All right, we are recording.
So welcome to our path three or I'm sorry, our phase three session for tonight.
We are going to do a little ugly Christmas sweater contest.
We didn't tell you that we were going to do that because we want to surprise you.
And so we're doing a little contest doesn't have to be a sweater.
It can be anything that is beautifully gaudy at this time of year.
You might have a llama sweatshirt on.
I'll show you that in a second.
So we're just going to take a little tour.
I'm looking through the windows here, kind of a small crowd tonight of just 95 of us.
And that's because a lot of people have a lot of stuff going on at this time of year.
And that is okay.
All right.
So if you think that your attire tonight is just hideous, and you think it could win this
contest, I think we'll do a couple different categories.
We'll have a couple of different prizes.
So let's do, you know, just terrible, the most terrible, gaudy, hideous, ugliest thing
we've ever seen.
Okay.
Ugly, ugly, traditionally ugly Christmas sweater.
That'll be our first category.
Okay.
And then we will do a cute, cute, whimsical, cutie kind of thing.
Let's do that.
And then maybe we'll do funniest.
Okay.
So ugliest, funniest, and cutest.
How about those three categories?
All right.
So raise your hand if you would like to enter the ugliest ensemble.
Andy, Michelle, and Pam want to enter the ugliest ensemble.
Okay.
And Sandy does.
And Katrina or Trina and Terry.
All right.
Is that it?
Is that everyone who wants to, because I'm going to, I'm going to spotlight each and
every one of these people.
So you guys can get an up close look and we're going to number them.
And then you're all going to vote.
You're going to vote 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, who has the ugliest outfit on or the ugliest sweater,
ugliest shirt.
Okay.
All right.
So that's it.
All right.
I'm going to give you three seconds for this closing it, it's closing, going once, going
twice.
All right.
Three times sold to these six people.
Keep your hand up.
Please do not put your hand down because I won't be able to find you then.
So we have Andy, Michelle, Pam, Sandy, Trina, and Terry.
All right.
So I am going to spotlight first and fore and be on camera y'all.
You can't say that you have a hideous sweater on if you're not on camera.
So I'm going to spotlight our first contestants, this contestant number one, all right.
And spotlight.
All right.
Andy, show us what you got.
Can we see it?
Show us, kind of show us what you got.
Tell us about it.
It's Argyle.
It's an Argyle sweater.
So when I got this sweater for my, the first time I had a ugly sweater party, I got this
like some secondhand store and I thought these looked kind of like snowflakes and I thought
that it was ugly, like in a literal sense.
And so I made this my ugly Christmas sweater that I always wear, ugly Christmas sweater.
All right.
Perfect.
All right.
Let's try on that one.
Okay.
So that is contestant number one.
Okay.
We have a, a blue and gray and white Argyle sweater that he thinks is perfectly hideous.
And then contestant number two is Michelle.
And here is her ugly Christmas sweater.
Give us a little tour there.
Oh, we got some dogs.
We got a dog or polar bear.
We got a penguin.
Yeah.
We got some bows.
Yes.
And lovely bows for a necklace.
Yes.
Bow necklace.
And in the back, it's not done, you know.
Oh my gosh.
It sort of just keeps on giving.
It gives it, it gives, it gives vibes coming and going.
All right, you guys, that, that is two.
That's contestant number two.
And that is great.
Thank you so much for participating, you guys.
You guys are what makes this fun.
Pam is next.
I'm going to spotlight her.
Pam, show us your ugly sweater.
Hideous sweater.
Oh, what do we have?
No men.
Oh, and some sort of, what is that?
Is that like a weird tree?
A squiggly?
Yeah.
It's just squiggly.
Squiggly.
In the back.
All right, Pam.
Thank you so much.
And you guys, that is number three.
All right.
We're going to number four.
Sandy, Sandy, show us your ugly sweater vest thingy, Bob.
Oh, it's a vest y'all it's given best vibes.
If I can stand up, it's, um, it's a cardigan.
It goes all, it goes all the way.
How long does it go to your knees?
Yes.
Oh, no, it goes to the knees.
You guys.
All right.
That is number four.
Sandy.
Thank you so much.
All right.
Now we're going to go to five.
This is Trina's ugly admission.
Oh, Oh, what is that?
That's like the abominable snow monster guy.
All right.
You're you're muted.
I think you're muted.
Yeah, sorry.
Yes.
That's a ugly abominable snowman.
It is.
Okay.
All right.
Yeah.
Does he have like sunglasses or something?
Yes.
Oh, yep.
That's it right there.
Right.
So that's Trina's you guys.
That's one, two, three, four, five.
That's five.
All right.
And then last but not least.
We have Terry.
Terry, show us what you got.
Oh, this is my sweater.
Oh, my goodness.
Oh, it's got cat.
You guys, it's got cats all over it.
It's got orange in the back and cats in the front.
Several cats.
It's the cat lady sweater.
Terry, do you like cats?
Do you have any cats?
I love cats.
I did not have any cats.
Okay.
Well, you have.
And I am a cat.
There you go.
All right, you guys.
You saw them.
There they are.
Hold on one sec.
I lost Terry.
I lost her.
She put her hand down there.
Let me go ahead and remove that spotlight.
Okay.
All right.
So you guys saw all the sweaters.
So we have Andy and the ugly Argyle.
We have Michelle who has a lot going on there.
It's kind of, it's given, it's given the vibes coming and going.
It's the bow necklace.
She had the bows around her, her.
Um, throat there.
We have Pam who had the, um, kind of remember and remember and remember and
remember snow was at the snow monster, Pam.
Oh, we have it right here.
Cheryl.
You're great.
Andy's the Argyle.
Michelle's the polar bear, penguin bows and bells with
the bows around the neck.
Pam is a snow man, family Christmas tree.
Sandy's a sparkle tinsel vest.
Uh, yes.
Trina is the snow Yeti abominable snowman and six Terry with the kittens.
Ornaments and bows.
All right, you guys, you can only vote for one.
Please only put up one number one through six.
What is the ugliest?
What do we got?
Cheryl, if you'll look and see, it looks like two got a lot of twos.
Got some fives going on there.
A few threes.
I think, I think the girls actually like your sweater, Andy.
I think that they like a guy in a preppy Argyle sweater.
So you hate it, but it looks like women like it.
Maybe you should wear that on a date.
Okay.
So Cheryl, what do you think?
I think it's, I think it's probably two.
That two looks like the clear winner.
Okay.
So Michelle, you're the winner of the ugliest, most hideous, most
offensive Christmas sweater.
That is awesome.
I hardly win anything.
So I'm glad I won ugly.
That's good.
It's fun.
You're beautiful.
Okay.
All right, you guys go ahead and put your hands down.
Go ahead and put your, I think I can actually put your hands
down faster than you can.
So I'll go ahead and do that.
Right.
Raise your hand.
If you want to just quickly jump into the funniest, you think you got
the funniest situation going on?
Just funny.
People are gonna look at it.
They're going to like, Oh, that's funny.
What do you got?
Put your hand up.
If you got a funny sweater on Marsha thinks she has something funny going on.
Karen, Sarah, it's like we might only have three going once if you're joining.
Oh, Janet jumped in.
Okay.
Who else?
Anybody else?
Funny.
Humorous.
Hi.
I have llamas.
Save the drama for your llama.
I have llamas on my sweater.
Okay.
So we have Marcia, Karen, Sarah, Janet, and Gina.
Want to be in the funniest one.
Going once, going twice, sold.
To these five ladies that are ready to be funny.
All right.
So I'm going to go ahead and show you.
All right.
Let's go.
Here's number one.
Show us your funny.
Oh,
She's got a Sandy hat.
She has a Sandy hat on.
What else you got?
Oh, it's just a big cat face.
And look at what it said.
It says very meow.
Cute.
All right.
Thank you, Marcia.
I love that.
Very funny.
All right.
Karen is number two.
Oh,
She's got some.
Snowflakes are kind of white points.
Oh, yeah.
You have a big Rudolph.
The red nose reindeer there.
Yep.
Little, little fur ball.
No little cotton ball nose.
All right.
Karen is number two.
Is on the back.
Oh, show us the back.
Gotta show us.
Oh,
Ugly sweater.
Oh,
That's not a lie.
We gotta make sure we let them know.
Being the ugly sweater.
If you have to be told it's an ugly sweater.
That's yeah.
That's not a lie.
Okay.
That's great.
So Karen is number two.
Everyone.
Take a look there.
Marsha's one.
Karen's too.
Sarah is going to be number three.
Spotlighting.
Here we come.
Look at that.
Oh, no.
I think.
Why didn't you get into the ugliest contest?
I wasn't on here yet.
I missed.
Oh, you weren't.
Okay.
Yeah.
So funniest.
It's a Santee dress.
Got Santa's all over.
There we go.
All right.
Thank you so much.
That was Sarah.
Sarah disappeared from my list, but there she is.
Okay.
And then, so she's three.
Marsha's one.
Karen's two.
Sarah's three.
And then Janet is going to be next.
I got it.
Oh, there's Sarah.
Let me go down and remove.
Okay.
Janet.
You're up.
Show us your funny.
Okay.
So there's this kind of a story behind it.
This is called the cool kids.
The cool kids.
Yeah.
My daughter made it and it's when my sister and all of us went on vacation
and my kids played with me like pickleball.
They did everything with me and I was always with them.
So they consider themselves the cool kids.
So we had a vacation and she had all these made up and we wore them where we went.
Okay.
And that's what the cool kids are made up of.
Okay.
We love the, you know, the Christmas movies and stuff.
We watch those together when they come.
So she put all the characters on there and to represent them.
That's cute.
What's the middle one.
What's the middle person.
On here.
We've got, oh, that's the.
Christmas vacation.
Okay.
I thought for some reason, I immediately thought it was Donald Trump.
I don't know why.
Some of you thought that too.
Okay.
All right.
I love it. Thank you so much.
All right. So you guys saw that is Janet and she is number four.
Thank you, Janet.
All right.
And then Gina.
Gina is five Gina show us your funny sweater.
Okay.
I'm going to show it to you.
But it's a little elf.
And I think it's funny looking.
It's funny, but it's also cute.
Yes.
It is cute. It's funny.
Thank you.
Funny.
All right. That's Gina. She's five.
I think I said five.
Cheryl's paying attention, not me. So I'm sure she'll do it for us.
Leah.
Okay.
I'm going to have to stand for this.
Okay.
This is a two part sweater. My cousin has the other half.
What is the.
Vomiting diarrhea and of a reindeer.
That was the ugly sweater.
Let me see.
Go again. Let me see. Let me see.
Can I see it? Okay.
Great.
I got the diarrhea and.
Reindeer head puking.
Oh, my God.
Oh, my gosh. You guys.
Oh, wow.
Yes. Thank you, Leah. That's great. Yes. Very funny. Very,
that very creative. I think that wins the most creative sweater
that I've ever seen before. All right. Thank you. So yes, good
job. Sarah already went and then Sally is jumped in here. So
we'll go ahead and Oh, hold on. Sorry, guys, I clicked off of
it. And now it's gone. Okay. I was in the wrong group.
Hold on a second. I'm trying to grab it again. Shoot. Hang on,
guys. I'm having a little technical difficulties here.
All right, there's Sally. Sally, tell us about your I wanted to
be in the cute group. Okay, well, cute snacks. So just hang
on one more time. One more minute. Don't Okay, she'll be
number one for the cute you guys. So we'll see her in just a
second. She'll be Sani with a boa around her neck in just a
second. All right, let's vote on this. Can you go ahead and put
the recap up there for us?
Hold on a second, you guys, I gotta make sure that everyone
gets on spotlighted. Okay. All right, we're back. Okay, so
funny. We got funny. We have Marcia very meowy. Karen
snowflakes Rudolph with the red nose. Santa Claus dress. The
cool kids is number four. Gina is the elf dress. And then Leah
is the diarrhea reindeer. All right, what do we got? Cheryl?
Who's the winner of this one? I'll see a lot of sixes.
The four and six but looks like sixes.
Okay, you guys, we're gonna have a tiebreaker between four and
six starting right now put up the number that you like best
funniest between four and six.
Gosh, it looks pretty even.
All right, they're both gonna win four and six for funniest.
Yay. Okay, so who are the I know Leah is one of those with with
it. Okay, and then Janet the cool kids. So four and six are
the winners of this one. And last but not least, you guys, we
can move on to our regular scheduled program tonight. We're
going to do the cutest the most endearing the sweetest. Okay,
so I'm going to lower everyone's hands if you think that and we
lower everyone's hands. Now if you think you have the cutest
most endearing sweetest little ensemble, let's see your hands.
Got to end this on a good note after you know, Rudolph had a
blowout.
Need to make sure we end this on a
on a not middle school. No here y'all diarrhea. Don't tell me
you don't think that word is funny because it is. You guys
ever play that game when you were a kid? I can't even
remember now but the punchline of it was always diarrhea. Guys
remember those little rhymes and diarrhea? Okay, it's just me.
Yeah, I came from a very, very depraved place. And so just so
y'all know,
vomit, it makes your mouth turn green. Comet. It makes you it
makes you vomit. So buy some comment and vomit today.
Yeah, that's those are those are the rhymes. Those are the rhymes.
The kids you guys the kids that were kids in the 80s. And you
know, and then, you know, maybe teenagers and 90 we didn't have
a lot of things to do. So we made stuff up. We made rhymes
up. And that's what we did. Okay, so you guys, it's a lot of
people. So we're gonna go ahead and end it there to Elizabeth
going once twice sold to these like looks like 10 people that
are going to be in this we're going to go really fast. Okay,
because we have other things to do tonight. So this is the
cutest. Keep that in mind. Number one, Lisa, tell us about
your all. She's got on a little no man vibe going. Bill Dickens
hat. And she's cute. A little scarf. I love it. So cute.
Number one, you guys little snowman. Okay. Regina is up with
number two. Regina, what do you got? Oh, I have dolphins. And
it makes bells. They're wearing antlers. Oh, dolphins with
antlers. So cute bells. It's a sound it's a sound sweater.
Alright, so that's for Gina.
Hey, you guys with the blue dolphin bell sweater.
And then we're going to spotlight.
Amber is next number three, but Amber, what do you got?
Okay.
I have, um, Mr.
Coca-Cola polar bear with the heart and some little trees and stuff.
My dad loved Coca-Cola and so it was just a good memory.
So a recent purchase.
Oh, I love that.
You guys, that is nostalgic right there.
The, the Coca-Cola polar bear.
Love it.
Very, very cute.
All right.
Vicki is next.
Oh, you got a jingle bell.
Cute.
Oh, and in your, oh yes.
Yellow V-neck with some reindeers and Santies and presents.
Very cute.
We're going to hear you coming, girlfriend.
All right.
Cute, cute.
All right, Sally.
Oh, Sally's coming over here yet.
Cause I told her to spotlight for everyone.
Okay.
I can change out my boas black or white.
And I, uh, hold on a second.
I got the wrong person spotlighted.
Hold on.
She's going to be next.
Crystal will be next, but Sally was talking.
All right, go ahead now, Sally.
So I have a white boa or a black one.
You can choose.
You got a little Santa romper on.
It's a romper.
Oh, look at, look at those cuffs.
You guys have to see those white cuffs at the bottom.
All right.
Okay.
So Sally's got the Santa romper on.
And then we have crystal next crystal.
Show us your cute got to believe sweater on.
Yeah.
I think this is supposed to be an ugly sweater.
I've had this thing on all day.
Cause we had a thing at school today.
So, but I think it's cute.
So it makes noise and it has Santa and a little reindeer.
Oh, what noise does it make?
It has bells on it.
So it has bells.
Cute present.
Yeah.
And it looks like the reindeer's nose is like shiny.
Like glittery, but I think everybody's acute.
Like I said, I have my teacher, mommy eyes on today.
So just tell me about your sweet picture, baby.
It's all cute.
Oh, it is cute.
All right.
So we got that.
We got the Santa and reindeer there with crystal, the bells on.
We have Brenda next.
Brenda show us your cute sweater.
So it's a, this has Santa just different.
That's really retro.
That's cute.
The kids would be at the thrift store, girlfriend, because that's
retro it's a retro sweater.
It's my mom.
She passed last November.
So it's mine now.
Yes.
It's very cute.
Very, very vintage.
Love it.
Okay.
So that was Brenda.
And then Shawnee is next.
What do we got for Shawnee?
Oh, she's looking pretty.
What do we got?
So this is his work from my closet.
I've got a candy cane dress.
Points.
Yeah.
Three.
And yes, cute little DIY costume there for Shawnee looking beautiful.
Love it.
Got it.
Okay.
And then how many more that we have?
Well, we have Cheryl.
Cheryl's going to be in this contest.
Make sure you're taking notes still girlfriend though.
I need you to take notes.
Cookie cookie sweater.
Oh, got gingerbread.
It's got the gingerbread man and woman on it and a candy cane.
We see you a present snowflakes and just says cookie on it.
Candy cookie inspector.
Oh, cookie inspector.
Okay.
Very cute.
I'm too short to cookie inspector.
That makes sense.
Cookie inspector.
Love it.
Very cute.
All right.
Elizabeth is next.
Elizabeth, what do we have?
Mine's more boring than cute.
Maybe, but feral.
Yeah.
Yes.
It's very cute.
Very vintage.
Love that too.
Got the little cherries, little Holly, little Holly berries on there.
Yeah.
That's great.
Love it.
Okay.
And then Vicki is back.
Um, hold on a second.
Uh, move spotlight.
Okay.
Vicki is back.
Vicki, what are you?
Oh, she's back.
She's like, I'm cute.
You didn't think I was funny, but I'm definitely cute.
All right.
Very cute.
We saw Vicki's so Vicki is, is, is next.
I don't know what number one, but Cheryl does.
And that's all that matters.
Um, and then Elizabeth, you already went, right?
The Holly, the berries, right?
Yes.
I already went.
Okay, great.
Wonderful.
Okay.
Let's see what we're voting on.
Let's get a little infographic up of that.
All right.
We have, um, and I'm not in the contest, but I want you guys to see how
cute my sweater is.
I'm not in the contest.
Okay.
Do not vote for me.
Um, but I want you guys to see how cute this is.
Look at these llamas.
Isn't that cute?
It said is, and y'all the tag still on the sweater.
Cause I ain't keeping it.
I wore it just for you and I will give it to someone else because I don't need it.
All right.
Okay.
It'll be a present.
It'll be a ugly Christmas spreader sweater present for someone.
Okay.
So we got the votes are coming.
We have Lisa, we have Regina.
We have Amber.
We have Vicky.
We have crystal.
We have Brenda, Shawnee, Cheryl, and Elizabeth.
And I see guys with stuff on that obviously don't want to play this
game for whatever reason, and that's fine.
I know you guys weren't expecting this game tonight.
All right.
What number is Shawnee?
Shawnee is number eight candy cane dress outfit.
All right, Cheryl.
I need you to pick the winner because I am getting ready for what's next.
I think it's Shawnee.
Oh, it's Shawnee.
Is it Shawnee?
Is it eight?
What's the, what are the two that are getting the most?
Okay.
It looks like maybe.
Yeah, it looks like maybe eight, five close second, but it looks like eight.
Okay.
All right.
So Shawnee won that.
So if you can just send me the winners of that Cheryl, and we will
get them an emailed gift card.
Merry Christmas, you guys.
Thank you for playing wonderful.
Wonderful time.
All right.
Now you guys, we are going to jump in to our shenanigans.
All right.
We have a lot of stuff to cover tonight.
We've got some ask Jackie questions that we want to get covered tonight.
Um, we can do a little bit of love seats tonight as well.
We have, it's already seven 30.
So we're going to go ahead and jump into this.
All right.
Uh, who has been, um, let me ask you a question who has been, if you haven't
seen the January calendar, I think it goes up tomorrow.
We have a lot of, um, we have a lot of stuff going on in January for phase three.
So for this group, we have a lot of stuff going on in January.
We're trying out some new things.
We're going to actually have a shuffle.
You guys, you're going to have to register for it, but it will be free.
If you're a student in the community, it will only be for
students and it will be free.
And so, but you have to register for it because that's the only way that we'll
know who's definitely coming.
Cause these things don't work.
If you say you're coming and then you don't come right.
And so it's really important because that throws the nut, throws the
nut, throws the nut, throws.
The number is where we assign you kind of different dates.
So the way we're going to do this online, and we're also going to do these in
the single cities in 2025 as well.
But for instance, um, if you register for the online one that we're going to
have in January, then you will, we will use, we will use our database that
you, you know, your profile that you filled out and we will find the people
that are compatible to you.
And if they've signed up as well, you know, kind of like the bachelor, the
show, you might have one, one-on-one.
You know, group, as far as breakout rooms, you might be one-on-one with
someone in a room and then it'll shift.
And then you'll be with two or three other people that we have
curated and for you to be with.
And then you might be with like 10 other people and there'll be
activities in all of these places.
When you get to that breakout room, the people in there, it won't be random.
It will be people that we've assigned to be with you in that room.
And you've been assigned to be with them, you know, and vice versa, then you'll
have like some things to do in there.
Okay.
With each other, some questions to be asked, some fun things to do,
and it will be really fun that way.
It's never really awkward because there's other people around, but
yet we know that all the people that end up together in those rooms are
compatible in one way, shape, or form.
All right.
So cool.
Fun.
Yes.
So we have stuff like that on the calendar.
Of course, we're gonna do lots of single spotlights.
You guys, I have so many quality men that are, you know, hit me up on my social
media, people that are getting referred from other people, so many guys coming
in right now in this season that I want to spotlight for those of you that are
why I don't spotlight women, because it doesn't make any sense.
Okay.
I'm a very, I'm a very efficient person and it makes more sense for me to
spotlight the men to all of the women and have you respond then for
me to spotlight the women.
But do I spotlight women?
Yes.
I have been spotlighting you ladies that said yes to spotlights.
I have been spotlighting you within the men's groups.
And we do have some people now that are.
or talking to others based on those spotlights.
And so if that hasn't happened for you yet
and you have said yes to being spotlighted,
just hang tight
because we are putting out spotlights every week, okay?
Tameka, there is a post in the phase three Facebook group
and it's tagged to the featured section.
And it just, it basically is like a permission slip
to be spotlighted.
So you can find it in the featured section of the Facebook
for the women, the women's Facebook page.
All right, you guys ready?
How did we, how did we say yes?
How did you miss the announcement?
You guys, you have to look,
you have to make sure
that you're checking the announcements.
On the app, there's just,
there's a little button that's called announcements.
You wanna definitely click that
and look at all the announcements.
Those are all things that us as coaches and admins
have tagged for you to see.
And then on Facebook and your Facebook page,
and you guys know you're the only phase that has that.
You're the only phase that has a group on the app
and you also have a group on Facebook, a private group.
So on the Facebook, you wanna go to the little toolbar,
go to featured, click on that
because that is how you're going to be able to get
to our announcements there, okay?
I'm just gonna give you a little visual
because I know people are visual learners
and so I'm just gonna give you a little visual.
Okay, gentlemen, yours looks the exact same as this.
So this is the ladies' Facebook page, all right?
And there's a little toolbar there.
It says chats, featured, and then more.
And if you hit more, there's a bunch more stuff.
But featured is what you want.
So if I hit featured, it's gonna show you all of the posts
that we've pinned,
including about tonight's ugly sweater party.
So all the things that we've pinned,
all the announcements that we have.
And so if you scroll down about,
I don't, I don't, I don't, I don't,
you're gonna find that announcement about single spotlights.
It has a picture of me, little old me, Jackie D,
as if I'm a spotlight.
And then it says exactly what we need from you
and you're gonna post that in the comments.
Guys, you have one that looks just like that as well.
All right, and then of course on the app,
I'm gonna show you there too.
So you see at the top of the app, there's community,
there's announcements, there's courses, there's replays,
there's events, and there's resources.
Click the announcements and you're gonna see everything
that's been pinned.
Guys, check those announcements on the app
and featured on Facebook every day
to see what we're saying to you, okay?
It's really important that you keep up with that
because otherwise you're gonna show up
two months from now and be like,
hey man, how did I miss out on that?
That's how you missed out on it, okay?
So make sure that you're keeping up
with all of the different things that we're offering you.
Sound cool?
You guys, Ask Jackie has not been something
that has been happening regularly because of the app.
I wasn't able to go live in the app.
That feature just became available.
And so because of that, we haven't been doing Ask Jackie.
And so we're gonna start doing it again
now that the live feature is back, praise God.
And not back, but now that it exists,
we're gonna be doing it again.
And so if you put a question in Ask Jackie
and it never got answered, you can do it again.
And guess what?
It's only gonna be for the men's group and phase three ladies.
Okay, that is what it's gonna be for going forward.
So when people get to phase three as women,
they'll be able to participate in that, all right?
So I have really old questions
in the Ask Jackie app right now.
Some of them back from October.
So go ahead and put your questions up.
Little Ask Jackie questions.
It's different from love seats
because it's an actual question.
You're not gonna get in a love seat.
We're not gonna have a conversation about it.
For those of you that are commenting right now,
how do we register?
It's gonna be on the January calendar.
All the information for January will be on the calendar,
including how to register for the shuffle.
And so be looking for the calendar.
Guess where it's gonna be?
Somebody guess.
Where's the calendar gonna be when it gets posted?
Obviously the links and everything
always end up in your events in the app.
That's where you're gonna find the things
that are happening today and the links to get to them.
But the actual physical calendar
just kind of tells you about what's gonna happen
in the month of January.
Where do you guys think that's gonna be?
It's gonna be tagged in the featured section.
Yes, we're gonna take every individual event
and put it in the events.
But if you wanna look at it all together in one place,
you're gonna look for the actual infographic about that.
You're gonna look for that in the featured section
of your Facebook page or the-
announcement section of your app, OK?
Please guys, it never changes.
That's what it always is, and so let's
make sure that we're doing that.
And this is what a calendar looks
like when it's an infographic.
You guys see it?
Yeah, we do obviously take each of these things
and put them in the events with the link,
but you can look at it in a linear way, all in one place.
OK, and that's tagged in the featured section
of your Facebook page, and also in the announcement section
of your app tomorrow, because it's not January yet.
Cool?
Any other questions about that?
All right, you guys, holiday time
is a really important time to be out there single and mingle.
Single and mingle during this time.
People are more open than they have been
all year to meeting someone.
And so we want to make sure that we are not wasting this time
together tonight, because this is where you have
to be reminded that people that are not on apps all year long
are on them right now.
I know you hate apps, but go ahead and turn on your profile
again on that app, because there are people there that
have not been there all year.
You're like, Jackie, how do you know?
Because this is what I do.
This is what I do.
If you haven't noticed, this is what I do.
And so I'm going to tell you they are there.
I can't tell you how many people meet people
at this time of year on apps where it's like,
where have you been all my life?
Well, they weren't on the app, but now they are.
People are really, really willing, more willing
than ever to do things that people have been
telling them to do all year.
They're like, hey, you know what?
You should get on an app.
They're like, no, no, no.
And then at this time of the year,
you're like, oh, what the heck?
I'm going to try it.
What am I going to do?
I'm going to try it.
So people are places.
They're out.
They're about.
They're going to parties.
People that consider themselves not really social butterflies.
They haven't been going to anything all year.
They do not want to go through another year, 2025, alone.
And so they are going to be motivated.
Please listen.
From now until about April, there's
going to be high motivation, high, high, high motivation,
just like the gyms.
The gyms are going to be full until about March-ish.
And then people are going to be like, who likes me fat?
Anyone?
Who likes me fluffy?
I'm just going to stay this way.
Anybody?
Because this is hard, and I don't want to do it.
So that is what's going to happen.
People are going to be super motivated.
But I want to tell you this.
There is no new year magic.
Nothing in your life is going to change unless you do.
And you have been here, and you've been doing the work,
and you've been doing the heart work and the inner work,
and you're ready.
You're not perfect.
No, but you're ready.
And guess what?
These new opportunities with other people,
OK, I'm not going to go all the way to calling them
relationships, because not all of them
are going to be relationships.
But these new opportunities to get to know other people
are going to show you where you still need to work.
It's going to show you what you still need to work on.
I keep getting freaked out by my sweater,
because these llamas have scarves on,
and they keep tickling me, little scarves,
little llama scarves, OK?
It's a scary sweater, because I keep
thinking there's a scorpion on me, but there isn't.
It's just a little llama scarf.
So you guys, the stuff that the areas where you're not
fully healed, and we all have them,
you're going to notice them.
But you're going to know what tools to use.
And you're going to be able to come here and jump into an Ask
Jackie or Love Seed or just post in your group.
You guys, there's dating coaches that are looking at your posts.
And so if you post, we're going to give you feedback.
We have an amazing team.
We have an amazing team of people
that teach what I believe and what I coach to you better
than I can, because all of them are former students,
former success stories of ours.
All of them are coaches in their own right, peer coaches.
Some of them are therapists.
They are counselors in their other life, not in here,
but in their other life.
And they have a lot of things to share with you
to help you to keep moving forward
in these new opportunities, OK?
And you guys, I really want to hit this home.
The full circle word that I have been releasing over you,
it's happening, you guys.
People are having full circle moments.
People that they met, get this.
Here's just a few.
There have been several people that come to me and have said,
I met someone years ago.
Someone introduced me to them.
Um, it was like, nah, and nothing ever happened.
They didn't call.
Um, you know, there was no, there was no follow through.
We never even went on a date for some of these stories.
We never even went on a date.
And then all of a sudden, boom, here they are back, back around.
I ran into them again.
I was like, oh, wow.
Okay.
I remember you.
You're and now they're in a relationship.
This is happening.
It's happened at least three times since that full circle word has been released.
Is that not incredible now?
So let's talk about some criteria real quickly.
Um, if someone shows up from your past, should you give it a shot?
What's the criteria for that?
If it was a toxic relationship that you were in and they circle back around
at this time of year, that's a no.
Okay.
It wasn't a good one for whatever reason.
And you got out of it.
Don't get back in it.
That doesn't make any sense.
Okay.
The only exception to that is there has to have been an exceptionally huge change
in whoever was the problem here.
And both of you probably were the problem.
You guys were probably poking each other's orphan.
Okay.
Some of y'all were just poking each other because he was having
sex and you shouldn't have been.
So don't get back into that relationship.
All right.
To poke people.
And I think you can still do it, but it always seemed overtly sexual to me.
It's like, why are you poking me?
What are we, what's happening here?
Okay.
So don't go back into something that you got out of, right?
You dodged that bullet.
Don't get, don't get back in front of it.
Now, if it was something that just never got off the ground, you were in a
different place in your heart, geographically, um, you know, it never
really got, you know, going off the runway to take off.
That's a possibility.
And if it was just a thought or idea and it never even made it to the runway,
like it was just like, someone was like, Hey, you need to meet my, my cousin, Greg.
Okay.
By the way, I'm going to spotlight a Greg.
I'm going to spotlight a Greg.
He used to be in this community and now he's back.
It's a full circle moment and he is ready to find his wife.
And so I'm going to be spotlighting him this week.
I spotlighting a bunch of our guys this week.
So please be paying attention.
I want to let you in on a little secret.
I do spotlight people on my social media publicly, but I do not give
the public first dibs on those people.
You guys get first dibs on those people.
All right.
If I can't find a suitable match for them within our community, that's
when I will entertain ideas of safe and healthy people, uh, that
are outside of our community.
But you guys always get first dibs.
So don't jump on Instagram and be like, Hey, I want this or that.
I will post that same person in our private group.
Okay.
And that is where you want to comment because then I know you're a
student and then, then you get first dibs.
I know I make it sound like the last donut on the plate, but dibs,
someone's got to call dibs.
All right.
And so that will be there.
Also don't get stressed out if you're not like the criteria of what we're
looking for for that match, because there's more where that came from.
You guys get rid of the ideas of scarcity.
If you're going to get rid of anything, that's ruining your, not just your
love life, but your life, it is scarcity.
I want to tell you something.
Nothing that you need has left the earth.
All right.
It's still available to you.
It's all still here.
Cycling, cycling, cycling.
And so you don't have to worry that if someone else gets that donut, that
there's not going to be another donut because I promise you there's
going to be another donut, right?
There is supply and demand does not resonate in the kingdom.
It doesn't it.
There's always an endless supply, but we have to believe that.
It's about what we believe.
It's not about what God can do.
It's about what we believe.
Okay.
Um, someone saying my ex texted me last week and I closed the door.
Good for you.
You guys do not give into the, you know, nostalgia of this season.
Don't look at it through rose colored glasses.
Look at it through reality.
You know what that relationship was like.
And if you're thankful that you were able to get out of it, don't get back into it.
Right.
Full circle.
Anyone else having any full circle moments, bad or good in the way of,
you know, people circling back around things happening, opportunities
coming around anything.
Gina wants a donut with chocolate icing and a little candy sprinkles.
All right.
You know, Gina, we're just like, you want a chocolate man?
Cause that's what you're saying right there.
And that's fine.
Cause we have some great guys that I'm going to guess.
I'm so excited that, you know how many people message me and say, is this group just for
white people?
Because of the success stories that I put on my Instagram and I'm like, no, I promise
it's not, but I have to attract more diversity.
Right.
And I'm just really excited that we've had people coming in from every nation in the
world.
We've, I mean, they all live, most of them in America, but you know, originally from
every nation, we have people coming from India.
We have all kinds of different, you know, people coming from Asian countries originally
their families coming from those countries South Africa, Africa, different age, different
specifically.
The person said, do you have any Nigerians?
And yes, I just had a Nigerian success story just the other day.
Yes.
Columbia for sure.
Definitely Mexico.
We've had several success stories from Mexico, several Canadian.
I know mostly, you know, not all Canadians are really white people.
I know it's cold there, but we've had Hispanic Canadian success stories.
It had you know, people of color success stories from Canada, specifically West Africa in South
Africa.
And I'm trying to think of what else, what other things do we have?
We have people coming in from Tanzania.
We have people coming in from New Zealand.
We have people coming in from Ireland excited Singapore trying to think there's one that
I saw the other day, Switzerland.
So that's exciting to me.
Hopefully that's exciting to who would be open to an international love story.
Like seriously, like you would have to move to a different country in order for it to
be raise your avatar hand.
Cause I can't see all the windows who would be open to that?
Get those hands up.
Cause I feel like you're declaring this right now.
You're releasing this into the atmosphere.
When you're raising your hand, you're like almost volunteering for something right now.
Just in case you didn't know you're, you're saying, okay, God, you're saying it in front
of all of us.
We're witnesses.
You're saying, I'll do it.
I'll go.
Okay.
All right.
Beautiful.
Wonderful.
Virgina is being honest.
She said, I'll be open to them moving to me.
Okay.
This is important.
Be honest.
Okay.
All right.
So raise your hand.
If you, you just, the non-negotiable is you can't relocate.
You're not going to relocate.
It's a non-negotiable.
You know, you're not going to do it.
You know that your love story has to come to where you are already be where you are
because of whatever reason you have taken it up with God.
And you believe that it's a non-negotiable because you have shared custody possibly.
Maybe you're the only child taking care of an aging parent or sibling.
You just got situations that right now in this season, maybe different season and be
different story.
But in this season, you can't, okay.
So that's not too many.
Raise your hand.
If you are open to an inter racial relationship, it doesn't matter what races could be anything.
Okay.
I said, I already asked for international.
Now I'm asking for interracial inter ethnic.
Look at all those hands.
You guys look at all those hands.
Look at all those hands.
I really feel like Holy spirit's on this.
So we're going to keep rolling with this because once again, I feel like you're declaring something
When you raise your hand to these questions, I lower those hands, raise your hand ladies.
If you are open to just the ladies, I just want the ladies for this one.
Okay.
If you are open to a younger man, raise your hand.
If you're open to a younger man, younger, younger, younger, younger, younger.
All right.
Now I'm going to, now I'm going to really mess you up.
Raise your hand.
If you're open to a man who's 10 years younger, not that's not in the same decade of life
as you, not in the same decade.
If you're in your thirties, he's in his twenties.
If you're in your forties, he's in the forties, he's in the forties, he's in the forties.
He's in his teens.
He's in his forties.
Let's see those hands.
Not as many.
You're like younger, but not that much younger.
Okay.
All right.
And I noticed that a lot of the older ladies, the ladies that are old enough to know better,
they're like 45 and up.
They're the ones that are like, yeah, I'll take 10 years younger.
Okay.
All right.
Raise your hand gentlemen.
If you are willing to date an older woman, not 10 years older, but just older, okay.
She's older than you.
She could be six months older.
She could be, you know, six years older, but she's older than you raise your hand.
Our two, two of our youngest guys said yes to that.
All right.
She's older than you for four guys said yes.
Right.
Raise your hand man or woman.
If you're still trying to have a biological child, not, not through blended family, not
through adoption, not through fostering from your own body, ladies, gentlemen, from your
own body child, raise your hand.
If you're still trying to do that, that's still part of the plan.
Raise them up.
You guys, I got a cute guy.
I got a cute guy right now, um, that I just got that is in the Nashville area, but he's
only 31.
He's just a little nugget.
Okay.
So, um, if we have any girls that are in their late twenties, early thirties, you know, go
ahead and instant message me right now so I can see you.
So then I'll come looking for you, but I'm going to spotlight him.
So look at all those hands.
You guys look at all those hands of people that are like, yep.
So trying to have a, trying to push a baby out, at least one want to do it.
Okay.
All right.
If you are over the age of 35, which the doctors consider advanced maternal age, which is so
ridiculous.
Okay.
Women can have babies into menopause.
So into their fifties, um, I have met people that have had babies that at that age, and
God promised us that this movement would be marked by women having, um, babies late in
life.
Okay.
So we know that we're going to have lots of success stories like that, and we already do.
Um, but I want to know if you are over 40 years old and you are, and you're still believing
to have a biological child from your own body as a lady, women only let's see your hands
40 and up.
Okay.
We're believing with you and we know you can, it's not, the thing is, it's not, it's not
even like, we don't even really need God to get involved because it's not impossible thing.
It's a very possible thing.
And it happens all the time.
Okay.
So, um, but there's just a lot of weird press out there around, you know, women not being
able to have children after the age of 40, which to 40, which to 40, which to 40, which
is okay.
Um, especially with modern, you know, help and aids of just, you know, some bioidentical
progesterone and just some different things that body along.
Okay.
And so gentlemen, if you are over 40 and you also are believing to have a child from your
body, um, I mean, obviously you're not going to give birth to a child, but you're going
to have a wife that you and her together have a biological child.
Um, raise your hand.
I know we don't have as many men here tonight, though it might not be a lot of hands.
Okay.
Over 40 still want a baby.
All right.
Three.
All right.
Thanks guys.
Appreciate that.
Cause I want you to get to know each other.
It's really important that, you know, the people that you're here in this community
with and that so many of you are desiring the same things.
And do you guys know, I know I say this all the time, but it's important that I tell you
again, we have engagement announcements and marriage announcements and baby announcements
practically every week in this community for people that have are in this community
graduated from this community, people that have had sex because of sex, they've had sex
because of this community, but they've always, they've also had success.
It's a word that I really wanted to say, um, because of this community, they had sex and
they had success because of this community.
Yes, that's right.
Um, that's right.
Okay.
All right.
That's all good stuff.
Okay.
All right.
Um, we have, it's eight o'clock, so we have at least 15 more minutes.
I want to jump into some ask Jackie questions.
These are really old.
If you guys want me to answer them, I will, but I, I'm more, I'm more inclined to just
kind of blank these out and let you guys start putting new ones in now that we're going to
be.
asked Jackie again for just phase three and just the men's group at the beginning of the year.
Rachel said that I'm a riot, but I promise you, I saw it out of the corner of my mind,
out of the corner of my eye. And I thought it said, you're an idiot, Jackie. And I was like, well,
sometimes it takes a lot to offend me. You guys just so you know, it's a good thing to
have a soft heart, but I have thick skin. All right. We're going to start new. Yes, Ruth. I
agree. You're going to start new, start new, start new, start new. I want to address something
every once in a while. It doesn't happen that often, but every once in a while, we have a guy
and a girl in this community that the guy or the girl ended up in this community because of the
other one, they were dating, they knew each other and they were like, Hey, this is a cool community.
You need to join it. And then they joined it and then they broke up. And so we have two people in
the community that used to be in a, you know, some level of relationship that now are here
together in this community, but they're not together anymore. And I just want to let you
know, every time that that's ever happened they have been able to wish each other well,
realize that, Hey, we weren't the match for each other. And they have both gone on to
have success in every instance that we had that happen that for one. And in that instance, those
two people got back together and got married. So there you have it. So I'm just telling you
this community is big enough for everyone, right? And if you find out that you're not
compatible to someone or the, your levels of healing, here's the thing, they don't have to
be a bad person. I'm not just talking about, you know, two people in this community together,
but just in general, the person that you decide not to continue in relationship with for whatever
reason, it doesn't mean that they're a terrible person or they're abusive or toxic. You don't
have to put that label on it because it's probably not true. Do you guys know that only 0.05% of the
population actually has narcissistic personality disorder. So that means that your ex that you
thought was a narcissist and you told everyone was a narcissist probably wasn't because the odds are
just not in your favor. That's a very, very, very small, small, small amount of people because
narcissism is a mental disorder. It's a mental illness. It's a personality disorder that's
categorized in the DSM-5 as a mental illness. And so you just didn't probably date a narcissist.
You dated someone who was emotionally underdeveloped, someone who was stuck,
someone who needs some heart healing. Okay. That's a sidebar, but the people that you decide not to
go forward with into deeper relationship, it could just be a timing issue. It could just mean that
you guys are, you're poking each other's wounds. You both have unhealed wounds that are antagonistic
to each other's unhealed wounds. Okay. One person's being controlled and the other person's
afraid of being abandoned. This person's afraid of being controlled as kind of moving a whole
relationship. They're backing up. If a person sees them backing up, they're like, no, no,
don't go. Don't go. No, it would have been funnier if I had like a sock puppet on or something,
but you see how this doesn't work when you have that, right? We call that the anxious avoidant
pairing. And that's probably the worst one, honestly, because one person is just the more
this person does what they do, the more this person is going to just keep moving away further
and further, which is going to antagonize this person and bring out their worst self,
not their best self. How do I feel pressured? How do I not feel pressured when I am not ready
after five months to say, I love you. Oh, you guys, this just happened to another couple of
months. She said, I love you. They've been together for five months. And it's not you,
whoever this person is. It's not you. So this, I want you to know this happening for other people.
Guys, this llama sweater is itchy and it's hot. Okay. So, um, is it wrong to give someone else
a sweater that you've sweated in? That's the dilemma of this sweater. Okay. So she said,
I love you, not this person, but this other couple that I'm talking about. And he didn't say it back.
What do you do? Right? Well, you guys, for some people, I love you means something
different for everyone as far as saying it in relationship. Okay. For some people,
it's kind of like a promise of, Hey, we're going to be together. Like I feel for you,
the deepest level of emotion and affection that I can feel for someone.
So for some people, that's like super serious. It isn't just like, I love pizza. You know,
I love king of Queens. I love, no, it's like, I am making a commitment to you with my words.
And so if you're seeing someone that has that kind of idea about, I love you, it's not just.
term of endearment. It's a promise. They're not going to say it very lightly and they're
definitely not going to say it until they're ready.
And if you're the person that's not ready to say, I love you and someone that you're
in relationship that you definitely care for, maybe even deeply says, I love you and you
just do not feel like you can say it back. I think that it's important for you in that
moment to say to them, thank you so much. You know, can you, can you tell me what you
mean by that?
Because if they can tell you what they mean by that, like, you know, I just, um, you know,
I, I feel really deep affection for you. Like if they can, they can explain what, why they're
saying that right now and what they mean by that. You might be able to meet them there
and say, yeah, I feel the exact same way.
You know, I will tell you my middle daughter, who's now married to her husband. They've
been married for almost five years. They have twin, my twin grand babies that are two and
a half years old. She got married at 25 years old. Okay. They had been dating for three
years, the younger couple, but they said, I love you probably about a year into their
dating courtship relationship. And she came to me and she said, mom, I, you know, I do
love him, but I don't, don't feel comfortable. You know, he said it to me and I said it back,
she said, but I know we're both in school and we're, we're not going to be getting engaged
or married anytime soon.
And she goes, and I just want to kind of save that for later. She's got, I want this
to become like a, I love you. Love you. She just didn't want that. And so she had a conversation
with him and I thought this was super mature of her. And she was like, Hey, you know, I,
you know, we deeply care for each other, but I think that we can kind of put a pause on
saying I love you until later on in our relationship, maybe till after we're engaged guys, it is
okay to let someone that you care about, that you're getting deeper and deeper into relationship
to let them know that, you know, it's, these are setting boundaries. These are the boundaries
that you have around certain things. Okay. Certain, certain expressions of physical love
of verbal love. It's okay. Now, if they think that's completely unromantic and you're taking
all the spontaneity, spontaneity out of relationship and it's offensive to them, then that might
actually not be the right person for you long-term. Okay. Because if you're expressing
to them that it may, that it may, that it may, that it makes you be expressing, I love
you five months in, then it might be a situation where, you know, and if they don't, if they
are not like, Oh, that's fine. You know? Okay. Let's, let's, let's make a plan here. Okay.
Let me read, read this question. I have told him I'm not ready. So he has stopped saying
it, but it's still kind of the pink elephant in the middle of the room. Thank you. You
know, there's ways to show someone that you love them. iPhone. I don't know who you are.
There's some way there's ways to show people how much you care for them without saying
I love you. Okay. But I want to say this. If you have a block to, I love you because
people have said it in the past and they didn't mean it and they broke your heart and they
basically were using, I love you to try to, you know, build an emotional connection with
you so they could get what they wanted from you, whether that was time, money, sex, whatever,
then you got to get healed of that. How many raise your hand and be honest. How many people
feel like in the past you were manipulated by, and you, you know, allowed the relationship
to progress to areas that, you know, you really wouldn't have by the words. I love you or
simple words, similar conversations caused you to feel like this was a commitment. It
was a forever situation. You put your guard down, you allowed this person in further.
It turned out to be not a healthy situation. And it turned out that they were trying to
build emotional rapport with you in order to get something else that they wanted. Look
at all those hands, you guys. And I'm pretty sure they're all female ends. Yep. All right.
So iPhone, I don't know if you're a man or a woman, but if you're a woman, it's possible
that this is your situation. It's possible that you're just not ready for that because
it feels manipulative to you at this stage of the game position like that as be honest,
Hey, I ran, I rushed into this level of relationship in the past and it didn't go well. So can
we just still, can we just enjoy getting to know each other? Can we just enjoy falling
in love with each other and having to, you know, put these kinds of this language and
these labels on it makes sense to everyone. Everyone understand that's a really good question.
Thank you for asking it.
I finger toucans.
Rachel, you remember, I do have those.
Okay.
Leslie's saying she has an anxious avoiding pairing
and you guys can work out.
Anxious avoid, anxious avoid, anxious avoid,
anxious avoid, made about their fears
and communicate about what's behind their behaviors.
They can make it, they really can.
But you have to do the hard work in order to do that.
How do you tell men you're angry
when they ask for your phone number on an app
after five minutes?
Okay, well, it is a dating app.
Okay, so unless they're a scammer
that's trying to get you to go on WhatsApp,
if they want your actual phone number,
I mean, they saw your picture,
they're talking to you, they like you,
they wanna talk, possibly go on a date,
they don't wanna stay on the app.
And this is especially true of older folks, okay,
that just don't wanna do the,
they don't wanna be on the dating apps at all,
and they don't understand how to use the dating apps.
So you have to be able to discern the difference.
Is this someone who's really motivated
to get to know you and go on a date
and just wants to do it the old fashioned way?
They wanna talk to you on the phone,
they wanna get off this stinking app.
That's cool, that's great.
You shouldn't be angry about that.
They're motivated, they wanna go forward.
It's not a talking app, it's a dating app.
But if they're doing it for some nefarious purpose,
you have to be able to discern that too.
Oh, this person wants my phone number,
this person's up to no good.
This is what you have to be able to discern.
A lot of people will use a Google phone number.
So if someone asks for their phone number,
they'll get it, right?
But it's just a number
that's not your personal cell phone number.
You don't even have to tell them that
so that you can really vet the person out
and see what they're up to.
If you guys need information
on how to create a Google number,
we can do that for you as well.
Lots of people laughing here.
Let's see.
Kat Leslie said, you can always block them.
Just bless them and block them.
You can't block people from your phone,
not just from your social media.
You can't, you can't do that.
You'll condort.
Okay, Febreze it.
Someone needs to, oh, Febreze my sweater.
I'm like, what the heck are we talking about right now?
Just wash it and then give it, oh yeah.
I'll leave the tag on it.
Te Amo, he didn't completely ignore
that she said it though, did he?
You guys, I don't know what we're talking about.
I gotta get caught up here.
Oh, he didn't completely ignore
that she said it though, did he?
You're talking about my scenario.
Okay, so let me think for a second.
Yes, he did ignore it.
In this scenario that I'm talking about,
not these folks, but this other couple,
she said it and he kind of just like played it off.
He did.
Yes, that is what he did.
And you guys, that's not a good thing to do.
It isn't.
We're talking about I love you again,
just in case you're lost.
I was lost for a minute.
I stopped saying I love you to my European colleagues
at work because they thought I was in love with them.
When I was trying to say, oh my God, you're the best.
Love you, but not like I'm in love with you.
Yeah, some people take it super seriously.
You cannot tell people you love them, right?
I have accidentally done that on business calls
because I'm so used to telling people I love them.
My kids, my husband, like just, you know,
people at church love you, you know, and stuff.
Getting off the phone of a business call,
someone I don't know at all.
Okay, yes.
Okay, thank you.
Talk to you later.
Love you.
It's the equivalent of that friends episode
where Rachel kisses the guy from Ralph Lauren
because she thinks that as it's a job interview
and he's opening the door,
kind of leaning out to like let her leave.
And he leans forward because he opens the door
and then she kisses him on the cheek
because he didn't know it was a job interview
and she kissed him on the cheek.
Yeah, it's the equivalent of that.
When you tell someone on a business call that you love them,
you're like, what have I done?
What have I done?
All right.
I've been off dating apps for over a year now
because I hadn't felt,
I hadn't been getting any replies to my first messages
despite having a good profile and wasting my money.
So I switched over to matchmaking only
because it made me angry all the time
and it wasn't healthy,
but not saying, well, you know, Andy,
one of the things that we do for you
and guys, we're gonna be doing this in the new year over,
you guys, oh, on the January calendar, you guys,
we have a session called New Year Makeover.
I wanna tell you what that is.
That is making over how you present yourself to the world.
So Andy's saying, oh, my profile,
like what were you saying in those initial comments?
There's a lot of you in here
that are pretty neuro-spicy, okay?
You're pretty neuro-spicy,
meaning that, you know,
you kind of dance to the beat of your own drum.
And I just want you to know,
there are people.
for all of you. I know that I seem pretty normal, but I'm not. Okay. And it takes a
very special man to be married to me. Now there's a lot of men in my lifetime that wanted
to be with me because they thought I was pretty on the outside and you know, but they didn't
know what was underneath the skin here. And it's a lot of crazy. Okay. Um, because I have
pretty bad ADHD. I mean, I think you can see it even here while I'm doing this and a lot
of stuff going on. There's someone for everyone for sure. But how are we going to present
ourselves to the world? Okay. I just told a client the other day, they were trying so
hard to say all the right things to this person that they're kind of dating. And I said, be
yourself walking on eggshells and trying to pick all your words. So carefully, you guys,
that's kind of a harbinger of anxious attachment where you think that you can screw it up.
If you do one wrong thing, you got to be yourself. They're eventually going to know who you are.
They don't, but there's some things that we do that we think are being ourself, but they're
actually pretty unhealthy. And so I'm going to unpack that stuff. We're going to do a
little makeover, a little inner makeover, a little outer makeover. Okay. It's going
to be really fun time. Uh, lots of practical stuff. Lots of other people are going to break
out rooms. You can go to breakout rooms depending on what you want to work on. So if you want
to work on your outside image, maybe go over to that color, my world people, they're going
to tell you what colors look best on you. You may go over here, learn a few other kind
of tips and tricks. What's in the bag kind of things. Other others of you might be like,
Hey, how do I, how do I talk to someone? How do I have conversations? I want to improve
the way that I talk to people when I'm just first meeting them, because I can't tell you
how many success stories we've had where whoever the person is, that's my student, whether
it's a man or a woman, they just don't pick up on social cues.
It's hard for them to pick on. So in fact, raise your hand, please. If you feel like
it's very difficult for you to pick up on social cues, you're not really sure what's
appropriate or not appropriate to say or do in a situation. Let's see the hands, hands,
hands, hands. Okay. Keep raising your hand. If you're not good at expressing emotions,
if you don't always even know what emotion you're feeling, what emotion am I? I don't
Okay. Look at all those hands going up. This is good. This is important. So that is what
that session is going to cover. And you guys, you don't have to just pick one breakout room
the entire time. It'll be a two hour session. You can just go from breakout to breakout
to breakout and get in all the information of all that different mentors and coaches
that will be there. And we're going to bring you the best of the best in those areas. Okay.
People that really can give you even better advice than I could give you in the area of
their expertise. Okay. Important stuff. I already said this, but just giving, if you're
not a client of mine, there are a few private clients here. I am on a wait list. So please
don't be like, I want to be a private client. I am going to have a few private clients graduate
at the beginning of the year. So I will have some spots open for that. That means just
really digging down into your stuff and really helping you on more of a one-on-one basis
to get freedom and breakthrough and success in your love life and other areas of your
life as well. But as far as LA's within this community go, um, just answering that post
in the featured section of your group, saying that you're willing to be spotlighted. Like
Nitin asked that question and I've spotlighted Nitin probably at least three or four times.
You guys, I will tell you this. If you're a super picky person and I know that, okay.
And I spotlight you and hopefully I'm helping a lot of you get out of your pickiness. Okay.
Because that's just trauma as far as I'm concerned. And you need to trust your coach. You guys
don't, don't, don't hire a coach. If you're not going to trust them, don't hire a doctor.
If you're not going to trust them, don't hire a trainer in the gym. If you're not going
to trust them, you got to trust them. You hire them. You believe that they know what
they're doing and that's why you're giving them your money. And so you got to trust them.
You got to do what they say. I just had this conversation with a private male client the
other day. He fights me every single time I try to introduce him to someone, he fights
me. He's like, Oh, I don't know. I don't know. I don't think I'm attracted. It's a picture.
It's a 2d image. This is not an animated image. Okay. You don't know if you like this person
or not, you're gonna have to trust me because I know you well enough to know what you're
looking for and not just what you want, but what you need and you got to trust. And guess
what? We had a long conversation. I almost fired him. I'm just being real with you guys.
I almost fired him. Okay.
I've introduced him to five or six amazing women. And he's always just like, you know,
in some cases doesn't even give it one conversation. And in other cases ends up
going on only one date and just like, nah, I'm not interested. You don't know. Okay. And I'm
talking about amazing women. Okay. So I almost fired him and he finally decided to trust me.
There was one girl that I had, I had shown him that I think is a great match for him in every
way, shape or form also has the personality. That's going to pull him out of his shell.
And it's going to be magic together. And he didn't even want to give her a chance based on her photo
because, oh, she's not, she's pretty, but she's not my type. And so guess what he did. And I just
got a message from him the other day. And he said, I really loved our conversation. I'm,
I'm really looking forward to spending time with her. Oh, what? No, trust your coach,
trust your matchmaker trust. You got to trust. Okay. And so that being said, um,
spotlights for all of you in phase three happen when you say yes to them. And guess what?
If the people that it's, it's sometimes a lot of quick process. So for instance,
I might take the spotlight. Like I spotlighted, like, I don't know, seven or eight of you ladies
that said yes already, I've already spotlighted you. So I post you in an all men's group of like
a thousand men. Okay. And then I just say to them, Hey, I don't give them your name. They
don't know your name. They just know your location. Like, you know, the city that you live
in and your age. And that's it. That's all I did on those spotlights. I said, if you want to know
more about this, one of these women, then I need you to like the picture and I'll DM you. So all
the pictures got likes, there wasn't one of them that didn't get any likes. And then what I did is
I went through the likes and I looked at that man's profile, looked at what he's posting,
what he's doing, how old is he? You know, what are the things that he's saying on his social media
and for the ones that seem safe for the ones that seemed appropriate in age. And I mean like the
life in their years, not just the years in their life and all the different things that I reached
out to them and said, okay, Hey, tell me more about yourself. Have you filled out a spirit
made mash profile? Can I look at it? Where is it? What name is it under? Okay. So this is what I do.
And you guys, it's very time intensive. You know, this is a perfect time for me to say this.
I need probably two matchmaking assistants. I'm looking for that right now. And I'm going to
fill those positions from within the community for, and if I don't and can't,
then I'm going to fill that, those positions from outside of the community if I have to. Okay.
Because I need help going through the profiles. I'm only one person and there's lots and lots
of profiles. Now there's lots of different things going on. And so I need people to volunteer to be
part of that process. Um, the main thing that you would have to have is you'd have to be very
computer savvy. You'd have to be a high level communicator. You'd have to be very intuitive,
very teachable. And you also would have to have a high level of discretion. Okay.
A high level of discretion. I'm not going to throw a wolf into the sheep's pen. Okay. And so if you're
not the kind of person who is wanting to help other people find love, and you're just wanting
to go through all my profiles to find yourself someone then nah, that's not what I need right now.
Okay. High, high level of discretion. All right. And it could be a guy or a girl,
and I could use at least two, two little helpers. I'm God's little helper. You'll be my little help
for, okay. Okay. We were going to put that out. We're going to post that, but I just went ahead
and said it to you. So that kind of looks like what the single spotlights look like. Same on
social media. People DM me. And if I'm like, Oh no, this person is, you know, I'll look at their
social media and it's just like, no, you guys, we try our best to be part of your God defense system.
All right. And some people, even though they don't fit the criteria that I've posted, as far as age
bracket and geographic location, especially if the match and chief, the match and chief, the match
the match people still, they waste my time by sending me themselves when they don't fit.
They don't fit what I'm asking for. And so that takes up more time. Does that make sense?
So please do not respond to a profile. That's the scarcity mentality. Don't respond to a profile
that you don't fit because all you're going to do is waste my time. All right. And then I'm going to
have to tell you, Oh, sorry, you know, this isn't the right fit for you, but there'll be others.
I'm going to tell you in advance, there will be others, lots of others. If we can move faster and
we can't move fast. If people are trying to reply to everything because they don't want to miss out
no FOMO y'all FOMO is not a kingdom emotion. It's not a kingdom emotion. There's no FOMO.
No one else is going to get what you, what, what belongs to you. Okay. All right. All righty. Okay.
So let's go here.
Jackie is being vaccinated, a red flag.
Um, only if you think it is, I mean, I don't think vaccinations
or non-vaccinations are ever red flags.
Um, I think that if someone is just blindly following whatever the
government or whatever big pharma is telling them to do, that's not someone
that I want to be involved with as far as romantically and raise children with.
I don't want to argue with my husband about whether or not I'm going to give
my baby in the hospital after I give birth to it, you know, 10 vaccinations
before it ever even leaves, not sure.
They give babies.
I just had twins, grand grandchildren.
I was there when my daughter gave birth to them.
I was in the hospital in the room with her.
I was there with her.
So it was my husband.
Okay.
And so.
They want to give more vaccinations to little infants that are just
born than all of us that were raised in the seventies, eighties and
nineties and nineties and nineties and nineties.
That's not okay.
That's no bueno.
These little babies haven't even had a chance to be out of the womb and
they're getting all this stuff put in them.
And it's not just even about what the vaccination is made out of.
It's about what all of the carrier stuff is made out of heavy
metals, all different types of stuff.
You guys, whether you believe it or not, it's highly linked to neurodiversity.
It's highly linked to autism specifically.
It is the research is there.
You guys it's there.
Okay.
It's there.
I can promise you that, that a lot of trauma causes neurodiversity is
diversity is diversity is diversity is one personality and it comes from trauma.
Okay.
Trauma will cause it, but there are so many kids when I was a kid and you
were a kid in grade school, we didn't have any autistic kids in our class.
Okay.
And the reason why is because we didn't have all these vaccinations.
We didn't have all these chemicals in our food supply, all
the pollutants in our water.
We didn't have what there is now.
And some people's bodies are just very sensitive to this toxic overload.
Some people's bodies can't handle it.
Okay.
And all different types of things.
So to answer your question, I think it's a yellow flag when someone isn't
willing to do the research themselves and decide what's best for them.
And wants to blindly just follow, you know, whatever schedule is out there
as far as vaccinations are concerned.
Okay.
This was my prayer during COVID I was awesome.
So I was in Texas, so already kind of more of a conservative
place, not really a liberal place.
But I also live in Austin, Texas, which is a very liberal place.
And we couldn't go outside without masks.
You couldn't even be out outside farmer's markets.
You couldn't, you know, you get kicked out, you get arrested.
Um, it's pretty serious.
Okay.
And none of us, of course, had ever experienced anything like that before,
but I just had a conversation with God because of what I do and what I was
already doing when the lockdown started, I said, God, I said, I trust you that if
I need to get this vaccination in order to be able to go where I need to go to
fulfill my assignment, then I will trust that whatever they inject into me, isn't
going to hurt me because I'm not going to let that stand in the way of what
you've called me to do.
And that's the conversation that I have with God.
And I didn't end up ever having to get it.
By the time that I had to travel and I had to go places to speak and do what I
do, they weren't requiring vaccinations in those places.
So I never had to get it, but I was willing to do whatever I needed to do in
order to continue to, you know, fully focus and go forward.
Guys, we have a love story.
That's going to be on love story.
At the end of this month, we have a holiday love story.
There's going to be several couples from this community that have gotten
married because of this community.
They're going to come back and tell you their stories, let you ask them any and
all questions that you want to ask.
But one of the stories he's Canadian, she's from here, you guys, they broke up
several times because he could not get out of Canada because when they met, it
was part of the vaccinated as part of it was what, you know, heavy, heavy
vaccination stuff, he refused to get vaccinated, could not come to see her.
So they broke up and then they try again.
It looked like he got turned away at the border twice, even when the, even when
the, the, you know, the, the rules kind of got lifted a little bit, but he was
And then finally, you guys, when they had just kind of forgotten about each
other and gone their separate way, I just want to go on record.
I knew that they were meant to be together and I knew that they were each
other's person and I will fight for you.
Okay.
If I feel that that's true, I'm not going to push it on you.
I'm not going to try to manipulate you into it.
But as soon as I saw the open door and that was, he had a dream about her, even
though they hadn't talked in a, I think they hadn't talked in a year.
And he messaged me and just said, Hey, I had a dream about this.
And I said, Oh, okay.
Yeah.
Uh-huh.
And I, I told him what I thought, the interpretation of the interpretation,
the interpretation, the interpretation, getting back together.
And then I was talking to her and I just said, Hey, have you talked to so-and-so
fully knowing that she had a dream?
And he said, no.
I know.
I don't have an answer to that.
I know.
hadn't. And she said, no, you know, I haven't Jackie, come on,
I know.
I've moved on. She's like, give it up, let it go. And I said,
I know.
okay, that's fine. She goes, well, why are you asking? And I
said, well, since you asked why I'm asking, he had a dream
about you. And that's where I left it. And guess what? She
contacted him wanted to know about the dream. He told her and
they gave it one more chance. This time he was able to get
across the border with no vaccination. And now they're
married. Third time's a charm. And that's the other thing that
I want to say, just because you've tried something in the
past doesn't mean that it's not worth trying again. If you
really feel like you should try it. And even though you're
arguing with yourself about, hey, it's never worked before,
it doesn't mean it won't work now. So I don't think the
vaccinations are necessarily a red flag. But it depends on what
the mentality is behind that. I have another client who had a
childhood cancer, he almost died at 18 years old of a rare
genetic colon cancer. Okay. And guess what? God, but also
medicine saved his life. God use medicine to save his life. And
so he's not against medicine. And you're never going to tell
him that medicine doesn't work for some people. So do you guys
see what I'm saying here? As far as pharmacy, as far as far as
far as pharmaceuticals say that fast 20 times, as far as
pharmaceuticals go, do you see how everyone has a different
relationship with different things? And that's why it's
really important to not have dogma. Okay, not be closed
minded and think that you know everything. I don't think that
you should be like, I'm not going to date you if you took
the shot. Now, once again, if they're rabid conspiracy
theorists, you might not date them because of that. And or if
there's someone who's a lemming and just does whatever, you
know, big government tells them to do, you might not go out with
them because of that. But it's important to get to know people
to find out, you know, maybe they were in the medical field
and they felt like me. They're like, Hey, this is what God
called me to do. I'm a doctor and I'm not going to stop being
a doctor and I'm not going to lose my job. I'm just going to
do it. And I'm just going to trust the Lord. Right?
Different strokes for different folks, guys.
All right. Thank you, Lillian for saying that. Yes. I can't
carry my baby nephew because I haven't been vaccinated. Oh,
yeah. You guys, so many families have been destroyed by
this vaccination. You know, there's people that are not
spending Christmas together this year and they haven't for the
last five years because of this. That's our own family. David's
parents used to spend every holiday, every holiday with his
cousins that were like his siblings that he was raised
around, not David's, but his father's cousins that were like
his siblings. He's an only child. And those people are like
his siblings and they won't, they won't see each other. Now
they would see them, but they won't see them because they
didn't get vaccinated. So they won't see them. And that's very
sad. I really encourage you that if something like this, if you
wrote someone off because they got the vaccination or they made
some decision in your life that you didn't approve of, and now
you're not friends with them anymore, or now you're not
family with them anymore. I want you to think about letting that
go. I want you to think about repenting of that. I want you to
think about having a change of heart and mind about that. If
that's you that someone won't see, I want you to pray and see
if you can see some breakthrough full circle moments, you guys,
not just about your love life. It's about a lot of things. God
wants to bring relationships back full circle. He wants to
bring divine alignments. And so let's just pray into that as we
end here, father, we thank you for divine alignments. We thank
you for tonight. We thank you for what's coming up in the new
year, Lord. I pray that everyone's here that they don't
give up on their love story just simply because it didn't happen
in the 2024 calendar year. You have great and amazing things
for us in this year of manifestation that we're going
into Lord, this full circle year that we're going into so many
opportunities are going to come back into that Harbor, Lord,
those boats are going to blow their horn and they're going to
invite us to get back on board. And so Lord, I pray for that
right now. God, I thank you for divine connections and
alignments. Lord, I thank you for divine opportunities.
Father, we just thank you for divine connections. God, we just
thank you, Lord, that every single thing that you have for
us is yes. And amen. We thank you, Lord, that you've been
prepared hearts to be able to not just receive, but also
sustain the blessings and the upgrades that you have for our
lives, Lord, in, in our relationships, in our finances,
in our health, in every area, Lord. And we just thank you, God
that you're leading and guiding us in this season. I just feel
like this saying this in the spirit in this season, be open
to yes. I had someone say to me the other day that this is my
season of yes. That's what they said. Um, just randomly when I
was with them. And, um, and I want, I want to release that
over you guys, full circle moments in your season of yes.
Unless you have a really good reason, a really God reason to
say no.
yes this year. Okay. Now I'm not talking about boundary things where people are using you and
you're always getting taken advantage of because you can't say no, not talking about that. I'm
talking about, don't say no out of fear. Don't say no, because you don't have enough time or money
start building with what God has in his pockets. Not what you have in yours, right? A lot of people
will say, I don't have the time and I have the money, but this is the year that you need to
start questioning why it shouldn't be okay with you that you don't have the time or the money to
do what you want to do in life. It shouldn't be okay. And so instead of giving that excuse,
stop using it as an excuse and use it as a catalyst to find out why you don't have time
and why you don't have money to do what you want to do. Resources, not just money, but resources,
time being a resource as well. Maybe it's time to, excuse the pun, but maybe it's time that you
clear the slate. You got rid of some things that are on your calendar that don't belong there.
I just took on a private client. This is not someone who's going to graduate cause they just
started, but I asked them to do a few things and they said, well, I don't know if I have time to
do that. And I said, well, then you don't have time for a relationship guys. I'm a straight
tutor. Uh, some of you would really be offended to have me as a private, private coach,
because if you're going to spend your hard earned money to have me as a private coach,
then I have a duty to tell you the truth here. It gets diffused. Cause no one knows that I'm
talking to them specifically, but I will tell you that sometimes when I say very specific
things on these broadcasts, I am talking to someone specifically, but because I'm just
talking into a mass of people, people don't get offended as easily, but guess what? When
you're a one-off client of mine, there can be no mystery at who I'm talking to. You can't look
around and say, Hmm, oh, that can't be for me. She gotta be talking to somebody else. No,
it's just me and you there. So, you know, it's you. All right. But God has gifted me in this
area. And I want to help you. I want to get out of your own way and out of God's way so that you
can have the things that God has already set aside for you. They're yours. They belong to you.
They're sitting at will call. Let's go pick them up. Let's go pick them up. It's time.
Okay. So if you are someone who always uses the excuse that I don't have time,
or I don't have enough resources, instead of saying that even one more time,
the next time someone asks you, and you're about to say that I want you to stop and use
your heartwork tools and find out why, because you have to make time. Okay. Of course you don't
have it. You have to make, you have to make time for the things you really want. And this has to
be the time that you do it. All right. Oh, yes. Well, if you're ready to be offended,
I'm ready to offend because nothing will upgrade you faster than offense. Write this down. Offense
is always pointing to an unhealed part of your heart. If you get offended, it doesn't matter
what you get offended about. It's always pointing to an unhealed part of your heart. It doesn't
matter if the thing is offensive. Why does it offend you? That's the real question.
Okay. Cause I see a lot of offensive stuff and it doesn't offend me because I don't have any
horse in that race. Okay. Now the thing that should offend us all is what's happening to
the families of this world because of the lack of kingdom marriage, that should offend us all.
And that righteous offense should get us motivated to do whatever it takes to be part of the solution.
Right. I love you guys. Thanks for such a great night. You guys made it great.
If you won tonight, we will email you a gift card. Cheryl is going to give us the names and
I look forward to seeing all of you in the next couple of sessions of the last sessions of this
year, by the way, are having communion on Christmas. If you can join us on Christmas night,
we will have a Christmas Eve, Christmas Eve. Yeah. We will have a little bit of worship,
some communion, um, a little bit of prophetic action. I'm going into Christmas. If you can't,
no problem. We will definitely tape that record that. Otherwise we're probably going to be seeing
you after the next couple of sessions in the new year. Right. See you soon. Bye everyone.