and I watched it.
All right.
So this is Monday, November 4th, Men's Heart Check-In.
And so welcome, you all.
You were saying, Mike?
Oh, so you're at the Pedro Adeo thing,
and you're looking fabulous.
So like, you know, there's a lot of guys
that wanted to watch it, but hadn't had a chance to get on.
So that's why I'm recording.
They requested the recording, so.
Exactly.
Well, I really appreciate you reminding me.
So I'm in one of these little, like,
fancy, like, little telephone booth things
that they have here at the hotel.
So I'm in a hotel, and yeah, it's kind of cool.
It's a really nice place, The Hyatt,
here in Irvine, California.
So I wanted to jump on with you guys
to make sure we did our heartwork check-in tonight.
So welcome, guys.
And Kenton, hi, how are you?
I'm doing well, thank you.
Good, welcome to Men's Heartwork.
This is just an opportunity to have a weekly check-in
with just guys to process heartwork,
have some discussion about life, about what we're going through,
try to help each other out, answer questions for us all.
So I'll give you a moment to sort of introduce yourself.
I believe this is your first time on our heart check-in,
is that correct?
That's correct, yes.
Yeah, so.
I started the program here just about a couple of weeks ago.
Awesome.
I can't be here every week because I work up north
seven days a month, five days off.
So if I can get-
Where are you staying, where you live right now?
Right now, I'm in Edmonton.
In Edmonton, oh, OK.
Yeah.
Alberta, Canada.
Awesome.
So I work up in the oil sands.
I drive the biggest trucks in the world.
Wow.
So it's kind of fun that way.
It's my de-stressing years.
Ah, I think of Canada as really far north,
and then you're like, I go further north to work.
And I'm like, whoa, that must be like wild and crazy.
I don't know what that looks like, but.
It's pretty normal for us.
I mean, it's not anything different than, let's say,
Montana for our weather or anything else.
It's all good here.
My background is I'm a police officer
from the Edmonton Police Department,
as well as a pastor with the Pentecostal Assemblies of Canada.
And so I think I'll take a nice, easy career
at the end of my life.
So enjoy something that is not stressful.
Not stressful.
So those big, so I drive trucks that are three stories high.
And they're about as big as a house.
And we carry about as much weight.
Wow.
Yeah, that's a lot of fun.
That's incredible.
So we're talking about, you said oil, right?
So like you're taking crude oil out of the ground
and transporting it somewhere?
We call it bitumen.
It's oil that's been entrapped in sand and dirt.
And we extract from that.
That's why they call it the oil sands.
They call it dirty oil.
But actually, the reason why it's dirty oil
is it comes from dirt.
Not that it's dirty.
In fact, it's the cleanest oil produced anywhere in the world.
Interesting.
All we need to do is steam it out, and it's pure.
There's no garbage in it.
Wow, that's incredible.
Yeah.
So a lot of people, like Hollywood people,
do not understand what this is all about.
So they try to tear it down and say it's dirty,
and it's bad, and everything else.
But actually, Texas is worse than Alberta, by all means.
Yeah, anything to deface something that's like, hey,
this is actually kind of useful.
Absolutely.
Interesting.
Well, good.
Well, welcome.
Most we have on here, I know Carlos, I know Daniel,
I know Mike.
Pretty good.
DJ Shaw.
And we have a phone number.
So DJ, welcome.
If you're able to come on camera, that's cool.
If you're not, no big deal.
Maybe you can unmute, though.
Thank you.
DJ, how are you?
Sorry, I'm just a little bit over cold.
I think.
Can you hear me?
I can't hear you now.
Is it freezing up?
A little bit.
Is it freezing up?
Yeah, I don't have the best reception here, unfortunately.
That's OK.
Nice to meet you, DJ.
Where are you coming in from?
Allentown, Bethlehem, Pennsylvania area.
Okay.
Metro, you know, outside here.
Good for you.
More world.
So it's good to see you guys a fan.
I'm originally from Buffalo, New York.
So yeah, you wouldn't like Yeah, no, we just I'm a house date fan.
So we just be Penn State over the weekend.
So just
And so we were, we were happy about that.
I'm just saying I was trying to be sensitive to any Penn State fans that might be like
sad that that happened, but oh, well.
But since you know, it's nothing to you, then that's quite all right.
Good.
Um, yeah, I'm, I'm into classic cars, like most guys are into sports.
So got it.
We can talk about that too.
I mean, I can't much but I'm sure somebody else can.
That's so cool.
The phone number there.
Is that?
Is that Andy?
Yeah, that's me.
Hey, Andy.
How are you?
Good.
Thanks.
Good.
So just want to get into I'll kind of dive in with Kenton and DJ in just a minute, but
I just want to kind of open it up, guys, for anybody that wants to share anything on
their heart.
Anything that's going on with you personally, relationally, career-wise, I mean, just really
any area of your life.
So I mean, it's all fair game.
But anything that we can just give a reaction to or not, just want to share something and
just kind of, you know, just kind of talk about what's going on.
So who wants to go?
Anybody?
What you got going on?
Maybe it's something you want to process and just get out and that you're just like, hey,
I just need to release this.
It might be slightly negative, but it's got to release it.
So you know, like this, like, it's funny, I did a went to Reading and had a huge spiritual
connection.
So I got connected with a bunch of people and like ways forward and I was super excited
and I came back and I was like, you have to move because the place I'm staying, her grandson
wants to move in.
And so and then like my work took a crap.
And so it's just like, my Lord, really, you know, like, you know, I watched the Kingdom,
but I've been thinking about Kingdom, like, as it says, seek first the Kingdom and its
righteousness and everything else will be added unto you.
And you know, I've been asking him what that is.
It's a lot.
It's like it's loving a person that day.
It's loving, you know, like this, you know, I thought it was complicated and I've kind
of repented of agreeing that, oh, like, I have a huge spiritual breakthrough that there's
a backlash.
I think too often, you expect it, right.
But like, you know, every new thing gives an opportunity.
And you know, I just encourage you guys, because a lot of times, you know, you think that you
have to be a pastor, you have to be this or that to do the Kingdom thing.
But sometimes like one day, it was just loving guys at work, because we crapped the bed,
quite frankly, at work.
And a lot of people are waiting for the guillotine, right.
And so I just go in and love on people.
And like each morning, I've been learning what's the Kingdom look like.
And I just encourage you guys every day, like, Lord, what do you what is looking the seeking
the Kingdom first look like for me today?
Right.
And like, what is it?
It could be uber simple buying somebody a cup of coffee and hearing their story or like,
or you know, and so I just, I never thought of it as that simple.
Right.
But you know, like, you know, but as you seek, as you take care of his stuff, he takes care
of your stuff.
Right.
And so like, not that you do it, not a give to get not as a give to get thing, like it's
not an equation.
But I was like, well, I don't know how I'm gonna get to where you call me to be.
The road he's taken me is kind of crazy, but it's, it's pretty cool.
So I just wanted to encourage you just listen to what's like, don't despise the little things
because he loves loving people through us.
So so I guess that's just more of an encouragement and not to accept the blowback.
And then even if there is blowback that he's going to make away because he already knew
it was something right, you know, yeah, I'm going to do like, you know, the higher you
go, there's a little there's different words that you battle.
So so yeah, I guess not nothing big, just I just want to encourage you guys, ask the
Lord each day what seeking first the kingdom is, and you never know, like, as well, I mean,
as you go, he can, he aligns things and you know, who knows your spirit mate could be
you could be there in that one coffee shop because you
like you were supposed to and then you meet your spirit mate and you guys are married right so i
just encourage you to like listen to him and he'll guide you and allow him to guide you to where you
go and bless the people and love and bless people as you as well amen thanks for sharing mike i
appreciate that yeah um you know as as i've just been coming i should be able to call that we
you know i'm here in southern california just finished the hundred x conference and of course
we're you know this is a this is a conference that deals with um really helping kingdom people
christian believing people kingdom people church people people of faith you know whatever however
whatever label you want to put on it to really understand a broader sense of you know what our
purpose is in the earth so we're talking about like big ideas we're talking about businesses
we're talking about financial we're talking about success we're talking about family we're talking
about you know personal development just like a lot of ways you know so we're talking about some
pretty big things and then at the same time you know we are connecting personally and one of the
things that like mike is highlighting here just like the simple just like leaning in you know
one of the bigger things is is that as believers um you know you may not necessarily
have just come through a conference like i did with just a bunch of like tremendous big ideas
and hype and energy and excitement and like just kind of on a high you know like just like oh take
the world sort of thing um so you're like you just probably just had a regular week i don't know
and so you know we're kind of on a different mindset right now but at the same time
we're leaning in to holy spirit and one of the greatest things that you know we're trying to
cultivate even in this movement like the hundred x the conference this is kind of our movement that
we participate in is doing great things from a position of rest not a position of striving not
from a position of like having to get not having you know coming from position of trying to do
something in order to make something happen right guys give me one second this is the lovely
beautiful love of my life calling me can you give me one second
so jj while he's doing like i i'm well i'm not really restoring it right now because i ran out
of money but i'm doing i have a 70 roadrunner that i've been restoring and uh i've restored a
couple mustangs and um it's just way expensive i just wish i had more cash flow so you just had
the roadrunner now yeah yeah before what yeah did you have the mustangs before and you have
just the roadrunner now yeah yeah the 70 roadrunner was my dream the 70 roadrunner was my dream car
so like i um yeah that's that's phenomenal that's awesome but it was the whole rear end
rusted out which is the problem it is like you know i got 10 grand in panels to put into it and
i'm like yeah i can do all the blocking and all that so i can do all the body work i just don't
can't do all that um i suppose i could probably do the but you don't want to screw up putting
quarters in do you follow you follow uncle tony's garage on youtube he's super he's a
mopar guy oh how is he like constantly does he does like three lives live videos a week plus
multiple you know pre-recorded videos okay what was it called real quick
uncle tony's garage i'll have to check it out
utg yeah he's based in pennsy nice you're a natural so kind of just to finish up my thought
guys is that you know so we're we're leaning in to um holy spirit and the simple direction
of the voice of god to really bring about powerful powerful change not only in our lives
but in the lives of the sphere of influence that we are in or that we have or that we're called to
and um so i love that holding that tension um last night we had an incredible
powerful supernatural like encounter so like we here's this business meeting we have an all week
talking about success and everything and then we end it
with, I don't know if you know who Will Hart is,
but Will Hart from Iris Ministries
and Heidi Baker's ministry
and internationally renowned guy
who just came over and shared from his heart
about being delivered from fear and so forth.
So yeah, a lot of good stuff.
And so maybe we can talk about that here in a little bit.
Anybody else have any thoughts to share
as far as questions or just things going on in their life
that's like, hey, this is what I've been going through?
Any shares?
Who's got something?
Yeah, I'll share something.
So I actually finished the heart work last week.
Oh, okay, cool.
Yep, yep.
And I reached out to the admins about like,
what's the process for connecting with people
in the community?
And so I'd gotten kind of like the green light
to connect with somebody.
And so I waited till I, I wanted to wait,
I waited like a week or whatever to finish the heart work,
but I reached out to her
and we've had some really great conversations.
She's a part of the community,
the last year single community.
And we've talked a bit and we're looking at plane tickets,
like when I can come down and actually meet in person
and figure out if there's some chemistry there,
but it's really encouraging.
And it's, I've done the dating app thing for a few months
and this feels a little different
because we have that kind of shared experience
for the heart work.
So I think I'm pretty excited about it.
Well, congratulations.
Yeah.
We wish you well on that.
And we'll see, we will, I'm sure talk again
at some future point to see how that's going
and we can help you through some things.
So Mike, you were saying at the beginning of the call too,
I think you were saying something about what was going,
cause you were just recently spotlighted and then matched
and then had a conversation with the person
that you're matched with,
even though you hadn't necessarily
technically went on a date yet,
but what's going on with that?
So it was evident that she isn't gonna be able to move
and that I can't, I'm stuck not being able to move.
And amazing, phenomenal gal.
Like, you know, we had a lot in common
and so it was like, it was one of those
where I was actually thinking, oh, you know what?
I felt like I was getting a little avoidant.
You know, like, you know, I don't know about you guys,
but like when you're scaring something
that could be real in the face, there's a whole,
it's easy when you don't think it's gonna happen,
but when you see something
that you could see actually coming,
there's all of a sudden there's this, oh no.
I was like, oh, but you know, it just ended up,
phenomenal lady.
It would have been great, like everything that you'd want,
but just, it won't work because of I can't move
and neither can she.
So like, you know, but it was great to meet her.
And like I was talking about earlier is, you know, as men,
we get the opportunity to be a good example, right?
Somebody who like, some of these ladies
have never met a good guy, right?
And so like, you know, and like,
so that we can reset the bar.
I mean, so I met so many ladies that bar is so low.
I mean, their experiences in life
and like set the bar high, even if it doesn't work,
set it high, be a great guy, you know,
love her well and like agape her well, right?
You know what I mean?
Like, and just, yeah, and it was a blessing.
I left with a blessing, right?
You know, and so I just encourage you, you know, date well,
raise the bar, be the man you're called to be.
And I'm proud of you guys all for being in the heartwork.
I mean, that's the first, that's the biggest thing.
So I just, you know, and every time that you,
like every opportunity you learn something,
you learn what you like, what you don't like,
you know what I mean?
And so reps are good.
You know, sometimes I'm like, Lord, I'm tired of reps,
but at the same time, but in everything you grow, right?
And so, and you know, I was sad, grieve.
I grieved, you know, I was like,
oh, this actually could really be something.
And then it come to grips with, oh, maybe it's,
no, it's not, you know, grieve it, leave it,
and then move on, right?
And be a, but then the whole thing,
be a blessing and reset the, do your best to reset the bar.
So I guess that'd be it.
I love that Mike, can you guys hear me still.
I'm, I'm starting to be mobile now. Yeah, I apologize. Yeah, but I love that because we're just telling the group of guys today.
How proud I am that you guys doing your hard work because for each story that I hear a guy behaving badly because of some sort of previous relationship that you know somebody like a lady is going through in our community.
They've had a previous relationship that didn't work out, or that kind of thing. And then lots of times, it's not always the case but lots of times guys, you know, behaving badly in a number of different ways, you know, just just treating their spouse
in such a horrible way and acting selfish and just, just not really stepping up into their manhood I mean, let alone, you know, their salvation Christianity, you know, sometimes you can just be a good man, you know, regardless of whether
you even know Jesus or not, you know, and I'm just surprised that so many guys just can't bring themselves to that of course there's a lot of trauma and pain is a lot of reasons for, but this is really disheartens me.
And then I get on this call week after week with you guys who are literally taking their lives seriously taking their spirituality seriously taking their heart seriously wanting to like conform to the best of themselves, and to, you know, step into this next season
of relationship whether you've done it right up until now, or not.
Do it, do it right and do the best of your ability, which is incredible, and I want to honor that and want to, I want you guys to know that that's the case that this is what you're doing this is what you're endeavoring to do, you're endeavoring to step into your best self.
And you're ahead of the curve.
Right.
You may like this and I'm that you may be down to yourself but I'm telling you what.
One of the things that was preached last night in our service together was that I could say it in like this kind of terms where it's kind of like you know the season you've just gone through even if it's not perfect even whatever so you know it's like there's
a reason for it you know you've all heard that before, but I'm telling you what it's more than that.
It is actually, you're doing it right.
You're perfect.
You're like yeah I don't know what we don't understand. I'm down. I'm actually in sin, I'm actually like not doing well. So we're like, no, what you don't understand is that his love and his grace is so great that he has you right where you want you to be like,
that is part of not just the journey. That's the part of you developing into and overcoming and being tested through everything that is trying to like weigh you down.
And Jesus is saying, No, you're not being overcome by sin you're not becoming over being overcome by your flesh. You are in the struggle to overcome.
Like so you can't overcome something unless there's a struggle to overcome it. You don't overcome it just simply just by like ignoring it or bypassing it.
You know you don't win a battle by not fighting the battle you have to go fight the battle you have to shoot the guns, get the dirt, go through it go through hell to actually win the battle right.
So the hell that you're going through the difficulty that you're going through the the war that you're going through is part of your overcoming and part of the journey.
Hi, I have a special guest here.
Hello Jackie.
Hey guys, sorry you guys know that we're mobile. I'm sure David let you know that we're out of pocket in California, which it's so dark because the sun sets in the West right.
And so even though it's like five something it's like practically pitch dark already.
But I just wanted to jump in I heard what Mike said I was getting on here to find David and then I heard what you said Mike, and that has always been true of this community.
Mike is, you know, newer to the community. A lot of you are newer to the community. But this, this community has been co-ed for almost five years.
And I will tell you that all of our guys have gotten married.
And so you're like our new batch. All right, so our guys, you know, they all get married a lot of them marry someone from within the community, or we help walk them through the relationship that they find after they.
And so he's, you know, he's tuning into Holy Spirit on that because this is not something that I have said to dispatch of men, but God really has purpose you to show these women what good men look like.
butt. Not perfect men. No one's asking for that. And if a woman's asking for that, then
she's not ready to partner, right? She's not healed enough to partner if she's expecting
perfection. If she's going to get triggered and pull away every time she sees an imperfection
in you, then she's not ready to partner. Because we're called to reflect.