Hello, welcome. Thank you so much for joining. It's eight o'clock. We're going to go ahead
and get started with our Monday evening check in. I know that there are some people that
are still figuring out that are new that are figuring out how to find us here. So I apologize.
I kind of came on a little few seconds later than I normally do. But just trying to make
sure people know where to go and how to find us. Welcome. Welcome. Welcome. If you're joining
us for the first time, please let us know in the chat. Just say, Hey, I'm joining for
the first time. I'll see your name. And I want to encourage you all. If you've never
been here before, we turn our cameras on when we come to heart check in. And if you're driving
totally understand you don't have to do that if you're eating or you're at work. That's a
little different. But even though some of you might not have known that we would want you
to do that would love to see your beautiful faces. And for those of you that it's just
going to kind of stretch you to get out of your comfort zone a little bit. I want to
encourage you to lean into that even though you might not love the way that feels. It's
really important for y'all to come out of hiding in this heart healing process in every
way possible. And that's going to help you in your process later on and so many ways
more than what you can even understand right now. And so just always come you all you don't
have to have your hair done. I have my hair done just because I'm the one that kind of
on the video doing a lot of the teaching and stuff like that. But y'all can come any way
you want to come don't feel any pressure. It's just us girls and we're going to have
heart real talk. We're going to connect. And if you haven't met me before, my name is
Bethany Cooper. I'm one of the heart work coaches in this group and community. And I
just love being a part of what God is doing. Not just leading people to spirit mates, but
truly transforming people's lives from the inside out. People are getting set free from
so much stuff. And so many people are falling back in love with Jesus or more in love with
him and God the Father and the Holy Spirit. Some people are finding out who the Holy Spirit
is in this journey. So whatever you came here for, I want to encourage you to believe for
more. To believe for more than the spirit mate, the spirit mates, the cherry on top,
y'all are going to hear us say that a lot in this community. And it is so true. If y'all
don't know my story, I did go through the boot camp. That's what we used to call it
years ago back in 2021 in January. That was the date I'm trying to think back. And just
so honored and blessed to have, you know, gone through all the things I went through
leading up to the point that God brought me here. And y'all, God did a supernatural work
in my life. And, you know, just through a lot of different things, I just felt really
called to help this community and movement. And that's how I got to where I am right now.
But along that journey, I also met my spirit mate, Brian Cooper. So y'all will hear a little
bit about him and our journey here and there. But in phase one, I focus a lot on the inner
heart healing that God led me through in all different stages of my life and my journey.
But I want to encourage you all. The reason I'm sharing this with you is that you're going
to have ups and downs in this process. Okay. In the heart healing process, if you stick
around and go into phase two, phase three, there's going to be ups and downs and you're
going to be the most important person on your journey. And what I mean by that is we believe
that God led you here to heal, to find your spirit mate. But some of you need to even
learn how to love yourself and to know what it really looks like to enjoy being in your
presence, to enjoy like, Hey, who am I? What do I love doing? Because you know what, when
you, when you start talking to guys, they want to know more about you. They want to
know what you enjoy. And so many, we have found that come into our program. They don't
even know who they are. They don't know what they love because that got broken down through
trauma and wounds of the past. And so one of my favorite things is helping people reconnect
with the little girl inside of themselves. So tonight, that is a little bit of what I
want to start leading us to. I'm going to touch on it a little bit tonight. I'm just
planting some seeds because next week we're going to be talking about the real you like,
who are you really? And who did God intend for you to be? And so I really want to encourage
you, please try to be here again, next week live. For those of you that have finished
phase one and you're moving to phase two, some of you have probably heard me do the real you
session before.
for and we bless you.
Don't feel like you have to come back.
You can always check the replay if you want to,
but if you want to join us, feel free,
but hopefully you all will have fun
in your phase two live sessions
if you're moving on to phase two.
If you all don't know in the app,
for those of you that joined us
and you began in our last year single app,
this is an app that we have created as a community.
We are always doing things to try to improve it,
working with the developer to do so.
And so just excited to have this space that we've created,
but inside of there, you're gonna have the events tab.
You're gonna have the community tab
where we're all kind of talking and sharing.
And then, I mean, there's all different tabs,
but these are the ones
that you're gonna get real comfortable with.
The training tab is where all your coursework is at.
And then the replays tab.
The replays tab is where your supernatural Saturdays
are gonna go, where heart checking replays are gonna go.
Sometimes we do a prophetic ministry night.
That's the last Sunday of every month.
Those replays will go in there as well.
So I just wanna make sure you all know
where to find the replays,
whether you wanna go back and kind of re-listen.
Cause when you all go into breakout session,
a lot of times I just sit and pray and read scripture.
And if you're ever having a tough day,
I wanna encourage you like,
go in and just listen to some of that.
You'll have to fast forward the other teaching parts
if you've already heard it,
or get on the Bible app
and just let the word of God play over you.
Sincerely, that's one of the things
that will help you all on the hard days.
So I encourage you to lean in
and get as much out of this as you can while you're here.
I know some of you will feel like
all I can do is just the course and that's okay.
Okay, this is like a grab bag of all kinds of stuff
that we are providing above and beyond
what is that basic course.
But I will tell you that coming to the prayer times
when you're able, including Supernatural Saturday,
we really believe we'll accelerate your process
in every area of your life.
And that God has some really special stuff to say to you.
All right, my last two, this is my housekeeping.
If you all didn't know,
we do a little housekeeping, a little cleanup.
That's kind of like our little phrase.
And this is where we do announcements.
And we just do this for the first few minutes
of every session to make sure people
kind of are all on the same page.
So I wanna remind you all, distractions are gonna come.
For our brand new ladies, be aware of that, okay?
Even our ladies that have been doing this for a little bit,
some of you all might be getting caught up in distractions
and the enemy might be trying to take you off course
instead of helping you,
like really leaning into the coursework
and where God is taking you.
So when the distractions come, you all,
I love to do a lot of things.
I like to talk to myself and talk to my spirit.
Y'all, it's not because I'm crazy.
Guess what?
David talked to his spirit, didn't he?
Why are you down, Casto, my soul, hope in the Lord.
So I take that seriously.
I like to talk to my spirit.
I like to tell myself what I should be thinking.
Or if I'm not speaking out loud, Lord, like I'm praying,
like, Lord, I don't know why that was my heart today
in that moment.
Like, can you help me understand that?
So I just process, this is what I do.
So when the distractions come,
I want y'all to kind of,
I want you to put your hand up just like this.
Like, imagine this is a big old stop sign, okay?
And it's like, I want you to get used to this phrase,
devil, not today.
Today, not today, devil.
I want you to get real comfortable with that phrase, okay?
It's gonna serve you well.
You guys will remember,
hopefully some of you will remember that
when the hard days come
because he's gonna try to lie, kill, steal, destroy,
and he's gonna try to do it all kinds of ways.
And so it's up to us to resist the devil.
And when we resist the devil,
that's when the Bible says he flees, right?
So we participate in that whole interaction and exchange.
And so when the distractions come,
they might look a lot of different ways.
They might look like old boyfriends popping back up.
And y'all, okay, just know,
sometimes Jackie's gonna talk about,
God has been for some people
bringing prior relationships that were actually healthy,
that one or both of the people self-sabotaged
because they were not in the right place
at the right season.
And God will restore those.
Those are few and far between, okay?
If someone is not healthy
and they pop back up in your life,
y'all can understand at that moment,
if there has been nothing that has changed,
they are still unhealthy,
that is something the enemy is trying to use
to distract you, okay?
Some people, and I'm just gonna touch on this,
not because I'm gonna lie,
Anybody did anything wrong? I always feel like people always worry. Did I do something wrong?
I'm just gonna touch on this because I'm not gonna lie,
but some people are not healthy and they're not in the right
No, you didn't, but it's just a good example. So we have some people that like met someone
place at the right time, okay?
Some people are not healthy and they're not in the right
not long before they started the course or right after they started the course.
place at the right time, okay?
And they're a really nice guy. Y'all, we want to encourage you. Press pause,
press pause on that. Press pause on online dating, press pause on pursuing any guys,
even if the guys kind of pursued you. Um, because here's the thing, if you get caught up with the
guy, you're going to, you're going to get distracted from what God's trying to do in you.
And if he's meant to be your spirit mate and you say, Hey, you know what? Um, I think you're
a really cool guy. I just started this heart healing process though. And I really want to
be true to that. I want to be true to what God's doing in my life. And, um, you know, if it's okay,
I'd love to reach back out when I'm finished. Good guys, healthy guys are going to be like,
cool. That sounds great. Okay. If they feel led to wait, if they don't y'all, we're not fighting
for scraps. Okay. We're not fighting for scraps and you don't have to shift into orphan mentality
or panic or fear that you're missing out on something. Okay. Cause you're not, you're not,
God will always bring it back around. And if it's meant to be, I really do believe that. And again,
you have to discern between the two, the devil or the, uh, or the father sending it your way.
Okay. Those are the last of my announcements. You guys did a great job. Thanks for staying engaged
with me for those. I saw a couple people joining for the first time. I want to give a shout out to
you. Uh, I see Katie and let's see, it says Carl. So 96, but I'm guessing that's maybe part of your
last name. Can you tell me what your first name is in the chat? And then Naomi's joining us for
the second time. Welcome back. All right. Awesome. Okay. So many of you are rejoining us again.
So glad to see all of you tonight. Let me pray for us. And we're going to dive right in father.
Thank you so much. Thank you that you even teach us and guide us in housekeeping moments.
Thank you, God, that your mercy is new for us every morning, every night, every moment right
now, God, I thank you that you would meet these ladies right where they're at God, that you would
come and encounter them in their living rooms, in their kitchens, in their cars at work, God,
wherever they are, help them to hear what your spirit is saying to them. Yes, Lord, we thank you
for revealing for healing. We thank you for taking us, um, deeper in our understanding of who you are
as a good father, but also God, the one that, that helps us step further into healing step further
into truth. We know that your word declares that we are being renewed by the transforming of our
minds that all old things have passed away and behold, everything has become new, but we also
have to partner with that truth inside of our spirit. So help us Lord to, to really come into
alignment with your truth from heaven tonight. We thank you that, um, yeah, Lord, we just thank you
that you're going to help us take off old rags. Uh, ladies, I'm just sensing the spirit old rags
and baggage that we've been carrying from the past. So we just thank you that you'll help us
just even right now in this spirit, just to envision ourselves putting suitcases down,
removing old garments, and maybe a, a code of heaviness, a spirit of oppression
coming off of us. And we just thank you father in advance for that. And Jesus name.
Amen. Y'all that's for somebody probably more than one. Somebody's tonight. I literally, I just,
I just saw it just like this. It was like a, not even a full coat, but like the arms had
been ripped off and it was just like a rag, but some people are wearing that. And, uh, the Lord
said that you, yes, Lord, he's making a brand new robe for you all. He is. And, uh, it's Royal
garments, which is another little segue for our thing next week. So I won't give too much away,
but man, the Holy spirit brought that up. So, so loud and clear in my spirit. So take that old
stuff off. We're going to do that a little bit tonight. Um, I want to talk tonight about inner
vows and what these can look like, sound like, how we can get rid of them and all of that kind
of stuff. We're going to talk about that. And if we have time, we're also going to touch on
confession and repentance, but I'm also remaining open because God was kind of dropping some stuff
in my spirit before I got on tonight. So we're just gonna, we're just gonna go with the Lord
tonight. All right. We always do, but we're going to go with what he's doing. What is an interval?
We get this question a lot. Uh, Tammy, thank you. Uh, we get this question a lot in interval. If
you think about it this way, it's a determination set in our mind and our heart to protect us from
pain. So at some point in our life, we came into a situation or a dynamic, uh, scenario trauma.
And when that happened in that moment, we made a determination in our.
part in our mind to protect us from pain.
So basically we are erected in an internal wall
in our spirit.
Does that make sense, everyone?
Okay.
All right, so Romans 12, two is my scripture.
We're gonna lean into this a little bit,
but it's the one we stand on.
Do not conform to the pattern of this world,
but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.
Then you will be able to test what God's will is,
his good, pleasing, and perfect will.
And so one of the things that's super important
for y'all to understand is that the renewing of our minds,
a lot of people, we just, I don't know if y'all are like me,
but back in the day, I used to just think literal,
like just my mind, literal, and it is that,
but it's also down in here, okay, in our heart, in our soul.
And if we're carrying, you know,
whether it's subconsciously or consciously
carrying junk around in our spirit,
yeah, I did, Diana, thank you for sharing that with me.
If we're carrying that stuff around in our spirit,
it is impacting everything that we think, do, say,
how we show up in the world, what we partner with.
And so that's why it's super important that every day,
y'all, even today, I literally,
like half an hour before I logged in tonight,
I was like, Lord, the last two days,
I've just been really feeling like the enemy is like,
they're just battling, warring against me.
And everything's fine, y'all, but just, I felt it.
I felt it in the spirit, like wake up really happy,
and then just like out of nowhere,
just feel like this constant stuff at my head and my mind.
That's what I'm saying.
That's what I'm talking about.
So you guys are gonna face stuff like this
as well as you go.
And so what, when we experience it,
we might not always react to it
or respond to it the way we want,
but that's where grace comes in, okay?
And we just constantly, okay, Lord, this is what's going on.
Can you show me like, where's that coming from?
Is that rooted in something that needs healing?
Or is this just the enemy and I just need to resist
as I was talking to y'all about earlier, okay?
Soil in our hearts is really important.
So if you have ever heard the story,
I'm not gonna go into the story in the Bible,
but where it talks about the different types of soil,
Jackie talks about it in the book as well.
If you've not read that part yet, you'll get there,
but the soil is really, really important.
So I also wanna put this out there for y'all to consider.
There are parts of your heart that have really fertile soil.
It's really good.
It's really rich.
It has all the nutrients in it.
And then there's other parts of your heart
that have some rockiness, some hardness,
maybe some areas where it's kind of in between the good
and the rocky, God's been in there doing some work.
And so just know that you can have different parts
that need more healing to become that fertile place.
So that's why some of you like,
it's kind of this back and forth.
Like you feel really strong in some areas
and then really weak in other areas.
It just means that you need healing in those areas
and that maturing and that growth
in the spirit over there, okay?
So I wanna read something just real quick.
This is just a little blurb I'm taking from the book.
I'm not gonna share the page because you're all ebook.
It's the same content as my physical book,
but the page numbers are different, all right?
Because people always ask me for the numbers.
Okay, so this is what it says.
But even though you won't be able to replace
the actual events that happened in your life,
you can replace the lies you believed
and most importantly, the vows you made
as a result of those lies, okay?
So that's what we're getting at tonight.
When we experience these hurts in life, they make us sad.
And when we are sad, that's when anger shows up.
Remember that anger is always the defender.
The anger is the protector.
Typically underneath, we've got sadness, frustration.
There's other levels of emotions
that we experience underneath.
Anger always shows up when those wounded
and vulnerable parts of our hearts feel threatened.
Okay, so that's why we call it hurts bodyguard.
When anger is around, we feel strong
and we start to make these inner vows.
So that's, again, that's where we're circling around
this a little bit here.
So here are some inner vows.
I'm gonna read some off of the book
and then some of my list.
Let's see here.
I won't be made a fool anymore.
So maybe some of you feel like somebody made a fool of you
in a situation.
Nobody is ever gonna tell me what to do.
I can't tell anybody about this.
Maybe some of you went through certain types of trauma
even whether you thought that on your own or someone else told you not to tell, you struggle
to tell people things now, whether it's that major wound or additional things. Sometimes it's a both
and in that area. Some of you will tell yourself, I will be perfect from now on so that nobody can
reject me. And so you get into these cycles of trying to be perfect and there are no perfect
people. Okay. It's not, it's not something we can attain. Here are a couple other ones. I'm
going to go through these pretty quick. I'll never be able to make anyone happy. I'll never date or
marry a Larry. I just always use the name Larry. It's just easy, but maybe your name is Joe. Maybe
your name is Derek. Maybe your name is Dominic. And the reason we use this is because typically
what can happen is when someone that we were dating or married to, or just a trauma happened
with that person, we label all people with that name as bad. Maybe it's a certain ethnicity.
Maybe it's a guy with a certain type of job. If y'all didn't hear the never will I ever list,
if you're brand new, this'll be the first time you're hearing this. A never will I ever list
is a list that we make, um, in situations like this, I will never date someone who's a pastor.
I will never date someone who's a police officer or is in the army. Those are not from heaven.
You all, a lot of times those kinds of statements come from places of woundedness or hurt, or maybe
you, you grew up as a pastor's kid or seeing someone that was a pastor's kid. Okay. So it's
really important. If you're brand new, you need to start making your never will I ever list and
then post it in the group. And we're going to coach you on it. Okay. Because there are certain
things that you all will need to let go of at in your surrender process and your healing process.
And you'll, it will also give some insight into some areas you might need additional healing.
Okay. And I'll, I can explain more what the never will I ever list is in a little bit,
but I just want to put that plug out there. Okay. And for those of you that heard me say
that a couple of weeks ago, and you haven't done yours yet, be sure to go ahead and get yours done
too. Okay. All right. Here are a couple more intervals that I've heard over the years of
coaching and doing this hard work. I'll never trust anyone again. I'll never let my guard down again.
I'll never be like my mother, or I'll never be like my father. Yes. Even some women. I don't
know about you all, but for me, my dad was an addict and a, an alcoholic and he left our family
and cheated and all these things. And so I can remember being like, I'm never going to be like
my father. And, and in some ways that's a good thing you all, but then it can get out of balance.
Okay. So I have to be really careful. And then I can't remember if I said this one already.
So I'm just going to say this one too. I'll never let anyone hurt me ever again.
All right. So I want you just to be thinking, and I always encourage all don't, don't panic.
If you don't have paper and pen, but I just try to always bring, even if it's just a sheet of
paper or a journal, because I'm going to, I'm going to have you guys like do stuff during
our sessions. Cause it's, that will help you stay more engaged. Okay. So I'm going to, I'm going to
That will help you stay more engaged with what we're talking about. Okay.
I want you to be thinking about these intervals if you have them. Okay. So if there was anything
that really stood out to you about what I said, or maybe something different came to mind for you,
that's totally fine. Write down anything that might've come to mind for you. And even if you
don't fully know yet, but a memory or something that happened in your life came to mind,
write that down too. Okay.
And then I'm going to activate you all in the chat in this next one.
Do you ever make statements or have thoughts that include words like always or never?
They always do that. I always get passed over men. Never come through for me.
Men always abuse me. Men never pick heavier women. I'm never seen or noticed. Now these are just
examples, but I'm trying to kind of stoke the fire here a little bit. Okay. The fire, I call it
the fire, but it's like the, the ideas and the thoughts inside of you all, the, the areas that
are sensitive that, you know, you're resonating with what I'm saying, or you're feeling pain.
Okay. Those are some of the ways that you're going to know something's going on when I'm,
when the teaching that either myself or someone else has taught me,
I'm going to be able to do that. Okay.
for Jackie or whoever are doing, and that's where you need to lean in. So in the chat for me,
even if it was not one I said, what is a statement that you might think or have said in the past that
has either the word always or never in it? So I would love to see those come into the chat.
Tammy, it's okay if you don't know inner vowels. Sometimes it's a process of uncovering those
you all. Okay. Okay. So it's always get passed up. I'll never trust anyone. I'm never chosen
by anybody. Always a bridesmaid. That's a good one. Kristen B. All right. You always do that
or say that people never noticed me. I'm invisible. I'll always be alone. It's never my turn.
People never noticed me. I'll never depend on a man. These are so good. You all. I never,
I never, sorry. I don't know why I can't read these as fast as very fast tonight. I never will
be picked up because of my weight. Okay. I never meet anyone where there is a mutual interest.
You know what? We're going to hone in on a couple of those because I hear that a lot. You all. Okay.
I want to encourage you actually, before I pass that over, and this can apply to the weight stuff.
It can apply to the mutual interest. Y'all, any of the ones that any of you all put, I want you
to think right now, knowing what you wrote in there and I'll read the others that other people
shared as well. Knowing what you wrote in there, I want you to just ask the Lord right now. And if
nothing comes to you, it's okay. Just, this is how we kind of process. It might percolate up
in your spirit later tonight or tomorrow, but with what you wrote in the chat,
when is the first time you heard that or thought that
was there a situation Lord? I just pray right now, father, that you would just help the ladies to know
when is the first time they had those thoughts? Was there a trauma that happened? Did someone
say something to them and just help them to hear what your spirit is saying and reveal that to them?
And the reason I kind of paused and did that is because this, I'll never meet anyone where
there's a mutual interest. Y'all, I hear this so much, and it's a growing thing that is said.
And I have noticed, and I don't know if this will resonate for you, Nicole, but I have noticed
a common theme with, with people that struggle with this. Somewhere along the way, their dad
were another man in their life. Uncles, teachers, somebody that was influential spoke over them,
that no man would ever want them or something similar to that. I feel the Holy spirit on that.
And because that happened and they were not able to, they were not able to, you know,
and they were not able to process what was said to them by someone that was supposed to keep them
safe. The enemy came in and just swooped right in and they believed the lie. And because of that,
every time they entered a relationship and it didn't work out and the enemy was like, see,
yep, you're never going to find anybody who's interested in you. There's never going to be
mutual interest because do you remember what so-and-so said? No man's ever going to love you.
And it might not always sound like that full of a circle, but a lot of times that stuff is all
in there. And if you, if there was enough pressure applied, it would all come up like a volcano.
So just, this is where it's really important y'all in your healing process to constantly
be talking to the Lord. Help me understand, Lord, where's that coming from?
I believe, and you got to shift. Remember, you got to go all the way revealing for healing cycle.
If y'all weren't on with us last week, if you've just joined this week, I would encourage you to
check out the replay from last Monday. I walked the ladies through the revealing for healing
cycle and how to process that with your own life in your own situations. And at the end of that
cycle is what ladies replace the lies with the truth, right? So we got to know the truth and
not only that, but we have to declare, we have to believe on our own. We might not always feel
the truth or fully believe it, but we partner with the truth and we declare it of ourselves.
So for me in that situation, I would probably start saying, God, I thank you that you're going
to send me a spirit mate. And that when he finds me, he's going to know he is blessed
and we're going to have mutual interest. Praise God. We are going to be excited to
be together and we're going to have a lot of fun traveling together or whatever.
whatever it is that you find interesting,
because you and your spirit mate can have mutual interest.
So we have to stop partnering,
which is why we're doing the intervals tonight,
because whether you all realize it or not,
the never statements or always statements
actually are signals to you
that you have an interval somewhere.
So these never and always statements
tend to partner with an intervow and wounds
and lies that you're believing.
So you can start with this statement
that you put in the chat and ask the Lord.
Again, I always say to the people in this group,
pull the thread, okay?
So pull the thread if you're new.
What that means is you start with whatever comes up
and you're like, okay, Lord, I hear you.
I see that memory or I see that statement
that you're revealing tonight.
I see where you want me to come out of alignment with that.
Can you show me where this started
so that I can get healing in the beginning
in that root place?
And you just keep having these kind of conversations
with him.
Okay, I said I was gonna finish reading the other lady,
so I wanna be true to that.
I will never date someone who is unable
to regulate their anger like my dad.
Okay, now that is a good thing, okay?
So this is a good example.
When you all are making,
like working even on the never will I ever list,
y'all, we don't want you to date abusers.
We don't want you to date people that have addictions.
We don't want you to be with people
that have massive anger problems.
Can we all at points struggle with anger?
Yes, okay?
But yes, that is not,
we want you to be with healthy people that can either,
even if they struggle with their anger,
that it's not unruly.
Does that make sense?
Like they're working on it.
They're being accountable to other men in their life
that are gonna love them and support them
and encourage them to really learn how to heal as well.
Okay, so super important.
Okay, let's see, I'm never ready or enough.
It's never my turn.
I'll never be able to discern the right man for me.
I'm never enough.
Men always choose the other girl over me.
Yeah, remember, come out of alignment with this stuff,
ladies.
I never meet someone that could be a potential match.
Okay, so Bethel, yours kind of goes with the one
that I did a little bit ago.
Growing up, I saw my mom suffer.
She had no education, no choice.
I would tell myself I would never rely on a man.
Okay, that's gonna be really huge too,
because there are a lot of men you can rely on.
And so I'm gonna actually encourage Elaine
and anyone else that can relate to that statement.
I will never rely on a man.
Let's see a show of hands.
Who can relate to that statement or resonate?
Like you have said,
do y'all know how to do your digital hands?
Okay, so if you hover over the bottom of your screen,
whether you're on a computer or on your phone,
there's a reactions button,
or you might just see the raise hand.
If you click the raise hand,
it'll let you raise your little digital hand, okay?
Not that you have to, but I just wanna do a little,
like help you guys know what to do.
Okay, so a couple of you can relate to that.
All right, so wanna encourage you to ask the Lord
to show you ways to practice letting men help you.
And all the ladies in this group can do that, okay?
This isn't like, I'm gonna go try to date a man,
but what I wanna encourage you
is just when you're out and about,
if you're at the grocery store
and there's something on the top shelf
and you really can't reach it,
instead of you trying to reach it
and do it all by yourself.
Okay, this assignment's for everyone.
I didn't plan on this activation,
but this is what we're gonna do.
Y'all are gonna be like,
oh, sir, would you mind reaching that for me?
We're gonna practice divine feminine, okay?
Maybe it's when you're going to walk into a restaurant
and normally you would just, you know, hold the door,
but there's a man there and he's offering.
And in the past, you'd be like, oh no, that's okay.
But now you're gonna be like, oh, thank you so much.
That's so kind of you.
And you're gonna smile
and you're gonna let that person hold the door for you.
Whether it's a young boy,
y'all, there are more and more young boys
that their parents are teaching them
how to hold doors for women.
And those boys love when you say thank you so much
and you smile at them.
So do the grown men, okay?
And y'all, there's all different ways.
Some of y'all need help in your houses
and maybe you have a friend that's a guy
or maybe your girlfriend, your best friend's married.
One of the things God led me to do
was ask my best friend's husband,
and this was years ago,
can you come over and hang this cabinet for me
in my bathroom?
Y'all, I could have suffered and struggled through that
and figured that out.
I'm pretty crafty.
I know how to do.
ever pretty much kind of, I do, I really kind of do, but I was
out of practice. But it was good practice for me to say, you
know what? He already knows how to do it. Will you come do this
for me? And then one day I went out for work. And y'all my
battery. I don't know what happened to the thing. It was
fine. And then it just went dead. And so I'm so sorry. Can
you come help me like I literally had no way to get to
work. And I felt bad asking, but the Lord was like, don't, don't
feel bad. Let them come help you. And not only did he come
help me, you all, he bought the battery for me. Did I want him
to do that in my flesh? No, I did not. But this was my best
friend's husband. I've known her my whole life. And he's like a
brother to me. And God wanted to use him to bless me. So these
are things you all can practice. Okay. So that's your first
activation. I didn't plan on issuing that tonight, but that's
one of them. And y'all, it's not just this week, let's practice
this ongoing. You will realize how often you know, don't be
carrying your multiple bags out of the grocery store all by
yourself. Let someone help you. You know, the bagpackers, they
still do this in some stores where the guys will be like, do
you want me to help you take that to your car? And in these
days, we're all like, no, I got it. I mean, be careful,
obviously, y'all. Okay, be wise. Do it in public, you know, but
I'm just saying like, let's practice letting men help us.
And even other women at times you all want to help us and
we're like, no, I'm good. Let's practice being helped and
allowing the Lord to come in and open us up to receive. Okay.
All right, people always give up on me and move on potential
friendships. Okay, that Yeah, this is a great example. You can
come out of alignment with that stuff, too. All right, the ones
I like, they never like me back and the ones they like, oh, that
like me, I never like, okay. So same kind of things as I was
saying earlier. Okay, I'm going to stop there. I want to go
ahead and get you all ready for your breakout session. I want
you to go in to the breakouts. And for those that are new, I'll
set up the breakouts. And as soon as I push for y'all to
join, there's going to be a button on your screen that
you'll click to join that room. Okay. When you go in, please
stay engaged. Don't don't if you already have your screen on,
please don't turn your screen off, stay on screen. And if you
don't have your screen on yet, we would encourage you to turn
your screen on and join us and let us see your amazing faces
because it's pretty awesome to see you. Alright, so your
question is, what intervals do you need to come out of
alignment with tonight? Okay. So again, if you don't know what
your interval is yet, start with that always or never statement
that you put in the chat, and just kind of like process it out
loud a little bit with the ladies in your group. Now
remember, ladies, when you go in here, y'all aren't coaches.
You're not counselors here, you're students. So y'all get to
take your helper hats off. Nobody has to give anybody any
advice. This is just everybody's sharing. Yay. Thank you. So I'm
going to practice. Camilla, thank you so much for sharing
that. You know, we just support each other, basically is what
I'm saying. You understand? All right, cool. We just do that so
that people don't worry about when they share that people are
going to try to fix them and all kinds of stuff. And it's good
for y'all to practice just receiving. Alright, so I am
going to do our 839. All right, seven minutes, you all. I talked
too long. All right, there you go. Breakout rooms, go ahead and
click to join those. We'll be praying for you all. If anybody
is at work, and you're not able to join, please put that in the
chat just so I can see it. I think everyone is able so far
tonight. Okay. So I have Michelle, Shelly, Emily and
Lena, are you all able to join those rooms? All right, I'm
gonna go ahead. Okay, cool. So I'm just making sure for those
on here still making sure that they're able to get into their
rooms. All right, very good. Christy W, did you get bumped
out? Oh, maybe she's jumped on. All right, Father, thank you so
much for everything you're doing tonight. God, thank you for
revealing for healing. We thank you God that you would give the
ladies wisdom.
Insight right now into the areas where there's intervals where there needs to be healing where there needs to be freedom God
We thank you that you would just open up the prison gates and set the caps of captives free
God that you would help them just where there's blinders and filters and
Counterfeit identities that have been made out of wounds of the past God. We thank you for revealing for healing
We thank you for truth. We thank you for hope. We thank you that you can take all things
That have happened in our lives and turn it all around for good when we give it to you
So we just thank you
For the reminder that you are the Potter and we are the clay and that you are
Making us into new vessels. We thank you God that you're healing us from the inside out God that you're
Yeah, restoring us from the foundations of the world God that just even in the days that you created us and you formed us
out of
The earth we thank you God that you're healing and restoring redeeming. Hi, Diana. Did you get kicked out?
Olena it's okay. You're it's okay. If you're not able to go into break out. You can just hang out here with me, Diana
I don't know if you can hear me. I see that you're in the room here, and I don't know if you got kicked out of
Oh, I think you're trying to connect your audio I have a feeling
Where did I just see your name at
Okay
If you can put it in the chat for me, that'll probably be easier if you're having a hard time with audio
I I'm thinking you might be struggling with audio tonight
With audio tonight. All right, father. Thank you. If there's any technology issues God
I thank you that you'll help them to figure all those things out
All right, Michelle, did you get kicked out are people getting kicked out of rooms? I'm just wondering what's happening
You can unmute sweetie
You
Sarah did you get kicked out? Um, I had to leave because it wasn't working on my phone, but now I'm on computer
Okay, what do you know? What room you were in?
um
with the one with Laurie la you are I
Okay, number seven. All right, cool. Thank you
Welcome. Thanks. Okay. All right
I'm gonna keep praying and we'll see if you guys get situated
So father we just thank you I love this scripture Psalm 119 verse 76 and it says
Send your kind mercy kiss to comfort me your servant just like you promised you would oh
You were trying to get video Diana. Okay
Do you know how to tap on the bottom of your screen and
Like if you're on your phone or your computer, there's an area that says video
If you click on that that should turn your video on if your phone has video capability or computer
And sometimes people's phones depending on what kind they are or their computers
You might have to do the settings before you jump on zoom
But sometimes that can be the tricky part Michelle if you're ready I can put you back into the room you were in
I don't know if I remember which one though, and I don't want you to miss out on much more time
So I might just put you in a room. Okay. Okay
Awesome. You're welcome. Thank you
All right, that's there for you
All right
So as I was looking at this scripture what stood out to me was
Um
so as I was looking at this scripture what stood out to me is that send your
Kind mercy kiss to comfort me and I just believe that even last week as we talked in this session. So many of us don't
Believe deep down that god is good because of the things that we have gone through and some of us are
Conditioned because we've been raised in church. We've been around a church
Been around church for a long time that we're just like yeah, god's good and we believe that but deep down
There are lies that we're believing that cause us to partner with
The lie that god isn't good. And so as I think about this
God sending his kind mercy kiss to comfort us
can you imagine like what comes to mind is just like when you're a kid and you scrape your knee and your
parents like you know
Uh, I don't know if y'all ever saw those boo-boo bunnies
I don't even know if they still have them but that comes to mind too like
You know, we have all these things in our in our world in our society that parents or people have used to comfort their kids
When they get hurt, you know bandages
Um, you know the knee is foreign the cleaning but kissing the boo-boo
is what was coming to mind for me. And that's what made me think of the boo-boo bunny as well.
There's the, like, it's a comforting thing, um, for, um, people to feel that tender mercy coming
from someone who loves them. And that is the way that God, the father loves us. Like he wants to
come in and just have that intimate, like, I love you. And I want to kiss this not in a weird way,
but like, like a fatherly motherly want to kiss this hurting part. And I want it to go away. I
want it to heal. I want it to be mended. And I want you to be restored even to even greater than
you were before you ever experienced trauma or brokenness. And so, Lord, we just thank you for
being that kind of dad and that you really do love us at all times and all seasons and
unconditionally completely in every way. God, you're for us. You're not against us. And I
thank you that we fight for victory, um, or from victory, not for victory. Excuse me.
The victories already won. Um, Psalm one three says he will be standing firm, like a flourishing
tree planted by God's design, deeply rooted by the Brooks of bliss bearing fruit in every season of
his life. He is never dry, never fainting, ever blessed, ever prosperous. God, I thank you that we,
we shall be like this tree that is planted by your design, that we will become deeply rooted
next to Brooks of bliss. God, that it would be like a river of living water flowing up into us,
out of us, through us. God, that as we, you know, become more and more whole, that your glory would
be like a radiance, um, on our faces. I was reading this week, you all about Moses and how
when Moses went up onto the mountain and he spent time with God, when he came down from the mountain,
his face was radiant. And I was thinking about man, like how much, like, if we just go, if we
went up to the mountain, so to speak, and we spent just such a closeness with God that our face was
radiant, like how much we would be changed on the inside. So you all caught part of that, but I was
talking about Moses. If you, if you go and check out that story, I believe God wants to make us
radiant in the same way as he heals us and restores us to even greater than we were before we were
broken. Okay, radiance comes from the Father. All right, who is willing to share with the whole group
what you shared in your private breakout group?
Mackenzie, I'd love to have you share. Go ahead.
Hi, um, two things, um, that I will never date or marry a pastor. That's a thing. And then people
are like, really? Because I see you marry a pastor. And I, every time I'm like, I would never date or
marry a pastor. So I got to come out of agreement with that. And then I will never date or marry a
Jake, because my sister has dated two or three Jakes, and they've all been bad. And then I've
dated two Jakes, and it was really bad. And so that was something that I need to come out of
agreement with. Yeah, and you all, not to not to make it too kooky, but sometimes too, when we
partner with this kind of stuff, it can actually attract those kind of unhealthy people to us with
those names. It's kind of intriguing, but it really can happen. We don't have to be afraid of
it. We just need to be aware when we see patterns and cycles like that happening that y'all that's
when we're, we need, we should be like, God, this is weird. Why do you think that are unhealthy?
Keep being attracted to my sister or myself or whatever. And he'll, he'll start to, you know,
God's always talking. Sometimes it's just, we have to learn how he's talking to us. Everybody
hears differently y'all. Okay. So if you hear someone else talking, even myself, like, Hey,
I heard God say this, or God was showing me this. Don't get discouraged. If you don't hear God in
that same way in this season, you might hear God differently, or you might be in your season of
growing to know if, or when God is talking to you and how he is. Okay. So I'd like to plug that.
Um, so Mackenzie on this, um, I'm curious why don't you ever want to marry or date a pastor
is like, did this start from seeing something happen that was hard or where did that start for
you? Um, I think even my parents were not pastors, but they were the same type of, uh,
like role in the church that I grew up in. And so that was, that was a big thing of seeing
the negative impacts on the children actually is part of it. So I have thought like, I don't want
to, um, put that on my kids. And then, um, that's part of it. And then also just.
the, and this is going to set, this is like really honest, but I like to live a bougie
life and I feel like they don't always get paid very well. So that's a real moment, but
yeah.
Hey, and I love this because I think this is what's really important. You all, we have
to get really real with ourselves because I'm not saying that God is going to send
you someone that's a pastor. Okay. We don't know. You will know when the day comes, but
what I am going to say to you and to everyone else here is if we have these lists, what
if God actually has an amazing person packaged with all kinds of incredible gifts, they'll
treat you amazing, but they're a pastor or they're in ministry.
And so you're just like, I'm not going to talk to him, you know? So it's where we surrender
that pen to the Lord and just really ask God to lead us to the spirit mate that is
the best for us. Okay. And then on the bougie thing, here's what I'm going to say about
that. I don't disagree. Okay. In some places and some, it is, it is hard. Okay. Cause especially
a smaller church, they might not have a lot of budget and all that, but here's, here's
my honest thing that God had to really shift me out of that because I used to be terrified
of the same thing years ago when I was actually pursuing my ministry credentials, we, we,
we went to a pastor's house. This was when I was married before. And there was a hole
in the person's floor in the kitchen. And I just was like, I don't ever want to live
like that. So I just want you to know, it's a very human thing to like our nice stuff.
Can we let go of this stuff in this world? Yeah, we can. We can. Will it, would it be
hard at times? Yeah. For some, it'll be harder than others, but I think it's good for us
to get to the place where we're just open. But the other thing I wanted to say that I
think is really good. And I think this will stretch a lot of people. What if God teaches
you and your former, like your spirit mate that was coming on the way, how to invest
your money. And you guys are really good stewards with the money that you have. And you end
up having more money than other people that have really bougie jobs. You know, I think
it's a mindset shift ladies. Okay. So we got it. We have to just really, really surrender
all these things that hinder us from just being wide open to receive. Okay. All right.
Awesome. Share. I love it. I love when you guys get real and transparent. It's good.
All right, Maria, go ahead. This beautiful girl in my group, she said that she, she was
afraid of guys seeing that she was weird. And that, that kind of made me realize that
I had that fear too. I have that fear. And I used to be like very much like that where
I met my late husband, but then I remembered that he was hot and he was weird like me,
but he was still hot. And then I realized like, I'm also hot. Oh, kind of cute. So it
doesn't mean that. Oh yeah. And I'm really weird. Like I'm not. So tell me this is important.
What does weird mean? What does that mean to you? I attend a church where they are not
that much into the supernatural. So I have to kind of dump it down and are into the supernatural
or they're not kind of, not really. I just couldn't hear what you said. Not really. Very
little. Yeah. Okay. That's okay. And also I, the things I like, I guess I'm too much
of a reader of a library mouse. How do you say it in English? I read too much. I'm studying
all the time and I found someone like me and that was nice, but I don't see too many people
like him around anymore. So since he, yeah, bookworm. Yeah, that I'm that. So I don't
see a lot of people like him anymore around me. And when some guys start trying to kind
of hit on me, I say like, I'm thinking like, yeah, if they knew how weird I am and how
boring they are really to me that this is not going to go well. So, but then I realized
that there are also other people like me that believe they are like bookworms too. And they
feel they are like really weird and they expect to find someone like me.
Is it like I would like someone I could really, really talk to?
How many people think that you're weird?
We're going to dive into this a little bit tonight.
Oh, hands up.
Let's see it.
My father, my mother.
Oh, no.
Hold on.
Okay.
Wait, Maria, hold that thought for a minute.
I'm going to go into that with you in a minute.
I want to see how many people in this in this live session tonight.
You believe the lie that you are weird.
Are there more?
Okay.
This is where we're going.
I knew God was going to do something that I didn't have planned.
We're going to go into this a little bit tonight.
Okay.
I want you to keep your hands up for me because I want to see all of
you right where I can see them.
Okay.
So,
so the question is how quirky can go along with that?
If you think quirky is a negative thing.
And Laurie says something interesting here. I don't think it's a lie.
I love being weird. Okay. Well, maybe, but here's the thing.
Do y'all know that that's also a self-protection mechanism right
there?
Working at its finest.
Okay.
And here's why I'm saying this.
Okay.
Who told you that liking to read books was weird?
I know this is such a simple thing,
but we need to talk about this because this is really important.
I'm wanting to, I want to talk to you a little bit.
About.
Okay.
So,
so the first thing that I'm going to say is that not only did they
not like to read books,
but they didn't know how to cope with it.
And funnily enough,
they thought they were weird because they liked to read books a lot
too, when they were younger.
Well, when we kept unpacking it more.
You all what happened is when they went through trauma and I'm not
saying everybody is like this. Okay.
But I'm just giving you an example.
When they went through trauma, when they were very little.
And they didn't know how to cope with it.
And it wasn't just that they didn't know how to cope with it.
It was because they felt like there was a problem.
And so it's not just that they didn't know how to cope with it.
It's that they felt like they were,
they felt like they were in a room and reading all the time.
Again, I'm not saying this is why everyone,
I think there are just genuine people who love to read and it doesn't
have to be because of trauma. Okay.
There's there's multiple reasons why, but some of you.
Because you turn to that and someone criticized it or made fun of
you.
Somewhere.
In your path.
You have now partnered with.
I am weird.
And then you tell yourself, well, I love that. I'm weird.
I don't care if people think I'm weird because somewhere along the way,
someone actually hurt you.
And the only way for you to protect yourself was to tell yourself that.
I feel the Holy spirit on this.
So I know some people are going to get set free.
So I want to start to talk about this a little bit more.
I want you to start putting in the chat.
And Maria, you can tell us out loud.
Who told you that you were weird.
My mom.
Go ahead and put that in the chat for me and Maria,
you can share out loud for us.
Who was the first person that you remember?
Saying you were weird.
My mother.
My father, my siblings.
Okay. Tell me why.
The rest of my family.
I think we live by a different set of values, I guess.
Was there a certain situation though,
that made you feel weird?
I don't know.
They're like very, very, very social.
And I'm not really that social.
And.
Yeah.
They always said like, I'm kind of too intellectual or something.
I guess.
Yeah.
I was sexually abused.
Like three times when I was a little girl.
So.
I was sexually abused.
Like three times when I was a little girl.
So social situations seemed like dangerous to.
Okay.
Do you see why this is.
Can you all see what's happening here?
I hope everyone's kind of dialed into this.
I don't know.
I don't know what you're seeing. It's always this stuff you all.
But do you want to know what's interesting?
This other woman that I was coaching about this.
She also was sexually abused.
And felt like she was weird.
Because she read books a lot and people, kids,
her parents didn't make fun of her.
Like they were worried that she was shutting people out.
Her parents were worried about her.
And so their concern and worry kind of added pressure,
which they didn't mean to,
but then kids at school were making fun of her.
And so this is how the enemy comes in.
And so here's what we're gonna do with this.
I really want you all to really,
those of you, especially that have your hands up,
and maybe for those of you that don't have your hands up,
maybe yours wasn't someone saying you're weird.
Maybe yours was someone said you were fat.
Maybe someone said you were too short.
Maybe whatever someone labeled you as that was negative,
I want you to start writing that stuff on your paper,
because this is the stuff God wants to help you
be set free from this week.
So sometimes what can happen
is people, when they don't know how to handle the trauma,
even adults,
when they don't know how to help their kids
process what happened,
and they fear that their kid is isolating
and they're going into the books
and they're not engaging like the other kids,
instead of knowing what to do with that.
And again, I'm not saying it's okay,
but like I have compassion for those parents too,
because y'all sometimes,
even my spiritual daughters,
they're 21 and soon to be 19 this week.
And sometimes I'm like, man,
like, what are you doing with your life?
I mean, I don't always say that to them,
but just, you know, it's hard as a parent to navigate
when you know why they're making decisions
that they're making,
but it's still really hard to see them doing that.
And when they're younger, again,
how did the parents navigate it?
Can we forgive those that said that stuff to us?
I think that's gonna be a key part of this for all of you,
forgiving the people that said this stuff to you,
but I really wanna encourage you all
to come out of partnership and agreement
and alignment with that you're weird,
because you're not.
Okay.
Y'all, I was different than the other people in my family.
I used to go sit out in the yard and just like draw.
I don't know if my family called me weird.
I remember feeling like an outsider
and I was really different from my family
and I was creative and all these things.
And out of all of my family,
I was the only one that told about the abuse.
So then I was labeled even more as like the outsider,
didn't get invited to my oldest brother's wedding.
All of my family was invited.
Nobody stood up for me.
Y'all, there's, of course, did I feel weird?
Yes, I did.
I felt like an outsider.
I felt forgotten.
It was broken, rejection.
I mean, so many things, you name it.
But here's the thing.
God kept saying, you're chosen.
You're mine.
You're beloved.
You're beautiful.
You're fearfully and wonderfully made.
He didn't make mistakes, you all.
And so now trauma, when it entered,
that did cause that fissure in those fractions.
And so we can ask and invite the Lord
to come into those areas again,
or new areas that are getting revealed to you
and ask for more healing.
But I really, sincerely, y'all,
I don't want you saying over yourselves anymore
that you're weird.
Okay, remember this, I love you.
And so I'm saying this out of love.
I don't want you to say out loud over yourselves anymore,
I'm weird, or I'm so stupid.
Maybe that's some of you.
Maybe that's what you tell yourself.
Oh my gosh, that's such a dumb thing.
Why would I do that?
Y'all ever, does anyone ever say that?
Like, I used to.
Y'all, I used to accidentally run into a wall
and apologize to the wall.
If you think I'm joking, I'm not.
I was made to feel sorry for things
that weren't even my fault as a kid.
And that carried into my adulthood,
saying I was sorry and taking responsibility for people
that it wasn't my responsibility.
Therefore, running into, I can laugh about it now,
and I can remember a couple of times being like,
why did I just say I'm sorry to the wall?
That is so, as I got more healing.
But back in the day, I mean, I felt bad that I ran into,
I felt stupid.
That's what, at the core, that's what it was.
I felt stupid for running into the wall.
And that's why I was like, oh, sorry.
You know, try to play it off.
So I hope this is resonating for y'all a little bit.
I wanna kind of piggyback off of this.
Is there anyone else that either you have your hand up
or you don't, that wants-
to share part of what you went through. It could be related to this or it could be totally different
and you have a question about it tonight.
And you can just unmute yourself and share if you do.
I know I kind of left it wide open for a little bit. Y'all aren't used to this, right?
I'll use a quick example if that's okay. Yeah, go ahead. When I was growing up,
my house was very dirty and it was very embarrassing. And so I would have
neighbors like tell us as little kids, go home and help your parents clean.
Or I mean, so by the time I was in high school, I thought I'll never get a boyfriend because
no one's going to like me because my house isn't,
I don't know, a standard. It's up to standard or whatever. Yeah. So do you struggle to
be out of balance the other way with keeping your house clean now?
Yeah. Like if I hear people critique somebody's house a certain way, I like, I come home. I'm
always critical of every, I'm not a perfectionist, but if it doesn't look good enough, it weighs on
me nonstop. Okay. So this is so good. Thank you for sharing. And Maria, thank you for sharing
earlier as well. So while this is coming up tonight and it's connecting, I do think this
is connected. I love that you brought up the fact of a house and how you grew up and what
other people said to you because of the house that you grew up in. I mean, y'all,
do you see how all these things y'all, these are important things coming up tonight.
And so I would encourage you, like some of you need to forgive your parents for not taking care
of the home that you lived in. And you had to hear mean things that people said to you were about your
family. And that was hard, totally unrelated, but this is coming up in my spirit. So I'm going to
share it. My 16th birthday, we were out at this park, this beach place. My mom planned this
beautiful birthday party. All my friends were there. And my sister was there. My sister was
my family on my mom's side has struggled with their weight most of my life. And I saw my mom
and my sister hide food a lot. Like it was just a lot of dysfunction surrounding food.
My sister was really overweight. And y'all, when I say this, I'm being real transparent.
And I didn't like it because people made fun of her and it affected me. And all of my friends
were there this, this one day. And I mean, I love my sister, but we were, we were swimming
and, you know, she had her bathing suit on and we were all having fun. But of course, like some
kids who weren't healthy teenagers were, you know, we were a teenage at this time, obviously
we're calling her a whale. And I was so embarrassed, but I still stood up for her.
And I'm glad that I did, but y'all that, that I can remember just sometimes not wanting my sister
to go places with me. And I feel terrible for that, but this is, this is coming up for a reason
tonight. And I believe some of us, we need to forgive ourselves. Some of us, we need to forgive
other people. You know, my sister struggled with weight. It wasn't her fault. People called her
those things, but sometimes my sister did and said things that drew attention to herself.
She always had to be rough and tough and mean, and she would start fights with people and then
it would just escalate. And that's how that situation happened that day. I think if she
hadn't done some of the things she said and did, I don't know if it would have escalated to them
saying that to her. And so I think that, you know, the Lord is just trying to do some housekeeping
in your hearts and really like, maybe some of you people called you those kinds of names
somewhere. Forgiving those people, Lord, I just forgive them right now, those kids at that park.
And, and I just thank you, God, that you redeem also, he redeems all situations you all.
So I don't know what your situations might be, but we are going to talk a little bit about
confession and repentance. I think it's a good segue into it. Um, I won't go probably as far
into the content tonight. You guys have a ton of content on that in your book, in the coursework,
in the videos, but I.
Do you want to draw it a couple of things?
Cause I feel like it's like tonight's session is leading us there.
And so I want to be obedient to that as well.
So if y'all think about repentance, what it means is a literal turning away.
It's a turning away from something that we've been doing, something we've been
thinking, something we've been partnering with, you know, obviously it involves
in our lives and we choose to turn away from that and go towards the other thing.
So maybe you, maybe, um, in the past you've struggled with criticizing people.
Gossiping, maybe it's insecurities that you have self-hatred toward, you know,
hatred towards yourself.
That's what self-hatred is, or maybe hatred towards other people, certain
ethnicities, certain people, groups, whatever.
Maybe your struggles are overeating.
Maybe your struggles are negative self self-talk or negative thought
patterns that you get stuck in.
Maybe it's a sexual related struggle.
So this can be all kinds of stuff you all, but these are some big ones.
Sex before marriage, pornography, addictions, lust, fantasizing
about being with people.
Okay.
That's that goes with the lust struggles with authority, angry inside, and
then outbursts because of them.
We don't always know the why, like why we do these things, why we
struggle with these things, but God does.
God knows the why behind our what you all.
Okay.
And he wants to help all of you heal in all of these areas.
The Holy spirit is the one that's your counselor, your comforter and your
guide, and he will partner with you.
But the Holy spirit, just like I've kind of been talking to you all, God is a
gentleman.
He doesn't force the door down.
He doesn't come in and push his way in.
It's an invitation.
He knocks on the door of our heart and we have the choice to respond in it and an
answer and open the door unto him.
The Holy spirit is our comforter, our counselor, our guide.
He comes alongside of us.
And in my imagination, I just always envisioned like he just takes me by the
Like, and he just, he just shows me the way to go.
And so that is what he wants to do in your life, uh, tonight and in the days
ahead, when we repent, we, we not only change directions, but it's a change of
mind, body, and spirit.
So it's all, it's all of us, everything that we are made up of choosing to go in
a new direction.
James 5 16 says, therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each
other so that you might be healed.
The prayer of a righteous man avails much when we don't confess what we don't
confess, we remain tethered to.
Okay.
Y'all will hear me.
Um, some of my ladies that have been with me for a while, I've heard me talk
about the tether.
I talk about that a little more in detail.
When we go into the forgiveness week, we just did that a couple of weeks ago.
So I'm not going to go back into that tonight, but a tether, just the short
version tonight, if you can imagine yourself tied to something that you remain
tied to.
Okay.
So when we can, when we don't confess sin and we don't repent and turn away from
it, we remain tethered to that.
This can also cause blind spots for us.
Okay.
In all different kinds of areas.
So what I want you to talk about in your breakout now, is there an area you need
to confess tonight?
Is there something you need to confess about?
Again, you're not trying to fix anybody.
This is just a safe space for someone to share.
Hey, I've been struggling with this and I need to confess this tonight.
And that's, that's it.
Y'all.
Okay.
You don't, again, you don't have to necessarily pray for each other.
You don't have to convince each other.
Um, just love each other, give each other that safe space.
And I want to encourage you.
Um, just like, I mean, that story was about like my sister and me, but like,
y'all feel the impact when somebody is vulnerable and transparent, doesn't
it bring walls down a little bit?
Yeah.
So I'm going to encourage you, um, to do that as well.
Don't feel like you have to share every single detail.
Like there were so many other details to that story that I told you all
about the, the day at the beach.
Um, but that was high level what I was sharing with you.
Okay.
So keep things kind of higher level.
It's a little easier for people to hear our stories when we do.
Okay.
All right.
I'm going to create new rooms so you are, you all can meet some new people.
Um, Oh.
I want to go the other direction. Sorry, there we go.
Alright, go ahead and click to join those.
Hi, Kim. All right. Perfect. I think everyone's in. Awesome.
Thank you, Lord, so much for tonight. God, thank you for what
you're already doing. In all of our hearts, God, I thank you for
freedom and truth and revelation. God, I thank you for
just taking us from where we have been into where you want to
take us in the days ahead. God, I thank you for repentance. I
thank you, Jesus, that you died and you took all of our sin
upon yourself on the cross because you loved us and you
wanted to create a way for us to be one with you as you are one
with the Father. I thank you that your blood covers all of
our sin, that it takes it from that crimson red and makes us
white as snow. We just thank you for that redemption. We thank
you for that healing. We thank you for your grace, God, that
when we make mistakes, that you cover us. You cover all those
involved. We thank you for, yeah, Lord, Jesus, we thank you
for the power of your name and by your spirit and by your blood,
Jesus, we bind and break every spirit of unforgiveness, any
spirits of bitterness, resentment. And just as I'm
praying and thinking about families and places that we tend
to struggle, God, that you would bind and break any
spirits of anger, wrath, malice, any kind of outburst or rage,
any self-hatred, self-loathing, self-pity in Jesus' name. We
thank you that you bind all those up. And we thank you,
Jesus, that by the power of your blood, that in the heavenly
realm, that you will lose spirits of love and of power and
of a sound mind, spirits of forgiveness, spirits of
reconciliation, spirits of peace and of love and of joy.
God, I thank you that you would fill us up to overflowing, that
you would heal us from the inside out, that you would help
us to hear your spirit more clearly, that in every
situation, when we live and we even have our being, that it
would be in you. Cover us on every side from every attack of
the enemy and help us to know, God, that you are with us, that
you will hide us under the cleft of your rock. As I was
sharing with the ladies earlier about Moses, that was one of the
times that I remembered reading in the Bible about the cleft of
the rock, but God's glory was so powerful that he said that he
would hide him in the cleft of the rock when he passed by. And
so, Lord, I thank you that you protect us even from the power
of your glory, but God, you help us to be able to come close to
you. We thank you that you are just in my spirit, ladies. I'm
hearing that he's giving people new names. He's writing new
stories. We thank you that you are making rivers in the desert
and streams in the wasteland. And we thank you, God, that
you're helping us to, yeah, Lord, just give us an upgrade
in our mind and our mindsets, that you would help us just to
cast down every thought and imagination that's from the
enemy and that we would take those thoughts captive and make
them obedient to Jesus Christ, that we would lay aside every
weight that so easily ensnares us and we would press on toward
the high calling of God for our lives, and that we would, yeah,
Lord, just that we would every day say, Lord, what do you want
to show me about myself today? What do you want me to hear
about myself today? Help me to hear your voice, Lord, louder
than any voice of the enemy, louder than any roaring of the
lion. We thank you, God, that you would lift us up out of the
muck and the mire and the clay and set our feet upon the rock
that is you, God. We thank you that you would help us to think
on things that are pure, noble, lovely, true. I could say those
backwards and have good report, but you know, Lord, what I'm
saying. So, Lord, we thank you that you would help us to have a
little bit more heavenly mindset. Lord, help us to become
more rooted and grounded in your love every day, that we would
know you, God, as love, that we would partner with you in love,
God, that we would believe the best in people, even in
ourselves. Lord, so many people are so hard on themselves. Lord,
we thank you that you would help every one of these ladies to see
themselves through your lens through your eyes. God help them
to hear what your spirit is saying to them. We thank you,
God, that you are making. Yeah, just I hear all things new again
in my spirit. So we just thank you for that truth. Sorry,
ladies, I'm a little something's a little stuffy going
on. As I've been on this session tonight. Psalm nine, nine, all
who are oppressed may come to you as a shelter in the time of
trouble, a perfect hiding place. That guy's with that cleft of
the rock. So we just thank you that you're our perfect hiding
place in times of trouble. God, we thank you that you remember.
Yeah, Luke eight, 17 through 19 says this because this
revelation lamp now shines within you nothing will be
hidden from you. It will all be revealed every secret of the
kingdom will be unveiled and out in the open made known by the
revelation light. So pay careful attention to your hearts as you
hear my teaching. For to those who have open hearts, even more
revelation will be given to them until it overflows. And for
those who do not listen with open hearts, what little light
they imagine to have will be taken away. So Lord, I thank you
that you'll help us to have hearts that are open. That
aren't shut down that aren't walled up. God, we thank you
that you can. Yeah, you just come in the difficult places and
you invite us out. You invite us out of the places where we shut
down and shut people out and you invite us to take your hand and
come into the wide open spaces with you. I just saw like an
image as I said that in my mind's eye like in my spirit of
like a horse that is wild. Being led out to pasture and just
being in this wide open place that they can run and just be
free and live life and so we just thank you for helping us to
understand what the good good life looks like sounds like
feels like the abundant life that you have for us and that
you would help us to partner with truth in every area of our
life so that we can step further into that good good life that
you have for us. Ephesians 612 says we are we are not fighting
against flesh and blood enemies but against evil rulers and
authorities of the unseen world against mighty powers in this
dark world and against evil spirits in the heavenly places.
Y'all devil's trying to bring sickness on me even while I'm
coaching. It's so weird. I got this really bad earache right
before I came on tonight. So Lord, we just thank you for
healing right now. And whether it's in my body or if this is
just coming up because someone else on here needs healing God
we thank you for healing being released from heaven. I thank
you for divine healing oil washing over every area that we
need healing God for your healing balm coming on every
wound that you would help us Lord God to receive your joy to
receive your blessing to receive the gifts of heaven.
Psalm 119 165 says there is such a great peace and well being
that comes to the lovers of your word. They will never be
offended. God we thank you that you help us when we are offended
to ask you God where we can receive an upgrade because we do
believe that offense is an opportunity for an upgrade. Help
us to love your word more and more in Jesus name. Amen. Who is
willing to share with the whole group? What you shared in your
breakout? Hey, Tammy, go for it. Short, brief and powerful girl.
Short, brief and powerful. Hello. What I was hearing was
that sometimes I'm not I'm dishonoring with one of my my
roommates. She's older than me. And we all have to put that
personality. And so I tend to be like, Come on, keep going.
Let's go. You know, and, and, but sometimes I know, I'm quick
with my words and not always so compassionate. And in that, you
know, we all have levels of openness. And so instead of me
being more understanding, I'm not always understanding. And
then I need to get back when I was married. I got that all the
time with a lot of put down and stuff like that. And I'm like,
okay, you know, but, you know, before one can lead. This is
like a test for me, you know, having been passing the test
very well. So that's my confession. I'm done.
That was really good.
Um, so I want to encourage you to shift out of thinking that this is a test because tests
mean pass or fail.
I want you to think of it more as an opportunity to grow.
Okay.
Because you just know in your background, Tammy too, and some of the things that you've
come out of, you've been healing so much, but I think the enemy tries to always get
you back into your, your good or your bad.
Does that make sense?
And so while tests, like, I don't think you meant anything by it, that stood out to me.
And so I want to encourage you to shift out of that.
Um, while you might be struggling with this right now, I believe that God is even having
you share because you're about to, to break free.
And I think you're going to start to see a shift in even how you're feeling in the situations.
And, um, um, what came to mind when you were talking as well is just, again, that reminder
of, okay.
Is some of this learned behavior, you know, is it our go-to because that's what we learned
growing up.
And we kind of went into those things, you know, and so really working to build new habits
takes time.
And so I'm not making an excuse, but just be graceful towards yourself.
Okay.
So set those goals, take small little steps every day.
Like if you sense yourself in that dishonoring place, words, you know, really keep a short
account and, you know, maybe just start journaling and just, even in that journal, like flip
the switch.
Okay.
Instead of thinking this dishonorable thought or saying this thing with a quick, you know,
What's the flip side of that holding our tongue and then saying something kind, right?
So really practicing and building those muscles, y'all, even myself lately, I feel like the
enemy.
Uh, we used to do negativity fast in this, in this community and, uh, that's, what's
coming up.
So we might, some of us might need to practice that negativity fast.
That means we've, we fast negativity, saying negative things, doing negative things, thinking
negative things.
And so if you really struggle with a lot of negative negativity and self-deprecating thoughts
and things like that, you might want to go ahead and grab that for yourself and maybe
start on that journey of kind of cleansing of negativity.
Okay.
Tammy.
Great job.
Thank you so much, Katie, go ahead.
So what came up for me was around doubt and, you know, really choosing to continue to fight
against doubt that the Lord's promises are for me and what I know he's promised he's
going to fulfill.
I turned 40 in August and that's a big mile marker and never been married, no kids.
And what feels like delay holding onto, um, the promises and pushing against the world
that says whatever they're saying, I'm not listening.
So, um, yeah.
And I think what is it without faith?
It's impossible to please God.
So in ways that's, you know, choosing to not allow him being in my life or choosing to
not believe his goodness towards me.
And I see it in every other area of my life.
So I know he's good.
So what does the doubt sound like?
Tell me what it sounds like when it rises up for you.
Um, it's almost like, uh, it's not going to happen.
It is, especially around the children's space.
I still would like to have children, multiple children and, um, you know, just, I, I have
gone to doctors that I've talked about this and it wasn't, she just said something really
negative.
Like, oh, it's not that.
It's more your age that I'd be worried about.
And this was a couple of years ago, you know, so that's a little bit in my head.
Um, yeah, and most people around me are married or have been married at my age, remarried
best friend.
So what does the doubt sound like to you?
What does it sound like?
Yeah.
Like, so you, you said one, it's not going to happen.
Are there any other lies that things?
So that's what I mean.
Like, what does it sound like when you feel or struggle with doubt?
What does it sound like to you?
What are things that you think are here a lot?
When you feel that struggle without happening?
That's a good question.
It's definitely a negative feeling.
Okay. And this is, this is where you can take this and grow on this after tonight. Okay. So just
be asking the Lord or be really like, kind of like, okay, I, I'm feeling doubt right now. Like
what, uh, what other things are happening right now? Okay. Did something trigger it? Did someone
say something? Did you see an image on social media? You know, some of y'all I, okay. I wasn't
planning on saying that either. Some of y'all might need to cut back on your social media
scrolling in this season, because I'll know about you all, but sometimes when we see stuff,
we are happy for other people, but man, doesn't it tend to make feed that doubt for us? If we
see other people getting, and then we get into the comparison trap game, whatever it's about,
whether it's a job, a house, a baby, a marriage, you know? So if you're really struggling to keep
your mind on positive and truth, you might need to kind of just back off of the social media for
a little while because the enemy loves to trip people up there. The other thing that I want to
encourage you to do is just, um, kind of track if there are certain times that you struggle with
doubt more. Okay. For example, cycle time. Okay. Female cycle. What I mean, is it in the morning?
Is it at night? You know, like where you're really starting to see and hone in. Okay. Does
the enemy try to attack me with doubt at nighttime when I'm tired or after I've had a really hard
week at the end of the week? And I I'm typically people, it kind of is cyclical. Okay. They might
do really good. And then they really struggle without for like a few days or a week or whatever.
And it's typically around things. Sometimes people just struggle without constantly until
they overcome it. Okay. The one thing I want to encourage you all on as well is, um, getting
really comfortable and, um, feeling strong in the scripture that says, I believe help my unbelief.
Okay. A man wanted his daughter healed. And he said, I believe Lord helped my unbelief. Like
he felt both things. And I believe that when we acknowledge what we, that we are in that place,
we don't want to stay there. We acknowledge like, God, I don't want to feel unbelief. I don't want
to have unbelief, but some days it's hard. Like I believe, but help me in my unbelief.
And what you're saying when, when we do that, we're saying, God, I need more faith.
Can you impart a gift of faith in me so that I can believe y'all know that the faith is something
that we have, but it is also a gift that God can impart into you. Some of you might need to start
asking God for the gift of faith to believe, but you also need to overcome the lies. Okay.
Cause God can keep giving you the gift, but your lies like a hole in your pocket and all the change
just keeps falling out. Okay. So you gotta, you gotta have both. Okay. But when you start to feel
that momentum growing, it's because that hole's getting patched up and that stuff's not falling
right out anymore. And God's giving you that faith and he's pouring in your hopes grow in,
and you're in this community and, and you're getting filled with life and truth. And then
you're like, Oh my gosh, like if you did it for them, you can do it for me. Instead of
it never happens for me. It only happens for everybody else.
And that's the switches. Those shifts are the things that are going to be like right in front
of you all often. And we, we all get to choose when we come to a crossroads, which way we're
going to go. Okay. And there's no shame. If you're struggling, just say you're struggling.
I promise in the group, we're going to, we're going to rally around you and cheer you on. Okay.
But yeah, so Katie, go on that path with the Lord and really just start paying attention to when
that's happening and let's see what God reveals to you in the process. Okay. And then I'd be,
I'd love as God shows that to you, for you to come in the group and share a little bit more about it,
because I think you'll start to see other lies that you're believing and we can kind of help
you through that as well. Okay. Awesome. Shelley, go ahead. Okay. But I want her to,
I want Shelley to be able to share. Okay. So I was just sharing in the group that what came
to my mind when you were talking about what I needed to repent of is I feel like I am,
or I am overly critical of my mom. And even if I don't say it out loud, I think it in my mind,
but somehow my criticism of her is always to reassure myself that I'm all right, because.
Um, my mom was always very critical of me and like my, like who I am, we're very different.
She's a CPA, very practical, and I'm a kindergarten teacher and I've said, you know, um, so anyways,
yeah.
So somehow my criticism of her is like this backdoor way in of telling myself, you're
fine.
You wouldn't do that.
You wouldn't think about that person like that.
Look how judgmental she is.
You don't think like that.
You wouldn't do that, but it's to affirm myself somehow.
This is so good, Shelley.
So when do you see that normally happening?
Is there something in particular that she's saying?
I know you're saying like sometimes she'll say stuff, but are there other times that
you feel like that's kind of kicking into gear for you?
Yeah, it's, um, like I'll see, um, you know, she'll comment on someone's outfit, which
is not a big deal, but like she'll comment on someone's outfit or on someone's weight
or, um, you know, just her, her reaction.
Like she'll make a big deal about things that to me would be a little deal.
Like who cares?
And I'll think to myself, Oh, well, I wouldn't do that.
My immediate reaction is a comparison that I wouldn't do it.
Like I'm propping myself up as better than her, you know?
Yeah.
Okay.
But here's my question for you.
I'm not saying that's wrong because I do think God doesn't want you to judge your mom or
criticize her, but I don't know, let me, let me ask you this.
When you were younger, did you feel like your mom was really critical of you?
Yes.
Oh yeah.
Very much so.
So do you think that maybe what's happening here is actually a self-protection mechanism
because you are protecting yourself and other people because when she used to criticize
you as hurtful, so you don't like when she criticizes other people either as like a protection
thing.
Oh yeah.
That's possible for sure.
Yeah.
Or like I'm not validate her, um, criticism of someone, you know, like I'm not going to
give any validation to it.
Yeah.
I almost feel like it's more that Shelly.
I think that while you are saying I wouldn't do that, I think that's coming from the places
of trauma that still need healed where your mom said things that hurt you personally.
Okay.
Yeah.
Makes sense.
Yeah.
So asking the Lord, if there's any, even if you've already done some forgiveness work
with your mom, excuse me, if there's anything that the Lord brings up, uh, this week just
regarding like, Hey Lord, is, is there anything that my mom said that I don't even remember
that I, that's still causing me to like really feel judgmental or critical towards her or
to just feel really uncomfortable when she's negative.
Maybe it was growing up and you felt like your mom was super negative and you, so it
just, you kind of like are repelled by that.
Does that make sense?
It does.
Absolutely.
Yeah.
So I'm not going to stay in those places, ladies, but those places also happen, at least
from my experience.
And maybe that's why this stood out to me.
My mom was super negative.
My mom was manipulative.
I love her.
My mom is no longer with me.
So I always try to be really careful when I tell the stories about my mom, but it was
very hard to be around her for me.
Not because I'm perfect.
I, I have to watch my critical mind too and judgmental stuff.
That's where the enemy used to always try to trip me up.
But here's why you all, because my whole family line on my mom's side, that's how they were.
And I saw it growing up and I didn't like it.
And so I made a vow.
We're going to circle back around to the vows here and then we'll start to close.
I made a vow that I would never be like my mom.
So I had to forgive my mom for the things that she was saying and doing to me and to
other people out of her own pain and hurt, hurt people, hurt people, hurt people also
criticize and demean other people.
Okay.
And so forgive her, forgive the incidences that were down underneath the surface.
And I still work on things you all, I still do even long after my mom's passed away over
two years ago.
And God shows me things still, you know, recently just that I'm working on forgiving and letting
go and releasing, but yeah, really lean into that, Shelly.
I think there's something really important to that for you.
Okay.
And I feel like that's going to be tied to some of the healing you've been walking through
as well physically.
Okay.
Thank you.
You're welcome.
Ladies.
This has been so fun.
I hope.
Hope that you are really enjoying engaging,
getting to know each other in these breakout sessions.
I wanna encourage you.
It was so fun.
Some of you came in and did your introduction post
in the group and you are amazing.
I love seeing you.
Our team loves seeing you.
I know, I'm pretty sure the other ladies in this group
love seeing you.
If you haven't done introduction posts yet,
even if you are almost finished with this course,
I would love for you to do an introduction post.
If you've already come in and shared here and there,
but for those of you that are still kind of like,
I'm not sure if I even wanna say anything,
I wanna encourage you to go all in.
Go all in, come into the group and post
and let yourself be seen and heard and known in every way.
Father, thank you so much for your amazing work tonight.
God, we thank you that you, God just love us so much.
I pray that you would just, yeah, Lord,
just as Jackie was saying,
it's not like you're reaching down from heaven up above,
you're heaven on Saturday.
She was talking about surrounds us, it's all around us.
But Lord, would you just help us
to feel a hug from you tonight?
Just help every one of these ladies,
even as they're sleeping, that you would come in
and do supernatural heart surgery.
God, that you would bring sale of rest,
that you would help us to just feel your love
and your presence and your comfort,
that you would take us out of these dark places,
these broken places, the places of pain,
and help us to step into the places of life
and renewal and redemption and healing and grace.
And we just thank you for it, Lord, in Jesus' name.
All right, y'all, activations.
I almost forgot.
Act, oh, Sarah, the introduction post.
Inside of the Last Year Single app group,
when you click on the community tab,
you'll see there's different tabs there.
The introduction post, if you do those in the All tab,
that's where we've been having everybody put those.
We'd love to see you there.
Okay, activations.
I almost forgot.
Practice letting men help you
or people in general helping you.
But here's the one I actually wrote on my paper.
So you guys have two again.
I keep giving y'all two.
Sometimes you guys do, and sometimes you don't.
But it's okay, they'll stay in your mind.
Some of you guys might do these even well into phase two.
I wanna activate fun this week.
As you all are working on heart work,
it can get hard, right?
And some days it can feel heavy.
And so it's important for us to get our bodies moving.
If you didn't know, drinking plenty of water is critical.
Getting extra rest is really important.
Treat your body well.
But having fun is so important too.
So we're gonna activate fun.
And this is how we're gonna do it.
I wanna encourage you to go out
and activate your inner child,
your inner little girl self,
and do something fun like get on the swings and swing.
If you are physically able,
hey, my older ladies may not be able to do this.
Bless you.
Some of you might be able to do it
better than the younger ones,
but I just want you to be careful.
Climb a tree.
That's what I was gonna say.
Climb a tree.
Jump in rain puddles.
Be silly and do something you love doing as a kid.
Maybe go buy Play-Doh and play with Play-Doh.
I don't know.
Whatever the things are that make you,
kind of take you to that place.
As a kid, maybe you need to have a PJ party
with a girlfriend or two and paint nails.
And literally like PJ party, hang out, laugh,
giggle, watch a funny movie, practice laughing.
Some of you, that's what you need to do.
You need to watch a clean, funny movie and laugh.
And when you do, some of you guys are gonna end up crying
because the laughter is good medicine
and it might open the door to the other.
So if that happens, don't worry.
It's normal.
But if you just laugh, that's okay too.
Okay?
And if you're brave enough, take a photo.
Yes.
Take a photo on that.
Don't do it when you're up in there.
On the swing and show us that you're swinging
and you're having fun and tell us how that impacted you.
All these things add up y'all to supernatural breakthrough.
We love you and we look forward to seeing you in the group.
I hope you guys have a great night.
Okay?
God bless you.