Hey, hi everyone. Welcome, welcome, welcome. We're about to get started. I'm going to kind
of welcome everyone and go over some housekeeping here at the beginning as always, while some
more individuals are starting to join us. I'm Bethany Cooper. I'm one of the heartwork
coaches here in the community, as well as y'all. You'll see me in phase two and phase
three and all around town. Okay. So just, we're glad you're here. And for those of you
joining us for the first time live session. So maybe you've been even in the community
and the group heartwork course, however y'all want to look at it for a few weeks, but maybe
this is your first live session. Anyone that's joining us for a live session for the first
time. If you put that in the chat for me, we'd love to welcome you. We won't embarrass
you. I promise. We just want to say, Hey, welcome and make sure that we know that you're
here. All right. So no one. Okay. Gabby first timer. Welcome Gabby. Anyone else? The first
timer tonight, Judy Risco. Hi. Welcome. Welcome. All right. You all so many good things already
happening. Carrie first timer, Rebecca. Oh my gosh. Shante. We've got a lot of first
timers. Y'all are in good company. We'll have probably some more individuals join us here
as we continue. I want to encourage you all, if you have not got a, had a chance to check
out our supernatural Saturday from this past Saturday, it was so good. You all there. I
think they're all good, but this one was worry versus worship and man, it was speaking even
to me, but what I thought was really cool was I had done a couple of heartwork sessions
with some people individually. And even though they had entirely different situations and
scenarios, Naomi, you like my hat. I like this too. I got this one in Hawaii. So first,
first trip dream trip. Yeah. I love it. Dream trip that happened this last year. So praise
God dreams come true ladies. My little segue back. What was I saying here? Oh yeah. So
if you haven't watched that, one of the things that came up was in these two sessions, two
different scenarios and situations, both very difficult things they were walking through.
And the common theme was worship worship. And so then Jackie comes on supernatural Saturday.
She had no clue what God led me to say to these two women. And then she started talking
about it. And that, when that kind of stuff starts happening, it's like, okay, this isn't
just God saying, which was amazing that he said it through Jackie, but like God in the
spirit is saying this. Um, and so when I encourage you all something that I've been
doing recently, and this happened because I woke up one morning and just like a whisper,
it wasn't like I heard God's audible voice, but what I heard was worship first, just like
that worship first, but it came with this, um, not heaviness, like I was scared, but
I just felt like it was really important. And so I didn't even look at my phone at all.
And kind of got up, went to the kitchen and just put worship music on as I was getting
ready in the morning. And I've been doing it, trying to stick to that every day since,
and you'll after I've been doing it, I realized how many days I was looking at work stuff
as soon as I got up or like, you know, people message needing help. Like I oversee a bunch
of teams in our community and I started feeling all this pressure right away in the morning.
And I wasn't giving myself time to just receive first. And so for whoever that's for, I believe
God wanted that to be shared tonight for somebody, let your soul and your spirit breathe and
worship first and choose worship over worry. And God will work all the other things out.
I truly believe that. And so check that, check that, uh, replay out. I believe it'll be a
true blessing to you. Um, a couple other housekeeping things for you all distractions
are going to come. Okay. So for those of you that are in any week of heartwork, the enemy
will send distractions in all different ways. Sometimes they're, you know, trouble with X's
stern backup. There are work situations out of nowhere that, you know, used to get along
with your coworkers. And now all of a sudden you're not, or maybe you never got along and
the chaos is getting worse. Maybe it's your kids. All of a sudden y'all aren't getting along.
I mean, some people have come into heartwork and, you know, all of a sudden they're not
feeling good. And so whatever the distraction is that the enemy is sending your way, I want
to encourage you stay focused to the best of your ability. Don't give up and keep moving forward.
I try to encourage you guys all the time to just do the next best.
thing. Okay, so instead of quitting and giving up on your
process, just do even if you feel like you're overwhelmed, if
you just think of it like, okay, Lord, what's one thing I can do
today to keep moving forward in my heart healing process,
because you all are your best investment. How many of you want
to see a raise of hands, you can put it in the chat if that's
easier for you. How many of you tend to help everybody else and
put yourself last? Can you show me your hands? Let's see hands
on that. Who are my helpers that maybe are overextended at
this season in your life, you're helping everybody else and you
tend to put yourself last. Anyone else want to join the
crowd? All right. Yeah, so I want to encourage you all in the
next few weeks to really intentionally even put yourself
on your own calendar. Save some time for yourself. I have to do
this too. So I'm going to be accountable to you all you guys
can come in and share as you you know, step into this. Sometimes
it's like we even put off making doctor's appointments that we
need to make. I mean, whatever it is for you. Don't put those
things aside. So in this case, you all are important heartwork
surgery. It's so important to your not only like healing, but
to living an abundant life to living the life God originally
created for you to live, not with a tank half empty and
leaking out holes and over every aspect of the tank, you know,
where you're just trying to put cups cups up underneath to catch
what's fallen out. No, like God wants to come in and heal all of
that so that you can live a healthier, happier life. All
right, events in the event calendar. I'm going to just say
this real quick when you guys go in the LIS app the last year
single if I say LIS it's last year single just y'all know it's
just shorter. The event tab when you go in there, click on
the event, and then you'll go to the day. Each day. If we have
events for phase one, it'll say it in there. When y'all click on
the event inside of there, you'll see the zoom link, zoom
meeting ID and the passcode. If any of you have problems with
the zoom links, the best way to get into any of our live
sessions is to go directly to zoom and click join a meeting
and type like manually enter it. So if I know some people are
still having issues getting into the zoom meetings, that is the
quickest way. So one of the workarounds as well as create a
free zoom profile. And set like log into that before you click
on the link you all I figured that out a couple months ago as
well. So I was having some issues, just click it on the
link if I wasn't logged in. So quick workarounds there. My last
housekeeping is this. As you're going through your heartwork
process, it's really important for you to ask God good
questions. What do I mean by that? What I mean is you all are
going to have what sometimes might seem to you like random
memories kind of percolating and coming up to the surface, but
none of those are random. Okay. A lot of times, even if you think
that memory, like, well, I'm not even upset about that, or, you
know, that didn't really bug me. But like, don't dismiss that.
But instead, ask the Lord like, Okay, Lord, this is coming up in
my spirit. Is there something you're wanting to show me about
this? And just see what he says. Because sometimes what will
happen is that memory may lead to something else. I had a woman
in heartwork, it's been several months ago, she had a memory
come up about her uncle. And then also this random memory in
her mind, she said random, that's why I'm using that word
of being on the playground and her feelings getting hurt. And
she didn't even connect the two at all. But as I continued to
ask questions in the group, so sometimes y'all are going to
post things and myself or the other coaches are going to ask
you questions to get you to go back to the Lord and ask him
more about it. Okay? Why are we going to do that? Because as a
coach, my goal is a to always lead you back to the Lord first
and foremost, because he's the one that has the answers. But
also, it's going to help you continue to process the things
that are coming up. Why do I use that as the example, y'all this
the uncle situation and the playground situation were
actually connected. What was the common denominator? The uncle
used to put her down all the time. And the kids on the
playground did too. But that didn't come together until she
started asking the Lord about it. Okay, super important. So
don't dismiss the things that are coming up in your spirit.
Okay. All right. Let me pray for us. Father, thank you so much
for this night. Thank you for everything that you're already
doing. In our hearts, God, we thank you that you're the
greatest.
physician that nothing is too hard for you. Lord I thank you that your Holy Spirit would just come
and Holy Spirit we invite you to have your way, that you would help us to open the door of our
hearts a little bit more to you tonight. You're the comforter, you're the counselor, you're our
guide. I thank you that you're leading us and guiding us every step of the way, that you would
help us to hear what your Spirit is saying, that you would bring things farther out of darkness and
into the light so that there can be revealings for healing happening, that we would come out
of hiding and come into connection and community God, that we would step into the rivers of living
water that are flowing from heaven tonight over us. We thank you for healing oil also flowing,
for physical healing happening in the in the lives and the minds, emotions, spirits, bodies,
and souls of every one of these ladies that are here live as those as well as those that will
watch the replay. God help us to receive everything that you have for us including the fullness of
your love. In Jesus name, amen. If y'all haven't done your Jesus Cares Board yet, for those of
you just starting us that's explained in I think you got muted Bethany.
Yeah we can't, I couldn't hear you. Can you hear me now? Yeah. Oh so weird I just had a thing pop up.
Okay let me know if that happens again. I'm not sure what was going on there. All right um
huh um Jesus Cares Board if you haven't done it yet definitely uh lean into that that's explained
in a video in week one in your training tab. The Jesus Cares Board is a lot about every all the
cares and worries and burdens and fears that we carry on ourselves. We get to cast all those
physically onto Jesus by this board by this activation. It's a reminder that we are releasing
those cares and burdens to him. Y'all don't have to wait to post in the group until it's finished.
I'd rather you all even get started and post like hey I'm getting started this is where I'm at right
now and and there isn't a need for perfection. Okay so I would rather y'all move on that and and
step into the supernatural because it is powerful. So on that note we're going to talk about supernatural
surrender first tonight. And what does it mean and and like what does it look like regarding God?
So I want you all to start to put in the chat for me when you think of a gentleman
like right now we're going to talk about men
in general not men in depth but like if you think about a man that you come into contact with
who you think is a gentleman or you've seen act like a gentleman what does that look like
and what does that sound like? Can you put that in the chat for me?
From your perspective what does that look like and sound like?
Yep respects others, polite, kind words and respect, prefers others, gentle, kind,
someone who's considerate, opening door for people, caring, sorry I'll try to read these,
considerate, eye contact, listening, heart of service, open doors, protective, kind, makes you
feel safe, respectful, attentive, curious about others, leads, all right,
listens without judging a leader, keep putting those in there for me. So as you guys are
continuing I want you to keep processing through those. These are so good.
All right one of the things that I want you all to think about now God is not a man
but I do believe that there are a lot of things in the human race even in women that are as we know
the human race even in women that are as we know part of the image of God right we we have the
image of God in us when we live into the best version of ourselves that God created us to live
into we all men and women alike act a little differently don't we right so I want you to think
about the best aspects of a gentleman that you've seen in your life and I know not all men have been
that way but there are good men and there have been for those of you that might not have seen
those yet I believe God will show you more of those good men in the days ahead but I want you
to think about that and understand that God is a gentleman God is a gentleman that's a part of his
character now he is not like man he doesn't make mistakes but the most important thing that I want
you to understand about a gentleman is that they don't force their way on you
which surprisingly I don't think I saw anyone say tonight
which is okay because there's no wrong answers
on that. It's about your perspective, but a gentleman, they don't force their way in.
Okay. And so kind of how they said even opens doors that kind of relates there a little
bit if you think about it. So the reason I want you to be thinking about this is that
God is not going to force his way into your heart. Okay. Some of you have, whether you
realize it or not, y'all, the reality is, is when we go through pain and trauma and
hurt as you all go through this course, you'll learn about self-preservation techniques.
While some of those self-preservation techniques is putting up walls to try to protect ourselves
from the enemies. While God isn't our enemy, but a lot of us really struggle to trust God.
And so we have even walled him out as well. Specifically, I want to bring up, do not enter
signs. What do I mean by that? What I mean is that sometimes we can go through a lot
of healing in our hearts, but still have what I call, do not enter signs on parts of our
heart. Where do we have those at? Only the Lord will be able to tell you that those tend
to be from my perspective, as I've coached for the last few years in this heart work
space is that if there's trauma that you have gone through, whether it's things done
to you or things that you did that create a trauma for you, sometimes you don't want
to go into those areas, even in a heart work process like this. And sometimes it's because
you have worked on it before. And so you're like, I don't want to go back through that
again, but I want to encourage you that if the Holy spirit, if the Lord brings that up
in this season, it doesn't mean you have to go all the way back through everything,
but it's probably be coming up because God's trying to show you another layer of healing
that he wants to do in you in that situation, in that area. I want you guys to think about
healing and layers. Okay. Forgiveness and layers. We're going to talk about forgiveness
later tonight as well, because some people will be like, man, I've already gone around
this mountain. I've gone around this mountain. Why am I going around this mountain again?
And they feel and struggle with the concept of like, I like, why can't I get past this?
Well, here's the thing. I think that it's because they're not looking at it as in layers.
Y'all sometimes with the abuse I went through with my brothers. I mean, I can't tell you
how many times I've visited that place for healing. There's so many different aspects
of how that impacted my life. Like, you know, getting married and trying to be intimate.
I mean, that's a whole new ball game when you've gone through sexual abuse, right.
Or any other kind of dynamic. So a lot of layers get revealed as we go and praise God,
he's so good. He's the great physician and he heals and he restores and redeems and brings
restitution. You all, when, when it's good and it's a pleasing gift that God gives us,
he makes, he makes good on his promises to us in those areas.
So I want to encourage you to take down your do not enter signs tonight.
And even right now, for some of you, you're probably feeling like,
no, I don't want to do that. And I just want to encourage you that you can. And how do I know
that? Because God says be strong and of good courage. I've gone before you and he's made a
way for you to be able. And his grace is what enables us to do. So revelation three 20 says,
behold, I stand at the door and knock. If any man hears my voice and opens the door,
I will come into him and we'll stop with him. And he with me, I'm using that scripture because
even Jesus, when he stands at the door and knocks on the door of our hearts, it's an invitation.
It's an invitation. We have a choice to open the door and allow them to come into our heart and
our life. He does not force his way on us and neither does God, the father or the Holy spirit.
And so not only will he come in when we open the door, but he'll have dinner with us. He'll
sup with us. Y'all think about dinner. Like at least for me, when it's a good, like, you know,
me and my husband and I, we enjoy going to dinner together. When I go to dinner with him,
I feel close to him. When we have family dinners with his family, it's fun. It's like there's
laughter. There's joy. When I go to see my best friend or my girls and you know, there's a
community and a closeness right around the dinner table. So think about it like that too. God's like
wanting to come into the intimate places with you. And he's wanting to sit with you and spend time
with you. And he enjoys.
is you being in his presence.
All right, don't dig.
That's my next tip for you, okay?
So on this process, we mentioned all the time,
we don't want you to get out of shovel
and try to dig to look for answers.
Revealing for healing is the process that we teach
and coach in this community, and here is why.
Sometimes people will try to dig
to kind of figure things out on their own,
and it actually can re-traumatize you.
So that's why it's really important
to trust what the Holy Spirit is bringing up
in this process, and don't go looking.
Some people have even gone to parents
and been like, did this happen, did this happen?
And I understand why.
I did that for a season years ago as well,
but I can tell you that it was a lot rougher process
than just surrendering
and letting the Holy Spirit guide my healing, okay?
All right, trust what the Holy Spirit brings up,
lean into the Holy Spirit,
and then you all hear me say a lot, pull the thread.
For those that are brand new tonight,
this is your first time hearing that phrase,
and what I mean by that when I say pull the thread is this.
When the first memory comes up,
even if you think it's silly or like,
again, feels random, you pull the thread.
So ask God the question on that memory,
and then see what he brings up after that.
And if he brings up more things as you interact with him
and talk to him, again, you pull the thread.
You just ask him another question.
So pull the thread to me kind of partners
with ask him a question,
and then if something else comes up,
then you would ask again.
Ask, seek, knock, keep on asking, seeking, and knocking, okay?
All right, I wanna encourage you all,
we're gonna go into breakouts here soon.
If you've never done a breakout, it's great.
We encourage you to don't leave, stay here with us.
Can y'all, like for our ladies that are on screen,
just wave, just welcome our new ladies.
Let everybody, even if you're new, wave anyways.
Y'all, it's fun.
We have fun in this community.
I don't want you to be afraid of each other.
And some of you are gonna go into a breakout room
and you're not gonna know anyone.
And guess what?
Some of the other ladies might not know anyone either.
And so we come with a common ground.
You don't have to give advice.
You don't have to counsel.
You don't have to coach.
That's my job, okay?
You guys just get to give each other space to share
and just be kind to each other.
That's the goal, okay?
And I have found time and time again,
ladies that get connected even through breakouts,
sometimes end up becoming friends.
So whether you believe it's possible or not is up to you,
but someone could become a close friend to you
if you open up your heart and your life to them, okay?
All right, so here is your question for breakout.
What are some things God is nudging you
to surrender to him tonight?
What are some things that God is nudging you
to surrender to him tonight?
Before you go into the breakout, I'm gonna read,
we're gonna kind of revisit our submission activation,
which this is basically the permission slip
that you all signed when you began this journey.
Maybe you signed it when you did the challenge
or maybe some of you came in through a different way,
but it's what we call the permission slip in this community.
And it's you giving God permission to come into your heart.
So remember, we're taking down the do not enter signs.
So I wanna encourage you, I'm gonna read this over you
just to prepare your heart to go into the breakout
to share with your sisters, okay?
Father God, I give you permission to search me
and to reveal anything in my heart
that does not belong to my true identity.
And that is hindering me from living the life
you created me to live.
Holy Spirit, I invite you into the darkest places
of my heart.
Show me the areas that are still wounded
and are still hurting.
When you reveal these broken places to me,
I covenant with you to release them into your care
and to respond with forgiveness and repentance.
I set aside this season of my life
for a time of healing and wholeness
and ask Holy Spirit to take charge of this process.
I ask that you dwell with me and in me.
I need you.
I cannot heal myself.
I want to be free from the past,
free to be who I truly am.
Help me to become who you originally created me to be.
Show me the lies I've believed about myself,
my life, my surroundings,
even the lies I have believed about you.
Teach me the greater truth.
Teach me your ways.
Teach me how to think and how to live abundantly.
Teach me, show me, heal me, grow me in Jesus name, amen.
All right, ladies, I'm gonna put you in here.
We're gonna do three-chair room tonight
and I'm gonna.
Start you all off with, let's see if we do three, six, nine,
that'll give you three minutes each.
Give you nine minutes total.
Here you go.
That should be up on your screen.
Go ahead and click to join that.
If you can't go into breakout, that's totally fine.
You can hang out here.
I'm just gonna be praying
because those that watch the replay,
they don't go into breakout.
So I just pray in this time.
All right, go ahead and keep clicking to join if you're able.
I gotta make sure we've got everyone situated here.
Two people, at least to every room.
All right, cool.
All right, Father, we just thank you right now
for every one of these groups of ladies.
Some of them have two, some of them have three.
Lord, you even prepare our breakout groups
to connect in such a special way.
So Lord, I thank you for your blessing
over their conversations, over their time together.
I pray that you would help them
to hear what your spirit is saying.
Lord, I thank you for helping.
Oh, someone is maybe needing help.
Hold on one second, ladies.
I think a couple people might be stuck.
All right, so Lord, we just thank you
for continuing to work in every one of these ladies' lives.
We thank you for helping them to hear your voice
above every voice of the enemy.
And I thank you that right now
that you would help them to supernaturally surrender
by your grace, Lord, even your mercy
that's new every morning.
And even right now that you would just flow
and wash over every one of their hearts, their minds,
their bodies, spirits, and souls.
And I thank you for that.
Lord, I thank you that you would help them
to hear what your spirit is saying.
Lord, I thank you that you would help them
to heal their hearts, their minds, their bodies,
spirits, and souls, help them to just,
yeah, Lord, what song just came up in my spirit
is like to dance in the river.
Lord, I pray that you would bring beauty for ashes,
the oil of joy where there's been mourning,
that you would bring celebration and laughter and life
into their spirits in a fresh way.
I thank you, God, that you would encounter them
as my Spirit and hear their voice.
And let us also pray
that we will see God make us pray
for God's purpose, for the purpose of the Spirit.
What else we got?
Oh my goodness.
And did you get kicked out?
Okay, awesome.
So Lord, we just thank you also for,
yeah, Lord, upgrading our understanding
of the kingdom of heaven
and what it looks like to live closer to you
and intimacy that we don't have to fear or be afraid.
God, that you haven't come to bring us harm or destruction,
but you've come to give us life
and give it to us more abundantly.
Hi, Carrie.
Did you get kicked out?
Oh, sorry, you're muted.
I did, yeah.
Do you know what group you were in?
I said eight.
Okay.
Oh, I wonder if Arianne got kicked out too.
I don't know if I said your name right.
Is it Ariana or how do you say your name?
Arianne, maybe.
Ariana is right.
Okay, awesome.
Were you in a group and got kicked out
or were you just joining us?
Cause I can put you in a group if you.
No, I just joined.
I watched a few hours ago.
It's the middle of the night over here,
but you know, it's good stuff.
That's fine.
Okay, they're talking about the surrender right now.
Do you want me to put you in the group?
They have like five minutes left.
I could listen.
Okay, or you can just say, you want to just stay here?
I'm just praying over everybody.
Maybe it's better.
Okay, and then you can just receive.
That'll be fine.
Father, just thank you again for, yeah,
reminding us of the love story you originally wrote for us.
Lord, when you dreamed us up in your mind,
when you were creating us, God,
you made us fearfully and wonderfully made.
And I thank you, God,
that you are renewing and restoring
every part of us in this process.
I thank you that you would help us to hear,
yeah, Lord, your melody over us.
Zephaniah, I think it's 317,
talks about how you, like, rejoice.
over us with singing. So Lord, I pray that you would help us to also know the power of
Psalms and hymns and singing spiritual songs back to you, God, that as we worship you, God, and
for who you are, that you hear faith in us as we sing unto you. So Lord, even tonight as
ladies are here sharing and opening up about their hearts and their lives to you,
God, that that is them stepping into community and faith. God, I thank you that you would just
continue to, yeah, Lord, help them to feel your presence, your connection.
We thank you for the balm of Gilead being placed upon every wound, every trauma,
and we thank you for divine healing being released into them and over them. We thank
you for reconciliation and healing and families. Yes, Lord, where the enemies try to come to kill,
steal, and destroy, we thank you, Lord, that you've come to give us life and give it to us
more abundantly, that we don't have to fear or be dismayed or that we don't, because fear has
to do with torment. Your word declares it. So we can become and step back into the truth of your
love tonight, God, that we would become rooted and grounded in your love, that we would be like
that tree that's planted by living, rivers of living water. And I'm going to return to that.
I think that's Psalm 1. Let me find that because it's so good.
Yep. Psalm 1, 3, it says that person is like a tree planted by streams of water, which yields
its fruit in season and whose leaf does not wither, but whatever they do prospers. Well,
who is the person that it's talking about there? Let's go back and read verse 1 and verse 2. It
says, blessed is the one who does not walk in step with the wicked or stand in the way that
sinners take or sit in the company of mockers, but whose delight is in the law of the Lord and who
meditates on his law day and night. Y'all, it's not about the laws as far as legalism goes,
but what it's saying there is the word of God. When we meditate on the word of God day and night
and find our delight in that, we will be like a person planted by streams of water that will
yield fruit in every season. So even what that means is even in the hard seasons, the seasons
that can feel dry, like the desert, if you will, or the trials and tribulation that we face,
even in those seasons, we can be like that tree that will yield fruit. So even when we don't see
that we're yielding fruit or that we are bearing fruit, God is making it happen. Y'all, there's a
really good analogy. If you think about trees in the winter, some places like, I don't know how
it's going to be in Florida. This is my first winter. It's going to be my first fall and winter
here in Florida. So I think it's going to be a little bit different here. But when I lived in
Ohio and Indiana and even Kentucky, when it turns winter, especially in Indiana and Ohio, more
Northern y'all, the trees lose all their leaves. It gets kind of dry and kind of barren looking.
Right. But y'all know that trees actually in the winter, there's like the there's like a
healing and inner healing and a life that's happening underneath the surface. So I want
to encourage you to think about yourselves in that way, that even when you might not see
something happening in the physical realm, that doesn't mean it's not happening in the spirit
realm. Okay. God is working on your path even right now in ways you can't even imagine.
I want to encourage you to partner with that truth more and more and more in the days ahead.
As we lean into that truth of who the father is, we were talking about that before they went
into the breakout sessions, that he's a gentleman. Let's even ask the Lord to remind us more about
who God is and his character, that he is good, that he is kind, that he's faithful,
that he is love. He cannot deny himself. So if we lean into that, if the lies that we hear because
of trauma we've experienced, tell us that God isn't good or that God doesn't love us or that
God won't come through for us, then that is an actual assault of the enemy on God's character.
And he's trying to convince us through the wounds that we've experienced and the lies we believed
as a result of them, because he doesn't want us to walk in life. He doesn't want us to walk in
fullness. He doesn't want us to walk in truth. And so just remember, we don't have to be afraid
of the devil, but we need to be aware of his schemes. It says, be wise as serpents, but
innocent as doves.
you all. Okay. So we need to be wise and walk in the wisdom of the Lord. And yep.
Know that the enemy prowls around like a roaring lion, but he's not a lion. Cause the lion of the
tribe of Judah is the King of Kings. Okay. So the enemy can act like he's a lion, but that doesn't
make it true. That means he doesn't win. So that's why I'm saying that y'all y'all know the end of
the story. He doesn't win. So in your life, I want you to just partner with the truth that
in the situations that you're facing right now, that God doesn't win, or I'm sorry, that God does
win. The enemy doesn't win. All right. So partner with that. God wins y'all. I didn't mean to say
it. I said it backwards. Hopefully, you know that, but yeah. So don't partner with the lies
that the enemy is trying to feed you. Who is willing for those of you joining the first time,
what we do now is our group shares, and typically it takes one person to get us going.
And then once that one person shares, typically a couple others will start to share who's willing
to share with the whole group, what you shared in your breakout. And maybe some of our ladies
that have been here a little longer, if you'll help the other ladies that are newer show,
show how it goes. And then it's, it's fun. We have a good time. All right. Awesome. Sarah in
California. Go ahead. Thank you. My hand thing. I don't know where to find that. Oh, that's okay.
If y'all okay, this is good. So if you guys hover over the bottom of your screen, whether it's on
your phone or the computer, there is a raise hand, or it could say reactions and then it might be
there or it might say more. And then you can find it in there. Once you click it, it tends to show
up more often, but yeah. So if you guys don't know what the digital, okay. I see it reactions. Okay.
Thank you. You're welcome. Okay. Um, so, um, I was sharing about how I have been being, I feel like
I'm being nudged and challenged by God to just like, when I meet a guy to not automatically my
mind be like, Oh, maybe he's the one. And instead just being like, you know, pursue friendship and,
and work on just getting to know him, you know, naturally and, um, and everything. So I think
that's something I feel like God has been working on in me. So, yeah, that's so good. Okay. So Sarah,
is that just something God is speaking to you about right now? I can't remember. Are you,
you're still in phase one with us right now, right? I, I am. Okay. Okay. So are you currently
dating, trying to date right now? No, because I know you guys are encouraging us not to yeah. So
I'm no, that's the only reason I wanted to clarify for our new lady. We do encourage a press pause
for at least the time that you're in this heartwork process, because as you are like healing,
you're going to find like, you're just going to look at a lot of stuff different. And I know some
of you, like, that's not something you're going to want to do, but I promise if you will partner
with that, you will find so much healing, just as you focus on what God wants to do in you.
And you're just going to, even like what's what Sarah's saying right here, this is a huge revelation.
And so that's why I wanted just to make sure, not that I thought you were, but I wanted to clarify
for those that might not know, we asked for that press pause. Um, we have a lot of people that get
stuck here. Is he the one? Is he the one? And people panic. And then they, without meaning to,
they put pressure on the guy. And then the guys like they back way off. Okay. And so I would
encourage you to ask Sarah or anyone else that can relate to what she's saying. Ask the Lord
when that started for you. Okay. So like when, maybe, you know, from my perspective, when was
the first time you felt pressure for the guy to be the one? Does that make sense? And I just want,
I'll be curious to see where else this goes with you. If there's any other healing regarding, um,
a man pursuing you and being the one that kind of is that chivalrous one versus maybe,
I don't know why, but if this is resonating for you, but have you been the one that's had
to lead a lot of relationships in the past? Uh, I feel like, yeah, I feel like I tend to
be, I guess the pursuer, so to speak. I, maybe I'm the one who's like the initiator in the
conversation or like, like, Oh, I think that's really cool that you fill in the blank, whatever
it is, you know? So I think, yeah. And so, yeah. Okay. Okay. So I, I was trying to tread lightly
because we don't do a lot of dating coaching in phase one, but I, the Holy spirit was kind of
bringing that up. And so as you lean into the supernatural surrender, part of that Sarah is
going to literally be surrendering the pen to the Lord and learning how.
how to let yourself receive and be pursued in a healthy way.
And so just wanted to mention that to you.
And again, anyone else that is resonating
with what we're talking about here,
because the reality is this,
God, I believe just from my experience,
I've actually gone through this,
will lead you all to your spirit mates
and lead your spirit mates to you.
And some of that is a discovery process.
I used to think, oh, I would meet one person
and I would just date them.
And God in my process said he was gonna give me options.
And I remember thinking, how is that gonna be possible?
And all these things.
Y'all, it totally was possible.
And it was great because you know why?
Because I never learned that I could get to know people
in a healthy level and just decide,
do I like this about this person?
Do I not like this?
Is this healthy?
Is this not healthy?
And doing that in a healthy way
and looking through an entirely different lens
this last time around
was just a whole different ballgame for me.
So I wanna encourage you all,
again, trust the process.
God knows what he's doing.
And if you're not sure, guess what?
You just signed up for an amazing community
where you don't have to do this by yourself anymore.
Cause that was another thing for me.
I did a lot of that by myself in the past.
And this time around I had community
and I came in and shared with my sisters in the group.
Y'all, they all knew the nicknames of the guys I dated
and was getting to know.
It was a whole fun thing.
So your journey can be fun too,
but for now you're doing hard work,
which is fun too, yeah.
So thank you, Sarah, for kicking us off.
Is there anyone else who is willing to share
with the whole group what you shared in your breakout?
No one's, okay, awesome.
Mackenzie, thank you.
I think that there was a level of,
like when you talked about distractions
and I know you prepared us last week,
you were like, this week you're gonna have distractions.
Work was very much that distraction this week.
And it was insane.
And I was like, wow, I don't know how to say no to this
because I have to do my job.
But I think there's an element of work,
a new layer of work that I'm having to surrender to the Lord
because I feel like I've surrendered
so many different elements of this job to the Lord.
And for me, I think that this new level
that I'm surrendering is what people think of me at work.
Because I was telling my breakout,
I call myself a recovering people pleaser.
And so I'm trying to like surrender that
in this new position.
And maybe that's what it is,
is I'm just surrendering it in this new position.
I love that.
So I'm curious, before you even went into
the what people think of me and the people pleaser part,
I heard in my spirit identity.
Do you get your identity in your work a lot?
Do you feel like?
I would say in the past, yes.
But I feel like in this last season of my life,
I have tried to change the perspective
so that my job is a,
I'm not living for fulfillment in my job,
but my job is a tool so that I can live and have fun
and provide and all that kind of stuff.
So I think that probably was in the past,
but I feel like I'm shifting out of that, I guess.
So when does the people pleasing kick in the most for you?
In this job or just in general?
It could be either or, yeah.
Recently I moved into a salesperson job.
So I'm a salesperson now for my company
and my company is kind of going downhill.
And so I feel like it's hard for me to like do my job well
because our company is going downhill
and I don't want the perception of me to be determined,
I guess.
Maybe that's why I heard identity then
because as you're sharing more, that makes sense to me.
Because while you might not be getting your identity
out of it, if the company's not doing well
and you're in a sales role
and it's harder to actually do your job,
I mean, there's a level of what I hear potentially
maybe fear there of how is that going to impact you?
Would that resonate for you?
Yeah.
Okay. All right.
So maybe just lean into that because one of the things that ladies, um, in these kinds of
situations, you know, we, we don't encourage people to make big changes during heartwork
either. So we, we don't encourage people to move. We don't encourage people to change jobs during
heartwork. Um, unless there's some kind of like, you can't avoid it. Right. Um, but in this process,
you know, I all would encourage you to, um, just be asking the Lord, um,
what about the idea of if this impacts you, like your identity, if you will, to some degree,
like what fears are, is that bringing up for you and really kind of see where else that might go
back to. I don't know why, but if in like your parents are coming up in my mind for some reason
right now too. Um, and so I don't know if there was some point where,
I don't know if there was some point where you felt like you let them down in some way
or I don't know. So I feel like there's a connection there. Is that resonating Mackenzie?
So something a couple of weeks ago that my mom actually came up and when I was, I think it was
in week two. So a couple of weeks ago, but, um, was that my mom was the disappointment thing.
And my mom that I was a disappointment in my parents. And my mom said, my mom said to me
without even knowing what was going on, but she said, when you were younger, I used, I didn't
have to punish you. Like I did your sisters. I just had to let you know that I was disappointed
in you. Um, and so that was something that came up probably like when I first came in and God
prepared me for it because it was like on Monday morning and then you had asked a question Monday
night. Um, and so, yeah. Okay. I forgot that we even talked about this before. So it's interesting.
It's coming back up tonight. Okay. So maybe just, there might be another layer to that. Yeah. Just
cause I, I would have not thought of your parents on my own. Cause we were totally talking about
your job. Um, and so just, just, just ask the Lord about that again and circle back to that.
Um, Rebecca says in the chat wild, God has been really feeling my mother wound this week. Yeah.
I would, I would say a lot of you all are going to, it just depends on your relationships with
your parents. Like some of you have probably great parents, but here's the reality, even
great parents. I feel like I've been even a good parent to my spiritual daughters and to my step
son, but because of other things that happened in the relationships with the people I was in and
life y'all, none of us are perfect. And our kids look at things through their lenses.
Okay. As kids and they can't fully comprehend some of the trauma that happens. Well, when we were
kids, we couldn't fully comprehend stuff either. And so even if your parent got sick or whatever,
like I also had a what's coming to mind somebody, um, a while back that their sibling was very sick
all the time. And the parents, you know, paid a lot of attention to that sibling. It wasn't
cause they didn't love the other child, but there was so much stress and the parents were struggling
to just like survive and take care of the kid, the child that was very sick, you know? And so
just be aware during this process, if things come up regarding your parents, um, don't, don't feel
like you're doing your parents a disservice. Okay. Cause even good parents sometimes, you know,
we have heart wounds that are connected to them and we need to be willing to look again, taking
those do not enter signs down. Okay. Your parents, uh, and healing that you need is important,
uh, in relation to that. All right. Awesome. Camilla, go ahead, Mackenzie. Thanks for sharing.
So I was sharing in the group that, uh, what I struggled, I mean, what I feel like God's calling
me to surrender is, um, the control. So of how and when, cause I received promises from God and
he's been like saying that through many different, uh, random people and reaffirming that, but like,
I, I keep like thinking that my time is limited. So like, if I, I have the feeling that I'm like,
Oh, I'm running out of time. How's that going to happen? You know, when, when and how,
and that's like a, a way of wanting to control, you know? So, uh, that's what I'm
surrendering now. And it was funny cause in my group, all the girls had the same issue. They
shared the same thing and it was like, yeah. You all, when you all first went into the breakout,
one of the things I said was God, thank you for all the people that you've placed together in
the group. So divinely tonight, or I said something similar to that. I really believe
I really believe that even when I'm pressing buttons, God is.
orchestrating conversations and people that need to be in groups together.
So I believe that you can believe that too, and partner with that, um, because
you're all as conversations with each other also bring healing and insight
and revelation, all kinds of stuff.
Okay.
So here's one of the things I want to, um, Encourage you or anyone else.
I see Judy saying me too.
Uh, I think Nicole said yes.
And there, do you all believe that God can redeem time?
Because he can, and I know we, it's tough for us to comprehend that he
can actually give us time back, but he can, he says it in his word.
And there were times where even the sun was made to stand still.
Right.
I don't think, I mean, some of that is symbolic in the old Testament, but I do
believe it was symbolic and it was a story that was told for a purpose or a
reason.
And so, um, for me, you know, being in a relationship with the girl's dad for six
years, I remember coming out of that, just feeling like, man, I wasted all that
time.
Well, that wasn't true.
The enemy was telling me that you just wasted all that time.
Now you're not going to be able to have a baby because you're this older, you
know, he just started going and trying to take me on a rabbit trail with him.
And I could have kept going on that trail and that thought process and that, that
heart posture, or I could say, you know what?
I don't receive that light.
God, you knew my heart in that relationship.
I know there are definitely things now hindsight.
And even years ago, before I'm in where I'm at now, there are definitely things I
would have done differently, but I didn't know what I didn't know until I knew it.
So I want to encourage you all to give yourself some grace because you're
learning and you're growing.
And, you know, even if you've tried several times, okay, I understand it's
frustrating, but let that go surrender that and choose to move forward tonight
and to not partner with the lie that your time is limited.
Here's another thing.
When you said that my time is limited.
I think you meant it in the regard of like, uh, that time clock that we kind
of all ladies start to feel if you're wanting to have kids, is that what you
meant, Camilla?
Okay.
That's what I thought, but I felt like in the spirit, someone else is here
tonight, or maybe someone that will watch the replay is, is feeling that from
their perspective of, they don't feel like they have much life left, like as
in years vitality.
And so if that's you tonight, I want to encourage you to not partner with that
lie.
I think the enemy is trying to convince you that you're not going to live much
longer.
And that is not truth.
I believe that's from the enemy and the pit of hell trying to convince you that
there isn't anything good left for you.
Okay.
So be aware of that kind of stuff.
Ladies, the enemies, he tries to be real sneaky and kind of backdoored in again,
through these wounds and trauma we've been through, even like thoughts and lies
like that.
And you might not even realize that you're thinking about them, but people
that anybody can struggle with it, but especially people that have had terminal,
like kind of diagnoses or a lot of autoimmune or a lot of health issues over
the years will struggle with things like that.
So just do your best to not partner with that, that kind of stuff.
All right, Katie, go ahead, Camilla.
Thanks for sharing.
Okay.
So when you mentioned memories earlier tonight, that, that is what really came
up for me and to really surrender to what's coming up and sit with the Lord to
talk to him about some of these memories that do feel super random.
And, and really kind of commit to the, the process and dedicate this
time to what he wants to bring up.
That's really good.
Is there any memory in particular that's coming up that felt random
that comes to mind tonight for you?
If you're willing to share, it's totally up to you.
Yeah, it was a birthday.
I was probably turning 13 or 14 and I was at a youth camp and just super insecure.
And it's, um, yeah, there's just pain.
Cause I feel like my actions hurt my parents.
Um, they, this is weird to share.
but I'll share anyway.
They brought me a cake to this youth camp.
It was like an overnight camp.
And I was so embarrassed and my, you know,
I kind of acted out of that embarrassment
and in a negative way.
And I think about that and I just feel like it hurt them.
Okay.
I don't think it's random at all.
Have you, what week are you on?
Remind me.
I'm at the end of week two.
Okay.
So we are gonna talk about forgiveness some tonight,
but the forgiveness sheets when you get to week four
will be in there for you.
But I wanna encourage you,
this is like gonna be a great segue
cause I'm gonna segue from this with you
right into our content on forgiveness.
But I wanna encourage you to forgive yourself for that.
Even though it seems silly,
I feel like there might be a lot more connected to that.
The other thing that came up was, you know,
be willing to look at why you were embarrassed.
Okay.
Cause while, you know,
sometimes we just have those feelings and thoughts as kids
because we're teenagers or, you know, kids or whatever.
Typically, even if it's a lie that we're believing
about our parents or what other people will think of us,
there's something typically under there.
Cause one of the things you said as well
is you were insecure.
And so I'm just wondering if some of the insecurities
you were struggling with at that time
when your parents showed up,
even though they were doing something nice for you,
if that fed into being afraid that kids would make fun of you
or something, you know?
So just again, be willing to, you know,
really just sit with the Lord and ask him like,
Lord, can you help me remember why I was embarrassed
or like, you know, why I said or did what I did
and doing and processing that,
forgiving yourself for that will be really important.
Y'all, sometimes we do not realize
the things that we have done or that others have done to us
that like when it happens, we just,
we move on and then something else happens
and it's like another layer pushes down,
something else happens and it's another layer
pushes down and over time,
it just, this stuff keeps getting packed down
into our souls and our spirits.
And that's why I said, just, you know,
this stuff will start to percolate up
and you'll be like, that seems so random.
But it actually most times isn't
because God wants you to be free from all of that stuff
so that you're not carrying that down
in your soul and spirit anymore
because those kinds of things actually keep us stuck.
Because while that was, you were 13 or 14,
even though you're an adult now,
the reality of feeling like you hurt your parents
is still down in you or it wouldn't be coming up.
So in certain ways, not only does that cause us
to hold back even from our parents or those that we hurt,
but we come into new relationship
and people are wanting to love us
and we struggle to fully receive love
for a lot of different reasons.
A, are we afraid that we're gonna hurt them?
B, are we afraid they're gonna hurt us?
All these different scenarios.
So that's why we wanna allow the Lord
to come in and minister in those areas
and heal and just become more and more open.
I want y'all to think about living fully open, okay?
And for some of you, that's gonna feel really risky,
but here's the truth, love is a risk.
I had to choose to be open to love
in order to enter the marriage relationship I am in.
Some of you have been single for a really long time
and it's gonna be really important for you to surrender
and allow yourself to become open
to living a life with someone and partnering
and not just doing everything your way all the time.
Because in a marriage, it's not always about what we want.
Okay, I can promise you that.
So lean into this stuff, but it's fun.
Okay, Nicole, so that's important for y'all to hear too.
Brian and I have a lot of fun making decisions together too
and he has great ideas and I have great ideas
and we go on adventures.
So be careful to not be afraid of change, okay?
It helps us become more like Christ, y'all.
When we have a healthy marriage,
it definitely can help us become more like Christ.
Okay, let's talk.
about forgiveness. Katie, thank you for sharing. Appreciate
that. All right, so I want you all to think about forgiveness
regarding breaking tethers. And I tell this story a lot just
because it's something that I relate to. But when I was
younger, on the playground in elementary school, we had a
tether ball game. And the tether ball game basically is this,
it's a pole with a rope, and a ball attached to it, and the
kids would stand around and hit it back and forth. And I use
this as an example, because unforgiveness is like a tether,
that ball would always remain stuck to the pole, unless
somebody removed the rope and the ball and took it in at the
end of the day. So when you're thinking about the areas where
you're maybe choosing to not forgive, I want you to think
about the fact, this is reality, y'all, you're not going to like
it. But this is the truth. When we don't forgive people, we are
tethered to them. And we are tethered to the trauma, that
means we are connected. So it's important for you to forgive so
that you can become untethered and unbound, unattached to those
people in those situations. So it's not that we're forgetting
what they did, but we're choosing to forgive. We're
choosing to release them. And guess what happens in the
process, we also get released in the spirit realm. We also become
free in the spirit realm. Somebody asked a really great
question this afternoon. I think I don't remember exactly how she
asked it, but she was asking about the difference between
anger and hurt and forgiveness. And I wish I could remember
exactly how she said it, but I thought it was such a great
question. Here's the big difference. Forgiveness is not
an emotion. Anger is hurt's bodyguard. A lot of times
underneath the surface of anger is disappointment, frustration,
other emotions. But forgiveness is not an emotion. Sometimes
y'all you're going to choose to forgive out of out of obedience,
and you're not going to feel anything. Sometimes you're going
to choose to forgive and you're going to actually feel a
physical release in your spirit, you're going to feel something.
But again, that's not because it's an emotion, it's because
there's something coming off of you in the spirit realm, you're
feeling that. Okay, that's the difference. I want you all to
think about as well. Gosh, I forgot my sunglasses again
tonight. I love this analogy and I forgot them. I think some of
y'all have been here for a little while and you've seen it
before. But imagine I'm wearing sunglasses right now. Okay, just
imagine it. The reason I like this example is because when I
look through the sunglasses, I have the the kind of sunglasses
where it tints the color that you see. And so everywhere I
look with these sunglasses, I see like orange or pink in the
clouds, but that's not really there. It's actually white or
whatever color clouds really are. And so I want you to also
think about what forgiveness does to you. When you look at
the people around you, when you look at yourself, it actually
kind of taints the way you look at the world, the way that you
look at yourself, the way that you look at other people around
you. And it causes you to have these filters and blind spots
that you see things through. Okay. And so when we're choosing
to forgive, we're also allowing God to remove those sunglasses,
those lenses, if you will, and filters that we've been looking
through that are not a part of his plan for us. It can also
unforgiveness can also impact your ability to receive and give
love as I've been talking about tonight. It can also impact your
ability to remain in connection with God, yourself, and other
people. God doesn't remove, like he's not saying I don't want to
be with you. But what's happening is you are actually
through choosing on forgiveness, creating separation. It's not
that God's not close to you, but you but we we create
separation in the spirit through that. Okay, I'm going to read
something to you real quick. It's not a lot, but it's
important. These blind spots and filters that I'm talking about.
When you walk into any situation, it doesn't matter
what it is bad or good. You don't see that thing that place
those people the way that they are. You see them the way that
you are on
inside. Okay. So we see people the way we are. If our heart is
not healed, we see them through brokenness. For instance, say
you were severely hurt by a group of people. Let's say
tonight, maybe it's a group of women, maybe it's friends, maybe
it was a leader that was a woman over you, or your mom that came
up tonight. So let's go there a little bit. Maybe they mistreated
you lied about you. Maybe they even discarded you. The heart
wounds and lies that were created as a result of that
trauma will give you a skewed perception of groups in the
future, or women in the future that are leaders or other
motherly type figures or even your own mom. Same thing with
men, ladies. Okay. You may avoid groups or communities of
people like the plague convincing yourself that they
are all bad. Some of you tell yourself I will never fit in. I
did a session the other day with someone that's what she tells
herself all the time. I don't fit in I've never fit in. But
here's the reality God says in his word that he places the
solitary and family. So that is actually a lie that is not based
on the word of God that she's believing. We can feel like we
don't fit y'all I, in reality, never have felt like I fit in my
family. I'm totally different than the rest of my family. But
God absolutely causes me to fit. Look at this amazing community.
I never could have imagined this a couple years ago. I couldn't
have. But God placed me here. And it's like one of the most
amazing things I get to be a part of. I love it. And I'm
thriving here. And you know, hopefully God will keep me here
a long, long time. But either way, I have to trust that my
good daddy is going to place me and family no matter where I go.
It's how we look at it. Okay, I'm going on. Or you may try
again to search for community. But if you decide to join a
similar group in the future, your most significant obstacle
to belonging will be the filter that was created by your prior
experience. Basically the pain and the trauma that you went
through. Okay, so what filters do you need to also let go of
tonight? That's not your breakout question. But I want
you to be thinking about it. Because I really feel like God's
on that because we didn't go into this at all in the
afternoon session. Matthew 2239 says love your neighbor as you
love yourself. Remember, forgiveness is not a not a
feeling but it's a choice that you are making. Ephesians 423
says this forgive one another just as God forgave you because
of what Christ has done. Colossians 313 says this
remember the Lord forgave you so you must also forgive others.
Forgive all the characters in your story, ladies, including
yourself. Some of you that you know, you're really good at
forgiving everybody else, but when it comes to you, you you
basically this is what came up in my spirit this afternoon and
it's coming to mind again. So I'm just going to run with this.
It's like you're saying God, I cannot have a free pass about
this. What do I mean by that? You're basically holding
yourself hostage. Because you feel like what you did was so
bad that you don't deserve forgiveness. But that's not
true. God forgives you and loves you unconditionally. So it's
time for you to receive that love and forgiveness and release
yourself. So I want to encourage you to do that if that is
speaking to you tonight. Remember that forgiveness
happens in layers ladies. Okay. Healing happens in layers. Some
of you all you know, this is a difficult journey at times, but
keep moving keep putting one foot in front of the other and
God will lead you into his glory into his beautiful plan for your
life and it's going to be good. Alright, so the last thing I
want to say before we go into breakouts is that when we're
talking about God as a gentleman earlier, another aspect of God's
character is he is love. Not just he chooses to love he is
actually love. So he cannot deny himself. He can't stop loving.
So I want you all to think about this aspect if God is
love.
I always like to think of him coming, raining down on me.
I know he's all around us, but it just,
there's something about just in my mind,
ah, like him coming down.
But just, if he's sending love down to me, guess what?
He's also sending love down upon my enemies.
Is he not?
He is.
And I'm not saying you need to have them back in your life
and be buds again, or any of that kind of stuff,
but I wanna encourage you to allow the father
to heal your heart and set you free
so that you can move forward in your life
and let God take care of whatever needs to happen
over there.
Okay?
All right.
Your breakout question is,
who do you need to forgive tonight and why?
Who do you need to forgive tonight and why?
Let's, I'm gonna recreate.
So you're gonna be with different people, hopefully.
Maybe, maybe not.
We'll see.
And I am going to change it.
I'm gonna reduce the time just a little bit.
Let's do seven minutes.
You might have to talk a little quicker,
short, brief, and powerful.
Go ahead and join those rooms.
Go ahead and click to join those.
Okay.
Hold on one sec, ladies.
I'm gonna start to pray here in just a second.
I'm gonna get people situated here.
There we go.
All right.
Father, thank you for forgiveness.
Thank you for sending your son, Jesus,
to die on the cross,
for his body to be broken and his blood to be shed,
for the forgiveness of our sins,
for our healing, for our redemption,
to also make a way for us to be one with you, Father,
as he is one with you.
And Jesus, I thank you for coming.
I thank you for choosing us.
I thank you for allowing us to be a part of the family.
Holy Spirit, we thank you for coming as well.
Jesus, thank you for ascending
so that the Holy Spirit could come.
I ask you to just hover over every one
of the conversations happening tonight,
as well as the ladies that are here,
those that are gonna watch the replay,
that you would just minister your grace and your truth, Lord,
in a fresh way that we would hear
just your heart towards us from heaven,
that fresh waves of grace and healing and hope
and mercy would flow and wash over every dry, dead area,
every area where the river has been stopped up,
where your spirit has not been flowing
like we knew it in the past.
We thank you that you would create in us
a clean heart, oh God,
and renew steadfast spirits within us,
that you, even in Isaiah 43, 19, say,
I'm doing a new thing, can you not perceive it?
Lord, help us to perceive the new thing
that you're doing in us.
Help us to take our eyes off of the people
that are in our lives,
and help us to see the things that you're doing in us.
The people that perpetrated these things,
that harmed us in some way.
Help us to put our eyes on you and choose forgiveness,
to choose to move towards you,
towards the plan and the purpose you have for us.
I thank you that you will help us to lay aside
every weight that so easily ensnares us
that we would press on
toward the high calling of God for our lives.
I thank you that you would help us to think on things
that are true and noble and lovely and of good report,
things that are above only and not beneath.
I thank you, God, that you declare in your word
that we will be blessed when we rise up,
that we can be blessed when we lie down,
when we go out, we can be blessed.
And even when we come in for those that seek you
and live according to your purposes.
So Lord, we thank you for that.
We thank you for Selah rest over every one of these ladies,
even women that have been struggling with sleep.
God, I thank you that you would give us a deep rest.
God, that you, your eyes are always on us.
You never slumber or sleep and you're always doing
and moving and protecting us.
God, I thank you that even right now,
God, that you are weaving in and out of our timelines,
that you're redeeming our time.
God, I thank you that you can give us back time
where the enemies try to steal it.
You can give us back money.
We thank you for restitution.
We thank you for healing. We thank you for life.
And joy unspeakable and full of your glory.
Lord, let us receive your truth.
Let us receive your life.
Let us receive your hope.
We thank you, God, that we can bask in your presence
and yeah, Lord, that we would celebrate with you.
That we would allow you to show us how precious your thoughts are about us.
So, God, your word declares in Psalm 139, 17 through 18,
that your thoughts that are precious cannot even be numbered.
We can't even count them.
They outnumber the grains of sand.
And when we wake up in the daytime, you are still with us, God.
You never leave us. You never forsake us.
You're always working on our behalf.
I thank you, God, that you would just continue to show us, Lord, your glory.
I thank you that you would help us to grow in the revelation of our understanding of your character, God.
That you are faithful.
That you are good.
That you are kind.
That you are loving, God.
That you are peace.
Yes, Lord.
I thank you, God, where there's weariness and well-doing, Lord, from the journey that's been hard for so many,
God, I thank you that you would just bring peace and rest to their bodies, to their spirits, their souls, their minds.
I thank you that you would just, yes, Lord, place your hedge of protection around all of these ladies and their families.
That you would cover every pit the enemy has set for their destruction and you would help them to leap over those instead.
I thank you even your word declares that we can trust the righteous can turn to you and be safe.
And that you would make a table, prepare a table for us in the presence of our enemies.
So, Lord, I thank you that you'll help us to partner with that truth.
We know that 2 Timothy 1, 7 says,
For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but he's given us a spirit of power and of love and of self-discipline.
It also says in some versions, a sound mind.
So, Lord, we thank you that we will not partner with fear because fear has to do with torment.
I thank you that you will help us to grow in the revelation of your love for us more every day.
Yeah, this one's so good too, ladies.
Even as I was looking down, Psalm 41, 10 in the NLT says this.
Don't be afraid for I am with you.
Don't be discouraged for I am your God.
I will strengthen you and help you.
I will hold you up with my victorious right hand.
Lord, I thank you that even these ladies tonight that they would experience you lifting them up with your victorious right hand.
Lord, where they have felt just beaten down by the enemy, God, I thank you for a reprieve.
I thank you for, yeah, Lord, that you would cover any open door of the enemy that hasn't even been an open door of their doing.
But, Lord, God, the enemies just continue to come in and hit them over and over and over in the same areas.
We thank you for closing those doors.
I thank you that your word declares that your glory is our rear guard.
I thank you that you would hide us under the shadow of your wings and in your mighty presence.
I thank you that you would continue to transform us by the renewing of our minds that all old things have passed away and, behold, everything has become new in you.
I thank you, God, that you're giving us new hearts, new minds, new spirits.
Yeah, revitalization projects are happening here, ladies.
I just heard the Lord say he's doing some new builds.
New builds, y'all, not just, and reno jobs are awesome, too, okay?
What I mean by that is, you know, you have an old house and you want to renovate it.
That's awesome, too, but I feel like in the spirit tonight, some of y'all need that encouragement that God's creating a new build.
He's doing something new.
He's going to give you a new vision, a new revelation of his plan for your life.
It's just, will we perceive it?
In Isaiah 43, that was one of the scriptures that comes up a lot during heart work when I pray for you all.
I remember a time that I could not perceive God's goodness in my life when my marriage was falling apart years ago and someone prayed for me that I would be used to help marriage and families.
And I remember that.
I remember just laughing and thinking that was ridiculous.
Like what in the heck, God, are you serious?
Like, you know what's going on
and you're gonna send this person over here
to pray for me and say that to me.
And I just thought, I just was not, I didn't like it.
But God had a purpose in that, he did.
And many years ago, it started coming full circle
as I was a single person helping create
a marriage conference for an online church.
What?
Yep, I got a front row seat to it
and I got to help them accomplish it.
And that was, I was sown into marriages and families.
That was kind of the beginning.
That was long before I came into this community
and now I get to be here and do this.
What?
Yes, it's awesome you all.
So open your heart to receive fresh vision.
God wants to show you something new.
All right, who's willing to share in your,
or with the whole group,
what you shared in your breakout group?
Who's first?
Awesome, all right, Nicole, go for it.
Well, it's like you were saying,
it's got different layers of different things, I guess.
So I guess men, whether it's getting ghosted once
or things that were said that kind of started
to unravel the relationship and cause defense and hurt.
And then further back, not so much that I'm,
I don't think harboring unforgiveness,
but it was just the hurt from the years of,
like with my father.
Oh, he was involved in some different groups
and caused anti-government.
He kind of got real serious and thankfully got,
stopped him at one point from taking action.
But it caused a lot of problems in marriage,
a lot of, so there's a lot of yelling
and he wasn't a communicator.
So it was a lot of one-sided yelling from my mom.
And so a lot of hurt over the years
and just seems like even into, I mean, later life,
not really learning from mistakes
and repeating and just cyclical.
So even though the love was still there,
but there was still, you know,
continuing to see the cycles that got out of the stuff
he was in when he was younger,
but just mistakes in the marriage and things
that would cause hurt with my mom.
And even forgiving myself,
because I think hearing a lot of the yelling,
maybe we took that on with ourselves too.
And just the way I spoke to him before he passed away
and regretting, you know,
of course I didn't know if he was gonna pass away,
but regretting the way I spoke to him,
the last thing I said and, you know,
just forgiving myself as well, so.
Thank you for sharing that.
Yeah, yeah.
It's really good.
One of the things as we're processing this stuff,
y'all, it doesn't mean
that we're harboring resentment towards people,
but again, if God is bringing it up,
it's probably there's some more healing
that he wants to do there.
When you were sharing the part about, you know,
that dad didn't really learn,
like he still kind of did those cyclical,
like he kind of redid the same things over and over,
if you will, that's kind of how I interpreted
what you were saying.
Do you struggle to believe that men can change in general?
Like, do you battle that lie at all?
No, I don't.
Not really, I guess I haven't had a lot of
like long-term relationships to deal with that.
I think it depends on the individual, maybe.
Do you feel open to men?
Do you like men?
Like, not just, okay, you want to-
Yeah, no, I don't resent.
Some people will say yes, but then underlying,
that's why I'm asking, like without realizing it,
because of what we've been through,
we have like underlying subconscious,
like maybe not even that we don't like men,
but maybe we don't feel safe.
Walls up.
Yeah, like I can see myself putting walls up
to protect myself until I know somebody
and yeah, I could see, I could see that.
So in this process, the reason I asked you that
is that in the process of, you know,
removing those do not enter signs
and learning to do this now with the Lord.
and even with this group of women,
it's going to help you prepare to do that
when you enter, like to try to date again.
Because if we don't learn to take the walls down here,
it's gonna be harder when you move in that place
because of the underlying stories
or areas that we still need healing.
So I tend to see women or men struggle with triggers a lot
if they don't really lean into these kinds of areas
that God's revealing.
Like if there's a man that yelled
or was abusive in some way,
and whether they realize it or not,
it can impact the way they view men in general.
And so again, just look at that,
just spend some time with the Lord in the next few weeks
and keep talking to him
because it sounds like you already are about that.
And then the forgiving yourself.
I kind of heard your voice kind of,
sometimes when I'm talking about certain things
and it's still emotional a little bit,
like I don't hurt and have pain,
but there's still some like physical emotion there.
And I can tend to recognize that sometimes
in people as well.
And so I heard that a little bit for you.
And so that sounded a little more tender.
And so I wanna encourage you
to definitely lean into that as well.
And God's already forgiven you for that.
And I believe, I'm just gonna say,
there's so much that happens you all
that we have no comprehension of.
And I just, you don't have to hold yourself hostage to that.
We can't change what we did or what we do in the past.
All we can do is change who we are today.
And every single day going forward,
we are becoming someone new, okay?
So celebrate who you are now
and all that you're learning and forgive yourself.
And yeah, it's gonna be exciting.
I think you're gonna be really a lot more free
after you do that, for sure.
Thank you.
Stephanie, go ahead.
Davis or Kay?
Oh, I'm sorry.
Are there two?
Oh, Stephanie Davis.
Thank you.
Okay, that's me.
Hi, everyone.
Hi.
So when you told us to go in the room,
the first thing that came to my heart was two things,
is to forgive myself for the mistakes I've made
and two, to forgive my son.
My son passed away and I never thought I blamed him,
but I blame him for putting me through losing a child.
He didn't kill himself, he didn't do anything,
but I never realized I blamed him.
I just, when I look at his picture,
I was like, why he didn't listen?
And I never realized I animosity against him for leaving me.
So thank you.
That's powerful, Stephanie.
That's so powerful.
Thank you for sharing that with us
and opening your heart about that.
Y'all, this is real stuff, right?
There are so many things that the Lord
just gonna say lovingly, like, hey, forgive them,
forgive yourself, and this is why it matters.
Okay, so good.
All right, Rambo, did I say it right?
You did, yes.
Awesome, okay, go ahead.
So for me, the Lord kept bringing memory all week,
which really surprised me
just because I just recently signed up for this class
and I kept thinking to myself,
I've been through so much therapy, sozo's,
healings, just everything.
And I was just like, okay, well, I'll just be here,
but I don't see why.
And so in my marriage, there was a lot of infidelity
and I have forgiven him so many times,
just forgiven so many things.
But what surprised me is that the Lord was bringing up
the women that were involved
and specifically this one memory of someone
that I thought was his friend only to find out later
that it was more than that,
but she had a conversation with me
and was telling me that the reason he's doing
what he's doing is because I don't listen to him
and I don't do this and that, just blaming me.
And the Lord just kept bringing that up
and I was just surprised.
eyes, that I actually physically felt it in my heart. And that's
just something, you know, because I kept telling myself,
you know, these women don't know it's not their fault, but I did
not realize that I was still hurting behind even their part
in this.
That's so good. Rambo, so many times people don't realize, I
have to think of the phrase, we redirect things that we feel on
to other people. So sometimes, like, it sounds like you were
upset with him. But like, for me, one of the things I did
when I'm the girl's dad, my, my ex husband did stuff like this,
too. But the girl's dad was one of the main, like, I've never
been through betrayal, like what I went through with him. And I
had a lady that he was having a side relationship with actually
like, stalk me on social media was is like, terrible, y'all.
And, and so I started kind of like stepping out of my online
ministry and everything, because I just didn't want to deal with
it. But I'm saying all that to say, um, I remember just
directing my anger on to even this one other woman that he was
doing some stuff with that I went to church with, I had just
started becoming friends with her too. And random, they met at
a bar. And yeah, it went downhill from there. But I never
spoke to her ever again. I just couldn't handle it. And I just
had to cut her out. Because that was easier than dealing with the
situation with him at that time. Now I did end up dealing with
that situation and obviously broke up with him and all the
things, but I had to forgive myself for like cutting her out.
Because she actually didn't even do anything wrong. Like she
actually told me that he kind of approached her at the bar and all
this stuff. But I just was mad at her. You know, I'm saying, and
so I had to forgive myself for that. And then also the other
women that actually did do stuff with him and like that woman
that bullied me and I mean, she was saying crazy stuff to me. I'm
like, oh, if you only knew, you know, so I resonate with what
you're sharing in that regard. And so yeah, we have to forgive
all the people in the story, ladies. And even if your
situation isn't this, like even if it was a situation, this is
just coming up in my spirit as we start to close tonight. And I
will, Stephanie Kay will still share just so you know, so don't
go anywhere. If you were hurt in a church, you don't have to
raise your hand. Okay. I just want to encourage you to forgive
those people, those leaders, whatever the situation and
scenario is, because God wants you to be able to move forward
and receive new community. Some of you are isolated, and you're
not connecting in church community, because you have
walls up because of the pain of the past. Okay, really
important. Rambo, thank you for sharing. Stephanie Kay, go
ahead. And then we'll close after Stephanie Kay, you all.
Thanks, Bethany. I'm so had a really great conversation with
my group. And I think, for me, the first thing that came up is
as we were kind of going through the questions was forgiving
myself, honestly, just for years of people pleasing, I feel the
Lord brought up in my spirit that so much of my childhood was
never having the option to say no. And so how that has really
shaped the way that I've kind of been in spaces where I feel
like I have to continue to say yes. And I think honestly,
related to that as well, just like, being in community with
someone who has hurt me and continues to hurt me. And like,
what is that? What does forgiveness look like in that?
And, like, went to church yesterday, and the passages love
your enemies, the same one that you had tonight. And so feeling
the conviction in that, but also the fear of like, what if this
just keeps happening? You know,
that's so good. This is gonna be a great closing for me to coach
on this for a minute. Stephanie, thank you for sharing that and
being vulnerable. I think here's the thing you all balance is key
always, and the Lord will help you be in balance. And so will
this community if you will come into community and share here. I
know I tell you guys, you're gonna get tired of hearing me
say it. But when you post in the group, and you allow us to see
you, or you share live or you share in the breakouts, you
know, this is this is like where you can take advantage of like
learning how to navigate what you're processing. But also,
having grown up in a home where I felt like I couldn't say no
either. And then I did that a lot in relationships, like I
like I just dated guys, and I saw red flags, and I would just
blow past him. Part of that was because I was a people
pleaser. And I just was trying to make everybody happy and, and
all of this. And sometimes I was afraid, honestly, and I didn't
see my value. And so I would minimize myself to stay with
someone that just really was no good for me. And so along the
way, I remember, I just started making a list of how I felt
about myself. And if there was anything negative on it, kind of
like the silhouette that I gave you guys that that exercise, if
you're brand new, it would be in the replay from last week, I
think. And basically, we want to get rid of negative things that
we think about ourselves. So even as we do the silhouette
exercise, and we ask God to help us hear what he has to say about
us, anything negative, we want to write that on a separate
paper and ask God to help us know the truth to replace that
lie. But basically, I'm saying that to you to say is the more
that you know who you are in Christ, like who will like your
identity, like what, what are your values? I guess that's kind
of where I'm going. Because if we know ourself better, and we
know what our values are, like, what do we care about? Like,
what are our God non negotiables? Next, next week,
we're going to talk a little bit about control. And we're going
to talk about never will I ever list. And when you know, so I
don't want to give too much away. But like, as you all are
seeking the Lord, and kind of starting to figure out, like the
surrender, the pen, like, what are some God, God, non
negotiables, though, like, for me, I definitely wanted to marry
someone that didn't just tell me they wanted to have a baby that
genuinely wanted to have children. Because my former
husband said he wanted kids. He already had a son, I thought we
were having more kids and got married. And lo and behold, he
didn't want any more kids. Well, now I'm stuck in a marriage with
someone that doesn't want kids not always wanted kids. So then
same kind of thing dating the girl's dad changed his mind. And
we're not getting married, kept talking about marriage. Praise
God, I didn't marry him. I say it all the time, y'all. I'm so
glad God did not give me my answer to that prayer. But then
when I was looking this last time around, I knew better what
I wanted and not like a list of like, he can't have this color
hair, he can't have this name, or none of that kind of stuff,
you all but just the core. Like, I didn't want him just to say,
Oh, like, I love God. Okay, great. You go to church. But do
you really live by the fruits of the Spirit? Is that a part of
your life? So that's I don't know if that's helpful,
Stephanie. But like, I think the more that you just like discern
who you are, you will know how to say no to unhealthy things
more. Does that make sense? So I kind of made that long journey
to get there. Oh, you all have fun when I'm here. All right,
it's 938. Let me close us down. It's been an amazing night. I
hope you all are enjoying this process. We're here for you. If
you need prayer at any time, you can post in the group and let us
know don't feel like you have to struggle by yourself. And we
will, we will be honored to pray for you. And really looking
forward to seeing what God does for you and in you in the days
ahead. So Father, we just thank you. Oh, man, God, you're just
so good. I thank you, God, for renewing our minds, changing our
perspectives where we need it, Lord, helping us forgive
ourselves and other people, helping us to receive your
forgiveness. Help us to never forget the sacrifice that Jesus
made for us. And he did it because he loved us. And you
love us and he chose relationships. So help us Lord,
to turn towards relationship with you. Yeah, Lord, I thank
you for just filling us afresh with your Holy Spirit. And the
days ahead, I thank you that you'll help us to worship, that
our worship is warfare, and that we can rest in you, Lord. I
thank you that you would just continue to cleanse our minds
and our hearts and our bodies and spirits and souls more and
more in the days ahead. We just thank you in advance for it in
Jesus name. Amen. God bless you all. I'll see you all in the
group. Have an amazing week, everyone. Bye.
Good night.