It's not good.
All right, now that the recording is official,
welcome, welcome, welcome to this bonus day.
I get so excited teaching.
This is, I think, one of my favorite master classes
to teach.
It's so transformational because we're talking about you.
And we're talking about your divine identity.
We're talking about who you're not, what are the lies, right?
And who are you?
And this is the whole key to stepping
into fully living your life, your highest potential,
your divine potential.
And scripture is so rich on this topic.
I could probably talk on this topic for a month.
So I get going.
I've been known to have gusts of 100 miles an hour
when I speak.
So that's what the recordings are for.
You'll get new things each time.
If you have your study guide, you
can take notes in the study guide.
Linda, if you'll pop the study guide link in one more time.
And again, I want to welcome all of you who have joined.
It's so great.
Stay to the end.
I've got so much to share with you.
And I'm just blessed, just blessed
to spend this time with you.
So what I want to do myself is open up
that I can see the chat.
And so I'd love to hear where you're from.
I've already met some of you.
We've got Jop in Tennessee, and Peggy in Washington,
and Dana in Texas, and I think Sharon's in California.
Pop in the chat.
Where are you from?
And what day is this for you?
Is this day number one?
Have you been in all six days?
Pop in the chat.
Where are you from?
And what day is this for you?
We've had quite the series.
The entire series will be up in the Prosper Women Facebook
group until midnight Sunday night.
I'll take it down Monday morning.
So you can go back.
You can binge if you missed.
We covered a lot of powerful, powerful stuff.
So enjoy those.
If you want to own them and keep them
and be able to go back to them any time,
there is the VIP option.
You get all the replays.
And I love to do special things for the VIPs.
So I'll be staying in touch with you.
So Linda, I can't see, but I imagine you've done it.
If you'll put the chat, if you'll put the guide so people
can get all the verses, be taking notes, print that out,
follow along.
And put the VIP link if they missed any,
that they're able to get that.
I'm going to start with prayer.
We are going to dive in.
I'm going to move my light a little bit
so I don't have a ring in my glasses.
Oh, the joy of lighting.
I think that's a little bit better.
All right, all right.
Who's ready?
Let me see.
I'm going to close down on not seeing all your names
and open the chat because I want to see what
you have to say in there.
This is where we can stay in touch.
All right, it's Kim's first day.
Yep, all of it's included in the VIP replays, all six days,
plus more.
OK, love it, love it.
OK, so yeah, like I said, we've even got Canada in the house.
Kathleen, welcome.
Sunnyvale, California.
Austin, Texas.
Woo-hoo, so excited.
All right.
I don't want to take another minute
because we're going to cover a lot of territory.
Who's ready?
Put ready in the chat.
Who is absolutely ready?
All right, let's start with prayer.
Father God, I thank you for this incredible topic.
As we get to partner with you, I ask
that you just open our spiritual senses
to hear what you, Holy Spirit, have
to say for each man or woman represented on this call.
I ask, Lord, that we'll truly hear
and that lies will be broken that have kept us stuck
or playing small, any lies about who we aren't
and what we can't do that doesn't line up with the word.
I'm asking for breakthrough, supernatural breakthrough.
And I'm asking who we are in your eyes
that that will be revealed.
And it'll reveal fresh hope, fresh inspiration,
fresh energy.
Let the words of my mouth, the meditation of my heart
be pleasing in your sight.
I ask it.
Jesus name, amen.
Welcome, welcome, welcome to all of you
from all over the country and other countries.
So glad that you are here.
So we're talking about identity.
We're talking about the question, who are you?
We've been asking questions all week, right?
We've asked, who or what is our source?
Who or what is our source?
Is our job our source?
Our spouse our source?
And the government our source?
The economy our source?
So we've been talking about who or what is our source?
And there's one source.
Everything else is a resource.
And we've been talking, and this has a lot to do with today,
who or what has been driving us?
Many of you have been driven.
Any of you, do I have any overachievers in the house?
Anybody been driven?
Pop me in the chat, right?
You've been driven.
And so we've been looking at what has been driving you.
And is it fear?
Is it lack?
What is it?
Not enoughness?
Not good enough?
Need to prove?
What is it?
And today we're asking the deep, deep question,
who are you?
And who are you not?
What lies have you believed about who you are?
So of course, as we've done all week long,
we're gonna dive into the scripture.
We're gonna dive into the science.
We're gonna dive into the strategy.
A lot of scripture today,
because we're just gonna be just peeling back layers
and just opening new frontiers.
So a lot of scripture today.
You see, you have been developing a story, a narrative.
You created it, right?
You created this story.
Let's let in some of the people trying to come in here.
Okay, there we go.
So you've created a story about who you are,
and you've also created a story about who you're not.
And the thing about this is you've created
and you've miscreated and you can recreate.
And this is what I want you to understand
is it's not in stone.
When we create a story, it can be changed.
And it can be lined back up with the truth of God's word.
It can be lined back up with the truth of who you are.
So maybe you've had a story.
This week has been a lot of breakthrough week,
and I've been doing a breakthrough calls, coaching calls.
And I've had three women get breakthrough
in this area around identity.
And so yesterday did a breakthrough
around what we put after the words, I am.
I am is the name of God.
And so when you use that, when you say, I am,
make sure whatever you put after those words,
I am are true about God.
So if you say something like, I am sick and tired of this,
is that God?
I am broke.
Is that God?
If it's not, then it's not true.
And it shouldn't be lined up with God's name.
I am, okay?
And so yesterday I dealt with one of the lies
we broke through, and she was saying,
and feeling, and acting accordingly, I am a failure.
Have any of you felt that way?
You start looking at your life,
it's not going the way you want,
and you say, I am a failure, okay?
Good, you know, Victoria put in there, I am not good enough.
Hey, we've got to break through those lies.
I had another woman who had bought into
what other people had said.
Remember, people can feed you stuff.
Imagine a spoon coming at you,
and that spoon might be filled with poop.
And it can be handed to you, here, eat this.
And you get a choice.
You eat it, you internalize it, you believe it,
and you act accordingly.
Or you say, that's not my reality,
that doesn't line up with the word of God,
and you don't eat it.
We get that choice all the time.
But many of us have eaten the poop.
Any poop eaters that I'm talking about?
You've eaten words that have been spoken over you, right?
Poop off my diet.
I love that, you guys are fun, I can tell already.
So we broke a lie that had been spoken over one very brilliant,
brilliant woman.
She's been part of these calls.
And she had that I am not good at.
And she was about to do a very big speaking, important
speaking business thing.
And she was feeling like she was going
to be a disappointment to them, that they really
hoped it was the other team member that was going to speak.
And so she didn't feel she was as good as the others,
so less than.
And we broke that.
And guess what?
She went and she rocked it.
So these stories that we create, we can uncreate, right?
I had another one within this last week
been taught that, you know what?
Even if you don't agree with it, if it doesn't
align with your spirit, you're not feeling good about it,
and everything about your intuition is not liking this.
But she was taught, you better go along to get along.
Maybe some of you have been taught to play nice and go
along to get along.
Because if you don't, you'll be rejected.
You won't be accepted, right?
And so there's all of these lies that we buy into.
And remember, we said this week, there's no neutral thoughts.
There's no neutral thoughts.
Every thought, every belief, every feeling has a fruit.
So when we believe that, even if it's not true,
but we internalize it, we believe it,
it produces the fruit.
And the fruit is the life that we're living.
And so when you look at who we are,
I like what Dr. Benjamin Hardy says,
we're a combination of our stories, our narrative,
what we believe about ourselves, and our standards,
our stories and our standards.
And so we've got this identity about who we are.
And a lot of times, if I say, who are you,
we think we're a role, right?
So you say, I am a mom, or I am a teacher, I am a coach.
No, that's not what you are.
That's a role that you play.
But the real question is, underneath all of that,
who are you?
I remember in 2012, when I went through a very painful divorce,
everything that had been my life was gone.
And so I was no longer a founder of a multi-seven figure
company.
I was no longer a homeschool mom.
I was no longer a Bible study teacher.
All the roles that I'd had were stripped away.
And I was left to say, who am I?
And this is where I want to come today.
It's actually a beautiful place to strip away.
If you've ever heard the story of Michelangelo
and creating the statue of David,
and they're like, how do you look at the stone
and produce this incredible statue?
I've been to the Louvre in Paris.
And they're amazing, the detail and the muscles.
And it's just incredible.
And how do you do that?
And he says, I simply chip away everything that is not David.
This is so true for our life.
Part of the goal of today is let's chip away everything
that is not you, the real you, your identity,
your divine identity.
Let's chip that away.
Who's ready for that?
Put ready in the chat.
We're going to do some chipping.
OK.
So we're going to look at different aspects
of this identity.
And it's how we see ourselves.
And it's how others see us.
We're going to look at that.
But I also want to look at, how did we come up
with what we believe about ourselves?
How did we get here?
And I want you to think back for just a moment.
And there's some things that you picked up
that were being put down from the time you were born.
And actually, the truth is it started in your womb,
in your mother's womb.
We now know when you were connected to the umbilical cord
and you were sharing everything, you were absorbing everything.
everything that was your mother, everything she ate and drank,
if she did drugs, like you were absorbing all of this, but you
were also absorbing her emotions. If there was emotions
of love, you were just being filled with that. But if your
mother had fear, like I know my mother did, right? You were
absorbing. And maybe there was even in that fear, she actually
didn't want you. And you were absorbing that. And so we came
out already with the frequencies of certain emotions in us. And
then we come out, and that seems pretty traumatic, most births
the way they happen, right? But then we start start our
childhood journey, right? And we start learning things. And as we
grow older, and we're four and five and six and seven, and we
start learning that certain things are okay, and certain
things are not okay. And certain things bring love and certain
things bring things we don't like, could be a SWAT could be
a mean look could be a mean words could be a withdrawing of
love. I mean, there's all kinds of punishment from others to try
to get you to step in line. Okay, could be neglect. And so
we learned that it's not safe to be us. It's not safe to be.
We entered kind of a dangerous place. I mean, some of us maybe
didn't, and we just got coddled into love. And I bless you, that
wasn't my experience. I was born to a bipolar drug addicted
mother alcoholic. So for some of you, maybe you were just born
into love, you had a home water birth, and your mom just
nurtured you and sheltered you. And I pray that's true. But some
of us, it didn't start out so well. And we learned it wasn't
safe to be and, and then we started talking. And we were so
excited. We were so filled with life. And we started asking, and
we're like, Oh, mommy, daddy, I want this. I want that shiny
crown. I want it. I'm a princess. I want those shoes. I
want that bicycle. And you learned, perhaps with
reprimand, or a look or neglect, that it's not safe to
ask. And maybe you started adjusting, because you really
wanted to be loved, and you wanted to be safe. And so maybe
you started getting some shadows, like how can you be so
selfish? Any of you have the selfish shadow, when you ask for
something you were told you were selfish, any of you have the
selfish shadow, right? And so it became not safe to ask not
safe to be not not safe to ask. And then you got a little bit
older, and maybe you worked for yourself, or you got something,
and you found out it wasn't even safe to get. You know, I would
get things I got a horse when I was young, a horse, a horse
saved me through the trauma, I would often run away from home
and sleep in the barn and loved my horse. And, and I became very
good at competitive jumping and hunters hack and equestrian and
all of that, and just loved my horse. And then my parents
decided to move and they never asked in their alcoholic, they
moved to a totally different city, and they sold the horse,
I wasn't consulted. And so I got used to a new setting. And
they bought a boat. And so I started water skiing, and this
helped me. And so I would, I could water ski all the way
around the lake, I had legs of steel, my dad couldn't get me
down unless he just stopped the boat and let me go bloop, bloop,
bloop, right. And so I started liking water skiing, but I was
only there a year and a half, two years and alcoholic, they
decided to move from Bass Lake to Placerville, and they sold
the boat. And I wasn't asked if I it was okay to lose my
friends or the sport or what I loved. And so we moved to
Placerville. And then I began to see that even my things could
be taken away. And so I began to see that that it's not safe to
get because it can be used to manipulate you, it can be used
to, it can be taken away from you as punishment or just taken
away from you. Am I talking to anybody? This is all off the
cuff. This is my experience. But am I talking to anyone put
me in the chat? I'm so curious. Any of you relating? Are you
picking up what I'm putting down? And so this is where the
story started coming about, about in order to stay safe, I
need to be a certain way, act a certain way and not act a
certain way. Am I talking to anybody?
So it's in this process that we create these stories.
And so I want to show you a story in the Bible,
page one on your guide.
It comes from Numbers 13.33, Numbers 13.33.
There's this interesting story.
God had pulled them out of Egypt, the Hebrews,
and promised them a land flowing with milk and honey.
And so they get, finally, takes 40 years
of going through so much.
We'll talk about that in a minute.
But they get to the promised land,
and they send in 10 spies to go see what are we dealing with.
And the 10 spies go in, and they come out to give a report.
And eight of them have a negative report.
Only two have a good report.
Eight of them have a fear-based report.
And so you see in Numbers 13.33, it says,
there we saw the Nephilim.
These were the giants, the sons of Anak.
And look what it says.
And we were like, anybody write in the chat,
what were they comparing themselves to?
We were like, what?
Grasshoppers.
What a visual.
And we were like grasshoppers where?
Grasshoppers in our own what?
Sight, in our own sight.
You see, this is starting in what we're taking in
and we're believing about ourselves.
Now, keep in mind, these are human beings
made in the image of God.
They've come through so many miracles.
I mean, God has been with them, leading them by day,
right, with the cloud, leading them by night, with fire,
dropping manna from heaven.
These are like human beings made in the image of God.
And their self-perception, their self-identity
was to compare themselves with one of the smallest,
puniest, most limited, like you can step on it, grasshopper.
And what's so interesting about that is it says,
we were like grasshoppers in our own sight.
We were like grasshoppers in our own sight.
And so we were in their sight.
Now, this is a fascinating thing,
that as you are seeing yourself, you are creating
how other people see you.
In other words, how you are showing up
is how they're perceiving you.
And so like I shared earlier in the week,
beautiful, brilliant woman, I mean, master's degree,
a powerful woman who's accomplished top earner,
just building just amazing things, doing amazing things,
loves God.
But in her own eyes, she saw herself
as a grasshopper in a sense, in her own way,
that she was less than her colleague.
And so she was thinking that they actually
wished that the company that hired them
would have actually gotten the colleague and not her.
And she'd been told by people that she's not good with people
and not good with crowds.
And so here she was about to show up
with those lies determining how she showed up.
And when we broke those lies and we
spoke the truth of who she truly was, guess how she showed up?
Powerfully, she rocked it.
They loved her.
She was great with people.
She was great with a crowd.
You see, those beliefs were not based in truth.
And so here it says, we were like grasshoppers
in our own sight.
And so we were in theirs.
And so we've crafted these crazy stories about ourselves.
And so today is about aligning them up with truth.
So what did I do with these women
to help them break through?
Well, the first thing is we've got to identify the lie.
And we did that this week, didn't we?
And so I really love Byron Katie's questions.
I've kind of adopted them to make them my own.
The first thing when you have these thoughts and you say,
is that true?
Is that true?
And your brain at first wants to say it's true.
Because let me tell you, all those experiences
that you learned in your life, your brain has one major focus
and that's to keep you safe.
Your brain is dedicated to keeping you safe.
And in process, it often keeps you paralyzed
and not moving forward.
Because to keep you safe, then you can't take risks.
You can't step out of your comfort zone.
You can't try new things.
And so to keep you safe, you procrastinate.
To keep you safe, you play small.
To keep you safe, right?
And so is that true?
And to really lock it in, can I absolutely know that's true?
And let me tell you, as many years as I've been doing this,
the answer always comes up with no.
No, it's not true.
So we've been believing a lie.
The Bible calls it cleverly devised tales.
The Bible calls it things that exalt itself above the truth.
It says we've got to demolish those things that
exalt itself above the truth.
And so we've been believing these lies
and living them out and acting on them.
And so the second question, we find out it's not true.
And I said, there's no neutral thoughts.
There's no neutral beliefs.
They always have a fruit.
So the second question, and you can do this yourself,
the second question I ask is, OK, so you've
been believing a lie.
We've come to that so far, OK?
It was not necessarily with evil intention.
It was to keep you safe.
And you bought into a lie.
You ate the poop, OK?
You took the spoonful, right?
And so I ask the question, what is
the fruit of believing that lie?
In other words, when you believe that lie, how do you feel?
And how do you show up?
How do you act?
100% of the time, I've been doing this for decades,
100% of the time, the fruit is low frequency.
I feel paralyzed.
I feel stuck.
I feel not good enough.
I feel frustrated.
I feel angry.
I feel lost.
I feel sad, whatever.
It's all low frequency stuff.
And the fruit is, I play small.
I procrastinate.
I don't follow up.
I don't ask for anything.
I don't ask for the sale.
I don't expect things.
I like all those safe things.
That's the fruit.
And so then the third question I ask
is, if you were willing to release that lie,
because we already established it's a lie,
and we already established that the fruit is not so good.
So if you were willing to let go of that fruit, of that lie,
if you were willing to let go of that lie,
what would be the fruit?
And it's amazing.
100% of the time, this has never failed.
100% of the time, oh, if I let go of that, I'd be happy.
I'd be filled with joy.
I'd feel confident.
I would start pursuing my dreams.
I would play bigger.
I would go for it.
I would.
And so 100% of the time, if we were
willing to let go of that lie, then we operate in high
frequency, and we take high frequency actions.
Remember, we said all our thoughts, all our beliefs
are either love-based or fear-based.
And if they're fear-based, they're lie-based.
And if they're fear-based, they're keeping you stuck.
They're not based on truth.
And if they're love-based, they're based on truth.
And we've been talking, this is your,
the whole series has been your expansion formula.
We've been talking about expanding.
We've been talking about the contrast of contracting,
and fear contracts.
And so we've been talking about the opposite of contracting,
because a recession is a contraction.
When you're afraid, your whole body contracts.
When you're afraid, your mind contracts.
And when you're afraid, your actions contract.
And when you operate in love, and you operate in truth,
then you're expansive.
And so you're more bold, and you take risks,
and you're willing to try new things,
and you're willing to step out of your comfort zone, right?
And so we ask that, and we see that it's very high frequency.
And so then, remember we said all week
that this all starts with awareness?
What I'm talking about today, it's first about awareness.
How did we get here?
And what actually am I believing about myself?
Write it down.
We had some exercises about that.
And so it's about awareness,
and then it moves when you discover the truth.
truths, and we replace the lies with truth,
it comes to our God-given ability to choose.
And so now we choose to think differently, speak differently,
act differently, be different, right?
And so we move from awareness to,
and this is something only you can do, only you can choose.
We choose to step into a new reality.
And so I repeat many times to them to get it in their head.
I repeat it.
Those of you that have done like spirit tapping with me,
and I use emotional frequency technique.
I use prayer and intercession.
I use the word and I use this question
that comes from Byron Katie.
And so I repeat it and I say,
so you've been believing this lie
and all of you can write down the lie.
I'm a failure.
I'm not good enough.
I don't have enough.
Whatever, whatever the lies you believe
and new ones will surface as you start to eliminate
everything that's not you.
And then you write down the fruit
and you see what's being produced.
And so I say, and that's producing
these low frequency results, right?
Low frequency emotions, which causes disease in the body.
It causes not to attract all of that, right?
And if I released it, if I was willing to release it,
it would mean high frequency thoughts,
high frequency actions.
And so then I asked the big choice question,
are you willing to activate,
to use your God-given ability to choose?
Because we know it's a lie and it's producing bad results.
Are you willing to choose?
Actually, before that, I asked the question,
can you give me any good reason
to continue to hold onto this lie?
And of course there's no good reason.
Then I ask, okay, are you willing?
Now we activate our God-given choice, okay?
And we do this through prayer
and then we get it out of the body
and we move forward to get this out, okay?
And so from there, we can step into a new version.
So, what do you think?
If they saw themselves as grasshoppers,
do you think that that's very contracted
or do you think it's very expansive?
Do you think they were playing really big and bold
and stepping into God's promises
and inheriting the land of milk and honey?
Or do you think they wanted to hide and cower
as a grasshopper so they don't get stepped on,
that they wanna stay safe, right?
And so it was a very contracted way of being.
So this is what we must look at is how do we see ourselves?
That's the first part of this.
And we do the deep work, how do we see ourselves?
And then we look at how do others see us?
How do others see us?
And there's this powerful verse that Jesus said
in Matthew 16, 15, 15, or Matthew 16, 15, okay?
And it says, Jesus said to them,
he asked them the question, first he opened kind of vague,
who do people say that I am?
And they said, well, some think you're Elijah
come back to life.
Some think you're John the Baptist.
Some think you're just a prophet or a teacher.
So he asked kind of the general question.
We all have to answer this about Jesus.
Who do you say Jesus is?
So some say any of those things, he's a prophet,
he's a teacher.
And then he got real direct to Peter and he says,
but who do you say that I am?
The question we all have to answer.
And Simon Peter in verse 16 answers,
you are the Christ, the Messiah, the anointed,
the son of the living God.
And verse 17, Jesus answered him, blessed.
This is the amplified translation.
So it gives you all the words, blessed, happy,
spiritually secure, favored by God.
Are you Simon, son of Jonah, because flesh and blood,
mortal man did not reveal this to you,
but my father who's in heaven.
Now, here's what I wanna consider with Jesus' answer.
His answer was so quick and it's like,
he knew Peter was speaking truth, he recognized truth.
But in order for Jesus to recognize Peter's answer
as the truth, he had to already know his own identity.
So when someone says something to you,
You have to recognize, is that coming from fear-based or is that coming love-based?
Are they saying that because they're scared and they're trying to lash out or protect themselves
because everybody's trying to play safe or are they saying that from a place of love and they're
speaking truth into my life? Before you take the spoon, you have to know your own identity
to be able to discern if what other people are saying is true because that's how you're
going to decide if you accept it. Let me give you an example. If I say to you right now,
you are such a frog. I'm telling you, Sharon, Job, Dana, Peyton, I mean, you are a frog.
You know, it's not going to have a lot of impact because you don't believe that about yourself.
You've pretty much established, I'm not a frog, I hope. Okay. And so it doesn't mean a whole lot
to you. You're not going to take it in. But if I say, how could you do such a stupid thing?
You are so stupid. Now, if you carry the stupid gene, you're going to go, yep,
there's confirmation. I'm stupid. Right? Do you follow me? So these decisions that you've made
have opened the door for what you'll receive from other people. And you'll either say, no,
that's not true. Return to sender. Or you'll go, yeah, that's from the Lord. Thank you. I received
that. Are you picking up what I'm putting down? I'm laying some heavy change agent stuff for you.
Pop in the chat. Are you picking up what I'm putting down?
So Jesus, to recognize that Peter's answer was truth and that it came from God and that it was
anointed, he had to already know his identity. And notice that at this moment, Jesus was not
seeking affirmation. He was highlighting a profound principle of knowing who we are in
the eyes of God. Right? So how did Jesus know his identity? How did he recognize
that Peter was speaking the truth? Where do we get our identity? How did you decide the things
you believe? And this is amazing. Okay. I'm going to stretch you a little bit, especially if you
tend to be very rigid in your thinking. If you tend to be religious, religious, the word religion
means back to bondage. So religion can be very, any of you maybe have learned very, and I'm not
talking about truth, right? I'm not talking about faith. I'm not talking about being spiritual.
I'm talking about religion right now. And when you're very rigid and you're very,
then you think that because you believe it, it's true. And so you have to do some digging.
Like, where did I get that belief? Where did I come up with that belief? Did you research it from
scripture and God revealed it to you from heaven? Or did you get it from broken, hurting people
who got it from broken, hurting people who got it from broken, hurting people? And it just keeps
passed down the line. Where did you get that belief?
And a belief, by the way, is a strongly held opinion. Beliefs can be changed because you
believe something does not make it true. Any of you, have you ever believed something? I'm really
curious. Put this in the chat. Have you ever believed something that was not true? Man, did
you believe it? Did it influence your life? Any of you? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, any of you believed
in Santa Claus, a fat man that came down your chimney and you even left him cookies and milk?
And boy, were you excited. And boy, did you ever believe that? Was it true? No, a strongly held
opinion that you got from someone who got from someone who got from someone. Did you believe in
the truth tooth fairy? That actually you couldn't wait to lose that tooth and you were going to get
some money underneath your pillow? Did you believe in the Easter bunny? Okay, I'm talking the childhood
beliefs, but this didn't stop in childhood. Now I understand. I came.
from his, it came from his fear and his pain.
Yes, sister.
So she was influenced by a pastor.
Many of us were, who were influenced from their own.
Let me tell you, this will give you compassion.
This will give you love.
This will stop the judgment.
I'm not saying what people did to you was right.
I was sexually abused as a child, doesn't make it right.
Some of you were trafficked, doesn't make it right.
Some of you were beaten, doesn't make it right.
Some of you had narcissistic abuse, doesn't make it right.
They were simply acting out of their fear.
And their fear made them desire
to control their circumstances.
Fear wants to make you feel safe.
And in order to feel safe,
you want to control your environment.
So sometimes you become controlling, sometimes.
So much of what we see that's being labeled narcissists,
so much of what we see in our society,
it's about their need to feel safe.
It's them speaking from their pain
and hurting people hurt people, and it gets passed down.
Okay, let me see what you guys are saying.
My father never let us stop believing in Santa Claus
every year around the dining room table.
Okay, so this was one that, boy, we're not letting go
of his not even childhood, we're sticking to this.
And was he a fat man that came down your chimney in a sleigh?
And he took his sleigh to everybody?
Like, wow, some of our beliefs are that silly.
Some of our beliefs are that silly.
And then what happens when we're asked to put our faith
and believe in Jesus?
Man, we've been disappointed so many times,
but that's another story.
Okay, so where do we get our identity?
We're on the next page.
And this is kind of like the question I asked you earlier,
who or what is your source?
Who or what is your source?
And for some people, like, man,
they're counting on their pension fund, that's their source,
or they're counting on their job,
or they're counting on their client.
They're not looking from a place of how can I add value
to their client, or maybe that's secondary.
They're saying, if I could just get a client,
I could pay my bills, because my client is my source.
You see, and so we get all this twisted, right?
Well, the same thing is true with our identity.
Where do we get our identity?
And so for some, their identity is being a mother.
Why do you think we go through such trauma
with empty nests for many?
Some didn't get their identity from being parents.
They were great parents, but it wasn't their identity.
So when the kids left, they're like, cool,
this is the next season in my life.
What business am I gonna start?
What ministry am I gonna jump into?
They were cool.
For others, it was completely grieving and devastating,
like now that I'm not a mom, who am I?
Some, it was around their money,
and they had really done well,
and then something came like 2008 or the pandemic,
and their identity was, I'm a business person,
I'm a wealthy business person,
I'm an influential business person,
and all of that is stripped away.
I've had some women this week saying to me,
I feel like everything is being stripped away,
but then it's kind of like David,
we get to discover who are we?
And so where do you get your identity?
That's the question.
Is it from your money?
Do you feel less than when you don't have money?
Some of you, it's your degrees.
I mean, I'm looking at some really intelligent women
on this call.
Some of you that I'm looking at have multiple PhDs.
Sharon is a two PhDs, three.
I mean, I'm looking at some brilliant women here.
No joke, okay?
And on all levels, brilliant in so many different ways,
in healing, in writing, in serving, in ministry.
I'm looking at Peggy Gifted in healing
and laying hands on people.
So, but the question is, if that's stripped away,
did you like lose your identity?
Is your identity based on people or things or resources?
Remember this week, I'm giving you a lot of review.
This week we talked about,
we can have an external locus of control,
meaning that something outside of myself
is necessary for me to be happy, healthy, prosperous.
Or we can have an internal locus of control
that says out of the heart flows the issues of life.
Rivers of living water flow out of my innermost being.
I'm the temple of the spirit of God.
I have the mind of Christ.
It's coming from an internal perspective.
So you've been taught.
You've been programmed to have external thinking.
It's not biblical.
You've been programmed, and therefore you've been striving all week was about
breaking, striving, and I pray you've gotten some insight where that's coming from.
So you've been programmed by striving to get if I can just get money.
If I can just get a man, if I can just get clients, if I can just get my book.
Like we keep thinking that it's about getting.
External locus of control.
It's not about getting you were never put on this planet to get.
You were told that all things.
Are in you, how beautiful.
Sharon's been such a beautiful woman of faith, and she went through a time
in between jobs and being a homeless, and we came alongside her in the Prosper
Leader membership, and she said, when I was homeless, God spoke to me.
Make your home in me.
It's like I've got to live truth.
Those of you that are fatherless, God will speak.
I am your father.
Those of you looking for a husband.
I am your husband.
Those of you looking for peace.
God says, I am your peace.
Right.
So, yes, he is our everything, everything you could ever want.
And where is it? It's in you.
Remember, they were looking in Judaism.
The Hebrews, the Jews were looking for the solution to their problems.
What were their problems?
They were oppressed. They were under Roman oppression.
They were being treated terribly.
They were oppressed.
And their whole hope was that a conquering king, a conquering Messiah was going to
come, this was their programming, and he was going to tear down these Romans,
and he was going to establish them.
So when Jesus came, Jesus came for one purpose.
They started projecting onto Jesus.
You're the one. When are you going to do it?
When are you going to get rid of these Romans?
When are you going to establish the kingdom?
And
and people were teaching them that it's over here in this cave or go over there.
And Jesus said.
If they say that the answer is in the cave or the answer is over there, don't go.
And he said something so profound that must have made them go, huh?
He said, the kingdom of God is within you.
The kingdom of God is within you.
See, this is an internal locus of control.
Jesus said, the peace that is in me, I give to be in you.
Jesus, that's internal locus of control.
Jesus said
the last prayer, Father, may they be one.
It's another lie that we're separate.
May they be one.
And may they understand that I'm in them and you're in me.
And like, may they understand that everything's inside.
That I'm hidden in Christ.
And Christ is in me, I'm the temple of the Holy Spirit,
and I'm to guard my heart because out of it flow the issues of life.
Out of the heart, the mouth speaks, you see, so do you understand if you're
going to learn to and you've got to do this to get to truth?
If you're going to learn to reason correctly, you've got to start learning
to reason from internal to external.
And it'll stop the chase, it'll stop the angst, it'll stop the striving,
it'll stop the frustration, you're not here to get anything.
You're here to release what's in you,
the rivers of living water, the peace, the joy, the wisdom,
the mind of Christ, the power, the dominion.
You're here to release the healing.
You're here to release the peace.
Do you know, he said, you can go to a house and you can release your peace.
How many of you do that?
We're actually supposed to pray that we're
supposed to come to a house and release our peace.
Do you have enough peace to be able to release it?
Jesus was in the boat during a storm and he was sleeping and fear took over with
the disciples and they wake them up and they're speaking from a place of fear.
Don't you care?
We're about to die.
Fear exaggerates.
Jesus had enough peace that he could look
at the storm and say, peace, be still.
By the way.
I've got close friends that walk in the Holy Spirit, I've got one.
named Doug he was in the Philippines and the hurricane was set just about
15 years ago. The hurricane was set to land right where he was
And this man of God went to the point the very point where the hurricane was going to hit put out his hands in
prayer and
Diverted the storm to go in Jesus name. Do you know that storm?
Back to the testimony
Job, I think your cat just unmuted you there we go
and so so he got to the end and
Just like Jesus peace and the storm came and it split off in two and it never hit
You've got to remember what Jesus said greater is he that is where
In you
That he that is in the where the world and
Yet, we're constantly
Cowering at the next thing that we're fed when our spoon is given to us our spoon of poop
Be afraid because the next XYZ give it a name is here
Be afraid submit control
cower
because the next
To make you afraid and control you fear is used to manipulate if you haven't figured that out, right? Oh
Have we been off track Linda? This is nothing like anything. I've ever taught. Is it I
Don't know how many times you take this it's gonna be brand-new because the Holy Spirit's brand-new fresh manna fresh manna
Okay, so
Where are we?
Where do we get our identity Jesus got his identity from the father?
We see it in Matthew 3 at the baptism
We see at the baptism that Jesus obeys where he was led. He asked John his cousin to baptize him and
he comes out of the water and a voice from heaven says this is my son and
whom I'm well-pleased and
The Holy Spirit in the form of a dove
lands on Jesus since you got the Father Son and the Holy Spirit got the whole Trinity right there in the baptism and
So he he heard from the father
I'm a son and I'm loved and I'm not having to earn this
There's nothing I can do and you're a son and you're a daughter and there's nothing you can do to make God
Love you more or less. This is not about works
you know, I I
Had dinner with a Muslim man of God loves God with all his heart
but I I listened and
There was so much fear and desire that somehow God would accept him that if he could do enough good deeds
that that he would be
Accepted and he had the right heart. There was so much fear. I just pray that God will accept me
I just pray that I'll do enough good deeds. I pray he honors my good deeds
I pray and that was his whole his whole life was around that I say enough prayers. I do enough actions and
Jesus was so different Jesus on the cross said it's finished and
And
The whole
all of
Hebrews all of Galatians all of man so much of the Bible is it's already done
It's already done
So this is not about you working to be a good girl or a good boy to be good enough again
We've asked are you trying to get to something? Are you trying to get to God?
Are you trying to get to heaven? Are you trying to get to something? Or are you coming from?
and if you're coming from
Christ in me the hope of glory
You're coming from
love
You see and so so Jesus was coming from that he got his identity from the father and
so
There's a powerful exercise for you to do right there and I want you to write down
Real quick write down. Who do you say you are?
What do you most commonly don't make it fancy and pretty I want you to be real what do you honestly often say about
yourself
What do you put after the words? I am this is a this is a time to be truthful. And then then we're gonna
I compare it to what God says in the next section,
somebody put, right, I love it.
Terry says, breakthrough is happening in me right now.
I'm so thrilled.
Dana says, I'm a daughter of the king.
I'm a daughter of the most high.
That's the truth that goes on the bottom.
We wanna make sure that what we're saying in the top
lines up with that.
And if it does not, you're gonna write it down.
And like we did in earlier exercises,
you're gonna take a red pen
and you're gonna draw a line through it
as a symbolic that this is not the truth.
This was a lie that I believe
that exalted itself above the truth.
And from this point on,
I'm going to affirm only what scripture says about me.
And so much of this comes from going into the wilderness.
This is why morning routine is so very important.
It's so very important to be still and know that I am God,
to biblically meditate, so important, okay?
And that's why we do in the Prosper Daily,
the whole top of the first page is about the golden hour.
It's our time with God.
It's the most important.
It's when we're setting our sail
to what the rest of our day is gonna look like,
the rest of our week, the rest of our month,
the rest of our year.
And so, remember we said,
we go from awareness to choosing
to then doing those actions on a daily basis
until they become habit,
that we're no longer, they become unconscious.
We don't even have to think about them anymore.
I don't have to think about spending time
with God in the morning.
I've done it for 40 years.
I don't have to think about it.
I don't even have to write it down.
It's as natural as breathing.
It's part of my routine.
It's a habit, right?
And so we develop these habits.
Love it, Victoria, I'm fearfully and wonderfully made.
I'm loving, I'm loving your chats there.
I'm daughter of, I'm a mountain mover.
Yeah, we talked about, you know,
say to the mountain, be thou removed,
the mountain of debt, whatever, mountain of fear.
I love that.
You guys are putting some great comments.
Job, I'm joyful regardless of the circumstances in life.
Yes, because if you're coming from an internal perspective,
and I celebrate that job,
especially you're going through a lot of,
we talked and you weren't on the call, job,
but we talked about all week,
the battle between faith and circumstances,
the battle between faith and circumstances.
And you've had a lot of circumstances.
Your daughter has lymphoma going through,
you know, going through the chemotherapy,
and yet you're choosing to be driven.
And the Bible says that the joy of the Lord is my strength.
And joy comes from the inside.
It doesn't come from our circumstances.
And so praise God for that.
And I celebrate that with you.
I've seen many of you go through hard times
and I celebrate that.
And you're still here, Sharon, you're still here.
And God blessed you with a job.
And I just, you know,
I'm thrilled that you're choosing to still be here,
no matter what.
That you're choosing to step out in faith.
Susan stepped out in faith
because she understood that coaching,
that coaches need coaches,
that she wasn't going to get the clarity.
She wasn't gonna get the clear direction
and the accountability and the step-by-step
to move forward without coaching.
It didn't mean she already had everything.
She had to dig deep to say,
I'm gonna step into coaching.
And I can say that about so many of you, right?
And so we're coming from this internal place, right?
So beautiful, beautiful.
Okay, and so then what happens
is that identity is tested.
Now, what we're gonna do
is we're gonna take about a three minute break, okay?
Because the mind can only absorb what the butt can absorb
or whatever that saying is, okay?
So I want you to get up and stretch.
I want you to drink water
because we're gonna dig deep now
into how do we get this breakthrough?
How do we really get clear on our identity?
So we're gonna get into,
we've been covering a lot of scripture
and we're gonna really get into
how do we get there from here?
So take a quick break, fast, come back,
get a drink of water and we'll see you quickly.
Get the record.
So welcome back.
like that song was casting crowns and the voice of truth.
Out of all the voices, I will choose to believe the voice of
truth. All right, who's been getting some some real
breakthrough ideas, pop in the chat. Anything that is just
starting to really come to you as you're as you're going
through today or this week, pop in the chat. What's coming to
you? What's coming to you? All right.
Clarity. Wonderful. Wonderful. Clarity is so important. Love
it.
I'm not what has been spoken over me. So big. I love that.
Thank you, Terry. Yeah, I had some pretty terrible things
spoken over me. I'm with you, sister. Dana Clarity and your
tribe. Wonderful job confirming my identity in Christ daily.
Yes, ma'am. So beautiful. So beautiful. Okay. All right. So
the next step in there, there's there's two things that the
enemy tries to take from you. One is the word. Okay, if he
can keep you too busy to know the word. Remember, the Bible
says that that the word just comes in even between the bone
and the marrow. I mean, the word transforms the word heals
the word births in you. And so if, if we can be kept separate
from the word that and we're not growing in that way, that's the
first thing to try to take away from you. And the second thing
is your identity. If you cannot know who you are, then you can
be molded into someone else's image or into your own image.
And not the truth of who you are. And so what we saw is that
in Matthew three was the baptism, Jesus got his identity
from the Father. And then in Matthew four, we see the
tempter shows up. And then Matt and the tempter says, if you are
God's son, you see, you see, you could circle that word if that
that was the key right there. If this was not an if question,
the voice came from heaven, Jesus knew it, everybody heard
it, I'm pretty sure the tempter heard it. But if you're God's
son, prove it. And so here is the desire to already have him
not know his identity and have to start proving in other words,
have them think he's not good enough and have to prove it by
overworking by doing works by performing. Sound familiar? You
don't know your identity. And now you need to prove that you
are good enough. So much of your life has been proving that you
are good enough. And so if you are God's son, prove it command
these stones to be made loaves of bread. And he said, if you
are God's son, throw yourself down for it's written, he will
give you his angels charge over you. So twisting even the word.
Right. So if you don't know your identity, others are going to
try. Yeah. To tell you who you should be. They'll so often
anybody have somebody that just shoulds all over them all the
time. You should do this. You should do that. I I've got one
daughter that just loves to do that. And I keep asking her to
stop shooting all over me. You should do this. You really
should do this. Or maybe you're shooting all over yourself.
Because you've lost sight. See, this is the fruit of not knowing
our identity is we're letting other people tell us who we are,
what we should do what we shouldn't do. Right? Who we
should be who we shouldn't be. Yeah. So there's an interesting
story as we continue on in in this scripture. And I just want
to check they're saying something to us over on
Facebook. Let's see what that's saying.
to us. Okay, love it. Okay, so the steps now as we're going to really discover who are we,
this is really an uncovering, this is really a discovering. So we're discovering who we really
are by removing what we're not, who or what that we're not. We're stripping away these lies,
we're stripping away these stories that really have made you play small and perform differently
and show up differently and maybe not pursue your dream, maybe not. Here's another big one around
this, around the desires. You know, scripture says that God gives us the desires of our heart.
So one of the first things I do in coaching, I do something called the tournament of desires.
So we want to get you clear on your values, get you clear on your desires because the bible says
God, you know, will give you the desires of your heart. But you have been trained, we've all been
trained like dogs, you know, we've been conditioned and many of us have been trained that desires are
bad and that having a desire is bad. Those of you that have the selfish shadow, the greedy shadow,
all of that that was programmed into you. So we're really afraid to even desire something, okay?
And yet those desires don't go away, God gave them to you. And people go, well the heart is
desperately wicked. No, not the redeemed heart. The redeemed heart is where the kingdom of God is,
where the spirit of God is. And the redeemed heart's desires line up with God's desires
and they're key to your divine purpose. And the desires provide the strength and the energy and
the confidence and the courage. And so if you've been constantly shutting down your desires, a lot
of times when I coach women, they don't even know what they desire. So they're even afraid to have a
desire. They haven't even thought like that. Maybe they've just lived very selflessly all their life
and so they just live for what the kids wanted and what the husband wanted and what the church
wanted and whatever. And so they've never... So we want to strip away who we're not. So there's
this very interesting... I have this book that was gifted to me. I can grab it without
dropping everything. And it's called People of the Word. And it's 50 words that shaped Jewish
thinking. So it's looking at biblical Hebrew words. And so each one breaks down the Hebrew
word and you learn something about it. And it's very eye-opening because we're Judeo-Christians.
We have more than half of our Bible that comes from there. And so it's very fascinating. And so
this is what it says in one section here. And what I'm talking about is the exodus,
if you've turned the page on discovering who you are not. And we're talking about the exodus. And
many of us think of the book of exodus and we think of the exodus from Egypt as just a single
event, a historical event. Some of you also think of it as a metaphysical event or whatever.
And there's many layers to scripture. But this is what it says in the book that's so fascinating.
It says much of Jewish tradition is focused on the exodus from Egypt. It says it is recounted
through the Jewish scriptures and included in major festivals, not just Passover. According to
Hadistic teaching, the exodus is not just one event but a paradigm for our current life.
It is not only a geographical location, but look what it is when you look at the original word.
It's a limited state of mind that we must transcend. So the exodus represents all the time
you've contracted. Remember we're in your expansion. All the times you've contracted in your thinking,
you've limited yourself, you've limited God, you've limited possibilities. And so this limited
state of mind that says, I can't, I can't do this or I'm not enough or I don't have
enough. I don't have the education, I don't have the money, I'm too old, I'm too young,
I'm too fat, I'm too thin, I'm too single, I'm too married, whatever. We've got this
limited state of mind. And so it says we learn a lot from the Hebrew word for Egypt, which
is Mitzrayim. The word Egypt means limitation. The word Egypt means limitation. And so the
truth is that exodus from Egypt also includes being liberated from internal bondage. This
is what it says in People of the Word. If Egypt represents the tyranny of self-limiting
beliefs and behaviors, the exodus signifies our spiritual journey toward expansive. We're
in your expansion formula. It represents the spiritual journey toward expansive perception
and limitless potential. That's right there on the bottom. People of the Word, 50 words
that shaped Jewish thinking. So a very powerful exercise, a very powerful exercise. And I'll
tell you a story real quick. And it was about, I want to say 15 years, I'll have to look
at my journal, I'll have to say probably 15 years ago. And I shared this during the week
that I was on a trip to New Jersey. And I entered this little country church and the
worship music was going and I was lost in the worship. And the Holy Spirit spoke to
me so strong and said, cast out the slave woman and set her free. And I shared that
story yesterday. And if we don't really do this work to step into who am I? Who does
God say I am? What is God made me to do? What's my divine purpose? What's my divine
vision? What's my divine destiny? You know, each of us has a different fingerprint, a
different eye print, each of us, we're completely different. Because we're created,
the Bible says in Ephesians, for a good path that has been laid out in advance. There's
a there's a path for what you're here to learn to do to experience to be mostly to be.
It's less about doing and more about being, who are you and who are you called to be? And
so when we don't know who we are, we're driven by that slave woman, I was driven by that
slave woman. When I said who or what is driving you, I was driven by my wounding, much of
what's being created, even in the coaching space is being created from a place of wounding.
We're being driven, mercifully, without mercy, like we're being driven to, to sacrifice,
we're being driven not to sleep, not to eat, we're being driven to wear our bodies down,
we're being driven from this place of wounding. To prove that we are enough to prove that
that there isn't lack to prove whatever it is, we're trying to prove that we really can
do it, whatever it is. And so it drives us. And so one powerful exercise to do, and there's
a powerful book that I really recommend. And it's called Be Your Future Self Now, by Dr.
Benjamin Hardy, Be Your Future Self Now by Dr. Benjamin Hardy. And it's a wonderful
opportunity to step into and operate from a place of who you really are and who you're
called to be, and not to break free from your past. So he brings a really wonderful perspective,
you know, I was trained in counseling psychology, and we've kind of been trained that life is
like linear that, that we have all these experiences in the past, and those experiences in the
past are making us who we are today. And what we do today is determining what our future
and it's very linear. There's newer psychology that is emerging.
that is showing a different perspective.
And that is, we really biblically only have now.
The Bible is so clear.
Well, it's today, today.
Now is the day of salvation.
Jesus said, take no thought for tomorrow, like today.
And so we live in the today.
That's all we have.
We can't change the past.
It's all done.
It's happened.
You can't go back.
You can't do anything to it.
You can't go back and redo it, make it new.
The only thing you can do is go back and drag it into now.
And so what he teaches in that book that I really like
is that we're not actually seeing the past as it happened.
We're seeing it through the lens of all the beliefs
and all the things we've come to accept.
And so we have a choice.
We can look back at our past and we can bless it.
We can forgive it.
We can release it.
We can glean the lessons from it and leave it there
so that we live in the now unhindered by the past
and the stories of the past.
And we can dip into the future.
When Paul talks about running the race to win
and all of that, we can see the target where we're going
and we can borrow from the future and live like that today.
And this is our God-given image maker.
So one of the most powerful things is to begin living today
the truth of who you are and the truth of who you desire
to be in this future, the true you.
And you start living from that place.
And so everything you do, let's say this happy, prosperous,
generous, successful woman that we see in the future.
And then as you're going through your day, you say,
who would this happy, healthy, prosperous woman
have for friends?
How would this happy, healthy, prosperous woman
spend her time?
How would this happy, healthy, prosperous woman dress?
How would she speak?
And you begin to bring that and you begin living it now.
And there's lots of just amazing stories in that book
and a lot of things.
And so this whole idea of stepping into the fullness.
And so one fun thing you can do is write a letter
to your current self from your future self.
And so what would your future self say?
And you can also do it to your past self, right?
What would you write from your current self
to your past self?
You didn't know any better.
I forgive you so much of what was spoken of you
wasn't true, you actually are beautiful.
So you can speak there, but you can go into the future self
and write a letter to today that you're already
that happy, healthy, prosperous, generous, beautiful,
God-fearing woman.
And what would you say to yourself?
Hey, you don't have to strive, you're already beautiful.
Let me tell you, it's gonna be so good.
Let me tell you, you got this more than you think you do.
Let me tell you, most of the things you worry about,
they're never gonna happen actually.
Like you can begin to speak to yourself that way.
It's a fun, fun exercise.
And also, like I said, begin the practice.
Would my future self do this?
Susan, I'm a best-selling author,
I'm a television personality.
And so you go to buy your clothes and you say,
would that successful author and television personality,
would she wear this?
Would she do this?
How would she spend her time?
Would she read this?
Would she watch this?
Would she speak this?
Right?
Maggie and Kate, just like transforming communities
for Christ and bringing equal opportunities
and health and all of that.
So would that person who has now done this,
what would she say today?
Right?
And so there's a beautiful prayer.
And the prayer is, Lord, help me to be still.
And teach me to hear your voice.
And show me, show me who I truly am in your eyes.
Help me to remove the false identities
that I've put on myself.
And the masks I've worn trying to fit in
and trying to be light.
and loved and accepted and the mask I've worn trying not to be hurt, would you strip that
away that I can step fully into the beautiful woman, the beautiful, courageous man that
you've created me to be?
Will you empower me to be rooted and grounded in love and truth?
And so if you can take some time, maybe after this call, to go in nature, to ground, put
your bare feet on the ground, be under the trees, and just pray the prayer, Holy Spirit,
show me me.
Take a pen and paper that you can journal, show me me as you see me.
And so what you're learning is to be more discerning.
When people say things to you or about you or the media says things, or you say things
to yourself when you look in the mirror, or you recall things that have been spoken over,
you're learning to be more discerning to say, wait a minute, that's not true, no, no, no.
Temperature gauge, that doesn't line up with the word, no, no.
And you get the ability to say, that's not true, and I know that's got a low frequency
fruit, and I reject that, and I return it to sender.
I've had people out of pain say horrible things to me, people that are supposed to love me.
And they've predicted horrible futures out of their angry for me.
You're going to die broke, you're not even going to afford a nursing home, and no one's
going to visit you, and you're going to, I mean, word curses, people out of their pain,
they speak word curses, and you've got to learn to quickly put up the shield that says,
that's not my reality.
Or maybe the news tells you, this is going to happen to you.
This is the economy, and this is where you're going, or this is, excuse me, where you're
health is going.
You've got to learn to say, write this down, that's not my reality.
That's not my reality.
Someone says to you, you better save, you're not going to have any money, you shouldn't
be spending any money, you're going to be broke, do you understand?
I had someone say to me today, they haven't gone into coaching, a real gift for coaching,
they haven't gone into coaching for like a decade, because people told them there's
no money in coaching.
Say what?
I don't know about your circle of friends, I've got six-figure coaches all around, seven-figure
coaches all around, eight-figure coaches, say what?
That's not my reality.
You can't make any money doing that.
You've been taught the starving artist concept, you can't make money as an artist.
You've been taught the starving author, you can't make any money.
What lies have been spoken over what you can do, what you can't do, who you are?
You've got to say, is that true?
What fruit is it producing?
And if it's a lie, sorry, return to sender, that's not part of my reality.
And I get some amens in the chat or in a Facebook group, but am I talking to anybody?
Yeah, you really have to, the doubt and unbelief that gets put, and somebody said, I broke
it off my mom last night in prayer.
Yeah, we've been really having to break off some of this stuff in prayer, because we're
still living out our mother's pain, or our grandmother's pain, or our great grandmother's
pain.
I mean, this is being passed down over and over and over.
It's like, where did you learn this stuff?
In order to get this belief, where did the belief come from?
First of all, did it just come straight down from heaven?
Did you come up with this?
Was it a divine revelation?
Like where did you get this belief?
You got it from hurting people.
And where did those people get that belief?
They got it from hurting broken people.
And where did those people get it?
They got it from hurting broken people.
You ever heard the story, the daughter was visiting the mom, and the mom cut off the
end of the roast and put it in the pan and put it in the oven.
And her husband said, why does your mom always cut off?
And that's a lot of good meat.
Why does she cut off the end of the roast?
And so she said, I don't know, I'll ask her, Mom, why do you cut off every holiday you
cut off?
There's a lot of meat there.
Why do you cut off the end of the roast?
And she said, I don't know, Grandma always did it that way.
I'm going to call Grandma, I'm so curious.
Curious, doesn't make sense to me.
Three generations.
Grandma, I'm at mom's.
We're making roast.
Mom cuts the end off.
And she says that you always did that.
Why did you cut the end off of the roast every year?
She says, oh, honey, the pan that I had was too small.
How many beliefs that are too small
got passed down for generations?
In our family, we don't make money.
In our family, we don't get an education.
In our family, we don't show up like that.
We're not those kind of people.
Am I talking to anybody?
I wanna hear from you guys in the chat.
I don't know, maybe I'm just talking to myself.
Am I talking to anybody here?
Is this resonating?
Are you getting some things to completely break you free?
Love to hear in the chat.
I had created a survey and I don't know,
maybe Linda can figure out where to find it.
I wanted to ask you a couple of questions
so we could help future people,
but I couldn't find the survey that I created before.
So maybe Linda can find that and bring it up.
Okay, let's keep moving.
So let's talk then as we go.
That the cost of all of this, by the way,
is that our self-worth is tied to these identity issues
and our self-worth pushes us to extremes.
I wanna share another story
and then we're gonna have some verses
and we're gonna have a powerful prayer
to break off this stuff, okay?
So it's really, really interesting,
the story in Luke chapter 15.
And I don't know, let me see if it's in your guide.
I don't see it in your guide, no.
So I'm just gonna tell you the story
and you can go read Luke 15,
read it in a couple translations
and maybe Linda, we could add that for future, make a note.
Luke 15.
So the story opens in Luke 15
and it says, there was a father.
And so this is really a story in Luke 15
about what our heavenly father is like.
So when it opens in Jewish and in Christian
biblical theology, when it's opening,
it's telling you what it's about.
And so there was a father.
So this is a story of a father.
And secondarily, the father had two sons
and so it's a story about two sons.
And I wanna see if you relate to either of the sons
and how our self-worth just in our identity
pushes us to extremes.
So the first son,
and I'm reading in the passion translation here,
it says, and this is a parable that Jesus told by the way.
Once there was a father with two sons
and the younger son came into his father
and said, father, don't you think it's time
to give me a share of your estate?
So the father went ahead and distributed
between the two sons, their inheritance.
And shortly after the younger son
packed up all his belongings
and traveled off to see the world.
And he journeyed, go ahead and mute yourself, please.
He journeyed to a far off land
where he soon squandered or wasted
all that he'd been given in a binge
of extravagant and reckless living.
And then the rubber hit the road
and everything was spent and he was hungry.
And so it says that he attached himself
to one of the local, there was a famine in the land
and he attached himself to one of the people
asking for a job, just help me, help me.
And he gets hired by a pig farmer.
Now remember, this is a good Jewish boy
from very high class.
Even touching a pig made you completely unclean.
For sure, you didn't eat a pig
and you didn't hang out with a pig.
And if you even touched it,
so it's violating everything he knew of his faith.
But it says that he took a job
and it says that he lived in the pig pen with the pigs.
And it said he ate some of the pig food,
which was carob pods.
And it says he would have.
continued to eat. The Amplified translation says he would have continued to live on the pig food,
but it could not satisfy. So when we're out of our identity, and we're operating out of fear,
and lack, and out of desperation, and we're living in far less than God has called us to be,
and we're contracted, and we try to live contracted life, but this problem surfaces that
he has, which is he's hungry. And what I can tell you from the translation is he's hungry
spiritually, he's hungry physically, he's hungry emotionally, he's hungry, and what he found is
no matter how much wine women song, no matter what he tried, it could not satisfy. Any of you done
the striving deal? You got the companies, you got the raise, you got the degrees, you got you did
all the striving. Any of you got there and it could not satisfy? Write that in the chat. If
you've been down this journey one way or another, write down could not satisfy. You did what they
said. You got the job, you got the education, you got the raise, you got the husband, you got the
company, you got any of you have tried that route that is not based on your true identity, it's based
on performance, and you got there, and you found out it could not satisfy. Pop in the chat, pop
in the Facebook group. That was me. Amen, amen, amen, amen, amen, amen, amen. Okay, love that.
Okay, and it says something interesting. It says he came to himself.
There's that awareness that we talk about. Transformation becomes, comes from awareness.
Change comes from awareness. It says he came to himself. So I pray that today you're getting the
food to come to yourself, and so he started talking to himself. He came to himself, and he
started talking to himself, and he started remembering, and he's thinking, you know what?
In my father's house, I never went hungry ever. I never lacked for anything. I mean, even the servants
have all that they could possibly want with plenty to spare. They lack nothing, and then he asked the
question, what the heck am I doing? Like, you wake up awareness, and you go, what the heck am I doing?
I did that, striving for decades. I was like, what the heck?
You're able to make changes based on your new identity.
That's why I only work three and a half days a week. You're able to attract a different level
of client based on the new identity. You're able to charge the prices based on a new level of
identity. It's based on the value that you bring, the results that you deliver, not what people tell you,
and so, but he hadn't gone to that whole transformation. He got the awareness. Now he
has to use his God-given ability to choose. He a little bit mischooses, and so he says, you know
what? I'm going to go back home. I'm going to repent. Repent means turn and go the other direction,
and I'm going to go to the father, and I'm going to say, father, I sinned, and then he's going to say,
please let me be one of your servants, because one of the servants, I'm not worthy to be your son.
Let me be a servant. Now here's an interesting thing. Any of you have kids? You've got sons?
I've got a son. Daughters? I've got a son. I've got one son, two daughters.
Do I look at it? Do you look at it like they have to be worthy? Like if they're not worthy, do you
say you're not my son? If they're not worthy, do you say you're not my daughter? If they, even if they go
and they veer course, and they try drugs, or they're promiscuous, or they leave the faith,
or they do, do you ever get to the place that you say you're not? I mean, if you do, it's out of your
pain. I mean, we don't do that as parents. Our kids don't have to do something to become a son
or become a daughter, and Jesus said, if you, on earth, filled with sin, miscreations, and perceptions,
know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more does your father in heaven,
and yet here we are, still trying to perform to get to heaven, still trying to perform to get God
to love us, still trying to perform to show we're a good Christian, still trying to perform to be
good enough, yeah? So he decided,
he's going to perform. Let me just be your servant. And the scripture says that while he's still a
long way away, the father saw him and the father came running to him. And it says that he was
dressed as a beggar. You see, you see what happens when we don't have our identity. It affects our
self-worth. He saw himself as a grasshopper. He saw himself as a beggar. He dressed as a beggar.
He showed up barefoot as a pig farmer, stinking, smelling. And the father runs to him and embraces
him. And the father puts a robe on him to remind him that he is royalty, that you are co-heirs,
that you're seated in high places with Christ, you're heirs. He put shoes on his feet to remind
him he's not a beggar. Jesus says, I don't call you servant. I call you friend. A servant doesn't
know, but I tell you everything. He put a ring on his finger to signify authority. Jesus said,
I give you power. I give you authority. So he kisses him and he shows tender love and he loves
him and they get back home. And he says, kill the best cow. We're going to celebrate. My son was
dead. He's alive. He's here. We're going to have a party. And the second son hears about it.
And the second son, maybe you're not the first son. Maybe you were the good girl and you didn't
go the rebellious route. There's one of each kind. Maybe you were the one that stayed home and you
were the self-righteous son, the other son. And the self-righteous son gets very, very angry
and says, what is this all about? He wouldn't even go into the party. This man has, you know, spent
all of his money on righteous living. Well, I've been here working. Can't you see? I've been serving
and you haven't given me a fatted cow. Maybe you're saying to God, you haven't answered my
prayers, God. You haven't given me what I asked for, God. I've done the thing. I've gone to church.
I've read the book. I've done the thing. And you haven't done anything. And the father answer is so
profound. The father says, son, you're always with me and everything that I have is yours.
You see, your true identity breaks the separation from God as something far away that you have to
strive to get his approval or to be a daughter or to be good enough or any of those lies.
And Jesus, the last thing he prayed is you'd understand, no, you're one, you are loved. There's
nothing you can do to make God love you more. There's nothing you can do to make God love you
less. And so we're breaking those two main lies, right? The lie of separation that God is somewhere
far and you got to try to get to him. And the lie of lack that you don't have enough and you can't
get enough. And Romans 12 says, be not conformed, don't be shaped by the world, but be transformed
by the renewing of your mind. This whole week has been about renewing your mind and stepping
into scripture. And so near the last page where it says, discover your identity,
scripture tells you so many things. I'm going to read just a few of them and then we're going to
close with a verse and a prayer. And so scripture is, first of all, you know who you are by knowing
who God is, right? And scripture says you're accepted. John 1, 12 says you're God's child.
John 15, 15 says you're a friend of Jesus. First Corinthians 6, 17 says you're united with the
Lord. You're one with him. Ephesians 1, 3 through 8 says you're chosen, you're adopted.
Colossians 2, 9 and 10 says you're complete in Christ. Hebrews 4, 14 to 16 says you have direct
access to the throne of God. You're secure. Romans 8, 1 and 2 says you're free from condemnation.
There's no condemnation. Romans 8, 28 says everything in your life is working together
for good. Romans 8, 31 to 39 says you're free from condemnation.
You cannot be separated.
There's nothing that can separate you
from the love of God.
Philippians 1.6 says that God will complete the good work
he started in you.
He'll finish what he started.
2 Timothy 1.7 says you haven't been given a spirit of fear,
but a power of love and a sound mind.
That's 2 Timothy 1.7.
1 John 5.18 says you're born of God
and the evil one cannot touch you.
What have you been afraid of?
A demon in every bush?
You have all power, authority, dominion.
You're not a helpless, hopeless victim.
You're significant.
John 15.5 says you've been chosen.
You've been appointed to bear fruit.
John 15.16 says you're God's temple.
You're the container of the Holy Spirit.
1 Corinthians 3.16 says
you're a minister of reconciliation for God.
2 Corinthians 5.17-21, this is a big one.
2 Corinthians 5.17-21 says you're seated with Christ
in the heavenly realm.
Where are you deciding from when you make choices?
When you view things, when you govern,
are you ruling from that higher place
that can look down with compassion?
Or are you in this contracted under place
that you're making decisions?
I've shared my rule of thumb with you.
To never make a decision based on fear or lack
because both of those are lies.
They're both illusion.
Never make a decision based on fear.
Fear is not of God.
Perfect love casts out fear.
Never make a decision based on fear.
Never make a decision based on lack
because the Father says you lack nothing.
You have access to all of heaven,
all the gold, the silver, everything.
God is your source.
You have, he says he will supply all your needs
according to his riches.
Never make a decision.
So 2 Corinthians 5.17-21 says you're seated with Christ
in the heavenly realm.
You see how I'm washing you in the word?
Jesus says to be washed in the word.
I'm washing you in the word right now.
Ephesians 2.6, we're gonna read that one.
So beautiful.
And Ephesians 2.10.
Ephesians 2.6 says that you are God's poema,
God's poetry, God's masterpiece.
When I say we gotta line up how we view ourself,
are you looking for every word, every wrinkle,
everything that's wrong?
Or are you looking in the mirror and saying, praise God,
I'm God's masterpiece.
Praise God, I'm God's poetry.
Praise God, I'm beautiful in his eyes, right?
And it says that we are his handiwork, his workmanship.
And we're born anew that we can do good works,
which God predestined beforehand,
taking the paths which he prepared ahead of time
that we should walk in them.
Look at this.
The path's been already laid out for you.
There's a path for you to walk on.
What about that?
This is in the Amplified Translation, Ephesians 2.10.
Living the good life that he prearranged
and made ready for us to live.
So embracing this truth means that we go back
and we discover who really am I?
Who does God say I am?
We break off the lies, we begin to practice that.
So let me close with this scripture and then with prayer.
Linda, if you all don't have,
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Okay, I'm going to finish on time by George.
Let me just, I don't know who George is,
but let me read this to you, okay?
Read this verse and pray.
Okay, Ephesians chapter 3, 16 and on.
Listen to this, just soak this in for a minute.
In fact, put your feet on the ground,
take a deep breath and exhale.
Always make your exhale longer than your inhale.
As you breathe in, say yah.
As you breathe out, say way.
Okay, so we breathe in, we say yah.
Let's do it again.
Yah.
Way.
Now I want you to say, I am who God says I am.
Say it out loud to yourself.
I am who God says I am.
And I can do what God says I can do, which is all things.
You can see it behind me.
I am who God says I am and I can do what God says I can do.
I can do what God says I can do.
All right, listen to this real quick.
May he grant you out of the rich treasury of his glory
to be strengthened and reinforced with mighty power
in the inner man by the Holy Spirit himself
indwelling in your innermost being and personality.
Are we talking external or internal?
Internal.
This prayer is saying that he wants to give you
out of his incredible treasure of glory.
He wants to give you strength.
He wants to give you power.
By the way, that's the same power
that raised Christ from the dead.
It's deuteromous power.
He wants to live, indwell in your innermost being.
That's why there's no place you can go that God is not.
When you walk in a room, God's still there.
David discovered that.
He said, even if I make my bed in hell, God is there.
I can go to the furthest ocean, God is there, right?
So may he grant you that.
Verse 17, may Christ through your faith.
Remember we learned in this series
that faith is activating the promises of God.
So may Christ through your faith actually dwell.
The Amplified Translation says, settle down, abide,
make his permanent home where?
In your heart.
And may you be rooted deep in love
and founded securely on love.
Remember we said everything has two tracks, right?
Fear or love.
This is about being rooted and grounded in love.
How you look at yourself is gonna be with the eyes of love.
How you speak is gonna be love.
How you act and show up is gonna be out of love.
Verse 18, that you may have the power
and be strong to apprehend and grasp with all the saints,
God's devoted people, the experience of that love.
What is the breadth, the length, the height,
the depth of God's love?
So that we can have the power to actually grasp this.
How high, how wide, how deep?
Verse 19, this is big, 19.
That you may really come to know.
I pray this series in your expansion formula,
that you may really come to know practically.
This is practical.
This is about your business.
This is about having a seven, eight figure business.
This is about having relationships.
This is about practical.
God is very practical.
May you really come to know practically
through experience for yourselves, the love of Christ,
which far surpasses mere knowledge.
We're not just talking about getting this in your head.
This is not a head thing.
Surpasses mere knowledge,
that you may be filled through your whole being
unto the fullness of God.
In other words, just visualize this,
that you may have the richest measure
of the divine presence
and become a body fully filled and flooded with God himself.
And now to him who by an inconsequence of his power
that is at work, where?
Within us, put your hand on your heart at work,
within us, not out there somewhere,
is able to carry out his purpose
and do super abundantly,
far over and above all that we dare ask,
think infinitely beyond our highest prayers,
desires, thoughts, hopes, or dreams.
This is the word of God.
This is the will of God, a God who is infinite love,
who dwells in you,
who desires to give you exceedingly abundantly
above and beyond anything you could ask, hope, or imagine.
If you've asked it, God wants to give you more.
If you've hoped it, God wants to give you more.
If you've imagined it, God wants to give you more.
That's our God.
He's that big.
He's that much love.
God is love.
And that's what he desires.
That's his will for you.
So the trick is, we've got to stop counter dictating that.
We've got to stop using.
our imagination to counteract it with fear, with doubt,
with worry, the things that cancel the miracles.
That's what this Your Expansion formula has been about.
You don't have to see yourself as a grasshopper.
You don't have to be contracted.
You don't have to think or live or be or play small.
You no longer have to try to keep yourself safe.
You are safe.
You're hidden in Christ.
You no longer have to try to be enough.
You are enough.
You're the temple of the Holy Spirit.
You have dominion.
You have power.
You have authority.
You have the mind of Christ.
You have the power of life and death in your tongue.
Now is time from this awareness to choose this,
to make it a habit every single morning, every single day,
to renew our mind.
We're transformed by the renew, making new.
Now it's time to align what we think and feel
and say about ourselves with what God says.
Yes, who's ready?
Who's leaving this place different than they showed up?
I'm so grateful you chose to be here.
I would love to come alongside of you coaching.
I would love to have you in the Prosper Leader membership
when God said, gather the women,
and he showed me women linking arms,
carrying across the finish line.
I'm seeing the most miracles, the most beautiful partnerships
and alignments happening, and it's only going to get better.
So I invite you to be a Prosper Leader member.
That's a gift.
For those of you that are coaching with me,
I invite you to coach with me.
If you don't know where or how, book your call.
Let's figure it out.
Let's figure it out, OK?
I'll see you next week in the AI Masterclass.
Watch your emails.
You'll get notifications.
You'll get the link.
You can just find it at learn.brendabyers.com.
You'll see it there.
And that's where I'm going to give you
the practical strategies, like how do I reach these leads?
How do I grow my business?
How do I make money?
How do I save 15 to 20 hours a week?
That's next Saturday, OK?
We'll see you there.
I love you.
Thank you so much for being here.
And we'll see you soon.
God bless you.