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If you're going to mute yourself, I'm going to tell you right now, if your little microphone

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is off or on, it's not going to be red.

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You should see a little red microphone in your bottom right-hand corner, left-hand corner,

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if you're looking at the screen.

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You should see a little microphone that's red with a little slash through it, meaning

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that it's off.

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If it's not, it'll be gray and it'll be moving because it is picking up your sound.

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If you're yelling at your kids or the dog or you're talking to someone or talking to

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yourself, we're all going to hear you.

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Let's make sure that we keep it muted unless you are sharing, and then of course you can

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unmute yourself.

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If your camera is red, the little camera, if it has a red slash through it, that means

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your camera is off.

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If your camera is not red, that means your camera is on.

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Please, if your camera is on, please be intentional, knowing that your camera is on.

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Do not be moving back and forth throughout in your screen.

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Don't be walking on your treadmill.

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Don't be eating, slurping your soup, eating your food.

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All of that is not something that you want to do on camera.

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Trust me, it's not.

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Of course, if your camera's on, your clothes are on.

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Let's make sure that we know if our cameras are not on or if they are on, and of course,

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act accordingly.

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All right.

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I'm excited about tonight, you guys.

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This is our PATH session for this month, and we are going to go after dating resumes,

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but before we do that, we're going to have a little family time.

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For our family time, our friend, Nitin, is going to come back.

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He was on our last single spotlight, and Nitin has a few things that he would like to share

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with the group.

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Him and I talked about him sharing tonight, so I'm going to go ahead and put him here

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Thank you, Jackie.

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Hi, Nitin.

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Hello, Jackie.

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How are you?

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I am relaxed and blessed.

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How are you?

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Well, I'm not relaxed, but I am blessed, so I'm trying to get relaxed here.

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Hold on a second.

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Let me add my spotlight.

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All right.

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Me and Nitin are together.

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Nitin had a couple things on his heart that he wanted to share with the community, and

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so just a couple seconds, Nitin, I'll go ahead and give you the floor there.

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Well, thank you, Jackie.

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So, ladies, I think with regards to my response to some of the questions on the spotlight,

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I wanted to say that I didn't mean to be disrespectful or offensive to anybody in any way, form,

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or shape, and I believe that people were offended.

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I apologize.

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That was not the intention.

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I am learning to give the pen to the Lord to write my story, and I think there was one

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question around my preference regarding ladies who have kids.

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So I wanted to clear the air that I am absolutely open to dating or ladies with kids.

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I have never been married.

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I have never had kids, and father is a huge responsibility, so taking something that enormous

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on my shoulders, it scares.

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It scares the living daylight out of me because I really want to do the best job I can as

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a father, and having never done that before, well, it's a tough call.

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So I just wanted to, and I want to say this, as I'm giving the pen to the Lord, I'm open

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to what he has for me, and that's all I wanted to share, Jackie.

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Thank you, Nitin.

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So Nitin is saying, hey, if anyone was offended by any of his answers, not just that answer,

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but any answers about preferences, and we had a special session about preferences, how

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they can come across as prejudices and even biases, and all of you have preferences.

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If I got you in the spotlight and asked you questions about what you like or what you

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don't like, you would probably say something that would be offensive to somebody, and so,

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because nowadays, you know, it's not hard.

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It isn't hard.

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And so, just as a kingdom community, we have to be really aware that some things that we

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might say in the, just in the context of community and talking about ourselves and about likes

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and dislikes and, you know, what we think is good or not good, that could really come

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across as very hurtful and harmful.

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And so, let's definitely be intentional with our words.

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Let's be intentional with our words.

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Let's weigh our words before we speak them out loud in the community.

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Of course, we want to show up here and be ourselves, but we also want to present anything

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in our hearts to the Lord when it comes to preference, because it might be hiding a prejudice

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or a bias.

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You or your preference might actually be hiding an ism.

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That's a schism in the body, an ism.

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Racism.

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Ageism.

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There's there's sexism.

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It could be all kinds of different things.

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And so it's important that we are putting those things before the Lord and

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allowing the Lord to show us.

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Show us what is really at the root of those preferences.

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And the other thing I want to tell you guys about your type.

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And we're gonna talk about this in dating resumes tonight.

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If your type isn't working out for you,

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you got to let it go.

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If it's not working out for you,

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then it's just not the right person to date.

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And so we're going to talk about that.

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And the other thing I want to talk about is.

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If you're dating somebody and you're not having a great time,

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you're not having a great time with the person.

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And so if you're dating somebody and you're not having a great time with

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the person,

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You're not having a great time with the person you're dating.

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Then that person's the one that you're dating.

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And so we're going to talk about that.

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And then we're going to talk about some of the other preferences.

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And the other thing I want to tell you guys about your type,

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and we're going to talk about this in dating resumes tonight.

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If your type isn't working out for you, you got to let it go.

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If it's not working out for you, then it's time to let it go.

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It's probably based on really bad, broken information. Right.

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And so we want to let that go. Okay.

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So before we go any further,

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I just want to take off the spotlights here.

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I'm going to take off the spotlight from myself as well.

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All right. All right. Now we're back.

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We're back to the group. All right. So we're willing, raise your hand.

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If like knit and you're willing to surrender the pen. Yes, it's scary.

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It's a little scary, isn't it?

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But remember the one that created you knows you better than you know

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yourself.

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We're going to find out how well you know yourself tonight during our,

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our dating resume activity tonight. It's going to be fun.

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We're going to have a good time, but he knows you better than,

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you know, yourself. He knows what you, not just what you want,

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but also what you need.

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And he knows how to get it to you,

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but he can't get it to you if you're digging ditches where it's not

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going to rain.

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So it's important that we understand that we want to stop digging ditches

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where it's not going to rain.

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And we want God to bring us to the place of abundance.

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We definitely want to you guys Christmas in July. Don't forget my husband.

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He went into the, I was in the room.

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He was in the bathroom.

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And I was like, what are you doing? And he's like, I'm shaving.

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I'm like, why are you shaving?

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And he's like, cause I look like Santa Claus.

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And I was like, well, it's Christmas in July.

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So maybe you're supposed to look like Santa Claus.

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Cause his beard was growing in gray y'all. And he was like,

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I'm gonna shave this off. And I said, well,

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I'm not going to shave it off.

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And he said, well, maybe.

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You're meant to have it because that's just a confirmation that it's

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Christmas in July.

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Fun stuff.

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Okay. I'm going to share my screen here in a minute.

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If you're coming in late or you're coming in right now,

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make sure that you have something to write with.

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I'll go ahead and give you a minute to get something.

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Get a notebook.

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The PDF that I'm going to share my screen and show you is downloadable.

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We will get it to you. We'll put it in your groups. You can download it.

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You can actually.

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You know, use it.

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We will make it,

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maybe we can even make it editable so that you can put in your own,

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your own things in these blanks.

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Instead of what we have here.

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All right. Can everybody see that?

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Right.

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Now let me just get all of you beautiful people back up here so I can

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see you.

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All right. Okay. Everyone can see my screen. Correct.

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Where's my toolbar at.

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Okay. You guys, this is a dating resume.

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Someone just unmute really quickly and tell us why do you,

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why do we create resumes for jobs? What, why, what, what is that all about?

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Someone unmute and give us an answer.

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I got one.

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I think it's a resume is to show the employer or whoever's interviewing

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description and they want to have and they told me and you put it and you add a cover

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layer to it to convince them even more.

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Okay, awesome.

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All right.

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Good, Hunter.

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Who else?

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Showing your best qualities upfront.

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Go ahead.

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Say it again.

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Showing your best qualities upfront.

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So put those answers in the chat.

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And the reason why we send a resume ahead of a meeting is because we want to allow this

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person, this employer, this HR person, this human resources person to know who we are.

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Resumes are introductions to us.

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If it's for a job, like Hunter said, it's going to list out your skills, your experience.

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Why am I applying for this job?

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What makes me think that I'm qualified for this job?

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I'm going to show you on my resume why I think I'm qualified.

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Hunter even mentioned a cover letter.

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So that's where we convince them to give us the interview because we really want the job.

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And that's where we tell them about how we understand what the job is and how we're uniquely

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qualified to fill it.

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And so a dating resume is no different.

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So a dating resume is about us digging down into what makes us unique, what makes us special,

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what makes us a catch.

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You guys know that in the Indian culture, they actually do have resumes for their children.

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They have dating resumes for their children and the parents get together at parent parties

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and they hand out their kid's resume to each other.

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And then the parents decide who is going to meet their kid.

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What do you guys think about that?

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I think that if you trust your parents and you think your parents know what you want

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and what you need, then that actually might be a great idea.

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But for those of us that are not in that more orthodox Indian culture, for those of us that

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are just in the plain old 2024 American culture or Canadian culture or European culture, we

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don't do that.

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So what's tonight's exercise is all about is you really getting clear.

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It's about clarity.

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It's about you really getting clear about what you want, about who you are, about what

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you want, about what you're looking for, about what you don't want.

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And remember, we're going to talk about non-negotiables from heaven.

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If you are new, if you're in phase two and you have not really been around us that much,

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we don't allow you to make a list.

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You're not going to get a list guy, right?

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We're not looking for a list guy because your list is probably based on broken information.

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It's based on what I talked about at the beginning of the session, your type and your types not

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working out for you.

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So you got to stop looking for it.

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And so hopefully you have dug into what's behind some of those list items so that you

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can do this accurately tonight.

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Because I feel like after this exercise is over, after this activity, after this session

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is over, you're going to number one, see what makes you special and unique and why someone

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should, why someone would be foolish not to love you or want to be with you.

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What would make you a great partner, a great spouse, a great parent.

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And then also to help you get more acquainted with your own heart and what you're looking

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for and in what you think is really going to be a, you know, good complimentary opposite

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to you.

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So it's going to be a fun time.

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So because this is not editable, I'm just going to share the screen with you during

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this session.

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And you guys are going to go ahead and you're going to write down your answers on your paper

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for these different categories.

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All right.

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So for the about me section, there's three qualities.

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So go ahead and put quality number one, quality number two, and quality number three on your

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So you see, we have some prompts here.

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Number one, quality number one, describe this quality.

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Why is this important?

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How will it make your partner feel?

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So it's giving you a feeling prompt.

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So describe a quality about yourself that will make your partner feel a certain way.

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Then prompt two is.

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How will this quality benefit your partner?

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How will it benefit them in life?

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the prompt is provide details about the situation

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where this quality will play an important role.

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So not only are you gonna name a quality,

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you're also going to provide a little scenario

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where this quality is actually going to come in handy

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in relationship with you.

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This is where you're selling yourself.

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Quality one, two, and three.

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And of course, I'm sure you guys have way more

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than three qualities that make you valuable,

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and amazing, and a great catch.

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But we're gonna focus in on these three prompts.

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So here's a couple ideas I have here.

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So are you dependable?

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Are you a reliable person?

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Are you someone who's a really great listener?

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Are you a great cook?

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Are you an amazing cook?

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And your partner is gonna be well-fed

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for the rest of their lives.

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Do you know how to make people laugh?

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Like, are you funny?

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Are you the kind of person that, you know,

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diffuses tense situations with, you know, comfort?

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You know, you bring peace.

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Are you a peaceful person?

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So we call this, I call this, you know,

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we have brag on Jesus day on Fridays.

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Well, this is brag on you.

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This is a humble brag.

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It's a humble brag because you should know

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what's so amazing about yourself.

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And if you have trouble coming up with three qualities

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in these three categories,

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then we gotta do some hard work

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because that means you don't know yourself that well.

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That means you've probably been really verbally abused

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and emotionally abused.

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And all you can think about is all of the problems

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and all of the issues and all the bad things about yourself

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that other people have told you, or you've told yourself.

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I'm gonna give you a few minutes to go ahead and do this.

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And then we're gonna share some of these.

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I would put you in groups to do this,

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but every time that happens,

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people's internet kicks them out

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and it just becomes a big mess.

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So we're not gonna do that.

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Your top three qualities of why someone should date you,

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why someone should fall in love with you,

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why you would make an amazing partner.

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Are you stable?

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Are you dependable?

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Are you a hard worker?

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Are you understanding?

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Do you have a vibrant community of people

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because you're so likable?

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You're a likable person.

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People like you.

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You make people feel happy and comfortable.

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Just go ahead and list them, Elsa.

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It's not your job to judge them.

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It's just your job to list them.

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You guys, I don't want one word answers.

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I want you to write it out.

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Quality number one, I am this, and because I'm this,

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this will make my partner feel blank.

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Quality two, I carry this gift, this talent, this ability,

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and this will benefit my partner in this way, blank,

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whatever.

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And then quality three, I have this quality,

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and in this situation, this will be really important

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in my marriage, in my partnership.

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Here's an example.

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I'm extremely intuitive.

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I'm a very intuitive person.

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I'm accurately intuitive.

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I don't just have the gift of suspicion.

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I have the gift of intuition.

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I'm prophetic, and that benefits my husband

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because when there is chaos and confusion,

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I'm gonna be able to discern very easily what's happening.

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And I'm gonna be able to give my husband valuable feedback

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about the chaos and confusing situation

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so that he can make a good, wise decision.

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I'm an asset.

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King David was married to a woman named Abigail.

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That was one of his wives.

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And it says in the Bible that he actually discussed war strategy with her.

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He did.

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He allowed her to be a strategist with him.

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She wasn't just a wife.

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She wasn't just a trophy wife.

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She wasn't just something nice to look at.

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He respected her advice and her wisdom in very important matters.

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One of the reasons why this activity is so important, friends, is because when you show

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up to a date, when you show up to a meetup, when you put yourself out on a dating app,

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put your profile up, you need to know what makes you special.

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You need to know that you're a catch.

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You need to know that you're worthy of love.

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You need to know good things about yourself.

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You do.

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All right.

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Raise your hand if you need more time.

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Okay, great.

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All right.

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Let's go ahead.

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And we have a few people that need more time.

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You guys keep working and we're going to go ahead and take a few.

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I'm going to take a few volunteers to talk about themselves.

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Humble brags about themselves.

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And maybe if you won't volunteer, maybe I'll volun-tell you to share.

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Maybe you'll be volun-told.

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All right.

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Let's see.

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How about Leah?

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Quality number one.

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Hi, everybody.

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Um, so for quality number one, I have, I am understanding,

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and this will make my partner feel understood and safe.

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That's good guys.

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That's in the, that's in the chapter about, about love first Corinthians.

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It says, do not love.

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Doesn't seek to under be understood.

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It seeks to understand.

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So that is a fruit of the spirit going on there.

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Right.

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Okay.

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Let's see.

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How about, let's look at my little list right here.

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Let's hear from Elena.

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Sorry.

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So one of mine was great listener.

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Yeah.

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Great listener.

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Yeah.

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Great listener.

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This will make my partner feel seen, heard, and validated and feel

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that they have a valuable voice.

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Great.

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Such a good one.

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A lot of talkers, not a lot of listeners.

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All right.

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How about Rob?

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Rob, what do you got for quality one?

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All right.

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Let's see.

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Quality one.

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Ooh, I think I just heard great listener.

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So I wrote great listener, great listener slash attunement and containment.

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I can offer attunement and containment.

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I'm centered and peaceful and able to create calm in the toughest of situations.

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Wow.

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That's great.

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Okay.

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Love it.

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All right.

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We're going to go to quality number two.

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Now, remember this quality, you're going to tell us what it is, and then you're going

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to tell us how it's going to benefit your partner.

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And we're going to start out with Alan.

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Sorry, I was reaching for the mute button there.

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Okay.

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So I put, I am comforting and yes, as a man, I approach things logically, but if you get

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me, you're not just getting a computer, you're getting a human being so you can actually

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talk to me and I have a heart too.

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So I can empathize and I'll actually listen to you.

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Awesome.

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Okay.

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If you get Alan, you don't just get a computer, but you get a man who's smart as a computer.

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So there you go.

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All right.

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I love it.

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Okay.

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Let's see.

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How about Brit?

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Brit from San Francisco.

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What you got?

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I have hospitality.

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I enjoy creating community and gathering people.

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Awesome.

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And how is that going to benefit your partner?

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I think

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It's building, I mean, I think family seeds into that

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of like how you build family

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and stronger relationships with people.

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Agreed.

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Good.

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All right, let's see.

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How about Brenda Schnitzel?

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No, I can't say it, Brenda, help me.

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I can't sound things out.

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You guys know this about me.

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Shizik.

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What is it?

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Shizik, yes.

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Shizik, okay, I made it harder than it was.

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What do you have for quality two?

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I love to learn and research and pay attention to details.

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So if we wanted to travel,

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I could plan and research ahead of time.

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If we want to work on a project, I could look things up

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and it's just, I love, that's something I love to do.

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That's such an important quality.

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All these qualities that you guys are mentioning

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really are really amazing qualities

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and are going to make someone really happy someday.

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You can only have so much sex, friends,

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and then you got to actually live life together.

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And so if the person that you choose

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doesn't know how to do anything

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and they're not good at anything

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and they don't have qualities that they know about

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that they can actually use to benefit the partnership,

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then you made the wrong alliance, right?

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My husband can fix stuff and that's sexy, really is.

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All right, okay, let's see, quality three.

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Now we're going to tell them what this quality is

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and then we're going to give a little scenario,

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little role play of how it's going to be an important quality

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or play an important role in your partnership.

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Okay, and let's start out with, let's see, how about Bob?

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What about Bob?

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Bob Wisecarver, I can say that.

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Is Bob here?

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Bob, Bob, Bob.

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Okay, Bob may not be actually in the room.

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He may or may not be.

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We'll come back, how about Thomas?

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Sure, my third quality that I put down was patience.

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I wrote, I tenaciously pursue life

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and I'm willing to endure difficulty.

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At work, I help create solutions

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with people no one else will talk to.

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My partner can learn and grow without pressure.

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Yes, someone was actually bragging on you

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to me the other day, Thomas,

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telling me what a phenomenal man you are.

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And so your reputation precedes you.

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And I believe that what you just said

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about yourself is true.

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All right, how about, let's see,

514
00:28:13.020 --> 00:28:14.620
I'm looking at, if you have your camera on,

515
00:28:14.620 --> 00:28:16.580
this is how you get chosen.

516
00:28:16.580 --> 00:28:19.620
So I'm looking at your little avatar faces.

517
00:28:19.620 --> 00:28:24.620
All right, how about Abelinda?

518
00:28:27.020 --> 00:28:28.340
Did I say that right?

519
00:28:28.340 --> 00:28:30.140
Sorry if I didn't.

520
00:28:30.140 --> 00:28:31.620
No, you said that right.

521
00:28:32.980 --> 00:28:36.700
Okay, so for my third quality, I have, I'm a giver.

522
00:28:37.660 --> 00:28:42.660
So I guess it plays in, it's an important role

523
00:28:43.540 --> 00:28:47.920
because I tend to help people however they need help,

524
00:28:49.140 --> 00:28:54.140
mostly with my time and or like anything I can, I guess,

525
00:28:54.540 --> 00:28:57.540
anything I'm able to do, I do.

526
00:28:59.660 --> 00:29:01.540
Okay, that's great.

527
00:29:02.420 --> 00:29:04.720
All right, Marilyn Washington.

528
00:29:08.220 --> 00:29:12.860
You look so serene with that coastal picture behind you,

529
00:29:12.860 --> 00:29:14.820
like you're in Hawaii or something.

530
00:29:14.820 --> 00:29:17.740
Yes, which is where I want to be soon, very soon.

531
00:29:17.740 --> 00:29:19.260
Me too, let's go.

532
00:29:19.260 --> 00:29:20.540
Awesome.

533
00:29:20.540 --> 00:29:24.100
Come on, Jackie, you know, I will be your partner.

534
00:29:24.900 --> 00:29:29.220
So I put this because it helps put people at ease

535
00:29:29.220 --> 00:29:32.140
with laughter, especially in awkward situations.

536
00:29:32.140 --> 00:29:35.500
And it's just something I find myself naturally doing

537
00:29:35.500 --> 00:29:38.780
because I've been there where you're in that,

538
00:29:38.780 --> 00:29:42.500
I don't know anyone or any kind of awkward situation

539
00:29:42.500 --> 00:29:45.540
where you just feel out of the loop.

540
00:29:45.540 --> 00:29:47.500
I just like to put humor in there

541
00:29:47.500 --> 00:29:50.100
so people don't feel the way I used to feel.

542
00:29:51.100 --> 00:29:54.580
It's good, so important, putting people at ease,

543
00:29:54.580 --> 00:29:55.780
making people feel at home,

544
00:29:55.780 --> 00:30:00.000
making them feel accepted and loved by.

545
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:01.820
Breaking the ice.

546
00:30:01.820 --> 00:30:02.660
You guys.

547
00:30:03.920 --> 00:30:06.880
Yeah, it is.

548
00:30:07.840 --> 00:30:12.440
My favorite quality about myself is I'm fun, right?

549
00:30:12.440 --> 00:30:14.720
Seriously, there's never a dull moment.

550
00:30:14.720 --> 00:30:16.800
In fact, my husband's best friend,

551
00:30:16.800 --> 00:30:19.160
when he was just my neighbor and we weren't dating,

552
00:30:19.160 --> 00:30:21.920
he said, you know, that girl is party in a box.

553
00:30:21.920 --> 00:30:24.400
She's a party in a box.

554
00:30:24.400 --> 00:30:27.000
Let's just open the box and there's the party.

555
00:30:27.000 --> 00:30:28.520
Okay, so it's true.

556
00:30:28.520 --> 00:30:31.240
I want you to put your very favorite quality about yourself.

557
00:30:31.240 --> 00:30:33.000
That's my favorite quality about myself.

558
00:30:33.000 --> 00:30:35.080
Put it in the chat right now.

559
00:30:35.080 --> 00:30:36.480
What's your favorite quality?

560
00:30:37.600 --> 00:30:39.360
What's the quality that you think makes you

561
00:30:39.360 --> 00:30:40.760
a winner, winner, chicken dinner?

562
00:30:40.760 --> 00:30:44.760
Like, they should love me because I am amazing.

563
00:30:46.880 --> 00:30:48.240
Heart alive, fun.

564
00:30:48.240 --> 00:30:49.760
Ruth's fun with me with the fun girls.

565
00:30:49.760 --> 00:30:51.280
Look at all the fun people.

566
00:30:51.280 --> 00:30:53.840
Empathetic, love, the laugh, loyal.

567
00:30:53.840 --> 00:30:55.240
Loyal is so important.

568
00:30:55.240 --> 00:30:57.720
Honor, loving, good sense of humor,

569
00:30:57.760 --> 00:31:01.800
problem solver, advocate, reliable, genuine.

570
00:31:01.800 --> 00:31:04.040
Look at how amazing you guys are.

571
00:31:04.040 --> 00:31:05.960
Do you feel Holy Spirit?

572
00:31:05.960 --> 00:31:10.160
A great friend, so genuine, honest, a good listener.

573
00:31:10.160 --> 00:31:13.040
Look at this funny, encouraging, innovative,

574
00:31:13.040 --> 00:31:17.600
compassionate, learner, lifetime learner,

575
00:31:17.600 --> 00:31:19.880
compassionate heart.

576
00:31:19.880 --> 00:31:21.680
Look at all these guys.

577
00:31:21.680 --> 00:31:24.240
I feel Holy Spirit so much right now.

578
00:31:24.240 --> 00:31:25.680
Passionate, witty.

579
00:31:26.520 --> 00:31:30.160
Look at you, empathetic, encouraging, trusting,

580
00:31:30.160 --> 00:31:32.000
loyal, persistent.

581
00:31:33.360 --> 00:31:35.200
Woo, look at that.

582
00:31:35.200 --> 00:31:37.480
Look at all these incredible, creative,

583
00:31:37.480 --> 00:31:42.480
outgoing, smiley, positive, warm, affectionate.

584
00:31:43.800 --> 00:31:48.640
You guys, look at how incredible you are.

585
00:31:48.640 --> 00:31:52.440
Adventurous, two people.

586
00:31:52.440 --> 00:31:54.480
If you're a guy and a girl that both put that up,

587
00:31:54.480 --> 00:31:56.800
take a look, take a look at each other.

588
00:31:56.800 --> 00:31:58.360
You can go on an adventure together.

589
00:31:58.360 --> 00:31:59.800
Let's go.

590
00:31:59.800 --> 00:32:01.720
Oh, three people.

591
00:32:01.720 --> 00:32:03.720
No throuples, you guys, just couples.

592
00:32:03.720 --> 00:32:05.440
No throuples.

593
00:32:05.440 --> 00:32:08.160
If you don't know what that is, don't Google it.

594
00:32:08.160 --> 00:32:11.240
Do not Google it, all right?

595
00:32:11.240 --> 00:32:14.440
Please, woo, don't click on any videos.

596
00:32:14.440 --> 00:32:16.600
It's three people in a relationship instead of two.

597
00:32:16.600 --> 00:32:18.160
We used to call that something different,

598
00:32:18.160 --> 00:32:20.080
but now they call it a throuple, no.

599
00:32:21.040 --> 00:32:24.640
All right, problem solver.

600
00:32:24.640 --> 00:32:27.920
Love it, love it, love it, love it, love it, love it.

601
00:32:27.920 --> 00:32:30.400
Are any, has anybody raised your hand,

602
00:32:30.400 --> 00:32:33.840
if man or woman, doesn't matter, if you're handy,

603
00:32:33.840 --> 00:32:37.560
like you can fix things, like you can fix things.

604
00:32:37.560 --> 00:32:39.320
You're just good at fixing stuff.

605
00:32:40.240 --> 00:32:41.600
You'll figure it out.

606
00:32:41.600 --> 00:32:45.280
You know, Ikea delivers you a box to the house,

607
00:32:45.280 --> 00:32:48.520
and there's all these millions of pieces and screws

608
00:32:48.520 --> 00:32:50.560
and hardware and directions

609
00:32:50.560 --> 00:32:54.680
in a different language than what you speak.

610
00:32:54.680 --> 00:32:56.880
Can you put it together?

611
00:32:56.880 --> 00:32:58.200
Can you figure it out and put it together?

612
00:32:58.200 --> 00:32:59.600
My husband can, I can't.

613
00:32:59.600 --> 00:33:01.480
I'm like, I'll give up after two seconds

614
00:33:01.480 --> 00:33:02.400
and be like, nope.

615
00:33:06.960 --> 00:33:09.240
All right, so good.

616
00:33:09.240 --> 00:33:10.920
So many of you are handy.

617
00:33:10.920 --> 00:33:13.920
I wanna see the, okay, so some of you can fix something.

618
00:33:13.920 --> 00:33:15.360
That's great, I love that.

619
00:33:15.360 --> 00:33:17.320
I want you to now, everyone put your hand down,

620
00:33:17.320 --> 00:33:20.920
raise your hand if you can like write us a poem

621
00:33:20.920 --> 00:33:22.760
or a song or paint us a picture.

622
00:33:22.760 --> 00:33:25.960
You're like, you're really artsy, you're good.

623
00:33:25.960 --> 00:33:27.400
You're good at like decorating.

624
00:33:27.400 --> 00:33:30.320
You're good at cooking, I think is an art.

625
00:33:30.320 --> 00:33:31.920
You're good at creative stuff.

626
00:33:31.920 --> 00:33:35.240
You're a creative, like you're good at it.

627
00:33:36.640 --> 00:33:38.440
All right, let's see what those things are in the chat.

628
00:33:38.440 --> 00:33:42.720
I'd love to see drawing, poems, art, dance.

629
00:33:42.720 --> 00:33:45.240
Let's see that, cooking, drawing,

630
00:33:46.240 --> 00:33:50.120
clothes, singing, playing an instrument, all that.

631
00:33:51.640 --> 00:33:54.960
Designing, design, poetry.

632
00:33:54.960 --> 00:33:56.640
You guys, we need to have,

633
00:33:56.640 --> 00:34:00.080
we used to have this thing that we used to do back in 2020

634
00:34:00.080 --> 00:34:01.840
and it was like a, not a talent show,

635
00:34:01.840 --> 00:34:03.480
but it was like a show and tell.

636
00:34:03.480 --> 00:34:06.440
And you'd show up and you would bring something with you

637
00:34:06.440 --> 00:34:07.480
like that you've done,

638
00:34:07.480 --> 00:34:11.320
like that you've painted or drawn or written,

639
00:34:11.320 --> 00:34:14.400
or you can play an instrument or just kind of something

640
00:34:14.400 --> 00:34:19.080
like you got on a trip to Fiji and you told about it,

641
00:34:19.080 --> 00:34:20.560
like, hey, I went to Fiji.

642
00:34:20.560 --> 00:34:21.440
We should do that again.

643
00:34:21.440 --> 00:34:22.440
Do you guys want to do that again?

644
00:34:22.440 --> 00:34:23.840
That was so fun.

645
00:34:23.840 --> 00:34:25.960
For those of you that are on my team,

646
00:34:25.960 --> 00:34:29.120
that are married and that were back then,

647
00:34:29.120 --> 00:34:32.719
you were during that era, we had fun, didn't we?

648
00:34:32.719 --> 00:34:35.920
Okay, photography, look at all those things.

649
00:34:35.920 --> 00:34:38.040
All right, put the hands down, put the hands down,

650
00:34:38.040 --> 00:34:42.600
put the hands down, put the hands down.

651
00:34:42.639 --> 00:34:45.000
All right, if you were going to teach your partner

652
00:34:45.000 --> 00:34:48.239
something, because you're kind of like an expert at it,

653
00:34:48.239 --> 00:34:50.760
right, you just really know how to do it.

654
00:34:50.760 --> 00:34:54.040
If you were going to teach your partner something,

655
00:34:54.040 --> 00:34:55.639
or if you were going to teach someone something,

656
00:34:55.639 --> 00:34:58.360
your partner, one of your sisters or brothers in here,

657
00:34:58.360 --> 00:35:00.160
me, if you were going to teach us.

658
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:02.080
something, what would it be?

659
00:35:02.080 --> 00:35:03.480
What can you teach?

660
00:35:03.480 --> 00:35:05.540
What could you teach someone else?

661
00:35:10.160 --> 00:35:12.840
How to cook, how to line dance.

662
00:35:12.840 --> 00:35:15.240
Kim, Kim likes to line dance, guys.

663
00:35:15.240 --> 00:35:17.520
Goal setting, cooking, volleyball,

664
00:35:17.520 --> 00:35:18.920
how to ride a horse.

665
00:35:18.920 --> 00:35:21.360
Ooh, I'm scared of horses.

666
00:35:21.360 --> 00:35:24.000
Triathlon, patriotism.

667
00:35:24.000 --> 00:35:25.680
Okay, how to cook or bake.

668
00:35:25.720 --> 00:35:30.480
Spanish, leadership, conflict resolution, pickleball,

669
00:35:30.480 --> 00:35:33.160
financial management, cooking, French,

670
00:35:33.160 --> 00:35:36.420
quilting, dancing, fly fishing.

671
00:35:37.360 --> 00:35:39.300
Got a couple of people saying dancing in here.

672
00:35:39.300 --> 00:35:40.320
Take a look at each other.

673
00:35:40.320 --> 00:35:44.160
Nitton's dancing, Perla, you got dancing up there.

674
00:35:44.160 --> 00:35:45.600
Someone else had dancing.

675
00:35:45.600 --> 00:35:46.640
Take a look.

676
00:35:47.880 --> 00:35:49.560
Boxing.

677
00:35:49.560 --> 00:35:51.320
You gonna teach us how to box, Rob?

678
00:35:52.440 --> 00:35:53.400
Really?

679
00:35:53.400 --> 00:35:54.800
You gonna teach us how to self-defense?

680
00:35:54.800 --> 00:35:56.840
Hopefully, that's what we need to learn.

681
00:35:56.840 --> 00:35:59.800
Goal setting, baking, yummy treats.

682
00:36:01.120 --> 00:36:03.440
Melissa can teach us how to dress.

683
00:36:03.440 --> 00:36:04.920
I know, I know, I know.

684
00:36:04.920 --> 00:36:06.320
Put your underwear on first.

685
00:36:08.280 --> 00:36:09.640
That's how you get dressed.

686
00:36:11.240 --> 00:36:14.520
How to clean, paddleboard, ride a camel.

687
00:36:14.520 --> 00:36:18.000
She means as a stylist, you guys, I know you know that.

688
00:36:18.000 --> 00:36:20.680
Tenacity, counseling.

689
00:36:21.680 --> 00:36:26.680
Cooking, baking, English, civics.

690
00:36:27.680 --> 00:36:29.760
Look at all these different things that you guys are like,

691
00:36:29.760 --> 00:36:30.960
hey, I could teach someone this.

692
00:36:30.960 --> 00:36:33.880
How to sew, how to make a budget, how to garden,

693
00:36:33.880 --> 00:36:38.720
how to read, how to fish.

694
00:36:38.720 --> 00:36:39.800
Who wants to teach us how to fish?

695
00:36:39.800 --> 00:36:41.600
Mike, Michael, teach us how to fish.

696
00:36:43.480 --> 00:36:48.480
Visual organization, more dancers, right?

697
00:36:49.480 --> 00:36:53.440
How to pick the perfect donut, that's important.

698
00:36:54.880 --> 00:36:56.120
How to organize a closet.

699
00:36:56.120 --> 00:36:58.320
Gail, you're hired, come on, let's go.

700
00:36:58.320 --> 00:37:00.680
Smart goals, yep, I know what that means.

701
00:37:00.680 --> 00:37:03.120
How to shoot videos, love it.

702
00:37:03.120 --> 00:37:05.480
Swimming, salsa, surfing, scuba diving.

703
00:37:05.480 --> 00:37:07.280
Look at all the water things that Anne-Marie

704
00:37:07.280 --> 00:37:08.160
wants to teach us.

705
00:37:08.160 --> 00:37:10.120
Oh, and also some other things.

706
00:37:10.120 --> 00:37:12.200
Fashion, dance, gardening.

707
00:37:12.200 --> 00:37:14.680
How to shop, how to shop, yes.

708
00:37:16.320 --> 00:37:17.600
How to shoot pool.

709
00:37:17.600 --> 00:37:19.800
Paul's gonna teach us how to be a pool shark.

710
00:37:21.320 --> 00:37:23.680
So I want you to see all the amazing things

711
00:37:23.680 --> 00:37:25.160
that each of you are carrying,

712
00:37:25.160 --> 00:37:26.560
the qualities that you're carrying,

713
00:37:26.560 --> 00:37:28.760
spiritual qualities, emotional qualities.

714
00:37:29.880 --> 00:37:33.320
Also just practical qualities from your experience,

715
00:37:33.320 --> 00:37:36.720
experiential qualities, decluttering, organizing.

716
00:37:37.640 --> 00:37:39.160
Angie said how to be amazing.

717
00:37:39.160 --> 00:37:40.280
All right, so good.

718
00:37:40.280 --> 00:37:43.760
All right, let's go on to a perfect relationship, shall we?

719
00:37:43.760 --> 00:37:45.040
Right, so look here, it says,

720
00:37:45.040 --> 00:37:46.680
what are the top qualities or things

721
00:37:46.720 --> 00:37:49.840
that matter to you the most in a relationship?

722
00:37:49.840 --> 00:37:54.840
Guys, you only have room to A, B, C, D, E, F, G, seven.

723
00:37:55.800 --> 00:37:57.080
Seven things.

724
00:37:57.080 --> 00:37:59.480
And it could be an activity that's really important to you.

725
00:37:59.480 --> 00:38:01.520
Like a lot of you are gonna put good church together,

726
00:38:01.520 --> 00:38:02.440
I'm sure.

727
00:38:02.440 --> 00:38:05.920
A quality in the other person that's really,

728
00:38:05.920 --> 00:38:07.880
and remember, it's just not about them

729
00:38:07.880 --> 00:38:09.240
because we're gonna get into like,

730
00:38:09.240 --> 00:38:10.480
what are you looking for?

731
00:38:10.480 --> 00:38:12.520
This is a perfect relationship.

732
00:38:12.520 --> 00:38:17.520
Like, what are the top qualities or activities, hobbies,

733
00:38:17.720 --> 00:38:21.160
things that you think make a perfect relationship?

734
00:38:21.160 --> 00:38:23.160
And if you can't come up with seven, you don't have to.

735
00:38:23.160 --> 00:38:24.360
Come up with three.

736
00:38:24.360 --> 00:38:25.960
Let's go ahead and work on this.

737
00:38:37.480 --> 00:38:39.680
Like, I think I'll give you some examples

738
00:38:39.680 --> 00:38:41.000
in case you get stuck.

739
00:38:41.000 --> 00:38:43.160
I think that a perfect relationship

740
00:38:43.160 --> 00:38:44.920
is a missional relationship.

741
00:38:44.920 --> 00:38:49.240
So you're working together to accomplish something,

742
00:38:49.240 --> 00:38:51.160
whether that's flipping a house,

743
00:38:51.160 --> 00:38:53.400
whether that's fostering a child,

744
00:38:53.400 --> 00:38:55.920
whether that's, it doesn't matter what it is.

745
00:38:59.720 --> 00:39:01.640
David and I just redid a kitchen together.

746
00:39:01.640 --> 00:39:05.880
I mean, we planned it, someone else did it,

747
00:39:05.880 --> 00:39:09.360
but I'm just saying, we worked on a project together.

748
00:39:09.360 --> 00:39:12.720
We had a solitary focus.

749
00:39:39.360 --> 00:39:44.360
Go ahead and write those down on your paper.

750
00:39:49.520 --> 00:39:51.200
What are the top qualities

751
00:39:51.200 --> 00:39:53.200
or things that matter to you the most

752
00:39:53.200 --> 00:39:55.000
when you're in relationship?

753
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:07.260
And for those of you that run out of things to talk about with people when you're on a

754
00:40:07.260 --> 00:40:12.400
dating app or when you're on a, you know, one of those talking stage dates, you can

755
00:40:12.400 --> 00:40:13.860
remember your dating resume.

756
00:40:13.860 --> 00:40:14.940
You can take a look at it.

757
00:40:14.940 --> 00:40:31.980
You can take it in the car with you and look at it before you go in.

758
00:40:31.980 --> 00:40:36.700
Just so you know, you guys, with our, our, our new matchmaking platform that's connected

759
00:40:36.700 --> 00:40:39.140
to our community is going to be done sooner rather than later.

760
00:40:39.140 --> 00:40:42.820
It's going to be done this summer, sometime talk to the developer the other day, and it's

761
00:40:42.820 --> 00:40:49.960
coming along and it's going to have the ability to group people for events.

762
00:40:49.960 --> 00:40:54.660
And so group people by an algorithm of what the computer says, who should be compatible

763
00:40:54.660 --> 00:40:59.260
and who should hang out together locally, regionally, and then people that are interested

764
00:40:59.260 --> 00:41:00.960
in long distance that as well.

765
00:41:00.960 --> 00:41:09.300
And I'm going to use that feature on our site to do something that I call blind dates.

766
00:41:09.300 --> 00:41:12.660
And those blind dates will be decided for you and the person will be decided for you

767
00:41:12.660 --> 00:41:17.580
and the prompts of which you will talk about with each other will also be decided for you.

768
00:41:17.580 --> 00:41:22.500
And then you just have to play along and you just have to follow directions.

769
00:41:22.500 --> 00:41:23.500
Right?

770
00:41:23.500 --> 00:41:24.500
Okay.

771
00:41:24.500 --> 00:41:25.900
So hopefully you guys have some of these done.

772
00:41:25.900 --> 00:41:26.900
We've got to move forward.

773
00:41:26.900 --> 00:41:27.900
All right.

774
00:41:27.900 --> 00:41:31.860
So some of you have already started putting things up, being adventurous, worshiping the

775
00:41:31.860 --> 00:41:35.980
Lord together, traveling together, being a kingdom building couple, praying, encouraging

776
00:41:35.980 --> 00:41:36.980
people.

777
00:41:37.220 --> 00:41:42.100
Out of all of the things on your list that are the most important to you in a relationship,

778
00:41:42.100 --> 00:41:48.340
or you think that are going to matter the most to have that really symbiotic relationship,

779
00:41:48.340 --> 00:41:49.780
what is the thing?

780
00:41:49.780 --> 00:41:56.860
What is the most important thing besides worshiping together or going to church together?

781
00:41:56.860 --> 00:42:01.060
Besides spiritual, what is the next most important thing to you?

782
00:42:01.060 --> 00:42:02.060
Communication.

783
00:42:02.060 --> 00:42:03.060
Okay.

784
00:42:03.060 --> 00:42:04.900
Emotional closeness.

785
00:42:04.900 --> 00:42:11.460
So emotional intimacy, positivity, loyalty, and remember you guys, these are not qualities

786
00:42:11.460 --> 00:42:13.580
the other person carries.

787
00:42:13.580 --> 00:42:15.100
Don't misunderstand this assignment.

788
00:42:15.100 --> 00:42:19.260
These are activities and hobbies, all right?

789
00:42:19.260 --> 00:42:22.580
And things you're going to share in common.

790
00:42:22.580 --> 00:42:25.220
Things that you will share in common like sense of humor.

791
00:42:25.220 --> 00:42:26.220
Yes.

792
00:42:26.220 --> 00:42:27.220
Daily gratitude.

793
00:42:27.220 --> 00:42:28.220
Yes.

794
00:42:28.220 --> 00:42:29.220
You got it.

795
00:42:29.220 --> 00:42:30.220
That's what this means.

796
00:42:30.220 --> 00:42:31.220
Exercise.

797
00:42:31.220 --> 00:42:32.220
Yes.

798
00:42:32.220 --> 00:42:36.460
For some of you, exercise is life.

799
00:42:36.460 --> 00:42:41.500
For all of us, exercise should be life, but that's a quality that you want in your perfect

800
00:42:41.500 --> 00:42:42.500
relationship.

801
00:42:42.500 --> 00:42:47.700
It's not a perfect relationship, but it's a perfect for you relationship.

802
00:42:47.700 --> 00:42:49.000
Visiting each other's family.

803
00:42:49.000 --> 00:42:53.300
So being with family, having good relationship with family.

804
00:42:53.300 --> 00:42:57.660
That's important to you.

805
00:42:57.660 --> 00:42:59.700
Being outdoors.

806
00:42:59.700 --> 00:43:02.260
Someone doesn't want to marry a man who wants to stay inside.

807
00:43:02.260 --> 00:43:09.980
She needs someone who's outdoorsy.

808
00:43:09.980 --> 00:43:13.660
Respecting each other.

809
00:43:13.660 --> 00:43:22.260
Josh too said outdoor quality time.

810
00:43:22.260 --> 00:43:23.260
Got to love the beach.

811
00:43:23.260 --> 00:43:26.060
If you're going to be with Carrie Ann, you got to love the beach.

812
00:43:26.060 --> 00:43:30.260
She's a beach girl.

813
00:43:30.260 --> 00:43:31.260
Kim as well.

814
00:43:31.260 --> 00:43:32.740
She said, I go to the beach every week.

815
00:43:32.740 --> 00:43:36.980
Got to be, a must, a must.

816
00:43:36.980 --> 00:43:43.580
You like Kim or Carrie, you're going to have to have sand, got to have sand in your Speedos,

817
00:43:43.580 --> 00:43:44.580
gentlemen.

818
00:43:44.580 --> 00:43:49.100
You are going to be going to the beach.

819
00:43:49.100 --> 00:43:50.100
Physical affection.

820
00:43:50.100 --> 00:43:56.180
I hope you guys are reading.

821
00:43:56.180 --> 00:43:58.180
These are really good.

822
00:43:58.180 --> 00:43:59.180
Being focused on health.

823
00:43:59.180 --> 00:44:00.180
All right.

824
00:44:00.180 --> 00:44:04.420
So let's go down to activities that we do together.

825
00:44:04.420 --> 00:44:05.420
All right.

826
00:44:05.420 --> 00:44:08.900
And the one that I already said was what, what are you going to teach them?

827
00:44:08.900 --> 00:44:14.940
What, what could they.

828
00:44:14.940 --> 00:44:15.980
What could they learn from you?

829
00:44:15.980 --> 00:44:17.460
We already put that up.

830
00:44:17.460 --> 00:44:20.660
So let's do the other, let's do the other ones.

831
00:44:20.660 --> 00:44:21.860
Passion.

832
00:44:21.860 --> 00:44:23.420
How would you relax together?

833
00:44:23.420 --> 00:44:28.420
What is your like, what is your vision of relaxing with your future spirit mate?

834
00:44:28.420 --> 00:44:31.180
What does relaxation look like to you?

835
00:44:31.180 --> 00:44:38.020
What are you going to do to relax together?

836
00:44:38.020 --> 00:44:39.620
What are you going to do?

837
00:44:39.620 --> 00:44:43.420
Walk on the beach.

838
00:44:43.420 --> 00:44:47.300
And hopefully if you're putting this up, this is not just like a one and done like

839
00:44:47.300 --> 00:44:48.300
vacation.

840
00:44:48.300 --> 00:44:50.340
This is what are you going to do on a regular basis to relax together?

841
00:44:50.340 --> 00:44:53.660
If you don't live by a beach, then that's not what you're going to do to relax together.

842
00:44:53.660 --> 00:44:58.740
Remember, it's got to be based on what you have access to go on a walk.

843
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:05.680
Don't put travel. I don't think traveling is relaxing, but if you do, then that's good.

844
00:45:05.680 --> 00:45:12.320
But traveling is super stressful. I mean, it's fun for sure, but it's not very relaxing.

845
00:45:12.320 --> 00:45:28.000
Enjoy sunsets, nature, drink coffee together, snuggle, cuddle, read together. David and

846
00:45:28.000 --> 00:45:32.880
I always threaten to get in bed like an hour before bedtime and read together. We have one

847
00:45:32.880 --> 00:45:39.520
of those beds that goes so you can sit up in it, but then the sheets come off the corners and it's

848
00:45:39.520 --> 00:45:44.000
the most annoying thing in the entire world, right? Every good thing has the negative to it,

849
00:45:44.560 --> 00:45:47.440
but we are always like, we're going to get in bed and we're going to read, you know?

850
00:45:47.440 --> 00:45:55.200
And then we don't, but we'd like to snuggle and watch movies. We do that for sure. Go to the

851
00:45:55.200 --> 00:46:02.000
library, the bookstore together. Kim likes the books. Quiet time, some kind of quiet time

852
00:46:02.000 --> 00:46:16.240
together. Dessert, coffee, Star Trek binging. All right. That's very specific. Hunter thinks that

853
00:46:16.240 --> 00:46:22.720
him and his wife are going to watch the NFL football highlights together as a relaxation,

854
00:46:22.720 --> 00:46:26.400
but there's a woman out there that would love that. My best friend that lives in Ohio,

855
00:46:26.400 --> 00:46:34.960
she loves sports, gets couples massages. Come on. She does not.

856
00:46:39.200 --> 00:46:48.560
But Perla, that's, that's my love language. Massage is my love language. I love it. Okay.

857
00:46:49.200 --> 00:46:56.000
All right. Let's do bangles. You guys like bangles? What the heck? I was born in Cleveland.

858
00:46:56.000 --> 00:47:03.040
You're like cussing right now. This is cursing bangles, bangles, shmangles. Okay. All right.

859
00:47:03.040 --> 00:47:12.560
Experience. Yes, the Browns, Janine. Don't make me bark like a dog. Okay. Experience.

860
00:47:12.560 --> 00:47:17.840
Why should you try it together? What, what have you, what have you been waiting for your

861
00:47:17.840 --> 00:47:22.240
spirit mate to do? People tell me all the time, like, oh, you know, I'm going to go on a cruise,

862
00:47:22.240 --> 00:47:26.480
but I'm waiting to get, to get married. I'm going to buy a house, but I'm waiting to get married.

863
00:47:26.480 --> 00:47:31.120
I'm going to go skydiving, but I'm waiting to get married. So what is an experience that you've been

864
00:47:31.120 --> 00:47:39.440
waiting to have that special someone do with you? You're going to try it together. You've been just

865
00:47:39.440 --> 00:47:44.400
dreaming about trying it together, traveling overseas, going to Tuscany. Now I'm not saying

866
00:47:44.400 --> 00:47:48.880
you should wait to do this until you get married. I'm just saying, what is something that you really

867
00:47:48.880 --> 00:47:54.000
want to try with your person going to Israel, scuba diving, going to Bora Bora, look at all

868
00:47:54.000 --> 00:48:02.880
these ballroom dancing, traveling Italy, Greece, Paris, seven day cruise, visit out West hike bike,

869
00:48:02.880 --> 00:48:06.880
lots of skydivers. Are you guys crazy? Why would you jump out of a perfectly good plane?

870
00:48:07.520 --> 00:48:12.640
I mean, if the plane wasn't good and it wasn't airworthy, then I could see jumping, but no,

871
00:48:13.360 --> 00:48:18.560
no, no hang gliding. Y'all are adventurous. You're way more adventurous than me. You guys like

872
00:48:18.560 --> 00:48:26.160
Heights. Some of you guys like Heights, apparently hot air balloons, the Alps skydiving.

873
00:48:27.760 --> 00:48:31.120
I feel like I don't know you all very well. You see how you're getting to know each other right

874
00:48:31.120 --> 00:48:36.000
now. Look at all of the people that said skydiving in here. You should get together.

875
00:48:36.000 --> 00:48:41.280
You should get together. Whoever you skydivers are and go jump out of a plane together. Look,

876
00:48:41.280 --> 00:48:45.760
find each other. Cause y'all crazy. Go find each other right now in the chat,

877
00:48:47.360 --> 00:48:51.120
find each other, get each other's phone numbers, go jump out of a plane.

878
00:48:52.880 --> 00:48:58.000
Look at all these campers. We should put that on last trip single. I, well, we already have it on

879
00:48:58.000 --> 00:49:01.760
there. We want to do a camping trip. The problem is, is everywhere we've chosen to go camping.

880
00:49:01.760 --> 00:49:06.960
It's just way too hot. We've got to go somewhere cold. We can have a bonfire

881
00:49:11.360 --> 00:49:12.960
camping, camping, glamping.

882
00:49:16.400 --> 00:49:26.560
My idea of camping y'all is like a five-star Airbnb cabin with a hot tub, maybe an infrared sauna.

883
00:49:26.560 --> 00:49:37.920
You know, helicopter rides. All right. Those are great. You guys, I love it. Yeah. A lot of you

884
00:49:37.920 --> 00:49:42.880
are like, I'm a glamper. Yes. I must be a glamper. Cause I don't, I don't want to sleep in a tent on

885
00:49:42.880 --> 00:49:48.720
the ground. And you guys, I have developed an unhealthy fear of bears just recently. I've

886
00:49:48.720 --> 00:49:55.280
watched too many bear videos and now I'm just done. I'm done. Okay. Yesterday I went on a walk

887
00:49:55.280 --> 00:50:00.560
right down my road and I saw a, um,

888
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:02.440
What are those things called?

889
00:50:02.440 --> 00:50:03.640
A turkey vulture.

890
00:50:03.640 --> 00:50:08.380
I saw a bobcat, a tarantula, a raccoon.

891
00:50:09.960 --> 00:50:11.480
I saw all of those things on a walk.

892
00:50:11.480 --> 00:50:13.280
I saw a tarantula.

893
00:50:13.280 --> 00:50:15.700
He's just crossing the road, minding his own business.

894
00:50:15.700 --> 00:50:17.460
He's pretty big, taranchy.

895
00:50:17.460 --> 00:50:20.200
And then I saw a turkey vulture, which was huge.

896
00:50:20.200 --> 00:50:22.360
It was big as a turkey, but it's a vulture.

897
00:50:22.360 --> 00:50:23.600
And it's scary looking.

898
00:50:23.600 --> 00:50:25.160
And then I saw a bobcat.

899
00:50:25.160 --> 00:50:26.600
I saw a bobcat, you guys.

900
00:50:26.600 --> 00:50:28.480
And I saw a raccoon.

901
00:50:30.000 --> 00:50:37.360
Don wants to wait for her spirit mate to buy a yacht.

902
00:50:37.360 --> 00:50:39.520
Don, can you buy a yacht, or are you

903
00:50:39.520 --> 00:50:41.720
thinking that your spirit mate will be

904
00:50:41.720 --> 00:50:44.000
the one that can buy the yacht?

905
00:50:44.000 --> 00:50:46.520
Because same, girl, same.

906
00:50:46.520 --> 00:50:51.360
My husband, I'm waiting for him to be able to buy a yacht.

907
00:50:51.360 --> 00:50:53.160
No, I really don't like to sail that much,

908
00:50:53.160 --> 00:50:56.680
so that wouldn't be right.

909
00:50:56.680 --> 00:50:59.800
He's in here, you guys, and he's giving me the stink eye.

910
00:51:00.800 --> 00:51:03.680
All right, here we go.

911
00:51:03.680 --> 00:51:04.960
Now, what are you looking for?

912
00:51:04.960 --> 00:51:10.920
Now, you guys, please, when you fill out this section,

913
00:51:10.920 --> 00:51:14.440
remember what we said from the very beginning of this.

914
00:51:14.440 --> 00:51:17.080
We want to surrender the pen to God.

915
00:51:17.080 --> 00:51:21.080
And so right here, it says age, personality types, looks.

916
00:51:21.080 --> 00:51:24.320
I don't want you to fill that out.

917
00:51:24.320 --> 00:51:28.200
I want you to be like, I think, personality.

918
00:51:28.240 --> 00:51:30.960
I think we can put that down.

919
00:51:30.960 --> 00:51:33.720
Let's do what kind of personality,

920
00:51:33.720 --> 00:51:35.080
and then what kind of qualities.

921
00:51:35.080 --> 00:51:36.360
Let's just go with qualities.

922
00:51:36.360 --> 00:51:42.880
Let's leave looks out of the equation, OK?

923
00:51:42.880 --> 00:51:45.720
Let's leave looks and age range.

924
00:51:45.720 --> 00:51:47.000
Let's leave all that out.

925
00:51:47.000 --> 00:51:49.040
Let's just do some other things.

926
00:51:49.040 --> 00:51:50.800
Let's do qualities.

927
00:51:50.800 --> 00:51:52.320
What makes a great partner?

928
00:51:52.320 --> 00:51:54.160
What would make you fall in love with them?

929
00:51:54.160 --> 00:51:55.760
What's their personality like?

930
00:51:55.800 --> 00:51:58.400
What are the things that they want out of life?

931
00:51:58.400 --> 00:52:01.360
Maybe you're looking for someone who wants a family, someone

932
00:52:01.360 --> 00:52:03.480
who's going to be a great bonus dad to your children

933
00:52:03.480 --> 00:52:04.800
that you already have.

934
00:52:04.800 --> 00:52:07.400
Maybe someone that wants to have children with you,

935
00:52:07.400 --> 00:52:08.520
wants to foster or adopt.

936
00:52:08.520 --> 00:52:10.160
Those are all the family kind of things.

937
00:52:10.160 --> 00:52:11.720
Maybe you're looking for someone who's

938
00:52:11.720 --> 00:52:14.000
really close to their family.

939
00:52:14.000 --> 00:52:15.840
Maybe you're an only child, and you'd

940
00:52:15.840 --> 00:52:17.320
love to be part of a big family.

941
00:52:17.320 --> 00:52:19.000
So you want someone who really loves

942
00:52:19.000 --> 00:52:20.480
their family and their siblings so

943
00:52:20.480 --> 00:52:24.760
that you can marry into a great family,

944
00:52:24.760 --> 00:52:26.160
because maybe you don't have one.

945
00:52:26.160 --> 00:52:27.680
Maybe your parents are passed away.

946
00:52:27.680 --> 00:52:29.920
So these are the kind of qualities that I want to see.

947
00:52:29.920 --> 00:52:31.480
You guys, go ahead and work on it,

948
00:52:31.480 --> 00:52:32.640
and then we can put them up.

949
00:52:32.640 --> 00:52:33.520
Don't put them up yet.

950
00:52:33.520 --> 00:52:39.040
Just work on them on your paper, and then we'll put them up.

951
00:52:39.040 --> 00:52:39.960
You guys are quick.

952
00:52:43.600 --> 00:52:45.440
Some of you like ambitious people.

953
00:52:45.440 --> 00:52:47.400
Some of you are entrepreneurs, and you

954
00:52:47.400 --> 00:52:50.520
want to marry someone who is an entrepreneur, someone

955
00:52:50.520 --> 00:52:53.200
who will be supportive of an entrepreneur, someone

956
00:52:53.240 --> 00:52:54.720
who's a go-getter.

957
00:52:54.720 --> 00:52:57.680
Some of you like to get up in the morning

958
00:52:57.680 --> 00:53:01.440
and run for miles when nothing's chasing you,

959
00:53:01.440 --> 00:53:03.840
and you want someone to run with you.

960
00:53:03.840 --> 00:53:04.440
All right.

961
00:53:07.000 --> 00:53:08.240
Good for you.

962
00:53:08.240 --> 00:53:11.200
Put that down.

963
00:53:11.200 --> 00:53:13.520
You want someone who's physically fit.

964
00:53:13.520 --> 00:53:15.440
Don't just put physically fit, but in what way

965
00:53:15.440 --> 00:53:18.280
you're looking for someone who likes to do what,

966
00:53:18.280 --> 00:53:20.160
if you want to exercise together.

967
00:53:23.200 --> 00:53:25.320
You guys, I really want you to not write it just here.

968
00:53:25.320 --> 00:53:27.520
I want you to write it on your paper, because remember,

969
00:53:27.520 --> 00:53:29.840
you're going to fill this into your own dating resume.

970
00:53:29.840 --> 00:53:36.440
That way, you can remind yourself of what it is that's

971
00:53:36.440 --> 00:53:37.680
really important to you.

972
00:53:37.680 --> 00:53:40.400
What are the most important qualities in this other person

973
00:53:40.400 --> 00:53:42.040
to you?

974
00:53:42.040 --> 00:53:44.800
The most important qualities.

975
00:53:44.800 --> 00:53:46.520
What are the most important qualities

976
00:53:46.520 --> 00:53:48.600
in this other person to you?

977
00:53:48.640 --> 00:53:51.640
And not non-negotiables, because that's the next category.

978
00:53:51.640 --> 00:53:53.120
So don't put those yet.

979
00:53:53.120 --> 00:53:54.200
Don't put those yet.

980
00:53:54.200 --> 00:53:57.200
These are just things that really matter to you,

981
00:53:57.200 --> 00:54:00.560
that you would love for these qualities

982
00:54:00.560 --> 00:54:02.920
to be in your future partner.

983
00:54:03.480 --> 00:54:05.720
So some of you guys are already putting them up.

984
00:54:11.920 --> 00:54:15.040
Angie put great bonus dad, and I thought it said great buns.

985
00:54:15.040 --> 00:54:16.860
I promise you, I thought it said great buns.

986
00:54:16.860 --> 00:54:18.520
And I bet the rest of you thought

987
00:54:18.520 --> 00:54:20.400
she said, great guitar, right?

988
00:54:20.400 --> 00:54:23.980
No, that's not what I said.

989
00:54:23.980 --> 00:54:26.360
I said, great.

990
00:54:26.360 --> 00:54:27.980
Angie put great bonus dad.

991
00:54:27.980 --> 00:54:30.860
Angie put great bonus dad, and I thought it said great buns.

992
00:54:30.860 --> 00:54:32.820
I promise you, I thought it said great buns.

993
00:54:32.820 --> 00:54:34.220
And I was like, OK, Angie.

994
00:54:57.980 --> 00:55:00.900
Ha ha.

995
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:09.080
Family-oriented, great sense of humor, ambitious, business-minded, down-to-earth.

996
00:55:09.080 --> 00:55:12.780
Gentlemen, I want to see yours.

997
00:55:12.780 --> 00:55:15.620
I see lots, lots of women putting up theirs.

998
00:55:15.620 --> 00:55:20.460
I want to see your top qualities that you want in a woman outside of what she looks

999
00:55:20.460 --> 00:55:23.800
like.

1000
00:55:23.800 --> 00:55:26.160
Hunter said physical appearance, hunter.

1001
00:55:26.160 --> 00:55:29.940
I said, no, that's not what I want you to put.

1002
00:55:29.940 --> 00:55:40.540
Definitely want kids, okay, so someone who wants children, that's good.

1003
00:55:40.540 --> 00:55:42.540
Rob said he likes a confident woman.

1004
00:55:42.540 --> 00:55:43.540
That's important to him.

1005
00:55:43.540 --> 00:55:47.540
He's looking for a confident woman who knows herself.

1006
00:55:47.540 --> 00:55:52.980
Friends, we have a single spotlight and a love seat next week.

1007
00:55:52.980 --> 00:55:57.060
Guys, I'm getting ready for that matchmaking app.

1008
00:55:57.100 --> 00:56:00.540
Obviously, there's a lot more women that show up to these lives than men.

1009
00:56:00.540 --> 00:56:05.900
We do have a challenge group of men that has almost 900 men in it, but once again, men

1010
00:56:05.900 --> 00:56:08.300
don't typically like online stuff.

1011
00:56:08.300 --> 00:56:12.460
We have a smaller group of men in mentorship and in coaching.

1012
00:56:12.460 --> 00:56:18.680
The bottom line is, is that when I bring men to you for a single spotlight, for those of

1013
00:56:18.680 --> 00:56:22.840
you ladies that are like, spotlight me, spotlight me, it doesn't make sense to spotlight you

1014
00:56:22.840 --> 00:56:27.200
guys on the zoom because not enough men attend the zoom.

1015
00:56:27.200 --> 00:56:31.880
And so I could spotlight you in the men's groups, but I couldn't spotlight you on the

1016
00:56:31.880 --> 00:56:33.400
zoom because that doesn't make sense.

1017
00:56:33.400 --> 00:56:37.760
So for those live sessions, ladies, I commit to you that I will bring you at least two

1018
00:56:37.760 --> 00:56:40.400
amazing men every session.

1019
00:56:40.400 --> 00:56:41.400
Okay.

1020
00:56:41.400 --> 00:56:46.040
From different age brackets, different backgrounds, different geographic areas.

1021
00:56:46.040 --> 00:56:47.040
All right.

1022
00:56:47.040 --> 00:56:48.040
Maybe even more than two.

1023
00:56:48.040 --> 00:56:49.040
All right.

1024
00:56:49.040 --> 00:56:54.440
And, uh, we've had lots of ladies write in about Nitin and Chris and the women that,

1025
00:56:54.440 --> 00:56:58.560
you know, were within the criteria of those introductions.

1026
00:56:58.560 --> 00:57:01.960
Um, not, I don't think all the introductions have been made yet.

1027
00:57:01.960 --> 00:57:07.120
Um, but thank you so much for writing in and, you know, continue to do that because this

1028
00:57:07.120 --> 00:57:08.120
is how we make matches.

1029
00:57:08.120 --> 00:57:12.800
You guys, we had another couple get engaged from this community yesterday.

1030
00:57:12.800 --> 00:57:18.720
Now that doesn't include all the people that get engaged as a result of the matchmaking

1031
00:57:19.400 --> 00:57:20.400
and coaching that we do.

1032
00:57:20.400 --> 00:57:24.440
These are people that actually meet here and get married from being in here together.

1033
00:57:24.440 --> 00:57:25.440
So it does happen.

1034
00:57:25.440 --> 00:57:26.440
We have a lot of them.

1035
00:57:26.440 --> 00:57:27.440
All right.

1036
00:57:27.440 --> 00:57:29.760
So take a look at what each other is saying.

1037
00:57:29.760 --> 00:57:36.720
You guys, so many things, thoughtful, active, kind, intelligent.

1038
00:57:36.720 --> 00:57:38.400
A lot of you are sapiosexuals.

1039
00:57:38.400 --> 00:57:41.000
You should put that on your resume.

1040
00:57:41.000 --> 00:57:42.000
What does that mean?

1041
00:57:42.000 --> 00:57:49.600
That means you have to be attracted intellectually, not just physically.

1042
00:57:49.600 --> 00:57:51.560
The person can't bore you.

1043
00:57:51.560 --> 00:58:01.080
You have to have good conversation with them, exciting conversation, conversation that makes

1044
00:58:01.080 --> 00:58:09.240
you want to talk more.

1045
00:58:09.240 --> 00:58:11.880
And some of you are like, eh, if they're a good kisser, I don't really need that

1046
00:58:12.760 --> 00:58:13.760
much convo.

1047
00:58:13.760 --> 00:58:14.760
I'm okay.

1048
00:58:14.760 --> 00:58:15.760
I don't really like to talk that much.

1049
00:58:15.760 --> 00:58:18.840
Anyway, let's see all the sapiosexuals in the house.

1050
00:58:18.840 --> 00:58:21.760
Raise your hands.

1051
00:58:21.760 --> 00:58:24.120
You got to have that intellectual stimulus.

1052
00:58:24.120 --> 00:58:25.120
You got to have it.

1053
00:58:25.120 --> 00:58:26.760
You have to have it.

1054
00:58:26.760 --> 00:58:29.000
It's so important to you.

1055
00:58:29.000 --> 00:58:37.120
All right, put your hands down, put your hands up.

1056
00:58:37.120 --> 00:58:40.560
If you'd say the most important quality that you have to have is that you have to have

1057
00:58:40.560 --> 00:58:42.440
spiritual compatibility.

1058
00:58:42.440 --> 00:58:46.400
You have to feel connected spiritually, have to want to worship with them.

1059
00:58:46.400 --> 00:58:52.220
You have to want to hear what they have to say about spiritual matters and scriptures

1060
00:58:52.220 --> 00:58:53.640
and different things like that.

1061
00:58:53.640 --> 00:58:55.000
That's the most important quality.

1062
00:58:55.000 --> 00:58:56.000
Okay.

1063
00:58:56.000 --> 00:59:01.760
Put your hands down, put your hand up.

1064
00:59:01.760 --> 00:59:06.560
If you would say that the most important quality you is emotional connection.

1065
00:59:06.560 --> 00:59:10.000
You have to feel emotionally connected to them, safe with them.

1066
00:59:10.000 --> 00:59:13.600
You have to feel like you're seen known and loved by them.

1067
00:59:13.600 --> 00:59:16.560
That's the most important thing to you.

1068
00:59:16.560 --> 00:59:17.560
Lots of people in that category.

1069
00:59:17.560 --> 00:59:27.040
All right, put your hands down and no judgment, please be honest, but put your hand up.

1070
00:59:27.040 --> 00:59:31.060
If you think that the most important quality for you is that you would have a physical

1071
00:59:31.060 --> 00:59:37.040
connection that you would feel physically attracted to them and feel like you want to

1072
00:59:37.040 --> 00:59:43.240
be physically with them.

1073
00:59:43.240 --> 00:59:46.800
Doesn't mean that they're not all important friends at some level, but they're all not

1074
00:59:46.800 --> 00:59:48.980
priority important.

1075
00:59:48.980 --> 00:59:52.520
And that's why I'm asking you what your priority is.

1076
00:59:52.520 --> 01:00:00.080
I'm asking you to tell me which of those things are your most important priority in connection.

1077
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:17.900
action. Some of you are rating them now. All right. Nope. You guys, I was going to tell

1078
01:00:17.900 --> 01:00:21.960
you, I love you all, but I'm just going to tell you, you're not going to have all of

1079
01:00:21.960 --> 01:00:30.080
them. You're not, you're not going to have all of them. You're not, there's going to

1080
01:00:30.080 --> 01:00:33.660
be some that you just don't really click in that area and you're going to have to work

1081
01:00:33.660 --> 01:00:38.000
on it. It doesn't mean that it won't come together. It just means at the beginning,

1082
01:00:38.000 --> 01:00:45.520
it might not be there, right? It might not really be there that important that, that

1083
01:00:45.520 --> 01:00:48.520
much at the beginning. Like for instance, you might have a great emotional and spiritual

1084
01:00:48.520 --> 01:00:54.260
connection, but the conversation just isn't there. It has potential to be there, but

1085
01:00:54.260 --> 01:00:58.160
they like a lot of stuff that you don't like. And so when you talk, you know, you're talking

1086
01:00:58.160 --> 01:01:03.520
about stuff that, you know, might be a little bit boring to you. My husband and I have that

1087
01:01:03.520 --> 01:01:06.920
when we talk about something that we're both passionate about, we have great conversational

1088
01:01:06.920 --> 01:01:12.520
chemistry, but he's into a lot of stuff that I don't care about and vice versa. So I'm

1089
01:01:12.520 --> 01:01:16.800
just telling you ahead of time that while all of those things are definitely important

1090
01:01:16.800 --> 01:01:23.760
that we just mentioned, you may not have all of those in your match at first or ever.

1091
01:01:23.760 --> 01:01:31.480
So that's why it's important that you decide what's the most important thing to you, right?

1092
01:01:31.480 --> 01:01:38.040
I will say one thing about physical attraction. If your soul and your spirit are on board,

1093
01:01:38.040 --> 01:01:43.760
if your soul is attracted, you're emotionally attracted, um, and your, and your spirit is

1094
01:01:43.760 --> 01:01:48.760
on board, your spirit, you have spiritual synergy, your body will, your body will come

1095
01:01:48.760 --> 01:01:54.440
into, it'll come into alignment. It will. All right. When you trust someone, you feel

1096
01:01:54.440 --> 01:01:59.040
safe with someone, your body's going to come into alignment. Now, does that mean that you're

1097
01:01:59.040 --> 01:02:03.520
going to have like level 10 chemistry from the very beginning? Does it mean that from

1098
01:02:03.520 --> 01:02:07.480
the very first moment that you touch each other, it's going to be like electricity?

1099
01:02:07.480 --> 01:02:14.360
No, it does not mean that. Okay. Even when you go to consummate the marriage on the wedding

1100
01:02:14.360 --> 01:02:18.640
night and beyond, you know, as I said on the wedding night, right? Let's, let's save it

1101
01:02:18.640 --> 01:02:23.920
for then. Okay guys, come on. You don't got to kick the tires and take it on a test ride.

1102
01:02:23.920 --> 01:02:28.160
People actually say that to other people. Well, you know, I got to test drive the car.

1103
01:02:28.160 --> 01:02:36.200
Okay. Go down to Toyota then friend, because there is no test drives here. Okay. Come on,

1104
01:02:36.200 --> 01:02:41.760
come on. And some of you need to put that on your dating resume. You're not a Toyota.

1105
01:02:41.760 --> 01:02:46.720
You're a Rolls Royce. You guys, they don't let you test drive Rolls Royces. They do a

1106
01:02:46.720 --> 01:02:51.160
credit check on you and they see how much money you have in your bank account before

1107
01:02:51.160 --> 01:02:54.040
you're allowed to drive those cars because they want to make sure that you're actually

1108
01:02:54.040 --> 01:02:59.440
serious about buying it. You're not allowed to just put your dirty little butt in the

1109
01:02:59.440 --> 01:03:15.440
seat of the car and drive it around. That's important. It's important, right? So let's

1110
01:03:15.440 --> 01:03:21.960
make sure that we're not letting someone, you know, do all that stuff to see whether

1111
01:03:21.960 --> 01:03:27.600
or not they're that interested. Guys, I had, I'm telling you, Holy Spirit's bringing this

1112
01:03:27.600 --> 01:03:33.240
up to my mind. So I'm going to go ahead and say it. I had a woman and man at the very

1113
01:03:33.240 --> 01:03:39.000
beginning back in 2020 in this community, and they met here and they started talking

1114
01:03:39.000 --> 01:03:45.000
and they started dating and they got together in person and they were not physically attracted

1115
01:03:45.000 --> 01:03:49.920
to each other. And so they suggested to one another that perhaps they should sleep together

1116
01:03:49.920 --> 01:03:56.560
to see if the sexual attraction could grow. How dumb does that sound? Does that sound

1117
01:03:56.560 --> 01:04:01.760
dumb or is it just me? That sounds kind of dumb. All right. So if someone ever says that

1118
01:04:01.760 --> 01:04:08.520
to you, thank you next. Really? Seriously. So back to chemistry, the wedding night and

1119
01:04:08.520 --> 01:04:13.560
beyond, you're going to find your flow together. Every couple has to find their physical intimate

1120
01:04:13.560 --> 01:04:19.680
flow. Everybody, no matter what age you are, whether you're virgin and you've never had

1121
01:04:19.680 --> 01:04:25.320
any kind of physical intimacy. And my daughter's about to get married. She's 23, her and her,

1122
01:04:25.320 --> 01:04:32.360
her fiance, he's 27. They have, you know, I'm proud of them. They have managed to save

1123
01:04:32.360 --> 01:04:36.960
that for marriage. Both of them, neither one of them have been physically intimate with

1124
01:04:36.960 --> 01:04:42.520
anybody. And so guess what? Their wedding night's going to be interesting. They're going

1125
01:04:42.520 --> 01:04:46.480
to have a learning curve. They're going to find their passion for each other for sure.

1126
01:04:46.480 --> 01:04:51.600
But logistically, they're going to have to find out what works. We're all adults here.

1127
01:04:51.600 --> 01:04:58.240
And so you guys have to understand that that may not be at level 10, 10 right out the gate,

1128
01:04:58.240 --> 01:04:59.960
but it can grow and you can.

1129
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:09.040
find your flow. Okay. Right. Very important. And so in conversational chemistry, I don't like

1130
01:05:09.040 --> 01:05:14.000
polar opposites. I do not match polar opposites as a matchmaker. What is a polar opposite?

1131
01:05:14.000 --> 01:05:20.720
It just means that your likes and dislikes your energy, your personalities, everything's

1132
01:05:20.720 --> 01:05:26.480
polar opposite. It's exact opposite. I like complimentary opposites. I like things that

1133
01:05:26.480 --> 01:05:31.040
go together. They're not alike, but they compliment each other. I try not to match

1134
01:05:31.040 --> 01:05:35.520
people that are too alike. And I try not to match people that are way too different because when

1135
01:05:35.520 --> 01:05:39.920
you're way too different, there has a tendency for there not to be a lot of understanding where

1136
01:05:39.920 --> 01:05:46.880
the other person's coming from or what the other person wants and needs. So it's really important

1137
01:05:46.880 --> 01:05:51.680
that we're not oil and water. Remember that doesn't mix polar opposites. I always like to say,

1138
01:05:52.400 --> 01:05:57.200
opposites attract, but they don't cohabitate. A lot of times you might be attracted to someone

1139
01:05:57.200 --> 01:06:02.400
who's very, very different from you, but you have to play out. What does that look like in

1140
01:06:02.400 --> 01:06:11.520
everyday life? Does it make sense in everyday life? Or is it just something exciting because

1141
01:06:11.520 --> 01:06:16.080
it's different than anything that you've ever experienced before, but in everyday life,

1142
01:06:17.040 --> 01:06:23.200
it doesn't really play out well. Okay. Non-negotiables, go for it. From heaven,

1143
01:06:23.200 --> 01:06:28.160
you guys, I love you, but if you post non-negotiable that is not from heaven,

1144
01:06:28.160 --> 01:06:34.000
I'm going to correct that and let you know that that one's not from heaven.

1145
01:06:35.360 --> 01:06:39.920
So for those of you that have not heard that teaching, non-negotiables from heaven would be

1146
01:06:39.920 --> 01:06:45.280
like, I can't relocate because I have a shared parenting agreement and my kids are only six and

1147
01:06:45.360 --> 01:06:51.440
eight. And so for the next 12, 13 years, I can't relocate. So my non-negotiables,

1148
01:06:51.440 --> 01:06:55.520
the person would either have to be local or they would have to want to relocate to me.

1149
01:06:55.520 --> 01:07:06.160
That's a heaven non-negotiable. All right. So some of you are already throwing those up.

1150
01:07:06.160 --> 01:07:10.160
Make sure you write them on your paper. Okay. Don't just write them here. Write them on your

1151
01:07:10.160 --> 01:07:24.880
paper. And these are not just things that are non-negotiable that you don't want. They

1152
01:07:24.880 --> 01:07:28.960
could also be non-negotiable that you do want and you have to have, and it's a deal breaker

1153
01:07:28.960 --> 01:07:36.000
if it's not there. Jackie, I have a quick question.

1154
01:07:36.720 --> 01:07:41.440
Sure. So, you know, all of the, those of us that are, you know,

1155
01:07:43.920 --> 01:07:48.720
OGs and have gone through the different heart work and all of the different,

1156
01:07:50.000 --> 01:07:57.920
like sheets we had to fill out, where are those now? Can we get to those,

1157
01:07:58.720 --> 01:08:03.040
the ones that are empty to fill out, like, you know, heart healing, like,

1158
01:08:04.800 --> 01:08:11.600
revealing to healing, those kinds of sheets. Okay. So those are like heart work, heart work

1159
01:08:11.600 --> 01:08:16.399
sheets. Yeah. And like the non, the, to heaven non-negotiables.

1160
01:08:18.000 --> 01:08:22.960
Bethany, why don't we, Bethany's here tonight, y'all. She's be, you know, here helping moderate.

1161
01:08:23.760 --> 01:08:29.760
Bethany, why don't we put those under the resource tab in phase three and phase two,

1162
01:08:29.760 --> 01:08:33.760
and then men's group so that they can download those. So put them in like a down,

1163
01:08:33.760 --> 01:08:39.680
a resources downloads tab. Okay. Thank you. All right. Thank you, Stacey. So that's where

1164
01:08:39.680 --> 01:08:42.960
they'll be. You guys don't look for them tomorrow. It might take a couple of days,

1165
01:08:42.960 --> 01:08:48.080
give us till next week. And we'll have those up for y'all. Those of you, well, no one here would

1166
01:08:48.080 --> 01:08:53.840
be in, in heart work still because they're in phase one and they're not in the past session.

1167
01:08:53.840 --> 01:08:57.920
All right. Non-negotiables start posting them if you dare, because

1168
01:09:00.080 --> 01:09:07.279
I'm going to, I'm going to turn into Gandalf. You shall not pass. Okay. If it is not the right thing.

1169
01:09:07.920 --> 01:09:11.920
And if you don't understand the Lord of the rings reference, then that's a deal breaker for me.

1170
01:09:11.920 --> 01:09:21.279
Just kidding. That would not be an example of a real deal breaker. Okay. Okay. Smoking and

1171
01:09:21.279 --> 01:09:27.520
addiction. Some of you are like no smoking at all ever cigars, ladies, cigars too. No smoking,

1172
01:09:27.520 --> 01:09:32.080
nothing. I mean, cigarettes are stinking and gross and they're terrible and they'll kill you.

1173
01:09:33.120 --> 01:09:38.800
So I know every once in a while, there are some men that like every once in a while cigar,

1174
01:09:38.800 --> 01:09:44.640
kind of a man thing. So no smoking addictions, obvious you guys, some of these are obvious.

1175
01:09:44.640 --> 01:09:47.920
Of course, we don't want any, we won't want, we don't want to be with someone who has an

1176
01:09:47.920 --> 01:09:52.399
active addiction, but are you open to someone who has a recovered addiction?

1177
01:09:54.400 --> 01:09:59.840
That's a question you need to ask yourself. Not open to travel moving for purpose of mission.

1178
01:10:00.000 --> 01:10:03.960
And so you are a missionary, Kristen, that is called to a specific region.

1179
01:10:03.960 --> 01:10:07.680
And you're saying, God has called me here and I am not open to moving.

1180
01:10:11.520 --> 01:10:14.640
Or you're saying, I don't want to marry a missionary that wants me to move.

1181
01:10:14.840 --> 01:10:16.200
Kristen, help us with that.

1182
01:10:16.880 --> 01:10:17.440
Which is it?

1183
01:10:21.640 --> 01:10:23.280
Kristen Ashley.

1184
01:10:23.280 --> 01:10:23.800
Okay.

1185
01:10:24.120 --> 01:10:25.320
Some clarity on that would be good.

1186
01:10:25.640 --> 01:10:26.160
Oh, yeah.

1187
01:10:26.160 --> 01:10:26.520
Sorry.

1188
01:10:26.520 --> 01:10:27.720
I was just, yeah.

1189
01:10:27.760 --> 01:10:31.320
Um, for me, I know God's called me to mission.

1190
01:10:31.320 --> 01:10:38.280
So having someone who's open, uh, to moving for the purpose of missions is

1191
01:10:38.280 --> 01:10:39.160
what I was trying to say.

1192
01:10:39.920 --> 01:10:40.160
Okay.

1193
01:10:40.160 --> 01:10:42.320
So Kristen, let me, let me tweak that for you.

1194
01:10:42.360 --> 01:10:45.200
Cause I have a lot of missionaries, obviously, that come through my programs

1195
01:10:45.440 --> 01:10:47.120
and I've helped missionaries get married.

1196
01:10:47.400 --> 01:10:50.800
So you guys, for the purposes of this video, I'm going to ask you to

1197
01:10:50.960 --> 01:10:51.600
get married.

1198
01:10:51.600 --> 01:10:55.280
So you guys, for those of you that have had a calling at some point in your life

1199
01:10:55.280 --> 01:10:56.960
to missions, okay.

1200
01:10:56.960 --> 01:11:01.120
To a mission, you know, traditional missions, meaning that you would

1201
01:11:01.120 --> 01:11:04.120
relocate somewhere to do the work of the kingdom, whether it's another

1202
01:11:04.120 --> 01:11:05.600
country, another state.

1203
01:11:06.160 --> 01:11:06.680
Okay.

1204
01:11:07.000 --> 01:11:10.280
Um, I want you to surrender that pen to God.

1205
01:11:10.360 --> 01:11:13.280
I know that, you know, at your, in your heart, you are a missionary.

1206
01:11:13.320 --> 01:11:16.360
We're all missionaries just so you know, we're all called to the mission of

1207
01:11:16.360 --> 01:11:17.960
bringing the kingdom wherever we go.

1208
01:11:17.960 --> 01:11:21.160
But for those of you that in the past have been, you know, had a certain

1209
01:11:21.160 --> 01:11:23.840
burden for a certain country, but maybe you're not there anymore.

1210
01:11:23.840 --> 01:11:27.240
And you're continuing to hold out because God called you there before.

1211
01:11:27.240 --> 01:11:28.360
And maybe you're going to go back.

1212
01:11:28.720 --> 01:11:32.640
You don't need someone and you don't need to ask someone like, Hey, are you

1213
01:11:32.640 --> 01:11:34.320
willing to move for missions?

1214
01:11:34.320 --> 01:11:35.240
Are you willing to be a missionary?

1215
01:11:35.240 --> 01:11:35.840
I'm a missionary.

1216
01:11:35.840 --> 01:11:36.520
Are you a missionary?

1217
01:11:36.520 --> 01:11:37.680
Cause I need to marry a missionary.

1218
01:11:38.080 --> 01:11:43.000
No, instead you need to find someone who is willing to do whatever God calls

1219
01:11:43.000 --> 01:11:45.080
whatever God calls them to do.

1220
01:11:46.400 --> 01:11:48.280
They are willing to move.

1221
01:11:48.320 --> 01:11:49.680
They are willing to relocate.

1222
01:11:49.680 --> 01:11:51.840
They're willing to quit their job and get a different job.

1223
01:11:51.840 --> 01:11:53.320
They're willing to go back to school.

1224
01:11:53.560 --> 01:11:56.600
They are someone who is sold out for the cause of Christ.

1225
01:11:57.120 --> 01:12:00.920
They are Christ's follower and they are willing and open and able.

1226
01:12:01.400 --> 01:12:04.240
Because they don't have a shared pairing agreement, which keeps them landlocked.

1227
01:12:04.480 --> 01:12:08.480
They are able to do whatever it is that God calls them to do.

1228
01:12:09.040 --> 01:12:10.520
That should be the real question.

1229
01:12:10.720 --> 01:12:14.280
Hey, you know, would you, would you do anything that God called you to do?

1230
01:12:14.280 --> 01:12:16.800
Would you be open to anything that God asked you to do?

1231
01:12:16.960 --> 01:12:18.040
Those are the real questions.

1232
01:12:18.040 --> 01:12:20.240
Not do you want to be a missionary?

1233
01:12:20.720 --> 01:12:21.080
Okay.

1234
01:12:22.000 --> 01:12:24.280
Relocation because my youngest is 12.

1235
01:12:24.320 --> 01:12:24.680
Okay.

1236
01:12:24.680 --> 01:12:26.560
So, so Angie can't relocate.

1237
01:12:26.600 --> 01:12:27.560
That is permissible.

1238
01:12:27.880 --> 01:12:31.160
I believe God said my heart needs to say yes.

1239
01:12:31.280 --> 01:12:32.960
Um, uh, okay.

1240
01:12:33.680 --> 01:12:35.960
Thomas, you want to give some clarity to that?

1241
01:12:35.960 --> 01:12:37.400
Cause not really sure what that means.

1242
01:12:38.440 --> 01:12:39.280
Passion for God.

1243
01:12:39.280 --> 01:12:41.160
Paul, how would you measure passion for God?

1244
01:12:41.160 --> 01:12:43.720
Everyone's passion kind of looks different.

1245
01:12:43.720 --> 01:12:44.440
Thomas, what do you got?

1246
01:12:45.760 --> 01:12:51.120
Um, yeah, well, I didn't, um, I didn't follow my heart for a long, long time.

1247
01:12:51.280 --> 01:12:54.560
And when I've dated people, I've frequently thought, oh, well I should do

1248
01:12:54.560 --> 01:12:56.760
this or I should do that or something along those lines.

1249
01:12:56.800 --> 01:13:00.680
And I feel like, um, even in the list of things that God's given me to kind of

1250
01:13:00.680 --> 01:13:04.280
look for, God has said, this is to guide you, what you really need to pay

1251
01:13:04.280 --> 01:13:05.880
attention to is your heart saying yes.

1252
01:13:07.720 --> 01:13:08.920
Okay, cool.

1253
01:13:09.840 --> 01:13:10.200
Right.

1254
01:13:10.320 --> 01:13:11.040
That's fair.

1255
01:13:11.120 --> 01:13:13.440
And I will give you a yellow flag on that.

1256
01:13:13.920 --> 01:13:16.960
I won't call it a red flag because we need to make sure that you

1257
01:13:16.960 --> 01:13:18.440
don't have avoid an attachment.

1258
01:13:19.560 --> 01:13:21.720
Because in that case, your heart would not be saying yes.

1259
01:13:21.720 --> 01:13:23.520
Your heart would always be saying danger.

1260
01:13:23.960 --> 01:13:30.400
And so, um, but yes, in a perfect scenario with a healed, healthy and whole heart.

1261
01:13:30.480 --> 01:13:30.800
Yes.

1262
01:13:30.800 --> 01:13:32.320
We want our heart to say yes, of course.

1263
01:13:32.800 --> 01:13:34.000
And then passion for God.

1264
01:13:34.000 --> 01:13:35.760
Also, that's kind of hard to measure Paul.

1265
01:13:35.760 --> 01:13:37.920
So what do you, what do you mean by that specifically?

1266
01:13:40.280 --> 01:13:41.000
I can't hear me.

1267
01:13:41.680 --> 01:13:41.960
Yep.

1268
01:13:42.760 --> 01:13:50.560
Uh, just willing to do something, uh, if it means a move somewhere else, or maybe

1269
01:13:51.560 --> 01:13:55.440
you're going to feel, felt called to missions, but if that was to come up,

1270
01:13:56.120 --> 01:14:02.960
just being willing to go where God calls us or do where minister where God calls us.

1271
01:14:04.400 --> 01:14:04.760
Yeah.

1272
01:14:05.240 --> 01:14:05.800
Yes.

1273
01:14:05.800 --> 01:14:08.560
You guys, just so you know, that's the only reason you're on earth.

1274
01:14:09.080 --> 01:14:10.080
That's all you're here for.

1275
01:14:10.960 --> 01:14:14.200
You know, you're here to just, to, to be a minister of reconciliation.

1276
01:14:14.200 --> 01:14:16.520
And that's going to look different through all of our lives and through

1277
01:14:16.520 --> 01:14:19.480
all of our gifts and talents and the different ways that all of

1278
01:14:19.480 --> 01:14:20.600
us are going to walk that out.

1279
01:14:21.200 --> 01:14:26.200
But if we're prioritizing anything beyond that in our lives, then we love the world.

1280
01:14:27.720 --> 01:14:28.720
We're living for this life.

1281
01:14:28.720 --> 01:14:30.160
We're living for temporary.

1282
01:14:30.160 --> 01:14:31.360
We're living for temporary.

1283
01:14:31.360 --> 01:14:32.560
We're living for temporary.

1284
01:14:33.560 --> 01:14:34.600
We're living for this life.

1285
01:14:34.600 --> 01:14:38.800
We're living for temporary pleasure and temporary things that are not eternal.

1286
01:14:39.560 --> 01:14:42.320
Each and every one of us should be living for eternity.

1287
01:14:42.440 --> 01:14:44.800
And that's going to look different on all of our lives because

1288
01:14:44.800 --> 01:14:46.080
we all have different callings.

1289
01:14:46.480 --> 01:14:49.800
But we definitely should want someone who doesn't want to

1290
01:14:49.800 --> 01:14:51.200
just pay bills and die someday.

1291
01:14:52.240 --> 01:14:55.440
They want to do something that echoes through eternity.

1292
01:14:55.720 --> 01:14:56.120
Right.

1293
01:14:56.720 --> 01:15:00.000
And one of the things that you can do that echoes through eternity is raise a family.

1294
01:15:00.000 --> 01:15:04.000
and raise a family. Well, because if you raise your family, well,

1295
01:15:04.000 --> 01:15:06.400
then they're probably going to grow up and raise their family. Well,

1296
01:15:06.400 --> 01:15:08.440
and then we're going to have lineage and legacy. Right.

1297
01:15:08.640 --> 01:15:10.720
And that's really important. Okay.

1298
01:15:10.840 --> 01:15:14.940
Supportive of me doing ministry and serving in ministry as a woman. Okay.

1299
01:15:14.940 --> 01:15:17.840
So she's saying a non-negotiable as someone who doesn't think women should

1300
01:15:17.840 --> 01:15:21.840
speak in the church or doesn't think women should do ministry. That's fair.

1301
01:15:22.200 --> 01:15:26.640
Porn anger outbursts. Well, hello. Of course,

1302
01:15:26.640 --> 01:15:30.960
that's a non-negotiable any kind of abuse you guys is obviously a non-negotiable

1303
01:15:31.680 --> 01:15:36.200
smoking. I have asthma. Okay. Smoking just in general. I mean,

1304
01:15:36.240 --> 01:15:40.120
obviously we don't want to be with people who have unhealthy habits that are

1305
01:15:40.120 --> 01:15:43.120
killing them. Not harsh, gentle,

1306
01:15:44.440 --> 01:15:45.080
flexible.

1307
01:15:45.080 --> 01:15:49.160
So a non-negotiable for her as being with someone who is aggressive and not

1308
01:15:49.160 --> 01:15:53.320
gentle and not flexible smoking. A lot of you putting smoking up. Okay.

1309
01:15:53.680 --> 01:15:58.620
Loves. God wants to serve others, drugs, alcohol, smoking,

1310
01:15:58.620 --> 01:16:02.560
drinking substance-free non-smoking. So here's,

1311
01:16:02.560 --> 01:16:05.760
here's one you guys can't live with cats,

1312
01:16:06.680 --> 01:16:09.560
awful allergies. So Elaine is allergic to cats.

1313
01:16:09.560 --> 01:16:11.240
She can't be with someone who has a cat.

1314
01:16:12.160 --> 01:16:15.440
Some of you have preferences where you don't like animals,

1315
01:16:15.440 --> 01:16:18.120
but you're not allergic to animals. You don't like them,

1316
01:16:18.840 --> 01:16:20.080
but you're not allergic to them.

1317
01:16:20.280 --> 01:16:23.560
Just recently I had a conversation with a client. They said, Oh,

1318
01:16:23.560 --> 01:16:25.840
I'm allergic to fill in the blank. And I said, Oh,

1319
01:16:25.840 --> 01:16:30.240
what happens to you when you're around fill in the blank? And they said,

1320
01:16:30.760 --> 01:16:34.400
well, I just, you know, I get disgusted by them. That's not an allergy

1321
01:16:36.480 --> 01:16:39.400
just because you don't like something doesn't make it an allergy. Okay.

1322
01:16:39.480 --> 01:16:40.520
Those are preferences.

1323
01:16:40.520 --> 01:16:43.280
And I really want to encourage you to lay those preferences down because you

1324
01:16:43.280 --> 01:16:46.360
might've had a bad experience with someone's animal or someone who didn't keep

1325
01:16:46.360 --> 01:16:49.360
a clean house because they had an animal, but that's not everybody.

1326
01:16:50.360 --> 01:16:54.040
So if you're allergic and you can't be around an animal, okay, fine.

1327
01:16:54.440 --> 01:16:57.920
But if you just don't want to be around an animal, let's let that go.

1328
01:16:58.440 --> 01:17:01.520
Has to be emotionally mature. Once again, those are things that,

1329
01:17:01.960 --> 01:17:05.360
how do we measure that? What does that mean? Dogs, cats,

1330
01:17:05.360 --> 01:17:09.600
smoking is due to allergies. Okay. Abusive. Okay. Of course, no abuse.

1331
01:17:10.320 --> 01:17:13.360
Okay. Robin said a non-negotiable for her is they have to be health conscious.

1332
01:17:13.400 --> 01:17:16.440
They have to care about their health. They have to care.

1333
01:17:16.560 --> 01:17:19.280
They can't just be sitting around eating Twinkies sitting in the chair.

1334
01:17:20.160 --> 01:17:23.760
You know, and for a lot of you, I think that should be a non-negotiable.

1335
01:17:23.760 --> 01:17:25.120
You don't want to be look,

1336
01:17:25.280 --> 01:17:28.000
there's some things that we can't predict and there's a lot of healthy people

1337
01:17:28.000 --> 01:17:28.560
that get sick.

1338
01:17:28.560 --> 01:17:31.680
There's a lot of people that treated their bodies right and didn't do bad things

1339
01:17:31.680 --> 01:17:35.000
to their bodies and you know, disease and disease still finds them.

1340
01:17:36.880 --> 01:17:41.120
But I feel like a non-negotiable for all of us should be that we want to be,

1341
01:17:41.120 --> 01:17:44.720
and we want to be with people who are respecting the temple that God gave us.

1342
01:17:45.160 --> 01:17:47.480
And then we're taking the best care that we know how of it.

1343
01:17:48.480 --> 01:17:49.880
When you know to do better, you do better.

1344
01:17:49.880 --> 01:17:52.520
Some people don't know to do better yet, but when they know to do better,

1345
01:17:52.520 --> 01:17:55.000
they do better. No gambling, lying, cheating. Of course not.

1346
01:17:55.360 --> 01:17:58.800
Must want children and want to foster and adopt. Okay. That's a big one.

1347
01:17:58.800 --> 01:18:01.880
Look at that. Not only must they want children,

1348
01:18:02.800 --> 01:18:05.960
she feels like she has a calling to foster and adopt children.

1349
01:18:06.640 --> 01:18:11.040
So that's something that definitely would need to be discussed.

1350
01:18:11.960 --> 01:18:16.960
Okay. I'm just going to skip all the ones that talk about drugs and alcohol and

1351
01:18:16.960 --> 01:18:21.240
abuse. Cause that's, that's just a no brainer relationship with Christ,

1352
01:18:21.280 --> 01:18:24.400
open and fostering and adopting. Okay. Some of you ladies,

1353
01:18:24.680 --> 01:18:26.880
you feel like you're too old to have a child,

1354
01:18:27.200 --> 01:18:30.080
which I want you to keep an open mind about that because God promised us

1355
01:18:30.120 --> 01:18:34.440
miracles in conception in this group. Um, so, uh,

1356
01:18:34.480 --> 01:18:36.920
but at the same time, you want to be a mother.

1357
01:18:36.920 --> 01:18:40.520
So you want someone who is willing not only to foster and adopt,

1358
01:18:40.520 --> 01:18:44.400
but some of you are older. Okay. You're like in your late forties, fifties,

1359
01:18:44.400 --> 01:18:46.560
maybe even older than that. So you don't,

1360
01:18:46.880 --> 01:18:49.080
it's not just you want them to be able to foster adopt.

1361
01:18:49.120 --> 01:18:51.760
You're asking for someone at your age,

1362
01:18:51.880 --> 01:18:55.480
a man that's your age to be willing to raise a child,

1363
01:18:56.720 --> 01:18:59.120
right. At these older ages.

1364
01:18:59.200 --> 01:19:03.880
So that's also important for you to make part of this dating resume

1365
01:19:04.960 --> 01:19:09.600
must want kids. All right. Goodbye. See you later.

1366
01:19:10.080 --> 01:19:11.560
I'm generous, generous.

1367
01:19:12.000 --> 01:19:15.880
That also is something that's difficult to assess. What does that mean to you?

1368
01:19:15.880 --> 01:19:18.520
I want you for those of you that I said, Hey, what does that mean?

1369
01:19:18.920 --> 01:19:22.840
Really think about what that means so that you can clarify what that means.

1370
01:19:22.840 --> 01:19:27.480
Cause those are very vague kind of statements. Okay. No alcohol, no drugs,

1371
01:19:27.480 --> 01:19:28.320
no sex.

1372
01:19:31.120 --> 01:19:36.000
Your cat's name is Gandalf. Very funny. All right.

1373
01:19:36.440 --> 01:19:40.240
Someone you want someone who's financially responsible. Look at these,

1374
01:19:40.800 --> 01:19:44.160
someone who has done well with their money,

1375
01:19:44.240 --> 01:19:48.120
not someone who's in tons of debt. Now you guys,

1376
01:19:48.280 --> 01:19:51.560
that could be a non-negotiable, but if that person made mistakes in the past,

1377
01:19:51.560 --> 01:19:53.800
but they've learned from those mistakes and now they're,

1378
01:19:53.920 --> 01:19:57.400
they have a plan and they're working that plan to get out of debt.

1379
01:19:57.800 --> 01:19:59.920
I think that should, I think that.

1380
01:20:00.000 --> 01:20:04.200
should be a green flag. Okay. And let's talk about the perfect date.

1381
01:20:04.640 --> 01:20:07.520
What do you want to do on a date? And this is really important because,

1382
01:20:07.520 --> 01:20:11.200
you know, a lot of times no one, no one knows what to do.

1383
01:20:12.280 --> 01:20:14.400
What do you want to do? And here, let me give you a hint.

1384
01:20:14.800 --> 01:20:16.360
You should choose things that,

1385
01:20:17.240 --> 01:20:21.520
that either form connection very quickly because you're doing something together.

1386
01:20:21.520 --> 01:20:25.400
You're solving a problem together, like go to an escape room, you know,

1387
01:20:25.520 --> 01:20:28.080
something that's you're competing against each other,

1388
01:20:28.080 --> 01:20:32.240
like putt-putt golf or top golf, you know, top golf is a really fun game.

1389
01:20:32.480 --> 01:20:36.560
I honestly prefer top golf to putt-putt golf. I don't like putt-putt golf. Okay.

1390
01:20:36.560 --> 01:20:39.800
Top golf is fun. You know, something ax throwing, Lauren said,

1391
01:20:39.800 --> 01:20:40.880
I was really bad at that.

1392
01:20:40.880 --> 01:20:45.200
So I would choose things that make me look good. Gentlemen,

1393
01:20:45.200 --> 01:20:49.160
ladies you know, if you're a great singer, maybe you want to go to karaoke,

1394
01:20:49.200 --> 01:20:52.240
you know, something besides just sitting in drinking coffee,

1395
01:20:52.520 --> 01:20:55.000
but let's put up some options for dates.

1396
01:20:55.320 --> 01:21:00.160
So that way you can suggest some things to people. If you're really active.

1397
01:21:00.960 --> 01:21:03.600
I don't think it's a good idea to go out in the woods with someone that you've

1398
01:21:03.600 --> 01:21:07.640
never, you'd have never met. You met online. Okay.

1399
01:21:07.960 --> 01:21:12.200
Don't go out hiking in the woods by yourself with a stranger from the internet.

1400
01:21:12.440 --> 01:21:16.560
Does that sound smart? That doesn't sound like a good idea. All right.

1401
01:21:18.800 --> 01:21:21.480
Don't do that. Don't do that.

1402
01:21:21.800 --> 01:21:25.200
Pickleball, ice skating, inline skating, lots of things.

1403
01:21:25.200 --> 01:21:27.360
Someone said skydiving for a date. Okay.

1404
01:21:28.520 --> 01:21:33.040
You guys are the sky diving tonight, walking on a public trail. Yes.

1405
01:21:33.040 --> 01:21:36.160
Stacy with lots of people out in the open

1406
01:21:38.160 --> 01:21:39.280
with your own car

1407
01:21:42.040 --> 01:21:43.040
and no bears

1408
01:21:44.000 --> 01:21:45.080
and no bears

1409
01:21:50.200 --> 01:21:53.840
bowling only if you're good at it. Right.

1410
01:21:54.120 --> 01:21:57.360
Or I guess it could be super fun and funny bookstore

1411
01:21:59.960 --> 01:22:02.920
music store. Okay.

1412
01:22:04.560 --> 01:22:06.080
Yard games at a park.

1413
01:22:14.000 --> 01:22:19.000
Does having anyone have anything super unique that no one else has said like

1414
01:22:19.000 --> 01:22:22.640
something that you did on a date or you've always wanted to do on a date.

1415
01:22:22.640 --> 01:22:25.520
Cause you thought it sounded really great. Farmer's market. That's fun.

1416
01:22:28.440 --> 01:22:29.640
Blind taste testing.

1417
01:22:31.360 --> 01:22:34.600
Also you guys alcohol with first, second dates, third dates.

1418
01:22:34.760 --> 01:22:38.120
I don't love the idea. Like don't go like on a wine tasting.

1419
01:22:38.240 --> 01:22:41.840
I wouldn't do that. A pub crawl. I wouldn't do that.

1420
01:22:41.920 --> 01:22:44.360
I mean, you guys aren't putting that up. I'm just saying an art crawl,

1421
01:22:44.360 --> 01:22:47.120
paint your own canvas. You have those painting classes. That could be fun.

1422
01:22:47.560 --> 01:22:50.360
Although if you're a really good painter, then you can really show off.

1423
01:22:50.360 --> 01:22:51.840
But if you're a terrible painter,

1424
01:22:52.800 --> 01:22:55.760
I've seen people show the paintings they did of each other. And you're like,

1425
01:22:55.760 --> 01:22:59.880
Whoa, that's really bad. Cooking class together.

1426
01:22:59.880 --> 01:23:02.240
I think that would be really fun. Maybe for like a third,

1427
01:23:02.240 --> 01:23:03.840
fourth or fifth day of the week.

1428
01:23:04.400 --> 01:23:06.680
Cooking class together. I think that would be really fun.

1429
01:23:06.680 --> 01:23:09.680
Maybe for like a third, fourth date. That could be fun.

1430
01:23:11.640 --> 01:23:15.800
Some of you are like no alcohol ever. A lot of Christians do drink alcohol.

1431
01:23:15.800 --> 01:23:18.440
Just so you guys know that doesn't make them less of a Christian.

1432
01:23:18.440 --> 01:23:20.040
If you think that then you're wrong.

1433
01:23:20.920 --> 01:23:25.520
But we do want to make sure that we are not drunken and we are not doing

1434
01:23:25.520 --> 01:23:30.360
crazy things because our inhibitions are lowered from drinking too much.

1435
01:23:30.800 --> 01:23:34.960
Right. Make sure that that's not the case for you or for your date.

1436
01:23:35.800 --> 01:23:36.840
I know a lot of people are like, Hey,

1437
01:23:36.840 --> 01:23:39.320
we should meet up for drinks for our first date. I wouldn't do that.

1438
01:23:40.400 --> 01:23:44.200
I wouldn't when people, when people drink alcohol,

1439
01:23:44.200 --> 01:23:48.520
even if they're not drunk, it loosens the lips. It loosens the tongue.

1440
01:23:48.520 --> 01:23:50.800
Sometimes you say things, you share things,

1441
01:23:50.800 --> 01:23:54.280
you just go a little overboard. All right. Play board games.

1442
01:23:55.240 --> 01:23:58.160
Columbus zoo. Okay. Live in Columbus. Great. Salsa.

1443
01:23:59.080 --> 01:24:01.920
Meringue praise.

1444
01:24:01.920 --> 01:24:05.280
Jam. Oh, another thing that I wouldn't suggest doing on early days is taking

1445
01:24:05.280 --> 01:24:06.160
them to your church,

1446
01:24:06.640 --> 01:24:09.240
taking them to a worship night where you're worshiping together. You guys,

1447
01:24:09.240 --> 01:24:14.200
that's very intimate. And I think that it can cause a lot of,

1448
01:24:14.760 --> 01:24:18.520
you know, missed, missed expectations. If you feel,

1449
01:24:18.520 --> 01:24:20.640
if you're not a Christian, you're not a Christian,

1450
01:24:20.840 --> 01:24:24.080
you know, missed, missed expectations. If you feel,

1451
01:24:24.080 --> 01:24:26.840
if you're feeling the intimacy of the spirit with each other,

1452
01:24:26.840 --> 01:24:29.360
you could think that you're feeling something for each other.

1453
01:24:29.640 --> 01:24:30.920
I just don't think it's a great idea.

1454
01:24:32.560 --> 01:24:36.040
Right. Encouraging words on rocks and hide them everywhere.

1455
01:24:36.080 --> 01:24:38.480
And also rock hunting. Okay. So you're saying like,

1456
01:24:38.480 --> 01:24:40.600
do some sort of like ministry thing together,

1457
01:24:40.600 --> 01:24:44.720
like where you like encourage people and go do something because that could be a

1458
01:24:44.720 --> 01:24:49.040
fun date. A fun date could do something, do something like, um, you know,

1459
01:24:49.040 --> 01:24:52.520
some type of like going to feed the homeless or something like doing some sort

1460
01:24:52.520 --> 01:24:55.480
of service together. That could be interesting. Right.

1461
01:24:57.400 --> 01:24:59.560
Maybe not a first date, but a date.

1462
01:25:00.320 --> 01:25:04.320
Okay. All right, you guys. So here's your dating resume.

1463
01:25:04.320 --> 01:25:06.240
I really want to encourage you to print this out.

1464
01:25:06.240 --> 01:25:09.280
We'll put it up in your groups so that you can print out the PDF.

1465
01:25:09.280 --> 01:25:13.440
I would fill it in. And once again, you know, keep working on it with Holy spirit,

1466
01:25:14.400 --> 01:25:16.880
especially the part about the qualities about yourself.

1467
01:25:16.880 --> 01:25:20.720
What are you bringing to the table? What are you bringing to the table

1468
01:25:20.720 --> 01:25:25.600
that someone else should really value about you and that your perfect partner,

1469
01:25:25.600 --> 01:25:29.040
your ideal partner, your spirit mate would really,

1470
01:25:30.240 --> 01:25:32.960
would really be valuing about you. Like, think about it.

1471
01:25:32.960 --> 01:25:36.080
Like I'm writing these things down. And if my spirit mate was doing the same

1472
01:25:36.080 --> 01:25:38.800
activity over what they're looking for,

1473
01:25:38.800 --> 01:25:41.840
they would be writing the things that I'm writing down about who I am.

1474
01:25:42.400 --> 01:25:43.280
Do you guys see what I mean?

1475
01:25:46.320 --> 01:25:49.440
And the great thing is, is that when you get to know someone a little bit better,

1476
01:25:49.440 --> 01:25:52.880
you can say you can, you can use some of these prompts with them,

1477
01:25:53.760 --> 01:25:56.080
kind of find out where it is that they are.

1478
01:25:56.080 --> 01:25:58.960
And I just want to tell you guys something for those of you that are very marriage

1479
01:25:58.960 --> 01:26:00.880
minded and you're very marriage minded right now,

1480
01:26:00.880 --> 01:26:04.240
there's nothing wrong with when you are getting to know someone,

1481
01:26:04.240 --> 01:26:06.960
even in the first few dates of getting to know someone,

1482
01:26:07.520 --> 01:26:11.200
asking them like, you know, where they see themselves,

1483
01:26:11.200 --> 01:26:14.480
you know, in the next few years, there's nothing wrong with that.

1484
01:26:15.840 --> 01:26:19.200
Where do they see themselves in the next few years? It's okay to say to them,

1485
01:26:19.200 --> 01:26:21.440
Hey, are you looking for something serious? You know,

1486
01:26:22.080 --> 01:26:24.720
I'm not saying with me, but like, you know,

1487
01:26:24.720 --> 01:26:27.920
why are you on the apps or why are you out here dating? As you know,

1488
01:26:27.920 --> 01:26:30.960
is that your end goal? Are you looking for something serious?

1489
01:26:30.960 --> 01:26:33.040
Are you looking for marriage? You know,

1490
01:26:33.040 --> 01:26:36.080
because that's why I'm out in these streets. You know, you,

1491
01:26:36.080 --> 01:26:39.040
it's okay to share that because if that spooks them,

1492
01:26:39.040 --> 01:26:41.280
when you're not trying to make it about you and them,

1493
01:26:41.280 --> 01:26:44.400
you're just having a conversation and you're sharing some of the things from

1494
01:26:44.400 --> 01:26:48.880
your dating resume with them. And that spooks them. Then guess what?

1495
01:26:48.880 --> 01:26:52.480
They're not ready for a relationship. If they get spooked by that conversation

1496
01:26:53.520 --> 01:26:56.000
right now, if you're doodling their name on your napkin,

1497
01:26:56.000 --> 01:26:59.120
while you're talking to them and you're seeing how their last name fits with

1498
01:26:59.120 --> 01:27:01.760
your first name, then that's a problem. Okay.

1499
01:27:01.760 --> 01:27:04.560
But if you're just asking them an honest question about,

1500
01:27:06.240 --> 01:27:09.600
you know, what is your, what's your end goal with dating?

1501
01:27:11.280 --> 01:27:15.440
You know, are you looking for a serious relationship that leads to marriage?

1502
01:27:16.400 --> 01:27:19.840
Yes. Kim out in these streets. So wild, wild West out here.

1503
01:27:21.760 --> 01:27:24.880
All right. Solve a sunrise and look for shark teeth afterwards.

1504
01:27:24.880 --> 01:27:28.960
That sounds like a fun date. Anything that has sunset sunrise y'all.

1505
01:27:30.160 --> 01:27:34.640
That sounds fun guys. Here's a few pro tips.

1506
01:27:34.640 --> 01:27:36.640
If you're going to do something with a woman, you know,

1507
01:27:36.640 --> 01:27:40.000
like in the daytime, like in the, in the morning and you're like, Hey,

1508
01:27:40.640 --> 01:27:44.320
um, you know, let's meet up here and go for a walk,

1509
01:27:44.400 --> 01:27:45.680
you know, watch the sunrise.

1510
01:27:45.680 --> 01:27:49.520
Especially since you found out that she's an early riser and she's local to you.

1511
01:27:49.520 --> 01:27:53.280
Let's meet up at the park and, you know, walk around the Lake.

1512
01:27:53.280 --> 01:27:54.560
You know, there'll be a lot of people there.

1513
01:27:54.560 --> 01:27:56.640
A lot of people walk in the morning like that.

1514
01:27:56.640 --> 01:27:58.240
And then bring her her favorite drink,

1515
01:27:58.240 --> 01:28:00.480
ask her what her favorite drink is and bring it to her.

1516
01:28:01.680 --> 01:28:04.320
Women love that. All women have a favorite drink.

1517
01:28:06.080 --> 01:28:08.800
It might not be coffee. It might be matcha.

1518
01:28:08.800 --> 01:28:11.840
It might be tea. It might be something besides coffee.

1519
01:28:12.480 --> 01:28:16.960
But yes. So guys, there's a little fun tip for you.

1520
01:28:18.080 --> 01:28:22.640
Bring her something, find out stuff about her and then bring her something.

1521
01:28:22.640 --> 01:28:26.320
Even if she doesn't end up being your spirit mate, that is a date. She will never forget.

1522
01:28:32.640 --> 01:28:36.640
When do you ask about their goal for dating? I think it's fine.

1523
01:28:36.640 --> 01:28:39.600
Angela, as long as you do a really low key, you can do it anytime.

1524
01:28:41.840 --> 01:28:44.000
Right. You're on a date with them. You got that far.

1525
01:28:44.640 --> 01:28:49.600
So it's cool to just be like, you know, here we are, you know,

1526
01:28:49.600 --> 01:28:54.240
out here dating at this age or in 2024, you know, dating definitely has changed.

1527
01:28:54.240 --> 01:28:56.720
You know, you can make, talk about it and then just say,

1528
01:28:56.720 --> 01:28:59.040
you know, where do you see yourself in the next few years?

1529
01:28:59.040 --> 01:29:01.920
Like, what is your, what's your end goal for dating?

1530
01:29:01.920 --> 01:29:04.080
Are you looking for a serious relationship?

1531
01:29:04.080 --> 01:29:06.960
Is that the, is that the era that you're in right now?

1532
01:29:07.920 --> 01:29:11.760
Are you, and you can even say, you know, I'm not saying with me,

1533
01:29:11.760 --> 01:29:17.120
I'm just saying in general, is that what your, is that what your objective is?

1534
01:29:19.920 --> 01:29:26.640
And once again, if you communicate that very, almost cerebrally and not emotionally,

1535
01:29:26.640 --> 01:29:28.720
most people have no problem answering it.

1536
01:29:31.760 --> 01:29:32.260
Cool.

1537
01:29:33.220 --> 01:29:33.720
Cool.

1538
01:29:35.540 --> 01:29:38.100
And if they say, no, I'm not really looking for anything serious.

1539
01:29:38.100 --> 01:29:41.620
You know, I'm just looking to meet a bunch of people and make connections.

1540
01:29:41.620 --> 01:29:43.300
Then you don't have to go out with them anymore.

1541
01:29:45.620 --> 01:29:50.180
Because they're telling you right now that they're not looking for anything serious, right?

1542
01:29:51.300 --> 01:29:55.780
The thing is, is that if they continue to ask you out and they continue to make a connection

1543
01:29:55.780 --> 01:29:58.420
with you, then maybe they don't know that they're looking for something serious.

1544
01:29:58.420 --> 01:29:59.940
Maybe they just didn't know that they

1545
01:30:00.000 --> 01:30:03.960
were until they met you. But that's another thing. You're going to have to discern that

1546
01:30:03.960 --> 01:30:11.600
and feel that out as you go forward. All right. Okay. You guys, thank you for joining us tonight.

1547
01:30:11.600 --> 01:30:14.480
We're right at the 90 minute mark. That's where we like to stop. This is going to be

1548
01:30:14.480 --> 01:30:19.080
available in replay. Um, we do have supernatural Saturday. This Saturday is going to be great.

1549
01:30:19.080 --> 01:30:23.360
As always, we do have Sunday night activation. Um, next week we're going to have that single

1550
01:30:23.360 --> 01:30:28.400
spotlight in front of our love seats. So if you have any dating questions, we have several

1551
01:30:28.400 --> 01:30:31.640
people that want to jump in the love seat this time around. So if you're one of them,

1552
01:30:31.640 --> 01:30:37.480
please email us or post in your group and the admins there will grab your name and your,

1553
01:30:37.480 --> 01:30:41.160
you know, what you want to jump in the love seat about so that we can do that. And then

1554
01:30:41.160 --> 01:30:48.240
we will also, um, be doing ask Jackie on Friday for the men and the women. I will be doing

1555
01:30:48.240 --> 01:30:51.760
that tomorrow, showing up in your groups and answering all of your questions. So if you

1556
01:30:51.760 --> 01:30:55.920
had any ask Jackie questions that you didn't get in, go ahead and get in and just get excited

1557
01:30:56.920 --> 01:31:01.400
We want to have some testimonies about what kind of gifts and surprises are showing up

1558
01:31:01.400 --> 01:31:07.240
during this prophetic word of Christmas in July. We also want you guys to, um, be sharing

1559
01:31:07.240 --> 01:31:12.360
your wins, make sure that you're filling out those polls every Monday that say, you know,

1560
01:31:12.360 --> 01:31:16.280
that roll call poll, what is your win? We want to know, and we want to celebrate with

1561
01:31:16.280 --> 01:31:22.680
each other because God is making matches since 2020, you guys, we are upwards towards a thousand

1562
01:31:22.680 --> 01:31:27.720
engagements in marriages. We had over seven 50, and then we just had a hundred in the

1563
01:31:27.720 --> 01:31:33.680
last six months. And so that's eight 50 or more. And so we're headed towards there. And

1564
01:31:33.680 --> 01:31:37.360
if God can do it for all those folks, and those are people that have engaged in Mary.

1565
01:31:37.360 --> 01:31:41.640
Those are not people that are just dating and courting right now towards marriage. So

1566
01:31:41.640 --> 01:31:46.520
that's crazy town. That's supernatural. And that's just going to continue to increase.

1567
01:31:46.520 --> 01:31:52.040
All right. So work on this with Holy spirit, get honest with yourself, let go of things.

1568
01:31:52.080 --> 01:31:55.520
You need to let go of, hold on to things you need to hold on to. And let's get out there

1569
01:31:55.520 --> 01:31:59.440
and meet some new people at summertime. Love you guys. See ya.