WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:02.600 and I watched it. 2 00:00:02.600 --> 00:00:03.520 All right. 3 00:00:03.520 --> 00:00:09.080 So this is Monday, November 4th, Men's Heart Check-In. 4 00:00:09.080 --> 00:00:12.680 And so welcome, you all. 5 00:00:12.680 --> 00:00:15.720 You were saying, Mike? 6 00:00:15.720 --> 00:00:18.560 Oh, so you're at the Pedro Adeo thing, 7 00:00:18.560 --> 00:00:19.720 and you're looking fabulous. 8 00:00:19.720 --> 00:00:22.520 So like, you know, there's a lot of guys 9 00:00:22.520 --> 00:00:26.680 that wanted to watch it, but hadn't had a chance to get on. 10 00:00:26.680 --> 00:00:28.560 So that's why I'm recording. 11 00:00:28.560 --> 00:00:30.560 They requested the recording, so. 12 00:00:30.560 --> 00:00:31.440 Exactly. 13 00:00:31.440 --> 00:00:34.000 Well, I really appreciate you reminding me. 14 00:00:34.000 --> 00:00:36.800 So I'm in one of these little, like, 15 00:00:36.800 --> 00:00:39.080 fancy, like, little telephone booth things 16 00:00:39.080 --> 00:00:40.640 that they have here at the hotel. 17 00:00:40.640 --> 00:00:44.160 So I'm in a hotel, and yeah, it's kind of cool. 18 00:00:44.160 --> 00:00:46.080 It's a really nice place, The Hyatt, 19 00:00:46.080 --> 00:00:49.240 here in Irvine, California. 20 00:00:49.240 --> 00:00:52.520 So I wanted to jump on with you guys 21 00:00:52.520 --> 00:00:55.800 to make sure we did our heartwork check-in tonight. 22 00:00:55.800 --> 00:00:59.160 So welcome, guys. 23 00:00:59.160 --> 00:01:01.920 And Kenton, hi, how are you? 24 00:01:01.920 --> 00:01:03.640 I'm doing well, thank you. 25 00:01:03.640 --> 00:01:07.440 Good, welcome to Men's Heartwork. 26 00:01:07.440 --> 00:01:13.560 This is just an opportunity to have a weekly check-in 27 00:01:13.560 --> 00:01:17.760 with just guys to process heartwork, 28 00:01:17.760 --> 00:01:21.640 have some discussion about life, about what we're going through, 29 00:01:21.640 --> 00:01:24.440 try to help each other out, answer questions for us all. 30 00:01:24.440 --> 00:01:29.360 So I'll give you a moment to sort of introduce yourself. 31 00:01:29.360 --> 00:01:32.160 I believe this is your first time on our heart check-in, 32 00:01:32.160 --> 00:01:33.240 is that correct? 33 00:01:33.240 --> 00:01:34.280 That's correct, yes. 34 00:01:34.280 --> 00:01:35.720 Yeah, so. 35 00:01:35.720 --> 00:01:38.480 I started the program here just about a couple of weeks ago. 36 00:01:38.480 --> 00:01:39.400 Awesome. 37 00:01:39.400 --> 00:01:41.920 I can't be here every week because I work up north 38 00:01:41.920 --> 00:01:43.600 seven days a month, five days off. 39 00:01:43.600 --> 00:01:45.040 So if I can get- 40 00:01:45.040 --> 00:01:47.640 Where are you staying, where you live right now? 41 00:01:47.640 --> 00:01:49.640 Right now, I'm in Edmonton. 42 00:01:49.640 --> 00:01:51.360 In Edmonton, oh, OK. 43 00:01:51.360 --> 00:01:51.880 Yeah. 44 00:01:51.880 --> 00:01:54.040 Alberta, Canada. 45 00:01:54.040 --> 00:01:55.040 Awesome. 46 00:01:55.040 --> 00:01:56.960 So I work up in the oil sands. 47 00:01:56.960 --> 00:01:59.560 I drive the biggest trucks in the world. 48 00:01:59.560 --> 00:02:00.960 Wow. 49 00:02:00.960 --> 00:02:02.560 So it's kind of fun that way. 50 00:02:02.560 --> 00:02:05.080 It's my de-stressing years. 51 00:02:05.080 --> 00:02:09.520 Ah, I think of Canada as really far north, 52 00:02:09.520 --> 00:02:11.600 and then you're like, I go further north to work. 53 00:02:11.600 --> 00:02:15.040 And I'm like, whoa, that must be like wild and crazy. 54 00:02:15.040 --> 00:02:17.800 I don't know what that looks like, but. 55 00:02:17.800 --> 00:02:19.520 It's pretty normal for us. 56 00:02:19.520 --> 00:02:21.600 I mean, it's not anything different than, let's say, 57 00:02:21.600 --> 00:02:24.640 Montana for our weather or anything else. 58 00:02:24.640 --> 00:02:26.680 It's all good here. 59 00:02:26.680 --> 00:02:29.560 My background is I'm a police officer 60 00:02:29.560 --> 00:02:31.360 from the Edmonton Police Department, 61 00:02:31.360 --> 00:02:35.120 as well as a pastor with the Pentecostal Assemblies of Canada. 62 00:02:35.120 --> 00:02:37.960 And so I think I'll take a nice, easy career 63 00:02:37.960 --> 00:02:38.920 at the end of my life. 64 00:02:38.920 --> 00:02:42.760 So enjoy something that is not stressful. 65 00:02:42.760 --> 00:02:43.640 Not stressful. 66 00:02:43.640 --> 00:02:45.520 Not stressful. 67 00:02:45.520 --> 00:02:50.680 So those big, so I drive trucks that are three stories high. 68 00:02:50.680 --> 00:02:52.800 And they're about as big as a house. 69 00:02:52.800 --> 00:02:56.040 And we carry about as much weight. 70 00:02:56.040 --> 00:02:56.760 Wow. 71 00:02:56.760 --> 00:02:59.480 Yeah, that's a lot of fun. 72 00:02:59.480 --> 00:03:00.240 That's incredible. 73 00:03:00.240 --> 00:03:02.360 So we're talking about, you said oil, right? 74 00:03:02.360 --> 00:03:06.720 So like you're taking crude oil out of the ground 75 00:03:06.720 --> 00:03:09.160 and transporting it somewhere? 76 00:03:09.160 --> 00:03:10.560 We call it bitumen. 77 00:03:10.560 --> 00:03:16.040 It's oil that's been entrapped in sand and dirt. 78 00:03:16.040 --> 00:03:18.000 And we extract from that. 79 00:03:18.000 --> 00:03:20.480 That's why they call it the oil sands. 80 00:03:20.480 --> 00:03:21.600 They call it dirty oil. 81 00:03:21.600 --> 00:03:24.440 But actually, the reason why it's dirty oil 82 00:03:24.440 --> 00:03:25.680 is it comes from dirt. 83 00:03:25.680 --> 00:03:26.520 Not that it's dirty. 84 00:03:26.520 --> 00:03:29.840 In fact, it's the cleanest oil produced anywhere in the world. 85 00:03:29.840 --> 00:03:30.880 Interesting. 86 00:03:30.880 --> 00:03:34.400 All we need to do is steam it out, and it's pure. 87 00:03:34.400 --> 00:03:36.120 There's no garbage in it. 88 00:03:36.120 --> 00:03:37.560 Wow, that's incredible. 89 00:03:37.560 --> 00:03:38.560 Yeah. 90 00:03:38.560 --> 00:03:40.720 So a lot of people, like Hollywood people, 91 00:03:40.720 --> 00:03:43.040 do not understand what this is all about. 92 00:03:43.040 --> 00:03:45.320 So they try to tear it down and say it's dirty, 93 00:03:45.320 --> 00:03:47.440 and it's bad, and everything else. 94 00:03:47.480 --> 00:03:53.200 But actually, Texas is worse than Alberta, by all means. 95 00:03:53.200 --> 00:03:58.360 Yeah, anything to deface something that's like, hey, 96 00:03:58.360 --> 00:04:00.440 this is actually kind of useful. 97 00:04:00.440 --> 00:04:01.520 Absolutely. 98 00:04:01.520 --> 00:04:02.960 Interesting. 99 00:04:02.960 --> 00:04:03.440 Well, good. 100 00:04:03.440 --> 00:04:05.720 Well, welcome. 101 00:04:05.720 --> 00:04:08.560 Most we have on here, I know Carlos, I know Daniel, 102 00:04:08.560 --> 00:04:09.600 I know Mike. 103 00:04:09.600 --> 00:04:10.640 Pretty good. 104 00:04:10.640 --> 00:04:12.400 DJ Shaw. 105 00:04:12.400 --> 00:04:13.920 And we have a phone number. 106 00:04:13.920 --> 00:04:16.600 So DJ, welcome. 107 00:04:17.560 --> 00:04:20.800 If you're able to come on camera, that's cool. 108 00:04:20.800 --> 00:04:22.720 If you're not, no big deal. 109 00:04:22.720 --> 00:04:24.120 Maybe you can unmute, though. 110 00:04:26.840 --> 00:04:28.840 Thank you. 111 00:04:28.840 --> 00:04:29.760 DJ, how are you? 112 00:04:34.000 --> 00:04:38.720 Sorry, I'm just a little bit over cold. 113 00:04:38.720 --> 00:04:40.200 I think. 114 00:04:40.200 --> 00:04:41.800 Can you hear me? 115 00:04:41.800 --> 00:04:42.800 I can't hear you now. 116 00:04:42.800 --> 00:04:45.000 Is it freezing up? 117 00:04:45.040 --> 00:04:46.800 A little bit. 118 00:04:46.800 --> 00:04:47.600 Is it freezing up? 119 00:04:47.600 --> 00:04:50.720 Yeah, I don't have the best reception here, unfortunately. 120 00:04:50.720 --> 00:04:51.680 That's OK. 121 00:04:51.680 --> 00:04:53.360 Nice to meet you, DJ. 122 00:04:53.360 --> 00:04:54.840 Where are you coming in from? 123 00:04:57.840 --> 00:05:01.120 Allentown, Bethlehem, Pennsylvania area. 124 00:05:00.000 --> 00:05:01.000 Okay. 125 00:05:01.000 --> 00:05:06.080 Metro, you know, outside here. 126 00:05:06.080 --> 00:05:07.080 Good for you. 127 00:05:07.080 --> 00:05:08.080 More world. 128 00:05:08.080 --> 00:05:12.640 So it's good to see you guys a fan. 129 00:05:12.640 --> 00:05:14.720 I'm originally from Buffalo, New York. 130 00:05:14.720 --> 00:05:22.820 So yeah, you wouldn't like Yeah, no, we just I'm a house date fan. 131 00:05:22.820 --> 00:05:25.440 So we just be Penn State over the weekend. 132 00:05:25.440 --> 00:05:29.120 So just 133 00:05:29.120 --> 00:05:32.320 And so we were, we were happy about that. 134 00:05:32.320 --> 00:05:36.720 I'm just saying I was trying to be sensitive to any Penn State fans that might be like 135 00:05:36.720 --> 00:05:40.760 sad that that happened, but oh, well. 136 00:05:40.760 --> 00:05:44.560 But since you know, it's nothing to you, then that's quite all right. 137 00:05:44.560 --> 00:05:45.560 Good. 138 00:05:45.560 --> 00:05:51.680 Um, yeah, I'm, I'm into classic cars, like most guys are into sports. 139 00:05:51.680 --> 00:05:52.680 So got it. 140 00:05:52.680 --> 00:05:56.160 We can talk about that too. 141 00:05:56.160 --> 00:05:59.880 I mean, I can't much but I'm sure somebody else can. 142 00:05:59.880 --> 00:06:02.400 That's so cool. 143 00:06:02.400 --> 00:06:03.400 The phone number there. 144 00:06:03.400 --> 00:06:04.400 Is that? 145 00:06:04.400 --> 00:06:05.400 Is that Andy? 146 00:06:05.400 --> 00:06:06.400 Yeah, that's me. 147 00:06:06.400 --> 00:06:07.400 Hey, Andy. 148 00:06:07.400 --> 00:06:08.400 How are you? 149 00:06:08.400 --> 00:06:09.400 Good. 150 00:06:09.400 --> 00:06:10.400 Thanks. 151 00:06:10.400 --> 00:06:11.400 Good. 152 00:06:11.400 --> 00:06:12.400 Good. 153 00:06:12.400 --> 00:06:22.320 So just want to get into I'll kind of dive in with Kenton and DJ in just a minute, but 154 00:06:22.320 --> 00:06:26.560 I just want to kind of open it up, guys, for anybody that wants to share anything on 155 00:06:26.560 --> 00:06:27.840 their heart. 156 00:06:27.840 --> 00:06:33.240 Anything that's going on with you personally, relationally, career-wise, I mean, just really 157 00:06:33.240 --> 00:06:34.440 any area of your life. 158 00:06:34.440 --> 00:06:37.160 So I mean, it's all fair game. 159 00:06:37.160 --> 00:06:44.480 But anything that we can just give a reaction to or not, just want to share something and 160 00:06:44.480 --> 00:06:51.760 just kind of, you know, just kind of talk about what's going on. 161 00:06:52.200 --> 00:06:54.200 So who wants to go? 162 00:06:54.200 --> 00:06:55.200 Anybody? 163 00:06:55.200 --> 00:06:59.200 What you got going on? 164 00:06:59.200 --> 00:07:02.200 Maybe it's something you want to process and just get out and that you're just like, hey, 165 00:07:02.200 --> 00:07:03.200 I just need to release this. 166 00:07:03.200 --> 00:07:09.440 It might be slightly negative, but it's got to release it. 167 00:07:09.440 --> 00:07:15.880 So you know, like this, like, it's funny, I did a went to Reading and had a huge spiritual 168 00:07:15.880 --> 00:07:16.880 connection. 169 00:07:16.880 --> 00:07:21.760 So I got connected with a bunch of people and like ways forward and I was super excited 170 00:07:21.760 --> 00:07:27.040 and I came back and I was like, you have to move because the place I'm staying, her grandson 171 00:07:27.040 --> 00:07:28.560 wants to move in. 172 00:07:28.560 --> 00:07:30.400 And so and then like my work took a crap. 173 00:07:30.400 --> 00:07:35.560 And so it's just like, my Lord, really, you know, like, you know, I watched the Kingdom, 174 00:07:35.560 --> 00:07:39.120 but I've been thinking about Kingdom, like, as it says, seek first the Kingdom and its 175 00:07:39.120 --> 00:07:42.120 righteousness and everything else will be added unto you. 176 00:07:42.120 --> 00:07:44.280 And you know, I've been asking him what that is. 177 00:07:44.280 --> 00:07:45.520 It's a lot. 178 00:07:45.520 --> 00:07:47.480 It's like it's loving a person that day. 179 00:07:47.480 --> 00:07:52.200 It's loving, you know, like this, you know, I thought it was complicated and I've kind 180 00:07:52.200 --> 00:07:57.440 of repented of agreeing that, oh, like, I have a huge spiritual breakthrough that there's 181 00:07:57.440 --> 00:07:58.520 a backlash. 182 00:07:58.520 --> 00:08:03.000 I think too often, you expect it, right. 183 00:08:03.000 --> 00:08:06.960 But like, you know, every new thing gives an opportunity. 184 00:08:06.960 --> 00:08:12.240 And you know, I just encourage you guys, because a lot of times, you know, you think that you 185 00:08:12.240 --> 00:08:15.800 have to be a pastor, you have to be this or that to do the Kingdom thing. 186 00:08:15.800 --> 00:08:20.680 But sometimes like one day, it was just loving guys at work, because we crapped the bed, 187 00:08:20.680 --> 00:08:22.200 quite frankly, at work. 188 00:08:22.200 --> 00:08:26.720 And a lot of people are waiting for the guillotine, right. 189 00:08:26.720 --> 00:08:29.520 And so I just go in and love on people. 190 00:08:29.520 --> 00:08:31.700 And like each morning, I've been learning what's the Kingdom look like. 191 00:08:31.700 --> 00:08:35.760 And I just encourage you guys every day, like, Lord, what do you what is looking the seeking 192 00:08:35.760 --> 00:08:37.919 the Kingdom first look like for me today? 193 00:08:37.919 --> 00:08:38.919 Right. 194 00:08:38.919 --> 00:08:39.919 And like, what is it? 195 00:08:40.919 --> 00:08:45.640 It could be uber simple buying somebody a cup of coffee and hearing their story or like, 196 00:08:45.640 --> 00:08:50.720 or you know, and so I just, I never thought of it as that simple. 197 00:08:50.720 --> 00:08:51.720 Right. 198 00:08:51.720 --> 00:08:55.360 But you know, like, you know, but as you seek, as you take care of his stuff, he takes care 199 00:08:55.360 --> 00:08:56.360 of your stuff. 200 00:08:56.360 --> 00:08:57.360 Right. 201 00:08:57.360 --> 00:09:01.040 And so like, not that you do it, not a give to get not as a give to get thing, like it's 202 00:09:01.040 --> 00:09:02.840 not an equation. 203 00:09:02.840 --> 00:09:07.320 But I was like, well, I don't know how I'm gonna get to where you call me to be. 204 00:09:08.000 --> 00:09:11.120 The road he's taken me is kind of crazy, but it's, it's pretty cool. 205 00:09:11.120 --> 00:09:16.240 So I just wanted to encourage you just listen to what's like, don't despise the little things 206 00:09:16.240 --> 00:09:20.720 because he loves loving people through us. 207 00:09:20.720 --> 00:09:26.560 So so I guess that's just more of an encouragement and not to accept the blowback. 208 00:09:26.560 --> 00:09:29.640 And then even if there is blowback that he's going to make away because he already knew 209 00:09:29.640 --> 00:09:36.960 it was something right, you know, yeah, I'm going to do like, you know, the higher you 210 00:09:36.960 --> 00:09:41.120 go, there's a little there's different words that you battle. 211 00:09:41.120 --> 00:09:47.000 So so yeah, I guess not nothing big, just I just want to encourage you guys, ask the 212 00:09:47.000 --> 00:09:52.440 Lord each day what seeking first the kingdom is, and you never know, like, as well, I mean, 213 00:09:52.440 --> 00:09:57.920 as you go, he can, he aligns things and you know, who knows your spirit mate could be 214 00:09:57.920 --> 00:09:59.920 you could be there in that one coffee shop because you 215 00:10:00.000 --> 00:10:05.040 like you were supposed to and then you meet your spirit mate and you guys are married right so i 216 00:10:05.040 --> 00:10:09.600 just encourage you to like listen to him and he'll guide you and allow him to guide you to where you 217 00:10:09.600 --> 00:10:17.840 go and bless the people and love and bless people as you as well amen thanks for sharing mike i 218 00:10:17.840 --> 00:10:24.880 appreciate that yeah um you know as as i've just been coming i should be able to call that we 219 00:10:24.880 --> 00:10:30.720 you know i'm here in southern california just finished the hundred x conference and of course 220 00:10:30.720 --> 00:10:38.960 we're you know this is a this is a conference that deals with um really helping kingdom people 221 00:10:38.960 --> 00:10:44.800 christian believing people kingdom people church people people of faith you know whatever however 222 00:10:44.800 --> 00:10:53.120 whatever label you want to put on it to really understand a broader sense of you know what our 223 00:10:53.120 --> 00:10:59.600 purpose is in the earth so we're talking about like big ideas we're talking about businesses 224 00:10:59.600 --> 00:11:04.080 we're talking about financial we're talking about success we're talking about family we're talking 225 00:11:04.080 --> 00:11:08.640 about you know personal development just like a lot of ways you know so we're talking about some 226 00:11:08.640 --> 00:11:18.640 pretty big things and then at the same time you know we are connecting personally and one of the 227 00:11:18.640 --> 00:11:24.960 things that like mike is highlighting here just like the simple just like leaning in you know 228 00:11:24.960 --> 00:11:32.880 one of the bigger things is is that as believers um you know you may not necessarily 229 00:11:34.160 --> 00:11:39.040 have just come through a conference like i did with just a bunch of like tremendous big ideas 230 00:11:39.040 --> 00:11:43.280 and hype and energy and excitement and like just kind of on a high you know like just like oh take 231 00:11:43.280 --> 00:11:48.880 the world sort of thing um so you're like you just probably just had a regular week i don't know 232 00:11:49.440 --> 00:11:53.040 and so you know we're kind of on a different mindset right now but at the same time 233 00:11:53.680 --> 00:12:01.840 we're leaning in to holy spirit and one of the greatest things that you know we're trying to 234 00:12:01.840 --> 00:12:06.800 cultivate even in this movement like the hundred x the conference this is kind of our movement that 235 00:12:06.800 --> 00:12:17.280 we participate in is doing great things from a position of rest not a position of striving not 236 00:12:17.280 --> 00:12:24.400 from a position of like having to get not having you know coming from position of trying to do 237 00:12:24.400 --> 00:12:33.120 something in order to make something happen right guys give me one second this is the lovely 238 00:12:33.120 --> 00:12:39.600 beautiful love of my life calling me can you give me one second 239 00:12:55.120 --> 00:12:59.360 so jj while he's doing like i i'm well i'm not really restoring it right now because i ran out 240 00:12:59.360 --> 00:13:05.840 of money but i'm doing i have a 70 roadrunner that i've been restoring and uh i've restored a 241 00:13:05.840 --> 00:13:13.680 couple mustangs and um it's just way expensive i just wish i had more cash flow so you just had 242 00:13:13.680 --> 00:13:20.480 the roadrunner now yeah yeah before what yeah did you have the mustangs before and you have 243 00:13:20.480 --> 00:13:25.920 just the roadrunner now yeah yeah the 70 roadrunner was my dream the 70 roadrunner was my dream car 244 00:13:25.920 --> 00:13:32.400 so like i um yeah that's that's phenomenal that's awesome but it was the whole rear end 245 00:13:32.400 --> 00:13:37.600 rusted out which is the problem it is like you know i got 10 grand in panels to put into it and 246 00:13:38.160 --> 00:13:43.760 i'm like yeah i can do all the blocking and all that so i can do all the body work i just don't 247 00:13:43.760 --> 00:13:49.760 can't do all that um i suppose i could probably do the but you don't want to screw up putting 248 00:13:49.760 --> 00:13:56.480 quarters in do you follow you follow uncle tony's garage on youtube he's super he's a 249 00:13:56.480 --> 00:14:01.920 mopar guy oh how is he like constantly does he does like three lives live videos a week plus 250 00:14:01.920 --> 00:14:05.520 multiple you know pre-recorded videos okay what was it called real quick 251 00:14:08.080 --> 00:14:10.080 uncle tony's garage i'll have to check it out 252 00:14:10.240 --> 00:14:21.280 utg yeah he's based in pennsy nice you're a natural so kind of just to finish up my thought 253 00:14:21.280 --> 00:14:29.680 guys is that you know so we're we're leaning in to um holy spirit and the simple direction 254 00:14:30.240 --> 00:14:38.880 of the voice of god to really bring about powerful powerful change not only in our lives 255 00:14:39.360 --> 00:14:45.120 but in the lives of the sphere of influence that we are in or that we have or that we're called to 256 00:14:45.920 --> 00:14:53.440 and um so i love that holding that tension um last night we had an incredible 257 00:14:54.160 --> 00:14:59.840 powerful supernatural like encounter so like we here's this business meeting we have an all week 258 00:15:00.000 --> 00:15:02.480 talking about success and everything and then we end it 259 00:15:02.480 --> 00:15:04.840 with, I don't know if you know who Will Hart is, 260 00:15:04.840 --> 00:15:06.600 but Will Hart from Iris Ministries 261 00:15:06.600 --> 00:15:08.680 and Heidi Baker's ministry 262 00:15:08.680 --> 00:15:12.760 and internationally renowned guy 263 00:15:12.760 --> 00:15:17.500 who just came over and shared from his heart 264 00:15:17.500 --> 00:15:20.000 about being delivered from fear and so forth. 265 00:15:20.000 --> 00:15:24.680 So yeah, a lot of good stuff. 266 00:15:25.680 --> 00:15:30.320 And so maybe we can talk about that here in a little bit. 267 00:15:30.320 --> 00:15:32.480 Anybody else have any thoughts to share 268 00:15:32.480 --> 00:15:36.840 as far as questions or just things going on in their life 269 00:15:36.840 --> 00:15:39.440 that's like, hey, this is what I've been going through? 270 00:15:40.960 --> 00:15:42.440 Any shares? 271 00:15:42.440 --> 00:15:43.680 Who's got something? 272 00:15:43.680 --> 00:15:45.080 Yeah, I'll share something. 273 00:15:46.520 --> 00:15:49.300 So I actually finished the heart work last week. 274 00:15:50.480 --> 00:15:51.560 Oh, okay, cool. 275 00:15:51.560 --> 00:15:52.680 Yep, yep. 276 00:15:52.680 --> 00:15:56.400 And I reached out to the admins about like, 277 00:15:56.400 --> 00:15:58.640 what's the process for connecting with people 278 00:15:59.680 --> 00:16:00.600 in the community? 279 00:16:01.520 --> 00:16:03.400 And so I'd gotten kind of like the green light 280 00:16:03.400 --> 00:16:04.600 to connect with somebody. 281 00:16:05.920 --> 00:16:08.220 And so I waited till I, I wanted to wait, 282 00:16:08.220 --> 00:16:11.160 I waited like a week or whatever to finish the heart work, 283 00:16:11.160 --> 00:16:13.120 but I reached out to her 284 00:16:13.120 --> 00:16:15.280 and we've had some really great conversations. 285 00:16:15.280 --> 00:16:18.200 She's a part of the community, 286 00:16:18.200 --> 00:16:19.800 the last year single community. 287 00:16:20.800 --> 00:16:25.800 And we've talked a bit and we're looking at plane tickets, 288 00:16:26.640 --> 00:16:28.720 like when I can come down and actually meet in person 289 00:16:28.720 --> 00:16:31.520 and figure out if there's some chemistry there, 290 00:16:31.520 --> 00:16:33.960 but it's really encouraging. 291 00:16:33.960 --> 00:16:38.240 And it's, I've done the dating app thing for a few months 292 00:16:38.240 --> 00:16:39.840 and this feels a little different 293 00:16:39.840 --> 00:16:44.760 because we have that kind of shared experience 294 00:16:44.760 --> 00:16:45.600 for the heart work. 295 00:16:45.600 --> 00:16:48.920 So I think I'm pretty excited about it. 296 00:16:50.600 --> 00:16:52.520 Well, congratulations. 297 00:16:52.520 --> 00:16:53.360 Yeah. 298 00:16:53.360 --> 00:16:55.120 We wish you well on that. 299 00:16:55.120 --> 00:16:58.640 And we'll see, we will, I'm sure talk again 300 00:16:58.640 --> 00:17:01.760 at some future point to see how that's going 301 00:17:01.760 --> 00:17:04.420 and we can help you through some things. 302 00:17:06.800 --> 00:17:08.760 So Mike, you were saying at the beginning of the call too, 303 00:17:08.760 --> 00:17:13.119 I think you were saying something about what was going, 304 00:17:13.119 --> 00:17:17.300 cause you were just recently spotlighted and then matched 305 00:17:17.300 --> 00:17:20.540 and then had a conversation with the person 306 00:17:20.540 --> 00:17:21.819 that you're matched with, 307 00:17:21.819 --> 00:17:23.339 even though you hadn't necessarily 308 00:17:23.339 --> 00:17:25.020 technically went on a date yet, 309 00:17:25.020 --> 00:17:28.099 but what's going on with that? 310 00:17:28.099 --> 00:17:31.820 So it was evident that she isn't gonna be able to move 311 00:17:31.820 --> 00:17:34.860 and that I can't, I'm stuck not being able to move. 312 00:17:34.860 --> 00:17:38.540 And amazing, phenomenal gal. 313 00:17:38.540 --> 00:17:40.140 Like, you know, we had a lot in common 314 00:17:40.140 --> 00:17:43.900 and so it was like, it was one of those 315 00:17:43.900 --> 00:17:47.500 where I was actually thinking, oh, you know what? 316 00:17:47.500 --> 00:17:49.700 I felt like I was getting a little avoidant. 317 00:17:50.860 --> 00:17:53.660 You know, like, you know, I don't know about you guys, 318 00:17:53.660 --> 00:17:56.140 but like when you're scaring something 319 00:17:56.140 --> 00:17:58.380 that could be real in the face, there's a whole, 320 00:17:58.380 --> 00:18:01.820 it's easy when you don't think it's gonna happen, 321 00:18:01.820 --> 00:18:02.820 but when you see something 322 00:18:02.820 --> 00:18:04.100 that you could see actually coming, 323 00:18:04.100 --> 00:18:06.260 there's all of a sudden there's this, oh no. 324 00:18:06.260 --> 00:18:09.500 I was like, oh, but you know, it just ended up, 325 00:18:09.500 --> 00:18:11.020 phenomenal lady. 326 00:18:11.020 --> 00:18:13.380 It would have been great, like everything that you'd want, 327 00:18:14.220 --> 00:18:16.260 but just, it won't work because of I can't move 328 00:18:16.260 --> 00:18:17.540 and neither can she. 329 00:18:17.540 --> 00:18:19.660 So like, you know, but it was great to meet her. 330 00:18:19.660 --> 00:18:24.660 And like I was talking about earlier is, you know, as men, 331 00:18:24.820 --> 00:18:29.140 we get the opportunity to be a good example, right? 332 00:18:29.140 --> 00:18:31.340 Somebody who like, some of these ladies 333 00:18:31.340 --> 00:18:33.700 have never met a good guy, right? 334 00:18:33.700 --> 00:18:36.220 And so like, you know, and like, 335 00:18:36.220 --> 00:18:39.420 so that we can reset the bar. 336 00:18:39.420 --> 00:18:42.380 I mean, so I met so many ladies that bar is so low. 337 00:18:43.380 --> 00:18:45.620 I mean, their experiences in life 338 00:18:45.620 --> 00:18:50.620 and like set the bar high, even if it doesn't work, 339 00:18:50.620 --> 00:18:53.500 set it high, be a great guy, you know, 340 00:18:54.500 --> 00:18:57.780 love her well and like agape her well, right? 341 00:18:57.780 --> 00:18:58.620 You know what I mean? 342 00:18:58.620 --> 00:19:03.620 Like, and just, yeah, and it was a blessing. 343 00:19:03.940 --> 00:19:05.780 I left with a blessing, right? 344 00:19:05.780 --> 00:19:10.780 You know, and so I just encourage you, you know, date well, 345 00:19:10.860 --> 00:19:13.900 raise the bar, be the man you're called to be. 346 00:19:13.900 --> 00:19:15.900 And I'm proud of you guys all for being in the heartwork. 347 00:19:15.900 --> 00:19:18.780 I mean, that's the first, that's the biggest thing. 348 00:19:18.780 --> 00:19:23.780 So I just, you know, and every time that you, 349 00:19:24.300 --> 00:19:26.100 like every opportunity you learn something, 350 00:19:26.100 --> 00:19:27.540 you learn what you like, what you don't like, 351 00:19:27.540 --> 00:19:28.380 you know what I mean? 352 00:19:28.380 --> 00:19:31.140 And so reps are good. 353 00:19:31.140 --> 00:19:33.020 You know, sometimes I'm like, Lord, I'm tired of reps, 354 00:19:33.020 --> 00:19:38.020 but at the same time, but in everything you grow, right? 355 00:19:38.540 --> 00:19:41.260 And so, and you know, I was sad, grieve. 356 00:19:41.260 --> 00:19:43.700 I grieved, you know, I was like, 357 00:19:43.700 --> 00:19:45.460 oh, this actually could really be something. 358 00:19:45.460 --> 00:19:48.140 And then it come to grips with, oh, maybe it's, 359 00:19:48.140 --> 00:19:51.500 no, it's not, you know, grieve it, leave it, 360 00:19:51.500 --> 00:19:54.140 and then move on, right? 361 00:19:54.140 --> 00:19:56.260 And be a, but then the whole thing, 362 00:19:56.260 --> 00:20:00.100 be a blessing and reset the, do your best to reset the bar. 363 00:20:00.000 --> 00:20:04.000 So I guess that'd be it. 364 00:20:04.000 --> 00:20:07.000 I love that Mike, can you guys hear me still. 365 00:20:07.000 --> 00:20:15.000 I'm, I'm starting to be mobile now. Yeah, I apologize. Yeah, but I love that because we're just telling the group of guys today. 366 00:20:15.000 --> 00:20:34.000 How proud I am that you guys doing your hard work because for each story that I hear a guy behaving badly because of some sort of previous relationship that you know somebody like a lady is going through in our community. 367 00:20:34.000 --> 00:20:50.000 They've had a previous relationship that didn't work out, or that kind of thing. And then lots of times, it's not always the case but lots of times guys, you know, behaving badly in a number of different ways, you know, just just treating their spouse 368 00:20:50.000 --> 00:21:08.000 in such a horrible way and acting selfish and just, just not really stepping up into their manhood I mean, let alone, you know, their salvation Christianity, you know, sometimes you can just be a good man, you know, regardless of whether 369 00:21:08.000 --> 00:21:19.000 you even know Jesus or not, you know, and I'm just surprised that so many guys just can't bring themselves to that of course there's a lot of trauma and pain is a lot of reasons for, but this is really disheartens me. 370 00:21:20.000 --> 00:21:38.000 And then I get on this call week after week with you guys who are literally taking their lives seriously taking their spirituality seriously taking their heart seriously wanting to like conform to the best of themselves, and to, you know, step into this next season 371 00:21:38.000 --> 00:21:42.000 of relationship whether you've done it right up until now, or not. 372 00:21:43.000 --> 00:21:58.000 Do it, do it right and do the best of your ability, which is incredible, and I want to honor that and want to, I want you guys to know that that's the case that this is what you're doing this is what you're endeavoring to do, you're endeavoring to step into your best self. 373 00:21:58.000 --> 00:22:00.000 And you're ahead of the curve. 374 00:22:00.000 --> 00:22:01.000 Right. 375 00:22:02.000 --> 00:22:07.000 You may like this and I'm that you may be down to yourself but I'm telling you what. 376 00:22:07.000 --> 00:22:21.000 One of the things that was preached last night in our service together was that I could say it in like this kind of terms where it's kind of like you know the season you've just gone through even if it's not perfect even whatever so you know it's like there's 377 00:22:21.000 --> 00:22:26.000 a reason for it you know you've all heard that before, but I'm telling you what it's more than that. 378 00:22:26.000 --> 00:22:30.000 It is actually, you're doing it right. 379 00:22:30.000 --> 00:22:32.000 You're perfect. 380 00:22:32.000 --> 00:22:49.000 You're like yeah I don't know what we don't understand. I'm down. I'm actually in sin, I'm actually like not doing well. So we're like, no, what you don't understand is that his love and his grace is so great that he has you right where you want you to be like, 381 00:22:49.000 --> 00:23:02.000 that is part of not just the journey. That's the part of you developing into and overcoming and being tested through everything that is trying to like weigh you down. 382 00:23:02.000 --> 00:23:12.000 And Jesus is saying, No, you're not being overcome by sin you're not becoming over being overcome by your flesh. You are in the struggle to overcome. 383 00:23:13.000 --> 00:23:22.000 Like so you can't overcome something unless there's a struggle to overcome it. You don't overcome it just simply just by like ignoring it or bypassing it. 384 00:23:22.000 --> 00:23:33.000 You know you don't win a battle by not fighting the battle you have to go fight the battle you have to shoot the guns, get the dirt, go through it go through hell to actually win the battle right. 385 00:23:33.000 --> 00:23:48.000 So the hell that you're going through the difficulty that you're going through the the war that you're going through is part of your overcoming and part of the journey. 386 00:23:48.000 --> 00:23:53.000 Hi, I have a special guest here. 387 00:23:53.000 --> 00:23:56.000 Hello Jackie. 388 00:23:56.000 --> 00:24:06.000 Hey guys, sorry you guys know that we're mobile. I'm sure David let you know that we're out of pocket in California, which it's so dark because the sun sets in the West right. 389 00:24:06.000 --> 00:24:10.000 And so even though it's like five something it's like practically pitch dark already. 390 00:24:10.000 --> 00:24:19.000 But I just wanted to jump in I heard what Mike said I was getting on here to find David and then I heard what you said Mike, and that has always been true of this community. 391 00:24:19.000 --> 00:24:28.000 Mike is, you know, newer to the community. A lot of you are newer to the community. But this, this community has been co-ed for almost five years. 392 00:24:28.000 --> 00:24:33.000 And I will tell you that all of our guys have gotten married. 393 00:24:33.000 --> 00:24:49.000 And so you're like our new batch. All right, so our guys, you know, they all get married a lot of them marry someone from within the community, or we help walk them through the relationship that they find after they. 394 00:24:49.000 --> 00:25:00.000 And so he's, you know, he's tuning into Holy Spirit on that because this is not something that I have said to dispatch of men, but God really has purpose you to show these women what good men look like. 395 00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:07.080 butt. Not perfect men. No one's asking for that. And if a woman's asking for that, then 396 00:25:07.080 --> 00:25:12.280 she's not ready to partner, right? She's not healed enough to partner if she's expecting 397 00:25:12.280 --> 00:25:18.720 perfection. If she's going to get triggered and pull away every time she sees an imperfection 398 00:25:18.720 --> 00:25:24.320 in you, then she's not ready to partner. Because we're called to reflect.