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Good morning and welcome to Supernatural Saturday.

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We are so glad that you're able to join us.

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We have a lot of new people, so I always give the spiel at the beginning of Supernatural

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Saturday that this is a time where we all gather together, as many people as are able

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and available, and we look to the Lord for what is the current prophetic reality.

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What does God have to say to us individually, but also corporately?

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I believe that this is a community, this is a movement, all of you have certain things

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in common.

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One of the things you have in common is that you're revivalists.

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If you didn't know you were revivalists, look at yourself in the mirror and say, I'm a revivalist,

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because you are.

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God has chosen you to be a revivalist in the area of marriage and family.

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We have something in common, and God is moving us, a movement has to move, so he's moving

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us forward, and the way that he's moving us forward is through revelation.

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This is a time of revelation.

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This is a time where we gather, and usually it's me that is leading the Supernatural Saturday.

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In case you haven't noticed, God has given me a revelatory gift.

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I didn't ask for it, and I didn't know I was going to get it, and I did.

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The way that I knew that I got it is because when I began to speak, I've been in ministry

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for 28 years now, but when I began to speak, even as a younger woman, I would say things

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beyond my pay grade.

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I wouldn't think things beyond my pay grade.

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That's an important differentiation.

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I want you to think about that for a second.

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I wouldn't think them, I would just say them.

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It's kind of scary when you open your mouth and you say things that you're not even thinking.

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I want to let you know that, because guess what?

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When you hear it, everyone else is hearing it, but you're also hearing it for the first

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time along with them.

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It's not something that you've been sitting around thinking about, and now you're going

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to say it out loud so other people can hear it.

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No, you're saying it from the Holy Spirit, and so oftentimes I'm hearing it for the very

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first time right along with you.

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That can get a little scary, because you might say things that you're like, oh, what did

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I just say?

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What in the world was that, right?

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I want to let you guys know that today, I want to offend you.

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Today on Supernatural Saturday, I'm hoping to offend you, all right?

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If you get offended, then yay, because that is the whole purpose of today.

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We're going to talk about offense.

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You might wonder, hey, Jackie, how do you know what to talk about on Supernatural Saturday?

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Once again, I lean into the Spirit, I lean into that revelatory gift, and into Holy Spirit,

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the gift giver.

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I don't just lean into the gift, I lean into the gift giver for these Supernatural Saturdays,

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but also sometimes there's just a little seed.

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There's a little seed that happens during the week where I'm like, oh, yeah, I see

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that, Lord, I know what you're saying, you're saying we need to address that so that we

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can move forward.

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Because remember what I said, movements move, and it's important for us to be able to move

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forward, because if we don't move forward, then we're not a movement, okay?

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Revival revives, it resurrects things that are dead, something's happening, there's action

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associated with what God has called all of us to do.

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In order to have action, a lot of times we have to have those blocks removed.

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And so a little seed will drop into my heart during the week, and oftentimes, you guys,

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it's something that's affecting me.

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I'm willing to volunteer as tribute, I'm willing to go first.

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And so if something's happening to me during the week, if I'm feeling discouraged, or in

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this case, if I'm feeling offended, overly offended, then I know, oh, okay, the weapon

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of mass destruction that the enemy is using against this movement is offense.

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And I'm not saying that other people in the world aren't being offended, I mean, we live

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in a time where people are the most easily offended that I've ever seen in my 50 years

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on this earth.

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And the Bible talks about that, we're going to get into that in just a second.

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But we cannot be offended, because it's time for us to move forward.

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And I'm going to show you in just a couple minutes how offense will keep you stuck.

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It's a gift in some ways, that can cause you to have major promotion and upgrade.

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That's why I'm hoping to offend you today.

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And then it can also be a stumbling block.

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So Father God, we thank you for your goodness to us.

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We thank you for your love.

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We thank you for revelation and wisdom.

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We thank you for the wisdom that comes with humility.

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And so we lean into that this morning.

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We're not going to be wise in our own eyes, Lord, we're not going to think that we know

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it all.

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We're not going to think that we're discerning when we're really bitter and jealous and offended.

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Lord, we just lean into your truth and into your love that comes without offense.

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We're asking you to point to the hurting and hard places of our heart this morning as we

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offer those places up to you, for you to tenderize them, for you to make them soft again so that

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they can receive your truth and your word and we can be transformed in Jesus name. Amen.

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All right, you guys, let's get offended together. You want to get offended? So like I said,

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it's a couple of minutes ago. Well, first of all, let's talk about the word offense.

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Some of you may know this, you may not know this, but you know, I have talked about offense

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before in my 28 years and I've heard a lot of teaching on offense and I've read books on offense

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because I told you what kind of family I came from. A lot of you, if you're new,

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you might not know my full story, but I had plenty of reasons to be offended in life,

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at people, but also at God. That's important that we understand that just starting off

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Supernatural Saturday today, that yes, a lot of times when we think of the word offense,

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we think of being offended at people. We think of being irritated and annoyed by people,

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angry at people, unforgiving towards people, but it also can be a situation

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where you've become offended at God because of what has happened, because of what hasn't

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happened because of what you perceive and think is happening. That's why it's so important,

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friends, that we continue to use those heartwork tools and one of those heartwork tools is

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repentance. And the word repentance just simply means we're turning away from the way that we

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see things and the way we're doing things and we're reconnecting with God's perceptions.

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It's easy to become offended when we're in our own perceptions, right? But repentance saying,

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I'm willing to lay down what I think is happening here and I'm willing to allow you to show me

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what's happening here. I'm going to stop going the direction that I'm going right now and I'm

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going to go your direction. I'm going to stop thinking the thoughts that I'm thinking right

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now and I'm inviting you to replace my thoughts with your thoughts. It's important. I see some

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people asking, hey, is disappointment, discouragement, or, you know, of course,

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bitterness, envy, jealousy. I think that all of those are associated with offense. I think they're

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all different than offense. I think offense can lead to a lot of things, right? As some things

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can lead to offense. Let's talk about the word offense really quickly. In the Greek, that word

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is the word scandalon. Kind of like a scandal, right? In Greek, the word offense is the word

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scandalon. Do you know what a scandalon is? A scandalon is the part of a trap that dangles

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down and holds the bait. Think of a trap. Picture a trap right now. You're going to trap an animal,

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okay, for what purpose? To take them to slaughter, y'all. These traps were used to trap the animal,

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capture the animal to take them and then slaughter them. And this scandalon was the

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part of the trap that hung down and it held the bait. It held the thing that was going to attract

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the animal into the trap. You guys, we could just kind of stop right there and just pray for the

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rest of the time together because it's very obvious that offense is a trap of the enemy.

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To take us where? To slaughter. To take us to a place of destruction.

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There's a lot of things. There's a lot of teaching out there. I think there's even a

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book about offense called The Bait of Satan. I remember someone suggested that I read that. If

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you guys want to check that out, I think it's by John Bevere. I read it years and years and years

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ago, probably 20 years ago when my pastor was going to prison. Guys, we did not have a lot of

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time to warm up to the idea that our church was about to be taken from us. This was a small church

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and you guys know what small churches are like. It's like a family. It's an extended family.

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And I just want to tell you that it was my only extended family. I started going to that church

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when I met Jesus at 22 years old. I had never really experienced family. For those of you that

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know my history, once again, broken family, broken lives, foster care, girl's home.

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Not a lot of experience with being in family, in community, cared for by others.

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And this was my first family, this pastor and his wife had become like pseudo parents to me.

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The first parents, you know, that I could really lean into and trust in.

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And then, of course, all the other people in the church becoming like mothers and fathers and brothers and sisters.

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And so this was a huge loss for me.

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And it happened overnight.

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A lot of you can relate to that.

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Where you went to bed one night and you woke up the next day and everything had changed.

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Everything had shifted and not for the better.

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I walked into church on a Tuesday night, we had Tuesday night prayer meeting every week, just like normal.

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It was my night to be in the nursery.

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Did that a couple of times a month because I had a toddler at the time.

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And so I was in the nursery with my toddler, with my daughter and with some other toddlers.

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But we had a TV in the nursery that showed the main service.

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It didn't have any sound that night, but I remember glancing up at the television and just seeing people that I didn't recognize on the platform at the pulpit.

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And there were only two children in the nursery at the time, it was my daughter and another little boy that was my friend's little child.

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And so I took both of them and I went, I was like, what's going on?

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Who are these people?

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And so I went into the back of the sanctuary.

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The door to the nursery was just right by the back door of one of the sides of the sanctuary.

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And so I took the two children and I went into the back of the sanctuary and I sat on the back pew to find out what was going on.

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And what was going on is these people had come to take and seize control of the church because the pastor was being indicted on 23 felonies.

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You guys, that is how quick that unraveled.

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That is how quick we found out there wasn't like rumors and whispers.

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There wasn't any kind of lead up or prelude to this revelation.

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It was like you came to church on a regular Tuesday night for Bible study.

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And instead of Bible study, you had people standing up and screaming at each other in the sanctuary.

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And it was just like all hell had broken loose, literally.

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We call it Black Tuesday.

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And you guys, I proceeded to have a nervous breakdown that day.

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I mean, like for the months and months after that.

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It was shocking.

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It would have been easy to be offended at a lot of things in that moment.

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But that book, The Bait of Satan, someone said, hey, you know, your church, the people at your church, you guys should read this, you know, and make sure that you stay out of offense.

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You guys, there's a lot of you that have had really hard things happen.

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Really hard things.

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In the chat right now, say if that's you, you've had really hard things happen that you still to this day really don't fully understand.

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You had losses of children.

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They left the house, but they never came back.

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They passed away in a car accident or some sort of evil violence towards them.

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You lost a spouse.

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You loved your marriage.

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It was great.

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It was wonderful.

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And then they got sick and passed away, or they didn't get sick.

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They just passed away.

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They had a heart attack.

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They had a stroke.

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Something happened out of the blue, suddenly, but not in a good way.

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You lost your fortune.

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You lost your job.

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People lied about you.

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You woke up one day and realized that you were the villain of the story, that everyone was saying that you were the villain, that you were being lumped into, you know, the list of people that had done bad things, and now you're being indicted or you're being sued.

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Some of you showed up to work at a job that you loved only to be let go, to be laid off, to be fired.

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You're the one that showed up at the doctor's for just a regular checkup, and then you were told something, you know, terrible in your mind about your health or about, you know, your future.

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You went through infidelity.

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You thought you had a great marriage.

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And then you woke up one day to realize that everything had been a lie, that the whole time this person had been living a double life.

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They had been having affairs.

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They had been unfaithful to you.

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I'm just going through some of the scenarios of things that happen in people's lives.

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that are hard and are terrible and are kind of like a living nightmare that you wish you

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could wake up from.

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Go ahead and take a moment to just allow that stuff to come into the chat there.

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Right, a lot of people posting things.

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So the danger of this, friends, is that when we've been through hard things, oftentimes

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it makes our heart hard.

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And that's really heart work 101, right?

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The supernatural surrender to where God can begin to make our heart tender again.

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And I write in my book about an event, and God reminded me of this this morning, this

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story.

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I haven't thought of this story in a long time.

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But God reminded me this morning of something I write about in the heart work about this

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dinner that I had at Captain D's, good old Captain, the good old Captain.

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I don't even know if Captain D's even exists anymore.

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It definitely probably shouldn't if it does, okay?

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My offense towards the captain is still very real, but I will say that in my first marriage,

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you know, my former husband, we met when we were 12 years old.

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And in the time of us pen palling and dating, quote, unquote, long distance between 12 and

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17, I had visited him a couple times, gone to a couple like Christmas banquets and different

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things at his church with him.

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But his parents weren't crazy about me.

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And you know, and I have to say, for good reason, you guys, here's this kid being brought

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up in a two parent Christian home, you know, really solid people.

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And he likes this girl that's just, you know, a train wreck in a dumpster fire.

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Every time he's writing to me, yes, this is back in the days when you wrote letters, there

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was no internet, okay?

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And phone calls were really expensive.

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Do you guys remember when phone calls were expensive?

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Long distance phone calls were expensive.

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You could even do this thing called collect calls where you could call someone and you

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could have them take the charges of the phone call.

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Because phone calls used to cost a lot of money, right?

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Back in the day when that was the newest kind of technology out there.

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And so we had phone calls, we had letters, but I was always somewhere different.

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I was in a girl's home, I was in this foster care situation.

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So I'm sure his parents are like, what in the world?

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What in the world is our son doing with this girl?

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So I moved, I was 19 years old, I was 18 years old and I moved to their town because he wanted

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me to move there and we were going to get married, okay?

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So I moved there at 18 years old.

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And this Captain D's dinner was my first kind of dinner with his family.

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They hadn't seen me in years since I was a younger teenager and this was the great

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reveal at Captain D's.

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At the time I was working at a daycare and if you've ever worked at a daycare, God bless

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you.

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But I was working at a daycare, it was the first job that I could get when I moved into

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this new city.

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I had just moved there to be with this boy and I was working at this daycare, I'd only

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been working there for a couple of weeks.

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When I went to Captain D's, I was really nervous, you know, are they going to like

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me?

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Are they going to accept me?

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Are they going to let him date me and marry me?

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Or are they going to, you know, block this relationship?

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All of these thoughts swirling in my mind.

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I'm trying to be on my best behavior and for you guys, for me, that's hard.

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I frequently am on my worst behavior, but I was going to be on my best behavior that

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day.

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And remember, this is Jackie pre-Jesus.

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I want to really make sure I'm emphasizing this.

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I did not know Jesus yet.

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And so I go to Captain D's and we sit down and we, you know, if you've never been there,

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it's just fast food.

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You order your food, you sit down.

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So we're sitting there and I take a bite into this fried fish, it's like fried cod or something.

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I take a bite of this fried fish and I'm listening and I'm nodding and I'm smiling and probably

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about 15 minutes into this dinner, you guys, I start to feel really bad, really sick.

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Like I started to get flushed.

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I started to have chills, but also I'm super hot and I'm sweating.

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I started to feel nauseated and I just say to him, I just whispered him, Hey, I'm not

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feeling good.

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I need to go home.

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And he's like, what?

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And I was like, yeah, all of a sudden, and you guys know what it's like sometimes sickness

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just.

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comes out of left field and just hits you like a Mack truck, right?

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Anybody else? Raise your hand. If that's ever happened to you,

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you're feeling fine. And then all of a sudden, bam, you're not feeling good.

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So I excused myself and I left and you guys,

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I barely made it home vomiting fever,

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the whole nine yards.

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And I had never been that sick in current memory.

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And I was sick for like over a week.

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Weak as a kitten, unable to get out of bed.

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And you guys, I just want to tell you for the longest time,

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I blamed the captain for the longest time.

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I was like, Oh, captain D's. It made me sick.

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I have food poisoning that, that place, that food so nasty.

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You know, this was what I believed.

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I believed this for the longest time.

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Every time I would drive by captain D's, I would just get mad inside.

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I'd be like, Captain D's.

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But you guys, in my early heartwork, God said, Hey, Oh, you know,

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the only thing about captain D's. I mean,

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why would God care if I'm offended at the captain?

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Why would he care? I mean,

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you and I both know that that food ain't kingdom, right?

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That food's killing people every day. If it still exists.

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I don't even know if it does, but he said to me, he said, Jackie,

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I want you to know that when you entered into that place,

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you were already carrying the virus.

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And then he showed me that the virus came from the daycare.

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It's something called kitty crud. You guys,

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when you work with little children, they make you sick.

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I'm just going to tell you that right now,

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for those of you that are considering a future career with little children,

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you better get your immune system up because you're going to need it.

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I was already carrying the virus. You guys,

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there's no possible way that the captain's food made me sick.

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I was sick within 15 minutes of sitting down,

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but I'd also been working with germy little children for the last couple of

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weeks, doing something that my body and my immune system wasn't used to.

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And the reason why this is important to our conversation today is because so

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often we will come into communities. We will come into friendships.

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We will come into relationships. Listen, please. And listen, clearly,

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you will come into those things,

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but you won't be able to get too far in because you'll immediately start to get

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offended. And you will think that it is the place. It is the people.

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It is the friendship. It is the budding relationship that is offending you,

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but you are carrying the virus.

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You are carrying the offense.

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You brought it with you into this place.

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You brought it with you.

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It's unhealed trauma from your last relationship or from your

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childhood or from a church that you used to go to.

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Do you guys know how much of a miracle it is that I could go to church

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someplace without sitting there and grumbling and complaining and

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finding fault in judging? Because you guys remember,

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write this down a critical and judgmental heart is a

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offended heart.

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Some of you come into this community and you grumble and you complain.

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You send us emails about what we're not doing.

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Instead of the 99 things we are doing.

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Love ya. And then guess what?

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I get the opportunity to be offended by you being offended.

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If I wanted to be, but I want to tell you guys,

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what's interesting about this story is that I am not someone who's easily

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offended.

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Years ago, I prayed for this and maybe you can pray for this too. I said, God,

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give me thick skin and a soft heart.

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Let me understand that other people,

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their stuff, it's not about me. People are hurting.

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They have stuff because we don't have to personalize it and make it all about us.

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Every time someone's upset. Yeah.

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They could be directing that upset towards you.

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They could be putting your name on it.

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But if you go and you meditate on that and you bring it to God and you do your

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heartwork and you see that it really isn't a you thing. It's a them thing.

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Then you can just bless them.

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You can just bless them. You don't got to take it personally.

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And another thing that I just want to say right here, it's not in my notes,

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but I'll make sure I say it. Do not take up the offense of someone else.

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Okay.

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I know that we really love people, and the people that we really love, they'll come to

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us and they'll be mad at their boss, or they'll be mad at their husband or wife.

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And they'll come and they'll start, you know, moaning and complaining.

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And then pretty soon, you know, you're taking sides.

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You're taking sides with them.

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Like, oh, yeah, dirty, rotten scoundrel.

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How dare they not take out the garbage for two days in a row?

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Slacker, loser, listen.

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Do not take up someone else's offense.

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And this is why.

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Offense is always pointing to an unhealed part of your heart.

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Please write that down.

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This is something the Lord taught me years and years ago, and it has really changed my

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life.

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Offense is a gift.

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Now if you are someone who just lives in offense, it's not a gift.

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It's going to be to your detriment and to your destruction.

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But when offense comes, the initial feeling of being offended, it is a GPS that will point

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you, if you know how to use the heart work tools, right to the root or the area of trauma

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that's unhealed.

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It'll point right to the unhealed part of your heart.

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Because when you feel offense, you can't just feel it.

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Remember how I say you can't just feel the feels, you have to heal the feels?

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When you feel offense, you can't just feel it, you have to heal it.

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And how do you do that?

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I'm going to tell you right now.

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You know that you're being offended by whatever's happening or whatever's being said, but now

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you have to ask yourself an important question.

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Why does this offend me?

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You know that you're feeling offended.

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You know that you are offended by this, but why?

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Ask yourself, say, why am I offended?

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Why does this offend me?

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Why does this bother me?

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And guess what?

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You will get an answer.

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You guys having a good time?

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Inform your faces that you're having a good time.

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Some of you look real mean right now.

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Take a little smile.

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Don't be offending me.

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Why does it bother me?

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Ask yourself that question.

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Why?

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Would anyone admit today, remember, we love the heart work tool, James 516, confess your

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faults, your frailties, your weaknesses, your offenses, if you want, and be healed.

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Confession.

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Confession is one of those things that pulls back the layers of the things, of the trauma

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and gets to the root.

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So would anyone raise their hand and just admit, like in this season of your life, that

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you've kind of become easily offended, that you're touchy, that you're kind of bruised

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and beat up.

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And so it's really not hard for you to get offended.

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You watch the news, you get offended.

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You see people post on Instagram about stuff or Facebook and, or fake book and you get

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offended.

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Okay.

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You hear a sermon, you get offended.

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Even come on here and you get offended.

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Once again, I'm trying to offend you the best that I can.

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I'm speaking the truth in love because I want your heart to be whole.

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Can I tell you something?

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If you are an easily offended person hoping to get married, you are going to be offended

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every day of your life inside relationship.

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Intimate relationships will give you endless reasons to be offended.

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Endless reasons.

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If you already have an offended heart, you're going to be so offended and you're not going

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to probably even make it to the altar because you're going to be so offended at the things

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that happen as you're getting to know someone that you're probably just going to cut and

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run.

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Well, they didn't text me back when they should or they didn't plan the date or, you know,

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um, their, their communication is not what I want it to be.

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I, I, I do all this, but they do that.

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You know, it's going to be all kinds of reasons for you to find faults and to get upset and

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to get offended.

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A lot of hands went up saying, I admit, I confess.

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I want to be healed.

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I'm easily offended.

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Things get on my nerves.

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I get annoyed really quickly.

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You guys, nowadays, you don't got to do anyone to offend.

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You don't got to do anything to offend people.

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People are offended that you're alive.

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They're offended that you're breathing, you're breathing wrong.

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And I, you know, I'll confess when I'm sitting on an airplane and I don't know who's sitting

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next to me yet.

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I'm just sitting there just waiting to be offended.

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I should be sitting there waiting to, oh, who am I going to meet?

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Who am I going to be able to bless today and, you know, and say hi to, or possibly, you

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know, have a, a God encounter with, of a divine appointment because we're sitting next to

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each other.

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No, I'm sitting on that plane because I.

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I board early, I'm in an early boarding class with my airline because, you know, I bought

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enough flights from them to have it.

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And so I am sitting there and I'm watching the aisle and people are coming down the aisle

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and I'm like, oh, that person's too tall.

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Don't let them sit here.

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That person's a little too fat.

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Don't let them sit here.

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I'm just being honest.

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All right.

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Because those airplane seats are not big, you guys.

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They've made them smaller and smaller over the years to accommodate more and more and

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more people.

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You hear someone with a little bit of a tick, they're kind of snorting or hacking and you're

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like, oh, God, please don't let them sit next to me.

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Jesus.

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Ever since COVID, if anyone sneezes, everyone gives them the evil eye, like, how dare you

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be alive?

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How dare you be alive?

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You're sneezing, you're coughing in public.

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I mean, they could have just had a wild hair in their nose that caused them to sneeze.

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But everyone looks at them like they're about to, you know, be patient zero that causes

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the bubonic plague in the earth.

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You guys, everything has worked together, not to our good, but to our offense.

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Am I wrong?

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00:31:08.960 --> 00:31:09.960
Am I wrong?

454
00:31:09.960 --> 00:31:16.800
That's what I tell you, the reason, the impetus for this talk on offense this week is because

455
00:31:16.800 --> 00:31:20.520
David Dorman is on my last nerve.

456
00:31:20.520 --> 00:31:26.160
I love that man, but I am so offended and annoyed by him this week.

457
00:31:26.160 --> 00:31:36.360
And God's like, oh, Jackie, we need to do some hard work.

458
00:31:36.360 --> 00:31:40.640
You guys, when you marry someone, you are literally saying I do at the altar.

459
00:31:40.640 --> 00:31:49.440
What you're saying is I do promise to forgive this person that is going to annoy me more

460
00:31:49.440 --> 00:31:53.920
than anyone has ever annoyed me in my entire life.

461
00:31:53.920 --> 00:31:56.080
And the reason why is they can be a great person.

462
00:31:56.080 --> 00:31:57.080
David's amazing.

463
00:31:57.080 --> 00:31:58.600
He's a great man.

464
00:31:58.600 --> 00:32:04.660
But when you live in proximity to someone, close proximity, they're going to do things

465
00:32:04.660 --> 00:32:06.660
that you don't like.

466
00:32:06.660 --> 00:32:10.040
They're going to do things that get on your nerves.

467
00:32:10.040 --> 00:32:13.880
They're also not going to do things that you like and that you want.

468
00:32:13.880 --> 00:32:19.320
And you're going to have to forgive them more than anyone that you've ever forgiven in your

469
00:32:20.200 --> 00:32:21.200
life.

470
00:32:21.200 --> 00:32:22.200
And I'm not talking about abuse here, y'all.

471
00:32:22.200 --> 00:32:26.960
For those of you that have had hard marriages because they were abusive, no, I'm talking

472
00:32:26.960 --> 00:32:31.960
about real marriages that are hard because marriage is hard.

473
00:32:31.960 --> 00:32:34.560
It's a refining process.

474
00:32:34.560 --> 00:32:35.560
It is.

475
00:32:35.560 --> 00:32:37.600
So you guys, we have to begin to deal with offense.

476
00:32:37.600 --> 00:32:40.560
For those of you that raised your hand and said, I get easily offended.

477
00:32:40.560 --> 00:32:42.760
That's because your heart is bruised.

478
00:32:42.760 --> 00:32:45.000
It's touchy in a lot of different places.

479
00:32:45.000 --> 00:32:49.400
You have a lot of things that you've not released, that you've not forgiven, whether

480
00:32:49.400 --> 00:32:50.400
it's yourself.

481
00:32:50.400 --> 00:32:51.600
Do you know you could be offended by yourself?

482
00:32:51.600 --> 00:32:56.080
Has anyone ever been offended by themselves?

483
00:32:56.080 --> 00:32:59.880
You're like, ugh, Jackie, how could you do this again?

484
00:32:59.880 --> 00:33:01.600
You're such an idiot.

485
00:33:01.600 --> 00:33:12.660
No one ever in their life is annoyed by themselves, disgusted, offended by their own behavior.

486
00:33:12.660 --> 00:33:14.580
You guys, we got to get to the root of that.

487
00:33:14.580 --> 00:33:18.380
We got to forgive ourselves.

488
00:33:18.380 --> 00:33:25.660
The Bible says, great are those that love my word and nothing will offend them.

489
00:33:25.660 --> 00:33:28.420
In fact, I think it says great is the peace.

490
00:33:28.420 --> 00:33:37.060
Great is the peace of those that love my word and nothing will offend them.

491
00:33:37.060 --> 00:33:38.060
Nothing will offend them.

492
00:33:38.420 --> 00:33:43.820
We all know that the word was robed in flesh and dwelt among us, Christ.

493
00:33:43.820 --> 00:33:53.340
That scripture comes from Psalms, Psalm 119, really high up, like 165.

494
00:33:53.340 --> 00:33:58.140
I used to have a pastor's wife that used to quote that verse all the time.

495
00:33:58.140 --> 00:34:01.740
You try to talk to her about something that was bothering you and she'd be, great are

496
00:34:01.740 --> 00:34:05.900
those that love thy law, greater the peace of those that love thy law and nothing will

497
00:34:05.900 --> 00:34:06.900
offend them.

498
00:34:06.900 --> 00:34:12.260
You guys, let's not spiritually bypass people by slapping scriptures on problems, okay?

499
00:34:12.260 --> 00:34:15.179
We got to deal with stuff at the root.

500
00:34:15.179 --> 00:34:18.699
Something's bothering us, if it's hurting us, then we got to talk about it.

501
00:34:18.699 --> 00:34:22.300
We're not just going to bypass it with a scripture.

502
00:34:22.300 --> 00:34:27.620
Bless her, but we're not going to bypass it with a scripture because you know what happens

503
00:34:27.620 --> 00:34:32.500
when we do that is we just try to stick all the trauma behind false forgiveness.

504
00:34:32.500 --> 00:34:36.580
Let's talk about toxic forgiveness for a second because we're talking about offense.

505
00:34:37.260 --> 00:34:40.100
We need to also talk about forgiveness because the way that we're going to come out of offense

506
00:34:40.100 --> 00:34:42.139
is by forgiving, right?

507
00:34:42.139 --> 00:34:47.739
By confessing, by repenting, by forgiving the hard work tools, getting to the root of

508
00:34:47.739 --> 00:34:48.739
things.

509
00:34:48.739 --> 00:34:50.620
But there is such a thing as toxic forgiveness, you guys.

510
00:34:50.620 --> 00:34:51.620
You know what that is?

511
00:34:51.620 --> 00:34:56.820
That's forgiveness with no accountability.

512
00:34:56.820 --> 00:35:00.020
That's just like shoving all the trauma into a closet and saying, oh, okay.

513
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:03.040
It doesn't exist anymore because I forgave them, no.

514
00:35:04.000 --> 00:35:05.360
And what you've learned through the hard work

515
00:35:05.360 --> 00:35:08.240
is that forgiveness has layers and it has phases.

516
00:35:09.320 --> 00:35:13.640
We forgive because God has commanded us to do so.

517
00:35:15.800 --> 00:35:17.280
It is a command from the Lord,

518
00:35:17.280 --> 00:35:19.080
forgive and you will be forgiven.

519
00:35:20.040 --> 00:35:24.740
Forgive your debtors so you can have your debts forgiven.

520
00:35:27.380 --> 00:35:28.220
Right?

521
00:35:31.000 --> 00:35:33.740
So it's important that we understand

522
00:35:33.740 --> 00:35:35.860
that when we're forgiving someone,

523
00:35:35.860 --> 00:35:38.980
that if we are going to be in continued relationship,

524
00:35:38.980 --> 00:35:40.140
because write this down,

525
00:35:40.140 --> 00:35:43.060
forgiveness doesn't necessarily mean reconciliation.

526
00:35:45.800 --> 00:35:46.640
Okay?

527
00:35:46.640 --> 00:35:47.460
When we forgive someone,

528
00:35:47.460 --> 00:35:49.700
it doesn't mean that we're gonna necessarily

529
00:35:49.700 --> 00:35:51.460
continue in relationship with them.

530
00:35:51.460 --> 00:35:53.620
Now, if it's yourself that you're forgiving,

531
00:35:53.620 --> 00:35:54.860
then yes, you're gonna continue

532
00:35:54.860 --> 00:35:56.460
in relationship with yourself.

533
00:35:56.460 --> 00:35:58.020
If it's God that you're forgiving,

534
00:35:58.040 --> 00:36:01.240
then yes, you're gonna continue in relationship with God.

535
00:36:01.240 --> 00:36:02.120
But if it's a person,

536
00:36:02.120 --> 00:36:03.460
another person that you're forgiving,

537
00:36:03.460 --> 00:36:05.800
you may or may not be continuing in relationship.

538
00:36:05.800 --> 00:36:08.400
They may not even be alive on the earth.

539
00:36:08.400 --> 00:36:10.880
But if they are alive on the earth,

540
00:36:10.880 --> 00:36:12.980
and you're gonna continue in relationship with them

541
00:36:12.980 --> 00:36:15.380
because you believe before God that you should,

542
00:36:16.480 --> 00:36:17.720
okay, like say it's your spouse

543
00:36:17.720 --> 00:36:19.480
and you're forgiving them for something,

544
00:36:19.480 --> 00:36:22.620
there needs to be accountability to the offense.

545
00:36:23.720 --> 00:36:24.560
Okay?

546
00:36:24.560 --> 00:36:26.080
If you're the person that needs to take accountability

547
00:36:26.080 --> 00:36:27.640
because you're just being touchy

548
00:36:28.140 --> 00:36:28.980
and you're just being bruised

549
00:36:28.980 --> 00:36:31.020
and you're turning a level two situation

550
00:36:31.020 --> 00:36:34.880
into a level 10 situation because of your unhealed heart,

551
00:36:36.140 --> 00:36:38.380
then you need to take accountability.

552
00:36:38.380 --> 00:36:40.420
Hey, I overreacted.

553
00:36:40.420 --> 00:36:41.500
I was judging you.

554
00:36:41.500 --> 00:36:43.720
I was criticizing you in my heart.

555
00:36:43.720 --> 00:36:45.940
Yes, I got upset at you,

556
00:36:45.940 --> 00:36:46.940
but I got upset at you

557
00:36:46.940 --> 00:36:49.460
because I was carrying the virus already.

558
00:36:52.140 --> 00:36:53.940
I was carrying it.

559
00:36:53.940 --> 00:36:56.020
Guys, I have seen so many people get hurt

560
00:36:56.020 --> 00:36:57.180
in communities and churches,

561
00:36:57.680 --> 00:36:59.480
like the story that I told you about my church,

562
00:36:59.480 --> 00:37:02.520
and they're never able to come back into community again

563
00:37:02.520 --> 00:37:04.120
because of my Captain D story,

564
00:37:04.120 --> 00:37:06.320
because of the reason behind that.

565
00:37:06.320 --> 00:37:08.600
They'll come into the church and they'll sit down,

566
00:37:08.600 --> 00:37:11.000
you know, spiritual community, whatever,

567
00:37:11.000 --> 00:37:15.480
civic group, you know, a group of people,

568
00:37:15.480 --> 00:37:17.680
and they'll immediately start finding fault.

569
00:37:18.800 --> 00:37:20.320
You know, within just a couple months,

570
00:37:20.320 --> 00:37:21.360
they were so happy.

571
00:37:21.360 --> 00:37:23.040
They were so excited to be there.

572
00:37:23.040 --> 00:37:25.160
It was the greatest place in the world.

573
00:37:26.160 --> 00:37:28.220
And then all of a sudden, it's like, ugh.

574
00:37:30.180 --> 00:37:31.580
I don't like the way they teach.

575
00:37:31.580 --> 00:37:32.780
I don't want to be preached.

576
00:37:32.780 --> 00:37:34.900
I don't like that one chick that sings.

577
00:37:34.900 --> 00:37:36.980
Her voice hurts my ears.

578
00:37:39.780 --> 00:37:41.460
The drummer's offbeat.

579
00:37:43.300 --> 00:37:44.760
What's the problem here?

580
00:37:44.760 --> 00:37:45.700
The problem is,

581
00:37:45.700 --> 00:37:48.360
is that they've come into a place with imperfect people.

582
00:37:48.360 --> 00:37:49.200
Guess what?

583
00:37:49.200 --> 00:37:51.660
There's no place that doesn't include that except heaven.

584
00:37:51.840 --> 00:37:56.840
And now they're having a hard time

585
00:37:57.000 --> 00:37:59.360
because of their unhealed hurt

586
00:37:59.360 --> 00:38:02.840
from whatever has happened in the last community.

587
00:38:02.840 --> 00:38:04.160
And they keep carrying that,

588
00:38:04.160 --> 00:38:05.760
and they keep going to another place.

589
00:38:05.760 --> 00:38:09.420
And there's a honeymoon phase where they love it there.

590
00:38:09.420 --> 00:38:11.640
And then all of a sudden, you know,

591
00:38:11.640 --> 00:38:15.140
they start to become offended by little things.

592
00:38:17.560 --> 00:38:18.400
Am I wrong?

593
00:38:19.400 --> 00:38:21.120
And just so you know,

594
00:38:21.120 --> 00:38:22.860
that's going to happen in relationships too.

595
00:38:22.860 --> 00:38:26.380
If you have unhealed relationship wounds and hurts,

596
00:38:28.380 --> 00:38:32.020
even if it's just from platonic relationships, friendships,

597
00:38:32.020 --> 00:38:35.060
it's going to be hard for you to trust a friend.

598
00:38:35.060 --> 00:38:36.540
You're going to get into a new friendship.

599
00:38:36.540 --> 00:38:38.340
And instead of really enjoying that

600
00:38:38.340 --> 00:38:40.180
and being thankful for it and realizing that,

601
00:38:40.180 --> 00:38:41.860
yeah, people aren't perfect,

602
00:38:41.860 --> 00:38:43.620
you're going to start to pick that person apart,

603
00:38:43.620 --> 00:38:45.180
find fault with them.

604
00:38:45.180 --> 00:38:47.980
You're going to start to find reasons to not trust them.

605
00:38:48.820 --> 00:38:50.540
Reasons to wall them off.

606
00:38:50.540 --> 00:38:52.980
Remember, offense is a fence.

607
00:38:52.980 --> 00:38:53.820
It's a fence.

608
00:38:53.820 --> 00:38:55.940
It's a barrier that keeps you from being able

609
00:38:55.940 --> 00:38:58.520
to truly connect and have intimacy with others.

610
00:39:03.460 --> 00:39:04.420
And all of a sudden, you know,

611
00:39:04.420 --> 00:39:07.340
you're not hanging out with them really anymore.

612
00:39:07.340 --> 00:39:09.700
The relationship never got off the runway.

613
00:39:09.700 --> 00:39:12.140
Same thing with dating relationships.

614
00:39:12.140 --> 00:39:14.540
You're really excited about it at the beginning,

615
00:39:15.520 --> 00:39:20.520
but pretty quickly you start getting suspicious.

616
00:39:20.760 --> 00:39:21.960
You start pulling away.

617
00:39:21.960 --> 00:39:24.160
You start getting critical and judgmental.

618
00:39:26.000 --> 00:39:28.220
Start getting easily offended.

619
00:39:31.320 --> 00:39:32.920
Guys, we have to deal with this.

620
00:39:34.800 --> 00:39:36.600
Go back to the word scandalon.

621
00:39:36.600 --> 00:39:39.360
It is a part of the trap that dangles bait.

622
00:39:39.360 --> 00:39:41.200
Satan is dangling the temptation

623
00:39:41.200 --> 00:39:43.440
for us to be offended all the time.

624
00:39:45.480 --> 00:39:46.320
And you know what?

625
00:39:46.320 --> 00:39:48.200
There are some things that you really,

626
00:39:48.200 --> 00:39:50.720
truly should be offended at,

627
00:39:50.720 --> 00:39:53.240
kind of righteously indignant at.

628
00:39:53.240 --> 00:39:54.760
And those are the things that you take to prayer,

629
00:39:54.760 --> 00:39:55.720
you take to intercession,

630
00:39:55.720 --> 00:39:57.480
the things that are happening in the world.

631
00:39:57.480 --> 00:39:59.960
We should be offended that children are being.

632
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:06.960
trafficked in the world, that should offend you, that should anger you.

633
00:40:10.240 --> 00:40:14.640
We take that to the Lord, we begin to intercede for those children, we begin to intercede for

634
00:40:14.640 --> 00:40:20.000
the rescuers of those children. I'm just going to tell you right now,

635
00:40:20.000 --> 00:40:23.760
if you're a chronic watcher of the news, you should probably give that up.

636
00:40:23.760 --> 00:40:34.160
I have watched how people that watch the news regularly actually get hardened hearts. I have

637
00:40:34.160 --> 00:40:40.160
seen it happen in real time. Because first of all, y'all, if you haven't noticed, the news is all bad

638
00:40:40.160 --> 00:40:47.600
news. It's all bad news. It's about who is screwing who over in the government, in real life,

639
00:40:47.600 --> 00:40:54.880
in Hollywood. None of it's good news. It's all bad news. It's all gossip. It's all hearsay.

640
00:40:54.880 --> 00:40:58.880
And then the stuff that is facts, because the news is barely facts anymore,

641
00:40:59.440 --> 00:41:06.800
the stuff that is factual is pretty offensive. Lots of propaganda.

642
00:41:10.560 --> 00:41:16.640
And the people that watch the news regularly, their hearts get hard. They're hearing all this

643
00:41:16.640 --> 00:41:23.120
negativity on a regular basis and their hearts get hard. I know, I know, I know people that watch

644
00:41:23.120 --> 00:41:27.600
the news habitually. As soon as they wake up in the morning, they read the news or they watch the

645
00:41:27.600 --> 00:41:31.680
news, what's going on in the world. The problem is, is that there's a lot of other stuff going

646
00:41:31.680 --> 00:41:35.760
on in the world besides what's being reported on that news station, and it's good stuff.

647
00:41:35.760 --> 00:41:39.120
God is on the move. People's lives are being changed.

648
00:41:39.440 --> 00:41:45.200
Right? People are being rescued supernaturally. All kinds of amazing things are happening.

649
00:41:45.200 --> 00:41:46.800
You're not going to see anyone report on that.

650
00:41:49.840 --> 00:41:53.600
And what's going to happen is, is that when you watch the news, you're going to think that all

651
00:41:53.600 --> 00:41:57.120
there is out there is bad news. You know what's going to happen. The Bible says what's going to

652
00:41:57.120 --> 00:42:02.800
happen at the end of the age, because of the rampant increase of sin, the love of many,

653
00:42:03.120 --> 00:42:08.240
of sin, the love of many, the hearts of many will get cold and hard

654
00:42:10.800 --> 00:42:17.040
and offended and offended. You guys in that same set of scriptures,

655
00:42:17.040 --> 00:42:21.520
it says, and many will be offended and hate one another.

656
00:42:23.840 --> 00:42:31.280
In fact, it says, and that's Matthew 24. It says many will fall away because of their offense.

657
00:42:31.280 --> 00:42:35.520
You guys, who do you think that Jesus was talking about?

658
00:42:37.440 --> 00:42:42.080
You can't fall away from something that you were never connected to. He's talking about believers.

659
00:42:44.080 --> 00:42:46.720
And many will fall away from the faith because of their offense.

660
00:42:48.560 --> 00:42:53.520
And you guys, and I've heard these people, and you could easily become one of them.

661
00:42:53.520 --> 00:43:00.560
I could easily become one of them. Well, why doesn't God fix this? Why didn't God change this?

662
00:43:00.560 --> 00:43:06.400
Why did God allow this to happen in the earth? Why this? Why that? They get offended because of

663
00:43:06.400 --> 00:43:11.280
the sin that's running rampant in the earth. They start to get offended because evil seems to be

664
00:43:11.280 --> 00:43:24.000
winning and prospering, but it's not. It's very difficult when good things happen, when bad things

665
00:43:24.000 --> 00:43:29.280
happen to good people, and all these bad people that are doing bad things seem to be prospering.

666
00:43:29.280 --> 00:43:37.280
It's so easy to be offended by that. I'm just going to be super transparent. You know, my dad

667
00:43:37.280 --> 00:43:43.760
left the family when I was six months old. He left my poor 21-year-old mom with two toddlers. Well,

668
00:43:43.760 --> 00:43:50.240
two, a baby and a toddler. I was six months old. My brother was a year old, year and a half old.

669
00:43:51.760 --> 00:43:58.000
She was 21 years old. She was working two jobs. She was leaving us with people that she didn't

670
00:43:58.720 --> 00:44:05.120
have support of family. She was trying her best to figure it out, and that drove her into the

671
00:44:05.840 --> 00:44:11.360
arms of another man. Back in that day in the 70s, that's what you did. You just got married again.

672
00:44:11.920 --> 00:44:16.560
If you're a woman, you needed to find another man. That man wasn't any good,

673
00:44:16.560 --> 00:44:22.240
and that led to more abuse and all the things. My mom just really went through hell. She did.

674
00:44:23.120 --> 00:44:29.760
Unfortunately, she kept choosing wrong even more, chose another man after that man that was

675
00:44:30.720 --> 00:44:37.360
not good to her. I believe that's one of the reasons that my mom is not alive on the earth.

676
00:44:37.360 --> 00:44:44.160
She passed away at 64 years old. I want to tell you something, you guys. I reconnected with my

677
00:44:44.160 --> 00:44:51.120
biological dad. I'm still working on just layers of forgiveness towards him because of all the

678
00:44:51.680 --> 00:44:58.000
neglect and all the abandonment and all the things that he did to my mom before he neglected

679
00:44:58.000 --> 00:44:59.120
and abandoned all of us.

680
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:01.560
And he's been married.

681
00:45:01.560 --> 00:45:03.080
He's on his fifth marriage right now.

682
00:45:05.840 --> 00:45:07.600
And the other day I was sitting across from him.

683
00:45:07.600 --> 00:45:10.920
I was down where he lives in Southern California and I took him to breakfast

684
00:45:10.920 --> 00:45:13.920
and he came and, and he's a broken and beat up person and guess what?

685
00:45:13.920 --> 00:45:14.760
He's a believer now.

686
00:45:14.760 --> 00:45:18.120
He's given his life to Jesus and, you know, and, and I really

687
00:45:18.120 --> 00:45:19.880
want to love him and forgive him.

688
00:45:20.840 --> 00:45:22.160
You know, and that's a process.

689
00:45:22.160 --> 00:45:24.120
And for those of you that are still in process with that, I

690
00:45:24.120 --> 00:45:24.840
just want to encourage you.

691
00:45:24.840 --> 00:45:29.160
It is a process, but he said something that I could have really allowed to offend me.

692
00:45:30.000 --> 00:45:33.080
We were just sitting and talking and he was talking about his

693
00:45:33.080 --> 00:45:34.400
struggles with his current wife.

694
00:45:34.400 --> 00:45:35.600
This is wife number five.

695
00:45:36.160 --> 00:45:38.880
And I lived with him for three months when I was 16 years old.

696
00:45:38.880 --> 00:45:39.920
I needed a place to live.

697
00:45:39.920 --> 00:45:40.800
I was homeless.

698
00:45:41.120 --> 00:45:42.400
I didn't have anywhere to go.

699
00:45:42.560 --> 00:45:45.040
I lived with him and his wife at the time.

700
00:45:45.040 --> 00:45:46.440
I think that was wife number three.

701
00:45:46.920 --> 00:45:49.800
And, you know, he's like, well, you know, Vicky, that's her name.

702
00:45:49.800 --> 00:45:51.320
He's like, you know, she died of cancer.

703
00:45:52.360 --> 00:45:54.840
And I was like, oh yeah, I'm so sorry to hear that.

704
00:45:54.880 --> 00:45:57.120
He's like, yeah, he's like crazy.

705
00:45:57.120 --> 00:46:00.440
But three of my five wives died young of cancer.

706
00:46:00.640 --> 00:46:06.400
And that really started to piss me off because one of those women was my mother.

707
00:46:10.000 --> 00:46:14.880
Because you guys know it had been easy for me to, to say, I did think this thought,

708
00:46:14.880 --> 00:46:18.320
but to hold onto this thought in my heart, this is a difference between

709
00:46:18.320 --> 00:46:20.600
offensive thoughts coming and staying.

710
00:46:21.600 --> 00:46:27.360
The offensive thought came like, you know, oh, you married five women,

711
00:46:28.440 --> 00:46:30.160
cheated on them, abused them.

712
00:46:30.160 --> 00:46:33.320
Three of them are now dead from cancer, but you're still here.

713
00:46:34.240 --> 00:46:35.440
You big piece of crap.

714
00:46:37.600 --> 00:46:38.800
I'm just being honest.

715
00:46:40.000 --> 00:46:41.160
That's the thought that came.

716
00:46:44.400 --> 00:46:46.200
But that's not the thought that I allowed to stay.

717
00:46:47.280 --> 00:46:50.240
In fact, you guys, that is the very day that I talked about on a different

718
00:46:50.400 --> 00:46:55.840
Supernatural Saturday where he was broken and he was telling us how much he was

719
00:46:55.840 --> 00:47:01.480
hurting and we circled back around after leaving, seeing him broken, walking out to

720
00:47:01.480 --> 00:47:05.840
his car, like 150 years old when he's only 71.

721
00:47:06.080 --> 00:47:09.400
And we circled back around and came back and laid hands on him and prayed for him.

722
00:47:09.400 --> 00:47:11.880
And he began to weep and cry.

723
00:47:15.520 --> 00:47:16.560
We have a choice.

724
00:47:17.560 --> 00:47:22.480
When offense comes, we can find out what hard and part of our heart it's pointing

725
00:47:22.480 --> 00:47:27.040
to, and we can invite Holy Spirit into that place to bring regeneration and

726
00:47:27.040 --> 00:47:30.680
resurrection, or we can stay offended, which will turn to bitterness.

727
00:47:31.120 --> 00:47:32.440
It'll turn to resentment.

728
00:47:32.480 --> 00:47:33.680
It'll turn to hatred.

729
00:47:34.320 --> 00:47:35.320
It'll turn to death.

730
00:47:36.800 --> 00:47:38.480
We can, we can do both.

731
00:47:40.760 --> 00:47:41.640
We have a choice.

732
00:47:41.640 --> 00:47:42.520
We have free will.

733
00:47:42.560 --> 00:47:46.160
And you guys, a lot of times, have you ever, I've never met an offended person

734
00:47:46.160 --> 00:47:48.760
who doesn't have a good reason for being offended.

735
00:47:50.520 --> 00:47:53.560
Of course, there's plenty of good reasons for being offended.

736
00:47:54.160 --> 00:48:00.960
James 3, 13 talks about the wisdom that comes from meekness, comes from that

737
00:48:00.960 --> 00:48:03.840
yielded strength, that's what meekness is, not weakness.

738
00:48:03.840 --> 00:48:06.120
Meekness is us yielding our strength to God.

739
00:48:06.160 --> 00:48:06.720
Okay.

740
00:48:07.000 --> 00:48:08.320
But it talks about that.

741
00:48:08.320 --> 00:48:14.560
It talks about how, you know, jealousy and envy and offense and bitterness, you

742
00:48:14.560 --> 00:48:16.360
know, it seems reasonable to us.

743
00:48:19.840 --> 00:48:21.520
Sometimes it might even seem wise.

744
00:48:21.520 --> 00:48:24.720
You might not even think that it's offense that you're dealing with.

745
00:48:24.720 --> 00:48:26.640
You might just think that it's discernment.

746
00:48:27.240 --> 00:48:31.480
I am wise about this situation, but it's not true.

747
00:48:32.280 --> 00:48:33.120
It's not discernment.

748
00:48:33.120 --> 00:48:33.880
It's offense.

749
00:48:34.000 --> 00:48:35.920
We have to release it to the Lord.

750
00:48:38.800 --> 00:48:40.200
Anyone learn anything today?

751
00:48:44.760 --> 00:48:49.480
You guys know that part in book of John where Jesus says to the multitude, you

752
00:48:49.480 --> 00:48:53.200
know, your forefathers ate manna, but you're going to eat my flesh and drink

753
00:48:53.200 --> 00:48:54.680
my blood, remember that part.

754
00:48:54.680 --> 00:48:57.640
And he says, you're going to eat my flesh and drink my blood, and you're

755
00:48:57.640 --> 00:48:59.320
going to eat my flesh and drink my blood.

756
00:48:59.320 --> 00:49:03.600
And he says, your forefathers ate manna, but you're going to eat my flesh and

757
00:49:03.600 --> 00:49:05.200
drink my blood, remember that part.

758
00:49:05.200 --> 00:49:08.840
And then everyone left because they were, because you guys have to understand that

759
00:49:08.840 --> 00:49:10.240
he purposely offended them.

760
00:49:10.640 --> 00:49:14.560
He purposely was trying to offend them because, you know, cannibalism was like

761
00:49:14.560 --> 00:49:16.360
the worst thing that you could do as a Jew.

762
00:49:18.840 --> 00:49:19.920
Can't be a cannibal.

763
00:49:20.240 --> 00:49:22.200
Can't eat dead people.

764
00:49:23.320 --> 00:49:23.800
Right.

765
00:49:24.400 --> 00:49:29.840
And so a lot of those people, they just left, but there's something in that

766
00:49:29.840 --> 00:49:31.840
scripture that I think we don't really notice.

767
00:49:31.840 --> 00:49:35.920
It says that when they got offended, they left, but they returned

768
00:49:35.920 --> 00:49:37.840
to their old associations.

769
00:49:39.000 --> 00:49:41.160
You guys, that's where I want to land the plane here.

770
00:49:42.760 --> 00:49:47.840
The Bible is clearly showing us is when we allow ourselves to be offended, we

771
00:49:47.840 --> 00:49:49.080
don't go any further.

772
00:49:49.080 --> 00:49:50.240
We don't progress.

773
00:49:50.240 --> 00:49:52.520
We go back to our old associations.

774
00:49:53.520 --> 00:49:55.600
Offense is keeping us as a block.

775
00:49:55.600 --> 00:49:57.360
It's keeping us from moving forward.

776
00:49:57.360 --> 00:49:59.080
It's keeping us from learning more.

777
00:49:59.080 --> 00:49:59.920
It's keeping us from.

778
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:07.960
growing more, from understanding more, it's stunting us.

779
00:50:07.960 --> 00:50:12.000
We don't want to go back to our old associations.

780
00:50:12.000 --> 00:50:15.120
One thing I'm going to tell you because I've been on this journey for a while now is the

781
00:50:15.120 --> 00:50:18.160
kingdom versus the church, the kingdom.

782
00:50:18.160 --> 00:50:20.720
Kingdom stuff is going to offend you.

783
00:50:20.720 --> 00:50:22.040
It definitely is.

784
00:50:22.040 --> 00:50:26.960
If you want to go sit back and pat a cake for Jesus in some kind of dead religion, you

785
00:50:26.960 --> 00:50:31.000
can, and there might not be anything there that offends or challenges you.

786
00:50:31.000 --> 00:50:34.840
It depends on how much kingdom you've drank, because I will tell you that once you start

787
00:50:34.840 --> 00:50:40.400
drinking the kingdom, you will never be satisfied going back and sitting in religion.

788
00:50:40.400 --> 00:50:44.920
You will be super offended by religion all the time, because once again, offense can

789
00:50:44.920 --> 00:50:45.920
be an upgrade.

790
00:50:45.920 --> 00:50:54.680
It can really be an upgrade for you, but if you haven't partaken of the kingdom and you're

791
00:50:54.680 --> 00:50:57.760
allowing kingdom ideas to offend you, to offend what?

792
00:50:57.760 --> 00:51:04.640
To offend your poverty mentality, your orphan mentality, to offend your religious consciousness.

793
00:51:04.640 --> 00:51:06.800
I mean, grace is scandalous, you guys.

794
00:51:06.800 --> 00:51:08.000
Grace offends people.

795
00:51:08.000 --> 00:51:12.720
When you tell people that Jesus died for them and as them, and the only thing that they're

796
00:51:12.720 --> 00:51:18.360
ever going to do to participate in their salvation is believe, people get offended by that.

797
00:51:18.360 --> 00:51:20.480
No, no, no, no.

798
00:51:20.480 --> 00:51:27.440
They're fighting for their right to have to work this like a job.

799
00:51:27.440 --> 00:51:33.920
They're fighting for it.

800
00:51:33.920 --> 00:51:40.880
They're fighting to live under the law.

801
00:51:40.880 --> 00:51:44.840
So I want you to think right now about what offends you, what easily offends you.

802
00:51:44.840 --> 00:51:49.600
Where do you get offended most in life?

803
00:51:49.600 --> 00:51:50.600
And I want you to put it in the chat.

804
00:51:50.600 --> 00:51:55.840
I'm going to practice some James 5 16, and you guys come to, I think, I think we might

805
00:51:55.840 --> 00:52:02.280
have prophetic night, all community prophetic night this Sunday, but we will, we'll, we

806
00:52:02.280 --> 00:52:08.000
will dig more into this because God wants to free us from the blockage of offense, offense.

807
00:52:08.000 --> 00:52:10.440
When it comes, it can upgrade you guys.

808
00:52:10.440 --> 00:52:11.440
You want it to come.

809
00:52:11.440 --> 00:52:15.000
You don't want to be offended because that is pointing to an unhealed part of your heart.

810
00:52:15.000 --> 00:52:19.560
And if you do the hard work in that moment, you allow Holy Spirit into that instead of,

811
00:52:19.560 --> 00:52:23.360
you know, grabbing ahold of that offense and letting it grow into resentment and bitterness,

812
00:52:23.360 --> 00:52:24.960
you start to deal with it.

813
00:52:24.960 --> 00:52:31.920
You start to deal with why that thing is bothering you, why that person is bothering you.

814
00:52:31.920 --> 00:52:40.400
You get upgraded, you get an upgrade, you get promoted, but if you allow it to fester

815
00:52:40.400 --> 00:52:47.440
and you nurture it and you coddle it because it feels good to be mad, then that's when

816
00:52:47.440 --> 00:52:49.920
that can start turning into some crazy stuff.

817
00:52:49.920 --> 00:52:52.480
Okay, let's see it.

818
00:52:52.480 --> 00:52:53.480
See what offends you.

819
00:52:53.480 --> 00:52:54.720
Come on, get them up.

820
00:52:54.720 --> 00:52:56.760
Be honest.

821
00:52:56.760 --> 00:53:10.200
I can't make you be honest, but if you want to be free, you got to be honest.

822
00:53:10.200 --> 00:53:14.080
I'm just going to grab this one right here because it sounds so righteous and it sounds

823
00:53:14.080 --> 00:53:15.080
so noble.

824
00:53:15.080 --> 00:53:18.800
I get offended when people do wrong to others.

825
00:53:18.800 --> 00:53:20.720
Yeah.

826
00:53:20.720 --> 00:53:22.360
But you know what?

827
00:53:22.360 --> 00:53:23.760
We can't control other people.

828
00:53:23.760 --> 00:53:26.140
We can't control what people do.

829
00:53:26.140 --> 00:53:30.680
And so instead of being offended by the wrong that people do, let's be the right thing in

830
00:53:30.680 --> 00:53:31.680
the earth.

831
00:53:31.680 --> 00:53:35.600
Let's be the people that do right by others in the earth.

832
00:53:35.600 --> 00:53:43.440
The only way that we can counteract evil in the earth is when we do good, right?

833
00:53:43.440 --> 00:53:49.960
We're not going to sit around and worry about what all the evil people are doing.

834
00:53:49.960 --> 00:53:52.400
I just recently heard someone talking about that.

835
00:53:52.400 --> 00:53:55.960
They were so mad because they're like, God, look at these people over here doing that.

836
00:53:55.960 --> 00:53:58.480
You know, why are they getting away with that?

837
00:53:58.480 --> 00:54:02.720
And I'm over here and, you know, you're not letting me get away with anything.

838
00:54:02.720 --> 00:54:07.040
And he said to them, those aren't my kids.

839
00:54:07.040 --> 00:54:08.040
Those children.

840
00:54:08.040 --> 00:54:09.040
Oh, hear this.

841
00:54:09.040 --> 00:54:11.560
Those children have a different father.

842
00:54:11.560 --> 00:54:16.760
Oh, oh my goodness.

843
00:54:16.760 --> 00:54:21.000
Oh my goodness.

844
00:54:21.000 --> 00:54:26.480
Oh my goodness.

845
00:54:26.480 --> 00:54:31.440
The same that follow after the spirit of God, they will be called the sons of God.

846
00:54:31.440 --> 00:54:33.400
Not everyone's God's kids, y'all.

847
00:54:33.400 --> 00:54:35.960
I know we think, oh, all of humanity, God's children.

848
00:54:35.960 --> 00:54:37.720
That's not true.

849
00:54:37.720 --> 00:54:38.720
That's not biblical.

850
00:54:38.720 --> 00:54:39.720
God's creation.

851
00:54:39.720 --> 00:54:40.720
Yes.

852
00:54:40.720 --> 00:54:41.720
God's children.

853
00:54:41.720 --> 00:54:45.040
No, because God's children.

854
00:54:45.040 --> 00:54:49.240
It's a byproduct of the reconciliation process of the finished work of the cross.

855
00:54:49.240 --> 00:54:54.480
Jesus came to reconcile us back to the family, back to our heritage and our inheritance as

856
00:54:54.480 --> 00:54:56.400
God's kids.

857
00:54:56.400 --> 00:54:58.960
If you don't partake of that, you're not God's kid.

858
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:16.440
I really want to encourage you guys to look at what you've put in the chat and really

859
00:55:16.440 --> 00:55:26.160
invite Holy Spirit into those places that have been offending you and ask yourself why.

860
00:55:26.160 --> 00:55:28.320
Why does this offend me?

861
00:55:28.320 --> 00:55:32.920
Why do the actions of other people offend me?

862
00:55:32.920 --> 00:55:38.240
Why does it offend me when this specific thing happens, but I don't get offended by this

863
00:55:38.240 --> 00:55:45.760
other stuff, but I do get offended by this, this one thing.

864
00:55:45.760 --> 00:55:50.720
I heard a woman talk about how she sat down with a friend, with a group of friends, and

865
00:55:50.720 --> 00:55:54.760
they were about to eat, like they met each other at a restaurant, they sat down and the

866
00:55:54.760 --> 00:56:00.320
food came and the one friend sitting across from her like ate her food really quickly.

867
00:56:00.320 --> 00:56:03.600
And this woman was like, oh my gosh, she's like, you must have been really hungry.

868
00:56:03.600 --> 00:56:05.240
Like she didn't mean anything by it.

869
00:56:05.240 --> 00:56:09.560
She wasn't saying, oh, you're a glutton or oh, you're a fatty patty.

870
00:56:09.560 --> 00:56:10.560
She wasn't saying anything.

871
00:56:10.560 --> 00:56:13.120
She was just saying, wow, you must have really been hungry.

872
00:56:13.120 --> 00:56:16.120
It was just like a observation.

873
00:56:16.120 --> 00:56:20.000
But she noticed at the end of the dinner that first of all, that woman got really quiet,

874
00:56:20.000 --> 00:56:24.680
was talking less and at the end of the dinner that there was a little bit of food left on

875
00:56:24.680 --> 00:56:29.880
that woman's plate that she hadn't eaten and she had it boxed and she took it home.

876
00:56:29.880 --> 00:56:34.600
She found out later that that woman didn't finish her dinner because of that comment

877
00:56:34.600 --> 00:56:37.120
that she made, which once again had no guile in it.

878
00:56:37.120 --> 00:56:39.880
It had no guile in it.

879
00:56:39.880 --> 00:56:46.400
You guys, I need you guys to understand that that woman who was finishing her food quickly,

880
00:56:46.400 --> 00:56:51.440
he brought that virus to the table.

881
00:56:51.440 --> 00:56:54.280
He brought that offense inside of herself.

882
00:56:54.280 --> 00:56:58.400
Somewhere inside of herself, he has some kind of shame around food or he has some kind

883
00:56:58.400 --> 00:57:04.080
of shame around eating or, you know, her weight or her body, something.

884
00:57:04.080 --> 00:57:10.040
That woman triggered her by that observation that she must have been really hungry.

885
00:57:10.040 --> 00:57:15.920
Do you see how easy it is?

886
00:57:15.920 --> 00:57:20.480
Remember, we don't hear things the way they are being said.

887
00:57:20.480 --> 00:57:29.680
We hear things the way that we are inside.

888
00:57:29.680 --> 00:57:36.520
If you want to truly be unfiltered, you have to do your heart work.

889
00:57:36.520 --> 00:57:39.720
A lot of people getting upset at themselves, some of you admitting that you get offended

890
00:57:39.720 --> 00:57:50.680
at God, all kinds of things.

891
00:57:50.680 --> 00:57:53.640
I want you to dig into these things.

892
00:57:53.640 --> 00:57:55.560
I want you to invite Holy Spirit into these places.

893
00:57:55.560 --> 00:57:58.200
In fact, let's do it as a community.

894
00:57:58.200 --> 00:58:05.920
Father, great is the peace of those that love your word, which is Jesus, and nothing will

895
00:58:05.920 --> 00:58:08.240
offend us.

896
00:58:08.240 --> 00:58:09.240
Nothing will offend us.

897
00:58:09.760 --> 00:58:16.640
We know that you sent your son not to unify, but to divide, to be a stumbling block, to

898
00:58:16.640 --> 00:58:24.240
offend in some ways, but only for the purpose of upgrade, only for the purpose of promotion,

899
00:58:24.240 --> 00:58:28.480
only for the purpose of us evolving into the better versions of ourselves, the kingdom

900
00:58:28.480 --> 00:58:30.440
versions of ourselves.

901
00:58:30.440 --> 00:58:36.040
And so, Lord, we thank you for the gift of offense when it comes to upgrade us, to promote

902
00:58:36.040 --> 00:58:37.920
us.

903
00:58:37.920 --> 00:58:41.200
Help us to take a deeper look.

904
00:58:41.200 --> 00:58:46.760
Help us to be aware, spiritually aware when we're offended that we need to invite you

905
00:58:46.760 --> 00:58:50.440
in and take a deeper look at what is the root of that offense.

906
00:58:50.440 --> 00:58:51.560
Why does it bother us?

907
00:58:51.560 --> 00:58:53.560
Where is it coming from?

908
00:58:53.560 --> 00:58:59.040
And if it's righteous, help us to come to you in intercession, partnering with heaven

909
00:58:59.040 --> 00:59:01.520
in prayer for transformation.

910
00:59:01.520 --> 00:59:06.660
And if it's unrighteous, if it's born out of jealousy or resentment, envy, if it's born

911
00:59:06.700 --> 00:59:12.340
out of old past traumas that are full of bitterness and unforgiveness, then let us, help us, grace

912
00:59:12.340 --> 00:59:17.460
us to release those things to you that we might be healed, that our heart lens might

913
00:59:17.460 --> 00:59:22.660
be cleaned, that we could see clearly and that we could love better.

914
00:59:22.660 --> 00:59:27.740
Lord, we thank you, God, that we are going to be a people that are not offended, a people

915
00:59:27.740 --> 00:59:33.340
that live in peace and bring peace wherever we go, a people after your heart and that

916
00:59:33.340 --> 00:59:37.780
represent you well on the earth and a people that live abundantly and prosperously because

917
00:59:37.780 --> 00:59:40.740
we're not stuck.

918
00:59:40.740 --> 00:59:47.980
We're able to go forward because we trust you and we're living life according to your

919
00:59:47.980 --> 00:59:50.460
realities and your perceptions and not our own.

920
00:59:50.460 --> 00:59:52.300
In Jesus' name, let it be so.

921
00:59:52.300 --> 00:59:53.300
Amen.

922
00:59:53.300 --> 00:59:54.300
I love you guys.

923
00:59:54.300 --> 00:59:55.460
Have an amazing day and we'll see you soon.