you
hello guys hey password to the meeting
uh i don't know the password to the meeting abram
um maybe i might be able to find out
uh it's like a made-up password let's
oh
i'm on my phone so i'm not on my computer to be able to see that
sometimes in the uh in the app when you go to join
you'll you'll click on it and it will show a uh
it'll show you 7 7 9 7 7 so 3 7 7 9 7 7
yep yeah
thanks josh james beat me to it actually oh sorry james thank you james i win
yeah it's in the it's in the uh it's in the link like the password's kind of
buried in there if you don't know how to look for it curse james you guys
you guys know how to look for stuff like that um
admit i got carlos come back in carlos got bumped out um
and then uh yeah when you say when you're say you were connecting
from the app abram
you
well we're suggesting when folks connect from the app
when they click that link lots of times it it comes right in
um but we're suggesting that you are especially on a browser you're
logged in to zoom before you hit that link then it
seems to work a little bit better it's really kind of a zoom thing it's
not necessarily it's the way zoom processes i guess a link
out it's not necessarily the app we we do post the full link in the app
and then we've been also posting the meeting id and that password in that
in that note section so they should be there
oh this is not going to work out here i can get eaten by mosquitoes
so i'm gonna have to go over to the office and i will do that but i can talk
to you guys while i'm on my way let me do this though let me get my
computer how's everybody doing
hey okay yeah um
let me grab my computer give me a few moments guys okay
okay
so josh how'd you find that out where on the uh where do i go to click
to find out on the zoom or whatever um where are you looking i think there
were a couple places where it was posted one of which was
jackiedorman.com slash library you have to log into the website the
other place was the monthly facebook subscription
website and then the other place was the
In group, you have to click through those tabs up at the top.
I forgot what they were labeled.
It was something like, uh, groups or guides, guides.
That's what it was labeled as.
And then there's several guides.
And one of those guides is just a list of zoom links and half of
them have their password written there.
I see that.
Yeah.
They're back.
Okay, cool.
So I knew that cause I, I just saved that stuff as a recurring calendar event.
Uh, with all those details in the notes, I should probably do that.
All right.
Thank you, Josh.
I love your organizational skills.
Thank you.
Okay.
Somebody, um, somebody step, uh, step up and, uh, give us a win for the week.
That's a great question.
My daughter, my youngest daughter got married.
That's my win for the week.
We successfully got her married two days ago.
And I'll tell you more about that, but, uh, somebody else go ahead and tell
us it was a good win for the week.
I'm on a victory path of, uh, getting out of debt, something my coworker helped
me with, or taught me some things he taught me a month and a half ago really
helped me that took about a month and a half for results to begin showing.
But I I'm like Elon Musk's rockets.
I'm rocketing out of debt.
So I'm, there's lots of confidence in that.
It's a huge win.
I'm really grateful to God for sending people into my life to help me figure
out what am I doing wrong?
How am I doing it wrong?
And how to use things available to me as tools to get out of that.
So that's awesome.
That is awesome.
Um, that's one thing too, guys, um, that we have a resource for as well that we
could do more of on this call.
If that's something that you'd like to do, we could get into that.
Um, I've got some, uh, some good peeps that are, um, into that kind of thing.
Wealth building.
Uh, we can connect you also with some other resources, uh, and we can go over
and go through some, some, some principles, best practices, some ideas
and concepts, um, that, uh, we could go over that's if you'd like to do that.
So that's up to you.
If you want to, if you want to put in the chat and say yes to that, if you'd like
that information on this kind of call or not, or we could even do as like a
separate thing, we're planning to do some of that kind of stuff, uh, just in
general in the community as well.
So it's sort of an, an all community sort of sense.
Um, so definitely want to do that and you could obviously join those.
Nobody's saying yes, but it's okay.
Okay.
Anybody, anybody on this call, everybody on this call is
independently wealthy.
Is that what it is?
Well, if Abra's playing the GameStop game, I'm going to follow him.
Oh yeah.
Yeah.
I'm, um, yeah.
Well, the reason I've been having these calls actually just for all these weeks
and everything is finally to present you a business opportunity.
No, I'm just kidding.
That's just a joke.
Yeah.
I've called you all here for the present, you have business opportunity.
I've been wanting to share with you for so long.
I'm just kidding.
I've been wanting to share with you for some, a long time, you know, now
that I've gotten to know you, yada, yada, yada.
Is this one of those calls where if we refer someone, we get, they get like
50% of the profit and it all trickles up into somehow this thing that looks
like a pyramid, yeah, yeah, of course.
And, um, yeah, you start with your friends and family, you know, it's very easy.
I refer Thomas.
Joke, joke, joke, joke.
Yeah.
We can refer each other, right?
There it is.
There you go, Bob.
It's not a pyramid.
It's a triangle.
Look at you.
I love that.
So, um, so yeah, Bob, I think you've been on one of these calls before.
Is that correct?
Or no, no, no.
I, um, I take, uh, I took this week off of work, um, so I could
do a Bethel's, um, school of profits.
And I'd normally be working for.
next couple of hours.
So I've been wanting to, but it's never worked out.
Oh, just because of the timeframe,
like the, just the, whatever time it is.
You're what, six o'clock there?
I'm in Washington State.
So it's five.
Five o'clock, yeah.
I work till seven, so.
Oh, I got it.
Okay.
I was like, man, I better jump in there.
I won't have another opportunity, so.
Well, Bob, give us a little bit of your,
of who you are in the background.
Just introduce yourself real quickly.
Okay.
Okay, well, I do have an offer for you guys.
I'm joking.
Nice.
Actually, so I came back, I don't know,
what do you want, general information?
What's that?
Do you want general kind of information or what?
Yeah, we're just, you know,
basically what these calls are for
is for just guys to come together
and just really share our hearts, share our wins,
share some of the stuff that's frustrating us.
You know, we've been known to do some confession
and do some things and just share what's going on,
share some truths.
And we started off sort of working through the heart work,
which we'll probably get back into that
with some new guys coming in here in the next couple of weeks
but yeah, that's what this call is for
is just to do a heart check in.
So what are some of the things, I guess,
that you've gotten from being involved
with the last year single?
Well, yeah, so I was gonna launch into the testimony,
which I think is fitting
because that's basically a point of transformation,
you know, where I had like this real
kind of encounter with the Lord.
It was like during a grieving process
that I couldn't shake.
And then the Holy Spirit just came
and I had this incredible like encounter.
It lasted like 20 minutes.
It felt like just the peace of God and my comforter,
you know, and so he introduced me that way.
And so from there, I was just like, oh man,
I just, how could I have ever walked away from this?
I think it was like deconstructing my faith
from a matter of like 20 years.
And then, you know, after that, I was just like,
oh, I'm totally seeking the prophetic and just learning.
And that was like during COVID and stuff.
So I was mostly just online chasing things
and just kind of drinking in heavily
of all of these new teachings and stuff.
And so I kind of stumbled into,
it's funny that you did say that.
There's a, I had this real idea of Proverbs 31,
I think we've all been praying
for a Proverbs 31 wife, right?
Probably very familiar with this.
And so the Lord asked me to rewrite that chapter
in male pronouns.
And this was during the height of the whole controversy
of pronouns and everything, you know.
I like to joke and say,
my adjectives are brilliant and handsome.
Thank you very much.
You know, it's very hard to subscribe
to that kind of like ideology and stuff.
So, but anyway, so I did, I wrote down the Proverbs 31,
and the Lord was showing me that like,
that quality of person is very active in their community.
They have, they speak with wisdom.
They carry themselves in a way that they are caring
for their servants or employees.
They're just, they've got multiple streams of income
and they're making real estate moves.
You know, she buys a vineyard and she cultivates it
and, you know, all these different things.
So the Lord was just basically showing me
how really we are called to be more entrepreneurial,
you know, and so, yeah, we should be in Zoom calls
like this, giving, you know, our expertise
in different fields and offering something to people
so that they can, you know, in the kingdom we over deliver
and then they can run with whatever it is we have,
curriculum or whatever kind of teaching that we have.
And so I'm actually, I'm writing a book on this actually.
And so it's like, that's one project I got.
Last week I got a VR headset and I was just thinking, man,
but one of the things that the Lord,
I just, I do practical things and I feel like,
wow, has anybody done this before?
I would go through like Google Earth and just spin the globe
and just start praying over whatever I was seeing.
I would Zoom into a place and if I could tell like.
physical or whatever I know naturally that's why I start from praying and then pretty soon I find
myself I'm praying in the in in the in the depth of like I don't even know why I'm praying for this
little child in India but that he would be raised up in power to in the word and just know it
intimately and stuff and so you know you get into this like prophetic pronouncement over
different areas and stuff and so anyways I have this VR headset I've been toying around with this
week and I just thought what if there was like a place where we could go in VR and come together
in prayer like a global intercessor movement and stuff and so I emailed somebody and they said okay
well you know we'll we'll see if there's something there and I'm like cool I mean
I gotta steward this idea somehow so we're meeting Wednesday to just like they're like
hey we can do from napkin to pull on you know you know business whatever they've done a lot of
stuff so so I have no idea what I'm doing this is a drain and an idea that's so big that it can't be
done from me so I'm like okay that sounds like probably something God would probably have you do
right so I was like that's a that's a breadcrumb to me so I'm just gonna follow it and so we'll
go to this next step but I think what what occurs is as you sit down and brainstorm and create these
ideas and have this like longevity of like you know in this VR thing I can see how I would have
you know if it took me like 10 years and the reason why I thought VR is because I think
that's going to replace our natural social media thing soon or down the road or that's what Gary V
has indicated anyway and so trying to stay in touch with all of that right and so yeah and I
just thought well if it does take me a while that would give me enough time to develop my own
curriculums and and share things about you know just some of the great people that have gone
before us about prayer like brother Lawrence brother Florence he's got this idea of like
praying about every single thing and like what color shirt he puts on and you know what do I go
right or do I go left here Lord but you know just like having this awareness of God constantly and
trying to interact with him that's phenomenal there's another guy uh Henderson or Hendrickson
who talks about the the courtrooms of God you know and and how we have this certain authority and
it's a legal thing you know when Jesus died on the cross he said it is finished that was a legal
term of like it's done now and that's and that's the atonement and everything so um so all these
different kind of teachings I feel like I could probably create of myself I didn't partner with
somebody now to have that available and stuff so anyway so it's just like I don't know I got one
idea after the next I don't know when to stop or which one to jump on and you know so it's like I
feel like I've got like four balls and I'm juggling I can't juggle but if I could in this theoretical
thing I can only juggle three balls I'm trying to work the next one in I just can't you know so
so that's where I'm at right now my my mind and stuff so taking this week off it's on the heels
of three days of fasting and praying that's something I've started online where I'm just doing
that first three days of the month it's like a tithe of my time and just paying over my month and
and just inviting the Lord to meet me in these specific days and stuff and and it's just so it
caused me to to draw closer to him you know it's like feed my sheep in that feeding others you
you get fulfilled too and so I just feel a certain closeness with the Lord and so so things are good
and part of the process in all of this is like oh yeah I think and I I dropped something there
was a quick video last night just up thinking about stuff and it was like basically you know
I feel like where I'm going I'm gonna need a partner you know I'm gonna need that support
in the house not just externally you know and so I need to find somebody that I know is gonna be
like you know I just came out of a season that was like I that I called it my napping in the
boat with Jesus season because I was like I gotta move I don't know where I'm gonna live
it just felt like a storm was happening and just like at this incredible peace
knowing well he's got me we'll we'll work this out I'm not sure what's going to happen here but
you know so so I whoever I partner with has to have that kind of level of like
it's going to be all right you know whatever whatever happens you know we'll sort this out
we'll sort this out amen anybody want to react to Bob's idea situation anything that stick out to
you
Did someone else come off mute too?
I'm sorry if I interrupted somebody.
No.
Oh, Bob, I just felt like this openness in my chest as I just heard you share and I just
felt like this connection and this, like you have a big heart and I think it was helping
my heart open as I was listening.
So I just want to reflect that back to you, just the strong sense of just how big your
heart is and how it impacted me just listening to you share.
So thank you.
No, no, I'll take that, man.
That's cool.
Good.
I want to thank you for sharing, Bob, really appreciate your willingness to go for it.
And it's like you are really willing to say yes, you know, to God and that you're experiencing
a lot of divine inspiration, which is really exciting.
And so thank you for that, that good example of seeking and following the Lord.
Anybody else?
One more person, maybe.
Nobody?
Abram, I think you have something.
Chris, maybe.
Chris has come on camera.
Well, I was just going to say, Bob, I just, I was really, I'd never heard about, you know,
like kind of like tithing a month.
I was really cool.
And so thanks for the inspiration and new concept.
Oh, Bob, I like your idea of Prophecy One is a woman we need to have.
I mean, she may not be classy or so, but she also has got the heart or so like involved
doing stuff that's healthy, not necessarily be the everybody.
And I also like your idea of napping on the boat with Jesus season.
I love it.
That's good.
So yeah, no, Bob, thanks for sharing it really, really.
I thank you for just giving us a piece of who you are.
And the several things that stood out to me were, well, first of all, what did you say
your adjectives were?
I kind of missed that because it cut out a little bit.
Oh, that was that was a joke, you know, that I might have gotten me fired from a state
job because I was putting in my my bio.
I just got this job.
And and I was like.
I was like, oh, should I I'm like, hey, I don't know if this is funny or not, and I
should not have I should have been more aware, but I was like, but my adjectives are handsome
and brilliant.
And I just thought that was a joke.
And I think for no unrelated or, you know, no related reason, well, they didn't give
me a reason.
They just said about a week later, I think they were just like, we're going to let you
go.
It's just I'm like, are you serious?
I'm like, I'm awesome at this job.
Like, whatever.
Yeah, I see.
OK, well, I will tell you this, though.
The one thing that I see with the things that stood out to me.
Is the intentionality with which you're trying to approach a lot of these things?
I think that's incredible.
Yes, they are varied and many.
And so I'm sure there's going to be one that you're going to really kind of settle down
on, too.
But in terms of just the the intentional setting aside of time, I think that's very, very powerful.
I love how you're like repurposing Proverbs 31.
All that's really cool.
I definitely can see how you're very entrepreneurial that you got the ideas.
One thing that stands out to me, too, with regarding the technology, you know, in in
in some circles, you know, you share ideas and people look at it like, oh, you know,
that's like, oh, whatever.
That's yeah, that's cool.
Or that's like, you know, that's quirky and weird or that's that'll never, you know, negative
is like, oh, that'll never work, whatever.
But you know, one thing I learned from my son, who he's an industrial designer by in
terms of his college degree, he went to University of Cincinnati and the DAP program, and he
is an industrial designer.
And he now represents a startup company that's what it's still kind of a startup, but it's
called Gravity Sketch.
They actually have a three dimensional software program, the design program that is really
designed to work in virtual reality.
As a matter of fact, when he was doing his when he was doing his co-ops when he was still
in college, this is where he would take almost every semester towards the end of his college
career was actually putting a semester in at a design firm, and he worked at Hasbro
and he worked at.
a place called Industry in Portland, Oregon. He worked for Dell in Austin. He worked for
another company in Columbus, Ohio. So he was all over. And one company that he was at,
he was always ahead of the curve in his studies. He would always get the software
that he was going to learn the next quarter ahead of time. And he was almost pretty much
an expert at whatever the design software was. And then he was being able to apply what he was
learning in the following quarter. And so early adopter kind of guy, he was doing lunch and learns
with virtual reality, showing how virtual reality could really speed up the design process.
So there are certain things you can do. And when you have software, that's the three-dimensional
on your computer, but the interface that you're working with is still a two-dimensional screen.
So there are limitations in the design process that are still there. And it's not until you
actually model them in clay, for instance, like cars, until you actually model and produce the
clay physical 3D model, that's why they still do clay models with cars, is that the physics of it,
those curves actually don't exist until you actually make it in three dimension, because
they don't translate well from 2D to 3D. So you have to sort of make it up. Well, when you got
virtual reality, it totally changes the game. You can literally stand inside the car and you can
create all the intricacies in the design. And so it saves steps in the design process.
My point is, is that technology as a tool, and you mentioned Gary Vee to his point,
the important thing is to affect change and to affect industry and to affect society and to be
there, especially from a profitable standpoint, if you're looking at it that way, is to actually be
where attention is. So that's one of his core principles. And so as believers, as individuals
that are wanting to affect change in the world, let alone the profitability, I'm not talking about
a profitability or in terms of business idea, what I'm talking about is attention. So why social media
is so impacting is because somebody you've never heard of that's an influencer that has a million
followers can get on their social media channel and they can influence culture by sharing
something, saying something, doing something, posting a stupid video, and they're literally
impacting. And what's a word that is from scripture is discipling a nation.
We are called to be disciplers or people who go disciple nations.
We are going into people groups. We should be going into spheres and where not only just
ethnicities and not only country geography and all that, but when you talk about nations, you could
talk about the technological sector as a nation. You could talk about
different socioeconomics as nations. Any group of people can be a nation of individuals
that have a collective form of thinking. But if we're going to impact those societies
and we're afraid to go there and be where attention is, you see, rather than trying to
garner the attention, oh, come to church, come to this Christian thing, come to this thing, watch
this video that's 10 years behind. We're always behind. And so it's really cool to be
able to see people who are pioneering and going, hey, why don't we go where the attention is,
be there, set up shop, learn the technology, get the lay of the land, understand what it is that
people are looking at and listening to and wanting to go forward in and being there and showing
forth and demonstrating the kingdom there. Not everybody's called to that, but it's an
incredible thought. And so I just want to champion that. But I mean, it's just it makes me think,
because I think of that kind of stuff all the time. And one of the things like, for instance,
our business, you know, where we're in the relationship space. Yeah, we're unashamedly
faith-based. We share our Christian worldview and we're very, very spiritual and deep. And we share
a lot of things that theologically that people may even go like, oh, I don't know about that
and that kind of thing. But we've developed a community to where we're trying to be where people
are putting their attention. And if they're putting their attention on wanting to be
prepared for marriage, prepared to find their spirit mate, that's where we have set up our
situation to be. And we're garnering attention there. And then we're dealing with and talking
and delivering that. So in the same way, guys, I mean, I don't know what it is that you're doing
with your business. And when I say business, I say whatever it is that you do that you're
doing for your.
income is your business.
And now that could be your own personal business
that you've started, or it could be
you work for another company, but nevertheless, it
is your business.
I would anticipate that all of you
are experts to a degree in the field that you're working in.
You may not think you are, you may not
have the credentials that say you're an expert,
but you're an expert in you.
You're an expert in what it is that you are perceiving.
I know to everyone on this call is a very intentional person.
Otherwise, you really wouldn't quite be here.
That's why this group is actually small,
is because not a lot of men are willing to go
to this level of intentionality to work on themselves
to be prepared, not just for a spirit mate,
but just on their manhood.
I mean, I know you guys have done, each one of you
have done a lot of other work other than even just
the hard work to come to this level.
So you are literally like, dude, I am unpacking my stuff,
and I am working on myself, and it is happening,
and God is doing some things.
So it's pretty incredible.
I want to champion the fact that you all
are doing what you're doing.
You're pretty incredible doing that.
Not a lot of men are doing that.
This is what I mean by we're living in an age
where it's not good enough.
Good men, sometimes it just feels like it's not good enough.
You're on paper like, oh, I have a job, and I love Jesus,
and I don't gamble, and I don't smoke,
and I don't do bad things.
Why wouldn't anybody want that?
Well, it's just like, yeah, of course, on paper they would,
but still, there's a distance.
I'm still not making connections.
What's happening?
So it's like this level of intentionality
is extremely important, I think, in this regard.
So I just want to champion that,
the technology thing.
And I love to talk about entrepreneurial ideas.
I love to champion people to really break out of their shell
and go, oh my gosh, I have this idea.
And we're like, yes, that's a cool idea.
Let's talk more about that.
Let's see if there's something there.
Let's see if there's joy in that.
And then if there's not,
we move on to the next idea type thing.
So just go through it.
I just want to encourage that.
But anyway, so I think that's really cool stuff.
And I love it.
I like to talk about it.
Anybody else have any thoughts?
I saw a couple smirks and smiles
when I was going through
and just connecting some points.
I just want to hear your thoughts on some of these ideas
because being, I mean,
it's one thing for us to get ourselves together.
It's another thing to find our spirit mate.
And now we have our partner.
I just, part of the things,
ideas I was sharing in my daughter's wedding,
by the way, I was the one that officiated
my daughter's wedding.
I had the honor of doing that.
And I said, you know, Adam, here he is.
This is a perfect example of what I'm talking about.
Adam, I don't know if you know this guys,
but Adam was living his best self
as his, you know, he was doing his thing.
He wasn't being a couch potato.
He wasn't like, you know, at the club basically,
you know, just like being Adam
and hanging out and doing bad things.
He was actually in his best self
when God looked down and said,
this is not good.
So I think that's really interesting
if you kind of process that.
Here's a guy being in the epitome,
the Zenith at the moment of what he was created to do.
He was naming the animals.
He was, you know, stewarding the garden.
He was doing his stuff.
And God's like, he looked at it and said, this is not good.
You're like, whoa, that's kind of weird.
Why would you say it's not good?
And of course we know the rest of the story
is this is where he needs to be in fellowship.
He needs to be in partnership.
He needs to be in collaboration.
He needs to have co-equal like covering,
you know, going both ways.
He needs to have one of his own kind.
And so this is where Eve was then formed out of his rib.
And the rib signifies equality.
It signifies partnership.
It signifies covering.
It signifies protection.
It signifies completion.
So if you start thinking of like, oh, wait a minute,
this isn't just some girl or some lady
that I'm interested in that I want to like hook up with.
This is like, wow, this is a partner.
This is equality.
This is like completion.
This is a companion, a collaborator,
and even an accomplice, you know, at some times, you know?
So it's like, it's really cool to start thinking about like,
this is the person I'm looking for.
I'm looking for this person that is, you know,
I can come alongside and she comes alongside me as well.
This is the kind of partner I'm looking for,
you know, in a spirit mate.
And, but when God...
looks at Adam, and Adam finally sees Eve, and he says, oh, whoa, bone of my bone, flesh of my flesh,
he recognizes this is someone that actually he could be in intimate relationship, he could be
in partnership with, he could be in community with, instead of things that didn't look and
operate like he did. And so this was a completion of sorts when they came together in doing this.
And so anyway, I'm just painting that picture for you to maybe that helps you
create a better view of what this person is that you're looking for, and the intentionality of
going for that, like pursuing that, pursuing whatever it takes to go find that, you know.
The scripture indicates that this is what the man's responsibility is in terms of like finding
he who finds a wife. So a man who finds a wife, it's not a husband that finds a wife, it's a man
that finds a wife, not a woman, not someone who's just female, but a wife,
someone who's prepared herself to be a wife, in the sense of, you know, the fullness of that word,
Proverbs 31 is a great sort of outline example of completion of what that kind of person is like,
you know. So this is all coming together pretty good. I like kind of where our theme is going
tonight. So you may have some reactions to some of the stuff we've said tonight, anything that
just sparks your mind and your interest, your creativity, that says, look, you know, this really
matches with something I've been thinking about, or this has been something that really
triggers a thought of mine that says, you know, this is, I'm bearing witness with this. Anybody?
I was just, I was just going to say quickly, like,
I was going to say that I was, I used Google Photos just for my photos, and one of the
cool things about that is I've got like, 14 years of photos that come up in reminders.
And I look back 10 years, and I think about what life was, what was going on in life 10 years ago.
And things were very different, and yet they were much the same.
And I think that there's a, there's an interesting dynamic of like,
being, you know, being distracted with good things or whatever, especially for some of the men that
get our value from our work, or intend to get value from our work. You know, you drive yourself
at this project or that project. And then before you know it, like the bigger pictures of life,
the bigger parts of life can kind of, you know, slip aside. That's why this group is so important
is because, in a sense, this puts a task on the more important things of life. Because the more
important things of life are never the urgent things of life. The most important things in
life are never urgent. And this is kind of like accountability and a task that like, it triggers
the masculine mind to value it in a sense of like, it's like, okay, I want to do this. You know,
I can call, I can say I got something done by showing up and by participating and by being a
part of this. Whereas, you know, like, yes, that's well, that's so well said. That really
summarizes, if I was able to, you know, like, that's a real good summary of the goal that I
would love for men to come to that point, which is, you know, if you want to replace the word
of intentionality with prioritizing, whatever it is means to you, like that signals to you,
there's something I got to go do. That's why I asked the question last week with regard to,
you know, what is, I think I said, like, what is in your way? What's the main thing that's in your
way? I think that's how I phrased it. I can't remember. Maybe you can remind me. But I was
really putting forth the challenge, you know, to say, you know, first and foremost, for you to
admit on the call in front of the other guys, is your priority, is your prime goal, you know,
to have this relationship, have this person find your spear mate? Is that your prime initiative,
you know, for your life right now? Even though you have a career, you're working, you're doing
the things you're doing, you know, to maintain.
and all that kind of stuff, but are you as intentional,
are you that focused and prioritizing,
this is number one on the list,
is I'm doing whatever I can physically to prepare myself,
spiritually to prepare myself, emotionally,
and I'm showing up, I'm being present in places
where my spirit mate can be found.
And a lot of guys said, yes, yes,
after I explained it that way, and we went into depth,
and then a couple said, no, it's really not.
And the thing about it was,
is I wasn't trying to like challenge the right answer,
I was really trying to challenge you to admit,
to say, yeah, what I'm doing, the mindset that I have,
where I'm at right now, and what's happening,
I am prioritizing it or I'm not, okay?
And then causing you to look at that and go,
okay, do I need to make a decision here,
one way or the other, do I want to prioritize it?
Yes, and then start working towards that,
or you know what, maybe it's not a priority of mine,
maybe there's something else that I need
that needs to be a higher priority for the moment,
whatever that is, and go after that.
But nonetheless, it's like, what are,
I guess another question is too,
is what is it you are prioritizing?
What are you prioritizing?
You know, if it's not finding a spear mate,
what are you prioritizing?
Are you stuck?
That's another place that's kind of like,
I want you to admit that, I want you to say,
you know what, I really am stuck.
I want to prioritize finding a spirit mate,
or I want to discern that, hey, I have the anointing,
I have a calling to maintain, continue to be single.
That's fine, if that's what you feel from the Lord,
if that's what you feel like, you know, I'm missional,
I'm going to go out and I'm going to go
do the work of the Lord.
That doesn't just mean like just street ministry,
that could be a very, very elaborate thing,
but whatever the work of the Lord is for you,
to go and do that and prioritize that.
You know, I think a lot of people have sort of said,
you know, like, oh, well, you know,
maybe this is my single season,
or maybe I'm supposed to be single, whatever.
And we push back in this community on that a little bit
because we say, you know,
that's a very rare sort of situation.
And I still believe that's true.
And one of the things that's interesting to me
is when you read that portion of scripture,
the description of what Paul is saying
that a single man can do, a single woman can do,
if they're not bound to the marriage obligate,
you know, to all the natural things
that they have to consider in a marriage,
is pretty raw and real.
This is pretty like, you are after,
you are in total service to the Lord.
You are like pretty rich, you're pretty deep into that.
It's not like, you're just like,
oh, I just have this career and I do this thing
and I do my job and I go socialize and just hang out.
You know, it's a little more than just like,
oh, I'm just single, I'm just a single guy.
Like, no, like they're in like total service
in hard with God.
So in my viewpoint, I think the scripture's like,
you're either like totally in service,
in depth to the work of the Lord as a single person
because you have the anointing for that,
or you're pursuing the ultimate relationship in marriage.
And I don't want, again, I never want to put on anything
to anybody to bring condemnation.
Like, oh, I'm not there yet.
So it's just like, oh, this is really a hard word to hear.
I always want to put on weight
where there should be weight, right?
When things are like, yeah, that's a challenge
and I want to accept that challenge.
I'm on a rise to the occasion of that challenge.
That's a beautiful thing.
That's what I would hope that would be happening
in the heart of men.
But, you know, when you said,
I thought you said triggers the masculine mind.
I love that.
Like, what is it that triggers your masculine mind?
And to really think about that and go, you know,
this is what inspires the masculine mind in me to do,
to accomplish.
Thomas, you have your hand raised.
Yeah, yeah, thanks for sharing.
And Joshua, thanks for sharing in the chat.
I think I might have a little different perspective
than you do, Joshua.
But David, I wanted to say, I think,
I hear you talking about kind of like,
what are we prioritizing?
And I imagine you would say, you know,
God is kind of number one, you know, kind of over everything
but then in that place of focusing both on
what does it look like to, you said kind of go after
kind of like, it sounds like where your heart is,
you know, what's triggering the masculine mind,
you know, and that sort of thing.
And then I hear you also talking about kind of making it
kind of number one to pursue kind of a spouse or a wife.
Would you, do you have any wisdom or thoughts
that you would be willing to share about
what it looks like to be doing kind of both of those things?
Like, as you've talked about either Adam or in general.
Yeah, no, you know, it is a conundrum for sure.
It's not an either or.
And I think that's what happens in the mind
of like men.
I think Chris, you know, you're touching on that.
It's like, look, I've put so much into my career
and the reason is, is because I get validation there
or I get, so we, lots of times we'll dive into like,
have you ever phrased, have you heard the phrase
that people will do what they want?
Yeah, but this person's like destitute and poor
and all this kind of stuff and a drug addict.
Yeah, because people will do what they want.
That's not judgment.
It's not an indictment.
It's just psychology.
People will prioritize what they want to prioritize.
Now that doesn't mean that people don't do terrible things
and, or, you know, that it's not because of pain
and because of trauma and because of all the reasons
that people go do, you know, medicating things
that are destructive to their lives, right?
We understand that.
But essentially though, in terms of the free will
and in terms of the decision of what you're doing
with your life, people will do what they want.
So when you kind of come from that premise,
my thing is, is that, you know, why are you this way?
You have prioritized what you want,
which has led to you being in this way.
I have prioritized what I was doing in my ministry career.
Many people would look at me at the time
when I was at the zenith of my vocational ministry career,
as I was on the top of the world.
I was in a huge, big mega church.
I was at this, you know, well-known,
I was the top 10%, you know,
a staff member of the ministry I was doing.
I was being fulfilled in all of the stuff I was doing
within that ministry.
I was producing and I was overseeing people
and I was singing and I was ministering
and I had all this, was teaching.
And I was being fulfilled completely
and what I was doing, and I was satisfied in that.
And I was like serving the Lord with my whole heart,
but I failed in my marriage.
So I was doing what I wanted to do
and it was all good stuff.
You know, it was all great stuff.
Like I say, I was like on paper,
I looked like I was doing all the right things,
but I still failed in my marriage.
So I have to ask myself and look like,
why did I fail in my marriage?
Because I was doing what I wanted to do.
Not selfishly, but I mean, like I was prioritizing
what I was seeing as that's the thing.
I was getting my validation there,
was getting my fulfillment there, was getting that.
I prioritize that over my marriage, right?
And I lost my marriage and I suffered because of it.
Now God has been incredibly, incredibly gracious,
incredibly redemptive, incredibly beautiful
in bringing the story very much in full circle,
18 years later.
You know, I can stand here and say,
and I can stand up in front of a group of people,
which included my wife's ex-husband
and literally perform the ceremony of my bonus daughter
and receive her at the altar,
you know, from her father, her natural father
and perform this ceremony.
And it was just a beautiful thing.
It was an amazing, wow, like redemptive thing.
But I can say that 18 years later,
after I went through the hardship of probably 10 years
after I lost my vocational ministry career,
after being divorced, after being basically banished
and shunned from that form of, you know, like religiosity
and like, oh yeah, you're damaged goods,
you're no good anymore.
But I gave 20 years plus of my life to this place.
I mean, what is, that's it?
I'm out of here?
Yeah, see ya.
And then spent 10 years after that trying to rebuild,
like, who the heck am I?
Who even am I?
I don't even, like, I'm a sales guy.
And then I literally, remember the story I shared
with you last week, guys?
The guy who sat me down and said, what are you doing?
And he's the vested, you know,
a vested officer of the company of Nationwide
without a college degree and is a vice president position.
Was a friend of mine,
but I didn't know him as the business guy.
And I sat down in his office.
He mentioned me and he says, what are you doing?
Like, what do you mean what I'm doing?
I'm trying to just work a job.
How much are you making?
What are you doing?
I said, he goes, he goes, you should be making twice that.
I'm like, I should be?
And he goes, yeah.
He goes, this, and he looked at my resume.
He goes, this sucks.
Your resume is terrible.
And then he proceeded to tell me how
to literally change my resume and make it better.
And I did.
And it was amazing.
And within a year after that few moments of mentoring,
I was able to tell him, yeah, I leveled up.
I got promoted.
I sought out this job.
I got promoted.
I leveled up and I'm actually making almost twice
about what I was making last time I talked with you.
And it's just amazing.
Thank you so much for, you know,
getting my face basically and just being like,
dude, what are you doing?
What are you prioritizing?
Why are you down here?
This is not you.
Like, I've seen you in action
when you were in your ministry best,
but now something's happened to you.
Okay.
And he's like, okay.
And then what?
It's like, the question is kind of like,
cause it's kind of like when a good dad is like,
that's cool.
Like, it happened.
Happens to me, son.
I get it like this, but now what?
What are you going to do now?
I don't know if I answered your question,
but I kind of went about a roundabout way in doing it.
But I'm just trying to paint a picture
for you guys to say that, you know,
y'all need to level up.
I need to level up.
We all as good men need to level up
because the world needs good men.
You don't need to level up because you're bad men.
We need to level up because we're good men
and the world needs good, awesome men.
It's just the truth.
I was just on a podcast with a guy who's a,
he started a podcast, he's in his sixties.
It's called The Next Third Best Third.
And the idea is, is the next third of your life
is the best third.
So make it the best third.
And so he has this whole, you know,
sort of inspirational men's sort of thing.
And I did a podcast with him and the podcast episode,
it's titled kind of weird because it's based off a phrase
I said in the program.
And I didn't even think that the title even made any sense.
So it's a little off,
but it says it's time for a man to not give a damn.
Because at some point in the podcast,
I talk about how my give a damn got busted.
Like I just didn't care anymore.
Not in a bad way, in a good way.
I got over myself.
I got over like what other people thought of me.
I got over like just the limitations.
And I said, I don't care.
I'm gonna be this.
I'm gonna be awesome at it.
I'm gonna be great.
I'm gonna level up.
I'm gonna receive the invitation
of responsibility and stewardship.
And I'm gonna start operating and being the man
who my children, my wife and everybody around me
says that I am or wants me to be.
And that is super powerful guys.
That's what I wish for every man
is that they were operating at that level.
And you might say, well, I don't have the spirit mate
or I don't have the position
or I don't have the money in my bank account
to be all that I wanna be.
And okay, that may be just the facts,
but the reality is that you in yourself
could literally be operating and stepping into all of that
in spite of the facts, because the facts will come.
The facts will line up to who you are on the inside
and to who you are stepping into in your world,
in your world of influence, in your world of effectiveness,
in your world of friendship, in your world.
If you start showing up,
remember I talk about this all the time
about guys, it is important that we just continue
showing up, showing up, showing up.
That's what women are looking for, a guy who will show up.
You know how many women have been abandoned by their father,
abandoned by men who were supposed to be there for them.
That's classic, right?
For traumatized women who were just like,
I can't put my trust and faith in any man
because all the men in my life left.
All the men in my life disappointed me.
All the men in my life treated me bad.
They blamed me, they said it was my fault.
And so you've got a bunch of women out there
in a damaged sense that weren't treated and raised well.
And here they're looking for a redeemer.
They're looking for like, you know, who is it, Hosea?
Is that the Bible character?
They're looking for their,
then the classic is like, don't look for my Boaz.
And that's a whole nother thing.
But anyway, they are looking for a good man
to step in there and say, you know what?
I'm not perfect.
I'm not perfect by any stretch of the imagination,
but I am showing up.
I am trying to step into my full sonship as a son of God.
I understand what God is doing and I'm about his work
and I want to partner.
I need someone to partner with
that we're gonna do this together.
You know, you're gonna play your role.
I'm gonna play my role and we're gonna go as a team.
So I don't know, Thomas, tell me what you think about,
did that answer your question?
You were asking like, how do you,
what does that look like both as?
Well, I was saying that I was,
you had talked about kind of multiple things to prioritize.
And I was asking kind of what that might look like.
And I think what I'm hearing you say is that it's not
so much the either or of saying such and such as number one,
it is kind of creating kind of a pastiche
or balanced kind of aspect of honoring God,
doing a good job in terms of what your heart
has been designed to do and also pursuing relationship
in ways I hear you saying now
that are consistent and honoring.
Is that accurate?
Yeah, I feel like that, yes.
And I feel like the simple answer to your question
would be this maybe to summarize,
is you contending to be your best self is attractive.
And also when you're in a place where you're available,
like where you're available to actually meet people,
or you're in a place to where you're,
you're not just hidden off by yourself somewhere,
is what I'm saying.
You have to be in a place where you're available
and you're vulnerable to like engage with a group
or people like the opportunity,
you have to place yourself in opportunity.
And so when you place yourself in opportunity
and you are pursuing and contending for your best self,
that is attractive.
You cannot lose is what I'm saying in that.
And that includes more than just finding a spirit mate,
that includes attracting the favor of God
to do the mission that you're called to do.
Maybe you're called to pioneer an industry.
Maybe you're called to be the best entrepreneur.
There are such a thing as an entrepreneur.
This is where somebody is like,
I don't really own my own business.
I don't really have a like a vision creative idea,
but I wanna be the person that really is like the go-to
in the company that I work for.
I'm gonna make this company or I'm gonna make this thing
I believe in so well,
or maybe it's not necessarily the company's goals,
but you're in the culture of people
that works within a company that you're affecting.
You know what I'm saying?
Sometimes there are entrepreneurial people
that are leaders within a company.
It doesn't really matter what the company does.
It's like, well, the company, I don't know,
the end goal of this company,
it may not necessarily be so heavenly minded,
but the people that I'm leading because I'm a team leader
or I'm impacting the culture of this company
is very like God's using it to show.
And I think in your case, Thomas,
I remember there was those riots that were going on.
There was that unsettledness in the area where you're at
and you were having opportunity to like
have an effective moment
with whatever you were participating with.
So, I mean, that like,
it didn't really have much to do maybe with your job,
but just the access that your God job gave you is,
I don't know if that's correct or not,
but I'm just, you know what I'm saying?
Sometimes it's not necessarily the career,
it's what the career gives you access to
that makes the difference.
So, this is where the creativity and sort of like,
God, why do you have me here?
What is it what I'm doing?
Like, what is my focus?
How do I be my best self?
And then this is where in some cases,
like I think to Josh's point,
where it's like when he's putting it in a prioritizing way,
like, oh, this is my prime mission,
I begin to idolize that.
And so that becomes a difficulty for me.
So I get that.
I'm like, okay,
if it's a difficulty for you to like idolize it.
Then concentrate on being your best self,
concentrating on improving your,
not just from a self-improvement standpoint,
but allowing the power of God and the power of
Holy Spirit to rise up within you to help you become your best self,
which then becomes attractive,
which then you're fragrant,
and then you start attracting things to you that you like,
I wasn't even focusing on this,
I wasn't even really concentrating this,
and here I found this situation,
this has come to me.
Why? Because you're fragrant,
because you have favor,
because you're a son of God,
and you're stepping into your fullness as a son of God,
and you're attracting what God has for you.
This is what Adam was doing.
Adam literally is minding his own business.
He was actually being his best self,
and God's like, I got to help this guy out.
Why? He's being a best self.
Well, I got to give him somebody he can be in partnership with.
That's the whole point of the Genesis story, guys.
Concentrate and prioritize and contend to be your best self,
which then becomes the most attractive person.
Maybe to your point, he was also,
he had noticed that among none of the animals was someone who could be his partner.
Yeah, of course.
This is where he's like bone by bone,
flesh by flesh, I recognize,
oh, this is now somebody I can be with.
Wow. It was a very poetic response.
He was like, oh my gosh, whoa, wow.
I finally found what I'm looking for type of thing.
It was a sense of completion that Adam saw when he saw Eve for the first time.
How much of you has this discussion given you new life, anybody?
First, I got to be the best version of myself,
then God will bring her, right?
I mean, it's simple, but yeah, absolutely.
Right now also, I had a delayed flight.
I missed the flight and I reacted really badly because of the consequences.
The guy says, do not worry about your circumstance or react bad
because that shows you don't believe,
especially when I just got back from the Ark encounter in the Creation Museum this weekend.
You go on the Singles Nation,
last year's Singles app, I have photos there.
Oh, sweet. Good. I've been wanting to go there.
Someday I'll make it over there.
I'd love to check that out.
That's the thing. The best thing is
to not panic and concentrate because God's in control the whole time.
Because worrying and reacting is unbelieving.
It just makes things worse.
I tell you, it's a challenge. Trust me.
I have my moments almost every day to start complaining,
getting frustrated.
Trust me, it's something I have to work on all the time.
I will confess that. Thank you for sharing, Hunter.
Anybody else have any inspiring ideas?
I just want to blame Bob.
Bob got us going on all this.
So it's Bob's fault.
Well, I do have something to share, I guess.
One of the things is, you know, we have this ability to co-create with God
and we have this ability to speak out.
And he wants us to do that so much.
I think much more than we have, you know, just in normal.
I think my word of encouragement to all of you would to be
as you see it with the Lord, just pray into it,
speak it out and align your heart and your will with that.
Because like Hunter was saying, fear and anxiety, that's a form of faith.
It's faith into the things that we don't want, those outcomes.
And so we recognize that, say, I have the mind of Christ.
Change to, OK, well, what is that
that alignment, the purpose, really the higher things?
I think that's what we're talking about here is what what's lasting.
What I was just thinking this other day, like in my life, throughout my day,
what actually matters, how much of it?
And it's like probably very little from me, from heaven's perspective.
You know, like we have our.
Where your treasure is, your heart is.
And I think and we actually can store up treasures in heaven
by doing these things that that really matter.
And it looks like it looks like love.
It looks like being generous and and elevating yourself
in a way in this world where you.
are able and positioned to give more.
And so I think this whole entrepreneurial thing is,
I mean, anymore, right?
You know, we've been conditioned to go to school,
do the thing and just stay in your job
and that's not working anymore.
And so we need other streams of income.
We need to be innovative.
We need to, you know, figure out what's working, what's not.
And all that takes time and energy.
At the same time, yeah, we gotta, you know,
figure out what is our one message, you know,
what is our one purpose?
And out of that, I think we can discover modalities
and curriculums that we can, you know,
share with each other and frameworks and stuff
that we can discuss these things.
So.
I think that's what most of my prayers sound like
is an activation and a speaking forth of what I'm seeing,
either I need or I'm looking for,
or I'm trying to partner with God on.
And so I start typically with what I'm looking at
or what I'm wanting to see change.
Like, Lord, I know that this needs to change in me.
So I see this as, you know,
a deficit at this moment.
But so I want to speak into that to create,
to fill in the hole of the deficit
and then start to build on a foundation
of what should be there instead of like the negative going forward.
So a lot of my prayers are trying to speak into that
and speak into the situation.
And then I'll speak some detail into that
and just talk with the Lord about that.
And that's a prayer moment for me
to be able to say those things.
And then I always caveat,
so Lord, I don't want to speak out of my own flesh and desire.
What I think of, what I think the solution is,
I know you have greater solutions than me.
So I don't want to partner with your solutions.
You just show me now.
Now, you know, teach me, show me, heal me, grow me.
You know, this is what the prayer that's part of the permission.
Yeah.
So that's part of like partnering with God in prayer
to be able to speak forth.
And I thank you for sharing that because that's so, so good.
And I received that.
I've been really challenged by that too.
There were seasons in my life where I was like really dealing
with like external things that were, I mean,
they looked like mountains and just like getting out there
and just like I would just like pace back and forth
and pray in the spirit or confess over the situation
or over the person.
And there too, pursuing a relationship is not that urgent,
but I'm realizing that that's what I need to be doing.
And like, so let's actually, you know, have started that.
I didn't do it this morning, but I have started to,
you know, pursue it more like in that manner.
And yeah, I mean, you know, like it's easy
with like with Bob, Bob mentioned this as well too.
It's easy to like dismiss all the things that like,
you get to this point where you're like,
you realize like nothing matters.
So to think like, oh, they're like, you know,
the important things or all the things
that I've been concentrating are like not important,
you know, and you just, it's easy to go into sort of like,
you know, the sort of like nothing matters sort of feeling.
And then it's like, you know, you know,
then you just like give up sort of thing.
So there's that part of it,
like prioritizing what actually matters, you know,
but it's easy sort of to default into like nothing matters,
but then it's, then you have to sort of come back
from that a little bit and go contend for, okay,
what does matter?
And then prioritizing the what does matter.
And I think you're right, Bob.
I think that as we begin to use our words,
when we prioritize and get our focus on what matters,
we can begin to materialize and bring into reality
what matters through our confession, through our words,
through our faith and resting in what it is
that God is saying and letting our mouth,
letting our words line up with that.
So good.
Yeah, the tongue is a rudder, right?
I think a lot of my life I've been speaking over myself
and different things, a lot of left turns.
I just can go in circles, you know?
And I feel like the promises that I was receiving
in at 20s, you know, it's like I've been in the wilderness.
And then, you know, finally I'm like, okay,
I think I'm getting closer to the promised land, you know?
And so I'm just like prophesying what it looks like.
And yeah, that's important.
Yeah.
So just stewarding our daily, what, what do I have for today?
I have to steward this day.
How, how can I break it apart?
Like what's where, you know, my attention is important.
And, um, you know, before you can get into the next, um, the next season, it's
like, I think that's what the Lord is dealing with me right now.
It's like, I have opportunity now to jump into a whole different way to
make money and that's great, but can you, can you, uh, steward what I have
for you right now and do it in a kingdom fashion and not just say,
Oh, you got short timer attitude.
You know, you're not really here with us and deliver like it matters.
It's challenging.
If you want to bring change in your life, guys, I think one of the
foremost ways to do that is to start, start speaking it just in your heart,
speaking it out of your mouth and just speaking with the Lord, you know, I'm
encountering things right now that, um, become distractions to me and I know
they're distractions and I just, I see them, I call them out, I call them out.
And I just, I'm like, I'm like, Lord, this is happening.
Like, this is a distraction, you know, like I'm calling this out.
I'm praying about it.
And then I'm expecting the reciprocation of that.
I'm expecting him to handle it because he makes a way for escape.
He makes, you know, when you're, when you're basically going like, this is,
this is not, this is not who I am.
This is a distraction.
And, um, I'm calling it out and then I'm asking God to like change my passion or
my taste or my, whatever it is that, that for, for that, and I'm allowing God to
really do that work in me instead of me have to struggle to try to fight that for
myself.
I allow God to fight my battles in that way.
So just a little tidbit there at the end here, because we're,
can I ask a question in overtime?
Overtime?
Yeah.
What do you think about that type of confession and asking God to open and
change hearts with respect to like our own heart,
maybe like in the process of the marriage decision?
Cause right now I'm a whole lot more intimidated by the marriage decision that
I am the life commitment and like, you know, like, like, like God, God, if you,
if you have something here, would you open my heart?
Would you close my heart?
You know?
Yeah, no.
If you give permission to God, you hold the key.
If you give permission to God to do what he wants to do in you, he will do it.
And he will do it in a way that is powerful and gracious and all the ways God's is the
God is in all of his character.
And if it's outside of that, then it's, it's not God.
And so if you're giving permission for God to, you know, to unlock something
that's, you know, trapped inside of you or whatever, like I, like if you're
looking at, and I know your situation a little bit, Chris, but if you're looking
at, like, there isn't any reason why I wouldn't, wouldn't go for this.
I don't have any like red flags per se.
I don't have like, this is all on paper.
This is like, this is what's supposed to happen.
And we're here at this point.
I'm here at the, like the decision point and I could push the button, but it
can't push the button for some reason.
So Lord helped me push this button, you know, and give me this, like,
let, let this really come about.
And sometimes it is a sort of a do it afraid situations.
It's a step of faith, you know, whatever analogy you want to put on that, you
know, there's, there's a lot of things that can go on depending on who you are
and where you're at, but I mean, yeah, absolutely.
If you're giving God permission to help you may do the right thing, so to speak.
Absolutely.
He will.
And it is perfectly scriptural and okay.
And wonderful to do that because, you know, it's just like, it's like,
it's similar to in this way.
Sometimes it's like, sometimes we want to change, you know, like if you have
bad behavior, like I want to change and I have a willingness to, okay, well
we can work with your will.
Sometimes you don't have the will to change.
And so your prayer then becomes Lord help me, uh, you know, help
me be willing to be willing.
You know what I'm saying?
It's like, you step back from that.
It's like, I'm not really willing.
I'm not really, I don't really want to say, well then your prayer then becomes
Lord help me in whatever way that you do to help me be willing to be willing.
Right?
So it's, that's what I'm saying is that it's akin to that.
It's like your prayer just becomes one step back from where it is that you're
stuck.
I don't know where, if it is you're stuck, right?
You've each one of you asked yourself this question, like, where am I stuck?
I'm stuck on this one thing.
I'm stuck on this thing.
I can't get away from.
or whatever it is. Lord, I need your help to get me unstuck. Either create the desire in me to
want to do it, like of my own volition with your help, or help me to be willing to be made
willing. Whatever one step back is from where you're stuck, that's where your prayer is.
That's where your confession is. That's where your words and the power of Holy Spirit,
you speaking them out and just being honest into saying, this is where I'm stuck. I can't get past
this thing. I need your help. I have to have your help. God, I want to do what it is you want me to
do. I want to be in your perfect will. I want to do, but I'm stuck right here. I have to have,
I demand just like a good son. I just have to, I need your help. You're not begging. You're not
doing it from a begging standpoint, but you're doing from a contending standpoint. Like I need
this God. And this is where God's like, okay, here's, here's, here's a man who is literally
stepping out in faith. And what does it say? What does the scripture say about faith?
Faith that good deeds is dead. We walk by faith, not by sight or feeling.
Faith, but not by sight. Here's the other thing. It's impossible without faith. It's impossible to
please God. You are literally standing in the moment of pleasing God when you're stepping out
in faith, when you're activating your faith. And I don't mean that in a, just like a selfish,
you know, like name it and claim it, grab and blab it sort of situation. I'm talking about like
real stuff where you're like, look, I'm literally trying to fulfill your purpose. I'm trying to
literally stand in sonship here. And I've got something in my way. I need this obstacle removed.
Mark 2, 24, what does it say? Stand this mountain and be thou removed,
be thou cast into the sea. You can literally move a mountain out of your way
by, by speaking and articulating what you need in a moment of faith. That is so powerful.
Hey, Chris, I have a question. Like, what'd you mean by, you said like a life partner or marriage
or like, are you like, like the decision to take that further, like legal step or something or
where, if you don't know, I was saying, I was saying like, God, like, would you help me to
love the person? Like, would you guide who I love? Like, I mean, I, it's, this isn't, this is a
process that's relational. There's like red flags, green flags, or the things that were called into
our life and the things that the people we interact with are called into. And then there's just a
matter of, do you want to do life with this person or not? You know, do you, do you enjoy being with
you know, do you, do you enjoy being with this person or does this person just make you always
feel on edge whenever you're around them? Yeah. Yeah. God, would you open my heart to the right
person? Yeah. Now I will tell you, there are several times in my marriage, in both of my
marriages where I came to myself and I said, you know what, I want to love my wife more.
And like, it's kind of like, oh, I lost that love and feeling sort of thing. Like, you know,
we're just married and we're doing things and all that kind of stuff. And it just seems,
seemed like there's just like, I want to like be passionate. Like I want to feel it. I want to be
emotional, you know? And I'm like, Lord, you know, help me to fall in love with my wife again.
You know, in whatever way that is, like, like what I, what do I got to do? What do I got to
do? What do I got to feel? What do I, you know, like, you know, help me do that. So absolutely
like in the sense of like love, obviously your relationship grows and love grows, you know,
type of thing. So where you were like in relationship 10 years ago with your wife or
with a person is not the same as it was today. It's, it's, it's deeper, it's more meaningful.
There's more life you've lived. There's all this sort of things. Right. And, um, and so love grows,
but, you know, like what you're talking about, like you need this thing, like, I need this,
I need this, like, I need this emotion. I need this sort of like, like unction, if you will,
to like pursue and go into this opportunity, you know, I don't want to spoil or waste
something that God may be presenting to me as the answer to what I'm looking for.
So, Lord, that could even be a prayer. Lord, don't let me spoil this opportunity.
What needs to happen here? Help my heart. What does it help out my unbelief? Right?
Oh, yeah, absolutely.
Help thou my unbelief.
Show me the way.
And God's like, I've just been waiting for you
to invite me in.
Give him permission.
All right, guys, we're over.
Father God, everyone's gonna pray for us.
Father God, I thank you for each one of these men.
I bless them.
Man, I wholeheartedly, mightily bless each one of them.
I want them to feel you, God.
I want them to know you in a greater way.
I want them to have breakthrough.
I want them to have just the light bulb moment.
I want them to go forward in all the areas of their life,
especially in relationship, but in career,
and in purpose, and in mission, and all the stuff, Lord.
I just bless them in that way.
I just speak life over them,
speak healing and health over them,
and wealth over them in Jesus' name.
And I thank you, Lord,
that we're gonna get breakthrough this week
as we contend to be our best self.
In Jesus' name, we pray, amen.