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Hello, welcome. Happy Monday, everyone. For those in the U.S., happy Labor Day.

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My name is Bethany Cooper. I'm one of the heartwork coaches here in our community,

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and we are so glad that you are joining us tonight. If you are able to come on screen,

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we would love to see you so that we can interact with the real you, not just the

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image on the screen when you have your camera off. Welcome also to all of our new ladies.

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Who is joining us new for the first time tonight? You've never been on a live session. Hi,

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I see you, Leticia. Great to have you. So good to see you. Thanks for letting us see you tonight

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as well. Anyone else new? You're joining us for the first time tonight. You've never been on a

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live. Hi, Kelly. Hi, Shirai. Did I say it right? Yeah, good. I'm working on it still. Brenda,

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April, Ivanka, Nisheto, Virginia. I see Cindy and Frenchy, Kelly, Melissa, Jenny,

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Annette. One of our coaches is joining us tonight as well. Naysha is joining us. It's so good to

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have you. I like to call people by name sometimes just because I feel like we all need to know that

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God calls us by name. So just a reminder for each night that God sees you, you are more seen than

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you realize. And he is intimately involved with the details of your life. The enemy would try to

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convince you that God doesn't care about you, that God is not working behind the scenes, that you

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cannot do this for us. All of those kind of things, which we're going to dig into that a little bit

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tonight. If you will, we're going to ask Holy Spirit to reveal some areas for healing that

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you might not have even realized you needed healing and freedom. Before that, for those

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that are new joining us, we do housekeeping at the beginning of every session. And this is just

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as important as some of the other stuff. So please still come, even though you know we do this. But

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for anyone joining us, you're new for the first week, or even you've just been here just a few

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weeks. I felt like it was really important just to kind of remind you all, and even the ladies that

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have been in the program for a little bit, that we encourage you in this program during Heart Week,

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you know, essentially, depending on how long it takes you, for five weeks to press pause on dating.

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So we encourage you to just press pause on the apps, press pause on trying to meet somebody,

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because in this time, your heart is going to be a little vulnerable, okay? And it's really important

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for you to really just focus and let God speak to you about your heart and what needs healed,

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because God sent you here for a reason, right? So even myself, before I came into the program,

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I had a lot of healing. I was working on a lot of stuff, but there were just some things that

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I was still getting tripped up with that I did not want to keep attracting the same kind of person

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that I had been attracting. So I had to be willing to really kind of hunker down and invest in the

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process. So I want to encourage you all, stay invested. You are the best investment you could

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ever invest in, and so your heart work in this time is essential for your life to experience

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acceleration and the fullness, the abundant life in every area of your life, including your love

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story in the days ahead. So just wanted to mention that. Also, best practice is one week of content

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per week, you all, okay? So what that means is videos, book reading, and journaling, the instructions

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are there for you. We want you to work on that content that we say every week, hey, work on this

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content this week, because it's paired together for a purpose, okay? So sometimes I have people

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that will just sit and read the book and they'll be like, I'm done with the book, but they're like,

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back on week one. Okay, that's not what we're looking for. You know, you want to really let God

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guide you systematically, and we've set the program up to do that. So I want to encourage you to follow

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that. If you go a little bit slower, that's fine. We don't really want to see people in heart work

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for like months and months and months and months and months. And I know some people, I understand

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some people have distractions that come. We want to encourage you to resist distractions, but here's

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the reality, you all. I said this before, when we go to the hospital, if we ever have to, we don't

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want to be in the ICU for a really long time. Just so y'all know, it's not the best place to be for

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a really long time, right? The longer we're in ICU, the more recovery time it may take. Now, God can

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help you recover in your process, but I'm just using that kind of metaphorically. We want you

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to move forward, okay? Some people are very analytical, and they will also overanalyze

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their heart work process and never feel good enough to move forward. And that is not God's

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plan for you either, because healing is a process. Y'all, I've been married this week, September 4th

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will be two years, two years anniversary coming up, praise the Lord.

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But you know, God is still healing all the time, my life, my heart, you know, helping me reset old tapes and old things that have been there before as well as prior relationships.

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So y'all you're going to be in process, no matter what. Okay. It won't feel this deep intensive as it does while you're here in that five weeks time or so, but it will, it will still be continuous.

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Also just want to encourage you, we don't want you binge watching or binging the book. Okay, pace yourself really well. So what I mean by that is we don't want you to be done with this course in one to two weeks or even three weeks.

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That's way too fast. So if you say, hey, I'm done. And we're looking on the back end and you just joined two weeks ago, we're going to lovingly say to you, hey, people don't finish this course well in two weeks, we want you to go back and start over.

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And you might resist that. We hope you never leave, but we just, we're here to tell you what works and what works. I'm going to give you guys a clue.

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Is to stay engaged, to post in the group, to communicate, to cheer each other on, to stay at the pace approximately of a week or so of content per week.

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That is where people get the most success, truly. So for those of you, if you come in and you just invest and you give it everything you have, even allowing yourself to come out of hiding, post in the group, let your voice be known. Yes.

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Even the stuff that you feel like sounds ugly, looks ugly.

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You know what? Yep. Even that stuff too, because that's how you're going to get breakthrough.

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Typically the people that isolate and hide all of that stuff are the people that will struggle more later on.

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Okay, so we're here to help you. Myself, the other coaches, we're here to cheer you on. As I said, Annette's here tonight. Annette, will you wave so the ladies can see you?

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Annette answering you, y'all. This is Annette. Isn't she lovely? She's another success story in our community. Her and Arthur got married. Gosh, Annette, how many months has it been?

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There we go.

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We got married April 14th.

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Yes. Yes.

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Praise the Lord. Y'all, if God can do it for us, he can do it for you too. But heart healing is so important. Isn't it, Annette?

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It is the most important. He and I both went through the program and it has made all of the difference because we both came in with hearts that God had already worked on.

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And then now together we understand where each other's coming from and we have grace because we know that we're always a work in process.

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That's right. That's right. And even if, like my husband didn't go through the program, but he was on his own healing journey. So y'all, God can do it. God can do it. So I just want to encourage you for a few minutes tonight as well.

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No matter what week you're on, if you've been in for a few weeks or you just started, remember this. Don't quit. Okay. Stay in the game. Stay engaged. When distractions come, do your best to resist those distractions and disruptions.

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Even the ones that look really great, you all. Sometimes it's even our kids and everybody needs something from you when you're trying to sit down and do your heart work. Those are going to pop up.

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All right. So, okay, we're going to go right into prayer and the content and keep moving forward. Father, we just thank you for your amazing grace. God, we thank you for healing supernaturally tonight.

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Things that we can't even see or comprehend or fully know how they all have kind of synced up together and held us back.

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We thank you for bringing things out of darkness into the light so that there can be revealings for healing, for freedom. We thank you, Holy Spirit, for being here.

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We welcome you to come and weave in and out of our conversations, in and out of this time of just helping the ladies hear truth so that they can unpack the lies, so that they can lean into your love, Lord, a little bit more tonight.

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I pray that if there's anything that they've been through in the past, through the hands of fathers or mothers or authority figures that have held them hostage in a sense, that have caused them to look at you, God, in a way that is not true of your character.

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I pray that you would heal their hearts a little bit more tonight. God, help them to see you more clearly. Help them to hear the voice in the heart of heaven for them.

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We thank you for supernatural upgrades in every area of our life. We thank you that you're making us completely whole, lacking no good thing, nothing missing, nothing lacking, nothing broken, completely whole, physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and financially.

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I thank you that you would remove all distractions tonight.

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I'm conveying your heart tonight and truth.

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Protect their minds and their hearts from the attacks

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and the voice of the enemy.

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Help them to hear you clearly, Lord.

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We just thank you in advance

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for what you're gonna do here tonight.

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In Jesus name, amen, amen.

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Y'all, we're talking about stories tonight.

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And from the perspective of what story are you believing?

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What story are you telling yourself on a regular basis?

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I used this analogy earlier today

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and it really hit a chord with someone.

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And I originally wasn't planning to give this example today,

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but because it struck such a chord,

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I prayed this afternoon, like, Lord,

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should I share that again?

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And I heard the Lord say, yes,

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because if it helps another person get set free tonight,

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it's gonna be worth it.

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And here's the thing, what I said was,

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imagine yourself being read a story by your mother.

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And what is the best story that you've ever heard?

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And when I said that, I heard the Lord this afternoon say,

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some people didn't have moms that read to them.

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And so I wanna say to you tonight

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that if you didn't have a mom that didn't read to you,

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for various different reasons,

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it's not always because our moms don't care about us, right?

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Sometimes we have moms that are single moms,

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they're working hard,

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they're barely got enough energy to do something like that.

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Maybe their moms didn't read to them

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or maybe they're not strong at reading.

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I mean, there's so many different reasons,

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but the enemy always wants us to believe the worst, okay?

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Some of you did grow up in homes that were harmful

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and maybe that wasn't a healthy thing that happened there.

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But even that in and of itself,

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we tell ourselves stories because of that, don't we?

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So I want you to consider

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what's the best story you've ever heard.

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Maybe it's a story you read on your own.

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I used this this afternoon.

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I hadn't thought about these books in a really long time,

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but I used to read The Babysitter's Club.

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I loved it.

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The mystery, the finding out who did what,

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and I'm a big fan of board games

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and I love Clue and Clue Jr.

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And there's something about the mystery

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and seeking after something that I don't know

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and trying to discover who that is.

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Yeah, Claudia, hang in here, hang in here with us

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because this isn't where we're staying,

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but you might've been the reason

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God led me to say that again tonight,

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because I almost didn't until a few minutes ago,

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God said yes, okay?

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Y'all, it can be hard when we have mom wounds

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or dad wounds or sister wounds.

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I mean, there's so many ways that we get wounded, right?

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But here we go, we're gonna be free tonight.

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We're gonna get set free from this stuff.

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So you're thinking about fun stories, good stories,

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but also I want you to consider

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what's also a story that you read

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that maybe you didn't like.

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Maybe it brought up stuff that wasn't good.

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I was sharing this afternoon

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that it's kind of crazy to think about it now,

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but as a teenager, a young preteen,

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I don't really remember how old I was

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the first time my grandmother gave me a book

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by an author by the name of V.C. Andrews.

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If y'all are familiar, there's books by them

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that they're just full of a lot of yucky stuff, you all.

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And just to kind of paraphrase,

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there's a lot of incest in those stories.

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Crazy enough, you all,

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that's stuff I was literally going through in my life.

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But my grandma gave me these books.

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That's mind blowing to me.

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These are books that she had read and then gave to me.

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So when I look back, I'm like, yuck,

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those were not good stories that I read.

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So where am I going with this?

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I'm going with this in the direction of

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the things that we put into our minds feed our soul.

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The things that we see, the things that we hear,

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the things that we read, the things that we think on,

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that is what is feeding our soul.

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So I wanna encourage you all

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to really take time in these next few weeks,

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not to get religious about it,

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but just to ask the Holy Spirit

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to give you a hunger and a thirst for the word of God.

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A renewal of your relationship and the love relationship

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with Jesus Christ, the Father and the Holy Spirit,

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that you would long to hear the truth

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and have fresh revelation given to you,

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not just through other people, but for you.

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the father. And some of you may not know, like, or have ever

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known your relationship with the Lord to look like and feel like

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this exciting, like you look forward to hear, God, what do

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you want to show me today? And to believe that you can hear for

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yourself, but God in his word declares that he will whisper

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secrets from heaven to those that seek him. Have you ever

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been told a secret by someone that you just was a beloved

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friend or person? And how special does that feel? It's not

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a bad secret. Let's pretend. Let's think of good secrets

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right now. And doesn't that feel exciting? And you just feel

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honored that that person trust you, maybe they're pregnant,

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and they're just so excited. They can't tell everybody yet,

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but they're telling you. God is, is like so excited to tell his

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kids some stuff. And that includes you. Tonight, I'm also

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talking about the fact that it's time, it's time God brought

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each one of you here to this heartwork healing process, to

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step out of the old story that you have been telling yourself,

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or that the enemy has been telling you it can be both. And

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some of you have had limiting belief systems and mindsets and

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orphan mentalities. And, and subconsciously, you haven't even

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really known where those came from. But they've just always

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been there. And then here's the other flip side, God wants you

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to step into the new story, a that was written for you from

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the beginning of time when he formed you. And he was like,

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yes. And isn't she lovely. He was so excited the day he

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created us. Some of you, it's hard for you to even comprehend

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that, because you'd never believe that about yourself. And

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people that raised you didn't tell you those things. But God

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absolutely felt that way. When he formed you, he created you

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when you were birthed. Jesus Christ, God, the Father and the

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Holy Spirit were in that room with you and whole of heaven was

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shouting. Can you imagine it? So not only that story, but the

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story right now that's being written right now, brand new,

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everything old is passed away. And behold, everything has

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become new. As you are stepping into the renewal of your mind

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and your heart and aligning with the kingdom of heaven. Everything

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is being made new. So who you were yesterday is gone. Who you

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are today is new. Tomorrow you have a brand new day to step

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into something new again. What hindered us before does not have

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to continue to hinder us in the days to come. I'm going to give

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you guys some thoughts and things I wrote down. I just want

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you, maybe these aren't your story. Okay. Maybe these are not

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the stories you're telling yourself is what I'm trying to

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say. But maybe your story sounds similar or something different.

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But I just want to throw out some examples from my own life

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from things I've seen other people write and say the lies

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that they've believed. And that's where I came up with

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these thoughts. Maybe this is a story that you hear. It doesn't

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matter. From the perspective of your friend betrayed you, lied

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about you behind your back, didn't show up for you and you

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tell yourself the story. It doesn't really matter. But deep

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down inside your heart is breaking. Maybe for you, it was,

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you know, someone that broke up with you, someone, you know, you

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wanted to be in relationship with and that relationship ended

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and you tell yourself, well, that didn't matter. I didn't

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really want it anyways. But did we want it? Didn't we want that

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thing to work? Praise God, he defends us and keeps us from

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things that are not good for us. But the reality is, is we

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have to feel the feels so God can heal the feels. But if we're

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never acknowledging how we really feel that stuff just

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keeps getting shoved down, keeps getting shoved down, and we just

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keep trying to survive. And some days you all that is that is

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reality, because we're working, we're running, we're doing,

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we're parenting. And we just feel like we don't have even

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enough energy to process the emotions of the day. Anyone

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relate to that? I've had some days like that recently, man,

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I'm working hard for the Lord, and we're busy, we're crushing

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it in this in this movement. But it all takes time, right? My

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spiritual daughters are going through the ringer left and

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right. That breaks my heart. And some days I just don't have the

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So then the next day I'm like, okay, Lord, help me today to look at this.

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And there's all different ways, but let's not tell ourselves, I didn't want that anyways.

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Maybe it's a promotion for you. Maybe it was a trip you were hoping to go on and the finances

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fell through. I don't know what the thing is, but are you telling yourself a lie and partnering with

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things that the enemy is saying? Maybe this is yours. Let's see here. Maybe it sounds like this,

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Leanne, you should just give up on this. Or maybe it's Latisha, you should just give up on this.

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This is silly. This program may not even work for you. How are you going to be any different than

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you were before? I'm using people's names because that always makes it more personal, doesn't it?

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These are things we hear the enemies say to women over and over and over again when they step into

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this program. The enemy does not want you to move forward, y'all. Even when it's beyond the program

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and you're dating or beyond the program and you're engaged or you're married, the enemy is always

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trying to kill, steal, and destroy. But Jesus Christ is the one who came to give us life and give it to

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us more abundantly, but it's up to us to partner with him. And part of that process is the healing

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that you're in. To recognize the areas where you believe a lie and then you ask God some really

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great questions about it. We're going to go on into that in a little bit, but I'm going to read

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a couple more to you. I'm going to go a little quicker now. Maybe your lies and the thoughts

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that you're thinking and the stories you tell yourself sound like this, I never get picked.

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I wait and I wait and I wait and God, you always take someone else to the front of the line

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and I get passed over. God blesses everybody but me. All men only date skinny women.

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This program takes way too much time.

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I can't do it. I don't have what it takes.

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Whatever your storyline is, I want you to write that down on your paper

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because it may not be one I said, and if you don't have paper, it's okay. I see some people

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walk in. I'm glad you're here, but I do want you to take some time later when you're home and just

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write down if there's thoughts that are coming to you, there's storylines that you're telling

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yourself. I want you to write those down. Here's why, because if you don't, you'll probably, you

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might forget them later. Okay. We're going to keep going. Where did these thoughts come from?

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Where did they originate, ladies? Where is the source? This is where it's super important for

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you all to not depend on your own understanding. God's thoughts are above our thoughts. His ways

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are above our ways. His understanding is way bigger. He sees it all. So we ask him for the

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revelation. He's seen our whole timeline. We ask him to reveal things for healing and we don't dig.

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We trust what is revealed in each day and each moment because he knows where you are and he

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knows how to get you where you need to go to live into the fullness of his plan and promise for you.

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Will you trust him in this process? What's the original source? What's the initial wound and

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trauma that you experienced that caused you to believe and partner with the lies that you're now

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hearing? I want you to imagine with me, depending on what age you are, I mean, records have come

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back in. So I feel like this is still a very kind of valid example, but back in the day,

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I used to have a record player and I loved it. I love to listen to records, but once that record

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got scratched, especially if it got scratched really badly, y'all that song, it would never

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go past a certain point, would it? It'd be like, you know, make a noise. Like it just never got

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past that point. That song would get stuck. And that's what has happened with some of you.

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The original song was written, but along the way, trauma entered wounds happened

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and it created a scratch on the record, if you will. But God wants to give you an entirely new

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record. He wants to rewrite the whole story. He wants to rewrite the whole song and give you a new

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melody to live your life by. Again, some of you, it might be hard to imagine, but it is possible.

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Again, whatever God does for one, he will do for another. He's not a man that he would give to me

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and withhold from you. If that is the lie that you believe, where did that come from?

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We don't get what we expect, we actually get what we inspect.

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How often are we actually pausing and inspecting our thoughts?

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And thinking about what we're thinking about, where are your thoughts and your heart postures

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and the attitudes of your heart leading you? Are they leading you to things that are true,

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noble, lovely, and of good report? Things that are above only and not beneath?

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Or are your thoughts leading you into, God doesn't fight for me.

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God doesn't love me. God withholds from me. Where are your thoughts leading you?

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Y'all, when I say these things, there is no shame, okay? I feel like it's super important.

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I'm going to say, I feel like the enemy always tries to come in and convince some of you that

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this is a talk from judgment. This is me sharing my heart from things God has set me free from.

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There are so many patterns in my mind where I believe the truth. I went to church. I knew the

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truth to a degree, but my heart and the orphan mentalities that I had in the abandonment and

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rejection and neglect that was still wounds in my heart were causing me to believe that God

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maybe, maybe he doesn't really love me like everybody says.

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I believe it, Lord, but man, I don't know when this thing happens, it's just so hard because I,

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God, if you were good, why would this happen? Y'all, the enemy is the one that brings death

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and destruction, but we believe it's God at times, don't we? If we're being really honest

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with ourselves, we blame God for the hardship in our lives. And again, there's no shame in judgment.

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I'm just speaking truth because we need to bring these things to the surface. You all

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shame, guilt, and condemnation. If you ever hear anything that we are

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conveying to you in this ministry, in this movement through those lenses and those earmuffs,

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if you will, that is the enemy causing you to hear something through a filter of pain,

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because that is not the heart behind what's being conveyed tonight.

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Okay. All right. So second Corinthians 10, five says this, we demolish arguments in every

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pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God. And we take captive every

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thought and make it obedient to Christ. So again, I want you to pause and I want you to think just

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even about your day. We're into the evening. So we had a good chunk of the day for most of us.

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Some of you all are on the West coast. So you still have a few hours, good hours of the evening,

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but I want you to think about today, maybe yesterday. I want you just to ponder the

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thoughts that you've been focused on. What does those, what did those look like, feel like,

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sound like? Cause here's, here's another truth. When we think on negative things,

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our bodies also physically have a response, right? Yeah. So some of you all are experiencing a lot

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of stress in your body because you've been thinking on really negative things and it's not

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your, I, Ooh, thank you. Holy spirit. Ooh, I felt that one. He's so good. You all. I love the Holy

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spirit. Bring him up in here. Some of you all, it's, you just need to hear it's not your fault.

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Okay. The things that you went through as a kid. And even after that,

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they caused you to make choices and believe things out of trauma and the counterfeit identities that,

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that were created to protect yourself. Now, if you hear these things and then you choose to continue

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on a path, that's not healthy for you. That's different. We didn't know what we didn't know

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before, but now we're getting enlightenment. We're here. Maybe some of us might not fully receive it

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yet, but you are in a place where you're hearing truth and you all have a choice to partner with

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it or not. And that there's no judgment in that either are critical attitudes or anything, but

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that's just, that's reality. I also had choices. I had to choose at a certain point in my life.

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And even still today, when stuff happens, y'all, I have an opportunity to choose God. What are you

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trying to show me through this? When I get offended, when my, a friend of mine that I think

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is a close friend literally chooses to just almost kind of walk away from the friendship.

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I can believe that that person doesn't care about me at all,

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or I can choose to believe that we're just in a different season of life right now.

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It's harder to believe the second one.

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It's actually easier for my flesh to believe that that person just does not care about me and they're a bad friend.

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I know that I'm saying some things that people can relate to.

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It's easier to believe that.

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It's harder to stay in a heart posture of love towards myself, towards God, and towards that person.

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Do I have to continue to have the same kind of boundaries with them and allow them to keep hurting me?

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No.

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But I can bless them and understand that this season of our life, we are just not in the same circle.

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And that can be okay.

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All right, here we go.

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What have your thoughts been rooted in?

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Been rooted in overwhelm, fear, doubt, risk?

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I don't know if I can love.

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I don't know if I can do this, you know, because love is a risk.

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It's hard to trust you, God.

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It's hard to trust other people.

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Like, what are they rooted in?

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Are they rooted in the negative or what about this, you all?

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What about an invitation?

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An invitation from heaven that leads to hope, that leads to joy, that leads to the, like, life overflowing.

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You know, there's a scripture that talks about rivers of living water, that they would literally flow up out of us.

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That we will become those that follow the Lord and live for him, that we will be like trees planted by rivers of living water.

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And that we would flourish in such a way that we would create shade for people to come up under us.

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You know, there used to be a song that's coming up in my spirit.

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Y'all, this is old school, but I'm just going to go with what Holy Spirit.

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Whose report will you believe?

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You know, whose report will you believe?

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Will you believe the report of the Lord or the report of the enemy?

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I'm not going to sing it for you because I don't even fully remember how it goes.

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But that's, it was an old school one that I heard over and over growing up after I gave my life to the Lord.

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Growing up in the Lord, you know, I gave my life to the Lord.

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I was 22, I think.

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I think that's how old.

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Whose report are you going to believe tonight and in the days ahead?

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We're going to do our first breakout.

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If you're here for the first time tonight, please do not leave when we do breakout session.

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Stay engaged.

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When we go into breakout, you're going to be put in a room with two or three, three total, hopefully ladies here.

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And you're going to talk about the question that I'm about to give you.

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Hey, for about eight or nine minutes.

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Y'all, some of you are going to have to really lean in to do it afraid.

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God will give you the courage that you need.

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I promise this.

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I've been doing this for years.

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These breakout sessions are just as powerful as the time that the coaches are coaching you.

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If you will embrace them.

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Everybody's here for the same reason to get free.

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You are safe.

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If you don't know how to answer, I want you to know it's okay.

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Because I had someone last week to say, man, when I get into these breakouts, I just panic.

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And if that's what you feel, I want to encourage you just to say that.

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I don't want everybody to not answer, but I just want you all to practice being the real.

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Here's your question.

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What negative thoughts do you need to take captive tonight?

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If you happen to know the wound or God is bringing up a memory for you,

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that's connected to this negative thought.

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I want to encourage you to share that as well.

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You don't even have to fully understand why you're having this memory.

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You guys don't have to piece this all together right now.

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You can just share.

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This is the thought I'm going to take captive.

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Here we go.

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Got to assign these.

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Give me one sec.

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So Annette, you'll stay with me just FYI.

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Just don't forget to tell you that.

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I'm going to do nine minutes.

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There's three people in a room.

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So that should give 369.

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You all have three minutes to share a person.

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Okay.

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If you have extra time.

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After you've shared about the question,

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just get to know each other a little bit. Okay.

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Here you go.

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I'm going to be praying for you all.

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Okay, Maria, Melissa, Michelle, if y'all can click, I know some of y'all might have delay

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internet wise.

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Okay, we got two in there.

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That's awesome.

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Okay, I think a couple people are froze on the screen, so I think their internet is

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just a little delayed.

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All right, father, we just thank you right now for all these ladies that are in the rooms.

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We thank you God for the conversations that that they're having centered around the negative

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thoughts that they're going to take captive tonight.

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We thank you God for freedom and liberty in the Holy Ghost.

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We know that this where the spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom, there's liberty.

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And I pray tonight that you would help every one of these ladies to come a little closer

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to your heart, come a little bit closer to your truth, that they would hear the truth

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of heaven speaking over them, even right now that they would come out of judgment, shame,

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critical mindsets about themselves and about other people where we thank you for just coming

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in and renewing our hearts and our minds through Christ Jesus.

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Oh, thank you, Holy Spirit, I just heard him say he's doing some brain surgery tonight.

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So we just thank you in advance for the healing work in our brains, even just, I'm just seeing

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neural pathways being created, where we've had old thought patterns, y'all know that

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when we think a negative thought, that kind of starts to pave a way in our brain.

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And so God wants to create some new pathways tonight.

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We just thank you, Father, for that supernatural work.

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We thank you that you would just continue to bring memories to the surface that need

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to come out of darkness into the light, even as the ladies are talking, that would bring

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freedom and liberty and truth, God, that you would just place the balm of Gilead upon their

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hearts, their minds, their bodies, their spirits, and their souls, that you would help

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them to receive your truth.

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I'm just asking you to hug them with a hug of heaven tonight, that they would sense your

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presence and your love and affirmation of them, that they would hear your voice louder

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than any voice of the enemy.

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Your word declares that you can shut the mouths of the lions, and so we're asking you to help

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them to be still and know your voice, Lord, where the enemy has tried to cause them to

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doubt their ability to hear you, God.

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I pray that you would bring clarity.

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We thank you, God, that you would just...

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Yes, Lord, I thank you for...

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I'm just seeing the Lord putting a cap on people's heads, almost like a sports team

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baseball cap, and it's like sometimes we put those caps on because we're about to go play

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in the game, and when the game is over, we take those caps off, and I just thank you,

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God, that that to me and my spirit resembles newness, adventure, just being in the game.

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That means that we have something going on and that we're participating in the kingdom

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work, and we thank you that we also have times where there's a pause and there's a rest and

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other players get put in on our behalf, and so, Lord, I just thank you that there's a

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perfect motion and process, and I thank you, Lord, that you would help us to just know

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and see all the ways that you're working on our behalf in the spirit realm that we would...

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Yeah, Lord, I just thank you that we would receive gifts from heaven in a new way, not

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just because we want something from you, but Lord, supernatural gifts.

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I thank you that you would stir up the gifts of God within us.

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Your word also declares that it's up to us to stir up the gifts of God within ourselves,

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Lord, that we would seek out understanding and revelation of the gifts and that we would

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seek the giver more than the gifts, so, Lord, I thank you that if we would seek you first,

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seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all of these things will be added unto

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us.

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I thank you, but sometimes even that scripture has been lorded over singles, and we just

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thank you, Lord, that not only will they seek you, but they'll seek your gifts, the

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gift of the spirit, the gift of faith, the gift and the ability to have, yes, Lord, discernment

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and wisdom, hospitality, serving, all these...

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different gifts. There's so many more ladies. I encourage you to

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look those up in scripture and ask God to give you

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understanding and revelation of the gifts that are in you. And

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Lord, I thank you for transfusions in the spirit realm

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as well. I thank you that transfusions in my heart and

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mind right now what's coming to mind is like blood transfusion.

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So sometimes our blood needs to be cleaned out. And Annette, our

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nurse here would know that better what that means. But just

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I'm hearing God say that he's doing some blood transfusions

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tonight. We thank you Jesus for the blood that you shed on the

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cross, and you allowed your body to be broken and all the lashes

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that he took upon his back you all I was reading a devotion

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this morning I was talking about how that part was so relevant to

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our physical healing. There was a purpose in every type of wound

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that Jesus endured. And even the crowns put on his head you all

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think about it. We're talking about thoughts tonight. Jesus

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took the weight of sin, death and destruction upon himself for

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you, for us. And he did it with love in his heart. Why? To

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create a way for us yes to have salvation and freedom, but to

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also be in relationship with him, the Father and the Holy

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Spirit. They've always been in pursuit of relationship. So Lord

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we just thank you that you would help us to step into that

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truth tonight that you have always desired to have

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relationship with us, that you did not cut us off without

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supply. God, if we feel far from you in any way, I pray that you

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would help us to just come in and learn how to get close to

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you in a new way. Sometimes that shift happens ladies so that we

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will keep seeking, asking and knocking. The word declares that

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when we seek, we will find when we knock the door, we opened

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unto us and to ask and keep on asking. So where we just thank

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you tonight that you'll give us good questions that you'll help

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us to keep seeking you and to know that we can find you that

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you're not. All right, Lord, God just said right now, some of you

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all need to hear whether it's, you know, live with us here

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right now or on the replay. God's not playing hide and seek

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from you in such a way that you can never find him. I just kind

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of heard in the spirit, like some of you think that God's

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playing tricks on you and that he's hiding so well that you'll

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never find him. And that's not truth. I just saw your message,

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Joey, and that's totally fine. And yeah, we understand if

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you're on a city bus, that makes it kind of tough to be in a

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breakout room. So I'm glad you're still here with us and

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listening in. Psalm 99 says all who are oppressed may come to

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you as a shelter in the time of trouble, a perfect hiding place.

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Do you need a hiding place tonight? From the weariness and

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the weight of the week or the day, I know we just started the

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week, but sometimes doesn't even just a Monday feel like a whole

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week you all sometimes it can. But God says all who are

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oppressed may come to him as a shelter in the time of trouble.

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And he will be that perfect hiding place for you. He will

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protect you. He will defend you. There's a scripture that talks

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about hiding in the cleft of the rock. Y'all that's like the

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little Craig. It's like the little crack in this craft is

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it's very hard to be found in that place. And God says he'll

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hide us even in the cleft of the rock. He is the rock that's

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higher than anything we could ever imagine. And he is a safe

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place for us to come to and rest in him. I'm going to continue to

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pray and talk as the ladies start to come back. Psalm 8617

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says send me a miraculous sign to show me how much you love me

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so that those who hate me will see it and be ashamed. Don't

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they know that you Lord are my comforter, the one who comes to

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help me. So tonight, I just want to encourage you all to really

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lean into God defending you in the season and that he will come

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through for you that he will fight for you on behalf on

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behalf of the enemies like he prepares a table for us in the

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presence of our enemies. And some of us may not have felt

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that in the past, but that didn't make it true. There are

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ways that I'm confident that God has protected me from

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things that I never even knew he was protecting me from. And I

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believe that for all of you as well. So what is what is it that

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you can lean into tonight and believe the truth that God has

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always been protecting you and defending you?

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Let's partner with bat truth. Welcome back. Hello. All right. So for those that are new,

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go ahead and mute yourself again for right now for me. And what we do right now is anyone that's

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willing to share with the whole group what you shared in your private breakout group,

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that is what we're going to do for a few minutes. Who is willing to share? And I always say this,

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the first person, it always takes one to get the party going. All right, Claudia, go ahead.

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Hi, Claudia. Sorry. Hi, Bethany. I'm driving. That's all right. I almost said hi to myself.

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So what I shared in the group was formerly, I believe the lie that there was no good men,

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like there aren't any good men. They're all taken. They're all gone. But recently, like I've been

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I'm assured that there are good men. And how do I know? Because my friends are married to good men.

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You know, we say like in our in our friend group, like, we don't date unhealthy men or whatever,

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like, I'm also not dating right now. But, you know, we marry the good ones, good vibes for good

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guys. You know, we we marry the good ones. And so they're married to really strong, healthy men.

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And it's admirable. But now. So, OK, so now I know that there are good men. There are good

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Christian men. But where I feel like the enemy is trying to take that is the good single men

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are not attracted to me. I only attract the toxic ones. And that's and so then I think like that

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branches off into what's wrong with me if the good single Christian guys aren't attracted to me.

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You know, like why am I only attracting the toxic ones? And that's without even trying. You know,

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I don't have people that really express interest. But and the times that I do like this last week,

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I told this guy that I was not interested at the time. I needed to take a break and

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just work on myself. And he was OK with that. But then a day later, he just came out of the blue

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and said, it's only going to get harder for women. Like, what the heck? Yeah. So, yeah,

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that gives it gives you a good signal. That's not your spirit mate. Just side note. Yeah,

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absolutely. Know that. Here's the thing. Here's the thing, ladies. And I think this is a real

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truth that we need to talk about really quick. Is that and I talked about this earlier today,

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too, is when we ask you all to press pause on dating, if you are currently talking to someone,

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even on the apps, even if it's just for a little bit and you tell them that you're going to just

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take a break, had fun chatting with you. I'm just going to take a break for a little bit to work on

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some heart healing for myself. And they react or do something or say something that is unhealthy

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like that. Absolutely. You want to move on from that. A healthy man will honor and respect what

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you're telling them and they will respond with support, even if they may not wait that five

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weeks for you. And I don't want you to get into fear of missing out because if you're your spirit

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mate will you won't miss out on them. You all you won't miss out. OK, but as Claudia was sharing

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that, I just think it's super important to talk about that just for a second. We're not going to

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stay here. But if you start to have panic when you hear the hey, ladies, press pause, that means you

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have fear that there's not enough. OK, so look at that. One of the things Claudia was saying that I

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really want to hone in on here, she said a couple of things, but the I only attract the toxic ones.

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I would encourage anyone that has these kind of thoughts a to ask yourself, where did this start?

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Did someone say that to you? Did you believe that about yourself? Because like I that was something

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I said to myself when I started working with my counselor, even before I came into this program,

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she asked me why I wanted to work with her. And I said, my picker is broken. I'm not saying that

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wasn't true. There was an element of truth to that, you all. But here's the reality. My heart

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was broken on the inside in some ways. I didn't even I literally didn't even know it was still

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in that condition in certain places. And as my heart healed and I gained more and more truth,

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you know, I'm not joking. I probably listened to the soul ties video no less than three times

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while I was in heart work. I know you all I'm mentioning soul ties. It's taking a break right

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now. We're revamping it. So don't panic. We'll get it out to you. Okay. So even that this is

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where we were, I probably shouldn't have said that. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry.

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mentioned that I'm so sorry. I don't want to stir anything up.

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We were revamping it. And this this will happen sometimes in

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the program. But I want you all to trust even in the timing of

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you hearing that video. Okay. There are other things that are

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at play right now that God has you focusing on. So trust the

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timing of that not just because we don't have it up for you. I

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really believe that when I say things like that. I believe in

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the timing of books I read of, you know, some of my books are

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left half read and I'll pick them back up and it'll be

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exactly where I need to read is that's how that's my

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relationship with the Lord. So I want to encourage you all to

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lean into that. But point being, I read the book multiple times,

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not just during my five weeks, but I read it again, after I was

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done, I went back to my journal and just, like, looked at my

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growth, but also like, you know, pondered on some things that God

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was still doing in me. And I'm not saying that to weigh you all

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down. I just want you to consider it. The revisiting and

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kind of circling back. Here's why. I brought all that up to

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say that I had to know that as I healed, that when I met my

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spirit mate, he was going to be healthy because I was looking

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for good fruit. I wasn't just looking for mouth pop anymore.

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Somebody that said they were this and that, but then didn't

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actually have the fruit long term in their life. Because

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here's the difference when they show up consistent long term,

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and you've got a community, if you will, to help you walk that

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journey. Y'all, I went into the my group live all the time was

633
00:51:39.000 --> 00:51:42.400
like, I just went on a date. This is what happened. This is

634
00:51:42.400 --> 00:51:47.280
what I'm not sure about. And my people, my sister squad was

635
00:51:47.280 --> 00:51:50.480
there be like, this is what sounds good. Hey, yeah, I agree

636
00:51:50.480 --> 00:51:54.480
with you. That sounds like a yellow flag. Sisters help each

637
00:51:54.480 --> 00:51:58.040
other in this community. And we look out for you, your coaches,

638
00:51:58.040 --> 00:52:01.400
each other. If that's what you choose to embrace and walk out,

639
00:52:01.520 --> 00:52:07.160
that's up to you. Okay, so as you heal, you should start to

640
00:52:07.160 --> 00:52:10.760
see red flags and not blow past them anymore. And that's going

641
00:52:10.760 --> 00:52:15.520
to be key for Claudia or anyone else that related to what she

642
00:52:15.520 --> 00:52:19.600
said. I was one of those people in the past that I saw red

643
00:52:19.600 --> 00:52:24.560
flags, and I blew past them. I made excuses for their red

644
00:52:24.560 --> 00:52:28.680
flags, because of some other idea or fantasy that I was caught

645
00:52:28.680 --> 00:52:32.600
up in, in my mind. Okay, so I want to encourage you all if

646
00:52:32.600 --> 00:52:36.040
that's you really be asking God, where did this start? Did

647
00:52:36.040 --> 00:52:39.160
somebody say this to me? Or did something happen that I believe

648
00:52:39.160 --> 00:52:42.920
this about myself? And Oh, Claudia, hi, I didn't even

649
00:52:42.920 --> 00:52:45.760
realize that was you on there. Because I was still looking for

650
00:52:45.760 --> 00:52:49.680
your other photo. So thank you for sharing on that. I think

651
00:52:49.680 --> 00:52:53.840
it's super important for you all to hear. And if someone says

652
00:52:53.840 --> 00:52:57.080
stuff like that to you, I hope that you go ahead and just move

653
00:52:57.080 --> 00:53:01.520
on. And we're not going to give dating advice in here. But I am

654
00:53:01.520 --> 00:53:03.880
going to say that when it's someone that says something like

655
00:53:03.880 --> 00:53:06.360
that to you, that's the devil trying to just mess with you.

656
00:53:06.600 --> 00:53:09.320
And you can just move on from that. Anyone else willing to

657
00:53:09.320 --> 00:53:11.880
share about what you shared in your private breakout group?

658
00:53:12.880 --> 00:53:14.120
Awesome, Melissa, go ahead.

659
00:53:15.760 --> 00:53:19.440
Um, I was talking a little bit about I've had a transition

660
00:53:19.440 --> 00:53:22.120
recently in the past couple weeks, because my granddaughter,

661
00:53:22.640 --> 00:53:26.560
I've watched her since she was born, and started kindergarten a

662
00:53:26.560 --> 00:53:31.000
couple weeks ago. Um, but there was there's some other changes

663
00:53:31.000 --> 00:53:33.960
that was going on with her dad, because my son had had treatment

664
00:53:33.960 --> 00:53:38.360
for cancer. He's doing okay now. Um, but since she started school,

665
00:53:39.120 --> 00:53:43.360
I haven't seen her. So I feel like the enemy, and I haven't

666
00:53:43.360 --> 00:53:48.080
got to talk to my son that much, any either. So I periodically

667
00:53:48.080 --> 00:53:50.920
I'm hearing things like, well, you must have done something

668
00:53:50.920 --> 00:53:53.440
wrong, or you did something they didn't like, they're avoiding

669
00:53:53.440 --> 00:53:57.040
you. And then I'll tell myself, that's not true. But it still is

670
00:53:57.040 --> 00:54:01.920
taking up more of my time than I would like. And, of course, I

671
00:54:01.920 --> 00:54:04.480
will think about it sometimes like, well, did I say or do

672
00:54:04.480 --> 00:54:08.280
something that they're upset about? So that was what I brought

673
00:54:08.280 --> 00:54:11.840
up. But I don't, I can't think of anything from my past that

674
00:54:11.840 --> 00:54:14.000
would correlate with that.

675
00:54:14.520 --> 00:54:17.280
Well, and sometimes it might be an entirely different

676
00:54:17.920 --> 00:54:24.040
relationship or situation. Did you ever feel like you got in

677
00:54:24.040 --> 00:54:26.720
trouble for something that you didn't think you should get in

678
00:54:26.720 --> 00:54:30.760
trouble for? Like big kind of bigger in trouble kind of

679
00:54:30.760 --> 00:54:31.240
memory?

680
00:54:32.240 --> 00:54:39.720
I'm not sure. I mean, I can't think of a specific example, but

681
00:54:39.720 --> 00:54:42.600
I kind of do feel underneath that possibly that did happen.

682
00:54:43.160 --> 00:54:45.560
Or someone wasn't speaking to me because they believe something

683
00:54:45.560 --> 00:54:47.560
that wasn't true. And I didn't know.

684
00:54:48.440 --> 00:54:51.240
Okay, so this is where and this is a great example, ladies,

685
00:54:51.240 --> 00:54:54.680
we're not always going to know right away what that thing is

686
00:54:54.680 --> 00:54:59.040
connected to. And this is where in your healing process. I call

687
00:54:59.040 --> 00:54:59.840
it pool on the

688
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:05.360
string. That's kind of my nickname for it. And what I mean by that is that you kind of have

689
00:55:05.360 --> 00:55:11.360
an inkling, if you will, of something. And so pulling on the string to me would be, okay,

690
00:55:11.360 --> 00:55:18.320
Lord, I'm kind of feeling like there's something to this. You did something wrong. I don't remember

691
00:55:18.320 --> 00:55:24.960
if something happened where I believe the lie that because I did something wrong, someone pulled back

692
00:55:25.040 --> 00:55:30.400
their relationship from me or that actually could have happened. That was the other thing

693
00:55:31.600 --> 00:55:36.400
where kind of what's coming up in my spirit is sometimes we'll be in relationships and it can

694
00:55:36.400 --> 00:55:43.440
be some family relationship. It could have been a dating. It could even been like this is a teacher.

695
00:55:43.440 --> 00:55:48.400
I know this kind of sounds like different pieces and parts, but I just want to put a couple ideas

696
00:55:48.400 --> 00:55:57.280
out there where if we made a mistake and that person withheld love in our minds, withheld love

697
00:55:57.280 --> 00:56:04.720
from us to some degree, that can cause us to believe that if someone makes any kind of shift

698
00:56:04.720 --> 00:56:11.680
that isn't like the normal way things have gone, that that means they don't love us. Or I did

699
00:56:11.680 --> 00:56:17.200
something wrong to cause there to be a difference in the relationship when actually it can literally

700
00:56:17.200 --> 00:56:23.440
just be, she's gone back to kindergarten. Life is a little hectic and busy. They still love you just

701
00:56:23.440 --> 00:56:36.000
as much. But I will also say, have you processed and grieved the change of maybe not having to be

702
00:56:36.000 --> 00:56:46.560
that sole provider? Yes. And yes. And now, because part of it, sometimes it was stressful being that

703
00:56:46.560 --> 00:56:52.560
provider because it would be long days and there would sometimes be poor communication from her

704
00:56:52.560 --> 00:56:59.360
parents. So I wouldn't know till the last minute what I was doing. So because of my son going

705
00:56:59.360 --> 00:57:03.440
through his treatments, this was a little gradual. He wanted to spend more time with her and he wasn't

706
00:57:03.440 --> 00:57:08.960
working. So I didn't have her as much over the summer. So it kind of helped for the starting

707
00:57:09.040 --> 00:57:18.960
at school. So it did help free me up and not make me feel, I don't know, I don't want to say confined,

708
00:57:18.960 --> 00:57:23.440
but making it feel like that. I just, I couldn't do anything else that I had to be watching her,

709
00:57:23.440 --> 00:57:31.040
but at the same time I would miss her too. So I've, but I know that this is, it's a natural thing.

710
00:57:32.240 --> 00:57:36.640
It is. So this is coming up in my spirit too. So I'm just going to say it and you may,

711
00:57:36.640 --> 00:57:42.960
I don't want you to feel offended or like, Oh, why did you say that? But I think it's worth

712
00:57:42.960 --> 00:57:50.720
putting out there. Sometimes when situations like this happen, we can also become codependent

713
00:57:51.920 --> 00:57:56.240
on relationships with our children and grandchildren. And when that shift happens,

714
00:57:56.240 --> 00:58:01.040
it feels like a big shift, even though you had that transition time, some of what you're saying,

715
00:58:01.040 --> 00:58:06.080
it can start to feel like a big, and we should naturally miss. Okay. If we have a relationship

716
00:58:06.080 --> 00:58:11.520
shift, you all, we're going to naturally miss people, but when there's pain deep inside to

717
00:58:11.520 --> 00:58:19.120
some level, or we feel like all of a sudden, like there's something missing that's different

718
00:58:19.120 --> 00:58:26.320
than missing someone. Does that make sense? Yeah. So just really be inquiring of the Lord.

719
00:58:26.320 --> 00:58:32.880
If there was any kind of maybe codependent kind of thing that started forming there,

720
00:58:32.880 --> 00:58:39.280
because you said something important, you said, sometimes I wouldn't even know what I was doing

721
00:58:39.280 --> 00:58:46.000
until they called me at the last minute. Yeah. Yeah. So that's a signal to me. And again,

722
00:58:46.000 --> 00:58:50.880
there's no shame in this. Any of us would, who would be helping our kids or, you know,

723
00:58:51.600 --> 00:58:57.280
that are struggling in any kind of situation, boundaries and lines can get blurred a little

724
00:58:57.280 --> 00:59:03.520
bit. And what can start to happen then is that enmeshment and there's no real clarity. And so

725
00:59:03.520 --> 00:59:09.520
then when their life is chaotic and they don't really respect boundaries, and we allow that to

726
00:59:09.520 --> 00:59:17.920
go on, then when that chaos is over, or maybe just not happening right now, we can also feel avoid

727
00:59:17.920 --> 00:59:24.800
from that. Okay. The chaos. So just be, be in prayer about a couple of those things that I

728
00:59:24.800 --> 00:59:29.760
mentioned and just see what the Lord brings up for you. Okay. Okay. I will. That doesn't offend

729
00:59:29.760 --> 00:59:34.160
me at all. Cause I actually wrote a book. I read a book. It's one of the original ones

730
00:59:34.160 --> 00:59:41.200
about codependency. Um, and there was actually questions at the end, just like there is for

731
00:59:41.200 --> 00:59:47.440
heartwork that I, um, cause someone, a counselor had recommend that to me a long time ago. And I

732
00:59:47.440 --> 00:59:52.800
was like, I'm not codependent, but once I read the book, I understood and I have boundaries and

733
00:59:52.800 --> 00:59:57.040
healing. But now that you're saying that I'm going to go back through my journal because

734
00:59:57.760 --> 00:59:59.920
since I had got rid of most of my codependency.

735
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:04.400
Let's see, maybe I hung on to it again with my granddaughter.

736
01:00:04.400 --> 01:00:05.920
So I don't want to be doing that.

737
01:00:05.920 --> 01:00:07.680
So I, yeah.

738
01:00:07.720 --> 01:00:11.560
And sometimes it can slip in without us even realizing it.

739
01:00:11.560 --> 01:00:16.680
Sometimes I here's one you all, I had codependency on my dog.

740
01:00:18.160 --> 01:00:21.800
You would think, well, how can you get codependent on a dog?

741
01:00:21.800 --> 01:00:28.200
Well, because like I relied on her as a source of comfort and she filled a

742
01:00:28.200 --> 01:00:32.880
void that sometimes I just didn't know how to get it filled with the Lord.

743
01:00:33.520 --> 01:00:38.840
Um, or feel like, feel like enough on my own, but I healed, I've been

744
01:00:38.840 --> 01:00:42.520
healing, you'll heal too, and you'll continue to get stronger and, and

745
01:00:42.520 --> 01:00:44.480
you'll recognize it quicker.

746
01:00:44.480 --> 01:00:48.240
Next time, like sincerely, we'll, we all start to develop

747
01:00:48.240 --> 01:00:49.960
muscles to recognize things.

748
01:00:50.400 --> 01:00:52.200
Um, so thank you for sharing.

749
01:00:52.240 --> 01:00:55.200
I appreciate that for you having the courage, Claudia as well.

750
01:00:55.400 --> 01:00:57.920
I'm going to go ahead and continue into the next part of the content.

751
01:00:58.280 --> 01:01:01.240
Um, because it's really, really important.

752
01:01:01.240 --> 01:01:04.440
It pairs so well with what we're already talking about tonight.

753
01:01:04.720 --> 01:01:08.920
I want you all to think about, um, intervals.

754
01:01:09.080 --> 01:01:11.320
I don't know if y'all have ever heard about that before.

755
01:01:11.320 --> 01:01:18.720
Intervals are something where we as a person set a determination.

756
01:01:18.880 --> 01:01:19.360
Okay.

757
01:01:19.360 --> 01:01:23.760
So what that means is we kind of make a decision to partner with in our

758
01:01:23.800 --> 01:01:30.080
minds and our hearts with, with a thought, with a belief system to

759
01:01:30.080 --> 01:01:32.720
protect ourselves from feeling pain.

760
01:01:36.720 --> 01:01:36.920
Okay.

761
01:01:36.920 --> 01:01:40.000
I want to read that again, a determination set in our minds

762
01:01:40.000 --> 01:01:41.680
and hearts to protect us from pain.

763
01:01:41.680 --> 01:01:42.800
That's an interval.

764
01:01:42.840 --> 01:01:44.280
That's what it means.

765
01:01:45.040 --> 01:01:48.800
Romans 12, two says, do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be

766
01:01:48.800 --> 01:01:51.120
transformed by the renewing of your mind.

767
01:01:51.320 --> 01:01:55.920
Then you will be able to test what God's will is his good, perfect, and pleasing

768
01:01:55.960 --> 01:02:00.840
will, I want you to think about the soil of your hearts for a few minutes.

769
01:02:01.360 --> 01:02:04.240
And again, there's no judgment, but I just want you to think about like, what's

770
01:02:04.240 --> 01:02:06.480
the condition of your soil right now?

771
01:02:07.040 --> 01:02:09.240
The Bible talks about the different types of soil.

772
01:02:09.240 --> 01:02:11.120
The book talks about it a little bit too.

773
01:02:11.600 --> 01:02:12.640
Oh yes, I can.

774
01:02:12.640 --> 01:02:13.120
Nikki.

775
01:02:15.680 --> 01:02:26.280
An interval is a determination set in our mind and heart to protect us from pain.

776
01:02:28.760 --> 01:02:32.200
I'm going to, I'm going to give you examples here a little bit in a few

777
01:02:32.200 --> 01:02:34.520
minutes from the book, as well as my own.

778
01:02:36.200 --> 01:02:39.360
And again, there can be additional ones, but I want y'all to hear this part.

779
01:02:39.400 --> 01:02:42.240
And again, I never share pages of the book just because the

780
01:02:42.240 --> 01:02:43.360
ebook pages are different.

781
01:02:43.360 --> 01:02:47.280
The content's the same, but just kind of hone in and hear tonight.

782
01:02:47.400 --> 01:02:52.000
Um, as I read this says, but even though you won't be able to replace the actual

783
01:02:52.000 --> 01:02:54.880
events that happened in your life, you can replace the lies you believed.

784
01:02:54.880 --> 01:02:59.560
And most importantly, the vows you made as a result of them, when we experience

785
01:02:59.560 --> 01:03:01.120
these hurts in life, they make us sad.

786
01:03:01.120 --> 01:03:04.840
And when, and when we are sad, that's when anger shows up.

787
01:03:05.600 --> 01:03:07.760
Anger is always the defender.

788
01:03:08.240 --> 01:03:11.360
It always shows up when those wounded and vulnerable parts

789
01:03:11.360 --> 01:03:13.000
of our heart feel threatened.

790
01:03:13.720 --> 01:03:16.600
I like to think of it as hurts body guard.

791
01:03:17.080 --> 01:03:21.480
When anger is around, we feel strong and we start to make inner vows.

792
01:03:21.840 --> 01:03:23.920
Nobody is ever going to hurt me again.

793
01:03:24.160 --> 01:03:25.440
I don't care about anyone.

794
01:03:25.480 --> 01:03:26.920
I can't trust anybody.

795
01:03:26.960 --> 01:03:29.360
I will never turn out like my mother or father.

796
01:03:29.560 --> 01:03:31.320
I won't be made a fool anymore.

797
01:03:31.520 --> 01:03:33.560
Nobody is going to tell me what to do.

798
01:03:33.840 --> 01:03:36.680
I cannot tell anybody about this.

799
01:03:38.200 --> 01:03:39.960
I will be perfect from now on.

800
01:03:39.960 --> 01:03:42.680
So nobody can reject me.

801
01:03:43.600 --> 01:03:45.280
Ooh, yep.

802
01:03:45.320 --> 01:03:47.640
That one went, okay.

803
01:03:48.080 --> 01:03:49.120
I want to show a hands.

804
01:03:49.120 --> 01:03:52.200
I'm going to keep reading who in here struggles with feeling

805
01:03:52.200 --> 01:03:53.480
like you have to be perfect.

806
01:03:54.400 --> 01:03:55.240
I want to see hands.

807
01:03:57.040 --> 01:03:57.400
Okay.

808
01:03:57.400 --> 01:03:59.120
Yeah, you can do digital or physical.

809
01:03:59.480 --> 01:04:00.000
All right.

810
01:04:01.440 --> 01:04:01.960
Tonight.

811
01:04:01.960 --> 01:04:02.960
Here's the truth.

812
01:04:03.600 --> 01:04:05.120
There is no perfect one.

813
01:04:05.240 --> 01:04:06.680
There's only one perfect one.

814
01:04:07.280 --> 01:04:08.800
And his name is Jesus Christ.

815
01:04:09.200 --> 01:04:12.840
So you can let yourself off the hook starting tonight.

816
01:04:13.760 --> 01:04:15.040
Is that going to be easy?

817
01:04:15.040 --> 01:04:16.480
No, I struggle with it too.

818
01:04:16.480 --> 01:04:18.080
I made a mistake last week in work.

819
01:04:19.040 --> 01:04:24.840
And I thought about that thing all day on and off all day, even to the point

820
01:04:24.840 --> 01:04:26.000
that I talked to Brian about it.

821
01:04:26.000 --> 01:04:28.200
I'm like, this thing is bugging me so bad.

822
01:04:30.520 --> 01:04:31.520
Was it a showstopper?

823
01:04:31.560 --> 01:04:32.160
No.

824
01:04:32.160 --> 01:04:36.800
But man, I want everything to be perfect and I don't want to mess up something.

825
01:04:37.840 --> 01:04:39.160
But here's the reality.

826
01:04:40.920 --> 01:04:45.800
Why do I think I have to do everything perfectly at the, at the core?

827
01:04:46.440 --> 01:04:52.400
I'm afraid that if I don't, someone is going to be upset with me or reject

828
01:04:52.400 --> 01:04:56.720
me in some way, or I won't get that movement forward and I'm not even

829
01:04:56.720 --> 01:05:01.160
going to be able to do it, but I'm afraid that if I don't, I'm not going to

830
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:04.320
and saying, that's truth, you all, but those are things we believe and tell ourselves.

831
01:05:06.880 --> 01:05:13.200
I really want you to think about your relationships and where are you convincing yourself that if

832
01:05:13.200 --> 01:05:18.880
you're not perfect, or if you don't have it all together, or the lie that you're not enough in

833
01:05:18.880 --> 01:05:25.600
some way, that if you're not, you know, all those things that people won't really love you.

834
01:05:25.600 --> 01:05:31.360
You know, when I even read that part where it says, I can't tell anybody about this,

835
01:05:31.920 --> 01:05:35.760
you all, years ago, and I feel led to share this, I hope this helps someone tonight.

836
01:05:38.480 --> 01:05:45.200
I believe the lie that if I told people my story, if people really knew what happened to me,

837
01:05:45.200 --> 01:05:50.880
they would not love me, and they would reject me, and people would make fun of me,

838
01:05:50.880 --> 01:05:55.920
and people would pity me. I mean, so many different things I heard the enemy say.

839
01:05:57.680 --> 01:06:03.440
But here's the truth, you all. While I don't, I mean, I don't, I'm not like, yes,

840
01:06:04.080 --> 01:06:12.800
I was sexually abused. I'm not like that. Yes, my ex cheated on me with multiple women.

841
01:06:13.760 --> 01:06:21.040
I mean, no. Am I like that? No. But you know what? You know why I feel excited about those things?

842
01:06:21.040 --> 01:06:26.160
Because I gave those to the Lord, and I'm like, God, I don't believe you caused these things,

843
01:06:26.160 --> 01:06:30.000
but I believe your word, and it says that if I will give these things to you,

844
01:06:30.720 --> 01:06:34.640
that you will take my pain, and you'll use it for a purpose.

845
01:06:34.880 --> 01:06:41.040
So here I am coaching my heart out with heart work. I would have, I mean, I told you all last

846
01:06:41.040 --> 01:06:48.640
week, I could not have even conceived what I'm doing right now years ago. I wanted to help people

847
01:06:49.200 --> 01:06:54.560
find the Lord. I wanted to help people get free, and I knew those two things, and I just,

848
01:06:54.560 --> 01:07:00.960
every single day, I took one step towards that, and somehow, praise the Lord, I've ended up here,

849
01:07:01.120 --> 01:07:06.000
and somehow, praise the Lord, I've ended up here, and I get to do this kind of stuff.

850
01:07:07.520 --> 01:07:14.880
It's glorious, and I'm so grateful. So I don't know who needed maybe to hear that tonight. I'm

851
01:07:14.880 --> 01:07:19.920
sorry for what you've been through. God's heart broke as you went through those things,

852
01:07:21.280 --> 01:07:26.320
but he wants to turn it all around for good. Okay, I'm going to keep going. We're going back

853
01:07:26.320 --> 01:07:32.400
to the vows. I had to take a sidebar. The Holy Spirit was taking me there, you all. We make a

854
01:07:32.400 --> 01:07:38.240
decision to harden our hearts when we make vows, and it makes sense in that moment. We think if we

855
01:07:38.240 --> 01:07:44.080
make these vows and build these walls around our hearts that we can keep all of the bad things out,

856
01:07:44.080 --> 01:07:50.240
but unfortunately, walls are good at keeping things out, but they are not good at letting

857
01:07:50.240 --> 01:07:55.520
things in, and to stop surviving and start thriving, we're going to have to be able to let

858
01:07:56.160 --> 01:08:02.720
a lot of things in. As the lies in their corresponding vows are emerging,

859
01:08:03.360 --> 01:08:07.040
we have to replace them with the greater truth of God's Word.

860
01:08:10.720 --> 01:08:16.640
So on that note, I'm going to give you a couple vows that not only were in the book, but a couple

861
01:08:16.640 --> 01:08:22.319
additional ones. Okay, these are things that I've had in my own mind over the years or things that

862
01:08:22.319 --> 01:08:30.160
I've heard as I've been coaching people. Here they are. I'll never be able to make anyone happy.

863
01:08:32.479 --> 01:08:37.920
Those are vows that kids often make, or even adults, when the person that they're with,

864
01:08:37.920 --> 01:08:43.040
they feel like they're never happy, and really, down to the core, that person and that individual

865
01:08:43.040 --> 01:08:50.720
is not happy with themselves. Therefore, they feel like they can never live up to the expectation.

866
01:08:52.160 --> 01:08:59.600
Maybe it's this one. I'll never date or marry a Larry, or John, or Sam, or fill in the blank,

867
01:08:59.600 --> 01:09:05.439
Carlos. Whatever the name is for you, maybe there's someone that hurt you in the past,

868
01:09:05.439 --> 01:09:09.920
and they have a certain name, and so you've decided, I will never date or marry someone

869
01:09:09.920 --> 01:09:15.600
with that name. I told this story this afternoon. I feel like I should share it again today, you all.

870
01:09:15.600 --> 01:09:20.560
My oldest, my brothers were, and my sister, those were the people that committed the sexual abuse

871
01:09:20.560 --> 01:09:26.319
acts against me. My oldest brother was the main perpetrator, and his name is Brian.

872
01:09:27.920 --> 01:09:36.000
Y'all, I didn't even realize I had an internal vow about that name until I was dating,

873
01:09:36.560 --> 01:09:41.359
and the guy that was the front runner, you all, he was the guy that always stood out,

874
01:09:42.080 --> 01:09:45.359
that walked in the fruits of the spirit. Y'all want to guess what his name?

875
01:09:46.640 --> 01:09:53.920
What is his name? He's now my husband. Do you want to guess? Brian. Brian. Yes.

876
01:09:55.440 --> 01:09:59.040
Brian. His name was Brian, and I remember saying to the Lord,

877
01:10:00.000 --> 01:10:03.440
God, I don't know if I can do this.

878
01:10:06.840 --> 01:10:09.300
Did his name have to be Brian, Lord?

879
01:10:10.760 --> 01:10:12.520
I mean, I'm just talking real talk.

880
01:10:13.840 --> 01:10:16.320
It was hard in that moment.

881
01:10:16.320 --> 01:10:17.960
And I remember just praying

882
01:10:17.960 --> 01:10:20.080
and just bearing my heart out to the Lord about it.

883
01:10:20.080 --> 01:10:22.320
Like, God, I don't think you're playing a trick on me,

884
01:10:22.320 --> 01:10:24.360
so tell me about this.

885
01:10:24.360 --> 01:10:27.240
Why would you lead my spirit mate to me

886
01:10:27.280 --> 01:10:30.200
and him have the name Brian

887
01:10:30.200 --> 01:10:33.780
when you know what Brian represents for me?

888
01:10:35.320 --> 01:10:36.320
Y'all, this is someone

889
01:10:36.320 --> 01:10:41.320
who made me do intimate things with them, my brother.

890
01:10:42.520 --> 01:10:44.120
And you wanna know what God said to me?

891
01:10:44.120 --> 01:10:45.380
It was so beautiful.

892
01:10:46.300 --> 01:10:49.540
He said, I wanna redeem the name Brian for you.

893
01:10:52.040 --> 01:10:54.700
Y'all, it's even funnier now when I look back

894
01:10:54.740 --> 01:10:59.140
because, so my brother's name is Brian.

895
01:10:59.140 --> 01:11:01.500
My husband's name is Brian.

896
01:11:01.500 --> 01:11:04.700
Yes, the key there is because my husband Brian is healthy

897
01:11:04.700 --> 01:11:08.740
and he has been such a story of redemption for me.

898
01:11:08.740 --> 01:11:10.440
But here's the other funny thing.

899
01:11:10.440 --> 01:11:13.140
My brother-in-law on Brian's side of the family,

900
01:11:13.140 --> 01:11:15.540
his name is Brian.

901
01:11:15.540 --> 01:11:17.060
So I'm surrounded by all these Brians.

902
01:11:17.060 --> 01:11:18.620
We had a guy walk into the church the other day

903
01:11:18.620 --> 01:11:19.860
and his name's Brian.

904
01:11:19.860 --> 01:11:21.000
There's lots of Brians around,

905
01:11:21.000 --> 01:11:22.060
but I'm sharing this

906
01:11:22.060 --> 01:11:27.060
because God's doing something with the name Brian

907
01:11:27.100 --> 01:11:28.660
in my life.

908
01:11:28.660 --> 01:11:30.040
And I believe he can do the same for you.

909
01:11:30.040 --> 01:11:32.220
And I will sometimes get the people

910
01:11:32.220 --> 01:11:34.940
that when they hear that story, they'll be like, yeah,

911
01:11:34.940 --> 01:11:37.780
but I've now dated two people or married two people

912
01:11:37.780 --> 01:11:41.420
or whatever with the same name and they were both the same.

913
01:11:42.620 --> 01:11:44.540
I don't know how that works out you all,

914
01:11:44.540 --> 01:11:48.060
but that still does not mean all Johns are bad.

915
01:11:48.060 --> 01:11:50.580
And again, I'm just putting a name in there.

916
01:11:50.580 --> 01:11:54.100
But if we believe and we make a vow

917
01:11:54.100 --> 01:11:56.380
and we say all Johns are bad

918
01:11:56.380 --> 01:12:01.060
and I will never, ever, ever trust a man with the name John.

919
01:12:01.060 --> 01:12:02.460
Again, I don't know who John is,

920
01:12:02.460 --> 01:12:05.620
but that's the name that keeps coming up tonight.

921
01:12:05.620 --> 01:12:07.360
We got to let that stuff go.

922
01:12:10.780 --> 01:12:11.700
Here's another one.

923
01:12:11.700 --> 01:12:12.660
It's very similar.

924
01:12:12.660 --> 01:12:16.320
I'll never marry or date someone of a certain ethnicity.

925
01:12:17.320 --> 01:12:22.320
Okay, some people, even when they've experienced

926
01:12:22.680 --> 01:12:26.180
within their own same ethnic circle,

927
01:12:26.180 --> 01:12:28.100
a lot of abuse or mistreatment,

928
01:12:28.100 --> 01:12:31.120
they just believe that is all they're ever gonna get

929
01:12:31.120 --> 01:12:32.500
in that ethnicity.

930
01:12:33.800 --> 01:12:37.160
And even that, we need to go to the Lord and seek him

931
01:12:37.160 --> 01:12:40.920
because if he brings your spirit mate to you

932
01:12:40.920 --> 01:12:44.720
and that person exhibits all the fruits of the Holy Spirit

933
01:12:44.760 --> 01:12:46.960
and good things and green flags,

934
01:12:46.960 --> 01:12:48.700
but he has that same ethnicity

935
01:12:48.700 --> 01:12:50.640
and you just partner with the vow,

936
01:12:51.840 --> 01:12:54.800
well, then you could miss out on that, right?

937
01:12:54.800 --> 01:12:56.080
Okay, same thing.

938
01:12:56.080 --> 01:12:57.160
A guy with a certain job.

939
01:12:57.160 --> 01:13:00.120
This is the last one in this kind of lie circle here.

940
01:13:01.040 --> 01:13:04.320
Sometimes you all, I have people that,

941
01:13:04.320 --> 01:13:09.080
maybe an ex was a military police officer, a pastor,

942
01:13:09.080 --> 01:13:10.400
maybe they're a pastor's kid.

943
01:13:10.400 --> 01:13:12.040
They were raised in that life and they're like,

944
01:13:12.040 --> 01:13:15.840
I'm never going to date or marry a pastor

945
01:13:15.840 --> 01:13:18.500
or someone that comes out of the army or military

946
01:13:18.500 --> 01:13:20.880
because this person was bad.

947
01:13:20.880 --> 01:13:23.240
And so that means they're all gonna be bad.

948
01:13:23.240 --> 01:13:24.400
Okay, same thing.

949
01:13:24.400 --> 01:13:25.640
Okay, I'm gonna keep going.

950
01:13:25.640 --> 01:13:28.280
I'll never let my guard down ever again.

951
01:13:30.400 --> 01:13:32.940
I'll never let anyone hurt me again.

952
01:13:33.860 --> 01:13:35.560
Here's another thing.

953
01:13:35.560 --> 01:13:37.120
Maybe those aren't the kind of thoughts

954
01:13:37.120 --> 01:13:38.640
that you notice yourself having,

955
01:13:38.640 --> 01:13:43.240
but maybe yours sound like always and never.

956
01:13:44.160 --> 01:13:45.780
Examples, I don't have a bunch,

957
01:13:45.780 --> 01:13:46.980
but here are a couple examples

958
01:13:46.980 --> 01:13:49.720
because we're getting ready for the next breakout.

959
01:13:49.720 --> 01:13:54.240
They, whoever they are, always do that.

960
01:13:58.160 --> 01:14:00.760
I always get passed over.

961
01:14:01.800 --> 01:14:03.920
Do you hear the always in there?

962
01:14:03.920 --> 01:14:07.560
Y'all, it's never always, ever.

963
01:14:07.560 --> 01:14:10.080
But why do we partner with that statement?

964
01:14:10.080 --> 01:14:11.600
Here's the nevers.

965
01:14:11.600 --> 01:14:14.640
Men never come through for me.

966
01:14:16.520 --> 01:14:19.460
The men in my life never come through for me.

967
01:14:20.600 --> 01:14:23.240
They always let me down.

968
01:14:23.240 --> 01:14:25.100
Men never keep their word.

969
01:14:29.280 --> 01:14:30.560
Ooh, yep.

970
01:14:34.360 --> 01:14:35.400
Here's another one.

971
01:14:35.440 --> 01:14:38.800
I'm never seen or noticed.

972
01:14:41.320 --> 01:14:42.600
Okay, Holy Spirit.

973
01:14:42.600 --> 01:14:43.640
I just heard the Holy Spirit say,

974
01:14:43.640 --> 01:14:45.160
some of you all feel like that

975
01:14:45.160 --> 01:14:47.400
when you hang out with your friends.

976
01:14:47.400 --> 01:14:50.480
You feel like the guys always notice them and see them,

977
01:14:50.480 --> 01:14:53.240
or even other girlfriends always kind of wanna hang out

978
01:14:53.240 --> 01:14:56.220
with that girlfriend, but you don't get called.

979
01:14:58.640 --> 01:14:59.760
Y'all, that's not true.

980
01:15:00.000 --> 01:15:05.080
Somehow the enemy is a lying to you and he's causing you to believe that you are never

981
01:15:05.080 --> 01:15:09.040
going to be fully seen even by your friends or your friends circle or at work.

982
01:15:09.040 --> 01:15:12.440
You're never going to get that promotion.

983
01:15:12.440 --> 01:15:14.880
Don't partner with those, those things.

984
01:15:14.880 --> 01:15:15.880
Here's the thing.

985
01:15:15.880 --> 01:15:20.880
When you have always or never thoughts, those are signals to areas where you most likely

986
01:15:20.880 --> 01:15:26.800
have a vow that you are, are partnering with and believing whether you realize it or not.

987
01:15:26.800 --> 01:15:27.800
Okay.

988
01:15:27.800 --> 01:15:33.560
Maybe you don't know what the vow is tonight right now, but if you have, if you tend to

989
01:15:33.560 --> 01:15:38.640
make always or never statements that kind of gives you at least a clue where to start

990
01:15:38.640 --> 01:15:44.240
and say, okay, Lord, this is the thought that I have, or the thing that I tend to say, can

991
01:15:44.240 --> 01:15:46.400
you show me where this originated?

992
01:15:46.400 --> 01:15:51.400
Do I have a vow that I've partnered with that's in my subconscious that I don't even realize

993
01:15:51.400 --> 01:15:52.400
I'm partnering with?

994
01:15:52.400 --> 01:15:56.480
Do you see how I'm kind of leaning into the Lord with that question?

995
01:15:56.480 --> 01:15:58.200
That's what I'm going to encourage you all to do.

996
01:15:58.200 --> 01:16:00.760
So I'm going to put you in your breakout.

997
01:16:00.760 --> 01:16:05.120
What this is your question, what inner vows do you need to come out of alignment with

998
01:16:05.120 --> 01:16:06.120
tonight?

999
01:16:06.120 --> 01:16:09.920
And I want to encourage you, if you don't know yet, that's okay.

1000
01:16:09.920 --> 01:16:12.840
Again, you have complete permission to say, you know what?

1001
01:16:12.840 --> 01:16:15.320
This is what's coming up for me, but I'm not sure yet.

1002
01:16:15.320 --> 01:16:16.320
So I want to lean into this.

1003
01:16:16.320 --> 01:16:17.320
So just, just be real.

1004
01:16:17.320 --> 01:16:18.320
Just be you.

1005
01:16:18.320 --> 01:16:20.600
We're going to do this again.

1006
01:16:20.600 --> 01:16:25.400
I'm going to recreate the rooms because I want you all to get to know additional people.

1007
01:16:25.400 --> 01:16:27.520
And I'm going to do this one because we're already close on time.

1008
01:16:27.520 --> 01:16:28.760
I'm going to do it for eight minutes.

1009
01:16:28.760 --> 01:16:31.200
So just be a little bit quicker.

1010
01:16:31.200 --> 01:16:32.200
Here you go.

1011
01:16:32.200 --> 01:16:36.240
Go ahead and click to join that room, praying for you all and that you're, you're staying

1012
01:16:36.240 --> 01:16:37.240
with me again.

1013
01:16:37.240 --> 01:16:38.240
Awesome.

1014
01:16:38.240 --> 01:16:40.560
And if y'all can't go into breakouts, that's okay.

1015
01:16:40.560 --> 01:16:44.680
I had a couple that couldn't the last time.

1016
01:16:44.680 --> 01:16:50.640
All right.

1017
01:16:50.640 --> 01:17:05.200
Sorry, I just got to make sure she, one more person gets situated here.

1018
01:17:05.200 --> 01:17:07.200
Awesome.

1019
01:17:07.200 --> 01:17:09.200
Okay.

1020
01:17:09.200 --> 01:17:16.920
Father, just thank you so much right now, man, you're so good.

1021
01:17:16.920 --> 01:17:22.320
Help us to recognize ways that we have thoughts that they just come out of our subconscious

1022
01:17:22.320 --> 01:17:29.800
from the wounds that we've experienced that we thank you.

1023
01:17:29.800 --> 01:17:36.660
I'm just seeing like a war scene, just some of these ladies, Lord have gone through battle

1024
01:17:36.660 --> 01:17:38.960
and it feels at times like they've been in a war.

1025
01:17:38.960 --> 01:17:44.160
And I just thank you, God, that you are going to your daughters and your wounded soldiers,

1026
01:17:44.160 --> 01:17:45.160
if you will.

1027
01:17:45.400 --> 01:17:49.040
And I thank you that you're carrying them off the battlefield and you're mending them,

1028
01:17:49.040 --> 01:17:51.720
you're restoring them, you're rebuilding them.

1029
01:17:51.720 --> 01:17:57.040
I thank you that every area where they have pain and loss, where they're grieving, I pray

1030
01:17:57.040 --> 01:17:59.300
that you would comfort them.

1031
01:17:59.300 --> 01:18:03.560
Your word declares that you are close to those who are broken hearted and those who are crushed

1032
01:18:03.560 --> 01:18:04.560
in spirit.

1033
01:18:04.560 --> 01:18:08.800
We just thank you that you would help them to sense your nearness tonight, even in the

1034
01:18:08.800 --> 01:18:14.400
breakout sessions, as they are realizing inner vows that they have, have partnered with that

1035
01:18:14.400 --> 01:18:16.360
are not serving them well.

1036
01:18:16.360 --> 01:18:21.400
I thank you, God, that you would help them to feel just your love and affirmation towards

1037
01:18:21.400 --> 01:18:25.560
them that you would help them to see themselves through your eyes a little bit more tonight

1038
01:18:25.560 --> 01:18:28.000
and this week.

1039
01:18:28.000 --> 01:18:35.800
We thank you, God, that you're continuing to refine us and remove the chap and everything

1040
01:18:35.800 --> 01:18:41.200
that does not lead us into the fullness of the plans and the promises that you have for

1041
01:18:41.200 --> 01:18:42.200
us.

1042
01:18:43.200 --> 01:18:47.560
Ladies earlier, I talked about that scripture about the tree planted by rivers of water.

1043
01:18:47.560 --> 01:18:48.560
I want to read that to you.

1044
01:18:48.560 --> 01:18:52.720
That's Psalm one, Psalm chapter one, verse three from the passion translation, and this

1045
01:18:52.720 --> 01:18:53.720
is what it says.

1046
01:18:53.720 --> 01:18:59.880
He will be standing firm like a flourishing tree planted by God's design, deeply rooted

1047
01:18:59.880 --> 01:19:07.240
by the brooks of bliss, bearing fruit in every season of his life.

1048
01:19:07.240 --> 01:19:13.600
He is never dry, never fainting, ever blessed, and ever prosperous.

1049
01:19:13.600 --> 01:19:20.280
Even in our hard moments in the dry seasons, ladies, God declares that we are blessed and

1050
01:19:20.280 --> 01:19:23.080
we can bear fruit.

1051
01:19:23.080 --> 01:19:24.080
Thank you, Holy Spirit.

1052
01:19:24.080 --> 01:19:27.760
Right now, I just come against any negative thoughts where the enemy is causing us to

1053
01:19:27.760 --> 01:19:33.320
believe that we're not bearing fruit right now and that what we're doing just isn't working.

1054
01:19:33.480 --> 01:19:37.520
Thank you, God, that you'll help us to see the fruit in our life, in our heart, in our

1055
01:19:37.520 --> 01:19:41.720
families, that you'll help us to see the good that's happening.

1056
01:19:41.720 --> 01:19:46.200
I thank you for your head to protection around our families, around our hearts, our minds,

1057
01:19:46.200 --> 01:19:48.880
that you would help us to guard our hearts and our minds through Christ Jesus.

1058
01:19:48.880 --> 01:19:53.400
And then we would partner with truth tonight.

1059
01:19:53.400 --> 01:19:54.400
Thank you, Lord.

1060
01:19:54.400 --> 01:19:55.400
Yes, Lord.

1061
01:19:55.400 --> 01:20:00.040
Psalm one, 1976 says, send your mercy kiss to comfort.

1062
01:20:00.000 --> 01:20:04.320
for me, your servant, just like you promised you would.

1063
01:20:04.320 --> 01:20:05.400
So Lord, we just thank you

1064
01:20:05.400 --> 01:20:08.600
that you would just literally pour out healing oil

1065
01:20:08.600 --> 01:20:11.800
from heaven tonight over your daughters,

1066
01:20:11.800 --> 01:20:13.920
over their hearts, their minds, their bodies,

1067
01:20:13.920 --> 01:20:15.200
their spirits and their souls

1068
01:20:15.200 --> 01:20:19.680
and help them to receive the truth of your love

1069
01:20:20.560 --> 01:20:23.360
and your loving gaze towards them.

1070
01:20:23.360 --> 01:20:25.440
Zephaniah, I think it's 317.

1071
01:20:25.440 --> 01:20:28.840
The Bible talks about how God will rejoice over us

1072
01:20:28.880 --> 01:20:31.320
with singing and dancing.

1073
01:20:31.320 --> 01:20:33.480
And so Lord, I pray that you would just help the ladies

1074
01:20:33.480 --> 01:20:35.480
to have that perspective tonight,

1075
01:20:35.480 --> 01:20:37.080
that they don't have to be perfect,

1076
01:20:37.080 --> 01:20:38.520
that you will help all of us

1077
01:20:38.520 --> 01:20:40.960
to come out of people-pleasing tendencies

1078
01:20:42.800 --> 01:20:46.000
and come into your love and care

1079
01:20:46.000 --> 01:20:49.440
and that you would just cover every area of weakness.

1080
01:20:50.800 --> 01:20:52.800
Help us to know that we can be strong in you

1081
01:20:52.800 --> 01:20:54.000
and that when we feel weak,

1082
01:20:54.000 --> 01:20:56.100
that you are strong on our behalf.

1083
01:20:56.980 --> 01:20:58.700
That God is even just reminding me,

1084
01:20:58.700 --> 01:21:01.420
you all, of that poem, The Footprints.

1085
01:21:01.420 --> 01:21:03.500
Haven't thought of that poem in a long time,

1086
01:21:03.500 --> 01:21:05.340
but somebody needs to hear that tonight,

1087
01:21:05.340 --> 01:21:06.820
that when we feel so weak,

1088
01:21:06.820 --> 01:21:10.460
we just feel like we can't even go a step further.

1089
01:21:10.460 --> 01:21:12.860
God will be the one carrying us.

1090
01:21:14.300 --> 01:21:16.060
So for whoever that is tonight,

1091
01:21:16.060 --> 01:21:18.860
I declare that over you, that God is your strength.

1092
01:21:18.860 --> 01:21:20.380
He is your source.

1093
01:21:20.380 --> 01:21:22.580
He is your firm foundation.

1094
01:21:22.580 --> 01:21:23.940
He's the fountain of life.

1095
01:21:23.940 --> 01:21:25.700
He's the prince of peace.

1096
01:21:26.300 --> 01:21:27.140
So God, we just thank you

1097
01:21:27.140 --> 01:21:29.660
that you would bring peace into the hearts and the minds

1098
01:21:29.660 --> 01:21:31.300
and spirits of your daughters,

1099
01:21:32.140 --> 01:21:33.780
not only in phase one in the heart work

1100
01:21:33.780 --> 01:21:35.940
with this whole community, as well as with your sons.

1101
01:21:35.940 --> 01:21:39.180
We thank you for the revival of families and marriages

1102
01:21:39.180 --> 01:21:42.140
that is happening through this movement.

1103
01:21:42.140 --> 01:21:44.660
We thank you, Lord, for Jeremiah 24 7.

1104
01:21:44.660 --> 01:21:46.660
It says, I will give them hearts

1105
01:21:46.660 --> 01:21:49.820
that recognize me as the Lord.

1106
01:21:49.820 --> 01:21:52.580
They will be my people and I will be their God,

1107
01:21:52.620 --> 01:21:55.860
for they will return to me wholeheartedly.

1108
01:21:55.860 --> 01:21:56.700
I thank you, God,

1109
01:21:56.700 --> 01:21:59.700
that we would return to you with our whole hearts,

1110
01:22:01.900 --> 01:22:05.140
that you would help us to take down any do not enter signs,

1111
01:22:05.140 --> 01:22:06.980
that where we've erected walls

1112
01:22:08.740 --> 01:22:11.820
to try to protect ourselves from hurt with other people,

1113
01:22:11.820 --> 01:22:13.620
with you, God, I pray that you would help us

1114
01:22:13.620 --> 01:22:17.340
to just surrender those areas

1115
01:22:17.340 --> 01:22:19.540
and let those walls come back down.

1116
01:22:20.500 --> 01:22:23.020
We thank you that you would help us to,

1117
01:22:24.540 --> 01:22:27.020
Lord, know that we are trusting you

1118
01:22:27.020 --> 01:22:29.860
more than we are trusting another person,

1119
01:22:31.140 --> 01:22:32.540
that in your goodness, God,

1120
01:22:32.540 --> 01:22:36.860
that you can make all things good in your perfect timing.

1121
01:22:36.860 --> 01:22:39.860
We thank you for life and truth and healing.

1122
01:22:46.860 --> 01:22:48.380
I'm gonna read something.

1123
01:22:48.380 --> 01:22:49.660
I wasn't planning on doing this,

1124
01:22:49.660 --> 01:22:51.100
but I feel led to kind of read this

1125
01:22:51.100 --> 01:22:52.220
before the ladies come back.

1126
01:22:52.220 --> 01:22:53.580
This will be on the replay.

1127
01:22:55.100 --> 01:22:57.820
It says, as I've watched many women go through this change,

1128
01:22:57.820 --> 01:22:58.980
I can say it looks like this,

1129
01:22:58.980 --> 01:23:03.820
one huge shift followed by several smaller shifts,

1130
01:23:03.820 --> 01:23:06.700
a period of adjustment to your new mindsets,

1131
01:23:06.700 --> 01:23:11.300
a couple of small roadblocks, maybe even a big one,

1132
01:23:11.300 --> 01:23:15.060
and then another huge shift.

1133
01:23:15.060 --> 01:23:17.140
Now that we know the real definition

1134
01:23:17.140 --> 01:23:19.660
and all the benefits of repentance,

1135
01:23:19.660 --> 01:23:21.300
we are going to repent of all the lies

1136
01:23:21.300 --> 01:23:24.340
we have believed about ourselves, others, and God.

1137
01:23:24.340 --> 01:23:26.940
As you go forward, lots of lies will be revealed,

1138
01:23:26.940 --> 01:23:28.340
and the first step to healing

1139
01:23:28.340 --> 01:23:32.180
will always be coming out of agreement with the lies.

1140
01:23:33.860 --> 01:23:34.980
When we agree with something,

1141
01:23:34.980 --> 01:23:38.060
we give it permission to keep manifesting in our lives.

1142
01:23:38.060 --> 01:23:40.580
We have to revoke those permission slips.

1143
01:23:40.580 --> 01:23:44.220
We can no longer allow these lies to be our GPS in life.

1144
01:23:44.220 --> 01:23:45.580
If we want an abundant life,

1145
01:23:45.580 --> 01:23:49.180
we have to be led by the greater truth.

1146
01:23:49.180 --> 01:23:51.620
Here's how we locate the lie and repent.

1147
01:23:51.620 --> 01:23:53.860
Come out of agreement with it and replace it with the truth.

1148
01:23:53.860 --> 01:23:55.140
A, number one,

1149
01:23:55.140 --> 01:23:58.620
start with the most significant problem areas in your life.

1150
01:23:58.620 --> 01:24:00.500
These troubled areas are an indication

1151
01:24:00.500 --> 01:24:02.260
that lies are being believed in that area,

1152
01:24:02.260 --> 01:24:03.820
which needs healing.

1153
01:24:03.820 --> 01:24:05.260
Number two, ask the Holy Spirit

1154
01:24:05.260 --> 01:24:06.980
to show you the lie you are believing.

1155
01:24:06.980 --> 01:24:09.500
When it is revealed, repent of believing the lie

1156
01:24:09.500 --> 01:24:11.780
and be willing to release it,

1157
01:24:11.780 --> 01:24:14.020
and the behavior and emotions attached to it.

1158
01:24:14.020 --> 01:24:15.140
Ask Holy Spirit to help you.

1159
01:24:15.140 --> 01:24:17.540
Number three, now ask the Holy Spirit

1160
01:24:17.540 --> 01:24:21.060
to show you the truth about this area and about yourself.

1161
01:24:21.060 --> 01:24:23.740
Repeat this truth to yourself regularly

1162
01:24:23.740 --> 01:24:26.220
and embrace scriptures and other divine confirmations

1163
01:24:26.220 --> 01:24:28.180
of this truth to continue

1164
01:24:28.180 --> 01:24:31.460
to reinforce your new belief system.

1165
01:24:31.460 --> 01:24:33.740
Y'all, that goes back to earlier tonight,

1166
01:24:33.740 --> 01:24:36.300
I was praying about the new pathways

1167
01:24:36.300 --> 01:24:37.940
in our brains being created.

1168
01:24:39.100 --> 01:24:41.380
When we replace the new,

1169
01:24:41.380 --> 01:24:44.420
we have to continue to declare that new over ourselves.

1170
01:24:44.420 --> 01:24:46.140
We're gonna do an activation this week

1171
01:24:46.140 --> 01:24:47.780
that's gonna partner with us.

1172
01:24:47.780 --> 01:24:50.260
I'm gonna explain the activation when the lady's at the end

1173
01:24:50.260 --> 01:24:52.660
before everybody logs off.

1174
01:24:52.660 --> 01:24:54.420
For those that will choose to partner with us,

1175
01:24:54.420 --> 01:24:56.820
it's gonna be powerful this week.

1176
01:24:56.820 --> 01:24:58.900
So here they are, starting to come back.

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01:24:58.900 --> 01:25:00.300
Hi, welcome.

1178
01:25:00.000 --> 01:25:01.760
Welcome back, welcome back.

1179
01:25:01.760 --> 01:25:04.360
You have like 30 seconds and everybody will be here.

1180
01:25:11.480 --> 01:25:12.820
Hello, hello.

1181
01:25:13.800 --> 01:25:16.640
Hi, Cindy, are you newer too?

1182
01:25:17.800 --> 01:25:20.200
Two weeks, are you two weeks in, three weeks?

1183
01:25:21.200 --> 01:25:22.280
Longer.

1184
01:25:22.280 --> 01:25:24.760
Oh my gosh, I was just chatting with you.

1185
01:25:24.760 --> 01:25:25.920
I was just chatting with you.

1186
01:25:25.920 --> 01:25:27.840
Okay, I'm like, why do I recognize her name?

1187
01:25:27.840 --> 01:25:28.960
Sometimes when people are new,

1188
01:25:28.960 --> 01:25:30.560
I kind of make that connection.

1189
01:25:30.560 --> 01:25:32.400
I was just chatting with you recently.

1190
01:25:32.400 --> 01:25:34.320
That's why I recognize there.

1191
01:25:34.320 --> 01:25:35.520
Good to see you.

1192
01:25:35.520 --> 01:25:38.640
It's great to have you with us as always.

1193
01:25:38.640 --> 01:25:40.760
All right, ladies, you're all coming back.

1194
01:25:40.760 --> 01:25:42.280
Hi, welcome back.

1195
01:25:42.280 --> 01:25:43.640
Okay, so what we're gonna do right now,

1196
01:25:43.640 --> 01:25:45.280
we're gonna do this a little bit different

1197
01:25:45.280 --> 01:25:48.360
because I wanna hear some thoughts from multiple people.

1198
01:25:48.360 --> 01:25:50.120
And this is where some of y'all

1199
01:25:50.120 --> 01:25:53.080
that are a little bit more afraid to talk out loud,

1200
01:25:53.080 --> 01:25:55.000
this is one of the ways you can participate.

1201
01:25:55.000 --> 01:25:58.560
So what I wanna do is I want you to put in the chat for me,

1202
01:25:59.120 --> 01:26:01.320
what was the vow that you're saying

1203
01:26:01.320 --> 01:26:04.000
you're coming out of agreement with tonight?

1204
01:26:04.000 --> 01:26:05.200
Put that in the chat for me.

1205
01:26:05.200 --> 01:26:07.400
And I wanna read some of these out loud

1206
01:26:07.400 --> 01:26:09.120
so that some of those watching the replay

1207
01:26:09.120 --> 01:26:10.800
can hear them as well.

1208
01:26:11.680 --> 01:26:14.320
So what inner vow are you coming out of agreement

1209
01:26:14.320 --> 01:26:15.480
and alignment with tonight?

1210
01:26:15.480 --> 01:26:17.000
Put those in the chat for me.

1211
01:26:23.320 --> 01:26:25.720
Never getting married again, all right.

1212
01:26:26.200 --> 01:26:28.360
That men don't wanna commit to me.

1213
01:26:31.160 --> 01:26:33.760
I'll never, I will never be good enough.

1214
01:26:34.840 --> 01:26:36.360
Once we identify the inner vow,

1215
01:26:36.360 --> 01:26:37.960
do we apply the inner healing?

1216
01:26:37.960 --> 01:26:39.640
Yes, absolutely, yep.

1217
01:26:40.680 --> 01:26:42.240
That I don't need a man.

1218
01:26:42.240 --> 01:26:44.080
I'll never let my guard down again,

1219
01:26:44.080 --> 01:26:47.240
having to be perfect and or that I am not good enough.

1220
01:26:47.240 --> 01:26:49.360
I'll never date or marry a black man again

1221
01:26:49.360 --> 01:26:50.960
because they always hurt me.

1222
01:26:50.960 --> 01:26:53.800
I only go with a guy with issues.

1223
01:26:53.800 --> 01:26:55.720
I'm coming out of agreement with the vow.

1224
01:26:55.720 --> 01:26:57.920
I will never allow a man to deceive me again.

1225
01:26:57.920 --> 01:26:59.560
Men don't want to commit to me.

1226
01:26:59.560 --> 01:27:01.520
Men don't want a woman who is celibate.

1227
01:27:01.520 --> 01:27:03.320
That's a huge one, you all.

1228
01:27:03.320 --> 01:27:05.160
I'm good being single.

1229
01:27:05.160 --> 01:27:06.880
I'll never let someone hurt me again.

1230
01:27:06.880 --> 01:27:08.680
I'll never date a military man.

1231
01:27:08.680 --> 01:27:10.200
There's probably so many more ladies,

1232
01:27:10.200 --> 01:27:12.600
but here's the other flip side.

1233
01:27:12.600 --> 01:27:16.760
Kelly says that I'm broken and nobody will ever stay with me

1234
01:27:16.760 --> 01:27:18.680
when I express any needs.

1235
01:27:18.680 --> 01:27:20.120
All right, these are huge things

1236
01:27:20.120 --> 01:27:22.320
we need to come out of agreement with, right?

1237
01:27:22.320 --> 01:27:25.480
This week's gonna be a pivotal week for all of you

1238
01:27:25.480 --> 01:27:28.760
as you partner with truth and turn away from these lies

1239
01:27:28.760 --> 01:27:30.040
and allow God to heal.

1240
01:27:30.040 --> 01:27:31.920
Someone asked, I think it was Maria.

1241
01:27:31.920 --> 01:27:33.600
Yeah, so one of the big things,

1242
01:27:33.600 --> 01:27:36.560
and I'm gonna kind of give you all an activation here

1243
01:27:36.560 --> 01:27:38.280
tonight that'll help with this.

1244
01:27:39.360 --> 01:27:42.320
We've talked a lot about what are the negative things

1245
01:27:42.320 --> 01:27:45.440
that you're thinking and processing and partnering with?

1246
01:27:45.440 --> 01:27:46.360
But here's the key.

1247
01:27:46.360 --> 01:27:49.120
As we went through a couple of weeks ago,

1248
01:27:49.120 --> 01:27:51.040
the revealing for healing cycle,

1249
01:27:51.040 --> 01:27:54.080
for some of you that are brand new, you'll get there, okay?

1250
01:27:54.080 --> 01:27:55.120
You'll get there and you'll see

1251
01:27:55.120 --> 01:27:56.520
that revealing for healing cycle

1252
01:27:56.520 --> 01:27:58.440
and you'll walk through that.

1253
01:27:58.440 --> 01:28:01.600
You wanna put that in process even with these inner vows.

1254
01:28:01.600 --> 01:28:04.280
So you start with the revealing for healing cycle.

1255
01:28:04.280 --> 01:28:06.360
You ask the Lord, when was the first time

1256
01:28:06.360 --> 01:28:08.400
I partnered with this inner vow?

1257
01:28:09.680 --> 01:28:11.240
What lie did I believe?

1258
01:28:11.240 --> 01:28:15.760
What trauma happened that caused me to believe the lie

1259
01:28:15.760 --> 01:28:17.920
that created the vow?

1260
01:28:17.920 --> 01:28:20.440
Do you see how they all kind of work together?

1261
01:28:21.480 --> 01:28:23.720
One of the things I described, I said this maybe,

1262
01:28:23.720 --> 01:28:25.320
I can't remember if it was last week or the week before,

1263
01:28:25.320 --> 01:28:26.960
but I'm gonna say it again tonight.

1264
01:28:26.960 --> 01:28:31.560
When we have the initial wounding and trauma that happens

1265
01:28:31.560 --> 01:28:33.560
and we believe the lie at that time,

1266
01:28:33.560 --> 01:28:36.400
that's kind of the initial starting point, right?

1267
01:28:37.560 --> 01:28:39.800
Then as we go on in life,

1268
01:28:39.800 --> 01:28:44.160
when something happens that sounds similar, feels similar,

1269
01:28:44.160 --> 01:28:46.480
and we believe another lie

1270
01:28:46.480 --> 01:28:48.600
that partners with this prior lie,

1271
01:28:48.640 --> 01:28:51.040
what happens is they kind of sync up together

1272
01:28:51.040 --> 01:28:54.560
in our spirit, in our soul, okay?

1273
01:28:54.560 --> 01:28:57.320
Then when something else happens, if it's similar,

1274
01:28:57.320 --> 01:28:59.520
that stuff is still not healed under here.

1275
01:28:59.520 --> 01:29:00.360
This is the example.

1276
01:29:00.360 --> 01:29:02.720
So this is if that does not get healed.

1277
01:29:02.720 --> 01:29:05.520
Something else happens down the road here,

1278
01:29:05.520 --> 01:29:07.280
guess what happens?

1279
01:29:07.280 --> 01:29:09.800
Those things start to sound similar, feel similar,

1280
01:29:09.800 --> 01:29:11.680
and it creates another link.

1281
01:29:11.680 --> 01:29:13.120
Do y'all know what this is called

1282
01:29:13.120 --> 01:29:15.560
in the Christian world?

1283
01:29:15.560 --> 01:29:17.040
It's called a stronghold.

1284
01:29:18.040 --> 01:29:21.160
So if you didn't know how strongholds happen,

1285
01:29:21.160 --> 01:29:23.320
I'm breaking it down real basic, okay?

1286
01:29:23.320 --> 01:29:26.080
This is not my Bethany's theology,

1287
01:29:26.080 --> 01:29:28.080
but I'm just trying to get you to kind of see

1288
01:29:28.080 --> 01:29:30.960
what happens in your soul.

1289
01:29:30.960 --> 01:29:35.960
So get this, not only do we need healing here,

1290
01:29:36.000 --> 01:29:38.320
we need healing all the way back here.

1291
01:29:38.320 --> 01:29:40.280
And when we get healing all the way back here,

1292
01:29:40.280 --> 01:29:42.440
it's literally gonna break that thing

1293
01:29:42.440 --> 01:29:44.960
in a good way, wide open.

1294
01:29:45.240 --> 01:29:48.120
And you're gonna start to walk into freedom and truth.

1295
01:29:48.120 --> 01:29:49.200
Now we know that the Bible,

1296
01:29:49.200 --> 01:29:51.760
this is not something I'm saying so that you become afraid.

1297
01:29:51.760 --> 01:29:53.120
I just want you to be aware of it.

1298
01:29:53.120 --> 01:29:55.600
We know that the Bible says,

1299
01:29:55.600 --> 01:29:59.600
when the strong man is removed from the house,

1300
01:30:00.000 --> 01:30:01.920
Y'all wanna look it up, it's in scripture.

1301
01:30:01.920 --> 01:30:03.020
Guess what he does?

1302
01:30:03.020 --> 01:30:06.240
He goes out and he looks for a place to inhabit.

1303
01:30:06.240 --> 01:30:07.080
And guess what?

1304
01:30:07.080 --> 01:30:09.800
When he doesn't find it, do y'all know what he does?

1305
01:30:09.800 --> 01:30:12.940
He comes on back and he tries to figure out

1306
01:30:12.940 --> 01:30:15.760
if he can take up a residence in your house again.

1307
01:30:15.760 --> 01:30:18.000
Y'all know what a house represents, right?

1308
01:30:18.000 --> 01:30:19.320
Our heart.

1309
01:30:19.320 --> 01:30:21.520
That's what the Bible's talking about there.

1310
01:30:23.160 --> 01:30:25.000
And so we need to, what?

1311
01:30:25.000 --> 01:30:26.680
Fill our heart with truth

1312
01:30:26.680 --> 01:30:30.160
so that the enemy cannot have entrance back in again.

1313
01:30:34.960 --> 01:30:36.520
If at some point you feel like

1314
01:30:36.520 --> 01:30:38.240
you're facing the same stronghold

1315
01:30:38.240 --> 01:30:39.880
or you're getting tripped up with the same thing again,

1316
01:30:39.880 --> 01:30:43.180
please don't beat yourself up, okay?

1317
01:30:43.180 --> 01:30:45.480
Just go back and seek healing again,

1318
01:30:45.480 --> 01:30:46.920
because there's probably a reason

1319
01:30:46.920 --> 01:30:49.600
that you got tripped up with that lie,

1320
01:30:49.600 --> 01:30:52.640
similar lie or wounding.

1321
01:30:52.640 --> 01:30:53.720
I shared this as well.

1322
01:30:53.720 --> 01:30:57.080
The enemy will often try to come at us

1323
01:30:57.080 --> 01:30:59.480
in similar ways, you all,

1324
01:30:59.480 --> 01:31:03.000
until he figures out that we've got his number

1325
01:31:03.000 --> 01:31:05.260
and we're not falling for that trick anymore.

1326
01:31:06.560 --> 01:31:09.840
And then he'll try to come from a different direction.

1327
01:31:09.840 --> 01:31:11.400
Yeah, and we don't have to be afraid of these things.

1328
01:31:11.400 --> 01:31:13.600
We just need to be aware of them.

1329
01:31:13.600 --> 01:31:15.120
Because the Bible says

1330
01:31:15.120 --> 01:31:17.800
that we are covered by the blood of the lamb.

1331
01:31:17.800 --> 01:31:18.640
And guess what?

1332
01:31:18.640 --> 01:31:19.720
Guess who wins?

1333
01:31:19.720 --> 01:31:21.320
Jesus won, so we win,

1334
01:31:21.320 --> 01:31:23.320
as long as we keep partnering with truth.

1335
01:31:24.200 --> 01:31:26.800
And walking in the armor of God,

1336
01:31:26.800 --> 01:31:28.460
putting it on you all.

1337
01:31:28.460 --> 01:31:29.720
I talked about this as well.

1338
01:31:29.720 --> 01:31:31.520
God is the armor, God is.

1339
01:31:31.520 --> 01:31:34.600
So when we pray the armor of God on ourselves,

1340
01:31:34.600 --> 01:31:37.980
we are literally saying, God, I'm in you today.

1341
01:31:37.980 --> 01:31:38.820
God, I'm in you.

1342
01:31:38.820 --> 01:31:40.240
You are my armor.

1343
01:31:40.240 --> 01:31:44.140
You're my protector, okay?

1344
01:31:45.080 --> 01:31:47.500
All right, here's your activation.

1345
01:31:47.500 --> 01:31:49.840
This is gonna cause those of you that are afraid

1346
01:31:49.880 --> 01:31:53.040
to come out of hiding and actually post in the group.

1347
01:31:53.040 --> 01:31:54.900
You might not want to do this,

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but I'm gonna encourage you to do it anyways,

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because doing something afraid

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is going to create breakthrough for you,

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whether you realize it or not, okay?

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Here's the activation.

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I want you to ask the Lord for the truth

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to replace the lie, the vow, the negative thing,

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whatever specific thing you're really feeling

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like God is highlighting to you tonight.

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What is the truth that's the opposite of the lie

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that you've been believing and partnering with?

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The positive statement.

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So here's one of the ways y'all can begin on this.

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If you're not sure how to get to the truth,

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ask God to reveal a scripture to you

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that helps you partner with the opposite of the negative.

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So if my negative was something,

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let me think of something.

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I used to always really battle with fear, like massively.

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And so the enemy used to tell me

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that I was always going to battle with fear.

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And he still sometimes tries to come

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and knock on that door, y'all.

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But God gave me the truth that I, Bethany Cooper,

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do not have a spirit of fear,

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but I have a spirit of love and empowering of a sound mind.

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That's the scripture.

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That's actually scripture.

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And I just inserted my name

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and I started declaring that over myself.

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But here's my declaration that I, Bethany Cooper,

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walk in liberty and freedom and I will not fear

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and I will not bow down to fear

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or the spirit of fear showing up in my life.

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That might be a positive, that's a long one,

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but that might be a positive declaration

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I declare over myself.

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Yours can be one little sentence, you all.

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I will not partner with the lie that I am not enough.

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I will partner with the truth that I am enough in God

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or whatever, whatever your truth is.

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Here's what you're going to do with it.

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You're going to write it down on a piece of paper

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with a marker that I can see, okay?

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Pen will be really hard to read.

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So get a nice black marker or dark blue

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or some purple or something.

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I want you to write it on a piece of paper and you all,

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I do, I want you to do this.

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I want you to take a good old, nice little selfie

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of yourself holding that thing.

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Here's my truth.

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And I'm taking a selfie to declare it,

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not just to keep it in your phone,

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guess what you're going to do with it?

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I want to see them in the group.

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And if you don't want to take a selfie

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because you don't like yourself in selfies,

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have someone take it for you.

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Why does this matter?

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Because you know what, when we activate the truth

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and we not only tell ourselves,

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I'm partnering with this truth this week,

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but we then go and declare that to other women in the group,

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guess what?

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We become more accountable in a good way.

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And we're allowing light to invade the darkness.

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Do y'all know that?

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So the scripture versus what you start with

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to help you come with a positive declaration

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out of that scripture, okay?

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You can use a scripture as your basis.

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So you can put that scripture on there too.

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feel like you can't do both. Okay, this is very loose. There's

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no right or wrong you all. Okay. If you're in that camp where

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you're afraid to do it, because you're afraid you're going to do

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it wrong, please don't do that. Just just the point is to just

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move forward and do something positive, declare something

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positive over your life, just get something on the paper. And

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it's going to be great. Whatever you feel led to do is going to

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be just right for you. Okay. And the reason even those that are

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in phase two, if you're here joining us tonight, and you're

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in phase two, still post those in phase two, I'll let the phase

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two coaches know what you're doing. Okay. But you need to see

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yourself doing this. And as you let other people see you, it's

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going to really bring a lot of healing and breakthrough. I'm

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going to pray for you, Father, thanks so much. That you're the

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great physician and nothing is too hard for you. I thank you

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that you're healing us from the inside out God that you're

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writing new stories in our timeline God that you're, you're

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the creator, you created heaven and earth, you can create

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something out of nothing. So Lord, I pray tonight that you'll

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help us to have an increase of hope and increase of faith, that

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you are the God who comes through for me for them, each

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one of them by name. God that you collected their tears in a

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bottle and you're pouring them out pouring those tears out on

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01:36:18.780 --> 01:36:23.540
them like choice oil. God, we thank you that you're renewing

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our minds and transforming us and healing us and redeeming us

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and rebuilding us. God that you're the one restoring every

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broken and fallen place where the enemy came in like a flood

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God that you are causing him to flee seven ways that we will no

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longer go back. But we are going forward we are being transformed

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we're being made new God we will we choose tonight and in the

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days ahead to partner with your truth. We come out of agreement

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and alignment with any inner vow any lie of the enemy that

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came through trauma. And we say yes to heaven tonight. Help us

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to hear father what your spirit is saying to us a little bit

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more this week. We thank you in advance for it. We thank you for

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your hedge of protection around us and our families as well and

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Jesus name. Amen. We love you all. I can't wait to see you all

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posted in the group. Let's fill the group up with some positive

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truth and what God is doing. If you're struggling as well,

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please come and post in the group and tell us. Do not let

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the enemy lead you into isolation. Stay engaged. See it

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through because God is working in ways you can't even imagine

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right now. God bless you. Have a good night, everyone. Bye