Hello, welcome. Happy Monday, everyone. For those in the U.S., happy Labor Day.
My name is Bethany Cooper. I'm one of the heartwork coaches here in our community,
and we are so glad that you are joining us tonight. If you are able to come on screen,
we would love to see you so that we can interact with the real you, not just the
image on the screen when you have your camera off. Welcome also to all of our new ladies.
Who is joining us new for the first time tonight? You've never been on a live session. Hi,
I see you, Leticia. Great to have you. So good to see you. Thanks for letting us see you tonight
as well. Anyone else new? You're joining us for the first time tonight. You've never been on a
live. Hi, Kelly. Hi, Shirai. Did I say it right? Yeah, good. I'm working on it still. Brenda,
April, Ivanka, Nisheto, Virginia. I see Cindy and Frenchy, Kelly, Melissa, Jenny,
Annette. One of our coaches is joining us tonight as well. Naysha is joining us. It's so good to
have you. I like to call people by name sometimes just because I feel like we all need to know that
God calls us by name. So just a reminder for each night that God sees you, you are more seen than
you realize. And he is intimately involved with the details of your life. The enemy would try to
convince you that God doesn't care about you, that God is not working behind the scenes, that you
cannot do this for us. All of those kind of things, which we're going to dig into that a little bit
tonight. If you will, we're going to ask Holy Spirit to reveal some areas for healing that
you might not have even realized you needed healing and freedom. Before that, for those
that are new joining us, we do housekeeping at the beginning of every session. And this is just
as important as some of the other stuff. So please still come, even though you know we do this. But
for anyone joining us, you're new for the first week, or even you've just been here just a few
weeks. I felt like it was really important just to kind of remind you all, and even the ladies that
have been in the program for a little bit, that we encourage you in this program during Heart Week,
you know, essentially, depending on how long it takes you, for five weeks to press pause on dating.
So we encourage you to just press pause on the apps, press pause on trying to meet somebody,
because in this time, your heart is going to be a little vulnerable, okay? And it's really important
for you to really just focus and let God speak to you about your heart and what needs healed,
because God sent you here for a reason, right? So even myself, before I came into the program,
I had a lot of healing. I was working on a lot of stuff, but there were just some things that
I was still getting tripped up with that I did not want to keep attracting the same kind of person
that I had been attracting. So I had to be willing to really kind of hunker down and invest in the
process. So I want to encourage you all, stay invested. You are the best investment you could
ever invest in, and so your heart work in this time is essential for your life to experience
acceleration and the fullness, the abundant life in every area of your life, including your love
story in the days ahead. So just wanted to mention that. Also, best practice is one week of content
per week, you all, okay? So what that means is videos, book reading, and journaling, the instructions
are there for you. We want you to work on that content that we say every week, hey, work on this
content this week, because it's paired together for a purpose, okay? So sometimes I have people
that will just sit and read the book and they'll be like, I'm done with the book, but they're like,
back on week one. Okay, that's not what we're looking for. You know, you want to really let God
guide you systematically, and we've set the program up to do that. So I want to encourage you to follow
that. If you go a little bit slower, that's fine. We don't really want to see people in heart work
for like months and months and months and months and months. And I know some people, I understand
some people have distractions that come. We want to encourage you to resist distractions, but here's
the reality, you all. I said this before, when we go to the hospital, if we ever have to, we don't
want to be in the ICU for a really long time. Just so y'all know, it's not the best place to be for
a really long time, right? The longer we're in ICU, the more recovery time it may take. Now, God can
help you recover in your process, but I'm just using that kind of metaphorically. We want you
to move forward, okay? Some people are very analytical, and they will also overanalyze
their heart work process and never feel good enough to move forward. And that is not God's
plan for you either, because healing is a process. Y'all, I've been married this week, September 4th
will be two years, two years anniversary coming up, praise the Lord.
But you know, God is still healing all the time, my life, my heart, you know, helping me reset old tapes and old things that have been there before as well as prior relationships.
So y'all you're going to be in process, no matter what. Okay. It won't feel this deep intensive as it does while you're here in that five weeks time or so, but it will, it will still be continuous.
Also just want to encourage you, we don't want you binge watching or binging the book. Okay, pace yourself really well. So what I mean by that is we don't want you to be done with this course in one to two weeks or even three weeks.
That's way too fast. So if you say, hey, I'm done. And we're looking on the back end and you just joined two weeks ago, we're going to lovingly say to you, hey, people don't finish this course well in two weeks, we want you to go back and start over.
And you might resist that. We hope you never leave, but we just, we're here to tell you what works and what works. I'm going to give you guys a clue.
Is to stay engaged, to post in the group, to communicate, to cheer each other on, to stay at the pace approximately of a week or so of content per week.
That is where people get the most success, truly. So for those of you, if you come in and you just invest and you give it everything you have, even allowing yourself to come out of hiding, post in the group, let your voice be known. Yes.
Even the stuff that you feel like sounds ugly, looks ugly.
You know what? Yep. Even that stuff too, because that's how you're going to get breakthrough.
Typically the people that isolate and hide all of that stuff are the people that will struggle more later on.
Okay, so we're here to help you. Myself, the other coaches, we're here to cheer you on. As I said, Annette's here tonight. Annette, will you wave so the ladies can see you?
Annette answering you, y'all. This is Annette. Isn't she lovely? She's another success story in our community. Her and Arthur got married. Gosh, Annette, how many months has it been?
There we go.
We got married April 14th.
Yes. Yes.
Praise the Lord. Y'all, if God can do it for us, he can do it for you too. But heart healing is so important. Isn't it, Annette?
It is the most important. He and I both went through the program and it has made all of the difference because we both came in with hearts that God had already worked on.
And then now together we understand where each other's coming from and we have grace because we know that we're always a work in process.
That's right. That's right. And even if, like my husband didn't go through the program, but he was on his own healing journey. So y'all, God can do it. God can do it. So I just want to encourage you for a few minutes tonight as well.
No matter what week you're on, if you've been in for a few weeks or you just started, remember this. Don't quit. Okay. Stay in the game. Stay engaged. When distractions come, do your best to resist those distractions and disruptions.
Even the ones that look really great, you all. Sometimes it's even our kids and everybody needs something from you when you're trying to sit down and do your heart work. Those are going to pop up.
All right. So, okay, we're going to go right into prayer and the content and keep moving forward. Father, we just thank you for your amazing grace. God, we thank you for healing supernaturally tonight.
Things that we can't even see or comprehend or fully know how they all have kind of synced up together and held us back.
We thank you for bringing things out of darkness into the light so that there can be revealings for healing, for freedom. We thank you, Holy Spirit, for being here.
We welcome you to come and weave in and out of our conversations, in and out of this time of just helping the ladies hear truth so that they can unpack the lies, so that they can lean into your love, Lord, a little bit more tonight.
I pray that if there's anything that they've been through in the past, through the hands of fathers or mothers or authority figures that have held them hostage in a sense, that have caused them to look at you, God, in a way that is not true of your character.
I pray that you would heal their hearts a little bit more tonight. God, help them to see you more clearly. Help them to hear the voice in the heart of heaven for them.
We thank you for supernatural upgrades in every area of our life. We thank you that you're making us completely whole, lacking no good thing, nothing missing, nothing lacking, nothing broken, completely whole, physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and financially.
I thank you that you would remove all distractions tonight.
I'm conveying your heart tonight and truth.
Protect their minds and their hearts from the attacks
and the voice of the enemy.
Help them to hear you clearly, Lord.
We just thank you in advance
for what you're gonna do here tonight.
In Jesus name, amen, amen.
Y'all, we're talking about stories tonight.
And from the perspective of what story are you believing?
What story are you telling yourself on a regular basis?
I used this analogy earlier today
and it really hit a chord with someone.
And I originally wasn't planning to give this example today,
but because it struck such a chord,
I prayed this afternoon, like, Lord,
should I share that again?
And I heard the Lord say, yes,
because if it helps another person get set free tonight,
it's gonna be worth it.
And here's the thing, what I said was,
imagine yourself being read a story by your mother.
And what is the best story that you've ever heard?
And when I said that, I heard the Lord this afternoon say,
some people didn't have moms that read to them.
And so I wanna say to you tonight
that if you didn't have a mom that didn't read to you,
for various different reasons,
it's not always because our moms don't care about us, right?
Sometimes we have moms that are single moms,
they're working hard,
they're barely got enough energy to do something like that.
Maybe their moms didn't read to them
or maybe they're not strong at reading.
I mean, there's so many different reasons,
but the enemy always wants us to believe the worst, okay?
Some of you did grow up in homes that were harmful
and maybe that wasn't a healthy thing that happened there.
But even that in and of itself,
we tell ourselves stories because of that, don't we?
So I want you to consider
what's the best story you've ever heard.
Maybe it's a story you read on your own.
I used this this afternoon.
I hadn't thought about these books in a really long time,
but I used to read The Babysitter's Club.
I loved it.
The mystery, the finding out who did what,
and I'm a big fan of board games
and I love Clue and Clue Jr.
And there's something about the mystery
and seeking after something that I don't know
and trying to discover who that is.
Yeah, Claudia, hang in here, hang in here with us
because this isn't where we're staying,
but you might've been the reason
God led me to say that again tonight,
because I almost didn't until a few minutes ago,
God said yes, okay?
Y'all, it can be hard when we have mom wounds
or dad wounds or sister wounds.
I mean, there's so many ways that we get wounded, right?
But here we go, we're gonna be free tonight.
We're gonna get set free from this stuff.
So you're thinking about fun stories, good stories,
but also I want you to consider
what's also a story that you read
that maybe you didn't like.
Maybe it brought up stuff that wasn't good.
I was sharing this afternoon
that it's kind of crazy to think about it now,
but as a teenager, a young preteen,
I don't really remember how old I was
the first time my grandmother gave me a book
by an author by the name of V.C. Andrews.
If y'all are familiar, there's books by them
that they're just full of a lot of yucky stuff, you all.
And just to kind of paraphrase,
there's a lot of incest in those stories.
Crazy enough, you all,
that's stuff I was literally going through in my life.
But my grandma gave me these books.
That's mind blowing to me.
These are books that she had read and then gave to me.
So when I look back, I'm like, yuck,
those were not good stories that I read.
So where am I going with this?
I'm going with this in the direction of
the things that we put into our minds feed our soul.
The things that we see, the things that we hear,
the things that we read, the things that we think on,
that is what is feeding our soul.
So I wanna encourage you all
to really take time in these next few weeks,
not to get religious about it,
but just to ask the Holy Spirit
to give you a hunger and a thirst for the word of God.
A renewal of your relationship and the love relationship
with Jesus Christ, the Father and the Holy Spirit,
that you would long to hear the truth
and have fresh revelation given to you,
not just through other people, but for you.
the father. And some of you may not know, like, or have ever
known your relationship with the Lord to look like and feel like
this exciting, like you look forward to hear, God, what do
you want to show me today? And to believe that you can hear for
yourself, but God in his word declares that he will whisper
secrets from heaven to those that seek him. Have you ever
been told a secret by someone that you just was a beloved
friend or person? And how special does that feel? It's not
a bad secret. Let's pretend. Let's think of good secrets
right now. And doesn't that feel exciting? And you just feel
honored that that person trust you, maybe they're pregnant,
and they're just so excited. They can't tell everybody yet,
but they're telling you. God is, is like so excited to tell his
kids some stuff. And that includes you. Tonight, I'm also
talking about the fact that it's time, it's time God brought
each one of you here to this heartwork healing process, to
step out of the old story that you have been telling yourself,
or that the enemy has been telling you it can be both. And
some of you have had limiting belief systems and mindsets and
orphan mentalities. And, and subconsciously, you haven't even
really known where those came from. But they've just always
been there. And then here's the other flip side, God wants you
to step into the new story, a that was written for you from
the beginning of time when he formed you. And he was like,
yes. And isn't she lovely. He was so excited the day he
created us. Some of you, it's hard for you to even comprehend
that, because you'd never believe that about yourself. And
people that raised you didn't tell you those things. But God
absolutely felt that way. When he formed you, he created you
when you were birthed. Jesus Christ, God, the Father and the
Holy Spirit were in that room with you and whole of heaven was
shouting. Can you imagine it? So not only that story, but the
story right now that's being written right now, brand new,
everything old is passed away. And behold, everything has
become new. As you are stepping into the renewal of your mind
and your heart and aligning with the kingdom of heaven. Everything
is being made new. So who you were yesterday is gone. Who you
are today is new. Tomorrow you have a brand new day to step
into something new again. What hindered us before does not have
to continue to hinder us in the days to come. I'm going to give
you guys some thoughts and things I wrote down. I just want
you, maybe these aren't your story. Okay. Maybe these are not
the stories you're telling yourself is what I'm trying to
say. But maybe your story sounds similar or something different.
But I just want to throw out some examples from my own life
from things I've seen other people write and say the lies
that they've believed. And that's where I came up with
these thoughts. Maybe this is a story that you hear. It doesn't
matter. From the perspective of your friend betrayed you, lied
about you behind your back, didn't show up for you and you
tell yourself the story. It doesn't really matter. But deep
down inside your heart is breaking. Maybe for you, it was,
you know, someone that broke up with you, someone, you know, you
wanted to be in relationship with and that relationship ended
and you tell yourself, well, that didn't matter. I didn't
really want it anyways. But did we want it? Didn't we want that
thing to work? Praise God, he defends us and keeps us from
things that are not good for us. But the reality is, is we
have to feel the feels so God can heal the feels. But if we're
never acknowledging how we really feel that stuff just
keeps getting shoved down, keeps getting shoved down, and we just
keep trying to survive. And some days you all that is that is
reality, because we're working, we're running, we're doing,
we're parenting. And we just feel like we don't have even
enough energy to process the emotions of the day. Anyone
relate to that? I've had some days like that recently, man,
I'm working hard for the Lord, and we're busy, we're crushing
it in this in this movement. But it all takes time, right? My
spiritual daughters are going through the ringer left and
right. That breaks my heart. And some days I just don't have the
energy.
So then the next day I'm like, okay, Lord, help me today to look at this.
And there's all different ways, but let's not tell ourselves, I didn't want that anyways.
Maybe it's a promotion for you. Maybe it was a trip you were hoping to go on and the finances
fell through. I don't know what the thing is, but are you telling yourself a lie and partnering with
things that the enemy is saying? Maybe this is yours. Let's see here. Maybe it sounds like this,
Leanne, you should just give up on this. Or maybe it's Latisha, you should just give up on this.
This is silly. This program may not even work for you. How are you going to be any different than
you were before? I'm using people's names because that always makes it more personal, doesn't it?
These are things we hear the enemies say to women over and over and over again when they step into
this program. The enemy does not want you to move forward, y'all. Even when it's beyond the program
and you're dating or beyond the program and you're engaged or you're married, the enemy is always
trying to kill, steal, and destroy. But Jesus Christ is the one who came to give us life and give it to
us more abundantly, but it's up to us to partner with him. And part of that process is the healing
that you're in. To recognize the areas where you believe a lie and then you ask God some really
great questions about it. We're going to go on into that in a little bit, but I'm going to read
a couple more to you. I'm going to go a little quicker now. Maybe your lies and the thoughts
that you're thinking and the stories you tell yourself sound like this, I never get picked.
I wait and I wait and I wait and God, you always take someone else to the front of the line
and I get passed over. God blesses everybody but me. All men only date skinny women.
This program takes way too much time.
I can't do it. I don't have what it takes.
Whatever your storyline is, I want you to write that down on your paper
because it may not be one I said, and if you don't have paper, it's okay. I see some people
walk in. I'm glad you're here, but I do want you to take some time later when you're home and just
write down if there's thoughts that are coming to you, there's storylines that you're telling
yourself. I want you to write those down. Here's why, because if you don't, you'll probably, you
might forget them later. Okay. We're going to keep going. Where did these thoughts come from?
Where did they originate, ladies? Where is the source? This is where it's super important for
you all to not depend on your own understanding. God's thoughts are above our thoughts. His ways
are above our ways. His understanding is way bigger. He sees it all. So we ask him for the
revelation. He's seen our whole timeline. We ask him to reveal things for healing and we don't dig.
We trust what is revealed in each day and each moment because he knows where you are and he
knows how to get you where you need to go to live into the fullness of his plan and promise for you.
Will you trust him in this process? What's the original source? What's the initial wound and
trauma that you experienced that caused you to believe and partner with the lies that you're now
hearing? I want you to imagine with me, depending on what age you are, I mean, records have come
back in. So I feel like this is still a very kind of valid example, but back in the day,
I used to have a record player and I loved it. I love to listen to records, but once that record
got scratched, especially if it got scratched really badly, y'all that song, it would never
go past a certain point, would it? It'd be like, you know, make a noise. Like it just never got
past that point. That song would get stuck. And that's what has happened with some of you.
The original song was written, but along the way, trauma entered wounds happened
and it created a scratch on the record, if you will. But God wants to give you an entirely new
record. He wants to rewrite the whole story. He wants to rewrite the whole song and give you a new
melody to live your life by. Again, some of you, it might be hard to imagine, but it is possible.
Again, whatever God does for one, he will do for another. He's not a man that he would give to me
and withhold from you. If that is the lie that you believe, where did that come from?
We don't get what we expect, we actually get what we inspect.
How often are we actually pausing and inspecting our thoughts?
And thinking about what we're thinking about, where are your thoughts and your heart postures
and the attitudes of your heart leading you? Are they leading you to things that are true,
noble, lovely, and of good report? Things that are above only and not beneath?
Or are your thoughts leading you into, God doesn't fight for me.
God doesn't love me. God withholds from me. Where are your thoughts leading you?
Y'all, when I say these things, there is no shame, okay? I feel like it's super important.
I'm going to say, I feel like the enemy always tries to come in and convince some of you that
this is a talk from judgment. This is me sharing my heart from things God has set me free from.
There are so many patterns in my mind where I believe the truth. I went to church. I knew the
truth to a degree, but my heart and the orphan mentalities that I had in the abandonment and
rejection and neglect that was still wounds in my heart were causing me to believe that God
maybe, maybe he doesn't really love me like everybody says.
I believe it, Lord, but man, I don't know when this thing happens, it's just so hard because I,
God, if you were good, why would this happen? Y'all, the enemy is the one that brings death
and destruction, but we believe it's God at times, don't we? If we're being really honest
with ourselves, we blame God for the hardship in our lives. And again, there's no shame in judgment.
I'm just speaking truth because we need to bring these things to the surface. You all
shame, guilt, and condemnation. If you ever hear anything that we are
conveying to you in this ministry, in this movement through those lenses and those earmuffs,
if you will, that is the enemy causing you to hear something through a filter of pain,
because that is not the heart behind what's being conveyed tonight.
Okay. All right. So second Corinthians 10, five says this, we demolish arguments in every
pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God. And we take captive every
thought and make it obedient to Christ. So again, I want you to pause and I want you to think just
even about your day. We're into the evening. So we had a good chunk of the day for most of us.
Some of you all are on the West coast. So you still have a few hours, good hours of the evening,
but I want you to think about today, maybe yesterday. I want you just to ponder the
thoughts that you've been focused on. What does those, what did those look like, feel like,
sound like? Cause here's, here's another truth. When we think on negative things,
our bodies also physically have a response, right? Yeah. So some of you all are experiencing a lot
of stress in your body because you've been thinking on really negative things and it's not
your, I, Ooh, thank you. Holy spirit. Ooh, I felt that one. He's so good. You all. I love the Holy
spirit. Bring him up in here. Some of you all, it's, you just need to hear it's not your fault.
Okay. The things that you went through as a kid. And even after that,
they caused you to make choices and believe things out of trauma and the counterfeit identities that,
that were created to protect yourself. Now, if you hear these things and then you choose to continue
on a path, that's not healthy for you. That's different. We didn't know what we didn't know
before, but now we're getting enlightenment. We're here. Maybe some of us might not fully receive it
yet, but you are in a place where you're hearing truth and you all have a choice to partner with
it or not. And that there's no judgment in that either are critical attitudes or anything, but
that's just, that's reality. I also had choices. I had to choose at a certain point in my life.
And even still today, when stuff happens, y'all, I have an opportunity to choose God. What are you
trying to show me through this? When I get offended, when my, a friend of mine that I think
is a close friend literally chooses to just almost kind of walk away from the friendship.
I can believe that that person doesn't care about me at all,
or I can choose to believe that we're just in a different season of life right now.
It's harder to believe the second one.
It's actually easier for my flesh to believe that that person just does not care about me and they're a bad friend.
I know that I'm saying some things that people can relate to.
It's easier to believe that.
It's harder to stay in a heart posture of love towards myself, towards God, and towards that person.
Do I have to continue to have the same kind of boundaries with them and allow them to keep hurting me?
No.
But I can bless them and understand that this season of our life, we are just not in the same circle.
And that can be okay.
Okay?
All right, here we go.
What have your thoughts been rooted in?
Been rooted in overwhelm, fear, doubt, risk?
I don't know if I can love.
I don't know if I can do this, you know, because love is a risk.
It's hard to trust you, God.
It's hard to trust other people.
Like, what are they rooted in?
Are they rooted in the negative or what about this, you all?
What about an invitation?
An invitation from heaven that leads to hope, that leads to joy, that leads to the, like, life overflowing.
You know, there's a scripture that talks about rivers of living water, that they would literally flow up out of us.
That we will become those that follow the Lord and live for him, that we will be like trees planted by rivers of living water.
And that we would flourish in such a way that we would create shade for people to come up under us.
You know, there used to be a song that's coming up in my spirit.
Y'all, this is old school, but I'm just going to go with what Holy Spirit.
Whose report will you believe?
You know, whose report will you believe?
Will you believe the report of the Lord or the report of the enemy?
I'm not going to sing it for you because I don't even fully remember how it goes.
But that's, it was an old school one that I heard over and over growing up after I gave my life to the Lord.
Growing up in the Lord, you know, I gave my life to the Lord.
I was 22, I think.
I think that's how old.
Whose report are you going to believe tonight and in the days ahead?
We're going to do our first breakout.
If you're here for the first time tonight, please do not leave when we do breakout session.
Stay engaged.
When we go into breakout, you're going to be put in a room with two or three, three total, hopefully ladies here.
And you're going to talk about the question that I'm about to give you.
Hey, for about eight or nine minutes.
Y'all, some of you are going to have to really lean in to do it afraid.
God will give you the courage that you need.
I promise this.
I've been doing this for years.
These breakout sessions are just as powerful as the time that the coaches are coaching you.
If you will embrace them.
Everybody's here for the same reason to get free.
You are safe.
If you don't know how to answer, I want you to know it's okay.
Because I had someone last week to say, man, when I get into these breakouts, I just panic.
And if that's what you feel, I want to encourage you just to say that.
I don't want everybody to not answer, but I just want you all to practice being the real.
You.
Okay.
Here's your question.
What negative thoughts do you need to take captive tonight?
Okay.
If you happen to know the wound or God is bringing up a memory for you,
that's connected to this negative thought.
I want to encourage you to share that as well.
Okay.
You don't even have to fully understand why you're having this memory.
You guys don't have to piece this all together right now.
You can just share.
This is the thought I'm going to take captive.
Okay.
Here we go.
Got to assign these.
Give me one sec.
So Annette, you'll stay with me just FYI.
Just don't forget to tell you that.
I'm going to do nine minutes.
There's three people in a room.
So that should give 369.
You all have three minutes to share a person.
Okay.
If you have extra time.
After you've shared about the question,
just get to know each other a little bit. Okay.
Here you go.
I'm going to be praying for you all.
Okay, Maria, Melissa, Michelle, if y'all can click, I know some of y'all might have delay
internet wise.
Okay, we got two in there.
That's awesome.
Okay, I think a couple people are froze on the screen, so I think their internet is
just a little delayed.
All right, father, we just thank you right now for all these ladies that are in the rooms.
We thank you God for the conversations that that they're having centered around the negative
thoughts that they're going to take captive tonight.
We thank you God for freedom and liberty in the Holy Ghost.
We know that this where the spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom, there's liberty.
And I pray tonight that you would help every one of these ladies to come a little closer
to your heart, come a little bit closer to your truth, that they would hear the truth
of heaven speaking over them, even right now that they would come out of judgment, shame,
critical mindsets about themselves and about other people where we thank you for just coming
in and renewing our hearts and our minds through Christ Jesus.
Oh, thank you, Holy Spirit, I just heard him say he's doing some brain surgery tonight.
So we just thank you in advance for the healing work in our brains, even just, I'm just seeing
neural pathways being created, where we've had old thought patterns, y'all know that
when we think a negative thought, that kind of starts to pave a way in our brain.
And so God wants to create some new pathways tonight.
We just thank you, Father, for that supernatural work.
We thank you that you would just continue to bring memories to the surface that need
to come out of darkness into the light, even as the ladies are talking, that would bring
freedom and liberty and truth, God, that you would just place the balm of Gilead upon their
hearts, their minds, their bodies, their spirits, and their souls, that you would help
them to receive your truth.
I'm just asking you to hug them with a hug of heaven tonight, that they would sense your
presence and your love and affirmation of them, that they would hear your voice louder
than any voice of the enemy.
Your word declares that you can shut the mouths of the lions, and so we're asking you to help
them to be still and know your voice, Lord, where the enemy has tried to cause them to
doubt their ability to hear you, God.
I pray that you would bring clarity.
We thank you, God, that you would just...
Yes, Lord, I thank you for...
I'm just seeing the Lord putting a cap on people's heads, almost like a sports team
baseball cap, and it's like sometimes we put those caps on because we're about to go play
in the game, and when the game is over, we take those caps off, and I just thank you,
God, that that to me and my spirit resembles newness, adventure, just being in the game.
That means that we have something going on and that we're participating in the kingdom
work, and we thank you that we also have times where there's a pause and there's a rest and
other players get put in on our behalf, and so, Lord, I just thank you that there's a
perfect motion and process, and I thank you, Lord, that you would help us to just know
and see all the ways that you're working on our behalf in the spirit realm that we would...
Yeah, Lord, I just thank you that we would receive gifts from heaven in a new way, not
just because we want something from you, but Lord, supernatural gifts.
I thank you that you would stir up the gifts of God within us.
Your word also declares that it's up to us to stir up the gifts of God within ourselves,
Lord, that we would seek out understanding and revelation of the gifts and that we would
seek the giver more than the gifts, so, Lord, I thank you that if we would seek you first,
seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all of these things will be added unto
us.
I thank you, but sometimes even that scripture has been lorded over singles, and we just
thank you, Lord, that not only will they seek you, but they'll seek your gifts, the
gift of the spirit, the gift of faith, the gift and the ability to have, yes, Lord, discernment
and wisdom, hospitality, serving, all these...
different gifts. There's so many more ladies. I encourage you to
look those up in scripture and ask God to give you
understanding and revelation of the gifts that are in you. And
Lord, I thank you for transfusions in the spirit realm
as well. I thank you that transfusions in my heart and
mind right now what's coming to mind is like blood transfusion.
So sometimes our blood needs to be cleaned out. And Annette, our
nurse here would know that better what that means. But just
I'm hearing God say that he's doing some blood transfusions
tonight. We thank you Jesus for the blood that you shed on the
cross, and you allowed your body to be broken and all the lashes
that he took upon his back you all I was reading a devotion
this morning I was talking about how that part was so relevant to
our physical healing. There was a purpose in every type of wound
that Jesus endured. And even the crowns put on his head you all
think about it. We're talking about thoughts tonight. Jesus
took the weight of sin, death and destruction upon himself for
you, for us. And he did it with love in his heart. Why? To
create a way for us yes to have salvation and freedom, but to
also be in relationship with him, the Father and the Holy
Spirit. They've always been in pursuit of relationship. So Lord
we just thank you that you would help us to step into that
truth tonight that you have always desired to have
relationship with us, that you did not cut us off without
supply. God, if we feel far from you in any way, I pray that you
would help us to just come in and learn how to get close to
you in a new way. Sometimes that shift happens ladies so that we
will keep seeking, asking and knocking. The word declares that
when we seek, we will find when we knock the door, we opened
unto us and to ask and keep on asking. So where we just thank
you tonight that you'll give us good questions that you'll help
us to keep seeking you and to know that we can find you that
you're not. All right, Lord, God just said right now, some of you
all need to hear whether it's, you know, live with us here
right now or on the replay. God's not playing hide and seek
from you in such a way that you can never find him. I just kind
of heard in the spirit, like some of you think that God's
playing tricks on you and that he's hiding so well that you'll
never find him. And that's not truth. I just saw your message,
Joey, and that's totally fine. And yeah, we understand if
you're on a city bus, that makes it kind of tough to be in a
breakout room. So I'm glad you're still here with us and
listening in. Psalm 99 says all who are oppressed may come to
you as a shelter in the time of trouble, a perfect hiding place.
Do you need a hiding place tonight? From the weariness and
the weight of the week or the day, I know we just started the
week, but sometimes doesn't even just a Monday feel like a whole
week you all sometimes it can. But God says all who are
oppressed may come to him as a shelter in the time of trouble.
And he will be that perfect hiding place for you. He will
protect you. He will defend you. There's a scripture that talks
about hiding in the cleft of the rock. Y'all that's like the
little Craig. It's like the little crack in this craft is
it's very hard to be found in that place. And God says he'll
hide us even in the cleft of the rock. He is the rock that's
higher than anything we could ever imagine. And he is a safe
place for us to come to and rest in him. I'm going to continue to
pray and talk as the ladies start to come back. Psalm 8617
says send me a miraculous sign to show me how much you love me
so that those who hate me will see it and be ashamed. Don't
they know that you Lord are my comforter, the one who comes to
help me. So tonight, I just want to encourage you all to really
lean into God defending you in the season and that he will come
through for you that he will fight for you on behalf on
behalf of the enemies like he prepares a table for us in the
presence of our enemies. And some of us may not have felt
that in the past, but that didn't make it true. There are
ways that I'm confident that God has protected me from
things that I never even knew he was protecting me from. And I
believe that for all of you as well. So what is what is it that
you can lean into tonight and believe the truth that God has
always been protecting you and defending you?
Let's partner with bat truth. Welcome back. Hello. All right. So for those that are new,
go ahead and mute yourself again for right now for me. And what we do right now is anyone that's
willing to share with the whole group what you shared in your private breakout group,
that is what we're going to do for a few minutes. Who is willing to share? And I always say this,
the first person, it always takes one to get the party going. All right, Claudia, go ahead.
Hi, Claudia. Sorry. Hi, Bethany. I'm driving. That's all right. I almost said hi to myself.
So what I shared in the group was formerly, I believe the lie that there was no good men,
like there aren't any good men. They're all taken. They're all gone. But recently, like I've been
I'm assured that there are good men. And how do I know? Because my friends are married to good men.
You know, we say like in our in our friend group, like, we don't date unhealthy men or whatever,
like, I'm also not dating right now. But, you know, we marry the good ones, good vibes for good
guys. You know, we we marry the good ones. And so they're married to really strong, healthy men.
And it's admirable. But now. So, OK, so now I know that there are good men. There are good
Christian men. But where I feel like the enemy is trying to take that is the good single men
are not attracted to me. I only attract the toxic ones. And that's and so then I think like that
branches off into what's wrong with me if the good single Christian guys aren't attracted to me.
You know, like why am I only attracting the toxic ones? And that's without even trying. You know,
I don't have people that really express interest. But and the times that I do like this last week,
I told this guy that I was not interested at the time. I needed to take a break and
just work on myself. And he was OK with that. But then a day later, he just came out of the blue
and said, it's only going to get harder for women. Like, what the heck? Yeah. So, yeah,
that gives it gives you a good signal. That's not your spirit mate. Just side note. Yeah,
absolutely. Know that. Here's the thing. Here's the thing, ladies. And I think this is a real
truth that we need to talk about really quick. Is that and I talked about this earlier today,
too, is when we ask you all to press pause on dating, if you are currently talking to someone,
even on the apps, even if it's just for a little bit and you tell them that you're going to just
take a break, had fun chatting with you. I'm just going to take a break for a little bit to work on
some heart healing for myself. And they react or do something or say something that is unhealthy
like that. Absolutely. You want to move on from that. A healthy man will honor and respect what
you're telling them and they will respond with support, even if they may not wait that five
weeks for you. And I don't want you to get into fear of missing out because if you're your spirit
mate will you won't miss out on them. You all you won't miss out. OK, but as Claudia was sharing
that, I just think it's super important to talk about that just for a second. We're not going to
stay here. But if you start to have panic when you hear the hey, ladies, press pause, that means you
have fear that there's not enough. OK, so look at that. One of the things Claudia was saying that I
really want to hone in on here, she said a couple of things, but the I only attract the toxic ones.
I would encourage anyone that has these kind of thoughts a to ask yourself, where did this start?
Did someone say that to you? Did you believe that about yourself? Because like I that was something
I said to myself when I started working with my counselor, even before I came into this program,
she asked me why I wanted to work with her. And I said, my picker is broken. I'm not saying that
wasn't true. There was an element of truth to that, you all. But here's the reality. My heart
was broken on the inside in some ways. I didn't even I literally didn't even know it was still
in that condition in certain places. And as my heart healed and I gained more and more truth,
you know, I'm not joking. I probably listened to the soul ties video no less than three times
while I was in heart work. I know you all I'm mentioning soul ties. It's taking a break right
now. We're revamping it. So don't panic. We'll get it out to you. Okay. So even that this is
where we were, I probably shouldn't have said that. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry.
mentioned that I'm so sorry. I don't want to stir anything up.
We were revamping it. And this this will happen sometimes in
the program. But I want you all to trust even in the timing of
you hearing that video. Okay. There are other things that are
at play right now that God has you focusing on. So trust the
timing of that not just because we don't have it up for you. I
really believe that when I say things like that. I believe in
the timing of books I read of, you know, some of my books are
left half read and I'll pick them back up and it'll be
exactly where I need to read is that's how that's my
relationship with the Lord. So I want to encourage you all to
lean into that. But point being, I read the book multiple times,
not just during my five weeks, but I read it again, after I was
done, I went back to my journal and just, like, looked at my
growth, but also like, you know, pondered on some things that God
was still doing in me. And I'm not saying that to weigh you all
down. I just want you to consider it. The revisiting and
kind of circling back. Here's why. I brought all that up to
say that I had to know that as I healed, that when I met my
spirit mate, he was going to be healthy because I was looking
for good fruit. I wasn't just looking for mouth pop anymore.
Somebody that said they were this and that, but then didn't
actually have the fruit long term in their life. Because
here's the difference when they show up consistent long term,
and you've got a community, if you will, to help you walk that
journey. Y'all, I went into the my group live all the time was
like, I just went on a date. This is what happened. This is
what I'm not sure about. And my people, my sister squad was
there be like, this is what sounds good. Hey, yeah, I agree
with you. That sounds like a yellow flag. Sisters help each
other in this community. And we look out for you, your coaches,
each other. If that's what you choose to embrace and walk out,
that's up to you. Okay, so as you heal, you should start to
see red flags and not blow past them anymore. And that's going
to be key for Claudia or anyone else that related to what she
said. I was one of those people in the past that I saw red
flags, and I blew past them. I made excuses for their red
flags, because of some other idea or fantasy that I was caught
up in, in my mind. Okay, so I want to encourage you all if
that's you really be asking God, where did this start? Did
somebody say this to me? Or did something happen that I believe
this about myself? And Oh, Claudia, hi, I didn't even
realize that was you on there. Because I was still looking for
your other photo. So thank you for sharing on that. I think
it's super important for you all to hear. And if someone says
stuff like that to you, I hope that you go ahead and just move
on. And we're not going to give dating advice in here. But I am
going to say that when it's someone that says something like
that to you, that's the devil trying to just mess with you.
And you can just move on from that. Anyone else willing to
share about what you shared in your private breakout group?
Awesome, Melissa, go ahead.
Um, I was talking a little bit about I've had a transition
recently in the past couple weeks, because my granddaughter,
I've watched her since she was born, and started kindergarten a
couple weeks ago. Um, but there was there's some other changes
that was going on with her dad, because my son had had treatment
for cancer. He's doing okay now. Um, but since she started school,
I haven't seen her. So I feel like the enemy, and I haven't
got to talk to my son that much, any either. So I periodically
I'm hearing things like, well, you must have done something
wrong, or you did something they didn't like, they're avoiding
you. And then I'll tell myself, that's not true. But it still is
taking up more of my time than I would like. And, of course, I
will think about it sometimes like, well, did I say or do
something that they're upset about? So that was what I brought
up. But I don't, I can't think of anything from my past that
would correlate with that.
Well, and sometimes it might be an entirely different
relationship or situation. Did you ever feel like you got in
trouble for something that you didn't think you should get in
trouble for? Like big kind of bigger in trouble kind of
memory?
I'm not sure. I mean, I can't think of a specific example, but
I kind of do feel underneath that possibly that did happen.
Or someone wasn't speaking to me because they believe something
that wasn't true. And I didn't know.
Okay, so this is where and this is a great example, ladies,
we're not always going to know right away what that thing is
connected to. And this is where in your healing process. I call
it pool on the
string. That's kind of my nickname for it. And what I mean by that is that you kind of have
an inkling, if you will, of something. And so pulling on the string to me would be, okay,
Lord, I'm kind of feeling like there's something to this. You did something wrong. I don't remember
if something happened where I believe the lie that because I did something wrong, someone pulled back
their relationship from me or that actually could have happened. That was the other thing
where kind of what's coming up in my spirit is sometimes we'll be in relationships and it can
be some family relationship. It could have been a dating. It could even been like this is a teacher.
I know this kind of sounds like different pieces and parts, but I just want to put a couple ideas
out there where if we made a mistake and that person withheld love in our minds, withheld love
from us to some degree, that can cause us to believe that if someone makes any kind of shift
that isn't like the normal way things have gone, that that means they don't love us. Or I did
something wrong to cause there to be a difference in the relationship when actually it can literally
just be, she's gone back to kindergarten. Life is a little hectic and busy. They still love you just
as much. But I will also say, have you processed and grieved the change of maybe not having to be
that sole provider? Yes. And yes. And now, because part of it, sometimes it was stressful being that
provider because it would be long days and there would sometimes be poor communication from her
parents. So I wouldn't know till the last minute what I was doing. So because of my son going
through his treatments, this was a little gradual. He wanted to spend more time with her and he wasn't
working. So I didn't have her as much over the summer. So it kind of helped for the starting
at school. So it did help free me up and not make me feel, I don't know, I don't want to say confined,
but making it feel like that. I just, I couldn't do anything else that I had to be watching her,
but at the same time I would miss her too. So I've, but I know that this is, it's a natural thing.
It is. So this is coming up in my spirit too. So I'm just going to say it and you may,
I don't want you to feel offended or like, Oh, why did you say that? But I think it's worth
putting out there. Sometimes when situations like this happen, we can also become codependent
on relationships with our children and grandchildren. And when that shift happens,
it feels like a big shift, even though you had that transition time, some of what you're saying,
it can start to feel like a big, and we should naturally miss. Okay. If we have a relationship
shift, you all, we're going to naturally miss people, but when there's pain deep inside to
some level, or we feel like all of a sudden, like there's something missing that's different
than missing someone. Does that make sense? Yeah. So just really be inquiring of the Lord.
If there was any kind of maybe codependent kind of thing that started forming there,
because you said something important, you said, sometimes I wouldn't even know what I was doing
until they called me at the last minute. Yeah. Yeah. So that's a signal to me. And again,
there's no shame in this. Any of us would, who would be helping our kids or, you know,
that are struggling in any kind of situation, boundaries and lines can get blurred a little
bit. And what can start to happen then is that enmeshment and there's no real clarity. And so
then when their life is chaotic and they don't really respect boundaries, and we allow that to
go on, then when that chaos is over, or maybe just not happening right now, we can also feel avoid
from that. Okay. The chaos. So just be, be in prayer about a couple of those things that I
mentioned and just see what the Lord brings up for you. Okay. Okay. I will. That doesn't offend
me at all. Cause I actually wrote a book. I read a book. It's one of the original ones
about codependency. Um, and there was actually questions at the end, just like there is for
heartwork that I, um, cause someone, a counselor had recommend that to me a long time ago. And I
was like, I'm not codependent, but once I read the book, I understood and I have boundaries and
healing. But now that you're saying that I'm going to go back through my journal because
since I had got rid of most of my codependency.
Let's see, maybe I hung on to it again with my granddaughter.
So I don't want to be doing that.
So I, yeah.
And sometimes it can slip in without us even realizing it.
Sometimes I here's one you all, I had codependency on my dog.
You would think, well, how can you get codependent on a dog?
Well, because like I relied on her as a source of comfort and she filled a
void that sometimes I just didn't know how to get it filled with the Lord.
Um, or feel like, feel like enough on my own, but I healed, I've been
healing, you'll heal too, and you'll continue to get stronger and, and
you'll recognize it quicker.
Next time, like sincerely, we'll, we all start to develop
muscles to recognize things.
Um, so thank you for sharing.
I appreciate that for you having the courage, Claudia as well.
I'm going to go ahead and continue into the next part of the content.
Um, because it's really, really important.
It pairs so well with what we're already talking about tonight.
I want you all to think about, um, intervals.
I don't know if y'all have ever heard about that before.
Intervals are something where we as a person set a determination.
Okay.
So what that means is we kind of make a decision to partner with in our
minds and our hearts with, with a thought, with a belief system to
protect ourselves from feeling pain.
Okay.
I want to read that again, a determination set in our minds
and hearts to protect us from pain.
That's an interval.
That's what it means.
Romans 12, two says, do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be
transformed by the renewing of your mind.
Then you will be able to test what God's will is his good, perfect, and pleasing
will, I want you to think about the soil of your hearts for a few minutes.
And again, there's no judgment, but I just want you to think about like, what's
the condition of your soil right now?
The Bible talks about the different types of soil.
The book talks about it a little bit too.
Oh yes, I can.
Nikki.
An interval is a determination set in our mind and heart to protect us from pain.
I'm going to, I'm going to give you examples here a little bit in a few
minutes from the book, as well as my own.
And again, there can be additional ones, but I want y'all to hear this part.
And again, I never share pages of the book just because the
ebook pages are different.
The content's the same, but just kind of hone in and hear tonight.
Um, as I read this says, but even though you won't be able to replace the actual
events that happened in your life, you can replace the lies you believed.
And most importantly, the vows you made as a result of them, when we experience
these hurts in life, they make us sad.
And when, and when we are sad, that's when anger shows up.
Anger is always the defender.
It always shows up when those wounded and vulnerable parts
of our heart feel threatened.
I like to think of it as hurts body guard.
When anger is around, we feel strong and we start to make inner vows.
Nobody is ever going to hurt me again.
I don't care about anyone.
I can't trust anybody.
I will never turn out like my mother or father.
I won't be made a fool anymore.
Nobody is going to tell me what to do.
I cannot tell anybody about this.
I will be perfect from now on.
So nobody can reject me.
Ooh, yep.
That one went, okay.
I want to show a hands.
I'm going to keep reading who in here struggles with feeling
like you have to be perfect.
I want to see hands.
Okay.
Yeah, you can do digital or physical.
All right.
Tonight.
Here's the truth.
There is no perfect one.
There's only one perfect one.
And his name is Jesus Christ.
So you can let yourself off the hook starting tonight.
Is that going to be easy?
No, I struggle with it too.
I made a mistake last week in work.
And I thought about that thing all day on and off all day, even to the point
that I talked to Brian about it.
I'm like, this thing is bugging me so bad.
Was it a showstopper?
No.
But man, I want everything to be perfect and I don't want to mess up something.
But here's the reality.
Why do I think I have to do everything perfectly at the, at the core?
I'm afraid that if I don't, someone is going to be upset with me or reject
me in some way, or I won't get that movement forward and I'm not even
going to be able to do it, but I'm afraid that if I don't, I'm not going to
and saying, that's truth, you all, but those are things we believe and tell ourselves.
I really want you to think about your relationships and where are you convincing yourself that if
you're not perfect, or if you don't have it all together, or the lie that you're not enough in
some way, that if you're not, you know, all those things that people won't really love you.
You know, when I even read that part where it says, I can't tell anybody about this,
you all, years ago, and I feel led to share this, I hope this helps someone tonight.
I believe the lie that if I told people my story, if people really knew what happened to me,
they would not love me, and they would reject me, and people would make fun of me,
and people would pity me. I mean, so many different things I heard the enemy say.
But here's the truth, you all. While I don't, I mean, I don't, I'm not like, yes,
I was sexually abused. I'm not like that. Yes, my ex cheated on me with multiple women.
I mean, no. Am I like that? No. But you know what? You know why I feel excited about those things?
Because I gave those to the Lord, and I'm like, God, I don't believe you caused these things,
but I believe your word, and it says that if I will give these things to you,
that you will take my pain, and you'll use it for a purpose.
So here I am coaching my heart out with heart work. I would have, I mean, I told you all last
week, I could not have even conceived what I'm doing right now years ago. I wanted to help people
find the Lord. I wanted to help people get free, and I knew those two things, and I just,
every single day, I took one step towards that, and somehow, praise the Lord, I've ended up here,
and somehow, praise the Lord, I've ended up here, and I get to do this kind of stuff.
It's glorious, and I'm so grateful. So I don't know who needed maybe to hear that tonight. I'm
sorry for what you've been through. God's heart broke as you went through those things,
but he wants to turn it all around for good. Okay, I'm going to keep going. We're going back
to the vows. I had to take a sidebar. The Holy Spirit was taking me there, you all. We make a
decision to harden our hearts when we make vows, and it makes sense in that moment. We think if we
make these vows and build these walls around our hearts that we can keep all of the bad things out,
but unfortunately, walls are good at keeping things out, but they are not good at letting
things in, and to stop surviving and start thriving, we're going to have to be able to let
a lot of things in. As the lies in their corresponding vows are emerging,
we have to replace them with the greater truth of God's Word.
So on that note, I'm going to give you a couple vows that not only were in the book, but a couple
additional ones. Okay, these are things that I've had in my own mind over the years or things that
I've heard as I've been coaching people. Here they are. I'll never be able to make anyone happy.
Those are vows that kids often make, or even adults, when the person that they're with,
they feel like they're never happy, and really, down to the core, that person and that individual
is not happy with themselves. Therefore, they feel like they can never live up to the expectation.
Maybe it's this one. I'll never date or marry a Larry, or John, or Sam, or fill in the blank,
Carlos. Whatever the name is for you, maybe there's someone that hurt you in the past,
and they have a certain name, and so you've decided, I will never date or marry someone
with that name. I told this story this afternoon. I feel like I should share it again today, you all.
My oldest, my brothers were, and my sister, those were the people that committed the sexual abuse
acts against me. My oldest brother was the main perpetrator, and his name is Brian.
Y'all, I didn't even realize I had an internal vow about that name until I was dating,
and the guy that was the front runner, you all, he was the guy that always stood out,
that walked in the fruits of the spirit. Y'all want to guess what his name?
What is his name? He's now my husband. Do you want to guess? Brian. Brian. Yes.
Brian. His name was Brian, and I remember saying to the Lord,
God, I don't know if I can do this.
Did his name have to be Brian, Lord?
I mean, I'm just talking real talk.
It was hard in that moment.
And I remember just praying
and just bearing my heart out to the Lord about it.
Like, God, I don't think you're playing a trick on me,
so tell me about this.
Why would you lead my spirit mate to me
and him have the name Brian
when you know what Brian represents for me?
Y'all, this is someone
who made me do intimate things with them, my brother.
And you wanna know what God said to me?
It was so beautiful.
He said, I wanna redeem the name Brian for you.
Y'all, it's even funnier now when I look back
because, so my brother's name is Brian.
My husband's name is Brian.
Yes, the key there is because my husband Brian is healthy
and he has been such a story of redemption for me.
But here's the other funny thing.
My brother-in-law on Brian's side of the family,
his name is Brian.
So I'm surrounded by all these Brians.
We had a guy walk into the church the other day
and his name's Brian.
There's lots of Brians around,
but I'm sharing this
because God's doing something with the name Brian
in my life.
And I believe he can do the same for you.
And I will sometimes get the people
that when they hear that story, they'll be like, yeah,
but I've now dated two people or married two people
or whatever with the same name and they were both the same.
I don't know how that works out you all,
but that still does not mean all Johns are bad.
And again, I'm just putting a name in there.
But if we believe and we make a vow
and we say all Johns are bad
and I will never, ever, ever trust a man with the name John.
Again, I don't know who John is,
but that's the name that keeps coming up tonight.
We got to let that stuff go.
Here's another one.
It's very similar.
I'll never marry or date someone of a certain ethnicity.
Okay, some people, even when they've experienced
within their own same ethnic circle,
a lot of abuse or mistreatment,
they just believe that is all they're ever gonna get
in that ethnicity.
And even that, we need to go to the Lord and seek him
because if he brings your spirit mate to you
and that person exhibits all the fruits of the Holy Spirit
and good things and green flags,
but he has that same ethnicity
and you just partner with the vow,
well, then you could miss out on that, right?
Okay, same thing.
A guy with a certain job.
This is the last one in this kind of lie circle here.
Sometimes you all, I have people that,
maybe an ex was a military police officer, a pastor,
maybe they're a pastor's kid.
They were raised in that life and they're like,
I'm never going to date or marry a pastor
or someone that comes out of the army or military
because this person was bad.
And so that means they're all gonna be bad.
Okay, same thing.
Okay, I'm gonna keep going.
I'll never let my guard down ever again.
I'll never let anyone hurt me again.
Here's another thing.
Maybe those aren't the kind of thoughts
that you notice yourself having,
but maybe yours sound like always and never.
Examples, I don't have a bunch,
but here are a couple examples
because we're getting ready for the next breakout.
They, whoever they are, always do that.
I always get passed over.
Do you hear the always in there?
Y'all, it's never always, ever.
But why do we partner with that statement?
Here's the nevers.
Men never come through for me.
The men in my life never come through for me.
They always let me down.
Men never keep their word.
Ooh, yep.
Here's another one.
I'm never seen or noticed.
Okay, Holy Spirit.
I just heard the Holy Spirit say,
some of you all feel like that
when you hang out with your friends.
You feel like the guys always notice them and see them,
or even other girlfriends always kind of wanna hang out
with that girlfriend, but you don't get called.
Y'all, that's not true.
Somehow the enemy is a lying to you and he's causing you to believe that you are never
going to be fully seen even by your friends or your friends circle or at work.
You're never going to get that promotion.
Don't partner with those, those things.
Here's the thing.
When you have always or never thoughts, those are signals to areas where you most likely
have a vow that you are, are partnering with and believing whether you realize it or not.
Okay.
Maybe you don't know what the vow is tonight right now, but if you have, if you tend to
make always or never statements that kind of gives you at least a clue where to start
and say, okay, Lord, this is the thought that I have, or the thing that I tend to say, can
you show me where this originated?
Do I have a vow that I've partnered with that's in my subconscious that I don't even realize
I'm partnering with?
Do you see how I'm kind of leaning into the Lord with that question?
That's what I'm going to encourage you all to do.
So I'm going to put you in your breakout.
What this is your question, what inner vows do you need to come out of alignment with
tonight?
And I want to encourage you, if you don't know yet, that's okay.
Again, you have complete permission to say, you know what?
This is what's coming up for me, but I'm not sure yet.
So I want to lean into this.
So just, just be real.
Just be you.
We're going to do this again.
I'm going to recreate the rooms because I want you all to get to know additional people.
And I'm going to do this one because we're already close on time.
I'm going to do it for eight minutes.
So just be a little bit quicker.
Here you go.
Go ahead and click to join that room, praying for you all and that you're, you're staying
with me again.
Awesome.
And if y'all can't go into breakouts, that's okay.
I had a couple that couldn't the last time.
All right.
Sorry, I just got to make sure she, one more person gets situated here.
Awesome.
Okay.
Father, just thank you so much right now, man, you're so good.
Help us to recognize ways that we have thoughts that they just come out of our subconscious
from the wounds that we've experienced that we thank you.
I'm just seeing like a war scene, just some of these ladies, Lord have gone through battle
and it feels at times like they've been in a war.
And I just thank you, God, that you are going to your daughters and your wounded soldiers,
if you will.
And I thank you that you're carrying them off the battlefield and you're mending them,
you're restoring them, you're rebuilding them.
I thank you that every area where they have pain and loss, where they're grieving, I pray
that you would comfort them.
Your word declares that you are close to those who are broken hearted and those who are crushed
in spirit.
We just thank you that you would help them to sense your nearness tonight, even in the
breakout sessions, as they are realizing inner vows that they have, have partnered with that
are not serving them well.
I thank you, God, that you would help them to feel just your love and affirmation towards
them that you would help them to see themselves through your eyes a little bit more tonight
and this week.
We thank you, God, that you're continuing to refine us and remove the chap and everything
that does not lead us into the fullness of the plans and the promises that you have for
us.
Ladies earlier, I talked about that scripture about the tree planted by rivers of water.
I want to read that to you.
That's Psalm one, Psalm chapter one, verse three from the passion translation, and this
is what it says.
He will be standing firm like a flourishing tree planted by God's design, deeply rooted
by the brooks of bliss, bearing fruit in every season of his life.
He is never dry, never fainting, ever blessed, and ever prosperous.
Even in our hard moments in the dry seasons, ladies, God declares that we are blessed and
we can bear fruit.
Thank you, Holy Spirit.
Right now, I just come against any negative thoughts where the enemy is causing us to
believe that we're not bearing fruit right now and that what we're doing just isn't working.
Thank you, God, that you'll help us to see the fruit in our life, in our heart, in our
families, that you'll help us to see the good that's happening.
I thank you for your head to protection around our families, around our hearts, our minds,
that you would help us to guard our hearts and our minds through Christ Jesus.
And then we would partner with truth tonight.
Thank you, Lord.
Yes, Lord.
Psalm one, 1976 says, send your mercy kiss to comfort.
for me, your servant, just like you promised you would.
So Lord, we just thank you
that you would just literally pour out healing oil
from heaven tonight over your daughters,
over their hearts, their minds, their bodies,
their spirits and their souls
and help them to receive the truth of your love
and your loving gaze towards them.
Zephaniah, I think it's 317.
The Bible talks about how God will rejoice over us
with singing and dancing.
And so Lord, I pray that you would just help the ladies
to have that perspective tonight,
that they don't have to be perfect,
that you will help all of us
to come out of people-pleasing tendencies
and come into your love and care
and that you would just cover every area of weakness.
Help us to know that we can be strong in you
and that when we feel weak,
that you are strong on our behalf.
That God is even just reminding me,
you all, of that poem, The Footprints.
Haven't thought of that poem in a long time,
but somebody needs to hear that tonight,
that when we feel so weak,
we just feel like we can't even go a step further.
God will be the one carrying us.
So for whoever that is tonight,
I declare that over you, that God is your strength.
He is your source.
He is your firm foundation.
He's the fountain of life.
He's the prince of peace.
So God, we just thank you
that you would bring peace into the hearts and the minds
and spirits of your daughters,
not only in phase one in the heart work
with this whole community, as well as with your sons.
We thank you for the revival of families and marriages
that is happening through this movement.
We thank you, Lord, for Jeremiah 24 7.
It says, I will give them hearts
that recognize me as the Lord.
They will be my people and I will be their God,
for they will return to me wholeheartedly.
I thank you, God,
that we would return to you with our whole hearts,
that you would help us to take down any do not enter signs,
that where we've erected walls
to try to protect ourselves from hurt with other people,
with you, God, I pray that you would help us
to just surrender those areas
and let those walls come back down.
We thank you that you would help us to,
Lord, know that we are trusting you
more than we are trusting another person,
that in your goodness, God,
that you can make all things good in your perfect timing.
We thank you for life and truth and healing.
I'm gonna read something.
I wasn't planning on doing this,
but I feel led to kind of read this
before the ladies come back.
This will be on the replay.
It says, as I've watched many women go through this change,
I can say it looks like this,
one huge shift followed by several smaller shifts,
a period of adjustment to your new mindsets,
a couple of small roadblocks, maybe even a big one,
and then another huge shift.
Now that we know the real definition
and all the benefits of repentance,
we are going to repent of all the lies
we have believed about ourselves, others, and God.
As you go forward, lots of lies will be revealed,
and the first step to healing
will always be coming out of agreement with the lies.
When we agree with something,
we give it permission to keep manifesting in our lives.
We have to revoke those permission slips.
We can no longer allow these lies to be our GPS in life.
If we want an abundant life,
we have to be led by the greater truth.
Here's how we locate the lie and repent.
Come out of agreement with it and replace it with the truth.
A, number one,
start with the most significant problem areas in your life.
These troubled areas are an indication
that lies are being believed in that area,
which needs healing.
Number two, ask the Holy Spirit
to show you the lie you are believing.
When it is revealed, repent of believing the lie
and be willing to release it,
and the behavior and emotions attached to it.
Ask Holy Spirit to help you.
Number three, now ask the Holy Spirit
to show you the truth about this area and about yourself.
Repeat this truth to yourself regularly
and embrace scriptures and other divine confirmations
of this truth to continue
to reinforce your new belief system.
Y'all, that goes back to earlier tonight,
I was praying about the new pathways
in our brains being created.
When we replace the new,
we have to continue to declare that new over ourselves.
We're gonna do an activation this week
that's gonna partner with us.
I'm gonna explain the activation when the lady's at the end
before everybody logs off.
For those that will choose to partner with us,
it's gonna be powerful this week.
So here they are, starting to come back.
Hi, welcome.
Welcome back, welcome back.
You have like 30 seconds and everybody will be here.
Hello, hello.
Hi, Cindy, are you newer too?
Two weeks, are you two weeks in, three weeks?
Longer.
Oh my gosh, I was just chatting with you.
I was just chatting with you.
Okay, I'm like, why do I recognize her name?
Sometimes when people are new,
I kind of make that connection.
I was just chatting with you recently.
That's why I recognize there.
Good to see you.
It's great to have you with us as always.
All right, ladies, you're all coming back.
Hi, welcome back.
Okay, so what we're gonna do right now,
we're gonna do this a little bit different
because I wanna hear some thoughts from multiple people.
And this is where some of y'all
that are a little bit more afraid to talk out loud,
this is one of the ways you can participate.
So what I wanna do is I want you to put in the chat for me,
what was the vow that you're saying
you're coming out of agreement with tonight?
Put that in the chat for me.
And I wanna read some of these out loud
so that some of those watching the replay
can hear them as well.
So what inner vow are you coming out of agreement
and alignment with tonight?
Put those in the chat for me.
Never getting married again, all right.
That men don't wanna commit to me.
I'll never, I will never be good enough.
Once we identify the inner vow,
do we apply the inner healing?
Yes, absolutely, yep.
That I don't need a man.
I'll never let my guard down again,
having to be perfect and or that I am not good enough.
I'll never date or marry a black man again
because they always hurt me.
I only go with a guy with issues.
I'm coming out of agreement with the vow.
I will never allow a man to deceive me again.
Men don't want to commit to me.
Men don't want a woman who is celibate.
That's a huge one, you all.
I'm good being single.
I'll never let someone hurt me again.
I'll never date a military man.
There's probably so many more ladies,
but here's the other flip side.
Kelly says that I'm broken and nobody will ever stay with me
when I express any needs.
All right, these are huge things
we need to come out of agreement with, right?
This week's gonna be a pivotal week for all of you
as you partner with truth and turn away from these lies
and allow God to heal.
Someone asked, I think it was Maria.
Yeah, so one of the big things,
and I'm gonna kind of give you all an activation here
tonight that'll help with this.
We've talked a lot about what are the negative things
that you're thinking and processing and partnering with?
But here's the key.
As we went through a couple of weeks ago,
the revealing for healing cycle,
for some of you that are brand new, you'll get there, okay?
You'll get there and you'll see
that revealing for healing cycle
and you'll walk through that.
You wanna put that in process even with these inner vows.
So you start with the revealing for healing cycle.
You ask the Lord, when was the first time
I partnered with this inner vow?
What lie did I believe?
What trauma happened that caused me to believe the lie
that created the vow?
Do you see how they all kind of work together?
One of the things I described, I said this maybe,
I can't remember if it was last week or the week before,
but I'm gonna say it again tonight.
When we have the initial wounding and trauma that happens
and we believe the lie at that time,
that's kind of the initial starting point, right?
Then as we go on in life,
when something happens that sounds similar, feels similar,
and we believe another lie
that partners with this prior lie,
what happens is they kind of sync up together
in our spirit, in our soul, okay?
Then when something else happens, if it's similar,
that stuff is still not healed under here.
This is the example.
So this is if that does not get healed.
Something else happens down the road here,
guess what happens?
Those things start to sound similar, feel similar,
and it creates another link.
Do y'all know what this is called
in the Christian world?
It's called a stronghold.
So if you didn't know how strongholds happen,
I'm breaking it down real basic, okay?
This is not my Bethany's theology,
but I'm just trying to get you to kind of see
what happens in your soul.
So get this, not only do we need healing here,
we need healing all the way back here.
And when we get healing all the way back here,
it's literally gonna break that thing
in a good way, wide open.
And you're gonna start to walk into freedom and truth.
Now we know that the Bible,
this is not something I'm saying so that you become afraid.
I just want you to be aware of it.
We know that the Bible says,
when the strong man is removed from the house,
Y'all wanna look it up, it's in scripture.
Guess what he does?
He goes out and he looks for a place to inhabit.
And guess what?
When he doesn't find it, do y'all know what he does?
He comes on back and he tries to figure out
if he can take up a residence in your house again.
Y'all know what a house represents, right?
Our heart.
That's what the Bible's talking about there.
And so we need to, what?
Fill our heart with truth
so that the enemy cannot have entrance back in again.
If at some point you feel like
you're facing the same stronghold
or you're getting tripped up with the same thing again,
please don't beat yourself up, okay?
Just go back and seek healing again,
because there's probably a reason
that you got tripped up with that lie,
similar lie or wounding.
I shared this as well.
The enemy will often try to come at us
in similar ways, you all,
until he figures out that we've got his number
and we're not falling for that trick anymore.
And then he'll try to come from a different direction.
Yeah, and we don't have to be afraid of these things.
We just need to be aware of them.
Because the Bible says
that we are covered by the blood of the lamb.
And guess what?
Guess who wins?
Jesus won, so we win,
as long as we keep partnering with truth.
And walking in the armor of God,
putting it on you all.
I talked about this as well.
God is the armor, God is.
So when we pray the armor of God on ourselves,
we are literally saying, God, I'm in you today.
God, I'm in you.
You are my armor.
You're my protector, okay?
All right, here's your activation.
This is gonna cause those of you that are afraid
to come out of hiding and actually post in the group.
You might not want to do this,
but I'm gonna encourage you to do it anyways,
because doing something afraid
is going to create breakthrough for you,
whether you realize it or not, okay?
Here's the activation.
I want you to ask the Lord for the truth
to replace the lie, the vow, the negative thing,
whatever specific thing you're really feeling
like God is highlighting to you tonight.
What is the truth that's the opposite of the lie
that you've been believing and partnering with?
The positive statement.
So here's one of the ways y'all can begin on this.
If you're not sure how to get to the truth,
ask God to reveal a scripture to you
that helps you partner with the opposite of the negative.
So if my negative was something,
let me think of something.
I used to always really battle with fear, like massively.
And so the enemy used to tell me
that I was always going to battle with fear.
And he still sometimes tries to come
and knock on that door, y'all.
But God gave me the truth that I, Bethany Cooper,
do not have a spirit of fear,
but I have a spirit of love and empowering of a sound mind.
That's the scripture.
That's actually scripture.
And I just inserted my name
and I started declaring that over myself.
But here's my declaration that I, Bethany Cooper,
walk in liberty and freedom and I will not fear
and I will not bow down to fear
or the spirit of fear showing up in my life.
That might be a positive, that's a long one,
but that might be a positive declaration
I declare over myself.
Yours can be one little sentence, you all.
I will not partner with the lie that I am not enough.
I will partner with the truth that I am enough in God
or whatever, whatever your truth is.
Here's what you're going to do with it.
You're going to write it down on a piece of paper
with a marker that I can see, okay?
Pen will be really hard to read.
So get a nice black marker or dark blue
or some purple or something.
I want you to write it on a piece of paper and you all,
I do, I want you to do this.
I want you to take a good old, nice little selfie
of yourself holding that thing.
Here's my truth.
And I'm taking a selfie to declare it,
not just to keep it in your phone,
guess what you're going to do with it?
I want to see them in the group.
And if you don't want to take a selfie
because you don't like yourself in selfies,
have someone take it for you.
Why does this matter?
Because you know what, when we activate the truth
and we not only tell ourselves,
I'm partnering with this truth this week,
but we then go and declare that to other women in the group,
guess what?
We become more accountable in a good way.
And we're allowing light to invade the darkness.
Do y'all know that?
So the scripture versus what you start with
to help you come with a positive declaration
out of that scripture, okay?
You can use a scripture as your basis.
So you can put that scripture on there too.
feel like you can't do both. Okay, this is very loose. There's
no right or wrong you all. Okay. If you're in that camp where
you're afraid to do it, because you're afraid you're going to do
it wrong, please don't do that. Just just the point is to just
move forward and do something positive, declare something
positive over your life, just get something on the paper. And
it's going to be great. Whatever you feel led to do is going to
be just right for you. Okay. And the reason even those that are
in phase two, if you're here joining us tonight, and you're
in phase two, still post those in phase two, I'll let the phase
two coaches know what you're doing. Okay. But you need to see
yourself doing this. And as you let other people see you, it's
going to really bring a lot of healing and breakthrough. I'm
going to pray for you, Father, thanks so much. That you're the
great physician and nothing is too hard for you. I thank you
that you're healing us from the inside out God that you're
writing new stories in our timeline God that you're, you're
the creator, you created heaven and earth, you can create
something out of nothing. So Lord, I pray tonight that you'll
help us to have an increase of hope and increase of faith, that
you are the God who comes through for me for them, each
one of them by name. God that you collected their tears in a
bottle and you're pouring them out pouring those tears out on
them like choice oil. God, we thank you that you're renewing
our minds and transforming us and healing us and redeeming us
and rebuilding us. God that you're the one restoring every
broken and fallen place where the enemy came in like a flood
God that you are causing him to flee seven ways that we will no
longer go back. But we are going forward we are being transformed
we're being made new God we will we choose tonight and in the
days ahead to partner with your truth. We come out of agreement
and alignment with any inner vow any lie of the enemy that
came through trauma. And we say yes to heaven tonight. Help us
to hear father what your spirit is saying to us a little bit
more this week. We thank you in advance for it. We thank you for
your hedge of protection around us and our families as well and
Jesus name. Amen. We love you all. I can't wait to see you all
posted in the group. Let's fill the group up with some positive
truth and what God is doing. If you're struggling as well,
please come and post in the group and tell us. Do not let
the enemy lead you into isolation. Stay engaged. See it
through because God is working in ways you can't even imagine
right now. God bless you. Have a good night, everyone. Bye