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Good morning and welcome to Supernatural Saturday.

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We are so glad that you're able to join us.

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We have a lot of new people, so I always give the spiel at the beginning of Supernatural

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Saturday that this is a time where we all gather together, as many people as are able

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and available, and we look to the Lord for what is the current prophetic reality.

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What does God have to say to us individually, but also corporately?

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I believe that this is a community, this is a movement, all of you have certain things

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in common.

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One of the things you have in common is that you're revivalists.

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If you didn't know you were revivalists, look at yourself in the mirror and say, I'm a revivalist,

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because you are.

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God has chosen you to be a revivalist in the area of marriage and family.

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We have something in common, and God is moving us, a movement has to move, so he's moving

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us forward, and the way that he's moving us forward is through revelation.

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This is a time of revelation.

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This is a time where we gather, and usually it's me that is leading the Supernatural Saturday.

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In case you haven't noticed, God has given me a revelatory gift.

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I didn't ask for it, and I didn't know I was going to get it, and I did.

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The way that I knew that I got it is because when I began to speak, I've been in ministry

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for 28 years now, but when I began to speak, even as a younger woman, I would say things

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beyond my pay grade.

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I wouldn't think things beyond my pay grade.

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That's an important differentiation.

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I want you to think about that for a second.

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I wouldn't think them, I would just say them.

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It's kind of scary when you open your mouth and you say things that you're not even thinking.

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I want to let you know that, because guess what?

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When you hear it, everyone else is hearing it, but you're also hearing it for the first

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time along with them.

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It's not something that you've been sitting around thinking about, and now you're going

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to say it out loud so other people can hear it.

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No, you're saying it from the Holy Spirit, and so oftentimes I'm hearing it for the very

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first time right along with you.

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That can get a little scary, because you might say things that you're like, oh, what did

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I just say?

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What in the world was that, right?

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I want to let you guys know that today, I want to offend you.

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Today on Supernatural Saturday, I'm hoping to offend you, all right?

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If you get offended, then yay, because that is the whole purpose of today.

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We're going to talk about offense.

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You might wonder, hey, Jackie, how do you know what to talk about on Supernatural Saturday?

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Once again, I lean into the Spirit, I lean into that revelatory gift, and into Holy Spirit,

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the gift giver.

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I don't just lean into the gift, I lean into the gift giver for these Supernatural Saturdays,

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but also sometimes there's just a little seed.

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There's a little seed that happens during the week where I'm like, oh, yeah, I see

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that, Lord, I know what you're saying, you're saying we need to address that so that we

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can move forward.

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Because remember what I said, movements move, and it's important for us to be able to move

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forward, because if we don't move forward, then we're not a movement, okay?

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Revival revives, it resurrects things that are dead, something's happening, there's action

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associated with what God has called all of us to do.

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In order to have action, a lot of times we have to have those blocks removed.

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And so a little seed will drop into my heart during the week, and oftentimes, you guys,

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it's something that's affecting me.

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I'm willing to volunteer as tribute, I'm willing to go first.

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And so if something's happening to me during the week, if I'm feeling discouraged, or in

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this case, if I'm feeling offended, overly offended, then I know, oh, okay, the weapon

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of mass destruction that the enemy is using against this movement is offense.

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And I'm not saying that other people in the world aren't being offended, I mean, we live

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in a time where people are the most easily offended that I've ever seen in my 50 years

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on this earth.

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And the Bible talks about that, we're going to get into that in just a second.

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But we cannot be offended, because it's time for us to move forward.

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And I'm going to show you in just a couple minutes how offense will keep you stuck.

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It's a gift in some ways, that can cause you to have major promotion and upgrade.

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That's why I'm hoping to offend you today.

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And then it can also be a stumbling block.

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So Father God, we thank you for your goodness to us.

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We thank you for your love.

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We thank you for revelation and wisdom.

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We thank you for the wisdom that comes with humility.

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And so we lean into that this morning.

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We're not going to be wise in our own eyes, Lord, we're not going to think that we know

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it all.

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We're not going to think that we're discerning when we're really bitter and jealous and offended.

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Lord, we just lean into your truth and into your love that comes without offense.

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We're asking you to point to the hurting and hard places of our heart this morning as we

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offer those places up to you, for you to tenderize them, for you to make them soft again so that

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they can receive your truth and your word and we can be transformed in Jesus name. Amen.

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All right, you guys, let's get offended together. You want to get offended? So like I said,

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it's a couple of minutes ago. Well, first of all, let's talk about the word offense.

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Some of you may know this, you may not know this, but you know, I have talked about offense

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before in my 28 years and I've heard a lot of teaching on offense and I've read books on offense

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because I told you what kind of family I came from. A lot of you, if you're new,

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you might not know my full story, but I had plenty of reasons to be offended in life,

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at people, but also at God. That's important that we understand that just starting off

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Supernatural Saturday today, that yes, a lot of times when we think of the word offense,

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we think of being offended at people. We think of being irritated and annoyed by people,

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angry at people, unforgiving towards people, but it also can be a situation

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where you've become offended at God because of what has happened, because of what hasn't

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happened because of what you perceive and think is happening. That's why it's so important,

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friends, that we continue to use those heartwork tools and one of those heartwork tools is

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repentance. And the word repentance just simply means we're turning away from the way that we

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see things and the way we're doing things and we're reconnecting with God's perceptions.

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It's easy to become offended when we're in our own perceptions, right? But repentance saying,

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I'm willing to lay down what I think is happening here and I'm willing to allow you to show me

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what's happening here. I'm going to stop going the direction that I'm going right now and I'm

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going to go your direction. I'm going to stop thinking the thoughts that I'm thinking right

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now and I'm inviting you to replace my thoughts with your thoughts. It's important. I see some

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people asking, hey, is disappointment, discouragement, or, you know, of course,

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bitterness, envy, jealousy. I think that all of those are associated with offense. I think they're

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all different than offense. I think offense can lead to a lot of things, right? As some things

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can lead to offense. Let's talk about the word offense really quickly. In the Greek, that word

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is the word scandalon. Kind of like a scandal, right? In Greek, the word offense is the word

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scandalon. Do you know what a scandalon is? A scandalon is the part of a trap that dangles

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down and holds the bait. Think of a trap. Picture a trap right now. You're going to trap an animal,

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okay, for what purpose? To take them to slaughter, y'all. These traps were used to trap the animal,

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capture the animal to take them and then slaughter them. And this scandalon was the

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part of the trap that hung down and it held the bait. It held the thing that was going to attract

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the animal into the trap. You guys, we could just kind of stop right there and just pray for the

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rest of the time together because it's very obvious that offense is a trap of the enemy.

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To take us where? To slaughter. To take us to a place of destruction.

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There's a lot of things. There's a lot of teaching out there. I think there's even a book about

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offense called The Bait of Satan. I remember someone suggested that I read that. If you guys

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want to check that out, I think it's by John Bevere. I read it years and years and years ago,

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probably 20 years ago when my pastor was going to prison.

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Guys, we did not have a lot of time to warm up to the idea that our church was about to be taken

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from us. This was a small church and you guys know what small churches are like. It's like a family.

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It's an extended family. And I just want to tell you that it was my only extended family.

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I started going to that church when I met Jesus at 22 years old. I had never really experienced

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family. For those of you that know my history, once again, broken family, broken lives,

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foster care, girls home. Not a lot of experience with being in family, in community, cared for by

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And this was my first family, this pastor and his wife had become like pseudo-parents to me.

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The first parents, you know, that I could really lean into and trust in, and then of course all

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the other people in the church becoming like mothers and fathers and brothers and sisters.

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And so this was a huge loss for me, and it happened overnight.

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A lot of you can relate to that, where you went to bed one night, and you woke up the next day,

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and everything had changed. Everything had shifted, and not for the better.

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I walked into church on a Tuesday night. We had Tuesday night prayer meeting every week,

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just like normal. It was my night to be in the nursery. Did that a couple times a month,

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because I had a toddler at the time. And so I was in the nursery with my toddler,

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and with some other toddlers, but we had a TV in the nursery that showed the main service.

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It didn't have any sound that night, but I remember glancing up at the television,

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and just seeing people that I didn't recognize on the platform at the pulpit.

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And there were only two children in the nursery at the time. It was my daughter

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and another little boy. That was my friend's little child. And so I took both of them,

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and I went, I was like, what's going on? Who are these people?

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And so I went into the back of the sanctuary. The door to the nursery was just right by the

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back door of one of the sides of the sanctuary. And so I took the two children, and I went into

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the back of the sanctuary, and I sat on the back pew to find out what was going on.

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And what was going on is these people had come to take and seize control of the church,

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because the pastor was being indicted on 23 felonies.

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You guys, that is how quick that unraveled. That is how quick we found out. There wasn't like

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rumors and whispers. There wasn't any kind of lead up or prelude to this revelation.

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It was like, you came to church on a regular Tuesday night for Bible study,

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and instead of Bible study, you had people standing up and screaming at each other in

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the sanctuary. And it was just like all hell had broken loose, literally. We call it Black Tuesday.

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And you guys, I proceeded to have a nervous breakdown that day.

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I mean, like for the months and months after that. It was shocking.

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It would have been easy to be offended at a lot of things in that moment.

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But that book, The Bait of Satan, someone said, hey, you know, your church, the people at your

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church, you guys should read this, you know, and make sure that you stay out of offense.

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You guys, there's a lot of you that have had really hard things happen.

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Really hard things. In the chat right now, say if that's you, you've had really hard things happen

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that you still to this day really don't fully understand.

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You had losses of children. They left the house, but they never came back.

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They passed away in a car accident or some sort of evil violence towards them.

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You lost a spouse. You loved your marriage. It was great. It was wonderful. And then they got

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sick and passed away or they didn't get sick. They just passed away. They had a heart attack.

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They had a stroke. Something happened out of the blue suddenly, but not in a good way.

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You lost your fortune. You lost your job. People lied about you.

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You woke up one day and realized that you were the villain of the story, that everyone was saying

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that you were the villain, that you were being lumped into the list of people that had done

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bad things and now you're being indicted or you're being sued. Some of you showed up to work

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at a job that you loved only to be let go, to be laid off, to be fired.

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You're the one that showed up at the doctors for just a regular checkup and then you were told

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something terrible in your mind about your health or about your future.

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You went through infidelity. You thought you had a great marriage.

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And then you woke up one day to realize that everything had been a lie, that the whole time

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this person had been living a double life. They'd been having affairs. They'd been unfaithful to you.

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I'm just going through some of the scenarios of

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things that happen in people's lives that

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that are hard and are terrible and are kind of like a living nightmare that you wish you

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could wake up from.

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Go ahead and take a moment to just allow that stuff to come into the chat there.

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Right, a lot of people posting things.

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So the danger of this, friends, is that when we've been through hard things, oftentimes

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it makes our heart hard.

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And that's really heart work 101, right?

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The supernatural surrender to where God can begin to make our heart tender again.

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And I write in my book about an event, and God reminded me of this this morning, this

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story.

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I haven't thought of this story in a long time.

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But God reminded me this morning of something I write about in the heart work about this

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dinner that I had at Captain D's, good old Captain, the good old Captain.

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I don't even know if Captain D's even exists anymore.

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It definitely probably shouldn't if it does, okay?

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My offense towards the captain is still very real, but I will say that in my first marriage,

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you know, my former husband, we met when we were 12 years old.

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And in the time of us pen pal-ing and dating, quote unquote, long distance between 12 and

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17, I had visited him a couple times, gone to a couple like Christmas banquets and different

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things at his church with him.

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And his parents weren't crazy about me.

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And you know, and I have to say, for good reason, you guys, here's this kid being brought

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up in a two parent Christian home, you know, really solid people.

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And he likes this girl that's just, you know, a train wreck in a dumpster fire.

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Every time he's writing to me, yes, this is back in the days when you wrote letters, there

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was no internet, okay?

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And phone calls were really expensive.

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Do you guys remember when phone calls were expensive?

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Long distance phone calls were expensive.

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You could even do this thing called collect calls, where you could call someone and you

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could have them take the charges of the phone call.

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Because phone calls used to cost a lot of money, right?

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Back in the day when that was the newest kind of technology out there.

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And so we had phone calls, we had letters, but I was always somewhere different.

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I was in a girl's home, I was in this foster care situation.

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So I'm sure his parents are like, what in the world?

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What in the world is our son doing with this girl?

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So I moved, I was 19 years old, I was 18 years old, and I moved to their town because he

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wanted me to move there and we were going to get married, okay?

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So I moved there at 18 years old.

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And this Captain D's dinner was my first kind of dinner with his family.

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They hadn't seen me in years since I was a younger teenager.

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And this was the great reveal at Captain D's.

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At the time, I was working at a daycare.

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And if you've ever worked at a daycare, God bless you.

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But I was working at a daycare, it was the first job that I could get when I moved into

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this new city.

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I had just moved there to be with this boy.

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And I was working at this daycare, I'd only been working there for a couple weeks.

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When I went to Captain D's, I was really nervous.

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You know, are they going to like me?

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Are they going to accept me?

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Are they going to let him date me and marry me?

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Or are they going to, you know, block this relationship?

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All of these thoughts swirling in my mind.

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I'm trying to be on my best behavior.

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And for you guys, for me, that's hard.

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I frequently am on my worst behavior.

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But I was going to be on my best behavior that day.

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And remember, this is Jackie pre-Jesus.

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I want to really make sure I'm emphasizing this.

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I did not know Jesus yet.

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And so I go to Captain D's.

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And we sit down and we, you know, if you've never been there, it's just fast food.

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You order your food, you sit down.

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So we're sitting there.

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And I take a bite into this fried fish.

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It's like fried cod or something.

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I take a bite of this fried fish and I'm listening and I'm nodding and I'm smiling and probably

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about 15 minutes into this dinner, you guys, I start to feel really bad.

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Really sick.

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Like I started to get flushed.

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I started to have chills, but also I'm super hot and I'm sweating.

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I started to feel nauseated.

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And I just say to him, I just whispered to him, hey, I'm not feeling good.

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I need to go home.

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And he's like, what?

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And I was like, yeah, all of a sudden, and you guys know what it's like.

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Sometimes sickness just

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comes out of left field and just hits you like a Mack truck, right?

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Anybody else? Raise your hand. If that's ever happened to you,

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you're feeling fine. And then all of a sudden, bam, you're not feeling good.

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So I excused myself and I left and you guys,

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I barely made it home vomiting fever,

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the whole nine yards.

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And I had never been that sick in current memory.

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And I was sick for like over a week.

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Weak as a kitten, unable to get out of bed.

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And you guys, I just want to tell you for the longest time,

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I blamed the captain for the longest time.

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I was like, Oh, captain D's. It made me sick.

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I have food poisoning that, that place, that food so nasty.

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You know, this was what I believed.

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I believed this for the longest time.

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Every time I would drive by captain D's, I would just get mad inside.

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I'd be like, Captain D's.

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But you guys, in my early heartwork, God said, Hey, Oh, you know,

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the only thing about captain D's. I mean,

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why would God care if I'm offended at the captain?

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Why would he care? I mean,

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you and I both know that that food ain't kingdom, right?

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That food's killing people every day. If it still exists.

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I don't even know if it does, but he said to me, he said, Jackie,

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I want you to know that when you entered into that place,

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you were already carrying the virus.

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And then he showed me that the virus came from the daycare.

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It's something called kitty crud. You guys,

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when you work with little children, they make you sick.

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I'm just going to tell you that right now,

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for those of you that are considering a future career with little children,

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you better get your immune system up because you're going to need it.

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I was already carrying the virus. You guys,

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there's no possible way that the captain's food made me sick.

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I was sick within 15 minutes of sitting down,

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but I'd also been working with germy little children for the last couple of

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weeks, doing something that my body and my immune system wasn't used to.

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And the reason why this is important to our conversation today is because so

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often we will come into communities. We will come into friendships.

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We will come into relationships. Listen, please. And listen, clearly,

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you will come into those things,

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but you won't be able to get too far in because you'll immediately start to get

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offended. And you will think that it is the place. It is the people.

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It is the friendship. It is the budding relationship that is offending you,

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but you are carrying the virus.

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You are carrying the offense.

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You brought it with you into this place.

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You brought it with you.

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It's unhealed trauma from your last relationship or from your

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childhood or from a church that you used to go to.

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Do you guys know how much of a miracle it is that I could go to church

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someplace without sitting there and grumbling and complaining and

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finding fault in judging? Because you guys remember,

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write this down a critical and judgmental heart is a

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offended heart.

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Some of you come into this community and you grumble and you complain.

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You send us emails about what we're not doing.

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Instead of the 99 things we are doing.

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Love ya. And then guess what?

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I get the opportunity to be offended by you being offended.

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If I want it to be, but I want to tell you guys,

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what's interesting about this story is that I am not someone who's easily

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offended.

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Years ago, I prayed for this and maybe you can pray for this too. I said, God,

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give me thick skin and a soft heart.

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Let me understand that other people,

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their stuff, it's not about me. People are hurting.

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They have stuff because we don't have to personalize it and make it all about us.

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Every time someone's upset. Yeah.

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They could be directing that upset towards you.

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They could be putting your name on it.

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But if you go and you meditate on that and you bring it to God and you do your

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heartwork and you see that it really isn't a you thing. It's a them thing.

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Then you can just bless them.

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You can just bless them. You don't got to take it personally.

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And another thing that I just want to say right here, it's not in my notes,

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but I'll make sure I say it. Do not take up the offense of someone else.

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Okay.

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I'm going to take up the offense of someone else.

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I know that we really love people, and the people that we really love, they'll come to

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us and they'll be mad at their boss, or they'll be mad at their husband or wife.

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And they'll come and they'll start, you know, moaning and complaining.

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And then pretty soon, you know, you're taking sides.

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You're taking sides with them.

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Like, oh, yeah, dirty, rotten scoundrel.

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How dare they not take out the garbage for two days in a row?

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Slacker, loser, listen.

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Do not take up someone else's offense.

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And this is why.

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Offense is always pointing to an unhealed part of your heart.

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Please write that down.

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This is something the Lord taught me years and years ago, and it has really changed my

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life.

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Offense is a gift.

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Now if you are someone who just lives in offense, it's not a gift.

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It's going to be to your detriment and to your destruction.

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But when offense comes, the initial feeling of being offended, it is a GPS that will point

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you, if you know how to use the heart work tools, right to the root or the area of trauma

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that's unhealed.

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It'll point right to the unhealed part of your heart.

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Because when you feel offense, you can't just feel it.

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Remember how I say you can't just feel the feels, you have to heal the feels?

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When you feel offense, you can't just feel it, you have to heal it.

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And how do you do that?

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I'm going to tell you right now.

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You know that you're being offended by whatever's happening or whatever's being said, but now

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you have to ask yourself an important question.

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Why does this offend me?

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You know that you're feeling offended.

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You know that you are offended by this, but why?

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Ask yourself, say, why am I offended?

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Why does this offend me?

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Why does this bother me?

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And guess what?

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You will get an answer.

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You guys having a good time?

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Inform your faces that you're having a good time.

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Some of you look real mean right now.

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Take a little smile.

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Don't be offending me.

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Why does it bother me?

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Ask yourself that question.

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Why?

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Would anyone admit today, remember, we love the heart work tool, James 516, confess your

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faults, your frailties, your weaknesses, your offenses, if you want, and be healed.

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Confession.

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Confession is one of those things that pulls back the layers of the things, of the trauma

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and gets to the root.

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So would anyone raise their hand and just admit, like in this season of your life, that

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you've kind of become easily offended, that you're touchy, that you're kind of bruised

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and beat up.

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And so it's really not hard for you to get offended.

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You watch the news, you get offended.

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You see people post on Instagram about stuff or Facebook and, or fake book and you get

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offended.

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Okay.

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You hear a sermon, you get offended.

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Even come on here and you get offended.

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Once again, I'm trying to offend you the best that I can.

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I'm speaking the truth in love because I want your heart to be whole.

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Can I tell you something?

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If you are an easily offended person hoping to get married, you are going to be offended

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every day of your life inside relationship.

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Intimate relationships will give you endless reasons to be offended.

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Endless reasons.

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If you already have an offended heart, you're going to be so offended and you're not going

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to probably even make it to the altar because you're going to be so offended at the things

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that happen as you're getting to know someone that you're probably just going to cut and

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run.

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Well, they didn't text me back when they should or they didn't plan the date or, you know,

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um, their, their communication is not what I want it to be.

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I, I, I do all this, but they do that.

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You know, it's going to be all kinds of reasons for you to find faults and to get upset and

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to get offended.

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A lot of hands went up saying, I admit, I confess.

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I want to be healed.

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I'm easily offended.

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Things get on my nerves.

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I get annoyed really quickly.

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You guys, nowadays, you don't got to do anyone to offend.

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You don't got to do anything to offend people.

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People are offended that you're alive.

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They're offended that you're breathing, you're breathing wrong.

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And I, you know, I'll confess when I'm sitting on an airplane and I don't know who's sitting

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next to me yet.

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I'm just sitting there just waiting to be offended.

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I should be sitting there waiting to, oh, who am I going to meet?

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Who am I going to be able to bless today and, you know, and say hi to, or possibly, you

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know, have a, a God encounter with, of a divine appointment because we're sitting next to

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each other.

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No, I'm sitting on that plane because I.

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I board early, I'm in an early boarding class with my airline because, you know, I bought

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enough flights from them to have it.

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And so I am sitting there and I'm watching the aisle and people are coming down the aisle

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and I'm like, oh, that person's too tall.

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Don't let them sit here.

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That person's a little too fat.

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Don't let them sit here.

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I'm just being honest.

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All right.

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Because those airplane seats are not big, you guys.

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They've made them smaller and smaller over the years to accommodate more and more and

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more people.

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You hear someone with a little bit of a tick, they're kind of snorting or hacking and you're

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like, oh, God, please don't let them sit next to me.

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Jesus.

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Ever since COVID, if anyone sneezes, everyone gives them the evil eye, like, how dare you

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be alive?

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How dare you be alive?

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You're sneezing, you're coughing in public.

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I mean, they could have just had a wild hair in their nose that caused them to sneeze.

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But everyone looks at them like they're about to, you know, be patient zero that causes

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the bubonic plague in the earth.

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You guys, everything has worked together, not to our good, but to our offense.

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Am I wrong?

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Am I wrong?

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That's what I tell you, the reason, the impetus for this talk on offense this week is because

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David Dorman is on my last nerve.

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00:31:20.520 --> 00:31:26.160
I love that man, but I am so offended and annoyed by him this week.

452
00:31:26.160 --> 00:31:36.360
And God's like, oh, Jackie, we need to do some hard work.

453
00:31:36.360 --> 00:31:40.640
You guys, when you marry someone, you are literally saying I do at the altar.

454
00:31:40.640 --> 00:31:49.440
What you're saying is I do promise to forgive this person that is going to annoy me more

455
00:31:49.440 --> 00:31:53.920
than anyone has ever annoyed me in my entire life.

456
00:31:53.920 --> 00:31:56.080
And the reason why is they can be a great person.

457
00:31:56.080 --> 00:31:57.080
David's amazing.

458
00:31:57.080 --> 00:31:58.600
He's a great man.

459
00:31:58.600 --> 00:32:04.660
But when you live in proximity to someone, close proximity, they're going to do things

460
00:32:04.660 --> 00:32:06.660
that you don't like.

461
00:32:06.660 --> 00:32:10.040
They're going to do things that get on your nerves.

462
00:32:10.040 --> 00:32:13.880
They're also not going to do things that you like and that you want.

463
00:32:13.880 --> 00:32:19.320
And you're going to have to forgive them more than anyone that you've ever forgiven in your

464
00:32:20.200 --> 00:32:21.200
life.

465
00:32:21.200 --> 00:32:22.200
And I'm not talking about abuse here, y'all.

466
00:32:22.200 --> 00:32:26.960
For those of you that have had hard marriages because they were abusive, no, I'm talking

467
00:32:26.960 --> 00:32:31.960
about real marriages that are hard because marriage is hard.

468
00:32:31.960 --> 00:32:34.560
It's a refining process.

469
00:32:34.560 --> 00:32:35.560
It is.

470
00:32:35.560 --> 00:32:37.600
So you guys, we have to begin to deal with offense.

471
00:32:37.600 --> 00:32:40.560
For those of you that raised your hand and said, I get easily offended.

472
00:32:40.560 --> 00:32:42.760
That's because your heart is bruised.

473
00:32:42.760 --> 00:32:45.000
It's touchy in a lot of different places.

474
00:32:45.000 --> 00:32:49.400
You have a lot of things that you've not released, that you've not forgiven, whether

475
00:32:49.400 --> 00:32:50.400
it's yourself.

476
00:32:50.400 --> 00:32:51.600
Do you know you could be offended by yourself?

477
00:32:51.600 --> 00:32:56.080
Has anyone ever been offended by themselves?

478
00:32:56.080 --> 00:32:59.880
You're like, ugh, Jackie, how could you do this again?

479
00:32:59.880 --> 00:33:01.600
You're such an idiot.

480
00:33:01.600 --> 00:33:12.660
No one ever in their life is annoyed by themselves, disgusted, offended by their own behavior.

481
00:33:12.660 --> 00:33:14.580
You guys, we got to get to the root of that.

482
00:33:14.580 --> 00:33:18.380
We got to forgive ourselves.

483
00:33:18.380 --> 00:33:25.660
The Bible says, great are those that love my word and nothing will offend them.

484
00:33:25.660 --> 00:33:28.420
In fact, I think it says great is the peace.

485
00:33:28.420 --> 00:33:37.060
Great is the peace of those that love my word and nothing will offend them.

486
00:33:37.060 --> 00:33:38.060
Nothing will offend them.

487
00:33:38.420 --> 00:33:43.820
We all know that the word was robed in flesh and dwelt among us, Christ.

488
00:33:43.820 --> 00:33:53.340
That scripture comes from Psalms, Psalm 119, really high up, like 165.

489
00:33:53.340 --> 00:33:58.140
I used to have a pastor's wife that used to quote that verse all the time.

490
00:33:58.140 --> 00:34:01.740
You try to talk to her about something that was bothering you and she'd be, great are

491
00:34:01.740 --> 00:34:05.900
those that love thy law, greater the peace of those that love thy law and nothing will

492
00:34:05.900 --> 00:34:06.900
offend them.

493
00:34:06.900 --> 00:34:12.260
You guys, let's not spiritually bypass people by slapping scriptures on problems, okay?

494
00:34:12.260 --> 00:34:15.179
We got to deal with stuff at the root.

495
00:34:15.179 --> 00:34:18.699
Something's bothering us, if it's hurting us, then we got to talk about it.

496
00:34:18.699 --> 00:34:22.300
We're not just going to bypass it with a scripture.

497
00:34:22.300 --> 00:34:27.620
Bless her, but we're not going to bypass it with a scripture because you know what happens

498
00:34:27.620 --> 00:34:32.500
when we do that is we just try to stick all the trauma behind false forgiveness.

499
00:34:32.500 --> 00:34:36.580
Let's talk about toxic forgiveness for a second because we're talking about offense.

500
00:34:37.260 --> 00:34:40.100
We need to also talk about forgiveness because the way that we're going to come out of offense

501
00:34:40.100 --> 00:34:42.139
is by forgiving, right?

502
00:34:42.139 --> 00:34:47.739
By confessing, by repenting, by forgiving the hard work tools, getting to the root of

503
00:34:47.739 --> 00:34:48.739
things.

504
00:34:48.739 --> 00:34:50.620
But there is such a thing as toxic forgiveness, you guys.

505
00:34:50.620 --> 00:34:51.620
You know what that is?

506
00:34:51.620 --> 00:34:56.820
That's forgiveness with no accountability.

507
00:34:56.820 --> 00:35:00.020
That's just like shoving all the trauma into a closet and saying, oh, okay.

508
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:03.040
It doesn't exist anymore because I forgave them, no.

509
00:35:04.000 --> 00:35:05.360
And what you've learned through the hard work

510
00:35:05.360 --> 00:35:08.240
is that forgiveness has layers and it has phases.

511
00:35:09.320 --> 00:35:13.640
We forgive because God has commanded us to do so.

512
00:35:15.800 --> 00:35:17.280
It is a command from the Lord,

513
00:35:17.280 --> 00:35:19.080
forgive and you will be forgiven.

514
00:35:20.040 --> 00:35:24.740
Forgive your debtors so you can have your debts forgiven.

515
00:35:27.380 --> 00:35:28.220
Right?

516
00:35:31.000 --> 00:35:33.740
So it's important that we understand

517
00:35:33.740 --> 00:35:35.860
that when we're forgiving someone,

518
00:35:35.860 --> 00:35:38.980
that if we are going to be in continued relationship,

519
00:35:38.980 --> 00:35:40.140
because write this down,

520
00:35:40.140 --> 00:35:43.060
forgiveness doesn't necessarily mean reconciliation.

521
00:35:45.800 --> 00:35:46.640
Okay?

522
00:35:46.640 --> 00:35:47.460
When we forgive someone,

523
00:35:47.460 --> 00:35:49.700
it doesn't mean that we're gonna necessarily

524
00:35:49.700 --> 00:35:51.460
continue in relationship with them.

525
00:35:51.460 --> 00:35:53.620
Now, if it's yourself that you're forgiving,

526
00:35:53.620 --> 00:35:54.860
then yes, you're gonna continue

527
00:35:54.860 --> 00:35:56.460
in relationship with yourself.

528
00:35:56.460 --> 00:35:58.020
If it's God that you're forgiving,

529
00:35:58.040 --> 00:36:01.240
then yes, you're gonna continue in relationship with God.

530
00:36:01.240 --> 00:36:02.120
But if it's a person,

531
00:36:02.120 --> 00:36:03.460
another person that you're forgiving,

532
00:36:03.460 --> 00:36:05.800
you may or may not be continuing in relationship.

533
00:36:05.800 --> 00:36:08.400
They may not even be alive on the earth.

534
00:36:08.400 --> 00:36:10.880
But if they are alive on the earth,

535
00:36:10.880 --> 00:36:12.980
and you're gonna continue in relationship with them

536
00:36:12.980 --> 00:36:15.380
because you believe before God that you should,

537
00:36:16.480 --> 00:36:17.720
okay, like say it's your spouse

538
00:36:17.720 --> 00:36:19.480
and you're forgiving them for something,

539
00:36:19.480 --> 00:36:22.620
there needs to be accountability to the offense.

540
00:36:23.720 --> 00:36:24.560
Okay?

541
00:36:24.560 --> 00:36:26.080
If you're the person that needs to take accountability

542
00:36:26.080 --> 00:36:27.640
because you're just being touchy

543
00:36:28.140 --> 00:36:28.980
and you're just being bruised

544
00:36:28.980 --> 00:36:31.020
and you're turning a level two situation

545
00:36:31.020 --> 00:36:34.880
into a level 10 situation because of your unhealed heart,

546
00:36:36.140 --> 00:36:38.380
then you need to take accountability.

547
00:36:38.380 --> 00:36:40.420
Hey, I overreacted.

548
00:36:40.420 --> 00:36:41.500
I was judging you.

549
00:36:41.500 --> 00:36:43.720
I was criticizing you in my heart.

550
00:36:43.720 --> 00:36:45.940
Yes, I got upset at you,

551
00:36:45.940 --> 00:36:46.940
but I got upset at you

552
00:36:46.940 --> 00:36:49.460
because I was carrying the virus already.

553
00:36:52.140 --> 00:36:53.940
I was carrying it.

554
00:36:53.940 --> 00:36:56.020
Guys, I have seen so many people get hurt

555
00:36:56.020 --> 00:36:57.180
in communities and churches,

556
00:36:57.680 --> 00:36:59.480
like the story that I told you about my church,

557
00:36:59.480 --> 00:37:02.520
and they're never able to come back into community again

558
00:37:02.520 --> 00:37:04.120
because of my Captain D story,

559
00:37:04.120 --> 00:37:06.320
because of the reason behind that.

560
00:37:06.320 --> 00:37:08.600
They'll come into the church and they'll sit down,

561
00:37:08.600 --> 00:37:11.000
you know, spiritual community, whatever,

562
00:37:11.000 --> 00:37:15.480
civic group, you know, a group of people,

563
00:37:15.480 --> 00:37:17.680
and they'll immediately start finding fault.

564
00:37:18.800 --> 00:37:20.320
You know, within just a couple months,

565
00:37:20.320 --> 00:37:21.360
they were so happy.

566
00:37:21.360 --> 00:37:23.040
They were so excited to be there.

567
00:37:23.040 --> 00:37:25.160
It was the greatest place in the world.

568
00:37:26.160 --> 00:37:28.220
And then all of a sudden, it's like, ugh.

569
00:37:30.180 --> 00:37:31.580
I don't like the way they teach.

570
00:37:31.580 --> 00:37:32.780
I don't want to be preached.

571
00:37:32.780 --> 00:37:34.900
I don't like that one chick that sings.

572
00:37:34.900 --> 00:37:36.980
Her voice hurts my ears.

573
00:37:39.780 --> 00:37:41.460
The drummer's offbeat.

574
00:37:43.300 --> 00:37:44.760
What's the problem here?

575
00:37:44.760 --> 00:37:45.700
The problem is,

576
00:37:45.700 --> 00:37:48.360
is that they've come into a place with imperfect people.

577
00:37:48.360 --> 00:37:49.200
Guess what?

578
00:37:49.200 --> 00:37:51.660
There's no place that doesn't include that except heaven.

579
00:37:51.840 --> 00:37:56.840
And now they're having a hard time

580
00:37:57.000 --> 00:37:59.360
because of their unhealed hurt

581
00:37:59.360 --> 00:38:02.840
from whatever has happened in the last community.

582
00:38:02.840 --> 00:38:04.160
And they keep carrying that,

583
00:38:04.160 --> 00:38:05.760
and they keep going to another place.

584
00:38:05.760 --> 00:38:09.420
And there's a honeymoon phase where they love it there.

585
00:38:09.420 --> 00:38:11.640
And then all of a sudden, you know,

586
00:38:11.640 --> 00:38:15.140
they start to become offended by little things.

587
00:38:17.560 --> 00:38:18.400
Am I wrong?

588
00:38:19.400 --> 00:38:21.120
And just so you know,

589
00:38:21.120 --> 00:38:22.860
that's going to happen in relationships too.

590
00:38:22.860 --> 00:38:26.380
If you have unhealed relationship wounds and hurts,

591
00:38:28.380 --> 00:38:32.020
even if it's just from platonic relationships, friendships,

592
00:38:32.020 --> 00:38:35.060
it's going to be hard for you to trust a friend.

593
00:38:35.060 --> 00:38:36.540
You're going to get into a new friendship.

594
00:38:36.540 --> 00:38:38.340
And instead of really enjoying that

595
00:38:38.340 --> 00:38:40.180
and being thankful for it and realizing that,

596
00:38:40.180 --> 00:38:41.860
yeah, people aren't perfect,

597
00:38:41.860 --> 00:38:43.620
you're going to start to pick that person apart,

598
00:38:43.620 --> 00:38:45.180
find fault with them.

599
00:38:45.180 --> 00:38:47.980
You're going to start to find reasons to not trust them.

600
00:38:48.820 --> 00:38:50.540
Reasons to wall them off.

601
00:38:50.540 --> 00:38:52.980
Remember, offense is a fence.

602
00:38:52.980 --> 00:38:53.820
It's a fence.

603
00:38:53.820 --> 00:38:55.940
It's a barrier that keeps you from being able

604
00:38:55.940 --> 00:38:58.520
to truly connect and have intimacy with others.

605
00:39:03.460 --> 00:39:04.420
And all of a sudden, you know,

606
00:39:04.420 --> 00:39:07.340
you're not hanging out with them really anymore.

607
00:39:07.340 --> 00:39:09.700
The relationship never got off the runway.

608
00:39:09.700 --> 00:39:12.140
Same thing with dating relationships.

609
00:39:12.140 --> 00:39:14.540
You're really excited about it at the beginning,

610
00:39:15.520 --> 00:39:20.520
but pretty quickly you start getting suspicious.

611
00:39:20.760 --> 00:39:21.960
You start pulling away.

612
00:39:21.960 --> 00:39:24.160
You start getting critical and judgmental.

613
00:39:26.000 --> 00:39:28.220
Start getting easily offended.

614
00:39:31.320 --> 00:39:32.920
Guys, we have to deal with this.

615
00:39:34.800 --> 00:39:36.600
Go back to the word scandalon.

616
00:39:36.600 --> 00:39:39.360
It is a part of the trap that dangles bait.

617
00:39:39.360 --> 00:39:41.200
Satan is dangling the temptation

618
00:39:41.200 --> 00:39:43.440
for us to be offended all the time.

619
00:39:45.480 --> 00:39:46.320
And you know what?

620
00:39:46.320 --> 00:39:48.200
There are some things that you really,

621
00:39:48.200 --> 00:39:50.720
truly should be offended at,

622
00:39:50.720 --> 00:39:53.240
kind of righteously indignant at.

623
00:39:53.240 --> 00:39:54.760
And those are the things that you take to prayer,

624
00:39:54.760 --> 00:39:55.720
you take to intercession,

625
00:39:55.720 --> 00:39:57.480
the things that are happening in the world.

626
00:39:57.480 --> 00:39:59.960
We should be offended that children are being.

627
00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:06.960
trafficked in the world, that should offend you, that should anger you.

628
00:40:10.240 --> 00:40:14.640
We take that to the Lord, we begin to intercede for those children, we begin to intercede for

629
00:40:14.640 --> 00:40:20.000
the rescuers of those children. I'm just going to tell you right now,

630
00:40:20.000 --> 00:40:23.760
if you're a chronic watcher of the news, you should probably give that up.

631
00:40:23.760 --> 00:40:34.160
I have watched how people that watch the news regularly actually get hardened hearts. I have

632
00:40:34.160 --> 00:40:40.160
seen it happen in real time. Because first of all, y'all, if you haven't noticed, the news is all bad

633
00:40:40.160 --> 00:40:47.600
news. It's all bad news. It's about who is screwing who over in the government, in real life,

634
00:40:47.600 --> 00:40:54.880
in Hollywood. None of it's good news. It's all bad news. It's all gossip. It's all hearsay.

635
00:40:54.880 --> 00:40:58.880
And then the stuff that is facts, because the news is barely facts anymore,

636
00:40:59.440 --> 00:41:06.800
the stuff that is factual is pretty offensive. Lots of propaganda.

637
00:41:10.560 --> 00:41:16.640
And the people that watch the news regularly, their hearts get hard. They're hearing all this

638
00:41:16.640 --> 00:41:23.120
negativity on a regular basis and their hearts get hard. I know, I know, I know people that watch

639
00:41:23.120 --> 00:41:27.600
the news habitually. As soon as they wake up in the morning, they read the news or they watch the

640
00:41:27.600 --> 00:41:31.680
news, what's going on in the world. The problem is, is that there's a lot of other stuff going

641
00:41:31.680 --> 00:41:35.760
on in the world besides what's being reported on that news station, and it's good stuff.

642
00:41:35.760 --> 00:41:39.120
God is on the move. People's lives are being changed.

643
00:41:39.440 --> 00:41:45.200
Right? People are being rescued supernaturally. All kinds of amazing things are happening.

644
00:41:45.200 --> 00:41:46.800
You're not going to see anyone report on that.

645
00:41:49.840 --> 00:41:53.600
And what's going to happen is, is that when you watch the news, you're going to think that all

646
00:41:53.600 --> 00:41:57.120
there is out there is bad news. You know what's going to happen. The Bible says what's going to

647
00:41:57.120 --> 00:42:02.800
happen at the end of the age, because of the rampant increase of sin, the love of many,

648
00:42:03.120 --> 00:42:08.240
of sin, the love of many, the hearts of many will get cold and hard

649
00:42:10.800 --> 00:42:17.040
and offended and offended. You guys in that same set of scriptures,

650
00:42:17.040 --> 00:42:21.520
it says, and many will be offended and hate one another.

651
00:42:23.840 --> 00:42:31.280
In fact, it says, and that's Matthew 24. It says many will fall away because of their offense.

652
00:42:31.280 --> 00:42:35.520
You guys, who do you think that Jesus was talking about?

653
00:42:37.440 --> 00:42:42.080
You can't fall away from something that you were never connected to. He's talking about believers.

654
00:42:44.080 --> 00:42:46.720
And many will fall away from the faith because of their offense.

655
00:42:48.560 --> 00:42:53.520
And you guys, and I've heard these people, and you could easily become one of them.

656
00:42:53.520 --> 00:43:00.560
I could easily become one of them. Well, why doesn't God fix this? Why didn't God change this?

657
00:43:00.560 --> 00:43:06.400
Why did God allow this to happen in the earth? Why this? Why that? They get offended because of

658
00:43:06.400 --> 00:43:11.280
the sin that's running rampant in the earth. They start to get offended because evil seems to be

659
00:43:11.280 --> 00:43:24.000
winning and prospering, but it's not. It's very difficult when good things happen, when bad things

660
00:43:24.000 --> 00:43:29.280
happen to good people, and all these bad people that are doing bad things seem to be prospering.

661
00:43:29.280 --> 00:43:37.280
It's so easy to be offended by that. I'm just going to be super transparent. You know, my dad

662
00:43:37.280 --> 00:43:43.760
left the family when I was six months old. He left my poor 21-year-old mom with two toddlers. Well,

663
00:43:43.760 --> 00:43:50.240
two, a baby and a toddler. I was six months old. My brother was a year old, year and a half old.

664
00:43:51.760 --> 00:43:58.000
She was 21 years old. She was working two jobs. She was leaving us with people that she didn't

665
00:43:58.720 --> 00:44:05.120
have support of family. She was trying her best to figure it out, and that drove her into the

666
00:44:05.840 --> 00:44:11.360
arms of another man. Back in that day in the 70s, that's what you did. You just got married again.

667
00:44:11.920 --> 00:44:16.560
If you're a woman, you needed to find another man. That man wasn't any good,

668
00:44:16.560 --> 00:44:22.240
and that led to more abuse and all the things. My mom just really went through hell. She did.

669
00:44:23.120 --> 00:44:29.760
Unfortunately, she kept choosing wrong even more, chose another man after that man that was

670
00:44:30.720 --> 00:44:37.360
not good to her. I believe that's one of the reasons that my mom is not alive on the earth.

671
00:44:37.360 --> 00:44:44.160
She passed away at 64 years old. I want to tell you something, you guys. I reconnected with my

672
00:44:44.160 --> 00:44:51.120
biological dad. I'm still working on just layers of forgiveness towards him because of all the

673
00:44:51.680 --> 00:44:58.160
neglect, all the abandonment, and all the things that he did to my mom before he neglected and

674
00:44:58.160 --> 00:44:59.120
abandoned all of us.

675
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:01.560
And he's been married.

676
00:45:01.560 --> 00:45:03.080
He's on his fifth marriage right now.

677
00:45:05.840 --> 00:45:07.600
And the other day I was sitting across from him.

678
00:45:07.600 --> 00:45:10.920
I was down where he lives in Southern California and I took him to breakfast

679
00:45:10.920 --> 00:45:13.920
and he came and, and he's a broken and beat up person and guess what?

680
00:45:13.920 --> 00:45:14.760
He's a believer now.

681
00:45:14.760 --> 00:45:18.120
He's given his life to Jesus and, you know, and, and I really

682
00:45:18.120 --> 00:45:19.880
want to love him and forgive him.

683
00:45:20.840 --> 00:45:22.160
You know, and that's a process.

684
00:45:22.160 --> 00:45:24.120
And for those of you that are still in process with that, I

685
00:45:24.120 --> 00:45:24.840
just want to encourage you.

686
00:45:24.840 --> 00:45:29.160
It is a process, but he said something that I could have really allowed to offend me.

687
00:45:30.000 --> 00:45:33.080
We were just sitting and talking and he was talking about his

688
00:45:33.080 --> 00:45:34.400
struggles with his current wife.

689
00:45:34.400 --> 00:45:35.600
This is wife number five.

690
00:45:36.160 --> 00:45:38.880
And I lived with him for three months when I was 16 years old.

691
00:45:38.880 --> 00:45:39.920
I needed a place to live.

692
00:45:39.920 --> 00:45:40.800
I was homeless.

693
00:45:41.120 --> 00:45:42.400
I didn't have anywhere to go.

694
00:45:42.560 --> 00:45:45.040
I lived with him and his wife at the time.

695
00:45:45.040 --> 00:45:46.440
I think that was wife number three.

696
00:45:46.920 --> 00:45:49.800
And, you know, he's like, well, you know, Vicky, that's her name.

697
00:45:49.800 --> 00:45:51.320
He's like, you know, she died of cancer.

698
00:45:52.360 --> 00:45:54.840
And I was like, oh yeah, I'm so sorry to hear that.

699
00:45:54.880 --> 00:45:57.120
He's like, yeah, he's like crazy.

700
00:45:57.120 --> 00:46:00.440
But three of my five wives died young of cancer.

701
00:46:00.640 --> 00:46:06.400
And that really started to piss me off because one of those women was my mother.

702
00:46:10.000 --> 00:46:14.880
Because you guys know it had been easy for me to, to say, I did think this thought,

703
00:46:14.880 --> 00:46:18.320
but to hold onto this thought in my heart, this is a difference between

704
00:46:18.320 --> 00:46:20.600
offensive thoughts coming and staying.

705
00:46:21.600 --> 00:46:27.360
The offensive thought came like, you know, oh, you married five women,

706
00:46:28.440 --> 00:46:30.160
cheated on them, abused them.

707
00:46:30.160 --> 00:46:33.320
Three of them are now dead from cancer, but you're still here.

708
00:46:34.240 --> 00:46:35.440
You big piece of crap.

709
00:46:37.600 --> 00:46:38.800
I'm just being honest.

710
00:46:40.000 --> 00:46:41.160
That's the thought that came.

711
00:46:44.400 --> 00:46:46.200
But that's not the thought that I allowed to stay.

712
00:46:47.280 --> 00:46:50.240
In fact, you guys, that is the very day that I talked about on a different

713
00:46:50.400 --> 00:46:55.840
Supernatural Saturday where he was broken and he was telling us how much he was

714
00:46:55.840 --> 00:47:01.480
hurting and we circled back around after leaving, seeing him broken, walking out to

715
00:47:01.480 --> 00:47:05.840
his car, like 150 years old when he's only 71.

716
00:47:06.080 --> 00:47:09.400
And we circled back around and came back and laid hands on him and prayed for him.

717
00:47:09.400 --> 00:47:11.880
And he began to weep and cry.

718
00:47:15.520 --> 00:47:16.560
We have a choice.

719
00:47:17.560 --> 00:47:22.480
When offense comes, we can find out what hard and part of our heart it's pointing

720
00:47:22.480 --> 00:47:27.040
to, and we can invite Holy Spirit into that place to bring regeneration and

721
00:47:27.040 --> 00:47:30.680
resurrection, or we can stay offended, which will turn to bitterness.

722
00:47:31.120 --> 00:47:32.440
It'll turn to resentment.

723
00:47:32.480 --> 00:47:33.680
It'll turn to hatred.

724
00:47:34.320 --> 00:47:35.320
It'll turn to death.

725
00:47:36.800 --> 00:47:38.480
We can, we can do both.

726
00:47:40.760 --> 00:47:41.640
We have a choice.

727
00:47:41.640 --> 00:47:42.520
We have free will.

728
00:47:42.560 --> 00:47:46.160
And you guys, a lot of times, have you ever, I've never met an offended person

729
00:47:46.160 --> 00:47:48.760
who doesn't have a good reason for being offended.

730
00:47:50.520 --> 00:47:53.560
Of course, there's plenty of good reasons for being offended.

731
00:47:54.160 --> 00:48:00.960
James 3, 13 talks about the wisdom that comes from meekness, comes from that

732
00:48:00.960 --> 00:48:03.840
yielded strength, that's what meekness is, not weakness.

733
00:48:03.840 --> 00:48:06.120
Meekness is us yielding our strength to God.

734
00:48:06.160 --> 00:48:06.720
Okay.

735
00:48:07.000 --> 00:48:08.320
But it talks about that.

736
00:48:08.320 --> 00:48:14.560
It talks about how, you know, jealousy and envy and offense and bitterness, you

737
00:48:14.560 --> 00:48:16.360
know, it seems reasonable to us.

738
00:48:19.840 --> 00:48:21.520
Sometimes it might even seem wise.

739
00:48:21.520 --> 00:48:24.720
You might not even think that it's offense that you're dealing with.

740
00:48:24.720 --> 00:48:26.640
You might just think that it's discernment.

741
00:48:27.240 --> 00:48:31.480
I am wise about this situation, but it's not true.

742
00:48:32.280 --> 00:48:33.120
It's not discernment.

743
00:48:33.120 --> 00:48:33.880
It's offense.

744
00:48:34.000 --> 00:48:35.920
We have to release it to the Lord.

745
00:48:38.800 --> 00:48:40.200
Anyone learn anything today?

746
00:48:44.760 --> 00:48:49.480
You guys know that part in book of John where Jesus says to the multitude, you

747
00:48:49.480 --> 00:48:53.200
know, your forefathers ate manna, but you're going to eat my flesh and drink

748
00:48:53.200 --> 00:48:54.680
my blood, remember that part.

749
00:48:54.680 --> 00:48:57.640
And he says, you're going to eat my flesh and drink my blood, and you're

750
00:48:57.640 --> 00:48:59.320
going to eat my flesh and drink my blood.

751
00:48:59.320 --> 00:49:03.640
And he says, your forefathers ate manna, but you're going to eat my flesh and

752
00:49:03.640 --> 00:49:05.240
drink my blood, remember that part.

753
00:49:05.240 --> 00:49:08.840
And then everyone left because they were, because you guys have to understand that

754
00:49:08.840 --> 00:49:10.240
he purposely offended them.

755
00:49:10.640 --> 00:49:14.600
He purposely was trying to offend them because, you know, cannibalism was like

756
00:49:14.600 --> 00:49:16.360
the worst thing that you could do as a Jew.

757
00:49:18.840 --> 00:49:22.200
Can't be a cannibal, can't eat dead people.

758
00:49:23.360 --> 00:49:23.880
All right.

759
00:49:24.400 --> 00:49:29.840
And so a lot of those people, they just left, but there's something in that

760
00:49:29.840 --> 00:49:31.840
scripture that I think we don't really notice.

761
00:49:31.840 --> 00:49:36.000
It says that when they got offended, they left, but they returned to

762
00:49:36.000 --> 00:49:37.840
their old associations.

763
00:49:39.000 --> 00:49:41.160
You guys, that's where I want to land the plane here.

764
00:49:42.760 --> 00:49:47.840
The Bible is clearly showing us is when we allow ourselves to be offended, we

765
00:49:47.840 --> 00:49:49.080
don't go any further.

766
00:49:49.080 --> 00:49:50.240
We don't progress.

767
00:49:50.240 --> 00:49:52.520
We go back to our old associations.

768
00:49:53.520 --> 00:49:57.400
Offense is keeping us, it's a block, it's keeping us from moving forward.

769
00:49:57.400 --> 00:49:59.120
It's keeping us from learning more.

770
00:49:59.120 --> 00:49:59.960
It's keeping us from.

771
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:07.960
growing more, from understanding more, it's stunting us.

772
00:50:07.960 --> 00:50:12.000
We don't want to go back to our old associations.

773
00:50:12.000 --> 00:50:15.120
One thing I'm going to tell you because I've been on this journey for a while now is the

774
00:50:15.120 --> 00:50:18.160
kingdom versus the church, the kingdom.

775
00:50:18.160 --> 00:50:20.720
Kingdom stuff is going to offend you.

776
00:50:20.720 --> 00:50:22.040
It definitely is.

777
00:50:22.040 --> 00:50:26.960
If you want to go sit back and pat a cake for Jesus in some kind of dead religion, you

778
00:50:26.960 --> 00:50:31.000
can, and there might not be anything there that offends or challenges you.

779
00:50:31.000 --> 00:50:34.840
It depends on how much kingdom you've drank, because I will tell you that once you start

780
00:50:34.840 --> 00:50:40.400
drinking the kingdom, you will never be satisfied going back and sitting in religion.

781
00:50:40.400 --> 00:50:44.920
You will be super offended by religion all the time, because once again, offense can

782
00:50:44.920 --> 00:50:45.920
be an upgrade.

783
00:50:45.920 --> 00:50:54.680
It can really be an upgrade for you, but if you haven't partaken of the kingdom and you're

784
00:50:54.680 --> 00:50:57.760
allowing kingdom ideas to offend you, to offend what?

785
00:50:57.760 --> 00:51:04.640
To offend your poverty mentality, your orphan mentality, to offend your religious consciousness.

786
00:51:04.640 --> 00:51:06.800
I mean, grace is scandalous, you guys.

787
00:51:06.800 --> 00:51:08.000
Grace offends people.

788
00:51:08.000 --> 00:51:12.720
When you tell people that Jesus died for them and as them, and the only thing that they're

789
00:51:12.720 --> 00:51:18.360
ever going to do to participate in their salvation is believe, people get offended by that.

790
00:51:18.360 --> 00:51:20.480
No, no, no, no.

791
00:51:20.480 --> 00:51:27.440
They're fighting for their right to have to work this like a job.

792
00:51:27.440 --> 00:51:33.920
They're fighting for it.

793
00:51:33.920 --> 00:51:40.880
They're fighting to live under the law.

794
00:51:40.880 --> 00:51:44.840
So I want you to think right now about what offends you, what easily offends you, where

795
00:51:44.840 --> 00:51:49.600
do you get offended most in life?

796
00:51:49.600 --> 00:51:50.600
And I want you to put it in the chat.

797
00:51:50.600 --> 00:51:55.840
I'm going to practice some James 5 16, and you guys come to, I think, I think we might

798
00:51:55.840 --> 00:52:02.320
have prophetic night, all community prophetic night this Sunday, but we will, we'll, we

799
00:52:02.320 --> 00:52:08.000
will dig more into this because God wants to free us from the blockage of offense, offense.

800
00:52:08.000 --> 00:52:10.440
When it comes, it can upgrade you guys.

801
00:52:10.440 --> 00:52:11.440
You want it to come.

802
00:52:11.440 --> 00:52:15.000
You don't want to be offended because that is pointing to an unhealed part of your heart.

803
00:52:15.000 --> 00:52:19.560
And if you do the hard work in that moment, you allow Holy Spirit into that instead of,

804
00:52:19.560 --> 00:52:23.360
you know, grabbing ahold of that offense and letting it grow into resentment and bitterness,

805
00:52:23.360 --> 00:52:24.960
you start to deal with it.

806
00:52:24.960 --> 00:52:31.920
You start to deal with why that thing is bothering you, why that person is bothering you.

807
00:52:31.920 --> 00:52:40.400
You get upgraded, you get an upgrade, you get promoted, but if you allow it to fester

808
00:52:40.400 --> 00:52:47.440
and you nurture it and you coddle it because it feels good to be mad, then that's when

809
00:52:47.440 --> 00:52:49.960
that can start turning into some crazy stuff.

810
00:52:49.960 --> 00:52:52.480
Okay, let's see it.

811
00:52:52.480 --> 00:52:53.480
See what offends you.

812
00:52:53.480 --> 00:52:54.720
Come on, get them up.

813
00:52:54.720 --> 00:52:56.760
Be honest.

814
00:52:56.760 --> 00:53:10.200
I can't make you be honest, but if you want to be free, you got to be honest.

815
00:53:10.200 --> 00:53:14.080
I'm just going to grab this one right here because it sounds so righteous and it sounds

816
00:53:14.080 --> 00:53:15.080
so noble.

817
00:53:15.080 --> 00:53:18.800
I get offended when people do wrong to others.

818
00:53:18.800 --> 00:53:20.720
Yeah.

819
00:53:20.720 --> 00:53:22.360
But you know what?

820
00:53:22.360 --> 00:53:23.760
We can't control other people.

821
00:53:23.760 --> 00:53:26.140
We can't control what people do.

822
00:53:26.140 --> 00:53:30.680
And so instead of being offended by the wrong that people do, let's be the right thing in

823
00:53:30.680 --> 00:53:31.680
the earth.

824
00:53:31.680 --> 00:53:35.600
Let's be the people that do right by others in the earth.

825
00:53:35.600 --> 00:53:43.440
The only way that we can counteract evil in the earth is when we do good, right?

826
00:53:43.440 --> 00:53:49.960
We're not going to sit around and worry about what all the evil people are doing.

827
00:53:49.960 --> 00:53:52.400
I just recently heard someone talking about that.

828
00:53:52.400 --> 00:53:55.960
They were so mad because they're like, God, look at these people over here doing that.

829
00:53:55.960 --> 00:53:58.480
You know, why are they getting away with that?

830
00:53:58.480 --> 00:54:02.720
And I'm over here and you know, you're not letting me get away with anything.

831
00:54:02.720 --> 00:54:07.040
And he said to them, those aren't my kids.

832
00:54:07.040 --> 00:54:08.040
Those children.

833
00:54:08.040 --> 00:54:09.040
Oh, hear this.

834
00:54:09.040 --> 00:54:11.560
Those children have a different father.

835
00:54:11.560 --> 00:54:16.760
Oh, oh my goodness.

836
00:54:16.760 --> 00:54:21.000
Oh my goodness.

837
00:54:21.000 --> 00:54:26.480
Oh my goodness.

838
00:54:26.480 --> 00:54:31.440
The same that follow after the spirit of God, they will be called the sons of God.

839
00:54:31.440 --> 00:54:33.400
Not everyone's God's kids y'all.

840
00:54:33.400 --> 00:54:35.960
I know we think, oh, all of humanity, God's children.

841
00:54:35.960 --> 00:54:37.720
That's not true.

842
00:54:37.720 --> 00:54:38.720
That's not biblical.

843
00:54:38.720 --> 00:54:39.720
God's creation.

844
00:54:39.720 --> 00:54:40.720
Yes.

845
00:54:40.720 --> 00:54:41.720
God's children.

846
00:54:41.720 --> 00:54:42.720
No.

847
00:54:42.720 --> 00:54:47.720
Because God's children, it's a byproduct of the reconciliation process of the finished

848
00:54:47.720 --> 00:54:49.240
work of the cross.

849
00:54:49.240 --> 00:54:54.480
Jesus came to reconcile us back to the family, back to our heritage and our inheritance as

850
00:54:54.480 --> 00:54:56.400
God's kids.

851
00:54:56.400 --> 00:54:58.600
If you don't partake of that, you're not God's kid.

852
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:16.440
I really want to encourage you guys to look at what you've put in the chat and really

853
00:55:16.440 --> 00:55:26.160
invite Holy Spirit into those places that have been offending you and ask yourself why.

854
00:55:26.160 --> 00:55:28.320
Why does this offend me?

855
00:55:28.320 --> 00:55:32.920
Why do the actions of other people offend me?

856
00:55:32.920 --> 00:55:38.240
Why does it offend me when this specific thing happens, but I don't get offended by this

857
00:55:38.240 --> 00:55:45.760
other stuff, but I do get offended by this, this one thing.

858
00:55:45.760 --> 00:55:50.720
I heard a woman talk about how she sat down with a friend, with a group of friends, and

859
00:55:50.720 --> 00:55:54.760
they were about to eat, like they met each other at a restaurant, they sat down and the

860
00:55:54.760 --> 00:56:00.320
food came and the one friend sitting across from her like ate her food really quickly.

861
00:56:00.320 --> 00:56:03.600
And this woman was like, oh my gosh, she's like, you must have been really hungry.

862
00:56:03.600 --> 00:56:05.240
Like she didn't mean anything by it.

863
00:56:05.240 --> 00:56:09.560
She wasn't saying, oh, you're a glutton or oh, you're a fatty patty.

864
00:56:09.560 --> 00:56:10.560
She wasn't saying anything.

865
00:56:10.560 --> 00:56:13.120
She was just saying, wow, you must have really been hungry.

866
00:56:13.120 --> 00:56:16.120
It was just like a observation.

867
00:56:16.120 --> 00:56:20.000
But she noticed at the end of the dinner that first of all, that woman got really quiet,

868
00:56:20.000 --> 00:56:24.680
was talking less and at the end of the dinner that there was a little bit of food left on

869
00:56:24.680 --> 00:56:29.880
that woman's plate that she hadn't eaten and she had it boxed and she took it home.

870
00:56:29.880 --> 00:56:34.600
She found out later that that woman didn't finish her dinner because of that comment

871
00:56:34.600 --> 00:56:37.120
that she made, which once again had no guile in it.

872
00:56:37.120 --> 00:56:39.880
It had no guile in it.

873
00:56:39.880 --> 00:56:46.400
You guys, I need you guys to understand that that woman who was finishing her food quickly,

874
00:56:46.400 --> 00:56:51.440
he brought that virus to the table.

875
00:56:51.440 --> 00:56:54.280
He brought that offense inside of herself.

876
00:56:54.280 --> 00:56:58.400
Somewhere inside of herself, he has some kind of shame around food or he has some kind

877
00:56:58.400 --> 00:57:04.080
of shame around eating or, you know, her weight or her body, something.

878
00:57:04.080 --> 00:57:10.040
That woman triggered her by that observation that she must have been really hungry.

879
00:57:10.040 --> 00:57:15.920
Do you see how easy it is?

880
00:57:15.920 --> 00:57:20.480
Remember, we don't hear things the way they are being said.

881
00:57:20.480 --> 00:57:29.680
We hear things the way that we are inside.

882
00:57:29.680 --> 00:57:36.520
If you want to truly be unfiltered, you have to do your heart work.

883
00:57:36.520 --> 00:57:39.720
A lot of people getting upset at themselves, some of you admitting that you get offended

884
00:57:39.720 --> 00:57:50.680
at God, all kinds of things.

885
00:57:50.680 --> 00:57:53.640
I want you to dig into these things.

886
00:57:53.640 --> 00:57:55.560
I want you to invite Holy Spirit into these places.

887
00:57:55.560 --> 00:57:58.200
In fact, let's do it as a community.

888
00:57:58.200 --> 00:58:05.920
Father, great is the peace of those that love your word, which is Jesus, and nothing will

889
00:58:05.920 --> 00:58:08.240
offend us.

890
00:58:08.240 --> 00:58:09.240
Nothing will offend us.

891
00:58:09.760 --> 00:58:16.640
We know that you sent your son not to unify, but to divide, to be a stumbling block, to

892
00:58:16.640 --> 00:58:24.240
offend in some ways, but only for the purpose of upgrade, only for the purpose of promotion,

893
00:58:24.240 --> 00:58:28.480
only for the purpose of us evolving into the better versions of ourselves, the kingdom

894
00:58:28.480 --> 00:58:30.440
versions of ourselves.

895
00:58:30.440 --> 00:58:35.920
And so, Lord, we thank you for the gift of offense when it comes to upgrade us, to promote

896
00:58:35.920 --> 00:58:43.920
us, help us to take a deeper look, help us to be aware, spiritually aware when we're

897
00:58:43.920 --> 00:58:49.640
offended that we need to invite you in and take a deeper look at what is the root of

898
00:58:49.640 --> 00:58:50.640
that offense.

899
00:58:50.640 --> 00:58:51.640
Why does it bother us?

900
00:58:51.640 --> 00:58:53.560
Where is it coming from?

901
00:58:53.560 --> 00:58:59.040
And if it's righteous, help us to come to you in intercession, partnering with heaven

902
00:58:59.040 --> 00:59:01.520
in prayer for transformation.

903
00:59:01.520 --> 00:59:06.640
And if it's unrighteous, if it's born out of jealousy or resentment, envy, if it's born

904
00:59:06.640 --> 00:59:12.360
out of old past traumas that are full of bitterness and unforgiveness, then let us help us, grace

905
00:59:12.360 --> 00:59:17.440
us to release those things to you that we might be healed, that our heart lens might

906
00:59:17.440 --> 00:59:22.720
be cleaned, that we could see clearly, and that we could love better.

907
00:59:22.720 --> 00:59:27.720
Lord, we thank you, God, that we are going to be a people that are not offended, a people

908
00:59:27.720 --> 00:59:33.320
that live in peace and bring peace wherever we go, a people after your heart and that

909
00:59:33.320 --> 00:59:37.760
represent you well on the earth, and a people that live abundantly and prosperously because

910
00:59:37.760 --> 00:59:40.720
we're not stuck.

911
00:59:40.720 --> 00:59:48.000
We're able to go forward because we trust you and we're living life according to your

912
00:59:48.000 --> 00:59:50.480
realities and your perceptions and not our own.

913
00:59:50.480 --> 00:59:52.280
In Jesus' name, let it be so.

914
00:59:52.280 --> 00:59:53.280
Amen.

915
00:59:53.280 --> 00:59:54.280
I love you guys.

916
00:59:54.280 --> 00:59:55.440
Have an amazing day and we'll see you soon.