So welcome to last year, single community night.
We're going to do a spirit mate match event tonight.
It's always a good time.
Um, people really love the dating game.
I actually was alive in the seventies and in the eighties, when I was a child,
I remember seeing the dating game on, I remember seeing a show called
love connection, which I thought was super fun when I was a kid.
I thought that was fun.
Now I look back at some of those episodes.
I'm like, they were pretty racy.
Those are some pretty racy, uh, situations that were going on there.
And there were a lot of really weird people on that show as
contestants, I can say that.
And then there was a show called the dating game as well.
I don't know if you guys remember seeing reruns of that.
Um, I think that I might've seen it mostly in reruns cause I definitely
was too young, probably to remember it, or maybe not even alive.
Cause there was one during the seventies and all the bachelors or
bachelorettes were behind a wall.
And then the bachelor or bachelorette was here on the other side and they
were asking questions, so they didn't see them.
And then they saw the people that they didn't pick.
They came around the wall and greeted them.
In fact, I think there's a serial killer movie about that right now.
Y'all, um, with, uh, what's her face from pitch perfect.
I guess it's a true story that she actually met this guy
on a dating game like that.
I promise you that's not going to happen here.
Okay.
We've got these people out really well.
So, um, everyone is in our community.
They're in our student body.
You know, we spend a lot of time getting to know them as far as the
bachelors that we're presenting to you.
And so you don't have to worry about that.
They're known in the community.
They're known by others in the community.
And so, um, but anyway, probably a bad example for tonight.
Starting out, but anyway, it's a fun game.
And so we play it because I like the idea of getting to know someone
without really seeing them first.
I like that idea.
But I will tell you that all three bachelorettes that have been chosen
tonight to, to have fun with this game, with our bachelor, all of them
are super compatible to this bachelor.
Same with the last game that we had.
All three were super compatible.
I just want to say something.
And that is that one of the bachelorettes from our last game, which
was a little, uh, like a month or so ago, she already is in a relationship.
Not with our bachelor from last game, but she met someone.
This is what happens when you put yourself out there.
Remember God is the best matchmaker.
And I believe that we have a supernatural grace on this.
She was really nervous about being on that game, about putting herself out
there, and I believe that that really helped her to kick it in gear.
And so now she's in a relationship and it's going really well.
She's not talking herself out of it.
She's not trying to sabotage it.
And so that's how fast things can happen.
But the other two bachelorettes, um, one of them, the one that our
bachelor Mike from last time picked actually wasn't able to relocate.
And neither is he because they both have shared parenting.
So that was a spirit mate match flaw that we had in that matching.
Otherwise they have tons in common, which is why he chose her during the game.
But I do want to say that all three of these bachelorettes have a
lot in common with this bachelor.
And if for whatever reason, as he talks to the person that he chooses tonight,
that he wants to, you know, they find out they're not really that compatible
or not really that interested, uh, that he has the opportunity to talk
to the other two ladies as well.
Okay.
This is not the TV show.
The bachelor where you got to pick someone and then you got to marry
them right on the spot or, you know, ask them to marry you.
That's not what we're doing here.
You guys, this isn't married in 12 weeks or less, right?
It's not last week, single.
That's not, that's not what we're doing here.
All right.
So I'm just buying a little time.
I was waiting for the bachelor to get here.
Um, are you here?
Matthew don't see him yet.
I do not see him.
Okay.
All right.
He says he needs five more minutes.
He's getting pretty.
Don't tell him I said that.
Cause you know what?
He's not going to know.
I said it because he's not here.
All right.
So you guys to have some fun because I'm so appreciative of those of you,
139 of you that showed up tonight, even though it's holiday week, normally
we have a much larger number, but I'm surprised we even have 140.
And so if you want to go ahead and put where you're from, where you live,
put your age, put some vital statistics about yourself.
Bachelorettes do not do that.
Bachelorette one, two, and three.
Do not give anything away about yourself.
Everybody else.
If you want to, if you want to meet and greet in the chat while we're waiting
on our, our bachelor for the game, you can go ahead and do that.
You'll see that we have people from all over the country.
We have some phase two ladies with us tonight.
This is what you have to look forward to in phase three.
This is our club level.
This is our community level, and we have love seats.
We have dating coaching.
We have games like this where we can do community-based matchmaking, and we're going to be having
a lot more of these.
You guys, we're doing them once a month now, but starting in the new year, we're going
to probably do them maybe every week.
We're going to have some kind of single spotlight, because we want to start getting people meeting
each other.
Okay?
We want to get people dating and mating.
That's what we do around here.
For those of you that are really new and you haven't really heard much from me, because
I don't really talk to people in phase one and two very much.
I do a lot in phase three, though.
We have engagement announcements every week.
Last weekend, we had three weddings, one engagement, several anniversaries.
If you ever wonder, hey, do these people stay married?
Yes, they do.
They stay married.
We have people from our movement that have been married going on four years in January.
We have several couples in 2025 that will have been married for four years already from
this movement, from getting married from this movement.
Isn't that exciting?
Very exciting.
Okay, let me see.
Let me check.
All right, our bachelor is here.
Let me just go ahead and I'm going to do some pinning right now, you guys.
All right, so when you get ready, Matt, you're going to go ahead and put your camera on,
and not that it matters, but I'm going to, because their cameras are not on, but I'm
going to pin our bachelorettes as well.
Yes, ma'am.
All right.
All right, how are you doing?
Okay, got the hat.
Everybody loves a cowboy.
Okay, we're going to have a good time.
We're going to have a good time.
Let me just move my gallery over here so I can see everybody.
I can take it off.
I don't have to have it on.
I just wear it on.
My daughters require me to wear it as much as possible.
They love it.
They love dad as a cowboy.
All right, so to get started, we're going to have Matt.
We're going to have you introduce yourself, tell everyone a little bit about you before
we start playing the game tonight.
Where are you from?
Tell us a little bit about what you do and how old you are, and you can tell us as much
or as little as you want about your daughters, and we'll go ahead and talk to you just for
a couple of minutes before we get started.
My name is Matt Miller.
I am, I like to say, 46 years young.
I don't feel 46.
I've been in construction for almost 30 years now.
So I was a superintendent, project manager, quality control engineer, and now I'm
environmental health and safety manager for a pretty large firm here in Austin.
We're all over the world, though.
I do that, enjoy what I do, but what I enjoy more than work is my three daughters.
Single father, I have them majority of the time, and they're right here in the background.
The little blonde one there is Abby.
She's my eight-year-old.
Emma on the other side of me, she is turning seven in two weeks.
And then my little baby girl in there, she's four and a half.
So Abby, Emma, and Lucy are, you know, why I do what I do, and they're a huge part of
my life.
They also help me pick out my outfits and tell me I have to wear my hat.
So, but I love being a girl dad.
People ask me, if you ever had a son, would you know what to do?
And I said, probably not.
All I know is girls.
I went on YouTube.
I learned how to do hair and help them pick out their outfits.
We go shopping together.
So I try to be as girly of a girl dad as I can be, but they also like me to, you know,
show them how to fix stuff.
I was a handyman.
My dad taught me from a very young age how to do that.
So yeah, I can build stuff.
So that's, I guess, another bonus there.
But anything else?
I love it.
When you said you went on YouTube to find out how to do hair for your daughters, every
woman in here let out a huge sigh.
Yeah.
So I do.
The only thing I can't do is the French braid, but yeah, I can, I can, uh, my middle one,
her favorite hairdo is like the Cindy Lou Who style.
So we'll go to church and her hair will be sticking up about 18 inches up in the air
straight, no bends.
So they asked me and I said, a lot of hair.
a hair ties and a lot of patients.
So.
Oh my goodness.
That's funny.
They have three different hairstyles too.
So I have to do, you know, detanglers.
Absolutely.
So it's like, it's nuts.
Well, dad, we want to let you know
that you're doing a good job
and it's amazing that you're doing that.
And we love it.
And for all of us that didn't have a dad like that,
we're just like, wow, we're so, we're so, you know,
we're so glad that your daughters have a dad like that.
But you want to-
I have one more thing in there too.
That's simple.
That their faith and my faith are very important to me
every day that they're with me.
We start out there in the morning,
we read something out of my Bible
and then we do the children's storybook Bible
and then we pray and we set off that day.
So we, and we pray every night together.
So my oldest two are asking me about,
about more about God and stuff like that stuff.
So that to me is more important than doing the hair
and the clothes and stuff like that.
But-
Of course.
Me being able to point my girls towards faith
and them constantly starting to ask me questions
and wanting to spend more time doing that stuff.
And I also, I also play guitar too and sing.
So I'm starting that up at church too.
So like that's a huge part of our lives too,
is prayer, Bible time, worship, stuff like that.
So big part of our lives.
Okay ladies.
Now, just because we have three bachelorettes,
you can write into us about Matt as well
to admin at JackieDorman.com in the subject line,
you can put Matt, okay, the singing cowboy.
If you want, you can put that there and-
I'm not a real cowboy.
I'm just very Southern.
You're listening to him talk.
And if you're feeling like,
hey, I'd be a really good match for this guy.
You know, I love the same things.
I want, I want this kind of life.
Then we definitely want to hear from you.
Now, all three bachelorettes,
I feel like all three of them want this kind of life.
I feel like all three of them are really,
have a lot in common with Matthew.
And so let's see, once again,
he's going to pick someone tonight.
They're going to go on a date virtually if necessary.
If it's, you know, not a local situation,
virtually if necessary,
they're going to get to know each other better.
Once again, he'll have access to all three names
of all three bachelorettes tonight.
If you know, they end up not clicking for whatever reason,
want to stay friends,
don't want to pursue anything else besides that.
But we're hoping that we introduce Matt
to his future bride tonight,
either in the gallery or one of the bachelorettes
or a friend of yours.
Maybe you're looking at him, you're like, wow,
he would be great for my friend, fill in the blank.
We also want to hear from you because remember
what we do here is community-based matchmaking.
You guys, just 30 short years ago,
almost everyone met their spouses,
their mates through friends and family and community.
Okay, now technology has taken over.
And I realize that we're on technology now.
So we're using it, it's kind of a love hate relationship.
We're using it,
but we're using it to do something more old-fashioned
and that's community-based matchmaking, right?
So we're using it for the purpose of doing
what has fallen by the wayside.
And that is meeting people through friends
and through family,
which is what we've all become to each other.
And that's what this program is all about,
healing our hearts and the revival of marriage and family.
So without further ado, Matt,
I can feed you questions that you can ask the bachelorettes.
The way that it's going to work
is you're going to address them, bachelorette one, two, three,
whoever you're going to address the question to,
you can address the same question to all of them,
or you can say, hey,
this question is just for bachelorette number one,
or, you know, however you want to do it.
And I will also help you
because we want to move things along, okay?
I didn't, did you introduce the bachelorettes?
Because I didn't, I think I, when you were-
I did not introduce them
because they cannot introduce themselves
because you're going to know little to nothing about them.
Fantastic, all right.
The only thing that you're going to know about them
is their names.
And so they're all going to introduce themselves,
they're going to introduce themselves as their names
because I don't want anything influencing you,
nothing at all.
Oh, I got it, I got it.
Except the answers to the questions.
All right, so bachelorette number one,
you can unmute yourself.
Don't un-video yourself, stay off video
and go ahead and say hi,
say hi to Matt and tell him what your name is.
Hi Matt, my name is Darla.
You want anything else?
I can't tell you anything.
No, no, that's it.
Nothing else, Darla.
Okay, bachelorette number two,
why don't you greet Matt and tell him your name?
Hey Matt, my name's Bethany Joy.
Bethany Joy, bachelorette number three.
Hey Matt, I'm Kelly.
All right, so we have Kelly is bachelorette number three,
Bethany Joy is number two and number one is Darla.
All right, so what question would you like to ask
the bachelorettes right out the gate, Matthew?
Let's see.
You put me on the spot here.
It's a good one.
And you guys, you can help Matt.
You can help him too by putting up
questions you think he should ask in the comments.
That would be helpful.
Yes, they will.
I always think it's great to just start off
with a general question of, hey, what
do you love about your life?
What are you up to?
What do you love about your life?
These are all some really good questions already.
OK, first, like, a Hallmark movie poop
is Bethany Joy a Hallmark movie star?
I'll ask this.
I'll ask this for all of you.
Do you have kids?
How many?
And I mean, do you like kids?
What do you like about kids in general?
If you don't have them, that's fine too.
I'm just curious.
OK, you want to start out with Bachelorette number one
and all three answer?
Yes.
OK, go ahead, Bachelorette number one.
Do you have children?
Do you like children?
Do you want children?
I do not have any children, but I do like children.
I have, I was one of six kids growing up,
so I had a really large family.
And I have five, so five siblings,
and they all have kids.
And I have a sister who lives really close by.
She has three kids, and I've just been really
involved in their life.
I got to play fun auntie.
But yeah, I just love kids.
I think that they're a gift from God,
and they're just little lovers.
They're so bright and fun and wonderful.
Yeah, I love them.
How are you, I'll follow up with another question.
How are you with excessive snuggling and touching
from the kids?
Because my kids are excessive snugglers,
and they will just, they'll be all over you.
It will.
Oh man, I could honestly use some excessive snuggling.
I'm a little behind.
Physical touch department, so I have years to prepare for.
All three of them, I think, have a love language
of personal touch.
They just can't, they just, they want back rubs and hair
being played with, and arm rubs when they go to sleep.
So I'm very busy at naptime and nighttime.
So all right, that's all I can say about that.
No five point questions, all right?
Bachelor number two, do you like kids?
Do you want kids?
Do you have kids?
I absolutely love kids.
I do not have any kids.
It is a big desire of my heart to have children.
I'm actually known as Aunt B at church,
and I am always trusted with all of my friends' kids.
We often do dates every Christmas.
We dress up.
I remember teaching a bunch of them
how to dance, put on lipstick, take selfies,
like all the things that little girls love to do.
And I have always desired to have that.
I've waited for marriage to be able to have children,
because I know that that's a promise that the Lord has
said he would be faithful to me for.
And I know what an honor and a privilege it is to be a mother.
I have the best mother in the world.
My mom passed away a couple of years ago.
And if I could be half of the woman that she is
and the mother that she is, it would be such an honor.
So yeah.
And Matthew, I didn't do this on purpose,
but I'm pretty sure that all three bachelorettes have not
been married before and don't have any children.
But bachelorette number three, you
can answer the question as well.
Hey, Matt.
I'm Kelly again.
So that's correct.
I've never been married.
And I love children.
I nannied in college and then in graduate school.
And God placed in my heart a desire
to have children as young as a little girl.
I knew as a child that I wanted to grow up and be a mom.
I've always had that maternal instinct.
And I'm extremely passionate about it.
I don't have any nieces or nephews
because my sister is younger.
And she is not married yet either.
And we both are waiting, of course, until marriage.
But for me, when people ask me, what is your dream in life?
For a lot of people, it's to achieve
this or that or a career.
But for me, I always say it's to be a wife and a mom.
Wonderful.
OK.
So they all answered that question.
Since you gave up that information,
that actually gives me into my second question.
OK, go ahead.
This is a big thing for me too is
because it's a huge responsibility for any person
to come into a relationship and there
be established kids already.
Fortunately, my kids are very, very teachable.
They've had the fortunate thing of having
a lot of really good babysitters and stuff.
They submit to these young ladies
that they're going to be able to take care of their kids.
that I've gotten through for friends.
So coming in you, you know,
if it goes towards the marriage part,
you'd be a step-mom.
How do you feel about that right off the bat?
About having that level of responsibility
of having, you know, three of those girls
that are eight, seven and four years old.
Okay, he's going to address this question
to all three of you,
but I just want to make one little slight change
in our community.
There are no steps ever, only bonuses, only blessings.
Yes.
Because step-mom kind of has a really evil connotation.
I get it.
You know, I meant it in the best way, sorry.
We know that you did.
Okay, so bonus mom,
how do you feel about coming into a relationship
that is a family set with children included?
Bachelorette number three,
we'll start and we'll go backwards.
Okay, so I love the idea.
I desire to have a big family
and growing up I had kind of a small family,
immediate family, but we were always very close,
lots of games and spending time together
and we traveled and did fun things.
And I remember as a child watching,
this might age me, but I think that shows step-by-step.
I think with all the kids,
I remember thinking, I want a big family.
I want all of us together and go on road trips.
And for me, I am open to,
I want to have a biological child, of course,
that is my desire and I pray for that.
But I could never say no to any child,
whether it's through adoption, through marriage,
and accepting my husband's children.
I would love them like they are my own.
And it really, the way that I am with children,
I don't know if I can,
I don't think I can tell you what I do yet for work,
but what I do for work requires me to be,
I'm a caregiver, essentially, in a way.
And so, you know, for me-
That's right, number three,
you can say what you do for work.
Oh, okay.
So I actually have my doctor of physical therapy degree.
So I'm a licensed physical therapist.
Thank God.
What?
You need one.
I hear that a lot.
I'm not cheap, though.
But no, so I just, you know,
what I do for work is I essentially,
and I work with elderly people
and then I work in pediatrics.
So I work at the two ends of the spectrum.
I don't typically treat a lot of, you know, regular adults.
I tend to work with the kids and the elderly.
And it requires a lot of patience,
but when you spend time and you get to know
and you build a rapport with them,
just the love and the connection that you make
is something that is just very precious to me.
Absolutely.
Well, Matt, you're in luck
because you're not a regular adult.
So I have a feeling that that'll work out.
Bachelorette number two, you're next.
Hey.
Good answer, bachelorette number two.
So I'll start with what I do for work also.
That's a great idea, number three.
I am a professional vocal coach
and I teach internationally around the world
with a lot of people overseas,
as well as all the way down to like four years of age.
And so I have the honor and privilege
of working with a large group age demographic.
And the thing that I feel that I get told the most
with the kids that I work with by their parents
is you're gonna be a great mom
the way that you teach them,
the way that you breathe life into them.
And I think that that's so important
when coming into a family where there is a family established
and there's already kids,
that your goal is really to just encourage
and champion the father and those decisions
and to come into agreement.
I think it's so important to have that peace in the home
and that safe space for the kids.
And that's something that was demonstrated to me
and something that I have always desired
to be able to create that safe space with my husband
for those children, giving them that security.
And so that's something that I was demonstrated.
And then my sister comes from also a blended family
and it has been the most beautiful thing to watch
her mother kids that are not necessarily hers.
And so I really feel like I've had
some beautiful examples of that
and have learned so much
and look forward to the privilege.
And God actually spoke to me back in 2022
that he was preparing my heart for a family
and for somebody that was like
already an established father with children.
And so that has been a part of my prayer time
with the Lord is continuing to reveal to me.
how I can come into that type of a situation
and be the best example that I can be for them,
support them, breathe life into them.
And I think that it's just such a beautiful opportunity
to be able to do that.
And yeah, so.
Yes, amen.
And all of you in the community,
you know that at our ages that we are in this community,
that the chances of you marrying someone
who already has children is pretty high.
And so being open to that
and allowing like bachelorette number two said,
to have your heart prepared in advance is very wise.
And we do a lot of that in this community
and I'm proud of that.
So bachelorette number one, same question.
How do you feel about joining an already established family?
Do you want me to say what I do for work first
since everybody else?
Yeah, you can, you can do whatever you like.
Okay.
Well, I work as a longshoreman,
which has nothing to do with children.
It's in shipping.
But the way that I look at joining
someone who already has children is just having like,
like family is one of the most amazing things,
if not the most amazing thing,
I think to experience in this life.
So it's just a bonus.
It's like being thrown into something wonderful, right?
So yeah, I'm just open and I wanna be in a family.
So, cause that's what I've grown up with.
And I just think when it's done right,
it's the most beautiful thing.
So I also would see it as like an adventure.
Like I love adventure.
I love trying new things.
I'm a fan of change.
And so it just seems like it'd be a fun
and beautiful adventure.
And I know that God would be with me in it
and help me to be a good mom.
I love that.
And as a 17 year blended mom,
I can tell you it is the greatest adventure.
All right, Matthew, what do you got?
Next question.
And you can direct it towards just one person at a time,
or you can give everyone else a different question.
Like not all three of them have to answer every question.
That's, if you wanna change it up.
Cause I see it going this route.
So I just have a curious for bachelorette number three.
Do you, I know you're a physical therapist.
Do you see yourself the desire to be more
of a stay at home mom,
or especially having one of your own?
Or do you see yourself wanting to be able to work
at least part-time or something like that?
Okay, so I love this question.
And I'm gonna be very honest with you.
And even if it's not okay,
I did put a lot of time into my education,
but I would give my job up in a heartbeat.
And it's not because I don't like what I do.
But I, when I say that I feel that I'm not doing
what I'm meant to do on this earth,
it's because my heart wants to be a wife and a mom.
And I 100% want to be a stay at home mom.
I have been told that I'm crazy for thinking that,
but when you've desired that for so long,
and like I said, what I do for work,
it's the transition won't be difficult.
And so, yes, I will be honest.
I do want to stay at home.
I will always keep my license active,
but no, I don't plan to, you know, down the road,
you know, might I do something wellness,
like, you know, kind of on the side.
And I've done wellness stuff at church.
I've taught elderly balance classes at church,
but no, I don't have this desire to be a career woman.
And that's not to put down any woman that does,
but I can tell you as somebody who has been working,
it's not fulfilling.
And I have many, many nights priding myself to sleep,
just hoping that I always joke with my friends.
I say, I wish that there was,
I could go apply to be a stay at home wife.
Like, why doesn't that job exist?
So I'm 100% want to be stay at home because, you know,
whatever society says that is a full-time job
and mamas are the glue.
Mamas hold it all together.
They, I'm the kind of woman that I want to make sure
my husband has his lunch, my kids have his lunch.
You know, I'm running around, like making sure.
you know, the commander of the ship, making sure it's all running smoothly.
Well, Kelly, I'm about to marry you now. Listen. All right.
All of you listen, all you ladies,
you never need to be ashamed that you want,
especially if you've been waiting all your life to, you know, do this.
You don't ever have to be ashamed that you're not going to,
I believe women can have it all,
but we don't necessarily have to have it all at one time. Okay.
We can just focus on things. Um, you know, come compartmentalize those things.
I want bachelorette two and one, both answer that question to you guys.
We don't want to run out of time. You guys are giving beautiful answers,
heartfelt answers. We love it. Let's make them sure that they're, um,
powerful and shorter. So bachelorette number two,
you go next to the bachelorette. Number one,
how do you feel about being a stay at home mom?
Can I say my age?
Well, yeah, sure. Yeah. You can say, yeah, you can say your age.
Okay. I was just going to say I'm 41 and I have waited to be a mom for a very,
very long time. Um,
and so I think it would be an absolute honor and privilege to be able to do
that. I do think it's important as somebody that would be a stay at home mom,
that you still have those passions, um, that you are being, you know,
being fulfilled by like what I do going maybe over a weekend to work with a
worship team. Um, sometimes occasionally every few months, um,
working with worshipers because God told me also that I was to help mother the
sound of worship going around the world.
And I want to be able to continue to do that.
But number one is home. Home is the first ministry always. Um,
and that's the most important thing to me. So yes to that.
And also to the keeping the passions and things like that going.
So good. Okay. Bachelor number one, same question.
Um, yeah, I think I'm open to being a stay at home mom. Um,
with that, with the idea like bachelor number two said,
where I still get to do, I still get to do some things.
I don't need to have a career, but I,
I do have passions and on other things that I, I want to work
towards. Um, I don't like, uh,
like teaching or doing different art things. Um,
um, so yeah, I think that there's a way to incorporate like raising kids and
taking care of kids and doing those things at the same time.
Absolutely. I was a stay at home mom as blended mom. And you know,
we need, our kids need to see us being passionate about other things besides
just, you know,
the daily caretaking of them because it helps them to hone and develop their
gifts and talents as well. So good answer.
What's your next question, Matthew, and who do you want to direct it to?
This is a lot of pressure to answer this.
Guys help Matthew out. Come on. Let's you guys are so good on the last one.
You know what? I saw a good one before. I like this too, because I want to ask
this because it's important. Cause I want to, I want,
I want to date my wife. I don't believe in dating beforehand.
I want dating to be a huge priority of the marriage,
making sure that there is a babysitter.
There's a set time of the week where we are.
It is something we know we can look forward to whether or not that's,
I mean, Friday night is perfect. Saturday night's difficult.
You've got church the next day, something like that. But Friday night,
I want it to be a priority. So
I'm directing this to all three of you. What is, I know we're going to say,
Oh, what's your ideal perfect date? What, what would you, if it was your date,
what's some things that you'd like to do? We're not talking like a guest.
If you want to go to a four-star restaurant every once in a while, I get it,
but that's not going to be every single time. Let's be honest. But what's,
what would be an ideal fun date to do, even if it's not extravagant,
but something simple and fun or something very nice. Just give me some,
give me some ideas on that.
All right. Pick one. Where are you going to start?
Let's start with, let's just go one. Let's go, let's go one to one,
two, three and go around the horn. One, two, three.
All right. Darla, what's your ideal date? And don't say April 4th.
Did you guys ever see that movie where she's like in the pageant and they're
like, what's your ideal date?
Just like I think April 20th cause it's not too cold and it's not too hot.
Now what do we got?
I like, I like I do like good food and like a good dinner date,
but I, I, I like variety. So I like being surprised.
I like a good picnic. I like an event in a park.
I don't know. I like paddle boarding. I like, um,
yeah, actually I think maybe the sweetest date is just a good picnic.
If it's planned well, um,
with a blanket on the grass where you can just chat and like sit in the sun and
yeah, pet some dogs. It's great.
Love it.
All right, that's right. Number two. I love hiking. And that is usually one of my favorite
things to do. Just the conversation also getting the workout in, you know, and then when you
get to the top, you know, have your sandwiches in your backpack, and enjoy the view and enjoy
each other. That's I love that. And it's just super simple, super easy, not expensive. And
honestly, just being with my person is what I love. So
great. Bachelor number three, same question. And so I love sports, and I love country music.
So a country music concert. And the last one I saw was George Strait. It was so much fun.
Or like a football game, something like that, where I love those moments, because you're
not necessarily in this super romantic setting, but you're like, it's it's sweet. It's like
friendship. And, you know, but you love each other. And you get to see how each other act
in kind of an exciting environment. I love football games. I love concerts.
All right, that's so good. I'm gonna ask a couple questions for you, Matthew, because
I think it's important, because we're seeing such different personalities here. All three
of you starting with Bachelorette number one, what is your love language?
Ooh, I think I'm a quality time number one. And then okay. What is it? Words? Words of
affirmation? Yep. Yeah. All right. That's great. Number two, Bachelorette two.
All of them. But probably the most important are going to be words of affirmation and gifts actually.
And that's not even like, it's an expensive thing. That's like, I cried and you bought
me tissues kind of thing. You just like thought of me. So those are my those are my top two.
That's good. Bachelorette number three.
Words of affirmation and touch.
Okay, so we have three with words of affirmation in there. And then we have quality time, gifts
and touch as the as the differentiators. All right. Okay, let's come up with another question
here. Do you guys know Bachelorette one, two and three extrovert, introvert, ambivert?
What would you describe? What would your friends describe you as not yourself? Bachelorette
number three, would your friends describe you as an introvert or an extrovert?
Oh, to be very honest, they probably describe me as a little bit of both. In college, I
was very extroverted in a sorority, very social, had lots of friends. And as I've gotten older,
my personality's changed. And I like quiet time and I love to read. And so I honestly
would say a mix of both. To be fair,
Ambivert is what we kind of call that. Oh, okay. Yeah. Yep. That's good. Bachelorette
number two. What about you? Definitely used to be more extrovert. My friends would say
I was the life of the party because I love to have everybody included. So I'm always
gathering everybody. I lean more towards that. But definitely, like she also said, like I've
started to become more of an ambivert as well. Quiet time, not being with friends and different
things like that has become very important. Just being able to, you know, wind down, watch
a show or read the word or do worship without anybody there. Yeah. Good. That's great. Bachelorette
number one. On all the tests I've taken, it puts me kind of in the middle towards but
towards introvert. I think my friends would consider me an extrovert. People at work would
call me an introvert. And I think I that would be an ambivert. But I think that I'm recharged
by spending time alone. So that would be introvert. Matthew, what what what what would you say
you are? I'm definitely an ambivert. Everybody thinks of me like when they meet me. They're
like, oh, you're an extrovert. The reason I say that is because, yes, I do like I do
like to go out and do stuff. But man, I've when I've had a rough week or something like
that. And when I don't have the girls, I could sit at home for 48 hours and do absolutely
nothing. Just do laundry, play some guitar, write a new song. Go on a walk myself, just
drive in the middle of nowhere with my truck or go eat, get to go, bring it back, watch
a show like sometimes being alone for me is fun. I mean, I like going out with other people,
but sometimes people can be exhausting. So and sometimes you need a break. So it's like
I kind of travel between the both. And I think it also depends.
on the person that I'm with too.
If it's an ambivert, it's going to be very easy to say,
hey, do you feel like staying in?
Oh my God, thank God.
I'm glad you want to stay in tonight
because I really don't feel like going out.
Or like, hey, I really want to go out.
Okay, let's do it.
So I can find that fifth gear to be able to go out
if I have to, if it's something for my mate,
I want them to be happy.
And I'm, you know, I want to go out and do that fun stuff.
But sometimes, hey, if I want to stay in,
I'm hoping that reciprocation will be there as well too.
Because sometimes it's just kind of nice,
just the two of you,
or just if it's just the kids and the kids go down,
even a stay date inside the house,
like make something and have a glass of wine
and watch a show and just relax on the couch
and not do anything is nice for me as well too.
That's good.
Because we're at the holidays right now,
I think it'd be fun for you to ask a question about,
you know, you have traditions with the girls.
Tell a little bit about what your family holiday tradition
is, Thanksgiving or Christmas.
And then briefly, ladies,
if you would just kind of tell us
what your holiday tradition with your family is,
because you guys, you're not just, you don't,
if we made a love connection,
we're not just marrying a person,
we're marrying a whole ecosystem of family and traditions
and different things.
And it's fun to see what people have grown up with
and whether that's a match.
Okay, so why don't we start with you, Matthew,
and then you can ask the ladies.
Because this involves family,
I need to ask a very key question before we go into this.
Do any of you like board and card games?
Because that's a huge part of the holidays for my family.
I need to know, do you like boards and card games?
Can you deal with a little bit of competitiveness
from my siblings?
Are you talking like hand and foot?
What are you talking like card games?
Oh, my in-law.
No, no, I'm talking like things like Settlers of Catan
or things like different card games or like stuff like that.
Board games.
Go ahead, Bachelorette, one, two, and three.
One, go first.
Cards, board games, can you do it?
I do.
I consider myself a gamer, yes.
I like them all.
Okay, Bachelorette, two.
Absolutely, Catan is king.
Somebody said Catan, somebody like.
That game lasts for like 800 years.
What about Bachelorette number three?
It can go anywhere from 30 minutes to four hours, so.
Wait to 40 hours, go ahead, Bachelorette.
We are huge game players.
Every holiday, we play Pictionary, we play Uno,
we play Spoons, I mean, hardcore.
In fact, my second cousins are coming on Thanksgiving
and they literally texted me and said,
we cannot wait to beat you in Spoons.
So huge game players over here.
Spoons can become violent.
That's gonna be a violent game.
Quick follow-up question.
My family is very, extremely competitive,
especially my middle brother.
Are you willing to talk trash to them
if you are in the lead, just to rub it in a little bit?
For me?
Number one, number three, let's go number three.
Are you willing to talk trash?
Oh, yeah.
Trash talk, good.
Oh, I love, I'm competitive.
Okay, number two?
Absolutely, I'm Cajun and from Houston, Texas,
so I will talk all the trash.
And number one, Longshoreman, I.
I might disappoint you in the trash talk department.
No, Longshoreman, I didn't put that past you.
I mean, maybe, I don't know.
Do they have that on Duolingo?
I could learn.
Listen, Matt, I'm not gonna give you any hints,
but my team, we put together these bachelorettes for you.
I did see a picture of all of them,
and I don't want you to think about how feminine
or not feminine, in fact, I want you to ask that question,
because I know you're a man, a masculine man,
who's looking for a feminine wife,
and not like ladies, when you think feminine,
you can think a whole lot of different things,
but soft and gentle and kind,
but also a little feisty, a little trash talking,
sounds like, but just because people
have different professions,
I don't want you to get a picture in your head
of what you think they look like,
because you're gonna be wrong if you do that.
Okay, so ladies, would you describe yourself as feminine?
Would other people describe you as feminine?
What do you think is the most feminine thing about you?
Bachelorette one, two, and three, starting with one.
Yeah, I think I'm feminine.
My sister says I have dainty wrists.
That's the most feminine thing about me.
Yeah, I like flowers and hugs and all the pretty things.
I like things that smell good.
What else makes you feminine?
I think I am soft.
I think I am feisty though, as well.
A little bit of both.
I agree.
I know that, Bachelorette, and I agree with her.
Bachelorette number two, same question.
Definitely soft, definitely known for being just the lover of all things girly.
But I'm also a black belt in karate.
So it depends what what side you know, if I see somebody acting crazy, I might have
to go that direction.
But yes, very, very girly, very feminine.
I love to get dressed up.
But I also love sweats and leggings just the same.
So all right, that's what three same question.
Um, so I'm, I'm very feminine, and we will sassy, but I definitely trend toward feminine.
I was a ballet dancer in college.
And then a couple years after college, I actually started doing CrossFit.
And for probably a year, everyone in my gym made fun of me.
Because when I would drop weights, I would like point my toes and stretch my arms out
like a ballet dancer.
And so I just think that, you know, um, yeah, I'm probably pretty I'm a southern girl.
I'm very feminine.
Bless your heart.
I think so.
All right.
What do we got?
Now?
Now we're talking about the holidays.
So for ask something very specific, you asked about games, like ask favorite holiday movie
they're like, like, what's the favorite tradition of their family?
A tradition?
Yeah.
So you want me to tell mine first?
Yes.
So the girls always like when on Thanksgiving, we always start watching our first Christmas
movie.
Usually they like to watch the Grinch.
I like to watch Christmas Vacation, but they can't watch that.
Um, I've been watching that every Thanksgiving, probably for the past 25 years.
So um, but we love watching Christmas movies.
So one thing we like to do that we fell out of the habit of doing a recently, we try to
make cookies.
Um, we like doing cookies and then on Christmas Eve, they always like to open up one present
on Christmas Eve and then the rest of them are for the Christmas morning.
So I love those traditions.
Some of those are the similar to my family.
I love that.
Okay.
Bachelorette three.
We'll start backwards.
What are what just one?
Cause we were running out of time.
Y'all we have 10 more minutes.
Bachelorette number three.
What you got?
Okay.
So we have a Christmas movie, White Christmas.
Watch it every year.
We watch it in this old, like 1900 theater in downtown Birmingham, Alabama.
And then, um, we open a gift on Christmas Eve too, and it's all of our family.
We do matching Christmas pajamas.
Love it.
I love it.
Bachelorette number two.
Actually, White Christmas as well.
That's actually a tradition.
We always watch it on Christmas Eve and we always make, um, peppermint bark.
So while we're watching it, we make peppermint bark together and, um, we always, uh, make
sure that we actually go look at all of the lights.
We get hot chocolate.
We find all the hot light spots, uh, cause I live in Texas.
There's, it's always very hot.
So we act like it's cold.
We blast the AC and we go look at all the Christmas lights around town.
Earl peppermint bark.
You had me at peppermint.
Bachelorette number one.
When my family gets together for Christmas, it's probably about 30 of us.
So we do it every other year.
And then in the off year we have Christmas in February at a random, we just pick a spot
like a cabin and we get together, which February always ends up being everybody's favorite
cause it doesn't have the pressure of the holidays.
And we stay there for probably like three days.
Um, and we always still do Christmas though with matching jammies and the gift exchange
where everybody gets one.
We draw names and so you buy one gift.
White elephant.
Yes.
And not, not white elephant.
It actually like a nice gift for the person you draw names.
Okay, cool.
Yeah.
We draw names.
So you give one gift.
Um, and then also we have a prompt.
So it will be like, if my person was a color, they would be this color and this is why.
So then you get to stand up and like say something cute about them.
I think last Christmas we did a song.
So it was like, if my, I think say I had my dad, I'd be like, if my dad was a song, it
would be this.
And we play the song and then we tell why.
And then, then you give them the gift and it's always, Oh, that's so cute.
So it's a secret.
It's like secret Santa.
Yes.
So they, you, you don't, you reveal when you do the gift exchange who you, who you picked.
Oh, I love that.
We also in our family, we do, there's too many of us to buy a present for everybody.
So we pick names as well, but we don't do that.
And that sounds super fun.
So I may have to steal that.
Okay.
Um, we have time for one last question and then you're going to have to pick, I know
it's hard to pick, but remember you're going to get the contact information for all three
of them.
Um, so no harm, no foul.
Okay.
In this community, it's about meeting people.
It's about creating connection with people.
It's not just about trying to, you know, lock down the first person you meet.
So all three of these ladies are very compatible to you,
but it's fun to see the chemistry of this game.
And that will be the lady that you get to talk to first.
And maybe that will be the only one you talk to.
And so we're going to decide that here in just one second.
Final question.
Make it good.
Make it important.
Ladies, let's get an important one.
If I can get one that's super, super important here.
Oh, this has got to be a good one.
A lot of pressure, ladies.
I'm looking through because people have...
Somebody said your favorite cheese.
I think that's super important.
You know what's even more important is if they don't like cheese.
That's an absolute deal breaker.
Somebody says, what is your cowboy hat size?
Wow. Nice.
Oh, that is a good one.
That is such a good one.
Okay.
Can I have two?
Just two.
These are both going to be quick answers.
You can only have two if the Bachelorettes promise to answer within 20 seconds.
One is going to be one is very favorite worship song.
Oh, okay.
I like that question.
Whoever put that up there.
That's perfect.
All right. Let's do that real quick.
Bachelorette one, two, and three.
Starting with one favorite.
So hard to pick though.
Favorite worship song right now.
Currently, not all time.
This is kind of old, but I like how he loves us by John Mark McMillan.
Totally.
Oh, that is a very good one.
Do you guys know that that song really set modern worship?
You know, not being sung by him, but being sung by Kim Walker.
I mean, that changed everything.
You know that, right?
Okay.
Bachelorette number two.
You're up.
Um, definitely show me your face.
Oh, love that one.
Yeah.
Okay.
That's a good one.
Bachelorette three.
This is just on my mind because a friend of mine just sang this on The Voice,
but Oceans by Hillsong.
It's, I'm like, it's not, it may not be my all time favorite,
but it's one that I, I play on repeat often.
Yeah.
Oldie, but goodie.
Love it.
Okay.
Second question.
Okay.
Let's see.
Oh, you don't have it yet.
No, I'm, I'm just, this one's this, I want this one to be really good.
Look, look, listen, listen, listen, forget what they're putting in the chat.
Let me talk to you for a second.
I know that you probably, cause we all feel, you know,
drawn towards chemistry or voices or different things.
Ask something that is going to, you know, really bring it home for you.
Okay.
Got it.
Cause I was thinking this already.
So that actually helps me.
So.
Okay.
Um, gosh, it might be about being, being in the word, reading the Bible and prayer.
Um, please be honest.
How, how consistent are you in it?
How much do you do it?
And like, you know, and, and yeah, pretty much that.
Like what, what is, what is your prayer life like?
And what is a, like the time that you spend in the word daily or weekly?
Asking about your consecration practices daily kind of lifestyle, Christianity,
bachelorette.
We'll start with three and go back ladies.
We have five more minutes and he's got to pick someone.
So you gotta be quick with this.
Bachelorette three.
Okay.
I'll be quick.
So I do a devotional every day.
I do a clear charity devotional.
Love it.
Also do, um, prayer kind of separate.
Um, and then I of course go to church.
Um, and I actually go to church with my family still.
Um, and so, yeah.
Okay.
Bachelorette number two.
Um, for me, Jesus is everything.
He's always been everything to me.
And at 11, I prayed a strange prayer.
God, I don't want to know you because this is who my parents say you are.
I want to know you for myself.
And I've had a beautiful journey with the Lord my whole life.
Um, I love the word.
I love his presence.
I never want to know what it's like to be outside of his presence ever.
And so I really guard that very, very, um, closely and carefully and being a worship
leader to me, that's not just the job or the profession.
It is an honor and a privilege.
And it is something that if I don't live a worship lifestyle, I should not be, um,
leading anybody in worship.
And so it's very, very important to me in a big part of my life.
Okay.
That's wonderful.
I love that answer, but also answer the question of what, what's it look like daily for you?
What's your, do you read the Bible every day?
Do you pray?
What's it look like?
Yes, I read the word every single day.
I also do a lot of, um, audible.
So I'll have my time in the word and then.
I do a lot of audible teachings, like right now I'm listening to Danny Silk's Keep Your Love On.
So I'm always constantly like switching through different teachings. And then I do a lot of
worship just at home. And then I also help weekly at the church, we have something called dwell sets.
And it's just unscripted time where we minister to the Lord. And we're in the word and in prayer
and all that. And then I also lead worship. So yeah. Awesome. Thank you. Bachelorette number one.
I grew up in the church, and I've been to Bible school, I've read a lot of the Bible,
most of my life. At this point, I don't read it every day. I but I it is a part of me. So I think
about it every day. And I'm talking to God on like, I feel like constantly. Like, it's just a
part of my, my life and my thoughts are like connected to God. But it does go I go through
seasons of what that looks like for me. So sometimes I will get up and set a timer in the
morning and actually journal for like 15 minutes and listen to God or or read part of the Bible.
And I and I, or sometimes I end up meditating on the parts of the Bibles that come to my mind.
But, but again, sometimes I go through seasons where I'm actually reading it, which I feel like
I'm coming up into where I might just start read it again, start to finish, like, for old time's
sake. Yeah, so now I'm saying, yeah, when you spend lots and lots of years in consecration,
like even me as a minister for 28 years, you know, the Bible lives in me, because remember,
the word is alive. And so it lives in me. And I'm always thinking about it. I'm always talking
to the Lord. And so I understand what you're saying as well. So that's really great.
Matt, just really quickly, take a minute, get yourself together a little bit, kind of think
about what you're thinking about. And then you're going to tell us who you've decided to have that
first initial conversation with to get the contact information for as the person that, you know,
sticks out to you the most during this session. And then you're going to meet the other two ladies
first, and you're going to meet your choice last. We're going to have them turn their camera on.
They're going to greet you. They're going to tell you, you know, a little bit more about themselves
like, Hey, I'm so-and-so I'm this age, this is where I live. And, and then you're going to meet
the next one that you didn't pick tonight. And then you're going to make the one that you did
pick tonight last. All right. So anyone have a drum roll? That'd be fun.
Okay. Let's just do something really fun
before he chooses and Matt, don't look at this. Cause this cannot influence you,
but it's not, I've already made a choice. So I know. Okay. Who do you guys think that Matt had
the most kind of conversational chemistry with? If you were going to guess who you think he's
going to pick. Wow. Almost everyone is saying that. Okay. All right. Without further ado, Matt,
which bachelorette do you want to have that initial conversation with?
Oh, the, uh, the ladies are absolutely right. It's number three.
All right. Okay. That's what I thought too. Um, all once again, all of these ladies have
been curated. They all have amazing, uh, things in common with Matthew, um, bachelorette number
two, um, on come on camera, unmute yourself and introduce yourself to Matt fully.
And this is Bethany joy, Bethany joy. I wrote the names down. I know Bethany joy.
I'm wonderful. This was fun and different. Definitely was nervous the whole time.
So we know Bethany joy that you're 41 and you live in the Houston area, right? And you lead
worship and you're gorgeous. And, um, yeah, you're welcome. And, um, uh, yeah. So, um, it's,
it's great to have you here. We're so thankful that you came and, uh, and we have lots and lots
and lots of other eligible bachelors as well. And bachelorette number one, who I actually know
in real life, unmute yourself and. Hi Matt. I'm Darla. I'm Ms. Darla. How are you?
Good. I'm 44 years old and I live in Tacoma, Washington with my Corgi name bird.
And I also picked bachelorette number three. So I'm excited to see her.
All right. And then without further ado, bachelorette number three,
go ahead and come on camera. Introduce yourself.
Oh,
no, you're muted though. You're muted.
hey.
i'm Kelly i'm from Alabama a little town in Alabama and just outside of Birmingham I am 39 just recently 39 and yeah.
That is yay yay.
Alabama all right, make sure that we get y'all contact information look at me turn into a turn up green saying y'all.
we're going to get your contact information to each other, and we will go from there.
You guys Thank you so much for joining us for our spirit mate match event we're going to have a lot more of these probably in the new year every single week.
Lots of bachelors and bachelorettes not just one, at a time, but panels of people and all kinds of different fun things.
And so, if you want to participate in Community based matchmaking this is the place to be all right have an amazing thanksgiving we love you guys and we'll see you soon bye everyone.
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