.

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Arise, my love, my beautiful companion and run with me.

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Don't walk, run with me to the higher place.

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We're being invited to have a definite, a definitely different perspective,

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a higher perspective, a kingdom perspective. That's what, that's that,

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that's that Jeremiah 6, 16 good path, right? God's ways are above our ways.

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He said, ancient of days has ancient ways. My ways are above your ways.

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My thoughts are above your thoughts,

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but we're even being invited to come into that place, that higher place.

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For now is the time to arise and come away with me. When is the time tomorrow?

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Next week, next month, next year? No, now, now is the time.

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Now I want to go to the next scripture 14 for you are my dove

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hidden in the split open rock.

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It was I who took you and hid you up high in the secret stairway of the sky.

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Some of you have been wondering, Hey, you know,

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why have I been single for so long?

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Is it possible that God has set you aside for such a time as this?

425
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Esther, is it time? Is it time for you to partner now?

426
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Maybe it wasn't until now that your love story was supposed to begin.

427
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And here's the good news. It will be accelerated.

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If you have waited until your fourth, fifth,

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sixth decade to have a partnership, it doesn't mean that God forgot you.

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It just means that this is what's written in your story.

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He hid you in the secret place. Why?

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So that you could get the information that you needed in order to not just be

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successful, but to sustain that success, not just for you,

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but for your lineage and legacy coming after you.

435
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I didn't meet my spirit mate until I was in my thirties and I had lots of

436
00:28:11.560 --> 00:28:15.480
wrecked up relationships before that, right? A lot of people don't get married,

437
00:28:15.480 --> 00:28:17.800
don't meet their spirit mate until they're in their forties or fifties.

438
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It doesn't mean you weren't married before.

439
00:28:19.400 --> 00:28:22.760
You just didn't meet your spirit mate. And some of you have been widowed.

440
00:28:22.800 --> 00:28:26.080
You were married to a spirit mate and now they've gone on to their next

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assignment in heaven. And I feel like they're,

442
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I believe that they're fully participating in this new love

443
00:28:33.600 --> 00:28:35.680
story and spirit mate that's coming to you.

444
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I believe that they're part of the intercession team that's bringing this love

445
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story to your door. Okay?

446
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It's like a continuation of that assignment that they are no longer on earth

447
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to help you with. So what happens next?

448
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Let me see your radiant face and hear your sweet voice.

449
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How beautiful your eyes of worship and lovely your voice and prayer.

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You guys, the divine feminine is soft. She's gentle.

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It doesn't mean she's not a leader. It doesn't mean she's a doormat.

452
00:29:03.240 --> 00:29:07.440
It doesn't mean she's subservient or some kind of toxic form of submissive.

453
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That doesn't mean any of that.

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What it means is that there's a gentleness of our spirit where we are a

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safe place for our families, including our husbands.

456
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And you can see how he's talking to her, that she is that safe place,

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your radiant face, your soft voice, your beautiful eyes.

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And then this is where I wanted to get to the chapter two, verse 15.

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You must catch the troubling foxes. It's just kind of comes out of nowhere.

460
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It's like, here's the day. The day of destiny is dawning.

461
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Everything's blooming all around you. Potential is bursting forth.

462
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All this stuff is happening, right?

463
00:29:41.480 --> 00:29:43.520
And then you must catch the troubling foxes,

464
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those sly little foxes that hinder our relationship.

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For they raid our budding vineyard of love to ruin what I've

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planted within you. Will you catch them and remove them from me?

467
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We will do it together.

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That's where I want to get to for today. Day 2 is teaching. What's going on here?

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The foxes, they're coming into this beautiful blossoming day of destiny,

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and they're ruining this budding vineyard of love.

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You guys, buds are potential. Buds aren't blossoms, and they're not fruit.

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The way a plant works is it buds, and then it blossoms, and then it fruits.

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And so what's happening here is, what's it saying?

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I've already planted this love story within you.

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00:30:27.000 --> 00:30:30.000
He's saying that these foxes are ruining the potential of the love story.

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They're eating the buds before the buds blossom or fruit.

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Before you can get fruit in your love story, not just here, but also here and here,

478
00:30:39.000 --> 00:30:43.000
these foxes, whatever they are, are destroying this love story.

479
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Where is this love story? It's already written. It's already planted within you.

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It's already there. It's already intact. It's there.

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But before it has a chance to mature and bear fruit in your life, it's being raided.

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It's being raided by these foxes. Failure doesn't destroy potential, y'all.

483
00:31:00.000 --> 00:31:04.000
It destroys confidence. So all these failures, all these traumas,

484
00:31:04.000 --> 00:31:08.000
all these things are coming, and they are destroying the love story

485
00:31:08.000 --> 00:31:10.000
that God has already written for you.

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They're trying to keep it from ever maturing and ever manifesting in your life.

487
00:31:14.000 --> 00:31:17.000
But then he says something really great. He says,

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Will you catch them? This is where the proof of belief takes action.

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This is where you do your part. Will you catch them?

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00:31:25.000 --> 00:31:31.000
But then he goes on to say, In the very next breath, we will do it together.

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You have to say yes. You have to do it.

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But then grace, the empowerment of heaven, will meet you there.

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You're in a beautiful season of your life like never before,

494
00:31:43.000 --> 00:31:48.000
where Holy Spirit is standing by, ready to partner with you to do what?

495
00:31:48.000 --> 00:31:51.000
To catch these thieves of abundance.

496
00:31:51.000 --> 00:31:55.000
To get them out of the budding vineyard of love that's already been planted within you.

497
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And that's not just romantic love. That's God's love for you.

498
00:31:58.000 --> 00:32:00.000
That's your identity as a daughter of God.

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That's all the abundance of John 10.10 that Jesus died to give you.

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That's all and all and all, y'all. So we'll do it together.

501
00:32:07.000 --> 00:32:11.000
The grace is now for you. Holy Spirit is here to help you

502
00:32:11.000 --> 00:32:14.000
to unpack those heart boxes and catch those foxes

503
00:32:14.000 --> 00:32:17.000
and reveal what has been holding you back and keeping you stuck

504
00:32:17.000 --> 00:32:20.000
in so many areas of your life for so long. All right?

505
00:32:20.000 --> 00:32:23.000
Okay. So we got those foxes. We understand.

506
00:32:23.000 --> 00:32:26.000
There's cracks in the foundation. That's what those foxes are.

507
00:32:26.000 --> 00:32:29.000
Can't hold up the weight of intimacy. It can't.

508
00:32:29.000 --> 00:32:31.000
God wants to restore these things in our lives.

509
00:32:31.000 --> 00:32:34.000
So obviously when we think about these foxes,

510
00:32:34.000 --> 00:32:37.000
these things that are robbing us of joy and peace and abundance,

511
00:32:37.000 --> 00:32:40.000
robbing us of breakthrough, we immediately think of our big traumas.

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At least I do. And that's not what the Scripture says.

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00:32:44.000 --> 00:32:47.000
It says those sly little foxes.

514
00:32:47.000 --> 00:32:50.000
Here in America, we have a saying, sly as a fox.

515
00:32:50.000 --> 00:32:53.000
What does that mean? Sneaky, undetectable.

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00:32:53.000 --> 00:32:56.000
Foxes roam around at night when you can't see them, right?

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00:32:56.000 --> 00:32:59.000
And they're little. They're small. You guys, I have foxes on my property.

518
00:32:59.000 --> 00:33:02.000
I do and I've seen them. And you know what else they are besides sneaky

519
00:33:02.000 --> 00:33:06.000
and out at night and small? They're also kind of cute.

520
00:33:06.000 --> 00:33:09.000
They're really cute. In fact, when you see them, you don't even think

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of them as a threat. You're like, oh, did you see the fox?

522
00:33:12.000 --> 00:33:16.000
It was really cute, right? Yeah, because you don't see its little sharp teeth.

523
00:33:16.000 --> 00:33:19.000
It's little furry paws. You don't see its claws.

524
00:33:19.000 --> 00:33:22.000
And so you think that it's cute. So let's look at the nature of foxes

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because God doesn't just choose words to choose words.

526
00:33:25.000 --> 00:33:28.000
These words mean things. So they're deceptive.

527
00:33:28.000 --> 00:33:31.000
These things that are holding you back from abundance in your life

528
00:33:31.000 --> 00:33:33.000
and especially your love story, they're deceptive things.

529
00:33:33.000 --> 00:33:36.000
You might not be able to see them. They're sneaky things.

530
00:33:36.000 --> 00:33:39.000
These super cute things, things that you're proud of about yourself, right?

531
00:33:39.000 --> 00:33:43.000
I'm independent. I don't need a man. That could be a fox.

532
00:33:43.000 --> 00:33:46.000
Because guess what? You don't just want a man. You need a man.

533
00:33:46.000 --> 00:33:48.000
The Bible says very clearly that we need each other.

534
00:33:48.000 --> 00:33:50.000
We don't just want each other. We need each other.

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00:33:50.000 --> 00:33:54.000
And if you cannot allow your own mouth to say that you need,

536
00:33:54.000 --> 00:33:57.000
then there's a fox there. There's a heart wound there.

537
00:33:57.000 --> 00:33:59.000
There's a block there. What are they?

538
00:33:59.000 --> 00:34:01.000
They're blind spots. They're filters created by trauma.

539
00:34:01.000 --> 00:34:04.000
Trauma doesn't just hurt us. It creates different versions of us.

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00:34:04.000 --> 00:34:08.000
They could be cultural norms. All of us were raised in different eras.

541
00:34:08.000 --> 00:34:10.000
I was raised, I was born in the seventies.

542
00:34:10.000 --> 00:34:12.000
I was a kid in the eighties and I was a teenager in the nineties.

543
00:34:12.000 --> 00:34:16.000
There was a lot of things that I was taught from culture that are not good.

544
00:34:16.000 --> 00:34:19.000
The empowerment, women's empowerment movement started in the seventies.

545
00:34:19.000 --> 00:34:21.000
I was born smack dab in the middle of it.

546
00:34:21.000 --> 00:34:24.000
A woman doesn't need a man. A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle.

547
00:34:24.000 --> 00:34:26.000
All that was ingrained inside of me.

548
00:34:26.000 --> 00:34:29.000
These are all things that could be foxes, right?

549
00:34:29.000 --> 00:34:32.000
Cultural norms versus ancient ways.

550
00:34:32.000 --> 00:34:35.000
They could be undetectable things, things that you consider good.

551
00:34:35.000 --> 00:34:39.000
Things like if you're from the purity culture, dating is only for mating.

552
00:34:39.000 --> 00:34:42.000
How's that working out for you? And you're like, what's the purity culture?

553
00:34:42.000 --> 00:34:45.000
You don't want to know. All right. You don't want to know.

554
00:34:45.000 --> 00:34:49.000
It basically was this entire ideology that you just sit in the waiting room.

555
00:34:49.000 --> 00:34:51.000
And if God wants a husband or wife for you, then he'll bring them.

556
00:34:51.000 --> 00:34:54.000
And he'll make it abundantly clear. And you'll know immediately.

557
00:34:54.000 --> 00:34:58.000
Don't you hate when people say that? Well, how am I going to know?

558
00:34:58.000 --> 00:34:59.000
Oh, you know,

559
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:03.600
it, you'll know when you know what that doesn't,

560
00:35:03.620 --> 00:35:06.960
that's not how it works for like 99.9% of people.

561
00:35:07.640 --> 00:35:10.520
And if that is what your expectation is, that it has to feel like,

562
00:35:10.760 --> 00:35:15.040
you're going to be like next, next, next, next. Why?

563
00:35:15.280 --> 00:35:18.360
Because you don't have the feeling you, the heavens don't open.

564
00:35:18.560 --> 00:35:21.880
This is your husband in whom I'm well pleased.

565
00:35:22.040 --> 00:35:24.800
It doesn't work like that for 99.9% of the people.

566
00:35:24.800 --> 00:35:26.720
Some people say they knew from the first moment,

567
00:35:27.200 --> 00:35:28.880
but then there's other people that said, Oh,

568
00:35:28.880 --> 00:35:31.560
I know that this is my person. And then it ends up not being their person.

569
00:35:31.560 --> 00:35:33.320
It's like, well, how do we sort this out?

570
00:35:34.200 --> 00:35:36.000
That's what I want to teach you in my program,

571
00:35:36.000 --> 00:35:39.200
because religion is keeping people single. It is.

572
00:35:39.200 --> 00:35:42.560
It's giving people serious anxious or avoidant attachment.

573
00:35:42.600 --> 00:35:46.360
And we got to get rid of that. That's a Fox family mantras.

574
00:35:46.560 --> 00:35:49.440
You might be raised in a family that tells you that there's only one right way

575
00:35:49.440 --> 00:35:51.920
to do something. It doesn't matter what area of your life.

576
00:35:52.160 --> 00:35:54.560
And you're still living in that. I had a girl the other day,

577
00:35:54.560 --> 00:35:58.860
a woman the other day show up on one of my coaching calls and say that she

578
00:35:58.860 --> 00:36:02.860
wants to do X, Y, Z, but she's afraid that her father won't approve.

579
00:36:03.260 --> 00:36:06.820
I'm like, girl, how old are you? She's like 48. I'm like, listen,

580
00:36:08.060 --> 00:36:09.420
I'm all for honoring your parents,

581
00:36:09.420 --> 00:36:11.860
but there comes a point in time when you got to live your life and you got to

582
00:36:11.860 --> 00:36:14.740
make your decisions and you can't make your decisions based on something your

583
00:36:14.740 --> 00:36:17.380
dad wants or doesn't want for you. Okay.

584
00:36:17.420 --> 00:36:21.780
And so this could be holding you back if you have all this family codependency

585
00:36:21.780 --> 00:36:25.340
and boundaries that are all messed up pop culture,

586
00:36:25.420 --> 00:36:29.940
because there's so many shows out there that the ideas that we don't realize

587
00:36:29.940 --> 00:36:32.980
that we're unconsciously taking in from those shows are foxes.

588
00:36:32.980 --> 00:36:35.500
They're holding us back. The music that you listen to,

589
00:36:35.500 --> 00:36:38.620
maybe you listen to that angry woman music, you know,

590
00:36:38.740 --> 00:36:42.780
that Kelly Clarkson music, that Adele music. You know, I love these people too.

591
00:36:42.780 --> 00:36:45.460
That Rihanna music, Cardi B, all the things,

592
00:36:45.580 --> 00:36:48.140
that music is going to get in your heart and create foxes.

593
00:36:48.700 --> 00:36:51.380
All that music is all about how bad men are.

594
00:36:51.460 --> 00:36:54.020
And so if you think that you're going to find the one good guy,

595
00:36:54.140 --> 00:36:56.420
when you believe that all men are bad, no,

596
00:36:56.540 --> 00:36:59.580
you're going to have walls up and you're going to be like, you know,

597
00:36:59.580 --> 00:37:03.260
if you want me, earn me, and then you're going to get what you asked for,

598
00:37:03.260 --> 00:37:04.180
which is not a good thing.

599
00:37:04.460 --> 00:37:08.220
So we don't want to be listening to that music and taking that music in and

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00:37:08.220 --> 00:37:11.140
making that part of us. Guys, we're singing that music out.

601
00:37:11.140 --> 00:37:13.100
We're confessing that music over our lives.

602
00:37:13.300 --> 00:37:16.660
I'm not trying to over-spiritualize anything, but there is power in your words.

603
00:37:16.940 --> 00:37:21.500
There is. And if you don't think that that's becoming things that you believe in

604
00:37:21.500 --> 00:37:22.340
your heart,

605
00:37:22.380 --> 00:37:26.580
you're wrong because the Bible says out of the mouth comes the communication of

606
00:37:26.580 --> 00:37:30.100
the heart, out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth communicates, right?

607
00:37:30.340 --> 00:37:33.860
So we got to make sure that we understand that. So these can all be foxes,

608
00:37:34.100 --> 00:37:37.540
right? So I have compiled some lists of y'all's foxes,

609
00:37:37.820 --> 00:37:40.500
all those cute little posts that we put up in this challenge group.

610
00:37:40.660 --> 00:37:42.060
There's a method to our madness.

611
00:37:42.180 --> 00:37:44.980
We put those up because depending on what you post there,

612
00:37:45.100 --> 00:37:47.900
it becomes part of these lists. That's right.

613
00:37:47.900 --> 00:37:52.060
We found some of your foxes and here they are. Lies that we believe about God.

614
00:37:52.660 --> 00:37:56.820
He's not emotionally involved with me. He doesn't care about my love story.

615
00:37:56.820 --> 00:38:00.180
I'm being punished. He's mad at me. He's disappointed in me. I've let him down.

616
00:38:00.780 --> 00:38:04.180
Honey, you're not, you're not holding God up. You can't let him down. All right.

617
00:38:04.420 --> 00:38:08.340
You might've let down an earthly parent and now you're personifying that to God,

618
00:38:08.500 --> 00:38:10.700
but God is the one that's holding you up. In fact,

619
00:38:10.700 --> 00:38:14.060
you're in him living and moving and having your very being.

620
00:38:14.180 --> 00:38:17.140
You can't let him down. All right. I've offended God.

621
00:38:17.140 --> 00:38:20.460
He doesn't want me to be happy. I want something God doesn't want for me.

622
00:38:20.500 --> 00:38:24.100
It's not his will for me to be happy.

623
00:38:24.500 --> 00:38:29.180
Relationship can't be good for him if it's not good for us.

624
00:38:30.260 --> 00:38:31.500
That is what you need to know.

625
00:38:31.780 --> 00:38:34.540
God's definition of relationship is it can't be good for him.

626
00:38:34.540 --> 00:38:35.660
If it's not good for you,

627
00:38:35.820 --> 00:38:38.900
he hasn't put you on this earth to live a miserable life just so that you can be

628
00:38:38.920 --> 00:38:44.020
holy. God wants you to enjoy the gift he's given you called life, right?

629
00:38:44.100 --> 00:38:46.420
He wants you to enjoy this gift. Why?

630
00:38:46.420 --> 00:38:50.180
Because you're the only representation of God that this world's ever going to

631
00:38:50.180 --> 00:38:53.500
see. And if you're broke and busted and disgusted,

632
00:38:53.500 --> 00:38:55.100
then who's going to want to sign up?

633
00:38:55.460 --> 00:38:58.860
Who's going to want to sign up to be God's kid if that's what God's kids look

634
00:38:58.860 --> 00:38:59.380
like.

635
00:38:59.380 --> 00:39:03.620
Your main purpose on this earth is to show the world what it looks like to be a

636
00:39:03.620 --> 00:39:07.820
child of God, a daughter of God, and see how he treats his children. Okay?

637
00:39:07.900 --> 00:39:12.660
We're blessed to be a blessing. We're not, we're not always going through,

638
00:39:12.780 --> 00:39:15.700
going through the dark valley of the soul with gasoline underwear on.

639
00:39:15.700 --> 00:39:17.140
That's not what your life should look like.

640
00:39:17.140 --> 00:39:19.580
And if that's what your life always looks like, then there's a problem.

641
00:39:20.020 --> 00:39:22.780
Every once in a while, you're going to have adversity. Jesus told us we would,

642
00:39:22.780 --> 00:39:24.340
we're going to have trials. We're going to have tribulations,

643
00:39:24.340 --> 00:39:25.980
but he said he'll deliver us out of them all.

644
00:39:26.500 --> 00:39:29.540
Many are the adversities of the righteous, but I deliver them out of them all.

645
00:39:29.560 --> 00:39:31.700
There's going to be trouble in this world, but be of good cheer.

646
00:39:31.700 --> 00:39:32.820
I've overcome the world.

647
00:39:33.020 --> 00:39:36.780
So if 99% of your life looks like dark valley of the soul,

648
00:39:36.780 --> 00:39:38.340
dark night of the soul with, you know,

649
00:39:38.380 --> 00:39:41.340
going through the fire with gasoline underwear on,

650
00:39:41.500 --> 00:39:45.220
then you took the wrong road and we need to get you back on the good path. Okay?

651
00:39:45.420 --> 00:39:47.980
He has a timing and if I get out of it, he won't have,

652
00:39:47.980 --> 00:39:51.300
he won't give me what I want. God hates divorce, but in your mind,

653
00:39:51.300 --> 00:39:53.100
that equals God hates divorced people.

654
00:39:53.140 --> 00:39:57.180
I taught yesterday that God hates the reasons for divorce. He hates betrayal.

655
00:39:57.220 --> 00:39:59.820
He hates infidelity. He hates those things.

656
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:03.120
wishes people wouldn't do those things, but because they do those things,

657
00:40:03.320 --> 00:40:05.880
he's the one that created divorce.

658
00:40:06.920 --> 00:40:10.520
God's the one that created divorce. It wasn't part of his original plan,

659
00:40:10.520 --> 00:40:13.480
but he saw the way that specifically men were treating their wives.

660
00:40:13.480 --> 00:40:17.360
They were abandoning them when a new model came out. Back in the day, y'all,

661
00:40:17.360 --> 00:40:21.200
all you had to do was leave and shut your front door and you divorce that woman.

662
00:40:21.200 --> 00:40:24.560
And then you went off and lived your own life and did whatever you want, right?

663
00:40:25.000 --> 00:40:27.760
And then that woman couldn't remarry because anytime you wanted to,

664
00:40:27.760 --> 00:40:31.400
you could just show back up and say, Oh, I see that you've been farming the land.

665
00:40:31.400 --> 00:40:34.080
I see that you've been raising the kids and now they're farming the land.

666
00:40:34.080 --> 00:40:36.800
And now this is worth some money. So I decided I want to come back home.

667
00:40:37.120 --> 00:40:41.480
I want to take control of my possessions. You, God didn't want that.

668
00:40:41.520 --> 00:40:44.040
He didn't like that. He didn't like the way men were treating women.

669
00:40:44.040 --> 00:40:47.000
So he said, okay, Moses, give that woman a piece of paper.

670
00:40:47.000 --> 00:40:50.800
If that man leaves saying that she's now divorced from him and he can't just

671
00:40:50.800 --> 00:40:54.400
come back whenever he wants to. So now another man can marry her.

672
00:40:54.760 --> 00:40:55.920
That's what happens.

673
00:40:56.520 --> 00:41:01.560
God loved his daughters enough to create a way

674
00:41:01.560 --> 00:41:06.320
out a rescue mission for you to get out of areas where you're being

675
00:41:06.320 --> 00:41:09.560
abused. And so that's Bible. If you don't believe it,

676
00:41:09.580 --> 00:41:13.280
I have a whole teaching on it and my divorce and remarriage segment in my

677
00:41:13.280 --> 00:41:18.120
program that will set you free. God hates abuse. He hates oppression.

678
00:41:18.360 --> 00:41:20.160
Okay. And that's why he hates divorce.

679
00:41:20.400 --> 00:41:22.680
God loves his rules more than he loves his daughters.

680
00:41:22.680 --> 00:41:25.040
You think that God's just this list of rules. And if you don't,

681
00:41:25.040 --> 00:41:27.800
if you break them, then he doesn't love you anymore. That's not true.

682
00:41:28.080 --> 00:41:32.360
God cares more about he, God cares more about me when I'm good.

683
00:41:32.360 --> 00:41:35.280
Then when I'm bad, when I'm bad, when I'm good, he blesses me.

684
00:41:35.280 --> 00:41:40.120
When I'm bad, he punishes me. My love life isn't important to God. Okay.

685
00:41:40.120 --> 00:41:43.320
Here's some lies that you believe about men. All the good ones are taken,

686
00:41:43.800 --> 00:41:47.800
just like toilet paper during COVID all gone forever, gone empty shelves.

687
00:41:47.960 --> 00:41:49.640
This is why some of y'all are dating married men.

688
00:41:49.800 --> 00:41:53.400
And I already touched on that via Holy Spirit during this challenge.

689
00:41:53.400 --> 00:41:57.200
I don't always say stuff like that, but someone here needs to hear that. Okay.

690
00:41:57.440 --> 00:42:01.320
Stop letting Olivia Pope be your role model. You need to stop with that. Okay.

691
00:42:01.360 --> 00:42:04.280
And emotional affairs count too. Not just sexual be like, Oh,

692
00:42:04.280 --> 00:42:06.160
I'm not having sex with them. Yeah.

693
00:42:06.160 --> 00:42:09.320
That's what you're telling yourself to justify why you're someone's work wife

694
00:42:09.600 --> 00:42:13.560
and why there are giving you all of their attention and affection and emotion.

695
00:42:13.720 --> 00:42:18.440
And their wife is being left out in the cold at home because you are taking what

696
00:42:18.440 --> 00:42:19.280
belongs to her.

697
00:42:19.320 --> 00:42:22.720
You better release it and let go of it so that you can have something of your

698
00:42:22.720 --> 00:42:26.520
own. All right. Men are not safe. They can't be trusted. They're all the same.

699
00:42:26.520 --> 00:42:30.520
They're immature. They don't want to grow up. They only want one thing. Yes,

700
00:42:30.520 --> 00:42:33.440
they do want sex and you should want it too. And if you don't want it,

701
00:42:33.480 --> 00:42:35.120
then let's get to the root of why.

702
00:42:35.440 --> 00:42:38.920
Why are you traumatized around the idea of a man wanting to be with you

703
00:42:38.920 --> 00:42:39.760
intimately?

704
00:42:39.920 --> 00:42:42.880
Probably because you've been used and abused in that area too many times.

705
00:42:43.080 --> 00:42:45.840
But remember, we're going to save sex for covenant. We are,

706
00:42:45.920 --> 00:42:50.000
but men do want sex and we can't criminalize them for it or villainize them for

707
00:42:50.000 --> 00:42:53.640
it. But they should respect, they should treat us respectfully and honorably.

708
00:42:54.000 --> 00:42:58.240
Okay. As they would their own bodies or their own lives. Right.

709
00:42:58.240 --> 00:43:02.320
And that's what we want to see in spirit mates. Men are narcissists or cheaters,

710
00:43:02.320 --> 00:43:05.760
abusers, liars, manipulators, violent, selfish, lazy, controlling, power hungry.

711
00:43:05.760 --> 00:43:08.760
These are things y'all have said about men. Men don't hurt. They don't care.

712
00:43:08.760 --> 00:43:11.320
They don't have feelings. They abandon. They don't provide, they don't protect.

713
00:43:11.320 --> 00:43:13.440
They can't commit. They don't want what women want.

714
00:43:14.200 --> 00:43:17.000
Why are you here wanting a man? If this is what you really believe about them,

715
00:43:17.000 --> 00:43:19.800
we got to unpack this stuff because this is the kind of man you're going to

716
00:43:19.800 --> 00:43:22.560
attract. As long as this is what you believe about men,

717
00:43:22.800 --> 00:43:26.480
they're intimidated by successful, smart, strong, spiritual, beautiful women,

718
00:43:26.920 --> 00:43:27.800
right? They're pathetic.

719
00:43:27.800 --> 00:43:31.840
They're intimidated by women that are smart and have all the letters after

720
00:43:31.840 --> 00:43:34.840
their name. I'm only single because I intimidate men.

721
00:43:35.000 --> 00:43:36.760
Well, maybe you don't intimidate men.

722
00:43:36.760 --> 00:43:41.760
Maybe you're intimidating and maybe we need to unpack that so that you can let go

723
00:43:41.840 --> 00:43:46.360
of that toxic masculinity that you've been carrying and you can start operating

724
00:43:46.360 --> 00:43:49.240
in your divine feminine. Men aren't interested in spiritual things.

725
00:43:49.240 --> 00:43:51.280
They don't want God as much as women do.

726
00:43:51.480 --> 00:43:53.400
They don't want God the same way as women do.

727
00:43:53.400 --> 00:43:57.760
They weren't created or designed to want to worship the same way that we do.

728
00:43:58.160 --> 00:44:02.280
And what we do is that we get so fearful that they don't love God because

729
00:44:02.280 --> 00:44:06.520
they're not worshiping in the same way as we do. We become gift inspectors.

730
00:44:06.760 --> 00:44:09.800
Does he speak in tongues? Does he roll around on the floor on the gold dust?

731
00:44:09.840 --> 00:44:11.800
You know, for depending on what denomination you're to,

732
00:44:11.800 --> 00:44:14.680
does he go to mass every day? You know, if you're Catholic, whatever,

733
00:44:14.840 --> 00:44:18.560
whatever your denominations litmus test is, the spirituality,

734
00:44:18.560 --> 00:44:21.360
you're going to be trying to apply that to a man, right?

735
00:44:21.360 --> 00:44:25.440
Instead of being a fruit inspector, does he, does he have love and kindness?

736
00:44:25.520 --> 00:44:28.560
Does he have joy? Is he patient? You know, be a fruit inspector.

737
00:44:28.560 --> 00:44:32.120
Don't be a gift inspector. Fruit is indicative of relationship with God,

738
00:44:32.280 --> 00:44:37.040
not gifts. Anybody can have gifts. Wolves in sheep's clothing have a lot of gifts.

739
00:44:37.240 --> 00:44:39.760
And a lot of you have already, you've already been to that rodeo.

740
00:44:39.760 --> 00:44:40.760
So you know what I'm talking about.

741
00:44:40.800 --> 00:44:42.440
And here's the lies we believe about ourselves.

742
00:44:42.680 --> 00:44:46.800
I have to settle if I want to be married. I've missed my opportunity, right?

743
00:44:46.800 --> 00:44:49.760
My opportunity is gone. My standards are too high.

744
00:44:49.760 --> 00:44:52.600
Your walls are currently too high, but not your standards.

745
00:44:52.800 --> 00:44:55.480
I have to take care of myself. I have to protect myself. No,

746
00:44:55.480 --> 00:44:58.880
I want to teach you how to be God defended instead of self defended so you can

747
00:44:58.880 --> 00:44:59.720
let love in.

748
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:02.640
I'm not hard and bitter, I'm just smart and wise.

749
00:45:02.640 --> 00:45:03.760
No.

750
00:45:03.760 --> 00:45:07.720
I'm not guarded or closed off, I just have good boundaries.

751
00:45:07.720 --> 00:45:10.360
No huh, no hun, that's not what's up.

752
00:45:10.360 --> 00:45:13.680
I can't ask for help, because I have to be responsible.

753
00:45:13.680 --> 00:45:16.920
Responsibility in that scenario is just a trauma response,

754
00:45:16.920 --> 00:45:19.920
it's a fancy word for fear of trusting other people.

755
00:45:19.920 --> 00:45:22.200
My picker is broken, I can't be trusted,

756
00:45:22.200 --> 00:45:25.160
I'm a loser magnet, something is wrong with me,

757
00:45:25.160 --> 00:45:27.960
I'm not good enough, I'm not smart enough,

758
00:45:27.960 --> 00:45:30.880
rich enough, young enough, tall enough, short enough,

759
00:45:30.880 --> 00:45:32.000
I'm not enough.

760
00:45:32.000 --> 00:45:34.000
And some of you think I'm just too much.

761
00:45:34.000 --> 00:45:38.120
You might be too much because you are always trying

762
00:45:38.120 --> 00:45:40.160
to please, you're anxious attachment, right,

763
00:45:40.160 --> 00:45:42.520
you're a people pleaser, you're just too much.

764
00:45:42.520 --> 00:45:45.560
That is not your actual authentic identity.

765
00:45:45.560 --> 00:45:47.380
All right, I can do this all on my own,

766
00:45:47.380 --> 00:45:49.400
I don't need anybody else, I'm not meant to be married,

767
00:45:49.400 --> 00:45:52.960
nobody wants me, I'm invisible, men aren't attracted to me,

768
00:45:52.960 --> 00:45:56.660
I mess things up, I am a mess, I'm too old, it's too late,

769
00:45:56.700 --> 00:45:59.200
I've been married too many times, I have too many problems,

770
00:45:59.200 --> 00:46:01.740
nobody will love me and my kids,

771
00:46:01.740 --> 00:46:05.740
I need to get it together before I can even get back

772
00:46:05.740 --> 00:46:08.620
out there and meet anyone, all right?

773
00:46:08.620 --> 00:46:12.160
So those are all foxes that we have been able to find

774
00:46:12.160 --> 00:46:15.380
in the comments of this group, right?

775
00:46:15.380 --> 00:46:16.220
Woo!

776
00:46:16.220 --> 00:46:18.460
You guys ready to go fox hunting?

777
00:46:18.460 --> 00:46:21.460
You ready to give God permission to help you?

778
00:46:21.460 --> 00:46:24.620
Remember he said, you gotta do it, but he's here to help.

779
00:46:24.620 --> 00:46:26.020
Are you ready to do that?

780
00:46:26.060 --> 00:46:27.300
If you're ready to do that,

781
00:46:27.300 --> 00:46:30.540
then I want you to read this permission slip,

782
00:46:30.540 --> 00:46:34.820
I want you to speak this permission slip with me,

783
00:46:34.820 --> 00:46:36.380
and I'm also gonna post it in the group.

784
00:46:36.380 --> 00:46:38.900
You guys, own this permission slip.

785
00:46:38.900 --> 00:46:41.620
This is you giving God permission to start

786
00:46:41.620 --> 00:46:43.780
this supernatural process in your life.

787
00:46:43.780 --> 00:46:46.220
And I really hope that this challenge is not the end of it,

788
00:46:46.220 --> 00:46:48.100
that you come into the program, I'm gonna give everyone

789
00:46:48.100 --> 00:46:50.260
an opportunity to join the program tomorrow,

790
00:46:50.260 --> 00:46:52.780
it's very cost effective, y'all, it's really amazing,

791
00:46:52.780 --> 00:46:54.880
it's gonna change and transform your life,

792
00:46:54.880 --> 00:46:56.800
it's gonna transform your love life.

793
00:46:56.800 --> 00:47:01.720
So many people have such crazy success with us.

794
00:47:01.720 --> 00:47:04.240
So close your eyes, repeat after me,

795
00:47:04.240 --> 00:47:09.040
Father God, I give you permission to search me

796
00:47:09.040 --> 00:47:12.280
and to reveal anything in my heart

797
00:47:12.280 --> 00:47:16.120
that does not belong to my true feminine identity.

798
00:47:17.480 --> 00:47:21.200
Anything that is hindering me from living

799
00:47:21.200 --> 00:47:24.880
the big, beautiful life that you created me to live.

800
00:47:25.840 --> 00:47:30.680
Holy Spirit, I invite you into the darkest places

801
00:47:30.680 --> 00:47:35.160
of my heart, show me the areas of my heart

802
00:47:35.160 --> 00:47:37.540
that are still wounded and still hurting.

803
00:47:38.640 --> 00:47:41.380
The areas that are blocking me from your goodness,

804
00:47:42.280 --> 00:47:45.320
that are keeping me from stepping into my love story,

805
00:47:46.200 --> 00:47:47.800
the one you have written for me.

806
00:47:48.800 --> 00:47:52.240
When you reveal these broken places to me,

807
00:47:52.240 --> 00:47:55.920
I covenant with you, I partner with you

808
00:47:55.920 --> 00:47:58.640
to release them into your care

809
00:47:58.640 --> 00:48:02.700
and to respond with forgiveness and repentance.

810
00:48:03.720 --> 00:48:05.840
I set aside the season of my life

811
00:48:07.040 --> 00:48:09.560
for a time of healing and wholeness

812
00:48:09.560 --> 00:48:12.180
and I'm asking you, Holy Spirit,

813
00:48:12.180 --> 00:48:14.160
to take charge of this process.

814
00:48:15.000 --> 00:48:18.200
I ask that you dwell with me and in me,

815
00:48:18.200 --> 00:48:21.080
I need you, I cannot do this on my own.

816
00:48:22.400 --> 00:48:24.440
I wanna be free from the past,

817
00:48:24.440 --> 00:48:27.400
free to be to who I truly am

818
00:48:27.400 --> 00:48:30.080
and free to become who you've created me to be.

819
00:48:31.080 --> 00:48:34.080
Show me the lies I believed about myself,

820
00:48:34.080 --> 00:48:37.280
about my life, about my surroundings,

821
00:48:38.240 --> 00:48:41.440
about men, about marriage,

822
00:48:42.080 --> 00:48:44.680
even the lies I've believed about you, God.

823
00:48:45.920 --> 00:48:49.800
Teach me the greater truth, teach me your ways

824
00:48:49.800 --> 00:48:53.880
and teach me how to love and how to live abundantly.

825
00:48:53.880 --> 00:48:56.080
And then my favorite prayer that I've been praying for years

826
00:48:56.080 --> 00:48:58.840
that God taught me, very simple, very powerful,

827
00:48:58.840 --> 00:49:02.100
teach me, show me, heal me, grow me.

828
00:49:03.180 --> 00:49:05.760
I really wanna challenge you to look at that again,

829
00:49:05.760 --> 00:49:08.200
yourself, pray it over yourself, confess it over yourself

830
00:49:08.200 --> 00:49:10.120
if you really believe it and receive it.

831
00:49:10.160 --> 00:49:11.960
Let that supernatural process start,

832
00:49:11.960 --> 00:49:15.120
we've had so many testimonies just from this permission slip

833
00:49:15.120 --> 00:49:18.360
and what starts to happen after you truly

834
00:49:18.360 --> 00:49:21.360
surrender the pen to God, all right?

835
00:49:21.360 --> 00:49:22.440
And there's a place to sign it,

836
00:49:22.440 --> 00:49:23.960
if you wanna print it out, you can.

837
00:49:23.960 --> 00:49:27.100
Sit and listen after you speak it over yourself,

838
00:49:27.100 --> 00:49:29.420
let God talk to you, write down some things maybe

839
00:49:29.420 --> 00:49:31.200
that he's saying to you, all right,

840
00:49:31.200 --> 00:49:33.240
about what he wants to do in this season of your life

841
00:49:33.240 --> 00:49:37.000
and I can't wait to see you tomorrow for day three.

842
00:49:37.000 --> 00:49:39.040
Gonna talk about spirit mates versus soul mates,

843
00:49:39.040 --> 00:49:42.360
gonna be a great time, how to tell if they're someone

844
00:49:42.360 --> 00:49:44.240
that you need to go forward with

845
00:49:44.240 --> 00:49:46.680
or you need to thanks next, all right?

846
00:49:46.680 --> 00:49:48.840
I'll see you there, see you soon, bye-bye.