All right, hello, ladies, so we've just got a couple of you on at the moment, but I'm
sure more people will join, typically happens on a Tuesday at one o'clock, so no worries
there.
All right, so today it's November 12th, this is your one o'clock phase two check-in call,
so good to be here, I'm Carla Johnson, I'm one of your coaches, so good to see you, it
looks like somebody just popped off, now there's just three of us, maybe they'll come back,
maybe there was just bad connection, I'm going to go ahead and get us started with some housekeeping
items, and then we will go ahead and dive right in, so is there anyone on here currently
that's new to phase two?
I am.
Okay, Brittany, I thought you looked new, that's okay, sometimes some people come to
the afternoon or the evening call, so I don't always get to see y'all's faces, so sometimes
I don't want to call people out, because you might have been here for a couple weeks, and
this is your first time on the one o'clock, but thank you so much for coming, we're so
happy to have you, I'm Carla Johnson, I'm one of your coaches here with phase two, I've
been with Jackie since towards the end of 2020, I actually found her at the end of September,
I am excited to say I am a success story, it took me some time to get there, but I did
find a husband, he found me, and we've been married a little over a year, in fact we actually,
he actually messaged me yesterday to wish me a happy when we first met text, so it was
our anniversary yesterday of when he initially reached out to me on my DMs, so that was two
years ago yesterday, and we met and got married in December, met in December, and then nine
months later got married, and whatnot, so hey Julia, this has happened a couple times each
week where you come on and you're requesting to record the meeting, I'm not sure if there's
something that you're hitting, but just so you're aware, we can't approve anyone to record the
meetings, we personally record them and put them in replays, but it's out of safety and whatnot
for all of our members, so I do decline it every week, I'm sure you know, but I don't know if
there's something that you're pushing, so I am declining that request, okay, but just rest assured
ladies, we do record this call, so and then usually my one o'clock's are what you'll see in replay, so
if you happen to miss a Tuesday call, know that you can catch it in replay, we always have those
posted, okay, so but yes, Brittany, welcome, and welcome to anybody else that is in phase two for the
first week and is watching this replay, so I'm just going to go over a couple housekeeping items so
you kind of know what to expect now that you're in phase two, Gabrielle, you're new as well, so
welcome, so good to have you, so when you jump into phase two, you'll notice that we do have five videos,
and so we encourage you to watch those videos just one a week, I know that they're good, and like you
just want to get all the information, but do your best just to go and kind of pace yourself, like we
even just tell you, pace yourself in dating, pace yourself with watching those videos, do one a week,
and then as you watch those, hey Gabrielle, if you're able to, can you mute yourself,
now I can try to figure out how to do this myself,
which I don't know if I can,
all right, thank you Gabrielle, so yeah, pace yourself with that, watch one video, sit with it,
sit with Holy Spirit, pray on it, meditate on it, ask the Lord to reveal and highlight
certain content in that video that he wants you to sit with, and then share it with us in our
community, okay, let us know your takeaways, let us know what stuck out to you the most, was there
something that scared you, was there something that you questioned, was there something that made
you nervous, was there something that made you really excited, was there a breakthrough that
happened, let us know what you're experiencing while you're watching those videos, okay, so
one video a week, that's the main focus, then the next thing you need to make sure that
that you're doing in phase two is that you're coming
to these live check-ins.
So all of you that are with me right now, good job.
You're coming to live check-in.
If you're watching in replay, do your very best
to come to these live check-ins.
That's where a lot of breakthrough can happen.
It's where as coaches can really pour into you
a little more on a one-on-one level
in a smaller group community.
We have one at one o'clock, which is right now.
And then we also have the seven o'clock,
or I'm sorry, seven o'clock for me.
It's eight o'clock Eastern for you all.
I'm in central time, but that's the Eastern time.
So one o'clock Eastern, eight o'clock Eastern.
And Ebony, our awesome coach for the evening,
she is there doing that one.
And every now and then I pop in
because I miss seeing all of your faces.
So if I'm able to, I do like to come in
and just kind of sit in the back and just watch, okay?
But I have three kids,
so it can get pretty hectic in the evenings.
But so yeah, come to live check-ins
and watch replays if you can.
Also, when you're in phase two,
continue to keep going to those prayer calls.
They're always so good.
It's really a way for you to connect
and bond with the women and men in this community.
Especially, I will even encourage y'all
to check out those Supernatural Saturdays
and Sunday night activations.
Jackie is usually on Supernatural Saturday
and she always brings a word that she is hearing
and it's resonating with her.
And it really does pour into this community.
It's just always really timely.
So I will definitely encourage you
getting on those Supernatural Saturday calls.
And those are ones that we'll record as well
and put in replay.
And then just so you're aware,
you're only most, like for most people,
we really just say you're gonna probably only be here
about four or five weeks in phase two, okay?
Now, if you need to take a little longer,
that's totally fine.
We say four to five weeks
because if you really are on track
with watching one video a week,
coming to live, hopping on those prayer calls,
sharing in our community app,
after about four or five weeks,
if you've done all of those things,
you'll send an email to admin at askjackie,
I'm sorry, admin at jackiedorman.com
to request to move over to phase three.
So four to five weeks, then you move to phase three.
Now, again, if you, life happens, all right, we know.
Sometimes there's some women in here,
they get through the content
and they just want another week or two
of just getting more of that dating coaching going.
So, or they're trying to like get out
and date a little bit more.
So they stick around just a couple extra weeks.
We really try to encourage,
don't stay in phase two more than 10 weeks
because there is great things that happen in phase three
and there is still a lot of great community there
that happens as it does here in phase two.
Okay, so again, that's just one way
to make the most out of phase two.
So show up, post things in the app, in the community,
and it could be about all different things, okay?
It can be about heartwork stuff,
things that you're learning from the videos,
like I stated before,
like come and bring us what you took away from those videos.
Maybe you wanna share something
that God is doing in your life.
It doesn't always have to involve dating.
Maybe there's something that you wanna celebrate with us,
share that.
Maybe there's questions that you have,
whether it's questions about dating,
questions about the videos,
questions about something that's going on in your life
and you wanna know how to navigate that.
Bring that with us, bring your prayer requests to us, okay?
But the big thing that I will share
that you need to make sure that you're coming in community
and bringing in our app and letting us coaches know
is your dating interactions with guys.
What interactions are you having with guys, all right?
This is where it allows us coaches
to kind of help coach you through things.
Especially if you're bringing this stuff to us early on,
we can sometimes help steer you away from a crisis, okay?
Because sometimes we can't get our own way, all right?
I say that because I did it, all right?
So I always came to this community
when I was here and I was dating
and it was super, super important.
And so when things happened,
I had my sisters to help me, okay?
That was kind of before,
it was much smaller when I joined in the beginning.
So we really did just have Jackie.
Now we've grown and we have a team of coaches,
myself, Bethany, Ebony, several women in the apps as well.
They're in there, so you might not see us on Zoom calls
coaching you, but there are other women
that we have on our team that are gonna help you navigate
that season in your life, okay?
So make sure that you come and share
about your interactions, okay?
Another thing to do to make the most of this community is to build friendships and interact with your sisters here.
Okay, so when women are posting in the all or the wins or the relationships milestones,
don't hesitate to celebrate with them.
All right, encourage them, lift them up, get to know them.
All right,
these will be, some of these women will be your friends for life.
Some of these women will be even guests in your wedding,
guests at your wedding, and maybe some of them will be in your wedding.
All right, known fact,
Bethany was one of my bridesmaids.
She was one of my sisters in this community. Several of the women that I met
in this community came to my wedding. One of the women actually is the one that
kind of saw my husband in a group,
you know, a singles Christian group, and she saw him and she's like, hey, what do you think about this guy?
I'm going to let him know about you. I'm going to have him reach out to you.
I hope it was okay that I gave him your information. I mean, she did get permission first.
I was like, yeah, do whatever, like that's fine. And so if it wasn't for her, I might not have been,
might not be where I'm at right now. So get to know your sisters, build friendships with them.
The only thing that we do ask is if you're responding to women and your sisters here in this community in the app
that you leave any of the posts that are in the ask a coach tab,
leave those just for the coaches to respond to.
So sometimes when you're looking in the app, when you're looking under all of the posts in the all section,
click on it and make sure that it's also not in the ask a coach. So just be mindful of that.
Another thing that you can be doing to make the most out of this community is to come out of hiding.
So Brittany's doing an awesome job. She's on camera. She's coming out of hiding. That's one way of practicing.
Emily, I'd love to see your face. You've come in a couple weeks before.
You usually have that beautiful picture up, but I don't ever see your face in person.
And Mariska, I do see you occasionally. So I know you come on video as well.
And I did see Gabriella as well. So come on camera, show us your face, all right, come out of hiding.
Not just here in our Zoom calls, but also in your community. So when you watch that
the kickoff video, Jackie gives you that challenge to
start sharing with your people that you're looking and open to dating, okay?
Do you encourage sometimes going on social media if you have the courage to do that?
I did that. It took me some time. I didn't do it right away.
But I did that as well.
And then just being open to dating in real life, you know, whether it's online
or dating in real life, like with people connecting you, just open your heart up and see what God has for you, okay?
We also give you that seven date challenge, which I am going to touch base
on here in a little bit because I know a lot of women get super nervous
when they say seven dates. Oh my goodness, I haven't dated in years. That was me.
I haven't dated in like several years.
And when I had that seven date challenge, I was like, there's just no way.
There's no way as a single mom I was going to be able to do that. But I did, okay?
So it just took me some time. All right.
And then the last thing I want to cover in housekeeping is just things about our apps.
Just make sure that you do a quick
tour in our app if you haven't done so.
So check out all the tabs that are available.
You know, know where the training videos are, know where the replay is. There's an events page as well.
That's going to let you know when we have live calls.
It's going to give you the links to the Zoom call or the
meeting number and password.
So make sure that you know how to navigate that.
Okay.
If I will say if a coach replies to one of your
posts,
instead of replying back to your own post, reply to the coach
underneath. Okay. So what I mean by that is you make a post,
one of us coaches responds. It's kind of like a bullet point underneath your post.
Then under where the coach responds, there is a
little
button that says reply.
That's what you're going to click to reply to us. It's kind of very similar to what you would see in Facebook.
But I've noticed sometimes, and I'm guilty of it too,
where I will go in and respond
to the original post
instead of the person that I was commenting and it puts it all the way
at the top.
And so the reason I say that is because if it's your post
and I reply to it,
and then I ask you a question, you reply to me,
but you're replying to yourself,
you get the notification, I don't.
So then I'm having to go through and figure out,
okay, who have I asked questions to?
Who do I need to follow up to see if they come back
and responded to me yet?
And so sometimes that's when we might miss several days
where we might not get back to you right away.
So if you could just help us by reply specifically to us
under your post, that would be great, okay?
So let me just make sure I've covered everything.
Again, just keep in mind when you're posting
and creating a post that if it's specific,
that you want a response from a coach,
that you make sure that you have it as an ask the coach.
Okay, so I think that's about it.
Resource page, that's got lots of great information
about our SpiritMate Match and our affiliate program.
Just keep in mind, a lot of people sometimes
will just send an abundance of emails,
especially about like SpiritMate Match,
and we're not gonna reply to those emails, okay?
So, and the reason for that is because
we will reach out to you in regards of SpiritMate Match.
And same thing with affiliates.
So all the information that you need
is in that resource page.
So a lot of those things can be navigated that way,
or you can simply ask us some questions in our app, okay?
But let's try to refrain from sending
an abundance of emails.
Email is good if you're in phase two and finished
and you need to move phase three, okay?
Or if there was a single spotlight that you saw
and you were interested in one of the single spotlights
or you know somebody from a single spotlight,
then obviously we've encouraged you to email, okay?
Yeah, no worries, no worries, Mariska.
Totally, totally get it.
Thank you for letting us know.
All right, so I think I'm good with housekeeping items.
Before we do that, I'm going to,
so if you happen to be on last week's call,
but the eight o'clock one,
Bethany gave y'all an activation.
So I'm aware that some of my ladies at the one o'clock call
wouldn't have heard this activation.
So I'm going to actually give you your activation
for next week right now, okay?
So the next time that you come to a live check-in,
so whether it's eight o'clock tonight
or next week at one or eight,
I want you to come dressed and ready
as if you're going on a date, okay?
Whether it's a Zoom date or an in-person date.
So many of you that have been on here with me before
know that I'm not typically like this done up, okay?
So this is what we did early on
when I was in the community with,
it was really early on, we did kind of a whole session
about how to be presentable
when we're doing these video Zoom calls.
So remember, I joined in like 2020,
so it was kind of like lots of things are on Zoom,
but this is great because sometimes when you might,
if you're open to long distance dating,
you're going to need to do more Zoom calls.
We encourage you ladies to do video chat,
oftentimes when you're just meeting people and exchanging.
So we want to like looking presentable.
Because sometimes what happens
is that we're just kind of relaxed in our own home,
in our own house, in our own surrounding,
and we're on a video.
And so we might not present ourselves.
So this was something that we did early on.
Jackie put us on a session,
she had us all come dressed and ready,
and she gave us all these tips and pointers.
She told us, yeah, that's a great color shirt on you,
your hair looks nice.
Hey, you need to add a little bit more lipstick
to your thing, your lighting is off.
So if you come to next, your next Zoom call,
like we can be here to help you kind of navigate that.
So if you see with me, okay, I have my hair done.
All right, men like when women have their hair done.
All right, I have, I'm big on statement earrings.
Now I'm not saying that you have to,
this is just a big thing for me.
I would put on like some big earrings
and then some makeup.
Now, what I will say is I don't typically wear
like this deep of a color for my lipstick.
If I was going out on a live date,
I probably would make this a little more subtle
unless I'm.
going out, like, out on a really nice date,
like with my husband, okay?
Like, once I've been in a relationship for a little while,
maybe it's a level three exclusive relationship,
I might add a little bit more of a pop of color.
Now, on your beginning date,
you're probably doing more casual stuff,
so I wouldn't go full glam, okay?
So I try not to do that tonight.
I just did my eyebrow pencil,
my, I just put mascara on.
In the past, I will do fake lashes at times,
and then, like, today, I put the bright lip on
because I'm on a video call, all right?
And it's a little hard to see when we're on video.
Another thing is having lighting
on the other side of you facing you is good.
I have natural light here because I'm in my living room,
and so my windows are over there,
so I have natural light shining on me.
So if that's possible, definitely do that, okay?
If you're doing in the evening,
sometimes it's a little harder,
but make sure that there's a good lighting behind you.
Gabriella, I loved how she kind of, she has her glasses.
She just took them off for a moment.
So fun fact is I typically wear glasses,
but when I come on video calls,
see, now, yours don't do it so much.
Mine glare really bad.
So that can be really distracting when you're on a date.
So sometimes, if you have contacts, put some contacts in.
Like, I always wear contacts for the call
so y'all don't have to see my glaring glasses all the time.
So, but yeah, with the blue lighting coating,
so that's a possibility.
I don't have those.
I just have some cheap prescription glasses,
so they just glare super bad.
So I always wear contacts if I'm doing a video call
so that there's no glare.
So those are just some tips and pointers.
So we wanna see how you're going to present yourself
on a date, on a video call, okay?
So this is great,
because when I did it,
then it was like I also had this expectation
that the guys were getting the same coaching,
and they didn't.
Ladies, I will tell you, after I got this coaching
and then I'd go on video dates with guys,
they'd be moving around a bunch
and I'm getting dizzy and nauseous.
So find somewhere to sit.
Now, I'm wearing a bright blue color.
So pop of color, something like a nice blouse.
Now, what I wouldn't probably do
is I probably wouldn't sit in the blue chair.
And then I have the shorts for my hair.
I probably, if I was gonna wear blue,
I probably wouldn't sit in this blue chair,
but I always have something like a nice background.
Like when I was single and living in my own condo,
like I had a whole setup on the wall of where I,
because I would do it in my dining room,
and so I had everything on my dining room wall.
And so I had it set up really nice.
Like this is just kind of impromptu in my living room.
So it's kind of like not centered well, but I did that.
One thing I also brought today is like things
that I had on the back of my wall.
It says, and if not, he is still good.
It's Daniel 3, 18.
I had that on my wall.
When I was on Zoom calls, I'd have this one.
Serve one another in love.
That's Galatians 5, 13.
So I had, like, this is just how I decorate my house
in general.
So those were things that were in the back
on the wall for me.
So again, I was subtly letting men know,
like, you know, scripture, Jesus was important to me.
And obviously, I would put that on my online profile,
but I also wouldn't feel like then I'd have to, like,
quiz them or interrogate them or really, like,
make it known that I was a Jesus-loving girl, all right?
So there was subtle things.
Was back there, like, follow your arrow.
Like, I just, all these, like, little, like,
home goods things that I would find to decorate my house.
So those were on shelves and things like,
you know, sometimes those can be great conversation starters.
Like, I have another one here.
This one wasn't, I didn't ever have that behind me,
but let your faith be bigger than your fear.
Like, you never know.
A guy might see that, especially if someone's like,
you know, man is a believer.
He might see that and he might,
at that point, then he may feel comfortable
to open the door to have that conversation, okay?
So it's just little subtle things that you can do,
all right?
So next week when you come, what are y'all gonna do?
Put it in the chat.
Let me know what you're gonna do.
How are we gonna activate you?
Oh, thank you, Mariska.
I appreciate it.
My kids are, I'm gonna go pick up my kids
from school today and they're gonna be like,
mom, where are you going?
I'm gonna go pick up my kids from school today
and they're gonna be like, mom, where are you going?
Yes, dress up as if you have a date.
That's nice, perfect, awesome.
So that's your activation for next week.
So I'm giving it to you early.
So then that kind of puts us into
what I want to talk to y'all about today.
We do a little bit of coaching each week
based on the videos that's in your content.
So last week we did Dating 101.
This week is The Divine Feminine.
This video is my favorite video.
Like I absolutely love this video.
I could probably watch it on replay
like once a month, if not more.
So one thing that I really love about this video
if you haven't watched it already
is Jackie does such a phenomenal way
of teaching what The Divine Feminine is
but also what it isn't.
And also allowing us to see the perspective
of looking at The Divine Feminine before the curse.
We're living in a world after the curse
and so a lot of times our view and perception
of what is feminine and what is masculine
is through the eyes of sin and destruction
and things that are gunk, right?
But it is really that reminder of God's intent
for The Divine Feminine and even the masculine
and stepping into that, looking at that
and letting our innate Divine Feminine come out daily.
Okay, so some of those things.
I want you ladies, I want some of your feedback here.
Some of you might have watched The Divine Feminine already
so you probably know some of these.
Some of you might not, which is fine
but I wanna get everybody's thoughts
on what they believe The Divine Feminine looks like.
What does that mean, Divine Feminine?
What are some characteristics,
some traits of The Divine Feminine?
So go ahead and put that in the chat.
Judy, that's totally fine
if you can come to the one o'clock, perfect.
Okay, being a mother.
There are a lot of mothering characteristics,
believe it or not, about The Divine Feminine
but what I wanna be careful
is just because you don't have children
doesn't mean that you're not feminine
because I know there's some women out there
that might see that and think,
well, then if I can't have children
or I miss the boat on getting married and having children,
it doesn't necessarily mean that.
That doesn't mean that you're feminine
but there are mothering qualities and characteristics
like being a helper to the family.
So just being a helper,
being someone who's nurturing and comforting,
someone who is, yeah, just encouraging
and uplifting, right?
So those are things that you're willing to be a helper.
Jackie does some teaching on this as well
and I believe it's in The Divine Feminine
that The Divine Feminine is referred to as the easer,
all right, the helpmate of the masculine, right?
So it's a partnering even.
Kindness, supportive, peaceful, absolutely.
Those are good, Brittany, that's good.
Yeah, having a kindness.
I also like, you know, if you're meek, right?
There's a vulnerability, there's a softness.
You bring that peace, shalom.
All right, so we don't have,
like we can step into our Divine Feminine
every single day, okay?
And so I wanna kind of talk about
what that might look like, all right?
Another one of the characteristics
that I don't think anybody touched on
and I wanna make sure that I do touch on it
is being wise and intuitive, okay?
Women bring such an intuition,
like have you ever heard of a,
like heard the saying, a woman's intuition?
Like it's a good thing.
Now, it doesn't come out of suspicion
and fear and deception.
It's really just a knowing and a peace
and an understanding and the wisdom,
especially when we're aligning with God
and we're choosing to be God-defended.
We can partner with God
in our Divine Feminine in that way.
So what that might look like in everyday life.
So I'm trying to talk about maybe just practical,
what it looks like, what it doesn't look like.
So being Divine Feminine is being encouraging.
lifting people up, not being negative,
not being critical and harsh on people,
but just truly seeing goodness in
people and lifting that up and pouring into that.
Now, that doesn't mean that we're doing
things for people that they can't do themselves.
We're also not doing this from a people-pleasing standpoint,
because we want to be liked,
so I'm going to be nice and I'm going to be encouraging,
I'm going to lift people up because I
just want people to like me.
We go into what people-pleasing
can be when we talk about boundaries.
That's not what that is because typically
that people-pleasing is a control thing.
It's a manipulation thing
sometimes is when we're trying to be people-pleasers,
but that's not the divine feminine.
The divine feminine is really just seeing goodness in
someone and being able to water
that and let people draw that out of them on themselves.
It's also just pressing into
Holy Spirit and walking in wisdom and confidence.
We can practice that every day.
It's not approaching situations or
relationships out of judgment or suspicion,
or using that manipulation like I was just talking about.
It is truly about being God-defended.
When we're pressing into Holy Spirit,
and we're asking and seeking wisdom,
we can come from a peaceful approach.
Again, that's all that divine feminine.
It also is just gentle,
it's soft, it's vulnerable.
It's not rigid, it's not cold.
This is just a little introduction of
what we can do to step into that divine feminine.
Because again, in a couple of weeks,
we'll talk about boundaries because we want to make
sure that we are stepping in our divine feminine
in relationships at the appropriate time,
like how it looks like depending
on the level of relationship that we're in.
Another couple of things that I want to talk a little bit more
about divine feminine before I move on
is one thing that Jackie mentioned in the video,
and it really stuck out to me,
and it always continues to stick out to me,
is the divine feminine,
like putting it into practice is really,
truly valuing yourself because you are a gift.
And it's also remembering that men are gifts too.
Men and women are made in the divine image of God.
It's the coming of together
that gives us the full image of God.
So believe it or not, like if you're divine feminine,
you're a piece, an image of God,
and God is good, and God is a gift.
Oh, I just got Holy Spirit chills on that one.
But it's also remembering that before feminine,
God made Adam in full, complete image,
but then realized it wasn't good.
And he pulled from Adam out the feminine.
So believe it or not,
God pulled out some good parts of the feminine,
but there was still good in man.
And I know that sometimes it's hard to hear,
especially when we've been wounded by men.
It's hard to hear sometimes even with the feminine
because we've been wounded by women too.
But just remember, value yourself and value men
because we're all gifts.
We all have unique things about us.
And men and women, when they come together,
can accomplish great things.
That's why marriage is so good
because it's a coming together.
It's the shaping and molding of just, it's just good.
And it's also a reminder to me
why the enemy doesn't like it.
And that's why a lot of times what will happen
is that the enemy will wanna come
and attack any desire in your heart to get married
because the last thing he's gonna want you to do
is to do that.
And he most certainly doesn't want you
to be connected to that masculine, divine masculine man
that God has for you
because that means it's competition for,
not even competition, because there is no competition.
Let's just get that straight, right?
Enemy does not like it
when God's sons and daughters come together, all right?
But just remembering that we're all gifts.
And so if we can practice just remembering
that I'm a gift, I'm gonna value myself.
I'm gonna be kind to myself.
I'm gonna be good to myself.
I'm gonna show up good on the outside,
but I'm also gonna work on my inside and be good, all right?
Because those.
that stuff is in there, all right?
And same thing with men, when we're interacting with men,
because ladies, I will tell you,
when you start dating, if you haven't done so already,
you gotta find some just wounded men out there, all right?
There just are, okay?
When I was dating, there was just some things
that I'm like, man, dude,
why do you have to be like a creeper?
All right, but at the end of the day,
it's again, like, as long as we remember,
it's not them that we're fighting,
it's just, you know what, that guy's not for me
and it's fine, I can move on,
and just, that's when we call bless and block,
all right, ladies?
So that's just, again, I just wanna emphasize,
like, putting that feminine into practice
is really by linking the alignment,
like, really truly believing that you are a gift, all right?
Another thing that we can practically do,
and this is why I'm also having you ladies show up,
like, dressed, ready to go,
is, you know, look, look,
take the, value yourself on the outside, all right?
Wear some dresses, wear some bright colored clothes,
do your hair, do some makeup, wear some jewelry,
do something fun, like, you know, just to,
not for other people, but just do it for yourself.
But I'm curious, when I say that,
I'm wondering if there's anybody on my call right now
when I tell you, you gotta dress up,
and you gotta look nice, you gotta go out,
and I'm not just talking about coming to my,
our lives next week dressed and ready,
but are you going out when you're out and about
in the community?
Are you dressing to present yourself?
Are you doing your hair, throwing a little makeup on, right?
I'm curious if anyone is a little, like,
irritated with me when I ask you to do that.
Is there anybody on this call?
I know I've only got a couple of you on camera
because some of you can't come on camera.
And if that's you, if I've irritated you a little bit,
or maybe a lot, let me know in the chat.
Or is everybody like, no, like, I'm all for
dressing nice, look, you know, doing myself up.
Maybe there's somebody in replay that's like,
I don't wanna do that.
Awesome, Brittany, I love it.
This is great.
So yeah, I only say this because at one point
when I was in this community, like,
it was really difficult for me to do that.
Like, it was hard because I was a single mom,
I was tired, I was working as a waitress,
and I didn't like wearing makeup.
And the restaurant that I worked at
was like an Amish Mennonite restaurant.
So like, really doing my hair and makeup
was not really a thing that you typically did.
So I was a little like taken back, you know,
like, I don't know if I really wanna do it.
But I will tell you, as I started partnering with that
and started doing that more frequently,
my spirit shifted.
How I felt about myself shifted.
Because again, ladies,
we're not doing this for other people, all right?
We're not doing like, oh, I have to look a certain way.
So don't hear what I'm not saying.
I'm not saying that just because you're not dolled up
and all that kind of stuff,
that means no one's going to wanna date you.
That's not what I'm saying, all right?
This is not a, I'm not good enough,
I don't look or I don't fit the part.
That's not it at all, okay?
Truth be told, when I first came in, you know,
communication with my husband,
he wanted, we were long distance and I was really ill.
Like I had laryngitis, I could like, I was sick,
snotty, like I was just gross.
And so we didn't do a video call or anything like that
because it wasn't well.
But he asked for a picture of me
like when we were talking, he's like,
can you just snap a picture of yourself right now?
And I'm like, I have no makeup on, my hair's not done.
I don't think I've showered for days
because I literally was ill for days.
And I normally wouldn't have done that,
but Holy Spirit was like, it's okay,
this guy is safe to do, okay?
Now there are some guys that will sit there and want photos.
So don't, again, I'm not saying like,
there's always a balance,
there's always a way to do it,
but I'm not saying that you can't do it.
Again, I'm not saying like, there's always a balance here,
this is why you always come to us first, okay?
But I did, like my husband was,
thought I was beautiful
even without the makeup and all the hair.
And I say, the reason I say that is because again,
I want to emphasize, we're not.
doing this for other people. We're doing it for ourselves. Okay. It will shift something
in your spirit. It really, really truly will. That's why we kind of always put this challenge
out there to Jackie used to have us. She had the challenge of us to go out and wear dresses.
And like some of us, like we're like, I'm not like, but we did. And once, once women
and we still do it, we still activate you women to go wear dresses, guys like dresses.
And women would start putting on dresses that hadn't wore dresses in years. And men were
approaching them, not even like just to date them, but just being like, Hey, you look really
nice. Other women were coming up to me like, that's a gorgeous dress. Where did you get
it? So there's just something about it that it really does shift. So that's one thing
that you can do to put your feminine to practice. Another thing is ask men for help. This doesn't
have to be men that you're interested in dating. This could be like one of the things that
me and the women in my community, when I was in that we used to have this kind of joke,
I don't know if it was a joke, but we literally like, we would do this. We would go to home
depot because that's where guys hung out. You know, you would go to the store, like
you can't go to a clothing store. You don't see a lot of men. If there's a man there,
it's because his wife or his girlfriend or sisters dragging him to go clothes shopping.
Right. You know, especially now when you can Amazon prime everything to your door, you
can Amazon all your clothes. So I'm like, you can't even go out. Like, and, and, you
know, very rarely are you seeing men at the grocery store again, you can like, you can
Amazon prime your groceries to your door. So, but one place that men do go is home depot
and Lowe's. So we would do that. We would just like joke around like, Oh, I had to go
to home depot because I need to like repaint something in my house or, you know, do something
like I had a young son and they always had things that they would do for kids. So I literally,
I take my, my son who was like five, six years old at the time, I take him to home depot
and I mean, men all over the place. So I'm not saying that like those, I mean, those
scope been out there, like that they're all single, but there's times where it's like
if there's something high on a shelf, Hey, can you grab that for me please? Or maybe
if you're just like looking at a paint color, you need to know, like ask, ask one of the
men that are working there. Hey, can you help me out with this? I've never done this before.
I'm not really sure what I'm supposed to be looking for. Whether you need to or not, just
go ask them for help. Let men open the door for you. That's a thing, right? I know there's
not a lot of men. I mean, there are, if you're in Texas, I will tell you there are a lot
of men in Texas that will open doors for you. My husband is like adamant about that. Like
I can't even open my own car door. He makes me shut. If I open my door on accident, he
makes me shut it and wait for him to open it. So let men open doors for you. Like let
people do those. Let, let people do nice things for you. Ask them for help in general.
Like that's another thing. Just accept when people want to offer to do nice things for
you. Like receive the divine feminine is receptive and she's physically and spiritually built
to receive. So if you were like me, that was hard at first, especially when I went out
would go on dates and this idea of men paying for me. How many of you are like, no, I want
to pay for myself. How many of you have just raise your hand or put in the chat. You are
a little nervous about going on dates because you feel like you want to have to pay for
yourself or you're concerned. Yeah. Brittany, thank you. I was like that. I was always so
afraid that men would think I was gold digging or that I couldn't provide for myself, especially
as a single mom. Like I had some pride around that. Um, but I had to learn to be okay with
men providing and paying. I love that. So yeah, like, yes, Gabrielle, like love it. If they pay,
it is, it's so nice to be treated well. And ladies, and it's also why, you know, we don't
encourage, don't go to the expensive, fancy restaurant on a first date. Okay. My husband
picked the fancy restaurant for the first day. I was not even aware that that it was like,
but I was just like, Oh my
Gosh, Jackie's gonna kill me.
She's gonna tell me I wasn't supposed to go
to the fancy restaurant.
Now, obviously it worked out for the best.
Funny story, there was where we went to dinner,
it was a nice fancy restaurant on the top floor,
but the bottom floor was like a casual
because it was on the water.
I was searching the bottom one thinking like,
where is this dude?
Did he stand me up?
Turns out someone was like,
no, there's a restaurant upstairs too.
And I was messaging him and he's like,
oh, I'm already seated at a table.
And I'm like, funny, cause I can't find you.
But so again, we don't, like I say that again,
I'm going, I'm getting off sidetracked here.
I say that because again,
you don't have to go to the fancy restaurant.
It literally can be just for a tea or a coffee
or a small lunch or something casual.
Maybe, I don't know about y'all,
but I love a good food truck.
So maybe it's like a food truck in the park
and you're like walking your dogs or whatever have you,
like something, like let them offer to pay that.
Okay, you don't feel like you have to do that.
Go ahead and receive that gift, receive being treated.
Okay, totally fine.
I'm not saying all men are gonna jump the boat and do that.
Okay, and there's all sorts of reasons
we won't probably get into, but we can later day.
But don't, don't ask the man
just cause he doesn't pay for you the first time.
Okay, cause remember we're giving grace to men.
Not all of them have a Jackie Dorman or coaches
like helping them out, but those are good, good things
for putting into practice the divine feminine.
So hopefully now like you've got some tools
that you can use when you go out.
Yes, coffee shops are definitely a great go-to.
I like fun and different coffee shops.
I sometimes, now Jackie will probably, she'll hear her
and she encourages more active first dates instead of coffee
because sometimes what can happen on coffee dates
is it can turn into an interview.
All right, we already know first dates
already feel like that regardless.
So sometimes like she does encourage more active dates
and things like that where you can like be doing something
together and then still having like talks, you know,
and getting to know one another.
But I did coffee dates sometimes too,
cause sometimes it was just the easiest thing to do
and going to like bookshops and stuff like that.
Yes, Joanna, yes, you like it, but you definitely thank,
thank them when they pay.
Absolutely still, again, that's the divine feminine thing
is like kindness, like be humble, be appreciative,
show that you are thankful for it,
practice gratitude, absolutely.
How about first date at the church?
It's where your next date asked to meet.
Okay, that I wanna get to that, but before we do,
can you stick on for a little while Mariska?
Okay, I just wanna check cause I wanna get to your question
cause I do wanna talk about that
cause I think someone else, there might've been a couple
of women in the last couple of weeks
that had dates at churches.
And so I'm gonna talk a little bit about that.
But the other thing is I wanna share
the seven date challenge, okay?
How many of you like got that challenge and freaked out?
Like what seven dates?
Raise your hand or put in the chat.
You're like, Ooh, I don't know.
Seven day, yeah, Joanne, thank you.
I know, I think I saw a post from you.
Yep, way freaked out about it.
100% ladies, I get it, okay?
I was that girl as well in this community
that was like seven dates.
I hadn't been on a date.
Like I joined this community and my son was five years old
just to turn five.
And I had gone on like two dates with one guy
and it was just super awkward.
Like I just, I didn't like it.
I didn't enjoy the date.
He was very anxious attachment.
Like just was like ready for it to be a thing.
Love bombed me.
Like it was just, he was desperate, okay?
So just like men can be desperate too, okay?
And so I hadn't been on a date for years, okay?
And so I was like super freaked out.
I'm like, I don't know about this.
Like I'm a single mom.
I don't have very much time.
It's hard to find a sitter.
My son only goes to his dad like one night
every other weekend.
And so I get it, okay?
We give you that challenges.
Just do it one date at a time.
Just focus on being open to getting out and date
and let God
play a piece and orchestrating those meetups, okay. He might press you to step out of your
comfort zone, okay, with getting yourself out there. I know a lot of people freak out and
don't want to do the online dating thing. They either never did it before or they did it and it
was like bad and, you know, had bad experiences or they just so feel like God is telling them
that they're going to meet their husband a certain way, okay. Like I've heard it all because I've
given all of those same excuses as to why, all right. It's just about being open to it, okay.
So even though I didn't even like the online dating thing, I still did it eventually because
I needed to put it into practice. I mean Jackie almost like kicked me out of the nest and forced
me to go on dates. She's like you got to get out on dates. It's just so that you're putting
things into practice and when we do that, we don't want you to freak out because just because
you go on a date with a guy doesn't mean that you have to decide whether or not you're spending the
rest of your life with them. You're just getting to know somebody new, just like you would get to
know a girlfriend, like a new girlfriend, right. So it's just really about getting out there,
interacting with new people and just, you know, putting your best foot forward. Like again,
go back to your gift, your valued, let people see that part of you, okay. So it doesn't have to be
super duper scary, all right. It's just take one date at a time and those dates can be video dates
too, in person, in video dates, okay. And it doesn't mean that you have to go on
seven dates with seven different men either, okay. One, like three of those dates could be
with the same guy. I had that. I had three dates with one guy. I had a fourth day lined up with
him and then I really felt like it wasn't, like after three dates with him, I'm like
I'm not sure I can romantically see myself with this person. And so I ended up canceling the
fourth date, but I had three dates with one person. Okay. So it doesn't have to be seven
different guys either. Okay. I know some people are like, that's a lot. So another thing that I
want to talk about, and this kind of goes hand in hand, I'm going to kind of merge these two.
Someone on, in the app this week were sharing about a situation with someone that they met
and the man was expressing that he had some pretty strong feelings that he felt like this
person, like this woman was like someone that he could potentially see himself with.
And there was some question of whether or not like that's possible. Can men just know? And so
I want to kind of talk a little bit about this because I think there is a balance here. So I
want you, when I, when I share this, I want you to put it through the lens of it being balanced,
where I'm not saying it's absolute. Like what I'm saying is no, it's not absolute. There are some
men when they meet you, if it's your spirit mate, they will, most of the time, not most of the time,
there are times when the men will feel very, the man will feel very strongly that he's met his wife.
Okay. That's not, not, not normal. Okay. But again, I say this as it's not absolute. And then if you
have a man kind of pushing that on you, it doesn't mean that he's your spirit mate. Okay. I just want
to take out the things needing to be absolute. And the reason I say this is because my situation
and my love story is a bit different. Okay. It's, it's not the norm. All right. My, my marriage with
my husband, our relationship was very supernaturally accelerated. And so I'm always very cautious about
sharing my story because I don't want women thinking that this is what it's going to always
look like when it's supernatural. But I say it, I talk about it because I think it's important
because my husband very early on had a very strong feeling that I was his wife.
And I actually just learned last week on our, we went on a date night and I was sharing with him
about, you know, I, you know, we talk about the,
you know, my work and everything like that.
And he understands like when he met me,
he knew I was in a mentorship and stuff like that.
And so he fully supports my coaching.
And so I asked him, I said, you know,
one of the women in here,
she's not sure about a man having strong feelings,
but they had never met in person yet.
Now I knew my husband had shared with me before
when he first met me in person, he knew.
And then on the second date he shared with me
that I was going to be his wife.
Now that was on date two.
And I say that again,
and that's why I preface what I said,
because it's not always going to look like that.
Okay.
So just keep that in mind.
All right.
But I say that because I was like, he knew.
Now I wouldn't advise,
he didn't have a coach.
I mean, Jaggi kind of busted his butt.
And she was like, she had like the yellow flag,
almost red flag radars on him.
Okay.
She's like, Harla, you just need to be very careful.
And so we did, obviously, I paced myself through that,
but wouldn't advise men to share that.
And usually if a man would have said that to me,
I would have been like, no,
like that would have freaked me out.
It would have scared me off.
But for some reason, again,
there was a lot of supernatural things that happened.
There was a supernatural piece.
There was a lot of supernatural confirmation
around my relationship with him.
And it happened through like courses of several weeks
and months where God just was highlighting
that he was my husband.
So again, God was confirming, not by my own doing,
not by me going out and I need to check for signs.
All right.
Cause I know I used to do that.
Well, it's a sign this, this man does this.
So it must be a sign that he's my husband.
No, God will come and confirm it supernaturally.
You don't have to go searching for it.
But I say that again,
kind of going back to men sharing their feelings.
And so I learned my husband was like, yeah,
when I was talking to you before we met in person,
he's like, I had a very strong feeling
that you were different.
And then he even told me that there was someone
that he was in a singles group at church
that was interested in him.
And he ended up like break,
like not like entertaining that
because he had a strong feeling before even meeting me.
So I, now he didn't tell me any of that,
like literally just found this out.
And I literally have only like,
it's been two years, right?
Like I met him, got to like,
he reached out to me like two years ago yesterday.
So I just learned this.
So I say this again is sometimes men
will catch feelings early on, okay?
And there are times it will be genuine, okay?
There's also times when it is love bombing.
So that's why, again,
we emphasize the importance of you ladies
coming to our community and sharing in the app
and letting us coaches know what you're experiencing,
what's happening on your dates,
what are men saying, what are they doing?
What are you doing?
What are you saying?
How that's panning out.
So we can kind of help navigate you through that, okay?
So, you know, one of your sisters brought this
and it could be one of those things where like,
yeah, no, this is like that, that guy's love bombing you.
But at the same time,
I also know that sometimes it's not love bombing.
Sometimes it's genuine.
We just, this is when it would be like a yellow flag
and we would need to know more information.
She would need to pace herself.
But just because he's sharing feelings with her
doesn't mean that she needs to cut and run right away.
It's literally just being like, okay, this is new.
He's sharing feelings.
It could be genuine.
It could be love bombing.
We don't know yet because we don't have enough information.
Now I do believe she still plans to go meet him in person.
And again, as long as she's communicating with us
here in the community, we can kind of see
is that potential yellow flag going to turn red
or is it going to turn green?
All right.
And I also want to share this idea of the love bombing
and whether or not people are genuine
because sometimes what happens when we're dating
is we go in it for the fantasy.
We want the perfect fairy tale, Cinderella story.
Like, you know, we start wanting to date the fantasy
that when a man starts presenting himself
in this like dreamy knight in shining armor,
handsome, chivalrous, like, wow, he's such a great guy.
We are so hooked in on the fantasy
that we get blind and we don't see the blinds.
thoughts. So again, I say this is because we have to make sure
that we're balancing what we're learning here, and coming into
community and sharing what's happening. Because and then not
not being so quick to make a quick judgment call. Because
some of us if you were like me was an anxious attachment. I'd
just be like, why isn't he doing this? Why is it? I was just
anxious, like, does he like me? Does he not? Oh, my gosh, he did
this and might not like me. Oh, wait, he's doing this must mean
he really likes me. I was super anxious attachment. And so it
would freak me out, right? And then there's some of us that are
like, the guy just wants to open your door and you're ready to
cut and run. Like, you know, like you're ready to avoid any
potential of like, someone just being nice to you, right? Or
they caught feelings and now you're like ready to run and
it's really great guy, but you're just so scared of being
hurt that you're going to avoid. So that's why it's so important.
I share all of this because I want to emphasize the
importance of making sure that you're coming and sharing in
community, what interactions you're having with men, what's
coming up? What's surfacing? How are you responding? What
emotions and feelings are you getting? What are you concerned
with? What are you worried about? What do you think is the
yellow flag? All right. Sometimes they are, sometimes
they are yellow flags. And then sometimes we're going to tell
you it's not a yellow flag, or we're gonna tell you it's a
yellow flag, but let's watch for it to turn green. Or it's a
yellow flag, let's watch to see if it turns red. All right. So
it's just practicing that. So all of that to say, come to
community, all right, come into your community, let us know
what's going on. All right, I'm going to, I'm going to take
Mariska, I'm going to take your question. And then I do want to
put you all in breakouts. I've got 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8 of
you. So that's good. I probably put each of you in a group with
just like one on one. Oh, I think I just had another joiner.
I don't know. Maybe I didn't. Something weird happened to my
screen. I do want to put you in breakouts. And we're going to do
things a little differently in breakouts. I want to put you in
breakouts after I answer Mariska's question and talk a
little bit about that. Okay, thank you, Judy, for letting me
know, I might have to put you all in groups of three. And one
group with two, we'll figure that out. But I want to put you
in these breakout groups to have like 10 minutes of getting to
know your sisters here in community. But I want you to
approach it. Like, it's a date. Like it's a discovery called
date, I want you to practice asking and answering questions
with each other. And the reason I'm doing that is because we
sometimes get so hung up when we're going on dates with guys
that we get uncomfortable with what questions we want to ask
and how we want to answer questions when really it's just
dialogue with back and forth with somebody. It really is a
low stakes, no pressure type of get to know you situation. So I
want us to start practicing these tools of getting to know
somebody with each other. Get to know your sisters in here. Ask
them some questions that you might ask them out on a date,
get to know them better. Because here's another thing, ladies, if
you're asking certain questions, and it doesn't feel natural to
ask one of your sisters in Christ, it's probably not a good
first date question. Like, you're probably not going to ask
some of your sisters here. So do you want to have kids? How many
kids do you want to have one day? Like, okay, that's just an
example. Okay. Like, you're not going to ask a guy on a date
about how many kids he wants to have. And it's, you know, like,
that's just not a first date question. We're going to ask
questions of really just truly getting to know who someone is,
what do they like to do? What's interesting about them? So I do
want to do that here in a moment. But Mariska, you had a
question about first date being at church. Okay. It is one thing
that I know, Bethany, Jackie, even myself will encourage not
to make church dates your first date. I'm not saying that they
don't happen. Okay. I think last week or the week before, a woman
in our community was traveling. And when she, you know, went to
this city that this guy was in, she knew I think she might have
known him through a friend or something. And he invited her to
go to his like church service. And so it happens. All right.
It's something that we, we, we encourage you not to do.
but that is because at this point when you are,
there's an intimacy that you have in your faith
and with God.
And so sometimes what can happen is that
you will get blinded by the faith stuff
and not really potentially see the fruit
or the lack of fruit in someone.
So it could potentially put blinders on
because again, now you're sharing an intimacy with someone
because you're sharing a personal intimacy
spiritually with somebody.
And so then sometimes when some yellow flags
and red flags start showing,
you might be a little bit more on guard.
So that's kind of one of the reasons
why I wouldn't suggest it is because again,
for a lot of that, that's just a vulnerable thing.
And again, we do ask you ladies to be vulnerable,
but again, we ask you to do it in a pacing
in response of the level of relationship that you're in.
I'm not saying don't completely not have church dates
because believe it or not, one of my third dates,
that guy that I was just telling you all earlier about
that I had a fourth date with, that ended up ending it,
the third date that we went on, he came to my church
because he had friends that went there.
And so we went there and I will just tell you,
I just romantically wasn't feeling it with him.
It got really uncomfortable for me
because he was sitting right next to me.
And when I'm praising and worship, I'm crying it out.
It didn't feel natural
because I didn't really know him still well enough,
but it was a third date.
Okay, so I still did it.
And then he got to see some of my friends
in community as well.
And then I got some feedback from some of my friends
that met him at my church.
But those are just, again,
I'm not saying that they don't happen.
I would just encourage make it after getting to know them
after a couple of dates.
Because even then, on a third date, I realized,
I'm like, I don't know.
We talked about our faith and stuff
and I knew it was important to him, it was important to me.
But I eventually ended up sensing
that he was just really wanting to be in a relationship,
that it almost felt like he was only choosing the faith walk
because he knew how important it was to me.
And so it was more of a let me impress you kind of thing.
And so that's why I kind of ended up ending it with him.
And then he wanted to do like a Bible study with me.
And again, we don't encourage praying with each other.
I mean, obviously, if you're praying over a meal,
completely understand that.
But if you're praying for one another
in level two relationship,
it just builds a spiritual like bond there
and an intimacy that if you're not
in level three relationship,
it can get really mucky sometimes.
So that's why we don't encourage it.
But are you planning to do this?
Are you in the stages where you can offer
to do something else instead?
He decided to do it.
So I didn't really, it's a large church.
It's in between, it's really not my church.
It's the church I go to
because I have mentors up there at the church.
And it's in between my city and his city.
So it's kind of like a break in ice, so to speak.
And the service is normally like a short,
it's non-denominational church.
So that's why I said, okay, so.
Okay, when is this happening?
Next Sunday.
Okay, so you still have some time to think about it.
If you wanted to, you could probably even just say,
hey, I've done some thinking on it.
And I would like, you know,
you could even say something like,
because here's the thing, ladies.
Sorry, I'm kind of going off on a tangent here.
When you're in worship and you're in a service,
are you really gonna be able to get to know a person?
No.
So that's what, like I would even say,
hey, I've done some thinking.
I appreciate the offer to go to church.
It's something that I would look forward to do,
you know, in the future after we've gotten
to know each other.
But I think it'd probably be best if we go do,
maybe give them two suggestions.
We can either go do this or this.
I think it would allow us an opportunity
really to get to know one another better
without any sort of interruption.
And just, you know, and present that.
Give him two options of something
that's maybe in the middle, again.
Like whether it is go to coffee or go do an activity.
something or you know something where you can have some communication of really getting to know
someone because again at church services I mean you're not talking you're not talking while the
preacher's talking right I mean yeah I get it might leeway into having a conversation about
what the serve you know service was about but again that's when again we're sharing some more
intimate like spiritual things like again and we do like you're gonna want to know that y'all are
on the same page spiritually and and the faith is there but ladies it doesn't have to come right
away it really is simply just getting to know them outside of their faith are they a fun person
to be around do you enjoy spending time with them because I will tell you like my husband
is such I mean such a spirit-filled like godly Christian man but that's not all that he is
all right he's not sitting in worship with the because he'll he'll he's half the time he's
probably got more tears in worship than I do and I thought that's weird because I like I mean it
comes on thick for me but he's not doing that every single day in our everyday life all right
he is a fun like outgoing sense of humor like he is a goofy I always call him weird I always
tell him he's a weirdo like that's just his personality and I it's important that you see
and get to know men outside of that too because they're not just gonna be I mean my husband's not
sitting here worship and praising Jesus all day every day like you know tears coming down like
there's another side to him as well and so we want to we want you ladies to to know that there
are other things besides their faith yes faith is a core it's important but you don't have to
find that out right away because again some of these guys you're going to go out on a date or
two with and it's just you're going to be like yeah no that's that doesn't fit that doesn't fit
for me and it's not going to matter what kind of faith he has because it's not a fit all right
hope that helps all right let's go ahead and just jump and do like 10 minutes of a breakout session
where I want you just ladies just what questions would you ask on a date ask them to one of your
sisters just ask one maybe two dates respond get to know some of your sisters and then we'll come
back and we can share a little bit about some of the things that you learned about one another
and then I'll take all y'all's questions how many do I have here one two three four five six seven
eight and then was there anybody that's not going to be able to participate
see if I can do four groups if there's someone that's not able to participate
I will I will shift and move people okay so just get in your group I'll see if y'all are talking
so if you can participate I'm gonna see y'all talking because I'll see the little mic thing
going up and down if I see someone that has their mic off and they're not talking and there's one
person in there that has their mic on I will move the person with the mic on into another group
sound cool all right
go ahead and get started
okay there's one person still it just says zoom user get a pretty hat with like a pretty background
I don't know if you can hear me I'm guessing maybe you can hear me but I'm not sure if you can hear
me so I'm going to go ahead and share my screen so I'm going to share my screen and I'm going to
move some people
okay there's one person still it just says zoom user get a pretty hat with like a pretty
background I don't know if you can hear me I'm guessing maybe you're not able to go into a group
okay I'm gonna move
some people
so
okay you're at work okay gotcha no worries I just moved you
if you can just click on a room and then just go to that room
you
thank you
All right, ladies, so I'm interested to know, did, excuse me, was there any question that
one of your sisters shared that was just a really good question that you're like, Oh,
I love that question.
I'm going to use that the next time I'm on a date.
Or there was a question that was able to, um, gotcha, gotcha that you have to go back
to work.
Totally fine.
I'll have this in replay too.
So if any of your sisters ask questions, you can always fast forward it to this part.
If you want to hear any of the questions that your sisters ask and how we coach through
that.
So if you have to jump off, no worries.
I know we're kind of a little late on time.
So ladies, if you have to go totally understand, but I'm curious.
So what, like, was it fun?
Did you like learn some things about your sisters?
Like, tell me what your experience was like, I can talk.
So, um, I was in the group with Jovan and Gabrielle and, um, it was really interesting
to just get to know one another and just share a little bit of like, um, like experience
with like dating online.
And, um, just like when, when a question is asked to us, like that type of personal question,
like it's too deep early on and just really just getting some, um, insights of how to
go about that.
Like, Hey, I will love to talk to, talk to you about this over coffee or in person.
Um, especially if it's something like, um, I know the question that was brought up was
when one of them was asked, Hey, um, what do you, what are you looking for?
Like in a partner and just really just like, yeah, it's like questions like that.
That's something that you would, I mean, you could ask on a first day, obviously that if
it's a little too deep and maybe a few days in, but, um, but yeah, I thought that was
really good.
Cause, um, it was also brought up that like one person tried to send a whole paragraph
and it's just, it's just too much on an app.
Exactly.
So that's the thing, like, you know, and again, I think you all ladies understand, like we're
here and we have mentors and coaches, these guys, they don't, they aren't going to find
into that, but then it doesn't have to be so scary when those types of questions come
up, because especially when you're online dating, I think it's kind of one of those
just like unwritten, um, like it's almost like they think it's like an unwritten rule.
Like you have to ask the questions like, so what are you looking for in a person or what
happened in your last relationship?
Like why are you not together?
And it's just kind of like, I think it's just because people really don't know what to ask
or kind of what to talk about.
So it kind of just, you're there to date, so you just kind of assume you're going to
ask those kinds of questions.
So yeah, like it's, I love that you ladies were able to talk about that and help each
other navigate, like how you can, can come to that like response of, Hey, that's a really
great question.
It would be really great to be able to have that conversation in person.
Why don't we go at, or on a video, why don't we go ahead and set that up?
Are there any days this week that you're free?
Like think of that nature.
And then again, like when those questions get asked to you, like what are you looking
for?
You don't have to go in, you don't have to get into the weeds.
You can just give highlights.
I honestly oftentimes encourage you ladies to share a little bit on your online dating
profiles.
What are some characteristics and qualities that you find that you are, that you're looking
for?
So when I say that, I'll give some examples.
I really appreciate a man that is, has a servant's heart.
So I'm looking for a quality of a man that will show that he's willing to serve others,
not just me as, you know, a potential person.
I mean, I might not even say that on a first date, but I would just say like, I'm looking
for someone who has a servant's heart.
And I think it's really important for me to see that someone's willing to just pour into
other people, whether it's myself or other people in the community, because I have a
heart for that.
And so I want to know that there is a man that would appreciate that.
And so that's one thing again, like, and it doesn't have to be like, I want to see that
in other people, not just my husband.
Right.
I mean, I'm, I want to get to know you, like, do you have a servant's heart?
What does that look like?
look like. So those are types of things. And they don't have to
be like, I'm looking for, you know, a man that wants to have
like four kids and, you know, has a great relationship with
his family. Like, you're not gonna like, you don't have to do
that. Just be like, these are things I value. I value family,
I value people that can serve others. I value someone that
has a lot of fun, that likes to, you know, I enjoy someone who
can be spontaneous. That for me, I love someone who can be
spontaneous, because I'm not typically a spontaneous person.
So I need that complimentary opposite, where I'm a planner,
like it's got to look a certain way. So those are things again,
it doesn't, you don't have to deep dive, but you can just give
a highlight, like these are things I value. These are things
that I find attractive in a person. I once had someone give
me a challenge of being able to list something I found
attractive in a person on any person that I came in contact
with. Whether it was a man, a woman, an elderly woman, an
elderly man, a child, whatever, whoever I came into contact
with, finding something attractive about them. And I'm
not talking about physical attraction, I'm talking about
heart attraction, what qualities and characteristics can come up.
So I love that. Yes, you're going to run into those
questions, right? But there's a way of navigating those that
doesn't have to deep dive. Same thing with, you know, you're
gonna get those questions of, so when, how, what, when was your
last relationship? How long was it? Why did it end? Why are you
divorced? Whatever. And those are questions you'd be like, I
understand, like, that question, I would really like to get to
know someone first before I kind of get into that, that
discussion. Let's get to know one another first, before we,
like dive into that stuff. I mean, you can, you can, you can
navigate that well. But I love that you ladies had practice
with that. That's awesome. That's why I think I want to
continue and I'm going to ask some of the other coaches. I
think I would like to use those breakout sessions for you ladies
to start practicing what questions to ask one another to
get to know each other. I think it's going to help you ladies
form relationships in here. And I think it's also going to help
make when you are dating, whether you're dating right now
or you haven't dated yet, but you're going to step into that.
It makes it not feel as scary and daunting. Because really all
dating is is just a get to know you. We talk about discovery
dating, we talk about, you know, just it's a get to know you
stage, it can be enjoyable. It doesn't have to be like super
romantic, it shouldn't be romantic in the early stages.
And it doesn't have you don't have to go into the weeds with
someone either. So Joanne, she said a guy asked me that what I
am looking for in a guy and I was like, um, then I said
masculine marriage minded, decisiveness and mature. I love
it. Yeah, you say look, I really want a masculine man. I want a
man that's mature. I want a man that you know, is looking to get
married in the future, not maybe married right now. Sometimes
like how we word that can be, you know, we want to tiptoe
around that. On a first date, you don't be like, I'm looking
to get married. Like, I'm gonna be like, Whoa, I just met you.
But yeah, and so then it can, and hopefully, there's dialogue
back. Oh, so what do you mean by masculine? And you can share
that? Like, what do you mean by masculine? Are you talking about
a man that's just going to be able to lift things and, you
know, be like macho? Because some guys will think that's what
you mean by masculine. But we can talk about the divine
masculine, like someone who is, you know, can hold boundaries
well, someone who is willing to protect and honor the people
that he's around. So again, that's why for me, a servant's
heart is important. You know, a man that's going to be, you
know, willing to serve me as his wife. All right, and allow me to
be able to step into my divine feminine and receive and then be
able to pour in and nurture and encourage a husband. Okay, so I
love that. I love that you did that. That's awesome. Anybody
else want to share? It doesn't have to be with what you what
y'all discussed in your breakout? Maybe you have another
question that's on your mind a situation that you're in. Whether
you're dating or not dating, maybe you are here to date want
to talk about question. Yeah, what's up? Okay, my question is,
I get this a lot. They want to know, are you talking or dating
to someone else? And I really before I was
Hey, I'm talking to other people and you, for some reason,
a certain demographic of men will always be like,
I just don't believe in talking to so many multiple people.
It's just like,
they didn't understand the different levels of dating.
Like one even said, it's too many spirits.
I'm like, what?
So that's, I'm just trying to figure out what to say
because I know I'm gonna get that.
And so I just wanna be ready to say that
and not have to go through the levels of dating with them.
Sound like-
Yeah, we don't wanna do like a whole teaching,
you know, like a Jackie teaching with them, right?
Okay, we don't wanna be their moms.
We don't wanna coach them, that kind of stuff.
Like, yes, a divine feminine is a,
is got wisdom and sufficient.
She's gonna be able to be, you know,
coach and teach and things like that's in that nature,
but we're not gonna step into that with men.
So I love this question.
Yeah, like this is definitely one of those scenarios
that I think, especially coming into this community
and you all can kind of weigh in
and on what, how you took this
is when I, before I came in this community,
I was not comfortable dating more than one person at a time.
That was me, like to me,
I thought you were cheating on someone, right?
And so, and then there is other people
where they're not serious,
so they're just dating all sorts of different people.
But this was a whole different scenario for me
to really have to step into is this idea
that I can date more than one person.
For me, and I think this can happen with a lot of people,
partly why this happens is because oftentimes,
especially in the society,
in the world that we live in right now,
there's a lot of like physical intimacy that's happening.
There's a lot of like, you know,
kissing and other things that are happening where, yeah,
you're not gonna be doing that with more than one person.
However, we're stepping into this community
where it is about dating more than one person,
but we're also holding boundaries,
biblical godly boundaries and why that's important.
And so, yes, you're gonna get these types of things
that come up.
So the best way that I would respond to people asking me,
especially if a guy's like, you know, asking me,
are you dating more than one person?
I'd be like, well, you know,
I just started getting to know you.
I'm in a stage of dating
where I just wanna get to know people
and see if I connect with someone on a different level.
And I believe in the, how do I wanna word this?
I believe that it's important
to really get to know someone
before you go into deeper levels of relationship.
And so, yes, I'm getting to know more people,
but I also hold, like I have healthy boundaries
and to make sure that that doesn't cross.
Okay.
Like, I think, again, it's just,
it's about being clear and communicating.
Like the reason why we choose and coach you all
to be open to dating more than one person,
because you really are just getting to know a person.
You're not planning a future with someone.
You are just getting to know them.
And again, I always put it in the terms of,
if you were in a community of women
and you were building friendships,
would you just have one friend, one girlfriend,
one best friend, one best girlfriend,
one ride or die chick?
No.
Most of us women have several different women
that we have relationship with.
I have several different, you know,
friendships with women from all different stages of my life.
I have friends that are solely my, you know,
my son's baseball travel mom team.
Like it's all of us moms getting together
because we have something in common.
Our boys play travel baseball
and we spend a lot of time together.
I have a community of women
that I connect with at church that are friends.
I have friends from, you know, high school.
I have friends from my college.
I have friends from when I was living in Florida.
I have all sorts of group of friends
and I wouldn't subject myself
to only having one girlfriend at a time.
So again, like I would just say,
look, I'm just getting to know people.
I haven't made a decision
be serious with someone and have a committed relationship.
So until I'm ready to have a committed relationship with someone,
I am going to get to know other people.
And you can even say like,
that doesn't mean that you have to feel that same way.
Like if you like,
you can tell a guy like,
look,
just because I'm dating someone else doesn't necessarily,
if that's not comfortable for you,
I'm not forcing you to do that.
I don't think most men would be like,
you know,
be like,
you know what I'm saying?
But I mean,
I think it's just looking at it that way and just letting them know,
like I'm not in,
I'm not in a committed relationship with someone.
And I hold that very dear.
It's really important to me when I decide to be in a committed relationship with
somebody,
it's,
it's serious.
Like I take that,
I value that.
I mean,
I had that same conversation with my husband on our first date.
He wanted to kiss me and I said,
no,
I'm not comfortable with that.
I'm not comfortable kissing someone,
um,
that I'm not in a committed relationship with.
And I explained to him that,
look,
I'm aware that we're just getting to know each other.
You could be dating other people.
I could be dating other people.
And for me,
I don't want to kiss more than one person.
So it's important to me to wait till I'm exchanging,
you know,
a kiss on the lip.
It's something that is like,
that's a,
that's to me,
that's sacred.
And so I'm not,
I'm not going to do that with a bunch of different people.
You're welcome.
That's a good question.
I like that because again,
I think it goes to men out there that y'all are going to be dating,
don't have a community like this.
And if they don't,
you can introduce them to this community 100%,
or especially if they're a good guy and they might not be for you,
definitely introduce them to our community because just because they're not a
match for you,
doesn't mean that they're not a match for one of your sisters here in this
community.
All right.
Anybody else?
I have a question.
How do you ask what season a person is in?
Cause I know you guys talked about,
you know,
people are in different seasons.
In their lives.
And I know you mentioned that obviously when it comes to seasons,
like so for me,
the season I would like obviously is motherhood and,
you know,
starting fresh,
but then a lot of the guys I'm meeting are kind of like retired or,
you know,
or have,
you know,
in that portion,
I don't want to assume that they're not looking.
So how do you ask?
So I think just seeing about what season a person's life,
and that can mean several different things.
So one way that I would ask is asking them,
you know,
especially early on when you really are still getting to know them.
And maybe it's like a first date or something.
You're just kind of feeling out certain,
certain energy and stuff like that.
But I would ask,
so help me understand like what in your life right now takes up a lot of your
time.
Like what,
what is,
what,
what are some of the priorities in your life right now in this moment?
And seeing what they say,
because again,
and I say that because many single people,
you're not going to know,
like,
they're not going to be in a season of having children because they're single.
So you might not learn about that,
but you're going to see like what's important to them right now.
So again,
if they're like,
I'm in a season of,
you know,
dating and getting to know someone,
because I would like to potentially be married and have a family someday,
you can kind of navigate that well.
And so then if a man is asking you and just be like,
you know,
I'm in a season of just coming out of hiding,
you know,
I'm,
I'm part of this really awesome community of women and,
and just learning more about myself and,
and partnering with the Lord.
And I'm,
I'm looking,
I'm,
I'm preparing myself to step into God's purpose for me.
And I believe that is to be a wife someday.
I mean,
you can say things of that nature as,
and again,
it doesn't have to be super intimidating to a man.
You see what I'm saying?
And it's just,
again,
it's a lot of times it is about just creating dialogue and letting it naturally
come up.
And so,
and you'll see like after several dates,
you'll more,
more oftentimes than not,
God will start revealing to you certain things and opening,
especially like opening up,
like where person's coming from again.
And as long as like one thing that was important to me when I was dating is I
was,
before I went on a date,
I was always.
is going to my Heavenly Father and praying to Him first,
before going out on the date.
And just having some peace and some clarity,
trusting Him with the process,
and also just reminding myself,
I just wanna go out and enjoy myself
with whoever you've put in my path,
whether he's my spirit mate or not,
I just wanna go out and have a good time.
And Lord, I trust that you're gonna reveal things
that I need to know, and let that kind of unfold.
And if you enjoy conversation with the person,
and you wanna do it again,
then go out on another date again.
And as you kind of build that relationship,
and you see like, you know,
I really enjoy this person a little bit more.
It's gonna naturally flow into seeing
whether or not a guy is gonna be intentional
and wanting to get to know you better.
And then like down the road, after several dates,
you will naturally start having those conversations
about what this would look like progressing.
But we don't have to,
it will not oftentimes happen in a first date.
I will tell you that.
Because a lot of times it's just awkward, like, right?
Like, raise your hand if first dates,
most first dates you go on are just awkward.
Right?
I know some of you, if you have your avatar hand,
or maybe just put it in the chat,
like, yeah, first dates, it can get awkward.
So I hope that helps.
Just again, asking someone like,
what's important to you?
What are your priorities in life?
What takes up a lot of time?
What takes up your time in the week?
You might find someone's like, yeah,
I'm coming, I'm retiring.
Like I used to work 50 hours a week
and now I'm starting to enjoy that I'm doing more things
and being more active.
And then you can, and if he talks about retirement,
you can be like,
well, what does retirement look like for you?
What would you envision your retirement look like?
Who would be, who would you share your retirement with?
Are there certain people in your life
that is important for you to spend your retirement with?
And maybe that's how you might be like,
well, I would hope to retire
and I hope to be married when I'm retired.
They're right there.
Like you didn't ask him, are you, are you marriage minded?
He might just naturally say, you know,
when I look at retirement,
I would love to be married and share it with someone special.
Or maybe he might not even say married,
he might share it with someone special.
Oh, that's interesting.
With someone special,
would that be like a wife or with kids?
Is that your mother?
Is that your father?
Like, is it your sibling?
I mean, you could ask a bunch of questions there.
Like you can, you can, doors get open that way.
So, and that's why, again,
I think it would be great when we come in
to have these breakout sessions of practicing,
asking questions as if we are on dates
and how you would respond to one of your sisters.
And we could even do that on a session.
Maybe it's like you guys ask me questions
and I'll respond to you or I'll ask you questions
and you ladies respond to me.
That's maybe something that I can,
I can chat with Ebony and some of the other coaches
and maybe we could try to put that together one day
on one of these coaching calls.
Cool.
Anybody else?
Anybody want to share about like
what their dates have been looking like?
Or maybe if you're not dating
and you're nervous about dating,
let's, if you want to talk about that,
we can unpack that.
Nobody, everybody's really quiet.
I mean, I can share, but I don't want to hog up the,
I don't know if you can hear this.
I know some of your sisters are not even able to talk
because I know they're at work.
So go ahead, Joanne.
And if there's anybody else,
go ahead and put your avatar hand up.
And then if there's no one else,
I'll take Joanne's question and then we'll jump off
because we are coming up at two hours, I think here.
So I don't want to take up all y'all's time either.
So Joanne, what's going on with you?
So I have, I'm on the Facebook dating.
And so I obviously set up some texting back and forth.
And so I've asked them to jump on to Zoom
just to make sure that they're real.
So one guy was really funny
because he was like, yes, I'm real, I'm real.
And like, I have real teeth.
And so he was very hilarious about it.
And so I got to chat and see that he was real.
So he also did like the resume dump and I was like, whoa,
I don't need a resume dump, you know,
start a conversation.
But then-
Oh, he started resume dumping on you?
Yeah.
So I was like-
Legitimately like, and you're feminine kind of just say,
hey, I understand, like, look, like this doesn't have to,
I mean, that's when I'd be like, look, I get the awkward.
It doesn't have to be like that.
And then that's where you, you're fun, flirty.
feminine side can come out.
So that's funny that he did that.
Cause again, these men don't have coaches.
Speaking of coaches, just like you said,
like the whole guy in his bedroom with the zoom,
with the lights and stuff like that.
And I was like, this is totally like not, you know,
but considering it was just like, for me,
I didn't mind because I just wanted more proof of like,
not scammer.
So I'm sure like the next real one would be more appropriate
and stuff like that.
So, and then the other gentleman,
like I also did the same, he was,
he was actually pleasantly happy that,
and surprised that I offered to do zoom
because he was like, oh, not everybody will do that.
And, you know, and he also forced a proof of,
you know, realness, so that was good.
And I was talking with Mariska,
cause it's like when they were asking me,
well, tell me about you.
And I was like, I'm a nurse and I was like so stuck.
So it's like, cause I don't want to be like an interview.
You know how like you have like that elevator speech.
So I was like, so I was kind of a little stuck on
like how to get over that initial hump.
Yeah, that's always typically a thing too.
Like people are like, tell me about you.
You're like, oh, okay.
Like sometimes I like more specific questions.
And so that one, you, again, you could be like, well,
you know, I have, like, how would I answer that?
Like, that's a good one.
Like even I see, I even get stumped with that.
Cause again, like it's been a while
since I've been on the dating scene, obviously.
But yeah, it's like, tell me more about you.
Well, you know, I, this is when for me,
I do share my faith.
Like, you know, look at the,
when I was asked this question,
be like, I'm a single mom.
Like I have, I have a son.
So a lot of my time is spent, you know,
interacting with him and doing things that he enjoys.
Like he's athletic.
So I go to sports and stuff, but you know,
I'm really involved with my church.
I have a group of friends, like I'm part of a community.
I'm, you know, really into just growing as a person
and, you know, interacting with people.
Like I love people.
I love getting to know a lot of new people.
So I kind of talk about that.
And then I'd be like,
then you can turn it and flip it to a question.
Then start asking him questions.
And I'd be like, you know,
one thing that about me is I do love to travel.
Like I just went here on a vacation
and my next vacation is going to be here.
Tell me, like, do you have any vacations?
Like, are you a person that likes to travel?
So you see how sometimes you can kind of share
a little bit, like you're here and now,
like what's going on in your life here and now,
and then turn it into a question
where it gets them responding.
Because again, sometimes people just don't know
how to communicate very well.
They don't know how to have dialogue with people.
So it's practicing that skill too.
That's why I like it when you ladies jump on and stuff.
So tell me, these two guys,
do you have any, like a second date set up?
Are they local?
Are they long distance?
What's going on with these two?
So one is local.
I'm trying to, I was trying to set up a,
since I'm off for the next couple of days,
trying to set up something,
but he was saying weekdays are not good for him.
So, but he said he's off next week.
So I was like, okay, great.
So I had a date.
So we'll see how we're going to do like a live date,
maybe next week.
The other one is not, he's in Delaware.
I'm in New York.
So to be determined when we can kind of spit it in.
Yeah, definitely.
Yeah, definitely could jump on a Zoom,
but like an actual live date.
And then I don't know if you remember
from when I had asked you guys in the coach
about the gentleman who was in Massachusetts,
where we've been doing like Zooms and phone calls and stuff.
So I have two questions and then I'll give an update.
So one quick before I forget.
So I've given him my Google phone number.
Okay.
And so I've actually met him and I actually,
you know, like he's a live person.
He's, I deem that he's kind of safe.
And like, I met like his, the people around him.
Okay, good.
The question is, when do I give him my real number?
I don't, I mean, I think as long as you're still
making connection and stuff like that,
and you're still doing,
I don't think that that wouldn't,
you wouldn't have to give a real number.
I mean, are you finding that it's hard to have communication
because he doesn't have your real number?
No.
I was just wondering because, you know,
not that he asked or anything,
I was just curious of like, you know,
when do you be like, okay, now here's my real number
versus, you know.
Yeah, I would, I, you know,
I would wait after several dates
and maybe if you see it kind of going,
if maybe you're going to kind of move
into a more serious relationship with him, then yeah.
But right now you're just discovery dating,
you're getting to know people.
I wouldn't, I wouldn't press it honestly.
And if he's.
not asking and it's working, I would say that's fine. Um, so
that's good. That's exciting.
So I went to take my niece on a college tour, and he lived in
the town right next to it. So he had the one with the had the
community where he opened the open house for this next week, I
did come I brought chocolate. And so I got to meet him. It was
very platonic and shook my hand. So it was nice. It was a little
weird. I was a little nerve wracking. I was praying the
whole time. But you know, it always are. So we'll see how
like he's also in Massachusetts. So we'll see.
I love it. This is good. It's really good. And I like that
again, like, ladies, I also want you to hear you know, it's not
just us women that are, you know, looking to see are they a
real person like the men are dealing with the same things we
are to make sure that you're real, you know, make sure that
you're an actual person. I think, again, she probably like
the guy that was probably shocked that you were willing to
do a video call like I know a lot of women that are in office
about it. And so I'm sure that was probably a breath of fresh
air for him that you were willing again, ladies, we can
step into that confidence and are feminine and just, you know,
we have nothing to like, we're God defended, we don't have
anything to fear. And it really does move the the getting to
know you part along instead of that awkward back and forth,
like getting to see them live and in person, or on a video
where they're like interacting, you can you can tell a lot, you
know, and again, like same thing, like I know, nowadays,
it seems like even if you are on a video chat, I think it was
Mariska that she kind of noticed it was very awkward. The
zoom was very awkward for her because she wasn't even sure if
it was a real person, because of the way that technology is. So
again, sometimes you can get yourself, you can kind of feel
that out. So again, like, you're going to see and it's going to
flow, it's going to be naturally going to have natural human
interaction. And it's a way for you, again, to kind of, you
know, instead of doing all the back and forth messaging, and
then you're getting your feelings and you're talking and
then you're like, Oh, I want to talk to you every day. And then
you realize, like, they're not a person, they're not a real
person, they're not who they say they are. And at this point, if
you're like me, and like most women, you start catching
feelings for people, because you start sharing intimate details
with a person that you haven't met face to face. All right,
because eventually, after a couple weeks of talking and
getting to know somebody, you're going to run out of things to
talk about, like, where you're going to eventually kind of
naturally progress to that. And so we really do want to make
sure that you are speaking to an actual person, not deep diving
until you've had some face to face interactions with people.
Because you can, can feel that out once you're in person, like
sometimes you think they're going to be really like, Oh,
this is this guy is great. And then you meet them. And you're
like, what happened? I have the same conversation with my
husband when he was like, coming to visit me and meeting
me for the first time. He was traveling from Texas to Florida.
And he's like, Am I going to get to see you more than once? And I
was like, I don't know, I haven't met you in person in
real life. I don't know what that will look like. Let's meet
first. And then we'll decide. Like, sometimes you don't like I
went on dates with guys that I thought this guy is cute,
attractive, like he seems fun. And then you get on the date,
and it's kind of like, like, nothing, nothing like you're
like, okay, like, the guy couldn't hold eye contact. He
didn't seem interested in me at all. He was on his phone the
whole time. He was, you know, drinking too much or he was, you
know, talking about his ex girlfriend so much and like, and
I'm like, like, that didn't that didn't plan out the way that I
hoped. So again, it's, it's important to make sure that
you're getting on those face to face and doing the zoom calls
and all that kind of stuff. So Joanna, thank you so much for
that update. I love it. I'm excited to hear how these go. I
love that you're getting out there. I love that you're open
to like getting to know more than one person. And just
relax and see where it goes and just enjoy the process. Okay.
All right, ladies, I've taken up a lot of your time already. So
I'm going to go ahead and send y'all off. Don't forget next
week, come live like you're going to go on a video day or a
real day. Let's let's get some coaching on that. We're going to
talk about online dating as well next week. And then don't forget
tonight if you can jump on the eight o'clock Eastern, you'll
have Ebony.
well and some of the other women so if you can make both great if not totally
fine but I will see you ladies next week don't forget to come in the app share
what's going on in your life all right don't be a stranger all right all right
I'm gonna pray us out real quick and then send you ladies on your way so
Heavenly Father I just thank you so much for the time that we get to share on
Tuesdays with one another Lord I think that I thank you for the love stories
you've written for these women I thank you for the opportunities and the growth
that you're gonna constantly be pressing into these women Lord that you just you
are our father you have good things for us good gifts for us and and and the men
are gonna be gifts to us and we are gonna be gifts to men and other people
that come in contact Lord I just I thank you for just the constant opportunity
Lord I just I bless this community I just am so thankful for this community
and the gift that you've given not just not just to these women but Lord I just
thank you for the gift of this community for me you know this this this community
has been such a great blessing for me in my life in the early stages and even now
Lord and I just thank you I thank you for the opportunity that you've given me
to be a hope and a light and an encouragement to them and Lord I just I
I bless them and I thank you for them and I know that you are gonna make them
blessings in other people's lives as well just because of this community I
thank you for the relationships and the friendships that are gonna be formed in
this community I thank you for the friendships that you've already created
this community and the ones you're gonna continue to keep creating I thank you
for each and every one of their spirit mates Lord and I just bless their spirit
mates I bless them that they get an acceleration on the supernatural Lord I
pray for your clarity and confirmation as they go out into this into this
community into this phase of dating Lord I pray that you give them confidence and
peace and wisdom I just thank you for all the things that you're doing in this
community and and and beyond so Lord we just pray all these things in your son's
name amen ladies thank you so much always such a blessing I can't wait to
see y'all next week I may be on tonight in the background so if you're there
I'll look forward to seeing you there as well but have a great wonderful rest of
your week watch one video a week and then share in community okay take care