Hello, everyone. Hi there. Happy Monday, everyone. Welcome to our Monday evening heart check-in
session coming live for you. I'm Bethany Cooper. I'm the master heart work coach, one of them,
in our community, and super excited to be here with all of you tonight. I see some returning
ladies. So great to have you back. If you are joining us for the first time tonight,
this is your first live session, please put that in the chat for me so that I know that you're
here joining us for the first time. If you're not sure what I mean by the chat, I didn't think of
this this morning, if you hover over the bottom of your screen, there's a little button that says
chat. If you click on that, there's like a little chat box that you can type in and you can let me
know. Okay, so first time, Allison, is it Schaffner? Is that how you say your name? Welcome. So glad
that you're here. Susan Buji is also here first time. Welcome, ladies. Kathy's first time, several
first time ladies tonight again. So glad that, Steph, we're a growing community, and it's pretty
exciting. God is setting his people free, and it's an honor to get to be a part of that small
glimpse of that journey that you all are on right now. A couple housekeeping items to get us started
tonight. As always, Supernatural Saturday, always want to encourage you all to listen to that. If
you did not already hear it, you can catch it under the replay tab. There's also a quick link right
now. I don't know if we'll keep that long term. But if you go into the app on the community tab,
there's like a featured quick link. And that goes right to that replay for Supernatural Saturday as
well. Jackie has been talking about discipline and all different aspects. And you all, it's not
always something we want to focus on. But it's absolutely one of the most important things that
we could ever focus on. So in relation to the heartwork process, I want to encourage you all to
stay focused. The enemy will very quickly all throughout your journey, and he'll start very early
on. But all throughout your journey, he will try to get you off track. He does not want you to heal.
He does not want you to be set free. He does not want you to walk in victory. And so understand, we
don't have to be afraid of it, but we need to understand it and stand firm. You know, I was
looking at the scripture about the armor of God the other day, and I've read that so many times. But
before we even put on the armor, it says to stand firm. And so I want to just give that to you all
tonight in your process, stand firm, know that you're investing in yourself. And it's one of the
best things you could ever do, no matter how much heartwork or coaching or counseling you've done
before you came here. We believe God has something supernatural for you during this time. So lean in,
stay focused, come out of hiding, you all have been doing such a great job. So many of you have been
doing posts, you've been sharing, you've been doing your Jesus Cares Board and doing that the
activations, it's been incredible. And so if if you are here, and you've never posted in the group, or
maybe you've never shared on a live session, I want to encourage you take another step out of your
comfort zone, because God wants to do something through that in your life. I believe that 100%
because in reality, you're not showing up for us, which I love to see you, it's amazing to see all of
you, but you're showing up for yourself. And if you learn how to show up for yourself in a new way
during heart work in this process, I 100% believe that you will learn how to show up for yourself in
a fresh way. When you start stepping into dating relationships again, so many times people lose
themselves in relationships. But if we learn how to really honor ourselves and, and have confidence
now come out of hiding now, y'all, it's going to be so much easier later on, whether that's an online
video date or an in person video date, practicing showing up and showing yourself in vulnerability.
Last night, my husband and I were doing a coaching session and I, we talked briefly about the
difference between sharing and vulnerability. And there is a difference, ladies. So I want to
encourage you to step a little bit more into vulnerability this week. And let's just see what
God wants to do. All right, heart posture as you go through the journey is key. So basically, what I'm
saying is be teachable, no matter if you're a counselor, minister, you've got degrees, you've got
your doctorate, you know, whatever it is, no matter how much counseling you've had, I want to encourage
you keep a very open heart. Everybody can learn something new every day. I learn stuff all like all
the time new, even when I'm going back through the heart where God is speaking to me, he's talking to
me about things. And so typically, where I see this show up is when people try to fly through the
program and their responses, the Holy Spirit's leading me in this process. Well, the Holy Spirit's
leading everyone in this process, you all guess what, discipline, disciplining ourselves to
actually go the pace that's recommended.
Don't y'all think there's some truth in that? Yeah. We don't always want to hear that stuff.
So many times people will buck against the guidelines and the recommendations. Why do we do
that? Well, there's something to that. And I hope if you, and I'm not shaming anyone, but I just
feel like real talk, let's have some real talk. When we buck against things, there's something in
us that's leading us to do that. And in the Christian world, sometimes we want to just say,
well, it's just the Holy Spirit leading me. I need to be free. I'm free. It's the Holy Spirit. No,
the Holy Spirit works decently in order y'all. And you're here in our program. And this is
something we've done over and over and over in the people that really, you know, do that best
practice one week of content per week. If you go a little slower, that's fine. But what we don't
want is for you to fly through. So one of the things we will do, I just am giving y'all a heads
up in advance is if you try to move to phase two really quickly. So for example, that happened
recently and someone was here a week and a half and they were trying to move to week two or phase
two, we're going to lovingly say, Hey, please go back and redo phase one. Now y'all are adults
at the end of the day, you're still going to choose whatever you want to do. We can't force
you to stay here. But the reason I'm saying this again tonight is that you will thank yourself
later. I promise. I promise. I'm not leading you astray in this. Okay. So on that note, I'm going
to pray. We're going to kick off the content and let's see what God wants to do tonight. Thank you
again for everyone that's here. If you joined a little bit ago while I was chatting and welcoming
everyone, if you're new for the first time, you've never been here before to a live session.
Go ahead and share with me that you're here for the first time so that we can all share with
everyone that you're here for the first time and we can welcome you that way. Father, thank you so
much for everything that you're doing in our lives. We thank you Lord for revealing, for healing
that's happening. We thank you that you, yes Lord, you have secrets from heaven that you want to
speak to us and talk to us about. God, you're a good father who gives good gifts to your children.
Help us to hear the upgrade from heaven over us tonight. God, we ask you to remove any fog,
smog, anything that keeps us from being able to receive your voice, your heart, the
things that you're speaking over us, every area where the enemies lied to us and deceived us.
God, I thank you that you would reveal those things for healing, that you would bring things
out of darkness into the light. Let there be revelation and illumination. Jesus, thank you that
you are the light of the world. So come in and illuminate our hearts, our minds, our bodies, our
spirits and souls. Help us to, yeah Lord, in this new season learn how to receive love in a fresh way
that we would look at ourselves through the eyes and the lens of how you see us. And we just ask
you to come Holy Spirit, have your way, be in and out of our conversation in the session tonight,
and do what you do best. Bring healing, life, truth and revelation and freedom in Jesus name.
Amen. He brings so much more, but those were the ones that came up in my spirit as I was praying.
Welcome, welcome again to all those that continue to join. So glad to have you all. Tonight we're
going to be talking about two aspects pertaining to the heart. We're going to talk about what is
the broken heart? So not just what is the heart, but what is the broken heart? And then we're also
going to talk about, excuse me, the heart being a wound and, you know, what we put into our heart
and how that impacts us and how that causes us to show up differently in the world today.
Damaris, welcome. Kelly, welcome. Oh, Sharon's a welcome person and a welcome person. You're a new
person too. Welcome Sharon. So glad that y'all are here. All right. It's going to be a fun night
y'all. I'm already having tongue twisters happening. I don't know what's going on. Pray for me.
All right. So let's look at this broken heart that so many of us have and have had for years
of our lives. Some of us have been on a healing journey, so you have been healing, but there's
still things underneath the surface. If you remember, one of the things I talk a lot about,
and Jackie says this too, is healing happens in layers. Forgiveness happens in layers. And so
some of you might have already healed from some things and you come into this program and the
Lord starts revealing those things to you. And you're like, wait a minute, I've already done
this work. Why are you bringing this up, Lord? Well, it's because he's wanting you to take a
peek under the hood. That's kind of the way I say it. He wants you to take another look at that
situation because there's more revelation and insight.
freedom that he wants to give to you. He wants to help you step further into freedom and you
might not even realize that you still need more freedom in that area, but typically that is the
case. Trauma doesn't just hurt us, ladies, it creates different versions of us. So I want you
to already start thinking about over the years where your broken heart has led you away from
God's best for your life. And even right now, maybe there's times where you're showing up in
the world, you're here, you're coming, but yet you hold back a part of yourself. You put walls
up to protect yourself at times. I shared a story this afternoon. I won't go as far into it just
because I ran out of time for a second breakout this afternoon. I don't want to do that again,
but there was a situation where I was chatting with someone from the church and we were having
a very good conversation. There was a lot of time investment regarding on my behalf regarding,
you know, Hey, where, where do you feel God calling you? What are you most passionate about?
You know, how can we help you step into that? And I spent significant time on that. And then I
started talking about some things that my husband and I are praying about, like the three things
we're going to focus on, you know, for like this next six months. And in the midst of that part of
the conversation, she started shifting where it was about us controlling. And I'm like, wait a
minute and not letting people have the freedom to do whatever they want. And I said to her, I'm like,
hold on just a minute. We just talked for like 20 minutes about you living into your passion. And you
know, what does God, what does God really asking you to do to advance his kingdom? And let's find
a way to help you do that. So how is it that, you know, all I'm doing is expressing what we're
going to focus on for the next, you know, six months or something. Y'all guess why that kind
of stuff happens. Something in her, she's hearing what I was saying through a filter she already has.
Cause you know, I'm pretty, I'm pretty good at honestly like, okay, did I say something in a way
that caused her to feel like I was controlling? Did I, you know, when I walk away, I definitely
go to Lord, like, help me Lord, because I don't want to be prideful and I don't want to, you know,
all these things. And what came out that day was that there were things she went through as a child
where her dad, she's like, I know he loved me, but he was very hard on me. He was very smart at math
and she struggled very much at math and she could never get anything right. He would tell her that
she was stupid. Like, why can't you just get it? You know, all this kind of treatment and behavior.
And so she struggles y'all with authority. That's what's going on there. So the reason I'm mentioning
it is I want you to even be thinking about, as I'm talking about that story, maybe that's not
your situation right now, but has there been any time in your life where someone in authority over
you has asked you or share their heart or whatever, and your art, maybe you don't express it to them,
but on the inside, you're pulling back, or maybe someone's expressed love to you, or, you know,
maybe they want to get to know you. Maybe it's not at love yet, but you're putting walls up because
automatically, you know, what do they want from me? Because all men want something from us, don't they?
No, y'all. I'm saying that sarcastically, but we believe those things, especially if we've been
hurt by men. And especially if at some point you believe the lie and started partnering with the
lie that men only want sex. That's not truth, but it shows up in our life in all different ways.
And so be thinking about where is your broken heart leading you away from God's original plan
and design for you, your true identity. When God formed you, He created you, He decided, man, this
is who I want Sue to be. This is who I want Leslie to be. I'm so excited about Julie, and, you know,
He's dreaming us up, and He's forming us, and He has this vision for who we're going to be, our true
identity. And then we start to encounter the sin and fallenness and the brokenness of this world.
That's the true identity I'm talking about, though, not our understanding of identity. We do our best,
don't we, to understand what our identity is in Christ. And every day, I do believe that we can
heal more and see the fullness of that more, but we need heaven's understanding of our identity.
I want you to also be thinking about the areas where, with these trauma situations and the wounds
that you've been through, where has the enemy come and planted lies right in the middle of those
areas? I'm going to read a little bit from the book for you. This is the part where Jackie's
talking, the heart we're talking about, and Jackie's talking about the heart we're talking about,
is the book I'm reading from,
and Jackie's talking about the heart we're talking about, and Jackie's talking about the heart we're
just so everyone is on the same page,
where she's talking about Beezlebub,
it's the Lord of the Flies, that's what it means.
But if you want to understand a little bit about flies,
they serve a purpose in the decomposition process.
So that's kind of their value in a sense,
but this is the thing, what they're looking for flies,
what flies do is they find an unhealed wound,
a sore or some place of decomposition
and they lay their eggs inside of that place.
So think about the wounds that I was talking about
and asking you to think about in your own life
and understand that the enemy's goal
is always to find the sore, the wound, the trauma
and lay eggs of lies, if you will, in those places.
When the trauma happens, as well as throughout our lives,
he will try to send additional things into our lives
that are similar and cause them like to happen.
And then we're like, oh yeah, see,
God doesn't really love me.
God really won't come through for me
because there's another situation we go through.
And in the sense, because our brokenness,
it looks like, oh, it partners with the same thing
that happened before and it reinforces the lie.
That's how strongholds end up being formed,
is similar things over time.
And we believe the same lie over and over
and we partner with it subconsciously.
I'm not saying we're doing these things intentionally,
just so everyone's clear on that,
but that's what the enemy's doing.
So the flies do this.
They lay their eggs inside of that decomposing place.
And then when those eggs hatch,
they literally have an unlimited food source.
So when we have hearts that are full of lies and unbelief
and all the brokenness, it's like a feeding frenzy area
for the enemy to come in and just wreak havoc in us.
These unhealed heart wounds, traumas, and rejections
become an ideal place for the enemy to sow his seeds,
the lies, because our hearts are fertile wombs.
Remember, anything that gets in our hearts reproduces.
So what's reproducing out of our hearts right now?
I want you to think about this as well.
The broken heart, again,
we're not talking about a healed, healthy heart.
This is the broken heart, is a liar, a puzzle,
and a pretender.
As I was just talking about, it tends to be full of lies.
The puzzle is, you know, I said earlier today,
I'm a big puzzle person.
Anyone else here like puzzles?
Anyone else do puzzles, some puzzle people?
So I was kind of telling the story.
I got two different people.
They don't even know each other.
Both got me because I tend,
I can be kind of quick with puzzles, y'all.
So these people are trying to challenge me now.
So they got me the impossible puzzle for Christmas
and y'all, I'm not a huge fan of it.
I'm not.
It has no color to it.
The pieces all are kind of the same size, same shapes.
I'm like, what's up with this, okay?
So I'm gonna work on it and see if I can conquer it.
I think I can, but here's why I bring it up.
Because if you just dump the pieces of the puzzle out,
especially this puzzle, like you have,
I have no clue where these pieces go
because there's not even a color that matches, nothing.
I have no picture to go from.
So it's just kind of a mess.
That's sometimes how our broken heart can feel.
It's just kind of stuff all over the place, if you will.
Our puzzle broken heart also tells us
that we want things that we don't really want.
So I gave some examples today.
It could look like eating food
when you're not really hungry
because you're trying to basically fill a void
of loneliness or sadness or even just boredom
or whatever the case may be.
Sometimes it's just because we don't drink enough water.
But sometimes the puzzle also tells us
that we want sex when we don't really want it, you all,
or that we need to have a man give us physical affection
because that's how we believe love is to be expressed
even very early on.
If there's brokenness in our hearts and our souls,
oftentimes we will struggle with the fruits of the spirit,
which includes self-control, okay?
The pretender that comes from the broken heart has masks,
tends to want expensive things.
And again, this isn't that we can't have
expensive things at all,
but it's when it gets way out of balance,
when it's about the status that someone might get
from having these things.
If we're looking for status,
if we're looking for...
someone to approve us, you know, approve of us
because of our clothes or something like that.
Ladies, that's not where we wanna live, right?
We wanna be loved for who we are.
Here's some other pretender and mask things
that can surface.
I'm okay.
Anyone in here ever just say, I'm okay,
even when you're not okay?
Anyone else?
I've done it.
How about, I don't need any help?
Thanks, I got it.
I don't need any help.
Yep.
So ladies, those are masks that we hide behind.
We don't have to do everything ourselves.
We don't have to lie and say we're okay when we're not okay.
Now we do need to use discernment and wisdom.
We don't need to vomit on people our problems, you know,
but where is that safe place to go
when we need to tell someone how we're really doing?
The pretender also causes us to live below
that true identity that I was talking about earlier.
Jeremiah 17, nine says this,
the heart is deceitful above all things
and desperately wicked who can know it.
Proverbs 4, 23, ESV version says,
keep your heart with all vigilance
for from it flows the springs of life.
We talked about that scripture quite a bit last week,
but I'm tying it into the lesson this week as well.
Our hearts are highly impressionable.
So everything that comes in
can cause an oppression on our heart,
which means oftentimes it can be marked by pressure.
Like our hearts go through
all these different kinds of things.
But are we thinking about what we're taking in
through the media, are the people that were around,
everything is impressing upon us and causing pressure,
especially the trauma and wounds from the past
that we're not healed from.
Excuse me one second.
So all of that stuff is pressing, pressing,
pressing on our heart.
And God's like, I wanna set you free.
I want you to give this to me
so that I can come and help you come out of that place
into the fullness of my love.
I'm gonna list a couple of different lie examples
to you all.
These are different kinds of lies
that God led me to put into this lesson.
There can be so many more,
but these are the ones I felt led to highlight tonight.
Are you hearing lies like this
or have you ever heard lies like this
from the enemy to you?
And that could be through any other people
or however it shows up for you.
It could be in your own mind.
You are insignificant.
The definition of insignificant means not significant,
lacking meaning, not worth considering, unimportant.
Has anyone ever told you that you weren't important?
Lie number two, you don't matter.
Lie number three, you should be seen and not heard.
Has anyone ever been told that before?
Lots of people through this HeartWork program
have told me that their parents were very strict.
I've had people tell me that their hands
would get smacked at the dinner table
if they even tried to talk, all kinds of stuff.
I've even heard people,
I know that the teacher needs to keep control
of the classroom, but I've heard people say
about how teachers, there's a lot of amazing teachers,
so when I say this, know that I know that, okay?
But how the teacher would put them in the corner
when every woman would go and play
because they messed up spelling something.
They were dyslexic and they really struggled
or reading the things out loud.
And I mean, that was back ages ago.
I think that was kind of a lot
of the way teachers did things back then,
but still pretty harsh behavior
and treatment of a little kid.
Lie number four, you're not enough.
And a lot of times, ladies, there's the flip side of that.
You're not enough, you're too much.
And what does that mean?
Well, a lot of times people believe the lie,
one that I have heard quite a bit is,
I don't even know if I can find someone
that will really love me and my kids.
They feel like their package, if you will, is too much.
That's not truth.
God can absolutely send you a spirit mate
that has a heart for kids
and whether they have them or not already,
they can love your kids and be that person to come
and be that helpmate in your life
and as well as your kids' lives.
I can say that because I've done it, you all.
I'm actually a spiritual mom to two girls.
I have a stepson and now with Brian's two daughters,
I have two stepdaughters
and God is using me in their lives to bring me joy.
Healing and it's pretty amazing and Brian bringing healing for my girls as well. So
understand that
You're not too much and you are enough, but it's whether or not we believe those things lie number five
Your opinion doesn't matter
Lie number six, you're always going to have to beg
Have any of you ever felt like you had to beg God to do something good in your life
If so you all that's a signal that you're believing the lie that you have to beg God for his affection his
attention his blessings
His love whatever it is
Internally subconsciously you believe you have to beg for that attention. We want to ask the Lord. Where is that coming from?
When was the first time I believed the lie that I had to beg God to love me
To be there for me to follow through. Yeah perform. That's another one Natalie
Here's another lie. This is the last one. I'm going to say in this section if they really knew me
They wouldn't accept me love me or choose me and I hear this a lot ladies
In many different forms, but the one that I feel led to mention tonight is when people feel like they've made too many mistakes
Their sin is too great and
If or the trauma that they've been through is too much and if they tell their spirit mate
They're really not going to love them if they tell their friend, you know, or whoever it is
That they won't accept them love them and choose them. So I want to encourage you to come out of these lies
Tonight, but here's one of the things I want to point out every lie that I mentioned tonight of those seven lies
All have one common theme
Low self-esteem
Not understanding our value and worth
Popper and or orphan mentalities those lies that I talked about have all of those themes in them
Okay, so if you resonated with any of those I want you to understand God wants to help you grow in your self-esteem
He wants to help you grow in your understanding of your value and worth. How does he see you?
What is his heart towards you?
He wants to help you come out of the popper and orphan mentalities the things that cause you to believe
That you're always on the outside. You're always watching everyone else get blessed
You're always at the back of the line
And even when you think you're at the front of the line
You believe the lie that the enemy always somehow somebody always gets in front of me
I'm always waiting for God to bless me
Here are some truths. I want to speak over you tonight from the from the word Proverbs 12
49 says this a wife of noble character is her husband's crown
Yeah, truth is what what does God see me? Yes, how does God see me joy?
Thank you again for helping put those in there
That Proverbs 12 49 again a wife of noble character is her husband's crown
Do you truly believe that you are a crown to your husband's heart and life?
That you bring value to him and that when you meet him, he is going to know that he is blessed a
Lot of us will like yes. Yes, I believe that but deep down
We may not subconsciously believe that and because we don't it's causing us to attract unhealthy people
Okay, Ephesians 1 5 in love. He predestined us for adoption to Sonship through Jesus Christ and accordance with his pleasure and will
Ladies, we are daughters were adopted at into the Sonship through Jesus Christ
Isaiah 43 4 says since you are precious and honored in my sight and because I love you
I will give people in exchange for you
Nations in exchange for your life
Have you ever seen a mom or dad go to bat for their kid?
And they'll just do whatever it takes to help their kid
Succeed or you know their kids face in a struggle and even when their kid has made a mistake
They're just they're they're invested and they'll they'll do whatever it takes to get their kid out of the mess
That they got into and yes healthy parents do give their kids consequences
But you all they will go get their kid out of jail, won't they?
for the most part if
Their kid keeps perpetrating. They may have to let the kids stay there for a night. You know, we get that
But I'm just trying to help you to see like God is saying I will give in exchange for you
for you. Not just people, nations. Y'all that's wealth. He's saying I'm gonna go
after you because I love you. I'm gonna pursue you with my loving-kindness and
draw you into myself. Luke 12 7 says, Indeed the very hairs of your head are
all numbered. Don't be afraid. You are worth more than sparrows. Your first
breakout tonight is on this question. For our new ladies, the breakout sessions
are digital so I'm gonna set up the breakout rooms here in a minute. When I
get them ready, you'll be put in a breakout room with one or two other
sisters in the group tonight and you'll talk about the question I'm about to
give you and you'll be in there for a little while and then you'll come back
and we'll do a group coaching session. When I do start the breakouts, you'll see
a pop-up on your screen that'll say click to join the breakout room and you
just click that and it takes you right into the room just so that everyone
knows what that means. Alright, so here's your question. What lie or lies have you
been believing that you need to invite God into to heal you in that area
tonight? So if you have one or two or you know whatever's coming up in your spirit
is the point, okay? So what lie or lies have you been believing that you need to
invite God into so that he can heal those areas tonight? Alright, let me get
these set up for you all.
Okay, keep them short, brief, and powerful. Sharers, if you have extra time, get to
know each other a little bit but talk about the question first. First and
foremost, make sure you're not counseling or advising each other. Remember, you're
gonna let your sister share. Even if somebody cries or gets emotional, just
say, I'm gonna use Pat as an example, Pat, thank you so much for sharing your heart
with us. And then the next person can go, yes, hi Pat. Alright ladies, go ahead and
click to join those rooms. Go ahead and click to join those. I'll be praying for you all
while you're in there. Okay, so those that aren't able to go into the breakout,
maybe you're at work or for anyone that's watching the replay, once I get
the ladies set up in their rooms, I will start to pray and we will go forward
from there.
Most of the rooms are good, almost.
Alright, Father, thank you so much. I think I've gotten everyone in their rooms. Thank
you for all the conversations that are happening right now. Thank you, Father, even those that
will watch the replay, those that are here in the main room. God, that you would just
work in their hearts and help them to hear what your Spirit is saying to them. God,
that you would reveal any lies or areas where they have these wounds and trauma in their
heart that are still causing them to live below your plan and promise for them. We thank
you, Lord, for the revealings for healing that are happening. We thank you, Lord, that
you would, yeah, Lord, just that you would place the balm of Gilead upon their hearts,
their minds, their bodies, their spirits, their souls, that you would help them to receive
the fullness of your love tonight, that you would help them to, yes, Lord, that they would
be transformed by the renewing of their minds, that all old things have passed away and behold,
everything has become new in you. So, Lord, we thank you for the shift in our mindsets.
We thank you that you, as your Word declares in Jeremiah 29, 11, for I know the plans I
have for you, says the Lord, they are plans for good and not for disaster to give you
a future and hope. So, Lord, I thank you that you'll help us to cling to the truth, that
you have good plans for us, that you have a future and a hope. So, Lord, I thank you
that you would come into every area where hope has been deferred and our heart has become
sick and that you would just breathe fresh hope into us tonight, that you would just
rise that hope up, up, up, Lord, that we would not be able to contain it, that it would bubble
up out of us like a river of living water flowing in us and out of us into the lives
of those around us. We thank you, Lord, for, yeah, Lord, just helping us to lay aside every
weight that so easily ensnares us and that we would press on toward the high calling
of God for our life.
Lives including that we would lay aside these lies that we would come out of agreement and alignment with them lord
And we would step into uh partnering with you and partnering with your truth god that we would spend time in your word
Hi, jennifer
They are in breakout rooms. Let me go ahead and put you into a breakout. They're talking about
Lies that they need to ask god to heal them, uh from tonight so you can go ahead and jump into that conversation with them
um
I don't know what I was praying ladies, but i'm going to keep going
John 10 10 says a thief has only one thing in mind. This is the passion translation of that scripture
He wants to steal slaughter and destroy but I have come to give you everything in abundance
More than you expect life in its fullness until you overflow
So god wants us to live a life of abundance and overflow the blessing
Um, but part of that is, you know
Disciplining our minds casting down every thought and making it obedient to jesus christ to his truth to his word
To the victory that he won on the cross
And it's also us submitting our minds and our lives living for jesus christ and making good choices
philippians 4 7 says then you will experience god's peace which exceeds anything we can understand his peace will guard your
Hearts and minds as you live in christ jesus. So lord, we just thank you for peace tonight
God, we thank you that you are the god of peace and that we can right now just where we're at whatever situations we're facing
God asks you to come and bring your peace right in the midst of that situation
We thank you that you would um, yeah lord
We thank you that you do rule and reign over all the earth and we thank you that you are working
Mightily on our behalf right now even where we don't see it lord that you're working
We thank you that in isaiah 40 verse 31, which this was mentioned in supernatural saturday this past saturday
Here's one of the scriptures it says but those who hope in the lord will renew their strength
They will soar on wings like eagles. They will run and not grow weary. They will walk and not be faint
So lord, we thank you that you will lift us up
Lord out of the miry clay and the areas of struggle and distress that we've been living in
We thank you that you would set our feet upon the rock that you would help us to um
What I just heard in my spirit is step into victory land
So i'm going to go with that
So lord, I thank you that you'll show us what victory looks like and that it wouldn't be something that is fake
But that it would be eternal that we would receive the revelation of living in victory
And that we would approach everything in our life from that that perspective that place
Proverbs 23 23 says embrace the truth and hold it close. Don't let go of wisdom
Instruction and life giving understanding
So lord, I thank you that you'll help us to hold
Your truth the truth of your word close to us that we would bind it upon our hearts
um
And right keep it on uh, it says on the tablets of our hearts and then there's also a scripture that talks about on our
You know keeping it on our fingertips if you will
And so that you know, that's keeping it if you I even think of like if i'm turning pages of a book
You know keeping something at my fingertips. You want to keep it readily available
And so I believe the lord wants us to know his word
uh, not just to be uh, you know
A ritual but because the more that we know the word the more the word can live in us and and you know
Creates all the life inside of us. The word is living active and alive
It's sharper than any double-edged sword
And so it can cut through the bone and the marrow and it can get to the root of the matter in us
So lord, I thank you that you'll help us
To trust you with these areas of our hearts. I thank you that we will begin to um
Yeah that we will begin to see your truth and your glory would be revealed in our lives I thank you that you would
Illuminate the right path before us and that you would light that lamp unto our feet and uh be that light into our paths
That we would know the way to go in any decisions that we are making
And lord, we thank you that uh, psalm 147 3 through 4 says he heals the wounds of every shattered heart
He sets his stars in place calling them all
By their names y'all if he calls every star by a name and he knows them all
Does he not know our name?
Does he not know who we are god totally knows who we are if he knows the name of it
Like every star in the sky that he named when he put it there
So just want you to meditate on that a little bit tonight as god loves us so much
Um that he calls us by name and jesus is sitting at the right hand of the father right now in our
Interceding for you, interceding for you to get breakthrough, interceding for you to step further into the fullness of his plan and purpose for your life.
And the best is yet to come. I used to pray all the time, because the Lord gave me the scripture years ago,
that my former years would be greater than my latter years. And y'all, I'm starting to see that happening.
And it's a prayer I've prayed for a really long time. But I want to encourage you, start praying that, start declaring that over yourself.
That like, one of the things I would say, back in the day, my name was Stanko, I Bethany Stanko,
that I believe that my former years are going to be greater than my latter years,
that the things I experienced are not going to be what is going to be my tomorrow.
And I would just declare the truth over myself, over and over and over.
I made a list of the scriptures that I felt led to declare over myself.
I kept them in my car. And every time I would drive from one place to another,
I would declare those truths and those scriptures over myself. I would get them out at home.
I don't know why I'm saying this, but other than that, some of you need to start doing this kind of stuff,
because God's trying to bring breakthrough. And the more we align with the word and declare the word over ourselves,
the more I believe that we'll meditate on it and we'll think on it.
And those are the things that stir us to freedom and revelation and truth.
So what scriptures? I figured that I got anyone that really ministered to me.
So I would look up scriptures. Like, for example, anybody can go on Google and just type,
scriptures that are about love and read them. And just, you know, what is God saying to you?
What scriptures are speaking to you? And then start writing those down and then look up another topic.
And I just started there and I just started declaring.
Sometimes I would literally open my Bible at home and just start reading the Psalms and I would just start declaring.
This is the stuff when the enemy is coming against us, ladies.
Guess one of the fastest ways you can get him to leave you alone. Anyone want to guess?
Worship? There's two. Worship and you get the word out and you just start saying the word out loud.
Guess what? Darkness can't stay where the light is. He can't.
And it's not always easy. I'm not going to lie. Sometimes the darkness, you know, he comes in heavy sometimes.
But guess who's bigger? Guess who's stronger? Our daddy is. God, the father, so much bigger and stronger than anything we could ever go through.
Yeah, I might have said it backwards, Sue. Yeah, my latter years are greater than my former years.
Did I say it backwards when I said it out loud? Yeah. Yeah, I'm living in my latter.
I feel like I have more latter years to come, but I am living in my latter years now than when I lived in my former years before.
But anyways. All right. I'm going to stop that part. But I did feel led to share that at the end of the time I was praying for y'all.
Hopefully you had an amazing time in your breakout session.
Who is willing to share with the whole group what you shared in your private breakout?
Steph, is it Stephie? Is that how you say it? OK, awesome. Go ahead.
Hi, thanks. It was not in the heart work book, but it was in the 12 years or less to be married book.
One of the lies that I really resonated with was that you've missed the boat.
And I was reflecting on just my time, my being in my late 20s and then early to mid to late my whole 20s.
I was thinking I would go to bed literally thinking thoughts similar to like I've missed the boat.
The more I got like the more older I got, I like I wake up with this anxiety of like I've missed the boat.
I miss the boat. So that's kind of the lie that it's still lingering.
I'm 32 now, but it's definitely still lingering. Thank goodness.
I don't really wake up with it as often or go to sleep with it as often, but it's still very present.
OK, so, Stephie, when's the first time you remember having this thought that you've missed the boat?
Has it always only been about romantic relationships or has it been about other things in your life as well?
I would say that it started happening, if I'm being really honest, like when I was probably 15, 16.
I remember thinking all my friends were already starting to drive and whatnot, and I wasn't.
So I'm like missing, missing out on that.
Because I started driving, I guess, late, is like 17, 18.
Yeah, that just really came to me right now, just to give you an answer.
Yeah, so did anyone give you a hard time for, I don't know, did you want to drive or did you just not have the desire to drive or what led you to wait a little while?
No, I definitely wanted to drive.
It was my dad that kind of delayed me driving, getting my hours in.
I was home-schooled for driving, not public education, but for driving I was.
So they had the reins on that, I suppose.
Okay, so were you upset with your dad for the town?
Constantly, constantly.
Okay, have you forgiven your dad for that?
I don't think so.
Okay, so I'm going to encourage you to forgive your dad for that.
Because here's the thing, this might have even started before 15, 16.
Oh, I almost forgot, I wanted to ask you too.
Did anyone give you a hard time because you didn't have your license when other people, or you weren't starting to drive when other people?
Not that I can remember.
Okay, that's good.
I just wanted to kind of know that aspect of it as well.
So, even if it started before this, right in that point, you know, the feeling left behind in a sense, and it's someone else's fault in our minds.
If we don't forgive those people, that's why that lie is kind of reverberating in your spirit, even still today.
Because then the enemies come along the way and then shown up in other areas and try to convince you that you're always missing the boat.
Okay, and so I would encourage you to ask the Lord and just start jotting on a piece of paper.
Like, you know, jot the first one down, like tonight, the first one that came to mind.
And you might have other ones that show up for you.
But make a line and just note that one.
When I was starting wanting to drive.
That's one of the first times.
And then as the Lord shows you other areas, if there are more that you'll forgive anybody that you need to forgive along that, just surrounding that lie right now.
Okay, and I just heard the Lord say as well, there might even have you ever maybe not felt like you forgiven yourself about something regarding to like, did you ever make a mistake where you felt like it's caused you to miss the boat?
Okay, what does that look like and sound like in your life?
I just recently called off my engagement in December.
Okay.
All right, so you're pretty fresh here out of that then.
Yeah.
Do you mind to share with us what led you to call it off?
It's okay, if you're not comfortable, it's totally fine to say I'd rather not right now, but it's if you're able or willing, you can.
It was a massive.
There was far more bad times than there were good times, I think.
That's, that's like the thing that I'll say to people is like irreconcilable differences, but really it was, it was far more bad times than there were good times.
But that was also the second time calling off our engagement.
Same guy?
Same guy.
Okay, that's okay.
So it's, it's very, not saying it's not okay, but it's very unique, I guess.
It's very outstanding.
Like, I've never heard of that in my life.
I've never seen it.
So just, yeah, like just coming, I suppose, out of that.
So would you say, are you struggling with any kind of shame?
Because the way you just described that to me too, you've never heard of this, you've never heard, seen anybody call off an engagement with the same person.
So I'm just wondering, are you feeling shameful about that?
I, I don't know if it's shame more so than it is like a, like a going back and forth, like a distrust in my decision.
I, I'm, I'm not positive.
People ask me about shame and I'm like, shame is like, I'm bad, right?
So I don't sense that.
I sense more.
Right.
It can be other things though too, like embarrassment kind of makes me think.
Okay, that, okay.
Maybe that's more appropriate.
I don't really feel like maybe shame, but maybe embarrassment is more along the lines of accurate.
If it is like an undertone of shame, sure.
But embarrassment, definitely.
Sure.
Yeah.
Embarrassment, I would say is an undertone of shame.
People typically feel like they are bad.
They are, they are shameful for doing something like that.
It doesn't sound like you have that feeling, which is good, but the fact that you said
maybe not trusting your own decisions, going back and forth.
One of the things I want to encourage you to shift into is based on what you shared,
that there were more bad times than good.
It sounds like you're God-defended versus missing the boat here, okay?
And so the enemy is trying to convince you that you're missing the boat, where actually
what's happening is God's protecting you and you're stepping into the plan that God
has for you.
You're stepping closer to that.
So the other reality here, ladies, is guess who is the driver of the boat?
God is.
So do you think God's going to take off in the boat and leave us behind?
He's not.
He's going to wait for us.
So there's no missing the boat.
Y'all, I dated someone for six years.
I shouldn't have been dating.
And I felt the same way, like, man, I wasted that time, which I gained amazing relationships
with my spiritual daughters out of that time.
I did.
I see the value in all of it.
I don't feel the same way now that I used to feel.
But when I first ended that, I was like, oh my gosh, I wasted all of my baby making years
on this guy.
And I felt like I had ruined it, you know, my chances and all this stuff.
Well, that's not true.
And God can absolutely accelerate our healing and our love story.
Supernatural things can happen.
So when anyone that is worried about that stuff, we don't have to try to rush something
along.
We can trust God to do something supernatural when it's the right person.
We don't have to make it be supernatural.
Some people try to do that.
They're trying to put somebody in that, you know, that what is that round peg into a square?
However you say that.
I'm saying things backwards, but you know what I mean.
So let's not try to fit somebody, including ourselves, into a box that they were never
intended to be in.
Steffi, thank you for sharing that.
Thank you.
As the Lord reveals some of those other aspects of missing the boat to you, like I said, just
try to jot those down.
And then when you have those put together again, use the forgiveness prayer sheet.
That's one of the worksheets and definitely start with the one with your dad this week
and just start praying and using that sheet to work through forgiving him, you know, for
that incident or any other times where he was doing things where you felt he delayed
you from being able to move forward, which sometimes that is true or it's not, but it's
how we are interpreting something.
So we need to forgive people for those things.
All right.
So good.
Laura, go ahead.
So what I shared in my group, some of the lies that I have been believing is that I'm
not worthy of finding love again.
I'm now almost seven years since my divorce and that I'll never get married again.
So because my mom, my parents divorced when I was six and she never remarried.
And so, yeah, I just have that fear of falling in her footsteps.
I mean, she did have like a couple of children that like proposed to her, but she was always
afraid that it wouldn't work out a second time.
So yeah.
Okay.
So I have an activation for you to do.
I gave this to someone else recently.
The situation wasn't the same, but her mom was a widow and she ended up being a widow
and her mom never remarried.
And so she was kind of living under this feeling like it wasn't okay.
Like subconsciously she felt guilty about wanting to move forward.
And so I encouraged her, if you remember last week, that release activation, I encouraged
her to go buy some balloons and attach to the balloon, you know, an agreement, like
I'm coming out of a agreement with the lie that I will never be married again.
The generational lie.
I mean, that's something generational.
You just said something very similar and, you know, really pray before you release those
balloons, but then let them go and come into agreement with the fact and the truth that
God can lead you to your spirit mate and he can lead your spirit mate to you.
You're not too late.
On the not worthy of finding love, I really would love for you to lean into like, what
makes you not worthy?
What makes you any different than me or anybody else that is married that God has blessed
with it?
You know, good, healthy marriage.
you know, I didn't have a healthy marriage before and I was divorced for a long time.
And then I was in those other relationships that weren't great. And now I have a healthy marriage
and I'm learning how to do it in a whole different way than I knew how to do it before.
So if I can do that, I know that you all can do it too. I know that God has that for you.
Yeah. I mean, I just, I discussed it with my therapist too. And I know that she's also like
gotten me to like, to think about like, why? I know that like, I was put down for like many
years of my marriage. And so I think that has like some to do as far as like my self-esteem and just,
yeah, just like my whole like image of myself. Yeah.
So ladies, when we have this situation where maybe we were put down in our marriage or
relationship that we're in, sometimes that can be the beginning place of that.
But the low self-worth tends to typically be there before we get into those relationships.
And then when those people talk down to us, it makes it worse. So I want to encourage anybody
that has low self-worth to really ask the Lord to reveal the root of that. Where did that start?
When's the first time you didn't feel worthy or valuable as a kid? You want to know the beginning
root place, ladies, as much as you can. Again, we're not digging. Remember, we're not digging.
We're just asking the Lord to reveal for healing and letting him do that. All right. So good. Laura,
thanks for sharing. Kelly, go ahead. Hi. So the lie that I shared in my group was
the you are not enough slash you are too much. And on one hand, the you are not enough. I know
that that comes from the relationship that I had as a child with my dad. My parents were married.
My father was in the house, but he worked all the time. And he was he was present, but wasn't
present. And I struggled a lot with the feeling rejected by him. And so that has been kind of a
theme and some of the relationships that I've had. And though I've done a lot of work and healing in
that area. And then the you are too much. I was sharing that I had been introduced to a man
through a mutual friend. And we were having a conversation and I was asking for clarity on kind
of the direction and, you know, what was happening. And I was sharing in my group that as I was
kind of debating if I was even going to ask, I the the internal kind of messaging to myself
as Kelly, you're doing too much. You're asking for too much. And so that those were kind of the
two things that that resonated with me. The other thing that I'll say in regards to the you are not
enough is all of my best friend. I'm 43. All of my friends, all of my best friends, you know,
are married, you know, they have children, their children's godmother, you know, and and many of the
women in my family are have also been married, remarried, and I have not. And so that kind of has
fed into this idea of, you know, like, you know, you are not enough. Okay. So this is really helpful.
Just y'all know, when I'm not looking, I'm taking notes, just make sure everybody knows that it's
not that I'm not paying attention. So Kelly, one of the first things as you were talking about
the actually the aspect regarding the guy and like, that that lie that you're asking for too
much, it made me think about what you said about your dad, that he worked a lot. He was present,
but not present. I'm just curious, like when he was home, did you feel like you weren't allowed
to approach him? You know, did mom want you to be quiet so dad could sleep? Like, what was that
dynamic like? Yeah, that that was part of it. My dad worked nights. And so my mom would always and
my parents are divorced now. But my mom would always, you know, strive to make sure everything
was ready and you know, for him to go to work. So some of that, but also just feeling like,
and this is something that my siblings and I
I have talked about, but just feeling kind of invisible when he was around in
some ways and that despite our efforts, despite my efforts, you know, for his
attention and to get him to do stuff with me and go places and show support.
And, you know, even birthday parties, like things that, you know, you
would expect a parent to be at.
Um, it just never really changed his behavior, his interactions with me in
that way.
Um, so one of the things I'm going to encourage you to do is ask the Lord,
normally ask y'all to invite Jesus into situations, but you can ask Jesus to
come into this too.
But I feel like you need to hear from God, the father, because this is about
your dad and specifically for God to show you his perspective of your dad.
Um, I do think, you know, sometimes our parents really struggle to connect.
Um, I don't know your dad, of course.
Um, but that came to mind that sometimes parents really struggle to connect,
especially when they're gone a lot.
And so they, they feel like they don't ever know how to reenter.
Does that make sense to make connection again?
And so then that chasm, it doesn't make it okay.
But I'm just saying that's that chasm starts to get bigger and bigger and
they feel farther and farther away.
And so, um, but I, I feel like God wants to show you something about your dad.
Specifically.
Um, and then on the flip side of that, just, you know, ask God to show you.
How does he feel when you ask him for things?
God, isn't going to get tired of hearing from you, Kelly.
And he's never going to feel like you're asking him for too much.
Okay.
So I want you to really take some time this week to meditate on that truth.
He doesn't get tired of listening to you.
He doesn't get wearied by your presence.
He loves you and he enjoys hearing from you and he, um, doesn't get
tired of you asking him for things.
So where you're really meditating on that and letting God, the father
come in and minister to those areas where you need, you need healing from
that, that, that wound and rejection from your dad and, you know, potentially
other things there as well, but let's start there and see what he wants to do.
Um, I believe there's going to be additional revealings for healing
that are going to come out of this, but let's, let's start there this
week and see what happens.
And I would love for you to do a post in the group.
Once you kind of have some time to process that.
Okay.
Thank you.
You're welcome.
So good.
Denise, go ahead.
Hi there.
Uh, I shared in my group that my, uh, what I'm struggling with right now
lies are, um, not necessarily about relationship, but it's about finances
So, um, I come from a, uh, I, I believe there's a stronghold of poverty on
both, both my mom and dad side.
So there it's not like we grew up really poor, but they just have a
poor mindset, if you will, mentality.
And it's in my whole family.
It's not their fault.
It's back to their parents and their parents.
Um, but I feel like I'm trying to learn how to break that mindset or mentality
and receive from an abundant God, from like a God who wants exceedingly
abundantly above and beyond.
And like you were saying, I've been meditating and confessing scriptures
of that, just that right there.
And other ones of about abundance.
And he wants us to be the lender and not the borrower and the rich or
the, the borrower is slave to the lender.
And, you know, just meditating on those and trying to, like you said,
replace that wrong with the right.
So that's what I shared in my group.
I love that.
So one of the things that really opened my eyes when I was going through my
heartwork journey, ladies is, uh, even regarding finances and shifts like this.
Guess what?
We need healing.
We need breakthrough in our hearts so that we can shift into those other mindsets.
Not just the declaring is half the battle, right?
Okay.
That's a good thing.
That's a great start.
But when we heal, um, so for example, growing up in my household, similar
thing, it came down through family lines.
Now we did struggle.
Thank God I had my grandparents on my dad's side.
They took care of us a great deal.
My mom did her best.
She worked multiple jobs.
She had four kids on her own and, and all of that, but.
You all definitely poverty things.
All kind of, you know, even my grandparents did an amazing job.
They had stocks and things like that, but they, they didn't
never talk about them openly.
It was, I knew they had them as I got older, but, um, you know,
just some of the shifts that I had to make guess where they
started in my heart, because my heart didn't believe there was
abundance and if there was abundance, I surely didn't
believe it was for me because I grew up the baby of four kids
and I was left alone a lot.
And I told this story this afternoon, um, when I was
younger, I used to go to my grandparents all the time, but
when I got to a certain age, I don't remember if it was 12 or
13 or whatever, or maybe a little younger, I don't recall,
but my mom would not let me go to their house after school
because I was too old and I'm, I should be grown up now.
It's time to stay home.
We all had a severe fear of the dark and my mom was working
a lot of times two jobs.
So guess what?
She wasn't home when it was dark.
I, my sister was three years older than me.
My younger brother of the two was four years.
And then my oldest brother was nine years old.
So big difference.
They were gone a lot working.
So I was home alone.
So back in the day, I never understood why my mom made
me stay home by myself.
And I had this, uh, you know, I was so afraid people were going
to look in the windows and all this stuff.
The reason I'm sharing this is because that played into the fear
in the poverty and all that, because I wasn't even allowed to
have an idea or an opinion about anything, including whether or
not I wanted to be with my grandparents instead of being
home by myself alone, that trickled into finances.
I used to, you know, save my money and my brother would sneak
into my room and steal money from me.
So this showed up my whole life, even to the point that when
I met Brian, I have been processing men that have stolen
money from me or my family throughout my life.
And learning how to trust a man with my, with our money, it's
our money, you know, so those are the kinds of shifts and those
are just a couple, but like, start praying into where do,
where does the heart need to shift?
You know, where we're coming out of fear, where we're coming
out of lack, where we're coming out of less than mentalities
and things like that.
Well, can I just, so like you were saying, it's layers.
So I have already recognized this and previously forgiven
both my parents.
I'm like, they didn't know any better.
They did the best they could.
And logically, you know, that in your head, but what the Holy
Spirit showed me just in these last couple of weeks is it's
the hurt that's not healed.
So the forgiveness is already done, but he's like, you gotta
let me in and let me heal that hurt.
And you gotta let go of the resentment.
So I prayed the balm of Gilead scripture on myself a lot.
Ladies, and you can look it up.
It doesn't even say exactly to pray it this way, but God led
me to start praying this over myself years ago.
I just pray and God, thank you so much for placing the balm
of Gilead upon my heart, my body, my mind, my spirit, and
my soul and healing me from the inside out.
The balm of Gilead was a very medicinal balm that was very
well known in the old Testament for healing properties.
And so that's why, if you ever hear me pray that, that's why
I pray it.
Over us, over the people going through heart work and all
of the things.
So that might be something to just start praying over yourself
as well.
Great shares, ladies.
Okay, Lisa.
And then is it Sharice?
I think.
Yeah, sorry, you can tell me in a minute, two more, and then
I'm going to do the last part of our content because I want
to make sure you all get into another breakout tonight.
Okay.
All right, Lisa, go ahead.
Thank you, Bethany.
Same thing.
I am very hard on myself and everything I do, even let's say
it's work or it's gym.
I was so hard on myself at the gym that I put a muscle and
I could not do my gym for two months, and it was aching me
really bad because I overdid it.
I did two hours for seven months and I got 20 pounds down.
Seven months and I got 20 pounds down, but that was so,
so overdoing it.
Same thing at work.
I'm very hard on myself.
Like I give myself hard time until I do that thing to
perfection, which is not what I should be striving for.
Yeah.
So what's the lie that you're believing that's
What is it that you think is so important to you?
What is it that is leading you to be so hard on yourself?
That it has to be good.
Whatever I'm doing, it has to be better.
Does it have to be good or better or perfect?
Perfect.
I want you to take a piece of paper like a sign.
An 8.5 by 11.
It's okay to take a break.
I want you to put that up.
I want you to see that often.
You can even add to that,
it's okay to go have fun.
People that struggle with perfectionism,
it's okay to take a break.
It's okay to do better.
It's kind of this idea that it's never enough.
I can never stop.
I have to keep pushing.
That gets out of balance.
Anything out of balance is where it gets into unhealthy patterns.
Giving yourself permission to rest.
Giving yourself permission to go have fun.
I want you to remember that.
I want you to remember that you're not going to be committed to
workout for 30 minutes and be done.
That might be really hard for you in the beginning.
If you have to write it on your hand before you go to the gym,
so you can look at it the whole time you're there,
today I'm committing to only 30 minutes.
I also want to go do something fun.
I want you to remember that.
I want you to give yourself that permission.
To be done in that timeframe.
It always feels like.
I'm not appreciated.
So when, let's say for one example, if I give in economics in,
in school, if I would have, if I would get 95.
Out of a hundred.
Then what dad would say is where is five.
Like I was never appreciated for getting 95.
I'm going to ask you a question.
I'm going to ask you a question to help you process this.
And you're going to still go through this,
this process regarding forgiving your parents and forgiving.
The culture and all of the kinds of things,
but here's my question for you.
While others may not appreciate you.
Do you appreciate yourself?
Because here's the key ladies. If we don't like ourselves,
if we think we're not good enough,
if we don't appreciate ourselves.
That's going to cut.
That's going to feed right into all the things that the other people were
telling us.
But we have a choice to come out of agreement and alignment with the
things that were drilled into us by other people.
And so, you know what?
I like myself, not just love yourself,
because the church tells you, you have to love yourself.
And the Bible tells you to, but do you like yourself?
And if you do tell me,
start to get it into words and put a post in the group.
What do you like about yourself?
Some people, I will ask them, what are your hobbies?
What are your hobbies?
And I will say, you know what?
I'm not going to get into that.
Some people I will ask them, what are your hobbies?
What are some things you enjoy doing for fun? And,
and do you know how many women cannot tell me the answer to that?
A lot.
And I got revelation.
I started asking people that as a part of their breakthrough process,
you want to know how I had that understanding?
Because I didn't know mine at one point I had always had a lot of
hobbies. I've been a vibrant person, but when I would get into relationships,
I would lose myself in those people. And so, you know,
Brian and I are very committed to, even when we're together a lot,
you know, we live together, we're married,
but that we do things a couple like nights a week where even if it's him
playing a game, you know,
on his computer and I'm watching a show that I want to watch where we're
having our own time separate of each other. But.
First and foremost, I got to know what I like.
What do I need? What do I want?
Okay. That's totally fine.
I saw your message in the chat there. So think about,
do you appreciate yourself? Do you love yourself? Do you like yourself?
And if so, what do you like about yourself?
And start leaning into that because at the end of the day,
there are going to be people that are never going to appreciate us
sincerely.
And we have to get to the point where whether they appreciate us or not
that we are confident in who we are.
I will tell you though,
I believe that you're going to be able to attract a spirit mate.
The more that you heal, that is going to appreciate you.
And I believe God can heal those parts.
of your heart. But we don't want to be starving people. We don't
want to be starving ladies for affection and attention. It's
an it's okay for us to want healthy doses of that. But where
we turn into that neediness, where if they're not giving us
those words of affirmation, or that over the top affection,
people will struggle to believe that they're actually being
loved when they are. And so we got to make sure that the
healing is happening. So we we walk into those relationships
and balance. All right, the heart is a womb, ladies, we're
going to start to go into this content real quick. I want you
to think about again, everything that's planted in our hearts
gets reproduced. So what's getting reproduced out of your
heart right now, the fruits of the Spirit is talked about in
scripture fruits of the Spirit of our love, joy, peace,
kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness, self control, if I
missed one, y'all can look it up. But to give you an example,
they're all good things. That's what the fruit of the Spirit
looks like and sounds like. Or does your heart have coming out
of it, anger, wrath, malice, jealousy, envy, rebellion, you
know, any of those kinds of things, grumbling, complaining,
bitterness, unforgiveness, what's coming out of our hearts?
What are we currently planting into our hearts? Like, what are
you listening to? What are you spending time like doing? And
who are the people around you? What type of fruit are you
producing? And this is an excerpt from the heartwork book
as well. It says when God uses the word good, he isn't talking
about our human standard of good, he is referring to his
standard of good. So maybe you do have a little something
working out, but is it God's version of good yet in your
life? There is an upgrade available for every one of us in
every area of our lives. If we are willing to be shown what we
cannot see yet. Some of you need to get very comfortable with the
word yet. You don't have your spirit mate yet. I don't have
the new job yet. That yet leaves that space in there for God to
come in and work and do miracles and, you know, work super
naturally in our lives as we're continuing to heal, God has an
upgrade available for you. The problem areas in our lives are
typically the signal, you know, if we have these recurring
areas, they keep surfacing over and over, and we feel like we're
going around the same mountain ladies. That's a signal that we
have unhealed wounds in those areas. So I want you to, again,
be thinking about what's going on in your heart, where you have
brokenness and the cycles that are not healthy mindsets and
patterns and habits that are not serving you. What is the healing
that needs to happen in those areas? Proverbs 23 seven says
this, for as a person thinks in their heart, so are they as a
person thinks in their heart, so are they. Remember that it can
take years for the seeds, the lies to mature in our, in our
lives. And when they do, they bring with them fully formed
false identities, or what we call the fragmented heart. For
instance, say your parents got a divorce when you were very
young, or perhaps never married at all. Your father left the
household and abandoned his responsibility towards you. Keep
in mind, abandonment doesn't have to be physical. It can also
be emotional, spiritual, or financial. While that would be a
terrible thing to happen to you, the trauma doesn't even have to
happen to you. Personally, it might have been to your grandpa,
great grandpa, that abandoned his family, but because it
affected your mother or father, they might have unconsciously
passed those lies down to you. That's called inherited trauma,
ladies, inherited lies that we're believing. Whether it's a
firsthand trauma or not, the event itself is not going to be
the thing that keeps you from having a good, good life. It's
the lies that you believe. Okay, so as we're looking at the
flies, the lies, and these counterfeit lives that we start
living, that's where the fragmented parts of us lead us
to live into decisions. The guy that I dated before, my
spiritual girl's dad, y'all, I really believed in the beginning
that God led me to him. Very quickly, I started seeing red
flags, and I just blew right past him, because I was so caught
up in the fantasy of what I saw in the first few weeks that I
thought was going to be our life. So much so that I built
this counterfeit life.
life and I chose that man out of a counterfeit identity, out of my
insecurity. I kept choosing him out of those insecure places. So I want you to
be thinking about who knows what a squatter is. Anyone know what a squatter
is? Okay, some of you know. I'm gonna read it just in case if you don't. A squatter
is someone who takes over a building or land without permission. They believe the
land or building to be unoccupied, but they actually are occupied sometimes.
Sometimes they're empty, but here's the thing. I'm bringing this up tonight
because the enemy has come in with his lies and his cronies and his squatters
and he's set up camp in your heart because he's believed it to be
unoccupied, unattended, that we just continue to allow this stuff to be there.
Squatters we have in our hearts are enemies to our breakthrough in our
progress. I'm gonna give you some examples again. There's so many more, but
these are some of the types of squatters that we can experience. Passivity. Maybe
we're inactive. Maybe we're unreactive. Maybe we're inert, so we're lacking the
power to actually move forward. Maybe we have poverty mindsets. Maybe we have
scarcity mindsets, which is the quality or state of being scarce. We don't
believe in plentiful or abundance. We don't believe that God has everything in
heaven and he's able to disperse it to his kids. We believe in lack. We believe
that he withholds from us. Maybe your squatter is inferiority. Maybe your
squatter is victimhood. No matter what you go through in your life, you're
always the victim. Maybe your squatter is an addictive personality to some degree.
You're wanting medication or pornography or, you know, food to self-medicate and
soothe. You know, addictive natures can also, like, we're consuming massive
amounts of TV over and we're just not living, ladies. Maybe it's a cultural or
family norm. As we've talked about this quite a bit tonight already, sometimes
there's things that come down in the culture that you are in and have grown
up in or your family that it's normal, but it's actually not God's version of
kingdom. And they've taken up residence in your heart. Maybe it's mindsets about
certain ethnicities. Maybe it's mindsets and norms about, like, men. Like, there's a
lot of moms that are very bitter towards their husbands or even they
heard it from their mom. And so, you know, generations of women are negative
towards men. Men are lazy. Men don't really pursue God. In our culture, I don't
know about you all, but for years, all I heard about was men don't really pursue
God. They're just leaving it all up to the women. Y'all, that's not truth. It's
not truth. Okay, so religious mindsets is also another squatter. Bitterness is
another one. And that's where I'm going to kind of land tonight. Hebrews 12 15
says this, see to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and see to it
that no bitter root springs up and causes trouble and by it many are defiled.
I'm going to put you in your breakout session. We're going to do a quick one on
this. So, be short, brief, and powerful. Oh, I already have it open. Let me
recreate these real quick. And I'm just going to put you in there for like four
minutes. This is your question. What squatters are you going to evict this
week? You're going to serve them an eviction notice and tell them they can
no longer take residence, take up residence in your heart, in your home, and
it's time to get out. So, that's what we're talking about right now. All right,
here you go.
Then click to join those real quick.
All right, thank you, Father, for this night. God, thank you for every
conversation that's happening. Oh, Steph, did you get kicked out?
All right, I don't know what's going on there. I don't know if you got kicked out
or what, but I went ahead and moved the other person. So, if you want to go back
in the room just
Let me know.
We can go there.
All right, Father, thank you so much
for everything we've already been covering tonight.
Thank you for the conversations
that are happening even right now.
God, we thank you that you're gonna help us
to serve eviction notices to these squatters
that are living in our lives,
where there's been bitterness, resentment, unforgiveness.
God, we thank you that you would bind and break
those spirits off of us, off of our family lines.
God, by the power of your spirit, Jesus,
and by the power of your blood,
we thank you that you would bind and break them off of us
and lose a spirit of love and of power and of a sound mind,
a spirit of forgiveness, a spirit of reconciliation.
In Jesus' name, that we would walk in your ways,
that we would look to know you more, Lord, every single day.
We ask you, Lord, to help us to lean into Jeremiah 24, 7.
It says, I will give them hearts
that recognize me as the Lord.
They will be my people and I will be their God
for they will return to me wholeheartedly.
So Lord, I thank you that we would have repentant hearts.
God, help us to hear you, to see you,
to know the ways and areas that we can come
a little closer to your heart.
Help us to recognize everything
that you're doing in our life,
and help us to step into the truth of who you are, God,
as a good, faithful, kind father
who does have forgiveness towards us.
And yes, Lord, for your grace and your mercy
is new every morning.
We thank you that you lead us to repentance
through loving kindness,
not through forcing us and pushing us into it.
Psalm 139.14 in the amplified version says this,
I will give thanks and praise to you
for I'm fearfully and wonderfully made.
Wonderful are your works and my soul knows it very well.
1 John 3.20 says, whenever our hearts make us feel guilty
and remind us of our failures,
we know that God is much greater
and more merciful than our conscience,
and he knows everything there is to know about it.
Luke 5.31-32 in the message version says this,
Jesus heard about it and spoke up.
Who needs a doctor, the healthy or the sick?
I'm here inviting outsiders, not insiders,
an invitation to a changed life, inside and out.
God, we thank you that you're giving us an invitation
to a changed life on the inside and the outside.
Help us to accept that invitation to take you by the hand.
Lord, I pray that you would reveal the areas for healing
where we still struggle to trust you.
Help us to, yeah, Lord,
help us to have revelation of those areas and turn to you
and allow you to come in and heal us and set us free
so that we can step into the fullness of your plans
and your promises for our life.
Thank you, Lord, that as we confess our sins to each other
and pray for each other so that we might be healed,
the earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power
and produces wonderful results.
Lord, we thank you that as we confess our sins
to those who are safe,
God, that you are doing a great work
in our hearts and our lives.
I thank you, Lord, that in Revelation 21, four,
it says he will wipe away every tear from their eyes
and eliminate death entirely.
No one will mourn or weep any longer.
The pain of wounds will no longer exist
for the old order has ceased.
God, I thank you that you would help us
experience heaven a little bit more tonight.
We ask you to come and just hover over every one
of the ladies that are a part of this community
and in this heart work process,
and that you would just do supernatural heart surgery
on them in their hearts, their minds, their bodies,
their spirits, and their souls.
We ask you to align them to your good and perfect
and pleasing will for their lives.
We speak, Selah, rest over them.
We also thank you, Lord, that as they read your word
and seek your face,
that they would have a fresh revelation of you,
of who you are, of their relationship with you,
and that you would draw them further into intimacy with you
in Jesus' name.
Welcome back.
Oh, Steph, you didn't have audio.
Sorry about that.
Oh, Laura said, what do I mean by religious mindset?
Glad you asked.
I'm not gonna share a lot about it tonight,
but ladies, there are times when things that we learn
in some of our upbringings in church
are actually very religious.
It's not, it's more about the law than about grace.
It's more about rules and ritual than being free
and really embracing the love.
You know, the Bible talks about
that we can have all the gifts,
but if we don't have love, we have nothing.
But so many people are so caught up in all the gifts and, you know, today, this afternoon,
I talked about different denominations and some people won't even date certain people
if there's a certain denomination and we're really deciding, you know, things about people
before we're even getting to know them.
Let's get to know people, okay?
Let's really open up and let go of religious ideas and mindsets that are keeping us from,
you know, even if it's a friend, like potential friendships and things like that.
Anyways, I could go on in that more, but because of the time, I'm going to stop there tonight
on that.
I hope you all enjoyed the last breakout and everything that God is doing tonight.
Here are your activations for this week.
I have two for you.
The first one is a never will I ever list.
Some of you have been here for a little while, so you might have already done that.
If you've done your never will I ever list, you don't have to do it again.
The never will I ever list, here's what it is.
If you have preferences about who you will date or not date, that's what I'm looking
for, okay?
Your list, and we're going to help you process whether or not your list is actually from
God the Father as a God non-negotiable, or is it just because, A, you don't like guys
with dark hair.
I don't know what your thing is.
Some people have like certain things like that.
Some people that are taller, especially ladies, do not want to date a guy that's shorter than
them.
And y'all, some of these women are passing up some really awesome guys because the guy's
two inches shorter than them.
No joke.
Real conversations.
This is happening in our community.
But that guy's amazing.
Why are you passing on him?
So these are some of the things we need God to work in our hearts.
I'm not saying y'all need to be with someone super short, but I will tell you, it's kind
of funny.
I never thought I would date someone tall and Brian's like significantly taller than
me.
It was just, it wasn't like I was against it, but I really, I just had never dated someone
as tall as him.
So God has the best for you, but it might not always, you know, come in the container
that you thought it would.
Let me just say it that way.
Does that mean the person's not going to be attractive and God's going to force you to
be in relationship with someone?
No, that's not what we're saying.
But what we are saying is let's look at where are these things coming from that are, that
have created our list.
Some of you, it's come from the pain and the hurt that you've been through.
Okay.
Now, when we say this, create the list, y'all don't have to put things on there like this.
Never will I ever date someone who's abusive.
Well, I hope not.
Let's not do that.
Okay.
That's not what we're asking for in the list.
You don't have to put those kinds of things because we don't want you to do those things.
So it's more about the preferences and the list that you've now formed that kind of go
along with that.
Does that make sense?
If you put something down and you're just not sure, it's okay.
I'd rather you create the post and we can teach you how to separate, you know, those
different things.
All right.
Activation number two.
I had y'all talk in breakout rooms tonight about the squatters that you're going to evict,
but I would love to have you all either do a mini video and y'all please, it can't be
longer than three minutes.
Okay.
My team and I don't have a lot of time to watch, you know, 10 minute videos.
We love you and we would want to do it, but I just won't be able to listen to him if they're
that long.
But you can either go live if you would prefer to do that or create a post and share about
the squatters that God is showing you that you need to evict.
Okay.
It literally could be super short and just share why and want to do that in the group.
And here's the reason I'm going to nudge you all towards, you know, again, you can do a
video or a post.
I don't care which one.
But some of you all, again, I want you to get out of your comfort zone.
You're here in this community.
Let's connect with each other.
Some of you all are going to get breakthrough because you're going and reading what other
people are posting.
You're listening to what they're sharing.
I imagine some of you, your conversations in the breakout rooms was also stirring up
stuff, hearing questions that other people were asking or things they were sharing and
then they're getting coached.
Yeah.
That's going to help you if you're here.
So if you meet someone else in this community and they're not coming to the live sessions,
please encourage them to come to the live sessions.
I'm very aware that we have like 430 some people in this phase and we don't have 430
people that show up to the live, you know, let's, let's all show up for ourselves and
come in and do this.
Yes.
You can create those posts in the all section.
That's perfect.
Yeah.
You guys can put in.
Yeah.
in there. That'll be just fine. All right, ladies, let me pray for us and close us out. Father,
thank you so much, God, for these amazing, incredible ladies. Thank you for the gift that
they are to me and to each other. God, I thank you that you would give them a glimpse a little
bit more tonight and in the days to come of how you see them. God, your view of them. God,
help them to hear heaven's heartbeat towards them. We thank you that you would place your
hedge of protection around them, that you would guard and keep watch over them, and that, Lord,
even that you would dispatch angels to minister to them this week in supernatural ways. We thank
you that you're warring on their behalf. And Lord, no matter what they came in with, Lord,
we thank you that you are the God of victory, that Jesus already came and won their victory
for us. He died on the cross to set us free. So, Lord, help us to step further into that victory,
into that truth this week, in Jesus' name. God bless you all. I'll be seeing you in the group
or on prayer throughout the week. Have an amazing night, everyone. Bye. Thank you, Bethany. Good
night. Bye, ladies. Good night, ladies.