Hi y'all. Welcome, welcome to our single city moderators meeting. We are so excited to be here with you all tonight and, you know, we're going to be doing some good announcements connecting with you all and just really talking through some like things that we're going to be doing in the days ahead.
So we want to start with we have some new single cities launching, and we have some new single city moderators that are taking over previous single cities so want to make sure we have some time for them to just say hi introduce themselves, but we do have Hopi,
who really who's here new with us tonight, and Stephanie Hathaway as well so Hopi is going to be in New York City. And then Stephanie is our new we're going to be working on creating the group and everything is in our Grand Rapids, Michigan.
So, if you all want to go ahead, I'll have you all even though I just said your names ladies but if y'all want to introduce yourself people will know now where you're connected maybe tell them how long you've been with a program for our new ladies that will help our, our team.
So maybe if Stephanie Do you mind to go first or I'm putting you on the spot.
Awesome. Yeah, so I'm Stephanie I'm in Grand Rapids, Michigan, I joined the program in April, and yeah I was just so hungry for everything it had to offer and so I just dove right in.
And yeah I have really been connected and loving it ever since so I'm excited to start a new single city.
Thank you Hopi do you mind to share briefly like when you got connected as well.
I'm Hopi Ridley, and I did got connected in April, are you hearing me clearly.
You're a little quiet. I'm not sure, maybe if you're doing earbuds that might be why.
Let me take the earbuds out and see.
Are you hearing me better.
Much better. Okay, I'm Hopi Ridley, and I started in April also so I'm a newbie.
And I'm excited. It's just that it's kind of weird but not so weird how I got onto this program because I was doing the 31 days challenge with Pedro, and it so happens that I had crazy, when I said crazy issues with my computer, and I'm like for that particular day I just wanted was just to use my computers that if it's work it works, if it don't work, it don't work.
And Jackie was on that day.
And I was absolutely going through like I was, I had a breakup and everything. I thought it was going to like I just need somebody to have a program where I can get on.
She was there on that day and immediately I'm like, no, I'm getting on to this.
So I'm here and I'm excited. And I'm just ready to go.
That's so cool. I didn't even know I forgot to ask you that question Hopi that that's how you came in. That's so fun.
So whoever wants to go next from our ladies that have been here in the group for a while.
If y'all just want to say your name and what single city you represent.
I'm Sarah wind I'm in red in California, and I've been a moderator since summer 2023.
Hi, I'm Susan Carter, I'm the moderator for Los Angeles, I co moderate with Jill Calhoun, and I joined the program in.
I think it's September of 2021.
Hi, I'm Jacqueline I moderate single city Vancouver BC, and I'm not sure how long I've been here, probably a couple of years, it feels like.
I have been in the group since I think it was October 2021, and I am the moderator for single city Columbus I've been the moderator for a little over a year now.
Hi, everybody. I'm Daisy. Can everyone hear me. Sorry.
I'm driving, but I'm on the stop sign.
Oh, I'm Davey so I've been here since October 2020.
And then I am with single city Dallas, oh my gosh my brain y'all today has been one of those days.
So, I can't talk, and I can't think.
So, I'm in Dallas.
That was awesome.
Okay, and then Cheryl I'm not sure if you're feeling up to chatting, chatting or not.
But tonight, if you wanna let me know in the chat
or you can unmute and just introduce yourself
if you feel up to it.
Sure, hi, I'm Cheryl.
I'm with Single City Calgary
and I've been with the program probably since Jan,
no, February 2022, I believe, so, yeah.
And Cheryl also helps a ton.
She does a ton of stuff behind the scenes,
all kinds of stuff, y'all.
She's really super talented.
So she helps in multiple areas with our community,
if you all did not know that.
So thank you, Cheryl.
We're gonna be praying for you to continue
to be on the mend here as well tonight before we close.
And then we have a couple other ladies
that have surgeries coming up too,
so we'll cover those as well.
All right, Jackie, I think we are good to go.
All right, y'all, I had to put a hat on
because my hair is cray-cray.
I'm going to just go over a few things.
I'm pretty low energy.
I know that's new for me,
but I was up all through the night with sciatica.
I have a horrible, had a horrible sciatica attack
going on right now.
So I want to announce to all of you,
and you can watch the replay.
Bethany's gonna make that available.
Cheryl will make that available
from the Single City Moderator meeting
with the other half of you guys,
which was on Sunday night where we talked about
kind of the history of our in-person single cities,
how we started out, what was our mandate from God,
where are we gonna go, what are we gonna do going forward?
And I will tell you that,
and I announced this on the Love Seat the other night,
2025 is going to be a year
where we really prioritize in-person.
Online is great.
I think that it's a wonderful tool.
I think it's a great space to be encouraged
and for engagement if you cannot get together in person,
but we have neglected in-person.
Since 2020, since COVID, since quarantine,
I think that we really have never gotten back
to in-person lives to the extent that we need to.
And so we're gonna help prime the pump on that
by having events with our Spirit Mate Mash technology,
some curated events in different single cities
where we have interest
and we'll be working with you guys on that.
If you guys wanna have events,
we want to invest in those events,
whether it's time, energy, talent, helping you,
getting you assistance, getting you help,
possibly even financially funding those events.
There's been events that we have financially funded
in the past in Nashville, in Reading.
We've put money into some events in Reading in the past.
We also are gonna allow people
to join these single city groups
that are not in our program, with exception.
Okay, so they're gonna have to be someone
who's being referred by someone
who's a member in good standing in the program
and or someone who comes to one of the events
that you guys are holding.
You get to meet them in person.
You can let them scan a QR code,
let them come into the single city with a password.
And so those groups will be password protected.
We're going to give you guys some training
on how to let people in
based on those new membership questions
on your single cities.
Now there are a couple of single cities here
that there's a lot of people in those single cities
because those single cities were from the era
where we did just allow anyone in them.
And once again, if you wanna hear the whole history
of single city, how it went from public
to private members only, now back to public,
you'll have to listen to the first Sunday night
so that you can hear all that.
So I don't wanna really repeat all that.
I don't wanna keep you guys here really long tonight,
but we do think that in order to expand community,
especially with our spirit mate match technology
available now and getting more people into the database,
we do want to allow friends of friends
and people in the community that you're meeting in person
and really can vouch for,
you can see whether this person's a psychopath or not,
letting them and be invited with a password
into your single city, okay?
We're still gonna have a password protection
on coming into those groups because of what?
Because of scammers, spammers, sex bots.
I have so many friends that do some sort
of online internet marketing
and most of their Facebook groups
have been completely destroyed by spam,
by scam and by bots.
And so that's part of the reason why we locked ours down.
Part of the reason why we locked them down
is not so it could just be exclusive.
the members only, but we really didn't want that to happen
because we're one of the only Christian singles groups
that that hasn't happened to.
It doesn't have a bunch of rando people in it,
you know, that are up to no good, not really Christians,
have nefarious motives for being there,
or not even real people, okay?
Or people that, once again, are trying to just,
you know, manipulate some unsuspecting single person
who's looking for love.
And so we wanna continue to put that guard up,
but we wanna expand into allowing other people in,
because they're gonna get a feel for the community,
they're gonna get a taste of, you know,
what we have to offer, and you know,
they might join the program.
Consider it kind of like top of funnel.
They might join the program
if they come to a Single City event,
they think you guys are all amazing and nice people,
and they're like, wow, you know,
I really do need to do some,
I need to do some work on myself.
I will tell you guys, 98% of the crazy amount
of success stories that we have in this program
all have lots of hard work attached to them.
You know, we don't live in a day and age
where it's just boy meets girl,
and they live happily ever after.
That's just not what happens, okay?
Even some of the most Christian people,
the most spiritual people that have gotten married
under our umbrella have struggled
in the first couple years of marriage, they have.
And some of y'all know those people, okay?
So it's important, an ounce of prevention
is worth a pound of cure,
and it's really important that we help, you know,
defuse those bombs before they go off
and destroy a good thing, okay?
And so that is what our mandate is from the Lord,
not just to help his single sons and daughters get married,
but also to help them be in community
that can check them before they wreck them,
give them access to tools, heartwork, teaching,
supernatural prophetic breakthrough and deliverance,
all the different things that we offer here.
And so people that come into your single cities,
they might really, you know, want that
once they see that it's available, okay?
So we're gonna, so that's our new era
is opening up the gate, sort of.
There'll still be a gate,
still be a little firewall there
of those membership questions,
and they'll need to have the password.
And so if someone from your group
didn't share the password with them,
then they won't be able to get in there, okay?
And then it's your job to periodically
do an audit of your group to see what people are saying.
What are they doing in there?
You know, what are they commenting?
Are they super negative?
Are they bringing the group down?
Are they posting events that, you know,
really don't line up with our value systems?
Do they seem like they're just trolling
for the opposite sex in not a healthy way?
And then that will be your job
to report that situation to Bethany
and then let Bethany take care of it or handle it, okay?
So, and we have had to block people
from our single cities, unfortunately.
Not a lot, not a lot, hasn't happened a lot,
but we have had, we've had that happen for sure.
Okay, so in person, in person,
some of you have really, some of you are brand new,
Hopi's brand new, glad to have her here.
I just heard how she found me.
That's awesome, love that.
Some of you are OGs, you've been around for a while.
And I really wanna encourage you
that it can really happen that fast.
And we are really in the 57, 85 year of suddenlies.
Daisy can attest to that.
One second, she's a single Pringle
and the next second, she is, you know, in love, okay?
And so we're thankful for that.
And she's been here since 2020, y'all, so yes.
So we're gonna walk this road with all of you.
You are on Jackie's list for being volunteers.
We are building up our database
and I am going to pull matches for each and every one of you.
I'm gonna tell you what the computer said,
who is compatible to you that's in the database.
Right now, we're just kind of in the intake phase
of the database.
We do have, I think it's over 120 guys
in the database already.
And you're like, well, that doesn't seem like a lot.
Well, there's not a lot of women in the database either.
So people are just not filling out
their spirit mate match profiles for some reason.
I don't know why, but we're gonna continue
to stoke that fire until we get it going.
And I think that by the holidays, by Thanksgiving,
hopefully, we'll be able to get that up
and go and doing it.
Okay, let's see what else.
New era, open public-ish single cities.
We are going to be planning retreats and events
for your single cities.
As well, not just you planning them us planning them some of your single cities will be chosen for these retreats for these events. I'm doing a singles conference. That is going to be pretty big in Jersey in March.
And so, like, hope he's single city, New York City, Washington, D. C. Christelle's not here tonight. Right? She was in the other meeting. So that single city will be involved.
There's singles groups from Boston and Hartford coming down. There's just going to be a lot of cross pollination happening there. The probably birth a couple new single cities, maybe Baltimore and Harrisburg.
And so that's going to be really great. I want you guys to own your single cities. I want you to think of it as your singles ministry.
In the region that you live in. Okay. I want you to have a passion for gathering people and giving people community. That's really what your job is. Your job is to gather people and give people an opportunity for community.
You don't got to matchmake. You don't have to, you know, make sure that, you know, the right people are there to meet the right people. If you want to do that type of event, we'll support you and help you do it. But right now, people just need people to do life with and we kind of let God do the rest. Right?
People need people to do life with that are marriage minded, that are outside of their church because people don't like to date people inside their church. They don't. And that's kind of hard for Sarah because everyone in the entire town goes to Bethel. So it's rough. But there is another church, right? The stirring. And so maybe you can cross pollinate with them. And so we'll see. We'll see what goes on there.
But we want, we want you guys to feel supported. If you feel burnt out, talk to Bethany. If you feel like you just can't go on, you feel like you want to, you know, sub out, you want to tap out and let someone else take over your single city and you just want to come to the events and you don't want to be involved at any kind of leadership, then we understand some of you have been with us for a while.
And so if that's the case, then get with Bethany. You'll still be on the list. You'll still get all the perks. You serve long enough. Everyone here, but I mean, I hope he's new, but everyone else here besides maybe like two of you. No, I think everyone here. Well, two of you. Stephanie's new to me too. I have been here for a minute. Okay. What else? Sorry, guys. I got crazy sleep last night.
So, yeah, we're going to be going after the retreats last trip single. We're going to be going after that to a whole, whole other level.
We do have materials and different things that are being translated into other languages. We have Spanish already. Portuguese is finished.
So we're going to be doing that. We're going to be doing other single cities, international pop up. There's people that want to do a Paris single city. There's people that want to do a, just a UK in general, single city. There's people in Australia that want single city.
And so we definitely are seeing some expansion efforts on that. Once a year, we're going to have a conference in Austin. Okay. You guys will have free admission to that conference.
But it's going to be here because I live here and because it's just easy to do it here as far as venues and resources. But then also, one of the largest single cities that we have is here, Austin.
And if you add Dallas to that, then it is the largest region that we have. And then I think Nashville, Reading falls in there somewhere. And then the rest of you guys tear down from there.
So we do want to go after in person this year. We do want to really support you guys. And we're thankful for you. And take a look at that perk list. Make sure that you're utilizing the things that are there. Okay.
If we're not going to pay you, we're going to perk you. And so we want you to feel appreciated. And so make sure that you're utilizing the things that you see there. And we'll be adding to that stuff regularly as well. All right. Okay, Bethany, I think that's all that I can remember right now. What else do you have?
I was just going to talk briefly about like some of the things we don't we haven't decided on anything yet you all but one of the things that like Jackie had shared that I really love and I want you all to really adopt as we move forward is that, you know, we don't want to just create moments while we do want people to have community and we want them to have connection.
We want them to it, to connect them to the movement because we believe in what
we're doing and we're changing lives from the inside out.
Um, and we are creating kingdom family and marriage, but we want people
to have that connection point.
And so we're going to be working on like tools and we kind of chatted about this
in the moderator chat a little bit, but tools that you all can use, um, that
would make it really easy to like, just share what is last year, single with
someone, so again, this may or may not happen, but one of the things we like
tossed around is like, uh, like the size of a business card and would have like
our, our little elevator pitch.
What, what is last year, single on the back, the QR code that could lead them
right to the form where they would put their name in their email, boom.
And then it's done.
And, and the reason, you know, that gets them right connected because, you know,
even if they don't choose right now to do heartwork, there are so many other
things that we have that we can offer them and it can get them connected, even
if it's prayer or whatever that they choose to become a part of, as we keep
moving the movement forward, we're going to have that stuff kind of becoming
available.
Um, one of the other things, um, when Jackie was talking about that passcode,
like if we give them a passcode, um, I will say there are a couple, Jackie, I'm
going to reach out to you tomorrow or during our meeting, there's a couple
single cities that I'm still not an admin on.
And so I know that, uh, Vancouver and just, just, yeah, just send me a list.
Oregon, Pacific Northwest, for sure.
Those are, you're reminding me of something too, right here.
And that is you guys are marketing efforts, um, are going to, uh, not even
just double, but like really be off the charts, the marketing efforts for last
year, single.
And so that will help you build as well.
I mean, people in Redding contact me all the time.
We have so many love stories in Redding from me being on that podcast and the blue
bracelets and all the things I get, I get messages from people in Redding all the
time saying, Hey, I didn't join your program, but I listened to you.
I came to an event, I got a blue bracelet and I'm married now.
Um, and so, you know, we're going to be on podcasts.
We're going to do affiliates with like this, this gospel for Enneagram guy.
We're going to be on some other shows and different things.
And so we're going to help you.
You don't have to go out and find the people we're going to help you.
And then we're going to have Jackie dormant.com is going to actually have a
list of single cities that people can join if they go to Jackie dormant.com.
And you guys will be their contact for.
Yeah.
And I think too, one of the things that we addressed on Sunday night that I thought
was really good reminder as well, is that while we do hope that you all not only
meet sisters in community, maybe your spirit mates in community, that we wouldn't
posture the single cities as a matchmaking place.
Okay.
We Jackie and them, or when the team, when we come in, we're going to do curated
events and hopefully that stuff will happen.
But, um, the reason I'm mentioning it is because even, uh, Colorado Springs, when
we just launched that they had a great time, but like a couple of the ladies
were like, where are the men?
Well, we actually don't have any men in our program in that area yet.
That I know of that at least signed up on the form and we've
gotten them connected or whatever.
Um, and so if we take that heart posture right from the beginning,
it can really deflate things.
So if we just, we show up and we connect and we, you know, encourage our people
to, Hey, bring a guy that, you know, do you know a single guy bring him?
And I know it's, it's not that easy all the time, because I know, I know
Sarah in a couple other, the teams are working really hard to, to kind of get
that, but what you're doing now, I really believe this, even Sarah, just.
It's going to reap a benefit and reward greater than what you know right now.
It totally is.
And you also have to understand that the reason why, unless it really
truly is like a dating events, like it's a shuffle or something like that.
The reason why these groups just have to be fun is because men do not come to
events where they think there's ravenous, single women trying to marry them.
Okay.
They don't.
Um, yeah, so that's a great point.
And I, Susan, I saw your question.
So your perk list was emailed to you a couple, like two months ago, I think.
So yeah, a hundred percent.
I emailed literally everybody individually from my email,
but I'll help you find that.
Um, and what was I going to say on what Jackie was just saying?
So, yeah.
So we, um, like when I train people now, I even try to like, get them kind
of thinking about, it's cool to do events that, you know, attract women, but
let's think about what will attract men.
And when we were talking Sunday night, we were one of the events I had been like
recommending would be like an arcade and Jacqueline Perry from Nashville brought
up some, some important things.
They just did one and just kind of thinking through, you guys can
go and listen to that replay, but just some of the things that was fun.
But some of the things that, you know, they kind of ran into with that as well.
So maybe if you all do something like that
in your single city,
you might wanna do it a little differently
or at a smaller venue or something.
But just thinking about sporting events
or things that guys are gonna do.
Game nights, fantasy football.
Trivia night, like any.
Trivia.
Yeah.
Fantasy football is fun for women too.
It's just, you know, you don't have to put money on it.
Just fun.
You know, stuff like that.
Food, men love food.
They do love food.
So some kind of progressive dinner.
Susan is a chef.
So, you know, some sort of promise of food.
Yes.
Yeah, I can attest.
Men like food.
All right, y'all.
My husband, he talks about it.
Even when he's preaching, he talks about it.
So when you all,
when we roll out the passcode,
we'll work with you and your group on that.
We'll have training.
We'll show you guys, you know,
how do you know what kind of person to approve?
How do you know if there's spammers and what to look for?
So I just want you all to know,
we'll, I'm going to work with someone to build some of that
so we can get that done quickly.
So you guys have that in your hands.
I'm just trying to think through.
Well, the other thing is we're going to have,
we're going to have a program that churches can use.
So if churches want to send their singles to you,
we're going to have something that you can take to a church
or you can tell us about a church.
If you've made contact and then we can contact the church
and let them know like what we're up to
and what we stand for and see if we can actually get
churches in our network that are sending their singles
because they don't have singles programs
for over 30 years old to your single cities.
Yeah, yeah.
So we're excited you all and know that it might take time
to roll some of these out, but just be praying for us
because we really, we want to put tools in your all's hands
as well as the people that need what we're doing
and that will draw people to our community.
One of the things Jackie and I are going to talk about,
this came up on the meeting Sunday night,
is the old groups had the women's and men's directory
in them and so we're going to talk through whether or not
we keep that or don't keep that.
There's just a couple of reasons.
So we'll let you guys know if we are going to make
a change there.
Yeah, so Jacqueline, I did see that.
I know there was a gentleman that was mentioned
during the live love seats last night.
I think he was from Vancouver.
So we'll be working on that.
And y'all, we have been, we've been doing a lot better.
Maybe not every group has felt it,
but we've been really trying to streamline this more
and more and it will get better, I promise.
Let's see here.
I think those were some of the main things.
I think the other thing that Jackie said,
as we continue to grow in 2025,
she mentioned the in-person, the year of the in-person
and God saying to her and speaking to her about,
if you will, I will.
And I just really loved that.
I feel like everything that has resonated with me
that as I partner with God and even what I'm trying to help
do with this movement, God shows up and I've seen him
doing that in and through Jackie and David, of course,
as well as all of you.
Continue to share, this is one of the other thoughts I have.
If you all will continue to share in our moderator group
when you have events, from my perspective,
I feel like that can create some excitement
and generate ideas for other people,
whether or not they wanna do that actual event,
it might generate a different idea for them.
And I would love to see you all even like cheering you
each other on.
And not that you have to do it all the time,
but just on occasion coming in and like,
hey, you all, like thinking of you, praying for you,
just little stuff like that,
where you guys begin to connect as a team,
in addition to us bringing you together as a team,
does that make sense?
I think that's gonna be a really helpful part of,
while we are growing the in-person,
that our team online is also growing online.
And then when we come in person, obviously in person,
it'd be super cool at some point,
if some of the moderators were able to make,
if we did a curated event,
again, not sure what y'all can do financially or whatever,
but where we are able to meet in person,
you all are able to meet each other in person,
if or when you can.
We have other single cities that are in the works now
as well that aren't represented here tonight.
So we're talking to someone about Phoenix, Arizona,
actually two ladies about Phoenix, St. Louis, Missouri.
Jackie, I have a question.
I have a question for you, Jackie.
I have a question for Christy.
Christy, do you feel like if you could be
over single city Cleveland?
Because we're-
Yes, I already talked to her about it.
I think Bethany was just about to ask you that.
Because we definitely can get another leader.
Columbus we said we had a little side convo a couple days ago. Um, and I would I think I would have
A ton more events if I was more centrally located in cleo. Let's do it. Let's go ahead and move on it
Let's do it and then we'll thank you. Yes
Yes, so god inspired jackie
There we go. You know, you guys know I was born in cleveland. So come on
Yeah, and we've been talking to her though
Yeah, she did and we've been talking about a possible single city cleveland for I mean since the beginning of single cities, yeah
Okay. Yeah. Thank you. Sweet
Um, so that was some of the main things from the notes from the other night jackie again, they can listen to the replay
Um, do they have any questions right now though?
Yeah, i'm not sure great idea. Do you all have any questions?
Yeah, I asked in the chat, I know you you mentioned you wanted us to start posting on the app
Do you want us to use the app for?
Now, yeah, we we officially need to make the move to the app
I did add the new ladies to facebook messenger tonight just so that you all are at least in the conversation
But we've been adding you all and fixing and trying to make sure everyone's in there
So if you all can go
I'll show you if you don't know how to find out that, you know, where that group's at
um
When you are in the app
Sorry, y'all. I have a ton of things open when you go in the app if you click on this
Can you all see my screen?
I can't see anybody right now
You know, see yeah, we can we can see it cool
Um, so if you drop click on this drop down arrow
You see where this house is at the top if it's not there
You see where this house is at the top if you're if you're on your phone, it might look a little different
I think it's people but if you click next to the my groups
It puts it in a view now. You guys won't have all these groups. I I have you know, all the different groups
So yours will be different
Yours will have you know phase three for those of you that are in phase three if you scroll down to additional
like below additional programs into
It's going to show you community groups and then this lys support
Okay, so this is where we have the lyssc. So last year single single city moderators group
That's what you're going to be looking for
Um, so our new ladies stephanie and hopi and christy won't be added to that yet
But we're going to be working on that in the next few days
But when you all click in there, we're going to start posting in there for all of our moderator stuff
Okay
um, so I I really do want us to start shifting over there because
Automatically cheryl already told me which i'm so stoked about our replay from sunday night's already in here
So you'll see it here this 10 20 24
Uh are we're gonna be can we get so can we get the training resources? That's all great
Go back to the other page real quick community page
um, are we able to
Cheryl here are we able to that? Okay, so wins could be like your your events wins
Right. I mean are we able to just for this group change what those things say or no?
We won't be able to change the tabs
But what we've done, um in the other groups if we we've kind of pinned a post at top at the top saying, okay
Um, like in phase one, they're not going to have a dating relationship milestone, but we just say hey post about reconciliation happening in your families
And or whatever so we just tell them like what it means for them as a group. Does that make sense? Yeah
All right, so just so y'all know we can't you guys there is a new feature we can at mention people
Yes that just rolled out. Um, like a day or two ago. I think cheryl messaged. Yeah yesterday. Yeah. Yeah
So that's that's exciting. Um, we are continuing to improve try to improve things in there working with the developer you also just um
We are
Going to be it's the bane of my existence friends, but we are working with technology to make it better
It has a lot of solutions the one thing I will say is while you know, there are things that
Sometimes it can be tough. There are a lot of things that it is
It's creating a lot of solutions for us
So the fact that people can go in and find the train their coursework the event schedule replays all in one easy place
You all don't if you all knew how many emails we used to get on that stuff
Um, and so the community is improving in phase one i'm happy to say I feel like people are engaging a lot more in there
I think that that can happen more and more in all the other phases as well as our team groups. And so yes
Saying all that to say we are going to be officially shifting to the app. So
Um, if y'all can just start building the habit
Um for a little while what i'll do is i'll say hey everyone go check the app
I'll say that in the facebook messenger and then eventually i'll phase us out of the
that Facebook Messenger, okay?
And that'll be a way that I'll try to bridge
that gap for us.
Jack, JC, on that question,
if you are in more than one community group,
you would see more than one community group.
So right now, like I said, my screen,
just because I'm an admin on the backend,
I have a lot more groups
because just we're in there trying to oversee things
and we have group ideas.
We were trying to develop and launch and all that.
So we don't have a lot of community groups right now.
So you might not see that there.
Great question.
Yes, so we can send push notifications
if you guys have them turned on, Daisy.
So if you all, when you go into your notifications,
like the settings area of the app,
if you turn on the push notifications,
then when we create a post in the group,
I can actually, or whoever can say,
hey, I want this to be a push notification.
And it would send that and bump it to your phone.
So great question.
I think that was everything everyone was asking in the app.
Susan, did you have a question too?
Yeah, it was just about whether or not
the single city groups that are currently being hosted
on Facebook themselves,
is that gonna be migrating to the app
at some point in the future?
We've gone back and forth.
Right now, we're keeping them on Facebook.
Yeah, we're gonna keep them on Facebook right now, y'all.
Yeah, because that is like a huge undertaking.
And for now.
And the engagement on the app, as you guys know,
is not as great as Facebook yet.
The designers of the app are working
on the community portion.
It's gonna get better and better.
But until then, Facebook, there isn't anything.
Facebook has billions of dollars behind it of tech.
And so of course, it's always going to be
technologically advanced beyond anything else.
Yeah, and so on that note,
one of the things I was thinking about earlier too,
that I would love to do,
and this is just me brainstorming with you all.
Some of the groups, you all maybe haven't been able
to do events recently or for a while.
One of the things we did in Nashville,
after they kind of went through a similar thing,
we just created a post in there
and just got people excited
when we announced the new moderator,
which I just did this with Hopi too.
And we just asked people to share
what city and state they're from.
And it got people kind of talking and engaging again
and kind of felt like a refresh.
And then we introduced that moderator.
But even if there's not a new moderator,
I feel like we could probably do that.
So if you're feeling like your group
is kind of fizzled out,
or people haven't been engaging as much,
we probably want to consider doing something like that
or some other kind of fun, interactive post
to get people like engaged and talking.
And then also, if you all are in a place
where you're just feeling like you haven't had an event
for a while, and you're not sure
if you're going to be able to pull one off,
let's see if there's some other people
that are a part of that, of your single city
that are willing to help,
so that there can be some people at least getting together
and continuing to grow in that community and engage there.
Susan, do you have a question?
I do, thanks.
All right, awesome.
So I moderate a few groups on Facebook
outside of our community.
And I think this is a function of Facebook.
One of the groups that I moderate,
I accidentally set it up so that when people are,
so let me, I'm sorry, I'm stumbling over my words
because I hadn't thought through my question.
But Facebook allowed me to set up some parameters.
So for instance, I live in a high rise in Long Beach,
and we have an HOA private group.
In order to be a part of that group,
you have to live in this building.
And somehow I put all the questions,
the vetting questions like we have for single city,
I put those vetting questions into my Facebook group
and clicked on some sort of function
that was available to me.
It's probably an AI function, which I'm not a huge fan of.
But what it does do, which is really cool,
and I like this, is I don't have to do the vetting.
If they don't answer the questions,
they just stay there until I further investigate,
remove them.
But once they're entered into the group,
this is really cool.
The feature, a separate feature that I selected.
within Facebook group welcomes them.
So it frames a whole like,
hey, let's welcome this new person.
And I'm not sitting there doing it by hand
the way I used to do,
the way I still do for Single City.
It does it automatically.
And I am shocked at how many,
there's probably like 500 people in my building
and not that many people in this particular group.
But when that posts, it flags everybody.
It does like an at everybody sign.
And I'm really impressed at the,
just the traffic that it produces.
So I know that you guys,
I feel like the Single City groups have that functionality,
but you as the owner of the group
might not have given us that ability to do that.
So just something to highlight.
I love that you brought this up.
Jackie actually brought this up in our meeting on Sunday
and we did forget to touch on it.
The AI component, we can turn that on
and we are considering it.
We just need to talk about it as a team
and figure out what those parameters might be
and then have to work on doing that in each group.
So we are-
We're gonna turn on the AI and the admin assist.
Some of the groups already have it, but not all of them.
So we need to do that.
Yeah. That's it.
I think it was the admin assist.
Yeah. And my group has never had it.
So I do a lot of that stuff manually.
I try to welcome everybody.
I have that Google map,
which Bethany, I have not forgotten about you
with that Google map.
I have not, girl.
It's just the limitations of my technology
in trying to create a video to teach you how to,
or teach others.
I've been looking into it.
But there's a lot of stuff that I do manually.
And when Jill is not being a detective
and busy with the LA police force,
she does stuff too.
And she is a huge AI girl.
If you know Jill, you know she loves AI.
Yeah.
So we are definitely,
one of the things too, you all,
we appreciate your patience on in the past,
like where there has been that kind of log jam at times
and just really keeping people positive.
But we have to at the,
now obviously we're changing that,
but part of the log jam is we had to go in
and make sure all of these people were members.
And we had to sort through all that.
And for a long time, it was just Jackie
and former admins doing it or what.
And so we're working on that.
So thank you for your patience.
Thank you for encouraging people to stay positive.
If anyone ever has questions,
just know if you feel like they've asked a lot of times
and you don't know what to say,
you can always send them to admin at Jackie Dorman.
And we'll lovingly encourage them and just let them know
it's something we're working on improving.
I'm pretty good at trying to at least keep people positive
and in the right direction.
I will say too, on the events, you all,
we may still be doing the one in New York in December.
We're not sure.
Part of what Jackie talked about in our meeting
on Sunday night too, is just that we really wanted
to do the events that we talked about in 2024,
but it just was really tough to make them happen
this time around.
And so I do think we're gonna be able
to at least get a couple more under our belt in 2025.
I think there's gonna be a lot of exciting opportunities
like what Jackie was talking about.
Having the spirit match technology,
like as an assist in that process is gonna be really big.
And the more guys and women that we get in there,
the easier that's gonna be as well.
So let's see here.
It looks like Hopi and Susan, if y'all have a question,
we can do those and then go from there.
And maybe depending on if there's more questions or not,
we can pray and close out depending on
where we go from there.
Hopi, do you have a question?
Yes, I'm a little curious.
When I went into Single City for New York,
I checked the list of persons that are there
and where they're located.
I'm not sure based on, it's like a two-part question.
If based on the location,
because you have Boston and you have Pennsylvania,
where that's like a three hours
to three and a half hours journey.
Yeah, does that affect based on the group just dying out
and how is it that when you have an event,
are anybody being left out?
How does that affect the person?
Yeah, no.
So people aren't left out.
The group was launched as a New York group, okay?
New York City group.
And we have had events in New York in the past.
Unfortunately,
what happened is that we had a couple of moderators,
they did a great job, they did the best they could,
but neither one of them actually lived in New York City.
And so it just made it tricky for them
to host actual events in New York.
And so we do allow people to join single city groups from,
we try to keep it at two to three hours radius,
where we have extended that
is if they don't have any other single cities near them,
we want them to be able to join a single city.
But no, there are gonna be more single cities,
as Jackie mentioned, popping up.
And even some of the people,
I forget exactly how far Cleveland is from New York,
but I know that I've driven that drive before
and it's not that bad.
So when we open that one up
and we're also like that Grand Rapids, Michigan,
we just did the Washington DC,
I think we're gonna start to see some of those folks go
and shift to some of those other groups
for their main single city.
But we just provide the events and opportunities.
I do think it's good to try to do things
at different locations and see what number of people
or what is the interaction and things like that.
But it's okay for you all to do the events
where the single city is located and just do our best.
A lot of the people in your list Hopi,
Jackie and I were actually talking about this
because we were looking at people that responded.
A lot of the places are like a two hour train ride.
So we feel like it's still will be very conducive
for us to host events in New York itself.
So we were in looking at that just recently,
but great question.
Yeah.
So Bethany, I guess two things.
One, just real quick about opening up a Phoenix group.
I'm sure you and Jackie already know that LA
has been temporarily hosting all the people
from Phoenix and Arizona in that area.
So I think if you haven't counted the number,
I think at this point we probably have like 10 people.
So that would be a good influx for you
that we can move them over.
But the other thing I wanted to ask about is,
is there something that we ought to be doing
with people who might just be traveling to our area
and temporarily want to enter our group
and how as moderators,
could you keep us more in the loop about those things?
And for instance, I try to,
we have about 125 people in our group.
So it's not huge, huge, but it's a good size.
And I try to keep tabs on everybody
and I'll touch base with everybody behind the scenes
just so that they know who we are.
And there was a guy that I would not have known
that he didn't live in California,
but he said something in the group.
And so I messaged him.
I said, hey, do you live in Dallas?
He said, yeah, I live in Dallas,
but Jackie asked me to join the LA group
because we were attending something in Irvine.
I think Jackie, you were, or I'm about to.
So I probably would not have reached out to him
if I had known that ahead of time.
And it could come across as like me being uber controlling
and I'm not, but I am like mama bear controlling,
you know what I mean?
Yeah, you're just looking out for your group,
which is what-
I'm just looking out for the group, exactly, exactly.
And thank goodness, Jill taught me
how to look at people's profiles
and how to look, you know, how to identify scammers.
So we have a pretty, pretty good group.
I feel like we know everybody, but how do we handle that?
Do I put him out again after he leaves
or does he stay here permanently?
Well, so from, I don't know if Jackie
would answer this differently,
just cause I've had a couple of people asking for that
even recently.
And from my perspective,
if there's someone that travels into that area
on a regular basis,
then they could stay in the group long-term.
If they're literally just coming in for a week
and they're not going to be back in LA
for a year or two years, whatever,
it kind of, or they have no plans to move there
cause we've had that request as well.
Like, hey, I actually want to move to that area, you know?
And so we're trying to be a little bit more lenient.
I will say that.
And so we're not going to just kick people out per se,
especially cause, so one of the things with your group,
Sarah's group, and even San Francisco soon
is Jackie and David are going to be in California.
California more, okay?
So there's gonna be a lot of networking happening there.
They're gonna meet people
and they probably will encourage people that they meet
to come and join the groups.
And so we might need to have like a little different plan
for Urol's groups than maybe even some of the other groups
because if she invites someone to the page,
we probably need to be like,
okay, Jackie, do you want this guy on here long-term?
Or, you know, just so we know
and there's nothing that happens
in that potential networking relationship or what, you know,
she could have literally met him on the street,
I have no clue.
But it is a great question
because we've been having that happen more.
I will tell you, I don't know if we will do this,
but I've been looking at the map on a larger scale
and considering like,
because even I was hoping we would be able to pull this off
with the spirit mate match and just easily,
oh, let's just do a map.
But because not everyone's filling it out
and even now that I'm thinking about,
there's some people that are in exclusive relationship.
So that's why they're not filling it out.
So I would love, this is my big vision.
So Elevation Church has a map that is interactive
that anybody that is EFAM can go on
and put themselves on the map.
And so I would love for us as a community
to have something similar.
And so I've been looking into like
how we can make that happen.
And then it's literally up to the people,
you all can put yourselves on the map
and people like if you were traveling somewhere,
instead of having to go into the single city,
you could literally just go look on the map
and connect with the person.
It would only have the person's first name
and last initial and like,
basically what's built in is you message them,
it's connected right to the map.
So you don't like just go right into someone's personal
text messages or something like that.
So it's protected, but I don't know what system they use.
So I have some contacts still there.
So I'm probably gonna reach out to them and just ask them,
but I have been looking in to Google Map
and some other mapping services.
But it's just, that's kind of like,
I don't know how soon that would happen,
but that's a goal I would love to see happen.
Because that is a request we get a lot
when people are traveling or they'd love to meet sisters
when they're going somewhere.
And I just don't wanna feel like we have to keep denying
that kind of stuff.
But we just don't have a quick solution for that right now.
Cause we really can't approve that
in our main community pages because,
let's say someone did get connected
through our community main page
and something happened at that connection.
We just have to make sure, and this is like a random,
you all this has never happened, but just liability wise,
we just have to be careful with some of that kind of stuff.
And so the single city pages, it's a little different
cause people are typically local
and they'll start to get to know each other in person.
So we do have a little bit more freedom there.
And that's just us being on the safe side too,
trying to look out for everybody.
But great questions, you all.
Anyone else have questions before we close?
I really love to end on time.
We went late the other night y'all, a while.
And so it's really good.
So keep asking your questions
cause this is how we learn from each other.
I learned from like even Jackie had mentioned the admin assist
and Cheryl had talked about that before too,
but I didn't realize we could do an automatic welcome.
I absolutely love that idea.
I hope we turn that on
and I think that will be a really great solution.
But yeah, just the one other thing I'll say is,
and I hope you all have fun doing this when I say it,
like I would love for you all to,
obviously the bigger groups, it's a little bit harder,
but to really kind of get to know,
especially our brand new groups, get to know your people,
like as much as you can.
Some people are still gonna be guarded.
Keep that in mind.
And they might not open up as quick as other people will,
but I just from doing online ministry that turned in person,
cause I did, I took it from online to in-person years ago.
And I think we can totally do that
even beyond the single cities.
But like, I just would reach out, like Susan was saying,
like I would reach out to people one-on-one
and just start building like connection with them.
And that way, when they came to the events,
they wouldn't be so nervous.
So I believe that we can do that too.
I really think we can bridge gaps that way.
And even for you as the leader, like when you show up,
it might feel a little less like, you know,
stressful or anxiety.
I don't know if you all ever.
have anxiety. Surprisingly, I can lead a room. But like, I'm
the kind of person when I go into a room, and there's a lot
of people, I like to hang out on the side. And I like to observe
everyone and decide who, who do I not in a not in a like, oh, I
don't want to talk to them. But like, who do I think is the most
approachable that I'm gonna feel comfortable walking up to. And
so I imagine other people feel the same, but some of those
walls come down, if that connections there. And all
right, Hopi, go ahead.
That was my thought. Exactly. The question was, because I was
going to look at it based on the directory. So as moderators, do
we have a list? Because if somebody comes, they get
married, you want to like celebrate them. And if we don't
see them for a while, I want to say, Hey, we haven't seen let's
say x, y, z. So I was thinking along that line. So if you get
by the directory, how we go about doing that.
I think we probably would have to. So the tricky part with
Facebook is there's no way to export the names off of there to
make it like an easy, quick directory. The ones that the
groups that are older, the men's and women's directory, even even
those like they're outdated. I don't even know if some of those
people are still engaged in the group or interacting at all come
to. But we do have like Nashville's a good example. So
Danny and Rory got married. So Danny's still in Nashville, and
she'll still stay connected to the group, we are going to allow
our married couples to stay a part of this single city groups.
And we're going to encourage them to come to events you all.
I feel like even when I came to Susan, you can speak to this
when Brian and I came to LA. Was that encouraging for you all? I
think it was.
Oh, it was amazing. Well, you know, the answer we had a
frickin ball. I mean, we had so much fun. We didn't want the
night to end. And it was like mayhem, but it was great. And
like, it was so fun. And like, come on your Lego husband. We
love him. We love him. Yeah, thank you. We had fun that
night. But we want to see more of that happening. And I know
even like Carla has been asking Carla and Jeremy are in Dallas
area near there. She's been asking about can we get
connected to that? So we do want you to know like, yes, they can
come and hang out at like events if, if our community just
because they got married, Carla moved to Dallas, she she needs
is looking for community, which she's been making some but like
she already knows, Daisy and some of the other people there.
So anyways, I just want to let you all know, that's, that's
kind of going to be in the works as well that we don't just like,
you know, ask people to move on because they get married. But
yeah, great question, Hopi. So I we will need to come up my
official answer to your question, though, is like, we
need to come up with a system for that. And right now, even
we're trying to track all of our people that even like, I'm like,
I think there's a lot of people in level three right now, maybe
even a level four that we don't even know. Because if they don't
come tell us we're like, not in a weird way, you all but like
chasing people down to find out what's going on with them. And
so we're trying to track all that. But it's just it's, it's
big, and it's growing, right. But even for the single city, I
love that you mentioned that we will work on that. All right,
y'all. Thank you for being here. Thank you for taking the time to
contribute to ask questions, all of the things. I hope y'all are
having fun. And I hope that you we have more fun in the days
ahead. I want to pray, like I said, for some of our team
members had surgery or having surgery. And just for God to
bless you all for those of you that are in relationship or
looking for your spirit mate. So Father, we just thank you. First
and foremost, for just your mercy, your grace for everything
you're doing new in our lives every day. God, I thank you.
Lord, just for breathing new life into our single cities.
We've been believing for men that are walking in the fullness
of the fruits of your spirit that are healthy, God that you
would draw men to our program to our single cities, God, we thank
you that men even lately, Lord, I feel like every day in our
team email, there's a man saying a friend referred me to your
program. So Lord, I thank you for the men that are already
coming. God help us as women to, to really receive them well
and to be kind and encourage them. God, we thank you for more
men coming. We thank you that you're going to bless every one
of our team members, God and encourage them to build their
faith, God and help them to believe even on the hard days,
God, to know that you're working in, in all things behind the
scenes, God, that you are leading them to their spirit
mate and leading their spirit mate to them. God, we thank you
that you'll highlight them to each other, God and in the
process of moving towards their spirit mates and their spirit
mates moving towards them, help them to hear what your spirit
is saying in the areas where they need to shift, to let go,
to surrender, to open up, to receive everything you have for
them.
But we thank you for walls coming down
and connections happening more and more
in the remainder of 2024, as well as into 2025.
We thank you for manifesting your goodness in our lives
and that it would overtake us.
Lord, we thank you for healing Cheryl
that you would continue to minister to her body
and restore, rebuild, refresh, renew her
to complete wholeness.
And we thank you for Sarah and anyone else
that I might not even be aware of, Lord,
that's a part of our team that is facing surgery
in the days ahead.
We thank you God for your hands upon the surgeons,
upon them.
Thank you for being with Sarah, giving her peace,
giving her hope and encouragement every step of the way.
And we thank you for a quick recovery
and a better than expected result.
And we just thank you for Jackie and for David,
for everything that they have done,
all the times that they pour in tirelessly
that we don't even see.
Lord, I pray that you would fill their cups,
heal Jackie's body where that sciatica stuff is kicking up
and causing problems.
We speak peace to her body, to her legs,
to her nerves, to all of it.
Yeah, Lord, we just thank you for peace,
washing over her even right now.
We just thank you for that in advance in Jesus name.
Oh, I love you all.
I could hang out all night with you,
but I know that we're tired
and I appreciate all being here.
And if y'all ever need anything,
I hope you know you can always reach out, okay?
So you can send me a direct message
if you ever have need of prayer.
I wanna be able to be there for you all
if you need something, okay?
All right, awesome.
Have a good night, everyone.
Take care.
Thanks, Bethany.
Thanks, Jackie.
Bye.
Thank you.
Jackie, have a good night.