Hello, everybody. Welcome to mindset Monday. Happy Monday is
St. Patrick's Day. If y'all don't have green out, we're
gonna virtually pinch y'all. I figured out how to do it. No,
I'm kidding. Um, how do y'all celebrate St. Patrick's Day?
Yeah. Is that like a thing for you guys? Yeah, I'm seeing some
I'm seeing some people in green. Hey, I see Kara, I see Mildred
in green. April, Natalie, myself. Um, hello, everybody.
Welcome to mindset Monday. And happy St. Patrick's Day. It's
actually a really cool holiday. And Natalie really likes it one
of our success coaches. So we're not going to get it. We're not
like going to talk about St. Patrick's Day. But it's just fun
to acknowledge a fun holiday. I'm all about celebrating at
any time that we can. So I got my green on. But yeah, welcome,
everybody. So today we have something so special for you
guys. You know, in this call, we've really stepped up this
year on how to like step into being a whole person. Right?
Like you've noticed, we've talked about health, we've
talked, we talk about wealth, we talk about relationships, we
want to touch on all of these things, because our minds are
directly connected to all parts of our life. So it would be we
would be like a myth to say, Okay, let me talk about our
mind, but like not talk about relationships, right? And you
hear Steven and Chelsea say, like, what's the point of
becoming a millionaire, six, seven, eight figure business
owner, but your relationships are like on fire, or you can
barely like take care of yourself. We don't want that.
Okay, we want to tend to the whole person. And as you know,
the vision of this call every Monday is to get your mind
right, and to get you pumped up for what is in store for you
today, and this week. So before I bring Natalie on, I just want
to all the success coaches, you guys know our team. But if you
are a success coach, and on the call right now, if you could
raise your virtual hand, so we can just say hello to you and
welcome them. You guys know our success coach team, like our
joy and our giftings, our superpowers are to walk alongside
of you mentor you coach you to building a business. So we got
Janine, we've got April, we've got Mildred, we've got Natalie,
and we've got two others who are not able to be on the call in
the moment. But this team is just all I love that Cynthia
just said, Thank you, coaches. Like, that's so sweet, because,
you know, they're here to walk alongside of you, and see you
honestly, like reach your dreams, reach your goals, who
knows, like, a lot of us need that in our lives for a season,
right. And so, as as we you guys have been picking up, if it's
your first time here, I'll just say after this call, we have a
15 minute q&a after party on what does it look like to work
with a success coach? Okay, so I'm answering all questions,
success coach related hiring a coach working with a coach. I'm
also going to share a little test, we share a little
testimony of how this call relates to our personal lives.
So that's also in the after party, and we just have a good
time. So if any of you are on the fence, or you're like,
what's this about? Stay on with us after and we will get you all
the deets for that. Okay. And last thing I'm going to say is
we've got March gladness going on this month. Okay, so and it
just makes me smile every time I say it. And you know, I've got
my green, I've got my little gold on because the end of the
month, March 31, we're going to pull from the pot of gold. And I
think eight of you are going to win a complimentary second eye
session with each of the success coaches, myself, and Melissa,
who is a month my like big into money mindset. Okay, so there's
like, something on the table with all of us. And how do you
get entered to be in that drawing for the 31st? Well,
guess what, all you need to do is show up live on this Mindset
Monday call for the next couple of weeks before the 31st, and
you get your name entered into it. So with that said, April, if
you could drop so April is about to drop all the links from our
call. Mildred just dropped the March gladness form. So make
sure you grab that and fill that out. And then I'm just like
trying something new today where
we're just like giving you all the links at once.
So you can like copy and paste those and just have them all.
So we're gonna drop you an attendance link.
We're gonna drop you,
we're gonna, I don't remember what we're gonna do.
Like if you guys wanna share a testimony,
we've got a link for that.
If you wanna give us feedback, we got a link for that.
Okay, so we wanna drop those links for you guys.
April, are you okay?
She's working on it, she's working on it.
But in the meantime, grab the March Gladness form.
That's for you guys for this month.
And we're just, we're excited about this.
Also get excited because the 31st
is basically gonna be like a big party.
Okay, we're gonna just celebrate.
We're just gonna do something like fun,
something different on the 31st.
On top of, you know, getting all of the winners,
we're going, drawing the winners.
We're just gonna celebrate
because celebration is so important for our lives, okay?
For like the wellbeing of our minds
and all of ours is just so excited.
So the March Monday Gladness form
was just dropped by Mildred.
You should be able to get that.
And then we're gonna have other links dropped
for you here in a minute, okay?
So we're gonna transition now into our topic for today.
And it's something that's very, no, no, we're not.
What I'm actually going to do is
I'm going to also copy and paste
and drop all of the calls in the community this week.
Okay, and what to expect on Tuesday,
what to expect on Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday.
This is also at the top of the Facebook group
and it's gonna be in the app
and it's gonna be right here in the chat, okay?
So make sure you take a picture of that or copy and paste,
I just dropped that.
That is what the rest of the calls are for this week
in our community and our other coaching.
And then we've got all the other links just dropped for you.
And so make sure you grab all those.
I don't want you to be overwhelmed.
I just want you to take note, which one like is for me,
right, do I wanna leave a testimonial?
Do I wanna leave feedback?
Do I want some one-on-one coaching?
Attendance link and March Gladness form are there too.
So we've got all the links for you.
All right, so today is a special topic
that Natalie is gonna bring to you all
because she just has a lot of passion and compassion
for the topic that we have today, okay?
So kind of in the spirit of looking at who am I as a whole,
like what does it mean for me to show up
in business, what does it mean for me
to show up in relationship?
And we're gonna be asking ourselves like,
what does it mean to be whole?
Okay, what is wholeness?
Like, what does that look like for me as a person?
What does that look like for me in business?
Okay, so y'all get excited because you matter.
The whole of you matters.
If you're excelling in one area, but you're not in others,
then I, we wanna look at that.
We wanna take a look at that.
That's important to shed light to.
So with that, I'm gonna pass it to you, Natalie.
Thank you so much, Danielle.
I appreciate you introing me, that was awesome.
You guys, I'm super passionate about this subject
because I've worked with so many people
that deal with this issue.
So my topic for today is the power
and the purpose of singleness.
We have a lot of single women on our platform,
and so this is gonna apply to you all,
but it's also gonna apply to all you married people too,
because the power of singleness is that you know
who you are as a singularly whole person,
and you're operating out of that,
whether you're single or you're married.
And so this is for everybody as a human being.
So we're gonna explore the power
and the purpose of singleness and how it serves
as the foundation for all our relationships,
including marriage and business.
And I'm gonna share with you some keys
to get the most out of this training,
because this isn't a training about singleness
or how to survive it.
It's life training on being singularly whole.
So I want you to read between the lines
because there's lots of questions in this training
for a reason.
It's to invoke responses in you to seek out more questions
and more answers in this area of your life.
So singleness is not just...
a phase, it's a critical state of being
that shapes your identity, your relationships,
your businesses, and your very future, okay?
So a key question that I want you guys to ask yourself
is why is singleness more important in marriage
and how does it impact my life,
my relationships, and my business?
So we're gonna start out at the foundation of singleness
because when we are all born,
we all start out as an individual.
Not one person comes into this life
married to another person
or in relationship with another person.
We come in by ourselves and we leave by ourselves.
Before entering into a committed relationship,
our partners, individuals thrive
when they first become established
in a strong sense of identity,
who they are, a purpose for their life,
and the direction that they're supposed to take in life.
Your singleness is the blueprint for your relationships.
If you don't know how to be single
or what I call singularly whole,
you won't know how to be married either.
And just as singleness is the foundation
for healthy relationships,
it's also the foundation for a healthy business practices
and partnerships.
So if you don't know how to be single,
like being whole and independent on your own,
you're really gonna struggle to lead well,
to innovate and to build sustainable businesses
that last long-term.
So when we talk about singleness,
there's some myths that everybody believes.
And the first one is singleness means loneliness.
This could not be further from the truth
because singleness is actually a state of wholeness,
of completeness and self-discovery.
Being alone is about isolation.
Singleness is about awareness and growth.
You can actually be unmarried and not be alone,
not feel alone.
You can also be married and feel very lonely
because loneliness comes from a place
of not being singularly whole.
If you're lonely, you need to get to the root of why.
It's that self-awareness of why am I lonely?
Why am I feeling this way?
Whether I'm married or single,
where is this lonely coming from?
It's that journey that we go on
that brings us to this wholeness
that we can walk in as a singular person.
And then the other myth is in business,
that you need to rely on others to fill your gaps
or build your business for you in order to succeed.
But the truth is success in business
starts with self-mastery.
Being singularly whole means that you're not dependent
on anybody else for validation, direction, or confidence.
And in business, that looks like
strong decision-making skills,
resilience, and true leadership.
Now, hear what I'm not saying
because I'm not saying that you don't have others
on your team.
But what it does mean is you've taken time
to master the skills that you need to
to be a strong business leader
and that you know who you are as a business owner
before you invite others along in on your journey.
So now we're gonna go into the purpose of singleness.
Your marriage is only gonna be as good as your singleness.
Marriage doesn't improve your singleness.
It exposes it.
Yeah, it's so true.
Like if you think that you're gonna get married
and everything's gonna be fine
and like somehow, you know, you live happily ever after,
it's just not true, right?
Like when you get married,
it doesn't take very many days into the honeymoon
for some sort of conflict to come up.
And if you are not healthy and you are not whole,
that will manifest and all of a sudden,
your spouse is gonna see a part of you
that they never saw before
because marriage exposes things about yourself
that are often quite ugly.
And so really knowing the difference between
are you singularly whole and healthy
and ready for a marriage commitment
or is there still more work that you need to do on yourself?
So in self-reflection,
I always tell people, ask this question.
If you knew everything about yourself that you do,
would you marry you?
And if you knew everything about yourself
as a business leader,
would you want to partner with yourself?
Because your business partners are only as strong as your individual wholeness as well.
And you bring to your team, the wholeness that you carry.
So you can't do it all by yourself.
There's going to be a point in your business where you are going to have to bring people
on to your team in order to scale.
But hiring people that you know are healthy, whole people and not just people that can
rescue you from what you don't know how to do is a really important skill to have.
Because what I see a lot of times is people will hire somebody because they know how to
do something and they don't know how to do it.
So they feel like they need that person.
That person becomes like codependent on the person that they hire.
And then they start to have relational conflict.
And they feel like they can't fire that person because they don't know how to do that skill.
And so there is this health that comes when you know how to do the skills, the basic skills
that you need to be the business owner that you're called to be.
And you're able to invite people along your journey, invite people into your business
that are healthy and whole and can add value and strength to your company, but not have
the element of codependency.
And I want to chime in here because I know this just like hit somebody right in their
heart because I can relate with the whole idea of being codependent.
And I know I've had that in my past.
And I was able to be just totally honest with myself and say, I was actually looking for
that person to give not maybe completely me, but more like give me something that I wasn't
able to do or willing to learn how to do.
And that's why it's so important to be thinking about if I want to attract somebody who's
whole and healthy and communicative and cares about themselves, then guess what?
I need to be that person.
I need to show up like that.
And I know for some of us, this can be like kind of a touchy subject, like and Tara's
like dropping some truth bombs.
It's like, yes, like that's what we're here for, to bring truth and love, you know, together.
And so, yeah, I just wanted to share that.
That's really good.
Really good.
So the power of singleness comes when we understand that we are separate people that were unique,
original and distinctive.
And so what healthy self love here looks like is I am in a healthy state of love with myself
because I know my value and I know my identity.
You know, when I, when, when, for those of you who don't know, my husband passed away
about five years ago.
So when I came out of that marriage, when I fulfilled that marriage covenant, we were
interdependent on each other.
But I, a lot of my identity was wrapped up in, you know, being Dan's wife or being my
kid's mother.
And I really had to go on that journey of finding out who, who am I though, outside
of that?
Where is my identity and value outside of what I had put value and identity in, in that
season of my life?
And I know a lot of you have transitioned in marriage.
Some of you have been divorced.
Some of you have had trauma in your marriages, and some of you have lost husbands like me.
And some of you are in marriages that are less than perfect, right?
That, that you struggle with your relationship with your husband.
And so the, this question, this statement of I'm at a healthy state of love with myself
because I know my value and my identity, that, that puts it back on you.
And it doesn't matter what your spouse is doing, but can you love yourself and value
yourself and have true identity, authentic identity with yourself so that you become
singularly whole regardless of what your spouse is doing?
Because ultimately when we act out of wholeness, we, we actually release grace.
That's a real thing.
Whether you believe in grace or not, grace is a real thing that we carry.
And when we act out of wholeness and healing, it actually impacts the people around us and
they can't help but respond to it.
And so the more healthy you get.
there will be a response in your family members.
We see it all the time.
And then you're whole,
you're complete and unified within yourself.
And so that looks like,
I don't need someone else to complete me, I'm already whole.
That frees that other person in your marriage so much,
like you don't actually need them to be anything for you,
but you get to enjoy them as a person in your life
and they get to enjoy you as a person of your life.
But there's not this codependent, unhealthy,
gross stuff that happens in a lot of marriages
because you've worked on yourself and you know who you are,
you know what you carry,
you have your mission and you're doing that.
And I wanna add on here,
for those who do believe in God
and who do have a relationship with a higher being,
with the Lord,
also it's a place of receiving love, right?
And receiving your value and identity from the Lord.
And I want you to take a look at this last sentence,
I don't need someone else to complete me,
I am already whole.
And also the statement above,
I am in a healthy state of love with myself
because I know my value and my identity.
And I just want you to take a moment
to just be like honest with yourself right now.
All right, you're gonna give yourself
a percentage real quick here,
of where do I fall from 0%,
meaning I really don't believe these statements right now.
Right, because we talk a lot about belief here, right?
You guys know, when you have a feeling,
it leads, it comes from a thought
and our thoughts come from our beliefs.
And so I wanna take a moment here to dig into your beliefs,
dig into your heart and your mind.
And on a scale of 0%,
meaning I do not believe this at all.
And 100% meaning, heck yeah, I do believe this, I'm in.
I want you to give yourself a percentage.
I am in a healthy state of love with myself
because I know my value and my identity.
I don't need someone else to complete me,
I am already whole.
So go ahead, yeah, take a moment.
And this gets really vulnerable Danielle,
because you can also sway the other direction
with these statements.
And honestly, I don't know that I've met anybody
that I've coached on Rainmakers that's like this,
but I have met people in the world that are like this,
where they would read that statement this way.
I don't need someone else to complete me,
I'm already whole.
That is not wholeness, that is defense.
And it is coming across as there is pain
that I am covering up
and I don't need anyone else to complete me
because I'm already whole.
There is just as much unhealthiness
in a person that says it like that
as there is with somebody who can't believe
that they're complete and that they're whole.
And so recognizing that oftentimes
you go from not believing the statement
to over-correcting on the other side of the pendulum
to I don't need anybody, right?
It's a fight or flight mode that you go into
because you've been hurt or you've been through trauma.
But what we wanna do is help bring people back
to the middle where they say,
I don't need someone else to complete me,
I'm already whole,
but I also recognize that there is strength
in interdependency on other relationships
and I do need them.
That's a good reminder.
And, oh, so good.
Man, this is so good for us to hear,
especially in a community like this
of men and women who are like go-getters
and probably have some type of struggle in relationships
coming to building a business.
It's just the truth.
We all need help in this area, right?
We all like, let's just admit,
yeah, I struggle to be single.
And again, we've kind of talked about,
Natalie's kind of talked about singleness
isn't I'm literally not married.
It's a, I am whole, I am a whole unit of myself.
I enter as a whole single unit in marriage
and there's two single whole units coming together
to create a marriage.
And so that's why this is so good for everybody
regardless of your marital status or what has happened to you
because we need more people in the world
who are showing up as whole.
We need more of that.
And what we see in,
a rainmaker so often is that people come in, they get eight weeks of coaching at the beginning.
And we start to see this element where we can see where somebody is a healthy person,
they're they're leaning on their coach to press in deeper, to build stronger, and and
to launch and grow and scale their business as fast as they can. And then we see this
other element who come in, and they're not so healthy. And they start to become codependent
on their coach. And there's these unspoken expectations that somehow the coach is going
to build your business for you. And that actually isn't healthy, right? Like we're going to
give you the skills and the tools that you need. And we're going to empower you fully
to build your business, but we cannot build your business for you. And so the identity
of singleness and business looks like I'm in love with my vision, because I know its
value. I don't need external validation for my coach to succeed. I'm already equipped,
but I'm going to use my coach as a tool to help me go deeper in my vision, to go deeper
and to know who I am as a valuable business owner, and to scale and grow my business successfully.
Okay, so then when we when we are in this place, healthy relationships looks like happy
marriages.
Sorry, can you unmute yourself now? That was weird. Okay. So happy marriages consist of
two single whole people. Relationships improve the more singularly whole you become and marriage
is not the solution to loneliness. It magnifies it if you're not whole. You want to go to
the next slide? Thanks. And then healthy businesses, partnerships look like business practices
improve the more independent and self aware you become. And a business partner is not
the solution to insecurity or a lack of direction. It magnifies these issues if you don't have
direction if you are insecure. Okay, so there's a few warnings that I want to talk to you
guys about. I don't like to give don'ts, but this is just like, you got to get black and
white with this topic because it's real and people need to heal this, hear this. Do not
marry someone or go into business with someone who doesn't know how to be singularly whole.
These people become leeches, servants and followers and none of those people are people
that you need in your life as a married person or as a business owner. You need someone who
is going to be a healthy partner that will add value and add strength. Don't marry out
of desperation, loneliness, need or pressure. If you get into a relationship and you're
feeling any of those, you can consider those red flags that need to be worked through,
whether it's on your side or the other person's. And you know, you need to know when to let
go of that if it's not a healthy relationship. Do not confuse singleness with being unmarried
and being a lone wolf in the business field. This is really big in Fortune 500 companies.
You know, when you look at Wall Street, there's even movies about it, right? It's not healthy
to be the lone wolf, right? Everybody needs people. We were created to live in relationship
with other people, but it should be from a place of health and it should be from a place
of wholeness, not a place of needing someone to fill something that you haven't filled
yourself or had God help you fill. And it's not that unhealthy, like I'm going to do this
business by myself because nobody's going to be there to help me. It's that middle round
of, I know I have the skills I need. I'm building my business and I'm going to invite other
people along to help me grow and scale faster. And then don't rush into relationships or
partnerships without first becoming healthy and whole yourself. And you're like, well,
that's all great, Natalie. That sounds awesome. But how do I become healthy and whole if I'm
not? So I have a couple of practical applications for you guys. The pursuit. Oh, keep going.
No, this is it. Sorry. The pursuit of singleness in life and business. Discover yourself. Know
who you are, your purpose, your mission, your vision. No, go back, please. Your vision and
your goals. And if you've gone through a divorce, go forward. Yeah. If you've gone through a
divorce or you've gone through a loss or you have been traumatized by somebody else,
right? Like this is going to be.
you going back to basics? Who are you? What is your purpose?
What is your mission? You know, I had to redefine where what my
mission was, because so much of my mission and vision was wrapped
up in the marriage that Dan and I had together. We went to 14
different countries, we did missions trips all over the
world, right? I had prophetic words that were all about me
being married to this man. And then all of a sudden, like, what
do I do with that? Right? Like, do I just throw out everything?
Or do I have to like pull out? What was me in that? And what
can I use to point me towards hope of a good future for
myself. And that is a process and a journey. So you get to go
on that journey of discovering who am I, what still fits? And
what do I need to let go of?
Oh, sorry. No, go ahead.
Well, maybe you can also speak to the moms and dads in the
room, like being a parent, because I haven't stepped into
that role yet. But I know that. And you that's like a lot of you
guys are have those roles in your life. And it can just be
super easy to for to put yourself second, third, fourth,
fifth, and just kind of forget. You know, what's important to
you and like forgetting self care and forgetting, you know,
what's important to you all the while you're stepping into
building a business to support your family, right to support
your, your kids or your husband or your wife or your kids, kids.
So yeah, I don't know if you had anything else to speak to that
particular.
No, that's so good, Danielle. In fact, you know, like when, when
Dan and I were dating, I told him, I said, Look, I said, I
know that I'm called to, to work with kids that are not my own. I
know that I'm going to do foster care. I know that I'm going to
do adoption. If that's not something that you feel like you
can come into alignment with, we are not a good match. Because I
knew that was something as a whole healthy person, I knew
that was something that I was called to, it was part of my
mission and my purpose. And I was going to step into that no
matter what. And he had the choice, you know, whether to be
like, yeah, I can do that. I'm on board. We, we had over 80
kids in 10 years that we took care of. And I'm still in
contact with a lot of those those people now. But do you
think that I didn't always lose myself in some of that, like we
took we took therapeutic foster care kids, the kids that came
to us, they came to us, because if they didn't come to us, they
would be in an institution. And it was hard work. And there were
nights that I went to bed absolutely exhausted, because I
also had a special needs daughter. And I was doing a lot,
a lot, a lot. And I remember the day somebody told me, where is
your time? And I was like, I don't get time. And they were
like, you won't get time as long as you have that attitude. Like
you have to take care of yourself, you have to fall in
love with yourself, and your own uniqueness and the value that
you carry, because your value is only as powerful as what you
give to it. And if you don't value yourself, other people
will not value you either. And they will walk all over you and
you will put yourself last again and again and again. And
the truth of the matter is when you live like that, you aren't
actually loving anybody very well. You just aren't. It
becomes unhealthy and kind of icky because you're you're
trying to debase your own value and put other people's value
above you. And that's not a healthy mindset to live in. So
you have to learn your own value and you have to hold that
steady. You have to draw boundaries with your kids, you
have to draw boundaries with your spouse and your friends.
And you have to somehow learn that balance of I need
friendship, I need my spouse, I need my my children to have
relationships with all of them. But I also need time where I am
pouring into my own uniqueness and my own value, whether that's
through self care, whether that's through a hobby, whether
that's through some sort of, you know, side hustle where you're
learning something of value to yourself and sowing into
yourself. Did that help, Daniel?
Yeah, that was fire. That was on a nap that this was not
necessarily in the
here who just got blessed by her testimony because again, we get, we get to create these
things and don't hear us out. We, we have, we actually have quite a few mindset Mondays
on self care, how to create, you know, space in your schedule for yourself. But I don't
want your brains to hear, Oh my gosh, how am I going to do that? This is going to come
at a cost of ABCD, but you don't know my life. I've got to do this. I've got to do that.
And it's like, actually we do know, like Natalie does know we are here with you in how to create
all, you know, space for all of these things. And a quick little plug from my personal life
is I'm stepping into being a foster mom and I did not know this about Natalie's story.
So I'm like feeling really emotional right now because I haven't married yet and I've
had this lie. I need, I don't want to do this till I'm married. I need, I need another
person. Meanwhile, I do think of myself as a whole person, but just this idea of no,
like I want a team to look like this, but you know what, this is what I'm called to.
This is my vision. And we talked, we're going to talk about this a little bit more. What's
your vision? What are you called to? Right? I get to step into that no matter whether
I'm single, married, divorced, widowed, dating, that should not impede, ooh, those should
not impede the vision. They're supposed to come alongside of the vision. Yes. And I think
that goes right into this next point, like beautifully. Yeah. You have to build your
independence, learn to thrive on your own before inviting someone else into your life
and business. You know, when I look at history, I've done a lot of study of, um, of single
women, mostly because I was studying, you know, foster care and adoption and orphans
and widows and all of that. Right. But some of the most powerful women in history were
single and they impacted the world on a scale that you would not be able to impact if you
were married and you had a family. And so the fact that we somehow as a society make
it sound like if you're single, you're less, you're like a second class citizen and the,
to attain like the fullness of life, you have to be married. That's not necessarily true
for everyone. I know a lot, like I know a man who is an amazing man and he travels to
the most remote villages and he impacts, um, villages that have never been touched by mankind.
And there is no way that he could take a wife or children into those situations that he
would end up dead in his family would, but because he has chosen that as his purpose
and his mission, he is powerfully impacting, um, unreached people groups, uh, that nobody's
ever heard of. And he'll just walk in and has incredible favor with people. And, and
so it depends on what your purpose, your mission, and your vision is as to whether marriage
will fit into that for you. And that's something that only you can decide and nobody around
you can tell you, Oh, are you dating anybody right now? You know, the well-meaning people,
right? Why aren't you married yet? Don't you want to have kids? Like there's, you're going
to get all of that stuff as a single person, but you have to know your mission, your purpose,
your vision, and what you are called to do. And when you are in that place, those people,
they don't have the revelation that you have. They're not walking in the independence and
the power that you carry because you have taken the time to define your purpose and
your mission and your vision, and you're walking it out and living it.
Well, and this also shows up. I know a lot of you have shared that this shows up in your
own family with your Rainmaker vision, with you building a business, you know, and people
not understanding or asking, you know coming from a place of doubt or skepticism. And so
that also is why it's really important to, to be in alignment with your vision and because
things are going to constantly come up that are going to want to knock us down, that are
going to question our identity. We're in a spiritual warfare all the time with ourselves.
That's why this next one, love yourself, fall in love with your uniqueness and value is
actually super imperative. It's very necessary. And, and a lot of people, well, anyways, I'll
stop you go from there.
Yeah. Well, you're so right. And that's why we have like a success coach team, right?
Each one of us has our own superpowers. None of us is the same. I told Daniel earlier, I
was like, what would it look like if the whole platform was a
bunch of Stevens. Like that wouldn't be fun and innovative
and creative at all, because we would all look the same. And and
by the way, that's what an unhealthy leader does is they
hire more people exactly like them. Don't do that. Like, be
the person that finds the person that you need that's healthy
that can add strength and value, but can also complement those
areas where you're not may not be as strong. And, and so, you
know, like, I have a different superpower than Danielle, April
has a super different superpower than Danielle, and all of the
other coaches, we all have our individual strengths, we come
together, you guys should be on our team meetings, like it
blows my mind every single day when I get on a call with these
women. And we talk about how to serve you guys better. Because
if we were all the same, and we thought all the same, this
platform would not get as far as it's been. The creativity and
the breakthrough and the power that comes from us getting on a
call together every day, you guys experience on a weekly
basis on Monday Mindset and in our coaching calls on a daily
basis. And that all comes from each one of us knowing our
uniqueness and our value. And this is not a team of women that
is competing against each other. This is not a team of
unhealthy women that are like, let me step on your head so that
I can get higher up and you go further down. That's in the
world that is not here. Like we champion each other. I have
never been told by anybody on the staff at all, that I was
lesser than or that I couldn't do something. I am always
getting cheerleaded 100% always. And when you are when you get to
work in or be a business that works with people like that,
that is what takes you to the higher levels. That is what
takes you to the life that you've been longing for. And
that only comes from each person knowing their uniqueness and
their value. So I want to go into some self reflection
questions because this is where it goes deep for you. Okay. So
do you know who you are and where you're going? And if you
don't, that's an invitation to a discovery time for you. It's
time for you to go on a journey. Am I whole and complete within
myself? Would I want to live with what I bring to a marriage?
Dang, that one hits me every day. I'm like, would I really
want to bring this into a marriage? Would I want my
spouse to see this about me? Do I know my business vision and
where I'm going with my business? Am I confident in my
skills and value as a professional? And would I want
to be in business with somebody like myself? And these are hard
hitting questions. I have these on my wall because I'm constantly
calling myself up to another level. Because we get
comfortable where we're at, right? And then we stop going
after that next level or that breakthrough that we need to
become the person that we want to be in marriage to become the
business owner that we want to be. And it's just, it's so
powerful.
So before we move on from this, I'd love for you guys to take a
picture of this. screenshot this. Because we believe that
self reflection really helps you remember what Natalie said in
the beginning, like be be self mastery, right? How can one be a
master of how can I master myself? If I'm not if I don't
know myself, or I'm not willing to look at what's really going
on with me right now. And so we Natalie thought these were just
some really good questions. And I totally agree. And honestly,
they are they do hit places. And I just want to release right now
to also be gracious with yourself. Okay, so you're gonna
you're gonna answer some of these questions. And there may
be a point where you're like, I do not. I do not like this about
myself. And what we do not want you to do is go into a shame
spiral, or a I'm not good enough spiral, or Oh, my gosh, I need
to like, pick, get my stuff together. Like, no, like, I have
to do more. Like, that's not the point. Okay, that's where your
mind would need probably a little bit of, you know,
creating some new thoughts for yourself around yourself. So
that may even be, you know, telling them kind of where
you're at. But
Gracious to yourself, but also just like I look at this is like, okay
Since I have not married yet. I have dated on and off for about 15 years
Okay, I'm kind of a master dater at this point
I'm a really fun person to go out on a date with and so I've just asked myself
What does it look like to go on a date with me?
And so I think these self-reflection questions are like a great time to like if you can say I'm gonna go on a date with myself
Like I'm gonna get to know myself where I'm at today where I'm at this week, right?
Maybe there's parts of you that you have, you know that are
Subconscious so there you're not able to see them yet. But when you take some time to journal, I know Natalie
You're really big on journaling and self-reflecting some powerful things can come up and you can come aware of
Yourself when you take the time to do this because you're worth getting to know
You're worth being honest with yourself and it's in that space that you're then gonna be able to show up in other
Relationships, right kind of what Natalie's been talking about showing up in
Business relationships knowing yourself being confident, you know
Looking at am I confident in my skills and value as a professional?
okay for me, there's a skill that I really struggle with and it's
It's honestly money. Like I really struggle with
Managing my money. So I do I have hired somebody to help me with this
I shared this last week in the after party
but there's some ownership that I get to step into and take more of as I
Bring somebody alongside of me to help me and I get to calm I get to sharpen my skills
Okay, so so take take some time to think about these this week
Yeah, we were we were discussing earlier the movie runaway bride where one of the guys
like
challenges
What's her name the redhead? I don't remember her name, too. I don't know
and
he says
What kind of eggs do you like and she realizes that she's been you know
Engaged to all these different men and she's never yeah, Julia Roberts. She's never followed through with actually getting married and
Every man cooked eggs the way they liked it and she just ate them, but she didn't really recognize
what kind of eggs she even liked how many of you are in marriages where you don't even really know what you like because
You're just doing what your husband does or you're just doing what your spouse does
You know, I was telling Danielle when I was married to Dan I went fishing with him
I hate fishing, you know
But because I was married to him because I wanted to be in relationship with him
I went fishing but I'm actually really excited that you know
Like I get I I get to not ever go fishing again if I want to right like and it's not that I didn't love
Him and it's not that I
Minded fishing. It's just not something that I really found enjoyment in and so like knowing that about myself
Like when I start to date somebody if if they are a fisherman and they spend all of their free time fishing
That's probably not gonna be a good fit for me
right
but even know having the self-awareness to know that and and if a guy on a date is talking about fishing all the time being
Like this is not gonna work. This is not gonna work for me. And and so even in your marriage
Knowing who you are knowing how you like your eggs
knowing how
knowing
How you feel loved? What's your love language? Does your husband is your wife know your love language these things all go
Get wrapped up into do you know your value and can you express that to the people in your life in a way?
that's healthy and not out of fight-or-flight or
Like hyper independence either like it's that healthy
Interrelationship that you're in
So let's just recap a couple of things
Singleness is the foundation of all relationships and all business successes. It's that state of wholeness
Self-discovery and purpose marriage and business partners do not solve problems. It exposes them and
So final thought for today is singleness is not a curse. It's not a lesser way of living or a second-class citizenship
It's actually a gift to each one of us whether we're married or single
So embrace it master it and watch how it translate
Transforms your personal life, but also your relationships in your businesses as well
Boom baby
That was so good
Who it agrees with me like was?
This good, was this, did this hit some of you guys today?
There's some gold you guys get to take away today
from this about being whole,
about showing up fully as a whole individual,
knowing your strengths, stepping into what you are good at.
Like these things matter because you matter.
Amanda said, this is the gold at the end of the rainbow.
Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes.
Okay, because we need more people showing up
in the world as whole individuals, single people.
Again, you've probably looked at singleness
in a different way now.
It's not just being not married.
It's so much more than that.
And if you are married,
then you also get to look at yourself
and look at who you are.
That's, we, I tell people, I say this a lot,
like even if you go to bed with somebody next to you,
they don't live in your head.
People live and hang out in your head
as if it's like a living room.
You know, who do you let sit on your couch?
Who do you let sit, you know, in the lazy boy chair?
Like you get to decide what lives in your mind.
And when you go to bed at night, you are, it's you.
You know, even you can share your deepest,
darkest everything with your spouse.
And I hope that you guys are,
and you're creating that intimacy
and you're creating that wholeness in your marriage.
But there's also something so important to be like,
who am I?
What's important to me?
What's my vision?
Where do I want to go?
And I mean, Natalie just does such a like gentle
and genuine job at doing that.
So thank you so much, Natalie.
Any other last thoughts you'd like to share?
Yeah, I wanna, I see a couple of comments.
Man, Jennifer, I feel you.
You have to understand,
like I'm on the other side of all the pain, right?
Like I'm bringing authority to the situation,
but I didn't start here.
This has been a five year journey of health and healing
into coming into singular wholeness,
because I was so broken when my husband died
and I did not know how to have healthy relationship.
And I did not know how to, I didn't know my value.
I didn't know my worth.
I definitely didn't know my mission or my purpose.
It all got obliterated when he died
and it all had to be redefined.
And so I feel you, pain is real.
And I know where you're at
and it's okay to be where you're at,
but it's not gonna be forever.
You will heal.
Yeah.
It will take time and it will take the journey
and you do have to do the hard work.
Man, do I wish there was a way.
Do I wish there was a shortcut through the pain,
but there just isn't,
but we're with you and you're not alone.
That's right.
And the truth is, is the pain comes
and we get to decide who we wanna be
in the middle of feeling pain,
in the middle of disappointment,
in the middle of things not going the way we intended,
both in relationship and business.
And what's so beautiful is you get to keep showing up.
And this is not a one day you're healed
and the next you're not like,
Natalie, I know you mentioned this,
like this is a journey.
Becoming a single whole individual is also a journey too.
So let's like also give ourselves some grace.
But what I love is this is a community of men and women
who are stepping into a mastermind,
stepping into building products on Amazon, off Amazon,
taking risks, hiring coaches, getting support
and saying, you know what?
I may feel A, B and C.
I may have pain here.
I may not be exactly where I wanna be,
but I'm showing up today.
That's right.
And today is all that we have.
Oh, I'm getting emotional.
And for you all to continue to show up on this call,
like you should like be very proud of yourselves.
Because I know some of you,
maybe this was actually a really painful thing to hear,
but it's not the end.
And we all get to go through,
see our biggest testimonies are from our biggest tests.
and tests are painful.
They just, look, I'm even laughing saying it's painful.
That's my way of, I don't know,
trying to take away from the pain of the comment.
Like it is.
And, you know, a lot of you are fighting
to create something that you do not have right now.
That's the whole point of a vision, right?
Is you don't see it yet.
It has yet to be seen, but it can.
And it is showing up consistently for yourself
that is going to multiply in other areas of your life.
Ooh, I could keep going, but you guys,
we have a powerful community here.
I just gotta call someone out real quick, Daniel.
Okay.
There's just, Wozniak,
there's just such a grace for business on your life.
There really is.
And you've said yes to something.
You're just at the beginning,
but you are going to see incredible favor in this process.
And there's going to be an ease to it.
And there's a strength that is coming to you
that you've not seen yet in your life.
And it's literally going to be so, so life-changing
that it's going to have you like shaking your head going,
I cannot believe that life has gotten this good.
Amen.
Thank you.
Amen.
Ooh, yeah.
I don't have a lot of words at the moment.
I'm kind of just sitting in this moment,
just feeling a lot, very grateful for all of you
because see, the coaches,
we all also build things outside of here.
So we also are taking risks
and showing up in our lives as well.
And so it's like seeing all of you come,
it's like, it's just so incredibly encouraging.
And we can't do it alone.
And that's why we have a community like this.
This is why you guys show up every Monday.
And we do not take that lightly.
And we care for you guys.
So thanks for trusting us too,
and coming on here and really participating
and really opening up your hearts
because it's very easy to come to these kind of calls
and just kind of sit back.
But I just don't see that here.
I consistently see people showing up,
being givers, being solutionaries,
and being there for one another.
So I wish I could give you all hugs.
Can we give each other like a virtual hug right now?
Hugs to all of you.
You've all done amazing work and great job.
Sweet.
Wow.
I know hugs.
Okay, well, I don't know how to end this.
How about with seven links all in a row
that you can't really click on?
We tried something new with dropping the links.
I know it seems that that didn't work very well.
So we will try to spread them out.
Could you guys just,
all the links were just re-dropped by April.
So make sure you grab the one that is for you.
All those links we've actually dropped every week.
It's just, we kind of spread them out,
but it seems like putting them all together
didn't really work.
So we'll just kind of go back to April.
It seems like putting them all together
didn't really work.
So we'll just kind of go back to like spreading them out
so that you guys have access to them.
But mainly the attendance form and the March Gladness form.
Could you drop those, just those two, April or Mildred?
Make sure you guys get that.
And yeah, have an amazing week of just being whole,
showing up the way that you deserve
and just like in your identity
and in the person that you are.
Big things are coming and let's keep going.
Let's keep going.
We wanna see how things end and where things go
in your lives.
So keep showing up this week, okay?
Grab those two links,
the attendance and the March Gladness.
And then I'm gonna officially dismiss you
from Mindset Monday.
And we are gonna shift into the Q&A after party.
And this is a place to ask questions about coaching
and how you guys coach teams.
So with all that, bye for those of you who are leaving
the Mindset Monday call.
Bye.
Thank you guys.
Thank you all so much.
So good.
So good to see you all.
Okay, we are going to gracefully and emotionally
Because I feel like I'm on the verge of VR.
Oh, I'm so good to be vulnerable.
All right, we're gonna shift into the q&a after party. And
this is just a place to talk about coaching, talk about, you
know, kind of where you're at in your journey, if you want to
work with a coach, kind of giving you some next steps with
that. I have. So speaking of, I want to share a little
testimony real quick about my life. And then we're gonna get
into some questions. Unless Natalie, you have something else
that you feel like you want to share right now? No. Okay. Yeah.
Okay, cool. I feel like you just released a lot in our call. But
something that kind of came up for me in the whole, like
wholeness journey is I actually went through a broken engagement
when I was 26. And it was just like the man of my dreams. He
was everything I could ever imagined and more. And he was
also my best friend. And so we were like, besties, since high
school, see a lot of people married that person in high
school and like went on to build a life with them. Whereas I got
engaged to him, and then he left me right before the wedding. And
honestly, just like broke, broke my heart, like quite literally
destroyed what I thought love was at the time. And so I kind
of had a similar moment. Not obviously different, Natalie,
our stories, but my heart was crushed. And my vision for my
life was completely crushed. And anything that I thought we were
going to see, we were going to go on and foster together, we
were going to adopt together, we were going to have this
beautiful family of like, I don't know how many kids however
many God wanted. That was like the vision, it was set in stone,
it was going to happen. And then in a moment, you know, it's all
gone. And that's just devastating. Maybe some of you
have like, gone through loss, or like something sudden happens
in your life. And I had to ask myself, like, Who am I? And
honestly, I began to realize I had codependency tendencies, I
was actually looking to at the time at that time fiance to
honestly be like a security blanket, mainly financially, so
that I didn't have to like work as hard. And I realized my heart,
I was actually squashing my own gifts and my own, like, self,
honestly, to like, make this relationship work. And it took
the separating for me to be able to see that. And it was very
painful. It was very painful for me to admit and to acknowledge
that I was looking to him to be somebody that he literally
couldn't. He just couldn't. I mean, it would have been just
like a disaster. And some people do go on to marry, I don't know
if I'm talking to someone in the room here. And then you do
realize that in the middle of marriage, and then you get to
work through that as a married person. So you know, I don't, I
don't necessarily like to use the language I dodged a bullet.
Because, you know, I don't really know what would have
happened if we married. I don't know. But I do know that it
didn't happen. And I've been on a long journey of healing ever
since and like showing up as a whole woman. And to this day, I
would say I do feel like more whole and do show up in my
gifts than I ever have in my entire life. And, but it's a
journey. It's a journey to do that. And it takes so much
courage to say, I do not I need help. And also I keep relying on
these dudes and I don't know how to like, get hold myself. That's
a vulnerable thing to admit, you know, but it is in that
vulnerability to say yes, I need help. Yes, I'm I need support
that I was actually able to heal. So I hired. So this is
kind of like where we kind of get into the whole coaching
realm. And kind of what brought me into coaching is because I
ended up hiring a therapist, and working with a therapist for
the first time in my life, and completely changed my life. And
that was an investment. That was an investment. That was a
consistent investment that I made every single week. And it
was a literally only for me. And I needed somebody to come into
my life to ask me the hard questions. To tell me you're
going to get through this and to give me tools and support in
this very specific realm of relationships. Because see, I'll
end here. I come from my mother is an alcoholic. My dad was
abusive in any way you can think of just the nicest, easiest way
to just say that. So I kind of grew up in a home like that. And
so no wonder I would go on to be, you know, deal with
codependency issues and male issues. And then I was hyper
independent. And then I was like, Oh my gosh, no.
I'm gonna shift back over here and be like helpless.
No, that doesn't work.
I'm gonna shift back and be like,
I can do it all by myself.
Like, right, like kind of what Natalie talked about,
like none of those work.
And so I just know the power of,
it was through working with a therapist
that I actually ended up going into the coaching realm.
And I've been here for quite a few years
because I saw a lot of breakthrough in my own heart
and just the power of having somebody alongside of me
in times of my life when I need it.
And I think that that's part of the heart behind
the coach is here, right?
Like having a coach to work with you,
walk through with you around your Amazon business,
around your mindset,
your personal things that are going on.
And so, yeah.
That's good, Danielle.
Can I add something to,
or can I add my experience to that?
So up until the time that my husband passed away,
I'd only been a pastor only.
That's a big thing actually.
But I had not worked in the marketplace at all.
I had either been a part-time
or a full-time staff member for 35 years.
And when my husband passed,
I was like, my skills don't actually translate
to the marketplace.
And in my moment of worst pain and suffering,
I hired a mentor for $10,000 a year.
That was my first coaching experience.
And that $10,000 coaching program
gave me a return on investment that year of another 10,000.
And then I hired him again for another year.
And that was when I was 100% sold
on having the right coach.
Because when you have the right coach
in the right moment in your life,
it is life-changing.
And what I have seen on the Rainmakers platform
is that that's when we get a lot of these women.
They are in a moment where they need something
in their life to change.
And they are at that place where they're like,
yes, I'm gonna do this.
And they get this coach
and they don't even know what coaching is like, right?
They come into it and they're like,
wow, this is not what I was expecting.
But the power of it is life-changing.
It really is.
And when you spend a year with a coach
that is willing to pour into you, raise you up,
speak life into you, give you skills, give you mentorship,
there is such a return on investment in that
that it makes it so worth it.
And I can't even imagine now
not having coaching a part of my life.
Same.
But remember when you made that first investment,
how incredibly scared-
Oh, I was terrified.
Absolutely terrified.
Like, oh, is this gonna work?
Like, am I crazy?
Like, you know?
Because it wasn't with a program.
Like, there was no, like,
he was just gonna mentor me, right?
And so the skills that I learned from that person
were definitely marketable, right?
But Rainmakers gives you an actual business to build,
which is, like, next level.
So right.
Yeah, honestly.
And I just wanna, like, take a moment,
maybe we all can,
to just see the vulnerability in the chat of,
I wanna see you, Lindsay.
I see you.
Thank you for sharing.
That's a lot.
That's hard.
I wanna see you, Lauren.
We acknowledge you and your wrath of unmet expectations.
The deep feels.
It's very real in life.
I see you showing up.
I wanna just take a moment to acknowledge Olivia
and this being your first call
and you just, like, showing up and being vulnerable
and you're already getting tons of emojis
and that's our way of, like, showing, hey, I see you.
We, like, drop a lot of emojis, comments in the chat.
And so, yeah, just thank you, ladies, for showing up.
We believe vulnerability is a superpower
because it is through vulnerability and admitting,
I don't even like the word admit.
Maybe there's a better word,
but just acknowledging, like-
Confessing, declaring.
Declaring, I love, yes.
Declaring, confessing.
This is what's really going on in my life right now
because, you know, it's with that honesty
and with that awareness that things can shift
and breakthrough can come.
And we're really big on breakthrough.
Like, all of this, like, yeah,
big on, like, breaking through your limiting beliefs.
leaves breaking through what's keeping you stuck. We want to
see you break through that. So that's essentially the heart of
our coaching team. That's what we do.
And you know, what lights me up more than anything, is watching
a woman get in three weeks what it took me a year to get. Yeah,
I mean, like, I have this one person that I'm coaching right
now. And, and, and I've been with her three weeks. And I'm
like, man, does she understand what has just happened? Like, I
it took me a year to get from step one to step three, where
she's at. And that's part of what you get with coaching, like
they shorten your window of time that it takes to get where they
took a lot of years to get.
Yeah, that's so good. Um, I okay, so I want to drop two
links, I want to drop the, um, March gladness link that you
guys like get for being here in the after party. So I'm dropping
that. So please grab that. So you all are here. Part of the
after party, you get your name put in our pot of gold
celebration on March 31. So I just dropped that for you. So
make sure you get that. See, this is such a powerful time to
be right hearing testimonies, like see, testimonies encourage
one another, they break, that's right, Julie, they break chains
from other people. That's so real. And honestly, I could
probably even be more vulnerable. I think like, you
know, we were getting there, we're getting there, sharing our
stories and sharing that takes vulnerability, right? To be
like, hey, this is what happened to me. Because you know, we
really aren't alone. I remember when my fiance left me, I
literally had this thought I was like, nobody's ever gone through
broken engagement. I'm the only one. Like, I'm alone, right?
Like, just not true. So false. Like that was my limiting
belief coming up so quick to keep me safe and keep me in this
like little pile of depression. And it's just like, not true.
That's why we need that's why you like you said, we need
people. And like, we've all got gotten to go through things. And
that's why we show up in this, you know, space of coaching. And
so powerful things happen in coaching. So I just want to
does anybody have any questions that I can support you with?
With coaching specifically, any questions? Feel free to like
unmute yourself or raise your virtual hand. We'll want to open
that space right now.
I have a question. Yeah. And number one, I'm just really,
really thankful. And I am pregnant, but I'm extra
emotional, just because I know that God uses both of you in
these all of you, but use you guys in these in this call, just
to really know that I'm in the right place. I'm almost done
with my first year of mastermind. And I'm almost
with my first year of mastermind. And I'm almost about
to like move to phase three of launching my product. But I've
run into so many internal mindset things that I feel like
I need to work on a lot of things. Like how does that work?
Like you guys? I'm determined like one to start with? Or is
it like, you just get a coach for a certain amount of time?
Yeah, so can I speak to that, Daniel? So Sheree, what we're
finding is that year two is actually even more essential
than year one, year one is essential. But when you get to
phases three and four, and you're coming into year two,
like, you haven't quite seen that exponential growth that yet
that Steven talks about, like that doesn't happen in the
middle of year two and three, right? So like, finances start
to get rough, right? And so do you have a plan for that? Or is
your mindset just getting shut down by that lie that I'm out
of finances? Yeah. Because that's not how that's not how a
creative mindset thinks, right? Right. That is like, okay. Not
seeing anything in my bank account. So how do I partner?
Yeah, spirit of creativity to create the money that I need to
keep moving my business forward until I see the return on
investment.
That's exactly where I'm at. And I know that I'm even the
mastermind has trained me to think of like, well, how can I
do that? How can I and really, I'm using the strategy that I
it's already awakened in me through the first year of
mastermind. Like I joined mastermind thinking I was going
to launch a product, I was going to get all my answers and
I was going to be financially successful in one year.
And I've gone through the journey and there's just so much hope I know is coming.
So like your word to me was so timely.
Cause I'm like, this is like, this has to work.
Otherwise, like, I don't know where I'm going to go.
So, um, but like sticking with it, like this is the hard point
where I normally pivot by now.
I normally like, I can't do it.
I'm pivoting.
Um, so this is the longest I've even like stayed with it almost there.
But it's just a matter of how can I, and then realistically, like, how can I see
that so I can keep going, if that makes sense, financially, I feel like I'm ready
to experience all the beauty that the Lord still has with mastermind, but I'm
like, but money, um, there's a lot, but there's also just so many things of
like why pivot or like why I don't think that I'm supposed to be financially
successful, all those things.
So I just was like, how do I, how do I move forward in just knowing what, where
I go first, I guess, and what kind of coaching.
Ooh, see, I'm on the edge of my seat.
You got me all perked up.
My like, I got the chills because you know what it is in you're in about, you've
hit a valley of disappointment.
Um, and we, and I, and I tell people with so much love, do not camp there.
Do not make a bed there.
And you're not, yeah, not.
Okay.
Can we just like put some love in the chat for Shari and the word that Natalie
had for Shari that was unprompted.
We like, we don't, we don't mess, you know, we're not going to just
say things willy nilly like that.
So obviously God's really trying to speak to you here.
And, um, we want to support you.
So, well, so go ahead, Daniel, go ahead, Natalie.
Um, well, so this is what I want to share for you.
Cause the first time I heard Steven talk about like fast ways to make money, I
think it was like, I don't know, cashflow creation or something like that.
The first time he ever taught it.
Um, and it was like, I'm not going to lie.
It was probably six hour training.
Like we all just sat online for six hours and listened to him and
talk about how to make cash.
Right.
Um, and, and it was very much like work with the spirit of creativity
and listen to what it says.
Right.
So the first time I heard it, I heard do do a garage sale.
And I was like, but you don't understand, like, I need $5,000.
I'm not going to make $5,000 on a garage sale.
So I had a choice in that moment.
Was I gonna do the garage sale?
Like the spirit of creativity said, or was I going to just
try and do it somewhere else?
And, and so I was like, well, regardless of how it turns out, I'm going to be obedient.
I'm going to do that.
What that voice is saying.
And so I set a date, started preparing for my garage sale and three days before
the garage sale took off was started.
I had four women from my church reach out and say, Hey, we don't have
time for garage sales this summer.
Do you want our stuff?
I made $7,000 on my garage sale.
No way.
Yes.
So the next year when I need $5,000 again, I was like, I'm going to throw a garage sale.
Yep.
And I threw a garage sale.
I made $200.
The, the flowers were blooming outside and I was allergic to them.
So I got super sick and as I laid in bed, I heard the spirit of creativity.
Did you ask me whether that was what you wanted me to do?
And I was like, no, I just thought it worked last year.
Why would it not work this year?
He goes, you got to check in with me.
And so I was like, okay, how do you want me to make money this time?
And he said, I want you to take the three paintings that you
have and take them and sell them.
And like, okay.
So I paint it's a hobby of mine, but I'm not like a gallery
artist or anything like that.
I sold one for $1,800.
I sold one for 1,200 and one for 800.
And, and it was because I didn't put a price on them.
I told people you pay me what you think it's worth.
I let them establish the value of that painting.
And so it like, I cannot stress to you how important it is to listen and do what it
says, because that's where you'll see the increase and that's where you see
the trust developed too, with the process.
Okay.
So good.
Thank you.
That's really true. I know. Tell me how and then actually do it. Okay. Yeah.
Okay. So here's a very practical next step. I'm going to drop a link and literally you
fill this out and a success coach reaches out to you. Okay. Okay. Yeah. And then you,
you kind of like tell them a little bit more about where you're at, what you need. We kind
of look at, you know, the different coaches and that's, that's it. That's your simple next step.
That doesn't cost. It just costs you your time. Time I can do. Sounds good.
Thank you. All right. I'm looking forward to seeing your name pop up in the back,
in the back here. All right. Sure. You're awesome. And make sure you check this chat
for all the encouragement. I am so blessed. Thank you. Y'all are awesome. Such a powerful
group here. Okay. Connie, how can I support you? Hello everyone. Thank you so much coaches. This
is a blessing. I'm over here literally trying to keep my composure because I just want to break
down in tears because I'm like, I'm feeling all of, I'm feeling everything everybody's talking
about. So I'm like, I went through the Reign Gain Challenge and then I joined
the Rainmaker Mastermind Program. So I'm new. I'm just getting started. I'm trying to review
like all the courses and stuff. And so, but I'm feeling like I'm
reviewing the courses and I'm seeing a lot of the same stuff. So I'm like, kind of like,
I don't know where I haven't gotten paired with my coach yet. So I don't know which one of you
wonderful coaches I'll be with yet. And so my question is, do I wait to start the phase course,
the phases, until I get with you with the coaches or, because I like did the media course
and like the five-day bootcamp. And so like when I submitted my, my application for the coach
pairing and stuff, I did kind of push it out a couple of weeks because I was like, wanted to
review as much as I could to make sure I stayed with that same momentum.
So I may need to get with a coach soon. So I don't lose my momentum because I'm starting to
get in my head, like, is this the right thing for me? Did I make the right choice? Am I doing right?
Then I'm thinking about stuff I have to worry about outside of this. And so I'm like,
I don't know where I need to go right now. So do I just go ahead and jump into
reviewing the phase one? Yeah, I would, I would definitely sign up for a coach,
go through that onboarding mini course. And at the end of it, it'll show the, the coaches thing.
If, if you, it looks like is your last name, what's your last name, Cole? It's Cole. So I did
go through that and I did submit it, but I put, you know, I did put my date out,
I think for like Monday or so. Do you want me to change it to this week?
So let me look at my calendar. I would suggest that you get with a coach as soon as possible
because you're right. You don't want to lose momentum moving forward. And so the easiest way
for you to know where to go next and what to do, what to partner with would be to have a meeting
with a coach with the coach. Okay. So yes, if we could get that moved up so that way I can,
yeah, kind of get in there and get yeah. The necessary information that I need
as well as yeah. Start like my training in the phases and things like that would be great.
Cause yeah, I don't want to lose my window and then I don't want to sit over here. Like,
I don't know what to do. I don't know where to go. I don't know what I'm looking at.
I just want to acknowledge you showing up on this call today. So way to go. You're in the right spot.
You showed up for a call in the community on Monday. So good job, Connie. And then I always
tell people, if you say, I don't, I want to encourage you to not partner anymore with,
I don't know, because our brains now there may be a realistic, like you don't know, but you're
only one or two or five steps away from knowing. So I would say if I did know, what would it be?
Or what would I do? So, right. Kind of getting into that new, like problem solving spirit that
we call solutionary. So I think you did great by hopping on here, asking your question, making
sure you're getting connected with the.
coach and you actually do know what you're doing. You're supposed to be getting on your app,
looking up some of your, watching some of the phases and getting connected with the coach. So
Connie, you do, you do know. Yes. All right. Yes. Yes, I do. You're right. I do know. I do know. I
just, yeah. Don't want to be missing anything that I should be doing. Yeah. And so that's why you
double checked with those who would know and now you're good. Yes. So we're going to, you're going
to get connected with the coach. All right. Thank you, ladies. You're welcome, Connie.
Any other questions I can support, we can support you with in, in coaching, any coaching questions?
I have a quick question. Hey, Ann Marie. Hey. So if we, if we do decide to go with a coach and,
and then we submit, like, say just like a one month, do we get
to specify what we really are going to focus on to find the right coach or
will you sort of match us with who is best? Or like, I just, I've already done my call. Would
I just be definitely matched with who I was able to connect with? Or, you know, how do you make
sure that it's the right fit is kind of what I'm. Yeah. Natalie, did you want to hop in here?
Well, I mean, you can always request if there's a specific coach that you want on that call.
And if there is like, let me know and I can put that in your notes. But also if you don't know
who the best coaches usually will read what you have said, and then we'll assign you with a coach
that best fits what your need is for that time. Yeah. I don't feel like I really know who would
be the best. I don't think I know. But you felt that you filled out on the on the form,
like what you're looking where you're at and what you're looking for. Yeah, well, I had my phone
call already. It just now I can say I'm just sort of debating on whether to proceed, you know.
Got you. Well, if you need another call, we can definitely hook you up with another call if you'd
like. Yeah, I support you and me to kind of get you unstuck.
Say that again. Would that support you to help you make a decision having another call? Or what
do you mean? Maybe? I don't know. I think I just need a little time to to get through some steps
and think it over. Well, you it would be really easy for a coach to get on with you, though,
and see where you're at, see what what's going on and kind of give you an assessment of
what your best step would be at this point. OK. OK, I can I can have somebody reach out to you.
I got your name. OK. Yeah, that'd be great. Yeah. All right. Awesome. And then, Olivia, I see you.
I'm reading your reading what you wrote. So you're going to be assigned a coach, Olivia,
with your first eight weeks. OK, great. Olivia is also just starting with us. Yeah, that's right.
I know you mentioned that earlier. So that's that's fine. So kind of what was just said to Connie,
you will once you complete the onboarding course that you will get to say what date
you like to start with a coach and then they will assign you a coach based on that.
And you do get two months. Yes, you get two months with a success coach.
Once you start, you're welcome.
Any other questions? Can I support anybody else?
All right. This might be it, then. It's good to see you, Amanda. I've seen you on the after
party a couple of times. Julie, I've really appreciated you showing up in the
chat today, just being so encouraging. Yeah. Any any other questions? Kendall, Anna,
can I support you ladies with anything? Are you good? You're good? OK. Julie, did you have a question?
You're good? OK. Julie, did you have a question or something? Yeah. Yeah. You noticed I had
muted. So that was very good. You're very good, Daniel. Very good. I I'm past phase four and I
have a question. I need some help with that. Would I sign up for a second set of eyes for
looking at my listing to optimize that? Or what would be my next step on
looking at that? OK, so go ahead, Natalie. Where are you at in your in your membership?
Like, are you at the end or have you been making good time? I'm at the end. OK.
So have you hopped on a call?
with one of the coaches about what year two looks like yet and whether you'd be interested in that?
Um, yes, Mildred and I have connected Dutch bases a few times on that. Okay. Awesome. So you can,
you can, that's one of your options is to renew and, and that's really helpful for second year,
but yeah, you can fill out a second eye session and you can get on with them to kind of problem
shoot, uh, where you're at, uh, just know that like renewal comes with unlimited
second eye sessions and those add up pretty quickly. So just be thinking long-term instead
of like, what's the solution right now, you know, really think through what's the best thing for my
buck when it comes to, um, those second eye sessions. Okay. Thank you.
All right. Anybody else, any other questions?
Okay. Everyone feeling good about their next steps after this call? Yeah. Okay, good. That's
what we love to see in the after party. All right. And Linda, thank you for sharing. So glad you are
here. We do, we do, we do, we need each other. So, so desperately, but not too desperate.
Oh, I'm just making myself laugh now. Let me stop. Um, okay. Just saw your, um,
comment Kendall. So good. So good. Thank you so much for sharing that. So good. Yeah.
Yeah. God is absolutely calling you into it. Yep. Imagine, imagine you showing up whole,
like what is Kendall Burns, like whole Kendall Burns look like, you know? So thank you for
sharing that. So glad you're here. All right. Well, without further ado, we can all go on to
our next things we're called to for the day. Have an amazing rest of your day and we will see you
all next week. Bye.