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All right, get back to men's artwork, Monday, January 6th, and New Year 2025.

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So last week, Mike, happened.

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Yeah, we talked about, we went the gamut and talking about stuff and, you know, there was,

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you know, age issues and stuff like that and just like somebody younger, older, like somebody,

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you know, and like 14 years younger, and it was nine years older, I don't know, whatever.

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But just talking about being open to whatever is around and, and just, and really just leaving

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in 2024, what we didn't want to leave and walk and what we're looking forward to and

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look in 2025.

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That's good.

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Yeah, you know, it's kind of strange.

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New Year's for me, in the last several years, has not been like so like exciting and like,

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you know, like, didn't really do anything like super epic or anything.

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And I don't have that build up, like most of the build up for me is actually to up till

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Thanksgiving.

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Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday.

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And then you get to Thanksgiving, and it's kind of, you know, like, oh, it's the holiday

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season, and you got to get like, coast, you know, a little bit, especially like the school

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year.

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And that's kind of like what I was used to, because I was so much in the school year.

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You know, back in my sort of like vocational years, I was always around, like almost on

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a school calendar type thing.

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And so I like that Thanksgiving to Christmas, and then you ramp up to Christmas.

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And then it's like, all of a sudden, it's like, I don't know, in recent years, it's

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been like Christmas, just like drops Christmas.

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Not so excited, you know, because like, you're not a kid anymore, like the presents thing

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and the whole, you know, like, I guess it's fun when you have kids or you're watching

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around kids.

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But then it just goes and you're like, all right, now you got another week.

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And then there's this other holiday.

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And it's almost like just a calendar turning page.

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However, this year, even though New Year's Eve, for me, wasn't like spectacular, exciting,

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like whatever we were doing.

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Yeah, 2025 seems to be definitely turning over a new leaf for us, at least in our lives

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personally.

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Actually talked to a trainer today, that's kind of exciting, you know, this, getting

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that going, you know, put some skin in the game for it, you know, rather than just try

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to do it ourselves.

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So it's actually a friend of ours.

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It's actually a little bit of a full circle, which is kind of like prophetically, right?

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2025, we've talked about that in our community, it being a full circle year.

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So that's something that probably going to be really, really keying in on to try to see

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what God does in that regard, in bringing things around.

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And this is a friend that we've had for, I don't know, probably close to 15 years.

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And they live back in Ohio, we moved to Texas eight years ago.

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But even since then, even since moving or before moving, we kind of lost touch.

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He went through some things, but he's a great fitness guy.

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And somehow just kind of came back on the radar.

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Jackie and I independently, we're like seeing social and like, you know, his name or his

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image came to our mind.

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And we thought about it.

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And then one day Jackie mentioned goes, Hey, what if we reach out to Esteban?

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And I was like, I just was thinking about him, you know, and I was like, that's kind

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of cool, you know, and he and he's revived his fitness business and he's doing really

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well.

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And we found out on the call today that he himself over the holidays was driving by a

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part of town that we used to live in.

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And he mentioned to the person like, this is a person that, you know, we wouldn't be

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on the really forefront of his mind or anything.

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He mentioned to the person, he goes, yeah, some friends that used to live in that house

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right there.

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And it was us.

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And he drove by the house we used to live in.

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That was like a long time ago.

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And so he, we were on his mind.

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So it's just really cool how that comes around and relationships, it's kind of a small thing.

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It's not like that.

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Wow.

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Of a story, but I think that there's some frill circle things coming and those are just

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little indicators.

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And so maybe we can talk about some of that tonight and, and get in some things.

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So who wants to share?

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Anybody want to open up, share anything, comments, questions, concerns?

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Hey, this is what I'm doing.

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Be excited about the new year.

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If you, if you.

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joined the prophesy your year session workshop last night maybe there's something on your heart

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and mind to talk about that so I'm going to leave the floor open and let anybody that wants to sort

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of like vol again though. Hey I may have to jump off the meeting early because I'm running

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errands and I've got an engagement. No problem. So I just wanted to check in it's been a few weeks

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um I've just been in a very busy season of transition yeah I uh I resigned my position

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in my school district due to some uh some circumstances and um you know it's it's it's

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in a time where there's a you know a lot of chaos and confusion and you just kind of you know

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transition and things are happening you you kind of wonder what's going on and and you sometimes

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you shake your fist at the heavens right yeah god and you're like what's going on here but um

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but you know I've transitioned I've moved from where I was at um and I've moved back to Portland

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and David I don't know how well you or anybody knows Portland Oregon but um I was about close

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to an hour um west of Portland out toward the coast and just recently just I mean within the

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last week I moved back to Portland um and so I've been in really some transition the last three you

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know really the last month but um and all of this though I just got to share that you know it's just

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amazing how faithful Jesus is even in these times of of you know transition and we you know we don't

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understand at times just things you know why things happen and just you know um but you know

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God faithful he has provided I'm already looking at a you know a couple of job opportunities that

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will either start later this week or next you know education opportunities right uh you know

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it's just it's just amazing to see you know Jesus at work regardless you know and all this and that

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just you know it's I it's more of a praise you know this is just um you know we serve a mighty

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God and and uh you know and uh but yeah it's just I just wanted to just share that that um

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God is faithful every step of the way even when we don't know what's going on and understand

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circumstances and you know but uh but yeah it's it's uh you know you're you're talking about you

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know it's a full circle year and we're transitioning you know a lot of stuff going on and and I just

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posted that you know even last week I reconnected with my old trainer he's out at Beaverton which

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is an important area you know a friend of mine I've known for a few years he's like your buddy

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he's his life is the fitness industry he owns multiple um um you know um kind of like CrossFit

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and gyms in the Portland Vancouver area and so it's just one of those it's a new season

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and I already see God at work and and I'm just excited to see what 2025 does because

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so a month ago I was just it was just life was in absolute chaos and you know and it's amazing

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to see what God's doing yeah I George I really thank you for sharing that you know I'm aware of

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a little bit of your situation not in a lot of detail but I'm aware of kind of what happened

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there and uh I'm telling you what that's that's actually really encouraging to hear that from you

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and showing up tonight and saying that and that um um I'm glad that that you know you you're you're

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seeing some turning you're seeing some redemption you're seeing some good things about it um it's

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so it's so interesting a lot of my career transitions i.e uh getting fired or or I know

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you weren't fired but I'm just like myself like you know getting fired or like unexpected changes

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in career or different things that have happened to me all the different moves I've had how just

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you know um serendipitous a lot of those were um and uh how um they were opportunities they

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ended up being sort of like either a divine rejection sort of situation like kind of like

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hey I'm trying to do this trying to make this happen and then so like nah this is not going

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to work out for whatever reason it's like a pushback and then for me it was just like um

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this is an opportunity to actually step into a very necessary next season which I didn't

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understand or didn't really see but then looked back and went oh yeah I could see how that was

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actually you know a divine appointment that was definitely a a shifting it got me to where I was

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where I am today type of thing so I love that thank you for sharing um yeah thanks for showing

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up and no problem if you got a jet uh when you have to so okay who else has got something tonight

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Um, on their heart, on their mind, what's going on, what'd you do for the holiday?

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Uh, Hey,

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quiet tank.

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Uh, so I actually got a full out terminated, uh, from my position in,

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uh, an elementary school.

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Uh, it was stuff that I expected was going to happen anyway.

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Uh, but it was specifically something that I was praying about.

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It was actually, uh, I was, uh, half reading, uh, discover your God

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given gifts by Don and Katie fortune.

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And then I would also happen to be listening to, uh, uh, it was one of

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the path sessions that Jackie was talking about, and it was just something

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that sparked in my head that I've never really quite understood about gifts

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before, but it was like, Oh, Hey, if you have a gift of teaching, that does

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not mean you should be a teacher.

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And I was like, what's this?

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There's like the first I'm ever hearing of this.

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Uh, and it was, uh, a situation that, uh, in prayer of the Lord, let me know

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that I'd, uh, get out of it unscathed.

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And I did.

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Um, I, uh, restrained, uh, a kid from trying to kick another kid in the

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face, told the parent on pickup.

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Uh, everyone was very understanding, but because of some of my, uh, injuries

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from the army, I forgot to tell my principal.

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One of the big insurance things for a school.

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So they did a two month investigation.

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And during that whole time, they were like, Oh yeah, uh, this was just a

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simple, you forgot to tell your superiors.

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Uh, but me being a substitute, I don't have as much, uh, leeway

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as, uh, a licensed teacher does.

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So they, uh, let me know that over the phone, like New Year's Eve or the

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day before New Year's Eve, I think.

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But it was, uh, it's everything that I've been praying on for

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confirmation on what path to take.

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And if chiropractic school in the cold, cold Midwest is really the way to go.

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Cause who wants to go there?

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Obviously, you know, I don't imagine, I don't imagine David

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wants to move back to Ohio ever.

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Not move back.

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I'll visit every once in a while.

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But yeah, like a day or two, you know?

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Oh, we're, we're having like, you know, old man winter here in Texas right now.

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I mean, everybody's freaking out.

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I mean, I'm telling you what, like right now it's, it's gotta be a

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whole like 38 degrees or something.

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Like whatever it is.

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I don't even know.

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Um, I'll tell you in a second.

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It's, uh, it's, uh, maybe 42 degrees.

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That's 38 degrees.

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I hit it right on the head.

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38 degrees in Leander, Texas.

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And I tell you what, people around here are clearing the shelves.

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They're like, you know, burrowing down and hobbles and little holes in the

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ground and acting like it's, you know, the nuclear apocalypse and I've

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totally been in the South when it snows.

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I'm so happy with that.

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I moved to Texas basically to say, I don't want to shovel another snowy

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driveway ever in my life if I had to.

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So thanks for sharing, David.

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DJ, you have your hand raised there.

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What do you have there, brother?

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Hello.

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Um, I just wanted to share, uh, it's already been a full circle moment on the

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first, our local singles group, which I have not been very involved with for

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like the past three years at a, uh, five event marathon the whole day.

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And, um, at the third, fourth and fifth event, um, I basically ran into somebody

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that I was introduced to in a group like a few years ago, but at the time I was

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involved in another relationship, which I know now is, was just actually

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a situation ship, unfortunately.

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But it's like a full circle moment.

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So I just wanted to share that real quick.

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Full circle moment.

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And I guess just a quick question.

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Is there anywhere like resources or a particular video that like helps, um,

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even if it doesn't say anything specifically, uh, like appropriate

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things to ask on a first date versus, you know, things are, you

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know, for level three, et cetera.

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You know, I mean, obviously there's some common sense there, but like

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there's a difference between the first and second date versus like the fifth

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or sixth at level two, you know what I'm saying?

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As far as, uh, you know, that's good.

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That's a good, um, ask Jackie question.

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Um, I think, I think they actually go over that in one of the path

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sessions titled relationship levels.

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Yeah, there's there.

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I was going to also write, yeah.

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I was going to reference a video in the past sessions that, um, I haven't seen

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in a while, but there's very possible there's.

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There's some stuff in there, too.

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So I think the PATH sessions, like for instance,

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for the programs, again, not outlined like this

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for the guys, but for the women, it's

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like phase two, which is like basically best practices,

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dating, one-on-one type of stuff.

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Best practice online, some information there.

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So you might want to look at some of those videos

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in the PATH sessions.

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So good looking out, David.

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Thank you.

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And then also, what I mentioned before,

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I can't remember what it was, the first thing I said.

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You have to go back and catch that.

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I can't remember what I said the first time.

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But yeah, no, oh, Ask Jackie, that's what it was.

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So in the resource section on the app,

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there's a tab you can push, and it goes to Ask Jackie,

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and you submit your question.

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And then that's a great Ask Jackie question.

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And I will mention it to her when we get off tonight,

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say what's a good resource for that.

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And then hopefully on the next Ask Jackie,

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she'll put that in there.

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Good stuff.

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What else is going on?

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I see Ty's in the house.

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Look at you, Ty.

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How you doing?

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Good to see you.

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Matthew Silverman, haven't seen you in a minute.

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Clayton, I've seen you in a minute, too.

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So good to see you guys.

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Thank you.

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Zach Allen, is this your first time here or no?

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Yes, technically first check-in.

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I think I did a Zoom with Watchdog Live with Jackie

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earlier in the year, but I just joined the program a week ago.

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So just through the first week of the heart work.

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I was gone last week, was not on here.

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So welcome.

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I want to welcome you to the heart check-in.

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This is just an opportunity for us to really roundtable a lot

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and just kind of share our wins.

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Sometimes we share our losses, and we help each other.

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And we just kind of sometimes I'll rant for a little bit,

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and I try not to do that too much.

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But sometimes, hopefully it's good.

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But it's just like a God moment that I've got stuff going on.

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Abram, thank you for the thumbs up.

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I don't know if that's like, yes, you're ranting,

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or it's good when you rant.

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I don't know what that means.

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OK, it's good thumbs up.

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All right, I got it.

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I got you.

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Thank you.

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Thank you.

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Thank you.

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But so Zach, what do you do?

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Where are you from?

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So I am from Jacksonville, Florida,

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currently living here still.

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I work in ministry.

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I work for a church here in town.

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I have been there almost, March will be 10 years for me.

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I work in the production side of ministry,

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so sound, video, lighting.

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I do a lot of coordinating with our ministries.

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We're a little bit of a medium-sized church.

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So we have an auxiliary room that our youth and young adults

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and stuff meet in.

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I do a lot of IT infrastructure.

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I have a degree in audio engineering, things like that.

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So I've been serving in the church

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pretty much since I was 12.

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And yeah, looking forward to really kind of digging

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into some of the deeper things in the hard work

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stuff over the next few weeks.

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Well, good, good, good.

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Welcome, welcome.

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It's great to have you.

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Are you a Jaguars fan?

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By proxy.

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This year has not been so good for us.

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And then I'm really more of a Florida State fan.

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And their year was even worse than the Jaguars was.

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So not really a great year for sports all around.

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But yeah, I love football.

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Oh, it's good, good.

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I had an interesting theory presented to me the other day,

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actually through an article.

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You guys know, some of you that were here that day,

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that after the Michigan game, Mike opened up the question

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and said, how did you feel about the Buckeyes?

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And I was so upset.

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I don't even know why.

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I was just like unnaturally upset about that game.

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But anyway, I actually heard in an article the day,

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there's this theory that they actually

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lost the game on purpose so that they didn't have

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to play Oregon three times and only twice.

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And they could just get the revenge,

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well-seeking good revenge.

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And I'm like, I don't know why you'd lose a game intentionally,

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especially that one.

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However, I'm like, huh, is that supposed

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to be genius level stuff?

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And I'm like, sure.

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So I don't know if I buy it or not, but that's just out there.

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So what else, guys?

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Who's got stuff going on?

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Everybody.

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Well, God blesses you in a weird ways.

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Yeah.

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I'm praying for a full-time work

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and animations that I've ended up with seasonal work.

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I was working about 16 hour days

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at home goods, unpacking boxes till from 5 a.m. to one,

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then jump in the car and go to Six Flags

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and work another eight hours to 11 at night.

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Oh.

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So before that, I was making some good connections

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and animation at a few events.

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Yeah.

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But they all say like March, April, we'll be staffing up.

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So just getting through up until then.

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Pleased you, man.

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That's awesome.

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I love that.

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Yeah.

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Thank you for-

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Yeah, I mean, it's providing financially,

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but yeah, it's not easy.

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Yeah, thank you for sharing about your perseverance

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cause you gotta do what you gotta do.

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But I honor you and respect you for that, man.

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That's awesome.

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Thank you.

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Yeah.

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And I know, man, that industry is like,

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when you got people like striking

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and you've got this and that going on,

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you got the whole politics of the industry.

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I don't mean like politics, like in government.

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I just mean the industry has its own version of politics

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and that's just like craziness.

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Well, they did just sign a new contract

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at the end of the year

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that things should be settled up a little bit

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where the animators and the designers and everything

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are getting them more money.

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And they're kind of got the AI under control

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where they're not gonna take their work

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and put it into AI and other negotiations

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and better medical and everything for them.

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It doesn't affect production,

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but at least it should affect getting things going.

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And if you look at everything that came out last year,

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the animation made more money than any other movies and TV.

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Yeah, I wouldn't be-

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So they know the money's there.

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They just don't wanna share it.

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Yeah, yeah.

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Interesting.

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Yeah.

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Interesting stuff.

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Well, thank you for sharing that.

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And I'm glad things are looking up maybe,

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hopefully for you.

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Yeah, I got some hope.

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I got some hope.

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I had mentioned in the chat that unfortunately this morning,

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I dropped a couch on my foot at HomeGoods,

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but I'm resting it right now and it should be okay.

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And in the situation I'm in, I couldn't bother saying,

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oh, this happened to me

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and then go through all the paperwork and workers comp.

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So I just kind of toughed it out.

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Yeah, man.

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I've had that happen.

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So I know what it's like.

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Yeah.

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Thank you for sharing.

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Yeah.

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I mean, nice to be back

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and see what's going on with everybody else.

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Get some positive vibes and everything

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and what God's doing and for everybody else as well.

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Thanks.

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Thanks for sharing.

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That's good.

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What else guys tonight?

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I actually have a question, David.

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I was in a relationship that ultimately

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I ended between a young lady and myself.

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We both got to that area where we were living

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outside the fear of God

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and recognize that that's not where we should have been.

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And so we ended that relationship,

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prayed about breaking soul ties with her.

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But she had asked me like a while back

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to like take me out for my birthday.

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To like a show, like a comedy show or something

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just to do something together as friends,

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but still understand that we're not going back

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into that relationship.

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Is that something that,

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I guess, should I avoid that altogether

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because that's someone that I used to have a soul tie to?

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I mean, I guess it really depends on

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I mean, I guess it really depends on

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typically those situations arise

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whether you're in relationship

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or you're not in relationship.

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Those moments that I'm assuming you're referring to

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are very situational in the sense that

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when you put yourself in the situation in the moment,

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if you haven't made up your mind before the moment,

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then it's hard to like navigate that in that moment.

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And that's like, people do that

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when they're even not in relationship,

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you know what I'm saying?

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So, I mean, I guess it just really matters like,

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is that something that you feel like you and her can,

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be platonic about, upfront.

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Maintain healthy boundaries.

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You can't maintain the health of boundaries

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is probably not a good idea.

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No, I'm saying I can.

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Yeah, yeah, yeah.

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No, I mean, if you can, then I guess the other thing

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is this is like, it's the age old question.

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It's like, can guys and girls,

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men and women, boys and girls, all that,

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whatever you wanna call, can they be friends?

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And I'm like, I don't know.

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Yeah, I guess so.

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It just depends.

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It just depends on what the angle is in the relationship.

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Usually, when a guy and a girl are friends,

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there's usually one or the other, maybe even both,

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that are wanting to be in more of a deeper relationship

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with the other, right?

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That's usually 99% of what's going on there.

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So, if she's trying to make that reconnection

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in whatever way, making it, oh, it's just no big deal.

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It's just, it's your birthday, whatever.

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It was your birthday, right?

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Something like that, birthday?

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Yeah, when she wanted to take you out.

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Yeah, like, no, I wanna take you out on your birthday.

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We can just be friends, whatever,

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even though we were in a relationship at one point.

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It's like, well, and I don't know.

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I mean, I guess you would have to sort of navigate that

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with like, you know, in your own self.

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Like, hey, is this girl trying to reconnect with me?

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Is it still probably not a good thing

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because of, you know, where the relationship went last time?

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Now, the question is this, too.

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Sounds like you had a level of attraction to each other

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where you felt like it went to a place that was unhealthy.

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Is that accurate?

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Yeah, premarital relations.

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Right, right, so the question then is this,

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is like, is that the only thing that you were connecting on?

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Like, why, like, not saying that that is something

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to continue a connection on, but what I'm saying is

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is there wasn't any more to the relationship.

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You determined like, hey, this isn't going

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to be a long-term relationship.

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There was a basis for friendship.

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We both enjoyed music and met at karaoke.

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I actually used to teach her son in school.

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But I mean, I'm talking about actual,

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like, more to the relationship.

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I mean, were you interested in having

492
00:27:43.460 --> 00:27:47.120
a long-term courtship marriage type of relationship

493
00:27:47.120 --> 00:27:50.460
with this person outside of the physical attraction?

494
00:27:50.460 --> 00:27:53.300
I mean, was there more to the relationship

495
00:27:53.300 --> 00:27:57.300
to have been had other than just the attraction?

496
00:27:57.300 --> 00:28:00.340
I was, but we were both, we both had different goals

497
00:28:00.340 --> 00:28:02.620
and we were just heading in different directions.

498
00:28:02.620 --> 00:28:05.300
Like, I wanted to have a family.

499
00:28:05.300 --> 00:28:07.700
She didn't want to have kids ever again.

500
00:28:07.700 --> 00:28:10.060
Okay, so you had some deal breakers

501
00:28:10.060 --> 00:28:13.100
other than just the physical attraction thing?

502
00:28:13.100 --> 00:28:13.940
Yeah.

503
00:28:13.940 --> 00:28:15.240
Okay, got it.

504
00:28:15.240 --> 00:28:18.660
Yeah, I don't really know that, I mean,

505
00:28:18.660 --> 00:28:19.500
there's much to have.

506
00:28:19.500 --> 00:28:23.900
And it's not so much for that, this specific situation,

507
00:28:23.900 --> 00:28:24.740
because it's just like-

508
00:28:24.740 --> 00:28:26.060
In general.

509
00:28:26.060 --> 00:28:28.180
In general, moving forward in life.

510
00:28:28.180 --> 00:28:29.020
Yeah.

511
00:28:29.020 --> 00:28:30.900
Hey, should I avoid these things?

512
00:28:32.780 --> 00:28:35.940
Here, listen, if she's not the one

513
00:28:35.940 --> 00:28:39.580
and then you're looking for someone else who is,

514
00:28:39.580 --> 00:28:43.340
whoever that is, they're not going to probably

515
00:28:43.340 --> 00:28:45.220
be too keen on a relationship with you

516
00:28:45.220 --> 00:28:47.060
and having a friend with another woman.

517
00:28:47.060 --> 00:28:49.920
So probably best practices to move on.

518
00:28:50.860 --> 00:28:51.700
Gotcha.

519
00:28:51.700 --> 00:28:52.520
Short answer.

520
00:28:54.100 --> 00:28:55.020
Too easy.

521
00:28:55.020 --> 00:28:55.860
Yeah. Thank you.

522
00:28:57.620 --> 00:28:59.360
Oh, and then other quick question.

523
00:28:59.360 --> 00:29:01.340
Are these replays able to be watched

524
00:29:01.340 --> 00:29:04.100
by people outside the men's group?

525
00:29:04.980 --> 00:29:06.540
Not typically, no.

526
00:29:06.540 --> 00:29:08.980
Okay, because someone asked me that,

527
00:29:08.980 --> 00:29:09.820
that I was telling them about.

528
00:29:09.820 --> 00:29:11.700
If you're logged in and you're playing it

529
00:29:11.700 --> 00:29:13.660
and you're showing it to somebody, that's one thing.

530
00:29:13.660 --> 00:29:14.500
Well, yeah.

531
00:29:15.420 --> 00:29:17.860
But we don't make them available to share

532
00:29:17.860 --> 00:29:21.460
or we don't invite other people into the group,

533
00:29:21.460 --> 00:29:23.700
access to the group on their own app,

534
00:29:24.540 --> 00:29:29.540
unless they're a man, unless they're part of the group.

535
00:29:29.540 --> 00:29:30.380
Yeah.

536
00:29:30.380 --> 00:29:32.100
It was just something that someone asked me.

537
00:29:32.100 --> 00:29:34.260
They're like, oh, you're sharing all this.

538
00:29:34.260 --> 00:29:35.300
Like it was something I was telling,

539
00:29:35.300 --> 00:29:36.700
hey, you should jump on last year's.

540
00:29:36.700 --> 00:29:38.860
Yeah, no, this is exclusive.

541
00:29:38.860 --> 00:29:39.700
If you want to say it that way,

542
00:29:39.700 --> 00:29:41.500
this is exclusive to the men's community.

543
00:29:41.500 --> 00:29:42.340
Yep.

544
00:29:42.340 --> 00:29:43.180
Okay, cool.

545
00:29:44.140 --> 00:29:45.420
They're like, well,

546
00:29:45.420 --> 00:29:47.380
are you able to see like my private groups?

547
00:29:47.380 --> 00:29:49.020
And it was a lady I was talking to.

548
00:29:49.020 --> 00:29:52.620
I'm like, no, I don't know.

549
00:29:52.620 --> 00:29:54.460
I don't think so, but I'm gonna go with that.

550
00:29:54.460 --> 00:29:55.540
Not in the app.

551
00:29:55.540 --> 00:29:56.380
Okay.

552
00:29:56.380 --> 00:29:57.380
It doesn't come up, no.

553
00:29:57.380 --> 00:29:58.220
Cool.

554
00:29:59.220 --> 00:30:00.060
What else?

555
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:00.840
What else, guys?

556
00:30:00.840 --> 00:30:01.920
Thanks for shaving, David.

557
00:30:01.920 --> 00:30:03.920
Abram, yeah, you had your hand up, I think.

558
00:30:03.920 --> 00:30:04.960
Or were you clapping earlier,

559
00:30:04.960 --> 00:30:06.800
or did you have your hand up earlier?

560
00:30:10.280 --> 00:30:13.440
Yeah, so I've been kind of wrestling with this thing

561
00:30:13.440 --> 00:30:14.280
for a couple weeks.

562
00:30:14.280 --> 00:30:19.280
So I'm a Catholic guy, right, by origin.

563
00:30:19.440 --> 00:30:22.360
And so being around you guys

564
00:30:22.360 --> 00:30:24.520
and all the other denominations,

565
00:30:24.520 --> 00:30:26.260
I've been hearing different lingo

566
00:30:26.260 --> 00:30:28.960
and different angles and stuff, which is cool.

567
00:30:28.960 --> 00:30:31.120
So one of these things is, and maybe I missed it,

568
00:30:31.120 --> 00:30:34.440
but I've just never really, this whole yolk thing.

569
00:30:34.440 --> 00:30:37.440
And basically my understanding through listening

570
00:30:37.440 --> 00:30:41.200
is you're kind of like on the same level

571
00:30:42.760 --> 00:30:46.560
when it comes to your views on religion

572
00:30:46.560 --> 00:30:48.920
and more or less like practice.

573
00:30:48.920 --> 00:30:53.120
So what you're doing, and this could be, you know,

574
00:30:53.120 --> 00:30:54.800
reading the Bible, going to church,

575
00:30:54.800 --> 00:30:57.920
involvement in church stuff, church life.

576
00:30:57.960 --> 00:31:02.960
And so my concern is that,

577
00:31:07.200 --> 00:31:09.560
because it's almost kind of like,

578
00:31:09.560 --> 00:31:12.480
it's kind of adding up to me almost like infighting

579
00:31:12.480 --> 00:31:17.080
or like, I don't know if they're super good excuses

580
00:31:17.080 --> 00:31:19.580
enough for deal breakers, or maybe I don't want them to be,

581
00:31:19.580 --> 00:31:21.640
but you find somebody, right?

582
00:31:21.640 --> 00:31:23.080
Like let's say I find somebody, okay.

583
00:31:23.080 --> 00:31:25.320
And then because of this community,

584
00:31:25.360 --> 00:31:28.040
I'm going to run into a woman that is, you know,

585
00:31:28.040 --> 00:31:33.040
way, you know, God is way more like thought of

586
00:31:33.040 --> 00:31:34.480
more often on her mind, right?

587
00:31:34.480 --> 00:31:38.400
It's daily, it's either she does or she's thinking stuff

588
00:31:38.400 --> 00:31:40.040
way more than maybe some person that, you know,

589
00:31:40.040 --> 00:31:41.720
maybe atheist or whatever, right?

590
00:31:41.720 --> 00:31:43.240
Which is, I think is great.

591
00:31:43.240 --> 00:31:45.660
But the fear is like, okay, so, you know,

592
00:31:45.660 --> 00:31:49.400
I meet some awesome lady that has this great foundation.

593
00:31:49.400 --> 00:31:51.840
She takes it seriously, she believes.

594
00:31:51.840 --> 00:31:53.280
She wants to pass it on to the kids.

595
00:31:53.280 --> 00:31:55.640
She wants to help me with mine.

596
00:31:55.640 --> 00:31:57.400
She wants me to help her with hers.

597
00:31:57.400 --> 00:32:00.040
So she's up here, okay.

598
00:32:00.040 --> 00:32:04.840
And I'll be honest guys, I am lower than a lot.

599
00:32:04.840 --> 00:32:07.740
And I'm not saying that I'm not, I don't,

600
00:32:07.740 --> 00:32:11.200
I'm not framing it like good or bad, better,

601
00:32:11.200 --> 00:32:12.260
not good enough thing.

602
00:32:12.260 --> 00:32:13.100
I don't, I don't like that.

603
00:32:13.100 --> 00:32:14.320
Cause again, it's like infighting.

604
00:32:14.320 --> 00:32:17.080
It's like, okay, we're both same book.

605
00:32:17.080 --> 00:32:18.880
We both care.

606
00:32:18.880 --> 00:32:19.700
Okay.

607
00:32:19.700 --> 00:32:22.060
I'm willing to fight about it with other people,

608
00:32:22.060 --> 00:32:24.880
but she's up here, I'm here.

609
00:32:24.880 --> 00:32:25.720
Okay.

610
00:32:25.720 --> 00:32:26.540
Abram's off the list.

611
00:32:27.700 --> 00:32:30.600
And so that kind of is a little annoying.

612
00:32:31.940 --> 00:32:35.640
It does motivate me to get a little bit more involved,

613
00:32:35.640 --> 00:32:36.480
you know, fair enough.

614
00:32:36.480 --> 00:32:38.500
Okay. You know, I could always do better.

615
00:32:38.500 --> 00:32:40.040
So this whole yoke thing, it's like,

616
00:32:40.040 --> 00:32:41.780
are we just fighting amongst ourselves?

617
00:32:41.780 --> 00:32:43.860
Cause, okay, my parents,

618
00:32:43.860 --> 00:32:45.100
let's talk about my parents really quick.

619
00:32:45.100 --> 00:32:48.500
My mom's like a super Catholic lady, right?

620
00:32:48.500 --> 00:32:51.760
She's got tons of religious things everywhere.

621
00:32:52.440 --> 00:32:54.480
She's blessed, says the rosary almost nightly.

622
00:32:54.480 --> 00:32:55.560
I don't know if you guys know about the rosary,

623
00:32:55.560 --> 00:32:57.340
but it's like, you know, kind of a prayer,

624
00:32:57.340 --> 00:32:58.180
set of prayers.

625
00:32:58.180 --> 00:32:59.480
Okay. Yeah.

626
00:32:59.480 --> 00:33:02.520
Anyways, my dad over here, quiet as a church mouse,

627
00:33:02.520 --> 00:33:03.580
doesn't say nothing.

628
00:33:04.540 --> 00:33:05.540
You get in trouble growing up.

629
00:33:05.540 --> 00:33:08.800
He gives you baby, not even really scripture,

630
00:33:08.800 --> 00:33:11.400
but it's like kind of scripture, but it's not.

631
00:33:11.400 --> 00:33:13.000
And then my mom, every time she's,

632
00:33:13.000 --> 00:33:16.340
she just talks through religious lands constantly.

633
00:33:16.340 --> 00:33:21.340
But the older I get, the more I feel like my dad,

634
00:33:21.840 --> 00:33:24.480
is like this stoic quiet guy

635
00:33:24.480 --> 00:33:27.280
that was just so cool the whole time I didn't even know it.

636
00:33:27.280 --> 00:33:29.160
And my mom's over here freaking out.

637
00:33:30.120 --> 00:33:34.760
So, you know, again, they're like different levels,

638
00:33:34.760 --> 00:33:37.520
but what's the fruit of it?

639
00:33:37.520 --> 00:33:39.640
And I would say my dad might have some better,

640
00:33:39.640 --> 00:33:41.640
you know, a little bit better fruit,

641
00:33:41.640 --> 00:33:43.600
even though I thank my mom for all the religious input,

642
00:33:43.600 --> 00:33:45.200
you know, cause it was great.

643
00:33:45.200 --> 00:33:49.760
But I'm so, I'm fighting with this idea,

644
00:33:49.760 --> 00:33:53.320
this yoke thing and, you know,

645
00:33:54.320 --> 00:33:57.500
like, okay, I'm willing, if someone's below me,

646
00:33:57.500 --> 00:33:59.600
I'm willing to help them.

647
00:33:59.600 --> 00:34:01.280
And I would like to think that if I find someone

648
00:34:01.280 --> 00:34:03.440
that's above me, let's just, you know, not, you know,

649
00:34:03.440 --> 00:34:05.400
not better than, I'm just saying,

650
00:34:05.400 --> 00:34:07.240
they're willing to help me.

651
00:34:07.240 --> 00:34:09.900
So it's like, I'm willing to pick up the next person.

652
00:34:09.900 --> 00:34:11.239
And this person up here is,

653
00:34:12.679 --> 00:34:13.920
I don't know, I'm gonna stop talking.

654
00:34:13.920 --> 00:34:18.719
Yeah, no, no, no, it's an age old debate.

655
00:34:19.560 --> 00:34:23.120
There's several different contexts that I think,

656
00:34:23.120 --> 00:34:26.080
this is my opinion on this particular topic,

657
00:34:27.000 --> 00:34:31.239
the whole equally, unequally yoked thing.

658
00:34:31.239 --> 00:34:34.520
First of all, the basis of the actual scripture reference

659
00:34:34.520 --> 00:34:39.520
in Corinthians is really referring to believers,

660
00:34:40.280 --> 00:34:43.040
unbelievers, light and darkness, you know,

661
00:34:43.040 --> 00:34:47.360
like the extremes of like this and that, you know,

662
00:34:47.400 --> 00:34:52.400
it really is not contextualized in scripture

663
00:34:52.840 --> 00:34:57.760
to relate to like personal relationships

664
00:34:57.760 --> 00:35:00.000
between a man and a woman in.

665
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:08.200
a romantic way, i.e., this guy is more spiritual than this woman, or reverse, this woman is

666
00:35:08.200 --> 00:35:16.160
more spiritually astute, more discipled than this guy who just is now coming into some

667
00:35:16.160 --> 00:35:19.400
sort of knowledge of Christ.

668
00:35:19.400 --> 00:35:22.640
And then, that's the difference in Scripture.

669
00:35:22.640 --> 00:35:29.000
So Scripture is not really talking about—so it's a misuse, I think, of the term.

670
00:35:29.000 --> 00:35:38.440
The term itself, unequally yoked, has obviously been famously used to beat up people forever

671
00:35:38.440 --> 00:35:47.720
in religious contexts, i.e., don't go out with those—it's like I make fun sometimes

672
00:35:47.720 --> 00:35:56.520
of uninformed, ill-informed religious leaders who I could hear them saying and confessing

673
00:35:56.520 --> 00:36:02.360
to each other in the back room, like, well, my God, we can't tell them, like Paul said,

674
00:36:02.360 --> 00:36:06.400
we can't tell them that they can do anything they want to, but my God, they'll go out and

675
00:36:06.400 --> 00:36:07.620
do it.

676
00:36:07.620 --> 00:36:09.920
So we just got to tell them not to.

677
00:36:09.920 --> 00:36:14.000
We got to preach at them and tell them that they got to hold back and they got to—and

678
00:36:14.000 --> 00:36:19.760
they can't be unequally yoked, I mean, we got to tell them what to do.

679
00:36:19.760 --> 00:36:22.800
That irritates the crap out of me.

680
00:36:22.800 --> 00:36:29.640
That to me is a religious sort of hierarchy, cultural thing that has gone on for decades

681
00:36:29.640 --> 00:36:30.640
in church.

682
00:36:30.640 --> 00:36:31.640
That's a guilt.

683
00:36:31.640 --> 00:36:32.640
Yeah, guilt stuff.

684
00:36:32.640 --> 00:36:37.920
Yeah, it's like a guilt thing, and I don't think that's at all scriptural, I don't think

685
00:36:37.920 --> 00:36:41.120
it's effective, I don't think it's biblical.

686
00:36:41.120 --> 00:36:46.600
There definitely is, obviously, folks, a difference between light and darkness.

687
00:36:46.600 --> 00:36:52.040
There's a difference between being separate as a believer and an unbeliever.

688
00:36:52.280 --> 00:36:57.520
Does that mean I'm not going to sit down with an unbeliever to have dinner when I have whatever

689
00:36:57.520 --> 00:36:59.400
appropriate opportunity to do that?

690
00:36:59.400 --> 00:37:00.400
No.

691
00:37:00.400 --> 00:37:09.200
But it means I might actually consider having some sort of formal agreement with somebody

692
00:37:09.200 --> 00:37:11.400
because of certain reasons.

693
00:37:11.400 --> 00:37:14.640
Does that mean I can't do business with an unbeliever?

694
00:37:14.640 --> 00:37:16.400
I don't think so.

695
00:37:16.400 --> 00:37:19.400
But I mean, there's definitely some wisdom there.

696
00:37:19.400 --> 00:37:27.160
But the whole religious cultural put on is what I call it, especially as it relates to

697
00:37:27.160 --> 00:37:30.400
relationships between men and women.

698
00:37:30.400 --> 00:37:36.040
What you're dealing with, I think, in my opinion, between men and women is more so not an unequally

699
00:37:36.040 --> 00:37:46.600
yoked, it's a difference between how men and how women process their spirituality, process

700
00:37:46.720 --> 00:37:54.480
their supernatural, process their understanding of theology, process their relationship with God.

701
00:37:54.480 --> 00:37:56.160
Right?

702
00:37:56.160 --> 00:37:57.360
Those are all the same thing.

703
00:37:57.360 --> 00:37:58.720
They're just different ways to look at it.

704
00:37:58.720 --> 00:38:04.040
You know, call it religion, call it your theology, call it your personal belief, call it your

705
00:38:04.040 --> 00:38:06.880
personal relationship with the Lord, whatever you want to call it.

706
00:38:06.880 --> 00:38:10.240
Men and women do it differently.

707
00:38:10.240 --> 00:38:16.560
Men and women are notoriously, famously, the Lord, the scripture, my mom's one of those

708
00:38:16.560 --> 00:38:18.600
people.

709
00:38:18.600 --> 00:38:19.960
You know, she just is.

710
00:38:19.960 --> 00:38:22.920
Every other word is the Lord and every word of the word is the scripture and every one

711
00:38:22.920 --> 00:38:23.920
of the...

712
00:38:23.920 --> 00:38:31.840
But I will tell you, if I want somebody to pray for me and go to the throne of God and

713
00:38:31.840 --> 00:38:35.280
go to the depths in the soul, that's who I want on my team.

714
00:38:35.280 --> 00:38:36.280
Right?

715
00:38:36.280 --> 00:38:37.280
That's my mom.

716
00:38:37.280 --> 00:38:38.280
Yeah.

717
00:38:38.280 --> 00:38:39.280
So, yeah.

718
00:38:39.280 --> 00:38:45.160
So you see the value, you see the irony, the juxtaposition of this, and then you see the

719
00:38:45.160 --> 00:38:51.920
quiet strength of a man who's simply convicted of what he believes and what he knows to be

720
00:38:51.920 --> 00:38:53.920
true.

721
00:38:53.920 --> 00:38:58.560
There's lots of marriages and couples that are just like that.

722
00:38:58.560 --> 00:39:01.520
Old school, kind of like making it work, so forth.

723
00:39:01.520 --> 00:39:05.840
There's even some new school people that are kind of like in that vein.

724
00:39:05.840 --> 00:39:13.440
So I think as a way to say, will it work or not, or is this...

725
00:39:13.440 --> 00:39:19.640
I think the compatibility of relationship is more important to focus on.

726
00:39:19.640 --> 00:39:20.640
Can you make it work?

727
00:39:20.640 --> 00:39:21.640
Will you make it work?

728
00:39:21.640 --> 00:39:23.060
Are you into each other?

729
00:39:23.060 --> 00:39:29.100
Are you into each other enough to make it work as a relationship type thing, rather

730
00:39:29.100 --> 00:39:33.040
than, oh my gosh, are we equally yoked?

731
00:39:33.040 --> 00:39:34.040
Are we unequally yoked?

732
00:39:34.040 --> 00:39:35.040
Does she know too much?

733
00:39:35.240 --> 00:39:36.240
Does he know too much?

734
00:39:36.240 --> 00:39:37.240
Da-da-da-da-da-da.

735
00:39:37.240 --> 00:39:38.840
To me, that...

736
00:39:38.840 --> 00:39:44.280
I love it when, as you're saying, Abram, when somebody is like, hey, you know, help me grow

737
00:39:44.280 --> 00:39:46.360
in my faith.

738
00:39:46.360 --> 00:39:47.360
Help me like...

739
00:39:47.360 --> 00:39:56.280
My wife has definitely helped me grow in my relationship, my spirituality, in my understanding

740
00:39:56.280 --> 00:39:58.360
of who God is, and so forth.

741
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:05.360
have also helped her, but in totally different ways. You know what I'm saying?

742
00:40:06.960 --> 00:40:11.600
So I don't think, short answer, I don't think the unequally yoke thing

743
00:40:13.120 --> 00:40:21.680
is appropriate language, and especially because of this misuse in preaching in church culture

744
00:40:22.480 --> 00:40:30.160
to talk about in terms of relationships. And case in point, I know a very, very strong,

745
00:40:30.160 --> 00:40:38.000
beautiful Christian woman who is a friend of ours, and not a business partner,

746
00:40:38.000 --> 00:40:43.040
but we know her in business too, and lives actually in proximity to us in our town,

747
00:40:43.840 --> 00:40:53.040
who's married to a guy, and she's like, yeah, he's agnostic. He's not necessarily an atheist,

748
00:40:53.840 --> 00:40:58.160
but he's just not really a believer per se, as we would understand that to be.

749
00:41:00.000 --> 00:41:06.880
And the question then, of course, the religious mindset always goes to, oh, well,

750
00:41:06.960 --> 00:41:12.880
you know, were you not saved when you got married to each other, and he just hasn't come to the

751
00:41:12.880 --> 00:41:23.760
Lord yet, type thing? She's like, no. She goes, don't go there. That's offensive, basically,

752
00:41:24.560 --> 00:41:32.000
just to assume that, oh, we got married when we weren't saved. I have found the Lord. He just

753
00:41:32.000 --> 00:41:36.080
hasn't found the Lord yet, type thing, because that's always the assumption, right? Why would

754
00:41:36.080 --> 00:41:41.120
you marry somebody if you're a believer? Why would you marry somebody who's an unbeliever?

755
00:41:42.160 --> 00:41:48.240
She's like, because I met him, and I had compatibility with him, and I fell in love

756
00:41:48.240 --> 00:41:55.280
with him, and he's a decent guy, and he works hard, and he does good things, and he's a good

757
00:41:55.280 --> 00:42:04.560
human being, and I love him, and he's my husband, and we do great things together. I'm like,

758
00:42:05.280 --> 00:42:11.680
I'm not the judge. I can't comment on that. I mean, that's beautiful, I think.

759
00:42:13.520 --> 00:42:18.720
And what's even more interesting about that is that Scripture actually has a provision for that.

760
00:42:20.160 --> 00:42:28.240
The Scripture actually says that the wife and or the husband can make an unbelieving spouse,

761
00:42:28.320 --> 00:42:32.800
they can bring them into the fold simply on the fact of their own belief. Did you know that?

762
00:42:33.760 --> 00:42:39.120
There's actually Scripture that says that pretty directly, not hard to be interpreted.

763
00:42:40.160 --> 00:42:46.960
And I'm like, wow, that's possible. I'm not saying it's the best situation. I'm not recommending it

764
00:42:46.960 --> 00:42:51.280
as, hey, just go marry anybody you want to. Definitely go through the process of finding

765
00:42:51.600 --> 00:42:58.240
people put the wrong emphasis on the wrong syllable a lot of times in these relational

766
00:42:58.240 --> 00:43:02.240
things. And one of the biggest things I think that we're trying to do in Last Year Single

767
00:43:02.240 --> 00:43:08.720
and our community as at large is trying to deconstruct some of these things that get in our

768
00:43:08.720 --> 00:43:14.160
way. And if we're going to let religious mindset get in our way from just getting married because

769
00:43:14.160 --> 00:43:18.160
we're so afraid of being married, we're going to have to deconstruct some of these things

770
00:43:18.160 --> 00:43:22.080
that get in our way from just getting married because we're so afraid of being, you know,

771
00:43:22.080 --> 00:43:26.640
unequally yoked or connected to the wrong thing. Or, oh, my gosh, what if this? What if that?

772
00:43:27.280 --> 00:43:31.440
Like, man, you're just making this harder than it really needs to be.

773
00:43:33.360 --> 00:43:39.920
You know? Yeah, like I feel like my bar is like pretty low, maybe from like comparable to other

774
00:43:39.920 --> 00:43:45.200
folks. So, you know, like I want someone that if they win the Super Bowl and they get interviewed,

775
00:43:45.200 --> 00:43:49.040
they say, thank God, you know, like first, second or third thing, preferably, you know,

776
00:43:49.040 --> 00:43:53.680
one or two first things they say is I want to thank God. Yeah. After they win the Super

777
00:43:53.680 --> 00:43:58.640
Bowl, the championship. Like, I don't know why these little things. I like them. Yeah,

778
00:43:58.640 --> 00:44:04.400
it feels good. Every time I see some athlete talking about that. Yeah. Some success. It feels

779
00:44:04.400 --> 00:44:09.280
good. Love it. Yeah. So, you know, I don't need the three day a week. I don't need I mean,

780
00:44:09.280 --> 00:44:15.040
you know, I could I mean, I'd be OK with that, you know, but I don't know. They just kind of like

781
00:44:15.040 --> 00:44:20.560
this, you know. This weird this weird thing that I don't want to get, I don't want to get in my way

782
00:44:21.360 --> 00:44:25.680
and I hope that it doesn't get in her way. Yeah. Whoever she is, wherever she's at.

783
00:44:26.480 --> 00:44:32.480
So that just gets a little concerning. I stopped this infighting. I used to be like the Catholic

784
00:44:32.480 --> 00:44:36.160
kid at school that were like, you know, arguing with the, you know, with like the Lutherans and

785
00:44:36.160 --> 00:44:41.280
stuff a little bit, you know, and, you know, I stopped that crap a long time ago. It's like

786
00:44:41.280 --> 00:44:45.280
we're all on the same team here, guys. So I don't know how you guys, but I stopped the

787
00:44:45.280 --> 00:44:52.800
elitist jerk. You know, the Catholics are here. Everyone else. Yeah. Why are we fighting each

788
00:44:52.800 --> 00:44:58.000
other? You know, there's other people to fight together. Yeah. Not to use the word fight,

789
00:44:58.000 --> 00:44:59.840
but like, you know, I don't know exactly.

790
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:02.660
Oh, yeah, I cut that shit out.

791
00:45:02.660 --> 00:45:08.500
But anyways, yeah, my general disposition is I mean, I've never

792
00:45:09.140 --> 00:45:12.460
you're going to talk about like who's in, who's out, right?

793
00:45:13.000 --> 00:45:16.160
I'm not talking about college football playoffs anymore, but like who's in,

794
00:45:16.160 --> 00:45:20.240
who's out like, you know, like, you know, who's going to heaven?

795
00:45:20.240 --> 00:45:21.960
Who's not or who's a believer?

796
00:45:21.960 --> 00:45:23.160
Who's not a believer?

797
00:45:23.160 --> 00:45:25.160
I've never been the one to, you know.

798
00:45:27.260 --> 00:45:28.760
To argue on that,

799
00:45:28.760 --> 00:45:32.600
I've never been one to even question somebody, you know.

800
00:45:33.500 --> 00:45:35.500
Obviously, we're supposed to be fruit inspectors.

801
00:45:35.500 --> 00:45:39.960
Obviously, we're like like if I have a reason to understand somebody.

802
00:45:41.060 --> 00:45:45.500
Deeper and I can see their fruit, I can understand them more.

803
00:45:46.340 --> 00:45:51.000
I don't think that that inspection is for me to diss them.

804
00:45:51.900 --> 00:45:55.400
Unless it's they're toxic for my life, unless there's a reason to,

805
00:45:55.540 --> 00:45:59.040
you know, like this person's like not good for me, whatever.

806
00:45:59.500 --> 00:46:02.140
I don't you know, they're affecting me in a way

807
00:46:02.140 --> 00:46:04.200
that I don't feel like is healthy for me spiritually.

808
00:46:04.440 --> 00:46:06.940
And they're not the I'm not supposed to be around, whatever.

809
00:46:07.680 --> 00:46:09.540
But other than that.

810
00:46:10.200 --> 00:46:12.740
I don't ever comment on somebody's

811
00:46:13.700 --> 00:46:15.980
belief in the Lord, salvation, whatever you want to call it.

812
00:46:16.940 --> 00:46:19.780
If somebody names the name of Christ or says I'm a believer

813
00:46:20.340 --> 00:46:24.100
or says, you know, Jesus is Lord or, you know, ask directly,

814
00:46:24.100 --> 00:46:26.300
who is the son of God? You know, what do you do?

815
00:46:26.300 --> 00:46:28.240
You know, and they're like, yeah, I guess Jesus is.

816
00:46:29.180 --> 00:46:30.740
And I'm like, yeah, cool.

817
00:46:30.740 --> 00:46:33.040
That's my brother. That's my sister.

818
00:46:33.600 --> 00:46:35.140
I cannot comment either.

819
00:46:35.140 --> 00:46:38.940
Like unless I'm in a deeper relationship with that person,

820
00:46:39.400 --> 00:46:41.740
then we can have more conversation.

821
00:46:41.740 --> 00:46:45.500
But on the surface, it's that like I didn't know for years.

822
00:46:46.140 --> 00:46:48.480
My dad, I've told this in here before.

823
00:46:48.500 --> 00:46:52.700
My dad, I just moved him here to Texas with me a few years ago.

824
00:46:52.700 --> 00:46:54.340
Now he's eighty four.

825
00:46:54.340 --> 00:46:57.240
And because of that proximity, now we can actually

826
00:46:57.500 --> 00:46:59.500
for the first time ever do life together.

827
00:46:59.500 --> 00:47:01.640
We actually like living in proximity.

828
00:47:01.640 --> 00:47:02.840
I see him weekly.

829
00:47:02.840 --> 00:47:04.280
We even go to church and stuff like that.

830
00:47:04.280 --> 00:47:06.340
And I think it's kind of funny because I've taken these churches

831
00:47:06.340 --> 00:47:08.040
he's never been to before.

832
00:47:08.040 --> 00:47:10.300
And I just thought it was interesting to see him react

833
00:47:10.300 --> 00:47:13.640
because he's like old timer World War II or like World War II era.

834
00:47:13.640 --> 00:47:14.680
Not a World War II vet.

835
00:47:14.680 --> 00:47:18.200
He's a Vietnam vet, you know, curmudgeon old dude.

836
00:47:18.740 --> 00:47:20.780
And, you know, he's like, ah, there's a lot of stuff

837
00:47:21.460 --> 00:47:24.120
and says inappropriate things from time to time.

838
00:47:24.480 --> 00:47:27.180
And but at the same time, I bring him into these church service

839
00:47:27.180 --> 00:47:28.980
and he's like, yeah, I really like this.

840
00:47:28.980 --> 00:47:30.320
It's really great. I'm like, you do.

841
00:47:30.320 --> 00:47:33.120
I mean, I just did would not think that he would enjoy this.

842
00:47:33.620 --> 00:47:35.680
I feel like he'd be more of a formal guy, whatever.

843
00:47:35.860 --> 00:47:36.880
He's like, no, I can't.

844
00:47:36.880 --> 00:47:41.120
Yes, I really, really hear, you know, digging with the guy saying up there,

845
00:47:41.120 --> 00:47:44.520
the guy saying some words and he's saying some things and they sound pretty good,

846
00:47:44.520 --> 00:47:47.280
you know, and like the music was OK.

847
00:47:47.760 --> 00:47:52.120
He comments way more than I think he would ever comment.

848
00:47:52.820 --> 00:47:56.280
And for the longest time, I never knew my dad was even saved.

849
00:47:57.520 --> 00:48:02.020
You know, and certainly not a religious man,

850
00:48:02.020 --> 00:48:04.720
certainly not a church going man, if you want to call it that way.

851
00:48:05.420 --> 00:48:09.120
And but everyone once while a joke with him as we go to these church services,

852
00:48:09.120 --> 00:48:10.620
right, I said, well, that's what happened.

853
00:48:10.620 --> 00:48:11.920
Do you like it today?

854
00:48:11.920 --> 00:48:13.880
I said, did you get saved today?

855
00:48:13.880 --> 00:48:16.260
You know, like in church, like they don't even have an altar call.

856
00:48:16.300 --> 00:48:17.100
They don't do that anymore.

857
00:48:17.100 --> 00:48:18.800
But I'm like, hey, did you get saved today?

858
00:48:18.800 --> 00:48:23.360
He goes, well, the Lord's the Lord saved my life so many times over the years.

859
00:48:23.400 --> 00:48:26.260
You know, I just you know, I'm just really pretty.

860
00:48:26.260 --> 00:48:27.260
And he starts crying.

861
00:48:27.260 --> 00:48:28.360
I'm like, oh, wow.

862
00:48:28.360 --> 00:48:28.700
Like.

863
00:48:29.760 --> 00:48:32.200
My dad has some like actual faith.

864
00:48:33.460 --> 00:48:37.440
I didn't know that he wasn't showing me the religious contextual way

865
00:48:37.440 --> 00:48:38.600
I was used to seeing it.

866
00:48:39.760 --> 00:48:43.460
But my dad has had experiences in his life,

867
00:48:44.140 --> 00:48:49.360
moments in his life where he's like, he knows the difference between what is right,

868
00:48:49.360 --> 00:48:51.900
what is wrong, what's righteous, what's unrighteous.

869
00:48:52.260 --> 00:48:53.600
He's got way more.

870
00:48:55.660 --> 00:48:58.600
Spiritual credibility that I was giving him.

871
00:49:01.600 --> 00:49:04.000
That was giving him credit for.

872
00:49:04.540 --> 00:49:06.460
And that means something to me.

873
00:49:06.460 --> 00:49:07.500
That's powerful.

874
00:49:07.500 --> 00:49:10.560
Like, to me, that's more true religion

875
00:49:11.300 --> 00:49:15.060
than somebody who can like quote the Bible all day long

876
00:49:15.060 --> 00:49:18.640
and just be like super spiritual, like head in the clouds.

877
00:49:19.860 --> 00:49:20.460
You know what I'm saying?

878
00:49:21.560 --> 00:49:22.440
At the end of the day.

879
00:49:23.960 --> 00:49:25.460
And so I love to talk about that.

880
00:49:25.460 --> 00:49:29.360
I love to talk about the sort of like the the fringe, the outside sort of like,

881
00:49:30.200 --> 00:49:32.600
you know, true religion that I see going on

882
00:49:34.360 --> 00:49:35.100
in the world today.

883
00:49:35.100 --> 00:49:40.460
So that's just me spouting and commenting, going off on a on a on a rant.

884
00:49:41.560 --> 00:49:43.000
Hope you guys are feeling me.

885
00:49:43.000 --> 00:49:45.540
Anybody want to make a comment on that on Abrams thing?

886
00:49:45.540 --> 00:49:46.100
I like that.

887
00:49:46.100 --> 00:49:50.100
Anybody have anything to say about the sort of, you know, yoke thing?

888
00:49:50.100 --> 00:49:51.100
Unequally yoke?

889
00:49:53.240 --> 00:49:55.260
We all boil at our own temperatures, man.

890
00:49:55.660 --> 00:49:56.160
Yeah.

891
00:49:56.800 --> 00:49:59.460
So I've I've been on.

892
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:04.920
The good side of situations with it. I've been on the bad side of situations with it

893
00:50:04.920 --> 00:50:10.200
uh, actually a girl I took out in a date said oh, well, you know, we're unequally yoked because I have a job and you

894
00:50:10.200 --> 00:50:12.200
don't I'm like I

895
00:50:12.240 --> 00:50:16.880
Am dodging a bullet here. So I'm just gonna say okay and you have a great day and

896
00:50:17.760 --> 00:50:19.760
Getting away from that

897
00:50:19.800 --> 00:50:24.360
Fascinating. Okay. I hate when they take things out of context, but you know

898
00:50:24.960 --> 00:50:28.700
there's only it's like another biblical verse about

899
00:50:31.000 --> 00:50:33.400
Don't cat was it don't catch your

900
00:50:34.080 --> 00:50:39.520
Diamonds or gold before so right before swine before swine. Yeah, it's things like that. I'm like, yep

901
00:50:40.200 --> 00:50:42.520
Picking my battles. Yeah

902
00:50:43.120 --> 00:50:46.840
I also grew up Catholic Abram and I

903
00:50:48.240 --> 00:50:52.920
Can totally relate on some of the jokes you were saying in there I was laughing off off camera. Okay

904
00:50:54.400 --> 00:50:56.400
that's great, but uh

905
00:50:56.880 --> 00:51:02.380
But yeah, I will tell you Jackie was saying this she's mentioned this a couple times like in our

906
00:51:02.760 --> 00:51:08.800
Like two people that we've been like, you know, just seeing over the holidays stuff like that and it's just that's the statement has come through

907
00:51:09.320 --> 00:51:12.360
You know like prophetically she's like she's she told somebody

908
00:51:13.040 --> 00:51:17.200
Several people last couple issues the Catholics are really having their moment right now

909
00:51:17.640 --> 00:51:23.680
Like there's something happening in the Catholic Church that I know I don't necessarily like hey

910
00:51:24.360 --> 00:51:31.320
Being a better Catholic or being more Catholic whatever like when you get to heaven, it's gonna make hey, are you Catholic a Lutheran bat?

911
00:51:31.320 --> 00:51:37.160
What are you like? Nobody's gonna be asking that and that's not the questions of like entrance into like the afterlife

912
00:51:37.800 --> 00:51:38.920
so

913
00:51:38.920 --> 00:51:40.920
Being a better Catholic being a better

914
00:51:42.160 --> 00:51:44.160
charismatic Pentecostal

915
00:51:44.480 --> 00:51:46.320
Doesn't mean crap

916
00:51:46.320 --> 00:51:52.840
But it's interesting though that there are different groups are associated like the Catholics are really having their moment

917
00:51:52.840 --> 00:51:58.960
There's a lot of people that are like like just pursuing and being put to the front in

918
00:51:59.560 --> 00:52:06.960
Culture who are Catholic by faith, but are like doing with some really awesome righteous stuff in culture today

919
00:52:06.960 --> 00:52:08.960
And it's just really cool to see I love it

920
00:52:10.080 --> 00:52:12.080
God's working through

921
00:52:12.200 --> 00:52:16.640
That group of people as well. So it's like really cool. I just want to say that that's kind of

922
00:52:17.440 --> 00:52:19.440
Interesting to me when you see these things

923
00:52:19.880 --> 00:52:21.560
The

924
00:52:21.560 --> 00:52:25.760
Charismatics and Pentecostals are really having a hard time of right now, especially the last few years

925
00:52:25.760 --> 00:52:29.400
You got all these things coming out and scandals and different things and infighting

926
00:52:29.400 --> 00:52:33.320
You got the like the heresy hunters out there like taking everybody's like a wolves in sheep clothing

927
00:52:34.080 --> 00:52:36.520
You watch the internet boy. You'd think things are

928
00:52:37.120 --> 00:52:39.120
Shaken up. So

929
00:52:39.280 --> 00:52:43.000
If you want to look at it that way you can like that's a certain level of

930
00:52:44.200 --> 00:52:47.440
Understanding. I think the truth is deeper than that

931
00:52:47.680 --> 00:52:50.160
But it's interesting to watch nevertheless

932
00:52:52.680 --> 00:52:54.920
David you didn't finish. What else were you gonna say, dude? Oh

933
00:52:56.680 --> 00:52:58.680
I

934
00:52:59.280 --> 00:53:03.120
Forgot what I was gonna say. Okay, but but ultimately like

935
00:53:04.160 --> 00:53:06.160
Someone in my church actually said it great

936
00:53:07.800 --> 00:53:09.800
She said it doesn't matter

937
00:53:10.040 --> 00:53:13.440
What type of faith you are if you call Jesus Lord?

938
00:53:14.200 --> 00:53:16.200
That's all that matters

939
00:53:17.200 --> 00:53:19.200
Good

940
00:53:19.560 --> 00:53:21.560
Love that

941
00:53:22.560 --> 00:53:28.360
Love that who else has another any any other comments on this guys? I

942
00:53:31.240 --> 00:53:36.080
Don't know if my internet it's gonna work because my internet's been terrible, but my comment is

943
00:53:40.480 --> 00:53:45.680
This is find somebody that's running in it four times a week and there they want to go once

944
00:53:46.200 --> 00:53:48.200
You know that and that's something that's important to you

945
00:53:48.360 --> 00:53:51.040
But if you guys are both cool doing it, you know

946
00:53:51.040 --> 00:53:55.960
and I'm not talking religious because I really could give a rip about religion, you know, I mean, but

947
00:53:56.720 --> 00:53:59.240
Just make sure that you're at the same speed going in the same direction

948
00:54:00.320 --> 00:54:04.240
And I think that's that's really an important thing

949
00:54:04.760 --> 00:54:10.240
Because if you're on fire and they're not then that can provide some issues, which I have experience

950
00:54:10.240 --> 00:54:13.360
So but but if you're both at a similar pace

951
00:54:13.960 --> 00:54:15.960
Go for it

952
00:54:16.200 --> 00:54:19.520
Yeah, it no doubt. It certainly makes things easier. I'll tell you that

953
00:54:21.120 --> 00:54:23.120
It's kind of like

954
00:54:23.440 --> 00:54:28.720
For me personally, they're like I have a deep admiration for people who are

955
00:54:29.840 --> 00:54:31.840
Evangelical that are out on the street

956
00:54:32.760 --> 00:54:37.760
Praising and worshiping and calling people not calling people out. But like they're like, sir, sir

957
00:54:38.640 --> 00:54:44.360
You know like just they're very verbal. I'm like, wow, that's awesome. I can never do that and

958
00:54:44.920 --> 00:54:50.440
Probably don't want to take someone that's doing like it just makes me very uncomfortable

959
00:54:50.440 --> 00:54:55.120
I'm like, yeah, you know, I'll go have a random conversation with people but that's like oh

960
00:54:55.880 --> 00:54:57.880
man, that's like

961
00:54:58.120 --> 00:55:00.120
That's like pro football

962
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:07.120
I'm I'm down here by like college ball. Yeah, you know, but and the other thing like that same thing

963
00:55:07.200 --> 00:55:11.200
It's like I I love it when people just like all the parts

964
00:55:12.160 --> 00:55:13.600
are valid

965
00:55:13.600 --> 00:55:19.760
Like you say people on the street people one-on-one at dinner people, you know working with their family members

966
00:55:20.160 --> 00:55:23.680
People trying to be in relationship with a woman like all those are all

967
00:55:24.400 --> 00:55:29.840
The parts in the drama, you know, and I love it when people all the people are playing their parts. I love it

968
00:55:30.480 --> 00:55:32.480
Yeah

969
00:55:32.640 --> 00:55:35.680
Anybody band people in here anybody in a band when they were in school

970
00:55:36.880 --> 00:55:38.880
I was in band in school

971
00:55:38.960 --> 00:55:42.560
Uh band and marching band drum line specifically. Nice

972
00:55:43.440 --> 00:55:45.440
The davids keep it rolling. Nice

973
00:55:45.920 --> 00:55:47.920
Any no other band members?

974
00:55:48.640 --> 00:55:50.640
Surprise, oh dj. All right. What'd you play?

975
00:55:53.760 --> 00:55:55.760
Uh played saxophone

976
00:55:56.560 --> 00:55:58.320
Nice

977
00:55:58.320 --> 00:56:02.320
And then there was a shortage of baritone sax. So I

978
00:56:03.440 --> 00:56:05.760
Had to be in the jazz band. So that's cool

979
00:56:06.240 --> 00:56:09.600
Yeah, uh reason I mentioned band is that everybody's got to play their part

980
00:56:10.800 --> 00:56:12.400
You know and band

981
00:56:12.400 --> 00:56:14.800
Everybody's got to play their spot on football team, right?

982
00:56:15.520 --> 00:56:17.360
play your position

983
00:56:17.360 --> 00:56:20.720
And when we all do that everybody the team wins everybody gets it done

984
00:56:21.120 --> 00:56:23.120
Um

985
00:56:23.280 --> 00:56:31.460
All right guys, um, we're up at eight o'clock anybody have anything else that they'd like to share questions comments concerns

986
00:56:37.280 --> 00:56:41.440
Anything that's on your heart and your mind that uh

987
00:56:43.760 --> 00:56:46.000
Like to just kind of get out there nothing

988
00:56:47.440 --> 00:56:49.840
like I do have one it's kind of like, uh

989
00:56:51.600 --> 00:56:53.600
I

990
00:56:54.400 --> 00:56:58.960
So like the way that I I used to date with the whole online dating thing was

991
00:56:59.840 --> 00:57:03.840
Uh stuff that I was trying to get away from and then when I came to last year single

992
00:57:04.480 --> 00:57:06.480
it's just uh

993
00:57:07.120 --> 00:57:12.640
I'm just trying to get out of this mindset of like feeling like i'm window shopping. Yeah

994
00:57:13.600 --> 00:57:15.600
uh

995
00:57:16.080 --> 00:57:17.920
And

996
00:57:17.920 --> 00:57:20.160
I don't know like it it feels like uh

997
00:57:21.600 --> 00:57:24.800
Not falling back into that rhythm because it's just like well

998
00:57:24.880 --> 00:57:27.760
i'm just gonna keep focusing on me and focusing on my artwork and

999
00:57:28.480 --> 00:57:30.480
uh

1000
00:57:30.560 --> 00:57:35.680
Polishing up, uh areas of my own life right now, but it's like, uh

1001
00:57:37.840 --> 00:57:43.280
When I when I see someone on the app i'm just like oh like how

1002
00:57:45.680 --> 00:57:48.400
How are we supposed to uh interact with uh

1003
00:57:48.480 --> 00:57:53.840
With folks in the last year single app and not uh, find ourselves falling into that

1004
00:57:54.480 --> 00:58:00.240
Rhythm, I guess of just like oh this person looks good or this person looks good. And just

1005
00:58:02.160 --> 00:58:06.000
I don't know if i'm conveying that right from what i'm thinking. Yeah, no, um

1006
00:58:07.200 --> 00:58:10.560
No, I I will admit the the app is

1007
00:58:11.280 --> 00:58:12.780
not the best

1008
00:58:12.780 --> 00:58:14.160
technologically

1009
00:58:14.700 --> 00:58:18.340
Technologically in terms of the crossover like interactivity

1010
00:58:19.440 --> 00:58:21.440
it's challenging because

1011
00:58:21.760 --> 00:58:27.200
Believe it or not those of you that are in technology understand this that's extremely difficult

1012
00:58:28.240 --> 00:58:30.240
that level of engagement

1013
00:58:30.720 --> 00:58:33.860
In within a community, it's not easily programmable

1014
00:58:34.640 --> 00:58:38.080
And everybody's like well facebook doesn't i'm like well facebook has like

1015
00:58:38.860 --> 00:58:41.840
Thousands of facebook is also a migraine like yeah

1016
00:58:42.640 --> 00:58:43.680
Happen

1017
00:58:43.680 --> 00:58:45.680
Like it's like it's like, you know

1018
00:58:45.760 --> 00:58:51.040
There's thousands of you know people coding all of that interactivity that level of engagement

1019
00:58:51.760 --> 00:58:53.360
and so like

1020
00:58:53.360 --> 00:58:55.120
It's hard

1021
00:58:55.120 --> 00:58:56.160
so

1022
00:58:56.160 --> 00:59:00.880
But it's kind of like people, you know, there's eight billion people on planet earth

1023
00:59:01.520 --> 00:59:03.360
How do we all connect?

1024
00:59:03.360 --> 00:59:04.480
you know

1025
00:59:04.480 --> 00:59:08.320
And then someone comes along and said there's there's there's one person for everybody i'm like

1026
00:59:08.320 --> 00:59:11.600
Oh, well, so you're saying if I don't find that one person in these eight billion people

1027
00:59:11.760 --> 00:59:16.000
I'm, like freaking gonna like mess it all up like no, that's not the way it works

1028
00:59:16.080 --> 00:59:19.840
It's a lot more complex than that. So it's just like how do you engage?

1029
00:59:20.560 --> 00:59:21.680
um

1030
00:59:21.680 --> 00:59:23.680
You know if you want to reach out

1031
00:59:24.720 --> 00:59:29.760
To us an email and you're saying hey, i'm really especially on the spotlights. It's one of the things we do

1032
00:59:30.640 --> 00:59:32.880
Definitely. I would suggest hey putting in

1033
00:59:33.520 --> 00:59:36.080
Admin at jackiedorman.com if you want to be single

1034
00:59:36.620 --> 00:59:39.440
Spotlighted on a single spotlight put your name in for that for sure

1035
00:59:40.080 --> 00:59:42.880
Like hey, i'm interested in being spotlighted. I'm ready for that

1036
00:59:43.600 --> 00:59:45.680
And would like to be sort of like, you know

1037
00:59:46.400 --> 00:59:49.200
put on front street in the community and see what

1038
00:59:50.240 --> 00:59:53.520
Attention we get and that's how some some of the matchmaking is done

1039
00:59:54.400 --> 00:59:55.600
um

1040
00:59:55.600 --> 00:59:59.760
If you have somebody in particular you want to reach out to probably the best thing to do is to is to

1041
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:02.200
really trying to find them on Facebook and just reach out

1042
01:00:02.200 --> 01:00:04.840
and say, hey, this year's part of last year's single group

1043
01:00:04.840 --> 01:00:07.960
too, I am too, blah, blah.

1044
01:00:07.960 --> 01:00:09.280
I don't know.

1045
01:00:09.280 --> 01:00:12.080
Put your best, not creepy pickup line,

1046
01:00:12.080 --> 01:00:14.840
but just like an engagement line on there

1047
01:00:14.840 --> 01:00:18.480
and say, hey, like to get to know you better or something.

1048
01:00:18.480 --> 01:00:19.560
I don't know.

1049
01:00:19.560 --> 01:00:21.240
You're going to have to, I don't know.

1050
01:00:21.240 --> 01:00:24.000
I'm not good at pickup lines or engagement lines.

1051
01:00:24.000 --> 01:00:25.200
Somebody else got to do that.

1052
01:00:25.200 --> 01:00:27.560
Avery's probably good at that way better than I am.

1053
01:00:27.560 --> 01:00:30.160
But anyway, reach out.

1054
01:00:30.160 --> 01:00:33.920
To know her a little bit and then step back a little bit

1055
01:00:33.920 --> 01:00:37.440
and then ping back in and say, hey, how is that,

1056
01:00:37.440 --> 01:00:38.520
how is this and such?

1057
01:00:38.520 --> 01:00:42.000
Or can I pray for you for this and such?

1058
01:00:42.000 --> 01:00:42.960
Yeah.

1059
01:00:42.960 --> 01:00:45.600
It's not, don't go once and done.

1060
01:00:45.600 --> 01:00:46.480
Yeah, yeah, yeah.

1061
01:00:46.480 --> 01:00:48.480
It's time to warm up.

1062
01:00:48.480 --> 01:00:50.440
Yeah, give them a little warm up.

1063
01:00:50.440 --> 01:00:55.760
And if she drops a hanky, like we talked about that,

1064
01:00:55.840 --> 01:00:59.960
we actually encourage the ladies, believe it or not,

1065
01:00:59.960 --> 01:01:03.320
guys, we actually encourage the ladies, like, hey,

1066
01:01:03.320 --> 01:01:05.480
if there's a guy reaching out to you,

1067
01:01:05.480 --> 01:01:08.760
first of all, if you're not initially interested in him,

1068
01:01:08.760 --> 01:01:11.520
don't be a jerk and like just cut them off

1069
01:01:11.520 --> 01:01:12.800
and like reject them.

1070
01:01:12.800 --> 01:01:16.680
Like, you know, try to engage, like same thing.

1071
01:01:16.680 --> 01:01:19.000
It's just like, try to re-engage

1072
01:01:19.000 --> 01:01:21.080
so that you can practice at the very least,

1073
01:01:21.080 --> 01:01:23.440
even if you're not initially interested,

1074
01:01:23.440 --> 01:01:26.320
at least act like it and be nice because,

1075
01:01:26.320 --> 01:01:28.200
hey, you're in the same community.

1076
01:01:28.200 --> 01:01:29.840
Why would you be a jerk to a guy

1077
01:01:29.840 --> 01:01:31.040
who's just trying to reach out to you?

1078
01:01:31.040 --> 01:01:33.840
Like guys trying to shoot a shot,

1079
01:01:33.840 --> 01:01:36.080
you don't got to shut them down just because, you know,

1080
01:01:36.080 --> 01:01:39.400
whatever, you know, you don't like his picture

1081
01:01:39.400 --> 01:01:40.240
or something like that.

1082
01:01:40.240 --> 01:01:41.480
Well, you don't even know him.

1083
01:01:41.480 --> 01:01:44.680
Like you don't have the opportunity to like say,

1084
01:01:44.680 --> 01:01:46.440
hey, I don't think this is gonna like work

1085
01:01:46.440 --> 01:01:47.800
into like a relationship.

1086
01:01:47.800 --> 01:01:52.320
You don't have that opportunity in the first five seconds

1087
01:01:52.320 --> 01:01:53.320
because that's ridiculous.

1088
01:01:54.160 --> 01:01:55.960
You don't even know that person.

1089
01:01:55.960 --> 01:01:59.080
It's just, I would say the R word, but you know,

1090
01:01:59.080 --> 01:02:00.800
it's like, I'm not supposed to say that.

1091
01:02:00.800 --> 01:02:03.400
It's just dumb, you know?

1092
01:02:03.400 --> 01:02:06.400
And so that doesn't work.

1093
01:02:06.400 --> 01:02:07.640
So we teach the ladies, I look,

1094
01:02:07.640 --> 01:02:09.360
hey, if somebody is reaching out to you,

1095
01:02:09.360 --> 01:02:13.000
at least be kind, at least be reciprocal in some way,

1096
01:02:13.000 --> 01:02:16.120
at least have a conversation, right?

1097
01:02:16.120 --> 01:02:18.640
So that's kind of what we're doing.

1098
01:02:18.640 --> 01:02:20.160
We're trying to cultivate that.

1099
01:02:20.160 --> 01:02:22.880
We're trying to build a culture in this community

1100
01:02:23.440 --> 01:02:25.080
for people to actually authentically connect

1101
01:02:25.080 --> 01:02:28.720
for good reason and good faith and goodwill.

1102
01:02:28.720 --> 01:02:30.160
How's that?

1103
01:02:30.160 --> 01:02:34.040
Which is one thing, apps, like the swiping apps,

1104
01:02:34.040 --> 01:02:35.080
they don't give you that.

1105
01:02:35.080 --> 01:02:38.560
You're just like swipe, swipe, swipe, you know?

1106
01:02:38.560 --> 01:02:40.040
And it's all predicated on what you,

1107
01:02:40.040 --> 01:02:41.040
from a guy's perspective,

1108
01:02:41.040 --> 01:02:45.120
it's all predicated on what you see, you know?

1109
01:02:45.120 --> 01:02:46.720
And the girls on there,

1110
01:02:46.720 --> 01:02:49.400
whatever they're putting on there for you to see

1111
01:02:49.400 --> 01:02:52.160
is trying to get you to see something,

1112
01:02:52.160 --> 01:02:55.200
either this or that or whatever, you know,

1113
01:02:55.200 --> 01:02:56.760
and get the attention.

1114
01:02:56.760 --> 01:02:58.800
And then they've got all these motivations

1115
01:02:58.800 --> 01:03:00.040
and then just gets crazy.

1116
01:03:01.240 --> 01:03:02.960
So in here, we're just trying to develop a culture.

1117
01:03:02.960 --> 01:03:04.120
Hey, just, you know,

1118
01:03:05.080 --> 01:03:08.400
everybody's here for the same reason, pretty much.

1119
01:03:08.400 --> 01:03:09.920
We're all here for the right reasons.

1120
01:03:09.920 --> 01:03:13.240
And those that are here for the wrong reasons,

1121
01:03:13.240 --> 01:03:14.600
they usually don't stick around.

1122
01:03:14.600 --> 01:03:17.600
Usually don't, the community has a way

1123
01:03:17.600 --> 01:03:20.080
of sort of weeding itself out like that.

1124
01:03:21.080 --> 01:03:21.920
That's a good thing.

1125
01:03:22.680 --> 01:03:26.160
It's a culture that we build to try to have that level of

1126
01:03:28.520 --> 01:03:32.280
sort of goodwill and good faith.

1127
01:03:33.920 --> 01:03:35.720
So yeah, reach out.

1128
01:03:35.720 --> 01:03:37.640
And like I said, if you wanna be on a single spotlight,

1129
01:03:37.640 --> 01:03:40.360
definitely reach out to us in email and do that.

1130
01:03:40.360 --> 01:03:41.760
And then if there's somebody interested

1131
01:03:41.760 --> 01:03:45.120
that actually they themselves have been spotlighted,

1132
01:03:45.120 --> 01:03:46.680
every once in a while we do that.

1133
01:03:46.680 --> 01:03:49.440
And you see that on the social and you have somebody in mind,

1134
01:03:49.440 --> 01:03:52.800
hey, I'd like to be introduced to so-and-so.

1135
01:03:52.800 --> 01:03:54.480
You can say that in an email,

1136
01:03:55.480 --> 01:04:00.480
depending on Jackie usually is willing to be

1137
01:04:00.840 --> 01:04:04.040
that sort of like wing person for you

1138
01:04:04.040 --> 01:04:07.480
in a sense of like, hey, if you're asking about so-and-so

1139
01:04:07.480 --> 01:04:10.680
and if I think that you guys might be a match

1140
01:04:10.680 --> 01:04:14.640
because she's got that woo like that,

1141
01:04:14.640 --> 01:04:16.880
she's like, I'll be willing to introduce you.

1142
01:04:17.760 --> 01:04:19.040
I'll reach out to them and say,

1143
01:04:19.040 --> 01:04:21.080
hey, I've got this guy's asking about you.

1144
01:04:21.080 --> 01:04:24.320
I'm willing to introduce you to this person

1145
01:04:24.320 --> 01:04:26.320
if they're willing to be introduced to.

1146
01:04:27.680 --> 01:04:28.680
That's a real thing.

1147
01:04:30.000 --> 01:04:30.840
Make sense?

1148
01:04:32.520 --> 01:04:36.080
I can testify that Jackie is really good at that.

1149
01:04:36.080 --> 01:04:38.320
And there's some things I love about her.

1150
01:04:39.800 --> 01:04:43.400
That she goes out of her way to make connections.

1151
01:04:43.400 --> 01:04:46.240
So yeah, I just wanna verify and validate.

1152
01:04:47.080 --> 01:04:48.440
And she usually asks me all the time.

1153
01:04:48.440 --> 01:04:53.440
She goes, hey, you know this guy, Billy Bob something?

1154
01:04:55.000 --> 01:04:57.320
I'm like, nope, never heard of him.

1155
01:04:57.320 --> 01:04:58.920
She's like, oh, okay.

1156
01:04:58.920 --> 01:05:00.520
Well, then that tells her that.

1157
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:05.040
If I don't know who this guy is, and she doesn't know who he is, then it's like, well, wait

1158
01:05:05.040 --> 01:05:06.040
a minute.

1159
01:05:06.040 --> 01:05:07.040
We got to get to know this guy, first of all.

1160
01:05:07.040 --> 01:05:11.040
But I'm like, hey, do you know a guy named David Van Royen?

1161
01:05:11.040 --> 01:05:12.040
I'm like, yeah.

1162
01:05:12.040 --> 01:05:14.240
He shows up all the time to the heart check-in.

1163
01:05:14.240 --> 01:05:15.240
The man shows up.

1164
01:05:15.240 --> 01:05:16.240
Oh, OK.

1165
01:05:16.240 --> 01:05:17.240
Instant credibility.

1166
01:05:17.240 --> 01:05:22.560
I mean, this is one of the reasons why we have this heart check-in for guys is for guys

1167
01:05:22.560 --> 01:05:25.240
to be able to show up and go, hey, I'm a part of this community.

1168
01:05:25.240 --> 01:05:26.240
I'm engaged.

1169
01:05:26.240 --> 01:05:27.480
I mean, like, I know what's going on.

1170
01:05:27.480 --> 01:05:29.160
I talk to the rest of these guys.

1171
01:05:29.160 --> 01:05:30.160
Like, I'm here.

1172
01:05:30.160 --> 01:05:32.960
I'm doing this thing.

1173
01:05:32.960 --> 01:05:36.320
Makes sense, right?

1174
01:05:36.320 --> 01:05:42.560
Who are the people that we are going to initially think of when there's somebody to match?

1175
01:05:42.560 --> 01:05:46.240
We're going to think of, what, the people we know.

1176
01:05:46.240 --> 01:05:49.480
As leaders of this community, I'm like, yeah, I know DJ.

1177
01:05:49.480 --> 01:05:51.080
He shows up all the time at the men's heart check-in.

1178
01:05:51.080 --> 01:05:53.960
I know Abram.

1179
01:05:53.960 --> 01:05:56.120
Like yeah, I think they'd be a good match.

1180
01:05:56.120 --> 01:05:58.240
Why don't we introduce them?

1181
01:05:58.320 --> 01:06:00.320
Or no, it probably wouldn't be a good match.

1182
01:06:00.320 --> 01:06:01.320
Let's find somebody.

1183
01:06:01.320 --> 01:06:02.320
Like, he's eager.

1184
01:06:02.320 --> 01:06:03.320
He's ready to go.

1185
01:06:03.320 --> 01:06:04.320
Like, we need to find this guy a match.

1186
01:06:04.320 --> 01:06:05.320
We need to find his introduction.

1187
01:06:05.320 --> 01:06:06.320
You know what I'm saying?

1188
01:06:06.320 --> 01:06:07.320
So it works both ways.

1189
01:06:07.320 --> 01:06:08.320
Good, good?

1190
01:06:08.320 --> 01:06:09.320
Yeah.

1191
01:06:09.320 --> 01:06:10.320
Thank you much.

1192
01:06:10.320 --> 01:06:11.320
Yeah.

1193
01:06:11.320 --> 01:06:12.320
Hi, guys.

1194
01:06:12.320 --> 01:06:13.320
Yeah, Mike.

1195
01:06:13.320 --> 01:06:14.320
Go ahead.

1196
01:06:14.320 --> 01:06:15.320
I just wanted to say, don't show up and say that you're engaged and try to ask somebody

1197
01:06:15.320 --> 01:06:16.320
out.

1198
01:06:16.320 --> 01:06:17.320
Just, you know, like, David.

1199
01:06:17.320 --> 01:06:18.320
Oh, yeah.

1200
01:06:18.320 --> 01:06:19.320
It's all about, like, how are you engaged?

1201
01:06:19.320 --> 01:06:20.320
Yeah.

1202
01:06:20.320 --> 01:06:21.320
Yeah.

1203
01:06:21.320 --> 01:06:22.320
Yeah.

1204
01:06:22.320 --> 01:06:23.320
Yeah.

1205
01:06:23.320 --> 01:06:24.320
Yeah.

1206
01:06:24.320 --> 01:06:25.320
Yeah.

1207
01:06:25.320 --> 01:06:26.320
Yeah.

1208
01:06:26.400 --> 01:06:30.400
It's all about, like, how I place those words in a sentence.

1209
01:06:30.400 --> 01:06:31.400
Yeah.

1210
01:06:31.400 --> 01:06:32.400
Yeah.

1211
01:06:32.400 --> 01:06:33.400
Yeah.

1212
01:06:33.400 --> 01:06:34.400
Yeah.

1213
01:06:34.400 --> 01:06:35.400
Yeah.

1214
01:06:35.400 --> 01:06:36.400
Yeah.

1215
01:06:36.400 --> 01:06:37.400
I'm engaged.

1216
01:06:37.400 --> 01:06:38.400
What are you doing Friday night?

1217
01:06:38.400 --> 01:06:39.400
Yeah, I didn't think about that.

1218
01:06:39.400 --> 01:06:40.400
Play on words.

1219
01:06:40.400 --> 01:06:41.400
That's so true.

1220
01:06:41.400 --> 01:06:42.400
It's so good.

1221
01:06:42.400 --> 01:06:43.400
Hey, Mike, do us a favor, man.

1222
01:06:43.400 --> 01:06:44.400
Will you pray us out?

1223
01:06:44.400 --> 01:06:45.400
Yeah.

1224
01:06:45.400 --> 01:06:47.400
So, Lord Jesus, I thank you, all the men on this group.

1225
01:06:47.400 --> 01:06:51.560
I just pray that, Lord, that we'd walk in the fullness of who you've called us to be

1226
01:06:51.560 --> 01:06:59.280
in our divine masculine, where we can be protectors and shelters, but also soft and

1227
01:06:59.280 --> 01:07:00.280
tender to all.

1228
01:07:00.280 --> 01:07:04.000
And I just pray that every man here would find a lady and a spirit mate.

1229
01:07:04.000 --> 01:07:06.080
Lord, there's so many amazing ladies in this group.

1230
01:07:06.080 --> 01:07:10.920
I just pray that you would, that Jackie would work overtime, but not, but in a supernatural

1231
01:07:10.920 --> 01:07:19.560
way, like, the way for each guy here and flourish and everything.

1232
01:07:19.560 --> 01:07:25.440
I pray that you bring people who are equally yoked in whatever season they would be, like,

1233
01:07:25.440 --> 01:07:30.600
in the similar seasons, and that you just have great, great relationships that would

1234
01:07:30.600 --> 01:07:32.040
glorify you, Jesus.

1235
01:07:32.040 --> 01:07:33.600
And I just thank you for David and Jackie.

1236
01:07:33.600 --> 01:07:37.680
I pray you protect over them and the whole team, help other new technologies to come

1237
01:07:37.680 --> 01:07:44.120
to pass, and just, but like, that they would have peace and a straight path in front of

1238
01:07:44.120 --> 01:07:45.120
them.

1239
01:07:45.120 --> 01:07:48.360
And Lord, we just stand with them and say, you know, and just, we just say, thank you

1240
01:07:48.360 --> 01:07:52.440
guys for all that you do, and we just praise you, Jesus, that you're doing a great thing

1241
01:07:52.440 --> 01:07:53.440
in Jesus name.

1242
01:07:53.440 --> 01:07:54.440
Amen.

1243
01:07:54.440 --> 01:07:55.440
Amen.

1244
01:07:55.440 --> 01:07:56.440
Amen.

1245
01:07:56.440 --> 01:07:57.440
All right, guys.

1246
01:07:57.440 --> 01:07:58.440
Have a great, great week.

1247
01:07:58.440 --> 01:07:59.440
God bless y'all.

1248
01:07:59.440 --> 01:08:00.440
You as well.

1249
01:08:00.440 --> 01:08:01.440
Thank you.

1250
01:08:01.440 --> 01:08:02.440
Hey, David.

1251
01:08:02.440 --> 01:08:04.960
Are you and Jackie still coming out here to Vegas?

1252
01:08:04.960 --> 01:08:08.440
I think it's next week for her birthday.

1253
01:08:08.440 --> 01:08:11.440
Yes, we are.

1254
01:08:11.440 --> 01:08:17.439
Yeah, for just like three short days, real quick.

1255
01:08:17.520 --> 01:08:20.520
Yeah, we'll try to connect.

1256
01:08:20.520 --> 01:08:21.520
Cool beans.

1257
01:08:21.520 --> 01:08:22.520
We'll reach out.

1258
01:08:22.520 --> 01:08:23.520
All right.

1259
01:08:23.520 --> 01:08:25.520
God bless, guys.