Oh, I knew it at once.
We're good.
Awesome.
Very, very cool.
Well, we're real excited to kick this off with you guys.
Uh, it's going to be a lot of fun.
We, um, um, yeah, just, just, just so excited.
Just so excited for this and, uh, Oh, we got more people coming on.
So probably give it, we'll give it a good two minutes and a yes.
Thank you, Jeremy.
Happy birthday to Dawn.
Thank you.
And I don't, I don't have everyone's birthday just yet.
So I don't know.
Is it anyone else's or was it recent?
Okay.
At some point we'll, we'll have those all dialed in.
I know Rebecca is going to help us with that.
And it sounded like an invitation to have multiple birthdays.
Still my birthday.
What a great birthday present.
Yeah.
Couldn't be in a better place.
Yeah.
And on a cool day.
I mean, 11, 11, that's, that's cool.
Awesome.
We all, we almost got married on 11, 11, uh, 2011.
And, uh, we just kind of thought, you know what?
I bet a lot of people will do that.
And we just ended up not doing it.
So we got married on November 5th.
So it's 11, 5, 11.
Um, and so just awesome.
And so I wanted to, uh, start us off powerfully, Rebecca, if you, if you
would, um, Oh, what time is it?
Let's give it one more minute.
One more minute.
So drop me what's what's one.
Cause I, this always happens when someone moves forward powerfully.
Um, you know, people have breakthroughs, things will show up in their life.
I've had people say, man, as soon as I made that decision,
something powerful showed up.
And so if you've had one of those God sentences, or you've had
something cool show up, um, what's something cool that's happened.
What's a win.
Uh, so feel free, drop it in the chat and let's celebrate you.
What's a win that you've had since joining, which I know it's been,
you know, a week, a little bit over a week.
I see Lisa coming on.
Okay.
Husband decided to join the business.
I'll build a kingdom.
Nice.
Already have breakthroughs, uh, from video one with Dion.
Yes.
Do you see that Dion?
Oh, that's fantastic.
That's pretty cool.
And by the way, if you still haven't been able to get into the app, you know,
we'll want to help you with that.
Make sure that that's working for you.
Very nice.
Well, cool.
Well, we're going to, we're going to get into it.
Uh, American university called and wants to include us in a bid for janitorial
cleaning, which never happens.
Nice.
I, I got, uh, an interesting call today about someone wanting to buy one of our
brands, which I've never, never had that kind of call.
It was very interesting.
And, um,
that was pretty cool.
Teammates asking if they should join Leslie and, you know, encourage them if
it's the right, if it's the right time for them, they get a yes in prayer, then
you want that to happen, bring them on, have the breakthroughs, you know, not
just you, but some of the leaders in your team too, for sure.
So good.
All right.
So I wanted to, let's start off powerfully.
I wanted, uh, Rebecca to kick us off with, uh, opening prayer.
If that's okay, Rebecca.
Yeah.
Hi guys.
Let's do it.
Heavenly father, God, we thank you for this time together.
Thank you for bringing us together collectively in this
incredible mastermind, Lord.
We've got an incredible year ahead and we're so excited to see
what you're going to do in it.
Lord.
We're excited to be in your hands.
We're excited for the fruit that we're about to bear.
Lord.
We just give it all over to you tonight, father.
Just pray that you would bless this time.
We thank you, God, that your word says those who seek the
Lord lack, no good thing.
Father, we're here to see you more of your truth and what that looks
like, um, as leaders in your kingdom, Lord help us remain alert, awake
and focused tonight, Lord, as we press in, we thank you for what Ray
and Dion are about to share Lord.
And we just, we just invite you to have your way father.
We praise you and thank you in Jesus name.
Amen.
Awesome.
Very cool.
Um, Rebecca, can you share the schedule?
I know I want, I just want to make sure, uh, and just kind of a recap.
is, you know, you'll have Dion and I once a month. That's, I believe, correct me if I'm wrong,
the second Monday of every month, I believe, at this time. And then you're going to have
Jess once a month. And then we added the sales and marketing mentorship to this. That was a
total surprise for you guys. And so that's going to be twice a month where you can hop in. And the
that'll work is I'm just going to, you know, prioritize, you're going to get priority. So
I'm going to go to you first in these in the sales and marketing mentorship. And then anyone that's
just in the sales and marketing mentorship will, you know, get in with them after you guys. And,
and remember, that's, you know, the schedule stuff, you can show up to as much of that,
or as little as that, you also have direct access to me, and I would encourage you to use that. And
I'm going to give you a couple, you know, little little pieces of homework and things to keep in
mind to be communicating with me and letting me help you because I'm not I'm not looking to work
less. I'm looking to create a story with you. And I'm looking for you to have, you know,
big breakthroughs. And so Rebecca, do you have the actual dates? Because I don't have them up?
I will share the link to the calendar. And I will highlight what the next date is.
We've got a Google calendar that we continue to update as new training events are added to so
you'll have that you can check it, we will always remind you of upcoming training,
but I'll also let you know what the next one is in a moment.
Cool. And any kind of logistical stuff, you know, Rebecca is the go to she's, she's the rock star.
And so, and I would assume, oh,
I'm trying to figure out. Okay, so we're going to make a graphic to make that easy, I would guess
Rebecca. Yeah, so we're going to make a graphic, that'll be easy. We'll invite you to the thing
so that you can be a part of that. And so yeah, believe me, we'll make it easy. Okay. And then
let's start with Dion's message. I know Dion's got a powerful message for you. We'll start with
him. And then I got a few questions to go through with you. And then we'll get into some, some fun
stuff. So Dion. It's very appreciated.
Year, what we're going to do together is we're going to work through the same base framework
for each of these very powerful kingdom leadership routines or habits. And, you know,
because we run a school, we also run a, you know, a CEO mastermind as well.
What we've been studying is what does it take? What really moves the needle for kingdom leaders?
And specifically, what's your kingdom advantage? If what I'm sharing with you, anybody could do,
even if they don't know the law, then that's not much of a kingdom advantage, right? That's a great
advantage everybody can have. And that's great. But it's not a kingdom advantage. And by the way,
I am in my Santa Barbara office in California. That's why the background looks different.
So for us, it's here at five, five, 10 in the afternoon in a beautiful city of Santa Barbara.
So I'm going to take a minute. And so what I'm going to do is I'm going to give you a framework
and I don't want this to be a lecture. I really want this to be a conversation I've asked.
So Ray will be monitoring, Ray and Rebecca will be monitoring the chat so they can interrupt,
or you can just interrupt as necessary. What's more important than just going through a talk
is that we really catch the heart of the Father towards us in this and that we respond, right? So
everything in the kingdom starts with God initiates, you respond. A lot of times religion
will teach us you have to initiate and then God will respond. Now that was true in the old covenant.
Fortunately, we're not part of the old covenant. We're now in the new covenant. And while we were
still sinners, Christ died. We had nothing. We made no quality decision about that. You know,
Jesus didn't go and die because we made a quality decision. He died because he loved us and he was
reconciling himself back to us. And then our response was, yeah, come in. Right. So that's
all of this is always set up in that mode. Now I'm also basing it off this basic idea
that when you came to Christ, you became a new creation being. So 2 Corinthians 5 17 tells us
that if anyone
is in Christ, the old is passed away, all things have become new. So if you have been born again,
in other words, you've given your life to Christ, you're born again by the Spirit of God,
the Bible calls that being born again, that means you are a new creation. That means God
isn't working on the old, because he's given you the ultimate permission. And that's from Romans
6.11. I'm going to throw a lot of scriptures because everything we're teaching is straight
out of the scripture. So the ultimate permission is this, consider yourself dead to sin and alive
to God. Now let's take a second, that means God considers you that. Every time God gives you
permission or a promise, he's not only binding himself and giving you his word of honor on that,
he's also, we can look at it from his viewpoint. I think when we read the scriptures, we only read
from our own viewpoint, you know, what does this mean to me and my family or the church or whatever,
but rarely do we think of it from his viewpoint. What does it mean to him? Remember, it's a
relationship, right? It's a fantastic relationship since we collectively, you know, we're the bride
of Christ. All the guys have to get used to being the bride. That's part of the beautiful metaphor
of his incredible love for us. So as the bride, our job is to respond to this beautiful bridegroom
constantly pursuing us. And in that space, when God says consider yourself dead to sin,
that means he considers you that. So when we want to say, I want to talk to God about my sin,
what he would have to do to have that conversation is dishonor the cross. He would have to put Jesus
back on the cross, unwind the transaction, put you back in your sin, so he can have a chat to
and he's not about to do that. And the reason is why that's unnecessary is that what he's done
is given you new life in Christ. It's no longer I that live, but Christ who lives in me. Okay,
very cool. So that's just a sort of quick 101. Everything we're going to be talking about
is from what we would call new man theology or new creation theology. And of course, by man,
I mean mankind. So right off the bat, I don't want to be overly like gender sensitive, because
I want to use the gender language that the Bible uses. And there's a really beautiful reason why
the Bible calls us the bride. So we have boy and girl brides, and we have boy and girl sons,
because sons are people with an inheritance, right? They were children with an inheritance,
and God means men and women to have an inheritance in him. That's why the scripture teaches us
that in Christ, there is no male and female, right? We're all so I don't want to keep bringing
the he's or I want us to stick to the scripture, because when we get worldly, and we say,
oh, we're the sons and daughters of God. Okay, we get it. We get it. But let's upgrade the
conversation, because this is a mastermind for leaders. So that means we can take it to a higher
level and say we have. So ladies, when you're a son of God, you're a child of God with inheritance,
you're a child of God with authority, you're seated with Christ in heavenly places, gentlemen,
when you're the bride of Christ, you can have that level of intimacy with your heavenly bridegroom.
Okay, so this just opens up a beautiful metaphor of who the Lord is for us. He's showing us so
many aspects of his heart towards us. Now, what's the kingdom advantage in leadership,
we're going to go through 12 over one at one a month, 12 specific kingdom leadership,
ways of being with God. So why are we doing this? Because here's what it is when you when you became
a new creation. And now you're the righteousness of God in Christ by free gift. You're not righteous.
You're not a sinner saved by grace, you were a sinner, you were saved by grace. And now you're
a saint by free gift. Right? So you can't do I'm a sinner saved by grace routine, because that
gets you stuck halfway. That's half the story. Let's keep the conversation going, finish the
conversation. And now God sees you as a saint. Why? Because you are now in Christ, Christ is now
in you. And now, what grace is, is God's empowering presence in you, himself in you, so that you can
be the person he sees when he looks at you. So when he looks at you, he sees who he's made in
Jesus. And that's who he's talking to all the time. He's saying, he's speaking to who you're
becoming. He never speaks to who you're not. I hope that sounds like free to you like, whoa,
that's a relief right away, right? God is never speaking to you. And so when we quote, well,
if I'm righteous, why do I still sin? If I have a new nature, why do I still sin? Well,
you don't have a sin nature that always
nature died. The scriptures say when Christ died, you died. You are buried with him. And then when
Christ was resurrected, your new nature was resurrected. Jesus didn't resurrect your old
nature so you can go and fix it. So good news is God isn't fixing the old and therefore neither do
you. That must be a huge relief. I don't have to fix the old. I can just consider it dead.
Well, you say, well, it seems pretty alive, you know, sometimes because it's still around doing
its thing. Well, here's the thing. Interruption there, Ray.
Well, finish that thought.
Yeah, yeah. So now I just noticed your hand there. Okay, so the cool thing is this,
you don't have a sun nature, you just have a sun habit. Where did that habit come from? The old
nature to which you those old habits, we call that the ways of the ways of the world. Right? So you
the ways of the world. However, now that you're in Christ, you're a new creation. Now you're going
to learn new nature ways, new nature habits. So all we're doing is we're learning new ways of
being with the Lord. And we're using those ways as kingdom leaders to lead our business, to lead
our teams, to lead our lives, to lead our families. We're learning how to be with the Lord.
More specifically, we're learning how He wants to be with us. So when we learn that that's how
He wants to be with us, we go, sure, you know, respond. Amen. Go ahead, Ray. Thought finished.
Yeah. And so, you know, what does that? What does that look like? You know, for me,
you know, a buddy said this to me, and I just thought it made so much sense is
a God won't help you get rid of a buddy. He'll help you get rid of an enemy.
And what I mean by that is I've yet to find anything that I could go to God and say,
God, will you help me with this? And he didn't help. Right. And so when,
when I found comfort in overeating, he didn't, you know, he didn't help me with that.
But when I said, Lord, I want to get better at this. I don't, I don't, I want to lose some weight.
I want to be in better shape. Will you help me with this? He helped me. He changed my heart
around that. I just don't crave the same things that I used to crave. I walk in the new creation
and, and just knowing his nature of when you're getting, you know, kind of nudged in the spirit
that something's not right, or it's just not congruent, that could be him, you know, helping
you with that. But, you know, to go to him and say, Hey, I want to walk differently in this way.
I want to have more honor and respect for others. I want to, you know, I want to forgive. And that
was one of the big ones for me is, you know, I realized as much as I had tried myself,
that I hadn't fully forgiven my dad. And I thought I had. And when I said, Lord, help me,
help me forgive my dad, he created a scenario. And all of a sudden I went from forgiveness to
compassion. And so I have absolutely, there is no forgiveness left that I need for my dad. It's,
it's compassion. I recognize who he is. I got to know him. And in such a short timeframe,
in such a different way, because what I actually saw was myself. I saw my, my undeveloped,
natures, and I saw my undeveloped self and my dad, and, and I had compassion,
because it completely could be me. And, you know, so he'll, he'll help you wherever you,
you want help. But if you have a sin habit, and a worldly habit, that's your buddy,
you really enjoy smoking, or you enjoy whatever, and there's no judgment, I don't care. You know,
that's not for me to judge. But if you have something that you're like, I really should
quit this. But, you know, you're, it's your buddy. He's not going to smack it out of your hand,
most of the times, unless you ask him to.
Thanks for the clarification. I think where we, as we go through this, I think one of the themes
you'll pick up on is this simple idea that when you discover your new nature in Christ, you get to
practice it until it becomes permanent. See, a lot of times we hear something, we think, oh,
it didn't work, I tried it, you know, tried it two or three times, that didn't work.
So it's like any new habit, it takes a moment to, we don't practice it to be perfect, we practice
till it's permanent. So in other words, we're gonna, there's a, we're practicing not to become
someone, we're practicing it, because we are someone, you are a new creation. This is like
Ray was saying, when you step into that new creation reality, suddenly it becomes super
easy, because you're not trying to attain something Jesus already gave you. So let's
talk about one of the big ones we're all trying to attain, which Jesus already gave us, and that is
peace.
We'll find out very quickly in a short few seconds why there's no point in praying for
peace because why?
The Prince of Peace lives in you, right?
And our job is to let that peace reign.
So let's talk about that.
So each time we tackle one of these new nature routines or habits, they got four components.
The first component is what's the prompt?
What's going to cause me to run this routine, right?
So think of it as a cue or a prompt.
If you've studied habits before, maybe, you know, do Higgs book on the power of habits
or you've done James Clear on the atomic habits or any of those type of books, they all start
with a cue, a process, and a reward.
We're going to go, we're going to broaden that into a more kingdom mindset and say,
okay, what's the prompt?
So the prompt might be when I'm stressed, worried, feeling anxious, trying to gain,
you know, when I feel those things gaining access or control over my life, that could
be the prompt.
The permission, God gives you a permission.
And what's the permission he's giving us?
Here's the permission comes from John 14, 27.
By the way, I'm going to drop notes.
I'm going to summarize these in a few seconds and drop them in the chat here in a second.
So you can just listen to this bit.
So the permission is peace I leave with you.
My peace, Jesus said, I give you.
I do not give you as the world gives.
How does the world give?
When circumstances are going great, then I'll be peaceful.
In other words, circumstances are giving you permission to be peaceful.
Jesus says, no, no, no, no.
I give you permission to be peaceful, even when nothing is going great, when the circumstances
are awful.
We're not waiting for circumstances to give us permission.
We get it straight from Jesus.
And then he says, do not let your hearts be troubled.
Do not be afraid.
Now, if God tells you to do not do this and do that, if you weren't fully capable of that
in your new nature, then it'd be, you know, that would be really unkind to tell you something.
It's like telling a five-year-old, you know, or five-month-old, go and ride your bicycle.
You know, I mean, they don't know how to do that.
You know, it's not possible.
But when God tells you to do something, it's because it's actually easy for you.
In fact, one might say it's your new normal.
It's the most natural thing for a new believer walking in their new nature to never be troubled.
Okay, think about that for a second.
What if peace were permanent in your life, regardless of circumstances?
What if all your peace came from permission from Jesus, not from your circumstances?
Okay, so that's the permission part.
The third part is practice.
So now we're going to practice.
What are we going to practice?
We're going to practice letting the peace of Christ rule.
So where do we get that?
So we're going to pull that straight from the Scriptures, because when we let the peace
of Christ rule in our lives, that's Colossians 3.15.
Notice what's your job in there?
Does anybody know the instruction there was to?
Yeah, you want to drop in the chat?
What's the instruction?
Instruction, let the peace of Christ rule.
What was your role?
To let.
It wasn't to feel, okay, let's see what it wasn't.
The instruction wasn't to feel more peaceful, to try to generate your peace.
Whose peace do you have to let?
His peace.
Do what?
So what we learned very quickly in this incredible kingdom advantage is that peace is a ruling
power.
Peace needs to become the ruling power in your life.
Now, I don't know how many of you have ever been to a kingdom where there's a king, maybe
some of you are from the UK, and so there's a king in the UK.
How many of you know that King Charles rules whether you remember it or not?
It's not like on Tuesday afternoons King Charles was the king because I remembered, right?
How do you know he's always the king, whether you remember or not?
Jesus is always the prince of peace in you.
So the reason is what we're learning to do now is to let his peace be that ruling power.
What is a ruling power?
It means everything is subject to it.
In other words, there's nothing in the kingdom that surpasses the king.
He's the highest authority.
So what if peace of Christ was the highest authority in your response to any situation?
So it means when you get to practice your peace, even when nothing is peaceful.
In fact, one might argue that's a fantastic opportunity to practice your peace.
Do you know how hard it is to practice peace when everything's peaceful?
It's quite hard.
So if you're going through, for those of you going through a tough, tough time, hey, what
a fantastic gift that is because you get to practice your peace.
Because if you can, look, if you can nail down this peace thing now when you're under
so much pressure, your life is set in Christ.
You're in a whole, you've entered into a new realm.
So we get to do that.
this because the Prince of Peace lives in us.
Okay, the last thing I said, there were four P's.
So we've talked about the prompt,
what prompts us, stress, anxiety, worry.
The permission is to have his peace.
The practice is to let his peace reign.
And fourth is the person you become.
So notice they all start with P,
helping me prompt, permission, practice, person.
So the person is, what is it you become?
You become the person who's always untroubled.
Now, how many of you would love to live a life
that is always untroubled?
You know, when you say this to the world,
they do not believe.
It's like, nah, that sounds like, you know.
So the expression I had in my mind, I decide not to use.
So, but they just, it's unbelievable to them, right?
So here's the thing.
What if your team, you are always the calm leader?
What if you're the one who hosts an atmosphere of peace?
This is so powerful.
You can walk into a sales call
and you bring the peace of Christ
because you host the Prince of Peace.
Did you know the peace, not just for you,
for your families, for your immediate surroundings,
that business meeting, that Zoom call,
can you know that that peace can,
people come into home and say,
oh, it's so peaceful here, right?
That's what we want.
It's not because, you know, our family are magical
or because our kids are little angels,
because the Prince of Peace reigns there.
Do you know you can carry that atmosphere?
You can shift board meetings.
Do you know you can shift sales meetings?
I remember when we interviewed,
when I first learned this was with Graham, my friend Graham,
and you've heard him,
and for those who have heard him at the event.
So Graham Cooke, we were interviewing him on a podcast
and the person interviewing the podcast said,
so Graham, word is you haven't worried in 23 years,
no worry, no trouble, come on, that can't be true.
Is that right?
And he said, yep.
They said, come on, Graham, real talk now.
You know, you can be honest with us.
And he said, nope, really?
I had an encounter with the Prince of Peace
and he never left.
Now that doesn't mean,
if you dug close in there with Graham,
you will learn very quickly.
That didn't mean that he didn't have moments of that.
We had to practice his peace.
But what he learned is this.
When you practice your peace, you get,
so it's a lot like,
practicing your peace is a lot like
standing on the 20th floor of a building
and you press the button, the peace button.
What happens to the elevator?
It rises to meet you.
Something deep in your inner being,
the peace of Christ in you,
rises and overwhelms everything.
And then the door closes and disappears.
You go, oh, that lasted for two minutes.
You practice again, lasts for five minutes.
It gets longer, it stays longer.
What's happening?
I'm learning to abide.
I'm learning to make that my permanent habitation.
And that's how we stopped having
a transactional relationship with peace.
Like, oh, I'm in distress now.
I need to get some peace.
That's not what this is.
This is, the Prince of Peace is a ruling power.
He's never leave you.
He'll never forsake you.
Super patient with your learning.
That patience is called grace,
is grace for your learning.
So God isn't annoyed or irritated or frustrated
that you don't get it.
But I found in my particular case,
it took about a year for peace to last to the point
I went, hey, it's been a month since I've had to practice.
Ray.
Yeah.
And I think, you know, the kind of the normal,
I get you have me changing my language here.
The average person or person that doesn't understand this,
they try to avoid any kind of scenario
that would give them the opportunity to practice peace.
And, you know, let me not be triggered.
Let me not have a problem.
Let me not have any of that.
Can you guys, am I still on?
It looks like you froze.
Did Dion freeze or me freeze?
I think he's frozen, right?
Dion froze.
Oh, okay, okay.
He froze.
You're still going.
We're peaceful here.
Peaceful.
And so you start to learn that, oh, this is, you know,
I remember, you know, like during the,
not during the event, but before the event,
there was, you know, some big, you know, decisions
and people were kind of stressing out and, you know,
and, you know, Vanessa, I mean, she's just amazing.
You know, I love her.
And she messages me like, you know,
we need to figure this thing out.
I'm like, oh, whoa, whoa.
We respond out of prayer, not out of panic.
And that's just how we respond.
We don't respond out of panic.
Panic is, I've missed,
if I maintain for more than a microsecond in panic,
then I'm missing an opportunity.
I'm missing an opportunity for more clear thinking,
for more peace, for that practice.
And so it's not that you look for a,
I want such a vanilla life
that nothing ever stresses me out.
It's that I can go through the stress, but not be stressed.
I can go through, I can fight against the wind
and it's not bothering me.
I can have the shipwreck and it's not a big deal.
And so it's just, for me there's,
I always like to bring in Proverbs,
but Proverbs 25, I think it's 25, 28.
Yeah, I'm pretty sure.
Yeah, so Proverbs, I'll post it in the thing.
Proverbs 25, 28 says,
whoever has no rule over his own spirit
is like a city broken down without walls.
Okay, let me post that for you.
I'm sure Dionne will be back on shortly.
Oh, come back.
And so, hey, Scott.
Hey.
What's going on?
Yeah, I'd love to know.
I'm practicing my peace right now.
Yes.
And so I just shared like Proverbs 25, 28,
whoever has no rule over his own spirit
is like a city broken down without walls.
And meaning anything can infiltrate.
Most people, anything can infiltrate them.
Anyone can infiltrate their peace.
And so this is, you have the prince of peace with you.
And so it's an upgrade from Proverbs.
It's an upgrade from, they didn't have,
Holy Spirit may visit them in the Old Testament,
but they didn't have Holy Spirit in them.
They didn't have them, Jesus in them.
You have this ultimate upgrade.
So just walk in it.
And that's what you have to do.
You have to practice, the baby doesn't know
that at what point it has the capacity to walk.
It just starts to walk in it
and gets better and better and better.
You have the capacity to walk in peace.
You just have to practice it.
You just have to build that as a habit.
Back to you, Dion.
I don't know if you're back to me yet.
Can you hear me all right?
Yes.
Yeah, I'm gonna take a second drop off and just rest.
Things, I'll be back in about two minutes.
No problem.
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Awesome.
So what are you getting from this so far?
I'd love to hear some takeaways.
What are you getting from this?
And by the way, I know that some,
like, hey, let's get to that kingdom offer, man.
I'm ready to make some money.
Well, let's get you prepared to make more money.
Let's get you prepared to have the characteristics
of someone who can carry the mantle of a,
whatever, million dollar, 10 million, 50 million,
whatever, right?
So you have those characteristics
to be able to operate in situations of higher capacity.
And so I'd love to feel free.
All right, Kyle.
Yeah, what are you getting?
Yeah, so it's crazy, right?
So it was actually just like practicing a piece right now.
So Megan, she's just laying down or whatever.
She's watching like,
she likes watching TikTok like mom stuff right now
because she's about to be a mom.
So she's over there.
Normally, I'm like,
I started to get like irritated a little bit
because I'm like, Megan, I'm on this training.
And then she's, then I just like, okay, peace.
Now I'm just not even listening.
I'm just zoning it out and I'm just laser focused.
So that's what I got out of it so far.
Nice.
Like practice it right in the moment.
You get to practice it.
Absolutely.
You get to practice it.
Awesome.
Anyone else want to share?
Feel free to raise your hand.
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I unmuted before I raised my hand.
You know, this concept is not something
that I haven't heard or understood before,
but now it's like another level for me of,
you know, I guess I just really loved when he said,
he's not working with the old, right?
We're not working with the old.
It was just a great shift in my mind.
I memorized a lot of scripture and those scriptures.
are kind of like the wall for me, you know?
So if I feel a little anxious anxiety,
I'm like, I'll be anxious for nothing,
but in everything by prayer and supplication, you know?
So I have all these scriptures that kind of like
are that divider in my world to kind of keep the old out
and protect the new so that I'm communing
with the spirit instead.
But I really, yeah, I just, it was like a shift in my brain.
Like, oh, he's not working on the old.
That stuff's history.
And it was just like another level of freedom
just thinking of it that way.
You know, it was kind of like when the first time
I made the shift, like I'm not waiting
to live my eternal life.
I'm already living my eternal life, you know?
Like what a, just wow, that's right.
Like, here we are.
Because people will spend their whole lives
working on the old problems.
And there's plenty of self-development books
and plenty of personal development books
that will help you do just that
versus let me just walk in the new.
Let me just assume, let me just understand
the sheer power of Christ in me.
And let me just say, hey, help me with this thing.
And you will, and you just walk differently.
For sure.
Well, thanks for your patience with me there.
Yeah, no problem.
I think the Lord just said, oh, show them
how you stay calm when everything falls apart.
There you go.
So we did a real-time practice.
You know, here's the incredible thing about this
is that you never get flustered, right?
Because if you're in peace all the time,
what happened?
What does the enemy do with you?
How does he threaten you?
With what, right?
So, you know, we will talk more about that.
So let's get into the nuts and bolts of this
for a little bit longer, for a minute.
So here's what we know from the neuroscience straight away.
When you're at peace, when you are in this mental state
of peace, now remember, peace is the state of your heart
that informs your mind.
Your heart, your human spirit, the inner man,
the inner you, is informing your mind
and says, this is what we believe.
So anxiety, stress, worry, and all that stuff,
and we'll get into that, I'm sure, at some point.
But just a quick heads up, there's a fantastic study.
I think it was by Stanford University.
I'll go get, I've got the exact study somewhere,
which shows that of 25 years of studying human emotions,
that the human mind has no emotional circuits.
That doesn't mean it doesn't experience emotions.
It just has no emotional circuits.
That means the brain is literally looking ahead
and it's making a prediction.
So you wake up in the morning and say,
oh, yesterday I screwed up on that deal.
You know, I lost that major client.
I bet I'm getting fired today.
So the brain says, oh, oh, hang on a second.
I know what emotion goes with that.
Depression, anxiety.
And so it generates all this stuff.
And so when the mind is in control,
remember your mind is just an instrument
trying to serve you, but your mind
is not your highest form of you.
You are not your mind.
Your mind is just a device that helps you process and think.
The real you, it's with the heart man believes.
So your brain can't believe, your heart can believe.
Believing is a heart function.
So when you believe you're a new creation,
you're telling your mind,
we don't do the anxiety thing anymore
because we are now grounded in Christ.
We're a new creation.
You see, you're not in your circumstances.
You're in Christ.
And so you start to live in this way
because your peace surpasses what?
All understanding.
That's beautiful, isn't it?
And we know that peace protects your heart mind.
So let's take a quick look at that.
Because we know that when we're in this space
and we know that other studies have shown us
that when you're at peace,
when you're in this neurological state of peace,
you're most creative, you're most clear thinking,
you're most productive, right?
You're most present in your relationships
and you're definitely most effective in your leadership.
So we know it brings out the very best of you
in that moment, even while you're still learning.
So let's talk about finding this peace.
Go ahead.
Yeah.
And, you know, neurologically, you know,
you have these thoughts, right?
And if you accept, surrender and believe them,
they go from the neocortex to the limbic brain,
which is the chemical brain, the emotional brain,
which creates amino acid peptides
that travel down the spinal cord to the adrenal glands
to create the actual emotions.
And so then the brain will check in with the body
and say, hey, how are we feeling?
And so now that, you know, now that you're at peace.
the feeling, thinking, thinking, feeling.
And then if it's of stress and anxiety,
it kicks in the parasympathetic nervous system,
which has your resources rushed to your hands and your feet
away from some of your critical functions
because it thinks you're about to fight or flight.
And so just that interruption of, you know,
second Corinthians 10, five, take captive every thought,
make it obedient to Christ, right?
So if you literally do that neurologically,
you're preventing the emotions from being created.
You're preventing the parasympathetic nervous system
from kicking in.
And I think I have that right.
Parasympathetic is the bad, sympathetic is the good.
Yeah, I think so.
Sympathetic is where you heal.
Parasympathetic is where you're in stress.
And so, and your body doesn't know the difference
between I'm stressed about a deadline
versus a lion is about to attack me.
And so, you know, the same reaction.
And so just that, hey, hey thought, I see you there.
We don't need to do that anymore.
And the more that you do that, the weaker and weaker,
I think it was Hebert, I think,
who said nerve cells that fire together, wire together.
And so the more that you have a consistent thread of thought
the stronger it becomes and vice versa.
You know, those that, you know,
when you stopped firing those, they unwire.
And so pretty soon it becomes hard to even access stress.
Like, you know, this is my experience of someone said,
hey, you know, what, you know, during the event,
they're like, hey, how are you feeling about the event?
And my first thought was,
how did I feel last year about the event?
And I couldn't access that memory.
I wasn't able, you know,
cause I was probably stressed, right?
And I just wasn't stressed.
And so that, you know, these nerve cells
that no longer fire together, no longer wire together.
So they get distance and you actually forget
how to even access stress.
And so it's kind of a fun process.
Well, that was a great,
that was a great addition there, Ray.
And cause you literally store the piece ultimately
in every cell in your body,
just like you store stress in your body.
But now,
what you call reprogram or neuroplasticity
or any of that sort of stuff,
is getting past the neuro stuff.
You can simply,
used to go and look at where the animal trails.
So we had all these animals and like it was,
it wasn't a very big game farm.
It was like 3,500 acres,
which for a game farm is pretty small.
It was too small to have some of the big cats,
but we did have giraffe and various antelope
and some other things.
But you'd watch where the animal pathways were.
Then if you, those animal pathways
would sometimes be worn so many times,
they started to broaden.
We had a big, you know, D6 bulldozer,
and we used a very sophisticated
African town planning model.
And that is the guy who grew up there,
who knew all the animal pathways.
He was about 80 years old.
You know, with the teepee.
And then the bulldozer literally followed him.
We made a road in the middle of the road,
you know, real farm technology there.
But I thought what a beautiful illustration
of what happens with,
when you first practice it,
it's like you're pushing through all the bushes
and the stuff and it's because it's new.
Then you walk it a second time,
a third,
it becomes a well-worn pathway until it becomes a road,
which until it becomes a highway.
And what Ray is referring to there is
once you've stopped using the old pathways,
they grow closed.
It's over the old ways.
So what happens is not only,
it's not like the old ways stay,
then you get new ways.
The old ways actually die.
And so we know from scripture that you get renewed
in the spirit of your mind.
That's very deep.
That's at its lowest possible level.
So we already established that peace is relational.
It's not transactional
because it's with the Prince of Peace.
You're saying you're inviting the Lord in.
And in that moment,
his peace makes no sense.
Or as the Bible puts it,
passes all understanding.
In other words,
it's above your brain's ability to understand
why you should be peaceful in this situation.
This makes no sense.
Exactly.
Not only that,
it protects your mind in that moment
and it protects your heart.
So you don't start to doubt what you're believing.
And so we can't.
show you taking your job seriously as you get stressed. Look, look how stressed I am. I'm
overworked. Yeah, he's breaking up pretty bad.
Yeah, he's breaking up pretty bad. Yeah, he's not in his normal office. So, sorry about
that. We got Game Farm Bulldozer Pathway. Yeah. And now part three. Yeah, welcome to
you're going to appreciate every word. Don't let him go. This is hilarious. It just drops off.
Anyway, we'll make it fun. So, anyway, I don't know what you last caught. Did you catch the
last bit about in the world you act stressed to show you're taking it seriously? And in the
kingdom, you're at peace to show you're taking it seriously. So, it's a different permission.
So, I think, you know, some, you know, a lot of people are used to and kind of grew up in a
of wearing their work ethic on their sleeve, right? You know, look how many hours I put in
or look how hard that was. And that's a very common scenario. But as you say that, right,
even if you're saying it kind of cosmetically for others to appreciate you or whatever,
you become that, right? Because death and life is still in the power of the tongue.
And as you're describing things, you are creating those things. And so, you know, we want to be
careful. How, you know, how are we using that language? Because you just don't, you know,
have to, you know, have to use that language. Absolutely. Absolutely. Well, we won't take it.
We'll just get a couple. I want to give you a couple of real practical. So, we always started
this. What's your permission? What's the person you're going to become? You're going to practice
this. And honestly, if you get this working in under a year, that's fantastic. Be really patient.
Because here's what it is. Slow learning is kingdom learning. This idea that it's three
steps and you got it and you listen to it, you listen to Ray and me talk for an hour and a bit
about it. Now we're good. That's not what's going to happen. All that's happening is heart learning
takes a moment. It takes time. So be super patient with yourself in this. So, you know,
here's the thing we know from Philippians 4 through 7. It says, Rejoice in the Lord always.
That means tough stuff in the middle of tough things as well. I say it again. Rejoice. Let your
gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Yeah. Do nots. When you see a do not, remember
this is what your new nature can do very naturally without stress or effort. Do not be anxious about
anything. So nothing is allowed on that list. You're not allowed to be anxious. Why? The Lord
said I've upgraded you from that low level of life to a whole new level. So there's no anxiety,
worry, stress, fear. But in every single situation by petition where thanksgiving presents your
request to God and the peace of God which transcends all understanding will do what?
Guard your heart and your mind in Christ Jesus. What a beautiful way to live. I'm for this way
of living for sure. So I think here's the thing. And I point out one quick thing is yet again,
here's an interesting use of the word, you know, Thanksgiving gratitude or whatever,
Mark 11 24 says, when you pray, pray as if you've already received. And here it's saying,
with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known. Right? So that's going to the waiter
waitress and saying, thank you for the cheeseburger that you that you're ordering right now. And so
it's, you know, so every I have to remind myself that everything that that I'm wanting, right,
that I'm thinking, I'm thanking him. Thank you, Father, for blessing me in the work of my hands.
Thank you, Father, for blessing me and my family. Thank you, Father, for healing all parts of me.
Thank you. So I'm just constantly in Thanksgiving, not Father, would you please, would you please
help me out here? Please help a brother out here, my lonely voice in the wilderness. You know,
I'm saying thank you, because I know that, you know, I think it's Matthew 711 says, you know,
us, you know, being evil, you know, he's a he's a good father, and a good father wants to,
you know, provide for us. And, and so just, you know, whatever it is that you're wanting,
to improve, to walk in more powerfully, thank him for that.
Thank you for helping me trust you more. Thank you for helping
me rely on you more. Thank you for helping me turn to you more
quickly. You know that all of those are very good.
So let's just take that even a step further there, Ray. That's
great. And that is that you're not asking for peace. So by this
definition, we don't pray for peace, because we have peace, we
have the Prince of Peace, we have the source of peace living
in us. What we're praying for, our requests made known to God
here is about whatever it is that's, that's trying to cause
stress, the problem, the situation, the difficulty. But
remember, and we're going to learn this later on, with every
problem you face, God has already attached his possibility
to it. And here's the most extraordinary thing when he
shows you his possibility. So when you're at peace, you can
hear that possibility. When you're stressed, you can't even
see that you're in begging mode, please, God help me. So what
religion teaches us is to pray panic prayers to get rescued.
What new creation prayers are is we're partnering with God to
step into who we're becoming. Lord, let this situation be an
upgrade. So every problem you're facing not only has his
possibility attached, but you know, hey, upgrade. Wow, this is
a real doozy of a problem. I can't wait to see the upgrade
that comes with this. You know, I'm going to become someone
more. So God isn't just wanting to solve your problems. God is
wanting to bless you in such a way that you become more in his
image and likeness. So you're going to come out. So every time
the enemy threatens you, he loses because you become more in
Christ. He tries to say, he tries to curse you, God turns it
into a blessing, you become more in Christ. So the enemy works
for God whether he likes it or not, sucks to be him. So you
know, back to what so nothing, so no weapon formed against you
can prosper, because everything flips into your advantage. That
is your kingdom advice. Now the key to that is you being at
rest. Because everything in the kingdom starts in rest,
everything. The reason is you can hear him, you can see what,
hey, this is the problem. This is how the Lord sees this
problem. This is the possibility that God is attached
to it. And then you say, Father, is there a promise that comes
with that? With the promise comes provision, man, he just
stacks it, he stacks it in your favor. He's like, okay, you got
this problem. And Jesus said, so when you do, you will have
trouble in this world strategy, but be of good cheer because
I've overcome the world. So problem, laughter. And that's
why warriors in the kingdom partner with God in laughter.
It's like you're staring at Goliath and you're thinking it
really sucks to be you. You know why? I've got a promise from
God, I'm going to be king one day. If you're David, you're
thinking, I could have prophetic word of my life. I mean, I can't
die. So, you know, you're so big, I can't miss. There you go.
So the point here is that you see, it flips you when you're at
peace stage, it's almost like there's a lightheartedness,
there's a lightness of being. What did Jesus say? When we take
his yoke, come to me, Matthew 11, 28 through 30, come to me
all your heavy laden and burdened and I will give you
rest. So rest is an exchange. It's a permanent state of being.
It's not like transaction. Oh, you need a bit of rest, you need
a bit of rest. No, it's a new lifestyle of rest. I'm going to
teach you this, because rest activates your yoke. Take my
yoke, take my partnership, take my being together. It's like
he's putting his, think of yoke as him putting his arm around
you. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, from gentle and
I'm humble in heart. That means I'm not going to hurt you. I'm
not going to stress you. I'm going to be with you in it. I'm
going to be patient with you. And then you'll say my yoke is
easy. My burden is light. So God is setting you up. So I
think the Father, Son and Holy Spirit had a meeting in heaven
when they're planning this whole thing. I think he's scratching
there and going, Hmm, where can we put Rebecca so that she's
absolutely guaranteed all our favor, all our blessing, and our
love and in a place where she can never feel like we will
never leave her or forsake her. I know we'll hide her in Christ.
And now you're hidden with Christ in God. Double level, by
the way, in God. So we go, Oh, the enemy this and the enemy.
Listen, forget the enemy. The enemy doesn't even make it on
the master's list. Jesus said there are two masters, God and
money. He's not on that list. He was catastrophically made a
public spectacle.
is Jesus crushed him at the cross.
And so we'll get more into what that means
and when the enemy comes against us, which he does,
but it's a lot rarer than we think he does.
And so we're gonna talk about this coming
to this place of utter peace.
And with this, I'll wrap it up.
So what's the mode?
If you're taking this yoke,
if you're taking God putting his arm around you,
where are we getting this from?
Well, we can get into servant mode.
God, tell me what to do.
I'll go and do it.
God, tell me what to do.
And when we first starting off, we tend to do that,
which is fine.
But then we move into John 15, 15.
I no longer call you servants
because a servant does not know his master's business.
Right, Jesus said, I'm about my father's business.
Jesus wants you to be about his business.
I call you friends for everything that I learned
from my father, I have made known to you.
In other words, the same way the father taught me,
Jesus says, I'm gonna teach you.
So we have this beautiful John, I'll drop it here in the,
oh, you see, you're already raising it.
And you're quick, that's fantastic.
So I no longer call you, because here's the new thing.
God is setting you up as a friend
and he's setting you up to live as more than an overcomer.
So that means you're living over your circumstances,
you're not living under them.
You're not living under the weight of your challenges.
Now, as God promotes you in business in the kingdom,
as he adds more and more zeros,
by the way, same lessons, just more zeros.
When you remember that time you trusted God for $1,000
and it was a big deal.
And you remember that time, hang on, that was 10 days ago
when you trusted him for $25,000.
I remember the day you trust him for 250.
Now I remember when I was trusting God
for a million dollars a month,
because that was my payroll.
And I was, you know, and then it'll go 10,
but nothing changes.
All that happens is more zeros add, same lesson,
same day, same thing.
Because at some point, Jesus, if God can, you know,
God will, if you cannot be trusted with worldly wealth,
how much then God can't trust you with?
True, Richard, put it in the positive.
God is training you right now in worldly wealth,
because he wants to bless and prosper you.
But remember, that's just that something else
comes on top of that.
And you know what that is?
True riches.
What is that?
He is the true riches.
Christ is your reward.
You get to know him and what he's like and be with him.
And more importantly, become just like him.
Okay, so that's episode three, season one.
Hope you enjoyed it.
Ray, back to you.
Yeah, and so this is, so I got,
when I prayed on this meeting,
I got a few questions to ask you guys
and then some homework for you.
Very simple.
I'm not gonna overload you with crazy, you know,
a whole bunch of stuff to do.
But it's important, you know,
I just posted in the chat, John 1515,
which Dion was talking about.
I've called you friends for all things
that I heard from my father I've made known to you.
What, I had something very interesting happen today
in that I was doing a project with someone
and I just, I had this little bit of my spirit
that was just like, hey, I don't know
if they really appreciate me in this thing.
And so it was just a little part of my spirit.
And so I would, you know, I would pray.
I'm like, all right, you know, God,
you want me doing this thing?
And I would get a yes, but I would get this little,
and so, you know, I got into deep prayer yesterday
about this thing and, because it just kept coming up.
And the more and more I understand his nature
and I see his nature, he wants us fully just so excited
about what we do here, so excited about our work,
so excited to labor, so excited to do things
and to not have a, okay, you're calling me to do this.
All right, fine, I'll do it.
And so I just got into deep prayer.
I'm like, Lord, what are you trying to tell me about this?
And so while still trying to keep this,
you know, private or whatever, I got to go to the person
and give back some of what they had offered.
but to continue in a certain way.
And so I do that today and that felt good.
And then I got to see that the same demands
and everything were still there.
And then it just pricked my spirit more.
And I'm like, okay, Lord,
that he actually wanted me to see that.
And I'm like, Lord, am I appreciated in this?
No.
Okay, all right.
Do you want me to continue this?
I already knew the answer, no.
And so he's, you know, we're friends, right?
It's not servants, go do this boy.
There may be moments where he calls you
to do something that's very uncomfortable.
You know, my altar call in Arizona, very uncomfortable.
If you haven't read the first chapter
of Faith Driven Network Marketer,
I talk all about obedience
and I talk about many of the uncomfortable things
he's had me do,
but he's not gonna give you an occupation you hate.
He's not gonna give you an I help statement that sucks.
He's not gonna give you,
here's what you're just called to do, go toil in the field.
It's gonna be something that excites you.
And so last week, and I have,
I've been in this interesting season
of being just absolutely infatuated with scripture
and love for that,
but also knowing that he's equipped me
to help people in business.
Cause it's, you know, it's just very simple
for me to look at someone's design and set up and say,
hey, you know, tweak these things
and this is gonna be a lot smoother, easier,
faster, better, more lucrative.
And then last week he gave me a new, a brand new tagline.
And that is, I help business owners increase their profits
while putting God first.
And what that's done for me is it's allowed me to look at,
okay, what am I doing?
And is everything complimenting this mantle?
Great.
And, but it's also led me to do some interesting things
in a manner that has brought a lot of people to Christ
this last week.
I mean, it probably brought it like a hundred people
to Christ through direct messages.
Because for you to put God first,
and he knew that I would know this,
for me, for you to put God first, you gotta hear his voice.
You can't put him first.
It's not a bumper sticker.
It's not a, you know, a necklace.
It's not a, you know, it's even our great swag.
We love our swag, but it's not swag.
You know, it's hearing his voice
and knowing what does that look like?
How do you stay in step with the spirit
by hearing from him?
And so it's given me different marketing approaches
to get more people interested in hearing from him
because that's my mantles
and I got to, I'm walking under it happily.
Does this make sense?
And so what I got, and we'll have each of you
if you're, you know, hopefully game,
this is, you know, we've got an intimate group here.
And so what I'd like is I'm gonna ask you three questions
and I'll have Lisa go first
because she's, you know, I've asked her these questions.
And so three questions for you
and I want you to, you know, to write these down
and then, you know, part of the homework
is to go to prayer about these and see if this,
if you feel like this is where you're supposed to be.
But the three questions are, who do you help?
Who do you help?
How do you help them?
And why should they listen to you?
So who do you help?
How do you help?
And this is kind of the, our very first part
of helping you develop out not just your kingdom offer
but your entire infrastructure
of what's gonna be the most lucrative,
the most accelerated way for you to grow your business
and to get into the right questions
because it's, you know, God has infinite wisdom
but what I've noticed is I have to locate the questions.
I have to figure out a different way to ask questions
to get what I'm really looking for.
And this will help start that process.
And so Lisa, is that clear?
Oh, just throw it at me.
I wing it well.
What was the third one?
So who do you help?
Okay, who do you feel?
Like this is your, and I will be shocked
if any of you nail this perfectly right now
it's probably gonna be, it might be close.
It might be completely off
but it'll be close.
I'll be shocked if someone just absolutely nails it and that's that's the deal right away.
But it's who do you help? How do you help? And why should they listen to you?
And there's a few ways to answer that one. You know, sometimes why should they listen to you
is because you have this incredible system. You know, sometimes why they should listen to you
is because you lived and experienced this thing that you're helping them with now.
And that's most often, I think, going to be going to be the case.
Okay. All right, family, get ready. Here I come. Okay, so who do I help? I help
individuals who have been bullied by their family. Now, how do I help them? I help them
by working slowly through them. I use short, I just went blank. I've been going since 9 a.m.
this morning, so my brain's kind of toasty. I help them through short videos, YouTube shorts,
and yeah, less than 60 second videos online with, you know, stuff I've been through.
And tips and tricks. And why should they listen to me? Because I've lived it.
And let's just say to this day, I have two siblings that barely talk to me.
And it is what it is. And I love them. And it's okay.
Yeah. So I really do think that that is your, who you're supposed to help. I really do believe that.
And the things where we'll work is how needs to be sexy. How needs to be, you know,
I have an 11 step process that took me from beating myself up and feeling worthless to
being absolutely cool, whether they approved of me or not. Right? So that's just off the top of my
head. But it was probably some way to say that or do that or something. But it's some it's some kind
of like tangible thing. So what, what got so much, probably more of a reaction than almost
anything I've posted before in stories, I only posted this in stories. I said, Hey, I've learned
a three step process to hear from God, if you'd like to learn more, drop the word three. And so
I had hundreds of people drop the word three and in stories. And, and so now I'm walking them
through. So I pray about them, you know, have they accepted Christ? If they haven't step one,
you know, got to do this, you know, and if I, if I do a, Hey, who wants to accept Christ? I,
a lot fewer hands go up. But if I say who wants to hear from God, almost everyone's hand goes up.
They at least want to experience that they want to know what that's like. And, and so,
you know, that so that's what to work on. And then that also falls under why listen to you.
So you are an authority because you lived it. You've done it. But we also want an outcome.
Yes, we want you know, we want a which I actually included in mine, you know, in my for you the 11
or not. But you know, so you want you want to tighten that up? Because once what's interesting,
and I talked about this, you know, Dion helped me a lot with the different aspects of, of
structuring this mastermind and coming up with how I'm going to talk about it at the event of
once I understood, okay, this is how I'm really going to help people. It changed my marketing of
that. And so for you, when you understand how you're really going to help people, it'll change
all your marketing. Because you know, now you're under that mantle. And now you just you just kind
of get that. Yeah. And then past coaching through the last year's mastermind at the end, you were,
you gave me the it was it's kind of cool, because you said that 12, it was like, 12 steps. Yeah.
1112, whatever. What I've been wanting to find, and I've been praying about, and I guess I need
to just disconnect from everything, go find a park, and just listen. Yeah. The one thing.
that keeps coming up as a 12-step program for alcoholics and I actually researched it because
I didn't know exactly what it was. It was there was a few things in there I could have taken and
but but I want to hear it from God.
Well sometime I think you know we it's we can get into the habit of discounting
one of God's creations which is everything as an inspiration for what we're doing and
and so the fact that you thought about the 12 steps you know that's you know Proverbs
I think nine something three maybe talks about how you know wisdom or Holy Spirit if we want
say that will speak will will send maidens to the highest places of the cities which the highest
places of the city is is your head and and so a maiden is a thought and and so you know so you'll
get this thought that it's kind of like oh the 12 step you know and so that's that's a clue right to
go and hey go take a look at that and and so it doesn't mean to copy it you know exactly but it
means that may be inspiring for you and so I would you know spend spend time on that because
you know if you without that you can't really serve the person you're actually called to serve
at any kind of scalable level and beyond do you have something to add?
Oh yes I wanted to just undergird what you were saying an answer to Lisa's question about the 12
steps and hearing it from dad from the Lord you know I want dad to tell me right for sure I I
suspect what's happening Lisa is that the Lord wants to give you a higher version of that
his version so so let's just talk about this we've talked about upstairs downstairs before
so a lot of times there are downstairs solutions which is God's grace and kindness to the world
but when he wants to bring a kingdom solution there's an upgraded view because it involves him
overtly so in that case so the Lord will be pointing you to so I'll give you a quick example
we use very something very simple so my wife wrote a book I was looking around for it here but it's
it's called why to parent and we were trying to think through this process and as Ray very
correctly says as if you can make it more sexy so then we kept getting the idea of
the finance guy seven steps baby steps Ramsey yeah Ramsey so Ramsey this is a parenting this
is a kingdom parenting book Lord you know check your references so you know so you go back and
and so we realized what he was saying was there's an architecture to what Ramsey did
that was really helpful like the first baby step one was a save a thousand dollars in other words
an immediate quick win super fast quick one two a little more challenging and then you're
overcoming the obstacles of each step right so when we looked at Ramsey seven steps we came up
with seven steps to build a kingdom family okay seven steps building kingdom the first one's really
easy and it was a quick one and so we looked at the we didn't just look at the steps and
make them better we looked at the architecture I saw
picture of that because there's something in that for you
powerful we're going to screen capture the next time you freeze I'm just saying
I know this is this is our Santa Barbara office it sometimes just goes crazy at night
so so prayer on that see see what inspiration you get if you've already gotten an inspiration from
the 12 steps go take a look at that look at okay it might have come up with you know it may or not
may not be 12 right it might be but like you know get into prayer around that because once you have
that I really it's so important to have that thing like because we're just kind of firing into the
air you know and just kind of shotgun blasting and hoping we hit somebody until we have that thing
once we have that thing you can build an entire infrastructure around it to support that thing
yeah and I'll work with you and I got your number yeah yeah exactly and that and she brings up a
good point this isn't you know when I give you know this kind of homework
it's not all right see you next month kiddo it's no get get into boxer with me i'm you know you
guys y'all got my boxers now so you know just boxer me and i want to help who else because i
want to do we'll do if i i don't we'll do a few more of these because i want you guys to understand
this um so that you can go off and and do your best version of it pray about it see what you get
um and uh so who would like to go next
okay kim thank you uh full transparency this is really a big reason why i'm here
i i kind of feel like i'm held together with duct tape right now even though it looks fabulous
so who do i help is introverted entrepreneurs how do i help them is through proven digital
marketing strategies and automation and why should they listen to me um i have successfully
created the systems of which i call the virtual spider web built the multiple six figure a year
business that has provided my family a lot of what they're praying for and asking for time
freedom financial freedom location freedom etc say um so introverted entrepreneurs yeah and then
say the the how again um proven digital marketing strategies the biggest one being pinterest
marketing but a lot of people come to work with me and they're just not ready for pinterest yet
because they don't know what a lead magnet is or they don't have their their ducks in a row yet
so there's some education that has to happen before we can even dive into pinterest so i think
with you it's and this this is very common is to just just make that what what is it that i can
what is it that i can say that if my who hears it they just have to have it
and and so if my my who hears my how they're just like how do i get that thing yeah and and so um
you know you have so you're you consider yourself an introverted entrepreneur
i actually am very big introvert yeah yeah yeah okay um and so
you know i i do you know keep in mind with this as we're structuring this out this is kind of the
initial steps as you're structuring this out it's not let me share everything i can possibly do
it's what's that what's that one pill what's that one shot of espresso what's that one
you know thing that that is going to be that that super attracting super sexy man i would
love to have that if only my who would hear about this thing they would have to have it
yes and you know six minute abs right you know like that's that's that's a that's a good one
um and and so um you know i would think about that what is what is your version of
seven steps twelve steps you know what whatever um and uh
and yeah i have a little bit of business bipolar and i feel like i changed that weekly so if you
go to my social media each platform says a little something different because i'm just like ah
what is that thing and once you once you once we get this this piece and we'll you know tweak be
um once we get this piece it's going to give you peace all right yes you know you know my north
star i know i know where i'm going and you know if you if you don't know that you are kind of
scrambling because you're thinking what works yep and what you know so what we think works is just a
lot of content and a lot of stuff that just gets thrown out there and so we do that but it just
never scales it never gets to the level of impact that we could be reaching because we never we can
never quite figure it out and um and so i would just you know what it doesn't mean this is your
in hey you can never change it ever but you know what is that if an in what what could i say to an
end if i if only i get the eyeballs of an introverted entrepreneur this thing right here
this is what would really excite them and they were just
push someone over to get to. Thank you. Yeah. So pray around that work, work on that. And then,
you know, you can work back and forth with me. You'll do. Thank you.
Dion. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Quick, quick, um, just listening to everybody go through this.
This is a lot harder to do for yourself than it is to do from someone else, right? Ray,
you mentioned earlier that, you know, I've helped you. I, I need help. What happens is you get so
close to the detail, you know, like Kim, you were just sharing there yet we're listening to and go,
my goodness. Uh, you know, what's the number one thing, why introverted entrepreneurs don't get on,
you know, social media it's because they terrified and they think they'll stumble or blah, blah. So,
so what's the number one thing you don't have changed your personality, right? Yeah. Be yourself,
how to be yourself and be super effective as an introverted personality, you know,
strategies for introverted personality so that you don't, that I think you, you will nail that
down really quickly. Um, Ray, a second quick point, uh, that you brought up there is like,
um, you know, it, it, am I still going or have I jammed up? No, no, go ahead.
Oh, as soon as you said it, you were going. And then as soon as you said it,
yeah, no worries.
Okay. I think you're back. Yeah, I think it's back and forth. It's probably a bit,
it's, it's probably not helpful. So I'm just going to, I agreed with what you said. I just
want to encourage everyone. Don't feel frustrated if you don't have it all nailed down right up
front. This takes time to really nail it in. But once you do, it's like a building block. You just
rapidly build out everything, your marketing strategy. In fact, once you've got this down,
your ads will write themselves. Powerful. Powerful. Yeah. It's a good, it's a good point
of, you know, the enter, what does the introvert not want to do? And what, and quite frankly,
what does no one want to do be someone they're not right. And that introvert doesn't want,
I don't want to have to be extroverted. You know, I was at a training in South B or I spoke
in South beach this weekend at a company event and the guy did the colors training
and he did a great job. But he, to me, he overly picked on the yellows. And, and, and so I think
a lot of yellows for those that don't know, yellows typically are more emotional. I'm a
yellow red, right? So I'm like neck and neck for those that know the colors training. And and so
the yellows typically are more spiritual, more emotional, you know, afraid of conflict and
things like that. And, and so this trainer, you know, kind of picked on, on the yellow. So I,
I think a lot of yellows left that meeting thinking they can't be yellow.
That's not good because then they'll sabotage themselves because they don't want to be someone
they're not. And, and so, you know, it's not that. So I think you reassuring them, Hey,
it's okay to be introverted. You can be successful as an advert. I am. And I show you how in this
unique process. Oh, very good. Dawn.
Okey dokey. Uh, who do I help women who feel like they are stuck or that life is a struggle
and need some hope? How do I help them? I share the strategies that make it easier.
Uh, wait, yeah. I share the seven strategies that make it easier to move out of your past
and live your purpose. Um, and why should they listen to me going through many struggles
and challenges? I implemented these exact strategies, which radically changed my life.
And now I can help and encourage others to find that piece.
Yeah. So I, I, I like that you got, it sounds like we have a stronger how then, you know, um,
the why I would say probably want to get more vulnerable there, you know, and, and share.
It sounds kind of nebulous and, and, you know, like, um,
you know, I mean, I don't know what, what exactly you've been through, but
yeah, there may be some, a vulnerability piece there. Yeah. Well, I mean, I could cover the
gamut. It's just, and so you, you pick and choose and it's, um, and, and that's really where I,
I want to dial in, right. There's a, there's a lot there, but, and then, and I'll
So, so I know, that's what God has gifted me to do. Yeah. And
so it's a matter of dialing into that now, and being very
specific, and strategic. And also, I want that kingdom
thinking versus my, you know, human spirit thinking, okay, I'm
or human thinking to, to try to figure it out. Yeah. So, yeah,
these, these initial steps are kind of launching you into that
space. And we are going to be praying about all this and
digging it up and everything. But you know, what, what you
mentioned just reminds me of first Peter 410, as each one has
received a gift. And a gift doesn't necessarily mean a
talent, or a singing ability, or whatever. But a gift is also
what have we been rescued from? Yeah. And, and so it's, you
know, vulnerability is usually what's the thing I really don't
want to share. And
I've given that up.
Like, whatever, don't care. The books coming out next month.
Yeah, comes out on the 12th. My parents might not talk to my, my
but it's all it's all good. My ex husband might take me to court,
but it's all good. Yeah. So I'm ready. I just I want to make
sure and you know how you taught us at the speaking thing, too,
that there's a difference between dredging it up and making
people feel icky. Right. But But really, the goal is to is to
create a connection. Yeah. So I want to dial in to how do I and
I can go back to my notes from when we did that workshop.
Because I've left, you know, I kind of went back to my other
companies, and full speed ahead on those. And now it's just
like, okay, Don Anderson.
Yeah. And no, and notice, and notice in me, the increase in
stewardship. Because for those that just attended that speaking
thing, if, if I didn't do a good job of getting them plugged into
something additional, I really didn't serve them that well.
Because your experience is probably the same experience of
many of them. Yeah, I just didn't know what to do with it.
It was good that I had it. But yeah, now and so you know,
that's, like when I prayed about over and over and over and over
about the offer for, you know, faith and, you know, faith or
fear. This is what he designed, because it's like, it needs to
be 12 months, it needs to be this, it needs to be a serious
commitment, and you're going to cover this, you're going to do
and and so but it's, it's, it's, you know, because there's a part
of me that's like, I just want to do a good job. I just want to,
you know, put on a great event and everything. Like, no, no,
that's not good stewardship. Because you're going to impress
these people are going to go right back to their same lives.
And, you know, there are people that were right on the decision
button of a completely different life, didn't pull the trigger.
And and so they're already back in the world, they're already
back. And so it's, you know, it's, it's going to be a great
journey, for sure. For sure. But pray, pray around that. What is
the what is the most powerful piece of that? And what you'll
find is, you know, getting even more detailed on the who is
what's going to reveal that for you? If that makes sense? Yeah.
So who's who specifically? Is it from a narcissistic relationship?
Is it from a, you know, like, I don't know what it is. But we'll
get there. So yeah, I mean, so narcissism is broad, right?
Because it's a broad spectrum. And I was married to someone who
had antisocial personality disorder. So psychopath and
sociopath, you know, that the name is not a good description
of who the person is. Right. So but I don't think I need to like,
necessarily say that, you know, he tried to burn the house down
with me in it. Even though that might be a good part for sharing
in a speaking situation, right? So it's just, yeah. So I've,
there's just so many options. I don't know what to say.
Yeah, great prayer on that. And then as we communicate back and
forth, I'll be praying about that too. And you know,
what's our best dialed in.
Awesome.
Thank you.
Kyle.
Oh, yeah, let's go.
So, thank you all for sharing everything
because it helped me out.
But anyway, so mine is not what I have on my Facebook.
Anybody else's is not what theirs is on their Facebook,
right?
So, yeah, I am in the weeds, Jeremy.
That's why I changed my thing.
I was in the weeds for a minute.
So, anyway, so who do I help?
Okay, so this one is, I prayed on this
and it came to me and stuff.
So, I help the fatherless fathers
that are stuck in survival mode.
And I'm gonna explain it at the end.
So, how do I help them?
Well, survival mode to me starts financially.
I help people make money.
It's super easy what I do.
So, that's not a problem at all.
I hope it's easy to make money with that.
So, then I help them, the ones that were fatherless,
find a GPS by going to the Lord, right?
That is your father.
I didn't think I had a father growing up,
or I didn't have a father growing up.
So, I had no guidance, right?
And now I am seeking the Lord.
That's my father.
That's my GPS, right?
So, and why do they need to listen to me?
Well, because I lived there
and I'm gonna share a couple of reasons
why I said fatherless.
Fatherless isn't just like physically fatherless.
It's like I had no guidance at all growing up.
So, I had to be stuck in survival mode my entire life
because I had to figure it out.
And money for me was my pain point.
I'll just share one little story.
I remember high school football.
My mother was never at my football games.
I used to walk home literally five miles
every single night from football practice.
I would stand outside of the school
and everybody that walks by,
the coach, do you need a ride home?
Too embarrassed to say, yeah, I did.
And my mom didn't have enough money to pay for gas.
So, we would have to walk home every single night,
every single night after every event.
Or my mom would go in the store
and buy us food with food stamps.
And we'd hurry up, tell her what we wanted
and run out of the store.
So, money was pain to me.
So, that's why I was, you know,
I never knew how to make it.
And I don't think that the world
needs to struggle over money.
So, to me, I'm confident that I found
literally the easiest way to make money.
So, I solved that problem.
Now, bringing people to Christ after that event,
that's new for me.
So, and after you're saying, be the light.
So, now I'm like, you're right.
Cause that's what helped me.
That's why I'm here,
through every situation I've ever been in life,
because he was there the entire time.
He guided me through every step of the way.
So, yeah, I just want to explain it.
So, cause I know Ray's over here dissecting it.
That's what I was hoping you were gonna do.
So, that's why, and that's my pain point.
And that's, yeah.
So, the fatherless man.
Yeah.
So, I think that's,
there's a lot of powerful stuff there.
we,
you know, we don't,
you know, definitely get into prayer
around all these pieces, right?
Because,
the challenge here is,
the two, what I, my experience, my observation,
is the two biggest factors that prevent people from God
are father wounds and church hurt.
So, when you're tagline
or whatever marketing messages we come up with
are toward the fatherless fathers,
you're gonna have an uphill battle.
Now, if in prayer, this gets revealed,
then rock it out, right?
And we will get there.
Not tonight, but we'll get there.
But if I'm, this is like,
yeah, I really don't have another analogy for it,
but, you know,
the fatherless or those with father wounds
are the most likely to be turned off by a God message.
Okay?
Well, that makes sense.
And so, you know,
we may not have God on the outside of the wrapper, right?
But they open the wrapper and they get inside
and they're like, wait a minute,
Kyle's like a really good guy.
That makes sense.
I wonder what, how, you know, how he operates, you know?
Peter 3 15 says, you know, for those that ask for the source of
your hope, be gentle and respectful. Right? And so you
want to get to the point where someone's asking you the source
of your hope, right? And so I mean, I wonder what makes Kyle
tick, you know, how can he help me make money? Because I think
that that's a very powerful thing for those fathers. So I'm
I'm just, I'm wondering if God's calling you to go bring a whole
bunch of people that will never step foot in church, but to go
bring a whole lot of people to you, to learn from you connect
with you. And, and you then tell them about their Heavenly
Father and help them explain, you know, that biological, how
we feel about our biological fathers, often how we feel about
him. And it doesn't have to be the way that makes sense.
Rebecca, that makes a lot. That makes a lot of sense. That's
cool. Like the whole candy wrapper analogy. I like that.
Yeah. Yeah. And Rebecca, do you have something to add on this?
Yeah, I just wanted to share something, Kyle, because when
you were speaking, I'm just excited for you, because I saw
something and I'm so I'm just going to share it. But you
mentioned something about like, the GPS. And as soon as you
said, I started having chills. And I saw this massive compass
with you kind of standing like in in rubble, like on a gravel
road, and then immediately it smoothed out. It was like fresh
pavement, like nice. I don't know if this is like a
transition for you. But I just really sensed that God's
connecting in such a big way. And that he's like getting ready
to really elevate you.
I get that, too.
Yeah, I really appreciate that. Because I was, I think it was
Yeah, it was Leslie that I was talking to on here the other
day. I was talking to you, right? And she's like, you know,
you really got to start helping men out there. Because a lot of
men, they're not vulnerable. They're scared to like, you
know, because when you stepped up to that room, you started
talking about everything that happened to you. When you're
younger, she's like, a lot of men need that, like, they really
need to know that they have like, they can, they have
someone to talk to or turn to and like express yourself. So I
was also mixed up with that, too. So I had a lot of things
written, but I crossed out a couple. And but yeah, yeah.
Yeah, I like that a lot. I think that's a very powerful image of
rocky, you know, like deal. Compass. Yeah, that's actually
cool. I might take my user.
Go get some. I mean, with AI nowadays, you know, you can go
create anything. So cool. So yeah, pray around that. Let's
let's work from that base. Let's keep moving forward. And
you know, this is again, this is just the Kickstarter here, you
know, just the you know, the beginning and we'll, we'll get
to all of you will have this and you'll love it. You'll love it.
I'm telling you, because we're not gonna you know, it's not of
God if you don't love it. And you're gonna you're gonna love
it. And so we'll get there. We're not we're not there yet.
I'm Stephanie. Do you have your hand raised? Yeah, yeah, yeah.
So I got who do I help? I help heart centered high performers
who are interested in growing themselves and their businesses
but don't know where to start. Okay. It's not there, but it's
for sure. Okay. How do I help them? I help them get to the
heart of their businesses by setting up systems to scale and
in touch with their own hearts by teaching techniques so they
can show up awesome in their businesses for their teams for
themselves and their lives. Why should they listen to me? I've
taken a deep dive into the hearts of several six and seven
figure businesses over the last 14 years have been on my own
personal development journey, and have been trained to get
connected to my own heart so that I can help them get
pretty powerful. So that, yeah, so I would say that's
probably gonna be like, like you're on a bio, you know, kind
of thing. And, you know, coming up with also a, you know, maybe
a quicker, you know, a more shortened. Yeah, it doesn't feel
tight. It just like, you know, first drafty. Yeah, yeah. No, I
mean, it's, it's powerful how you put that, how you put that
together. Let me just, let me see. I get anything. Let me just
pray around around that. Yeah. All right, Mike, maybe while
you're praying. Yeah. Yeah. So, Stephanie, I think you're really
onto something in the sense of, because if you discover the
heart of a business.
let's see if you discover you because really the business reflects your own heart so you
discover the heart of the business you unlock the
it's like a cliffhanger
oh dion you're breaking her heart you're breaking her heart
so my question is oh this is a long one for me uh my my question is
does does this do you feel like when i when i say help the person you used to be
does that resonate with what you're saying or is there some something else
um it's like a yes and so what i've got um i've got a bunch of puzzle pieces that i got to put
together so when i said i've got like four projects that are like almost there i i know
once i tweak there's a system there but it's not clear yet and so the book that i'm writing
is all about my journey and all the really challenging things that i faced the resources
that i had the questions i was asking the um frameworks i used um so there's that and that's
kind of like the personal journey of like the becoming but then there's this business piece
over here where i help people like people come to me when they've grown fast and furious their
stuff's a mess and they don't know where to go next they know that they need system set up so
like i can go in laser and see it and structure it and like i was like you're gonna have relief
after i get this set up and they do that because then they can see it clearly they're not holding
it on their head so that's like on the business side but then i also coach them because they're
bumping up against their own limitations in their business so i'm running their teams and i'm
interfacing with the ceo so i have a unique seat because i can see where the ceo is bumping up
against their own stuff i can see where the teams are falling down and i i put those both together
and i can coach across them and then also the other layer is i can see within themselves
what they're dealing with for example um ceo the other day she's like um getting ready to sell her
showed me her org chart and she was trying to figure out the titles for the people like
i just started asking her questions i helped ask the questions so she can arrive to her own
answer right and i can see what the thing is and quickly identify that and move them toward
where they need to go also i the where the personal piece comes in is like i've had client
i've had a client call me up crying hysterically we're in the middle of a launch she's leaving
she has left her husband she's got two kids so i let her vent out and i was like okay we've got
some options do you want to move ahead do you want to scrap it like how do you want to go and we walk
through it we did her launch it was successful and did the things so i've been in like walking
them through hard things while they're running their business so these things pair together
like the being and the doing and in the heart of the people and and being connected but i don't
it's like it hasn't locked in yet if that makes sense yeah so dion's comment he posted he just
typed it when you find the heart of your business you unlock the potential of your business
i'm looking for that in myself right now yeah yeah that's what i'm that's what i'm
i'm getting is um you're very good at what you do and is that a lot of times we can
get confused with we're really good at this thing that we do but it's not actually our calling
and or at least it's not
um it's not it's it's it's a it's a little off you know
yeah i i sense i like god's been working in me over the past year and i feel like i've got all
the pieces and i've been like trying to put it together and it is like what i'm doing now it's
going to be a different version of that because the heart's going to be infused in it more right
now the pieces are kind of more separate it's going to all integrate together into a system
of some sort but it has not revealed itself yet like it hasn't clicked in i've got all like i
said i've got all i think i've got all the pieces but it has not clicked in yet
yeah yeah we'll get there yeah we'll get there we'll get there and i and i do
I do think, oh, let me, I promise.
And I do get there's a level of healing for you here too.
100%, because I will say I've been doing this for people
and like getting them out there,
I've not fully put myself out there to be seen.
And like I voxed you today, I've been,
I don't know why I'm having the reaction that I'm having,
but I think it's like, there's some part of it
that feels vulnerable for me.
Cause I guess there's a very spiritual side of me
that I don't show everybody.
And it's not forward in my business.
And you may or may not be called to be forward.
You know, that's, you know, where, what is,
you know, God's going to help you with
what is the best approach there.
And, but yeah, and I do want to commend you.
Stephanie has started messaging me,
which I appreciate, right?
So you guys, please, you know, do this.
So I'm going to, well, I'll be going back and forth
with you and pray a little bit more on around that of,
you know, but that's what, that's why I'm being nudged in.
There's some healing here.
There's, you're very good at what you do.
And a lot of it's,
we don't want to,
we don't want to be really, really good at what we do,
but be off.
And, and I, and that's right.
I feel like there's a little, it's a little off,
even though you're very good.
And no, it is.
No, I don't disagree with you.
You're like right on track.
I, that's why I said to you, like, I've been praying,
like, God, if this is not the thing
that I'm supposed to be doing,
like show me where I'm supposed to be.
Because I do, I, there's a missing.
However, I've got all these other things
that I've been given downloads over the past 10 years.
And it's like, my journey's led me here.
I, what's came up through our Voxer messages today
was like, there's a trust piece.
Like I haven't been able to, in my life,
I feel like I haven't been able to fully trust anyone.
Yeah.
And so like, to put myself out there, it's all bubbling.
I feel like it's coming soon.
It's growing, but it's not there yet,
but it's all, yeah, it's coming.
For sure.
I mean, I'll give you an example from today.
I mean, I shared a little piece of it of,
you know, he had me go back to this project and,
you know, say, hey, I know y'all wanted to give me this.
I'm gonna give that back.
And then afterwards, the reaction to that was,
I just felt it in my spirit,
like there's something not right here.
And so I was in a hurry,
because this actually happened, you know,
before this meeting, I actually got off at like 7.45.
And so I was kind of in a hurry for it to get over.
And as soon as it ended, I got right down on this mat
and just got into prayer.
I'm like, all right, Lord, you know, please,
number one, heal my heart around this.
Thank you for healing my heart around this.
And two, what's up?
What's going on with this?
And so, you know, I just, just, you know, I just,
I knew that was my next move,
not to think about it or whatever, just get into prayer,
help me out with this.
And he wanted me to see that reaction.
He wanted me to see that.
And he's, you know, there've been people that I love,
that I really love and I've seen them grow
and I've helped them grow.
And, but he wanted me to see their hearts
if the situation changed slightly so that I, you know,
but, oh, I can't believe that was the response, wow.
And, but he wanted me to see that.
And, and so it's, you know, when we know we're off,
just, you know, you're going to learn to, you know,
go to him and figure that out.
And, you know, so it's going to be good.
We're going to get there.
Cool.
Jeremy and Miranda, right?
Miranda?
Okay. Yes.
I know it was an M, I'm like, it's either Marissa or Miranda.
I think it's Miranda.
Good.
Yeah, you're good.
Very good.
Yep.
So Ray, you know, what do you say to the person
that goes, number one?
I don't know.
Number two?
I'm not sure.
Number three?
No clue.
You know, what do you say to that person?
Yeah.
Because there's so many ways that I could go
with those questions.
I could just talk about my business.
where I could talk about who Jeremy really is,
the heart of Jeremy,
you know, apart from the business I inherited from my dad
and the business I've grown up around
over the last 30 years,
you know, what do you say to that person?
Yeah.
So,
it's,
you know, it's, this is,
I talked about this at the event,
but, you know, Judges 3, 1 and 2
says that God allowed some of the Israelites
to experience war so that they could train others
who had not been through war, right?
And so, you know,
we,
God, you know, a distinction in,
you know,
God and all things is,
you know,
not that he allows,
he allowed that car crash
or he allowed that child abuse
or he allowed that,
you know, whatever,
but whatever was meant for evil,
he will use for good.
And so what we've been through
was equipping, anointing, calling,
leading us to have the capacity to go and help others.
And whatever we've been through,
we are automatically equipped,
we're automatically qualified,
we automatically have confidence.
And so whatever we've been through,
whatever we've overcome,
whatever we survived,
that now we can miss that
by looking at current circumstances, right?
So if we inherit a business
or we're offered some amazingly high paying job,
you know, we can be like,
you know, it's not my calling,
but it's funny, you know, it's pretty good.
And so we can live that non-fulfilled life
because we have placed our trust in money,
then we have him.
And so I would say, you know,
taking a look at your life,
you know, what have you been through, overcome,
you know, progressed through, survived,
you know, that was an equipping.
You know, you heard Kyle talk about this,
fatherless fathers, right?
And, you know, someone who, you know,
did not have a powerful, you know,
father presence that now has kids
and trying to deal with what the hell, you know?
And, you know, I'm not that far off.
I mean, my dad just was never there for me or anything.
And, you know, so I really didn't know what I was doing.
And, you know, you know,
God's really helped me with that.
And so I would, it's your calling is almost always
gonna be what have I overcome?
Let me go bring them out of the war in Israel.
Let me go help them out.
Let me go, cause you didn't pick your wars,
you went through them, right?
It wasn't a choice.
You know, you are an authority around the things
that you've overcome and progressed and survived.
And so that's almost always gonna be a clue
to how are you, who are you supposed to help?
Yeah, and that's also 2 Corinthians 1,
you know, the God of all comfort.
Absolutely, I love that one.
Comfort others in the same way
that you needed to be comforted.
So I understand that.
I love that one.
It's more complicated to say, but I love that.
When I first heard that, I'm like, oh man, that's it, man.
That's so good.
The catchphrase is God has all the comfort you need
for all the troubles you face.
Yeah, amen.
Yeah, Miranda, you wanna say something for you?
Well, I was focusing on you.
I'm marinating on mine, but I don't know if you're-
Let's not skip too fast.
So based on all that and your understanding,
so is there a, you know, hey God, can you give me a clue?
You know, what do you have to add to this?
Are you getting an inkling of what you're thinking?
Focus on the who,
because that is step one, the who,
because you can't possibly have a how before you have a who.
You know, like, that doesn't even make sense, right?
And you can't have a why listen to me until you have a who.
So like, who is important first step?
Yeah, so I mean, apart from the business,
I mean, because we're not,
we're just saying in life, right?
Your career is what you paid for.
Your calling is what you made for.
You're talking about the calling,
not necessarily the career, is that correct?
Okay.
Yes.
The calling side of me is, you know, I love being a dad.
Like, that's like the best job in the world.
I love, if I did anything right, I raised my boys well.
That's like, that's my success story.
Like my 26 and 25 years old and their studs.
They're amazing and they're just affectionate and affirming
and there's all the things I would want my sons to be.
So I'm very, very, very proud of them.
And, you know, so really encouraging men in that journey,
like, you know, in their masculine journey.
I'm a big John Eldridge Wild at Heart guy,
like massive Wild at Heart guy.
So, you know, every man wants to adventure,
live in a battle to fight, the beauty to rescue,
like that's the core of who I am.
It was really speaking to the masculine heart
and encouraging men, you know,
a real man accepts responsibility,
rejects passivity, leads courageously,
lives toward an eternal reward.
Like that's what a real man is.
And to reject passivity and not be passive husbands
and not be passive dads and to be intentional
in their lives as men of God and as husbands and as dads.
And, you know, to not miss those moments
where God is speaking, revealing the father's heart
through you to those around you.
So what was the overcome or what was the,
did you used to not be good at that?
Then you became good at that.
Did you grow up and that wasn't your experience
and you decided I'm going to be different?
What was the overcome?
What was the breakthrough?
Because, and I just, the reason I say this is because
if you're just naturally an amazing dad,
it's actually going to be hard for you to teach people
because you're natural.
And so it's usually in the, I had to overcome this.
I didn't know what the hell I was doing.
I had never experienced this before.
I had never experienced what a dad even looked like.
You know, so it's usually the overcoming
that is really powerful because, you know,
if I'm like, I want to improve my dadness.
I want to be a better dad.
And, you know, and I want to learn from you.
What would turn me completely on to you would be,
hey, I used to struggle.
I wasn't sure because I didn't experience that as a kid.
And now I've raised these amazing kids
and I know exactly, you know, like, oh cool, he gets me.
You know what I mean?
So like, what was it around dad that was overcome
or did you used to be very passive?
Do you fail in a marriage in the past
or with a kid in the past and now you totally dial it in
or like, what was the overcome?
I'm sure I'm curious.
So I had an amazing dad up until I was 14.
And then he got hit with depression
and spiraled down severely.
And so I had a very present dad
and then a very emotionally absent dad.
And I became a husband to my mom,
a father to my dad at the age of 14.
Alone, I had two other sisters
but they were both moved out of the house.
So I'm the one that was left alone to deal with.
Trying to steward my mom's heart
and try to steward my dad's heart
and try to be the head of the home at 14 years old.
So this man, this pillar, this idol,
this hero of mine, you know, just crumbling.
And all I ever wanted to do growing up
was minister side by side with my dad.
He was a pastor for 30 years.
And so when he stepped down from the ministry when I was 16
and never got back into the ministry,
every dream I ever had,
that first portion of my life was shattered.
And I just flailed, you know, for years
trying to, as Michael David Smith says,
find my place in this world.
And like, God, why am I even here?
Because dad's not in the ministry anymore.
And that's when, you know, my mid twenties,
I felt like I heard the Lord say,
hey, this may not be the way he thought it was gonna be,
but, you know, Primerica, the company I'm with,
Primerica's an opportunity for you
to still minister side by side with your dad.
And so I got involved in the business
really just to fulfill what I believe God said to me,
I felt like from conception was, you know,
ministering side by side with my dad.
And that was just a way that I could do that.
Yeah.
So the phrase that I get is,
fatherless too early.
So that's a phrase of a very specific who
that is true of your situation that, you know,
fatherless too early,
had to be the head of the household too soon.
And,
And I think that's a very powerful, powerful calling.
Does that resonate?
Yeah, of course.
Yeah, for sure.
And so I think working around that,
you know, I think that would be very powerful.
I really do.
And not passing on to the next generation, right?
Just passing just the good that I was given.
When I said my boys are affectionate and affirming,
that's the good that my dad gave me, overwhelming.
Like, press down, shake it together, running over.
Like that was abundantly good.
I'm protecting them from all the depression
and the rejection, the abandonment,
the, you know, all the negative stuff.
Like protect, they still don't know
all that I went through with my dad.
You know, I will share that with them in the future,
but yeah, so just trying to protect them
and not pass it on.
And so you've done, clearly,
you've done a great job with your kids, right?
Your boys, right?
Clearly.
And now you get the opportunity to do that
at a much larger scale and, you know,
and to, you know, have a message that resonates
with the people you're exactly called to help.
And you already know how to help them.
We'll just help you with the verbiage.
You know, we'll help you with the words
and, you know, that kind of stuff.
And then you operate underneath that mantle.
And notice it's not, hey, what are you trying to sell?
It's what's your calling?
And once you know your calling,
we can figure out what to sell.
You know, and some of you, you know,
what you sell and your calling can be, you know, connected.
So, you know, guess what?
Hey guys, you're gonna, as a man,
you're gonna have to provide, you know,
you'll be the head of the household.
One way for you to provide.
I actually have a way, if you don't know how,
here you go, Primerica, go Bada Bing.
And so, you know, you can associate them,
but it doesn't mean, you know,
you have Primerica in your branding or whatever.
I helped the fatherless,
or fatherless too early succeed in Primerica, right?
That doesn't, what was that one?
Yeah.
I was in my back of the line,
I'm going, what's this have to do with business?
Like, I'm just talking about like fatherless,
like I do with business.
It's in the back of my mind, that's the.
Of course.
Right.
And so, and what will happen is you will have a brand,
you will have people coming to you by the droves
and they will want to know more about you.
Well, how do you make money?
Like I'm doing this and I don't like it.
Well, you know, I have a way to help you.
And, you know, you will have earned the right to share
how you do business and what you do in business.
And so, you know, similar to Kyle too, you know,
Kyle doing his, you know, the fatherless fathers,
people are going to come.
They want to, they're going to want to know,
a father's going to want to know how to better provide.
That's just the deal, you know, that's just wired in us.
And, and so I just, I just think it's really powerful, man.
I think it's really, really powerful.
Appreciate that.
And we'll keep working out, we'll keep tweaking it.
You know, this is session one, you know,
we'll keep tweaking it.
Thank you.
And Miranda, did you want to share?
Well, I can, I feel like mine's kind of,
it's in the weeds too.
Like I could go a couple of different ways with it.
If we have time, I didn't know,
I wanted to honor your time too tonight, so.
Yeah, I wanted to give a taste and then I do,
hopefully, I don't know, is everyone able?
I always, Rebecca knows, she's like,
oh boy, how long is he going to go?
I'm trying not to give you the full dosage here
and scare you off.
But yeah, let's, let's hear from you.
And then I have a couple very simple things
for people to work on.
Very simple.
Yeah, go ahead.
Let's hear from you.
So who do I help?
Typically, my client has tended to be middle-aged women.
So women who are fat, fatigued and frustrated,
battling food addiction and weight and stubborn symptoms.
How do I help them?
I help them eat real food as medicine
to reverse disease and dysfunction using the reset method.
And why should they listen to me?
Because I lost over a hundred pounds,
reversed multiple autoimmune conditions
after nearly dying, doing all of the right things.
That's pretty good.
So you're, it sounds to me
like you're trying to help who you used to be.
Exactly.
Yeah.
And what, say that again, fat, fatigued.
Fat, frustrated, fatigued.
Frustrated, fatigued.
Okay.
What was the rest?
Battling, I think, I think this is what I said.
Battling food addiction, stubborn weight.
symptoms and disease because they all run together.
So my struggle-
Is it mainly women or is it men too?
Well, it's, I can help everyone,
but typically middle-aged women,
they tend to be the decision makers
and the husbands or the spouses kind of come along.
Usually the decision makers have been women.
They're the seekers, they've tried a million things.
Man, I just, I just think it's powerful to say,
I help fat, frustrated, fatigued,
females battling food addictions.
I mean, man, is that powerful.
Yeah, because they know that they're food addicted.
Yeah, that's powerful, man.
Yeah, and even more like that,
I didn't kind of go with that in the beginning.
It was more about like,
I want people to know that this is health creation,
but like you use God as the wrapper,
like people, they just want to lose weight.
They're right now stuck in the shots thing
that they can't even see the forest or the trees
that they don't even care
that there's a side effect to that thing.
So, but they do know that they're going to that
because they're addicted to food.
I'm an emotional eater.
They'll, people just come up and like say that to me.
Like, so, and that's, that's what it is.
It's what we're all battling.
So I just feel like I need to leave with it.
Yeah, and there's like you,
there are people that I just,
I just know that like,
if you mixed in the Lord into this message,
they would actually think it's less effective.
Unfortunately, that's how some would think.
So like with me, so I can't, I can't,
what wouldn't work for me is I can't say,
I help you grow your business while putting God first
because the one isn't powerful enough.
That's why I say profits.
And he gave me the tagline.
I didn't come up with it, but profits,
like that's more specific than growing your business.
Profits, I'm more profitable.
I'll like that.
I'll see about the God first, right?
So some people are going to do that.
You know, they're, you know,
and so, I mean, I think that's, I think that's really good.
I do have another piece
that I was been working on in my marketing too,
because really who they are on the inside is they're fierce.
And that's an acronym that stands for,
they want freedom, that stands for freedom, impact.
This is what, this is who I stand for.
This is like my core values.
So freedom, impact, empowerment, respect,
community, and education.
So, but fierce is just like who these women are
underneath the surface and finding their purpose.
These strong willed, strong willed,
they can do anything, but they can't do this.
It's like the one thing that they can't overcome,
which is awesome.
There's a lot of people like that too.
Yeah.
A lot of powerful people that food is what got them.
And, you know.
More is more, like that's what got me.
It's how I nearly died.
Like, okay, if one workout is not enough,
then two must be better.
And so that mentality is my-
Yeah, I could see fierce not part of the small,
you know, like the catchphrase,
the quick thing that we're working on,
but I could see that part of your page.
You know, I could just definitely see that.
Very good.
So let's keep working on that.
And so let's,
here's what I want you to.
So one, if you, whether you went or didn't,
come up with your answer.
Who do I help?
How do I help?
Do the best job you can.
There's no wrong answer.
It's week one.
There's no wrong answer.
You can't screw this up.
Okay.
And so do your best job.
Who do you help?
How do you help?
Why should they listen to you?
And feel free.
You can post it in the Boxer group.
You can, you know, send it to me directly,
if that's more comfortable.
But, you know, pray on it and just ask the Lord
if he has anything to add.
He may or may not.
Okay.
And don't be, and if you're not,
you feel confident that you're not hearing from him yet,
you will.
Let me know that too though,
because anyone that's not, I want to help you
because he's shown me every way not to hear from him.
Let me help you with that.
And then next is send me,
all I, I don't need any context.
Because I'm not, I'm not the psychoanalyst here.
No context.
But any tough relationships you have right now,
I want to help be a blessing and help you with those.
Because the majority of those are spiritual and and I've seen that over and over and over and over and over
You know with my oldest son. There's a spirit of offense
It just makes your life a lot easier and so you can just you know, you can just box me I don't need context
I don't need last names. Give me first name. That's it
I'll pray about them and then I'll also pray about each of you which I pray for you every day
I don't know if anyone has felt more peace
But I asked the father to bless you guys every single day. It's part of my routine
and so that will prevent spiritual stuff from
Clinging to you won't stop it from attacking you but it'll stop it sticking with you
But I'll also pray about you
I know with I won't mention names, but with one of you have helped you with an agreement and
And so I'll pray on is there anything that can be
Released broken off of you, you know and and help you out with that, too
And so all of that you can, you know, feel free to you know, hit me on boxer
You can put pieces in the group if you want or not
Does that or personal just direct to me does all of that make sense? Are you all in boxer?
Okay, and those of you that aren't in
And
The app, you know, you can message Rebecca any kind of logistical stuff message Rebecca
She'll work on your behalf. The app is not ours, right?
It's Dion's but we'll connect them and and help you get you know connected in there because that's where
You know Dion is already loading content over there. And did you guys enjoy Dion? He's great, right?
Like I've had a lot of Dion so like I just he's amazing and it's cool to be co-training, you know with him
And so there you go. Awesome
Cool guys. Oh
Stephanie really quick. Where do you want us to post in the Facebook group or on the app?
questions
Yeah, so
So for me
Anything you so Rebecca's amazing, right and she will and in fact
She sent me some questions that I have not had a time to do anything with I'm so sorry
but
Rebecca's great. If you if you're more comfortable posting and Facebook you can Rebecca will let me know
I don't I just don't I don't see all the stuff in Facebook with all the different things we got going on
boxer is going to always be your fastest response for me and
You're always gonna be the I'm always gonna be the fastest on that
You know every at least every morning. I'm checking that but often throughout the day I check it, too
And so, you know if it's speed
boxer for me
Thank you. Cool and
Cool and we do have a Facebook group
So, you know just let Rebecca know is it it's Rebecca at Higdon group calm right is that yeah
And yeah, and then she's also in the boxer group with you
And so, all right. So with that I'll pray us out. I know we went a little bit longer
This is you know, just a warning probably gonna be the the deal with pretty much all of these
but
Father we're just so grateful for you father. Thank you for bringing us all together Lord father
I just want to thank you that you gave such boldness and courage to every single person on here tonight
Thank you for that. Thank you for blessing them with boldness and courage to to be a part of this and thank you for
Bringing us all together and thank you for your presence with us Lord. We're so grateful for you and and father
We thank you for clarity guidance direction wisdom strength and discernment father
We thank you for abundance prosperity riches honor in life
We thank you for healing harmony order and balance in our heart minds Brian brains and bodies
Thank you for prospering us in the work of our hands. Thank you for blessing our families
We're just so grateful for you Lord. Thank you for guiding us and directing us. Thank you for all that you've done for us
Thank you for rescuing us while we were still so far off. Thank you for sending your son
Thank you for your word, which astonishes us every single day Lord. You're worthy of our praise
You're worthy of our glory honor power and strength and we are just so honored to be your children in Jesus name. We thank you
Amen
All right guys appreciate you love you guys so much and we'll be talking with you, all right