All right. Awesome. So I would love for y'all to introduce yourselves and just say what
single city you represent. And once y'all are done with that, depending on what time
it is, we will kind of do some connection things until Jackie's able to log in. So who
wants to go first? Lacey, will you go first? Can I can I volunteer you?
Yes, I was going to come off mute. My name is Lacey Miller, and I'm single city moderator
for Colorado Springs. We just started in October, really. So well, actually, September. What month
are we in? I have no idea. Yeah. And y'all had your first event. Yes. Yeah. We had an event on
October 5th. Five people came there about, I guess, 19 people in our group. So I was pleased
with the outcome and people were really thankful to get together. Yeah. And we're going to see
that just continue to grow. I believe that I think there's a lot of good momentum there.
So thank you. Who is willing to go next? I can go next really fast before I get bombarded.
I'm Jackie Perry. I am from single city Nashville. And sorry, my kids are having a
Christmas party. They put the Christmas tree up and a whole bunch of kids are coming over.
But yes, and they've that group has been going on for a while. So I think there's like over 100
people on the Facebook group. But really getting together there. There hasn't been that many
consistent members. Yeah. And you just did. Okay, I forget what you called it. But I know
there was a red barn in the picture, Jacqueline. Okay, so yeah, so I just posted for Arrington
vineyards. They do like bluegrass music. So it's really pretty in the fall. And but we've done
pins mechanical night, which was, which is like an arcade place. Yeah, that's free arcade machines,
like old fashioned arcade things. And that was successful. And then we've done karaoke nights,
which that has been really successful. And what was the other one? Oh, yeah, we just did one at
the there's a place called the factory that is like an indoor food hall kind of thing. And that
was super successful. So so do you prefer to go by Jackie or Jacqueline? Just so I know I
saw my step in here. So no kids. I go by Jackie. Okay. I after I said it, I thought about that.
And then the arcade is so interesting. I just put this on the list for ideas for new moderators as
I'm doing training. Did the guys really come out for that? Like? Oh, yeah. Okay. So yes, we had,
I would say about probably like 50 to 60 people show up for that. Because it's and it's and it
was already busy there. That was like, I think that was the negative part of it. It was already
really packed out. And they don't let you reserve tables. And I was able to get there and get a
table put balloons up name tags. But the facility was so big. It's two stories. So on the bottom
four is the arcade game. They have like bowling and they have games like outdoor games. And then
the second floor was like, ski ball and Horn Hall. It's a huge and so I wouldn't ever do that one
again, because people got lost. And like if you didn't bring a friend, and then you got there a
little late, you couldn't you know, people were everywhere scattered everywhere. Great idea, though,
huh? It's a I've gone on several dates there. It's a great because it's free. It's all free. So that's
yeah, it's all free. Yeah. That's so cool. So good. Thank you so much for sharing. I know you
got kiddos there to appreciate coming on video and talking with us. Who is willing to go next?
I can go next. My name is Jill. I am one of the single city moderators in LA with Susan. I don't
know if Susan's on today. But yeah, we've had a couple events that Bethany came to. I think that
was the last time we did Bethany. Yeah, we need to get another one going there. Lots, lots of good
stuff coming. I think we have a couple ideas to come out and help you all out there. That event
was super fun that night. We all got together out there. Yeah, we What was that place called that?
The bar? It was like a bar somewhere in Orange County. Yeah, I can't remember the name of it.
But it was it was really nice. That was super fun. So that place had like people could get food at
all different kind of vendors. So you know, you could, everyone would get their needs met,
basically. And they did have live music, but we sat outside and just like, talked and we had a
great time. There was one guy, Michael Erickson came to that. And then Brian, of course, was there
too. But we just had a lot.
of fun. Sorry, Jackie's saying the link's not working for her. Give me one sec. If someone
else can go ahead and introduce yourself.
Hey, Bethany, it didn't really work for me directly either. I had to copy and paste it.
Really? So weird. Okay.
Can someone else, maybe Christelle, do you mind to introduce yourself?
Yeah. Hi, everyone. So Christelle Kincaid. I'm the moderator for Single City DC, Washington DC.
So we just launched and we had our first event the, I think it was a week ago. Yes. So we,
there were a few ladies who were traveling to DC for the Million Woman gathering. And so it was
really powerful. We, some of us sat together and we participated in the event. It was like from
9am to 7pm. So it was a full day of prayer and worship and hearing different testimonies. So
it was really powerful. And then we went, we went out for dinner. And that was really nice. And
there were about six people who participated and we have some other events coming up. We have some
ladies from the community who are going to be in town. They're going to be staying with me. So I
decided to just do like a informal dinner with some of the ladies but hoping to do a hike in
November and then a Christmas themed event in December. So we're looking forward to that. And
I've recently met some guys who are interested in helping me brainstorm and be a part of it. So I'm
really excited about that. Yeah. Hi, they're just introducing themselves. So we're doing
introductions and then just sharing a little bit about an event they had recently or awesome.
Hi, ladies. Sorry. I couldn't get in from the messenger. I don't know if anyone else had that
problem. But I don't know why that happened. So I apologize, y'all. So. All right. Awesome. Okay,
well, let's finish the introductions until we're finished. And then we'll we'll just I don't want
to keep you guys too long as have a couple things to share like vision of where we're headed here
and then answer any questions. Okay, so thanks for everyone for coming tonight. Looks like there's
nine or 10 of us here. So that's awesome. My name is Kelly. I'm representing Jacksonville,
Florida. It recently started. And we did an escape room where we had several people.
And it was really fun. A couple of us went out to St. Augustine today. It wasn't an official event.
But I plan on I did it earlier with earlier this year in St. Augustine and a trolley ride.
And it was super fun with a lot of people from Jacksonville. And I'm excited about hearing some
of the other ideas that people have to. So I'm excited to be here tonight.
Awesome. So Maggie and Mr. Last two, if y'all want to just introduce yourselves and say which
single city you're representing. And Maggie has just been traveling. So she might want to share
something different. But we're just sharing a recent event or you can share your favorite
event that happened in your single city if you prefer.
Emma, if you want to go ahead, I'm still trying to log in. I'm on my phone right now.
So I'm trying to log in on my laptop. I've been having some problems. So
if you give me a few more minutes, please. Yeah, and I'm driving. So I'll join in a sec.
Okay. So do you want to go ahead and go, Jackie? And then we can have them do their
introductions in a little bit. Sure. Sounds great. All right. So thanks,
everyone for coming. Looks like we have Christelle and Lacey and Jill and Maggie and Jacqueline,
Kelly and Emma, and of course, Bethany. And so we are going to have a meeting on Wednesday with
the rest of the single city moderators. We didn't want to really have anyone listen and replay for
this. We wanted to try to be live. Although you are recording this, right? Yeah, I'm recording
if we have some new moderators that are going to be coming on in the next like few weeks. So
okay. Awesome. Okay. So before we get started, let's just pray. Father God, we're so thankful.
We're so thankful for all of the kingdom expansion that's happening in the earth right now and
in every place, in every sphere, in every Metron. We are so thankful.
and we're full of gratitude and honor to be part of the revival of marriage and family
and all that you're doing that pertains to the original design of men and women,
the reparations between the genders and sexes, the restoration, Malachi, of fathers and sons
and sons and daughters and mothers and children. Lord, we thank you God that we are part of all
of those things and we ask God that you continue to give us the resources and the wisdom,
the revelation, the ability, the connectivity to finish this work that you've assigned us.
Thank you for all of those that have partnered with us and have locked arms with us in this
assignment and thank you for the grace upon us all in Jesus name, amen. All right, so I've been
praying a lot about this, so raise your hand if you are, have you been with us circa 21 or 20.
If you've been in this community since then. So Bethany who's married,
Erin Joy is part of the OG club there. All right, Jill had her hand up I think and she should
because she is and then Emma and I felt like, oh yeah, Maggie. All right, so a lot of the women
actually in this little group right here have been with us since the beginning and that's exciting
and we're so glad that you have decided to stick in with us for this long of a period of time that
you believe in what God is doing here and you've seen it with your own eyes. Those of you that
raised your hand, raise your hand again if you have seen God's power and his grace move through
this movement. You might not be married yet but you've seen all kinds of other transformations
happen in the lives of your sisters that were in the program with you and in your life as well.
And so yeah, all hands are up because it's true. We cannot deny the supernatural grace upon this
and you guys, I will tell you, I just have to be honest at the beginning here, I just want to say
this that prior to 2020, prior to March of 2020, which is when I put out my first Facebook post
on my own personal Facebook saying, hey, I'm launching this thing called Married in 12 Months
or Less. If you want to be married, hit me up. And I think 30 or 40 women that are just in my
sphere of influence, people that were following me on Facebook, people that were friends of friends
or whatever, prior to that, my matchmaking endeavors were completely personal. I helped 15,
actually, I think it's 17 of my friends. We counted a couple more that we forgot about
get married over the course of my life. And that does not include all of the friends that I helped
not get divorced or get divorced. I've always been involved in people's love lives. I've always been
over-involved. Let me use the word over-involved in people's love lives. I'm that friend and I've
always been that friend. And so I knew that I had a gift in this area. My mom said that I was
talking about these kinds of subjects all the way back to her second marriage when I was probably
about seven or eight years old, weighing in on, hey, I don't think that's a great guy. I don't
think that you should see him. Weighing in on other people around her that were in our community,
her friends saying, yeah, I think that that person's abusive. And then that person having
to be rescued from an abusive marriage. I had a discernment. I just had a gift for it.
So prior to 2020, it was just completely a personal gift. And I want to tell you that I
never, it never crossed my mind. It's really important that I say this. It never crossed my
mind to make this into any kind of ministry or business tree ever, ever. Okay. So this is
completely a God idea completely. So when I left my mother's hospital room, when she passed away
and I went back to Texas and I sat in my office surrounded by heart workshop, because that is what
I was teaching at the time. To everyone, not, not single people, obviously. I just told the
Lord, I was like, you know, I don't really feel like I want to do this anymore. I'm not really
sure what the shift is, but I know that I'm shifting. And that is when the entire idea
and the curriculum for the idea were downloaded to me. Okay. And so it was completely supernatural.
I threw it against the wall to see if it would stick with what I just told you, the Facebook post
to my private Facebook audience, the people that have friended me on Facebook, not public Facebook,
but private Facebook. And within six months of that first post, we had our first marriage.
We had our first marriage with those, those people that joined the 30 to 40 people that
joined from the very beginning within six months.
by January, so March is when I soft launched it.
October is when I hard launched it, okay?
So March, I think that I may have done a couple classes,
maybe March, maybe May or June, I can't even remember,
because that's how informal it was.
Just trying out some of the curriculum
that I was feeling from heaven,
trying out some of the things.
You guys, you know how your Facebook memories pop up?
You'll see what you've been posting on Facebook
over the years on that specific day.
Who looks at their Facebook memories?
You really should, because it'll show you,
number one, how far you've come.
That's really important, and number two,
it'll show you what you were talking about
or thinking about back then.
And I will tell you, from the time that I joined Facebook,
and I was an early adopter,
because you guys know my background is television
and media consulting, and so I got on Facebook,
I think in like 2008, as soon as it was available
for people that were not in college, maybe 2007,
I was on Facebook, okay?
And so I will have memories, and I was on Facebook a lot.
I posted a lot, I did a lot of ministry on Facebook
back in the day, and I will tell you,
I have been talking about this far longer than 2020.
Like, I will get posts from 2007, eight, nine,
about, hey, you know, fixer-uppers are for houses,
not spouses, you know, like,
I have been saying this stuff for decades, okay?
And so the reason why I'm saying that
is because when we hard-launched,
when I wasn't just kind of toying with the idea,
but I was like, okay, yeah,
I really feel like God is on this,
this is really a God thing,
I've tested out the word that God gave me in March of 2020,
I see the fruit of this word,
I see people getting transformed,
I see people getting into relationships,
I'm gonna go ahead and hard-launch this.
In October, I ran my one and only ad.
I did not start running ads again until last year, 2023.
So I ran my one and only ad,
and the whole thing just exploded.
And some of y'all came in from that ad,
Bethany, she came in from that,
and so it was powerful, you guys,
what God was doing, and it kept growing.
And from the very beginning,
if you're a new person to us, you need to know,
from the very beginning, we established a prayer covering,
and we also established a heavenly portal.
I am an intercessor, that is what I do,
that is my primary gift or ministry in the kingdom,
is to be an intercessor,
and everything that we see happening here
is as a result of prayer and intercession,
and not just from the last four years,
but from the last 28 years, okay?
And that's where I come in on the scene,
the last 28 years, but in beyond,
whoever came before me, whoever's been sowing into it,
I'm not talking about singles,
I'm talking about this movement,
this movement right here, nothing else, okay?
There's obviously all kinds of people out there
that care about singles.
I do believe that God has given us
a very supernatural portion,
and we have more success stories
than any singles movement that exists right now,
more success stories than any singles movement that exists.
And I know a lot of them.
I've become friends and acquainted with some of them
over the years, and we've been offered to lock arms
and do some cross-pollination,
which we may actually do, I don't know if we will or not,
and I'm gonna explain why in just a second.
And so I have tried my best for the last four years,
it'll be five this coming October,
March if you wanna count the soft launch,
I have tried my best to keep on assignment
of what I felt like God told us to do.
And you guys, that's really difficult.
It's very difficult, and so that's why I wanted
to gather you guys here, because it's difficult
to stay on assignment, because there's so many things
that you could do, right?
There's so many things that we could do.
There's so many needs that people have,
and you guys, this is how megachurches are created.
Someone gets an assignment from the Lord
for a certain region, a certain area,
they go in there, they plant a church pretty soon
because they have a charismatic personality
or they have good things to say,
or people are just drawn because of the sheer grace
on the assignment, that starts happening.
And then if you get the right people on the seats
on the bus, pretty soon it's big and it's like a wildfire,
but then that presents people coming,
and those people all have issues, don't they?
They have problems that need solved, don't they?
There's all kinds of people in that quote-unquote harvest
that come in, and they got issues.
Their dog is sick, they got single mama issues,
single daddy issues, they have financial issues,
they have transportation issues,
they have all these issues.
And what happens is, is that someone tries to meet that
within an organization.
And this is how Church Incorporated gets started,
in my opinion, Church Inc.
Is where you have this church and you wanna meet the needs
of all the people that come, oh, well, we have childcare
and we have this and we have this.
And that's how a megachurch is birthed.
And you know what happens in megachurch?
People feel unseen and unknown, right?
People feel disconnected in those big, huge honking cities
that we call churches.
And I don't wanna do that.
Ever since the beginning, we've had all kinds of people come
and guess what?
They had 99 problems and being single ain't one.
Right, they think that's the one, they've come,
but their problem was not their problem.
They're like, I'm single.
And then you kind of look under the hood and you're like,
oh baby, you don't even got an engine under here.
It ain't what you think it is, all right?
But then what happens is,
is that the natural ministry kind of mindset,
then we wanna kind of meet all those needs, don't we?
And the good thing is, is that we've always had
the hard work kind of to back us up.
You know, we are Jehovah sneaky in the way
that we bring people here to show them
that what they think they need is not really what they want,
it's not really what they really need
so that we can help them to surrender
to what God knows they need.
And we've had a lot of success at that.
But it has been very tempting
to run off in a million different directions
to try to meet the needs of the people
is all that I'm trying to say.
Does everyone get where I'm going here?
It's very tempting to begin to do all kinds of things
that God did not tell us to do.
And you know what happens when that happens?
It gets really convoluted
and then you have to start pruning and cutting things off
and maybe two or three or 10 or 15 or 25 people
really liked that thing and they got used to it
and now you're chopping it off
because God never told you to do it in the first place
and you don't have the staff to cover it
or the volunteer power to implement it
and then it's just a mess
and we've tried to stay away from that as much as possible.
So that brings us to single cities.
So from the very beginning, like I said,
we had implemented a prayer covering.
You guys, at the very beginning,
I led all the prayer times because I didn't have,
I didn't know who my prayer leaders were yet
because I didn't know the people that I was leading yet.
But pretty soon God began to highlight
that we had people that could lead prayer,
that knew how to lead others in prayer
and so before too long,
I'd say within the first six months from October 2020 on,
the first six months of that official launch,
we had prayer leaders.
I know it's hard to believe,
but in the beginning of this movement,
I used to do one-on-ones with all the students,
every one of them, every one of them.
We used Marco Polo, we had sister squads,
we had, you guys, we had so much connectivity
at the beginning that I'm sure that a lot of people
that were there at the beginning
kind of maybe a little resentful of how big we've grown
because they're like, man, I liked it in the old days,
right, when it was just us
and we had a lot more time and attention and all the,
you know, because that's what happens.
But growth is a good thing as long as once again,
we're not growing in a million different directions
that God didn't tell us to grow in.
So the way that you combat trying to grow
and trying to diversify to a place
where nothing's powerful anymore
because it's all too diluted
is by partnering with other organizations
or business trees or ministries
that do what you are not mandated to do.
Does that make sense?
Like that's their assignment.
It's not your assignment.
Your people need that service, but it's not your assignment.
So instead of you trying to fulfill that assignment,
you can just partner with someone
who that is their assignment, right?
And so I want to announce to you,
this is a little bit of a vision casting,
but we're gonna have a forum,
a little town hall here in just a couple minutes.
I want to vision cast to you that in 2025,
kind of our fifth year of being alive,
we've gone through a lot of pivots,
including a brand change from married in 12 months or less
to last year single.
And that has to do with me
ending my former radio business partnership
and going on my own in mid 2022
because I never should have gotten
into that business partnership in the first place.
I was naive, that's fine, but I'm thankful
because a lot of people came in through the radio airwaves
and their lives have been completely transformed.
So has their lineage and their legacy.
It was very hard on me, about killed me y'all, honestly.
The stress from that, I had so much autoimmune situations,
I had so much sickness from the stress of that partnership,
but we're out of it now
and a lot of people's lives have been changed,
but guess what?
I'm not getting into another one of those.
I learned my lesson.
I learned it the hard way.
And we've learned a lot of things the hard way
during these pivots.
So the brand change to last year's single,
which I prefer, I like it so much better.
I still do have that forefront Simon & Schuster book
out there, Married in 12 Months or Less,
which you guys, I wanna talk about that
in this little forum,
because there's some things we can do with that.
So it's time to pivot again,
and I believe that the new vision for this year,
it started a little bit this year, you guys,
God's so kind to allow us to have a little bit
of a beta launch in 2024.
We went on one last trip single.
You guys know that's a new brand of ours, last trip single.
We wanna gather people for vacations and retreats
and conferences.
And we were able to do a couple things
under that banner this year,
most notably a international trip to Cartagena, Colombia,
which was phenomenally successful.
The news came, we were able to launch in that country,
the whole movement,
and we were able to have a conference there,
and then plus a retreat for our ladies,
which was just really powerful.
But this coming year in 2025,
so God gave me this,
he gave me this word last year, this year in 2024,
but it's carrying over to 2025.
And that is the year of,
you can write this down,
because this is going to be the assignment
of all of the things that are connected
to what we do here.
This is the year of in-person.
I'm thankful for technology.
Technology is wonderful.
I'm glad that we can pray with each other all over the world
and there is no distance in the spirit.
There's no distance in the spirit.
But people need in-person community.
They need people that they can hug and not virtually.
The best that you can do over online is poke each other,
and we don't want to poke each other.
That's weird.
Who even came up with that?
That's the weirdest thing in the world.
So we want to be able to go to coffee.
We want to be able to show up at each other's houses
to dog sit or baby sit,
because there's an emergency.
We want to be able to feel supported in person.
We want to be able to invite people to come
to something that's honoring us.
We're getting an award,
some sort of celebration, right?
We want, we have to have this.
And so we want to begin to,
we want to begin to continue,
we want to continue to give people
the life transforming information.
And we are going to be changing up our curriculum.
Bethany, you don't know about this yet.
So I'm going to, I'm not going to announce that here.
Bethany is going to say,
Jenny, you guys, I just want to let you know,
it's hard to work with me.
Okay?
Because everything's changing.com.
All right?
That's what a visionary kind of mind does.
I have a thousand good ideas before breakfast
and weeding out the good ideas to get to the God ideas.
Sometimes, sometimes it's not that easy,
but I will tell you that I put a lot of prayer into this,
including this morning before this meeting,
just really praying.
And I have some scripture.
Here's my Bible to show you that I really,
I really know that God is telling us to do this, you guys.
And he's actually even put in some,
if you, if you will, I will kind of ideas in my heart.
If you will do this, then I will do that.
Okay?
And so that's exciting.
I love it when God attaches the promise to our obedience.
Isn't that fun?
That's always great.
So I would like to see, you know,
we stopped counting because we lost count,
but Bethany and I are trying to put together
a little project right now,
where we actually count all of the engagements
and marriages, you guys.
We don't have time to count all of the people
that are in a successful courtship right now,
they're like in the marriage funnel.
We'll count them once they get engaged
because then we'll know,
because they'll give us the engagement announcement.
But we lost track after 850-ish.
All right?
So we're trying to gather it all up and get to it.
My guess is it's between 850 and a thousand somewhere.
Guys, in four years, what in the world?
October is four years right now.
It's crazy.
It's crazy time.
It's good.
I love it.
I want to tell you that I believe next year in 2025,
we quadruple that number in one year,
in one year with this new,
the year of in-person, in-person.
Okay?
So I want to give you guys a little history of Single City.
We launched them really early.
They were called all different types of things.
We settled on Single City
because we were going to do something.
We scrapped that idea with single nation and single cities.
Now that we have spirit mate match,
we don't need to do that anymore anyway.
So it doesn't matter.
But the Single Cities were birthed
because people do want in-person community
and people, especially the women,
they wanted to hang out with each other.
They wanted to know who lives in my city,
who lives in proximity to me,
who can I get together with?
Because women are communal.
and not so much.
Okay, I'm married to a man, y'all,
and he's hanging out and going golfing
with some dudes tomorrow,
and that's probably like the fifth time in 17 years
I've seen him go hang out with some guys.
All right, men are not that communal.
They're not.
Unless they have like a group of guys
that they grew up with that they're still friends with,
and usually that's not a good thing.
That's usually like boys' nights and video games
and you know, sports and the bars,
and you got a bunch of friends in that friend group
that are not married, but you're married,
and they're trying to get you to do things
that married people shouldn't do,
and it's not good.
Okay, so women wanted to gather,
so we didn't let them,
but we gave them a vehicle for it.
The single cities were born.
And they really did okay,
but then something started happening online.
The era of the scammer and the spammer began, right?
And you guys, can I tell you that I have a lot of friends
that own online brands.
So I have a lot of friends that own online brands,
business brands, wealth building brands,
you know, famous brands.
I'm not here to name drop.
I'm just saying I have friends that have huge communities,
and I will tell you,
all of them have had to shut down
and archive their Facebook groups
because of scammers and spammers.
And so when we saw that happening,
we started to put up membership questions.
We started to kind of put up some gates, right?
We started gatekeeping those groups
to make sure that no one was getting in those groups
that shouldn't be there.
And then we went through an era,
because you guys remember this, four years,
we went through several different little eras here.
We went through a season where our student body,
what they appreciated about our movement
was that there wasn't any randos in our movement.
They were like, yeah,
that's what I really hate about Christian dating apps.
That's what I hate about other Christian groups.
The people that are in those groups
are not really truly Christian.
They're not really truly single.
You know, there's people in there with nefarious motives.
You know, you're in there,
your guard is down and you meet someone,
and the next thing, you know,
they're trying to send you a dick pic.
I get it.
And so we also listened to that feedback
and we're like, okay,
if that offends you, then penis, penis pic.
Sorry, I'm from Cleveland.
I'm from Cleveland.
I don't know.
Okay, so it's all the same, right?
Okay, junk mail, junk, junk mail.
All right, there you go.
Okay, so we listened to our ladies,
especially our ladies,
and we're like, okay,
so now we're gonna gatekeep even harder
and we're not gonna let anyone come into this community,
these, you know, this extended community
that isn't a student.
And so then that was when the season or the era was born
where you couldn't join a single city
unless you were a student.
And I want to announce here today
that that era is now coming to an end.
I've been thinking about this for a long time
and then Jacqueline Perry,
one of our newer single city leaders,
she said some things about some events
that she was having in Nashville
that really confirmed to me that it's time for us
to open the single cities to all singles.
But I feel like God has given me an idea
of how we can keep the gatekeeping and the growth.
Gatekeeping and growth, how we can,
those two things can get married together,
gatekeeping and growth, okay?
So I'm gonna run this by you,
and once again, this is now a town hall,
the podium is open, the mic is open,
so give me your feedback,
but this is the idea that I have.
We have the ability to have three membership questions
and we also have the ability to employ Facebook AI, okay?
Our administrative assistant on these groups,
which means that we can set criteria
of which the assistant would approve or deny
requests to join these groups, okay?
What would you guys think about
for those of you that are having active events
and for those of you that are not,
you're gonna soon be,
because God's gonna help us to invest
not in the single city, but in you, the leader,
so that you can then begin to do
what you need to do in that area, okay?
And that includes all different types of resources,
including monetary resources behind an event
maybe that you want to throw, okay?
So we'll talk about that, that's a sidebar.
But right now, what would you guys think about
at those events, there'd be a QR code
that people could scan to get to the information
on our movement, but also on the single city
that's nearest them, which is your single city.
So they scan that QR code,
it would show them the stuff,
including the Facebook link to join.
If they join through that link,
there could be a little password,
a little referral code.
I want to call it a referral code.
One of the questions when they join that group is,
what's your referral code?
Then they type that in and then immediately,
the AI assistant on Facebook knows that if that's there,
then that person can get approved to join the group.
If you, a human moderator,
is looking through the requests
and approving them manually,
you also will know that if that word is there,
that safe word, that referral word,
then you can just go ahead and approve that person.
Because that means that, number one,
they got it from an existing member of our group.
We'll tell our members,
hey, don't give this out to just anyone.
We want to have high-quality singles in these groups.
Give it out to someone that you know is safe,
someone that you think is good of good moral character,
someone that you think is actually a Christian.
Hello?
Guys, there's all kinds of other dating groups
for people that are not Christians.
Let them go there.
Unless they have potential, they're a pre-believer,
and you think that being part of the group
because they have good morals
is actually going to tip them, be their tipping point,
then that's fine as well.
But they either got it through someone
who's in the group already, a member in good standing,
or they got it from an event that they came to.
And then, of course, you guys,
if you see anyone in your groups behaving badly,
one strike, they're out.
If they're behaving badly, just delete them.
You don't even have to.
There's certain things
that you don't even have to put up with
if you see it happening.
And if you think that somehow, accidentally,
some scammer got in,
it shouldn't be able to happen with membership questions.
Bots can't answer membership questions.
They don't have the technology for that yet.
So bots are not gonna answer membership questions
like sex bots and those types of chat bots
and different things.
But a scammer, someone who sees a singles group,
just like a singles dating app,
and they wanna get in there
because they wanna manipulate people,
you should be able to see that person pretty quickly,
and they wouldn't have the password.
You feel me?
Okay, that's important.
And you guys can have a little fresher
in your groups of telling people what to look for.
That's another thing that we can have happening
in the single cities is just some information,
some good information on how to be safe online.
We teach that in our movement,
but you also could have a little bit of that
there in the single city online groups
so that people know how to stay safe online.
Okay, so that's my first idea.
So we can grow, but also gatekeep.
So now that the floor is open, the mic is open,
what do y'all think about that?
Jackie, Bethany knows that I've been talking to her
about this for a while,
because I think it's a great way,
a segue to introduce singles to your program
through that Facebook community as well.
Especially if we're weeding people out,
like you were saying, we can also promote your program
on that Facebook page while we're meeting in person
as well as on that page.
So I think it's a great idea.
Right, and very soon, we've been redoing
and redoing and redoing the actual main site.
And there will be a lot of things that people can do
as far as one and done classes and webinars
on certain subjects like attachment styles
or online dating or boundaries or Enneagram personality,
complimentary opposite connections,
all different types of things that people can do
besides just take the last year single program.
So, all right, who else?
So that's good.
So Kelly's gives a thumb up on that.
Erin's got a thumb up.
I think it's a great idea
because what was happening at the events I was hosting,
there were so many people showing up.
Like one of them, there was 80 people that showed up.
And so they were asking questions.
I didn't have enough time to tell every single person
about the program at all.
Like I was like answering questions, getting name tags,
getting mixer cards.
And then they were like,
was there a Facebook group I can join?
But there was, they couldn't unless they're a member.
And then my friend Bev has a free one,
like it's called Your New Friend Group.
And she's like, just join mine and we'll keep you posted.
Well, her group grew from 100 people to 260 people
within the two events we hosted together.
And so I'm like, that's a huge amount of people
that could have like funneled through to,
you know what I mean?
And found out.
And so I think the QR code,
because also I found.
of the people were embarrassed, like they didn't want to talk about, you know, I mean,
if they had the QR code, they could see, you know, discreetly scan it and, and find out the
information instead of being like, let me hear all about it. Do you know what I mean? At the event?
And sure. And getting embarrassed, because there's like a stigma of like, you know, I don't,
you know, all that stuff. So anyways, I think it's a great idea. I'm excited.
So, so you guys know, obviously, you see that it was never about control, it was about quality
control. So, and the quality control is still really important to me, but I also don't want
to strangle the movement. Okay. And so that's where these scriptures come into play. You know,
in Acts chapter 15, you see that the new church, which was all Jews up until this point,
it started spreading to the Gentiles. And there was a lot of talk about what was that going to
look like? Because once again, quality control, right? Gentiles are pagans, they don't, you know,
they don't know, and they also don't follow Judaic law, or feasts, or, you know, the rituals and
stuff that the Jews did. And so like, what are we going to do? Are we going to, are we going to
prioritize, like being purists of having things kind of go the way that we want them to? Or are
we going to prioritize movement or momentum? And so I want to prioritize momentum. You know, I mean,
is it a possibility that, you know, someone's going to end up, you know, going out with someone
who's not really a Christian, and they met them through our page or whatever? Yeah, but you know
what, there comes a certain point in time when people just have to be grownups and deal with
it themselves. Can't keep everyone safe. We have to, we can give people the teaching on how to stay
safe out there, and we definitely will do that. But then that, that's up to them, what they're
going to do after that. Is it a possibility that, you know, some other dating group is going to come
to one of our events and try to steal a bunch of people that are part of our, you know, part of our
thing? Yeah. And if they do that, then, you know, whatever, you know, hopefully those people get,
you know, some quality results. Oh, I forgot this. Early, not early, but about two years in,
someone came into our group. I don't know who they were, but they started dropping in the DMs
of all of the people in the group and like, asking them if they were happy in our group,
and if not, to join their group. And, and, you know, something else. I mean, it was just so stupid.
But at the same time, you know, if someone, if someone wants to give someone a chance like that,
that, you know, does something like that kind of thing, then, you know, that's on them.
So we can't worry about any of that stuff. And we're not going to, because we want momentum.
We want momentum. And, and so that's what we're going to do. And so that's what Acts chapter 15,
you guys can go read it yourself. It's called the Council at Jerusalem. It's where, you know,
all the Jewish leaders like Peter and all of them, Paul, they got together and they made the decision,
you know, are we going to cut off this wild branch pretty much into the Gentile world of,
of, you know, the kingdom, the gospel, or are we going to let it ride? And they decided to
let it ride. And I think tonight we're deciding to let it ride as well. And I'm excited about that.
We'll see what happens. We want to add value to people. We want to help people. I want to tell
you guys that there have been so many people that have really had success as far as their love lives
and they've met people and they've gotten into relationships. I just heard from a girl today.
She's been in a 10 month relationship and then she had to call it off because she just didn't
have the heart healing to go forward. And so that is kind of what we're here to do. Remember I said
at the beginning that there's a few things that God's mandated us to do. We're not here just to
make marriages. We're here to make marriages that last. Marriage is super hard, y'all. I thought
about putting out a book called Marriage is Hard. And then the tagline would be because your heart's
hard. No, I'm sorry. It wouldn't be called that, but it could be. All right. So, but at the same time
it is hard and it is hard to sustain relationship and there's just so many things just battling
against it everywhere all the time. And so our mandate is to help people to be able to connect
long-term and to support people as they connect long-term. And so you'll hear it here first.
We're going to announce it anyway. We have a premarital course, but we actually have a group
of married folks called Last Year's Single Marriage Group. It used to be called, you know,
something else. I don't remember. But we want to do life with people after they have success.
But mainly what we want to do is we want to give them community, not just online, but in person.
So some married couples might come to y'all's thing. People that met through this movement.
People that want to stay connected to the movement. People that want family.
family and they want, you know, couples hanging out with couples is good anyway.
And so, um, you need that.
You have to have that.
So also I don't think that your, your thing should just be for
marriage, should just be for singles.
I think it, listen to what I'm about to say.
I think it could be for couples too.
Not married singles, meaning like just the man or just the woman that's married
shows up, but couples that show up.
Okay.
Um, you don't just want some married man showing up or just some married
woman showing up without their spouse.
You want the couple to show up because you know, we don't want that anyway.
Um, can I just speak into that?
Actually, that's something I would appreciate if you could direct married
people, because they could keep an eye out too, for things that might be going,
you know, cause they have discernment and wisdom and they could help out maybe
in things that, you know, someone else might not see, is there any way of like
adding, I don't know, getting moderators to have like access to those married
couples that would be willing to come to events?
Yeah, no.
I mean, I'm saying that those single cities, you know, there are some
married people that are still in those single cities that have never left, but
I'm just saying those people would be able to come to those events because you
guys, the first and foremost thing is family and community is what we're
trying to foster by single city.
It's not just a matchmaking group.
Right.
Now that brings me to the next thing, microphones open.
What I want to use spirit mate match technology for right now is I want to
use it, or I should say immediately what I want to use it for is to
curate events for your regions.
Okay.
So people would be invited to come to an event, using the spirit mate match
technology to do a sync, like a dating shuffle or a, I personally, as the
matchmaker, I like, I don't like one-on-one.
Okay.
I don't like, that's why I don't like speed dating.
I don't like just one person talking to one person.
I like the idea of, you know, three guys and five girls talking that are all
matched by the spirit mate match app.
And no one knows who's matched with who or what in what, you know, in what
order, but they're at the, they're at the same table with each other.
Right.
I like that.
I like, you know, maybe one couple being assigned to one-on-one going over here
and doing this kind of activity together while the group stays together over here.
Or there's two, you know, three girls and two guys that go over here and do this.
I've asked, to me, that's what a single shuffle should look like.
It's shuffling the people that are at the event around and getting
them in different scenarios.
So, um, what we could do is, you know, we could create all the cards for that
using single mate, single, uh, spirit mate match.
And then when they get there, they can pull out their cards and very random,
they can pull out their cards.
And then during the course of the night, it can just basically say at eight
o'clock, you know, you need to be in the green room or you need to be like, so
it assigns them to different places.
And when they get there, there's different things to do with different
groups of people at the party.
Makes sense.
And what does this do?
This is allowed.
There's to be no pressure on, Oh, the algorithm said that this person's my
match.
And so I'm pressured now to feel something or not feel something for them.
No.
What happens then is you get to experience everybody at that party, not
really knowing who your match was supposed to be, or who are your two or
three matches were.
And then at the end of the night, you get to kind of write down who you
felt the most connected to.
Right.
So you can either ask those people for their phone numbers.
You know, we're not going to keep anyone from connecting at the event, but you
could also, if you're too shy to do that, you could write those things down.
We can have like a last card and they can write the things down and then they
could put it in the, you know, in the thing.
And then the moderator of that single city or the host of that event at the end
of the night could go through those cards and see if there's any matches of who
wants to meet who fun.
Fun.
I like to have fun and that sounds fun to me.
And that way no one feels pressured to, you know, fall in love with whoever the
computer said they should like.
So, um, so anyway, just things like that.
We want to do those in your regions.
Um, we do like the idea of you partnering with, um, you know, other
singles groups in the regions.
Um, if it's our event, we, we definitely should get the marketing
precedent for the list.
Okay.
If it's their event and we're just partnering, then they can have a list.
But if it's our event and we're partnering, we're allowing them to invite
their people to come.
Then if people fill out something, it should be our thing.
Okay.
If they want to join that other thing too, they can, but as far as at the
registration table or whatever, our stuff should be there for the
main sponsor of the event.
Makes sense.
That's just the way that.
work. Okay. And then churches. Do you want to touch on too, though, with the singles
groups like that? We don't want them to be singles groups that have dating coaching,
or we don't want them to be doing any of the same stuff we're doing. So there, I don't
think anybody is. Well, part of dating in Nashville, you know, I, I know them and we're
probably going to have a joint event with them soon. Um, but you know, that's, that's
definitely a younger crowd. That's definitely more geared towards millennials. Um, do you
guys know that we are the number one Christian, um, you know, Christian single place for,
uh, our age group for Gen X and above. I mean, no offense to any of y'all, but all of you
that are like over 40, people don't care about you being single. They're not trying to help.
Okay. And things get weirder and weirder when you're older and single as far as meeting
people. And that's why we really, we got to make sure that we're going after this demographic
because there are a lot of single people that are over 40. They're Christian. Um, so, so
yes, Bethany makes a good point. We don't want to partner with any other businesses.
Okay. That being said, we do want to partner with churches and some churches kind of are
like businesses. Um, but a lot of churches do not have anything, especially for their
singles over 30. They have a young adults group that goes up to 30 years old and then
that's all they have. And so you guys, we can put together marketing materials for the
churches in your area. If you want to go talk to those churches, if you want me to fly in
and talk to those churches, if we want to make a presentation to those churches, I also
Bethany and I are working on curriculum that churches can have to teach their singles.
You know, if people, if people want to believe, you know what it is that we teach about how,
you know, this is divine design. A lot of churches really like to downplay divine design
as far as marriage is concerned with their older singles. Cause I think they don't have
faith that it's going to happen for them and they don't want to give people's hopes up.
This is why a lot of churches, you're not allowed to prophesy dates, mates or babies.
Cause God forbid, God forbid that we tell someone that God has a husband for them or,
you know, that there's children in their future because hello, isn't that why we're here?
I mean, you don't even need God to tell you that you don't even need him to, it's in the
book of Genesis. It is divine design. It is the way we've been created. Now there's a
lot of things that get in the way of us really taking action on that. A lot of people don't
want babies unless they came from their own vagina. I get it. I get it. I have a vagina baby,
but I have two babies that did not come out of my own womb and I love them just as much.
So there's all different ways to be a mother, to be a father, to, you know,
but the people are just stuck in, no, I want it. I want it. It's about ego, right? You might be
like Jackie, that's easy for you to say because you have a, you know, a biological child. I
understand that, but I'm just going to tell you if I didn't have a biological child,
I'm a hundred percent sure I would still have kids. I'm a hundred percent sure. I'm just the
kind of person that would have kids. I have, I would have them somehow, some way, you know?
And so I think that it's time for us to understand that churches are afraid of disappointing people.
They don't want people to get disappointed. They don't want to be the person that said
the thing that didn't happen. But I'm here to tell you that if it doesn't happen,
I believe it's because we're in the way of it. And that is what our movement is about,
is helping people get out of the way of it. Get out of the way of you doing what God's
called you to do. And that is to be the divine feminine in the earth. Okay? To partner. You
guys, do you realize, not the divine masculine, yes, but the divine feminine has been created
specifically to partner. It's our natural DNA. Now, you've not been specifically created to
partner with 6-5, finance, blue eyes, trust fund. Okay? You got to get over it. And Maggie,
you can laugh all you want, but you have a very specific physical list of your dude.
You used to, maybe you don't anymore. But you guys, I understand we all want to feel
little and feminine. I get it. I understand. I really do. And I am very blessed by all of
the success story pictures I've been receiving of women in our movement that have been taking
me up on my challenge and marrying men that are either the same height as them or shorter than
them. I'm blessed by this as a girl that's married to a shorter man. Okay? So bottom line is, is that
if we can get churches to allow us to stoke the fires of hope of their singles, then we want to
do it. Right? And we want to give them, since they don't have their own ministry for singles,
we want to give them.
an outlet in that city for their singles to come to,
and that would be y'all's groups.
You guys, I don't care if you have a brunch
with four ladies, hey, one week,
and then the next week you have a, like Jacqueline said,
a party that 80 people
and another singles group partners with.
Anything is better than nothing.
Give people a reason to connect,
a reason to want to get together.
If you have a single city like Christelle,
that spans a whole bunch of different places.
By the way, we're gonna give you some help.
It looks like we're gonna start a Jersey single city.
Okay?
Also, I've been invited to do a singles conference
for a church in Jersey in March,
and singles groups from Boston, Massachusetts,
and Connecticut are coming down.
DC can come up, New York's gonna come over,
and so that'll be a really big deal, okay?
So we'll hopefully launch some,
maybe a Boston single city off of that.
Definitely Boston, we have quite a few people
in our group from there.
Baltimore could be another place that could end up at that
and could possibly have something launched
as a result of that.
Harrisburg, Pennsylvania's another place.
So anyway, I don't care if you have,
our biggest single cities, just so you guys know,
are Austin, Redding, California,
because I've been out there so often
and there's so many singles there.
Redding, I think Florida would be next.
I'm pretty sure Dallas is in the running
to be kind of the next biggest one.
Los Angeles, and of course Nashville.
I forgot to say Nashville.
Yeah, and you guys, we're also launching one in Arizona.
So Scottsdale, Phoenix, we're launching that as well.
So it doesn't matter how big or how small,
we just want you to start gathering people together.
And I'm gonna tell you right now,
if you start doing this, people will start sending,
God will start sending people.
He'll start sending people to your stuff.
He will.
Lonely people, people that can't find community,
people that are single, maybe even newly single,
people that are divorced or getting divorced, separated.
Let's talk about this real quick.
Can separated people come to your events?
I think so.
I mean, if you see someone, use your discernment,
if you see someone that you feel that you know
is still married and you think that they're just
trying to pick people up, then of course,
make sure that you kick them out of the single city
and don't invite them to anything more
because they obviously aren't healthy,
but they need friends, they need community
as they're going through probably one of the hardest times
in their lives, right?
What do you guys think?
I think they come, but I think it just would be
really healthy for us to set some boundaries
because what if the person that is separated,
I don't know, as a single person,
I think that would be tough if there was a guy
that was coming and then they start liking the person
that's separated and not even divorced yet.
But I don't know how we would police that, to be honest.
You know what I'm saying?
And that's, yeah, and that's kind of where I was at
at the beginning of this conversation.
I don't feel like we can police things anymore, y'all.
No, I mean-
People are just gonna have to make grownup decisions.
What if they're already filed for divorce?
Do what?
What if they're just in the process of divorce,
like they've already filed at least?
I mean, I don't even think we can split hairs.
I think that if someone comes and they have good behavior,
I mean, where they are personally with that,
I don't really think we need to worry about it.
What do you guys think?
Yeah, I mean, I'm gonna lean towards that
just from my perspective too,
because even when you were talking earlier,
you know, we're giving people dating and advice,
like not advice, but you're coaching people on stuff
and some people aren't listening to that already.
So the reality is, is that's already happening.
So-
Y'all, so many people are having sex.
It's not funny.
I'm just gonna let you know.
In our community,
so many people are still having sex with people they meet.
I mean, we can say it till we're blue in the face,
but at the end of the day,
we're all adults here and everyone has free will.
I was gonna say, like, I've had both experiences.
I went on a date with someone and they didn't disclose
they were not divorced yet.
They had just started the process.
And so, I mean, that was my fault for not asking
before I went on the date, right?
And if that was my conviction,
and then secondly, I met a guy at one of the mixers
who then ended up ending it with me
because he said that I was too close of a relationship
with God and he was an atheist,
but had told me he was a Christian.
Again.
that, you know, that's on me to know that.
I believe in the God defense system,
let them weed themselves out.
As long as we're healthy, y'all, like really healthy,
we're not anxiously attaching,
we're not trying to make a relationship
out of nothing at all.
And we are just, you know, have our eyes wide open,
praying before we meet up with these people
and go on these dates,
God will show you what you need to see.
He will.
And you guys, we wanna have lots,
we wanna have lots of materials for couples too,
people that are at the very beginning
of their dating relationship,
all the way to engagement in marriage,
because they are going to go into rough spots.
And I've seen so many people in this community
break up when they oughtn't have.
They really shouldn't have broke up,
but they just, both of them reached a place
where they did not have the tools to go forward.
And instead of getting the tools, they broke up.
So we wanna supply the tools
to keep people learning and growing together.
And then if it has to be a no someday, fine, it's a no,
but I've seen a lot of people
when it should have still been a yes, it became a no,
because they weren't leaning into community
and getting the tools.
Does that make sense?
So you guys, I want your single cities to be a place of,
I want it to be a tool belt too.
I want it to be a place where people can find tools,
where people can find tools, some free tools
and some tools that they're gonna have to pay for.
I do wanna let you guys know that we are toying around
about the idea of allowing people to join
some level of the movement just for the subscription
and not have to pay the down payment kind of thing.
Now that will still be there for certain courses
and classes and things,
because it's just not sustainable for us
because of the coaches and people that we have to pay.
But for just the subscription,
which can include all kinds of things,
including SpiritMate Match.
And so there is a possibility at these events
that you're having that people can go ahead
and just jump in at a very, very small monetary level
and get some really good perks.
So, all right, well, I'm excited
about all the single cities that we have.
We have several in Florida and that's another thing.
If you have several in the same place that you are,
get together with each other.
Have regional, have community events,
but then have regional events.
Partner with each other.
There's all kinds of different things that you can do.
We have Orlando and Tampa.
That's not even two hours away from each other.
And then Jacksonville's up there,
but there's different things that you guys can do
at least once a year and different things.
Oh, and also Last Trip Single is gonna be launching
to a greater degree in 2025,
because it's our in-person era.
And when I say in-person, you guys know that I won't mean,
I mean in-person, like people being in-person
with each other.
We will back you up in your single cities
by having retreats in the single cities
that have strong leadership.
So if you're strongly leading your area, your region,
and we wanna support you in leading it,
we don't wanna just leave you high and dry.
If you're doing that, then that region would be a place
where we could have a Last Trip Single.
Everyone, for instance, wants to come to Austin.
A lot of people wanna go to Nashville.
A lot of people wanna go to Florida.
A lot of people wanna go to New York.
There's other places on here that are being represented.
A lot of people wanna go to Southern Florida.
I did a conference in Boca Raton.
It's gorgeous there in Southern Florida.
A lot of people wanna go down there, Miami,
all those areas, Dallas.
Daisy's not on here.
You guys, I know that a lot of you have felt,
a lot of people wanna go to the Pacific Northwest.
It's gorgeous out there, okay?
Lacey, where are you a leader at?
Oh, Colorado.
Oh, everyone wants to go to Colorado Springs, come on.
Gonna get in the hot springs, gonna do the things.
LA, everyone wants to go to LA, right?
Raleigh, Charlotte, everyone wants to go to all these areas.
There's someone on here on a phone, phone number.
Where are you at?
Who's the phone, the green phone?
Who's the green phone?
Is it 503 area code?
Yeah, hi.
Hi, Emma from Pacific Northwest.
My Zoom isn't working the regular way.
All right, so everyone, Pacific Northwest,
Oregon, Washington, everyone wants to go there, for sure.
So there isn't a reason why we can't have retreats.
And you guys, your boots on the ground.
If you see a place, you're like,
man, this would be a great event.
All you have to do is let us know.
Hey, Jackie, can you invest financially
into us throwing an event at this place?
It'd be a great event.
But this is what the rental cost is.
We don't want to charge tickets.
We think that it would be a great,
if it's not a ticketed event.
Or you might be like, hey,
this would be a great ticketed event.
This is how much.
which I think we should charge for this.
But also we're gonna need, you know,
we're gonna need some sponsorship.
Can last year's single sponsor this single city event?
Yes, probably.
And also we can help you find people within the community
that can help volunteer and be part of that.
If you're like, hey Jackie, I'd love for you to come.
I'd love for you to come speak like my church.
I've been talking to my church about this
and I'd love for you to come meet my pastor.
I'd love for you to, you know,
come and talk to our singles group at our church,
you know, like just tell me
and if we can find out ahead of time,
you know, someone can come.
Possibly me, depending, I'm only one person.
I can't be everywhere at once, but I can try.
And I'm willing to try.
There are, some of you guys are in areas
where I have a lot of boots on the ground
as far as I have a lot of people
that I already partner with
that have different businesses and things.
LA is one of those places.
Nashville is one of those places.
New York is one of those places.
Florida, Tampa, Orlando, and Southern Florida.
I don't really have a lot of contacts in Jacksonville.
Those are all places, Pacific Northwest.
So I do have Colorado Springs in Colorado.
I've got a growing kind of following
with the Karis situation too.
And so yeah, let's do this.
I guess what I want you to do is what I'm trying to say,
guys, is I really need you to own your region.
I need you to believe that God put you in that region
so that you could, you know,
carry a piece of the grace of this movement
and make it explode there.
And we're not asking you to do it by yourself,
but we are asking you to pray, come up with some ideas,
get some vision for your region,
and then let us know how we can support
and sow into you and your single city.
Yeah, and I wanted to just say one of the things
that's just kind of coming up in my mind too,
it's really important for y'all to know,
like if you feel like you just don't have a lot of energy
in your single city area right now,
like we want to know that, like how we can help you.
Because I've noticed even we've gone
into a couple of groups recently
and just done like a new announcement,
like in asking people to interact.
And it just kind of has brought a little bit of life
back into the group.
And so we're trying to figure out ways to stir that up.
And even as Jackie's talking tonight,
I mean, this isn't anything I've run by Jackie,
but I think it's gonna be important for us
to come up with like a game plan
of how often we put content from last year's single
or stuff from our movement into those pages
to kind of spark some conversation.
But we can talk about that kind of stuff,
like what do you all need so that people are excited
to come to the events,
but also to catch that bigger vision of what God is doing,
like in your lives,
because you all are the ones there,
but also in the movement as a whole.
And you guys right away,
you need to all post a picture of yourself in a short bio,
introducing yourself as the single city leader
of your single city and pin it to the top of your page.
Yeah. Okay?
Gotta pin that.
So take a cute picture of yourself that you have,
post it with a little bio of who you are,
and you don't have to tell people
exactly where you live and stuff.
Cause you know, like, remember,
we're opening these groups up to anyone
who has the password.
I have a quick question.
Something that had worked before
was when we had the women's directory
and the men's directory.
And there was a lot of participation with that,
with introducing themselves.
Are we going to be doing that again?
We only ever had that in single nation.
Several years ago, it was in the single cities as well.
It was in several of the single cities, Jackie,
but that was one of my,
we need to chat about whether we want to continue that
or not.
And if so, like how we want to kind of carry that out.
I would love for you guys to focus on your single cities
being about community and not matchmaking.
So just, you know, about community.
I'm gonna, there were some issues
with the men's and women's directories.
And that's what Bethany is alluding to right now.
It doesn't mean that we won't do that.
It just means that there's a reason why we don't do that.
And yeah, well, let us talk about that and see Kelly.
But in the meantime, you guys,
make sure that you're visible.
Pin a picture, pin a little,
hi, how are you?
So glad you're here.
This is my name.
You know, I personally wouldn't allow people
from your single city to friend you on Facebook.
I personally would just,
let all of your.
correspondence with people be there.
You can put up a post once a week and pin it to the top.
It says, Hey, does anyone have any questions for me?
Um, I wouldn't start, I would not start answering messenger
chats if I were you and I wouldn't start friending people
that request you unless you already know them and they're
like someone that you're meeting with in person and you like
them a lot and you're, you know, whatever, because if you give
people an inch, they will take a mile.
Yes, you all.
And here's, here's another important thing.
We'll start asking you for money.
They will start bothering you all kinds of stuff.
If people need coaching, they need to come into the app and
the Facebook group or where we're doing that.
They need to send in to ask Jackie.
So you all in the single cities do not have to coach
people in that way.
Okay.
So you don't, but if you have good dating advice, you know,
if you have some good dating advice to, you know, to give
and people are posting dating questions in the single city,
you, you don't have to not answer it.
I remember we're not counselors and we're not therapists.
Okay.
So if anyone ever says they're depressed, if anyone ever says
they're going to commit suicide immediately in writing, tell
them to call the hotline, put the number up and make sure
that you do that publicly.
Okay.
Cause we just want to cover ourselves.
All Facebook groups are supposed to do that.
If someone, and you're, you're honestly, you're actually
supposed to report that person to Facebook.
I mean, I don't know about that, but I do know that you need to
publicly respond to any comments like that with, Hey, you know,
we're praying for you, but you know, you need to reach out
to someone right away.
Here's the number, make sure that you do this.
Okay.
And then let us know, let Bethany know, because we're
probably going to have to remove that person from the group.
Um, especially if that's like a chronic situation where someone's
always like threatening to kill themselves or saying that
they're so depressed that they wish they were dead or
something like that.
We want to help people, but we also cannot help people
on a Facebook page.
And it's for everyone's safety.
It's for the group as a whole safety, as well as that
person that is seeing those things.
Yeah.
But you guys feel free, you know, feel free to, you know,
give people feedback.
If they're asking dating questions, what we don't want
you to do, cause they are coed groups.
Don't let people get into big debates on religion
and crap like that.
Don't let people like start like snarking at each other.
Um, one of the Royal rules of all of our single cities
and all of our groups is, you know, we have to show kindness.
We have to show tolerance for people that don't necessarily
believe exactly what we believe and don't have the same
opinions as us.
And so if someone is always causing trouble and has strong
opinions and is always pushing back or, you know, arguing,
make sure that you mark that person and let them know that
Bethany know or team member knows so that they can get
a warning.
And if they keep doing it, then they're going to have
to get leave.
We've had guys, we've had men that we've had to kick out
of groups, specifically men that have had really strong
opinions about pretty misogynistic stuff.
So, and then women start arguing with them and then it's
a big, like about modesty and different things like weird
stuff like that.
Okay.
You guys, the only criteria we have for events is we don't
want events where people are just going to get just
completely hammered.
Okay.
Like we can't control if people drink and if they drink
too much, that's on them.
But we don't want the event to be an event specifically
about getting drunk.
Does that make sense?
So we're not going to throw a kegger.
Okay.
We're not, we're not going to, people might go to a
pub crawl, but we're not going to throw a pub crawl.
See the difference?
People might go to an October fest, but we're not
going to throw the October fest.
People might go to a wine tasting, but we're not
going to throw the wine tasting.
So meaning that it's okay for people in our group
to gather up and go to stuff like that together.
It's just, we're not, we're not, it's not our event.
Okay.
So much liability.
So Jackie, what's the best way to communicate?
Um, so I have some suggestions and some ideas for like
single city, Tampa and Orlando.
So should I go through Bethany or how do I communicate?
Here's the thing.
How do you guys want to do that?
Because I think that all of you should see each
other's ideas, even if you're not in the same state,
because it might jog an idea in someone else.
Like we need a place of creativity.
Don't you guys agree?
Well, this is specifically with you because I know that
you come to Davenport because you know, you have
family and things.
So this is including you.
Um, it's an idea that I have with, oh yeah.
Yeah.
If you have an idea for a specific event and you want, yeah, yeah, absolutely.
All you have to do is just, um, to just let Bethany know.
You can email us admin at Jackie Dorman.com.
Just put single city event idea in the subject line.
Just let us know what you want to do.
That's for all of you.
Just email us admin at Jackie Dorman.com.
If Reagan thinks that it needs to go to Bethany, he will forward it to her.
If it's something that, you know, we can bring to a staff meeting and talk about,
if it's something we need to talk about on a single city meeting, you guys, you
know, we really appreciate you guys, your ministry, basically, this is what this
is.
Okay.
And we have perks for you.
And if you don't know what those are, and you're not utilizing those perks, please
send us an email so Bethany can reach out to you because we want to make sure that
you're perked.
Okay.
And there's some good perks in there that you should be taking advantage of.
So, um, yeah, I'm excited about this.
Who thinks that, that it really is God that the era of in-person is now who really
believes that that's God you're feeling that resonate in your heart.
Okay.
All right.
So we want to support you.
We want to invest in you, but we cannot invest in you.
If you do not tell us what you're thinking about doing, right.
If you do not let us in on it, then we cannot get behind it.
We cannot support it.
We cannot market it because we have a huge list.
We have a list of like, I don't know how many people like 30,000, you know, we can
market your stuff, right?
We can market these events and have people sign up because there's a lot of
registration engines that are free.
And we have the ability to have a registration engine right on our site.
Guys have seen those last trip singles.
We put out, we can put out one of those for your event and people can register.
And if it's a ticketed event, the money can go in right there and all
of the things can happen there.
Now I will tell you, as we grow, I would like to see, Oh, that's the other thing.
If people do sign up, listen to this.
If people do sign up for the program or for a class or for subscription at your
event, you will get the affiliate from it.
Okay.
If someone else at your event invites their friends and they're an affiliate,
the person that invites them, then they would give them their affiliate link.
But you, as a single city moderator, we're going to have a whole different
level of affiliation for you than the, just the regular people in our community.
Okay.
The regular people in our community, they only get $75 off a $297, which
is really good affiliate there.
But what if it's only $37?
What if it's a $47 class, a webinar?
What if it's an in-person webinar at one of your churches that we're sponsoring
and people are signing up and paying $50 for it, because it comes with
a book and a workbook or whatever.
We're coming up with an affiliate program for you, single city
moderators, that if people sign up and for anything, any of our products,
you will get a certain percentage of that sale.
If they sign up through someone else's affiliate link for like the
full blown program, 297, then okay, whatever.
But if they sign up for anything else from your event and from the, you
know, the thing, the signup on the QR code, then you can get,
you can make money that way.
And that's another way that we can perk you, because we're already
perking you, and pay you for your service.
Okay.
That sounds great.
Right?
I think that's amazing.
And I want that to happen.
So I think that's it.
That's all that I have.
Anyone else have any questions before we let y'all go?
I have a question.
Go ahead.
Hi everyone.
Oh, okay.
Well, I'll ask like, when will, when will the groups be opened with, with codes?
Oh, that's, we have to decide what the code should be.
And you guys, I think that all of you should just make a
different password for your group.
So figure out what you want the password to be.
Should it be numerical?
Should it be just a word?
How often should that word change?
See, these are all things.
Yeah.
We probably need to look into if there's any parameters within the AI as well.
It's my guess, Jackie.
Well, here's the thing, you guys, we haven't been having the
moderators approve requests because we were only letting in students and you
guys had no way of telling whether they were student or not, but once we go to
this system, you could also be the person approving the request to join.
And all you have to do is look for the password.
Yeah.
Okay.
And, or, oh, sorry, I had to come inside because the
mosquitoes were eating me alive.
We'll work that out.
We'll work the technical part of that.
out because there will be people joining your single cities that are students and they wouldn't
have that password, but they would have something else, okay?
And so, we will work that out.
But if the administrative assistant, the AI on Facebook, can't approve the requests based
on the criteria that we would set, then you guys would be responsible for manually approving
the requests.
And we would do a training on that, just so y'all know.
Just anything before we officially launch it, we'll make sure you know exactly how we're
going to do it, all that kind of stuff.
But you guys, this is not something that's far off.
It's like now.
It's like this week, okay?
We want to start...
Who's got an event coming up?
Anybody?
Anyone got anything this month?
Anyone got a Halloween party, a little costume party action?
Jacqueline, what do you got?
I got...
We're going to Arrington Vineyard to listen to bluegrass music next Sunday.
And then also, I have a kind of a standing thing with the karaoke host at Kings Bowl.
We made it a singles every first and third Wednesday night of the month, it's for singing
for singles.
So...
I like it.
Yeah.
And listen, if any of you need any graphics for anything, you know, for your calendar,
you need graphics.
Also, you guys, you should be employing your calendars.
Your calendars are there, it's built into your Facebook group, you know, you can use
it.
Okay.
Let me ask you this.
Do you guys think that we should move to each of your single cities having its own group
on the app?
Or do you think we should just leave it on Facebook?
Facebook.
Okay.
Facebook.
Okay.
So you guys have to use your events then.
You guys have to use your events.
You guys hate my app.
You know how much money that thing costs?
Oh my God, it just makes me so sick when I think about it.
Oh Lord.
Okay.
It's just because I have four kids and homeschool and I have a million trillion apps.
I have the dance studio app, the homeschool app.
I have this app, that app, it's just another...
And Facebook is so easy.
I also want to know if we could somehow make the things from last year single or the single
city.
So if I put an event in single city, then can it be open so I can cross post it into
all the groups and then they can RSVP through that and then friend request single city through
that way?
Does that make sense?
Because like this is still Christian Singles, it has like 30,000 members in it.
Yeah.
All kinds of settings in the groups.
Yeah.
Because that would be so much easier because what I've been doing is I've had to create
posts in every single solitary and I actually, that's why I didn't post that much this month
because you guys, I had so many men PMing me and so then my friend Joe did them for
me, like started posting them for me.
And he didn't like it because then he had women PMing him and it just, I mean, some
people might like that.
I don't.
Why?
I don't understand what happened.
Why did the men PM you?
Because I posted the event in different groups.
Oh, you as you, you as you.
As me.
As me because you can't.
And so then I had, I'm not joking you, so many men, I was like, and some people might
like that.
I did not.
So.
Well, we want to recruit the good ones.
We want to recruit them.
So, um, but Bethany, how can, how can you share an event from a group that's private,
but not hidden?
How does that work?
I think, yeah, so that might be the catch.
Cause if we are, if we're private and hidden or one or the other, we just need to do some
research on that.
I don't know.
I don't know if we'll be able to share that into other groups or not.
Yeah.
I think we've got to troubleshoot that because she does make a really good point.
We really do need it to be able to be shared.
I was kind of brainstorming with, um, and we don't have to go too far into this with
a Christie, your, your track today.
I've kind of been at Columbus single city.
Yeah.
Wondering if we did like, I mean, it's really, it'd be great to do them right in Facebook,
but if we did them in event, right.
And then you can share that link anywhere.
But we want to make sure it's always centered on last year, single.
So I don't, cause like, I'm just wondering if we do that people, you know, they don't
see the single city thing and they don't join it.
Like that's why I'm saying would have to always be grounded in the single city group.
I'm just not sure like that.
You can share an event, but they can't join.
They'd have to join.
They can join the event, but they can't join the Facebook group without going through that.
Yeah.
And we have that for our church group to like when we share events out of our church group
Uh, which is a facebook page. So that's a little different than a single city group
but the same thing people they would have to follow us as a church to
Get access. Let me ask you a question this 30 000 member singles group. Is it is it private?
No
Anyone can join. I mean you have to answer questions. You have to so it's a private group
That's a that's called a private group
If you if if there's any gate on joining and you don't just click on it
And you're automatically in you have to be approved to be in then that's a private group
And so how do they share their events?
With that. I don't know. I don't know. So it's just if there's a way or if I could log in
as a
Single city so then my my login is single city and then i'm creating a an event in the other groups
But logged in as single city if that makes sense most most pages don't allow other pages to join
Okay
So let me ask you this is this is the thing though. Bethany. We need to troubleshoot
Can events when you're creating the event in facebook? It didn't used to be this way, but the facebooks are always changing
Can you when you make the event can you mark the event public or private
Because if the event itself if we can mark it public then she can post it anywhere and anyone could join it
I think we're gonna feel jacqueline is still gonna be posted as you in those groups
Yeah, I don't and that's like the so I had so many it was and then what happened at the last event
I'm, not joking you men came because some of them are not
Mentally all there and they thought that they were coming for me
And so then they were no. Yes. So then they were like I came to meet you and i'm like
i'm, sorry, and thankfully I had my guy friends with me and they like
And then they're like this is a problem jackie. We don't we don't feel safe with you doing this
i'm, like I know like but then I had men following me like these weirdos, so I mean
Yeah, you can't establishing yourself as a single city moderator for lash or single may help a little bit with that like
People that struggle meant just because with some of the background stuff
I used to do like when we were very public front-facing
some similar things and so
um
You kind of just even in your engaging with them
Hey, i'm the single city moderator
You know as on behalf of last year single you're being invited to this event where versus like feeling feeling very personal
They may or may not still be able to discern that but it will help
To create a little bit of a distinction. Let me ask you this
Is there any way that you can um partner with the moderators of those pages and ask them to share the event?
I guess yeah, I guess I can ask but then they don't get that then it doesn't link them to last year single
Do you know what I mean? So if it was shared then they automatically see the logo
They see the thing and then they go in there and they're like, oh I want to join that group
That group sounds fun and then they get the information. Does that make sense?
So yeah, yeah
No, yeah, it makes sense and then it's all coming through me and then what was happening too
Like I must admit I was really exhausted after the pins mccann or the last one
I had a lot of people complaining to me like women coming up. I didn't meet anyone tonight
i'm not coming back to any of your events and i'm like
i'm, sorry, like just have fun like this is just to have fun and then like
Um, my friend bev who was co-hosting got letter emails from people saying this was you guys were so rude
You it looked like everyone was clicky and not talking to anyone and it was like, oh my gosh, like it was stressful
Y'all welcome to my world
Welcome to my world y'all i'm telling you. Listen, this is why people listen. This is why these people are single
Therapy and then come back
Yeah, well hello, yeah, that's exactly right. Okay, so we're not gonna waste it we're gonna troubleshoot this jacqueline
Thanks for bringing this up you guys we are technology
Gonna we're gonna technologically troubleshoot this we're gonna figure out how to overcome this problem
Of you guys being sitting ducks out there getting spammed getting docked because people guys
Direct message me and ask to marry me like frequently
Okay, and i'm like, um
Did you miss the memo?
uh married
Okay, so I mean because of what I post about singles and so it is definitely a topic that will get you targeted by
some strange people
um, I remember an event in new york city where I saw a guy in the audience who had been like
Harassing me and he showed up at this event that I was at
In new york city and you guys I was actually afraid for my life to come out and speak
Because they're afraid he's gonna like shoot me or something
You know, so i'm not even kidding like I like called my husband I said that guy is
here and then he went out and he kind of like, he took some of the ushers from the church
and they talked to this guy and it was just to make sure that he wasn't packing because
like I was, I was very firm with him about when he was messaging me, I was very firm
with him about the issues that he was having.
So anyway, there's a lot out there, but we're going to find out how to put up a firewall
for y'all.
We'll find it out.
We'll figure it out.
Okay.
No one else has any events this month.
Just Jacqueline.
That's it.
Anybody?
Okay.
You guys, we want to be brainstorming events for each other.
Let's help brainstorm events.
Let's help.
Um, you guys, if there's someone that is really, uh, very connected in your, in your group,
like, like they're always showing up, they're always posting or they're always reaching
out to you to find out what's going on.
See if you can recruit them as your volunteer, guys who recruit people within your group
to help you.
And also we will find people who here would raise their hand and say, I need an assistant.
Okay.
Jacqueline needs an assistant for sure.
I mean, I was supposed to help you.
Yeah.
And I did reach out to a lot of people to help like, Hey, do you want to do like coffee
meetups?
And not one of them got back to me.
They all said they'd pray about it and they said, no, no, no brother.
Everybody wants to get married, but no one wants to help anybody else get married.
Okay.
I honestly, I was really burnt out after the two events, cause I put in so much work.
I did.
And then I had all the complaints and, um, and I already have a really healthy, thriving
friend group of like 17 of us, like guys and girls, we do life together.
Like we're, we're like really close.
And so I'm like, you guys, I don't need this.
I'm doing this because I have a heart for you and this, you know, I love you guys.
And then it's like, I get that.
So I feel you.
I'm married.
I don't need to do singles ministry.
Okay.
So all I'm saying is, is that there are people, you guys, if we, I believe as we start this
new era, God is going to give us people to help.
I really do.
We don't want you getting burnt out.
Um, even if we just plan a few things a year in that region, I think that that would be
enough to cause a lot of momentum.
Also the church is getting involved and the people that are single in those churches,
finding a place, um, where they can have a second home within the single city groups.
I think that's important too.
And so Bethany and I are working on projects for churches.
If you guys know any churches in your area that you would like us to approach about this
kind of stuff about, you know, partnering and allowing their singles to become part
of this, it's kind of like young life, you know, young life is not affiliated with any
one church, but all the high schools and colleges have it, right.
And so same with this, all the churches could have an affiliation with single city, um,
with last year, single, single city, whatever it is that they want to call it.
A lot of people would probably have a hard time calling it last year, single, cause they
don't want to promote that.
Um, but the single city is the single nation and helping people find community and just
camaraderie.
That's it.
All right.
So Father God, we thank you for this time together.
Anyone else have any questions?
I'm going to cut you off.
No, I was just going to say, just so y'all know, just as a reminder, if you all ever
have any issues in your single cities, please let us know and we will help.
We will be the ones to communicate to those people.
Okay.
We'll be bad cop.
Yeah.
We're okay to be bad cop.
Okay.
So Father God, we thank you for your goodness, Lord.
We thank you God that yes, this isn't easy definitely, but it is worth it, Lord.
And so Father, we thank you God that you give us new grace, Lord, that you give us new refreshing
end in our sales.
We ask God that you give us favor in our regions, that you would draw people to us.
In fact, before this week is even over, this coming week, before it's over, each and every
one of these moderators, it gets confirmed to them that you have called them to be a
revivalist of marriage and family in their region through this program by something happening,
someone coming to them and testifying that, you know, what you did was transforming for
me.
Just encourage them in some way, shape, or form.
Give them that confirmation in Jesus name.
Amen.
All right.
Appreciate you guys.
I know it's been long, but we'll see you soon.
If you guys have any questions, just send us an email.
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Talk to you soon.