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Awesome.

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Okay, ladies, well, welcome to your phase two live check-in.

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It is December 17th, it is the one o'clock call.

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I am Carla Johnson.

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For those of you that don't know me, I am one of your coaches here in phase two.

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And I came to Walk Along Jackie back in 2020 when I joined the program.

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Back then it was not called Last Year Single, it was called, we called it M12M, Married

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in 12 Months or Less.

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But nothing's really changed besides the name, we still get, still doing her thing.

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And it's just been a really awesome journey to be able to go through this program myself,

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have success with it, and then get to come and pour that back into you all.

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So it's always such a great blessing to be here with you all on Tuesdays.

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So I'm curious, how many of you are on at the moment, and you are a new member to phase

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two?

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Just raise your avatar hand.

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I do see a couple new faces.

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Alyssa, Maureen, good to have you.

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I know Lucy's been here, but she said it's been a while since she's been on, so we're

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glad to have her back as well.

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Fantastic.

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So, so good to see you ladies.

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So I want to just do some quick housekeeping stuff with y'all.

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And then we will get into our time together.

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So I want to remind you ladies not to forget to watch the replay from the special session

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that we had for you all on Thursday.

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Raise your hand if you've gotten, you were able to join live on Thursday, or you've watched

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the replay.

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I just want to kind of get an idea of how many have watched it.

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Okay, it looks like about half of you.

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Okay, Marie, you have been on live, you haven't been on live, but doing replays.

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Well, Marie, I'm so happy that you're here with us.

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So good to see you.

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And okay, we got some people at work.

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So Thursday, so Thursday, there was a special session that all the phases were invited to.

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And ladies, I'm going to go ahead and ask you, some of you are already putting your

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avatar hands down, so you can go ahead and do that.

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Last Thursday, we had a special session, and we were joined by Bethany Hicks.

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And she is a friend of Jackie.

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And she is the, I think, founder or co founder of a prophetic ministry.

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And I, it's on the tip of my tongue, and I cannot remember it.

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But she is is a renowned speaker.

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And she, she's a great teacher.

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When I joined in 2020, I had the privilege of sitting through a course with her.

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And it just unlocks so many things.

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And so it was a great blessing for us to have her back with us on Thursday.

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And that session was how to hear God.

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And so I really want to encourage you all to make sure you watch that replay.

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If you want to participate in a special paid event that we're having on January 6,

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called prophesy your year, you are going to be required to watch that session.

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So if you want to, you know, want to pray a little bit about, you know,

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coming to that event on January 6.

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Again, it is a paid event.

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But it is phenomenal.

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Then make sure that you watch that, that session from Thursday.

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Okay.

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Also, ladies, I want to remind you not to forget to check out that resource tab.

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Because we recently put up the link and the details on our last trip single to Columbia.

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This is a second annual Jackie and David went there last year.

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And so they're going back again.

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And so if you want to hang out with them and go on a little vacay,

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then definitely jump on your resource tab and get information on that.

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And all the details will be there.

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What I will say is I did not go to Columbia last year, but I have been on a trip

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early on when I was in the community.

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And it was life changing.

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So if you can get there and you feel like you've got this burning desire to go,

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I will encourage you to just take the leap and check it out.

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Okay. So yeah, Lucy,

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she's heard a lot of testimonies about prophesy your year from others.

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When will we have info on prophesy your year?

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So you will have info as soon as we get it. As soon as we get it,

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we will make sure that we post in our app in our community. So don't worry.

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We will get all the details out to you again at like last I heard is that the

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event is on January 6th. So we've got about, it's like what,

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three weeks out I think. So it's a little afternoon here. So yeah,

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so that's all the information there. Just a friendly reminder,

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make sure you're showing up to live calls as you all are doing right now and

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that you are also in the app and you are engaging in the app as well.

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Again, if you are new,

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you're doing one video a week and you're coming into our community and you're

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sharing your takeaways with us and any, anything that's being revealed to you,

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any heartwork stuff, any dating that you're doing,

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that stuff we definitely want to hear because we're here to coach you through

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that dating process. It's really what phase two is here to support you with.

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And then as soon as you do all of that, you've completed the videos,

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you've come to lines and you've been in the phase two portion for a

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minimum of four to five weeks,

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then you can request to move on to phase three,

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which would just be an email to admin at Jackie Dorman.com.

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So the reason we say four to five weeks minimum is because again,

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we want you sitting with the contents,

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one video per week processing,

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just kind of like what we do in heartwork. Okay. In phase one.

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So we want you to kind of pace yourself with that.

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So we ask that you do that in phase two.

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Now that doesn't mean you have to get rushed out of here in four to five weeks.

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We understand life happens.

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We understand that sometimes we might need a week or two to kind of sit with the

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content a little bit longer. And so we understand that happens.

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But if you kind of start camping out in phase two for

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months, we're, we're gonna notice, and we're gonna,

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we're gonna like try to nudge you out of the nest and encourage you and,

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and be here to support you in ways that we can help you through phase two,

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that you can move on to all the exciting things that happen in phase three.

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Okay. And one last thing is just remember to connect with your sisters here in

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community. And so with that said, I'm going to go ahead and get us started.

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And what I would like for you ladies to do,

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and I've been doing this for the last couple of weeks,

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and I find that it is super helpful. I want you guys,

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I'm just going to take a couple minutes. I'm going to have you ladies in the chat.

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I want you to put up your contact info. So your email,

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your phone number, and maybe even where you're located.

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And the reason that I want you ladies to do that is because I really do want to

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encourage you ladies to reach out to someone new this week in this

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community.

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These are your sisters that are walking alongside you.

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And I say this from experience because I was in the seats that y'all are in.

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And I really did find some of my best friends in this community

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that live all over the United States.

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And some of them even live in other countries.

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One girl from our community,

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she lives in Australia and you know, I walked with her through,

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you know, her single season.

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And I remember the achings of her heart and sharing and just praying for her and

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supporting her and sharing in some of the

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experiences that she had.

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I was also experiencing and you know,

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just doing life with her and cool thing happened

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is a couple months after I got married

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and moved to Texas,

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she was getting engaged and she was getting married a few months after me.

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And now remind you, like she was living in Australia, y'all.

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She and her fiance were Australian,

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but they chose to get married in Texas.

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So they traveled to Austin and Jackie officiated their wedding.

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Like Jackie officiated mine and my husband's and I got to

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be witness to what was going on in my life.

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You know, my friends from Australia's marriage and her wedding.

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And so it was just a really cool experience.

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I can't tell you how many weddings I've been to in this community of friends of

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mine that I have have grown to know and love.

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And so I will just, again,

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it's just my plug for you ladies to connect with one another.

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And I know that our app, does it make it easy?

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That's why I always wanna allow the space here.

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So go ahead and look in that chat

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and allow God to highlight someone to you

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to reach out to this week.

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And I'm curious just if anyone wants to just quickly unmute

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and maybe share if they've done it

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and how that experience has gone

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and just maybe be short, brief and powerful.

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That way we can go ahead and move on to our next

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Anybody?

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Jill, I think I see you unmuted.

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Yeah, so I've actually chatted with a few people.

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So I've emailed with some, texted with some

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and even people who are across the world joined WhatsApp

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and we have a little chat going back and forth.

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So anybody, I put my email in there

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but I can give you my phone number too

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if you wanna text me.

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I'm always open to making new friends.

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Awesome, thanks Jill.

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So wonderful.

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So yeah, I just, I think it's important

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to allow you ladies that opportunity

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because I know it's a little bit harder on our app.

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And before we get started, I'm curious.

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And before I share kind of some things

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that God's been placing on my heart

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for activations for you ladies this week,

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I'm curious how has everyone felt

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about some of the activations from last week?

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so you might not know what I was talking about,

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totally fine.

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did the Holy Spirit highlight anything for you

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in those activations?

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And if you want to un-mic and unmute

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and be short, brief and powerful in your share,

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please go ahead and do so.

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I know one of your sisters today,

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I was reading an update from her in the app

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and she had shared about these antlers

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that she wore at work.

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God just really used those antlers to show her

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how fun she is and how like God used it

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to allow her to feel like she was being seen

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and seen by men.

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Like she had three dudes come up to her at work.

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God reminded, like kind of reminded me of that prompt,

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that activation that I gave you ladies last week

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to go buy a gift, a Christmas gift for your future husband.

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And so I just shared with her, I'm like, you know what?

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Those antlers would be a really cool gift

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for your future husband.

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You know, it doesn't have to be big.

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It's just like how cool she could, you know,

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gift this to her future husband

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and there is a story behind it

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and she can connect with her husband

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and how, you know, it was during a season

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where she was preparing for her marriage to him

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without knowing him.

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That's just something that to me,

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it was like, man, that would be a cool gift

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if she hadn't, or if she, you know,

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she wanted, she needed some ideas.

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So I'm curious, how did everyone feel

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to be good, bad, ugly, whatever you want to share?

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I'll give you a few minutes.

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So I got part of it.

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I, yeah, I think it's cool

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because I've been doing a lot of things by faith.

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And so it's neat to get an assignment

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to actually do it with other ladies.

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I bought a piece of guy's jewelry

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and the word I heard from my husband was kind.

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So I'm not done yet, but that's what I've,

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I was shopping for more,

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but I wasn't able to find what else I wanted.

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Oh, I love that.

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I just got chills.

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I love that.

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So good, so good.

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Thank you for sharing.

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Maureen, you've got your hand up.

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Did you want to share?

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Yeah, I have been praying about the book.

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I want to get my husband a book.

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I haven't gotten it yet,

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but I really want a special devotional

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that will help him be,

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that will touch his heart

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and reach to his heart to be the man he wants to be.

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Yeah, but I've been kind of struggling with it

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because I don't know what God's plan is.

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because there's been so many times I've thought

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I knew who that one is.

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when I'm thinking of who it might be.

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is I always kind of just follow peace.

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He is a God that will give us the peace

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that surpasses all understanding.

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if you want to sit with him a little longer,

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that's fine.

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gave you all this activation just to have you just sit with it for a little bit and if you

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prompted you felt prompted by the Holy Spirit to do it then awesome and if you need a few weeks

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that's cool too but it's just something to be thinking about. Mackenzie what do you got for us?

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So I didn't intentionally because I don't typically join the like afternoon call because

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I'm usually working but I bought a bunch of things for people's stockings and one of them

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was scratch off date cards and I was like you know what I'm going to actually keep some of

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these to do like into you know anticipating that this will be something that I'm doing so

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and I actually kept well one of my sisters is almost engaged but I also kept some for my other

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sister too to give to her as well so and she's not dating anyone yet but just as like a little

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bit of faith for her too so that's kind of fun yeah. So cool I love that I love that you got

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the date cards because I ended up doing something similar for my husband. Yeah. He is his love

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language is quality time and for him going on date night once a week was like so important to

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him like before we got married he prefaced like we will go on date night every week he's like when

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people get married they forget to date their spouse and he's like I do not want to be that

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person and so which is awesome but what I've noticed is that we oftentimes just kind of do

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the standard go out to eat come home watch Netflix and go to bed and I'm like no that's not

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like quality time and so I felt prompted to do something similar I got a bunch of different

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things I got the date like these little scratch date cards I got it's called like the adventure

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challenge for couples they have a book for travel because we both want to travel when our kids

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excuse me get older I mean we can travel a little bit now because we have older kids but not you

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know they're not super young but I thought that was cool and then a bucket list thing for the

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state of Texas because he's originally from here I was really reluctant to move out of the state

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of Florida but I did it for because God was just like you're moving this is where your husband is

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and so I thought it was really cool so I love that you had something similar so ladies I hope

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this generates some ideas some people bought a deck a deck of cards because that's what God spoke

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to them I think that's great so thank you Marie for sharing that with Adrena so yeah Adrena I

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just I gave an activation and I was just wanting y'all's feedback from last week and how it went

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so good good stuff all right so this week I was praying a little bit about some activations

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and what I felt prompted in my spirit and then I'll share a little bit more

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what yeah let me just start there so one thing I've noticed in the app is a lot of people sharing

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that and mentioning and then I this this is me included this feeling of being overwhelmed

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okay raise your hand your little avatar hand if you can relate to this just being a season

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where you just feel overwhelmed like holidays tend to do that for me it's a lot of extra stuff

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um and how like for me it's like sickness on top of that and so when you ladies share that I just

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want you to know like I'm right there with you I totally get get it I want you to know like

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I feel you all right and so I was I was praying about that and and holy spirit just reminded me

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and I think he was he was doing it for me but I also believe that he wants me to share this with

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you all as well and I was reminded of the jesus cares board from phase one how many of you

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remember the jesus cares board from phase one how many of you still have your jesus cares board and

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use it good okay so here's what mine was when I was in the program now this thing I literally

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just pulled it out of the back of my closet it has been back there for a year and a half since

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I moved here to Texas and I pulled all the stuff down and I'm like kicking myself because I don't

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know why I would have done that um so Lucy I'm guilty too because I just showed you mine and

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I have nothing on it and it's been in the back of my closet for

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year and a half. And so I was just reminded and Holy Spirit just told me like, cast your cares on

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me. It doesn't have to be an overwhelming season. So I'm going to prompt you ladies to get your

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Jesus Cares board and if you have these feelings of being overwhelmed, I want you to add to your

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board and I want you to take a picture of it and share it with us in the app. So I'm going to be

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working on mine this week. Like I said, you see mine, like mine, I just have those little like

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color sheets and then I just put them on the background and it's just those like work boards.

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And so I'm going to throw some post-its, some cards up there and I'm going to,

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some of the things I'm feeling overwhelmed with lately, I'm going to reactivate that

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and reactivate casting that on him. And so again, that's one of them.

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So yes, you, this is good. I mean, I need to put what's coming up from dating. That's good.

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That is good because that's what we're going to get in today. Some of the stuff that I'm

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seeing getting stirred up in y'all when you're out on these dates. And so God gave me another

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download the last couple of days of things that I felt on my heart was important to share with

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you ladies. Having walked through this, having walked through a single season myself in this

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community. Okay. So I think it's so important. Like I, I've been where y'all have been and now

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I'm on this other side of it, but I will tell you, I still have to activate all the things I've

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learned in heartwork. And so, you know, if you haven't watched supernatural Saturday,

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I really want to encourage you to do that. Ladies, I want that to be a weekly activation for you.

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If you can't attend live, listen to those replays. Okay. Cause that will activate your faith as well.

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And so that happened to me when I was listening to supernatural Saturday

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and some things that came up was that God doesn't look at the outside. He looks at the inside and

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he looks at the heart. And Jackie, you know, shared with us to start praying to God to let

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me know people after the spirit and not after the flesh. And if someone is not doing something

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that you hope that they would ask God to show them, show you them after the spirit and not

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the flesh. And I really felt that was so prominent to what I see in this community

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month after month. It's not just the lady, like you ladies here in this community right now,

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because we get a circle of you ladies. So many of you will move on to phase three, the ladies

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from phase one shift into phase two. And I just get this like revolving door of ladies coming in.

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And it is a frequent thing that happens is, and something that I felt that the Lord was speaking to

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me to spread with you and things that I had to go through and what I had experienced in my

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process in this community was that we sometimes forget that there is this

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difference between expectations and expectancy.

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And I shared with one of your sisters here in the community, they shared something that

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they were struggling with in roll call and just Holy Spirit just came on me very

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heavy about that. And my response and something that I really felt the Lord say is

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expectations can lead to disappointment when people don't measure up to what you want them to

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be. And so we're putting expectations on others and not on God, then we're taking away what God

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wants to do with us and our expectancy because expectancy is a hope that leads to faith that

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something pleasant can arise through the experience. And so I sat on it and I'm like,

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I know that this is part of heartwork. And so I went back to my heartwork book

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and I looked in my little table of contents and would you know that the chapter on expectancy

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is the very first chapter. And I was like, oh, well, of course it is.

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That's like the key ingredient, right? And

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you know, maybe hurt or sad or discouraged or hopeless or angry or resentful, because

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what you're experiencing, these guys that you're going on dates with, or maybe in just people and

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relationships in general, because it doesn't just apply to people you're dating. It can apply to

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your friends. It can apply to your family, your coworkers, you know, church friends, whatever.

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And so if you are sensing this, I would really strongly encourage you to go back to that first

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chapter in heartwork. And so that's going to lead me to Mackenzie. You're still on here with me,

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right? I am. Yeah, I'm here. Awesome. Are you cool with me reading your post? Yeah. Because

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I really do feel like a lot of what I shared with someone in roll call and what I felt,

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Holy Spirit speaking to me and what I felt like Jackie was even touching on this week

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on supernatural Saturday, kind of ties into what you're experiencing. So I want to make sure.

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Okay. All right. So your sister Mackenzie shared something in the app on the ask a coach tabs. And

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so I'm just going to, okay. Cause I've been talking to a guy for about a week and we're

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hitting it off and getting to know one another. He was definitely pursuing throughout the process.

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And he initiated the first date. We did a FaceTime on Saturday and it felt,

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it felt like a really good date. He had some, and I had some intense fear and scarcity after

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the date, which I think was less about him and more about God showing me some heart boxes that

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need to be unpacked. Some after a few days though, I kind of feel him pulling back a bit.

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It feels weird because it seems like we mesh so well, but I also know that God may be protecting

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me in this space. All that being said, I'm struggling with how to do this dating for

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discovery. Well, I've struggled dreaming about this area of my life. And when I do get excited

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about a guy like this, which tends to not be as frequent, it is harder to process emotionally,

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the loss of it, not moving forward. Obviously I don't want it. If it's not God's plan,

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it just feels, it just more feels like an emotional roller coaster. And I'm trying to

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stay encouraged while still acknowledging that I am bummed because I enjoyed getting to know him.

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Also, to be fair, he hasn't fully cut it off at this point, but I have been battling with

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these emotions a bit. And I'm trying to figure out how to process well, because I want to be

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in, I don't want to be in an unhealthy headspace. Sorry for the long post. Okay. No worries. Okay.

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Um, so there was a couple of things that stood out for me. Um, first of all,

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the, you're struggling with how to do this dating or discovery. Well,

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can I just express to you my own personal dating was there were ups and downs. And so I, I want to

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release over you ladies that there's no perfect way to date. Okay. Let's not hold ourself to such

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a standard that we can't have this ebb and flow these ups and downs, because we're going to

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experience it. And that's okay. I really want you ladies not to get so hard on yourself about

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following rules, but it's more guidelines. Cause let me tell you, there have been so many,

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there were so many times when I was dating and that I just didn't do it well. And then there

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were other times that God showed me after reading your post where there was one time that I did do

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it well. And, and so I was very much reminded of when I did it well, it was because I was

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partnering with Holy spirit. And again, it, that kind of ties to the expectancy, the hope,

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the faith that, that gets ignited in it and letting go of the expectation of what I thought

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dating needed to look like, what the guy needed to do, how he needed to respond. I like in my mind,

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I can often, let me put it this way. I can often put God in a box. Like it's gotta look

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this certain way. He's going to show up in this certain way. But I forget that God is not a God.

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where he's in this box and so I want to encourage you ladies of letting go of

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some expectations of what dating may need to look like, how it might need to

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look, feel, see, act, whatever and start partnering with the fact that any

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interaction that you're having on dates it can be used as an upgrade and I say

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this frequently and when we start partnering with that so much more can be

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unlocked and Jackie said something on Supernatural Saturday and I'm always

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thankful when she says this because now that I'm on this other side and I I'm

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married I wish I heard more about how challenging and hard that marriage can

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be because I had this false idea that when I got married everything was just

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gonna fall into place and I'm that was my expectation and my expectations have

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been not that great like it hasn't happened and so there's been some

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struggle but not in a bad way but in a growing way that God is coming to use

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this marriage as a point of refining and that iron sharpens iron stuff and

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so I think it's so important to remember that this preparation period is that

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it's preparing you for that next step and she even mentions on that call

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you're gonna want to be as much prepared stepping into the next season

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that you're gonna enter into it's gonna be good she always says it doesn't have

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to be easy it's just got to be worth it and a lot of times some of the hard

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things that we go through is truly worth it and so I say that to encourage you

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ladies to understand that in the dating process God can use all these

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interactions good bad ugly to prepare you to heal areas of your heart because

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what can happen if we don't heal those areas we can end up sabotaging those

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future relationships if we don't have the expectancy that God's just going to

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do something incredible and he can do some pretty amazing things even with

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people that are not your spirit mate so all that being said Mackenzie I still

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want to address like the struggle okay because I know I can sit here and

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verbalize it but it's like okay like great right and one thing that came up

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to me is that there can be the both ends you can we can get hopeful we can be

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disappointed if it doesn't turn out the way that we want but I want to also

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remind you to shift focus on what is God doing in that process because there are

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so many good things that are unlocking like for one you mentioned God showing

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me some heart boxes that need to be unpacked that's important so whether

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this guy's your spirit mate or not God's using this guy to show up and help you

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with things that God wants to work on in you and so I hope that helps you

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ladies as you go into interacting with guys on dates and getting to know them

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and I hope that just kind of helps a little bit good so I guess I still have

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everybody with me yeah a lot of you are not on camera right now so I'm like

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where is everybody I was walking I've been waiting for my car to get new

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tires I've been walking I didn't want to distract you guys I love it I love it

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but yeah that's everything you're hitting everything I'm thinking right

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now okay good good and that's and that was the cool thing like I was sitting

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with the Holy Spirit with this for the last couple of days and I hadn't

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listened to Supernatural Saturday until late last

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night and a lot of the things that Jackie was even releasing to y'all I'm

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like oh my goodness it makes perfect sense this is what's going on I'm like

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it's just confirmation of just how invested and involved our God really is

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and let me tell you God is really invested in y'all's love stories okay I

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can speak from my own example I can speak from what I've seen in this

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community he really really does like write some pretty awesome love stories

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and so one more thing that I kind of want to get into because this kind of

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falls along the same thing here and I'm gonna ask you ladies this question I

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want you ladies to be thinking about this when you're having dating

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experiences or any experience in relationship whether it's friends family

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all of that are you aligning your belief that God is using that interaction in

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this season or phase as a way to invest in preparation and growth for what he

449
00:36:07.320 --> 00:36:11.920
has for for you and your future so whether that's your love story or your

450
00:36:11.920 --> 00:36:17.640
purpose your destiny DNA with what what you're believing about an interaction

451
00:36:17.640 --> 00:36:24.880
with someone is it aligning with the fact that God wants to use that to help

452
00:36:24.880 --> 00:36:36.000
prepare you and grow you in the season ahead or are we aligning with a belief

453
00:36:36.000 --> 00:36:43.480
that we might be wasting our time when we discover somebody isn't what we want

454
00:36:43.480 --> 00:36:48.040
them to be or what we think they're gonna be or what we would like for them

455
00:36:48.040 --> 00:36:50.320
to be

456
00:36:50.800 --> 00:36:57.000
because that's when sometimes we can get in our own way

457
00:36:57.000 --> 00:37:03.760
and I was reading the chapter the first chapter of heart work right before I

458
00:37:03.800 --> 00:37:13.200
jumped on this call and I highlighted this God is a God I've added a couple

459
00:37:13.200 --> 00:37:18.040
things God is a God of seasons of order and of timing what are you expecting to

460
00:37:18.040 --> 00:37:22.160
happen in this season for you get it in your mind right now and then verbalize

461
00:37:22.160 --> 00:37:26.880
it speak it out loud sometimes we don't even know what we want until we hear

462
00:37:26.880 --> 00:37:32.880
voices saying it out loud and I really want us to tap in like what we want God

463
00:37:32.880 --> 00:37:39.000
to do for us in this season what do we expect him to do in this season because

464
00:37:39.000 --> 00:37:43.040
that's the face that leads to that expectancy instead of having

465
00:37:43.040 --> 00:37:47.840
expectations on others to do things that we want them to do because you know what

466
00:37:47.840 --> 00:37:52.600
God showed me this week when I have a lot of expectations it's because I'm a

467
00:37:52.600 --> 00:37:58.640
control freak some of you might be able to relate to me but that is one area

468
00:37:58.640 --> 00:38:03.520
that I totally struggle in another thing that I felt was really important

469
00:38:03.520 --> 00:38:15.000
to share is that if what if what you are expecting you can have but it will first

470
00:38:15.000 --> 00:38:22.720
require some endings so often we try to have beginnings without endings and so I

471
00:38:22.880 --> 00:38:29.080
think that's so important so that some of us may need to have an ending with

472
00:38:29.080 --> 00:38:36.160
our belief on what dating is supposed to look like or what we want dating to look

473
00:38:36.160 --> 00:38:45.000
like and look at what God wants it to look like because of what is your

474
00:38:45.000 --> 00:38:49.960
deepest desire of your heart what's that whisper what does he want to do in your

475
00:38:49.960 --> 00:38:57.160
heart that's going to prepare you and bring bring you that spirit mate that

476
00:38:57.160 --> 00:39:03.680
you so desire that he's so he's he's investing in that and going to give that

477
00:39:03.680 --> 00:39:15.360
to you and so I just want to encourage like us letting go of this I've seen this

478
00:39:15.360 --> 00:39:19.920
a couple of times come up and I just want to emphasize it again because I

479
00:39:19.920 --> 00:39:24.720
just think maybe someone else needs to hear it is we've got to let go that

480
00:39:24.720 --> 00:39:31.880
we're wasting our time with the wrong guys

481
00:39:31.960 --> 00:39:37.280
because sometimes those guys that we're on dates with that may not be our spirit

482
00:39:37.280 --> 00:39:44.600
mate can like Mackenzie whether this man is her spirit mate or not it's still

483
00:39:44.600 --> 00:39:52.720
allowing God to unlock some things and help her unpack what he wants her to

484
00:39:52.720 --> 00:39:55.160
unpack

485
00:39:56.480 --> 00:39:59.480
cool

486
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:02.800
Anybody resonate and relate to this?

487
00:40:04.160 --> 00:40:06.800
I wanna just un-mic and kind of share.

488
00:40:06.800 --> 00:40:08.920
I wanna get you ladies talking here.

489
00:40:08.920 --> 00:40:11.020
We're about 40 minutes after.

490
00:40:11.020 --> 00:40:13.320
I wanna be able to take some of your questions

491
00:40:13.320 --> 00:40:15.560
on online dating.

492
00:40:15.560 --> 00:40:19.220
If you un-mic, I wanna hear from you ladies.

493
00:40:19.220 --> 00:40:22.060
However, we've got a lot of you on the call today,

494
00:40:22.060 --> 00:40:26.820
which is, I think this is the most I've had in for so long.

495
00:40:26.820 --> 00:40:29.740
Let's see, I've got one, two, three, four, five.

496
00:40:30.000 --> 00:40:35.000
Six, times three is 18, minus one is 17.

497
00:40:36.760 --> 00:40:38.500
19 of y'all.

498
00:40:39.400 --> 00:40:42.960
Like, that is like a record for Tuesday one o'clock.

499
00:40:42.960 --> 00:40:44.320
I love it.

500
00:40:44.320 --> 00:40:46.320
Think it's because the holidays are coming up.

501
00:40:46.320 --> 00:40:48.960
Good stuff.

502
00:40:48.960 --> 00:40:52.640
So I wanna leave space for y'all, okay?

503
00:40:52.640 --> 00:40:54.640
And so I wanna get feedback.

504
00:40:54.640 --> 00:40:56.080
I wanna hear your thoughts.

505
00:40:56.080 --> 00:40:58.320
I wanna hear your heart.

506
00:40:58.360 --> 00:41:02.520
I would love for you to also be thinking of questions

507
00:41:02.520 --> 00:41:05.160
that you have about online dating,

508
00:41:05.160 --> 00:41:09.000
because our week this week is on online dating.

509
00:41:09.000 --> 00:41:11.340
That's the video we kind of discuss.

510
00:41:11.340 --> 00:41:13.920
But I know last week we had some people

511
00:41:13.920 --> 00:41:15.220
had questions about online dating,

512
00:41:15.220 --> 00:41:17.800
and I promised that we would get to questions

513
00:41:17.800 --> 00:41:19.480
on that this week.

514
00:41:19.480 --> 00:41:22.440
So I do see some hands up.

515
00:41:22.440 --> 00:41:24.260
If you have a question about online dating

516
00:41:24.260 --> 00:41:26.960
or need to share something you can't un-mic,

517
00:41:26.960 --> 00:41:28.800
go ahead and type it up in the chat.

518
00:41:30.080 --> 00:41:32.540
When you share, ladies, this is super important,

519
00:41:32.540 --> 00:41:33.960
and I'm really bad at this,

520
00:41:33.960 --> 00:41:35.700
and I'm really bad at cutting people off,

521
00:41:35.700 --> 00:41:37.660
but I have to get better at it.

522
00:41:37.660 --> 00:41:39.280
We all have to get better at it,

523
00:41:39.280 --> 00:41:42.780
is I need you keeping it short, brief, and powerful.

524
00:41:42.780 --> 00:41:45.200
I need like the highlight reel

525
00:41:45.200 --> 00:41:48.200
of like your question or your thought.

526
00:41:48.200 --> 00:41:53.200
And it's gotta be in like 90 seconds, okay?

527
00:41:53.200 --> 00:41:57.520
So Mackenzie, I see your hand up.

528
00:41:57.520 --> 00:42:02.300
Then I see Joanne, Maureen, Jill, Eris, and Lucy.

529
00:42:05.200 --> 00:42:08.540
So Mackenzie, you go first.

530
00:42:08.540 --> 00:42:09.640
Mine was just really fast.

531
00:42:09.640 --> 00:42:10.480
I don't have any questions,

532
00:42:10.480 --> 00:42:13.320
but something as I was kind of like processing yesterday

533
00:42:13.320 --> 00:42:17.800
that I just wanted to share that really came out for me

534
00:42:17.800 --> 00:42:21.680
was focusing on what I did learn from that relationship

535
00:42:21.680 --> 00:42:23.320
and what I did like.

536
00:42:23.320 --> 00:42:26.680
And so that's something that I just,

537
00:42:26.680 --> 00:42:29.160
even now walking away from it,

538
00:42:29.160 --> 00:42:33.280
because acknowledging the sadness and processing that,

539
00:42:33.280 --> 00:42:38.280
but okay, what did I really like about that relationship?

540
00:42:38.300 --> 00:42:40.500
Because the truth is, and I'll be really quick,

541
00:42:40.500 --> 00:42:42.920
but the truth is that I know that God

542
00:42:42.920 --> 00:42:45.520
has a very intentional purpose for me

543
00:42:45.520 --> 00:42:47.120
and my husband's life.

544
00:42:47.120 --> 00:42:50.800
And so I want someone who's gonna be a part of that.

545
00:42:50.800 --> 00:42:53.480
And so I'm trying to like go back

546
00:42:53.480 --> 00:42:56.720
and kind of have like a helicopter view in that respect,

547
00:42:56.720 --> 00:43:01.080
but focus in on, okay, but what about that interaction

548
00:43:01.080 --> 00:43:04.560
did God have, like what was attractive to me?

549
00:43:04.560 --> 00:43:08.240
And then take that into my like list of values that I want.

550
00:43:08.240 --> 00:43:09.620
And I was gonna type it out,

551
00:43:09.620 --> 00:43:11.760
but then I was like, I'm just gonna say it really fast.

552
00:43:11.760 --> 00:43:12.600
But I was-

553
00:43:12.600 --> 00:43:13.420
I love that.

554
00:43:13.420 --> 00:43:14.560
Like that right there,

555
00:43:14.560 --> 00:43:17.720
you're unlocking all that this program has to offer

556
00:43:17.720 --> 00:43:19.660
when you're stepping into dating.

557
00:43:19.660 --> 00:43:21.700
I went through that same experience.

558
00:43:21.700 --> 00:43:25.820
I had to date a lot of guys that were not the right guy,

559
00:43:25.820 --> 00:43:27.620
but ladies, let me tell you,

560
00:43:28.900 --> 00:43:32.620
God is so intentional on who he has for you.

561
00:43:32.620 --> 00:43:37.420
And when we allow him to kind of drive,

562
00:43:38.880 --> 00:43:41.300
it's gonna like blow your socks off.

563
00:43:41.300 --> 00:43:44.420
Like the confirmation, if you sit with Holy Spirit

564
00:43:44.420 --> 00:43:47.260
and allow him to show you confirmation

565
00:43:47.260 --> 00:43:48.940
of who your spirit mate is,

566
00:43:48.940 --> 00:43:50.380
and it's not of your own doing,

567
00:43:50.380 --> 00:43:52.300
like you're not going to go and try to confirm

568
00:43:52.300 --> 00:43:54.580
and look for signs and wonders

569
00:43:54.580 --> 00:43:55.420
and all that kind of stuff.

570
00:43:55.420 --> 00:43:57.860
But God will just speak to you

571
00:43:59.060 --> 00:44:01.920
in ways that I can't tell you,

572
00:44:01.920 --> 00:44:03.700
you're gonna understand why

573
00:44:04.900 --> 00:44:07.260
it didn't work with all those people

574
00:44:07.260 --> 00:44:11.100
and why God is highlighting this person to you.

575
00:44:11.100 --> 00:44:12.260
Doesn't mean that you're not gonna have trials

576
00:44:12.260 --> 00:44:14.940
and tribulations and ups and downs with your person.

577
00:44:14.940 --> 00:44:16.940
Okay, that's part of marriage,

578
00:44:16.940 --> 00:44:21.660
but it's gonna be like that knowing

579
00:44:21.660 --> 00:44:25.900
and knowing his intention that he has in your love story,

580
00:44:25.900 --> 00:44:28.700
I will tell you from my own experience

581
00:44:28.700 --> 00:44:33.700
has been the glue that has helped me through the tough times

582
00:44:35.420 --> 00:44:40.420
with blending my family and learning how to be a wife.

583
00:44:42.220 --> 00:44:44.860
It's new for me, it's a new concept, okay?

584
00:44:44.860 --> 00:44:46.340
So I love that, Mackenzie.

585
00:44:46.340 --> 00:44:48.060
Thank you so much for sharing.

586
00:44:48.940 --> 00:44:51.540
Joanne, I see your hand up.

587
00:44:51.540 --> 00:44:53.740
You're cruising in your car.

588
00:44:53.740 --> 00:44:57.820
Hi, yes, heading to see my dad at the hospital.

589
00:44:57.820 --> 00:45:00.180
Yes, by the way, how is he doing?

590
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:11.000
He's good. He's getting better. He had a stroke, so he has right-sided weakness, so we're just waiting for him to go to rehab, and it's taking forever.

591
00:45:11.000 --> 00:45:18.000
So hopefully today's the day he gets to go to rehab, and as soon as he does rehab, as soon as he can come home.

592
00:45:18.000 --> 00:45:22.000
Yes. Well, we're going to pray for that accelerated process.

593
00:45:22.000 --> 00:45:25.000
Yes. Amen. Amen.

594
00:45:25.000 --> 00:45:26.000
What you got for us?

595
00:45:26.000 --> 00:45:42.000
So the two things, really quick, what you were saying about not wasting the time, you know, feeling like this is a waste of time because this person is not my spirit mate, as we're exploratory dating.

596
00:45:42.000 --> 00:45:47.000
So it's like, how do we transition other than speaking it into existence?

597
00:45:47.000 --> 00:45:56.000
Because the guys that I'm saying yes to or swiping right to, I mean, they're not bad.

598
00:45:56.000 --> 00:46:03.000
They're not horrible, so to speak, but I don't have a genuine, like, oh, my God, this is a cutie.

599
00:46:03.000 --> 00:46:06.000
Oh, my God, look, look, look, all these qualities, bang, bang, bang.

600
00:46:06.000 --> 00:46:07.000
I can't wait to meet him.

601
00:46:07.000 --> 00:46:10.000
Like you were saying, suck his face or something like that.

602
00:46:11.000 --> 00:46:19.000
You know, because I actually went on a date the other day, and it was like, that was the Massachusetts guy.

603
00:46:19.000 --> 00:46:29.000
I finally went on a date with him, and I had no, it was just a total, like, I felt like I was just, whatever, because I knew he didn't want children.

604
00:46:29.000 --> 00:46:36.000
So it's like, so how do I tell myself or transition into the mindset of, like, I know this is exploratory.

605
00:46:36.000 --> 00:46:37.000
I'm exploring myself.

606
00:46:37.000 --> 00:46:39.000
They're exploring me.

607
00:46:39.000 --> 00:46:41.000
You know, it will come.

608
00:46:41.000 --> 00:46:45.000
Like you said, all things work together, because right now I'm like, hmm.

609
00:46:46.000 --> 00:46:56.000
Well, I kind of was just reminded, and I think I have it in my notes here, too, is what Jackie shared on Supernatural Saturday Call.

610
00:46:56.000 --> 00:46:59.000
Did you get to watch that or attend it?

611
00:46:59.000 --> 00:47:01.000
I was listening to some of it.

612
00:47:01.000 --> 00:47:02.000
I got to finish the rest.

613
00:47:02.000 --> 00:47:08.000
Okay, well, there's a part, and I don't want to do a spoiler alert, but I did kind of already share it a little bit.

614
00:47:09.000 --> 00:47:17.000
But she has us going to God and asking him to, Lord, let me know people after the spirit, not after the flesh.

615
00:47:17.000 --> 00:47:23.000
And so even when we are on a date with someone that we just kind of know, like, this is not going to be my spirit mate.

616
00:47:23.000 --> 00:47:32.000
Like you said, you have a desire to have children, and he was very, you know, vocal about that not being in his future.

617
00:47:32.000 --> 00:47:37.000
I would then just enjoy the time that you have with him.

618
00:47:37.000 --> 00:47:41.000
What can you learn about him?

619
00:47:41.000 --> 00:47:47.000
And maybe ask, again, ask God, like, let me know this person in the spirit.

620
00:47:47.000 --> 00:47:49.000
What is such a really great quality?

621
00:47:49.000 --> 00:47:51.000
What makes him unique?

622
00:47:51.000 --> 00:47:58.000
What makes him, you know, a special gift to his spirit mate?

623
00:47:58.000 --> 00:48:00.000
Because guess what, ladies?

624
00:48:00.000 --> 00:48:05.000
All these guys that you are dating may not be your spirit mate, but guess what?

625
00:48:05.000 --> 00:48:09.000
That man is probably somebody else's spirit mate.

626
00:48:09.000 --> 00:48:16.000
So looking at them from an eyes of, like, I just really, truly want to know them better.

627
00:48:16.000 --> 00:48:27.000
Like, one prayer that I had had for myself before literally was the tipping point for me in the divine appointment as to why I came into this community

628
00:48:27.000 --> 00:48:38.000
is because I, for a really long time, prayed to God, God, I need you to show me, I need me to, how did I word this?

629
00:48:38.000 --> 00:48:43.000
Lord, help me to see myself the way that you see me.

630
00:48:43.000 --> 00:48:46.000
Because I really struggle with my identity and my worth.

631
00:48:46.000 --> 00:48:49.000
But I also want to take it a step further.

632
00:48:49.000 --> 00:49:00.000
It's not just me seeing myself as God sees me, but ladies, can you enter some of these dates and look at some of these guys through God's eyes?

633
00:49:00.000 --> 00:49:03.000
How does God see these men?

634
00:49:03.000 --> 00:49:05.000
What is their fruit there?

635
00:49:05.000 --> 00:49:08.000
Again, we want to be in fruit inspectors.

636
00:49:08.000 --> 00:49:11.000
So I would just maybe encourage you to do that.

637
00:49:11.000 --> 00:49:15.000
That's kind of what's coming up to me.

638
00:49:16.000 --> 00:49:18.000
I hope that that helps.

639
00:49:18.000 --> 00:49:24.000
And then report back to us if that's something that you, you know, attempt to do and how it works for you.

640
00:49:24.000 --> 00:49:25.000
Sound good?

641
00:49:25.000 --> 00:49:26.000
Yeah.

642
00:49:26.000 --> 00:49:31.000
I mean, I met someone on Hinge, you know, quickly.

643
00:49:31.000 --> 00:49:35.000
We did a virtual Zoom.

644
00:49:35.000 --> 00:49:43.000
At first, he was hesitant, but I was like, no, you know, because people think that whenever I set up a Zoom, they're like, oh, no, it's AI, she's going to catfish me.

645
00:49:43.000 --> 00:49:46.000
And I'm like, no, it's just me.

646
00:49:46.000 --> 00:49:48.000
That totally does happen.

647
00:49:48.000 --> 00:49:51.000
Like, it's mind boggling.

648
00:49:51.000 --> 00:49:52.000
Yeah.

649
00:49:52.000 --> 00:49:55.000
So, but he said he took a chance and he was pleasantly surprised.

650
00:49:55.000 --> 00:49:57.000
So very talkative.

651
00:49:57.000 --> 00:50:00.000
And so we're going to schedule a coffee and see how it goes.

652
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:02.040
but go, God keep you posted.

653
00:50:02.040 --> 00:50:03.360
Awesome, I love it.

654
00:50:04.280 --> 00:50:05.400
Thank you, thank you, thank you.

655
00:50:05.400 --> 00:50:07.400
All right, Jill, how are you?

656
00:50:09.280 --> 00:50:13.240
Hi, I really appreciate you ladies sharing so far

657
00:50:13.240 --> 00:50:15.800
because I'm resonating with a lot

658
00:50:15.800 --> 00:50:16.840
of what you guys are saying.

659
00:50:16.840 --> 00:50:17.980
So thank you for that.

660
00:50:19.200 --> 00:50:22.920
So I have shared in the past that, you know,

661
00:50:22.920 --> 00:50:27.000
I am definitely looking at just like meeting these people,

662
00:50:27.000 --> 00:50:28.520
getting to know them, like you're saying.

663
00:50:28.560 --> 00:50:30.840
So that's, you know, what I'm doing,

664
00:50:30.840 --> 00:50:35.600
but, you know, it's really hard

665
00:50:35.600 --> 00:50:37.840
because it's not progressing.

666
00:50:37.840 --> 00:50:40.640
The guys that I have had any sort of like phone dates

667
00:50:40.640 --> 00:50:45.100
or whatever with have not gone anywhere.

668
00:50:45.100 --> 00:50:49.960
And then a lot of these chats, they just die off.

669
00:50:49.960 --> 00:50:54.560
I don't really feel like there's anybody in this area anyway

670
00:50:54.560 --> 00:50:58.200
that I'm gonna meet on an app, but I'm trying to be open.

671
00:50:59.040 --> 00:51:03.680
So I am trying to just work on not feeling so discouraged

672
00:51:03.680 --> 00:51:05.440
with it, because it's really hard.

673
00:51:06.760 --> 00:51:09.680
So I don't know if you have any advice

674
00:51:09.680 --> 00:51:12.920
of kind of like what to do,

675
00:51:13.800 --> 00:51:16.480
because I don't, you know, as I say every week,

676
00:51:16.480 --> 00:51:19.120
like I don't feel like I'm supposed to stay here anyway.

677
00:51:19.120 --> 00:51:21.080
I feel like I'm gonna relocate.

678
00:51:21.080 --> 00:51:25.880
What's interesting is like you have kind of an experience

679
00:51:25.880 --> 00:51:28.760
that was opposite of me, and it's really unique

680
00:51:28.760 --> 00:51:33.340
because I was living in an area where, again,

681
00:51:33.340 --> 00:51:35.480
there wasn't a whole lot of people.

682
00:51:35.480 --> 00:51:37.880
It was, you know, I lived in Sarasota, Florida.

683
00:51:38.860 --> 00:51:43.860
It is predominantly a more older demographic

684
00:51:45.640 --> 00:51:49.440
and not a lot of, like at the time I was in my late 30s,

685
00:51:49.440 --> 00:51:53.040
I'm now 41, and so a lot of people my age

686
00:51:53.040 --> 00:51:55.600
like were already married.

687
00:51:56.200 --> 00:51:58.240
And had families.

688
00:51:58.240 --> 00:52:01.000
And so I was in a different situation

689
00:52:01.000 --> 00:52:06.000
where I wanted to stay in my area, but there wasn't.

690
00:52:06.920 --> 00:52:11.920
And so, and God had to really work on me for some time

691
00:52:15.000 --> 00:52:17.920
to kind of let go of what I thought was a non-negotiable,

692
00:52:17.920 --> 00:52:20.760
because I, by golly, was not gonna move.

693
00:52:20.760 --> 00:52:22.600
I was staying in Florida.

694
00:52:22.640 --> 00:52:25.080
I even had this like non-negotiable

695
00:52:25.080 --> 00:52:27.400
that I was having another baby.

696
00:52:28.280 --> 00:52:32.040
And, you know, God had to work on me in that.

697
00:52:32.040 --> 00:52:35.600
And, you know, I married a man

698
00:52:35.600 --> 00:52:37.840
that did not want to have more children,

699
00:52:37.840 --> 00:52:42.840
but came with children, and then lived in Texas

700
00:52:43.960 --> 00:52:46.680
and was not moving from Texas, so I had to move there.

701
00:52:46.680 --> 00:52:51.560
And so it was, it's, mine's a little bit opposite

702
00:52:51.560 --> 00:52:53.040
because I was reluctant.

703
00:52:53.040 --> 00:52:54.960
I'm like, no, I'm gonna stay here.

704
00:52:54.960 --> 00:52:57.760
But again, it's that being open and just being like,

705
00:52:57.760 --> 00:53:00.480
okay, God, whatever you wanna do.

706
00:53:00.480 --> 00:53:04.520
And so I think you are at,

707
00:53:04.520 --> 00:53:06.920
I think you have a good opportunity here

708
00:53:06.920 --> 00:53:11.760
with the idea that you are open to moving

709
00:53:11.760 --> 00:53:16.120
so you can broaden your radius a little bit.

710
00:53:16.120 --> 00:53:18.560
I know you said in the last couple weeks

711
00:53:18.560 --> 00:53:21.040
that the app, or how many apps are you on?

712
00:53:21.720 --> 00:53:22.560
Three.

713
00:53:22.560 --> 00:53:24.600
And I'm maxed out on the radius.

714
00:53:26.600 --> 00:53:30.040
Is there one or two of those

715
00:53:30.040 --> 00:53:31.200
that you're just kind of like,

716
00:53:31.200 --> 00:53:36.200
I can like trash this one and pick up another one?

717
00:53:36.880 --> 00:53:38.760
Yeah, but I paid for it.

718
00:53:38.760 --> 00:53:39.600
Okay.

719
00:53:40.560 --> 00:53:43.480
How long is that paid subscription?

720
00:53:43.480 --> 00:53:44.520
Like three months.

721
00:53:44.520 --> 00:53:46.000
I'm locked in for three months.

722
00:53:46.000 --> 00:53:46.840
Okay.

723
00:53:48.120 --> 00:53:50.440
That's why, because I'm like,

724
00:53:50.800 --> 00:53:52.440
maybe I went on the wrong ones

725
00:53:52.440 --> 00:53:54.360
because I wasn't sure.

726
00:53:54.360 --> 00:53:55.920
I don't think, I mean, I don't think,

727
00:53:55.920 --> 00:53:58.440
I mean, even when we might take a wrong turn,

728
00:53:58.440 --> 00:53:59.840
God still uses it.

729
00:53:59.840 --> 00:54:03.440
Like, so he knows, like he has ways of working it out.

730
00:54:05.600 --> 00:54:07.520
Are any of the apps that you're on

731
00:54:07.520 --> 00:54:09.880
when you travel to an area

732
00:54:09.880 --> 00:54:14.520
that it will then match you with people

733
00:54:14.520 --> 00:54:16.360
that are in the actual area

734
00:54:16.360 --> 00:54:18.480
that you are currently located in?

735
00:54:19.400 --> 00:54:20.880
Well, I know Facebook dating,

736
00:54:20.880 --> 00:54:23.360
I can add a second location,

737
00:54:23.360 --> 00:54:25.040
but I hesitate to do that

738
00:54:25.040 --> 00:54:29.080
because I don't know when I'm gonna be moving.

739
00:54:29.080 --> 00:54:33.040
So I don't want to kind of semi catfish a guy

740
00:54:33.040 --> 00:54:36.240
into thinking I'm local if I'm not.

741
00:54:36.240 --> 00:54:37.720
Do you know what I'm saying?

742
00:54:37.720 --> 00:54:38.560
Well, here's the thing,

743
00:54:38.560 --> 00:54:42.800
but I think if you're transparent and you communicate it,

744
00:54:42.800 --> 00:54:45.120
then you're not catfishing.

745
00:54:45.200 --> 00:54:49.160
You're not, like, you're not lying.

746
00:54:49.160 --> 00:54:52.280
Like, I think being open and transparent

747
00:54:52.280 --> 00:54:55.040
and communicating is key in any relationship.

748
00:54:56.120 --> 00:54:59.800
And so I would say,

749
00:55:00.960 --> 00:55:08.720
at another location and be clear that where you currently live you feel that

750
00:55:09.280 --> 00:55:14.000
God is leading you to this certain area but you're not sure when

751
00:55:16.480 --> 00:55:22.080
and that you're open to getting to know more people in that area to see if there's any

752
00:55:22.960 --> 00:55:24.640
opportunities for open doors.

753
00:55:27.280 --> 00:55:28.320
How do you feel about that?

754
00:55:29.040 --> 00:55:29.840
Uncomfortable.

755
00:55:30.720 --> 00:55:31.040
Okay.

756
00:55:31.760 --> 00:55:32.960
Yeah, sorry.

757
00:55:34.720 --> 00:55:35.360
That's good.

758
00:55:37.520 --> 00:55:45.360
So yeah, I think is again if your fear is that you are scamming somebody well your heart is not

759
00:55:45.360 --> 00:55:51.040
to scam someone you can't you can't scam someone if that's not your heart like God searches the

760
00:55:51.040 --> 00:55:51.040


761
00:55:51.040 --> 00:55:55.840
Most people don't actually read what you write in the profile anyway to be honest.

762
00:55:56.160 --> 00:56:00.080
Sometimes they don't but guess what they have the opportunity to read your profile

763
00:56:00.080 --> 00:56:03.520
and if they were a ding-dong and decided not to read it it's on them.

764
00:56:04.240 --> 00:56:10.320
Yeah, I mean all I could say is I'll pray about it but I have thought about it in the past and

765
00:56:11.520 --> 00:56:14.400
you know again I'm trying to be very open I don't know that

766
00:56:15.520 --> 00:56:18.960
I'm trying to soften it I don't believe that my husband is on a dating app

767
00:56:19.840 --> 00:56:26.080
Um, but I am trying to be open and and just be like, you know, maybe somebody he knows

768
00:56:27.120 --> 00:56:30.880
Well, that's what I'm saying. But look at what you are doing. I want to like celebrate for a

769
00:56:30.880 --> 00:56:38.160
minute because for the last three weeks including this week you have been very proactive of coming

770
00:56:38.160 --> 00:56:43.840
out of hiding and connecting with your sisters here in this community. And I got oh, I got

771
00:56:43.840 --> 00:56:49.520
Holy Spirit on that one. I'm like feeling it you are doing all the right things

772
00:56:51.840 --> 00:57:03.520
and he sees that and here's the thing like God is a season of timing he he God is God is a God

773
00:57:03.520 --> 00:57:10.000
of seasons and timing and as much as I don't know about you all but sometimes I'm like God can you

774
00:57:10.000 --> 00:57:16.240
just tell me when but like unfortunately but fortunately he doesn't let us know that

775
00:57:16.240 --> 00:57:24.800
but I will tell you he's always been perfect on his timing and so I know when our heart truly

776
00:57:24.800 --> 00:57:33.440
desires and longs for it and we're not seeing we're not seeing it but he's still working

777
00:57:34.320 --> 00:57:44.080
what's that way maker miracle worker like got like like that songs coming up in my spirit like

778
00:57:46.160 --> 00:57:52.320
like even when I don't see it you're working even when I don't feel it you're working

779
00:57:53.440 --> 00:58:02.080
he never stops he never stops working and so just know that all you can do is just take

780
00:58:02.240 --> 00:58:08.400
the next right steps and sometimes when we take those steps we may not see what it's actually

781
00:58:08.400 --> 00:58:21.600
doing in the spirit it reminds me of a time it was spring break March 2022 and the year 2022

782
00:58:21.600 --> 00:58:27.200
was the year I was like by golly I'm getting married it's the year of the bride I was in this

783
00:58:27.280 --> 00:58:33.360
community had been in this community since September of 2020 it was March of 2022 and I'm

784
00:58:33.360 --> 00:58:40.480
like it's gonna happen all right God's told me I'm getting married in 2022 and so he prompted

785
00:58:40.480 --> 00:58:47.280
me to get in my car with my youngest son who I think was six at the time no he would have been

786
00:58:48.240 --> 00:58:54.320
six turning seven I don't know I can't remember he was little I packed him in the car and we

787
00:58:54.320 --> 00:59:00.160
drove from Sarasota Florida all the way to Austin Texas because I was on a call with Jackie and

788
00:59:00.160 --> 00:59:05.760
like kind of like a call like this and we were talking about stuff and whatever and she's like

789
00:59:05.760 --> 00:59:12.400
and I was talking about traveling and she's like well get in your car and come visit me in Austin

790
00:59:12.400 --> 00:59:17.200
and I was like actually that's not a bad idea and there were several other women in the community I

791
00:59:17.200 --> 00:59:23.280
did I I literally thought it was God God you are legit like you're gonna do something big

792
00:59:24.320 --> 00:59:30.560
and I took this I activated this and I took this step and I was like why am I doing this this is

793
00:59:30.560 --> 00:59:38.080
like I'm traveling like 17 hours with my son we spent more time in the car than we did in Texas

794
00:59:39.120 --> 00:59:46.880
and I thought something miraculous was going to happen and turns out I get home from spring break

795
00:59:46.880 --> 00:59:55.520
and I'm like nothing I'm like really like I'm like three thousand dollars in the hole I'm like

796
00:59:56.480 --> 00:59:59.840
like what's happening like and so it

797
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:01.720
was it was frustrating.

798
01:00:03.600 --> 01:00:06.760
Fast forward to meeting my husband,

799
01:00:07.960 --> 01:00:10.560
literally in the 11th hour of 2022.

800
01:00:10.560 --> 01:00:12.640
Okay, now I wasn't getting married in 2022,

801
01:00:12.640 --> 01:00:16.040
but I was kind of like at the point where I'm like,

802
01:00:16.040 --> 01:00:18.200
I just don't think this is gonna happen.

803
01:00:18.200 --> 01:00:19.200
Beginning of November, I'm like,

804
01:00:19.200 --> 01:00:20.700
this is just not gonna happen.

805
01:00:22.120 --> 01:00:26.480
After a week of really just like sitting with Jackie

806
01:00:26.480 --> 01:00:28.000
and talking this through,

807
01:00:28.040 --> 01:00:30.640
my husband drops into my DMs.

808
01:00:30.640 --> 01:00:34.520
We end up talking for about three weeks.

809
01:00:34.520 --> 01:00:37.020
I'm thinking this entire time he lives in Florida.

810
01:00:38.080 --> 01:00:43.080
And I meet him in December.

811
01:00:43.280 --> 01:00:48.280
And like, I find out like early on after talking to him,

812
01:00:48.280 --> 01:00:50.800
he lives in Texas.

813
01:00:50.800 --> 01:00:53.840
I'm like, okay, whatever, like I'm open to whatever.

814
01:00:53.840 --> 01:00:55.600
I'll entertain this.

815
01:00:55.600 --> 01:00:57.760
Not thinking anything was gonna come of it.

816
01:00:58.400 --> 01:01:00.520
So I was like, oh, fine, I'll entertain it.

817
01:01:00.520 --> 01:01:02.040
We probably won't even meet in person anyway.

818
01:01:02.040 --> 01:01:04.680
We meet in person and there was just a lot of exhilaration

819
01:01:04.680 --> 01:01:06.080
on our relationship.

820
01:01:06.080 --> 01:01:11.080
And so when we invested in the relationship

821
01:01:12.280 --> 01:01:14.880
and it started unfolding and we started talking

822
01:01:14.880 --> 01:01:17.240
about marriage and what that would look like.

823
01:01:17.240 --> 01:01:21.280
And he shared that he would want me to move to Texas.

824
01:01:21.280 --> 01:01:26.280
God instantly reminded me, see Carla,

825
01:01:26.640 --> 01:01:30.900
you didn't think anything happened on that trip,

826
01:01:30.900 --> 01:01:32.680
but it wasn't for you.

827
01:01:32.680 --> 01:01:34.420
It was for your son.

828
01:01:35.520 --> 01:01:37.840
Because my son had never been to Texas.

829
01:01:37.840 --> 01:01:41.240
And I had to tell a little boy who had all his friends,

830
01:01:41.240 --> 01:01:46.240
all his family and his biological dad actually ended up

831
01:01:47.980 --> 01:01:52.980
sharing with me immediately after having this conversation

832
01:01:53.220 --> 01:01:57.980
with my now husband that he was moving out of the state.

833
01:01:57.980 --> 01:02:01.620
Anyway, but all that to say like my son's world

834
01:02:01.620 --> 01:02:03.980
was like gonna get shifted upside down.

835
01:02:03.980 --> 01:02:08.980
And God reminded me that trip had to happen for him.

836
01:02:10.460 --> 01:02:12.500
And even though I didn't see anything happen,

837
01:02:12.500 --> 01:02:15.140
it was actually preparing my son's heart.

838
01:02:15.140 --> 01:02:17.540
So there was stuff happening in the background.

839
01:02:19.020 --> 01:02:21.700
Stuff was moving in a spirit and it opened up

840
01:02:21.700 --> 01:02:26.700
my son's heart because now he had a visual

841
01:02:27.180 --> 01:02:29.280
of what Texas was like.

842
01:02:30.620 --> 01:02:35.300
And him and Jackie are like little two peas in a pod.

843
01:02:35.300 --> 01:02:40.180
And so it was cool for him to go like to Texas

844
01:02:40.180 --> 01:02:42.760
because he met her, like she would come to Florida.

845
01:02:42.760 --> 01:02:44.260
She has family there.

846
01:02:44.260 --> 01:02:46.460
And so he's met her there,

847
01:02:46.460 --> 01:02:50.100
but it was cool for him to meet her in Texas.

848
01:02:50.100 --> 01:02:54.140
And it was a way for him to be comfortable

849
01:02:54.140 --> 01:02:56.940
with the idea of having to move away.

850
01:02:56.940 --> 01:02:58.300
It helped prepare his heart,

851
01:02:58.300 --> 01:03:00.020
not saying that it wasn't a hard road for him.

852
01:03:00.020 --> 01:03:02.940
And at times it's still difficult for him,

853
01:03:02.940 --> 01:03:04.160
but God was moving.

854
01:03:05.760 --> 01:03:07.140
So I don't know, like I just,

855
01:03:07.140 --> 01:03:08.940
I didn't even think I was gonna share that,

856
01:03:08.940 --> 01:03:13.940
but I just really felt strongly to encourage you

857
01:03:13.980 --> 01:03:17.140
that even when you're taking these steps and these actions,

858
01:03:17.140 --> 01:03:20.060
it may not seem like anything's going on,

859
01:03:20.060 --> 01:03:22.200
but just know that he's working for you.

860
01:03:23.980 --> 01:03:24.940
Thank you.

861
01:03:24.940 --> 01:03:25.780
You are welcome.

862
01:03:25.780 --> 01:03:27.980
The same messages, just so you know,

863
01:03:27.980 --> 01:03:29.060
you're doing everything.

864
01:03:29.060 --> 01:03:31.300
Even when we did the listening prayer,

865
01:03:31.300 --> 01:03:33.700
everybody kept saying the same thing.

866
01:03:33.700 --> 01:03:35.420
It's like, I'm seeing that you're right

867
01:03:35.420 --> 01:03:38.740
where you need to be and I'm getting confirmations,

868
01:03:38.740 --> 01:03:40.300
which is good, but frustrating.

869
01:03:40.300 --> 01:03:41.460
Cause I'm like, I'm a doer.

870
01:03:41.460 --> 01:03:42.660
Give me something else to do.

871
01:03:42.660 --> 01:03:44.740
You're like, gosh, darn it.

872
01:03:45.060 --> 01:03:47.340
Maybe that's like, God is just preparing you

873
01:03:47.340 --> 01:03:49.820
to kind of sit in that.

874
01:03:49.820 --> 01:03:52.900
Ladies, like I will tell you, I'm a planner.

875
01:03:52.900 --> 01:03:56.160
I do not like to stray from a plan.

876
01:03:56.160 --> 01:04:00.340
And y'all, I married a man that is like,

877
01:04:00.340 --> 01:04:02.240
fly by the seat of his pants.

878
01:04:02.240 --> 01:04:06.040
And let me tell you, like some triggers happen.

879
01:04:09.420 --> 01:04:11.040
But I needed it to look this way.

880
01:04:11.040 --> 01:04:12.380
This is what it was supposed to do.

881
01:04:12.380 --> 01:04:15.100
Like even last night, he was helping me make dinner

882
01:04:15.100 --> 01:04:17.780
and I'm like, just use these six eggs

883
01:04:17.780 --> 01:04:19.780
and leave these other five.

884
01:04:19.780 --> 01:04:22.740
Y'all, my husband used all 11 eggs.

885
01:04:22.740 --> 01:04:26.220
I was like, why did you go away from the plan?

886
01:04:26.220 --> 01:04:28.860
Like, what is happening?

887
01:04:28.860 --> 01:04:30.660
So I don't know.

888
01:04:30.660 --> 01:04:32.620
Like, those are all things, again,

889
01:04:32.620 --> 01:04:34.620
just pressing the Holy Spirit with that.

890
01:04:36.020 --> 01:04:38.700
But I hope that didn't just speak to Jill, y'all.

891
01:04:38.700 --> 01:04:41.360
I really hope that that's speaking to other people

892
01:04:41.360 --> 01:04:43.040
on the call as well.

893
01:04:43.040 --> 01:04:46.080
I've got Eris and Lucy, they have their hands up.

894
01:04:46.080 --> 01:04:51.080
I'm not seeing, I thought there was a few more.

895
01:04:51.080 --> 01:04:54.600
Holly, I do see your post.

896
01:04:54.600 --> 01:04:56.960
I don't know if she is on now.

897
01:04:56.960 --> 01:04:58.520
I know she had to jump off.

898
01:04:58.520 --> 01:04:59.920
But I'm gonna, Eris and Lucy,

899
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:04.680
I'll let you all go and then I will catch Holly's.

900
01:05:04.680 --> 01:05:06.160
I think she might have a question.

901
01:05:06.160 --> 01:05:06.980
I don't know.

902
01:05:06.980 --> 01:05:09.400
It's a long one, but I'll get to that

903
01:05:09.400 --> 01:05:10.600
after the two of you go.

904
01:05:10.600 --> 01:05:12.440
So Aris, how are you?

905
01:05:13.720 --> 01:05:15.640
Did I pronounce your name right, first of all?

906
01:05:15.640 --> 01:05:16.800
Yes.

907
01:05:16.800 --> 01:05:18.240
Okay.

908
01:05:18.240 --> 01:05:20.080
Ladies, forgive me.

909
01:05:20.080 --> 01:05:23.560
Now and in the future, I am like a name butcher.

910
01:05:27.240 --> 01:05:28.720
I'm just not good with phonics.

911
01:05:28.800 --> 01:05:32.000
And I recently discovered and my son is evaluating

912
01:05:32.000 --> 01:05:34.560
that he is dyslexic and the more I think about it,

913
01:05:34.560 --> 01:05:36.200
I'm like, well, maybe he got some of that from me

914
01:05:36.200 --> 01:05:39.440
and I just learned how to navigate it in school.

915
01:05:39.440 --> 01:05:41.280
So I'm bad at it.

916
01:05:41.280 --> 01:05:44.680
I apologize in advance if I ever mess up y'all's names.

917
01:05:44.680 --> 01:05:45.520
All right.

918
01:05:45.520 --> 01:05:46.340
How are you, Aris?

919
01:05:46.340 --> 01:05:47.960
What do you have for us?

920
01:05:47.960 --> 01:05:49.120
I'm good.

921
01:05:49.120 --> 01:05:50.200
No, you're good.

922
01:05:50.200 --> 01:05:51.740
My name, I'm used to it.

923
01:05:52.600 --> 01:05:57.600
But I had put something in the chat

924
01:05:58.320 --> 01:06:01.600
and I just, this is my first time

925
01:06:01.600 --> 01:06:04.400
being on the online chatting.

926
01:06:04.400 --> 01:06:09.400
But I had concerns because I guess I think

927
01:06:10.920 --> 01:06:15.920
that I had high expectations of another female

928
01:06:16.120 --> 01:06:20.120
and I just started a church, going to a church,

929
01:06:20.120 --> 01:06:23.100
me and my son about 10 months ago.

930
01:06:25.200 --> 01:06:26.160
And I really like it.

931
01:06:26.160 --> 01:06:29.120
And so I'm meeting new people there.

932
01:06:29.120 --> 01:06:32.600
And so we've been invited to a few Christmas parties

933
01:06:32.600 --> 01:06:35.400
and then there was one that came around.

934
01:06:35.400 --> 01:06:40.400
And I don't, I mean, I've been around the two ladies

935
01:06:41.280 --> 01:06:43.480
that there's, I guess, one host

936
01:06:43.480 --> 01:06:45.580
and one co-host of the party.

937
01:06:46.920 --> 01:06:51.920
But I have the other, the co-host ladies, her name's Lucy.

938
01:06:52.920 --> 01:06:56.320
I have her number and she invited me

939
01:06:56.320 --> 01:06:57.680
and I was asking her about it.

940
01:06:57.680 --> 01:07:02.680
And then, so I noticed like, I try to get,

941
01:07:04.360 --> 01:07:07.960
I think I expect, I don't know,

942
01:07:07.960 --> 01:07:12.360
relationships to happen quicker or like to,

943
01:07:12.360 --> 01:07:17.360
I guess I was expecting to, I don't know,

944
01:07:18.200 --> 01:07:21.000
get more connected in the church

945
01:07:21.000 --> 01:07:23.900
than I have been thus far.

946
01:07:25.640 --> 01:07:30.640
But so I was asking her if my son could go the other night.

947
01:07:32.400 --> 01:07:34.880
And he's, I mean, he's not a little kid,

948
01:07:34.880 --> 01:07:36.680
so it wouldn't have been a big deal.

949
01:07:36.680 --> 01:07:41.640
He's 15, but he was coming home from his dad's

950
01:07:41.640 --> 01:07:46.400
and it was kind of a different timing than I'm used to.

951
01:07:46.400 --> 01:07:48.280
It was like a Sunday evening,

952
01:07:48.280 --> 01:07:53.280
like five to eight or five to 9 p.m.

953
01:07:53.840 --> 01:07:57.660
And she said, she told me no,

954
01:07:58.600 --> 01:08:01.600
no, there's no boys or kiddos allowed.

955
01:08:01.600 --> 01:08:05.380
And I thought I saw that on the invite,

956
01:08:05.380 --> 01:08:08.200
but when she responded back, she said,

957
01:08:09.520 --> 01:08:13.120
she said, no, there's no boys or kids allowed.

958
01:08:13.120 --> 01:08:15.200
And then she said, I'm sorry.

959
01:08:15.200 --> 01:08:16.399
And then it was like,

960
01:08:18.359 --> 01:08:22.200
she didn't ask if I'd still planned on going or anything.

961
01:08:22.200 --> 01:08:25.680
And I guess I just felt like kind of rejected

962
01:08:25.680 --> 01:08:30.260
and because she kind of assumed that I wasn't going.

963
01:08:30.260 --> 01:08:34.600
Later on, she told me, like we tried to talk a little bit

964
01:08:34.600 --> 01:08:37.700
and she said, oh no, there was people that were,

965
01:08:38.880 --> 01:08:41.200
there was people that were having to cancel

966
01:08:41.200 --> 01:08:43.439
and not being able to come.

967
01:08:43.439 --> 01:08:48.439
So I just, I guess she had just thought that I was,

968
01:08:49.160 --> 01:08:51.240
that I wasn't interested in coming,

969
01:08:52.840 --> 01:08:56.120
but she said that she was real busy

970
01:08:57.920 --> 01:08:59.880
and that she was leaving the Nutcracker

971
01:08:59.880 --> 01:09:01.640
or something like that.

972
01:09:01.640 --> 01:09:05.359
But, okay, so like, what do I need to do?

973
01:09:05.359 --> 01:09:08.680
Because apparently there's a lot of miscommunication.

974
01:09:08.680 --> 01:09:10.560
I totally relate to a lot of the things that you're saying.

975
01:09:10.600 --> 01:09:13.920
And so I can only speak from my own experience

976
01:09:13.920 --> 01:09:16.800
and things that I've learned over the years.

977
01:09:16.800 --> 01:09:21.720
And there's, I'm sure I still need areas of growth

978
01:09:21.720 --> 01:09:23.160
in some of these areas.

979
01:09:24.319 --> 01:09:27.080
And so a lot of things that I was hearing,

980
01:09:27.080 --> 01:09:29.439
like what I'm hearing you say is that

981
01:09:32.000 --> 01:09:34.960
you've been in this church for about 10 months.

982
01:09:34.960 --> 01:09:38.960
You're not feeling connected as much as you would have liked

983
01:09:39.040 --> 01:09:41.319
to after this period of time.

984
01:09:41.319 --> 01:09:42.319
Right.

985
01:09:42.319 --> 01:09:46.960
It sounds like there's some triggers of rejection.

986
01:09:47.960 --> 01:09:51.160
I'm curious, and it sounds like this is,

987
01:09:51.160 --> 01:09:52.800
these are female interactions.

988
01:09:52.800 --> 01:09:55.660
So I'm curious if you have,

989
01:09:56.880 --> 01:10:00.840
is there anything that's coming up for you in your life?

990
01:10:00.000 --> 01:10:07.200
your past where relationships with females have been strained, or there has been a time

991
01:10:07.200 --> 01:10:14.400
in your life in the past where you felt rejected and not seen by women in your life that were

992
01:10:14.400 --> 01:10:16.040
important to you.

993
01:10:16.040 --> 01:10:18.120
Oh, yes.

994
01:10:18.120 --> 01:10:21.480
So automatically, it's my mom.

995
01:10:21.480 --> 01:10:23.840
Yeah, I already know.

996
01:10:23.840 --> 01:10:29.440
Then you know what I relate to on a very like a lot of levels with, you know, my own mom

997
01:10:29.440 --> 01:10:35.880
and even in my teen years, friendships that like best friendships that I had and some

998
01:10:35.880 --> 01:10:40.000
of the rejection and betrayal that I have felt.

999
01:10:40.000 --> 01:10:47.360
And so what I have known that has happened for me, and what I've seen happen in this

1000
01:10:47.360 --> 01:10:55.680
community is oftentimes when these emotions are coming up, it's because it's a heart box

1001
01:10:55.680 --> 01:10:59.800
that God wants to heal.

1002
01:10:59.800 --> 01:11:09.800
And so it's okay to feel sad or hurt.

1003
01:11:09.800 --> 01:11:15.000
Those are moments where I will encourage you to press into Holy Spirit and ask him to kind

1004
01:11:15.000 --> 01:11:18.020
of and just go back to your heart work training.

1005
01:11:18.020 --> 01:11:23.120
Like I can't tell you how significant heart work training is like, I'm currently going

1006
01:11:23.120 --> 01:11:28.880
back and reading the book myself because I'm experiencing stuff in my season of life

1007
01:11:28.880 --> 01:11:34.120
right now where I'm like, I need a lot of heart work.

1008
01:11:34.120 --> 01:11:42.760
Another thing that I will also encourage is practicing communication.

1009
01:11:42.760 --> 01:11:48.280
That one has been a challenge for me in the past because I was never modeled good, healthy

1010
01:11:48.280 --> 01:11:49.280
communication.

1011
01:11:49.280 --> 01:11:56.240
And so oftentimes, like you, it sounds like I think this is where I can relate, where

1012
01:11:56.240 --> 01:12:03.080
I can jump to assumptions about what people are feeling and thinking, because it's what

1013
01:12:03.080 --> 01:12:08.760
my perception is, then it's not really actually what is happening.

1014
01:12:08.760 --> 01:12:14.420
And so like this woman shared, like, I was really busy, there was a lot of things going

1015
01:12:14.420 --> 01:12:15.420
on.

1016
01:12:15.420 --> 01:12:20.680
And so maybe a lack of intention in her messaging you.

1017
01:12:20.680 --> 01:12:25.160
And this is again, like, sometimes this is, I love text messaging.

1018
01:12:25.160 --> 01:12:26.160
I love that cat.

1019
01:12:26.160 --> 01:12:28.240
I love that technology.

1020
01:12:28.240 --> 01:12:34.760
But at times, this is when it can get challenging because you're not seeing facial expression

1021
01:12:34.760 --> 01:12:35.880
and interaction.

1022
01:12:35.880 --> 01:12:41.520
And ladies, we tell you it's important to get on video calls with guys and not even

1023
01:12:41.520 --> 01:12:47.000
doing the phone calls and the texting because you need to see how their tone is with you

1024
01:12:47.000 --> 01:12:49.680
and how they're communicating with you.

1025
01:12:49.680 --> 01:12:51.160
Do you have their attention?

1026
01:12:51.160 --> 01:12:53.020
Do they make eye contact?

1027
01:12:53.020 --> 01:12:55.640
Are they messing around with something else?

1028
01:12:55.640 --> 01:12:58.480
Like, do you have their undivided attention?

1029
01:12:58.480 --> 01:13:06.460
And so when we don't get that when we're texting, it's I've learned for myself, I'm very quick

1030
01:13:06.540 --> 01:13:15.580
to go to the assumption of a feeling that's not pleasant.

1031
01:13:15.580 --> 01:13:24.680
And so I would just encourage you being more vocal about what it is and being more direct,

1032
01:13:24.680 --> 01:13:30.340
maybe asking questions I've learned, I've learned so many things and I'm, I struggle

1033
01:13:30.340 --> 01:13:33.180
with this still.

1034
01:13:33.180 --> 01:13:40.620
When I have assumptions, instead of just believing the assumption, I've been coached myself

1035
01:13:40.620 --> 01:13:50.060
to ask more questions and get more clarity from someone before drawing an assumption.

1036
01:13:50.060 --> 01:13:57.660
So and then, and understand that not everybody is great, like not everybody that you're going

1037
01:13:57.660 --> 01:14:02.780
to communicate with is going to have good communication skills either.

1038
01:14:02.780 --> 01:14:06.620
So I hope that resonates with you.

1039
01:14:06.620 --> 01:14:10.540
I mean, you can let me know your feedback, like, how are you, what's, what's your response

1040
01:14:10.540 --> 01:14:13.180
to what I, what I shared?

1041
01:14:13.180 --> 01:14:14.180
Yeah.

1042
01:14:14.180 --> 01:14:18.780
What you just shared makes sense.

1043
01:14:18.780 --> 01:14:26.180
I know we're not supposed to label like people, but my mom is a covert narcissist.

1044
01:14:26.180 --> 01:14:35.900
So I've had trouble like navigating because I know like, there's just a lot of confusion

1045
01:14:35.900 --> 01:14:37.700
in our relationship.

1046
01:14:37.700 --> 01:14:44.860
So like, she can be very, very, very kind, very like with lovey dovey with words, like,

1047
01:14:44.860 --> 01:14:45.860
like sweet.

1048
01:14:45.860 --> 01:14:50.960
And then like completely opposite with like the silent treatment and stuff like that.

1049
01:14:50.960 --> 01:14:56.920
So I think, yeah, that's where my triggers.

1050
01:14:56.920 --> 01:15:00.040
And that's where I like, again, I think going back to your heart work.

1051
01:15:00.000 --> 01:15:05.440
Tools, you know, I think the biggest the biggest lesson I've learned in heart work is

1052
01:15:06.180 --> 01:15:10.940
You know, what? What am I believing about someone or something or myself?

1053
01:15:12.000 --> 01:15:13.440
is

1054
01:15:13.440 --> 01:15:15.440
it a lie and

1055
01:15:17.080 --> 01:15:21.240
Typically, it's a lie if it's not breathing life and you know

1056
01:15:22.480 --> 01:15:25.240
what God ensues, you know and

1057
01:15:26.520 --> 01:15:28.520
so when I can

1058
01:15:28.880 --> 01:15:31.640
Recognize what lie I'm believing

1059
01:15:32.480 --> 01:15:35.560
Then I can go and replace it with God's truth

1060
01:15:36.400 --> 01:15:40.480
so that's another skill that we learn in heart work and again like

1061
01:15:41.760 --> 01:15:47.360
You will always use and pick up heart work. Just it's I'm telling you ladies. I've been in this

1062
01:15:48.200 --> 01:15:50.200
program for four years and

1063
01:15:51.160 --> 01:15:57.580
I'm just now taking the book back up again like ladies like I had to end up like

1064
01:15:58.720 --> 01:16:02.040
Printing it for myself because I'm like I I like I'm a

1065
01:16:02.360 --> 01:16:06.320
Touch person and I'm waiting for it to get delivered to me in the mail because I've always had the e-book

1066
01:16:06.600 --> 01:16:11.840
I'm like, oh, no, I need to like get down and on this and so I

1067
01:16:13.440 --> 01:16:16.600
I will just tell you just go back to those heart work skills

1068
01:16:17.120 --> 01:16:22.480
they will be such a resource and such a tool and it's it is just a

1069
01:16:23.440 --> 01:16:25.440
It's really a gift from God

1070
01:16:25.960 --> 01:16:32.240
Which area would you say that I should look over again? Um,

1071
01:16:34.960 --> 01:16:36.960
I'm always one of those people might start at the beginning

1072
01:16:38.720 --> 01:16:43.160
You know go through that first part see what it's speaking to you I know

1073
01:16:44.840 --> 01:16:48.680
When I went through the heart work the first time I

1074
01:16:49.320 --> 01:16:53.200
Had a lot of things that came up in my past with my parents

1075
01:16:53.200 --> 01:16:55.200
My mom and my dad

1076
01:16:55.800 --> 01:17:02.840
That I was not expecting that. I thought I had worked through and so I think it was either the second week or the

1077
01:17:02.840 --> 01:17:04.840
third week

1078
01:17:04.880 --> 01:17:06.880
It was the one that was like about forgiveness

1079
01:17:08.360 --> 01:17:10.360
And that one I

1080
01:17:11.360 --> 01:17:16.560
Remember just a lot of stuff came up. And so give yourself grace and

1081
01:17:17.440 --> 01:17:20.640
Patience with yourself. Okay, and

1082
01:17:20.680 --> 01:17:26.720
It's not something that's going to be resolved overnight have patience with yourself and

1083
01:17:27.520 --> 01:17:29.040
again

1084
01:17:29.040 --> 01:17:35.240
Walk with God. Let's not try to do things in our own doing but partnering with him

1085
01:17:36.640 --> 01:17:38.640
And go from there

1086
01:17:40.640 --> 01:17:44.160
Okay, it's I'm good. Mm-hmm. All right

1087
01:17:44.720 --> 01:17:48.080
Thank you so much for being vulnerable and sharing your story

1088
01:17:48.120 --> 01:17:49.680
Thank you so much

1089
01:17:49.680 --> 01:17:55.480
Vulnerable and sharing that with us because I know that there's a lot of women on this call and on this replay

1090
01:17:55.480 --> 01:17:58.480
We will probably relate to you on so many levels

1091
01:18:00.560 --> 01:18:02.560
All right, thank you you're welcome

1092
01:18:03.240 --> 01:18:06.520
Hey Lucy, how are you? Good to see your face. How's laundry?

1093
01:18:07.400 --> 01:18:09.480
Hey good. We just got one whole load

1094
01:18:10.120 --> 01:18:12.840
Load folded and one more to go

1095
01:18:13.920 --> 01:18:17.040
For everyone else that's getting ready to pack grace

1096
01:18:17.760 --> 01:18:25.600
Are you going I am going to Southwest, Missouri to see my dad and I'm flying to Northwest, Florida to see my mom

1097
01:18:26.560 --> 01:18:31.000
So, where are you? Where are you located? I live in Northern, California in Reading

1098
01:18:31.640 --> 01:18:38.080
See, I definitely got some traveling going on. I do. I'm really I'm really thankful. It's a blessing this year to go

1099
01:18:38.520 --> 01:18:45.840
Yeah, I always love traveling because I always think those are like the best opportunities for God to just bring divine appointments

1100
01:18:46.360 --> 01:18:51.280
Yes, same I pray for those because you're sitting next to someone for an hour or three

1101
01:18:52.200 --> 01:18:53.720
Mm-hmm. Yes

1102
01:18:53.720 --> 01:19:00.680
Yes, and listen to Supernatural Saturday if you haven't because I think that'll be good. Okay, I will do that

1103
01:19:00.680 --> 01:19:06.560
I need some, you know positive motivation as I get you know, the list done today. So yes

1104
01:19:07.080 --> 01:19:09.560
Alright. Well, what do you have for us? Okay, so

1105
01:19:10.560 --> 01:19:11.840
um

1106
01:19:11.840 --> 01:19:18.000
Coming out of heart work. I found such an incredible acceleration God doing amazing things. Um,

1107
01:19:19.560 --> 01:19:22.520
I don't I feel that like honestly kind of embarrassed

1108
01:19:22.520 --> 01:19:27.120
I've been really hesitant to share because it feels like my experience feels different than others

1109
01:19:27.960 --> 01:19:29.680
for good or bad

1110
01:19:29.680 --> 01:19:30.760
and

1111
01:19:30.760 --> 01:19:37.480
That is that it's felt like there's been a lot of interest from them and it's how do I navigate that and I know it's the

1112
01:19:37.480 --> 01:19:40.600
Lord opening up things in heart work phase one took me forever

1113
01:19:41.440 --> 01:19:42.720
Um

1114
01:19:42.720 --> 01:19:44.720
Me too. Yeah, I

1115
01:19:45.840 --> 01:19:48.560
Get it. I still get it took me six months. Um

1116
01:19:49.960 --> 01:19:53.240
but so what I've been wondering now is the difference between

1117
01:19:53.880 --> 01:19:59.560
being not attracted to someone because it's just okay to be not attracted to that person or

1118
01:20:00.000 --> 01:20:09.760
or if I have heart issues blocking it, like for example, one thing that's kind of stood out to me

1119
01:20:09.760 --> 01:20:17.040
is I've, one of the people I was going on dates with, you know, was a little bit taller than me,

1120
01:20:17.680 --> 01:20:22.320
but, you know, he felt himself was a thin man. He's like, oh yeah, well, I'm just a skinny guy.

1121
01:20:22.320 --> 01:20:27.840
I've made peace with it, but, you know, which is fine, but he just felt so small and he was going

1122
01:20:27.840 --> 01:20:34.720
through health issues and I like to go to the gym. I like to hike and he's like, oh, my back hurts.

1123
01:20:34.720 --> 01:20:40.160
Oh, my indigestion today, but at the same time, amazing godly man, like so trustworthy.

1124
01:20:41.920 --> 01:20:46.800
So I'm just wondering how to navigate the difference between not being attracted to someone

1125
01:20:48.960 --> 01:20:55.120
or having heart issues blocking it. Okay, this is all good, good, good stuff. First of all,

1126
01:20:56.080 --> 01:21:02.480
I want to celebrate the courage that you had just to come and share because you said that

1127
01:21:02.480 --> 01:21:09.120
you've been reluctant to share and so, and out of that fear, and ladies, I, for whoever's hearing

1128
01:21:09.120 --> 01:21:19.200
this, like when you get this, like you want to share, but you're afraid to, it's, I've learned

1129
01:21:20.080 --> 01:21:28.240
that it's, it's good just to go ahead and share because if you have a fear of not sharing,

1130
01:21:28.240 --> 01:21:32.560
it must mean that something that you are going to share is going to impact somebody

1131
01:21:32.560 --> 01:21:35.120
and that's why the enemy wants to make you fearful of it.

1132
01:21:37.920 --> 01:21:44.640
So I, I, that I want, I just, I wanted to address that first and foremost, because I know that

1133
01:21:44.640 --> 01:21:50.720
happens in our community, that there's a lot of women that are just afraid. They're afraid

1134
01:21:50.720 --> 01:21:58.000
that they're, it's, it's looks different for them or whatever, like the enemy can come in and just,

1135
01:21:58.000 --> 01:22:04.320
just store and light us in so many different ways. And so it's why we really do encourage you ladies

1136
01:22:04.320 --> 01:22:09.360
to coming in the app and sharing, coming on lives, you know, and, and, and talking with us

1137
01:22:10.320 --> 01:22:16.320
because what you share will help give breakthrough to other women as well. Not just the women on

1138
01:22:16.320 --> 01:22:20.720
this call, but you know, we put this in replay, this one o'clock calls, the one that goes on

1139
01:22:20.720 --> 01:22:27.120
replay. So just know that what you're sharing, somebody else might resonate with. And so I love

1140
01:22:27.120 --> 01:22:34.240
that you bring up the, the, I like to call it the yes until to know, right. And we always want to,

1141
01:22:34.240 --> 01:22:39.680
like I, you know, we always encourage, like, you may not be physically attracted to someone the

1142
01:22:39.680 --> 01:22:44.160
first time you meet them. And I always joke, even now with my husband, like I was not physically

1143
01:22:44.160 --> 01:22:49.920
attracted to his photos before I met him. And there's been a lot of women in the community

1144
01:22:49.920 --> 01:22:56.320
that were not first physically attracted to their husbands. Bethany has shared that with Brian, but

1145
01:22:56.320 --> 01:23:03.280
there's been, if there's not that immediate physical attraction,

1146
01:23:03.920 --> 01:23:11.440
it's because there's other areas of attraction that grows. And so that's why we always encourage

1147
01:23:11.440 --> 01:23:19.680
you ladies to it's a yes until it's an app, like it's a no, but we ask that you give it at least

1148
01:23:19.680 --> 01:23:27.440
two or three dates before deciding it's a no. Now that doesn't mean you have to go on three dates

1149
01:23:27.440 --> 01:23:33.040
with a guy that's not respecting your boundaries. That's not being mature. That's being completely

1150
01:23:33.040 --> 01:23:38.960
inappropriate. Like, obviously those are like an absolute no, that's a red flag. You're out the

1151
01:23:38.960 --> 01:23:45.040
door. Okay. Some of y'all might not even make it to a date because the guy's being completely

1152
01:23:45.120 --> 01:23:52.240
inappropriate and you have to do the blessing block. Okay. But if you find that they're a nice

1153
01:23:52.240 --> 01:23:57.360
person, they're a godly person, you, and you know, you do enjoy some of the things that you do with

1154
01:23:57.360 --> 01:24:04.880
them, give it two or three dates. My, from what I'm hearing now, correct me. It sounds like you have

1155
01:24:04.880 --> 01:24:10.720
been on a couple of dates with him. Is that correct? We went on dates for five months. We just ended

1156
01:24:10.720 --> 01:24:18.880
on Saturday. Okay. So I think when you brought something up where you like to be outdoors,

1157
01:24:18.880 --> 01:24:27.760
you like to be active and he's bringing up things like he's not physically well and his back hurts

1158
01:24:27.760 --> 01:24:35.520
and all these things, it sounds like he's not going to be compatible to you because you are

1159
01:24:35.520 --> 01:24:42.720
going to be a person that desires to be out and about and you want to be active. So it,

1160
01:24:43.680 --> 01:24:48.480
would it be fair in saying that that's something that you desire that your spirit might have

1161
01:24:48.480 --> 01:24:56.560
the same, you know, tenacity and like interest and being able to be active with you? Like,

1162
01:24:57.680 --> 01:24:59.840
yeah. So if you're being

1163
01:25:00.000 --> 01:25:02.840
Presented that this guy is just not that

1164
01:25:03.720 --> 01:25:05.720
It doesn't mean that

1165
01:25:06.580 --> 01:25:12.640
He's not a bad guy. It just means he's not your spirit mate and you can and again

1166
01:25:12.640 --> 01:25:17.280
this is why I strongly encourage you ladies when you're dating at level two and

1167
01:25:18.760 --> 01:25:22.920
Level three and all these love like not to do the physical intimacy

1168
01:25:24.760 --> 01:25:26.760
Because that is when we will cloud

1169
01:25:27.760 --> 01:25:31.800
It all and I say that from my own personal experience

1170
01:25:32.520 --> 01:25:38.560
Okay, and I'm sure there's many of you ladies on this call do it probably have experienced some of the same things. Okay, so

1171
01:25:39.520 --> 01:25:46.160
But when we discover these things our heads are clear we can see and just be like look I think you're a great person

1172
01:25:46.160 --> 01:25:49.760
I'm not sure that we are a romantic match for the future

1173
01:25:49.760 --> 01:25:54.440
And this is this is the cool thing ladies when you're dating

1174
01:25:54.800 --> 01:25:59.080
Someone that really is a good great guy, but he's just not for you

1175
01:25:59.840 --> 01:26:01.840
You don't want to know what you get to do

1176
01:26:02.520 --> 01:26:06.840
You get it introduce them to this community where we have hundreds

1177
01:26:08.080 --> 01:26:09.400
ladies

1178
01:26:09.400 --> 01:26:13.080
My man might be their spirit mate

1179
01:26:14.600 --> 01:26:15.760
So

1180
01:26:15.760 --> 01:26:19.320
That's how I would navigate that stuff. So in

1181
01:26:20.160 --> 01:26:25.280
That situation there, but again, it's two or three dates like I

1182
01:26:26.040 --> 01:26:32.040
Had the same experience with a guy I dated we had gone on three dates. We had a fourth date plan. I

1183
01:26:32.680 --> 01:26:36.520
Wasn't super physically attracted to him. He was a decent-looking guy

1184
01:26:37.280 --> 01:26:42.640
there was some other quirky characteristics about him that I'm just like, I don't know and

1185
01:26:43.360 --> 01:26:50.440
I went back and forth back and forth and I just never had peace about continuing and I finally just

1186
01:26:50.960 --> 01:26:57.320
Released it and was like, okay God, I don't know if this is my person. This guy is really intentional. He's really sweet like

1187
01:26:57.920 --> 01:27:03.160
He desired he's marriage minded. He is mature. He seems like he's got stuff together

1188
01:27:06.040 --> 01:27:11.240
You know, I was questionable on some of the masculine like masculinity traits

1189
01:27:11.880 --> 01:27:15.280
But at the end of the day, I was like, okay God, I'm gonna release it

1190
01:27:15.280 --> 01:27:18.920
I'm gonna just end it but I know that if I

1191
01:27:19.920 --> 01:27:21.920
Made an oops

1192
01:27:22.120 --> 01:27:24.720
You are gonna have a way of bringing that man back in my life

1193
01:27:25.680 --> 01:27:28.840
Mm-hmm, and I cannot tell you for a year y'all

1194
01:27:29.320 --> 01:27:34.760
There was a couple of times where I thought and even Jackie would bring him up to me at times like hey

1195
01:27:34.760 --> 01:27:39.760
Whatever happened to that guy and I'm like, oh, maybe I need to reach out to him and I was like no

1196
01:27:39.760 --> 01:27:41.600
I

1197
01:27:41.600 --> 01:27:48.960
Wanted God to do the work. I'm not gonna go out and reach out after this guy. God's gonna make it very known

1198
01:27:49.760 --> 01:27:56.560
To me that this is my person and he's gonna bring him in in my life in some way. That's out of my own control and

1199
01:27:59.000 --> 01:28:02.360
When I was on a call with Jackie right before I met my husband

1200
01:28:02.560 --> 01:28:07.000
She'd actually asked about this guy and I questioned whether or not I should have gone

1201
01:28:07.000 --> 01:28:13.960
I mean I constantly went back and forth and so again, like it can be a no and if you release it

1202
01:28:13.960 --> 01:28:17.080
Just know you cannot mess up your spirit mate

1203
01:28:18.520 --> 01:28:21.040
You can't mess up who God has for you

1204
01:28:21.760 --> 01:28:27.360
When you're walking in God's alignment and you are taking the steps and you're moving forward

1205
01:28:29.040 --> 01:28:35.480
So what that I hope that gives you just a sense of relief when it comes to this like not being attracted

1206
01:28:35.480 --> 01:28:37.480
Okay, cuz ladies

1207
01:28:37.720 --> 01:28:40.400
even Jackie is told me she's like look like

1208
01:28:42.360 --> 01:28:49.160
Physical attraction doesn't have to come in the beginning it can grow but she's like but it is still important

1209
01:28:49.560 --> 01:28:56.040
It's not important early on per se because again, there's so many ways for intimacy to take place

1210
01:28:56.480 --> 01:28:58.480
Physical is like the last

1211
01:28:58.920 --> 01:29:03.320
intimacy piece, okay, and that's that's what happens when you enter into marriage and

1212
01:29:03.760 --> 01:29:05.760
And

1213
01:29:07.320 --> 01:29:09.320
And yeah, it's just like

1214
01:29:12.440 --> 01:29:14.440
She like she told me she's like

1215
01:29:16.160 --> 01:29:24.040
Y'all know Jackie so she was just like look like at some point if you've been dating this guy for

1216
01:29:25.000 --> 01:29:30.240
Three dates a couple weeks a month at least a month the three dates or whatever. She's like

1217
01:29:31.000 --> 01:29:35.880
You're gonna have to want it at some point get naked with this guy

1218
01:29:36.360 --> 01:29:39.720
Like if he's your spirit mate, you don't want get naked with them

1219
01:29:39.720 --> 01:29:40.240
All right

1220
01:29:40.240 --> 01:29:47.040
So if you are not wanting to do that like then guess what?

1221
01:29:47.560 --> 01:29:49.560
Don't torture yourself

1222
01:29:49.760 --> 01:29:52.680
Don't torture him like, you know

1223
01:29:53.200 --> 01:30:00.080
So just just know that that is it is important like physical attraction is important. It's not

1224
01:30:00.000 --> 01:30:04.080
the first part, though, if that makes sense.

1225
01:30:05.000 --> 01:30:06.640
It does, thank you so much.

1226
01:30:06.640 --> 01:30:10.260
Do you have time for just one last quick one?

1227
01:30:10.260 --> 01:30:11.560
Yeah, absolutely. Okay.

1228
01:30:12.820 --> 01:30:15.640
So I got a little confused on where in the program

1229
01:30:15.640 --> 01:30:17.560
we were supposed to make our list

1230
01:30:17.560 --> 01:30:20.560
of what we wanted or non-negotiables.

1231
01:30:20.560 --> 01:30:24.020
So that's gonna be in your phase one content.

1232
01:30:24.020 --> 01:30:27.180
Okay, sorry, it took me six months going through it

1233
01:30:27.180 --> 01:30:29.160
and I never saw where that was.

1234
01:30:30.600 --> 01:30:34.800
I, so ladies, in case you haven't known,

1235
01:30:36.480 --> 01:30:37.720
which I probably should have put this

1236
01:30:37.720 --> 01:30:40.040
in my housekeeping notes,

1237
01:30:40.040 --> 01:30:45.040
our app now has a new tab at the very top

1238
01:30:45.200 --> 01:30:46.920
and it says courses.

1239
01:30:46.920 --> 01:30:49.320
I don't know if you can see that.

1240
01:30:49.320 --> 01:30:51.400
If you click on courses,

1241
01:30:52.320 --> 01:30:55.500
then you'll have a list of the courses in the phase two.

1242
01:30:55.500 --> 01:30:57.540
So phase two, you'll only have

1243
01:30:59.220 --> 01:31:01.260
our Love Story Accelerator course,

1244
01:31:01.260 --> 01:31:02.360
which is what you're in now,

1245
01:31:02.360 --> 01:31:05.080
and then the Heartwork course from phase one.

1246
01:31:05.080 --> 01:31:06.560
So if you click on that,

1247
01:31:06.560 --> 01:31:09.080
it's gonna pull up all of the content.

1248
01:31:09.080 --> 01:31:10.180
I know there's like a,

1249
01:31:11.240 --> 01:31:15.740
off my phone, but it has all the content from phase one.

1250
01:31:16.840 --> 01:31:20.600
So I don't particularly remember,

1251
01:31:20.600 --> 01:31:21.760
because like I said,

1252
01:31:21.760 --> 01:31:25.880
I'm actually walking through the Heartwork again

1253
01:31:25.880 --> 01:31:27.560
and I'm only on part one.

1254
01:31:28.840 --> 01:31:33.840
And so I'm not sure where that falls.

1255
01:31:34.700 --> 01:31:37.900
I will follow up with that.

1256
01:31:37.900 --> 01:31:40.300
I think it's week three or four.

1257
01:31:40.300 --> 01:31:42.700
Week three or four, thank you with that, Jill.

1258
01:31:42.700 --> 01:31:44.220
Thank you so much.

1259
01:31:46.220 --> 01:31:50.300
So yeah, and one of those courses at the end,

1260
01:31:52.700 --> 01:31:54.980
so three, four, I think someone else,

1261
01:31:54.980 --> 01:31:56.780
Melissa, you're saying week five?

1262
01:31:57.980 --> 01:31:59.660
Yeah, it's one of the last ones.

1263
01:32:01.140 --> 01:32:02.700
Okay.

1264
01:32:02.700 --> 01:32:06.740
So yeah, I would just look through that content,

1265
01:32:06.740 --> 01:32:09.140
but now we have access to that.

1266
01:32:09.140 --> 01:32:10.420
So I'm super excited,

1267
01:32:10.420 --> 01:32:13.460
because I know that was a question I got often.

1268
01:32:13.460 --> 01:32:16.620
Like, hey, I'm looking for this video,

1269
01:32:16.620 --> 01:32:19.700
but I don't have access to it anymore, help me.

1270
01:32:19.760 --> 01:32:22.000
And then when y'all move into phase three,

1271
01:32:22.960 --> 01:32:26.800
you'll have the content from phase one and phase two,

1272
01:32:26.800 --> 01:32:31.360
so you can go back to and listen to the content as well.

1273
01:32:31.360 --> 01:32:32.880
Okay.

1274
01:32:32.880 --> 01:32:37.120
Well, ladies, it's about, it's 2.30 East Coast time.

1275
01:32:37.120 --> 01:32:41.360
So I'm going to send you ladies on your way.

1276
01:32:41.360 --> 01:32:44.400
I think we've covered a lot of really great things.

1277
01:32:44.400 --> 01:32:46.680
If I didn't get to cover your question,

1278
01:32:46.680 --> 01:32:49.600
or maybe you kind of were feeling shy

1279
01:32:50.460 --> 01:32:52.580
or intimidated and maybe fearful,

1280
01:32:52.580 --> 01:32:54.860
maybe the enemy's lying to you not to share,

1281
01:32:55.780 --> 01:32:58.980
and you feel more comfortable coming in the app,

1282
01:32:58.980 --> 01:33:02.100
go ahead, don't neglect your question.

1283
01:33:02.100 --> 01:33:03.700
Don't neglect what it is

1284
01:33:03.700 --> 01:33:05.620
that you feel like you want to share.

1285
01:33:05.620 --> 01:33:09.260
Please, please, please come put it in the group.

1286
01:33:09.260 --> 01:33:12.220
I think there was, I never went back to Holly's,

1287
01:33:12.220 --> 01:33:14.020
now that I'm just now saying that.

1288
01:33:17.220 --> 01:33:18.980
Okay, so yeah, she was just sharing,

1289
01:33:19.360 --> 01:33:21.520
and I think she even shared this in the app

1290
01:33:21.520 --> 01:33:24.160
of meeting a single guy,

1291
01:33:24.160 --> 01:33:27.800
and he invited her to this film company,

1292
01:33:27.800 --> 01:33:31.520
and she sent a follow-up email,

1293
01:33:31.520 --> 01:33:32.640
so she's going to keep us posted.

1294
01:33:32.640 --> 01:33:33.480
So that's good.

1295
01:33:33.480 --> 01:33:35.360
Okay, I'm just, I was hoping,

1296
01:33:35.360 --> 01:33:37.520
I just wanted to make sure she had a question I got,

1297
01:33:37.520 --> 01:33:39.360
but okay, ladies.

1298
01:33:39.360 --> 01:33:40.880
Well, it's been such a pleasure.

1299
01:33:40.880 --> 01:33:44.760
I'm going to, I did not pray at the beginning,

1300
01:33:44.760 --> 01:33:47.260
so I'm going to go ahead and pray us out,

1301
01:33:47.260 --> 01:33:51.540
and then I'm going to let you ladies go.

1302
01:33:51.540 --> 01:33:55.060
Remember, there is an eight o'clock session tonight as well,

1303
01:33:55.060 --> 01:33:58.240
if you want to get on that as well.

1304
01:33:58.240 --> 01:33:59.940
By all means, Ebony,

1305
01:34:01.060 --> 01:34:02.920
y'all, I don't know if you've ever been on a call with Ebony,

1306
01:34:02.920 --> 01:34:06.180
but that girl, she can truly hear from the Holy Spirit.

1307
01:34:06.180 --> 01:34:08.780
She's just got so much wisdom.

1308
01:34:08.780 --> 01:34:11.940
Like God speaks through her, like it's just good.

1309
01:34:13.700 --> 01:34:15.760
And yes, we are going to pray.

1310
01:34:15.760 --> 01:34:18.080
So Lucy, is that, was that from Lucy,

1311
01:34:18.080 --> 01:34:19.080
your father in the stroke?

1312
01:34:19.080 --> 01:34:21.440
And I'm going to pray for Joanne's father as well,

1313
01:34:21.440 --> 01:34:26.160
because he just experienced a stroke as well.

1314
01:34:26.160 --> 01:34:29.240
Audrina, you get to phase three

1315
01:34:29.240 --> 01:34:33.920
once you've watched all the content, one video a week.

1316
01:34:33.920 --> 01:34:36.240
So don't just like power through all the content,

1317
01:34:36.240 --> 01:34:37.680
all five videos.

1318
01:34:37.680 --> 01:34:38.640
One,

1319
01:34:40.840 --> 01:34:41.680
and,

1320
01:34:41.680 --> 01:34:45.880
one, sorry, I'm sitting here reading the chat

1321
01:34:45.880 --> 01:34:48.480
and I'm like trying to form a sentence here.

1322
01:34:48.480 --> 01:34:52.720
Oh, my multitasking skills.

1323
01:34:54.160 --> 01:34:57.400
So yeah, one video a week, five videos.

1324
01:34:57.400 --> 01:34:58.800
Once you've watched that content,

1325
01:34:58.800 --> 01:35:00.240
you've made it to some lines.

1326
01:35:00.000 --> 01:35:04.240
Once you've completed that and you've been here for a minimum of four to five weeks

1327
01:35:04.880 --> 01:35:11.440
Then you will send an email to admin at at Jack admin at Jackie Dorman calm

1328
01:35:12.720 --> 01:35:14.800
requesting to be moved to phase three and

1329
01:35:15.600 --> 01:35:21.600
So then they got the tech people there where they go back and follow up make sure that you have watched your videos

1330
01:35:21.840 --> 01:35:24.240
They check to see how long you've been in the group

1331
01:35:24.920 --> 01:35:28.180
And then they they release you to that. Okay

1332
01:35:28.180 --> 01:35:34.500
Melissa just confirmed week five. What's on your list is in the non it the non-negotiable sheet. So week five, Lucy

1333
01:35:35.060 --> 01:35:37.060
Okay

1334
01:35:37.620 --> 01:35:41.300
Awesome. All right. So heavenly father. I just thank you

1335
01:35:42.100 --> 01:35:48.820
So much for this time together God. I thank you for your just the way that you speak to us

1336
01:35:49.380 --> 01:35:51.620
And that you are so connected with us God

1337
01:35:53.060 --> 01:35:55.700
Lord I just pray over these women as they

1338
01:35:55.700 --> 01:36:00.980
Are you know many of them are sharing that they're battling being overwhelmed and I just pray that

1339
01:36:01.540 --> 01:36:08.420
They feel your presence and they they find their rest in you and instead of focusing on the

1340
01:36:08.980 --> 01:36:10.660
overwhelming

1341
01:36:10.660 --> 01:36:12.660
stresses that they

1342
01:36:13.380 --> 01:36:20.580
Fix their eyes on the as Judith shared early with us today in the app that the awe and wonder

1343
01:36:21.700 --> 01:36:23.700
And being overwhelmed in that way

1344
01:36:23.780 --> 01:36:25.780
And being overwhelmed in that way

1345
01:36:26.180 --> 01:36:28.340
And so lord, I just pray that over these women

1346
01:36:29.060 --> 01:36:34.740
Um as they they walk into this week and lord, I just pray for joanne's father

1347
01:36:35.620 --> 01:36:37.620
Lord, you are a healer

1348
01:36:37.860 --> 01:36:42.740
you have supernatural powers and miracles that can happen lord, and I just

1349
01:36:43.460 --> 01:36:46.920
Pray over over her father and that there is an acceleration

1350
01:36:47.480 --> 01:36:52.200
To getting him the rehabilitation that he needs so that he can be

1351
01:36:52.840 --> 01:36:55.960
On the road to recovery lord, and I just pray

1352
01:36:56.520 --> 01:36:59.660
That it's your will and the timing of his recovery

1353
01:37:00.280 --> 01:37:04.920
But that it is one that's exhilarated and that he comes back stronger than ever

1354
01:37:05.640 --> 01:37:08.520
That you just come and heal every ounce of his body

1355
01:37:09.560 --> 01:37:12.920
And the heavenly father again, I just I thank you for this time with these ladies

1356
01:37:13.000 --> 01:37:16.680
I just asked it to be with them. I asked them to release the

1357
01:37:17.460 --> 01:37:24.140
Expectations that they have in their own work, but they start to partner with the expectancy

1358
01:37:25.320 --> 01:37:29.400
That can be unlocked with the faith when they walk alongside you

1359
01:37:30.120 --> 01:37:34.520
Lord reveal to them all the areas that you are

1360
01:37:35.320 --> 01:37:36.760
um

1361
01:37:36.760 --> 01:37:43.960
Working in them and the ways that you want to accelerate the preparation so that the spirit mate will come

1362
01:37:45.080 --> 01:37:49.080
And I thank you for this time again. I thank you in all

1363
01:37:49.720 --> 01:37:51.800
Um in all of this in jesus name

1364
01:37:52.580 --> 01:37:54.580
amen

1365
01:37:55.160 --> 01:37:56.280
Amen

1366
01:37:56.280 --> 01:37:58.040
Thank you so much

1367
01:37:58.040 --> 01:38:04.920
Yes, ladies. Thank you. Always a pleasure. Have a great week and I will see you next week much. Bye. Bye

1368
01:38:04.920 --> 01:38:07.640
Bye