All right. Welcome, welcome, welcome, ladies. We've been having fun chatting in advance,
and I'll be showing you that on the 22nd of February, 2, 2, 2, that just, like God did
that. I didn't even know the date. We have the God Love and Me Masterclass. So I'll share
later the link again. I'll pop it in the chat. BIT, you know, like horse's bit with a small
b, bit.ly forward slash 2025GLM, God Love and Me, right? So bit.ly forward slash 2025GLM.
Okay, so I'm going to start us with prayer, and then we are going to do our breakout room
that we do on each Prosper Leader member main call, not the office hours, but the main call.
Remember, ladies, you get out of this what you put into it, right? God has given you
Prosper Sisters, and this is your opportunity to have a prayer partner or an accountability
partner or a brainstorming creativity partner, a bounce-off someone, your stuff partner,
you know, just love on each other. We're better together. And so breaking into one-to-one
and having a Prosper Sister, thank you, Natalie. It was her brilliant idea. She's contributed
so much to this group. This is your chance to get to know your Prosper Sisters, and I'm loving it.
I'm hearing the stories before we started. You know, I'm loving Tracy is doing a speaking
series, a summit, and already she's got a couple of you on there. I think you said Barbara's
on there and Susan's on there. So you are collaborating. This is the joy of that.
And so super excited. Get to know your Prosper Sister like you guys go deep, ask questions
about each other, get to be able to describe their business, be able to refer to them,
be able to know that you can ask them questions or say, hey, text them. I just need prayer.
Like really, this is a sisterhood. All right. So I'm going to break you in and give you
about 10 minutes. You have about five minutes each and just give your 30 seconds, 60 second
description of what you do so they can get to know you. And what about that? What about
what you do excites you the most? What moves you? Why do you do what you do? So you're
going to share what you do just quick. And why does that excite you? And either what
challenges you or what do you need right now? What do you need? And you can say, I need
prayers. I need referrals. I need somebody who is a VA. I need somebody who's in broadcasting.
I need someone, you know, whatever it is, then ask. And that's, you know, the Bible
says we have not because we ask not. So being vulnerable enough to ask for it too. Right.
So going to break you in the group. You're going to share what you do just real quick
in a way that they can remember and guys take make notes, like remember what they do and
then get to know their heart. Why? Why is that so important to you? Why do you love
that? What drives you? And what do you need? Everybody got that? Okay, going to break you
into your breakout rooms. Here we go. I don't have team today. So I'm going to do this for
you guys. I think if I have to move you around, but I think this should work. All right.
Happy connecting ladies.
Thank you.
Hello, hello ladies.
Everybody's in a breakout room and you two came after so you could both be in a breakout
room here.
All right, just I'll leave you in the main room as your breakout room.
So Victoria, if you can unmute, then you and Monica can connect, which is awesome.
You're both in health.
So I'll let you connect.
I'm going to stop the recording.
Welcome back, ladies.
How was your connecting?
Special?
Some good stuff happen?
I have a question.
I looked afterwards and it looked like Susan got put in two rooms.
You're here twice.
So I'm really curious, Susan, can you be in two places at once?
What the heck did you do?
How did you pull that one off?
Is she even able to comment?
I realize she's in here.
She did get put in a room with, there were four of us, so we all just kind of rolled
with the punches.
Four of you.
Yeah.
Okay.
So it connected two rooms somehow.
Okay.
That's different.
I looked and I went, wait, Susan's in with Monica and Tracy and Susan's in with Barbara.
Wait a minute.
What happened here?
All right.
You never know what's going to happen in these meetings.
All right.
Welcome.
Welcome back.
We're super excited to talk about something, which is, especially as you start a new year
and you're planning out your year and moving forward, is to look at your values.
Values clarification, also values conflict, okay?
Who can just, put in the chat, I want to see you guys where you're at.
Who can just rattle off and just know your top values, just can just say, my top values
are da, da, da, and also maybe the value conflicts and who is not real sure.
You need to clarify that a little bit, or even what values are, which I'm going to talk
about.
So let me know where you're at in the chat.
Just say no, like I know my values or don't know, pop it in the chat.
Let me see where you guys are at when it comes to values.
Okay.
Good.
And so, Monica, do you know your top two, your top three, your top five?
And I'll tell you what started this conversation as you guys are putting it in there.
Okay.
Some are familiar.
I've done a little bit of value work.
Some of you know.
Okay.
So this is what was an interesting conversation.
It just popped up because I know mine and I was having a conversation with a gentleman
out salsa dancing, if you care to know, and I said, my top values are freedom and peace.
Those are like, they drive me freedom and peace.
And he said, which one's more important of those two?
Which comes first?
And I thought, I thought about that all the next day.
And because freedom's so big for me, created my schedule around freedom, my life around
freedom, my lifestyle as weapon and started a network marketing in my twenties.
And then I thought, no, freedom with no peace, that wouldn't work.
Absolutely.
Peace is first having peace.
And of course, if you come from traumatic background, that'll be one of yours, right?
So we'll, we'll just, I'll go through it real quick.
And if you already.
no, we'll move the conversation into, you know, how does this affect business or how do you use
this with your clients and do you know your clients values and do you make this part of your
of your coaching, right? So let me just pull up, you all should have gotten the email
and so you get to do the exercises but it talks about why values matter, right? So the truth is
that our values shape our choices we choose based on our values and we take action based on our
values and they have everything to do with our overall fulfillment, right? So when our actions
are lined up with our values and there's times they don't, when you've got a values conflict
they don't, okay? So but when they do when what you're doing and your values are lined up
you'll really feel peace, you'll feel purpose, you'll feel productive when they're in conflict
you'll get a lot of people say I feel so stuck or I feel so frustrated or I feel so torn like
my life feels like it's just split in a million directions that's a clue that there's a value
conflict, right? So I gave you some exercises to help you especially when it comes to decision
making and just moving forward with confidence, right? So on the guide that I sent you on the
on the email I sent you you're going to look and pick out your top 10 and then there's a place
to narrow it down to your top five, right? So just in case you don't have that let me share
the screen real quick and so okay uh let me know if you're seeing that, okay? So so here's some
examples, right? Of the value so some it's like fun man I'm all about fun some it's spirituality
some it's about prestige some it's about wealth or money, stability, right? Faith,
uh respect, courage, fairness, I'm just picking randomly, right? Responsibility, you get people
their values like everything's about that. Originality, I don't want to be like anyone
else I it needs to be original work I need to you know relaxation, safety, a lot of people are
driven by by safety, uh friendship, freedom, justice, you know I've got a son his middle
name is Justin and it like if there's injustice it drives him nuts there's that's one of his top
values, right? Empathy, adventure, adventure, right? Independence, team, like some of you it's just
about team, variety, variety, can't stand the same food, same work, same, right? Stewardship,
transformation, okay? So when you look at those circle your top 10, okay? That's the first exercise
there circle the top 10 and then from there narrow it down to your top five, okay? So do that real
quick circle your top 10 then you can go and number them put a number next to them one being
your absolute top value and five being the lowest, okay? So take take a couple minutes right now
circle them, okay?
Love that, okay? Natalie's ahead of the game she's already see if there's anything new that
stimulates when you look at these words if there's something different you hadn't thought about
okay and in what order Natalie you listed is it in that order?
So would you put belonging ahead of peace and peace ahead of freedom?
So take a minute
okay
You're gonna find you're gonna circle your top 10
then you're going to number them with one being the highest
so that you can figure out your top five or your
top three. And then we're going to ask ourselves some questions
about them once you have them. So when you have them, I'll
leave the screen showing them in case you don't have them showing
for you. Let me share the screen again. pop those up for you
again. Okay. lets you see them. You can add your own words, by
the way. Maybe something that's not there that you just it's so
important to you. Profitability, transformation, productivity,
comfort. You can see that if like productivity and comfort
were yours, you could see where there'd be a value conflict
perhaps, right? Or productivity and relaxation, right? Wisdom,
morals, harmony, stability, faith, personal growth. That's
a really big one for me. Put that in my top for sure. Okay,
so when you have your top 10, and then you've narrowed it to
your top five, then click done on the chat. So that I want to
give you enough time, but I want to keep it moving if you've
already done it. Okay, Barbara's done Monica. Okay, looks like
you guys are wrapping it up. Okay. Okay. So now, as you as
you're looking at that, okay, you're going to ask the
question, do any of your top values appear to conflict in
any way? So for example, adventure and safety, right? It's
going to lead to a gas and brakes. Okay. And so when this
often happens in coaching, this is one of the things if you've
got a client that's stuck, or you're feeling stuck, one source
of stuckness is often a value conflict, right? And sometimes,
they appear as a conflict, and I'm going to teach you what to
do with it. They don't have to stay a conflict. Okay, you can
resolve this. But you can imagine that they have freedom,
but they have a need for structure, or they have success,
they really have it and they have family and it appears to
them that they feel guilty. If they work on the success, they
feel like they're not being with the family, if they're with
their family, they feel they're not being successful. So there's
this conflict. So I want you to write down any value conflict
that you might have, I think I've shared the story, one of
the most prominent ones I saw with gas and brakes, was someone
that had, it was, it was like, you know, big vision, right
wanted to create this world transformation type, center and,
you know, centers, and safety. It was like entrepreneur, like
create and safety. And it's like, the entrepreneurial
journey is not safe. It's all about being able to take risks,
calculated risk, but so there was always this go back to
safety. And so never building like dream and dream and go and
then pull back to safety. Okay. And that's a sign of this value
conflict. Okay. So this is the key. This is such a powerful
tool to create a unifying statement. So for me, I used to
the conflict for me was I really wanted to build a big business
because I wanted to make the income the impact I just really,
you know, I have big vision. And so I really wanted to grow a
very profitable, you know, powerful business. And yet,
freedom, like I said, is one of my top two values. And so I kept
thinking that if I built a big business based on my and this is
something
else you need to realize.
It's based on something that happened in the past.
So part of breaking free from this
is breaking free from the past, which
means that mentally you learn to stay in the present.
And you understand that the past is gone.
You can't change the past.
You can choose to draw the past back into your present.
But so often, we let our past really just damage our present.
So in my past, when I did build a large corporation,
I was on 24-7.
There was no freedom.
I was just traveling every weekend.
I was speaking.
So my past idea for the present was, oh, no, no, no.
There's an inner fear.
If I build a big business, I'm going to lose my freedom.
And this will cause you to put the gas and brakes on
and get stuck.
So look and know what it is for you.
And then you can, first of all, choose to say,
my past doesn't determine my present.
My past is a memory.
I can't change it.
I can't do anything with it.
But I don't have to live my past today.
That's the first conscious awareness
is learning to make a break.
My past is gone.
The only place I can create change,
the only place I can build, in my opinion,
the only place prayers are answered
is right here, right now, in the present.
I've got to live in the present.
So that's the first step of breaking out of this.
And the second is tying those two together.
So there's some examples on the sheet.
And the example that really helped me,
that just broke that gas and brakes scenario was,
I thought if my business got big, I would lose my freedom.
That was actually not truth.
That's me looking at my past.
So here's how you bring a circular thing around.
So the mantra, the way that I would, the declaration was,
the bigger my business gets, the more freedom I have.
And the more freedom I have, the bigger my business gets.
And the bigger my business gets, the more freedom I have.
So first thing is a unifying statement
to bring those together.
And remember I told you at the beginning,
we're gathering evidence.
For whatever belief you have, you're gathering evidence.
So now you want to gather evidence for that.
Well, I'll tell you it's true.
The bigger my business got, I hired a lead generator.
I have a lead generation specialist.
She's working right now while I'm doing this.
She is over there bringing me leads right now.
I know, because she just texted me, right?
And I've got VAs and amazing assistants.
Linda's over there creating for the God-loving me,
like the study guide and everything.
Well, I'm here with you, right?
And each person, Natalie, Nicole's
over working on operations and saving money and bringing my,
like, the bigger my business gets,
the more freedom I have because I've
got a team that is self-led that makes things happen.
You see?
So I gathered evidence.
And I went, oh, because then you can tell your brain,
oh, it's safe because your brain's trying to protect you.
We're wired that way for safety, right?
And so, oh, it's actually safe, OK?
And I gave you a few other examples
that I see a lot in coaching.
Oh, the success in business with family.
The more successful I am in business,
the more I can create meaningful time with my family.
And you've got the money, the resources.
Take the family on vacations.
Go on cruises.
Like, buy them the things you've been wanting.
Put them in the schools.
Another one is the need for structure
and the need for freedom.
So they're afraid of, if I have structure,
then I won't have freedom.
And so here's another one.
The more structure I create, the more freedom I experience.
And the more freedom I have, the more intentional
I become in creating structure, OK?
So who gets that?
So any of you have a value conflict, pop in the chat.
And let's make sure we pull that together.
What's the two opposing, gas and brakes?
Any of you have a value conflict going on?
Let's work through it right now.
Yeah, OK, Natalie, can you either tell me
or put it in the chat?
Well, I don't know if it's a value conflict.
But I think I've kind of meshed.
I think I have meshed what you said.
Because one of mine is belonging.
And I know you said, rate them.
But one of the things that I realized
when I was thinking about what I was really
talking about belonging, of course,
belonging comes with a value.
I'm huge from my past, kind of being an only child.
But when I'm in a place of belonging,
I have peace, I have freedom.
I have, when I know that I belong there,
when I feel belonging, there are a lot of values
that just, they come into play automatically.
Yes.
So that's why I belong,
and I'll know when I'm in a belonging place.
Otherwise, those other things are kind of,
they don't-
The opposite is true.
If you don't feel you belong,
then you don't feel a piece, right?
Exactly.
Yeah.
So that's kind of why I have belonging for.
So I don't know if that makes sense or not.
No, it makes total sense.
I love that.
Do you, or do any of you have a place
where you had two opposing values
that appeared to be opposite?
I mentioned a couple, right?
Freedom and structure, business and family,
business and freedom.
Any of you, have you found that?
Do you have, because awareness
is the first step to transformation, okay?
Like some of you have one that's not on there.
I've done this one in coaching, is conformity.
Like this drive to conform, and yet entrepreneur,
which is about creating and solving problems, right?
And so it's very hard to conform
and be an entrepreneur, right?
So those are examples.
Let's see what you guys are writing.
My breaks tend to be pressed with my business
because of fear of not being able to handle it properly.
I begin to believe the lies.
I've been fed that I'm not organized enough, okay?
Or that I will not be able to steward it correctly.
Well, first of all, the very fact
that you have that awareness tells me
that God's got you and you're moving forward.
Because if you weren't aware of it,
it would be a challenge.
But your desire for stewardship tells me
that you will steward it, right?
And your awareness around organization.
So the one that's written down there
about creating structure, right?
I get a lot of freedom lovers
that just hate to create structure.
So look at what you do, Heather.
You're incredibly creative.
So you've got a creative mind, okay?
And most of us that are highly creative
have a little tendency toward ADHD, okay?
Why do you think I invented the Prosper Daily Planner?
It's to keep me from squirreling.
I invented this for me.
I'm glad you guys are all blessed.
But if I don't have this, I'm going squirrel, okay?
And my brain, which we'll get into brain leads
another time of understanding that.
But my brain lead is a frontal right.
A frontal right, like our way of organization is stacking.
In fact, I'm looking at my desk right now.
There's one, two, three, four stacks.
And the cool thing about when you have that kind of brain
is you know exactly, oh, three down is exactly what I need.
Like take your stacks and put them in a file cabinet,
like for me, and it goes into never, never land.
Like it won't come out again.
It's gone, right?
Out of sight, out of mind.
I got stack on the floor, I got stack, right?
So, you know, that's a certain type of brain lead too,
to understand.
And so your way of organizing
can be different than other people.
So you're not conforming to how other people
think you should be organized.
You're conforming to an organization
that allows you to move freely in your creativity, okay?
So hopefully that helps you.
I appreciate that, thank you.
I'm not gonna talk much, but-
Yeah, I know you're just recovering COVID.
We're praying for you, sister.
But the Lord did tell me you're on it, you're spot on it.
Thank you, I appreciate the confirmation.
Yeah, I'm so glad, yeah, beautiful.
Okay, all right, I see, okay, a value conflict,
Natalie, faith and family, tell me a little bit more.
So I have big faith.
Big faith, and I've had big faith.
I do still have it, and I start exercising in it
because my faith brought fear to my family.
Yeah.
Because of the level of risk or the level of bigness
or the things that I would believe for.
And they would come to pass,
but it came to pass with so much,
where the faith should have been,
even though it was like this,
but it should have been more of exciting,
it became very draining.
Because I had to stand in a space
where nobody else could stand with me.
And it's okay when people, like your friends,
but when the people that are closest to you.
And so one of the pieces I've been able to do, especially with one of my sons, is he's a big
faith walker. So I'm able to like support him because I know what that feels like not having
that support. So I'm starting to rebuild myself back in that area. Okay, here's the value conflict,
Natalie. Yeah. It's not just family. It's faith and belonging. Ah. Got it? Ah, okay. Got it? Yeah.
Yeah. There it is. That's your value conflict. So your need to belong, it often leads to the need
to conform in order to belong. Like Linda will tell you that that's her big one, right? So the
need to conform to the family or the group that you're trying to belong is conflicting
with that strong value of faith. There you go with your bad self. Okay.
I love that. Oh my God. Thanks for that. Yeah. Awareness is the first step to transformation.
As soon as we know what's going on, then we can create, we can gather evidence, we can create a
system that works around it. We can create that. I love it. I'm so glad. Okay. Lowest safety and
loyalty conflict with personal growth and faith. Yeah. Same thing. Very, very, you guys are having
similar things. And so a lot of this is, you know, with the Lord in prayer, courageously
stepping into. So, you know, this may or may not help you, Natalie. I've had to, it's similar and
it's different. Okay. We have to be careful. The expectations of others, those of us that are
people pleasers and creating ourselves into a pretzel to try to meet the expectation of those
around us, especially Lois, Natalie, those of you that are putting that, that have the need to belong
or the need to be accepted or the need to feel loved or the need to feel valued. So here's how
it can also be used to manipulate you. And I believe the dark side will try to manipulate
to keep you from your gifts. Okay. And so, you know, one of my values that I had was
to really be a good mother. Okay. This just like I homeschooled my kids at breastfed my kids for
two years. I like, I had just such a passion, you know, to be a good mother. Well, you know,
I learned from, you know, my counselor that I turned that into an identity, which is a dangerous
thing that we do. When we start, I've taught you about, I am, when I start saying, what are you? I
am a mother. Right. And then it can manipulate you towards your identity. So my kids wanting
something or angry or trying to push me to be what they want will use, you know, nothing about being
a mother. You do not know how to be a good mother. And that used to crush me into submission.
Right. And you've never been a mother to me. You don't know how to be a mother to me and
it's their pain speaking, but I always have a visual. Sorry for being graphic. You guys
are going to love me, but someone can hand you a spoonful of poop, a spoonful of shit.
You do not have to eat it. You do not have to internalize. Right. And so I had to learn to say,
because of standing on my values, I had to learn to say, that's not my reality.
And it might be a medical authority trying to put something on you. It might be a family member,
it might be a spiritual authority, but they, they try to force you. Okay. Many of us had issues
around the J space, a space B. Okay. Many of us had this, the two conflicting sides about that.
And the ones that were pro that we're putting on every kind of pressure to force that on others.
You have to, with the Lord, be true to the values he's given you. He's wired you with those values
for your divine purpose, for your divine job, for your divine call here on this earth. And so you
have to be able, when things like that are thrown in your identity, to be able to say,
entity is challenged, or you're being forced to conform to
something that goes so against your belief systems, and you're
being forced to conform, which does happen, you have to first
say, okay, that's not my value, I'm not going to step into that.
And then you have to separate in your mind. And here's how I do
that with respect. First of all, I let my I remind my mind that
what is being spoken to me is an opinion. Okay? And everybody
has a different opinion, opinions are a diamond doesn't
it doesn't make it true. So I can respect you by saying I
totally respect your opinion. It's telling my brain whether
I'm saying it to myself, or I'm saying it out loud, it's telling
my brain, it's an opinion, it's not fact, it's not necessarily
truth. That's the first step to freedom, I can I can appreciate
that way I'm being honoring. And then sometimes I have to go
further. And I did that recently with a family member and say,
that's not my reality. That's not my reality. And then
remember, I said, we gather evidence for the new. Okay, so
work through this worksheet. Has this been helpful? Drop in
the chat. Are you guys getting some gems that you can apply
both for yourself and for coaching? This can be in the
area of health, this could be in the area of relationships,
you've got value conflicts around money, you've got value
conflicts in relationships, when you get two different people
with different values, like what you're saying, like, you know,
Natalie, where man faith is your highest, and God's called me to
be a warrior. And I'm going to be out there in faith and
security and my family. And they're like, what are you
doing? You're risking, you're messing up your life? Why aren't
you conforming? Why aren't you going to this school? Why aren't
you doing this job? Why are you doing an entrepreneur, you know,
like, you get that kind of value conflicts between relationships.
Do you see how this how this plays out? And awareness is the
first step to transformation. Being able let me see you guys
have all these great notes here. I gotta see what you're saying.
And then we'll wrap it up. Okay. Okay. Praise God for
giving you insight and bless you for having the heart to see his
continue. Thank you. Okay. Following a vision conflict with
profitability. No, we can bring those together. Are you kidding?
The bigger the vision, the bigger the profits. Are you
kidding me? No, no, no. See, sometimes we buy into a lie of a
value conflict that says I have to have either or. No, no, no,
no, we're gonna have both. Okay. So let's work through that value
conflict. The bigger my vision gets, the more profitable I am.
And the more profitable I am, the bigger my vision gets. Think
about that. Yeah. Feel that one. Susan, you're getting breakthrough
right now. I feel it. I feel it. You and Natalie way to go way to
participate. Okay, let's see. Love this. Okay. Um, it's all
being used advice by the enemy to halt you destroy your
confidence in God. Yeah, ultimately destroy and steal
your faith. Absolutely. It's it's the battle, faith or fear,
faith or circumstances, right? Okay. I'm just in the few
minutes I've been on here. I've gained so much beautiful. I'm so
glad. Love you, ladies. So excited. Now, just before I wrap
up, make sure you have all written down the link. This is
going to be so important on to 22. This is something to really
invite people to let's see here it is. Okay. So it's the God
love and me the God love and me. I used to do this as a full day
event. It was $597. I'm going to bring it to you in a master
class. This is going to be about deepening your connection with
God experiencing his love being able to share his love. So
invite lots of people nine to 12 February 22. And I'll pop in the
chat the link as well. So there's one link you see up
there the God dash love dash and dash me dot c a r r d dot
cl you see that one but there's a short I made a short code for
you, which I'll pop it in the chat right now, which is the it
dot l y
forward slash 2025 GLM the GLM is
All in caps.
So I just popped it in the chat for you all.
It might need the HTTPS in front of it to work,
but it's bit.ly forward slash 20 25 G L M all in caps.
Okay, get yourself registered, tell friends about it.
This is such an opportunity for someone
that needs more love.
Someone needs to see the love of God,
understand how love and faith work in business,
how love and faith work in growing our personal lives,
how love and faith help us through,
you know, decision-making and hardships.
You know, I bring together the scripture,
the science, the strategy.
So I'm getting so many downloads for this.
I'm so excited.
The 22nd, nine to 12, invite lots of people.
Invite them to join.
If you have people that wanna come
to the Prosper Leader Membership as a guest and try it out,
and let me know, we'll make sure we get them in.
We'll invite them.
Let's keep this family really growing.
God's doing big stuff here in this circle.
And okay, so office hours are Thursday mornings.
That's probably where I'll see you next.
Have a blessed, blessed day.
So excited to be with all of you.
Take care.
Bye-bye.