All right, welcome, welcome, those of you that are joining by the recording or watching
the replay, welcome, welcome to the monthly kickoff, first Tuesday of the month, we gather
as Prosper Leaders, and so we just did that.
We have, man, fabulous conversation, so you're catching this part of me talking, but that's
probably small compared to what happens as you gather in breakout rooms, I love the way
the computer connects people, it was just like perfect matches, and some of the things
that were shared before we even started.
So the gold is showing up live, those of you that are thinking that the recording is enough,
it's not, it's not.
So show up live next time, all right, I'm going to start with prayer, I'm going to share
a couple thoughts, and then we're going to come back and mastermind, but let's just start
with prayer.
Father God, I thank you for the vision, for the way that you spoke so clearly when you
said gather the women, and you said we are not those who fear, and you told us to boldly
advance and you showed me women linking arms and together, taking each other across the
personal finish lines.
I thank you, I thank you for the love in this group, I thank you for every woman that you
called to be part of the Prosper Leader membership, I thank you for the gifts you placed inside
of them, and as we start in live time, this is like the second day of the second half
of the year.
And so Lord, I'm asking that what needs to be said, what needs to be imparted by the
power of your Holy Spirit, what needs to be renewed, what needs to be re-energized, what
needs to be shifted, what needs to be let go of, I'm asking Lord, I'm asking for powerful
breakthrough in this community, that every woman will rise to the fullness of everything
you've called her to, I pray that you'll strengthen her with might in her inner woman,
and that she will rise into the fullness of all that you've called her to, and the inheritance,
not just in heaven, but here on earth, that you have.
The inheritance, the legacy, the impact, the income, Lord, I'm asking for all of it.
So let the words of my mouth, the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, I
ask in Jesus' name, amen, amen.
Well I sent you a couple handouts, and I will send you a video, or if you have been following
me on LinkedIn, or on YouTube, or on Facebook, I posted that video.
It was a video that was from the Coach Certification, from the Prosper Byte Design Coach Certification,
on the subject of habits.
So if you haven't seen that video, go ahead and grab it, and watch that.
I'll try to pop it in the chat for this as well.
And so what I want you to think about as you go into the second half of the year, is first
of all, dust off your dreams that you had January 1st.
If you set goals, if you set what you wanted to accomplish this year, go back to it, and
how are you doing?
Are you on track?
Woohoo, celebrate, let's build, let's create momentum.
Did you let it go?
Did you let those goals slip, or are you discouraged or disappointed that you're not achieving
them?
Okay, let's get back on track.
And so what I want you to think about is, what is the one single thing, what is the
one shift?
And I'm going to talk in terms of habit, because what I've found, that when I want to make
a shift routinely, now it's almost habit for me, because I've thought about this for 30
years, but what I have learned is when I want to shift something, I ask myself, how can
I make that into a new habit?
If I can just create a new habit, I will create that shift.
So what is the number one habit that you want to add for this second half of the year that
will move the needle the most.
Write that down right now.
If you could just have one new habit,
like it might be exercise
because you're just not having the energy
and I'm gonna start the habit of exercise.
Or it might be like a change in diet, vegan, okay.
Or, you know, whatever the diet is for you.
Paleo, gluten-free, whatever.
And in terms of your business,
what's the one thing that would really move the needle?
And if you don't know,
maybe you need to be having a call with me, okay.
But what's the one thing?
Is it that you're not talking to enough people?
So there's like, you don't have leads coming in.
You're not having successful sales conversations.
So you're not having new clients.
You should be having new clients all the time.
Every month there should be new people coming.
So is it the habit of showing up,
that you're just not showing up?
And that's the new habit, whether it be in writing,
whether it be in lives,
whether it be in, you know, doing launches.
But what is the one thing that you want to add?
Maybe it's reading, maybe it's journaling,
maybe it's praying.
But the thing that will move the needle the most
toward the goal that you have, okay.
So I want you to write that down
because that's what I want you to implement
is that there's a new habit.
Maybe it's writing every single day
because you're committed to a book,
or maybe it's writing on social media every single day
because you're committed to releasing value.
Releasing value.
I shared with some of you
during the last series of Masterclass,
the Year of Prosperity Formula,
the market has changed dramatically, okay.
And I'm going to repeat this because it's very important.
When things shift, we have to shift.
So if we're changing habits, it needs to be around that.
So one of the things that has shifted
is that it is requiring much more
of a nurturing communication relationship
for a conversion of a sale for a new client, okay.
A recent thing I heard,
I haven't had a chance to confirm it,
but on average it's taking,
because people are really consuming right now.
They, and maybe you see it with yourself, you're consuming.
You're showing up on lots of things
because you're looking for the answer.
How do I get the breakthrough, right?
And so if you are providing really valuable content,
then you're going to have people hanging in your ecosystem
for quite a while before they actually even like,
like or engage.
If you're relying on likes and engagements, wrong metric.
Okay.
So they're going to hang around
and they're going to be consuming.
And the recent study that I heard
is it takes about 11 hours of consuming your content
for them to make a buying decision.
So I asked the question during the masterclass,
are you providing 11 hours worth of things
for them to consume?
Now, the first thing that comes up, of course,
let me see, you guys are putting in the chat.
Okay.
So are you giving that amount of content, right?
So one of the things is we've got to maximize time, right?
That's the biggest thing is I just don't have time.
So I'm very committed over these coming months,
starting on the 13th of July,
I am doing an AI powered success masterclass.
It's free to all of you that are Prosper Leader members.
So 9 a.m. Pacific time, Saturday, the 13th,
write that down, AI powered success masterclass,
you'll get emails and everything.
And my goal is to show you how to be able to show up
and how to be able to provide that level of content
quickly and easily, okay?
So don't worry about the hows right now
when we're talking about habits, just get clear.
What is it that you want to change?
Now, there's a great book
and the book is called Atomic Habits.
If you haven't read this book, it's a great book.
It's a great listen.
There's some YouTubes,
if you just wanna get it distilled and get the idea.
What I like.
Um, it's teaching something that I've been teaching for, I don't know, the video that
I'll send you that is, you know, already, I don't know, six, seven, eight years old.
I've been teaching this for a while, but it's the steps to change the habit, right?
And so I'm going to review that with you.
I put it in your handouts so that once you decide what is the habit, I'm going to let
you know some, some keys to make sure that that habit happens.
But there's something I like in this book that caught my attention that I want to talk
about first and foremost, and it goes with what I taught on Saturday, which is identity.
Okay?
The biggest way to change your life, change your habits at the deepest level is to change
your identity.
And I'm defining identity, not as your God given identity, because God has that for you
and we have to get clear and tap in and begin to see ourself as God sees ourselves.
But I'm looking at identity from the standpoint that identity is what you believe about yourself.
So your identity is what you, the things you believe you can do and the things you believe
you can't.
Your identity is put after I am, I am not this, I am not that, I am this, that those
grouping of beliefs that you have, which by the way, a belief is just a strongly held
opinion.
So you can change your beliefs.
That's the cool thing.
Right?
And, and in the process you can begin to up level and change your identity.
And as you do, your whole life will change, right?
So if you move from saying, I'm just not organized, I'm just not a good speaker, I'm just not,
and you move to a new identity that I am a highly effective and highly efficient.
I am an effective leader.
And you step in, I am a, I am an anointed communicator.
I am a powerful, you know, coach, whatever you begin to have an identity.
I promise everything else will fall into line with that identity.
So if there's one shift, and that's why I did the identity masterclass, go back and
listen.
But if there's one shift is whatever habit you're wanting to make, the deepest route
to create change is who do I need to be, right?
What identity, right?
So there's a lot of examples.
You think about a smoker and someone, you know, offers a cigarette and, and you say,
I'm trying to quit.
This is on the surface level of I'm trying to change my behavior, least effective, right?
I'm not, I'm no longer a smoker.
I'm a non-smoker.
And so I behave as a non-smoker.
I no longer buy the cigarettes.
I, so you can do this for every area of your life that you step into the identity of that
which you desire to be.
Okay.
So as you look at the habit that you want to change, look at who do I need to become?
Now the other side of habit is that there's some habits because by the way, at least half
of what you're doing on a daily basis is a habit.
So there's other habits that we must begin to release that are standing between us and
our success.
And it might be the habit of scrolling.
It might be the habit of watching too much Netflix.
It might be the habit of sleeping in, it might be the habit of overeating.
It might be the habit of whatever it is.
You know, as we look at the habits we want to add, we also need to look at what are the
habits we need to release.
And so awareness is the first step to transformation.
So I'm going to encourage you to do a habit tracker.
And that means just like write down on a daily basis what you do and you'll begin to
see the things that are habits.
Like what time do you get up?
What do you say to yourself when you first get up?
What's the first thing you do when you get out of bed?
What's the first, you know, and, and like write down your habits because awareness is
the first step of transformation.
And then next to it, okay, and this comes from atomic habits is put a plus next to it
that it's a positive habit and it's getting you closer to your goals.
Put a minus next to the things that are keeping you.
And you can put a zero or an equal sign for those things that are neutral.
It doesn't matter.
And so when you start looking at those minuses, we can start to make a plan to release those
things.
or plus, we can do more of those, and then we can determine the plus we want to add.
Okay?
Now, I've taught you this before, but I'm going to give you three ways to help you really
implement this new habit.
And this new habit might be showing up on social media every day.
I believe so strongly that in this season, God has given us the privilege of the platform.
I also know that consistency creates momentum.
So I want to say if there was one thing you were going to do is to genuinely add value
every single day on social media, genuinely build relationships, your business will be
completely different in six months.
So the new habit might be showing up every day on social media.
Okay?
We've talked about that, doing how-to posts where you're sharing your knowledge, inspiration
and encouragement posts where you're just connecting at the heart level, and call-to-action
posts where you're just saying, hey, I just opened up five slots for coaching or joined
my launch.
Okay?
So we're doing this, we're showing up each day.
So the first step of this habit, okay, is this sentence.
Write this down.
I will, there's the declaration.
I will, and then I want you to put the new habit, the behavior.
So I will post on social media at, put the time, at, I have for me at 9 a.m.
Sometimes I have to move it earlier, but I have that.
So I will add value and post on social media at, put the time in, okay, and put the location.
Now normally the location is a physical location for you, right?
So but with this particular example, you also could put the online location like in LinkedIn.
So for me, I'm absolutely committed to post 9 a.m. on LinkedIn every single day, okay?
It might be a weekly habit.
If you're just starting, start small.
And so it might be a weekly habit.
I will post a newsletter on my email list and on my LinkedIn once a week.
I am so committed.
If I do nothing else once a week, they're going to hear from me.
Now I'm going to tell you, your results will multiply so greatly doing it daily.
But start where you can start, okay?
So this is the sentence you need when you want to change a habit, okay?
I will, okay, have the behavior at the time in the location.
Now a secret I've learned to habits is habit stacking.
And I've talked to you and I've taught you about habit stacking.
So remember, we did a habit tracking and there's certain things you do every single day, okay?
I have the habit, look, when I wake up and I get out of bed and I say, I love, and I
just do, I love my pillow, I love my bed, I love, I thank you Lord for waking me up,
I love that I slept good, whatever, I prime myself.
I usually have to pee, okay, let's be realistic, I'm going to go to the bathroom.
And I have the habit, I read it somewhere years ago.
I splash my face with cold water, it wakes me up, it just kind of gets me going.
I splash my face with cold water, I have a rinse that's good for the gums, I rinse.
So there's a habit that you're already doing is my point, okay?
I'm giving you the inside scoop, right?
So I then already have a habit that I go straight from there while I let the dog out and I go
straight from there to the kitchen and I drink a lot of my nutrition.
I live such a high powered life, I have to have a very sound, active mind, I have to
have a very energetic body to live the life I live, I know that.
And I know that I don't always have time to cook big meals or whatever, so I'm a person
that I've learned I drink a lot of my nutrition and I get that in, it's my way of getting
water in.
So I go in the kitchen and I pour a big glass of water and I have a green drink that I do,
it's organifies green juice, I love it, it detoxes your body, it energizes.
And so I make that green drink and
And I take two or three nootropics made by Qualia Mind,
because it just absolutely gets my mind.
It's a big nootropic stack.
It gets my brain fired up.
Green juice, cleaning, I'm fresh.
I'm getting eight ounces of water right off that bat.
I take that drink, and then there's a place.
So one of my habits is I will meditate, pray, journal,
spend time, do my morning routine, my golden hour.
So I will do my golden hour at the time in the location.
If you have a location, this will increase your success.
So behind me, that chair that you see,
I don't know if I'm pointing the right direction,
but the big, big oversized chair behind me,
that is only used for that.
I brought that to my office for that reason.
There's a specific place that I know I'm going to go.
There's a little table next to it.
And so I grab my Bible, I grab my little book
that I write my goals in, I grab my pen, I grab everything,
and I go sit in that chair.
I grab my headphones to do a meditation.
So when I'm talking about habit stacking,
if I was going to add the new habit of golden hour,
and I know that I already go get a drink first thing
in the morning, then that's the habit stacking
that I say, as soon as I get my drink, I will.
And then we add what we just said.
I will do my golden hour at the time in this location.
So if you can take a habit that you already have
and add another to it, you're going
to have more chance of success.
Which also, when you look at creating habits,
you're looking at cues.
Like, what's the cue going to cue you to have that?
And if you can make that cue obvious,
so like people that are wanting to do fitness,
if you can have right by your bed, your tennis shoes,
your yoga mat rolled out, a couple of weights,
whatever, that as soon as you know
you're going to do something, that it's right there.
As soon as you get out of bed, you
put on your tennis shoes, non-negotiable,
then you're more likely to go for the walk.
So the cue, all right?
And then the reward, as you're tapping into that identity,
who do I need to be?
If you want to have dopamine hits to back it up,
you, in your imagination, get some dopamine hits, right?
So it might be the excitement that as a leader,
as I'm showing up, I'm meeting amazing people, and three
of them are going to become clients this month.
And the excitement of the impact and the income,
and you tap into the feeling of that, right?
And so you're giving yourself a dopamine hit
to try to make it happen.
Now, we all know accountability is
one of the most powerful things to maintain a new habit,
if you can tell someone and have them hold you accountable.
So I encourage, you've got a prosperous sister today,
use this as accountability, that you
agree to text each other each day and say, I did the thing,
right?
Accountability will increase your success.
I also encourage you that whatever we inspect,
inspect what we expect.
And I talked to you before about using the metrics feature
in your Coach Accountable, in your coaching portal.
So whatever this new habit is, set a metric for it.
So I will read 15 minutes so that you get the phone
reminder, and you're accountable to fill that in every day.
That will also keep your mind on it, OK?
So there's a lot in the worksheets
I sent you about the cue, about the reward in the video.
I'm not going to take time now.
I'm just going to remind you that your habits are running
you, and the habits are making you more or less of who
you want to be.
So we've talked a lot about future self
and your future self.
That's still my favorite book for you
to be reading right now.
If you're going to read one book, be your future self now,
OK?
So that you are so clear on who it is and the identity
that you're stepping into, so that you add the habits.
Based on would my future self have this habit? What would my future self do?
The next thing I want to close with and then I want to come back and have a minute to talk with you
Because we're out of time
what I want to do is
And you know what I'm just gonna wait I want to have time I don't want to talk anymore
There's so much I want to share with you, but I think you got enough. Do you have enough like?
Thinking about the habits
Stepping into the identity of the habit. Oh, I know. I'm just gonna close with this start small
Something you can stick with don't start with I'm going to read a book a week or whatever
Start with I'm gonna read a page
Start with a two-minute habit if you have to I'm gonna exercise every day for two minutes
I'm gonna meditate for two minutes. I'm gonna get online for two minutes like start with something that you can get some wins
Then you can up it from two minutes to five and five to ten
Okay, whether that be your prayer you're posting you're getting on the phone start with really small increments
So you can get some wins under your belt. Okay. I pray this helps you happy second half of the year
Let's step into who God's called you to be let's step into that future self. Let's be planning on celebrating in
December as
To the new habits we put in place and how that changed our life
All right. I'm gonna stop the recording. Let's gather and have a little popcorn really quick. Um
Implementation really quick. All right