Well, amazing, beautiful people. It is always such a joy to be here with you. I haven't
actually had a chance to catch up with any of you yet to find out how you're getting
on with the first couple of weeks or the first couple of sessions that we've done. Now we're
starting to get into a roll and we're into week three. So hopefully you are learning
the kind of system where we reflect on what we've learned from last week, and then we
do the training and then we set our targets of what we want to do with the training. We
actually want to activate it because if this is just learning and head knowledge, it's
going to be no use to you at all. This stuff is all about heart knowledge because actually
what happens, it's our heart that informs our head, not our head that informs our heart.
So I really encourage you, you know, print off the sheets that are there for you. Listen
to the video at the same time as working through the sheets. I know some of you tend to listen
to it first. That's cool. But then sit down again and sit down with the Holy Spirit. Sit
down with God because he's been working this whole book and this all of this workshop with
me to open up what the Holy Spirit is telling you. This isn't about me being in charge or
me knowing having the wisdom. It's actually just he's using me as a vessel to open the
doors for you to open the doors of understanding to open the doors so that you can go higher
and higher in your relationship with him in the work of your hands and feet. And so that
we can be his salt and his light in this world. And quite frankly, right now, it's pretty
dark out there. So we're needed more than ever. So today, it's one of my favorite, favorite
trainings. It has turned my upside down world the right way up and continues to do so as
I focus on the one thing that can either bring death or life, this thing. So let's see what
we can do with it. So welcome, welcome, welcome. I've just realized I probably actually haven't
got the right worksheet up. So we'll just see if I've got the right thing. Look at that
So unhelpful, but we are there now. So the third power of the words of the word and his
words in you, it's about you and him, him and you, you are so united, you are one. So
let him let the Holy Spirit rise up bubble up from your heart, the words that are right
for you. So we're going to learn the right the words around God and also about you. But
before we get into that, it's really important that we press the pause button. It's the most
important button on your playlist is pause. And just take a moment to reflect on what
you learned last week or last time. How have you been in referred? So we've got three areas
here we can look at. And actually, we've made this worksheet a little bit bigger so that
if you print it off, you've actually got space to write in helpful. So, you know, with
getting your life in order, life alignment, and your priority order. So we looked last
week at the people in your life. And then we looked at the things in your life, the
things that bring you joy, the people that bring you joy, the people that empower you,
what God has blessed you with that fills your heart, your body, your soul, your spirit,
full of awesomeness. And then how do we work our priority order? And we all know that it's
God first, seek me first and my righteousness, everything will be given to you. So let's
sit in that space, him first, then what then our bodies are a temple, we are the light
and the salt. So we don't look after ourselves, we're not shining the best light, we get a
bit tarnished. So we know that that's the case. And then it's family, it's all about
relationship, it's all about how he connects with us and how we connect with others. And
then comes the finance, because at the end of the day, we're still on this earthly planet.
So we have to make some money. Because actually, that's how we bless others. That's how it's
a way that the world works. And with that, we can have some fun, we can go and so into
our churches, so into each other, so into where we want to be, go and do the lifestyle
choices that we have, whether it's going to concerts, whether it's going to, you know,
conferences, whatever it is for us. And when we have fun, we find our tribe, because we
find our vibe and we find our tribes, we find our friends. So just have a think for yourself
of the insight that you have gained from last week's training, consider those takeaways
and the power of love and forgiveness.
the power actually of being in alignment and what were most impactful lessons for you?
So it could have been about switching your order, my current order,
to my true priority order.
So whatever it is for you, I just encourage you to consider what were the insights that
you gained? What did you learn? And then how did you integrate this? How did you
bring what you learned from last week and put it into what's happened this week?
Again, pressing the pause button,
considering what relationships come first, what comes first,
maybe you might have spent more time with God.
You know, it could have been morning or night, morning, night, or all day, whatever it was for
you. Maybe it reminded you to get your Bible app out and actually use that for the month,
for the week. I don't know. And then engagement with others. How did this affect your relationships?
When we have our lives in the right order and we build up before we go, we overflow out,
we're meant to function from the overflow, from the more that we have been given,
because as much has been given to us, but it's actually to flow out. So instead of sucking the
living daylights out of everybody else, because my identity comes from my car or from my job or
from the people or from people saying yes or thank you or whatever, that's lovely, but it's not necessary.
So maybe, you know, your engagement with others has been more uplifting or maybe it's been more
freeing because you no longer need anything from anyone. Maybe it has just been a bundle
of joy to connect because you're so full of the energy and the love of God that you need to pass
it on. So just pause, have a think, have a reflect for yourself. What has that meant this week?
And then I encourage you to rate yourself out of 10 about where you're feeling you are today.
Now it's mid-afternoon as I'm doing this video for you and so therefore I would say I'm probably
actually sitting, I'm going to say at a six because my energy levels have dropped a little bit
as I've poured out this morning, as I've been in meetings, as I've been pumping. And the word that
I'm, what I've got is I feel like I'm still empowered. So I'm empowered to hang out with you,
empowered because I've connected with me, whatever it might be. And so funny, six is the number of
human beings. I'm feeling very human at this moment in time. Okay, so whatever it is for you,
just mark yourself, make you work it out. Where am I at? What am I doing? Okay, so we have done this
exercise. I have done this exercise over and over and over and over again. It isn't just a one-off
and done. It's one that's quite handy to do to bring yourself into alignment with where you are
and to remind yourself how important your words are and also what you can do with words spoken
over you. So this exercise is to remind you that words have power, they affect your emotions,
and as they affect your emotions, your emotions affect what you do. So it is a straight line,
words, emotions, outcomes. So just pause and think about that. So here we go, some scenario,
I want you to think about this. Think of a time when somebody said something negative or unkind
to you or over you. They've said something that's been unhelpful, and then I want you to think
about how it made you feel. So unkind, I'm just trying to think, I can't think of one right at
this moment. I'm trying to think of something that will come to me. So pause this video and
think for yourself where somebody has said something unkind to you and how it's made you feel.
I'll just use, it's the only thing I can think of off the top of my head.
Every time I think about, you know, somebody says, Oh, you put on weight or
you know, which is what my kids will tell me
and they're quite right.
How does it make you feel?
It feels less than, I feel like a failure.
I feel like, you know, I'm not good enough.
We know where that comes from.
And then what's the outcome?
To be honest, the outcome is when I'm feeling in that space,
I then focus on it, so I eat more,
which is really unhelpful.
When I'm focused on the fact
that I'm feeling less than or a failure,
I then go to food for comfort, which is super unhelpful.
So if somebody says you put on weight or you're overweight,
I then absorb it, feel like rubbish, eat more.
Guess what?
It's like a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Okay, let's flip it to the other side of the fence
and the other side of the equation
and consider what kind words or positive
or encouraging words that have been spoken over you.
And I have to say, coming in my direction,
they're fairly few and far between,
but I'm just trying to think
if anyone has said anything positive
or encouraging to me in the last week.
Actually, there have been,
that your book is bringing me closer
to God.
And it was actually like a double negative,
different person said, I've got you all wrong,
which actually from that particular person's perspective
means that they think I've probably got
a little bit more wisdom or insight than they thought,
or I'm more connected with God than they originally thought.
And how did it make me feel?
How does it make you feel
when somebody says something kind or uplifting
or they're there for you?
And I get excited.
The fact that people are finding this book,
it's taking them closer to God,
it's making them wanna lean in,
it's making them see difference.
It's like, yeah, bring it on.
I'm like, bring it on.
I'm excited.
I'm like, go Holy Spirit.
Just quietly, it gets me so excited
because I'm not doing the work.
It's already been done.
We've done up, I've done my part with God
and now it's down to the Holy Spirit.
And what's the outcome?
It encourages me to share the message more.
You know, it encourages me, engages me,
it makes me feel connected.
Whereas this here makes me feel even more disconnected
with who I really am.
It's not much fun, eh?
So if you think pause, so think about negatives,
think about positives and then pause.
What do you notice about the impact of words?
And it is, you know, the tongue is a double-edged sword.
It can either break you down or it can build you up.
And we can see that in my scenarios here,
this is breaking me down and this is building me up.
And the outcome for me is I either want to lean out
or I want to lean in.
I either want to run away or hide
or I want to lean in and do more.
So it disconnects or connects.
It cuts off or it connects and makes me lean in.
So just have a think about that for yourself,
whether that sits for you too in that space.
Now, it's all very well about other people.
Oh my goodness, we've got, oh, that's right.
Kev's got a bit of a thing going on with,
we haven't actually sorted the programming on this.
So just bear with, I'm gonna take this in here.
Okay, so what I want you to do is consider now your words.
Okay, we've looked at other people's words
and I'm gonna show you how to deal with those in a minute,
but I want you, because it's the same for both,
I want you to think about your words.
So what negative words have you spoken
over yourself or others, but mainly over you?
Because I think we're particularly hard on ourselves.
You know, what do you say to yourself?
You know, duh, you know, you could have done better.
Or what?
Did you do that for?
You know, putting duh, putting yourself down.
Or, yeah, let's just.
Choose that for now, because you guys can think of your own.
So what do you say to yourself?
And then how does duh, what did I do that for make me feel?
It makes me feel funny, less than again.
And it makes me feel like I'm a failure.
Interesting, there's a pattern there.
And again, not good enough, because I could have done better.
I could have done better.
And what was the outcome?
The outcome was, I focused on the problem.
And I actually pointed the finger at myself.
Interesting dynamic, this.
This pointy finger thing.
Because when I'm being accusatory of myself,
it's not how God works.
It's not how Jesus works.
You know, none of those scenarios in the Bible,
none of those stories in the Bible did he go,
I mean, there were times when he said to the disciples,
are you flipping serious?
Like I feel in today's language,
like you guys have been hanging out with me for ages.
You've been hanging out with me forever.
Come on, right, let's come and see.
You just sort yourself out.
Right, we're all sorted now.
Great, let's move on.
But he never said, oh my goodness, you guys are useless.
He used to get frustrated at times, I'm sure.
But with love, he never went, oh my goodness, you're useless.
You know, and when Peter stuffed up
and denied him three times,
does he go, oh my goodness, Peter, that was terrible.
You denied me three times.
That's it, you're out and that, no, that's it, you're done.
No, he didn't.
He said, do you love me?
Come on, come on, let me raise you up.
Let me put this right.
Let me work with you.
Do you love me?
And after he'd asked him three times, he said, right,
now go and look after my sheep.
Go and do what you're called to do.
So it's about time we stopped berating ourselves.
The Holy Spirit lives inside of us.
How dare we be so disrespectful to God?
Instead, lean on him, lean on him
and not my own understanding.
Let him take me and guide me.
So I just encourage you to just think about,
are we honouring?
Are we honouring ourselves?
Are we honouring the beautiful bodies that we've got?
Are we, you know, our bodies are a temple.
We're meant to shine the light.
Time to be lighthouses, girls and boys.
Okay, and then positive works you've spoken over you.
So that's the negatives and then it brings us down
just like it does with others.
Now, when have you told yourself you're really good?
Actually, actually, I'm an international
best-selling
author.
That is so exciting.
How does that make me feel?
Nuts!
It's off the Richter scale.
It's crazy good.
It's not me, I admit.
Well, it is me.
It's like me and Jesus together,
but I didn't write that book on my own, let me tell you.
And so it just, it fills me
with the love of Jesus.
You know, I feel truly, truly blessed.
So what was the outcome?
I might write another book.
I'm inspired to see where this goes, where he leads me.
And I'm open
to doing it again.
So, I mean, I'm leaning in, I'm wanting to hear more,
I'm wanting to know more.
I'm like, come on.
So again, pause.
What did you notice about the impact of your own words?
And for me, it's all about Jesus.
So in one set, I'm dishonoring
God and the way I'm made.
In fact, it's my learning journey.
He doesn't expect me to be perfect,
so why should I be expecting myself to be perfect?
And on the other, I'm honoring the God who loves me
and I'm honoring the God who loves me.
And that's you. Because he loves me. Because he loves me.
That's it.
Hey, it blows me away. There's nothing I can do to make him
love me more. And there's nothing I can do to let make me
love make him love me less. So best I just let go of some of
this stuff and start focusing on what's noble, right and true.
So on that note, let's have a wee look at unpacking some of
these words. We've looked at the two sides, there's negative,
there's positive, there's good, there's bad, and we can lift up
or break down bottom line. So key eight is about the shield,
my shield of faith, or a mirror. So you can use this in both
ways. So ultimately, somebody says something unkind to me,
boff, up goes my shield of faith, fiery dart of unkindness,
boff drops to the floor. And what I love about it is my
shield of faith when somebody says something accusatory, or
unkind, or whatever it might be to me, so they're coming like a
punch bag, instead of me punching back and arguing, which
causes that headlock and unhelpfulness and grows it and
makes it worse. That shield of faith, that's not for me, allows
me to know that this person is hurting because hurt people hurt
people. So I can come healed because that arrow hasn't gone
into my heart. And I can come with love. And say, Are you
okay? So someone said something unkind to me, what's up? That's
not like you. That's not how we roll. And we can end up coming
together in love and peace and joy. Bring it on, I say. And all
because I didn't let that fiery dart touch me. Oh, no, that
unkind word, every word that Sally Webb speaks is about
herself. It comes out of my heart. It comes out of my mouth.
Every word that you speak is about yourself. So when we're
speaking unkind words, it's not about the person, the situation,
the whatever. It's about something in us that God wants
to change. He wants to remove, he wants to take away and he
wants to shift, he wants to bring back into alignment with
what's noble, right and true. So the reality is every word I
speak, that's the mirror part. Every word I speak is about me.
So I need to think if I'm saying something unkind, or I've got
gone gossamus. And as we know, that's that grumbly, grumbly,
grumbly, grumbly. And as many of you know, I do get into that
space. And I chunter along, because I'm grumpy about
something. I have to look in the mirror. God, what are you
showing me? What do you see that I can't see? Because I'm
uncomfortable with this. So what's it about? But if someone
else speaks it, I've got the shield of faith. So you have a
choice, you can accept or reject your own words or others words
spoken over you. Now I think this is brilliant, that the
world is not against you, it's for you. God has made everything
on this planet for us. It's for us. He created it for us. And
what happens in my life is because of me. That's because of
a choice I make here to go unhelpful, or a choice on the
right to be good. So what about my choices, my choices is why
I'm here right now today, in this moment, I have chosen to be
here, I've chosen to hang out with God and work this stuff out
for you, because I want us all to have a brilliant life. So we
can accept or reject and I absolutely shield up for the
rubbish stuff, suck it like a sponge, bring it on for the good
stuff. Because the more good that flows in and through me,
the more good that can flow out of me. So I'm all for lifting
each other up, encourage each other, cheering each other on,
and accepting, learning to receive. Can I just say
Christians are probably the worst at that, just quietly,
receiving, great at giving, great at pouring it out,
absolutely rubbish at receiving. But if we don't, you know what
God initiates everything. It's not about, it's for us, but it's
not about us, it's about him. So if he initiates, we need to
respond. And initiate means we need to receive to believe, but
we need to receive to respond. Doesn't
come from us, it comes to us and through us.
Flipping brilliant.
Anyway, so the world is for you.
Everything that happens, good or bad, is to build us,
is to grow us, is to take us from glory to glory.
And often the battle is within ourselves,
it's not with each other, we know that.
And we always say the battle is upstairs,
like it's in the heavenly realms.
It's upstairs in here too,
because that's where the battle often goes on.
It's not even flipping real and in front of us,
it's the stories we make up.
And every challenge or every problem
comes with a possibility.
Every challenge comes with a solution or a promise.
Just look.
Brilliant.
And together, everyone achieves more.
So find the support in your journey.
Find the people to stand with you and walk with you.
Find those that will lift you up, that will cheer you on.
And you know what?
Prune out the people who don't.
Doesn't mean to say you don't love them,
doesn't mean to say you don't bless them,
but just don't have them in your everyday life if you can.
And if you can, just go to God, hang out with him.
But it's time for us personally to own our journey
and speak love and light and truth over others.
So hopefully today, what you have learnt
is your words shape your reality.
If you're speaking unkind words over yourself or others,
guess what you're gonna get?
More of it.
If you're speaking kind words over yourself and others,
you're gonna get more of that too.
So you choose which words from others to accept
and yourself or reject.
What I encourage you to do is really be aware.
The awareness of your words, then the emotions,
and then the outcomes is gold.
Because when we can be aware of it, when we can see it,
we can choose the path that we want.
And at the end of the day,
none of us can read the label from inside the jar.
So my job is to encourage people,
is to witness to them what I see that's brilliant about them.
The awesomeness that I see in them,
the gems that they are, is to speak it out.
Some of us think it, but we never speak it.
And that poor soul, whoever it is, doesn't get the thank you.
We think it in our head and then we don't thank them.
We see the love inside of them,
but we don't tell it, say it.
And they don't know, because they're inside the jar.
So I encourage you today to really consider
who you can lift up and respond to.
And then think about your call to action
for the coming week.
So a call to action from today,
thinking about our words,
could be just to be aware of my words and track them.
So I could just every night, pause, consider,
have I been encouraging?
Have I been empowering?
Have I put myself down today?
And if so, why and what for?
And how can I flip that the next time?
Another thing that I might look at
with the power of my words is,
actually, so aware of my words,
but also tracking how many times I have encouraged
or empowered somebody that day.
And you know what?
Sometimes it can just be,
it could just be a message.
It could be a phone call.
You don't have to actually physically be with them.
So it could be,
have I just flicked somebody a message and encouraged them?
Which is a bit of a laugh
with the messy middle chat this week.
It's been quite funny.
Because Janice, bless her, from our office said,
oh, can you just let us know who's carrying the message?
So I said, yeah,
and I've got two groups that are actually
doing a bit of a check in,
because they're not currently in your groups,
because they're just doing like a bit of a check
to see who's actually being looked after
within the home groups, within our church.
And I was like, yep, here are our regulars.
And I'm like, hold on a minute,
these are the ones that are on my WhatsApp.
They're like, they're part of our group
and they don't come that regularly.
So I better just check.
I know one of them has moved into another group,
which is fantastic and is rocking up every week.
Those guys who are not quite so regular, let me know.
And all the regulars are like,
well, you still got me, you still got me,
you still got me.
It's like hilarious, it's nuts.
But all it took was,
and then that little interaction of,
yeah, I know you guys, I know you're here.
And actually without you we're lost,
because we're all a hand, a foot, a nail, a whatever,
and everybody makes a difference.
So sometimes it's just actually
having those interactive discussions.
And, you know, again, for me,
I hadn't realized how important it was for those.
actually, who we don't see regularly, I messaged them just
one on one, and said, Hey, look, you know, we'd love to see you,
we're missing you, what's happening, or whatever it might
be. And just somebody just getting a message, they said,
that really means a lot for you just to message me. I'm like,
wow, we just don't realise the difference we make to people
when we just take the time to pause, listen to God, and ask
him who he wants us to message today. Who does he want me to
pray for today? Who does, where does he want me to use my words
today? So, again, now, I'm all ready to go and catch up with
people. So it's like, right, what's your number now? And
what's your feeling? And I am like on fire now, funny, you
know, I came in as a six because I'm like, oh, it's the middle of
the afternoon. Now I'm ready to go again. I'm like busting to
get going again, because I've hung out with you guys. And I
have shared one of my favourite sessions. So I hope this has
been helpful to you. I'm not sure whether I've set up a chat
yet for this. But that's going to be my next job is to set up a
chat for this lovely DIY group, I would love you to share in
here, how you're getting on with this, how you're finding this,
what's working for you, maybe I have set it up already. And I'm
just being a bit of a doer brain. I've got so many, see,
look, put myself out down already. But I have quite a few
groups. But I'm really, it's engagement that makes a
difference. Remember, life is about love. It's about insight,
listening to God. It's about the freedom to be who we're called
to be. And it's about the engagement. If we're not in the
chats, if we're not sharing either what we're finding
difficult, or we're finding good, then how can we lock arms
and encourage each other? If we're just hiding away, just
quietly doing this on our own. That's great. But what's it for?
And this coaching is not yes, it is for you personally. But as
you get revelation, share it with others. One of the things
that I think our church isn't very good at, and actually
possibly not many are, is celebrating success is about
sharing testimonies. You know what, it's time we shared our
testimonies, every moment of every day, because when you get
breakthrough, you give permission for someone else to
get breakthrough. And it is time to break through. So I love you
all dearly. I hope this has been helpful. And please message me,
get in the chat, email me, Sally, this was awesome. It was
really helpful. Sally, this was absolutely no good to me at all.
I really struggled with it. Let me know. Because if you
struggled with it, I need to help you. And if it was awesome,
we need to know and others need to know. So have an amazing God
blessed day and week. I will see many of you on Monday, so that
we can unpack this. Remember, you need to watch this, build
your sheets out. And then on Monday, I want to hear your
wins. I want to hear what you learned, I want to hear how you
grew, I want to hear what made a difference to you. I then want
to look at if there's any unpacking any questions, we do
that in the middle. And then what are you going to do in your
coming week, and we'll get the chats out and we'll work out so
that you're accountable. So you're moving forward. And we're
not just wishy washy coming along and doing head learning.
We're doing heart learning that changes the world. Because God
didn't say he'd write it on your head. He said he'd write it on
your heart, not tablets of stone, but he'd write it on your
heart. So let this be written on your heart. And let's do
something about it. Because out of your heart, your mouth speaks.
Boom. Have an amazing week. I love you. God bless you. And
we'll see you Monday. Take care.