All right, everyone, welcome to tonight's Spirit Mate Match event.
I'm so excited about what we're going to be doing with our new technology, and I want
to explain some of that.
A lot of you have had questions, and so this is where I'm going to answer some of your
questions.
Please remember, do not email us about Spirit Mate Match.
I want you to go ahead and post in the comments, are you supposed to email us about Spirit
Mate Match?
Yes or no?
Go ahead and put that in the comments so everyone kind of gets on the same page here.
You guys, we have a very small team, a very small team, and that means that we do not
have the bandwidth to field 800 emails about Spirit Mate Match, and that is why we have
a post in all of your groups.
Every group, whether you're in phase two, three, or men's group, has a post that is
pinned to the top of your group that says, what are your questions about Spirit Mate
Match?
We will help you with tech issues in that chat, in those comments.
We will explain deeper to you what it is that we're up to with Spirit Mate Match, all
the things that you ever wanted to know about our new platform, our new matchmaking platform,
we will answer there.
And then on lives like this, I will get on and I will explain things even deeper.
So we have this technology curated for us, you guys, and it is amazing.
I have gone down the rabbit hole with it today.
I have lost the entire day in the Spirit Mate Match universe, okay?
It's amazing in there.
I just started randomly looking at all of your profiles and looking at your matches
and what is your top match.
I have the ability to look at your top match and what the system, what the algorithm, what
the computer, what the AI says is the number one person in our database that you have the
most in common with, that your answers line up the most with.
And you know what I love about what we're going to do tonight is that, first of all,
raise your hand, whether it's your little yellow avatar hand, or you can just put yes
in the comments.
If you're exhausted with technology, like dating apps, you're exhausted with dating
apps, exhausted with them, tired of them, done with them, in fact, nothing good really
for you ever happens on them because it's just a swipe fest and there's never any connection.
Okay.
So what we're trying to do here and what we've always been doing and what we will always
continue to do in greater and greater ways is we want to harness the power of technology.
Guys, that was almost unanimous if you didn't notice.
207 of you on, I think all of you raised your hand.
So what we're trying to do within our communities, and we've been doing it and we're going to
continue to do it, is we want to use technology to do what we call community-based matchmaking.
We want to help people to meet people within their circles of influence and within community.
Okay.
And so that is what's exciting.
And this tool is just going to help us do that even faster.
So I wrote down some of the ways, first of all, a lot of you, believe it or not, have
not filled out your profile.
I don't know what's wrong with you.
All right.
I don't know if your computer's broken.
I don't know.
I don't know if you're just scared and you just don't want to fill it out or you started
filling it out and then you stopped, or if you have some computer issues as far as you're
not tech savvy.
I'm not the most tech savvy person in the world.
That's why I have an IT department named David Dorman.
He just seems to know things about things, and I don't even know how.
Did he go to Zoom school?
Was there a Zoom school?
Did I miss that?
I know that there definitely was a Google suite school.
I didn't go to any of those schools.
I don't.
I've always had someone working with me that was the IT person, so to speak, right?
Okay.
So it's all right.
We will help you.
Just post in the comments of that post and say, hey, I filled it out, but then I don't
know what happened.
Because this is what should have happened.
You fill it out, and you're like, well, Jackie, where is it?
It's in the resource tab of your group.
So if you're in phase two on the app in the resource tab, there's a little word that says
resource.
There's curriculum, community, events, replays, resource, and you just click on that little
tab and then there's a bunch of resources in there, and one of those resources is your
spirit mate match profile.
So click on that link in the resource tab, and then it'll take you over to a different
place where you can fill it out.
You guys do it from a desktop.
Do it from a desktop.
If you have to copy and paste that link to yourself and then open it up on your desktop,
cool.
Do it on a desktop.
Why?
Because it's just easier.
It lets it be bigger for you.
You can see the fields better.
It's just better that way.
It's just a pro tip.
Do it on your laptop, on your desktop computer, and then after you hit submit, it's going to have
a confirmation page, but then it's going to send you an email. Part of the information that it
asks you is your email address. Whatever email, and please you guys don't put typos in there.
This is how a lot of you don't end up getting the email because you're typing so fast,
and unfortunately it's not going to check your mistake. It's not going to make you confirm your
email. That is unfortunate because a lot of us, without that confirm your email situation,
we do accidentally type in the wrong thing. Check and double check that email because
if you don't get an email sent to you from the email that you put in there,
that could be the problem. If you comment in that tagged post in your group,
hey, I didn't get an email. We'll figure it out for you. We'll troubleshoot it for you,
but if you did put your email incorrectly, you should get an email. Check your spam filter.
Gmail might have spammed us, said we were spam, and put us in that spam filter. Go dig us out of
the spam filter. Mark us safe because you're going to want to get emails from SpiritMate Match,
and then what you can do with that confirmation email that you got is you can log back in to
your profile and you can upload a profile picture. You guys, that profile picture is for me
and my matchmaking team. The other people, the other singles, as of right now,
do not see your picture. Only we see it, and that reminds us of who you are. We're like,
oh yeah, I saw that person in class. Oh yeah, it's for us to make a connection with who you are.
Make sure that you upload a profile picture. Right now, it's only going to let you upload one,
so upload your best one. Remember, I'm the one that's looking at it or someone on my matchmaking
team, and so do not have your sunglasses on. I want to see your eyes. I want to see your pearly
whites or off-whites. Let's see them. Smile. Give me a picture that you're smiling in,
that you're not grumpy and grouchy in. I want to see what you're like in that picture.
Okay? It's okay for that picture to have a dog in it or for you to be doing something active. As
long as I can see your face, really important. All right? If it could be your whole upper body,
if it could be a full-length picture, that's fine. That's cool, but at least don't just give me a
real close-up of your head. All right? Let me just see you in a normal pose in the picture,
and then you guys, when you're filling out that profile originally, when you're filling it out,
be honest in it. Don't try to up your chances of meeting someone by saying something that you
don't mean. You're like, what do you mean, Jackie? Well, for instance, it's going to ask
your preferences on distance with someone that you might meet, and if you say that you're open
to relocating but you're really not, then you're wasting my time. You're wasting my time. So if
you're not open to relocating or if you have a huge list of things that would have to happen,
including an angelic visitation in order to relocate, then just put that you're not open
to relocating. Okay? Because I don't got time for that. I don't. And I maybe go to make an
introduction, and the person finds out in the first conversation with you that you're embedded
where you live and that you don't want to relocate. Well, then you lied on your spirit
mate match application. Okay? So please don't do that. All right? Don't lie about your height.
Don't lie about your weight, your body type. Don't get creative with any of that stuff. Okay?
Just tell the truth. I believe that there's a match for everyone. Call me crazy. Many people
have, but I believe that there is a match for everyone. So just be you, boo. Just do it.
Just do it. And we'll see what happens. So how am I going to use this information? Well,
first of all, I need a lot more information. You think with our huge community that we would
have a lot more women signing up for their profiles. We've got a lot of guys signing up
for their profiles. In fact, I'm really, I'm very, I'm pleasantly pleased. I don't want to say
surprised because I'm not surprised. God told us to do this and it's working. A lot of men have
signed up as far as have filled out their profiles. Ladies, we need more of you to fill out your
profiles. A lot of you haven't. Some of you have, but compared to the number of women that are in
this community and the number of profiles that we have filled out there's a lot of you missing.
Now there is a huge number of people that are already in relationship in our community.
That's true. There is. I know that you don't see them a lot because they probably don't come to
lives very much anymore. Maybe they come to prayer, but they don't come to that many lives.
Why? Because they're in relationship. They only have a limited amount of bandwidth and they're
using it on getting to know the.
person that they're dating.
And so there are a lot of people in some level of
relationship past two.
So two, two and a half, two and three quarters,
three, four.
Some people getting married really, really soon.
So excited that I just got a message today.
Jackie, we're getting married in 21 days.
I'm like, come on.
It's just exciting.
So, so exciting.
And that person specifically came into our community
with not an option on the horizon,
not an option on the horizon, okay?
So if you've been feeling really discouraged,
and in fact, someone was honest enough to admit
that other people's success in this program
actually makes them sad.
You guys gotta do some heart work, gotta do a heart check.
Other people's success should not make you sad.
It shouldn't.
It should make you, it should increase your faith
that if it can happen for them, it can happen for you.
And so if it makes you sad,
that means somehow you think that that person
has something that you don't.
They have some kind of upper hand, right?
They have some sort of leverage.
They have something that you don't have
and that you can't get.
And so let's dig into that idea.
That's very important.
Let's dig into that idea
because I want you to celebrate each other.
It's important for you to celebrate each other.
We have some people that have been in here for a long time,
just all of a sudden getting into
really serious relationships and getting married.
And so I'm so excited for them.
They didn't give up, they did the work.
There were some other things in their lives
that needed to get straightened out with family,
with their children.
For those of you that are single parents,
sometimes it's not that you're not ready,
it's that your kids are not ready.
You want them to be ready, you think they're ready,
but God knows your children's hearts and they're not ready.
And so it's important for you to learn
how to focus on your children
and on being a supportive and good parent
and leave the matchmaking to God.
So if you're chasing after the opposite sex
and your kids are falling through the cracks,
then guess what?
That's not gonna be a match made in heaven.
And so we gotta make sure that we're focusing
on what's important and trusting God
to give us what we need in the right timing.
Amen?
Amen.
Okay, guys, we're gonna have fun tonight.
We have a lot going on.
All right, so if you see a spirit match event
on your calendar, what can you expect?
You can expect things like the dating game
that we're gonna play tonight.
You can expect things like maybe a shuffle.
What's a shuffle?
Well, remember how I said we're exhausted by dating apps?
Well, part of the reason that we're exhausted
by dating apps is because it's just you
and one other person and you have to figure out
whether or not you choose them or if they choose you
or if you're even gonna get together.
And then a lot of times,
just falls off the conversation.
We all would rather meet someone
in some sort of environment where there's already
the impetus or the catalyst for conversation, right?
For fun, to see that person's personality.
And so what we're gonna do in our shuffles,
kind of just, all right,
you're allowed to have a guilty pleasure.
Now, back when The Bachelor first came on
20-something years ago, it was not racy like it is now.
It was much different.
I was a younger woman.
I was in my twenties
and I snuck into the computer room to watch it
because it was fascinating to me.
It's fascinating to watch all these people,
kind of like sports for women.
Guys, you go watch your football.
Ladies, you probably go watch your football.
A lot of women watch these types of sports
where they watch someone competing for a date or love.
And guys, we know that it's not love
because of all The Bachelor seasons,
and there's been 20 plus seasons of them.
I think 40 seasons of them.
I think only two bachelors
actually got married and stayed married.
Sean got married and stayed married and somebody else.
But The Bachelorettes,
when it's their turn to be the main person,
they get married a lot quicker and a lot,
that lasts a lot longer.
So we know that it doesn't really work,
but that is not why I told the story.
Why I told the story is, is that when they do the group
dates, especially on The Modern Bachelor,
which I don't watch anymore,
because I think it's just bleh.
Now, if you watch it, I'm not trying to shame you,
but they do something where, you know,
maybe there's a one-on-one date over here,
maybe there's a group date over here.
Maybe there's a, you know,
a group date of just girls or guys over here,
getting to know each other within community.
And then they're trading off with getting to know
the other guys or girls in the group.
I want to do that both in person and through technology.
So you might be invited to a shuffle
where you're in a breakout room with three guys
and four or five girls,
and you have no idea which people in that group
the algorithm said that you match with.
You don't know.
gonna tell you, because that way it takes the pressure off.
And you get to just know people and get to know people
and see if you're clicking with anyone.
We're also gonna do these things in person.
So please be watching your single cities for updates
about in-person shuffles and other types of events
where we're using our technology in order to curate events.
And also be watching your groups for updates
about what we're gonna be doing live online, okay?
I know, super fun.
I'm so excited.
You guys, I had so much fun today
going through profiles and doing things.
What else are we gonna use the technology for right now?
Guys, there may come a day in time
when I'm gonna allow you to go ahead
and look at other people's profiles,
but I don't wanna run this like a dating app.
Does it have the capability to be run like that?
Yes, it does.
It does higher level than a regular dating app,
because it's based on a lot of different criteria,
but I don't wanna do that right now.
Right now, what I wanna do
while we're still in the intake process of getting profiles
is I want to continue to do these things
that we're doing now so people can meet within community.
So we'll do spotlights as well.
We will do them live on calls like this,
but we will also do them over my social media.
So if you are a student in good standing,
if you're a private client in good standing
with this community,
and you have filled out a spirit mate match profile,
please know that it can show up,
not your last name, not where you live,
not any information that would, you know,
let some cuckoo bird get ahold of you,
but your face, okay?
And some important information
that lets people reach out to us
and let us know that they wanna meet you.
Guys, I used to do this over my Instagram.
It was my Instagram called single nation.
It was a private Instagram.
And I will tell you that I helped probably 25-ish people
get married on there, maybe more,
just off the top of my head from spotlighting them
and from the mojo and grace that this movement carries.
Okay, so very, very exciting, right?
You guys excited?
Vivian said, what does in good standing mean?
If you were not in good standing, you would know it.
How about that?
I think in the whole history of the four years
that we've done what we do, almost five,
we're coming up on five years, you guys, in 2025,
we've only had to like kick out maybe five people.
I think that's about it.
And for bad behavior and for complaints against them,
like numerous complaints.
And so we do try to vet people out as best we can.
All right, so that is the update for those of you
that wanted updates about Spirit Mate Match.
You've been asking for updates about,
hey, when is Jackie gonna make matches?
What are we doing with this?
We're still taking profiles.
We're still in the intake phase,
but while we're in the intake phase,
and please fill out your profile.
And when you get that email that lets you go back
into your profile and tweak stuff,
you can use the profile wizard to tweak stuff.
So you're like, oh, it's not letting me change anything.
Use the wizard, okay?
The wizard.
It's important, the wizard.
Okay, and so, and if you do have tech problems past that,
then in that post, in your group, in the comments,
let us know and we'll help you.
And team, whoever was on here, I saw Bethany on here,
let's delete those questions after they're answered.
We'll leave them up for a little while,
but let's delete them
so we don't end up with 5,000 questions.
So after we know the person has seen it
and they've responded to us,
then let's delete that information
so that we can keep going forward with answering questions
and helping people.
All right, you guys ready to get started?
Guys, full transparency,
I am on like a liver cleanse right now.
And you know what I know?
You need carbs.
Your brain doesn't work without carbs.
It doesn't.
My brain's not working right now really well.
And so if I say something crazy, crazier than usual,
please give me some grace
because I need some carbs, friends.
I haven't had any carbs.
All right, like any, like none.
I'm on the broth, y'all.
And I feel so good, my digestive is great.
You can't do it long-term, but you can do it for a second.
All right, so what do we have for you tonight?
We have a dating game that's been curated
by our Spirit Mate Match app.
So we have one bachelor and three bachelorettes,
and the three bachelorettes are in the top 10 of matches
for our bachelor on the Spirit Mate Match profile.
He doesn't know who they are.
They don't even know who each other are.
And up until tonight,
they didn't even know who the bachelor was.
And so they still don't know.
So I'm going to highlight the bachelor
and I'm gonna highlight bachelorette one,
two and threes windows, okay?
They have no picture, it's blank, it's black,
there's nothing there,
because it's kind of like the voice, right?
We want to ask some questions,
and you guys, whatever fun questions
that don't have to do with someone's age
and their location,
something that would give away who they are,
put those up.
Once we get the bachelor up,
start feeding him questions that you think he should ask.
We'll kick it off with a question or two,
but start feeding him a couple of questions
because, you know, I'm sure he's nervous.
I'm sure he's nervous.
And I wanted someone that we know here in community
to be the first person to go at this game,
someone that we know and trust and we like,
and someone who's willing to volunteer his tribute,
even though this is not the Hunger Games.
And so we're going to have fun tonight.
And then after that, stay tuned,
because we have a few other guys here tonight
that are part of Spirit Mate Match,
part of the platform, that I want to spotlight.
And you guys, I'm going to try to do as many spotlights
as I can, everywhere that I can,
of the students and clients that I have.
So whether it's on my social media,
whether it's to my email list, I'm going to spotlight you.
So please let us know if you have a profile filled out
and you do not want to be spotlighted
in that post in your group.
Don't email us.
In that post in your group, just say,
hey, I don't want to be spotlighted
outside of the community.
I don't want to be spotlighted
on Jackie's public social media.
Let us know that,
because when you signed that release form,
you signed off on us helping you find someone
in whatever way we want to do it.
Okay, all right.
So that being said, without further ado,
let's get started.
We're going to have fun.
Oh, so he's going to ask some questions.
And then after a couple rounds,
he is going to pick the person whose questions,
answers he liked the best for a virtual date
or an in-person date.
And then he's going to pick the person
who he wants to meet if the person's local to him.
And so they're going to go on a virtual
or in-person date that we're going to plan.
We're going to plan it for them.
We're going to tell them exactly what we want them to do,
whether it's in-person or it's online,
so that that takes all the pressure off them
to get to know each other better.
But guess what?
The two bachelorettes that he wasn't sure
if their answers were resonating,
he will know that those other two bachelorettes
heard of his results on Spirit May Match.
So he could reach out to them anytime he wants to.
And any other guys that are here
can also reach out to them anytime that they want to,
because once again, here we are,
and this is why we're spotlighting each other.
You can also reach out to,
you can also post in your group.
If you want to meet someone, you can post and ask.
Did you guys know on Ask Jackie, you can send anonymous,
you can send anonymous stuff on there.
So anonymously, you can say,
hey, that bachelorette number two, I'd like to meet her.
You could do that.
You can.
And then we'll know.
We just want to cut down on emails, y'all.
We're trying to cut down on emails here.
All right.
One thing that I don't want you to do
is I don't want you to try to find people
and stalk them on social media.
Let's not do that.
Okay, let's find out other ways in order to meet them.
Guys, if one of the guys that are spotlighted tonight,
you want to meet them, you need to,
you are going to email us.
We're still allowing you to do that.
Email us and put their first name in the subject line.
That's it, their first name.
And then tell us your name on the Spirit Mate Match profile.
Okay, give us your email address and your name.
We'll already have your email address.
But if it's different than the one you use
for Spirit Mate Match, please let us know that.
And we will look it up
and we will contact you if we want to make an introduction.
Okay, cool.
All right, guys, I just have to remind myself right now
really quickly who bachelorette number one,
two and three are, like who they are.
You're not going to know who they are,
but I need to know who they are.
Okay, so let me take a look here.
All right.
Okay.
Mm-mm.
You guys, this is gonna be so fun.
You excited?
I'm excited.
Remember, I have no carbs.
I'm gonna be going a little bit slower tonight.
I'm gonna try my best.
And for a lot of you, you're like,
man, Jackie, slower is good,
because you're way too fast.
All right, let's see.
And batch number three.
All right, fun, fun, fun times.
All right, without further ado,
let's get some spotlights going here.
Mm-mm.
How are you guys doing today?
Great match is our favorite Mike Anthony.
My thank you so much for volunteering.
We're gonna have fun. Okay, let's go. Let's go. Let's go. All right. So hold on one second. I want to see if I'm able to
be nervous.
Easier said than done.
No, it's all good. You know, it's, this is amazing. It's actually kind of an honor to be the first right. Yeah, it's gonna be great.
All right.
Questions.
All right.
I might need the IT department y'all.
We're gonna do our best.
It is a pioneering thing. It's a breakthrough.
It is crazy.
Is anyone spotlighted right now.
No pad Mike pinned but he's not pinned now.
Okay, thank you so much.
Hey, Bethany. I forgot you were here. Yeah, so we helped me.
I can try. Yeah.
What you're just like, yes, please do that. Thank you. Okay, I need you to privately send me the ladies names then.
No no dispatch that one two and three that's what they're, that's what their zoom window say.
Okay, cool. All right.
Okay, I need to get my window back up.
I couldn't find my green screen I was going to do the background of the dating game just but I think I took it all that would have been so fun.
Okay.
The IT department left so I don't know what to do they're off for the night apparently. All right.
Thanks.
All right. Is anyone spotlighted yet pinned spotlighted.
I can see nothing.
Too so far, I'm working on I have to find them.
Yeah, just type in just type in BAC, BAC, they'll come up.
They're all here.
So as much as carbs.
No, it really doesn't I googled it doesn't have any carbs in it.
I mean if the milk, if the milk. Someone's been watching me on my Instagram story today, Mr. Mike.
But, yeah, the milk, if you put some sort of milk with carbs in it I guess that would work.
All right, okay they're all pinned.
All right, awesome. All right.
Someone's to talk about my cat friend I named it ginger, who knew it was a boy, so it's a boy named ginger. Okay.
I'm not going to make any gender fluid remarks because then I'll get hate mail from all of you. All right, so here we go.
We're going to play the dating game. All right so bachelor.
What is your first question for all three bachelorettes, and it can't be their name or their location or anything that would give them away. What is your first question for all three.
Hmm.
So I saw a lot of them in the chat. I thought this one was funny. This is different. If you were a shoe what kind of shoe would you be.
Yeah, you know, kick off. I like it. That's a great pickup. All right, bachelorette number one, if you were a shoe. What type of shoe would you be.
Oh, probably a bougie boots something really pretty.
pretty on the outside and nice and comfortable and friendly on the inside.
Ooh. All right. I like that. And go ahead and say hi to our bachelor.
Hi, it's nice to meet you.
Nice to meet you as well.
Thanks for going first. That couldn't be easy.
Yes. All right. Bachelorette number two,
go ahead and unmute yourself and greet our bachelor and then answer the
question. If you were a shoe, what kind of shoe would you be?
Hello. How are you today?
Doing great. Um, you know, this is kind of fun,
but a little stressful at the same time, you know, but it's kind of, you know,
um, it's really cool that I really believe in what Jackie is doing and that,
and this movement and, um, yeah, no, it's been, it's been,
it's really an honor to actually be the first, I mean, I really,
it really means, yeah,
it's kind of what I've been made to do is go first so other people can follow.
Awesome. I love that.
Pioneering. Okay. What kind of shoe are you?
Um, I am a sneaker,
something that, um, it was comfortable and,
um, can pretty much wear it with almost anything. And,
um, you know, I like to walk, I like to be outside. So it's, um,
you know, something that I, I would like to be.
All right. Great answer.
I see some of you guys are having secondhand anxiety.
I'm blushing. I'm feeling like kind of hot. Okay. All right.
So, um, that's right. Number three, unmute yourself, greet our bachelor,
and then tell us what kind of shoe you would be.
Hi, Mike. How are you doing?
Pretty good.
Congrats on being in the hot seat today.
Um, my, if I was a shoe,
I would be a wedge and I think a lot of the ladies understand what I mean.
When I say wedges, they give you height,
they make your legs look better and, but they're more comfortable than a heel.
I like it.
The big heels. Oh no. I know. Yeah. I know what you're talking about. Sorry.
I'm tracking all the guys are like, what? Okay.
Everyone go ahead and put what kind of shoe you would be in the chat.
Since we're having fun,
let's go ahead and see all of your answers while Mike finds his next question.
So Mike, the next question that I want you to answer, okay.
The next question I want you to ask is I want you to ask,
I want you to say what,
what you would do or what you would be or how you would feel.
And then we're going to ask them to answer as well. All right. So,
my dream,
my dream vacation would be a week by the ocean.
What would your dream vacation be? And then I want you just to ask, you know,
start with one of the bachelorettes and you get to choose which one.
Oh, one, two or three.
Wish we would have prepped. Well, let's go with dream vacation.
How would that be? That's good. I want to go to Hawaii, you know,
like spend Hawaii, do some scuba diving, some snorkeling.
But Italy would be kind of fun too. So let's do Hawaii.
So I would really love to do Hawaii. And what was the second part I am?
So I want you to ask one of the bachelorettes one,
two or three to answer the question as well. Okay.
So bachelor at number two, what would be your dream vacation?
My dream vacation would be to go to Wyoming
and just go out riding on horses
and be out in nature and just enjoy the
beautiful views out in Wyoming.
Beautiful country out there. Yeah.
All right. That's awesome. Okay.
Now pick another question and go ahead and answer it yourself.
And then ask one of the other bachelorettes to answer as well.
Hmm. This is always, this is always one of my fun ones. Like, you know,
so does pineapple belong on pizza?
And I absolutely say pineapple belongs on pizza because it's, you know,
it's amazing. So bachelorette number one,
does pineapple belong on pizza? Absolutely. I love a Hawaiian pizza.
It's so good. Oh, a little Maui zowie action.
All right. I love it. All right.
All right. So once again, Mike, you're going to pick a question,
answer it yourself, and then you're going to ask the remaining bachelorette,
bachelorette number three to answer as well.
All right.
I'm taking notes for him, Katie.
Thank you.
I was like, I thought I was going to have a notepad,
but this is a little nerve wracking.
So the question I'm going to ask is, how would your best friend
describe you?
And my best friend's been my best friend for 30 years now.
And he'd say, I'm always there, dependable, kind, loving,
caring, and just as rock.
So bachelorette number three, what
would your best friend say about you?
How would she describe you?
Or he.
I know, I was course correcting.
Of course, if it's a match, she'll
have to get rid of her boy best friend, but that's fine.
All right, go ahead.
Bachelorette number three.
I think she would say that I was very empathetic and kind,
and I'm very loyal and dependable as well.
Oh, that's amazing.
Oh, I love it.
All right.
OK, now I want you to find a question,
and I want you to answer it, and then I want you to.
But first, OK, I want you to find another question,
and I want you to ask all three bachelorettes to answer it.
You don't have to answer it yourself,
but I want you to ask all three bachelorettes to answer it.
So find a good question to ask all three of them,
and then you just pick who goes first.
What about that favorite childhood meal
and favorite meal now?
I think that's fun.
That's a good one.
All right, so bachelorette number one,
what is your favorite childhood meal now?
Or what was your favorite childhood meal,
and what is your favorite meal now?
My favorite childhood meal, I would say,
would be tacos, like a taco bar, big taco bar.
Good for parties, good for weather parties,
things like that.
And I would say it's the same thing now,
because I've carried on their tradition with my kids,
and so it's just kind of a warm feeling from my generation
to the generation that I have.
So street tacos or crispy tacos?
Probably crispy, anything.
We have huge parties, and we have huge groups of food
at a time, and so, yeah, both.
We try to make it fun so that everybody
wants to participate.
It's enjoyable.
That's cool.
Who doesn't love a taco?
All right, go ahead and ask one of the remaining bachelorettes.
Bachelorette number two, what is your favorite childhood meal,
and what is your favorite childhood meal now?
My favorite childhood meal was lasagna.
And now, probably my favorite meal is,
I've been really into Thai food, and I'm just, I don't know,
I like all the flavors and the spices.
And so, I don't know, I feel like I'm getting more
into that kind of food, so.
You got to be careful with Thai, though.
It can light you up.
It's true.
What about you, bachelorette number three?
My favorite food when I was a kid
was mac and cheese, of course.
And now, it's probably be a good steak.
Ooh, yeah, good.
Yeah.
Potatoes on the side.
Filet with some blue cheese.
Oh, yeah, yeah.
Or horseradish.
I've had that before, too.
That's really good.
Now, I'm hungry.
Awesome.
I love it.
Hey, everyone, just go ahead and put the answers
to those questions in the chat.
Feel free to tell us, what's your favorite childhood meal?
And what is your favorite meal now?
We want to get to know each other better.
It's fun.
Don't forget, there's other people here in the chat
that you might make a match with.
OK, what's next?
Let's get into some more serious questions.
Mike, do you want to?
So let's get into some questions like favorite childhood
memory or just things about growing up, about family.
So what kind of question do you want to ask?
And I want you to answer it first in less than 15 seconds.
And then, I want you to ask one of the Bachelorettes
to answer that question.
OK.
Let's do favorite childhood memory.
It's going to be kind of challenging.
When I was a kid, I grew up in the,
well, I lived in this Nevada desert for a little while.
And there were lizards everywhere.
And I remember as a kid, my mom would come out,
and there would be like 20 lizards on the back porch.
Because I would catch them and bring them home.
And she'd laugh because it was just a lizard avalanche
when she opened the door.
So, bachelorette number three, what was one of your favorite childhood memories?
Oh, that's a hard one to choose just one.
I guess it's a good thing that I have so many.
I probably say what sticks out the most is when I was growing up we grew up on quite a number of acres.
And so we, my sisters and I would kind of pretend our usual like pretend game was we were in the Wizard of Oz, and we would run around the property picking wildflowers and making bouquets and doing the Wizard of Oz dance together going to see the wizard.
And I just, that's one of my most favorite memories of my sisters.
Because, because, because, because, because.
Okay, cute. All right, so let's pick a different kind of more serious question and ask a different bachelorette.
Okay, it can be anything it could be, you know, something about their spirit life something about.
Yeah.
That one's a little too deep I think.
What how about how about something like you answer it first and then ask one of the other ones but how about what, what activity makes you feel closest to God.
Oh, that's a great one.
All right, so my worship.
Number one thing I just feel the presence of God, you know, I mean I wouldn't live in worship 24 hours a day if I could, you know, because it's just amazing, but then I have to function so therefore.
So bachelorette number one what, what is the Lord the best for me it's definitely worship, that is something that I am a praise and worship leader by trade and or by.
One of the things I do for a living. And, but it's just something that I do in my home in my car, you know, day and night I will find myself waking up talking to the Lord, telling them how much I love him and I just, I can feel his presence and calm my mind
and heart with that more than anything, so I just I live it and breathe it and I absolutely love it.
We have a match to us. Same thing. Okay, so why don't you go ahead and ask bachelorette number two, same question.
Bachelorette number two what, how do you connect to the Lord the best.
For me, I mean I also love praise and worship as well but I think for me is more of a quiet time on. I have, I feel like I connect mostly with him in nature.
I have a hill in my, on my property that I like to just sit out there and I can just, you know, talk with him and, you know, I just feel the closest with him there.
I know there's something about majesty of nature. I mean when I'm in Yosemite I think I hear the word like crazy they're just being in.
Right.
That's cool.
How many of you guys think this is going to be a really hard choice.
Yes. Okay, let's let's get, let's get a little more serious let's talk about flaws but in a fun way. How about the question Mike you're going to answer this first and then you're going to pick one of the bachelorettes to go first but all of them are going
to answer this question. And that is, if you were going to get a detention, not that you did, but if you're going to get a detention in high school, what would have been for.
I was in detention a lot.
You know, for, for being a little smart Alec.
Now and being the class clown and stirring up trouble. I mean, you know, I know you guys can't see that at all but you know I used to have more fun at all.
All right, bachelorette number three.
What
would you get a detention. Okay, what would you get it for that's the repeat of the question.
This is hard for me to answer because I was the angel child in school so I was, I was afraid of getting detention.
But, but if, if I had to, if I did anything.
It would be talking during class to a friend.
That would be my detention.
Yeah, we see a lot of that in the chat you guys a lot of people talking, talking in class.
All right. Okay.
Bachelorette number two.
So, similarly, I only got one detention in high school, and it was for talking to a friend
during, they were showing a movie, and I don't even know what I was talking to my friend
about, but yeah, I got a detention then, but yeah, that was the only one.
So fun.
All right.
It's so fun.
It's confession time from, you know, junior high, bachelorette number one.
Okay, so like bachelorette number two, I actually only did get detention one time, and it was
because I had stayed behind to help a friend who had fallen and hurt her leg, so I sat
with her so she wouldn't be lonely to encourage her, and when I received my detention, I became
just a tiny bit smart aleck with my mouth, but actually got in trouble for helping somebody.
Oh my goodness, you little goody goody two shoes, all three of you, I was the captain
of detention.
Okay.
Fun stuff.
They had the Jackie chair.
The Jackie chair.
Woo hoo!
They did.
I was the, you know, you guys remember the breakfast club?
Yeah, that was me.
Saturday school, all the way.
All right.
I guess I didn't meet Jesus until I was in my 20s, so do not judge me.
I want to keep on with this because I think this is so fun.
All right, so like in high school, you know how they have those, what are those called?
Those things like most likely to, they call them something.
What are those called?
Put it in the chat.
Most likely to succeed.
Most likely to-
I need carbs.
Most likely to get-
Superlatives.
Okay.
Superlatives.
I'm hooked on phonics, you guys, because I'm not hooked on it.
I cannot sound anything out.
All right.
So Mike, you're going to tell us what you would be the most, what you'd been voted by
all of your friends.
Let's go college, like high school, college, the most likely to do with your life.
Okay.
And then you're going to ask all three bachelorettes same question.
That was a rough season of my life.
I didn't, I didn't come to the Lord until 20.
So probably dying in a car crash because I was street racing.
Like it was, it was one of those things where, you know, I ran
from pain with adrenaline and horsepower.
And so it's not, you know, and so, yeah, that wasn't my favorite season of life.
So most likely to not survive.
Okay.
That's fair.
Car crash.
All right.
What do we got?
Let's, let's ask pick one to go.
Number one.
Well, so the remainder of my high school career was a little bit different.
So I would say probably would have been most likely to be a mom.
All right.
Most likely to be a mom.
Love it.
Keep going, Mike.
Oh, number two.
So keep going.
Number two.
What would, what would you most likely to be?
School was tough for me.
So I always had to work really, really hard and it was, it was tough because I don't even
my guidance counselors, like, I feel like they didn't really believe in, in my capabilities.
So I, I honestly don't know like what they thought, but I mean, for me, I have a, a very
persevering, you know, way about me and, you know, despite, you know, people saying
like, oh, well, you know, you can't do this or you can't do that.
You know, I, I was very stubborn and I said to myself, well, I am going to go through
school and, you know, become what I want to be.
So.
So most likely to overcome.
That's great.
Yeah.
Definitely an overcomer.
Yeah.
Love it.
Bachelorette.
Number three.
I'd say probably, and this is just because of the time of the life of my life that I
was in at the time.
And I have to, I was, I was actually a Christian, but I wasn't very serious about it when I
went to college.
But so I would say most likely to rebel.
All right.
That's a rough kind of, that's a very transitional stage of life, you know, especially if you've
come out of a, depending on your childhood.
Absolutely.
So, yes.
All right.
So we're going to wrap it up and how we're going to wrap it up is we're going to wrap
it up with a question about what we're all here for, and that is how we're going to make
connection and what we're looking for in connection.
And so Mike, starting with yourself, you know, in.
and in 20 seconds or less,
what are the traits that you're looking for
in a match, in a partner?
What are the most important traits to you
that you're looking for?
And then you're gonna let all three bachelorettes
ask, answer the same question.
So I answer it and then let them answer, okay.
First one, Jesus has their yes.
Like, you know, Jesus has my yes,
and I don't know where that's gonna lead quite honestly,
but, and just somebody who is on fire,
like a worshiper,
somebody who follows the Holy Spirit and is led.
I mean, those are the, those,
with everything, with that,
you can make everything else work, you know.
Somebody who's kind.
I got two boys that can use some love
and just, so maybe just be a partner in life and fun,
to have some fun, you know.
Like, Jackie's a party in a box.
And you know, like, I was lacking that,
but I'm looking at going,
I would like to have a party in a box
and have a lot of fun.
So does that cover it all?
Just, yeah.
Yeah, it covers it all.
And just so you guys know,
that is my nickname for my husband's best friend.
My husband's best friend calls me a party in a box.
So he's just not making that up out of nowhere.
You're like, what,
what is he saying about Jackie right now?
Yes, it's true.
Okay, so go ahead and you can start
with whatever bachelorette you want to ask the question.
We started four words, so let's go backwards.
Bachelorette number three.
I too, like, I feel like I'm a playful person
and I've become more playful as I've gotten older.
And I think that kind of weighs in
to my perspective on life.
It's getting more relaxed as I get older.
I think that's funny to say.
But I also, I, my personality is on the inside
in the middle of being extroverted and introverted.
So I still need alone time,
but I need someone to kind of pull me out of my shell
a little bit to have some fun
and definitely continue to grow my relationship
with the Lord.
That's 100% my goal.
Yeah, super cool.
All right, bachelorette number two.
So things that I'm looking for, you know,
same God-centered, you know,
definitely a God-centered relationship.
Someone who loves the outdoors, loves animals,
loves to laugh and have joy.
Someone to partner with.
Someone that can have strong communication
because I believe, you know, communication is so important.
Someone that, you know, we could be a light
for Jesus together and, you know, make positive changes.
That's amazing.
Awesome.
And bachelorette, last not least, bachelorette number one.
I love Jesus with all of my heart
and I love to be spirit led.
And so I really desire that in a mate.
My parents were like that and they were really compatible
and they were very spirit led.
And I desire to have that in my life.
I like to have fun.
I love to laugh a lot.
I can make a joke and fun out of just about anything,
even things that probably shouldn't be funny.
So I love, you know, I'd like a lot of that.
Also loyalty and faithfulness, kindness,
somebody with a growth mindset and, you know,
who's willing to, I believe in like being spontaneous
and having fun, right?
But then also using wisdom.
I think the Bible calls us to use wisdom,
that wisdom is the principal thing.
And so I long for that as well.
So those are some of the things I'm looking for.
That's amazing.
These are all really great answers.
I love it.
You guys, I've been making stars next to bachelorette one,
two, and three, as they said things in their answers
that were in synergy to Mike's answers
and what I know of Mike.
And really it's kind of a neck and neck tie.
It's a dead heat.
And so all three of these women have different aspects
of their personalities.
And because I know who they are,
they have different aspects of their everyday life
that match with Mike's everyday life.
Cause I know about him as well.
And so really you can't make a wrong choice
because once again, y'all, this is not a marriage proposal.
This is just a virtual or in-person date,
virtual or in-person, get to know each other, hang,
low stakes situation,
meaning that if there isn't any compatibility to go forward
and to get to know each other better,
they're in community, they're friends.
And Mike has the option to go
because all three of them have tied really with my paper
that he can go and get to know the other two as well.
And anyone else in the community,
you guys, that is what community-based matchmaking
is about.
We're all here to get to know each other.
I believe that God has a match for everyone.
And if someone's not your match,
then someone is not your match.
someone else in the community probably could be.
And so that is really important.
So Mike, great job.
Bachelorette one, two, and three, great job.
And so we will allow all the bachelorettes
to reveal themselves, not quite yet,
because Mike is gonna give us his choice
based on this dead heat.
He's just gonna be choosing based on whatever, you know,
feeling he has in this moment right now
in the heat of the moment,
because he's kind of on the hot seat.
He's gonna go ahead and pick,
and then she is going to be the last one to reveal herself.
The other two will reveal themselves,
and they will tell the whole community,
since we have a bunch of guys here tonight.
I see you guys, I see y'all.
And then of course, in case Mike wants to,
and he wants to, you know, get to know them later too,
he'll know who they are.
All right, so Mike, without further ado,
David Dorman, can I get a drum roll?
Sure.
Yeah, oh man, this is hard.
Jesus help.
Mike, is it gonna be bachelor one, bachelorette one,
bachelorette two, or bachelorette three
for your in-person or virtual date?
Number one.
Number one!
All right, before number one reveals herself,
we're going to allow number two to reveal herself.
Reveal yourself, turn on your window,
tell us your name, where you live,
and, you know, just anything else you want to share
with the group about yourself.
Where are you?
Hello.
Yay, it's Dana!
Hi, I'm Dana, I'm in New Jersey, and I'm 45.
Dana from Jersey.
I actually have met this beautiful woman in person.
She's incredible.
There's so many amazing things about her,
and so we're so excited that she is part of our community.
You guys heard a lot about Dana tonight,
so if you know someone that Dana should meet,
Dana should match with,
remember what we help make happen for others,
God makes happen for us,
go ahead and email us with the subject line, Dana.
If you're a guy that wants to meet her, same thing, D-A-N-A.
If you're a girl that has someone
who you think Dana should meet,
either within the community or not in the community,
Dana in the subject line,
and we thank you guys for helping find Dana's spirit mate.
All right, and then next, Bachelorette number three,
go ahead and reveal yourself.
Hi, I'm Mandy, and I live in Boise, Idaho,
and I'm 49 years old.
Mandy from Idaho, so cute.
I have not met Mandy in person, but she's so cute.
And once again, you heard a lot about her tonight.
If you know anyone that should meet Mandy
or she should meet, or if you want to meet Mandy,
then Mandy in the subject line
to admin at JackieDorman.com, all right?
All right, and without further ado,
the person, once again, all three of these women,
I have the same amount of stars by each of your name
of answering questions in synergy to Mike's questions.
The person that you wanted to check out and see,
see what's up, have a little date with,
have a little hangout with, is Bachelorette number one,
Bachelorette number one, please reveal yourself.
Where is she?
Oh, sorry, hi.
Hello.
Hey, I'm Jessica.
Can you hear me?
Yes, Jessica from Florida.
I'm Jessica, I am from Florida,
Milton hurricane country right here.
I'm 44, it's nice to meet you, Mike.
Nice to meet you as well.
Yes, and so Jessica and Mike,
we will be in touch with both of you.
We're, because you're in California, Mike,
and Jessica's in Florida,
we will be setting you up on a virtual date of our choosing
so you guys get to know each other better.
We will talk to both of you privately
about the level of contact as far as information,
phone numbers, whatever, want to be exchanged.
I actually have known Jessica for a while.
Jessica was actually one of my students back in the day
for a whole different subject.
So her and I, we've been talking for a while
and she is a wonderful therapist in Florida
and has done a lot of great work
and continues to do great work in ministry
and in business tree.
And so love Jess, so excited for this tonight.
Now, Bethany, if you go ahead and unhighlight everybody,
how fun was that you guys?
And we're going to do so much more of stuff like this,
shuffles and dating games, bigger dating games,
maybe like a family feud situation
where you have guys and girls on each side
and no one knows who the spirit mate match
said should be together,
but we'll do all kinds of fun things
where we can really get to know people a lot better
within this community.
All right in person as well in person as well. Okay and so I do have a couple guys that I asked
to come and I see that a couple of them were able to make it tonight and so I want to go ahead and
spotlight them so that we can have a little single spotlight. So ladies get ready to ask your
questions. And we'll do this for the next 20-ish minutes for those of you that are watching the
clock. There I am. Hey y'all. All right so look at my cup. Hey y'all. All right I'm not country
at all you guys. I come from Cleveland. I don't need to say anything more about that. All right
Abram where are you at? I saw you. You can't escape. I have you in my tractor beam ad spotlight.
All right. All right and then last but not least
Mr. Greg.
Let's see. I should be able to add more than one spotlight shouldn't I? Yes.
Bethany see if you can spotlight Greg. It's spelled with two g's there.
It's not letting me do it for some reason. See if you can do it.
Hi Abram. How's it going? Are you nervous? A little bit yeah. Yeah I know it is a little nerve-wracking
but it's going to be great. All right so Abram and Greg are both part of our men's community
and we are so thankful for both of them. Both of them amazing great guys
and we're just waiting for Greg to get spotlighted.
Can you guys hear me okay? Maybe turn yourself up a little bit.
You're a little low.
Oh I found it. Oh I lost it. Yeah it keeps kicking it back out. I'm not sure.
There you are. Hi. Hi Greg. Hello. Hello. All right. Okay so we're so excited for Greg and
Abram to be with us tonight. Both of these guys is their first time in the spotlight
and so that's awesome. Let me just check and see. I did have one other guy that thought he might be
able to come. Nope he's not here. All right so what we do during single spotlight is these are
guys from our men's community. They also have a spirit mate match profile filled out and we want
to showcase them to our female student body and for everyone watching in replay. We have about 230
people live right now and then everyone who will watch in replay. If you want to meet either one
of them you're going to email us and you're going to put their name their first name in the subject
line. Abram or Greg with two g's. Greg we want to know about the two g's okay. Mom and dad were just
like one g's not enough. Greg is amazing. We're going to give him two g's. Did you ever ask your
parents because it's kind of an unusual spelling right? Yeah it's kind of weird kind of country.
Weird. It's unique. It's unique. My real name is Gregory with one g and before I ever started
going to school my mom started teaching me how to spell my name but they always called me Greg
and she liked me spelling it with two g's so I just spelled g-r-e-d-g all my life.
All right I love that story. Mom taught him how to write his name as a little boy
and she liked that unique that unique spelling and I think that's great. Double g.
David Dorman is is double d and you're double g now and so it's very fun. All right okay so Abram
and Greg just take turns. We're gonna go back and forth. Ladies go ahead and put your questions in
the chat. Ladies keep your questions light okay and fun. Let's not get all crazy up in here. I
know how y'all are okay but Greg and Abram first and foremost tell us where you live. How old are
you? You know just a little bit of bio about yourself. Greg do you want to go first? Yeah you
might want to turn yourself up a little bit more. Is it just me or he's really low? Can you hear me?
Yeah I mean yeah I gotta lean in. Is it just me? Can everyone hear him okay?
Okay it's him. It's very low. Okay turn up my mic here man. Turn that mic up. Yeah
I'm gonna do the zoom stuff so my volume's gonna be jacked. Oh there it is. Can you hear me? There
it is. Can you hear me? Yeah that's just regular. You're not jacked. Go ahead. Okay Greg you want
to go? You want me to go? You can go man. All right so Abram Dukas. 39 years old. I'm five
six on a good day. Bye.
175 pounds, kind of a gladiator build.
Um, my grass right now is a little long.
Um, but I cut it like every fifth day.
So, and then my beard is reddish, but the, the carpet, the curtains
do not match the carpet, so no little potions or, you know, stuff like that.
I'm basically like a blonde guy.
Um, more or less.
Um, yeah.
With a red beard, blonde with red.
Is that what you're saying?
Yeah, more or less like a Sandy blonde kind of a guy.
Um, not really dark haired, but my beard is red in that.
My, my brother has it.
My dad has it.
And my great grandfather had it.
And I think that might be, uh, some of the German blood in me.
I'm 75% Italian, 25% German.
Um, culturally more or less live in Italian, eating Italian.
Um, I don't want to eat like the Americans cause I want to die.
I like as an old person with good health.
So, uh, you know, health's a priority for me.
Don't get me started.
Do not give me a little bit of carbs.
Okay.
It's not going to hurt you.
I need it.
Ladies.
He's talking about this carpet, not anything further South.
So get your minds out of the gutter and let's yeah.
Like drapes carpet, you know?
Yeah.
But sometimes that analogy is used differently.
All right.
Keep going.
My bad, my bad, but yeah, Fresno, California.
Um, yeah, I work in the restaurant business.
Been doing that for like 20 years.
I work at a higher end seafood restaurant.
Um, and, um, I enjoy my job.
I based my job is basically to help people have a good time.
And, um, yeah, it's like kind of like serving people every day, you know,
making sure they have a good time.
And, uh, luckily my restaurant's really popular in my town and a great food.
And so it's, uh, wins across the board.
Um, yeah, I don't know if you want to go further, but yeah.
Yeah.
And so, and Abram, you've never been married, never married.
No kids that I know.
And did you say how old you were?
39, 39.
Okay.
That's awesome.
That's a great intro.
Greg, what do you got?
Yeah, I'm Greg.
I live in Charlotte, North Carolina.
I'm 58 years old, just turned 58 in August.
And, um, I have a 11 year old son and been married once divorced,
um, for about three years now.
So, um, I'm, I guess as far as build wise, I've got into that I'm five, 10,
170 ish, um, and I'm very active as far as, um, um, definitely like to do
anything active sports workout a little bit, um, pickleball, tennis, anything like
that, um, also my career, basically I'm in it security and, um, and currently
working for more of a, on the legal side of it, um, compliance.
And, um, so pretty boring job.
I work from home, work, work, uh, remotely.
So, um, kind of flexible during the day.
And, um, so yeah, it's kind of a good, good opportunity right now.
And, um, yeah, I grew up, uh, near Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania.
So I'm a big Steelers fan, um, and lived in Virginia beach, Virginia for 25
years before moving to Charlotte.
And I've been in Charlotte about 10 years now.
So, um,
great.
Can you repeat how old you are?
Because people ask again,
50 and then five, eight, right?
Eight.
Yes.
Come on, bro.
I'm about to join the 50 club.
All right.
You're looking good.
All right.
It's awesome.
You guys, fifties, best decade.
My friend who's in their sixties said fifties, sixties, best decades of your
life for those of you that are not there yet, you're welcome.
You have things to look forward to.
All right.
Um, you guys, where's the last place you vacationed?
I know, Greg, you just got back from somewhere.
Where's the last place you went on vacation and, or someplace that you're
really hoping to go on vacation in 2025.
I got back last night from Aruba.
Aruba, Jamaica.
All right.
Did you want to go to Aruba?
Did someone else, was someone else playing that?
Or was that a year?
It was a group, a group of Christian singles I went with.
And, um, yeah, it was great.
It was being, um, I'm, I have my son every other week.
So Friday to Friday, every other week.
And, um, whenever somebody plans a vacation, I can just jump on I'm I'm game.
Oh, I love that.
That's awesome.
Okay.
Um, you, how old did you say your son was?
All right.
And are you open to women that, uh, are local to you that would have children as
well?
Cause obviously you can't relocate because you have a son, um, that lives there.
And then also, um, are you still in interested in making more children?
My.
I'd never say never, but my preference out, you know, pretty much would be to not have
any more kids, um, you know, new kids, fresh kids starting over, you know, but, um, yeah,
but, um, I would be able to date long distance, but definitely would not be able to relocate,
um, anytime soon.
So, okay.
That's good.
That's good to know.
People want to know that ladies always want to ask that.
All right.
So Abram, same kind of question where vacation, you want to go, you just went, tell us, and
then answer the same question about, um, if you're open to women that already have children.
Okay, guys.
So I don't go on vacation much.
Um, it'd be nice to go on vacation with somebody, uh, you know, make some memories.
Um, so pretty much staying in my town, you know, just working, staying out of trouble.
Um, but it'd be nice to go on some vacation.
I do have some plans to go to Italy.
I think next year with some really close friends of mine, they're all married.
They all, they all have, uh, their person.
It'd be nice to bring my person as well.
So that would be great.
And do you want to have children of your own?
Do you want kids?
Yeah, I'm here to have kids.
I think that I would have major regrets in my life if I did not have kids.
I think at least two, I don't want to do that whole, uh, you know, only a child syndrome
thing, you know, like give the kid a person to live their life with.
You know, I have two brothers and it was a gift to have them by my side throughout my
whole life.
Um, growing up, me and my brothers, we'd fight a little bit, but dad would always, you know,
tell us we're, we're a team and we're the closest thing to each other on this planet.
So I believe that to this day.
And I would love to have at least two kids.
Um, if you want to have more, that's great.
I'm not going to say no, but, um, I think at least two would be, um, what about kids
that she already has?
Would you be open to that?
And also, would you be open to adoption?
Um, adoption, I have not opened my heart up to that.
Um, when it comes to the lady having a kid, I kind of, I'm still working on that, but
I think if the kid was really young, maybe like five and under, I think that I could
really make a huge impact on that person and become a good, uh, male leader in his life
or her life.
And, um, that kind of a thing.
So yeah, I'm still working on that stuff.
There's so many people that are single moms out there that need a good partner.
So I'm still kind of working on that, but that's my honest answer as of right now.
So ladies, that's a great, honest answer.
And ladies remember, understand that, you know, right now, um, you know, he's, he's,
he said, I, my heart's not fully open to that, but I'm open to my heart being open to that.
So hear what he's saying.
And that's great.
That's kind of where we all are with things that we've never done and we haven't experienced.
That's important.
You think that we would be open?
We're not sure if we would be, we just don't know.
And that's a fair and good and honest answer.
And I like it.
All right.
Um, let's see what other questions you guys have.
What other questions, um, people want to know about your spiritual life.
They're always going to want to know.
So what is, you know, how do you feel closest to God?
We asked that in the dating game.
I think that's a great question.
How do you cultivate your relationship with God?
How do you do it?
Either one of you.
Yeah, I can go first.
Definitely.
I'm very, I've always been very involved in worship and playing worship.
I play bass guitar and have been playing for quite a few years.
Not currently playing for a church right now, but, um, that worship just, you know, I can
just get lost in worship and, um, and, and also I will say this, you know, I love to
worship God.
There's a time also that I need to turn the music off and just be alone.
Because sometimes the music or something in the background can kind of be, you know, hard,
almost distracting for me whenever I really want to zone in with God.
So there's kind of that, that two-sided part of it, there's, there's a time of worshiping
and kind of, you know, giving to God and, and, you know, praise and adoration or whatever.
But then there's also a time where I just need to turn the music off and just listen
and just be close to Him.
Good answer.
Love it.
Okay.
What about you, Abram?
How do you connect with God?
How are you nurturing that relationship?
So just a little background.
First, I was raised a Roman Catholic, you know, being an Italian guy and all that.
And altar boy, when I was in my early teens, I thought I had a calling to maybe even live
a religious life.
And then over the years, unfortunately, it seems like when I'm going through my worst
times, I really need Him.
And I've leaned on Him to give me peace and, you know, and all the things I've been through.
But when it comes to modern day here, I pray every night, get on my knees, thank Him for
everything that's going on.
on, try to appreciate everything that's going on. Things could be a lot worse. And I would
like to go back to church. I think the idea of going to church for my family is amazing.
And if I could find someone that's even maybe, whatever you want to call it, has more grace
than me or is a little bit more serious about it, I'm okay with that. I think that's wonderful.
Saying grace before meals, stuff like that. I think it's super important and I love that
stuff. And so, yeah, God's on my mind throughout the day, how I talk to people, how people
are talking to me, and I'm just trying to be better. So I'm not super hardcore, but
I believe it. And yeah.
I love that answer, Abram. That's such a great answer. Oh, that's so good. And that's all
of us, you guys. Most of us, you remember back, remember back to where, you know, in
your spirit life you had like a growth spurt, right? You know, we all had a growth spurt
from, you know, just, just raw, you know, passion, intention, you know, we got into
a crisis and that crisis maybe led to a growth spurt or, you know, someone came along in
our life that, you know, made us want more of, of, you know, we, we knew some, something,
but made us want to know more of that something. And so we've all been, you know, in all of
those things. I love it that you thought when you were a child that you would live a religious
life, meaning maybe go into the priesthood or do something like that. And we're glad
you didn't do that because you would not be here with us tonight. You would not, you
would not be able to get married. And so but I feel like that call is on your life. I feel
like you guys can feel it too on Abram's life, right? That God has called him. And that is
why he has such a refreshing connection with God. That's not religious and it's just real.
I love what you just said. And I feel like you have a high spiritual IQ. And so I just
want to tell you that.
Can I just interrupt really quick? I know I'm like raised Catholic, but I'm not going to X out any
other Christian type people. I think we're under one big umbrella, same book kind of stuff.
And so I just want to make that clear.
Yes, of course. Great. All right. And we do have lots of Catholics in our community and, and
people that are, you know, Protestant Catholics, people that go to mass because they grew up
that way, but then they also dabble in some spirit kind of charismatic communities. There's a
lot of stuff going on in this community. There's a lot of hybrid. Okay. So let's see. So Greg
has a job that he said is boring or just kind of like not exciting or whatever. And then, and
then Abram has a job that he, you know, sounds like he's really passionate about. Where do you
guys see yourself professionally? You know, in the next, in the next few years, Greg, you're
59. So is this where you're going to retire? Is that your plan? You know, or, and, or is there
something that you're passionate about that you would really like to do for a living that you're
not doing now? Either question.
For me, I'm kind of in the coasting mode. This time of my life, looking forward to, you know,
either not basically not working harder, but you know, there, there's definitely a lot of
things, even career wise that, that would be more interesting and more, you know, drive me more, but
I'm, you know, kind of worked hard to get where I'm at and be not ready to step away from it at the
moment. But, but yeah, just definitely, you know, definitely, you know, would stay involved in some
sort of my background was actually, or my degrees in electrical, electrical engineering, design
engineering, and kind of drifted into it, and then it security, but um, but yeah, just I'm very
hands on very, you know, like to tinker do it yourself or, you know, build houses, you know, not
build houses, but, you know, DIY projects or whatever around the house, you know, not pretty
much not afraid of anything like that. So that's, that's where I get my fun. If my job's boring, I
definitely tear something up.
Ah, he likes to renovate y'all. He'll tear something up so that he can put it back together again. I
like it. What about you, Abram? Like what, what are you, what are you passionate about? You're
passionate about people and serving people. I love that. Um, but, uh, what would you want to own your
own restaurant? I mean, like, what do you got? What do you got? What do you want to do?
So the last couple of years, um, I'm pretty frugal. I'm not a cheapskate. I just pinch pennies here so
I could spend money other places that I want, but I've been saving my money up and I've been slowly
accumulating, um, equipment and just knowledge on, um, opening up a little, uh, pizza truck. Um, I
don't know if you guys are familiar with Fresno, California, but just the West coast in general, not
a lot of good pizza out here. I don't know if anyone is familiar with Dave Portnoy and the, uh,
one bite, everybody knows the rules in martial sports, but anyways, um, yeah, I think that there's
some room in this town. We're like a big, we're like still a small, big town, but, um,
There's some room for some pizza game, um, in this town.
And, um, I think a truck's a start.
I don't know if I want to get into the alcohol business, even though it's good
money, but we'll see what happens.
But I think, uh, just some pizza here.
Um, I could do some damage and, uh, healthy pizza, healthy pizza, you know?
So you're, you're a, you're a, um, entrepreneur, you're an entrepreneur and
pizza, you're seeing the need, you're seeing the space that you could fill.
And so I love that.
Um, you guys, that's fun.
Okay.
Um, all right.
So we're going to wrap it up.
We are at eight 24.
And so both of these guys, awesome guys, both of them have been around the
community for a little while now.
I've gotten to know both of them.
I've had one-on-one conversations with both of them.
Um, and, um, both of them are in our men's community.
And so, uh, please, if you want to meet either one of them, let us know
before we sign off guys, just like we asked, uh, Mike at the end, we're
going to ask you, what would you say that you're looking for in a partner?
You know, yourself, you've been around for 39 years, been around for 58 years.
You know, yourself, what do you think it is that you need in your other half?
Let us know.
We want to know.
Describe her to us.
And then ladies, if you fit that, then you can email us.
If you don't fit that don't email us.
All right.
Okay.
I guess a big question.
Go ahead.
It's a big one.
Yeah, um, definitely.
Physically wise.
Um, we'll start there.
Um, no, I definitely like to keep staying in shape and exercise
and be active hiking, anything.
Um, love the outdoors.
So definitely some, you know, obviously you don't have to do everything together,
but, um, you know, somebody that likes to be active and, um, and as far as
spiritually, um, I feel, you know, being on divorce and, and kind of feel like
I made a, or learned from the previous, you know, relationship I was in.
I think somebody who is more on my same, on the same page as me as far
spiritually worship style, um, you know, just enjoys being involved in church,
being, you know, going on mission trips, things like that, um, uh, volunteer
and, um, you know, in church.
Um, I think that's definitely important and, and definitely
just, you know, enjoys being around people.
I'm, um, I saw the question earlier.
I'm more of a, a, um, more reserved, not, not extremely outgoing, especially
in a new group or a large group.
Um, I can, I can, you know, in a small group, you probably asked
me to not talk so much, but, but, um, I'm definitely more reserved upfront.
So, um, you know, somebody that is also not reserved, you know,
would, would, would be a good thing.
Just, um, I'm not afraid of, um, you know, somebody that's, you
know, a little more chatty than me.
That's all right.
So, um, so yeah.
Um, I think that's, that's about it.
Definitely, you know, I don't know.
All right.
That's so good guys.
Just to recap someone who's active, you know, uh, Greg is 58 years
old and you don't look like that when you're 58 years old, unless you
take real good care of yourself.
All right.
I'm going to tell you because I'm hitting 50 and stuff starts breaking all
the warranties started getting called in.
Okay.
And so he is in shape.
He works at being in shape by playing sports.
He, he named all the things he likes to do by being outside outdoors,
being active, but also probably eating.
Somewhat right.
And, uh, and looking after himself.
Well, all right.
So he wants that in a woman.
He wants you to want to be active, want to be outdoors.
Want to, you know, do things once again, not everything together,
but someone who has that mindset.
And then spiritually someone who loves worship, someone who
loves bass guitar, right?
No, somebody who loves worship, church missions, trips, volunteering,
just serving others, loving God, serving others.
And then somebody who's a little bit more outgoing.
If you're really, really shy, it doesn't mean that we're going to ask you off,
but you know, he can be a little bit more shy, a little bit more introverted
until you really get to know him.
And so he needs a social director.
All right, ladies.
So he needs someone who's going to help him to connect with others.
And so if you fit that, all right, take good care of yourself.
You don't have any small children.
All right.
Because Greg has raised his kids and, um, and you're ready to,
you heard his lifestyle.
He likes to travel every time he gets a chance.
All right.
He likes to tear up stuff, DIY stuff, rebuild stuff.
If any, and all of this stuff sounds like you then put Greg's name.
Don't forget the second G in the subject line and email us so that
we can make a connection for you.
All right, Abram, it's your turn.
What do you got?
All right.
So, um, I think generally speaking.
I would just love someone that is
Like feminine and what I mean by that it's just like kind
You know, I can be pretty rough. So I need some balance there
You know, I could be a little
Not as empathetic sometimes because I'm a little like, you know, well, you know do something about it, you know
But I would love someone kind feminine
nurturing wants a family
You know, if you like to do DIY projects too, I love that stuff too, you know, I
Am super health conscious when it just comes to what kind of food I eat
Like I'm that weirdo in the aisle that I'm like, I'll pick up a box. So I'll read the ingredients
I'm like shit, you know, it's no good put it back on the shelf guy. Sorry about that
you know, I
Am conservative as well when it comes to the voting and stuff. I'm not gonna beat around the bush on that
Kind of more old-school values, you know
I'm not saying that you have to wash the dishes and I have to mow the lawn, you know
I'll help you wash the dishes. No big deal. Not a problem
So, yeah, I think someone that's active as well, you know anytime you want to go to the mountains
I'm down you want to go on a day trip somewhere? I'm down
Like I said, I don't go don't go too many places I try to stay home and I am content with that stuff
I'm a happy dude, but it'd be nice to go places
Do things with each other?
But I don't want to get it
I don't want to get it confused spending money to me is not gonna make me happy
Spending time with people that I care about that makes me happy and I have this little rule of thumb where it's the
It's the F's are my priorities. It's faith family friends food
These are my things
Dinner parties love them. I'll cook all the food. Don't worry about that
Yeah, there's a whole lot to go over here but that's kind of short long story short I
Love it. That's all great faith family food you guys this is great faith family friends food. These are the wonderful F's
I love those
Abrams also an entrepreneur. So if you have an adventurous type of personality
He likes to stay active go to the mountains go on a day trip, you know, just be spontaneous
As you can tell he has a positive personality. So if you're melancholy, this is not gonna be the right match for you
Look, there's a place for melancholy people doesn't mean you're negative. Maybe you're just melancholy
All right, but if that's you this wouldn't be the right match for you. He's looking for his
For his spirit mate for his complimentary opposite
So he wants a kind soft kind of gentle woman and not not a pushover
But if you're like a strong tell it like it is, you know, just that's probably not gonna be the right match for you
Okay
Italian as you can see, I'm sure he has a lot of strong women in his family. And so
He likes strong women, but at the same time maybe doesn't want to marry someone who's just like his mom
DIY
Likes to do that stuff likes to get his hands dirty
If you're the bougie chick that needs status symbols in your brands and a dog in your purse
It's probably not the right match for you. Okay. All right. Happy dude, Abram. Love it wants a family
definitely wants a family and so right at that millennial age of
family and
Creating family you guys you're both awesome. I love it
Thank you so much guys for being with us tonight
And if you want to meet Abram you feel like you match this profile you like him you like
His genuineness and his transparency put his name a bram. Is it short for Abraham or just Abram?
So I just tell people that if they know the story that I'm Abram and I'm turning into Abraham
So it's actually just a broom. Oh
My gosh, I love that so much. Yeah, that's so great. Okay, you guys he just got prophetic on us
All right, and so there you have it. That means that he wants a lot of kids. So get ready. Okay, just kidding
put his name in
In the subject line and you guys this is this is the end for our spirit mate match time tonight
I will be in touch with you guys with any matches and introductions. Thank you so much. Thanks everyone. See you soon. Bye everybody