Awesome.
Okay, ladies, well, welcome to your phase two live check-in.
It is December 17th, it is the one o'clock call.
I am Carla Johnson.
For those of you that don't know me, I am one of your coaches here in phase two.
And I came to Walk Along Jackie back in 2020 when I joined the program.
Back then it was not called Last Year Single, it was called, we called it M12M, Married
in 12 Months or Less.
But nothing's really changed besides the name, we still get, still doing her thing.
And it's just been a really awesome journey to be able to go through this program myself,
have success with it, and then get to come and pour that back into you all.
So it's always such a great blessing to be here with you all on Tuesdays.
So I'm curious, how many of you are on at the moment, and you are a new member to phase
two?
Just raise your avatar hand.
I do see a couple new faces.
Alyssa, Maureen, good to have you.
I know Lucy's been here, but she said it's been a while since she's been on, so we're
glad to have her back as well.
Fantastic.
So, so good to see you ladies.
So I want to just do some quick housekeeping stuff with y'all.
And then we will get into our time together.
So I want to remind you ladies not to forget to watch the replay from the special session
that we had for you all on Thursday.
Raise your hand if you've gotten, you were able to join live on Thursday, or you've watched
the replay.
I just want to kind of get an idea of how many have watched it.
Okay, it looks like about half of you.
Okay, Marie, you have been on live, you haven't been on live, but doing replays.
Well, Marie, I'm so happy that you're here with us.
So good to see you.
And okay, we got some people at work.
So Thursday, so Thursday, there was a special session that all the phases were invited to.
And ladies, I'm going to go ahead and ask you, some of you are already putting your
avatar hands down, so you can go ahead and do that.
Last Thursday, we had a special session, and we were joined by Bethany Hicks.
And she is a friend of Jackie.
And she is the, I think, founder or co founder of a prophetic ministry.
And I, it's on the tip of my tongue, and I cannot remember it.
But she is is a renowned speaker.
And she, she's a great teacher.
When I joined in 2020, I had the privilege of sitting through a course with her.
And it just unlocks so many things.
And so it was a great blessing for us to have her back with us on Thursday.
And that session was how to hear God.
And so I really want to encourage you all to make sure you watch that replay.
If you want to participate in a special paid event that we're having on January 6,
called prophesy your year, you are going to be required to watch that session.
So if you want to, you know, want to pray a little bit about, you know,
coming to that event on January 6.
Again, it is a paid event.
But it is phenomenal.
Then make sure that you watch that, that session from Thursday.
Okay.
Also, ladies, I want to remind you not to forget to check out that resource tab.
Because we recently put up the link and the details on our last trip single to Columbia.
This is a second annual Jackie and David went there last year.
And so they're going back again.
And so if you want to hang out with them and go on a little vacay,
then definitely jump on your resource tab and get information on that.
And all the details will be there.
What I will say is I did not go to Columbia last year, but I have been on a trip
early on when I was in the community.
And it was life changing.
So if you can get there and you feel like you've got this burning desire to go,
I will encourage you to just take the leap and check it out.
Okay. So yeah, Lucy,
she's heard a lot of testimonies about prophesy your year from others.
When will we have info on prophesy your year?
So you will have info as soon as we get it. As soon as we get it,
we will make sure that we post in our app in our community. So don't worry.
We will get all the details out to you again at like last I heard is that the
event is on January 6th. So we've got about, it's like what,
three weeks out I think. So it's a little afternoon here. So yeah,
so that's all the information there. Just a friendly reminder,
make sure you're showing up to live calls as you all are doing right now and
that you are also in the app and you are engaging in the app as well.
Again, if you are new,
you're doing one video a week and you're coming into our community and you're
sharing your takeaways with us and any, anything that's being revealed to you,
any heartwork stuff, any dating that you're doing,
that stuff we definitely want to hear because we're here to coach you through
that dating process. It's really what phase two is here to support you with.
And then as soon as you do all of that, you've completed the videos,
you've come to lines and you've been in the phase two portion for a
minimum of four to five weeks,
then you can request to move on to phase three,
which would just be an email to admin at Jackie Dorman.com.
So the reason we say four to five weeks minimum is because again,
we want you sitting with the contents,
one video per week processing,
just kind of like what we do in heartwork. Okay. In phase one.
So we want you to kind of pace yourself with that.
So we ask that you do that in phase two.
Now that doesn't mean you have to get rushed out of here in four to five weeks.
We understand life happens.
We understand that sometimes we might need a week or two to kind of sit with the
content a little bit longer. And so we understand that happens.
But if you kind of start camping out in phase two for
months, we're, we're gonna notice, and we're gonna,
we're gonna like try to nudge you out of the nest and encourage you and,
and be here to support you in ways that we can help you through phase two,
that you can move on to all the exciting things that happen in phase three.
Okay. And one last thing is just remember to connect with your sisters here in
community. And so with that said, I'm going to go ahead and get us started.
And what I would like for you ladies to do,
and I've been doing this for the last couple of weeks,
and I find that it is super helpful. I want you guys,
I'm just going to take a couple minutes. I'm going to have you ladies in the chat.
I want you to put up your contact info. So your email,
your phone number, and maybe even where you're located.
And the reason that I want you ladies to do that is because I really do want to
encourage you ladies to reach out to someone new this week in this
community.
These are your sisters that are walking alongside you.
And I say this from experience because I was in the seats that y'all are in.
And I really did find some of my best friends in this community
that live all over the United States.
And some of them even live in other countries.
One girl from our community,
she lives in Australia and you know, I walked with her through,
you know, her single season.
And I remember the achings of her heart and sharing and just praying for her and
supporting her and sharing in some of the
experiences that she had.
I was also experiencing and you know,
just doing life with her and cool thing happened
is a couple months after I got married
and moved to Texas,
she was getting engaged and she was getting married a few months after me.
And now remind you, like she was living in Australia, y'all.
She and her fiance were Australian,
but they chose to get married in Texas.
So they traveled to Austin and Jackie officiated their wedding.
Like Jackie officiated mine and my husband's and I got to
be witness to what was going on in my life.
You know, my friends from Australia's marriage and her wedding.
And so it was just a really cool experience.
I can't tell you how many weddings I've been to in this community of friends of
mine that I have have grown to know and love.
And so I will just, again,
it's just my plug for you ladies to connect with one another.
And I know that our app, does it make it easy?
That's why I always wanna allow the space here.
So go ahead and look in that chat
and allow God to highlight someone to you
to reach out to this week.
Okay.
And I'm curious just if anyone wants to just quickly unmute
and maybe share if they've done it
and how that experience has gone
and just maybe be short, brief and powerful.
That way we can go ahead and move on to our next
section here.
Anybody?
Jill, I think I see you unmuted.
Yeah, so I've actually chatted with a few people.
So I've emailed with some, texted with some
and even people who are across the world joined WhatsApp
and we have a little chat going back and forth.
So anybody, I put my email in there
but I can give you my phone number too
if you wanna text me.
I'm always open to making new friends.
Awesome, thanks Jill.
So wonderful.
So yeah, I just, I think it's important
to allow you ladies that opportunity
because I know it's a little bit harder on our app.
So I wanna encourage you to do that.
And before we get started, I'm curious.
And before I share kind of some things
that God's been placing on my heart
for activations for you ladies this week,
I'm curious how has everyone felt
about some of the activations from last week?
Now I know we got some new members
so you might not know what I was talking about,
totally fine.
And so I'm curious, did anything,
did the Holy Spirit highlight anything for you
in those activations?
And if you want to un-mic and unmute
and be short, brief and powerful in your share,
please go ahead and do so.
I know one of your sisters today,
I was reading an update from her in the app
and she had shared about these antlers
that she wore at work.
And she shared this story and how, gosh,
God just really used those antlers to show her
how fun she is and how like God used it
to allow her to feel like she was being seen
and seen by men.
Like she had three dudes come up to her at work.
And so it was really cool as I was reading it,
God reminded, like kind of reminded me of that prompt,
that activation that I gave you ladies last week
to go buy a gift, a Christmas gift for your future husband.
And so I just shared with her, I'm like, you know what?
Those antlers would be a really cool gift
for your future husband.
You know, it doesn't have to be big.
It's just like how cool she could, you know,
gift this to her future husband
and there is a story behind it
and she can connect with her husband
and how, you know, it was during a season
where she was preparing for her marriage to him
without knowing him.
And so I just thought that was cool.
That's just something that to me,
it was like, man, that would be a cool gift
if she hadn't, or if she, you know,
she wanted, she needed some ideas.
So I'm curious, how did everyone feel
to be good, bad, ugly, whatever you want to share?
I'll give you a few minutes.
So I got part of it.
I, yeah, I think it's cool
because I've been doing a lot of things by faith.
And so it's neat to get an assignment
to actually do it with other ladies.
I bought a piece of guy's jewelry
and the word I heard from my husband was kind.
So I'm not done yet, but that's what I've,
I was shopping for more,
but I wasn't able to find what else I wanted.
Oh, I love that.
I just got chills.
I love that.
So good, so good.
Thank you for sharing.
Maureen, you've got your hand up.
Did you want to share?
Yeah, I have been praying about the book.
I want to get my husband a book.
I haven't gotten it yet,
but I really want a special devotional
that will help him be,
that will touch his heart
and reach to his heart to be the man he wants to be.
Yeah, but I've been kind of struggling with it
because I don't know what God's plan is.
And I was married once in my early 20s.
I'm 44 now, so I don't know.
I'm struggling with it
because there's been so many times I've thought
I knew who that one is.
So it's hard not to try to put somebody in that picture
when I'm thinking of who it might be.
And my ex-husband recently-
Yeah, just definitely sit with Holy Spirit some more.
And again, like my biggest thing
is I always kind of just follow peace.
Like God is not a God of chaos and confusion and anxiety.
He is a God that will give us the peace
that surpasses all understanding.
And so, you know,
if you want to sit with him a little longer,
that's fine.
Again, like-
gave you all this activation just to have you just sit with it for a little bit and if you
prompted you felt prompted by the Holy Spirit to do it then awesome and if you need a few weeks
that's cool too but it's just something to be thinking about. Mackenzie what do you got for us?
So I didn't intentionally because I don't typically join the like afternoon call because
I'm usually working but I bought a bunch of things for people's stockings and one of them
was scratch off date cards and I was like you know what I'm going to actually keep some of
these to do like into you know anticipating that this will be something that I'm doing so
and I actually kept well one of my sisters is almost engaged but I also kept some for my other
sister too to give to her as well so and she's not dating anyone yet but just as like a little
bit of faith for her too so that's kind of fun yeah. So cool I love that I love that you got
the date cards because I ended up doing something similar for my husband. Yeah. He is his love
language is quality time and for him going on date night once a week was like so important to
him like before we got married he prefaced like we will go on date night every week he's like when
people get married they forget to date their spouse and he's like I do not want to be that
person and so which is awesome but what I've noticed is that we oftentimes just kind of do
the standard go out to eat come home watch Netflix and go to bed and I'm like no that's not
like quality time and so I felt prompted to do something similar I got a bunch of different
things I got the date like these little scratch date cards I got it's called like the adventure
challenge for couples they have a book for travel because we both want to travel when our kids
excuse me get older I mean we can travel a little bit now because we have older kids but not you
know they're not super young but I thought that was cool and then a bucket list thing for the
state of Texas because he's originally from here I was really reluctant to move out of the state
of Florida but I did it for because God was just like you're moving this is where your husband is
and so I thought it was really cool so I love that you had something similar so ladies I hope
this generates some ideas some people bought a deck a deck of cards because that's what God spoke
to them I think that's great so thank you Marie for sharing that with Adrena so yeah Adrena I
just I gave an activation and I was just wanting y'all's feedback from last week and how it went
so good good stuff all right so this week I was praying a little bit about some activations
and what I felt prompted in my spirit and then I'll share a little bit more
what yeah let me just start there so one thing I've noticed in the app is a lot of people sharing
that and mentioning and then I this this is me included this feeling of being overwhelmed
okay raise your hand your little avatar hand if you can relate to this just being a season
where you just feel overwhelmed like holidays tend to do that for me it's a lot of extra stuff
um and how like for me it's like sickness on top of that and so when you ladies share that I just
want you to know like I'm right there with you I totally get get it I want you to know like
I feel you all right and so I was I was praying about that and and holy spirit just reminded me
and I think he was he was doing it for me but I also believe that he wants me to share this with
you all as well and I was reminded of the jesus cares board from phase one how many of you
remember the jesus cares board from phase one how many of you still have your jesus cares board and
use it good okay so here's what mine was when I was in the program now this thing I literally
just pulled it out of the back of my closet it has been back there for a year and a half since
I moved here to Texas and I pulled all the stuff down and I'm like kicking myself because I don't
know why I would have done that um so Lucy I'm guilty too because I just showed you mine and
I have nothing on it and it's been in the back of my closet for
year and a half. And so I was just reminded and Holy Spirit just told me like, cast your cares on
me. It doesn't have to be an overwhelming season. So I'm going to prompt you ladies to get your
Jesus Cares board and if you have these feelings of being overwhelmed, I want you to add to your
board and I want you to take a picture of it and share it with us in the app. So I'm going to be
working on mine this week. Like I said, you see mine, like mine, I just have those little like
color sheets and then I just put them on the background and it's just those like work boards.
And so I'm going to throw some post-its, some cards up there and I'm going to,
some of the things I'm feeling overwhelmed with lately, I'm going to reactivate that
and reactivate casting that on him. And so again, that's one of them.
So yes, you, this is good. I mean, I need to put what's coming up from dating. That's good.
That is good because that's what we're going to get in today. Some of the stuff that I'm
seeing getting stirred up in y'all when you're out on these dates. And so God gave me another
download the last couple of days of things that I felt on my heart was important to share with
you ladies. Having walked through this, having walked through a single season myself in this
community. Okay. So I think it's so important. Like I, I've been where y'all have been and now
I'm on this other side of it, but I will tell you, I still have to activate all the things I've
learned in heartwork. And so, you know, if you haven't watched supernatural Saturday,
I really want to encourage you to do that. Ladies, I want that to be a weekly activation for you.
If you can't attend live, listen to those replays. Okay. Cause that will activate your faith as well.
And so that happened to me when I was listening to supernatural Saturday
and some things that came up was that God doesn't look at the outside. He looks at the inside and
he looks at the heart. And Jackie, you know, shared with us to start praying to God to let
me know people after the spirit and not after the flesh. And if someone is not doing something
that you hope that they would ask God to show them, show you them after the spirit and not
the flesh. And I really felt that was so prominent to what I see in this community
month after month. It's not just the lady, like you ladies here in this community right now,
because we get a circle of you ladies. So many of you will move on to phase three, the ladies
from phase one shift into phase two. And I just get this like revolving door of ladies coming in.
And it is a frequent thing that happens is, and something that I felt that the Lord was speaking to
me to spread with you and things that I had to go through and what I had experienced in my
process in this community was that we sometimes forget that there is this
difference between expectations and expectancy.
And I shared with one of your sisters here in the community, they shared something that
they were struggling with in roll call and just Holy Spirit just came on me very
heavy about that. And my response and something that I really felt the Lord say is
expectations can lead to disappointment when people don't measure up to what you want them to
be. And so we're putting expectations on others and not on God, then we're taking away what God
wants to do with us and our expectancy because expectancy is a hope that leads to faith that
something pleasant can arise through the experience. And so I sat on it and I'm like,
I know that this is part of heartwork. And so I went back to my heartwork book
and I looked in my little table of contents and would you know that the chapter on expectancy
is the very first chapter. And I was like, oh, well, of course it is.
That's like the key ingredient, right? And
So I want to, if any of you ladies are experiencing some of this like disappointment, getting,
you know, maybe hurt or sad or discouraged or hopeless or angry or resentful, because
what you're experiencing, these guys that you're going on dates with, or maybe in just people and
relationships in general, because it doesn't just apply to people you're dating. It can apply to
your friends. It can apply to your family, your coworkers, you know, church friends, whatever.
And so if you are sensing this, I would really strongly encourage you to go back to that first
chapter in heartwork. And so that's going to lead me to Mackenzie. You're still on here with me,
right? I am. Yeah, I'm here. Awesome. Are you cool with me reading your post? Yeah. Because
I really do feel like a lot of what I shared with someone in roll call and what I felt,
Holy Spirit speaking to me and what I felt like Jackie was even touching on this week
on supernatural Saturday, kind of ties into what you're experiencing. So I want to make sure.
Okay. All right. So your sister Mackenzie shared something in the app on the ask a coach tabs. And
so I'm just going to, okay. Cause I've been talking to a guy for about a week and we're
hitting it off and getting to know one another. He was definitely pursuing throughout the process.
And he initiated the first date. We did a FaceTime on Saturday and it felt,
it felt like a really good date. He had some, and I had some intense fear and scarcity after
the date, which I think was less about him and more about God showing me some heart boxes that
need to be unpacked. Some after a few days though, I kind of feel him pulling back a bit.
It feels weird because it seems like we mesh so well, but I also know that God may be protecting
me in this space. All that being said, I'm struggling with how to do this dating for
discovery. Well, I've struggled dreaming about this area of my life. And when I do get excited
about a guy like this, which tends to not be as frequent, it is harder to process emotionally,
the loss of it, not moving forward. Obviously I don't want it. If it's not God's plan,
it just feels, it just more feels like an emotional roller coaster. And I'm trying to
stay encouraged while still acknowledging that I am bummed because I enjoyed getting to know him.
Also, to be fair, he hasn't fully cut it off at this point, but I have been battling with
these emotions a bit. And I'm trying to figure out how to process well, because I want to be
in, I don't want to be in an unhealthy headspace. Sorry for the long post. Okay. No worries. Okay.
Um, so there was a couple of things that stood out for me. Um, first of all,
the, you're struggling with how to do this dating or discovery. Well,
can I just express to you my own personal dating was there were ups and downs. And so I, I want to
release over you ladies that there's no perfect way to date. Okay. Let's not hold ourself to such
a standard that we can't have this ebb and flow these ups and downs, because we're going to
experience it. And that's okay. I really want you ladies not to get so hard on yourself about
following rules, but it's more guidelines. Cause let me tell you, there have been so many,
there were so many times when I was dating and that I just didn't do it well. And then there
were other times that God showed me after reading your post where there was one time that I did do
it well. And, and so I was very much reminded of when I did it well, it was because I was
partnering with Holy spirit. And again, it, that kind of ties to the expectancy, the hope,
the faith that, that gets ignited in it and letting go of the expectation of what I thought
dating needed to look like, what the guy needed to do, how he needed to respond. I like in my mind,
I can often, let me put it this way. I can often put God in a box. Like it's gotta look
this certain way. He's going to show up in this certain way. But I forget that God is not a God.
where he's in this box and so I want to encourage you ladies of letting go of
some expectations of what dating may need to look like, how it might need to
look, feel, see, act, whatever and start partnering with the fact that any
interaction that you're having on dates it can be used as an upgrade and I say
this frequently and when we start partnering with that so much more can be
unlocked and Jackie said something on Supernatural Saturday and I'm always
thankful when she says this because now that I'm on this other side and I I'm
married I wish I heard more about how challenging and hard that marriage can
be because I had this false idea that when I got married everything was just
gonna fall into place and I'm that was my expectation and my expectations have
been not that great like it hasn't happened and so there's been some
struggle but not in a bad way but in a growing way that God is coming to use
this marriage as a point of refining and that iron sharpens iron stuff and
so I think it's so important to remember that this preparation period is that
it's preparing you for that next step and she even mentions on that call
you're gonna want to be as much prepared stepping into the next season
that you're gonna enter into it's gonna be good she always says it doesn't have
to be easy it's just got to be worth it and a lot of times some of the hard
things that we go through is truly worth it and so I say that to encourage you
ladies to understand that in the dating process God can use all these
interactions good bad ugly to prepare you to heal areas of your heart because
what can happen if we don't heal those areas we can end up sabotaging those
future relationships if we don't have the expectancy that God's just going to
do something incredible and he can do some pretty amazing things even with
people that are not your spirit mate so all that being said Mackenzie I still
want to address like the struggle okay because I know I can sit here and
verbalize it but it's like okay like great right and one thing that came up
to me is that there can be the both ends you can we can get hopeful we can be
disappointed if it doesn't turn out the way that we want but I want to also
remind you to shift focus on what is God doing in that process because there are
so many good things that are unlocking like for one you mentioned God showing
me some heart boxes that need to be unpacked that's important so whether
this guy's your spirit mate or not God's using this guy to show up and help you
with things that God wants to work on in you and so I hope that helps you
ladies as you go into interacting with guys on dates and getting to know them
and I hope that just kind of helps a little bit good so I guess I still have
everybody with me yeah a lot of you are not on camera right now so I'm like
where is everybody I was walking I've been waiting for my car to get new
tires I've been walking I didn't want to distract you guys I love it I love it
but yeah that's everything you're hitting everything I'm thinking right
now okay good good and that's and that was the cool thing like I was sitting
with the Holy Spirit with this for the last couple of days and I hadn't
listened to Supernatural Saturday until late last
night and a lot of the things that Jackie was even releasing to y'all I'm
like oh my goodness it makes perfect sense this is what's going on I'm like
it's just confirmation of just how invested and involved our God really is
and let me tell you God is really invested in y'all's love stories okay I
can speak from my own example I can speak from what I've seen in this
community he really really does like write some pretty awesome love stories
and so one more thing that I kind of want to get into because this kind of
falls along the same thing here and I'm gonna ask you ladies this question I
want you ladies to be thinking about this when you're having dating
experiences or any experience in relationship whether it's friends family
all of that are you aligning your belief that God is using that interaction in
this season or phase as a way to invest in preparation and growth for what he
has for for you and your future so whether that's your love story or your
purpose your destiny DNA with what what you're believing about an interaction
with someone is it aligning with the fact that God wants to use that to help
prepare you and grow you in the season ahead or are we aligning with a belief
that we might be wasting our time when we discover somebody isn't what we want
them to be or what we think they're gonna be or what we would like for them
to be
because that's when sometimes we can get in our own way
and I was reading the chapter the first chapter of heart work right before I
jumped on this call and I highlighted this God is a God I've added a couple
things God is a God of seasons of order and of timing what are you expecting to
happen in this season for you get it in your mind right now and then verbalize
it speak it out loud sometimes we don't even know what we want until we hear
voices saying it out loud and I really want us to tap in like what we want God
to do for us in this season what do we expect him to do in this season because
that's the face that leads to that expectancy instead of having
expectations on others to do things that we want them to do because you know what
God showed me this week when I have a lot of expectations it's because I'm a
control freak some of you might be able to relate to me but that is one area
that I totally struggle in another thing that I felt was really important
to share is that if what if what you are expecting you can have but it will first
require some endings so often we try to have beginnings without endings and so I
think that's so important so that some of us may need to have an ending with
our belief on what dating is supposed to look like or what we want dating to look
like and look at what God wants it to look like because of what is your
deepest desire of your heart what's that whisper what does he want to do in your
heart that's going to prepare you and bring bring you that spirit mate that
you so desire that he's so he's he's investing in that and going to give that
to you and so I just want to encourage like us letting go of this I've seen this
a couple of times come up and I just want to emphasize it again because I
just think maybe someone else needs to hear it is we've got to let go that
we're wasting our time with the wrong guys
because sometimes those guys that we're on dates with that may not be our spirit
mate can like Mackenzie whether this man is her spirit mate or not it's still
allowing God to unlock some things and help her unpack what he wants her to
unpack
cool
Anybody resonate and relate to this?
I wanna just un-mic and kind of share.
I wanna get you ladies talking here.
We're about 40 minutes after.
I wanna be able to take some of your questions
on online dating.
If you un-mic, I wanna hear from you ladies.
However, we've got a lot of you on the call today,
which is, I think this is the most I've had in for so long.
Let's see, I've got one, two, three, four, five.
Six, times three is 18, minus one is 17.
19 of y'all.
Like, that is like a record for Tuesday one o'clock.
I love it.
Think it's because the holidays are coming up.
Good stuff.
So I wanna leave space for y'all, okay?
And so I wanna get feedback.
I wanna hear your thoughts.
I wanna hear your heart.
I would love for you to also be thinking of questions
that you have about online dating,
because our week this week is on online dating.
That's the video we kind of discuss.
But I know last week we had some people
had questions about online dating,
and I promised that we would get to questions
on that this week.
So I do see some hands up.
If you have a question about online dating
or need to share something you can't un-mic,
go ahead and type it up in the chat.
When you share, ladies, this is super important,
and I'm really bad at this,
and I'm really bad at cutting people off,
but I have to get better at it.
We all have to get better at it,
is I need you keeping it short, brief, and powerful.
I need like the highlight reel
of like your question or your thought.
And it's gotta be in like 90 seconds, okay?
So Mackenzie, I see your hand up.
Then I see Joanne, Maureen, Jill, Eris, and Lucy.
So Mackenzie, you go first.
Mine was just really fast.
I don't have any questions,
but something as I was kind of like processing yesterday
that I just wanted to share that really came out for me
was focusing on what I did learn from that relationship
and what I did like.
And so that's something that I just,
even now walking away from it,
because acknowledging the sadness and processing that,
but okay, what did I really like about that relationship?
Because the truth is, and I'll be really quick,
but the truth is that I know that God
has a very intentional purpose for me
and my husband's life.
And so I want someone who's gonna be a part of that.
And so I'm trying to like go back
and kind of have like a helicopter view in that respect,
but focus in on, okay, but what about that interaction
did God have, like what was attractive to me?
And then take that into my like list of values that I want.
And I was gonna type it out,
but then I was like, I'm just gonna say it really fast.
But I was-
I love that.
Like that right there,
you're unlocking all that this program has to offer
when you're stepping into dating.
I went through that same experience.
I had to date a lot of guys that were not the right guy,
but ladies, let me tell you,
God is so intentional on who he has for you.
And when we allow him to kind of drive,
it's gonna like blow your socks off.
Like the confirmation, if you sit with Holy Spirit
and allow him to show you confirmation
of who your spirit mate is,
and it's not of your own doing,
like you're not going to go and try to confirm
and look for signs and wonders
and all that kind of stuff.
But God will just speak to you
in ways that I can't tell you,
you're gonna understand why
it didn't work with all those people
and why God is highlighting this person to you.
Doesn't mean that you're not gonna have trials
and tribulations and ups and downs with your person.
Okay, that's part of marriage,
but it's gonna be like that knowing
and knowing his intention that he has in your love story,
I will tell you from my own experience
has been the glue that has helped me through the tough times
with blending my family and learning how to be a wife.
It's new for me, it's a new concept, okay?
So I love that, Mackenzie.
Thank you so much for sharing.
Joanne, I see your hand up.
You're cruising in your car.
Hi, yes, heading to see my dad at the hospital.
Yes, by the way, how is he doing?
He's good. He's getting better. He had a stroke, so he has right-sided weakness, so we're just waiting for him to go to rehab, and it's taking forever.
So hopefully today's the day he gets to go to rehab, and as soon as he does rehab, as soon as he can come home.
Yes. Well, we're going to pray for that accelerated process.
Yes. Amen. Amen.
What you got for us?
So the two things, really quick, what you were saying about not wasting the time, you know, feeling like this is a waste of time because this person is not my spirit mate, as we're exploratory dating.
So it's like, how do we transition other than speaking it into existence?
Because the guys that I'm saying yes to or swiping right to, I mean, they're not bad.
They're not horrible, so to speak, but I don't have a genuine, like, oh, my God, this is a cutie.
Oh, my God, look, look, look, all these qualities, bang, bang, bang.
I can't wait to meet him.
Like you were saying, suck his face or something like that.
You know, because I actually went on a date the other day, and it was like, that was the Massachusetts guy.
I finally went on a date with him, and I had no, it was just a total, like, I felt like I was just, whatever, because I knew he didn't want children.
So it's like, so how do I tell myself or transition into the mindset of, like, I know this is exploratory.
I'm exploring myself.
They're exploring me.
You know, it will come.
Like you said, all things work together, because right now I'm like, hmm.
Well, I kind of was just reminded, and I think I have it in my notes here, too, is what Jackie shared on Supernatural Saturday Call.
Did you get to watch that or attend it?
I was listening to some of it.
I got to finish the rest.
Okay, well, there's a part, and I don't want to do a spoiler alert, but I did kind of already share it a little bit.
But she has us going to God and asking him to, Lord, let me know people after the spirit, not after the flesh.
And so even when we are on a date with someone that we just kind of know, like, this is not going to be my spirit mate.
Like you said, you have a desire to have children, and he was very, you know, vocal about that not being in his future.
I would then just enjoy the time that you have with him.
What can you learn about him?
And maybe ask, again, ask God, like, let me know this person in the spirit.
What is such a really great quality?
What makes him unique?
What makes him, you know, a special gift to his spirit mate?
Because guess what, ladies?
All these guys that you are dating may not be your spirit mate, but guess what?
That man is probably somebody else's spirit mate.
So looking at them from an eyes of, like, I just really, truly want to know them better.
Like, one prayer that I had had for myself before literally was the tipping point for me in the divine appointment as to why I came into this community
is because I, for a really long time, prayed to God, God, I need you to show me, I need me to, how did I word this?
Lord, help me to see myself the way that you see me.
Because I really struggle with my identity and my worth.
But I also want to take it a step further.
It's not just me seeing myself as God sees me, but ladies, can you enter some of these dates and look at some of these guys through God's eyes?
How does God see these men?
What is their fruit there?
Again, we want to be in fruit inspectors.
So I would just maybe encourage you to do that.
That's kind of what's coming up to me.
I hope that that helps.
And then report back to us if that's something that you, you know, attempt to do and how it works for you.
Sound good?
Yeah.
I mean, I met someone on Hinge, you know, quickly.
We did a virtual Zoom.
At first, he was hesitant, but I was like, no, you know, because people think that whenever I set up a Zoom, they're like, oh, no, it's AI, she's going to catfish me.
And I'm like, no, it's just me.
That totally does happen.
Like, it's mind boggling.
Yeah.
So, but he said he took a chance and he was pleasantly surprised.
So very talkative.
And so we're going to schedule a coffee and see how it goes.
but go, God keep you posted.
Awesome, I love it.
Thank you, thank you, thank you.
All right, Jill, how are you?
Hi, I really appreciate you ladies sharing so far
because I'm resonating with a lot
of what you guys are saying.
So thank you for that.
So I have shared in the past that, you know,
I am definitely looking at just like meeting these people,
getting to know them, like you're saying.
So that's, you know, what I'm doing,
but, you know, it's really hard
because it's not progressing.
The guys that I have had any sort of like phone dates
or whatever with have not gone anywhere.
And then a lot of these chats, they just die off.
I don't really feel like there's anybody in this area anyway
that I'm gonna meet on an app, but I'm trying to be open.
So I am trying to just work on not feeling so discouraged
with it, because it's really hard.
So I don't know if you have any advice
of kind of like what to do,
because I don't, you know, as I say every week,
like I don't feel like I'm supposed to stay here anyway.
I feel like I'm gonna relocate.
What's interesting is like you have kind of an experience
that was opposite of me, and it's really unique
because I was living in an area where, again,
there wasn't a whole lot of people.
It was, you know, I lived in Sarasota, Florida.
It is predominantly a more older demographic
and not a lot of, like at the time I was in my late 30s,
I'm now 41, and so a lot of people my age
like were already married.
And had families.
And so I was in a different situation
where I wanted to stay in my area, but there wasn't.
And so, and God had to really work on me for some time
to kind of let go of what I thought was a non-negotiable,
because I, by golly, was not gonna move.
I was staying in Florida.
I even had this like non-negotiable
that I was having another baby.
And, you know, God had to work on me in that.
And, you know, I married a man
that did not want to have more children,
but came with children, and then lived in Texas
and was not moving from Texas, so I had to move there.
And so it was, it's, mine's a little bit opposite
because I was reluctant.
I'm like, no, I'm gonna stay here.
But again, it's that being open and just being like,
okay, God, whatever you wanna do.
And so I think you are at,
I think you have a good opportunity here
with the idea that you are open to moving
so you can broaden your radius a little bit.
I know you said in the last couple weeks
that the app, or how many apps are you on?
Three.
And I'm maxed out on the radius.
Is there one or two of those
that you're just kind of like,
I can like trash this one and pick up another one?
Yeah, but I paid for it.
Okay.
How long is that paid subscription?
Like three months.
I'm locked in for three months.
Okay.
That's why, because I'm like,
maybe I went on the wrong ones
because I wasn't sure.
I don't think, I mean, I don't think,
I mean, even when we might take a wrong turn,
God still uses it.
Like, so he knows, like he has ways of working it out.
Are any of the apps that you're on
when you travel to an area
that it will then match you with people
that are in the actual area
that you are currently located in?
Well, I know Facebook dating,
I can add a second location,
but I hesitate to do that
because I don't know when I'm gonna be moving.
So I don't want to kind of semi catfish a guy
into thinking I'm local if I'm not.
Do you know what I'm saying?
Well, here's the thing,
but I think if you're transparent and you communicate it,
then you're not catfishing.
You're not, like, you're not lying.
Like, I think being open and transparent
and communicating is key in any relationship.
And so I would say,
at another location and be clear that where you currently live you feel that
God is leading you to this certain area but you're not sure when
and that you're open to getting to know more people in that area to see if there's any
opportunities for open doors.
How do you feel about that?
Uncomfortable.
Okay.
Yeah, sorry.
That's good.
So yeah, I think is again if your fear is that you are scamming somebody well your heart is not
to scam someone you can't you can't scam someone if that's not your heart like God searches the
Most people don't actually read what you write in the profile anyway to be honest.
Sometimes they don't but guess what they have the opportunity to read your profile
and if they were a ding-dong and decided not to read it it's on them.
Yeah, I mean all I could say is I'll pray about it but I have thought about it in the past and
you know again I'm trying to be very open I don't know that
I'm trying to soften it I don't believe that my husband is on a dating app
Um, but I am trying to be open and and just be like, you know, maybe somebody he knows
Well, that's what I'm saying. But look at what you are doing. I want to like celebrate for a
minute because for the last three weeks including this week you have been very proactive of coming
out of hiding and connecting with your sisters here in this community. And I got oh, I got
Holy Spirit on that one. I'm like feeling it you are doing all the right things
and he sees that and here's the thing like God is a season of timing he he God is God is a God
of seasons and timing and as much as I don't know about you all but sometimes I'm like God can you
just tell me when but like unfortunately but fortunately he doesn't let us know that
but I will tell you he's always been perfect on his timing and so I know when our heart truly
desires and longs for it and we're not seeing we're not seeing it but he's still working
what's that way maker miracle worker like got like like that songs coming up in my spirit like
like even when I don't see it you're working even when I don't feel it you're working
he never stops he never stops working and so just know that all you can do is just take
the next right steps and sometimes when we take those steps we may not see what it's actually
doing in the spirit it reminds me of a time it was spring break March 2022 and the year 2022
was the year I was like by golly I'm getting married it's the year of the bride I was in this
community had been in this community since September of 2020 it was March of 2022 and I'm
like it's gonna happen all right God's told me I'm getting married in 2022 and so he prompted
me to get in my car with my youngest son who I think was six at the time no he would have been
six turning seven I don't know I can't remember he was little I packed him in the car and we
drove from Sarasota Florida all the way to Austin Texas because I was on a call with Jackie and
like kind of like a call like this and we were talking about stuff and whatever and she's like
and I was talking about traveling and she's like well get in your car and come visit me in Austin
and I was like actually that's not a bad idea and there were several other women in the community I
did I I literally thought it was God God you are legit like you're gonna do something big
and I took this I activated this and I took this step and I was like why am I doing this this is
like I'm traveling like 17 hours with my son we spent more time in the car than we did in Texas
and I thought something miraculous was going to happen and turns out I get home from spring break
and I'm like nothing I'm like really like I'm like three thousand dollars in the hole I'm like
like what's happening like and so it
was it was frustrating.
Fast forward to meeting my husband,
literally in the 11th hour of 2022.
Okay, now I wasn't getting married in 2022,
but I was kind of like at the point where I'm like,
I just don't think this is gonna happen.
Beginning of November, I'm like,
this is just not gonna happen.
After a week of really just like sitting with Jackie
and talking this through,
my husband drops into my DMs.
We end up talking for about three weeks.
I'm thinking this entire time he lives in Florida.
And I meet him in December.
And like, I find out like early on after talking to him,
he lives in Texas.
I'm like, okay, whatever, like I'm open to whatever.
I'll entertain this.
Not thinking anything was gonna come of it.
So I was like, oh, fine, I'll entertain it.
We probably won't even meet in person anyway.
We meet in person and there was just a lot of exhilaration
on our relationship.
And so when we invested in the relationship
and it started unfolding and we started talking
about marriage and what that would look like.
And he shared that he would want me to move to Texas.
God instantly reminded me, see Carla,
you didn't think anything happened on that trip,
but it wasn't for you.
It was for your son.
Because my son had never been to Texas.
And I had to tell a little boy who had all his friends,
all his family and his biological dad actually ended up
sharing with me immediately after having this conversation
with my now husband that he was moving out of the state.
Anyway, but all that to say like my son's world
was like gonna get shifted upside down.
And God reminded me that trip had to happen for him.
And even though I didn't see anything happen,
it was actually preparing my son's heart.
So there was stuff happening in the background.
Stuff was moving in a spirit and it opened up
my son's heart because now he had a visual
of what Texas was like.
And him and Jackie are like little two peas in a pod.
And so it was cool for him to go like to Texas
because he met her, like she would come to Florida.
She has family there.
And so he's met her there,
but it was cool for him to meet her in Texas.
And it was a way for him to be comfortable
with the idea of having to move away.
It helped prepare his heart,
not saying that it wasn't a hard road for him.
And at times it's still difficult for him,
but God was moving.
So I don't know, like I just,
I didn't even think I was gonna share that,
but I just really felt strongly to encourage you
that even when you're taking these steps and these actions,
it may not seem like anything's going on,
but just know that he's working for you.
Thank you.
You are welcome.
The same messages, just so you know,
you're doing everything.
Even when we did the listening prayer,
everybody kept saying the same thing.
It's like, I'm seeing that you're right
where you need to be and I'm getting confirmations,
which is good, but frustrating.
Cause I'm like, I'm a doer.
Give me something else to do.
You're like, gosh, darn it.
Maybe that's like, God is just preparing you
to kind of sit in that.
Ladies, like I will tell you, I'm a planner.
I do not like to stray from a plan.
And y'all, I married a man that is like,
fly by the seat of his pants.
And let me tell you, like some triggers happen.
But I needed it to look this way.
This is what it was supposed to do.
Like even last night, he was helping me make dinner
and I'm like, just use these six eggs
and leave these other five.
Y'all, my husband used all 11 eggs.
I was like, why did you go away from the plan?
Like, what is happening?
So I don't know.
Like, those are all things, again,
just pressing the Holy Spirit with that.
But I hope that didn't just speak to Jill, y'all.
I really hope that that's speaking to other people
on the call as well.
I've got Eris and Lucy, they have their hands up.
I'm not seeing, I thought there was a few more.
Holly, I do see your post.
I don't know if she is on now.
I know she had to jump off.
But I'm gonna, Eris and Lucy,
I'll let you all go and then I will catch Holly's.
I think she might have a question.
I don't know.
It's a long one, but I'll get to that
after the two of you go.
So Aris, how are you?
Did I pronounce your name right, first of all?
Yes.
Okay.
Ladies, forgive me.
Now and in the future, I am like a name butcher.
I'm just not good with phonics.
And I recently discovered and my son is evaluating
that he is dyslexic and the more I think about it,
I'm like, well, maybe he got some of that from me
and I just learned how to navigate it in school.
So I'm bad at it.
I apologize in advance if I ever mess up y'all's names.
All right.
How are you, Aris?
What do you have for us?
I'm good.
No, you're good.
My name, I'm used to it.
But I had put something in the chat
and I just, this is my first time
being on the online chatting.
But I had concerns because I guess I think
that I had high expectations of another female
and I just started a church, going to a church,
me and my son about 10 months ago.
And I really like it.
And so I'm meeting new people there.
And so we've been invited to a few Christmas parties
and then there was one that came around.
And I don't, I mean, I've been around the two ladies
that there's, I guess, one host
and one co-host of the party.
But I have the other, the co-host ladies, her name's Lucy.
I have her number and she invited me
and I was asking her about it.
And then, so I noticed like, I try to get,
I think I expect, I don't know,
relationships to happen quicker or like to,
I guess I was expecting to, I don't know,
get more connected in the church
than I have been thus far.
But so I was asking her if my son could go the other night.
And he's, I mean, he's not a little kid,
so it wouldn't have been a big deal.
He's 15, but he was coming home from his dad's
and it was kind of a different timing than I'm used to.
It was like a Sunday evening,
like five to eight or five to 9 p.m.
And she said, she told me no,
no, there's no boys or kiddos allowed.
And I thought I saw that on the invite,
but when she responded back, she said,
she said, no, there's no boys or kids allowed.
And then she said, I'm sorry.
And then it was like,
she didn't ask if I'd still planned on going or anything.
And I guess I just felt like kind of rejected
and because she kind of assumed that I wasn't going.
Later on, she told me, like we tried to talk a little bit
and she said, oh no, there was people that were,
there was people that were having to cancel
and not being able to come.
So I just, I guess she had just thought that I was,
that I wasn't interested in coming,
but she said that she was real busy
and that she was leaving the Nutcracker
or something like that.
But, okay, so like, what do I need to do?
Because apparently there's a lot of miscommunication.
I totally relate to a lot of the things that you're saying.
And so I can only speak from my own experience
and things that I've learned over the years.
And there's, I'm sure I still need areas of growth
in some of these areas.
And so a lot of things that I was hearing,
like what I'm hearing you say is that
you've been in this church for about 10 months.
You're not feeling connected as much as you would have liked
to after this period of time.
Right.
It sounds like there's some triggers of rejection.
I'm curious, and it sounds like this is,
these are female interactions.
So I'm curious if you have,
is there anything that's coming up for you in your life?
your past where relationships with females have been strained, or there has been a time
in your life in the past where you felt rejected and not seen by women in your life that were
important to you.
Oh, yes.
So automatically, it's my mom.
Yeah, I already know.
Then you know what I relate to on a very like a lot of levels with, you know, my own mom
and even in my teen years, friendships that like best friendships that I had and some
of the rejection and betrayal that I have felt.
And so what I have known that has happened for me, and what I've seen happen in this
community is oftentimes when these emotions are coming up, it's because it's a heart box
that God wants to heal.
And so it's okay to feel sad or hurt.
Those are moments where I will encourage you to press into Holy Spirit and ask him to kind
of and just go back to your heart work training.
Like I can't tell you how significant heart work training is like, I'm currently going
back and reading the book myself because I'm experiencing stuff in my season of life
right now where I'm like, I need a lot of heart work.
Another thing that I will also encourage is practicing communication.
That one has been a challenge for me in the past because I was never modeled good, healthy
communication.
And so oftentimes, like you, it sounds like I think this is where I can relate, where
I can jump to assumptions about what people are feeling and thinking, because it's what
my perception is, then it's not really actually what is happening.
And so like this woman shared, like, I was really busy, there was a lot of things going
on.
And so maybe a lack of intention in her messaging you.
And this is again, like, sometimes this is, I love text messaging.
I love that cat.
I love that technology.
But at times, this is when it can get challenging because you're not seeing facial expression
and interaction.
And ladies, we tell you it's important to get on video calls with guys and not even
doing the phone calls and the texting because you need to see how their tone is with you
and how they're communicating with you.
Do you have their attention?
Do they make eye contact?
Are they messing around with something else?
Like, do you have their undivided attention?
And so when we don't get that when we're texting, it's I've learned for myself, I'm very quick
to go to the assumption of a feeling that's not pleasant.
And so I would just encourage you being more vocal about what it is and being more direct,
maybe asking questions I've learned, I've learned so many things and I'm, I struggle
with this still.
When I have assumptions, instead of just believing the assumption, I've been coached myself
to ask more questions and get more clarity from someone before drawing an assumption.
So and then, and understand that not everybody is great, like not everybody that you're going
to communicate with is going to have good communication skills either.
So I hope that resonates with you.
I mean, you can let me know your feedback, like, how are you, what's, what's your response
to what I, what I shared?
Yeah.
What you just shared makes sense.
I know we're not supposed to label like people, but my mom is a covert narcissist.
So I've had trouble like navigating because I know like, there's just a lot of confusion
in our relationship.
So like, she can be very, very, very kind, very like with lovey dovey with words, like,
like sweet.
And then like completely opposite with like the silent treatment and stuff like that.
So I think, yeah, that's where my triggers.
And that's where I like, again, I think going back to your heart work.
Tools, you know, I think the biggest the biggest lesson I've learned in heart work is
You know, what? What am I believing about someone or something or myself?
is
it a lie and
Typically, it's a lie if it's not breathing life and you know
what God ensues, you know and
so when I can
Recognize what lie I'm believing
Then I can go and replace it with God's truth
so that's another skill that we learn in heart work and again like
You will always use and pick up heart work. Just it's I'm telling you ladies. I've been in this
program for four years and
I'm just now taking the book back up again like ladies like I had to end up like
Printing it for myself because I'm like I I like I'm a
Touch person and I'm waiting for it to get delivered to me in the mail because I've always had the e-book
I'm like, oh, no, I need to like get down and on this and so I
I will just tell you just go back to those heart work skills
they will be such a resource and such a tool and it's it is just a
It's really a gift from God
Which area would you say that I should look over again? Um,
I'm always one of those people might start at the beginning
You know go through that first part see what it's speaking to you I know
When I went through the heart work the first time I
Had a lot of things that came up in my past with my parents
My mom and my dad
That I was not expecting that. I thought I had worked through and so I think it was either the second week or the
third week
It was the one that was like about forgiveness
And that one I
Remember just a lot of stuff came up. And so give yourself grace and
Patience with yourself. Okay, and
It's not something that's going to be resolved overnight have patience with yourself and
again
Walk with God. Let's not try to do things in our own doing but partnering with him
And go from there
Okay, it's I'm good. Mm-hmm. All right
Thank you so much for being vulnerable and sharing your story
Thank you so much
Vulnerable and sharing that with us because I know that there's a lot of women on this call and on this replay
We will probably relate to you on so many levels
All right, thank you you're welcome
Hey Lucy, how are you? Good to see your face. How's laundry?
Hey good. We just got one whole load
Load folded and one more to go
For everyone else that's getting ready to pack grace
Are you going I am going to Southwest, Missouri to see my dad and I'm flying to Northwest, Florida to see my mom
So, where are you? Where are you located? I live in Northern, California in Reading
See, I definitely got some traveling going on. I do. I'm really I'm really thankful. It's a blessing this year to go
Yeah, I always love traveling because I always think those are like the best opportunities for God to just bring divine appointments
Yes, same I pray for those because you're sitting next to someone for an hour or three
Mm-hmm. Yes
Yes, and listen to Supernatural Saturday if you haven't because I think that'll be good. Okay, I will do that
I need some, you know positive motivation as I get you know, the list done today. So yes
Alright. Well, what do you have for us? Okay, so
um
Coming out of heart work. I found such an incredible acceleration God doing amazing things. Um,
I don't I feel that like honestly kind of embarrassed
I've been really hesitant to share because it feels like my experience feels different than others
for good or bad
and
That is that it's felt like there's been a lot of interest from them and it's how do I navigate that and I know it's the
Lord opening up things in heart work phase one took me forever
Um
Me too. Yeah, I
Get it. I still get it took me six months. Um
but so what I've been wondering now is the difference between
being not attracted to someone because it's just okay to be not attracted to that person or
or if I have heart issues blocking it, like for example, one thing that's kind of stood out to me
is I've, one of the people I was going on dates with, you know, was a little bit taller than me,
but, you know, he felt himself was a thin man. He's like, oh yeah, well, I'm just a skinny guy.
I've made peace with it, but, you know, which is fine, but he just felt so small and he was going
through health issues and I like to go to the gym. I like to hike and he's like, oh, my back hurts.
Oh, my indigestion today, but at the same time, amazing godly man, like so trustworthy.
So I'm just wondering how to navigate the difference between not being attracted to someone
or having heart issues blocking it. Okay, this is all good, good, good stuff. First of all,
I want to celebrate the courage that you had just to come and share because you said that
you've been reluctant to share and so, and out of that fear, and ladies, I, for whoever's hearing
this, like when you get this, like you want to share, but you're afraid to, it's, I've learned
that it's, it's good just to go ahead and share because if you have a fear of not sharing,
it must mean that something that you are going to share is going to impact somebody
and that's why the enemy wants to make you fearful of it.
So I, I, that I want, I just, I wanted to address that first and foremost, because I know that
happens in our community, that there's a lot of women that are just afraid. They're afraid
that they're, it's, it's looks different for them or whatever, like the enemy can come in and just,
just store and light us in so many different ways. And so it's why we really do encourage you ladies
to coming in the app and sharing, coming on lives, you know, and, and, and talking with us
because what you share will help give breakthrough to other women as well. Not just the women on
this call, but you know, we put this in replay, this one o'clock calls, the one that goes on
replay. So just know that what you're sharing, somebody else might resonate with. And so I love
that you bring up the, the, I like to call it the yes until to know, right. And we always want to,
like I, you know, we always encourage, like, you may not be physically attracted to someone the
first time you meet them. And I always joke, even now with my husband, like I was not physically
attracted to his photos before I met him. And there's been a lot of women in the community
that were not first physically attracted to their husbands. Bethany has shared that with Brian, but
there's been, if there's not that immediate physical attraction,
it's because there's other areas of attraction that grows. And so that's why we always encourage
you ladies to it's a yes until it's an app, like it's a no, but we ask that you give it at least
two or three dates before deciding it's a no. Now that doesn't mean you have to go on three dates
with a guy that's not respecting your boundaries. That's not being mature. That's being completely
inappropriate. Like, obviously those are like an absolute no, that's a red flag. You're out the
door. Okay. Some of y'all might not even make it to a date because the guy's being completely
inappropriate and you have to do the blessing block. Okay. But if you find that they're a nice
person, they're a godly person, you, and you know, you do enjoy some of the things that you do with
them, give it two or three dates. My, from what I'm hearing now, correct me. It sounds like you have
been on a couple of dates with him. Is that correct? We went on dates for five months. We just ended
on Saturday. Okay. So I think when you brought something up where you like to be outdoors,
you like to be active and he's bringing up things like he's not physically well and his back hurts
and all these things, it sounds like he's not going to be compatible to you because you are
going to be a person that desires to be out and about and you want to be active. So it,
would it be fair in saying that that's something that you desire that your spirit might have
the same, you know, tenacity and like interest and being able to be active with you? Like,
yeah. So if you're being
Presented that this guy is just not that
It doesn't mean that
He's not a bad guy. It just means he's not your spirit mate and you can and again
this is why I strongly encourage you ladies when you're dating at level two and
Level three and all these love like not to do the physical intimacy
Because that is when we will cloud
It all and I say that from my own personal experience
Okay, and I'm sure there's many of you ladies on this call do it probably have experienced some of the same things. Okay, so
But when we discover these things our heads are clear we can see and just be like look I think you're a great person
I'm not sure that we are a romantic match for the future
And this is this is the cool thing ladies when you're dating
Someone that really is a good great guy, but he's just not for you
You don't want to know what you get to do
You get it introduce them to this community where we have hundreds
ladies
My man might be their spirit mate
So
That's how I would navigate that stuff. So in
That situation there, but again, it's two or three dates like I
Had the same experience with a guy I dated we had gone on three dates. We had a fourth date plan. I
Wasn't super physically attracted to him. He was a decent-looking guy
there was some other quirky characteristics about him that I'm just like, I don't know and
I went back and forth back and forth and I just never had peace about continuing and I finally just
Released it and was like, okay God, I don't know if this is my person. This guy is really intentional. He's really sweet like
He desired he's marriage minded. He is mature. He seems like he's got stuff together
You know, I was questionable on some of the masculine like masculinity traits
But at the end of the day, I was like, okay God, I'm gonna release it
I'm gonna just end it but I know that if I
Made an oops
You are gonna have a way of bringing that man back in my life
Mm-hmm, and I cannot tell you for a year y'all
There was a couple of times where I thought and even Jackie would bring him up to me at times like hey
Whatever happened to that guy and I'm like, oh, maybe I need to reach out to him and I was like no
I
Wanted God to do the work. I'm not gonna go out and reach out after this guy. God's gonna make it very known
To me that this is my person and he's gonna bring him in in my life in some way. That's out of my own control and
When I was on a call with Jackie right before I met my husband
She'd actually asked about this guy and I questioned whether or not I should have gone
I mean I constantly went back and forth and so again, like it can be a no and if you release it
Just know you cannot mess up your spirit mate
You can't mess up who God has for you
When you're walking in God's alignment and you are taking the steps and you're moving forward
So what that I hope that gives you just a sense of relief when it comes to this like not being attracted
Okay, cuz ladies
even Jackie is told me she's like look like
Physical attraction doesn't have to come in the beginning it can grow but she's like but it is still important
It's not important early on per se because again, there's so many ways for intimacy to take place
Physical is like the last
intimacy piece, okay, and that's that's what happens when you enter into marriage and
And
And yeah, it's just like
She like she told me she's like
Y'all know Jackie so she was just like look like at some point if you've been dating this guy for
Three dates a couple weeks a month at least a month the three dates or whatever. She's like
You're gonna have to want it at some point get naked with this guy
Like if he's your spirit mate, you don't want get naked with them
All right
So if you are not wanting to do that like then guess what?
Don't torture yourself
Don't torture him like, you know
So just just know that that is it is important like physical attraction is important. It's not
the first part, though, if that makes sense.
It does, thank you so much.
Do you have time for just one last quick one?
Yeah, absolutely. Okay.
So I got a little confused on where in the program
we were supposed to make our list
of what we wanted or non-negotiables.
So that's gonna be in your phase one content.
Okay, sorry, it took me six months going through it
and I never saw where that was.
I, so ladies, in case you haven't known,
which I probably should have put this
in my housekeeping notes,
our app now has a new tab at the very top
and it says courses.
I don't know if you can see that.
If you click on courses,
then you'll have a list of the courses in the phase two.
So phase two, you'll only have
our Love Story Accelerator course,
which is what you're in now,
and then the Heartwork course from phase one.
So if you click on that,
it's gonna pull up all of the content.
I know there's like a,
off my phone, but it has all the content from phase one.
So I don't particularly remember,
because like I said,
I'm actually walking through the Heartwork again
and I'm only on part one.
And so I'm not sure where that falls.
I will follow up with that.
I think it's week three or four.
Week three or four, thank you with that, Jill.
Thank you so much.
So yeah, and one of those courses at the end,
so three, four, I think someone else,
Melissa, you're saying week five?
Yeah, it's one of the last ones.
Okay.
So yeah, I would just look through that content,
but now we have access to that.
So I'm super excited,
because I know that was a question I got often.
Like, hey, I'm looking for this video,
but I don't have access to it anymore, help me.
And then when y'all move into phase three,
you'll have the content from phase one and phase two,
so you can go back to and listen to the content as well.
Okay.
Well, ladies, it's about, it's 2.30 East Coast time.
So I'm going to send you ladies on your way.
I think we've covered a lot of really great things.
If I didn't get to cover your question,
or maybe you kind of were feeling shy
or intimidated and maybe fearful,
maybe the enemy's lying to you not to share,
and you feel more comfortable coming in the app,
go ahead, don't neglect your question.
Don't neglect what it is
that you feel like you want to share.
Please, please, please come put it in the group.
I think there was, I never went back to Holly's,
now that I'm just now saying that.
Okay, so yeah, she was just sharing,
and I think she even shared this in the app
of meeting a single guy,
and he invited her to this film company,
and she sent a follow-up email,
so she's going to keep us posted.
So that's good.
Okay, I'm just, I was hoping,
I just wanted to make sure she had a question I got,
but okay, ladies.
Well, it's been such a pleasure.
I'm going to, I did not pray at the beginning,
so I'm going to go ahead and pray us out,
and then I'm going to let you ladies go.
Remember, there is an eight o'clock session tonight as well,
if you want to get on that as well.
By all means, Ebony,
y'all, I don't know if you've ever been on a call with Ebony,
but that girl, she can truly hear from the Holy Spirit.
She's just got so much wisdom.
Like God speaks through her, like it's just good.
And yes, we are going to pray.
So Lucy, is that, was that from Lucy,
your father in the stroke?
And I'm going to pray for Joanne's father as well,
because he just experienced a stroke as well.
Audrina, you get to phase three
once you've watched all the content, one video a week.
So don't just like power through all the content,
all five videos.
One,
and,
one, sorry, I'm sitting here reading the chat
and I'm like trying to form a sentence here.
Oh, my multitasking skills.
So yeah, one video a week, five videos.
Once you've watched that content,
you've made it to some lines.
Once you've completed that and you've been here for a minimum of four to five weeks
Then you will send an email to admin at at Jack admin at Jackie Dorman calm
requesting to be moved to phase three and
So then they got the tech people there where they go back and follow up make sure that you have watched your videos
They check to see how long you've been in the group
And then they they release you to that. Okay
Melissa just confirmed week five. What's on your list is in the non it the non-negotiable sheet. So week five, Lucy
Okay
Awesome. All right. So heavenly father. I just thank you
So much for this time together God. I thank you for your just the way that you speak to us
And that you are so connected with us God
Lord I just pray over these women as they
Are you know many of them are sharing that they're battling being overwhelmed and I just pray that
They feel your presence and they they find their rest in you and instead of focusing on the
overwhelming
stresses that they
Fix their eyes on the as Judith shared early with us today in the app that the awe and wonder
And being overwhelmed in that way
And so lord, I just pray that over these women
Um as they they walk into this week and lord, I just pray for joanne's father
Lord, you are a healer
you have supernatural powers and miracles that can happen lord, and I just
Pray over over her father and that there is an acceleration
To getting him the rehabilitation that he needs so that he can be
On the road to recovery lord, and I just pray
That it's your will and the timing of his recovery
But that it is one that's exhilarated and that he comes back stronger than ever
That you just come and heal every ounce of his body
And the heavenly father again, I just I thank you for this time with these ladies
I just asked it to be with them. I asked them to release the
Expectations that they have in their own work, but they start to partner with the expectancy
That can be unlocked with the faith when they walk alongside you
Lord reveal to them all the areas that you are
um
Working in them and the ways that you want to accelerate the preparation so that the spirit mate will come
And I thank you for this time again. I thank you in all
Um in all of this in jesus name
amen
Amen
Thank you so much
Yes, ladies. Thank you. Always a pleasure. Have a great week and I will see you next week much. Bye. Bye
Bye