All right, welcome everyone to Monday Night Live coaching session.
This is for March 3rd.
You guys, today's 3-3.
You know, I love numbers.
God always speaks to me through lots of different ways, and one of the ways that he speaks to
me is through numbers.
Can I tell you that I was traveling someplace?
I was in my car, I was driving, and I saw, you know, I look at license plate numbers
and just, you know, sometimes I'll notice a number and I'll be like, oh yeah, that's,
you know, Esther 410, or that's this, or that's Esther 414, or that's, you know, Proverbs,
you know, 1822.
You know, I'll just see things that will remind me of the word of God, and, you know, I'll
just grab a hold of that as, you know, the Lord is putting me into remembrance of his
word.
But I saw a number, and I kept seeing it.
So that day I saw it on a license plate, and then later that day I saw it again on a different
license plate, and I knew it wasn't a scripture in the Bible because there isn't any number
that that's that big for a scripture, right?
And so I was like, okay, yeah, that's, you know, something else, and I kept making a
note in my mind that, hey, you know what, I should go look that up.
I should research that.
I should dig in a little bit deeper and see if that is indeed God talking to me or if
it's just a coincidence, right?
Is it a God wink?
Is it God winking at me saying, hey, Jackie, pay attention, or is it just a coincidence?
Because sometimes it's just a coincidence, you guys, but it doesn't mean that you can't
take it as positivity, but it's not always just a divine moment or intersection with
the Lord.
So I put it kind of filed away to the back of my mind, and then I was at the airport
and I was going to someplace, conference somewhere, and a girl in front of me in line on her backpack
had that number again, and I was like, okay, this is probably not a coincidence.
So I just Googled the number.
I said, is there any meaning to this number, 8848, and you know what it is?
It is the height of Mount Everest.
It popped up immediately, and actually her bag, there's a ski brand that named itself
after that number because Everest, right?
There's like an outdoor brand, maybe not a ski brand, but an outdoor brand that named
itself after that.
And so I was like, okay, God's like, wow, that's the tippy, tippy top of Mount Everest.
That's how high it is.
So what's the message?
Because I know this girl ain't climbing that mountain, all right?
I'm not.
Do you guys know that they actually mark the route to the top by like places where people
have died?
It's like, oh, there's yellow ski hat guy, and there's blue ski boots guy, and then there's
like, oh, I'm sorry.
If your marker's on the way to the top or people that have died trying, I'm probably
not going to do it.
But anyway, I just, you know, it's like, Lord, you know what?
What's the message?
And so you got to press in for the message.
Even if you know God's winking at you, sometimes the message is not just self-explanatory.
It doesn't have to be one faceted, it can be more than one facet.
And so push in, press in, that's your invitation to come and seek.
You know, the Bible says that it's God's what?
It's his pleasure to hide things, and it's the pleasure of us kings to seek it out, right?
We're kings, and we're priests.
If you prefer gender appropriateness, then we're queens, and we're priestesses, I don't
know.
But you have to understand, God, while he does have a lot of respect for the divine
masculine and feminine, he saw that Adam wasn't good without the counterpart.
It wasn't a finished or complete creation without Eve.
At the same time, being the bride of Christ, being the sons of God, a lot of that's very
interchangeable in the word, right?
God doesn't love the masculine more than he loves the feminine.
And so if that's something that you've been believing, then guess what?
This is your invitation to let go of that lie, because God absolutely loves the feminine.
In fact, did you know that in the Bible, there's a word that describes you as a wife and as
a partner?
And it actually means warrior.
It actually means coming kind of to the rescue in a way, and it's the word Eve.
And it's used 21 times in the word of God and 19 of those times it's used for God coming
as the rescue, okay, as the champion, as the warrior.
And then twice it's used for us, for women.
And so I think that that kind of shows you what God thinks of the feminine, right?
We're strong, we're soft, but we're strong.
We're gentle, we're humble, but we're also strong.
We can be fierce if we need to be in the right ways.
And so that is what your divine masculine counterpart that's out there somewhere is
looking for.
He's looking for that version of you.
He's looking for someone who can partner with him, with his masculine, and you guys can
change your lineage and legacy.
So this is being recorded and I also taught this morning.
So you can listen to that.
It's going to be a completely different session this morning than it is tonight.
I've been drinking this Ollipop.
I don't know if this is good for you or not, you guys, but my kids got me on this.
It's probably halfway good for you.
Okay.
Maybe halfway good.
All right.
So Bethany left me a lot of notes, but I'm going to go rogue and just do whatever Holy
Spirit does.
How about that?
That's what I want to do tonight.
And then she's got some great notes and she'll teach you that next week on Monday when she
comes back around.
So the very first thing that I want to do is I want to find out who you guys are.
Like I see your names, but like what, what week of the heart work are you in?
One, two, three, four, or five.
Put that in the chat.
Let me see who is here and where you are in the material.
All right.
We have week two.
So Kathy's understanding her heart there in week two, finding out, hey, where does all
this stuff come from?
Week four and Denise and Sarah are both on.
And so is Pat on week four, which is the forgiveness week.
You guys give yourself a lot of grace and space for that week, right?
You might not be able to get it done in a week and that's fine.
You want to make sure that you are not mailing that in.
Stephanie's also week two.
That's the understanding the heart week.
Liza is in week three.
And so is Amanda.
And that's the confession week, repentance and confession.
That's a really good one.
I think that the coaching Bethany was going to do tonight was more geared towards James
516, which is confession.
Laura Rio joy, both in the forgiveness week, just as in week two as well, Stacy's in week
five.
So she is completing her heart work.
She's in the real you starting to take a look at what is the authentic her look like outside
of all of this trauma.
That's going to be great.
Kathy's in week five as well.
Jody's in week one.
Welcome.
Alina is in week one.
That is the supernatural surrender week.
Everything that you do in heart work is going to be based on you really giving God permission
to be meddling around in those heart boxes.
And so that permission slip is really important.
If you have to revisit that every single day, yes, you are going to feel some fields to
heal some fields.
There's going to be some distractions and some disruptions.
You guys, I don't warn you about what's going to happen when you start the heart work.
I don't.
That list didn't just come out of nowhere.
It came out of what I've seen people go through and what I went through when I first started
doing the heart work.
I was the heart works first student.
God gave me the heart work.
He downloaded this information to me when I was a young believer and he has built on
it over the years and I've been teaching it for a really long time to other people.
But it set me free first and it was a process and it was layer upon layer upon layer.
And I will tell you that the stuff that I've compiled in that what to expect video is stuff
that really happens.
It's the real deal.
You can expect distractions and disruptions.
You can expect to just be like, eh, this isn't going to change anything.
I think I'm just going to give up.
You can expect to be offended.
You can expect anything and everything trying to keep you from moving forward with this
and really digging in, really digging in.
You can expect, you know, negative feelings.
You can expect some positive feelings.
You can expect the dreams.
You can expect the visions.
You can expect daydreams as far as like sitting around and imagining what your future can
look like more than you ever have before.
You can expect all of those things because that's what happens when people start to do
the heart work.
Have you ever like started working at a new job and they give you a handbook and it's
full of rules about what you can and can't do at work?
Well, those rules didn't just come out of nowhere.
They came out of someone doing that at work.
Okay.
One time I had a handbook that said no evening wear a prom dress.
at work like don't like under the dress code no prom dresses I was like what
someone apparently probably more than one someone wore some kind of evening
wear to work and that became a rule and so same thing with those those
guidelines of heart work they're there for a reason all right so we have Lolita
is in week three that's the confession week so is Karen Michelle's in week five
Brenda's in week three Sarah's almost done with week three we have Sue in week
two Karis is in week five just you guys know those of you that are about to
graduate to phase two don't be in a hurry and make sure that you're really
giving that week five everything because that is setting the stage for what's
coming next and then you'll learn about boundaries in phase two so you can
protect that real you guys it's not enough to really know how God created us
and to get free from all this trauma response and these trauma identities
it's also important that we have the tools to protect that real us and not
just go right back to where we started from underneath all kinds of layers of
people-pleasing and you know self-defense and preservation techniques
we don't want to do that so it's important that we learn those boundaries
and we think that we're valuable enough to really protect that authentic
identity that God is revealing Sylvia's in week two Joanne one one three
Jennifer's in one welcome all of you that are new supernatural surrender once
again make sure that you are not mailing it in do not mail it in that's gonna be
really important all right thank you for letting me know where you guys are
all right so it seems like most of you a handful of you are in week one and two
but most of you are a week three to five in this group right here all right so
week one and two very important laying a foundation setting the stage giving
surrender and permission don't forget to make your Jesus cares board everyone in
here should have a Jesus cares board that is a supernatural activation
whatever you put on there you are releasing prophetically to God and he
knows it and you know it and you're gonna feel a lot less stressed out
you're gonna really believe that you have given that to God and it is now his
problem and not yours and guess what he doesn't have any problems all right if
he needs your help with something he'll let you know in the meantime you're just
releasing it okay now you can't release cleaning your house to the Lord okay
you're single and you're the only breadwinner right now in your family so
you can't release going to work to the Lord so but I put it on my Jesus cares
board and you know I'm just gonna let him handle it I'm gonna sit here and in
my jammies and do my thing no there are some things that you're gonna have to
continue to do and you are going to trust the Lord that if that's something
you really don't want to be doing that put that on your Jesus cares board say
God I need a new job in fact I don't want a job I want an assignment I want a
vocation I want a purpose put that on your Jesus cares board let him start
taking care of that all right that's how you do that all right so for if
you're in week one and two you should be making those all the rest of you should
already have it be using it because if you work it it works right so I'm gonna
just repeat what I said to the first session today there's a lot of
distraction specifically offense comes in tries to get us and I don't mean like
you get offended in this program but you just get offended in life right you
just get into a place where you're offended you don't think anything's ever
gonna change you get a bad attitude and then you stop trying to progress you
kind of quit the things that are meant to help move you forward and I can tell
you without exception I have failed at a hundred percent of the things that I
have signed up for and not shown up for
and God in his grace and mercy always brings that opportunity back around but
you guys I pray over those things on my Jesus cares board and then opportunities
show up to solve those problems don't they but a lot of times those
opportunities and the people that are carrying those opportunities or those
solutions they don't look like what we expect and so we might either ignore it
or push it away be like yeah
Oh, that can't be the, that can't be the solution.
That's too easy, or that's too hard, or I don't like that person or
whatever it is that comes along.
And then if we get far enough past our own, you know, objections, if we get
far enough to actually sign up, a lot of times, if we don't have
immediate breakthrough, we quit.
And we just say, oh, that doesn't work.
Isn't that what we say?
Your functional doctor says, hey, how's that supplement working?
You're like, oh yeah, it didn't work for me.
Oh, really?
How long did you take it?
Oh, two weeks.
That's not how it works.
You got to have consistency.
You got to have discipline.
Right?
God leads us to water, but he cannot make us drink.
He can't.
I remember when I was a young believer, I was thrown into leadership
before I had a lot of character.
I think it's because I have a big mouth.
They're like, she can talk, make her a leader.
So I met Jesus.
They immediately thrust me into leadership.
I'm 22 years old.
I don't know really a lot.
Okay.
But I'm willing to, you know, fake it until I make it, I guess.
And I really, really wanted people to have breakthrough.
Like I really wanted it so much.
And a lot of times I wanted it more for people than they actually wanted it
for themselves.
And so I ended up becoming a social worker and you guys, I have a, I had a
very overextended mercy gift and helper gift.
And what does that mean?
That means God gives us gifts, but if we don't have that gift in the right
context of identity, like he's the source and we're just a resource, those
gifts become overextended by our trauma personalities, and then they become
weaknesses.
A lot of you are amazing helpers.
You have all kinds of wisdom and information to give, but you're also
people pleasers because of trauma.
If you have a helping gift and a people pleasing personality, that's going to
burn you out and ruin your life.
It's going to burn you out and ruin your life.
And that's exactly what the opposing forces want, right?
What better way to destroy you than by serving God?
I'm going to tell you, if you have an orphan identity or you're just trying
to get significance or earn your keep by your good works, the church model, the
religious model loves orphans because they serve with no boundaries.
Oh, sister Lolita, can you run this this week?
Oh yeah, yeah, I can do it.
Okay.
What about this next week?
Yeah, I can do it.
Well, what about twice on Sunday?
Oh yeah, I can do it.
No, no, you can't.
And you shouldn't.
I'm just using, I'm just pulling people out of the crowd.
Okay.
But if the shoe fits, tie it up and wear it.
Because the bottom line is, is God wants to get us free.
He wants to understand that our gifts are beautiful, but they're not beautiful when
they're overextended by trauma personalities and trauma identities.
And that's why God wants to heal that so that we can start using those gifts again
with, without, without it causing us hurt and pain.
The gifts God has given you to serve the world and to bring attention and make him
famous in the earth, because what does the Bible say?
It says, and they'll see your good works and they'll glorify your father in heaven.
Right?
And so it's important that we understand that God wants you to just thrive with the
things that he's given you.
But if the things that he's given you, you're using incorrectly because of
something like what I'm talking about, a people pleasing situation, um, then it's
going to hurt you and not help you.
So anyway, I'm helping people and you guys, I'm helping till it literally hurts,
literally hurts me and hurts them.
I'm enabling, I'm just the hot mess express, but my heart's in the right place.
I don't know that I'm, I don't know that I'm overhelping.
I'm just trying to be a good Christian because I don't have a lot of discipleship
yet.
And so God took me aside and here's the moral to this whole sidebar, this whole
rabbit trail.
Here's the moral to the story.
God took me aside and he said, Hey Jackie, he said, you know, I've created you to be
a teacher.
He said, what's your responsibility as a teacher?
I said to speak the truth in love.
And he said, yes, he said, and then after you speak the truth in love, what is your
responsibility?
And then I said, you know, to help them receive it.
He's like, no, that's not your responsibility.
He said, let me give you a refresher on this.
He said, your job is to release the truth.
He said, and then after that, he said, your job is over.
And I said, oh, okay.
And he said, because this is what you're doing.
He said, you're leading them to water,
but you're not letting them make the decision to drink.
He said, your attitude is, well, you know,
maybe I'll just push their head under a little
and then they'll either drink or they'll drown.
In love, that's what I'll do.
And that's exactly what I was doing, you guys.
I was continually helping and helping and helping
and helping and helping until it hurt.
Once again, it was hurting them
because they were not learning how to go to God on their own
and it was also hurting me because I was getting burnout.
So I haven't, I don't know that I've ever told that story
in all my years of coaching.
And so that must be for someone here or someone in replay.
And so once again, if that shoe fits,
make sure that you're saying, ooh,
and you're going to God and saying,
hey, I don't want to do that anymore.
My responsibility is to lead people to the truth.
What they do with it is none of my business.
That's where my responsibility ends.
All right, cool.
All right, so I saw some people say,
hey, I was really hoping to confess tonight.
And so we can do some of that.
And you guys, we're going to take Q&A.
You can ask questions about heart work,
one, two, three, four, five, anything that you're stuck in.
Remember, we're never stuck on the outside.
We're only stuck on the inside, right?
And so we can do any and all of that.
Who wants to go first?
Who wants any question, anything?
This is just a coaching session.
So I'll let you guys ask what you want.
Go ahead, Sarah.
Hi, Jackie.
It's so nice to have you subbing here and have you with us.
Yay, thank you.
I love it.
I'm glad to be here.
So I have a question.
I feel like I struggle with comparison
and just feeling like I'm not good enough
when let's say I'm interested in somebody.
And then all of a sudden all these thoughts
start just coming to my mind,
like, oh, that person over there is better for him.
He should want to be with her or this person.
And then I start feeling insecure
and I start feeling just like I'm not good enough,
like period, you know?
And I'm sure I know in your book
that you talk a lot about replacing those lies with truth
and all of that.
So maybe I'm not doing enough of it.
And, but I just, you know, I really struggle with that
with just feeling like when I start being interested
in somebody, I just think, well,
everybody else is better for him than me.
Okay, and let me ask you a question.
Are you actually, when you're saying everybody's better
for this person than you,
are you actually like thinking of specific people
that you know?
I think it's more just like, like, well, so maybe like,
so I want to have a child and I'm in my early forties.
And so I'm thinking, well, maybe he'd be better off
with this other person who's younger,
who could more easily probably give him a child
or I'm thinking, well, he probably would connect better
with this other person because of this thing, this,
you know, maybe he can have-
They're actual people that you're thinking of?
Okay. Yeah.
Other single people?
Yes. Okay, okay.
All right, so two things.
First of all, you guys,
when you actually get into a relationship with someone,
a lot of people, believe it or not,
they actually do what Sarah's talking about right now.
You know, it's part of avoidant attachment,
anxious avoidant, usually disordered attachment.
You'll learn more about that in phase two
and you'll find out, like, you'll take a quiz,
you'll find out where you kind of fall
in the whole spectrum of attachment style.
But the bottom line is, is that that is just a way
of not having to let someone in, right?
Oh, if someone else is always better for this person,
then I don't actually have to go deeper
in relationship with them.
I don't have to ever disappoint them, right?
I don't ever have to, you know, have them, you know,
wish that they had been with someone else besides me.
These are the fears, right?
That when they get in relationship with me,
they're gonna wish that they had chosen someone else.
And so, Sarah, it's important for you
to really ask yourself, when was the first time
that I really felt like, or saw,
maybe it wasn't even just felt like,
but actual, you know, experienced other people
being chosen instead of you?
Whether it was for kickball teams
or whether it was for parts in plays or, you know, choir,
or whether it was in your family
where there was a sibling that was favored.
You know, there's gotta be somewhere in your history
where you got the idea that you were, you know,
second, maybe even third best.
Okay.
You know?
And definitely some things are coming.
to mine, but well, well, one in particular would have been in my junior year of high
school when a boy I really liked asked me to the dance, the formal, and I was feeling
very insecure about my hair and my dress and everything.
I was feeling very secure, insecure about, and then the night of, it was like he picked
me up and we went with two other friends and then he ditched me.
He literally was like, left me to be with this other girl.
And Sarah was not Tim's date anymore that night until the drive home.
And it was so awkward and you could have like cut the tension with a knife in the car.
And it was so hurtful.
And I literally had to get saved like 20 times after that, cause I was so angry.
We went to the same school, Christian school.
It was very hard.
Did you say anything to him on the way home about it?
No, no.
And I was probably very like, um, passive aggressive.
Like then there on for the next year, it was, yeah, it was really hurtful and I didn't know
how to, and I didn't, you know, actually end up dating that other girl.
No, no, they were good friends, but they just were flirting, flirting that night.
Terribly.
Yeah.
Got it.
Okay.
So that definitely, and here's something that I told the morning session, um, that when
it comes to traumas, we can have real big traumas that are just obviously something
that really hurt us in life.
Like your parent died when you were a kid or you were abused in some way.
I get it.
Your husband cheated on you, something like that.
But then there are other things like what Sarah's talking about that a lot of people
just be like, Oh, whatever.
That's just part of growing up.
No, it can be very traumatic.
It can send a message that we actually internalize and it affects us the rest of our lives.
Yeah.
And you're, by the way, you're lovely.
So thank you.
Yes.
And so, and I'm sure that you were lovely when you were in high school as well.
And so here's the thing about boys and the thing about men, because both men are boys
inside.
It's important that we remember this and they don't really change in this way, but men have
a tendency to enjoy the company of women that are confident and also enjoy the company of
women that make them feel good about themselves.
Okay.
And I'm not saying that we need to fake that with guys, but if we're the kind of women
and I'm not, this is not directed towards Sarah.
This is just a coaching moment.
All of you should be on a dating sabbatical, but if you feel like you have a critical heart
towards men, because you've really been done wrong, you're going to want to let God heal
you of that here in phase one, because when you get into the dating phase, men can smell
that a thousand miles away and you will not be popular with the boys.
Okay.
Because men have enough on their plate than to have a woman who's critical and unhappy
and hard to please.
Right.
So, and I'm not saying that men are perfect or they're good or that we shouldn't, you
know, help people to become better versions of themselves within relationship.
You know, when we're, you know, really seriously exclusive and dating towards marriage, we
can begin to lovingly bring some, you know, advice to some situations that maybe they're
having in their lives because that's what a good woman does.
They're full of wisdom.
Did you know that wisdom is described as feminine in the Bible?
And so it's important that we remember that and understand that we have a lot of wisdom
that we're carrying, a lot of discernment, a lot of intuition.
That's important stuff.
But in the get to know you stages, if you have a hard heart, if you're bitter because
of things that have happened, I have a private client right now who can't get a date to save
her life.
And the reason why is because she secretly doesn't like men that much.
Not that she likes women.
It's not that kind of thing.
But it's like she just doesn't think highly of the male species.
She doesn't.
And you know what happens then?
It's like you're saying to yourself, okay, I think all men are pretty much the same and
that's not a good thing.
But I'm going to find the one man, the needle in the haystack that I can actually trust
that actually I'm going to find the one good one that's out there.
Well, you're not because what you believe about men is going to be a self-fulfilling
prophecy.
And so we got to make sure that we're unpacking that.
So Sarah was unpacking that.
She was really angry.
You guys, anger is hurt and fear is bodyguard.
When we're angry, we're usually just hurt or afraid.
And so if you're ever angry about anything, make sure that you stop and say, and that
includes friends.
Frustration, okay, all the aspects,
all the spectrum of anger, all right?
When that happens, make sure that you stop
and use your heart work tools and you say,
okay, I'm feeling a lot of anger right now,
I'm feeling a lot of rage maybe even,
I'm feeling a lot of frustration right now.
What am I afraid of or what inside of me
that is not healed is crying out right now?
What is hurting, where am I hurt?
Important that you do that and if you do that,
anger will tell you its real name.
You will find out that it's really just
fear of abandonment or rejection or it's,
you know, you're being triggered in this place
that is not healed yet and this situation
is bringing it back to the surface.
You know, it's grief, it's all different types of things.
Stacey, you're up.
Hey, Jackie.
Hi, so I had it on my heart for confession tonight
so I'm glad you brought that up.
So, one of the things that the Lord highlighted for me
to confess was back in the day, like in my early 20s,
I was out and about like at a bar
and I had been drinking and I wasn't drinking
and I have been drinking and I wasn't drunk by any means
but, and I can't remember what actually happened
but I got upset for some reason
and then ended up leaving the bar and drove home
and I, with my car, like ran into the mirror
on somebody's car and kind of like broke off the mirror.
Oh, no.
Yeah, and I was so afraid of, you know,
that I would like be caught and, you know,
get admired like that, that I didn't like sob
or like do anything and that's kind of, you know,
haunted me ever since.
So, I think the Lord just highlighted that for me
to confess and kind of just get off my chest.
So, I've never really told anyone that, so.
Wow.
All right, well, we feel very honored
that you would trust us with that information
and all of you that judged her for drinking and driving
need to check your heart at the door and get God to,
because listen, here's the thing,
when other people confess, James 5.16 says
confess your faults to one another and be healed,
sometimes other people's confessions trigger us
because we have a trauma that somehow is connected
to their confession, even though it wasn't them,
it was a similar situation.
So, Stacey, when did you say this was?
Like in my early 20s, probably shortly after I started.
You literally have never told anyone?
Uh-uh, no.
Wow.
Yeah.
Thank you.
Yeah.
Thank you so much for telling us.
How do you feel now?
A lot better, yeah, yeah.
It's good to just like get it off your chest
and have it out there and then like, you know,
like you don't have to worry about it anymore.
Wow, yeah, it is good.
Like I feel really bad, you know, it's like looking back,
it's like, I wish I had stopped
and like at least left a note and said,
hey, like I did this, I'm sorry,
but you know, hindsight is 20-20 and you can't.
For those of you that are going through it.
Can't go back and redo it, so.
You know, you can't, you cannot and,
but you know, it's great to not keep it in,
but to let it out.
When we keep it in, as I write in the heart work,
that is when the enemy can really accuse us
and attack us and condemn us.
I don't know if I say this in a video in the heart work,
I have not watched those heart work videos for years,
you guys, but do I ever talk about double jeopardy in the,
you know, cause I do a teaching about that,
but I'm not sure if I really talk about
how, you know, the enemy is an accuser,
like a prosecutor in a courtroom,
but if he's accusing us of a specific crime
and we confess, all right,
then, you know, we're acquitted obviously
by the righteous judge and by our advocate Jesus
who died for us and as us.
The problem is, is that if what,
if the details of what's happening are not accurate,
like if we're holding back
and we're only kind of telling partial truth
because we're able to kind of confess part of it,
like what if Stacy's true confession was,
hey, I drove drunk and instead of breaking a mirror off,
you know, like she hit someone.
What if that was really the confession,
but instead of-
telling us the whole thing she said yeah oh you know I drove drunk once and yeah
you know it was really wrong like I had been drinking and I drove and you know
and you know I caused you know I caused some damage but she didn't like she
never really confessed right so what happens is is then the enemy has power
over that partial confection to continue to torment you with well you you did
this you didn't do that you did this okay but if we confess to the fullness
of what we did we're still gonna be acquitted God's still gonna call us
innocent because of Jesus dying for us and being our advocate but now the enemy
doesn't have any ammunition I always said that I'd be a great politician
because I put all my skeletons on parade you will not find any skeletons my
closet because I believe in confession and so if anyone's gonna tell you
anything bad about me it's gonna be me I'm gonna be the one that told you that
I did it that I'm the guy right and so part of that double jeopardy and this is
how I learned about that is that while talking about my very destructive
childhood and a lot of you have heard me tell stories about my childhood you know
all of my cousins every one of my cousins that I was in contact with were
all you know involved in a very incestuous relationship with each other
you know we had a lot of incest in our family and so it was very normal for me
as a kid not only was I being sexually abused by my grandfather but to have
incestuous relationships with my brother my only sibling and also with our
cousins and all of us kind of together even though we were only you know
probably eight nine ten eleven twelve years old like up through those years
so one year a cousin came to visit our house and you know this was a cousin my
mom had six siblings this was a first cousin and just like all my other
cousins you know I had sexual contact with this cousin she was quite a bit
younger than me though she was like five or six years younger and and when I say
sexual content contact I just mean like you know sexual games and different
things like you know the kids that are coming from incestuous families play the
problem is is that when I met Jesus and grew up and I began to not just do
heart work but I began to teach other people how to get free from trauma I
would oftentimes tell the story of how you know basically I considered what
happened with this cousin because she was so much younger all my other cousins
were the same age as us like maybe one or two years difference this cousin
because she was so much younger I considered this kind of like something
that was really bad right and I would say oh you know and I was 12 years old
you know I had the sexual contact with my cousin who was like eight years old
at the time but you guys I wasn't 12 years old when it happened I was
actually a teenager I was 13 years old and Holy Spirit brought this small part
of the story to my to my attention and said hey Jackie you know you feel really
ashamed of this and the reason why you feel ashamed of this is because you're
not telling the truth and I was like well what's the truth and he was like
you were not 12 years old he were you were a teenager you were 13 and while
that doesn't make any difference to me this is God talking he said it obviously
makes a big difference to you you obviously are able to receive
forgiveness if you're 12 years old but for some reason you don't think that you
can be forgiven if you were 13 years old when you did this you were a teenager
right and so I realized that that was true and you guys when I confess to the
real crime you know at I was 13 years old when I had the sexual contact you
know she's just visiting for like a week so you know it didn't happen like for
years it happened like you know during that visit like once or twice but the
bottom line is is that I confess to being that much older than her and being
a teenager not an adolescent and I got free from the shame of that and so some
of you you might be holding back certain details from confession because you're
like well I think people can handle it if I did this and they could forgive me
and not think terribly of me but if they knew that I did this then maybe they
wouldn't be able to and so then we just kind of empower the enemy to continue to
bother us about this because we're not forgiving ourselves for the real details
and we're also not confessing to the real details does that really make sense
it's double jeopardy in the human courts someone cannot be tried for the same
crime twice keyword same crime they cannot be tried for the same crime twice
and so if you confess to the full thing the enemy has no power to prosecute you
again
after you've been acquitted.
So is anyone interested in confessing to the full,
to the full situation?
I saw one of you, I saw one of you post like,
my confession would make all of you feel like angels.
Well, now we're interested in hearing your confession,
not to judge you,
but to see if we truly feel like angels or not.
Because some of us, you know,
we came out of our mother's womb running for our lives
and we've seen a lot of stuff, you know,
we're like train wrecks and dumpster fires before Jesus
and even after Jesus for a little while.
So who's got what?
Liza, go.
Can I say it?
Okay.
I want to say, confess.
I had the relationship with my stepfather.
My stepfather sexually molested me.
And my mother also probably knew it
because she had a very bad childhood.
She was raped by her own brother.
The brother was different.
Anyway, just I want to confess,
I want to get rid of any skeleton in my life
so I can move on to be God,
create me to be the woman of God
and set free, to serve him.
Yeah.
Is your name Kiki?
Kiki.
Can you say it again?
Cause it's hard for me to hear.
Kiki.
Can you say it again?
Cause it's hard for me to sound things out.
My nickname, Coco.
Coco?
Okay.
So first of all, I'm so sorry that your stepfather,
you know, sexually abused you.
That's a horrible thing to experience.
I also have a story like that.
My grandfather who was my only father figure
sexually abused me from the time I was like two years old
till the time I was like 11.
And so I'm sorry that you experienced that.
And also like your story, my mother knew as well.
And so, and just didn't want to deal with it.
And so we, you know, first of all,
we release you from the pain of that.
And we believe that this confession is going to heal you
cause the Bible says confess to one another and be healed.
So any kind of residual hurt or pain
that you're experiencing because of this,
any kind of low self-esteem or self-hatred,
any kind of unforgiveness or resentment,
or even rage that you might feel against men,
against your mother, against any family,
we believe that you are released from that in Jesus name.
According to your word, Lord, let it be done.
Yes.
So I was being really tormented actually
because my situation is not,
actually, do you mind just have one or two minutes?
Because I had a relationship with him
because I fell in love with him.
Because at that time, my mom divorced
and I was in my heart, actually, I need love.
So he approached me, loved me and, you know, embraced me
and took me up on his bed after my mother,
every time she went to work.
So at that time, I do need love from, you know,
father, speaker, whatever.
So my mom could not give me and my father can.
So, and even though he did not totally rape me
or totally go through that whole sex,
he just, you know, anyway.
So that's why I fell in love.
That's why I was tormented
because I could not be with my stepfather.
So he did not belongs to me,
but I fell in love.
That's why I was so tormented in the night.
I was just, I could not remember exactly.
I was whole night, could not, just was tormented,
tormented me.
So that's why my mind went to the blank
and, you know, sometimes went blank.
That's why I'm still in the process of healing
because of this.
Actually, later on, when I came to America,
this master, master, famous master pursued me.
Actually, I found out he has wife in his own country,
but he did not divorce her,
but he cheated me onto his bed.
Then I found out that he could not marry to me.
So I had to, I had to deal with this kind of thing.
I said, why is happening to me again, again, again?
I was so angry and so traumatized and then I had a first marriage and my ex-husband just
pulled me down and spoke a lot of nigger was trying to pull me down and make me um you know
inferior or inferior to him so he can has his control even though he he said he loved me he
he was afraid to you know because I'm younger than him I'm so I was so beautiful I went to
yeah well we don't have time to do a full coaching session right now with this but I believe that
the Lord has brought you here to change your patterns with men you know and I want to tell
you this that you know your first experience with a man your stepfather I know that you think that
you were consensual in that experience and um and also that you fell in love with him and that is
why that happened but honestly what happened is you were being groomed and you were and you were
being abused and so God's going to bring you around to understanding that if you don't understand
that now so that you can fully release yourself from this because once again being groomed a lot
of times it's very um you know covert a lot of times we don't really know that it's happening
and we think we're having these grown-up feelings for these grown-ups in our lives
but honestly what's happening is they're playing upon the abandonment and the the hurt and the
fatherlessness and all the different things that we have and taking advantage of us okay that's not
what love looks like love doesn't look like anything that you've described and so we're
praying for you Coco we believe that you're here because God wants to once again not have you
attract this type of man a man that just wants to use you and abuse you but someone who really
wants to love you and cherish you and respect you and honor you and protect you and so we believe
that for you in Jesus name thank you so much for sharing your story we appreciate it Denise you're
up I thought Liz Liza had her hand up first but I can go oh yeah no no Liza Liza is up um
there are one-on-one coaching um spots yes there are if you want a one-on-one coaching
session you can email admin at jackiedorman.com and you can you can ask about that and you guys
you go ahead first you have some things missing from your resource page that should be there and
so I'm going to find out where that stuff is and then you can go into the resource tab
the one-on-one coaching link should be there for you to book a call if you want to get a
one-on-one session Liza go ahead thank you Jackie and thank you Denise um I was I am in week three
I've done I finished week three I went through the revealing for healing cycle multiple times
um I I had trauma with my dad um and God healed it and he replaced it with his truth I've never
dated so I'm 29 and I've never dated because I always put my career first and there was another
reason because my brother when I was 16 um we didn't have like separate bedrooms so mom used
to sleep in the middle and I would sleep on the other side and my brother would be on the other
side of mom but as my mom would get up he would come and he would place his hand on my breast
um and I was 15 but I could feel that and I I felt so bad about it um so I told my mom
and mom didn't really accept it that brother did that um and she ignored it um but then from
then onwards I was just never able to let anybody touch me um and I my spiritual mother says that I
am a prodigy child um since I was very young like I was 10 years old and I was fifth in the world
in math so that's how um I just focused myself in career and just never dated um and my dad also
had lots of expectations on me so there was perfection that got here there was insecurities
and there was just he had a lot that he wanted me to do and I did I became a chartered accountant
in India and CPA in Canada uh but that's just one thing I just never dated and I'm not able to get
past week three because I just feel like I have to go through that revealing for healing cycle
over and over again and I just can't find any trauma in me other than this one thing apart
from eating all the things from dad well just so you know that is a pretty big thing I mean
you know um not trusting men is basically what that's turned into right and um and not so not
being able to be vulnerable with men
And I'm not just talking about sexually I'm talking about at all, you know
That's translated over into that and not only that but having like the mother in your life
Okay, and a lot of times you guys this will get translated to Holy Spirit
Like we don't trust the supernatural or spiritual things because we got mommy wounds, you know
Oftentimes we'll talk about daddy wounds and a lot of us have daddy wounds fear. I'm sorry abandonment
rejection
abuse from a father figure
But we don't really talk about mother wounds that often and so I want you to raise your hand if you had a mother
that you know
Said that you know when you came and tried to get her help or her protection whether it was with a sexual abuse situation
Physical verbal doesn't matter. She either said she didn't believe you or she didn't do anything about it
Let's see all the people that had mom just turn a blind eye when you needed her protection when you needed her help
You know how many of you you feel like mom failed you?
Wasn't there for you?
Okay, all right, so let's talk about the moms that turn a blind eye to us
Telling and so this, you know culture gets all their panties up in a wad when you know
Some politician is about to get elected and all of a sudden some woman comes out of the woodwork from 30 years ago saying hey
They did this to me and people are like, well, why didn't you say anything when it happened? This is why?
This is why no one says anything because no one believes us. We act we get treated like criminals
You know, I told my mom what my grandfather was doing and instead of her stopping him
She said she didn't believe me and she sent me away to live in a girl's home
That kind of stuff happens
So, let me tell you one of the reasons why our mothers told us if they told you they didn't believe you
Let me tell you one of the reasons why
because belief
requires action
Belief requires action if they can just say oh, they're just a kid. They're making it up or they misinterpret it
Maybe they're misunderstanding if they can somehow put it into the category of it's not true
Then they don't have to do anything hard
Like divorce that man that's sexually abusing you or take you away from the situation where this is happening
And then in her case, it was her sibling
Her mother's other child that's doing this. And so what am I gonna do?
What child am I gonna pick right?
And so instead of having those types of hard decisions to make people just say I don't believe it
but deep down inside they really do and I will tell you all my mom's deathbed before she passed away at
63 years old and went to heaven. We had a reckoning over this stuff from my childhood and
She was able to ask me for forgiveness
Which I freely gave her which I had already given her years before she had asked for it, okay
And so we have to forgive
Even though you might not be to the forgiveness week yet
We're doing a little confession in here right now because that's where you guys wanted to go tonight
But just remember that you don't want to just forgive stuff in one big lump. You want to list it out
All the different things that the debts that that person owes you all the different things because the Bible says
Forgive our debts as we forgive our debtors
So treat it like a ledger like you're a CPA and it's a ledger
Put down all the different debts that each person owes you and forgive them one by one
And give Holy Spirit a chance to really speak into each of those situations. Okay. All right. Thank you Liza so much
Yeah, if I can just say one more one last thing is it can we give him the benefit of doubt by saying that
He is he is actually schizophrenic
So does that give him a leeway in that in the case that he didn't know what he was doing?
It was he schizophrenic then?
We didn't know but he was but we didn't we didn't find out until he turned 16 or 17
Okay, so just so you know, he probably was not schizophrenic but this is probably part of the reason why he is schizophrenic
You know mental illness a lot of times because you know
My brother was diagnosed with schizophrenia and he lives on my property and my other house because he's homeless and not able to take care
Of himself, but I will say this I will say that I believe that mental illness
Especially clinical mental illness a lot of it is caused
By people who have had a lot of trauma and they haven't healed from it. So
So yes, so here's the thing you're gonna forgive him. Mm-hmm
You don't need to forgive him only if he didn't know what he was doing. He knew exactly
what he was doing. He was going through puberty and he had access to a real live flesh and blood
girl in his own bed even though she was his sister and he wanted to feel your boo.
Yeah. So you know it's we're not going to be like oh well he probably was just out of his mind
because he's mentally ill. No, that's probably the most in alignment with a teenage boy thing
he could have ever done. It's just wrong and it was you know sinful and hurtful and it's caused
you a lot of trauma and so that mindless little pleasure thing that he did for his own jollies
has caused you a lot of damage. Yes. And you got to forgive him and so that God can bring you to a
place where you can trust men and trust contact with men because that's going to be very important.
Thank you. And you're young so let's get that show on the road. Yes. Okay. Thank you. All right.
Denise. No, I just I was the one who said I have confessions that'll make y'all feel like angels.
So I wanted to say that I'm a recovered alcoholic. I just hit my three-year sober anniversary date.
Yay! Congratulations. Thank you so much. But I drank every day for like over 23 years easily.
Wow. And like there was a time so she was talking about driving somebody home when she'd had a
couple she wasn't even drunk. So I can remember going out to a club getting so hammered that I
not only drove myself home but I drove my girlfriend home that night. Didn't remember
the ride to her house or how I got into my bed that night. So and that's just one of many 23 years
of stories I could tell you. But God is so good and forgiving that even in all of that and I can't
confess them all Jackie because I don't remember them all. Well that's probably not a bad thing.
Right. I don't think it is either. Right. But I just I pray I saw a prayer line and I said Lord
I need deliverance from this for the stronghold to be broken and then I want you to take the
desire away because if you knew how much I desire just to get I love alcohol and the way it made me
feel and I can tell you now after being three years sober that he answered that prayer within 24 hours
and that stronghold got broken so that the craving is there like you know you always want to have a
taste for a beer that might come around once in a while but that that strong desire I have to have
it and I'll give up anything to get it gone. So do you did you come from a family of alcoholics?
Yes it's strong on my mom's side and a little bit on my dad's side but it's it's a lot. Were you
raised by an alcoholic parent one of your parents? No. Okay. No so like throughout by the time I was
20 or 21 I had my first drink my mom would have champagne at weddings so it was never in the house
they know I never grew up around it but in my mom's like aunts uncles grandma's brothers it's
it runs rampant in the family so. Okay well we're so glad that that's no longer you know you're
you know self-medicator of choice. Amen. And that you're dealing with all the things that caused you
to you know go to that for medication. Absolutely. And you know you're forgiven of the things that
you did under the influence of that because God loves you and Jesus died for you and as you right?
Yeah yeah. And that's the funny thing you said like confessing to the whole thing to me is kind
of like it's not a big deal because I feel like God already knows the whole truth anyway so if
you're hiding a little piece and unconsciously it's understandable right but consciously if
you're like well if if I just don't tell him this part he already knows. Well the thing is is that
you're not actually hiding it from God because yes he already knows you're actually hiding it from
people. Oh okay. Remember and so James 5 16 says confess your faults to one another and be healed
but a lot of times pride and self-hatred will get in the way and we think oh wow you know I'll confess
to this part but if I told them the whole story you know they would think I'm a terrible person.
You know God can forgive me but people certainly can't and so that is why it's really important
and that's why the enemy continues to torment us with details that we haven't fully disclosed and
so it's very important that we do that. All right so Denise thank you so much we appreciate that and
we're so proud of you. What week are you in? I'm in week four. Okay week four forgiveness week so
lots of stuff and you can just forgive yourself for all the stuff you don't remember. Already
done. Make that a line item. All right it's already done. Awesome okay and hey there might
be other people that you need to ask to forgive you.
A lot of that.
Like in AA, because I know AA does a lot of that.
Okay.
I've done a lot of, there's one that's on my heart,
but it's in AA, they tell you
if it's going to damage something
to not go and ask for forgiveness.
And this is, there was adultery involved,
so it would potential to break up a marriage.
So that's kind of when you have to just leave alone
and not ruffle those feathers, I guess, if you could say.
Right, yeah.
I mean, prayerfully, I mean, if God wanted you
to tell someone, did the wife know
that you were cheating with her husband?
She phoned out later.
Okay, so because actually she knows,
the Holy Spirit might put it on your heart
to send a letter with no return address
saying how sorry you were for what you did back then.
I mean, it's one thing to like 20 years later say,
oh, hey, by the way, your husband had an affair
and they don't know about it,
but it's a whole other thing for them to know
and you know that they know
and they know that you know that they know
and you send them a letter saying,
I'm so sorry that I did this.
I hope that you can forgive me.
Not expecting an answer and not even giving a place
for there to be a conversation, you know?
So just consider it.
I'm not able to reach out on LinkedIn
because I don't know their address.
So I might, I think I might find her that way,
but yeah, that's a great idea.
I never thought of that.
But just releasing, releasing that from yourself
and asking for forgiveness without, like you said,
without rehashing anything and getting into any kind
of back and forth situation.
Right, right.
Yeah, okay.
Lolita, what do you got?
Hi, everyone.
So I wanna confess because I had a daughter
when I was really young and I even asked her to forgive me,
but I rejected her when she was in the womb
because the father didn't want me.
And so now she feels so rejected.
She's like almost 40 and she has like bad relationships.
It's like, she just seems like she's doomed.
I mean, she's a pretty good person.
She has, you know, she works and she has a daughter,
but I don't know.
It's like, I want her to do well,
but if I say go left, she goes right.
And I don't know.
And I just blame myself that if I had been a better mother,
she wouldn't be that way.
And I got married, so I chose my ex-husband
and the children.
When you said you had to make that decision,
what you gonna do?
So she kind of suffered a little bit
because he really didn't accept her.
And then now I've been divorced for about 12 years.
It was abusive relationship and everything.
And I just can't seem to date.
It's like, I don't know if it's my energy.
I don't know what it is.
My daughter say, my youngest daughter say,
I'm scared of men.
That's what she tells me.
Well, she might be right.
Our kids do know us.
And so if that's true,
then that fear obviously is connected probably
to some unhealed trauma.
And so that is what we want Holy Spirit
to bring to the surface.
So just, you know, that's what your prayer looks like.
You know, I'm not able to date
and it doesn't have anything to do with my age.
It doesn't have anything to do with,
it has to do with something that I'm not aware of Lord.
And so I need you to make me aware of that.
You know, so-and-so says that I'm scared of men.
If there's any truth to that,
show me, you know, where that's coming from
and, you know, what needs to be healed still.
You guys, we can pray these prayers.
We can process with the Lord using the heartwork tools,
asking prophetic questions
and getting breakthrough answers.
Okay, it's really important that we do that.
Don't just accept any area of your life
that's not glistening with hope,
that's not the John 10, 10 experience
that Jesus said we could have of abundant overflowing life.
That area of your life is usually connected to lies.
Remember, it's not the trauma that's gonna keep you
from living abundant life.
It's the lies that you believe because of trauma
that are going to keep you from living abundant life.
All right, so we have to answer those questions.
We have to ask those questions and get those answers.
All right, we're really pretty much out of time.
It's like 10 after,
so I'm just going to let you guys go for tonight.
This is available in replay.
let's just let's just do a little bit of a little bit of release of our moms
right now and this might be you towards your mom it could also be you towards
you're the mom you're the mom that needs release like Lolita just said she said
that I mistreated my daughter you know I wasn't I rejected her in the womb
because I felt rejected and remember if your mom's did hurt you or another woman
in your life hurts you so let's release the feminine wounds right now so sisters
pastors wives coaches teachers best friends any women in our life that have
failed us we're just gonna release them as a group right now do you guys want to
do that together and if you're the person you're the villain so to speak of
the story you're seeing yourself you see yourself as the villain God doesn't see
you as the villain okay broken people break people that's a true story but
healed people heal people that's also a true story and so we want to make sure
that we are not you know taking on those counterfeit identities of you know being
the victimizer being the perpetrator or the villain because we made those
decisions because we had a broken heart okay and so that goes also for the
people that have hurt us they are not their sin just like you are not your
pain their identity is not their sin just like your identity is not the pain
that their sin caused you right so let's release them to the Lord right now
father I just come before you and I come on behalf of all these women that have
hurt your daughters that are on this call even if they are one of those that
have hurt others Lord we're just asking for there to be released tonight and so
I'm asking you on behalf of those women that have hurt you will you forgive me
will you forgive me for abandoning you for lying about you for lying to you for
not trusting you for believing the worst about you for criticizing you judging
you for verbally abusing you for telling you that you're no good and that you'll
never amount to anything wishing that I never had you or never knew you telling
you that you've ruined my life somehow I was just in pain I was looking for
someone to blame and I blamed you will you forgive me will you forgive me will
you forgive me for choosing others over you for choosing men over you for
choosing your siblings thinking that they were better than you for comparing
you to them comparing you to your friends comparing you to my friends
children always saying that you could do better always thinking that you're not
enough and telling you that you're not good enough I felt like I wasn't good
enough I was projecting my own pain and my own worthlessness that I was feeling
onto you will you forgive me will you forgive me for abusing you verbally
mentally emotionally physically spiritually financially will you forgive
me for allowing you to be abused in those areas for turning a blind eye for
saying I didn't believe you for not helping you for not protecting you
for not understanding or caring about the pain that you were in for being too
busy too distracted for not treating you like you were important for never sitting
and listening to you for not wanting to know you deeper and better for being
selfish for being focused on my own happiness in my own life or being too
caught up in my own pain and my own trauma my own trouble to see your pain
and trauma and trouble will you forgive me
will you forgive me
can you forgive me I didn't want to hurt you I was hurting I didn't mean to let
you be abused that wasn't what I wanted but I didn't know how to stop it I was
scared I was confused I was selfish
can you forgive me
yes Lord just sit in that for a moment and anything that
You didn't hear, but you need to hear.
Just go ahead and let God whisper that
to your heart right now on behalf of these women
that have hurt us in our lives.
Receive that.
Receive that apology right now
that yet they never gave you.
Receive it right now.
I'm sorry.
Sorry for stealing your husband or your boyfriend,
for talking about you behind your back,
for backstabbing you, for gossiping about you,
for judging you.
Forgive those bonus moms that your husband's remarried,
your former husband's remarried,
those stepmothers that turned your children against you
and tried to sabotage your relationship with others.
Forgive them right now.
Forgive the people that stole money from you
and took advantage of you.
The people that simply were supposed to be your best friend,
but they just weren't there for you in hard times.
You were always there for them,
but they just were not there for you.
They abandoned you emotionally and physically.
You are the giver and they're the taker.
Forgive them.
Lord, we just forgive right now.
We ask that you would just,
ooh, release.
Release healing right now over each and every heart
in all of these deep areas.
Speak to us, Lord.
What do we get in return, Lord?
As we release this trauma to you,
what will you give us in return?
Just ask God that right now.
As I release this person, as I cancel this debt,
as I receive this apology that was never given,
and I'm making space in my heart
where this hurt once lived,
what will you fill this space with, God?
What will you give me in exchange?
Yes, Jesus.
If anyone wants to put what they heard in the comments,
we would love to see that.
What can you have in exchange for this forgiveness?
What can you have in exchange?
What can you have in exchange for this forgiveness?
What can you have in exchange?
Is care, is acceptance, peace beyond all understanding,
peace and rest, peace?
Yes, freedom, healing, peace, love,
a deeper relationship with him, yes.
Peace, hope, joy, love, contentment.
I feel like someone is forgiving their mom,
forgiving them up for adoption, for abandoning them.
Right now, you're forgiving.
You're really releasing her.
I feel like someone else saw their mom,
it might be the same person.
After many years, you reunited with your mom
and it was such a disappointment
because she wasn't sorry for what she had done.
She had lots of problems with just attachment
and just being vulnerable,
and it was just a huge disappointment.
You thought it was gonna be really great and awesome,
and you wanted it for so long in your life,
and then when you finally got it,
it just was a train wreck.
Just release it.
Release it to the Lord and receive.
In exchange, receive mother figures in your life
that love you, that care for you, that support you,
that understand you, that are there for you
because God has that for you.
Doesn't have to be biological.
Joy, peace and joy, joy and peace, love in his presence,
all really great things.
Yes, Sharon, that could possibly be for you,
that first part of that word.
You guys, sometimes forgiveness has layers,
not sometimes, forgiveness always has layers.
It's not a feeling.
It's just a command from heaven that we forgive
so we can be forgiven.
But sometimes deeper levels of forgiveness
happen in the same area
where there's more forgiveness,
where there's more.
closure with that forgiveness than ever before. Rebuilding your life, identities coming, joy,
peace, love, lightheartedness, yes, yes, yes. Being light of heart. All right, ladies,
this has been really great tonight. I hope that you have enjoyed it as well.
Some of you, your mothers or the women in your life are the root of why you don't trust men.
Men have really never done anything to you, but they hurt the women that came before you. And so
those women, their ideas of men have now been handed down to you. And so you have to let go
of that. You can't take up the offense for someone else, right? That's their offense.
They have to forgive those men. That is not your place to do that. So you need to release that
and all of the things that were handed down to you in the form of just family sayings and
conversations and overhearing conversations and being privy to the things that happened to a
woman in your life, a grandmother, a mother. And now you've let it harden your heart,
even though it didn't happen to you at all. Release that. Forgive them for jading you
and release it, okay? So that you can have a fresh slate, a clean slate
that God can write your love story on. It's going to be great. It's going to be wonderful.
Thank you.
All right. Bless you guys. Have a great night. See you soon. Bye-bye.