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Awesome. Welcome, ladies. This is your Phase 2 live check-in. One o'clock. It is October

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15th. So good to be here with y'all. I've got to just make a quick change in my notes

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because it's saying that it's September, and that's definitely not what we want. All right.

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Yes, this is October 15th, your one o'clock call. Just to keep in mind, tonight we had a little bit

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of a schedule change. It's very exciting. The Phase 2 ladies are being invited to a spirit

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mate match event. So that is happening tonight at our check-in time at eight o'clock Eastern.

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So instead of a check-in at eight o'clock, we are doing a spirit mate match event with Jackie

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at eight o'clock. So when you're in your app and you click the events tab, that link is going to

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be under your calendar. Okay. So just keep that in mind. So let's go ahead and get started with

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some housekeeping items. First off, is there anybody that's new to Phase 2? I don't think

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so. I think I recognize all of you that are here with me live at the moment. So I don't see any

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newbies on our live, but just in case there's some newbies in replay, I'm going to just kind

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of go over some of those little tidbits for those that are watching in replay. So remember,

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there are five videos. So you are asked to watch those one video a week, take time, process through

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those, pray about them, journal on, and then come share your takeaways with us here at Last Year

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Single in the app. Okay. As you're also watching those videos, be thinking and praying how God

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wants to highlight how you can use that information and that content in your current situation,

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whether you're dating or considering dating. Maybe you're not quite there yet. However,

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God highlights to you things and processes that you can be using. Okay. Because remember,

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y'all are on your own journeys. You're all on your own process. Okay. There's no like right

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or wrong time that you need to, you know, jump into the dating pool or not. I know some people

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are a little bit slower to the punch. That was me when I was in the program. I was like, I got

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to take my time, y'all. So we totally get it. We just want to make sure that you're not being

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stuck in the waiting room and that God is highlighting for things, highlighting things

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for you to go ahead and start stepping into that process. All right. So if you are new here in

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phase two, so you might be asking, okay, like now that I'm here, what do I need to do? So again,

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along with those videos, just make sure that you're showing up here in phase two. You will

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get out of this group, what you put in. I can attest to that having been in the program myself

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and ways that you can show up are by sharing and posting in the app. And now all of that stuff can

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be about all different types of things. So for example, that might be some heartwork stuff that

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you are still working and processing through dating situations, especially this situation.

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So if you're out there dating, make sure you're coming in our app and you're showing up and

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letting us know what's going on in your dating life. Okay. I want the good, the bad, the ugly,

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so that we can help you with the blind spots. Okay. Mickey, don't stress. I know I see you're

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like, oh, the good, the bad, the ugly. Again, it's no stress whatsoever. Okay.

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We're just here to be those blind spots and just to kind of share your experience. Okay.

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Other things that you can be sharing are things that you're actually learning from the video.

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Like what takeaways did you have? I shared that a little bit a moment ago. Things that stuck out

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to you. Tom, let us know. Like what new information did you get now that you maybe didn't have back

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then? All right. Any breakthroughs that you're having? It doesn't have to be dating related.

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It doesn't have to be dating related. Okay. We're all again, like this is not just a dating journey.

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It is just a life journey. Okay. I learned that just in my own experience. There were

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other breakthroughs that I was getting, not always from the dating situation. Okay.

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And then anything that you want to celebrate or questions that you may have, the questions could

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be about something that maybe you heard in replay or a question that you have in regards to some of

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the video content. Maybe it's a question about a dating situation that you're in. Come to the app

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and share all of those things with us. Okay. I cannot stress that enough. All right. When you

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are creating posts, just

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Help us out by not linking other websites or influencers or authors or speakers or things of that nature.

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We just don't have the time to vet those things out. We want to make sure that they're aligned with what we're teaching here at Last Year Single.

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You may have noticed some of the ladies have done some videos. If you do decide to do a video, please try to keep it under three minutes.

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The best way to do that is to jot down some bullet points before recording.

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I have a hard time with this, but I've learned by taking some notes it does really help keep those videos short, brief, and powerful.

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When you are posting in the community, make sure you're mindful of what tab you're posting it under, especially the Ask a Coach tab.

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Those are super, super important.

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Then in the app, another way you can show up is to show up for your sisters.

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Comment, encourage, share in their celebrations and excitement with them, engage with them, and reply to their posts.

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As long as it's not under the Ask a Coach, everything else is free game.

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All we ask is that you refrain from any sort of negativity.

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We get that some of y'all are going to find yourselves in some really frustrating, maybe discouraging situations.

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We've all been there, myself included, but we don't want to stay stuck there.

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A lot of times we stay stuck there when we have other people joining in on our party.

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Just like, oh, I'm so frustrated.

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Everyone's like, yeah, I'm frustrated. Men suck.

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We do not want to bash men.

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Men are not the bad guy.

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The enemy is the bad guy.

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There's some men that, yeah, they don't have it.

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They're kind of not got a mentor like Jackie, or they have wounds and heart issues as well.

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Maybe they're not open to being a better version of themselves.

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That's okay.

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We don't have to pick up that pen.

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We don't have to share in that negativity.

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Again, just try not to jump on the negative train with your sisters.

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Just try to be as encouraging and hopeful and lift all the boats that you possibly can.

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Then the best way to stay engaged is to come to as many of these live check-ins as you possibly can.

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This time in phase two is only meant to be about four or five weeks long.

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We want you to capitalize and utilize that time for your benefit.

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This is a much smaller community, a much smaller group in phase two.

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It really is designed to kind of give you ladies some extra one-on-one coaching before you step out into phase three,

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which there's a lot of exciting things in phase three.

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You don't want to stay stuck in phase two.

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That's why I say in that four to five weeks, make the most of it by showing up to these lives.

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Then showing up in the app, sharing with us what's going on, and getting all of the information you possibly can.

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Navigating the app.

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A couple things.

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I want you ladies to be open to using both your phone and your desktop.

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I have learned by using both helps me navigate the app a lot better.

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Again, this is a brand new app.

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We develop it just for our last year single community.

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Like any new app, there's going to be glitches, especially in these beginning stages.

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Just help us by being patient while we work with the developers to get out these kinks.

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Just understand that we are here for you.

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There are times where we might not see something that you post in the eight or 12 hours.

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If we don't see it, it's not because we don't care.

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We just simply are still trying to navigate the apps ourselves.

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But trust that as soon as we see it, we are going to respond to you, ladies.

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We care about you deeply.

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And just know that we are here for you.

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Another thing to be keeping in mind is that resource tab and the training tab.

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There's a lot of good information there.

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Especially in the training tab, it's going to kind of give you just a brief overview of how to navigate the app.

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So make sure you check that out.

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And then in the resource tab, we have the affiliate information, the spirit mate match information, single cities, and then the Ask Jackie link.

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So I would strongly encourage you to check that out.

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And just keep in mind, a lot of times people want to...

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send emails about that information, especially with the spirit mate match and the affiliate link,

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understand that we just do not have the bandwidth to be able to answer all those emails,

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so we won't be. So your best bet is to get all the information from the app. If you have a question

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about it, you can come to the app and ask us there, and we'll be happy to find the answers for

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you, okay? The only time really that we tell you to email us at admin at JackieDorman.com

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is when you're ready to shift over to phase three. So what that looks like, because again,

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this is not for the new ladies that are listening in replay or just brand new coming in,

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but some of you ladies that have been here for more than five weeks, I know there's a handful

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of you that I've recently noticed that some of y'all been here since June and July,

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we're going to be kicking you out of the nest, okay? So what that looks like is when you've

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watched your video content, you've been in the group for the minimum of four to five weeks,

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and you've come to the live check-ins, you've replayed, you've shown up in the app,

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that's when you will email admin at JackieDorman.com to request to get entered into

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phase three, okay? So that is really the only time that we broadcast to email, okay, is getting

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into phase three. Everything else, you can come to us in the app and have the information that's

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already there available to you or ask your question, and we can navigate it from there,

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okay? I think that pretty much covers all my housekeeping items, anything housekeeping

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related that any of you ladies have questions on. I'm going to go ahead and open. I know I don't

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usually do this, but I know I covered a lot of information, and I did a really good job

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about covering it fast. Does anybody have any questions about housekeeping stuff?

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No, we're good. Awesome, okay. We've gotten a few more people popped on since I started, so

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please let me know how many of you are brand new here to phase two. Go ahead and raise your hand,

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your avatar hand if you can, and ladies, I know some of you are driving and can't be on camera

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or you're at work, that's fine, but if you can be on camera, I would love to see your face.

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I can't figure out where the hand is. I'm sorry. Oh, that's okay. Come on and show your face and

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you can just raise your hand like this. Are you brand new then? New to phase two? You are muted.

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New to phase two? You are muted. All right, so yes. All right, well, I'm going to go ahead and

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jump into the teaching since it doesn't look like there's any questions about the housekeeping

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stuff. So, this week we are on the third video, so again, those of you that are brand new,

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don't worry. If you haven't watched the video yet, you'll get there. What we like to do on

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these live calls is we just like to give a little bit of a teaching on the videos, and so since

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there are five, we really go over the four, the dating 101, the divine feminine, the online dating,

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and then the boundaries. So, this is the third week of the month, so we're on that online dating

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video. So, I'm just going to go ahead and jump in and just kind of give you some of the top 10 from

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that video, and then I got a few other things that I want to discuss with you ladies, and then I'll

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open the floor to questions, and we'll do a breakout session as well and get you ladies

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getting to know one another a little better, okay? So, the online dating video, so just go ahead and

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raise your hand if you have watched the online dating video. I know there's some of you that are

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new, so you might not have gotten to that yet. Okay, Emily, she's watched the online dating, so is

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Kylie. Perfect. Awesome. So, just a couple of you, so those of you that haven't watched the online

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dating video, I'm just going to briefly touch on a couple things, all right? Take notes if you want,

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and then just keep that in mind when you're watching it for yourself when you get to it,

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because remember, we only want to do one a week. So, the dating 101, not dating 101, online dating,

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all right? Top 10 things to be thinking about when you're doing online dating is, number one, is to

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go in with a fresh attitude, okay? If your attitude's not fresh, don't go out.

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I know back in my day, I'm one of the OGs from Jackie's group.

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She used to joke with us, it was like, you know, swimming with the sharks, because yeah,

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ladies, sometimes online dating, I mean, raise your hand if you've been online dating, and

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you've come across some not so great men to deal with.

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It's just there.

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But we need to have a fresh attitude.

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We don't want to focus so much on the negative and the guys that are out there that maybe

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give us those creep vibes, right?

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We really do want to go on with a fresh attitude and remind ourselves that we are God protected,

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for God defended.

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And we don't have to pick up the offense to those guys, we can bless and block and be

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on our way.

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And that is something I'm going to talk with y'all a little bit later about.

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So yeah, go in with a fresh attitude.

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If you don't have that fresh attitude yet, don't go in at all.

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Number two is go in to actually date.

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This is and then you get to know yourself and to practice your dating skills.

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All right, if you're not going to actually invest in it, like, use it for what it really

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It really is a good tool if it's used, well, okay.

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I was one of those people, I didn't like the whole online dating thing at all, but I stepped

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out of my comfort zone and I still did it.

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And I learned a lot about myself and it allowed me an opportunity to practice what I was learning

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in this community and just putting it into practice in real life.

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And then I actually got to go on some dates.

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I can't say all my dates were phenomenal, but I will say that there were a handful of

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dates that I didn't anticipate to be great, but they were.

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So just go in it to actually practice your dating skills and get to know yourself better.

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Number three is be willing to deal with those scammers, those ghosters, those wishy washy

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Just pass them by.

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It's not your job to teach them how to date.

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It's not your job to share the gospel or to share with them how they're supposed to be

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It's not your job to teach them heartwork either.

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Be willing to know that you're going to deal with those types of men, but pass them by.

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So again, I will talk in a little bit about what we do to bless and block and what that

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So number four, we're going to talk about your profile.

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So when you're doing your profile, you want to make sure that you're picking the best

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photos.

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You want some closeup ones and some full links.

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You don't want to put other people in them.

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I know like myself, I always like to take pictures with groups of people.

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If you can kind of crop yourself out of them, that's best because what happens is you get

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other people in there and they can be a distraction.

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Because I don't know about you, but even when I'm looking, when I was online and I was looking

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at guys' photos and they had pictures of other people, like there were times I'm like, Ooh,

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that guy's cute.

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So just like highlight yourself.

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Um, and then don't use photos with a bunch of sunglasses.

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I was living in Florida at the time.

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So the sunglasses, they cover your face.

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Like guys want to see your face.

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They want to see your eyes.

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of sunglasses on because maybe you're a beachgoer and you want to highlight that you spend time

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at the beach, but let's not, let's give them more photos that are close up and that highlight

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your face, then that cover them.

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you like to do and what you're looking for.

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Don't forget to put a little bit about what you're looking for, what characteristics,

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what qualities in people do you like the most?

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Do you like men that have a certain.

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heart, that are, you know, generous with their time, you

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know, you could put that in there. I'm really attracted to

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men that volunteer their time with, you know, special groups

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and programs and churches, whatever that is, okay? Maybe

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you like a man that is chivalrous and will open your

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car door for you. You know, what qualities and characteristics

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are you looking for in a man that you find very attractive?

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again, being positive. We don't want to talk about negative what

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you don't want, but talk about what you do want. Okay? And

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also, we know that all of us here are believers, okay? We

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can talk about how Jesus is important in our life, but we

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don't want to be so overly, and I know this sometimes gets

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people in a funk, where like, when you be like that to Jesus

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girl, like, it's like all about it. That can sometimes steer

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some Christian men away, just from their own experience with

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dealing with, because here's, I'll be honest, there's a lot of

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Christian women out there, that as soon as they find a Christian

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man, they're like planning their their wedding date and how many

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kids they're gonna have and all sorts of stuff. Like, we won't

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pump the brakes a little bit. So unfortunately, some some really

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good men have been, you know, a little bit like jaded by that.

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So obviously, my best thing that I can suggest you ladies is if

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you're not sure about what you're putting in your dating

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profile, bring it to us here in the community. Share with us

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what you're thinking about posting. And we can give you

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some some feedback on that. Okay. And then the last thing

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about your profile is, I know all different apps have all

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different things. But there's a lot of apps that have where you

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can fill in questions, and they give you little prompts and

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stuff. Do your best to fill out all of those places that you

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can, like some of them even have like, putting a video, I know

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that's, that's like a new thing. So if you can do that, okay,

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excuse me. Okay, so number five, now we are focused on one or two

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dating sites at a time. Okay, do not overload yourself, ladies.

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If you do, you're going to find you're working at like a job.

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And yes, you want to be open to dating and putting yourself out

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there. But you also don't want to be so boggled down to your

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phone and these apps that you're not enjoying the everyday

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life. So I I say a good rule of thumb is one or two at a time.

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personally appreciated the Facebook dating. And I know some

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people get bent out of shape because it's not a Christian

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dating site. But ladies, there's Christians everywhere. And

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sometimes on those Christian sites, there's not Christians on

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them. Some of them they can be a front like that. Okay, so be

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open to doing a couple different ones. All right. And then I also

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say, give yourself at least three months on one app before

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you decide to can it. Okay, because those apps they will

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there's like an ebb and flow and up and down a feast or famine.

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Some weeks you'd be like, Oh my goodness, it's raining men. And

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then the next week, you're like, it's a drought. Alright, so

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just be open to allowing time for these apps. And that there

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is a process with it. Okay. I know a lot of times people get

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on those apps. And they're like, I'm ready to meet my husband.

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that person. And I will say nine times out of 10, that's not

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gonna happen. You know, there's a process of having just to kind

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of go through a couple different people. And honestly, like

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there's a process and learning more about yourself and what you

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like and what you don't like that happens with the dating

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process. Okay, number six is texting like, no more than a

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week. So if you're messaging back and forth, don't do it for

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more than a week, move to a video, like zoom call, or even a

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phone call, like if you're using Google Voice or live date within

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a week. All right, you don't want to sit in the pen.

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Powell category. Okay. What can happen when you're doing that

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too, is that you then you start talking about deep dive, like

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you deep dive with people, you talk about personal things with

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a complete stranger. And the next thing you know, like you're

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four weeks in, you've never met this person face to face. And

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you start catching feelings and fantasizing what this could be

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like, oh, they, they understand me, they get me, you're sharing

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intimate details about yourself, and they're doing the same

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thing. And you haven't even seen him before. You haven't even

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met up. So the best way is get those those zoom calls, those

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video dates and those live dates. And I know a lot of

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times people are freaked out about getting scammed. Ladies,

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the best way to get out of getting scammed is get on a

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video call, because scammers don't want to be on a video

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call, you're going to know real quick, if they're not open to

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jumping on a video call with you, then they're not worth your

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time. All right. One thing I love that Renee used to coach

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and say, is telling people, look, I'm in a season where I

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want to date in real life. So if that's you, that's great. If

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not, I understand, but I'm going to continue to move on.

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And that's okay to say, ladies, you're not going to hurt men's

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feelings. Okay. All right, number seven, some top things to

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say, all right, you are looking to date in real life, which I

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just got done saying that you want to you want people to know

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like, look, you are in it to be real, like to actually date to

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get to know somebody. All right, to go on physical dates

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with. Another thing to say is, those are so when people ask you

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a question, you can say those are great. Those questions are

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great for a live chat. So can we we can hear tone and inflection?

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to ask them like more detailed questions, you can be like,

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that's a really awesome question. I would love to get on

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a video call to be able to answer some of these so we can

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see each other face to face. You can ask and say, what things do

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you do that take up your time that matter to you? That's just

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a good question of getting to know people. This doesn't even

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have to be online dating, it's dating in general. Um, what

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things do you like to do to decompress, relax or restore?

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Some people, the way they decompress is they just need

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chill time. That's me. Like I need my quiet time. Other

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people, they recharge by being around more people. Like, that's

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always a good thing to know. Like, what do you do? What? How

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do you relieve stress? Are you someone that likes to go and be

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active? Or are you someone that just kind of likes just to read

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a book? I mean, that can say a lot about you. And then that you

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can see how whether it complements your personality and

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the things that you enjoy as well. Another thing is to stick

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to present day conversations and what they are wanting to do in

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the next year or two. So stay in the present. Now, let's not

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jump into the past. I know that's very easy to do. And

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here's the thing, you ladies, as you meet guys, and you are

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conversing with them, it's, it never fails that people want to

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go back to, Oh, have you been married before? How long was

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your last relationship? Like, it's, it's just kind of one of

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those things that I think people think, well, I'm here to date.

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So I have to talk about dating things. Okay, it's okay to

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redirect those conversations. All right, you want to stay more

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in the present day. And you can share that with people be like,

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you know, I would rather be present in the here and now and

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what you're doing with your life now and, and where you see

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yourself in the next year or two. You know, again, going back

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to the what, what things matter to you, what, what takes up your

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time. We also say to tell you not to overshare about your

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trauma, your drama, your ex situations, triggers or to go

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too deep into your faith or too deep into having a sex talk.

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These are things that you can say this is a great question for

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us to tackle. Once we've gotten to know each other more. Because

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you're not

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is gonna stay in that level, that surface level.

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four, five dates, and you're really enjoying someone,

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you are gonna start going a little bit more

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and more and more.

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You're gonna start peeling that onion.

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But you most definitely do not wanna have

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those deep, deep, intimate conversations

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in that, I would say, your first three dates.

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I would say, you're really getting to know

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someone from date one to date three.

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you kinda have an idea of whether or not

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you want to continue getting to know them

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and seeing if it can go romantic or you're just not in it.

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And you don't see it going anywhere romantic.

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Number eight, be open to long distance

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if and only if you can afford to do it

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and you're willing to relocate

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or they are willing to relocate.

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The last thing you wanna do is start catching feelings

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for someone that you can never see, they can't see you,

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and then maybe you get a few in there,

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but neither one of you are able or willing to relocate.

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At that part, then you just start getting,

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like, you just get so involved into something

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that it can't go anywhere.

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You know, a lot of times people

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have parenting custody agreements and they can't.

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I know that's happened in this community.

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There was a man in this community

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and a woman in this community

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and they really enjoyed each other,

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but neither one of them could relocate

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and they live, like, states away.

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Like, unfortunately, when you have custody agreements

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and things of that nature,

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it can be a little challenging, all right?

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My case, for example, was a little bit different.

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I didn't have a court agreement with my son's father.

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I actually didn't wanna move at all,

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but I decided to be open to it.

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my son's dad actually decided to cut out.

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He left the state and it was perfect timing

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because I had just then met my now husband, all right?

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And I wasn't even sure I wanted to move.

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Actually, I knew I didn't wanna move, but I did

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because God highlighted that that's what he wanted for me.

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So, but luckily I knew I could afford it

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and my now husband, he could afford it.

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He actually even worked in the same state that I did.

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He worked remote, so he was living in Texas,

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but every few months he would have to fly to Florida

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to be there for work.

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So that helped a little bit as well, okay?

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So again, be open to long distance.

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Again, if you are willing to relocate, if you can relocate.

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And again, be open to being able to afford

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to do that a little bit.

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I know we like the men to kind of provide

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and financially support, but you can't expect a man

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to constantly front the travel bill.

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Like you're gonna have to at some point

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be able to help out a little bit.

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but there'd be times where I'd be like,

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00:33:34.440 --> 00:33:37.280
hey, let me use my points or something,

446
00:33:37.280 --> 00:33:41.360
or let me go ahead and cover dinner one day,

447
00:33:41.360 --> 00:33:44.720
or go to the grocery store and shop and make meals

448
00:33:44.760 --> 00:33:47.520
or something so that he didn't have to constantly

449
00:33:47.520 --> 00:33:49.560
be going out to eat and things like that

450
00:33:49.560 --> 00:33:50.760
and spending more money.

451
00:33:52.120 --> 00:33:55.600
Number nine is let them know if you wanna see them again.

452
00:33:55.600 --> 00:33:59.560
So when you're dating and you go out on a first date

453
00:33:59.560 --> 00:34:02.760
or you have a video call and you enjoyed yourself,

454
00:34:02.760 --> 00:34:04.240
let them know.

455
00:34:04.240 --> 00:34:07.880
Sometimes I think it happens where ladies come in

456
00:34:07.880 --> 00:34:09.280
and they share about what a great date,

457
00:34:09.280 --> 00:34:12.159
but then the guy hasn't asked for a second date.

458
00:34:12.199 --> 00:34:15.679
And then when I asked him like, well, did you let them know?

459
00:34:15.679 --> 00:34:18.639
Well, no, I just was waiting to see

460
00:34:18.639 --> 00:34:19.960
if he wanted to do it again.

461
00:34:19.960 --> 00:34:22.719
Well, if you had fun, let them know.

462
00:34:22.719 --> 00:34:23.560
Put that out there.

463
00:34:23.560 --> 00:34:25.560
I would love to do this again.

464
00:34:25.560 --> 00:34:26.679
I had such a great time.

465
00:34:26.679 --> 00:34:29.719
We should get together again sometime.

466
00:34:29.719 --> 00:34:31.639
Maybe we can go bowling.

467
00:34:31.639 --> 00:34:34.840
Like whatever it is, put it out there.

468
00:34:34.840 --> 00:34:37.800
And then let them initiate that for a second date.

469
00:34:38.800 --> 00:34:43.800
And then last, number 10 is it's a yes until it's a no.

470
00:34:46.679 --> 00:34:50.080
You have to be willing to give grace to some of these men

471
00:34:50.080 --> 00:34:53.800
that are a little clunky and awkward and weird sometimes

472
00:34:55.159 --> 00:34:58.400
because they don't have mentors telling them how to do it.

473
00:34:58.400 --> 00:34:59.880
So be willing to.

474
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:02.600
who say, okay, that might've been an awkward date.

475
00:35:02.600 --> 00:35:03.960
Maybe he didn't talk very much.

476
00:35:03.960 --> 00:35:06.140
Maybe he talked too much.

477
00:35:06.140 --> 00:35:08.320
You know, maybe he didn't ask me enough questions.

478
00:35:08.320 --> 00:35:11.400
Be willing to go out on a second date.

479
00:35:11.400 --> 00:35:15.240
And again, ladies, communicate those types of things to men.

480
00:35:16.080 --> 00:35:19.840
You know, if you find that a man is not asking you questions

481
00:35:19.840 --> 00:35:21.640
just say, hey, I really enjoy it

482
00:35:21.640 --> 00:35:23.520
when I'm getting to know someone

483
00:35:23.520 --> 00:35:25.080
when they ask me some questions.

484
00:35:25.080 --> 00:35:29.440
Like I would love to answer any questions that you may have.

485
00:35:29.480 --> 00:35:32.800
I personally enjoy it when I get questions.

486
00:35:33.680 --> 00:35:35.360
Like let them know.

487
00:35:35.360 --> 00:35:37.760
Cause let me tell you, men can't read your mind.

488
00:35:39.920 --> 00:35:41.680
I'm married and my husband most certainly

489
00:35:41.680 --> 00:35:42.880
cannot read my mind.

490
00:35:44.120 --> 00:35:46.580
Sometimes that causes friction.

491
00:35:48.600 --> 00:35:51.240
And I'm like, oh, it's because I really didn't communicate

492
00:35:51.240 --> 00:35:55.960
exactly what my thought was.

493
00:35:55.960 --> 00:35:59.200
Like for example, even last night

494
00:35:59.960 --> 00:36:03.560
he went to Costco with a friend that's staying with us

495
00:36:03.560 --> 00:36:08.560
because he left for the hurricane and they went to Costco.

496
00:36:10.000 --> 00:36:12.040
And I thought it was just gonna be a quick Costco trip

497
00:36:12.040 --> 00:36:14.240
and back and then it was like three hours later

498
00:36:14.240 --> 00:36:15.120
they weren't home.

499
00:36:15.120 --> 00:36:19.040
I'm like, I didn't expect this to be a shopping spree

500
00:36:19.040 --> 00:36:21.600
but I never told him like, hey, I want you to like

501
00:36:21.600 --> 00:36:23.640
go out to Costco, but can you be home?

502
00:36:23.640 --> 00:36:25.480
Because you know, we have some things

503
00:36:25.480 --> 00:36:27.840
that we need to accomplish before we go to bed.

504
00:36:29.680 --> 00:36:31.480
We're running a business and we need to navigate

505
00:36:31.480 --> 00:36:35.920
our QuickBooks and I needed him to be present with me

506
00:36:35.920 --> 00:36:37.560
but I didn't communicate that.

507
00:36:37.560 --> 00:36:40.840
I didn't communicate, hey, yes, go to Costco

508
00:36:40.840 --> 00:36:42.960
but I need you back so we can do that.

509
00:36:44.160 --> 00:36:45.400
So communicate.

510
00:36:46.920 --> 00:36:48.960
It even, communicate even with guys

511
00:36:48.960 --> 00:36:52.760
that you're online dating because they cannot read your mind.

512
00:36:52.760 --> 00:36:53.600
Cool?

513
00:36:54.920 --> 00:36:57.120
Okay, we're gonna just take a breath.

514
00:36:57.160 --> 00:36:59.360
We got through the online dating, okay.

515
00:37:02.960 --> 00:37:05.680
How many of you are currently online dating?

516
00:37:07.680 --> 00:37:08.880
Just raise your hands.

517
00:37:08.880 --> 00:37:11.000
Hey, Ziggy is, perfect.

518
00:37:12.200 --> 00:37:16.920
Emily is, I see, is it Merritt, Merritt,

519
00:37:16.920 --> 00:37:18.960
I'm sorry, I cannot pronounce your name.

520
00:37:19.960 --> 00:37:20.800
Marishka.

521
00:37:21.680 --> 00:37:23.000
Marishka?

522
00:37:23.000 --> 00:37:24.200
Marishka.

523
00:37:24.200 --> 00:37:25.600
Marishka?

524
00:37:26.560 --> 00:37:27.640
Absolutely perfect.

525
00:37:29.280 --> 00:37:30.880
I love it, it's a very pretty name.

526
00:37:30.880 --> 00:37:35.880
So you are online dating, Kylie is online dating, perfect.

527
00:37:35.920 --> 00:37:37.360
Okay, hands down.

528
00:37:37.360 --> 00:37:39.480
How many of you are,

529
00:37:42.600 --> 00:37:45.800
absolutely like you do not wanna online date whatsoever?

530
00:37:48.080 --> 00:37:49.920
Kylie, you raised your hand.

531
00:37:49.920 --> 00:37:54.440
Okay, totally get it, I totally get it.

532
00:37:54.440 --> 00:37:55.320
Awesome.

533
00:37:56.040 --> 00:38:01.040
If you are not open to online dating, it is okay.

534
00:38:02.480 --> 00:38:03.840
I do wanna encourage you,

535
00:38:03.840 --> 00:38:06.760
what other ways can you be getting out?

536
00:38:06.760 --> 00:38:09.480
Now that doesn't mean that you're getting out to date.

537
00:38:09.480 --> 00:38:11.680
What ways are you getting out to get

538
00:38:11.680 --> 00:38:14.080
in front of more people?

539
00:38:14.080 --> 00:38:18.960
It could be even women, like building more friendships.

540
00:38:18.960 --> 00:38:20.120
Because let me tell you ladies,

541
00:38:20.120 --> 00:38:23.120
sometimes you can meet your spirit mate through girlfriends.

542
00:38:24.120 --> 00:38:27.440
Okay, that's kinda how I met my husband,

543
00:38:27.440 --> 00:38:30.600
was through one of my sisters here in this community.

544
00:38:30.600 --> 00:38:32.520
I was living in Florida.

545
00:38:32.520 --> 00:38:35.960
When she joined, she was in the Atlanta area

546
00:38:35.960 --> 00:38:37.960
and then she became a travel nurse

547
00:38:37.960 --> 00:38:42.360
and then she was in North Dakota and then moving to Missouri.

548
00:38:43.320 --> 00:38:46.560
So she was one of my sisters in this community

549
00:38:46.560 --> 00:38:50.360
and she's the one that was looking out

550
00:38:50.360 --> 00:38:52.720
and saw somebody's profile and was like,

551
00:38:52.800 --> 00:38:55.520
hey, what do you think of this person?

552
00:38:55.520 --> 00:38:57.880
And I just had gotten to know her

553
00:38:57.880 --> 00:39:00.480
through the years of being in this community.

554
00:39:02.000 --> 00:39:04.400
I knew where she lived and anytime people came to Florida,

555
00:39:04.400 --> 00:39:08.520
they knew I lived there so they would come and see me.

556
00:39:08.520 --> 00:39:12.040
We would do little get togethers and stuff.

557
00:39:12.040 --> 00:39:14.320
We stayed involved in each other's lives.

558
00:39:14.320 --> 00:39:17.280
And so even if you're not online dating,

559
00:39:17.280 --> 00:39:19.040
there's still ways of getting out there

560
00:39:19.040 --> 00:39:21.640
and getting open to being active

561
00:39:21.640 --> 00:39:24.520
and getting to know people, okay?

562
00:39:24.520 --> 00:39:26.760
So just wanna throw that out there

563
00:39:26.760 --> 00:39:28.920
because I know we're talking all about this online dating

564
00:39:28.920 --> 00:39:31.000
but I also understand that some of you

565
00:39:31.000 --> 00:39:33.240
may not be ready for that yet.

566
00:39:35.800 --> 00:39:37.680
So there's some of you that are online dating,

567
00:39:37.680 --> 00:39:39.520
some of you are like absolutely not.

568
00:39:39.520 --> 00:39:42.000
I'm guessing the rest of you are just not online dating

569
00:39:42.000 --> 00:39:45.880
but it's that you're possibly open to the idea.

570
00:39:46.880 --> 00:39:51.320
Anybody just like, yep, okay, I see a thumbs up.

571
00:39:51.320 --> 00:39:53.080
Okay, good, good, good.

572
00:39:53.080 --> 00:39:53.920
All right.

573
00:39:56.880 --> 00:39:59.160
Well, here in a little bit,

574
00:39:59.160 --> 00:40:00.560
we can always take questions.

575
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:01.000
It's about all of that stuff.

576
00:40:01.000 --> 00:40:03.360
But before we do, I'm going to go ahead and talk a little bit.

577
00:40:03.360 --> 00:40:04.560
We're going to have some real talk.

578
00:40:05.360 --> 00:40:05.580
Okay.

579
00:40:05.580 --> 00:40:11.760
There's some situations that I'm seeing in our community that I think is probably

580
00:40:11.760 --> 00:40:13.920
warranted to have these conversations.

581
00:40:14.360 --> 00:40:19.680
So the first one, which we kind of talked about in online dating is, you know, the

582
00:40:19.680 --> 00:40:23.760
yes until it's no, but then also the bless and blocks, all right, these

583
00:40:23.760 --> 00:40:25.560
creepy inappropriate men.

584
00:40:26.480 --> 00:40:26.920
All right.

585
00:40:26.920 --> 00:40:28.240
I know I get it.

586
00:40:29.160 --> 00:40:30.400
It makes me cringe.

587
00:40:30.440 --> 00:40:35.200
I know there was someone in our community who just posted this in our app and she

588
00:40:35.200 --> 00:40:35.800
shared.

589
00:40:35.800 --> 00:40:41.520
And I mean, I was reading this and I'm like, how can men be so inappropriately

590
00:40:41.520 --> 00:40:42.320
disgusting?

591
00:40:43.120 --> 00:40:44.480
And it's frustrating.

592
00:40:44.800 --> 00:40:46.760
I totally, totally get it.

593
00:40:46.760 --> 00:40:47.480
It's valid.

594
00:40:47.480 --> 00:40:53.960
It's valid to be upset and to feel like disheartened when you experience these

595
00:40:53.960 --> 00:40:54.840
kinds of men.

596
00:40:55.160 --> 00:41:01.520
So if, and when you do, there's ways that we can actually allow it not to

597
00:41:02.480 --> 00:41:07.120
discourage us and to frustrate us to the point that we're like ready to throw in

598
00:41:07.120 --> 00:41:07.920
the towel.

599
00:41:08.120 --> 00:41:11.960
We're sitting here doubting whether or not we're, we're meant for marriage because

600
00:41:11.960 --> 00:41:15.960
that will, that will happen when we start encountering men like that.

601
00:41:15.960 --> 00:41:19.080
We're just thinking there's no good men out there, right?

602
00:41:19.760 --> 00:41:24.360
Like you get some creepy sleazy guy, and then you're just kind of like, okay,

603
00:41:24.360 --> 00:41:29.640
you just kind of lose you, you, you put what he's doing and you all of a sudden

604
00:41:29.640 --> 00:41:32.320
just assume that all men are like that, right?

605
00:41:32.400 --> 00:41:33.280
I mean, raise your hand.

606
00:41:33.280 --> 00:41:34.320
Have you done that before?

607
00:41:34.880 --> 00:41:37.920
I have for sure.

608
00:41:39.640 --> 00:41:43.280
Nobody's ever like come across and creepy sleazy man.

609
00:41:43.280 --> 00:41:46.680
And then been like men stink, right?

610
00:41:46.880 --> 00:41:49.360
They're sleep, they're sleazy, gross and disgusting.

611
00:41:49.360 --> 00:41:49.800
Right.

612
00:41:50.800 --> 00:41:52.200
But there's a way of handling it.

613
00:41:53.200 --> 00:41:56.600
You do not, ladies, this is when we bless and block them.

614
00:41:56.600 --> 00:42:01.000
And when I say you bless them, it doesn't mean you need to tell them that you're

615
00:42:01.000 --> 00:42:01.680
blessing them.

616
00:42:03.560 --> 00:42:08.120
You, that's, that's at that moment when I say you bless them, that's when you take

617
00:42:08.120 --> 00:42:14.360
that situation and what's happening, you know, that's being directed at you and you

618
00:42:14.360 --> 00:42:15.680
go take that to the Lord.

619
00:42:17.040 --> 00:42:21.000
And you just say, Lord, like, I know this is not what you have for me.

620
00:42:21.120 --> 00:42:22.680
I know this is not from you.

621
00:42:23.680 --> 00:42:25.640
I know that this is the work of the enemy.

622
00:42:26.480 --> 00:42:30.480
I know that the enemy is sitting here trying to get me to be discouraged and to

623
00:42:30.480 --> 00:42:34.200
think that men are sleazy and gross and that there's no good ones out there.

624
00:42:34.200 --> 00:42:37.440
But Lord, I know that you are a good God.

625
00:42:37.880 --> 00:42:39.920
You have good and perfect gifts for me.

626
00:42:40.320 --> 00:42:43.240
I know you've called me to be in a relationship.

627
00:42:44.040 --> 00:42:45.720
It's my heart's desire.

628
00:42:46.840 --> 00:42:48.280
And I trust you with that.

629
00:42:48.280 --> 00:42:53.600
So Lord, I'm going to bring this situation and this man to you, and I'm going to ask

630
00:42:53.600 --> 00:43:01.120
for your protection over this man and any other men that may be, um, subjected to

631
00:43:01.120 --> 00:43:02.400
that perverse spirit.

632
00:43:03.760 --> 00:43:06.680
And you just say, Lord, I'm going to give that to you.

633
00:43:07.640 --> 00:43:08.960
I trust you with this.

634
00:43:09.000 --> 00:43:15.480
I think that I thank you for protecting me from a man like this and that I'm seeing

635
00:43:15.520 --> 00:43:20.840
his true colors now so that I don't have to continue to engage with it.

636
00:43:21.920 --> 00:43:24.640
Lord, I trust that you are going to handle this situation.

637
00:43:27.400 --> 00:43:34.040
I trust that you're, you, he's, he's a child of yours and that you know how to

638
00:43:34.040 --> 00:43:37.720
handle it, that I don't have to handle it myself.

639
00:43:40.400 --> 00:43:42.640
And that's how you bless them.

640
00:43:43.080 --> 00:43:45.160
And then you, but, and then you block them.

641
00:43:45.960 --> 00:43:47.880
You don't tell them that you're blocking them.

642
00:43:48.000 --> 00:43:49.560
You don't give them reasons.

643
00:43:49.720 --> 00:43:51.280
You don't give them scripture.

644
00:43:51.400 --> 00:43:54.040
You don't go searching about them.

645
00:43:54.040 --> 00:43:58.120
You don't go like trying to dig in the dirt about them just to confirm how sleazy

646
00:43:58.120 --> 00:43:58.400
they are.

647
00:43:58.400 --> 00:43:59.040
Cause guess what?

648
00:43:59.040 --> 00:44:01.000
They just showed you how sleazy they are.

649
00:44:02.360 --> 00:44:06.600
I mean, if a guy is sitting here telling you and I like ladies, I'm, this is going

650
00:44:06.600 --> 00:44:07.720
to sound very vulgar.

651
00:44:07.760 --> 00:44:08.280
Okay.

652
00:44:08.920 --> 00:44:12.280
If a guy is sitting there telling you how he's masturbating, you're like, well,

653
00:44:12.280 --> 00:44:16.240
he's masturbating to you because he's, you know, looking at your picture.

654
00:44:16.920 --> 00:44:20.160
That's that right there is enough to you're done.

655
00:44:20.800 --> 00:44:26.160
You don't need to go search to see how, like, what has this man done in his past?

656
00:44:26.320 --> 00:44:28.160
You just need to know that man is gross.

657
00:44:28.360 --> 00:44:30.160
He's not honoring you as a woman.

658
00:44:30.160 --> 00:44:32.360
He's not honoring the gift that you are.

659
00:44:33.280 --> 00:44:35.000
He's being perverse.

660
00:44:35.480 --> 00:44:39.720
And you just, again, you go to the Lord and you bless him that way.

661
00:44:40.480 --> 00:44:44.400
And you cover yourself in prayer and you block, block, block, block, block,

662
00:44:47.120 --> 00:44:49.720
blocking from the apps, blocking.

663
00:44:49.760 --> 00:44:53.560
Like, again, I, I strongly suggest don't give out your phone numbers, but even if

664
00:44:53.560 --> 00:44:56.240
you do, you can block people from your phone number.

665
00:44:58.440 --> 00:44:59.040
Okay.

666
00:44:59.240 --> 00:45:00.000
You can reject.

667
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:02.720
calls, all sorts of stuff.

668
00:45:02.720 --> 00:45:05.440
Also, why I'm going to encourage you ladies,

669
00:45:05.440 --> 00:45:08.760
do not be giving men your address

670
00:45:08.760 --> 00:45:11.900
and don't be showing up at their address either.

671
00:45:15.960 --> 00:45:18.760
And I say this because I've been there.

672
00:45:18.760 --> 00:45:20.720
I thought it was chivalrous for a guy

673
00:45:20.720 --> 00:45:24.800
that was gonna come pick me up at my house on a first date.

674
00:45:24.800 --> 00:45:29.800
I met him out with some friends just in a group setting

675
00:45:29.920 --> 00:45:33.740
and then we connected, got each other's phone numbers

676
00:45:33.740 --> 00:45:35.920
and then he wanted to take me on a date

677
00:45:35.920 --> 00:45:37.000
and he wanted to pick me up

678
00:45:37.000 --> 00:45:39.740
and I gave him my address with my gate code.

679
00:45:40.920 --> 00:45:43.620
He turned out to be really like creepy.

680
00:45:45.400 --> 00:45:46.920
So ladies, just don't do it.

681
00:45:49.200 --> 00:45:52.760
That's just one way for you to be safe, okay?

682
00:45:54.520 --> 00:45:57.600
But again, I cannot stress enough

683
00:45:57.600 --> 00:46:01.000
that if you find yourself

684
00:46:01.000 --> 00:46:03.640
encountering some of these perverse men,

685
00:46:03.640 --> 00:46:06.800
you don't have to continue to stay engaged in it.

686
00:46:07.920 --> 00:46:10.520
That's when, like, yeah, we say it's a yes until it's a no,

687
00:46:10.520 --> 00:46:13.920
that's when it's a no, all right?

688
00:46:13.920 --> 00:46:16.560
If they're saying inappropriate things,

689
00:46:16.560 --> 00:46:20.540
they wanna sit and like send or show penis pics

690
00:46:20.540 --> 00:46:23.060
and want you to send them pictures,

691
00:46:23.060 --> 00:46:26.320
you don't even have to give them a response.

692
00:46:26.320 --> 00:46:28.400
It's a block immediately.

693
00:46:28.400 --> 00:46:30.400
You don't have to tell them you're blocking them,

694
00:46:30.400 --> 00:46:31.920
you don't have to sit there and say,

695
00:46:31.920 --> 00:46:33.920
how gross is that?

696
00:46:33.920 --> 00:46:36.400
You're a complete stranger and you wanna lick my body?

697
00:46:36.400 --> 00:46:38.320
That's gross.

698
00:46:38.320 --> 00:46:40.080
They know what they're doing.

699
00:46:40.080 --> 00:46:42.160
They know it's perverse.

700
00:46:42.160 --> 00:46:46.160
They're just seeing which women are gonna buy into it

701
00:46:47.260 --> 00:46:50.880
and then some of them actually probably, believe it or not,

702
00:46:50.880 --> 00:46:52.920
probably enjoy the fact that when women

703
00:46:52.920 --> 00:46:53.760
fall them out for that

704
00:46:53.760 --> 00:46:56.320
because that's how crazy they can be.

705
00:46:58.240 --> 00:47:00.400
That's how perverse that can be.

706
00:47:00.400 --> 00:47:03.240
So I just, again, I cannot stress enough,

707
00:47:03.240 --> 00:47:05.360
like the bless and block,

708
00:47:05.360 --> 00:47:07.600
and blessing does not mean you have to tell them

709
00:47:07.600 --> 00:47:08.440
that you're blessing them.

710
00:47:08.440 --> 00:47:12.800
Oh, well, you know, I'm saving myself for marriage,

711
00:47:12.800 --> 00:47:16.180
so I appreciate, you know,

712
00:47:16.180 --> 00:47:17.560
and I wish you the best of luck.

713
00:47:17.560 --> 00:47:19.320
No, you don't even have to say that to them.

714
00:47:19.320 --> 00:47:23.200
That point, they're being gross, you can block them, okay?

715
00:47:24.760 --> 00:47:25.720
Sound good?

716
00:47:26.680 --> 00:47:28.000
Good?

717
00:47:28.000 --> 00:47:28.840
All right.

718
00:47:29.780 --> 00:47:34.560
But again, remember, you are God-protected and defended

719
00:47:34.560 --> 00:47:37.440
and anytime that those types of things wanna come your way,

720
00:47:37.440 --> 00:47:40.560
like you do not have to, you don't have to pick it up.

721
00:47:42.080 --> 00:47:43.640
All right?

722
00:47:43.640 --> 00:47:46.760
And then last, I want to share about

723
00:47:47.800 --> 00:47:50.640
in the Dating 101 video,

724
00:47:50.640 --> 00:47:52.600
which most of you should have watched.

725
00:47:52.640 --> 00:47:54.520
I know there's a couple of you that are brand new,

726
00:47:54.520 --> 00:47:56.760
so you might not have gotten to that one yet.

727
00:47:57.680 --> 00:48:00.680
In the Dating 101, Jackie talks about something

728
00:48:00.680 --> 00:48:03.240
that I don't think we bring up enough,

729
00:48:03.240 --> 00:48:06.340
but I think it's probably important to bring up,

730
00:48:06.340 --> 00:48:10.800
is the situationships and the delusionships.

731
00:48:10.800 --> 00:48:12.960
Raise your hand if you know what I'm talking about.

732
00:48:12.960 --> 00:48:15.200
Situationships and delusionships.

733
00:48:16.100 --> 00:48:18.280
Okay, got a couple of you.

734
00:48:18.280 --> 00:48:22.220
So you probably have remembered that Dating 101.

735
00:48:22.980 --> 00:48:25.060
So for those of you that don't know,

736
00:48:25.060 --> 00:48:28.340
a situationships, these are relationships

737
00:48:28.340 --> 00:48:33.340
that are not healthy and you don't let go of them.

738
00:48:34.820 --> 00:48:38.520
So this can include like male friendships

739
00:48:38.520 --> 00:48:41.780
that they're like always around.

740
00:48:41.780 --> 00:48:45.220
So Jackie kind of talks about having that best male friend

741
00:48:45.220 --> 00:48:48.380
or there's such a platonic relationship.

742
00:48:48.940 --> 00:48:53.180
Maybe you've had a relationship with this male friend before

743
00:48:53.180 --> 00:48:54.420
and it didn't work out,

744
00:48:54.420 --> 00:48:56.940
but you're still like hanging out with them.

745
00:48:58.220 --> 00:49:01.340
Maybe it's been somebody that you've dated in the past

746
00:49:01.340 --> 00:49:03.380
and you guys have ended things,

747
00:49:03.380 --> 00:49:05.380
but you haven't fully let go.

748
00:49:05.380 --> 00:49:08.020
Like every now and then you kind of pop in.

749
00:49:08.020 --> 00:49:10.340
That's a situationship.

750
00:49:10.340 --> 00:49:13.380
And sometimes those kinds of things can get in our way

751
00:49:13.380 --> 00:49:16.500
of our current dating as we're stepping into

752
00:49:17.260 --> 00:49:19.140
dating now in phase two.

753
00:49:20.100 --> 00:49:23.060
So if you have yourself a situationship,

754
00:49:24.340 --> 00:49:27.440
pray, meditate, come to us, share it with us.

755
00:49:27.440 --> 00:49:29.100
We will help you walk through

756
00:49:29.100 --> 00:49:31.900
what to do in that situationship.

757
00:49:31.900 --> 00:49:35.140
Then we also have what's called the delusionship, okay?

758
00:49:35.140 --> 00:49:39.460
This is one that I think happens more frequently

759
00:49:39.460 --> 00:49:43.020
than we probably think.

760
00:49:43.020 --> 00:49:45.100
This is when, you know,

761
00:49:45.100 --> 00:49:47.420
you've never had a relationship with someone,

762
00:49:47.420 --> 00:49:51.500
but you kind of imagined or fantasize

763
00:49:51.500 --> 00:49:54.960
or wanted a relationship with the person.

764
00:49:56.180 --> 00:49:58.860
You maybe have obsessed about them

765
00:49:58.860 --> 00:50:00.460
and about having a relationship.

766
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:05.560
relationship with them or wish you did and wish that they would acknowledge, you might

767
00:50:05.560 --> 00:50:08.960
be thinking about this person more frequently.

768
00:50:08.960 --> 00:50:13.320
You could be putting them on a pedestal.

769
00:50:13.320 --> 00:50:17.660
You will typically know you are in a delusionship if you are disappointed when they are not

770
00:50:17.660 --> 00:50:23.680
acting like they are in a relationship with you or acting and showing you the attention

771
00:50:23.680 --> 00:50:27.160
that you're hoping that they'll give you.

772
00:50:27.640 --> 00:50:32.320
You're always looking for confirmation about how they feel about you and then if they don't

773
00:50:32.320 --> 00:50:40.960
feel a certain way about you, then you might find yourself disappointed and discouraged.

774
00:50:40.960 --> 00:50:46.720
Or again, what happens is that you start stepping into online dating or dating in general and

775
00:50:46.720 --> 00:50:50.760
you get to know a really great guy and you maybe been on one or two dates with them and

776
00:50:50.760 --> 00:50:57.960
you start fantasizing what it would look like if y'all got into a serious relationship and

777
00:50:57.960 --> 00:51:03.400
got engaged and met each other's families and got married and what your wedding would

778
00:51:03.400 --> 00:51:04.400
look like.

779
00:51:04.400 --> 00:51:06.320
Okay, ladies, I say this because I did it.

780
00:51:06.320 --> 00:51:09.440
I did it for so many years.

781
00:51:09.440 --> 00:51:14.520
And then when those relationships or those situations, okay, because they really weren't

782
00:51:14.520 --> 00:51:19.640
relationships when these situations didn't turn out the way that I was hoping they would,

783
00:51:19.640 --> 00:51:27.320
I was crushed and so hung up on the fantasy that I couldn't really step into anything

784
00:51:27.320 --> 00:51:28.360
else new.

785
00:51:28.360 --> 00:51:33.480
And so when I went through this program, I really had to do some work on breaking kind

786
00:51:33.480 --> 00:51:38.800
of those soul ties of those fantasies that I had envisioned what it was supposed to look

787
00:51:38.800 --> 00:51:39.800
like.

788
00:51:39.800 --> 00:51:46.500
So some of you might be in that I think there's probably a few people I don't know about maybe

789
00:51:46.500 --> 00:51:52.140
here right now, but in maybe in replay, I don't know if this is speaking to someone

790
00:51:52.140 --> 00:51:58.740
where this may be happening because ladies, I do see this time and time again in the phase

791
00:51:58.740 --> 00:52:03.740
when women share about their discouragement and their disappointment because things didn't

792
00:52:03.740 --> 00:52:09.380
work out with a person that they really enjoyed like getting to know.

793
00:52:09.380 --> 00:52:16.580
It's because you found yourself into fantasizing about it and you can be sad.

794
00:52:16.580 --> 00:52:21.420
But when you allow that sadness just to continue for weeks and weeks and weeks and months and

795
00:52:21.420 --> 00:52:27.860
months and months, that's when we've got to acknowledge that and we got to help you break

796
00:52:27.860 --> 00:52:33.020
that soul tie to that fantasy or what it is that you were hoping for.

797
00:52:33.020 --> 00:52:37.580
Because now we're sitting here trying to write our own love story, not let not let God write

798
00:52:37.580 --> 00:52:38.580
our love story.

799
00:52:38.580 --> 00:52:39.580
Yeah.

800
00:52:39.580 --> 00:52:40.580
So yes, Mickey.

801
00:52:40.580 --> 00:52:49.060
So yeah, you were hopeful probably of someone at work, you know, he's probably a really

802
00:52:49.060 --> 00:52:52.260
great guy, maybe very generous and nice.

803
00:52:52.260 --> 00:52:56.380
And then you know, yeah, if you see them out with their family at a restaurant, I can only

804
00:52:56.380 --> 00:53:03.620
imagine like, how like, disheartening that can be where you're like, Oh, is it ever going

805
00:53:03.620 --> 00:53:04.620
to happen for me?

806
00:53:04.660 --> 00:53:09.020
I mean, I like ladies, I say this because I did this.

807
00:53:09.020 --> 00:53:13.100
You know, yeah, it's it can get sad.

808
00:53:13.100 --> 00:53:17.460
And then that's when the enemy wants to come in and start speaking lies to us that we're

809
00:53:17.460 --> 00:53:24.660
not worth having that kind of relationship that oh, they don't that you know, other people

810
00:53:24.660 --> 00:53:29.060
get to have that relationship and not us and those are just the those are lies from the

811
00:53:29.060 --> 00:53:31.100
pit of hell.

812
00:53:31.100 --> 00:53:36.460
And that's why those little fantasies and stuff can be like, they seem harmless in the

813
00:53:36.460 --> 00:53:37.460
moment.

814
00:53:37.460 --> 00:53:43.580
But if we don't take hold of those, and we don't recognize when we're doing that, it

815
00:53:43.580 --> 00:53:51.900
can spiral into some of the more drama, trauma, whatever, okay.

816
00:53:52.900 --> 00:53:55.900
Teresa, do you have your hand raised for a question?

817
00:54:01.900 --> 00:54:05.900
Or are you just agreeing that you you've been there?

818
00:54:07.900 --> 00:54:08.900
Okay.

819
00:54:11.900 --> 00:54:19.020
All right, ladies, before I send you out to breakout rooms, how many of you have questions

820
00:54:19.020 --> 00:54:20.020
for coaching?

821
00:54:20.020 --> 00:54:23.420
Like you want to you want to share something you have questions about and things?

822
00:54:23.420 --> 00:54:27.020
I just want to get an idea of how many questions we have.

823
00:54:27.020 --> 00:54:31.020
Okay, so he's got one, I think Kylie Alexis.

824
00:54:31.020 --> 00:54:32.020
Okay.

825
00:54:33.020 --> 00:54:34.020
Perfect.

826
00:54:35.020 --> 00:54:39.020
Well, I really want to be mindful of everybody's time.

827
00:54:39.020 --> 00:54:41.020
And I know we're coming up on an hour.

828
00:54:41.020 --> 00:54:43.020
So why don't we do this?

829
00:54:44.020 --> 00:54:52.020
Since there's so few of us on, I think there's only 10 of us, nine of you plus myself.

830
00:54:52.020 --> 00:54:58.020
Let's go ahead and just open the floor up for questions so that we have enough time.

831
00:54:58.020 --> 00:55:00.020
And then at the end.

832
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:02.960
If some of you want to do a breakout

833
00:55:02.960 --> 00:55:05.320
and get to know some of your sisters,

834
00:55:05.320 --> 00:55:07.960
I will allow time to do that.

835
00:55:07.960 --> 00:55:11.120
Cool, okay, Mickey's got the heart, perfect, awesome.

836
00:55:11.120 --> 00:55:13.760
Okay, go ahead and raise your avatar hands

837
00:55:13.760 --> 00:55:15.080
if you have a question for me,

838
00:55:15.080 --> 00:55:16.780
and we'll get those started.

839
00:55:18.520 --> 00:55:20.000
Okay, I got three of you.

840
00:55:20.000 --> 00:55:20.960
Was there anybody else?

841
00:55:20.960 --> 00:55:22.800
I thought there was one other person.

842
00:55:26.320 --> 00:55:29.480
Okay, all right, Ziggy, I'm gonna take yours,

843
00:55:29.520 --> 00:55:32.040
and then Kylie, and then Alexis.

844
00:55:32.040 --> 00:55:33.780
And then if any of you others,

845
00:55:33.780 --> 00:55:35.280
maybe you have one in your head

846
00:55:35.280 --> 00:55:36.480
and you're maybe a little shy,

847
00:55:36.480 --> 00:55:39.800
you're not sure you wanna ask, which is fine.

848
00:55:39.800 --> 00:55:42.280
I'm gonna ask that, you know, take some time,

849
00:55:42.280 --> 00:55:46.000
think about it, know that this is a safe place.

850
00:55:46.000 --> 00:55:47.360
It's just the sisters here.

851
00:55:47.360 --> 00:55:48.840
The only people that watch and replay

852
00:55:48.840 --> 00:55:50.940
are your sisters in phase two.

853
00:55:52.320 --> 00:55:54.400
All right, Ziggy, what do you have for us?

854
00:55:54.400 --> 00:55:55.680
How are you doing?

855
00:55:55.680 --> 00:55:58.160
Doing all right, I was so sick.

856
00:55:58.160 --> 00:56:01.320
I'm still a little sick, but I'm getting there, so.

857
00:56:02.320 --> 00:56:03.680
Did you have a date?

858
00:56:03.680 --> 00:56:04.880
Didn't you have some dates set up,

859
00:56:04.880 --> 00:56:06.640
but then you had to cancel?

860
00:56:06.640 --> 00:56:10.200
Yeah, were you able to reschedule those?

861
00:56:10.200 --> 00:56:13.520
I'm sure we will, but I'm not better yet, but.

862
00:56:13.520 --> 00:56:16.320
Okay, well, we're gonna pray for some healing for you.

863
00:56:16.320 --> 00:56:18.480
All right, what's your question?

864
00:56:18.480 --> 00:56:19.920
Well, I actually have a couple.

865
00:56:19.920 --> 00:56:21.160
One goes into that,

866
00:56:22.600 --> 00:56:25.160
but one goes into what you were talking about,

867
00:56:25.160 --> 00:56:26.420
the blessed block.

868
00:56:27.420 --> 00:56:28.700
I have a hard time with that.

869
00:56:28.700 --> 00:56:31.380
I know you say, you know, you don't need to explain them,

870
00:56:31.380 --> 00:56:33.540
you don't need to say goodbye or bless them,

871
00:56:33.540 --> 00:56:35.900
or, I mean, I bless them for myself,

872
00:56:35.900 --> 00:56:38.660
and I just had this situation last night,

873
00:56:39.700 --> 00:56:43.340
and I have a hard time with just blocking them

874
00:56:43.340 --> 00:56:45.020
without explaining myself.

875
00:56:45.020 --> 00:56:47.460
So I guess there's a coaching issue.

876
00:56:47.460 --> 00:56:50.380
There's something, some fear or something.

877
00:56:50.380 --> 00:56:54.180
There was this guy, I'm new on salt,

878
00:56:54.180 --> 00:56:56.540
and he contacted me, even though I had seen him

879
00:56:56.540 --> 00:56:59.660
and I did not like him, he sent me an intro.

880
00:56:59.660 --> 00:57:03.380
So I'm like, well, okay, I might as well talk to him.

881
00:57:03.380 --> 00:57:06.380
And he was manipulative, he was sexist,

882
00:57:06.380 --> 00:57:10.180
and he was full of himself.

883
00:57:10.180 --> 00:57:12.580
He was this doctor, he has a Porsche,

884
00:57:12.580 --> 00:57:16.860
and I just brought in some questions about faith,

885
00:57:16.860 --> 00:57:18.620
and he's like, oh, that's very private.

886
00:57:18.620 --> 00:57:20.060
When did you have your last date?

887
00:57:20.060 --> 00:57:21.620
And I'm like, well, that's very private.

888
00:57:21.620 --> 00:57:23.380
You know, I kind of went with his games,

889
00:57:23.380 --> 00:57:26.900
and he was really, he was just, I didn't like him.

890
00:57:26.900 --> 00:57:30.020
He was full of himself, and I went to bed,

891
00:57:30.020 --> 00:57:32.620
and I was like, how do I get out of this?

892
00:57:32.620 --> 00:57:36.380
And it really stuck with me all night.

893
00:57:36.380 --> 00:57:38.780
I'm like, why, why is it so difficult?

894
00:57:38.780 --> 00:57:40.780
I mean, I didn't ask for this.

895
00:57:40.780 --> 00:57:45.340
I can just, you know, I can just block him,

896
00:57:45.340 --> 00:57:48.540
but I did not see that option.

897
00:57:48.540 --> 00:57:50.540
And in the morning, he had blocked me

898
00:57:50.540 --> 00:57:54.140
because I didn't fall into his sexist, whatever, you know.

899
00:57:54.140 --> 00:57:57.860
I was not being manipulated by him.

900
00:57:57.860 --> 00:58:01.300
And it really hurt me.

901
00:58:01.300 --> 00:58:03.020
I'm like, what an ass.

902
00:58:03.020 --> 00:58:07.540
You know, I'm like, all day, I'm like,

903
00:58:07.540 --> 00:58:09.180
okay, God, I forgive him.

904
00:58:09.180 --> 00:58:12.940
He's just, you know, he has problems.

905
00:58:12.940 --> 00:58:14.500
I wasn't even hitting him,

906
00:58:14.500 --> 00:58:16.780
and I was going through this forgiveness process,

907
00:58:16.780 --> 00:58:18.220
but I'm mad.

908
00:58:18.220 --> 00:58:21.860
And I'm like, why does it trigger me that much?

909
00:58:21.860 --> 00:58:23.060
Why?

910
00:58:23.060 --> 00:58:25.420
So yeah, this is a complete stranger,

911
00:58:25.420 --> 00:58:28.180
yet something that he's doing is upsetting you.

912
00:58:28.180 --> 00:58:30.660
Has there been a time in your past

913
00:58:30.660 --> 00:58:35.660
where you have noticed that that has happened to you,

914
00:58:35.940 --> 00:58:38.780
and maybe it's something that you are responding to,

915
00:58:38.780 --> 00:58:41.700
something that's happened in your past?

916
00:58:41.700 --> 00:58:43.100
Because that has happened to me.

917
00:58:43.100 --> 00:58:47.540
So, for example,

918
00:58:49.220 --> 00:58:54.220
I struggled with men that liked younger women.

919
00:58:56.180 --> 00:58:59.100
But the reason I had that issue

920
00:58:59.100 --> 00:59:03.420
was because my son's father left me

921
00:59:03.420 --> 00:59:05.660
for someone who was 12 years younger than me.

922
00:59:07.140 --> 00:59:10.540
So when men started talking about age,

923
00:59:10.540 --> 00:59:14.140
and like, oh, I date younger women,

924
00:59:14.140 --> 00:59:16.500
it just would fuel me.

925
00:59:17.500 --> 00:59:20.980
So I had to really go to God and be like, what?

926
00:59:20.980 --> 00:59:22.460
And I didn't know it then,

927
00:59:22.460 --> 00:59:24.260
obviously when guys would do this,

928
00:59:24.260 --> 00:59:26.540
I'd just be like, oh, you're disgusting.

929
00:59:26.540 --> 00:59:28.100
You only want a piece of eye candy.

930
00:59:28.100 --> 00:59:31.060
I mean, I had that whole, like, you're gross.

931
00:59:32.980 --> 00:59:35.180
And so I had to really take it to God and be like,

932
00:59:35.180 --> 00:59:37.220
God's like, where does this come from?

933
00:59:37.220 --> 00:59:41.700
Why am I getting so amped up on somebody

934
00:59:41.700 --> 00:59:43.500
that I don't even know?

935
00:59:43.500 --> 00:59:44.820
They're a complete stranger,

936
00:59:44.820 --> 00:59:49.820
but I'm letting this complete stranger disrupt my peace.

937
00:59:50.020 --> 00:59:52.620
Where does this come from?

938
00:59:52.620 --> 00:59:53.460
Yeah.

939
00:59:53.460 --> 00:59:54.820
So I had to kind of sit with the Lord

940
00:59:54.820 --> 00:59:55.980
and process through that.

941
00:59:55.980 --> 00:59:58.980
And that's when I came to the conclusion,

942
00:59:58.980 --> 01:00:00.300
I was still hurting.

943
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:06.120
from being left by my son's dad for someone who was 12 years younger than

944
01:00:06.120 --> 01:00:12.440
me and I had to really practice forgiveness on that and here's the

945
01:00:12.440 --> 01:00:17.720
thing ladies is sometimes like the forgiveness we release it but then

946
01:00:17.720 --> 01:00:22.160
sometimes we want to pull it back and so sometimes it's that forgiving it's

947
01:00:22.160 --> 01:00:27.920
constant like sometimes we have to acknowledge like oh I took that back I

948
01:00:27.920 --> 01:00:34.960
need to release that back to you so that's why I ask is there something

949
01:00:34.960 --> 01:00:39.880
about his personality whether it's a doctor whether you mentioned him being a

950
01:00:39.880 --> 01:00:45.760
doctor and a Porsche and all this like it sounds like maybe materialistic stuff

951
01:00:45.760 --> 01:00:52.080
is there some hurt from the past that's tied in with that I and I don't know I'm

952
01:00:52.080 --> 01:00:56.600
just trying to start generating some thoughts and some questions in your head

953
01:00:56.600 --> 01:01:02.800
that can get you start processing what about maybe it's a manipulative

954
01:01:02.800 --> 01:01:07.520
personality has there been people in your past that have been close to you

955
01:01:07.520 --> 01:01:12.560
that have manipulated you and it caused you hurt and pain and maybe that is

956
01:01:12.560 --> 01:01:18.120
where you need to take some of your forgiveness those are just all questions

957
01:01:18.120 --> 01:01:23.080
to be asking because yeah like I I totally get it like when guys are like

958
01:01:23.080 --> 01:01:28.520
that that's annoying and I'm I struggle with this being very justice minded like

959
01:01:28.520 --> 01:01:35.480
I want people to know that they did wrong like I mean I it's a it's a

960
01:01:35.480 --> 01:01:40.880
struggle with me so like if you're like me it's not just as easy as like okay I'm

961
01:01:40.880 --> 01:01:45.680
a blessing block him and it not like stir something up in me but I do have to

962
01:01:45.680 --> 01:01:50.840
recognize if it's causing me to lose sleep if it's causing me to be irritable

963
01:01:50.840 --> 01:01:54.520
with other people if it's because if it's starting to disrupt my peace and

964
01:01:54.520 --> 01:01:59.440
how I interact with even other people then I really do have to like at that

965
01:01:59.440 --> 01:02:03.440
point I have to take some accountability like I have to take some ownership I'm

966
01:02:03.440 --> 01:02:09.080
like I'm allowing this person to manipulate because now at that point he

967
01:02:09.080 --> 01:02:15.320
did manipulate you at some point to get you to start thinking and obsessing like

968
01:02:15.320 --> 01:02:21.080
how you know and and it's disrupted you and so that's what it's like okay you

969
01:02:21.080 --> 01:02:25.840
know I'm gonna own it but God I'm gonna give it to you I don't need and then go

970
01:02:25.840 --> 01:02:31.040
find like what helps me is going and being active going and finding something

971
01:02:31.040 --> 01:02:35.560
else to do something to preoccupy my time or my mind with to where I'm not

972
01:02:35.560 --> 01:02:41.040
having to think about that so those are ways to like even when we're like but I

973
01:02:41.040 --> 01:02:46.240
want to tell them why like they're a jerk because I am I'm one of those

974
01:02:46.240 --> 01:02:51.720
people that I'm like even when I'm driving y'all think I'm like how dare

975
01:02:51.720 --> 01:02:56.600
you cut me off you're not driving correctly like I'm like ready to get out

976
01:02:56.600 --> 01:03:00.440
of the car and like tell everybody like you are a dangerous driver because you're

977
01:03:00.440 --> 01:03:04.880
you're cutting people off and I don't like that really does it like what's it

978
01:03:04.880 --> 01:03:13.760
gonna do I hope that helps because again I and I say it because I relate I get it

979
01:03:13.760 --> 01:03:18.760
like I'm one of those people it's like so hard so hard but I will tell you

980
01:03:18.760 --> 01:03:25.040
there is so much freedom when we don't allow that to kind of control us as well

981
01:03:25.040 --> 01:03:31.640
and it really is like yeah I'm ready to block you but I like again those type of

982
01:03:31.680 --> 01:03:39.440
people like yeah again allow that to you utilize that as an opportunity to ask

983
01:03:39.440 --> 01:03:44.800
the Lord to say okay with this situation is there an opportunity for me to grow

984
01:03:44.800 --> 01:03:51.440
into my best self what can you highlight to me out of this situation with this

985
01:03:51.440 --> 01:03:58.080
you know jerk and how can I grow into a better version of myself and using those

986
01:03:58.080 --> 01:04:06.440
opportunities just to continue to allow yourself to grow the help I know you

987
01:04:06.440 --> 01:04:09.720
said you had another question I'm going to take Kylie and Alexis and then we can

988
01:04:09.720 --> 01:04:20.720
come back to a second question okay yeah all right Kylie so my question was

989
01:04:20.720 --> 01:04:27.840
actually on like the how you talked about delusionships and fantasy I am so

990
01:04:27.840 --> 01:04:33.120
bad at doing this I do it in like not even dating like I'll be like what would

991
01:04:33.120 --> 01:04:36.680
I do if I won a million dollars and then I like plan my life out like I've won a

992
01:04:36.680 --> 01:04:42.800
million dollars um so specifically I did this with like my guy friend that I had

993
01:04:42.800 --> 01:04:49.080
this conversation with and now we're not going to be like anything so when you

994
01:04:49.080 --> 01:04:53.280
said like you break the soul tie to that do you just go through the soul type

995
01:04:53.280 --> 01:04:59.000
prayer and then find a like stand on that after cuz I'm I'm like it's such

996
01:04:59.000 --> 01:05:01.840
second nature

997
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:08.000
to me to like do to like do that and now I'm almost disheartened um uh like maybe just not

998
01:05:08.000 --> 01:05:12.560
disheartened like discouraged in dating because I'm like no one is like as good as like our

999
01:05:12.560 --> 01:05:18.160
connection was and so like yeah I just want to throw in the towel so I was curious how to break

1000
01:05:18.160 --> 01:05:25.520
it and then how to like maintain not falling back into it because we are friends and I've kind of

1001
01:05:25.520 --> 01:05:33.520
like that's going to be a whole other navigating situation so yeah I like my first thing would be

1002
01:05:33.520 --> 01:05:40.080
like again that soul tie what has helped me in the past is when I take myself through that prayer

1003
01:05:41.520 --> 01:05:48.720
I usually am finding myself in a in a place with the lord so I don't know if you've ever walked

1004
01:05:48.720 --> 01:05:57.680
through um the process where you kind of sit and you find a place and a lot of people have like

1005
01:05:57.680 --> 01:06:03.840
different places so like for example for me a lot of times I find myself on a beach near water

1006
01:06:04.560 --> 01:06:12.160
with sunshine and cool breeze and palm trees and blues and greens like that's typically my space

1007
01:06:13.040 --> 01:06:16.000
and so that's typically where I go when I meet with the lord

1008
01:06:17.520 --> 01:06:24.160
and in those in those spaces when I'm sitting there and I'm like closing my eyes and I'm going

1009
01:06:24.160 --> 01:06:31.600
through this process I typically ask ask for like I find an object that I can hand over

1010
01:06:32.560 --> 01:06:37.840
like I can give like something that might tie in with what I'm needing to release to him so there's

1011
01:06:37.840 --> 01:06:44.800
always something that comes to my mind that I need to like hand over and physically give to the lord

1012
01:06:44.800 --> 01:06:48.240
and then I always ask the lord to give me something back

1013
01:06:50.640 --> 01:06:56.160
and so a lot of times when I find myself in the situation where I want to go back to that

1014
01:06:56.160 --> 01:07:01.840
I remember nope I already handed that and I'm getting goosebumps even just saying this I handed

1015
01:07:01.840 --> 01:07:07.440
that already over to god and I remember then I pull out of what I have what he gave me and I

1016
01:07:07.440 --> 01:07:14.000
hold on to that so when you say something like physical like is it just for example I'm holding

1017
01:07:14.000 --> 01:07:21.520
this it's just like symbolizing something that symbolizes okay sometimes like so I mean a few

1018
01:07:21.520 --> 01:07:29.120
things that come to mind like there was one time like I actually have this object it's a rock that's

1019
01:07:29.120 --> 01:07:34.480
shaped as a heart so that's been one that has been given back to me and I'm like oh and I actually

1020
01:07:34.480 --> 01:07:43.920
physically have it or just again yeah something that I need to give over like I walked through

1021
01:07:43.920 --> 01:07:50.240
this process even with my daughter before she physically had to give away something it was like

1022
01:07:50.240 --> 01:07:57.360
a stocking that was kind of tied to her past that was causing a lot of angst and stuff so it was this

1023
01:07:57.360 --> 01:08:03.760
Christmas stocking and so I literally like so I walked her through this whole process and he pulled

1024
01:08:03.760 --> 01:08:09.120
out this stocking and she's like I need to get rid of this and so I was like okay let's go throw it

1025
01:08:09.120 --> 01:08:15.600
in the garbage and like we shredded that that stocking even so that was something that we did

1026
01:08:15.600 --> 01:08:21.840
and so when I walked her through that then you know she she stepped through there was some some

1027
01:08:21.840 --> 01:08:27.359
attacks and things like that and and you know god like at that point god was even speaking through

1028
01:08:27.359 --> 01:08:35.840
me to her and god gave her a sword and I was like and I started walking her through visualizing it

1029
01:08:35.840 --> 01:08:41.040
because I didn't know what it looked like I just knew god told me I'm giving her a sword I'm giving

1030
01:08:41.040 --> 01:08:47.680
her a sword to fight this giving like so that was just again like she was she was trying to um attack

1031
01:08:47.680 --> 01:08:53.200
the enemy the enemy was trying to attack her and I was like well you got the sword you know you're

1032
01:08:53.200 --> 01:08:57.600
going to attack it with the word of god and we're going to and god's given this to you

1033
01:08:57.600 --> 01:09:04.479
so and those types of such like that can be something that you can do um but I mean I relate

1034
01:09:04.479 --> 01:09:10.800
to you Kylie like I used to do that same thing too I still like I'm always like man I play the lottery

1035
01:09:11.439 --> 01:09:17.760
like I do that too like what would my life look like but what happens is if we're not careful

1036
01:09:17.760 --> 01:09:27.359
where then we start we we think about what life could be like that we think that's perfection

1037
01:09:28.000 --> 01:09:31.600
that we neglect to think about the blessing that's currently in our life

1038
01:09:32.479 --> 01:09:39.439
yeah and we live in this fantasy world instead of living in the gratitude and the appreciation

1039
01:09:39.439 --> 01:09:43.439
of what's happening in our life and what god is bringing and blessing us currently

1040
01:09:44.399 --> 01:09:53.200
mm-hmm yeah I feel that yeah yeah go through go through the soul type thing and again because

1041
01:09:53.200 --> 01:09:56.640
that's what's happening you're saying that now it's allowing you to be discouraged

1042
01:09:57.520 --> 01:09:59.840
oh yeah yeah we're going comparable

1043
01:10:00.000 --> 01:10:04.600
right? Because I was like, we had good energy. And I'm, I'm

1044
01:10:04.600 --> 01:10:08.920
like not having good energy with very little people on the dating

1045
01:10:08.920 --> 01:10:10.280
app right now. So

1046
01:10:11.320 --> 01:10:16.520
just know like, and I say this because I'm on the other side of

1047
01:10:16.520 --> 01:10:20.680
it. And so I get that it's easier for me to say it because

1048
01:10:20.680 --> 01:10:23.520
I've experienced it. Because when people used to say this to

1049
01:10:23.520 --> 01:10:27.040
me when I was single, it was like, Yeah, yeah, I know. I know

1050
01:10:27.040 --> 01:10:31.080
that. I know that. But you don't, you're not experiencing

1051
01:10:31.080 --> 01:10:37.120
it, it is harder. But I will say, when, when you meet your

1052
01:10:37.120 --> 01:10:41.800
spirit mate, and you meet your husband, it will make sense. It

1053
01:10:41.800 --> 01:10:47.560
will make sense of why none of those other people were it.

1054
01:10:48.080 --> 01:10:48.600
Yeah.

1055
01:10:48.800 --> 01:10:54.080
And why you waited for this one. And it's, it's, and again,

1056
01:10:54.080 --> 01:10:58.480
especially when it's who God has for you, it really is a

1057
01:10:58.480 --> 01:11:02.040
blessing. And it doesn't mean that that person, you're not

1058
01:11:02.040 --> 01:11:04.720
going to go through hard things with like, I'm married, and

1059
01:11:04.720 --> 01:11:07.840
I've been married for now a year. And we go through we're

1060
01:11:07.840 --> 01:11:12.200
in, we're in a season of very hard times, you know, but we

1061
01:11:12.240 --> 01:11:15.600
also stand on the fact that we know God brought us together,

1062
01:11:15.600 --> 01:11:19.760
there was a lot of confirmation that God brought us together.

1063
01:11:20.360 --> 01:11:24.280
And I could sit here and like fantasize about, Oh, well,

1064
01:11:24.280 --> 01:11:28.680
there was this other guy that I dated and did it. No, like, if I

1065
01:11:28.680 --> 01:11:32.760
sat in the fantasy of instead of just in like, No, yeah, this is

1066
01:11:32.760 --> 01:11:37.000
a struggle right now. But I know there's a purpose for it. And

1067
01:11:37.000 --> 01:11:40.600
God brought it. So if you can just hang on to the fact that

1068
01:11:40.600 --> 01:11:43.720
yeah, there's a struggle right now in this dating process, but

1069
01:11:43.720 --> 01:11:47.760
know that God's got something on the other side of it. And

1070
01:11:47.760 --> 01:11:50.920
there's like, because again, Jackie always says, with like,

1071
01:11:50.960 --> 01:11:54.240
when God gives you a promise, there's also a process that goes

1072
01:11:54.240 --> 01:11:59.960
with it. Yeah. And so just hanging on to that. And here's

1073
01:11:59.960 --> 01:12:02.800
the thing. How long have you known this friend of yours?

1074
01:12:04.120 --> 01:12:07.320
Actually, we met on a dating app. And then we just became

1075
01:12:07.320 --> 01:12:12.920
like, good friends, because we just talked so. Yeah.

1076
01:12:13.280 --> 01:12:17.680
How long have you been here? Okay. So it's taken you a year

1077
01:12:17.680 --> 01:12:20.480
to build a friendship with this person. So when you're going out

1078
01:12:20.480 --> 01:12:24.800
with guys on a one or two dates? Yeah, of course, you're not

1079
01:12:24.800 --> 01:12:29.400
going to have that same connection. Because you've known

1080
01:12:29.400 --> 01:12:30.440
that guy for a year.

1081
01:12:31.240 --> 01:12:34.560
I think it's because me and the guy had like instant connection.

1082
01:12:34.600 --> 01:12:37.320
Like it was like, you know, when you like your energies match

1083
01:12:37.320 --> 01:12:40.960
right away. I like that I can't find on the dating app. So I'm

1084
01:12:40.960 --> 01:12:44.480
like, it's not about that. It's probably good that we don't have

1085
01:12:44.480 --> 01:12:48.200
the energy because that's what brought in like, daydreaming or

1086
01:12:48.200 --> 01:12:50.800
fantasizing because I'm like, Oh, we have energy. We vibe

1087
01:12:50.800 --> 01:12:55.760
good. Yes. And like to pace it slower. But that's where I kind

1088
01:12:55.760 --> 01:13:00.120
of I'm like, I need to just drop the comparison and like, be okay

1089
01:13:00.120 --> 01:13:01.240
that that's the closed door.

1090
01:13:02.960 --> 01:13:06.000
Are you can I ask you, are you still having communication with

1091
01:13:06.000 --> 01:13:06.520
this guy?

1092
01:13:07.320 --> 01:13:07.880
Yeah.

1093
01:13:11.640 --> 01:13:16.080
We don't we actually like, we don't live near each other. So

1094
01:13:16.880 --> 01:13:19.480
it's just like kind of talking and I would say the

1095
01:13:19.480 --> 01:13:25.200
communication is more so like not like a deep conversation

1096
01:13:25.200 --> 01:13:28.240
communication. It's just like a real here and there.

1097
01:13:28.560 --> 01:13:31.520
Is it causing you to continue to stay attached?

1098
01:13:32.240 --> 01:13:34.680
I don't know. I actually have to sit in that.

1099
01:13:34.920 --> 01:13:37.320
I was gonna say, I want to ask that you kind of go sit with the

1100
01:13:37.320 --> 01:13:40.600
Lord with that one and really kind of sit with it. And you

1101
01:13:40.600 --> 01:13:47.280
know what, maybe even allow yourself, you know, time to

1102
01:13:47.280 --> 01:13:50.400
maybe just kind of disconnect and see if it changes your

1103
01:13:50.400 --> 01:13:55.080
perspective. Yeah, not saying completely. I mean, not that

1104
01:13:55.080 --> 01:13:57.720
has to be completely cut off. I don't want you to sit here and

1105
01:13:57.720 --> 01:13:59.600
think that I'm going to, you know, force you to do something

1106
01:14:00.200 --> 01:14:05.320
you're ready to do. But it's a, it's a possibility. Yeah,

1107
01:14:05.360 --> 01:14:08.040
allowing yourself say, Hey, I'm gonna give myself six weeks, and

1108
01:14:08.040 --> 01:14:10.440
I'm not gonna have contact with this person, you can just and

1109
01:14:10.440 --> 01:14:14.280
you can let them know, like, hey, you know, I'm, I'm kind of,

1110
01:14:14.760 --> 01:14:18.880
you know, actively trying to date and, and get to know, you

1111
01:14:18.880 --> 01:14:22.720
know, guys, and it's, I really need to focus on that. So I'm

1112
01:14:22.720 --> 01:14:25.440
gonna have to pump the brakes on us communicating for a little

1113
01:14:25.440 --> 01:14:29.440
while. And yeah, when I'm ready, I'll reach back out.

1114
01:14:30.880 --> 01:14:35.600
Yeah. And then see, and see if that that kind of helps.

1115
01:14:36.200 --> 01:14:39.280
Yeah, I guess like the drama in that is we have a trip booked

1116
01:14:39.280 --> 01:14:41.600
with a group of friends together in February.

1117
01:14:42.600 --> 01:14:48.120
Okay, well, that's like, what, four, five months away. Right?

1118
01:14:48.800 --> 01:14:52.320
Three months. Well, it's when in February.

1119
01:14:53.160 --> 01:14:55.360
First week, I think like, I think

1120
01:14:56.160 --> 01:14:57.760
like three and a half months, because it's the middle of

1121
01:14:57.760 --> 01:14:59.960
October, November, December, January.

1122
01:15:00.000 --> 01:15:02.240
You're yeah, you're looking at about three and a half months.

1123
01:15:03.400 --> 01:15:05.720
Yeah, time. Yeah.

1124
01:15:07.400 --> 01:15:10.200
And then maybe you'll be dating somebody by then. And then you

1125
01:15:10.200 --> 01:15:12.440
can share about this amazing guy that you're dating.

1126
01:15:15.480 --> 01:15:17.760
I know my friends are like, that's gonna be such an awkward

1127
01:15:17.760 --> 01:15:20.120
trip. And I'm like, it's all about your perspective around

1128
01:15:20.120 --> 01:15:23.440
the trip. I said, it doesn't have to be. Yeah, don't don't

1129
01:15:23.440 --> 01:15:25.920
align with that. It doesn't have to be awkward. It really

1130
01:15:25.920 --> 01:15:31.760
doesn't. You know, like, it doesn't have to be awkward.

1131
01:15:31.920 --> 01:15:34.360
Yeah, that's what I said. I'm like, I'm not gonna have to hang

1132
01:15:34.360 --> 01:15:36.360
out with him the whole time. I'm like, there's other people

1133
01:15:36.360 --> 01:15:39.880
there. I can go do my own thing. It's not like, but it's just

1134
01:15:39.880 --> 01:15:43.720
like breaking that attachment. Like you said, where that to me

1135
01:15:43.720 --> 01:15:49.040
I get healthy. I think it might be even like a soul tie. Yeah,

1136
01:15:49.360 --> 01:15:52.600
could be. Yeah. Yeah. Because again, ladies, soul ties don't

1137
01:15:52.600 --> 01:15:57.400
have to be sexual. I know that Jackie shares that in the

1138
01:15:57.400 --> 01:16:04.640
dating 101. Like it's not soul ties are not always sexual. I

1139
01:16:04.640 --> 01:16:07.680
mean, people can have soul ties to their their parents, they can

1140
01:16:07.680 --> 01:16:11.720
have, you know, soul ties to their kids. Like I had to break

1141
01:16:11.720 --> 01:16:14.360
soul ties to my youngest son, because I went through a

1142
01:16:14.360 --> 01:16:18.600
traumatic experience with, with him being pregnant with him and

1143
01:16:18.600 --> 01:16:21.920
his dad leaving me and then the attachment that I had with that.

1144
01:16:22.040 --> 01:16:25.040
And I saw that that wasn't becoming healthy. And so I had

1145
01:16:25.040 --> 01:16:28.880
to kind of break that soul tie there. And obviously, like I

1146
01:16:28.880 --> 01:16:31.640
can break, you can break soul ties and still have people in

1147
01:16:31.640 --> 01:16:35.320
your life. Like, obviously, like, my son is, you know, my

1148
01:16:35.320 --> 01:16:38.880
son, but there, you know, it doesn't always have to be a

1149
01:16:38.880 --> 01:16:46.000
sexual thing. It can be platonic as well. Okay. All right,

1150
01:16:46.040 --> 01:16:49.320
Alexis, I'm gonna take your Kylie. Was that all that you

1151
01:16:49.320 --> 01:16:54.120
had? Yeah. Are you gonna mention the spirit mate thing

1152
01:16:54.120 --> 01:16:57.520
that's happening tonight? Later? I do like I am curious what it

1153
01:16:57.520 --> 01:17:02.120
is. I like I just found out about it. I happened to stumble

1154
01:17:02.120 --> 01:17:05.120
upon it because I was reaching out to Ebony and I was like,

1155
01:17:05.120 --> 01:17:08.080
Wait a second, hold on. There's something else on the calendar.

1156
01:17:08.080 --> 01:17:13.600
So I like it slipped my mind. So I it's spirit mate match is

1157
01:17:13.760 --> 01:17:17.360
phase two is invited. So it is the same time that we would

1158
01:17:17.360 --> 01:17:20.560
typically have our check in. So Ebony is not doing a coaching

1159
01:17:20.560 --> 01:17:24.320
call tonight, at eight o'clock Eastern. So instead, you all are

1160
01:17:24.320 --> 01:17:29.000
being invited with the rest of I'm thinking phase three

1161
01:17:29.000 --> 01:17:34.520
community to do this spirit mate match events. Bethany is

1162
01:17:34.520 --> 01:17:37.280
supposed to and I don't know if she's done that already. She

1163
01:17:37.280 --> 01:17:46.880
actually might have. She did. Let me see if I can pull it up. So

1164
01:17:46.880 --> 01:17:49.960
yeah, it's a sneak peek for spirit mate match. It's a

1165
01:17:49.960 --> 01:17:59.440
dating game. So this looks fun. So yeah, that's, that's what

1166
01:17:59.440 --> 01:18:03.800
that is. It's just it's a dating game. So now I know in the past

1167
01:18:03.800 --> 01:18:09.280
like being an OG, we did dating games and there was some guys on

1168
01:18:09.280 --> 01:18:18.120
there and it was like we didn't know who they were. Hey, Alexis,

1169
01:18:18.120 --> 01:18:21.880
what's your question real quick? And then I if you want, I'll

1170
01:18:21.880 --> 01:18:28.240
answer it and then you can watch it in replay. Will that help?

1171
01:18:28.680 --> 01:18:33.760
Yeah, that's fine. Being serious or long or anything, but I'm

1172
01:18:34.720 --> 01:18:39.680
dating apps, but I do go out and about often. And sometimes I will

1173
01:18:39.680 --> 01:18:43.440
run into a man that will make eye contact. And then we might

1174
01:18:43.440 --> 01:18:48.000
run into each other again, a smile, another eye contact. And

1175
01:18:48.000 --> 01:18:52.600
then that's it. Nothing ever happens of it. And I'm just

1176
01:18:52.600 --> 01:18:56.600
wondering, is that one of those things where I should leave it

1177
01:18:56.600 --> 01:18:59.080
in his hand to start a conversation?

1178
01:18:59.440 --> 01:19:00.920
This is when you drop the hanky.

1179
01:19:01.840 --> 01:19:02.480
This what?

1180
01:19:02.680 --> 01:19:08.040
This is when you drop the hanky. Okay, so this is when you can

1181
01:19:08.040 --> 01:19:12.600
initiate. Okay. That's where it's like, you can go over be

1182
01:19:12.600 --> 01:19:16.320
like, hey, like, oh, that's a really nice shirt that you have

1183
01:19:16.320 --> 01:19:20.360
on like, you know, where do you like to shop? I mean, anything

1184
01:19:20.360 --> 01:19:24.960
like any sort of like, put yourself in front of them. Start

1185
01:19:24.960 --> 01:19:31.560
making small talk. Like, you know, drop a hanky that, hey,

1186
01:19:31.560 --> 01:19:35.880
you know, we should get together sometime. Here's my number. Like

1187
01:19:35.920 --> 01:19:39.880
ladies, you all can do that. All right. I know a lot of times

1188
01:19:39.880 --> 01:19:43.000
like women say, Oh, I want to be pursued. I want the men to do

1189
01:19:43.000 --> 01:19:47.600
that. Sometimes men need a little nudge. Like so we talked

1190
01:19:47.600 --> 01:19:50.400
about dropping the hanky. This happened. I remember when Jackie

1191
01:19:50.400 --> 01:19:55.600
brought this to us years ago. It was when like Bridgerton was a

1192
01:19:55.600 --> 01:20:00.000
thing. Thank any of you watch Bridgerton. Ladies, I

1193
01:20:00.000 --> 01:20:04.440
got my husband watching that show. All right. So it's like

1194
01:20:04.440 --> 01:20:09.560
back in this old old time where you know, this like they're like

1195
01:20:10.040 --> 01:20:14.240
in high in society. And so what women would do when they're out

1196
01:20:14.240 --> 01:20:18.240
like, rolling around the park or whatever, when they would walk

1197
01:20:18.240 --> 01:20:21.880
by a gentleman that they were interested in now a lot of them

1198
01:20:21.880 --> 01:20:26.680
kind of knew who's who women would drop their handkerchiefs

1199
01:20:27.040 --> 01:20:32.160
right next to the man because it was the gentleman thing to do to

1200
01:20:32.200 --> 01:20:35.600
then go pick it up and hand it and then that's when there's

1201
01:20:35.600 --> 01:20:39.600
connection. That's when there's communication. So a woman would

1202
01:20:39.600 --> 01:20:43.040
just kind of show Oh, I would like you to talk to me. She

1203
01:20:43.040 --> 01:20:47.200
drops that hanky, the man picks it up, hands it to her. And then

1204
01:20:47.200 --> 01:20:49.920
interaction can happen. So sometimes we have to drop that

1205
01:20:49.920 --> 01:20:56.600
hanky to say, Hey, like, let's talk. Here's my number. Let's

1206
01:20:56.600 --> 01:20:59.720
get together like get to know a little bit about them. So let

1207
01:20:59.760 --> 01:21:06.000
let some of that flirtation kind of happen. So does that help?

1208
01:21:07.600 --> 01:21:08.960
Yes, thank you so much.

1209
01:21:09.800 --> 01:21:12.320
And we'll pray for some boldness because I know for some of us

1210
01:21:12.320 --> 01:21:15.120
ladies, that's a little like, I have to do what?

1211
01:21:16.880 --> 01:21:20.720
Me, it you know, and here's the thing is if you say something

1212
01:21:20.720 --> 01:21:22.960
and it doesn't go well, like, I mean, are you really going to

1213
01:21:22.960 --> 01:21:26.160
continue to keep seeing them over and over again? Not always.

1214
01:21:26.760 --> 01:21:30.120
I mean, if anything, I think most men will find it

1215
01:21:30.120 --> 01:21:34.600
attractive, that a woman is bold and willing to kind of put

1216
01:21:34.600 --> 01:21:38.440
herself out there. I don't really know many men that would

1217
01:21:38.440 --> 01:21:41.040
not find that attractive.

1218
01:21:42.720 --> 01:21:43.240
Okay.

1219
01:21:44.960 --> 01:21:47.720
Okay, well, go pick up your kids. Okay.

1220
01:21:50.280 --> 01:21:53.000
All right. Anybody else have questions? I know Ziggy, you

1221
01:21:53.000 --> 01:21:55.240
said you had another one. Anybody else?

1222
01:21:57.560 --> 01:22:02.120
I have a question. I'm sorry. Yes. Um, for the event tonight?

1223
01:22:02.680 --> 01:22:06.280
Is it just a preview? I just wonder should we look cute?

1224
01:22:07.240 --> 01:22:12.360
Um, yes. So I would say always look cute. When it's like, not

1225
01:22:12.360 --> 01:22:15.560
I mean, obviously on here like y'all like I my hair is pretty

1226
01:22:15.560 --> 01:22:21.160
nasty. Um, but any of those events like matchmaking sort of

1227
01:22:21.960 --> 01:22:29.880
events? Yes, definitely come like dressed. I mean, and when I

1228
01:22:29.880 --> 01:22:34.680
say that it's sometimes it's all about your lighting. It's I

1229
01:22:34.680 --> 01:22:38.440
mean, right now, like I just have I've pencil on like my

1230
01:22:38.440 --> 01:22:42.280
eyebrow pencil. I don't have any other makeup. Now. I would

1231
01:22:42.280 --> 01:22:47.080
probably not I would probably put on like a lip and a little

1232
01:22:47.240 --> 01:22:51.640
bit of eye stuff. My hair as much as it's not like it's a

1233
01:22:51.640 --> 01:22:54.120
little bit greasy. I don't think it looks terrible that I could

1234
01:22:54.120 --> 01:22:58.440
probably work it with maybe like a cute pair of earrings and a

1235
01:22:58.440 --> 01:23:02.920
nicer like blouse or something. But sometimes it has to do with

1236
01:23:02.920 --> 01:23:06.760
like your lighting. Now I want to be wearing like, you know,

1237
01:23:08.360 --> 01:23:10.680
like, I'm just wearing a t shirt right now. Like I wouldn't

1238
01:23:10.680 --> 01:23:13.720
wear a t shirt to this. I won't wear like sweatshirts. I know

1239
01:23:13.720 --> 01:23:15.560
so many girls are wearing sweatshirts. Obviously don't

1240
01:23:15.560 --> 01:23:20.760
wear that for tonight. But look, I get it like I'm a t

1241
01:23:20.760 --> 01:23:23.880
shirt and jeans girl. Like that's just me. I typically wear

1242
01:23:23.880 --> 01:23:29.080
minimal makeup. So you know, if you're if you're like me and

1243
01:23:29.080 --> 01:23:32.680
don't put on a lot of like makeup, then that's fine. Like,

1244
01:23:33.240 --> 01:23:37.880
but again, like I, I've been out at baseball games every weekend.

1245
01:23:37.880 --> 01:23:41.960
So I kind of have some sun. So a lot of times I don't need a lot

1246
01:23:41.960 --> 01:23:48.120
of makeup. But um, when I when I'm sunkissed, but other times

1247
01:23:48.120 --> 01:23:51.480
I do, it's like my lighting right now is I have natural

1248
01:23:51.480 --> 01:23:55.640
light. So I'm in my living room. And I have the light on the

1249
01:23:55.640 --> 01:23:58.760
other side. So my windows are over there. So then it's like

1250
01:23:58.760 --> 01:24:02.520
shining on me. So if you have if you don't have windows that are

1251
01:24:02.520 --> 01:24:05.160
if it's going to be late tonight, so probably won't have

1252
01:24:05.160 --> 01:24:08.200
natural light. If you can have most of your lighting on the

1253
01:24:08.200 --> 01:24:11.160
other side of you. So it's lighting up your face. That

1254
01:24:11.160 --> 01:24:17.240
always helps. So yeah, I would imagine with it being a

1255
01:24:17.240 --> 01:24:21.880
matchmaking thing, it's going to include the men as well. So

1256
01:24:21.880 --> 01:24:26.120
come camera ready. Okay, I just want to know just to get the

1257
01:24:26.120 --> 01:24:32.040
mindset and make sure I look yeah, planning like I got I got

1258
01:24:32.040 --> 01:24:39.000
to make it was so good to see you. So good to see you. Thank

1259
01:24:39.080 --> 01:24:43.240
you. So yeah, ladies, if you have to jump off, there's there's

1260
01:24:43.240 --> 01:24:46.520
no you by all means, like I think we got most of our

1261
01:24:46.520 --> 01:24:49.400
questions. I got Emily and Siggy's got one more question.

1262
01:24:49.400 --> 01:24:53.000
So I'll stay on to answer those. Obviously, this is going to be

1263
01:24:53.000 --> 01:24:57.800
in replay. So you're more than welcome to watch. And if you

1264
01:24:57.800 --> 01:24:59.880
have to leave, you can always like fast forward.

1265
01:25:00.000 --> 01:25:04.080
to this last part that you've missed too. Emily, what's your question?

1266
01:25:05.200 --> 01:25:11.760
Hi, Carla. I guess this is a housekeeping question, but I noticed somebody wrote in the

1267
01:25:12.800 --> 01:25:17.440
weekly updates that they noticed that Jackie was in Reading and had a speaking event

1268
01:25:18.160 --> 01:25:22.320
and she didn't know about it. And I'm in Reading too, and I'm like, oh, I had no idea.

1269
01:25:22.960 --> 01:25:27.040
So is there like an events tab somewhere? Like, I don't want to miss if Jackie's in town.

1270
01:25:28.000 --> 01:25:35.280
Yeah. So she does try to put out, I mean, in advance, like when she's going to be at places.

1271
01:25:35.280 --> 01:25:39.920
I know life has been a little hectic for her because her daughter got married

1272
01:25:39.920 --> 01:25:46.080
and then she had the trip with her family. So, and then there's currently some scheduling

1273
01:25:46.080 --> 01:25:53.600
conflicts that I know of. So we are, the team is working on putting together that scheduled

1274
01:25:53.680 --> 01:25:58.480
events tab. And as soon as they get that, we'll get that out. Cause I know there was even like

1275
01:25:58.480 --> 01:26:05.360
a New York city one that trying to figure out scheduling wise, if and when that actually

1276
01:26:05.360 --> 01:26:10.480
happened. So the best thing I can say is like, we will always post in the group when we are

1277
01:26:10.480 --> 01:26:20.240
updated on that information and emails too. So most of you should have like, as long as your

1278
01:26:20.240 --> 01:26:25.680
emails are updated, which they should be if you're on the app, because you would have needed

1279
01:26:25.680 --> 01:26:33.440
your email in order to get signed up on the app. Yeah. Things will go out that way as well.

1280
01:26:34.080 --> 01:26:40.320
Cool. But I totally get it. Another thing that I can, can emphasize is do you follow her on social

1281
01:26:40.320 --> 01:26:47.280
media? I don't use social media. Okay. Cause I know she's pretty good about keeping things up

1282
01:26:47.280 --> 01:26:52.240
to date on her social media accounts as well, but when she's speaking at places.

1283
01:26:52.240 --> 01:26:55.920
Like I'll check her Insta cause it's so cute. I love the pictures. I know.

1284
01:26:58.000 --> 01:27:02.720
But I don't see anything on there about like, Oh, I'm coming to wherever anything about events.

1285
01:27:02.720 --> 01:27:09.920
Yeah. I would just keep, if you can keep up on her Insta, just that, I mean, I think,

1286
01:27:09.920 --> 01:27:16.800
I don't think she posts events on there. I'm trying to think. Okay. Well, I mean, I'm,

1287
01:27:16.800 --> 01:27:21.040
I'm probably more on Facebook than I am Insta that probably shows my age a lot more.

1288
01:27:24.800 --> 01:27:32.320
But I do feel like on her Facebook. Yeah. Yeah. But if you guys are putting it on the app,

1289
01:27:32.320 --> 01:27:37.040
then I'll see it eventually. Yeah, exactly. And so that's something that, yeah, like I know we

1290
01:27:37.040 --> 01:27:41.840
had events that were set up for trips and stuff like that of areas that she was going to be,

1291
01:27:41.840 --> 01:27:47.120
and then things got changed. So we had to take that down and we're just trying to revamp the

1292
01:27:47.120 --> 01:27:52.480
schedule for the rest of this year. And then looking at our calendar for 2025 as well.

1293
01:27:53.200 --> 01:27:58.080
Okay. And then if we go to the thing tonight and do a speed dating session,

1294
01:27:58.080 --> 01:28:02.000
can we count those towards our challenge, our seven day challenge?

1295
01:28:02.000 --> 01:28:06.000
I don't know if this is going to be considered like a speed date thing. I'm not

1296
01:28:06.000 --> 01:28:13.200
100% sure, but if you find yourself like, yeah, I mean, I would say count this as one,

1297
01:28:13.200 --> 01:28:18.960
but then let's, let's still try to get you in some face to face video dates as well.

1298
01:28:18.960 --> 01:28:22.160
I'm five out of seven in. Oh, well then you're good girl.

1299
01:28:23.520 --> 01:28:29.520
Like this could knock it out real fast. I took forever with mine. You know, I was like,

1300
01:28:29.520 --> 01:28:35.360
where can I pull a date from? But, um, no, you're good. You're totally good.

1301
01:28:35.360 --> 01:28:39.200
Cause remember ladies, the seven day challenge, I know. Okay. There's only a couple of you left

1302
01:28:39.200 --> 01:28:44.640
on here, but if anybody's watching this replay, remember there is really no like extensive

1303
01:28:44.640 --> 01:28:49.600
timeframe for that seven day challenge. I would like you, you don't have to complete seven dates

1304
01:28:50.160 --> 01:28:54.720
in phase two before you go to phase three, most people are not going to get their seven date

1305
01:28:55.360 --> 01:29:00.080
by staying in phase two for four to five weeks. Like it's going to take you probably about three

1306
01:29:00.080 --> 01:29:05.680
to four months to get those seven dates. So there's no rush, no rush on the seven dates

1307
01:29:05.680 --> 01:29:11.200
like that. Okay. All right. Um, Ziggy, what was your last question?

1308
01:29:12.960 --> 01:29:19.280
Well, you mentioned if I can reschedule those two dates. Yeah. It's actually those guys. Um,

1309
01:29:19.280 --> 01:29:24.720
one of them I've met in real life that was before I started to program and he really

1310
01:29:24.720 --> 01:29:30.960
waited and it took me three months for, to get through phase one and he waited and he wanted to

1311
01:29:30.960 --> 01:29:38.400
meet up again. And, um, and the other one was the one I had a half hour, um, um, video call the,

1312
01:29:38.400 --> 01:29:44.560
so the first date that comes to the challenge and both of them are writing me like every day now,

1313
01:29:44.560 --> 01:29:49.360
and Hey, we can do this. We can do that this weekend. And it feels like, um,

1314
01:29:50.320 --> 01:29:55.280
you know, if you, if somebody writes you all day long and you stay in a conversation,

1315
01:29:55.280 --> 01:29:59.680
there's some closeness, you know, that, that, that develops there.

1316
01:30:00.000 --> 01:30:04.440
there too. And I've never been a person that started dating

1317
01:30:04.440 --> 01:30:08.720
parallel, you know, I, because I'm a deep diver. And that's, I

1318
01:30:08.720 --> 01:30:12.640
want to get away from that going too quickly too deep with the

1319
01:30:12.640 --> 01:30:19.200
person. And, but this, this is, I don't know if this is good or

1320
01:30:19.200 --> 01:30:22.760
not to be in so much contact with them.

1321
01:30:23.440 --> 01:30:26.720
Well, I think the best way to do that. So I mean, if I mean, are

1322
01:30:26.720 --> 01:30:30.760
you like messaging all day long with them? Or is it just like a

1323
01:30:30.760 --> 01:30:33.240
quick message each day?

1324
01:30:34.240 --> 01:30:38.400
Well, they were asking how I'm doing, if I'm still sick. And so

1325
01:30:38.400 --> 01:30:42.320
that was really nice. So it was maybe a couple to three a day.

1326
01:30:42.480 --> 01:30:45.440
And then one of them just called me out of the blue on Monday

1327
01:30:45.440 --> 01:30:48.920
without video. And we had a long phone conversation that was

1328
01:30:48.920 --> 01:30:51.400
actually really nice. And he's like, yeah, let's definitely do

1329
01:30:51.400 --> 01:30:55.320
that again. This morning, he sent, then he texted me

1330
01:30:55.320 --> 01:30:59.160
goodnight. And this morning, he sent me a picture and what what

1331
01:30:59.200 --> 01:31:03.040
he's planning for the day. And if I have time later to chat,

1332
01:31:03.080 --> 01:31:08.240
and, and I just told him what my plan was. And I feel like he's

1333
01:31:08.240 --> 01:31:11.800
waiting now to let him know if I have time or not. And I don't

1334
01:31:11.800 --> 01:31:13.920
know if it's good to

1335
01:31:13.960 --> 01:31:16.880
I don't think it's, I don't think it's not not good. I think

1336
01:31:16.880 --> 01:31:22.200
it's, it's okay. I will probably encourage that we do try to have

1337
01:31:22.200 --> 01:31:25.480
you start meeting them. I mean, are they both local?

1338
01:31:26.240 --> 01:31:27.920
No, this guy is not local.

1339
01:31:28.120 --> 01:31:30.840
The one that Okay, but is the other one is local?

1340
01:31:30.960 --> 01:31:34.200
Yeah, the one is local, but I think he's moving away. That's

1341
01:31:34.200 --> 01:31:35.680
what we were. Yeah.

1342
01:31:36.080 --> 01:31:39.480
Yeah, I would say if there's ways that you can get more face

1343
01:31:39.480 --> 01:31:43.680
to face. And then, as you're, I would say, like, you know, two

1344
01:31:43.680 --> 01:31:46.920
or three dates in, you know, by then just having that

1345
01:31:46.920 --> 01:31:52.000
conversation of, you know, you live far, like, what would this

1346
01:31:52.000 --> 01:31:54.840
look like if we, you know, continue to kind of get to know

1347
01:31:54.840 --> 01:31:58.200
each other more if, you know, I want to date more in real life,

1348
01:31:58.200 --> 01:32:01.240
but with us being far away, like, how does that? How would

1349
01:32:01.240 --> 01:32:05.640
that look for you and see there? I mean, I would just encourage

1350
01:32:05.640 --> 01:32:08.080
again, just continue to keep getting to know them. I know

1351
01:32:08.080 --> 01:32:10.360
there's probably some discomfort. Is it because you

1352
01:32:10.360 --> 01:32:12.480
have two guys at the same time?

1353
01:32:13.040 --> 01:32:16.200
Yeah. And then I'm also chatting with this guy last night, the

1354
01:32:16.200 --> 01:32:20.440
creepy guy. And there's, I feel like we're, yeah, we're blocking

1355
01:32:20.440 --> 01:32:21.360
that creepy guy.

1356
01:32:24.040 --> 01:32:26.800
Well, and what do you if you want to do since you've got two

1357
01:32:26.800 --> 01:32:31.320
guys right now, if you want to press pause on online dating

1358
01:32:31.320 --> 01:32:34.760
doesn't mean that you have to like deactivate. You're just not

1359
01:32:34.760 --> 01:32:37.600
checking your online dating right now because you got two

1360
01:32:37.600 --> 01:32:43.200
guys that you it sounds like they're really nice guys that

1361
01:32:43.200 --> 01:32:47.640
you probably want to get to know a little more about to see is

1362
01:32:47.640 --> 01:32:52.080
this potential? Could it continue to progress into

1363
01:32:52.120 --> 01:32:56.840
dating more being able to see them face to face? And what that

1364
01:32:56.840 --> 01:32:59.160
looks like? Because again, if this local guy looks like he's

1365
01:32:59.160 --> 01:33:04.200
moving away, then having to have a real conversation, I wouldn't

1366
01:33:04.200 --> 01:33:08.040
say have that conversation if you haven't had at least two or

1367
01:33:08.040 --> 01:33:12.720
three dates. But you definitely want to get to that point at

1368
01:33:12.720 --> 01:33:16.920
some point and see you know how that transpires. And then this

1369
01:33:16.920 --> 01:33:22.120
other guy that isn't local is are I mean, is he willing to

1370
01:33:22.120 --> 01:33:25.360
relocate? Are you willing to relocate but again, you haven't

1371
01:33:25.360 --> 01:33:29.360
even had a face to face meeting. So you don't really want to like

1372
01:33:29.360 --> 01:33:33.480
you don't want to push yourself to so far ahead. It's just

1373
01:33:33.480 --> 01:33:39.560
staying the course and working the process. So but I would say

1374
01:33:39.600 --> 01:33:44.480
if you want to press pause on engaging with other guys on the

1375
01:33:44.480 --> 01:33:48.200
app while you're navigating these two, I think that would be

1376
01:33:48.480 --> 01:33:55.640
a good healthy pacing. And yeah, just do your best to find time

1377
01:33:55.640 --> 01:33:58.920
to get in front of them face to face. So if it's video or if

1378
01:33:58.920 --> 01:34:00.080
it's in person.

1379
01:34:03.040 --> 01:34:08.280
Yeah, even though I don't feel like either is my spirit mate.

1380
01:34:08.400 --> 01:34:10.400
It's I'm learning a lot because

1381
01:34:10.600 --> 01:34:12.520
well, why do you think they're not your spirit mate?

1382
01:34:15.480 --> 01:34:16.600
Good question.

1383
01:34:18.760 --> 01:34:22.880
How many and you've been on one date with each of them? I mean,

1384
01:34:22.880 --> 01:34:24.880
we'll count video date as a date to

1385
01:34:27.200 --> 01:34:31.760
the local guy we've met a couple times before this program.

1386
01:34:33.920 --> 01:34:36.880
Why is local guy not a spirit mate potential?

1387
01:34:37.880 --> 01:34:42.200
I mean, just some thoughts. He's he's much younger. He has two

1388
01:34:42.200 --> 01:34:46.920
children from two wives. He's probably moving to he's from

1389
01:34:46.920 --> 01:34:52.720
another culture. He's probably moving to New Zealand. So not

1390
01:34:52.720 --> 01:34:54.280
just to another city.

1391
01:34:57.920 --> 01:35:02.680
Yeah, I mean, I think he's he's he's he's he's he's he's he's

1392
01:35:00.000 --> 01:35:12.400
So he's okay, hold on. He's got two kids from two different former wives. Are they in New

1393
01:35:12.400 --> 01:35:20.680
Zealand? No, they're in Germany. And where are you? Where are the two of you? I'm in

1394
01:35:20.680 --> 01:35:26.440
Germany. I'm in Germany. So wait, he's in Germany, and you're in Germany. His kids are

1395
01:35:26.440 --> 01:35:33.240
in Germany, and he wants to move to New Zealand. That's what I want to hear the story. Yeah,

1396
01:35:33.240 --> 01:35:38.520
I would probably like you said you've gone out on a couple dates with him. Yeah. Okay.

1397
01:35:38.520 --> 01:35:45.280
I say I would say by now, like, okay, you can say, Hey, um, you know, tell me more about

1398
01:35:45.280 --> 01:35:50.280
this, this decision to move to New Zealand. Like, how did that come about? Like, how did

1399
01:35:50.840 --> 01:35:57.120
that like, what's your reasoning for going? Like, just get a little bit more information,

1400
01:35:57.120 --> 01:36:01.520
you know, ask him. I mean, it doesn't have to be deep, like, you don't have to ask detailed

1401
01:36:01.520 --> 01:36:09.320
questions. But you can ask him to give you more information about. So why New Zealand? What? Why?

1402
01:36:09.320 --> 01:36:13.600
Why did that come about? And then if he starts talking about me, like, okay, so how does that?

1403
01:36:13.600 --> 01:36:24.080
How does that? How do you navigate that with your kids? Does he? Do you know if he sees his kids?

1404
01:36:24.080 --> 01:36:33.640
I'm not sure. Yeah. Those, those for me, for me personally, like I would, I would want to

1405
01:36:33.640 --> 01:36:40.920
know more about that. Because I was I mean, my situation, I was a single mom. I'm all about

1406
01:36:41.000 --> 01:36:47.400
family. Those are things that are important to me. So I knew I wanted to be with a spirit mate

1407
01:36:47.400 --> 01:36:54.360
that valued those things as well. But I will also say, in for men's situation, sometimes,

1408
01:36:54.360 --> 01:37:01.720
women make it very hard for for fathers to be part of their kids lives. So I wouldn't say like,

1409
01:37:01.720 --> 01:37:09.480
completely axe him because of that. Because again, we don't know the situation we don't know. And we

1410
01:37:09.480 --> 01:37:14.760
shouldn't probably know this early in the game of what that looks like. But those would be things

1411
01:37:14.760 --> 01:37:21.720
that I would want to know a little bit more about before I got fully involved in a romantic

1412
01:37:21.720 --> 01:37:27.240
relationship. So I think, you know, just going to the Lord, praying for God to highlight certain

1413
01:37:27.240 --> 01:37:33.240
things to you. Having those conversations with them, again, they don't have to be deep dive

1414
01:37:33.240 --> 01:37:38.200
conversations, it can just be like, tell me more about your your wanting to move to New Zealand,

1415
01:37:38.200 --> 01:37:45.000
like, has that something that you've always wanted to do? Why now? How would that? How

1416
01:37:45.000 --> 01:37:49.880
would that show up in your life, especially with your kids? Like, I mean, does he talk about his

1417
01:37:49.880 --> 01:37:58.920
kids? A little bit, not not too much, not too much. Do you have children? Do you want children?

1418
01:37:59.880 --> 01:38:08.280
Um, I don't have children. And I'm through menopause. Okay, good luck. Are you? Do you

1419
01:38:08.280 --> 01:38:15.720
would you be open to having being a bonus mom? Sure. Definitely. Okay. I mean, I'm just asking

1420
01:38:15.720 --> 01:38:19.640
because again, like, if you're like, Yeah, no, I don't know about this, then that wouldn't be more

1421
01:38:19.640 --> 01:38:27.480
or less your answer. You know, sort of thing. So yeah, I think with that guy, just find out a little

1422
01:38:27.480 --> 01:38:32.520
bit more information, get to know him a little bit more. With this other guy that isn't local,

1423
01:38:33.080 --> 01:38:37.080
again, continue to try to get more video calls with him, get to know him more.

1424
01:38:38.760 --> 01:38:44.840
When you are long distance, it does kind of speed up a bit of a process because you do

1425
01:38:44.840 --> 01:38:52.280
need to kind of know early on whether or not relocating is a possibility. Whether it's you

1426
01:38:52.280 --> 01:38:58.360
that relocates or it's him. But again, you don't have to be like, so if this works out,

1427
01:38:58.360 --> 01:39:07.800
like which one of us is moving, like, just that early on, but um, you know, you can even express

1428
01:39:07.800 --> 01:39:14.120
like, Look, I want to be able to date in real life. And I'm open to dating long distance with

1429
01:39:14.120 --> 01:39:22.200
the idea that I can be the person frequently. And then if things work out, you know, knowing that

1430
01:39:22.280 --> 01:39:27.080
I can relocate or hoping that they would relocate here, you can have those kinds of honest

1431
01:39:27.080 --> 01:39:33.800
conversations. Because it's reality, like you are getting to know someone that lives long distance,

1432
01:39:33.800 --> 01:39:39.800
it's not a secret that he doesn't live close to you, he's aware of it. So trying to navigate that

1433
01:39:39.800 --> 01:39:49.160
as well. I think with him, your question was, why do I not think he is the spirit mate with him?

1434
01:39:49.160 --> 01:39:55.880
I was positively surprised with the first date and, and also the call on Monday,

1435
01:39:55.880 --> 01:39:59.800
but I still feel like he would be a spiritual child to me.

1436
01:40:00.000 --> 01:40:05.200
in where he's at spiritually. And I don't know if I can handle or if I want that in a partner.

1437
01:40:06.240 --> 01:40:11.120
Yeah. Well, what do you mean by that? I mean, because again, we always talk about it's not

1438
01:40:11.120 --> 01:40:16.320
about where they are, it's about where they're going. That sometimes there's some people that

1439
01:40:16.320 --> 01:40:23.040
yeah, they may be new believers, but they have such a hunger for the Lord that you'd be surprised

1440
01:40:23.040 --> 01:40:27.760
that they can still do that. And I will say just even my husband and I like,

1441
01:40:28.720 --> 01:40:33.120
there are certain spiritual gifts that he has and certain spiritual gifts that I have. And we kind

1442
01:40:33.120 --> 01:40:38.640
of complement each other in that sense as well. So it doesn't mean that just because there may be

1443
01:40:38.640 --> 01:40:45.920
a newer, is he a newer believer? He was in the world for many, many years and just returned to

1444
01:40:45.920 --> 01:40:54.560
God half a year ago. And he picked a denomination that I got out of with a lot of pain. It's very

1445
01:40:54.800 --> 01:41:02.240
legalistic. And that's his place there right now. And the stories he tells me that they trigger me.

1446
01:41:02.240 --> 01:41:06.960
And then I get quiet because I don't want to judge his way with God. And he asked me about

1447
01:41:06.960 --> 01:41:10.960
him like, you know, this is just what I went through. And for you, it may be different,

1448
01:41:10.960 --> 01:41:14.800
but I feel like it's not. Yeah, I can see where that might be.

1449
01:41:16.400 --> 01:41:22.480
Absolutely. You know, is it possible that this person has come into your life to kind of help

1450
01:41:22.480 --> 01:41:29.280
heal wounds in you that if you've been in a church that was legalistic and there was some

1451
01:41:29.280 --> 01:41:38.240
hurt there, that it could be a way for you to kind of, you know, be present with understanding

1452
01:41:38.240 --> 01:41:43.040
like, okay, this is, this is coming to surface because this is something that needs to get healed

1453
01:41:43.680 --> 01:41:47.440
that you can continue to move forward. So maybe it isn't, you know, again,

1454
01:41:48.400 --> 01:41:54.480
I always encourage when you ladies are out there dating is to always look at every single one of

1455
01:41:54.480 --> 01:42:01.360
your situations as an opportunity to grow and learn and heal. And you know, what is God trying

1456
01:42:01.360 --> 01:42:08.560
to bring to surface with this person? Because that can definitely happen. But sometimes it

1457
01:42:08.560 --> 01:42:12.640
doesn't mean that the person is like, you know, it doesn't have to be a spirit mate,

1458
01:42:12.720 --> 01:42:18.080
it could be a spirit mate could not, it doesn't have to be a positive experience or a negative

1459
01:42:18.080 --> 01:42:22.480
experience that sometimes God just can use people to kind of bring certain things to surface

1460
01:42:23.040 --> 01:42:31.600
that could bring you more healing. So those are just some things to kind of pray about,

1461
01:42:31.600 --> 01:42:37.760
think about, go to the Lord about and see what's being what's being highlighted.

1462
01:42:38.080 --> 01:42:44.800
And then trust, trust your decision making. Trust that when you are in communication with the Lord,

1463
01:42:46.080 --> 01:42:53.360
like, you ladies are strong and empowered enough to make choices when you're partnering with God,

1464
01:42:53.360 --> 01:43:00.480
because I will tell you, even when we don't make, like, I've made decisions where I've been very

1465
01:43:00.480 --> 01:43:04.160
uncertain, but I've asked the Lord to partner with me and like, look, God, I don't know if I'm

1466
01:43:05.120 --> 01:43:10.480
making the right decision. But I trust that you care about me enough that if I didn't make the

1467
01:43:10.480 --> 01:43:14.800
wrong decision, you're going to highlight that I made the wrong decision. And you're going to steer

1468
01:43:14.800 --> 01:43:20.160
me back to where I need to be. Or I'm going to make this decision. And if it's the right decision,

1469
01:43:20.160 --> 01:43:23.280
you're going to show me that it's the right decision, you're going to continue to keep

1470
01:43:23.280 --> 01:43:30.080
showing me that. So just ladies, I want you to know that you can trust yourself and in your

1471
01:43:30.080 --> 01:43:36.160
decisions, especially when you're partnering with God. He's not going to steer you wrong.

1472
01:43:36.160 --> 01:43:41.680
Okay. I always look at it as like, I don't know about you all, but I use GPS all the time.

1473
01:43:42.720 --> 01:43:50.320
Like even in my hometown, even like where I live now, I'm always using GPS because if I need to

1474
01:43:50.320 --> 01:43:55.920
make a different turn or, and then if I make a wrong turn, guess what? Even when I make a wrong

1475
01:43:55.920 --> 01:44:03.440
turn, what happens on GPS? If you've put a location in and you make the wrong turn, guess

1476
01:44:03.440 --> 01:44:12.960
what? It recalibrates your navigation system to get you back on track. Like God can do that. God

1477
01:44:12.960 --> 01:44:17.360
can, you know, Hey, you made a wrong turn. I'm going to, I'm going to bring you back over here.

1478
01:44:18.320 --> 01:44:27.280
It's all about partnership. All right. Thank you. You are welcome. Well, ladies, we've been here

1479
01:44:27.280 --> 01:44:32.880
now for an hour and 45 minutes. So I'm going to go ahead and release you ladies that are still

1480
01:44:32.880 --> 01:44:37.680
here with me. Unless there's anybody else that has this like burning question that they need

1481
01:44:37.680 --> 01:44:46.480
answered. I'm here for you. I mean, good. All right, ladies. Well, I just, I'm blessing you

1482
01:44:46.640 --> 01:44:51.440
blessing you. So Lord heaven, heavenly father, I thank you for these women. I thank you for the

1483
01:44:51.440 --> 01:44:55.520
women that are here with us. Now, the women that were here with us earlier and the women that are

1484
01:44:55.520 --> 01:44:59.840
here are going to be watching and replay. And I just thank you for them. And Lord, I just.

1485
01:45:00.000 --> 01:45:03.560
ask that you just bless them and that you just comfort them

1486
01:45:03.560 --> 01:45:06.960
and show them that you are their protector, their provider,

1487
01:45:08.080 --> 01:45:10.400
that you have good gifts for them, Lord,

1488
01:45:10.400 --> 01:45:12.520
that they can trust you.

1489
01:45:12.520 --> 01:45:13.920
And because they can trust you,

1490
01:45:13.920 --> 01:45:16.400
they can trust themselves as well.

1491
01:45:16.400 --> 01:45:17.760
And so Heavenly Father, I just thank you

1492
01:45:17.760 --> 01:45:19.560
for all the gifts that you give us

1493
01:45:19.560 --> 01:45:23.640
in your son's name, amen.

1494
01:45:23.640 --> 01:45:27.940
All right, ladies, have a fabulous rest of your week.

1495
01:45:27.980 --> 01:45:31.420
Go to the event tonight if you can make it

1496
01:45:31.420 --> 01:45:35.080
and I will see you again here next week, okay?

1497
01:45:36.100 --> 01:45:38.220
All right, love you, ladies.

1498
01:45:38.220 --> 01:45:39.660
Thank you, bye.

1499
01:45:39.660 --> 01:45:40.580
Bye-bye.