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All right, welcome ladies, this is your Phase 2 live check-in at 1 o'clock Eastern Standard

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Time, October 1st, 2024.

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Super excited to be here with you ladies today.

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I'm Carla Johnson, I'm one of your coaches here in Phase 2.

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I am a success story that has come from Jackie's program.

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I connected with her in the end of 2020 and went through this program for a couple years

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before my spirit mate showed up at the end of 2022 and then we got married less than

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a year later, so which we have just celebrated our one year anniversary.

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So I have experienced this program and it's been where you all have been, okay?

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So I'm here to help you out with the whole dating phase now that you are in Phase 2 and

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you've been released to date, all right?

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You're no longer on sabbatical from dating after Phase 1.

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So do I have anybody new here, Karen?

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Have you come to, are you new to Phase 2?

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No, I'm actually, I thought I was in Phase 3.

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Okay, well yep, this is Phase 2.

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You can still hang with us.

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Let me see here.

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But I'm looking at my progress and it shows that I've, you know, I still haven't, although

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I've done, you know, a lot of this, most of this, it shows that I haven't.

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And I've marked, you know, after you get done watching, you know, watching, it marks, you

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know, you can mark.

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To mark it complete, yes.

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Yes.

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So if you're in the app, oops, ladies, do y'all see me?

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My computer's doing something silly here.

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No.

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Yeah, I still see you.

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I see you.

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Sorry, I had a moment of panic there.

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Yeah, so Karen, if you are in the app, when you, you may have access to Phase 2 and Phase

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3.

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But when you are clicking the events tab to click into the Zoom link, you just need to

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make sure that you're in Phase 3.

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So is that how you came into the call today?

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Yeah, it looks like I'm in Phase 3, since Phase 3.

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Well, no worries.

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You're maybe, maybe it's a divine appointment.

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Maybe there's just something you need to hear today.

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But Kylie, she said that she's new.

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So welcome, Kylie.

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So great to have you.

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Ladies, if you can, please go ahead and unmute, or no, not unmute, mute.

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Sorry.

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Mute.

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And then go ahead and turn your cameras on if you can.

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Okay.

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It's just us ladies.

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Usually this one o'clock call is a lot smaller.

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Most people are at work.

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So there's nothing, nothing to, you don't need to hide.

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It's just us ladies.

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All right.

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So welcome, welcome, welcome.

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So just a few housekeeping items that we like to go over each time that we log in,

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because we always have just a round robin of just new people that come in.

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So just remember, there's one video per week that you'll need to watch.

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There's five videos total.

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So there's the Lustre Accelerator, which is that first video that y'all should have watched prior.

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And then there's the online dating 101, which we're going to discuss today.

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And we have Divine Feminine, Online Dating, and Boundaries.

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So those are typically about a little over an hour long.

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So just make sure that you take notes, really just meditate on the content, you know,

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see how you can apply what you're learning in that video and how you can apply it in your life,

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here on the app.

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Okay.

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So again, like I said, if you are new to phase two, you have just been released to date.

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All right.

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So in your phase one, we asked you just to put it on pause while you went through some hard work.

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And now you have the green light to go ahead and start dating.

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So and if you watch that Love Story Accelerator video, Jackie gives you all a seven date challenge.

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So what typically happens every time I get new people in here, you start freaking out about seven dates.

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I just want to, you know, this is what I like to cover in housekeeping is don't sweat it.

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You know, you don't have to, you're not going to end up finishing probably your seven dates by the time you get to phase three.

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Unless you are just like cranking up those dates, whatever.

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You know, most.

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Women typically don't finish within, you know, the four to five weeks. Okay, we typically

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Say about three months to do okay

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and then just don't play the comparison game when you are

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Coming out of hiding and you're starting to date and you see all these women are getting dates and all these

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Experiences and maybe you're just a little quick, you know, you know, you're a little slower to the punch. It's totally fine

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Don't play the comparison game. Okay

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Alright last next thing

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So this has been super super important and I want to add some emphasis to this

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Now that you are in phase two, it is so important that you show up here. Okay

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It's easy to allow all of life's distractions to kind of get in the way

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Especially when we're doing something that's going to be good for us and what God is wanting us to step into

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It's just so easy to get distracted by all of the all the life things, right?

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So I just can't stress enough is allow yourself time

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to invest in yourself in this phase

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Because what you put into this group is what you're going to get out of it

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Okay, and I say that with a lot of experience. Okay. I was in this group for a couple years before my spirit mate came and

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It tend to happen when I kind of isolated a little bit or fell back in

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Being active in this group is when things kind of just got mucky

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So do yourself a favor and show up. Okay, and so how did like, okay, so now you're like Carla

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But how do I show up? What do you mean by that?

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So first things first is just post and share in the app

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And it could be about all different things

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It can be about heart work stuff that you're still working through because let's face it ladies. You never graduate in heart work

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There's always another layer of that onion to peel and as you step into dating

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You're gonna find that there's just another layer of heart healing that can take place when you get out into the dating world

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It can be about your dating situation. I actually

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Really really stress the importance ladies that when you're out dating

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You have to come share it with us in the app

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All right, you have to allow us coaches to be able to help you see blind spots

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I see it, you know on it on a rare occasion

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Women in our community find themselves in relationships that haven't been communicating with us about what's happening how you met

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You know giving us some details about the guys about the dates that you're going on

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What's taking place on the date dates and then they get in so deep and then red flags start showing up

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Okay, so the best way to circumvent all of that is just come to us and just give us updates about your dating life

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Okay, we're here to help see help you see those blind spots

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Other things that you can post about what you're learning and applying from the videos that you watch any breakthroughs that you're having

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Anything you want to celebrate with us?

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Questions that you have all sorts of things. Okay

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When you do post in the app, just be careful and mindful of the tab that you're clicking when you post

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Especially the ask a coach tab. All right

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So if it's specific to a coach needing to answer your question, then please make sure that you click that

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because that's how we we

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Really want to make sure that we're zoning and answering all your questions and nothing gets lost

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So, please please please if you have a question specifically for us coaches click that ask the coach tab

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also when you're creating posts do not link any other like influencers or websites or dating sites or

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Sermons or all that kind of stuff. We just don't have the capacity to vet those and we want to make sure that we're

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Aligning everything with what we teach here and last year single

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If you do a video because some of you have or you might have seen some others do it

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Please just try to keep your video under three minutes

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The best way to do this is just to give yourself some bullet points before you start your video

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Another way to show up in the community is actually engage and connect with one another

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So if it's not under the ask a coach tab then reply to your sisters in the community

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Lift them up be positive

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Just don't coach or give advice or be negative

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Super super super important and then come to as many of these live check-ins and prayer sessions as possible

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Again, you're only in this session for four to five weeks

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We understand some of you will be in here a little bit longer because life does happen and we completely understand it

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But you shouldn't be in phase two for more than two or three months. Okay, so it's a short amount of time in phase two

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So come to these live check-ins, they are much smaller and they are utilized and they're actually here for you.

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It's for you to utilize and benefit from so that you can get some more detailed coaching,

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especially as you enter into that dating world.

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Okay, so those are ways that you can engage.

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And then last housekeeping item is just navigating the app on your phone or on the desktop.

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So just always make sure that you're checking the resource and the training tab and the replays.

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Ladies, I can't stress enough how important it is to watch the replays if you can't make it.

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Now, obviously, all you ladies are here, so you're getting it now.

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But if there's for some reason that you can't make a session,

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make sure that you put in your calendar time to set aside to watch the replays.

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We cover lots of stuff here. We do a lot of additional coaching.

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Some of your sisters will come with questions that maybe you're facing yourself or you will face or you have faced.

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And so then you can hear us coaches talk about that as well.

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Same thing with Supernatural Saturdays and prayer calls.

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We do record Supernatural Saturday.

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Those are super important to make sure that you're watching as well.

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OK. Awesome. I see a few people on camera.

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I know some of you are at work, but if you can come on camera, that would be great.

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So, yes, Teresa, the evening one.

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So tonight, instead of doing a phase two check in, you ladies are all invited to a sneak peek of phase three loveseat.

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OK, so it's just a bigger part of our community.

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It's going to have the men and the women, everyone that's in our community, with the exception of people that are in phase one.

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OK, but it's where, you know, people can put themselves in the hot seat or loveseat with what we call and ask specific questions about what they're experiencing.

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So it's kind of like what we do here at the end of the call, but you'll get a bigger community there.

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So you can kind of see how that is navigated in phase three, because at some point in the next four to five weeks or, you know, at least no more than two months to three months, all you ladies are going to be in phase three.

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So you get a little little taste of what that's about.

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So that is happening tonight.

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I believe Jackie is doing that one this evening.

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Sometimes it's Jackie. I think sometimes it's Bethany.

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But that you all are invited to.

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So again, in your app, go into the events tab.

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It's in that calendar.

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You'll click where it will say loveseat there, and then it has all the information for the Zoom link.

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All right.

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So today we're going to go over the teaching from Dating 101.

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I'm just going to go over some brief points here.

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OK, so many of you, if you're not new here, you probably have already watched it.

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Always really good to get some some info on it, because I get questions all the time in regards to dating, which is awesome.

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And so we cover a lot of that in the Dating 101 video.

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So I'm going to go ahead and unpack a little bit of what we see frequently here in phase two.

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And that's the level one, two and three stage for dating relationship.

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OK, so where Jackie describes that in that Dating 101 video.

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So level one is just community.

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That's all that is. It's in community.

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So it's here, like in our last year, single community.

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It's at church.

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Maybe it's your community at work.

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It's just anywhere that you are around people.

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OK, that is even online.

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So if you're online dating that pool of people that you see there, that's level one.

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OK, when you're messaging people on your online dating site, that's a level one.

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OK, so it's it's you know, it's not considered a level two dating relationship until you've had a video date or video chat or an in-person alone date.

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OK, so even when you're out, maybe you go out to eat after church with a group of people.

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And maybe you've invited a guy along just to, like, hang out or maybe he's invited you with a group of people.

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That's still level one relationship.

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You're in community with people.

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OK, now, where many of you, once you all once once you've decided, once you've gotten the green light, you start dating.

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OK, now everyone is on their own pace and own path.

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We get ladies that come in here and they are ready to, like, dive off the high dive and like, yes, show me.

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me the men line up the dates let's go let's do this I'm ready okay I wasn't one of those girls

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at all I was like I don't know if I'm ready yet so I had to take a little more time to process

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and like you know do some stuff in me and then really have relationship with the lord before I

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felt like I had the green light to do that um so if if that's you that's totally fine as well

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but when you do decide that all right I'm gonna go have an in-person date or I'm gonna do a video

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chat this is what we would call level two okay and so this level two is just hey I I'm interested

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in getting to know you better so the best way that I can describe it and helps take some of

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the pressure off is to keep in mind you do this with girlfriends too when you're hanging out with

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a group of people or a group of ladies maybe you're in a small group at church and you're

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new or something like that or there's this new group of women you're gonna have conversation

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with people and there's gonna be maybe be a woman or two that might stand out to you and you're

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you're gonna be like man I really want to get to know them better or they might come up to you be

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like hey let's go grab coffee you know it's really nice to meet you I'd like to get to know

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a little bit more about you that's all phase two is is you're just getting to know people on a more

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personal level okay so when you do step into dating is when you're dating men I can't stress

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enough just if you go in with it with the attitude is you're just getting to know somebody new

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and you're not looking for all of the romance it will take the pressure completely off so in level

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two dating you're going to still talk about your life okay we always talk about you know not deep

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diving don't ask all those serious questions it doesn't mean that you can't talk about your life

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you're just going to need to learn how to talk about it at high level version okay it's going

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to be more personal pieces as you learn a little bit more about them but you're not going to go get

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in the weeds with them okay so what that means is you're not going in the x files you're not you

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know sitting here having the sex talk you're not going to have all those conversations there you

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literally are getting to know like how how do they describe themselves what things do they like to do

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what's important in their life how do they show up in their life what's taking up space in their life

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what are they looking forward to the very like you know they're still talking about their life

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but they're you're not getting in the weeds with them okay so we also encourage in level two just

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resist romance at this level because you are just discovery dating and you're going to be doing it

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with more than one one person all right i know this is sometimes that like people are like but

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i can't date more than one person like that was that for me that was one of the things i had to

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wrap my head around i was like if i'm dating someone i'm not dating anybody else but i didn't

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even know the person so how why was i shutting the door on getting to know more people when i really

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wasn't sure about this person and then what ended up happening is i got so involved with one person

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that i was seeing all of like i wasn't seeing all the red flags so that's why we say level two

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pace it keep it slow get to know them do you enjoy being around them do they make you laugh

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they do is it enjoyable okay so that's like usually like a couple dates okay like you're

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going to start getting to know them at that level all right then level three that's that

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exclusivity all right that's where we do honestly recommend at least a month if not two of discovering

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dating with a person before you step into this step into a level three exclusive relationship

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even if it's like super magical okay um just pace yourself there um use use that time in

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phase two to get to know someone before you jump into that romance level in that deeper relationship

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so um phase three or not phase three excuse me level three we also ask and encourage you ladies

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to allow the men to lead this conversation it's we call it the dtr the define the relationship

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conversation and um in that process like you're going to continue to get to know them at a deeper

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level and again but just continue to pace yourself we do also encourage y'all to resist too much

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Okay, because that's where things can get people get to that level three and then all of a sudden the boundaries are coming down and people are finding themselves in situations that they can't backpedal from.

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Okay, so those are the three levels, which again, this is all in the dating one on one video. So you can always go back and replay.

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All right. Now, you'll also hear a say, like, it's a yes until it's a no. This is something that Jackie has been telling us for years. It's a yes until it's a no. And like, people are like, well, what does it actually mean?

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So it simply is meant for you to give men a second chance, or even a third possibly. So where you might have written them off the first, like, maybe the first date, because they were awkward or, you know, nervous, or maybe they didn't talk very much on the first day.

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They didn't ask you a lot of questions, or maybe they talked too much and didn't allow you any time to talk at all. Okay. Or maybe, you know, they dress really funny or something like things where you might have been like, yeah, no, I'm just not sure about that.

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It's honestly, it's about just giving guys a second or a third chance. Okay. Until you're like, absolutely not. I just, I don't, I don't see this going anywhere romantically. Okay. It doesn't mean that you don't keep talking to men that don't have the three Ms. So when we, when we hear a say about the three Ms, what we're talking about is, are they, are they masculine? Okay, this is where, you know, the masculinity comes into play.

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It's not like, oh, is he big buff? You know, all that kind of stuff. It's the divine masculine. Is he a, you know, protector? Does he have certain qualities about him that would be more masculine? Okay. I know. Sometimes I hear women like, oh, he just doesn't have a very strong voice, like his, his actual, like, voice, like, he's maybe a little more meek or quiet or something.

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And women are like, well, he's not masculine enough. Well, ladies, that's not defining masculine. So again, I'm not going to go into too much detail because in the divine feminine video, Jackie does briefly touch on what divine masculine is, as well as going into detail about divine feminine.

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So is he masculine? Is he marriage minded? Okay. Some men very early on will tell you they have no intentions of getting married. Well, ladies, y'all are here because you want to be married. So you don't want to find yourself in a relationship with somebody that they're not going towards that same direction as you. Okay. So keeping that in mind as well. Are, are, are, do they have their affairs in order? All right. Are they working towards goals? Are they mature?

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So that's the other end. Are they mature? All right. So if men don't have those three things, and again, you're not going to know these things right off the bat, you're not going to know on a first date, if they have the three M's. Now, you may see, they might right off the bat, start talking about that they're not getting married. Um, or, you know, they're open to having sex before marriage, like that right there is like, okay, if that's where they're at,

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and that's, that's not where you're going. That's okay. When you can say, okay, now it's a no. All right. If they are unhealthy in a way that they're treating you badly, they're just, you know, rude and crude. And, you know, I can, I mean, I could go on and on about some of the things. And I'm sure you ladies have had experiences with some men that were not, um, nice gentlemen, right.

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Um, and I've had some experiences, especially if you've been online online dating, cause that, that can happen. So if they're treating you badly, then that's a no. Okay. So it doesn't mean that we're going to ask you all to like, Oh, nope. I have to have a third date with this guy.

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Cause Jackie and the team told me I had to get, he's sitting there and he's being disrespectful and he's like inappropriately, like trying to touch you or whatever. Like, that's a no get out of my face. Right. That's a blessing block is what we call that.

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Okay. Um, and then it doesn't mean that you continue to keep going on dates that you have absolutely nothing in common with, and you just don't enjoy them. Again, I would say give it two or three dates, but after that, if you really don't enjoy their company and you just don't have a whole lot in common, like, maybe, you know, that ministry is in your, in your future and they're just not open to that.

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or maybe you're in a season of your life where you can travel and you want to travel and they can't

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because maybe they've been divorced and they have custody of their kids or they have shared

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custody with their kids and they are not able to travel the world like maybe you are and you can,

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then obviously that's a, you know what, this is not going to move in that direction.

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let go of, you know, like it doesn't have to be like, you're not a good person. It's just,

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we're not in the same space. I wish you the best of luck and you can move on.

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All right. Everybody following me? Good. I see lots of people writing notes. I love it. So good.

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All right. Another thing that we will talk about is we're like, we always tell you ladies to keep

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it light in the beginning. And so sometimes you're like, well, and if you're like me,

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I was an overshare. It was very, very difficult for me to keep it light. Yes. I see Candy. You're,

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you're, you're not in your head. So you, you are right there with me. Yes. Um, I, I was,

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I was, I'm an open book. I have nothing to hide, you know, like my mess is my, is my message. It's

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my testimony. I'm going to share it with everybody, which I'm learning and I've had learned. And now

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I have a, a daughter who's been through, um, some significant trauma in her life. And, and she is

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very like vocal about what she's experienced to complete strangers. And now I'm like, oh my gosh,

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now I totally see why it's so important that you don't want to like overshare and, um, do that

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because it's just, they're strangers and you never know who you can trust with that kind of

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information until you've gotten to know them. Okay. And I'm not trying to say that, like,

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don't hear me being like, I can't trust anybody. No, that's not what I'm saying. It's, you do have

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to allow yourself time and then see people's behavior and experience and how they respond.

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Um, and it's just, it's just smart to, to know, to get to know somebody. So no one expects you

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to say at the surface and your first exchanges, but it's about sharing bits and pizzas, pizzas,

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bits and pieces, pieces, um, without pulling in your drama, your trauma, your triggers.

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So none of that needs to be within your first two or three weeks of inner interaction. Okay.

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So what also keeping it light means or doesn't mean, it doesn't mean that you're texting all

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the time. All right. So let me, let me rephrase that. Cause I feel like I just got very confusing

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with my word wording. If you're keeping it light, then you're not texting every day.

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All right. I know how easy it is in the beginning when you're interested in getting to know

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somebody, especially if you're on the apps, you're having the back and forth exchanges frequently.

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Okay. Or maybe you've gone out on a date and now they're like blowing up your phone or you're

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blowing up their phone and you're talking several times a day that is not keeping it light.

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worked from home and I didn't when we were dating and I'm like, dude, you can't message me all day,

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every day, especially when we don't know each other yet. So I had to put some boundaries up.

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I had to just keep it light. I had to kind of pick and choose like, Hey I want to respond to you.

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I'm not, I'm not able to, I'm going to have to reach back out tomorrow. Like I had to set some,

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set some boundaries there because my husband was, you know, very interested in me and always wanted

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to talk to me and wanted to get to know me more. So yeah, don't text all day, every day,

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just keep texting to facts and not thoughts, opinions, feelings, or analysis. Like leave that

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for live conversations where you can hear people's tone and inflection and you can see their body

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language. Because you're not going to be 100% engaged with each other if you're just on like

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the texting stuff. Okay. When you're in front of somebody, you can see whether or not they're

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invested, engaged in wanting to get to know you more. And so you have their full attention, but

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when you're texting and stuff, you just, you don't. I mean, if, if you're like me, oftentimes

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I'm like multitasking and I'm sending a message to somebody and then I get distracted and I put

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it down and then I forget to come back until like a day or two later. I'm like, I forgot

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completely respond to that person. So it's because I'm not fully, I'm not fully engaged. I'm not

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fully like invested in that. So that's why we act like we encourage you not to, because that

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will happen too, where some people feel like they're being ghosted because they didn't,

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some guy didn't respond to them.

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in like 10 minutes because he'd done it a week or so ago, but then it's like, oh, well,

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I haven't heard from him in a couple hours. Well, ladies, it could be because he's got

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a life and he's busy. I know that happens to me. So just try not to get yourself into that.

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talking about level one and level two. So it means that if they left tomorrow where they

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really did decide that they didn't want to pursue you and they didn't give you the courtesy of

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letting you know, Hey, thank you for your time, but I don't see this going anywhere.

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But some people will do that. All right. They haven't been through heartwork.

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you felt like maybe you overshared or you got so invested into somebody that really wasn't

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much of a relationship yet, because you're, again, you're still getting to know somebody.

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interested in somebody and I wanted to get to know them more, maybe have one really good date.

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hopeless. I'd get discouraged. I would just like cry. Like, you know, I'd go into this

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spiral that, you know, God doesn't have somebody for me. Y'all like, that's, that's how I knew I

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was oversharing, or I was putting too much emphasis on someone that I really hadn't gotten

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all of that to kind of just overcome all, it just wasn't just, it was not good. Okay.

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All right. Do I got everybody still? We good? I know this is lots of information,

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but it's good because again, I know a lot of you ladies, when you do get into dating, you're like,

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oh my gosh, like help, help, help. So these are just some really good basics.

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just for getting to know a person. It's also getting to know yourself too. Okay. So sometimes

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you might not be ready to date, but maybe if you just go out and you are like getting to know

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people, you're going to learn a little bit more about yourself. And so that can be a good thing.

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Like I had to learn like what I liked, what I didn't like. I had to learn about myself and know

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that, you know what? I really did do a lot of healing in the time that I was in Jackie's

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community. So when I started dating, I was dating some really great guys that weren't for me,

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but I was learning more about myself and realizing I had grown, I was doing things differently.

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God can use dating to help you grow into areas that will prepare you for when he does bring

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someone to your spirit mate, bring you your spirit mate. So again, don't rule out going on

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a date with someone that maybe you're not like super excited about, but God could be using that

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person to grow you in a different area and help you prepare. Okay. So just do your best to just

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go out, have fun, enjoy the company. Doesn't mean it has to be a love connection. Doesn't mean

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that, you know, you have to decide whether or not the guy that you are, you know, having coffee with

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or going bowling with is going to be your husband or not. So that would be my next thing is remove

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the, is this my husband question when you're out dating instead, maybe replace it with how can God

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use this person as an opportunity to grow into my best self? So instead of saying, is this my

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husband? Ask, you know, how, God, how can you use this person to help me grow into my best self?

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I share this story a couple of times. There was a guy in Jackie's community. He actually

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lived fairly close to me, super attractive guy, very energetic. We had, you know, we had just very

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outgoing personalities. And so I went out on a date with him and I wish this guy would have been,

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been it at that time. I really did not. Obviously I have my husband now and I see why,

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like, cause my husband is more perfectly matched for me than this other guy. But this other guy

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was a really standup guy. Now he wasn't my person. He wasn't ready to step into a father role. Like I

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Penthouse building like and then on the bottom floor was a luxury jewelry store and

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So this is when I call like the revealing for healings at time

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so

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Okay, so that's about all I'm gonna cover as far as dating goes and this anybody has questions when we open up our question time

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All right. So let me ask how many of you got to watch Jackie's Supernatural Saturday?

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Candy did Karen did okay. I'm seeing a few shake your head. All right

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00:38:06.020 --> 00:38:13.420
Those of you that halfway Kylie's that halfway good. So make sure you finish it. Okay, if you didn't raise your hand

399
00:38:14.100 --> 00:38:19.900
You know or you shook your head. No, I want you to go ahead and make a note. Please go watch the replay

400
00:38:21.020 --> 00:38:26.740
Good good stuff. All right, ladies. It is super super super important

401
00:38:28.340 --> 00:38:33.820
Teresa you don't have the replay. So are you in the app on your phone or on your desktop?

402
00:38:39.180 --> 00:38:41.700
I see you typing your desktop. Okay. I

403
00:38:44.180 --> 00:38:46.180
Got you girl

404
00:38:47.180 --> 00:38:50.700
Okay, I'm gonna go ahead and make note of that and we can

405
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As well

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00:38:54.580 --> 00:38:55.500
ladies and again

407
00:38:55.500 --> 00:39:01.620
If you are on the app if you can go like I have to go on my desktop and on my phone back and forth

408
00:39:01.620 --> 00:39:06.220
All the time there's sometimes my phone works better than the desktop and then there's other times

409
00:39:06.220 --> 00:39:08.220
I have to get off my phone and I have to use the desktop

410
00:39:08.860 --> 00:39:15.060
So replays are not showing up for you. Teresa. I'm gonna make note of that right now. Okay, so

411
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And

412
00:39:19.180 --> 00:39:21.180
Sometimes they don't show up right away

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So it may take a day for the team to get them up

414
00:39:24.740 --> 00:39:28.740
okay, so just keep that in mind like I know last Tuesday's our

415
00:39:29.660 --> 00:39:35.760
Second call I had some issues on my end because I saved it to my computer and not the cloud

416
00:39:35.980 --> 00:39:41.780
So then I had to like convert it and do all this stuff actually ended up having to get my husband to help me because I'm

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00:39:41.780 --> 00:39:47.780
So technically challenged so it took another I think day for them to get the replay up

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00:39:47.780 --> 00:39:54.760
So just keep that in mind just you know, constantly keep trying to check that out. But yes, please please please supernatural Saturdays

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Get to those if you can and if you can't replay replay replay. So

420
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:06.360
Jackie had really and she even posted in our community as well and I just pulled from some of her notes

421
00:40:06.720 --> 00:40:10.920
She gave a really really great word of it's just time to let let go

422
00:40:11.560 --> 00:40:13.560
you know and so

423
00:40:14.080 --> 00:40:18.980
Make space for those supernatural Saturdays and put them on your calendar so you can watch replays as well

424
00:40:19.200 --> 00:40:21.480
So some things to let go of okay

425
00:40:21.480 --> 00:40:28.600
so really once you what you ladies to sit on this think about it, which one of these really is highlighted to you and

426
00:40:30.160 --> 00:40:36.680
We'll share here in a moment when we do breakouts. Okay, so one of the things to let go of is negativity

427
00:40:37.440 --> 00:40:43.400
So to get to the and like get to the root of the belief that everything will continue to go awry in your life

428
00:40:43.920 --> 00:40:50.240
So that's that can sometimes happen with negativity is that we get so focused like nothing great can actually

429
00:40:50.480 --> 00:40:54.600
Like good can happen. So we gotta get to the root of why you believe that

430
00:40:55.160 --> 00:40:58.560
Okay, so we got to let go of that negativity let go of perfect

431
00:40:58.840 --> 00:41:03.400
Because here's the thing if perfect was such a thing we wouldn't need Jesus y'all

432
00:41:05.720 --> 00:41:11.440
If we were perfect then Jesus would have no business needing to die on the cross for our sins

433
00:41:12.040 --> 00:41:16.640
Because we're just it's not it's we're we're perfectly imperfect

434
00:41:18.600 --> 00:41:20.600
Let go of guilt

435
00:41:21.520 --> 00:41:27.280
So realizing that you can and now that you know you will do better

436
00:41:28.760 --> 00:41:30.760
Because sometimes

437
00:41:30.800 --> 00:41:33.320
you do because you just didn't know better and

438
00:41:34.520 --> 00:41:41.200
So now if you realize that you can do better and now that you do know and you have some knowledge now

439
00:41:41.200 --> 00:41:43.200
You can go do better

440
00:41:43.200 --> 00:41:45.200
Let go of busyness

441
00:41:46.240 --> 00:41:50.800
Be abundant, but don't be overwhelmed let go of other people's responsibility

442
00:41:51.520 --> 00:41:53.520
Let go of the someday

443
00:41:54.120 --> 00:41:56.840
Do it today the someday will never come

444
00:41:58.960 --> 00:42:01.080
Maybe you should let go of the should

445
00:42:02.280 --> 00:42:04.120
so I

446
00:42:04.120 --> 00:42:07.640
was this Jackie shared this and like I had a

447
00:42:08.240 --> 00:42:09.600
counselor also

448
00:42:09.600 --> 00:42:13.360
Share this is you know, you got to stop shooting all over yourself

449
00:42:14.440 --> 00:42:17.800
Hey, it's gross. It's not good. All right

450
00:42:19.640 --> 00:42:21.640
Let go of blame

451
00:42:23.280 --> 00:42:28.040
This here's the thing life can be messy regardless there doesn't have to be a fall guy

452
00:42:28.760 --> 00:42:32.160
And it's when you let go of blame is where healing can begin

453
00:42:35.480 --> 00:42:37.480
Let go of judgment

454
00:42:37.560 --> 00:42:41.600
give grace and hold space for people to that are still learning and

455
00:42:42.320 --> 00:42:48.360
Ladies, this is a this is an important one in y'all's phase right now phase two as you're out there dating

456
00:42:50.360 --> 00:42:54.640
It's so easy to judge and be critical of a lot of these guys that you're gonna date

457
00:42:55.160 --> 00:42:58.240
Because they're just still learning they don't have a Jackie

458
00:42:58.840 --> 00:43:05.400
They don't have a last year single community. They don't have anyone telling them, you know, the do's and don'ts of dating

459
00:43:06.560 --> 00:43:12.320
So remember to give grace especially to some of the guys that you're dating because you just don't know better

460
00:43:13.600 --> 00:43:15.600
And then let go of fear

461
00:43:16.240 --> 00:43:20.000
You know instead do up do the opposite of what fear is telling you to do

462
00:43:20.000 --> 00:43:22.000
Okay

463
00:43:22.640 --> 00:43:26.320
I know that was a lot. But again, you can refer back to that

464
00:43:27.240 --> 00:43:33.640
On the app tech you made a post about it. And then you can listen to Supernatural Saturday

465
00:43:34.160 --> 00:43:40.840
And ladies, let me tell you like the last several weeks if you have not watched those Supernatural Saturdays, they have been

466
00:43:41.600 --> 00:43:43.600
So good so on fire

467
00:43:45.440 --> 00:43:49.280
You know like it's it's a it's it's it's it's

468
00:43:50.000 --> 00:43:54.960
They've actually been really beneficial to me y'all and I'm I'm I'm married

469
00:43:55.200 --> 00:44:03.000
But it doesn't mean that once you get married that life still doesn't happen that there's still struggles and stuff like that

470
00:44:04.520 --> 00:44:07.000
It's just there it's just it's very timely

471
00:44:07.640 --> 00:44:12.840
So that's when I like I love it when I get get something from those because I'm like man

472
00:44:12.840 --> 00:44:18.700
That's that's just the season that we're in regardless if we're single or in a relationship

473
00:44:18.780 --> 00:44:22.100
You know, maybe you're in a level two. Maybe you're in a level three

474
00:44:22.700 --> 00:44:26.420
Whatever, you know, they're still you know

475
00:44:27.660 --> 00:44:30.220
Good just good good things that God's releasing

476
00:44:31.780 --> 00:44:35.780
And let me tell you Jackie has such a strong anointing to be able to

477
00:44:36.180 --> 00:44:39.660
To share a word when when God speaks to her

478
00:44:40.220 --> 00:44:47.140
So definitely get to those if you can. All right, so ladies, I'm gonna break us out. There's what one two, three

479
00:44:48.060 --> 00:44:50.060
Six there's eight of us

480
00:44:50.260 --> 00:44:52.820
so I'm gonna break us out into small groups and

481
00:44:53.780 --> 00:44:55.260
we're gonna just

482
00:44:55.260 --> 00:45:00.060
Have a few minutes to get to know your sisters a little better. I know some of you are

483
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:07.120
at work, so if you cannot, while I'm copying these questions in the chat, if you cannot

484
00:45:07.120 --> 00:45:24.480
unmute, let me know. All right. I don't see anybody not able to unmute. So the first question

485
00:45:24.480 --> 00:45:28.880
is I want you all to share one thing that you're going to be letting go of this week

486
00:45:28.880 --> 00:45:35.400
and moving forward. Okay, Victoria, I'll try to put you in a group of three. So that way

487
00:45:35.400 --> 00:45:42.440
if you can't, then there's still two people in there that can. So yeah, just on that list,

488
00:45:42.440 --> 00:45:46.440
if there was anything that jumped out of you that you're like, wow, that definitely is

489
00:45:46.440 --> 00:45:52.000
something that I need to let go of, or something came to mind when I was sharing about that,

490
00:45:52.000 --> 00:45:55.960
or when you were listening to Supernatural Saturday, if there was something that was

491
00:45:55.960 --> 00:46:01.040
highlighted to you that Holy Spirit was like, yes, you need to let go of this, go ahead

492
00:46:01.040 --> 00:46:06.960
and share that with your sisters in the small group in our breakout room. And then once

493
00:46:06.960 --> 00:46:13.080
you do that, so spend about maybe 90 seconds, you know, just sharing and then let someone

494
00:46:13.080 --> 00:46:17.920
else share. So then everybody shares on that question. Once everybody's answered that question,

495
00:46:17.920 --> 00:46:22.800
then I want you all to share with one another, what is your one of your favorite trips or

496
00:46:22.800 --> 00:46:28.160
vacations that you've been on? Or that you would like to go on? So something might might

497
00:46:28.160 --> 00:46:33.240
be like, well, I've never been on a really fun vacation. Okay, well, then what's a vacation

498
00:46:33.240 --> 00:46:39.920
that you think would be really fun would would be your favorite. Okay. So I'm gonna go ahead

499
00:46:39.920 --> 00:46:44.560
and get these breakout rooms started. We'll spend no more than 10 minutes because it's

500
00:46:44.560 --> 00:46:52.440
a small group today. So we shouldn't need too much time. Let's see breakout room. All right.

501
00:46:52.440 --> 00:47:03.720
I'm going to open those up. Victoria, I'm gonna have to move you to one though. Actually,

502
00:47:03.720 --> 00:47:16.200
I'm gonna move someone to yours. Okay. Let's see here. All right, ladies, I'm gonna open them up.

503
00:48:03.720 --> 00:48:20.040
Awesome. Okay, well, welcome back. So now, ladies, I would love to take take your questions.

504
00:48:20.040 --> 00:48:27.000
So if you have any questions or feedback or breakthroughs, or we don't want to share with

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00:48:27.000 --> 00:48:31.960
what you're experiencing, maybe you have questions about something more in detail that I covered

506
00:48:31.960 --> 00:48:38.760
today. Maybe there is a dating situation that you want to know more about. Maybe it's

507
00:48:38.760 --> 00:48:44.480
something that you heard in one of the videos, one of the training videos. Now is your time

508
00:48:44.480 --> 00:48:51.160
to answer or ask your questions for answers. Alright, so don't be shy. Okay, Victoria,

509
00:48:51.160 --> 00:49:00.720
you have to go. No, wait, there you are. How do you have any time right now? Or is it like

510
00:49:00.720 --> 00:49:05.600
you super gotta check out? Because I do want to get to your question. Is it what you posted

511
00:49:05.600 --> 00:49:16.760
in the roll call? Okay, all right. Well, definitely, I will I will do my best to respond to you

512
00:49:16.760 --> 00:49:23.480
in the roll call. And then next Tuesday, if you can get on and we can chat a little bit

513
00:49:23.480 --> 00:49:28.920
more if you're as it as the week progresses, but I'm going to give you some tips to get

514
00:49:29.000 --> 00:49:37.480
through that. And then. Okay, good. Good. Good. Good. All right. Well, good to see you.

515
00:49:39.800 --> 00:49:43.080
All right, ladies, anybody else? Don't be shy.

516
00:49:46.440 --> 00:49:52.440
Tell me what what what are you ladies experiencing? Anybody out there dating yet?

517
00:49:52.440 --> 00:49:59.800
Okay, I got one for you. Carla. Oh, I love you. Okay, here's how it goes. No,

518
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:01.000
I'm just kidding.

519
00:50:01.000 --> 00:50:02.000
Okay.

520
00:50:02.000 --> 00:50:08.760
So I, this is kind of just like, I obviously show a lot of grace on these dating apps.

521
00:50:08.760 --> 00:50:11.520
Oh Lord Jesus, help me with these dating apps.

522
00:50:11.520 --> 00:50:20.080
Um, but like, it's so funny because like I'll match with a guy on certain ones and, and

523
00:50:20.080 --> 00:50:24.320
I think that we've talked about this before and I really try to show grace and so I'll

524
00:50:24.320 --> 00:50:32.280
ask like, I'll like, I'll ask a question and then they'll just, they'll just answer

525
00:50:32.280 --> 00:50:33.280
and they don't.

526
00:50:33.280 --> 00:50:35.680
And I'm thinking, you know, guys, they just aren't texters.

527
00:50:35.680 --> 00:50:37.000
They're not, you know, I get it.

528
00:50:37.000 --> 00:50:41.160
I just want to show them grace, but let me just tell you, these jokers don't know how

529
00:50:41.160 --> 00:50:42.680
to hold a conversation.

530
00:50:42.680 --> 00:50:46.600
It is actually not all of them, but a lot of them.

531
00:50:46.600 --> 00:50:51.760
And I'm like, I, I've come so close over the last several years cause I've been on and

532
00:50:51.760 --> 00:50:58.240
off dating apps putting like, um, don't match with me if you don't know how to go like app.

533
00:50:58.240 --> 00:51:02.760
Like it is honestly so frustrating cause I'm thinking you're wanting me to give you a chance,

534
00:51:02.760 --> 00:51:07.000
but you're making it really hard cause I'm literally keeping this conversation afloat.

535
00:51:07.000 --> 00:51:12.200
So this, at that point when it's been like five questions in and they've not asked me

536
00:51:12.200 --> 00:51:14.400
any questions, I honestly move on.

537
00:51:14.400 --> 00:51:17.560
Like unless there's some big spark, which has not happened.

538
00:51:17.560 --> 00:51:20.920
And I just don't know if that's the right way to go about it or if I'm being too, like

539
00:51:20.960 --> 00:51:25.040
if I need to do it, you know, more, if there's a way to think about it.

540
00:51:25.040 --> 00:51:31.080
Instead of doing that, like a girl, I totally get you're like, Oh, online dating, like Lord

541
00:51:31.080 --> 00:51:32.600
Jesus take the wheel.

542
00:51:32.600 --> 00:51:39.280
I, yes, I, I totally get it because online dating was not my favorite either.

543
00:51:39.280 --> 00:51:45.040
Um, instead of like after going in with a couple of questions and they're not giving

544
00:51:45.040 --> 00:51:54.920
you anything in, in return, like question wise, um, can you be very blunt with them

545
00:51:54.920 --> 00:52:01.480
in a kind way and just say, um, I would really love it if you would ask me some questions

546
00:52:01.480 --> 00:52:04.200
or why don't we jump on a video chat?

547
00:52:04.200 --> 00:52:09.120
Like that way you're not, that way you're not going like you're, you're feeling like

548
00:52:09.120 --> 00:52:14.360
you're pulling teeth by like the fifth question that you can literally just say, look, I'm,

549
00:52:14.360 --> 00:52:20.920
I'm really about like having conversation and it being like a two way street, you know,

550
00:52:20.920 --> 00:52:25.360
I'm, I want to ask questions and I want you to feel like you can ask me questions as well.

551
00:52:25.360 --> 00:52:30.640
I'd love to jump on a video chat with you so we can see each other's like, um, facial

552
00:52:30.640 --> 00:52:33.520
expressions on the app.

553
00:52:33.520 --> 00:52:42.040
If you, so some of the apps do have video, for example, I preferred Facebook dating and

554
00:52:42.040 --> 00:52:43.720
I know some people are like, Oh, I don't want to do that.

555
00:52:43.720 --> 00:52:48.280
There's, you know, not, you're not always going to run into Christians there.

556
00:52:48.280 --> 00:52:50.640
Well, you're a Christian, you're on Facebook, right?

557
00:52:50.640 --> 00:52:59.040
So, um, I, I preferred the Facebook because it was just convenient, but then I also had

558
00:52:59.040 --> 00:53:03.520
the messenger video chat feature.

559
00:53:03.520 --> 00:53:10.760
So I didn't have to accept them as a friend, but I could still message with them in messenger

560
00:53:11.080 --> 00:53:15.800
and then there is a video chat feature in the Facebook messenger.

561
00:53:15.800 --> 00:53:16.960
Okay.

562
00:53:16.960 --> 00:53:17.960
I may try that.

563
00:53:17.960 --> 00:53:21.280
I just didn't want to get my phone number out or anything, but I don't, I don't do,

564
00:53:21.280 --> 00:53:22.680
I don't do the phone number.

565
00:53:22.680 --> 00:53:23.960
I wouldn't do the phone number.

566
00:53:23.960 --> 00:53:26.480
Um, we definitely don't encourage that.

567
00:53:26.480 --> 00:53:32.120
We do the Google voice, but I don't think Google voice number has a video chat feature.

568
00:53:32.120 --> 00:53:36.720
If you don't have something like, if you're not in Facebook dating and there's no video

569
00:53:37.720 --> 00:53:46.640
feature, you can do, um, a zoom call like, and it literally, you can, it's a, it's a

570
00:53:46.640 --> 00:53:49.520
free membership design to sign into zoom.

571
00:53:49.520 --> 00:53:52.240
And the cool thing about that is that you don't, it doesn't, you don't have to have

572
00:53:52.240 --> 00:53:54.880
a paid version of zoom.

573
00:53:54.880 --> 00:54:00.760
And so the free version of zoom actually only allows you to have a 40 minute zoom call.

574
00:54:00.760 --> 00:54:01.760
Yes.

575
00:54:01.800 --> 00:54:09.040
This way, if you were like, if you're like me, like I could just go on and on and on

576
00:54:09.040 --> 00:54:14.920
and I could dive and I could get too much information to a complete stranger.

577
00:54:14.920 --> 00:54:17.040
This helped me keep it kind of brief.

578
00:54:17.040 --> 00:54:23.460
And it's just literally to see, is there some engagement, is there some interaction?

579
00:54:23.460 --> 00:54:29.960
Do you want to sit across from them from coffee or go bowling with them or, or pop pot or

580
00:54:29.960 --> 00:54:30.960
whatever?

581
00:54:31.520 --> 00:54:39.920
Is there enough something there that you can, Oh yeah, to me, that's why I liked the video

582
00:54:39.920 --> 00:54:40.920
chat feature.

583
00:54:40.920 --> 00:54:48.520
I liked being able to get in front of them, see, are they, are they like, are they sitting,

584
00:54:48.520 --> 00:54:50.480
are they engaged with me?

585
00:54:50.480 --> 00:54:57.080
Are they making eye contact or that I had one guy y'all was watching TV while we were

586
00:54:57.080 --> 00:54:58.080
video chatting?

587
00:54:58.080 --> 00:54:59.080
No.

588
00:54:59.080 --> 00:55:00.080
I was like,

589
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:03.400
I was like, no. And then like, and then it was like, he had a

590
00:55:03.400 --> 00:55:06.100
shirt off and he was like watching TV. I mean, walking

591
00:55:06.100 --> 00:55:11.280
around his house. Like, I'm like, dude, like I'm put

592
00:55:11.280 --> 00:55:16.840
together like a nice top on I had my makeup. I think I curled

593
00:55:16.840 --> 00:55:21.320
my hair. Like I had some nice earrings in like I came as if I

594
00:55:21.320 --> 00:55:24.520
was presenting like I was on a date. Now I'm not saying that

595
00:55:24.520 --> 00:55:27.040
these guys should show up. Okay, again, we're gonna give some

596
00:55:27.040 --> 00:55:31.680
grace. But I could see that this guy wasn't really

597
00:55:31.680 --> 00:55:35.880
interested in having a date with me. Now. I would love to

598
00:55:35.880 --> 00:55:41.760
tell y'all that I said, Okay, bye. Thank done. No, I still

599
00:55:41.760 --> 00:55:47.400
went out on out to dinner with him. It was not good. I mean, it

600
00:55:47.400 --> 00:55:51.400
just wasn't like, obviously, I can keep conversation with

601
00:55:51.400 --> 00:55:55.160
people. But I mean, it was so awkward. It was very clear this

602
00:55:55.160 --> 00:56:02.680
guy was not, not mature, not very masculine. Like, I almost

603
00:56:02.680 --> 00:56:05.200
felt like he didn't even want to pay for the date. And I was like,

604
00:56:05.200 --> 00:56:09.640
Dude, I drove I drove up, which is another thing. So this was

605
00:56:09.640 --> 00:56:13.360
very early on when I first came to Jackie. And I lived in

606
00:56:13.360 --> 00:56:17.240
Sarasota, Florida. He lived in the Tampa Clearwater area, which

607
00:56:17.240 --> 00:56:22.320
is about an hour away. I even drove up to meet him for dinner.

608
00:56:22.720 --> 00:56:26.120
And it was that like, probably like at an Olive Garden or

609
00:56:26.120 --> 00:56:29.680
something like it wasn't even like a cool place. Like, I

610
00:56:29.680 --> 00:56:33.720
could have eaten the Olive Garden in Sarasota. And like I

611
00:56:33.720 --> 00:56:41.720
said, like, I, I don't want to show it myself. I didn't have as

612
00:56:41.720 --> 00:56:45.920
much time in Jackie's community to realize that that would have

613
00:56:45.920 --> 00:56:50.680
been an indicator with that man, not giving me his undivided

614
00:56:50.680 --> 00:56:56.200
attention on a 40 minute zoom call, and was watching TV. That

615
00:56:56.200 --> 00:57:00.720
was in of itself an indicator that this guy was not interested

616
00:57:00.720 --> 00:57:05.520
in getting to know me, or being, you know, you probably wasn't

617
00:57:05.520 --> 00:57:10.440
very marriage minded either. So that would be my tip. My

618
00:57:10.440 --> 00:57:14.000
feedback is, you know, try to get the guys on a video chat if

619
00:57:14.000 --> 00:57:18.560
they're if they're not engaging in texting, then get them in

620
00:57:18.560 --> 00:57:21.960
front of your face on a video, and see if are they making eye

621
00:57:21.960 --> 00:57:25.640
contact? Are they excited to talk to you? Are they

622
00:57:25.920 --> 00:57:29.440
interested? And then, you know, I'm one of those people that

623
00:57:29.440 --> 00:57:35.440
can be very blunt. And I would be like, you know, if a guy was

624
00:57:35.440 --> 00:57:38.560
not like if I was answering or asking questions, and he was

625
00:57:38.560 --> 00:57:44.480
just giving, like, answers, and it wasn't, there was no like

626
00:57:44.560 --> 00:57:48.960
reciprocation, I would probably be like, you know, if you're

627
00:57:48.960 --> 00:57:51.680
really not interested, you can let me know, like, it doesn't

628
00:57:51.680 --> 00:57:54.320
seem like you're really interested or engaged. Is that

629
00:57:54.320 --> 00:58:00.480
true? Like, would you like to ask me questions? Or, like, I

630
00:58:00.480 --> 00:58:02.960
would, I would just be very blunt. That's just me.

631
00:58:04.960 --> 00:58:08.080
Yeah, I totally feel like I could do that. I think I just

632
00:58:08.080 --> 00:58:10.920
need to figure out a format of saying it to where, like you

633
00:58:10.920 --> 00:58:14.960
said, it's just like, it's just like, not offense that not like

634
00:58:14.960 --> 00:58:17.560
I'm like, not like I'm looking to offend anybody. I'm just

635
00:58:17.560 --> 00:58:20.880
saying like, I don't. That's one of the reasons why I've not said

636
00:58:20.880 --> 00:58:23.600
it is because I don't know how to say it without it sounding

637
00:58:23.600 --> 00:58:26.920
like, like, kind of rude itself in the sense of like, I've just

638
00:58:26.920 --> 00:58:29.680
thought, well, if you're like, are you like, I like what you

639
00:58:29.680 --> 00:58:32.160
said? Hey, just checking, like, are you interested? Because

640
00:58:32.160 --> 00:58:35.040
you're not really asking questions back to me, you know,

641
00:58:35.040 --> 00:58:36.440
like, so it seems like I'm

642
00:58:42.520 --> 00:58:49.440
I think you cut out. But yeah, I like, I this is where I remember

643
00:58:49.440 --> 00:58:53.040
like Renee even she's, she's really she's really good at

644
00:58:53.040 --> 00:58:58.920
wording this stuff. Like, um, she was just very open about how

645
00:58:58.960 --> 00:59:01.640
with I she's very open with guys like, look, I'm being

646
00:59:01.640 --> 00:59:05.440
intentional in my dating. I'm intentional and dating and

647
00:59:05.440 --> 00:59:09.640
getting to know somebody and being in real life, and meeting

648
00:59:09.640 --> 00:59:12.240
in person and being in real life. Is that something that

649
00:59:12.240 --> 00:59:16.480
you would be interested in? Are you interested in getting to

650
00:59:16.480 --> 00:59:20.080
know more about me or not? Because if you're not, that's

651
00:59:20.080 --> 00:59:23.800
okay. And you know, I won't, I won't take up any more of your

652
00:59:23.800 --> 00:59:27.880
time. But I'm in a season right now where I'm being very

653
00:59:27.880 --> 00:59:32.680
intentional about dating and, you know, investing time in with

654
00:59:32.680 --> 00:59:37.360
people that are reciprocating the same thing. So if that's

655
00:59:37.360 --> 00:59:40.280
you, that's great. I'd like to continue to get to know you

656
00:59:40.280 --> 00:59:45.800
more. If not, that's fine, too. You can let me know. Like, I

657
00:59:45.800 --> 00:59:52.040
think any note, maybe it might take a couple guys to feel it

658
00:59:52.040 --> 00:59:55.600
out and figure it out with the wording, which is totally fine.

659
00:59:55.600 --> 00:59:59.840
Like, this is kind of what I talk about, you know, sometimes

660
00:59:59.840 --> 01:00:00.240
there's just

661
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:01.960
there's gonna be dates that you go on

662
01:00:01.960 --> 01:00:03.760
that are just helping you prepare

663
01:00:03.760 --> 01:00:07.280
for the one that is your spirit mate.

664
01:00:07.280 --> 01:00:09.560
So maybe that's part of the process as well.

665
01:00:12.520 --> 01:00:13.520
Thank you.

666
01:00:13.520 --> 01:00:14.360
You are welcome.

667
01:00:14.360 --> 01:00:15.200
Thank you for your question,

668
01:00:15.200 --> 01:00:16.280
because that's a good one.

669
01:00:16.280 --> 01:00:19.440
I know so many people experience that

670
01:00:19.440 --> 01:00:22.240
when they're dating online.

671
01:00:22.240 --> 01:00:25.040
Because again, these guys don't have a Jackie.

672
01:00:25.040 --> 01:00:26.200
But here's another thing.

673
01:00:26.200 --> 01:00:28.400
If they do seem like a good guy,

674
01:00:28.440 --> 01:00:31.440
but maybe you're just not interested in them,

675
01:00:31.440 --> 01:00:33.640
bring him to this community.

676
01:00:33.640 --> 01:00:34.520
Might not be for you,

677
01:00:34.520 --> 01:00:36.640
but maybe if he's a good Christian guy

678
01:00:36.640 --> 01:00:41.640
and there's some good things, good features there,

679
01:00:42.160 --> 01:00:46.400
like tell him a little bit about our men's program, 1822.

680
01:00:46.400 --> 01:00:49.480
And if you have your affiliate link, you can use that.

681
01:00:52.520 --> 01:00:54.040
I did that with a few guys.

682
01:00:54.040 --> 01:00:56.720
Like, hey, I'm in this program.

683
01:00:58.480 --> 01:00:59.720
You know, it never hurts.

684
01:01:01.720 --> 01:01:02.560
All right.

685
01:01:02.560 --> 01:01:03.400
Anybody else?

686
01:01:05.400 --> 01:01:06.520
Ladies are quiet today.

687
01:01:06.520 --> 01:01:08.160
I have a couple of questions.

688
01:01:08.160 --> 01:01:10.120
Well, I have like three questions.

689
01:01:10.120 --> 01:01:11.360
Okay.

690
01:01:11.360 --> 01:01:12.760
No one else is asking questions.

691
01:01:12.760 --> 01:01:15.400
So I'm gonna give you the floor to ask your three.

692
01:01:16.720 --> 01:01:18.720
The first one is, is I have three kids.

693
01:01:18.720 --> 01:01:21.640
I'm a stay-at-home parent to my kids right now.

694
01:01:21.640 --> 01:01:23.880
I actually don't advertise that I have kids

695
01:01:23.880 --> 01:01:25.320
on my dating app at all.

696
01:01:25.320 --> 01:01:27.600
So when somebody matches with me,

697
01:01:27.640 --> 01:01:29.960
they will not be able to tell I have kids.

698
01:01:29.960 --> 01:01:33.120
They won't, like, nothing.

699
01:01:33.120 --> 01:01:34.600
Due to like privacy reasons,

700
01:01:34.600 --> 01:01:38.880
plus I've just read through like other dating stuff

701
01:01:38.880 --> 01:01:41.880
about it makes your kids more vulnerable

702
01:01:41.880 --> 01:01:43.960
potentially to like predators

703
01:01:43.960 --> 01:01:46.040
if they know you're a single mom.

704
01:01:46.040 --> 01:01:47.200
So I've just chosen not to,

705
01:01:47.200 --> 01:01:50.360
but I don't really know then when to like tell

706
01:01:50.360 --> 01:01:52.280
this person I have kids.

707
01:01:52.280 --> 01:01:54.480
I like that you brought up this question because yes,

708
01:01:55.320 --> 01:02:00.320
I've seen what you've said of how people share not to.

709
01:02:02.400 --> 01:02:05.840
My opinion is gonna be slightly different, okay?

710
01:02:05.840 --> 01:02:06.680
Here's why.

711
01:02:06.680 --> 01:02:08.480
I was a single mom too.

712
01:02:08.480 --> 01:02:10.240
I had a son as well.

713
01:02:10.240 --> 01:02:14.000
I agree, you do not wanna leave your kids vulnerable, okay?

714
01:02:14.000 --> 01:02:18.680
But there are ways to be able to communicate in an app

715
01:02:18.680 --> 01:02:23.680
that yes, you have children and you don't have to open

716
01:02:23.760 --> 01:02:24.960
the door to leave them vulnerable.

717
01:02:24.960 --> 01:02:28.720
So I always put on there, yes, I had children.

718
01:02:31.000 --> 01:02:34.000
We don't include pictures, obviously, of your children.

719
01:02:34.000 --> 01:02:36.200
That's super duper important.

720
01:02:36.200 --> 01:02:41.200
So the reason I say to be transparent about it

721
01:02:41.960 --> 01:02:46.960
is because there are men out there that are not interested

722
01:02:50.280 --> 01:02:52.440
in dating someone that has children, okay?

723
01:02:52.480 --> 01:02:55.200
And I'm not saying that as a negative dig to them

724
01:02:55.200 --> 01:02:59.360
or negative dig to us that we're single moms, okay?

725
01:02:59.360 --> 01:03:02.320
But there's just certain people that that's not a season

726
01:03:02.320 --> 01:03:03.480
of life that they're in.

727
01:03:03.480 --> 01:03:07.760
So for me personally, it was important that I was matching

728
01:03:07.760 --> 01:03:12.240
and meeting and spending my time away from my child

729
01:03:12.240 --> 01:03:16.040
with people that were going to invest in getting to know me

730
01:03:16.040 --> 01:03:18.000
knowing that I had a child,

731
01:03:18.000 --> 01:03:20.800
knowing that that child is part of the package.

732
01:03:20.840 --> 01:03:22.480
You get to know me personally,

733
01:03:22.480 --> 01:03:25.400
I'm not gonna share about my child, okay?

734
01:03:25.400 --> 01:03:29.320
That is where I will, that's where I like you,

735
01:03:29.320 --> 01:03:32.560
when you're on dates, you don't disclose any information

736
01:03:32.560 --> 01:03:33.640
about your kids.

737
01:03:33.640 --> 01:03:36.360
Like I would, I mean, I would say, yeah, I have a child,

738
01:03:36.360 --> 01:03:40.040
he's elementary, you know, and he enjoys sports.

739
01:03:40.040 --> 01:03:44.360
And, you know, I have him 95% of the time.

740
01:03:44.360 --> 01:03:48.800
So I'm only available to spend time with you

741
01:03:48.800 --> 01:03:52.600
when he's with his dad every other weekend,

742
01:03:52.600 --> 01:03:54.480
or when I can get a sitter.

743
01:03:54.480 --> 01:03:57.000
And I did that so that some guys,

744
01:03:57.000 --> 01:03:59.000
because there were some guys that literally thought

745
01:03:59.000 --> 01:04:02.680
I could just drop what I was doing and go hang out.

746
01:04:02.680 --> 01:04:06.480
And I couldn't, like, I have a responsibility to my child.

747
01:04:06.480 --> 01:04:09.960
I have to go to bed early, I have to wake up early,

748
01:04:09.960 --> 01:04:13.880
wake up early, I'm trucking my kid around, you know,

749
01:04:13.880 --> 01:04:17.080
to school, I have to help him with his school stuff.

750
01:04:17.080 --> 01:04:21.000
So that's why, like, I am a firm believer

751
01:04:21.000 --> 01:04:23.880
in just being transparent about having kids,

752
01:04:23.880 --> 01:04:27.040
but you're not going to give a bunch of information.

753
01:04:27.040 --> 01:04:30.760
They don't need to know how old they are.

754
01:04:30.760 --> 01:04:34.600
They don't need to know, like, what sports they're in.

755
01:04:34.600 --> 01:04:36.360
They don't need to know,

756
01:04:37.440 --> 01:04:39.040
they don't need to know all those details,

757
01:04:39.040 --> 01:04:40.960
but you can certainly let them know, like,

758
01:04:40.960 --> 01:04:44.040
yes, I have a child, I have three kids, so.

759
01:04:44.080 --> 01:04:47.680
Yeah, like, generally what I do is when I match with them,

760
01:04:47.680 --> 01:04:49.560
I'll, like, have a little bit of small talk,

761
01:04:49.560 --> 01:04:52.160
and then when they're like, what do you do?

762
01:04:52.160 --> 01:04:53.520
Or like, what did you do today?

763
01:04:53.520 --> 01:04:56.880
Then I'll say, oh, I have three kids, or I have kids,

764
01:04:56.880 --> 01:05:00.280
I don't, and I usually say, like, 10 and under.

765
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:05.200
or something like that, like I kind of give an age gap and then I'm like if that's not something

766
01:05:05.200 --> 01:05:08.960
you're interested in, totally fine, I just don't put them on my profile due to privacy reasons.

767
01:05:08.960 --> 01:05:11.840
That's kind of what I have been doing, but I'm like I don't know if that's awkward because then

768
01:05:11.840 --> 01:05:16.880
people are like not seeing that I have them, but I also don't know how comfortable I feel

769
01:05:16.880 --> 01:05:26.640
writing. So in the profiles, I don't know which online source you're using online,

770
01:05:26.640 --> 01:05:32.320
but I do like all the ones that I have used in the past, like obviously Facebook dating,

771
01:05:32.320 --> 01:05:38.560
I think there was like Hinge and Bumble a long time ago. I had done Match before this community,

772
01:05:38.560 --> 01:05:45.440
actually where I met my son's father, but it has on there like do you have kids,

773
01:05:45.440 --> 01:05:52.800
do you want kids, and so I did put yes, I had a child and then I put he lives with me a majority

774
01:05:52.800 --> 01:05:57.200
of the time. Like you can have those features, so it doesn't have to be in your profile,

775
01:05:57.200 --> 01:06:02.240
doesn't have to be in your photos, but I think somewhere to just kind of signal yes,

776
01:06:02.240 --> 01:06:08.160
I do have children because there are some people that just don't want to have kids

777
01:06:09.120 --> 01:06:17.840
and so or they do or whatever. Like for example, my husband, he had two children

778
01:06:18.400 --> 01:06:24.400
and so he and he is huge on, I mean he doesn't even have social media like Facebook

779
01:06:25.360 --> 01:06:32.000
and he can't stand if I try to post pictures of the kids. Like he reprimands me for it,

780
01:06:32.000 --> 01:06:37.040
but I was like ah, like that's how we stay connected. I have everything on lock and in

781
01:06:37.040 --> 01:06:42.480
private, but he's very adamant about not sharing that stuff, but it was important to him that

782
01:06:43.120 --> 01:06:48.560
people knew he had children because that was, otherwise he felt like he was being deceptive.

783
01:06:48.560 --> 01:06:55.520
So that was him, but I think just putting it on there just to say yes, I have children,

784
01:06:56.400 --> 01:07:04.720
but you don't give all the information. So and it will just help you kind of weed out or like

785
01:07:05.440 --> 01:07:12.320
or not or get invested in somebody and then it just gets weird. That's my opinion though.

786
01:07:15.120 --> 01:07:23.120
Yeah, but again going on the fact of like being a target for predators, this is why

787
01:07:24.000 --> 01:07:31.440
in this community we talk to you ladies about safety as well. Like not having a video call

788
01:07:31.440 --> 01:07:36.880
before meeting someone, never going to somebody's house or inviting them to your house. You don't

789
01:07:36.880 --> 01:07:44.320
disclose locations of things of where you're going, where your kids go to school. Like you don't give

790
01:07:44.320 --> 01:07:55.040
details about your schedule. Just being safe in that regard is important. So that way you can

791
01:07:55.040 --> 01:08:02.000
kind of signal like whether or not someone's intentionally trying to date you. And again,

792
01:08:03.600 --> 01:08:09.840
you're pacing yourself in the relationship. You're doing the level two pacing. You're not over

793
01:08:09.840 --> 01:08:15.520
sharing. You're getting to know somebody. You're seeing them involved in community and you're just

794
01:08:15.520 --> 01:08:22.080
you're pacing with that getting to know you stage. That when you got to know them and you start

795
01:08:22.080 --> 01:08:28.640
seeing them not as a stranger anymore and they've shown you some of their character and behaviors

796
01:08:28.640 --> 01:08:35.120
and you've seen that and then as you're stepping into a level three committed relationship. That

797
01:08:35.120 --> 01:08:40.960
to me is when you would start introducing your children is when you've had more of an exclusive

798
01:08:40.960 --> 01:08:50.160
conversation. That's how I did it. You know my husband and I did it is we waited until

799
01:08:50.160 --> 01:08:57.040
we were exclusively dating before our kids found out. In fact, actually I shouldn't say that

800
01:08:57.040 --> 01:09:03.279
because my son's all us hugging outside of my door when he dropped me off for a date when my

801
01:09:03.279 --> 01:09:10.000
son was supposed to be in bed. But the babysitter said he woke up and so he was like waiting up for

802
01:09:10.000 --> 01:09:18.479
me. So in that sense like at that point my husband and I were actually exclusively dating just dating

803
01:09:18.479 --> 01:09:24.880
each other. So I did tell my son but we waited some time before we introduced each other to our

804
01:09:24.880 --> 01:09:33.359
children. So and then at that point I felt very safe. I felt like God was giving me lots of confirmation that

805
01:09:33.359 --> 01:09:41.359
this was in fact going to be my husband. I got to know him before giving him all the details about my

806
01:09:41.359 --> 01:09:48.399
child. So you got two more questions. Well this one might actually be better to ask in the app.

807
01:09:48.399 --> 01:09:54.640
I just find like there's not a lot of like responding happening. But I was just curious

808
01:09:54.640 --> 01:09:59.840
what other women ask men as like questions because I'm like sometimes I've

809
01:10:00.000 --> 01:10:00.920
just run out of things.

810
01:10:00.920 --> 01:10:04.180
Like I don't really know what else to ask you.

811
01:10:04.180 --> 01:10:05.020
Okay, that's good.

812
01:10:05.020 --> 01:10:07.560
I actually, so before we had the app,

813
01:10:07.560 --> 01:10:10.560
we had the Facebook group and there was a post

814
01:10:10.560 --> 01:10:13.920
and people did put questions that they asked.

815
01:10:13.920 --> 01:10:15.360
So I love that.

816
01:10:15.360 --> 01:10:17.660
So definitely post it in the app

817
01:10:17.660 --> 01:10:21.720
and I'm gonna keep getting on you ladies

818
01:10:21.720 --> 01:10:24.120
to start engaging in the app.

819
01:10:24.120 --> 01:10:26.320
All right, super important.

820
01:10:27.160 --> 01:10:28.080
So some of my things,

821
01:10:28.080 --> 01:10:31.840
so like the question today that I gave you ladies,

822
01:10:31.840 --> 01:10:34.000
like tell me about one of your favorite vacations

823
01:10:34.000 --> 01:10:35.440
or trips or what's a place

824
01:10:35.440 --> 01:10:38.040
that you've always wanted to go to and why?

825
01:10:38.040 --> 01:10:39.200
So questions like,

826
01:10:39.200 --> 01:10:41.360
questions that are about things

827
01:10:41.360 --> 01:10:42.960
that I knew I was interested in

828
01:10:42.960 --> 01:10:45.760
and that I had responses for.

829
01:10:47.000 --> 01:10:48.920
I love the question is,

830
01:10:48.920 --> 01:10:51.480
what fills up your time on the weekends?

831
01:10:51.480 --> 01:10:53.720
What do you enjoy the most about weekends?

832
01:10:53.720 --> 01:10:56.120
What's your favorite day of the week and why?

833
01:10:58.440 --> 01:11:01.160
You know, the career that you're in,

834
01:11:01.160 --> 01:11:04.080
do you see yourself continuing to do that?

835
01:11:04.080 --> 01:11:05.840
Do you wanna continue growing?

836
01:11:05.840 --> 01:11:08.880
Do you wanna do something completely different?

837
01:11:08.880 --> 01:11:12.420
What did you wanna be when you were older,

838
01:11:12.420 --> 01:11:13.340
when you were a kid?

839
01:11:13.340 --> 01:11:15.640
Like what was the thing that you told people

840
01:11:15.640 --> 01:11:17.280
that you wanted to be when you were younger?

841
01:11:17.280 --> 01:11:19.660
Like, you know, what was that like?

842
01:11:21.720 --> 01:11:25.320
Just all sorts of just like fun, get to know you questions.

843
01:11:25.360 --> 01:11:28.000
I also love, would you rather questions?

844
01:11:29.480 --> 01:11:32.600
You can like Google some of those.

845
01:11:32.600 --> 01:11:35.480
I mean, honestly, you can go and Google

846
01:11:35.480 --> 01:11:37.560
and just be like first date questions

847
01:11:37.560 --> 01:11:39.900
and they're gonna give you a giant list

848
01:11:39.900 --> 01:11:43.360
and there's gonna be some on there that are just awful.

849
01:11:43.360 --> 01:11:44.520
Yeah.

850
01:11:44.520 --> 01:11:48.080
Like you might have to comb through and pick out some,

851
01:11:48.080 --> 01:11:49.720
but there's a lot of great ideas.

852
01:11:49.720 --> 01:11:52.000
Like I said, I love the would you rather questions

853
01:11:52.000 --> 01:11:54.760
because you typically,

854
01:11:57.360 --> 01:11:59.640
there's typically a reason why you choose the would you,

855
01:11:59.640 --> 01:12:01.720
like the one over the other.

856
01:12:01.720 --> 01:12:03.240
And there's always like an explanation.

857
01:12:03.240 --> 01:12:06.360
Well, I would rather do this because of this.

858
01:12:06.360 --> 01:12:08.700
And so you kind of get to know somebody's personality

859
01:12:08.700 --> 01:12:10.280
that way.

860
01:12:10.280 --> 01:12:12.080
Like I'm trying to think of a would you rather question.

861
01:12:12.080 --> 01:12:15.160
My kids do this all the time, like the would you rathers.

862
01:12:15.160 --> 01:12:17.520
And I'm always like, where did you come up with?

863
01:12:17.520 --> 01:12:19.840
I mean, some of them get like gross and stuff,

864
01:12:19.840 --> 01:12:22.200
but they're all in good fun.

865
01:12:22.200 --> 01:12:25.760
But usually there's a reason why you choose

866
01:12:25.760 --> 01:12:29.560
to have the superpower of like being invincible

867
01:12:30.600 --> 01:12:33.640
as opposed to being able to run really fast.

868
01:12:33.640 --> 01:12:34.480
I don't know.

869
01:12:35.800 --> 01:12:37.940
So those are some good questions.

870
01:12:37.940 --> 01:12:39.960
And then do you have another one?

871
01:12:39.960 --> 01:12:42.960
I was just like wondering when you said you don't talk to,

872
01:12:42.960 --> 01:12:45.080
like keeping it, what did you say?

873
01:12:45.080 --> 01:12:45.920
Keep it light.

874
01:12:45.920 --> 01:12:47.440
You don't talk to them every day.

875
01:12:47.440 --> 01:12:48.480
Do you tell them that?

876
01:12:48.480 --> 01:12:50.320
Because generally like in the past,

877
01:12:50.320 --> 01:12:52.600
if I don't hear from somebody like in the morning,

878
01:12:52.600 --> 01:12:55.660
even if it's just like, hey, hope you have a good day.

879
01:12:55.660 --> 01:12:58.560
I automatically assume like they're not that interested.

880
01:12:58.560 --> 01:13:00.480
So I'm like curious, do you like say,

881
01:13:00.480 --> 01:13:02.720
I'm not gonna be talking to you every day.

882
01:13:02.720 --> 01:13:04.280
I mean, I wouldn't say,

883
01:13:04.280 --> 01:13:06.620
hey, I'm not gonna talk to you at all.

884
01:13:06.620 --> 01:13:07.960
What happens is like,

885
01:13:07.960 --> 01:13:11.600
if I notice a guy is starting to like text me,

886
01:13:13.500 --> 01:13:16.040
if a guy, like when a guy would just start texting me

887
01:13:16.040 --> 01:13:18.960
more frequently, I would just say,

888
01:13:18.960 --> 01:13:22.280
hey, you know, good morning.

889
01:13:22.280 --> 01:13:25.520
I, I'm super busy.

890
01:13:25.520 --> 01:13:26.880
I got a lot going on.

891
01:13:26.880 --> 01:13:29.840
I, I would love to get to know you more,

892
01:13:29.840 --> 01:13:33.940
but can we, you know, that I,

893
01:13:33.940 --> 01:13:36.240
this is when it's really good just to go ahead

894
01:13:36.240 --> 01:13:38.500
and set up an actual meetup.

895
01:13:38.500 --> 01:13:39.340
Yeah.

896
01:13:39.340 --> 01:13:42.100
Or like, hey, like I,

897
01:13:42.100 --> 01:13:44.920
I'm really about like getting to know people

898
01:13:44.920 --> 01:13:49.440
and, you know, not talking all the time

899
01:13:49.440 --> 01:13:51.840
until I've gotten to know somebody.

900
01:13:51.840 --> 01:13:55.360
I'm being super intentional and, you know,

901
01:13:55.360 --> 01:13:57.960
just, just being very, you know,

902
01:13:57.960 --> 01:14:01.660
communicative about, I can't say that word very well,

903
01:14:01.660 --> 01:14:03.240
just communicate to them.

904
01:14:03.240 --> 01:14:06.800
Like I'm in a season where I'm getting to know people

905
01:14:06.800 --> 01:14:09.240
and I wanna get to know people better,

906
01:14:09.240 --> 01:14:11.320
but I need to be very intentional with time.

907
01:14:11.320 --> 01:14:13.160
This is when you can be like,

908
01:14:13.160 --> 01:14:16.040
I am a mom, so I can be busy at times.

909
01:14:16.040 --> 01:14:18.680
And I wanna, I wanna get to know you more.

910
01:14:18.680 --> 01:14:20.600
When, when is a good time to chat?

911
01:14:21.520 --> 01:14:22.600
And then I try to lay it,

912
01:14:22.600 --> 01:14:25.040
like leave it off the texting back and forth

913
01:14:25.040 --> 01:14:27.800
and leaving it for more intentional,

914
01:14:27.800 --> 01:14:29.840
get to know you times.

915
01:14:29.840 --> 01:14:31.800
I find it like super draining anyways,

916
01:14:31.800 --> 01:14:33.620
to like text throughout the day like that.

917
01:14:33.620 --> 01:14:34.460
And I'm just like,

918
01:14:34.460 --> 01:14:36.320
oh, I don't really even want to do that.

919
01:14:36.320 --> 01:14:38.080
But I'm like, how do you be like,

920
01:14:38.080 --> 01:14:40.320
oh, you might not hear from me for a day or two.

921
01:14:40.320 --> 01:14:42.520
Just say, hey, like I'm super busy.

922
01:14:42.840 --> 01:14:43.680
I've got a lot going on.

923
01:14:43.680 --> 01:14:46.200
So I'm not on my phone quite often.

924
01:14:46.200 --> 01:14:49.360
So I wanna get to know you

925
01:14:49.360 --> 01:14:50.880
and I wanna answer your questions

926
01:14:50.880 --> 01:14:52.520
or I wanna respond to you.

927
01:14:52.520 --> 01:14:55.400
Is there a time later in the day

928
01:14:55.400 --> 01:14:57.600
or in the next couple of days

929
01:14:57.600 --> 01:15:00.160
that we can jump on a video call or we can meet?

930
01:15:00.000 --> 01:15:08.720
up like and just say hey like I I am intentional about dating right now and being more in person

931
01:15:08.720 --> 01:15:14.160
and just even being even saying like I'm being more intentional with my time in real life

932
01:15:14.160 --> 01:15:21.600
so I'm trying not to be on my phone as frequent so I would prefer if we would spend our time

933
01:15:21.600 --> 01:15:27.120
getting to know each other where we could be on a phone call a video chat or in life like real life

934
01:15:27.120 --> 01:15:35.920
like on an actual dating just be like texting can can get really draining so I'm I'm not going to

935
01:15:35.920 --> 01:15:42.480
be as responsive but I would love to get to know you so let's set up a time to do that okay no

936
01:15:42.480 --> 01:15:49.040
that sounds good thank you you are welcome all right I feel like a few people have dropped off

937
01:15:49.040 --> 01:15:54.800
we are at like 2 30 eastern time so we've been on for about an hour and a half so if there is

938
01:15:54.800 --> 01:16:00.960
no other question I'm gonna let you ladies go and enjoy the rest of your day and then remember

939
01:16:01.760 --> 01:16:09.440
Jackie's invited you all to a sneak peek of loveseat with the community and uh face

940
01:16:10.000 --> 01:16:16.480
phase three and the men as well which is a real treat to check out if you're able to do that tonight

941
01:16:17.440 --> 01:16:22.560
that is in the events tab on your app all right

942
01:16:25.440 --> 01:16:30.160
awesome awesome all right ladies we'll enjoy the rest of your day and I hope you all can

943
01:16:30.160 --> 01:16:35.280
jump on that loveseat tonight it'll be you'll like it it's always a lot of fun

944
01:16:36.320 --> 01:16:38.320
all right ladies take care