is joining us for the first time tonight. Anyone joining us?
You've never been here for a live session before. Okay, see
a couple was Frenchie. I think you raise your hand. Natasha. Is
it Nasha? Nasha? I'm not sure how to say your name. We have
several here tonight. All right, Anne Marie, Natalia, Brenda.
All right.
And I know we did this several times today, you might want to
send me phonetically Shari. Did I get it? Did I do it? I feel
accomplished. This is great. Y'all we were working on this in
the afternoon session. Welcome. Welcome. Welcome. So glad y'all
are here. My name is Bethany Cooper. I'm one of the heart
work coaches in the community. Just love what God is doing.
Y'all will see me around all over the place at different
times. God's on the move. And we're excited to see what he's
going to continue to do in and through Jackie and David and the
team and this movement. And guess what that includes all of
you know, you're all a part of our family. And we're so excited
to have you here. Welcome to our new ladies. I want to encourage
you all I always do housekeeping and I'm going to try to do this
quicker than I did this afternoon. But the couple of
things I have for you today are this I put up in all your
groups, a post this afternoon that has a graphic that says
freedom on it. I want to encourage you all if you haven't
listened to the supernatural Saturday from this last
Saturday, to listen to that as soon as you can. I know you guys
have a lot of coursework and I don't want it to overwhelm you
but it's so powerful. And just the truth in it about what does
it really mean to live free. It's going to change your life
and change your heart if you allow it. So what I want you to
do is I want you to post in the comments of those posts. Like
what is God saying to you through that? Like where does he
want to help you step into more freedom in this next you can
even just do the next week for right now just right now. You
know, sometimes we stop and we don't move forward because we
just think of things way too big and overwhelming way too far in
the future. So let's just what is he saying to you right now?
Okay. All right, the next two real quick things. So one of
the things I said this afternoon, I want to reiterate
it tonight and no one just so y'all know no one's ever in
trouble. I always feel like in groups, you know, you never know
what people come in with in the past and the heartwork group
people might feel bad if their post gets taken down or if we
ask you to shift something in a post or and what I mean by that
sometimes we might ask you to kind of switch up the way you're
saying something because we have to keep in consideration the
whole community. So what I mentioned this afternoon is if
y'all ever do a post with any kind of outside content, so
books you've read by other people's sermons by other
people, all that kind of stuff, we're going to remove that from
the group or not approve it. So I just want you guys to know on
the front end. We just don't approve that stuff into our
community because our a our team doesn't have time to watch all
those sermons read all those books, even if we've read them
before. We have to make sure everything that's in this
community and this group aligns with what we're teaching. And
what we believe God has called us to care for and steward
really well. And so some of those things may look and sound
similar to what we say, especially the ones that we find
are the marriage memes or, you know, the spirit mate or looking
for a husband or what does it mean to be a good wife and, and
some of those things are really great. But y'all some of the
things that still sound really good to you actually have a lot
of religions to lend them. And so that's, again, just we just
are really guarding the community and what is posted in
here. And so want you guys to know that on the front end. So
if you can just refrain from doing that during heartwork, and
here's why as well, when y'all come into this intensive
heartwork time, it's already a lot of content and material. And
so when you start adding other content material from other
places, it's just going to make it harder for you to just focus
on the heartwork and what God has you here to do during this
time. So I want to encourage you focus on the heartwork book,
focus on the videos, focus on the live sessions that we're
doing, because it's all going to bring this culmination and this
convergence together and help God accelerate your supernatural
healing process while you're here. And then post in the group
just we don't we also don't approve any outside social media
posts, even ones that might look funny. We just we just don't
approve any of that in here. So just want to let you guys know
that now we're going to pray and we're going to get rocking and
rolling tonight. I'm so excited for what God is going to do. We
had a great session this afternoon, and I believe he's
going to show up and do even more of what he did this
afternoon. Father, thank you so much for your incredible grace.
God, we thank you that you are
are a good father. I thank you that you would just continue to
help us to Yes, Lord, that you would remove any filters, any
broken mindsets, broken hearts that lead us to believe lies of
the enemy. This evening, you were just reminded me Lord of
the word, your word that says that the enemy, the devil, he
prowls around like a lion, seeking those in whom he can
devour. So Lord, I thank you that even though he appears to
be like a lion, he's not a lion, because there's one lion, there's
a lion of the tribe of Judah, who's all powerful. And that's
you God. And so Lord, we just thank you that you would reveal
things for healing tonight that you would bring revelation and
insight where it's needed. That you would just silence the voice
of the enemy that's been just sometimes comes in so sneaky and
so silent that we don't even subtly we don't recognize even
the ways we still believe his voice more than yours. Where we
just ask you to also remove layers of religion layers of
guilt, shame, condemnation that's been put on us by other
people by ourselves and by the wounds and the trauma that we've
experienced and the lies we believed as a result. Yes, Lord,
just a reminder to or we thank you for upgrades. We thank you
for revelation and healing and redemption and restitution. We
thank you for this rebuilding phase that we're in this time of
preparation and anointing just like Esther who you called and
set her apart for such a time as this and I believe and declare
that over every one of these ladies tonight help them to
hear help them to believe help them to yes receive the truth
that they are a princess in preparation that you're
preparing them to receive the fullness of your your promises
for them which includes the love story you have for them in
Jesus name. Amen and amen. Yes, Lord. Yes, Lord. Alright, so we
are going to talk a little bit tonight about it touches on this
in your week two. So some of you that are further along you might
have heard some of this but we're going to we're going to do
some similar stuff. We're going to do some different stuff. But
it's talking about the broken heart. And what is the broken
heart? The broken heart is a liar. It's a puzzle. It's a
pretender. So why do we need to understand these things because
when our hearts are broken, it's full of lies. And so a lot of
times we're receiving information. I'm always through
those filters. You know, the puzzle, we're trying to figure
it out. We don't know and we don't understand and, and all
these things that are confusing. And so I want to explain just
real quick when we are redeemed, redeemed at conversion, our
spirit is redeemed. As soon as we accept Jesus Christ as our
Lord and Savior into our hearts into our lives, our spirit right
then is converted. It's redeemed. And God is doing a
work in us. But the other thing is the gap that we experience.
So our soul, our souls on the other side of that, and there's
a gap in between. Our soul is made up with our mind, our will,
our emotions. And as the Bible declares, it's deceitfully
wicked. Are we wicked? Maybe not. But I think every day we're
shedding our flesh a little bit more for if we're following a
pursuit after the Father, after Jesus Christ, and after the Holy
Spirit, every day, we can humble ourselves and say, Lord, is
there anything in me that doesn't look like you? If there
is, help me to see it helped me to come out of that. And you
all a lot of that is the lies that we believe about ourselves
about other people about God himself. And so that gap is the
sanctification process. We all ever heard the word
sanctification. That's the process in between that
redemptive, redeemed spirit at conversion, and the soul that's
deceitfully wicked that we need to be set free from and the
healing that that is needed. So that redeeming that scripture
that talks about that we would be transformed by the renewing
of our minds that all things would pass away and behold,
everything would become new. Well, that has to do with that
that process in between. So every day, you know, again, if
we're if we're saying, Lord, I just yesterday or even this
morning, so I want to encourage you all just to be in the
moment, you know, just in each moment, like, Lord, this
morning, the enemy was attacking me as soon as I woke up. And,
and man, I caught myself way down the road with him believe
in the lie that I'm never going
to amount to anything, or that I'm never pretty enough, or I'm never going to be free enough,
or I'm just too much of a mess even for God to fix. Y'all, I'm just, I'm just putting out there
what Holy Spirit's putting on my spirit. That didn't really happen to me this morning, but
sometimes y'all, that's how it works. We put our feet on the floor before they even get there,
the enemy's talking and he's talking and he's talking, and sometimes he's talking so loud
and so quick that we don't even recognize that it's him, because we're so used to these thoughts
and these lies that we've been believing. So, tonight we're going to unpack some of that a
little bit. We're going to help you come out of that place of believing the lies, and hopefully
that you'll begin to discern the difference between God's voice, the enemy's voice, and even
your own voice that's at play at times as well. Proverbs 4, 23, and the ESV version says this,
keep your heart with all diligence, for from it, from it, excuse me, flows the springs of life.
Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flows the springs of life. Y'all,
vigilance means we're always watching. We're always in, we don't have to be afraid,
there's a difference. Beware and pay attention. But here's the thing, keep your heart,
keep your heart, what does that mean? To keep your heart means this, to guard it,
to watch over it. Yes, Lord. Just like if you are a mama and your baby's sleeping,
and sometimes for those that have been moms, or even maybe you have moms in your life that you
know they've done this, or they just sit and they watch over their baby while it's sleeping.
To protect sometimes, to pray over them. That's how God wants us to keep our heart, that we would,
that we would watch over it and protect it, that we would observe the things that are going into
it, that we would preserve it as well. And y'all, here's the thing, it also says to guard it from
dangers. Again, we don't need to live a life of fear, because fear has to do with torment,
and perfect love is what, that's what casts it all out. That's what casts fear out of our lives.
Perfect love is the love of the Father himself. But to guard it means like, we're not letting
everything and its brother, if you will, we're not letting everything that the world sends our way,
everything that even friends and family and TV shows and books and all these things,
even sometimes at church. I hate to say it, my husband and I pastor a church,
but the reality is this, is churches, just like everywhere else, are full of broken people.
We are, we are, we're full of broken people. Now, praise Jesus, some of those broken people
are a little further along in their sanctification and their healing process
than others, but there's no guarantee that just because someone's in church
that they're healed, y'all, that includes us. All right, so I want you to consider like,
what have you been allowing into your heart? Even today, even today, what have you been allowing
into your heart? What have you been meditating on? The heart itself is a womb. So if you think
about a womb, that's the protective place of the baby, right? That's where that baby's growing,
that's where it's getting nurtured, it's getting fed until the time of birth.
So everything that gets planted into our hearts is going to reproduce something.
Proverbs 23.7 says, and this is the amplified version, it says,
for as a person thinks in their heart, so are they.
This is why it's so important for you to even, even literally, you put an outfit on and you start
criticizing yourself, or you look in the mirror and you automatically have these negative thoughts,
right, again, right out of the gate. This is how it goes. And we just, we just go down that trail
and just criticize and put ourselves down. We, all that stuff's coming from somewhere.
As a person thinks in his heart, so is he. So if we're saying negative things over ourselves,
and we're allowing these tapes to play over and over and over,
typically that's rooted in pain and wounds somewhere.
Some of you are saying things over yourself and you're aligning with lies because someone else
said those things over you, or sometimes life is just really hard. And then it's really hard again.
And then it's really hard again. And some of y'all are facing things.
in your life and the enemy is trying to destroy you.
Some of y'all think it's just like, well, God's just,
I guess he's just gonna allow me to suffer forever.
Well, you have an enemy who does not want you to thrive.
So guess what?
When you start moving forward, y'all,
sometimes it's just the enemy trying to oppress you
and keep you from healing and moving anywhere
out of the place that you've been.
Because guess what?
He knows that if you get set free,
guess what's gonna happen?
Other people are gonna get set free.
Just like I come on here now and I tell you things
that God has set me free from,
y'all think I didn't have to go through some stuff
and fight the devil and war in the spirit.
We don't war against flesh and blood.
We war against principalities and powers
and the rulers of darkness of the air.
But again, we don't have to fear that
because guess what?
Jesus already came and he already won the victory for you.
And so what Jackie talked about on Saturday
is aligning with that,
aligning with that and continuing to allow God
to take you where he wants to take you
and to help you get there.
So the flies, lies and counterfeit lives
that we've been living into,
this is all coming out of that broken heart
that's deceived by the lies and the puzzles
and the confusion.
And so what happens is when we don't even recognize
the lies, y'all, it's just,
we call them squatters in this community.
We allow them to stay there.
So if the Bible talks a lot about,
sorry, y'all have this hair stuck.
The Bible talks a lot about how the heart is like a home.
So whatever we allow to stay in there, it's like a squatter.
So if it's good, it's gonna produce life.
It's gonna produce health.
It's gonna cause you to flourish.
But if it's lies and junk and shame and guilt
and all this stuff,
it's going to lead to your heart being real cluttered
and it's gonna make it hard to see yourself
and other people in life clearly.
So it's time to evict some things tonight.
That's what we're gonna do.
We're gonna serve eviction notices.
And what I mean by that, if you don't know,
eviction means you're kicking it out
and you're not letting that sucker come back.
They don't, you know, the Bible says
when the enemy gets cast out, guess what, y'all?
He goes and he tries to find some buddies
and he comes back.
He comes back and he tries to see
if he can get back into that house.
But if we get it all cleaned out and we get it all healed,
guess what?
The healing is what helps you be strong against it
to resist the lies.
Because when healing happens,
that's what transforms our mind
because our heart and our minds are connected.
So you're gonna stop partnering with these lies tonight.
That's part of the eviction.
You're gonna stop coming into agreement with these things
and just allowing it to rule your day, if you will,
and rule your life and rule your heart.
So I'm gonna give you a couple things
that God spoke to me this morning,
some lies that I wrote down,
and there might be some new ones that come up
as I'm sharing, but these are some things.
These are some ways that your broken, unhealthy heart
might be currently lying to you.
It might be telling you things that you don't want.
So again, I would talk a little bit about this last week,
but it could be food,
overeating when you're sad or you're overwhelmed
or you're afraid or you're lonely
and you're eating to fill that void.
It could be, you know, sex or lusting after things.
It could be material things.
It could be, you know, one of the things, interestingly,
I've had to really watch binge watching TV,
like when I'm lonely or overwhelmed or sad.
It's not even bad TV, but just numbing out,
just numbing out and kind of going into a different place.
And so it's not bad to take a break, y'all.
Okay, so there's balance in everything, right?
Okay, so we're not getting into religion,
but I just, there's balance.
So when we feel like something's out of balance,
that's how we can start to know.
Okay, so maybe you're thinking life will never change.
Like I said earlier, some of y'all think
because life's been hard for a while
and some of y'all it's been a long while,
that your life is never gonna be any different.
And as much as you want to believe that it can be,
because people are telling you it can be,
your tapes in your mind are still telling you it can't.
So why even try?
Some of y'all are sitting thinking I'm never enough
or I'm too much.
Your heart's telling you that you need things
that you don't need.
Sometimes that's why.
to comfort or soothe, it's, you know, I mean, dare I say drugs, dare I say pornography,
whatever, y'all, this is, I mean, real talk, women struggle with pornography just as much
as men do.
And I've learned that more than ever doing coaching in this community.
And there's no shame.
I'm just, I'm just a super real person and I want people to get set free.
So if that's you, you're safe here.
And God doesn't want you to continue to live a life of isolation and guilt and shame because
you're caught up in something that was never meant for you.
Okay.
Sometimes your heart's telling you, if you had this, you would just be happy.
Whatever the, this is, what is the, this is that the bigger house?
Is it the better job?
Is it the, the promotion?
I said this afternoon, is it, you know, a baby is it, is it getting married again?
There's balance.
I believe that God called you here because he's leading you towards marriage, kingdom,
family, and marriage for his kingdom purposes, not just for our own purposes, but for his.
But even those kinds of things, we can get those out of, out of alignment and out of
balance.
Maybe you're saying to yourself, I've got this.
I don't need help from anybody, even though you're here and you know that you need help.
There's something deep inside of you that's saying, I can't trust anybody.
So some of you even show up and we're going to encourage you to share in here.
We're going to show, encourage you to come out of hiding and post in the groups and,
and talk to each other in these breakouts.
And some of you will go after that and you'll do it.
And others will just kind of sit on the edges because there's something in you that just
tells you that if they really know you, they won't accept you or they won't love you.
If they know about this sin that you struggle with, they won't accept you because that's
what the world tells you.
But I, from as much as I've seen, as many groups, if I, as I've overseen and, and loved
on y'all, this God's doing something miraculous here.
And you're in, to the best of my ability, if, if I see anything that I feel is not safe
for someone, I'm going to, I'm going to take that down and I'm going to lovingly let the
person know why, but you're safe here.
Maybe your voice or your lie is that your voice doesn't matter, that what you think
doesn't count, that you're just better left, like you can be in the room, but I don't want
to hear you.
I don't want to hear your thoughts because some of you heard that kind of stuff growing
up or from your former was bins.
Maybe your lie is I'm happy being single, or maybe it's, it's just easier to be single.
Maybe it's, I don't really know if I want to change my life to be married because y'all,
some people, you know, they get through phase one and phase two, and then they meet someone
and they get into a level three serious relationship.
We call it level three exclusive here in this community.
And then they freak out.
And some people have gotten all the way to the altar.
And then they didn't want to allow the person to move into their home.
What?
That's some stuff that needed to be dealt with in heartwork.
So now's the time.
Now's the time to be fully honest with where you're at and, and let God help you make room,
make room for what he wants to give you.
Here's two more for you.
And then I'm going to get you into breakouts.
God never comes through for me.
And here's the other one.
God is punishing me.
And that's why I'm not married yet.
I did something wrong.
Therefore I'm being punished.
Oh, this is, that is a lie from the pit of hell.
Yeah.
I feel the Holy spirit on that.
So someone needs to receive that.
You are not being punished.
The enemy has been trying to hinder and keep the blessing from you.
No, there's a difference.
Y'all know it talks in the Bible about the Prince of Persia and how the answer got held up because of the Prince of Persia.
This is for someone in the Bible, y'all were just like them.
Do we think that the enemy isn't trying to keep the answer and the blessing from coming?
He'll do anything you can to keep it from you.
And if he can get you to defeat your own self, well, then he'll do that.
But praise God again.
Jesus already won. He already won the victory for you.
He already won the victory for you.
And I don't want to make it sound super simple and easy,
but y'all just from my experience,
when I started not only getting all the limiting beliefs and orphan
mentalities and, and unhealed areas all like out and taken care of,
then it was like shifting into the thanking God before it even came.
Someone said earlier today, I almost forgot about this.
And then I am getting ready to get you into breakouts here.
Uh, on prayer this morning actually is where it was.
I was just trying to remember, God, I beg you to do this.
And I'm not, I'm not, I'm so thankful that people open up and pray, but I want,
I want you guys to hear something.
And I know this because God said it to me.
We don't have to beg.
Some of y'all need to breathe that y'all.
Sometimes I just got to breathe in the spirit when he's doing stuff.
You don't have to beg and please God, please God, please God.
Y'all I know that's how it feels sometimes. Cause I did it,
but he's just like daughter. No,
start thanking me for what I'm already doing.
Start thanking me. God, thank you so much.
For healing my heart, for transforming my mind,
for helping me become a new creature creation in Christ Jesus.
And thank you father for making room in my heart for my spirit mate.
Thank you father for helping my spirit mate find me.
And for helping me find my spirit mate, y'all there's different,
there's a difference.
And I know that that comes when we have faith to pray those things.
So I'm not naive to that,
but I also believe God can give you the faith in this healing process.
He can fill your hope tanks so much that it's not fake. It's overflowing
because he did it in me. So I know he can do it in you. All right, here we go.
Here's your question. What lies are you evicting today?
What lies are you going? Like, I want you guys to be thinking about this.
You can start to just put it in the chat as you're getting ready to go in the
breakouts. What's a lie that you were believing today or even yesterday,
something that, that you just realizing you're realizing tonight,
as I've been talking that you have been thinking about this lie and you've been
meditating on it and actually believing it and agreeing with it.
So if there's any of you that have those things,
go ahead and put those in the chat. I'm going to start to get this breakout ready.
If you've never done a breakout session, I'm going to encourage you.
You're going to get in a breakout with probably someone you don't know,
but everybody's done it before. So I want you to know it's, it's, it's good.
Some of you get scared and log out when we go into breakouts.
I really want to encourage you not to do that.
This is part of coming out of hiding, practicing, talking to these women,
these sisters in this community,
we'll get you ready for down the road talking to the men one day.
Okay. So let's lean into this and see what God wants to do.
I'm going to put you in there for eight minutes,
short, brief and powerful. Give that means give everybody a turn to talk.
If you guys have extra time at the end,
then you can get to know each other a little bit. Where are you from?
What's something you like to do? Um, you guys kind of go from there,
but do the one about the live first.
And then only if you have extra time, do the other. Okay.
All right, here we, Oh,
I got it. Sorry. One other thing.
All right, there you go.
All right.
Then click to join, click to join.
Olga and Katie, are you all able to, to click to join?
Okay.
Oh, that's okay. Um, I might just move.
Shoot. I don't know if I can send the same room to Katie.
All right. I'm just going to put you in another room and I'll put Jennifer in a
different room too.
You should have it there to click. Okay. There you go. All right.
Sorry, ladies, I'm just trying to make sure everyone's situated and then we will pray.
I'm going to read through some of these things that are in the chat, I'm just going to kind
of minister a little bit and then I'll pray some more, but I'm going to pray just as they
begin these conversations, Father, thank you so much for everything you're revealing for
healing tonight, Lord, we thank you that you would just help open our eyes to the lies
that we've been believing, the things that we've been partnering with that don't align
with heaven, that actually cause us to be separated from you, Father.
I thank you that you would just help each woman feel comforted and to hear your heart
and your love for them, that they would, yes, Lord, that you give them a fresh revelation
of how you see them.
We thank you, Lord, that you are working all things together for good, for those who love
you and who live according to your purpose.
And I thank you that you, yes, Lord, yes, Lord, that you come in and redeem, Lord, we
ask you to soften any hardness in our hearts and that you would, you would remove any hardened
hearts, any stony hearts and put within us hearts of flesh that they're soft and pliable
to you.
And we just thank you in advance for that, Father.
Hi there.
Oh, Bridgette, did you get kicked out?
Yes, I'm sorry.
Oh, it's okay.
What room were you in?
Do you know?
I was with the summer and I think, okay, let me find them.
Okay.
You were in 12.
Right.
Cool.
That's okay.
Sometimes connections can make that happen.
There you go.
You're welcome.
All right.
So I'm going to read some of these.
Jennifer says a lie that came up today was fear or worry that I'm still single and have
remained single this late in life because of celibacy or putting spiritually, spirituality,
excuse me, before just considering who is in front of me.
Yeah, that can happen.
Jennifer.
Chrissy, are you just joining us?
I'm so sorry.
I don't know if you were already in a breakout room or not.
And while we are waiting for that answer, I got to change this.
It's bugging me that y'all can see all those boxes.
All right.
Here we go.
Okay.
I'll come back.
Chrissy, just let me know.
Maybe you're messaging me.
Okay.
I'm going to put you in a breakout.
We are talking about lies that we have believed.
There you go.
That is there for you to join.
Okay.
So here's some of the other things people said.
I'm not designed for marriage and family that I can't hear God.
I am being punished because I am a bad wife is another one.
Y'all, these are lies.
I'm reading through lies that people put in the chat before they went into the breakout.
So just, I can't tell who that is that just joined us, but just so you know, that's what
we're doing right now.
No good man is going to want me with three kids, tons of debt.
We're going to address that when they come back and a bad history of making bad choices.
That my voice does not matter and that I'm not worthy.
I'm too tired, worn out from working and single mama.
Yeah.
I'm not much fun for anyone.
That's a lie.
It is a lie.
Then someone said, I'm too fat and messy for someone to love me.
That's a lie.
I'm being punished.
We talked about that.
It happens for everyone else and not for me.
I'm never going to meet someone that I'm attracted to and someone that would want to marry me
and is also attracted to me.
The lie is I will never remarry.
These are all lies.
We're coming out of alignment and agreement with tonight.
Praise the Lord.
Here's another one that I will not reach my goals based on my situation.
I'm not good enough.
I'm not capable.
God does not care about me.
I'm holding something against God.
And this is why I'm still in the same situation that I can't trust anyone that I'll never
be ready for what God has for me.
The lies that I believe regarding the symptoms of heart attack from grandma to my dad will
be passed down to me and my sister and mom, but Bethany prayed.
I did today.
I prayed about all of that and shared in her prayers during prayer time that that is not
true.
I am a kinsman redeemer.
So good.
All right.
So I want to go back because I want to address that one in particular.
Where was that?
Katie.
All right.
Father, thank you right now for just continuing to bring.
and revelation and truth.
We thank you for illumination from the Holy Spirit
that you would just go into the breakout rooms,
that you would come into this main room session,
even now and even for those that are watching the replay,
that you would just stir in our hearts.
Thank you, Holy Spirit,
that you would just come and hover over us.
And hovering over us is in a loving way, you all.
It's a hovering to stir and minister and protect
and lead us into truth and lead us into life.
And I thank you, Lord, that you are calling us higher.
I thank you that you're calling us deeper
into more understanding and revelation and insight
that we do not have to stay the way that you found us.
So Lord, I thank you that we are getting transformed
by the renewing of our minds.
As I said earlier, I thank you that,
yes, Lord, I'm gonna read this scripture,
Colossians 3, 13 through 14 from the message version.
It says, so chosen by God for this new life of love,
dress in the wardrobe God picked out for you.
I love that.
Compassion, kindness, humility, quiet strength, discipline,
be even tempered, content with second place.
Quick to forgive an offense,
forgive as quickly and completely as the master forgave you
and regardless of what else you put on, wear love.
It's your basic all-purpose garment.
Never be without it.
Lord, I thank you.
Yes, Lord, I thank you that you would help us
to put on love, that you would help us to put on
the wardrobe that you've picked out for us
that is all the fruits of the Holy Spirit.
We thank you that you'll help us to be women
that walk in compassion and humility,
gentleness, kindness, faithfulness, goodness,
self-control and patience.
Lord, I thank you, God,
that we would have patience with ourselves
as well as patience with other people.
We know that your word declares
that you want us to love our neighbor as we love ourselves.
So I thank you, Lord,
that you would help us to love ourselves
a little bit better tonight.
I thank you that you would help us to, yes, Lord,
see the ways that we are harsh in our speech,
in our thoughts.
And I thank you that you would just open our eyes,
open our eyes to see the truth.
I thank you that you would remove filters,
negative mindsets, limiting belief systems
that are on people's minds
because of things that they grew up under.
If we live in a poverty mentality, Lord,
I pray that you would reveal those areas as well,
where we're looking at life through the lens of lack
and things that we can't have
and things that we can't do
instead of, God, what you are doing.
God, what we already have,
the blessings that are around us.
I thank you, Lord,
that you'll help us to connect in creation in a fresh way.
God, I thank you that you're abundant, colorful,
you're lively, and man, you're just full of goodness.
The Lord help us to see those truths
and receive them in Jesus' name, amen.
Welcome back.
Welcome back, y'all.
We have 56 on tonight.
That's awesome.
We're 55 now.
There was 56.
I think some people are having internet.
I saw somebody keeps kind of coming on and off.
Who wants to share with the whole group
what you shared in your private breakout group?
Or instead of who wants to, who's willing?
I always like to say that.
Susan, we'd love for you to go.
Go ahead and share.
Oh, just unmute yourself there.
I guess I hadn't thought about
when you were listing the lies was,
it's easier to be single.
And I don't know if I want to get married.
Those are two phrases that come over my lips
quite frequently.
It sounds so complicated.
It sounds, oh, I've got my kids close by.
I don't want to marry somebody who's going to take me away.
I think about his kids, my kids, our kids,
your Christmases, my Christmases.
It just all sounds so complicated.
So it's almost feels like I have to swap out
being lonely sometimes with the things
that I love about where I am.
That's a scary thought for me.
Yeah, so thank you for sharing and being transparent.
Here's the thing, it might be glorious as well.
Sincerely, it actually might be glorious.
Am I saying it's always easy?
No, marriage is a work in progress.
But I will tell you this time around,
man, my marriage is like radically different
than anything I've ever experienced
in my life in the past, like genuinely.
Like I was even thinking today about just
the way we both are different with each other,
like different.
You know, he experiencing something different with me and me experiencing
something different with him has been so redemptive and so healing.
But, um, I was just telling him the other day, like my ex-husband used to
be so mean to me when I would get sick.
And I couldn't help it, you know, and I've never felt anything but
support and care and concern from Brian.
Like he's never harsh towards me because I have a need.
And so some of you, that's, that's part of your coming out of agreement with
lies, you know, what, what the way you were treated in the past is how it's
always going to be every guy's like this, all men cheat, all men lie, all men are
mean, or whatever the lie is that you believed.
And I say that on the back end of what you were saying, Susan, because here's
the thing, the, the things that you were listing are what ifs.
Okay.
Because you actually might meet someone local.
You might meet someone far away, but you could meet someone local.
So the enemy is trying to get you into anxious thoughts.
And if he gets you into the what ifs, what if this, what if that, what if
that, then he can get you to not move.
Like, and what I mean by that is not move forward because in your mind,
you're already telling yourself, well, it's just going to be easier
for me to just not get married.
And so then what we start there, and then we start convincing
ourselves that we're happier alone.
See how this works.
It's like a snowball.
Exactly what I feel.
It feels it's for the first time I can be me.
You know, it's like when I was with my husband, who was, he was a good man, a
really good man, and I lived with him for 40 years as we had a, had beautiful
children, wonderful grandchildren, but there was something, I guess, in the
really religiosity that was there was that I couldn't be me.
I couldn't.
Um, and I finally feel like I can be me and I don't want to, I
don't want to lose that.
I don't want to lose that.
Yeah.
So I encourage you or anyone else that can relate to this, to start thanking God
for bringing you a spirit mate that you can be yourself with.
And what I mean by that ladies, isn't that we never change anything, but you
don't want to change the core character aspects about yourself, unless your
character doesn't align with kingdom.
Okay.
So let's just keep that in balance there too.
But what I mean by that is that sometimes, again, we, we decide that
we will not change this.
This is just how I am.
And that's not a good thing.
And that's not a good place to be.
But if there are things about the way you have learned to live your life with
Jesus or the peace that you live in now, if those are things that you're talking
about, well, absolutely.
We want you to find a spirit mate.
That's going to allow you to remain in those things.
And that looks different for everyone.
Y'all I said, I would never move.
I told Jackie that over and over.
Well, specifically what I said, I'm not moving more than an hour away because I
didn't want to move away from my spiritual daughters.
I didn't.
Do I love it that I'm not right close to them?
No, I don't.
But here's the thing.
God started talking to me about the things that I was putting on the
restrictions and all this stuff.
And I just had to surrender.
And I'm not saying that's all of your all story, but God might lead you to
something that you're saying in your spirit right now, I'm never going to do
this.
He might just lead you.
And you know what?
It's actually, it hasn't been easy to move.
No, but man, we're having fun.
And now God moved us somewhere completely different that we never saw coming.
And since we've been here, I can't tell you how many times we've both said to
each other, like we get to live here.
Like, I can't believe it again.
Is it easy?
No, my girls are, they feel far away, but you know what?
It's a plane ride y'all.
I'm going to go on some plane rides and so are they.
Okay.
I won't keep going on that, but I just want you guys to shift out of these like
places.
If I can't go there, I can't do this.
What if, what if, what if, what if, what if let's just what right now.
And some of y'all, we just got to reign all that in during heartwork anyways,
because right now you just gotta, all you gotta do is receive the healing and
work on the heart stuff.
And later God will take care of all that other stuff.
Susan, thanks for sharing.
That was really good.
Um, okay, Shari. Did I say it right again? Okay, awesome. I know you were going to share
earlier today and you didn't get a chance. I really want you to go.
Um, thank you. Um, I, I struggle with whether I hear from God,
whether I hear his voice and whether it was several years ago and I thought I heard God's
tell me who my spouse was. And it was confirmed by my pastor's wife at the time
and everything like that. And then it didn't happen. And it really just set me up for a
spiral of disappointment and confusion. Like, did I hear God? Did I not hear God? There's moments
and times that I forget about it. And then I'll come back in my mind. Like you don't hear from
God that didn't even happen what you thought. And I've just felt kind of foolish for like,
you know, thinking, you know, or, you know, so. So here's the thing on this. Um, and just,
y'all know for the new ladies, if you've not been with me, I take notes when people are talking. So
if I'm not looking at the screen, it's not cause I'm not listening. Um, it helps me process what
y'all are saying. Um, it takes two people, right? So it doesn't mean that you didn't hear that God
had that promise or that plan for you, but it takes two people. So that's the first thing I'm
going to say. The second thing I'm going to say is that the counterfeit identities plays a role here.
Okay. So when we have brokenness in our hearts, especially deep extreme brokenness that we don't
even realize is there, it causes us to think, like I said earlier, think that we want things
that we don't want. And even think that God's telling us that that's what he has for us.
I shared a little bit last week about the guy that I dated for six years. Um, you all, when,
when I first met him, I 100% believed that God brought us together to the point. I had some
crazy stuff. I do vision boards, uh, pretty much every year. And I had these pictures on
my vision board and there was camera camera and butterfly and they were connected. Well,
he was a photographer and I was starting a business that had a logo of a butterfly
and, uh, and they were touching and they were so automatically, I felt like I was like using
that to show me like we were, we were meant for each other. I laugh a little bit. Y'all,
we were not meant for each other, but here's the thing. What that could have meant was just that I
would meet him. It didn't have to automatically mean we were destined for each other, but that's
how I interpreted it. Cause that's what I wanted. I wanted to be married so bad and I wanted a
family and a baby so bad that I allowed myself to get ahead of myself. Does that make sense?
Yeah. And so kind of the key here is that after I started healing son, I started recognizing
times where the Lord was giving me warning signs about that guy.
And he was actually showing me that that wasn't his plan for me, but I got so caught up in the
fantasy of it. Um, that it was really hard for me to get out of that in my mind. And so what I mean
by that is I inflated who he was. I inflated our life and what it was going to look like and all
these things. And I just, I just let my mind go crazy. If you will, I'm a dreamer, you all,
and I am super sensitive to the things in the spirit. And sometimes I can just go on this whole
trip and in my mind. Um, and, and so I have to really guard and watch that. That's why I,
where we started tonight, let's guard our hearts, our minds through Christ Jesus.
And so the tricky part that I want to bring up too, is your pastor confirming it.
Y'all are going to have that sometimes where people, um, and I talked about,
it's not the same thing, but I'm going to bring it up now. I did talk about this on
the session earlier today. I feel like it's super important. And I'm not saying your pastor
didn't hear from God or that you didn't hear from God, but sometimes in churches, this is not what
I brought up earlier, but it's coming up in my spirit. Sometimes in churches, people just,
instead of actually knowing what to do with singles, they just want singles to get married.
It's the truth. When I got married the first time,
My husband and I, my former husband and I, we should have been encouraged to get a lot more
healing before we were encouraged to get married. But you know what everybody kept talking to us
about y'all are y'all both anointed and man, you're gonna, you're gonna, you know, accomplish
all this stuff in the kingdom together. And you all, you know, they just were kind of rushing
us along and rushing us along. Do I think that they meant to do that? No. But I think even in
their own brokenness and the way that they were not sure what to do with us, they kind of rushed
and pushed and, and y'all, they pushed so much that I just believed it was meant to be. And that
was not meant to be either. So sometimes we have to be really careful. And this is where I was
going to go. I had this lady that posted in our phase three group. We have phase one, two, three,
phase three is our community group. There are people that have been in the community quite some
time and she had a friend pray over her. And this woman has had to move several times, not just
because she chose to move, but her former spouse cheated on her a couple of times and they had to
move different times because of it. The word this person gave her was because you're a vagabond and
you don't stop moving. God cannot find you.
What? And y'all she posted saying, you know, I resonate with that. And so I'm wondering
what scriptures I can meditate on to stop doing this so that God can find me.
This is the kind of stuff y'all I'm bringing this up again tonight, because I felt like even today
when I said it, this is critical stuff. We do not realize that friend may have intended. Well,
they might've, I'm sure they did, but the things that were said, that does not even align with
scripture. So this is what I'm going to say to you all, whether it's prayers that you're praying
or things that you're hearing from God on your own, or things that other people are praying
and saying over you, including prophetic words, we should always filter those according to the
word. Do they align with the word of God? Or is it leading you away from the word? Is it leading
you away from things? God's already been telling you he wants to do in your life.
So for example, I'm going to be a hundred percent transparent. What the Lord was telling me when I
was dating that guy, as he was saying, cause early on, I was like, now, you know, I'll never stay
over. I'll never, but then he just kept pushing and he kept pushing. We didn't even have sex,
you all, but I was staying the night there, but then he just kept pushing. He kept pushing.
And I was like, I'm going to be a hundred percent transparent. I'm going to be a hundred percent
transparent. But then he just kept pushing. He kept pushing all this stuff. And the Lord was
telling me, he's like about the woman at the well. And he said, that's not who I've called you to be.
And I just, I didn't mean to, I didn't want to ignore that, but I just didn't want to listen
because I wanted to get married. And I thought that I could make that happen quicker. If I just,
because this guy, he told me real quick, real quick in the beginning, we were going to get
married early on, like in first two weeks, which that should have been like warning signs, alert,
go run. But y'all, I didn't know. I didn't know any better than I really didn't. Um, so, okay,
I'm going to slow this and we're going to redirect it, but I just want you to be encouraged.
I hear from the Lord so much better than I did back then,
but it's taken time and it's taken me having to learn how to trust myself again, because I really
messed up that time I did, but some of it again was realizing the times I actually was hearing.
And I wasn't following that, but I was hearing. And so you'll start to discern some of those
things as well. The prayer that I said earlier, this is, I've been praying this for years and
I want to give it to all of you tonight. Lord, is this your voice? Is this my voice? Or is this
the voice of the enemy? And if you'll pray that God will help you discern between the different,
the different voices. And one of the ways you can get to know God's voice better is reading the word
of God and spending time with him. That's the number one way. Okay. So I want to encourage you,
God has some good for you and it's going to be so much better. And you're going to learn how to
navigate in here and you're going to be in community and we're going to be able to coach
you and help you along that as well. So you won't be doing it alone anymore. As long as
you stay in community, which is really, really powerful.
OK.
All right, awesome.
All right, I'm going to, some people
I haven't heard from in the last few weeks.
Jessie, go ahead and go.
Yeah, thanks.
I think the lies I really am struggling with,
and I just want to say it more and more to help me work
through it, is that my voice doesn't matter,
that my thoughts don't matter, and being ignored,
just to really have all every day I think about,
or I'm in situations where I feel like my voice is not heard
or is not valued, or it doesn't matter.
And I think that leads also into not feeling
like I'm worthy for any type of future marriage
for whatever reason, because I'm too fat, or too quiet,
or too inexperienced, or all the other things that
would go along with that.
But the voice one has been resonating a lot with me
and keeps coming up.
Interesting, the one that's standing out
to me the most as you're talking is the being ignored.
And I know they partner together, I'm sure of it,
but I want to encourage you.
This is how we do this a little bit, ladies.
So I want to encourage you all, when you have these lies,
the Revealing for Healing Worksheet,
I was trying to figure it out this afternoon.
I think it's in week three, either two or three.
It's the worksheet in that week.
Revealing for Healing Worksheet, it has the circles on it.
If you will start at the top with the lie
and then start asking God, OK, well, what trauma,
what wounds do I have that are connected to this lie?
What trauma happened that are connected to those wounds?
And you'll start to unpack the things that
are all connected to these lies.
But then you go all the way through the cycle.
There's a couple other things there to the truth
that replaces the lie.
And so many of us, we go to the point of discovering the lie
and we forget to keep going all the way
to the replacing it with truth.
So I want to encourage you all, if you've ever been ignored,
yeah, I think I know, Jennifer, you
wanted me to repeat the Revealing for Healing cycle?
Yes, because I got the wound connected to the lie,
the trauma connected to the wound.
And what was the last one?
Yeah, there's actually two more circles.
It'll be on your sheet.
But I think there's five total circles on that sheet.
But the last one is the lie being replaced with truth.
So we've got to go all the way through that whole cycle.
But for those of you that have ever
struggled with being ignored or feeling really just left out
and just not noticed, if you will,
I really want to encourage you to, as always,
you guys are going to hear me say,
it's going to be like a broken record.
What is the first time you experienced that?
When is the first time you believed that lie?
When is the first time you experienced trauma that caused
you to feel or believe that?
I can't tell you how many times people
have felt ignored when, and I said this earlier today too,
when siblings were sick and the parents
had to pay a lot more attention to the sibling.
And it wasn't that the parents didn't
care about their other children.
They just could only handle so much.
So sometimes that's a play there.
And sometimes it's that you literally,
your parents were working.
My mom was a single mom of four kids.
And she worked a lot.
And I think she was probably, now that I'm older,
I think she was trying to have some semblance of a life
outside of us in her job.
But I remember feeling really neglected.
I was a baby of four.
And my oldest brother was nine years older than me.
So there's a big difference there.
But anyways, I say all that to say,
when I had to start unpacking that,
it went back even further than that stuff.
And so God just started showing me,
my dad left right after I was born.
Just gone.
My dad really wasn't in my life.
So some of mine went all the way back
to those roots of abandonment that
were connecting with feeling ignored or misheard.
I got put down a lot because I was too sensitive.
I wasn't allowed to cry around my family.
All these kind of things that when that kind of stuff
happens and we hear it through all the lies,
then we live into that now.
So we start to cry or have emotion
and then we're apologizing to people for it.
Why are we apologizing for our emotions?
Something to think about for everyone
You know, the Bible doesn't say we can't feel angry
But it says to beware of you know
Letting the Sun go down on our anger letting it be unresolved or acting out in unhealthy ways when we're angry
God doesn't shame us because we feel anger
Anger's hurts bodyguards. So if you're feeling angry even during heart work
It's because underneath of there. You've got some hurt that needs dealt with
You need to look at that with the Lord
So you guys are gonna start to see some of that stuff. Okay. Thank you Jesse for sharing
I'm going to for I know I have several there Holly wait, you don't have to put your hands down
Don't leave me yet Natasha
Brittany we have several I'm gonna come back. So just we're gonna do another breakout because I want to get that in
Well, we'll come back and you guys can share when we come back so just keep be ready
I want to talk a little bit about the rest of the content for tonight because I think it's super important to continue to
Unpack this for you all. So we're gonna talk a little bit about
survivor filters and mindsets
I want to read something to you and then I'm gonna share a little bit more in the book
My page is different than you all it's it's right before all the forgiveness stuff
But this is what it says victim mode
We will all be the victim of something or someone in in our lifetime
But staying in victim mode is dangerous. It can lead to many self-destructive behaviors
most addictions self-mutual
Mutilation suicidal tendencies chronic and toxic relationship patterns stem from viewing ourselves as victims
When you think of yourself as a victim you create opportunities with your choices that continue to reinforce that
identity
If you're not careful
You can use the bad things that have happened to you as an excuse to not only do bad things to yourself and others
But to continue to choose things that will bring you more and more suffering. I
Think it's interesting that tonight I felt led to share after Shirai shared about that relationship because here's the thing. I
Still did see myself as a victim of a lot of abuse a lot of
Things that were done to me things that were stolen from me all that all that kind of stuff
And it actually caused me to view myself as a victim and attract
Someone that who was looking for a victim
does that make sense and
Then it was reinforcing that I wasn't valuable enough
To wait for someone that was healthy and good and treated me different
So that's why I kept staying with someone y'all I stayed with him for six years
Those of you that think you've wasted time I
Promise you I had that thought and God lovingly kept saying to me. I'm gonna redeem this time for you
I'm gonna make this up because he knew that I didn't want that genuinely did not want a relationship like that
But once I was in it, I was like I could I it took me a while to figure out how to get out of it
You know, there's a lot of love bombing and a lot of like gaslighting. It was just a mess the whole mess
So here's the thing I could have stayed a victim of that
Praise God that I didn't and I decided to do hard work and I decided to get healed. I
Used to always use this word life is hard life is hard. Why is everything so hard?
That's what I want to ask you how many of you are using the word hard a lot or thinking it
Here's the truth life is only hard because our hearts are hard
I
Used to think when I would hear that like wait a minute. I feel like I have a pretty soft heart
I'm pretty emotional. I cry the drop of the hat. Y'all I can cry watching commercials
For real
Come join me at my house. You can see it, but
The thing is is that there were parts of my heart that because of the abuse I went through
That I had walls up. I didn't fully let people in I didn't as much as I could I did
But my heart was still hard in some areas and God wanted to soften it
Not so that someone could just come in and abuse me all over again
Because I know that some some of y'all are gonna have that fear rise right up
Yes, love is a risk it is love is a risk with everybody but man, it's glorious
us, when we open our hearts, when we're healed, and we were
with safe people, and we let love in, it awakens us. We were
made for love, we were made for community, we were made for
connection, and relationship. The enemy is the one that that
caused even Adam and Eve after they, you know, ate of the fruit
to go hide. And God's like, why are you hiding? Who told you
you were naked? So tonight, he's saying you don't have to
hide anymore. With hardened hearts, the greater truth, you
all can't penetrate those areas. And a lot of times our hardened
hearts, it's around those areas of wounds, okay? So basically,
that wall that I had created, it's because deep inside of
there, I had so much pain that still needed processed. And
that's where some of you are tonight. But you're going to
come out of there. So here's the thing. There's three different
categories I want to talk about real quick. Victim, survivor, I
already read a little bit about victim, but I'm going to explain
a little bit more victim, survivor, and thriving. The
thriver. A victim feels helpless. They often blame other
people for their problems, for their situations, for the way
their life is, sometimes they even blame God. And they focus a
lot on the past. And when I'm saying all these just know,
there is no shame. If that's where you are tonight. There's
no shame. I don't want you to feel shame or condemned. But
what's important is that at one point, I had to be fully honest
with myself so that I could heal. And so I want to encourage
you to be fully honest with yourself. Here's the next
category, a survivor, a survivor continued to live. So they got
past that victim mode. But they tend to be just existing. They
did reclaim some of their power. And they've taken responsibility
for their choices. And they've chosen to heal and some of them
are even doing self care. But again, there are more in that
existing. And then we have those that thrive. People that thrive
are growing, we're developing, we're prospering, we're
flourishing, we're focusing on the future. We have power
regarding our future, we're actually like have momentum,
we're doing things about it. And here's the key long, people that
are thriving, surround themselves with other people who
thrive. Victims, guess what? Surround themselves with other
victims, birds of a feather will flock together. So some of you
all in this season, God's going to be nudging you about some of
the people you're spending time with. And what are they saying
to you? What are you all talking about? Are you talking about
good things? Are you talking about what God is doing in your
life in the way that he's setting you free? Or are you
talking about the bad things that were done to you? And all
of that stuff? Are you still living? Y'all had to really
watch myself even long after I was out of that relationship.
It's like, the enemy would just try to get me to talk about that
guy, like in a totally different way than what I'm using a
testimony tonight. But just like the bad things he did. And as
soon as I would like kind of go down that road to be like all
icky feeling. Have you ever had that? Like you just feel icky?
Yeah, that's the kind of stuff you don't want to be in. So if
you start feeling like that, I want to encourage you to back on
out of that, because you don't want to stay there. Because that
actually attracts that to you. Okay, so the breakout session
is here, it's going to be on this. In order to thrive, you
need to make choices. Here's some choices you're going to
want to make, you're going to want to make decisions based on
what you want to achieve and not the stress that you feel. Okay,
so some of you all want to achieve healing. Some of you all
want to achieve a healthy relationship, romantic, or some
of you all want reconciliation in your family. So make
decisions out of where you want to be not panic mode. You know,
victims tend to panic and we were afraid that we're never
going to have what what God wants to give us or what we've
been told. And so we just want to make it happen for ourselves.
Like I did before. And that got me into all kinds of trouble. So
what do you want to do? If you want to thrive? And how will you
act? Where are you going to focus to get there?
So for some of you, you're going to be nudged to set boundaries with people that are not healthy.
And you know what, they might react and they might not like it,
but that doesn't mean you shouldn't set the boundary.
How do you want to experience the world in this next five weeks?
I think it was in the heart work group today, and they were saying like,
I feel like during this time, maybe I need to just be careful on who I'm spending my time with.
I'm like, based on the situation that they described, I said, yeah, you do. I think you do.
Everyone's not going to understand what you're going through right now.
And I know that's hard. And some of you guys, when we start going through heart work,
we want to tell everybody about it. And I'm going to encourage you not to do that.
And I'm going to encourage you not to do that because not everybody is going to understand or
be able to support you or encourage you. Some of them will actually try to get you to stop doing
heart work. So I want to encourage you. It doesn't mean you can't be friends with them. I just want
to encourage you, this community and this group, and these ladies you see here on the screen
tonight, and even those that aren't here, these are the ones that can understand.
So come here and share things here and process here. And then as God leads you, when you're safe,
you know, and then maybe a different place in your heart work process, you'll, you'll have
open doors to share about what God's doing. Cause some people are going to start saying,
what's different with you? Something's going on. What are you, what's, what's going on with you?
And then you're going to have an open door to share a little bit, but remember,
we don't want to share everything. We don't want to throw up on people.
Okay. So just share with wisdom. Okay. Last thing I want to share, and then you're going to go and
break up. So what is, what is the opportunity you want to create for yourself? So just be
thinking about that. Some of you all, God wants to open a new door of work opportunity for you.
Some of you, he wants you to write a book. Some of you, he wants to help you create art. I mean,
there's so many different things. So what is it that you want to do and create for yourself?
All right. So your question, when you go into breakout is and here's the thing on this one,
I don't want you guys really oversharing. All I want you to do is go in and say,
which one of the three you feel like you currently are.
And you can say why, but keep it short, brief and powerful. Okay. So are, are you feeling like
I think I'm still in victim? Are you feeling like you're survivor? Or do you feel like you're
thriving? And you can briefly share. And when I say this, I don't want you to go into the whole,
like what, like big, long explanations. I guess that's what I'm trying to say.
I want you to share, like, why do you feel like you're in that place? But don't go into long,
explanations about all the trauma that you've been through anything like that.
So just keep it real short and tight, tighten, right. And then I'm going to bring you back.
And then we're going to have more people can share. Okay. And so we can do a little bit more
group coaching time with you all. And I am going to mix the rooms up again, because I like taking
time. Sometimes I'll keep you all together with the same people. But I like you all to get to know
new people sometimes as well. There you go. Go ahead and click to join those.
All right. Father, thank you so much for bringing us out of places of victim mindsets,
limiting belief systems, the pain of the past that keeps us stuck. I thank you that you would
help us to end our side of the street where we need to God that will take responsibility
for mistakes that we've made along the way, but that we wouldn't align with the lies of the enemy
and shame ourselves and be harsh towards ourselves, but Lord, that we would just,
we would use it so that we could step into transformation to propel us forward. I thank
you Lord, that you would Lord, if there's been any places where we've been blaming other people for
the condition of our lives that we're in, or even blaming you, God, I pray that you just help us to
repent for those things and to turn and go in another direction tonight that you would help us
confess any areas of sin that we might be struggling with,
Lord, that you would just cleanse us and make us brand new.
I thank you that you would just come in and yeah,
Lord, I just thank you that you would just come in
and just even with thoughts that we've been thinking
this past week or even today,
that you would begin to touch those thoughts.
We ask you to send ministering angels to us
while we sleep, that they would do supernatural surgery
on our minds, our bodies, our spirits, our souls.
We thank you for Selah rest to come in,
for people that have been battling and warring
while they sleep.
We thank you for healing and redeeming and rebuilding
every broken and fallen place in our lives.
I thank you that in 1 John 3.20 in the Passion Translation,
it says this, whenever our hearts make us feel guilty
and remind us of our failures,
we know that God is much greater and more merciful
than our conscience.
And he knows everything there is to know about us.
Y'all God knows everything about us.
And guess what?
Even when we were in the midst of the worst sin
we've ever committed, he chose us and he loves us.
And he would choose us all over again.
And so I just want you to come out of alignment
and agreement with any shame,
from any mistakes that you might've made in the past
and come into agreement with the love of the Father tonight
that he sees you, he loves you, he chose you,
he predestined you, you are an ambassador for Jesus Christ
and that he has a plan and a purpose for your life,
not to harm you or bring destruction,
but to give you a hope and a future.
And he is not finished with you yet.
And it's not too late for you either.
The enemy wants some of you to believe it's too late for you
and it's not too late for you.
You're just getting started and the best is yet to come.
I thank you that Father in Luke 12 too,
it says everything hidden and covered up
will soon be exposed for the fast aid is falling down
and nothing will be kept secret for long.
So where we thank you again
for bringing any secret sins out to the surface,
we thank you for revealing things that are darkness
and bringing them to the light.
Yeah, Lord, even some things in our hearts and our spirits
and our souls and our bodies that we went through
that we don't even remember that we went through,
that you would bring those up in due season
and at the right time for us to heal
and be redeemed and restored.
I thank you that in Revelation 21 for it says
he will wipe away every tear from their eyes
and eliminate death entirely.
No one will mourn or weep any longer.
The pain of wounds will no longer exist
for the old order has ceased.
Y'all, that is a literal,
that is what heaven is gonna be like.
We will, when we get to heaven,
we will never feel pain ever again.
The wounds that we experienced,
they literally will not even be there anymore.
So sometimes when we're suffering here
in this physical realm, that is something we can cling to.
We are only here in this world
for this little tiny amount of time,
but eternity is this big, big, big, long amount of time.
And we're gonna experience glory and freedom
like never before for so long.
And we'll be so free from all the things
that we've been struggling with.
Even some of you that have been struggling physically
and battling and you're wondering
when you're gonna be set free.
Some of y'all are gonna be set free here on earth
from those things, but some are gonna experience that
when you get to heaven, that complete redemptive body.
Jeremiah 24, seven in the NLT version says,
I will give them hearts that recognize me as the Lord.
They will be my people and I will be their God
for they will return to me wholeheartedly.
Ooh, this is so good.
I'm gonna read this.
So this isn't the book.
This is not a scripture, but this is from the book.
And I just feel like this goes
with the content for tonight too.
Here we are halfway through part three,
and hopefully you are getting more and more ready
to let go of all of the filters, blind spots
and false identities and the traumas, lies
and vows that created them.
We have been hijacked from our natural state
as daughters of God, a state where we are loved,
protected and overflowing with blessings.
And we've been put in an unnatural state
where we are survivors that have to strive,
fend for ourselves, settle for less
and always watching our backs.
This is the part of your story where the Holy Spirit
pulls back all of the.
these counterfeit layers and uncovers the real you.
Praise the Lord.
Praise the Lord for Father right now,
just uncovering the real us.
More every day, helping us to come
into alignment and agreement.
Yes, Lord, thanks for renewing and transforming
the way we look at ourselves.
Help us to see ourselves through your eyes
and your perspective.
There we go.
Welcome back, it's okay for y'all to come back.
They're gonna start to come back here as well.
I might even read that part over again
cause that was so good.
So the ladies that were here that weren't able
to go and break out, so you're gonna hear it again
cause that was just freedom.
Lots of freedom in that part of the book,
in all of it, but really aligned with tonight's message.
Welcome back, we have 30 seconds
and everybody else will be back with us.
Praise the Lord, it's good to see you all.
I like to see your beautiful faces.
Emily, Lauren, hi there, all right.
Now I never know why God has me say certain people's names,
but do you know how many people will tell me after I do it?
Like I needed to know that God saw me.
That God saw me.
So I just always try to go with everything,
but don't ever feel left out
cause guess what God sees you too.
Just like Trina, he sees you.
Yes, he does.
He sees all of you.
So don't ever forget it.
To kind of circle back and close up what I said
about that woman that shared.
Y'all, my response to her was that the word of God declares
that his eyes are always on us, always.
And not in a condemning way, he loves us.
He's our dad.
His eyes are on us and he's looking out for us.
So I just want you guys to know that truth.
I'm gonna read something over you.
And then the ladies that are gonna share,
I want you to share.
But as I was praying,
I hadn't read this part of the book for a while,
but it was highlighted
and I was reading a scripture above it.
And then I was like, oh man,
this goes right along with our word
and like our content for tonight, if you will.
And this is from the book and this is what it says.
Here we are halfway through part three
and hopefully you are getting more and more ready
to let go of all the filters, blind spots
and false identities and the traumas,
lies and vows that created them.
We have been hijacked from our natural state
as daughters of God, a state where we are loved,
protected and overflowing with blessings.
And we were put in an unnatural state
where we are survivors that have to strive,
bend for ourselves, settle for less
and always watch our backs.
This is the part of your story
where the Holy Spirit pulls back
all of the counterfeit layers and uncovers the real you.
And she goes on there to talk about the real you
and who that is.
But y'all, that's what's happening tonight.
The layers are getting pulled back
and you're gonna see the real you more and more
every single day.
Okay.
Holly, go ahead and share.
If you still want to share, I should say.
Sure, absolutely.
This goes back to like the first,
the question you asked us before the first one, the lie.
And I'm 47, I've never been married,
I've never had a like long-term relationship.
And so the lie that I've just come to believe in my 40s
to like help me feel better about being single
is that I must not be designed for marriage or family.
And so I must be called to remain single, so.
Wow, that's pretty huge.
And so I wanna encourage you to ask the Lord,
when is the first time you believed that lie?
When's the first time you started telling yourself
that story and you believe that lie
that you weren't designed for marriage and family?
You all will be surprised sometimes.
It might be when you were older,
but there could have even been something
when you were younger that took root and was planted
that when you were going through trauma
and the pain of waiting, if you will, or any other thing
that it might've partnered with that.
I kind of say partnered,
but that's kind of how strongholds form
is the lies that we believe kind of start forming together
and they get fortified over time.
Every time we're hurt in the same way,
it gets harder for us to break through those things,
if you will.
But again, God can help us break through all those things.
But also, I just wanna say to you all,
Jackie talks about this, that if you felt,
Led here. Some of you all might say I've only felt really led here for heartwork.
And I don't even know if I want to get married and that's okay. That's fine.
Because God needs to show you what he has for you and what he wants for you. But some of you
are telling yourselves that too, because it's safer. You feel safer saying those kinds of things.
Um, but if God led for the majority of you, God led you here,
because somewhere deep in your heart, you believe you were created for marriage.
And some of you believe you were created to have a family with kids and all this stuff.
And so if the enemy is still trying to tell you, you're not designed for family and marriage,
but you believe you were drawn here for it. Well, that's, you know, that that's that
contradiction. So where did that come from? And so the way to come out of alignment agreement,
anytime I say that you all, it's just automatically in Jesus name, I no longer
will align with the lie that I'm not designed for marriage and family.
And Lord, I come into alignment with inner dependence on you and trusting
that you are going to fulfill all of your promises for me, including family and marriage.
And you just start shifting, you just start shifting. And some of y'all might not believe
what you're praying at first, but I would encourage you if you have, um, you know,
says this muster seed of faith, and there's all these scriptures and understanding about that.
But I said this, I think last week, I believe help my unbelief y'all. I had unbelief at the
same time that I had belief sometimes. And I just would be real honest with God. Like I do believe
God, but man, I really, sometimes I'm having a hard time believing. So help my unbelief.
Give me faith. I would ask God for the gift of faith all the time. Y'all know that that faith,
you know, it is a choice, but it's also a gift we can receive from heaven.
He's the giver of good gifts. Guess what? You can ask him for more faith, more hope. He's the God of
hope. Hope deferred makes the heart six. If your heart's feeling sick, maybe we need a,
we need a fresh outpouring of the Holy spirit and a fresh outpouring of his hope and his,
his renewal and refreshing. Maybe that's you Holly. Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable
with us about that. I think there's probably a lot more ladies that have similar thoughts,
even if it doesn't sound the same, there might be some similarities there. Go ahead,
Brenda. We'd love to hear what you have to say. Hello. So it's my first time and Bethany it's
been amazing. So thank you so much. Yeah. So my lie, as it happens for everybody else and not for
me. And so I can it's just, it's interesting. The girl that went before me, because I'm going to be
51 and a couple of weeks never been engaged. I've never been married, but yeah. And I've
just felt even saying spirit mate, I'm just even getting triggered, you know,
cause it's kind of like, okay, well hasn't happened yet. So not sure if it's going,
you know what I mean? Because it's like, I'm getting older and older. So that's, that's hard.
Yeah. And, and, you know, I want to say to some of you all, I'm, you know, I don't know,
for those of you that have never been married, never engaged or older, some of y'all got caught
in the purity culture and the things and teachings that were being given out, you know,
that it's not even okay to date because if you're not going to want to get married,
you shouldn't even date all this stuff. And, you know, I just feel this need to maybe just
say, I'm sorry. I'm sorry that the church, they were doing their best.
I think people try to interpret what, you know, again, we know in part, we see in part,
we don't fully understand sometimes what God is even saying to us. And so often the church didn't
know what to do with people that are single because they don't want people to lust and they
don't want people to, you know, get caught up on the sin. And so then they just say, don't date.
And just for me that, yeah, sorry, for me, that wasn't the case. Okay. I think part of it is
I've only known the Lord since I was like 38. I'm actually Jewish. So I actually don't come
from your church. But for me, it's just, I was in a really, it's kind of interesting, but like
abusive relationship, but that's how I came to know the Lord. So I just feel like it's just been this
process. The Lord's had me on.
one, you know, because my whole thing is like, wanting to be healed and prepared.
But at the same time, yeah, just not, you know, the whole thing and just not understanding
like his times are not our times.
And so and then when you see it around you, you know, so that, yeah, that's hard.
Yeah.
So, yeah.
So learning a little bit more about kind of your dynamic, I'm going to really encourage
you obviously right now in heart work, we don't want you focusing on men, but the heart
works five, you know, weeks or however long it takes each one of you again, also just
so you all know, everybody starts at different times.
So don't compare yourself to where other people are.
Just don't even get caught up in that from the enemy.
Super important.
But one of the things that kind of stood out when you were saying that is just the, I need
to wait until I'm, I'm all healed and whole.
And, and I had that too.
I did.
And that was good for me for a season, because for me, I went from one relationship to another
relationship to another, and that wasn't good for me.
So it was good for me to take a break, but some of some people put themselves in time
out and then they don't come out of time out.
Some people even in heart work, I said this even today, some people are like, have been
in heart work for months.
And I want to encourage you, not, not you, Brenda, but this is for people that have been
in heart.
We love that.
You guys want to, to heal your hearts and we want you to take your time.
But some of you all like, you don't need to keep staying here.
If you're finished with the heart work, I'm going to encourage you to move forward.
It's time.
And some of you all like it's, it's this, and again, some of you will definitely be
led by the Holy spirit to stay, you know, three weeks in forgiveness, or I'm not saying
don't follow Holy spirit, but what I am saying is that there's this level of, I've got to
get all cleaned up.
I can't have any residue at all, or my spirit mate, where it's not going to work out.
And some of that comes from fear you all just, it's the fear of, I don't want the same thing
to happen again.
It could be the fear of like, you know, a lot of other things, but that's kind of what
comes to mind, especially with what you're saying.
You've been through a little bit there and you just want to make sure you're not putting
yourself in time out long term.
Okay.
So just as you're here, let God move you forward.
Let him show you what you're, what you might be afraid of.
You know, all of the things, what do you mean completed heartwork?
That means you've finished all five weeks of your videos, the book reading, the journaling.
That's what that means.
Best practice is one week of content per week.
And we, we don't recommend any binge watching of videos, any binge watch or binge reading
y'all.
The goal isn't to open the book and read it all the way through it's to watch videos and
reading each week.
And then the next section and it builds, we we've worked really hard to get it to where
it's at and it's working.
It's working really, really well and it's setting people free.
So follow what we're recommending.
There's a reason that's what we're recommending.
Okay.
I'm so sorry, sidebar, but Brenda, thank you for sharing.
I want to encourage you all.
Yeah.
I'm really open to letting the Lord.
You said your lie was for everyone else, but not for me.
So where does that come from again, ladies, it's asking the Lord for the root.
So we're not digging.
You're not digging.
We're asking the Lord to reveal things for healing.
So where, when is the first time you believed that everybody else would get it, but you
could not have it.
And then that's the, that's where you'll go to that revealing for healing cycle.
And you'll work through that.
And I would encourage you guys, if you got, if any of you are trying to process some of
this stuff and you're, you're like, I don't know what to do with what is coming up.
Just do a post in the group and we'll, we'll coach, we'll talk back and forth with you
and we'll coach you through it.
Okay.
We'll help you unpack this stuff more super important.
Don't let yourself get stuck anywhere in any place.
Okay.
I know it's nine 35.
Anyone needs to log off.
It's okay.
I understand.
I do want Trina to be able to share and and then I'll share one more scripture and close
us out.
Trina, go ahead.
There's two lies that I continuously tell myself is one, this is punishment for my divorce
and two there's no more good men.
There's no good men out there left for me.
So
Okay. Um, this reminded me for those of you, when you get to the week that has the divorce and
remarriage special session, that's not just for people who have gone through divorce. It is for
those people, but everybody for the most part knows someone that's gone through divorce. And
some of you all have had parents that have gone through divorce and you need to listen to that
for healing in that regard. Okay. So please don't avoid that and don't skip over it. It is for
everyone. Um, but it made me think of that, um, for you, uh, Trina, when you get to that video,
I think it's going to bring a lot of freedom and healing. And I think God's going to do a lot even
before then. Um, so anybody that believes that you're being punished for a divorce or any kind
of mistake that you've made key. Okay. You need to ask the Lord what, like, did you hear that from
someone else? Did you hear that in the church? Is that an old tape playing because you know,
somewhere in your childhood, someone like you got punished, not just, you know, um,
not just redirected as a kid or not, you know, obviously your parents are going to discipline us,
but like the harshness, like the punish punish. It was definitely from church. Like, yeah, you were
like, I took my name off the church books, like, because I got a divorce.
So were you punishing yourself?
When you say you took yourself off the church books because you got a divorce,
I was told I should do. Okay. Okay. Yeah. So I feel like God's going to do some healing regarding
church there for you too. Um, you know, um, okay. I'm going to be careful to not go too long,
but I feel like this is important. So I, when I went through my divorce,
I separated from my ex-husband before I actually filed for divorce and I was teaching children's
church at, uh, uh, at the time to these little kids and y'all, they took me off the roster without
even talking to me. And I remember just being so wounded, like what I didn't even do anything wrong.
I just, I just moved out and separated because it was really unhealthy and bad.
And so I'm saying this because God helped me forgive them because they didn't know what they
were doing. Y'all years later, the guy, and I'm not glad this happened to his sister-in-law by
any means, but the guy that removed me from that teaching roster, his sister-in-law ended up going
through a divorce. And I believe God changed their heart regarding divorce, not because, you know,
God wants us to go through divorce or anyone to have that. But like, as Jackie talks about
divorce is a rescue mission sometimes. And so just want to encourage you to in these next several
weeks, just really be praying and asking the Lord to help you forgive those people, uh, for the way
that they treated you and didn't represent the father's heart to you. Um, and just that God would
help you to, um, in those moments where you felt, you know, I don't want to assume what you felt,
but whatever you felt when that stuff was happening and that you would hear what God was saying over
you instead. And so many of us, we don't, we don't take time to pause and say, God, like,
this is what these people are saying to me. This is how they're treating me. But what do you say?
What do you say? Who do you say? I am.
And some of you need to do that with your little girl selves, with your adult self,
whenever the trauma happened, Jesus show me, where were you? Jesus helped me to hear what
you want me to hear about that situation. And they, I'm serious, God and Jesus and Holy spirit.
They, they will show you, they will show you truth and they will show you love and they'll
show you where they were. Some of y'all are going to have revelation that God was
crying and he wept for you when stuff was happening. And if you don't believe me that
God, I don't know. I imagine God weeps because Jesus wept and they're three in one.
Jesus wept when his, his friend Lazarus died.
Why did he do that? He knew he was going to raise him back up.
I think it is to show us that he had emotion, that God is an emotional God,
and he cares about the pain that we feel and have felt.
Yeah, Melissa, me too. I feel Holy Spirit. That's why I'm lingering.
Y'all, I got to watch. I'll go Holy Spirit all night long on you, but I can't.
I can't. We're about to close up. I almost forgot. I wanted to say one other thing.
Katie wrote in the chat before you went in the first breakout
that the lie she was believing was no good man is going to want her because of her. She's got
three kids. She's got debt. I forget the rest of it, Katie, but for all of my single mamas,
guess what? Y'all, there are good men and Trina, there's a good man for you too.
Okay. For all my single mamas, I can tell you from my own experience, y'all,
I have not had a biological kid myself yet. I believe I'm gonna, God's spoken some specific
things to us and we're working on that. But here's what I want to tell you is I have a stepson.
I have two spiritual daughters and none of them are mine biologically, but I absolutely love them
like they're mine. Like not just, oh, that's nice. Like fight for them in the spirit,
love them, pour into them. And I promise you that there are men like me in that sense,
that will love your kids, that will love you and will not see you as a burden, but a blessing.
Do you know that there are men out in the world who love the Lord, who are full of the Holy Spirit,
that walk in the fruits of the spirit, that have always wanted to be married
and have kids, but haven't felt like they knew how to get it?
I know there are because it's happening to women in our group and in our community,
like all the time. So I encourage you, please do not decide whatever your situation is that
count yourself out because of those things. That's not true.
That's not true. You're a package, but man, you're a good package.
And that's what you need to align with. Okay. So whatever your package is, y'all debt,
debt can be dissipated. God can give you an increase in ways you can't even imagine. And
he can teach you how to steward money and all kinds of stuff. Your divorce doesn't have to
define you. Your past doesn't have to define you. Your debt doesn't have to define like none of this
stuff in the hands of God, anything can be made new. Anything. So I want you all to breathe in
the Holy spirit tonight. He's doing something pretty big. I know it. I feel it. Here's the
scripture I want to leave you with. And it's Psalm 51, 10 through 12. It says created me a
pure heart of God and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Do not cast me from your presence or
take your Holy spirit from me, restore to me the joy of your salvation and grant me a willing
spirit to sustain me. One of the things I want to encourage you all in the days that you don't
feel joy. I want to encourage you to think about when you gave your life to Christ and the joy of
that moment. And what I said earlier today is for some of you, maybe it wasn't joyful,
but I believe God wants to bring joy into your relationship with him. Like you've never
experienced it before. Some of you all maybe grew up in the faith, maybe you're a pastor's kid,
and you were just kind of told to believe. And, and so you do. And so maybe it didn't feel like
this big conversion or whatever for you. And so even those individuals, I want to encourage you.
God wants to do something new in you and he wants it to be personal between you and him close.
Y'all I laugh with God. I have so much fun talking to him. It's fun. It's fun to be his friend.
Yeah. I'm going to pray us out. Father, thank you so much for your beautiful daughters.
Yes, Lord. Thank you that you call us by name, that your eyes go to and fro all throughout the earth.
You're omnipresent. You're present at every place at all times. Nothing is too hard for you.
God, I thank you that you're working even right now that you're, you're working in the hearts
of the minds of your daughter and the spirits.
God, I thank you that you would just place the.
of Gilead upon every wound, every fear that you would dispel fear right now in Jesus' name.
Yes, Lord, we bind and we break up in the name of Jesus Christ, every spirit of fear,
every spirit of anxiety, depression, oppression in Jesus' name. And we lose the spirit of love
and of power and of a sound mind, a spirit of joy, a spirit of hope. Yes, Lord, wash over them
with fresh hope, even while they sleep tonight. Lord, I thank you that some of these ladies,
they're going to go to bed tonight and they're going to wake up and they're going to feel new
tomorrow. God, I thank you for supernatural surgery in the heart. You're the great physician.
I thank you, God, that you are tender, that you stand at the door of our hearts and you knock
and you won't force your way in. So Lord, we thank you that you'll help us to answer
and to trust you in Jesus' name. Amen. God bless you. We'll see you in the group and you all will
be back again next week at 1 o'clock and 8 o'clock PM Eastern time. I hope that you guys just join
us for prayer when you can. Join in when you can. It's super important, but it's not like,
don't feel like it's a requirement, but it will bless you if you come. All right. All right.