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Well, welcome ladies. This is the face to one o'clock Eastern live at check-in
For those ladies who don't know me. I'm Carla Johnson
I'm one of your coaches here in phase two. I am a success story from Jackie's group
And it's actually a very special day
I'm super honored to be here to be able to do this call with y'all today
Because I am not in my home state of Texas today, but I'm in Napa country
Celebrating my one-year wedding anniversary with my husband. So I
Just feel so honored to be here today. One of the biggest things from this program
is
being able to
turn around and be able to just
Show gratitude and thankfulness for the things that God has done through this program and it's blessed me
So I hope to be a blessing to all of you. So I couldn't
It couldn't be more just like surreal for me to be able to share this day with you ladies and be able to hopefully
Give some encouragement and hope for all of you and help you walk through this process
So I always just it honestly it feels more of a blessing for me to be able to
Help you ladies as it you know, probably isn't what I'm able to give to you ladies
It actually is, you know quite a blessing to me. So
With that being said if you have not watched
Supernatural Saturday, I would encourage you to watch it in the replay
So Jackie has some exciting news if you haven't heard already
We do have this affiliate program
where you're gonna be able to give back what you have gotten from this program and be able to share it with other people and
then there is a
Monetary incentive to do so. So listen to that Supernatural Saturday
And then we also have a is a special recorded session from I believe it was September
What is today's third? So I think it was on September 1st
So there's more info about that affiliate program and it is in your replay so definitely check that out as well
All right, let's see Mariah you sometimes have trouble with the breakout so
Can sign in again? Awesome. So yes, Mariah. Are you back in? I'm not okay
You are and I see your beautiful face. Hi, how are you?
And so Michelle you're driving. No worries, but you're here. I love it. Awesome
Fantastic, so yeah, we have a lot to cover today. So I'm gonna go ahead and get us started
First of all, is there anybody that is new to phase two?
This week or this is maybe your first live session in phase two
anybody
No, we're good. I do see a few new faces. So maybe you're new with me at this one o'clock
So, that's awesome. Awesome. I'm glad to see you ladies. Yeah, I'm I'm the one that usually does the one o'clock
Renee and Ebony will be the ones that will do the eight o'clock
Because I'm usually running around with my kids
And got so many things going on on Tuesdays now that my kids are back to school with after-school activities
So I enjoy getting to do the one o'clock with y'all
Okay, so if you are new or this is your first time to one o'clock welcome
just a reminder we do a little bit of a housekeeping with y'all because we never know who's watching and replay and we want to
Make sure that we are keeping y'all up to date with what's going on here in phase two. Just remember
We do have those five videos in
The content and we really do encourage that you watch those
One a week it just really allows you that good week of being able to sit unpacked
Process ask Holy Spirit what he wants to highlight to you putting the content into practice in your everyday life
So that is really really important to do. I always tell you ladies. This is not a sprint
It really is like you are just you're not gonna rush into anything with your spirit mate
So it's really good practice just to pace yourself
And we start by doing that here in phase two with just that one video a week
Okay, so those videos include your lustrate accelerator kickoff
That's where Jackie talks about the seven-day challenge and the water
Physical movement sort of challenge and just gives you an overview of what to look forward to in phase two
Ladies, I want to encourage you do not get overwhelmed with that seven-day challenge
Alright, it really is just a way for you to kind of start stepping out because we've asked you to take a sabbatical
of dating in phase one as you
work through the hard work.
And then as you walk into phase two,
you're able to utilize those tools
that you've gained in hard work into your dating life.
We don't want you to freak out about that, okay?
Most of you are probably not gonna get your seven dates in,
in phase two, all right?
You're gonna be able to move into phase three
and still be working on those seven dates.
I know when I joined the community
and Jackie threw out that seven date challenge,
it took me a really long time
to get back onto the dating scene.
But we're all on our own pacing and things like that.
So just keep that in mind, all right?
It's really just a way to encourage you
to get out there and dating.
So then the next video is the Dating 101,
which we're gonna break down a little bit today.
I'm gonna kind of touch on some highlighted points.
That's where we talk about the levels of dating.
So I'm gonna go over a little bit of that today.
Then the next video that you'll watch
is that Divine Feminine,
which is actually one of my favorite videos.
And then Renee will take you through that online dating
in that next video,
give you lots of tips and tricks and things like that,
if and when you are ready to step out into online dating,
because I know it can be a doozy sometimes, all right?
I've been there, done that too.
I got the t-shirt for the online dating
before HeartWork and even after HeartWork,
which is definitely a little bit different
once you've got some HeartWork under your belt.
And then the last one is Boundaries,
which Renee does a phenomenal job
with breaking down boundaries.
And that is such a good thing to have,
especially when you're stepping out to dating
is creating good, healthy boundaries
and knowing that,
and then healthy conflict too with boundaries.
So those are what you're gonna get
in those video content from each of those.
So definitely take your time watching those each week,
asking the Lord to show up and highlight to you
what it is that he wants to speak to you.
So hopefully we got that covered.
Ladies, don't forget to post here in phase two.
So we've got that app up and working.
So your posts can be about absolutely anything.
So we've got, anything HeartWork related,
you can post that.
We wanna hear what breakthroughs you're experiencing.
So that will go in that wins category.
If you just really wanna celebrate what God is doing,
maybe breakthroughs that you're getting.
If you have dating interactions, share that as well.
That can be in that all category.
Or if you have questions
that you specifically want a coach to answer,
make sure that you're clicking that Ask a Coach tab
when you're making your post in the app.
And just ladies, please remember
that under those Ask a Coach tab questions,
that you are not responding to any of those women.
Allow us coaches to be the ones going in there
and responding to them.
We want you ladies interacting in all of the other areas.
So I will definitely encourage you ladies
to make sure that you're posting yourself
and then share your other sisters on.
Give encouragement, positive feedback,
but again, just do not put those things
in the Ask a Coach tab,
because that's where we want to be able
to give direct feedback to those ladies.
And remember ladies, this is your phase
to really get extra coaching
because this is a much smaller group.
Phase two, we're intentional
about making this group smaller
for the sake of you ladies getting out of heartwork
and into that dating scene.
So again, phase two should really be
So again, phase two should really only take you
about four to five weeks, okay?
We do not want you going any faster than that.
But we also understand that some of you may need
a few extra weeks to kind of unpack
and process some of that content.
But we are eventually going to kick you out of phase two
after a couple months,
because we do want to encourage you ladies
to move on to phase three,
where it's a bigger community
and you're still going to get awesome content
and you get more of an experience
with the rest of the community.
So we want to keep it small here.
So that's why we're eventually going to kick you out
because as we get more women coming in,
it will just, if you don't move on to phase three,
it's just going to grow any bigger
and then you're not really going to get much
out of phase two.
So in that four to five weeks,
if you need to spend about six to eight weeks,
we totally get it.
We know life happens.
So keep that in mind.
Ladies, when you're posting,
try to keep things short, brief and powerful.
We want you telling us what's going on in your life,
especially if you're dating
and having dating interactions.
It really does help us kind of see
what it is that you need help processing.
and we can give more detailed feedback to you ladies.
Do your best to come and, oh, here's another thing.
I know that there's possibly, I believe,
a way to do videos.
If you do do a video in the app,
let's try to keep it at three minutes.
The best way to do this is jot your ideas
and thoughts ahead of time
so that you can keep those videos a little bit more short
and so you can kind of just touch on the details
that you want to share with your sisters
here in the community and the coaches.
Again, these live sessions are great.
We're here to help you kind of break down
more of those situations
that you need a little bit more help with coaches,
and it helps us to have dialogue with you.
So you'll notice sometimes myself, Renee, or Ebony
will maybe respond to you in the app on your post
and ask you to come or try to make an effort
to come to one of these live calls
so that we can kind of dialogue with you
and help you unpack the situation you're in.
So we'll do our best to respond to those things in the app,
but it sometimes really does help
to have more of a face-to-face interaction
with you ladies here in this check-in session.
Let's make sure that when you are creating posts
that you are not linking any websites,
websites, speakers, authors, influencers, pastors,
things like that of that nature
that you're not posting those links
because we don't have the capacity
to be able to vet out and approve that content.
We wanna make sure that it aligns
with what we're teaching you here in last year's single.
So if you do happen to put an actual link in
to whether it's the roll call
or one of the posts in the app, we will probably remove it.
And then so if you post
and you see that your comment got deleted,
it's because there may have been a link in there.
So we have to remove that.
So just keep in mind, you can share about certain things,
but let's just, again, not link any sort of websites
or things of that nature.
Cool?
I got everybody here with me.
Awesome, cool.
Just a few more things.
Again, just engage with one another here,
come to these live sessions,
lift your sisters up,
make sure you're watching the replays
if you can't come in live,
attend as many prayer call sessions as you can,
especially if you can get that Supernatural Saturday.
Those are super important.
Ladies, as we're getting on this app,
I also encourage you to check out the training tab
and click on that.
It's called Tech Training.
Renee gives a great like five to six minute video
of how to navigate this app.
We're all kind of learning all the hiccups
and ways of getting around some of that stuff
and making it a little bit more user friendly.
So the best way to do that is watch that training video
and then actually get in the app
and like navigate it yourself.
Also, I don't know if I already touched on this,
is that affiliate program info session.
That is uploaded in the replay of the app.
So make sure that you ladies are watching that
and we will post more details about that
as we get that information out to you, okay?
Awesome.
All the housekeeping stuff, I think I covered, right?
It's a lot, I know, and I know you ladies come in
and you hear it every week, but it is super important, okay?
So let's go ahead and jump into this teaching.
Like I said, we've got lots of stuff going on here
and I want to make sure I cover as much as I can,
but I also wanna make sure I leave time for you ladies
as well with all your questions and comments and feedback.
Okay, so again, Supernatural Saturday, watch that.
So let's see here, Dating 101, all right?
How many of you ladies have watched that Dating 101?
Just put your little avatar hand up
if you've watched it already.
Awesome, I think most of you have.
I see, awesome, perfect.
All right, if you haven't yet,
so I think there's a couple of you
that might not have watched it.
This will be a great little overview for you.
And then those of you that have watched it,
maybe we can kind of unpack a little bit more
of what that means.
So we're gonna just go over those levels of dating,
one, two, and three, and I'm gonna kind of unpack those
and show you the value and talk a little bit of value
of each of those stages.
The first one we have is that level one relationship,
all right?
And what that means is it really is just people
and community.
This can be at church, this can be at your workplace,
this could be, you know,
just in everyday life.
day life. It's even included in that online dating. So if you're online, all the people
that you're interacting with is still considered a level one. All right, that's you're in community,
you're doing life, you're, you know, there's acquaintances, there's people that are coming
across your day to day life. And so that's that level one, okay, this is not what we
would consider level two, discovery dating, that does not happen until you get your first
video date, or in person date. All right, the level one is just in real life. Okay.
And then level two, that's that discovery dating. That's when you're getting face to
face in person, or on a video. So believe it or not, ladies, when you're messaging back
and forth to people, and you're doing it on text or in the apps or things like that, that's
still considered level one. So let's just be mindful of the information that you are
offering people and that level one that you're not worth vomiting. I was guilty of that.
This program, it was really easy for me to get attached in level one dating. And even
in level two, and that's where I had to learn some skills from this community to make sure
that I wasn't putting myself in just not so great situation. So level two, that's when you
are interacting face to face. So video chat, I say that's, it's great to go ahead and get on
a video chat within the first week of messaging back and forth. All right, that's what we really
do encourage. Because if you are doing more of your messaging back and forth for several weeks,
what can happen there is you can create a false sense of intimacy with somebody. I actually can
just share some of my own testimony. I found myself in this level. It was a level one because
we were just messaging back and forth, maybe having a phone call here and there. I did this
for almost like nine months with somebody. And I really thought that this guy was special and
that we were having a relationship that when he moved from Indiana to Florida, where I was
originally at, I thought we were in a full blown relationship and I got my heart broken because
I was not in that sit. Like I just, we were not in an intimate relationship. We hadn't even had
like face to face interactions. All right. So just be mindful of that. So your level two dating is
those face to face interactions. So this is where you are going to learn to talk about high level
versions. All right. So you are going to have some personal pieces, but you're not going to just dump
all of your past stuff in onto that person. Okay. So again, it's learning to navigate
and share pieces of you that let someone know who you are in the here and now,
so that you're learning to, do you want to continue to get to know someone? All right.
So level two, I always, the best way that I can break this down and what was helpful to me
is to remember that you will have level two relationships with even your, with your girlfriends.
All right. So when you're in community with people and maybe you're in a church group or a small
group, you might like recognize like, man, that girl looks really, really cool. Like I think she
would really be cool to get to know. And you might set up coffee dates with some new girlfriends,
right? That's level two. It's literally just getting to know someone and whether or not you
have some similarities and some things in common. And then as you're getting to know them in that
level two, after a couple of times, you're going to start deciding, do I want to continue to get to
know them more and have a deeper relationship with them? Like, is this going to be a girlfriend
of mine? That's like my ride or die or my best friend. Or if I'm looking at it in a relation,
like a romantic relationship, you're probably like, we don't encourage you to have that romance
in level two. You are just saying, do I have some things in common with this guy?
Do I see it going in that direction and figuring out more things about them?
Kind of like peeling an onion. You just get to know a little bit at a time. So I always
encourage in level two, like stay there for a couple months. There's nothing wrong with just
getting to know somebody and just uncovering a little bit with somebody. If you're rushing in,
typically that's gonna be a red flag for you.
So it's also navigating like how quickly are you jumping in?
So that level two, like if you are getting so invested
in someone that all of a sudden that they decided
that they're not interested, maybe they start,
like if it goes to you, are you gonna be devastated
if you stop talking to them?
If you are gonna find yourself
like where you're gonna have this devastation
if that person just kind of cuts and runs,
if you're gonna feel that devastation,
it's probably because you probably put a little bit
too much pressure on that level two.
And those are things that you can come here
and we can unpack and we can navigate that with you, okay?
So then when you have spent some time in level two,
then you're thinking, wow, like I really,
I really see myself interested in this person,
I really wanna take this to the next level.
Maybe you're like, I kind of am done meeting other people,
I really wanna see where this is going.
That would be that exclusive level three, all right?
This is where ladies, we encourage the men to lead this.
A man has got to be invested into wanting
to have a level three exclusive relationship with you.
It means there's intent and interest of taking it
to the next step, okay?
And getting to know them more on a romantic level, okay?
And this is where you wanna pace yourself.
You don't wanna, you don't wanna,
you don't wanna get in over your head in this level, okay?
So it's, you wanna make sure that you're resisting
a little bit of that physical intimacy
because this is maybe where you're gonna start
holding hands, hugging, there might be some kissing,
things of that nature.
But again, here in Last Year Single,
we do encourage that physical intimacy,
especially in terms of sex.
Like we want you to hopefully feel convicted
to keep that for marriage, all right?
Because sometimes, oftentimes,
probably, it probably is more than once.
I mean, or not more than once,
but I can't say that there's never gonna be a time
where if you're gonna get physically intimate with somebody,
it can just lead to clouding of confusion
and you're not gonna see red flags.
So even in level three,
there can still be red flags that arise.
And if we're physically intimate with someone,
it will cloud that.
I can attest to that.
I will, my testimony is that I just got myself
in over my head and I never saw the red flags
because here's the thing, ladies,
I know that Renee even talks about this,
I think in that boundaries video,
where the female does let off some of that,
it's a chemical that when we get physically intimate
with somebody, it will release this connection
and that will cloud.
So again, in level three, resist too much physical intimacy.
And again, ladies, we all understand
that y'all are big girls here, right?
Y'all adults, so we understand,
but we have to make sure that we're communicating to you
what can happen there,
because I've seen it time and time again,
and from my own experience, honestly,
of how it's just never suited me, all right?
It's never served me well to get in over my head, okay?
All right, so if any questions about any of the levels,
we can go into those deeper during our breakout,
not a breakout session,
but our group coaching session here in a little bit.
So if you have any questions, definitely write them down
and we can discuss more of those levels
if you want further details on that, okay?
Also, what you ladies are gonna hear,
we'll often say it's a yes until it's a no.
And so I do wanna kind of share what we mean by that.
So oftentimes it's really easy for us
to go on a date with somebody
and we're already immediately like,
okay, nope, this guy's not for me, all right?
We might be triggered,
we might have some of our things that were,
we might have this list of things that we're looking for,
and if a guy doesn't meet our physical attraction,
or maybe he's a little awkward on a first date,
we're ready to like cut and run, all right?
So we encourage you ladies not to cut and run
too soon.
So what that means is give a guy a second or a third date,
don't be ready to initially write them off
for whatever superficial reason.
So that could be like.
his looks and being too clunky or just awkward on a first date or even his
interactions like so maybe you haven't even had a first date yet maybe in some
of your video calls or your your messaging back and forth like maybe
he's not doing all the things that you want him to do so let's not write men
off right away the same thing like if he's sharing too much or too little just
help communicate that so don't be ready to shut them down but what this also
doesn't mean is that we're encouraging you ladies to say in something with
someone that just really is treating you badly okay so again come here to our
community if you're having a hard time figuring out is this a yes until it's a
no is this a no or is this a yes like we're here to help you process through
that as well so a lot of times this is where we talk about that being God
defended versus being self defended so I will just encourage you ladies just to
remember that sometimes rejection often means protection okay so looking at your
God defended list versus your self defended list so Jackie talks a lot
about that so again you want to make sure that you are open to men that have
the three M's so what we mean by that is are they marriage minded are they
mature and are they masculine now masculine we want to make sure that we
have a healthy definition of what divine masculine looks like so that can we'll
go you'll go in more detail in that divine feminine video and Jackie really
does a great job of breaking down what divine feminine is versus and then
divine masculine so keep that in mind all right um this also doesn't mean this
yes until it's no that you continue to keep hanging out with a guy that you
have nothing in common with or you really just don't enjoy your time give
yourself two or three dates to really allow yourself to enjoy time with them
but after two or three dates if you're just like man this guy it's like pulling
teeth like I just do not enjoy myself like he's you know whatever I can't
tell you some of the dating experiences that I have been on with guys that I'm
like yeah this is just I actually even had that experience with someone I went
on three dates with them we had a fourth date setting up I didn't feel like he
was respecting some of my boundaries he was a little quirky he even actually
met one of my friends and she was like you know Carla no this this guy is not
your match he's like I just don't see this being you know the masculine man
that you need to bring out your your you know best divine feminine self and so I
really took like I took her her feedback what I was also experiencing and I went
to God and I was like Lord I still don't know if I should cut this guy off or not
I really need your peace about this and you know I did make a decision just to
go ahead and in that with that guy and ask the Lord like look if I'm doing this
wrong and I'm cutting and running too soon God I trust you I trust you with my
spirit mate and if this guy is my spirit mate Lord you're not gonna allow allow
me to shut that door but you're gonna open it when it needs to be open and
thankfully I shut that door and for a year it did not it did not open back up
and I can't tell you in that year how oftentimes I thought about reaching back
out to the guy because I thought I shut the door too quickly but I kept being
reminded that no I laid this at God's feet and I was asking him to open it not
me and right before my husband dropped in my DMS I was considering reaching out
to this guy but I I halted and I let God show me and then my actual husband came
along and so I didn't I didn't have to I didn't have to do all of that stuff I
trusted I was gonna do my part God was gonna do his so keep that in mind ladies
all right surrender that pen do your part and then ask God to do his part
all right so then also when we talk about keeping it light in the beginning
so let's really talk about what this looks like looks like as well so no one
expects you to keep things surface level and those first exchanges like at some
point you're gonna have to share bits and pieces of yourself we just ask that
you don't
in the drama, the trauma, or the triggers, okay? So, and none of that really should be in your
first exchanges anyway, so again, it's just let them know a piece of you, but you don't have to,
like, dump, right? If you have a hard time with that, again, us coaches are here to process that
with you, and that's why I always encourage you ladies to come to these lives, because we can,
we can break that down with you. Keeping it light does not mean that you're texting every day,
all right? Keep texting to the facts, not your thoughts, your feelings, your emotions,
your opinions, and you're, you know, analyzing things. Leave that for live conversation so you
can hear someone's tone and inflection and see their body language, because that's when you're
really going to see, are they 100% engaged with you, all right? You're not going to have someone's
full attention when you're texting, all right? How many times have you messaged people and you've,
like, gone through and read and been like, oh, that's not what I want to say, I want to change it,
you know? So that can happen in that dating, like, you're not real, are you getting someone's initial
response? Are you seeing their body language, how they're interacting with you? Like, are they
engaged with what you're saying? Are they leaned in? Are they listening? Are they responding to what
you're saying? Or is there, you know, I always, like, I can tell when people are checked out and
when they're not, when I'm talking, you know? And also, like, it helps me even gauge, like, wow, I
maybe am talking too much, so I need to go back and ask a question and get more interaction that
way, all right? So just keep that in mind, you know, we don't want you on those apps and texting
back and forth, like, really do your best to get that video call for an in-person date within that
first week, I always say, is probably the best rule of thumb, all right? Because then you start texting
more than a week, then you're going to start getting into those in-depth questions, and a lot
of those questions you really do need to see how people are interacting with you face to face.
Again, so that also helps keep in mind, like, if it means, like, if you're in that level
of dating where, you know, in the beginning and you're keeping it light, like, if you're keeping
things light and they left tomorrow, you're not going to be torn up from the floor up because
you overshared, I mean, that's typically when you get emotionally attached because you've
overshared a piece of you, it's kind of that, like, that hangover, like, I've had that where I've gotten,
like, I, you know, maybe spent two or three hours on a phone call with someone that I've never met
in person and I've just kind of overshared that then the next morning I wake up and I'm like, oh
my gosh, like, what did I just do? Like, it's that emotional hangover, so we want to kind of, like, keep
that, like, limited a little bit, okay? And again, I can't emphasize enough, ladies, that you cannot rush,
you can't rush your spirit mate. I mean, if that person's your spirit mate, they're your spirit
mate forever. You don't need to rush it because you're going to be with them forever, all right?
There is such a gift in God's timing and, you know, it really, like, I can only share just my
own testimony, like, God's timing really truly is perfect. I say that all the time in my, you know,
relationship with my husband. It really was God's perfect timing.
So, you know, don't rush into it. You know, God hasn't forgotten about you. God's not going to
give up on your desire, all right? He put that desire there for marriage, so trust him with it.
He's got all of the pieces. He's got all the puzzle pieces. We only typically have a couple
puzzle pieces, but God knows that masterpiece. He knows what he wants it to look like,
so trust him with that because sometimes you don't want to rush a timing thing because it could
actually make things fall apart. Like, my husband and I, like, my husband had to have, he had to be
open and ready for that right time. If we would have met a year or two prior, neither one of us
would have been ready, all right? My husband was living in Texas, and I was living in Florida,
and I was not moving. Like, I was adamant about that. Y'all can ask Jackie. Jackie for years
asked me, like, are you willing to move? Are you willing to, like, relocate? And I was like,
absolutely not. Like, why would anyone want to leave Florida? It's amazing. It's like paradise.
And so, and I had such a community there. Like, I loved being in Florida. I was not going to leave.
So, if I would have met my husband sooner than what I did, I would have probably shot
the door on him because he wasn't living in Texas and he wasn't moving.
Once I released and surrendered the pen of this idea of relocating because
finally I had enough, I was,
I was starting to doubt and be discouraged with God's promise of marriage.
I was ready to just to throw in the towel. I was done. I was done dating.
Like I had been in this program for over two years. It wasn't happening.
And I was like, that's it. Enough is enough. And Jackie's like,
he might not be in your area. Carla,
are you willing to open up your radius here? You're, you know,
distance here and, and,
and think about dating and talking to people that are maybe not in your area.
And finally I was like, you know what, God's going to do what he's going to do.
So I guess if you know, that's the case, then sure. Why not?
A week later,
my husband dropped into my DMS and I thought he lived in Florida
and then when I met, he messaged me, I thought, Oh yeah, you're in Clearwater.
I'm in Sarasota. That's an hour away. He's like, Oh no,
I live in Dallas, Fort Worth. I travel for work.
My work is based out of Clearwater. I'm only there once every couple months.
He's like, I understand if you don't want to continue talking.
And I was like, well, you know what? I might as well just be open to it.
We can get, we can go ahead and get to know each other better.
Three weeks later we met and then the rest is history.
I knew he wasn't willing to relocate and God really started pressing on my heart
once we got into an exclusive relationship about, you know,
three or four days after that exclusive relationship.
My son's biological father shared with me that he was leaving Florida.
He was moving to Michigan.
So that, you know, hesitation of moving out of Florida was that burden was gone.
And I didn't have to do anything with it. I didn't,
I didn't push my husband or my husband, my son's dad to move.
God opened that door and he was basically saying, Carla,
I release you from this area because now your son's dad's not here.
You have no reason to stay in Florida.
I'm giving you, I'm giving you the go ahead, the green light that you can be open
to moving. So that's kind of the long story here about, you know,
rushing into things. And, and I, you know, I had to be ready.
I had to be ready to relocate and my husband even needed to be ready because he
was dating and making all the wrong decisions with ladies.
So I had to be ready to relocate.
So I had to be ready to relocate and my husband even needed to be ready because
he was dating and making all the wrong decisions with ladies previous to,
so he was having to be willing to allow God to show him who his wife was going
to be. So God's timing is always perfect.
And he's very intentional with his timing. Okay. Okay.
Just a few more things. I know we're kind of going a little over here,
but I do want to touch on a couple more things.
It really is not just, you're not just getting to know new people,
but you're also getting to know yourself too. So just keep that in mind.
Sometimes God's going to bring people for you to date,
not because they're your person and then you need to get to know them better,
but it's going to unlock some things that you need to learn about yourself too.
So don't get discouraged when you go on a date and it's not what you
anticipated it to be because maybe it's just what you needed to grow you.
Maybe God wants to show you some areas to upgrade.
All right. That's, that was my experience. And I,
and oftentimes many of the women that have success stories in here,
that was their experience too. I want to encourage you ladies to remove the,
is this my husband thought and mindset when you're out dating,
especially in those first couple of days,
it really does create a block and it adds so much pressure. All right.
So instead I would encourage you to replace that.
Is this my husband mindset to how can God use this person as an opportunity to
grow into my best self?
Because that's what this program really is all about us learning how to be the
best version of ourselves so that we can be a gift to our spirit mate.
All right. Remember we're better together.
Your spirit mate is going to grow you and help you grow into a better version
of yourself, but you're also going to do that for your husband.
And we want you just like you want your husband doing the work before he meets
you. We got to also be a gift to our spirit mate.
willing to do the work before we meet him.
So that is the best advice that I can give
in this process of dating.
Ladies, I want you to be mindful
of any of those critical hearts that you might have
because a critical heart is a broken heart
and it's gonna be recognizing those as growth opportunities.
So if you are finding yourself picking people apart
in those early stages,
a lot of times that can be a revealing for healing.
And so balancing that mindset
and focusing all your energy on that.
So if you are constantly criticizing
or concerned with their actions,
I really want you to challenge yourself
to be aware of, are you focusing on their actions?
Are you focusing on what you can do
to grow into that opportunity?
And also ladies, if you're on the apps,
don't be quick to throw in the towel.
I know that online dating can be
sometimes like pulling teeth, right?
If you're online dating and sometimes you're just like,
oh my gosh, this is just like,
Eliza, I see you laughing
so you probably have experienced it, right?
Where you're just like, oh my gosh,
this is just annoying, all right?
Many of these guys don't have a Jackie in their life.
They just don't, you know?
So sometimes it's like giving those guys grace
because let's face it,
like we're all just out there trying to figure it out.
I mean, we're here because we needed help.
Many of these men like,
sometimes they might not even realize
that they need the help.
And most men are, I mean,
I found that a lot of men really, it's a pride thing.
It's something that men battle and that masculinity,
like they do battle this reaching out for help, you know?
And if you can find a man that has a teachable heart,
like that is gold, like it is.
So just be mindful,
like these men don't have it all together either.
I mean, none of us do.
We're all gonna have yellow flags.
Like that's just reality.
We're all gonna have these opportunities
for growth and upgrades.
So again, don't be ready to throw in the towel.
Like there is a feast or famine to the online dating.
It really is.
I remember there would be times I'm like,
where are the men at?
And then all of a sudden, like a week or two later,
it was like raining men.
And I like, I couldn't even manage it
because I had a busy life being a single mama.
So don't throw in the towel too quickly.
I will even say,
stick with an app for at least two or three months
before jumping off and move into another one.
Because again, you just never know the algorithms
that these dating apps use.
You just give it time,
trust that God's got you where he wants you
and where he needs you.
So just focus on that.
And last, I saw a lot of discouragement happening
for some of you ladies.
So I would like to,
actually let's do this right now.
Ladies, if you have been feeling any sort of discouragement
in this whole like promise of marriage,
can you go ahead and just type in the chat?
Like what discouragement are you feeling?
What are you struggling with the most?
And then let's start giving each other some encouragement
and lifting each other up.
All right, and then I am gonna do a breakout
with you ladies here in a moment.
So that you all can kind of get one-on-one
with a few, two or three of you
and that you guys can be sharing some stuff together.
And then we can come back in here
and we can unpack some more things together.
But if you are feeling discouraged,
yes, okay, we got some people coming in.
Okay, I have not had a date yet and I'm annoyed.
Oh girl, I feel you.
I really struggled with that.
Oftentimes there would be people that would express
somebody that they might had for me to date.
And then as soon as like it was shared
or they reached out to a guy, it was kind of like crickets.
Or I was on the online apps and I thought,
oh, there's a guy that I might be interested in.
And then all of a sudden like they unmatched me
or they stopped responding to me.
I had a hard time even just getting dates
because my schedule was a little tight.
I was a single mama.
My son went to his dad every other weekend,
one night a week, every other Saturday night.
So that got discouraging because I didn't.
have a lot of room in my schedule to be able to do that. I mean I had a busy life early mornings,
so even weekday dates were a little difficult. So I feel you, Mariah. I understand it can be
annoying, but just rest assured, you know, God's got you, okay? And if you want to unpack that in
a little bit, we can do that. Susie, you're feeling discouraged that you haven't had dates
yet either, and you haven't really met anyone that you're interested in. I feel you 100%.
Let's see here. I thought my chat just kind of went crazy there. So yeah, you haven't met anyone
that you're interested in. Susie, I want to encourage you, like, have you shared with
friends and family that you're open to dating? Maybe they can get you in front of people. Ladies,
let me tell you this. Sometimes it's even meeting other women. Maybe getting yourself out there to
other women and engaging and building some friendships, new friendships, because you never
know who's connected to your spirit mate. So okay, Leslie, you honestly wish God would just take your
desire away because the process becomes exhausting and disappointing. I get it. I get that exhaustion
and the disappointment. Leslie, are you currently, are you on the apps? Are you, what's going on there?
I'm on the apps. And so it's just, it's getting exhausting just being on the apps.
Yeah, that's exhausting. Then I think I just, I don't know that I think that I'll find someone that I truly
will be great. Yeah, I've never met somebody great. So I just have a hard time believing that I will.
It is exhausting. I'm just get so tired of saying hello, good morning, blah, blah, blah, all day,
every day. And then the idea of going through the whole process and then them not being the one, I
just, I'd rather not. Yeah. How long have you been on the apps?
Well, I've done it before I did this program. So I did it last year. Then I was off because I was
seeing someone who I thought was going to be my one. And anyway, now I'm back on.
Leslie, I feel you, honey. I totally get it. I just, I want to just release some encouragement
to you, you know, give yourself grace. It's, it's totally okay to give yourself some grace and just,
you know, allow God to come in and just comfort you in this time. You know, I had to give myself
some of that time too, especially when I was getting discouraged with my job. And so I just
especially when I was getting discouraged when guys just were not, it just didn't seem like it
was clicking. It wasn't working. There was even a gentleman in this program that I thought was
going to be it. He, he was, you know, he was a great guy and you know, he just wasn't interested
in me and you not interested in me more than a friend. And so when I started seeing him date
somebody who was actually in my area, it was, it was, it was really, it was really hard, but I just
allowed myself to feel it. I connected with a lot of women in this community. I built really strong
connections with the women in this community. So Leslie, I do want to encourage you, you know,
don't allow yourself to be in any sort of isolation, like really do connect in this community
and, and, you know, ladies, we're going to have, we have these single cities as well. I know that
link came up in the app. So if you have a single city that is close to your area, I will encourage
you to get plugged into that, you know, share with other ladies that might be in, in the air,
in the same area that you're in and make connections. Even if it's a couple hours away,
ladies, I, this program gave me so many relationships, friendships in this community.
I have connections all over the country from this community. I was living in Florida. I had
several girlfriends that were in the Atlanta area. I had some that were in the Midwest where I grew
up. There were some in the Carolinas that I had connected with many of the women in Texas,
like, and I had no idea it was going to be moving to Texas. And so now I've had relationships and
friendships there. One of the girls that I got to know and became close with,
she's the one that introduced me to my husband. She saw him.
his profile on some Facebook Christian singles group and was like,
Hey, what do you think?
She was originally, she had lived in my area at one point.
I didn't know her when she lived there.
She was actually, I think, lived there before I had moved into the Sarasota area.
She was living in Atlanta, but then she was traveling as a, she was a travel nurse.
And so she was moving to like North Dakota and now she's in Missouri and
she was dating her husband now.
And she's was like, Hey, what about this guy?
And then she reached out to him.
And was like, you need to get to know my friend Carla.
And you know, my husband dropped into my DMS.
So it's, it's building connections.
So don't lose hope.
And don't think ladies like, yes, online dating is a great
resource to help get you out there.
But don't, don't think that that is the only way that you
can start building connections.
Okay.
There's, there's other ways of doing that.
So, you know, I just, Leslie, I just want us to fill you with God's hope.
All right.
He's put that desire in you.
I believe that there's going to be such great fruit and such
great testimony to your love story.
And it's okay to just rest in the exhaustion at times
and allow yourself grace.
All right.
So hope that helps you and encourages you ladies.
I hope that encourages all of you that are feeling some
discouragement and some hopelessness.
Like, I can't tell you enough.
I had that.
I had that literally.
Like, I mean, I was avoiding Jackie, like the plague before I met my husband.
Like she was trying to reach out to me and I was like, no, don't hear you.
I want to hear you.
And so, and even when she, when I did finally connect with Jackie.
I still, I didn't have the faith.
And I remember specifically, she asked me to borrow her faith because she
believed Jackie believed that I was next, that I was going to be the bride.
I didn't believe it ladies.
I didn't believe it, but she did.
So if you don't have the faith and you're feeling discouraged, borrow our faith.
We believe this for you because we've seen it happen.
I've been in this community since 2020.
It's it's literally, I've been in this for about four years.
I found Jackie at the end of September of 2020.
I joined the program in October, but September, yeah, October.
I've been in it for four years.
I've seen it.
I've seen it happen.
I've seen the supernatural happen ladies.
So borrow our faith.
It will happen for you.
All right.
Sit with that.
If it's happened for others, it can happen for you.
And I just feel so strongly, even the message that Jackie gave
on Supernatural Saturday, ladies, check it out.
All right.
In the very beginning, she talks about the affiliate program and that, and the,
the consumer mentality that we're always wanting to, to, to receive and
take, but we've got to give it back.
Ladies, you make what you make happen for other people.
You can make happen for yourself.
What you make happen for others.
God will make happen for you.
Sometimes it's about shifting our mindsets.
All right.
So I just want just to remind you ladies, don't lose hope.
It's there.
We believe it.
You may not believe it right now, but we do.
So borrow our faith.
And as soon as I did that, I literally, I mean, because it's
I had the conversation with Jackie.
She can probably recall this.
I was like, I'm, I'm over it.
I feel like I'm a failure as a mom and it's too overwhelming.
It's too exhausting.
I'm done dating.
I just can't do this anymore.
God's just going to have to make something crazy happen.
And that's when she's like, well, maybe he's not in your area.
And I'm like, well, you know what?
If he's not, then God let it happen.
Cause I I'm done searching in seven days, like seven days later, I
on 11, 11 of 2022, my husband dropped in my DNS talk about like talk about numbers.
Right.
You guys have listened to Jackie.
She knows like God speaks to her through numbers.
God was speaking to me through numbers, seven days, the number of completion
seven days later, I'm like, I'm done.
I'm done.
Seven days later, he dropped into my DMS after like literally surrendering the pen.
It took me years to surrender that pen.
I surrender it for a minute and then I like take it back.
All right.
So I hope that just fills you ladies with some hope and some encouragement.
I'm seeing a lot more here.
You know, you've been online for about.
about two minutes, Susie, and it seems like mission impossible.
I get it.
Just do the next best thing.
And if you ladies are online, just remember,
that's not the only avenue that you can use.
I think it's a great avenue, because sometimes it
gets you in front of people that you might not
have been in front of before.
Let's see.
Sometimes, OK, so Elizette, you feel like sometimes you
won't be able to love someone again.
I get that.
I had my heart broken often with men in my past,
especially my son's dad.
So it was hard.
And I can just share just what helped me.
Again, it was going through that forgiveness
and allowing the Lord to kind of reveal and heal me
of some of those past relationships.
And once that started working in my heart
and the forgiveness was coming, it really
did allow me to open up.
And I saw the growth in myself through all of the guys
that I was dating, even the guys that were not my spirit mate.
God used them to show me how I was healing
and how I was growing.
So Michelle, your late husband checked many of the boxes
and had bonuses.
After two years of marriage, things changed.
You were blindsided.
Yes, yes.
Being discouraged and leaning the dream of marriage.
There's nothing going to happen.
You feel like you've been waiting forever.
I totally get it.
Totally get it.
Ladies, I just hope that after today's call,
you really can start embracing what God's going to do.
And just know there are hundreds in this movement
and hundreds in this community.
I've been there.
I've seen it.
I've seen it with my own eyes, ladies.
I can even share.
I was in this program for two years
before God showed me my husband, before we met.
And I don't want to say that to discourage you,
but I saw I would get discouraged.
I'm like, man, this woman just hopped into this program.
And four months later, she's meeting the guy of her dreams.
I'm like, why her?
I'm sitting here, and I'm putting the work in, God.
That was some area of growth in me
that I had to work through, this idea.
For me, it was more of this idea of work.
I had to work to get my blessing,
and that was not like God was showing me.
I don't have to work to get my blessing.
A blessing's already there, and it's me trusting in the Lord
that He's got all of this in control.
So I hope that kind of gives you some encouragement.
Ladies, I do want to go ahead and let's
do a quick breakout here.
I'm going to post the questions in the chat.
I'm going to break you all up into some small groups
to get you all kind of maybe conversing with each other.
And ladies, I really want to encourage
you to be lifting each other up in these breakout rooms.
We're going to just start really releasing some hope
and some encouragement.
I cannot tell you we understand sometimes the hopelessness
and the discouragement, because all of us coaches,
we've been there.
We've had it, all right?
Myself, Bethany.
Bethany was in my group and my community,
and we walked through some stuff together.
And then now we're on the other side of it,
and we can celebrate with each other
and with this community what God has done.
But it doesn't mean that we still don't have trials
and tribulations, you know?
We've grown into where we're at now,
but guess what God was preparing us in that time
as we step into marriage?
Because ladies, let me tell you,
like there's growth that happens in your marriage.
There's some hard times that you'll experience
with your spirit mate.
Because let me tell you,
the enemy wants to kill, steal, and destroy,
especially when you get to your,
you connect with your spirit mate.
And those of you ladies
that are gonna have blended families,
there's gonna be some stuff.
But what's great is that we have this community here
to lean on and get the support from.
We are here for you.
We are fighting in prayer for you ladies.
So let's just, we're gonna release some encouragement
today on these breakout rooms.
So write these questions down.
I'm also gonna go ahead and copy and paste
the questions in the chat.
So the first question I want you ladies to cover is,
where do you get most nervous or stuck in dating?
So maybe it's messaging.
men to begin with, or going from texting to getting that live video or that video call
or that live in-person meetup.
Maybe it's getting emotionally invested and kind of oversharing where you kind of get
stuck.
Or some of you, I know this was a big thing for me, was balancing discovery dating, level
two dating with more than one guy.
I oftentimes wanted to put all my eggs in one basket and then it led me to kind of overshare
And then when they weren't interested in me, I was left just feeling like beaten and broken.
I mean, I was tore up from the flora.
You know, sometimes I'd go on first dates and I'd kiss a guy on the first date.
And then I was like, well, why doesn't he like me?
Why isn't he?
You know, I did that, you know, and God had to teach me to put up a boundary there even.
And I share this story and I know I share it probably every week.
I know I think even Shelly was asking me about it last week, was my husband asking me on
our first date and I told him no.
So I had to put a boundary there and you know, not that I didn't want to kiss him, I did,
but I knew what that was going to do to me if I did, because I didn't want to get my
heart broken.
If he wasn't my person, I needed to kind of just guard my heart there.
So that's the first question.
So I'm going to, when I pair you ladies off, take about 90 seconds to kind of share your
response and then allow everybody in the chat or in the, in your group to respond and then
move on to the second question, which I'm going to post here is I want you ladies talking
about your God defended list.
And so what's your God defended list, so what have you learned as part of your God
defended list and what you've learned to let go of in your self defended list, especially
in that level one or two.
Okay.
You'll hear Jackie oftentimes talking about when we have our own list and it's coming
from a self defended, like we have to protect ourselves.
We build these walls and you'll hear her say that the only person that will scale walls
are thieves.
So we don't want to create these walls in these huge ways that people can't get in to
get to know us better.
So we start building, we build those walls because we're trying to protect ourselves.
We have to remember, we don't have to protect ourselves because God is already protecting
us.
We have to trust him with that.
We have to, we have to lean on him giving us wisdom and discernment when we are in situations
that maybe we need to, you know, where he's showing us an area where like, Hey, I'm going
to protect you here.
I want you to partner with me in wisdom and discernment.
Okay.
Does that make sense?
Okay.
All right.
Before I break y'all out into these rooms, is there anyone that can not unmute and chat
with the women in your group?
Anybody?
I think everybody's good.
I know there were a few people said that they were at work, but they could still participate.
So let's see here.
I'm going to start breakout rooms and I'm going to go ahead and put two to three people
per room.
So remember 90 seconds to answer the first one question, let everybody in your group
respond and then let's go ahead and move into that second question.
So I'll give you probably between five and 10 minutes and probably in between there to
cover that.
And then we'll come back here and then I will open the floor up for y'all to ask your questions.
Cool.
All right.
Those rooms are open.
So go ahead and join.
Awesome.
Good.
Looks like everybody's going.
Michelle, are you able to jump into your room?
If not, I see Kelly S is in your room.
So I'm going to move her to somewhere else if you cannot join.
All right. So ladies, welcome back. Again, hopefully everybody got time to share answers
to those questions. I hope that y'all were able to lift each other up and give y'all
some encouragement and know that you're not alone in some of that discouragement, but
we're here to support and lift one another up. And if God's done it for others, he's
going to be able to do it to you. Okay. Do it for you as well. So now I'm just going
to open the floor. So if you want to ask any of your questions, maybe it's, um, you know,
something from the content that you've watched. Maybe it's something that I've talked about
here today. If you want to share your situation, maybe a dating experience that you're having.
Maybe you want to share just something that you are learning and it's a breakthrough and
you want, you know, want to celebrate with us here. So I'm going to open it up to you
ladies. So if you have a question, go ahead and just raise your avatar hands. I know I
usually have at least a couple. All right. Don't be shy. All right. I got one. Come on
ladies. This is your time here. Awesome. Thank you. This is your time here. Ladies. This
space too is where we really do get to help you. Um, don't want you ladies to take advantage
of it. It's good stuff. I know a lot of times when we share what we're experiencing, um,
it actually helps other women in the process because I assure you you're probably not the
only one that's running into some stuff. So don't be shy. This is a safe space ladies.
Like we really take heart into making sure that we are safe and protected here in this
community. So what, what you have to share here, it's not, it's not going to be, um,
shared other places. So, um, just here in our special little phase two group. Okay.
All right. So I'm gonna take Shelly then Elizabeth and then I see Michelle. You got some courage
to share too. So thank you. All right, Shelly, what do you got? Well, my first question is
a logistical question about the lighting because in the zoom picture of myself on there, it
looks like, like the lights in the ceiling are very bright. So how do you do the lighting
better? Okay. I actually think your lighting looks really good. Mine here. Cause I'm again,
I'm not at my house. I'm, I'm here in Napa. It's a little foggy. Um, so one thing is,
is what Renee is coached on even is having the light coming and facing you and not being
behind you. So I don't know if this will help because I wonder, cause it's just really dark
in here. Unfortunately, you guys had like a link for, um, one of the things to attach
to your phone for Amazon. So we're not wasting those ring lights. Yeah. Those ring lights,
those can go behind you, but you see how, if I have lights coming from behind me,
like what can happen? Like you can't even see my hand. Right. All right. So again,
you don't want the light behind you. You want it more in front of you. Okay. I can really,
so actually that's the, see how I, now I switched it in any other direction and it eliminates your
face some more. So even if you get those, like Ann Marie said, there's ring lights and stuff like
that that you can get on. I'm going to move this way just because it's really okay. Okay. I'll try
that. Michelle looks like she has good lighting. Her lighting looks good to me, but that was just a
Michelle. Michelle, do you have a light in front of you? Yes. It's called the sun. Oh,
exactly. I'm outside. I'm outside. Yeah. Natural light is always, to me it's being in a room with
windows where the window is in front of you and not behind you. Kind of like how I showed you a
moment ago when I switched it, you saw it because it was behind me. But when it's in front of you,
it's a lot better. Okay. So that was just the logistic thing I had. Then the second thing is
I'm not interested or have peace about online dating at this time. I've never done that.
I'm not feeling that. I'm open to if that feeling comes, but it's not here yet.
So I haven't done a profile yet and I haven't taken a headshot and a body shot and put it
anywhere it's supposed to go yet, but I'm hoping to do that this week. I asked a friend if she'd
take a picture. So I'm hoping to do that. So when we get to move to level three or to phase three,
which will be next week for me, what does that look like as far as,
will we just look at people's profiles? What does that look like?
three, it's we're not necessarily like you're not going to have access to other people's
profiles and things of that nature. Phase three is just more of a bigger community.
So it's all the people that are in our community that have gone through phase one and phase
two. So yes, it does include some of the men. And then you'll get invited. So like even
tonight, you're going to jump into like, if you have the ability to go into that eight
o'clock call, you're going to kind of see what we do in phase three, which is usually
one night a week, one or one night a week, one evening a month, sometimes two evenings
a month, I think, where people can jump into the love seat, but it's going to be a lot
bigger. So and I'll have to just confirm, there are times where men are on those community
calls and sometimes when they're not. So again, then we'll do these like single spotlights
where Jackie will have a guy or two on and they'll she'll spotlight them and ask them
questions and such. And I do know we've got that spirit mate match that is in the works
as well. Again, Jackie shared don't don't blast us with all the emails of all the questions
about spirit mate match. We will get that information out to you ladies in phase three
when it becomes available to us. So just keep that in mind. So if you have not felt
peace about online dating, that's totally, that's totally fine. Some people are not going
to be ready to do that. Again, it's giving yourself grace, allowing God to give you peace
about that. But that doesn't mean that you're not getting yourself out there. So Shelly,
let me ask you, if you're not doing online, what are some things that you've done to show
people that you're interested in? Or what have you stepped out in and done for yourself
to kind of get you out there? Well, at this point, I really, really just told my family
and friends like, I'm finally open to this. And so we've had some good laughs. And so
we've done that. I'm also not on social media. So it's not like I'm posting on social media.
So that's really all I've done at this point, except, you know, the normal things like,
but I'm a very relational person. So I'm always talking to people in the store and everywhere
I go. So I'm not hiding in that sense. I just sometimes think, Oh, do you have a sign that
on your head that says don't talk to me, I don't want to talk to you, if you're a guy.
So I laugh about that. But then I go back to the place where I'm like, the Lord already
has this figured out, I'm not gonna have to overthink it. And so when Danny first told
me about this program last fall, and I told her that, like, the Lord directs the steps
of a righteous man, I'm not gonna have to go search this guy down. She kind of laughed
at me like, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. So I'm still a little bit hanging on to that mindset.
I'm gonna have to go like, search under every rock for him.
So it's not like you're gonna have to work hard to do it, right? Like, I that's, I see that.
But I do think, you know, God is just gonna start pressing on you, like ways that you can
get yourself out there, maybe a little bit more. So maybe it is joining an activity group or
volunteering, volunteering somewhere in your community. So maybe be praying about that,
like other opportunities and avenues of places you can go and ways to get in front of more
people where you can have that relational connection with people. Maybe it's even just,
I know, I'm a very like open book to like, I talked to a lot of people, that's just been
something that, you know, by the time I was an adult, like I was, I started stepping into that.
So sometimes it's just going, like maybe going out to eat to print it with like Panera and
striking up a conversation with someone and just getting in front of more people. So
depressing the Lord, like reveal to you ways that you can get out and do that. And maybe step a
little bit out of your comfort zone. That's not like you have to go like, dive and things like
that. That's what I would encourage is just finding ways to get in front of more people,
you know, going to new places that maybe you haven't visited before. And doing that. Does
that help? It does. Thank you. Good. Awesome. Well, thank you so much for asking your question.
All right. I've got L is that and then I know Michelle, you took your avatar hand down,
but I'm guessing you still have your question. Awesome. Okay. And then I'll move on to Sarah.
So L is that what do you got? Okay, so I don't think it's actually a question. I just want to
say so I think I kind of messed up. I went on a date with the guy. He was nice. And he asked me
for another one on. So the one was on Saturday. The other one was on Sunday. And I told my ladies
in the group.
that I'm a very nervous person and I just wanted to run away the whole time and I didn't text him
back and didn't tell him that I actually had a great time and I'm just a very nervous person.
First dates makes me so nervous and um yeah so I think I kind of messed up um and I don't know how
to fix this. So this was this current Saturday and Sunday so you had two different dates with
two different people? No, two different days with one person. With the same person so you
went out on Saturday, you went out on Sunday, um you enjoyed yourself? Minus the nervousness?
I kind of did. He asked a lot of questions and was really nice and um yeah so there was nothing
really wrong with him. I just like I told the ladies in my group I started to beat myself up
for not feeling like better or more towards him um yeah. I totally get it because so ladies like
this we all go through this and men go through this too like it's that you're just getting to
know somebody like it's sometimes it's awkward right you don't know what to talk about you're
not sure of all of that stuff so you know give yourself grace. Can I ask you like what I think
we talked about this last week that you know you you deal with a little bit of anxiety and nerves
and I think I pressed you to kind of go to the Lord with some of that and and asking what like
where maybe this first surfaced and be like started and I think you even shared with me
it like when you were a kid and in school and needing to be right um and so have you taken
some time to kind of pray with God and ask him to reveal those and maybe um share with you areas
that maybe there's some healing that needs to take place so that you're not beating yourself
up to having to be this like perfect or on all the time sometimes go ahead um there there were
some things that happened in school um especially uh yeah he revealed to me um some things with
the boys that I went to school with so the memories that just came up was when I had to
stand in front of the class and to and I don't know what you call it an oral exam yeah so I was
I just remember doing funny stuff and not getting all my words out and all I can remember is
the faces of the boys laughing and I never actually finished my orals ever
because of this nervousness and because of the laughing and I even remember one
one boy said that he liked me I just mustn't be so shy like I'm too shy
and those are the things that came up and yeah those are just some of the things that came up
gotcha have you been able to work through some of those heart work tools that we teach you in
phase one to kind of navigate that because I wonder if that could possibly be what you're
experiencing now on these dates with men is that you know that uncomfortableness of are they going
to like me am I being too shy and in this maybe even I know what's bringing what's kind of being
brought up to me and something that I can just kind of relate and share is my my identity and
my worth and knowing like I had I really had to work through a lot of that because I was very
insecure about you know how people saw me how men saw me and and realizing and trusting God to kind
of walk through with me how he saw me and start trusting to look at myself the way that God
looked at me and so and then in that process you know him taking me through some of the dating
pieces where he was showing me how I could let go of those like insecurities in my interactions
and dates with people so when you went on this date with him on Saturday and Sunday
like when did you start feeling very uncertain was it questions he was asking and how you were
nervous about how you responded was it certain questions that he asked was it I mean let's start
breaking that down and seeing
seeing if what that looks like.
So what, go ahead.
Sorry.
So what I revealed in my group
is that I constantly have this fear
that I'm gonna say something stupid and embarrass myself.
So as we went on and talked and talked,
I just, you know, I got more nervous
because I'm actually not English,
as most of you can probably hear.
And this guy is actually English.
So it's difficult for me to sometimes express myself
in the English language.
And so I'm just constantly nervous
about saying something stupid.
And then this guy would think I'm like this weird girl
and walk away from me.
Yes.
So I can totally, I totally get that, 100%.
But one thing that, you know,
God just really put on my heart to share with you,
and I hope that this blesses you
and gives you encouragement,
is your spirit mate is gonna just adore you and love you
and just, there's nothing that you're going to do
that's going to make him not be attracted
and just drawn to you.
I can't tell you how many times in my marriage I have,
and even like when I was with my husband
before we got married,
some of the crazy, like ridiculous things I've done
or said, or even some of the things
that I have to work on in myself that, you know,
the Lord needs to kind of work with me on.
Because let me tell you,
there's parts of my personality that are just not pretty.
All right.
Because God's having to grow me and like humble me
and mature me in the season that I'm in.
I mean, there's so many things.
And there are times where I have,
even in my marriage, been like,
my husband is not gonna, you know, love me the same.
He's gonna look at me differently.
And when I've allowed myself to share that with my husband
and open up and communicate to him
some of my concerns or my fears,
he's been able to come in and rest,
like help me rest in it.
So, you know, now again, I'm not saying like, you know,
when you're first dating someone in those couple of dates,
you know, you're not gonna just dump all of the past,
like this is what I've experienced
and all that kind of stuff.
But I do think it's okay for you to express yourself
to this guy and like, oh my goodness, I'm really nervous.
You know, I know that, you know,
my English is not that great.
So I'm a little concerned that, you know,
maybe it's gonna be awkward or anything like that.
And like, it's just communicating
and allowing that man to step into his masculine
and just protect and know that you can rest
and that man is going to keep you safe.
Like that, a masculine man, his divine,
like the divine masculine is to keep you safe and protected.
When we step into marriage,
it is a husband is a covering over you.
He covers you and covers your children
as you cover your children.
It's just, it's the divine,
like how God's created man and wife
and what each person's roles are.
So that was something that I even experienced
when my husband and I were dating and he was courting me
is when I put boundaries up or I communicated with him
in areas that maybe I was uncertain or unsure,
he came and respected those boundaries.
He allowed me to feel safe and protected.
You know, one thing that even my husband does now
is when we're walking down the street,
he shifts himself to the outside of the street
and I walk on the inside.
Like, it's just a natural thing.
So I would, again, like,
so you had the date Saturday and Sunday,
it's Tuesday now, you haven't communicated
to him since Sunday?
It's okay, reach out to him.
You can even just open up like,
look, I really had a great time on our date
Saturday and Sunday.
I apologize if I've seemed a little distant.
I'm still just learning to get over the awkwards
of like dating, you know, getting to know someone.
So I hope that you can understand that I'm.
learning how to navigate this and, you know, just understand
that I am interested in getting to know you more. And have a
little grace with me if you if you will, and, and see where
that goes. Because if he is a good man who is interested in
you, he's going to nurture and protect that. And if he's not,
then it's God revealing to you that, hey, this isn't your guy.
But look, you just grew and you upgraded yourself. And you've
gotten practice and you've learned a new tool. And
hopefully that can help you overcome some of maybe the
insecurity and the discomfort that you feel with getting to
know someone in the very beginning. Because I would I
would rest assure that there's probably other women on this
call or that's going to listen in a replay that they are going
to relate to you 100%. And you you come in here and sharing
that is going to help someone else. And I bet to believe that
there's going to be some other women in the apps are going to
be able to be like, Oh, my goodness, thank you so much for
sharing. And y'all are going to be able to come in and lift each
other up and support each other in that. Well, thank you. You
are welcome. Thank you so much for just being so real and
honest with us here. Ladies, I can't tell you just how good and
helpful it is when we do that. All right, Michelle, I'm going
to jump to you, then I'm going to jump to Sarah. And then I see
Leslie, you posted something in the chat. So I'm going to read
through that after these two ladies go. And then ladies, if
you have another question, then throw your avatar hand up so
that I know. All right, Michelle, what did you want to
share with us?
Well, I think I'm stuck in this place of not wanting to waste
time, communicating in level one and level two, with guys, and
then find out, put a lot invest and then find out that, you
know, location is a non negotiable, like they won't
move. I just built a house I'm moving in in October, not not
saying I wouldn't give it up. But let's say they're absolutely
don't want to move. You know, and then I go, okay, I invested
all of this. And and it's like, it's not really going to go
anywhere. And the other piece is, spiritually, you know, are
they mature, Christian, masculine male. And I don't know
how to really determine that without having more level three
conversations. So that's my big thing is right now I'm
communicating with three different guys. Okay, I have no
information on this. And I feel like this could be just a
colossal waste of my time.
Okay, I totally I totally get that. And I think a lot of women
in this community have felt and experienced some of this, the
same thing that you're experiencing. So to address the
location part. So when you're meeting people online, you're
probably going to know fairly quickly where they're where they
live, right? All right. So if you notice that they are far
away, we definitely encourage to try to get a face to face video
and then an in person within six weeks. Now I know you're
thinking six weeks. That's a lot, right? So I see it. Yes,
totally get it. So but again, like when you are dating
multiple people, and you're getting to know more people,
just trust the process of it. And you're going to know fairly
quickly, especially when they're long distance, are, are they
going to be willing to move? So that may be one of those
questions of, hey, I noticed that we're in two different
places. I want to get to know you better. You know, I find
that we have some things in common. You know, let me ask,
like, what's your thoughts on relocating? Have you ever
thought about that? I don't think that that is a question
that you can't ask early on, especially when you realize that
they're not close in proximity. That happened with my husband
and I. So the first time that we connected, when I thought he
lived like an hour away from me, and he's like, No, I'm in Texas.
And he was even like, Look, I understand if you don't want to
continue to get to know me, if that's not an option for you.
And that's when I made a choice to say, you know what, I'm okay
investing a little bit more time, because I am, I realized
God's pressing me to be open to that possibility. Now, I hadn't
decided whether or not I was going to move. I was
open to the possibility. So that's why I could continue to get to know him. So just know like
you're not asking someone, will you move for me? But hey, what are your thoughts on relocating?
Because the guy might, might tell you, you know, I really don't want to move, but you know what,
if God wants it, then I'm willing to do it. You know, and that might help you even with that
faith piece of like learning a little bit more about his relationship with God. So ways that
Renee has coached you ladies in this group, and I love what she shares, is learning to ask certain
questions that would allow for that, that to be opened up. But we also encourage you not to shut
the door in the very, very beginning stages. In those first two or three dates, if a guy
is not opening up about his faith right away. So it's sometimes being like, you know, tell me what
are things in your life that are your passions right now? Like what, what takes up your time
currently? And so for some people who have a strong relationship with God, they're going to
share about that. I was like that, but I also knew that not everyone is like that is going to
always open up about their intimate relationship with the Lord. Some of those people might be a
little bit more private and they're going to want to get to know you a little bit more before you,
they allow you into that part of their life. But as you start talking and communicating with one
another, you can start just like opening that up. So even asking, so I noticed that you share that
you're a Christian, can you on your site or on your profile, can you share a little bit more
about that? Like what's that look like for you or, you know, certain questions that kind of,
again, you're not interrogating them, but it allows them that opportunity to share a little
bit more. And here's like for me, when then I would ask those questions, guys would then respond
and ask me the same question. And then I could open up with what I was willing to share,
not going overshare and deep diving and sharing like all of the, you know, my testimony of how I,
how I came to know Jesus and the hard times that I went and why it got me there. I'm not going there,
but I'm talking about just that high level of, you know, I've learned over the years that my
intimate relationship with the Lord is so important. And I really just, you know, my special
time is in this community that I'm in and we get to share about, you know, God and I get to pour
into other people. So anything of that nature, like I, my favorite thing to do on the weekends
is the volunteer work that I do at my church. And this is why it's a passion of mine. Again,
it's that surface like high level surface stuff. Right. So it's kind of like what you would share
in an interview highlight of what's important to you and why it's important. So once you start
opening up that way, then sometimes men can come in and kind of share what their faith walk looks
like for them. So I get it. I 100% again, because ladies, you want to be in relationship with men
that have a connection with the Lord, that's going to be important.
So I'm not saying don't ask those questions. We just want to make sure that you're pacing those
questions. So go ahead. I'll spend things. So if you find out, you know, like, where do you spend
your time or what does it look like to you to be a Christian? I do ask that question. And if they
come back with, well, you know, I used to go to church as a, you know, I was in a church growing
up, but I really haven't pursued that. I mean, there's your answer, right? So can you end the
relationship then? I mean, can you just say, well, I don't think we're compatible.
I would encourage for at least a date or two. You still would. You're, you're just working
through a muscle of like, practicing the dating and getting to know somebody. And then, you know,
you might learn a little bit more, but again, like maybe after one or two dates, and you're like,
this is a really big piece for me. And then that's when you can say, you know, I really appreciate
you taking time to get to know me. I've enjoyed our date or two, but I don't see this going
in a romantic way. So I appreciate your time and I wish you the best of luck.
But at least you've allowed yourself to kind of practice that dating muscle,
get to know some guys. Cause again, you just never know, you know,
they might be a little closed off or unsure of sharing what their faith is.
experiences and you never know like what can happen.
So one thing that Jackie shares is,
it's not about where a guy's been,
but it's where they're going.
So just because the guy is saying like,
you know what, I don't really go to church,
you know, I'm really, you know,
but maybe they're hungry for it.
Maybe they do truly have a desire
and maybe that can come, it will unfold in a date or two.
And then they're young, they're young in their faith.
I've been a Christian 40 years and I've been a leader.
And that to me is, how is he gonna lead me?
You know, so I, at that point,
I feel like I still already know.
And then to go on another date or two,
to me is investing and wasting time.
Honestly, I just don't want to do it.
So again, like if you are there and if you've taken this,
if you have taken this to the Lord, again,
so this is a good opportunity for you
to really get vulnerable with the Lord and asking the Lord,
look, I need a God defended list and a self defended list.
All right, really take that kind of stuff to the Lord
because here's the thing I will know,
like I know with, and I'm sure Bethany
and Renee can attest to this as well.
Like, you know, Renee is in ministry,
like ministry school, right?
That's a big part of her life.
Bethany, for her, she just,
she has an anointing for ministry as well.
And those were very important.
That was a God defended list.
That when you know that your purpose
and your divine assignment is going to be linked to that,
you're gonna need someone that's gonna match that.
Right.
So it's taking that stuff to God
and really asking for him to partner with you in that
and asking him to walk alongside you in this.
So that's what I will leave you with that is just,
you know, really take that in prayer and ask,
you know, Lord, this is important to me.
And if it is something for you,
I want you to start clarifying to me
when I need to say, you know, no, thank you.
And when I need to press forward.
Because again, we don't want you ladies
just like shutting the door.
But at the same time, if you really do truly feel like,
no, God has shown me this,
then again, I mean, we're gonna partner with you.
All right.
So hopefully that's helped.
Yeah.
Because I do, I know, like I know there's just certain,
like they have a ministry,
like they have ministry in their life.
It's in their purpose.
So they do need to make sure that their husband
is walking alongside them.
Right.
So important.
Okay.
I can relate so much to Michelle.
You know, I was married to a man
that I thought it was enough that he believed in God
and was a Catholic.
And I was a single parent long before I ever,
you know, became one.
And then years and years of emotionally investing
into men that would have Christian on their profile,
but their walk doesn't match their talk.
Their behavior doesn't do that.
So then I started nipping it in the bud
in the online dating as I like,
second sentence into the text.
I'm like, okay, are you a quote, practicing Christian?
It's like, cause I don't want to emotionally invest anymore,
you know, waste time.
Yeah.
As Christian, I think we should, you know,
want people that are active with their walk
in their Lord and have fruit.
And a lot of these ladies is too,
it's gonna be, it's as you're getting to know people,
you're gonna see, does a man have a teachable spirit?
Is he willing to walk along that?
I mean, I think we all can attest that, you know,
our relationship and our intimacy with the Lord,
it is a partnership and growing and being able
to humble ourselves and discipline ourselves
to kind of walk through that seasons,
all those types of seasons where, you know,
we're constantly growing and learning
and wanting to kind of just get upgrades.
You're gonna start seeing that,
but ladies, what I will tell you,
you're not gonna see that all the time
in the first one or two dates,
it's going to take some time to peel that onion,
really get to know someone.
So that's why we really do encourage,
give yourself a couple dates
of really getting to know someone
because you just never know,
like you never know where their walk is gonna lead, okay?
So that's what I'm saying,
like partnering with, this is partnering with the Lord,
being God defended and self defended
and knowing that, you know,
Michelle and Amory, you're not wasting time
because when you're operating in God's time,
you're not wasting time.
God's perfect timing, I mean, it's good and it's perfect.
He's the author of your love story,
so there's no...
time wasted especially when you connect with your spirit mate which is your
forever all right so just rest in that I know sometimes we can start operating
in our self-defended I don't want to waste my time I don't know like we don't
have to waste time we're not gonna mess up our love story all right I've been
divorced 24 years and I've wanted nothing more than to be married again
to show that with a person and I don't want to just have five or ten years
before they die and it seems like it's all the 70 year old 60 year old men
that come my way or else they're 22 or 25 yeah hard to not feel that time clock
girl I get you so I don't know I don't know how much of my story y'all ladies
know I know some of you are new faces to me so I am 41 years old I had never
been married I was in a lot of really toxic unhealthy relationships in my in
my 20s and into my 30s I was an unmarried mom all right I gotten
involved and with a man I thought I thought he was I thought he was a
God-fearing man I thought he believed I thought he practiced and I got attached
really quickly we got pregnant and things just unraveled very very quickly
he ended up cheating on me while I was still pregnant left me when I was seven
months pregnant and I thought that was the end for me and then I sat and I
spent like five to six years not dating I didn't even date like I don't like to
broadcast this but even in when I first joined this program I didn't date for
over a year now I wouldn't advise that but I knew that God was with me and
there was a process in that and you know God used that time even when I wasn't
dating to help me you know break break it break through in areas I needed to
get breakthrough but you know I never been married and I met my husband when I
was 39 years old was you know November of 2022 and met him and then on my 40th
birthday in 2023 my husband proposed to me 40 years I mean you talk about like
the connection there with you know wander in the desert for 40 years like
this like you know and I thought it was like that promised land was never gonna
come but I assure you there was just so much refining and so many breakthroughs
that I could experience in that so hear me when I say ladies I I feel you I've
been there I know how easy it is to get discouraged and feeling like it's time
wasted and you know I'm not gonna get to experience all the fruit of marriage
because I'm getting married later in life and I had this past of just toxic
and I'm I mean we can if we focus there because that let's be real like that's
where the enemy wants us to focus you know he wants us he wants us left
feeling discouraged hopeless and oh yeah God's gonna deliver this promise to
marriage but guess what you're not gonna enjoy it it's gonna be short-lived I
mean let's be real the enemy can't stand marriage because that's God's divine
plan and purpose is for husband and wife because you think about that that's the
perfect image of God is when two people come together masculine feminine man and
woman come together oh the stuff that can be unlocked you know there is I'm
telling you there is such an anointing on this movement because God wants
marriage for his children so the enemy is going to come and want to attack in
every which way he's gonna attack you before you meet your husband with all
these thoughts and fears and discouragement and hopelessness and then
ladies let me tell you he's gonna come in and attack you when you do meet your
husband like I can't tell you like it's but it's just resting assured knowing
that God's got you he's on your side he's planned and purpose this out like
it it can't be destroyed you know God gave me a word early on when I joined
this program and I just really feel like it's probably for somebody here that's
either here with us now are gonna watch and replay
God is not going to allow what he has for you to be stolen.
That was something that was released over me,
that there is redemption in what the enemy is trying to steal from you,
that there is reconciliation,
there's restoration, and there is redemption in that,
and nothing that God has for you can be taken from you.
And maybe that's your relationship,
and maybe that's your marriage.
Ladies, there is such a supernatural anointing on this program.
You're not here by mistake.
I believe that God has called you all here because
your marriage is going to be a breakthrough and be a testimony for other people.
And ladies, when you tap into that and you start sharing that,
I mean, woo, some stuff can just really be released in the spirit realm.
So ladies, I want you to just take hold of that and trust in that,
that desire in your heart, it's not by mistake.
All right, this program can really shift some things in the spirit.
I can't tell you all of the things that have been unlocked just for me
and other women in this community that I've gotten to walk alongside with
before I got married, during my marriage, and even after,
and then even being able to be here with you, ladies,
and just pour into you all and just share with you my gratitude and thanks
and being able to walk alongside you all in this journey.
It gives encouragement to me sometimes when I'm going through rough times in my marriage
and what the enemy is trying to get me to start buying into.
All right?
So ladies, I want to thank you for just being here and being vulnerable.
And I hope that this day and this, whether you're here live with us or in replay,
that it's just going to start unlocking some great things
and that hope and the encouragement.
All right?
Does anybody else have any questions that they want to ask?
Okay, Leslie, I do know we're kind of running a little bit late on time.
I'm getting better.
I will eventually get better with my timing here,
but I do really think it was probably really important.
I think we got some really good breakthroughs here.
But Leslie, you shared how much I can verbally share your emotions are out of control.
Leslie, I just hope that, you know, in this time that you felt some comfort.
So you recently had labs done in June with normal hormones,
but was feeling very bluesy,
thought it was related to several traumatic events that occurred back in March.
So things got worse symptomatically, and now hormones show menopause at 45.
So now added to the heartache and the trauma,
I'm also grieving being a woman in that way.
So many wild emotions.
Girl, I get you.
I feel you on the hormones.
You know, I'm 41, and, oh, girl.
Like, I even recently learned that I got some perimental pausal stuff,
and sometimes that's a challenge.
You know, what I do know is, you know,
God can show us ways that we can work through that.
So I'm going to just pray that over you as well.
And so you're asking if you should take a break from dating.
I think, Leslie, those are questions that I think the Lord
will be able to give you some peace and some grace on.
So if you feel like you need to push pause, it's okay.
Ladies, sometimes just the push pause, it might just be for a couple weeks,
it might be for a month, and then God will give you a little time.
So, Leslie, I don't want to put you on the spot
if you're feeling overly emotional,
but if you want to unmute and share with us, feel free.
Mostly, I just don't want to misrepresent myself
because I feel a little, not a little, a lot nutty,
and in a way that I've never been before.
And there are a few guys, I mean, there's a million guys on dating apps
that I could care less.
But there's a couple that I've actually enjoyed talking to,
but I have a tendency to want to explain,
like, I'm usually a little more peppy or, you know,
like that sort of thing.
And I don't want to accidentally tell them all my business
because I can't think straight.
Yeah.
So, yeah, I mean, if you feel like right now
you need to press pause so you can kind of navigate
and like, you know, work through some of those emotions
right now and maybe get some more revealing and healings.
And again, if you need to go back to that heartwork piece
and just kind of walk through a little bit of that,
that's totally fine.
Again, ladies, you're going to know,
and you're going to have the peace
about what you need to do.
And we're here to support you ladies.
So, you know, for some of you, you might want to push pause
and that's totally fine.
Don't feel like we're,
we threw this seven day challenge out to you
that all of a sudden you've got to rush
to get these seven dates if it's putting some pressure.
Because let me tell you, ladies,
when you start dating,
some things are going to be unlocked
and some, you know, revealings and healings
come through that dating process.
And so if you have to push pause
to kind of work through what you're experiencing,
and like I said, it could take a week,
it could take a couple of weeks, it might take a month,
and just be gentle with yourselves.
And this is a really important time
where, you know, you practice, you know,
partnering with the Lord
and having that intimacy with him too.
Because what I will tell you in my own experience,
this program, yes, I can sit here and attest
that I got a husband and, you know, that was the focus,
but that wasn't the biggest fruit from this program
that I received.
The biggest, the biggest fruit that I got from this program
and working through the hard work
and building community here and getting to know more people
was the relationship that I started building with the Lord.
I got upgrades in my intimacy with the Lord,
and that has been the, by far,
the biggest blessing and fruit from this program.
So just trust that, like utilize these times
to tap into that.
Okay, ladies, I think that's it.
We've gone over a really long time.
I apologize.
I thank you ladies for sticking it out with me.
I hope that you got blessed.
I'm just kind of going through here,
all the stuff in the chat
to make sure I didn't miss anything.
Amory, you may email admin at Jackie.com
or yeah, admin at JackieDorman.com to inquire about that
because I think that's still in the process of,
so that you might get more detail there
about personal dating coaches sessions
because I do know at some point in the future
that might be something that we're gonna share
more information on.
But if you are looking for that,
just reach out there and inquire about that
and just be patient with getting responses from our team
because the app and some of the new things
that we're unlocking, it does have,
it might take a little time, okay?
So just know, put your questions out there in that regards
and just, yes.
So hopefully that helped that.
Awesome.
Ladies, I love that y'all are making connections here
and building a sisterhood
because I can't tell you enough
just what a blessing this program has been for me
and the relationships I've built.
A lot of the women that I built friendships with
here in this community were at my wedding.
You know, so just know you're in the right place.
All right, ladies, I'm gonna pray us out
so I can let you go
and then hopefully I don't get reprimanded too much
for going on time.
And so I'm just gonna quickly pray us out
and then release you ladies.
And so I thank you.
Thank you, God.
I thank you for this time together.
I thank you for each one of these women
that are here currently
and that are gonna be in Replay Lord.
And I thank you for the love story
that you have written for each and every one of them.
Lord, I thank you for their vulnerable hearts.
I thank you for their honesty.
Lord, I just ask that you come alongside
and that you just comfort them.
Let them know that you are with them,
that they're not here by mistake,
that the desire that you've placed
and their hearts for marriage is not by mistake, Lord,
that you've purposely placed that desire into them
for a plan and a purpose.
Lord, I just thank you that we can trust your plan for us.
And Lord, I just thank you for those plans and purposes
that you have, and how it is going to bless the kingdom.
Their marriages are going to bless you, God.
It's going to be great testimony of your love and your care.
Their marriages are going to be an encouragement to other people
because you want your sons and daughters married.
Lord, we know that the enemy is attacking
every aspect of marriage in this country and in this world.
And Lord, we just know that you have everything worked out
for your good.
That no act of the enemy can prosper
because you already have it figured out, God.
And we just thank you for that promise.
So Lord, I just release these women today
to go out and just continue to build their intimate
relationship with you, Lord, and that you're just
going to continue to reveal your goodness to them
and give them the comfort and peace to just continue,
especially in those times of discouragement, God,
and that they can just rest in your peace and comfort.
So thank you, Lord.
And we give all of this in Jesus' name.
Amen.
Ladies, thank you again.
Hop on tonight at 8 o'clock if you
can join the love seat with Jackie and the bigger community.
And then I will see you all again next week, all right?
Be blessed, ladies.
Thank you so much.
Thank you.
Bye-bye, ladies.
Bye.