Hi, ladies, welcome.
Happy Monday evening.
It's good to see you all.
If you can, if you're able, you're not driving, you're not eating, please turn on your cameras.
We're going to always ask you, at least I am going to always ask you to do that when you join me for a live session.
It's really good for me to be able to see you as a coach, but also for you all to practice being seen.
Coming out of hiding is really important in your phase one heartwork journey and beyond.
If you have a name, like administrator, Zoom user, if you all can, if you hover over your picture on Zoom, the three dots, if you click on that, and then it's called rename, if you can just put in your first name, at least that way I know who you are.
I'm going to call you by your name, so we can all see who you are.
I'm going to put my name as my name, and then I'm going to put my picture on Zoom, so I can see you all.
Just because there's times where God will lead me to say, call people by name, and I want to be able to use your name, so that helps me, and also just so I know who you are in the program.
All right, so again, welcome, my name is Bethany Cooper.
Please tell me in the chat that you're new, you're joining us for the first time, that way I know who our new ladies are.
I know that we have some that might even join us here in a little bit.
We have several new ladies that joined in the last week, so I imagine at some point, we'll have some people joining for the first time.
Hi, Tara, welcome for your first time.
And all of our ladies that have been here for a while, wave and welcome Tara and Christy.
Wave and welcome them, help them feel really welcome.
It's so good to be here with all of you tonight.
Always want to remind you all to stay connected in community.
I know that there are a lot of things going on in the world, especially with the hurricane and all the effects.
You know, we are praying for all those that have been impacted, as well as family members and all of the things.
But also beyond that, your own personal life and what's happening.
But you're here during this time for heart work, for an appointed time and appointed purpose.
And we believe God has divinely led you here.
And so we want to encourage you to stay connected, stay in community, come into the app or the Facebook group.
And I don't want either group to worry.
Those that started in Facebook are just finishing their journey in Facebook.
But after a certain point, we have everybody in the app, but same things are happening in both places.
But just want you all to come into those groups and engage, post in there, let us know how you're doing.
And at the end of every live session, we are going to be issuing what's called activation.
Some of you are like, what's an activation?
An activation from my standpoint, I'm not sure if Jackie would describe this differently,
but it's a way for you to take what you're learning in a live session, as well as in the heart work program and activate it, partner with it.
So taking quick action on something helps make it very real, helps accelerate the supernatural healing process.
And ways beyond what you guys can ask, think or imagine truly.
So I encourage you all as much as you can to take quick action on the activations that I give or Jackie might give in our live sessions, as well as on Supernatural Saturday.
Sometimes I know you all that it can seem like, oh, my gosh, I already have a lot to know and keep up with.
But I promise if you stay engaged and just do your best every day, you're going to get to where you need to go.
Okay, stay engaged. We love you.
We want to be here for you.
If you start to struggle in any way, please don't allow the enemy to cause you to isolate.
Come into the group and say, hey, I'm really struggling today or this week.
Can you pray for me?
Y'all, do you know that you can ask for prayer in the community group?
I hope you do.
Now, for those that are joining us for the first time, it's super important for me to tell you this.
You get to check your helper hats at the door.
No matter if you've been in ministry forever, counseling, you're a really big helper and you just love to help people.
You get to take all those helper hats off.
And myself and the other coaches are the ones that are going to be helping people.
So even sisters that might be really struggling, I want to encourage you all.
Those that are members of this program, you do not have to be the ones to help them.
That's what myself and the coaching team and Jackie are here for.
But you can definitely cheer them on and just let them know you're praying for them.
So just want to make sure everyone knows that.
And it's a good reminder for the ladies that have been in the program for a while as well.
I want to let you guys know that we're going to have a special session coming up this Sunday.
If you didn't know, we just had a prophetic night last night.
be in your replays probably tomorrow if it's not already there. But we are going to do another
special session. It's a very prophetic anointed time during Rosh Hashanah this week happening as
well as the new year beginning and we are just really feeling led to lead people into some really
special important times with the Lord during this week. So that's going to happen Sunday evening
this Sunday October 6th at 8 p.m. Eastern Time. That's 7 p.m. Central and 5 p.m. Pacific. We'll
put a post in there that will also be in your events area. We'll make sure you guys know how
to get connected to that. Basically it's just taking place of our regular Sunday night prayer.
Okay so you can use the same link that you would use for Sunday night prayer but we're just going
to repurpose that night for something special. For those of you in the program no matter where
you're at this is my reminder for you tonight regarding disruptions and distractions. I want
to encourage you to stay focused even those guys that you broke up with or they broke up with you
and all of a sudden they're coming out of the woodwork. Yes stay focused. I want to encourage
you to continue to surrender those people to the Lord and trust that you're here you're moving
forward and understand that the enemy is going to try to get you to go where backwards backwards.
So we want you to stay focused keep moving forward and I want to encourage you all just to
if you don't know we encourage everybody in phase one to press pause on dating and interacting with
men. Okay here's why because you all need this time for you. You came here because there was a
reason that you have felt stuck and you haven't found the spirit mate the God you believe God is
leading you towards and we want to help you get to that place as well and one of the ways we have
found that this is uh works really well is when you all really stay engaged in your healing process
and don't get distracted with guys. I promise if you will give yourself the five weeks or seven or
ten however long it takes you we we really prefer best practice one week of content per week. If you
need to take a little bit longer that's fine we don't want you rushing and binging on videos and
binging on the book y'all you're going to miss things if you do that so give yourself at least
one week per week of content to work on that but also to really focus on what God wants to do in
you. If you will do that if you will give yourself permission to invest fully in yourself in this time
I've been through this program several years ago so I'm telling you from experience
you will experience supernatural healing and shifts that you need to not just attract a guy
but to attract your spirit mate a really healthy amazing man that God is going to lead you to okay
trust me in this your your process will be accelerated later on supernaturally in ways you
can't even imagine right now truly all right my last focus uh update for you is um just keep
showing up okay just keep showing up and let us see who you are what are some things you love to do
you all know you can come in the group and just say hey I had a great week this week this is
something fun that happened yes you can do that in here I want you all to look across the zoom room
I know some of them it's just names but these ladies in here are a part of what we call your
sister squad even though some of you are going to move out into phase two before you know before
the ladies that just joined yes some of you all are going to become friends more than what you can
even understand or comprehend right now if you will let yourself become a part of this community
and really let the ladies in this group in I was in the wedding of one of our phase two coaches Carla
you guys that will later go into phase two you will meet her there I was in her wedding one year
ago I met her in this program I absolutely love her she's one of my sisters and I believe that
that can be possible for you all as well if that is something that you want all right that's all
for the catch-up tonight let me pray for us father god thank you so much for everything that you're
doing god I thank you for your divine protection and redirection at times god we thank you for
supernatural healing and grace in our midst tonight holy spirit we ask you to come and have
your way remove any blinders any filters any triggers that would happen tonight we thank you
god that you would place the balm of gilead upon our hearts bring those things out of darkness into
the light so that there can be healing and redemption and reconciliation and restitution
in ways that we can't even imagine we thank you for supernatural heart surgery happening tonight
Yes, Lord, we thank you that you love your daughters, you love your sons, and I thank you that you are creating kingdoms, families, and marriages through this movement, through this generation, through this time, and in the lives of these ladies that are here tonight, that that is what you're going to do.
We thank you that this is an Esther 414 moment. For such a time as this, you've called them. We thank you for their yes. We thank you that you would help them to hear what your spirit is saying to them tonight, that you would give them eyes to see in the spirit as well.
We thank you, Father, for sending your son Jesus, and Jesus, we thank you for coming, for shedding your blood on the cross for our sins, for our healing, for our redemption, but also so that we could be in relationship with you.
Thank you for not leaving us alone. Thank you for the truth that Psalm 68.6 says that you place God, the solitary and families. For those that feel alone tonight, I thank you, God, that you would remind them that you have placed them here and they can choose to be a part of this family.
And we just thank you for leading them here. In Jesus name, amen and amen. All right, ladies, if you did not know there is a video in week one. So even if you're past week one, some of you all are in week three and four and maybe further, and you haven't done your Jesus cares board yet.
You're not in trouble, I promise. But here's my loving reminder and encouragement. Please do your Jesus cares boards. Here's why. This is an important part of you inviting Jesus and that physical reminder of Jesus, I believe that you care about these cares and worries and concerns that burden me and I'm going to take them off of myself and put them on to you, Jesus.
If you're just starting this program, you will see that video in week one. Jackie will explain she's going to tell you a story and then she's going to explain what the Jesus cares board is and she's going to show you an example of her Jesus cares board. It can be very simple ladies.
If you want to be more artsy and crafty and do something that is different than hers, it is totally fine. You do what feels best for you. Okay. The point is just to get it done to get it started and then what? Post it in the group. We want to see pictures of it. Why does that matter?
Because a myself as a coach and the other coaches can choose to see your Jesus cares board pray over those needs and partner with you and believing that Jesus is going to work in every one of those cares on your board. It also is you saying I'm coming out of hiding and I'm choosing to believe myself that Jesus is working in these cares in my life. Okay.
Be sure to do that. If you haven't done it yet, those of you just joining us brand new, you can do it this week as you're in there week one watching that video and working on that. We look forward to seeing those.
I want to talk to you all a little bit about supernatural surrender tonight.
And I want to start at this place. Some of you may not believe this or know this, but God is a gentleman.
What does that mean? It means he's not going to force his way in.
Well, why does that matter in the heart healing process? Well, because some of you, whether you realize it or not, subconsciously have put do not enter signs up on parts of your heart.
Maybe not all of your heart. Maybe you feel close to God in some areas, but there's just other areas that you're just really not wanting to go into.
And for some of you, you've been in counseling for years. You've done all kinds of programs. Some of you have done other healing programs.
And I want to encourage you if the Holy Spirit brings something up in this time.
It's because there's another peak. He's just wanting you to take another look at that. It doesn't mean you have to go all the way back through your trauma.
But there is something he's wanting to show you. So here's something that you're going to, we want to encourage you to get really good at asking God questions.
So for example, I was sexually abused when I was younger. And when I went through my process, I had already done work on that.
But guess what? Holy Spirit brought that up in my process. And so I learned really quick, like, Lord, I know I've worked through this before, but you're bringing this up.
So is there something you're wanting me to see about this? Is there a new layer of healing that you're wanting me to walk through?
Is there something that I didn't know before that you want to reveal that's new?
So just have a conversation with God about it versus just dismissing it like, I've already done this. I don't want to do this again.
Be very open in this process. I want to encourage you all to just ask the Lord to help you take down any do not enter signs.
And to give God full access. Full access.
That means...
There's no broken bridges. There's no keep out signs. There's no do not enter. It's full access.
All roads lead to yes. Yes, Lord. You can enter my heart. Yes, Lord. You can enter this really
broken area. Yes, Lord. You can enter this broken relationship with my mom or my sister,
or you can enter this broken relationship with my child. Whatever that looks like for you all,
God wants you to invite him into that. He's not going to force his way in.
So if you didn't know, Revelation 320 confirms it. It says, Behold, I stand at the door and knock.
If any man hears my voice and opens the door, I will come into him,
and he will suck with me and he with me. A lot of times we believe that's just about
accepting and inviting Jesus into our lives as our Lord and Savior, but I believe it's also about
the daily invitation. God is daily knocking on the door of your heart saying, Can I come into
this area? Can I come into this situation? Will you trust me? I feel the Holy Spirit on this.
I'm going to stay here for a minute. Will you trust me with this burden, with this unfulfilled
promise that you believe I've held out on you? Y'all, God is not a God that dangles carrots
as a trick. And I believe some of you tonight, he wants you to understand that the enemy
of your soul, the enemy comes to kill, steal, and destroy, but Jesus Christ came to give you life
and give it to you more abundantly. The enemy has tried to cause you to believe that God's a trickster,
that he's a liar, that he's deceitful, and that he just, he's never going to come through for you.
He comes through for everybody else, but not for you. That's the lie of the enemy.
And tonight, I want to encourage you to let that lie go and partner with the truth that
God is a good father. He's faithful, and he will come through for you, not just everybody else,
for you, for you, Friendshi, for you, Camilla, for you, Mariska. Yes, every one of you, ladies,
I could call you all by name, but tonight he is saying, Trust me, open the door of your heart to
me and see what I will do. I'm going to read just a brief thing from the book. I don't give page
numbers when I do live sessions because the ebook page numbers are different than the physical book.
The content's the same, but it just, just listen and kind of soak it in. At some point, you all
will read it anyways, but it says this, Ever since we were toddlers, our mantra has been, I do it
myself. I do it myself. Y'all had little kids. Anybody had little kids? I know my kids did that,
even as they got older, even myself as a teenager, I can remember just being adamant that I didn't
need help. Y'all, can I get a witness that us ladies also do that as adults? Hello? I don't
need anybody's help. I got this all by myself. We're going to talk about that in other weeks
because we want to get rid of that. It's okay for us to be strong, ladies. I can get all kinds of
things done all day long, but y'all know what has been really amazing is letting my husband do
things for me. It's not been easy, but it's absolutely been worth it because you know what?
I don't have to do everything by myself anymore. And here's another thing for you. For those of
you that aren't there yet, obviously you're here in heartwork. Even before he came into my life,
my husband, I was practicing this in heartwork and beyond before I ever met him, letting friends
help me. My best friend, I called her one day like, Hey, can you ask your husband if you'll
come over and help me hang this cabinet? Some of you, I want you just right now, even just start
asking the Holy spirit. Is there something the Lord wants you to ask someone to help you with
this week? This didn't come up this, this afternoon. So I believe this is a Holy spirit.
Some of y'all need to let people help you. And you need to surrender to the idea that you just
have to act like you have it all together all the time. And that you just have to be strong.
And if you show any signs of weakness, that that's bad. A asking for help isn't weak.
It's not a weakness. It's you opening yourself to relationship. It's you opening yourself
to community and to love and to connection. Okay. I'm going to go on. We've been programmed
by our broken world to never depend on anyone or anything. And people that do are considered
foolish and naive all through our lives. We are taught overtly and covertly that it's a good
thing to be in and stay in control. And that is a lot of hard work. One of the main reasons we
don't want to depend on anyone else. Guess what? It's because we don't want to be disappointed.
So I want to ask you all right now, just to ask the Holy Spirit, be 100% honest with God
in yourself right now.
Are you putting up walls and we're going to talk about this more in a little bit and not
letting love in, not just romantic relationship, love, even love and community and friendship.
Some of y'all have been hurt in churches.
Some of y'all have been hurt by other friends and community groups.
And so you're even afraid, like you're here, praise the Lord, you're here, but you still
have walls up.
You're like, I don't know about this.
I don't, I don't know if I even want to share in this group.
I don't, I would just rather be on the wall and just, just kind of watch.
If that's you, I love you.
There's no shame.
There's no condemnation or guilt.
I don't want you to receive any of that.
If you feel that during any of these live sessions, that is from the enemy because he
doesn't want you to feel safe.
But I want you to know absolute like love for you.
I don't want you to stay there though.
I want you to come into community.
I want you to get out of your comfort zone and really embrace everything God has for
you here because it's, it's really going to be beautiful and glorious if you allow it
to be okay.
In this process as well, in our supernatural surrender process, we want to encourage you
to ask for revealings for healing.
We don't want you to dig.
Okay.
So the difference is somebody who gets their shovel out and they start digging into past
generation and start asking their parents and it's okay to ask every now and then questions,
but y'all, we don't need to go dig up graves.
Okay.
We need to ask the Holy spirit.
Is there anything you want to bring to darkness until from the darkness into the light, Lord,
is there anything you want to reveal?
If you get offended word, Hey, I feel offended about that.
Is there anything you want to show me?
Like, why am I getting so offended?
It might be because of what that person did, but it also might be because you need healing
and you're getting super triggered over something that really isn't a big deal.
So be open.
Don't dig.
Ask the Holy spirit to reveal for healing and trust what he brings up and lean into
the Holy spirit.
And you guys will hear me talk about pull the thread.
I'm going to, I'll do that during my coaching sessions.
It's actually something that just, I don't know, over the last three years as I've been
coaching in this community, it just pulled the thread.
So what I mean by that is this, we encourage you to ask the Holy spirit.
What is the root trauma that I experienced that led me to where I'm at right now?
Like whatever the thing is that you're struggling with where you're stuck.
And sometimes you'll be like, I don't know if it's the root thing.
It's okay.
Just pull the thread, pull the thread on what is the Holy spirit bringing up right now?
Even if it's just a random thought and you're like, why am I thinking about this great school
playground incident?
I don't even think I was hurt by that.
Well, the threat Lord, you're bringing up this situation from when I was in elementary
school on the playground.
Is there something you want to reveal to me through this situation?
It's that simple.
Y'all.
Okay.
So you just pull the thread means you just start asking the Lord about what's coming
up.
And then as he starts to show you, what can happen is it may, it doesn't always, but it
might lead to another situation.
And then it might lead to another situation.
And then you might find that underneath of those is the root.
Okay.
Everyone on the same page with me.
Okay.
And for those of you that have been in a few weeks, this is good reminder.
So keep soaking this all in.
I listened to things over and over and over when I was in the bootcamp and heartwork,
that's what we used to call.
Heartwork was bootcamp.
It really, really is helpful.
I'm going to now pray over you all, uh, the submission activation.
This is in your books as well.
Again, I'm not going to say the page just cause it won't really matter to you.
Cause it's a different page for you in your ebook, but I want to encourage you.
I am big on before y'all go into breakout.
For those of you that are new, what we do in breakout also, just so you know, is I put
you in a, a breakout room and you're going to get a pop-up to join that room.
You are probably going to be in a room with people that you don't know.
And I want to encourage you don't avoid conversation, lean in, lean in again, get out of your comfort
zone and engage.
These ladies will truly, this is, I've been doing this for three years.
You all in three years, I've never had someone say someone hurt me in a breakout room.
So I hope that doesn't start now, but I don't think it will.
And so we honor one another.
You don't have to fix anybody in the breakout rooms.
Remember you just give everybody space to share, love each other, support each other
and all of that.
And then when we come back together, I'm going to ask who's willing to share with the whole
group, what you shared in your breakout.
And then I'm going to do some group coaching and I'm going to share some more con content
and then we'll do the breakouts again.
And that's how pretty much every.
session will go. Sometimes Holy Spirit takes way over and we always invite him in but sometimes
he takes over and we do more content on the front end and and it might look a little different but
tonight that's the plan so we'll see what happens. But for now I encourage you all just to put your
hands out. Submission activation if you all surrender and you're letting go I want to
encourage you all to practice this often okay. Even at home alone with the Lord. Just Lord you
picture people in your hands that he's asking you to surrender. Lord I just I surrender these people
to you so I'm going to teach you something right now. Surrender these people to you and I trust
that you're working in their lives and you care about them more than I do. Lord I surrender my
life to you. So just this posture. I want you to maintain this posture with your heart healing.
Okay as you stay with your hands open you're going to close your eyes. I'm going to read
this submission activation over you and then I'm going to put you into breakouts.
Father God I give you permission to search me and to reveal anything in my heart that does not
belong to my true identity and that is hindering me from living the life you created me to live.
Holy Spirit I invite you into the darkest places in my heart. Show me the areas that are still
wounded and are still hurting. When you reveal these broken places to me I covenant with you to
release them into your care and to respond with forgiveness and repentance. I set aside the season
of my life for a time of healing and wholeness and ask Holy Spirit to take charge of this process.
I ask that you dwell with me and in me. I need you. I cannot heal myself. I want to be free
from the past. Free to be who I truly am. Help me to become who you created me to be.
Show me the lies that I have believed about myself,
my life, my surroundings, even the lies I have believed about you.
Teach me the greater truth. Teach me your ways. Teach me how to think and how to live abundantly.
Teach me. Show me. Heal me. Grow me. In Jesus name. Amen. Ladies he will do it. He will do it.
Just keep asking him. Keep surrendering every day and he's going to show you. So this is your
question for breakout room number one. What are some things that God has been nudging you about
as I've been talking tonight about surrendering to him? Like what's something you need to surrender
to him tonight? Okay. Maybe it's an area of your heart that you need to allow him to come into.
Maybe it's, you know, a situation that you need to surrender. Maybe it's a worry,
a fear, whatever it is for you. What do you need to surrender? Remember again,
we're taking down do not enter signs and we're saying full access Lord. Okay. All right. Here we
go. I'm going to give you all eight minutes. Go ahead and click to join those rooms.
All right. Let's see. Julia, Lucy, Lua, Marsha, Nisheto. Can you all join groups tonight?
Awesome. I know some of y'all might not have great connection. Let's see here. Oh, that's
totally fine. Nisheto. That's that's good. You can stay here with me. I'm going to start to pray
here in a minute. All right. Father, thank you so much for all those that are in the breakouts
right now, as well as those that are going to be watching this replay. We thank you God for
revealings for healing that are happening. And we thank you God for just working in all of these
conversations. Lord, I thank you that you would help them to open up to their sisters and share
as well as again, those that are watching replay, may they post in the group and allow all those in
the group to come around them as they share those areas that they're going to surrender to you,
Jesus and you father and you Holy Spirit and trust you in this process. We thank you for
continuing to minister truth and life and hope in every area of their lives. And we just thank you
Lord for everything that you're doing. Ladies, hold on one second. I have somebody asking for
help, but I cannot go into that room. All right. We'll see what happens there. All right. So Lord
We just thank you also for just ministering peace
and truth and life.
We thank you for bringing your anointing
and your revelation and healing grace
into every mind and spirit.
Oh, let's see here.
Oh, awesome.
Okay, Alua, let me see.
You are in, hi.
Hold on one second.
Let me see, you're in room, is it three?
Where are you?
Oh, did you go ahead and log out of the other one?
You might've been in three.
I'll go ahead and put you in there.
Go ahead and join.
Okay, thank you.
Thanks.
All right.
Sorry, ladies, I was just trying to figure out.
Oh, we have someone else joining.
Thank you, Lord, as Joanna's joining.
Hi, Joanna.
How are you?
Oh, we lost her.
But we just thank you for helping every lady
just really submit this process to you
and allow you to come in
as you've knocked on the door of their heart.
Thank you, Lord, that they don't have to be afraid
because you're with them
and they don't have to be discouraged in this process
because you are their God
and you have them in the palm of your hand,
that you will strengthen them.
You're gonna help them.
You're gonna hold them up with your victorious right hand,
not just your right hand, but your victorious right hand.
So, Lord, we just thank you for victory.
We thank you that we fight from victory, not for victory,
that the victory has already been won
on the cross with Jesus Christ.
Hi, Virginia, did you get kicked out of your room?
Virginia, I knew that you sent a request for help,
but I'm not able to go into the breakouts with you.
So I don't know if maybe Melissa wasn't able to share
or talk in there.
All right, well, I'm gonna keep going.
Let me know in the chat
and I can kind of respond there accordingly.
So, Lord, we just thank you for that reminder
that we are fighting from victory, not for victory.
So thank you, Lord, for the supernatural victory
in every area of our lives,
that all things have passed away.
Behold, everything is becoming new.
So we thank you that you're bringing rivers in the wasteland
and streams in the desert, that you are doing a new thing
and that we will perceive it
and we will see that it is springing up.
We thank you for springing up, oh, well, within our soul.
We thank you for fresh and fillings of the Holy Spirit.
And I thank you, God, that we don't have to get tired
of doing any good.
At just the right time,
we are gonna reap a harvest of blessing
if we don't give up.
So, Lord, we thank you for fresh winds of hope,
grace, and courage, Lord.
We thank you for encouraging our spirits and our souls.
And we thank you, Lord, for bringing truth in life.
Hi, Emily, how are you?
The ladies are in a breakout room.
So they're gonna be back in like three minutes.
I can put you in a breakout
and you can just join in for a few minutes if you'd like.
I'm not sure if you can hear me.
I just need help with the, I'm muted.
I don't know how to fix this.
Okay, Virginia, I can hear you now.
Were you having trouble when you were in the room?
Yes, I can't like, I can't make it show my picture.
I can't unmute.
Okay, well, you're unmuted right now.
So that's what you would wanna do in the room.
You can stay here right now,
but then also, are you on a phone?
Yes.
Okay, so if you tap on your phone,
there will be, well, let me ask you this.
Does your phone have camera capability?
Yes.
Okay, so if you tap on your phone,
at the bottom, there's like a thing that says video.
Do you see that?
No, that's.
You might have to click where it says more then.
Do you see that?
Oh, you just muted yourself.
Okay, now you're on, oh, maybe not.
Am I still muted?
Now I hear you.
Hello?
Yes, I hear you.
Can you hear me?
Hello?
Okay.
I'm gonna keep praying.
Virginia, we can definitely work with you behind the scenes
with our admin tech team.
If you'll email admin at JackieDorman.com.
They can help you kind of work through how to get your camera to work and how to get
your phone to work so you can hear and talk properly.
Okay.
Awesome.
So let me just thank you for bringing truth in life.
We thank you for bringing peace.
Even when we have tech issues, we trust Lord that you put us right where we need to be.
So Lord, I thank you that you just even minister to Virginia right now, God, you know, everything
that she has need of, or we just thank you for insight and revelation on how to work
her technology, but also peace in the midst of frustration that can happen, at least
for myself, when I experienced stuff like that, I can feel frustrated.
So God, we thank you for peace.
And we thank you Lord that you, you lead us into wide open spaces and that you're, you're
bringing truth and you're bringing life into every area of darkness.
And we thank you for the truth and the reminder that there is no darkness for you, Lord, because
you are the light.
And so everywhere that you are, there is light.
There is no darkness.
You can't even like the darkness can't even comprehend you because you walk in and everything
changes.
So Lord, we thank you for illuminating and bringing light and life into every area of
our minds, our spirits, our bodies, and our souls tonight, our emotions, our mindsets.
We thank you for revealing areas for healing.
And just bringing also just Lord, your love and your acceptance and your grace.
We know it's already there, Lord, but help us to receive it.
God, your word says that you love us unconditionally, that nothing can separate us from your love,
not height, nor depth, nor principality, nor power, nor things in the present or things
to come.
We thank you that you would help us to become more firmly rooted and fixed in your love.
Help us to just remember that tonight that you would help us to return to our first love,
which is you, and that you would just reinvigorate our relationship with you, Jesus, and bring
new life, bring new revelation, bring new healing, and just help us to fall in love
all over again with your word, with your truth, with your life.
We see in Psalm 139, 23 through 24, that it says, God, I invite your searching gaze into
my heart, examine me through and through, find out everything that might be hidden within
me, put me to the test and sift through all my anxious cares, see if there's any path
of pain I'm walking on, and lead me back to your glorious ways, the path that brings me
back to you, in Jesus' name, amen.
All right, so welcome back, ladies.
When you are in breakouts, for those that are new, I tend to pray while you're in there
because the people that watch the replays, it would just be black nothing, so I pray
and declare things over you while you all are in there.
I also try to help other ladies get connected, so I don't want you all to come back and worry
that you're missing out.
If you want to go back and listen to those in the replay, awesome, but just know you're
being lifted up in that time as well.
Okay, who is willing to share with the whole group what you shared?
Hi, Shirai.
Go ahead.
Oh, you're muted.
Oh, there you go.
So I actually, this time, I found somebody that we were like, yeah, me too.
That's awesome.
We were just talking about how being in our 40s, how it's an emotional rollercoaster.
We have hot, really, we feel like we need to, we surrender and we feel really high with
our relationship with God, and then there's moments that would come crashing down.
And we were just talking about how, I guess, maybe what we need to surrender is comparing.
We both were sharing with each other that we look at, that we see other people and we
are wondering why it's, why it hasn't happened for us or to us or, and we, and we get angry
with God and we don't want to get angry with God, but we do get angry with God about it
because it's been a long time, a long time waiting and wondering when is it my turn?
Yes.
So good, Shirai.
Thank you so much for sharing that.
I appreciate that.
Yes.
You all, one of the biggest contenders in everybody's process that I have coached in
these three years is comparison traps.
That's what I call them.
Comparison traps.
The enemy is like constantly, whether it's about a romantic relationship or your job
or a friend, he always wants to get us into comparing ourselves with other people, thinking
that we're not enough and that they have everything.
We have nothing.
we're like supernaturally blessed, he's always trying to
cause us to think that there's something that we don't have,
that we're missing out on, and that God's holding out on us
because he wants us to believe the lie that God is not good,
that God does not see us, that God does not care. And so we
always have to resist those lies and partner with the truth that
God is for us. So who can be against us? God is on our side,
and he's fighting for us in ways that we can't even even imagine
right now, even while you're on this session right now. I want
you just to consider that Jesus is sitting at the right hand of
the Father interceding for you, by name, by name, and he knows
every hair on your head. And he cares deeply for you. When you
were sharing the highs and the lows, you said there's moments
that come crashing down. My question for you, Shirai, is in
the moments where you feel like that crashing down happens, is
there something in particular, and it can be a lot of different
things, but what comes to mind tonight when I ask you, is
there something in particular that happens that triggers the
crashing down?
Lots of times, it is scrolling on Facebook, and or getting a
getting a wedding invitation in the mail, or see, yeah, seeing
somebody else experiencing something that you that you want,
or that you desire and, and you just don't, and you just don't
understand, like,
so what is the lie? Okay, this is really good. We're going
somewhere really great with us. So I'm gonna if you're willing,
I'm going to kind of unpack this with you. So what is the lie
when you when you and I want you to know, I felt this way before,
so I can relate 100% to what you're saying. When you let's go
with the getting a wedding invite. Okay, let's go with that
one right now. When you get the wedding invite, you're going to
when you get the wedding invite, what is the lie that
you believe that triggers the downward spiral, if you will?
Why not? Why? Why her or him and not me? Okay, is that the lie
you believe? Or is that the emotion that follows? And the
thought emotion of thought?
I guess the lie is I'm never gonna have it's not gonna be
it's never gonna be my turn. Okay, like I'm always
celebrating other people, but nobody ever celebrates me.
Okay, so what's the lie underneath of that?
Disappointment? Yes. Yes, you're you're you're headed in the
right direction. So I'm not trying to tell you what's there
for you. But typically, ladies, if it's never going to be our
turn, what's the core lie that we believe?
That God will not come through for me.
That's right. That's right. And when we really get to that core,
and then we say, Lord, when is the first time I believed the
lie that you're not going to come through for me? When's the
first time I believe that lie? Because when we understand and
recognize the first time we believe that lie, every time
after that, that we believe that lie and partnered with it with,
you know, and again, subconsciously, this happens a
lot of times subconsciously, ladies, we're partnering with
these lies. And every time we partner with it again, like,
Yep, God, he's not going to come through for me. He didn't come
through me for me before. And he's not coming through for me
now. So it's just never going to happen for me. That's how we
partner with the lie. And when we do that, it creates a
stronghold. Okay, so that's how strongholds are created. So the
way we come out of those strongholds, and that they're
broken is we come out of alignment and agreement with
those lies. And we say, No, devil, I am not going to believe
that lie anymore. Even though in the physical realm, I'm not
there. Yet, I want you all to get real comfortable with that
word yet. Y E T. You may not be there yet. But that doesn't mean
you're not going there. You can be a bride you if you believe
you will be a bride. I'm not just saying name it, claim it.
But here's the reality. We have to partner with truth. We have
to stop partnering with the lies in the core. But how does that
happen? It happens because we ask God to come into that area
that that first place Lord, where did I believe the lie? The
first time that you don't come through for me. And when he comes
in and heals those areas. That's how the more that that
core areas healed, the more everything else is going to heal.
And you're going to start to get breakthrough and you're going to
start to gain
because here's the other reality, ladies.
When we're more free, we're more confident, we're healthier.
Guess what kind of people we attract?
Healthy attracts healthy, whole attracts whole.
If we're really, you know, have unhealthy,
even myself in the past, I was a big giver,
big giver, big giver, I had no boundaries.
And so guess what I attracted?
Takers, takers, takers, takers,
not just even in romantic relationships, but in friendships.
Y'all, I was surrounded by takers.
I still have to watch that today as a leader, as a pastor,
I have a big pastor's caring heart.
I have to set a lot of boundaries
because if I'm not careful, I can get out of balance
and the takers just come right back in
because they don't have any boundaries.
And if I don't have boundaries
and they don't have boundaries,
then they're all invading my stuff, right?
So I'm not saying I shut people out.
If the Lord tells me I need to kind of step back
from somebody in a season
because they're not in a healthy place, I do that.
But I'm not saying y'all have to just cut off relationships,
but we have to see, okay,
these are the areas that haven't worked for me before.
For me, I was a common denominator.
I kept attracting broken men that were abusive
and cheated on me and all these things,
and were big takers.
And so I had to be willing to look at,
you know what, I'm the common denominator here.
So Lord, what needs to happen and change in me
so that I don't keep attracting that
because I don't want that anymore.
And then God really led me into supernatural healing
in so many ways, y'all.
Things I didn't even know that I needed healing from.
And so Shirai, thank you for sharing.
I hope that was super helpful.
As you unpack this, I want to encourage you,
A, here's another thing, ladies.
I will tell you, mine was wedding announcements sometimes,
but honestly, the thing that was harder for me
on social media was seeing everybody having babies.
Because I've always wanted a baby of my own.
I've raised other people's kids.
I feel like I've done a good job helping them do that.
And I'm super grateful for the kids in my life,
as well as Brian's children now in my life as well.
But, you know, I had to really start limiting
my social media for a season.
When that really pained me, every time I saw it,
God just was like,
just stop looking on social media for as much right now.
I just, it wasn't that I never went on there,
but I just went on there less.
Because in that season,
my heart just needed time to get to a healthier place
to believe that God has that for me.
And that he hasn't forgotten me in that either.
And he's working on my behalf and he's working,
and he might even do it in ways
that I haven't even imagined yet.
You know, so want to encourage you all.
We've had some ladies, I'm not saying you have to do this,
but this might be for somebody
because it's come up in my spirit twice tonight.
So I just want to encourage you.
We've had some ladies while they're in heart healing
in this program, literally not watch TV
or go on social media at all.
I know that seems super like big.
So that might not be for everyone, like I said.
But if that's something that even right now,
you're like, ooh, Lord, that might be for me.
I want to encourage you just,
it doesn't mean that you can't watch it at all,
but maybe you just need to reduce
your media engaging right now.
Because you all, sometimes when we're filling our minds
with all kinds of stuff in our ears,
you know, everything comes through the ear gate
and the eye gate.
And when we're filling with all this other stuff,
sometimes God is speaking to us,
but we can't hear him as clearly
because we're hearing all this other stuff.
Does that make sense?
Okay.
So you all pray.
I'm not, again, I am never about rules and legalism.
I want you all to just pray
and ask the Holy Spirit for yourself.
Okay.
Brenda, go ahead.
Hi, I felt the Lord said to surrender finances.
Okay. Tell me why.
Oh, I didn't know.
I don't have to give all the details,
but what is like,
what was the main reason he put finances on your heart?
I feel like right now it's because I resigned
from the job I was at, which was a good thing.
I felt the Lord, you know, on that.
Like when I resigned, I felt the joy of the Lord on it.
Um, um, and I just feel like, um,
yeah, I'm just struggling with this
because I did get an offer for a new job.
Praise Jesus.
It hasn't started yet.
And so, but I'm going to be making less.
And so all of a sudden it's this, you know,
um, not trusting him for, for provision. And I've had this happen before. Um, but I tend to,
I think it's, I think definitely part of it is just the way I was raised and I'm the first
believer in my family. So it was always like work hard, you know, and, and, and make money,
you know? So all of a sudden when, when my job hasn't started, all of a sudden I'm like,
you know, about spending money and, you know, not looking to him.
So, so this is so good, Brenda. And I wouldn't have necessarily gone here tonight, but I love
that it came up tonight. 100%. I believe there's a lot of people that struggle in their finances.
I did, I did for years. And one of the things that I learned through heart healing y'all
seriously heart healing, this heartwork program can supernaturally change every area of your life.
If you will believe that and partner with that, it really can happen.
I genuinely surrendered every area. And there were certain areas, even like, I was just like,
okay, Lord, I knew that I needed transformation in my finances. It wasn't that I didn't have a
good job, but I, you know, I, I followed the, you know, you put money in 401k and I just didn't
have a lot left. I felt like I was living kind of paycheck to paycheck after that.
And I have two spiritual daughters. I was, you know, providing a lot for them as well.
But in that God started showing me how the way that I was raised and the way that money was
talked about in a lot of fears around money. My mom was a single mom. She didn't handle her money
well and therefore set a lot of negative things about money. And so those things were just still
in my mind and in my subconscious. And every time something happened, those things would rise up,
which is kind of what you're talking about. And so when you were talking, that's what I wrote
fears rising. And so I want to encourage you just to partner with you know, fear has to do with
torment, perfect love, cast out fear. So when we were, when we feel fear ladies about anything,
but in regards to what Brenda's saying regarding finances, Lord, what is the way that I'm not
feeling rooted in your love right now? That's causing me to be afraid that you're not going
to provide for me. Does that make sense? So typically if we feel rooted in his love,
if we feel secure, maybe that's a better word to kind of help bring that home a little bit.
If we feel secure in his love, when the waves come, we're still secure. We're still steady.
Does that make sense? Yeah. And so, um, as those fears rise, I want to encourage you to ask the
Lord, is there a lie that I heard growing up that is causing me to partner with fear?
Yeah. Yeah. I feel like when you were saying that, that my mom has spoken over me more than once.
That I'm not good at finances. Okay. So in Jesus name, Brenda, you are changing things for your
family and you are going, you know, I, I sincerely, I say stuff like this over even now, God, thank you
so much that you're helping me to become Bethany Cooper, a better steward of all of the finances
you give me that I'm going to be a bar or a lender, not a borrower that I'm going to have plenty of
money to give away all the time. And it's not about it like, Oh God, just going to constantly
know you all, but here's the reality. God wants to give money to his kids who will handle it well
and steward it well, so that we can what help other people that we are an extension of him
and his generosity is kind heart. Just like Jackie, if y'all weren't on last night,
the prophetic ministry, and I please listen to it. Jackie released a prophetic word
about supernatural provision that God led her and her husband to do for a woman that they met
randomly on the road. Y'all this stuff really happens and it can happen for each one of you too.
So Brenda, thank you for sharing. I believe God wants to continue to give you breakthrough
partner with the truth. God, thank you so much that I just come out of agreement right now.
This is the kind of stuff I would say. I come out of agreement right now with the lie that was spoken
over me through my mother that I am not good at finance. It's got to thank you that you are the
one that gives me fresh revelation and insight every single day. And you're going to teach me
how to continue to become stronger and a better steward in my finances. And I'm going to break
that, that lie off of my life every day going forward. Amen. Thank you. Yeah. So just keep
partnering with truth. Keep walking. You've got this. God's going to show you the way. So good.
All right, Maureen, go ahead. Hi.
Thank you. So I felt the Lord nudging me about giving up the dream of what I think my romantic
relationship is supposed to look like with him and with other like a significant other.
And I also heard the lie as one of the other women were sharing about why not me the lie
that spoke the lie that came up to me. Sorry, my dog knocked over my phone. I'm not good
enough is the lie that I hear a lot. And what I relate to is seeing engagement engagements
for some reason, every time I see somebody go like posting look, I'm engaged. I'm not
good enough to get that is the lie I've heard. But so recently, the past year, I've tried
to step out and date in their two failed relationships. And I envisioned and I had a dream for each
of them and hope that it would work because they were Christian men. And even going to
churches one with one of the guys we were holding hands in worship, and I just felt
like the Lord was nudging me to surrender that to him. Yeah, that's it.
So good. Y'all so many times, um, it's a really good place to be in when we surrender
the dream or the expectation of how something has to look. Um, you all, I would have never
swiped on, I would have never swiped right on my now husband in the past. I wouldn't
have. But God just kept highlighting him to me in the app. And so I said something to
my best friend, and she's like, just just go for it and see what happens. And y'all,
here we are two years later married. And I would have passed him right over. So just
planting some seeds for y'all. Okay. So one of the things in the I'm not good enough,
I'm again, y'all are going to hear me say this over and over and over again, but I do
this so that you remember, Lord, when is the first time I believed the lie that I'm not
good enough to whatever, if it starts with get the guy, if I'm not good enough to get
married, if I'm not good enough to be able to hold a relationship together, if I'm not
good enough to, um, you know, um, get invited out with my friends to the football game when
you were a teenager, I don't know why that just came up in my spirit, but just whatever
the I'm not good enough, wherever that trail started, it started somewhere. Most people
in general believe two big lies. I'm not, I'm not enough or I'm too much. And a lot of other
lies central, like kind of come around those two lies. So if that's you, you are enough.
God makes us enough. And on our journey, as we become more whole, more healthy, we realize
that, uh, in the moments that we feel that we're not enough, God is, is our strength
and our weakness, right? Y'all God will lead you to a spirit mate that will love you in
your inadequacy, just as much as they love you in your greatness. If you believe that
can happen for you, it's waiting and pursuing that kind of healthy and not settling for
less than God's best for you. And so as you invite the Lord into your process, I want
to encourage you, Maureen and anybody else that related to what she said, I want you to ask God
to give you some new dreams. And one of the activations tonight, I'm going to go ahead.
There's two, I'm going to go ahead and give you the first one right now, because I feel like
it's really good segue with what Maureen just shared activation. Number one, never will I ever.
It's a list. You're going to make a list. Never will I ever. And I'm going to explain this to
you so you know what we're looking for. Without realizing it along the way, we all start to make
a list mentally subconsciously. Never will I ever. I'm going to just start giving you some examples.
You guys can even start to write things down as they come to mind for you. Okay. Never will I ever
date someone with the name James ever again. Never will I ever date someone shorter than me.
Never will I ever date someone or marry someone that's a pastor or in ministry.
Never will I ever date someone who's in the military or a police officer.
Never will I ever date someone of another ethnicity. Never will I ever. Date someone
with brown hair. I mean, there's so many different things that we subconsciously
and a lot of times through hurt, through brokenness or, you know, criticism in our hearts because of
something that was done to us by a certain person with a certain name or certain look
and even just our own stigmas. Let's be real. Okay. Am I saying that God's going to force you
to marry someone you absolutely have no attraction to? No, that's not true.
That's not what we're saying.
But here's the reality, you all.
We have to surrender the pen.
Remember I said full access.
Full access.
Surrender the pen to the Lord
and let go of your never will I ever list.
Now, on the flip side, I am not saying,
we as a community are not saying
that you should get into a relationship
with someone who's abusive.
Sometimes we have people say,
never will I ever date someone who abuses me.
Well, of course not.
Of course not.
And I'm not trying to sound funny here or put anyone down,
but we would never want you to be in a relationship
with someone who's abusive.
Never will I ever date someone who is currently an addict.
No, we don't want you to be in a relationship
with someone who is currently an addict either.
So you don't have to put those on your list.
That's not what we're looking for.
We're looking for the, again, the kind of the stigmas,
the things that we partner with.
And we just say, I'm never being with someone like this.
And it tends to be connected,
whether you realize it or not,
it's often connected with things in your subconscious
that happened along the way because of hurt that happened.
I'm gonna be real transparent and honest with you.
One of mine, and I don't wanna offend any of my,
and I don't, when I say this, I'll be real honest.
Sometimes I don't know if I should say African-American
or black, and so just know, I love all of my,
like Mexican, Asian, I don't,
all the different ethnicities.
When I say this, I have so much love.
I have some of my best friends are of different ethnicities,
but growing up, my sister dated gentlemen that were black.
And the one guy in general, in particular, excuse me,
would not even come in and meet us as a family.
And it was really hard for me to see that happen.
And my sister got in a really bad relationship
and it did a lot of damage to her.
And so I just got really afraid.
And it had nothing to do with all people
of other ethnicities or all people that are black,
but in my heart, I was scared, okay?
So in my transparency, I want you all to understand
that I had to be honest with myself
and say that in my subconscious,
it wasn't because the color of someone's skin,
it was because what I saw my sister go through.
Here's the flip side.
I had a lot of white men, Caucasian men hurt me.
It's not about the skin color,
it's about what the person's character is.
What is the fruit that they're displaying
or the lack of fruit that is being displayed, okay?
So, but here's the thing,
I had to be willing to be honest with myself
and say, I had on my never will I ever list
that I was not comfortable dating someone that was black.
And I had to be willing to look into my heart
and look at why did I have that in my heart?
Do you understand?
And I hope everyone feels loved
that's of any other ethnicity here,
because I just feel like it's important
for us to talk about these things sometimes
because this is how we posture in our hearts
and even other, it goes both ways at times.
And so just know that it's important
for the Holy Spirit to guide this process.
There are gonna be God non-negotiables, okay?
So one of my God non-negotiables,
this did not go on my never will I ever list
because God did not ask me to give this up
and surrender this to him.
I've always wanted a child, always.
I mean, I was the girl that was with my baby cousins
and nieces and nephews holding the babies.
Like that is a part of who I am.
And so I knew that I wanted to date
and marry someone that wanted to have more children,
whether I have one biologically
or we have one biologically or we adopt or whatever.
I just knew they needed to be willing to do that.
So that's a God non-negotiable.
That was one of my God non-negotiables.
Y'all see the differences?
I hope I made this clear
and I hope I didn't offend anybody in the process.
If I did, I wanna encourage you.
If you felt offended,
please ask the Holy Spirit to show you why,
because I genuinely am releasing this
with so much love in my heart for all people.
All right, so I'm gonna start.
I see another hand went up, April.
I'm gonna have to move forward
because I wanna talk about control for a little bit.
And I want y'all to have another breakout session, okay?
Okay.
Camilla asked me,
is the man that wouldn't come in the house
the same man that hurt your sister?
Yes, yes, yes.
I mean, there were multiple men that hurt my sister.
My sister has lived a very, very rough life,
but that was one of the first memories.
And I was young, I was three years.
younger than her. So that was pretty big. Uh, like when she was, you know,
16, 17, when that happened, I was 13, 14 years old.
So that was pretty influential in my life. Um, all right.
Control is an illusion you all. So what do I mean by that?
It's a misleading image.
We get misled intellectually as well as in the physical realm by ideas of
control.
One of the things that the Holy spirit brought up this afternoon that I want to
mention today. And again, there's no shame or guilt or condemnation.
If y'all struggle with this, but OCD came up.
And I feel led to mention that again tonight. What do I mean by that?
OCD that you have about anything tends to
come out of people that have fragmentation and trauma because they
didn't have control when they went through things as kids or
even as adults. And so when they, when they went through trauma,
one of their coping mechanisms was to develop OCD methods.
Sometimes it can be excessive cleaning. It can be, um,
just having to have things, you know, just so in different ways,
like my youngest spiritual daughter was like really OCD about her bed at night.
Everything had to be tucked real tight and her and her sister,
they would fight like every night. I'm not joking about the bed,
because Michaela was just fine to just lay down. She was the older and Olivia,
just everything had to be so, so she couldn't have, um,
Olivia, the same, same one.
Couldn't have anything that she could feel on the inside of her socks.
So no decorative socks, all that.
But she also struggles with like when she feels very stressed,
she massively cleans. And so again, I'm just giving these as examples.
Y'all there's nothing wrong with it,
but I want you to be aware of it because I don't believe God wants you to stay
there. Okay.
I believe he wants to heal your heart and help you learn other, um,
ways to live your life.
And as you heal to maybe practice,
not always, um, doing those as excessively.
So that makes sense where you start to come into balance. Again,
it's not bad to clean. It's not bad to have things straight, right?
But it's when we become obsessed with those, because we,
we need that feeling of control.
That is one of the signals that you have trauma that needs healed.
Okay. All right.
We cannot control other people. We can't control outcomes.
We can't control circumstances. Um, so what can we control ladies?
We can control our beliefs about things as well as,
as our responses to situations.
So I talked today also about the difference between response and,
um,
response and re I forget how I said it today. It was so good.
Um, but basically like, you're just a reacting. Thank you. Thank you.
Lord reacting versus responding.
A reaction is just like what the way I consider it and it can be like small
reaction, but it can also be very big.
So I was thinking this afternoon, um,
that reactions can be very volcanic.
So you have all this stuff underneath the surface and somebody does something
and you're just like,
you go from zero to one 80 and you're angry and you're reacting.
And sometimes it's not always anger.
Sometimes it's shutting down and going like a turtle.
I'm going to use that as, and again, not making fun,
but literally people kind of,
they just go in the shell and they just hide from the world, right? So it can be,
that can be a reaction too.
So I don't want you always to think it has to be a big explosive thing.
Sometimes it's a very quiet, like, I'm just not going to let anybody in.
Nobody's safe kind of thing. So that's a reaction.
We want you to heal and start to respond instead.
So I want you to ask the Lord,
are there any areas that you are currently having constant reactions?
I gave some examples this afternoon. Yours might be something totally different.
Road rage. Y'all, it's not just men.
I have had more ladies like doing road rage on me
on the road than ever before.
Anger is at an all time high in our society.
People getting massively angry at their kids,
getting massively offended over things all the time.
Everything agitates us in this society. So what is,
what is the thing that causes the reaction and explosion in you be open to
hearing what that is and talking with God about it? Maybe it's your mom,
maybe just being around your mom. I don't know why that's coming up,
but that just came up in my spirit as well. You know,
those people that just get under your skin and maybe for good reason,
because maybe they've done a lot of hurtful things or said a lot of hurtful
things in the past. And the Lord wants to help you heal,
to help you be able to respond to them, even in the midst of those situations.
Doesn't mean we have to be okay with their mistreatment.
I wanna make sure you hear me on that, okay?
You don't have to keep being abused by people.
You can set healthy boundaries
and you're gonna learn more how to do that
over the next several weeks.
Here's one of the other things that's super important.
Boundaries, while they are important,
we also wanna make sure you don't go overboard with those
and just create a bunch of walls
as self-protection mechanisms.
Are you doing things in your life right now
to try to avoid pain, getting hurt, or disappointment?
Here's a quote from the book.
The more hurt we are,
the more we try to control our environment,
keep everyone right where we want them
so they can't hurt us.
Love is a risk, you all,
but it's a risk worth taking.
I promise.
Y'all know that even to connect with your sisters
in this group, that you have to be willing
to open yourself up to receive love.
To find your spirit mate,
you have to be open to the new things
that God wants to bring you and to be open to love.
We have some women that say they wanna get married,
they wanna meet their spirit mate,
but y'all, they absolutely hate men.
Even in this community, long into the program,
they just do not like men.
And so we're continuing to love them,
we're continuing to speak truth to them,
we're continuing to pray for their healing,
but y'all, if you don't like men,
you need to heal in that place
because one man or two men,
however many men that hurt you,
doesn't mean that all men are bad.
Okay, so if you're believing the lie
that all men are liars, all men are cheaters,
all men are lazy, whatever the lie is for you,
that's an area I wanna encourage you to ask God
to bring truth into those things and places as well.
Isaiah 26, three says,
you will keep him in perfect peace
whose minds are steadfast,
which means stayed upon you because they trust in you.
So as we trust in the Lord, he will keep us in peace.
It's time to yield control tonight, it's your night.
Did you know that this tonight is your night,
it's your time to yield control?
So what do I mean by that?
To give in, to give into the Lord,
to give into his trust, to his care,
letting go, conceding and waving the white flag
and saying, God, I cannot do this by myself,
I never could do it by myself,
but I am truly gonna take my hands off the wheel
and I'm not gonna keep taking the wheel back,
Lord, I promise, I promise, Lord.
And if I do, Lord, I thank you that you'll remind me
that I can trust you, I can truly let go.
And that doesn't mean y'all,
we just sit and wait for God to drop the guy at our door.
Y'all know, I actually, that's what I was asking God for.
I genuinely wanted God to bring the guy to my door.
I even asked him, like, it can be a UPS guy,
I don't even care, but he just has to love you, Jesus.
And he has to wanna do ministry too.
But y'all, that's not what God did and that's okay.
He had a different plan and praise the Lord,
I was willing to listen and walk with him in the journey.
When I encourage you all to partner with God,
he knows what's best for you every step of the way.
All right, so tonight we're gonna end the power struggle.
Agree?
Raise your hand if you are willing to let go
of the power struggle tonight.
Praise the Lord, we're gonna break free tonight,
we're gonna, April, yeah, your UPS guy's cute.
I don't even think I had a cute UPS guy,
so that didn't work out for me either.
All right, ladies, so here's your chance
to let go of control.
You're gonna go into the breakout room
and I wanna encourage you to share with your sisters.
I know it might seem similar to the earlier question
about where do you need to surrender,
but it's actually different.
Maybe some of you need to let go of controlling your kids.
Maybe some of you need to let go of controlling outcomes.
Maybe some of you need to let go of a guy
that you're still trying to hang on to,
even though it's just like,
oh, I'm just encouraging him from time to time.
That came up today, genuinely in the one o'clock.
She just said, you know, he just,
this guy just keeps popping up every now and then,
and she just feels led to pray for him and encourage him.
Y'all know, just let that go.
It's not your job to be someone's spiritual advisor.
Let that go and make room for the new.
So what is it?
Maybe for you it's letting go of fear and worry
and controlling, you know, every aspect
to try to get something to work out
exactly the way that you want it to.
Someone said earlier,
letting go of the dream and the expectation.
Okay, all right.
So I think I gave enough examples.
Y'all can say something entirely different.
Whatever works for you is what you want to share.
All right, I'm going to give you,
I'm going to give you six minutes this time.
So short, brief and powerful.
That's how we say it in this community.
Alright, go ahead ladies. Click to join. See y'all in just a few minutes. Praying for you all. Go ahead and click to join.
Alright.
Alright, Laura, we just thank you so much for the ladies that are in the group.
Thank you so much for your healing, grace.
Lord, I thank you that you would just show us the areas that we need to surrender control to you, that we would wave the white flag
and trust you, God, in the process of our healing, in the process of our lives.
God, that you are working all things together for our good, not just for our life, but to save many people alive.
I thank you that we can rely on you, God. We can depend on you and you will see us through.
Hi, Joanna. Did you get kicked out?
No, I was in my room by myself.
Oh, shoot. I didn't scroll down all the way. I'm so sorry.
Here you go. There you go.
Thank you.
Sorry about that.
Alright.
What was I saying? I'm going to read that again.
If you continue in my word, you shall know the truth and the truth shall make you free.
So, Laura, we just thank you for freedom in the Holy Spirit tonight.
It's not by might nor by power, but it's by your spirit, says the Lord.
We thank you, that Holy Spirit, you're just coming in, you're weaving in the conversations,
you're even weaving into the hearts and the minds and the spirits of those that are watching this replay.
And you're helping them to hear what your spirit is saying about letting go of control and allowing you to bring truth and hope in life.
We thank you that Jeremiah 17, 9 through 10 in the message version says this,
the heart is hopefully dark and deceitful, a puzzle that no one can figure out,
but I, God, search the heart and examine the mind.
I get to the heart of the human.
I get to the root of things.
I treat them as they really are, not as they pretend to be.
God, thank you that you treat us, your daughters, as we really are.
God, that you treat us as the daughters, like when you originally formed us,
when you created us and you breathed us into existence.
God, that you, that's how you look at us.
And every time you look at us, that's the way you look through that lens.
And we just thank you for your unconditional love, your grace, your mercy.
That is new every morning.
We thank you, God, that we are blessed when we go in.
We're blessed when we go out.
We're blessed when we rise up and we're blessed when we lie down.
We thank you, God, for sale of rest for every one of these ladies in this heart work process.
We thank you, God, that you are doing supernatural heart surgery in each one of them every day in the days ahead.
We thank you that in 1 John 3, 20, it says,
whenever our hearts make us feel guilty and remind us of our failures,
we know that God is much greater and more merciful than our conscience.
And he knows everything there is to know about us.
So Lord, we just thank you that you know everything about us and you love us.
You chose us anyways.
You chose us knowing the sin that we would commit and you wanted us and you still want us.
We thank you, God, that you always extend the olive branch to us.
Proverbs 4, 23 says,
So above all, guard the affections of your heart for they affect all that you are.
Pay attention to the welfare of your innermost being for from there flows the wellspring of life.
So Lord, we just thank you that you'll go into the depths of our soul,
into the depths of our heart.
Lord, we thank you for healing at the core of our being.
God, we just slow down right now in your presence.
And we say, thank you.
Thank you for healing.
Every aspect of us healing us from the inside out.
We thank you that you're making us beautiful more and more and more every day from the inside out that your glory will shine through us.
That we are like a city set upon a hill.
That others will be drawn to you through us.
We thank you that our spirit mates will be drawn to us and we will be drawn to our spirit mates in due season.
We thank you, Lord, for your truth, for your hope, for your life.
Yes, Lord.
I even just heard the Holy Spirit say, we thank you for forgiveness.
Lord, we release a spirit of forgiveness in Jesus name.
Flowing in each one of us individually as well as through this community.
Thank you for helping us, Holy Spirit, to recognize.
eyes, the places and the spaces and the ways we get offended.
Help us to forgive those who have hurt us even right now,
just yes, Lord, I forgive that man. I don't know if I've ever
done this. But Lord, I forgive that man that hurt my sister.
And that man that caused fear in me. I thank you, Lord, that you
would just wash over him even right now that your grace would
be upon him. I thank you that your grace would also return to
me. I thank you for healing and, and release in Jesus name of
that situation. Ladies, this is how we do forgiveness. As many
times as I've done forgiveness. I don't think I've ever shared
that story before. I've done heartwork coaching for three
years. Now I did it long before I came into this community as
well. But I've never shared that story that I shared tonight. And
I literally don't think I've ever realized I don't know if
I've ever forgiven that man until just now. So Lord, I thank
you for that. I thank you that I can be an example of walking in
forgiveness and choosing forgiveness in every moment as
you reveal it to us for healing. God, I thank you that you're so
good. You're so wonderful. Philippians 4.7 says then you
will experience God's peace which exceeds anything we can
understand. Peace will guard our hearts and our minds as we live
in Christ Jesus. Isaiah 40 verse 31 says that those who hope in
the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar in
wings like eagles. They will run and not grow weary. They will
walk and not be faint. Proverbs 23 23 says embrace the truth and
hold it close. Don't let go of wisdom instruction in life
giving understanding where we thank you for these reminders. We
thank you for your truth. We thank you that your word cuts
through the bone and marrow that you bring truth in life and
we thank you for hope. Yes, Lord, we thank you for fresh and
filling of hope where hope has been deferred. We thank you God
that you would not only fill us with fresh hope but Lord God
that we would become so full that we would be able to turn
into people that create shade and hope for other people that
we would be hope dealers. We thank you and we partner with
that truth Lord that we're hope dealers that we are kinsmen
Redeemers in our family timeline in Jesus name. Hello,
welcome back. All right, go ahead and mute yourselves. All
right, who is willing to share with the whole group? What you
shared in your breakout?
I can.
Awesome. How do you say your first name? Just tell me. Is it
Kaja?
Kaja.
Say it again for me.
Kaja.
Okay, so like phonetically like Kaja?
Like K-Y-S-A.
Okay, awesome. Thank you so much. Go ahead.
Um, so this kind of took me off guard a little bit. Um, but
something that I really like to do is exercise, not like
excessively, but just every day I like to exercise for you know,
45 minutes or an hour. And, you know, my job feels kind of
stressful. And it, you know, I see it as like, Oh, good way to
just unwind. And, you know, like even with I live in Tacoma. And
so this call starts at five o'clock. And that's like a short
window between work and the call. And I just was realizing
that I've been convicted. God saying, I feel like He has said
to my heart, is this heart work? Like how big of a priority is
it? This is something you've been wanting to really be free
of you for so long. And, um, it's one evening, you know, and
so yeah,
that's really good. And I want to just say thank you for your
honesty about that. Because there are a lot of people. I'm
not everyone. But I can tell you that there are other people
that struggle with that that have come into the program. And
then they're like, you're giving us too much work. So they like
don't, they literally don't continue. And so I want to
encourage you if the Holy Spirit is speaking to you, Kaisa, or
anyone else about that, to really lean into that. Because
you're worth it. You're worth the investment, just as much as
anything else would be worth our time. You all just even right
now, just in my spirit, like
What's coming up is sometimes people, and I say this with a lot of love too, and the examples I
give you all are things I've walked through. So just know when I give them, it's typically stuff
God has convicted me of or shown me on my journey. Times I've said I didn't have money for stuff,
and then God would be like, well, you're getting coffee at Starbucks all the time.
So do you not have the money? You know, just like he just lovingly just like nudges us, right?
And so just be open to seeing like, what is it maybe that God wants to shift in your schedule
just for now in this season to make room, to make room for this program, for this healing journey,
because what the freedom and the lightness that you're going to experience as a result
will be worth it. I love that share. Thank you so much for being open to sharing that.
Joanna, go ahead. Yeah, so I shared with the group something that I need to let go of
is the previous relationship that I had, where I realized that he wasn't like healthy,
like fully healthy. But like, and I don't know if this is something like bad or not,
but like, I find myself like still praying for him. I'm not like in communication with him or
anything like that. But I'm praying for it, for his healing, that the Lord makes him whole.
And I'm like, Lord, I surrender it to the Lord. But I'm like, man, like if he was whole,
and he was healing, healthy, that like, you know, then we can get back together.
So just like letting, letting go of that and just really surrendering that to the Lord.
Yeah, so okay, so on this, this is kind of what came up today with someone different.
And I'm not saying you guys have to all together stop praying for people. Obviously,
if God really leads you to pray for someone, do it. But sometimes you all, we hang on.
And we just keep hanging on. In our program, I'm not going to go into this much. So don't ask me
a lot of questions. But I do want you all to hear this tonight, because it goes with this.
We encourage when you guys go into phase two, and, and beyond the three M's marriage minded,
masculine, and oh my gosh, I thought forgot the third one, marriage minded, masculine,
and mature, mature, super important. And so here's the thing. When we are giving our minds
and our hearts and that space to someone else, it's not open and available for ourselves in
this season or anybody else in the future. Okay, one of the things I encourage the young lady
this afternoon to do, and I would encourage you all to do this as well as that if this speaks to
you, instead of taking the time to pray for that former person that you were in relationship with,
I would encourage you to get a little journal and start writing prayers for your spirit mate.
Anything that God puts on your heart, pray and ask God to show you something to pray for your
spirit mate and do that instead. And just give yourself permission to all the way shift and let
go of that person, completely surrender that. Because here's the thing. Sometimes y'all it's,
it's does happen where people will come back into our lives and that relationship will,
will work at some point. But here's the thing. If that person has not changed at all in their
character, in the fruit, they display in their pursuit of the Lord, then nothing has changed with
that person. That's going to help you be able to be with them in a healthy marriage. Okay. So I just,
that's what I'm going to share on that part tonight, but I want to encourage you all make room,
make room for yourself. And again, even the time and the effort that we're spending,
praying for that person. What if we just took that time even and put it towards our heart work
process? You know what I'm saying? And sometimes it's just a few minutes. I understand that,
but sometimes some of us, I don't know about you all, but sometimes I would spend like 15 minutes
praying for somebody because I wanted that person's heart to change. I begged and pleaded
with God to be with the girl's dad and for him to marry me. Y'all I'm so thankful now that that is
not what God did. He did not answer that prayer and I'm super grateful. Okay. So thank you for
sharing. That was really good. Tara, go ahead. Yeah. So I think I just need to let go of the
guilt that I Harbor.
versus staying in an abusive relationship
where I knew I was cheating at some point.
In the beginning, they're never like that.
But then once you realize who they truly are,
I did the same thing, was looking at,
oh, well, all these good things,
but then when the bad things and the horrible things
and everything came up,
I just blamed myself for staying.
And for, instead of being like,
all of my friends say I'm too nice,
like everyone makes mistakes,
everyone has their issues,
but when I said them out loud afterwards,
I recognized, oh my goodness,
like what was I thinking?
Why would I stay ever when I say it out loud to someone
or someone, you know what I mean?
So I just need to let go of that guilt
and blaming myself for staying in such a horrible situation.
Yeah.
Have you ever done,
have you ever forgiven yourself for that?
Not just let go of guilt,
but like actually forgiven yourself for it?
No.
Okay.
There is a forgiveness prayer sheet in week four.
Okay.
I don't know if it will let you seek week four right now.
If not, do a post in the group and let me know
and I will get that to you.
Okay.
I really feel like it's super important for you
to go ahead and do that this week.
Okay.
And really just partner with the process
of forgiving yourself for staying in that relationship.
Cause here's the thing,
from this day forward Tara,
you're going to be changed forever.
And God is going to show you how to heal
and become confident in who you are.
And you're going to start to see your value
in a whole different way.
I believe that in Jesus name,
I'm just speaking that over you.
I believe that you're here by divine appointment
and God has something really amazing in store for you.
And everything that used to be is no more.
It's no more, it's over.
And God is rewriting your story.
And so I really believe that as you forgive yourself
and really lean into this process,
God's going to just transform the way you look at everything.
I really do.
Yeah.
Y'all it's going to be so good.
I'm going to go ahead and let Camilla,
if anybody needs to log off, totally understand.
We're going to always end at 9.30.
So y'all know, I try not to go longer
than an hour and a half.
And I really am only supposed to do an hour and 15,
but I feel like it's super hard to get all this in
in an hour and 15 minutes.
I really do.
So Camilla will go and then I'm not going to be able
to take any more tonight,
but y'all if you have something you want to share
or need additional coaching,
just y'all know if there's something you want
coaching feedback on in your group,
you can do a post and we will coach you there.
So just so you know, you guys can do that 100%.
So Camilla, go ahead and share and yeah, go ahead.
It's interesting because both questions
that you asked tonight,
they both led me to the same answer,
in surrender and letting go of the anxiety of timing,
trusting God's timing.
That's something that really stresses me out.
Like I need to, I feel like I need to be in control.
I feel like, oh, if I at least knew like a timeframe,
like to look for, for example, in a year, two, 30,
whatever, you know, I wouldn't feel more relieved,
but just that anxiety of like not knowing when,
you know, like I really need to surrender that to God,
like that fear, you know,
like I always constantly feel like I'm running out of time,
you know, like, oh, I'm almost 40,
you know, like I see my friends
and you'd spoke about comparison today.
And I feel like, oh my gosh, I'm running out of time, God,
you know, like, so that's like this thought
that keeps coming to my mind and brings anxiety.
Okay, so Camilla or anyone else,
these are great examples of stuff
that should go on your Jesus Cares board, okay?
So you can put on their anxiety,
fear of running out of time, okay?
Put those up on your, and just as you do it, Jesus,
I cast these cares on you,
and I believe that you're gonna supernaturally work
and heal any area of my life that's causing fear to happen
that then feeds into the anxiety.
Just so y'all know, I say this a lot,
anxiety is fueled by fear and what if statements, okay?
So if you can ask the Lord to reveal the fear
that you believe, the lie that, okay,
so basically it starts with a lie,
the lie feeds the fear and the fear feeds anxiety.
It's kind of how it goes, okay?
So if you can ask the Lord to reveal the lie
that it started with, okay?
So if it's the anxiety of trusting God's timing,
so somewhere along the way,
you probably partnered with the lie that
God takes too long or some kind of, you know, God doesn't come through fast enough for me,
or, you know, I wait and I wait and I wait and I wait and nothing happens. You know,
it can sound a lot of different ways, but just ask the Lord to reveal to you what it sounds like,
what it feels like, so that you know, what is the lie that you actually partnered with
so that you can come out of agreement with that. And then partner with the truth that God
is never late. He's always right on time. And here's the other thing, the Lord, and I'm going
to close with this. I'm going to give you all one more activation, so don't leave us yet if you're
still here. For all of you, but also for Camilla, one of the ways that we defeat overwhelm, which
is what kind of you're talking about there, the fear of like, I'm running out of time and you're
feeling overwhelmed and it feeds all that anxiety is to take one day at a time. So every day I want
you to just ask the Lord, what's one thing I can do today to partner with your, your plan for my
life? What's one thing. So right now, hopefully it's heartwork. You're working on your heartwork
each day. What's one thing I can do today. And then every day forward saying this, asking God
the same thing, ladies, I know that sounds very simple, but so many times we forget that it truly
is one day at a time when we sit and wait, a lot of people think waiting is an inactive thing. It's
not, it's an active thing. So every day, as I was waiting on my spirit mate, I was walking
one day at a time, taking one step, taking one step, partnering with the next truth that God
revealed coming out of agreement with the lie that was revealed one day each day. Some days I
had multiple things that God would show me, but again, the key is for, for us to start somewhere
and doing one thing at least a day. And then as we do that and then do that again, as God shows,
it's going to create momentum. Okay. So that's how we start to get breakthrough and really start to
move forward in life. Okay. So partner with God. What is the one thing you want me to do today?
And for those of you that feel stuck in your heartwork, I hope that you're asking God,
the same thing, God, what's the one heartwork program thing I need to do today. Cause y'all,
we don't want you gets camping out in phase one and heartwork. I have some people in the program
right now, you know, and some that came back, you know, they got distracted or life happened.
That's different, but some people that have been here for many, many, many, many months,
and I have compassion for that. We understand, but we want you to move forward.
Okay. We don't want people to get stuck. All right, here's your other activation. So activation
number one was the never will I ever remember the never will I ever list. So what you guys
are going to do with that. You're not going to just write your list on your paper.
You're going to go in the group and you're going to post it in the group. And you're going to share
it with your sisters and with the coaches, because we're going to coach you on those. Never will I
ever as well. Some of you all will write things on there that we're going to have to Holy spirit
nudge you to let go of as well. Even things you don't realize. Yes. Yeah. You're still moving
forward, sweetie. I love it. You're showing up, keep moving forward. I have some other people,
they had some health things come up, you know, all kinds of things. So we're so proud of all
of you who still are moving forward. All right. Activation number two,
pray about what God wants you to let go of this week. And then I want you to create a post about
it. I want you to take a photo of the thing you're letting go of. Okay. This can look a lot
of different ways. It might be a person. It might be a thing. Um, I had, um, someone share it in
another group. Um, and also if you guys did not hear, uh, supernatural Saturday as well, Jackie
gave a word about letting go. It's very timely. I, I, she did not know I was going to be doing
this session tonight and I didn't know she was going to do a message on letting go. So Holy
spirits all up in that. I believe that'll be a big blessing to you as well. That's also in your
replays. But what's, um, the one lady in another group posted, she was cleaning out her garage
and came across divorce paperwork. She didn't even realize she still had it. It's not stuff she
needs to hang on to. It's stuff that she can let go of. And God nudged her, get rid of that.
Um, you all, when I went through the letting go process, I've done it several times that God has
led me to let go of clothes, uh, that reminded me of somebody negative from the past, my ex-husband
just even recently when we moved from Indiana to Florida, there were some things I just, I don't
even know why I still had them. I really wasn't even wearing them, but as I was packing it, I got
this ucky feeling. And I was like, but it's just, you know, it's just a, I hate to get rid of it.
It's a night, you know, like nothing major. Um, I didn't, I didn't even like really think anything
of it until the Holy spirit was like, you need to just get rid of that. Cause every, he literally,
this is how he talked to me.
Every time you look at that, you feel something negative.
Why are you keeping it?
Holy Spirit and I just talk like friends, y'all.
This is the conversations we have together.
So sometimes it's stuff like that.
The other example I wanna give you
is I came across a box of old love notes
that I had from a prior boyfriend.
This is a couple of years ago now.
And God asked me to get rid of that.
I also have gone through my phone
and asked the Lord to show me stuff
I need to get rid of in my phone.
Pictures of old stuff.
I had proof of bad things that my ex did
to prove all the people he was cheating on me with,
all that kind of stuff.
Y'all, we gotta let go.
Let go, let go, let go, okay?
If you are in some kind of court case
and you need stuff for that, that is different.
Follow the wise counsel of your lawyer
or attorney or whatever, okay?
All right, I'm gonna pray us out,
but post in the group, let's see those.
You guys, if you go in the group,
you're gonna see some ladies
that were in the afternoon session
that are already posting.
I think it will encourage you.
I was pretty excited.
I saw it right before I hopped on tonight.
That God is doing some stuff.
Become a part of this movement
and what God is doing in this day and time
in creating kingdom, family, and marriage.
Father, we thank you for freedom.
We thank you that you are, yes, Lord,
opening prison doors and you're setting the captives free.
I thank you that you're starting with us.
I thank you that we are walking
into the fullness of your plans
and purpose for us every single day.
God, I thank you that we are your daughters,
that we are beloved, that we are,
our worth is far above rubies.
I thank you that you'll help us
to truly believe that in our core,
that God, we will become more secure in your love,
that we will become more confident in you every day.
Help us to know you more, Father,
as love, as good, as faithful, as kind.
I ask you, God, to heal the depths of our souls
and help us to hear what your spirit is saying
a little bit more clearly every day.
We thank you for your hedge of protection around us.
And I thank you that you'll help us
to think on things that are true, noble,
lovely, and of good report,
things that are above only and not beneath.
In Jesus' name, amen.
God bless you all.
I'll see you all in the group
and probably around on prayer
and all kinds of stuff this week.
Have a great week, everyone.
Bye.